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I guess it's just me and you, God....

What do people do during Christian 'quiet time'? [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow on Nov 6, 2016 - 14 answers

Ideas for personal goals / habits that aren't self-centered

For as long as I can remember, my personal goals & habits have had a common theme: self-improvement. Then one day I wondered, What would life be like if I defaulted to thinking about others or observing my surroundings instead of thinking about ways to improve myself? [more inside]
posted by ialas on Nov 6, 2016 - 15 answers

What is considered pretentious outside of the US?

What American cultural habits are considered pretentious or eye-rolly when performed in another country? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis on Oct 13, 2016 - 63 answers

It's Good but I Still Hate It

How long do you have to do something before it stops feeling like a chore? [more inside]
posted by galaxypeachtea on Sep 29, 2016 - 29 answers

Website to support a daily writing habit

There used to be a website that would encourage you to write a set amount (500 words?) every day. This is meant for stream-of-consicouness, just get it on paper writing. The website would store your writings (but not allow public sharing) and remind you to keep up the habit. Now I can't find it. Is it gone? Any other suggestions for how to get a writing habit going?
posted by metahawk on Aug 31, 2016 - 3 answers

How do French people eat?

There's a lot of writing on the internet about French eating habits and how refined (and superior) they are, but I'm curious how these habits play out in less refined circumstances. [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar on Jul 12, 2016 - 18 answers

What alternatives are surprisingly worth it?

What are some "alternatives" or substitutions to everyday products/tasks that you've found you liked better than the original? Relatedly, what have you stopped doing altogether that had unexpected positive benefits? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis on Jun 15, 2016 - 110 answers

NestingFilter

I'm moving into a new apartment and about to start graduate studies, after many (many) moves. How can I cultivate a sense of stability and warmth in my new home? How do I "nest" in a more meaningful, emotional sense? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish on Jun 9, 2016 - 18 answers

Anxious Procrastination. Delaying gratification.

What are your favorite hacks for beating anxious procrastination? How do you delay gratification, in favor of getting things done? I'm looking for anecdata and personal testimony about techniques you use; not so much app recommendations. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings on May 28, 2016 - 21 answers

In search of consumerism-neutral time-wasters

So, like many people, when I need a break at my desk I tend to look for something mindless on the Internet. I'm trying to get out of the habit of defaulting to fashion and beauty forums, which I like because they're low-effort, have pretty things to look at, and tend not to get me worked up about politics or whatever, but hate because I get the impulse to buy things I don't need. It's not causing a financial problem but I just don't want my time-wasters to lead to a shopping spree. [more inside]
posted by mama casserole on Apr 12, 2016 - 27 answers

What did you replace your comfort eating with?

You are future me. You used to self-sabotage your healthy intentions after shitty days by eating weird, crappy foods. No disordered eating or thinking, just zero self control and a feeling of 'fuck the plan, I'm sad and I deserve to feel better'. What did you successfully replace the weird crappy foods with to give you the same 'comfort blanket' feeling without the sabotage? [more inside]
posted by citands on Mar 10, 2016 - 40 answers

Looking for a book like...

I picked up Stuck: Why We Can't (or Won't) Move On by Anneli Rufus on a whim, but can’t finish it as it is truly awful in every way. Now I’d like to read a book on the same subject that doesn’t suck, actually addresses the subject, and doesn’t resemble the comments section of an internet article. There must be a million books about getting stuck in ruts, changing habits and such, any recommendations?
posted by bongo_x on Feb 21, 2016 - 5 answers

One habit at a time, or all at once?

There are so many things I want to change about myself, and I don't know where to start. [more inside]
posted by akita on Feb 10, 2016 - 19 answers

Severing ties all the tie-me

I grew up in an abusive family. I haven’t spoken to my brother in forever. I plan to communicate minimally with my parents in the future. But this isn’t about them. It’s about the fact that I deal with friendships a little strangely. I tend to cut close friends out of my life abruptly. [more inside]
posted by kinoeye on Jan 3, 2016 - 13 answers

Six months of health coach + Power of Habit = superwoman?

My Christmas present to myself is six months of a health coach who is also a registered dietitian. I recently fell in love with The Power of Habit. I would like suggestions on how to maximize the next six months to build healthy habits that will net real health and fitness changes now and stick with me over the years. [more inside]
posted by instamatic on Dec 30, 2015 - 4 answers

Why should I drink less--really?

First of all: I don't think this is a capital-p Problem with alcohol. I just like it--specifically wine--a lot, and I have some vague sense that I should cut down or stop. Much of this has to do with the fact that my partner is a recovering alcoholic and doesn't drink at all, so I have some guilt with my dinnertime glass even as he says he doesn't mind. I know, intellectually, that alcohol is bad, mmkay, but that knowledge does nothing for my decision-making. [more inside]
posted by witchen on Nov 24, 2015 - 30 answers

Stop hanging around, hangnails!

I frequently get hangnails. I understand that the main treatment is not to pick at them and the main prevention is to keep your cuticles moisturised. I have questions about how to make these things happen. [more inside]
posted by Athanassiel on Jun 23, 2015 - 21 answers

Tell me about your post-work rituals.

I'd like to develop a post-work habit or ritual for as soon as I arrive home. Something that will send a signal to my brain that "work is over, and now you're home." What habits, rituals or environmental changes have worked well for you?
posted by nightrecordings on May 20, 2015 - 39 answers

Hack my morning routine!

I would like to begin my day with yoga/exercise and/or meditation, followed by a mindful walk through my "getting ready for work" routine. Instead, I stare at Facebook for 45 minutes and then flail around like a nut, invariably running out the door 5-10 minutes late. This is stupid. Have you solved a similar problem? Can you help? More inside. [more inside]
posted by missrachael on Mar 12, 2015 - 32 answers

What is the root of a compulsion? Example: nailbiting

There are tons of suggestions on how to stop nail-biting on metafilter, but they all seem to coincide with the idea that to stop a compulsive habit, one must replace it with another habit. [more inside]
posted by rancher on Jan 19, 2015 - 13 answers

People are pretty amazing

What's the most inspiring New Year's Resolution/habit change/life change you've witness in friends and family or even yourself (it's OK to brag)? This year I want to push myself to try new things after stagnating a bit and I'm looking for inspiration!
posted by CMcG on Jan 1, 2015 - 12 answers

Can you fix bad habits or should I focus on one at a time?

I have a lot of bad habits, should I try to change one at a time or all at once? [more inside]
posted by akita on Dec 15, 2014 - 13 answers

Breaking bad...habits with good ones?

They say you should kick a bad habit to the curb by replacing it with a good one. Well, what should that be? Let's say it should be something you can do at a desk to replace a bad Internet-related compulsion. It should preferably be something straightforward but productive that (eventually) makes you feel like you've accomplished something of value, not just a useless "tic" (so, something more meaningful than pen-spinning or card shuffling, but not something overly complex that will be given up on). Any suggestions?
posted by Seeking Direction on Oct 27, 2014 - 15 answers

Changes are hard.

I will enter a master's program in Fall 2015 in the humanities. I want to use the next year to become as prepared as possible. [more inside]
posted by kingfishers catch fire on Oct 23, 2014 - 8 answers

Happiness in Daily Doses

What small steps/actions do you take to increase your daily happiness/contentment? I'm interested in practices that can be easily adopted in a full life of work, exercise, home & health care.
posted by CMcG on Oct 1, 2014 - 24 answers

How do I drink more tea?

I love drinking tea, especially the unique international varieties I have collected in my travels. But there are too many steps to making tea -- get water, put in pot, heat pot, wait for pot to boil, open cabinet, put bag in mug, etc. -- so I never think to do it. Are you a tea drinker? What rituals, storage trays, and methods can I use to speed up the process? And how can I display my tea in the kitchen (without taking up too much space) instead of hiding it in a cabinet? [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto on Sep 24, 2014 - 44 answers

I need healthy ways to improve mood and concentration.

Lately I notice that I've been slipping into some unhealthy vices.... [more inside]
posted by Cybria on Sep 10, 2014 - 8 answers

My flatmate's eating habits might be affecting my own...

My flatmate has certain eating habits that could be negatively influencing my own, but of course it's not my place to comment on her eating habits. It's stressful. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit on Aug 14, 2014 - 21 answers

Too many interests, not enough time: how to be realistic and choose?

I am a diagnosed ADHD inattentive type (comorbid with anxiety and major depression) who has WAY too many personal pursuits, hobbies and interests. For this reason, I often feel overwhelmed and end up starting but not finishing (or continuing to seriously pursue) many of them. This cyclical behavior makes me anxious and miserable, and it fuels my procrastination tendencies. Occasionally, I will get a jolt of enthusiasm that helps me start a project and finish it, but this is really no different than any of my other impulsive behavior that is, ultimately, inconsistent rather than disciplined and habitual. I often beat myself up and tell myself I'm a failure because I do so few of the things that I talk or think about doing. I also beat myself up (less often, but enough that it's cause for concern) even when I *do* start and finish a project/pursuit - the reason being that I still didn't get all of the OTHER things done. How do I choose one or two things to really focus on deeply, and accept and be happy with those choices? How do I stop letting myself get caught up in the allure of "everything else"? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings on Aug 2, 2014 - 9 answers

Is there any hope that she will see heart surgery as a wakeup call?

My spouse's mother, a senior citizen, just learned this year that she has heart failure. She survived multiple heart surgeries recently, a harrowing process during which she said she never wants to go through that again. Great! We assumed this meant that she was seeing this as a wakeup call to change her eating/exercise habits and stress levels so that she could get healthier. Several weeks later, it turns out that she is going back to all the old habits that helped contribute to heart disease in the first place. Is there any hope for her changing her deeply-ingrained habits? If so, what can my spouse do from afar to help support mom? If there isn't any hope for her adjusting her lifestyle, then how can we learn to accept her choices and still give her the support she needs? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 31, 2014 - 22 answers

Reverse gamification?

The recent general knowledge says you can use gamification to instill new habits, rewarding yourself for actions taken. But are there any strategies for instilling habits of *not doing* something? How can you reward something you haven't done? [more inside]
posted by gakiko on Jul 30, 2014 - 17 answers

Quantified self for writers

Inspired by this article, I'd like to track and monitor my writing. [more inside]
posted by fonzie on Jul 3, 2014 - 3 answers

Does everyone have a vice?

Are there people with no vices? Is it possible to switch one vice for another? [more inside]
posted by aivilo91 on Jun 30, 2014 - 17 answers

Level up my life...

There are about a zillion goal-tracking and habit-forming apps out there with a bit of gamification ingrained in them. Which are great? [more inside]
posted by jacquilynne on Jun 3, 2014 - 8 answers

I Guess You'd Call 'Em "Shadow Dichotomies"?...

I'd like examples of traits/personality types/habits/behaviors wherein most people fall into two or three "camps", none of whom are generally aware of the existence of the other(s). "Ask Vs. Guess Culture" and "Sit Vs. Stand to Wipe?" are two examples (a LOT of people are absolutely gobsmacked when they learn that Asking and/or Standing is not only an option, but a POPULAR option). I'm NOT interested in predefined typologies (e.g. the MBTI or Buzzfeedy "What Garden Implement Are You?" kinda stuff)... just ones that, 1. Arise kinda organically, 2. Involve Group A and Group B people frequently being unaware of one another's existence.
posted by julthumbscrew on May 12, 2014 - 61 answers

Overwhelmed by my new goals planner

Has anyone conquered the overwhelming task of personal and life goal setting and tracking? I just got a Tools4Wisdom weekly planner and I don't know where to start. Specifically I'm looking for a simplification and breakdown of making this process a new long term habit. I think that someone who has been there and done that who could share their insights on how they made it manageable will be really helpful. I've looked at some websites on this but it's too much data to process. I guess I'm looking for a dumbing down of some sort based on personal experiences.
posted by mrflibble on Jan 11, 2014 - 6 answers

Go Ask Metafilter

Having finished, and loved, The Good House by Ann Leary, I'm interested in other novels where addictions, problems, obsessions or bad habits affect the (unreliable?) narrator as part of their character rather than the main plot theme. [more inside]
posted by mippy on Dec 5, 2013 - 25 answers

What's the #1 change you've made to improve your time management skills?

former chronic procrastinators, reformed flighty people, etc.: What's the #1 change you've made to improve your organizational and time management skills? (new mantra or mindset? taking a course? etc) [more inside]
posted by NikitaNikita on Nov 19, 2013 - 23 answers

Am I feeling what you're feeling?

How can I learn to be a bit more empathetic? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess on Sep 18, 2013 - 17 answers

Keeping track of recurring tasks

I've kind of started to implement htid's excellent advice regarding breaking depression-based habits, but I don't have a good way to keep track of my goals. So, what's a good way for me to keep track of how many times I've done multiple different tasks? Paper and pencil doesn't really work for me. Something I can do on my iPhone would be best. [more inside]
posted by SugarAndSass on Aug 18, 2013 - 9 answers

Help Me Floss

I don't floss regularly, and I want to. I just can't seem to get over the hump and really do it every day. Please hope me. Did you develop a habit because you felt like you really had to but sorta didn't really care? How? Bonus: I seem to not form habits (or at least this one) very easily. People say that thing about doing something for 21 days and then it's a habit? Not so much. I can very easily fall off the wagon with flossing after months. I have floss I like, so I don't think that's going to be the answer.
posted by stoneweaver on Aug 13, 2013 - 50 answers

My #FOMO is acting up!

How can I gamify the tedious parts of my day? [more inside]
posted by fritillary on Jul 11, 2013 - 8 answers

"Don't Break The Chain" app with skip days, because life is complicated

There are tons of "Don't Break The Chain"-style motivation tools in the iOS App Store and online, but I'm having trouble finding one with a feature I find essential: the ability to skip days on the fly without breaking your streak. [more inside]
posted by Ian A.T. on Apr 13, 2013 - 15 answers

Do you know about any researchers studying human behavior with regard to motivation, habits, and goal-setting, or books/papers about those topics?

Do you know about any researchers studying human behavior with regard to motivation, habits, and goal-setting, or books/papers about those topics? [more inside]
posted by markbao on Dec 19, 2012 - 9 answers

What strategies do you employ in your relationship to rebuild closeness in your long-term relationship/marriage?

Some weeks/months, you feel closer to your partner. Other weeks/months, not as much. Time and the natural course of things usually propel the cycle back around – is there anything you can do to hasten the process? What strategies do you employ in your relationship to rebuild closeness in your long-term relationship/marriage? [more inside]
posted by booksandwine on Nov 20, 2012 - 28 answers

Good habits to habituate?

Transform-my-life filter: looking for "good habits" to build into my life. [more inside]
posted by inbetweener on Sep 18, 2012 - 37 answers

First Things First. What Was the First Thing Again?

If I wrote down all the witty/funny/odd/insightful things that cross my mind all day long, I'd have tons of ideas for creative projects. The problem: I'm missing the part of my brain that says "Hey, write that down!" [more inside]
posted by Rykey on Aug 21, 2012 - 13 answers

Does this thing ever turn off? Help me get a better attitude about sleeping

I need more sleep and I have the means. But I don't seem to want to, you know, actually sleep. What gives? [more inside]
posted by iamkimiam on Jul 17, 2012 - 38 answers

I hate to clean

I am a messy person who doesn't like to clean. Should I put more effort in being cleaner, or just accept this part of myself and get over the guilt? How? Or is this a psychological problem? Or maybe it's normal. [more inside]
posted by lacedcoffee on Jul 8, 2012 - 58 answers

How to stop a 10 month old from spitting food?

This is for my mom. "Luke, baby i keep, ten months old, keeps spitting/blowing for lack of a better word, his food out. he is still on baby food plus a little table food. does it to both of them. does it to his mom too. what can we do about it? Will you ask people you know with babies about this situation? not fun."
posted by bleary on Jul 7, 2012 - 11 answers

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