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Breaking bad...habits with good ones?

They say you should kick a bad habit to the curb by replacing it with a good one. Well, what should that be? Let's say it should be something you can do at a desk to replace a bad Internet-related compulsion. It should preferably be something straightforward but productive that (eventually) makes you feel like you've accomplished something of value, not just a useless "tic" (so, something more meaningful than pen-spinning or card shuffling, but not something overly complex that will be given up on). Any suggestions?
posted by Seeking Direction on Oct 27, 2014 - 15 answers

Changes are hard.

I will enter a master's program in Fall 2015 in the humanities. I want to use the next year to become as prepared as possible. [more inside]
posted by kingfishers catch fire on Oct 23, 2014 - 8 answers

Happiness in Daily Doses

What small steps/actions do you take to increase your daily happiness/contentment? I'm interested in practices that can be easily adopted in a full life of work, exercise, home & health care.
posted by CMcG on Oct 1, 2014 - 24 answers

How do I drink more tea?

I love drinking tea, especially the unique international varieties I have collected in my travels. But there are too many steps to making tea -- get water, put in pot, heat pot, wait for pot to boil, open cabinet, put bag in mug, etc. -- so I never think to do it. Are you a tea drinker? What rituals, storage trays, and methods can I use to speed up the process? And how can I display my tea in the kitchen (without taking up too much space) instead of hiding it in a cabinet? [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto on Sep 24, 2014 - 44 answers

I need healthy ways to improve mood and concentration.

Lately I notice that I've been slipping into some unhealthy vices.... [more inside]
posted by Cybria on Sep 10, 2014 - 8 answers

My flatmate's eating habits might be affecting my own...

My flatmate has certain eating habits that could be negatively influencing my own, but of course it's not my place to comment on her eating habits. It's stressful. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit on Aug 14, 2014 - 21 answers

Too many interests, not enough time: how to be realistic and choose?

I am a diagnosed ADHD inattentive type (comorbid with anxiety and major depression) who has WAY too many personal pursuits, hobbies and interests. For this reason, I often feel overwhelmed and end up starting but not finishing (or continuing to seriously pursue) many of them. This cyclical behavior makes me anxious and miserable, and it fuels my procrastination tendencies. Occasionally, I will get a jolt of enthusiasm that helps me start a project and finish it, but this is really no different than any of my other impulsive behavior that is, ultimately, inconsistent rather than disciplined and habitual. I often beat myself up and tell myself I'm a failure because I do so few of the things that I talk or think about doing. I also beat myself up (less often, but enough that it's cause for concern) even when I *do* start and finish a project/pursuit - the reason being that I still didn't get all of the OTHER things done. How do I choose one or two things to really focus on deeply, and accept and be happy with those choices? How do I stop letting myself get caught up in the allure of "everything else"? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings on Aug 2, 2014 - 9 answers

Is there any hope that she will see heart surgery as a wakeup call?

My spouse's mother, a senior citizen, just learned this year that she has heart failure. She survived multiple heart surgeries recently, a harrowing process during which she said she never wants to go through that again. Great! We assumed this meant that she was seeing this as a wakeup call to change her eating/exercise habits and stress levels so that she could get healthier. Several weeks later, it turns out that she is going back to all the old habits that helped contribute to heart disease in the first place. Is there any hope for her changing her deeply-ingrained habits? If so, what can my spouse do from afar to help support mom? If there isn't any hope for her adjusting her lifestyle, then how can we learn to accept her choices and still give her the support she needs? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 31, 2014 - 22 answers

Reverse gamification?

The recent general knowledge says you can use gamification to instill new habits, rewarding yourself for actions taken. But are there any strategies for instilling habits of *not doing* something? How can you reward something you haven't done? [more inside]
posted by gakiko on Jul 30, 2014 - 17 answers

Quantified self for writers

Inspired by this article, I'd like to track and monitor my writing. [more inside]
posted by fonzie on Jul 3, 2014 - 3 answers

Does everyone have a vice?

Are there people with no vices? Is it possible to switch one vice for another? [more inside]
posted by aivilo91 on Jun 30, 2014 - 17 answers

Level up my life...

There are about a zillion goal-tracking and habit-forming apps out there with a bit of gamification ingrained in them. Which are great? [more inside]
posted by jacquilynne on Jun 3, 2014 - 8 answers

I Guess You'd Call 'Em "Shadow Dichotomies"?...

I'd like examples of traits/personality types/habits/behaviors wherein most people fall into two or three "camps", none of whom are generally aware of the existence of the other(s). "Ask Vs. Guess Culture" and "Sit Vs. Stand to Wipe?" are two examples (a LOT of people are absolutely gobsmacked when they learn that Asking and/or Standing is not only an option, but a POPULAR option). I'm NOT interested in predefined typologies (e.g. the MBTI or Buzzfeedy "What Garden Implement Are You?" kinda stuff)... just ones that, 1. Arise kinda organically, 2. Involve Group A and Group B people frequently being unaware of one another's existence.
posted by julthumbscrew on May 12, 2014 - 61 answers

Overwhelmed by my new goals planner

Has anyone conquered the overwhelming task of personal and life goal setting and tracking? I just got a Tools4Wisdom weekly planner and I don't know where to start. Specifically I'm looking for a simplification and breakdown of making this process a new long term habit. I think that someone who has been there and done that who could share their insights on how they made it manageable will be really helpful. I've looked at some websites on this but it's too much data to process. I guess I'm looking for a dumbing down of some sort based on personal experiences.
posted by mrflibble on Jan 11, 2014 - 6 answers

Go Ask Metafilter

Having finished, and loved, The Good House by Ann Leary, I'm interested in other novels where addictions, problems, obsessions or bad habits affect the (unreliable?) narrator as part of their character rather than the main plot theme. [more inside]
posted by mippy on Dec 5, 2013 - 25 answers

What's the #1 change you've made to improve your time management skills?

former chronic procrastinators, reformed flighty people, etc.: What's the #1 change you've made to improve your organizational and time management skills? (new mantra or mindset? taking a course? etc) [more inside]
posted by NikitaNikita on Nov 19, 2013 - 23 answers

Am I feeling what you're feeling?

How can I learn to be a bit more empathetic? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess on Sep 18, 2013 - 17 answers

Keeping track of recurring tasks

I've kind of started to implement htid's excellent advice regarding breaking depression-based habits, but I don't have a good way to keep track of my goals. So, what's a good way for me to keep track of how many times I've done multiple different tasks? Paper and pencil doesn't really work for me. Something I can do on my iPhone would be best. [more inside]
posted by SugarAndSass on Aug 18, 2013 - 9 answers

Help Me Floss

I don't floss regularly, and I want to. I just can't seem to get over the hump and really do it every day. Please hope me. Did you develop a habit because you felt like you really had to but sorta didn't really care? How? Bonus: I seem to not form habits (or at least this one) very easily. People say that thing about doing something for 21 days and then it's a habit? Not so much. I can very easily fall off the wagon with flossing after months. I have floss I like, so I don't think that's going to be the answer.
posted by stoneweaver on Aug 13, 2013 - 50 answers

My #FOMO is acting up!

How can I gamify the tedious parts of my day? [more inside]
posted by fritillary on Jul 11, 2013 - 8 answers

"Don't Break The Chain" app with skip days, because life is complicated

There are tons of "Don't Break The Chain"-style motivation tools in the iOS App Store and online, but I'm having trouble finding one with a feature I find essential: the ability to skip days on the fly without breaking your streak. [more inside]
posted by Ian A.T. on Apr 13, 2013 - 15 answers

Do you know about any researchers studying human behavior with regard to motivation, habits, and goal-setting, or books/papers about those topics?

Do you know about any researchers studying human behavior with regard to motivation, habits, and goal-setting, or books/papers about those topics? [more inside]
posted by markbao on Dec 19, 2012 - 9 answers

What strategies do you employ in your relationship to rebuild closeness in your long-term relationship/marriage?

Some weeks/months, you feel closer to your partner. Other weeks/months, not as much. Time and the natural course of things usually propel the cycle back around – is there anything you can do to hasten the process? What strategies do you employ in your relationship to rebuild closeness in your long-term relationship/marriage? [more inside]
posted by booksandwine on Nov 20, 2012 - 28 answers

Good habits to habituate?

Transform-my-life filter: looking for "good habits" to build into my life. [more inside]
posted by inbetweener on Sep 18, 2012 - 37 answers

First Things First. What Was the First Thing Again?

If I wrote down all the witty/funny/odd/insightful things that cross my mind all day long, I'd have tons of ideas for creative projects. The problem: I'm missing the part of my brain that says "Hey, write that down!" [more inside]
posted by Rykey on Aug 21, 2012 - 13 answers

Does this thing ever turn off? Help me get a better attitude about sleeping

I need more sleep and I have the means. But I don't seem to want to, you know, actually sleep. What gives? [more inside]
posted by iamkimiam on Jul 17, 2012 - 38 answers

I hate to clean

I am a messy person who doesn't like to clean. Should I put more effort in being cleaner, or just accept this part of myself and get over the guilt? How? Or is this a psychological problem? Or maybe it's normal. [more inside]
posted by lacedcoffee on Jul 8, 2012 - 58 answers

How to stop a 10 month old from spitting food?

This is for my mom. "Luke, baby i keep, ten months old, keeps spitting/blowing for lack of a better word, his food out. he is still on baby food plus a little table food. does it to both of them. does it to his mom too. what can we do about it? Will you ask people you know with babies about this situation? not fun."
posted by bleary on Jul 7, 2012 - 11 answers

poke, scratch, sniff, tap, shuffle

I need to stop fidgeting. How? Help! [more inside]
posted by guessthis on Jun 15, 2012 - 15 answers

I need pretty hands.

How can I stop messing with my cuticles and nails? I don't want sad-looking hands forever! [more inside]
posted by sucre on Feb 24, 2012 - 26 answers

How to accept or help a SO with adult ADD?

The guy I am dating has unusual tendencies, is this a part of his ADD? Or his quirkiness? How should I approach the subject? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Feb 13, 2012 - 75 answers

Goal #1: Track some goals.

I'm looking for a PC desktop widget that will track my progress towards various goals. [more inside]
posted by monkeys with typewriters on Feb 9, 2012 - 2 answers

How do I get over my sensitivity to people's tics?

Help me understand and get over my extreme repulsion to certain human sounds. [more inside]
posted by timsneezed on Feb 6, 2012 - 26 answers

Outliers lite: what can I accomplish in 3,000 hours?

I'm freeing up two hours a day in my schedule, and thinking about my mortality. In the next five years I'd like to spend that 3,600 hours to get really good at something in the area of music, art or programming, or some combination thereof. Which areas are most likely to show dramatic improvement with 3,000 hours of practice? [more inside]
posted by mecran01 on Feb 2, 2012 - 26 answers

Before I go under the knife, maybe I could go under the salt water gargles?

What did you do without removing your tonsils that helped reduce the frequency of your bouts of tonsillitis? [more inside]
posted by telegraph on Jan 3, 2012 - 16 answers

How do I develop basic adult habits at 27 after all this time living like a teenager?

I am a 27 year old girl and I'm still living like a teenager or college student. I have no adult habits and put absolutely no effort into taking care of myself. I don't understand how I got this way or how other people my age have transformed into real adults. I don't even know what I'm asking.. I guess I need help figuring out how to develop good habits, how to take care of myself, and hear from people that have experienced this same problem. [more inside]
posted by chickibaby on Oct 22, 2011 - 42 answers

What can I do to my office to help keep me calm, focused, and motivated?

What can I do to my office to help keep me calm, focused, and motivated? [more inside]
posted by callmejay on Sep 27, 2011 - 10 answers

How can I distract my hand?

What do you do with your non-dominant hand to keep it busy? [more inside]
posted by troublesome on Jul 21, 2011 - 21 answers

Can't find a webpage about forming new habits

Can you help me find a particular webpage about developing new habits? [more inside]
posted by mismatched on Jul 2, 2011 - 9 answers

Remembering To Eat?

One of my reactions to stress is to stop eating. It's not a conscious thing, food just stops being palatable and my hunger vanishes. Two days of nothing but coffee leaves me in a worse state and I ended up more stressed and it just starts over again. How do I force myself to eat when I really don't want to and break this cycle and/or what can I eat that will give me enough energy and nutrition to plow through a mood and not end up on accidental fasts?
posted by The Whelk on Jul 2, 2011 - 35 answers

How have you developed a handwriting habit?

What are some handwriting uses that encourage regular, repeated sessions? Difficulty: Meaningful output (i.e. not rote exercises), creativity optional (i.e. writing short stories, composing lyrics are less desirable). [more inside]
posted by brentajones on Jun 29, 2011 - 17 answers

I'm Gonna Kick Tomorrow...

Tips, tricks and anecdata needed to successfully and permanently kick a diet soda habit. [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew on Jun 28, 2011 - 37 answers

How to stop digging myself unnecessary holes?

Mildly self-destructive behavior: why do I do this and how do I stop? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 27, 2011 - 21 answers

The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.

I feel sometimes like I'm fighting a losing battle with myself: to accomplish certain things, stave off certain bad habits, develop certain good ones. How do you actually change yourself for the better when your lizard-brain is fighting you every step of the way? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 on Jun 2, 2011 - 24 answers

Hurry up and help me before I am not interested in an answer anymore!

One of my few habits is that I have no regular routines/habits. Is this something I definitely need to change or is there a way to leverage this to do everything I want to do in life? [more inside]
posted by thorny on May 31, 2011 - 19 answers

Help tracking daily repeated tasks easily?

I'm looking for an app I can use for checking the same things off every day. I use iPhone and have Windows. [more inside]
posted by dubadubowbow on Mar 23, 2011 - 14 answers

Don't mind me, I'm just reading your retinas here...

How did I develop such an aversion to looking people in the eye, and how I can overcome it? It was recently pointed out to me that I unconsciously avoid eye contact in all but the most intimate circumstances---one on one conversations, with friends, etc. Apparently, this makes me look "shifty-eyed" or even like I'm trying to peek down a woman's shirt, so I'd like to stop, but it's very difficult. Not only do I do it unconsciously, but making eye contact with strangers or more casual acquaintances actively feels wrong. [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang on Feb 21, 2011 - 24 answers

Milk baths?

Amazing skin forever? At my ritzy gym I constantly see older gentlemen with the most amazing skin quality: smooth, clear, even tone, even lightly tanned. What have they done to get/keep this peternatual skin quality and what can I do now as a younger man to get it?
posted by The Whelk on Feb 18, 2011 - 27 answers

2 questions for those experienced in working from home

2 questions for those experienced in working from home [more inside]
posted by PepperMax on Feb 17, 2011 - 18 answers

Failing Successfully

How do I make a habit of failing successfully (or at least in ways interesting to myself and others)? [more inside]
posted by Bwithh on Feb 8, 2011 - 15 answers

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