Three weeks ago I drunkenly cheated on my boyfriend with a stranger. I'm a gay man, I was the bottom and we didn't use a condom. During the next 2 weeks I stupidly tried to forget about the incident and continued having unprotected sex with my boyfriend. He is a circumcised top. What kind of risk does he face? [more inside]
I'm on a low-level job hunt - I have a decent job, but I'd like to relocate closer to my family sometime in the next couple years. I'm also HIV+. I've never been sick and never considered myself 'disabled.' However, I just learned that being positive might qualify me for non-competitive recruitment for positions I'm applying for under the Federal Employment Program for Persons with Disabilities. [more inside]
I just had a haircut today, and I told my hairstylist not to use the "razor comb" because anything to do with razors in a public area make me nervous, especially with things like HIV and Hepatitis going around. Well, she used it anyway and brushed the back of my neck with it to trim off the fine hairs. I found out afterwards that she doesn't speak good English, so she didn't know what I was saying. [more inside]
I'm a late-thirties bi man who's relatively new to having sex with men - like, total partner count under 5. Last night I went home with a guy I sort-of knew, which is not something I've ever done before. The condom broke while I was bottoming and he didn't notice until afterwards. What next? [more inside]
I'm preparing a timeline of important virology-related events for work. We have some HIV-related and some bacteriophage-related material as well as some cancer-related stuff and some "greatest hits" (x-ray diffraction patterns, transduction, discovery of interferon). I'd like to expand our timeline to cover more diverse kinds of virology-related stuff. [more inside]
In about an hour I am accompanying a close friend in his mid-20s getting tested for HIV. How can I be supportive both during and after the testing, regardless of outcome?
I had an encounter with another man several weeks ago. I would normally wait for the end of the three month window to check my status, but I have recently gotten sick, which (given the vague symptoms listed for acute retroviral syndrome) has me spooked. I have made arrangements to get tested later in the week by DNA PCR (18 days after exposure, with the understanding that I will still get tested at 3 months), which should give me a decent degree of confidence whether I have HIV and whether these symptoms are ARS. However, I won't get these results until well into next week. In the meantime, it's the holidays, and I need to keep up my spirits and not cause chaos with 'what ifs.' Not that this is a conversation I'd ever feel comfortable having with my family. I'm feeling really isolated and am spending too much time inhabiting my own head. I could really use some external feedback about how high my risk is and whether I have any right to be this worried. Handwringing details inside. [more inside]
I always practice safe sex, but the condom doesn't cover my entire penis and some of it is in contact with the vagina. Does this seriously increase my risk of being infected with HIV? (I use XL size condoms, but they don't cover everything, and as I tend to go deep, some of my skin is touching the vagina; but the most important parts are covered)
What are some songs about the early years of HIV/AIDS in the US and the politics surrounding it? Think musical equivalent of something like Angels in America. [more inside]
I'm considering joining a clinical drug trial. What should I be thinking about? [more inside]
I run a program that directs people with HIV and at risk for HIV infection to research they might qualify for. We are co-sponsoring an event for providers in the HIV field. We would like to hand out swag mugs, but we have no idea what to say in such a small space. [more inside]
What are examples of colleges that are doing new or innovative things in addressing HIV? I am most interested in approaches directed at men who have sex with men, but any general approaches about HIV that are directed at everyone or at other high risk populations would also be helpful. [more inside]
How to deal with intense anxiety from stupid and risky sexual decisions in the (pretty) distant past? [more inside]
When the AIDS crisis showed up, I literally put my education on pause. I figured I would spend the next 5 years caring for friends until they all died, and then go back to school. 23 years later, I have 23 years of experience in HIV research and social services and a B.A. in religious studies. Snowflaky details.... [more inside]
I may have HIV and I don't know what to do about it. [more inside]
I was exposed to HIV last year, but am not infected. Do I need to disclose this to future partners? [more inside]
I am a 20 year old Canadian female--I had a lot of unprotected sex with a very promiscuous male around 2 years ago. How possible is it that I may have contracted HIV? [more inside]
Does it make sense for my doctor to tell me I don't need an HIV test, because I'm a heterosexual male and I only had unprotected sex with one person in the last 6 months? [more inside]
MovieFilter: My Google skills are failing me, so help me find a film I saw years ago about AIDS/HIV, where a young-ish man videotapes his daily experiences with AIDS using a handheld camera. It's probably not the blockbuster(s) you're thinking of. More vague details inside. [more inside]
Preparing for a Possible HIV-Positive Result? [more inside]
Dear MetaFilter: I need advice on serodiscordant dating. (That is, when a HIV- guy starts seeing a HIV+ guy.) [more inside]
I am homozygous CCR5 delta32, and I've been wondering about getting involved in HIV (or other) research. Can someone tell me how I would go about that? [more inside]
He is HIV+, I am not. Have our activities put me at risk? (potentially NSFW) [more inside]
I'm a 28 year old gay male. My fear of AIDS is destroying my life. It's so bad that I don't really want to be gay anymore. [more inside]
What are the best, most moving speeches, images, or articles on the internet about or related to World AIDS Day?
How do I plan & embark on a RTW trip as an HIV+ man? I'm about to turn 25 and thanks to healthcare legislation I've been given a small window of time to travel unencumbered by the fear of loosing health insurance. [more inside]
A good friend of mine was recently diagnosed with HIV. Help me stop feeling super sad about it. [more inside]
Looking for books about the history of HIV/AIDS in North America. Wanting both clinical/ epidemiology and social narratives. Also, would love anything that touches on stage performers and the affect it had on creative fields during the 80s.
Is AIDS (or HIV) been...cured? What? [more inside]
So we are in an icky situation involving a friend dying of AIDS. Advice? [more inside]
I'm a health care professional, and I recently read on a physician's blog that a negative HIV test on your health record may affect life or health insurance premiums. I have a vague idea of why this might be, but if any infectious disease, insurance or other professionals could shed some light on this, please explain!
Unprotected oral sex outside my relationship: is this risky enough to warrant a confession? [more inside]
I have HIV antibodies due to participation in a vaccine trial, will one of the fast RNA tests work on me? [more inside]
Saying that you have had sex with a man ("even once") disqualifies you for blood donation most places. But I know I don't have HIV. Is it ethical to lie on the intake survey so I can still donate? [more inside]
My automated online and phone results to my STD tests both said negative, but I just got a call asking me to come in to the clinic for my results. Should I be freaking out? [more inside]
DESPERATE! Babysitter diagnosed with HIV...... [more inside]
AnxietyFilter: had a risky sex encounter 8 months ago, just tested HIV-negative, and still going a little crazy. Help?
AnxietyFilter: had a risky sex encounter 8 months ago, just tested HIV-negative, and still going a little crazy. Help? [more inside]
A friend of mine, recently married, went to Africa and slept with 3 prostitutes. He came back about 3 months ago, and over the last 3 weeks he has had an insistent cough and flu like symptoms. He went to the doctor, and the doctor did a lung and throat check-up and everything was fine there. So the doctor ordered a HIV test. Results are coming on Friday. [more inside]
My hairdresser just learned that she has HIV. Should we do anything differently? [more inside]
HIV testing filter: Does a negative test always trump an indeterminate one? [more inside]
How safe is Craigslist? [more inside]
I need support! In February of 2007, I found out that I am HIV+. [more inside]
How do I deal with HIV test window period anxiety? I had a risky encounter (unprotected sex) with a girl last week -- I trusted her when she said she'd been tested, which she told me on the way to the bedroom (had she not said anything I wouldn't have asked, and just used a condom). Before the encounter, I thought I knew her pretty well as she'd been a friend for a few months. Shortly afterwards she announces that she has a new boyfriend and cuts off all contact with me. I know I should get tested, but HIV tests aren't conclusive until after 3 months since it takes time for the antibodies to show up. I wouldn't be so worried if she'd still be talking to me. My question is ... how do I deal with the anxiety for the next three months? [more inside]
RidiculousHypotheticalQuestion: If someone were to drink a mouthful of HIV/AIDS infected blood, what would the chances of becoming infected be? (This was spawned from one of those ridiculous back-and-forths, about infected candy, at work.)
In NYC: routine HIV testing that is anonymous (not "confidential"), uses saliva or a fingertip-prick (not a blood draw from the arm), and is free or very cheap -- those three things are musts -- that is in or close to the 5 boroughs? I don't need fast results; just looking for my usual periodic tests. This was easy and free in my former (smaller) city; am I just missing something in NYC?
I have been hired to write a slide kit focusing primarily on developments in the field of HIV vaccines. Problem is, I have no medical training at all -- not even a biology course. I need to find resources that will give me a basic background in immunology without assuming prior medical knowledge. [more inside]
Calling ikkyu2: How is a clinical diagnosis of AIDS (as distinct from HIV infection) made? [more inside]
I am looking for places that do anonymous testing for Hep B, Hep A and HIV. [more inside]
So my girlfriend went to the "girl doctor" and was told that she might have chlamydia..ok shocking but no big deal. The doctor also noticed a bump on her rear end..and stated that it was a type of viral infection. Now the doctor tells her that its very uncommon to have a bacterial and viral infection at the same time. That it could be a sign of HIV..... Any truth to this? We are both freaking out now and the test results don't come back until wednesday.. She said she was tested before me and was clean.. I personally was never tested, but my ex-girlfriend was (the only other one I've been with) and she was clean of HIV and everything as well..
Calling all legal experts. Is it a potential lawsuit when a bisexual male does not disclose the fact he's active bisexual while he's actively involved with a heterosexual female?
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