My mother is dying. How can I forgive myself for the guilt of leaving her bedside? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2009 - 35 answers

My guilt is getting a little out of control, but my issue is that I don't know whether or not it is justified. Looking for advice from those prone to worrying. [more inside]
posted by wild like kudzu on Nov 1, 2009 - 13 answers

Introvert Filter: please help me revive a friendship! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2009 - 18 answers

How do I navigate this situation without tears or fist-fights? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 26, 2009 - 17 answers

Help me stop myself from turning into my dad: how do I manage daily guilt? [more inside]
posted by brambory on Oct 13, 2009 - 10 answers

My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other for a couple of years now. We love each other, and have a lot of fun doing things (even hard work) together. When it comes to sex, though, she seems to have inherited a lot of hangups from a previous, long-term relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 18, 2009 - 39 answers

When do you tell someone you have HSV1? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 10, 2009 - 25 answers

How do I stop feeling so guilty? I can't think about anything else, it is consuming me completely. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 3, 2009 - 35 answers

I feel intense, acute, brief episodes of shame every day, several times a day. What can I do about them? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 22, 2009 - 28 answers

How can I stop feeling bad for myself when something good happens to one of my friends? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 16, 2009 - 25 answers

Please help me figure out how to deal with being close to a musical genius brother whose inability to get laid has led to outbursts that are traumatizing my parents and me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 1, 2009 - 21 answers

It seems like the only thing that can get me off is extremely unpleasant written erotica (details inside, to keep the front page clean). Do I have a problem? Should I see a therapist? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 30, 2009 - 47 answers

How can I have casual/rebound sex without post-breakup guilt? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 18, 2009 - 14 answers

I started a new job a couple months ago at a small company, and since then, there has been some theft of company property. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 5, 2009 - 9 answers

My parents cleaned my apartment when I was away - and went through EVERYTHING - how should I feel? [more inside]
posted by pinksoftsoap on Aug 22, 2008 - 52 answers

Please give advice on dealing with money and guilt about money. [Long question.] [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2008 - 20 answers

I often download documentaries, and generally love them, and frequently feel like I want to give back to the director. Monetarily-wise, that is, as perhaps I didn't pay for them. What do you think of a service that allowed for paypal or such donation to individual directors? Could it work? Alternately, directors of small films could set up a link on their websites, and one could spread the idea memetically. I'm not looking to cash in on this, just to get feedback on an idea of how to assuage my guilt and help support those who make films worthy of support.
posted by aschwa5 on Aug 1, 2008 - 13 answers

I've never initiated a breakup before last night. We live together. What do we do? [more inside]
posted by inging on Jun 4, 2008 - 25 answers

How do I handle interactions with a parent in the present, when I still haven't been able to let go of anger from the past? It's my mother.. simply calling me every now and then to ask how I am doing, and yet when she comes up on my caller ID I usually have overwhelming feelings of dread, anger, and then guilt if I don't pick up the phone. [more inside]
posted by citron on May 24, 2008 - 28 answers

How do I get over the feeling of awkwardness/guilt/prejudice when I encounter my friends working in service positions? [more inside]
posted by divabat on May 6, 2008 - 41 answers

How can I cope with feelings of guilt over a friend's recent suicide? [more inside]
posted by MaryDellamorte on Apr 27, 2008 - 20 answers

Birthday party etiquette question: Would it be in bad taste to invite my son's preschool classmates to his fifth birthday party? [more inside]
posted by LoriFLA on Mar 26, 2008 - 18 answers

I feel guilty for not wanting to really "go all out" with Christmas decorating this year. I'll do the tree, of course, but every year I feel like doing less and less in terms of the "whole shebang"... My kids are basically "grown up" (ages 19 and 15) but I feel like I'll be letting them down if I do less than what's expected. The thought of totally getting into the decorating this year is exhausting. Can any other Mefites relate to this? And, if so, how did you deal with it?
posted by amyms on Dec 2, 2007 - 27 answers

Is it bad for me to mention the good things in my life around friends who are unhappy with theirs? [more inside]
posted by echo0720 on May 19, 2007 - 21 answers

I sometimes have the habit of (unintentionally, at least I feel), putting people down. [more inside]
posted by hadjiboy on May 1, 2007 - 11 answers

A year ago, a friend of mine was drunk-driving and killed his best friend in a car accident. He needs help. Where can he turn to? [more inside]
posted by MiguelCardoso on Apr 24, 2007 - 37 answers

How do I acquiesce a guilty conscience? [more inside]
posted by hadjiboy on Apr 10, 2007 - 18 answers

I've been in a committed, loving relationship for over two years now. And the sex is great. But the other day my girlfriend asked me to call her some very nasty names during sex. I did, and now I feel awful about it. She says she likes it though. Should I feel bad? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 4, 2007 - 58 answers

There's a guy at work who fascinates me and I would love to get to know him as a friend, but I'm afraid to pursue it for fear he'll think I'm coming on to him. (I'm happily married and not looking for an affair). Should I just relax, not overthink it and let things develop, or should I run? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 23, 2007 - 26 answers

How do you justify how much to spend on yourself when there are so many out there without? And, how much should you give to charity? [more inside]
posted by pinksoftsoap on Dec 27, 2006 - 31 answers

[PostingForGirlfriendFilter] What to do about my girlfriend's mother's excessive gift-giving? [more inside]
posted by SBMike on Nov 30, 2006 - 35 answers

What are some easy/common ways to make a stranger feel guilty? [more inside]
posted by the giant pill on Oct 11, 2006 - 29 answers

What is the environmental impact of my dog's lost tennis balls? [more inside]
posted by M.C. Lo-Carb! on Sep 21, 2006 - 8 answers

How can I best address being on a budget/diet while out with friends? It seems a mention of budgetary/dietary reasons for skipping drinking/appetizers/dessert makes my friends feel bad -- like either we should have waited to go out till I wouldn't have to restrict myself, or chosen a cheaper outing, or that they should be restricting themselves too. [more inside]
posted by xo on Sep 12, 2006 - 17 answers

Why do good looking women make me nervous and guilty when looking at them? [more inside]
posted by convex on Jul 20, 2006 - 53 answers

[ReligiousSexGuiltFilter] How can I lift the mental block that seems to be impending my ability to enjoy sex without turning into a blubbering mass of paranoia? [more inside]
posted by liquorice on Jul 14, 2006 - 35 answers

What is the emotion that drives lashing out behavior which leads to guilt & regret? Anecdotes & personal insights our encouraged. [more inside]
posted by Brainy on May 5, 2006 - 14 answers

How do you deal with a family member who constantly inflicts feelings of guilt? [more inside]
posted by jca on Apr 11, 2006 - 29 answers

What do I do with all this plastic? [more inside]
posted by knave on Dec 5, 2005 - 8 answers

If one of your parents said they wanted you to move to where they were, that they needed your help, would you do it? Even if you knew that it would lead to extreme hardship and unhappiness in your own life? [more inside]
posted by Windigo on Nov 3, 2005 - 35 answers

Just got done with an extended discussion of how weird my family is, after we decided to go to a buffet for thanksgiving rather than get together with the in-laws. Part of the problem is that my side of the family is "economically disadvantaged" and spouse's side of the family is middle class. [more inside]
posted by craniac on Nov 2, 2005 - 22 answers

How do I get over the guilt of having been (very) unfaithful to my loving wife, when she doesn't have any idea it happened? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 26, 2005 - 55 answers

My relationship is wonderful. It's been a couple of years and we have big plans, a definitely long term view, get along perfectly, still have passion, all that... So why did I kiss a friend while really, really drunk the other night? And what should I do about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2005 - 55 answers

How can I learn to just let stupid shit go? [more inside]
posted by LittleMissCranky on Feb 17, 2005 - 26 answers

Please post links, anecdotes, horror stories, etc. designed to scare me out of my internet porn habit, focusing on ethical, moral, and legal issues. I want to stop cold turkey and the only way out is through my liberal guilt.
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2004 - 13 answers

A very good, close friend of mine for at least 16 years, recently revealed something to me . . . [more inside]
posted by yesster on Jul 30, 2004 - 32 answers

I'm trying to write an essay on the current nostalgia for guilt-free (and information-free!) smoking, boozing and drug-taking and desperately need sources, whether web-based or bibliographical. [More inside.] [more inside]
posted by MiguelCardoso on May 5, 2004 - 15 answers