My sister had a baby. My brother and I are giving her a larger-than-normal for our family chunk of cash for her birthday. Please help me write a card that doesn't make me sound superior, or her obligated. [more inside]
I find myself in possession of $2500 that isn't mine, and due to a series of events I'm not sure what to do with it. [more inside]
A family acquaintance (he and my parents belong to the same hobby group but are not particularly close) is a lawyer who is negotiating down debt for me after an extremely expensive medical issue was not covered by insurance. He has been exceedingly generous with his time, and refuses any payment. But just saying 'hey thanks' and going on my way feels awful. [more inside]
The priest from my church will be marrying us. He is not asking for a fee, so we'd like to make a contribution to the church and a gift to him. Any thoughts on what would be appropriate? [more inside]
My friend is an Indian woman living in India who is having her first baby in a couple of weeks. I'd like to send something for her new baby when he or she arrives. [more inside]
GiftFilter: what active/outdoorsy gift can I give my athletic boyfriend to use together with my wannabe-active self? [more inside]
I need to get a birthday gift for my new boss (I've worked there just a couple of months and this is the first office birthday since I started). I'm told we do gifts around $10 plus lunch for the birthday person. Extra layer of difficulty: the birthday is early next week. [more inside]
My brother just had a baby (the first in our family). And I would like to give him the same book to read to his son that my father read to us as children (in the later 80s). Unfortunately my memory is unclear on many things related to the book. So, hopefully someone with a good memory can help out! [more inside]
I'm going into the hospital soon for surgery. Recovery time will be a while. When my friends find out (and they're very dear friends) they'll say, as people do in these situations: "oh, no! What can I do to help?" [more inside]
My friends will be in Lisbon in October on their honeymoon, and I'd like to treat them to a night at a Fado restaurant. I've done some research and found a few places that look great, but I'm not sure how the logistics would work in terms of my paying. I know that there are theaters where you can hear Fado music, but I'm looking for a more traditional restaurant setting None of the restaurants I've seen advertise gift certificates or another obvious way of my paying for them. How can I do this?
Mixologists: What is a really awesome and useful (read: not gold-plated $75 shot glasses) bartending-related gift I can get for a friend? [more inside]
Hi AskMe! Can you help me give a gift to my boyfriend and maybe his parents? [more inside]
My new acquaintance has invited me for lunch with his wife and 11-year-old son next Saturday. What should I bring? [more inside]
My girlfriend is graduating university and she's heading to London for a well-deserved holiday later this month. I'm looking for a great gift idea of a fabulous experience that she can have while there! [more inside]
I'm invited to the courthouse part of an interfaith wedding of a relative of my girlfriend. I've scoured metafilter and the rest of the internet for the etiquette concerning gifts, but couldn't find anything applying to the situation. What would be appropriate? [more inside]
What's a fun gift I can get my mom for her birthday? It has to be something she can do in the Hudson Valley, NY area (New Paltz/Kingston/Woodstock etc). [more inside]
My parents are about to give me an embarrassing birthday gift. Help. [more inside]
My boss's birthday is coming up and our small team always gives gifts. I am struggling with what to buy her. I know her well, but I don't want something too personal. Here is some background: We work in mental health crisis. She also lives on a hobby farm where she takes in animals who are in crisis (sick, dying, or on their way to the slaughter house) and has a heart of gold. She loves her chickens and horses. She is a soon to be empty nester. She also enjoys cooking and baking. So far, my only thought is a magazine subscription to the Modern Farmer, but I am not 100% on it. Any thoughts or suggestions?
Much to my pleasant surprise, today in the mail I received an invite from one of my oldest friends to his son's Bar Mitzvah celebration. They live thousands of miles away, I'm sure they don't expect me to make an appearance, but it seems . . . . . inadequate . . . . . to just check the "no" box on the RSVP card. More context below, but the TL;DR is -- what, if anything, would be an appropriate Bar Mitzvah gift for a young man that I barely know? Or should I just send a card to sort of the whole family? [more inside]
Is it normal to celebrate these holidays before you have a baby? Partner and I are expecting. We're excited but this was a surprise. Baby is due in July. Would it be normal or customary to celebrate a partner on Mother's Day or Father's Day in these circumstances? We won't really be a mother or father until next year. Am I likely to disappoint my partner if I don't get a gift or card or something this year? What have you done or seen done? I could ask them, but this seems like one of those things that would lose its luster if I have to ask. I'd rather just get it right.
My lovely brother is graduating from university in southern California, and I'd like to get him something special, reasonably-priced, and memorable...that matches his interests...that I can order online or take home from Hong Kong, where I live. [more inside]
What would you do? My friend Ted and I have a disagreement about a pool cue that has fractured our relationship. Ted says I broke an agreement to trade with him for a cue case. He said I screwed him because when he showed up on Monday with the case I told him another friend, Dan had bought the cue over the weekend. I'll return to this in a moment but there is an element to this dispute regarding Gene giving me the disputed cue back in 2012 three years ago. [more inside]
My brother is going to visit some family in Isreal -- a cousin and her two elementary-school aged children (boys). What might be a nice gift to bring from America? We don't know the family very well, and we would like the gift to be a surprise...
A relative wants to give a cash gift to my 12-year-old child, but wants to put it in some kind of account where it can grow for many years before the child receives it. Where? How? It's under $1000 and we're in the U.S. [more inside]
A good friend was recently diagnosed with type 1 diabetes, thanks to a horrifying trip to the ER. Her life has turned upside down, but she's doing absolutely everything she's supposed to. I want to make a fun gift basket for her - with things like cute band-aids for her finger pricks, etc. Help me make it awesome!
What is the gift etiquette when you are attending both? [more inside]
I would like to send a colleague a housewarming gift. Tomoya has recently moved from Japan to the UK with his wife and two babies, and they are finding the change challenging as none of them lived in the UK before. They have moved out of temporary apartments into a house, and I would like to send flowers as a welcoming gift. Is this an appropriate gift and should I avoid any particular colours/flowers? [more inside]
A friend recently downsized from a large house to a small apartment near the beach. That makes two adults and a dog living in a (700 sf? I can't be sure) home. What is a gift that I could give that wouldn't just be clutter, or better yet could improve their household? Obviously it should be small, and it has to be something the TSA won't confiscate because I will be flying across the U.S. to visit.
We're moving away. We want to get a present for our amazing part-time babysitter, as well as a gift for the parents of the children who share her, and who host this arrangement (we drop our daughter off at their house two days a week, where the babysitter watches our daughter and their two kids). What should we get? [more inside]
I'd like to have a gift basket delivered to my pregnant cousin, but there doesn't seem to be much available online. [more inside]
Is it rude if everyone at a dinner table receives a discount except you? [more inside]
I want to buy a gift(material or otherwise) for two young people, ~5 years and ~14 months. I want it to be meaningful and not a token gift. Snowflake part: I have no idea what these children like. [more inside]
About a month ago I bought a dress on eBay UK. I wasn't happy with the actual item, so I left neutral feedback - now the Seller has contacted me offering me a gift if I witdraw the feedback. Isn't this bribery? How do I proceed? [more inside]
Two friends, retired but very active, curious, well-educated and well-informed, are getting married this summer. They are the classic "people who have everything" tangible - art, antiques, books, fabulous garden, vacations, urban chic, rural chic, etc. [more inside]
My neighbors are having a baby soon, and I'd like ideas for something useful to give them that won't end up just taking up space in a small apartment. I'll probably be ordering from Amazon UK or eBay UK. We're casual friendly but not close, so offering cooking or housecleaning help wouldn't be appropriate. (I feel pretty sure the new mom will have her mother with her at first.) [more inside]
I will try to list all the main points to my question. I am getting confused as to what steps I need to take and which forms I need to complete. My parents own a car in NY. They want to give me the car as a gift. I live in Pennsylvania. I am trying to make sense of the title transfer paperwork and the affidvait of gift form. Has anyone done this before? If so, can you walk me through which forms I need to fill out? Do I need proof of insurance before I attempt to register the car? The car is currently insured through my parent's and I am listed on their policy. This is my first time registering a car and I don't have much experience with PennDOT. Not sure if this matters but I have a PA driver's license. Thank you!
Suggestions for a gift for a young man achieving Eagle Scout? [more inside]
Give me some ideas for a nice gift for our lovely neighbor who snowplows our driveway. [more inside]
Please help me find the perfect Valentine's Day gift for my beloved wife. Difficulty level: elephant. [more inside]
We're planning a dinner to celebrate a milestone birthday. We'd like to do something to acknowledge the extra work for the staff we represent. We were thinking a gift for the staff, but we don't know the etiquette of this. [more inside]
What's a great CD of classical music that is lower-case-r romantic, for a gift? [more inside]
I got my boyfriend a guitar for his birthday. It's what he really wants, and he does not know for sure that that's his present. But he suspects it, based on prior conversations, hints dropped on his part, and likely possibilities. Is there any way for me to still have it be a surprise when the day comes? Is there some 'master of misdirection' moves I can use to hide the fact that it's a guitar? [more inside]
I want to give some dear friends the MOST AMAZING omg-you're-pregnant present. But I don't look at baby stuff and so I have no idea where to even start. Requirements: super cute, expressive of how happy I am for them. [more inside]
I was incredibly touched to learn that my goddaughter has decided that in lieu of a birthday party she's inviting all of her guests to a local book repository to sort, sticker, and bag books destined for low-income families. I love this and want to do something for her birthday to help encourage more of this kind of thing in the future. Help me choose from some options or suggest something else: [more inside]
My dad got me a little Ganesh statue that came in a lovely drawstring gift bag. Does anyone have any creative ideas for what I could use this bag and similar bags for, other than using them to give other people gifts?
This question is about giving and receiving gifts from family members (and how to STOP receiving certain gifts from a particular family member) and has a long (but hopefully interesting) tale of woe inside. [more inside]
My partner has a birthday coming up and I'm looking for a gift. She is in the habit of listening to the radio on her phone while she does chores around the house or works from home, so I want to get her something a bit nicer to listen on. Specifics inside. [more inside]
My birth father (I'm adopted) recently married for the first time and had a son a couple of weeks ago. So I have a baby brother for the first time in my 36 years. I would love to buy him and his wife a present for his marriage and to celebrate their new arrival. I would love this to be thoughtful, and practical and because of this have been frozen. More complications inside. [more inside]
I took us indoor skydiving for his 39th birthday and now I am completely stumped as to what I give him for his 40th, and was hoping for suggestions to make the Big Day (31 Jan) special. [more inside]
An Italian penpal and friend from Turin sent me a wonderful gift and I would like to reciprocate. I love chocolates and Italian food generally, so she sent me an assortment of very high end chocolates from Guido Gobino (super fancy, well known Turin brand). I'd like to get her something in return that is unique, special, and can't be found in Italy. [more inside]