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Pursuing a Platonic Friendship

So I am in an extended academic program meaning almost all of my friends have graduated and moved on and I know only a handful of people in my current city. I have always been very shy and since the departure of my friends I have been making every effort to be a more social, friendly, and outgoing person. I have been doing an OK job but sometimes stumble as I feel very awkward initiating friendships of either sex and I really need help with this one. [more inside]
posted by Valkyrie21 on Mar 31, 2013 - 7 answers

What should I do about this friend who has cut me off?

What should I do about a friend who has apparently cut me off for no reason. We are both in our late 20's/early 30's. [more inside]
posted by Butterflye1010 on Mar 26, 2013 - 35 answers

How do I build a support system?

Hey mefites, how did you build up your friendship group and support system? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess on Feb 20, 2013 - 11 answers

Friends, money and jealousy.

I have a few new couple acquaintances that are on their way to becoming friends. Here's the trouble. As I get to know them more, i realize that there is a common thread about most of them. They are all quite pre-occupied with "how do i make more money" in life. [more inside]
posted by gadget_gal on Jan 27, 2013 - 11 answers

Advice on dealing with feelings of loneliness and paranoia

I'm having a hard time dealing with feelings of profound loneliness and paranoia about the states of friendships which in turn affect my dreams and my moods (being a vivid dreamer) and I don't like the affect it has on my happiness. Is there any good literature or advice that you can give to help me conquer these feelings and appreciate what I have in my friends or branch out to finding others? Any communication advice to being clear with friends and alleviating my paranoia without insulting them or sounding weird? [more inside]
posted by Recca on Jan 22, 2013 - 6 answers

Russian female bonding vs. American female bonding

How do Russian female friendships differ from American female friendships? [more inside]
posted by akka on Jan 7, 2013 - 9 answers

Hooking Up with Friends - An Beginner's Primer

I have a lot of female friends. Lately, a number of them have begun giving me romantic vibes. I have never dated a friend in my entire life - I have often become friends with people I dated, but never the other way around. How do I pursue this type of thing? (Snowflake details inside.) [more inside]
posted by wolfdreams01 on Jan 2, 2013 - 25 answers

I AM NOT YOUR OWL

I am tired of being the owl for my friends and family. How do I get them to talk to *each other* instead of *me*? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Dec 25, 2012 - 11 answers

Romance with old friend

I've recently been through some major life changes and find myself feeling strong romantic feelings for an old friend, former co-worker. I fear acting on my feelings because I don't want to jeopardize our platonic friendship which, at my age (65) is precious. I worry that even talking about my change in feelings for this woman might ruin our friendship. I'm not certain that she has reciprocal feelings for me, although I think she might. We are very compatible in most regards, intellectually, shared interests and activities, etc. And the friendship just as it is is rare and cherished. Should I 'confess' and risk what we have, or accept it for what it is and look elsewhere for the intimacy I seek? As might be obvioius, I have limited experience in physical (sexual) and emotionally-close relationships.
posted by NorthCoastCafe on Dec 3, 2012 - 10 answers

How To Use this Big Change/Trip in My Life To Practise Social Skills/Build More Intimate Relationships?

I'm a 20 year old girl who has had little experience with real romantic relationships. I also have trouble with friendships---though I am super extroverted and can mix and mingle in parties with ease, creating sustainable friendships is very difficult for me. I'll be going on exchange in France for 5-6 months in January. I'd like to practise and build intimate friendships and romantic relationships (short-term, but meaningful!) when I'm there, and try to get a handle on WHY I usually have trouble. How can I do this? More deets inside. [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen on Oct 22, 2012 - 18 answers

Thrown away

My ex-lover and "best friend" blocked me on Facebook and I'm having a hard time dealing with it. [more inside]
posted by girlmightlive on Oct 8, 2012 - 37 answers

Alone after an obsessive relationship, having trouble making friends in a sea of the elderly...

How do I make friends in an unfriendly place for young folks (18-20), and how can I make him believe that I've made changes to myself? [more inside]
posted by orchidgenes on Oct 6, 2012 - 13 answers

A little something to make me sweeter.

My social relationships start out as acquaintance with classmates, coworkers, and roommates. Then they progress to casual friendships, in which I hang out in bars and do small favors (help carry stuff, give rides). Then they stagnate or die. I have little in the way of family, so "chosen family" is an ideal that appeals to me a lot. Sadly, I have no one like that and things aren't moving in that direction at all. [more inside]
posted by Nomyte on Jun 24, 2012 - 42 answers

True friendship sometimes means letting go

Tell me about situations where you've reluctantly cut off contact with a close friend, family member, or confidant -- especially those in which the relationship was good to you but you felt that letting go was the best move for *their* sake. [more inside]
posted by renovatio1 on May 27, 2012 - 9 answers

Old feuds, new friends, ultimatums and a sticky social situation. How do I navigate this stupid fight that precedes me?

Old feuds, new friends, ultimatums and a sticky social situation. How do I navigate this stupid fight that precedes me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 21, 2012 - 24 answers

Make friends, get benefits

What types of friends come with unique benefits? [more inside]
posted by stravinsky on Apr 10, 2012 - 59 answers

Birthday blues - am I being unreasonable?

Birthday blues - issues with a specific friend. Am I being unreasonable? [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude on Apr 3, 2012 - 37 answers

don't call me (for a while), I'll call you (eventually)

What are some socially acceptable ways to "drop out" socially for 6 months or so? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 6, 2012 - 12 answers

Connect the dots (or, people..)

How do you connect with people? How do you reach out to someone you're interested in getting to know better to let them know you're interested in them as a person (with or without romantic potential). I suffer from a bit of social anxiety and shyness so I tend to feel extremely awkward in approaching opportunities for one-on-one interaction. [more inside]
posted by myShanon on Jan 9, 2012 - 19 answers

Should I be mad at my roommate because she disturbed my sleep?

Do I have a right to be bothered by my roommate watching TV in our living room? [more inside]
posted by sunrisecoffee on Jan 7, 2012 - 30 answers

Typical mid-20's crap.

I feel unbelievably shitty after a close friend hurt my feelings. I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 27, 2011 - 35 answers

I have no idea how to summarize this.

Help me interpret my situation and figure out the practical implications of the social advice/philosophies that my friends have been giving me about it. (Warning: a super long and arguably dramatic story awaits you.) [more inside]
posted by Conspire on Nov 4, 2011 - 38 answers

This really won't let me go. Please be my internet friends and counsel me.

How do you deal with a bad social experience that cannot leave you alone for years? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 1, 2011 - 57 answers

My friend vs. the guy I am seeing

I screwed up, and realized too late that my friend is in love with the guy I am seeing. We're not serious. Should I stop seeing him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 7, 2011 - 45 answers

How to let down someone who has a crush on me?

She has a crush on me. I don't feel the same way about her. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 19, 2011 - 19 answers

Is it okay to surprise my best friend at the airport?

Would it be inappropriate to surprise your best friend at the airport who has been on a long international flight? She'll be arriving alone in Abu Dhabi from Toronto this evening. We haven't seen each other in about five months. See further details below: [more inside]
posted by thatgirl1985 on Aug 26, 2011 - 19 answers

Is a chaperoned friendship worth having?

I have a friend who isn't allowed to hang out with me unless his "female friend" (explanation inside) either grants permission or is present. And that "female friend" used to be my friend. But my friend is really, really cool; how can we remain friends when there's this unusual set of requirements? [more inside]
posted by Ashen on Aug 18, 2011 - 58 answers

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How do I go about making friends? I know the theory I just never manage it in reality... [more inside]
posted by twine42 on Jul 18, 2011 - 14 answers

How do you decide what to share? Challenge: Asperger Syndrome

How do you decide what to share with others? I am a 28-year-old woman with Asperger Syndrome, and my biggest hurdle is figuring out what sorts of things are appropriate to share with others. So far in my life, I have erred too much on the side of caution, and I regret that I have missed out on great friendships just because I can't pick up on signals and I constantly feel like I'm wasting peoples' time even when they assure me I am not. I would like to get better at sharing on social media in particular, but I find myself totally paralyzed trying to decide what's worthy of sharing with others. I need help and advice on how to improve this crucial social skill. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2011 - 27 answers

Do your "close" friends consistently do things that are rude, or do I just have friends that are too close?

Do your "close" friends consistently do things that are rude, or do I just have friends that are too close? [more inside]
posted by only4u on Jun 22, 2011 - 92 answers

Tough decision: life abroad vs. staying at home

Fellow expats: Need some advice! Weighing the travel/stability/benefits of my current career choice vs. the personal costs of a transient expat lifestyle [more inside]
posted by photo guy on Jun 20, 2011 - 33 answers

Social Skills Training/Behavior Therapy in NYC?

I need to improve my social and relationship skills. Can anyone recommend a behavior therapist in NYC who does social skill training and takes Empire Blue Cross/Blue Shield? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 28, 2011 - 3 answers

Need tips for relating to fellow countrymen and making new friends!

Need tips for relating to fellow countrymen and making new friends! [more inside]
posted by heartofglass on Feb 13, 2011 - 6 answers

[whine filter] How do I deal with burnt bridges gracefully?

I'm bad at letting things that need to die die. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2011 - 21 answers

Are meaningful relationships the meaning of life?

Do most people feel the need for permanent, intense connections with other people? Am I abnormal in my need? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 5, 2010 - 40 answers

How do I move on when I broke all the break up 'rules'?

Another break up: maybe it is a special snow flake. You know how almost everyone tells you the no contact rule after a break up? Well, I didn't follow that. I need your help [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 12, 2010 - 26 answers

Why have I not heard back?

How much more effort do I put in before giving up (relationship advice)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 2, 2010 - 21 answers

Reconnecting with old friends

Lately I've been feeling like I've outgrown a bunch of my friends. I don't actually want this to happen. How do you make old friendships new again? [more inside]
posted by wonnage on Jul 17, 2010 - 13 answers

Did she take the easy way out?

Did she just take the easy way out or am I just that guy? About 8 months ago I started talking to a girl I have known for many years. She is 7 years younger than me and I never noticed her until boom she magically grew up. I always thought she was a loser ( hung around with the wrong crowd made bad choices). We began talking every so often then it turned into a daily ritual txt, fb, and phone call situation once she got rid of her BF. I slowly began to develop feelings and we started hangin out when.... [more inside]
posted by SleeveHearted on Jul 2, 2010 - 36 answers

Are close, one-on-one, opposite-sex friendships a good idea?

Are close, one-on-one, opposite-sex friendships a good idea; or is the risk of one-sided romantic feelings and other problems too great? [more inside]
posted by dogcat on May 6, 2010 - 34 answers

Bob and Carol and Ted and Alice and Lions and Tigers and Bears and Hot Tubs and Hairy Chests and Press-On Nails...

Some now-former friends have decided to jump into polyamory as a solution to a big mess of relationship crazy. I think this is a terrible, terrible idea, for reasons specific to both the couple and polyamory as a whole. But how do I discuss this with them (and others) without sliding down the slippery slope of defining what other types of relationships are "right" or "wrong"? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 26, 2010 - 50 answers

Eulogy for a friendship

Relationship Filter: How do you know, and what do you do, when a 25+ year friendship may have reached it's logical end? Novella length setup: [more inside]
posted by SecretAgentSockpuppet on Apr 20, 2010 - 32 answers

I think my fear of fake relationships might be stopping me from having real relationships - help?

Why am I so scared that people are trying to trick me/use me? Is this something you really need to be on guard against all the time or is it irrational thinking? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 6, 2010 - 23 answers

Cutting contact with an Ex from the same friendship group.

Ex-Relationship Filter: What's the best way to cut contact with an Ex, when you have got friends in common. [more inside]
posted by 92_elements on Jan 31, 2010 - 11 answers

Am I being a psycho birthday bitch?

Friendship filter. Am I being unreasonable, and if not, how do I go about talking to my friend about her hurtful behavior? (warning: long.) [more inside]
posted by egeanin on Jan 25, 2010 - 31 answers

No more...Ms. Nice Gal?

How do I become less "sweet" and more upfront about what I want? [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder on Jan 7, 2010 - 44 answers

Is this friendship worth saving?

FriendshipFilter: Should I give up on this friendship? I am female and I've been good friends with my next-door neighbor from my first year of college since then. We haven't lived in the same place since college, but we've been quite close since then. However, we've been having trouble connecting. [more inside]
posted by mrstrotsky on Jan 5, 2010 - 9 answers

How do I stop having hatecrushes?

How do I stop having hatecrushes? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 18, 2009 - 31 answers

Men: "Nice shoes!" (trans: let's fuck!) Women: "Nice shoes!" (trans: let's be friends!)

Previously dated men, now wants to date women. Problem: I can't tell when women are interested in me or if they just want to be friends. [more inside]
posted by Eleutherios on Oct 13, 2009 - 17 answers

Should I amend my personality to make more friends or, "be me" and have fewer friends?

Should I amend my personality to make more friends, or "be me" and have fewer friends? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 12, 2009 - 39 answers

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