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Are non-committal friends the new normal?

It is sometimes a herculean struggle to get people in my friend group to commit to events. Often 50% to 75% will cancel the day of the event, just hours before. None of them have kids, serious relationships, or crazy work schedules. Is it me? Could I organize things differently? Or is this the new normal? [more inside]
posted by AFABulous on Oct 22, 2016 - 53 answers

Can I leave a good job because I don't have any friends?

I moved to the UK with my family a few years ago for work. I like my job a lot, we have access to good schools, we don't pay rent, and the quality of life is generally good. The problem is that, after 3 years, I have no friends. I've invited people over, invited people out, gone to everything I have been invited to myself, and it just hasn't worked out with... anyone. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2016 - 13 answers

Coping with being friend-dumped in the age of social media :(

This question contains ongoing millennial grief about being friend-dumped in the age of social media! It's been over a year, I made it so I can't see her Facebook anymore which is great and everything was going perfectly, and I was totally over it. But now she's popped up on my Instagram feed, and it's making me upset all over again. I need some healthy mechanisms to deal with this! Please help! Lots of special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by spicytunaroll on Oct 12, 2016 - 9 answers

Turning Friends into Best Friends

How do I get a best friend? I'm well-liked in a few circles, and I have lots of friendly acquaintances and a good number of friends. But I don't have that one friend you hang out with several times a week, share clothes with, constantly text with, closer than a romantic partner bff. How do I turn a good friend into a bff? [more inside]
posted by sleepy psychonaut on Sep 28, 2016 - 24 answers

Push it to MAXIMUM BABY!!!

Question about babies, feelings, and friendships! [more inside]
posted by sprezzy on Sep 28, 2016 - 12 answers

How do I connect with people, myself/find people to connect with?

For a long time I haven't really been close with anyone. I don't really have anyone I would consider a close friend even though there are probably people who would consider me their close friend. I feel like I can't find people who I can relate to or feel comfortable with. Most of the people I hang out with are by default; they are old friends who I fell out of touch with but then moved in with recently so I often hang out with them and their friends. I try to make it work, but inside I just don't feel the connection or desire to be truly close. They are all extremely into music and the arts. I used to be more like this but feel like I'm desiring a different lifestyle. (Though I still appreciate music and arts and do enjoy some of the company) [more inside]
posted by oracleia on Sep 25, 2016 - 5 answers

Do I, should I, talk to my friend about the way she discusses money?

A good friend has alienated me and several other close friends due to her compulsion to tell us how much she spends on things. She's quite wealthy but seems to have forgotten that not everyone has her kind of money to spend on luxury items. Should I talk to her about it? Or is this an issue of insecurity I need to keep working on within myself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 20, 2016 - 21 answers

How can we make our wedding a communal event?

The best weddings (to me/us) seem to be the ones where the couple's tribe is invited to participate in some way. We'd love ideas for how to make this happen. [more inside]
posted by brynna on Aug 24, 2016 - 31 answers

I need to break up with a friend. How? What to say (or not say)?

I'm reluctantly coming to the realization that I feel uncomfortable with a longterm friendship. Due to how frequently we spend time together, I don't feel slow-fading is an option (although I'm happy to be proven wrong). How do I approach this? Should I state my reasons for wanting to end the friendship? Is it even reasonable or kind to do so? [more inside]
posted by Sudo on Aug 23, 2016 - 26 answers

What to do about insecure friend

My friend thinks several of our mutual friends hate her. This is not true, but she is convinced that it is. She has taken to lashing out at me if I spend time with any of these people without her. [more inside]
posted by crunchy_cereals on Aug 22, 2016 - 32 answers

Retirement Lifestyle Question--need more structure

My husband and I retired and moved to a resort town and immediately met great friends who are very active athletically and we are constantly being invited to do beautiful hikes and wonderful social things with them. I have actually become very fit and have benefited by all the social activity. (I am an introvert). So my question is how to balance all the social/hiking with my need for down time/alone time/homemaking time. I need more homemaking time but don't want to cut off the hiking invitations. Having my husband around more had given me even less alone time so I am feeling like I need more structure to my weeks. [more inside]
posted by seekingsimplicity on Aug 7, 2016 - 13 answers

How to Talk to Strangers?

I’m terrible at striking up conversation with people that I don’t know. Some of this is my thought patterns and attitudes, some of it is my anxiety, but I’m realizing more and more that I just never quite learned how to properly do it. [more inside]
posted by gregoryg on Jul 31, 2016 - 14 answers

Me vs. My husband's family

I just had a big blow up with my husband's "mother" and while he's taken my side, the more I think about it, the more it seems his story doesn't hold up, and I feel he kind of provoked the argument, but maybe not on purpose. Looking back, this seems to be a pattern. [more inside]
posted by serenity_now on Jul 30, 2016 - 55 answers

“Good” friends reopening old wounds

How do you deal with people you consider to be close, good friends hurting you? *Trigger warning* Rape [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2016 - 20 answers

My friend is asking me for money

My friend has hit hard times and has asked me for money, which she isn't able to pay back. I want to help but I don't want to just keep paying out. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by intensitymultiply on Jul 15, 2016 - 32 answers

can it be over now

How did it take you to fully recover from a significant betrayal by someone(s) you trusted? [more inside]
posted by a strong female character on Jul 13, 2016 - 61 answers

Surrounded by people but feel alone

I'm married, mother of one, good job, lots of acquaintances. Why do I feel so lonely? [more inside]
posted by shock muppet on Jul 10, 2016 - 15 answers

Help me be brave

I've got a friend that I do almost everything with. I have realized I'm very attracted to him. Help me be brave and ask him out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 5, 2016 - 44 answers

What have I done to my neighbors and how can I fix it?

I accidentally created an uncomfortable living space for people I care about. I don't know how to mitigate this like a grown up; I suspect I've been using junior high level tactics. [more inside]
posted by The Noble Goofy Elk on Jul 4, 2016 - 22 answers

How do you "be there" for someone that pushes people away?

A friend of mine is pushing people away that he doesn't see on a regular basis. How do i let him know i'm around and i care? [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue on Jun 21, 2016 - 12 answers

Telling your friends you bought a property

Is it generally wise to tell anyone such as your friends that you have bought a house? It is specifically for an investment to rent out to tenants. Or is it generally not a good idea? Or it doesn't matter?
posted by four_suyu on Jun 19, 2016 - 36 answers

How to cut out the pretension and make new friends.

I'm currently 26. Mentally capable, polite, reserved, and forthright. And most everyone bugs the fuck out of me. I'd like to not experience that! [more inside]
posted by Philipschall on Jun 12, 2016 - 81 answers

Confidence issues & Making friends

As long as I can remember, I've always felt unlikeable, insecure and lonely. Even as young as 8 years old and in my home country, I remember feeling like I wasn’t fitting in, peers didn't like me or didn't think I was cool, and constantly feeling hurt by others' words and actions. [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen on Jun 2, 2016 - 12 answers

Friends want to break their lease on my house. What do I say?

Friends rented my house with the intent to purchase. They bought a different house, and let me know they'd be moving out early. I did my utmost to close the sale with a different purchaser, as close to their move out date as possible. At the last second, the buyer bailed. My friends are moved out, with 2 mos left on their lease. I feel like a jerk charging them rent if they're not in it, but I can't afford not to. What do I say to them? To myself? [more inside]
posted by iiniisfree on May 30, 2016 - 24 answers

Being my...self? Or, hanging a wet blanket out to dry.

After years of isolation and with no clear sense of self, how do I start and maintain real, substantive relationships, both romantic and platonic? I've tried Meetups, wine and art nights, etc. Help me avoid becoming a hermit. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 on May 16, 2016 - 23 answers

Bar/Restaurant Alternatives for Changing Lifestyles?

We're segueing out of our hard-livin' days, and are finding it difficult to think of ways to be out and about, around other people, that don't involve drinking or eating. Where do you go to get your socializing fix? [more inside]
posted by stellaluna on May 10, 2016 - 20 answers

Late-twenties guy with no friends?

I'm a late-twenties guy with no friends. I feel like I need to get out of this situation somehow. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2016 - 37 answers

How do I fix my life?

I am about to graduate college with a business degree, a mediocre gpa, and very little experience. I have not made a single friend in college or been in a relationship. I lived with my parents for the whole entire time in college and they expect me to be married before leaving the house. I tend to succumb to extreme laziness and procrastination. I can spend 8 hours daily on the internet instead of doing homework. This procrastination has seeped into my job search. Am I ever going to be prepared for life? [more inside]
posted by sheepishchiffon on Apr 26, 2016 - 15 answers

Moving to England with kids - yay or nay?

An old friend has asked my advice on moving to the UK from Denmark. I really struggle with what to tell her. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by kariebookish on Apr 18, 2016 - 19 answers

How do I stop hating socializing?

How do I stop hating socializing? [more inside]
posted by Sockpuppets 'R' Us on Apr 16, 2016 - 20 answers

Making New Friends - How can I be so bad at this?

I moved to a new city (NYC) within the past 2 years and I am feeling a little lonely. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 2, 2016 - 21 answers

How best to support my friend?

A friend of my close friend took his own life a couple of nights ago. My friend is pretty wrecked. What's the best way for me to support him? [more inside]
posted by holborne on Mar 9, 2016 - 19 answers

How to be friends when you wanted more

I have a lot of female friends, but no guy friends. So it's already a little harder for me to navigate this. I have a few questions: 1. Is it normal behavior for a guy to text everyday and only go on one-on-one hangouts with a girl? 2. Is it even possible to be friends with someone you have some sort of feelings for? 3. Do I tell him I feel confused? [more inside]
posted by flowy on Mar 5, 2016 - 15 answers

Step by step self-reliance

The past year I've been in a stressful situation and now I found that I may have been overly reliant on a friend for advice/help. Lately I realized this a imbalanced relationship and I'm looking for steps set boundaries and prevent this in the future. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit on Mar 2, 2016 - 4 answers

Rachel's Dress

Can you help me find a grey maxi (and probably jersey fabric) dress similar to the one Rachel wears in the Friend's episode The One With The Yeti? [more inside]
posted by driedmango on Feb 21, 2016 - 8 answers

Nice person, nasty friends

When I lived in City I wanted to be friends with the members of Group. I tried but I find making friends really hard so I ran into troubles - got bullied by one and the others were indifferent to me, except for one who was my friend. I have lived abroad for the last few years and not really kept in touch (except for Facebook with a couple of them) . Now I am looking at jobs near to City... [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat on Feb 15, 2016 - 10 answers

How do I find out how this person feels about me?

I am confused about how someone is feeling towards me, and don't know how to get out of this ambiguous situation, but desperately need to. Please help. [more inside]
posted by muppets on Feb 12, 2016 - 25 answers

Hi, nice to meet you

Are there any really good social networking apps for making new friends? [more inside]
posted by Dansaman on Feb 2, 2016 - 10 answers

Balancing a relationship and making friends?

Many of my friends have moved away and several 'groups' that I belonged to have now dispersed. How do I stop feeling like a loser and comparing myself to my boyfriend who has more groups of friends, and build my friendship group into something more cohesive? Plus - I have a number of closer, individual friends who have always been my priority over joining groups where this has been the opportunity. Do I need to just find the right group and make a concerted effort to join them? That feels a little strange at 31! [more inside]
posted by starstarstar on Jan 15, 2016 - 7 answers

Embarrassed of my life.

I experience moments of defeat. Where's my courage? [more inside]
posted by morning_television on Jan 12, 2016 - 16 answers

Help me understand socialization at work.

I've started a new job that I really like within the last few months, and I really really want to do well there. I've had problems making friends at work in the past, and I want to avoid social weirdness if at all possible in this new job. I'm not super great at social rules and understanding "culture." How do I find these things out? What are the universal rules of socializing at work, if any? [more inside]
posted by woodvine on Jan 9, 2016 - 21 answers

They're singin' Deck The Halls, but it's not like Christmas at all...

The ex and I have started hanging out frequently again after a several month period of no contact and a couple of other dates/relationships with others under our belts while maintaining a loose friendship, and I want a second chance at our relationship. What's the healthiest way to proceed without screwing this up? [more inside]
posted by Malleable on Dec 22, 2015 - 15 answers

Deciding whether to resume contact with an estranged friend

My childhood best friend decided to marry her partner of 20 years five weeks after my former partner committed suicide. I attended the reception but it was very hard for me. I haven’t spoken to her since. Today I got a Christmas card from her mother, and it stirred up some feelings I haven't been able to reconcile yet. [more inside]
posted by cardinality on Dec 19, 2015 - 28 answers

What to do when someone at work asks you out

And you like the person but you're seeing someone [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Dec 8, 2015 - 21 answers

Negotiating money with neighbors...

I recently transitioned from classroom teaching to working at home - I miss kiddo time. I offered to babysit the neighbor's kids and now I'm running into a small issue. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 30, 2015 - 8 answers

Taking a break from dating when you're lonely and have no friends.

I want to take a long break from dating to get to know myself better. The thing is, I don't have any in person friends and am very lonely. I mostly just hang out with my Mom. How do I keep myself from dating again just to fill the loneliness? [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Nov 26, 2015 - 17 answers

I find this person utterly charming... why?

I've been listening to the code newbie podcast recently, and really enjoying it. The most recent podcast interviewee I find very likable - Can anyone help me identify what it might be about her that is so like-able? (Or maybe it's just me?) [more inside]
posted by jrobin276 on Nov 18, 2015 - 2 answers

Making friends when you're 30

I am a single dad currently functioning as a transplant in a new city. I've been here a year, but haven't had much luck in meeting people. ❅ ❄ ❆ inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2015 - 12 answers

How to friend as an adult?

What is the best way to handle friendships ending? [more inside]
posted by dearwassily on Nov 12, 2015 - 17 answers

How to act when people talk over you?

I have recently had to share accommodation with a number of acquantancies that have known each for many years. I am pretty new but have decent 1-1 freindships with couple of them. The whole group often excluded me from conversations and talked over me. How to react? [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on Nov 7, 2015 - 19 answers

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