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Relationship bridge with older siblings

I've always felt like the odd (wo)man out when it comes to my siblings. Past attempts to address this have not gone over well. We're all regionally co-located again and I'm upset by missing out on another meet up that I would have gleefully attended if invited. What can I do to change this situation? [more inside]
posted by toomanycurls on Nov 6, 2016 - 19 answers

Me vs. My husband's family

I just had a big blow up with my husband's "mother" and while he's taken my side, the more I think about it, the more it seems his story doesn't hold up, and I feel he kind of provoked the argument, but maybe not on purpose. Looking back, this seems to be a pattern. [more inside]
posted by serenity_now on Jul 30, 2016 - 55 answers

Major Relationship Issue- How to Control My Resentment?

I'm currently harboring a lot of resentment towards my girlfriend. Her brother is a molester and she's unsure of what to do about it, and she has cancelled our wedding due to being unsure and afraid of losing the rest of her family. I have no idea what to do or where to turn, how can I stop feeling resentful? [more inside]
posted by Firestorm 2018 on May 7, 2016 - 45 answers

Need advice on helping my wife cope with her best friend moving away

My wife just learned her best friend is moving to a different city and is now very sad. How can I help? [more inside]
posted by glenngulia on May 5, 2016 - 7 answers

Leaving 1 year old for a week with grandparents, good or bad idea?

Our daughter will turn 1 in August, and we have been invited to a friend's wedding in Italy (we are in the US), so we would need about 7-9 days. We normally take her with us on travels, but it's too much of a long travel flight time for her as she hasn't been on a plane yet, so bringing her is out of the question. We did want to go on a vacation just us two after her 1 year so it kind of works out perfectly. But, I'm afraid now that the time is come that she is too young, and that it will be too hard on her (and me), and I feel a tiny bit guilty leaving her. We could really use a vacation to relax and reconnect. My mother (her grandmother) is her caretaker during the week because we both work full time, so they are very comfortable with one another and I trust her completely. Has anyone traveled that long without your baby, how did it turn out?
posted by MamaBee223 on Apr 26, 2016 - 27 answers

Help me get along with my bf's perfectly decent family

I (F, early 30s) have been together with my bf (mid 30s) for 2 years and have spent many a weekend together with his family. They are always really nice and welcoming to me and yet I still don't feel comfortable around them because of: difference in family background (his family is extremely close-knit and generally happy, mine is a painful emotional mess), my own tendency to feel like an outsider, my not really liking who he is when around his family, and my not-entirely-baseless insecurity about him always choosing his family over me (more explanation about the last two inside). My questions: 1. How can I learn to be more comfortable around his family? I am interested mainly in advice on how I can manage my insecurity about him always choosing his family over me. 2. Is there any point of doing (1) at all or are we just incompatible? [more inside]
posted by thecampushippo on Feb 28, 2016 - 24 answers

Should I intervene in my brother's relationship? How?

My brother is behaving in ways that I consider emotionally abusive towards his long-term partner. She's on the cusp of moving across the country to be with him under questionable circumstances. I'm very alarmed by the patterns I'm picking up. What on Earth do I do, if anything? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 16, 2016 - 17 answers

How to deal with a family who disproves of the partner that you love?

I've seen questions like mine all over the internet. I've scoured the internet for endless hours in search of effective coping strategies, but every situation is unique. I'm hoping to find some valuable information for my own situation, which I fear may crumble if I do. [more inside]
posted by soochala on Apr 28, 2015 - 43 answers

Cross-cultural relationship, family problems

We are planning a future together... If only my family would accept him in spite of his race and religion. Snowflakes entail. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 17, 2015 - 20 answers

on a self-perpetuating downward spiral

I am having somewhat of a huge existential crisis at the moment after just exiting a 5-year serious long-term romantic relationship, one that I was hoping would be permanent and committed. I am having trouble coming to terms with the setup of my life and the course it is taking. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 2, 2015 - 15 answers

Need a good lawyer in Victoria or Vancouver, British Columbia

A friend in Victoria is trying to extricate herself from an emotionally abusive relationship. She has been living with this man for ten years and they own a house jointly. [more inside]
posted by Johnny Wallflower on Nov 30, 2014 - 4 answers

Plan to move to across the country for love. How do I tell my parents?

Since having a manic episode about a year and a half ago, my parents started treating me like I was a minor again (I'm almost 30 now). How do I most respectfully tell them that I'm am going to move without turning it into "I'M NOT ASKING FOR PERMISSION, DAMMIT: I'M MOVING AND YOU CAN'T STOP ME"? Thanks, mefites. [more inside]
posted by defmute on Sep 25, 2014 - 33 answers

Love him, leave him?

Please help me sort out my long-term thinking about my very good but maybe not perfect relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 15, 2014 - 23 answers

GSOH is killing my love life.

My stepson revealed the greatest stressors in his life is my self-deprecating sense of humor. What can I say? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 10, 2014 - 53 answers

how to cope with an omnipresent ex-girlfriend?

my SO's ex-girlfriend is pretty much always around. i thought i was cool with it, and philosophically, i want to be cool with it... but it's seriously starting to grate on my nerves. how to deal? [more inside]
posted by humiliated_grape on Oct 22, 2013 - 26 answers

Forget it, doc, I think it's really cool that you're concerned...

I've recently experienced a significant family loss. I also need to leave my long-term partner. How does this go exactly? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 31, 2013 - 14 answers

What to do when girlfriend and brother don't get along?

I'm having trouble getting everyone to get along. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2013 - 18 answers

Supporting a partner in an ongoing, arguably abusive relationship

Looking for resources for supporting a partner (and my own mental health) in an ongoing, possibly abusive relationship with a family member. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 26, 2013 - 8 answers

How to cut ties with an emotionally abusive father?

My relationship with my emotionally abusive, BPD father has been strained lately; now, after realizing the extent to which his actions was causing me undue stress, I have cut off contact with him completely. But not having a father figure in my life is causing me stress as well. How do I deal with the pain of cutting my father out of my life? [more inside]
posted by Kamelot123 on Nov 5, 2012 - 12 answers

How do I communicate better with my dad?

I need some advice on how to communicate better with my dad and hopefully improve our relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 15, 2012 - 11 answers

If you had a chance to talk to your long lost father after 30 years what would you ask/ or say?

If you had a chance to talk to your long lost father after 30 years what would you ask/ or say? [more inside]
posted by brinkzilla on Feb 27, 2012 - 21 answers

If kids play well together, mom will have more free time. Is this too much to ask?

Three young kids fighting for mom's attention and fight among themselves. Busy mom wants tips on how to let them play better together and be more considerate of mom's overwhelming work to do to run the household. [more inside]
posted by akomom on Dec 23, 2011 - 19 answers

Help me figure out the reason for my boyfriend's lack of effort?

My boyfriend is not putting effort into our relationship to the same degree I am? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Oct 16, 2011 - 21 answers

Dealing with others' control issues. What can you do?

Metaintervention: My Mom tries to control everything at the cost of her health and personal relationships. Resistant to therapy. How can I persuade her to see things in a different, more reasonable light? [more inside]
posted by aca.int on Sep 1, 2011 - 14 answers

how do i solve this convoluted problem?

physical health & mental health, 'secret' boyfriend, and my family... what do i do? [more inside]
posted by zazie on Aug 25, 2011 - 41 answers

How can I make this trip with my family easier for me?

I will be spending a week on a small boat with my dysfunctional family. How can I prepare myself so that this is a tolerable, or even pleasant, experience? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 6, 2011 - 32 answers

How to balance family and boyfriend?

I don't know what to do about my relationship with my parents anymore. Or whom to spend spring break with - this is a weightier issue than it seems. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 19, 2011 - 50 answers

Still My Brother's Keeper

In less than 5 hours, my teenage brother is coming to live with me. Possibly for the long haul. Neither of us are cool with this. Please help me sort out this ridiculous family situation [more inside]
posted by calcetina on Jan 21, 2011 - 73 answers

Reality check, please!

Mother in law invited herself on vacation, I'm not happy. Am I being unreasonable? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 14, 2010 - 34 answers

How do I rebuild trust and relationships with my family?

How can I rebuild my relationship with my SO and my parents when someone seems set to undermine it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 10, 2010 - 6 answers

Carry-on baggage

Relationship issues involving long-distance and extended vacations. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 5, 2010 - 10 answers

what have I done wrong?

How to get the dropout back to college? How to repair relationships broken over the dropout? What is more important for a parent: to see that your son finished college or to have relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous111 on Jun 27, 2010 - 36 answers

[relationship filter] How do I get my girlfriend to believe me when I say that I don't hate her family?

[relationship filter] How do I get my girlfriend to believe me when I say that I don't hate her family? [more inside]
posted by DrDreidel on Feb 5, 2010 - 26 answers

What can I find solace in?

I'm a non-religious male currently going through a really rough patch. I have no family or friends I can depend on. Is there something to lean on for comfort during this hard time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 30, 2009 - 42 answers

To Leave or Not to Leave My Life Behind?

To Leave or Not to Leave My Life Behind? [more inside]
posted by simpleton on Oct 5, 2009 - 18 answers

How do I re-start/maintain a relationship with my father while my mother is cheating on him and he doesn't know?

How do I re-start/maintain a relationship with my father while my mother is cheating on him and he doesn't know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 23, 2009 - 14 answers

I saw mommy kissing an alcoholic neanderthal...

I am deeply concerned for my mother, and hate her boyfriend. [more inside]
posted by kaseijin on Jul 17, 2009 - 27 answers

Am I doomed to be a doormat forever?

Are relationships a zero sum game? Is there such a thing as a happy compromise? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 17, 2009 - 28 answers

We both want to live close to our families, except they live 1,200 miles apart.

We both want to live close to our families, except they live 1,200 miles apart. [more inside]
posted by lolalivia on May 27, 2009 - 14 answers

How to deal when others refuse to acknowledge your marriage.

Over the summer, I got married. For the most part, this is totally awesome. Due to circumstances beyond our control, though, we got married by eloping to Canada, and for many people, this seems to make our marriage less than real. I'm having a hard time dealing with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 9, 2009 - 32 answers

My in-laws HATE me and I KNOW I did NOTHING wrong! Please help!!!!

How does a girl find middle ground with pseudo-in laws that, out of nowhere, stopped liking and talking to her? [more inside]
posted by penguingrl on Feb 4, 2009 - 34 answers

At what point do you disown your family?

My father told me the other night that he considers himself a "failure" because of how I've turned out. This, among other things, makes me not want to go home for Christmas break and makes me wonder if our relationship should continue at all. Am I blowing this out of proportion? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2008 - 56 answers

MYOB

I need some coping mechanisms for dealing with my boyfriend's meddling family. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2008 - 7 answers

The new guy at the table

How do I make my new-ish boyfriend feel at home with my family Thanksgiving weekend? [more inside]
posted by roomthreeseventeen on Nov 10, 2008 - 13 answers

Want to move, feeling trapped

Help, need relationship/life advice... I'm staying at home for the time being to help out my family instead of jetting off to another city to be with my boyfriend. Target move date is in January but we're both getting insanely antsy and we have the same conversation every day about me just going there NAO. My question is about what I should do, cause I really have no idea. Stupid details follow. [more inside]
posted by amethysts on Oct 12, 2008 - 18 answers

When I was young me and my mama had beef

How do I let go of the past? [more inside]
posted by prefpara on Aug 16, 2008 - 23 answers

Works About The Relationship Between Fathers and Sons?

I'm the first-time father of a one-year old boy. Having recently finished "The Road" and "The Prince of Frogtown" and enjoyed the movie "The Kite Runner", I'm looking for suggestions of other books (or movies or songs) that are about the relationship between fathers and sons. [more inside]
posted by Jaybo on Aug 4, 2008 - 32 answers

I want us to get along

I want to have a normal sibling relationship with my youngest sister. How can I begin to do this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 29, 2008 - 30 answers

What do you call your significant other's family members?

What do you call your significant other's family members? [more inside]
posted by fermezporte on Feb 18, 2008 - 37 answers

Worry about tomorrow today, or tomorrow?

Relationshipfilter: I'm agnostic. She's Christian. We've been dating for four months. We fit eachother well and are very happy together, but of course clash over our deeply-held ideologies. Should we worry about the ideological clashes now, or be happy with eachother now and worry about how to raise the kids if/when we have kids? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 20, 2007 - 76 answers

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