How to balance saving, paying off debt, improving living situation, having a baby, getting spouse more involved in finances, better managing retirement accounts, and a partridge in a pear tree.
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posted by wannabecounselor
on Jun 4, 2013 -
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I lent my cousin a very special item. Now they won't give it back. Do I fight or retreat?
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posted by mumimor
on May 31, 2013 -
40 answers
How to anonymously send my Grandmother money? I love my Grandmother to pieces. She's one of my favorite people. She's the most charismatic woman I've ever known.. she just has a way with people. I watch her engage others in awe; she can disarm an utterly rigid stranger in a few seconds by simply bestowing her beautiful aura upon them. Pathetically, people have taken advantage of her throughout her entire life. I won't go into details because it's irrelevant, but her story is a sad one.
Anyway I'm an adult now and I'm making a good living. I want to help her out without her knowing it's me, and for the rest of her life. She would never accept financial assistance from me so I have to be stealthy.
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posted by OneHermit
on Feb 23, 2013 -
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My 'rents want to support me. I don't really feel like I need their support anymore. Am I being silly by not considering their offer of money?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 20, 2012 -
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A little more than a month ago, I started a full-time telecommuting job that I thought was my dream job. When I took it, I was working part-time (and had been since my son was born two years ago). This is my first full-time job since becoming a mom. I now think I made a big mistake.
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posted by trillian
on Aug 14, 2012 -
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Can you shed some light on this situation with my mom and her hints about her financial situation?
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posted by anonymous
on May 7, 2012 -
33 answers
How do I become comfortable with how my father chooses to be involved in my life (minimally, not of his own initiative) as an adult? What are the limits between healthy and compassionate effort on my part and a realistic acknowledgment of both of our limitations?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 24, 2012 -
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What's the legal liability ramifications of owning half a house? (I already have a lawyer. I wanted a second/English opinion.)
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 28, 2011 -
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How do i preserve my relationship with my mother while still making decisions she doesn't approve of?
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posted by becomingly
on Apr 26, 2011 -
33 answers
How do I ask for money from people who care about me in a way that makes it easy for them to refuse?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 31, 2011 -
8 answers
Are you an adult who is financially supported by your parents’ money? How do you deal with that?
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posted by meta_asker
on Dec 10, 2010 -
63 answers
When you "win" an argument with your spouse, it's not really winning, or is it?
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posted by abdulf
on Sep 17, 2010 -
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YNMA, obviously...
wife and I overestimated our dependent care expenses this year...by a lot. I have to come up with valid expenses, for the remainder of 2010, that we can occur to cover 3K remaining in our account. Any ideas? We did the camp thing this summer, but ended up not signing up for a few of them from our original budget. Our son is in kindergarten at a private school, so we're past the time we can pay for tuition out of this account. PLEASE HELP!!!! Thanks mefite nation!!!
posted by littleredwagon
on Aug 30, 2010 -
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Old Tax Mystery: I found some folders of taxes done in 1994,1995, and 1996. i was 16 in 1994. These folders contain statements for some custodial accounts, some of them for very large sums.
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posted by sio42
on Aug 16, 2010 -
32 answers
My uncle has cancer...allegedly, and our family members are rallying together to help him. How can I give without feeling like a sucker?
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posted by stedman15
on Jul 19, 2010 -
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My mother has always been emotionally abusive and unable to support me in any way, but after what I found out today I feel like never speaking to her again. Has my family gone too far this time? I really feel lost on this one and would love any and all advice, including legal advice. This is going to be quite long...
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posted by delicate_dahlias
on Apr 10, 2010 -
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I'm closing the family bank/charity. What do I say when the next sibling asks for a "loan"?
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posted by sfkiddo
on Dec 26, 2009 -
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My family decided in November on not buying Christmas gifts this year as we are all adults and have what we need anyway. I get paid once a month and right now am living cheque to cheque. So I spent the money I had saved up on extra credit payments. Now they've changed their minds and all want gifts. I have 25 dollars to last me til the 30th. How do I get through this holiday without being as bitter as I am now? And not feel like a loser for no one having a gift?
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posted by beautifulcheese
on Dec 12, 2009 -
27 answers
As a follow-up to
this question I asked last week...
What *practical* things have you done as a loved one of friends or family that were struggling financially or were stuck in a cycle of poverty. Have you loaned money? Paid bills? Helped them write a budget? Let them move in? Bought them groceries? Filled up their gas tank? There must be other things I'm not thinking about.
What advice would you give to a parent whose adult child was floundering?
posted by jeffreyclong
on Oct 22, 2009 -
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In twenty-five years i'll be retiring with my minimal social security benefits and medicare to keep me briefly going. I've got no savings right now, but I'm almost done paying my debts. I rent.
I want somewhere tiny, a bungalow with a kitchen, perhaps a tiny garden, stonking bandwidth, maybe near a lake, maybe near a wood, but really not so much. I just want to whittle sticks, greet neighbours, not climb stairs, and hack on code. I don't mind renting again until i die.
Where should I move in the US, and when?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 22, 2009 -
6 answers
Money and family. It gets sticky. Moving towards financial independence, and wondering how other people deal with money and their families. What's the rub?
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posted by Rocket26
on Aug 16, 2009 -
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An appeal to very patient people: Please help us plan our financial/academic future!
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posted by Tarumba
on Jul 7, 2009 -
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How can my 18-year-old sister make enough money to move out on her own when she has no car or license, no job experience, and unsupportive parents?
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posted by logic vs love
on Apr 27, 2009 -
34 answers
How to write a brief email to a disrespectful parent who stole money to try to get it back?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 20, 2009 -
18 answers
What can/should we do to help my father-in-law? He's mismanaged his money, he's unemployed and he's in danger of losing everything.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 12, 2009 -
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I received a check for $3,000 from my mother who I have not spoken to for nearly seven years. Should I cash the check?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 29, 2008 -
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A family member loaned me money a few years ago. I would like to pay it back with interest. How much interest should I pay it back with?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 17, 2008 -
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I have a business idea. For the last 8 month I have day-dreamed about making it happen. I find myself ironing out all the details that would make the business run, but I lack the funding and experience of running a business. There are also personal issues that I keep me from moving on to the next step (not that I know what the next step is). Come on in for the rest…
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 15, 2008 -
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How do I tell my husband about being representative payee for my sister's SSI payments? We've helped her before, and they don't get along.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 30, 2008 -
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Debt collectors are calling about a bill from 6-7 years ago. The bill actually belongs to my father whom I have redirected their inquiries. They keep calling and the billing information they gave to me is my fathers old address but for some reason they have my social security number attached to the bill.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 28, 2008 -
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My uncle recently sent me some money through my sister. And just as she always has done, she's frittered it away and I'll never see a cent of it. I don't really care because I'm used to it, and I don't care for the money either. But how can I warn my uncle without giving off a "Give me more money" message?
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posted by Xere
on Aug 20, 2007 -
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How can I help my dad who has begun to lose all hope?
My father has gone through a string of major life setbacks lately. I'm
worried about his health, his mental state, and his future. And I'm
wondering how best to help him turn things around.
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posted by anonymous
on May 23, 2007 -
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FinancialFilter: I am going to help out a family member pay off some credit card debt (over the IRS 10K gift limit.) What is the bet way...
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posted by cowmix
on Jul 22, 2005 -
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I'm moving into an apartment with my two brothers in about a week. The younger one has had major issues over the past year finding a job and paying rent. What can I do to help him?
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posted by bibbit
on May 23, 2005 -
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