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Unexpected TEENAGE guest for the holidays?

Both my niece (16 yrs old) and her father (my brother - 37 yrs old) conveniently "forgot" to tell me that her 18 year old boyfriend would be coming to our family Christmas. They will be staying in MY house and did not ask for permission for the boyfriend to stay, nor did they ask myself or my mother (Grandma) permission for an outsider to come to the family Christmas. The kid already has a plane ticket and I honestly don't believe it's his fault - I 100% blame my brother and my niece. So, it's sort of too late - he's coming. But what do I say to them to let them know that I am FURIOUS but it's the holidays so I'll do my bloody best to be HOSPITABLE and FUN and CHEERY but that this is seriously NOT OKAY with me? [more inside]
posted by athena2255 on Dec 16, 2013 - 113 answers

Me and You and That Guy

I can't stand my sister's boyfriend. He's coming for Christmas. They're inseparable. Now what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 14, 2013 - 47 answers

How to support a relative post-bariatric surgery during the holidays?

I have a relative with some long-time food and weight issues who just underwent bariatric surgery. Making meals with her, cooking and eating out have always been kind of fraught. We'll be having a family Christmas holiday at her house and I'm worried that the heavy emphasis on food will be stressful. Any tips? [more inside]
posted by amanda on Oct 31, 2013 - 8 answers

I'm not on this diet to alienate you, I promise!

I'm on a diet that many (most) people would consider very restrictive if not downright odd. It's for health reasons, though I don't have any visible health or weight issues. I'm going to be spending several days with my boyfriend visiting his family over the holidays, and I'm dreading trying to navigate the weird food issues that will likely arise. If you are on a specific diet, how do you get around not eating various things that people are expected to eat (especially around the holidays)? [more inside]
posted by whistle pig on Oct 24, 2013 - 50 answers

How can I support my husband while he sets boundaries with his family?

How do I best support my partner when he sets boundaries with his passive-aggressive family, particularly when the boundaries are about how they've been treating me? Wall of text, with bonus holiday drama, inside! [more inside]
posted by SeedStitch on Dec 26, 2012 - 38 answers

Feeling ignored by my loved ones.

How do I deal with feeling ignored? [more inside]
posted by Rosengeist on Dec 25, 2012 - 19 answers

I'm sorry I don't feel pain the way you think I should, but...

A couple of weeks ago, I moved out of my marital home (details in my posting history). Whilst I seem to be doing okay, most people expect me to not be. In fact, they seem to expect a fragility and sadness from me that I'm not feeling even remotely. This has lead to some judgements from people that I could have done without. How can I navigate the sympathy of folks during the holiday season without having to pretend to be an emotional mess (which I'm not) and without suffering judgement from people who don't know the whole story (Which I can happily live without). [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Dec 22, 2012 - 27 answers

Thanksgiving with a side of family drama

My family's Thanksgiving has been hijacked by unwanted guests. Please help with etiquette so we're all happy. [more inside]
posted by Cloudberry Sky on Nov 11, 2012 - 74 answers

This year, I'm thankful for conflict avoidance.

My mother and I are not talking. I am thinking about skipping Thanksgiving. How do I do this without causing even more turmoil? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 25, 2012 - 32 answers

We love you, but only when we like what you're doing.

FamilyGuiltFilter: Please help me navigate my mother and her tendancies to pile on guilt. [more inside]
posted by floweredfish on Dec 15, 2011 - 45 answers

Cheap place to stay Baltimore, MD for Christmas

Super cheap place to stay around Baltimore, MD during Christmas week? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2011 - 9 answers

Please Help Me Survive Thanksgiving

Help: I need to at least seem 'okay' by Thursday. Advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 21, 2011 - 32 answers

Nobody's walking out on this fun, old-fashioned family Christmas. No, no. We're all in this together.

How can you "fake it" or "power through it" or "put on a brave face" to make the holidays as normal as possible, when other people depend on it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 3, 2011 - 26 answers

Can I have your tips about entering into the holiday season right after my dad's death?

Death, mourning, family, and holidays: How to prepare for the holidays in a post-Dad world? [more inside]
posted by NikitaNikita on Nov 10, 2009 - 13 answers

Amuse My Family in Florida around Christmas

I have family (parents and siblings, no young'ns) visiting me in South Florida around Christmas. How can I best entertain them? [more inside]
posted by Bokononist on Nov 21, 2008 - 8 answers

bah humbug

My family members decided to suddenly start celebrating Christmas this year. I feel weird about it. Help me deal with these changes. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 31, 2007 - 27 answers

How to avoid the holidays without causing a big riff in the family?

Is there a way to excuse oneself from family obligations during the holidays? A way that would minimize gossip and guilt-trips? Any successes out there? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2007 - 22 answers

What to do about the odd father out?

I want to bring alcohol for Christmas. This being AskMe, of course there is... [more inside]
posted by jammer on Nov 9, 2006 - 12 answers

What do I do about my in-laws?

Evil In-Laws Filter. Alternatively, do I need to learn to take the high road? My pseudo in-laws insist on maintaining a relationship with my boyfriend's ex-wife. This irks me to no end and I am exhausted from trying to ingratiate myself to them. Do I have to include them into my life? [more inside]
posted by Lola_G on Nov 22, 2005 - 43 answers

Interfaith Holiday

The Christmas holiday is fast approaching as we all know. My fiancee is Muslim, and we have always celebrated religious holidays separately. This year, I would like him to be a part of the family celebration. For my family it is more of a family bonding time (and become more of an American Tradition) than a religious event. If I'm correct, the celebration of Christmas is for the birth of Jesus. From what my fiancee has told me of Muslims, they believe in Jesus as a prophet, but have many differences in beliefs from Christians overall about who he was.

So would there be a debate between the two religions over the actual birth of Jesus (how he was conceived, is he the son of God....etc.) that would be conflicting for him to join us for dinner and this particular holiday itself? I want to be well informed when talking to him about it, and try to find a way to celebrate the holiday.
posted by Gooney on Dec 8, 2004 - 20 answers

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