I dated someone who harmed me. What can, or should, I do to prevent him from hurting others the same way?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 24, 2013 -
43 answers
My head is a mess after seeing my ex tonight for the first time since we broke up, kissing her, and finding out she had a thing with another girl that never went anywhere. I'm hurt but doing okay, but I'm afraid that if I don't take some kind of action I'm going to get incredibly more hurt in the near future. But what do I do now?
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posted by Pericardium
on Mar 20, 2013 -
23 answers
How do I stay in loose, friendly, honest contact with my ex (from a short relationship) to build a friendship while I still have some residual feelings for him? I know we are only friends now, and I want to respect my boundaries and also his. There's no chance we'll see each other in person for a long time, so this is all about communication and not about sex.
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posted by zettoo
on Mar 14, 2013 -
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Title says it. Passive-aggressive ex ' accidentally loses' my sons stuff on every.single.visit. Meaning I have to replace one or more of the following: toque, mitts, socks, hoodie, pullups, footwear, etc. every week and I just can't afford it. I can't send my toddler naked.
Is there anything I can do about this lame game?
posted by tenaciousmoon
on Mar 12, 2013 -
30 answers
TL;DR: The guy I'm dating non-exclusively is still sleeping with his ex. I can't decide if this is a red flag or not. For the record, I have been the one insisting we keep things open.
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posted by krakenattack
on Feb 28, 2013 -
36 answers
I'm trying to figure out the best way to understand and handle the relationship between myself and a good friend who is also my ex. Snowflakes inside.
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posted by jlibera
on Feb 4, 2013 -
20 answers
I broke up with my then-fiancée in September 2012. What is the appropriate amount of contact after a break-up? I've struggled with finding a good balance. Give me some advice for the next go-round.
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posted by mellosphere
on Jan 8, 2013 -
32 answers
What should I wear and how should I behave at a dinner, where my ex will be with his new gf?
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posted by artystar
on Dec 5, 2012 -
58 answers
Why can't I get over my ex and why is my self esteem so low? Will him and his new gf work? How do I behave around them?
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posted by artystar
on Nov 8, 2012 -
26 answers
One week after our (non-mutual) breakup, I have to work with my ex at an event. How should I carry myself?
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posted by feastorfamine
on Oct 22, 2012 -
38 answers
Should I move to San Francisco? Every reason in the world to move, and one reason not to.
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posted by blue rare
on Oct 8, 2012 -
35 answers
My ex has sneaked back into my life during a difficult time. I'm appreciative of his support but I'm nervous about backsliding emotionally. How do I set the right boundaries? Or is this just the "being friends with your ex when you're ready" thing I've read so much about here on the green?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 26, 2012 -
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I recently broke up with my boyfriend of three and a half years. In the time we were still living together but broken up I found out he was starting several relationships. Should I let these women know?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 27, 2012 -
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First time round, he got his heart broken. Five years later, we meet again. I really like him but he’s not long out of a relationship.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2012 -
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I told a girl that I still have feelings for her and now she has stopped talking to me. I feel like such a loser right now, I'm not sure what to do next.
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posted by johnx
on Aug 20, 2012 -
30 answers
I accidentally read an email from my BF to his ex GF, who is getting married on Saturday, which he closed with "I will always love you." Should I be concerned about his feelings for her?
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posted by eliseb
on Jul 27, 2012 -
80 answers
My ex-boyfriend is on a path to platonically breaking my fiance's heart similarly to the way he broke mine, possibly because of me. How can I stop this, mitigate it, or support him through it? Is there any way I can give insight from my previous relationship, or is that too weird?
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posted by corb
on Jul 26, 2012 -
26 answers
Travelling to a country where someone that I was involved with fairly recently and parted on amicable terms lives. Shall I visit him - and risk either rekindling a relationship that doesn't really have a future, or becoming even more heartbroken? Snowflakes within.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 17, 2012 -
18 answers
Are my boundaries "normal" or oversensitive, and should I apply them to this person I am soon to meet? Supersnowflakery within.
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posted by thrasher
on Jun 3, 2012 -
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I am happily married, but I'm having trouble dealing with an ex who dumped me and now regrets it. Please help me not put my marriage at risk.
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posted by anonymous
on May 12, 2012 -
38 answers
I am attending the wedding of dear friends at which I will have to see my ex-husband and his new partner—a one-time close friend of ours with whom he cheated while married to me. I am now very happily married to someone else, in a relationship far better in every way than my first marriage. Nevertheless, I absolutely dread seeing my ex-husband and my old friend, and the prospect of seeing them is something I’ve dreaded since I first learned of their, erm, relationship. At the same time, I’d REALLY like to be to defuse the emotional power this has over me, and simply enjoy the wedding and the get-together with many other old friends that comes with it. How to work through this? Any advice from people who have navigated these turbulent emotional waters successfully?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2012 -
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[WeddingDramaFilter] My fiance wants his best friend, my ex, who may still be in love with me, in the wedding party. And it gets more complex from there. Help me figure it all out!
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 20, 2012 -
36 answers
My long term relationship has ended. It was so long overdue. Even still it didn't happen the way I would have hoped. My partner raged at me for hours over who knows what. It wasn't the first time. Things turned physical and it was the ugliest scariest situation I can remember experiencing.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 26, 2012 -
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how to get over a breakup when you don't want the person back, but feel no closure? (note:very long)
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posted by teaforone
on Feb 24, 2012 -
22 answers
My ex broke up with me at the beginning of January. I want to give our relationship a second chance. Should I? How? Wall of text within.
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posted by fight or flight
on Feb 15, 2012 -
49 answers
How do I deal with an out of the blue tweet from my most significant ex (girlfriend/fiancee) without upsetting my wife, her and to some extent me.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 7, 2012 -
60 answers
Why do I still care about how my ex treated me when I don't have any feelings for him? How do I stop caring that he's getting married to his pregnant girlfriend?
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posted by biochemist
on Feb 1, 2012 -
31 answers
I think I may have been sexually assaulted in the past by my best friend in the whole world. I'm conflicted about this and I'm wondering if it's possible for us to still be friends? And if so, how?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 1, 2012 -
26 answers
Is it okay for my girlfriend to hang out with her needy ex?
Why she would hide their meetings if there's nothing to hide?
Am I rational or am I the product of being cheated on several times in the past?
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posted by dreamsofhorses
on Dec 21, 2011 -
42 answers
Recently, I said some harsh things to an ex whom until recently I had remained very good friends with. These things had been boiling inside me for months and I had to say them at this point. However, ever since I said them, she has disappeared from her online profiles (which she updated multiple times every day), I have no way of contacting her, and I'm worried. Obviously there's a lot going on, and some of it may be serious.
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posted by marriedtotacos
on Dec 18, 2011 -
33 answers
Should I tell my (potential) new boyfriend about my marriage and divorce? Or can I keep this secret like I want to?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 28, 2011 -
53 answers
Considering a restraining order against an ex, but I have a lot of questions about the logistics and just generally whether it's going to make the situation better or worse. For example, I don't think he knows where I live- so how would it even work? Many more questions inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 26, 2011 -
23 answers
