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How to notify online contacts of a death?

I need to notify someone's online contacts that they passed away. Complications below. [more inside]
posted by mordax on Dec 25, 2014 - 7 answers

Salutations from the 1950's

My mother just sent me a Christmas card addressed to "Mr. and Mrs. Joe Lastname". Help me prove to her that such a salutation is outdated and that my identity didn't get swallowed up when I got hitched. [more inside]
posted by Elly Vortex on Dec 20, 2014 - 35 answers

How do I convince someone I only want to give, not exchange, gifts?

I need help wording a Christmas card that's accompanying a gift. The message I want to convey is that I really, truly, do NOT want a gift in return. [more inside]
posted by paperback version on Dec 17, 2014 - 16 answers

Holiday Tip at no-tip salon

I go to a no-tip hair salon. I do not see the owner. Is it appropriate to give a cash tip for Christmas?
posted by natasha_k on Dec 16, 2014 - 11 answers

Have I gone rogue -- from lawful good to unlawful good?

I'm involved with two organizations - one volunteer group, one professional group. In the past week, I unintentionally stole the thunder of someone in each group, in front of the whole group. Is it a coincidence, or do I have a blind spot here? [more inside]
posted by Bentobox Humperdinck on Dec 16, 2014 - 12 answers

Yes, you have to eat with strangers.

Can you tell me about your experience with shared or "communal" tables at restaurants or coffee shops? Where are they common? Can you point me to any research, analysis, or good commentary about them? [more inside]
posted by delezzo on Dec 14, 2014 - 54 answers

BART Queue Etiquette

I'm new to the San Francisco Bay Area and take the BART system to work. I noticed that in the underground downtown stations, the spots where the doors are going to be are marked. So that's nice. Then the people make neat little lines around these spots. That's nice too. But then when a train comes, people on the line who don't want that train just stand there, and everyone else on the line has to figure out who's not moving and then chaotically stream around them. [more inside]
posted by bleep on Dec 3, 2014 - 15 answers

I love you all, really, but please leave me alone

I've had quite a career boost this year and at the same time (and for related reasons,) my social circle has tripled (and it was large to begin with.) I'm involved with multiple organizations I care about, but have become utterly overwhelmed. I feel the need to take a 6 week social hiatus for my own mental health, starting Jan 1. How do I respond to social invites, without sounding ungrateful or aloof or snobby, that I just need some time off? (I can't lie and say I'm out of town as we would cross paths professionally. And I work freelance so they know I have "free time" during the day.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 3, 2014 - 21 answers

I was a close friend of your husband. No, really, I was.

I'll be meeting the family of a close friend for the first time at his visitation and funeral. This seems awkward — more awkward than funerals usually are. How best to handle it? [more inside]
posted by DevilsAdvocate on Dec 2, 2014 - 20 answers

What's the etiquette for catching up with "exes"?

Specifically if you are in a serious relationship with someone else. I'm sure this varies among couples and the best thing is probably just to talk to each other openly...but before I bring it up with my boyfriend, I wanted to get some unbiased advice to make sure I'm not stepping across a line because I do feel weird about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 25, 2014 - 25 answers

Whose life would you like to make easier?

A friend and I have been discussing creating a site wherein we interview people from various professions about how customers/clients can make their job easier, make their day a bit better, et cetera. We're in the process of seeking out folks with various jobs and we could use some advice about what kind of people we ought to seek out. [more inside]
posted by lauranesson on Nov 13, 2014 - 32 answers

Co-workers work through their lunch break

How can I not appear lazy to co-workers for not working during break? [more inside]
posted by Asian_Hunnie on Nov 12, 2014 - 23 answers

Extravagant gift etiquette

Some friends bought us an expensive and extravagant gift that we can't reciprocate, and it is stressing me out. How do I handle this gracefully? [more inside]
posted by arcticwoman on Nov 9, 2014 - 31 answers

Foraging free/cheap scrap hardwood, leather, & bones: where to look?

I have some craft and design projects I'd like to create with *quality* scrap hardwood, *quality* scrap leather, and game animal skulls/teeth/other bones. The bigger the wood/leather scraps the better. Other than Etsy suppliers, where are the best places in my community to try to look for these things and get them for little to no cost? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings on Nov 9, 2014 - 13 answers

Is it okay to walk my dog in the cemetery?

That's it really. I live near a large, park-like cemetery and I'm wondering about the etiquette of walking my dog there. It's a modern, suburban cemetery which is quite, um, active. If I were to take my dog there, he would be leashed at all times and if I saw a funeral actually occurring I would keep far away. Would if be upsetting if a person was at the cemetery to visit the grave of a loved one and they saw me casually walking the dog as if it were any other place?
posted by Sarah Lund's Jumper on Oct 31, 2014 - 29 answers

Job interviews, timing, etiquette, and not shooting myself in the foot

One company wants to hire me now. Another might, or might not, but they move slowly. I'm more interested in the latter but am definitely interested in both. How do I navigate this without pissing people off, burning bridges, or ending up with zilch? [more inside]
posted by StockingMarionette on Oct 28, 2014 - 9 answers

Discourage clients who don't get a flu shot to protect my elderly Mother

My 87 year old Mother likes to help in my office. She is healthy, but frail. Should I mention to clients that I don't want them coming in to see me when they are sick and that I would prefer they have a flu shot? Is there some sort of proper business etiquette for this? Thanks. I'm in casual California, if that helps.
posted by mrhappy on Oct 28, 2014 - 32 answers

How to become a more polite driver (or person)?

How can I become a more polite driver on the road? I try my best and usually succeed at the basics--using turn signals, not cutting people off--but I still run into situations on a regular basis where 5 seconds later, I think, "Man, I was kind of a jerk there." How can I learn to be aware of these situations before the fact? [more inside]
posted by serelliya on Oct 23, 2014 - 16 answers

I ask out of shear politeness

I have a few questions about hair salon etiquette... [more inside]
posted by whistle pig on Oct 20, 2014 - 16 answers

Invited back to interview for a different position...?

I recently had a job interview at a perfect-for-my-current-circumstances employer. I thought the interview was okay but I could've done better. Didn't hear a peep for two weeks. I received an email this Tuesday asking if I could come in this Wednesday, Thursday, or Friday to interview for a different and higher-paying position. I'm looking for some advice on how to handle interview #2 tomorrow. Confusion & mitigating circumstances inside! [more inside]
posted by cardinality on Oct 16, 2014 - 12 answers

Why would he think it's OK to walk through my house with his boots on?

A handyman my husband knows came by today to talk to me about what needs done at our new house. We both came in the back door where I proceeded to take my boots off. He stood there watching me but did not take his boots off nor ask me if I thought he should. He followed me into the house with his boots on, walked through the living room and upstairs the bathroom. [more inside]
posted by waving on Oct 13, 2014 - 68 answers

Accidental hermit - when should I reply to messages?

I've been chronically ill for a few years where health dictated when I could answer people, and now that I'm mostly back at work, I am baffled by what feels like a shift in asynchronous communication etiquette. It used to be phone/text/email/letter in urgency, but people now expect a same-hour reply for everything, and I wind up with fifty conversations simultaneously. People will have different expectations but I'm looking at what's broadly accepted for 30 year olds online/offline in a modern city. [more inside]
posted by viggorlijah on Oct 9, 2014 - 11 answers

Should we make our wedding kid-friendly? If so, how?

Most of our friends have kids under age five. We're considering whether and how to make our wedding a kid-friendly event. Have you seen this done? Have you tried it? As a parent, what would help? Or do you just want a night out? Would anything make you more likely to stay overnight for more fun the next day? [more inside]
posted by slidell on Oct 6, 2014 - 39 answers

Why yes I can overthink a can of trash, thank you.

In a 2-unit converted house in greater Boston, with the owner/landlord living upstairs, is the etiquette for the first-floor renter (me) to simply put my trash in outside cans/recycling bins as needed, and expect my landlord to take them to the curb on trash day? Or am I responsible for moving 'my own' trash to the sidewalk? [more inside]
posted by amy lecteur on Oct 4, 2014 - 16 answers

Brushing your teeth (even flossing) in a public restroom: ok?

I never see anyone do it. Being a guy though, I only see men's restrooms. Maybe it's different in women's. I can't even remember seeing a guy brush his teeth in the restroom, let alone floss. Also, I imagine an office restroom has different oral hygiene etiquette than a restroom at say, the mall -- true?
posted by early one morning on Oct 1, 2014 - 63 answers

OK to ask out someone you know through an ex?

I like a boy. I'm pretty sure he likes me back. Great, right? There's one problem: said boy is someone I know through an ex. Is this ever OK to pursue? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. on Sep 30, 2014 - 28 answers

Chef, I think we should start seeing other people.

My favorite farmer's market vendor's offerings have grown boring. Do I tell them? [more inside]
posted by koucha on Sep 26, 2014 - 9 answers

What is the etiquette of tipping at a casino?

Please bring me up to speed on the etiquette of tipping various folks during a casino stay. Everything from the valet to the dealers to the servers. How do you know how much to tip, and how do you know how often? For instance, in poker, do you tip every time you win a hand? How do you know how much to tip a valet? Other folks in a casino experience that you should tip that I might not realize? (Personal anecdotes from people who have actually worked in a casino or work in one now are very welcome.)
posted by jbickers on Sep 25, 2014 - 14 answers

Is a once/weekly houseguest too much if you're rarely out of the house?

So my housemate and I are having a bit of a disagreement about houseguests, and I'd like a reality check and some advice on the situation. [more inside]
posted by nicolas léonard sadi carnot on Sep 22, 2014 - 69 answers

Social Media Etiquette for the Networked Era

What is the current day etiquette around maintaining and removing connections on LinkedIn? [more inside]
posted by infini on Sep 21, 2014 - 18 answers

Is it acceptable to use a smart phone in a public talk?

I went to a talk by a well-known author yesterday in an auditorium. The lights were somewhat dimmed, but definitely not dark. The person in front of me spent about half of the talk live-tweeting bits from the talk. The lights were sufficiently dim that the (5-6") cell phone of the person in front of me was quite distracting to me, since it shined directly at me (the user actually turned the phone away from them a bit, which I wonder was due to the brightness of the screen.). However, I am somewhat more sensitive to bright light than other people. Has smart phone usage reached sufficient social acceptance to allow usage in a non-darkened auditorium? [more inside]
posted by saeculorum on Sep 10, 2014 - 33 answers

DIY gift registry and wording of said registry - help!

So I'm getting hitched in a couple months, and we haven't communicated anything about gifts yet, because it feels weird asking for stuff, but many people have been asking the question (I know I have for other people's weddings). Help me navigate through some wedding etiquette! [more inside]
posted by scuza on Sep 7, 2014 - 11 answers

How am I? I'm awful, how are you?

A question about niceties when you suffer from chronic pain. [more inside]
posted by DWRoelands on Sep 3, 2014 - 33 answers

If she's a little jealous, that means she cares. DM me ;) xo - What the?

Several different Twitter users with accounts showing female faces have followed me on my Twitter account with the same line - so, what's this about? [more inside]
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome on Aug 28, 2014 - 12 answers

How does one ask for time to consider a job offer?

Asking for a friend... If you receive a job offer over the phone and want some additional time to consider the offer, what do you say? [more inside]
posted by Alice Russel-Wallace on Aug 28, 2014 - 18 answers

Social Media etiquette for promoting a hobby project

I've been online for a long while, but I'm a novice in social media as a venue for promoting my hobby project. I've dismissed twitter and tumblr as things I don't understand or aren't for me, but I'd like to promote my hobby site and interact with people who like similar things. How do I go about balancing promotion with reception? Tell me about following, re-tweeting and re-tumbling things. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief on Aug 26, 2014 - 11 answers

Workplace Etiquette

What is the opinion of the hive mind: if one of my superiors receives a promotion, is it polite to congratulate them or is that the wrong tone? [more inside]
posted by jojobobo on Aug 25, 2014 - 9 answers

My Best Frenemy's Wedding

(ugh.) Friend B from this post is getting married next month, and I don't want to go. Or I do want to go, to support her fiance and be with old friends. But I don't want to celebrate her in any way. How do I proceed and keep my dignity? [more inside]
posted by magdalemon on Aug 21, 2014 - 45 answers

Weekend guest etiquette - am I right to be upset?

I recently had two very close friends to stay for the weekend. My partner and I put a load of effort into tidying and cleaning the house, buying new towels for our guests, filling the cupboards and fridge with yummy (and expensive!) food, and my partner spent hours cooking. I had a nice, though tiring, weekend (with some awkwardness as we have all changed over the years since we were very, very close) but when the guests had left, my partner pointed out that neither of them had brought a gift (I would never expect something huge, but I don't think I ever don't take a bottle of wine/flowers/chocolates if I go to stay with someone..). We also realised that neither of them had offered to (or taken it upon themselves) to help with the washing up after any of the homemade meals we had - even breakfast! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 18, 2014 - 64 answers

What is the etiquette of female-male friendship when one party is taken?

When one half of you is taken how does this affect the plans you can make together? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs on Aug 16, 2014 - 34 answers

Craigslist etiquette

What is proper Craigslist etiquette as a seller in this situation? I listed a couple items. Someone replied. I arranged to meet them at 3:00 today. Then my co-worker said he might want them and he's the one coming over to be a manly presence while I sell this stuff, so I feel obligated to him. Then I got swamped with about twenty other e-mails wanting to set up times to look at the items, and one offering to buy one sight unseen. How to proceed?
posted by HotToddy on Aug 16, 2014 - 12 answers

Tact filter: How do I handle friend making fun of how I speak?

English is not my native language and I have a bit of an accent, but I have lived in an English-speaking environment for over 15 years and nobody in my life (work or friends) is ever unable to understand me when I speak. I am currently hosting a friend who I haven't seen for a few years. During her stay, this friend keeps making a big deal out of certain words that I'd pronounce differently from her, and I found it rather immature and frankly infuriating. [more inside]
posted by redwaterman on Aug 11, 2014 - 52 answers

House tours (not the Newport, RI variety): specific to American hosts?

Do people outside of the US commonly go through the ritual of giving new guests "the tour" of their homes (i.e. a walkthrough, or at least peek at, every single room of the house/apartment, beyond what is necessary--not talking about overnight guests or housesitters, or showing folks the bathroom and where to put the coats)? [more inside]
posted by blue suede stockings on Aug 9, 2014 - 13 answers

my fault I got hit by in-flight beverge cart?

It is reasonable to assume that, while sitting on an aisle seat on a flight, if I have a body part in the aisle, it is "fair game" for attendants pushing the beverage cart to hit it? [more inside]
posted by mrmarley on Aug 6, 2014 - 23 answers

Help me get out of this wedding

So, back in February or so, we were invited to a friend's September wedding in Cape Cod (both us and the friend are in LA). It sounded great; my fiancée and I RSVPed. Now, due to a passel of unforeseen circumstances, we can't really do it. Can you help us get out of it without being giant assholes? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 6, 2014 - 18 answers

What are the hat rules?

I was raised with the expectation that men's hats* MUST come off when entering a building.** This does not appear to be true any longer, or at least isn't true for baseball caps. What's the consensus on leaving a baseball cap on or taking it off? For context, I have explained the exceptions to the rules as I was lead to understand them under the cut, and if it matters I am a 30-year-old white guy living in a city, and I'm looking for the casual-hat rules, not the formal-hat rules. [more inside]
posted by blnkfrnk on Aug 5, 2014 - 38 answers

No one eats for free.

We host a lot of younger people who invite themselves over for dinner and then do not help clean up. I'm not mad or anything, but I am going to start politely asking them to help with dishes. I'd also like to commission a sign that says something along the lines of, "Guests are loved and welcome, and clean dishes are very appreciated." I need ideas. [more inside]
posted by zoomorphic on Aug 4, 2014 - 49 answers

Graceful way to contact company after applying for a job?

About a week and a half ago, I applied for a job that I would be perfect for. I'm getting antsy. Should I sent a follow-up note? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2014 - 8 answers

To gift or not to gift?

I'm invited to an engagement party. From preliminary research, it appears it's up to me whether or not to give a present... But I need some help figuring this out. Old friend, just meeting her fiance, casual engagement party, will not be invited to wedding. [more inside]
posted by DoubleLune on Jul 17, 2014 - 14 answers

Phone etiquette experts: How to be polite when sound quality sucks?

When I'm on the (cell) phone with another person, and I'm not able to hear what they are saying clearly, I get stuck. For persistent low-quality voice calls (i.e. when "can you talk a little louder" isn't the solution and "can you repeat that?" doesn't help), what can I do or say that doesn't make me look like an incompetent, impatient jerk? [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot on Jul 16, 2014 - 14 answers

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