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What should the future with my ex look like?

My husband cheated on me and left me after nearly two decades of a wonderful, loving, respectful marriage. The betrayal came out of nowhere, and involved emotional and on occasion physical abuse. I can't just go no contact, because we've got a daughter, we're financially entangled, and we will be for years. I am having trouble forging a new, post-marriage relationship with him because I'm deeply hurt, raw, angry, sad, and disoriented. I also can't picture what that relationship even looks like. And he has asked to spend all day on Christmas here at the house ... I don't know if I can handle it. [more inside]
posted by Capri on Dec 21, 2014 - 60 answers

How long do you keep trying, with kids in the mix?

At what point in the long, slow, steady decline of a marriage with young children does "we should keep trying to work things out, if only for the kids" become "for the kids' sake, we shouldn't be together"? [more inside]
posted by El Curioso on Dec 19, 2014 - 57 answers

Do I tell or do I let it go?

My soon-to-be ex-wife is having a long-term affair with a married man. Should I tell his wife about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 15, 2014 - 43 answers

How will I know?

If it were someone else describing their marriage I would tell them to get a divorce. My brain screams this at me every time some new bullshit happens, almost every day. But the thought of our actual real-life relationship breaking up and going away, and him being out there in the world alone, makes me feel sick and sad. Does that mean we shouldn't get a divorce? What does it mean? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 14, 2014 - 40 answers

You Never Cleaned Your Room And That's Why Mom and Dad Got a Divorce

I think my mom blames me for the collapse of her marriage, I'm not quite sure how to process that. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 10, 2014 - 54 answers

Married for 38 years -- divorcing now -- how painful?

After 38 years of a struggling marriage things fell apart this past weekend. MeFites give me some assurances that this is the right thing to do at this stage in my life. [more inside]
posted by OkTwigs on Dec 9, 2014 - 18 answers

Preserving self-estrangement after dad's divorce

A long time ago, my dad divorced my mom and got remarried. I cut off his side of the family for a long time. Recently, we reconnected. How do I tell my dad that I don't want to be involved with his family, or him, in the nicest possible way? [more inside]
posted by panem_et_circenses on Dec 3, 2014 - 15 answers

Need advice about getting legal support for divorce in NYC

Hi, I am looking for some information and advice about getting a divorce in NYC. I am hoping for a no-contest mutual agreement divorce but there is a chance that it might be contested if my spouse starts having second thoughts. Both of us are from India and are here on work visa, with she being on my dependent work visa. Due to time, job and corruption considerations, going to India and getting a divorce there would be problematic. [more inside]
posted by questionsquestions on Dec 3, 2014 - 8 answers

Need help figuring out child custody logistics across the border

Long story short, my wife and I are separating and I may try to find work and live in the US (I'm currently in Canada and a Canadian citizen). I'm trying to hear from others who have shared custody of their children where their ex- lives in another country. My situation is across the US/Canada border but I'm interesting in hearing other experiences as well. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 26, 2014 - 14 answers

Names on remarried mother's headstone

I am trying to figure out the best way to name my recently deceased mother on her gravestone. I would like my father's name to be included but I would also like to be respectful of my step-father and of my mother's marriage to him. [more inside]
posted by fries on Nov 25, 2014 - 24 answers

How do I stop the pain and do what is best?

A little over two years ago I posted a question regarding a very difficult situation I was in. The result is - eventually after much trauma we got divorced. Two years have passed and whilst in some respects I have made progress, a terrible situation has now occured and I am weighed down with the weight of the world. Desperately need some hivemind perspective if possible. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 21, 2014 - 12 answers

I am about to be disowned.

Have you ever dropped a bomb on your life? Been disowned by your parents? Shunned by your extended family and community? Please tell me about it. [more inside]
posted by puppet du sock on Nov 13, 2014 - 42 answers

How to move past in - laws taking sides?

Husband and I have been married for many years and working through some relationship difficulties. This summer I felt things were not repairable and asked for a separation in prep for a divorce [more inside]
posted by TestamentToGrace on Nov 8, 2014 - 51 answers

Midlife Crisis or Divorce?

I am in the middle of a bad case of midlife crisis which has nearly killed my marriage. I know I am not well, but I also know that I was an unhappy husband for quite a while. How can I tell the two apart? how can you make a rational decision about your life when you know you aren't rational? I am hoping some here have been in this mess before... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 30, 2014 - 28 answers

How best to protect a child when my ex brings him into our arguments?

How should I buffer a child from the stress of divorced parents' arguments when my ex-wife is extremely open with him about adult stresses and about what she wants? [more inside]
posted by kroshka on Oct 24, 2014 - 24 answers

Deadbeat suddenly wants to parent

My ex has suddenly decided he wants to parent again. He got a bit screwed when it came to holidays and summer because based on his behavior during our marriage and the divorce he wouldn't be bothered. Anyways he says he has a lawyer and is going to send me papers to sign to lower his monthly child support payment and adjust holiday visits because he is making less money than when we got divorced. This is likely true he had the best job he has ever had aside from the military when we were getting divorced. [more inside]
posted by Noyra on Oct 22, 2014 - 20 answers

How to not get screwed in a divorce?

I would like to get married soon but there's one thing I'm worried about: my SO has been unemployed for the large part of a year, and I'm not certain he'd have a job when we would want to get married. I live in a equitable distribution state. I'm worried I could get really screwed over if we divorce and am looking for anecdotes/advice (not legal) on how to handle this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 17, 2014 - 30 answers

How to make the best use of two (only two!) mediation sessions

My spouse has long resisted going to couples’ mediation, despite on-going problems in our marriage. After a particularly bad fight a few days ago, my spouse reluctantly agreed to attend two sessions. I’m responsible for selecting the mediator. What’s the best way to extract the most benefit from just two sessions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 10, 2014 - 15 answers

Divorce lawyers in Tri-Cities, WA

I am looking for a good divorce lawyer around the Kennewick, Pasco, Richland area. I need a lawyer who is willing to deal with the respondent living out of state (Louisiana). I don't know many people here since I've only been here two years and tend to be very private about my personal matters. Any good recommendations?
posted by anonymous on Oct 8, 2014 - 2 answers

Perspective on the idea of "growing apart" in a long term commitment?

I recently started seeing someone new, who happens to be the first person I've dated who's divorced. When he told me that he was divorced, he said they "grew apart," after over a decade of marriage, though he also indicated that his ex-wife didn't feel that way, and didn't want to get divorced. I had the sense (though this was a brief conversation, and we're just getting to know each other) that he didn't necessarily *try* to fix things. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 27, 2014 - 26 answers

How can I collect real estate payments due from my ex-wife?

My ex-wife has not paid her monthly fees on the land I sold her in 9 months now. Confounding details within... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 27, 2014 - 11 answers

Divorce recovery: where to go, what to read

tl;dr: My life fell apart, I'm exhausted and not really sure where to go from here. Thinking seriously about a vacation/retreat; looking for suggestions on where I might go, and books/workbooks to take with me. [more inside]
posted by hishtafel on Sep 26, 2014 - 14 answers

Uncontested Change of Child Custody and Support in NM

How do I go about getting an uncontested change of child custody and support in the state of New Mexico? [more inside]
posted by nickerbocker on Sep 26, 2014 - 5 answers

Parental drama - and we're supposedly adults.

My (divorced) father is having a family party in a few weeks to celebrate his retirement. Due to recent actions he has taken against my mother, my younger brother will not attend, and is in fact not speaking to our father right now. Several people at the party are liable to bring this all up. How do I diffuse this drama so it doesn't blow up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 24, 2014 - 42 answers

Feeling depressed, lonely, aimless - need help figuring out my life

I'm at a point where I just don't know what to do - I feel hopeless, aimless, and lost; I feel like there's little hope for my life getting better, and that I'll spend the rest of my life alone, just doing... nothing meaningful. I need help. [more inside]
posted by nightdoctress on Sep 21, 2014 - 28 answers

To lawyer or not to lawyer?

Questions about legal proceedings for parenting time in an unusual 'divorce'. [more inside]
posted by blue_and_bronze on Sep 21, 2014 - 47 answers

Separation without moving out?

Can you have a trial separation while still both living in the same house? [more inside]
posted by El Curioso on Sep 20, 2014 - 24 answers

Need someone to help refinance home in the San Francisco area

I'm separated and my wife has the house and has to pay all expenses on the house including loan payments. I went through getting the loan adjusted once, which helped for a while, but now she's behind again. She isn't doing anything herself and hasn't asked for help, but my kids live there too, when they are not with me, But I'm having trouble getting motivated to help out this time. So I'm looking for someone who can deal with the banks to get a refinance. [more inside]
posted by eye of newt on Aug 30, 2014 - 14 answers

Should I file a contempt claim on my ex-husband?

My ex-husband hates me. I mean, REALLY hates me. I left him 4 years ago after years of emotional and verbal abuse, and he still has not once looked me in the eye or spoken directly to me since then. We have a 10-year-old daughter together and the divorce agreement says we should split her medical costs (doctor visits and prescription meds) 50/50. I emailed him to ask him to pay his share ($30) from a recent appointment and he emailed back saying that because he had taken her to get her hair cut, he should not have to pay. He then sent me pictures (!) of some over-the-counter cough drops he'd purchased for our daughter and demanded that I reimburse him for them, saying that if I refused I would "set a dangerous and vitriolic (sic) precedent in our relationship." What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 21, 2014 - 24 answers

Letting go- failure or quitting? what's the difference?

I am having a hard time letting go of something. I have been told that I have an amazing ability to persevere and I can, unfortunately, keep on trying to make things work- for ever! Needless to say, letting a current bad situation go is proving to be near impossible because I see doing that as outright failure, not to mention a complete waste of 1+ year. My friends say its not failure, and I don't think I understand the difference. So I am hoping that maybe you can explain with personal anecdotes? [more inside]
posted by xm on Aug 17, 2014 - 22 answers

My husband left me this morning. Now what?

My husband and I decided to divorce at 4 o'clock this morning, after I found him in bed with another woman. We've been married for 16 years and have an 11 year old daughter. He is at work, I am at home, and I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by Capri on Aug 14, 2014 - 54 answers

How do I deal with ongoing animosity between long-divorced parents?

My parents got divorced twenty years ago. How can I set boundaries with my mother while still having a good relationship with my father? Recent events have made it obvious that there's still a lot of hurt and anger between my mom and dad. [more inside]
posted by baronette on Aug 14, 2014 - 14 answers

Divorce: who keeps the Engagement and Wedding rings?

I am in the very early stages of separating from my husband. He wants me to give my engagement ring back to him when we divorce. I don't agree. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 8, 2014 - 41 answers

Good Source for Relationship Statistics

Does this exist? The popular myth is that 50% of marriages end in divorce, but those numbers are slippery. Is there a place with a good breakdown? [more inside]
posted by Athene on Aug 6, 2014 - 9 answers

For Richer, not Poorer: forcing Ex to refi or sell to pay money owed

Basically, he needs to pony up $23k a year ago and it doesn't look like he has any intention of doing so. [more inside]
posted by Mysterious Trousers on Aug 5, 2014 - 7 answers

Do I return the stuff?

I found some things belonging to my ex-husband and I'm really not sure how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by TORunner on Aug 3, 2014 - 25 answers

Should I let ex stay at my home so he can visit the children?

My children haven't seen their father since his move to a distant continent last year, following our acrimonious divorce. He is coming to visit soon and expects to stay with us. I am of two minds whether to welcome him into my home. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 1, 2014 - 47 answers

Your parents divorced? Tell me about it.

I want to leave my husband and need to understand the potential impact to my daughters, aged 10 and 11. Please tell me what your parents' divorce was like, and the different ways in which it affected you. [more inside]
posted by puppet du sock on Jul 31, 2014 - 47 answers

Divorce how to

I want to separate from my spouse. What can I do to minimize stress and maximize my resolve? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 28, 2014 - 17 answers

Sharing custody, but the kid only wants to be with me.

I share custody (50/50, week on - week off) of my eight-year-old with her dad, and have since he and I split up over three years ago. Lately she's been spending all of her time at his house crying for me. Since she can't point to any tangible problems to fix, I don't know what to do. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2014 - 24 answers

How do I serve papers in Canada?

My friend has an uncomplicated divorce (no assets, no kids, no shared debt, filing taxes singly.) The ex lives in Canada and is a Canadian citizen, my friend who is filing for divorce is in California and a United States citizen. She has free legal help-- they got the papers filled out properly and explained the general process, but didn't explain serving papers. Paying to speak to a lawyer is out of the question. How do we serve papers internationally, to a known address? What if she refuses delivery or can't be found?
posted by blnkfrnk on Jul 21, 2014 - 12 answers

Divorce Lawyer in the Twin Cities

Looking for family law/divorce lawyer recommendations in the Twin Cities to help a couple with young children and assets go through a non-contentious divorce. Email AnonMetafilter14@gmail.com if you prefer. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 18, 2014 - 2 answers

Should I get back together with my ex-wife?

I could really use some input to help me sort through all of this. At 40 years old, she was having a lesbian affair and asked me to move out. I was devastated. But in hindsight, our marriage wasn't a good one. And I suppose it was just a matter of time before something came along to unravel the whole thing. Now she wants me back. I have no clue how I even feel, much less if I even want to try again. Wall of text inside. [more inside]
posted by normal_guy on Jul 17, 2014 - 37 answers

Breaking up/co-parenting with a difficult person

I've decided to end my relationship with my boyfriend/fiance of nearly 6 years. We have a 3 year old. I've realized I would rather be single/co-parenting than have my child see such an unhappy relationship. My boyfriend is regularly verbally/emotionally abusive to me in front of our child, and has a history of being emotionally withdrawn. For the purpose of this question please assume that we are definitely breaking up and that there is no other option for me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 7, 2014 - 33 answers

The "how" and the "who first"

While my concerns about divorcing my spouse are numerous, there are two in particular that I could really use some advice on. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 3, 2014 - 20 answers

Title: How to deal with a Mortgage but no House after Divorce

*What can be written into the Quit Claim to insure and protect the me from eventually being stuck with the whole mortgage. *Or is there some other standard thing besides a quitclaim that will allow me to fulfill the court's order and will give the wife more protection than just relying on "he shall hold Wife harmless from any liability " since the mortgage company can go after the wife directly. Intro: the Husband is a Military Officer who strategized and schemed not only to divorce but to devastate an unsuspecting wife (me). He abused me for 20 years and has lied to the court many times, without being held accountable. He can be counted on taking whatever actions he is able to continue to do the me harm. He will not voluntarily do the humane, decent thing. [more inside]
posted by lostinspace on Jul 1, 2014 - 15 answers

Marriage in trouble, wife refuses relationship counseling. What next?

My wife Jane and I are in our 40s and have been together for eight years. We got along well for the first few years, but things have been steadily going south since then. In theory, we both want to improve our marriage, but we are not making much progress on our own. I could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2014 - 48 answers

Ex abusing via medical billing

My friend is divorced, ex has custody of the 2 children. Ex is a sociopath who has made screwing up my friend's life one of his main hobbies. Their divorce decree has uncovered medical expenses split 50/50. While this may seem like a usual, reasonable thing, especially since the ex is in the military with very good health insurance and doctors at his large army base, he is starting to use it against her. [more inside]
posted by anon4now on Jun 21, 2014 - 18 answers

How do I get my 6 year old son to sleep in his own bed?

My son has been sleeping in my bed since he was a tiny infant. He's nearly six now. So how can I gently and kindly get him to sleep in his own bed, in his own room? A few more pertinent details follow below. [more inside]
posted by pleasant_confusion on Jun 18, 2014 - 20 answers

Telling our son about the split - when?

My husband and I have decided to seperate. [more inside]
posted by jen14221 on Jun 16, 2014 - 28 answers

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