My days are full, though sometimes full of heart-ache. At night, once the pets and child are asleep, I am alone. Going out is not an option, and sometimes books, music and movies just aren't going to cut it.
Did anyone find something surprising or helpful to them after a breakup that might help me get more comfortable with my alone time?
posted by SarahBellum
on May 17, 2013 -
18 answers
The guy I've been dating is pulling away, and I need some help wading through the conflicting 'wisdom'.
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posted by Salamander
on May 14, 2013 -
29 answers
My husband of 8 years and I have come to an impasse: he wants a free-love, open relationship because he stifled his sexuality as a religious person before we were married, and I want...well, not that.
How do I move forward when it means breaking the most important bond I have?
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posted by SarahBellum
on May 7, 2013 -
28 answers
Looking for some general advice on my financial situation. I'm contemplating hiring a financial planner, but they're $500 for two hours worth of work. I don't think my stuff is
that complicated.
I'm coming out of a nasty divorce, and count myself fortunate that I don't have debt to my eyeballs. Nevertheless, I want to make the best of what I have. So I'm looking for advice on where to throw money, where to take money, etc.
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posted by punocchio
on Apr 25, 2013 -
9 answers
I'm in the process of filing an uncontested, no-fault divorce from my husband. We just want to get the necessary paperwork over with as soon as possible and sign on the dotted line. Details inside, kept short and succinct for your viewing ease!
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posted by assasinatdbeauty
on Apr 17, 2013 -
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My wife and I are having a lot of problems in our marriage, have been for quite some time. Infidelity on both sides. Unresolved childhood trauma. Lack of trust and honesty from both parties. We have a wonderful life and two amazing children and are best friends, have been since high school.
We're both starting therapy (separately) and then maybe marriage counseling. And I suppose this is one of those things that I can expect or hope to work out in therapy? But right now, how do I know if I should stay in my marriage?
What signs did you have that your marriage was over or was salvageable?
posted by anonymous
on Apr 9, 2013 -
13 answers
Last summer I left an emotionally abusive long-term relationship, and I’m still really struggling with loneliness and heartbreak. Hope me.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 7, 2013 -
13 answers
My mom just found out my dad's been cheating on her. How do I deal with all of this from 3000 miles away?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 5, 2013 -
27 answers
Asking for a friend. YANHL. A couple has divorced, wife has a local civil service pension and husband a federal civilian pension. The judge ruled they would split each pension 50/50, instead of letting them keep their own. She has sent her court order to his pension board and has received acknowledgement. She has been unable to get any answers from the pension board about what happens now. He has left federal service but has not retired.
Does she have to wait until he retires to start receiving her monthly checks from the federal system? Can she start getting them when he reaches retirement age even if he's not retired? Who can she contact that will answer her questions? Would CC'ing her Senators/Rep on her emails help or hurt? Thanks.
posted by 1066
on Apr 4, 2013 -
6 answers
Here's the rub: In February on 2012, I decided to end my marriage. Because I was dead broke, we simply moved apart, split the bank account in two and went our separate ways with the understanding that we'd make a move to formally divorce in the next year. We did not get a legal separation. That divorce is now pending. My soon-to-be-ex-wife filed her taxes 'Married, Filing Separately'. This causing me all kind of tax havoc, including a bill I have no way of paying. More inside...
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 28, 2013 -
28 answers
Why am I having so much trouble leaving an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship? Or, tell me about your experience with leaving and how long it took you.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 28, 2013 -
19 answers
My wife and I are getting divorced. At times she erupts at me with either overt or barely disguised hostility. How do I deal with the emotions caused by this?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 27, 2013 -
34 answers
I am hoping that someone has a recommendation (or even a "stay away from") for a Cantonese-speaking divorce lawyer in the San Francisco area.
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posted by roquetuen
on Mar 25, 2013 -
0 answers
Can you advise me how to go about getting the files for a particular divorce and attendant custody battle in CT in the 1970s?
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posted by annabellee
on Mar 8, 2013 -
2 answers
How many successful Film Directors are happily married...to their first wife (or husband)?
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posted by mousepad
on Mar 7, 2013 -
18 answers
My husband and I separated a couple months ago. Married 2 years. I'm going back and forth about whether our marriage is possibly salvageable or not. My main issue with him is that he blames me, a lot and frequently. He has trouble taking responsibility for his own emotional state and behavior.
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posted by WelcomeCat
on Mar 4, 2013 -
62 answers
A person close to me spoke about her relationship with her husband of 25 years. I say the symptoms she described are abuse in prototype form and I'm alarmed about it. Perhaps I am wrong; please help her and me figure out what's going on. Bonus points for next steps.
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posted by jet_silver
on Mar 4, 2013 -
8 answers
My wife and I separated a few months ago (which was my choice, not hers) and it seems that many of the things that I left over may have been addressed, but I still feel cagey about it all. How do I square this circle in my head and in my heart? Blizzard inside.
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posted by six sided sock
on Feb 26, 2013 -
40 answers
I think my marriage may be irreparably broken. The idea of splitting up is agonizing, but if things don't turn around soon, I can't stay.
But. I don't know what to do about our cat, and it's tearing me apart.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 20, 2013 -
39 answers
It seems to me that if you've been fairly happy for many (10 - 25) years, this trend would continue. For many people that doesn't seem to be the case. I am interested in hearing theories or experiences regarding that.
How can something that worked for so long cease to work so suddenly?
posted by Feel the beat of the rhythm of the night
on Feb 19, 2013 -
71 answers
Not an original story. I love my husband but I love someone else too. What do I do? Looooong explanation to follow, apologies.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 19, 2013 -
55 answers
So my divorce took a crazy turn for the worst and all hope of reconciliation has flown out the window. Can anyone recommend books for a man in his late 30s / early 40s going through and recovering from a divorce? Any books for either dealing with the divorce itself or dealing with life after and re-entry to dating world would be great.
posted by entropicamericana
on Feb 14, 2013 -
3 answers
Rebuilding credit a few years post-divorce and home ownership, does anyone have experience with services like
rentreporters.com that will report rental payment history to credit services?
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posted by cgk
on Feb 10, 2013 -
1 answer
I've been divorced for several years now. My ex-wife and I get along amicably. I am single and she has been involved in an LTR since the divorce became official. Everything's fine, everyone's happy. Our kids are thriving.My ex-wife's birthday is in three weeks and up until now I've been the one to coordinate helping the kids get her something for her birthday. It occurred to me that it's probably time for the New Guy to take this over, right? They're not engaged, he still has his own place, but he does spend a lot of time there in your standard domestic situations. I have no problem discussing this with my ex, I'm just looking for a sanity-check on this idea before I bring it up. Am I missing something? Is this even a good idea? (For the record, I am single and she will probably be responsible for
my birthdays (vis-a-vis the kids) for the forseeable future.)
posted by Setec Astronomy
on Feb 8, 2013 -
20 answers
Hoping for advice, encouragement, discouragement, honesty, etc. I just ended a marriage (shy of one year) last year and am newly single as of four months, I was in a 6 year relationship which ended because I realized my ex was not faithful and continued to question our marriage.
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posted by love2much
on Jan 29, 2013 -
12 answers
Friend is divorcing a high conflict personality (to put it more than politely). Since he is pro se, he generates a massive amount of emails and motions and false accusations etc. This results in having to collect a huge amount of documentation to be able to say in court "you're lying and here's the proof"
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posted by anon4now
on Jan 28, 2013 -
9 answers
My sister (married, one child) and I (married, no kids) want to plan a joint family vacation. We do not want our parents (divorced, both remarried) to come. Our mom is extremely sensitive/dramatic, and we are hoping to avoid a major meltdown from her. Help?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 26, 2013 -
16 answers
I need recommendations for an attorney in the Philadelphia area, who can handle divorce and custody cases where one party (myself) is a non-US citizen, who is here on a marriage-based Green Card. The Card itself is about 2 years old.
posted by anonymous
on Jan 24, 2013 -
4 answers
I split up with my wife a couple of months ago, and have been doing really well since then. Recently I've been feeling a little bit like she's been stalking me on social media, and today I've woken up to messages asking me why I'm in contact with someone from my past. How do I handle this?
(I've tried to anonymise this as best I can)
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 24, 2013 -
45 answers
I am currently undergoing a career crisis and I need some wisdom, blunt feedback, and strategies for going forward.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 21, 2013 -
17 answers
Can you recommend a good divorce lawyer in Winnipeg (MB), Canada? Or, if you can't, can you tell me how I can find one?
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posted by TheGoodBlood
on Jan 18, 2013 -
3 answers
Have you been in a marriage or LTR where you were on the brink of breaking up but then you didn't? If so, how did that work?
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posted by dawkins_7
on Jan 15, 2013 -
10 answers
My dad died a few days before Thanksgiving and my wife just left me (2 days after my birthday) and wants a divorce. Best survival tips?
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posted by entropicamericana
on Jan 7, 2013 -
37 answers
How should I address the fact that my boyfriend's unstable ex-wife continues to inappropriately contact him and his family?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 27, 2012 -
22 answers
Buying a house while married but physically separated -- what are the possible issues?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 14, 2012 -
5 answers
Lost my job in the middle of a divorce. How do we pay for separate households until we're finished?
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posted by punocchio
on Dec 7, 2012 -
8 answers
I'm ready to leave my unhappy, borderline-abusive, caretaker-y marriage (details in a series of posts, most recently
here). Do I just wait until I've got all my ducks in a row and then go, or should I be kinder, and give my spouse some kind of notice period.
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posted by six sided sock
on Nov 23, 2012 -
69 answers
Enlisted Soldier has stopped all financial support, including mortgage payments, utilities and even school lunches for his 2 children.
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posted by anon4now
on Nov 15, 2012 -
9 answers
29 years old and divorcing after 1 year of marriage- looking for support/help with my decision.
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posted by love2much
on Nov 14, 2012 -
34 answers
