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MichaelKnight — Wed, 11 Jul 2007 18:06:06 -0800

Wife is bipolar and in the manic part. She's taking meds and her doctor has ordered her off work for a week while she ups her meds and ordered her to quit several activities which she enjoyed doing, though they stressed her. She's getting depressed and unfocused. How can I help her? Her shrink has told her to quit doing her volunteer church stuff, which she was increasingly getting involved in, on top raising our teenage daughter and having a full time job. Evidently the stress of all this can trigger a manic, so the doctor is telling her to quit the church stuff. This depresses the wife and makes her angry. Since she's in a manic, she feels as though she can do everything, even though logically she knows she can't. This is her first major manic in years, so we're a bit outta pratice on how to deal with it.

What can I do to help her through this hump? Are there particular activities that can help a maniac bipolar mind stay occupied? If you're bipolar and know one, how do they come to terms with feeling like they can do anything when they logically know they can't? or how can you help them remember that they are sick before they start doing harm or damage (nothing dangerous per se, just crazy money spending or trying to take on the world). This has always been a blind spot for me and I'm kinda outta mydepth, which is ok, 'cause she has a shrink and all, but I'd still like to help her.

Please don't tell me to leave my wife or that I'm terrible person for not understanding this better, we're having a rough enough time as it is. Just a little help and advice please.

Depressive Compulsive?!?!?!?!Then please help

eve28 — Sat, 24 Mar 2007 01:41:53 -0800

Is there such a thing as DEPPRESIVE COMPULSIVE? Is it something real? Chemical? What and why can't I stop feeling sad, depressed, inadequate? To just put it out there I am a depressive compulsive and I have been dealing with this thing MY WHOLE LIFE!!!!!Literally. I'm a 28 yr. old female, who had a very traumatic life, who has dealt with many therapists, written many journals, talked to friends, family, GOD, and hell, about a year and a half ago, I started taking Zoloft. I met a therapist, whom I liked very much, got on the pills, started to feel a little better, (at least for the moment) even though therapy was excrutiating EverY Single TimE!! I stayed with her for over 15 months. I could really trust her.

Later, like 7 weeks ago, I moved and although my rational mind knows that a transition such as moving cross-country is stressful and can take some time for adjustment, I am still feeling low. I know no pill is available to heal this illness 100 percent, but I am starting to believe that some people, me mostly, must be lacking some sort of chemical. A transmitter or receptor or something that gives me the power of happiness, motivation, dedication. Is it possible that these are genes that some of us have in our DNA and some do not? Or, am I just crazy. Look, I guess I just want to know what This is...Is it something that depression does to you? Is it a gene one holds in their DNA? Is it all chemical? Is it how close one is with God? WHAT is it?

I feel tired, I have sleepless nights, racing thoughts, hurtful images, tired, low, sad, I feel as if I wont make it because I have no idea what I want and where I'm going even though I have dreams and ideas. I have a job, not totally in love with it, but I do like it, yet at the same time, I am still keeping my options open. I also see faces as I am trying to sleep. Sometimes they are good, sometimes bad, sometimes indifferent. This has happened my whole life. I am not sure if anyone thinks I'm crazy, but I really don't care about that. All I care about is if someone out there is willing to give a helping hand and provide me with some insight.

I am looking for a legitimate answer here. Please do not forget I have had this my whole life. I can not get into all the details of my haunting past, but even if I could, a man once told me, "no one cares about your past and no one cares where your at.."So thats it any and all thoughts accepted, even if it hurts....

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