A friend was telling me last night that she is ready to start dating again, and thinks that online dating is the way to go, but she has never tried online dating and hasn't the first clue as to how to go about it. [more inside]
posted by vignettist
on Apr 11, 2014 -
I have someone in my life who I've come to realize can no longer be there.
This person is an ex. We haven't seen each other but we've stayed in touch. Tried to be 'friends.' But it always ends up with hurtful messages and it's no longer a good situation for me. Probably also not for her. The relationship was long and it's been hard to let go.
Complicating this: she has a serious mental illness and seems to be getting progressively worse. Which makes all of this worse. She pushes people away and has no immediate family. It makes me sad to think of her alone, but sadder to think about dealing with this for any indefinite period of time. I literally cannot handle it anymore. I'm done.
So.. do I just ignore her? Tell her I can't talk to her anymore? We have gone a few weeks without talking but that's been the longest in over a year since we've been broken up.
Anyone have experiences with cutting out someone with a mental illness? How did you get through?
posted by anad487
on Apr 5, 2014 -
..to offer a suggestion about a way they could improve an aspect of their usage (i.e. a certain feature outcome), what would be the best way to do it? (so as to ensure I receive a response I mean) i.e. would it be by email or some other way (i.e. phone number)?
posted by Neutron12
on Jan 19, 2014 -
My wife and I will soon use an egg donor to try to conceive. It's important to us that our future child be able to contact the egg donor if the child so desires and it's in his or her best interest. The egg donor is open to this. Until there is a need for contact (either for the aforementioned reason or because of a medical issue), she prefers not to be contacted (nor are we eager to initiate contact until such time). How can we maximize our chances of being able to reach her in the future? It could well be over a decade before such contact is initiated. Phone numbers and email addresses are not that long-lived. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Dec 21, 2013 -
Anyone tried CIBA Vision Dailies Total 1 contact lens.
How is it?
Is it easy to remove? (Read stories that it's hard to get it out)
Is it for beginners?
posted by Mountain28
on Dec 11, 2013 -
My 8 year old son has never met his biological father and would like to do so. I don't want his heart to break if his bio-father doesn't want contact. I'm only assuming that he doesn't want contact because apart from the befriending we haven't actually said anything to each other via voice or email for about 6 years or so. What is the best way to approach this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Oct 14, 2013 -
A while ago, I came across a handy little program/script, which I think worked roughly like this: you give it a table of various friends' names and how often you want to stay in touch with them, and at appropriate intervals it will give you a "hey, you haven't emailed Jeff in 3 months" type reminder. [more inside]
posted by pont
on Aug 24, 2013 -
I have a thing about eating with people. Specifically, one-on-one meals where we're sitting across from each other the whole time. I already find eating in public kind of weird, but then having to make eye contact and talk while doing it compounds the problem and makes me squirmingly awkward, even with close friends. Is there anything I can do to shake this weird anxiety? [more inside]
posted by cucumber patch
on Aug 7, 2013 -
I've recently realized that I rarely make eye contact with people, so I've been trying to get better by consciously remembering to do it in conversation. But, why is it when I do make eye contact with people, it's terrifying? [more inside]
posted by averageamateur
on Jul 15, 2013 -
Contact by Daft Punk supposedly "contains audio from the Apollo 17 mission used by courtesy of NASA and Capt. Eugene Cernan
". The sample says: "Hey Bob, I'm looking at what Jack was talking about and it's definitely not a particle that's nearby. It is a bright object and it's obviously rotating because it's flashing, it's way out in the distance, certainly rotating in a very rhythmic fashion because the flashes come around almost on time. As we look back at the Earth it's up at about 11 o'clock, about maybe ten or twelve diame...Earth diameters. I don't know whether that does you any good, but there's something out there."
When I Google this I find only Daft Punk references. Is it a genuine soundbite from the Apollo 17 mission or did those wacky French robots make it up?
posted by East Manitoba Regional Junior Kabaddi Champion '94
on May 21, 2013 -
I am an contractor through an agency (W2 employee). The company I am working at wants me to go full time.
The pay rate is around 33% lower. I've gone through all the benefits that contractors don't get and the full time pay is still around 16% higher. [more inside]
posted by wongcorgi
on Apr 13, 2013 -
Someone with a simple .HTML/.PHP page and no content management system needs me to put up a "Contact Us" form. In the old days there were a lot of PHP scripts to do this, but I can't tell if any of them are still reliable and secure.
Are there any recommendations for one? I'm familiar with all the great ones for Wordpress (Gravity Forms, Contact Form 7) but unfortunately can't use those because this site has no database. [more inside]
posted by steinsaltz
on Mar 18, 2013 -
We're doing a project that provides info for business owners on who they should talk to for every city and county in California for local permits and regs. Aside from calling each and every one to get their updated info, is there any OTHER way to do it? Isn't there someone who does this for local government the way that other services do for specific industries? We're willing to pay for it, we just don't know WHO to pay. Thoughts?
posted by rileyray3000
on Mar 8, 2013 -
I just discovered a hilariously absurd woman on Youtube. She's completely serious, but in my opinion her video is begging to be turned into an SNL skit. How do I let someone at SNL know about this potential comedy goldmine?
posted by RingerChopChop
on Mar 8, 2013 -
Mac app for contact management that's tag-based, intelligently integrated with social networks, and LOCAL? (All data usable and modifiable without a live internet connection.) [more inside]
posted by kalapierson
on Mar 4, 2013 -
I decided to end my "relationship" with someone I saw for nine months. We both have the same hobby, and seeing him there has been stirring both negative and positive emotions. I don't want to give up the hobby. I could handle the negative emotions - because that's what you're supposed to feel - it's the positive ones that are doing me in. How can I get past them? [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo
on Feb 24, 2013 -
I want to keep in touch better with family and friends. What are your techniques, tools, and strategies for doing this? [more inside]
posted by cadge
on Dec 12, 2012 -
On the prowl for the best "long-wear, comfortable" COLORED contact lense brand. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by audio
on Dec 11, 2012 -
I just switched to an iPhone 5 after years with an Android phone. My carefully constructed sync setup between my work Win 7 PC, my home Mac and my phone is no longer as useful. Details of my current setup within. [more inside]
posted by tommasz
on Nov 21, 2012 -
Act! database vs. Daylite?
I used Act forever & loved the fact i could keep notes per company & then look up companies by Co. name, first name, last name, city, state, or other custom tag i classified them as.
I used ACT when i had my PC.... but for the past 3 years i've been on a Macbook Pro and only using Daylite... which i hate. I can't look up by anything other than Company name or contact name....
I need a new database contact program that is similar to ACT in the regards of how I can look up each company & allowing me under notes (or something) to keep track of my conversations. I'd also like it to sync up with my iphone 5. [more inside]
posted by foodybat
on Nov 4, 2012 -
My old friends from high school and I have been using a Facebook message thread to stay in touch over the past few years since we graduated. However, the new interface is really driving us crazy. Help us find an alternative? [more inside]
posted by Strass
on Oct 25, 2012 -
The nutshell: how do you put relationship mistakes/guilt behind you? And contact with her would be a bad idea, right? (We’ve been broken up about 3 months now with no contact, except for one email exchange about two weeks after the break up). [more inside]
posted by yeahyeahyeah
on Sep 19, 2012 -
Paid Google Apps accounts cannot share (delegate) contacts with users outside of its domain.
Has anybody come across this issue and been able to work around it? [more inside]
posted by Slackjaw37
on Aug 1, 2012 -
What are the best ways for a cinephile like me to find communities of those similarly interested in film? [more inside]
posted by dr handsome
on May 23, 2012 -
Just realized that I have run out of business cards, and I am speaking at SXSW in a week. What clever, amusing, geeky solutions for sharing my contact information are out there? [more inside]
posted by EvilPRGuy
on Mar 2, 2012 -
How best do I contact an (aged, not terribly well known) author? Via her publisher? Who do I address it to so it doesn't go straight in the bin? Are there any other ways? [more inside]
posted by ClarissaWAM
on Nov 17, 2011 -
This is yet another contacting-one’s-ex question. I will try to avoid cliches as much as possible and will do my best to jump to the marrow of this somewhat complicated tale. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Nov 2, 2011 -
I found a young man's wallet today and tried to find some information, such as an email address or cell phone number, so I could contact him. No luck yet. [more inside]
posted by perhapses
on Aug 26, 2011 -
Last minute (Australia-filter) hopefulness: how can I contact a band and get them to acknowledge a 13 year old fan who is now on crutches and can't be up the front of the mosh pit? [more inside]
posted by malibustacey9999
on Jul 29, 2011 -
Looking for an apartment share. There are limited options in my price range, so I need to maximize my appeal. What can I do to make myself sound like a good roommate in my intro emails and calls? [more inside]
posted by Fire
on Jul 20, 2011 -
I have Ciba vision Air Optix Aqua 1 month disposable contact lenses and have mixed them up. I use -1.75 for my left eye and -1.50 for my right, 8.6/14.20 size. On the actual lens of one of them it says "CIBA x647" and on the other "CIBA x648", which lens is for which eye?
posted by randomizer
on Jul 18, 2011 -
(asking for a friend:) Is there a quick way to find organizational charts (incl. contact info) for government agencies? [more inside]
posted by shortyJBot
on Jul 8, 2011 -
Google Apps Mail contact sharing, distribution lists, and sending newsletters Marketplace App? [more inside]
posted by jmd82
on May 18, 2011 -
When applying for federal jobs, how problematic is it not to allow a potential employer to contact a previous supervisor? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Apr 14, 2011 -
My parents just got a weird call about 30 mins ago (11:50pm). They were getting ready for bed, so my sister picked up. [more inside]
posted by wuMeFi
on Nov 28, 2010 -
An ex-friend I ended the frienship with contacted me via email after over a year of no contact. The email was along the lines of, "do you still use this account? I guess sending this means I wish to reconnect." I don't want to resume the friendship with her, but she has serious mental health issues and we have a lot of friends in common so I feel obligated to answer the email... mostly to not seem like an a-hole. Do I have to answer it? If so, what should I say? I'm afraid even a really vague response will encourage her; she has really poor boundaries. [more inside]
posted by ShadePlant
on Sep 15, 2010 -
I'm ending an awesome relationship because I'm moving to a different city for a much better job. How to make the best of our last few weeks together, and what's the "healthiest" level of contact to maintain? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 22, 2010 -