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How can I communicate more effectively with my attorney spouse?

It's time for the depositions to come to an end. Married MeFi lawyers and spouses of lawyers, how have you learned to communicate & conflict resolve with one another as husband/wife first and attorney second? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 8, 2016 - 22 answers

Not Another OKCupid Question... best practices for paring down matches?

I realize that this is the ultimate in, well, problems-that-aren't-really-problems, but I get WAY too many messages on OKC. Help me figure out how not to get bogged down? [more inside]
posted by Pizzarina Sbarro on Dec 4, 2016 - 12 answers

Do I say something or do I let him go?

My friend with benefits seems to run hot and cold on me, and I don't know if there's a better way for me to communicate with him, or if I should just accept that he's not that into me anymore and let our "friendship" fade away. How do you tell someone who may or may not owe you any emotional support that their behavior is hurting you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 25, 2016 - 19 answers

Help me learn how to girlfriend

My new boyfriend's not a big communicator in-between dates -- I want him to be. Is this normal? How do I fix this? Can I fix it? [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder on Nov 23, 2016 - 22 answers

Slack Users: How does your company organize Slack Teams/Channels?

I'd love to learn more about how companies of, say, ~2000 people have organized their Slack implementations. Do you have one large Team for the entire community? Do you create new Teams as requested by different departments/divisions? Do you let users create them as needed without any intervention from your IT group? A mix of the two? In either case, do you use the free version. Standard? Plus? Do you employ LDAP integration and user provisioning or do you require each user to sign up for and create an account for Slack individually for each Team? [more inside]
posted by TimBridge on Nov 10, 2016 - 5 answers

How to have an excellent life with chronic pain

I am a woman in my mid-twenties with chronic back pain. How do I find a job suited to my lifestyle, and communicate about my pain without putting off employers? [more inside]
posted by benadryl on Nov 1, 2016 - 12 answers

Is trouble having difficult conversations in a relationship a bad sign?

I feel like my partner avoids difficult conversations and often pays me lip-service to avoid unpleasant topics. How worrisome is this behavior long term? [more inside]
posted by aquablue582 on Oct 29, 2016 - 33 answers

did I blow it?

Human Relationship 101 help needed. The way my last relationship went and the way family communicates has made it hard for me to understand whether I did something wrong here. [more inside]
posted by thereemix on Oct 28, 2016 - 24 answers

Barely remembered quote about talkative women and romantic relationships

Sometime in the past year or so I read, either online or in print, something relating to compatibility and fulfillment in (hetero) relationships where the woman is one who has a fast paced brain and needs to talk and needs to be with a man who will listen and take that all in order for her to feel fulfilled in the relationship. Did you read this, too? [more inside]
posted by PaulaSchultz on Oct 20, 2016 - 6 answers

messages from the divine

Many Christians experience some kind of communication in response to prayer -- ranging from a general sense of guidance or comfort to specific messages to visions, dreams, and prophecies. In Jewish communities of all kinds, how common are similar experiences of communication or guidance, and how are they talked about and interpreted? [more inside]
posted by vogon_poet on Oct 4, 2016 - 8 answers

He loves me, but he can't open up

My partner of 2.5 years can’t talk to me about the most significant relationship of his life. I want to understand this better. [more inside]
posted by yawper on Sep 16, 2016 - 31 answers

Looking for books, articles, and advice on managing software engineers

Yaaaay! I just got a new job managing a team of software engineers! Looking for books, articles, and advice on how to be most effective in my new role. I'm particularly interested in the "people skills" side of the job. [more inside]
posted by when it rains it snows on Sep 6, 2016 - 8 answers

What does it look like when people stay in touch casually all the time?

Inspired by recent [1] questions [2] about how people live in the day-to-day, I've got one: if you stay in regular touch (2+ times per week) with a friend or family member that you don't see that often, how do you go about it? [more inside]
posted by xo on Sep 6, 2016 - 29 answers

Lost "say this, not that" book

I saw pictures of a book on tumblr that was filled with suggestions for improvements on common condolences. For example, instead of saying, "Everything happens for a reason," try, "You must be disappointed that it didn't work out." Help me find this book, please! [more inside]
posted by Snarl Furillo on Aug 10, 2016 - 2 answers

Examples of being considerate/caring?

Our niece (16yo) didn't acknowledge one of our birthdays yesterday, and this seems to be a pattern of being completely inconsiderate. I need to discuss this with her, but thought it might make more sense to explain to her how people are considerate/caring of others, and give her examples. I can give her examples of what I do, but what are ways people are considerate of others/show that they care? [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl on Aug 2, 2016 - 69 answers

Resources for a woman in tech facing a lot of gender bias at work.

A friend is a senior engineer at a small company—the only woman in a senior technical role at the company—who, after years of working for them (she was literally the first hire) is hitting a lot of resistance from the men above, most of it the typical "Women in the workplace" b.s. She strongly believes in the work and the company, but is getting regularly undermined. I'd love to find some resources (books, blogs, forums, strategies, etc.) to help her deal effectively with the people making the workplace ridiculous. [more inside]
posted by Ookseer on Jun 9, 2016 - 10 answers

Dealing With Critical Persuaders

At work I regularly work under someone who is, I am sure, a decent, friendly person. But we often end up at loggerheads because I find him critical and aggressive. I'm looking for new ideas on how to deal with this. [more inside]
posted by andrewcooke on Jun 2, 2016 - 13 answers

The meaning of "sure" regionally

What does "sure" mean in response to a question? Yes, No, or "uh, kinda maybe"? [more inside]
posted by soylent00FF00 on May 30, 2016 - 71 answers

I liked your study, let's hang out?

Is it appropriate to ask out someone I met while participating in his experiment? [more inside]
posted by Guelder on May 27, 2016 - 5 answers

Yes really! Really!

Have you experienced relationships with people who respond to (what feels like) everything you say with, “Really?...” or with some variation of (benign?) incredulity? [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill on May 27, 2016 - 72 answers

How can you tell if you're being manipulative?

How can you tell if you're being manipulative? [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger on May 19, 2016 - 24 answers

A mother's love = a worrywart lacking perspective?

I get it, mothers worry, but I feel like my overprotective mother never stopped being overprotective. Are her reactions simply motherly love or is she verging on being manipulative? [more inside]
posted by blerghamot on May 7, 2016 - 36 answers

Should I bring up an issue of listening skills after one date?

I value listening skills in a partner. I was surprised to find that a man who was responsive, curious and affirming via online message didn't bring the conversational energy I expected when we met in person. Can I communicate this to him after our first date? [more inside]
posted by ramenopres on May 1, 2016 - 18 answers

What happened?

Me, a freewheeling abstractist who loves creating narratives; she, a ultra-present, literalist with eidetic memory who see things as they are. I pissed her off tonight, where did I go wrong? [more inside]
posted by pakoothefakoo on Apr 30, 2016 - 41 answers

Dance "hacks"?

Ok, "hack" seems like a gross word for dancing. But someone said, make eye contact with your dance partner and track their head. And it really helped... [more inside]
posted by zeek321 on Apr 24, 2016 - 10 answers

Communication is too hard. I almost want to stop speaking altogether.

Why is it that when I'm among people who presumably share my political perspective or experience, that my comments are always understood completely opposite to my intended meaning? Is this a thing? [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot on Apr 23, 2016 - 31 answers

Good idea, bad idea: Boss's horrible attitude.

Should I have a meeting with my boss and her boss about her horrible attitude and work ethic before I go on leave for a month? Way more inside. [more inside]
posted by baddecisiondinosaur on Apr 4, 2016 - 20 answers

wanting to want me ain't the real thing

Help me define and communicate my own needs with my sporadically emotionally unavailable new girlfriend. [more inside]
posted by missmary6 on Mar 29, 2016 - 16 answers

My husband won't listen to me talk about work

My husband completely shuts down when I talk to him about problems I'm having at work. This is the only topic of conversation that he automatically shuts down, in two minutes or fewer. It has been ongoing, and I feel like I have to lie and say work is "fine" when he asks, or just swallow up my negative feelings. What's going on here? [more inside]
posted by serenity_now on Mar 29, 2016 - 72 answers

Dear Crush: Did you notice that I initated?

"Hi! Just wanted you to know that if you ask me to coffee, I would say yes." [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot on Mar 28, 2016 - 18 answers

How can I keep conversations fun/ stop being so serious all the time?

For awhile now I've noticed that I have a hard time having fun, light conversation when in one-on-one conversations. When in a small group (3-4) of people joking around, I can contribute. (In a large group I mostly just stay quiet and I'm fine with that.) But when hanging out with people one-on-one, even with people who seem to be naturally jovial, the conversation tends to get really seriously and sometimes depressing. [more inside]
posted by seraph9 on Mar 16, 2016 - 10 answers

Tell me what to say when I have the relationship talk

I've been seeing a guy for four months now and I think it's time to have the relationship talk but I don't want to mostly because I have no idea how to do this at all or what to say. So please help! [more inside]
posted by cyml on Mar 14, 2016 - 8 answers

Addressing communication style

Bedside manner issue. My dentist is fantastic in every medical and practical sense, but he speaks to me like I'm a mentally challenged farm animal. How might I address this with him, and would it help? [more inside]
posted by kalapierson on Mar 1, 2016 - 22 answers

Fallen off the face of the earth

My friend has stopped communicating with everyone around them. How much should I try to get in contact? Should I leave it be? [more inside]
posted by Gordafarin on Feb 29, 2016 - 15 answers

Breaking out of the negativity cycle

I'm having trouble bringing up a bunch of small (and one or two large) issues with my wife. Now I have a laundry list of complaints and my resentment keeps growing. Help me start the conversation and keep it going in a positive way. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 27, 2016 - 33 answers

How much privacy do I owe my mentally ill sibling?

My sibling suffers from serious mental illness. At what point, and in what circumstances, is it okay for me to reveal this to people? (Sorry, this is long.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 5, 2016 - 25 answers

Sometimes, being honest means being angry

I need to have a serious, and potentially hard conversation with a loved one pretty soon, which I am terrible at. Please give me some strategies to express my disappointments and frustration in a healthy, effective way. [more inside]
posted by Chuck Barris on Feb 2, 2016 - 37 answers

Potentially codependent roommate driving me nuts.

Found this guy on craigslist in a city where for a number of reasons (high rates of hard drug use among them) it is very difficult to find a competent roommate. I am completely certain he will be a safe roommate to live with, which is paramount, but after knowing him for just a few days, I have already been feeling really drained. I don't think he's a bad person. Help me understand wtf is going on, and how to best cope with it. [more inside]
posted by a knot unknown on Jan 31, 2016 - 28 answers

Deaf accommodations for a discussion group?

A deaf acquaintance will be attending a discussion group I run, and she doesn't have cochlear implants. I have no idea what I'm doing, and I want to maximize awesomeness. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 on Jan 27, 2016 - 15 answers

What Research is There on Technology, Communication, and Empathy?

I've been thinking a lot about empathy and the way we communicate on the Internet. What research, studies, books, articles, etc. should I be reading? Special snowflake requirements: I studied Psych 101, so it's gotta be on my damn fool BA in English level of understanding.
posted by SansPoint on Jan 14, 2016 - 5 answers

Seeking magical incantation to make my dentist take me seriously

Twice this past year, I've gone to my dentist to check on some unusually concentrated sensitivity + discoloration in spots on my teeth, and twice I was sent home in 5 minutes with a little sample of Sensodyne. Today I had a regular cleaning/check-up, where she found decay in (surprise!) exactly the spots I pointed out previously, and admonished me for not coming in sooner (my dental plan only covers annual visits). Next time this sort of thing happens, how can I be firmer about getting things checked more thoroughly? [more inside]
posted by btfreek on Jan 11, 2016 - 15 answers

I Forgot (Or Maybe Never Learned) How to Talk to Other People

I didn't talk to other people for six months and now I offend people constantly. How can I ease back into being part of humanity and learn to talk to people in the future without completely alienating them? And perhaps recommendations for etiquette books that are suited to modernity so I can start by having a crack at those. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 5, 2016 - 12 answers

Living with a partner who has depression.

We're in this cycle, where the worse he feels, the worse he acts toward me, the worse I feel, the more I need kindness, the less he is able to provide it, the angrier I get, the worse he feels, repeat ad nauseum. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 11, 2015 - 19 answers

Maybe I suck at crossing cultures? Communication in foreign grad school.

Hello, I am in a graduate program in the USA and an American. I was accepted into a special short term program in Southern Europe and am having some communication problems with my fellow students/teammates. It's most likely a cultural thing. [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! on Dec 4, 2015 - 20 answers

Sign what?

How mutually intelligible are sign languages of the same family? And how widespread is International Sign? [more inside]
posted by Promethea on Nov 29, 2015 - 6 answers

Advice on how to offer help and let upper management know my strengths.

Our organization is in a bit of a crisis. There were issues with staff not completing their jobs (notes are incomplete/incorrect) as well as management issues (supervisors signing off on incomplete/incorrect notes). The reorg has already started. People at the top and bottom were let go and jobs reassigned. I know that with a case like this, I wouldn't know all of the details however, being in upper management, I want to help. I have a list is skills that I can offer (process improvement, creating tools, improving morale, finding inneffiencies). I am also good at learning and plowing through mundane tasks like scheduling and billing. I am good at both discrete tasks and strategy but obviously not great at everything. [more inside]
posted by PeaPod on Nov 19, 2015 - 5 answers

How much contact do you have with your SO?

Couples who have been together for more than a year and do not live or work together - how much contact do you have and what does it look like? [more inside]
posted by yawper on Oct 28, 2015 - 29 answers

Am I crazy or are they purposely ignoring me?

I feel insane for even posting about this, but my (ever-so-slight) anxiety is getting the best of me! Around two months ago, I accepted a job with a great company. It is what they are calling a "W2 contractor" position. So, I'm a W2 employee where they take care of deducting taxes from my paycheck for me, but I don't receive any health benefits, PTO, etc. etc. I'm paid hourly, and my hourly wage is well above the norm, I'm guessing to help offset the lack of benefits. Some weeks I work 40 hours, others I work 15 or so... it depends on the workload available. Essentially, it's kind of like being a part time employee. [more inside]
posted by theshmeek on Oct 16, 2015 - 5 answers

Bulk SMS in Europe using cellphone + osx

I've been looking at bulk SMS solutions for our organisation and thought I'd check with the hive. I'm using clickatell.com at the moment but it's rather bulky, so have this idea about using a flat fee mobile phone account. Let's hear what you think… [more inside]
posted by monocultured on Oct 16, 2015 - 10 answers

Nice guy is nice. Also, texting a lot.

A guy I started talking to on a dating website texts me continually after I leave work in the evenings, and now wants to talk on the phone before our first date. He's been SUPER nice and he's clearly psyched. But I feel suffocated, and our first date isn't even for another 3 days. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 14, 2015 - 44 answers

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