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What happened?

Me, a freewheeling abstractist who loves creating narratives; she, a ultra-present, literalist with eidetic memory who see things as they are. I pissed her off tonight, where did I go wrong? [more inside]
posted by pakoothefakoo on Apr 30, 2016 - 27 answers

Dance "hacks"?

Ok, "hack" seems like a gross word for dancing. But someone said, make eye contact with your dance partner and track their head. And it really helped... [more inside]
posted by zeek321 on Apr 24, 2016 - 10 answers

Communication is too hard. I almost want to stop speaking altogether.

Why is it that when I'm among people who presumably share my political perspective or experience, that my comments are always understood completely opposite to my intended meaning? Is this a thing? [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot on Apr 23, 2016 - 31 answers

Good idea, bad idea: Boss's horrible attitude.

Should I have a meeting with my boss and her boss about her horrible attitude and work ethic before I go on leave for a month? Way more inside. [more inside]
posted by baddecisiondinosaur on Apr 4, 2016 - 20 answers

wanting to want me ain't the real thing

Help me define and communicate my own needs with my sporadically emotionally unavailable new girlfriend. [more inside]
posted by missmary6 on Mar 29, 2016 - 16 answers

My husband won't listen to me talk about work

My husband completely shuts down when I talk to him about problems I'm having at work. This is the only topic of conversation that he automatically shuts down, in two minutes or fewer. It has been ongoing, and I feel like I have to lie and say work is "fine" when he asks, or just swallow up my negative feelings. What's going on here? [more inside]
posted by serenity_now on Mar 29, 2016 - 72 answers

Dear Crush: Did you notice that I initated?

"Hi! Just wanted you to know that if you ask me to coffee, I would say yes." [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot on Mar 28, 2016 - 18 answers

How can I keep conversations fun/ stop being so serious all the time?

For awhile now I've noticed that I have a hard time having fun, light conversation when in one-on-one conversations. When in a small group (3-4) of people joking around, I can contribute. (In a large group I mostly just stay quiet and I'm fine with that.) But when hanging out with people one-on-one, even with people who seem to be naturally jovial, the conversation tends to get really seriously and sometimes depressing. [more inside]
posted by seraph9 on Mar 16, 2016 - 10 answers

Tell me what to say when I have the relationship talk

I've been seeing a guy for four months now and I think it's time to have the relationship talk but I don't want to mostly because I have no idea how to do this at all or what to say. So please help! [more inside]
posted by cyml on Mar 14, 2016 - 8 answers

Addressing communication style

Bedside manner issue. My dentist is fantastic in every medical and practical sense, but he speaks to me like I'm a mentally challenged farm animal. How might I address this with him, and would it help? [more inside]
posted by kalapierson on Mar 1, 2016 - 22 answers

Fallen off the face of the earth

My friend has stopped communicating with everyone around them. How much should I try to get in contact? Should I leave it be? [more inside]
posted by Gordafarin on Feb 29, 2016 - 15 answers

Breaking out of the negativity cycle

I'm having trouble bringing up a bunch of small (and one or two large) issues with my wife. Now I have a laundry list of complaints and my resentment keeps growing. Help me start the conversation and keep it going in a positive way. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 27, 2016 - 33 answers

How much privacy do I owe my mentally ill sibling?

My sibling suffers from serious mental illness. At what point, and in what circumstances, is it okay for me to reveal this to people? (Sorry, this is long.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 5, 2016 - 25 answers

Sometimes, being honest means being angry

I need to have a serious, and potentially hard conversation with a loved one pretty soon, which I am terrible at. Please give me some strategies to express my disappointments and frustration in a healthy, effective way. [more inside]
posted by Chuck Barris on Feb 2, 2016 - 37 answers

Potentially codependent roommate driving me nuts.

Found this guy on craigslist in a city where for a number of reasons (high rates of hard drug use among them) it is very difficult to find a competent roommate. I am completely certain he will be a safe roommate to live with, which is paramount, but after knowing him for just a few days, I have already been feeling really drained. I don't think he's a bad person. Help me understand wtf is going on, and how to best cope with it. [more inside]
posted by a knot unknown on Jan 31, 2016 - 28 answers

Deaf accommodations for a discussion group?

A deaf acquaintance will be attending a discussion group I run, and she doesn't have cochlear implants. I have no idea what I'm doing, and I want to maximize awesomeness. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 on Jan 27, 2016 - 15 answers

What Research is There on Technology, Communication, and Empathy?

I've been thinking a lot about empathy and the way we communicate on the Internet. What research, studies, books, articles, etc. should I be reading? Special snowflake requirements: I studied Psych 101, so it's gotta be on my damn fool BA in English level of understanding.
posted by SansPoint on Jan 14, 2016 - 5 answers

Seeking magical incantation to make my dentist take me seriously

Twice this past year, I've gone to my dentist to check on some unusually concentrated sensitivity + discoloration in spots on my teeth, and twice I was sent home in 5 minutes with a little sample of Sensodyne. Today I had a regular cleaning/check-up, where she found decay in (surprise!) exactly the spots I pointed out previously, and admonished me for not coming in sooner (my dental plan only covers annual visits). Next time this sort of thing happens, how can I be firmer about getting things checked more thoroughly? [more inside]
posted by btfreek on Jan 11, 2016 - 15 answers

I Forgot (Or Maybe Never Learned) How to Talk to Other People

I didn't talk to other people for six months and now I offend people constantly. How can I ease back into being part of humanity and learn to talk to people in the future without completely alienating them? And perhaps recommendations for etiquette books that are suited to modernity so I can start by having a crack at those. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 5, 2016 - 12 answers

Living with a partner who has depression.

We're in this cycle, where the worse he feels, the worse he acts toward me, the worse I feel, the more I need kindness, the less he is able to provide it, the angrier I get, the worse he feels, repeat ad nauseum. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 11, 2015 - 19 answers

Maybe I suck at crossing cultures? Communication in foreign grad school.

Hello, I am in a graduate program in the USA and an American. I was accepted into a special short term program in Southern Europe and am having some communication problems with my fellow students/teammates. It's most likely a cultural thing. [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! on Dec 4, 2015 - 20 answers

Sign what?

How mutually intelligible are sign languages of the same family? And how widespread is International Sign? [more inside]
posted by Promethea on Nov 29, 2015 - 6 answers

Advice on how to offer help and let upper management know my strengths.

Our organization is in a bit of a crisis. There were issues with staff not completing their jobs (notes are incomplete/incorrect) as well as management issues (supervisors signing off on incomplete/incorrect notes). The reorg has already started. People at the top and bottom were let go and jobs reassigned. I know that with a case like this, I wouldn't know all of the details however, being in upper management, I want to help. I have a list is skills that I can offer (process improvement, creating tools, improving morale, finding inneffiencies). I am also good at learning and plowing through mundane tasks like scheduling and billing. I am good at both discrete tasks and strategy but obviously not great at everything. [more inside]
posted by PeaPod on Nov 19, 2015 - 5 answers

How much contact do you have with your SO?

Couples who have been together for more than a year and do not live or work together - how much contact do you have and what does it look like? [more inside]
posted by yawper on Oct 28, 2015 - 29 answers

Am I crazy or are they purposely ignoring me?

I feel insane for even posting about this, but my (ever-so-slight) anxiety is getting the best of me! Around two months ago, I accepted a job with a great company. It is what they are calling a "W2 contractor" position. So, I'm a W2 employee where they take care of deducting taxes from my paycheck for me, but I don't receive any health benefits, PTO, etc. etc. I'm paid hourly, and my hourly wage is well above the norm, I'm guessing to help offset the lack of benefits. Some weeks I work 40 hours, others I work 15 or so... it depends on the workload available. Essentially, it's kind of like being a part time employee. [more inside]
posted by theshmeek on Oct 16, 2015 - 5 answers

Bulk SMS in Europe using cellphone + osx

I've been looking at bulk SMS solutions for our organisation and thought I'd check with the hive. I'm using clickatell.com at the moment but it's rather bulky, so have this idea about using a flat fee mobile phone account. Let's hear what you think… [more inside]
posted by monocultured on Oct 16, 2015 - 10 answers

Nice guy is nice. Also, texting a lot.

A guy I started talking to on a dating website texts me continually after I leave work in the evenings, and now wants to talk on the phone before our first date. He's been SUPER nice and he's clearly psyched. But I feel suffocated, and our first date isn't even for another 3 days. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 14, 2015 - 44 answers

My boss hasn't paid me. It has been 3 weeks. Should I wait or quit?

I started this job 3 weeks ago and despite quitting and being re-hired, my boss has not really made enough changes to give me faith that he will pay me. I do not believe that I will get paid. [more inside]
posted by ihaveyourfoot on Oct 10, 2015 - 41 answers

What does a healthy team member-supervisor relationship look like?

After several years working for a boss who's also a friend, I've made a move to a new career and and a much more impersonal manager. I'm struggling with what to expect from my new boss and in building a professional relationship with him. What level of engagement/communication from your boss is reasonable to expect and how do you get more engagement if it's not meeting what you need? [more inside]
posted by thatquietgirl on Oct 9, 2015 - 6 answers

The best team management app for a small recreational group?

I'm looking for the best team-management tool for my recreational a cappella group. Right now we use a mishmash of email, Facebook, Google Calendar, and texting, so tons of important information slips through the cracks and we waste time trying to get everyone on the same page. I'd really like to consolidate all of these to a single, centralized platform. [more inside]
posted by shabaabk on Oct 8, 2015 - 4 answers

I need to hear you say it

I like to hear the words "I love you" more than my partner likes to say them. What to do? [more inside]
posted by puppet du sock on Oct 7, 2015 - 18 answers

Recommendations for post-divorce mortgage communication?

I need a legally-enforceable, semi "public" method for my abusive ex to communicate to me evidence of his compliance with his legal responsibilities. We are in dispute over previously shared property but I have insisted on no contact and do not wish to enable my ex to contact me over any issue but the property. I don't want him to have my email address or that of an alias/other account in case he uses that address to send abuse, threats, or any other kind of unnecessary and unwanted correspondence. [more inside]
posted by LetticeLeaf on Oct 6, 2015 - 18 answers

Behavior specialist paging system

Looking for an app that will allow my colleagues to page me/notify me easily when they need me to come to their classes. I work at a small private school in Texas. [more inside]
posted by superlibby on Sep 4, 2015 - 5 answers

My mother's passive aggression hurts me. How to deal?

My mom is a lovely, intelligent, caring person. She also has lifelong untreated dysthymia. What's the best way to deal with her frequent, subtle passive aggression? (Wall of detail inside, feel free to skip to TL;DR if you have general advice for coping with passive aggression in family context.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 2, 2015 - 21 answers

Is my plan to change careers feasible? If not, how can I improve it?

Objective: Career change to technical writing. Obstacles: My current demanding job. Needing to relocate to place that actually has technical writing jobs. **Please help me determine the feasibility of my plan to relocate and change my career. Details inside.** [more inside]
posted by glass.hourousha on Aug 16, 2015 - 9 answers

Straw poll: Do you prefer questions at your desk vs phonecall vs email?

Do you mind if co-workers simply drop by your desk to ask you a question or give you info? Do you prefer getting impromptu questions from one of these channels over the others --> in person, phonecall, email, instant message? [more inside]
posted by watrlily on Aug 13, 2015 - 68 answers

Dysfunctional family business filter, please listen to your employees

How do we tell our boss (my father) that there are serious problems in our family’s business when he refuses to listen or acknowledge the problems? [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! on Aug 13, 2015 - 15 answers

Help me get a massage

I've been getting massages from a chain here in TX for about a year, not always with the same therapist, but occasionally I'll get the same one. I sort of enjoy it, but not very much, and I don't leave with that feeling of "aaahhhhhh" that I hear about from other folks. I assume it must be me. Please help me to enjoy this experience! [more inside]
posted by blurker on Aug 11, 2015 - 15 answers

I get frustrated. He shuts down. It gets worse. Please help.

After a minor argument grew into a very stressful situation for both of us today, my boyfriend and I finally figured out a few things that have been contributing to a destructive pattern of behavior (basically, my emotions stress him out, he shuts down, I become more frustrated because he is unavailable to me). At first I felt empowered by our breakthroughs. Now I feel discouraged. Please help. [more inside]
posted by NeverGrowSoOldAgain on Aug 8, 2015 - 53 answers

Communication vs Communications

A recent question here involved a job title with the word Communications in it. I thought, from the job description, that Communication (no s) was the more appropriate word--but apparently I was wrong. Can someone explain why? [more inside]
posted by mpark on Jul 22, 2015 - 9 answers

Boyfriend thinks therapy is a waste and other issues?

I asked my boyfriend why he changed his thougts on me going to therapy. He used to think it was a waste of time and money, and it turns out, he still thinks it is. This lead to a series of very dysfunctional conversations and I know I now feel very uncomfortable. I don't really understand how he feels or what even happened during that evening. I need help figuring out what happened because I feel lost. [more inside]
posted by AdriftInSpace on Jul 19, 2015 - 48 answers

workplace woes: my boss seems to love correcting + debating minutia

During unofficial, in-between-meetings office banter, I tend to speak "loosely" and casually, giving estimates instead of precise directives. Everyone does this -- it's normal in many breezy conversational settings. Unfortunately, my boss seems to love correcting people or debating minute points, even when they're just riffing informally. I'll be spitballing hypothetically and he'll take that as a super literal representation. I need tips on how to deal! [more inside]
posted by doctordrey on Jul 16, 2015 - 23 answers

"Hacks" filter: white-collar office work

What are your tips for being the kind of person who thrives and is well-liked in an office environment? [more inside]
posted by reshet on Jul 9, 2015 - 37 answers

How can I communicate about intimacy issues?

I've been actively dating and having intimate encounters, but it's hard for me to address my sexual limitations and lack of experience with new partners. How to deal? [more inside]
posted by cosmicbeast on Jul 2, 2015 - 13 answers

Trouble Talking with Parents About Planning for Their Future

My siblings and I know that we need to talk with our retirement-age/elderly parents about their finances, end-of-life-directives, wishes, and plans for the future before they get sick or too old. So far, both parents are healthy, but we want to start the ball rolling before any crises emerge. However, the dysfunction in our family is getting in our way. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 1, 2015 - 5 answers

Poor social skills filter: Can this friendship be resurrected?

I think I irreparably messed up my relationship with a close friend from the past. Is there anything else I can/should do at this point, or should I just move on? [more inside]
posted by genmonster on Jun 30, 2015 - 12 answers

boyfriend refuses to talk about sex

special snowflake details and lots of confusion within... [more inside]
posted by megan_magnolia on Jun 29, 2015 - 15 answers

They don't want to be in Supper Club anymore, but won't say it

My husband and I have been part of a 4-couple Supper Club that we've really valued. (Let's call the 8 members Couple A, Couple B, and Couple C, and us.) From late 2008 on, we'd meet every 6-8 weeks or so at each of the couple's homes on a rotating basis, and would all bring a dish to share according to a dinner theme selected by the hosts. It was very fun, the food was outstanding, and getting the 8 of us together was something we used to look forward to until... [more inside]
posted by hush on Jun 25, 2015 - 23 answers

How Long Until They Knew Who Won The Battles?

I'm interested in better understanding the rate at which data transmission has increased through human history. I would like to graph this to understand better how to compare ancient events with modern based on how long it would take an idea to filter through a population at a given time. I know this is a tall order, and so I've settled on one variable that I think will be useful for me: the speed at which the results of a battle were relayed back to the relevant parties. [more inside]
posted by jefficator on Jun 20, 2015 - 7 answers

Technology Solution for Targeted Communications

Do you know of a technology tool that would allow us to write a single newsletter, and then generate different versions of it to send only relevant articles to specific audiences? Full details inside... [more inside]
posted by LolaGeek on Jun 15, 2015 - 3 answers

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