I can't seem to find straight information on the internet! Our son is in a 12-kid in-home daycare five days a week--it's run by the owner, her mom, and two other women. We're in the D.C. suburbs. Should we be giving them a tip for the holidays and, if so, how much? Many thanks!
How do I ask my boss not to prominently display the Christmas tree she put up in our public library? [more inside]
I just bought tickets to Hamilton in Chicago as a Christmas gift for my significant other. Since Ticketmaster won't deliver tickets (e-tickets at that) until shortly before the show, I'd like to get a playbill from the Chicago show for them to open on Christmas morning. I have no idea where to look to get one. Any ideas? [more inside]
My brother is an alcoholic/rageaholic and I'm working on cutting him out of my life - this is wreaking havoc on all my family relationships. I'm frightened to travel home for Christmas, but not sure what to do to get around the holiday. My instinct is not to go. My therapist suggests my brother and I schedule separate holiday celebrations with my parents. How do i do this? [more inside]
My boyfriend is being sooper nice to me while in grad school and I want to surprise him with a pre-getaway getaway. [more inside]
The Grandparents sent our kids gifts that are ridiculously wrong for them. Do I return them ASAP and buy things they would actually like? Do I address this with them? [more inside]
In the past year I've become very close with two people in my book club, let's call them A and B; the other two, C and D, are great, but have not shown capacity or interest in keeping in touch between monthly meetings. It's nearing Christmastime and I want to make gifts for A and B to express my affection and gratitude for their friendship. BUT I'm worried about it coming up later ("Oh, those ___ are so cute!" "Thanks, anonymous gave them to me!") and it resulting in hurt feelings. [more inside]
How much should I give the staff of my luxury condo building in Brooklyn in Christmas bonuses? [more inside]
It's my turn to come up with a surprise advent activity, and I'm running out of steam! Help me find a short, seasonally-appropriate thing to do with my fiance. [more inside]
I can't stand my sister's boyfriend. He's coming for Christmas. They're inseparable. Now what? [more inside]
My brother and I would like to give my parents a large chunk of cash this Christmas with the intent that they use it to travel. How do we do this most effectively? [more inside]
Is there a way to approach unequal staff Christmas presents at my workplace that will not come off as me being jackassy?
Is there a way to approach unequal staff Christmas presents at my workplace that will not come off as me being jackassy? [more inside]
How can I present my intended with a Christmas gift that is in no way an engagement ring? Degree of difficulty: its packaging absolutely screams, "this is an engagement ring!" [more inside]
Little help with Christmas proposal ideas? [more inside]
Please hope me. Christmas is important to my mother, but it over the last few years it has turned into something that she can’t stand. It has gotten to the point that she doesn’t even want to have the Traditional Family Christmas at their house anymore. She loves Christmas and this is breaking her heart. Our family needs the help of Metafilter. This is anonymous because there’s enough drama already. Christmassy flurries within. [more inside]
How do I handle the reaction of my family and (people I thought of as) close friends to the news of my divorce? Lots of special snowflakes ahead. [more inside]
Thanks to Anthony Bourdain, after an entire life of ignorance I now know about the Catalan traditions of Tió de Nadal ("pooping log") and Caganer. [more inside]
I want to get my husband an online subscription to a porn website for Christmas. But I don't have the wherewithal to sift through all the google results that will likely appear if I try to google to find what I want. Please help me find what I'm looking for! [more inside]
My brother-in-law may be back on drugs, or possibly beginning to show symptoms of mental illness. He's recently become verbally abusive to my mother-in-law. He's also been invited up for Christmas with the rest of the in-laws. Of course, things are complicated. [more inside]
Best Christmas gifts for nearly impoverished older family members (location: northern New Mexico). [more inside]
Nobody's walking out on this fun, old-fashioned family Christmas. No, no. We're all in this together.
How can you "fake it" or "power through it" or "put on a brave face" to make the holidays as normal as possible, when other people depend on it? [more inside]
How to handle unwanted pity and an irrational perceived slight? [more inside]
Is there a way to tactfully ask my mother to host Christmas this year? [more inside]
Is it reasonable that I want my husband's family to know about his unemployment? [more inside]
What should two atheists do for christmas? I will be 2692km away from my family, and 1204 km from my closest friends. My boyfriend is a "christmas is exactly like any other day" kind of guy (for example, he neither wants to receive gifts or give them, because he finds choosing gifts way too stressful), but he loves me and wants me to be happy, so he'll go along with any not-too-over-the-top plan. We also don't have a lot of money. I do want to do *something* nice though, so that I don't feel sad/neglected/lonely/left out, and eating icecream + watching a DVD seems a little too low-key...
'Tis the season, yet again. Please recommend some lovely holiday gifts I can give that are useful, not wasteful. Picky specifics inside! [more inside]
Help me find that perfect novel for a Christmas present. [more inside]
Christmas with parents or with friends? [more inside]
looking to deck the halls with homemade liquor (infused vodkas, lemoncello, something like that) - but now how to get it through the mail. [more inside]
What's the best way to stand up to my mother about Christmas and to handle her jealousy about our better relationship with my partner's parents? She's determined to make the holiday season into a zero sum game with my partner's mother [more inside]
My husband lost his job, we're not sure how we're going to pay the rent in January, and my family is being assholes about Christmas gifts. [more inside]
I've got nowhere to go for Christmas and nobody to celebrate it with. Every place I could use to distract myself is closed. The soup kitchens already have too many volunteers. Plus I have no car. I'm going to be bored as hell. What to do? [more inside]
Holiday gift giving dilemma: I have two half-sisters. One always thanks me for gifts. The other rarely does. How to remain on good terms with both, but not feel like a chump? [more inside]
My sister and I want to do a gift-free Christmas. What rules should we set? And how do we break the news to our mom? She's big on bargain hunting and spoiling us, so we're sure she's not going to take this well. [more inside]
How can I have a Christmas dinner delivered anonymously? [more inside]
My family members decided to suddenly start celebrating Christmas this year. I feel weird about it. Help me deal with these changes. [more inside]
I missed my two brothers-in-laws' birthdays, and one of my sisters is mad at me. I'll see everyone at Christmas. Help me make things right and prevent family drama. [more inside]
Looking for the definitive recipe for "figgy pudding". [more inside]
Should I try to convince my aunt that one person's Christmas present can make a difference? [more inside]
My girlfriend gave me an iPod Nano for Christmas but I was going to ask for a iPod 60GB for my birthday. What can I do? [more inside]
Money was tight for Christmas this year, and thus I asked Family and Friends to not get me any gifts, as I wasn't able to reciprocate. Inevitably, some did, and now I feel awful (as I knew I would) that I wasn't able to get them anything in return. So, I'm wondering if anyone can help me work out posthumous gifts I can make on a very tight budget. [more inside]
Can you name a reasonable price for a late wedding ring? Family Drama Inside! Come Look! --> [more inside]
What to do about Holiday Depression-related Decision. I have a pair of tickets for me and my partner to travel to my parents' home and then on to a tropical place. My partner is in a very low point and no longer wants to go because everything seems overwhelming. Do I go alone (which would be sad and possibly leave my partner at risk of deeper depression)? Do I cancel for both? Do I cut the first part of the trip off and try to explain to my family (who knows about depression but doesn't "get" it)? [more inside]
Should Christmas really be "merry"? Can't the origin of the decline of this sacred day, as a sacred day be traced to couching it as a "merry" or "happy," rather than something "good" or something similarly sober?
My best friend, who lives about 300 miles away from me, and I had made plans to get together for Christmas, along with our other best friend, for whom I paid 600 bucks to fly out here so we all could be together. Now 300-mile away best friend has e-mailed me with a weak excuse and cancelled his visit here. I know he's not adjusting well to his new home, and seems to be isolating himself from everyone, including me. I'm hurt and angry. How best to address this situation?