I want to have kids, my wife doesn't. The discussion is over so I'm now facing the reality that one of my life goals will never happen. This is really difficult to come to terms with. How do I let it go, not resent my wife and live a fulfilling life possibly with a missing piece? [more inside]
My husband and I are in our early 30's. He is in a big hurry to start a family, believes that our window of time is rapidly closing and feels that soon it will be too late. I am not ready for this, and do not share his sense of urgency. I've told him that if it were up to me, I would postpone trying to conceive for one more year, but if that would be a deal breaker for him, I would suck it up and start trying now. He does not want to force me, but fears that if I'm not ready now I may never be ready. How do we find our way through this quagmire of emotions and practical considerations? [more inside]
So I recently met and started dating a guy (let's call him Chris) who makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. Which is good! I could go on about it, but that's not really what the question's about, so...just be assured that we're having fun and he's been nothing but kind to me so far. But I have noticed, I guess enough times to notice, him not speaking positively of other people in his life. I don't know how to respond when he makes negative comments, especially if it has anything to do with his (young adult) kids, for various awkward reasons. [more inside]
I want to introduce my four year old to (origin) myths from around the globe. Looking for a charmingly illustrated book, It doesn't have to be comprehensive (of course) but should have a decent international spread. Does this exist?
Are young adults nostalgic for Barney and Friends? [more inside]
My 8-year-old son is obsessed with Minecraft, and has announced that he would like to create video games when he grows up. My own IT skills topped out around 1982 when I learned to write programs in Basic that printed my name in an endless goto loop. What technologies/languages/apps can I introduce him to in order to leverage his enthusiasm and channel it to something that teaches him age-appropriate programming skills? Assume second-grade math and logic skills and no programming background whatsoever.
My partner and Ex had a kid. The Ex moved out of the city a number of years ago, living in various other places. Kid has always lived in this city. When he exercises visitation, Ex drives into the city to pick up the kid on Saturdays, drops the kid off on Sundays. Currently, the drive to where Ex lives is 2 hrs, each way. Ex is remarrying and converting religions and as such says he will no longer be able to drive on Saturdays to pick up the kid. Ex wants us to drive the kid to him. We find this nuts, and think the onus is on the Ex to figure out a way to transport the kid. Ex is not interested in exploring alternative visitation plans not involving Saturday driving, he wants the existing schedule to continue. Location – Ontario. You are not my lawyer- I’m not asking for legal advice, but what’s your take?
What are some ways that a parent recovering from serious depression can let their young children know that they are loved and treasured? [more inside]
I've been trying and failing to come up with some good opportunities for my partner to get more comfortable around children (think newborn to 8 yrs old) but that don't involve a career change or taking on a full-time job. He has just about zero experience supervising children. Details after the jump! [more inside]
I am trying to create symbols and images that children can associate with certain words. Can you help me come up with all the visuals that come to mind for the words "advisor" and "luxury" (these are the two that I am stuck on because of how complex and non-accessible for children they can be)?
I’m ordering 300ish books for a children’s library. After reading this thread asking for books featuring feminist-anti-racist-queer-ally characters I realised that our collection is full of books focusing on straight, white (usually male) youth in nuclear families and it’s seriously lacking. Can you folks recommend any books to help me improve our collection? [more inside]
Our adopted child has a crazy need for control and we're worried about how it will impact their socialization in school. [more inside]
What are some fun things a family can do together while waiting in long lines? [more inside]
I live in an apartment that's very close to the next building over. In that building, there's a family with a kid i initially thought was a toddler... he's actually 5-6. Every day at the strike of 8 they open all their windows and the kid runs around the house screaming. He also does this for hours after school/summer camp. [more inside]
Did you grow up with a chronically-ill sibling? Were you the chronically-ill child? Or the parent to this type of sibling set? How did it affect you growing up? I'd love to hear more about your experiences. [more inside]
We are moving and I need to get a new swingset for my kids. They love our current one, but I got it off of craigslist, so I don't have a brand or anything to look for another version of it. I looked online, but the selection is ridiculous so I was wondering if people had any particular brands to look for or avoid to help me narrow things down. Thanks! (details about what we want in a set are inside) [more inside]
My husband is terminally ill and probably won't live more than 6 months. We have a 7 year old son. What will it be like for our son to live at home while his father continues to decline and during his eventual death at home? [more inside]
My brother just had a baby (the first in our family). And I would like to give him the same book to read to his son that my father read to us as children (in the later 80s). Unfortunately my memory is unclear on many things related to the book. So, hopefully someone with a good memory can help out! [more inside]
Our daughter just finished her first year of Spanish in a full-immersion kindergarten. We're looking for good all-Spanish TV shows we can show her (and my wife, who wants to learn) over the summer so she doesn't forget it all. [more inside]
This past weekend a dark brown blotch appeared on my daughter's finger. It kind of looks like someone took a brown marker and just dabbed it quickly. My daughter wouldn't let us touch it at first and she kind of acted like it hurt but wouldn't confirm or deny it hurting. There is no difference in texture to the skin - it's not a scab. It's just discoloration. [more inside]
My nearly 5-year-old daughter has shoulder-length hair that is thin and prone to tangling. It's beautiful but she screams bloody murder and/or gripes the entire time it's being combed. Every time. I would like to have it cut shorter and/or make significant changes to the combing routine, but it's a sensitive topic, and I think my wife is a little too attached to her having longer hair than she needs to. [more inside]
That sounds like an academic paper title, and I've read a lot in the last couple of days. My twelve-year-old son is having issues with the above, and has come to me to ask for help to manage impulsive choices. [more inside]
So the issue is this: I would like some ideas about how an organisation helping children by educating them, making them do sports, etc. can obtain money for the electricity, food, maintenance. [more inside]
According to this chart, my four year old daughter's drawing skills are still at age two, though she possibly has drawn her first head-and-legs figures (if so, I didn't recognise them). I think she may be reluctant to draw. A relative says I should be worrying about this. Should I? [more inside]
I'm a native English speaking ESL tutor in Taiwan. I've recently been hired to teach a 5.5 year old (social studies and reading.) His parents are insisting that he read from books aimed at 9-12 year old native speakers. This kid is bright, but his reading comprehension is nowhere near a native speaking kid 5 years older than him. I don't have any formal training in teaching young kids and only about a year of job experience but this seems like a terrible idea. What are arguments I can use to convince the parents to give him material that is more in line with his abilities? [more inside]
My quite bright 9-year-old son has repeatedly expressed great enthusiasm and curiosity about learning to code. I would be delighted to help him, but I'd appreciate a little advice about how to go about that. [more inside]
My 8 year old son LOVES history. He also loves audiobooks and podcasts as he can listen whilst doing his other great love - Lego! Can anybody recommend good history podcasts aimed specifically at primary school aged children? I would also appreciate details of any other good age appropriate podcasts that you think he would enjoy. Thanks!
What are some good guidelines for talking to kids about their parent's upcoming prison term? [more inside]
How do you get kids to do things that are initially scary like riding a bike, going swimming, going to a new class aside from just telling them "it's ok!", "it's fun!", "you can do it!"? Are there strategies you use to build courage for kids with more naturally careful personalities?
Dear hive mind, I'm a 48 year old father of a 5 year old daughter. My life is pretty okay, in terms of marriage, health, work. But I cannot seem to enjoy all the good things (of which there are plenty) out of anxiousness that my child will maybe not have a great life. [more inside]
We are in the middle of buying a house that has no bathtub - just a shower. I have two smallish children. Give me some bathing solutions, please! [more inside]
My daughter (~6) tried to sneak a diaper from her brother (~2) to wear at night. Hrmm. [more inside]
We have two girls, currently 3.75 and 7. We are seriously considering a third, and hope to time his or her arrival around the time our younger is 5.5. How has a larger space between kids or sets of kids worked for you? Did the younger child or children feel a part of the older one's lives? [more inside]
I live in the back corner of an apartment building that borders on the backyards of multiple house-neighbors on the perpendicular side street to mine. The people opposite me have elementary-age children and let them stay in the yard for hours with minimal/no supervision. The children's friends come to visit and they all get a kick out of wreaking tiny havoc directly on the other side of my apartment. I am at a loss for nipping this in the bud. Help! [more inside]
My favorite quote is, "[God has] hidden these things from the wise and learned, and revealed them to little children." I'm looking for art, literature, and quotes with the same idea. [more inside]
I'm putting together a book for a very little girl who is going through a princess phase, hoping to expand her idea of who a princess can be - e.g., "Here's Princess Sophie - she worked for the World Childhood Foundation." Most of the lists of favorite princesses are Disney characters, and others are too specific to an era or kingdom. I realize that this project is subject to criticism, but I'm thinking of it as a "Yes, and..." contribution to her enthusiasm. Can you name me some good role model princesses?
Logistical masterminds and cat people: is it possible to give my son a specific breed kitten as a surprise for his birthday? [more inside]
How do I protect my small from teh pr0n? [more inside]
Hi there, [disclaimer: i love children] I'm an adult and go to a local indoor gym that is short on space and so members are often milling around within close proximity of each other. It's a specialty gym that's actually geared toward adults, and so imagine my surprise when within the last few months enrollment with the primary and middle school crowd spiked and now the gym has become overrun with poorly behaved children from 1PM - 5 PM (the only time I can use the gym). Switching my schedule is not an option. I've noticed that many women in general tend to take an instant dislike to me, but these primary and middle school girls seem to think that they're among peers and have been targeting me in rude ways. [more inside]
Is this normal? I often have anxiety about my kids. I need perspective. [more inside]
I basically want to sob on my couch at how childlike children are and how much parents love them beyond words. [more inside]
In light of the recent earthquakes, I am looking for the best and easiest way to setup a page that accepts donations for a small, local, Nepali nonprofit. [more inside]
Trying to remember two separate Alaska kids' books I used to read all the time that have somehow gotten lost over the years. [more inside]
Gluten and dairy sensitivity: Kids edition [more inside]
My 7-week old baby doesn't nap. She sleeps pretty well at night, but terribly during the day. How do we fix this? [more inside]
We are currently expecting our second child at the end of September. Our current child is a boy and we have recently learned that our second child will be a girl. Is there any research-based evidence on whether opposite sex siblings should share a room? [more inside]
If you had no ties to your community, family, or career and your only purpose in life was to make certain that your children had the best public school education possible, where would you live? [more inside]
Are my kids forever damaged? Can I teach them to show love? [more inside]
I asked the love of my life to marry me this weekend, and he said yes! But what's the best way to tell the other love of my life, my 6 year old son? [more inside]
My daughter needs to increase her vegetable intake, but refuses to eat most veggies. What recipes will allow us to disguise her vegetables in other foods? [more inside]