My overthinking things was making me unhappy... so I cut way back on it, and now I'm enjoying life more. Yay! But now I'm way less tolerant of the same behavior in family and loved ones; trying to ignore it leads to awkward, anxiety-producing silences. Boo. Insert your advice here. [more inside]
I am trying to find examples (essays, articles, etc.) of previous generations complaining about the work ethic of the younger generation. It doesn't matter how far back it i
In the next few weeks, I will need to attend a series of late-running formal dinners... with a five-year-old in tow. Please recommend your most magical, engrossing, dinner-table-friendly activity books, games, small toys, etc. for the early school-aged set, so we can keep her quietly in her seat and out of everyone's hair. [more inside]
I am watching my stepson's daughter every other weekend and I don't want to anymore. [more inside]
As future parents and first time homebuyers, what aren't we thinking about, or under-emphasizing/over-emphasizing, in trying to pick a home to raise (two) kids in? What should we consider in deciding on house versus condo, location, neighborhood, size, layout, features, etc? [more inside]
I have read articles about herd immunity and I understand the concept. But, boots on the ground, should I worry about my vaccinated son occasionally playing with a partially vaccinated 4-year-old and a completely unvaccinated 2-year-old? We're all pretty mindful of staying away when the children show signs of illness. I am interested in both medical information and how other parents have navigated this potential risk.
What can I do as a parent to help my child build persistence, self-discipline, high standards, and work ethic? [more inside]
I’m looking for books (fiction and non-fiction) about children dealing with narcissistic parents. The kind of parents I want to read about will present a perfect front to the outside world, but in private will emotionally abuse their children to serve their own needs. These parents are attention seekers, self-pitying, deny that hurtful incidents occurred (gaslighting), play family members off against each other, are infantile and manipulative, are obsessed by others having a positive view of them, undermine their children’s autonomy, disregarding their privacy and personal space (give their possessions away, denigrate them in public, eat food off their plates) – but ALWAYS claim that the abuse is for the child’s own good and are usually seen by other adults as very good parents. The abused offspring I want to read about – both children and adults – become compulsive caretakers, are frequently confused by their parent’s behaviour, learn not to trust their own feelings and experience overwhelming feelings of inadequacy. For a long time they may be duped into believing the myth that their parent is loving and that they (the child) are the cause of their own unhappiness. If possible I would like books that focus entirely on emotional abuse rather than it being part of a broader spectrum of abuse. Thank you!
Tell me about your daily schedules, parenting logistics, etc., with a newborn plus a toddler or older child. [more inside]
Being without children myself and not that well versed on what they need/want or the big trends right now, i need suggestions for the following gifts i need to buy in the next month or so: gift for a premature baby boy (or his mum); gift for a 2yr old girl; gift for my soon to be arriving nephew [more inside]
What would happen to my son if 911 were called for me? [more inside]
Did you grow up with parent(s) who loved you but were not around a lot? How did that impact you and the person you are today? How did it impact your relationship with you parents? What do you wish your parent(s) did differently? Do you think it is every possible to have a healthy family situation with parents who are gone a lot? [more inside]
I'm a mother (of a toddler) who works part time and is looking to make some extra money. I've considered babysitting jobs, but aside from raising my own son, I don't have much experience with kids aside from babysitting jobs I had when I was a teenager. No recent references. Could I get hired? [more inside]
Seeking resources for a friend who is mom to a (possibly transgender) questioning 5-year-old boy. [more inside]
Children's novel: Protagonist is the son of deceased missionaries, retaining only a comforter and a photograph. He lives with an aunt and uncle, and the plot concerns his reintegration into non-missionary society. Setting is an island in New England, and there are scenes of driving on the ice in the winter to get to the mainland. [more inside]
Have you discovered your child has seen online pornography? What did you do about it? [more inside]
Books, forums, ??, for adult children of abusive parents who have (undiagnosed) cognitive and emotional issues?
What are some informative self-help books and other resources (preferably online or UK-based) for adults dealing with abusive parents who have undiagnosed cognitive deficits and are emotionally stunted? [more inside]
How to keep daily family friction from escalating into end of the world drama daily? [more inside]
Why do parents refer to themselves in 3rd person when talking to their young children? [more inside]
My husband and I are only children, and we're now expecting our second child. We're very excited, but we are also a little nervous. We'd love advice from only child parents of multiple kids, suggestions about books and websites, etc.
If you come from a religious family but are no longer religious yourself: what sort of spiritual upbringing did you have? Did any factors in your home religious life contribute to your decision to leave? [more inside]
Want to start school and get our life on track, but how? I've made some mistakes in college by not showing up an entire semester so my GPA is 1.05, even the lower university's here in TN like austin peay won't take me because my grades suck. I live a hour away from the two community colleges in my area. I also have to figure out how I'm going to give my family a place to live, I lost my job in missouri and moved down to TN with my mom. [more inside]
Can you recommend well-written blogs/sites of parents who run their own businesses? There are a TON of results on Google and I just can't sift through them all, so I thought I'd ask here. Blogs by parents who have very young children are great and ones that have very young children AND a full-time day job while trying to start their own business up would be excellent. [more inside]
I always thought I wanted kids. Then I spent ten days alone with my niece, and now I am pretty sure I would rather have a hole in my head. Am I rightly discouraged? Or am I just getting cold feet? [more inside]
My parents are always manipulating me, and I need to break away. Long story inside. [more inside]
How can I maintain some optimism about my child's future, given the crappy crappy world we live in? [more inside]
Found long lost dad - now what? [more inside]
It's been almost three years since my mother died, and my father has slowly been working himself back into seeing new people, but it's starting to cause major family drama. I'm 23 and live on my own in a different city, so this doesn't bother me much. But my 17 year old sister still lives with him, and she's really upset that this is going on. To make matters worse, the latest person he's seeing is my sister's favorite teacher from school. What can my dad do to ease this transition for my sister? What do both people deserve here? [more inside]
What kinds of fun things can we do at a social event for single parents and their kids with no booze? [more inside]
How do you talk to young children about a parent's depression? [more inside]
I want to read fictional and/or true stories about people being put into positions of responsibility unexpectedly for extended periods of time and how they deal with it. [more inside]
Parents of many children: Help me find parents that chose to have many children for purely secular reasons. [more inside]
If your parents divorced when you were a kid, how do you now wish they'd handled it? [more inside]
Parentsfilter - I have split up with the father of my child and are now trying to sort out visiting rights and times. Advice please.... [more inside]
How do I best get acquainted, and develop a good relationship, with my boyfriends' kids? [more inside]
Books for parents. Which one is your bible? [more inside]
Adoption? Foster parents? What are the options for two neglected children of a crack addict mother? [more inside]
Help me tell my nearly 3-yr old about his new sibling. The baby is due in early August. Since we'll tell the grandparents over Christmas, should we tell our son first so he can take part in the excitement too? Or keep it secret because it's too far away for him to understand? I remember being quite jealous at age 5 when my own brother was born so I'm nervous about this whole transition. Parents of mefi, share your stories! What worked, what didn't?
ParentFilter: I've a 17 mo old child, and I'd like suggestions as to activities to educate and entertain him. [more inside]
Do you regret not having children? [more inside]