ParentFilter: My five-year-old son has a lot of questions about the police. (Also the army, but mostly the police.) He wants to know who the police are, why do they come, who goes to jail, are the police the good guys, do they get the bad guys -- that sort of thing. [more inside]
What are some good consumable gifts for children? [more inside]
I am struggling with explaining the origin of life, evolution and natural selection in a tangible way to my kids 4 & 5. Informing myself better has helped in the explaining, but I hope you can direct me towards videos aimed at young children which do a better job. Those I have found online are great for adults and slightly older kids, but level of detail is off-putting for them e.g. From the big bang to me, great video, but slightly too advanced.
Do children with Tourette's rages eventually improve? [more inside]
My wife and I met late and are now in our mid-40s. Having gone through early menopause, it's too late for us to have kids. She's very distraught about this (my feelings are more mixed) and feels like she's failed at the one thing that gives life purpose. What can I do to help? [more inside]
I would like your best suggestions for children's clapping/singing games, with a birthday theme. Think K-1st grade, circle-type games. Thanks!
I will be getting my child an IPod Touch and my only concern is her access to the internet. We have wireless internet at home and from reading about the IPod Touch I understand she will have access to the internet. So do any of you have experience with a really good filter for that? I want it so that nothing inappropriate will pop up. [more inside]
I have a couple of days to hang with my awesome 6-year-old nephew in Auckland, NZ. What should we do and where should we go? [more inside]
My family is about to welcome child #2. We have a 2 year old who is about to be a sister. We have done some preparing, but not enough (did I mention we have a 2 year old?). What are your hottest tips 'n' tricks for making life easier in the 1st year of having a second child? [more inside]
My ex and I share custody of our three children. She is very lenient and doting; I encourage self-reliance and responsibility within a structured framework. She is a helicopter, I am a safety net. [more inside]
Will it be best for my kids in the long run? Will the inevitable guilt and loneliness be better than staying with a seemingly unchangeable loveless unhappy marriage? [more inside]
I was recently at a gathering with a group of younger (ages 4 to 7) kids, and a lot of time was spent keeping them from getting too wound up. Asking them to quiet down, or not to run around and scream, to take a breath slowly, etc. But what would happen if you purposefully wound them up? [more inside]
I'm looking for a awesome ski resort in the U.S. or Canada. My kids are 5 and 7 and have never been skiing. I would love to give them an amazing experience in February. I don't mind paying a premium for awesome lodging / amenities. We would be traveling from Austin Texas. Any recommendations for a kid friendly resort?
My son is 12, and starting to participate in online communities. Right now, the only community he's interacting with is 4 friends of his from school; they play Minecraft. But I suspect this will soon change. [more inside]
We're considering taking out two girls to Disneyland next spring, when they'll be 7 and 3 1/2. Is this too young? [more inside]
My four year old son is showing a lot of interest in our cameras, and I'd like to get him one of his own. I'm looking for recommendations from parents whose kid(s) have had and used one for a while and had a good experience with it. [more inside]
When I was a kid, I got Ranger Rick and Dynamite and Highlights and Cricket and a bunch of other magazines in my name, and it was thrilling for me. Well, Christmas time is rolling around and I have a couple of new kids in my life, a girl age 5 and a boy age 8, and I'd like to get them actual physical magazine subscriptions because that's fun and exciting. What kids magazines actually still exist today as physical get-in-the-mail products? Im looking for a wide range of interests so I can work from a broad pool of possibilities.
Tonight was a rough night in our house. My picky, small three year-old once again ate two bites of dinner and turned his nose up at what I'd made for him. I got upset and berated him. I feel bad about this and want to figure out what to do. [more inside]
My daughter is 5 and starting kindergarten and music lessons. I cannot lie: in these and her future...I dunno, endeavors I guess you would call them, I want her to do well. I want her to put effort in and take pleasure in her efforts. But I don't know how to foster this in her and it's time I started figuring it out. [more inside]
I'm looking for depictions of healthy consent and boundaries in children's movies, TV shows, and other media. The catch is that I want stuff that does NOT refer to sexual activity directly and that is appropriate for kids under 12. [more inside]
I'm trying to find an affordable tablet for kids to use...details inside. [more inside]
My 8-year-old son is obsessed with Minecraft, and has announced that he would like to create video games when he grows up. My own IT skills topped out around 1982 when I learned to write programs in Basic that printed my name in an endless goto loop. What technologies/languages/apps can I introduce him to in order to leverage his enthusiasm and channel it to something that teaches him age-appropriate programming skills? Assume second-grade math and logic skills and no programming background whatsoever.
I’m ordering 300ish books for a children’s library. After reading this thread asking for books featuring feminist-anti-racist-queer-ally characters I realised that our collection is full of books focusing on straight, white (usually male) youth in nuclear families and it’s seriously lacking. Can you folks recommend any books to help me improve our collection? [more inside]
Our daughter just finished her first year of Spanish in a full-immersion kindergarten. We're looking for good all-Spanish TV shows we can show her (and my wife, who wants to learn) over the summer so she doesn't forget it all. [more inside]
What are some good guidelines for talking to kids about their parent's upcoming prison term? [more inside]
How do you get kids to do things that are initially scary like riding a bike, going swimming, going to a new class aside from just telling them "it's ok!", "it's fun!", "you can do it!"? Are there strategies you use to build courage for kids with more naturally careful personalities?
We have two girls, currently 3.75 and 7. We are seriously considering a third, and hope to time his or her arrival around the time our younger is 5.5. How has a larger space between kids or sets of kids worked for you? Did the younger child or children feel a part of the older one's lives? [more inside]
Is this normal? I often have anxiety about my kids. I need perspective. [more inside]
My daughter needs to increase her vegetable intake, but refuses to eat most veggies. What recipes will allow us to disguise her vegetables in other foods? [more inside]
I need help figuring out the best ways to explain separation/divorce to my extremely precocious 6 year old. I'm hoping that this process can be as compassionate as possible all around, but the idea that I'm "ruining her life" by considering ending our marriage is plaguing me. Books, anecdotes, what you told your kids, etc - anything would be helpful. [more inside]
I have an 8-year old who knows all the good swear words and understands on some level that it's not appropriate for him to use them most of the time. I'm struggling to give him some principled guidelines for using swear words. [more inside]
I'm looking for instances of kids pointing out the hypocrisy of grownup society/adult etiquette, or questioning the reasoning of their elders. The funnier the anecdote, the better -- especially when the kid has a point. [more inside]
Why do my baby's diapers breakdown at daycare but not everywhere else? [more inside]
I was incredibly touched to learn that my goddaughter has decided that in lieu of a birthday party she's inviting all of her guests to a local book repository to sort, sticker, and bag books destined for low-income families. I love this and want to do something for her birthday to help encourage more of this kind of thing in the future. Help me choose from some options or suggest something else: [more inside]
My five-year-old gets really sad, every single night, about the fact that he has to sleep alone. How can we help him? [more inside]
I graduated from college a while ago and have been trying to figure out what to do with my life ever since. While idly combing through job postings I found a few looking for a babysitter and thought "I could do that... maybe." I'm looking for advice on how to turn that tentative "maybe" into something more confident. [more inside]
I'll be in Boston with my kids for one day (two nights) in February. They're ages 8 and 12. Too old for the Children's Museum, too young to be set free to wander on their own. What should we do? [more inside]
We are friends with a family that has a 6-year-old boy and a 2-year-old girl. I was thinking it might be nice to give them an experience-based gift this year instead of stuff. What are some good things that we can do with them and also take their mom and dad along? [more inside]
Our otherwise delightful six-year-old daughter has begun to tell an increasing number of lies over the past 6-7 months. The lies tend toward the lazy, (e.g., "yeah, I've already done my homework") rather than malicious or fantastical, but the frequency and ease with which she dashes them off is alarming -- as is her increased propensity for fabricating more elaborate tales. I know some lying by kids is to be expected (I certainly was no saint at that age), but do any parents out there have any winning strategies to help deal with this? [more inside]
I love books with flaps, windows, tabs, slides, wheels and other clever ways of interacting with the reader. Fortunately for me, I also have 2 small children, currently ages 1 and 4, who also love lift-the-flap books. But we need more. MORE FLAPS. [more inside]
I am a bookmobile librarian and the majority of my patrons are kids wanting chapter books. I have a variety of series that I try to keep current: The Littles, Junie B, Magic Tree, Goosebumps, Hank the Cowdog, Flat Stanley, Warriors, Star Wars, American Girl, Rainbow Fairies. Are there any other series you would suggest? Thanks a bunch hivemind!
What books would you recommend for new parents who want to read parenting books and talk about them together? [more inside]
A family wedding will take us to Tulsa this weekend. Flight schedules imposed a Friday arrival for a Saturday evening function, so we will have much of the day Saturday with two little kids in a town we've never visited before. Saturday morning we are on our own, we'll be meeting up with cousins in the afternoon. Zoo? Aquarium? Good parks/play grounds would be good too. Kid-friendly restaurants? Lay it on me.
We're going to Disneyland tomorrow. We haven't done any advance planning. I don't have a lot of time today to devote to research, either, so I thought I'd ask if anyone can brain-dump a quick-and-dirty way to shave some time off the inevitable waiting. More detail and explicit instructions are better. [more inside]
Any recommendations for quick stops from Boston to DC area with a four year old? [more inside]
My daughter is having a slumber party for her birthday. I'm used to (and comfortable with) normal birthday parties: planning lots of fun activities, yummy things to eat and keeping order with bouncing children for a few hours, but I'm worried about having a half dozen 7 & 8 year olds sleeping here. Those of you have done it -- what's your advice? Anything that would help this go well? [more inside]
What things can I cook with children in an after-school club setting? Difficulty: no actual cooking possible. [more inside]
Most of our friends have kids under age five. We're considering whether and how to make our wedding a kid-friendly event. Have you seen this done? Have you tried it? As a parent, what would help? Or do you just want a night out? Would anything make you more likely to stay overnight for more fun the next day? [more inside]
I would like to post photos for parents from our kindergarten class. I'm thinking of doing it on a password-protected Tumblr site. From what little I can find, it sounds do-able, but...? [more inside]
Can you have a trial separation while still both living in the same house? [more inside]