My friends B and N have been together for years. They are happy together, supportive, and good people. But N is regularly verbally abusive to B, in small, sarcastic ways. It makes me (and other friends) uncomfortable. Can I do anything to help?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 25, 2012 -
40 answers
I deeply hurt my partner emotionally. I was insecure and stupid. She was there for me when I wasn't for her. Now, I've gotten all my confidence back, and she's not present in the relationship. I truly love her and want her. Should we continue?
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posted by sunogenous
on Sep 14, 2012 -
26 answers
So, you might remember my question
'help me navigate and not screw up this budding online relationship', in which I managed to self sabotage a good thing w/ a guy who was really into me by dragging on a conversation online for 4 months and screwing up 3 attempts to meet. Well, I re-read our entire conversation and it seems he had subtly made attempts to hang out 2 additional times! (I don't know what's wrong with me and why I was being so daft, scared or evasive). I took you all's advice and apologized for flaking on our first official/somewhat organized meetup in which my rules about being feminine/cautious caused me to act like an idiot. His specific response to my date suggestions was ...
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posted by soooo
on May 3, 2012 -
36 answers
Relationshipfilter: Should I be okay with my girlfriend's ex move into her/her moms's house?
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posted by trogdole
on Jul 26, 2011 -
55 answers
My relationship is good, but I want it to be the best relationship EVER (hyperbole). What are some good ways to improve a long term relationship, after both people are really comfortable with each other?
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posted by tweedle
on Apr 17, 2011 -
29 answers
My girlfriend of a significant amount of time posted a naked picture of herself online without ever talking to me about it... am I wrong to be bothered by this?
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posted by doompuppy
on Nov 16, 2010 -
84 answers
A friend of mine is essentially using his girlfriend for a place to live. He really should break up with her, but that would mean moving back in with his family. He claims to care about her, but constantly expresses interest in other women, going so far as to say he'd leave her for any one of them, if one opened that door. The girlfriend is clingy, emotionally dependent on him, and completely lacking self-confidence. What do I do?
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posted by SugarAndSass
on Jun 5, 2010 -
28 answers
(you are not my lawyer filter) My lawyer has 35+ yrs of experience in family law and is also a guardian ad litem. I am involved in a family case regarding legal custody in a state whose preference is for joint legal custody (not joint physical). He told me in the past that I had a good case for sole legal custody. Now that I am a defendant in a motion for joint legal, and the circumstances of the case have not changed, he is telling me something different, or avoiding most of my questions. How do I approach this?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 18, 2010 -
10 answers
Wife is seeking job, but has unrealistic expectations. How to gently redirect without hurting her feelings?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 27, 2010 -
33 answers
The woman I am romantically interested in has had an extremely taxing couple of years. Her long term boyfriend disappeared and committed suicide last year, and now her chief support/best friend/roommate has been given only 2 months to live. Both of her pets have cancer and will die soon. And me.. well, I'm moving out of country for at least 4 months in about a week >< Her family is all living overseas until mid summer. She says she doesn't think she can handle the pain and doesn't think she can live after the impending death of her friend. She basically has no one to turn to and I want to be a support for her without trying to replace her past. The question: How can I show my care for her without coming off as a looter during a vulnerable time?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 26, 2010 -
19 answers
How can I explain, to a younger person seeking my opinion, that I don't feel that long distance relationships work? I want to speak honestly but without hurting their feelings.
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posted by trojanhorse
on Jan 2, 2010 -
32 answers
Help me clean up a complicated friend-triangle before it becomes a messy love-triangle.
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posted by brenton
on Dec 5, 2009 -
13 answers
One for the ladies - should I get my unemployed girlfriend some nice jewelery, or some nice green cash?
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posted by smoothvirus
on Dec 1, 2009 -
42 answers
I'm a mid-20s British male and I haven't had sex for about three years. Manual Overides are barely taking the edge off these days and the horniess is getting so bad I can't think clearly. Help me get laid. Complications inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 4, 2009 -
31 answers
I'd like advice on how to overcome my fear of disapproval from others. It manifests itself as lack of confidence/assertiveness, self-consciousness, anxiety and fear of not being good enough. Looking for all kinds of techniques, suggestions.
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posted by richar4
on Mar 8, 2009 -
16 answers
My friend's boyfriend sucks. She knows that, but she doesn't seem to realize how serious it is. Please help me help her.
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posted by neblina_matinal
on Jul 9, 2008 -
44 answers
RelationshipFilter: Help me find some good time activities to do at home with a
prospective girl friend.
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posted by the_dude
on Jun 20, 2008 -
39 answers
Single mom/Single parent: How does one go about building a lasting relationship with a single mother, to show her that you will not only be there for her, but also for her son? (She's 22, and he's under five I'm assuming.)
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posted by hadjiboy
on May 5, 2008 -
10 answers
I need some advice for getting over an ugly break-up for a rather sketchy relationship.
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posted by the_dude
on Feb 24, 2008 -
29 answers
If songs were lines in a conversation, the situation would be fine. That's the theory, anyway.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 6, 2008 -
45 answers
How should I respond to some friends who are concerned that I'm becoming too codependent, and who have written and given to me a list of things I need to do to become a more balanced person?
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posted by fuzzbean
on May 2, 2007 -
63 answers
I'd like to help my buddy find a girlfriend. He's 26 and pretty normal, other than the fact that he's never had a girlfriend or even been on a date and he's obviously extremely shy around females. How can I help him?
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posted by b_thinky
on Aug 2, 2006 -
35 answers
How do you know your relationship is worth fighting for? Or, how do you know when to call it quits?
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posted by anonymous
on May 11, 2005 -
25 answers
Due to a relationship breakup, I'm having a lot of trouble sleeping, and it's wreaking havoc with my life. I just can't sleep, I toss and turn most of the night. I never feel rested. I've tried Tylenol PM, but it just doesn't seem to work most times. I don't really want to drink myself into a stupor. Any suggestions on how I can fall asleep?
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posted by patrickje
on Feb 8, 2005 -
44 answers
