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Bipolar: When to tell a date

I met a wonderful man who is smitten with me, and I with him. We have been talking on the phone for two weeks (we met online), and have had four fabulous, fun dates. He expresses that he really likes me. He is 37 and I am 30. He has been married before, and I asked him why they got divorced, and he explained to me that she developed bipolar disorder I with schizophrenic tendencies about 3 years into their marriage, and she could not get stabilized. She had multiple trips to the psych ward while he was in med school, and it was really hard on him. He was studying to be an anesthesiologist and the final straw was when his wife called his residency hospital and told them he was poisoning her with intravenous drugs. Well, that would all be fine and good, except...I have bipolar II. [more inside]
posted by asmith30 on Oct 5, 2015 - 24 answers

Good Online Career Counseling

Since graduating college, I've wandered from job to job. I taught kindergarteners English in China, then I got an EMT certification and worked on and led Americrops chainsaw crews, and now I'm in the Peace Corps, at a health center in Rwanda. When I'm done, I think I'll be ready to go back to school (if necessary) and move towards something that could be a more permanent career, but I don't know what that would be. I'd like to talk over that decision with someone qualified, online. [more inside]
posted by Rinku on Oct 3, 2015 - 5 answers

Tell me what it's like to live with a minivan.

I don't have time to go out on test-drives right now, but I'm stuck on the idea of owning a minivan - tell me what it's like if you own one. [more inside]
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome on Oct 2, 2015 - 29 answers

How do I figure out what job/career I fit into?

I've been applying and interviewing a bit, but most applications get no response, which I know is common enough, but maybe I could be going about this better. I am in dire need of guidance at this point as to what sort of other jobs or fields I might fit into and be happy with. (Long) details inside. [more inside]
posted by Fire on Oct 2, 2015 - 9 answers

Need help with adapter selection - Nikon/Pentax!

My Pentax K10D has finally become all but unusable, and a friend is giving me her Nikon D90 (body only). I have several lenses for my Pentax, and I'm looking for a good adapter. [more inside]
posted by ScarletLark on Sep 25, 2015 - 6 answers

Setting myself up for the Future

Tips for looking out for my future self [more inside]
posted by sprezzy on Sep 15, 2015 - 17 answers

Non-Hormonal Birth Control Options

I do not want to take synthetic hormones, have any of you had success with barrier methods like diaphragms and condoms that don't irritate sensitive skin? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 5, 2015 - 27 answers

Help me find retirement therapists/counselors

An elderly relative of mine is retiring within the next few years. Help me find a therapist/counselor to help them through this transition. [more inside]
posted by Ndwright on Sep 2, 2015 - 6 answers

Finally pulled the plug on relationship, feeling confused.

I finally pulled the plug on my relationship after I realized I had been unhappy for most of it. My boyfriend was surprisingly understanding and respectful about it. I have a flight in a week, but I find myself often wondering if I’ve done the right thing. I’m worried I might back out of leaving and I need help. Our history and wall of text inside. [more inside]
posted by AdriftInSpace on Aug 24, 2015 - 20 answers

What would you say to female freshman engineering students?

I am a young female engineering professor who was invited to speak to incoming freshman engineering girls at my uni. I am flattered and want to inspire and motivate these young students. I need suggestions on what to focus on. I thought it would be easy because there is so much advice I can give but when I sit down it seems too disconnected and jumbled. more info inside [more inside]
posted by dublin on Aug 19, 2015 - 38 answers

Career rechanneling advice for a Canadian law-talking guy

I'm a lawyer in Ontario, and I'm considering a career change, but I'm trying to find a realistic career option that both works with my skillset and which satisfies at least some of what I want from work at this point. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 4, 2015 - 5 answers

Leaving my 4 year relatioship, never left anyone before?

After 4 years, and recent realization of my boyfriends distasteful behavior towards me, I am deeply considering leaving my first adult relationship. I've realize that quite possibly I've never been happy. I've been plagued my anxieties and insecurities throughout most of it. It has also had it's fair share of issues. It probably isn't a good sign if leaving our relationship makes me feel more sane. I think I need advice. Inside will be most of our history of issues and some more specific questions. [more inside]
posted by AdriftInSpace on Jul 29, 2015 - 23 answers

Post break up advice

I broke up with my girlfriend of three years yesterday night. I told her I missed a part to fully love her and commit in the same way that she is committed to me. I feel shitty now. What should I do now? [more inside]
posted by mathiu on Jul 26, 2015 - 18 answers

What to expect when...your mom has been involuntarily committed.

My 62-year-old mom with "pseudodementia" was taken to the hospital last night after a psychotic episode, and now she's in the neuro wing of the hospital under involuntary commitment...what should I expect to happen, and what could be wrong with her? [more inside]
posted by straycatinthewildwest on Jul 15, 2015 - 13 answers

Why do some novices resistant to advice & best practices?

Why do some novices disregard advice and/or best practices? What can be done to persuade them to heed general guidelines? I'm an aquarist, and repeatedly I see a significant number of people doing things that will result in the harm or death of their fish, and it's due to well known problems. Yet many novices attempt those things anyway, with predicable results. I'm trying to understand to explore what advice could be given that would change the outcome. [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] on Jul 9, 2015 - 22 answers

Moving to Atlanta. Advice and recos?

There is a possibility I may be getting a job that would require a relocation to Atlanta. Can you help recommend a community or neighborhood? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by zooropa on Jul 2, 2015 - 13 answers

How to keep the one your with

I'm curious to know your stories, or what it is that keeps you happy in the relationship you are in? Also is it possible to grow in love with a person when you are in a happy relationship? Before I confused love with infatuation and I don't want to go through that again! [more inside]
posted by red47Apple on Jun 20, 2015 - 11 answers

Active guy finds out he needs eyeglasses, needs advice on frames.

I just found out I need to wear eyeglasses full-time and I need help selecting frames, purchasing advice, and moral support. There are difficulty modifiers. Very special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 8, 2015 - 26 answers

Stinky Cheese Time

Mr. Otter_Handler and I went to France in April and among many other delights managed to procure a small wheel of Livarot cheese, which was vacuum sealed by the fromageur when we bought it and refrigerated until our departure, then refrigerated once we got home. Mr. Otter_Handler opened it in late April, when in an effort to contain the aroma (yes, it does smell a bit like rotting cabbage) it was moved to a small dorm fridge in Mr Otter_Handler's study. It's June now and I can smell this cheese without opening the fridge. Is this cheese still good or can we say "au revoir" to this souvenir of Normandy?
posted by Otter_Handler on Jun 8, 2015 - 9 answers

Job search for dummies (or the chronically overlooked & underpaid)

Due to cuts, I've lost income and am now running in the red each month. I can handle this for just a little bit before it gets dicey. I need a new full time job but I've never been very good at job hunting or getting interviews and I've also battled a lot of depression and anxiety. (Complication - I am in what might be an emotionally abusive relationship and have to get on my feet.) [more inside]
posted by Fire on Jun 2, 2015 - 10 answers

What is it I actually do for a living?

I'm an administrator at an ISP. I'm not sure if I'm data entry or if I'm gaining transferrable skills. Inside are a list of tasks I perform on a daily/weekly basis... [more inside]
posted by GiveUpNed on May 22, 2015 - 6 answers

Recommend books on enchancing poetry and short story craftmanship?

I'm trying to find some valuable works of advice to improve my craftsmanship on writing poetry and short stories. If you can recommend any advice books, poetry, novels, and short stories that can help contribute to better writing in the genre of: science fiction, southern Gothic literature, classic literature, modernism, and modern ligature works, that would be most appreciated. [more inside]
posted by RearWindow on May 19, 2015 - 3 answers

How can I make money now that I (will) have a college degree?

Worked full time in assorted office jobs since 2004 while going to community college. In 2012, I started a (part-time) degree at University of Pennsylvania and in Fall 2015 (maybe Spring 2016) I will graduate with a psychology bachelor's degree. I have about 20K in debt and make less than 40k per year in a job that is not really a career. How can I transition to a career where I make at least 50k per year, preferably more? Many more details inside. [more inside]
posted by ancient star on May 16, 2015 - 9 answers

Need relationship advice

So this is an interesting relationship situation for sure, but I need advice: [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 14, 2015 - 45 answers

What are your favorite diet friendly sweet treats?

My wife and I are both working on dieting, focusing on portion control, eating more veggies, and cutting our carbs. It's going OK so far, but my wife has found that she's getting really frequent "sweet" cravings. So, I figured I might as well try asking the internet: What are some good ways to help answer that craving without busting our dieting plans?
posted by BZArcher on Apr 14, 2015 - 52 answers

ISO life

A professional setback from several years ago is affecting my ability to move forward. I’ve been floundering around and drifting for years. I want to get my shit together, but I don’t know how to proceed. How do I figure out wtf I should do with my life now? [long] [more inside]
posted by atruesock on Apr 9, 2015 - 10 answers

I might've ruined one of my closest friendships. Should I make amends?

The backstory might shed light, but it's long and I'm sorry if it bores you. I might make a TL;DR sentence, but I suggest you read the whole thing. TL;DR. Befriended girl and crushed, had a lot of issues that turned me off, turned into a very close friend, badly timed telling her about dead feelings, and managed to still communicate until I had to back off for a bit. Don't know what I should do? [more inside]
posted by krs15 on Mar 29, 2015 - 31 answers

Should I Forget Him or is There Still Something There?

This guy I met a few months ago has been sending me some very mixed signals for a very long time and I honestly don't know what to make of it. Whenever I'm just about to write him off for ghosting on me, he re-appears and it's like nothing ever happened. Anyone have any advice or tips? [more inside]
posted by lana0112 on Mar 27, 2015 - 47 answers

How do I help my friend through her fears about graduating?

My friend is graduating in 6 weeks from college. She is usually really animated and bubbly, but I was hanging out with her yesterday, and she mentioned in passing that she's thinking about going back to college for another major (she is currently getting her second major after her first didn't work out for her), but she's iffy on whether her dad will let her or not. [more inside]
posted by ggp88 on Mar 26, 2015 - 16 answers

More hair help needed

Well I took your advice from last time and relaxed my principles - I started blow drying and flat ironing and applying various goos at various times. And that's okay but only as long as my hair has been recently cut. So what I need now is advice about how to communicate with my hair stylist that I really do want it flat, flat, flat, flat. Last time she seemed to think she was talking me out of making a huge mistake. [more inside]
posted by bleep on Mar 25, 2015 - 44 answers

How to pick a wheel chair? [extra challenge: wrist pain]

My boyfriend has ankle pain that prevents him from doing much walking. This has trapped him in our apartment for nearly a year now. We want to buy a wheelchair so he can go do things again, but don't know how to pick one. [more inside]
posted by triscuit on Mar 24, 2015 - 24 answers

Coax a Friend Back From Disaster

My friend is embarking on a potentially disastrous business idea. Should I try to dissuade him? How do I do that tactfully, without sabotaging our relationship? [more inside]
posted by seinwave on Mar 22, 2015 - 25 answers

I haven't owned a car since 1999--what do I need to know?

I'm moving from Brooklyn, NY to Portland, OR and will be owning a car, at least for the first couple of months. All the advice for this situation is about *what* car to buy, but I'm being given a used car, so I'm more curious about the top things to keep in mind about owning a car, how your life changes, all that sort of stuff. What am I forgetting, what am I missing, what do you wish you knew about owning a car before you owned one, have you been in a similar situation?
posted by Automocar on Mar 12, 2015 - 21 answers

Second-hand MacBook Pro - what to look for, 2015 edition

I'm biting the bullet and switching to a MacBook Pro. I've found a good price for a second-hand one on Gumtree in the UK. What should I look out for when testing the machine before handing over the cash? [more inside]
posted by peteyjlawson on Feb 27, 2015 - 10 answers

Should I wait, or just give up and go back to my singletude?

I met someone at work a little while ago. I thought he was gorgeous and worked up the courage to say hi. Not only do we have a lot in common, he turns out to be one of the sweetest, most respectful people I've ever dated: very understanding, reliable, actually responsive to calls and texts, accepting, wanted to take things slowly, the works. And then I call him after not hearing from him all weekend, and I get his voicemail. He still hasn't called me back, and I'm wondering if I've done something wrong. [more inside]
posted by oogenesis on Feb 24, 2015 - 62 answers

Websites about love and self-worth/knowledge/respect/etc

I really like this website and I was wondering if you can recommend similar ones. [more inside]
posted by divina_y_humilde on Feb 21, 2015 - 5 answers

How can I get an entry-level job as a Data Analyst in NYC, ASAP?

How can I get into data analysis with little-to-no data or programming experience? [more inside]
posted by matticulate on Feb 11, 2015 - 7 answers

Please Help Me Gear Up For My First Half Marathon

I have two more long runs before the actual race in March and I'd like to break in everything I plan to wear/take in the next week or so. Can you MeFi runners suggest some good gear? List of what I think I need inside. [more inside]
posted by WalkerWestridge on Feb 8, 2015 - 13 answers

Easy yet effective tips for coping with stress better?

I've been hit with a significant number of life stressors recently, and could use some help. I've been working on keeping my stress levels low through healthy eating, exercising, and sleeping well, but my stress is getting to the point where I feel like laying in bed all day. I can't afford to let myself spiral any lower; I'd like some simple-yet-effective stress busters to prop me up, so that I have enough energy to deal with my problems and continue living healthy. [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers on Feb 3, 2015 - 26 answers

Weddingfilter: Non–Legal ceremony home in UK, Legal ceremony Pacific NW

My fiancee and I have spent much of our adult lives travelling and have a fondness for our time spent in the United States. As such we would love to be married there. We are planning to hold a humanist ceremony / blessing / non–legal ceremony in the UK and rather than the usual Registry Office ceremony to take care of the legal things, we were hoping to Honeymoon in the Pacific Northwest and get legally married while there. I am trying to work out a few things … [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 1, 2015 - 3 answers

Is financial issues in a relationship a deal breaker?

Been in a relationship with my partner for 2 years. I'm 26 and he is 28. We don't live together yet but have talked about it a couple of times throughout our relationship along with talking about having children. I make more money than him but he refuses to let me pay for dates, so we don't do as much as I would like to. He is responsible with money but barely has any disposable income. His expenses seem to be much higher than mine. Are financial issues a deal breaker in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by ruebeignet on Jan 30, 2015 - 31 answers

How to identify and articulate life goals

My partner always says he doesn't have any particular goals in life, but it's clear that he does. He just hasn't identified or articulated them. Do you know a book, essay, website, etc. that could help him elucidate his image of what he wants for the future? [more inside]
posted by kutsushita nyanko on Jan 17, 2015 - 6 answers

Can I financially divorce my husband?

We own a mid-sized business together. Communication between us has effectively stopped, mainly because of differing business styles. We still talk, but he stopped listening about 10 years ago. It’s gotten to the point where we act independently of each other in both our professional and personal lives. His actions have eroded my respect and trust for him, business-wise. I think the only way to save our 20 year marriage is to split financially, but I don’t know if that is possible. [more inside]
posted by tuckeredout on Jan 8, 2015 - 40 answers

Best site for blogging

What, in your opinion, is the best site for blogging? [more inside]
posted by MMiller3669 on Jan 2, 2015 - 19 answers

Factoring Race into Health/Beauty/Hygiene

People of color - what common health/beauty/hygiene axioms have you found not to work for you? Conversely, are there any regimes that you follow that aren't commonly seen as advice online? [more inside]
posted by Conspire on Dec 29, 2014 - 15 answers

Help Transition out of Education Into Data Analytics and Computer Scienc

I am currently a public high school teacher teaching science and would very much like to transition into data and policy analytics, with a particular bent on computer programming and economic analysis. What are ways I can transition into these fields. One thing I have found that is a fellowship program from Education Pioneers. Are there other resources like this? What routes would you advise that I take? More information inside [more inside]
posted by caudal on Dec 19, 2014 - 2 answers

Novels or books featuring how to run a startup?

I find the legal and operational nooks and crannies of running a startup detailed in Neal Stephenson's novel Cryptonomicon fascinating. (Example: "People like Avi and Beryl, who have been in business a lot, have this noticeable preference for two-person conversations [to protect other corporate officers].") Do you have any recommendations for novels or non-fiction with similar storylines, passages and advice?
posted by infinitewindow on Dec 18, 2014 - 5 answers

Walked into an glass door, thinking of filing a lawsuit.

I walked into a unmarked glass door outside a popular chain restaurant, and ended up with some injuries. I'm contemplating a lawsuit, but am not sure how to approach this and would appreciate advice on how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by BuddyBoo on Dec 18, 2014 - 21 answers

Deck me out for th'office party! Fa la la la la la la la la....

I am the world's WORST accessorizer. It is known. Last time I wanted to up my fashion game, Mefites were super helpful. Can you do it again, in a Partner's-Holiday-Office-Party flavour?! (Seasonally appropriate) snowflakes inside! [more inside]
posted by Dorinda on Dec 9, 2014 - 6 answers

Anger Management 101

Please recommend materials to help me cope with keeping composure during trying times. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit on Dec 5, 2014 - 3 answers

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