Chris lives is in a far-off state and needs help with accountability in overcoming addiction and other personal/financial issues. Family is at wit's end and wants to help but cannot travel. We are currently limited to what Chris shares, and all parties know that that's not good enough. [more inside]
I'm looking at commuting to Raleigh for a 6 month contract. I need help keeping busy. [more inside]
I am looking for a good drug treatment center for my adult son (23) and am finding to locating a decent one is impossible through the internet. Everything I see turns out to be a thinly disguised ad. He approached me about it and I am hoping to help him out with the research. He has good insurance, and is looking for a young adult inpatient program, preferably not AA modeled (or at least not heavily higher power oriented), and preferably with a dual diagnosis slant (he also has anxiety issues). Anywhere in the US would be fine. His drug of choice is opiates, and he has been drug free for the last couple of weeks. Any help would be appreciated - this is an opportunity we don't want to screw up.
My drinking is out of control. I've tried to cut down and I can't. It's ruining my relationship, making me irritable and anxious throughout the day, and I've made incredibly dangerous decisions while drunk. I have no one to talk to about this and I want to try AA. However, I would like to continue using coke on occasion. [more inside]
I am drinking more than I want to be drinking. I don't know that it meets the criteria for a "problem" ... except that I can't seem to cut down. I live in a closed, orderly community where I don't have control over the availability of alcohol, or access to an AA meeting. I need help with a) some strategies to cut down or cut off my drinking and b) online support. Details inside. [more inside]
I have a friend who is interested in recovery and is struggling to find Atheist/Agnostic resources in El Paso. Does anyone have any good leads? [more inside]
I met someone on a dating site five months ago, who turned out to be alcoholic. Despite all odds, and both of us trying to resist the other because of this--we talked openly about it--we ended up getting involved and slowly got closer and closer. Finally, he stopped drinking, turned to AA, and effectively disappeared, at which point my abandonment issues kicked in. Help me understand what happened to him, and how to soothe myself in the aftermath. Apologies for the wall of text within. [more inside]
Attending AA meetings in Delhi and Mumbai for a visitor! Hi, I was asked this by someone going to India for a couple of weeks. I know there are meetings in both places but the question was "How easy/difficult is it if you are an American Woman visiting and want to go to a meeting?" This completely floored me as I had NO idea how women friendly meetings are in India, especially if you are a White woman. Please don't impute any racist undercurrents to my query. I am an Indian man myself, and I know first hand how tourists, especially white women, get harassed by all and sundry. I was curious if any Mefiers have any suggestions or experiences that I can pass along to my friend. Thanks.
I'm wondering if there exist any (portable) consumer electronics devices - so like music player, mouse, flashlight, audio recorder - that take any chemistry rechargeable AA or AAA batteries, and can recharge them right in the device. [more inside]
Most cheap non-rechargeable AA Batteries (typically from China) go flat very quickly. About 15 years ago, typical batteries seemed to last about 4 times longer (my subjective opinion). I want long lasting batteries, what is a good type, what should I look for, what terminology "alkaline?". Thank you.
I'm looking for advice regarding online-based recovery groups (meetings, discussion boards, etc). In several months I will be moving to a city with no English-speaking AA meetings. [more inside]
My partner has been wrestling with alcohol and sexual shame for a long time. This week, he confided in me that he wants to seek help based upon a boundary I set for myself, that he does not want to live like this anymore. I don't want to "over-help" or engage in any co-dependent behavior and I want to be a loving partner in this. But I also need to protect myself and our kids. What can I do or what should I avoid? Specifics inside. [more inside]
I just started dating someone new and I'm not sure how/when to best disclose information about my history in AA and recovery from alcoholism. Normally I'm okay with having this conversation after getting to know someone over a few months, but I'm uncertain as to whether or not I should tell her sooner considering that alcoholism in her family has come up as a topic of conversation. [more inside]
I'm looking for spiritual but not religious books on recovery in the AA tradition. [more inside]
In summary: my sponsor, and her sponsor, advised me not to take a medication that is helpful to me and which I was not abusing. This makes me feel uncomfortable. More details below. [more inside]
Is there a way to find AA meetings with consistently good speakers or other helpful aspects? [more inside]
My therapist has recommended I regularly attend AA meetings. While it's true I quit drinking nearly 4 years ago, and alcohol had been a prevalent and destructive force in my life at that time, I have never experienced anything like a craving to drink in all the time I've been sober. My M.O. has always been a, "Eh, I'll have a drink when and if I ever feel like it. Which will probably be never, because I love this clear-mindedness!"-sort of thing. The therapist is treating me as a patient "in recovery". Fair enough: She can use whatever approach she sees fit, but now I'm entertaining the idea of AA and simultaneously questioning whether the therapist is a good fit for me. Yes, there are more details. [more inside]
Hi All, My mom is going to be 6 months sober. She loves her AA coins and I would like to find a treasury box or display for her- something like etsy- really cute. She just loves rhinestones/crystals and bling. What creative things have people done to store/display their AA coins or what is something really nice I can do to celebrate her AA anniversary? i am a grad student, so not a lot of moolah. Any nice mantras/meditations or sayings I can put in a "coping jar". She lost her house and her dad this year. it;s been real hard for her not to drink and I am always trying to help her with counter triggers- so something positive to do when she has a trigger.
My husband gets a clean bill of health from his doctor every time he goes for a checkup, which makes no sense to me if she knew his habits. He seems to like and respect his doctor, and is inclined to listen to her. I've been considering calling her up and informing her of what she's been missing. Have you ever done this? Have you ever been the doctor on the receiving end of this information? I welcome your thoughts and experience. [more inside]
Atheist and alcoholic I need to seek support from AA. Please interpret aspects of the higher power stuff in a way that is not cognitively dissonancing for someone who has no belief in a deity. I know there are other options for "rational" alcoholics but my circumstances and location make AA the best option. Feel free to include scripts and behaviours for me to respectfully avoid participating in group prayer (and hand holding - im really uncomfortable with touching strangers) without drawing excessive notice to myself. I am in Australia which is not overtly religious but the two AA meetings I have been to previously (and will be attending) included a prayer, and people who explicitly said they were not religious but recommended the higher power as crucial in their sobriety.
Do you think starting a suicidal ideation support group (in the flesh, not chat groups or hotline numbers) would be helpful or detrimental? [more inside]
I’ve been a member of a 12 Step program. I've successfully quit my addiction and now I want to leave the group as quickly and painlessly as possible. How do I do that? [more inside]
Yesterday I made a commitment to sobriety, and I want to start attending AA meetings in Austin, TX. Where should I go? [more inside]
My husband drinks too much, and I just attended my first Al-Anon meeting. I have some questions about it. [more inside]
(Asking for a friend) I have been sober for nearly a year, and attend AA meetings regularly. Recently, an old friend has moved to my city and has confided in me that they are concerned with their own drinking habits, think they may be an alcoholic, and asked for my help. I am happy to support my friend, but some boundary issues have come up that I would like metafilter's advice on. (Sorry in advance for length.) [more inside]
How exactly does American Airlines assign its boarding groups 2-4? Is it just totally random? [more inside]
Help me quit drinking without using AA [more inside]
Met perfect girl. She doesn't drink. Turns out, she's in AA. What to do/where to go/how to support? [more inside]
Recommendations for AAA (or AA) powered laser pointers that I can use to play with my cat? [more inside]
Secular alcoholic recovery support groups in St Louis? [more inside]
12-step tourism: Are there any NYC recovery meetings that are known to be particularly interesting, non-traditional, or fun? [more inside]
I'd like to halt my unhealthy (for me) pot and alcohol habit without completely swearing off either substance. Is this do-able? Are there books or Portland, Ore., groups that can help me with this? How can I stick with this plan when all of the people I'm closest too are daily users of one substance or the other? [more inside]
How do you find a Higher Power in 12-step recovery when you're a hardened atheist? [more inside]
Tips for quitting drinking, without making a huge deal out of it and still having a social life (other than AA and meetings). [more inside]
Can I get back the notebook I left on the plane? [more inside]
My question is about the TV show breaking bad and rehab "philosophy", [more inside]
Thinking about quitting drinking, but I'm nowhere near bottomed out. Are there resources for people who find it hard to quit moderate drinking? [more inside]
Looking for one of the thinnest, smallest digital cameras that uses AA batteries. Thanks!
Would rehab be appropriate for someone who binge drinks only a couple times per week, but is desperate to quit and has tried to do so many times without success? [more inside]
Are there any effective, well-respected alternatives to Alcoholics Anonymous that don't require group meetings? [more inside]
When should I go to and where should go in Argentina and Chile? [more inside]
I'm looking for reputable alcohol rehab programs in the Los Angeles area that accept Medicare, for someone who may need to a program as long as 60 or 90 days. [more inside]
AlcoholismFilter: Members of AA who “take what you want, and leave the rest”. How exactly do you DO this? What do you “take”, and what do you ignore? How can I benefit from the mutual support and encouragement of an AA group, and help others and myself, while there are many things about AA I disagree with? (Non-AA groups not available in my area). [more inside]
I fear my sister is falling off the wagon in her ongoing struggle with alcoholism. Is there anything I can do to stop this slide? Challenge: 500 miles away. [more inside]
Can you suggest a great book to help the girlfriend of an alcoholic who recently relapsed after 2.5 years sober? [more inside]
Information Technolgies Program or some sort of simliar AA towards an actual career/'real' job? [more inside]
Can someone who's been there, or is close to someone who's been there, relate to me how the first few weeks in recovery from alcohol abuse in an AA type typically play out? My partner is going through this, and I'm feeling pretty confused, abandoned, and (I'm ashamed to say) a little angry. [more inside]
What happens in 50 Perry Street in the West Village of NYC? [more inside]
Are there any stories of recovering/recovered alcoholics (with more than a few years sobriety) returning to drinking without serious consequences? I'm looking for post-sobriety 'success' stories. [more inside]
I have a pretty serious drinking problem which has caused me to "call in sick" too often at my job. I finally confessed to my supervisor that I have a drinking problem. I should have been fired long ago, but because I appealed to them for help, the company is willing to keep me on the payroll provided that I seek treatment for my addiction. Here's my dilemma: where I live, every alcohol/chemical dependency treatment program is based on Alcoholics Anonymous and its 12 Steps. I have an intrinsic aversion to anything even remotely associated with a Higher Power, God, Jesus, etc. I need to find a treatment facility ( either residential or out-patient) that'll help me get sober without all the spiritual mumbo-jumbo associated with AA and the 12 Steps. I live in Corpus Christi, Texas and it's important that any suitable treatment program be located somewhere nearby--preferably Austin since I have sober friends there. But I guess anywhere in Texas will do. Any suggestions?
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