After my grandma lost her shit with me last night, she's calmed down enough to admit to my father today that she feels like I can be really condescending sometimes. Eek. This is a piece that I want to work on improving, while I'm also learning to be much more on guard whenever I'm around my grandma. Can you help me be less of an annoyingly (unintentionally) condescending/smug person?
Ugh. The worst. [more inside]
posted by ohyouknow
on Feb 24, 2014 -
I live in Vancouver and I'll be looking to buy a condo this year somewhere in Coquitlam or New Westminster. I've never bought a place before and have literally no idea what I'm doing.
I'm told a Mortgage Broker is my best bet but how do I choose the right one for me? [more inside]
posted by JenThePro
on Jan 2, 2014 -
What would you do? Im saving money to buy an apartment. Another part of me wants to go live in another country for a few months instead. [more inside]
posted by red47Apple
on Nov 26, 2013 -
What is the secret sauce to starting and maintaining an informal meet-up of technology start-up people? [more inside]
posted by jacobean
on Nov 14, 2013 -
So there's a new Chick Fil A opening near me next month. I could be one of the first 100 and win free chicken, woo hoo! But... [more inside]
posted by KAS
on Sep 23, 2013 -
In the curious 1975 comedy Linda Lovelace For President
, there's a scene in which, faced with the bankruptcy of her campaign, Lovelace starts inexplicably chanting the phrase "Soda water bottle, have a banana." This is picked up on by members of her marching band, and then becomes a series of calls and responses. The scene, completely safe for work, can be seen here
. What on earth is this a reference to?
posted by eschatfische
on Aug 13, 2013 -
Six weeks ago I was flying high! Nothing could go wrong in my life and I woke up every morning with the smug satisfaction that life was superb and nothing could bring me down....Unfortunately, everything that could go wrong, has gone wrong in the last few weeks and I need help bringing myself out of this funk. [more inside]
posted by JenThePro
on Jul 17, 2013 -
A week before my former roommate moved out her dog came into heat, resulting in my own ankle biter marking everything he could hike his little leg at. Apparently in his haze of lust he decided that bathing the house in stink would boost his chances of getting a bit of action. Defiled items include the back of my couch, my box spring and the linoleum in the kitchen (where I keep him penned up when I'm out). Also some bedding and other small items I'm comfortable throwing away instead of trying to clean.
Next week I'm moving to another property under the same management and hoping to get back most of my deposits (as well as keeping in the landlord's good grace) by getting the house as minty fresh as possible before I turn in the key.
I'm looking for some low budget recommendations on getting the stench out. I would prefer they be methods that you've used with success, so if I have further questions I can actually discuss it with someone who has experience with the specific method. [more inside]
posted by myShanon
on Jun 5, 2013 -
I don't plan on having a baby for many years, (I'm 24 now). I have heard that it is bad for the baby's health if the mother gets pregnant at 30 or older. What risks are there? How can I mitigate these risks? What are the odds of having a baby with mental or physical disabilities? What steps can I take to increase my chances of having a healthy baby at say age 35? What other relevant things should I Know? thanks
posted by denimchair
on May 29, 2013 -
I ordered a box set from an amazon user at the end of april listed as "like new" which it wasn't. Asked for a refund, and he asked for more details and pictures which i gave, then i heard nothing for well over a week. So i decided to file an a to z claim on Monday, then today (Thursday) he says how he had been locked out of his bank account due to some banking issue. Now he's all gung ho to give me a refund after i send the stuff back and drop the a to z.
I feel a little weary trusting him. He has good feed back, but it's only 6 feedbacks. Should i do as he suggests or continue letting amazon look into it?
posted by earthquakeglue
on May 8, 2013 -
Is it possible for a person with dual citizenship (USA and Ireland; residing in the USA) to register and get insurance for an automobile in Ireland (the north of Ireland to be specific) if the person does not reside in Ireland? And if so, how? [more inside]
posted by aelish
on Apr 1, 2013 -
Can't take the cold Northeast and wonder if Charleston would work? My husband and I recently moved from Los Angeles to the Eastern shore of Ct. for a variety of reasons mainly cost of living and seeking a closer knit community. Now that we have experienced a cold winter ( it's just starting!) we see that it isn't for us. Weather is a big deal and we thought we could handle it but the being stuck indoors, the layers of clothes, the desire to hibernate are all getting to us pretty quick. [more inside]
posted by privatechef
on Jan 23, 2013 -
I used Textfree on my iPad and have a US number. I've since moved to Canada and I'm wondering if my friends in the US will now be charged when they text me? In other words, does it matter where I'm physically located? It's free for me but I'm concerned there might be costs on the other end.
posted by Babushka
on Nov 25, 2012 -
A first draft document (press release) I emailed to a new colleague for reaction and comment in a new organization I volunteer for was headed 'for your eyes only', 'confidential", and "not for release." It was copied and distributed to others and a reply to me with the explanation, "I assumed you intended others in the group to see it."
My disappointment stings. My trust non-existant. While I was highly motivated to do this volunteer work, in something I believe in and value, I fear future experiences will be as frustrating and discouraging as this one.
Anyone ever have similar experiences? Options seem to me to 1. ignore it, 2. Confront directly, 3. Resign.
posted by NorthCoastCafe
on Nov 4, 2012 -
I was terminated three months ago and have recently been offered to take over my old division as a new company. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Oct 27, 2012 -
How to quiet the "think about other women" impulse and become faithful in thought as well as action? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Oct 11, 2012 -
YANAL, but I need some direction. I think my husband is going to ask for a divorce, and I am clueless as to the next steps. He significantly outearns me... [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 14, 2012 -
Broadway-musical-meta-performance-filter: In "shows within a show," do actors/singers/dancers typically play down from their top standard, if the character is not at the top of the profession? [more inside]
posted by randomkeystrike
on Jul 29, 2012 -
We are planning a 3 day stop over in Taiwan during mid-August and are wanting hints and tips for places to see / places to stay / places to eat. [more inside]
posted by mairuzu
on Jul 11, 2012 -
London Filter: Aunt and Mom plus one nephew looking for a place to stay mid-August. Any ideas that are three day weekend central to everything with some character? [more inside]
posted by Funmonkey1
on Jun 27, 2012 -
How easy is it to use public transportation to get from Frank A. Sedita City Court to the Albright Knox on a Friday Afternoon. [more inside]
posted by PinkMoose
on May 9, 2012 -
What is the easiest-to-fly kite that I can buy? I want to walk into a field with my five-year-old and fly with as little skill, experience and effort as possible. I'm seriously considering just "flying" a helium balloon, but that's cheating. What's one step removed from that?
posted by Cool Papa Bell
on Apr 12, 2012 -
Filtering through lenders for a mortgage in a home building situation. [more inside]
posted by phox
on Mar 29, 2012 -
How do I build a pergola on a hill. I have graded a small area, but can't seem to get it level. Couldn't I just build a platform that is level, then raise the pergola above that?
posted by merci420
on Feb 19, 2012 -
Looking for a song for our Wedding!
I have tried the hum to identify
sites, and googled like crazy with no luck.
The song is new (2011) and "car commercial popular". It has no lyrics and sounds kind of like something Sigur Ros would do. I know this offers nothing, but it is like, "Ahhhh, ummmmm, aaaaaaa uuuuu". It heard it on the radio, an "alternative" station.
Its starts slow and builds (all songs I guess), and is quite emotional. Men are doing the vocals, and my last little evidence is that on the movie, If a Tree Falls, toward the middle they play a short segment of a song that sounds identical to the band in question but not the song. I check every song on the credits but it is definitely not there.
posted by Benzle
on Feb 10, 2012 -
I am 28 and my husband is 25. We have been considering the prospect of starting a family in the next 2-3 years. I am apprehensive because I am concerned that I may too old to do this (I would be about 30 when we started -- we are considering having 3 children, so I would be mid to later 30's when we are done.)
I am worried that I may be too old to safely have children (I am concerned about pregnancy difficulties and complications). [more inside]
posted by neanderloid
on Jan 28, 2012 -
Can you recommend a great cognitive behavior therapist in the Loop, Chicago? Extra brownie points for one in North Loop.
PS. On second thought, any tips on how to choose a therapist in the first place? What should I be looking for in a therapist? I want to minimize therapist hopping.
posted by gardenbex
on Jan 23, 2012 -
Can you recommend some software that will automagically create a decent work schedule? [more inside]
posted by d1rge
on Dec 30, 2011 -
Do we, as unique special snowflakes, really need to use a buyer's agent? My husband and I are at a crossroads about whether to work with one or try to do without. Inside, I give a ton of personal details and you tell me who is right and who is wrong! [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Dec 29, 2011 -
My daughter has asked Santa for a "rubber pound coin" for Christmas, and with the delightful phrase of "Santa can get anything" we can't find anything in the UK. I'm open to suggesstions, with the caveat I'm a bit useless at arts and crafts, [more inside]
posted by ewan
on Dec 17, 2011 -
My boyfriend is about to face a court date next week for a furnishing alcohol to a minor charge.... he would gladfully face punishment for this crime, however, he didn't furnish alcohol to a minor. The prosecutor wants him to accept the plea agreement and not waste anyone's time. My boyfriend just doesn't want it on his record. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by camylanded
on Sep 22, 2011 -
Do you think that buying a house right now is a good move or is it extremely risky? [more inside]
posted by ljs30
on Aug 26, 2011 -
My question is from " Mrs.Bixby and the Colonel's Coat" by Dahl.
How did he try to characterize Mrs.Bixby by writing,"Mrs. Bixby was a big vigorous woman with a wet mouth."? Strong,active and healthy woman having a moist mouth with saliva? It seems a bit strange to me...could you describe your Mrs.Bixby?
posted by mizukko
on Aug 6, 2011 -
A couple of years ago I was working at an archeological dig in Aphrodisias, Turkey. At every meal we had the most fantastic tomatoes--plates of them sliced, bowls of them whole or in salads. They were the best-tasting tomatoes I've ever eaten on any continent--medium-sized, round, red-with-a-bit-of-orange. I should have smuggled home some seeds but didn't think of it. I've lost touch with the folks I worked with, so I can't ask someone there to mail me a batch, and that's probably illegal anyway. Can you suggest where I might learn this tomato variety's name, or get seed? Thanks very very much.
posted by fivesavagepalms
on Jul 29, 2011 -
"Blues For A Rotten Afternoon" CD filter: can anyone tell me who is singing/playing on "If The Sea Was Whiskey" on this CD? The promo says "No matter what causes the pain, sometimes the only answer seems to be diving into a sea of drink, as Willie Dixon prepares to do in 'If the Sea Was Whiskey.'" Here's a link to a page with samples from all the tracks on this (great) CD.
It doesn't sound like Willie Dixon to me, and the track listing says "Willie Dixon Tribute." Thanks!
posted by purplesludge
on Jul 17, 2011 -
Are we entitled to our deposit for a house we put an offer on but canceled the sale due to the electrical wiring? [more inside]
posted by ljs30
on Jul 8, 2011 -