You are an early 30s guy's guy, fairly athletic, dry sense of humor, loyal, taciturn, not much of a reader, likes sports, slightly acerbic comedies and HBO dramas. What am I getting you for Christmas? Budget: $75 -$100, roughly.
comment posted at 4:42 PM on Dec-4-13
I'm feeling a little queasy about the sexual preferences of my new boyfriend. I'm in my early 20's, he is almost 40, and I look a little younger than I am. I'm just worried he likes really young girls, just doesn't want to admit it to me. I love him, but I wouldn't be comfortable getting older with someone whose sexuality seems focused on youth.
Although, he says he is most attracted to women in their late 20's and early 30's, cares more about monogamy and love than physical beauty, etc. - so that's good. I still have concerns...
Besides seeming to have a particular interest in 'teen' porn where the girls look
underage, I saw a VLC media file with the title indicating underage teen porn. It was under the 'recent' files in windows, but when clicked on the file no longer exists. He says he wouldn't seek that out, isn't sure where it came from, that he just downloads zip files of porn in bulk.
I understand men are going to be attracted to younger women and even teen girls, but I'd rather be with someone who didn't seek it out to that extent. Makes me wonder how much attraction they'd lose for me when I become 'old.' Thoughts?
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comment posted at 4:04 PM on Dec-4-13
I have a little project that I'd like to make a little website for. Does not have to be fancy. This could be a WordPress module, a standalone website, or something else. Here's what I need: a checklist where multiple people can maintain, over time, their own version of a single list of items todo/completed. I have looked but I'm not finding what I want.
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comment posted at 3:59 PM on Dec-3-13
How should I interpret this man's behaviour?
I met a guy on OkCupid. I'm confused by his behaviour and would appreciate some, any, insights from the Hive Mind.
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comment posted at 6:45 AM on Dec-4-13
I'm trying to think of some examples of field trips to art museums in movies or sitcom plots. Any come to mind (art museums specifically, not science-related field trips, etc)? I'm not having much luck with Google...
comment posted at 5:39 PM on Dec-1-13
I'm looking for a DVD stocking stuffer for my partner, who loves fantasy and science fiction television series of varying quality (examples within). He uses his Netflix account heavily. Do you know of any fantasy or sci-fi series that are slightly more obscure -- meaning they're not available on Netflix, but are still available for DVD purchase?
comment posted at 8:32 AM on Nov-30-13
For some time now, I've been getting my AM caffeine through these fancy "sparkling energy water" drinks I get at the health food store. They are totally unsweetened carbonated water with caffeine. These drinks are expensive, and earlier tonight my husband and I had a come to jesus talk about our out of control grocery budget. My daily sparkling energy water can has got to go.
comment posted at 8:10 PM on Nov-29-13
On the most recent episode of Homeland, a female shut the bathroom door during use, which allowed an intruder to make a clean exit. The people I watched this with were baffled as to why she would close the door when she was home alone. This is something I do 90% of the time, and after talking to some other people I'm definitely not alone in doing this. I'm just curious if this normal, a guy or girl thing, something cultural? I guess for me it just feels odd to have the door open while in the bathroom.
comment posted at 1:06 PM on Nov-29-13
There's this owl, and it starts hooting at around 2am, not finishing until 4:30am. This has now become a frequent occurrence, and it's driving me nuts. Unfortunately, one attempt to remedy the situation has made it worse. So, how can I get this owl to either shut up or go somewhere else?
comment posted at 10:05 PM on Nov-28-13
My mother gets called "dear" in restaurants, stores and coffee shops. It started about two years ago and drives her nuts. She thinks that it's an overly-familiar term of endearment and it feels weird (and even patronizing) coming from a stranger.
comment posted at 9:45 PM on Nov-27-13
I am trying to do some household computer work for my dad, and his email problems are giving me a fit. Can you, o wise metafilter, help me?
comment posted at 3:35 PM on Nov-27-13
I'm a 32 year old male, she's 28, and we're both NYC natives, if it matters. We get along well and we enjoy our time together. Generally, I'm ok paying for the first three or four dates, however beyond that it's clear we like spending time with each other, so I'd prefer that it was a mutual effort to cover costs. Otherwise, I feel like I'm paying for her time and presence, and it feels gross. We've been dating for almost a month now.
comment posted at 4:53 PM on Nov-27-13
comment posted at 6:48 PM on Nov-27-13
How do you all deal with the fact that you and everyone you love will die some day?
comment posted at 3:17 PM on Nov-27-13
I've been involved in a long distance relationship for years. I live on one side of the country and he lives on the other. We don't see each other as often as I'd like for us to and I constantly deal with sadness and disappointment because of that. What can I do to combat these feelings?
comment posted at 9:42 AM on Nov-27-13
I made three Christmas puddings on Stir-up Sunday, with the intention of giving two away to two families with small children. As is traditional, I included a coin in the pudding. I really don't want to add to the faff of Christmas with toddlers so I was going to suggest that they microwave the pudding. Today it occurred to me that there's a chunk of metal inside each of them so perhaps that suggestion isn't as clever as all that.
comment posted at 8:42 AM on Nov-27-13
My ex-girlfriend assaulted me, damaged my property, and kicked in a door to a public establishment where I was hiding from her. What's going to happen now?
comment posted at 4:26 PM on Nov-27-13
My family spends most holidays at the home of a family member with untreated OCD. It’s already a huge challenge, and I’ve discovered it’s slightly worse than I’d thought. Will solve an immediate problem temporarily, but won’t see my therapist until after Thanksgiving. Please just help me to not go nuclear this week.
comment posted at 9:09 AM on Nov-27-13
I have read in numerous places that exercise can sometimes help with mood and concentration. My only exercise goal is to help alleviate these possible issues, but I couldn't keep any motivation and stopped after only a few weeks. Specific considerations:
comment posted at 2:10 PM on Nov-26-13
I would love to make my own non-alcoholic beverages. As hippy, from scratch as possible. Do you have favorite recipes?
comment posted at 12:17 PM on Nov-26-13
My macbook pro battery life is awful, and it shouldn't be. What can I do about that?
comment posted at 9:57 AM on Nov-26-13
I am headed to Los Angeles for work. My wife is in the NYC-area (where we live). We can meet somewhere for our anniversary: Where should it be?
comment posted at 6:48 PM on Nov-25-13
My credit is good. My loan on my new-last-year Toyota Yaris is awful; the interest rate is absurdly high. My credit union, who issued the loan, doesn't want to help. How do I find the best rate I can get on a refinance?
comment posted at 3:17 PM on Nov-25-13
What's a nice round consensus on the minimum age for an unaccompanied boy to go from South Station to Midtown?
comment posted at 2:47 PM on Nov-25-13
How long did it take to sail from the Americas to England in 1609? And vice versa?
comment posted at 3:01 PM on Nov-25-13
What are your best recipes for holiday goodies to give out as gifts, to make in bulk?
comment posted at 8:59 PM on Nov-24-13
Some friends are throwing us a wedding reception and have requested "no gifts" on the invitation. Can I somehow ask them to change that or is that just the done thing now?
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comment posted at 9:25 AM on Nov-24-13
I am interested in gender stereotypes that used to be reversed or are the other way around in another culture. For example, pink used to be considered a vigorous masculine color and blue was a softer color associated with girls. Similarly, high heel used to be worn by men (as riding boots), but were introduced into women's fashion at a time when women were dressing to emulate men
comment posted at 7:37 AM on Nov-24-13
Why must CPAP machines be removed from their carrying cases when being X-rayed by the TSA?
comment posted at 7:06 AM on Nov-24-13
Help me app-ify the way that I plan for meals for extreme streamlining given a series of food restrictions.
comment posted at 7:49 AM on Nov-24-13
I will be taking my first road test on Monday, in Massachusetts (specifically, Lynn). I'd like to hear from people who've taken this test in the past. What were you asked to do?
I'd particularly like to hear from people who've failed
the test: where did you fall down?
comment posted at 9:34 AM on Nov-23-13
comment posted at 9:43 AM on Nov-23-13
Boyfriend and I are planning a round trip (by rental car) through California and the Southwest and we'd love some input on the first rough draft of the route. We're going for 23 days in September next year and would like to stay in fairly affordable hotels and motels (no camping).
comment posted at 8:29 AM on Nov-23-13
I want to go on a long hike before my wife and I buy a house or have kids, sort of a 'final big adventure by myself' before completely settling down. The Appalachian Trail is tempting but 5 months is a long time to be away from home (not to mention it'll be expensive). Please suggest some alternative long hikes. Maybe in the 1-2 month length range. Bonus points if your suggestion is in Canada.
comment posted at 8:42 AM on Nov-21-13
I am getting rid of the horrible pet-stained carpet in my living room and am considering replacing it with tile. Is this a completely crazy idea?
comment posted at 2:54 PM on Nov-20-13
How do I endure the mice that descend upon my room at night? I really need to sleep again.
comment posted at 7:29 AM on Nov-20-13
Do I need to get my teeth deep cleaned before seeing the oral surgeon?
comment posted at 6:35 AM on Nov-20-13
former chronic procrastinators, reformed flighty people, etc.: What's the #1 change you've made to improve your organizational and time management skills? (new mantra or mindset? taking a course? etc)
comment posted at 6:16 PM on Nov-19-13
So I asked you for help solving my problems and said I'd do a three-part series over three weeks
- thing is, I'm still on the first. Please help me with my business.
comment posted at 10:29 AM on Nov-19-13
My fiancée and I want to get married at sea on a cruise. Unfortunately, we can't find a cruise line that sails from our nearby ports that offers a wedding package that works for us (all the lines we checked require that everything be done by the book on their schedule with their vows, music, food, etc.). Has anyone ever staged a "stealth wedding" at sea where you bring your own officiant, gather a small number of family and friends together at an agreed-upon time in a quiet corner of the ship, and carry out a short impromptu ceremony? Will the cruise line have a problem with this? Would there be a penalty if we were caught? More importantly, would a marriage license from our state be valid if signed at sea in international waters? If not, what if we handled the paperwork in port? It's just a germ of an idea right now and at this point we really want to know if this is all possible and legal. Any advice for us?
comment posted at 7:27 AM on Nov-19-13
I'm an early 30s male, I have spent the last few years living a very self-centered life, hopping around short term casual relationships. I recently had a change of priorities, and want to prioritise starting a family. The gist of the question is about compromise. What kind of traits should be prioritised in a partner?
comment posted at 6:50 PM on Nov-18-13
I'm considering confronting my father with the threat of estrangement. What should I know before initiating this kind of "break" with family? (Snowflakes abound, but general guidance helps too!)
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comment posted at 5:24 PM on Nov-20-13
"He had catched a great cold,had he had no other clothes to wear than the skin of a bear not yet killed."- Fuller- This is from "Middlemarch" written by G.Eliot. I'd like to know the source of Thomas Fuller. I can't find any information about it whereas I read a lot of his another quotations on the internet. I wonder if he really said so...
comment posted at 8:59 AM on Nov-18-13
I'd like to incorporate a bit more edginess into my work look (I work in a creative field, and as a lady, I want to project a bit less sweetness and a bit more edge). What are some ways I can do this? Open to any appearance-related suggestion-- clothing, hair, makeup, accessories, etc.-- with the exception of satanic face tattoos.
comment posted at 7:27 PM on Nov-17-13
My jam did the thing
again -- it levitated in the jar overnight. I took a photo
this time. I'm asking again in the hopes that someone new may have a definitive answer, as I'd like to know for sure if this means the jam is now inedible.
comment posted at 12:53 PM on Nov-25-13