12691 Ask MetaFilter answers by jessamyn (displaying 1 through 50)

The illicit parts of the dark web like Agora and Silk Road 2.0 have been pretty well-covered by the media. What's out there that's pretty vanilla but for whatever reason is a .onion site?
comment posted at 6:39 PM on Nov-23-14

I'm looking for happy books (fiction or non-) about traveling and living in new or weird places.
comment posted at 6:15 PM on Nov-23-14

Our recent cold, drizzly weather has me wanting to to curl up with a good book, but not just ANY good book, really specific specifics inside.
comment posted at 4:28 PM on Nov-22-14

In my experience, any time I have tried to have gotten help over the phone or the live chat many companies seem to have nowadays, it has been excruciatingly painful.
comment posted at 10:02 PM on Nov-21-14

Will I ever get an endorphin rush? I started an incremental exercise program, a couple of weeks doing a basic routine (24 mins a day) and then adding to it, and adding again (finally just under an hour a day). There were resistance bands and lots of sweating, I put a lot of effort in but got no endorphin rush.
comment posted at 4:30 PM on Nov-21-14

My wife is interested in a grow your own mushroom kit and can you help guide me turn this gift up to 11?
comment posted at 7:22 PM on Nov-20-14

What are some magazines or online publications that publish popular -- but not dumbed-down or gimmicky -- history writing? Difficulty level: must pay writers.
comment posted at 3:41 PM on Nov-20-14

I'm curious how those with a large amount of money at their disposal could go into a dealership and say "I'll take that one...now."
comment posted at 2:20 PM on Nov-20-14

When looking for a new place to live, there is a question I want to ask my potential future housemates, but I can't figure out how to phrase it. My best attempt so far is "How particular is your household about doing things a certain way?" or perhaps "How many high-maintenance things do you have in your house, and what kind of care do they need?" Basically I'm asking how nitpicky people are, but I want to ask in a neutral way.
comment posted at 7:39 AM on Nov-20-14

What were these called (if indeed they were called something), and where can I find out more about them? (Note that the video here has been retrofitted onto a 70s radio single.) I loved them as a 70s kid (they were pretty popular for a couple of years), and now I find them adorably stupid and kind of fascinating for some reason. Certainly not because they are clever.
comment posted at 9:05 PM on Nov-19-14

I recently had knee replacement surgery and my dear friend sent along a care package. She knew I would be in bed quite a bit and the box included a lovely, cozy, blanket and a box of herbal tea. She is now preparing for sinus surgery in December, which I have never had. What items would be good for me to send to her? She is a blanket nut and has plenty of those already. Thank you.
comment posted at 6:40 PM on Nov-19-14

New guy I'm seeing came over completely wasted and seems to drink quite a bit. I have alcoholism/drug addiction in my family so I feel like sometimes I can be too judgmental about things that others deem normal. I also am petrified of vulnerability and have a tendency to push people away. How do I know what's normal and what's not when it comes to drinking and dating?
comment posted at 10:15 AM on Nov-19-14

Has your cat ever had a food tube? Please tell me good things
comment posted at 9:12 AM on Nov-19-14

I'm looking for a great spot to get away from New England for a New Year's beach vacation. I realize I'm booking last-minute so flights are expensive and lodging inventory is limited. Tulum is high on the list, but it doesn't seem possible to stay anywhere near the water for less than $500/night (which is WAY beyond my budget). Airbnb has places in town for around $1000/week which is well within reach. Would it be a fun/relaxing/rejuvenating beach vacation experience staying in town in Tulum, renting a car, and driving to the beach? if so, does the hive mind have any tips for staying in town? Also, what alternative destinations might I consider in order to get right on the water?
comment posted at 7:45 PM on Nov-18-14

Just bought a house with a older Brinks Home security system. Well the previous owners had a Land-line and had the house monitored. When they moved out they disconnected the line and now the alarm is showing "CP Trouble" and beeping once every 45 seconds or so. We dont have a land-line nor plan on getting one. We also do not plan on having the alarm monitored but we like the door chime and being able to set the alarm. Even while set the CP problem is still there and beeps. I called Brinks and they said the only way to fix this was to disconnect the whole alarm system or get it monitored. I dont want to disconnect the alarm and I dont want it monitored. Does anyone know if there is a way to bypass this to stop the beeping?
comment posted at 6:54 PM on Nov-18-14

Drawing names from a hat just doesn't work for our far flung family anymore. Have you used a website or app to distribute secret Santa names. It should have some way to keep spouses from getting each others' names. It would be nice if you could post a wishlist at the same site.
comment posted at 6:30 PM on Nov-18-14

What can I use to solve my terribly dry hand problem? I would prefer natural solutions, like oils (but coconut oil isn't working, see below the fold). I would accept unscented creams that I can buy at a drug store. I would rather not spend $45 per ounce of some lady cream at sephora. (yes, diet, water, sleep, humidifier. I'm on those things.) thanks!
comment posted at 7:20 PM on Nov-17-14

Let's say I wanted to see the history of the angel Uriel. Or Zoroaster. Or Astaroth. Or one of the many demon-like figures in Japanese folklore. Is there such a comprehensive work of mythological beings? Something with facts like the first historical mention of the figure, various physical descriptions throughout time with context, their backstory(ies), etc?
comment posted at 8:51 AM on Nov-17-14

I'm looking for television shows that have plots that span long periods of time. Boardwalk Empire comes to mind. So does The Borgias.
comment posted at 8:57 AM on Nov-17-14

I noticed that a lot of famous web development companies and professionals have listed several Drupal and Wordpress-based websites as part of their online portfolios. If a web developer set up a client's website using an already existing theme on one of these CMSs, does it still count as a portfolio piece?
comment posted at 7:20 PM on Nov-16-14

I got a lot of great ideas after this question about things to teach my high school English class, but I need more book recs. MeFis are a literate bunch, but I have incredibly specific parameters from which I can work.
comment posted at 7:51 AM on Nov-15-14

Someone recently told me that Cormac McCarthy's All the Pretty Horses and Tony Hillerman's Navajo Tribal Police mystery novels evoked a significantly New Mexico/Southwestern feeling to the point that these books helped them stave off homesickness when they were living elsewhere. What other novels and authors capture and portray a sense of place that makes you feel like you're back in a place that you remember? I know some authors are known for writing about certain settings, but which works really capture the place as felt by someone who lives or lived there?
comment posted at 4:25 PM on Nov-14-14

I just moved into a small house and bought a frontloading washer and dryer. However when they came to install it, the appliances didn't fit. Now I am planning on buying a compact washer and dryer. However, in the past I have had problems with "mini" versions of appliances. Sometimes they are fine, but sometimes not only are they smaller, they also just simply work badly (don't clean, don't mix, don't heat etc. etc.)
comment posted at 11:20 AM on Nov-14-14

You know how on every single television show ever when someone is in the hospital, the nurse says they have to be wheeled out in a wheelchair upon discharge, even when they are perfectly capable of walking, because it's "hospital policy"? Is this a true thing that hospitals do?
comment posted at 7:20 PM on Nov-13-14

Going internet on this one, need house help: Problem, cold temps coming, exposed pipes with water in 'em, want to avoid freezing/cracking.
comment posted at 6:52 PM on Nov-13-14
comment posted at 7:32 PM on Nov-13-14

First, I am looking for suggestions of daytime activities on a Sunday afternoon (of a long weekend) in or near Burlington, Vermont. Second, I am looking for those activities to be friendly for an assorted cast of family and friends to do the day after a wedding. Both Vermont-specific and general-wedding-planning answers are welcome!
comment posted at 11:28 AM on Nov-13-14

I'm having problems letting go of control and being authentically "me" in my relationship.
comment posted at 6:56 AM on Nov-13-14

My friends and I have found that we really like getting high and talking about books we've read recently, and we've decided to make it a Thing. We're having trouble finding more books to read.
comment posted at 2:59 PM on Nov-11-14

Help me figure out how to think about my calorie intake. Should I view it in terms of the net or the gross?
comment posted at 1:19 PM on Nov-11-14

Sooner than any of us would like, we're going to have to put one of our cats to sleep. I've never done this before. Looking for a Durham, NC area vet who can come to our home, and for a pet cremation service.
comment posted at 10:49 AM on Nov-11-14

So I've been studying up on the interview protocol/got questions and answers from one of the leading temp companies --but I am stumped on this. I have several chronic conditions that need tricky monitoring (usually no more than every 3-6 months, and I try to get as many of them in one day as I can). Most of my docs do not grant appointments outside of business hours. I do have plenty of sick days.
comment posted at 10:28 AM on Nov-11-14

I am driving from Toronto to Philadelphia later this week for my brothers wedding. I have an opened bottle whiskey that I'd like to bring in the trunk of the car-- it's a bottle of great emotional significance and a family tradition. I know that in the US the open bottle is fine as long as it's in the trunk, but what about Ontario? also, where can I see these laws online?
comment posted at 12:44 PM on Nov-11-14

There are squirrels inside my roof. It is basically impossible to get up there. What to do?
comment posted at 8:41 PM on Nov-10-14

A massive, difficult undertaking. A once-in-a-lifetime experience. A commitment to something big and challenging. What is it?
comment posted at 1:47 PM on Nov-10-14

I threw out our microwave the other day in a fit of frustration over the amount of space it took up compared to how rarely we use it, and with its general unreliability. Did I make a mistake or is modern life possible without a microwave?
comment posted at 3:43 PM on Nov-10-14

My dad passed away recently. He was not yet 70, not in great health but nothing severe that we knew of. As far as we can tell, he was probably gone for about a week before his landlord noticed his rent was late. This is literally keeping me up at night--I also live alone, and I'm pretty sure it's going to stay that way for the foreseeable future, so how do I make sure that if something like this happens to me, I'm at least discovered promptly?
comment posted at 7:48 AM on Nov-10-14

Our old farmhouse was remodeled in the 50s and as a result, the living room is seriously something like 35 x 20 in some spots, while others are 'only' 15 feet wide. We moved here from a house that could fit IN our current living room. It's freaking me out. I'd really like to make the house, our living room especially, seem more cozy. What are some ideas or hacks to make this happen? I see lots of tips on how to make rooms seem bigger, but not so many to make the walls feel like they're closing in on you.
comment posted at 9:39 PM on Nov-9-14

I'm dealing with a lot of financial anxiety, even though I'm in a place that I know many people would envy. Does anyone have concrete advice for managing illogical anxiety over money, savings and employment?
comment posted at 5:09 PM on Nov-9-14

I'm interested in how telepathy has been portrayed in fiction (written form) and was wondering if anyone could point me to some examples where the protagonist struggles with the trait and has to learn how to master/control it in order to stay sane. Note: I've read The Shining and its recent sequel. Thanks in advance!
comment posted at 9:37 AM on Nov-9-14

You are not my dentist, oral surgeon, or travel agent: can an extraction or root canal be delayed a week or two if the active infection has temporarily been resolved through a short (10 day) course of antibiotics?
comment posted at 10:24 AM on Nov-8-14

Why does stranger A decide to ask stranger B for directions (or other small favours, like a light, or change for a bill), and not stranger C or D?
comment posted at 7:29 AM on Nov-8-14

Assuming we'll be together until death, I'm wondering what the reasons are for and against marrying my partner.
comment posted at 10:33 AM on Nov-7-14

The organization I work for is concerned about inaccurate information on our Wikipedia page. What's the best way to go about getting that changed?
comment posted at 9:45 PM on Nov-6-14

I have an important human Kinesiology question: are there different muscles for farting and pooping? Specifically, when one has a fart feeling that might be a poop, it feels as though one has the control to selectively let out the potential fart but not the potential poop. Is this a dangerous delusion? Is it really just a "let it all out" switch?
comment posted at 9:27 PM on Nov-6-14

My girlfriend recently had an instance alone where she contemplated (but did not attempt) suicide. It was the first time she'd experienced what she now recalls as a hallucination. She saw a psychotherapist 2 days afterwards to discuss options. After talking with the therapist, she decided to check in for inpatient psychiatric care (and arranged it for the same day). How can I be the best advocate for her health right now?
comment posted at 6:57 PM on Nov-6-14

What's the best description of that-which-can-not-be-described in horror literature you've encountered?
comment posted at 12:28 PM on Nov-6-14

I was reading something by someone who "did the math" for leaving a 400 Watt PC on for an entire year, and I thought his rate of 37 cents per kilowatt-hour was high.
comment posted at 8:42 PM on Nov-5-14

My partner and I have moved around a lot over the last few years. We're in one spot together, for now, but will likely have a few more bumps of not feeling settled for the next couple of years, as we'll likely be doing more cross-country and overseas moves. What gift ideas can you share, so we can take "home" with us wherever, whenever, we land?
comment posted at 1:04 PM on Nov-5-14

Just voted. Confused about so many slots only showing one candidate, along with a "write-in" blank line candidate.
comment posted at 2:27 PM on Nov-4-14

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