14422 Ask MetaFilter answers by jessamyn (displaying 1 through 50)

I've been working with middle-school students and many of them have had trouble putting in good performances on both math and verbal sections of a standardized test in one sitting. And a single student can switch between a high verbal score one sitting and then a high math score in another sitting. Curious if this is a known phenomenon with younger kids--that maybe they get stuck in a certain gear and can't modulate their efforts between very different skills and mindset needed for mathematical and verbal reasoning?
comment posted at 5:39 PM on Jan-18-17

I'm writing a fictional scene in which a car with a stick shift rolls backward on a steep hill (light changes from red to green) and hits the car behind it. What kind of damage would there be to both cars involved? Assuming it's a steep San Francisco hill. Would the police be called to fill out an accident report? Or would the two parties just exchange info and be on their way? I'm looking for the most dramatic outcome while still being plausible. Thanks for any input.
comment posted at 1:02 PM on Jan-18-17

Tomorrow night I need to go to a professional association meeting and I have to bring my 2.5 month old. The meeting is 2 hours long. Any tips for making this go as smooth as possible?
comment posted at 11:52 AM on Jan-18-17

What are best practices for sending a lot of media mail rate packages via USPS?
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comment posted at 12:40 PM on Jan-18-17

Trying to copy and paste pages only gets me the wording, none of the graphics or formatting. What to do?
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comment posted at 12:41 PM on Jan-18-17

I'm a first time car owner and I do not understand cars at all. How can I learn about cars, or enough about my car, that I'm not taken advantage of by mechanics/dealers when I repair/buy cars?
comment posted at 11:43 AM on Jan-17-17
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I am interested in becoming a Certified Fiduciary. Can I make a decent living doing this?
comment posted at 10:32 AM on Jan-17-17

My 15-year-old son is getting his braces off. This means he can again indulge in some of his favourite snacks, especially popcorn and chewing gum. I want to celebrate and also cheer him up (he's been a bit glum lately)--already thinking of taking him to the cinema *just* for a big bag of MOVIE THEATRE popcorn, and putting together a care package of various brands of gum for his school locker, but other than that, I got nothing. Any ideas, mefites, for braces-themed jokes or treats, etc., that I can surprise him with for, say, a week? Even mild pranks might work (the equivalent of putting googly eyes on stuff, but braces/teeth themed)? He has a silly sense of humour. Thanks :)
comment posted at 9:26 AM on Jan-17-17

How long does it take for a letter mailed from New York to reach the recipient in DC?
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comment posted at 9:32 AM on Jan-17-17

We've been charged with donating a family member's 24 year old Toyota Corolla which has reached the point of needing a new transmission. To whom should we donate the car?
comment posted at 3:11 PM on Jan-16-17

I've recently realised that it would be in my best interest to leave my current job. I actually feel quite passionate about the projects I'm working on, and I am aware leaving now would put a lot of people in terrible positions. Is there any way to minimize the damage if I leave this post?
comment posted at 10:09 AM on Jan-16-17

I frequently need to send emails to myself. Gmail keeps making it harder and harder. Details below.
comment posted at 5:03 PM on Jan-15-17

Spousal difference regarding thermostat. I run cold, wife runs hot. Her argument is that you can always layer. Fair enough, but I find myself needing to pile on sweaters in the middle of summer. Our two kids (5 & 8) are also usually cold inside the house. The thermostat is usually set to 65 degrees. Does 65 degrees year round seem unusually cold in the context of human beings living in a climate controlled house? Household thermometer is currently 62.5 (located in a different room that thermostat).
comment posted at 9:10 AM on Jan-15-17

Did my ex-girlfriend hack into my Facebook Messenger account to get details about my current budding-relationship to try to fabricate an email to try to derail it? Help me analyze the IP/login evidence as well as real-world considerations as I figure out who the liar is, please!
comment posted at 7:11 PM on Jan-14-17

Long story short, I didn't fulfill a promise to help my fiance while he was under a lot of stress preparing for an extremely important presentation this morning. He is understandably very upset and disappointed in me. I feel terrible and have apologized repeatedly, but that doesn't change the fact that it happened in the first place and that this isn't the first time I've acted thoughtlessly and selfishly around him. How can we move past this? And how can I stop being so self-centered time and again? More inside.
comment posted at 7:18 PM on Jan-11-17

Assuming a cap of about $1000, what object/device/service/experience has made the most profound positive difference in your life?
comment posted at 6:57 AM on Jan-11-17

Someone I used to be close with but haven't seen for over a year even though we live in the same metro area has sent a 'save the date' card. She voluntarily threw my husband and I a lovely wedding reception when we eloped 6 years ago. Am I obligated to go to her wedding because of this? Snowflake circumstances inside...
comment posted at 7:02 AM on Jan-11-17

If a woman was experiencing her normal PMS symptoms like cramps & unusual emotional fluctuation on and off for a certain amount of time, but her period has failed to show up, how long would a doctor want to wait to see if it's just a flukey cycle? Or if the doctor didn't want to wait, decided enough time had passed, what would they do next? Assume pregnancy is a million-percent impossible. Assume Dr. Google has already been consulted.
comment posted at 7:09 AM on Jan-11-17

My sister is estranged from my parents and me. It’s been about 5 years since she’s been in touch with everyone, initially estranging herself from my mother, then my father. For about a year after that she was still in touch with me, but ceased contact when I refused a request I saw as an attempt to make me ‘take her side’ against our mother.
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My tax situation, including income, is identical this year and last down to the penny. I'd like to file ASAP to use a refund for a time-sensitive car repair. Must I wait?
comment posted at 11:20 AM on Jan-9-17

After reading the excellent Clara Bow: Running Wild, I want to read more about 20s Hollywood, flappers, or both. I don't know a huge amount about that time period so don't be afraid to suggest the obvious. Biographies or novels, I'm open to either. Recommend some books to me!
comment posted at 9:38 AM on Jan-9-17

Like many of you, I've been imbibing a heady emotional cocktail of fear and anger since the US election. I'm putting more time/effort/money toward opposing Trump's agenda and supporting progressive policies at the local level, and I'm working to stay on top of self-care (therapy, as-needed anti-anxiety meds, occasional spiritual counseling, sharing love & support with family/friends, closing the fucking tab when I need to). Here's where I'm concerned: I think it's important to maintain the capacity for moral outrage in the face of injustice. However, I worry about turning into an "angry person."
comment posted at 9:31 AM on Jan-9-17

I would like to set up a recurring donation to an NPR local station, but I do not have an NPR local station. Where would my (little) money make the 'most' difference?
comment posted at 12:04 PM on Jan-8-17

Share with me your favorite longform articles about tradition and traditions.
comment posted at 6:47 AM on Jan-8-17

Please help me identify these incredibly weird and annoying light switches that are installed throughout my house.
comment posted at 2:26 PM on Jan-7-17

My dad gets into arguments with people almost like a hobby. He regularly upsets people with this, but more so with his inability to apologise or take responsibility for upsetting people. It is pushing people away from him. Can you suggest ways in which I might talk about this with him which won't end up in another argument?
comment posted at 9:39 AM on Jan-7-17

I think there are people here that can help me with this puzzle! You guys are my last hope!
comment posted at 9:51 AM on Jan-7-17

Asking for a friend. Relationship of a few months has devolved from serious emotional manipulation to actual physical abuse. This guy is unhinged - violent outbursts followed by desperate apologies, text messages, showing up at her house unannounced. How does the process for obtaining a restraining order work? How long does it take? The most severe incident happened today (I'll spare the details). If she filed a police report today, could she get the order immediately? Within a few days? Is a restraining order the same as an order of protection? Or..... will a restraining order just make things worse and jeopardize her safety?
comment posted at 3:17 PM on Jan-6-17

I am digitizing a friend's CD music collection. Once I rip it to MP3s (what she requested), what would be the easiest & cheap as in free way to send it all to her via the Interwebs as I do so?
comment posted at 2:11 PM on Jan-6-17

I was joking with a friend about how we should postpone our blood pact because he has a cold, and we realized neither of us really knows if that even makes medical sense. Could you realistically pass on a cold via an ill-timed super-swearsies? Are there any surprising or lesser known "totally can!" or "totally can't!" illnesses in that category? Interesting underlying blood mechanisms?
comment posted at 6:44 PM on Jan-5-17

I am going to be teaching a semester-long class on intercultural issues to college students, and I am wondering how you or people that you know learned to not be xenophobic and racist. Are there any books / articles / films / experiences / activities that changed your thinking in deep ways? This is basically a required cultural sensitivity class, which I can largely design however I choose, so I am gathering ideas. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
comment posted at 2:14 PM on Jan-5-17

Give me your favorite PG insults from movies and TV, please!
comment posted at 2:43 PM on Jan-5-17

How do I pay someone who won't give me their name or contact info?
comment posted at 7:18 AM on Jan-5-17

How do I deal with my MIL choosing to ignore her only grandchild over her already-gone mother with dementia?
comment posted at 3:03 PM on Jan-4-17

My mom was unemployed in California receiving unemployment insurance. She has a new job. The offer letter says that funding cuts are possible and her job might be eliminated in the future. The fact that this is directly in the offer letter is freaking me out. What does this mean for us?
comment posted at 1:24 PM on Jan-4-17

But I've always had a great relationships with ex's...
comment posted at 8:38 AM on Jan-4-17

Mostly loving these ridiculous new AirPods, but as many have noted they are slippery as can be. I don't necessarily mean even in your ears, as much as just pulling them out of the case. I know that at some point there will be "skins" to cover them, but the tight tolerance of them fitting in the case, plus the holes for all of the sensors, will make these solutions difficult. What I'm looking for is a solution to add some "grippy points" strategically to the earpieces themselves.
comment posted at 9:01 AM on Jan-4-17

Suggest expense apps or spend trackers for my iPhone that do not require having a budget? I do a good job at tracking my expenses using Dropbox and a Numbers document but I'd like to do more stuff more easily from my phone, maybe get some reports. I'd like to get more of a handle on where my money is going and, if possible, sort out expenses by trip. I've tried a lot of apps and I'm coming up short. Maybe there is one you like? Specifics follow.
comment posted at 5:41 PM on Jan-15-17

In the 1970s there were ads in the back of magazines like Teen or Seventeen for a company that sold lip gloss and I think eye shadow etc., only by mail. The lip gloss came in cute little tubs, and I think they had a logo that had something to do with ladybugs, bumblebees, or butterflies. In middle school I became something like a sales rep and sold the items to my friends in order to get a discount for myself or perhaps free products. It was definitely not a big company like Avon or Mary Kay. Does this ring a bell for anyone? My sister and I are going crazy trying to remember!
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I'm hoping to treat myself to a couple of days skiing sometime in late Feb/early March. I'd like to ski somewhere I have not before, and larger than the Wachusett-size mountains I usually hit.
comment posted at 8:29 AM on Jan-3-17

What is one concept or mental model you learned in law school, grad school, business school, trade school, in a MOOC, etc., that blew your mind, stuck with you, and became a regular or essential part of your "cognitive toolkit"?
comment posted at 2:31 PM on Jan-2-17

I really want to start from an early age teaching my child that stuff is just stuff. I also want to be realistic about development and temperament. I have heard others speak of terrible emotional struggles getting kids to let go of excess, and it does not help that the primary caregiver for my child likes stuff and clutter. What do you suggest for raising a child to have a healthy (moderate) attachment to things, assuming this isn't a harmful goal?
comment posted at 2:52 PM on Jan-2-17

My father died last night after a very long illness. My brain isn't working well right now, so I'm asking the Hive Mind for some help. I think I have the basics under control for now, but it's the next couple of months that I need advice for. Details inside.
comment posted at 3:54 PM on Jan-1-17

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