12815 Ask MetaFilter answers by jessamyn (displaying 1 through 50)

I want to introduce more kink and toys to sexy time with the Mr. I need to first get over my embarrassment of kink and sex toys so that I can then apply your lessons for how to introduce kink and sex toys to the Mr.
comment posted at 9:33 PM on Jan-28-15


I was reading this comment by KathrynT about men's perceptions of women in groups being equal in number when the no. of women is 17%, women having to comprise over 80% of group members to get equal speaking time with men. I'd really like to know where this came from, about gender and language more widely, gender and misperceptions generally. I'm looking for book recommendations but am also interested in anything else you think is a good resource - blogs, articles etc.
comment posted at 6:39 PM on Jan-28-15


My computer apparently picked up an infection while it was turned off. I know that's not right. What really happened?
comment posted at 6:44 PM on Jan-28-15


Can you tell me what it was like for a junior high girl to get a perm in the eighties?
comment posted at 12:05 PM on Jan-28-15


My mother-in-law has a completely borked car. This is apparently my job to fix. What should I do?
comment posted at 9:35 PM on Jan-27-15


How do I convert from Word 94 to Word 2010 when I can't get the original files to open? How do I convert Powerpoint files to Keynote?
comment posted at 9:57 AM on Jan-27-15


I have only a vague idea of what honest-but-kind looks like in close relationships. I find it hard to imagine saying, "I like you, but I don't like that about you," without it coming across as a harsh rejection. Do you have examples of times that you were honest-but-kind? If it's something that you do well on a regular basis, what's the most important thing you're bringing to the interaction?
comment posted at 10:10 AM on Jan-27-15


Hi, This morning I went for an endoscopy with sedation (my first time). Every thing went fine, as far as I know. Now I still feel groggy and really really bored. I'm also uneasy about what happened. I'm watching cartoons on TV now but I don't know what else to do to not be bored and take my mind off of it. I think I slept all I can earlier. Any suggestions? More details under the cut.
comment posted at 8:17 PM on Jan-26-15


My 12 year old daughter and I are taking a three week cross-country road trip later this year. We’re hitting many of the places that you’d expect a father and daughter to check out while driving around the US, as well as some cities that we’re pretty excited about, but we have a few interstitial days between the Grand Canyon and Graceland that I’m not quite sure about. What should we do in, or near, Oklahoma City and Albuquerque? Any suggestions are much appreciated!
comment posted at 5:32 PM on Jan-26-15


My mother-in-law's husband died last year, and she has nominated me to be the administrator of his estate. I have a copy of his living trust, but it is missing the trust related documents, transfer documents, etc. The trust was prepared in 1987. I tried to contact the attorney for the trustor, but it looks like he has either died or retired. Is there a way for me to obtain the missing documents? I live in California.
comment posted at 4:49 PM on Jan-26-15


I'm writing a story, set in 1999, with a character who is a photographer. I don't know a lot about what that might entail. Help me out?
comment posted at 5:15 PM on Jan-26-15


I've found that my baby goes to sleep easier when listening to Enya. I can only listen to Orinoco Flow so many times before I kill myself. Can you help me find Enya-like music to add to the cue?
comment posted at 8:12 PM on Jan-25-15


I'm in love with my female colleague. We went on a date in 2014 and left it as friends. Now I'm thinking of finding a new job - should I tell her why or is this unfairly burdening someone else with my problem?
comment posted at 7:21 PM on Jan-23-15


Years ago, I had a male coworker who wore a plastic rosary as a necklace. Just recently, I met another man who does the same thing. Is this part of some kind of movement or subculture? Fashion trend? Fringe religious group?
comment posted at 4:36 PM on Jan-21-15


My dad has a camper trailer thingy in his driveway, of the type typically referred to as a "fifth wheel" (see image here). It's paid for, it's unsellable, and so far, it has been impossible to give it away. It's in a terrible state of disrepair, and it needs to go wherever it is fifth wheel campers go to die. But where is that, exactly?
comment posted at 3:53 PM on Jan-21-15


I got divorced a few years ago and I am not in pain about it anymore, except I kind of am. How can I it make a thing I am not hiding from work acquaintances, but also give the sense it isn't something I want to talk about?
comment posted at 5:45 PM on Jan-20-15


I broke things off with an old friend and she texts DH with messages to me. I want her to stop doing this. It has been over two years since I ended our friendship. Snowflakes after the jump.
comment posted at 5:48 PM on Jan-20-15
comment posted at 2:55 PM on Jan-21-15


Dear Mefites, what are your suggestions, tips and resources for someone wanting to improve the way they use their Mac?
comment posted at 12:36 PM on Jan-20-15


I'm writing an article about someone who spent time in the California State Asylum and San Quentin prison around the middle of the last half of the 19th century. I'm looking for books or journal article recommendations that could help give me an idea of what life was like in these institutions specifically or similar institutions in general during this time.
comment posted at 10:12 AM on Jan-20-15


There are tons of suggestions on how to stop nail-biting on metafilter, but they all seem to coincide with the idea that to stop a compulsive habit, one must replace it with another habit.
comment posted at 7:40 PM on Jan-19-15


My mom has inherited my dad's 2,000 record albums, most of which are movie soundtracks. She is trying to decide whether to sell them or donate them, and step one is sorting and cataloging. They're not in any order. Is there some good way of alphabetizing them where they live, in a small room without lots of floor space to make piles?
comment posted at 11:11 AM on Jan-19-15


I've been having the upper respiratory infection from hell for more than a week, and have two questions about the aftermath.
comment posted at 8:04 AM on Jan-19-15


Dear Askme, I am so sad--any words of advice for the very recently heartbroken? My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me yesterday. It was for the 'right' reasons--he came to realize that he didn't want, with me, the long-term things (living together, marriage, kids) that I wanted with him. I'm not mad at him--just very sad.
comment posted at 9:16 AM on Jan-19-15


Please tell me about your very favorite small (or smallish) town in your state or province (US/Canada, only, please).
comment posted at 9:59 PM on Jan-17-15


Okay. So. I'm thirty years old now. I am reasonably mentally sound and healthy. I am a single man. I am okay with this fact, but because everyone I know is getting married and/or makin' babies, I have to wonder what, if anything, is wrong with me, or at least to come to an understanding that lets me be at peace with the future, however bleak it looks on the relationship front.
comment posted at 6:58 PM on Jan-17-15


I always thought I could learn whatever I needed to learn about computers, but as my life has gotten more complex, and computers keep changing, I find myself with over 12 years of email from school and three jobs, and more and different kinds of stuff coming all the time. I see four big things I'd like to do with my computing environment (home, work, phone, cloud) but I have no idea how to get started or what is the best way to do this. I need a computing mentor.
comment posted at 8:51 AM on Jan-17-15
comment posted at 5:33 PM on Jan-20-15


Boston's eponymous first album was 8 tracks long. Every single track on that album received (and still receives, on classic rock stations) significant airplay. Are there other albums about which this can be said?
comment posted at 5:47 PM on Jan-16-15


My girlfriend and I are spending the long the weekend skiing in Killington Vermont. We've never been here before, we are looking for restaurant recommendations from locals or folks that have spent significant time here. In particular, places that have decent vegetarian options (I eat eggs and dairy but not fish) would be great.
comment posted at 6:18 PM on Jan-16-15


YANMTA (You Are Not My Tattoo Artist): I'm getting a tattoo. I absolutely know what I want, where I'm going (though I haven't been to the parlor yet since it's out of town) and this is definitely happening. What I want to know is how your (or your friends') fineline or scrimshaw-style and/or tattoo with lettering looks 5, 10, 20 years down the line, with regards to thinking ahead with design.
comment posted at 7:14 PM on Jan-14-15


Please recommend some well-established series of not-too-gory or graphic mystery novels in interesting settings.
comment posted at 6:31 PM on Jan-13-15


On anxiety and medication for the modern man.
comment posted at 9:14 AM on Jan-13-15


Travel background noise setup - Does anyone have a fan or a noise audio file (white, brown, pink?) they can recommend? Do you have a setup to play these sounds all night long that you feel works well for you? Bonus points if it doesn't have bright lights.
comment posted at 3:36 PM on Jan-12-15


A trouble-making colleague "helped" me discover I'm being paid app. 100% less than the last two people who did my job. I've only been in the position for about 4 months. My boss "Karen" is a big women's rights advocate, and important political connector. Coincidentally, I'm a woman, too. How do I handle this?
comment posted at 4:11 PM on Jan-12-15


Has anyone built a guesthouse/in-law suite/studio on their property?
comment posted at 4:22 PM on Jan-12-15


I'll be in London for work at the end of the month but will also have some time for fun/sightseeing. I'm trying to figure out where to stay to maximize both.
comment posted at 5:22 PM on Jan-11-15


I live in a one bedroom apartment. 1/3rd of my living room is assigned to my craft table/supply storage for my mixed media art hobbies. I just lean my unused canvases under my desk in that area. How do I organize them more efficiently and WHAT do I put them in?
comment posted at 9:55 AM on Jan-11-15


How can I legitimately use the artworks that inspired my poem?
comment posted at 8:05 AM on Jan-10-15


I would like some basic, dude-styled flannel button up shirts. I'm a short, small-framed queer person who stores weight in my chest. "Men's" flannels are generally too large; "women's" often have girly details like darts and little wee pockets and dainty buttons; "boy's" would be perfect but the sleeves are invariably too short. Do you have a body like mine and a basic flannel you love? Where did you buy it?
comment posted at 10:42 AM on Jan-9-15


My first grader likes science documentaries (life sciences, geology, space) and creative short films. A few favorites are Secret life of Plankton, the most recent PES films (submarine sandwich and fresh guacamole) and "origami" by ESMA. I am looking for similar short films - not full length documentaries. I'm thinking about 5 minutes to 30 minutes.
comment posted at 11:41 AM on Jan-8-15


I'm having a disagreement with a recent dissatisfied customer of my IT business and am looking for impartial outside perspective.
comment posted at 5:00 PM on Jan-7-15


I am looking for a cart for transporting and displaying books (something like this). It seems like there is a substantial price range -- you can pay anywhere from $200 to $500 or more for a six-shelf cart! Does anyone have recommendations or experience with particular brands or models?
comment posted at 11:37 AM on Jan-6-15


Please tell me if you have had an intense friendship with someone of the sex you're attracted to and it genuinely was platonic. My husband is very close to another woman and swears they're just friends. I'm worried. He adores her, he spends every spare minute with her and when they're not together, I know he's thinking of her. He isn't like this with any other friend and never has been (we've been married 15 years).
comment posted at 7:02 PM on Jan-5-15


We need to save $2000 every month for the next 6 months. That's not easy. I want to be able to say: okay, here's how much we've saved so far this month, here are our known expenses, can we afford a coffee out today, yes or no? But we don't have a good way to track our day-to-day, week-to-week progress so that we can adjust our spending as needed. Special difficulty: I don't think an app is going to work. I wish I could rig up a flashing neon sign or something over the front door...
comment posted at 12:13 PM on Jan-5-15


I got a crock pot for Christmas, yay! I want to make this Slow-Cooker Spanish Lentil and Chorizo stew. It calls for dried lentils but I only have canned. Will putting them in a crock pot for 5 hours turn them into complete mush? Can I do it, or do I have to venture out onto the icy street of death to get dried lentils?
comment posted at 10:07 AM on Jan-5-15


John Lennon's "Watching the Wheels" has a great message about just being yourself, and not listening to others' expectations. Can you think of more songs about stepping out of the rat race? Old, new, and in other genres?
comment posted at 6:50 PM on Jan-4-15


My fiancee and I are trying to keep wedding costs down and are entertaining the idea of printing some of the paper items necessary ourselves (rehearsal dinner invite, wedding invitation insert, ceremony program, etc.). Is there a consumer printer that costs under $150 that could do a pretty good job with these things? Looking at Amazon is kind of overwhelming with the various makes and models, and since I haven't bought a printer in many years I'm not sure what to trust.
comment posted at 1:50 PM on Jan-4-15


Last night I was watching Derren Brown's Infamous, in which he claims to be able to recite the entire works of Shakespeare using memory trick techniques (visualisation/creating a narrative etc), and also said he attained one of the highest grades in the country in his A-levels by using them. I'm wondering if this was an impressive stage trick, or if these techniques actually work, I'd also be grateful for any proven techniques for improving long and short term memory recall. Is there anything scientifically-backed out there for this?
comment posted at 4:42 PM on Jan-3-15


Men have a million options for made to measure shirts, suits, etc. but I have a very difficult time finding anything comparable for women.
comment posted at 5:33 PM on Jan-2-15


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