14593 Ask MetaFilter answers by jessamyn (displaying 1 through 50)

What are the stereotypes of Ivy league students and graduates?
comment posted at 3:07 PM on Mar-28-17

You're not my doctor, but I can't get in touch with him right now. I typically take 15 mg of Prevacid (the only mg sold OTC that I can find) but I am having breakthrough heartburn a few days a week. I know prescription Prevacid comes in 30 mg, but the boxes of 15mg all say "Do not take more than 1 capsule a day." My plan was to take 30 mg all at once at the usual time I take 15mg (once a day.) Is this acceptable? Does the delayed-release aspect of the OTC Prevacid make this a bad idea?
comment posted at 10:50 AM on Mar-28-17

Looking for reasonably priced hotel suites (with kitchens) in Toronto.
comment posted at 7:23 PM on Mar-26-17

I generally fall asleep very quickly. Kiss my husband, light out, head on pillow, and I'm out. My husband finds this remarkable and says it generally takes him 15-30 minutes to sleep. Google tells me most people fall asleep within ten minutes, and falling asleep too quickly can indicate over-tiredness, but I've been like this forever and don't feel tired at all. Because my husband has always been so surprised by this (even after many years bedsharing), I am curious to know how long it actually takes others to fall asleep! More sleepflakes within.
comment posted at 12:59 PM on Mar-26-17

Imagine someone is hosting a casual house party of 20-30 people and invites a guest who is a new friend. It goes like this:
  • Host invites the guest personally, by text message
  • Guest happily replies, saying they will come
  • The day before the party, host texts guest a reminder
  • Guest confirms they will come
  • Guest doesn't show up to party, and doesn't send host a message before or anytime after the party
As a host, how would you react to this behavior?
comment posted at 1:09 PM on Mar-26-17

My mother-in-law is overbearing and my temperamental opposite. Can the relationship be improved, or should we just see each other even less than we do today?
comment posted at 10:44 AM on Mar-25-17

I have a neighbour (in a small community) who is high-strung and nervy and now has some kind of strong reaction of dislike and judgement towards. It's her own story, and she does this regularly with people. I've been ignoring it but I find my response is to avoid going where I will be around her and to withdraw into my shell. It affects me more than I would like it to. I would feel much better if I could somehow make peace. Ideas?
comment posted at 7:46 AM on Mar-24-17

I am looking for a cereal that is sweetened (minimally) with an unrefined sugar (like honey). Anything?
comment posted at 7:56 PM on Mar-21-17

Someone at work was joking around and said that he “needs a SWAT team”. My other coworker mentioned that using the word SWAT is inappropriate to use in the workplace since the W in SWAT stands for “weapons” and in today’s news, there are a lot of crazy things happening. And I told him that he is crazy, it’s totally fine to use that term. But he then went ahead and said that it refers to violence, and anyone who uses the word SWAT at work in that way can get in trouble, and possibly lose their job. He also says that any other word that refers to violence can get someone in trouble. What does everyone else think?
comment posted at 4:58 PM on Mar-20-17

If you threw a party and invited everyone you knew, would you invite people you already knew could not come?
comment posted at 2:30 PM on Mar-20-17

This is one of those incidents that sticks in my mind and would appreciate opinions on it. I was at a bar-b-q and apropos of just a word that was connected, I referred to teasing a friend about how Obama is his deity. This guy in the group had a peeved look on his face and angrily asked "you really think there are people like that?" (as if I had just mortally insulted all Obama supporters.)
comment posted at 7:25 AM on Mar-20-17

I'm looking for recommendations on the safest (most hygienic, disease-avoidant) method for cleaning rat droppings off of THINGS before those things are handled / moved, so that said cleaning, handling and moving doesn't cause health problems for the cleaner (me) or the movers.
comment posted at 6:06 AM on Mar-20-17

Hello, all! I have a NookHDplus I bought about five years ago, and would like to transfer files to it, but am having a hard time figuring out how to do so from my Mac.
comment posted at 7:15 PM on Mar-19-17

I'm a straight middle-aged female who is experiencing a lot of issues with both romantic relationships and platonic male friends who have unvoiced expectations that I should perform nearly all of the emotional labor in our relationships.
comment posted at 6:31 PM on Mar-19-17

Does it make sense to hire a CPA to go over old tax returns and help me correct anything I've missed? If so, can you recommend someone in the NYC area?
comment posted at 9:30 AM on Mar-19-17

I've heard that the people who got rich from gold rushes were mostly grocers, not miners. When marijuana is legalized, who makes money from it and what were they doing before?
comment posted at 8:56 AM on Mar-19-17

This discussion on the blue has got me thinking about how much anxiety seems to be a factor in the behaviour and performance of many of the people I work with these days.
comment posted at 9:11 AM on Mar-19-17

Mom is in her 70s and does okay with computers, but is struggling with Windows 10 and organizing her photos. Any suggestions for programs that may help? Details inside.
comment posted at 9:09 AM on Mar-18-17

New fridge makes high-pitched whining noise whenever compressor kicks in. Who do I call and what do I ask for? Complicating factor: partner can't hear it and isn't bothered by it.
comment posted at 7:11 AM on Mar-18-17

I've cold emailed someone in my industry and she responded with a rude email. How do I respond?
comment posted at 11:15 AM on Mar-16-17

Help me help my best friend through the end of her life.
comment posted at 2:17 PM on Mar-14-17

I commissioned a small art piece from someone who I do not know in person but with whom I share friends and with whom I also interact with frequently on social media. In January, the piece was complete. I sent the payment balance immediately but I have not yet received the art.
comment posted at 2:02 PM on Mar-14-17

I'm leaving next week for a 45-day treatment program. Friends are staying over to watch my place and feed my cats. I need to figure out some way to inform my onsite building manager of the situation, as well as advise her that she won't be able to contact me during that period. (She generally contacts me via phone or email once or twice a month about various matters, and in rehab I won't have access to my mobile or a computer.) I'd prefer, of course, to avoid divulging any embarassing or potentially incriminating details. Can anyone help me think of an appropriately euphemistic explanation?
comment posted at 11:29 AM on Mar-14-17

Where can I turn for positive support when it's not regularly available?
comment posted at 5:36 PM on Mar-13-17

I'm thinking about getting some noise cancelling headphones but before I spend the cash I'd like to know whether they would work in my situation. I know it must sound bizarre, but I have a very noisy husband. And I'm noise sensitive.
comment posted at 12:22 PM on Mar-13-17

I would really like to know: 1. How should the restaurant have handled this? 2. What should my husband and I have done? (semi)Short story: While we were in a vacation town this weekend, a server lost our debit card between charging our card and returning it to us. We were not notified right away, when we sought out an assistant manager, she was unaware of the situation, the manager in charge was notified even later, and then did not apologize, got defensive, and escalated quickly. She was making the scene in the restaurant, not us. The police came and asked us outside. We found out the manager had told the police that we wouldn't leave and wanted them to escort us out. She had never asked us to leave and we were still waiting for information! We ended up filing a police report, and clearly we won't ever go back. What *should* have happened?
comment posted at 8:34 AM on Mar-13-17

I lost my dog in a somewhat rural area. What do I do?
comment posted at 8:37 AM on Mar-13-17
comment posted at 10:53 AM on Mar-13-17

Are U.S. citizens (by birth or naturalized) experiencing any difficulty with Customs at the present time? First- or second-hand experience, please, no hearsay. I am also interested in typical experiences rather than anomalies.
comment posted at 8:41 AM on Mar-13-17

How do I get better at self-care and work towards more positivity in my life when it seems that innately I'm a cynical person? How do I do the things I know that I need to do to feel better physically and mentally when I struggle with believing I deserve to be kind to myself? If you're a survivor of depression or abuse how do you even start to build self-esteem?
comment posted at 6:16 PM on Mar-12-17
comment posted at 3:14 PM on Mar-15-17

I'm looking for precise, interesting, mellifluous, preferably aesthetically pretty words to add to my vocabulary!
comment posted at 12:45 PM on Mar-12-17

Oh, god, I'm dumb... in the fall I got into an "accident" and I don't think I did the right thing, now I'm worried about my insurance. Details inside.
comment posted at 10:42 AM on Mar-12-17

How do people in cities without public transit get home after drinking?
comment posted at 8:38 PM on Mar-11-17

geegollygosh recently asked a similar question though for an adult's personal use. I'd like something that enables a parent's control over her child's phone use.
comment posted at 10:30 AM on Mar-11-17

My sister-in-law (the wife of my husband's sister) and I are both staying at the house of our respective significant others for a short time. We bought something together as a gift for the house, agreeing we'd split it 50/50, and now she refuses to take my portion. I feel upset but also like I'm being petty for being offended she won't take my money after she agreed we'd split it. What is the etiquette here? Snowstorm inside.
comment posted at 5:15 PM on Mar-10-17

We need sleek sophisticated aprons, ideally without a pocket on the upper (bib) part of the apron so we can get a logo silk screened onto them. We do not want to spend $45 or more per apron! (We might spend $30 or more for the right apron.) Please Hope Us!!
comment posted at 3:41 PM on Mar-10-17

So, non-advice givers, friend of the year MeFites, loving supportive people…what do you do instead of fixing? What is your thinking as people lay out their problems? How do you direct your end of the conversation so it’s helpful or productive in some way.
comment posted at 2:06 PM on Mar-10-17

I am going to Luge Fantasy Camp at the Olympic Training Center in Lake Placid at the end of this month. I'll be flying into Burlington VT late Thurs evening, and then don't have to be anywhere until 1 pm on Friday. I've never been in that area of the country before, so could use some recommendations of where to stay/what to eat.
comment posted at 8:10 AM on Mar-9-17

I thought the commonly accepted idea around race was that it existed as a bigoted construct and while racism is oppressive and breeds injustice, we shouldn't really accept racist groupings as the way we think of others. Then a friend posted this article from the NAIS which suggests racial socialization and seeks racial justice.
comment posted at 7:06 AM on Mar-9-17

I have an elderly parent living alone who has agreed that they are down with a) a daily phone call check-in service, and/or b) some kind of medical alert/emergency notification system (a la Lifeline). Does AskMe have personal recommendations for either? Otherwise I'm just Googling around.
comment posted at 3:21 PM on Mar-8-17

Is there a collective term that is used to categorize adages such as Murphy's Law?
comment posted at 3:23 PM on Mar-8-17

I just learned my godfather/uncle passed away, but no date for service has been set. I need to book a flight quickly once that is set, but I am not sure how to get the best deal.
comment posted at 9:53 AM on Mar-8-17

Late at night, I love beautiful sounding spoken word. Please help me find some more. The content is far less important than that it sounds good, and beautiful verbiage is more important than meaning. English is optional. Background sound is fine, as long as it doesn’t overwhelm the text, and good production is a plus. My canonical examples would be: the velvet voice of Joe Frank; the closing, spoken word segments of the Late Night Tales mix series (Stephen Rea, David Tennant, Cillian Murphy); Alan Watts - though he loses points for seriousness of content. Thanks!
comment posted at 5:04 AM on Mar-7-17

How can I stop/deal better with constant feelings of irritation?
comment posted at 8:57 PM on Mar-5-17

I have a small advertising budget to promote a book. How should I spend it?
comment posted at 7:00 PM on Mar-5-17
comment posted at 2:00 PM on Mar-6-17

We are considering a move to Seattle, and if possible we'd like to drop down to one car and mostly use public transportation. How feasible is this?
comment posted at 10:59 AM on Mar-5-17

My best friend means a lot to me, but her alcoholic behaviour is getting out of control. After inexcusable drunken outbursts, the disintegration of our friendship group with school friends, several run ins with the law, ultimatums from loved ones regarding her seeking help going in one ear and out the other, I have run out of ideas. Do I offer my unconditional love and support her through her troubles, or is it time to burn my bridges with her and accept that only she can help herself.
comment posted at 11:06 AM on Mar-5-17

I have an airbnb apartment in Los Angeles. I'm working on small touches to welcome folks and am thinking about making custom postcard with a nice photo (which I took) of a classic LA vista with a link to my listing on the back in the caption. I'm curious if two postcards would seem like a nice thing to receive as a guest and if you'd keep it or mail it?
comment posted at 7:42 PM on Mar-4-17

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