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I have bought the movie "Blue is the Warmest Color" on DVD, and now I would like to know the name of one of the actresses of the movie.
comment posted at 11:14 AM on Jul-11-14


My husband finally got the tenure-track academic job at an awesome university he's been working towards his whole life. So how can I get myself to stop hating him for it? Lots of rambling inside.
comment posted at 9:08 AM on Jul-11-14


Ever come across a scene in a movie and thought that the website or program or interactive "platform" was really cool? First thing that comes to mind of course is that really cool Minority Report scene or this Mission: Impossible software... It doesn't have to be too far into the future, it could be modern.. Could be the graphics that caught your eye, could be the simplicity, could be anything at all..
comment posted at 7:29 PM on Jul-8-14


About 15 years ago I behaved badly. Should I tell my husband about it? Ordinarily I'd say no, it's in the past. But there are some complicating factors. Help me figure out what to do.
comment posted at 1:11 PM on Jun-29-14


One of the first issues of Maker Magazine had a project to build a backyard modern shed/office with simple materials bought at any home improvement store. I've been Googling all morning but can't seem to find the plans online or any references to the project since the magazine has launched Maker Shed as their store for buying stuff, which muddies the results. Can anyone help me find this project?
comment posted at 3:59 PM on Jun-28-14


I've taken some estimates for work on my large deck that will involve mostly painting, some replacing trim, and replacing some rotten joists and boards. A contractor who comes well recommend from similar work by neighbors gave a quote, but he is not licensed and bonded. A contractor who we have worked with in the past and has done good work for us, who is licensed and bonded, gave us a quote for twice as much. It's a significant amount of money.
comment posted at 3:34 PM on Jun-27-14


This morning, I was surprised to see the clear imprint of my wife's butt and thighs in a bluish tone on our white melamine toilet seat. Is the actual chemistry known here, and what should we do to avoid this in the future?
comment posted at 1:30 PM on Jun-27-14


I will be applying to "editorial assistant" jobs soon, which is a career switch. How do I submit the best possible application?
comment posted at 7:12 PM on Jun-24-14


Rate my reaction to burn rides. Am I getting upset about the marijuana equivalent of an alcoholic drink with dinner? Also: How to talk to my boyfriend about it.
comment posted at 9:03 PM on Jun-24-14


The love of my life has been admitted into a detox and rehab facility. Communication has been cut off (I'm told this is part of the process) and I have no idea how he is. I am sad, I never knew it was this bad, but he almost died of alcohol poisoning. What should I expect while he is in this facility? What will happen when he returns home? What should I do when he is home to make sure I am conveying my love and support?
comment posted at 6:21 AM on Jun-25-14


How can I as a poor person make myself less scary to a potential partner who has gainful employment and a career?
comment posted at 7:53 AM on Jun-20-14


I'm organizing as as-yet themeless, artist-less show on contemporary Saudi Arabian art for an American audience. Where could I find significant artists, significant prior shows, critical responses, constraints, if any, under which they work, and, in general, information on the Saudi cultural climate? Books, essays, blogs, I'm open to anything at this early research date. I don't read Arabic, by the way, but I can get by in French, Italian, and German, if needed. Thanks.
comment posted at 3:47 PM on Jun-19-14


This feels like a very strange question to ask as I can't figure out if the issue is technical or personal. I will try to explain, however.
comment posted at 10:52 PM on Jun-17-14


I'm considering a career change into web development and I'm hoping AskMe can help me sort through the abundance of relevant information and get a sense of what reasonable expectations might be. To put it succinctly, I'd like to make about $75-80k a year so that I can support my parents while still being able to save money for my own future. Is it probable for a self-taught developer to earn a salary in this range?
comment posted at 7:14 AM on Jun-13-14


We all know of them, and some of us are unlucky enough to know one or more in real life - the narcissist, the emotional vampire, the malicious manipulator without a conscience. Some of us have seen them in action for years, but the malice was never turned our way. And now, my partner and I are on the receiving end of that malice. What safeguards can we put in place to protect our family?
comment posted at 7:29 PM on Jun-11-14


I started a new job couple of months ago. I feel it may not be working out. I don't want to be impulsive. Is the decision to quit a good one?
comment posted at 10:09 AM on Jun-8-14


I'm doing a bike ride that is to raise money for breast cancer research. Truthfully, I'm more interested in the ride, but there will be many on the ride more focused on the cause. I wanted to wear my new Sufferfest jersey, but worried that, given the folks who may be/know breast cancer survivors, it might be viewed as offensive or insensitive. Is it OK to wear the jersey, or should I pick a different one to avoid hurting someone's feelings?
comment posted at 8:05 AM on Jun-5-14


My brother (four years younger than me, we are both in our 30s and single, I am a woman) and I have had a back and forth relationship - it was normal brother/sister stuff - fighting and whatnot but nothing crazy - until I went to college, when we were super close. Then when I graduated college, he started and dropped out and went to community college and finally graduated after 7 years, and is actually doing really well as a banker, though he's between jobs now. Our relationship deteriorated rapidly after I graduated college though, because he had a big issue with drinking and was living with our parents and using them, I thought. That was a long time ago, and I've tried really hard to see where he's coming from and I thought our relationship had improved, but now new issues have come up... (wall of text inside)
comment posted at 11:32 AM on Jun-1-14


I'm concerned about going in pregnant to my regular health provider without an understanding of what I might be up against if it turns out I might need an abortion.
comment posted at 6:50 PM on May-22-14


I recently took my Verizon American iPhone 5s outside the country for the first time and installed a Cosmote sim card on it. Immediately all my contacts on the messages app lost their names and only appear as their American phone numbers, e.g. +1 (xxx) xxx-xxxx. How can I fix this?
comment posted at 10:09 PM on May-15-14


My son will be having a birthday sleepover in a couple weeks so we will be hosting about six twelve year-old boys. In addition to feeding them and the Minecraft LAN party, we'd like to watch a movie with them. Suggestions?
comment posted at 8:27 AM on Apr-29-14


I'm looking for a women's long-sleeve swimsuit, preferably with UV protection. Any recommendations?
comment posted at 2:38 PM on Apr-24-14


Help with clothing grooming etc. for men?
comment posted at 2:03 PM on May-13-14


What kind of hat is Pharrell wearing at 14s in the Happy video?
comment posted at 6:41 PM on Mar-31-14


Back in the 1980s, I remember a lot of older (richer) friends in Southern California were obsessed with gray market cars, importing special German versions of BMW and Porsche cars to the US and driving them. I haven't heard the term used in ages and there are TONS of Euro-spec cars I wish I could get in the US. Does this still happen? Or is it prohibitively expensive on both ends these days? Or is there some other reason?
comment posted at 3:56 PM on Mar-28-14
comment posted at 4:33 PM on Mar-28-14


Future Islands' recent David Letterman appearance has me in a frenzy. I want to see more examples of dazzling showmanship and unstoppable catharsis -- raw, intimate, unfettered performances by artists at the top of their games. I'm talking pulsing veins, searching eyes, trembling throats and chest-pounding theatrics. Send me your best videos of rockers and riveters!
comment posted at 9:09 AM on Mar-28-14


I'm ready to give my notice, with an end date of April 30. However, my department has some huge projects coming up that were taken on with the assumption I would be around to design them, and, well, I don't want to be.
comment posted at 2:33 PM on Mar-27-14


We are considering setting up a coworking space in a nearby small town. It would be very helpful to hear from people who have tried working in one. What did you like or dislike? What suggestions do you have? If you haven't worked in one, why not? Does the idea appeal to you or not?
comment posted at 3:30 PM on Mar-25-14


Travel Filter: What would you consider to be the "MUST DO" travel spots in your city/town/state? If I had 50 days left to live, and had time to visit one thing in each state, what would it be from your region?
comment posted at 2:36 PM on Apr-3-14


My 4 year old daughter goes to ballet lessons and really likes them. She’s looking forward to a recital in about 8 weeks. Unfortunately, we need to pull her out of classes at her current studio and enroll her some place else. How do my partner and I frame this issue with my daughter so she doesn’t feel terrible?
comment posted at 2:51 PM on Mar-20-14


Personal progress: What personal development changes have you made that have had a big impact on your life?
comment posted at 12:33 PM on Mar-13-14


I recently got a Moto X, running the latest KitKat OS. I set up a few basic apps, turned off the sound and vibration to everything, but still every tweet reply and email I get causes the phone to do a short vibrate jolt on notification. I also get the haptic keyboard vibration feedback when typing on it. I've googled, turned every sound/vibrate option off in Settings and still can't get this phone to be quiet and vibrate-free on both counts. What am I doing wrong here?
comment posted at 8:51 PM on Mar-9-14


Can you give me any helpful info about music festivals, outdoorsy-motorcycle gatherings, hippie get togethers, nerd conventions, and areas where friendly people commune to hang and be merry, centering around a certain activity in Los Angeles and California (maybe even neighboring states).
comment posted at 7:08 PM on Mar-1-14


Car enthusiasts, what kind of after-market electronic gadget do you wish you could buy for your car/truck that doesn't currently exist (at least at an affordable price)?
comment posted at 3:23 PM on Feb-17-14


I want to adopt a dad (see extended explanation on why). I'm thinking maybe even a nice gay male couple, a two for one deal! This does not need to be a formal adoption - I have plenty of "parents" (2 moms) - I'm just looking for someone who doesn't have any children (hence thinking about an older gay couple) who might want to "adopt" a kid because they've got some extra love lying around (and maybe some really adorable dogs) and I don't have a relationship with my dad. I would like some advice. 1) Where should I look? 2) What are things I need to consider? 3) How would you go about doing this? 4) Any other thoughts or observations? I'm just sort of tossing this idea around and thinking I'd get some data points from you all.
comment posted at 4:00 PM on Feb-14-14


How can I save my class participation grade?
comment posted at 2:23 PM on Feb-6-14


It has come to the point where I officially have too many passwords to reliably remember. What's the OSX/iOS solution for me?
comment posted at 2:43 PM on Jan-24-14


Our GE gas range thinks its door is locked, but it is definitely not.
comment posted at 5:28 PM on Jan-18-14


I want to get a friend his first ever straight-razor shave experience; and the works for him to use afterwards. From a barber with a gentle hand, and willing to offer tips to the novice.
comment posted at 4:17 PM on Jan-11-14


Looking for podcasts that could best be described as "really smart people shooting the breeze." Favorite examples would the various Slate podcasts that feature three writers discussing a range of topics, as well as NPR's Pop Culture Happy Hour. The subject matter can be about anything, though looking for something a bit more conversational and wide-ranging than, say, a panel of experts discussing their fields. Any suggestions?
comment posted at 11:08 AM on Jan-10-14


After experiencing an extremely nasty psychiatrist I just need to get my medical records per the request to my insurance to get partial reimbursement for the claim.
comment posted at 2:04 PM on Jan-9-14


This is just a thought experiment at this point, and probably will remain so. In the back of my mind I have the idea that when my old SUV finally gives up the ghost I might rip out the internal combustion drivetrain and convert it to an electric vehicle, possibly with a removable range-extender generator. Setting practicality aside for the moment, can you help me envision what this would involve?
comment posted at 4:03 PM on Jan-2-14


We just decided to drive from SF to Seattle via Portland for about a week. What are some fun family things to do?  Places to eat?  Places to stay?  Snowflake details inside.
comment posted at 10:19 AM on Dec-20-13
comment posted at 10:23 AM on Dec-20-13


Having a career is hard work (Duh). But I didn't know it would be this... all-consuming. How can I stay happy and stress-free when I suddenly have a tiny fraction of the "me time" I used to have?
comment posted at 7:00 AM on Dec-14-13


AcademicClothesFilter: MetaFilter, help me (20ish dude) find a store that sells awesome tweed or professorial-like sportscoats/jackets! I am a beginning academic who hates suits, but soon I will start to teach and go to conferences and will need to "look the part." Thus, I need to update my wardrobe with something thematically between "formal" and "wannabe hipster causal." The hitch is: I am sort-of built like a linebacker, with a very broad chest and very wide shoulders but with a not-quite-commensurately-large bottom torso, and thus sizing can often be an issue for me (i.e., getting more fabric "up top" in generic sizes ends up with billowing fabric down below). Is there any store that sells hot to trot professorial tweed that might fit someone with my body build? Or will I need to get a loose fit and then get it tailored? (Is that... what tailoring is?).
comment posted at 4:24 PM on Nov-28-13
comment posted at 4:25 PM on Nov-28-13


I'm thinking of starting a low-key blog that posts black and white photographs of impoverished and disadvantaged people from around the world. The stories don't have to be elaborate or contain a lot of photos. Each one can consist of only one photo and a short description of the person's plight. Are there any similar websites/blogs out there?
comment posted at 9:36 PM on Nov-21-13


For the last day, my phone has been targeted by the "have two random cellphones call each other simultaneously and see what happens when someone picks up" prank, similar to what is available through websites I won't advertise here. (Google, "have two phones call each other prank." Yes, I looked up the 4 I could find, and registered on all of them to have my number blocked....it's still happening.)
comment posted at 5:44 PM on Nov-21-13


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