I have a short gap in health coverage (5 days) coming up, and trying to figure out the best way to handle it. [more inside]
I keep hearing this song on the radio but I can't for the life of me find it on the internet. It's a dance track, quite upbeat, with a sample of The Marvelettes song "Please Mister Postman," or at least a cover of that song, because the vocals are almost definitely not the original. [more inside]
On Sunday evening I was playing with the four-year-old and slipped on a grassy slope. One leg goes forward, the other folds under me. I have done a high-speed yoga kneel with one leg out and the ankle of the leg tucked under me did not enjoy the experience. It's surely a sprain, not a break, but I'm conflicted about going for care. [more inside]
The lede of this news article about yesterday's dustup in Montana states: "The Republican candidate for Montana's sole congressional seat was charged..." Wikipedia confirms that Montana has only one representative in the House, but they have 2 senators like everyone else and last I checked the Senate is part of the US Congress. I saw similar phrasing in a few other articles about the incident. Surely this is not correct. What gives?
I want to get back to swimming every morning before work. However, I take public transportation and would be unable to make it back home before heading down to the office. What the heck do I do with my swim gear that is low profile, low odor, and low moisture? [more inside]
Flying into Memphis late Friday, Sept 1, flying out early Thursday, Sept 7. In between, will be renting a car and hitting up Mississippi and Alabama. The hitch? There's too much I want to see! What are the absolute musts? [more inside]
Lately, I’m getting fed up of reading “business books” which all seem to look at the business world through a very shallow lens. [more inside]
Is there any kind of hard evidence that Americans (and possibly Europeans, though I'm less sure) value friendship less than in decades past? Family has always been cited as the most important value for Americans, but it seems increasingly common for people in committed relationships, and moreso those with children, to talk about friendships as a small "extra" rather than relationships that remain dynamic and a source of support. [more inside]
After reconstructive surgery on my leg, my body weight workouts are causing me knee pain. I'm looking for alternatives to keep me pain free. [more inside]
Is there a third-party add-on or some sort of hack which will put scrollbar arrows back into Mac OS X El Capitan on an iMac? I have a disabled co-worker whose computer was recently upgraded from Snow Leopard, and she's having difficulty dealing with the new interface. We specifically want to add the horizontal and vertical scrolling arrows back into application and finder windows, if possible. [more inside]
Question about overtime pay for hourly work in the state of Washington. [more inside]
I need a new job-- help me think outside the box! (Nonprofit and education background). [more inside]
What are realistic expectations for a woman to have of a man in the bedroom? Is it reasonable to expect him to multitask? And what's the limit of "Just tell him what you want him to do"? NSFW details inside. [more inside]
My coworker treats work as her life, is disorganized in ways that negatively effect our operational flow, has passive aggressive and controlling tendencies, and uses a saccharinely sweet personality so that customers think she's great. How do I deal? [more inside]
I have to create a map showing the Europe, with visits to locations shown, and the dates of the visits. The locations are mostly in the UK, and some places have been visited more than once. Can anyone recommend any software or resources (preferably free) to put this together? [more inside]
We are looking at houses, and have seen several "flips" where there is a gas range right up against a corner wall or full height cabinet. I'm bothered by this from both a logistic and a life safety standpoint. Am I being realistic or am I exaggerating the risk because I’m nervous about owning a home? I picture burning the place down the first time we cook dinner. [more inside]
Today I noticed that when I get rejected by people I get depressed and negative about it. For example, I ask a friend if they want to hang out Tuesday and they say they can't make it. And then they don't provide a day that works for them or I have to ask them what day works for them. I know I have a problem with feeling that people don't like me if they don't explicitly say "Hey, I like spending time with you". Getting rejected feeds into this feeling. [more inside]
We just bought a home in Los Angeles. Yay! It has a separate suite that is perfect for me to have my bodywork practice in (something like massage). But before we close escrow, how can I figure out if I can legally get a business license/insurance for it? I heard a rumor that California doesn't let you have a home-based business if you receive clients. I receive 20-40 a week, one at a time, very quietly. I tried to google it but couldn't find information specific to my area (zip code 90041). Before we close on the perfect home, can you put my fears of joblessness to rest? Thank you!
I'll be traveling by myself to Mexico City in June, staying there 4 nights and 3 days. I've never been there before but have traveled alone for a similar length of time in Spain and Italy. I'm working on learning Spanish and looking for some advice on what to do/see and how to get there. [more inside]
A colleague (who is senior, better qualified, better suited in every possible way) just scored a major promotion. In no way was I ever in the running (I'm so junior that I hadn't even known the position was open) but it brought back all my carefully hidden anxiety about being adequate without being extraordinary at my job. Career snowflakes inside. [more inside]
What can I do for my dog who's itching and scratching herself to the point of bleeding? [more inside]
One of my closest friends committed suicide, and left a shit storm for me to deal with. My emotions are a wreck. Can you help me navigate them? [more inside]
I'm looking for examples of television pilots that show the audience the series' protagonist when they were a child or teenager. It can be via a flashback or a prologue. (All I can think of is the first episode of "Pushing Daisies!") Note: only interested in a first episode of television, and only interested in series that feature an adult protagonist.
I'd like to rip out my driveway and the patch of cement in front of my house between the sidewalk and the street. I'm thinking I'll just rent a jackhammer and go for it. Am I thinking about this right? [more inside]
A friend is looking for a music video. They describe the video as follows: "It was a new release within the last year and a half. The video takes place entirely in a parking garage. An androgynous human in super tight jeans and boots approaches a beautiful old muscle car. Everything revealed in the reflective surfaces of the car is different than what the audience sees happening around the car." [more inside]
In The US, Rush Limbaugh is #1 on the radio, and, until recently, Bill O'Reilly was #1 on TV. Fox News is by far the most watched cable "news" channel. And a host of gadflies--Ann Coulter, Milo Yiannopoulous, etc--are regulars on the best-seller list and lecture circuit. Does England, and/or the UK writ-large, have right-wing media personalities and outlets on par (in terms of popularity and influence) with the United States Where do the English Defense League, UKIP, and Britain First turn for self-validating groupthink? [more inside]
I'm in the process of developing a new card game. Before I actually begin selling this as a product, I'd like to be sure I understand how much and what kind of legal protections I should have in place so my/family personal assets are safe. [more inside]
My (male) fiancé recently bought a hat to wear to our wedding. It is vintage (I'll post a pic when I get a chance--sorry, the camera on my phone is potato). What can I decorate it with that is NOT a feather? [more inside]
How much time from documentation to return? [more inside]
I am working with a recruiter for the first time ever, and I'm new to the protocol involved. I just went on an interview today that my recruiter set up (went pretty well!) and sent them a thank-you email directly as soon as I got home, just like I've always been told I should do. One hour later - my recruiter contacted me to say "so, send me your draft of the thank you so we can get it to them!" I had no idea I had to go through the recruiter. Is this super-bad? [more inside]
My thirteen-year-old daughter was asked to read a something at a picnic we've been invited to that has a Victorian literature theme. She's looking for something that speaks to her, either poetry or prose, about what it's like being a young woman in the Victorian era. So she's also looking at more contemporary fiction pieces that include a young woman in the Victorian era, and history with young women figures. She's a pretty smart kid, who likes girls, so something about a boy crush isn't going to work. What would you recommend?
I currently use Day One Classic for journaling. I like it, except for the fact that my stuff is stored on a remote drive I don't have control over. What sorts of secure remote-sync/cloud journaling apps are available, and what is the setup like?
What's going on with after hours trades that are way off the going rate? I understand a few shares going through, but explain this Amazon trade for example. About $2.7 million changes hands after hours today at about $130 per share below the closing price.
Looking for a waterproof watch on which I can set 8 or 10 daily alarms. [more inside]
I'm a 38 year old woman with debilitating social anxiety and trust issues. Yes, I'm in therapy, but maintaining friendships has been a lifelong problem for me. I was recently offered the sweetest gesture of friendship and I don't know how to respond. [more inside]
Hi! I’m interested in doing some research on collaborations between libraries and public media outlets. I am a full-time public radio employee (I’m an on-air host so what I’d be researching is not specifically job-related), and I’m not looking to leave my job. But I need a project! And I’d like to find resources not only for actually doing the project, but also for paying for it. [more inside]
i have some interviews lined up for a couple of ruby on rails positions. i've been working with the framework for quite awhile, but have not had a technical interview in a couple of years. the books i am familiar with (eloquent ruby, well-grounded rubyist) don't seem to have recent updates. the one recommended that i haven't read at all (practical o-o design in ruby) is also dated plus i am ambivalent about object oriented design. [more inside]
I have a few interviews for research associate/ assistant/ fellow positions for a variety of medical statistics jobs in the next few months. I am finishing my PhD at present. I haven't done many interviews before and am possibly overthinking it, but what questions should I be prepared for? Much beyond my work so far and general questions in the field? Are the interviews generally laid back or very intense? Any tips/ links/ example qs would be much appreciated!
One of my favorite Chinese bakeries sells a taro flavored cake which I love. I want to experiment at home making cookies, cakes, dessert-y type things with a taro flavor - anyone have any recipes that us this root as an ingredient?
What is the best one - volume history or biography of Eleanor of Aquitaine?
I'm looking for an online project/task management tool, likely a kanban board, with a very specific feature: the ability to create recurring cards that regenerate with a new due date. I am willing to pay for this. [more inside]
My new manager has a communication quirk that is driving me a little nuts when I give presentations. Please help me deal. [more inside]
Yesterday (Tuesday) evening, I found a tick attached to my body and removed it. Odds are good it had been attached for around 48 hours at that point; the last time I was in the woods was Sunday evening. Should I see a doctor immediately? Should I wait a week? Or should I only go if I develop symptoms of a tick-borne disease? [more inside]
I'm looking for a camera that I can put on the outside of a shed at my cabin that will allow me to view the lake remotely from my iPhone. No other bells of whistles needed. [more inside]
We have an IKEA PAX wardrobe (50cm x 58cm) which has a standard hinged door. The door is attached to the wardrobe via four hinges. One of these hinges (the second one from the bottom) is preventing us from putting drawers in the layout we prefer; the hinge gets in the way of the drawer. I'm wondering if it's ok to just remove that hinge and have the door be suspended by 3 hinges instead. [more inside]
Hi all! I'm setting up a new Wordpress site and I have some questions about speeding it up. Details inside... [more inside]
I'm looking for a non-partisan book on the history of U.S. politics. This is a huge topic, but I'm trying to better understand how politics in the U.S. has become so divided, especially why liberals and conservatives can't seem to understand (or want to understand) each other's perspectives. The news is not helpful for this; either there's too much spin or not enough historical context. More below the fold. [more inside]
How can I be less precious about my $400 smartwatch? [more inside]
This was me a few months ago. Since then, it seems much more certain that I will, in fact, be moving, so it's time for a follow-up. [more inside]
Just wondering if I should use LastPass on my work computer. [more inside]
Was listening to Greek public radio when I caught some of this dramatic spoken word reading (audio link) of a man and woman who sounded like they were on a 1960s record. Could only make out a couple of words like "tomorrow" and "freedom." Any ideas what this is?
I never want to answer a nosy question posed by a stranger again. I also don't want to feel badly for deflecting nosy questions, and I don't want to seem cold. I need help in accomplishing this [more inside]
Help me understand how capital gains are calculated in two special cases (casino winnings and Bitcoin money-changing). [more inside]
A colleague of mine (we'll call him Lewis) frequently initiates large organizational and technical changes and insists that everyone must comply to his plans because it's 'his decision'. These changes are often disruptive and geared towards his thinly veiled empire building (his record for successful delivery is pretty spotty). When challenged to provide good reasoning or to enumerate the benefits of such changes, he gets aggressive and re-emphasizes that he's in charge. He's a bully and his management team seems keen to allow it. Help me figure out how to demonstrate to my management team that these tactics aren't an effective way for us to operate. [more inside]
Everybody's life has lucky breaks and unlucky ones, minor-league bummers interspersed with the good fortune (and vice versa). It feels like a secret to happiness is fully appreciating the good things that happen and letting go of the bad ones. What do you do if your mental tendencies push you in the opposite direction? [more inside]
Annual family day of obligation is this weekend and I've already decided I'm not engaging in discussions about national politics. However, I would like to be better prepared for the anti-Chicago comments I hear from people in my god-forsaken small downstate hometown. [more inside]
I'm leaving on Saturday for a spur of the moment trip to South Korea. It's proving a bit challenging to find information and would appreciate some advice, specifically on visiting DMZ and recommendations for places to stay outside Seoul. [more inside]
My boyfriend has been with a great many women before. We've been together for some time now. Unfortunately I'm a curious cat and (with his full knowledge) I've read past emails, etc. And the things he said to them haunt me. I wonder if there is some realistic way to get over this. [more inside]
I turned down a much younger man solely because of our age difference. Now he's dating a significantly older woman. How do I stop kicking myself over this? [more inside]
I have money and I know of an in-progress book that I'd like to publish, but I'd like to get more concrete on how to go about it before I approach the writer. Is there a concept of partnering with an existing publisher where they do the work but I bear the cost? I'm really not interested in starting a from the ground up publishing company, but self publishing tools don't seem right for this. [more inside]