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April 24

My work history is. . diverse. I've a bunch of eclectic qualifications and skill sets that until very recently thought I'd never be able to put to good use in one place. I'm currently employed in an under paid, over worked position with a very low staff morale. I really want to get out but was struggling to see the way forward until couple of weeks ago a vacancy was brought to my attention by a friend who noticed it on a job site and immediately thought of me. When I read the job description I couldn't believe such a job existed. [more inside]
posted by kudra23 to Work & Money at 2:46 AM - 11 answers

A home for a middle-aged couple. Not too far from civilisation (so not in a village of four people that is three hours away from a two-horse town. 'Cheap' is a flexible term, I realise, but let's put it this way. The UK is very expensive - so anywhere that is significantly cheaper is an option. [more inside]
posted by Quillcards to Home & Garden at 2:14 AM - 14 answers

My SO and I have been a primarily long-distance relationship for 3 years. Help me help him support him emotionally. [more inside]
posted by smangosbubbles to Human Relations at 1:53 AM - 4 answers

I have part of a song stuck in my head. The lyrics I can remember are something that sounds like "A A, B B - CCDD, CCDD" - that is literally what is being sung, it's not the rhyme scheme. Who is the artist and what is the track called? [more inside]
posted by 35minutes to Media & Arts at 1:21 AM - 14 answers

I'm going away for the long weekend with 6 friends (we are 4 girls and 3 guys, from mid-twenties to early thirties). We've got a sweet house booked in a nearby country town and we plan on doing a bit of wandering around town, but mostly holing up in the house in front of the open fire, drinking wine, playing board games and enjoying each other's company. I'm looking for awesome ideas of fun stuff to bring and/or do. Drinking games, non-drinking games, things we can cook or bake, challenges for the weekend, that sort of thing. I'm thinking pancakes, I'm thinking blanket fort... anything that works with 7 people and is fun, throw it at me!
posted by lovedbymarylane to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 1:21 AM - 12 answers

Magento is one of most popular e-commerce software platform on Unix. What is the closest equivalent on Windows .NET platform? [more inside]
posted by applesurf to Computers & Internet at 12:14 AM - 0 answers

I married my husband almost a year ago. Prior to that we had been dating 6 months. I am 21. This person is my best friend who saved me from a very dark place in my life. He means a lot to me, and does so much for me. [more inside]
posted by wilywabbit to Human Relations at 12:04 AM - 49 answers

April 23

There are possible [triggers] inside. I'd like advice and resources on healing and reconnecting after past familial abuse, when I want to bond with my family and keep them in my life. [more inside]
posted by Pericardium to Human Relations at 11:41 PM - 13 answers

Is there any way I can get my deposit back from a handyman who disappeared? [more inside]
posted by Leontine to Law & Government at 9:06 PM - 7 answers

So, I was watching a thing on the Science Channel tonight, and one of the women on the show was wearing this great boombox necklace; you can see a picture here. I've been searching online for one like it, but surprisingly, I haven't had any luck. The ones I have found lack the details that I really want: I don't want just a little charm; I don't want one that hangs from one corner (I love the way the original is attached to the chain at both corners); I don't want plastic. I would really prefer silver, at least in color. Help?
posted by sarcasticah to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 8:33 PM - 8 answers

A person with a California driver's license gets a speeding ticket while driving through West Virginia. The speed alleged on the ticket was 15 miles over the posted limit. What would be the insurance consequences if the driver simply paid off the ticket without contesting it? How could the driver find out more information about whether s/he should contest the ticket, or plead guilty to a lower speed? In what state should the person be looking for a lawyer to best answer her/his questions? What should be this person's next step? Also, would the answers be different if the alleged speed was 10 (or 9, or 5, or whatever) miles over the posted limit?
posted by mediareport to Law & Government at 7:39 PM - 4 answers

I'll be spending two weeks in South Africa at the end of August. Where should I go besides Cape Town and Johannesburg? [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals to Travel & Transportation at 7:39 PM - 5 answers

What is the surf music in this video?
posted by mattdidthat to Media & Arts at 6:50 PM - 2 answers

I have sleep apnea. I'm looking for non-surgical treatments other than CPAP and BiPAP—I've tried both, and neither works for me. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet to Health & Fitness at 5:25 PM - 20 answers

I believe I am bring offered a job for which I just interviewed for. The president of this technology company emailed me and told me my compensation would be: x dollars base salary + y dollars in stock options. This does not seem to be a publicly traded company so I'm not sure what this means or what I would even need to ask to properly evaluate the offer... [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Work & Money at 5:11 PM - 21 answers

I've never been able to learn new things or process instructions as quickly as most other people. I also have terrible coordination and motor skills. Although I used to be very self-conscious about this - and sometimes still am - I've come to more or less accept this aspect of myself, and am at peace with the fact that I'll never be able to think on-the-fly as quickly as some of my friends. I am, however, intrigued as to why I have such a difficult time wrapping my head around things that most other people I am around seem to grasp with ease. I have been diagnosed with inattentive ADD, and am wondering what else could be the reason behind my processing difficulties as I would like to do some research. Examples and details inside. [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers to Science & Nature at 4:58 PM - 19 answers

What would be the most practical way to do this, that would leave us least on the hook if this all goes pear shaped assuming we are fine with taking a hit if the guy turns out to be a flake and doesn't pay as we were going to donate the car to a charity for tax write off before he made an offer? [more inside]
posted by wwax to Travel & Transportation at 4:32 PM - 9 answers

Will a DVD burned with Windows DVD Maker on my PC in the US work in DVD players in the EU? [more inside]
posted by sandra_s to Computers & Internet at 4:23 PM - 5 answers

We rent a condo that my parents bought under my name last October (and pay rent to my parents), and have gradually realized that there are several bylaws that seems unreasonable. One of them is the complete prohibition of bicycles in the building. The board claims that there is a "bike room," but it's actually just a mobile bike rack in the garage where most of the bikes on the rack are missing tires, saddles, parts (so we know it's not secure, and there are thefts around). The garage also has been inaccessible for the last 8 months due to construction. The other unreasonable rule is that there is a fixed laundry room schedule that was determined before we moved in. I want to know to what extent can a condo board enforce these bylaws? What can they do? Do they actually have legal rights to tell me when I am and am not allowed to wash my clothes? What can we do to change the bylaws? [more inside]
posted by redwaterman to Grab Bag at 4:12 PM - 26 answers

A few years ago I had installed 6 remodel recessed can lights which were non-IC rated for use with 50 watt halogen bulbs. They are in the ceiling of my 2nd floor office, with the attic above. The electricians told me they pushed the insulation away from the cans at least 3 inches. Now I don't like the big loss of insulation in the ceiling and want a change. But what? [more inside]
posted by Rad_Boy to Home & Garden at 4:02 PM - 4 answers

Help me search for the way to fix it so that the pattern I hear in Liquid Rhythm gets played on roughly the 'right' drums when I export midi into Addictive Drums. At the moment importing Midi into AD from LR results in stuff played at the right time on unexpected drums. What is fixing this problem called so I can search for a solution? [more inside]
posted by aesop to Media & Arts at 3:59 PM - 5 answers

I left university with a decent degree in a scientific subject and got a job working in a related field in a hospital (I'm in Britain, so with the NHS) afterwards. I wasn't sure if this was the career I wanted so I decided to give myself a year to try it out. With the lease on my flat running out, I've realised the year is up, and now I'm starting to seriously question whether this is what I want to be doing, and whether it's worth finding another flat, or if it's better to quit this and try my hand at something else - maybe a PhD or a medicine conversion course. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Work & Money at 3:46 PM - 8 answers

Are you an author, musician, artist, or other creative-ish person who's found successful (and polite) ways to use Facebook to connect with people interested in your work? I'd love to know your secrets. [more inside]
posted by oliverburkeman to Work & Money at 3:28 PM - 10 answers

I read an article recently about our species ongoing bid to destroy our natural habitat. In the article (possibly 'The Guardian') it invoked a concept invented by (I think) a cultural critic (whose name escapes me), the general premise being that our slow-motion environmental collapse falls into a class of ideas that are so vast that our minds can't process or focus on it and therefore it tends to disregard it. I'm sure the article gave this concept a name...any ideas?
posted by Rufus T. Firefly to Science & Nature at 3:14 PM - 8 answers

Auto accident insurance question and diminished value [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Travel & Transportation at 3:04 PM - 3 answers

A non-geeky friend just called me asking if I had any knowledge of Final Draft - to which the answer is "minimally" - and asked for help, which I was unable to provide, in recovering or repairing a file. I am now wondering if there is something I didn't think of... [more inside]
posted by running order squabble fest to Computers & Internet at 2:31 PM - 4 answers

Years ago, my husband and I bought a cool print of a Japanese watercolor painting in San Francisco. It was a rad painting of fish (koi?) and it was on a scroll-type thing and it wasn't super expensive so I was psyched. So psyched that I left it in the hotel room and have been kicking myself over it ever since. Help me find something comparable so I don't have to kick myself anymore. [more inside]
posted by kat518 to Shopping at 2:21 PM - 5 answers

Another wedding question... So, newly engaged, which is awesome, but now that we've started trying to plan it, I feel so incredibly overwhelmed...and not in a good way. The first thing we need to do is figure out where. We have a budget of $5000 max, and every place I have researched or contacted has been at minimum $2000-$3000, and 90% of these would force us to use their own caterers and vendors. We are ready to try something nonstandard, but I have never even been to a wedding before, so...we am having problems coming up with ideas for a small wedding and reception of like 50 people max. [more inside]
posted by polywomp to Grab Bag at 1:51 PM - 36 answers

Help me figure out how not to sweat in the car, so that teens can get good, comprehensive sex education! [more inside]
posted by Stewriffic to Grab Bag at 1:49 PM - 21 answers

So I recently moved to San Mateo, CA from Chicago, hurray! Pretty much everything has been great and the move quite smooth. What sucks is that in the move my beloved Panasonic ST60 60 inch was broken, likely during the drive out here. I had moved who packed it up and delivered it to UPack, then moved who unloaded it from there and moved it into my house. Sadly it didn't survive. Now I need to start looking or thinking about a replacement BUT Panasonic stopped making plasma's altogether and I wasn't expecting to have to buy a TV again so soon. What should my next TV be? [more inside]
posted by Carillon to Technology at 1:31 PM - 11 answers

I need to build a process manual for my multifaceted job. Have you done this? What have you found to be the smartest approach? How did you divide your time/organize your manual? Which applications/tools are best for organizing/producing what will be a monstrous tome, and how do I go about it? [more inside]
posted by A neighbourhood park all covered with cheese to Work & Money at 1:28 PM - 9 answers

So, there's this tree - a poplar, over 100ft tall. It's on our neighbor's property, directly on their side of the fence. ("Fun" fact - our neighbor planted it over 50 years ago, to his wife's dismay.) We've had a few casual, over-the-fence conversations about the possibility of removing the tree, and their answer has always been that they don't care if we get it removed, if we pay for it. Well, now the tree needs to go, but things have changed. My question is about not just legal responsibility, but good neighbor relations. [more inside]
posted by rocketing to Human Relations at 1:22 PM - 28 answers

Self-published authors of MeFi: What's the best way to self-publish these days? Is it still Amazon via CreateSpace, or has something better emerged? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by jbickers to Writing & Language at 1:17 PM - 6 answers

Has it ever been discussed anywhere online what Slash's hair might smell like? I can't find anything.
posted by josher71 to Grab Bag at 12:41 PM - 4 answers

I'm looking for an article or a good explanation for why Nike's basketball shoes are so narrow. Basketball players are some of the bigger/taller people on the planet, so what gives? [more inside]
posted by cashman to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 12:38 PM - 4 answers

My wife and I will be making a trip to NYC this weekend. While we're out and about, I'd like to keep my eyes open for some used RPGs, specifically 1st or 2nd ed Dungeons and Dragons. Where should I look? I know I can get things cheaper online (online recommendations also welcomed for extra XP), but I need to actually examine the books to see if they fit my needs. [more inside]
posted by robocop is bleeding to Shopping at 11:59 AM - 6 answers

Biotene has changed the formula of their oral balance dry mouth gel and now it doesn't last through the night - any other magical solutions for dry mouth due to a CPAP machine? [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl to Health & Fitness at 11:58 AM - 8 answers

I'm looking for a secure method for storing a large collection of passwords for things like vendor websites, pieces of equipment that don't support multiple user accounts, and other situations where each employee of our company having an individual account would be impractical or impossible. The password solution itself can be cloud-based (preferable) or locally hosted but should be accessible from anywhere by relatively non-technical end users. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Computers & Internet at 11:57 AM - 6 answers

Am making some linocut prints on cotton paper/watercolor paper - what's the best gold paint/ink to use to do this? (Would be great if it matched Dr. Martin's Copperplate Gold ink)
posted by heavyp08 to Grab Bag at 11:45 AM - 3 answers

Authors Of AskMe, has this happened to you? During my self-imposed creative hiatus over the last year or so I conducted a lot of research into what would be my dream project. A project I could be passionate about, the kind of book I'd really want to exist. So I made a list of every thing, character, concept, idea, sudden kind of twist I'd like. I have three notebooks of this stuff. I cross-indexed it and included all my references. I have an astounding about of detail on what I want to put in and touch on but no actual story. I keep staring at it, like it's a list of SCP entries, and I can't think of a damn thing for anyone to do with these collected items, places, motifs, themes, and people. It's frustrating cause I can come up with quick pulp narratives on the fly for stuff I'm not working as hard on but every attempt to break and outline a rising action for these people results in rapid breathing and complete brain fume-lock. I keep asking "What does the main character want?" and coming up with nothing. Is this common? Is there a resource for this? Can I pay someone to go through these ideas and find something that other people might want to read? [more inside]
posted by The Whelk to Writing & Language at 11:05 AM - 36 answers

I remember reading something, possible in the New York Times, arguing that while America's high-school students don't stack up very well against students of countries, our strength has always been in innovation rather than mastery of skills acquired by rote. Any idea where I saw this? [more inside]
posted by Ollie to Education at 10:33 AM - 6 answers

Has anyone ever experienced a reduction in their motivation and drive? If so, what things have you done to try and change it? In the past, my motivation has been influenced by pain and fear, but that doesn't seem like the most useful way of staying motivated at least that is what my friends have told me. On the same topic, does anyone have any book recommendations or movies that have helped them get motivated again?
posted by nidora to Health & Fitness at 10:09 AM - 12 answers

I would like to cobble together a client side script that will display YouTube links more or less like MetaFilter does - as a text link with a small "play" icon after it. Click the words you go to YouTube, click the 'play' thingus and you get an overlay. [more inside]
posted by dirtdirt to Computers & Internet at 10:00 AM - 5 answers

I watched a trailer on Hulu maybe 2-3 months ago for a film whose setup went something like this: A bunch of people come to a dinner party that looks possibly contentious. In the middle of the dinner, some kind of world-altering event occurs. These people now need to survive together. It seemed like the film was more interested in human dynamics than zombies/bandits etc. It looked fairly well produced with a few semi-recognizable b/c list actors. For the life of me, I cannot find the movie or any trace of it. Does it sound familiar to anyone out there?
posted by GilloD to Media & Arts at 9:52 AM - 15 answers

How can I make sure I don't see a single ant in my condo unit this year? [more inside]
posted by parakeetdog to Home & Garden at 9:48 AM - 19 answers

I recently installed a small ceiling fan, replacing a flush mounted light in a bedroom. I did not upgrade the box, or add bracing. I should have, I know. The electrical box is side mounted to a joist, and seemed very stable. The fan has a bit of wobble. It’s not the worst I’ve seen, but there is room for improvement. The house doesn’t currently have access to the attic, but I will be cutting a new access hole for an upcoming insulation project, so I’ll soon be able to get to the electrical box from above. Can I improve the wobble of the fan by adding in wooden brace(s) and somehow screwing the existing box to the brace? I am not interested in taking the whole fan down and replacing the box. I am only interested in solutions that do not require uninstalling and re-installing the fan. Thanks in advance
posted by walkinginsunshine to Home & Garden at 9:33 AM - 8 answers

My 18 year old son is going to take a bus from Boston to NYC to see the opera. Is it dangerous for him to walk to the Port Authority? [more inside]
posted by vilcxjo_BLANKA to Travel & Transportation at 9:24 AM - 42 answers

What are some of the better ways to tell a young child that Mom and Dad are splitting? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 9:07 AM - 28 answers

I have a few hours waiting in an airport, i know most of the art history documents, but does anyone know any examples of brilliant long reads, in theology, music criticism, general culture and the like, that could keep me entertained, in downloadable pdfs.
posted by PinkMoose to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 8:57 AM - 5 answers

I'm going to be working in State College for two months this summer. Tell me about where to live and where to hang out! [more inside]
posted by vakker to Travel & Transportation at 7:56 AM - 4 answers

I am considering having a child with a friend to whom I am not married. We would be living separately, but would have joint legal and physical custody. What might be some details that we should work out ahead of time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 7:46 AM - 28 answers

I'm looking to upgrade my phone with AT&T. What are your experiences with the Moto X and Galaxy S5? [more inside]
posted by Chrysostom to Technology at 7:45 AM - 10 answers

I am helping someone put together a post college graduation resume and we are unsure how much high school and college work experience to include. How can we show that this person is hard-working and dependable without it just looking like a list of retail and food service jobs? [more inside]
posted by tamitang to Work & Money at 7:30 AM - 9 answers

In search of (women’s) shoe recommendations for hiking up the treadmill, with a maxed out incline? [more inside]
posted by raztaj to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 6:47 AM - 4 answers

I am knitting a lot and I love the look of so many of the shawl patterns available. Different shapes, different sizes, solid ones, lace ones, etc. I want to make some, but I worry that wearing them is going to make me look frumpy or geriactric. I know it can be done but... how? [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 6:43 AM - 21 answers

In the DC area, does anyone have a recommendation for a mechanic? [more inside]
posted by Slackermagee to Grab Bag at 6:27 AM - 7 answers

Is there something like WorkRave but for Android? I cannot download anything on my computer at work. I used to use WorkRave at another job and really liked how it gave you the exercises to do. I don't want simply a reminder to stretch. I've seen apps that have stretches, but they are more like a resource app, not like WorkRave where it gives you random exercises each time. [more inside]
posted by McSockerson The Great to Health & Fitness at 6:07 AM - 2 answers

Leaky stand up stall shower drain seems like it is loosening as I turn but will not unseat. Is there light at the end of my turning? [more inside]
posted by cheechman85 to Home & Garden at 5:25 AM - 5 answers

Is there a good app (iOS or Android) that will let me create a list of specific beers I want to try, and let me know where I can find them in the area that I'm in? [more inside]
posted by jedro to Food & Drink at 3:55 AM - 8 answers

My brother and I recently found out that we are collectively receiving $220,000 from our father's estate (he passed away four years ago when we were both in our early 20s). We were advised to invest in some more profitable stocks and were given a list by a financial advisor, but neither of us have a clue how to begin making these types of decisions. Does anyone know any good (free) online resources to start learning the basics of investing and choosing a diverse portfolio? I've been wanting to develop financial acumen for some time now and I guess this is a good opportunity to start, but I don't want to make any mistakes. Any advice? Many thanks!
posted by desert_laundry to Work & Money at 1:16 AM - 33 answers