I am trying to get an idea of how to document emotional abuse. My sister is in an abusive relationship and I am of the opinion that separation is not the worst idea.
I am at my wit's end trying to figure out what to do to help my sister. [more inside]posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 8:13 PM - 7 answers
We just adopted this 8 month old female Pekingese
from a shelter in the midwest. We started out working through Buffy-verse names, and got excited about Fred, which we long-formed first to Winifred, then decided that sounded like a middle name and tried to think of a very generic first name, like Lady.
We ended up with Lady Winifred and we call her Fred, but the grandparents object, and we're open to choosing something different, since we chose it before meeting her. [more inside]posted by kevin is... to Pets & Animals at 8:11 PM - 35 answers
As an incentive to get out the door and on the way to school, I'm trying to put together some fun audiobooks or podcasts that my 8 year old daughter would enjoy listening to as we drive together. She loves all things Star Wars, but I'd be open to other things as well. I've spent time perusing audiobook and podcast options, but I'm not having a lot of luck (and the audiobooks can be kind of pricey). Thanks for any suggestions you might have. posted by SpacemanStix to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 6:58 PM - 19 answers
Several different Twitter users with accounts showing female faces have followed me on my Twitter account with the same line - so, what's this about? [more inside]posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome to Technology at 6:34 PM - 12 answers
What is this song I heard in the background of the Kraft / Patriots Charitable Foundation presentation at halftime during the 8/28/14 exhibition game vs. the Giants? Lousy GarageBand interpretation of the main riff/loop attached.
http://www.watzatsong.com/en/name-that-tune/411466.html [more inside]posted by Seeking Direction to Media & Arts at 6:21 PM - 0 answers
Can anyone, preferably someone who's struggled with insomnia, recommend an alarm clock? Some details inside. [more inside]posted by Milau to Health & Fitness at 5:50 PM - 9 answers
I have a vague memory of a character in a TV show or movie trying to guess a password that he forgot. The only hint he has is that the password is "something I like". The answer was something simple and stupid, like "candy". I can't remember where I saw this and it's going to drive me nuts. [more inside]posted by sbutler to Media & Arts at 5:36 PM - 2 answers
So, I know that MeFi bikers are strong and fearless and use their gears and believe in bike commuting. But my particular commute is very long and not all that safe for biking, so instead I have used my beautiful Trek to ride to the train or bus park and ride. Which is fine, except that the longer ride, to the train, is killing me due to two monster hills. So, I'm really getting interested in an electric bike, and I am thinking specifically about this one
or this one
. Can the hive mind opine on what it is like to own an electric bike and whether I am making good choices? I'm actually OK with spending a few thousand because it is still cost effective. Other pertinent info is that I am a petite woman and my commute to the train is often going to be wet/dark. posted by bearwife to Travel & Transportation at 5:22 PM - 20 answers
A friend left a huge bag of produce from the farmers market on my doorstep, but I have no idea what this
is. Do you? [more inside]posted by Room 641-A to Grab Bag at 5:17 PM - 12 answers
I'm looking to purchase a medium sized bell or large tingsha
for a personal ceremony on Sunday morning. I don't have time for online orders, and need to buy it in downtown Toronto. What store in T.O. sells bells? posted by In The Annex to Shopping at 5:16 PM - 2 answers
I am currently interested in a legal counsel position at a large state university. While I am qualified for many aspects of the job, my one weakness is a requirement of having a good working knowledge of current Constitutional law and how it currently is applicable to higher education and similar institutions. I am looking for any good online (preferred) or even recently published resources that will provide that thorough knowledge that I seek. Can you help me? [more inside]posted by anonymous to Work & Money at 4:16 PM - 6 answers
This week I have an Italian folk song I am trying to ID. The name of it in my book is "row with me" (和我划船) and the book offers no other clue besides that it's an Italian folk tune. As usual, Google, Baidu and Musipedia are of no help. Here
is a YT link (the song begins at 0:06). Mille grazie! posted by ditto75 to Media & Arts at 3:32 PM - 3 answers
I want to buy four or five interesting posters to fill up my blank walls in my new place and make it feel like 'mine'. I'd prefer to pick them out in person, rather than buying online. I'm especially interested in 20th century art (particularly abstract or semi-abstract), nature or urban photography, vintage maps and prints, and almost anything art deco or art nouveau. I'm also open to serendipitous discoveries that don't fit any of the above. Is there a place in New York that stocks a wide breadth of such things? [more inside]posted by une_heure_pleine to Media & Arts at 3:26 PM - 10 answers
I accidentally called a former colleague who's now working for the competition. She has since tried to call me several times and I think she might have interpreted my call as me showing an interest in coming to work for her. [more inside]posted by anonymous to Work & Money at 3:09 PM - 20 answers
You are not my doctor, I know, I know. I'm trying to decide 1) which doctor to see, if I go see one and 2) to what degree to panic. There's a spot on my left face that's tender to pressure. My teeth feel it when I touch this spot. Should I go see a dentist? Or should I go see a nose doctor? [more inside]posted by atetrachordofthree to Health & Fitness at 3:01 PM - 18 answers
I am looking to read up on the history of USA and need book recommendations [more inside]posted by jellyjam to Law & Government at 2:15 PM - 21 answers
I live in a 1911 Craftsman in Seattle. The heating situation is... pretty weird. (See the "more inside".) My 42-year-old oil furnace still works like a champ, but the oil company folks say they won't service it any more and it has to be replaced. I have been searching and searching to try to figure out the best way to deal with this before it gets cold out, but I am not finding what I need. Should I change my heating method and can people recommend whom I might call for this? [more inside]posted by litlnemo to Home & Garden at 1:55 PM - 19 answers
Help me find a (Soundcloud?) mix that samples the opening lines of "Me and You and Everyone We Know". [more inside]posted by gwint to Media & Arts at 1:26 PM - 1 answer
I have some bad credit where the debts themselves are invalid and illegal. What is the process I need to go through to get this stuff permanently removed from my credit report? [more inside]posted by corb to Work & Money at 1:06 PM - 11 answers
Our 9yo has (finally!) shown interest in searching for and listening to his own music on his iPod. Any suggestions for the easiest way he can do this where the music is either free to stream, or we can place limits on how much he purchases/downloads? [more inside]posted by ericbop to Computers & Internet at 12:49 PM - 11 answers
Can an artist sell works showing buildings? How about buildings with logos on them? [more inside]posted by bristolcat to Media & Arts at 12:39 PM - 10 answers
A follow-up to this question
: now that we've decided which European cities we're visiting, what should we do when we're there? [more inside]posted by The Card Cheat to Travel & Transportation at 12:30 PM - 16 answers
I'm planning a trip to Prague and Budapest in the fourth quarter of this year, and would love to hear your suggestions on which time would be best! [more inside]posted by swimmingly to Travel & Transportation at 12:16 PM - 4 answers
FML Today I received a notice of "Unauthorized Use of Copyrighted Image" regarding a 7 year old blog post on my tiny, personal, completely not-for-profit website that only about 5 people ever read (that I had incidentally purged just 2 months ago) from a probable copyright troll (Sanders Law, PLLC). It isn't even signed by an actual lawyer, it's signed by a paralegal. I know YANAL, but I have no idea what to do or who I can turn to. [more inside]posted by evilcupcakes to Law & Government at 11:42 AM - 28 answers
My husband's car were totaled in a hit-and-run this past Saturday. The car was parked on the street, and a drunk driver plowed into it in the middle of the night. [more inside]posted by nanook to Travel & Transportation at 10:39 AM - 8 answers
I've been toying with the idea of getting some sort of CCTV or IPCCTV to keep track of what's going on around my house. Do you have CCTV? What should I be thinking about? [more inside]posted by Admiral Haddock to Home & Garden at 10:36 AM - 5 answers
Help me find a new backpack for my new job! Difficulty level: I am one picky bitch. [more inside]posted by youcancallmeal to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 10:25 AM - 39 answers
I'm looking for a team project tracking system (who isn't?).
I have a team of technical people who work on projects and a team of sales people who are responsible for billing for the projects when they are complete.
We are outgrowing our home grown system and are looking for something that allows the following: [more inside]posted by bottlebrushtree to Technology at 10:01 AM - 7 answers
I am looking for some advice on where to send my almost 4 year old daughter for preschool. [more inside]posted by sacrifix to Education at 9:58 AM - 23 answers
Can you recommend books or other resources to help me live and parent with ADHD? [more inside]posted by sutel to Health & Fitness at 9:24 AM - 5 answers
Pilot light of one of the two water heaters installed side by side won't come on .... [more inside]posted by SunPower to Home & Garden at 8:34 AM - 3 answers
I'm DJ'ing a dance night at a rock club coming up soon that will be attended by 21 year old hipster types. What are some newer (within the last year) awesome dance bangers I can play to impress them? Genre unimportant but I want to avoid anything USA top 40 pop or too techno-y. Bonus points for non American music. posted by josher71 to Media & Arts at 8:03 AM - 25 answers
Looking for a rail or underground park and ride station on the north side of London -- ideally near the M25. Difficuty: one where parking spaces are likely to be available in the middle of the day on a weekday. posted by penguinicity to Travel & Transportation at 6:23 AM - 7 answers
We are going to drive from Barrie, Ontario to Ottawa this upcoming weekend. Google Maps recommends driving via Toronto / the 401, but I'm wondering: would it be worthwhile taking Highway 7? [more inside]posted by TangoCharlie to Travel & Transportation at 6:17 AM - 15 answers
Has anyone read any good books that have actually helped them get more done on a daily basis? I am procrastinating with many things that I need to do and the procrastination doesn't occur by doing nothing but rather by doing low priority tasks, or thinking, or even reading. If anyone has a system that they have used to be more productive, please share. posted by nidora to Education at 5:49 AM - 18 answers
I have a self deprecating sense of humour and I've come to realise that I can take it too far. I can sometimes play dumb and it gives the impression that I don't know what I'm doing/talking about. But at this point in my life/career, I do!! (in certain areas, I think). Help me change my wiring. [more inside]posted by scuza to Human Relations at 5:32 AM - 16 answers
I feel like I need to skip two work team-building activities that are centered around guns and shooting because the idea makes me uncomfortable... [more inside]posted by waywardgirl to Work & Money at 4:04 AM - 35 answers
The GORUCK GR1 Field Pocket
seems a great way to store a mirrorless camera and additional lens in an existing bag in a compact and secure way (as demonstrated in this blog post
by Ben Brooks) – but I need to find an alternative. [more inside]posted by Richard Holden to Shopping at 3:43 AM - 7 answers
Asking for a friend... If you receive a job offer over the phone and want some additional time to consider the offer, what do you say? [more inside]posted by Alice Russel-Wallace to Work & Money at 3:19 AM - 15 answers
Can anyone help me find the song that plays from 0s to 30s
and 1m30s to 2m10s
in the aforelinked Oblivion video? I wasn't able to find it in the soundtrack. posted by anon_for_this to Media & Arts at 1:59 AM - 3 answers
Four people need a satisfying meal in San Francisco Chinatown this Saturday evening -- where to go? [more inside]posted by Rash to Food & Drink at 11:33 PM - 8 answers
I'm reaching for a phrase for a short science fiction piece I'm working on. I'd like to know what a Classical-Latin-speaking character would say if they wanted to articulate a particular concept analogous to "I think therefore I am
", but expressing instead a monstrous moral conclusion they've reached along the lines of I think therefore none may be / shall be. [more inside]posted by churl to Writing & Language at 11:22 PM - 7 answers
I'm dealing with varying levels of resentment and bitchiness from people over my husband's job - the fact that to outsiders it seems glamorous/high status, and is well paid enough so I don't HAVE to work. It's getting me down because we move around all the time for his job so I don't really have a support network, just 'friends' who make sly nasty comments in emails/on my FB wall about my life. Any tips on dealing with the emotional/practical aspects of this welcome. [more inside]posted by everydayanewday to Human Relations at 11:18 PM - 39 answers
I've grown very attached to the coffee that comes out of my moka pot/ bialetti pot every.single.morning for the last two years, to the point where I am planning on taking it with me on all of my travels this year. Please recommend a mini hot plate that I can purchase in Canada, to use with the moka pot. [more inside]posted by redwaterman to Shopping at 9:54 PM - 5 answers
There's a bike that I want to buy from a pawn shop on eBay for local pickup only. It's a screaming good deal, of the exact size and frame that I have been looking for.
Obviously, living in Phoenix, I can't pick it up, and the pawn shop won't ship it. Any ideas (hopefully from a Brownsville native)? [more inside]posted by john the fourth to Shopping at 8:23 PM - 7 answers
I am doing a creative book project entitled "36 Doors" The book involves doing 36 yoga poses in various and not necessarily famous doorways in the U.S. There are obvious spots (Jefferson Memorial, churches, etc.) along with more unexpected spots (Alice Water's Chez Panisse for examples) Any recommendations would be appreciated. posted by goalyeehah to Grab Bag at 7:39 PM - 22 answers
I've only heard the song twice in my life. The second time I managed to slam a cassette tape into a tape recorder, capturing the 2nd half of the song. That was thirty years ago. Haven't figured it out since. [more inside]posted by Hanzo to Media & Arts at 7:34 PM - 8 answers
I have a very strong physical response to conflict and will tend to start crying almost immediately when in an argument with my boyfriend. [more inside]posted by Wantok to Human Relations at 7:19 PM - 42 answers
How do I balance after-work activities? [more inside]posted by joeyjoejoejr to Human Relations at 7:07 PM - 9 answers
I'm a dropbox pro user and they upgraded everyone to 1 TB of storage. I have plenty of stuff I could put in the cloud from external drives, but my laptop's hard drive is only a 256 GB SSD. [more inside]posted by jModug to Technology at 6:55 PM - 8 answers
The doors were painted white a few years ago. I'd like to restore the original wood. Concerns within. And, um, how do I do it? [more inside]posted by unannihilated to Home & Garden at 6:16 PM - 17 answers
What's a good video game controller for a toddler? Absolutely required:
A reliable way of connecting it to a Windows 7 or 8 laptop. I don't mind using JoyToKey or 3rd-party drivers if necessary. Preferred:
Wireless, so it can't be used to pull the laptop off the desk; Durable and/or cheap, in case it gets thrown or dropped; Simple, few inputs. [more inside]posted by CustooFintel to Computers & Internet at 6:06 PM - 7 answers
Tomorrow night is the first night of my 2-month stay in San Diego. Please direct me to the finest tacos in the land. [more inside]posted by fingers_of_fire to Travel & Transportation at 6:05 PM - 13 answers
I'm a first-time supervisor with a very hesitant supervisee. She's recently out of grad school with lots of internship experience but no 9-5 actual job experience. She took my position and I was promoted to the supervisory role...and she seems scared all the time! Many of my requests are met with a look of terror and a quivering lip. [more inside]posted by sandwiches to Work & Money at 5:46 PM - 30 answers
Logitech virtual joystick plus Steelseries virtual buttons on an iPad: great idea or stupid idea? [more inside]posted by Dormant Gorilla to Technology at 5:32 PM - 2 answers
Me and my dad are going camping this weekend in the Wytheville, VA area. It's a compromise location with which neither of us are familiar. He's driving down, I'm busing up, and we'll be camping 2 nights. Does anyone have a favorite backcountry camping spot around there, maybe by a stream? (details follow) [more inside]posted by 4th number to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 5:24 PM - 5 answers
Does your development/software qa department have a knowledge base?
What tools/software do you use for knowledge sharing and collaboration?
I heard it's good to have a QA Wiki page to document information?
Any interesting free software out there for software testers? like to generate test cases?
Is your department efficient?
Thanks posted by Mountain28 to Technology at 5:11 PM - 7 answers
Asking for a friend: Where should we stop in our travels through western Pennsylvania and in Ohio? Can you provide recommendations on points of interest/eating spots/recreational areas? Are there any interesting fairs or sales happening? [more inside]posted by MonkeyToes to Travel & Transportation at 5:07 PM - 8 answers