September 24

How do I resolve conflicting holiday goals?

I'm planning a trip to celebrate holidays, partly with my girlfriend and partly with my mother, and I'm having a communication / conflict issue between the two. Can you help? Details inside... [more inside]
posted by Homeboy Trouble to Human Relations at 1:03 AM - 26 answers

September 23

Tips for bite sized self care during and around work travel?

I'm a busy consultant (woman) who's started traveling a lot for work, and need to get better at taking care of myself despite being over-planned on these trips. I'm already doing what I can, but I'd love your tips and tricks, road warriors. [more inside]
posted by nadise to Health & Fitness at 10:33 PM - 24 answers

Terminal Brain Cancer When You're Down and Out

My roommate's partner, who is a close friend of mine, has stage III terminal brain cancer. He has been symptom free for almost a year but he has recently been showing signs of the cancer advancing, including seizures. He is terrified of dealing with the system of getting treatment, and has been turned down for disability even though he is unable to work because of the cancer. How can we help? [more inside]
posted by ananci to Health & Fitness at 10:28 PM - 10 answers

Somehow, Googling all Winter holidays does not help...

YouTube Filter: Help me remember a (popular?) YouTube video of yesteryear, that I watched in the mid-late 2000s! The video was ripped from a "local" style commercial/infomercial around "the Holidays" (e.g., Christmas, Hanukkah, et cetera). A crazed, totally bald man wished the audience a great [insert every western Winter holiday here]. He spoke in very intense, stilted speech: "MERRY. CHRIST. MAS." At one point, he just sings, "Kwanzaaaaaa!" It ends with him and his family wishing the audience a "Happy Holidays from [whatever business]!" ... He may have ran a car dealership? [more inside]
posted by The Sock Puppet Sentience Movement to Computers & Internet at 10:12 PM - 2 answers

basic photo editing/collage app for iPhone

I'm looking for a photo editing/filtering and collage app for my iPhone SE. I'm pretty sure my requirements are fairly simple, but there are so many apps out there that I'm getting overwhelmed trying to find one that works. [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown to Technology at 9:53 PM - 3 answers

to be or not to be...disclosing

I'm a dissertation-writing Ph.D. student. I was supposed to work on chapter X over the summer, and have a draft by the end of the summer. I've also asked two extensions, and am about to ask for another one. I'm wondering if I should disclose my extenuating circumstance. [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree to Human Relations at 6:49 PM - 13 answers

Do you know Canadian Immigration Law?

How to get Canadian citizenship with no documents? I know a person living in Canada who is of Caribbean origin. They have no citizenship, which means no ID and no Social Insurance Number. They would like to get Canadian citizenship but are terrified of being deported. What should they do? [more inside]
posted by spockpuppy to Law & Government at 6:34 PM - 7 answers

Can I fix a stripped out cordless drill?

My cordless and chuck-less Maktec MT064 14.4V 3/8" drill/driver won't let go of the square bit I have in there, so I can't change it. Is there some other way to loose the bit-holding parts, or do I have a perfectly functional square-bit-only electric screwdriver now? [more inside]
posted by msalt to Home & Garden at 6:28 PM - 12 answers

Help me understand these bank wire instructions

The business is in Puerto Rico, but the bank they use doesn't have any branches in the mainland U.S. [more inside]
posted by manderin to Work & Money at 4:53 PM - 10 answers

VOIP client Zoiper every few hours will show reg failed 923 error

When this error is shown, if I just refresh the registration, it works. So I don't believe anything is wrong with the VOIP provider or setup. It seems like something on my phone might be falling asleep, and that breaks the connection until refreshed, or something similar. [more inside]
posted by jcfudgely to Technology at 3:58 PM - 0 answers

I'm not standing still, I am lying in wait

I'm looking for songs about being patient and biding your time, waiting for better days/circumstances that will surely come. From the title, I obviously know Hamilton's Wait For It: can you think of any others along the same line?
posted by btfreek to Media & Arts at 3:25 PM - 55 answers

I don't want to be turned away

I have never used Eventbrite before and have a question regarding names on tickets. [more inside]
posted by thereemix to Grab Bag at 2:48 PM - 11 answers

When is it wise to crowdsource for info professionally?

Since AskMeFi is one of the OG crowdsourcing platforms I know, and since I love irony, I wanted to take this question here for an article I'm working on. With the proliferation of Facebook professional groups (particularly for writers), it's so easy to ask a large group of people a question in a short amount of time. But that's not always a good thing. Sometimes you get good info or helpful insights but sometimes you get unhelpful information, or get sidetracked in a side conversation, or get sucked into a drama vortex. So who has mastered the art of knowing when it's a good idea to toss a work-related question (like this one!) out to a huge group of people? When is it better to do your research in other ways?
posted by clairezulkey to Computers & Internet at 2:35 PM - 2 answers

Death Takes a Holiday

Is there any serious confirmation or statistical corroboration for the idea that they changed the dates on death certificates in some wars, on certain dates? [more inside]
posted by Michele in California to Society & Culture at 2:27 PM - 5 answers

I need a mini amp for electric guitar

I'd like to get a small amp for a beginner electric guitar player. It's my stepson so he can only use it a couple days a month here to practice but I'd really like to encourage his new hobby. I know NOTHING about music or guitars, etc. I'd love to get something cheap but I don't want to be too cheap. I am willing to spend as much as I need to get the job done right.
posted by beccaj to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 2:18 PM - 18 answers

What must I do with misdirected mail?

In the US, what is my specific legal duty when I receive postal (USPS) mail that was not intended for me? Ethics are another question; I'm just curious about the legal requirements. [more inside]
posted by primethyme to Law & Government at 1:27 PM - 10 answers

The election is ruining my twitter feed

Why are Trump and Clinton showing up in my Twitter feed all of a sudden and is there any way to get rid of them? [more inside]
posted by NoraCharles to Technology at 12:57 PM - 11 answers

He says "he is not looking for anything in particular"

Met a guy on tinder. First guy I met that is smart, employed, attractive and not after a hook up. Am I wasting my time? [more inside]
posted by sockiety to Human Relations at 12:47 PM - 35 answers

Itch attacks are taking over. Help me figure this out!

Please help me figure out what's causing incessant itching and how to control it. [more inside]
posted by sucre to Health & Fitness at 12:41 PM - 10 answers

Can you identify the subject of this painting?

This painting is by an anonymous master, probably from the 18th century. It hangs in my neighbor's living room, but she does not know what it represents. Can you help identify the subject of the painting? Link here
posted by paulfromgent to Media & Arts at 12:28 PM - 8 answers

I need to flash numbers quickly, for addition training

Is there a free or cheap program which displays sequences of random numbers and then, their sum? Screen-filling numbers, like Sesame Street. One, two, three and even four digits, positive and negative. Repeatable sequences and user-controlled speed a plus.
posted by Rash to Education at 12:19 PM - 4 answers

When your career has failed to launch

I'm in my early 30s and graduated in 2008. As a result, I feel like I've never had a career and am starting to panic about the future. Can I ever pull it all together? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Work & Money at 12:15 PM - 16 answers

What FREE things do you do to keep a Windows 7 PC running fast?

I'm comfortable with computers, but far from an expert. But other people see my comfort and presume that I'm a total pro and ask that I take a look at their PC, because "its running too slow". What FREE bit of software would you recommend to optimize a person's Windows 7 PC so runs a bit faster or smoother? These users all use the Microsoft Suite and Firefox. Is there FREE software on the PC that deletes old caches or files or something similar?
posted by Brandon Blatcher to Computers & Internet at 9:01 AM - 15 answers

Optimizing book reading

I'm looking for tips on how to become a better reader. [more inside]
posted by aeighty to Writing & Language at 8:03 AM - 24 answers

Premier Pro Tutorial for 13 year old

I'm looking for a beginners Premier Pro tutorial for a 13 y/o. My daughter has taken an interest in learning to edit video and I'm having a hard time showing her the basics in Premiere. I'd like to find something with a sample project so she can follow along.
posted by jmsta to Technology at 6:32 AM - 2 answers

Buproprion and diazepam? Two great tastes that taste great together?

Has anyone here combined a regimen of buproprion and diazepam to treat depression and anxiety? [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad to Health & Fitness at 6:22 AM - 17 answers

orthotics or better?

Doctors agree: My feet are the flattest. An arch collapsed in one foot but not the other. Highly recommended, expensive insoles are good for the first 1,000 feet but don't make any difference thereafter. I wear a splint at night and losing weight. Aside from amputation, what should I be investing in or spending my time doing?
posted by parmanparman to Health & Fitness at 6:16 AM - 13 answers

You: pretty, fast, cheap. Me: Poorly organised

Looking for AMS / membership software for non-profits. Again. [more inside]
posted by monocultured to Computers & Internet at 6:06 AM - 1 answer

Should I give in on spending money on an expensive luxury?

My wife wants to buy an expensive artwork for the house. While I also find it beautiful, I don't think it's a good idea, financially. We're at loggerheads. Help me think this through. [more inside]
posted by snarfois to Human Relations at 1:49 AM - 91 answers

September 22

How much meat has to be in food to be able to smell it?

I'm anosmic (born without the sense of smell) and I have weird smell-related questions pop into my head sometimes. Usually I ask whoever's around, but it's late and no one is presently available so I'm turning to you: how much meat has to be in food to be able to smell that there's meat involved? [more inside]
posted by vegartanipla to Food & Drink at 11:07 PM - 21 answers

So, a hedgehog walked into a house

What to do, (if anything,) about a hedgehog trying to get into the house? About 6 weeks ago, a hedgehog took up residence in my garden. A couple of weeks ago, I went out to dinner, forgetting to close the door from my kitchen to the garden and he apparently wandered in. After I found him, I left the door open overnight so he was back in the garden by morning. Now, he tries most evenings after dusk to get back in, scratching at the door and making my dogs crazy. I'm starting to suspect he may be a domesticated variety that was simply dumped. If that's the case, I'm a bit worried about him come winter. What do? Is there any way to easily tell if he's wild or actually an abandoned pet? [more inside]
posted by Expat to Pets & Animals at 10:59 PM - 10 answers

Based On Actual Events Fodder: Survival Stories that aren't all dudes

My BF and I saw an ad for the upcoming Deep Water Horizon movie, and I commented that there seem to be a lot of these "men trapped in desperate situations" movies. He wanted suggestions for "based on actual events" that aren't exclusively men. Trying to google turned up a lot of unhelpful results. Any ideas?
posted by DebetEsse to Media & Arts at 8:54 PM - 28 answers

I take measurements, you mail me clothes

On NPR's On Point show today, the topic was plus-size fashion. The main guest was Tim Gunn, and another guest was a Time reporter. The Time reporter talked about several startups, including a few where you could send in your measurements and they would send you clothes to try on that were calculated to fit based on you measurements rather than on standard sizing. [more inside]
posted by megancita to Shopping at 7:25 PM - 16 answers

Hook Me Up! --MAC VERSION - external keyboard

Basically, I want to use my laptop without using the keyboard on the laptop, and use the external monitor, as well as an external keyboard. Is this possible? [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot to Computers & Internet at 4:30 PM - 17 answers

WOOFing...what's the best way to contact a host farm?

I finally bit the bullet and bought a membership to WOOF after mulling for a year or so. For those of you that have successfully established work with a host farm: how do you go about it? [more inside]
posted by Young Kullervo to Human Relations at 4:13 PM - 2 answers

How much should I charge for my software consulting work?

I've been approached by two independent companies, one in the UK and one in the US about providing specialised consulting work (development and troubleshooting) for them. The problem domain is networking and systems software. I'm looking for advice on how much to charge. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by gadha to Work & Money at 3:32 PM - 18 answers

Calling all 23 And Me mavens, and genealogy fans in general.

I don't have the $199 to plunk down on an ancestry test, but one of my siblings certainly has. (We all share the same parents.) If my sister, two years younger than me, springs for the test, will the results be the same for me? Yes, I realize we have different chromosomes. But our european blood mix would be the same between us. Wouldn't it?
posted by BostonTerrier to Science & Nature at 3:06 PM - 11 answers

Straight wife, bi husband, maintaining sexual attraction

My husband is bisexual, and recently indicated that his "pendulum" has temporarily swung to being more interested in men. How can I deal with this while being supportive? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 1:40 PM - 26 answers

Cheapest Chromebook that comes with 100gb free Google Drive storage??

What's the cheapest Chromebook that comes with 100gb free Google Drive storage? [more inside]
posted by gregr to Computers & Internet at 1:40 PM - 11 answers

Autotools for Fools: Debugging files via logging variables?

Is there a way to log or print-to-console the variables configure uses from a script? I'm trying to build Erlang on OS X 10.9 with ODBC, and the `--with-odbc` path that I'm providing seems to be ignored, possibly due to a bug in lib/odbc/ I know almost nothing about autotools, but I could test my theory if I could see what's in $host_os and $with_odbc in that context when configure runs. How can I do this? [more inside]
posted by weston to Computers & Internet at 1:01 PM - 1 answer

Renter's insurance for Airbnb?

I'm going to be staying in an Airbnb for an extended period of time. Is it possible to get renter's insurance or some other form of insurance to cover the valuables I'll have with me? The Airbnb is in the U.S. and I'm American.
posted by Cucurbit to Travel & Transportation at 12:24 PM - 6 answers

Should we name a kid after a dead guinea pig?

Would it be OK to name the kid after a dead pet? Were you named after a pet? Did you name your kid after a pet? We like the names, but we don't want to weird the kid out when they're older. [more inside]
posted by kendrak to Grab Bag at 12:01 PM - 97 answers

Fictional Anastasias

What novels, short stories, or movies have a female character named Anastasia? [more inside]
posted by aaanastasia to Media & Arts at 11:48 AM - 10 answers

Looking for fun & forgiving art supplies

I’d like to get some art supplies to help me decompress after work. What are some fun, forgiving tools for someone with only a modicum of talent and technique? [more inside]
posted by cathycartoon to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 11:45 AM - 12 answers

What dongle/cable do I need to make this recording thing work?

I have a cassette deck, a stereo receiver, Audacity, and a late 2012 iMac. I am gearing up for a winter project where I record some cassette tapes, in stereo. I need help completing the circuit. [more inside]
posted by jessamyn to Technology at 11:45 AM - 20 answers

English naturalist's diary, as blog?

In the mid-aughts, there was a person re-posting from an English naturalist's diary, day-for-day. I think the diarist was writing in the early-to-mid 19th century, but I could be wrong. The diarist was a man. Where is that blog, and/or who was that naturalist?
posted by sandettie light vessel automatic to Science & Nature at 11:30 AM - 8 answers

What knot is this?

I'd like to make this little whisk, but can't figure out what knot it is. I looked through Ashley, and didn't see anything. Suggestions I've already gotten are Mathew Walker, diamond, crown and wall. But all of these knots look like they were tied in the middle of the rope. I've seen (and made) Des Pawson's Sailors Whisk, but it has a hanging loop, I just want the ball end.
posted by Marky to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 10:50 AM - 14 answers

Meaningless Arrangements

I'm looking for something that will take a given set of letters and display all possible arrangements of those letters. All I can find are anagram servers, which is NOT what I want, because they only serve up real words. I don't care if the words are real or not. I'm only interested in strings about 5 characters long, so it's ok if the tool limits my input so as to avoid having to calculate "10!" (which would be over 3.6 million results). Does such a tool exist?
posted by paperback version to Writing & Language at 10:40 AM - 7 answers

Got mono, weird pain when swallowing, any advice?

I've got mono, yay. Instead of the traditional sore throat, I've got a weird issue when swallowing - the top-back of my throat (the bit that connects the nose to the throat?) flares in SHARP pain whenever I swallow. Anyone else experience this when they had mono? Any suggestions for relief?
posted by isauteikisa to Health & Fitness at 10:08 AM - 12 answers

sex ed, over 40 edition

I am a 44 year old ciswoman and my partner is a 61 year old cisman. I have never been married and have had many sexual partners but this is my first time encountering this exact thing. It is also my first time being involved with someone who is more than a couple years older than me but I'm not sure if that's important. My question is about whether his lack of an erection during foreplay is a sign of not actually being turned on, even though he seems like he is. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 9:38 AM - 18 answers

Where to do a family dinner in Toronto, with a moblity impaired senior?

My brother is turning 60 in late November, so we want to do a family dinner out. There will be 3 siblings and spouses, 4 teens 15-19, one a vegetarian, and our mother. She's 89 years old, with very limited mobility. (walker with help, but no wheelchair) [more inside]
posted by Pablo MacWilliams to Food & Drink at 9:04 AM - 4 answers

How to encourage a diverse tech mentorship program?

There is a tech mentorship program that lasts a few months and the pool of mentee applicants seems to be diverse but the pool of mentor applicants are mostly white cis males. It's important to have mentors who are also diverse. How can we make that happen?
posted by bleary to Computers & Internet at 8:41 AM - 10 answers

My trainer is rude. Now what?

My trainer doesn't respond to my appointment requests. Now what? [more inside]
posted by helios410 to Human Relations at 8:36 AM - 15 answers

Tiny little lifehacks which make a big difference?

I just hosted a party, and for reasons, invested $1.50 in a stack of paper plates for it. I cannot get over how much this tiny thing improved my experience. What other 'small thing made such a huge difference' lifehacks can I try? [more inside]
posted by ficbot to Home & Garden at 8:00 AM - 71 answers

Best winter hikes on Vancouver Island?

I would like to take my girlfriend to Vancouver Island for the New Year. I'm looking for one or two great day hikes on the island that still be doable even if there is snowfall. I imagine a coastal hike is our best bet, and I'm looking for recommendations. Bonus points if you can see a mountain from the hike. Even a big hill.
posted by jeffmshaw to Travel & Transportation at 7:57 AM - 3 answers

What does "fireproof" mean on UK fine china?

I just bought a covered serving dish from a UK manufacturer of fine china. The dish itself, not the lid, says "fireproof," even though there is decoration and a gold rim on it. Of course I wouldn't put this on a stovetop, but does "fireproof" mean it can go in a medium oven? This newer item from the same pattern says "oven safe" to 200 C, but I don't know. Thanks!
posted by 8603 to Home & Garden at 7:57 AM - 2 answers

Where can I buy a bordered flag/banner with collegiate-style lettering?

...And not just any bordered flag/banner. Ideally, something with chunky lettering and a thick white border, like the one in the center of this picture. Bonus points if the banner already has the phrase "BETTER IS POSSIBLE" in the middle. :) [more inside]
posted by tfilter to Shopping at 7:40 AM - 3 answers

Too late to negotiate?

I was offered a new job, but I'm not sure if I can negotiate a better salary at this point. Don't want to upset the apple cart, but don't want to get short-shrifted either. Advice? [more inside]
posted by princeoftheair to Work & Money at 6:43 AM - 8 answers

Poetry written by women, for women

So I recently realized that a favorite poet of mine, Alice Duer Miller, published one more book of poems than I thought she had. I have been consequently wallowing in feminist poetry with snappy meter and rhyme for the last couple of days. Now that I'm done with my book, I'm looking for more poetry that strikes a chord, especially poetry by and about women. Where should I look, and who should I read? [more inside]
posted by sciatrix to Media & Arts at 6:34 AM - 21 answers

What should I listen to after Mind Webs?

Subsequent to this post (thanks, Iridic!), I decided to give Mind Webs a try. This morning, I listened to the last episode. What now? [more inside]
posted by Faint of Butt to Media & Arts at 6:18 AM - 2 answers