May 25

I hate everybody else's relationships

I don't know if this is a life stage thing or a terrible personality flaw or what, but I find myself feeling contemptuous of others' relationships, even though it's 100% none of my business. I want to stop this. [more inside]
posted by fernweh to Human Relations at 12:47 AM - 0 answers

Chill Meditative Place in San Diego (Preferably with WIFI)

I want to do some computer learning/practicing/programming. I'd prefer to do so away from the distractions of home. I'd like some place with good views, minimal distractions, all in the San Diego area. A Zen garden with WIFI would be the ideal place. Starbucks is too busy, and the local library is also. Any suggestions?
posted by zabuni to Grab Bag at 12:02 AM - 0 answers

May 24

Help me pair a typeface

I'm looking for a sans-serif typeface that pairs well with Monotype's Bembo Book (specimen pages). Can you recommend one?
posted by Quilford to Grab Bag at 10:22 PM - 2 answers

Help me choose an American bank

I'm a Canadian who got a job in the US and is moving to New York. I need to open an account at an American bank. What's a good American bank? Any to avoid? Is there a difference or are they all the same? (Alas, for those tempted to say TD, it actually confers no advantages to those from Toronto OR the Dominion.)
posted by bicyclefish to Work & Money at 9:40 PM - 8 answers

A path to journalism?

I want to be a journalist, but I'm not sure how to get there from where I am now. Looking for any advice, tips, or resources anybody can offer me. [more inside]
posted by EmptyEmpire to Work & Money at 9:24 PM - 3 answers

Paying for a car that is 250 mi away

I am interested in a vehicle that is being sold by a private seller that is 3 1/2 hours away and in a different state. The asking price is $7500, which is a lot of cash to be carrying, especially after all those stories in the news about the cops being tipped off by the bank and just taking your money. [more inside]
posted by 445supermag to Work & Money at 9:10 PM - 7 answers

What are some works of SFF that use extraordinarily beautiful language?

What are some works of SFF that showcase beautiful language on a par with All The King's Men, Gilead, and Raymond Chandler's detective novels? I've read plenty of SFF that has transported me, but little that's struck me as gorgeously written. Thanks!
posted by Going To Maine to Writing & Language at 9:08 PM - 4 answers

Help me focus away from nauseating thoughts

I ate something that is against my beliefs, for the first time in my entire life (due to a miscommunication). I feel very nauseated - my thoughts focus on my body and wanting to throw up (I tried but am unable to?). Can I refocus thought away from the thing inside me? Or you know any help for nausea that is just psychosomatic? I know I did not do this on purpose, it's that I can't escape my thoughts about the physical act of chewing and swallowing it and about the animal dying for it.
posted by anonymous to Religion & Philosophy at 8:39 PM - 7 answers

How can I organize a long and messy fanfic so I can post it on AO3?

I have a fanfic that's currently in a bunch of bits and pieces in Google Docs, and I'd like to be able to consolidate them at some point, do a thorough spell-and-grammar check and decide where to make chapter breaks. Eventually the work is to be posted on Archive of Our Own. What's the best way to go about this? [more inside]
posted by SockISalmon to Computers & Internet at 8:39 PM - 2 answers

Origami paper patterns: what are these?

I'm folding a thousand origami cranes, and I'm starting to get curious about the patterns on the Japanese origami paper I'm using. I think I recognize a couple of them, but I'd like to know the significance of any you recognize: maybe they are traditional textile patterns or have other uses? Are they a certain flower, fruit, or season? Or maybe they are entirely made up for these packs of paper. [more inside]
posted by fiercecupcake to Society & Culture at 7:33 PM - 3 answers

Horse tracks that allow interments in the U.S.?

What horse track in the U.S. can I sprinkle or inter my father-in-law's ashes at? Santa Anita would be perfect, but any horse track would do. [more inside]
posted by OrangeDisk to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 7:15 PM - 1 answer

I don't want to be her suicide letter.

My long-distance partner is suicidal, and I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 7:07 PM - 8 answers

Best approach in random noise generation

So my go to encryption product used to be truecrypt but Drama! So what is the go to, cross platform agnostic, encryption program that can mount encrypted containers as a drive letter? [more inside]
posted by Mitheral to Computers & Internet at 6:58 PM - 2 answers

Help me not freak out!!! (Housing edition)

I have an important deadline in the house buying process this week and I am totally freaking out about it. Perhaps someone wiser than I on mefi can help me not freak out about the upcoming deadlines and also tell me what is going on behind closed doors. [more inside]
posted by Toddles to Home & Garden at 6:25 PM - 3 answers

What should we be doing about edema?

My wife is having problems with what we believe to be non-emergency fluid retention (edema?) What should we be doing, and what type of doctor do we need? [more inside]
posted by Jacen to Health & Fitness at 6:07 PM - 7 answers

Should I end my relationship, and if so how?

I (26f) have been with my boyfriend (28m) for 6 years. I've always had doubts in the back of my mind and am thinking about ending things for the 3rd time in 2 years. Am I making the right decision, and how do I go about it? [more inside]
posted by Satsue to Human Relations at 5:50 PM - 15 answers

freelance corporate ethnography?

I am interested in getting into corporate ethnography/ doing ethnographic research for market research, particularly as a freelancer for now. Tell me what you know about how/who/where. [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree to Work & Money at 4:41 PM - 4 answers

Adidas Tobacco brown suede shoes from '70s -- anything like it?

There has never been a better men's running-style casual shoe, IMO, than the Adidas Tobacco. They were briefly reissued but are no longer available. Is there anything similar on the market? [more inside]
posted by Creosote to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 4:23 PM - 7 answers

Dating someone for their character vs physical attraction?

How to convince oneself to make the right choice [more inside]
posted by winterportage to Human Relations at 4:21 PM - 27 answers

What can I store outside when it might get to 50 below?

I need to pack up a bunch of possessions to store for a year. What can I safely store outside in an unheated shed, given that it might get down to -50°F? [more inside]
posted by leahwrenn to Home & Garden at 3:50 PM - 5 answers

Feel like I was hit by a virus truck

Super weird (for me) constellation of symptoms... what is going on? [more inside]
posted by easter queen to Health & Fitness at 3:07 PM - 15 answers

Is any large corpus of Office documents available for download?

I am looking for a large (>1000 files) corpus of real-world Office documents (Word, Excel, PowerPoint, though I wouldn't turn down Open/LibreOffice/Gnumeric/etc. formats). [more inside]
posted by hoverboards don't work on water to Computers & Internet at 2:43 PM - 2 answers

I need HIPAA compliant booking & e-record keeping for solo practice

I am a nutritionist. I am building a wordpress website and I would like to find a way to a. have clients book their own appointments seamlessly on or from my website, b. have clients pre-pay for appointments via paypal, c. keep their health information secure while easily keeping and accessing notes. d. have the whole thing be HIPAA compliant. [more inside]
posted by Pablito to Work & Money at 1:24 PM - 2 answers

Adventure Race Help!

I need help coming up with an event/obstacle for a high school adventure race/obstacle course. Details and complications inside! [more inside]
posted by Nightman to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 1:07 PM - 5 answers

Three day professional driving courses in Africa?

I'm interested in paying for a professional driving course (2-3 days) for my Dad. He's a experienced normal driver who has done one or two super casual track days. He's interested in taking his skills to the next level, particularly doing some higher-speed track driving with an instructor. Any recommendations for what I should be searching for? Complexity level: in South Africa or Kenya. [more inside]
posted by stewiethegreat to Travel & Transportation at 12:59 PM - 4 answers

Why are the ribs on my crocheted hat so slim?

I was trying to make this hat, but it turned out like this. The hat in the video has the ribs bunched together, and they only show up when stretched. On the hat I created, the ribs always stand out and look stretched. I used 100% acrylic double knitting wool and a 4mm OR a 6mm hook (can't remember which). What did I do wrong?
posted by Solomon to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 12:10 PM - 3 answers

Is there a doctor ... er, veterinarian ... in the house?

I've got a female rat that needs to be spayed. My vet office gave me an estimate of $560. This seems way higher than I would expect (and I'm no stranger to vet bills, having taken care of many rats over the years -- but I've never done a spay). Is this a reasonable estimate, or is something wrong here? [more inside]
posted by phoenix_rising to Pets & Animals at 11:34 AM - 11 answers

What plant?

These leaves have been sitting in water for almost a year after being included as part of a flower arrangement. They have not formed any roots in the water, but recently started growing new leaves out of some buds in the bottom of each leaf. Can you identify them? Photos: 1 2 3 . Thank you,
posted by jeto to Home & Garden at 11:29 AM - 5 answers

Oprah's online dreamboard gone, other free dream boards?

I had been using Oprah's free 'O board', which was a free dream or vision board. Do you know of any other free ones that are just as good and easy to use?
posted by TRUELOTUS to Computers & Internet at 10:52 AM - 5 answers

Variations on a Theme in Myth

I am trying to find more stories (preferably myths/folklore, but general fiction/film/etc of any time is fine) that contain a certain motif. I would also like to know if there is a term for a story that contains this kind of theme which I can only describe by example beneath the fold. Sorry I can't distill its essence, but I can answer questions if you need more precision. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe to Media & Arts at 9:49 AM - 19 answers

Too many greens

I just got a CSA box full of 6 different types of greens. Four to five pounds of fresh greens is a lot for a single person to eat in a few days! I have about 3 days to cook or eat them before they will start to spoil. While I am skilled enough in the kitchen, I don't cook greens very often so I am stumped on what to do with them. How can I prepare these so that I am not wasting food? I am looking for delicious, easy recipes that can combine as many as possible into a single dish. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by KMoney to Food & Drink at 9:48 AM - 34 answers

Where can I find a phone or in person interpreter for Hakka Chinese?

I'm looking for someone to help me communicate with my Chinese grandmother who only speaks Hakka, a dialect spoken in her village in Hong Kong. Is there somewhere I could find someone to help me interpret over the phone? We are in Sydney Australia, but would be happy for help from anywhere. [more inside]
posted by strekker to Writing & Language at 9:11 AM - 5 answers

What should I do to mitigate my situation for a hit and run?

I was in a hit and run in Seattle yesterday with my child. We are from Canada and not sure what steps to take. [more inside]
posted by acoutu to Grab Bag at 8:30 AM - 5 answers

When I’m 64 - Help me age gracefully

What’s the one thing I should be doing to stay healthy as I age, keep up my energy, stay healthy and be in good health for the neither or four decades? [more inside]
posted by mulcahy to Health & Fitness at 8:16 AM - 28 answers

Help me find funny, visually interesting, high energy music videos

My 10 year old niece and 7 year old nephew really like to watch music videos. The ones they love most are goofy, high energy, and have some type of underlying story. They are particularly into music that is danceable and visually they like bright colors and crazy costumes or interesting outfits. A few they have liked recently are Con Bro Chill and Meghan Trainor. Any suggestions for other artists they might like? [more inside]
posted by ezrainch to Media & Arts at 8:15 AM - 29 answers

Help me hate travel less

I particularly hate flying. I'm also not good at being in strange places, but the flying is my big concern at the moment. I have to fly in a few days and even though this is a trip for fun, that I expect to enjoy (in between the flights), I am filled with dread when I think about it. [more inside]
posted by bunderful to Travel & Transportation at 8:05 AM - 19 answers

Custom cut in Brooklyn

Where in Brooklyn can I get a few pieces of plywood cut to specific/odd dimensions? [more inside]
posted by greta simone to Home & Garden at 6:40 AM - 3 answers

Using a China/HK iPhone 6 in US and UK/Europe?

I've been offered a spare iPhone 6 by a relative (my current US iPhone 4S on a AT&T phone is aging and not always working well) but this iPhone 6 was bought in Hong Kong and was used in China. Is it possible for me to use it on a US carrier plan without too much extra trouble/expense? What about in the UK and elsewhere in Europe ? Will I be able to transfer the iPhone 6 to my US Apple account (with all my iTunes/App Store content) OK? Thanks for your tips, MeFites!
posted by zresearch to Technology at 5:08 AM - 6 answers

Identify this home decor product line from the 70s/80s?

Can anyone help identify this design (I know it was at least used on sheets and wallpaper, if not more products)? This is a design on a product line that has since been discontinued. I'd like to know who used to sell these products and how to find them. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by dmalashock to Media & Arts at 3:58 AM - 3 answers

May 23

Companion kitty: the seekening

My adorable 7-month-old (ish) kitten Milo is not always as restful as the pictures make him seem. He has lots of energy and wants lots of play. I try to keep him entertained but I think he may need another little bundle of furry energy. I have only ever been a single-kitty household, so I have some questions. [more inside]
posted by Athanassiel to Pets & Animals at 11:12 PM - 13 answers

Career question: how to transition out of nonprofit track?

I have worked for the federal government for five years (2 on Capitol Hill and 3 in SLC) and also for a well respected local nonprofit here in Salt Lake City, UT for the past two years. I'm Associate Director and things are good. However, unless I become Exec. Director there isn't much upward mobility. Plus, I wrote another question earlier this year about avoiding burnout, which is a problem with nonprofits, long hours, small staffs, etc. What I'm saying is I can't see working in the nonprofit world long term. I don't really see myself transferring to another nonprofit in town either. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Work & Money at 10:05 PM - 7 answers

Should I tell my partner I think I may have herpes before I get tested?

Yesterday after masturbating my penis was unusually irritated. When I looked at it under a good light, I saw several small bumps on the head that look sort of like the pictures of herpes one finds through a Google image search (if smaller and milder). I have an appointment to get tested on Tuesday. In the meantime, do I just keep my lips and pants zipped with my partner, or should I bring it up? (Bonus question: is there some other thing that this might be, given that it only became apparent after the masturbation?) [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 10:05 PM - 19 answers

Should I change my job, and if so, to what?

Should I change my job, and if so, to what? *Or is it a symptom of something else, and how should I address it? I have my own office on campus, with software I require, challenging and interesting work, huge flexibility, variety, good pay (with 25% casual loading, 9% superannuation) and respect. But it's not that simple. [more inside]
posted by b33j to Work & Money at 9:23 PM - 12 answers

Panic.

Husband just dumped a glass of water over the keyboard of his MacBook Air. It immediately shut itself off/ went dead. There is water dripping dripping out of the ports on the right side. What do we do?
posted by SLC Mom to Computers & Internet at 8:40 PM - 29 answers

Name our post-wedding tour?

Mr. Arnicae and I are getting married! Because families are complicated, we're getting married solo (at a difficult to access international location) and are planning a post-wedding tour of all our main family members locations. Can you help name our post-wedding tour (for family marketing purposes)? Bonus question: Have you done this? And any advice on breaking the news and doing a wedding this way (not inviting family) for drama-reduction purposes? [more inside]
posted by arnicae to Grab Bag at 7:44 PM - 22 answers

Evaluating a job offer in Silicon Valley

What questions should I ask to evalualate a job offer with salary and stock options in Silicon Valley? [more inside]
posted by cycleback to Work & Money at 7:42 PM - 22 answers

Ways to amuse a water-loving dog--without water

I'm petsitting a dog who loves to play in water, and normally when I petsit for her, water play happens and she knows to expect that from me. But drought and weather are making all of that a bad idea. Now what? [more inside]
posted by jenfullmoon to Pets & Animals at 7:08 PM - 13 answers

Non-grilled barbeque sides and dessert?

We are having an open-house style barbeque on Monday. Meat and grill duties will be taken care of (along with vegan veggie dogs/burgers and salmon burgers and grilled corn) by my other half. I am not working Sunday and am thus in charge of All Other Things. Feed me some ideas that I can feed my guests. [more inside]
posted by charmedimsure to Food & Drink at 6:38 PM - 15 answers

Should I believe a 40+ man who says he doesn't believe in marriage?

I've been dating a never-married man in his early 40s for the past few months. (I'm a decade younger.) Last night he casually mentioned that he never wants to get married and would be fine with raising kids without marriage -- just as HE was raised, as the only child of an unmarried mother. I am devastated because I am falling in love with him but cannot accept this commitment-free future. Should I get out now or endeavor to change his mind down the road? [more inside]
posted by Guinevere to Human Relations at 6:23 PM - 55 answers

Our new cat needs help, and so do we.

We just adopted a cat from a local rescue group, primarily to keep our current cat company, since we just lost two cats to old age. But the situation is not what we expected, and not what I have ever had to deal with before, after a lifetime of cats. [more inside]
posted by kestralwing to Pets & Animals at 6:03 PM - 33 answers

What typeface is used in the movie 'Kagemusha' on netflix?

What typeface is used for the English subtitles in this movie? [more inside]
posted by lalunamel to Media & Arts at 5:36 PM - 4 answers

How to get an envelope sent from Ohio to Texas, arriving by wed 8AM?

I'd like to have an envelope delivered to me here in Austin Texas, from Columbus Ohio, arriving by Wednesday at 8am, Fedex said they have something called "first overnight" sending tuesday, arriving by 8am Wed, but an envelope would cost 68 dollars. Any other cheaper options exist? I guess NO ONE works this sunday/monday?
posted by crawltopslow to Travel & Transportation at 5:22 PM - 7 answers

Is it a good idea to add a second floor on top of a 1938 brick house?

I'm looking at a brick house built in 1938. I want to do an extensive attic conversion, basically add a second floor to the back half of the house. Is this house being brick a good thing for me, or a bad thing? Is such an old house going to be too big of a problem to add on to at all?
posted by brenton to Home & Garden at 4:12 PM - 9 answers

My son asked for an exploding cake for his birthday

I'm looking for suggestions on how to make this happen. [more inside]
posted by unstrungharp to Food & Drink at 2:54 PM - 16 answers

Movies with studying montages for end-of-term blues

Hey, my spring term is almost over, and its been kind of brutal! But I rewatched Real Genius last night and am feeling pretty okay about things again. What are some similar movies I can stockpile for future terms? Setting should be university, or maybe something post-university with a research/impossible-thing-to-build-but-hey-they-build-it-anyway angle.
posted by curious nu to Media & Arts at 2:45 PM - 7 answers

Quote by email, no written contract, work not yet done. Can I cancel?

I'm in Texas. I'm having some repairs/renovations done to my home and yard in preparation for selling it. I accepted a quote for a landscaping job by email. We set a date for the job next month. They said they'd send a contract for me to sign and that they required a deposit. I have not received the contract. I'd like to cancel the job. Can I? YANML. [more inside]
posted by Boxenmacher to Law & Government at 2:44 PM - 4 answers

So Latin, Greek, and Old English walk into a bar...

Sometime in the last several months I found a post on a site I'd never been to before that shared a word made up by the author. [more inside]
posted by dubadubowbow to Writing & Language at 1:43 PM - 3 answers

How to remove sealer from Armstrong VCT vinyl tile?

I installed Bikini Blue vinyl floor tiles in my office. I sealed them with some kind of liquid sealer (like I was instructed to do by the hardware store). How do I remove some spilled sealer? [more inside]
posted by cda to Home & Garden at 1:36 PM - 3 answers

What is the best way to document an intellectual experiment online?

While recently playing around with some online language translators, I wondered if it would be possible to learn a language (Latin, in this case) by only using such resources. I reasoned that, by translating from English to Latin, and vise versa, beginning with the rudiments of language, one could by trial and error, gradually learn the language. [more inside]
posted by rankfreudlite to Education at 1:12 PM - 9 answers

Is there an age when a kitten may outgrow biting?

I would like to hear from people who have had a kitten that bit past a few weeks of age and outgrew it, or never did outgrow it. Our 7 month old kitten was found outside at around 6 weeks old and therefore missed out on some kitty socialization from his mama and siblings. He bites us (myself, husband and preteen child) regularly, sometimes drawing blood. More details below. [more inside]
posted by haunted_pomegranate to Pets & Animals at 12:42 PM - 19 answers