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December 20

How do I protect myself emotionally as a submissive?

I'm a bi female in my early 30s, just out of a decade long very vanilla relationship. I live in NYC and have been exploring my submissive side. Really enjoying it. Like, alot. I have never had better sex in my life and it is amazing. I am extremely submissive and I'm having a little bit of difficultly making sure I am emotionally safe. Because of the nature of my situation, I can't really talk to my usual family or friend connections when I need to vent. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 11:36 AM - 2 answers

ShoeFilter: Help me find slip-on sneakers with fixed laces

I love these casual men's Diesel sneakers, which are slip-on but also have fixed shoelaces for appearance sake without the need to tie/untie. Unfortunately, Diesel doesn't make them anymore. Can you help me find similarly styled slip-on sneakers that have fixed laces and are available for purchase?
posted by iamisaid to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 11:19 AM - 0 answers

Not loud place near SF Ferry Building to share a drink on first date?

Hi! I have a date planned near the Ferry Building and would like to get a drink somewhere not too loud. I went to Local Edition a month ago and found we had to YELL above the chatter of the bar. I would like to avoid that again. Where would you recommend?
posted by yaymukund to Food & Drink at 11:07 AM - 2 answers

Pro tips for setting up iPad for elderly mom

This question - how to set up an iPad for an elderly relative - has been asked frequently before. I'll summarize what I learned from those threads and ask a few new questions related to new iOS 8 features and cases, keyboards, and styluses. [more inside]
posted by kovacs to Computers & Internet at 10:20 AM - 4 answers

How can I get a plastic shopping bag out of my tree?

There's the remnant of a plastic shopping bag caught in a tree in my backyard. It bothers me. It's about 20 feet (maybe 25 feet) off the ground. It's not visible in summer, but very visible in winter. Here are a couple of photos. The bag is circled in red. [more inside]
posted by feelinggood to Home & Garden at 10:00 AM - 5 answers

I'm looking for a solid science fiction novel...

I'm looking for a solid science fiction novel to enjoy and then send along to a friend whom I owe a book. Recommendations will be much appreciated; a few details are provided below the fold. [more inside]
posted by mr. digits to Media & Arts at 9:44 AM - 21 answers

Trying to think of a song...

I was listening to this number by a Pakistani band earlier this week. It has lots of lovely synth-pop elements infused with punk energy, and reminds me feverishly of a song from the 80s (or the 90s?) by a band similar to New Order (especially the part from 2:35 - 2:55). [more inside]
posted by mysticreferee to Media & Arts at 9:08 AM - 1 answer

Inspire a lapsed foodie to eat healthier

Ever since daylight saving time hit this year, I have gone from "eager and willing home chef who loves her grains, fresh veggies, lean protein, and fun but complicated recipes!" to a lazy, uninspired glutton of convenience foods. HELP. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings to Food & Drink at 9:07 AM - 16 answers

Tips to Pass the Adobe Certified Exam for Photoshop

I have a little over a month before I take the Adobe Certification Exam for Photoshop. I bought a study course that supposedly has a 1:1 correlation with the exam, and I am really struggling with the magnitude of the keyboard commands I have to memorize. If you've taken and passed this specific test, do you have any tips for me? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger to Education at 9:06 AM - 4 answers

Interesting Recipes using Prepackaged Gnocchi?

I have a 1 lb. package of tri-color gnocchi. I need to make some kind of dinner with it, but we're exhausted of red marinara-style sauces, and I can't handle eating an Alfredo-style cream sauce. What can I make for dinner with this? [more inside]
posted by PearlRose to Food & Drink at 8:39 AM - 14 answers

French spelling question - rýsistant aux instead of résistant aux

I bought some French glassware (Lys brand) recently, and the descriptions on the box had some unusual spellings that I hadn't encountered before. É was changed to Ý ("résistant aux" was written as "rýsistant aux"), and À was changed to Ô (so "adapté à" became "adaptý ô"). Can someone explain this for me?
posted by Auden to Society & Culture at 6:29 AM - 4 answers

Sober living communities in New York - do they exist?

Sober living communities in New York - do they exist? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 4:50 AM - 9 answers

Christmas gift for Columbian guests

My family is hosting a teenage girl who is an orphan from Columbia for Christmas eve. She is here with one of my sisters as part of a Catholic Charities and KidSave program which helps older kids to network with people to look for potential adoption candidates. [more inside]
posted by Drinky Die to Shopping at 4:29 AM - 7 answers

Amazon won't ship certain items to me in China.How do I get around that?

There are certain items I cannot buy in China. So I tend to use Amazon for cases like this. But there are some items they refuse to ship to me here. [more inside]
posted by krautland to Travel & Transportation at 12:27 AM - 6 answers

December 19

Android phone being picky with video files

I'm trying to e-mail a couple of .mp4 videos to my girlfriend's LG G3 Android phone. The first one worked fine, but both of my attempts of the second video are apparently an "unsupported file type." I encoded the videos myself from QuickTime .mov source videos using Avidemux, and I'm at a loss as to why one works but the others don't. (technical info inside) [more inside]
posted by clorox to Computers & Internet at 11:12 PM - 4 answers

Name that patch of ground I took a picture of!

I took these pictures last winter during two commercial airline flights -- one from Boston to Detroit, and the other from Phoenix to Detroit. There are a lot of landscapes I'd like to identify geographically. Can you help me fill in the blanks more specifically?
posted by not_on_display to Travel & Transportation at 11:10 PM - 12 answers

googling "poems about death??"

What's the name of this contemporary poem about death and uniqueness? Details I'm sure about: the poem was fairly short, fairly contemporary. It was about how upon death, the world would lose the small, unique details of a person (their laugh, way of speaking, etc.) and would have to remember them. It was literary and not too obscure. The mood was warm and melancholic. [more inside]
posted by glass origami robot to Writing & Language at 9:13 PM - 3 answers

Driving from Seattle to Austin... tomorrow

I've driven cross country many, many times, but never this route and never in winter. We're taking interstates to SLC & Cheyenne, then south on 25 into NM; I've checked weather conditions and everything seems hunky dory. We've chains, new tires, and an Odyssey in good repair; any advice on making this trip would be appreciated: essential apps, websites, etc. (tho we've already been to AAA for my first Triptik in 30 years- yay!) Bonus points for suggestions on saving money at pet-friendly motels... Thanks!
posted by carterk to Travel & Transportation at 9:03 PM - 11 answers

Identify this mystery gift, please!

My sister recently had a young Japanese student staying with her family. As a parting gift, he left one of these small mat type things for each of her young girls. She didn't ask what they were at the time, we don't read Japanese, and we're both stumped. Can you tell use what they are? [more inside]
posted by Dorinda to Grab Bag at 8:33 PM - 9 answers

Scrabble Peeve Filter

Is there some kind of discernible justification for the allowance of the word "em" (meaning, the letter "m") in Scrabble, and not, say for example, the "word" "ee" (meaning, the letter "e")? I mean, who the heck decided "em" was a word, and if it is, why aren't all letters "words"?! [more inside]
posted by latkes to Religion & Philosophy at 7:32 PM - 19 answers

Paranoid of my internet footprint

I have a future plan which includes working in an ivory tower then sliding into the political scene after I rub elbows with those who hold the power and money. I wish to participate in online discussions, but am worried about future foes using my words out of context or my attempts at humour winding up being offensive. Do I just continue to watch conversations from the sideline or should I just try to be careful with my commentary? [more inside]
posted by This is the decision I made. to Computers & Internet at 7:22 PM - 13 answers

How to do business in Colombia?

How do Colombian think? The do's and dont's of doing business in Colombia. [more inside]
posted by yoyo_nyc to Work & Money at 7:16 PM - 5 answers

How to handle a toothache for four days?

I have a fairly painful toothache due to an exposed nerve that started a couple days ago. Unfortunately, I couldn't get in to see a dentist until next Tuesday, but the pain is definitely getting worse. I'm probably going to go to the campus clinic tomorrow to see if I can get some painkillers (and maybe antibiotics if they decide I need them), but are there any other ideas out there for dealing with tooth pain? I'm not a huge fan of taking opiates for longer than I need to (drowsiness, addictive potential, acetaminophen side effects, etc.), and I've found that the oral numbing gel is ineffective.
posted by PlasticSupernova to Health & Fitness at 6:40 PM - 12 answers

How do I stop feeling like this?

It hurts me to recognize that I will never be the person I have dreamed of. How can I learn to be okay with this? [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend to Society & Culture at 6:37 PM - 19 answers

Exporting iPhone SMS Messages - How To?

I have a bunch of text messages that I need to use to substantiate certain statements. I would like to export many messages from my phone, for two reasons... [more inside]
posted by Mister_A to Technology at 5:04 PM - 5 answers

Generating Income with a Property.

Anyone have any creative ways to generate income with a property other then renting or selling it? This is a multi-million dollar property I am in possession of, but can't sell or rent. It's located in NJ about 30 minutes from NYC.
posted by MrLLG to Work & Money at 4:14 PM - 15 answers

Worst christmas present evar!

I'm pregnant. Do I tell the boy*? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 4:03 PM - 50 answers

2015 wall calendar

Recommend me a neat 2015 wall calendar whose purchase benefits a good cause!
posted by threeants to Shopping at 3:56 PM - 4 answers

Perfecting Percussive Prize

I'm trying to find some music with simple instrumentation and composition with a focus on drums/percussion/heavy guitar and intense/strong vocals. I'm not sure how to describe what I'm looking for, but I do have a couple of examples. I blame the bear for reviving this intense need... [more inside]
posted by ThrowbackDave to Media & Arts at 3:43 PM - 7 answers

Best cross-platform free messaging option for 9-year-olds?

My 9-year-old daughter has an old wifi-only iPhone. Her 9-year-old friend has an old wifi-only android phone (i.e., neither is on a contract). They want to be able to message each other for free. What's the best option? [more inside]
posted by leahwrenn to Computers & Internet at 3:26 PM - 12 answers

Optometrist recommendation for Portland, OR?

I've been putting this off for too long, so it's time to see an optometrist. Ideally in the inner east side, or around Portland State. Thanks!
posted by middlethird to Health & Fitness at 3:03 PM - 6 answers

What is there to do in Austin on Christmas Day?

We're going to be in Austin for several days before and including Christmas Day. What is there to do on Christmas Day, including places to eat (bonus for vegetarian) - i.e., what's open?
posted by Jackson to Travel & Transportation at 2:56 PM - 3 answers

Truth or Consequences

I am taking my partner on a long weekend trip to Truth or Consequences, NM as a Christmas gift. I don't know the area at all, so I'm looking for suggestions on what not to miss while we're there. [more inside]
posted by cheerwine to Travel & Transportation at 2:42 PM - 11 answers

chocolate chocolate chocolate ack

I need the BEST CHERRY CORDIALS IN THE WORLD that can be ordered online and mailed! [more inside]
posted by everybody had matching towels to Food & Drink at 2:29 PM - 4 answers

Apple tech geek needs to expand Android horizons

My loyalties are firmly in the Apple camp. I've owned many iPhones, iPads and various Macs. However, I know nothing about Android devices... and it's about time I learn. I'm a self proclaimed tech geek for pity's sake, but yet I am woefully ignorant about all things Android. I want to change this! [more inside]
posted by cgg to Technology at 2:05 PM - 13 answers

US visa application times

I'm applying for an H1-b visa to enter the US. All my documents are ready. All I need to do now is go to the embassy in London: I have an appointment on Monday, which is the 22nd. The problem is this: I already have a flight booked back to the US on the 31st. Should I change my flight now, or wait? [more inside]
posted by HoraceH to Law & Government at 1:59 PM - 15 answers

Rehoming a dog and different attitudes on pet ownership

Some family members have a dog that they can no longer care for. Their lives have gone through a lot of upheaval in the last year. At some point I guess getting a puppy seemed like a good idea? Well it wasn't and now they have an approximately 9 month old dog that is not trained, he barks a lot, and is basically chewing everything and anything including the walls. He is medium sized maybe 40 lbs. A poodle pomeranian shih zsu mix. But kind of looks like an all white lab. I don't know much about dogs. [more inside]
posted by mokeydraws to Pets & Animals at 1:45 PM - 14 answers

How do heat settings work on dryers?

How can a dryer with 2 thermostats have three heat ranges, especially since only one is on the blower element? [more inside]
posted by jonclegg to Home & Garden at 1:40 PM - 5 answers

Not just Bob Dylan's Christmas album

I'm going home for the holidays for the first time in five years. Help me assemble the perfect soundtrack for my trip. [more inside]
posted by easy, lucky, free to Media & Arts at 1:23 PM - 18 answers

Invoice vs. Receipt - Am I Culturally Clueless?

Are there areas outside the U.S. -- or well-run organizations within it -- where the words Invoice and Receipt are properly used interchangeably? Cultural issues below [more inside]
posted by Hypatia to Work & Money at 1:21 PM - 26 answers

How to spend Christmas alone and broke?

This will be the first Christmas in my life where I'm alone - no significant other or family. While I've never thought of myself as much of a holiday person, the idea is beginning to weigh on me and I'm looking for suggestions as how to spend the day (and days leading up to it) in a happy manner. Extra challenge: I'm quite extremely broke. [more inside]
posted by item to Human Relations at 12:43 PM - 41 answers

Combatting Type II Diabetes

In July I was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes. Since then I've made significant changes to my lifestyle. I'm wondering what to expect on my next doctor visit. [more inside]
posted by slogger to Health & Fitness at 12:18 PM - 15 answers

Stay-dry salt for a grinder/mill

The weather where I live is very humid. Which type of salt is most likely to stay dry enough to use in a salt grinder? [more inside]
posted by wryly to Food & Drink at 12:14 PM - 8 answers

Charitable Donations for Dad for Christmas

My dad put together a not-really-serious Christmas list which includes items such as "world peace" as well as a few other clever things. This year I'd like to give multiple charitable donations in his name targeted to the causes/issues he touches on in his list. Help me select a few organizations. [more inside]
posted by soleiluna to Grab Bag at 11:44 AM - 14 answers

The Salary is Great ($400k/yr), but What About the Benefits?

I highly doubt the President of the United States signs an employment agreement (Does s/he?), but is there any written documentation on the salary, benefits, expense accounts, etc for the job? [more inside]
posted by 724A to Law & Government at 11:38 AM - 6 answers

One Book For College Guy

Asking for a friend. What one book would you recommend for a college aged son who has specifically requested a book "to learn about something"? He's a really great kid who has really matured a lot in the past year - business major, likes sports. Open to all suggestions!
posted by wearyaswater to Shopping at 11:37 AM - 23 answers

Best time of year to bicycle from NYC to SF?

I want to ride from NYC to SF in 2015. I have 8 to 10 weeks (maybe 12) to do it. When would be the best time of the year to do so? [more inside]
posted by Borborygmus to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 10:51 AM - 7 answers

What do I call the spring loaded metal bit that holds watch bands in?

I have been gifted a Samsung Gear Live, and in the process of struggling to put a backpack on over a heavy winter jacket, I ripped off one of the watch bands. The band itself is fine, but the metal post or whatever that attaches it to the watch face is bent. Can I buy just the post somewhere? [more inside]
posted by pwnguin to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 10:39 AM - 4 answers

Indie/Twee Playlist for a when you've been DTMFA'd?

I would like your suggestions for the Twee-est, Saddest, Shambliest songs for needing to process some heartcrap. Think The Softies, Brighter, Unrest etc. [more inside]
posted by Annika Cicada to Human Relations at 10:01 AM - 28 answers

Bringing Home the Bacon Steak

I'm going to splurge on some Burgers' Smokehouse Thick Bacon Steaks for dinner tonight. What can I cook that will really take advantage of having super thick flavorful bacon? [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana to Food & Drink at 9:55 AM - 9 answers

What's the best digital video option for a 16 frame per second movie?

Is there some standard set of frame rates for digital video files? I have some video from 8mm film scans, the source is 16 frames per second. How should I convert them with Handbrake to play on standard computer players? [more inside]
posted by Nelson to Computers & Internet at 9:23 AM - 5 answers

How long do you keep trying, with kids in the mix?

At what point in the long, slow, steady decline of a marriage with young children does "we should keep trying to work things out, if only for the kids" become "for the kids' sake, we shouldn't be together"? [more inside]
posted by El Curioso to Human Relations at 9:20 AM - 55 answers

Help Transition out of Education Into Data Analytics and Computer Scienc

I am currently a public high school teacher teaching science and would very much like to transition into data and policy analytics, with a particular bent on computer programming and economic analysis. What are ways I can transition into these fields. One thing I have found that is a fellowship program from Education Pioneers. Are there other resources like this? What routes would you advise that I take? More information inside [more inside]
posted by caudal to Education at 9:02 AM - 2 answers

Seeking Late 19th Century Weather Data for Far NorCal

Calling all Reference Librarians: I'm looking for daily weather data for Shasta County in California from 1892. I have no idea where to begin. Help? [more inside]
posted by entropicamericana to Grab Bag at 9:00 AM - 6 answers

CD/song filter - Make Me a Channel of your Peace - Harlem Choir

I'm looking for a CD or a song DL for, what was described for my mother as, "Prayer/song (Prayer of St. Francis, Where there is Peace, etc.) sung by the Harlem Choir (New York)." [more inside]
posted by thatguyjeff to Media & Arts at 8:53 AM - 1 answer

A scandinavian video tradition

I remember something on the blue, likely last year, about a day's long video of a boat sailing somewhere in Scandinavia. Thought it might be Christmas related. Does anybody have a link to last year's or even better whether they're doing it this year?
posted by blackjack514 to Media & Arts at 8:37 AM - 3 answers

It's big, it's heavy, it's wood

Do you know where I can watch a video of actual logs rolling into an actual river? [more inside]
posted by benbenson to Science & Nature at 8:06 AM - 7 answers

Help with belligerent but not elderly Parent

My father is 58 years old and recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. He also may have issues with his colon but that hasn't been confirmed. He has become very aggresive, angry and hostile towards me and my family since the diagnosis. He has a history of acting like this in times of high stress but now he is been extra hurtful. As a result I have stopped talking to him. I feel bad about not being there for him in this difficult time but feel I still deserve respect and that he should be responsible for his words. How do I deal with this? [more inside]
posted by The1andonly to Human Relations at 8:00 AM - 15 answers

Help me get paid!

I need to write a letter to my employer about how the constant errors in the payroll are causing a financial burden. I am not at all tactful-- what do I say? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Work & Money at 7:54 AM - 19 answers

Online psychological resources for sexual issues

SFW version : I have no problem getting 'it' up, but I have a problem reaching climax. My basic research says it's likely psychological. So I'm looking to you guys for recommendations. The version inside is NSFW. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Health & Fitness at 7:53 AM - 9 answers

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