September 27

Zombie Sex? Help me remember this movie

I remember a movie where there was some supernatural, evil being. Maybe a zombie, maybe a demon? He would have sex with women and midway through the women tried to protest, but he continued. Afterward, the women were almost catatonic, very cold and distant. Also maybe under his control? Anyone remember what movie this was?
posted by arniec to Media & Arts at 7:09 PM - 2 answers

Ideal dating city?

So I started dating again recently and have realized I have a "type" that, as far as I can tell, is uncommon in my area. If I could go anywhere in the country, where should I go to increase my dating prospects? [more inside]
posted by deathpanels to Human Relations at 7:05 PM - 12 answers

Dealing with old camera lenses

A neighbor showed me her deceased father's extensive collection of old camera lenses and doesn't have time to catalog, research, value and dispose of them. Apparently they number in the dozens (maybe more?). Would like to help guide her. Any thoughts welcome.
posted by VeniceGlass to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 6:15 PM - 3 answers

Bad coworker question #842

I live in the U.S. in a fairly progressive city. I have an ethnic sounding last name, an ethnicity which happens to be uncommon to this area and so it makes my name easily identifiable and, apparently, memorable. My co-worker feels the need to sing my full name, at random, in an accented voice that is characteristic of my ethnicity. This is loud enough for all of my cube neighbors to hear. Yeah, awkward. [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday to Human Relations at 4:59 PM - 16 answers

Dog toys for the texture snob

I need help finding glow in the dark or light-up balls with a tennis ball texture or a floppy, sturdy glow in the dark or lighted frisbee (or good ideas for to manufacturing the same at home). [more inside]
posted by charmedimsure to Pets & Animals at 4:56 PM - 0 answers

HRFilter: To whom...should I address the cover letter to?

I was taught "Dear Sir or Madam" was acceptable for cold job applications, but in my recent round of job searching, I'm seeing multiple blog posts talking about cover letters saying that this is no longer acceptable and shows a lack of initiative on the side of the job seeker. Is this so, HR professionals of MetaFilter? [more inside]
posted by smirkette to Work & Money at 3:35 PM - 19 answers

please help identify houseplant

I was given this plant [pics] by someone who I'm not in contact with anymore. Is it a Philodendron? Species? [more inside]
posted by morganw to Home & Garden at 2:56 PM - 2 answers

stretches for lower back pain after running?

I'm a fledging runner, a little over halfway through the C25K program. Now that the runs are getting more strenuous, I'm beginning to notice some nagging lower back pain after runs (also some annoying heartburn, but I think I can fix that on my own). I've been generally very lazy about stretching before runs (read: I don't stretch before runs), but surely there must be a good targeted stretch I can do to help my back. Please tell me what that stretch is! [more inside]
posted by cakelite to Health & Fitness at 2:14 PM - 8 answers

Weird feeling eating chocolate?

I've started getting this weird hot/puckery/irritated feeling eating chocolate. Allergy testing results suggest it's not an allergy, though. What else could it be? [more inside]
posted by en forme de poire to Health & Fitness at 11:36 AM - 16 answers

Universal Streaming TV Watch List?

So now that CW has cut ties with Hulu in favor of Netflix (full seasons will be available 8 days after the season finale), I have three places to keep track of current TV: Hulu for NBC, Fox and ABC; for CW; and for CBS shows. Halp! [more inside]
posted by hungrybruno to Technology at 11:31 AM - 7 answers

Where should we live in Pittsburgh?

We would like to relocate to Pittsburgh, in the next two to three years. Help me find a neighborhood in the Steel City similar to our current (awesome) one in Buffalo! [more inside]
posted by tippy to Home & Garden at 11:17 AM - 7 answers

Bag filter: Packable, convertible backpack?

Dear Mefites, I'm looking for a new travel-shoulder-backpack-tote bag. I really like the Patagonia Lightweight Travel Tote but the price is a bit high and I'd like to have a couple more inside pockets. I do like the size, weight, foldability, water bottle pockets, and convertible backpack stylings. I have heard that this bag is also quite durable. Do you know of a similar bag that offers more interior pockets and organization, at a similar (or lower!) price point?
posted by stillmoving to Shopping at 11:13 AM - 4 answers

Why can't people start IVs in my veins and can I help them somehow?

This is the third time I've gone to get a contrast IV for either an MRI or CT scan and the tech was unable to start the IV. What, if anything, can I do to fix this? [more inside]
posted by xyzzy to Health & Fitness at 11:12 AM - 17 answers

Korea winter break itinerary for young solo traveler

My daughter (college sophomore) is fulfilling a dream by spending her whole winter break in Korea and we've got tickets booked, but she's getting a little stuck with planning an actual itinerary. Possibly relevant is the fact that she's dealing with moderate generalized and social anxiety. Looking for suggestions of maybe the top 3-4 destinations other than Seoul that will be relatively easy for her to negotiate as a solo traveler and allow her to appreciate what the country has to offer over her 28-day stay. [more inside]
posted by drlith to Travel & Transportation at 10:46 AM - 5 answers

Twitter opening Safari?

Why does the Twitter app on my iPhone open retweets in Safari? [more inside]
posted by otherwordlyglow to Technology at 10:11 AM - 1 answer

Indoor cucumber beetle infestation

How do I get rid of a cucumber beetle infestation -- in my living room? [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie to Home & Garden at 10:08 AM - 5 answers

Using Self Tanner to Even Out Tanlines?

I've been wearing slide sandals all summer, and the tanlines on my feet are super obvious when I wear any other sort of shoe. Could I just like...paint that part of my foot with self tanner? Do you have any advice for making it not look stupid? [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 9:55 AM - 8 answers

I'm looking for a song, but I only know two lines. Please help.

"It may seem strange to sleep away the day at the firing range / but times they may change, they'll get you up and make you walk / sitting in my room and the walls are turning into water falls." Song has a bit of a lilting, alt-country feel. Wilco / late Beck.
posted by es_de_bah to Media & Arts at 9:16 AM - 1 answer

Running on a track vs running indoors?

I've started Couch to 5K to get myself in a bit better cardio shape and try to fit into my clothes better. This involves a half hour of exercise, 3 times a week. Unfortunately, due to my schedule, my husband's work schedule and having little kids, I can only get outside and go to a proper track to run MAAAYBE once a week on Saturdays. The other days my solution is to run back and forth in my apartment. Am I kidding myself on these days that I'm actually getting enough exercise to accomplish my goals? [more inside]
posted by Liesl to Health & Fitness at 8:26 AM - 45 answers

For love of the game

I greatly enjoyed going through this post filled with amazing performances. I was also brought to tears while watching this video of Dee Gordon's home run - his first - after his close friend and teammate Jose Fernandez' tragic death this weekend. This lead me down the rabbit hole of great moments in sports that give me the feels - happy, sad, laughing, crying, amazement, etc. I need more. [more inside]
posted by Elly Vortex to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 8:04 AM - 31 answers

Help me help my mom hike the AT

Hiking a tiny part of the Appalachian Trail is on my mom's bucket list. I want to make it happen for her when she visits Georgia this October. Is there a place in GA or just over the border into NC where we can: 1. park fairly easily near the Appalachian Trail? 2. hike a portion of trail (like a mile in and back) that is somewhat level, or at least not steep? 3. Anything else I need to know? I'm a casual day-hiker only. [more inside]
posted by banjonaut to Health & Fitness at 7:46 AM - 6 answers

How do I gift a small share in a stock to a child?

I'd like to gift $100 - $150 in stocks or funds to my 16 year-old for his birthday and I'm looking for tips on how to do this. A few months ago I read something on-line which indicated how to do this via a site like sparkgift but now I can't find the article. If you've done this type of thing before, could you tell us how it went?
posted by qsysopr to Work & Money at 4:53 AM - 2 answers

I'm relocating - need help deciding to rent or sell my current house

I need to move house 150 miles away for a new job after being made redundant from my current job. I'm in the UK, my mortgage can be paid off with my redundancy payment, and I'm going to rent in the new city. I'm having a lot of trouble in deciding what to do with my current house - sell it or rent it out. Help me decide what to do. [more inside]
posted by ElasticParrot to Home & Garden at 4:32 AM - 6 answers

5:2 Diet with a Thyroid Condition?

Why am I GAINING?! [more inside]
posted by ChickenBear to Health & Fitness at 4:28 AM - 12 answers

How to address a host of issues with our son's preschool teacher?

There are multiple issues cropping up at our son's preschool since he started this September. What is the best way to go about this in order to yield the best results for all involved? [more inside]
posted by neblina_matinal to Education at 1:46 AM - 35 answers

Supporting a spouse during anger management therapy

My husband will be undergoing an anger management therapy program. How can I best support this process? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 1:17 AM - 8 answers

Fictional Friendships

I would like to read more books either a) focused on one group of friends or b) focused on strong friendships between two characters over time. I really like the friendships in Pamela Dean's Juniper, Gentian, and Rosemary. I've been enjoying the friendships in Maggie Stiefvater's The Raven Cycle as well. Please recommend more books with strong friendships! Any genre or type of fiction is fine. I'm looking for middle grade, YA, and adult books with this theme, so aimed at any age is fine.
posted by azalea_chant to Media & Arts at 12:03 AM - 25 answers

September 26

The opposite of energy drinks

What products are on the market that are the opposite of energy drinks? Gas stations and small convenience stores are replete with small bottles of 5 hour energy and cans of Rockstar, but not so much the opposite. I'm looking for examples of drinks which are marketed with the effect of being relaxing or calming.
posted by thewalrus to Food & Drink at 11:23 PM - 26 answers

Couch to 5k for playing the piano

I let my piano playing go during college! Are there any incremental systems for re-learning how to play the piano? [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 9:50 PM - 4 answers

Fencing short story?

Help me find a short story from days of yore! Once upon a time, back in the 1990s, I read a short story in a high school anthology... [more inside]
posted by slab_lizard to Media & Arts at 9:06 PM - 1 answer

Updated version of School Days Record Book

As a kid I was given a copy of the School Days Record Book illustrated by Helen Cann, a type of journal where you can record memories of your schooling years from pre-school to end of high school. This version's out of print/only available used; I'm looking for recommendations for a similar school-oriented journal that's more current. (Bonus points if compatible with the UK education system)
posted by divabat to Media & Arts at 7:48 PM - 2 answers

How should I get a lengthy Hungarian testimony transcribed/translated?

I've ordered a copy of my relative's Holocaust testimony on DVD. It's about five hours long, and it's in Hungarian - a language I don't speak. I want to have it transcribed, and I'd like to get at least an informal written or oral translation. What's the smartest way to do this, and would an informal translation be much cheaper than a "proper" one?
posted by Joe in Australia to Writing & Language at 7:14 PM - 8 answers

Compulsively readable but ultimately frustrating books

As it says in the title, I'm looking for recommendations for books that you can't put down and read obsessively, but that leave you unsatisfied and frustrated once you finish it. The book that inspired this question was A Little Life, which I devoured in 2 days, but left me feeling manipulated and saying "wtf did I just read??" by the end. Other books that have evoked those feelings are The Bronze Horseman/Tatiana & Alexander trilogy, and basically anything by Jodi Picoult. I am not sure why I want to subject myself to more of these books but hopefully you all can help me frustrate myself even further!
posted by Neely O'Hara to Media & Arts at 4:45 PM - 68 answers

Is this an attempt at identity theft or a result of poor security?

I can’t figure this out. At the start of this month, I got an email at the junk mail account I have at yahoo, informing me that an account had been created in gmail that’s only two characters off from the gmail address that I use as my main e-mail account. What’s going on? [more inside]
posted by Roy Batty to Computers & Internet at 3:46 PM - 7 answers

Need help understanding my self-absorbed mother and what to do about her

I'm a 38F mom and my mother is 61. She "raised" me as a single mother-- bio dad is a true narcissist (I met him when I was an adult and we are NC now). Raised is in quotes because my grandmother did most of the raising. She is also probably NPD or BPD, I'm not sure. [more inside]
posted by ladybugmom to Human Relations at 3:32 PM - 17 answers

Another "Identify This Plant" Question

Can you help me identify this plant that sprouted in a desert garden? [more inside]
posted by BenevolentActor to Home & Garden at 3:05 PM - 4 answers

Is my boyfriend hiding something serious from me?

He has been maniacly hiding -since always- his phone from me. I'm not even "allowed to touch it". Dumb question, but lately I'm just freaking out about it. [more inside]
posted by Tiffy119 to Human Relations at 3:04 PM - 50 answers

Help me remember the name of a sci-fi novel I read about

Years ago, I read about an interesting sci-fi novel about the sudden development of FTL technology that normal civilians could build and use to explore the universe. I can't remember its name. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? [more inside]
posted by clockworkjoe to Media & Arts at 2:46 PM - 7 answers

How to Unstinkify Hats

My husband's hats smell like sweat and dirty hair. Does anyone have best-practices recommendations for washing hats like this or this that won't result in a misshapen or shrunken hat? Would dry cleaning remove the body oils and smell without damaging the shape?
posted by erst to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 2:42 PM - 8 answers

What face should I wear when passing by neighbors who are suing us?

Neighbors are suing us for a money grab and now I'm unsure of how to behave when seeing them. My insurance will cover the costs so only slight financial hit. Money isn't the problem but now it's so very awkward. Starts with dog and ends with fetish site pictures. [more inside]
posted by Coffeetyme to Human Relations at 2:08 PM - 21 answers

Invaluable benefits to team sports?

Are there any amazing benefits to my child playing in team sports? And if so, where can he learn these without playing team sports? [more inside]
posted by bitteroldman to Human Relations at 1:19 PM - 35 answers

My computer will turn on but will not send a signal to the monitor.

What could be the problem? What should I do? [more inside]
posted by nequalsone to Computers & Internet at 12:28 PM - 10 answers

Is it impossible to make Outlook the default email on a Mac right now?

I use Outlook for work on my Mac (El Capitan 10.11.6). There seems to be no way to make the computer have Outlook be the default client, so this is a last-ditch attempt to find an answer. According to Microsoft, in theory you just open the Mail app and then use Mail's preferences to choose Outlook as the default. It doesn't work. You can tell Mail to use Outlook at the default, but it reverts back to Mail almost immediately without you telling it to. What am I missing? [more inside]
posted by Stewriffic to Computers & Internet at 12:14 PM - 4 answers

What companies provide great/useful customer service via Twitter?

Can you give me examples of companies providing timely, useful customer service via Twitter? [more inside]
posted by bondcliff to Technology at 11:19 AM - 20 answers

Help me learn about HBCUs, please!

Can you recommend books, movies, or other media about historically black colleges and universities (HBCUs) in the USA? [more inside]
posted by cadge to Education at 10:27 AM - 11 answers

Men with big feet, help me find shoes for my big-footed son?

My 17 year old son has US size 17 feet. He has had trouble with ingrown toenails, which I think is related to the fact that it is difficult to find shoes that fit him comfortably. We've been ordering online, but he finds the having-giant-feet thing a little embarrassing, so I think he is settling for whatever comes in the box, even if they don't fit exactly right, rather than having us return and reorder. I'd like it if he could actually enjoy his shoes, rather than endure them. So, big foot men, how/where do you get your shoes?
posted by qldaddy to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 10:04 AM - 17 answers

Real-time 2016 presidential polls vs. previous elections?

Is there a tool that allows you to compare the 2016 US presidential polls versus this point in time in previous years - in real time?
posted by Seeking Direction to Grab Bag at 10:01 AM - 5 answers

Second Guessing my Gender Identity

I'm 27 years old, designated male at birth. I recently recalled a bunch of gender dysphoria from when I was in middle school/high school, and I'm trying to work out if it matters, and what exactly I am. A part of me worries that it might just be a rational response to toxic masculinity rather than anything to do with me myself. [more inside]
posted by MuppetNavy to Health & Fitness at 8:12 AM - 18 answers

Six months to improve your quality of life - what would you do?

My latest temporary job is coming to an end this week and I have six months of living expenses saved up. Rather than jumping into another temp office job, I'm looking to use the time in a more productive way to further longer-term life goals, such as moving to a new environment in another part of the country and improving my quality of life and improve my (especially mental) health. How can I maximise the time and resources I have to get out of my rut and into a life that's more worth leading? [more inside]
posted by winterhill to Work & Money at 7:55 AM - 14 answers

Do you reckon I drink too much?

I've had a boozy summer and I'm wondering whether I'm over doing it? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema to Health & Fitness at 6:51 AM - 35 answers

What's a really good Twitter list to follow live during the debate?

I follow very few pundits or specifically political people on Twitter, but just saw Bill Maher on YouTube saying he's going to livetweet the debates. It really made me wish I had stocked a list of the best people to follow for fun, incisive, weird, good live commentary on the debate. But, now I don't have time for that. What public list(s) should I subscribe to? [more inside]
posted by Gotanda to Media & Arts at 4:43 AM - 12 answers

What are good podcasts for discovering music?

So, due to a series of computer hard drive failures and cross-oceanic moves, I have no access to my music collection right now, and may never get it back. I've decided to look on it as an opportunity to start afresh and get into new music. I listen to a lot of podcasts, so I'd like to add one that's new music focused. Do you have any recommendations? Further specifications follow. [more inside]
posted by Kattullus to Society & Culture at 4:11 AM - 18 answers

What is generally considered to be the safest psychedelic drug?

This is ofcourse a completely theoretical question. Suppose a friend of mine would like to experiment with psychedelic drugs, what would be the safest substance(s) to use?
posted by Captain Fetid to Science & Nature at 1:05 AM - 39 answers

September 25

Deflecting questions about career goals without feeling like an asshole

My friends/classmates and I are going on the job market in the coming months. I don't want to really discuss this whole process with them and what my top choices are, where I've gotten interviews, and so on. But, I also feel like a competitive, secretive asshole for not openly telling them what I'm doing and what my goals are. [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 11:07 PM - 18 answers

Rock hard, rock pretty

I would like to buy a new tenor ukulele with a pickup. But I'm shallow and would like it to look pretty and unusual (as well as sound good). Ukemeisters of AskMe, give me your recommendations. [more inside]
posted by His thoughts were red thoughts to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 10:50 PM - 2 answers

Best response to patients who say "you look too young to be a doctor?"

After finishing 11 years of school I now work as a general practitioner. I am 30 years old. Almost all patients tell me I "look too young to be a doctor" - some are just making conversation and some seem genuinely concerned about my credentials. I usually respond in a joking manner that after "finishing so many years of school I certainly feel old". People however often keep asking me questions about my age. This is within the first 10 seconds of meeting them so do not think it is a reflection of my clinical skills or demeanor. What would be the best response that would 1) Reassure them I am not doogie howser and fully qualified 2) Allow me to quickly move on to what brought them to the ER
posted by 2whitehorse to Work & Money at 9:13 PM - 55 answers

How do I connect with people, myself/find people to connect with?

For a long time I haven't really been close with anyone. I don't really have anyone I would consider a close friend even though there are probably people who would consider me their close friend. I feel like I can't find people who I can relate to or feel comfortable with. Most of the people I hang out with are by default; they are old friends who I fell out of touch with but then moved in with recently so I often hang out with them and their friends. I try to make it work, but inside I just don't feel the connection or desire to be truly close. They are all extremely into music and the arts. I used to be more like this but feel like I'm desiring a different lifestyle. (Though I still appreciate music and arts and do enjoy some of the company) [more inside]
posted by oracleia to Human Relations at 8:26 PM - 5 answers

Creative ways to practice assertiveness

I'm looking for ways to practice assertiveness that I can incorporate into daily life. I've noticed that in certain situations, especially with men, I don't say anything even when I'm uncomfortable, because I have a deeply ingrained fear that they will become violent if challenged. I want to get better about this. I can't really ask men to start saying and doing inappropriate things to me until I say something, but I can work on assertiveness in other ways. A while back I read about a guy whose fear of rejection was interfering in his life, so he made it a point to get rejected every day until the fear became less intense. [more inside]
posted by bunderful to Health & Fitness at 7:59 PM - 12 answers

Best practices for gathering procedures from subject matter experts?

I need to gather info from subject matter experts from a group at work so that I can document their procedures and reference information. I was wondering if you all had some best practices that I should follow in order to get the most thorough information, while being as helpful as possible. [more inside]
posted by megafauna to Work & Money at 7:58 PM - 2 answers

How to move to an unknown destination w/o losing all my money or mind?

I'll be moving in a few months but don't know where I'll end up. What's the best moving/storage hybrid strategy here? [more inside]
posted by Eudaimonia to Home & Garden at 7:23 PM - 7 answers