Is there a way to connect my iPad Pro 10.5 (2017) to my PC and use it to draw inside the desktop version of Photoshop or Illustrator? I know there are Photoshop and Illustrator apps for the iPad, but I'd like to use the full versions of those programs. I'm also curious if the iPad can be used in this manner. [more inside]
I would like more examples of rock songs that have a significant shift partway through and which could be considered two separate songs. [more inside]
A dear colleague is departing my IT shop to go to grad school, and I want to buy or make her a t-shirt that incorporates the phrase "data are...": Data are Beautiful, Data are Important, Data are Plural, something like that. Give me your ideas! [more inside]
I'm wondering if there are workbooks, books, guidelines etc where I could practice Ask Culture in my daily life. Philosophically Ask Culture feels comfortable and have adapted to it, however, being from a guess culture, I feel myself slipping back. I think some of this is because I've never been good at the ettiquette around asking. For example, I have a friend who I feel like could say and ask for anything and I am never offended. I feel like it's because she knows when to use a light delivery, humor, or to give appropriate context, or to appeals to the motivation in others. These are all things I tend to miss. I would like to be good at asking for things from the sweet Barista to my scary father. I would also like to know when you just sometimes suck it up and let it go. Any suggestions or resources to practice this?
This overgrown monstrosity is actually a flower bed. Miraculously, a series of flowers appear there every year (I guess that's, like, bulbs or something?). How do I kill the weeds while avoiding collateral damage to the bulbs? [more inside]
A man who I am casually dating is in treatment for cancer. He was diagnosed after we met. He has a few weeks of treatment left and it has been really hard on him, both physically and emotionally. I've been through cancer treatment myself, so I can empathize, but I was never really sick and had no bad side effects. I send him a text message every day to check in, but asking "how are you today?" is not what I want to continue asking. I'd like things like, "wishing you peace and comfort today", as that takes the burden off of him to be happy or share what's really going on if he doesn't want to. PS He's not religious, so prayers are not an option.
How do I change things so that I have enough food at home? [more inside]
Help me figure out a calorie-blazing cardio workout now that I'm living with a (seemingly) chronic lower back injury. [more inside]
A good friend's 18 year old daughter hung herself while in the hospital two+ years ago. He has not coped well and is getting more and more isolated/withdrawn/disengaged. What can I do to help from a long distance? He has been diagnosed with complicated grief, depression, anxiety and PTSD following her death. [more inside]
My octogenarian mother in Portland Oregon needs to give up her cat, as she is no longer able to deal with taking care of it. [more inside]
My husband and kid are going to be away for a week in august so my best friend and I are also going to be taking the week off and she is going to come up and spend the week with me. We're both super duper excited. I want to make it as super fun, memorable, and ridiculous as possible, so I'm hoping the green can help me come up with different over the top things I can prepare in advance and surprise her with that will help our weekend be extra fun. Current ideas and details within. [more inside]
How can I set boundaries with a visiting friend, without coming across as rude or unwelcoming? [more inside]
Will a Worcester Uber be willing to take me to Boston on a Wednesday around 11:00PM? Looks like about a 1 hour / 44 mile ride. I've never tried a lengthy ride outside of the local "service area" like this before. I guess it's up to the individual driver? But what can I expect? Thanks for any tips.
A friend and I are visiting Stowe, Vermont over 4th of July weekend. What are some fun things we can do there? [more inside]
I'm an excellent cook, but a somewhat banal griller. Food comes off the grill fully cooked, and tasty enough, but it's never as notable as my indoor meals. How do I get out of my rut? [more inside]
My mother repeatedly insisted my upcoming wedding is a mistake. I lied and told her I'm postponing it. She's happy now, but won't be when she finds out I got married and invited everyone but her. Please help me navigate this situation (details inside). [more inside]
We have a new,large (4 x 3ft) magnetic whiteboard in our kitchen. I have found poetry, tetris, butterfly themed magnet sets online. What magnets/sets are on your whiteboard/fridge that are fun, useful, educational or beautiful?
My son, 15, is difficult to find books for. Despite the saying, he tends to judge them by the cover. He'll be away for a few weeks, with limited access to computers, so I'm looking to find some science fiction books for him. [more inside]
My cousin is eating a ketogenic diet due to a cancer diagnosis. He and his wife and another couple are coming to dinner at my house in a few weeks. To add to the fun, with the exception of butter, my cousin’s wife doesn’t eat dairy. [more inside]
Is there a service that delivers tall, potted houseplants in NYC for a reasonable rate? [more inside]
I got 3 kids, one friend willing to pick us up at LAX and 13 hour layover to catch a flight to Australia at 2200 hours. What to do? [more inside]
I'm in Delhi right now working for the next four weeks and looking for a couple of travel destinations for about ten days. There are SO MANY THINGS I'm having trouble making a decision about where to go. [more inside]
We're looking to sell our pokey two bedroom flat in London and buy a four bedroom house with garden that is close to good schools and doesn't take more than an hour to get to Canary Wharf and Zone 1. What websites/resources would you recommend to help us decide where to live? [more inside]
A couple weeks ago, I went to Italy and took a train that passed a few mystery facilities (street view) near Orbetello that looked a little bit like water treatment plants, but different. What were they? [more inside]
When I was out in Kuching, Malaysia, I heard a song in what sounded like Malay (or maybe Bahasa Indonesia?) I don't think it was English or an easily recognizable Western language. Almost every local seemed to know the words and, the second night I heard it, they did a cha cha slide-like dance to it that involved stepping forward and back and then turning 90 degrees. The other distinctive feature of the song is a "hoooooooo HA!" phrase that repeats. [more inside]
We're old, married, set in our ways. Are we cut out for parenting? [more inside]
I love any and all non-fiction about magic, and would like to find more of it. [more inside]
Hi HiveMind, a while ago I found an online guide to hosting a type of dinner party for grief, where everyone brings a photo of someone close to them who has passed away and also brings their favorite food and drink. The point is to share memories about loved ones, while participating in a sensory and bread-breaking activity. I cannot find this guide anywhere for the life of me... Does anyone know what I'm talking about? [more inside]
Help me make the dopest fucking apple butter. [more inside]
I broke up with a guy after five months because he wasn't fully committing to the relationship, but in retrospect I think I acted impulsively because I was afraid he was losing interest and about to reject me. We've hung out twice since the break up and both times were amazing. I want to get back with him but he no longer will commit to being exclusive. Is there any hope of getting back into an exclusive relationship with him? [more inside]
What are your recommendations for the best Potterverse fan fiction set in the USA? [more inside]
My sister-in-law and her husband are moving to Chicago next month. I'd like to get them a gift certificate to use when they get there. They'll be living in Edgewater. What's a good coffee shop or coffee roaster in the area? (Other recommendations welcome.)
My folks have been using Moto G smartphones with T-Mobile. They’re light users, and they like the phones but they’re unhappy with the coverage. I looked into switching them over to a minimal 2GB Verizon postpaid account for better coverage, but Verizon won’t accept their phones. Verizon has a Moto G, but it’s for prepaid. Do you have any suggestions on an equivalent phone I could get them to replace their Moto Gs on a Verizon postpaid plan?
Is there any way to drop an “F” if my kid with mental illness missed the deadline for Withdraw? The college she is attending is University of Chicago. She took 4 courses last quarter, got 3 As. The 4th course needed to be withdraw. She was diagnosed as depression and had been on medication. She was really sick in April (the beginning of the spring quarter). She missed classes as well as exams. She was managed to catch up for the other 3 classes. For the 4th course (the hardest for her), she never showed up in the class again after her sickness. She didn’t drop the course until we found she got an “F”. This could be really related to her social anxiety and panic disorder. She automatically put a “Wall” if she feels not comfortable of answering these emails. She never replied to emails, text messages and calls from her family for several weeks when she was “sick”. The class instructor agrees to change “F” (fail) to “W”(withdraw) if the associate dean agrees. However, the associate dean believes that my kid couldn’t possibly forget the deadline because my kid withdrew courses in previous years. Also the dean think she is too “rude” to not answering emails to the professors and the staff. [more inside]
As a public radio junkie, I hear radio hosts interview guests located in remote studios several times a week. I've always wondered what goes on behind the scenes. [more inside]
Moving to Buffalo to attend grad school at UB. I have never spent an extended amount of time in Buffalo and I have many questions, largely about apartments/neighborhoods/commutes/the two (three?) campuses. Please help. [more inside]
How does an adult go about learning to ride a bicycle for the very first time? [more inside]
We want to plant a decorative tree -- and because it's in honor of someone, I want to do as much as I can do make this a lock. What things will best contribute to success? [more inside]
Long story short: I THOUGHT I'd backed up my pictures & video to both Verizon and Google, but alas, no. I factory reset my phone because I was hoping I was having some software issues, but it turns out what I actually have is a non-functional micro-USB charging port. [more inside]
I moved hundreds of miles away from my husband and his family to participate in an intensive summer class this summer. Someone central to my husband's life has suddenly died and I can't be there to help him through it. I am trying to think of ways to help his family to function during their grieving that I can perform from a distance that will ease their burden and make them feel cared for.
When I get into my car, my iPhone connects to Bluetooth and begins to play my downloaded songs in alphabetical order. I don't want to hear Lucinda Williams' "Abandoned" ever again. Is there a secret squirrel setting I can change to make it stop?! [more inside]
I live in NYC and want to move back to the (general) area I grew up in, about three hours north in Western MA. I have friends and some family there and I want to be close to them and away from the city, and I want to live someplace quieter, with more green space and less hubbub. I'd like to do it in the next 12 months, hopefully less. In order to do this, I will need to acquire housing and a job. I'm trying to figure out the best way to go about it. What order do I do it in? [more inside]
I have some Sugardale bacon that has been stored in the freezer until today. It's best if used by date is September 2016. I was planning to thaw it and cook it for a recipe but then wondered if it's safe to consume.
My husband, who is skilled at assembling furniture and has a lot of experience with IKEA, put together a LÅNGFJÄLL desk chair, and we can't figure out how to get the casters (feet) to stay on. There doesn't seem to be any way for them to lock in. They look like they're staying, and then as soon as you move a tiny bit, one or more fall out. [more inside]
The time has come for me to invest in a new everyday bag, and I’ve searched high and low but can’t find a bag that meets my basic requirements (see below). I’d like something like a messenger bag, but my current ones have been chewing up my clothes something fierce. Can you help me find a kinder, gentler bag that’s still tough enough to survive life in the big city? [more inside]
I'm recording a band rehearsal tomorrow, but am limited to two channels for sound (and to two mics): what is the best approach to mic position etc? [more inside]
Asking for a friend: (How) should one present leadership positions in political organizations on a resume for non-political positions? [more inside]
My boyfriend and I will be arriving at LAX around 9:30 on a Friday morning and are looking for a place to have a relaxing breakfast/brunch/lunch before we have to drive for a couple hours to our final destination. [more inside]
I'm need some sort of (Mac) multimedia "slide show" tool for a live theatre performance. This will be for showing photographs and playing sound cues. I could almost use Powerpoint, but I need two or three layers of audio playing simultaneously. Any suggestions? [more inside]
I consider myself fairly smart and educated, but I'm nearing the end of my long education and am about to need a whole lot more skills in the areas of goal-setting, planning, and staying on task department. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
I'm looking for cinch straps, around 1 to 1.5 inches wide, at least 24 inches long that are the type that you pull the strap through a buckle, but THEN pull the loose end back over the buckle, which flips the buckle into a locking position and pulls the strap a bit tighter than you could do it by hand alone in a regular strap (usually the strap material has a bit of flex in it to accommodate this). What are these straps called? How do I find them? [more inside]
My town is having a heat wave and I've noticed that I am struggling to get enough calories during the day. I have no appetite until night and then I feel vomitty because I haven't eaten all day. I don't know if this is an illness coming on or a continuation of the illnesses I already have. Or, is this a common thing that people who are used to heat waves experience. It is triggering some ED thinking and I am seeking help trying to find ways to put food in when nothing but liquid sounds appealing as well as just curious if this normal for the human body to do. [more inside]
When I get close to people, I start having powerful feelings for them. I'm married, bi, and my partner has no problem with me exploring these feelings. But I do, because I don't have an understanding of healthy relationships outside of the patriarchal hetero nuclear family. Please explain to me like I was 17 how to have healthy, queer, adult relationships. [more inside]
I just put on a pot of green beans, which I will be eating soon with some potatoes and olive oil on pasta. This will be breakfast. As it turns out, I much prefer non-breakfast food for breakfast. It only recently occurred to me that there's no actual requirement to eat oatmeal (or whatever) in the morning hours. I did not expect to find fun in eating pasta in the morning but I do. In what unexpected areas, no matter how small, have you discovered some amount of pleasure or joy? [more inside]
I'm on a very low inflammatory diet for the time being. How should I eat every day to make sure I have enough energy and calories to sustain me? [more inside]
We've got some sort of bug, or caterpillar, or pest in our house. But what is it? Photos inside. [more inside]
I am organising a non-religious Service of Remembrance for people to honour their departed dogs. I am after suggestions for appropriate poems and songs for this service. [more inside]
Without thinking about it, I used the word "yeppers" (meaning "yes") in an email to my mom. She'd never heard it before, and I can't think of where I might have picked it up. Where did this word come from, and how long has it been circulating?
We have a low stucco wall that runs along the edge of our property. I noticed recently that it has a large-ish (softball sized) hole in it, about 6" from the end of the wall. The wall appears to be hollow inside. The hole is covered by a hedge, so is virtually invisible unless you're looking for it. This is in a warm, dry climate (Southern California). Structurally speaking, do we need to do something about this, or can we leave the hole as is without risking further issues? [more inside]
My mother is coming to visit next weekend. For three days we will be working on clearing out my storage unit. For large items, I have a sense of how to deal with them: if they're coming with me, we move them. If they're not, I arrange for a donation pickup. What I don't have a handle on is the best strategy for dealing with boxes whose contents are only vaguely known. (They're pretty much all labeled with the room they came from when I moved two years ago, but they don't often have more information than that.) Help me come up with a game plan. [more inside]