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Emotional Labor Checklist/Self-Assessment

In light of the thread on the blue about unpaid emotional labor, I'd like to construct a self-assessment checklist so that I can actively work on being better at emotional labor. I've got 20 or so line items already written down (posted below the fold), which I've amassed from trying to distill the thread. What additional items should I add or change to more fully flesh out this list? [more inside]
posted by Maecenas to Human Relations at 11:57 AM on Jul 20, 2015 - 72 answers [299 favorites (104 in the past 7 days)]

What books seem to have been written to be re-read?

What books hold up so well to re-reading that it makes you suspect they were engineered that way? Are there examples of books that seem to be MUCH better on second reading? What kind of things did the author do to achieve that?
posted by kk to Media & Arts at 11:47 AM on Jul 24, 2015 - 61 answers [98 favorites]

What is the most useful email in the world?

A while ago I came across a webpage where the author provided a short, one-line email to use in business situations where you are being ignored or not receiving a timely response. For the life of me I can't recall the exact wording of the message, nor the webpage. Ring any bells?
posted by sociology to Work & Money at 3:21 PM on Jul 27, 2015 - 2 answers [90 favorites]

Kitchen Pantry Cooking Challenge!

Your fridge is [mostly] empty. You're too lazy to drive to the grocery store, but not too lazy to stay in and cook. You may even have an impossibly tiny food budget. What great meals do you whip up from the storage in your pantry? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings to Food & Drink at 7:30 AM on Jul 18, 2015 - 51 answers [184 favorites (62 in the past 7 days)]

give me your colorful, cute, glam office supplies yearning to be free

I'm trying to find colorful and/or cute and/or glamorously lady-style desk accessories and office supplies. Where should I go looking? Are there blogs that I should look at? [more inside]
posted by joyceanmachine to Work & Money at 7:17 PM on Jul 21, 2015 - 19 answers [61 favorites]

Nature is scary. Help scare me more!

I am obsessed with extreme nature - tsunamis, earthquakes, volcanoes, harsh environments (think Mt. Everest or deep oceans), extreme weather - basically anything about how big and scary and unpredictable the earth is. I want to get my hands on more articles, books, and documentaries (preferably available online) to quench my appetite for more. [more inside]
posted by Neely O'Hara to Media & Arts at 10:12 AM on Jul 23, 2015 - 21 answers [46 favorites]

Online resources for teaching basics of good document design?

I'm looking for some compact, relatively self-contained resources (posters, handouts, Youtube videos, the like) that lay out the fundamentals of usable document design in terms beginners could understand: just very basic principles like white space, balance, choosing fonts, use of color, etc. [more inside]
posted by Bardolph to Media & Arts at 7:09 AM on Jul 21, 2015 - 8 answers [64 favorites (45 in the past 7 days)]

Actually educational toddler / preschool apps

There are so many terrible educational apps which seem to be a combination of flash cards / slot machine with in-app purchases or hard to avoid ads. What are your favorite tablet apps which actually have taught your toddler something other than randomly swiping around the screen? [more inside]
posted by benzenedream to Education at 2:31 PM on Jul 21, 2015 - 20 answers [40 favorites]

Should I Just Go Straight to Crone Island?

How do you date while being a feminist? I was thinking about trying online dating again. Then I read the amazing emotional labor thread on the blue, which made me question that. Are there tips and tricks for finding a male partner who is willing to do emotional labor? [more inside]
posted by JustKeepSwimming to Human Relations at 6:06 PM on Jul 20, 2015 - 44 answers [74 favorites (37 in the past 7 days)]

Looking for children’s books that tell a non-standard narrative

I’m ordering 300ish books for a children’s library. After reading this thread asking for books featuring feminist-anti-racist-queer-ally characters I realised that our collection is full of books focusing on straight, white (usually male) youth in nuclear families and it’s seriously lacking. Can you folks recommend any books to help me improve our collection? [more inside]
posted by eisforcool to Education at 1:23 PM on Jul 27, 2015 - 28 answers [37 favorites]

How to tell when people actually don't like me?

I feel like I'm having a hard time making the transition from friends that I see at parties to friends that I can call up for a random happy hour or the like. The anxiety-ridden part of my brain has me convinced that this is because these people don't actually like me. How can I discern the truth and take next steps? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 9:40 AM on Jul 25, 2015 - 11 answers [36 favorites]

Your one-stop cure for racial injustice denialism

Help me compile a list of links to specific, credible studies (and accessible summaries thereof) which demonstrate that anti-black racism is alive and well in America. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet to Society & Culture at 11:01 AM on Jul 21, 2015 - 8 answers [41 favorites (34 in the past 7 days)]

what do people incorrectly believe to be universal?

I'm looking for tasks where (1) each person consistently does it in a particular way, (2) believes that everyone else does it that same way, and (3) is wrong about (2). [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang to Grab Bag at 10:03 AM on Jul 26, 2015 - 79 answers [32 favorites]

New (older) Home Purchase - List of Must Haves and Must NOT Haves

Hello! We were asked by our RE Agent to provide a list of "must have, " "would like to have," and "definitely must NOT have" items as we start our search. We pretty much have the first two sections covered, but haven't really thought out the "must NOT haves" for our future home. We've started a short list, but we don't know what we may be missing... any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by funfunfun to Home & Garden at 5:10 AM on Jul 24, 2015 - 81 answers [31 favorites]

My parents are very perplexed by all this

Tell me about your transition from white collar to blue collar work. Bonus points if you're a woman or in a trade union. [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz to Work & Money at 5:09 AM on Jul 24, 2015 - 13 answers [30 favorites]

How can I sleep through the night?

I've always had off and on issues with sleeping straight through the night, but the last few months I've fallen into a consistent pattern: go to sleep between 10-11pm, wake up completely awake around 3am then struggle for the next ~1 hour to fall back asleep. Every. Single. Night. [more inside]
posted by the foreground to Health at 5:41 AM on Jul 25, 2015 - 29 answers [27 favorites]

Help me be a nice mom

How can I interact more with my kid at times when I'm super annoyed by her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous to Human Relations at 11:52 PM on Jul 25, 2015 - 24 answers [27 favorites]

No, really, you shouldn't have

How do I react to someone else's emotional labor? [more inside]
posted by chainsofreedom to Human Relations at 6:42 AM on Jul 23, 2015 - 36 answers [25 favorites]

What should I do with all of the eggs?

I have so many eggs at the moment that it's silly. Please tell me what to do. [more inside]
posted by Ned G to Food & Drink at 3:42 PM on Jul 26, 2015 - 47 answers [25 favorites]

What are some unusual things to see and do in Montreal?

My friend and I are headed to Montreal for 4 days in August and would like some tips on what to see and do. We've got the usual stuff down but are looking to add some more (less touristy) things to add to the list. [more inside]
posted by figaro to Travel & Transportation at 6:19 PM on Jul 26, 2015 - 25 answers [24 favorites]

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