August 2014 Archives

August 31

What to do about a sexless, but not loveless, marriage?

I have been dreading asking this question because it’s so painful, but I feel like I really need to get this sorted out so I can move on with my life. So here it is: My husband and I haven’t had sex in over a year, probably inching closer to two years by now and I wonder if I’m just fooling myself/prolonging the inevitable in staying married to him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:58 PM PST - 33 comments

Where to find the right suit for a wedding

Where in NYC can I get a good, high-quality suit for an upcoming wedding? Special-suit-snowflake details inside [more inside]
posted by lsemel at 10:52 PM PST - 9 comments

Did I have short-term appendicitis?

A strange incident happened several years ago, that I think was appendicitis but can't be sure. [more inside]
posted by zardoz at 9:45 PM PST - 16 comments

Dealing with a love Conundrum

Should I take the leap, and take the risk, or should I just forget about it and move on? [more inside]
posted by wak5700 at 9:21 PM PST - 11 comments

International Prototype Metre Bar Replica

I want an International Prototype Metre bar. Actually, I'd settle for half-meter long bar (or maybe something scaled down to a manageable size?) with a Tresca cross-section, but I can't seem to find anything like this online. Any suggestions for where I could find something like this?
posted by Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drug at 9:19 PM PST - 6 comments

Learning to use classes in C#

Mr. Killian is struggling in an intro to C# programming class, specifically learning to use classes. Are there online resources out there that would supplement his classroom work? [more inside]
posted by PussKillian at 8:46 PM PST - 12 comments

Hit me with your best quesadilla.

What are your favourite (vegetarian) quesadilla recipes? [more inside]
posted by sadtomato at 7:17 PM PST - 28 comments

Anyone have experience with Eco-friendly upholstery cleaning?

I had someone come out to clean my light-colored sofa, which gets pretty dirty because I have a dog. The guy used eco-friendly cleaning products and, $100 later, my sofa seems to me no cleaner than before he came. I'm wondering if this is because eco-friendly products just don't cut it and I need to go with the old-school, harsher chemicals, or whether my sofa is just too dirty to be cleaned. I'm thinking the former, but I'd hate to shell out another $100 bucks and still be left with a dirty sofa. I wonder if anyone has firsthand experience with this.
posted by swheatie at 7:11 PM PST - 4 comments

Bathe an older infant with another kid

Help me keep the 10 month old safe in the tub with her big brother. I went to buy a bath ring and... apparently those are now verboten. So what do people do? [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 7:02 PM PST - 14 comments

Make dark rum less... rummy?

My partner has a fondness for Captain Morgan Spiced Gold Rum. People sometimes just remember the brand name, not the type, and give him the dark rum as a present. As a result we have a stockpile of dark rum, which is a bit strongly flavoured for our taste. We drink it with Coke, but it's still molasses-y. What kind of mixed drink can you suggest to make the thick rum flavour less obvious? Cooking recipes which can use rum without tasting rummy also appreciated.
posted by andraste at 6:29 PM PST - 33 comments

Translation for Japanese songs

I recently went through some of my music from late 90s-early 00s, and a fair amount included j-pop and j-rock. I lost all the titles and artist names, so I resorted to using an app to identify some of the songs. However... the identifiers are all in Japanese, and I have no idea. [more inside]
posted by virus_husbandry at 5:23 PM PST - 2 comments

Mister Kitteh isn't cutting it

We brought this sweet boy home from the humane society today, yay! He is 7.5 years old and was surrendered when his previous owner passed away. The only problem is we're not really keen on keeping the name he came with (Midnight). Realizing that I could FINALLY be the one asking AskMe to name my cat, I'm turning to you for help. [more inside]
posted by spinturtle at 4:58 PM PST - 87 comments

How can I convince my mum to quit smoking once and for all?

She recently fell off the wagon after quitting for several years. Is this a lost cause? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs at 3:40 PM PST - 27 comments

So . . . what is a "playdate", anyway?

What is a playdate, anyway? Is it a social occasion where parents hang out together while their kids play together in close proximity? And how did this pattern emerge? do people in other countries do this or is it mainly an American thing? [more inside]
posted by jason's_planet at 3:37 PM PST - 30 comments

How do I make a custom offline map?

I will be going to a convention in about a month and a half. Last year (at the same convention) I had trouble getting my hands on a map and figured it would be handy to have all the information on my phone which I'll be having with me anyway. I need help figuring out if I can do this. [more inside]
posted by bjrn at 3:01 PM PST - 3 comments

New baby + old cat = jealousy, noise edition

15+ year old cat is displaced from his regal throne by 7 week old baby. How to stop him from meowing as loudly as possible while the baby is sleeping? [more inside]
posted by nadise at 2:08 PM PST - 11 comments

Two great tastes that taste great together

I'd like to start biking to my yoga studio. I need to bring my own mat. Talk to me about what works. Difficulty: trail-a-bike hitch precludes a cargo rack. Is there another way to carry it on my bike? I'm also open to mat bags that play nicely with riding a bike. [more inside]
posted by ambrosia at 2:05 PM PST - 11 comments

Seeking advice on buying a frameset and having a bike built up

I'm thinking that, for my next bike, I'd like to buy a frameset and have it built up. I've never done this before. What should I know? [more inside]
posted by enn at 2:00 PM PST - 7 comments

Please recommend recipes and overwinter care for scented geraniums?

Hello culinary gardeners, I went hogwild with scented geraniums this spring, because I've been fascinated with them for some time. They did great in pots on my porch, but fall is breathing down my neck and I'd like to harvest some leaves if I can, and also overwinter them if possible (I'm in zone 8b, lowest temp is 20F). Questions: how far back can I cut them? Do you have any recipes/uses that you've actually tried them in? [more inside]
posted by Lardmitten at 1:49 PM PST - 1 comment

Help me identify this book!

I'm looking for a children's book I read in the mid-90s about a young girl who falls through a lake into another place. Sound familiar to anyone? I've got a few more details to share. [more inside]
posted by Mouse Army at 12:23 PM PST - 3 comments

Jim Henson Skit on 'Ed Sullivan': Black Monster on Black Background?

A question from my father I've been unable to answer: "YEARS ago, I recall watching what I believe was Jim Henson's first performance on the Ed Sullivan (TV) show. It was a tell (on stilts) black monster against a black background, dancing and dodging about in time with Halloween-style (monster) music. This was a LARGE monster, waaaay bigger than Cookie Monster, and was definitely not a hand puppet. It was a guy on stilts, covered with this monster outfit (I think), and it was a good act!!! ---Does ANYone remember this? I cannot find it on YouTube or Google......"
posted by WCityMike at 10:53 AM PST - 3 comments

Who else makes bikes like the Specialized AWOL?

I'm really into this bike. I'm looking for a bike that works for touring and also for cyclocross. I understand the geometry isn't ideal for cyclocross racing per se, but I feel like this sort of geo is the best middle ground I've seen. My issue is I'm not super into supporting Specialized. I don't like some of their business decisions and I'm more into supporting smaller, American made companies. So, any recommendations?
posted by matt_od at 10:50 AM PST - 16 comments

Facebook friends lists: How do you compartmentalize your digital life?

I'm curious to hear how everyone organizes their Facebook friends lists, and how they figure out which posts/content to disclose to which parties. How do you use your lists? What is your system? [more inside]
posted by Hawk V at 10:16 AM PST - 17 comments

How can I address the sexism in my parents' estate planning endeavors?

How can I address the sexism in my parents' estate planning endeavors without seeming like I'm a money-hungry vulture? My parents were born in the 40s and recently they have been working to set up a revocable trust. They have two children, me and my sister. My sister is unmarried and I have two preschool/elementary-aged daughters myself. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:35 AM PST - 26 comments

How to pronounce Ralph Denham

In Virginia Woolf’s Night and Day how was Ralph Denham’s first name likely to be pronounced? Like Ralph (Rayf) Fiennes or Ralph (Ralf) Wiggum? I don’t know if this would have been important – or obvious? – to early 20thC readers, but feels like an interesting social signifier.
posted by Huw at 9:28 AM PST - 5 comments

creative, ambitious, lazy

How does an adult develop "grit"? [more inside]
posted by serenity soonish at 9:21 AM PST - 12 comments

People threw stale urine on my roof, should I worry about my health?

They threw two gallons of saved up, putrid urine on the front of my house, getting half a gallon on my roof and some under the eaves. Police were called. I cleaned the best I could. The smell was nightmarish. This was in the spring. We are now into the fall and the smell returns when it rains. I've had three sinus infections since this happened, after not having a sinus infection for years. Could this be related? Is old urine soaked into my roof dangerous to my health?
posted by myselfasme at 9:14 AM PST - 15 comments

Big Happy Music

I'm looking for music to fit into my "Big Happy" playlist. It's kind of a specific sound, at least it is to me... I like really big, synth-y, pop music that has big bursts of noise. Some examples that work for me... [more inside]
posted by xingcat at 7:34 AM PST - 19 comments

Forgot to mention something important at job interview -- what now?

I just had a job interview for a job I really want that went really well. So well that I forgot to mention something kind of important: I started a part-time retail job between applying and hearing back about the interview (it was almost a month and I've been unemployed since May, so needed something to pay the bills) that I'd have to give notice at, but I'd hopefully be able to get shifts covered. I haven't had any direct e-mail contact with the person who interviewed me, only with the administrative assistant. They would want me to start ASAP. I'll probably be going in for a second interview sometime next week. How and when do I mention this? More important, how and when do I mention this in a way that isn't going to ruin my chances of getting this job?
posted by anonymous at 6:40 AM PST - 15 comments

Saltpeter?

I am a woman in my late 30s embarking upon an LDR. We plan to be together about half the time. After about 2 weeks of separation, I find myself going out of my head with sexual frustration. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Making friends halfway through college?

I'm a college junior who has had trouble making many friends, help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:17 AM PST - 20 comments

August 30

Coping with Friendship Blues

I wrote this question. I've been thinking a lot about my friendship with that guy, specifically how to proceed with it. Small blizzard under the fold. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:56 PM PST - 14 comments

Need help with blisters asap!

I'm working at PAX Prime all weekend (a big gaming convention) and I severely blistered the bottoms of my big toes while dancing at an after-party tonight. I still need to work 8-hour shifts tomorrow and Monday on my feet the entire time! What can I do tonight and in the morning to result in the least pain possible? I have Nike Free sneakers that I'll likely be wearing the next two days. Thanks!
posted by skycrashesdown at 11:40 PM PST - 15 comments

How to get better at organizing my ideas in writing?

How can I get better at organizing my ideas in writing? I want to be able to write essays, long-form blog posts, articles, etc. I want to be able to use in-depth writing as a tool to accomplish things, instead of just enduring it when it comes up. I'm interested in resources (classes? books?), techniques, and advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:35 PM PST - 15 comments

Slavery and sentience in Star Wars for droids?

My kids rewatched A New Hope this week, and I ended up lost on Wookieepedia trying to find a broadly-definitive (by fans, not so much Lucas) take on droids like C3PO and R2D2. I understand slavery of sentients was eventually outlawed by the New Republic, but are droids emancipated? Can a droid be a Jedi (I saw the Skippy story)? Are droids AI or something else? How is Jar Jar Binks considered fully sentient in law, but not R2D2? Can a droid be murdered? What about copying a droid - is that like cloning a sentient being? Droids 101, please
posted by viggorlijah at 10:41 PM PST - 5 comments

How should I be taking care of my skin?

What is the ideal skincare regimen for an adult male? [more inside]
posted by Cucurbit at 10:21 PM PST - 16 comments

Need a reputable computer battery supplier in NZ

Attention MeFi Kiwis: I need to buy a replacement computer battery in Auckland. Can you recommend a reputable dealer? [more inside]
posted by orrnyereg at 10:00 PM PST - 2 comments

Where should I study for my boards?

I have always been picky about where I study. I might be making this way more complicated than it has to be, but... help me decide where I should study for my boards (USMLE Step 1)! [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit at 9:29 PM PST - 8 comments

Fun print/pattern sheets for grownups (babies get all the good stuff)

I want queen cotton sheets with fun patterns to go under my boring grownup comforter. White or pale backgrounds, small repetitive prints. Where can I find them? I've been able to find isolated instances, but I want options! I currently have animal options in mind (e.g little elephants, whales, owls), or perhaps nice multi-color stripes. I might sacrifice my favorite niece or nephew for amazing octopuses or seahorses. Not kidding, I really am jealous of the babies and their magic crib sheets. Some examples of what I've already found are after the cut. [more inside]
posted by ktkt at 9:04 PM PST - 20 comments

What song is this?

I'm on a mission to find out what song this is. Heard on the HBO series Tell Me You Love Me at the very end of Season 1, Episode 8. Shazaam didn't recognized and I asked a gentleman at Hyped2Death.com and he didn't know. Also tried to decipher the lyrics, some are garbled. Singer is British I think? Thanks! [more inside]
posted by hills_bells at 8:32 PM PST - 3 comments

"You know who talks about race?! RACISTS."

What's it called when someone accuses someone of pointing out an injustice as perpetrating that injustice by describing it? Is there a name for this rhetorical device? An example would be in Jon Stewart's recent segment about Ferguson where a news anchor was quoted as saying "You know who talks about race?! RACISTS." [more inside]
posted by wrabbit at 8:31 PM PST - 14 comments

Help me find a word for mind fucker

Is there a proper English word to describe a person/culture/society which isn't only deceitful, but also sets up conditions to make others feel that they are breeching/ committing an offence against that which was lied about? [more inside]
posted by rabbitfufu at 8:06 PM PST - 12 comments

Is there a quality brand that still makes home stereos w cassette decks?

I know Jensen and Emerson make them but is there a quality brand that still makes home stereos with a (or optimally dual, but I know that's not probable) cassette deck and CD-playing capabilities? I want an actual home stereo and not a boombox. I don't really care if it can read burned cds or anything else that one would consider fancy in the 90's. Just a stereo that plays cds and tapes that isn't guaranteed to malfunction in a year or two. Is there maybe a store I can order from that has a stock of dusty, unpurchased stereos from the '90s??
posted by atinna at 8:03 PM PST - 11 comments

lithium and pain meds

Some months back, I started taking lithium. When I went on it, my doctor warned me that I would have to stop taking ibuprofen and switch to tylenol instead when in need of a pain killer. Fine, I thought. Unfortunately, the switch has not been ideal for me. [more inside]
posted by tan_coul at 7:39 PM PST - 11 comments

Back in NYC after years of working, now in need of organization help

After four years of working for film festivals in various cities, and another few years living and working at a private school, I've come back to New York City to get my Master's while living at la maison famille. But nearly everything I own other than my clothes and my laptop is in boxes, either in my family's house or in storage. Some of those boxes haven't been opened since 2004. What I have now is a three part challenge, and if you can help with any part I'd be grateful. [more inside]
posted by The Pluto Gangsta at 7:13 PM PST - 3 comments

Death, Dying and processing things as a five year old.

Help me talk to my five year old child about death age appropriately. We've talked about Fred Rogers. We've talked his feelings. We've talked about what he knows about it. He's concerned because his great-aunt died about a month ago, and now he wants to make sure we'll always be there. The problem is, in very short time his grandfather, my dad, won't. [more inside]
posted by Nanukthedog at 6:08 PM PST - 12 comments

How can I get my cat to stop licking itself too much?

We have an otherwise healthy kitty (about 3 years old) except for this issue with the fur on her back. She's basically licking herself to the point of creating sores on her back. How do we fix this? [more inside]
posted by lownote at 4:59 PM PST - 22 comments

What's your favorite ice-cream recipe?

I got one of these for my birthday: KitchenAid Ice Cream Maker Attachment and would like to actually use it. This is on it's way: Sweet Cream and Sugar Cones: 90 Recipes for Making Your Own Ice Cream and Frozen Treats from Bi-Rite Creamery But I would like to make something in it this weekend, so hit me with your favorite ice-cream recipe. Obviously, needs to work in the above.
posted by cjorgensen at 4:43 PM PST - 24 comments

Help me be less angry all the time

For the past couple of months, I have been angry (or at least irritable) almost all the time. Though I know many factors can cause this, I am fairly certain that my own anger is linked to trauma / PTSD. I have had plenty of bloodwork done and thoroughly discussed my meds (lithium, Zoloft, clonazepam, trazodone) with my doctor and pharmacist, so those factors can be ruled out. I am seeking your help for ways to lessen the anger or get breaks from it. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 2:38 PM PST - 20 comments

How do I get the Activity Monitor pie chart icon back?

Mac OS 10.9.4. Prior to upgrading, there was an option in the Activity Monitor where I could set the dock icon to show a color-coded pie chart, indicating how much system memory was in use. Now, it's gone, and I would like to get it back - or something similar, if available. [more inside]
posted by invisible ink at 2:09 PM PST - 2 comments

Going to a conference. Help me present myself to potential employers.

I'm going to a conference/show/event in October, and I need a good way to present on-going education and new job history. Details inside? You bet. [more inside]
posted by Ms. Moonlight at 1:27 PM PST - 5 comments

Notable bipartisan politicians?

I'm looking for good examples of bipartisan politicians. Particularly, individuals (or a pair of leaders) known for consistently and effectively reaching across party lines throughout their career. Can be global, not just US, but they need to be well known to a global audience. (No cynical jokes please. Unless they're good, of course...)
posted by DIYer at 1:05 PM PST - 16 comments

Need someone to help refinance home in the San Francisco area

I'm separated and my wife has the house and has to pay all expenses on the house including loan payments. I went through getting the loan adjusted once, which helped for a while, but now she's behind again. She isn't doing anything herself and hasn't asked for help, but my kids live there too, when they are not with me, But I'm having trouble getting motivated to help out this time. So I'm looking for someone who can deal with the banks to get a refinance. [more inside]
posted by eye of newt at 12:11 PM PST - 14 comments

How-to locate cited "Unreported Cases" (Canada)?

I am browsing cases in Canada, and noticed several cited "Unreported" cases. The "Unreported" have a year, last name and the general offense. No results when I try to search for them on canlii.org. The provincial court has told me they can't look it up without a first name. Can anyone advise on how I should proceed with my research?
posted by audio at 11:31 AM PST - 3 comments

Is there a cheap SSD which won't suffer sudden death syndrome?

How do you shop for cheap 2.5 SATA SSD hard drives? I have had them fail suddenly and catastrophically within months. Right now you can get cheap (< $75) 120gb drives branded Sandisk, Kingston, and Mushkin. Is there any difference in terms of failure rates? Is there a particular controller to watch out for? Any other tips?
posted by ennui.bz at 9:42 AM PST - 10 comments

Looking for a bare-bones color scanner

We're looking for a color scanner with minimal extras -- we just want something that will allow us to scan documents and produce a PDF. We do not want a printer (as those often won't allow scanning if the ink runs out), we do not need wireless functionality, we're not going to use it for photos, and we prefer actual buttons to touch screens. Ideally, we'd like both a feeder and a flatbed option, but that's not required. [more inside]
posted by cider at 9:01 AM PST - 6 comments

Travel: Mexico City

I am traveling to Mexico City for two weeks in in mid September, and would love some Mefite Advice on lesser known things to see and do! [more inside]
posted by velebita at 8:55 AM PST - 3 comments

I'm done asking this but.... Hope me with jobs?

The situation that prompted one of my first questions on AskMe is unfortunately still relevant. Logistics have improved, my depression is....eh. I'm 25 now and have been out of undergrad for over a year. This is my resume . Ignore the crappy formatting, but... [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 8:34 AM PST - 11 comments

How to change a light bulb?

How do I get access in order to change this light bulb? This is located in a shower stall. I tried turning the glass covering to the left but that doesn't seem to do anything. And if I try to rotate the outer white part to the left if feels like I'm going to break it.
posted by Ike_Arumba at 8:30 AM PST - 5 comments

So Many Publishing Platforms, So Little Time. Which One(s) to Choose?

Here's a run-down of just a few of the publishing platforms I've heard of recently. Some of them are blog-like and others are book-like. Some are for technical writing and others are more general. I haven't had time to try very many of them, so I'm curious what anybody else might think of them before I jump into using one(s) of them. Are there others like these? What are the differences among them? Vellum Hi Medium woop.ie GitBook LeanPub PressBooks
posted by dylan_k at 8:14 AM PST - 0 comments

Best online or local services for an easier life.

My husband and I live in Houston, TX and both work long hours. In addition, I'm 9 months into a 2.5 year MBA program. Can you recommend your favorite online or local services to increase our quality of life? [more inside]
posted by Shaitan at 7:39 AM PST - 9 comments

Theories of time management for volunteers

How can our organization stop people from feeling simultaneously guilty and oversubscribed? [more inside]
posted by pretentious illiterate at 7:10 AM PST - 12 comments

Do You Work for ODSP? Should I?

Next week I have my final interview for a caseworker position with ODSP (Ontario Disability Support Program). If they want to hire me, I'll have a tough choice to make - and it's even tougher because I don't know anyone who works for the program (or even in similar programs). Can you give me some idea about what it's like to work there, or in similar positions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:22 AM PST - 4 comments

I am in the UK. Recipient is in the US. How to send her Amazon books?

I am in the UK and have a UK amazon account. My recipient is in the US. How should I send her books? The books are available on the US website - can I save money and shipping by having them sent from the US? if so how can I do that from my UK amazon account? Thanks, I fail at googling this!
posted by Mistress at 5:54 AM PST - 10 comments

Advice on purchasing Long Life AA Batteries

Most cheap non-rechargeable AA Batteries (typically from China) go flat very quickly. About 15 years ago, typical batteries seemed to last about 4 times longer (my subjective opinion). I want long lasting batteries, what is a good type, what should I look for, what terminology "alkaline?". Thank you.
posted by happy_sausage at 5:19 AM PST - 13 comments

Reputation of Masters Programmes in Europe

I am saving to go to Europe to do a masters degree. I am interested in International Relations, International Law, Human Rights, and European Affairs (history and institutions of the EU, European Law). I'm Australian but I also have UK dual nationality. I am starting to investigate programmes but am finding it hard to narrow down the options and find the best one for me. My question is: how do I work out which master's programmes have the best/ worst reputation?
posted by EatMyHat at 4:59 AM PST - 11 comments

Cheap laptop needed

I am in desperate need of a new laptop but I don't want to spend much money. I need the laptop for editing PDF documents. [more inside]
posted by mzwz at 4:41 AM PST - 11 comments

Recover Firefox bookmarks from ex-boot drive.

I have a PC with three hard drives running Windows 7. It recently started crashing to BSODs and being unable to reboot (I would press the power button and be presented with a blinking cursor for the next 1000 years) so I ordered recovery discs from ASUS, resigned myself to losing everything on my boot drive, and inserted them into the optical drive. [more inside]
posted by Captain l'escalier at 4:22 AM PST - 2 comments

UK immigration dual citizenship conundrum

Flestrin minimus, a US citizen by birth and also a British citizen by descent by way of being the legitimate son of a British father, is planning to travel to London to visit family and study. He has a valid US pasport and has applied for a British passport, BUT said British passport has not yet arrived (it turns out that allowing 40% longer than the 10 week estimate was not enough extra padding). So, he has a US pasport, a one-way plane ticket and time constraints. How best to proceed? [more inside]
posted by Quinbus Flestrin at 1:32 AM PST - 19 comments

August 29

Deathbed support for 30 year old friend - what can we do?

A dear friend (female, early 30s) is at the end of her battle with cancer. Our circle of close friends is spread out all over the country. We've been sending gifts, visiting, pooling money together for cleaning and dog walking, etc for a year. But we're in the final month or two, she's in pain (just now starting to turn to palliative care) and I'd love some ideas on how we can support her and her husband. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:19 PM PST - 14 comments

Is it worth leaving one job for another for the same pay?

I'm employed now but have been job-searching for a few months. I've finally found a company that I'd like to work for. The disappointing part is, the final offer they've made is for a lower salary than I'd wanted; after crunching the numbers, I would be earning the same as what I earn at my current job, with no title change. Is it a good idea to move to a new employer for equivalent pay, if the only discernable difference between the two is that the new job seems more interesting? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:17 PM PST - 15 comments

Help me pick out the finest mattress pad, pillows, sheets, and blankets

I'm getting a really nice queen-size bed in a few days and I want to outfit it with top-of-the-line, premium pillows, sheets, covers, blankets, and a world-class mattress pad. What's the best that money can buy?
posted by jtothes at 11:12 PM PST - 13 comments

Should I jump start my car immediately? Or can I leave it till tomorrow?

Just went out to the family car to find it has a flat battery. Such a lovely day outside, I really don't feel like jump starting it, and I don't need it today. However, I was speaking to my father (who's overseas, I'm house sitting) and he'd prefer I do it today as car batteries shouldn't be left in an uncharged state as doing so does damage. Is this true? [more inside]
posted by tomargue at 10:17 PM PST - 12 comments

Eyeing a career change from Engineering: Am I being reckless?

I recently graduated and I've been working as a Jr. Engineer for a few months now. I realize now that this is not a career/field I want to be in and have been strongly thinking about going back to school to get a Computer Science degree. The problem is that I have 35k in loans from my previous degree and I need to make a decision soon. Am I being reckless for wanting to do a career change so soon? [more inside]
posted by This Is Reality at 9:19 PM PST - 16 comments

Looking for an old non-fiction article about blindness.

There have been a few punctuated instances in health. I'm struggling to find a non-fiction article about when [I think] cataracts suddenly became curable and the experiences of those that had newfound eyesight. [more inside]
posted by vapidave at 9:06 PM PST - 2 comments

What film clip is in this music video?

In the music video for Camera Obscura's song "Lloyd, I'm Ready to Be Heartbroken", a film clip is shown from about 2:01 to 2:25. What film is it from? [more inside]
posted by Quilford at 8:41 PM PST - 2 comments

My breathing is better. But OMG! My feet are swollen!

I moved to Seattle a few weeks ago, since then I've had difficulties with swollen feet and ankles. It's a little worrying. Should I be worried? [more inside]
posted by patheral at 8:20 PM PST - 16 comments

Roman Statue called La Rustique in the 16th century?

I'm reading the travel writings of Nicolas de Nicolay and... [more inside]
posted by BWA at 8:15 PM PST - 4 comments

Bug Report

Entomology request about pint sized long lived termites - images inside [more inside]
posted by ptm at 7:28 PM PST - 2 comments

I had a semi/car accident recently. Who would be at fault?

I'm in a tricky situation with a car accident. [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 at 7:16 PM PST - 17 comments

Thinking about others until it's inconvenient

Help me form a strategy for reaching out to people I have met and want to know better. I need a new one to help me search for work, but I have difficulty working with specific sorts of strategies for general sorts of problems, so I'd like to avoid making it about job hunting exactly. More about how to think of people in a way that accounts for my own interests while still thinking of them and not myself. [more inside]
posted by LogicalDash at 6:21 PM PST - 4 comments

two weeks notice and a bit of retaliation. what is my last day????

i previously posted this ask and i'm happy to say that i'm moving on to bigger and better things. now that the timeline is in place, i'm seeing some blowback from management. what are my options to get out with bridges still intact and bad blood unspilled? [more inside]
posted by ps_im_awesome at 5:58 PM PST - 17 comments

Fix my ashy feet?

Along with ashy elbows and knees, I appear to have inherited my mother's ashy, hobbity feet. They are tough, dry, and often flakey or cracked at the heels. What products or routines can I try to make my feet softer and more attractive? [more inside]
posted by TwoStride at 5:41 PM PST - 30 comments

Trying to source a quote about justice

Trying to source a quote - my father always told me something like, "If the innocent don't stand up for their rights the job is left to the guilty" or something like that. Who was he paraphrasing? [more inside]
posted by Baby_Balrog at 5:38 PM PST - 5 comments

Figuring out what "System Data" is and how to reduce it on Android 4.0.4

How do I figure out what "system data" is in my system memory and how do I reduce the size for android 4.0.4? [more inside]
posted by mr.coffee at 5:17 PM PST - 3 comments

Looking for some best of NYC food

We are planning a trip to NYC in November and looking for some specific 'best of' food recommendations... [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 5:11 PM PST - 28 comments

Evil, Sexy Tango

Three of my favorite songs share a similar sort of vibe, a vibe that I tend to think of as sort of tango-like, but with a sort of snarling, sinister edge. I'd like to find more stuff like this so that I could make a mix tape in this vein. [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 4:57 PM PST - 17 comments

Bzzzzzzzzzzzzz

I need to replace a bunch of two-prong outlets with three-prong outlets and I have a few questions. [more inside]
posted by griphus at 3:45 PM PST - 20 comments

Looking for ways to connect with other kids remotely as a caring friend

My friend just passed away due to heart attack, leaving 7 years old twins with their Dad. We have a lot of caring friends who want to help their family. The family have plenty of money, toys, dress, ect. So we are looking for ways to love them. We all live in different parts of America. [more inside]
posted by akomom at 3:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Tell me about the danger zone

So I got a Rotisserie chicken from Costco at lunch today. It was hot then, but traffic was bad so it got home around 1. I didn't feel like eating right away so I stuck it as is in the fridge. Just got hungry around 3 and ate some, but I was surprised the inside was still warm. I temped it and it was 80 or so still in the middle. So it was probably in the "danger zone" for at least 3 hours and wasn't even getting close to 40 degrees. [more inside]
posted by tigeri at 3:11 PM PST - 14 comments

New eyeglasses help - Act 2

This is a follow-up to a question I asked two weeks ago. There's still no resolution - replacement eyeglasses are just as bad. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 3:07 PM PST - 17 comments

Epidural steroids for herniated lumbar disc + sciatica?

YANMD, yes. The more I investigate this, the more I can't seem to get a straight answer. [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 3:03 PM PST - 20 comments

Does a planner for two weeks at a time exist? With a To Do list?

I want a two-week planner. Not a weekly planner. Not a monthly planner. I want to know what I need to do and plan for two weeks at a time. And I want enough room to add a to-do list. [more inside]
posted by HeyAllie at 2:14 PM PST - 5 comments

I want to look better -- not younger

Is there a home hair dye that won't cover my gray? [more inside]
posted by 1066 at 2:07 PM PST - 9 comments

Topamax prescribed specifically as a weight loss aid?

Recently, I was my PCP and inquired about appetite suppressants. (I had taken adipex many years ago, which was great) and she informed me that she did not prescribe Adipex due to the possible cardiac side effects - but that she was prescribing Topamax as a weight loss aid due to the side effect of the medication being loss of appetite. She said it works quite well for a large majority of her patients, but not everyone. Has anyone here been prescribed Topamax specifically for this reason? If so, how well did it work and would you recommend it?
posted by Sara_NOT_Sarah at 1:05 PM PST - 22 comments

Must automate, ASAP.

Dear Metafilter, I need to automate some tasks at work, and I'd like to make it happen quickly. [more inside]
posted by schooley at 1:01 PM PST - 14 comments

Long Term International Health Insurance for Preexisting Conditions?

I broke my back a few years ago and suffer from mild paralysis. I found a great job overseas (in Israel) but now I need to find a health insurance plan that covers my pre-existing condition. [more inside]
posted by arcederberg at 12:51 PM PST - 4 comments

This Is Not My Forte - website building edition.

About 7 years ago, I created a website for my small business using Current Webhosting Company's WYSIWYG editor. Current Company has not really kept up with advances in website technology (i.e., no responsive design options, difficult to create a mobile site, clumsy blogging, etc). But I've worked hard on my site and I'm generally proud of it. Should I cut my losses and start all over again? Or can this website be saved... and how??? [more inside]
posted by JubileeRubaloo at 12:43 PM PST - 5 comments

Treez 'n' Cheez?

The co-op I work at is making a new VEGAN flavor of pizza. It's got broccoli, mushrooms, red onions and nutritional yeast based "cheese". Help, we need a cool name!
posted by a humble nudibranch at 12:37 PM PST - 38 comments

How to remove a superglued security base from my tablet?

I was given a tablet demo unit from my workplace because we no longer sell this model. It's functional and great, but still has the old security base attached. It's a circular nub about 1" thick that fits into the cradle of the demo pedestal, and has wires coming off both ends of the nub. I can cut off the wires, but the nub is superglued onto the back of the device. What's the best way to remove it? Photos within. [more inside]
posted by wintersonata9 at 12:35 PM PST - 8 comments

Employee Performance Evaluation Software

I am looking for recommendations for simple software to assist our managers with doing their employee performance evaluations efficiently and timely. Our small company has about 20 employees, and we have previously used paper evaluations but would like to move toward software for this. I would like something where the manager selects a rating for a particular category, and the software auto-fills in some generic description text that the manager can then alter. Then the form can be exported to PDF. Integrated self-evaluations would be nice, but not necessary. [more inside]
posted by rhapsodie at 12:33 PM PST - 8 comments

How liable am I for somebody else's crash?

This is hypothetical. I have allowed somebody to drive my car (in British Columbia, Canada) who I know does not have valid driver's license. She has a crash in which somebody else is badly hurt. She (the uninsured driver) does not have the money to pay the damages. How liable am I for these damages, and will my ICBC insurance cover them? If my insurance doesn't cover these damages and they are extreme, are all my assets endangered? (ie: worst case scenario, could I lose my home?)
posted by philip-random at 12:17 PM PST - 11 comments

co2 adapter for Cuisinart carbonator

Anyone have experience with co2doctor.com products? [more inside]
posted by outfielder at 11:15 AM PST - 1 comment

Help me prevent parental visit from turning into an apocalyptic event

Emotionally abusive parents are coming to visit. Difficulty level: boyfriend introduction. How do I deal with the fallout? [more inside]
posted by phoenix_rising at 9:37 AM PST - 67 comments

Should I or should I not ? (date someone while not over someone else)

I am a man. I had an emotional affair with a friend - let’s call him James - whom I was very much in (unrequited) love with, and recently decided to "break up”. The long story is here. Then I decided to start dating and recently met this person, let’s call him Fred, whom I like very much. The problem is that I am absolutely not over James, and we’ve even managed to re-establish contact, still very guarded at this point, although we have not yet met. So I find myself in a quandary and wondering whether it’s fair to start something with Fred when my heart is really with James. I mean, I like Fred very much and could ever grow to love him. But I fear I may be just using them as a convenient toy while waiting for a James moment that will never come. And Fred is a nice enough person that I don’t want to play with him. But then, I also need company and intimacy and I like having him around and he seems to feel the same about me, and is prepared to wait for as long as it takes for me to be truly over James. [more inside]
posted by Kwadeng at 9:35 AM PST - 27 comments

Post-Sunday-wedding bar in Berkeley

What's a cool bar in Berkeley that a wedding crowd can go to after we get kicked out of the reception venue at 10:30pm this Sunday? [more inside]
posted by lovableiago at 9:13 AM PST - 9 comments

What to write (and if to write) in a thank-you note . . .

for an interview for a position that you are not sure that you want? [more inside]
posted by thesnowyslaps at 9:11 AM PST - 7 comments

Preschooler sensitive about laughing

My almost-3-year-old is cute and delightful in all the typical ways. So, people smile and laugh when she says or does cute things. So what's the problem? The laughter makes her cry. [more inside]
posted by barnoley at 9:00 AM PST - 32 comments

How to resize a photo without compressing image?

Trying to resize two photos without compressing them so much that they are unviewable. [more inside]
posted by mlis at 8:56 AM PST - 10 comments

Clean personal info off work computer while leaving apps behind?

I got a new job (cool!) but have to turn in my MacBook Air from old job (oh well). Since I also used as my primary laptop for personal stuff, like banking and Facebook, it also has a ton of personal data on it. (I plan to buy my own laptop for next job. And no, I did not look at naughty stuff on it -- I do have a tablet.) The company wants the programs already installed left on the computer, which is reasonable -- so leave Photoshop and Word installed -- but I want to clear off any personal data. Is there a good way to scrub an Apple computer while leaving programs behind? Right now you could go to Twitter on my browser and log into my personal account without a problem. (I realize I can just Clear History on browsers, but also looking for deeper scrub, such as WiFi passwords and stuff on keychains).
posted by Peemster at 8:54 AM PST - 12 comments

It may be small but it packs a punch.

I was doing some reading about plutonium and realized that I have a desire to own a thing that's surprisingly heavy when picked up. Deceivingly so. Heavy enough to make people exclaim at the weight of my small object. Bonus points if it's not (too) poisonous or (very) radioactive. I know Au and Pb are pretty heavy, but can I beat that? What's the very densest thing I can (legally) afford to acquire in sufficient volume to keep on my desk and fidget with?
posted by TheNewWazoo at 8:49 AM PST - 31 comments

So I bought a time machine … well it looks more like a plane ticket!

I’m going to be in Greece for around two weeks in mid-September, and am hoping for some advice in how to best immerse myself in Classical and Hellenistic history and art – as well as the practicalities and logistics of the present day! [more inside]
posted by an opinicus at 8:46 AM PST - 5 comments

The lady pal and I are looking for a mini-vacation in LA. Help!

My girlfriend and I have lived, pool-less, in LA for about 3 years now. We decided that we'd take a little mini-vacation this weekend and check out some part of the city we'd never seen. Unfortunately, its labor day and our attempts to low-ball Priceline aren't bearing fruit. More inside! [more inside]
posted by GilloD at 8:42 AM PST - 8 comments

Neighbor is mentally ill and getting worse

I have a neighbor who is mentally ill and his condition is not improving. He leaves trash on our street and parks his car in front of my house with his trash inside. His house is unfit to live in and I don't know what we can do to help. I'm afraid to approach him 'cause it's progressed to him barking and talking to himself. We live in suburbia and I need resources that can help him.
posted by InterestedInKnowing at 8:11 AM PST - 19 comments

Looking for sources on the history of the New York Times

I'm currently working on a project that involves figuring out the editorial policy of the New York times historically (specifically in the first 50 years or so of its existance as a newspaper). Any thoughts on where to start? [more inside]
posted by rainbowbrite at 8:10 AM PST - 6 comments

A short, short-waisted lady needs some loose-fitting jeans

What are your favorite loose-fitting jeans for fall? Bonus details about my body type inside. [more inside]
posted by Zosia Blue at 7:55 AM PST - 10 comments

How do OpenTable dining certificates work?

I have quite a few points accumulated in my OpenTable account, enough to redeem for a good sized gift certificate. However, I don't want to use one if the restaurant essentially gets stiffed on the amount of the certificate. [more inside]
posted by something something at 7:51 AM PST - 7 comments

What is the official word for this medical thing?

So, what do medical professionals call those bars around the bed so patients don't roll out? [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 7:41 AM PST - 6 comments

Online Drawing Courses.

I want to learn to draw. I'm middle aged with little (but some) time on his hands, and I want to learn to draw. I've started going to a local art circle, and this has demonstrations and live drawing, and that's great. However - I'm also looking for online drawing courses to give me a grounding in basic techniques and to force me to practice. I don't mind paying if it's worth it. Any recommendations for online courses I can take; websites I can go to and books I can read.
posted by zoo at 7:39 AM PST - 8 comments

Should I seek a different therapist?

I'm going through the worst depression I've ever had, and I've started seeing a therapist (along with meds), but a few things she has said irk me. When do you look for someone else? Juicy details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:28 AM PST - 24 comments

Inheritance & income tax confusion

My brother had access to my late grandmother’s banking accounts. She passed away two years ago. My mother mentioned several months ago that there was still some outstanding money to be distributed to beneficiaries from the estate. Around $5k had been reserved in case there were any outstanding fees or taxes to pay. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:27 AM PST - 2 comments

Can anyone identify this heavily bearded fish species?

Can anyone identify this heavily bearded fish species?
posted by Blackwatch at 7:05 AM PST - 3 comments

Simple and accessible IM app so I can stay in touch with my wife?

I'm looking for an iOS messaging app that is specifically aimed at the visually impaired or senior citizen, but am having trouble locating them in the App Store. Any suggestions? (snowflakes inside) [more inside]
posted by Mogur at 6:24 AM PST - 5 comments

"La Grande Illusion": What is that chin strap contraption?

Can someone shed some light on what that chin strap contraption worn by "Captaine von Rauffenstein" (Erich von Stroheim) in Renoir's "La Grande Illusion" is? A fashion accessory? Or rather a medical prosthetic of some sort? Am baffled.
posted by oxidizer at 6:05 AM PST - 5 comments

I want to search Wikipedia for a list of people alive over 90 years old

I want to use the massive wikipedia database to look for people alive in a given profession that match a certain criteria such as age or their alma mater. [more inside]
posted by RapcityinBlue at 5:57 AM PST - 4 comments

U.S. to Finland mailing times (in your experience)?

Have you sent mail to Finland from the U.S. with Priority Mail International? Has that ever taken longer than 10 business days? (No customs value involved, in my case - just a standard flat envelope of papers with no value.) [more inside]
posted by kalapierson at 3:56 AM PST - 6 comments

Font substitution, Google web fonts edition

I'm looking for the closest approximation to Franklin Gothic Book in Google Docs. I'm not a typographer and the choice is rather overwhelming. [more inside]
posted by srednivashtar at 3:38 AM PST - 4 comments

Facebook nearby friends updating

I have been trying to figure out how often facebook's nearby friends option updates location, but I'm not having any luck. [more inside]
posted by dpx.mfx at 2:52 AM PST - 0 comments

Hair and skin issues

I've always followed the same, for want of a better word, 'beauty' regimen and until now there have been no issues. But now suddenly, I am experiencing many appearance-related issues and having to rethink decades-old methods. My problems are with my hair and skin. Is this a thirties thing? I could do with some advice on how to look decent again, as well as some help dealing with the emotional repercussions of suddenly looking terrible all the time. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 2:49 AM PST - 19 comments

What is the name of this verbal beat in "Anaconda"?

Say he don't like 'em boney, he wants something he can grab So I pulled up in the Jag, and I hit him with a jab like Dun da da dun dun dun dun dun dun [more inside]
posted by moonlight on vermont at 12:49 AM PST - 7 comments

August 28

How do I do custom cabinets/wardrobes?

Where to look, what's a good price, what price is too much of a bargain to get a nice product, are there any tricks to the process? (And if we can get what we want ordering stock items that's great too) [more inside]
posted by Anwan at 11:58 PM PST - 4 comments

I would like the hive's insights on 'going too fast' in a relationship.

I met a chap in July, and am now entirely done with dating unless widowed early. I would probably benefit from advice on relationships that go through the usual relationship stages at a rapid pace. With kid in tow. Assume 'don't do that' is not going to happen. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:39 PM PST - 19 comments

Explain this whole "practice interview" thing to me.

If I'm interviewing with companies just for my own benefit -- to practice interviewing, to learn more about what kinds of compensation I might command, even to see what kinds of jobs are out there that might be a good fit for me -- and know early on that I'm not interested in ACTUALLY working for the company, how far into the process can I get without being a total jerk? [more inside]
posted by StockingMarionette at 10:27 PM PST - 19 comments

Surviving a 6-month camping trip

My boyfriend and I are going to be living out of this car for six months while we drive around Australia. Is there anything we should know to keep us safe, sane and well-fed? [more inside]
posted by roshy at 8:13 PM PST - 26 comments

How does one document emotional and verbal abuse?

I am trying to get an idea of how to document emotional abuse. My sister is in an abusive relationship and I am of the opinion that separation is not the worst idea. I am at my wit's end trying to figure out what to do to help my sister. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:13 PM PST - 8 comments

This puppy has everything she needs, except a name.

We just adopted this 8 month old female Pekingese from a shelter in the midwest. We started out working through Buffy-verse names, and got excited about Fred, which we long-formed first to Winifred, then decided that sounded like a middle name and tried to think of a very generic first name, like Lady. We ended up with Lady Winifred and we call her Fred, but the grandparents object, and we're open to choosing something different, since we chose it before meeting her. [more inside]
posted by kevin is... at 8:11 PM PST - 37 comments

audiobooks or podcasts for my 8 year old daughter

As an incentive to get out the door and on the way to school, I'm trying to put together some fun audiobooks or podcasts that my 8 year old daughter would enjoy listening to as we drive together. She loves all things Star Wars, but I'd be open to other things as well. I've spent time perusing audiobook and podcast options, but I'm not having a lot of luck (and the audiobooks can be kind of pricey). Thanks for any suggestions you might have.
posted by SpacemanStix at 6:58 PM PST - 19 comments

If she's a little jealous, that means she cares. DM me ;) xo - What the?

Several different Twitter users with accounts showing female faces have followed me on my Twitter account with the same line - so, what's this about? [more inside]
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome at 6:34 PM PST - 12 comments

Name that song played during a Patriots Foundation halftime blurb.

What is this song I heard in the background of the Kraft / Patriots Charitable Foundation presentation at halftime during the 8/28/14 exhibition game vs. the Giants? Lousy GarageBand interpretation of the main riff/loop attached. http://www.watzatsong.com/en/name-that-tune/411466.html [more inside]
posted by Seeking Direction at 6:21 PM PST - 0 comments

The dream: An alarm clock that helps me sleep

Can anyone, preferably someone who's struggled with insomnia, recommend an alarm clock? Some details inside. [more inside]
posted by Milau at 5:50 PM PST - 9 comments

TV/Movie Identification

I have a vague memory of a character in a TV show or movie trying to guess a password that he forgot. The only hint he has is that the password is "something I like". The answer was something simple and stupid, like "candy". I can't remember where I saw this and it's going to drive me nuts. [more inside]
posted by sbutler at 5:36 PM PST - 2 comments

Any Other Bike Wimps Out There?

So, I know that MeFi bikers are strong and fearless and use their gears and believe in bike commuting. But my particular commute is very long and not all that safe for biking, so instead I have used my beautiful Trek to ride to the train or bus park and ride. Which is fine, except that the longer ride, to the train, is killing me due to two monster hills. So, I'm really getting interested in an electric bike, and I am thinking specifically about this one or this one. Can the hive mind opine on what it is like to own an electric bike and whether I am making good choices? I'm actually OK with spending a few thousand because it is still cost effective. Other pertinent info is that I am a petite woman and my commute to the train is often going to be wet/dark.
posted by bearwife at 5:22 PM PST - 25 comments

Do I eat or water this bunch of "organic produce"?

A friend left a huge bag of produce from the farmers market on my doorstep, but I have no idea what this is. Do you? [more inside]
posted by Room 641-A at 5:17 PM PST - 13 comments

Ring it Loud

I'm looking to purchase a medium sized bell or large tingsha for a personal ceremony on Sunday morning. I don't have time for online orders, and need to buy it in downtown Toronto. What store in T.O. sells bells?
posted by In The Annex at 5:16 PM PST - 2 comments

Constitutional Law and Higher Education

I am currently interested in a legal counsel position at a large state university. While I am qualified for many aspects of the job, my one weakness is a requirement of having a good working knowledge of current Constitutional law and how it currently is applicable to higher education and similar institutions. I am looking for any good online (preferred) or even recently published resources that will provide that thorough knowledge that I seek. Can you help me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:16 PM PST - 6 comments

Row with me...and ID this Italian folk song

This week I have an Italian folk song I am trying to ID. The name of it in my book is "row with me" (和我划船) and the book offers no other clue besides that it's an Italian folk tune. As usual, Google, Baidu and Musipedia are of no help. Here is a YT link (the song begins at 0:06). Mille grazie!
posted by ditto75 at 3:32 PM PST - 3 comments

Buying non-movie posters and prints in NYC

I want to buy four or five interesting posters to fill up my blank walls in my new place and make it feel like 'mine'. I'd prefer to pick them out in person, rather than buying online. I'm especially interested in 20th century art (particularly abstract or semi-abstract), nature or urban photography, vintage maps and prints, and almost anything art deco or art nouveau. I'm also open to serendipitous discoveries that don't fit any of the above. Is there a place in New York that stocks a wide breadth of such things? [more inside]
posted by une_heure_pleine at 3:26 PM PST - 10 comments

Wrong Number. No, really.

I accidentally called a former colleague who's now working for the competition. She has since tried to call me several times and I think she might have interpreted my call as me showing an interest in coming to work for her. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:09 PM PST - 20 comments

Maybe dentist filter?

You are not my doctor, I know, I know. I'm trying to decide 1) which doctor to see, if I go see one and 2) to what degree to panic. There's a spot on my left face that's tender to pressure. My teeth feel it when I touch this spot. Should I go see a dentist? Or should I go see a nose doctor? [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 3:01 PM PST - 18 comments

History of the USA ..but in an interesting way

I am looking to read up on the history of USA and need book recommendations [more inside]
posted by jellyjam at 2:15 PM PST - 23 comments

Gas, oil, electric? Which new furnace to get in Seattle

I live in a 1911 Craftsman in Seattle. The heating situation is... pretty weird. (See the "more inside".) My 42-year-old oil furnace still works like a champ, but the oil company folks say they won't service it any more and it has to be replaced. I have been searching and searching to try to figure out the best way to deal with this before it gets cold out, but I am not finding what I need. Should I change my heating method and can people recommend whom I might call for this? [more inside]
posted by litlnemo at 1:55 PM PST - 20 comments

If you really love me, then let's make a vow

Help me find a (Soundcloud?) mix that samples the opening lines of "Me and You and Everyone We Know". [more inside]
posted by gwint at 1:26 PM PST - 1 comment

How to challenge illegal debt credit entries effectively?

I have some bad credit where the debts themselves are invalid and illegal. What is the process I need to go through to get this stuff permanently removed from my credit report? [more inside]
posted by corb at 1:06 PM PST - 13 comments

Kid-friendly music discovery?

Our 9yo has (finally!) shown interest in searching for and listening to his own music on his iPod. Any suggestions for the easiest way he can do this where the music is either free to stream, or we can place limits on how much he purchases/downloads? [more inside]
posted by ericbop at 12:49 PM PST - 12 comments

Can an artist sell works showing buildings with logos on them?

Can an artist sell works showing buildings? How about buildings with logos on them? [more inside]
posted by bristolcat at 12:39 PM PST - 10 comments

What should I do and see during my European vacation?

A follow-up to this question: now that we've decided which European cities we're visiting, what should we do when we're there? [more inside]
posted by The Card Cheat at 12:30 PM PST - 18 comments

prague + budapest: oct/nov/dec?

I'm planning a trip to Prague and Budapest in the fourth quarter of this year, and would love to hear your suggestions on which time would be best! [more inside]
posted by swimmingly at 12:16 PM PST - 4 comments

Copyright Troll Legal Notice

FML Today I received a notice of "Unauthorized Use of Copyrighted Image" regarding a 7 year old blog post on my tiny, personal, completely not-for-profit website that only about 5 people ever read (that I had incidentally purged just 2 months ago) from a probable copyright troll (Sanders Law, PLLC). It isn't even signed by an actual lawyer, it's signed by a paralegal. I know YANAL, but I have no idea what to do or who I can turn to. [more inside]
posted by evilcupcakes at 11:42 AM PST - 29 comments

Car Insurance Question: Hit and Run

My husband's car were totaled in a hit-and-run this past Saturday. The car was parked on the street, and a drunk driver plowed into it in the middle of the night. [more inside]
posted by nanook at 10:39 AM PST - 9 comments

Home CCTV options?

I've been toying with the idea of getting some sort of CCTV or IPCCTV to keep track of what's going on around my house. Do you have CCTV? What should I be thinking about? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 10:36 AM PST - 6 comments

Mamma needs a new bag!

Help me find a new backpack for my new job! Difficulty level: I am one picky bitch. [more inside]
posted by youcancallmeal at 10:25 AM PST - 39 comments

Best team project management, cost and time tracking system?

I'm looking for a team project tracking system (who isn't?). I have a team of technical people who work on projects and a team of sales people who are responsible for billing for the projects when they are complete. We are outgrowing our home grown system and are looking for something that allows the following: [more inside]
posted by bottlebrushtree at 10:01 AM PST - 7 comments

Sandbox or social studies?

I am looking for some advice on where to send my almost 4 year old daughter for preschool. [more inside]
posted by sacrifix at 9:58 AM PST - 24 comments

Resources for living and/or parenting with ADHD

Can you recommend books or other resources to help me live and parent with ADHD? [more inside]
posted by sutel at 9:24 AM PST - 6 comments

Water heater pilot won't turn on

Pilot light of one of the two water heaters installed side by side won't come on .... [more inside]
posted by SunPower at 8:34 AM PST - 3 comments

21 Year Old Hipster Dance Bangers

I'm DJ'ing a dance night at a rock club coming up soon that will be attended by 21 year old hipster types. What are some newer (within the last year) awesome dance bangers I can play to impress them? Genre unimportant but I want to avoid anything USA top 40 pop or too techno-y. Bonus points for non American music.
posted by josher71 at 8:03 AM PST - 34 comments

North London park and ride

Looking for a rail or underground park and ride station on the north side of London -- ideally near the M25. Difficuty: one where parking spaces are likely to be available in the middle of the day on a weekday.
posted by penguinicity at 6:23 AM PST - 7 comments

OntarioFilter: Driving Barrie to Ottawa. Which route?

We are going to drive from Barrie, Ontario to Ottawa this upcoming weekend. Google Maps recommends driving via Toronto / the 401, but I'm wondering: would it be worthwhile taking Highway 7? [more inside]
posted by TangoCharlie at 6:17 AM PST - 15 comments

Personal Productivity

Has anyone read any good books that have actually helped them get more done on a daily basis? I am procrastinating with many things that I need to do and the procrastination doesn't occur by doing nothing but rather by doing low priority tasks, or thinking, or even reading. If anyone has a system that they have used to be more productive, please share.
posted by nidora at 5:49 AM PST - 33 comments

Give me confidence! Or some semblance of it.

I have a self deprecating sense of humour and I've come to realise that I can take it too far. I can sometimes play dumb and it gives the impression that I don't know what I'm doing/talking about. But at this point in my life/career, I do!! (in certain areas, I think). Help me change my wiring. [more inside]
posted by scuza at 5:32 AM PST - 17 comments

Folk Rug/Blanket - Need Help With ID

This is a rug/blanket that's been hand-woven - [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 4:44 AM PST - 3 comments

Is it okay to bail on a work team-building activity?

I feel like I need to skip two work team-building activities that are centered around guns and shooting because the idea makes me uncomfortable... [more inside]
posted by waywardgirl at 4:04 AM PST - 37 comments

What alternatives are there to the GORUCK GR1 Field Pocket?

The GORUCK GR1 Field Pocket seems a great way to store a mirrorless camera and additional lens in an existing bag in a compact and secure way (as demonstrated in this blog post by Ben Brooks) – but I need to find an alternative. [more inside]
posted by Richard Holden at 3:43 AM PST - 7 comments

How does one ask for time to consider a job offer?

Asking for a friend... If you receive a job offer over the phone and want some additional time to consider the offer, what do you say? [more inside]
posted by Alice Russel-Wallace at 3:19 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me find the song in "Oblivion Sky Tower Exclusive Featurette"

Can anyone help me find the song that plays from 0s to 30s and 1m30s to 2m10s in the aforelinked Oblivion video? I wasn't able to find it in the soundtrack.
posted by anon_for_this at 1:59 AM PST - 3 comments

Chromecast website compatibility in ios's Chrome?

In July, Google updated Chrome on ios to allow Chromecast compatibility with some mobile websites. I'm yet to find such a website and was just wondering if anyone else has? [more inside]
posted by feelinglistless at 1:06 AM PST - 3 comments

August 27

Where to dine in SF Chinatown?

Four people need a satisfying meal in San Francisco Chinatown this Saturday evening -- where to go? [more inside]
posted by Rash at 11:33 PM PST - 9 comments

Inversion of "Cogito ergo sum"?

I'm reaching for a phrase for a short science fiction piece I'm working on. I'd like to know what a Classical-Latin-speaking character would say if they wanted to articulate a particular concept analogous to "I think therefore I am", but expressing instead a monstrous moral conclusion they've reached along the lines of I think therefore none may be / shall be. [more inside]
posted by churl at 11:22 PM PST - 8 comments

OK, Max level bitchiness reached. How to deal with it?

I'm dealing with varying levels of resentment and bitchiness from people over my husband's job - the fact that to outsiders it seems glamorous/high status, and is well paid enough so I don't HAVE to work. It's getting me down because we move around all the time for his job so I don't really have a support network, just 'friends' who make sly nasty comments in emails/on my FB wall about my life. Any tips on dealing with the emotional/practical aspects of this welcome. [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday at 11:18 PM PST - 41 comments

hot plate for moka pot?

I've grown very attached to the coffee that comes out of my moka pot/ bialetti pot every.single.morning for the last two years, to the point where I am planning on taking it with me on all of my travels this year. Please recommend a mini hot plate that I can purchase in Canada, to use with the moka pot. [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 9:54 PM PST - 5 comments

Get my eBay bike from Brownsville, TX to Phoenix!

There's a bike that I want to buy from a pawn shop on eBay for local pickup only. It's a screaming good deal, of the exact size and frame that I have been looking for. Obviously, living in Phoenix, I can't pick it up, and the pawn shop won't ship it. Any ideas (hopefully from a Brownsville native)? [more inside]
posted by john the fourth at 8:23 PM PST - 7 comments

Cool Doors Throughout the U.S. Where Are They?

I am doing a creative book project entitled "36 Doors" The book involves doing 36 yoga poses in various and not necessarily famous doorways in the U.S. There are obvious spots (Jefferson Memorial, churches, etc.) along with more unexpected spots (Alice Water's Chez Panisse for examples) Any recommendations would be appreciated.
posted by goalyeehah at 7:39 PM PST - 22 comments

Help identify this 30+ year old obscure song

I've only heard the song twice in my life. The second time I managed to slam a cassette tape into a tape recorder, capturing the 2nd half of the song. That was thirty years ago. Haven't figured it out since. [more inside]
posted by Hanzo at 7:34 PM PST - 16 comments

Emotional and irrational responses to arguments - can I have both?

I have a very strong physical response to conflict and will tend to start crying almost immediately when in an argument with my boyfriend. [more inside]
posted by Wantok at 7:19 PM PST - 43 comments

How do I balance after-work activities?

How do I balance after-work activities? [more inside]
posted by joeyjoejoejr at 7:07 PM PST - 9 comments

How can I take advantage of 1 TB cloud storage if I have a 256 GB HD?

I'm a dropbox pro user and they upgraded everyone to 1 TB of storage. I have plenty of stuff I could put in the cloud from external drives, but my laptop's hard drive is only a 256 GB SSD. [more inside]
posted by jModug at 6:55 PM PST - 8 comments

Can I restore my pocket doors? Or does this way lie madness?

The doors were painted white a few years ago. I'd like to restore the original wood. Concerns within. And, um, how do I do it? [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 6:16 PM PST - 18 comments

What's a good video game controller for a toddler?

What's a good video game controller for a toddler? Absolutely required: A reliable way of connecting it to a Windows 7 or 8 laptop. I don't mind using JoyToKey or 3rd-party drivers if necessary. Preferred: Wireless, so it can't be used to pull the laptop off the desk; Durable and/or cheap, in case it gets thrown or dropped; Simple, few inputs. [more inside]
posted by CustooFintel at 6:06 PM PST - 8 comments

San Diego food/sites/music/etc

Tomorrow night is the first night of my 2-month stay in San Diego. Please direct me to the finest tacos in the land. [more inside]
posted by fingers_of_fire at 6:05 PM PST - 14 comments

helping the employee with no confidence

I'm a first-time supervisor with a very hesitant supervisee. She's recently out of grad school with lots of internship experience but no 9-5 actual job experience. She took my position and I was promoted to the supervisory role...and she seems scared all the time! Many of my requests are met with a look of terror and a quivering lip. [more inside]
posted by sandwiches at 5:46 PM PST - 30 comments

Will bits of two different virtual controller sets play nice on an iPad?

Logitech virtual joystick plus Steelseries virtual buttons on an iPad: great idea or stupid idea? [more inside]
posted by Dormant Gorilla at 5:32 PM PST - 3 comments

Trailheads and camping near Wytheville, VA

Me and my dad are going camping this weekend in the Wytheville, VA area. It's a compromise location with which neither of us are familiar. He's driving down, I'm busing up, and we'll be camping 2 nights. Does anyone have a favorite backcountry camping spot around there, maybe by a stream? (details follow) [more inside]
posted by 4th number at 5:24 PM PST - 5 comments

Software Development / QA: Tools and Knowledge Base?

Does your development/software qa department have a knowledge base? What tools/software do you use for knowledge sharing and collaboration? I heard it's good to have a QA Wiki page to document information? Any interesting free software out there for software testers? like to generate test cases? Is your department efficient? Thanks
posted by Mountain28 at 5:11 PM PST - 8 comments

Things to do along PA I-70W/OH I-71S in mid-September?

Asking for a friend: Where should we stop in our travels through western Pennsylvania and in Ohio? Can you provide recommendations on points of interest/eating spots/recreational areas? Are there any interesting fairs or sales happening? [more inside]
posted by MonkeyToes at 5:07 PM PST - 8 comments

Fun activities for two adult piano students with limited time?

My friend and I are two intermediate piano players taking lessons with different teachers. We want to have fun and get better. We thought we would get together every month or so and play duets. This worked for a while but now I'm finding the time I need to prepare beforehand is too much. I'd still like to get together though, so what other piano activities can two pianists do (on one piano) that requires less (or no ) advance prep? Activities that help us become better musicians?
posted by storybored at 5:03 PM PST - 5 comments

Personal Responsibility, My Ass

A close-ish friend and colleague of mine has started to show his true colors in the past few weeks with inflammatory statements on various social issues. I am disgusted, but I want to turn our conversations into learning opportunities. He's just now starting to realize that his beliefs are problematic and he's open to educating himself, but I don't even know where to start. [more inside]
posted by chara at 4:29 PM PST - 21 comments

Chicagofilter: moving quickly for ladies of slender means

So! My best friend and I are moving to Chicago. Our timeline just got moved up a little. How does a sheltered gal navigate this metropolis? [more inside]
posted by dogheart at 4:08 PM PST - 26 comments

How can I achieve my ambitious nonprofit fundraising goal in 60 days?

I have two months to raise $6000 for an educational animal facility in southern Ontario. I need tips on how I can possibly achieve this goal on a crowdsourcing site. I've succeeded at raising $1000 in the past, but that's the limit of my experience with fundraising. My nonprofit is new and we don't yet have an established presence or an established donor base. Should I look for corporate sponsors? If so, what would that meeting look like and who might be sympathetic to my cause? How do I even make the initial approach? [more inside]
posted by quiet earth at 3:42 PM PST - 6 comments

Little Favor for Coworker Is Not So Little

My coworker asked me if I, with my superior computer skillz & home software, could do her a "little" favor. Well. You see where this is going, right? The "little" favor is not so little and I need to either come up with a compromise solution, or figure out how to gather the nerve to tell her I won't do it. [more inside]
posted by mygothlaundry at 3:27 PM PST - 52 comments

where do i find a to-do list app that will plan my time for me?

I am in love with the concept behind the web app Taskk.it, a to-do list/time management tool that schedules your tasks and creates a daily/weekly agenda for you. But it seems to be an abandoned project and is too buggy to use. Please help me find another solution! [more inside]
posted by nevers at 3:05 PM PST - 7 comments

Is this a dorky question I see before me, the handle toward my hand?

Help me think of some short answer but open ended questions that will make people smile and get them to relax in a community-building way. [more inside]
posted by tractorfeed at 2:59 PM PST - 13 comments

Behind the scenes with pop songwriters, beatmakers, etc.

I am fascinated by the world of pop songwriting, and have read some articles about stars like Dr. Luke, Max Martin, Jeff Bhasker and anyone else in today's pop world... Now, where can I see video of them at work? Even if it's just a scene or two from a larger tv show or documentary.
posted by xo at 2:57 PM PST - 7 comments

Portable Cassette Tape Recorder Recommendations

I need to buy a tape recorder to do interviews with people in punk bands. I'd love if it was also loud enough at playback to function as an extremely crummy tape player so I can transcribe the tapes without headphones or listen to cassettes in my room (this magically started working again, but it's only hooked up in my living room). [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 2:17 PM PST - 10 comments

Nutritious baked snacks for my toddler

My 2 and half year-old takes a snack to pre-k every day. I would like to start to make his snacks, in the form of nutritious muffins or breads or brownie-like things into which I can integrate some fruit or vegetables. Help me out with some recipes? [more inside]
posted by CrazyLemonade at 2:05 PM PST - 25 comments

Looking for research on identity concealment and violent behavior

I recently saw a news article/blog post that talked about the effect of identity concealment on violent behavior. It also referenced anthropological research that was done on warfare in primitive tribes to back up its conclusions. Did not bookmark it and now I can't find it. [more inside]
posted by skaffen42 at 1:58 PM PST - 2 comments

Should I go on a date with someone if I don't even want a relationship?

Is this a stupid question? Idk. I just got out of a 5 year relationship in May. I feel moved on from him but I'm still trying to put my life back together. And I don't want a relationship right now, bBut two guys have recently asked me out on dates. Idk what to say! I don't know very much about dating. I am 21. [more inside]
posted by anon1129 at 1:54 PM PST - 15 comments

What's the Consensus on Simple's New TOS?

Since enthusiasm here was what got me interested in Simple banking to begin with, I'm surprised to see no discussion about recent dismaying info-sharing changes to their TOS (which all users must agree to) coming after they partnered with an outfit called CheckFreePay. Are other Simple users sticking with the service? [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 1:40 PM PST - 1 comment

Can I schedule dropbox, drive, box etc to NOT all hog computer time?

For various reason I use several cloud storage services - dropbox, drive, copy, box, etc etc. All are great, all offer sync'ing of my PC (Windows 7) files and directories. I (like many people), sync different folders to different cloud services. BUT, I really don't need them ALL to happen INSTANTLY or SIMULTANEOUSLY. I fear that my PC is grinding to a halt because of these sync'ing services all scanning for file changes at the same time. It can't be good for performance. So ... is there a way to schedule each cloud service to run only at certain times? Or maybe to have one of them always running and others to pop in to have a quick look, and then disappear again for a couple of hours and not hog resources? Ideally I (we) want a "cloud service manager" that would allow users to control many different services and to allocate time slots, resources and priorities, etc.. Does such a thing exist? Thanks in advance.
posted by Xhris at 1:30 PM PST - 8 comments

Which of these two offers on our house should we pursue?

Complicated situation with two competing offers on our house (Missouri, USA). What should we do? [more inside]
posted by slenderloris at 1:28 PM PST - 20 comments

Speaking? Tight throat?

I have a job that requires a lot of taking and making calls throughout the day. I'm not a massively sociable and chatty person, but I've been doing it for a year now and I've become good at it. The only problem is that sometimes my throat feels like it constricts and my voice becomes choked and difficult to speak with/hear. [more inside]
posted by forgetful snow at 1:19 PM PST - 12 comments

How to get over post-lasik anxiety

I have post-lasik regret which is resulting in anxiety. How can I best frame my thoughts and emotions about my results so I can calm down? [more inside]
posted by vivzan at 1:06 PM PST - 19 comments

Looking for a new alarm clock that isn't The Worst

I am looking for a mythological perfect alarm clock that clearly does not exist in this reality. So I'm hoping you folks can help me find one that is as close as possible. This is my current clock which I've been pretty happy with, but the current version appears to be garbage, according to reviews. Requirements inside. [more inside]
posted by JimBJ9 at 12:50 PM PST - 13 comments

What is a good non-mileage based car service schedule?

I own a 2004 Mazda3 5-door. I love my car and love not having car payments and want to keep it running well as long as possible. I get oil changes fairly regularly, but I don't know what other maintenance or inspections I should be getting. [more inside]
posted by misskaz at 12:44 PM PST - 12 comments

Caught in Limbo With Injury - Worker's Comp or Not?

Caught in Limbo With Injury - Worker's Comp or Not? [more inside]
posted by LaurenIpsum at 12:24 PM PST - 7 comments

Karate for linguists: doe a panphonic poem for Norwegian exist?

For the purpose of practicing Norwegian I'd like a poem / set of sentences covering all Allophones. The idea comes from this panphonic poem in the movie Mission Impossible 3. [more inside]
posted by Eltulipan at 12:21 PM PST - 0 comments

Calming the rage beast at work

Work stress has led me to being increasingly short with people. How can I stop this? [more inside]
posted by rebooter at 12:16 PM PST - 17 comments

Construction ruckus - how do I help my cat cope?

My landlord insists that I be out of the house during daytime bathroom renovation. This will terrify my aged, timid house cat. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by falldownpaul at 11:44 AM PST - 56 comments

I am THIS CLOSE to going back to straight hair

For the first time in my life I am trying to rock my natural curls. This is not going well. Please help me make this work. I think I'm doing this all wrong and making dumbass decisions because damn.... [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 10:56 AM PST - 47 comments

Drool, Brittannia

Several of our dog's incisors were starting to come loose, so our vet recommended pulling between 3-5 of them. Today was surgery day, and they ended up pulling 8 teeth! I'm not so much concerned about the aesthetics, but should we be worried about anything in particular with him having lost almost all of his front teeth? [more inside]
posted by tonycpsu at 10:49 AM PST - 11 comments

Advice and information about maintaining the brakes on my Jeep, please.

My 2-wheel drive 2005 Jeep Liberty needs brakes and I need some advice, please. [more inside]
posted by Cookbooks and Chaos at 10:36 AM PST - 10 comments

Looking for a good discussion group on antidepressant treatments

After several years of treatment, with less than optimal results, my psychiatrist and I have agreed to switch me to a new antidepressant. I'm looking for recommendations for well-moderated discussion groups about depression and antidepressant treatments, where people can share their experiences with side effects, etc. with each other. I just want a place where I can get a sense of what to expect, and what's normal/abnormal, when a take a particular drug.
posted by Quiplash at 10:20 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me help my brain.

I am seeking mental health services. I've called my insurance and they've emailed me a list of 400+ covered providers - psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors, LSWs, etc - currently accepting patients. That step has already made me feel a bit better. Could you please help me narrow it down a bit? [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 10:17 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me find this job!

I am a telecommuting web software developer focusing on Java/JEE. I enjoy what I do but feel mostly isolated. Help me find a new gig! [more inside]
posted by toastchee at 10:16 AM PST - 1 comment

What are reasonable expectations of looking after an unwell friend?

I’m having troubles working out if I’m being unreasonable in the below scenario. [more inside]
posted by pennywise_1 at 9:56 AM PST - 50 comments

Best Bible app for iOS

Someone has requested my assistance in finding the best Bible app for iOS. [more inside]
posted by komara at 9:20 AM PST - 10 comments

Dressing for the badass exerciser you want to be

I’ve noticed that wearing workout clothing/gear that makes me feel good, tough, and strong, can actually give me a little extra mental confidence to make me better, tougher, and stronger in my workouts. What kinds of workout clothing and accessories make you feel badass? [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 9:15 AM PST - 19 comments

Help me find political and economic simulation games for 12-16 y.o.

As part of our schools enrichment program, I'd like to do an intro to global politics and economics for 12-16 year old students. As a culminating activity, I'd like to run a few different simulations to give the students a chance to put their new knowledge to work. More snowflake specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by _DB_ at 8:40 AM PST - 8 comments

Watching Satellite Launch from Kourou

Have you watched a space launch from Kourou in French Guiana? Do you have any tips for someone considering a visit? [more inside]
posted by gimonca at 8:26 AM PST - 5 comments

What is the proper pronunciation of the name "Zijad".

What is the proper pronunciation of the name "Zijad".
posted by davebush at 8:25 AM PST - 5 comments

Matching spray paint to paint-paint

Can I find a spray paint that matches Sherwin Williams' "Smoke Tree"? [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 8:22 AM PST - 9 comments

We disagree about futons.

My SO and I are having a good natured but heated argument about futons vs. pull-out beds. Convince one of us that one or the other is a good thing. [more inside]
posted by cmoj at 8:21 AM PST - 60 comments

Computer Repair, New York, Below 14th, Craigslist?

I am helping a non tech person to arrange to have their computer repaired, it has been rendered unusable due to a malware/virus infestation. The owner is an older woman living alone and a bit on the gullible side. [more inside]
posted by flummox at 8:18 AM PST - 8 comments

Give it your best shot, Frosty

I've never had "winter clothes" before and this year I want to actually be warm and have at least a little sanity to how I deal with being outside. Given the circumstances below, does The Green have any advice? [more inside]
posted by fireoyster at 8:10 AM PST - 24 comments

Shower leaking- who you gonna call?

We live in a house that was built in 1927. One of our bathrooms has a tub with a shower head. If we don't close the shower curtain properly, water somehow gets through the floor into the foyer below. [more inside]
posted by Anne Neville at 7:47 AM PST - 15 comments

Best Offline To-Do List for iOS?

I've been trying to Google this but coming up short - what's the best to-do list for iOS with offline access? [more inside]
posted by Bobby Bittman at 7:15 AM PST - 17 comments

Looking for statistics for deaths in videos games broken down by sex.

Everyone knows about the controversy around the exploration of sexism in gaming. I've (foolishly?) waded into the fray, and I am having a really hard time finding any stats regarding what percentage of female characters die violent deaths vs. male characters. I do not want to argue without solid facts. Anyone know if this data exists? Thanks!
posted by Fenriss at 6:40 AM PST - 9 comments

Worried about low estrogen -- what might this mean?

My estrogen level is low and I'm worried. Bunch of details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:28 AM PST - 5 comments

What do you wish you had known or asked before you bought your condo?

We are thinking of buying a condo. We would use it as a rental, so most likely we would never live there. Aside from college, many moons ago, we've always lived in single family homes, so not much experience with renting or apartment life. What are the right questions to ask, or the right things to consider, before making this leap?
posted by vignettist at 6:26 AM PST - 16 comments

Cannot Boot into OS X or Safe Mode

I am running OS X 10.8 on a mid 2007 MBP. Yesterday I noticed my laptop was running very hot, the screen was off and it wasn't responsive to the mouse/keyboard. I manually rebooted, and now I am unable to boot into OS X. [more inside]
posted by prunes at 6:06 AM PST - 6 comments

How can I select or delete ALL messages from a yahoo webmail account?

How can I select or delete ALL messages from a yahoo webmail account? [more inside]
posted by pompomtom at 5:43 AM PST - 7 comments

Where to buy Bodyglide (or similar anti-chafing product) in Ljubljana?

Dober dan! Can you point me towards a store in Ljubljana that sells Bodyglide (or a similar anti-chafing product)? [more inside]
posted by lioness at 3:51 AM PST - 3 comments

Gamify my exercise experience! Difficulty level: stationary bike

So I have achilles tendinopathy as well as problems with my knees and feet which means (long story short) I need non-weight-bearing exercise. I have a recumbent stationary bike which is great for developing strength in knees, is easy on the poor achilles and is generally a good idea. Problem: I loathe doing it because it bores me senseless. Solution, I hope, is to gamify it. [more inside]
posted by Athanassiel at 1:39 AM PST - 21 comments

August 26

Need low maintenance short hairstyles for coarse hair

I am looking for short hairstyles that are super low maintenance AND works with wavy coarse hair on an oval face. I have a weirdly shaped head, so no to going bald. Link to pics please!
posted by jyorraku at 11:47 PM PST - 10 comments

wat in the world is going on with these linkless spam-like tweets?

Weird account #1 Weird account #2 Weird account #3 [more inside]
posted by univac at 11:17 PM PST - 7 comments

What is the healthiest frozen yogurt brand you can recommend?

Preferably plain, preferably low fat, and preferably from Kroger. The yogurt is for an elderly family member, and the plan is to add fresh fruit. For bonus points, any suggestions for a natural fiber supplement to mix in would also be beneficial. I've heard flax seed is used for that purpose, though other/better suggestions would be appreciated. Thanks
posted by Beholder at 11:03 PM PST - 17 comments

How should I approach companies once I have a product sample/proposal?

I came up a product idea and made a sample/prototype but I have no idea how to go next. I know my target store customers but how to I get in touch with them. Is it appropriate to call them (customer service) up and ask who I should talk to? If I do get buyer's contact info, should I contact multiple buyers that are in the same company? Please let me know what you think, thanks!
posted by lanhan at 10:55 PM PST - 5 comments

Overall, Ohio is home to 21,250 manufacturing operations.

Can you explain this odd spam email? It seems to consist of quotes from random Wikipedia articles. [more inside]
posted by lewedswiver at 9:37 PM PST - 8 comments

A non-touristy single day in Sydney

I'm visiting Sydney this weekend for the Festival of Dangerous Ideas and have all of Friday (and a few hours of Saturday) to kill while my friend is working. I'm from Melbourne and have visited Sydney many times and seen all the Sydney landmarks and touristy spots (The Rocks, Darling Harbour, Sydney Tower, Bridge climb etc) before. [more inside]
posted by Zaire at 7:18 PM PST - 9 comments

Is wearing a miniskirt as a cisman appropriative?

I was talking with one of my friends and they brought up that they saw my wearing of miniskirts as inappropriate. I've never considered this, having considered my ability to dress how I want as a part of my liberation from conservative past and binary gendering of clothing. I wear mostly women's clothing simply because they feel comfortable and I have a phenomenal set of dance legs which I enjoy showing off in a myriad of fashions. Am I missing something? Thanks!
posted by burntbook at 7:17 PM PST - 74 comments

Bogus Damage Charges from a Corporate Landlord DC Edition

Several roommates and I moved out of an apartment in DC this summer that is owned by a large corporate company (coughAvalonBaycough). We’d been in the apartment for almost four years. Before we moved out, staff from the building signed off on paperwork stating that there was no visible damage. A month later we get an incredibly bogus set of damage charges from the building for nearly $1,000. We already got our security deposit back, but they’re threatening to send us to collections over these new charges. [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 7:08 PM PST - 9 comments

Office comics related to project management or Completed Staff Work

I've got a presentation to complete and I'm training analysts how to present complete recommendations to management. I'm looking for comics to illustrate some of my points in an entertaining, simple way. [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 6:35 PM PST - 2 comments

Wait, who are you again?

I am awful at recognizing people by appearance, how can I get better at it? [more inside]
posted by cheerwine at 6:25 PM PST - 19 comments

Need soundproofing ideas to keep confidential conversations confidential

The nonprofit that I work with just moved into a new office. The walls between offices do a lousy job of blocking sound - I can hear conversations being held in the next room in a fairly normal tone of voice. Management understands this is a problem but every dollar spent on facilities is less money to care for clients. Need to know what to propose beyond the ubiquitous white noise machines. [more inside]
posted by metahawk at 5:50 PM PST - 11 comments

Screaming kids are my neighbors, and I am at a loss

I'm debating letting my neighbors know that we can really hear their kids screaming, but I'm not sure if I should. Talk me into or out of it. [more inside]
posted by juniperesque at 5:37 PM PST - 39 comments

Awesome Webcomics, take 2

I previously asked for webcomic recommendations. Now I'm back, I've run out of things to read, and I want more. [more inside]
posted by bunderful at 5:34 PM PST - 8 comments

Just the AC cord for a laptop

I need the AC cord for a Toshiba C50B laptop. Not the power supply; not the DC cord. Just the AC cord. [more inside]
posted by Kirth Gerson at 5:06 PM PST - 5 comments

How can I crowdfund a gift?

I want to organize a pool of several hundred people who benefited from one person's efforts to make their days better. Is there something like Kickstarter to help facilitate crowdfunding a gift? [more inside]
posted by quarterframer at 4:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Online resources for branding and logo-design?

I am looking for online resources for logo design and branding that contain the creative briefs, brainstorming notes, sketches, design process, and full style guides for well-known projects. It doesn't have to have ALL these things, but the more it has, the better. Books are welcome too.
posted by omar.a at 4:38 PM PST - 2 comments

Alternatives to Gmail?

I am looking for another free/cheap web mail app that I can use to contact the ten people I normally correspond with. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by craniac at 4:28 PM PST - 13 comments

Exactly how closely is Big Brother watching me at work?

If I'm on my workstation at the office, using Pages through iCloud.com on a web browser, how likely is it that my IT department can see what I'm typing? I'm fairly sure they can see that I'm on iCloud.com using Pages if they look. But can they see the text I'm typing into a Pages document? [more inside]
posted by kythuen at 4:16 PM PST - 10 comments

How to present my tablet app to potential investors online?

I designed an app for tablets that I'd like to present to potential investors. Problem is, I can't make an in-person presentation and I'll have to settle for an online one. How do the professionals usually go about this (videos, images, ...)? [more inside]
posted by cyrusw8 at 4:14 PM PST - 4 comments

Cryptic anti-sex-trafficking billboard sign in DC Metro station

Can anyone explain this sign that I've seen in at least one DC Metro station? [more inside]
posted by early one morning at 4:08 PM PST - 19 comments

Having heart palpitations, should I be worried?

Having prolonged heart palpitations, yes I will see a doctor but what tests should I ask for? I've tried to stay off of Google because it's going to convince me I'm dying of heart failure, but how common is this? Should I be concerned? [more inside]
posted by MaryDellamorte at 3:54 PM PST - 27 comments

Learning to throw pots in the digital age

I lucked into a professional level potter's wheel for a great price this past weekend. While pottery is something I've been interested doing in my whole life, I've never actually used a wheel before. There are plenty of beginner classes and workshops around... but there are also a lot of videos on YouTube. Any reason I shouldn't have a go at it myself and put money towards tools/supplies/a kiln instead of spending it on a class? [more inside]
posted by usonian at 3:51 PM PST - 16 comments

Can lactose intolerance cause leg muscle cramps?

I recently figured out I'm lactose intolerant, and am still figuring out my lactose limits/sometimes forget I don't do well with cheese. Hence, I had two pieces of pizza with cheese yesterday and I've been having some exciting gastrointestinal distress for the past 24 hours. I've also been very tired, have some skin tenderness, and the muscles on the top of my thighs are achy like I stood a lot yesterday (but I did not). Can this be related to lactose intolerance? If the answer is yes, how long should I expect this to last?
posted by c'mon sea legs at 3:33 PM PST - 9 comments

OCRing a non-standard font

I have a dead-tree book that I want to use OCR software on, but it has a strange font. My attempts so far have not been very successful. [more inside]
posted by Solomon at 3:31 PM PST - 4 comments

December-January in Japan

We're going to Japan! From December 25-January 15th, to be precise, and are overwhelmed with the possibilities! Where should we go? [more inside]
posted by telophase at 2:57 PM PST - 12 comments

Usage tracking in digital asset management software?

I'm looking for software that will help track usage of digital assets such as photographs, as well as stories contained within Word documents. For instance, if a photograph is used in a publication, I'm looking for a way to easily document that so that others in my organization can also see a record of this. Does anyone know of any software / workflows that makes this simple and straightforward? Or even the language to describe this to help better guide my search of this software?
posted by perpetualstroll at 2:53 PM PST - 2 comments

Best digital camera for my shakey mom?

My mother needs a new point and shoot digital camera. I need suggestions. Snowflakes inside... [more inside]
posted by Northbysomewhatcrazy at 2:41 PM PST - 4 comments

Everything up-to and possibly including the kitchen sink.

I need a bag--something like a duffel bag--that is VERY big. Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by still bill at 2:08 PM PST - 25 comments

Getting Rid of My Car: What's the easiest way that will make the most?

I inherited my mom's car three years ago, and since then my (old) car has been sitting in my driveway. I would like to get it out of my driveway, and if possible make a little money on it, but want to do it in the least time- or effort-intensive way. [more inside]
posted by odayoday at 2:04 PM PST - 19 comments

Give me your general plan of attack for a sudden spat of depression!

I've found that regular exercise, walks, healthy eating, getting enough sleep, and therapy seem to help get me back to normal, but I'm looking for more concrete actions I can take to be proactive with my mental health, particularly when I'm feeling sad already. Do you have a standard depression-treating routine? [more inside]
posted by Archibald Edmund Binns at 1:26 PM PST - 19 comments

Camping out on a plateau I've built for myself.

As a working artist for shy of a decade, I'm starting to feel like I'm hitting walls most of the time I make, which is making artmaking frustrating. Suggestions for how to rekindle love and patience for the process and start climbing up the next hill? [more inside]
posted by actionpact at 1:12 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me get the most out of my U.S. Open tennis experience!

For the first time ever, I will be attending a pro tennis tournament... and it's the U.S. Open! I am very excited and eager to make the best of my experience. [more inside]
posted by cheapskatebay at 1:07 PM PST - 5 comments

Extraterrestrial Life in Non-Western Thought?

This recent post on the historical debate over extraterrestrial life got me interested in historical thought on the topic in other parts of the world. Can anyone provide some information? [more inside]
posted by Sangermaine at 1:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Car crash bad. Pay money good.

What low-cost auto insurance provider in the US has the best claims service? [more inside]
posted by michaelh at 12:58 PM PST - 8 comments

How can I play Netflix at double speed?

Are there Chrome or Firefox add-ons that allow one to play Netflix content at double/triple speed? Seems unlikely since Netflix utilizes Silverlight and Googling hasn't turned up any useful options, but I figured it was worth checking. Alternately, are there add-ons that allow double/triple speed for streaming video sites other than Youtube?
posted by lizzicide at 12:45 PM PST - 4 comments

mo money, mo decisions

What kind of financial planner do we want? I was referred to a financial planned by someone trusted but he's the kind that takes a percentage of your money each quarter and moves it around. This made me nervous. What options are there? [more inside]
posted by beccaj at 12:36 PM PST - 10 comments

When a group's dynamics get stale -- Give up? Or Rekindle?

About a year ago I joined a group that meets several times a month about spiritual topics. I was warmly welcomed and found great comfort in the group. However now, I am beginning to feel like the group is pretty much the same every meeting. I know Person X will talk about Thing X; Person Y will bring up Anecdote Y; etc. Should I quit? There's a twist... [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 11:46 AM PST - 15 comments

Difficult Job Interview Questions

How do I answer, "What is your greatest failure" in a job interview? [more inside]
posted by Asian_Hunnie at 10:52 AM PST - 17 comments

Where to buy Astra Beer in NYC?

Where can I buy Astra Beer in NYC? I'm sure it's available somewhere, but basic Googling hasn't turned up a specific store that has it. Before I start to make the rounds of all the beer stores in the area, I'd welcome suggestions of specific stores that are known to have it. Danke!
posted by rhythm and booze at 10:39 AM PST - 6 comments

Advice on selling bulk tickets for cultural institutions?

We're a major cultural institution in a big tourist city which would like to find out more about selling tickets in bulk. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by TurkeyMustard at 10:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Is this nighttime dental guard made of safe materials?

I've been using a Dentek dental guard for my nighttime teeth grinding and clenching. My concern is whether it's safe for long-term use. The website says it's made of EVA and EMA, which I'm guessing are ethylene-vinyl acetate and ethyl methyl acrylate. [more inside]
posted by ChuckRamone at 9:47 AM PST - 6 comments

Social Media etiquette for promoting a hobby project

I've been online for a long while, but I'm a novice in social media as a venue for promoting my hobby project. I've dismissed twitter and tumblr as things I don't understand or aren't for me, but I'd like to promote my hobby site and interact with people who like similar things. How do I go about balancing promotion with reception? Tell me about following, re-tweeting and re-tumbling things. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 9:40 AM PST - 11 comments

How do I get rid of this spider?

A small-ish spider (slightly bigger than 1cm in diameter including the legs, I think) has set up home in my living room. [more inside]
posted by AllShoesNoSocks at 9:36 AM PST - 15 comments

I need something to fend off a dog that attacks my dog.

I have 2 dogs which I walk on leashes in my neighbor hood. A house on my block has a huge Rotweiler and he is dog-aggressive. The people are careless and do not properly restrict teh dog to theri property. Twice in the last month the dog (unleashed and untied, no fence in yard) has attacked one of my dogs in the street. [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen at 9:31 AM PST - 30 comments

Raised flooring in a residence?

Has anyone used/encountered raised flooring in a residential situation? I'm referring to the "access floor" style, where the space underneath the floor is substantial and is used for cable layout and the like (ie., I'm not referring to "floating" wood floors). [more inside]
posted by aramaic at 9:15 AM PST - 10 comments

Weird bouncing feelings when walking.

Over the past two days, I have had a "bouncing" feeling when I walk. What's up? [more inside]
posted by Mid at 8:57 AM PST - 13 comments

I want to enjoy Seattle in September

My first half marathon ever is in Seattle area. I'd like my trip to be amazing. Can you work your magic again? [more inside]
posted by Classic Diner at 8:50 AM PST - 8 comments

Another "critique my OkCupid profile!" Please impart your dating wisdom.

I've linked my profile Here. I'm planning on getting better pictures, but welcome any other suggestions. [more inside]
posted by seraph9 at 8:40 AM PST - 26 comments

Is there a Chinese translation scam?

I've been approached via email by someone I don't know describing himself as a Canadian with a Chinese wife who runs this language service center, offering to translate one of my books into Chinese. The offer is unsolicited and it does not specifically mention the title of my book. Is it a scam that I haven't heard about yet? [more inside]
posted by sixpack at 8:00 AM PST - 10 comments

Road Trip From Medford to Reno Via Lassen

We are driving from Medford, OR to Reno, NV with a stop at Lassen Volcanic area in two weeks. I was curious about the roads between these places. [more inside]
posted by bodgy at 6:34 AM PST - 4 comments

Quarter life crisis (work or study or travel?)

I've been having what I suspect is a quarterlife crisis for several months and luckily I've pretty narrowed it down to three options/priorities. However, that's the snag. I can't decide between the three (work, study, travel and a bit of play). Any thoughts much appreciated. [more inside]
posted by glache at 2:14 AM PST - 18 comments

novels of corrupt bishops and Popes, heretics, saint's bones, etc

I was really surprised by how much I liked the parts about Catholicism in the Mongoliad series. What other fiction is there involving the medieval Church's corruption, orders of knights (or monks or whatever) who are heretics or pagans who've drawn a thin veneer of Catholicism over themselves, gnosticism and mysticism, characters who may be god-touched, mad, or both and the people who have to keep them out of trouble? [more inside]
posted by NoraReed at 1:52 AM PST - 27 comments

Who should pay for retiling the bathroom?

My tiles have fallen off in the bathroom, and it looks like the whole lot will need replacing. Who should pay for this? [more inside]
posted by Cannon Fodder at 12:30 AM PST - 22 comments

August 25

Lease or buy a car for business use?

I'm trying to decide between leasing or buying a car. It would be anywhere from 50-100% business use. Does this make a difference? [more inside]
posted by CommonSense at 11:29 PM PST - 8 comments

Where can I buy sheets of glass that look like antique "crown glass"?

I would like to purchase a window sized (45"x28") sheet of glass that looks like the glass in this stock photo. Who sells it? [more inside]
posted by contraption at 11:15 PM PST - 5 comments

Hostels in Tokyo and Kyoto

What are some good hostels in Tokyo and Kyoto for a solo traveler? [more inside]
posted by cosmic.osmo at 10:18 PM PST - 12 comments

Is it normal to miss an ex after 2 years?

I've noticed every so often (every few months?) i start thinking about my ex boyfriend i dated 2 years ago. Should i do anything about this? [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue at 10:14 PM PST - 17 comments

Workplace Etiquette

What is the opinion of the hive mind: if one of my superiors receives a promotion, is it polite to congratulate them or is that the wrong tone? [more inside]
posted by jojobobo at 9:56 PM PST - 9 comments

Why am I getting so many Airbnb rejections from hosts?

My girlfriend and I have spent several hours picking out places to stay from AirBNB listings in Copenhagen. It SEEMS like there are so many wonderful, available places to stay. But my booking requests (5 so far) have all been declined by the hosts. What's going on here? How do I get a successful booking? [more inside]
posted by ErikH2000 at 8:10 PM PST - 23 comments

my move out date is after my lease expires. how bad is it?

I rented a new apartment with a lease starting on September 1st. My current apartment's lease ends 8/31. I foolishly thought moving out on 9/1 was standard practice. My landlord assures me it is not. Now what? [more inside]
posted by garlic at 6:50 PM PST - 51 comments

How to find the "best" doctor?

Let's say you wanted to find the very best ovarian cancer specialist in the US. How would you go about doing that? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 6:13 PM PST - 20 comments

All the hotels are FULL ON TUESDAY

All the hotels in my area are booked solid on Tuesday night, full to capacity. I don't hotel often, but this strikes me as unusual. Why Tuesday?
posted by shipbreaker at 6:00 PM PST - 15 comments

Identify this episode!

Which episode of "The Hour of Slack" was this? [more inside]
posted by chainsofreedom at 5:38 PM PST - 3 comments

My new building requires renters insurance: pls advise me on the basics

I'm a relentless optimizer and usually do tons of research before making decisions, but I am shuddering at the thought of wading through endless legal and sales verbiage on insurance sites, or even worse, of enduring verbal sales pitches from agents/brokers. Please help me short-cut through the tedium of getting this done. A few extra details inside. [more inside]
posted by Susan PG at 5:27 PM PST - 21 comments

Bluetooth headphone recommendations for running?

I'm looking for a new set of headphones to wear while running and I'm interested in trying Bluetooth. I want to still be able to hear the world around me as I do most of my running on the road. Track/volume controls would be nice to have. Can any of you recommend something you've had a good experience with? [more inside]
posted by Songdog at 5:17 PM PST - 12 comments

Help my brother find a new apartment in Austin. Difficulty level: Now.

So, my brother had a major fire in his apartment complex (fortunately for him it was on the other side of the building), and his building was condemned. He needs to move immediately. He's looking for a 1 bedroom 1 bathroom apartment in one of: Manor, Hyde Park, or North Campus. He's a grad student, so that's the sort of budget he's working with. Thanks for your help!
posted by persona au gratin at 5:09 PM PST - 8 comments

Personal Finance for the 30-something

I'm looking for personal finance blogs for single people in their 30s. Recommend your favorites! [more inside]
posted by so much modern time at 4:11 PM PST - 9 comments

Buying a used car with a warranty for my elderly mother in three days.

Hi, I am visiting my mother for a few days and need to buy her a reliable used car. Carmax doesn't have anything she is interested in, but we both like the idea of a $1500, five year warranty. Are there other warranty options out there for used cars that are just as good? [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 4:01 PM PST - 8 comments

Winter mixed group tropical getaway spots

My family and I are trying to pick a spot for a vacation together this winter, and we could use some help finding a spot that will work well for everyone. Desires described below: [more inside]
posted by spindrifter at 3:56 PM PST - 7 comments

Consulting with a law degree

What job do you have that uses your law degree but didn't require you to take the bar and, ideally, you're able to do it as a side gig? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:30 PM PST - 21 comments

How do I find people who want new identities?

I've just been assigned a project that involves interviewing people who want and/or need a second chance at life — people who want to leave their old lives behind and craft new identities someplace else. Where do I find them? [more inside]
posted by Lillitatiana at 2:12 PM PST - 17 comments

Instagram Aces, international metropolitan edition

New York Magazine had a short piece the other day about some street photographers in NYC who post some jaw-dropping stuff on Instagram. I've really been enjoying following their feeds --- so now I'm wondering, what about the other great cities of the world? NYC can't have a monopoly on cool cityscapes. Can y'all hook me up with some other great Instagram accounts to follow? From Paris to Lagos to Phnom Penh, I'm interested. [more inside]
posted by maggiepolitt at 1:55 PM PST - 4 comments

Do we know anything about the gentleman in this D-Day photo?

I'm wondering if there is any information about this (British?) solider. [more inside]
posted by circular at 1:39 PM PST - 5 comments

DPRK or PPRK?

Is there any truth to the idea that North Korean textbooks state that Kim Jong-Il (or, more recently, Kim Jong-Un) doesn't urinate or defecate? As in, are there any pictures of one of said textbooks with an accompanying translation? [more inside]
posted by matkline at 1:34 PM PST - 7 comments

Boston-area project mgmt - need help setting up AND sticking to a system

I need a professional in the greater Boston area to help me set up a project management system for myself AND stick to it. I can't do this on my own. (Is this a life coach? A personal organizer? An executive coach? What job title I should be searching for? I already have a therapist. I want some kind of organization specialist.) [more inside]
posted by cadge at 1:21 PM PST - 5 comments

Looking for cultures out of place in America

So I'm trying to find examples of cultures/peoples/ethnicities/religions that are significantly dissimilar to the main city/culture/groups that surround them. Like finding a group of Amish people in Detroit. Or the one someone gave me of the significant Hasidic population in the scantily clad nightlife world of South Beach. What other current examples are there in the USA and Canada of unexpected groups in unexpected places?
posted by rileyray3000 at 1:07 PM PST - 46 comments

I am looking for a marathon within driving distance of Seattle

I am planning on running a marathon sometime between spring 2015 and August 2016 with lots of flexibility in time frame. I need to choose a marathon and it must be ithin driving distance of Seattle. This will be my first marathon so I do want some support - I want a timing chip - and I want a photographer. I'm not sure what else I want in terms of crowds, etc. If you have experience with marathons in this area that you can share, please do.
posted by bq at 12:54 PM PST - 15 comments

This space unintentionally left male (mostly)

I'm a woman (mostly), and I'm the chairperson for our local hackerspace, we have female participants but it's a small minority... and we would really love to be more diverse. [more inside]
posted by Too-Ticky at 12:37 PM PST - 69 comments

Paths to EU permanent residence / citizenship without a job offer?

I'm an Israeli citizen completing a Ph.D. in the US. I'd like to move to the EU, and am seeking work there, but I want a Plan B in case I don't get a job offer. Which countries make it least difficult (or even possible) for a foreigner to move there without employer sponsorship and eventually gain permanent residence or citizenship? I would consider entering another degree program in this scenario if student status would help. [more inside]
posted by zeri at 12:29 PM PST - 10 comments

Tips and Tricks for Being Productive Under Duress

Okay, so you feel like absolute crapola for some reason. You have a deadline and need to work. What are your personal best practices? [more inside]
posted by Michele in California at 12:10 PM PST - 19 comments

North Texas resources on homelessness

Through a string of bad luck (losing my job, losing my health insurance, bit of a breakdown at the start of the summer), I'm looking at being homeless in a couple of days. There aren't many options out there for a single male. This is a last ditch effort to find resources in my area other than shelters. [more inside]
posted by item at 12:05 PM PST - 10 comments

Mapping web tool + Google Docs = BFF

I'm looking for a web tool or software that can take information that I have formatted in a Google doc (or other cloud-based spreadsheet tool) and stick it on a map but also display it within a timeline. Does this exist? [more inside]
posted by aaanastasia at 11:32 AM PST - 5 comments

Credit card balance transfer questions.

My husband recently had to put $5000 on his credit card after using our emergency savings. We will not be able to pay this amount at the end of the month or in the next few months. I'm interested in the option of a balance transfer to a new card with a lower interest rate. [more inside]
posted by Coffee Bean at 11:08 AM PST - 16 comments

Jaunt me

I'd like to take more weekend trips outside of NYC. I don't drive. Where should I go, and how should I get there? [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz at 10:19 AM PST - 26 comments

Please help me save my text messages

I have an S4 mini (android) phone. I want to save my text messages! [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 10:12 AM PST - 2 comments

How do I... do OKCupid?

Whew. Just put up my OKC profile for the first time ever! Looking for advice and some pointers. [more inside]
posted by un petit cadeau at 9:24 AM PST - 29 comments

Tear duct in overdrive

I have a problem with my tear duct in one eye becoming intermittently blocked, and it's a huge pain in the...eye. This has been going on for about a year, and seems to flare up once or twice a month for 4-5 days at a time. I have seen an ophthalmologist - the first time he opened up the duct with a tool (not fun) and gave me some eyedrops. At the follow-up visit he cleared me and said to massage the side of my nose in the shower to prevent recurrences. He also indicated my next step would be surgery, which I'd super duper love to avoid. [more inside]
posted by tryniti at 8:57 AM PST - 8 comments

Fast and cheap wildflowers in Chicago?

In the midst of wedding preparations here in Chicago, I have totally whiffed on flowers. We want to Midwest prairie flower corsages and such for our wedding this Saturday based around some milkweed pods we've been saving. We tried Kennicott's to no avail because they only do wholesale. Any ideas for where on the northside of Chicago we could go to cheaply (or even for free, if we're ethically picking something) acquire wildflowers and grasses this week?
posted by HeroZero at 8:36 AM PST - 11 comments

Reagan-era MTV Contest Madness

Back in the 1980s, MTV ran some pretty wild contests. I found this story about the Lost Weekend With Van Halen, but there were many more. Does anyone have a complete list of those contests, or links to any more of the winners' stories? [more inside]
posted by ktoad at 8:31 AM PST - 13 comments

Asking for a friend...

Will a vaporizer make it easier to inhale vs. other inhalation methods? [more inside]
posted by VTX at 8:05 AM PST - 10 comments

YANMWD - plantar pustular psoriasis, 2014 edition

Mrs Peteyjlawson was diagnosed with plantar pustular psoriasis a few years ago. Nothing the doctors have suggested has helped. Members of the green, any tips for reducing or managing this condition? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by peteyjlawson at 8:04 AM PST - 12 comments

Virtual reality tour by way of stationary bike

I loved exercising with the Expresso bike - it's a stationary bike that has a screen so you can tour through virtual courses. I found it surprisingly entertaining and incredibly motivating - I loved going faster and passing the other virtual bikers. My gym membership is up, and I'd love to have something similar at home. Can Metafilter help walk me through the options? [more inside]
posted by fermezporte at 7:40 AM PST - 8 comments

Games in which the player, at first, doesn't know how to play the game?

In some video games, the player's first task is to figure out what they should be doing. So the first part of the game is learning how to play the game. Are there any non-video, non-digital games like this? [more inside]
posted by Ollie at 7:24 AM PST - 21 comments

Hiding something ugly on the ceiling

Our family room has a really ugly, broken fluorescent light fixture installed flush in the ceiling. Help me figure out how to cover it up. [more inside]
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 6:43 AM PST - 14 comments

What are some good quotes about farewells for my dry erase board?

I'm leaving my current position at my company this week due to a promotion. This requires me to move to another location. I have a dry erase board on which I like to put funny or meaningful quotes. Can you suggest good, pithy quotes about endings, farewells and goodbyes that I can put on it?
posted by inturnaround at 5:52 AM PST - 16 comments

Grownup Tinkertoys

I'm toying with the idea of DIYing a version of this ceiling lamp. Can anyone tell me the technical name for the pivoting/rotating/swiveling T joints, as Googling combinations of that phrase is not giving me similar connectors? [more inside]
posted by romakimmy at 5:31 AM PST - 2 comments

Excellent graduate level classes as podcast?

Can you find me excellent graduate level classes provided as official Apple podcast form factor? [more inside]
posted by tintexas at 4:17 AM PST - 4 comments

What do I do about a friend?

I'm not sure how to proceed in a friendship. Thrilling details within. [more inside]
posted by saturn~jupiter at 3:47 AM PST - 26 comments

How to furnish an entire apartment in the Algarve this week?

Mr. TEA and I have just become responsible for furnishing a two-bedroom apartment in the Algarve. The apartment is in good condition but entirely empty. We would be furnishing it for family use and possibly for rental. My go-to furnishings store at home (the US), Ikea, is hours away, although I'm wondering if it would be worth the trip just for dishes, pots, pans, and glasses. I speak very little Portuguese, although Mr. TEA is more fluent.
posted by TEA at 2:32 AM PST - 6 comments

A girl on a toy riding horse underwater.. what's that song in the video?

I saw a music video this weekend featuring a girl with longish blondish hair riding on a toy riding horse underwater, possibly in a pool. I was really chill, instrumental possibly. It was in a youtube playlist with similar types of music: sleep party people, gold panda, clams casino, youth, grimes, tycho etc. Please, oh please, help me find it!!!
posted by tenaciousmoon at 12:17 AM PST - 2 comments

August 24

Why do Islamic extremists hold up one finger?

What is the meaning of the #1 sign you see in photos of Muslims when they're celebrating a beheading or terrorist achievement? [more inside]
posted by pallen123 at 8:48 PM PST - 24 comments

How to politely challenge offensive generalizations about poor people?

I regularly come across people who, in the course of conversation, make a comment that reinforces a stereotype about poor people -- for example, that poor people are just out to "game the system," or they're lazy, or they mustn't really be poor because they have a nice cell phone. How can I challenge their stereotypes in a way that is succinct and not unduly confrontational? [more inside]
posted by southern_sky at 8:41 PM PST - 23 comments

Finding other beginning web developers to form a study group with

How can I find other beginning students of web development to form a study group with? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:25 PM PST - 4 comments

Home renovation shows that get into the nitty gritty

My boyfriend would like some recommendations for good, detailed home renovation shows. [more inside]
posted by reshet at 8:23 PM PST - 14 comments

I know what I want, but not what I need

ElectronicsFilter: I would like to construct a box with 4 lights that work on a timer. I know lots about software, and little about hardware, please help steer me in the right direction. [more inside]
posted by sparklemotion at 8:10 PM PST - 13 comments

What is a 'Wild Mushroom' ?

Eating at 'Cheesecake Cafe' and 'Tony Roma's', I see on the menu that they both have burgers that are garnished with 'wild mushrooms'. What are wild mushrooms? I cannot get an answer from the waitresses.
posted by Kilovolt at 7:57 PM PST - 12 comments

Delta Schedule Change

So I've read a few posts about scheduling changes here and on other sites and I'd like to post my situation to see what y'all would think is reasonable to expect from Delta. [more inside]
posted by Beti at 7:43 PM PST - 10 comments

Fascinating True Crime Documentaries or Books?

I am looking for recommendations for documentaries about true crime cases. [more inside]
posted by bearette at 7:30 PM PST - 44 comments

Finding a great translation of a foreign book

When there are a lot of editions of a foreign book available, how do you go about finding and choosing a good translation? [more inside]
posted by spbmp at 7:28 PM PST - 5 comments

Identify this bizarre tripartite stemware

Can anyone identify this bizarre piece of stemware? The three cups are connected at the bottom, so filling one cup fills all three. A set of 12 was given to a friend as a wedding gift with no explanation. image
posted by boots at 7:03 PM PST - 11 comments

Super short tips and tricks for ADHD and / or depression

I'm struggling today with both. The ADHD makes searching for help a little more difficult than normal. Can you give me (really short) one liner suggestions for making it through? Mostly focusing on being productive, and coping strategies, but also maybe ways to be kind to oneself. [more inside]
posted by b33j at 6:54 PM PST - 44 comments

Give me a home renovation strategy strategy

I'm purchasing a new home that needs a lot of work done to get it to where we want it. For anyone else who has been through this, can you help me with figuring out what my strategy should be in terms of order of operations? Any other advice from people with experience is very much welcomed, since we have never done any home renovation before. [more inside]
posted by treehorn+bunny at 6:21 PM PST - 18 comments

We appreciate your help. Kthxbye

Help me word a certification of appreciation that isn't generic? [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 5:25 PM PST - 3 comments

Bookmark management system

Are there any good solutions for Safari and/or Chrome to manage bookmarks? [more inside]
posted by antgly at 5:06 PM PST - 7 comments

Tips or tricks for replacing ethernet cables in walls?

I have a bunch of ethernet cables running through my walls. I imagine they're at best Cat 5. I'd like to replace them. I have a half-assed plan for doing so. Will my half-assed plan be at all likely to succeed? Any way to increase my chances? [more inside]
posted by Flunkie at 4:00 PM PST - 19 comments

mosquito net overkill?

I want to get a mosquito net for my bedroom. My motives are functional rather than aesthetic. Some nets are treated with chrysanthemum pesticides, others are just nets. For those who've been to places where the nets are essential, is the pesticide treatment necessary or a just a marketing power-up? I'd rather not sleep bathed in bug killing gases if the nets are as effective sans poison.
posted by Fupped Duck at 3:29 PM PST - 7 comments

Legality of making prints from antique copper engraved plates

I have acquired two engraved copper printing plates which were produced in the 1850s by an artist who is internationally renowned. What is the legal situation regarding issuing my own edition from these plates? [more inside]
posted by mani at 3:28 PM PST - 9 comments

Volvo Overseas Delivery

Have you taken advantage of the Volvo Overseas Delivery program, or know someone who has? What was the experience like? [more inside]
posted by odinsdream at 3:15 PM PST - 7 comments

What is your favorite definition of science?

I've heard some great quotations from famous scientists that succinctly embody the nuances and beauty of the practice of science. I'm teaching high school science for the first time (starting tomorrow! eek!) and I'm looking for some good examples to share with my students. What are your favorite quotations on the subject? How do you personally define the practice of science? Thanks!
posted by garuda at 2:58 PM PST - 12 comments

Hiring via Paid Tryouts

I've been reading about the practice of finding the right candidates by using auditions, tryouts, trial work periods, etc. (See for example this.) [more inside]
posted by woodman at 2:30 PM PST - 9 comments

Are These Red Flags, or Am I Just Nervous?

I recently accepted a job offer with a mid-sized family-owned company. I received some not-so-great information within my first week. Do I brush it off, or use what I know to make an informed decision on how to move forward? [more inside]
posted by Ashen at 2:22 PM PST - 11 comments

Some Japanese figurines I know little about

I inherited these painted bamboo figurines (approx 2 1/2 ins tall) from my mother. We lived in Kobe up to 1936 when my family and I wisely returned to England. I discovered them in a cardboard box and I wonder whether any of you can give me information about them - maybe dinner table ornaments made for foreigners? Any answers gratefully received, as always!
posted by lungtaworld at 2:06 PM PST - 7 comments

Warhammer Novels - for a ten year old

My kid is a huge Warhammer enthusiast. He also loves to read. Am I going to be able to combine both. [more inside]
posted by Megami at 1:49 PM PST - 5 comments

Things to do within an hour of Pine Grove when camping with a 7-year-old

Outdoorsy things to do within an hour or so of Pine Grove, Calif. when camping with a 7-year-old? [more inside]
posted by DakotaPaul at 12:58 PM PST - 1 comment

Way to find out which real estate agents make sales in a region/county?

I'd like to know which real estate agents have actually completed/closed on houses/property in a particular county, say in the past 12 months or calendar year. [more inside]
posted by sandra_s at 12:52 PM PST - 2 comments

Font to replace Papyrus?

Looking for a typeface for a wellness/holistic medicine practice. I know that Papyrus font is a cliche, but it's an effective visual shorthand for this kind of business. Are there other fonts that are less overused, but would still convey or fit with that vibe of green, organic, holistic, natural? [more inside]
posted by LobsterMitten at 12:08 PM PST - 15 comments

What is the best option for an air travel gift card?

What is the best way to give a gift card to help pay for plane tickets for domestic US travel? It can't tie the recipient down to a particular airline and it must be a gift card, so please don't tell me to give cash. That would obviously be best.
posted by Xalf at 11:41 AM PST - 9 comments

Exercise for young teens. Constraint: no sweating allowed.

My friend teaches in a school in in a large municipality in Denmark and is looking for advice on how to comply with the latest "Great Idea For The Kids". [more inside]
posted by reflecked at 11:02 AM PST - 30 comments

Help with new rescue dog's severe separation anxiety

We recently adopted an incredibly sweet dog from a local shelter-- Frances is a three year old dachshund/chihuahua mix. She's super mellow and calm when we're with her-- never barks or chews, perfectly housetrained, doesn't react to other dogs or people when on walks... basically perfect and incredibly lovable... EXCEPT... when left alone, she becomes a nightmare destructo-dog. [more inside]
posted by bonheur at 10:30 AM PST - 12 comments

Dulas in New York?

My pregnent wife's due November 4th and we're really excited and, you know, terrified. I'm starting a new job in two weeks that's going to be very demanding (and will give me very little time off when the baby's born). We're interested in hiring two dulas -- one to assist during labor and delivery, and one for at home for a week or two after the baby's born. We live in Bayside, Queens and she's giving birth at New York Presbyterian Cornell Weill. [more inside]
posted by thursdaystoo at 10:07 AM PST - 11 comments

Headphones for babies?

One year old, first long flight, looking for recommendations for headphones so baby can comfortably watch his favorites (Sesame Street, Super Why, and Adele music videos) if necessary to keep things sane. [more inside]
posted by erst at 9:44 AM PST - 11 comments

Simple pleasures: or, how to have a good (great) day?

Because I often need inspiration and a gentle nudge or two, I like to hear what others 'simple pleasures' are in life, this list and this other list being two examples I'm keen on. What simple pleasures do you all enjoy? What makes for a great day, especially one you're spending by yourself?
posted by nightrecordings at 9:28 AM PST - 29 comments

What could be causing my running funk?

YANMD. I am seeing a doctor, but don't have an appointment for a follow up until Wednesday. I can't figure out why I'm feeling so ill. [more inside]
posted by roomthreeseventeen at 9:17 AM PST - 15 comments

Are all restaruant kitchens hot and steamy?

I am thinking about working in a restaurant kitchen. My only experience so far is with pizza places, which have hot pizza ovens and therefore get pretty durn hot on a hot day, or when more than one oven is turned on. The last place I worked had perfectly good air conditioning, but it became completely ineffective under the aforementioned circumstances. [more inside]
posted by serena15221 at 8:44 AM PST - 44 comments

Help me hack my Sony DVD player (Model DVP-SR210P)

I'm trying to play Region 2 European DVDs on my US DVD player. I know you can hack DVD players to be region-free, and have read the previous threads on AskMeFi from several years ago, but I cannot find a hack for my specific Sony player, model DVP-SR210P. Any tips appreciated!
posted by J-Do at 8:32 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for the bootie equivalent of Worishofer sandals

I have issues with my feet/legs, namely weak, constantly twisting ankles and a heavy step that destroys shoes. The first problem was solved when I discovered these insanely comfortable Worishofer sandals earlier this summer. Now I need to find a pair of booties that are just as comfortable for the fall/winter. Please help! [more inside]
posted by dysh at 8:07 AM PST - 4 comments

How do I find good airfare for a three-leg journey?

My wife and I will be flying with our daughter for the first time this fall, on a cross-country journey to see grandparents and relatives who haven't met her yet. We'll be traveling from Seattle to Pittsburgh to Minneapolis and back home to Seattle, staying a few days at each stop. The plan is set--now I just need to buy the plane tickets, and I don't know how to go about finding the best deal. [more inside]
posted by Inkslinger at 8:06 AM PST - 12 comments

LCD TV is unhappy

My Samsung LA37B530 has developed a pale cast to the image as though the brightness was set too high, and the smoothing of some colours is also not up to sniff. Basically, it no longer looks like proper HDTV. In the event that it was inadvertently adjusted, I reset it to standard factory settings. The problem persists. Any bright ideas? Thanks!
posted by Wolof at 7:10 AM PST - 8 comments

I need rest!

I'm ill—down with a flu—stuffy head, terrible cold and sneezing, aches and pains. I know what I need most of all is rest but my brain just won't cooperate. I'm full of this crazy hyperactive energy and totally unable to rest. Any ideas?
posted by miaow at 4:10 AM PST - 15 comments

August 23

I'm a boring person and I want boring music to go with my life.

I want boring music to listen to. Not even elevator music: hallway music. Dull, faceless corridor music. Cheesy, soothing, soft. Commercial music, the kind of music that men in the 1970s thought would induce people to feel groovy and buy stuff. The music that plays in Animal Crossing while you get your haircut. Ceefax music. Music you'd hear in an old Mad Men episode. Music that just sits there and doopey-doops while I concentrate and get important stuff done.
posted by glhaynes at 11:20 PM PST - 58 comments

Should I stay or should I go now? Software engineering career edition!

I'm a software developer, working my first "real job" out of grad school. I'm on a fixed-term contract with my employer. The contract that pays the lion's share of my salary is ending, potentially without a direct transition into a new/connected project. While I wait to hear from management about what this means for me, I'm trying to put myself in the best position to succeed moving forward. This is new to me, please halp! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:40 PM PST - 7 comments

Should My 92 Year Old Father Get A Different Doctor?

My 92 year old father went for his annual physical in May and I have had concerns with the quality of care he has received both during the physical and in several followups. However, I don't know if I should encourage him to go to a different doctor (there aren't many locally who are accepting new patients, and I don't know their quality, but we could try). Details after the jump. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:38 PM PST - 5 comments

Where can I go to try on emerald and sapphire rings in Los Angeles?

I'm trying to suss out my own taste for engagement ring purposes and would like to try on emerald and/or blue sapphire rings to see if I like them as much in practice as I do in theory. Where can I do this in the greater L.A. area? I would prefer not to go to the downtown jewelry district (again), but if someone can recommend a shop there with emerald and sapphire rings IN STOCK to TRY ON and not just loose gems or settings separately, I'm open to the idea. [more inside]
posted by tyrantkitty at 10:28 PM PST - 9 comments

German female artist, specializing in fine geometric lines?

A few years ago, I came across the website of a German artist, female, who specialized in creating geometric artwork featuring very fine lines (think sweeping, 1pt lines). The only other things I remember are: 30ish in age, and had a non-standard German name, e.g. not something simple like "Anna Schmid". Anyone know her name and site?
posted by slater at 9:13 PM PST - 1 comment

Volunteer Vacation or Vacation Scam?

I'm looking to spend 2-3 weeks on a volunteer vacation with animals somewhere in the world this coming year. Help make the most of my time and select the right program! [more inside]
posted by shew at 8:07 PM PST - 14 comments

Name that Sample (Synth)

Hoping someone can recognize a sample that my brain is telling me was lifted from a reasonably mainstream source, but I can't place it. [more inside]
posted by snuffleupagus at 7:45 PM PST - 5 comments

Animated short from the 70's

Hoping someone can help me find this... [more inside]
posted by jenh526 at 7:44 PM PST - 3 comments

Please help me ID this old sci-fi story

Here are a few facts about this old SF story whose author I can no longer recall. 1. It was written by a giant of mid-century SF whose name I can no longer recall. Not Sheckley, not Asimov. I thought it might be Damon Knight, but I can't find it in his work. 2. It's a story about a man who travels to the future as part of a gigantic relief effort to assist future men who are burying themselves in the earth. [more inside]
posted by Mr. Justice at 6:36 PM PST - 4 comments

My kid is spamming my Facebook friends with Dragon City invites. Help!

My 9 year old loves Dragon City. I de-authorized the FB app to post on my behalf through Facebook settings, but it's still very easy to send invitations to all Facebook friends through the Dragon City app (which my son usually plays on my iPad). As far as I understand, there's no way to play Dragon City without linking it to a Facebook account. Is there anyway to turn off the ability to invite Facebook friends? [more inside]
posted by bluedaisy at 5:45 PM PST - 7 comments

A Place to Sleep in Sleepy Hollow?

I've hatched a half-hiking half-not trip - taking a train from New York all the way up to the beginning of the Old Croton Aqueduct Trail, and hiking the whole thing back down to New York City. But I'm gonna take two days to do it, and am looking for a cheap hotel halfway along - in Tarrytown, Sleepy Hollow, or thereabouts. Any suggestions for a hotel? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 5:29 PM PST - 11 comments

How do you guys keep a diary with timestamps automated?

So here's the thing. I like to write down my thoughts. But I also like knowing when it was written down with appropriate date and time. But the way I currently do it takes too much time. [more inside]
posted by iliketothinknu at 5:18 PM PST - 13 comments

What's the skinny on grain free/raw food for cats?

Bunny is a generally healthy, happy 1 year old with smelly poo the consistency of frosting. I'm thinking of switching her food out. What's the skinny on grain free/raw kitty food diets these days? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger at 5:12 PM PST - 33 comments

Throwing starfish

What are your associations with Loren Eiseley's "The Star Thrower"? [more inside]
posted by bad grammar at 4:54 PM PST - 7 comments

How to be admitted to an open enrollment university without transcripts?

I am trying to take courses at the local branch of a larger University in Ohio. The more rual branches have an open enrollment policy, however still request transcripts from previous schools attended. There was a very clustered situation, involving the retroactive removal of my financial aid package, at a previous school, too crazy to fix but it left me with a $15,000 bill that I am not realistically going to pay off making the minimum wage I happen to be earning, right now. I don't want to wait any longer to finish my degree, so remaining out of school until I come up with $15,000 is not a path I am pursuing. I would like to get advice from those out there with some knowledge, how can I gain admission to a university without this very expensive transcript?
posted by cheetahchick at 4:41 PM PST - 17 comments

Help ID an old (late 70s) cartoon with pollution & underground dwellers?

My friend has asked me to help him identify a cartoon he remembers seeing sometime in the late 70s. According to him:It was about people who lived underground and they were trying to build up their civilization. It had a School House Rock feel to it. I think it had something to do with garbage/pollution. [more inside]
posted by sciencejock at 4:02 PM PST - 5 comments

Spending quality time with my parents

My parents, while still active (in their 50s), are getting older and some days I feel acutely aware that time is finite. How can I best spend time with my parents and show them that I care about them and that I am grateful for all they have done for me? This can include gifts they might appreciate, but I'm mostly asking about things I can do to maximize the quality of the time and the relationship I have with my parents. [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit at 3:41 PM PST - 21 comments

What modern beer tastes most like old-fashioned beer?

I was thinking about the Ken Burns Prohibition documentary today, and it got me thinking: if I wanted to find what beer tasted like in the United States a century ago, what would I try? [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 3:01 PM PST - 23 comments

Paint me a picture. A picture of Austin, Texas.

I'm a 31-year-old female looking to relocate to a cool, fun and relatively inexpensive urban area. What can you tell me about Austin, Texas? [more inside]
posted by shelle at 12:37 PM PST - 23 comments

How can I get rid of a time share?

I have a time share I want to get rid of. I don't care about getting back any of my "investment." I just want to get rid of the thing. Getting a bit of money for it would be nice. What's the best way for me to get rid of it? Should I sell it or give it back? And if I should sell it, how? [more inside]
posted by OrangeDisk at 11:49 AM PST - 8 comments

Paragard, please let me love you.

So I had my first IUD inserted on Thursday. I'm wondering, about, um . . . discharge. [more inside]
posted by sevensnowflakes at 11:34 AM PST - 12 comments

Save me from suburbia!

So, our neighborhood has never been the awesomest in terms of violent crime and drug stuff (in Toronto, btw), and some sudden recent changes are about to make it even less awesome. We have little kids. We bought this house ten years ago as a "starter home we'll sell in two years" and just... never left. Now we'd like to leave. But where do we go? [more inside]
posted by lizifer at 11:31 AM PST - 16 comments

Imax motion sickness?

Will seeing Guardians of the Galaxy in Imax 3D make me sick? [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger at 11:28 AM PST - 9 comments

Freezing fresh pasta for future raviolis

Our bumper crop of veggies is coming on and our neighbor's chickens are producing eggs at an amazing rate. I don't have time right now to complete assembly on raviolis, but could make large batches of frozen pasta and filling. What is the best way to store the pasta? [more inside]
posted by ikahime at 10:06 AM PST - 6 comments

Are there left-wing equivalents of these books?

Having some fun with facebook friends with these ridiculous (to us), right wing books. Are there any ridiculous left wing books we should be laughing at too? Help, My Neighbor Flies a Flag?
posted by colin_l at 9:24 AM PST - 8 comments

Leather notebook holder for A5 block, glue-bound on left?

I really like Fabriano blocks - particularly the A5 dot-patterned paper that is glue-bound on the left side of the block (see here. I would like to get a leather (or other suitably durable material), A5-sized zipper-closing cover to hold one of these with writing implements (pen, pencil, and eraser)... [more inside]
posted by Philosopher Dirtbike at 8:25 AM PST - 4 comments

How did this ad get served to me?

Surprising coincidence or are adblock/ghostery/etc not actualy effective? [more inside]
posted by modernnomad at 7:42 AM PST - 15 comments

Should I move?

Should I move from the small city where I work to the bigger and more exciting nearby city when my lease is up in two months? [more inside]
posted by Henrietta Stackpole at 7:16 AM PST - 23 comments

What are the range limits of Power over Ethernet?

I want to install a security camera on a wall about 50m from my back door. I intend to use Power over Ethernet as a power source. I have no experience with PoE, and have some questions. [more inside]
posted by Grinder at 7:05 AM PST - 6 comments

Are cover letters dead?

I've applied to two jobs this week (the only two) for very different companies, and in both cases, when I applied on the company website, all that was requested of me was my contact information and a copy of my resume--no cover letter. [more inside]
posted by elizeh at 6:50 AM PST - 15 comments

Is my dog having seizures or what?

I have an 8-10 year old, very strange, beagle. Last night I found her with eyes open, but unresponsive, clawing and biting at the wall. Is this seizure activity, night terrors, or something else? [more inside]
posted by geeky at 6:02 AM PST - 10 comments

What breed of parrot is this?

Arrived to a nearby mango tree, very obviously domesticated, adopted by us, now known as Mork. Likes sunflower seeds but not banana. What breed is it? See photo here
posted by lapsang at 5:44 AM PST - 12 comments

How to walk away from a House (Minneapolis Edition)?

After watching our house not sell for 3 months (with one offer that would require us to bring 40k to the table!), we think it might be time for more creative solutions. Tell me about Strategic Defaults in Minnesota. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:41 AM PST - 9 comments

How do I find a therapist?

I think I want to try therapy again, but I'm not sure even what I should be looking for. Looking for general advice and specific recommendations in the DC area. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:41 AM PST - 7 comments

Moscow for the space race geek

I'm travelling to Moscow for two weeks in mid-September. Apart from the touristy space monument and Museum of Cosmonautics, what else can a space travel geek see/do/buy in Moscow? [more inside]
posted by beijingbrown at 1:13 AM PST - 7 comments

Adjusting the trigger pull on Shimano STX shifters?

I just put some new ergonomic grips on my mountain bike, and they're slightly thicker rubber than the older ones. The tiny bit of extra circumference now obstructs the pull of my trigger shifter. When I try to go into a higher gear there's not enough clearance for the trigger to engage the ratchet in the shifter and move the dérailleur. I can force it if I squeeze hard enough and push the lever back out, and the bike shifts gears fine, so the issue is not cable tension. My question: Is there a way to adjust the trigger pull to be slightly further away from the handlebars? [more inside]
posted by carsonb at 1:00 AM PST - 6 comments

How much "trouble" will an old home be?

Looking at moving into the city from the burbs. Most houses in the areas we're looking were built in the late 1800s to early 1900s (through 1930). Trying to understand what living in an older house entails. First house on the agenda - 1890s home, was a funeral home, some updates, some major repairs needed. [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 12:14 AM PST - 22 comments

I need help bringing a messy, inappropriate friendship to a close

A relationship with a friend has spiraled out of control. I have to bring it to an end, and I'm not sure how to go about it. I need advice. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:11 AM PST - 47 comments

August 22

Long hair, don't care; jk I care way too much

I'm having one of my sporadic SOMETHING MUST BE DONE frenzies and booked a haircut for the day after tomorrow but still haven't decided exactly what to do. I need help dialing it in! I have: A (very) round face, thick and straight Asian hair, length but a desire to go short, bangs that are overgrown but not enough to be not-bangs. I want: Killer shorter hair that feels modern and sleek and does not look stupid on me. GO. [more inside]
posted by peachfuzz at 11:06 PM PST - 8 comments

AskMeFi Shopping Network

I need a very specific bag and I don't know where to look for it. I need a large bag that can be carried like a backpack, larger than 25L. I would like it to be in some way elegant (that's an open definition...), semi-fashionable for the PNW set, and water resistant enough to walk for 15 minutes in the rain and not be damp for days (so, probably not leather). [more inside]
posted by annie o at 10:14 PM PST - 14 comments

A site where you can make a post to advertise your site for free?

I'm looking for some sort of website that basically exists for other people to advertise their own websites. I tried searching but I only found a bunch of info about SEO content and trading links w other websites, etc. Is there a website where you can go and make a post about your website and it goes to the top of the page or whatever and people can stumble across it? For free? If anyone's familiar with livejournal I know they would have had communities that specialize in things like that so that's pretty much what I'm looking for.
posted by atinna at 9:49 PM PST - 11 comments

In search of Black Comedy

Recently, I've been interested in multimedia featuring aspects of black comedy or cynical characters in otherwise mundane settings. Searching on my own is more or less inefficient and I'm looking for any recommendations which fall into this category. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 8:54 PM PST - 28 comments

Calculating interest using the effective interest rate?

I need to calculate the interest to be paid on a loan of $300,000 with a term of 4 years where the effective interest rate is 10%, payable monthly in arrears. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by herschellie at 7:02 PM PST - 12 comments

GRE Test Prep

I need to take the GREs and I am very poor. I have been told by other people who took the gre that the test prep class is necessary, and it is prohibitive even with the grants and payment plan they offer. The class seems to offer a bunch of books and tests, plus an app. Buying the book also seems really expensive, but less than the class. I have also been told that the books are enough? I want to do my best, as I have a number of disabilities that make test taking very difficult.
posted by PinkMoose at 7:00 PM PST - 25 comments

Hummingbird nectar concentrate

I have been using a 1:4 sugar to water ratio for our feeders. Will I get the same concentration by maiking a 1:1 ratio and then diluting the concentrate by a 1:3 ratio of concentrate to plain water? It seems right but I am second guessing myself. Thank you.
posted by harrietthespy at 6:35 PM PST - 10 comments

need chromebook to connect to wi-fi, but it won't

My daughter's chromebook from school needs to connect to wi-fi. We have wi-fi at home. When I open up my home computer, I never need to put in a password....I just click onto my internet icon. By the way, I have netgear for my wi-fi. [more inside]
posted by lynnie-the-pooh at 6:28 PM PST - 15 comments

Recommendations for books about Red Clydeside

I recently found out that I'm not the only red sheep in my otherwise right-wing family. Apparently my great-grandmother was good pals with James Maxton and some of the other Scottish socialists of the day. I'm looking for book recommendations about Maxton and Red Clydeside in general.
posted by atropos at 6:27 PM PST - 2 comments

33 1/3 series: What works, what doesn't?

The 33 1/3 series is a formidable list of little books about influential records, written by music writers, musicians, writers and fans. It seems to vary significantly in tone and in the writer's approach. For those of you who have read some of these books, which ones (or particular sections) stuck with you? Which didn't work so well? I would love to write one of these, and I'm trying to calibrate my angle as I hone my pitch.
posted by umbú at 5:42 PM PST - 18 comments

Device of all trades, master of none?

In the next month or so, I'm going to need a new laptop. Windows 8 scares me, but I'm willing to try. In the spirit of being game, and because I like the idea of tablets but can't currently live with a tablet as my primary device, I'm considering a 2-in-1 device. Reviews are mixed. I can't tell if I should just get a normal laptop and wait a couple of generations for 2-in-1s to work some bugs out. Does anyone have experience/recommendations? [more inside]
posted by platypus of the universe at 5:40 PM PST - 9 comments

Question about missed birth control

Pretty straightforward. I took my combined oral contraceptive erratically for a little over a week - how long should I wait before I resume unprotected sex? [more inside]
posted by celtalitha at 5:36 PM PST - 8 comments

I'm either insulted or over reacting

I have been friends with Becky since the 90's. Ever since I met my husband, then had a kid, it feels like she just keeps insulting my life. Or not? [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas at 5:32 PM PST - 56 comments

Book Recommendation for my Mom

My mom dropped out of high school when she was 15 and never reads for pleasure. She (inexplicably) started reading the Hunger Games and devoured the trilogy in two weeks. As far as I know, that's the only book she's ever completed. I'm looking for something that she'll enjoy on the same level of the Hunger Games trilogy. I've tried to figure out what it is that she likes about the trilogy but she can't really say why she enjoyed them so much. She just says she just couldn't stop reading them.
posted by R.F.Simpson at 5:00 PM PST - 43 comments

Will mow for food

What's it like being a woman in the landscaping industry? [more inside]
posted by silly me at 4:03 PM PST - 6 comments

How can I cut down on the time it takes to apply for a job?

I'm something of a Swiss Army Knife of a human being, so there are many things I can do and that I find interesting. I am an artist and don't particularly care what I do to earn a living, as long as I can finance my artwork. That said, it can take me A LONG LONG TIME to finish a single job application. [more inside]
posted by oogenesis at 3:59 PM PST - 6 comments

Help brainstorm ideas for lesson on the importance of tech skills

I am doing a college session on the importance of tech literacy. I will focus on the differences between browsers and apps and the importance of browsers to finding information. If you have tips, read on. [more inside]
posted by CtrlAltD at 3:54 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me get in shape for my travel adventure holiday

Because I wanted to make my fortieth something special, I asked about adventure holidays here before settling on slickrock's adventure island. But now I need to get in shape for this adventure. Since I'll mainly be snorkeling, scuba diving, and kayaking, I was wondering if there is a particular training plan for those activities. [more inside]
posted by miss-lapin at 3:48 PM PST - 5 comments

What areas within 5 hrs of New Jersey have cheaper real estate?

My fiance and I live in NJ and work at a major pharmaceutical company as scientists making decent money. What cities/towns within a 5 hr drive of north Jersey have cheap real estate where it's realistic to buy a house for < $250k yet still have major pharma/chemical/related employers? [more inside]
posted by never.was.and.never.will.be. at 3:38 PM PST - 6 comments

Need to restore iPhone NOTES that were not backed up.

In trying to backup iPhone 4s NOTES onto iCloud I lost many of them. When I started the process my phone said I had four different NOTES accounts: "All Notes"; "From my PC"; "Gmail"; and "iCloud". It has lost the "From my PC" account and with it, many of my older notes. They are not on iCloud either. [more inside]
posted by ridingtheranges at 3:28 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I get my parents to take end of life care seriously?

Have you been successful at having the End of Life discussion with your parents? Would you please give tips on helping me to convince my parents to take it seriously? [more inside]
posted by schroedinger at 3:28 PM PST - 17 comments

Cinematography: What changed on Doctor Who between Davies and Moffat?

This week I watched a Doctor Who episode from the Russell T. Davies era with David Tennant as Doctor 10. I cut my teeth on the Matt Smith episodes, so I always find the older episodes so different in terms of production quality. But what am I seeing, exactly? What were the technical changes in production between the two series? [more inside]
posted by fremen at 3:03 PM PST - 5 comments

In theory I want to be more social, but in practice people creep me out

Can a natural loner learn to appreciate and enjoy other people more? Being a hermit is getting to be painfully boring. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 2:50 PM PST - 31 comments

Should I go to bat for my new patio?

Yesterday we had a tree trimming service visit our house to remove parts of several large trees. Today I noticed that in the process, they dragged limbs (and/or tools) across our brand-new brick paver patio, leaving several noticeable stains/scuffs. Not sure how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by gnutron at 2:50 PM PST - 3 comments

Cooking food in advance for an immunosuppressed person

I am organizing (and cooking) meals for my boss and his wife. He was just diagnosed with cancer and has started chemo. I need ideas for the kind of meals I and others can prepare for a person with a compromised immune system. [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 2:32 PM PST - 9 comments

Booty Call Song

Name a song that unambiguously and sexily says "let's get it on." (omit the obvious answer, please). Is there a song that, if sent to you, would immediately raise your pulse and get you looking forward to delights to come? [more inside]
posted by tomorrow at 2:31 PM PST - 74 comments

Influenza Pandemic of 1918 -- fiction recommendations?

What are your recommendations for fiction that considers the Influenza Pandemic of 1918, either as a main focus or as a backdrop? [more inside]
posted by janey47 at 2:11 PM PST - 10 comments

Who are the experts on retail customer experience?

We want to learn all we can about making a customer's experience good (and probably profitable for us) while they are in a store. Is there a field of study for this? Are there iconic books? Favorite bloggers? Oft-cited research papers? [more inside]
posted by jander03 at 1:55 PM PST - 6 comments

What credit sites actually show real scores?

I need to find out my updated credit scores. I've already used up my once a year free inquiry back in April. I've used sites like credit.com and creditkarma but their scores are "modeled" scores and not the real thing. Where can I get accurate reporting on score numbers from the Big 3 bureaus? [more inside]
posted by caveatz at 1:44 PM PST - 7 comments

How to build a career & income as a single parent of special needs kids?

I've driven my career into the ground as a parent of two special needs kids. Where do I go from here? [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats at 1:32 PM PST - 19 comments

Non-Developer Question: Drupal

Do we need another database in addition to the CMS to accomplish this? Can you help a non-developer understand. Can you help me explain it properly? [more inside]
posted by Lescha at 1:09 PM PST - 10 comments

Sit-Stand Desk

I'd like to get a sit-stand desk for my work and I need some advice and suggestions. [more inside]
posted by chirico at 12:50 PM PST - 16 comments

I want to go off psych meds but my family might not. Do I do it anyway?

I made a promise to my family that I wouldn't make decisions about my treatment without them. I want alternative treatment. If they say no, do I still go? [more inside]
posted by defmute at 12:50 PM PST - 73 comments

Foliage Vacation Ideas in the Northeast During Mid-Late October

For my friend’s 40th she’s mentioned that she would like to celebrate by renting a house for an extended, 4-day weekend (between this October 18th and 25th) in a place that hits the following touch points: [more inside]
posted by Gee Your Hair Smells Terrific at 12:30 PM PST - 1 comment

Best bottled salad dressings?

Please give me your best bottled salad dressing recommendations! [more inside]
posted by dynamiiiite at 12:08 PM PST - 33 comments

Yeah but that TrueCoat...

We're going to be buying a refrigerator, a gas stove, an above-range microwave and a dishwasher shortly. All mid-range. What are some good, not-obviously things to note? [more inside]
posted by griphus at 12:03 PM PST - 23 comments

I'm moving, how should I handle my Comcast/Xfinity TV/internet service?

I'm moving. I want to keep using Comcast/Xfinity for TV/internet but I want to save money and/or upgrade my service. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by Perplexity at 11:43 AM PST - 7 comments

Putting my persuasive skills to use for rehiring - advice?

I want to return to a retail job I resigned from last December. A few complicated layers. Snowflake deets hiding under the fold! [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 11:22 AM PST - 32 comments

Windows Server vs Desktop OS for Running a Server

I have to justify the extra cost of Windows Server over the desktop version and I'm having trouble finding what the advantages of Windows Server are. Can a server computer, being used as a server use a desktop OS? Is it advisable to do so? [more inside]
posted by exolstice at 11:21 AM PST - 7 comments

What allergen is it?

I used to live on the East Coast (CT), and now live on the West Coast (WA). Both places, I get allergy symptoms in late August - what could it be? [more inside]
posted by blue_wardrobe at 10:39 AM PST - 5 comments

Yes, I have heard it's a lovely town

I'm moving to Madison, WI and everyone loves it. But why? And is it really perfect? [more inside]
posted by hydrobatidae at 10:18 AM PST - 34 comments

Third hand smoke. How big of a deal is it?

We are expecting our first child in just over a month. My in-laws want to visit ASAP, but FIL is a heavy smoker. How concerned should I be? [more inside]
posted by tealcake at 9:59 AM PST - 38 comments

Help me become a dessert queen.....

I need to make a dessert for a birthday party next week. There will be about 30 people there I think, but desserts are definitely not my forte. My dessert making experience includes: Banana Bread, Chocolate chip cookies, banoffee pie, fruit crumbles and a not great cheesecake. I did not bake ANY cookies as a child and in general, I love cooking but not baking. Also, I will not have use of an oven on the night, so I need to pre-make my dessert and bring it with me. [more inside]
posted by JenThePro at 9:52 AM PST - 29 comments

Follow the rock-paved road

What to do with a rock path in our yard that is almost covered in grass? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 9:30 AM PST - 12 comments

New York noob needs apartment quickly

My daughter was fortunate enough to get a job in Manhattan right after graduation. Now she's looking for an apartment for 9/15 or 10/1 and is feeling overwhelmed because she's not familiar at all with the area. Help! [more inside]
posted by stupidsexyFlanders at 8:53 AM PST - 49 comments

How can we optimize our annual family camping trip?

I'm looking for your favorite schemes, gadgets, and systems which make camping with large groups easier and more fun. Things like "a different campsite hosts dinner every night" or "get lots of solar lanterns" or "color code all the tent parts." Our specific details are inside. [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 7:16 AM PST - 21 comments

Low platelet count

Is anyone running a low plt count? How low? Mine is 130 and think to see a hematologist soon. My count was always kinda low but this is the lowest. Two other times it was 127 and 135 and the rest was above 150. Do you have experience with this? Did you see a doc? What did they find?
posted by barexamfreak at 7:15 AM PST - 5 comments

How hard would it be to build a $500 PC with my son?

I have $500 and need a PC for my son. He plays TF2 and similar games but not the newest cutting edge graphics-power-needing marvels. I could buy one, but would it be a worthwhile dad-son project to build one? How many hours would it take, ballpark? [more inside]
posted by sacre_bleu at 6:38 AM PST - 26 comments

(veggie) burgers and other analog recipes

Which standard recipes, with meat as a key ingredient, have clear vegetarian analogs? Examples, to be clear: for every hamburger, there is a veggie burger (eggplant, cauliflower, etc). Chili con carne becomes chili sin carne. For meatloaf there is Neatloaf. What else should I be thinking of? "Buy fake meat" is not heading in the right direction; "google 'vegetarian [meaty food]'" is a realistic suggestion but which foods?
posted by whatzit at 6:35 AM PST - 33 comments

What are other career options for a puzzle-loving aerospace engineer?

I have been an aerospace engineer at a major aerospace company for 15 years, and I'm ready to try something different. I would really like to do something that involves diagnosing problems or solving puzzles. I love crosswords, cryptograms, logic puzzles, jigsaw puzzles. I hate team management/herding cats/politics. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:27 AM PST - 5 comments

Dumb Idea Filter: Using HSA card for ineligible charges

What's the worst that will happen to me if I use my HSA card for a non-medical bill? Or a few. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:26 AM PST - 23 comments

Career Change to Engineering?

I have a bachelor's degree in a non engineering field but I want to get into engineering and have work experience in a engineering related field, any suggestions on how to best do this? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by KernalM at 6:24 AM PST - 5 comments

geolocating question for techies out there

One of many painful aspects to the James Foley tragedy is that the US attempted rescue, but was in error as to the location of the hostages. I wonder - is there not some geolocating device, maybe even a microchip, that could be required for journalists and tourists/hikers entering a war zone? I can understand that it would be an intolerable risk for soldiers and spies, but Foley was leaving an Internet café when he was abducted - not trying to live a hidden life.
posted by mmiddle at 6:21 AM PST - 11 comments

Flexible Lecture Notes Application for Mac OS or Pen and Paper?

What are the best options for freeform note-taking on a notebook computer these days? (not an iPad). I am returning to Uni to do an MA in Sept and considering whether I should go "old school" pen and paper w/ notebooks or if I should find a reasonable lecture notes application that allows quick easy diagraming, arrows etc and more unstructured text. [more inside]
posted by mary8nne at 5:48 AM PST - 14 comments

NYC plumbing cost. Recommendation for queens/north brooklyn plumbers?

We're doing a pre-war renovation in Jackson Heights, Queens, NYC where our co-op requires we have a plumber replace the branch piping, new valves and shower pan for both the bathroom and the branch piping/valves in the kitchen. Questions: i) Is the below cost estimate reasonable. ii) Any recommendations of pre-war savvy licensed/insured plumbers in Queens or North Brooklyn? [more inside]
posted by lalochezia at 5:47 AM PST - 0 comments

Need a little ham radio callbook help

Fellow hams, do any of you have an '86 or '87 callbook? I'm trying to figure out when I got my technician-class license with an eye toward the upgrade to general class. I was licensed under the old rules, complete with credit for my novice-class code speed. But I don't remember when that happened. The call is KAØIIU. Appreciate it!
posted by bryon at 3:25 AM PST - 2 comments

Is Greyhound shipping too good to be true?

Greyhound shipping seems to be a hell of a lot cheaper than the other options I've seen for shipping furniture. Is it for real, and will my stuff really arrive in one piece without much damage? [more inside]
posted by freelanceastro at 2:07 AM PST - 19 comments

August 21

Help me identify my wedding reading!

This quote is all over the internet with conflicting attributions. Can you help me identify the original source? "You can give without loving, but you can never love without giving..." [more inside]
posted by purplevelvet at 11:27 PM PST - 3 comments

How to pick a name for my company

I would like to pick a name for my construction company. I am living in Vancouver, Canada. I am looking for something tough and masculine as the industry itself. How can I find a catchy name which is not already taken? Also, I would like to use the word "development" instead of "construction" at the end of my company name (xyz development) Do you think it is a good idea since its more general?
posted by mbn1455 at 11:11 PM PST - 22 comments

Should I take this job?

Agonizing over my future career. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by zeusianfog at 10:59 PM PST - 3 comments

Should we have another baby? (sibling edition)

We're trying to decide whether to have another kid, and stuck a bit when we try to evaluate potential effects on the first one. I'm looking for your experiences with sibling relationships (good and bad), including what things we as parents could do (if any) to make it a good one. [more inside]
posted by forza at 10:59 PM PST - 78 comments

Examples of mythological creatures used to describe real thing

I have a specific question about a particular type of "mythology made reality" transformation via language and cultural contact. I'm looking for other instances of this sort of thing, but I'm not sure what to call this or where to search. [more inside]
posted by deathpanels at 9:49 PM PST - 13 comments

Four weeks to prove myself or fall flat on my face

My office has an opening for a supervisor. They've decided that since things move slowly in our organization (government), before selecting someone permanent for the job, it will be opened up to the office and anyone interested can serve in the position for four weeks to "get full sense of the responsibilities." I'm interested in the job for a few reasons but concerned about the pitfalls of being a supervisor for merely four weeks. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:36 PM PST - 8 comments

Not Even Sure Where to Start

I need a new job but I'm not sure where to even start looking. I don't feel like I'm qualified to do much of anything but what I'm doing now but I am BURNT OUT! So what's a 20 something with a sorta-liberal arts degree who hasn't done much but hang out with kids all day supposed to do? [more inside]
posted by missriss89 at 9:11 PM PST - 11 comments

How to make a smoking area smell less horrible?

On a lanai in southwest florida, there is some heavy daily smoking going on. Even with three walls made of screens that open to outside, the smell remains. Looking to find ways to mitigate the stale and persistent smoke smell. The amount of smoking is not going to decrease, looking for a product that will help with the smell from the actual smoking and the ashtrays full of butts (which are emptied fairly often.) [more inside]
posted by slowtree at 9:10 PM PST - 10 comments

Tights... are... too... tight!

I have a major issue with tights fitting, how could this be so difficult? My tattooed and soon-to-be-dealing-with-cold-weather legs need your help! [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 8:49 PM PST - 27 comments

Best way to get internet when there's no wifi

My workplace doesn't have wifi, so I am not able to access the internet from my laptop, which is what I use at work (I don't have a desktop). What is my best option of getting internet at work? [more inside]
posted by madonna of the unloved at 8:38 PM PST - 6 comments

Unusual birthday presents for 15 year old boy

We're stumped. He's turning 15 and our budget is $100. [more inside]
posted by viggorlijah at 7:59 PM PST - 41 comments

Is Magnetic Fluid Conditioning legit?

We're looking at water softeners for the house. In searching around the net, I came across Magnetic Fluid Conditioning. Is this legit? or snakeoil?
posted by falsedmitri at 7:25 PM PST - 7 comments

Anti-phishing extension or option for Gmail that works like this?

I'm responsible for the IT for a small business, and I'm constantly worried that one of our users, despite my frequent warnings, will click on a gmail phishing link accidentally, perhaps in an early morning daze. I know that Google and some others (Netcraft and Wot) maintain blacklists, but I'm sure none of those have nearly perfect coverage. So I'm basically just looking for an extension or pre-existing option (that I might not know about) which warns the user clicking on an email link, unless the destination domain is on a whitelist. [more inside]
posted by grammalvsu at 7:08 PM PST - 4 comments

What would the Kittah Monks name her?

I wander into the room calling out, "hey beautiful" to the gorgeous five year old kitty I just adopted. She was named the same in Italian and though she is, the name is just a little too precious for my tastes. [more inside]
posted by squeak at 7:01 PM PST - 37 comments

Looking For Best Entertainment Solution

With all of the technology and information at our fingertips, I am having finding the best way to watch movies. There are no longer any video stores near me. I have amazon prime, HBOgo and Netflix & my cable company on demand. It seems like every time that I want to see a movie it is not on Netflix or HBOgo, but is on Prime. [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 6:45 PM PST - 6 comments

A play of palindromes

When I was in high school, in 1990, I found a humor collection in my school library. I am trying to remember the name of the collection. It contained a play written entirely in palindromes. I believe, but am not certain, that it contained a story by James Thurber, possibly about a man named Margaret. I'd really like to track down the name of the play and/or the author. Does this ring any bells for anyone?
posted by plague at 5:51 PM PST - 1 comment

Poem about Jack, who rescues a baby from an oncoming train and dies.

My sister-in-law, who has been trying to find this poem for years, first heard it from her grandmother. It's at least 50 years old and rhymes.
posted by she's not there at 5:49 PM PST - 4 comments

Recommendations for a comprehensive financial planner in the DC area

In need of recommendations for a comprehensive financial planner in the DC area. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:46 PM PST - 4 comments

Are there any lawsuits against Teach for America?

I'm researching Teach for America as an organization, and I was wondering if there are any lawsuits against them by former corps members currently in the works.
posted by Kombucha3452 at 5:26 PM PST - 3 comments

Toolbelt for the Tech Savvy Teacher

Help! I need a toolbelt-like sling or sash that I can wear in my classroom, to hold a tablet, pens and pencils, and a remote or two. Preferably something that doesn't look ridiculous. [more inside]
posted by thelastpolarbear at 5:18 PM PST - 10 comments

I want to know who made my vase. How do I do that?

I bought a vase at a thrift store today (pics of the vase and the marks on the bottom are here). I'd love to know who made it, but I don't even know what to Google. [more inside]
posted by christinetheslp at 4:42 PM PST - 3 comments

No violence but dark TV?

I like dark and/or intriguing television shows. I like shows with interesting characters and long pay offs. What I do not like are any sudden scenes with violence against women or children. I have access to all counties of Netflix but no other streaming services. What can I watch? [more inside]
posted by kanata at 4:41 PM PST - 37 comments

Protein on the go

I'm looking for vegetarian high protein / paleo foods that are easy to carry while on the go. Snowflakes inside... [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 4:38 PM PST - 14 comments

Employment, past salary, and credit checks in the information age

At what point in the process can a prospective employer get my actual salary amount from my soon-to-be-previous employer? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:12 PM PST - 11 comments

Inducing Lactation Is Not An Option.

Problem: every time I buy a quart of milk, it spoils before I can use more than a few tablespoons. Goal: be able to drink coffee at home on the weekends without wasting a gallon of milk a month. Solution: ????? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. at 4:08 PM PST - 58 comments

UK wine drinker wanting to save money!

Looking for somewhere online that sells cheap wine by the box. Anyone recommend a good website? [more inside]
posted by welovelife at 4:07 PM PST - 2 comments

PHL connection time?

On Thanksgiving Wednesday, we'll arrive at the Philadelphia airport, probably at terminal F (US Airways) at 8:15 in the morning. We leave 80 minutes later, probably from terminal B (US Airways, again). No checked luggage, pre-cleared for customs, just pick up bags and run. Given Thanksgiving craziness and picking up the shuttle to C-16 so we stay inside security, is this still doable? When does it become Thanksgiving hectic? [more inside]
posted by flibbertigibbet at 3:54 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me science! Finding bulk sources of lactobacillus

I'm looking for bulk sources of lactobacilli to use in fermenting vegetables, specifically L. plantarum, L. mesenteroides, and P. acidilactici -- help me science? [more inside]
posted by bitter-girl.com at 3:51 PM PST - 9 comments

Best Nursery Rocking Chair (and other nursery furniture)?

My husband and I are expecting a baby in December and we've realized it's time to get serious about getting furniture for the nursery. We're specifically looking for a great rocking chair, but we're also looking for recommendations for cribs, dressers, strollers, car seats, etc. [more inside]
posted by McPuppington the Third at 3:48 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for unethical speeches?

I'm preparing an assignment for college freshmen in a public speaking class that involves analyzing speeches, particularly looking at how ethical the speaker is (i.e. Did she fairly represent the content of her cited sources? Do his arguments make sense, or does he use fallacious reasoning to lead his audience to false conclusions?) [more inside]
posted by Pater Aletheias at 3:25 PM PST - 22 comments

How to set up a home library when I can't buy all new shelves

I'm moving my approximately 900 books to a new apartment and will be combining them with my fiancee's books. I need tips for organization. [more inside]
posted by Jahaza at 3:18 PM PST - 14 comments

Riding an electric horse?

This week I am trying to ID a folk song from Sweden. Google, Musipedia and Baidu (the book is a Chinese music book) all are of no help. The title of the song is the title of this question. Here is a youtube link to the song. Thanks for your help!
posted by ditto75 at 3:09 PM PST - 2 comments

Should I file a contempt claim on my ex-husband?

My ex-husband hates me. I mean, REALLY hates me. I left him 4 years ago after years of emotional and verbal abuse, and he still has not once looked me in the eye or spoken directly to me since then. We have a 10-year-old daughter together and the divorce agreement says we should split her medical costs (doctor visits and prescription meds) 50/50. I emailed him to ask him to pay his share ($30) from a recent appointment and he emailed back saying that because he had taken her to get her hair cut, he should not have to pay. He then sent me pictures (!) of some over-the-counter cough drops he'd purchased for our daughter and demanded that I reimburse him for them, saying that if I refused I would "set a dangerous and vitriolic (sic) precedent in our relationship." What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:03 PM PST - 24 comments

How much noise is usual and/or acceptable in a shared house?

I have been reflecting on my very recent experience in a house-share from which I am now, blessedly, removed. Specifically, I am doing some reflection on my issues with the noise level, and trying to figure out, for my own future reference, whether the noise levels in the house were reasonable or unreasonable. I would love the hive mind to weigh in about whether the following noise in a shared house is okay or not, as I am obviously not the most dispassionate judge at this point. [more inside]
posted by ClaireBear at 2:34 PM PST - 31 comments

Hawaii on the Cheap? Or where should we go for our 10-year anniversary

Seeking options for Hawaii on the cheap or nominations for alternate holiday destinations for our 10-year wedding anniversary. [more inside]
posted by Brittanie at 2:33 PM PST - 10 comments

How to create Interstitial Ads?

A client wants to do some interstitial ads and I've built the creative, a simple JPEG which they want to appear on mobile devices, with the ability for the userto close the ad, of course. What's the next step in creating this, if we're using Google DFP? It seems as though I need another piece of software to produce the code calls for DFP, but I'm not clear on how or what (while suspecting it's something simple I'm missing) that is. Talk slowly so I can absorb it all, thanks.
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 2:19 PM PST - 7 comments

Bathrooms are gross. Cleaning shouldn't be worse.

How do you clean your grody tiled bathroom floors -- without causing more mess to clean up now or later? [more inside]
posted by Madamina at 1:39 PM PST - 30 comments

Where to live in the Capital Region (upstate NY)?

We may be moving to upstate NY, and would like advice about where to live. We're looking for an apartment right now, but would hopefully be looking for a house at some point. [more inside]
posted by Kriesa at 1:32 PM PST - 6 comments

Best route from LA to Bay Area?

Looking for advice on a long drive [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 1:25 PM PST - 16 comments

What is this monitor connector type? Can I connect it to my new MB Air?

I inherited an old Dell PC, and I'd like to be able to use the monitor for a second display for my MacBook Air. The connector cable is a type I don't recognize -- it's not VGA. It looks like this. [more inside]
posted by dr. boludo at 1:24 PM PST - 10 comments

My Best Frenemy's Wedding

(ugh.) Friend B from this post is getting married next month, and I don't want to go. Or I do want to go, to support her fiance and be with old friends. But I don't want to celebrate her in any way. How do I proceed and keep my dignity? [more inside]
posted by magdalemon at 1:20 PM PST - 45 comments

She bought a condo w/ a laminate floor; is this deception?

A friend of a friend bought an expensive condominium in Mid Manhattan. It appeared to me the floors are laminate; I have to return and look closer. Aside from the major cheapness factor, they are advertised as having wood floors. Is this a deception? How does she get clarification? Would her purchase documents have this detailed?
posted by ebesan at 12:48 PM PST - 33 comments

I guess I'm moving to West Hollywood?

So, I didn't get the apartment I applied for in my last question. But . . . I'm moving into a surprisingly cheap three bedroom apartment in West Hollywood! I've lived east of Vermont pretty much from the start of my time in LA, and my early brief stint in West Hollywood was pretty miserable. I'm a little sad to leave Echo Park, but I want to get psyched about West Hollywood! [more inside]
posted by ablazingsaddle at 12:10 PM PST - 12 comments

Our vacation destination is...North Dakota!

To celebrate our anniversary, Mr. DrGail and I are planning a weeklong road trip to the only one of the lower 48 states we haven't visited: North Dakota. Now that we have a destination, what is there to do? [more inside]
posted by DrGail at 11:53 AM PST - 14 comments

Where are some decent, non-magnet American urban public high schools?

My definition of decent = half kids go to college or something post-secondary, relatively safe (low risk of gang violence, I hope I'm not being presumptuous), stable (admin and teachers not always leaving every year). Non Magnet means no competition to get in, just living within a school district. My definition of urban means walkable and fairly dense, but not college towns.
posted by sandmanwv at 11:46 AM PST - 21 comments

How can I Memento-ize videos, or play their scenes back-to-front?

Is there a video player that can either play a file's chapters in reverse order, or better yet, scan through a video to detect scenes (editors do this, right?), and then play them in reverse sequence?
posted by unmake at 11:25 AM PST - 3 comments

How do you compare profits to loss due to inflation?

I'm trying to compare the compounded losses due to inflation to non-compounded profits. E.g. if inflation makes me lose 3% of an investment each year, what % would I need to profit each year in order to exactly keep up? This is tricky because the profit is not compounded the way inflation is. I'm not looking for an answer to this specific question, but rather, looking for a tool or method to do this kind of math. [more inside]
posted by brenton at 11:20 AM PST - 12 comments

What's a good analogy for prioritizing work process tasks?

At my company customers place orders online. Orders get selected for fraud screening and need to be worked in the most efficient way possible. Some orders take priority (customer pays for rush shipping and order needs to be screened today, so the warehouse can get it out the door). Currently orders are split into separate reports based on priority and workers are assigned to one report at a time. I want to combine them all into one report and assign all workers to that report. [more inside]
posted by robadobdob at 11:19 AM PST - 4 comments

User Experience Design Certification -- worth it?

Are UX design certification programs seen as worthwhile by employers? Worthwhile enough to spend $4,000 and a year of my life to try to transition from content strategist/editor/creator to UX design work? [more inside]
posted by faunafrailty at 11:00 AM PST - 11 comments

Aspartame free diet soft drink in Canada?

Other than Diet Crush (orange), is there any other aspartame free diet soft drink available in Canada? (Nova Scotia to be more precise.)
posted by aroberge at 10:52 AM PST - 11 comments

ACL Surgery + New Job/Insurance -- who do I talk to?

So I tore my ACL and would like to have it reconstructed. I have been offered a job that starts late September that would offer superior health insurance. I would ideally like to be on that insurance when I get the surgery, how do I make that happen? [more inside]
posted by sibboleth at 10:47 AM PST - 5 comments

Will good Fall color extend into October in Telluride, CO

My wife and I had to move our road trip to the Telluride area back a couple of weeks to the first week of October. I'm worried that we will be greeted with bare aspen trees! I know that the timing of peak color can change from year to year, so I realize that any advice is just a best guess. So, are we in luck? Thanks!
posted by Don_K at 10:30 AM PST - 7 comments

Ancient roads of Pinellas County??

What used to be in these preserves in northern St Petersburg FL? [more inside]
posted by FlamingBore at 10:12 AM PST - 8 comments

Facebook Ads, enemy mine.

This one goes out to my fellow social media something somethings: Facebook Promoted Posts: When I choose the targeting, almost half of the brands/websites I want to choose aren't available. I start typing the name of the page, and it just never comes up as an option. Some of common names (Twice/www.liketwice.com) some have weirder names (The RealReal), but it's the same issue. Is there a way around this? A trick I don't know? Or is this just another way Facebook exists to make me tear my hair out?
posted by mostlymartha at 10:07 AM PST - 1 comment

DC Taxi with a Baby?

If you're flying in to Reagan National Airport in DC with a baby and your own car seat, how do you get a cab to your hotel? Will the regular cabs at the cab stand be able to accommodate you, or should you reserve a car service or cab ahead of time? If the latter, can you recommend a company? [more inside]
posted by bluefly at 9:52 AM PST - 13 comments

Never thought being over-insured would be a bad thing.

Looking for any experiences, counsel, legal referrals to deal with health insurance clawback/SNAFU that's has my blood boiling. [more inside]
posted by donovan at 9:48 AM PST - 12 comments

Best food processor for peanut butter, and other uses.

Tell me about your food processor, especially if you use it to make peanut butter. Our food processor's bowl is cracked, and rather than replacing the bowl, we're thinking of upgrading. Consumer Reports recomments a Cuisinart ($180-$300) or Breville ($400), but the high end of that price range seems too steep for us, considering how much we use the thing. That said, we're willing to pay around $200 for a good machine. I'm interested in your recommendations. [more inside]
posted by BrashTech at 9:18 AM PST - 16 comments

Nomenclature needed for a tool

If you were working with a digital tool that was responsible for placing or verifying digital signatures, what would you expect that tool to be called? Not a product name, but rather name of the class of tool (like a codec for encoding/decoding or a compiler for translating code in one language to another)?
posted by plinth at 8:49 AM PST - 6 comments

Suburban Exploration--The Most Dangerous Adventure

I moved out to the 'burbs recently. I've never lived in the suburbs before, and stately Haddock Manor (Marlinspike) is in a suburb I visited only once before touring my home and making an offer. How does someone go about exploring the suburbs? I'm only used to cities. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 8:39 AM PST - 25 comments

I want out of this house! How soon can I move?

I have to move soon, and I've found a place that's available starting this Saturday. My question is this: how much time should I budget for packing/moving? I have a small amount of furniture as well as the usual clothes and other belongings. I've packed about half of my stuff, and will pack the rest on Friday and Saturday, with the intention of moving on Sunday. Is this feasible? [more inside]
posted by cabbagesnkings at 7:32 AM PST - 19 comments

First time finding interns, what do I do?!

First time hiring interns and it's all a bit overwhelming, could really use some insight! [more inside]
posted by shesbenevolent at 7:30 AM PST - 23 comments

Define "forceful".

Several different managers have told me that I need to develop a "more forceful" persona. I'm trying to work out exactly what this means. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by ontheradio at 7:30 AM PST - 16 comments

ID help with a flower

Can anyone ID this plant that spontaneously grew in one of the pots on my terrace? I'm in Spain, if tht helps. http://imgur.com/ycqyStw
posted by conifer at 6:59 AM PST - 3 comments

Holst, 'The Planets'

My daughter is Jones-ing to see a performance of Holst's 'The Planets.' Does anyone know the next chance I could make this happen in the general NYC area?
posted by dearleader at 6:24 AM PST - 3 comments

1970s science fiction short story about a young mother going crazy?

There's this science fiction story I can recall reading in at least one anthology, if not multiples. It is told from the perspective of a young mother who is going crazy dealing with her kid(s). The writing is very stark and bleak, but it's a fun story nonetheless. I am fairly certain the author was a woman. I believe it's from the late 60s or early to mid 1970s. [more inside]
posted by Slinga at 5:53 AM PST - 9 comments

Do I need a Suit Jacket in Spain?

I will be traveling in Spain and Portugal next month. We will be staying in Paradors and other nice hotels. I would like to travel light, and not bring a suit jacket. Can I get away with slacks and collared shirts, or will I barred from some restaurants for dress code without a jacket? [more inside]
posted by Flood at 5:46 AM PST - 6 comments

To ask or not to ask?

I am in month 5 of a 6 months probationary period in my new job. Six months probation is standard in any new job in my country. If everything is going smoothly is it assumed that I am staying? [more inside]
posted by sabina_r at 4:53 AM PST - 11 comments

Has anything replaced East Village Radio?

I've been trying to find a replacement for East Village Radio, or some sort of equivalent. Soundcloud and Spotify don't cut it as it requires too much effort curating what I want to listen. Red Bull Music Academy is close, but is too festival/house without a lot of diversity. I'm following a few EVR shows that have migrated to other platforms (Chances with Wolves, Delancey Music Service), but ideally I'd like an app that just plays good music. Awhile back I listened to a left bank French music station that was alright, but I forgot the name and at the time it had a pretty mediocre flash player. This was a legit station however, with ads, I didn't mind it. Any suggestions would be great!
posted by geoff. at 3:48 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for a Dianetics therapist

Hello, I'm looking for a therapist who does Dianetics, and who's NOT affiliated with the Church of Scientology. If anyone knows of such a person or persons and could somehow help connect between us, I would be very grateful to them. [more inside]
posted by rodent at 3:37 AM PST - 16 comments

Why does my rice cooker's power cable have 2 different amp ratings?

I need to replace the power cable for my rice cooker. The kitchen area of my apt is pretty small, and the cable was stupidly close to the stove and I burned a hole through the insulation. On the end of the cable that connects to the mains, it says 16a 250v while the end that plugs into the cooker says 10a 250v. The appliance itself is labeled as 10a 250v. [more inside]
posted by pugg at 12:29 AM PST - 9 comments

August 20

Clothes for jungle hiking for a plus-size woman?

I'm headed to Malaysia in September and plan to do some hiking around the jungle there. Because of the mosquitos, leeches and other critters, I'll need to cover up even if it is very hot and humid out. Does anyone have any recommendations for lightweight long-sleeved shirts and pants for a size ~18 woman?
posted by kms at 11:31 PM PST - 12 comments

In Rosemont/Chicago for a few days. Where to go in my free time?

I'm a Seattleite working at a con in Rosemont. I will have a few free time slots before/after work and before flying out. I'm poor, white, male, late twenties, tend towards being shy but very interested and kind, I like new things, design and evidence of complicated human intent or folly. Not interested in most "sights" tourism, or the idea of "authenticity" tourism. Where to eat and go? [more inside]
posted by tychotesla at 11:07 PM PST - 16 comments

Help me remember the name of a book about how MLM doesn't work.

I am trying to remember the name of a book I read within the past few years about how multilevel marketing (MLM) doesn't work. I could be wrong, but I don't think the book was solely about MLM. The book talks about all the reasons that MLMs don't work, but the one distinguishing thing I remember from the book is: MLMers need to set up "events" at random-ass places, where they get people to sample the product and get them hooked into the scheme. There were *pictures* in the book of these places, and the author made points about there's never any description on the outside about what's happening inside. I remember that one particular MLM sold smoothies or juices or something along those lines, and some of the pictures showed how bizarre it looked to have small cups of juice sitting on a table for people to sample, and no one was in the room. It's a shot in the dark, I know.. but even if you can suggest books that talk about how MLMs don't work, that would be great. Thanks!
posted by wuMeFi at 11:00 PM PST - 2 comments

Is there a plugin that creates this gallery effect?

I'm working on making a magazine blog. I started with a template that is pretty awesome, but I liked the effect another theme used to manage the photo and video gallery. Is there a plugin I can install to achieve this effect or is this hard coded into the template. [more inside]
posted by FireStyle at 10:40 PM PST - 4 comments

What should I know before buying a house in Seattle?

What should I know before buying a house in Seattle? We have a pretty good sense for the neighborhoods (leaning toward Queen Anne or Magnolia) but... How does one find a good real estate agent? (How important is that?) Are there some months that are much better/worse? (We can rent a while before we buy.) Other stuff?
posted by CruiseSavvy at 9:51 PM PST - 8 comments

Travel advice for San Antonio please!

Next month my work is going to send me to scenic San Antonio, TX! Please help me with some recommendations as I have never been there. [more inside]
posted by bile and syntax at 7:30 PM PST - 15 comments

Help me solve an impossible anagram puzzle!

My 12-year-old cousin got a ridiculous word scramble problem at school today and my aunt and I have spent the past 4 hours trying to decode it. 40 letters, 9 words. Can the hive mind save the day? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by sarahgrace at 6:55 PM PST - 23 comments

You can't glue stuff in Catalina

Why doesn't Amazon ship Amazing Goop and presumably other adhesives to Catalina Island? [more inside]
posted by Dansaman at 6:19 PM PST - 7 comments

low down on thansgiving travel and suggestions of where to go

Is traveling over Thanksgiving weekend as bad as everyone says? [more inside]
posted by zw98105 at 5:59 PM PST - 13 comments

minor weight loss for someone with history of ED

I want to lose ten to fifteen pounds. I was bulimic for five years. How do I accomplish the former without revisiting the latter? [more inside]
posted by apophenia at 5:58 PM PST - 19 comments

Fun and games with Wittgenstein

Trying to track down a logic...game? Puzzle program? Studying aid type thing. [more inside]
posted by kkokkodalk at 5:53 PM PST - 5 comments

Simple vegetarian weight loss recipes

I'm a vegetarian who is trying to lose weight. Unfortunately, I never bothered to gain cooking skills so I don't really know what normal dieters do to feed themselves during the week. Recipe suggestions, por favor? [more inside]
posted by cosmicbeast at 5:45 PM PST - 15 comments

Who took this photo?

I'd love to see more work by this photographer. I've tried what I think are likely google searches and have found nothing - maybe I'm using the wrong search terms, but if anyone knows or has suggestions, I'd be grateful! Photo here.
posted by blaneyphoto at 5:41 PM PST - 5 comments

8 hours inCalgary, what's a must-see?

I'm in Calgary at the tail end of a Canadian Rockies visit, and my flight doesn't leave until 18:30 tomorrow. I would like to do only-in-Calgary stuff! [more inside]
posted by Pocahontas at 3:50 PM PST - 12 comments

oh, 2015 mini cooper, shalt thou be my noble steed?

questions about the reliability and driveability of the mini cooper. [more inside]
posted by koroshiya at 3:46 PM PST - 20 comments

Advice on how to manage without authority

I'm the junior member of a 2-person legal team for a government agency. I routinely have to ask people wholly outside my chain of command to do things for me or, more rarely, correct work when it's not compliant with law/policy/practice. I've successfully won over the majority of the staff in my year with the agency, but one staff member is routinely argumentative with me. How do I fix this? [more inside]
posted by mchorn at 3:36 PM PST - 32 comments

7 minute workout, gym edition

This widely-shared 7-minute workout from the NYT is designed to be done anywhere, without any gym equipment. How could it be improved when you do have access to a fully-equipped gym? [more inside]
posted by neat graffitist at 3:17 PM PST - 6 comments

What is this bug? Should I be afraid (very very afraid?)

I hate bugs, and I have one that is in my space. Can the generous and awesome amateur (or professional) entomologists of MetaFilter help me identify it, and perhaps give me a general sense of how dangerous it might or might not be? [more inside]
posted by SMPA at 3:14 PM PST - 15 comments

Turkey Safety

So. We are Americans planning to spend a week in Turkey in two weeks. Should we reconsider? [more inside]
posted by floweredfish at 2:37 PM PST - 19 comments

State of French scientific knowledge about the moon in 1878

need some pointers as to research strategies/leads to find out about the state of the art knowledge about the moon in 1878, with particular reference to things arising in or popular in the French scientific community. First thoughts are Times digital archive and to look for an encyclopaedia of similar date. Any leads appreciated.
posted by aesop at 2:22 PM PST - 9 comments

What are your best reporting/writing hacks?

So I'm finally getting some freelance assignments. Yay! But how do I actually do this organizationally? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 2:22 PM PST - 9 comments

What are these tiny growths on my cat's carpal pads (near the dew claw)?

The other day I happened to notice these little growths on my cat's carpal pads. The rest of her claws, including her dew claw are normal and I trim them regularly. For some reason, I either have not noticed these growths on her carpal pad or they're new. I've included a picture of each paw inside. [more inside]
posted by DorothySmith at 2:17 PM PST - 9 comments

blister! and running a race on Saturday!

I am running a 5k on Saturday, and have really been loving running five days a week for the last couple of months. This morning I forgot to wear socks while walking 2 miles to work (didn't have coffee before leaving the house) and now I have a blister on my left foot. How do I quickly fix this? I am really hoping to run tonight and have made plans to run with friends tomorrow! Help!
posted by redwaterman at 1:29 PM PST - 12 comments

Plural of Agent Provocateur

What is the plural form of "agent provocateur" and what other compound words use a similar pluralization scheme in English? At first I thought it followed the pattern of attorneys general or courts-martial but now I'm not so sure.
posted by Jeff Howard at 1:12 PM PST - 30 comments

Read something awesome, cannot remember title or author

A woman in the 60's was a pretty extreme activist, sabotaging oil rigs in the Gulf of Mexico. [more inside]
posted by Golem XIV at 12:43 PM PST - 6 comments

Where to stay and what to do in 2 days on the North Shore in Minnesota?

We have just 2 1/2 days to visit the North Shore of Minnesota in mid-September (Thursday - Saturday). It's my my wonderful mother-in-law, husband and me. Likes: nature walks/easy hikes, great food, tours/museums, boat rides, beautiful views, bookstores. Needs: lodging with good beds (injured back healing); two bedrooms. Any suggestions for (a) where to stay, and (b) things to do? We'll be driving up from Minneapolis, so the shorter the drive the better (due to injured-back situation).
posted by apennington at 12:32 PM PST - 6 comments

How to coat a bone in stainless steel

Let's say you wanted to coat bones, on an industrial, mass production scale, in stainless steel, without damaging the bones underneath too much. [more inside]
posted by bswinburn at 12:26 PM PST - 15 comments

Tent for the liftgate of my minivan

I want to make a tent that goes over the opened lift gate (hatchback?) of my minivan. The ones I've seen are expensive, and I have an old tent, plus a couple of old tent flies and some mesh screen. The tent acts as an extension of the van and allows in air. Could also be used as privacy space for the camping potty. So, ideas and suggestions for making it as good as possible? Have you ever made your own tent? [more inside]
posted by theora55 at 12:15 PM PST - 3 comments

What to send/do for a friend who lost her preemie?

A friend who lives far from me delivered a beautiful baby boy yesterday at 24 weeks and lost him only hours later. I would like to send her something, what should I send? [more inside]
posted by saradarlin at 12:13 PM PST - 22 comments

Images of crops/livestock before selective breeding

I'm giving a talk soon that will include a few slides about the dramatic changes wrought by selective breeding, mostly on food crops and livestock. I'm looking for examples and images (ideally public domain) that I can use to say e.g. "here's what it looked like in the wild, and here's what it looks like after 2,000 years of domestication". [more inside]
posted by metaBugs at 12:06 PM PST - 19 comments

Moving in?

Boyfriend of 1.5 years and I considering joining homes. Some extenuating circumstances... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:05 PM PST - 17 comments

Behavioral Optometry?

Daughter's optometrist is pushing behavioral optometry testing and treatment. It sounded legit when she was discussing it with me, but the handout is setting off alarm bells, and Googling it isn't any more reassuring. Does anybody have any experience with/knowledge of this type of testing and treatment? Is the optometrist pushing alternative medicine at me? [more inside]
posted by moira at 11:25 AM PST - 14 comments

Care to play Cyrano?

A dear friend is very anxious about writing someone who once declared his love yet who now ignores her. What might be the proper etiquette here? [more inside]
posted by R2WeTwo at 11:13 AM PST - 68 comments

Gifts for the modern Canadian luthier

What to give a woodworker, when you know nothing about guitars? [more inside]
posted by monkeymonkey at 11:02 AM PST - 14 comments

"Camping"

I'd like to find a small cabin rental in Northern California that is, ideally, somewhat isolated, affordable, and has electricity. Bonus points for near Oakland or Monterey. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 10:58 AM PST - 4 comments

Places to hang out in New York?

Hey Internet. I'm lonely and bored. I graduated from college in May and haven't had any luck finding paid work or even volunteer work so far. Can you recommend some free/cheap places I can hang out in NYC with my laptop? Or free events/activities during the day? If there's any place that will let me walk in and volunteer, that would be great, too. [more inside]
posted by topoisomerase at 10:32 AM PST - 13 comments

Black people killed by black cops?

Where can I find statistics of black officers who have used lethal force against black people.
posted by CollectiveMind at 9:55 AM PST - 4 comments

Marriage counseling in Durham, NC

My wife and I are in desperate need for marriage counseling. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Small non-profit seeks automated backup for Windows file server

Our organization recently bought a new file server (running Server 2012), but the old server probably has a few years of life remaining in it. I'd like to place the old server at the opposite end of the building and use it to host real-time backups through the LAN. [more inside]
posted by alex1965 at 9:38 AM PST - 5 comments

Sriracha + Harissa: A Spicy Mystery

Why do sriracha and harissa disagree with my digestive system, when many other spicy foods that also contain chiles and garlic do not? [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 9:22 AM PST - 22 comments

How do I get my toddler to stay in bed?

How do I get my almost two-year old to stay in his new toddler bed? [more inside]
posted by amro at 9:13 AM PST - 29 comments

Best resources for learning SQL for database newbies

I am making a transition from an Excel-based reporting analyst to a database-oriented role in which SQL will be the primary necessary skill. I have next to zero database experience. I'm looking for resources that would be effective at teaching me what I need to learn. More within… [more inside]
posted by JimBJ9 at 9:06 AM PST - 15 comments

Basic n00b info for international container shipping?

n00b wants to do international container shipping. Please advise and assist. [more inside]
posted by Meatbomb at 9:03 AM PST - 4 comments

Teenage Engineering OP-1 Alternatives?

I've fallen in love with a friend's OP-1. It's limited enough not to feel overwhelming, but versatile enough that it feels possible to create quality work; doing a little bit of everything synth/sequence/sample/drum machine/recorder. It feels like it hits just the right sweet spot between tool and toy. Unfortunately at $850 it's a purchase that I really can't justify. Is there a software (osx or ipad) or hardware solution that offers a similar all in one, versatile, fun to use electronic music production environment?
posted by I Foody at 8:48 AM PST - 3 comments

As an agnostic, how can I successfully work with a religious client?

I'm the only copywriter at a mid-sized advertising agency. We just landed a huge job that's going to require a lot of work on my end. Here's the problem: I'm agnostic, and religion (namely Christianity) makes me really cranky and frothy. The client is a faith-based company that makes things (I don't want to say what) for churches. How can I make it through unscathed? [more inside]
posted by shiggins at 8:35 AM PST - 47 comments

Towels really antimicrobial?

I went to buy some new kitchen towels, and every brand labeled theirs as being treated to be antimicrobial, and that it "doesn't wash off". Is this a legit claim? What are these towels actually treated with? [more inside]
posted by dancing leaves at 7:41 AM PST - 16 comments

Recs for a Dallas psychiatrist and a G.P. who take Cigna insurance?

Depressive here. If you know of a Dallas psychiatrist that you have heard good things about who takes Cigna, I sure would appreciate their name. I could also use the name of a good general practitioner that takes Cigna, but this is secondary to my main concern of finding the psychiatrist. Thanks for any suggestions. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:15 AM PST - 3 comments

Podcast equivalent of "30 for 30"

Looking for sports podcasts which are not sports news or discussion of sports news. More sports documentary, if you will. [more inside]
posted by DevilsAdvocate at 7:04 AM PST - 6 comments

Help, I have a real job!

I'm due to start my first job post-PhD on Monday. It's a tech job outside of academia, vaguely related to my field of study (but not my research). I've never had a job in an office before. What should I expect the first day? What do I need to bring with me (besides documents for an I-9)? What am I supposed to wear? (I'm assuming err on the side of formal relative to what people were wearing when I interviewed, but not as formal as for the interview.)
posted by hoyland at 7:01 AM PST - 20 comments

Advice on how to study for an approaching exam

I'm a university student and I have a math exam in 10 days. I didn't really study much and only covered about 25% of the required material. In order to pass this exam (based on other people's experiences and my own evaluation) I would need to study about 10 hours per day for the next few days. But there's a problem - I've never done so much studying in such a short time frame. [more inside]
posted by _Seeker_ at 7:00 AM PST - 11 comments

So I'm pretty much not looking for a suit on craigslist anymore, right?

I have a very very niche job. I've been doing it for over ten years now and have made about $28,000 per year. Because of my experience, I was called in for a meet and greet. It was going to lead nowhere. So, I pretty much blew it off, and blew the next one off, and showed up to the third because it was on my way home. They hired me and gave me a job that pays about $786,000 per year. I was told that they had reservations about me and told me they were bothered by the fact that I wore "denim with unpatched holes" at the interview. I didn't even think I was being considered. This is very unreal. And now I will have a job that pays me more in my bimonthly check than my last year's entire gross. I will be working with a different clientele, and my position will have more prestige than previously. So how do I dress? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:59 AM PST - 60 comments

New Laptop Needed – Alternatives to Windows 8

I’m in need of a new laptop, and I get the impression I ought to avoid Windows 8. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by xenization at 6:20 AM PST - 29 comments

how much does an ISP know?

Does your ISP know the sites you're going to and what you're doing there if you use a strong or open VPN? [more inside]
posted by Opengreen at 6:17 AM PST - 8 comments

NeedHelpWithaHorseFilter: Inherited a horse in Vermont. What to do?

I inherited a riding horse when my father died a few years ago. Until recently I was able to provide for it at a relatively low cost, but that is changing and I am in a dilemma as to what to do. Looking for possible solutions, especially from resident Vermont Mefites. [more inside]
posted by jeremias at 6:13 AM PST - 13 comments

Need advice on (sort of) selling my car out of state

I want to sort of lease my car (that I'm still making payments on) to someone in a different state. Am I crazy? [more inside]
posted by anansi at 5:46 AM PST - 8 comments

Advice on getting a Benefit Exception from our healthcare insurer?

Husband needs open heart surgery. Our preferred surgeon is not on our healthcare plan. We're going to request a benefit exception. We are in Washington state. We are on an individual plan, not with an employer. I called the insurer and requested a case worker. Any suggestions on my approach? Feeling overwhelmed already. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:02 AM PST - 1 comment

Please hire me for X, Y, and Z positions

After a month and a half of unsuccessful job seeking, I'm running into the problem of applying to multiple jobs at the same institutions. Is this okay? Are there any problems I should be aware of? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:01 AM PST - 9 comments

Does glassdoor.com accurately reflect salaries in your company/industry?

According to glassdoor I am really well paid for my title and company. I'm pretty sure I am either underpaid or average, based on what I have heard from recruiters and my management. What is your experience? Does glassdoor seem to skew low? [more inside]
posted by rainydayfilms at 4:52 AM PST - 9 comments

Painful knee joint: what is going on?

I have had a knee problem for two/three years now. If I sit with my right knee bent for a long period of time the joint starts to hurt, not much at first, but the pain can become quite uncomfortable after a while. If I fully extend my leg my knee joint clicks, just like when you crack your knuckles, and the pain goes away. What is up with my knee? [more inside]
posted by 0bvious at 4:20 AM PST - 6 comments

Erroneously received American Airlines eVouchers.

I received emails containing American Airlines eVouchers. It looks like the vouchers were meant for a family with a last name similar to mine. What to do? [more inside]
posted by outlaw of averages at 2:24 AM PST - 16 comments

The bureaucracy of international remote coding work

From a description of a web company: "Everyone works from their own home or office, and we’re spread out all over the world — California, Texas, New York, Canada, Ireland, Scotland, Japan, Iceland, Bulgaria, Australia, and more." I know lots of development companies operate like this, and I'm intrigued, but I don't know how it works, especially the aspect of taxation, citizenship, etc. [more inside]
posted by mbrock at 1:01 AM PST - 3 comments

where are you, my fellow nerds?

I've lived in Kansas City for about three years, and due to my tendency to be an introvert I really haven't found any friends outside of work. I tend to get along best with nerdy intellectual/perpetual student types, but am open to branching out a bit. I've tried Meetup groups with little success. Anybody have ideas I could check out? KC specific or more general wouldn't hurt either. Thanks!
posted by gilsonal at 12:42 AM PST - 10 comments

August 19

Setting parental boundaries

My father and I have a complicated history that colors our present relationship. Help me figure out how to set compassionate boundaries. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:07 PM PST - 11 comments

How to work under an insecure boss?

I'm struggling with a social / political issue at work. I have been in my current job for about a year. I am a little overqualified for the position, but I really like most aspects of it and it's a small enough field that other similar jobs are hard to come by, so I'd vastly prefer it if the solution doesn't involve quitting. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:05 PM PST - 10 comments

resources for planning and executing a career change?

Are any of the coaches / services out there that advise on how to change careers actually legit and useful? I need help figuring out a career change and I see a million books and services out there for me to consume, but I would really value recommendations of someone who has successfully used any of those resources. My goal is to find a position showcasing writing and/or research skills. [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 8:46 PM PST - 2 comments

Who, if anyone, can smell salt water and sugar water?

Can anyone smell the difference between a cup of normal water, a cup of salt water (not ocean water, just salt dissolved in water), and a cup of sugar water? And if so, who/what level of smeller, precisely? Does your answer change if the water is warm but not steaming? What about steaming? [more inside]
posted by vegartanipla at 8:13 PM PST - 27 comments

Will an Rx for antidepressants in China cause future visa probs?

I live and work in China, and for the past few years have been struggling with some personal issues. So far I've been soldiering through, but I'm just about ready to go talk to a doctor/psychiatrist about whether or not I should try a course of antidepressants. [more inside]
posted by duoshao at 7:21 PM PST - 1 comment

How much should my housemate pay me back for breaking my laptop?

Last Year my housemate (and good friend) spilt tea on my laptop and it broke. The laptop was about 2 years old and worth $1300.00. At the time he couldn't afford to pay me anything, and as I was low on cash myself I replaced it with cheaper tablet option, worth $450.00. A year has now passed and he is in a better position to pay me back- What do you think is a fair amount given the worth of the 2 year old laptop and the amount I spent replacing it?
posted by Valdigs at 7:18 PM PST - 22 comments

A little freaked out about giving out my password to hired designer...

I want to hire a WordPress Pro to fix up my lame looking site. Does this have to entail me giving that Pro my admin password? This scares me. Should this not scare me? Is there another way? [more inside]
posted by gravitypanda at 7:07 PM PST - 15 comments

Where can I see a great sunset near Sydney, Australia?

In six months I'm travelling to Sydney, Australia to visit a friend and I thought it'd be a great idea to watch the sunset to act as a memory for us both. Where is a good place outside of the city for this?
posted by hytrack at 6:43 PM PST - 12 comments

What's the deal with the ASQSE?

My 21 month old's daughter just sent home with her a questionnaire called the ASQSE, which from what I gather is intended to help diagnose ASD. Her answers on the questionnaire would indicate that she doesn't have a problem. BUT. They sent this thing home with me for a reason, right? [more inside]
posted by Night_owl at 5:10 PM PST - 13 comments

Can this umbrella be saved?

I have a compact Burberry umbrella that broke after I used it on a rainy, windy day, and I'd like to try repairing it. [more inside]
posted by orange swan at 5:03 PM PST - 3 comments

Seeking texts (any medium) on online representation/digital subcultures

I'm applying to teach an honors-level composition course with a theme of online self-representations and virtual communities. What are some cool texts (in any media) that I can show my students to get them thinking about different aspects of this theme? [more inside]
posted by littlegreen at 4:57 PM PST - 3 comments

What small plant(s) would like to live in my shower niche?

Instead of placing soap in the platform of my shower designed to hold soap, I would like to have one or a few small plants grow there. What species should I be considering for this periodically moist environment? Difficulty level: history of repeat herbicide. & I want these plants to quietly flourish.
posted by bertran at 4:52 PM PST - 13 comments

How can I find the best education attorney in the Seattle area?

After my last ask, I am feeling I am definitely being given the runaround by school officials and need to get an education attorney. What should I look for and what is the best way to find a good one?
posted by corb at 4:10 PM PST - 1 comment

Help, I need to buy a new suitcase in Midtown Manhattan!

My old suitcase finally gave out on me. I got it off the luggage carousel at LaGuardia this morning and the frame is separating from the rest of the bag. I'm worried it will fall apart if I try to fly it home to Minnesota on Friday morning. I'm staying near the Chrysler building and I should be free from 5-6 pm tomorrow evening. Is there somewhere nearby where I can buy a new suitcase that isn't going to break the bank? I hate spending a lot on luggage, but I also don't want to lose or ruin my stuff.
posted by Area Man at 3:29 PM PST - 18 comments

Crowdfunding a previously venture-funded education project. Possible?

Scenario: Funded by a well-known VC, a previously successful (sold last company to Motorola) creates a (hyperbole, aside) revolutionary video instruction platform that *eliminates* bandwidth constraints, worldwide, at the same time increasing the capacity for student interaction by an order-of-magnitude and optimizing data analysis capacity of educational video. [more inside]
posted by Vibrissae at 3:26 PM PST - 11 comments

What consequences will a Canadian speeding ticket have on a US resident?

I got clocked speeding in an area of Montreal with an 18 mph speed limit (that I didn't know about). I got a ticket and was sent on my way. As a US citizen and resident, I have questions about what impact (if any) this ticket will have on my license, insurance, and--if I choose not to pay the ticket--my ability to return to Canada. (Note: I am not seriously considering ignoring the ticket, I'm just curious.) [more inside]
posted by yellowcandy at 3:13 PM PST - 4 comments

I want to hear about your weird yummy pizza orders!

My in-laws order pizza a lot. They love it. Some people pepperoni, some just cheese. No matter what I do, it's always dry bread with cheese and grease. I'm even getting tired of Hawaiian style, my favorite. Help me innovate more pizza ideas! [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 1:48 PM PST - 90 comments

How to deal with the anxiety of approaching my late 20s

Turning 27 - help me make the best of it. [more inside]
posted by tackypink at 1:40 PM PST - 30 comments

Looking for a landscape stand for iPod/iPhone

I'm looking for a stand or combo charger/stand that holds an iPod in landscape mode I can recommend to users of my app. The app operates in landscape mode and is designed to run on an iPod (or iPhone) sitting sideways on a nightstand. [more inside]
posted by cosmac at 1:14 PM PST - 5 comments

Hulu plus list of web only content

I am a Hulu plus subscriber and tend to watch via my sony blu-ray player which I believe is an android based app. I also have a computer hooked up to my TV that I rarely use but I have noticed that quite a bit of good content on hulu is web only. The Hulu android app doesn't show web only shows unless you specifically search for them. Is there somewhere I can see a list of what is available on Hulu plus but is web only? I can't seem to find any.
posted by srboisvert at 12:22 PM PST - 3 comments

Teach me to Sing Lullabies

I know the lullabies my mother sang to me, but I'd like to learn some more lullabies or lullaby-like songs (we can go broad, but I think "soft, sweet and slow" are our watchwords) that I can sing to our child. [more inside]
posted by jph at 12:07 PM PST - 61 comments

Given an average rate how do I calculate how often to do something?

I get seed packets that (usually) give a germination rate. How do I calculate how many seeds to plant to give me a 'y' probability of getting 'z' seeds to germinate? [more inside]
posted by sevenless at 11:10 AM PST - 8 comments

Cheapest, easiest way to register copyright fast?

I would like to register copyright for four works to fulfill a funding agency administrative requirement. They do not require that the registration be done in any particular country. I am registering solely to fulfill this requirement so I would like to do it in the simplest and cheapest way possible. Unless registering somewhere will somehow abridge my rights in an irrevocable way, I do not care about the legal aspects, only that registration is done by 15 September, if possible. [more inside]
posted by grouse at 10:42 AM PST - 12 comments

Election sites that track positions on issues on a per-candidate basis?

There's a municipal election coming up, and a friend of mine is hoping to develop a Web site that allows users to cycle through key questions (e.g. "Do you think the city should allow a casino to be built downtown?" "Do you support the closure of the Simpson History Museum?") and see the positions of various candidates, grouped by electoral district. Can you think of a Web site that does such a thing? Bonus points if it's created by a group that might be willing to share their infrastructure. [more inside]
posted by Shepherd at 10:38 AM PST - 6 comments

What are the best cities in the world for walking, arting, and eating?

My husband and I have realized that our ideal form of travel is to get an apartment in another city for a week or two and spend the entire time walking around the city, eating, and visiting museums. What are the best cities in the world we can do this in where we can also get around speaking English, Spanish, or German? [more inside]
posted by EmilyFlew at 10:31 AM PST - 74 comments

play three card solitaire for money?

Is there anywhere online you can play three card solitaire for money? [more inside]
posted by mirileh at 10:22 AM PST - 1 comment

Sunset Park/Bay Ridge for the brownstone-Brooklyn-loving single lady

What in Sunset Park and/or Bay Ridge Brooklyn would make me want to live there? I'm going to go exploring, but give me somewhere to start. [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 10:08 AM PST - 14 comments

Can anyone tell me what type of chair this is?

Can anyone help me locate or tell me what type of chair this is? [more inside]
posted by HonestAsian at 9:39 AM PST - 2 comments

Oh, what fun we had!

Looking for games and activities for a weekend away at a country house. [more inside]
posted by greytape at 9:15 AM PST - 21 comments

Practical books about making the leap to Self-employment?

Looking for some book recommendations for someone who wants to move from 9-5 to self-employed in an artistic field (specifically writing, but the book needn't be so specific--just not about say, starting a manufacturing business). But only looking for PRACTICAL books. I keep picking up things that look practical that end up either being more "inspirational" or that are trying to cover too broad a base, from people who want to open a bake shop to people who want to do web comics. [more inside]
posted by Calicatt at 8:46 AM PST - 5 comments

You are thin, on a budget and you buy jeans. Where do you shop?

School is approaching and once again I have to find jeans to fit my son. He needs a 28x32. It is possible to find 28" waists at Old Navy and Target, but they are more often than not closer to 30 or 31 inches when you measure them. Where are the the denim trousers that are true to size and are very reasonably priced?
posted by Requiax at 8:44 AM PST - 23 comments

Getting out of a toxic situation and finding the right path

I rushed into a new job after a layoff a few weeks ago, and it's really not a good fit. The commute is too long (and I have no interest in moving here, because I love where I live and the job is in a really dismal part of the county), the work is too boring (it's IT work that's largely automated, and my "job" appears to be to watch things and make sure they don't go down) and it's starting to make me ill. I'm very close to a breakdown and I am not sure what to do to improve my quality of life. [more inside]
posted by winterhill at 7:43 AM PST - 46 comments

Putting it back together again - railing edition

I removed this railing to move a big piece of furniture up the stairs. I'm having trouble re-installing it. [more inside]
posted by walkinginsunshine at 7:30 AM PST - 7 comments

Old furniture: cool crap or just crap?

My workplace features some 60s/70s-ish looking sofas and chairs in a foyer, which is finally being updated. As a result, said furniture will soon be put out on the sidewalk, and I can claim it if I want to. I'm not a huge fan of the furniture per se, but am trying to figure out whether this stuff is cool retro crap that can be re-sold, or just crap. Pix here. [more inside]
posted by googly at 7:25 AM PST - 27 comments

How to talk to my parents about my special needs brother

I (24yo F) live independently here in DC and have a good life. I have a great full-time job that pays pretty well for someone my age, go to grad school part time, and have a happy social life. I have an excellent relationship with my parents, but I need to talk to them about how my special needs sibling (21yo M) affects my life in the present and the future. I get along very well with my parents, but I'm not sure how to broach this topic in a way that is productive and respectful. [more inside]
posted by schroedingersgirl at 7:19 AM PST - 24 comments

Grad school dreamin'

How can I lay the foundation for a very intential, awesome graduate experience a few years ahead of time? (I'm a hopeless planner.) [more inside]
posted by geegollygosh at 6:44 AM PST - 9 comments

CannaCare Boston?

YANMD. I have an appointment at CannaCare in South Boston to be evaluated for medical marijuana. What to expect? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:52 AM PST - 12 comments

Light powered by falling sand

How does (or how might) Danielle Trofe's falling-sand-powered lights work? [more inside]
posted by theyexpectresults at 5:50 AM PST - 15 comments

A thousand reasons to toast to!

My friend is getting married. For her bachelorette's party I'd like to fill a tombola with reasons to toast to. [more inside]
posted by ipsative at 4:10 AM PST - 4 comments

Want Fast Wireless Internet, Comcast Sucks

A few days ago I got high-speed internet from Comcast. When I placed the order, I was told I needed to upgrade my router and wireless to new models, specifically a TP-Link Wireless N300 and the Motorola SB6121 Surfboard modem. My internet speed is lower than ever. [more inside]
posted by kinetic at 3:48 AM PST - 7 comments

How do you get the most from Al Anon when some of it isn't your thing?

Hi, I go for periods and first went a few years ago. Sometimes I feel a real sense of camaraderie/connection and take away useful insights, at others I feel I am being a bit indoctrinated (a BIG no no for me) by a theory I have questions and concerns about. I'm an athiest and so the higher power talk can be awkward for me, but it's totally not my only issue. [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 3:04 AM PST - 11 comments

I'm sorry, the work history you have entered is societally invalid.

What do people put on their resume when they've been in industries like prostitution or drug dealing from an early age until they are 35+, and they want to transition to a mainstream career? [more inside]
posted by dimejubes at 2:17 AM PST - 15 comments

Ack! Missed a call for a potential interview. How should I go on?

I missed a call for a potential job interview today, the call was left early in the afternoon and I didn't see it until early the early evening. Normally, I wouldn't be fretting over this, but in the voice mail the manager said she'd like to schedule an interview for Wed. afternoon and now it's Monday evening. Would I be safe with calling her back tomorrow morning and apologizing for missing the call, etc. or would it be best if I leave some sort of voicemail message tomorrow (I wouldn't know what to say though) AND still call back in the morning? Sorry, I feel embarrassed asking this, but I'm freaking out about missing an opportunity! In the future I will be much more attentive!
posted by anonymous at 12:21 AM PST - 13 comments

Miscarriage resources?

Some days are ok, some days are just heartbreaking. Where can I look for some support and information after my first pregnancy ended in miscarriage? I'm not sure how to deal with this better. Personal stories are welcome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:20 AM PST - 28 comments

August 18

Can this printer be saved? one line of multistruck gibberish per page

It feels like a part went out, but I don't know which. Can I replace it? It's a fantastic workhorse printer. Photos: Full page -- close up of text [more inside]
posted by msalt at 11:59 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me find a professional soccer game to watch while I'm in Europe?

I will be in Europe with my SO From Aug 31 to Sep 5 we will be in Munich, then we plan to go to France, and Italy between Sep 5 and Sep 13 when we depart. We are willing to travel to any nearby country, we would like to see a top level professional soccer match. Any googling I did resulted in no matches being played in that time in those areas, am I missing something?
posted by crawltopslow at 8:45 PM PST - 5 comments

EntomologyFilter: What is this?

Can you help me identify this larva? Pictures inside. [more inside]
posted by nzero at 8:31 PM PST - 2 comments

Telling landlord we're looking elsewhere, but holding onto our place?

I have rented my current place for over a year and according to our lease, am now month to month. I want to look elsewhere, and tell my (very chill) landlord in case I want to put him as a reference. But in the end I'm not sure if/when I'll move (only if a better place materializes) so I also don't want him to decide to find new tenants and give me 30 days notice. How would you deal with the landlord? [more inside]
posted by dahliachewswell at 7:23 PM PST - 18 comments

Can I prevent my cold from turning into an ear infection?

My sweetie brought home a summer cold, I caught it, and I think it is turning into an ear infection. Is there anything I can do to head that off at the pass? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 7:21 PM PST - 14 comments

What furniture is good for storing laptops?

What's a not-hideous way to store three or four laptops in a dining room? Plus the occasional iPad, headphones, etc. Has anyone found a decent piece of furniture for laptop storage? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 6:41 PM PST - 19 comments

So this is supposed to be heavy and outdated? Just like me!

I'd like tips, tricks, mods, etc. for a Svea 123R stove. [more inside]
posted by Seamus at 6:33 PM PST - 7 comments

Good Alt hair stylist in Bloomington, IN?

I just moved back to my hometown after being away for a couple decades. Are there any good alternative stylists around these days? All I've been able to find so far are trendy salons with stylists who don't really listen to me and leave me with soccer mom hair (which is great if that's what you like but it's not what I'm looking for.) Difficulty: neon hair with very difficult to work with texture and thickness combo. Thanks in advance!
posted by dreamingviolet at 6:24 PM PST - 2 comments

What should I do with my hair

Not happy with my hair lately. I'm having lots of breakage which turns to frizziness if it's not flat ironed. I am a low maintenance person but I like having long hair. It's just past my shoulders and is naturally dirty blonde and lately I have gotten some grey. It is mostly straight but has a slight wave. (Female, early 30s) [more inside]
posted by photoexplorer at 6:16 PM PST - 15 comments

Weekend guest etiquette - am I right to be upset?

I recently had two very close friends to stay for the weekend. My partner and I put a load of effort into tidying and cleaning the house, buying new towels for our guests, filling the cupboards and fridge with yummy (and expensive!) food, and my partner spent hours cooking. I had a nice, though tiring, weekend (with some awkwardness as we have all changed over the years since we were very, very close) but when the guests had left, my partner pointed out that neither of them had brought a gift (I would never expect something huge, but I don't think I ever don't take a bottle of wine/flowers/chocolates if I go to stay with someone..). We also realised that neither of them had offered to (or taken it upon themselves) to help with the washing up after any of the homemade meals we had - even breakfast! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:04 PM PST - 64 comments

It's not there for the GOOD days...

There's a pithy one-liner, almost a saying or slogan, about how it's easy to complain about or take something for granted when you don't need it, but it's super important when you do need it. I'm pretty sure that this one-liner originally applied to one specific thing (maybe the police, maybe a labour union, maybe socialized health care), but the sentiment could easily be generalized to a whole set of special purpose institutions. This whole goddamn saying is right on the tip of my tongue. Help me out?
posted by 256 at 5:23 PM PST - 12 comments

Ferguson

At what point do I fly to Ferguson, MO and who do I work with? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:18 PM PST - 21 comments

Hotel Housekeeping Issue

I stay at the same large corporate hotel that is part of a large national chain every week. Every other week or so, I find hair(s) in my stack of clean towels (in different rooms, on different floors). These hairs do not match my hair length and color. Is it worth it to complain to housekeeping? I question if my complaint will make a difference since the hotel is so large. What is the best way to raise this so that my issue is heard and acted upon?
posted by seesom at 5:08 PM PST - 5 comments

Getting Podcast on my tablet, and Melissa Harris Perry Show

So I used to listen to podcasts all the time on my ipod. How can I do this on my google nexus. and, I can get Rachel maddox on podcast on sticher, but what about Melissa Harris Perry? how the heck can i get her show on podcast? thanks
posted by TRUELOTUS at 4:52 PM PST - 4 comments

Teach me how to keep my floor clean, like I am a small child.

Us: old farmhouse, wood floors, golden retriever, crawling baby. There is dog hair everywhere and the baby gets into it and I feel like I'm going about this all wrong. What do you do with your floors, and pets? The floors aren't very fancy, if that helps. Not as bad as the last AskMe about wood floors, but no high polish and lots of cracks that could really be tighter. I'd just like to keep everything clean and tidy so that baby can roam and my feet are happy. I grew up with carpet so this is totally foreign.
posted by checkitnice at 4:51 PM PST - 26 comments

How much food for an afternoon party for 2 dozen people?

We're having an Sunday afternoon (1-4pm) cheesecake reception for 2 dozen people, and also want to provide fruit, veggies, cheese, and crackers. How much non-cheesecake food should we provide for a group this size, if most of them are also eating cheesecake? What about beverages? [more inside]
posted by fussbudget at 4:23 PM PST - 9 comments

Open-world game on iPad for young'uns.

A coworker's ex-husband's installed the iPad [Mini, though I doubt it matters] version of Grand Theft Auto (I'm not really sure where it fits in the saga) for their 6-year-old son. I'm looking for an age-appropriate alternative. [more inside]
posted by Sunburnt at 4:08 PM PST - 4 comments

Apologetic about success?

What I do in terms of career/projects/desire are all one and the same. And I'm lucky enough to be paid to do what I love, and I continue to do it. It just so happens that lately, within the past year or so, I've been especially "successful". But much of my friends/acquaintances are not really in a similar position, which makes me feel guilty/weird about sharing what's going on in my life. I feel apologetic about my so-called "success", which leads me to under-share about myself. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:03 PM PST - 8 comments

How can I find out more about this possible antique necklace?

I have a cool dragon choker that looks just like the one this page. How can I find out more about it? [more inside]
posted by brittanyq at 3:10 PM PST - 2 comments

out of the woodwork

Hi, I'm interested in carving wood, specifically in carving my own kitchen implements (ladles, spoons, scoops, etc.). I have no experience in woodworking whatsoever (truly... zero) and currently have no carving materials. Do you have advice about tools, books, techniques? Where do I get tools? [more inside]
posted by flyingfork at 2:48 PM PST - 10 comments

Two stroke outboard boat motor in British Columbia -- OK to use?

What are the current regulations for or against the use of less-than-10hp two stroke boat motors in British Columbia? Is their use currently permitted? [more inside]
posted by mosk at 1:37 PM PST - 5 comments

Poor third amendment

Has there ever been an American case in which a claim of proscribed use of the military (third amendment, posse comitatus, etc) was pressed in response to an action not carried out by one of the branches answerable to DoD/the National Guard? If so, was the military status of the alleged bad actor treated as a question of law or a question of fact?
posted by PMdixon at 1:36 PM PST - 4 comments

I am fully aware you are not my doctor.

I have an 8 year old boy and a new prescription for Concerta (for him, not for me). After more than a year of testing and discussion, I've accepted the 'script because - as our doctor was very clear - we can always decide not to fill it. I'm asking you to help us decide if we should try this. [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 1:25 PM PST - 29 comments

Tell me about your mother...

First appointment with a psychiatrist tomorrow morning. Soooo... what's that like? Snowflakes inside... [more inside]
posted by antimony_hayes at 1:12 PM PST - 20 comments

Where in the Bay Area can a user connect to the web via Ethernet?

Wifi is plentiful, but it is also more vulnerable than a wired connection. In the Bay Area, is there a library or other public or semi-public, trustworthy place, that allows users to connect directly to the router with an ethernet cable? Charging a fee is fine.
posted by Baeria at 1:10 PM PST - 12 comments

Is he a narcissist, or just very self-centred?

I've been dating a guy (30) for half a year, and though I am blinded by love, I'm starting to see signs that he could be narcissistic, but am not sure. [more inside]
posted by palomago at 1:08 PM PST - 45 comments

Rejected Craigslist Roommate = Possible Date?

My housemates and I interviewed several people yesterday for a new roommate. We chose the person whose move-in schedule logistically worked best. However, we got along with all of the interviewees surprisingly well; each one stayed and chatted for at least an hour. I especially got along with two people, and I'd like to contact them again to see if they want to get together as friends, or - especially one of them - as a date. How inappropriate is this? Would you feel flattered or stalked if someone who didn't choose you as a roommate asked you out? [more inside]
posted by Munching Langolier at 12:49 PM PST - 24 comments

Suggestions for Cape Cod with a toddler & senior citizen. And CrossFit?

I'm staying in a summer rental house right outside of Hyannis with my family for the next 2 weeks. I have access to the internet and lots of travel magazines on what to do while we're out here. But I was hoping for some specific suggestions on things to do specifically with a senior citizen who can't walk very well and a toddler. Also, a pregnant sister who tires quickly. Has anyone done activities out here with an older parent with mobility issues or a young one that worked out well? Also, I'd love to hear any suggestions for CrossFit in the area (for me). Thank you.
posted by Sylvia Plath's terrible fish at 12:26 PM PST - 1 comment

How to beat new-parent isolation

I'm a few months out from having my first kid. I'll be staying home to care for the child for at least the first year, and the thing that scares me the most is how many parents who did the same thing report feelings of isolation and loneliness. How can I minimize this in my life? [more inside]
posted by ohisee at 11:59 AM PST - 21 comments

Trying to figure out what brand this logo is for...

There is a men's clothing/accessories brand that has a logo that is a capital "B" with an "A" inscribed (can't remember if it is capital or lower case) inside the top loop of the "B". I don't have a picture of it. This is a recent and probably high-end brand. Is this familiar to anyone?
posted by emily37 at 11:53 AM PST - 3 comments

How do I keep the salon from making my haircut too femme?

I'm a mid-twenties woman who grows her hair out long and cuts it all off every few years. Tomorrow I'm cutting it all off again. How do I get the stylist to respect my masculine haircut wishes? [more inside]
posted by hollyholly at 11:40 AM PST - 30 comments

Help me do a vacation, part two

A month ago I asked for help picking a place for our upcoming vacation. Based in part on community suggestions, we ended up booking a place in Wildwood, NJ, for the first week in September. Now help me make my beach vacation with two very small kids as awesome as possible! [more inside]
posted by SeedStitch at 11:28 AM PST - 4 comments

What are some good pieces of new technology for a preschool classroom?

I'm looking to bring the preschool my children attend up to date on the technology side of things. Does anyone have any suggestions, mostly hardware-wise, on what to go with? Does the preschool your child attends make use of any technology? Or their Kindergarten class for that matter? What works? What doesn't? I'm willing to hear software suggestions too, but again, mostly looking for hardware ideas. [more inside]
posted by mrzer0 at 10:56 AM PST - 17 comments

Can you help me ID and replace this piece of my dresser drawer slide?

When moving this weekend, I broke my dresser (sad trombone). I tried to take the drawers out to make them easier to move, but they have these little brackets with ball bearings in them that are lubricated and make the drawer slide in the track. I tried poking around online but I can't figure out where to get new ones… or even what I'm looking for is called. [more inside]
posted by araisingirl at 10:19 AM PST - 6 comments

ADD treatment in Columbus, OH

I very much need help for what I think is ADD and am looking for recommendations for psychiatrists in the Columbus area, particularly ones who accept BCBS. General advice on my situation also welcome; some details below. [more inside]
posted by precession at 9:50 AM PST - 3 comments

Do I mention in a cover letter that I've applied to a job before?

I'm applying to a job with a company who I interviewed with last year, but I ended up removing myself from consideration to stay with my current company. Do I address this in my cover letter? [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 9:30 AM PST - 5 comments

I am treated like I am a useless idiot at my job?

I recently got a new job about three months ago. To be honest, I have never been treated worse than here. I dont know what to do. My last job lasted three years and I'm only 22. I have been yelled at, talked down to, humiliated in front of patients (medical field) and so on. I'm asked questions that any person with common sense would know the answer to. [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 at 9:10 AM PST - 48 comments

Oxford shirts! Where does a shortie find herself some?

I wear buttoned-down, collar shirts everyday, for work and for leisure. The last couple of seasons I had tons and tons of options in stores like Old Navy and H&M as a rather small woman, but the shelves this season signals that shirts are no longer in. Where can I look for affordable but stylish shirts? [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 8:34 AM PST - 11 comments

Is running 20+ miles not safe??

I saw my sports therapist doctor who is a respected doctor in his field. i told him that i wanted to run a marathon someday but he said that marathons are unsafe for hearts/muscles/bones and encouraged me to stick to shorter races. He also said 12-20 miles a week is the sweet spot for running and anything over that loses health benefits. he said he wrote a paper on it. Does anyone on this site who has experience in sports medicine know what race is the upper limit for avoiding undue health risks? [more inside]
posted by Thanquol180 at 8:31 AM PST - 24 comments

What sounds better: Vice Head of School or Deputy Head of School?

I'm up for a promotion at work! We are restructuring to include a Vice Principal position at the school I work at, but instead of a Principal, we have a Head of School. I've been asked to select the title I want. So should I go for Vice Head of School or Deputy Head of School?
posted by pick_the_flowers at 8:18 AM PST - 23 comments

Crowdsourcing the first day in Forensic Psych

I'm teaching one of my favorite classes again this semester -- Forensic psych. Most of it is prepped from previous semesters, but with the recent events in Ferguson, I wanted to add in a day at the beginning dealing with police & policing, race, media effects, and so on. [more inside]
posted by bizzyb at 7:17 AM PST - 3 comments

Hit me with your best Barium cocktail recipe

I've got an appointment with my local radiology unit this morning for a couple of barium related tests. Any recommendations on making the suspension more bearable? [more inside]
posted by ovenmitt at 6:38 AM PST - 10 comments

Getting Stuff Done Across Teams

What concrete steps can I take to drive change? Have you ever been charge with driving change with little authority involving people who may be more senior than you are? How can I define and solve problems across multiple teams in a chaotic environment? [more inside]
posted by jasondigitized at 6:35 AM PST - 9 comments

August in Auckland

I'll be spending the last two weekends in August (Sat-Sun only) in Auckland, NZ. In addition to exploring the city, I'd like to check out the famous scenery. What to do? Where to go? What are people wearing this time of year? [more inside]
posted by ista at 6:19 AM PST - 6 comments

My new dog broke out of his collar and injured another dog. Now what?

YANML. What's next? Have I covered my bases? Do I need to lawyer up? The short version: My husband and I were walking our dogs. Our newly adopted dog broke free of his collar and ran across the street to attack another dog. My husband reacted fast and broke up the fight quickly. The other dog was not badly injured, as far as we could tell, just a bite on the hind leg. The dog's owner was understandably furious. We exchanged information, I promised we would pay any vet bills that resulted from the incident, and he left. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:18 AM PST - 33 comments

Wedding Reading both for, and about, sisters

Asking for a friend: She has been asked to do a reading at her sister's wedding in a few weeks. She does not want to use anything biblical or from Shakespeare. Rhyming is ok, but it doesn't have to, and not epically long. The important and tricky part - she'd like it to be on the theme of sisters, but wedding appropriate. Help?
posted by librarianamy at 5:24 AM PST - 5 comments

Disability lawyer fiasco, I need to know my options

I recently moved from one state to another and was in the middle of applying for disability, but that's not where the story begins. It starts with deception and a long wait that didn't need to happen (long story inside). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:14 AM PST - 11 comments

Chrome keyword for search engines restriction

So in Chrome you can define short keywords to perform a search with the search engine of your choosing. If I type "am shoes" in the address field, it searches for shoes on amazon.com. However, some keywords are blocked, for example I can't use the prefix "gm"for google maps or "rt" for rotten tomatoes. As I transitioned from Opera which has no such restrictions, and having used these prefixes for a long time, I would like to keep using them. Anybody know how to circumvent these restrictions, or at least why they are in place?
posted by SweetLiesOfBokonon at 4:21 AM PST - 4 comments

Recommend a great wine tour in Napa-ish areas

We're looking to taste wines and see the pretty in October. Where's the jaw-dropping beauty and equivalent deliciousness? [more inside]
posted by Joseph Gurl at 2:45 AM PST - 11 comments

August 17

Birthday gift for fiancee?

We are getting married in 4 months, and I'd like to get her something that is unique to this very unique year -- I mean, she will never be my fiancee again! Any ideas for a meaningful gift? (fwiw, she is a bit romantic and sentimental, but pretty sophisticated. A little cutesy, but not too often. Definitely not showy. Loves her cat, travel, baking, reading.) Thanks!
posted by antipode12 at 11:59 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me buy and transport hemp seeds without breaking the law?

I want to buy this hemp seed for my friend in Finland. I do not want to and am not willing to break any laws. If I obtain it, is it legal to take to Finland personally? Is it legal to send it in the mail? What laws are relevant? As far as I understand it's super low THC and is legal in many places. Thanks
posted by anonymous at 11:23 PM PST - 5 comments

Coping after an accident

I was in an accident recently and I need advice on coping. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:02 PM PST - 20 comments

Trying to remember Latin-y word meaning place of death and destruction.

Trying to recall word used in TV show Bones, meaning place of death and destruction, maybe with connotation/denotation of incineration of slaughterhouse. I think it ended in -orium. [more inside]
posted by ClaudiaCenter at 11:01 PM PST - 6 comments

Like Storage Wars, but without the camera crew

I want to get rid of a houseful of stuff, but I don't have the time or energy to sell it on Craigslist or hold a garage sale. Are there services that will pick up & sell things for me? Location: Seattle. [more inside]
posted by cdefgfeadgagfe at 10:27 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me have a great trip to the Big Island!

My husband and I will be traveling with two friends of ours to Big Island of Hawai'i the first week of October. We went around the same time with the same couple in 2012 and spent most of our time on the Kona side. Now we're planning to spend most of our time on the Hilo side, and I'm looking for all the advice/tips/recommendations you have to offer! Specific questions inside. [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 10:01 PM PST - 8 comments

How dumb is it to try to rent an apartment sight unseen?

I need to find a place to live in the Fremont/Wallingford neighborhoods of Seattle for a move in mid-September -- like, really soon -- but I live a few states away and I might not be able to visit before the move! [more inside]
posted by mf_ss at 9:52 PM PST - 26 comments

Gift for newborn, gift for mom

My friend just had a baby, I wanted to send her a small-something to let her know that I'm thinking of her and her newborn. What would be good for this? [more inside]
posted by dragonfruit at 9:46 PM PST - 16 comments

patience, grasshopper.

how do i become more patient in situations where i have repeatedly told the person that what they are doing is frustrating/hurtful/upsetting me (over. and. over. and. over)? [more inside]
posted by violetk at 9:36 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me find a strange outsider rock band

I've searched and searched to no avail, and I'm starting to think this whole thing was a fever dream. I could swear that I read an article a few years ago about a Japanese rock band which was formed by a few schoolgirls who had never actually heard rock music. Everything they knew came from reading about it in magazines. I believe this took place during the 1960's. Of course, I may have some or all of the details wrong. Can you restore my sanity?
posted by stephennelson at 7:55 PM PST - 16 comments

To Wig, or not to Wig? that is the question.

looking for some advice and opinions on male wigs. [more inside]
posted by red47Apple at 6:50 PM PST - 51 comments

Travel destinations/activities with a broken collarbone

A last-minute injury put a halt on our planned anniversary travel. What is the most fun/exciting/interesting/relaxing place we can go or thing we can do instead, given our limitations? [more inside]
posted by zadermatermorts at 6:31 PM PST - 10 comments

Cooperative house building in Boston

How might I go about building a (big, cooperative) house in Boston? [more inside]
posted by woodvine at 6:26 PM PST - 5 comments

Shoulder arthroscopy after care tips/suggestions

Mr Bun Surnt is under going a shoulder arthroscopy procedure. After intense googling, we know what to expect. However, do you have suggestions, hints, tips for prepping for his after care? I'll have to go back to work the following day so I'm looking at suggestions on how to make his recovery better/easier/entertaining while I'm gone? [more inside]
posted by Bun Surnt at 6:08 PM PST - 5 comments

Word association: Fairy Tale

Further to the success of a previous Ask Me, in which I was given a great idea for a fictional story I am writing, I am back with another question. I would like to know what people, places, events and objects you associate with fairy tales, folklore, myths etc. [more inside]
posted by Youremyworld at 5:50 PM PST - 27 comments

Architectural Horror?

I love looking at photos of buildings or cityscapes that are so ornate, intricate, or overbuilt as to give me a sense of vertigo and/or looming existential horror. Things like the Kowloon Walled City or aerial views of Shanghai or, to a lesser extent, the new Executive Office building in DC. What else is out there? I'm interested in any or all eras and styles.
posted by capricorn at 5:41 PM PST - 31 comments

Looking for name of short film of Mexican woman's coffee routine, c '70s

This charming short film, maybe 15-20 minutes, is about a Mexican woman's morning routine of roasting her own coffee beans in frying pan, filtering coffee through a linen handkerchief, then washing the linen and hanging on clothesline to dry. I thought it was by Les Blank, but can find no listing for it. I also searched Werner Herzog, but couldn't find it. Film came out of the Bay Area food renaissance of the '70s, I believe. Think I saw it in '80s. Anyone seen it, can give me a clue to provenance? TIA.
posted by Berry at 3:54 PM PST - 8 comments

Is there any way to stop spam texts?

I've recently gotten three spam texts, one per day, via iMessage. Is there any way to block them? [more inside]
posted by trevor_case at 3:04 PM PST - 7 comments

Letting go- failure or quitting? what's the difference?

I am having a hard time letting go of something. I have been told that I have an amazing ability to persevere and I can, unfortunately, keep on trying to make things work- for ever! Needless to say, letting a current bad situation go is proving to be near impossible because I see doing that as outright failure, not to mention a complete waste of 1+ year. My friends say its not failure, and I don't think I understand the difference. So I am hoping that maybe you can explain with personal anecdotes? [more inside]
posted by xm at 2:14 PM PST - 22 comments

Please recommend Spotify playlists

I really like the Rhino Records Spotify Playlists, especially the ones that get updated periodically like Alt Country. Can you recommend other playlists or users (either individuals or organizations) that I should follow. I'm open to any genres, but I gravitate to punk/new wave/post-punk/alternative if required to label my tastes.
posted by Edward L at 2:01 PM PST - 3 comments

Having a wedding in a vacation rental home?

What are the pros and cons to having a wedding at a large vacation rental home? What should we be thinking about? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by empath at 2:00 PM PST - 23 comments

What is "sufficient documentation" for an ADD medication?

I've been taking Adderall XR for about a half a year, and it has made a tremendous difference in my life. The med, however, was recently put on the Prior Authorization list - which means that I now need to receive approval from my insurance before they cover it. My doc submitted an application, which I just found out was denied on the grounds that I don't have sufficient documentation of ADD. I took a test with my doc, and was denied again. What exactly do they want from me? [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 1:06 PM PST - 19 comments

Manager, rebrand thyself.

I've been unemployed for about six months now and I'm looking to get back into the workforce with any position that pays a wage that I and my wife can afford to live from. [more inside]
posted by quin at 12:44 PM PST - 6 comments

Where does a reader go after Edith Pargeter's Heaven Tree Trilogy?

I'm looking to buy a book/books as a gift for my grandmother, who was recently in an accident and faces a long recovery. She is a voracious reader, but has specific tastes. Last Christmas I sent her Edith Pargeter's Heaven Tree Trilogy; she's told me multiple times since, in no uncertain terms, that these books were among the best she'd ever read and that she immediately re-read the trilogy upon finishing it. The trouble is, the rest of Pargeter's corpus - including her pseudonymous works, as far as I can tell - don't fit my grandmother's preferences nearly as well as the Heaven Tree books, so I am not sure what to send her. [more inside]
posted by AthenaPolias at 12:32 PM PST - 21 comments

Fancy events + no sleep + small children = help?

Family trip coming up, and I need advice on helping my five-year-old daughter manage sleep-deprivation and jetlag. In the context of a wedding weekend, with all the attendant social and behavioral expectations. With bonus similarly-aged relative who brings out her most rambunctious side. What can I do by way of scheduling, boundaries, etc., to keep this sane while still being polite? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph at 12:02 PM PST - 19 comments

Hiring a programmer for a clinical project?

I'm working with a professor of medicine, and she has a clinical decision algorithm that needs to be turned into a website with a database backend. We need to find a person. [more inside]
posted by raspberry jam and clothes iron at 11:52 AM PST - 17 comments

Online backup options for several Macs?

It's 2014. I should be backing up my thousands of photos in iPhoto online. Please tell me he best options available for long-term storage. Print options would be nice too.
posted by toastchee at 11:27 AM PST - 14 comments

Help me figure out how to fix record player console paint job!

We recently acquired this record player console from family. I had the genius idea to paint it to go with our decor more effectively... And now it looks like this. I am displeased as I feel it looks like children's furniture. Help me fix it please! [more inside]
posted by Quincy at 11:23 AM PST - 9 comments

Selkie Spoken Word?

Wifey and I remember hearing a spoken-word, like an audio-book, story of a Selkie who eventually has a child. We don't recall it being a poem, nor was it music-with-sparse-lyrics; it was telling a story, with maybe some short musical interludes, and was probably an hour or more long. We heard it on Public Radio (not sure in which state) several years ago. Anybody know what this was?
posted by AzraelBrown at 11:11 AM PST - 3 comments

Cognitive behavioral therapy videos for laypeople

I'm looking for good, professional videos that describe the techniques of CBT for laypeople. Basically, a visual version of a CBT self-help book. I've searched YouTube and the videos are either light on technique and/or have a creepy narrator. I think my friend could benefit from it, but he needs an introduction to it first. Second choice would be a workshop where the techniques are covered. Any suggestions?
posted by TorontoSandy at 10:58 AM PST - 5 comments

What makes someone funny?

I've always wanted to know how funny people became funny. What particular attributes, behavior, types of humor makes them so hilarious? Do some of them practice jokes in advance? Do they watch comedians and funny tv shows a lot? [more inside]
posted by poilkj at 10:54 AM PST - 30 comments

When I hold up my hand, I give myself the finger

A few weeks ago, I smashed my hand and wound up with a ruptured finger tendon, or "mallet finger." this means my middle left hand finger cannot straighten and I cannot control it above the top joint. It looks like a bent straw when my other fingers are straight and I obviously can't type normally. [more inside]
posted by third rail at 10:53 AM PST - 11 comments

iPad mini: worth it for translators/interpreters?

I'm a grad student/translator who's debating picking up an iPad mini. Help me decide if it's worth it when I already have a bunch of other tech. [more inside]
posted by Tamanna at 10:30 AM PST - 6 comments

How to navigate the New York State Health Insurance Exchange? (the ACA)

I am in Manhattan, New York City, and I have to change my health insurance. Can you help me with the Exchange thing? [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 9:25 AM PST - 4 comments

Quit being so sensitive

I need some tips on living with a sensitive temperament. More inside. [more inside]
posted by MeaninglessMisfortune at 8:48 AM PST - 30 comments

Designing a poster for my friend's movie

So my friend just completed post for her movie and she asked me to do a simple poster for it. The movie is about how the growth of the feminist movement in Northern Ireland under British rule. I am giving her many options, some of which are specific to the time and place and some of which are more about women in general. Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by cyrusw8 at 8:47 AM PST - 6 comments

Incredibly basic question on freelancing, invoices and self-employment

This is extremely basic, I know, but I can't seem to find a good answer on this: I'm transitioning out of my full-time job to working on freelance gigs. The only problem: I'm starting to put together invoices, and it seems like you might need a company name to do so. Is that correct? Does one need a registered company/incorporation to freelance? [more inside]
posted by Ash3000 at 8:30 AM PST - 16 comments

Online tool to match up individuals with their top choice of a list

I'm teaching a class, and I am requiring my students to give a presentation on a topic. I'll have a set of topics drafted, and I want to avoid presentations on the same topic. My thinking is to ask each student to rank their preferences and then try to give each student their highest-ranked topic. Is there an online tool that helps me do this? The SurveyMonkey type polling websites and google docs allow me to collect ranked choices, but they don't help me match up the highest-ranked choice of all my respondents. Make sense? In the end I'd like to be able to say "Some people chose the same topic, so they got their next-highest topic where possible." Thanks in advance for any ideas!
posted by jlittlew at 8:20 AM PST - 5 comments

Best time to buy an expiring-generation iPad?

I'd like an iPad. What's the optimal time to try to get one of last generation's iPads, new or refurbished? How long will retailers carry them after the product line is refreshed? [more inside]
posted by blueshammer at 7:27 AM PST - 10 comments

Looking for an MD, DO, or NP near Philly

I'm going into my last year of nurse practitioner school and am starting clinicals at the end of August. Back in June I found two clinical sites, both family practice. A couple days ago I was told that one of the sites wouldn't be able to host me after all. [more inside]
posted by Matched plain socks at 6:43 AM PST - 0 comments

How do I get into following academic publishing?

What ways exist where would one keep up with big ideas or events in the academic publishing world, in some kind of passive way that involves me regularly checking in and picking out what's interesting and saving those for later. [more inside]
posted by dubadubowbow at 1:52 AM PST - 7 comments

Biological clock anxiety

How can I stop worrying/be more productive with my cat lady worries? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess at 1:41 AM PST - 37 comments

Teach me to teach an adult to tie his shoelaces!

My SO is in his thirties and has never really learnt to tie his shoelaces properly. How do I teach him? [more inside]
posted by Sarah Lund's Jumper at 12:53 AM PST - 38 comments

August 16

Living Artfully in Berlin

Let's say you're a young artist. And you're headed to Berlin in spring. You plan on fully immersing yourself in local culture once you get there -- you're going to get a studio, mingle at pubs and learn about your neighborhood. But you'd like a boost on the art scene. You want to get culturally & conversationally fluent! [more inside]
posted by fritillary at 10:00 PM PST - 10 comments

Sheena is a punk rocker now (and in the year 2875)

Help me make a punk rock playlist for the distant future. [more inside]
posted by nonasuch at 9:27 PM PST - 31 comments

Can I make it in the Boston IT job market?

For my own personal reasons, I would like to move to Boston. The one obvious catch: I need to make money in order to do so. I'm in software support. It's a small company, so only one support tier before issues go to engineering. Lots of .NET and SQL Server work. I've been at it a few years. I have no idea how my skillset would measure up in a big city full of some of the brainiest people on the planet. Can I survive and thrive in Boston? [more inside]
posted by UrbanEye at 9:10 PM PST - 6 comments

please recommend Books on Large Continuous Software-Development projects

I've been tossed into the deep end of a large continuous software-development project. Agile software development processes? Development, System Testing, Acceptance Testing and Production? Separated Presentation (Web) Tier, Application Tier, and Data Tier server environments? ITIL Best-practices?? What BOOKS do you recommend so I can get a handle on all this stuff? [more inside]
posted by shipbreaker at 7:15 PM PST - 7 comments

A vet too far...

Tess HATEZ THE CARZ but she's not doing too well. The vet is an hour away. We don't have a cat carry box. [more inside]
posted by Kerasia at 6:13 PM PST - 27 comments

How did peasants in the Middle Ages survive the winter?

What strategies were used by peasants of medieval Europe to prepare for and survive the harsh winter months? [more inside]
posted by dontjumplarry at 6:11 PM PST - 36 comments

How do people constantly upgrade their iPhones?

I'm on Verizon and have been stuck with an iPhone 4 (yes, the original 4) for what feels like the better part of 2 years. My Verizon account says I'm not eligible for an upgrade until December. What are my options to upgrade now without breaking the bank? [more inside]
posted by the foreground at 5:56 PM PST - 12 comments

No flowers, please

What should I send to my friend in palliative care? [more inside]
posted by pompelmo at 5:36 PM PST - 16 comments

Is there a downside to being added to someone's bank account?

Is there a downside to being added to someone's bank account? Many, many special snowflake details follow. [more inside]
posted by lieberschnitzel at 5:14 PM PST - 16 comments

Help me outfit my iPad Mini for the boardroom

Looking for a classy leather case for my new iPad mini with Retina display. Apple's Smart Cover is proving to be fairly flimsy and cheap. I'm looking at the StilGut Couverture leather case and Apple's own Smart Case - any other cases I should be thinking about?
posted by porn in the woods at 4:15 PM PST - 5 comments

Lunchbox Lunches

I would like your suggestions for easy, portable lunches that meet the criteria below. [more inside]
posted by roolya_boolya at 3:13 PM PST - 12 comments

Looking for read stories about being forced to go in one direction.

Is there a story in the Bible or elsewhere in literature or myth about a person who wants to do many things, but is thwarted, by all sorts of forces, and ends up doing only one? [more inside]
posted by Clotilde at 2:17 PM PST - 12 comments

Grandfather used to sing us this song. What is it?

Does anyone know this song that my grandfather used to sing to us when we were little? [more inside]
posted by gfrobe at 1:53 PM PST - 4 comments

Gift donation to a gun charity?

Hi! I'd like to give someone the gift of a charity donation to a gun (well, anti-gun) charity. Can anyone recommend one -- esp. if they have the option of "gifting" a donation rather than just making one? And how do you actually give a charity donation to someone if that "gift" option isn't available? Just let them know? A receipt seems tacky. Thanks!
posted by EtTuHealy at 1:45 PM PST - 4 comments

All That Glitters is Gold-Plated

How do I buy a cheap fake Rolex outside of New York? [more inside]
posted by chrchr at 1:02 PM PST - 3 comments

What is the etiquette of female-male friendship when one party is taken?

When one half of you is taken how does this affect the plans you can make together? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs at 11:53 AM PST - 35 comments

Bicycle aficionados: Help me ID the logo on this bike part

I've googled all around, but can't find the brand of my triple chainring and pant guard. It's for a Trek hybrid, if that helps. Here's a closeup of the logo. It has an S with a three-point crown. It doesn't appear to be Suntour or Shimano, so I don't know. Thanks!
posted by 4midori at 11:37 AM PST - 4 comments

Oh, quinoa, how I love thee

Help me find more one-pot quinoa dinners! [more inside]
posted by peanut_mcgillicuty at 11:18 AM PST - 10 comments

Craigslist etiquette

What is proper Craigslist etiquette as a seller in this situation? I listed a couple items. Someone replied. I arranged to meet them at 3:00 today. Then my co-worker said he might want them and he's the one coming over to be a manly presence while I sell this stuff, so I feel obligated to him. Then I got swamped with about twenty other e-mails wanting to set up times to look at the items, and one offering to buy one sight unseen. How to proceed?
posted by HotToddy at 10:54 AM PST - 12 comments

Why is this "straight" guy so fond of me?

I have an overly close friendship with a straight guy, which is turning into a marriage in every way except sex. What could be going through his mind? Why is this "straight" guy so fond of me? More below. [more inside]
posted by Kwadeng at 10:31 AM PST - 39 comments

Quotes about adventure for a college freshman

Mr. Squirrel and I are taking our lovely nerdy introvert daughter to college tomorrow, and she is very anxious about leaving home. I want to write an encouraging note to leave in her dorm room for her to find after we drop her off. I'd like to include a quote about the ideas of having adventures and trying new things and how you never know what may happen next. [more inside]
posted by SuperSquirrel at 9:34 AM PST - 21 comments

Rebroadcasting video from a subnet

I run a science support network with frequent visitors and high turnover. A current project has two devices incorporating Axis webcams on a dedicated subnet. I have one laptop which is wired to the subnet and wireless on my “host” network. We don’t want to enable full routing to the subnet, so I want to use the laptop to re-broadcast the video from the two webcams onto the host network. The laptop (Windows 8) can see both the subnet and the host network, and machines on the host network can see the laptop. [more inside]
posted by HaveYouTriedRebooting at 9:28 AM PST - 3 comments

What's the timeline of a conventionally treated yeast infection?

I have a yeast infection. I've been treating it since wednesday afternoon. I'm trying to figure out how long I can expect symptoms to last and when I should be concerned that maybe something else is happening. Bear with me for the probably stupid question that I'm having to ask at the ripe age of 41, as I can't seem to find this answer via google and there are some... complicating factors. [more inside]
posted by lilnublet at 8:56 AM PST - 21 comments

Examples of adults complaining about the younger generation?

I am trying to find examples (essays, articles, etc.) of previous generations complaining about the work ethic of the younger generation. It doesn't matter how far back it i
posted by cherrybounce at 8:54 AM PST - 11 comments

An on-demand mother's helper/babysitter in the Cambridge/Somerville area

Can anyone recommend a part-time mother's helper that can get to North Cambridge? We want extra support for a week in taking care of this guy. The mom will be at home, and we want to reduce the chances that she gets overwhelmed, starting this Wednesday, after his grandma goes home, and I go back to work.
posted by ignignokt at 7:45 AM PST - 12 comments

Lunch in or around Richmond

I'm going on a work trip with four other people, and we'll be passing through the Richmond area around lunchtime. Looking for suggestions for a lunch spot, pretty much anywhere in the greater Richmond metro area (but should be highway accessible). [more inside]
posted by malthas at 7:12 AM PST - 9 comments

Multiplayer PC games for 4

Myself and three friends have been online gaming on PC for years now, I am looking for games we haven't tried yet. Ideally things that play in around an hour or less. [more inside]
posted by Cannon Fodder at 7:01 AM PST - 13 comments

Very unpleasin' sneezin' & wheezin'

At the ripe old age of 40 something, I have been diagnosed with adult onset asthma. Nope, I wasn't one of those wheezy kids, so this is a whole new world for me. And no, I've never smoked. I'm getting a handle on the medical side of things, but it's the everyday stuff that is proving a challenge. [more inside]
posted by lawhound at 6:39 AM PST - 18 comments

A good place to stop for lunch between Minneapolis and Chicago?

We're driving this route with our two kids and are looking for something better than the fly-ridden service centers and truckstops. [more inside]
posted by werkzeuger at 5:56 AM PST - 14 comments

Help me with motion sickness!

I always get motion sickness on boats, and if the weather is bad enough, on airplanes. I love to travel, so this is a real bummer. I've tried both Dramamene and the behind-the-ear patches, and neither really helps. What can I do to really deal with the motion sickness without being a sleep-addled zombie? [more inside]
posted by gchucky at 5:26 AM PST - 19 comments

Blood Type - What Blood Group am I in.

My blood type is "A. RH Positive" . I need to fill out a form that has the options A+, O+, B+, AB+, A-, O-, B-, AB- . Which one do I select. I looked on Wikipedia, but wow, blood is a complex subject. Appreciate your help.
posted by happy_sausage at 4:33 AM PST - 4 comments

August 15

What are the best books on becoming a consultant?

No snowflake details on this. other than I'm in a salaried job. I'm just interested in getting up to speed on this front. A search of the archives (at least for the past couple of years) doesn't disclose any list of good books/articles, so this could be a good resource for others. Thanks for your help!
posted by learnsome at 11:35 PM PST - 3 comments

Why would a physician refuse to accept credit cards?

I recently fired a doctor because she doesn't take credit cards or insurance. Can anyone think of a legitimate reason for this? [more inside]
posted by Violet Hour at 11:27 PM PST - 47 comments

How do I conquer my longtime addiction to relationships?

How do I conquer my longtime addiction to relationships, but... also date in Brooklyn? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:12 PM PST - 9 comments

What is the status of legal (recreational) pot stores in King County?

Specifically, which stores, if any, are open on the Eastside? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:11 PM PST - 4 comments

What's your holy grail beauty product that makes you smell incredible?

What's your holy grail beauty product that makes you smell incredible? [more inside]
posted by moons in june at 8:47 PM PST - 49 comments

Meat Rubs and Spice Blends for a Gift

Please recommend me your favorite meat rubs and spice blends (pre-packaged, not homemade) that will make grilled or braised meat taste AMAZING. [more inside]
posted by subject_verb_remainder at 8:43 PM PST - 12 comments

Why does exercise depress/anger me?

I know that regular exercise is a necessity and that I need more of it. I know that it's not meant to be easy. But I'm not sure it's meant to cause irrational, free-floating anger and despair. So what am I doing wrong? [more inside]
posted by MShades at 8:14 PM PST - 35 comments

How to get over a bad moment with a reporter

A while back, a journalist witnessed me displaying a small lack of integrity. Now, I see his name everywhere and can't get over my shame and anger about what happened. How can I move past this? [more inside]
posted by violetish at 7:42 PM PST - 28 comments

Madagascar mobile networks

I'm going to be in Madagascar this winter on holiday, and I would like to have access to mobile data, to the extent that I can. I don't know how the coverage is, nor how to go about getting a SIM for my phone. What carriers exist, which one is best, and what data plan should I consider?
posted by ChrisR at 7:24 PM PST - 1 comment

Does my perfect bag exist?

I spend a lot of time out and about and need to carry stuff with me, and in my search for the perfect everyday-carrying-around bag, I've tried a LOT of bags. After a few years of this I've finally figured out my needs. Is there anything out there that meets all of these requirements? [more inside]
posted by rhiannonstone at 6:45 PM PST - 10 comments

Where do people physically shop for messenger / travel / other bags?

Where do people physically shop for messenger / travel / other bags? I want to see them in person. [more inside]
posted by Morrigan at 6:08 PM PST - 13 comments

Importing hyperlinks into Excel

As users of Excel may know, only one hyperlink is allowed per cell. I'm trying to import HTML tables in which there are sometimes two hyperlinks per cell. The Excel importer does not seem to like this, so it gets rid of the link. Is there any way around this? [more inside]
posted by johngoren at 5:57 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me find more books like The Winter People by Jennifer McMahon!

I recently read The Winter People by Jennifer McMahon and I really liked a lot of the elements she used. I'm looking for stories in the same vein. I tried a couple book rec websites, but didn't really find what I was looking for. [more inside]
posted by msbadcrumble at 5:27 PM PST - 2 comments

Am I being a good friend or being taken advantage of?

I had to back out of a paying gig that a friend and I had agreed to work on together. I backed out because of health complications, but she was very upset, so I agreed to try and help get the project finished in any capacity that I was still able. It's now turning into a much bigger mess, and said friend is expecting more work from me. I want to help my friend, but I also feel like I'm being a sucker. [more inside]
posted by LANA! at 5:25 PM PST - 21 comments

Where do all the cool, hip Norse Vikings shop?

ClothingFilter: Where on Earth do men with "athletic builds" (big shoulders/chest; smaller waist relative to other proportions) reliably shop for fashionable, casual upper-body clothing? What style blogs and resources exist for dudes like myself? I am pretty sick of having to try on a zillion things to little success at most stores or to rely exclusively on very large thrift stores for finding something by random chance ... and "Big and Tall" stores are usually much too big?! [more inside]
posted by Keter at 4:01 PM PST - 16 comments

Life changes for the... difficult brain.

I'm not happy with the way I look or feel. I haven't been for a long time. I'm severely overweight, have high blood pressure with a family history of heart disease and diabetes, wake up with back pain every morning, have zero energy if it doesn't come in the form of an energy drink or shot, and just generally look like hell. What can I do to lose over 80 lbs and get myself to a healthy BMI for a 24yo 5'8' male when my brain acts like it really, really just wants to have me die of a heart attack by 35? Snowstorm inside. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 3:52 PM PST - 34 comments

What other songs have the same tempo AND meter as this one?

I recently learned a dance (contemporary ballet) to "Scare Away the Dark," by Passenger, but the song's not really up my alley. Can you suggest other songs that are the same tempo (71-72 bpm) and meter (3/4 or 6/8, not sure), especially with female singers? [more inside]
posted by nevers at 2:36 PM PST - 8 comments

Get me from Boston to Rutgers, except not from Boston

As a side trip to a New England-a-Palooza vacation, my partner is trying to get to this conference in Rutgers NJ. Are there sensible ways to get from Hartford, Manchester (NH), or Springfield (MA) to there? [more inside]
posted by gregglind at 2:16 PM PST - 5 comments

GMail: Blocking abusers by IP address?

I'm working with someone (outside of the US) who is getting a series of harassing emails to her GMail account. The abuser is sending from a number of addresses, and is thus hard to identify or block by account. Is there a way to get GMail to block mail by IP address? Filters don't seem to do it, and I doubt reporting the abuse to Google will get a response. Other solutions would also be appreciated (yes, I am talking to her about potentially using other services). Thanks!
posted by gusandrews at 2:08 PM PST - 9 comments

The Hugo Awards: what are the odds?

I thought bookmakers would take bets on just about anything, bookish competitions included—Ladbrokes has Haruki Murakami at 6:1 for this year's Nobel Prize for Literature—but I'm not finding anyone offering odds on this weekend's Hugo Awards. Are there any "official" odds on the Hugos? And if not, why not? [more inside]
posted by mumkin at 2:07 PM PST - 3 comments

Hey, bub... Wanna buy a cathedral?

I'm considering forming an LLC, purchasing an event property (former church), and renting it as an additional income source - primarily for weddings and catered events. Assume I'm completely green in this industry - which is almost true. [more inside]
posted by IAmBroom at 1:32 PM PST - 25 comments

Actuarial Burial

I'm looking for a table that shows crude death rates in the United States, broken down by race (or at least Black and White), preferably going back to 1960 (the first year records were kept). Anyone know where to find such a thing?
posted by matkline at 1:27 PM PST - 3 comments

How can I lose weight without getting obsessive about it?

I've always been a huge overplanner but rarely follow through on any of my plans. When I do try, I get so obsessive about it it inevitably falls apart. I've been "trying" to lose the 40 lbs I gained in college (I'm 24 now) for the past 3 years without success. How can I actually lose weight without being so anal about it? [more inside]
posted by majesty_snowbird at 12:56 PM PST - 36 comments

building solid community in your thirties and forties

Folks in your thirties and forties, especially ones that are married or in committed relationships - how have you built or maintained communities and social support networks outside your family? Especially if you have kids? How would you recommend that one build a good foundation for this earlier in life or if you wish you had (particularly following a significant life event like a divorce). I am going through a break-up and facing these questions right now in my earlier thirites, and wondering how I can better prepare myself if this happens in the future. [more inside]
posted by waylaid at 12:43 PM PST - 19 comments

Birthday party ideas for about ten 3 and 4-year olds?

We're having our daughter's first kids-only birthday party and we don't know how to do this. I'm looking for advice, especially for games and activities. [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 12:17 PM PST - 23 comments

online 12-step recovery meetings

I'm looking for advice regarding online-based recovery groups (meetings, discussion boards, etc). In several months I will be moving to a city with no English-speaking AA meetings. [more inside]
posted by socknocchio at 12:09 PM PST - 5 comments

My county's police got 171 assault rifles from the Pentagon. Now what?

Events in Ferguson, MO have me upset about a lot of things, but I'd like your suggestions on concrete local actions to take to combat (further?) police militarization. I'm in Colorado, but location-independent suggestions encouraged, too. [more inside]
posted by deludingmyself at 11:59 AM PST - 12 comments

Name my brass quintet!

My brass quintet is giving its debut recital next month. We all identity as LGBT (and have slight aspirations of trying to get gigs playing at weddings, same-sex or otherwise), and we rehearse on Capitol Hill. At a loss for what to call ourselves. Hope us?
posted by QuantumMeruit at 11:46 AM PST - 36 comments

Statistics Book for an interested teen

My teen aged niece has suddenly found a strong interest in statistics. What book would you recommend for a 14 year old who has good, but not advanced, math skills?
posted by honestcoyote at 10:57 AM PST - 18 comments

Summon us a dinner genie

I have a baby, a preschooler, a commute, and a spouse who works late. I need dinner to magically appear on the table within minutes of walking in the door. I don't know if this will involve a genie, a person, a recipe, or "one easy trick restaurants don't want you to know" like those shady sidebar ads. [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 10:51 AM PST - 51 comments

Everyday Tomboy Style

I think it's time to update/upgrade my fashion style now that I'm slightly older and dressing as a HS boy is not seen as positive in the early 20s in metropolitan area. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 10:49 AM PST - 7 comments

Immigrant parents won't drop the subject of their former country, help

It's been 32 year since they immigrated to this country, but pretty much the one and only thing my family ever talks about is the home country, and it drives me crazy. I can't change them, but I could probably handle it better. Details and the plea for help within. [more inside]
posted by tumbleweedjack at 10:32 AM PST - 31 comments

Financial crisis when I have awful credit and am too sick to work

I posted here about my financial situation of being on disability for mental health reasons. Right now my PTSD symptoms are huge and all-consuming, so I am not able to accomplish much at all. However, I'm hitting a financial crisis point and need to find some remedy. My credit is too bad to get any kind of loan and I don't know who I could ask for one personally. Do you have any suggestions?
posted by mermaidcafe at 10:25 AM PST - 9 comments

Cuddly denim shirt for my Pa?

I am looking for a super-soft denim shirt (men's small) for my father's birthday next week. Have any recommendations? It must be available for purchase from an online store or at a brick and mortar location of a national retailer. Thanks!
posted by reren at 10:11 AM PST - 2 comments

Dog me please!

I have never owned a dog and would eventually like to. What do I need to know? [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz at 9:36 AM PST - 43 comments

Replacement for Scansnap S1500

What is a good substitute for the Fujitsu Scansnap S1500M? [more inside]
posted by Polyhymnia at 9:08 AM PST - 2 comments

Mac/Google Calendar continues to list EDT/EST months after moving

I have a Google Calendar synced with my Mac (Yosemite) where I had a full year's events added while living in Toronto. I moved 3 months ago to the West Coast and changed all settings to Pacific Time, but when I check on the individual upcoming events from this calendar, I find either the event itself is off by 3 hours (urgh) or the TZ itself is still listed as Eastern (less problematic, but annoying). [more inside]
posted by northtwilight at 8:41 AM PST - 3 comments

How to Cook Indian Cuisine

I know how to cook in general, and I know Indian food relatively well in terms of...you know, eating it. But my attempts to cook Indian dishes myself have never turn out. Where can I find clear, dependable recipes for (primarily Northern) Indian staples? (By "staples," I mean ordinary dishes like: palak paneer, bhurtha, aloo paratha, dal. My favorite foods tend to be vegetarian, but I'm not a vegetarian myself, so either veg or non-veg is fine). [more inside]
posted by rue72 at 8:32 AM PST - 30 comments

How do I get a copy of the MP3 that was included on the W850?

I once briefly owned a Sony Ericsson W850 mobile phone. There was this really cool music MP3 pre-loaded on the phone that I found to by hypnotic. [more inside]
posted by Musashi Daryl at 8:24 AM PST - 2 comments

Looking for Fun Lake/Swimming Activities and Games I Can Play by Myself

What are fun games and activities I can play in a lake with little or no equipment and ideally no other people? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 8:19 AM PST - 11 comments

Should I consider a career in Speech Language Pathology?

Trying to decide if Speech Language Pathology is a career I should consider at 39, and would love to hear from SLPs who work in a school setting. I want to engage my creativity, work with kids on a smaller scale than a whole classroom, have a good work/life balance, and do work that feels like it MEANS something. Am I barking up the right tree? [more inside]
posted by DingoMutt at 7:31 AM PST - 14 comments

YA Novel Recommendations

I enjoy escaping from the real world by reading YA novels. Please help me find some good ones! [more inside]
posted by odayoday at 7:27 AM PST - 61 comments

Calling all virologists - important events in virology needed!

I'm preparing a timeline of important virology-related events for work. We have some HIV-related and some bacteriophage-related material as well as some cancer-related stuff and some "greatest hits" (x-ray diffraction patterns, transduction, discovery of interferon). I'd like to expand our timeline to cover more diverse kinds of virology-related stuff. [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 7:16 AM PST - 8 comments

Background Check Inconsistencies

I am currently undergoing a fairly extensive background check in order to work at a financial institution. It's been Kafkaesque. The background check company found some major inconsistencies in my reported employment dates, but the thing is -- I know (and can prove) that it's my former employers who have the dates wrong. The company doing the background check has refused to accept my documentation (W2s, contact info for supervisors who can confirm the dates, etc.). Should I pro-actively contact my potential employer to explain, or wait for them to contact me? [more inside]
posted by ZeroDivides at 6:58 AM PST - 9 comments

Seeking Faygo in DC

No, I'm not a juggalo - just a guy living in the DC area with several friends from Michigan. I thought it might be fun to surprise some of my friends with Faygo redpop and homemade Superman ice cream at our next shindig. Problem is, I've had a hard time finding Faygo in the DC area. Any ideas? (The Faygo website has proven a dead-end.) [more inside]
posted by duffell at 6:36 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me find some slow guitar songs with simple melodies

I really like playing the song "Claudia's Theme" from the Unforgiven soundtrack. I'm not a very good guitar player but it's a slow enough pace and it's so deceptively simple that I can really concentrate on performing the piece or I can just pluck away at it without having to give it a ton of thought. [more inside]
posted by VTX at 6:33 AM PST - 6 comments

Can employer apply a social media policy to personal accounts?

I work in broadcasting, and our bosses have just handed us a social media policy. I'm wondering if it's legal. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:26 AM PST - 16 comments

How to anonymously interact with a Canadian prisoner?

An acquaintance died suddenly. All of their possessions were willed to their SO, who is currently incarcerated. How to proceed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:25 AM PST - 6 comments

Summer buggin', happened so fast

I have some kind of seasonal bug bites and it's freaking me out and driving me crazy. What is going on!? [more inside]
posted by good day merlock at 6:16 AM PST - 8 comments

Bicycle Vanity

I have this bike. I need help finding panniers and clothes to go with it. [more inside]
posted by backseatpilot at 6:05 AM PST - 17 comments

Power Outage Preparedness

I live in Atlantic Canada, and in the past year significant, long lasting power outages have become extremely common. We can't afford a generator. What other things would may family and I most benefit from, and what is the best/most reliable ways to power devices? I have a limited budget so we're talking bang for your buck. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 5:48 AM PST - 21 comments

UK Tenancy Advice: Restrictions on when you are allowed to move out?

We are thinking of moving out of our London flat, ideally in November. But in our "Assured Shorthold Tenancy Agreement for letting a residential dwelling" they seem to specify that we can't move out around Christmas even if we give the required 2 months notice. Is this legal in UK? Does this odd restriction infringe our tenancy rights? [more inside]
posted by mary8nne at 5:25 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me find this essay - against disconnecting?

I have a dim memory of an essay/article floating around a few months to a year ago. It was basically an argument against disconnecting and 'digital detoxing'. Can you help me find it? [more inside]
posted by nerdfish at 3:13 AM PST - 5 comments

Failures in Hydration, Cream Edition

Like this questioner here, I too am a grown-ass woman who fails at hydration. However, I do find that I am more willing to guzzle down creamy drinks, such as milk or hot chocolate. Are those enough to hydrate me, will I die from too much milk, and what other drinks will help fulfil both the cream craving and the hydration? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 1:54 AM PST - 23 comments

August 14

Compact medical supplies

For reasons too bizarre to go into, to get into a particular country a friend of mine needs to turn up at customs with 12 pounds of medical supplies. She's trying to minimize the volume and cost while at the same time making sure the supplies will be useful in a third world country. From a size/weight/cost standpoint batteries are the best we've been able to come up with, but we're not sure they'll be acceptable. Any suggestions for things that are definitely medical supplies and fit the bill would be very welcome.
posted by Tell Me No Lies at 11:19 PM PST - 14 comments

We're moving to Istanbul! Tell me what I need to know

Actually, we will be living in Zekeriyakoy, north of the city, but I am guessing a lot of my questions could be answered by Istanbul residents, past and present. [more inside]
posted by Megami at 11:04 PM PST - 4 comments

Best resources/tools for relationship communication

My husband and I, as any couple, have communication issues. We'd love some books, online resources, and even therapy recommendations for us! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:34 PM PST - 14 comments

Well, at least it covers the chain link fence.

Plantfilter: What is this large flowering leafy bean plant in our yard? The plant in question (scroll down, it's an album of pics) is a large, leafy beast growing up and over our back fence in Los Angeles. [more inside]
posted by erst at 9:17 PM PST - 5 comments

Looking for a good vet in Los Angeles

Hi, I'm looking for a good, affordable veterinarian for two dogs in LA near Midcity/Midwilshire/Koreatown. Personal experiences especially welcome. Obligatory photo in comments!
posted by yaymukund at 9:00 PM PST - 6 comments

My sister offended my girlfriend. Can or should I do anything about it?

My sister made a careless remark about a coworker being "too old" to have children that really offended my girlfriend. Ever since, my girlfriend has been making snarky remarks about my sister whenever I mention anything about my immediate family. My sister has no idea that my girlfriend feels this way. Can I do anything to change how my girlfriend feels about this situation, and should I even try? [more inside]
posted by Chuck Barris at 8:44 PM PST - 47 comments

Help me buy my first bike!

I've just learned to ride a bike for the first time as an adult, and now I'm trying to buy one. Catch: I know nothing about them. [more inside]
posted by ostro at 8:39 PM PST - 15 comments

What's the best way to create buttons that hide/show content?

Website designers, can you point me to code or resources that I can use to implement buttons that are supposed to dynamically display content within the web page? [more inside]
posted by see_change at 8:39 PM PST - 4 comments

Static Shocks

I was wondering if the static shocks that a person normally gets in the winter are caused by an excess of electrons, a deficiency of electrons, or if it happens both ways but just depends on the circumstance.
posted by 517 at 8:34 PM PST - 8 comments

King-Sized people need recommendations for cozy, sturdy bed.

The hub and I are in the market for a new King-Sized bed. One of us is over 400 lbs. and our previous boxspring was eternally oppressed, groaning and moaning and calling us rude names. Finally it gave out entirely and we are now in need of a sturdy yet snuggly place to lay our heads when slumber calls. [more inside]
posted by mynamemeansmoon at 8:09 PM PST - 7 comments

My flatmate's eating habits might be affecting my own...

My flatmate has certain eating habits that could be negatively influencing my own, but of course it's not my place to comment on her eating habits. It's stressful. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit at 8:00 PM PST - 21 comments

My succulent died. Tell me how to not kill my next succulent

I've had this succulent for a few months and all was well. Suddenly, after looking totally normal the whole time, I returned from a few days out of town to find it in a very sad state. [more inside]
posted by arm426 at 7:26 PM PST - 6 comments

How to buy these Japanese popup cards in the US?

Is there a way to order online these Porigami laser-cut popup cards of Tokyo sights and have sent to me here in the US?
posted by bluecore at 7:16 PM PST - 2 comments

New glasses aren't all that they're cracked up to be. Thoughts?

I've recently got new prescription eyeglasses. Unfortunately, the new eyeglasses aren't feeling right, and I'm not sure if this is part of the normal adjustment process or if something went wrong. Details under the fold. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 6:40 PM PST - 26 comments

gmail tabbed inbox on ios or os x apps?

Are there any iOS apps or desktop Mac OS apps that play nice with gmail's tabbed inbox? I realize some do priority inbox, but that's not what I want. [more inside]
posted by modernnomad at 6:35 PM PST - 4 comments

Growing up, phase 2.

I finally have my act together, on a very basic level. What are the next steps to becoming a full-fledged adult? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:21 PM PST - 13 comments

Did you have a Lexiscan? How did it go?

My dad is going for a Lexiscan on Friday and the internet seems filled almost exclusively with horror stories. . [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:21 PM PST - 4 comments

Have you ever regretted a breakup but resisted reconciliation?

My BF and I ended our six month relationship several weeks ago. Since then we've been in touch a few times and both expressed culpability, longing, and regret. We've had one conversation about giving it another chance that seemed to put a line under things, but since then we've had contact again, expressed the same feelings again, and we're on track to having the same conversation again. We're not moving on and we're not getting back together. How do I make this next conversation "stick?" More details inside. . . . [more inside]
posted by bernie60676 at 5:48 PM PST - 16 comments

Isolated microbiome; is this a thing, or just some woo-woo idea of mine?

Is there any theory or study that would justify (or falsify) the idea I currently suffer from a lack of - for want of a better term - cootie biodiversity? Am I less healthy because my microbiome has been turned into a monoculture? [more inside]
posted by bartleby at 5:35 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me get pumped up about my new work schedule!

I am disproportionally bummed out that I will no longer have a traditional 9-5 schedule at work. Hope me! [more inside]
posted by fox problems at 5:30 PM PST - 13 comments

Very thick antifatigue mat for standing desk?

I'm trying to locate this awesome antifatigue mat to pair with my standing desk. All I can remember about it is that it's ridiculously thick (like 6 inches), that it was a doctor's mat of choice, and that it's best to use in socks or bare feet.
posted by leotrotsky at 5:24 PM PST - 3 comments

Chrome Reminder Extension

Chrome Extension: I'm looking for an extension that will remind me to complete a checklist before leaving a web page. [more inside]
posted by JPowers at 5:17 PM PST - 4 comments

PC not booting, not sure wher to start with diagnosis/fixing...

My not particularly old PC is having trouble starting reliably. [more inside]
posted by wilful at 5:03 PM PST - 10 comments

Chronic Fatigue Syndrome? Depression? Something else?

I'm a 31 year old male who is in "picture perfect health" according to the 10+ doctors I've seen in the past 10 months while trying to figure out what is wrong with me. Looking for someone who has had or known someone with CFS, Depression or similar symptoms to possibly provide some insight. [more inside]
posted by kvoorhees at 4:36 PM PST - 41 comments

Can you identify this book?

I have piles of books scattered all over the house, plus the Kindle, so tracking this down is possible, but it would be so awesome if anyone else could identify this story/book I read recently (recently: maybe within the last few months?). There are a man, and a woman, and I gather she is pretty self sufficient, because he says something of her like she's withdrawn into the room of her mind, and is sitting in there, knitting. This is driving me slowly nuts. Does it ring a bell? Thanks!
posted by thylacinthine at 4:14 PM PST - 2 comments

How do I food?

For the food challenged: How do I learn to plan for and cook deadly simple nutritious meals for 1 adult + 1 baby child? Recipes, advice, pointers all welcome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:48 PM PST - 26 comments

Best resources for buying spices? (Online or Seattle)

One of the things I miss about living in the big city is access to a Penzeys spice store. The other thing I miss is having enough money to afford to shop there. I am looking for any good resources on where to buy spices, either online, or within a few hours of Seattle, which is now my nearest metropolis. "The spice must flow!" [more inside]
posted by seasparrow at 3:34 PM PST - 14 comments

How to best support my partner who wants help w/ shame & addiction?

My partner has been wrestling with alcohol and sexual shame for a long time. This week, he confided in me that he wants to seek help based upon a boundary I set for myself, that he does not want to live like this anymore. I don't want to "over-help" or engage in any co-dependent behavior and I want to be a loving partner in this. But I also need to protect myself and our kids. What can I do or what should I avoid? Specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:23 PM PST - 11 comments

Did Montaigne actually say anything like this? If so, where?

In reviewing Wendell Berry's The Hidden Wound, one reviewer says: "The brunt of the book is to wake us up, page after page, from stupidity. 'It is a kind of death,' Montaigne said, 'to avoid the pain of well doing, or trouble of well living.' Wendell Berry makes that observation rip the air like an alarm clock." I'd like to find the work Montaigne is quoted from. [more inside]
posted by weston at 3:22 PM PST - 2 comments

Simple Diet Primer for Type II Diabetes

I'm looking for recommendations for simple introductory books about managing Type II Diabetes through diet and exercise. The book I have in mind would be written for someone who knows very little about the disease, and which explains what you can and can't eat, the reasoning behind it, and some guidelines about modifying your diet. [more inside]
posted by Ian A.T. at 3:08 PM PST - 5 comments

really some sort of American Idol for jobs would be ideal

I need a career change. I just don't know what to. How does one go about finding this out? [more inside]
posted by dekathelon at 2:58 PM PST - 23 comments

Automatic payment for your bills: What's the catch!?

I haven't used automatic billing/payment for any of my monthly bills - where the company takes out the money to pay a bill from your bank account or credit card - yet. I'm considering to begin doing this because I'm tired of keeping track which bills I have/haven't paid yet and spending time to do so. Is there any catch to using it or things of which I should be cautious? [more inside]
posted by fizzix at 2:57 PM PST - 22 comments

How much hair loss is normal for a 30 year old woman on a regular basis?

My shoulder length hair fully covers my head. I can't easily see my scalp. But I was looking at photos of myself from a few years ago, and I can't help but feel like there's just less there. Every single time I run my hands through my hair, a few strands come out, and when I comb my hair or shower, many strands come out. I have read about how long-haired women constantly shed hair, and I can't quite figure out if my daily hair loss is that kind of normal loss, or accelerating into something more. How can I determine which one it is?
posted by ocherdraco at 2:49 PM PST - 23 comments

Doctor, It Doesn't Hurt When I Do This...

Once in a blue moon, I have a weird joint issue - my finger knuckle seems to get "stuck". My father - who has arthritis - says that's probably what it is. But I'm not so sure. Help? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 2:43 PM PST - 10 comments

Books about inequality and privilege

I'm currently traveling in a developing country (Ghana) and got the very common feeling that "I'm so privileged/lucky" compared to some of the underprivileged people here. I'd like to continue this train of thought, and read more books about privilege, dealing with privilege (do we have a responsibility to give back since we have privilege?), and generally how inequality comes about. What do you recommend? Some books I've found on this topic are inside. [more inside]
posted by markbao at 2:28 PM PST - 3 comments

Make up for conflicted noob

I would like to wear make up. I'm 39 and a professional and I would like to look put together and not like I fell out of bed in the morning (even when I did). This question is a bit of a mess of insecurities, please help me get started? I read this question and found it useful in general, but would like an answer for specific questions: [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom at 1:13 PM PST - 46 comments

What are your most memorable or favorite train rides?

Which train ride(s) have you particularly enjoyed? Of any distance and length, anywhere in the world. [more inside]
posted by xtine at 12:23 PM PST - 62 comments

Late Life Career Change

Is it totally absurd to consider starting on the path to a degree in physical therapy/kinesiology at the age of 44? [more inside]
posted by spicynuts at 12:01 PM PST - 10 comments

My husband left me this morning. Now what?

My husband and I decided to divorce at 4 o'clock this morning, after I found him in bed with another woman. We've been married for 16 years and have an 11 year old daughter. He is at work, I am at home, and I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by Capri at 11:10 AM PST - 54 comments

Dear Dog, please stop being my alarm clock!

Dog stuck at home during mornings, barks at other dogs. How to tell owner? Fun snowflakes insides! [more inside]
posted by curagea at 10:58 AM PST - 10 comments

not awful

I'm going to have the opportunity to expand my eating soon, and I'm looking for offal (not awful) recipies. [more inside]
posted by the man of twists and turns at 10:47 AM PST - 20 comments

(In)Famous Neoconservative Postermodernism Quote

I'm having trouble remembering this (apparently) well-known quote by a prominent American conservative expressing a 'post-modernist' worldview and approach to political life. [more inside]
posted by eagle-bear at 10:35 AM PST - 6 comments

Is the Mozilla Foundation a non-evil (or lesser-evil) place to support?

If one is interested in devoting attention, time, and money to a group that supports consumer- and citizen-friendly activities, how does Mozilla stack up these days? [more inside]
posted by GPF at 10:24 AM PST - 7 comments

Where to sell dental laboratory scrap platinum, silver, gold?

My recently-deceased father owned a dental laboratory for years, and we found a small quantity of platinum foil, gold dental scrap, and unused silver-containing dental alloy in his shop. I am having a hard time finding reviews of refiners / scrappers. [more inside]
posted by LucretiusJones at 10:08 AM PST - 6 comments

Haven't seen my elderly neighbor for a few days. Time to worry?

We have an elderly neighbor on our block that hasn't been seen for 4-5 days. What's the next step? [more inside]
posted by otherwordlyglow at 9:40 AM PST - 57 comments

How do I deal with ongoing animosity between long-divorced parents?

My parents got divorced twenty years ago. How can I set boundaries with my mother while still having a good relationship with my father? Recent events have made it obvious that there's still a lot of hurt and anger between my mom and dad. [more inside]
posted by baronette at 9:38 AM PST - 14 comments

How much should he be eating?

I recently adopted a 10 month old cat. He wants to eat a lot more than I expected. What is the right amount? [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 9:31 AM PST - 26 comments

Meals that I can make ahead of time, freeze, defrost

I will be working for the next two weeks outdoors and for long hours. I would like to try and eat actual, healthy meals or snacks, but it will be hard because I won't really have access to a microwave. Therefore, I will need recipes for things that I can prepare ahead of time, freeze and then I can eat later without having to heat it up. It will have ample time to defrost (it's hot outside!), but I just won't be able to microwave it or anything. Are there any meals out there like this? [more inside]
posted by cyml at 9:31 AM PST - 8 comments

Is there a dock for my iphone that will amplify the ringer and alerts?

I want to come home and put my phone down in a dock and not carry it around all the time. I'm trying to reduce both anxiety (from checking work email) and distracted/divided attention (from playing games while talking or watching TV). Is there a good (small/cheap/easy to use) dock or other solution for this? I don't care about playing music or anything else. I just want a ringer I can hear a room away. [more inside]
posted by mercredi at 9:15 AM PST - 9 comments

Gardening on a non-profit budget...

I'm now in charge of a non-profit greenhouse that utilizes the square foot gardening method. How can I closely replicate Mel's Mix without breaking the bank? (And other greenhouse gardening advice happily accepted within!) [more inside]
posted by youandiandaflame at 9:00 AM PST - 10 comments

Current issues in archival reference

I'm interviewing tomorrow for a reader services position in an archives and need some help thinking about what current topics the committee might want to talk about. [more inside]
posted by CheeseLouise at 8:40 AM PST - 3 comments

The Cat Stalker Returns

Seven years ago, I posted about a cat from my house's previous owners who'd been relentlessly stalking my house, eventually ripping through a screen to get in and shit all over the floors (and I'm quite allergic). Three years ago, I moved 35 miles away to my current house. Last week, she found me, and she's stalking my house 24/7. [more inside]
posted by jimmyjimjim at 8:38 AM PST - 38 comments

From whence this sensation of a cold drop of water dripping on my leg?

For multiple days I keep feeling like a cold drop of water has just dripped directly onto my leg, in the same spot each time. The first time, I was 100% sure that there was a leak in my ceiling. The next few times I still found myself looking up, somewhat confusedly. It has continued to happen multiple times a day. Is this just a quirky body thing, or a known symptom of something to take slightly seriously? [more inside]
posted by thegreatfleecircus at 8:32 AM PST - 11 comments

What happens if you lose your U.S. Passport more than once?

I never lost a passport until 2 weeks ago. It was a 10 year passport and it still had 3 years left on it before it would've expired so those are a lot of years of memories I lost. Now I'm applying for a new one, but I've heard terrible stories about passports getting revoked for 10 years if they are lost more than once or something like that. What???? That would be terrible to be unable to travel for a whole decade. I'll be an old lady by then. Is this what happens if I lose my replacement passport too?
posted by rancher at 8:25 AM PST - 5 comments

Please recommend a good windshield or dashboard mount for my iPhone 4s.

I'd like some recommendations for windshield or dashboard mounts for my iPhone 4s. [more inside]
posted by tckma at 8:24 AM PST - 15 comments

Spam from my account

So, friends are receiving emails that appear to be from me. They are not from me. As far as I can tell, my accounts or machine have not been compromised. What now? [more inside]
posted by dirtdirt at 7:51 AM PST - 7 comments

What safety issues should I worry about with a windowless nursery?

I am converting my home office into a nursery for impending child. It's not technically a bedroom as it has no windows and is about 10x12' (very high ceilings though). I've gotten a little nervous reading some home blogs where commenters freak out saying a kid will die in an airless room (these are mostly on converted closet arrangements, e.g. here). What should I worry about? How can I best prepare/alter this room? [more inside]
posted by bluedeans at 7:50 AM PST - 14 comments

Give me your most jargon-filled work-related statements

I love jargon, especially among sub-genres of things. This week a web developer friend uttered a sentence about frameworks and databases that made sense but sounded so ridiculous I had to stop and ask him to repeat it. I'd like to hear more of these. Please give me the most jargon-filled sentence that you might have uttered at work in the past few weeks and made complete sense to coworkers, but sounds utterly ridiculous to outsiders, and state what your occupation/context was for it.
posted by mathowie at 7:47 AM PST - 34 comments

Automators against automation?

I am looking for research on, or organizing around, the ethics and social fallout of automation from the standpoint of the workers doing the automating (i.e., computer programmers and allied trades). [more inside]
posted by enn at 7:26 AM PST - 7 comments

Is E-Mail legally considered mail?

My club's Constitution (written in 1934) requires that members be notified of proposed changes by mail. I would like to send a notification via email rather than postal mail and am looking for any legal precedent (preferably in New York State) showing that the legal definition of mail in this case would include e-mail. [more inside]
posted by robverb at 7:08 AM PST - 12 comments

Video chat phones easy enough for anyone?

Are there any great single-purpose video phone devices of the kind that people used to think would be everywhere -- i.e. a device whose sole purpose is to do video chat? In particular, something that would be dead simple, and easy enough for kids and computer-unsavvy people to use easily.
posted by shivohum at 6:57 AM PST - 7 comments

A choice, for once.

Should I go with Optimum/Cablevision or Verizon FiOS internet in Brooklyn? [more inside]
posted by griphus at 6:55 AM PST - 4 comments

Time, Time everywhere there's Time.

Asking for a 21 year old friend. What things can my friend recovering from surgery do to earn a little money and/or prepare for a better job (currently works retail). [more inside]
posted by PlutoniumX at 6:02 AM PST - 7 comments

Where to look for slim-fitting men's knitting patterns

My mother-in-law is a prolific knitter, and I'd like to get her to knit me a pullover for winter. Trouble is, most home-made knitwear tends towards the baggy, which looks ridiculous on me - I wear a European size slim fit small for most tops. Is there anywhere online I can search for knitting patterns that won't look like a tent one me?
posted by primer_dimer at 5:07 AM PST - 13 comments

JPEG file - thumbnail and main picture don't match

My phone camera had a bad day and somehow saved 3 pictures I took as the same image. ie when I click on the 3 different files, it displays the same image. But the thumbnails show the correct image for each of the 3 files. Somehow the jpg files must have got the thumbnails and bigger images mixed up. I've tried different viewers (on my Window computer) and get the same results. I believe jpgs can store several image versions - Is there some technique or software that might let me see and extract all the images within the jgp file? (with the hope to rescue the biggest version of my intended picture for each file). Thanks
posted by Xhris at 4:11 AM PST - 1 comment

Yeah, I never said that.

Why do people keep putting words in my mouth? I'm 30, but it's been happening as long as I can remember. It reallllly fucking pisses me off. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 2:41 AM PST - 30 comments

What is it like to "come out" about having experienced mental illness?

I would like to hear stories from people who have "come out" about their lived experience of mental illness. What is it like to simply say, offhand, "Oh, yeah, I had depression" in the same way one might say, "Oh, yeah, I'm queer" - and have that be relatively common knowledge about you, rather than a private matter to be shared only with your closest confidants? How did you make the decision to be open and honest about your experience, and what were the benefits/pitfalls of doing so? Did you worry about professional ramifications down the line? How did it affect your sense of self? Do you ever wish you could un-disclose and stop being the "token crazy person"? I am particularly interested in hearing from people who have "come out" about their experience in order to assist others - for example, using your lived experience in a professional context to work in mental health promotion or peer support work.
posted by embrangled at 12:57 AM PST - 33 comments

August 13

relationship problems rising from facebook

I have been with my girlfriend since 5 months ago. Since the beginning we became friends on facebook. I love and trust her and have not seen anything suspicious from her. The only thing that got me a little worried was that on two occasions she told me that she kind of still cared about her ex boyfriend who she broke up with two years ago. When she saw that I got offended she told me that I do not need to worry because the feeling she has for him, is like a mother-child feeling. [more inside]
posted by mbn1455 at 11:51 PM PST - 38 comments

SSN card + IL license = CA license ?

Are an out-of-state license and a social security card enough to establish "birth date and legal presence" for the California DMV? [more inside]
posted by wayland at 10:11 PM PST - 7 comments

What's the Linkedin etiquette?

Asking for a friend... If you know who your interview panel is, is it a good idea or a bad idea to view their Linkedin profile while logged in? If you do this they will KNOW you're looking at their profile. Does this come across as: A) doing good research; or B) creepy stalking?
posted by Alice Russel-Wallace at 9:35 PM PST - 14 comments

Healthy versions of top ramen noodles?

Are there any healthy meals available which are similar in convenience to the instant noodles? Something I could prepare easily using just a microwave and is healthy and tasty? [more inside]
posted by TheLittlePrince at 9:32 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me help my angry vagina

Can you have a yeast infection with a negative culture? I have all the standard symptoms, but they do not go away with treatment and two cultures have come back negative. More info inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:38 PM PST - 13 comments

Someone's car hit my mailbox and left, should I file a police report?

I came home after work today and noticed that my mailbox is tilted. Then at around 6 PM, one of my neighbors came over and told me that she witnessed a car backing up and hit my mailbox and then drove off. She was able to write down the license plate number of the vehicle for me. I'm not sure on what to do now. It's an old mail box that I've own for about 10 years and I do not mind replacing it. So I don't know if I should just go buy a new mailbox and let this incidence go. I'm a bit bothered by the fact that the driver drove off and did not accept responsibility. How should I go about handling this situation? Thanks for the suggestion!
posted by missybitsy at 7:45 PM PST - 23 comments

I need to find a programming job in San Francisco in 1953.

Story research filter: My imagination was sparked by a recent comment about how computer programming was considered a suitable career for women in the 1950s and 60s, akin to clerical work. I'd like to learn more about what working life might have been like for these women, and about computing in general at that time. Bonus points if you can help me name some companies in 1950s San Francisco that might have employed my character. [more inside]
posted by sunset in snow country at 7:30 PM PST - 22 comments

How to get the smell of dog urine out of clothes?

My dog is getting older and starting to play fast and loose with the whole "housebroken" thing. Peed on my laundry. Now my laundry smells like pee, even after being laundered. How do I get it out? Also, I don't have a lot of clothes to begin with so I don't want to throw them out. First google result has THIRTY steps, I'm not doing that shit.
posted by mrbigmuscles at 7:10 PM PST - 21 comments

Help me write a memorable enough wedding toast!

How do I write a memorable, but not too memorable wedding toast? I've looked at previous questions, and looked online but I'm having a trouble due to complicating factors. [more inside]
posted by kendrak at 6:53 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me find beautiful games for my Android phone

I love Monument Valley, and would like to find more games like it. I'm seeking ones that are beautiful, minimalist, simple, atmospheric and tranquil -- the less time pressure and freneticism, the better. Puzzle-like aspects are great, arty/indie is great, good use of sound would be great. I'd especially love recommendations for games featuring female protagonists and ones rooted in a non-competitive worldview --- but those aspects aren't critical, just nice-to-have. Help me waste my time with beauty and joy :)
posted by Susan PG at 6:49 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me remember a computer game that involved safe-cracking

I'm trying to remember the name of a game for either the ZX81, the Commodore 16 or the Commodore 64. I suspect it was one of the former two. Gameplay involved a single screen, with several platforms and pipes connecting them. You played as a square or round character and had to move via the pipes and platforms. Various other characters were also moving around, which you had to avoid. All of these details are fuzzy. [more inside]
posted by Solomon at 6:35 PM PST - 3 comments

Trying to find the title of a movie!

This is for an older friend. She remembers a movie made in the fifties that was about a couple of American housewives going to Italy. She thinks that the name Sally was either in the title or a name of one of the characters. My google searching is yielding nothing. It was not Three Coins in the Fountain. Thanks!
posted by Jandoe at 5:33 PM PST - 3 comments

White collar worldview 101

My husband, a mechanical engineer from the rural midwest, recently moved to a position in the white-collar engineering workforce - what does he need to know to thrive? [more inside]
posted by bookdragoness at 4:52 PM PST - 20 comments

Dating someone who has AD/HD and narcolepsy - how do I cope?

I just found out that my boyfriend, who has narcolepsy, also has AD/HD. Many of our problems make so much sense now, and I'm kind of at a crossroads. Do I have what it takes to lead a happy relationship with this very, very dear person? Will I get used to the sacrifices and compromises I have to make? [more inside]
posted by doctordrey at 4:48 PM PST - 20 comments

iOS tally app with syncing?

I'm looking for a counter/tallying app (akin to mdevore's Flexible Counter) which allows for realtime syncing between users. That is, I'd like to be able to increment a counter and have the new value quickly show up for another device. Does such a thing exist? [more inside]
posted by crazy with stars at 3:48 PM PST - 1 comment

How to adjust my negative expectation of relationships

I grew up witnessing my parents' verbally abusive marriage. They are combative and insulting toward each other. Also, my mom has always blamed her marriage and kids for her stalled career and other unhappiness in her life. When I think of having a relationship, I automatically feel like it will drag me down and make my life worse. I've come to understand over the years that others actually think of a relationship as a safety net and source of comfort. I want to think of them that way too. How can I adjust my mentality? [more inside]
posted by vienna at 3:19 PM PST - 16 comments

Tier 4? More like Tears 4Ever.

YANM Immigration Lawyer, but I'm curious/anxious. I am a US citizen applying for a Tier 4 Student Visa. I am applying from the US but I lived in Germany and Holland (on student visas) from 2009 to 2012. How likely is it that the Home Office will want proof of those visas? [more inside]
posted by apophenia at 3:19 PM PST - 2 comments

How do I get antidepressants?

Who can prescribe antidepressants, who should, and how should I find/talk to that person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:06 PM PST - 17 comments

If I live in a tiny, shitty studio, will I hate my life?

I've been looking for a new place to live come September 1st for at least a month. I'm very wary of Craigslist roomshares at this point. I'm currently leaving one, and I do not want to deal with another adult who needs a roommate to afford their rent and yet thinks they are the Queen of the Apartment. But the studios I can afford are small and super shitty. [more inside]
posted by ablazingsaddle at 2:42 PM PST - 52 comments

UK Childrens' songfilter

Hullo, I am trying to identify the names of these songs I learned to play years ago. According to my music book they are childrens' songs from the UK. Google (and Baidu, since these are from a Chinese music book) are not helping. Names and song lyrics are awesome. Here are links posted on Flickr (since YT doesn't wanna work with me): 1. Big Geese song 2. Calendar song
posted by ditto75 at 2:36 PM PST - 4 comments

In Japanese, why is the demonstrative "あそこ" instead of just "あこ"?

Japanese demonstratives follow the こそあど pattern, such as with これ/それ/あれ/どれ and この/その/あの/どの, so why does the pattern change with ここ/そこ/あそこ/どこ? Logically, shouldn't あそこ be あこ? Why isn't this the case? [more inside]
posted by reductiondesign at 2:18 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me level up my camp cooking

Looking for ideas of really great food to bring on a car camping trip. Bonus points if it involves cooking over the campfire. I am attending an annual family long weekend camping trip with my fiance in a few weeks, and am drawing a blank on what to bring foodwise. I'm looking for ideas of main courses suitable for dinner as well as side dishes or dessert, that will blow people's socks off. [more inside]
posted by quaking fajita at 2:14 PM PST - 15 comments

What part time jobs should I check out?

Help me figure out what jobs I should be looking for. I have excellent office and computer skills, including the full Office suite and quickbooks. Additionally, I am currently a webmaster and have some coding, design, HTML and CSS skills. I need to make at least $15/hour and work 20 hours a week - this is non-negotiable. [more inside]
posted by stoneweaver at 2:05 PM PST - 12 comments

Best ways to acclimatize yourself to a new city (Montreal)

I have 3 weeks of free time before school starts and want to make the most of it. [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 1:57 PM PST - 10 comments

Hat Help!

Here's a question about hats and heads. My head, to be precise. It's big. [more inside]
posted by crazylegs at 1:57 PM PST - 4 comments

Giving up prestigious job to move to the city?

So yeah. Keep going with extremely rare job in a town that doesn't support my ideal personal life, OR go with a slightly less rare (but still rare) job in the city where I know I'll get my ideal personal life? More below... [more inside]
posted by glache at 1:52 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me move on down the road (literally)

Hi Mefites. I'm planning, finally, on taking a chance with my personal and professional life and leaving my current place of residence (NM) to move to California to pursue better opportunities. Yay! [more inside]
posted by strelitzia at 1:34 PM PST - 10 comments

Youtube Amateur Night

Your favorite amateur musical performance on Youtube is... [more inside]
posted by Potomac Avenue at 1:13 PM PST - 19 comments

Jazz Duo Albums

What are your favorite jazz albums that feature duos, with or without rhythm section? [more inside]
posted by rossination at 12:40 PM PST - 24 comments

How much does sailing on protected waters resemble coastal sailing?

How useful is it to practice sailing on a lake, if what one wants to learn is sailing on the ocean? [more inside]
posted by Ipsifendus at 12:32 PM PST - 6 comments

Buying my first and last (?) cookbook

Help me choose a Cook's Illustrated/America's Test Kitchen cookbook. [more inside]
posted by Zelos at 12:26 PM PST - 19 comments

How to compose transfer essay for college admissions?

I just began my application for certain UCs and CSUs (hoping to matriculate Fall 2015). In particular I'm concerned about my essays. What resources do I have to help me revise the essays before I submit them? Are there any topics I should be sure to cover/avoid? [more inside]
posted by miltthetank at 11:47 AM PST - 5 comments

Drive From Seattle to Las Vegas - What To See? Where To Stay?

We are driving from Seattle to Las Vegas in early September. I'm looking for sights along the way and places to stay - unique or just a hotel but no camping. [more inside]
posted by bodgy at 11:47 AM PST - 12 comments

How can I cheaply hang 10-20 hammocks with no trees?

In three weeks my girlfriend is hosting a "Nap Day" in a place with few trees. She'd like to find an affordable way to purchase and hang 10-20 hammocks. Anyone have any creative solutions? [more inside]
posted by funkiwan at 11:42 AM PST - 18 comments

Making Macs Accessible for Dummies

My mother-in-law, who has some vision and mobility issues, just purchased her first Mac. Help me help her use it. [more inside]
posted by damayanti at 11:20 AM PST - 4 comments

Transferring files from PC to new iMac

I bought my very first mac yesterday - an iMac. Very excited!!!! I went through the start up screens where it offered to automagically transfer my files from my 5 year old sony vaio laptop, sitting in the same room. I am normally skeptical but decided to exercise blind faith and let it do it's thing. When it starting the transferring/migrating sequence, it said 40 hours left. Should I have done something different/better and why didn't it warn me? [more inside]
posted by happytaco at 10:53 AM PST - 9 comments

Help me help my father

My father has suffered an extended series of illnesses and has a terminal disease. He's weak but has shown a capability to physically recover. Left to his own devices he sleeps a lot. How do I keep him engaged? [more inside]
posted by jackbishop at 10:39 AM PST - 10 comments

Will this temperature controller work in North America?

I need to purchase a few temperature controllers; I'm interested in this one but I'm not sure if it will work in North America without blowing up or melting something or other adverse and undesirable things. [more inside]
posted by Nyx at 10:37 AM PST - 4 comments

Hearing voices. Need help.

This is hard to write, but I'll try to get things out... I've been hearing voices and I don't know what to do. Be prepared for a book... [more inside]
posted by kathrynm at 10:26 AM PST - 43 comments

Does eczema ever go away?

I've been struggling with a few growing patches of eczema on my hand for about four months now, and it is really starting to have consequences for my quality of life. It's getting to the point where I'm becoming quite depressed and am starting to isolate myself from my normal social situations, and I can't partake in my favourite hobby (cooking) because of the way it causes my skin to flare up, no matter how careful I am. My questions are, will a moderate case of eczema clear up on its own spontaneously, and what else can I do to care for it? [more inside]
posted by chrillsicka at 10:19 AM PST - 31 comments

Can you buy small quantities of 11x17 paper in South Korea?

People in my (US-based) office are going nuts today trying to overnight a ream of blank 11x17 paper to Korea. Is this really necessary? [more inside]
posted by Naberius at 10:17 AM PST - 12 comments

What do you get when you get a more expensive Android tablet?

I need to buy an Android tablet for academic use. I went to BestBuy to check them out and they range in price from $100 to close to $600 with no obvious rhyme or reason to the variation. What do you get when you pay more for a tablet and is it worth it? [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 10:07 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me outta my wump (web design slump)

I've designed web sites for years, but lately I'm finding it has become increasingly difficult. I think this has much to do with prevailing design and technology trends -- which apparently don't agree with me. [more inside]
posted by ecorrocio at 9:57 AM PST - 6 comments

Conservative dentist in Portland, Oregon?

New to town and looking for a conservative - in the sense of "prefers not to drill if it's reasonably avoidable" - dentist in Portland, Oregon. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:44 AM PST - 4 comments

I want to get stoked on vitamins and nutrients.

What are your favorite healthy plant-inclusive dinners that you actually get excited to shop for, cook, and eat? I'm looking less for "I put onions in my sauteed spinach" or "I cook lentils into a flavorless gruel," and more for something like "I roast chicken with garbanzos and cherry tomatoes, then serve it with a smokey yogurt sauce." [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 9:12 AM PST - 41 comments

Possibly moving to Denver for a new job. HELP.

My husband is interviewing in Denver this week and seems to have a good shot at getting the job. We currently live in Meridian, Idaho (just outside of Boise) and have lived here practically our entire lives. I've never lived out of state, though my husband has. Help this security-needing, plan-making, organizational freak make sense of a big-for-me move! [more inside]
posted by gracious floor at 9:10 AM PST - 20 comments

Tennis - US Open itinerary logistics question

I'm going to the US Open on Sunday, August 31, a day in which a Mets game is also going on (starts at 1pm). We are staying in Midtown and plan on taking the LIRR. We'd like to hit up (the Chinese side of) Flushing at some point (maybe before going into watch) for lunch or snack. When should we get the LIRR from Penn Station to miss crowds-so-full-we-need-take another train? (no earlier than 11am is possible) [more inside]
posted by sandmanwv at 8:47 AM PST - 3 comments

Aging in literature and film

As I approach my fifties and confront the reality that parts of my body are wearing out and will never be young and resilient again, I turn to the arts for deeper philosophical understanding of this aspect of the human condition that I am facing. I'd like recommendations of fictional treatments of physical aging which are realistic but compassionate. Guidelines and caveats behind the fold. [more inside]
posted by matildaben at 8:45 AM PST - 25 comments

Binding arbitration

I have an arbitration clause in my lease. Does this preclude me from using small claims court? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 8:25 AM PST - 7 comments

Help! Can I normalize statistical coefficients?

With deadline looming, stats consultant has bailed. Simple queries need resolution. Help? I am working on a data graphic that involves statistical calculations about survival rates for startup businesses, correlated with certain tangible and intangible factors. The raw data (about survival/closure/merger outcomes) has already been investigated, and the original researchers (who are awesome) have generated some interesting correlations using univariate regressions and Cox regressions. For my output I am relying on their statistically significant findings, wanting to create comparisons among the univariate coefficients. Not sure my methods are kosher and would appreciate consultation. Avalanche inside. [more inside]
posted by GrammarMoses at 8:13 AM PST - 2 comments

Hardscaping a brick path

I have a flagstone/fieldstone walkway to my back door. There are a lot of trip hazards from uneven stones, and we'd like to replace it with brick. What should be written into the bids I get from contractors to make sure I get a quality replacement? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 7:50 AM PST - 5 comments

Irritability emergency!

I'm feeling extremely irritable today and every person I'm in contact with is pissing me off. But I need to get in a good mood fast! I'm leading an important meeting this afternoon (3 hours from now) and I cannot be scowling or grumbling. But my chest feels tight and heavy like lead--basically, what feels like an acute and grouchy depression-ish thing. How can I quickly suppress (or deal with) this and power through an intense interpersonal time? [more inside]
posted by magdalemon at 7:43 AM PST - 31 comments

Is it okay to accept a new job that I might leave in the near future?

I have been offered a new position at work that has the potential to be a good, but not great, opportunity, but there are multiple other positions that I would like to pursue with outside organizations. Is it acceptable to take the new position knowing that there is a small chance that I would leave shortly after it began if offered a different job? [more inside]
posted by kardia at 7:11 AM PST - 21 comments

Best, most cost effective way to backup google apps?

We are a small nonprofit with about 10 concurrent Google Apps accounts. All I need to backup is email, not calendars or drive. I have good hardware. I do NOT have much budget. Please help, much more detail inside. [more inside]
posted by TomMelee at 6:32 AM PST - 17 comments

800 number routing

I would like to setup several toll free numbers and have them routed each to a different phone number. Is there a company you would recommend that could set that up for me, and that will have a caller log feature for each toll free number for when clients call? Thank you.
posted by anonymous at 6:31 AM PST - 2 comments

Will a Viagra pill go bad if I keep it in my pocket for too long?

I know that some medicines break down when they reach a certain temperature. Will a Viagra pill lose its potency (ha ha) if I keep it in my pocket for too long? If so, how long can I keep the same pill in my pocket before it goes bad? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:31 AM PST - 10 comments

When there's too much month at the end of the money...

I'm putting together a gift basket for someone who is on a low, fixed (disability) income. What sort of household staples might they appreciate? [more inside]
posted by Rosie M. Banks at 6:17 AM PST - 40 comments

Does your Six Flags have fake histories?

At a recent visit to my nearest Six Flags ("Fiesta Texas") I started to notice signs for fake histories of fake towns across the park. Is just a feature of my park, or do ones you've been to have them, too? If so, what are they? [more inside]
posted by bison at 5:43 AM PST - 8 comments

How to further polish brass plated hinges

What is the best way (if any) to keep cleaning these brass plated hinges? [more inside]
posted by patrad at 5:27 AM PST - 9 comments

Source for custom bumper sticker that's 1/2- or 1/3-height?

There are lots of vendors for normal-size bumper stickers (3in x 10in) but I can't find any for the size I want (1.5in x 10in, or 1in x 10in). Does this exist? I want to order a small batch of custom bumper stickers for a side project (Qty ~100). For the sticker itself, I'm just looking for white text on black background.
posted by sninctown at 4:40 AM PST - 4 comments

iMac Accessories

Purchasing a new iMac, looking for accessories recommendations. [more inside]
posted by dbirchum at 4:03 AM PST - 14 comments

August 12

I want a URL, the price keeps changing, now it's too high.

I would like to own a URL, but the price keeps changing. Now it's really up there. It's owned by one of those huge domain companies. A year ago I looked at it, and it was over $1200. A few months later it was down to $900. Now it's $2495! What gives? Why does it keep changing? How do I get it at a lower price? For what it's worth, I noticed that a site using the .org version now exists, and I don't believe it was there earlier if memory serves . Does that have an impact? Help me get this URL at a reasonable price, please.
posted by anonymous at 11:37 PM PST - 10 comments

Best way to disclose pregnancy early in the interview process

I am interviewing for a job I am very interested in, but do not need. At the same time, I'm early in a pregnancy and want to tell the hiring manager about it. What is the best way to position my pregnancy and expected leave proactively and positively? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:36 PM PST - 14 comments

Why can't I remember how to use my camera?

Photography has been a lifelong, though not consistent, interest of mine. I have always had an SLR or DSLR camera for about 30 years. Yet I still can't remember how to operate the damn thing without using automatic settings! What is my problem and can you suggest ways to improve my 'technical memory'? [more inside]
posted by KateViolet at 11:30 PM PST - 13 comments

33F, don't honestly feel like dating, but feel like I should.

I am sitting here with a poochy belly over my underpants, having just eaten a forbidden snack, writing this question at 1am. My apartment is usually messy, and I don't look or feel particularly attractive (though I can clean up well). I don't have many friends in this city, so I don't go out very often. I'm also midway into 33, female, almost 2 years single (except for one "fwb" that's been over) since my last long-term relationship ended, and feel this immense pressure to DATE. RIGHT. NOW. before it gets *really* tough to find someone. [more inside]
posted by Sa Dec at 11:06 PM PST - 37 comments

Affordable tennis in NYC?

I'm looking to play tennis casually and recreationally in the Queens/Brooklyn/Manhattan area. But the costs and inconveniences are real deterrents. If I understand, I need to pay the annual membership, THEN a per-diem fee, and all of that AFTER finding a court that has availability. Is there a better way? (My friends in the suburbs drive to a local park, walk over to a free court and... play.)
posted by counterfugue at 11:06 PM PST - 6 comments

Should my mom put that back in her mouth?

My mother, who is a good person and has a masters degree, accidentally swallowed a temporary bridge. Now she, um, has retrieved it. She wants to know if she can clean it herself (by soaking it in alcohol or something) and pop it back in, without calling the dentist about it, which she doesn't want to do because reasons. However, she's worried that she'll be unable to sterilize it properly and will make herself sick by putting in her mouth something that has been through her digestive tract. She's counting on me, and therefore you, to find out how to clean it properly. Or to tell her there's no way. Anyone?
posted by smoakes at 9:28 PM PST - 20 comments

Need to roll a canoe over...into a sailboat

Looking for the ideal locale to live cheaply and practice sailing just as cheaply. [more inside]
posted by bricoleur at 9:25 PM PST - 6 comments

Example of Japanese-speaker singing Disney song phonetically in English?

I've been digging for about a week and I can't find audio examples of a japanese-speaker singing Disney songs phonetically in English. I know it's a thing, because I think I remember being shown this sort of thing vis-a-vis The Circle of Life a few years back by someone who was bilingual, and I got the impression from the number of videos then that this was a common practice among Japanese (and maybe other Asian countries?) kids to do. Can someone find me a link? Or give me better search terms? [more inside]
posted by ABlanca at 9:10 PM PST - 2 comments

How critical was being physically present to the success of your book?

How critical was being continually physically present for readings, signings, interviews and other events to the success of a book? Was most of your successful promotional efforts in the first year online or over the phone? [more inside]
posted by msk1985 at 8:28 PM PST - 2 comments

Mosquito repellent collar for cats?

Does such a thing exist, and if so, where can I buy it? Thanks.
posted by Jacqueline at 8:19 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me navigate the government's System for Awards Mangement

Yay, I got registered with SAM but I can't register my entity! [more inside]
posted by vespabelle at 7:38 PM PST - 2 comments

Math-related field trip destinations for Bay Area HS students?

I teach math to high schoolers in the San Francisco Bay Area. I'd like to get them out of the classroom on a field trip to a local math-themed destination. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by aws17576 at 6:36 PM PST - 11 comments

Why does my wireless router keep dropping connectivity?

My Linksys WRT54G router keeps losing internet connectivity, even though the wireless seems to be fine. Halp? [more inside]
posted by Ms. Toad at 6:33 PM PST - 12 comments

How to get over someone who left you for someone else?

How I get over my ex who left me for someone else? [more inside]
posted by Parh6512 at 6:31 PM PST - 18 comments

Financial Ap for Dummies?

Does anyone know of a simple to use financial Ap that can be run by a fairly illiterate to technology woman? The Ap will need to be able to make spreadsheets to present the information! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:21 PM PST - 5 comments

The 100,000 Dollar (Office Toilet)? Seriously?

I work for a small(ish) but growing nonprofit organization. Our HQ is currently a rented office/laboratory suite in a single-story building with multiple other tenants in adjacent suites. Growth is good, but we're nearing the OSHA limit for "number of employees per one restroom", and we're thoroughly past the "human comfort" limit as such things go already. We can't immediately move, so we're looking at installing a second lavatory. Is there really NO way (assuming "sketchy, un-licensed contractor" is off the table, which it most assuredly is) to do this for under $100,000 in California? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:19 PM PST - 10 comments

What is wrong with my Google Play books account?

Suddenly Play Books only works on computers that are not mine. [more inside]
posted by Sternmeyer at 6:08 PM PST - 2 comments

Infections in Education...

Okay, that is a bit of a tongue-in-cheek title... I just started doing tech support work in a public school. I know about hand washing and using sanitizer but anyone have any thoughts about additional vaccinations beyond TDP and the annual flu shot? [more inside]
posted by sandpine at 5:57 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I replace the first line of every php file on my website?

I have some potentially malicious code stuck onto the first line of every php file on my website. How do I get rid of it without going into each file and cutting it out?
posted by sdis at 5:10 PM PST - 21 comments

I need a physical therapist for my… tongue?

So I'm pretty sure that I've got a problem with tongue tension. If you know what that is, awesome, hang out and help me solve it… if you don't, enjoy my weird problem and be glad you never heard of it. [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 5:03 PM PST - 4 comments

audi q5 question

yesterday morning when my wife started her brand new audi Q5 2014, it started giving out a weird sound from the rear section, sth akin to horse hoof beating on the road. she got off the car twice to check what's going on and found nothing out of ordinary. after about 40 mins, she parked at her friend's place and then she started hearing the typical sound when the tire is leaking air. she then saw one of the front tires was going flat. the whole sequence of events was a bit traumatizing for her as she is a new driver with less than a year of experience driving any kind of car, and this is a brand new Q5 with only 90 miles on it. later on after auto shop fixed the tire, the weird sound disappeared. my questions: 1. were the two events (weird sound and flat tire) related? 2. what was that sound? is it some kind of warning system by audi? 3. why didn't the tire pressure monitoring system warn her? thanks,
posted by kingfish at 5:02 PM PST - 8 comments

Side job involving writing contracts?

I recently discovered that I intensely enjoy closely reviewing, writing, and editing contracts. Without changing careers and becoming a lawyer, is there any sort of side work I could pick up involving writing (or doing some other sort of work with) contracts? [more inside]
posted by Cucurbit at 4:32 PM PST - 11 comments

Distance learning classroom/blackboard software?

What kind of software (client side or server side) exists for simple distance learning? In other words, two or three people are online with headsets or webcams and there is a canvas area where we can place images, write, and draw freehand as we talk. [more inside]
posted by crapmatic at 4:11 PM PST - 5 comments

Free Amazon Kindle Book Listing?

Is there a way to get a plain text list of the free books available for Kindle on Amazon.com? [more inside]
posted by imjustsaying at 3:37 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me use my sick day tomorrow!

So I need to burn off a sick day tomorrow. I was planning on going to the beach but alas, the forecast calls for rain. What's something else fun that I could do in Manhattan and/or Brooklyn? [more inside]
posted by Everythingsalrighteverythingsfine at 2:58 PM PST - 12 comments

Where Should We Go In Addition to Seattle?

I visit some friends in Seattle every year right around Halloween — sometime in the last week of October/first week-and-change of November. My travel buddy and I have in previous years traveled to other cities near Seattle as part of the vacation. We've been to Portland, Vancouver, and San Francisco. Where should we go this year? [more inside]
posted by Charity Garfein at 2:24 PM PST - 18 comments

Electronica-scored "Fantastic Planet"/"Planete Sauvage"?

Years ago I saw a version of the classic weird animated sci-fi movie Fantastic Planet (Planete Sauvage) where the sounds and dialogue had been completely replaced by electronic music from Venetian Snares, Matmos, and the like. I can't find it anywhere - all the sites that blogged about it link to the same outdated video link. Anyone have a line on it? [more inside]
posted by BlackLeotardFront at 2:11 PM PST - 2 comments

To tan or not to tan

My attempts to stay out of the sun and covered with SPF 50 have not worked. I am getting married in a strapless gown in 3.5 weeks, and I've got a farmer's tan. I also bruise easily and turn a multitude of colors when I am emotional (as I expect to be at the wedding). Help! [more inside]
posted by Elly Vortex at 1:08 PM PST - 29 comments

Contact for Tom Robbins?

Hi There! I'm trying to contact Tom Robbins about possibly doing a musical adaptation of one of his books. Anyone know who his agent is or how to get in touch with his peoples? THANKS!!!
posted by sunnyblues48 at 12:47 PM PST - 3 comments

Can I ask for another nurse?

Do I have the right to request another nurse? [more inside]
posted by ramix at 12:39 PM PST - 10 comments

Strategy to proofread document from OCR

I have a document in English of about 1500 pages that was originally derived from OCR scans of varying quality. I've proofread manually and by spell-check. What is the best strategy to eliminate the remaining errors? [more inside]
posted by dances_with_sneetches at 12:33 PM PST - 11 comments

How to talk to adult male about uncircumcised penis hygiene?

Have you ever had to talk to someone about their uncircumcised penis hygiene? Has anyone ever had to make suggestions/requests about your foreskin odor? How did it go? What do you wish you had said/heard instead? [more inside]
posted by tulip-socks at 11:58 AM PST - 34 comments

OkCupid code words?

I've noticed in my travels on OK Cupid that there seem to be a few code words in play on the site --- for example, mentioning the movie Secretary in the movies/books section seems to pretty consistently be a gentle hint that the person is either into BDSM themselves or at least kink friendly. It made me wonder what other key words may be out there that I'm missing out on, in case I've put them in my profile or see them in others'. What is the modern handkerchief code?
posted by maggiepolitt at 11:48 AM PST - 39 comments

Help me find this St. Louis Art Museum Special Exhibition Piece.

OK, this is going to be tricky: A friend of mine saw an exhibit at the St. Louis Art Museum that she talks about all the time. There was a hands-on type of piece, probably on a piece of paper or cardstock, and you could flip it: One side said something akin to "I'm where I need to be" and the other side said something in the vein of "Anywhere but here." [more inside]
posted by knownassociate at 11:33 AM PST - 3 comments

Questions about cell phone signal boosters

My roommates and I are moving into a basement suite, and we are concerned about the lack of cell phone reception there. I am interested in purchasing a cell phone signal booster, but have a few questions. [more inside]
posted by tickingclock at 11:28 AM PST - 5 comments

How To Fly When Walking is a Challenge

Do you have any tips for flying with an injury or pain? What have your experiences been? [more inside]
posted by Eolienne at 11:26 AM PST - 9 comments

Online education: turning graduates into a community of mentors?

I am part of an online philosophical community with an optional mentoring scheme. Those who complete enough lessons from a bank of hundreds graduate and can then become mentors to others, but few stay; how can I foster a sense of community amongst these graduates and encourage them to stick around to become valuable mentors to the waiting students? [more inside]
posted by tzb at 10:56 AM PST - 8 comments

If Podcasts Were Hot Dogs, I'd Be Kobayashi

I spend 10+ hours per week commuting, 40+ hours wearing headphones at work (open-plan office: boo!), and ANOTHER 5+ hours wearing headphones at the gym. As such, I plow through an absolutely obscene volume of podcasts. I'd like some recommendations for more (lest I be forced to spend even a single second alone with my thoughts). To help you get an idea of my preferences, here are a few lists: [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew at 10:37 AM PST - 63 comments

Petite tops/blouses so I don't freeze to death in the office.

What has your experience been with silk tops? Specifically in regards to Everlane and/or Equipment if you've purchased from there. What other tops/blouses can you recommend to keep warm and look presentable at work? [more inside]
posted by driedmango at 9:42 AM PST - 22 comments

Methods of approximation?

I've never been very good at either math or at eyeballing things like weight or dimension, but was thinking recently about how to more or less accurately weigh things without using a scale. What good methods are out there to approximate other kinds of measurements? [more inside]
posted by OverlappingElvis at 9:34 AM PST - 11 comments

Communication between two hypersensitive, beanplating marshmallows

My boyfriend and I both hate making each other feel bad. Does this mean we can't talk about things that aren't going well? He in particular feels very hurt when I bring up things that are bothering me. [more inside]
posted by segfault at 9:12 AM PST - 23 comments

Are there any bike locks that don't use bulky/fragile plastic keys?

A few weeks ago, my bike lock left me stranded after the stupid plastic key handle broke off, leaving the rest of the key trapped inside the lock (and leaving me trapped four miles from home, in the rain). Similarly, the weird plastic key handles add a lot of unnecessary heft to my keychain. Are there any decent bike locks that use "normal" keys? Bonus points if I can get multiple locks that use the same key.
posted by schmod at 8:57 AM PST - 13 comments

Asking Salary Range Before Traveling Cross-Country for Job Interview?

After two hour-long telephone interviews with the hiring manager at a potential new employer, they said they want me to fly out to the west coast for a day-long interview, at their expense. However, because this would necessitate taking several days off work and the hassle of traveling cross-country, I'd like to get an idea of their salary range before accepting the offer to come interview. Is this appropriate? [more inside]
posted by Creamroller at 8:29 AM PST - 14 comments

Displaying sentimental water?

I have roughly 150ml of water, a little bit of sand, and three small rocks from a recent international trip. Crafty Mefites, do you have any suggestions for how to make this into something neat that I can hang on a wall? It doesn't matter to me if the rocks and sand stay in the same place. My first thought was something like an Ecosphere that I can fill myself but I'm not sure if that would work out long term.
posted by fireoyster at 8:25 AM PST - 7 comments

Techno for baby?

I'm putting together an extended mix for some friends, focusing entirely on electronic music that's unusually well-suited for infants. Anyone have thoughts on appropriate tracks? [more inside]
posted by aramaic at 8:15 AM PST - 24 comments

Mid-thirties lady starting to get 1-2 zits per month on ladyparts

I'm a lady in my mid-thirties starting to get 1-2 zits/month on my ladyparts. The are small, red and painful and eventually come to a head. The white sebum is spherical and hard, unlike any zits I've ever had before. NSFW, I assume. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:46 AM PST - 14 comments

Looking for a term: mispronouncing a word you've only ever read

Mr. sixswitch and I both have a common experience of precocious kids: trying out words that we've learned from reading in conversation, with tragic results. I pronounced disheveled as dis-heveled (because obviously you could also be heveled), he said 'doicksiem' instead of 'deuxième', and so on right up til yesterday (chassiss for chassis). Is there a linguistics term or nickname for this type of thing? [more inside]
posted by sixswitch at 6:35 AM PST - 50 comments

Got sent home from work for being 4 minutes late one too many times.

I work in a large, highly corporate sales company where they're hardcore on discipline, time management, organization. I work hard whilst at work and I am learning and growing, but I have such a hard time coming into work on time. We start 7:45 in the morning sharp--by this time we junior salespeople need to be at our account managers' desks, prepared for the day, read emails and self-organized. I. suck. at. this. [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen at 6:17 AM PST - 80 comments

How do I resolve a neighbor/noise issue?

My newish neighbors keep complaining about the level of noise coming from my apartment, but I'm not being loud. How do I handle this? Sensitive details in the explanation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:06 AM PST - 26 comments

How exactly does one get help for depression

I know I am depressed and need help. I don't know where to start though. Do I look for a therapist first? Do I make an appointment with my PCP first? Going to the doctor because "I feel sad all the time" seems so stupid. Should I start with a psychiatrist appointment?? [more inside]
posted by Librarypt at 4:54 AM PST - 19 comments

New lenses for old glasses

I have two pairs of old glasses I really like, and want new lenses for them. Is there anywhere in Boston that will give me a good deal on them? Single vision, weak prescription, polycarbonate. I could probably be interested in adding the first AR option. Costco is not an option. Walmart is $79, but takes several weeks. Where is the best place to have my new prescription filled?
posted by tintexas at 3:47 AM PST - 3 comments

Recommend some body paint for the fun times?

Partner and I are interested in painting each other's bodies as a prelude to Other Stuff. Getting non-crappy body paint has turned out to be a surprisingly hard thing, though. Everything we've ordered from Amazon has been really unsexily crappy, and often nasty-smelling. Does anyone have a specific recommendation? Should we just go to an art store and buy some acrylic, and then take a shower afterwards?
posted by anonymous at 2:53 AM PST - 8 comments

Boyfriend anger, one time occurrence? what to do now...

I've been with my boyfriend for a little over two years. We've had a good, happy, supportive, and very loving relationship with very few bumps in the road. He has a tendency to get irritated more easily than I, which usually diffuses rather quickly by him realizing he's overreacting. On occasion I've said to him "oh come on, its not that big of deal" when he is overreacting and it diffuses. So nothing outside of the norm. My temperament is on the extreme end of laid back, while his is closer to the high strung end. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:52 AM PST - 33 comments

Endometriosis referral: Seattle edition

After years of chronic pelvic pain from fibroids, cysts and likely endometriosis, I've reached my breaking point. The UWMC clinics refuse to even consider surgery for any of the above and are prescribing Lupron as my next option (after 2 IUDs, Lunelle, Depo, and The Pill) for probable endometriosis. Help me find a Seattle OB/GYN who will do the surgery! [more inside]
posted by frizz at 1:43 AM PST - 6 comments

August 11

Insurance question about out of pocket cost for non-network specialist

Girlfriend needs to have fibroids removed, but needs to see a specific "out of network" surgeon. Is there any way (like some kind of a special consideration) that she can see this surgeon without paying the higher out of network cost? [more inside]
posted by hanzoschmanzo at 11:56 PM PST - 6 comments

Mysterious mediterranean marine artifact

Haven't had any luck in identifying this object found, at about 5m depth, just off Ammouso beach on Lefkada - some sort of pithos, or something left over from a war? Photos: 1, 2, 3. In a brief, snorkeled dive down, though it looks rather thin, the surface did seem to the touch to possibly be terracotta, and the four regularly placed, circular handles remind me of a pottery feature. Any ideas?
posted by progosk at 11:37 PM PST - 6 comments

Am I depressed or just pathetic

Hi. I know I've posted about my depression before. But I just don't know what to do about it. I can't get better [more inside]
posted by anon1129 at 11:08 PM PST - 16 comments

Just a minor fender bender, that's all!

I backed into a car and there was no visible damage on either car so we didn't call the cops. But they are opening a claim with my insurance company. How screwed am I? [more inside]
posted by peachpie at 10:51 PM PST - 33 comments

I still want all of my music in my pocket

My nearly-full 120GB iPod classic just bit the dust. What are my best options for replacing it, given that an equal or greater storage capacity is required? [more inside]
posted by polymath at 9:34 PM PST - 20 comments

Rose Tint My World

Looking for 'advanced level' sunglasses that really make things look different. [more inside]
posted by Hennimore at 8:42 PM PST - 9 comments

What do we do during and after our 1 y/o daughter's heart surgery?

So....after months of prenatally following our daughter's heart issues and a year of post-birth cardiology visits it was determined that she did in fact need to have surgery to correct her issues and we are trying to keep it together while we wait for her surgery date and wondering what we can expect the day of and days following the surgery to be like and we can/should be doing for her and/or ourselves. [more inside]
posted by eatcake at 8:37 PM PST - 8 comments

Ideas for bouncing back post-pregnancy?

Yes, I'm talking weight. How to start bouncing back in the early months post-pregnancy? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 8:34 PM PST - 22 comments

Looking For Movies With Love Triangle Plots

Looking for movies that feature love triangles, any genre [more inside]
posted by christiehawk at 8:30 PM PST - 32 comments

Advice for sleeping with sudden insomnia?

I haven't been able to sleep well for the past week; this is totally out of the blue, as I usually get around 7 hours of z's. I think it's due to stress. I'm averaging around 3 hours on a good night, which is taking its toll on my physical/emotional/cognitive health. I'm actually dreading getting into bed tonight, and would like some advice from MeFites who are struggling with/have overcome insomnia on how I can best rig my chances for possibly sleeping well. [more inside]
posted by BuddyBoo at 6:55 PM PST - 31 comments

Thought leaders in urban transportation?

I work for a large municipal multi-modal transportation agency in the Bay Area. I'm interested in starting an agency-wide speaker series focusing on thought-leaders and innovators within the transportation industry. [more inside]
posted by Captain Chesapeake at 6:15 PM PST - 14 comments

Switching to a non-actuarial career

My wife and I are in the process of trying to relocate. For the past 3 years, I've been working as an actuary in Canada, but neither of us is happy living in the city we're currently in. For us, ideally we'd be able to find work in either Eastern Canada or Alberta/B.C. (this is partly due to a condition my wife has that would make living in other parts of Canada difficult). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:43 PM PST - 5 comments

Gift ideas for an urbane 80 year old man?

I'm looking for a gift for an 80 year old man, well-traveled, cultured, published poet. Any ideas?
posted by yarly at 5:38 PM PST - 9 comments

Movin' on down to the QC. All your Charlotte advice goes here

Neighborhood? Specific building? Gyms? Any and all of your advice on these or other Charlotte related life-things. [more inside]
posted by atomicstone at 5:31 PM PST - 7 comments

Book recommendations for essentially a Neutral Evil druid murderess...

Dear Mefi, I need some animal vengeance reading to soothe me. [more inside]
posted by Sayuri. at 5:24 PM PST - 10 comments

$250 worth of classroom awesomeness.

I have been given a $250 stipend to spend on classroom materials. I have no idea what to buy. [more inside]
posted by gnutron at 4:56 PM PST - 21 comments

Thank-you gift for family moving to France?

I'm trying to think of a gift for a family that has generously offered my spouse and me the use of their house while they are abroad for the coming school year. [more inside]
posted by ms.codex at 4:34 PM PST - 5 comments

make $ and retire early, or take federal job with more security?

Imagine you have the choice of taking (1) a very lucrative but highly demanding and stressful job in your current city, and (2) a federal job that requires a move and that pays only 25% of the lucrative job. Job 1 comes with an initial 2-year contract. While there's a possibility of getting sacked after two years, I imagine they'd renew the contract for at least two years, and if I'm performing well, I could keep going after that. If I got sacked, I could probably find another similar but probably less lucrative job, but it would take time and be quite stressful. Federal job is presumably more stable. Which would you take? Possibly relevant details: early 40's, married, no kids (and no plans of having any), very substantial savings to date, home-owner (with mortgage), currently living in big city. Interested in hearing your life experiences vis-a-vis working life and retirement. Are there benefits to trying to maximize income early and getting out of the game, vs a more slow and steady approach that provides more security? I'm clueless about retirement and recognize that a financial planner could help, but for now I'm more interested in hearing other's experiences.
posted by anonymous at 4:32 PM PST - 20 comments

Married but fell for a co-worker

I have fallen hard for someone at work. My 18-year marriage has been good, but now that I'm in this place I'm in, I'm seeing things in a different light and I am beginning to question everything. If you've been through this kind of thing before, what has helped you work through it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:31 PM PST - 55 comments

Technical writing for the not technically inclined?

I am pondering a career change into technical writing. I do not consider myself a "technical" person. Is this a stupid idea? [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 4:26 PM PST - 9 comments

Best way to get indoor streetview camera positions in x-y coordinates?

I'm trying to plot the positions of indoor streetview cameras in x-y coordinates (z not needed.) Google Earth can spit out longitude and latitude (ex: 33 deg 35'3.92"N), and the angle (relative to north) the camera is facing. [more inside]
posted by Dipped Pretzels at 3:54 PM PST - 7 comments

Tell me about your awesome vet in Northern Virginia!

I've been in the area a couple years now, and my vet experience for my cats has been less than satisfactory. And the sticker shock! I adore my cats, but damn. I am in the Arlington area, but am willing to drive into the surrounding suburbs. Thanks in advance.
posted by backwards compatible at 3:14 PM PST - 8 comments

No Kids? How did you fill that kid shaped hole?

The missus and I are working through the decision to procreate or not. She's not so interested, I kinda am. I'm looking for insight and experience from people who chose not to have children, but still care about and like to spend time with kids. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:04 PM PST - 30 comments

A friendship worth strengthening?

A longtime casual friend, that many of my other friends dislike, is moving to my city and expecting us to become much closer friends. However, I don't feel particularly close to this person, our conversations have always been kind of awkward and I'm uncertain we can ever have the close friendship he wants. Should I give it a chance? Is it worth it? How do I handle this situation without hurting anyones feelings? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:03 PM PST - 23 comments

Help me dress like a monochromatic cyber-weird!

I love the androgynous, monochrome, highly structured, and BIZARRE look of Rad Hourani, Gareth Pugh 2011-2012, Boris Bidjan Saberi. I'd like to get my everyday look closer to the aforementioned, but I need some advice.. [more inside]
posted by beefetish at 2:41 PM PST - 13 comments

My 30 yr.old friend's mom has stage 4 cancer, how to be there for her?

Hey All! How can I support my friend? I have only know her for 6 months. It is awkward, do I say something and check-in on her mom or not? What is the most supportive thing to do?
posted by TRUELOTUS at 2:27 PM PST - 14 comments

Need a way to print and mail varying quantities of custom postcards

I'm working on a construction project where we need to notify anywhere from 1 to 50 or so households at a time of work happening near their homes. Distributing flyers consumes a significant part of staff time, so we'd like to create and mail custom postcards for each work location. What's the best way to go about this? [more inside]
posted by Ham Snadwich at 1:24 PM PST - 6 comments

Mystery reminder on iPhone

Missed a call on my phone. An hour later a reminder appeared, telling me to call back. How did that happen? [more inside]
posted by O9scar at 1:23 PM PST - 11 comments

Is there any photo book service that makes 7x5 inch, lay-flat books?

I'm hunting for an online service to make a photo book, but with quite specific criteria: it should allow me to make a book around 7x5 inches in portrait orientation (i.e. like a typical paperback), with lay-flat binding. All my searches come up with one but not both of these criteria satisfied. Guys, you're my last resort :) - any ideas?
posted by scrm at 1:19 PM PST - 3 comments

Let's all be scientists!

Throwing away all the political and financial pressure that dilutes and warps science, if one wants to engage in scientific inquiry and be productive and contribute in some small way to humanity's scientific understanding of the cosmos, how does one go about things? Can we boil things down to simple generalized steps -- brief enough to put on a wall plaque -- starting with the evaluation of an experimental idea (is it a "good" experiment?) all the way through to publishing one's reproducible results? [more inside]
posted by strangeguitars at 1:17 PM PST - 18 comments

esophagitis

I currently have a ridiculous amount of pain in my throat (now for a week) with no other symptoms. Went to urgent care (while on vacation) a few days ago and was told I had a virus and to take ibuprofen and tylenol which doesn't seem to help at all. Can't see my primary doctor until tomorrow or maybe the next day. [more inside]
posted by dilaudid at 12:24 PM PST - 22 comments

Honolulu indoor play space for toddlers?

Anyone know any indoor play spaces for toddlers in the Honolulu area? [more inside]
posted by inflatablekiwi at 12:21 PM PST - 6 comments

Does sand suspended in big waves affect surfers at all?

Calling moderate to biggish wave surfers: Every time I watch a surfing video, I always notice the amount of sand suspended in the water column - aka at 1:11 of this video. I know there's a lot of other things going on for a surfer to think about, but I've always wondered if surfers feel or notice sand grains in any way. [more inside]
posted by barchan at 12:20 PM PST - 8 comments

Trying to remove all traces of Google Chrome from PC

I need help uninstalling Google Chrome and, most importantly, ridding a Windows 7 computer of tens of thousands of profiles. When I try to uninstall Google Chrome I get an error: "There is a problem with this Windows Installer package. A program required for this install to complete could not be run. Contact your support personnel or package vendor." I've tried to uninstall it before and it seems to be mostly uninstalled but there is the matter of these profiles, please see my extended explanation. [more inside]
posted by Danila at 12:08 PM PST - 15 comments

What is the symbol in this geoglyph?

This geoglyph appears in Jiayuguan province, near the western end of the Great Wall of China. It appears to be made out of planted trees. What does it mean?
posted by Johnny Wallflower at 12:01 PM PST - 4 comments

Best pillow protector for a sweaty head?

Even in the nicest weather my head can get a little sweaty. Pillow protectors seem to be the answer to keep my sweat from sinking in and stinking up my pillow, but I have yet to find one that strikes a nice balance between comfortable and effectively sweatproof. Sweatheads of the world: have you found one that fits the bill? [more inside]
posted by Lentrohamsanin at 11:57 AM PST - 7 comments

Is it possible to use my dragon for mac to transcribe audio files?

So I have a voice recorder. Which I use because LA and traffic. And I have Dragon Naturally Speaking 3.0 for Mac. The question is whether it's possible to use them together to transcribe dictation. For my purposes it doesn't have to be completely right. It just has to be a scratch draft to fix later. IS such a thing possible? And IF so...how?
posted by rileyray3000 at 11:24 AM PST - 4 comments

Moving in problems

There are a couple issues with the apartment we are moving into today- what to do? [more inside]
posted by ghostbikes at 11:18 AM PST - 27 comments

Oversupply

How can I get rid of a small stock of unused and unopened medical supplies? [more inside]
posted by bad grammar at 11:02 AM PST - 12 comments

Accommodating the non-gluten crowd.

BurningManFilter: I need to buy a few prefab, gluten-free meals for a small subset of my camp. By Friday. What's good? [more inside]
posted by mykescipark at 10:58 AM PST - 11 comments

Taking data from a PDF and putting it into a spreadsheet

I have a PDF with several hundred pages. Each page is formatted identically and contains data on a single person, divided into various tables. I want to parse the PDF so that each person's data is a single row in a spreadsheet, with various key points (e.g. "name") in the same column. I feel like this has to be an already-solved problem. How can I do this?
posted by LSK at 10:45 AM PST - 7 comments

What are some activities/dates I can do to boost confidence?

I haven't been feeling so confident lately. I know my SO could also be much happier if she felt a bit more confident. When we first met around 3 years ago, we were both extremely confident. Now we seem to have trouble being decisive, making decisions to better ourselves/get necessary things done, and choosing a restaurant or a date idea gets harder and harder. I would love ideas of things that could help with this. [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 10:43 AM PST - 26 comments

Keep Going, Please

What restores your confidence after a significant setback? I need to remind myself why pursuing your passion is worth it when it can be so unpredictable. I'll take anything from deep, meaningful advice to funny motivators. [more inside]
posted by sapien at 10:24 AM PST - 14 comments

Escape from the city, carless Philadelphian edition

What fun, cheap, PUBLIC TRANSIT OR BIKE ACCESSIBLE day trip can my friend and I take from Philadelphia this week? [more inside]
posted by ActionPopulated at 10:21 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me replace my bum-around, easy on/off, handyman shoes!

I have some great shoes I love that are ... falling apart. [pic] Unfortunately, they've been discontinued! I can get something sort of similar but there are still some drawbacks. Diligent searching hasn't turned up my perfect work shoe, though. In short, I want something tough like a work boot, easy to put on and take off (i.e. velcro straps), but with walking-shoe type soles and as light as possible. [more inside]
posted by dhartung at 10:01 AM PST - 14 comments

Finding my ideal climate

I'm trying to find all the areas of the US that have my ideal climate, and I'd like to do so by playing with data. Is there an app, site, or method that can help? (Or can you?) [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 10:00 AM PST - 17 comments

Shipping a significant quantity of books from US to UK. How? How much?

I'm moving soon (UK Home Office and God willing) from the US to England. I will be there for roughly 3 years, give or take, and am hoping that I can have a portion of my substantial amount of books there with me. Previous suggestions on shipping indicate USPS M-bags as the go-to choice, but USPS no longer offers anything but air service on media bags, pushing the cost to around $175 for 44 lbs. This is more than I want to spend. Ideas? [more inside]
posted by still bill at 9:52 AM PST - 7 comments

I need the finest camping air mattress in all the land

My family likes camping. My extended family LOVES camping. I like camping OK except that I sleep very very badly and that makes me miserable. I need the best queen-sized air mattress available that can be inflated without an electric outlet. Specific details inside. [more inside]
posted by KathrynT at 9:51 AM PST - 17 comments

How to help someone who is on a downward spiral?

My brother has been on a downward spiral for many months now. I would like to help him, but don't know how. [more inside]
posted by rebooter at 9:48 AM PST - 4 comments

How can I download and archive a blog or website in plain text?

There are some blogs and websites I would like to read in plain text or even HTML, I just don't want to click through hundreds of pages, and I definitely don't want to download them one by one. [more inside]
posted by ziggly at 9:15 AM PST - 4 comments

What is a good standard set of IT Infrastructure Project Milestones?

I've been tasked with developing a set of standard IT Infrastructure Project Milestones and I'm kind of at a loss on coming up with a standard. Basically we have weekly status slides (PPTs) that we fill out for EVERY project that's in flight at our company. I'm the PM for Infrastructure. I was using something pretty generic like: 1. Project Kick-Off 2. Requirements Review/Sign Off 3. Design 4. Development or Set Up/Configuration 5. Test Unit & UAT (Regression & System If Applicable) 6. Deploy (Pilot * Deploy Where Applicable) 7. Warranty All you IT gurus out there (and PMs!) can you help me develop something better that can be used as a standard?
posted by PetiePal at 8:01 AM PST - 6 comments

Tact filter: How do I handle friend making fun of how I speak?

English is not my native language and I have a bit of an accent, but I have lived in an English-speaking environment for over 15 years and nobody in my life (work or friends) is ever unable to understand me when I speak. I am currently hosting a friend who I haven't seen for a few years. During her stay, this friend keeps making a big deal out of certain words that I'd pronounce differently from her, and I found it rather immature and frankly infuriating. [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 8:01 AM PST - 52 comments

Inspirational articles about what you do and why you do it

I have been asked to write a 1000 word article for a major trade publication in my artsy area of business. About what I do, why I do it, what we should be doing in this particular artsy area of business, etc. I would love some recommendations of similar articles you may have read to inspire me, give me a bit of a template, or otherwise give me ideas for my own piece. They don't necessarily have to be about anything artsy...it could be any area of expertise. Thank you!
posted by meerkatty at 7:19 AM PST - 5 comments

Dress Hunt

A friend has been scouring the internet and local stores for something like this green beauty of a dress from Atonement. Can you help her find it? [more inside]
posted by skrozidile at 7:16 AM PST - 16 comments

What to do with a non-functioning Rolex? Fix and sell and sell broken?

I have this watch I looks great but was left in a damp basement for two years and is no longer working. Is it worth taking it to be fixed? is there a market for used/broken Rolexes? I would never buy a $500 watch, but should I pay pay $500 to fix a $5000 watch? Thanks, and just looking for opinions :)
posted by 1inabillionmistake at 6:44 AM PST - 10 comments

Can you identify this peculiar genealogical thriller?

Some time in the mid-to-late '80s, I borrowed a book from my local public library (in the UK). I recall neither its title nor the author's name, but I think it may nevertheless be uniquely identifiable from those details of its plot I can remember. Its protagonist is a genealogist, who is hired to discreetly research the family background of a US presidential candidate. There is an element of cat-&-mouse as unknown individuals try to put a stop to his researches, but he perseveres... [more inside]
posted by zmacw49 at 5:50 AM PST - 3 comments

Marriage-related charities?

My fiancé and I would like to make our first joint gift to charity around the time we get married. It would be nice if the charity is marriage-related in some way. We're already aware of and are considering organizations that promote marriage-equality, but are also looking for other ideas. (For example, we found one that works to prevent child marriage, and others that help survivors of domestic abuse.) Other suggestions -- preferably specific recommendations -- along these lines? US-based would be the most convenient.
posted by redlines at 5:45 AM PST - 4 comments

Google Forms Script Help

I work at a school, and I'm trying to create a Google form to help get information out to parents. We have MULTIPLE means of doing that, though, and the problem is that EACH of the communication modes is handled by someone different. For example, one person is in charge of the website, another is in charge of the electronic sign out front, while another takes care of making afternoon announcements. I've created a form that allows teachers to 1. Type the verbiage they'd like to share, and 2. choose from a list of available media (website, sign, etc.). I'm not smart enough to do the next step. Ideally, I'd like Google Docs to automatically send an e-mail to the appropriate person with the verbiage from each submission. [more inside]
posted by richmondparker at 4:27 AM PST - 7 comments

Web layouts

What is the best resource on layouts in webpages, specifically with the use of CSS and other web technologies? This has always been something that's been tricky for me and I'm wondering if there's something out there that really sums it up well.
posted by antgly at 2:44 AM PST - 2 comments

How to carry scented oil through sticks into my home air?

As a follow-up to this question, can anyone tell me what medium I need to procure to mix with essential oil to make my own reed/bamboo/tatami scent diffusers? [more inside]
posted by evil_esto at 2:06 AM PST - 8 comments

August 10

Canadina Whiskies Filter: where to start?

I am a bourbon-drinking girl living in Toronto. I'd like to get to know Canada by way of its mash-- what are some great Canadian whiskies? Nothing too expensive- say, around or under $50 for a 750ml bottle? I like smooth whiskies with complex flavors that are not too peaty.
posted by atetrachordofthree at 10:45 PM PST - 8 comments

How long do you keep your clothes for?

I'm wondering what other people think is a reasonable time frame for getting rid of clothes that they don't really want anymore. [more inside]
posted by jojobobo at 10:12 PM PST - 46 comments

Laid off for not fitting in.

I was laid off a few weeks ago, "wasn't a good fit" was the reason given. What do I say in my upcoming interviews? [more inside]
posted by lizbunny at 9:41 PM PST - 18 comments

Tell me stories about increasing awareness of male privilege...

I'm (23f) seeing someone who is wonderful, except for the fact that he doesn't seem to be aware of his male privilege. A few questions: has anyone stories for me about managing to change this in their own relationships? Ought I to bother to begin with?
posted by city_park at 9:35 PM PST - 27 comments

Landlord staying at my place while I'm gone - should I ask for $$?

My landlords (a lovely 60-something couple who we like and who like us and with whom we have multiple acquaintances) are staying at their/our house for 1.5 weeks while we are on vacation. Can I ask them to knock a few bucks off that month's rent and not be an asshole? [more inside]
posted by tristeza at 9:14 PM PST - 21 comments

Taking more than 7 days between birth control packs - ?

I just realized that I'll be starting my period a few days after the start of our vacation we have scheduled in a couple of months (ugh). I'm taking hormonal birth control and wondering what the best way is to basically adjust my cycle so that I can start my period about four days later than I'm currently scheduled to. [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 9:11 PM PST - 5 comments

Excellent Dentists in Oakland/the East Bay

I am looking for a general dentist in Oakland or the East Bay who does excellent work, focuses on overall health/tooth preservation rather than unnecessary cosmetic stuff, doesn't oversell, and who won't make me feel crappy for not having been to the dentist in a while. Also: what can I expect on a first visit? [more inside]
posted by needs more cowbell at 9:03 PM PST - 10 comments

What are the Classics of Genre Fiction

Genre fiction is typically underrepresented in lists of classic novels. We all know the classics of literary fiction (War & Peace, Ulysses, Pride & Prejudice, etc.). But who's the Tolstoy of Fantasy? Who's the Austen of spy fiction? [more inside]
posted by therumsgone at 8:46 PM PST - 26 comments

Nature-filter: What is this (bird?) call?

At my mother's house in central Indiana and she's been hearing this sound from the woods, all night, for several weeks. Who can identify this? http://clyp.it/rfyfb33n (@ 0:01 and 0:014)
posted by FreelanceBureaucrat at 8:07 PM PST - 3 comments

What is there to do in Las Vegas besides, you know.

Have seen and done the strip and all related stuff. But I will have to be in Las Vegas for a couple of weeks and am wondering what else there might be to do in that city. [more inside]
posted by Opengreen at 7:24 PM PST - 12 comments

Travel filter: 3 weeks in the US. NYC, and then what?

The Red Thoughts consort and I want to go to New York City as part of a 3 week getaway in October. We thought that we might also visit some other places in the US. The problem is, we don't know where else to go. Hope us, MeFites? [more inside]
posted by His thoughts were red thoughts at 7:18 PM PST - 19 comments

PieFilter: Double-crust optimization for fruit pies

I've just baked my first two fruit pies from scratch, and have a few questions about the process, namely about prebaking and getting a good top crust. [more inside]
posted by PussKillian at 6:56 PM PST - 22 comments

How do I even work?

When working for other people who are paying me, I am one hard working mothergoddess. When it comes to working for myself, though, I struggle mightily. Help me fix that? [more inside]
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess at 6:50 PM PST - 9 comments

A town-owned tree fell on my car - town says they're not responsible

A large tree across the street fell on my car while I was sleeping and did a fair amount of damage. After getting two repair estimates as requested, the town's insurance company decided they have no responsibility as they didn't have prior knowledge of any problems with the tree. Is this the end of the story? [more inside]
posted by FlyByDay at 6:46 PM PST - 13 comments

Turtle: the incredible journey

Who sings the song in the closing credits of this movie? Female singer - am curious if I can find a copy of this song - it doesn't appear on the soundtrack that I can tell. Great movie, by the way! Thanks for your help
posted by dublin at 6:29 PM PST - 3 comments

Great Songs with Great Puns

I'm making a playlist of great songs that include great puns and I need help! [more inside]
posted by sallybrown at 6:07 PM PST - 20 comments

Do you have a favorite vacuum sealer you can recommend?

We're looking to get a good vacuum sealer to assist in dry aging steaks. We had a cheap vacuum sealer a few years ago that created packets that leaked - sometimes after an hour, others after a day or two, but always leaked. Is there an affordable vacuum sealer that anyone has had good experience with? I've seen this but am hoping that there may have been some updates in the last three years,
posted by arnicae at 5:57 PM PST - 3 comments

Resources needed

I need all the resources I can find for starting a new business. [more inside]
posted by jellyjam at 5:39 PM PST - 2 comments

What is this blue berried plant?

Out of nowhere this plant grew from my lavender and is producing berries. Blue berries would be too good to be true. Although there is no way I would sample them, I would like to know if they are dangerous to the three dog terrors of the house! Oddly enough googling "blue berried plant" results in many blueberry plants. Photobucket (fail) stream Many thanks to Teh Metas!
posted by Bun Surnt at 5:35 PM PST - 8 comments

Dinner conversation, what's that? Family Friendly TV suggestions.

Every night my 9 year old daughter asks to watch a movie while we eat dinner. We are big movie people, rarely ever watch commercial TV and don't have the Aussie version of cable, but we like to buy DVD TV series' or stream them. Some nights dinner is the perfect 'eat on the couch' meal, but a movie is too long if it's during the week. I am looking for some suggestions of shows we could all enjoy that are 30 minutes, or an hour. [more inside]
posted by Youremyworld at 5:33 PM PST - 20 comments

Unstoppable force/Immovable object

I am trying to identify the source of the quote: "Unstoppable force, meet immovable object." It's kinda driving me crazy. [more inside]
posted by oh really at 5:23 PM PST - 20 comments

Do I need to see a vet tonight about this dog's 30 hours of poop issues?

Adult dog strained a lot and often trying to poop yesterday, and hasn't had a big poop in 30 hours - but he has managed a bit of poop recently and is behaviorally fine. When is vet time? Lots of poop within. [more inside]
posted by nicodine at 4:49 PM PST - 11 comments

How to take better photographs of movement in low light indoors.

I'm having problems with taking photos indoors when there's a lot of movement. Prime example: weddings. Most of the shots turn out blurry. I have a basic digital camera with a setting for low light but it's at a low resolution and too grainy to print. Without using a tripod or flash what's the best way to adjust the manual settings to compensate?
posted by adapt at 4:34 PM PST - 12 comments

How should I refinish an old teak chair?

I found a nice old Danish rocker free on Craigslist (just the frame). It's very weathered and dusty, but a nice shape. How can I clean it, and what else should I do to restore the finish? Ideally, I'd like the most environmentally-friendly, least smelly options for cleaning or polishing. I'm afraid there is also a spot or two of mold in the wood; what's the best way to safely get rid of that?
posted by three_red_balloons at 4:16 PM PST - 5 comments

How do i deal with my boyfriends distance and communication issues?

My boyfriend cancels so often on our dates, and we haven't had sex even though we have been together for half a year, which makes me think he could have a sexual problem or is afraid of getting close to me. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by palomago at 3:44 PM PST - 59 comments

Building a life as a long-term single in middle age

After spending many years with my head buried in the sand, I am trying to adopt a more realistic and pragmatic approach and build a smaller, simpler, but less stressful life. I ended my long-term relationship as while in it I had no possibility to do voluntary work or retrain for paid work (I posted a 2012 question about this but it took me until now to face the facts). I will soon be moving out into my own modest flat, with few friends and limited work opportunities due to not having worked since 2005. I am 44 and don't plan to seek a partner again, at least not unless I was working and in better shape physically and mentally, so I was wondering what middle-aged single people do that brings them happiness? Given some free time, what would help me the most to rediscover my appetite for life? [more inside]
posted by AuroraSky at 3:13 PM PST - 18 comments

two tablet bag/organizer

I'm in search of a grid it style organizer that can carry two tablets edge to edge. Tablets are an iPad mini and an Asus note 8. Organizer needs to fit in the footprint of a 13 inch macbook air. Tablets also need to be separated so they don't slide in front of or behind one another.
posted by dstopps at 3:12 PM PST - 2 comments

Which algorithms changed the world?

A recent post to the blue proposed a set of equations that changed the word. As a computer professional, I'm curious, which algorithms transformed the world? [more inside]
posted by pwnguin at 2:50 PM PST - 23 comments

How much does it cost to build a house?

We just moved to northern Bergen County, NJ, and notice that a lot of the older homes in our neighborhood are being sold, torn down, and brand new houses are being built on the property. How much does that sort of thing cost? [more inside]
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 2:48 PM PST - 12 comments

Another where should I move question

I'd like to move soon, with some specific yet somewhat unusual requirements. Mainly gay-friendly, tech culture, and where I can make friends... [more inside]
posted by lhude sing cuccu at 2:45 PM PST - 15 comments

How can I print custom nametags? I feel like a dummy...

I need to print simple 4"x3" conference name badge inserts - just first name, last name, and a custom background image. I have Word, Excel, Illustrator and Access (though I've never used Access). I have the names in an Excel spreadsheet, and I've created a nice .jpg/.png image as the background. How do I pull this all together? Thanks!
posted by smelvis at 2:04 PM PST - 8 comments

What kind of specialist should I be pushing my dad to see?

I recently saw my father for the first time in 2 years and over that time his balance and mobility have sharply deteriorated. I'm on the opposite coast and there are limits to what I can do to help, but one thing I had thought of was trying to go back and do a round of doctor/specialist visits with him. YANHD, but I would love to hear of ideas about where to start. [more inside]
posted by Cocodrillo at 1:51 PM PST - 8 comments

What makes someone a player of an instrument?

I was reading this thread and one of the comments struck me: 'these people just memorized some tabs, and can't actually play guitar.' It made me wonder what is the difference between playing an instrument and simply 'memorizing some riffs'? [more inside]
posted by winna at 1:47 PM PST - 29 comments

A Beginner's Guide to Game Modding (in javascript)

I am looking for anecdotes and experiences from people who mod games. What was most helpful/useful/valuable to you in learning to do this when you first got started? [more inside]
posted by Michele in California at 1:28 PM PST - 6 comments

Recommendations for diverse Christian churches in Tricities, Washington?

My wife and I are relocating to Tricities, Washington, for a new job at Pacific Northwest National Lab. Our Christian faith is really important to us and we're looking for recommendations for culturally diverse, Spirit-led churches. We're coming from a smaller church, so I think we'd prefer something along the same lines, and we'd like to find opportunities to serve. Does anyone have recommendations for the area? Thanks!
posted by Aanidaani at 1:24 PM PST - 1 comment

Recommendations for motorized retractable awning for house in SoCal?

We're thinking of putting an awning over the back of our house, and are interested in retractable ones, preferrably motorized if they're not too expensive and are reliable. Do you have recommendations for/against any particular brand, and do you have any other tips? [more inside]
posted by StrawberryPie at 1:20 PM PST - 0 comments

Seven Habits of Highly Effective Masters Students?

I'll be taking up a place on a taught (distance) masters degree in Inclusion and special educational needs this September at a UK university. I'm keen to try and hit the ground running as well as make the most of the new personal, academic and professional opportunities over the next 36 months and wondered what advice the hive mind has about maximizing the experience both personally, professionally and academically.
posted by Middlemarch at 1:16 PM PST - 9 comments

Violas, how do they work?

Jeoc jr. will be joining the 6th grade orchestra in a few weeks. She has elected to play the viola. I don't know anything about violas, and am seeking help with selecting an appropriate instrument for a novice 11-year-old. [more inside]
posted by jeoc at 1:01 PM PST - 18 comments

Help this hypochondriac prepare for doctor visit

Maybe more obsessive-over-thinker than hypochondriac. Woke up with an unexpectedly hoarse voice and bit of a sore throat. After eating today, I went to spit up some phlegm, and it *hurt*, and a fair amount of blood came up with the phlegm. All the non-gross stuff is behind the cut. [more inside]
posted by colin_l at 12:24 PM PST -