July 2017 Archives
I've applied to 125 web development jobs with almost no response, and have hit the end of the road. My wife and I will be flat broke and moving from NYC to the Midwest to regroup. Short question: how do I strategize and execute to bounce back? Details follow. [more inside]
We need to get a one way rental car to get my son and his pregnant gf to Sacramento, CA from Lake Charles, LA. We have credit cards. They have pets. More complications inside. [more inside]
I've found I enjoy a specific kind of podcast: a podcast where someone introduces someone else to a particular topic/fandom/TV show/etc. Can you recommend some podcasts in this genre? [more inside]
So I'd like to use some music from the genre electro swing in a TV project that might get picked up. Usually I just use library music and call it a day. But I'm trying something new. So I found a site that's got some for license that's royalty free. But I can tell the song it's sampling in it. It's pretty pronounced. Is that okay? Or do you have to then license the song IN the song too? Just wanted to get a feel for it.
Over the past year or two, my bowel movements have changed. While I doubt anything is seriously wrong, I'm a BIG fan of medical peace of mind, so I'd like to talk to a doctor. But I've never gone to the doctor for this kind of thing before, so I'm looking for advice about exactly how to approach it. [more inside]
We are driving from San Francisco, CA to Bend, OR with 2 year old toddler this August. Baby doesn't love cars for over 30 minutes at a time, so we'll be taking several days to make the trip up there. [more inside]
We have contractors doing some decking work close to where we have two 4x4 raised garden beds. When I got home today, I saw that some sawdust from the pressure treated lumber they were using had gotten onto the plants in our garden. What next? [more inside]
I own a rental property in King County, WA which is managed by a professional property manager. I would like to find another company to manage this property. How do I find a decent company? Also, what do most property management companies offer in terms of communication and turnaround for repairs? [more inside]
Help me solve a household mystery (or is it a mystery?). Excluding outdoor water use (landscaping, watering grass, etc.), do you personally have higher water bills in the summer or in the winter? [more inside]
I have two knuckles (pinky and ring) on my left hand which are in a constant state of dryness, regardless of weather or season. Any sense what's going on and how I might fix it? [more inside]
I need to create LTFS LTO-6 tapes on a CentOS 7 system. As the newest LTO drive I have is a (non-LTFS) LTO-5 drive (I've been using tar and such), I figure I'll buy an LTO-7 drive, since they can write LTO-6 tapes, and I'll be more future proofed. Which model to get, considering not just the hardware, but also the corresponding LTFS Linux implementation? [more inside]
I just bought a cabinet shelf and I LOVE the space it makes but now I want a dozen more for every shelf, under-sink area, and countertop in my apartment and that's not gonna be possible. Can anyone think of ways I could use what I already have or DIY something to add more storage in a way that is more frugal/sustainable? [more inside]
I've recently begun reading a lot more nonfiction for research purposes. However, I pretty much exclusively only read library books, and am having difficulty figuring out how to easily take notes without damaging the book. How can I be respectful but also make note taking less arduous? [more inside]
I am publishing a book of erotic haiku at the the end of this year and I am looking for student photographers and artists to collaborate on the project. Are there any good platforms online where I can post my request? Are approaching art schools a good option?
What the fuck. How does this work!? [more inside]
We joined a local dog park to give our dog an outlet for her energy, but she isn’t taking advantage of it. [more inside]
I have recently acquired* a large bull's skull (seriously this thing is huge those are 2x2 tiles). It looks like it's been left outside for some time (there was dirt and grass embedded in the teeth). There's several teeth missing, the nasal/sinus folds (turbinates) came out of one nostril, the horns are very porous with algae/moss damage and discoloration. I would like to get it back to white, and do something to preserve it and slow wear & tear. (I plan on mounting it to a painted board and hanging it in my house). What should I do? [more inside]
My dear old Uncle H, a farmer, had what he called a sure-fire method of waking up precisely when he wanted to. It involved water (I think) and sounded folk-lore-ish. I would love to know what it was. [more inside]
My employer will, under specific circumstances, cover the cost of 'Emergency Childcare', when my job prevents me from returning home. There is discussion about what is 'reasonable', so I ask: How much do you pay for last minute (1hr notice) childcare through an agency or provider? [more inside]
Details inside (of my issues with this dodgy trade dealer). [more inside]
I'm a professional photographer whose car factors into my clients' first impression. Help me hit the sweet spot between "I bought this in college and I just do photography on the weekends," and "I'm charging you waaay too much." [more inside]
For example: Person A has a messy home so he's a slob (said of someone you don't know very well,could be from a race or class you're prejudiced against, but may very well be not), but Person B must be just going thru a rough time (said of someone you like or of a close friend or family member). [more inside]
How do I get help? [more inside]
I'm looking for a new pair of daily sneakers. I don't have a particular pair in mind, but I have a few general requirements. Recommend/help me narrow down some choices! [more inside]
Recently I've been feeling self-conscious about my upper arms. How can I make them look less flappy? [more inside]
I tend to be somewhat picky about what seats I get when flying, so I try to select my seats when booking air travel, and I'm often willing to pay more for a better seat. That's usually easy enough to do when the entire itinerary is on a single airline, but what about for complex/multi-airline trips? [more inside]
Does anyone have experience with or knowledge of a town contracting out municipal responsibilities that involve public trust - specifically, planning/zoning, as opposed to something non-discretionary like trash pickup? [more inside]
New to the world of formal/conservative work attire (senior government finance/policy): Help me understand the style, and possibly find good quality clothes and shoes. I am a woman, not quite plus size, but borderline (14/16). I have spent most of my working life in loungewear tenuously disguised as "kinda office" wear. [more inside]
I was aggressively manipulated by an acquaintance over the course of several months, and only outed him to our shared friend group after he had escalated his behaviour way past the point where I should have put a stop to it. Several months after the fact I’m still feeling guilty, angry, embarrassed, and unable to let go. Is this normal? [more inside]
Best way to transition from amateur to ++amateur [more inside]
My cousin has a vintage sewing machine she'd like to sell or give to someone who will use it. What are her options? [more inside]
My child is non-binary. They are ten years old, biologically born a female, and told us about a year ago the are unsure which sex they identify with and want to be considered non-binary for the time being. We are of course supportive and have very candid conversation with them about gender identity and let them know that whatever decision they make we support. The problem is their other parent (we are divorced) seems to be pushing them to have puberty suppression therapy. Does anyone know what this entails, what are the dangers, and any other medical considerations we should know about, especially at this young age of 10? Any information would be greatly appreciated!
Hello, hive mind! Can you help me name my business? I work in the field of healthcare co-design and co-production. Basically, I help healthcare and social service providers improve their practice by teaching them how to collaborate authentically with the people who use their service. This can mean facilitating workshops between service providers and staff, running staff training sessions, supporting consumer representatives to have their views heard, developing policies and frameworks, etc. What should I name my consultancy? [more inside]
I want to put plants in my extremely low-light bathroom! Also I have cats, and I need plants that are not toxic if they decide to start nibbling. What plants can I get? [more inside]
I'd like to be able to project my voice better when speaking to a crowd without a mic. I notice that most friends and colleagues who have been classroom teachers have an ability to make their voices sound loud and authoritative, without sounding bossy, shouty or shrill. Teach me how? [more inside]
Please help solve a medical mystery. My four year old daughter has started vomiting about half an hour after eating. Initially I thought it was a stomach bug (which she had three weeks previously) but she has no other symptoms. Before the gastro she also had bad bronchitis (winter in Australia) which was treated by antibiotics. [more inside]
I saw at least 1/2 a dozen ads for this heat pump water heater. They all list it for around $1400. [more inside]
I would like to add captions to framed photographs by typing or printing the captions on the mat board. I can't find an easy way to do this. Ideas? [more inside]
I have a Frankenstein's monster of a desktop PC: 4 internal hard drives from computers over the years, and an external from an old laptop when I switched from HDD to SSD. I need to back all of this up before I move the last week of August. What are my best options? [more inside]
I would like to play the Boston Christmas Tree lighting. What's the best way to get the attention of the Boston Parks Department and the sponsors? [more inside]
How can I built a consistent work ethic with graduate school, chores, getting assignments done, and finding perserverance for creative writing and academic research jobs? [more inside]
What online learning system / course delivery should my startup use? [more inside]
I just got these women's jeans in the mail. They fit well except there's a little bit too much fabric around the crotch. [more inside]
How are electric water heaters and their timers (UK) supposed to work? Is this one malfunctioning? Or is there something I am missing? timer shown here [more inside]
Can someone please help me figure out how to change the title/subtitle font and color in wordpress' Twenty Seventeen? [more inside]
I have a family member who recently had surgery to remove a tongue tumor. Though she's recovering nicely, she won't be able to speak intelligibly on the phone for months. A caregiver has been living with her, but she will soon be ready to live alone again ... but for one thing. She needs a way to summon medical help in an emergency. [more inside]
Yes, you guessed it, another help me with a playlist ask! I will biking my first metric century in about a week and am looking for songs to keep me going when I'm climbing and when my quads are begging me to stop. [more inside]
I was given comp tickets to write a review. The review was later spiked. Can I publish it myself? Difficulty level: No longer on speaking terms with editor. [more inside]
I have it in my head that strong (Christian) religious faith is incompatible with being intelligent and/or progressive. I don't see it as rational and I have held ideas that, for example, Barack Obama was just pretending to be religous to be palatable - but now, I don't think this is at all correct. Can you point me towards readings/links to help fix my prejudice? [more inside]
What are the unspoken rules of instagram? What is seen as too much or try hard? Tell me about the unspoken rules that govern post frequency, hashtag use, selfies, etc. Please tell me all of the unspoken rules, and please avoid debating other people about how PC or ethical an unspoken rule is. I am someone who has no experience with instagram and would like to know more.
Hi, my house was burglarized last night. The thieves were in a rush, and left most of the valuables. They did, however, make off with a safe containing passports, birth certificates, and social security cards for me, my wife, and the kids. We've put fraud alerts for the adults with the credit bureaus and contacted our bank (getting new account and card numbers). What else should we do?
I know this is a lot to ask, but can anyone recommend a relatively upbeat mental health forum (or listserv, etc.)? Fortunately, I'm sort of in the coping stage, so it would be great to hear from others who are sort of trying to make it. Pacifica has a good gratitude board, but there must be some others. Thanks!
My spouse needs a beach vacation. Any suggestions for a low-key, relatively crowd-free, gay-friendly beach destinations? We are in Atlanta, so driving to the Atlantic or the Gulf is Option #1, but we are also willing to take a plane if we can find the right place. Likewise, we're good with a variety of accommodations - hotel, resort, vacation rental, B&B. In general, we like history-culture-art, so that's a plus. And great local restaurants would also be nice.
My laptop just died, but it occurs to me that I haven't run anything but web browsers on it for a long time, should I get a small web compatible TV instead? [more inside]
I have a mortgage on a property in California. The loan initially had no requirement for an escrow account to handle property tax and insurance, but we opted to open one. The lender sold the loan (and again; we're on our third mortgagee). Can the current mortgage holder require us to keep the escrow account, or can we just close it and handle the taxes and insurance ourselves, even if the mortgagee wants to keep it open? [more inside]
I am looking for the name of a poetry website, active about 10 years ago, probably now defunct. I can picture everything about it but the name, and I'm driving myself crazy. Please help! [more inside]
I've come to realize that I'm saving for retirement out of fear: I don't know how things work - specifically social security and health care - so I'm currently, well, saving *everything*. A recent - my 1st - health issue has also made me realize how quickly hospital bills can add up. Rather than books or blogs or government websites or random advice from colleagues, is there someone I can just pay to give me a clearer picture of what to expect, plans I could be making now, and primary gotchas to consider? [more inside]
I'm a game writer. I want to read blogs by insightful fellow developers that talk about their craft. What goes into the decisions they're making? And what do they learn from the games they play?
What are the best things about entering into your 30s? [more inside]
VirginiaCampingTripFilter: Interesting activities in & within an hour drive of Sherando Lake (NE section of George Washington & Jefferson Nat'l Park) for some adults and ~40 kids, Aug. 9-13? [more inside]
Over the last month or so, whenever there has been a heavy rain, my car has trouble starting; sputtering, stalling, etc. I rev the engine a few times, and eventually it settles down and then will run normally, but this is very annoying and concerning. Any idea what is going on? It's a '96 Mazda Protege.
I'm in the final two candidates for a School Library Media Specialist position (YAY!) and have to give a demo lesson on Wednesday. I've been tasked with giving a 20 minute demo lesson on digital citizenship to a class of 7 middle school special education students (8:1+2 students in special/lifeskills class.) I have very little background in teaching (my background is in libraries), so I'm floundering a little. Do any teachers, administrators, or library media specialists have any tips, tricks, ideas or, guidance that they can share? (I will have access to ipads that the students can use but probably can't download new apps, and can also use the classroom smartboard.) Thanks!
Where should we be shopping for a new front door? [more inside]
I would be grateful for any help in identifying the age and origin of this ethnic engraved gourd cup/bottle. Ideas on species/geographical distribution of the original gourd and or identification of the etnographic design elements of the decoration would all help. It measures 4 3/4" (12cm) in height. Thanks in advance. Tom.
In the early 70s as a schoolkid in semi-rural England, I collected bubble gum stickers, in particular a series called 'Kinky Dan, The Bubble Gum Man'. A brightly coloured bulbous homunculus, said Dan was frequently pictured yelling a short phrase. There is virtually nothing about this product on the Internet - a few collector-style pictures, catalogue entries and eBay postings, but I want to know as much about who, why, how and what as I can. How widely was this sold? Who was behind it? Was there a cult psychedelic spin-off movie? Help me scratch this nostalgia itch...
Two honest seeming employees at my well rated, apparently clean hotel are very confident that the bug I saw (Picture of suspect) in my bathroom is not a bed bug. I actually don't think that it's a bed bug either, judging from a google image search. Still, I'd like an objective, expert opinion. [more inside]
I was set to emigrate to country B but for sudden legal reasons am very likely to remain in country A for the next 10+ years with my children. I spent two years making plans about a future in country B and detaching from country A. What are strategies I can consider to reconcile myself for the next decade to country A? How do I engage in a place I know I won't live in permanently as country A doesn't want me permanently either? I don't want to live insulated or resentfully for a decade.
I have uneven, overplucked, sparse eyebrows and have been reading about microblading as a solution. But I have concerns about scarring, especially since I'd need to get it done multiple times over my life given it only lasts 1-2 years. It looks like there are other techniques that may minimize scarring risk, but it's hard to find objective information. [more inside]
It's been 20 years since I was last on a date, and while I was never a complete jerk (at least I hope), mefi has helped me realize there is a time and place for everything, and that the consensus seems to be asking out someone in a retail job where you're the customer is not cool, and I can definitely see that. But I'd like to know what y'all advise just in case I might be a special snowflake. (Ron Howard: "They weren't") [more inside]
so, we think the director is Floria Sigismondi, and there is a guy riding a pig, it's from the 90's.. it's dark, it's intense, what is it?
My daughter's iphone 4S has just given up the ghost. I had been thinking of replacing it soonish, but my budget recently took a huge hit so we put it off. And then now our hand is forced because the entire right side of the screen does not register any touches at all. She cannot even unlock it. [more inside]
These three ornaments were bought in Cape Town, South Africa by my family between 1995 and 1996. I believe they came from the Cape Town museum shop. [more inside]
Small hard bumps on the pads of my fingers. They hang out for a few months and then vanish overnight. What are they? [more inside]
On the bottom floor of the Chateau in The Matrix Reloaded, there is a large painting with a central M inside a circle in the upper center, surrounded by possibly the forces of heaven battling soldiers on horses, in possibly black and white. What is the title of this painting, and who is it credited to? [more inside]
I know this is a terrible question but, I'm teaching a class on comedy soon and I want to do a short section on bilingual humor and double talk. I can't find the specific scene I remember seeing a few years ago! [more inside]
I'm looking for a good replacement for my trusty Microsoft Bluetooth Mouse 5000. Is there a mouse out there that fits my criteria? Detailed criteria inside. [more inside]
I need new music, help! I'm looking for modern pop/disco, preferably sung by women, the more queer the better. [more inside]
My partner and I often have a need to say stuff like "I have to go to the bathroom" and "That person stinks" and "That person's smoking is annoying me" and "I don't know the name of the person I'm about to introduce you to" and "I need to leave this party now." I would like some more code words to make this possible. Do you have any good ways to talk about these situations (and others that come up for you) that I could borrow? Bonus points for euphemisms that can be elaborated on humorously. [more inside]
What is the name of this precision cutting tool I got from my grandfather (a sign maker and screen printer by trade)? [more inside]
I'm in Toronto. I'd like to go on a walk tonight in a lively but not overwhelming neighborhood. Where should I go? [more inside]
My partner is looking to put together a Maude Lebowski costume—specifically, from the scene where Maude first meets The Dude and is wearing the green robe with the huge lapels. Where can we obtain the necessary items? [more inside]
We are wondering if anyone here has spent time visiting Greece in mid-late september? Also experience flying Wow Air? [more inside]
My tall houseplant is going to fall over soon. Is there something I can do besides giving it more support? [more inside]
I work in a 50-person office and have seen this coworker about a dozen times, talked to him once. I don't know anything about his personal life, but he was with this office his entire life. Should I attend the funeral? I've never been to one before, so not sure what the expectations are. [more inside]
I am a portrait photographer and clients often meet me in person for the first time on location, standing next to my car. I'm concerned that my old car is creating a bad first impression. But maybe I'm just overthinking this, and no one actually notices/gives a darn? [more inside]
Thinking about applying for a job that's remote only, so I'd love to hear from people who've done it/are doing it? Do you love it? Do you hate it? Did you hate it but figure out a way to make it work? Did you hate it and quit? What was good? What was bad? Do you have tips for making it work? [more inside]
I just learned from my teenager that I've been driving in an "outdated" manner, and this annoys me. Allegedly, the old 10-and-2 hand positions for car steering wheels are unsafe, and I should be holding the wheel lower, at other partitions of the number 12 (e.g. 8-and-4 or 9-and-3). So, just how should I have learned this, and what else am I doing wrong at my age? [more inside]
We have always wanted to visit St.Petersburg, in particular the Hermitage. We are thinking of taking the excursion offered from Helsinki by the St. Peter Line , which says, "if you arrive by ship in St. Petersburg, you do not need a Russian visa for stays under three days (72 hours)" Have any of you ever taken this excursion (or another like it?) Would you recommend it, or with caveats? [more inside]
We adopted a cutie 5-year old chihuahua/feist/beagle(?) mix last Sunday and can't figure out what her name is! She's been super, super sweet, meek, and quiet so far, but is perking up and coming out of her shell more every day. None of the names we've thought of so far seem quite right for her, so need to break out the big mefi guns. [more inside]
I'm looking for songs featuring a (preferably female) vocalist where a major component of the song is that they wail a repeated word or phrase [more inside]
In a perfect storm of Gmail address variants and Apple ID ≡ e-mail address insistence, I'm now getting lots of personal and system details for someone who mistakenly thinks their Gmail address is s.cruss, sc.russ or one of many possible variants. I want to stop getting this leak of someone else's personal information. [more inside]
I'm in the last week of a big writing project, which I expect to complete in the next nine days. I have no other commitments over this time period, as I've cleared my diary to focus on it. I have an office available to me, and a library that's open from 8am-11pm. How do I organise my days to take the best possible advantage of this block of time and get the project finished? [more inside]
Asking for a friend: their son lost his teddy bear, can you help us find an exact match? [more inside]
I find my own difficulty accepting my non-thin body is hindering me from dating and pursuing relationships. How can I see myself with new eyes? Or at least accept myself and enjoy (or even pursue at all) a relationship? [more inside]
I went to the Park City Museum a few years back and noted this wirey thing that's hanging over the stove in the display. What is it? [more inside]
So I inherited a rice cooker that has to be at least 30 years old. It has a plain aluminum cooking pot. I just did my first batch of rice in the cooker and a single layer of rice stuck to the pot and hardened/scorched. My question is: Is this normal for an aluminum pot? Do I need to spray the pot with some cooking spray or something? Or is the cooker defective and heating too high/long? Some other process error? [more inside]
I'm interested in reading non-fiction books for a change and I would like to read about interesting/memorable legal cases in articles, blogs, and books. [more inside]
I'm going to Netcost (large Russian grocery chain) for the first time and would like advice on what to try from the prepared foods, smoked meats/fish, frozen sections or anywhere else for that matter? [more inside]
I need to record audio from my computer to microcassette, but can't seem to find any microcassette recorders that have a line-in capability; usually it's only line-out. Does anyone have a solution for this? Thanks!
I love the show "How it's made" but I've never actually seen the machines or process that are used to dry herbs on an industrial scale. I dry herbs on a homesteading / over-wintering level but I'm interested in seeing the process on an industrial scale from receiving to finished product. [more inside]
Let's say I have cravings for specific foods like cheese cake, bubble tea and empanadas. Or a general craving for salty/sweet/etc. I've eaten sufficient calories and protein and I still have those cravings. I also have cravings like this a few times a week. How can I balance indulging these exact cravings while still being healthy and trying to lose weight? [more inside]
We booked a vacation to Playa Del Carmen and recent news is making me want to cancel. Have you been to Playa Del Carmen in the past month (July)? Anywhere else in the area you'd recommend for a family? Experiences, suggestions and/or reassurances needed! [more inside]
It's Buckminster Fuller's 123rd Birthday next year and I would like to produce an event that includes artists submissions, interactive programs, TED like talks and moderated panels. How would I go about contacting the family and foundation to get permission to bring this happening into being?
Going to a Saturday matinee at 2, I'd love any recommendations for a kid-friendly restaurant for lunch before or dinner after. Good vegetarian options are also a plus.
In two weeks I'll be flying to Sacramento and exploring several nearby towns on a nine day trip. I've never been in CA north of San Francisco so I'm excited to see some new sights. Enjoying food, museums, and the outdoors are all good. How does my itinerary look? [more inside]
Looking for places to stop off on a drive through the North Cascades in Washington State that do not require hiking, or walking more than a mile or so. [more inside]
Please help me. We spend way too much on food. This habit has gotten out of hand. Deep dive into the numbers and how they stack up against our favor. [more inside]
Is there a person or service in New York/Brooklyn to help make over my apartment and potentially my wardrobe? [more inside]
Between job stress and surgery, I've kind of let myself go. I want to get back into fighting shape. [more inside]
I prioritized location (and my relatively tight budget) and bought a very small house (less than 800 square feet.) I'm just about to move in, and I have a bit of cold feet. [more inside]
Herr Vortex and I are disagreeing about where we should go to view the eclipse. We will start the day in Wall, SD and will end the day in Pueblo, CO. He wants to go through Nebraska, I want to go through Wyoming. Please help us so we don't miss the Big Show. [more inside]
I'm not much for drawing. I don't like coloring with crayons, colored pencils, or markers. But I just remembered that I LOVE using oil pastels (like these). They're very satisfying to use but not great for fine detail. Do they make huge oversize coloring books? Is there some fast way for me to make my own huge paint-by-number or color-in design on thicker or higher quality paper? [more inside]
What can I do with my backyard water feature? Fish aren't an option. Looking for creative, low-maintenance ideas! [more inside]
I'm rubbish at replying to personal emails! How can I get better? [more inside]
There are a lot of musical entertainers that have to learn to dance as part of their performing skills. What does that process look like? For instance, what does the rehearsal/training/practice schedule look like for a boy band member with no special dance aptitude but who needs to have a basic repertoire of moves for a concert tour?
I'm doing a little hobby geneaology and looking for a small town somewhere in former Austria-Hungary, sometimes specified as Czechoslovakia, and most likely the Transcarpathian or Carpathian Ruthenia regions. Spelled in English (by a non-native English speaker) the name of the town was "Bielowociz." A search for "Bielowociz" doesn't result in anything. What are possibilities for the name of the town, and how do I proceed?
Music production noob question: can anyone recommend me a single box that is both of the following, preferably without cracking $300: (1) A USB interface with stereo ins and outs and a decent preamp. (2) Something that could also power a 48v condenser mic without being attached to my laptop, so that I can use it when recording from the mic to an old cassette 4 track. [more inside]
I planned to propose to my girlfriend after a fancy dinner while strolling along Lady Bird lake. And then, she had to have unexpected surgery. Now, she won't be particularly mobile (using a knee scooter) on my planned proposal date. Do you have any location suggestions that have a good view, aren't too crowded, and are easily accessible?
Our Relative had a storage locker, and granted authorized access to siblings. Relative died and we cannot find the keys. Are authorized users allowed to request that the lock is cut off and a new lock put in place? We have not yet informed Public Storage that our relative has died. We have online access to account and have been paying rent. Is there anyone with California experience with Public Storage and with requesting the lock is cut off?
I am looking for songs about old-timey boating, preferably with recordings or video. Please recommend the best renditions of Sloop John B, the Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald, Oh Shenandoah, ... [all the ones I don't know about].
When confronted with an insult, (not often, in what I generally think is a positive world) I tend to get a bit flustered, and have difficulty with a coherent reply. Especially if I try to keep eye contact. Recently I have tried turning my gaze at an object, giving myself a few crucial seconds to think clearly; it can also give the impression of thoughtfulness ( which it is, for me) I try to avoid looking down , and not to blink, (which seems to telegraph a fluster, a hesitation. Ideas?
I have a cold. Help me decide whether or not to visit my 94 year old Grandmother this coming Tuesday. [more inside]
Did Jonathan Edwards really say "the road to Hell is paved with the skulls of unbaptized infants"? If so, where and when did he say it? [more inside]
I need to send emails to 500+ people in a club. What should I use to do this? [more inside]
Two days ago my 16 year old cat vomited 4 times and defecated 3 times within a half hour with no obvious cause , so I called the vet and brought him in. Blood tests and X-rays were within normal parameters but giardia was discovered in the stool sample. He was prescribed panacur granules. I have two other cats. [more inside]
Can anyone recommend an outdoor security camera/game camera with a good range and high resolution? It's for a fixed position, doesn't have (or need) Internet access, and can have wired power. [more inside]
I play Pokemon Go a lot and use various IM apps/services to communicate with other players about where to meet. Is there an IM type service that does reservations as its main function, with chat as a side function? That way players could set up times to meet at specific places with Map directions, without a lot of the insane chatter. Details inside [more inside]
I went on a bit of a Madness bender a few months ago and heard 'Johnny the Horse' for the first time and just loved it. And just the other day I put in 'Gish' by Smashing Pumpkins and re-discovered the gorgeousness of 'Daydream'. I'd love your recommendations for songs that you love because of their damned catchiness, and yet they're not inexplicably all over the place, so obviously nothing that's ever been featured in an ad.
A good friend of mine (T) has been sleeping on my sofa for the past week. They're unemployed and without a firm place to stay, and while they're generally in a stable place they've had a couple of dissociative episodes. What's the best way I, a non-professional, can help them get themselves together? [more inside]
I have a five year old daughter who is the most precious person in the world to me. We're gun owners and believe strongly that gun safety should begin at a young age. [more inside]
Why do people still buy new smartphones? Haven’t we reached peak smartphone? [more inside]
I am looking for a forum or discussion group (think: metafilter, reddit) specialised on evolutionary biology, and even more so on questions of symbiogenesis, horizontal gene transfer and other "lateral" processes in evolution. What I found are forums for general discussions on evolution (versus creation, on Darwinism etc.) – these do not interest me. The place I'm looking for could be a newsgroup or even a group on facebook, where, for instance, PhD-students or science writers exchange & discuss their work, or just meet up. Anyone knows the place to go?
Hi all! I visited the Lee Bontecou exhibit in Den Haag several months ago and my heart is still aching from the way her work resonates with me. This exhibit is over now, but I would like to revisit this exhibit at its next destination - if it ever pops up? [more inside]
What did you do to have a good relationship, after one or many bad ones? How much of that was about meeting the right person vs working at improving old patterns? [more inside]
In 1976, Waldemar Świerzy designed a poster for the Polish play, "Odpocznij po biegu". How much would an original print of this poster be worth today?
My daughter is turning three and I was planning a fun-filled splish splash party for about a dozen 3 year olds this weekend - we have a big back yard and lots of baby pools. Toddlers and parents are all coming...and its predicted to rain all Saturday. I'm in NOVA. We can't reschedule due to a really busy August....so how do I turn an outdoor party into an indoor party that will entertain these toddlers for 2 hours?! [more inside]
The album cover is mostly blue. It features a monk/boy in robes with a halo, and a Dali-esque winged horse-like creature on top of the monk's head. Most likely rock/indie/punk. I saw the image tattooed on someone, and asked them about it, but then promptly forgot what they told me.
A few years ago I bought this Athleta dress from a consignment shop for $11, and it's become one of the most versatile items of clothing I own. It doesn't wrinkle, it still looks (and smells!) good after I've worn it for a week straight in a pinch, and it's washable. I can wear it to work, I can stuff it in my bag when I'm traveling, and it's neutral enough that I can easily dress it up or down. Help me find more clothes like this! [more inside]
I need a lighter for my gas grill, but I can't just go to the dollar store. [more inside]
We're going to be spending a few days in Montreal in August, and I'm hoping to get your recommendations for local dining. [more inside]
I just created a new Facebook “album” and put one post in it (a link to a news article), using the new feature that lets you put posts (other than photos/videos) into albums. But now I think that post would make more sense in a different album. (A post can only be in one album at a time.) How do I move this post out of the album it’s currently in?
I get a lot of mail. About 95% of it is letters from non-profits seeking donations, or other forms of junk mail, and goes straight into the recycling. I'm about to move. For obnoxious reasons not relevant to this question, it would be a challenge for me to receive large quantities of mail at my new address. So, rather than forwarding my mail from my current to my new address, I have a plan to evade my unwanted mail for good... [more inside]
35-40 years ago, I did a fair share of cross stitching. I've started to pick it up again and it's a whole new world. [more inside]
I'd like to teach my kid to shower independently, but the shower could stand to be a bit more kid-friendly. Help us help him! [more inside]
How should I stop robots from constantly calling my mobile? [more inside]
I have a prepaid Visa card from a rebate offer that I've spent all but $1.98 on... and now I've realized that I can't think of what to buy to use it up completely. (I know I should have thought of this problem earlier, but here I am). Ahem, I could also buy two $0.99 items... Any good things I should get? Thanks, hivemind.
I am interested in the daily lives of average US citizens living 1870-1920. How did they go about their daily lives? What medicine was available? What levels of technology? Etc. I am interested in fashion, gun rights, drug laws, demographic make up, immigration trends and views, etc. I don't even know how to begin researching this. Hope me? Note: I am looking for resources, not actual answers to these questions. [more inside]
I'm looking for a copy of the programme (or a press release showing the lineup) for the Michigan Womyn's Music Festival, 1995. [more inside]
I'm looking specifically for lodging between the Eisenhower tunnel and Denver metro. I'm trying to keep the drive from Bryce to the 6 hour range. Open to camping. Final destination the other side of Denver. Also on the way back I'm looking for lodging around Moab. Thanks for your time, and feel free to mention other thing that would be useful.
One of my girlfriend's favorite umbrellas is on its last ribs. She hasn't been able to find another like it. Her birthday is in a couple weeks. Can the hivemind help me come through? [more inside]
My spouse frequently grumbles at me that I 'spill water everywhere' when exiting the shower, which I usually find confusing--unless I've made some sort of error with the shower curtain, there's never water anywhere but the bath mat. I towel dry to the calves before leaving the tub, like a normal person. Today I learned that they have been complaining because they believe that one should towel dry one's feet, including between one's toes, before exiting the shower. Who is right?
I'm trying to find a smart phone for my mom, and I'm totally overwhelmed by the choices. [more inside]
I love coffee. Unfortunately, I can no longer drink it. It gives me acid reflux. But, I need my caffeine. Are there any alternative (and good tasting) sources for my caffeine fix?
My work team is in search of a video camera and a microphone – both should be relatively low user tech required but have good quality output. [more inside]
This is not what my Apple LED Cinema Display should be doing. It's hooked up to my mid-2015 15" MacBook Pro. I unplugged the monitor, and the laptop display showed black. I force restarted, and all is well. Should I worry about the external display, the macbook, or the cables? It's only happened this once (so far). [more inside]
I made this fish stew yesterday. (Thanks for the recipe, shoesietart!) It tastes very good, but not great. Help me brighten up the leftovers. [more inside]
A developer or team outside of ours was pulled in to work on some new development in our app. Their code is completely inconsistent with ours. Am I correct to be supremely annoyed? [more inside]
My son's married dad has a strict schedule on when he is able to visit him and overnight at his house. I think this is BS. I am not and have never been married please show me where I err or am ignorant to how this works. [more inside]
I'm looking for the earliest examples of this particular trope, along with any theories as to why and how it originates and how it relates more broadly to other stereotypes of the anguished creative genius. Google has turned up nothing much for me so far, so I'm turning to you, hive mind. Please hope me...
A passage from the Tr*mp rally this week in Ohio was classic, medieval blood libel, repurposed for use against immigrants of color. I have a nagging suspicion this passage was plagiarized wholesale from an older text. Can anyone help me identify it? [more inside]
Hello, I'm trying to find a men's clothing company. The name is Bruno New York--I see their stuff in a lot of stores but I cannot find them anywhere as far as Google or a website. [more inside]
My five-year-old complains of headaches only while in the car. We are taking a long road trip next month. Have you dealt with this? How can we minimize the level of miserableness for everyone involved? [more inside]
I have a set of folks in my life who are exactly the kind of bragging/affirmation-seeking conversationalists described in this previous question. Added wrinkle: I'm going to have to roll with this behavior for a whole week on upcoming mandatory visit to their home-- with a bonus side of some somewhat distasteful things being boasted about. What can I do to either (a) dodge the fishing, or (b) physically calm myself down through 8 days of forced compliments? [more inside]
It is 10:15. I have a high profile, high stress project milestone due. I have very limited time to do it, and furthermore I have to leave the office early. Unfortunately, Donald Trump exists. [more inside]
In keeping with the small and heavy theme, purchases so far include stainless steel ice cubes, a concrete tealight holder, and a cast iron mini cocotte. I would appreciate any other ideas, especially ones that don't seem obvious. [more inside]
I had professional family pictures taken that I am trying to order large prints (8x10 or larger) from a print website, but everytime I try to upload my pictures I get an error message on a select few (the larger ones). The pictures were sent to me in high res. and in the right format, and I can't get in touch with my photographer to try to assist. Is there something I'm missing? I spent a lot of money on the rights, and I have tried multiple websites (shutterfly, mpix, kinkos, etc.) to no avail... always, the same pictures fail to upload. Maybe it is my browser, but it woulnd't make sense that one will upload and another wont. Thanks!
Looking for recommendations for fashionable, comfortable, quality mens socks that have extremely smooth toe seams, or no toe seams at all. [more inside]
Flickr album not quite cutting it for showcasing photos of household items for dividing an estate. What else is out there? [more inside]
I'm having a strange problem with my Behringer studio monitors. There is a loud buzzing noise when both of them are plugged in. [more inside]
My hair seemed smoother, silkier, less tangly, after being to the hair salon. He did blow-dry my hair, while I normally let it air-dry. Is it the blow-drying that made the difference? In which case, is blow-drying good for hair if it makes it less tangly and so prevents breakage? [more inside]
The wife and I are heading to Edinburgh for the first time and whisky is going to be a large part of the trip. Two questions: - Where is the best place to drink a whisky flight that will give us a feel for the different types of scotch? - Is it worth trying a whisky older than we are (33)? Any specific recommendations? Details below. [more inside]
I just noticed that the earliest email messages in my inbox are from mid-2013, more than 6 years after I opened my account. I googled the issue, of course, and I know I'm not the first person who has dealt with this problem, but nothing I've found seems applicable, including the suggestions offered in this identical Ask from 2013 (marked "resolved", though that doesn't seem to be the case). Hoping fellow mefites have new info. [more inside]
I did a series of dumb things and now my Nexus 5x Android phone is locked. I have the credit card I used to purchase it and will be at the address where it was delivered is there any remote chance of getting it unlocked if I can prove it is mine? [more inside]
Give 'em to me. Mostly looking for good quality, but also looking for amazing smell-ness, so I can look forward to and feel pampered during shower time. [more inside]
At least daily, often multiple times per day, I witness adults across the street shouting, swearing, and putting down their kids. It is awful. I'm unsure of what to do. [more inside]
Mom has dementia and has just started a new habit of trying to wander. Fortunately, her mobility limitations likely limit how far she'll go, but still, it's scary. Are their known tips for preventing this? [more inside]
I want to make my small back room into my family's main TV/gaming room. This room is also the main access to the backyard for the dog, and I need help figuring out how to arrange the furniture -- and possibly what furniture to buy -- so that this room functions well. [more inside]
Calling all Metafilter punsters: It's time for Name My Fantasy Football Team... Star Wars edition. [more inside]
The olive trees in backyard went nuts last summer, and so now I have many, many cured olives. Many. Jars and jars. And I just realised that it's about 3 months since I started eating them, and I've barely made a dent. I need suggestions for what to do with them. [more inside]
Two used cars, same model and year (2010 Prius). Different mileage, prices, and ownership records. Which to choose? [more inside]
A good friend kindly gave me an opened half-bottle of fish oil. Unfortunately, the gelatin in the softgels is of bovine origin. I emailed the manufacturer who replied that the gelatin can be from any of a number of countries, some of which are not BSE-free. Am I being paranoid in not eating this? [more inside]
How do I clone an old family photograph? My sister-in-law wants a frameable copy of a WWII-era portrait hanging in our home. There is, of course, no negative available. I'm sure this should be doable, but don't know what type of store, lab, or expert I should be looking for. Can someone help me please?
Are there any limits on executive orders? How do they work, and what are they normally used for? [more inside]
I have a spare ticket from Seattle to Barcelona and know literally nobody who is willing to buy it. Airline won't refund me, so where can I sell this thing? [more inside]
Since finding out about the concept of anomie (by Emile Durkheim), I have increasingly felt this applies to me. Anomie refers to basically lacking a sense of meaning in society - a sense that since there are so many ways of looking at the world, none of them are truly right or wrong. How can I go about remedying this? [more inside]
I'll be around this area during the day but will need to take time out for a conference call. Can anyone suggest a reasonably quiet place to do this but where it wouldn't be rude for me to have a call? I'm thinking of coffee shops or similar, but any suggestion is welcome. Many thanks in advance!
Looking for delicious high protein ice cream recipe (for home 2qt ice cream machine). I have a friend in chemo who is losing weight at a terrifying pace. I've made ice cream a couple of times & it's a hit. I don't mess around,only the most delicious recipes from cooks illustrated, david levovitz, etc. everything high protein recipe I found on google appeared to sacrifice flavor. Not what I'm after. [more inside]
I want to try to replicate this type of stitch, but unsure what kind it is! [more inside]
I am pulling out the insulation in the attic of my house and I have found seven men's shoes in the paper fluff insulation. (I assume that I'll find at least one more...) They are smooshed and dry, but I was just wondering if I should offer them on craigslist, try to make a million dollars on them on ebay, or trash them. [more inside]
Hi all, I'm looking at Discourse and wanting to see if there is some relatively easy to get a board running without paying for assistance. [more inside]
I can only communicate through typing or writing. She can only communicate through speaking. Can this be reconciled? [more inside]
My partner and I are trying to rent out our house. The tenants of the house next door have put up a sign in their window that I think is discouraging/will discourage people from renting our house. I don't know what to do about it. [more inside]
My house is in Portland Oregon and in last winter the heating bills were crazy. I don't want to pay $200 plus a month to warm one person anymore. I have a mid-2000s electric furnace. I have the choice of installing a heat pump vs gas furnace. I have got a few estimates from contractors but still can't make a decision. I am mainly interested in the utilities savings of heat pump vs gas. Did you transition your heating from electric to heat or gas? How was the experience, did you notice significant energy savings? Maintenance cost differences? [more inside]
I have a list of mostly household stuff that I want to offload onto my husband. Please, may I have some feedback on this list? Is it reasonable? Tips for discussing it with him? [more inside]
Help me expand on this menu for a taco party and think of awesome vegetarian options. Bonus round: suggest a visually impressive dessert. [more inside]
Does anyone have personal experience with Premier, Summit, or Hotpoint gas ranges? They don't seem to be reviewed by Sweethome or Consumer Reports. [more inside]
Desperately seeking a digital asset management system for a small marketing department. Also, if you currently have a DAM or something like it, what does your workflow/taxonomy looks like? (Especially if you work at a college!) [more inside]
I'm going on a week trip to Vancouver (2 nights) and Vancouver Island (5 nights) tomorrow with my partner and his family. We'll be in the car a bit I believe and it would be brilliant to have a few topical podcasts to download and listen to while we drive. [more inside]
I've got about ten pounds of halibut that's been sitting in the freezer for quite a while--nearly two years! It's been frozen solid the whole time, so I'm not worried about safety, but I'm sure it's freezer-burned and well past it's peak. Looking for recipes that will make good use of it. [more inside]
I love my Keen Owyhees. They're cool on hot days and I can throw them in the wash when they inevitably get odorous. I'm looking for something dressier, that can be worn without socks, that can either resist foot odor or are machine washable.
I'm looking for a sewing pattern for a top/blouse I can make out of a lightweight woven cotton or linen. I have a pretty specific idea in mind: short-sleeved, pullover, boatneck or slightly rounded neckline, with gathered fabric above the bust where it meets the yoke. I've found a pattern that's pretty close but I would rather buy a Big 4 pattern if possible for reasons described inside. [more inside]
What is this bug? It is weirding me out. picture of bug
Hi! I want to quit cable but I can't figure out how to watch the major league baseball playoffs. I can't get over-the-air channels at my house. It seems like SlingTV is the only option. Have you tried it? How does it work? [more inside]
I have a Blu-Ray player that's dying, and I'd like to replace it. Because I'm not a cable subscriber, I'm not sure if I should get something like a Roku or other kind of box. [more inside]
I need to have my Dell Chromebook fixed, but not sure where to go/send it. [more inside]
I am going on a business trip to NYC in mid-August for 4 days. I have never been to NYC before and I would love advice/suggestions on a couple things and be able to make the most of my short time there. [more inside]
I am shopping for a dress and I am having trouble figuring out which retailers are going to deliver me a dress that looks like the one in the pictures and is somewhat close to the size promised. [more inside]
I have an older relative who has a rare dementing disorder - the end result is similar to Alzheimer's although the process is very different. At this point, my relative's condition has deteriorated to the point where her partner is having trouble caring for her but would like to keep her at home. How can they find and access specialists in this type of care? [more inside]
(The good news is, me and the cat are fine). It's not so strong but it wafts over to me in many different places throughout my (smallish) apartment, and I can't tell where it's coming from! Everywhere I sniff out smells fine. Do you have any suggestion or hints for tracking it down? Ugh. [more inside]
Who can ID this book? [more inside]
I love Svantana's mix of "Don't You Want Me", in which every lyric is sung as the 'You were working as a waitress in a cocktail bar' line. Are there any other mixes of any other songs done in this fashion?
I have 72 ounces of okra with the stems ends entirely removed. All the photos of pickled okra that I can find just have the stem removed. What will this do to the okra when it's pickled and water bath canned? I don't want to can 12 jars of this stuff if it's going to be slimy. I know that pickling mitigates the slime, but of course, these okra are overtrimmed. [more inside]
What pre-Internet, pre-Usenet precedents are there, I wonder, for spoiler warnings? I was wondering because in an old edition of "The Odyssey," the guy in the foreword said he didn't want to divulge plot details so as to not to "spoil" reader enjoyment. Were there any equivalent of spoiler warnings for old serialized books and stuff? [more inside]
Do you know of a phone case with a compartment big enough to hold a car key? They key is pretty flat for a car key, meaning there's no electronic fob attached. [more inside]
Dear literary mefites – I am in a bit of a quandary – although a very lucky one. The short version is that I have had serious offers from two well-known literary agents (in the UK) about representing my novel-in-progress (commercial genre fiction). I have no idea how to decide on which to take up and I don’t have any background in the publishing world. Both want to take me on even though I haven’t finished the book. How can I choose? What is the best thing about your agent? Any advice appreciated. [more inside]
Owned a cat for the last 8 years since she was a kitten. I take good care of her and she’s a good cat. And yet I'm considering giving her up. I could never stand to see her get hurt, but I have several friends who are thinking of adopting. Would it be wrong of me to ask if they want to adopt her? [more inside]
Vegan MMJ chews of a certain sort? [more inside]
Who the hell am I thinking of? What is this tv show/film? [more inside]
How do I gently let someone know that while I appreciate them reaching out to me about their mountain of ideas, I am not able to take on the roles that they want - without making things worse? Especially in a way that someone with a hippie soul can understand. [more inside]
Should I put off a potential friendship with a woman i am interested in now in order to continue to work on myself, or see if she'd like to talk and get to know each other in the interim? I feel like I may miss my chance. [more inside]
I can't seem to find an answer on my own, so I'm hoping Metafilter’s resident experts on history and religion can shed some light on the subject. [more inside]
I'd like to make a matching set of boutonnieres, using leftover scraps of a large-patterned fabric. How? [more inside]
My family of origin issues sound very childish. Can you please offer your mature and wise perspective? [more inside]
In high school and when I was an an undergrad I always led group projects and did almost all the work. In my Master program I was just kind of assigned a statistical data analysis job solely because I have the software for making analyses. The team leader doesn't like my work. [more inside]
I’d like to know the exact date that Rodney Bingenheimer first played the Sonic Youth song “Tunic” on his show “Rodney on the Roq" on KROQ in LA. I'm pretty it was a Sunday in 1990, the year Goo was released, but I’d like to know which particular Sunday. Thanks!
I am looking for a simple, hopefully non-invasive way to see which Macs on a network aren't up to date on their security patches. [more inside]
I've used several products on my bathtub to clean the grout, the latest around 4 weeks ago. The products say "do not combine with bleach" (one was Bar Keepers friend). I want to clean the grout with a bleach pen. Is this safe? When will it be safe or how can I make it so?
Can police remove a visiter from your home if no longer welcome? [more inside]
when i travel, i use the one-bag checklist (https://www.onebag.com/checklist.html) and have since... 2002. guy's kept up the thing since 2002, and it's insanely detailed. is there a checklist of similar attention to detail but for home/apartment furnishings?
Can anyone help me identify this Specialized Rockhopper bike from a list of some of its components, please? [more inside]
Mr. Whiskers has either IBS or Lymphoma. I want the least intrusive way to make him comfortable. [more inside]
'The sky is falling!' Or is it? I have a number for each of the last six years after the fold. Is there really a downward trend, or just entirely normal, expected variation, or are there not enough data to tell? [more inside]
Lenovo tablet screen display randomly does a strange swirly thing, screen goes black for a few seconds, then reopens with my wallpaper picture, briefly, then back to whatever I was looking at when the pirouette happened. Sigh. [more inside]
What software do I need to be an electronic musician? Skill level: uh... "long-time listener, first-time caller." Basic! What I want to do: plug my electric keyboard into a program to modify sound effects, record phrases, mix them with samples from the net and other published music. $100 or less is my budget. I use Mac laptop Air. I assume I can just download something?
Might be traveling on business to China very soon and looking for the best way to stay online, could use any suggestions (VPNs, etc) [more inside]
For the past few months my boyfriend has been hanging out with an old friend of his at our house a couple times a month. Normally I'm quite antisocial/introverted, but this guy is really friendly/considerate & made a lot of effort to drag me out of my shell. We have a lot in common & now I look forward to him coming over too. [more inside]
So far, I've got: Total Eclipse of the Heart, Bonnie Tyler You're So Vain, Carly Simon Blackhole Sun, Soundgarden Blinded By The Light, the Boss I'd be very interested in covers or alternative takes on any songs. Thanks,
I've read previous flooding questions but they don't completely cover the flooring materials and concerns I'm dealing with right now. I could really use some advice. [more inside]
My son is having a blood glucose study to check if he is developing CF-related diabetes. As well as a continuous glucose monitor he has to have a finger-prick test three times a day to calibrate the readings from the monitor. However, he's starting to panic each time he has to have the finger prick test. How can we teach him to stay as calm as possible? [more inside]
Earlier yesterday while I was pulling into work (going probably 5 mph) -- I was t-boned by a Ford 4x4 Pick-Up Truck right on the passenger side back door. No cops came. The guy was some landscaping kid scared saying he didn't have a license but I got his car registration and took photos of him and the truck. 3 hours later I'm in ER doing brain scans and other things. They tell me I suffered a concussion but not sure which one (apparently there more than one?) [more inside]
I've got a long history with porn. Just met my first girlfriend. We've tried to have sex about 5 times now, and every time, I can't get it up. Can pleasure her and give her desire, but I haven't masturbated or looked at porn since we first hooked up (more than a month ago). According to NoFap, it could take months or even years years of total abstinence to overcome Porn-Induced-Erectile-Dysfunction. That scares the hell outta me. [more inside]
I've decided that the thing I want to do to make a difference politically is to help swing congressional seats in the 2018 midterm elections. This will entail canvassing, which I've done a little bit of in the past. But the problem is I myself hate being canvassed, and thus I assume most people resent the intrusion as much as I do. That may be true, and it may not. But how can I reframe it in my own mind so I can get into it and do it well?
I'm looking for a few more riddles of a very particular style (that probably has a name I don't know) in which the askee is intentionally mislead, thus obfuscating an otherwise simple answer. I only know of one of these and I'm hoping for more (example inside). [more inside]
What's the easiest to-do list free app out there these days? [more inside]
After several unsuccessful bouts of trying to better educate myself on money matters, I'm starting to think that I actually might just need to hire someone who will, in a kind of hands-on way, help me manage my long-term finances across several areas. Or at least help me design a system I can wrap my head around. Is this a thing? Or would I need several professionals? Details within. [more inside]
Seeking, for lack of a better term, introvert anthems. Music that demands that others leave you the heck alone. [more inside]
I used airbnb for the first time in February. Stayed in a guy's house in Joshua Tree. It was awesome. The next two times the rate jumped after I booked a place. My questions are: is this normal, and is there any way to avoid it? Sorry if my questions are beginnery, I'm still new to airbnbing. My specific details are below. [more inside]
I'm looking to plan an aerial photo for a group. They want to spell (number?) out "2021" on a lawn, with people lined up to make up the numbers. We'll have about 1000 participants. [more inside]
Looking to adhere vinyl to hard silicone plastic. It has to be able to withstand maybe 5 lb of load, and be professional looking and scalable. Any suggestions for glues, epoxies, or other materials to do so? We've seen the "This to That" site.
I have a very friendly wire fox terrier, Buster, who's accustomed to getting an occasional professional walker when I'm away from home for a longer stretch of time than I'd like to leave him alone. We're about to leave for a cross-country road trip that includes a few hotel stays and I'm not sure how to arrange a dog walker. [more inside]
I'm creating footnote-heavy content for a website. Can you point to any websites that do footnotes well? [more inside]
Next week is my vacation, but my original plans fell through. I'm on a very limited budget, and I'll be doing this alone. As a huge Anne of Green Gables fan and having never been to Canada, it occurred to me it might be nice to drive up to PEI, but I need help figuring optimal drive times and stopping places. [more inside]
It may be time for a new, used car...but what one? [more inside]
Can you identify/translate this (likely contemporary/invented) Latin phrase? Quod continue sugen / Et nome signum / Me anones ad me [more inside]
After dating for 5 years and discussing marriage for the last 6 months, my partner and I have set the date for May 2018. We called our family and friends, and everyone is happy and excited. And so am I! And more!!!! [more inside]
Presenting a PDF slideshow--how can I blackout the screen? I'm used to using Powerpoint, and using a remote control slide advancer's "Blackout" button during presentations. It's similar to pressing "b" during a presentation: the screen goes blank. Now I have a presentation that's in PDF format (made in the wonderful Deckset app), and I present using Adobe Reader. Is there any way to make the screen go blank during the presentation, say, when a question comes up?
I want to find a new structured mental-health/personal wellness daily challenge to take on for August. Know any resources? [more inside]
My aunt contracted a boat dock company to do $30,000 worth of work on her boat dock. She gave them $15,000 as a down payment per the contract terms. Shortly after she gave them the money, she found out that she had to have two very expensive surgeries, so she called them to ask them to trim the job in half and do only about $15,000 in work and just use the money they already had. Now they aren’t returning her calls and haven’t done any work. [more inside]
I'm pregnant! This is exciting. However, I have an intuition it's a boy, and I've always wanted a girl. Do you have any advice for me? It makes me sad that I'm not as excited as I think I would be about a girl. [more inside]
I'm thinking that my next major purchase is going to be a photo-editing laptop and I'd like it to be an awesome one that will continue to get the job done for years to come. It's got to be fast, with lots of memory and storage, and of course a superb display. Not a Mac. What should I get? [more inside]
Can you help me figure out the right setup for working with a large number of PDF files on multiple computers? [more inside]
I found the Vintage Kuala Lumpur tumblr from a link on this week's MetaTalk cocktail hour and really enjoyed looking through all the pictures - now I'm looking for more archives of historical photos, ideally featuring regular people doing regular stuff. [more inside]
I've got a retina iMac, the original one, circa 2014. Until recently, it's been amazing, problem free. But yesterday i booted it up and it gave me a black screen, with a movable mouse. Several tries later, it booted regularly, but extremely slowly, like it took 20 minutes until I could load even a single app/program. Even now that it's up to speed, everything is opening slowly, and the slowdown involves all my favorite programs. Chrome is slow, finder is slow, it's all slow. What's happening? [more inside]
My 18 year old son started having double vision while driving today. Within a few hours, he saw an Urgent Care Doctor, a Neuro-Ophthalmologist, and had blood drawn. We are waiting for the blood test results, but they also want to do an MRI, and evidently those can take weeks to a month + to get an appointment for. Other than the vision problems, he is doing ok, but I am going crazy worrying about the possible causes and am terrified of the worst case outcomes. How do you cope in this situation, and does anyone have any first hand experience with this situation and have positive results to share? [more inside]
I just accepted a job at my former employer after a year's hiatus from work. It's a super great opportunity and I'm super stoked, except that I'm going to be supervising a pretty good friend. How do I tell him this? [more inside]
I was assessed last November as being in the ESA Support Group due to Type 1 Bipolar Disorder, and my DLA is low rate mobility/ middle rate care, and I get housing benefit. So I have enough to live on (no partner or kids to support) and can afford movies/ concerts/ books etc. I have officially been assessed as severely disabled and am not expected to be doing any back to work activities, plus I get that extra severe disability payment. Yet I get little joy from long empty days and feel my life lacks meaning without voluntary or paid work. I could do some voluntary work now but don't want to start with a place without an end goal of realistic employment somewhere else, I would rather have a plan for paid employment and work backwards to think of what voluntary work might train me for that. However I am very frightened that in attempting to better myself I might make myself far worse either sending my health back to a bad place due to being triggered, or falling foul of the benefits system and being worse off financially. [more inside]
How to deal with old friendships, reconnecting and what it all means... (Snowflakes inside.) [more inside]
We want to stop mosquitoes biting us as we sleep. We have some anti-mosquito tablets that get gently heated in a wall plug, and these seem to work, but we are worried about their effect on kids and animals. Should we be? Are there any alternatives we could use while sleeping, ideally without rubbing anything onto our skin or clothes. We don't want to use a net.
We're taking Mom to the Oregon coast (Lincoln City/Newport) but she's worried she won't have fun because of her MS. Any chance we could rent a wheelchair or other device suitable for the beach? She has her scooter (Pride Gogo power scooter) but we're not sure if it will get stuck in the sand. [more inside]
I know that no one can predict the future, and the current Administration is acting erratically at best. However, I'd like to know how to survive ACA health care uncertainty. I also realize that this may be an impossible question to answer. [more inside]
I cannot get my apartment manager to fix anything. Help me become the asshole customer everyone hates in order to just get my fridge looked at. [more inside]
Two women in their 80s want to meet for lunch in NYC next week. They had been meeting at Isabella's for decades. Isabella's closed. Where can they meet that has the following criteria similar to Isabella's? [more inside]
My partner graduated from college with a degree in psychobiology, focusing on animal behavior. They're having trouble figuring out what to do with it, because most animal behavior jobs seem to either require a lot of physical labor, or require significant interaction with people, both of which are difficult and extremely draining for them. They love animals and know tons about animal biology, behavior, and handling. Where can they go with this? [more inside]
Short Story ID: Scifi story about a guy who as soon as someone left his sight he felt like they were gone forever, and whenever they came back he would be overjoyed. He eventually goes out on a spaceship so that he can hold the entire spaceship and the crew in his mind, but eventually just goes out of the spaceship in a spacesuit so that to him he's the only person in the universe. I read the story maybe 10 years ago; it felt like it had been written in the 1960-1980s. [more inside]
Wife and I will be staying in downtown Atlanta this weekend. Help us plan for an amazing and unique couple of days! [more inside]
A friend is running her first ultra-marathon. Got any tips and tricks to share with her? [more inside]
We (a Midwestern family) have a few days in Newport/Laguna Beach, what should we do and see with a 10 month old? Bonus points for a 42 year birthday celebration dinner/activity too. [more inside]
I've been suffering from extreme fatigue for the past six months, and I don't know how to start diagnosing it. [more inside]
I am on the staff running an international travel-related event in August, and need to put together a Spotify playlist of songs to play at the end of the last day of the event. In the past I have picked different themes, and what I am shooting for this year is non-English popular music from around the world. Details inside. [more inside]
Kid wants to use his money to buy a hoverboard; I want to make sure he gets a decent one. Seeking guidance. [more inside]
I am looking to buy the cheapest reliable laptop possible...I need it to last for a year plus with fairly constant use, mostly writing & reading. Under $400. Any OS. X 15"+ I don't have Internet access at home, so nothing that relies on the cloud to function. Flexible on other specs. I really hate Dells. Suggestions?
Looking for a new Android game, good for my commute, that doesn't require an internet connection to launch. Rogue-lite or RPG preferred but a good puzzle game also works. [more inside]
I love listening to podcasts on my computer but often they are available on different platforms and it's hard to check each one. My preferred platform is SoundCloud -- I like that I can "follow" my favorite podcasts and they just show up on my feed when I go to the SoundCloud homepage. But I have podcasts I enjoy that are on Stitcher, AudioBoom, Art19, some are self-hosted, etc. It's hard to keep track of them all, and I absolutely hate using iTunes. [more inside]
I am heading toward my mid twenties and I have never moved out of my parents home. I commuted to college for all five years that I was in college full time. I was under strict rules and was very sheltered during this whole time. I had serious mental health that I have only recently started to treat. I do not have a lot to show for college. I was careless with my grades and many of my relationships have ended badly. I take responsibility for this although my mental health issues have contributed. [more inside]
For our wedding a decade ago, we received a lightweight, toast brown blanket that was my couch cocooning pal until it finally fell to bits. Machine washing only made it softer. Not sure who made the blanket, but I'm pretty sure it was a silk-cotton blend. Texture was similar to a thinly knit cashmere sweater, with satin edges. Weight comparable to a couple of sheets. I need a silky-soft, thin blankie I can cuddle up with. Does this description sound like any currently available bedding you can recommend?
In 2009, I bought a hat. A few years later I lost the hat in Lake Te Anau, and I'd like to get a new one just like it. But, I can't find the right words to google this correctly. Snowflakes within. [more inside]
I've posted a couple of other questions that are focused around the same thing, which basically amounts to my past trauma in an emotionally/sexually abusive LTR, and my insecurities/ongoing anxiety in my current relationship. I've gotten some really helpful responses in my other threads that I still go over when I need them, and my boyfriend even looked over some of them with me. Basically, I feel like I'm always on the defensive and feeling threatened because I'm afraid (of reliving past trauma? being hurt? cheated on?) but I would like to feel more secure and "safe" in our relationship so I can stop feeling insecure and doubting him or his intentions. [more inside]
Outlook 13 has handled our email with little drama until last Friday. It started hanging up on the syncing steps in Send/Receive. Summary of my futile steps to remediate inside. [more inside]
On my primary admin account, I launch a fresh install of Kobo Desktop, click sign in, get this error message:
Network Error Oops, something happening to your internet connection. Please check your connection and try again.I tested with a fresh Mac user account: installed Kobo from disk image and first launch I'm already signed in. No problem communicating with the Kobo server. Can you tell me what might be lingering in my admin account preventing the connection? [more inside]
We moved into our house two years ago, and we thought this tree was an apple tree the whole time. It's ancient, and honestly thought it was kind of dying. Due to some (meteorological?) miracle, it has 4 whole pears on it, and seems to be much more full of foliage this year. How do I nurse this thing back into production? [more inside]
The person with the parking space next to mine in our apartment building's garage wants to buy a new car, that apparently will require me to back into my parking space instead of parking front-first, in order for me to be able to get out of my car. They have asked if this will be a problem for me. [more inside]
We have a serious rabbit problem in our backyard. Crows are also absolutely vicious to the pear trees. We also have another weird large brown furry animal that lurks around eating things as well, but I'm not quite sure what it is. Does anyone have tips on netting or other fairly affordable solutions we can buy to keep them out? [more inside]
I will be driving from California to my new home in Philadelphia in mid-August, taking up to 3 weeks. I also need to buy a new-used car and am considering buying a minivan with tinted back windows so I can sometimes just sleep in it discreetly. Pros/cons of this method? [more inside]
Hi Mefites, I’m going to Scotland with my SO fo a 10 days trip in September. We’re mainly interested in gorgeous landscapes and lonely places, wild animals, haunted castles and are open to hiking, cycling & kayaking. We would like to keep the driving up to 3 hours per day maximum. [more inside]
I started a new job at a company serving 50 clients. We have a "Master" Google sheet tracking data for all the clients, but we need to present each client with their personalized data in status reports that are formatted nicely for presentation. To accomplish this, each account manager takes data from the Master Google sheet and copies & pastes it into the corresponding formatted Word and Google docs to present to the clients. There's lots of data entry every day, thus all this copy/pasting and redundant data entry results in eating up an enormous amount of time across the organization. After some research, I've discovered the following programs that help automate such repetitive administrative tasks: Zapier, Google Apps Script, Ultradox, Applescript, IFTT Which one would best suit my needs? [more inside]
I have a new job that I am starting in a week. Just now, I have discovered that my new employer's Glassdoor rating has gone down significantly. A wave of one-star reviews from former emplyees were added quite recently, criticising the managememet for under-appreciating/compensating the technical staff and the CEO for mood issues and lack of concern for junior/non-management employees. Given this is a small company without much information on Glassdoor (headcount ~50), these reviews now consitute the majority of the reviews on that site. I feel quite concerned about these reviews. Should I bring them up during my first days at work? Or should I wait and observe?
My wife and I will be in Miami visiting family in early October. We want to spend around 6-7 days in central America/the caribbean, not in a resort. With special snowflakey details. [more inside]
I've just picked up out newest foster dog, Blossom, a little Jack Russell terrier type. The rescue who have had her for the past few months say she is very withdrawn and unmotivated. She spends almost all her time sleeping, has never wagged her tail while they had her. Does anyone have any suggestion for how best to look after her? [more inside]
Yes, the Internet Archive contains some (not all) web content from 1996 onwards and is useful. But searches for any archives containing the interesting and quite busy first five years of the web before that draw up a blank. Are there any such archives? If only specialist ones exist, are there any covering websites in the library sector, or UK academia?
I want to watch film, 'The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo' - the 2009 original 'Män Som Hatar', not the 2011 English language remake. I shall be watching with English subtitles. [film spoilers under the fold] [more inside]
My 82 y/o dad lives alone about 30 minutes away (with no traffic) and we sometimes cannot make it to see him physically on a regular basis. He's had health issues in the past which he won't mention on the phone but where if I had seen it in person (or video) we could have prevented an emergency hospital visit. [more inside]
I'm looking for music to put on my kindle to accompany the books I'm reading - right now it's Metafilter's own cstross's Laundry Files series. I'm looking for something wordless and probably classical to project an ambient sense of chilling dread. Help me fill out my sensory reading experience!
I have two gerbera daisy plants which live in pots outside my back door (UK). Both plants have started to show signs of fasciation on multiple stems. [more inside]
I want to buy a hard to find sports car from a Navy serviceman who is currently in NY but who has to report for duty in LA in about a week. He purchased it in VA two years ago and the Navy Fed Credit Union there has a lien on it. He won’t receive a title he can sign over to me until about two weeks after my bank pays the lien on the car and he’ll be in Gulf Coast LA then. [more inside]
I'm having a vertical sleeve gastrectomy on August 18th. I'm trying to navigate who I want to tell/need to tell about this. Did you have bariatric surgery? What was you personal matrix like of who you told/who you didn't tell? How did you go about it? [more inside]
This weekend I will be going with a group of friends to Florida SuperCon. Last year, I watched all the folks in cosplay and thought... "I wanna do that." I have an 1860s day dress, complete with corset, hoop skirt, and suffragette sash that I wore to the local Women's March. Is there a simple way I can modify what I have for a more geeky setting? [more inside]
During the night I experienced the most violent nausea and vomiting ever. Midday today, and my throat is still raw; otherwise ok. Here's what I ate ... [more inside]
UK-English speakers: I'm looking for a female equivalent of the word "fellow" (as in bloke or chap, not an academic holding a fellowship). Lass is, in my view, really only the opposite of lad. The only other thing I can think of is "gal" but that just doesn't feel right. What am I missing?
My wife and I are closing on our first house a week from now and we're looking for your best closet, pantry shelves, kitchen, garage, and basement storage hacks. [more inside]
I’d like to find a doctor who has the time to deal with complex, chronic, issues. It would be great if the doctor had the time to think about my health problems and make reasonable suggestions for the constellation of issues I’m dealing with. [more inside]
How to find someone who can effectively treat vaginal itching that is neither bacteria nor yeast per the tests? [more inside]
I want to harmonize when singing Super Trouper by ABBA (meaning sing the non-melody part.) How do I learn to do that? [more inside]
There is a couple in my immediate family who are in severe need of couples therapy. Neither I nor the couple are people who discuss emotions or share personal matters well, so bringing up something like this would be out of place. So how does this communicating thing even work here? [more inside]
I'm looking for free music composition software and associated tutorials. I want to get this song down. [more inside]
I'm starting outpatient detox this week in preparation for an partial hospital rehab program for alcohol. What do I need to know? What will help make this easier? (Not every night, but most nights, I'll drink two bottles of wine, so you know where I'm coming from.)
I have a wedding coming up (my first as an adult) and I don't know how much to spend for a wedding gift. My sister is the bride's best friend. I know the bride, we're friendly but we aren't friends (not even on Facebook). I'm just starting to establish my self in a career and most guides seem to say $75-100 which is a huge luxury amount for something I'd buy myself, and is almost/all of my fun money for an entire month but I'm not trying to be a cheapskate either. Everyone lives in the Midwest.
I know what i want in a rug but I don't have any of the terms. [more inside]
I'm interested in finding music that is mid-tempo to upbeat and with lyrics that are neutral-to-positive on Buddhist virtues (compassion, contemplation, generosity, etc.; and avoiding harsh words and discord, wishing harm to others, and craving/clinging for pleasure i.e. casual sex and intoxication). This would be preferably in album format, but a standout song or two would also be great. [more inside]
I have a baby. I have a dog. I have a cell phone. Hence, I have a million pictures on my cell phone. How do I get these onto my computer, (mostly)off of my phone, touched up, and keep them organized on an ongoing basis? [more inside]
I recently admired this necklace in a charming little shop. Alas, owning it is entirely out of the question due to cost, but I'd love to find something similar. Can you tell me what search terms to use?
My kitchen stove's grate is made up of four iron pieces that don't meet at the center, kind of like this. I've seen gizmos that join the four pieces, basically a greek cross with hooks on each end, so that a small receptacle, like an italian coffee maker, won't fall through. What is this gizmo called and/or where can I buy one?
I'm a dude with a lot of heterosexual experience and small but non-zero homosexual experience, and I keep seeing beautiful men who awaken feelings in me, but I'm not sure what to do about them. [more inside]
Can you identify this shrub in St Louis? Google has utterly failed me (turns out there are lots of purple flowers). [more inside]
My partner is looking for a way to get her US phone number to work in Canada for the next 4 months or so. Verizon is no help, unless she pays $5/day. We've considered call forwarding etc, but can't figure out the best option. Any experience with this?
This sewing pattern is listed on eBay for £2,500. The seller promises 'half off if you can tell me who this [the model] is'. So who the heck is it? [more inside]
I'm throwing a party in London, a city I'm familiar with but not intimately. One activity is a scavenger hunt, to be held around the area of Broadwick Street, Soho. I'm looking for five or six clever, inconspicuous places in that area where I can hide paper clues without them being instantly destroyed or discarded. Everyone participating is an able-bodied young man so the harder they are to reach, the better...
Fictional Injuries Filter (YANMD, and my arms are fine :) ). MetaFilterians who have broken limbs (or know others who have), tell me how it felt. [more inside]
I am slowly reclaiming a corner of my yard where a shed once stood and I keep digging up big hunks of chalky white stuff. Can you help me figure out what it could be? [more inside]
Obviously, if you play any kind of competitive multiplayer game in the US there's a good chance you'll run into obscene trash talk at the very least. More than once I've seen pro-nazi or pro-KKK usernames, whether sincere or just to offend people. The 10 year old calling people racial slurs is a stereotype. What I'm wondering is, on servers in other countries, especially non-English-language, are people somewhat more polite? Or is this just an Anglophone problem? I'm thinking more of shooters/MOBAs/etc. than MMOs, here.
I'm looking to understand the mathematics of how a Tilt a Whirl chair moves. When I was recently in Seaside, OR, I was watching the Tilt a Whirl that operates in the downtown. The entire machine is a disk-like platform that rotates on an angle. [more inside]
Would I be violating the LinkedIn TOS if I made a tumblr where I'd post screencaps of variously awful job postings from the site, and mocked them? I could blur out names of companies and/or contact info, and I wouldn't link back to the postings. [more inside]
I've been tasked with investigating pull-out sleeper sofas, which I know nothing about. If you own one and love it--if you have been a visitor in a place with a comfortable sofa bed--please give me specific style and/or brand recommendations. [more inside]
I've realized that I have internalized huge amount of shame from my family, abusers, and society. What are some good resources on learning to throw off the shame that isn't yours and if you've experienced it yourself what helped you get stronger in not internalizing that shame? [more inside]
I'm a US citizen who works abroad but has some financial ties to CA. Please recommend (or otherwise tell me how to find) a good tax attorney in San Francisco who I can consult about my tax liability in CA.
Where do I get a secure attachment style? [more inside]
I live in a cold place, my new car doesn't have seat heaters, and a nearby shop is doing a summer deal: $350 for both front seats, $250 for driver seat only. I never have passengers (in the past twelve months: 0) so the $250 option makes sense - but choosing this over the "both seats" option makes me feel like the meanest person alive. What would you do? [more inside]
I'm looking for non-threatening chapter books for my seven-year-old that are roughly at the level of "Ivy and Bean" or "The Kingdom of Wrenly" (or slightly more challenging) in language, but a lot bigger. Girl protagonists and fantasy adventures are a major plus. [more inside]
Forgot Gmail password, but still have access to the account. Can I find out what it is or change it? [more inside]
I went to El Rastro today and bought an antique weird little goblin/rabbit bottom metal box and an antique necklace. I have reverse google image searched and put in various text searches and found nothing on either of them. Any info you have on either one would be amazing! [more inside]
Looking for ideas to strengthen and sharpen my long-range shooting skills. A little snowflaky. [more inside]
I believe I am currently experiencing relationship burnout. I did not recover from a hard break up and started dating without being ready. [more inside]
What are the best online sites to shop for baby clothes and gear (swaddles, baby alarms, cloth diapers etc.)? Must be EU-based (so there is no import VAT) and free or cheap shipping. [more inside]
I developed a software program during my PhD. I've long since graduated, but it has users and I maintain it because it's my baby. But my PhD advisor keeps asking for more features and troubleshooting help, and I don't have the time anymore. Snowflakes insides. [more inside]
Was it mismatched expectations around communication, bad timing distance- and stress-wise, emotional abuse, or something else…? [more inside]
What kind of doctor do I need? I have what I believe is a hemangioma inside my mouth - what kind of doctor can look at this and make sure it is nothing to worry about? [more inside]
So we've just got a gas oven for the first time ever. It works in gas marks. I realise there are conversions available. Still, I'm finding it a faff to use the analog oven thermometer we have you park on an oven shelf. I have to bend down to read it and it's tricky to read through the glass. [more inside]
I had a friend pass away, and the funeral is later today. Is this an appropriate outfit for a funeral home? If not, please advise me on other options. [more inside]
I am a traditional painter (water-based) and would like to learn to do the same style in digital and animate paintings as gifs but I only have Photoshop and enough money to buy the lower-end Wacom Intuos Art tablet. [more inside]
I'm looking at flatshares and would like help figuring out how to tell which ones will work for me. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
What to do for a perfectionist who's just suffered an embarrassing, public setback? [more inside]
We are fairly far along in trying to purchase a solar system for our house and I am getting dragged down in details trying to compare options - one company offers the newest and fanciest panels with micro inverters (and a higher price tag), another offers to cover our entire roof with cheaper panels using a regular inverter + optimizer, a third is somewhere in between. How do I think about this? [more inside]
I got water in my ear - explain to me where it was stored and what happened to release it? [more inside]
Plan is to fly into Portland. What I'm really trying to figure out is the best (i.e fast yet still affordable) way to travel between these areas. [more inside]
I have an existing toilet in a small bathroom. The rough-in at the bolts is 14 inches. I'm having trouble finding toilets with the same rough-in size. Tell me what I need to know about replacing this toilet in the most straightforward way. [more inside]
I'm going to a cannabis festival in October at Harry Brown's Farm in Maine. It's my first one. What should I expect? [more inside]
How do we properly value a parking space we own for rental purposes? [more inside]
Help me help my wife get into making tufted textiles, with one of those handheld sewing machine guns. I have questions below the fold. [more inside]
Your must eats in Barcelona, San Sebastian, Seville, and Granada. Tell me them. Extra bonus points if you can recommend a good tour where we can see a Jamon Iberico (farm to table) production. [more inside]
walk me through your thought process when making medical decisions? Tell me about the factors you consider and how you prioritize them; how you make sure you receive complete and thorough advice from doctors; how you set and manage your expectations and goals. I have a broken collarbone that needs decidin' about, and I have no idea how to decide what to do! [more inside]
So we've got this shiny new bathroom. The walls are drywall painted with Miller satin-finish acrylic paint (or they will be after we finish painting them). We got a free unused showerhead extender, which I think is super-neat. But it means the showerhead is higher than the walls of the shower/tub. Is there some sort of material I should put on the walls to protect them from splashback? [more inside]
We want to build a composting toilet to meet all of the relevant requirements in our area (Portland, OR). The requirements are confusing, though, and state/local building officials tend to throw up their hands and say "I don't know!" when we ask questions about how to design it. Can anyone help clarify these several, sometimes conflicting, standards, or recommend a way to get good answers? [more inside]
I need some kind of writing framework to help sort through my personal issues. I have been working through the 12 steps, but I feel like I want to pursue something a little less higher power oriented. Are there similar things to the 12 steps that may help guide me along a path to working out some of my bullshit? Therapy is one thing, but I feel like stuff sticks better if I write.
Help me feel good about sending my kid to a Montessori school next month. [more inside]
Having been in software for 35 years now, I'm seeing changes in the industry that are negatively impacting it as a career choice for young people. What are the industry trends affecting workers? [more inside]
If I installed an inexpensive solar system without tying it into the grid, what are some useful things I could power with it? This guy set up a cheap 100w panel and used it to power a lamp and charge his computer. I'm looking for other similar ideas that would reduce my electric bill a bit without the big investment that full rooftop solar requires. [more inside]
I'm helping out on a political campaign for a progressive (Dem) candidate to my state's legislature. Election is in November. I offered to help start a Twitter account but am drawing a blank on how to "launch" said Twitter account. [more inside]
I'm looking for the most ridiculous misuses of medical jargon in film or television ever. There are surely loads of examples of horrific misapplications of real terminology - many bonus points shall be awarded for YouTube examples!
I'd like to drive somewhere north with my dog for about 3 days next week. I'm in Portland, Maine. [more inside]
I'm not far out from being a half-century. Recently, in discussions with peers of a similar age, we've discovered several commonalities. For example, most now have little problem in dropping time-consuming people who drain us from networks, or even in mid-conversation, or saying "no" to pressurised requests. On the negative side, nearly all have annoying or restrictive medical ailments of food, bowel or colon. None of this we were told would be a fact of deep-middle age, at school, or college, or in the media. What else - good and bad - is a commonality of most people around the age of 50?
I have forty pounds of organic bings (dark sweet cherries) that I need to deal with this weekend. We are pitting and freezing some-but need your best ideas for preserving the rest. [more inside]
I took a job I shouldn't have and now I'm so completely demoralized I am having a hard time getting it together to even start a new job search. Any tips? [more inside]
Because of a drunk driver totaling our perfectly functioning 2007 Honda Fit last weekend, we find ourselves in the market for another used car. Added wrinkle: I'm expecting a baby in early September and were thinking about maybe buying a somewhat more spacious car the next time round. [more inside]
I would like to get custom heat-transfer/heat-press vinyl T-shirts made in New York City this weekend, ideally with sparkly/glitter/metal flake lettering. Can you recommend a shop? [more inside]
One of my favourite selection of dvd extras has been A Night at the Movies, the selection of shorts and trailers which accompany the releases of 30s, 40s & 50s films on Warners and some MGM discs. I'd like to collect the lot and I remember seeing a definitive list of them at some time but can't find anything only other some brief mentions in discussion boards. Does anyone have a list?
Humankind has always believed in good and evil. It has believed in higher divine powers. Humankind has always had the need for love. These “human truths” and many more have formed the basis for most of the world’s greatest literature, film etc. What books (or websites) discuss these universal human truths across time and cultures?
I am looking for examples of memoirs which changed assumptions about particular industries or professions, or remoulded individual practitioners in the public conciousness. Not whistle-blowing, but books which exposed unusual facets of a particular job, or lifted the lid on unexpected excesses and humourous incidents. [more inside]
Is Dagwood Bumstead's hairdo meant to be a stylized representation of the sort of 1930s hairdo that F. Scott Fitzgerald sports in this picture, that one and this other photo? [more inside]
How do you keep your vintage-filled house smelling fresh? [more inside]
Planner nerds of the world, is there any way to use existing smart notebook/smart pen systems to create a paper planner that syncs with a digital one? (The existing systems seem to be designed for notetaking and sketching, but I'd like to be able to add calendar entries to Google Calendar, update an address book, keep lists, etc.) Bonus question: which of the existing smart notebooks allow you to save as vector files?
I have a good stereo setup (with phono preamp). Ideally I'd like a turntable that's pretty easy to set up and won't require a ton of tinkering. I'm not an audiophile or designer, but I'd like it to sound and look purty good.
I run/power walk/hike (or, I should say, I'm going to again) and need new shoes. I have no interest in running more than a 5k, but I like the convenient fitness aspect, that it's an easy way to get my heart rate up and that it makes me sweat and feel good. What kind of shoe do I need? [more inside]
I'm planning a trip to China and would like to see more of the countryside, starting from the east and moving by train to Xinjiang. Recommendations on rural pitstops along the way? [more inside]
I'd like to work with an instructor and choreographer to come up with a couple of dances for myself and a couple of friends, technical dance novices all around. We're looking to create one burlesque and one lively coordinated pop dance number, and get both the choreography and dance instruction to make it happen. We would love to work with one person who could help with all of it if we hit it off, though happy to work with different artists if those styles don't come in the same person. They should be excited to work with a bunch of middle aged queer women to put together something sexy and fun but slightly weird or askew. Halp, please! Do you know of anyone?
I am raising a boy, and I am on a quest for ideas to help him become a good apologizer as he grows up. Details inside... [more inside]
Our small town will be undertaking a 10th-year update of its comprehensive plan. What are some best practices, or strategies, for such a review, and particularly for gathering public input? Can you recommend a town or small city that has done this particularly well, given results? "Town hall" type meetings have not worked well in the past.
I live in California; my 79-year-old mother lives in an elderly community in Silver Spring, Maryland in a 2-bedroom apartment. How do I find someone to help her manage her life - take care of paperwork, track medical appointments, etc.? [more inside]
I had a couple of last-minute RSVPs to a dinner party tomorrow, bringing the total up to a terrifying ten people. 2 of us are vegan, the rest are a mix of vegetarians and omnivores, but the menu I had planned is all vegan. Is this going to be enough food? And if it's not, what else can I serve that won't expand the budget and prep time too much? [more inside]
10-ish years ago I had a pair of Edifier speakers that I picked up for $40 off a showroom floor, and they were perfect for me. They were probably an old model version of this. I'm looking at a couple of other Edifier models as replacements but don't know if I'm missing other options. [more inside]
I am an idiot and accidentally sent my Amazon packages (some of which are pretty big) to an old address. My old landlord is understandably annoyed and doesn't want to deal with it. He's an old man, not a professional landlord in the business-y sense of the word. It is far away from where I live, and I don't know anyone in the area who can get them for me. [more inside]
I have a classic problem, which is that I'm productive as you could like all morning during work hours... just not at the right things. [more inside]
I love the Pulp-O-Mizer, a site that lets you make your own spoofy magazine covers-- also "Break Your Own News!" What other generate-your-own-fake-graphics sites would I enjoy? Thanks!
We will be attending a wedding in Concord NH in October. The wedding is on a Sunday night, and we're considering heading up there on Saturday morning to make a weekend of it. Is Concord fun? [more inside]
I need help conceptualizing what happens to my mind when I'm PMSing from a holistic/ feminist /empowering perspective and am looking for traditional rituals, self care options, and/or mythological explanations that "value the divine feminine energy" instead of the misogynist assumption that "women are hormonal". I'm looking for spiritual/ psychological healing options rather than help with the physical cramps and headaches and etc. [more inside]
As I'm typing my draft in Scrivener, I want to keep track of my sources on the fly. I want to just be able to link a spot in the draft to a source, and I'm shocked there doesn't seem to be an easy way to do this. I'd also like to be able to toggle between viewing citations and not viewing them, if I just want a clean view of my draft. Why is this so hard? [more inside]
I pointed out my boyfriend's lack of weight loss progress and regretted it immediately. He looked very hurt, and though he is not the type to acknowledge it or want to talk about it, I know that I wounded him deeply. I realize that by bringing it up so insensitively, I may have irreparably damaged the trust between us and maybe now there is no way to talk to him about it constructively without hurting him more. What do I do? [more inside]
I posted a while back about having had severe plantar fasciitis for over two years. (Link to that post below). My doctor and I agree that I've tried everything short of surgery, shockwave, and PCR (plasma replacement). I'm hoping to not have the surgery, but I'm trying to figure out how I can pay for other treatments. Difficulty level: low income meets Medicare. [more inside]
I accepted an avast update last night. Now the computer does not recognise my logon profile. I can use the guest account, but not my regular account. What should I do? [more inside]
In the summer I like to wear alpargatas/espadrilles, but the Tom's canvas alpargatas I bought in late-May have already begun to fall apart. Any recommendations for sturdy, well-constructed espadrilles/alpargatas that won't fall apart? (note: not boat shoes) [more inside]
Can you recommend to me uptempo songs with a heavy bass I can listen to while doing cardio? Ideally the song should stay uptempo the whole way through - many I've thought would work well actually slow down during parts of the song. [more inside]
I've just been given some old pocket watches that belonged to my grandmother. I don't want to sell them and don't care what they're worth (probably very little), but I want more information. What's a good place to look? [more inside]
I recovered a bunch of files from a failed hard drive but it appears a chunk of them are corrupted (i.e. photos are messed up, files won't open, etc). There are all kinds: photos, music files, documents, spreadsheets . . . Is there a tool to scan through all of these and detect which ones are good and which ones aren't without manually opening each one? I'm on a Windows 10 computer. I just want to stop encountering random files that I can't open nor fix. [more inside]
I recently moved back to Seattle after 7 years away. I need to get a WA license and change my car's registration information from Virginia to Washington. However, establishing proof of residency here by the guidelines of the WA DOL is proving to be a headache. They don't appear to accept things like my lease agreement and the documents they do accept are things I don't have (I don't have any utility bills because my landlord is paying for that, my employer, The UW, doesn't offer physical paystubs or checks anymore (it's 2017, after all), etc.). [more inside] [more inside]
I collect other people's old photographs. The vast majority of which that I have access to are from antique stores, junk shops, and sometimes estate sales, where I only see photographs from around 1965 or earlier. Where are all of the more recent photographs, and how can I get some of them?
All-around smart person and good writer with varied employment history (magazine editorial, freelance journalism, nonfiction author, adjunct writing teaching, fiction MFA) seeks to understand the career options from here. [more inside]
I live in Boston and have never owned a car. I use Lyft/Zipcar/Turo/Enterprise a few times a month, and otherwise stick to public transit. But I'm very tempted by the Chevy Volt advertised through the Drive Green with Mass Energy program -- $115 to lease, no money down, or $16,500 to buy. Is this as good an idea as it seems? Snowflakes and fretting inside ... [more inside]
Is there existing research or journalism answering the (disputed) question of the authorship of "The Final Inspection"? [more inside]
My housemate had some serious health problems this year and then her long term boyfriend broke up with her. She's going off the rails, causing drama, being manipulative and clinging to a burdensome victim narrative without taking any responsibility for her own actions. How do I deal with this? Snowflakes below. [more inside]
On the spur of the moment, I have been tasked to research the purchase of a fountain pen that will be a gift by a large group of people to someone on a special occasion. The person in question will be using the pen, so it needs to be known for its function in addition to any other qualities pens of this price range may possess. The price range would need to be anywhere from 300-600 (cost matters, it can't be cheap even if a cheaper pen is better, hey, I know).
One of my very best friends suddenly looks pregnant. [more inside]
The song "Radio Bomb" by the Matthew Good Band makes a reference to an organization called the RLI. The song is about pirate radio operators and the lyric in question is The RLI and the FCC will be driving around in their little undercover RVs. The context is (probably) 1990s Canada. What the heck is the RLI? [more inside]
I realised that my partner does nothing for my ego. Which leads to the conclusion that I need a partner to do something for my ego. So. Is this a relationship problem or my problem? [more inside]
I'm trying to find a bank that has locations in Georgia, SC (negotiable), IN, WI, and IL, other than Wells Fargo. Is there an easy way to figure this out? [more inside]
I'm driving from CDG to slightly before Beaune and have some time to kill. Any suggestions for places that can accommodate jet-laggy 9-12 year olds and their grown ups? We gravitate toward open spaces, mild activity (lazy swimming, kayaking, etc.), local shops/groceries, small towns, cafés, maybe a nap spot, and the unusual. [more inside]
I'm looking at replacing an ageing iMac with a new Macbook Pro plus external monitor. I've also got a work-issue Surface Pro 4 and would like to be able to use the external monitor for that as well. The main question is, what monitor should I be looking at? [more inside]
I am looking for suggestions for comfortable, attractive floor seating solutions that I can fold or roll up and put away when not using them. [more inside]
A question for professional translators: (when) is it acceptable to make up a word in the language into which you're translating? Major spoilers for Prince Lestat and the Realms of Atlantis inside! [more inside]
Boyfriend and I have been together for just under a year and lately a difference in love languages is becoming a bone of contention. I want to resolve this going forward. [more inside]
How do you differentiate normal fears about the future from debilitating anxiety? How do you weigh intellectual capability against an emotional handicap? How do you determine what the ideal next step should be, when you're not sure if aiming high will actually give you the lifestyle you want or need? [more inside]
I really like the song Late Nights & Heartbreak sampled on Jay-Zs new album and was surprised to find out singer Hannah Williams is contemporary and British. [more inside]
This Galaxy magazine cover from 1952 is credited to "Camerage," which according to the issue's editorial is an experimental photographic technique. I can't find any other references to Camerage online, and as far as I can tell it was only ever used on one other cover. I'm wondering if it's something incredibly obscure, or if it's just another word for a well-known photographic technique (like how "Rayograph" is another word for photogram). [more inside]
Is it worth replacing the engine in my 2008 jeep liberty? [more inside]
I'm driving from Baltimore to southern Vermont. First time driving the northeast coast and all I hear about are tolls! Oddly, I have not really dealt with tolls in any of the places I've lived. If anyone has made a similar trip, how much money should I take with me for a round trip in tolls? Can I pay in credit card or just cash? Just quarters?? [more inside]
tl;dr I am my father's only daughter and he molested and tried to rape me when I was a teenager. IANAP but I think it is safe to say my father has fucked up my head and by extension my life and I want to confront him. [more inside]
I recently started wearing t-shirts with stuff on them, but I'm having problems finding ones that fit. Do you know any shops on Etsy or the like who carry graphic shirts for tall women? [more inside]
This is my first pregnancy and I've gone back and forth a lot on this question. I don't have any complications and my doctor says I can try to a totally natural birth although obviously have to be prepared for anything just depending how things go. I'd love to hear your experiences with this...I feel like I just keep going back and forth on all the statistics and advice! [more inside]
I'm looking for images that, as you zoom in/out, tell a story or change in an interesting way. Some examples are fractal sets and "Powers of Ten", but I'd like to find something with a bit more plot to it -- or that's at least more down-to-earth. New ideas are also welcome!
Are there any legal and affordable options for broadcasting a regular, podcast-style program over the Internet that includes music from the big record companies? A podcast can't legally use copyrighted material without paying standard licensing fees or otherwise negotiating usage, but are there ways to publish podcast-like content that incorporates music on the up-and-up? [more inside]
Asking for a friend... My friend has a very small shop (like a mall kiosk) that sells one category of items (think shoes or phone cases). He is looking for a system to manage inventory, employee time cards, sales, accept credit cards payments, and generate reports. An online service is preferred over a standalone application, if it guarantees data backups. Somehthing that runs on a tablet or a laptop is preferred over specialized equipment. Thanks.
I've slept poorly the last three nights and it's caught up with me. I've got a lot to do yet today because I'm traveling tomorrow, and I have to get a reasonable amount of sleep because I have to drive 8 hours. [more inside]
Hosting a group of thirty adult friends from all over the country - many of whom have never met each other before - at a three day lake house weekend. What are some fun things people can do at the house that will be fun and forge new friendships w/o feeling weird and forced? [more inside]
We're renting a car in England soon and need a booster seat for the rental car. Google is surprisingly not turning up tons of options, and what I'm really looking for anyway are personal experiences with companies. We could pick up the seat at Heathrow if necessary -- and we won't be staying in central London, but in Kent. We really only need it for rides to/from the airport and for one longish drive on one of the days of our trip.
My 2014 MacBook Pro becomes essentially unusable for work tasks in normal summer temperatures. What can I do? [more inside]
Need suggestions on how do I manage living in a place I don't particularly enjoy until it's time to move. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
How do I feed a family of four, including little picky eaters, over the course of a 10 day car camping trip -- without spending hours upon hours cooking and cleaning every day? [more inside]
My friend has I-797 paperwork confirming an extension but doesn't have a visa stamp yet. He has a question, and he'd like to get some recommendations for an immigration attorney. Right now he's using yelp to search. [more inside]
When I have to speak in Spanish I immediately feel a weight come down on me that drains my energy and hangs over me like a cloud. [more inside]
In the 90s, I attended a state university in Texas. Well, kind of attended. Mostly I traveled, forgot to drop classes by the drop date, and left a trail of GPA destruction behind me. There are maybe 45 good credit hours in core classes sprinkled among the ruins. 25 years and many relocations later I'd like to go back and finish my degree, but how? [more inside]
I have a bunch of vegetables and some other things. What can I make for dinner tonight? [more inside]
Can universal inclinometers (type Isomed) be used in the place of goniometers to measure knee flexion/extension?
In a few weeks I'll be entering grad school for a Speech-Language Pathology program, and will need a new laptop to replace my dearly departed ThinkPad. I would also like to be able to play a few games - Skyrim and Witcher 3 in particular, and perhaps The Elder Scrolls Online. Would a budget gaming laptop be too much machine, not enough, or just right? [more inside]
I'm trying to remember the name of a YA sci-fi book series I never finished as a kid. It involved three teenagers (2 boys, 1 girl), a conspiracy, and an alien invasion (or extra-dimensional invasion). I'm pretty sure I read this in the late 90s/early 00s. I'd really like to find it again so I can finally finish it. [more inside]
I'm working on a factual comic book project which requires a scene depicting one of our characters testifying to the US Supreme Court in 1940. My problem is, I have no idea what this would have looked like. I've searched online, but can't find anything to help me. [more inside]
I want to ask a friend out but a couple of things are making me hesitate; would like to get some hive mind input on whether I should hold off or if I am simply overthinking as usual. [more inside]
I like female vocal music with close harmonies such as the Andrews sisters, Wilson Phillips, and Abba. Who else will I like? Any and all genres, any and all time periods. Thank you!
Asking for a friend: I am trying to find a couples therapist in San Luis Obispo, Ca. I know that might be hard so I'm extending my search to include recommended therapists generally in both San Luis and Santa Barbara in the hope that someone you had a good experience in individual therapy with might be able to give me a referral for a couples therapist locally. [more inside]
For reasons, I want to get nail extensions for my short bendy nails. I have tiny nailbeds, if that matters -- every single manicurist ever likes to comment on them. I'd like to have short squoval nails, probably without fancy patterns or anything inlaid -- part of the point is to prevent some habitual fidgeting. But I've never done this before, so I need some guidance... [more inside]
I have these digitized Super 8 movies that I need to break out into the digital equivalent of their original reels. [more inside]
I've read and watched Misery recently and I'm fascinated by the depiction of secluded, extremely rural living, in that case the mountains of Colorado. I would love to read some first-hand accounts of life in similar places in the USA, fiction or non-fiction. [more inside]
I have a few weeks off of work and free of morning obligations, so I decided to try a sleep experiment I read about online. The results are... terrifying. [more inside]
I want to find some cotton bras which have room for inserts. Most cotton bras are unlined, and if I'm in a formal situation and choosing to suffer through the rare miserable discomfort of a bra to begin with, I'd like to have full coverage, and want to be able to slip in those thin silicone things which solve the problem well. [more inside]
Lately I've noticed that strange/unwanted videos pop up in the Recommended section of my youtube feed, and sometimes my subscriptions as well. How can I stop them from showing up? [more inside]
I just had a haircut - from a hairdresser who'd received very good reviews, the director of the hair salon. (I hadn't had a haircut for about six months beforehand.) My hair is still full of split ends, though, even just after this haircut with a hairdresser who should be objectively pretty good. Some are pretty far up, maybe at shoulder height. I think I treat my hair pretty well - no heat, wash roughly every third day. So... what should I do: a) to get rid of the split ends I currently have. Can I somehow preserve the length while getting rid of split ends? Is this a thing a hairdresser can do for me - presumably sit there for ages cutting individual hairs?? Or do I just have to chop it all off? (I have heard of a thing called a "split-ender" - I don't know if this is any good in practice.) b) especially if I do have to chop it all off and start again (but even if not!) how do I avoid getting so many split ends?
I'm supposed to go to the dermatologist next week to have a couple of suspicious spots on my skin looked at. I'm not emotionally prepared to have the full-body naked exam. Can I just nope out of it? If so, how? [more inside]
How can this hopelessly unathletic person ever become the next Ninja Warrior - the sort that conquers obstacle courses? [more inside]
Just to check before I resign myself to struggling through more conventional life plans: are there actually any real, obtainable socially isolating jobs with a living wage anymore? What are they, and how do you obtain them? [more inside]
I'm looking for date ideas in Las Vegas, please. [more inside]
I'm thinking of doing invisalign. I haven't decided for sure, but it's something I think about because my top front teeth are whacky and it bugs me. I'm wondering if a trained dentist is ok for this, or if I should see an orthodontist. I'd prefer to go to my dentist -- because she's right down the street, and so the multiple visits would be easier. Thoughts?
I'd like to know why latitude and longitude are parallels and meridians and why they converge at the north pole. Maybe because degree grid cells break up into nice squares near the equator and mid-latitudes, but then fall apart at the poles (i.e., what time is it there? It seems totally arbitrary). Was this planned somehow? Did Eratosthenes or Hipparchus have a justification for the fact that meridians to go N-S and the parallels E-W, when it could just as easily have been the reverse? [more inside]
I've seen this doc probably around 1998 on Dutch television. It's likely an American or British production as I recall it being in english. [more inside]
What factors should I consider as I decide whether or not to get a housemate? If I do want to get a housemate, how should I go about doing that? And, what's reasonable to ask of potential tenants? [more inside]
As in the Title, how can I quit this practice? Is turning into a problem and I need help. [more inside]
How should I handle frequent anxiety about my loved ones dying? [more inside]
Here's a 1min 30sec video on Flickr. Note that the video was taken sometime in late summer 2016, in Cambridge, MA, right outside of William James Hall.
I recently leveled up and purchased a house. I love it! It's an old funky craftsman, with an adorable loft above the master bedroom. Unfortunately, the loft is not big enough to stand in, so it's not suitable as an office. Right now I just have a rug in it, and sometimes I use it as a meditation space. I'd like to avoid using it only for storage because it's so cute. If you had a little bonus space like this, how would you use it? Here are some pictures of it. I want to hear all of your ideas, even if they are related to specific thoughts or hobbies.
I'm in my early 30s so for the past few years it has been a baby explosion among my friends and extended family. Being a crocheter I have enjoyed making baby things for everyone. Now though, the toddlers have outgrown most wearables and I would like to make bigger versions of favorite hats and sweaters and the like, but I've got it in my head to ask the kids themselves for favorite color requests. How young does this typically start up? [more inside]
I have accepted a job working 10 hour shifts at a warehouse, standing or walking the whole time. Please help me prepare! [more inside]
My dad carried a Zippo knock off lighter with him in WWII. It's out of wick, and I'd like to get a replacement wick, but I'm running into problems. [more inside]
My mom's graveside service is tomorrow at 10am, and I'm nauseous as hell from stress. I know it's all in my head. How do I just pause this feeling for a while? [more inside]
I loved Rocky. I want more movies that will impact me similarly. I am not looking for sports movies or triumphant underdog movies specifically. [more inside]
My SO and I have been in a long term relationship for 4 years that has produced a child, a mortgage, a dog, and life long plans. We are not married and I think we should be. Help. [more inside]
This episode seems to have disappeared. It's not on the Adult Swim site, it's not on xfinity streaming. It is available for purchase on Amazon, but I don't really want to spend an extra $3 on something I should already have access to. Anyone know what's up with this? I can't find any reference to it being removed from (even the official!) streaming sites. Assume I know about torrenting but don't wish to run afoul of my ISP or deal with sleazing past their ICE.
I am getting news articles on my google news page that are, frankly, homophobic and transphobic. I can't see a way to block these news sources from my Google News page, is there any way to do that? These are not "right of center but mainstream" news sources like WSJ. They're more like Brietbart and Christian Broadcasting News. I suppose it's possible that because I have "religion" as a header for one of my interest areas, they're feeding me what I consider to be extreme religious "news". I did search Askme and it seems like answers to blocking include "no", "don't do that" and many of them are old anyway. As a separate question, I tried finding an email to write to google on their site and even though they have a page titled "contact us" there are no contact emails or forms on that page. Is there a help email for google at all?
We bought a home on a small lot with great views. There may be a builder considering a home that would obstruct a significant part of that view. YANML Do I have any legal process through which I can protect either that view or the value lost if it is obstructed? [more inside]
I'm starting a new job in a few days, and it occurs to me that all the machines in the office will likely be Windows 10. I've never touched Windows 10. Since I've been hired as a senior document processor, this could be a bit problematic. What can I do to learn this OS in 5 days or less? [more inside]
Can you help me find a dress exactly like this that's available in my size (US 16)? I'm looking for knee length or midi, button down, cotton or linen, seersucker or white or chambray, with straps wide enough that I can wear a normal bra.
I'm in the process of assembling a wizard costume I'll be wearing at a con in a month. I don't particularly care for the traditional pointy cap, though. MeFi, please give me your best ideas for non-traditional, non-pointy wizard hats.
I'm in Canada, and keep up with view points similar to my own by reading here, liberal UK press, watching the same stuff everyone does on Youtube, reading What the fuck just happened today, etc. So I'm familiar with what people with viewpoints similar to our own think. I also keep up with Trump's base supporters views, because watching Fox or reading Breitbart is funnier than shit. [more inside]
We, two Americans, will be taking a group trip to Israel this fall, our first time overseas. When we buy souvenir-type items, what do you experienced travelers recommend we use to pay for them: U.S. dollars, American credit card, Israeli shekels, or something else? My completely uninformed preference is credit card. The places we visit probably won't be very far off the beaten tourist path.
The tree is located in the front yard of my sister's new home. We have no clue what it could be [more inside]
I've created an animated GIF in Photoshop for Mac OS X that was set to loop forever. If I view it in Quick Look it loops forever. If I send it to someone in Messages it loop forever, both for me and the recipient. If I send the GIF in an email (Mail app or Gmail web mail) it plays once and doesn't loop. If I open the GIF in a browser (Safari or Chrome) it plays once and doesn't loop. Any way to fix this? [more inside]
Husband and I are planning a short trip to Europe later this year. We've always gotten travel insurance for international travel, but now it's more complicated and more important because husband had a heart attack last year. He's doing great now, but I think that puts him into pre-existing-land when it comes to travel health insurance. We're both in the US, covered under Blue Cross Blue Shield. Our plan definitely does not include health care beyond the US, so we'll need something else. [more inside]
My three year old desperately wants a pet, specifically a kitten. Before we moved to our new house, we had talked about getting a pet. Now, my husband says he doesn't want a cat because he is concerned that our house will smell like cat. [more inside]
This seems like it should be simple to find, but I'm coming up empty handed so far. I'm looking for an indoor cycling or spinning app that i can use on my iPhone or iPad. The catch is that I need to be able to download the classes for use. The bike I have access to is not near a WiFi connection. I tried the Peloton free trial but I practically used up all my data in one go, so that's not going to work. Has anyone been through this and have some leads for me? Thanks!
Was there a (Japanese?) film that included a young man being transformed into an ordinary chair? [more inside]
Can someone refuse work overtime when they're employer isn't paying overtime? [more inside]
We will have to start packing kid-lunches for school this year, and I might as well get on the bandwagon too. Kid doesn't have a lunchbox at all, and mine is old, gross, and utterly unfashionable. Difficulty level: I detest lunchboxes that require you to put the food in sideways. [more inside]
I started reading about The Yellow Kid and some of his stories and wanted to know who else fit the bill for great Confidence Men of Chicago.
So I'm in the market for a new mattress, and my online research is starting to make my head spin. I discovered I'm less interested in looking at pictures of different kinds of foam and more interested in informal polling of strangers. I should say that I prefer a softer bed and am about 110 pounds. I don't have an issue with sleeping "hot," and it will only be me sleeping in the bed. Would love to hear what you sleep on and how much you love it!
I'm really terrible at improvising decor stuff, so I'm hoping to work off an image. But I can't seem to find any images of dining rooms that match the mood and functionality I want mine to have. Can you help? [more inside]
I've got one of these little Moleskine Messages note-book mailers that I'd like to send from USA to germany. But the woman at the post office said "Nope, we can't send it because the stamps are in the wrong spot." [more inside]
I'm going to a work BBQ tomorrow and I need to bring a dish but... I'll be traveling with a giant suitcase all day. So it needs to be something that packs well. [more inside]
I have a friend from Europe who is fascinated with Native American history and culture. I'd like to get them a gift for less than $100. They speak/read English, but not perfectly, so a text-heavy book might not be the best.
A year or so ago, I saw a movie that was a psychological mystery/thriller in the vein of Circle, Cube, or Exam, or at least that's how I think of it. Needless to say, I can't remember the title of the movie, but I can remember a few details, which are inside. (Possible spoilers, if you care about that sort of thing.) [more inside]
Why isn't Cartoon Network promoting the new episodes of Adventure Time? [more inside]
I'm looking for an app that gives me workouts that take into consideration the constraints of the day (time, intensity, energy), instead of a regular long-term plan? [more inside]
I need to buy (or rent) 14" marquee letters, ideally locally in Seattle, from somewhere with a generous return policy. Alternatively, if I could have just the specific letters I need custom made that would work, too. [more inside]
Does anyone have a good system for discounting their art / creative work for family and friends? Something like "free repair services if I incur no materials cost," "30% off for large pieces," "free customization," or "free services with purchase of large pieces"? Some further discussion below, for context. [more inside]
I am participating the in the KTA Trail Challenge 25k hike in September. This is my first hike over 10 miles, so I have a few questions about shoe and clothing choices. [more inside]
OneDrive for Business recently (finally!) implemented shared folder desktop sync - previously you could only sync to your desktop if the folders were created by you but not if they were shared to you. I can't find instructions for setup anywhere despite detailed searching including limiting results to the last month. Any ideas? [more inside]
I've seen a few articles recently about how they found Robert Gould Shaw's sword in the attic of some distant relatives and I'm wondering if it's possible to find out exactly who these relatives were since when I was in seventh grade we watched Glory and a kid in my class distantly related to Shaw (last name: Shaw) brought in what he and his family said was Robert Gould Shaw's sword. Were they mistaken? [more inside]
I am traveling to the middle of Missouri and need to work remotely for a week along with my partner. I know I could set up a hotspot on my phone but I'm worried about what 40+ hours of connectivity would mean for my phone bill. I also know that only Verizon works where I will be. What options do I have for setting up temporary access to wifi for two?
I've found myself in the position of having a large number of ideas for works of art which (1) I know will be well received / sell well but (2) must be constructed in media (painting, for example) in which I have no training. [more inside]
We haven't had a family vacation in years because it got harder to afford, fit it into the summer working schedules of 2 adults and 2 teens, and varied interests. Now summer is getting closer to the end (due to going back to college dates) and we still haven't planned anything. More inside. [more inside]
I need protest songs. [more inside]
Otherwise Amazing Boyfriend [OAB] is extremely passive and avoids conflict to the point of his own detriment. Unfortunately this passivity also leads him to lie to get out of trouble, lie to please others, lie to avoid conflict, etc. This has caused huge problems in our relationship. He's improved a lot since then, but I'm not so sure how to move forward. [more inside]
I've been using video tutorials to help me learn songs on guitar. I'm seeking an app that I can use on ipad or iphone that will allow me to import a video file and make a selection with A-B markers, for instance, and have the video play between them. I would also like to have the option to slow the video down if I choose. I know there are apps that allow this with audio but I'm hitting a wall finding such an app for video Do you know of such an app?
Where can I buy some fresh, delicious gooseberries in London ... today only? I'm about to fly out of the U.K. and have a massive craving to eat some before I leave -- we don't get them in California (although feel free to correct me on that). [more inside]
Should I find a piece land to buy that I could move to decades from now, in case of severe climate change effects? If so, where? How about Fairbanks, Alaska? [more inside]
YANML or advocate, but I hope someone has been in a similar position. [more inside]
Google search is inconcluisve, so I turn to you, dear hivemind. I need to convert a large number of DOC files to DOCX. I do not have Microsoft Office, but I do have Open Office (which doesn't let you save as DOCX, afaik). I have found single conversion tools online, but a single document takes 5 mins to convert. I am not confident enough to run any sort of command prompt. What solutions exist that I cannot find?
I can't tell if once I clock out I'm happy or just sleepwalking. [more inside]
Hi! I'm thinking of starting an interview podcast but I have varied interests and I'll be talking to people from a wide variety of backgrounds. I like names like 'The Joe Rogan Experience', "Skeptic Tank' and 'The Church of What's Happening Now' coz they don't really have a focus and could be about anything (and they are) but I'm struggling to come up with something similar. Any help? Thanks in advance!
For reasons that aren't important to this question, we quit making payments on our upside down mortgage early this year, with the intention of negotiating a short sale or deed in lieu with the mortgage company. It's late July and we are still in the house, and haven't even heard from the mortgage company since April, when they rejected our application for relief because the title is "cloudy." [more inside]
If I wasn't experiencing it myself, I wouldn't believe my current reality. I have never been treated with such vindictiveness as I am by my current supervisor. It is hard to detail everything, but to sum up: he is retaliating against me because I filed a complaint against him and now I am having to get representation to fight. The rub though is, that my issue might not fall under one of the protected EEO categories and I am finding that, at least in a federal government setting, that may be somewhat prohibitive in my legal fight. [more inside]
I'm 29, 30 next year. Female, POC. I've had dreams of becoming a television writer since my teens, and, right now, I'm in LA working in the industry at an executive level (but I work on the business/marketing side of things, not the creative). Been here almost 4 years. I'm super-super adjacent to what I *want* to do (write). But I'm almost too good at the adjacent position, and I'm scared that I'll never get to pursue the real dream. [more inside]
Is it likely that workout clothes that look and feel just like swimsuit material would be visibly damaged in a pool? [more inside]
I feel like my workplace people skills are suboptimal at best, and I would love some input about how to best deal with colleagues/seniors/people reporting to me. Caveat: workplace culture does not respond well to changes, and places an enormous premium on seniority, meaning : authority cannot be challenged. Details below the jump. [more inside]
Hi. I am curious to find some literary magazines to subscribe to. Whether it is North American, European, South American, etc (but in English if provided). I am trying to find some works on short stories, poetry, art, horror, thriller, victorian-ish writing, creative essays, humour, nature, creative non-fiction, political satire, etc. The scope of genre is eclectic and wide-ranging. I am very keen on learning about cultures and cultural standpoints on political and social ideas that might differ from western thought -- or the opposite. What are some must subscribed literary magazines? * I have a 12 month subscription to the New England Review from Middlebury College.
My mom got one bump like this and a few hours later has more. PICS They're all over here body meaning one here or there on her torso, arms, legs. One pic shows an unirritated/undisturbed bump, the other is irritated because when it was just one she thought it was a pimple and tried to pop it. [more inside]
Hello, I'm looking for a digital content software that will allow a closed set of contributors post displayable files in a variety of files formats, such as jpeg, PDF, and other common types. Ideally they would be able to tag these posts and comment on them, as well as link them hierarchically to each other. Honestly, it sounds like a private Facebook group might be good for this, but I'm looking for something with a bit more possibility for innovation and that isn't Facebook. [more inside]
I discovered Simeon ten Holt's Canto Ostinato recently. I love the versions with a single piano and with four pianos. Today I found out it's been performed with many other instruments. What are some good recordings?
I am learning piano for the purpose of playing standards and singing them (at the same time!) and having a swell time with it though I'm no Art Tatum. I'm looking for a certain kind of song. [more inside]
No laughter? Nothing!...what is happening? I don't feel I've truly laughed in years. I've noticed that my reactions are pretty monotone. Recently I am self aware that I also have a hard or awkward time talking to people (and people I've known for years). I used to be the funny one, could think of comebacks instantly but now I feel like I can't come up with anything. People find things funny in their normal life...my work friends laugh at stuff and all I can muster is a fake laugh. What is wrong with me? I don't feel antisocial but I'm wondering if I'm some kind of weirdo?
Our long-time receptionist is leaving us this Friday. We're having an office party, but I thought it might also be nice to have something on her desk that day, so I'm investigating availabilities and costs to see whether it seems worthwhile on a somewhat limited budget. She's well-known for maintaining the office supply of random treats, which naturally suggests some kind of treat basket for her... [more inside]
I want to spend a lot of money (for me, anyway) on a dress I may be unreasonably obsessed with. Give me the go-ahead or talk me down? Plus size dress question inside. [more inside]
Assuming all trials of a new drug show efficacy and side effects well within FDA requirements. All else being equal, do larger trials shorten time-to-approval?
I have a couple of vague ideas for a new tattoo. I have an artist picked out, but I think I need to go through a couple of iterations with someone who has a solid grasp of tattoo design before I take the idea to him. Have any of you used online design services or freelancers for this kind of thing? Other ideas?
I've been a Dreamhost user since 2002. In the last few years, They've moved me over to virtual servers and my sites (about 10 of them, all pretty low-traffic in the realm of 3-8k visits/site/month) are constantly getting out-of-memory errors. Their tech support has not been helpful and I'm feeling like it's time to move. [more inside]
How far can (or should) I beef up this old PC to play some games? [more inside]
Back around the days of Empire Strikes Back and Return of the Jedi, I remember seeing a depiction of Han Solo, frozen in carbonite, as a tv dinner (like Swanson). It was either in Mad, Cracked or Crazy (my three favorite magazines at the time). I have scoured the internet, delved through the Mad, Cracked and Crazy archives, but have not been able to find this image. Did it even exist? Hope me, Metafilter, you're my only help.
As part of a training opportunity, I get 5 minutes to teach a small group of people how to "do a thing" -- something like how to walk the dog with a yo-yo, or how to crack eggs without breaking the yolk, or how to make animal shadows with your hands. [more inside]
As a kid in the late '90s or early '00s, I remember seeing a Subaru commercial where a power line or telephone pole sparks and falls, and a Subaru narrowly avoids hitting the falling pole. The scene freezes much like in the Discover "Freeze It" commercial, and a narrator talks about Subaru's all-wheel-drive. I vividly remember him grabbing a piece of popcorn that the children in the back seat are eating and saying, "mmm...tasty" or something. The scene un-freezes and the car drives off. Can anyone find this commercial?
I'm looking for sf/fantasy works (stories, movies/TV, novels, etc.) that take place on a distant-future Earth, and where the characters' encounters with items and/or architecture from 'our' time (give or take a couple decades) as artifacts and ruins figure prominently in the plot. [more inside]
My husband and I are transforming our vintage Everlite Greenhouse into a biergarten, and can't find a replacement for the clips that hold the corrugated fiberglass panels to the outside. This is what they look like. Does anyone know what these are called or how we could find new ones? We found the replacement clips to hold the glass in, but are stumped on how to find these and would like to avoid trying to make them by hand.
I had tenants that moved out of my guest cottage (~150-200 sqft) with proper 30 days notice. However, it is a tiny studio, and - among other large items - they left behind a couch that takes up 25-33% of the living area (i.e. the area that is not the kitchen or bathroom) of the space. [more inside]
What movie or show is this gag from? Someone suggests a guy ask a woman to go to the Keaton Film Festival with him. Afterward, the characters are talking and he says "I thought they meant Michael Keaton." She says, "I thought they meant Diane." What is this from?
(Asking on behalf of a friend.) In the process of applying for a visa to remain in the US, I was sent a list of documents to mail back. I have lost the list. I'm supposed to mail the documents by the end of this month (!). Short of magically finding the list, what are my options? Would USCIS be able to send me another copy of the list on short notice?
I'm working on a podcast that will support an undergraduate-level university course, available online, intended to give students a comprehensive overview of Canadian law. What do I call it? [more inside]
Gah.. Why can't I find this plant in my books or online. It looks like a loosestife, but the leaves are serrated. Please help. Pic on Twi1tter
I've been spending a lot of time teaching older adults computer literacy skills. I've worked in retirement and nursing homes for years, and I'm very comfortable with older adults, and I love teaching, training and coaching. In order to further this service at work, I'm interested in creating a website that I can use a resource for my students, but I'm also interested in possibly expanding this as a future personal business. Please hope me name it! [more inside]
I'm a classical musician and will be ending a tour in Ghent, Belgium in mid-September 2017. A few of us have decided that we will need a short holiday break for a few days so are thinking we might go together directly from there. Where should we go? [more inside]
I am having issues with a Lightroom plug-in that allows direct uploads to a Wordpress blog called WP/LR sync. (https://wordpress.org/plugins/wplr-sync/) I am getting this error when I attempt an upload: “connection to your website works but got an error from WP. Please check your PHP logs on server, your WP/LR logs on your computer and the FAQ. Also make sure the plug in is enabled on WP side.” [more inside]
Parents of MeFi, my husband and I are about to purchase tickets from NYC to CDG. We will be traveling with a 9-month-old. Is it worth it to buy her a plane seat or should we take her as a lap child? Details inside, your experience requested! [more inside]
I understand you can use website cards on Twitter without putting dollars toward it in an ad spend. How do you do this?
Hey there, I'm looking for films and books that accurately portray people's (ideally women's) responses to a huge betrayal. Not the Hollywood sort where there's some light anger, and then they're over it, but heavy responses to betrayal, when the person you love/trust/believe the most betrays you, gaslights you, leaves you, abuses you, etc. Thanks.
I asked this question before, but have surrendered to the idea that I need some kind of database: "I want to make an online directory that allows me to simply post a large directory of listings featuring a photo, name, and short description (akin to how old year books looked)." [more inside]
I'm catching up with a couple of friends in London on Wednesday evening. (The friends are NZers living in Australia / UK) Its been literally years since I've lived / been there, so what are your ideas for low key eating / drinking places? Probably more west/central than east.
I think I want to move to the mountains. But, where? How? [more inside]
I am running my first RPG, the Dungeons and Dragons starter set, and am doing my best to give my NPCs unique voices. I stink at it, and am already mixing up who had which voice. I decided to try to associate a pop culture voice with each character. I chose Sean Connery for an old, honorable knight. Can you help me find more inspiration? [more inside]
I am looking for TV programs or movies where a race or races of people try to discover who their creator is. [more inside]
What is the best email client on the Mac that has seamless support for GMail and Google Calendar? [more inside]
What is -normal- in terms of providing/receiving emotional support in your relationships? How do you identify situations where it is healthier to self-soothe and self-process rather than seeking out support, reassurance, and validation from another person? How do you maintain good relationships with others when their emotional needs are higher or lower than you can reasonably provide? [more inside]
If all goes according to plan, I will be approved for medical leave due to depression & anxiety today. My therapist has encouraged me to take time away from work, and my physician has (reluctantly) signed off on it. However, my therapist has not been clear on how I can best use my time for recovery. [more inside]
My wife and I have recently become aware that our 13 year old may be immersed in YouTube fandom of personalities who espouse some values and claims that we find disturbing and hurtful. He's a wonderful and caring kid, but I'm embarrassed to say he watches a certain amount of yt videos about which I know almost nothing, other than that they are 'video game humorous commentary'. I'm aware that there is some alt-right overlap into gamer culture, especially when gamer culture is criticized for being exclusionary of marginalized groups. The event that pushed me from clueless dad to 'what the?' Was when he posted a pic and tribute to an alt-right 'independent journalist' on a certain photo-sharing service. This woman's recents video topics seem to be anti-immigrant, defense of men's rights and 'women's lib and sexual liberation were a bad idea'. [more inside]
I finally have a computer/tech person willing to show up at my apartment (yay!) I have a 2010 Dell All in One/Windows 7 and a 2016 MS Surface Pro 4 laptop. Need help choosing replacement keyboard for the Dell, new keyboard for laptop. Must have by this Friday night. Possible? [more inside]
Been rereading his catalog lately - what other authors or books might I enjoy? It does not need to be memoirs as I enjoy fiction and other genres also.
I don't understand how this relationship started off promising and then went so bad [more inside]
This morning, on two occasions, a few minutes in duration a few minutes apart I had an agonizing stabbing pain in the inside of my right knee. It felt like the worst contraction I had before actually going into active labor: took my breath away, broke a sweat, eyes watered. Very stingy. Knees still vaguely tender, but I haven't had the stabbing pain again and it's been a good six hours since. Should I book an appointment anyway? Snowflakes below the fold, as per protocol... [more inside]
Traveling to Switzerland for meetings next week and have an extra day to do some hiking before coming home. As I'm currently training for Kilimanjaro, I would like to try to do a good 5-10 hour high altitude climb. Can anyone suggest a good day trip I can take solo? [more inside]
What are some hacks, books, podcasts, apps etc. that will help me get my e-mail addiction under control? [more inside]
I'm looking for, for lack of a better description, free form tower defence games. Gem Craft Labyrinth was my go to in this genre but I've pretty well maxed it out now and I'm looking for a replacement. Preferably free to play and for windows or android. [more inside]
Which canned products are edible, and taste good, without being heated? I've had cold tuna and that's it. (Fruit doesn't count, of course.) Mixed veggies? Chili with meat? Soup?
We just got back from a trip to the Middle East, where we really enjoyed munching on dried carob pods as a snack. BUT WE CANNOT FIND THEM HERE AT HOME. Where, oh where, can we find some dried carob pods in Canada?
I'll be visiting Stockholm, Malmö, and Copenhagen shortly and I'm looking for restaurant/cafe/etc. recommendations. Basically, where should I eat during my travels? [more inside]
My parents live a 3.5 hour flight away. My mother seems to be developing dementia (difficulty finding finding words, or completing complex tasks), which I diagnose as primary progressive aphasia She has also broken 3 bones in the past 6 months. My father seems to be helping, but bottom line, I don't trust either of them to be aggressive. I have medical power of attorney. How do I work the system? [more inside]
I'm writing this on behalf of my awesome husband. He graduated with a degree in Economics and right away went to work for a bank. He worked his way up and is now a Veep. All in all, he's been there for eighteen years. He's ready to step back from the rat race, but needs some help brainstorming what he can do. [more inside]
Received a delivery of Garden of Life's "Mood+" probiotics. They were delivered into my mailbox at 2pm (when I was not at home) and removed from my inbox when I arrived home at about 5:40pm. [more inside]
I'd like your thoughts on/experiences with gut microbiome testing. More inside. [more inside]
It's been over a year since my last attempt to see London, which didn't work out after all. So now I have another trip planned for Manchester in the fall, and I'm definitely, definitely going to see London: I fly into Heathrow and take a train out of Euston station later that day. I'll ask about a plan for the day later on, when the trip is closer. First, though, I need to make sure I have mobile coverage for the week. Help? [more inside]
I saw this man in the Hermitage in Saint Petersburg, Russia a few days ago. Can you identify the medals he is wearing? I put a big photo of him on Cloudup so you can see the medals close up - Here's the link https://cloudup.com/cM8tnTOUkqa/f [more inside]
I need to travel from Corvallis to Salem. I've found a route that fits my needs, but I can't be late (I need to be there for a wedding). I've never used Greyhound: is there any likelihood that I might be two hours late?
I want graceful mouse cursor movements in my screencast. How can I achieve this? [more inside]
Five rounds of IVF with my own eggs have been a bust, so now it's time to move onto donor eggs. I've got the information on the legal, medical and financial aspects, but would like advice on coping with the emotional implications. [more inside]
On the hunt for some non-secular, underground writings and/or punk or rock n' roll lyrics that would be stellar for a wedding reading. Long or short. Poem-like or not. [more inside]
Been seeing my therapist a long time. I don't want to quit, but there are times when I am out of things to say. [more inside]
I was diagnosed with mild anemia and a pretty severe iron deficiency at the beginning of June. It's been seven weeks on supplements and I'm still exhausted. I'm seeing my PCP tomorrow. Help me know what to say to her/what to ask in order to feel better. [more inside]
I have an old (approaching the age of majority) portable 12V solar panel. It seems too nice to throw out or donate, but I can think of exactly 0 uses for a tiny 12V solar system. [more inside]
I'm writing a short story loosely based on my years in summer stock theatre, and the characters are in a community production of Brigadoon. There's a joke about how each of the three protagonists has been cast: "[Girl 1] got to dance, [Girl 2] got a solo, and I got...a line." I know that the ingenue lead Jean has a dance scene, but would there be any group songs where a minor character would get to sing a line or two as a solo?
Yet again, I've taken something from my refrigerator/freezer in the morning, kept it in my purse all day, and find it room-temperature and questionable in the afternoon. This one is a Kale Blazer Naked Juice, expiration date Aug 17 2017, still sealed/never opened. I took it out of the refrigerator around 6 hours ago. Can I drink it? [more inside]
Now that our kid is getting big enough to ride in a bike seat, I realized I now need to figure out the bike situation. I need to get a new bike regardless to accommodate a rear seat - my current bikes have high top tubes and I can't mount them without kicking my leg over the back. The big question is should I get a longtail cargo bike or a regular bike with a mixte/step-through frame? This is for commuting around Berkeley/Oakland. [more inside]
There's about 8 choices of models (sensitive, gum, interdental, diamond, etc) from Sonicare. Does it really matter? Does it even have to be from Sonicare, or are cheaper generics just as good? Any generic in particular? [more inside]
It's impossible to walk around the central part of downtown Chicago (and no doubt many other downtowns) without running into clipboard-bearing people who want to talk passersby into giving to their nonprofit organizations. I give to charity, but never like this. I hate this form of fundraising, so I will never support it by giving money through it, or allow myself to be delayed more than a few seconds in one of these encounters. However, the sidewalk fundraisers are, you know, people who are just doing their job and/or really care about the causes they work for, and I'd rather make their efforts less sucky for them rather than more so, within those parameters. So what's the best approach? I'd love to hear from people who have actually done sidewalk fundraising.
So, recently, I moved to Australia from the US. Because the landlord rejected three separate sets of people I had lined up to sublease the place furnished, I was unable to move all my furniture out on time. I had another month left on the lease, so I gave a friend the keys to move my stuff out. The friend... took their time, and finally got the furniture out two weeks late. Fine. But. The landlord decided they're still charging me rent, because... [more inside]
I'm looking to buy my first new-to-me car that isn't a beater! It's quite exciting, but also overwhelming. There's a lot of information out there that it can feel a bit like drinking from the firehose, but I believe I've narrowed it down to a few different makes and models. I was hoping to get a gut check on both those selections as well as some of the prices that I'm seeing here in the Bay Area. [more inside]
I have a new apartment that smells kind of gross: dirty and stale, in a nondescript way. It's not urine or food or an animal in the walls; nothing so specific. It just smells grungy, like it hasn't been cleaned in forever. But I've cleaned, I've had cleaners in, they've washed the walls, etc. The walls were painted before we moved in--I checked. The building had a HVAC guy come to all the apartments in the building recently, and that made a difference, but the smell didn't go away completely. I'm wondering if the HVAC guy wasn't thorough enough and maybe I should hire someone. Could duct cleaning fix the smell? [more inside]
We have a 1920s house with knob-and-tube wiring and plaster walls. We're looking at getting the whole thing re-wired and brought up to code. What should we think about? If you've done this, what was your experience? [more inside]
I'm about to order a Zojirushi travel mug for the commute. They have models with nonstick "polyflon" teflon-type interior coating, and models with a "Slicksteel" electropolished steel interior. Is there any risk to using the nonstick coating? Will it leech or flake off over time (on a timeline of multiple years), and is there any danger from that? If anyone has tried both, are the benefits of nonstick worth it?
We will be transiting through Paris on Saturday, July 29th, and I'm looking for a roster of ideas for things to do that day. The most important guideline is that they be low-key. [more inside]
My fantastic niece will be turning 6 next month. She is OBSESSED with creepy-crawlies of all kinds but especially bugs. I covet your recommendations of age-appropriate books that she will love!
I've been trying to get an all-Google productivity system to work for a while now, but I keep running into roadblocks. Calendar works great, but I just cannot get a todo system to work. Help me iron this out? [more inside]
I'm new to the FAM (fertility awareness method) and I'm looking for an app to help track my chart to help conceive. I've read "Taking Charge of Your Fertility" and while they have an app (OvaGraph), it's pretty dated and is not really user friendly.* I read a study on fertility apps and it looks like the one I downloaded (Ovia) isn't high on their list. I'm not even sure if this is a sound study, but I want the best app I can get. Is Ovia a good choice? If not, what would you recommend? [more inside]
I drive a 2007 town and country limited (3.8). I've been getting under the hood myself with the help of youtube to check smaller things when my mechanic friends aren't able to help. We recently noticed that the fans don't come on unless hooked directly to the battery. The air has no refrigerant due to a leak that I'm also hoping to fix soon. I've changed the coolant temp sensor (no change). Changed the fuse (no change). Checked relay. This is where I'm stuck. I need a guide to wiring and don't know where to look or what's good for my situation. [more inside]
How can I recover my long-lost Flickr account? [more inside]
I'm flying into Newark on Porter Airline, arriving around noon. Our hotel is on Wall St, close to the Wall street subway station. I'm seeing a lot of stories about terrible commuter delays, including on trains between Jersey and Manhattan. Should we spend the extra money for a van between the airport and hotel? [more inside]
I need a tax preparer in/near Oakland, CA who can do QUICK turnaround on years of back unfixed taxes. [more inside]
Hello Fellow Mefites -- I'm looking for advice re. renewing a green card. I have a U.S. Permanent Resident Card that's Category E16 -- "Priority worker -- alien with extraordinary ability." It expires 09/08/18. My partner's card will expire 1/23/19, as she came to the U.S. a few months later. [more inside]
I was drafted to make some punch for a friend's baby shower in a few weeks. Apparently, pregnant friend told organizer that I make good punch... I don't think I've ever made punch in my entire life. So here we are. What I would like is a punch base that guests could add either ginger ale/seltzer OR champagne to. (Optional booze is enthusiastically approved of by organizers). Internet searches are not giving me what I want. Do you have any good recipes for this set-up? [more inside]
I need to maintain a team calendar for work that can send invites to both Outlook and iCal users. As per people's suggestions, I've done Google Calendar. But - Outlook users aren't receiving my invitations. They only see edits TO my invitations. Why? [more inside]
I'm staying downtown Austin this week and looking for some low-key places to hang out. I love that there are unique bars on every blocks, but I'm finding them a little overwhelming. Do you have any recommendations for a quiet bar or coffee shop in the area that one can kick back and watch the world go by without having to deal with loud music or college kids stumbling down Rainy street?
DaughterR (US citizen, age 25+) will be moving to Australia (Melbourne) soon-ish (after a year in Taipei where she had employer coverage). She has a "working holiday" Australian visa and a place to live. What is the best way for her to get health insurance? No pre-existing conditions.
I'm looking for movies with a Black hero and a white sidekick. [more inside]
I'm looking for some examples of stunning product photography. [more inside]
Basically take a wheel (flat or with a groove down the middle) and glue two of the same gear or sprocket to either side, so that the gears line up with each other and the teeth stick out completely past the wheel. Or take a really thick gear and cut a grove around the middle of the circumference, deeper than the teeth. What would this thing be called?
Hubby and I will be moving to the Chicago area in about a year for hubby's job. We have no idea where to move to and need help! [more inside]
I need to schedule a full truckload freight shipment of 45 pallets of items to be picked up a week from now and hauled about 750 miles. Carrier will have to load them into truck and unload into a storage unit as I do not have a liftgate/forklift/dock. They need to be picked up at a certain time/day. How do I find somebody to do this? [more inside]
Which book(s) should I bring on a three-week solo hike? [more inside]
I've noticed for some time that if I press firmly on just about any of my lower front ribs, it's likely to be sore and tender. It doesn't make sense that this would be from an injury, it's just a constant state for that section. [more inside]
At 16 this teenager was taken to the police station, they referred him to the teen court. Teen completed the program and got a letter indicating so. Does this event counts as an arrest? When completing a form should he answer he has been arrested? Does he have a record? If the answer is yes, what kind of record?
Driving the NYS I90 from Mass to Buffalo. Have done so 1,000 times. Help me and my family not pass out from the monotony. [more inside]
I'm about to embark on a 16 day hike which starts at 3000m and goes up to 5300m. I have a stash of diamox from my doctor, but now my more experienced friend has discouraged me from taking it unless I start to experience AMS. My doctor recommends taking it preventatively, but says I can also wait until I have symptoms. Experiences and advice? (You are not my doctor.) [more inside]
I am trying to run some CAT5 cabling in my house. I really came unstuck last week because I ordered some CAT6 cable thinking it would be a good idea to over-engineer. Unfortunately the CAT6 was (duuh!) too thick for my staple gun and everytime I tried to staple the cable to the wall I put a staple through the cable itself. [more inside]
I'm a man in his early 20s who's just finished up a year's worth of weight training with a personal trainer. I want to put the money towards something completely different now, so I'm looking to go solo at the gym. But I still really want the structure having a trainer provided me: in particular, I really want to know what I'm going to do before I walk into the gym. My trainer was very good in some respects, but I don't have much of a clue how to put a routine together. Can you help? [more inside]
I have an idea for a large piece of sculpture, but I don't have any of the skills necessary to execute it. What avenues should I try in looking for an artist?
We are going to be in Duluth for a long weekend in August. We have no idea what to do while we are there! Help, please! [more inside]
Sometime between 2004-2008, the Frick Art Museum in Pittsburgh had a room with a bunch of books on historical houses... [more inside]
I will be in Brazil for the next few weeks and would like to watch HBO Now. I know I can not use my US HBO Go or Now accounts here, but according to HBO's website and several news articles, they launched a version of HBO Now here last year. No one I know here knows how to order or access this and my Portuguese is not strong. Is there a way to subscribe to this legitimately? [more inside]
I'm going to a barbecue, and I expect to be the only vegan there. When I google vegan potlucks, most of the entrees I find seem like they're best served warm. I want to bring something that will be good at room temperature and (a) will give me something to eat, (b) will taste good to omnivores, and (c) is not super labor intensive. Also, I really don't want to draw attention to my diet. Further picky details below. [more inside]
Micro McGee, 6, has a new obsession: London. I sympathize because I share this obsession, but it didn't get so intense for me until I was a teenager! Help me come up with classic children's novels/books, adult books that he could comprehend, TV shows, documentaries, and other media (websites, apps) about London that he would enjoy. [more inside]
I want to try my hand at baking bread. I'm a pretty good cook, and a decent cake/brownie/cookie baker if given a good recipe, but I've never made bread before. What are your go to recipes, books or websites? [more inside]
My partner and I are looking for resources that can help us systematically address two things: 1) identifying and discussing potential relationship conflicts and 2) planning for legal/financial issues like retirement savings, wills, etc. [more inside]
I used to love Soap & Glory Glow Lotion but can't seem to find it anywhere anymore. What's a similar product that will give me glowy skin without a fake tan effect? [more inside]
I am looking for a site that will let me search a whole site (any site) and tell me which top 10-15 keywords or phrases have been used most frequently. Almost like a tag-cloud. [more inside]
My husband and I will be in New York at the end of August and we’re having trouble deciding where to stay. Where should we stay that’s not Times Square/midtown? [more inside]
Just as the title says, I'm tired of being a minority. [more inside]
"John" has been one of my best friends since high school. Following the loss of his job a couple of years ago and the ensuing financial collapse that contributed to the end of his long-term relationship, he has moved in with his elderly parent and is drinking heavily. Our last phone conversation a few nights ago ended with his acknowledgment that he is ready to address his alcohol use. Given that I am halfway across the country and don't really have any personal experience on this score, what are the best ways I can help/support him? [more inside]
I just bought and assembled a pedestal fan. It seems to run fine: the blade spins fast and it makes a healthy noise. There's only one problem: it doesn't seem to move any air. If I hold a sheet of paper flat on my hands in front of it, the paper is unmoved, even on the High setting; I feel no cooling holding my face an inch from it. However, if I point the fan away from me, I get a slight cooling effect. What is wrong? [more inside]
The right mouse button on my almost 6-year-old Lenovo just quit working. The part is NLA except as salvaged/used. Should I be shopping for a new computer? [more inside]
I would like to hear Mefite advice on best arranging paper recipes to easily be able to locate them. [more inside]
I have to tell my client/employer tomorrow that I'm still not finished with what turns out to be an unexpectedly huge project. I need scripts. I'm kind of angry with them for dumping this on me, but I want to keep working for them if possible. [more inside]
Plain white t-shirts (paired with more statement-y shorts, pants, and shoes) have become my uniform. I have so far been well-served by uniqlo's offering, but if I'm going to be wearing the same shirt 3-5 days per week I think I can do better than basically an undershirt. Additional requirement: ethically produced, and not more than $30 each. Help?
I'm looking for a way to make notes directly on a webpage with the below requirements. This seems like it should be easier to do, but I can't seem to find anything that works the way I'd like. Details inside. [more inside]
We're reaching the end of our tenancy and after a house inspection, the landlord has threatened to serve us with a breach of contract notice unless we remove some mould he found on the bathtub caulking. I've tried using normal cleaning products to no avail, and am wondering what are your best tips / recommendations for mould-removing products? Would I need to re-caulk (?) the bathtub? Bonus points for cheap and UK-accessible options! Pictures under the fold. [more inside]
I'm thinking of buying a new printer, but we print so rarely that ink cartridges invariably dry out between printings, leaving our cost per page in the $5-10 range. Is there a way to have access to a printer occasionally without having to buy a new ink cartridge for every print job? Requirements inside. [more inside]
I picked a scab on my face. It won't go away. It NEEDS to go away - by Saturday. Hope? [more inside]
I'm an actor who sometimes forgets my lines. I'm trying to approach things from a kind of biohacking standpoint rather than, say, CBT...because that's just where I'm at these days. Is there a way to better understand this problem and fix it? [more inside]
There are several web sites that use an algorithm to issue music recommendations. What I'm looking for, though, is a site where humans offer suggestions to other humans. Any suggestions?
I'm in the process of becoming a school governor for a primary school in the UK. School has some problems. I've attended some meetings and had discussions but have not submitted my application yet. I'm concerned about the amount of time and stress being a governor could involve. Talking to governors at other schools, I've had different views of what they do (eg whether they carry out monitoring visits). If you have experience of being a school governor in the UK, what has it involved for you? What has gone well and what less well? [more inside]
My wife is interested in figuring out ways to extend her pleasure and not orgasm so easily. To her, an orgasm is a wave of energy that tires her out for the rest of the day. When we started it was more frequent and she was able to hold out for 5-7 minutes but within six months she got to around 2 minutes and now it's very fast. Her libido has come back since she came off the pill but we need to be careful as she is now actively ovulating and we have two kids in college. Can you suggest anything we might try that she can experiment with on her own and with me?
Due to circumstances beyond my control, I have come quite close to finishing my master's degree but will not be able to do so before going on the job market. How do I accurately represent this to potential employers? (This is an MSc, and the jobs I am interested in are within my field of research.) [more inside]
Just visited Havana for the first time and fell head over heels in love with the city. I want to read a great, rich, well-written book about the history of the city, and I feel confident that there's one out there based on what little I learned while I was there. Any suggestions? Thanks in advance!
The device: a combination salt shaker and pepper grinder. The salt goes in the top portion. I have not been able to figure out how to access the pepper portion. [more inside]
Looking for a puzzly iPhone game for the random spare minute I spend sitting on transit, or waiting in restaurants. Difficulty level: Should not end. [more inside]
Child will be 4 soon. Multiple queries, weeks apart, for what he'd like for his birthday: bug killer? [more inside]
Until now, my newish (7 months) relationship has been excellent in almost every way. But with growing familiarity, some cracks have begun to show in the way we deal with conflict. I raise what I think is a relatively small problem, he shuts down, I keep talking, fight ensues. [more inside]
A friend has a photo of relative from 1901, and both the birth and photo date (printed in the photo presumably from writing on the negative) are in the format dd/mm.yy - A stroke between day and month, and a dot between month and year. I couldn't find anything about that forat with some cursory googling. Has anybody encountered this format before or know anything about it?
Plastic bags stuck in car windows stranded on PA interstate? [more inside]
Getting ready for Burning Man and trying to think outside the box. I want to make some unexpected costumes / accessories. Maybe a bra made out of two little strainers attached to one another, for instance. What is the thing that's a spoon ring, but for your *whole body?* I'm a ladyperson with a slim athletic build.
I've figured out that the area where I can add a lot of value to a retail business is in demand planning and optimal inventory replenishment strategies. Do you think this business model that I have in my head could work? Please see below the fold for more details. [more inside]
My favorite shampoo, Pantene Weekly Deep Cleanse, has been discontinued. This shampoo let me get away with washing my grease-prone hair only once every 2-3 days, but now I'm down to my last bottle and I have to find something else that works. I think I've tried Neutrogena and didn't like it. Whole Foods store brand shampoo for oily hair is okay but not great. What's a good alternative clarifying shampoo, preferably at drugstore prices?
Are there any differences between different brands of caffeine pills? Are they all the same, and the price differences just reflect marketing and packaging? Should I be scared of the ones that are packaged in a hyper-masculine way? I'm interested in users' experiences as well as pharma-geniuses'. [more inside]
Last night I heard a loud THUNK like a projectile being released from a spring clip, and the lights went out on one of the circuits of the house. [more inside]
I want to stop a FB friend from seeing when I'm active on Facebook -- without blocking her or 'unfriending' her. It's not enough to block her from seeing specific posts: she seems to be aware when I log on, even without posting or commenting, and it's that that I want to stop. [more inside]
You are not my insurance company. House was burglarized last night. They got my laptop, which I paid about $900 for about 6 months ago. [more inside]
Whatever you want to call them, I have over a hundred. How can I tasetfully display my collection? [more inside]
I found a Celestron Astro 114 at a thrift for $40. How can I tell if it's in good condition? [more inside]
In a few days I'll be going to Lofoten (Norway) to meet family there for the first time. I'm in France, and have a garden full of herbs – basil, mint, oregano, rosemary, and lavender. I would like to cut a bunch of these herbs and fly them up along with me. What would be the best way to do so? I'll only be in Lofoten 24 hours after cutting them. [more inside]
About to start applying for my first real job in the tech sector. Seeking advice about the long term career benefits of starting at a startup vs. a more established company. [more inside]
I'm getting married next year, and my mom is looking for nice clothes for the wedding and surrounding parties. She had a favorite place in our hometown that had clothes that fit her style - flowy, but tailored, in multiple shades - but they shut down. She's also looking for shoes that work with her feet - she has wide feet and a high arch, and the only shoes she's found that reliably fit are Birkenstocks. I was wondering if anyone here knew of retailers that would sell clothes like what she likes, or cute shoes that would work with her feet.
I am writing a fanfic that's a performance review for a fictional character. Since it's supposed to be an official document, I want it to look something like the sample documents here, with boxes and bolded text and centered text and the like. I would like to be able to post it on multiple sites (dreamwidth, Archive of Our Own, and livejournal, with a minimum of futzing around with formatting. [more inside]
An adult and three teenagers have four hours to drive in, enjoy Kensington Market and its attractions, and be on our way. I can't find much information here less than five years old, so please help me ensure my basic info is solid. [more inside]
We're going on a last minute trip to warm waters in a few weeks and I'm trying to figure out a snorkel/dive mask option for my very farsighted (> +8 in both eyes, plus bifocals) 4.5 year old. Any experience in navigating this in a way that isn't too spendy? [more inside]
What are some great resources on the history, development, and/or cultural significance of calligraphy? Can be from any culture or alphabet, but I'm not really looking for practical step-by-step how-to guides so much as the broader social/religious/historical context of the art. "Brushes were originally constructed out of X because Y" rather than "Pick this brush up at your local art store." [more inside]
I woke up this morning to 45 bars, each 200 grams, of Cadbury's Dairy Milk chocolate left on my doorstep. I'm pretty sure they have been dumpster-dived by an eccentric 80+ year old inventor (friend of housemate) from a Co-operative supermarket store a few miles away. They look okay, and are dated use by the 9th of June 2017, about five weeks ago. Housemate is currently far away, not due back, and off the grid. Good to eat?
I want to maintain a personal website using a www.example.co.uk domain which I have current registered at 123-Reg.co.uk. Currently my site is hosted on my Dropbox and I have purchased a subscription for having third and second-level domains on Kissr. I want users visiting www.example.co.uk to be sent to the site hosted on Dropbox but with the destination URL (currently, http://example.kissr.com) being masked, so it just displays www.example.co.uk. Apparently I can used a 302 redirect which frames and masks the destination URL, but it is not a permanent solution and Google will not index it properly. What is the right way to go about achieving what I want?
My husband has just received a job offer and we will be moving to Sydney (from SE Queensland) some time in December. [more inside]
How do I start a book blog? Who are some notable book bloggers? What can I write about? What topics can I blog about regularly? [more inside]
What should I call it? A friend of mine wants to set up a facebook page reviewing cake (eating not baking!) and is looking for a snappy memorable title.
If someone from the far-future who was used to magically clean skin had to start cleaning himself for the first time, what would he try and what mistakes would he make? I'm looking for unusual methods of keeping clean, drawbacks thereof, and unusual mistakes to make with the usual methods. [more inside]
Wanting to see/photograph wide open land full of sagebrush and dry grasses, but want to keep driving to a minimum! I know central and Eastern Washington are COVERED in native sagebrush, but I was curious if anyone knew regions closer to Seattle than that. Thanks!
How does a depressive with a physical handicap and a stutter, but sound mind, and massive debt make decently-sized small chunks of money quickly. I currently have $45 in my bank account, am on $400 in SSI, nearly all of which is already gone this month. How do I stay afloat ( and not rely on my parents, whom I do live with, so no threat to basic livelihood here, thankfully) while I work through the long and arduous process of finding employment through a vocational rehab agency and the more typical hiring process? I've been out of school ( BS in Psychology) for five years now. I'm done being (relatively) poor and need money now. Hope me? [more inside]
Which workout supplement ingredients are best supported by actual science? [more inside]
I am clinically depressed and need to complete several goals that are self-motivated, when that is one thing I lack. Can you recommend a site or service that would match me with an accountability partner? [more inside]
Philly to Hawaii and back. How? [more inside]
What band did the song with the lyrics: I'm going to the hospital / I've made up my mind / I'm making up with my maker / ?
Now that baby is on solids and needs to learn how to eat healthy food, I find myself looking at my own diet and realizing it is lacking. I need to cook better for myself too, and ideally in a way so that he's eating what I eat. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
Someone turned the wrong dial on an electric stove top. An empty old orange Cousances 22 (like a Creuset) enamel pot was sitting on the high burner for a while, maybe 20-30 min. The interior was previously a beige enamel with a darkened bottom, but now the center bottom is pale white with a chalky texture. Could this be still safe to cook with? If not, can we fix this? [more inside]
I'd like to have a TV in the main room of my apartment but I don't want a big black rectangle staring at me all day long so I'd like to tuck it away... under my coffee table! I have a plan, but I'm not sure it'll work. Details inside... [more inside]
This morning, I threw on Crest White strips for thirty minutes. By this afternoon, it felt like my teeth were literally burning (more accurately it feels like little "zaps") every time I breath in air or drink water. What I can I buy/do to mitigate the sensitivity as soon as possible? [more inside]
I was loosely aware that Seattle's mayoral election was very silly, but today I got my ballot and counted twenty one candidates in the primary. Help me learn about them without overloading? [more inside]
Asking for my SO I want to get photos which were taken with an iPad copied to a external drive in JPG format so that those photos can be used without reference to anything Apple makes or supplies. Is this possible ? [more inside]
Hope me remember a movie i watched once as a kid... a plane has landed out of time some how (cant remember the exact details) and the horizon is being munched up (the survivors can hear it), the sound when they looked at the horizon was very memorable.... they just make it out in time.... [more inside]
Banjo at least as much as guitar... [more inside]
I currently live in a single family home in Virginia and have a decade or two left on a mortgage. In a few weeks I'll be moving to Minnesota for a job change. We'll be living in an apartment there. Do I need to inform the bank, loan administrator, or insurance provider of my move (beyond giving them a new address to send statements to)? [more inside]
(Warning, mention of dead people) [more inside]
I don't know what to do other than despair.... Relationship gone majority wrong if it can be called that?? [more inside]
Need advice on getting the odor and stains, for a large amount of urine and poopy in clothing and bedding. [more inside]
I need help with my OKCupid profile, and I trust the Hive to give it to me straight (uh... advice, that is. Nothing else! We're just friends!). Snowflakes inside, but basically: I'm 35, I'm socially-awkward, and I probably have a zesty little dash of autism spectrum disorder. [more inside]
I have some photo equipment and relatively new photo manuals / books in storage in the US (Boston area) that I'd like to sell. Does anyone know of good photography websites / forums to sell them on (other than craigslist and ebay)? Thank you [more inside]
Our friends, a family of with a young adult male, a young adult female, and their parents, got a new dog 4 months ago. Gracie is a 3 1/2 year old german shepard who was found roaming the streets with another dog 6 months prior to them adopting her, and had been being fostered by a friend of family member. Gracie has acclimated to everyone in the family except the adult male of whom she remains extremely cautious. Is there anything they can do to help her get over her fear of this gentle, calm, dog-loving man? [more inside]
I was traveling in Eastern Europe recently and saw this plant. My late Mother had several of these plants when I was growing up. I have not seen this kind of plant since I was a kid. I'd love to know what they are called so I can perhaps get one for my own home. This is the plant. I know nothing about plants -- for all I know this could be common plant!
Last Saturday I saw Gorillaz in Chicago. In the encore set they played 'Clint Eastwood' with special guest Del The Funky Homosapien. Collectively, the crowd lost their minds when he came out. How much did Del cost? [more inside]
Hey all, I recently picked up a Mintbox Mini in part to cut the cord from Windows, and in part as a teaching tool for Linux. I use the OS daily at work, but not too extensively. We use Vi to edit input files, and have to get around using the command line to gather info for troubleshooting. But I'd like to pick up some educational experiments that will help make me as comfortable in Linux command line as I am in Windows GUI. [more inside]
I took some surf lessons in India and Japan and want to make some surfing friends. I'm still a beginner and would like to keep expenses down. How / when should I get more practice and make more friends? I live in Oakland, CA.
I am a devoted fan of Dorothy L. Sayers and her Lord Peter Wimsey novels. There are a number of imaginings of Lord Peter's personal and family crests. I would like to get one tattooed onto my person, but I'm having a difficulty time finding a high-quality image to bring to an artist. [more inside]
I'd love some updated suggestions of beautiful versions of the song, "Amazing Grace"... Previously.. I am most interested in modern and/or rock versions. thanks all!
My mom's cousin is dying of pancreatic cancer and I want to be supportive of my family without overstepping boundaries. [more inside]
Have checked the archive and haven't found anything recent. I'm an underemployed writer/editor/PR type who wants to get rid of a bunch of stuff. I could donate much of it. But I could use some cash, too. Complications below the fold. [more inside]
I'm a decent writer but I suck when it comes to coming up with titles. I need some assistance from the hive please. [more inside]
Should we terminate our current au pair relationship and switch to a nanny share? [more inside]
I'm looking for recommendations for mental health professionals in San Francisco that I could talk to about managing adult ADHD. [more inside]
I'm considering switching to Virgin Mobile from AT&T. Any experiences, good/bad? [more inside]
I used the wrong-sized whisk attachment on my KitchenAid and now the inside of the bowl is scraped up (there's a perfect ring around the upper third of the stainless steel bowl, right where the sides of the whisk were scraping against it). Should I be worried about metal shavings in my cake?
I just got offered a job in a dog friendly office. I am a cat person. There are individual dogs that I am friends with, but I never really know how to best interact with them. Please give me tips on how to be a good dog coworker and dog acquaintance or friend. [more inside]
Got a free iMac 7.1 in really nice shape. Problem: I'm mostly Windows. Hope me update/upgrade for max performance/minimal hassle? [more inside]
Kat vond D Everlasting Lipstick versus Beauty Bakerie versus Stila All Day versus???? [more inside]
I'm spending two days in Paris soon, and need a place to stay. [more inside]
Part of my day job is doing compliance checks for accessibility. I normally just do basic assessments of websites, but now I've got a bunch of PDFs I need to run accessibility checks on (and hopefully be able to correct any issues) and our accessibility specialist is on holidays until after the deadline for these materials. Can anyone recommend some free tools for OS X? [more inside]
Where in Europe should I go for a city break in mid October / early November to get the best autumnal experience possible? [more inside]
I work in downtown Seattle near 5th and Pike, and my parents like to come downtown a couple times a month to have lunch with me. I'm running out of places to take them! [more inside]
What is/was the keyboard instrument that provides the slightly tinny opening riff to "California Girls"?
I am not American and have little familiarity with Christianity. I'm looking for books which survey the American religious experience for outsiders-- think "Souls of China", but for the United States. [more inside]
One day in San Diego: what should we do? Asking for a co-worker (and also for me, sort of; see post-script): My wife and I have one day in San Diego coming up in early August. It's a weekday, the length is not negotiable, but assume it's a full day. Is there something in San Diego we absolutely should not miss (except the zoo, unfortunately)? Where should we eat (breakfast, lunch, and dinner)? [more inside]
I need a system to manage membership & payments for members at a nonprofit neighborhood pool, along with a gate check-in system so that we can monitor pool use. [more inside]
I am developing a multi-pronged plan to banish the stink from my feet. Can you help?? [more inside]
What are the best neighborhoods to live in near downtown Sacramento? Or small towns within, say, a one-hour commute of Sacramento? [more inside]
Hi all, I'm looking for a place in NYC or the outer boroughs that me and my sweetheart can go makeout. Neither of us have cars, don't want to go to a hotel and don't want to do it in a place where lots of people can watch us. Can you find us a place? Think secluded areas where foot traffic is very light. Open to bars, cafes, parks (we found a place in central park but it's too buggy now) and any other places.
My partner recently saw an ENT surgeon on the advice of the clinic treating her sleep apnea, and was told to her surprise that she had a severely deviated septum and narrowed nasal passages. Since while any treatment would be covered under Australia's Medicare so cost is not a concern, she's still not sure if the surgery is worth pursuing given the >10% chance of no improvement and the significant recovery time. We were hoping to hear from anyone who has had similar surgery on what positive or negative results we might expect. [more inside]
After getting a message from Avast, I am curious as to if my computer is affected WannaCry - Double Pulsar or something else) [more inside]
I've had an email asking whether I'd like to provide lessons for Highbrow (gohighbrow.com). I gather Highbrow provides short series of five-minute 'lessons' by email. 'Teachers' get a small fee if enough people complete their courses. Does anyone have any experience with this? Is it legit and worthwhile or dubious and more trouble than it's worth?
For the past few years I've been bruising and bleeding very easily. However, recent blood tests show I actually have a high-normal platelet count (409k at a lab that considers 400k to be the top end of normal). Easy bruising is apparently a symptom of aplastic anemia, but mine is iron-deficient (at least based on my ferritin which is... 4). Shouldn't a higher platelet count mean my blood clots very quickly? I guess easy bruising is subjective, but I got a cut recently that bled for more than 48 hours. How does this work? [more inside]
So I vaguely remember an exchange on the floor of Congress I liked a lot: [more inside]
Looking for a great place to watch the Mcgregor/Mayweather fight in portland. Looking for a bar or sports pub with the best screens, best atmosphere, food/drink specials, etc.
Hello. I am trying to improve my French, and am currently in a French immersion program. I've been trying for quite some time to find good Francophone websites, but I have no idea where to look! Does anyone have recommendations? Sites like metafilter (lol), The New Inquiry, news websites (that aren't paywalled), also interested in like, where can one find good new Francophone music (sites like tinymixtapes or smth?) thxxx (There are two older threads apropos but they're 10 and 11 years old, respectively, so maybe an update is in order.)
An event on gender equity I've been asked to participate in has separate sessions, one open to "females only" and the other open to "all gender identities". I'm trying to guess the intended scope of these two terms (please take it as given that there are reasons not to explicitly ask right now). [more inside]
I love dresses that have lots of plant imagery on them. Incidental flowers are OK but what I really want is green leaves! Can you find good options for me? [more inside]
Especially my immigrant mother, who I butt heads with. [more inside]
Last Friday morning I received a phone call telling me was I terminated and not to commute on on Monday to my long held contracting job. There was no explanation, no feedback and no thank you (I know, they don't have to do this). I had no idea this was going to happen. Since then I have been a state of shock and pain like nothing i have previously experienced. Help me to figure out how to grieve the loss of my job. It feels a little like a death though I know its different. [more inside]
I swear I thought there was a clip where Sloan Sabbith interviews a Republican about the consequences of not extending the National Deficit limit in congress. After trying to look for it, I could only find scenes where she is preaching to her fellow co-workers.
I support the legalization of marijuana. I don't regularly use it. I live in a state where medical marijuana is legal but highly restricted to certain conditions. I happen to have one of those conditions, although it is currently well-controlled via biologics. Is it ethical and/or helpful to the cause for me to get a medical marijuana card (although I don't plan on actually USING it)? I feel compelled to in an effort to destigmatize the whole thing more (being an Upstanding White Woman in the Community) but I also feel like since I don't actually NEED it at the moment, it would be just playing the system. Thoughts?
That's pretty much my question. I'm going swimming with a friend at the Y tonight. Last time we went I didn't use the water extractor spinny thing because I didn't want to muck up the underwire on my bathing suit top. But then I got stuck with the soggiest bathing suit on the subway. So I'd like to use the extractor but I also love my bathing suit so I'm hesitant. Should I or shouldn't I? (I should note that this top is a 42DD so it's no small thing, in case that makes a difference.)
This weekend, my wife and I will be taking our trusty hound, Rosie to Asheville, NC. We're looking for outdoorsy things to do or places to go that we could enjoy together (as well as human only places, though many people have that question before). Suggestions for hikes, activities, restaurants, shops, etc. are welcome!
I'm considering a career change due to longstanding structural problems with the DVD and Blu-ray business. I'm attracted to infosec for the entertainment industry, on the post-production side but not necessarily the consumer side (more group policies, forensic watermarking, and OSI levels; less encrypted streaming or credit-card fraud detection). [more inside]
What exactly is "crème de coco"? [more inside]
I am having feeling of intense grief when I get flashbacks of a dream that I cannot remember. Does this happen to anyone else, does it have a name and how do I stop it? [more inside]
Hi all Marketo and Adwords heads! :) I'm fairly junior AdWords and don't understand why some why do some destination URLs have manual tags, and some don’t? Is there any reason for this not to be consistent throughout every destination URL? Do I need manual tags because the auto-tag GCLID doesn’t really tell us anything in Marketo? Is that something that is not translated into valuable data anywhere but through GA? Thanks
Among rap fans, before rap music crossed over to its current level of cultural ubiquity, there was a constant conversation about how it was widely known in the rap industry that there was a gay rapper, and that his identity was yet to be exposed. (This was variously said to be Eric Sermon, Raekwon, Busta Rhymes, Redman, Keith Murray, eventually Ja Rule . . .) Does anyone know the early sources where this rumor appeared, either in print, the Web, or rap songs? [more inside]
My mom is disabled, and has just turned 62. She contacted the social security office and asked if she could get social security, and they told her that there was nothing that she would be able to do. [more inside]
I am looking for four kid-friendly, picky-eater friendly, allergy-friendly meals that also require super-human standards for preparation. Instant Pot available! [more inside]
Lynn Margulis (1938-2011) was a researcher of cell evolution who shaped the current theory of symbiogenesis, a complementing bit of theory to classical (neo-)darwinism. I would need some concise information on her scientific biography. Although I have plenty of material on her work and I spent hours researching, I can't find the answers to two specific questions. [more inside]
One of my cats is allowed supervised outside visits and the other one is an indoor only kitty. Binky, the one who is allowed out, was scritch-scratching a lot the other day and upon further investigation, I noticed some very small scabby bumps under her chin and on the sides of her neck. What could they be? [more inside]
My wife and I have a tradition of getting each other anniversary gifts that creatively combine elements from the "traditional" and "modern" lists of presents. But this year, our seventh anniversary, is a stumper for me. The day approacheth rapidly, and I would love some suggestions! [more inside]
Trying to recall where I heard a standup/comedy writer talking about joke writing. [more inside]
Does anyone have access to passenger logs between 1865 and 1868 for ships going to Bombay from Liverpool? I am trying to verify or disprove the information from this link.
We won't have a rental car, so probably most things we'd do would be on the strip. Neither of us have been to Vegas in years, and understand the dining options have evolved quite a bit from the all-you-can-eat buffets I remember. We eat very little meat. What vegetarian/pescatarian restaurants or meals shouldn't we miss? I did see these two previouslys, but figured restaurants change quickly.
I'm 52, and all that smoking is starting to catch up with me: I'm starting to see slightly deeper lines above my lip. I would like to fight 1) lipstick bleeding, 2) lines on my lips, and 3) and the worsening of those lines as much as possible. I know products exist that addresss these issues, which, if any, have you found worked for you? (Makeup Alley has conflicting and confusing products/advice.) [more inside]
I have been married to my husband for 13 years. Most of them have been very happy. The past 4 have been miserable. [more inside]
Did anyone download this video (Stray from the Path - Good Night Alt-Right) before they took it down? [more inside]
I'm running a series of weekly brown bag lunch events that are loosely based on learning more about what everyone else in the library is working on (I work in an academic library). Last week was the first one and it was clear that I really need to have conversation prompts prepared. I asked what everyone's favorite thing about their job is; what else can I ask?
Inspired by this Ask (and others I've seen here), how did you folks with good posture get there? I would like to set "improving posture" as a personal goal, but have no idea how to break that down into actually achievable steps. [more inside]
I'm heading to south Florida for a few days on short notice and looking for things to do or see. [more inside]
Say your partner is having an issue/conflict with someone else. They tell you about it, and you actually feel like the other person may not entirely be in the wrong or that your partner's the one overreacting, etc, do you share your feelings or shut up and take your partner's side? [more inside]
The closest airport to Hubby's Parents' Small Town used to be served by CompetentAirline, but is now served exclusively by AssholeAirline (rhymes with Poo-nited). Is there a federal body overseeing small airports, or some sort of website that tracks when contracts are renewed, so I could submit a public comment documenting the decline in travel quality that has happened since AssholeAirline took over? [more inside]
I'm renting a house from a retired couple who are living out of state until the fall. They are back for a couple of weeks to paint the house and it's stressing me out. I need solitude and space where I live and having them around the house is putting me on edge, big time. I feel like I can't relax or be myself and am avoiding all common areas and just keeping to my room. Any suggestions on what I can do to alleviate this feeling? More below the fold. [more inside]
I have been almost solely relying on internal traffic for my Etsy store but I now have a new standalone website and need to drive traffic to it. [more inside]
I made videos on my I-phone 6 plus but did them in portrait mode. I can see them right side up on the computer when I download them and watch them in windows media player, and they are fine when I download on facebook, but when I try to download them to a DVD disc and watch them on my DVD player they are laying on their side while playing. So I need to somehow change the videos to landscape (after the fact) if that is possible. [more inside]
I subscribe to a number of weekly digest email newsletters that have links to articles that discuss new developments and technologies in my field. I'd love to be able to have some sort of scraper go through the links every time I receive one of these emails, and collect them offline for reading on a tablet while on my commute. What might be the best way to do this?
My office has banks of elevators where only one is an accessible elevator. However, you can't choose which elevator to call, when you press any button all the elevator's buttons light up. Is there a way to get the accessible elevator if you need it? [more inside]
I'm perfectly capable of sitting in the normal, expected manner on a chair, but I never seem able to stick with it; in some inexplicable way I guess I just don't find it as comfortable. [more inside]
Is there a lightweight app that automatically recognises chords from a midi input? If I connect my digital piano via midi to Garageband on my macbook, it automatically displays the chords that I play. The ipad version of Garageband doesn't seem to have this functionality. I'd rather not hook up my macbook every time I want to practice, so I'm wondering if there is a simple (free) app that can do this on my ipad (which I use for sheet music anyway)?
Eisenhorn: Misunderstood or heretic? [more inside]
I work in student services at a university, and I'm in a bit of a career rut. To get some of the intellectual stimulation that I'm not getting at work, I've been taking computer science classes, and I've enjoyed them and done well. I'm starting to think that maybe I shouldn't be so adamant that I'm just doing this for fun and not for job-related purposes. Can anyone help me think of jobs or careers that would scratch the same itches that my CS classes do? [more inside]
We want to take a trip overseas, but are having trouble narrowing down our options. The things that usually inspire me to travel are weird: installation art, immersive theater, quixotic architecture. Please help me choose the most peculiar of Europe's many marvels! [more inside]
Even though I have a variety of social media accounts, I have only a basic understanding of How Things Work marketing wise. After some god-awful marketing disasters at work (see my previous question about how things went) I feel I should probably have a better grasp of what's involved. To that end, I'd like to learn more about Social Media Marketing. There's a lot of stuff out there. Too much. I have no idea where to start so hope the Hive Mind can point the way. More requirements are inside. [more inside]
You are not my doctor, but I need help articulating what I've got going on in the blood pressure department. [more inside]
Travelling to Philly for two days late July for college tours for my girlfriend's son. Staying two blocks from Independence Hall and the Liberty Bell.
- What else do you recommend we see?
- Where should we get cheesesteaks from?
I'm looking for recordings of an old series of Mitsubishi car radio ads with a gravelly voiced announcer. Can anyone help me find it or info about it? [more inside]
Greetings. I am trying to find some novelists, short story writers, and poets that write speculative fiction, horror, thriller, and Gothic genre? Like the film The Innocents (1961) or Night of The Hunter (1955) but in writing. Maybe even Victorian-esque works too. I am a devoted Hitchcock fan as well -- but I am keen on trying to find some page-turner speculative fiction with short stories, novels, and poetry. Thank-you.
I recently joined the Twitters and could use some tips on how to filter the proverbial firehose of information. There are many interesting accounts, but following more than a couple of them gets out of hand, as in my feed instantly has hundreds of messages. Using Tweetbot on iOS and macOS, but will consider alternatives. Also, I welcome suggestions for worthwhile accounts to follow.
I'm in Alexandria Va., and will be going down to the Outer Banks in NC (Corolla/Duck) again soon. I've pretty much always gone straight down I-95, but is there a better route? As anyone who has driven it knows, I-95 on summer weekends.... well, let's just say it's a foretaste of hell, and maybe there's a better plan.
On which stops of the Coast Starlight route is the Amtrak station located directly in a small downtown/village center? [more inside]
I have a closet full of old disks and laptops from ancient work and personal use. I'm overdue to stop harboring a junkyard and want to make sure there's nothing important on them before giving stuff the heave ho. Today's self-assigned challenge is a SmartDisk Firelite FLFW60. Yes, I know it's like trying to speak to an ancient civilization... but can you help? [more inside]
Very very obscure Monty Python and the Holy Grail question: How was the Trojan Rabbit referred to on the set? Was it called "The Trojan Rabbit"? Something else?
My partner and I begrudgingly need another car. We have a lot of student loan debt and are torn between leasing, buying a beater, or or a nice used car. [more inside]
I'm used to writing on Word. It's fine for text. But a new project needs lots of visual examples of photos and animated gifs. Think mood boards. Are there any word processors that do this seamlessly, so that the creative process is smooth and you don't have to think about whether the document can handle multiple graphics? I guess I want a robust desktop version of Medium ... or maybe Evernote with a word processor attached?
Due to health issues, Glinda the cat recently had all but five teeth removed. Before, if we went away for a couple days, we'd top up a bowl with Hills or IAMS dry and the cats would be just fine. Now Glinda is either not interested or capable of eating the dry, even if softened with water (The other cat, who is okay with dry, won't eat soggy kibble either), and it's not practical to open up a couple cans of wet and leave them lying around for a couple days because 1) That's gross and unsanitary, and 2) Glinda's always had snarf & barf problem, especially with wet food. She'd turn it into an all-you-can-eat barffet. It's not possible to have someone come in, let alone spend an hour painting the bottom of Glinda's dish with a spoonful of wet at a time. Looking for ideas and suggestions on how to ensure Glinda gets fed. Currently our best idea is grinding up a cup of dry food, she should be able to get that down, right?
Kid Ruki (15) tested positive for mono today. This makes for a crappy summer vacation. They're keeping themself well-hydrated on their own, and I have lots of Gatorade and ice cream bars. What can I do to make the next few weeks more comfortable for them?
I'm looking for a unicorn of a chocolate cake recipe: I really just want a chocolate cake recipe that's moist, and accessible -- easy enough to make to be my go to, but something that tastes fancy enough to make for a special occasion. It needs to be a fudgy chocolate cake that is worthy of being eaten on its own (but would still go great with frosting). [more inside]
Where do styes come from? How can I make them go away forever? Why does God hate me? [more inside]
I swear there was a New York Times review of the 2002 Brian Stokes Mitchell revival of Man of La Mancha that was written in perfect scansion to The Impossible Dream." The only line I remember is the very last one, which is "as I reach / for the keys to my car!" Google-Fu has either failed or I just suck at it. Help! [more inside]
We are getting ready to roll out certificates based BYOD enterprise wireless. In our testing most of our "supported platforms" work pretty well but we are finding out that Android based devices are a huge PIA. [more inside]
I'll be in Phoenix on business for a week in earl August and have some extra time, so wanted to see if anyone has suggestions for things to see or do. (More details inside.) [more inside]
The unit I work in does training workshops of various sorts. We like to offer our attendees a certificate of completion after they attend. Right now I'm hand creating these individually using a PDF template using Acrobat Pro, then locking it to editing, password protecting, saving, emailing, yadda. It's a lot of work. I'd like to automate. Halp. [more inside]
A woman who works near me shouts when she is stressed out or frustrated. Her yelling is usually directed at her staff, and sometimes at someone on the phone. She does not shout at me but the yelling is very distressing for me to hear. These shouting sessions last for 2-10 minutes and happen 3-7 times per week. Is there a polite way for me to communicate that her yelling makes me uncomfortable without jeopardizing my position at work? [more inside]
My new attempted obsession is extremely short podcasts. Please recommend some. [more inside]
A few years ago I looked at a bunch of houses in Florida. I noticed that a lot of the older ones (built between the fifties and seventies) had what used to be “Florida rooms,” that is, screened-in porches commonly adjacent to the living room area. What I noticed was that many people decided they wanted an extra room-room, and turned the screened-in porches into what amounts to second living rooms. This almost invariably turned the original living room into a dark box, requiring extra lamps and lighting to counteract the gloom. I am aware that due to the heat some people may want a cool dark windowless room, and that’s fine. In my house, though, I am wondering what reasonable measures I could take to brighten my own “original living room.” Suggestions, please! [more inside]
I am staying in a rental with a front-loading Maytag washer. The "door locked" light is flashing and will not let me do anything--turn it on, off, start, unlock, anything. Any ideas? [more inside]
The Night Begins to Shine from Teen Titans Go! is my seven year old's favorite song. Normally when he picks a new jam I can find related songs via Spotify Radio for him and make a playlist. However, since this song and band was created just for the show, the radio option gives a bunch of video game and cartoon theme songs that don't match musically with 'The Night Begins to Shine.' Any suggestions? [more inside]
Hi Brilliants! Happy Wednesday :) I'm trying to compile a list of stories that are about people who have become suddenly rich. (Specifically because of an inheritance). I'm interested in works of fiction, theater, movies, tv, myths, folktales, songs, real news, etc. I'm interested in exploring archetypal commonalities in these sorts of stories and thematic links. Since it's quite a broad thing to search I'm interested in anything that you remember seeing, reading or hearing about, something that may have made an impact on you. Or if you can't think of anything but you have a specific fantasy of becoming rich and want to share how you think that might play out that would be great too! Thanks so much!
I'm supposed to go on a hiking/camping trip to Alberta/BC next week, but I may have to skip out for two days of it due to a slight knee injury. What should I see in/around Vancouver BC instead? [more inside]
We are relocating to the Bellevue, WA area with our anxious cattle dog. Do you know of an apartment complex where The Nervous Dog can relax? [more inside]
I have a lot of trouble with reading for necessity as opposed to reading for pleasure, and I need some suggestions similar to my favorite book of all time. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
What one book | article | study | blog | film | video | (podcast if you must) has changed how you think about urban planning particularly in relation to holistic urban transportation planning and/or citizen engagement in the planning process? [more inside]
A few years ago I read an interesting article/blogpost describing how the "fake it 'till you make it" strategies currently in vogue with the startup/entrepreneurial set are very difficult for people from more modest class backgrounds to put into practice. Much of the difficulty was attributed to the different levels of risk tolerance appropriate for privileged v. underprivileged/average persons. Hypothetical example workplace scenarios were given. I believe the article was written in a colloquial style reminiscent of Cracked magazine and may have been authored by someone in the self-improvement/entrepreneurship sphere. Does this ring any bells?
My civic/volunteer/political/activism group made simple baby blankets to donate to Project Linus. We loved doing this! What other hands-on donation/charity crafts or group activities can we do? We are in the greater Boston area of the USA. [more inside]
How do you know you need to leave someone you love? [more inside]
Boss loves me but I am planning to move on and need your help to not burn any bridges because my boss really likes me as an employee. More questions and details after the jump. [more inside]
How do you approach a relationship with someone who still loves/misses someone else? [more inside]
I just experienced about 1 minute of pulsing flashing lights. I thought it was my lightbulb dying, but there was a little more pulsing (maybe like 20 more seconds) after I turned that light off. The flashing has stopped and my vision is normal. Should I go to urgent care/the hospital? I can be hypersensitive about health stuff (especially knowing that flashing is a sign of retinal detachment and needs to be taken seriously) so I don't know if I'm just freaked out or if I should actually go. [more inside]
I created a Facebook "album" containing several posts today, using the new feature that lets you put posts in an album (in addition to photos/videos). The problem is that I then deleted the album, thinking the posts would remain — but they seem to have been deleted along with the album. Am I right that the posts are gone, with no way to recover them? (There was no warning about this.)
Are these sunspots on my face and if so, can I get rid of them somehow? [more inside]
I'm looking for a place that sells verjus/verjuice (unfermented grape juice used in cooking), ideally in Oakland or Berkeley. Any suggestions? [more inside]
Hello folks, I'll be checking out the Museum of Capitalism with a visiting friend on Saturday and am wondering if you could recommend a place to get dinner that's fun and would give her a taste of Oakland. [more inside]
My wife is in the information security field, but not on the technical side. She's more in a project management/governance role, but the scope of her role is increasing more and more. She wants to learn the basics of networking and the technical side of network security and information security. I know about the books from when I was in school (I'm an IT professional), but she has a hard time understanding even the analogies I try to come up with. My assumption is that there are better resources that I can't seem to find. [more inside]
I'm looking at starting a non-profit in California that provides free or low cost computer education (mostly basic skills) to anyone who wants to learn and takes old computers and parts them out to rebuild and sell at low cost. What do I need to look at or keep in mind with this? Any related advice would be deeply appreciated. [more inside]
I "won" some free LipoMelt sessions. Any reason NOT to try it? [more inside]
Following an incredibly tumultuous, confusing, and painful recent journey I have had over the course of the last year or so it has been suggested to me that I should write down my experience(s). How can I obtain clarity of thought on something with so many constituent parts, and hopefully therefore also achieve an ability to Communicate the thoughts via the written word in order to achieve my goal in this regard?
My new boyfriend is a bit of a pedant and it can be frustrating at times. How should I go about dealing with these moments? [more inside]
I'm getting a divorce for Reasons, one of the big ones being that we tried an open marriage and, big surprise, it didn't work. I've become close with a woman who was involved, and now she feels a crushing sense of guilt at being a "homewrecker." She's tearing herself up with the imagined judgement of friends. I don't think there's anything I can do here, other than to be open, supportive, and listen. But I don't want to miss an opportunity to help, either. What can I do / say? [more inside]
I'm (hopefully) moving to an urban area with a competitive housing market and will be looking for a small apartment/studio/efficiency. (Outer Richmond, SF) Thanks to some previous AskMe threads, I've put together all the elements of a good renter's resume except one: my rental history. [more inside]
Should I eat this chili I made yesterday that sat in a dutch oven on the stovetop (covered with heavy lid) for approximately 6 hours after the heat was turned off before cooling in the fridge? [more inside]
My job has normal to longish hours and a really long commute. As of now, neither a change of job nor a change of residence is possible. Commute is by crowded public transport. I need to figure out a way to live with this. Help! [more inside]
I have begun the process of publishing a zine/book of erotic haikus I have written based on images I have found online and posted on my blog..... I am exploring the feasibility of using these image in the publications. 1) I am publishing as a zine. I am also thinking of self-publishing as an e-book and submitting to a publisher. 2) Some of the image are from classic or professional artists (Schiele, Matisse, etc) 3) Others are from current artists. I can easily contact them direct though the information given on the reblogged images. 4) Most images had no artists name attached. As such I assume they to be in public domain. (I can search through Google Image to see if I can find author) [more inside]
Its late, and I'm wondering why. Have tested twice, both negative. I have had my tubes tied. Why, other than pregnancy would I not get my period? I'm in my early 40s if that helps. Tubes were tied 18 months ago after the birth of my second child. [more inside]
Hi AskMe! I want to drill some holes in the solid concrete walls of my apartment to hang heavy stuff, but I've never operated a power drill in my life, much less on hardwall or masonry. I know I can go to the hardware store to rent/buy a drill, masonry bits, and eye protection, but I also want to practice a few times so I can get used to operating a drill, drilling straight holes, and what drill kickback feels like. But where would one go to practice? I'm in DC, and I have no yard.
My wife and I will be in LA for Sunday 10th September. Neither of us have been before or are likely to be there again in the near future. We are Europeans, currently live in London, like walking, are fairly bohemian artsy MeFites and don't have a desire to spend all day in a museum. What should we do?? [more inside]
At water tower from 10am to 4pm with baby & stroller. How should I fill the time. I have done this with my older kids and we went to Navy Pier and had a great time. This time I have my 2 month old while my awesome wife is at the Loyola water tower campus for a conference. I am looking for something stroller accessible (regular stroller, not a city stroller), fairly uncrowded, and with AC. [more inside]
I need to create a series of 10 second animations for a website and am not sure which of the applications in my Adobe Creative Cloud subscription I should use to do so. Animate and After Effects would seem to be the best options but which would work better for my use, or would some other app be preferable? [more inside]
What dense padding material should I use to stuff this narrow opening? This is for brief travel, so the padding needs to be easily removable (and easy to pack in luggage). My improvised solution last time was small towels and a soup cup; this time I want something that blocks external sound as much as possible. (All mid- to high-frequency ambient sound, such as talking or music with minimal bass.)
I'm asking for my wife since she already used up her two (2) questions this week and we've got a LONG train ride coming up on Friday: what are some good crossword puzzle books, the equivalent of a NYT Thursday or Friday, that are NOT from the New York Times? [more inside]
I am selling my house using an "online estate agent" that charges a flat fee - different fees depending on what "package" you select, and the packages are differentiated by additional services that can also be purchased a la carte. The house has sold fairly quickly (subject to contracts) but the company never provided the only two services that factored in my decision to choose the more expensive package rather than the cheapest one. I don't want to just let this slide but I'm having a hard time figuring out how to proceed. [more inside]
Clearing out the attic at my parents' house unearthed (heh) this small colored metal globe which I remember playing with as a child but obviously never really looked at because many of the countries have changed either boundary-wise or name-wise. Can you help narrow it down to the year it was made? [more inside]
Are there any (fairly) historically accurate games that aren't about conquest? [more inside]
My wife and I and our 7-month-old are excited to have a few days to get away in early August! But it's coming up fast and we've been short on time/energy for making plans. Looking for suggestions of scenic, family-friendly places to go and stay within a few hours' drive of Boston, preferably Vermont or Cape Cod. [more inside]
My two year old iMac, running Sierra, does not recognize that there is an ethernet cable plugged into the port. The cable is good, the originating port on the Airport is good. Is there any way to force the computer to check the port? I can deploy simple Terminal commands.
My sister and her family (husband and two small sons) are moving to the Bay Area next weekend. They're moving into their rental house two weeks before their moving truck will arrive from the east coast. I want to send a care package to arrive when they do, to help make those two weeks easier. What do people always forget that they'll need the first few days in a new home? What should I include? [more inside]
I'm planning on a cross country move in a year. What are the best things I can do in the next twelve months to make the move a success? [more inside]
I wanted to take a car to get a break from a camping trip, my friend wanted to come, I didn't want her to, it turned weird. What happened here and how can I plan better for future trips where I know I'll need some space to myself? [more inside]
DragonFly + AK Jr. = dumb idea? And if so, what PMP instead of the Astell & Kern? [more inside]
Two urban-dwelling Europeans are off to Las Vegas for work $reasons in early August. We're front-loading our trip with some R'n'R, by doing some nearby-ish hiking, travelling by car from the city. Help us not die in a canyon. What are your top recommendations for intermediate hikes a reasonable drive away from Las Vegas, and hotels/motels/whatever we should stay overnight? [more inside]
I live in Florida. i wear sunglasses all day, every day. recommend me some shades. must haves:
- durable frames (nylon etc, not wire)
- lightweight (very!)
- darker to very dark tint
- polarized really really nice to have: warranty that includes lenses or "no questions asked" or personal stories of some brand standing behind their product. this can be a after market thing or a brand etc. just tired of having a little scratch make these things useless.
So, I'm going to Canada. I'd like to have my own internet access in Canada rather than relying on finding WiFi, free or otherwise. Making phone calls and texts would be nice, but I can probably get away with just data. My phone plan doesn't have roaming, and if it did, it would be ridiculously expensive. What are my options? [more inside]
The visual was a (maybe kinda chubby) bearded guy driving an old-ish pickup truck, I think at night, with the camera perspective is looking in through the windshield. And as he's singing the truck crashes / rolls over in slow motion. The music style was probably indie folk / roots, along the lines of The Head and the Heart and that ilk.
I bought a small, vintage (1940s) house last fall (yay!) and am looking for advice on how to fix some issues in my only bathroom by myself, within a budget. I'm fairly handy, but not experienced. Help! [more inside]
I remember hearing one time of a fellowship for anthropologists from Africa, Asia, and Central/South America to study the culture and people of the US and Europe - a sort of anti-colonial anthropology. But alas, I cannot find any evidence for such a thing. Did this fellowship ever exist? What was it called? [more inside]
How should I answer the "Why are you leaving your current position" question, without making it seem like I'm running away from my current job (which I actually am)? [more inside]
Up until now, my 2 year old has been in with us. He's soon getting his own room and we want to find him some lovely furniture- probably bed, wardrobe, drawers and bookcase. [more inside]
I'm a recent liberal arts graduate supporting a sibling, but I need to find a country to live in and a job. Cannot return to home country, current visa ends soon. What to do? [more inside]
What are the minimum tools and tricks to have up one's sleeve when planning/running/cleaning up after/repeating a mini tabletop gaming (cards/boards/RPGs) con? [more inside]
Just got back from a trip to Chicago (my first time visiting, it was unbelievably awesome), but something has been bugging us about the trip. Every time we ate at a restaurant and were served water, it came from a pitcher with no ice (6 meals over 3 days). The first time my wife and I thought nothing of it, but as it kept happening we really started to wonder what was going on. Everywhere we've lived (OH, NY, CT, MA) water served from a pitcher generally has ice in it. What's going on in Chicago?
I'm planning on visiting Malmö, Sweden for a few days in August. I've already booked my accommodations (just outside of the city centre). I've come across so many articles out there about how violent and all the gangs in the city. Is it actually as dangerous as it sounds? Am I buying into the fake news type, what's the deal with Malmö? [more inside]
I have been asked to review a coworker's very important standard operating procedure document. Difficulty: I am a middle-aged white gentleman, and she is a member of a traditionally underrepresented group in our industry, and her work in this case is egregious. Seriously, the only revision I can think to make to this document is to completely rewrite it myself. [more inside]
Or if not a homestay, at least any recommendations on a living situation that would be conducive to language learning? I'm soon going to quit my job and move to China in order to focus on getting fluent in mandarin (I'm solidly upper intermediate, want to get there). I have money saved up, and can be abroad for a year or two in pursuit of this goal. More details within! [more inside]
I really really like "Sometime Around Midnight" by The Airborne Toxic Event. What other songs are like this? [more inside]
I feel like something is holding me back from going all in to my relationship. Am I the problem or is my relationship not right for me? Lack of perspective and religious implications are complicating factors. [more inside]
I'm a first grade teacher and I'm interested in becoming an engineer. Is there a career path for this? [more inside]
I need to ship a large, 270 year old book. How should I protect it from damage? How should I pack it for shipping? And how much should I insure it for? [more inside]
I am looking for some organizational tips for people who have a few different jobs, especially in unrelated fields/industries. [more inside]
If you put a good mattress topper with a cheap mattress will the mattress still eventually wear out and sag, or does the topper absorb most of the wear? [more inside]
How do you and your spouse spend the evening after work? I'm especially interested in what people without children do. Do you eat together? Do you talk while eating? Do you do activities or hobbies together? Do you watch TV together? How connected do you feel to one another in the evening? Do you enjoy this time together? Or is it a bore? [more inside]
Recently there was a thread on Metafilter about A League of Their Own, and I re-watched it and realized it hits the perfect tone of being feel-good, but also good quality. I'm looking for other movies like this! [more inside]
My friend is designing her family crest and she would like to have the phrase "All or Nothing" in Latin. Is "Aut Omnia Aut Nihil" a good translation? If not, what would be better?
This is kind of embarrassing, but not nearly as embarrassing as my over sensitivity and self-consciousness in public (If I can smell it I know you can too) about a putrid odor that comes from my nether regions when I perspire. [more inside]
The short version: various members of my family are openly, loudly racist. I still want a relationship with my parents, and for my child to have a relationship. This upsets my partner. [more inside]
I'm starting to use contacts. I LOVE a couple of my glasses frames so I want them as non RX sunglasses now. What's the best and cheapest way to do this? [more inside]
My wife *loves* corgis. But for various reasons (job schedules, cat, etc.), it's not feasible for us to have one. For her 30th birthday, she's asked me to see if I can find a way that she could walk a corgi for an hour or two. Is this possible? Suggestions about how to do this? We're in Boston.
How long does one have to stay in a place before one can say they lived there? [more inside]
Slight twist on a relatively common question. I'm a professional consultant, and while I still have a day job with benefits, I charge $500/hr. for my consulting time. Currently, I am doing about 40 hours/year of consulting with the hope of increasing that number as I approach retirement from the day job. [more inside]
Where can I purchase large quantities of frozen delicious farm-fresh berries in the Chicago area? [more inside]
I have a complicated situation. I have had a roommate for over two years now. We re-signed the lease for a third year in May but now I want to move out for various personal reasons, though she doesn't want me to and when we talk about it she guilts me for wanting to leave and leaving her in the lurch. I feel this is a bad situation though and don't know if I can handle staying here for another ten months now. [more inside]
I love my Nexus 7 2013, but it's starting to behave oddly, so I'm keeping an eye out for possible replacement tablets for when it dies. What are the best Android tablets of similar size out there right now? [more inside]
My fiance and I have been together for 3 yrs now and as of yet his mother and sister don't approve of our relationship and they both have never gave me a chance to be around them. The reason why is because he had a previous relationship and had two kids with his ex, things didn't work out and moved on. Well his mom is so religious and old fashion that she states he needs to let me go and he needs to move back and make a family with his ex. We have been together dated for two years and now live together. [more inside]
I love me some DJ Applecat, specifically her "Stick To Your Guns" series of mixes (STYG 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6 [Soundcloud links]). What other artists, preferably on Soundcloud, can the hive mind recommend that produce similar, long, world-y/tribal-y/techno-y/thumpy mixes?
How do I relax and lengthen my scalene muscles? I've been finding the traditional stretches (gently pulling ear to shoulder, etc) to not be effective. [more inside]
I've found myself increasingly impatient and annoyed when friends give me conventional wisdom/ knee jerk responses. I don't fully understand this emotion, but want to get a grip before I scream at a friend. [more inside]
I was laid off in early March due to downsizing. I was depressed due to the circumstances surrounding the layoff and other things in my personal life so I used my six weeks of severance pay to recover, and I've been dipping into my savings since. I'm finally up to kicking my job search into high gear, but how should I explain the gap? Honestly, I really wasn't doing much besides keeping my head above water emotionally, but I'm not above, uh, exaggerating. [more inside]
Am I writing a book? I think so? How do I stay motivated through this project? [more inside]
My sense of humor is largely based on being withering/disdainful/dismissive and I think it may have turned me into an unbearable person. There has to be a way back to bearability. [more inside]
My poor terrified dog refused to go out to pee during the recent bout of fireworks craziness, and peed on our rug. Help me get the smell of hound pee out! [more inside]
I get pain under my left shoulder blade with exercise. I've had an EKG - normal! - and the doctor does not feel that I need further heart workup right now. I know she'll do it if I press for it, though, so I'm trying to decide. Does this pain happen to others? What could cause it? [more inside]
I'm trying and failing to imagine what this wagon-wheel-looking track or landform is for. It's right next to Black Butte, near Mount Shasta in northern California. Does anyone have any information, so I can expel this pebble from my mental shoe?
Unfortunately, I spend a lot of time in an environment where someone plays either the radio or the television at what feels like ear-splitting volume. I'm aware of Hearos and other effective OTC and bespoke earplugs, but I really hate having objects stuck in my ears, or even atop them. Fellow MeFites, do you have any recommendations for Over-the-Ear headphones that will block most of the noise and protect my hearing? [more inside]
The U.S. denied an Afghan girls' team a visa to participate in a global robotics competition. I think that Afghan girls being interested in science and development is exactly the sort of thing we should encourage, and I want to send the team a letter to let them know there are Americans who support them. Maybe include a good book on robotics or engineering in the package. What's the best way to show my support? [more inside]
I am in search of something on the very gentle/non-exercisey end of the yoga video spectrum to use as sort of a moving meditation practice (something to get me moving around and inhabiting my own body without trying to improve or strain it in any way). Unfortunately, my idea of "gentle" yoga doesn't quite match up to whatever criteria people are using to name their videos. [more inside]
Is it possible to maintain a drama free friendship triangle with the coolest couple ever? More inside. [more inside]
Film distributor looking for a way to share screeners with cinemas in China securely. [more inside]
I have a one year old. Sometimes when she wakes up after a nap or around three thirty in the morning, she'll go back to sleep if I hold her and walk around or stand still or even sit with her perpendicular to the ground, but as soon as put her on my shoulder or chest and lean back at all she wakes up and arches her back and screams. It's making me crazy. Why does she does this and what can I do to stop it? [more inside]
I'd like to buy a hybrid bike and would prefer a women-specific version. It will mostly be used on fairly flat trails and paths in the woods including some gravel. It won't be used much on roads as I hate riding in traffic. My budget is £1000 or under. I can't decide between a Cannondale quick 1 disc, quick 2, or specialised Ariel. [more inside]
I'm looking for recommendations for electric scissors or electric shears. They'd be primarily used for fabric/sewing, and it'd be a nice bonus if they worked on paper. [more inside]
I'm looking for an interval timing app that can be customised with different interval lengths. [more inside]
I know my boyfriend of 9 years is cheating on me. I know who with. I love him with eberything i am and im so angry and hurt that he would do this to me. I am trying to get proof of this or catch them but its hard as i am working when i know it is happening and cant leave work to catch them. So my question is how do i confront him about it when i am VERY non confrontational and he is pretty quick to anger.
Is there any way to better manage books on a Kindle Paperwhite than jailbreaking the device? Or is jailbreaking reversible, or not that device-altering? [more inside]
I'm not a yeller. My wife is. I think the whole practice of yelling is rather immature and shows a deep lack of self-control. It's annoying, bone jarring, and destructive. And we've already been to therapy. Not a big help. Not real interested in finding another therapist. [more inside]
I'm in the market for a new laptop, and I'm leaning towards something with enough GPU to play some nice games, like Civ 6 or Stellaris or XCom2 or Rocket League and other random games, but still supported well under Linux. What laptops and brands should I look at for reliable support? [more inside]
The rental agreement for a vacation home the family and I are considering in North Carolina's Outer Banks has, buried deep in the legalese, a fairly surprising warning about swimming pools. To wit: [more inside]
I figure this would be a good one for my first AskMeFi. The story was in Asimov's or in Analog, slight chance it could have been Science Fiction & Fantasy: Father invents a teleportation device in the nick of time to send his young (but not infant, the kid knows what's up) son away before soulless absorptive Borg-like alien machines descend and take over in their relentless march across the galaxy. [more inside]
I will be changing email accounts and I would like to save my emails that I have on Office 365. How do I export these emails? thanks!
We spent last week driving across the US with our dog, who is 8 years old and has always been fine (if a little excitable) in the car. About halfway there, I drove over a rumble strip; it made a scary noise for maybe 3 seconds, and now our dog is INTENSELY FREAKED OUT every time she's in the car. Please help! [more inside]
Suppose someone has citizenship of Country A and permanent residence in Country B. Then, for some reason (perhaps something political like speaking up against the Government or maybe just that country dissolves), this person no longer has citizenship of Country A. What happens to their Country B status? Do they get booted out too, rendering them truly stateless? Can they ask for citizenship from Country B? [more inside]
I decided to start exercising with dumbbells, but I am overwhelmed by the choices. [more inside]
Hi MetaFilter! I'm attending a 3-day conference in downtown Atlanta later this month. I've never been before (and likely won't have the opportunity to go again anytime soon), so I want to make sure I try some delicious food and see the most interesting sights during my trip. [more inside]
We're getting a late start on our planning for seeing the eclipse out of Portland (I know, I know). We have two young kids and would like to camp somewhere along the route, but we can't find anywhere within a 5-hour drive that has campsites that aren't in the hundreds of dollars, if there are any at all. What can we do? [more inside]
I'll be driving around Northern Germany and Denmark for two weeks with my GF and i'm looking for your best travel recommendations. [more inside]
I'm moderately computer-literate, but I'm flummoxed by this undeletable file. [more inside]
I'm going to the Philippines in December. I don't know the full agenda yet; I know some time will be spent in Manila and some time somewhere more rural. What clothes are appropriate for women? I have seen conflicting information. Are shorts appropriate? Jeans? Will it be too hot for jeans? Only dresses? Must my shoulders and knees be covered at all times? Shoes? Other ideas? Thanks!
How do you and your spouse navigate and support each other in times of (prolonged) stress? My spouse and I have had some difficult things come up over the past couple of years, almost nonstop. We're thankfully loving, caring, and communicative, but I wonder (and worry) about the toll these events can take on our relationship. What insight and tips do you have for surviving these bumpy waters? [more inside]
I've ended up with some fabric I don't know what to do with. It's two pieces of wool suiting-type fabric, each about 1.5 yards x 60 inches. Fabric A is solid tan, and fabric B is a coordinating tan, brown, red and blue-green plaid. Tan is really not my color, and none of my family members live close enough that I can make them things that require fitting. I am an adventurous yet lazy sewist. What should I make? [more inside]
In my last question I asked if I could "legally move out" of my mentally ill mother's home and let her fend for herself, as it were. When I wrote the question I felt trapped, but with the help of my therapist and some serious self-reflection. I think that moving out is the best choice, for the both of us. Moving out and away from her just seems like such a massive task that I can't seem to chunk it down into something that seems possible. However, I don't really know... the best way how to do that? I still feel stuck. Lots of feelings and mental blocks inside. [more inside]
The song sounds slightly like ave maria... but not exactly. I've googled around a bunch but cannot find it at all. Here's a snippit: (link).
Previously I asked this question about how much water I need in my little inflatable pool to float on a raft. Follow-up: [more inside]
After years of waffling over his ex-girlfriend and I, he's finally decided to commit to me. The problem is, I'm not sure how to proceed now. [more inside]
She has been my friend for many years. She is the kindest person I know. She has been having medical problems lately, she actually had to retire early due to her health (diabetic, cirrhosis). She is someone who dresses really nicely, enjoys high end cosmetics and jewelry. I have always gotten her something small because she is just one of those people who if she wants something she gets it. She is a spiritual person, she enjoys spending time with her family. She goes shopping frequently when she has to go to her doctor visits. Lately though, she has been a little depressed and I want to get her something special, but I have no idea what. I am on a budget, I would like to spend less than $50. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
One friend moved to germany, another to portland. What are some handy methods to keep connected in an immersive experience beyond status updates and text chat? [more inside]
I remember this game had many different puzzles presented with a very relaxing, sort of new-agey, graphical aesthetic. The first set of puzzles was a square grid of mostly blue cells and I don't remember what it was about but you had to conserve some resource in solving the puzzle, roughly analogous to memory management in a computer. At the time I played it, I thought it was pretty hard. More vague, likely spurious details within. [more inside]
Is the painful scar treatment that Neve Campbell's character, "Bonnie," receives a real thing? The needles and the poking?
So I'm getting back into doing makeup after a few years. I'm a twenty something dark skinned woman who has lots of lipstick, eyeshadow and basic face things like concealer, blush, and bb cream. What I'm trying to figure out is what kind of makeup styles I can do. I know about stuff like smokey eye, blending and things like that. I lean towards doing basic looks, like yesterday I did a gold sparkle eyeshadow and warm pink lipstick. [more inside]
Do my odds at winning any game of chance increase if numbers that have already won are removed from the list of possibilities? Its always said that every number always has an equal chance of randomly coming up. [more inside]
Metafilter statisticians: I have a correlation coefficient (Pearson's r) reflecting the association between two continuous variables for N = 100 people. I also have a correlation coefficient for those same variables for a subsample of that sample (n = 40). Is it possible to calculate the value of r for the remaining people in the sample (n = 60) with this information?
The literatures on this seems mixed and I was interested in hearing any personal anecdotes. Also any insights into how the process works--e.g., is it just a quick 3 minute in and out? Would it make sense to take a sauna afterward? How do you protect your sensitive boy parts? Thx in advance, Jon
I am being pressured to see a therapist who is an asshole. How do I deal with this? [more inside]
After 25 years of continuous education and training, I have a job that comes with a signing bonus! I would like to use a small portion to get myself something(s) nice - but I need help figuring out what to spend money on. [more inside]
My high school ex and I dated for three months some 14 years ago. He broke up with me because I wouldn't have sex with him, and then spread rumors about what a whore I was despite the fact that I was a virgin. We all live in the same hometown, so I ended up dating a couple of his friends over the course of the 9 years since I've moved back home, one of whom is my current Boyfriend. I'd always carried guilt for hurting him that way, even if it wasn't intentional. But he still throws out jabs and backhanded jokes about it, and I'm kind of fed up now. [more inside]
I'm currently completing a beginner level Statistics course and in the near future will have to enrol in a first year university Statistics course. I am not finding my current textbook (Use Financial Statistics - Peter Lynch) helpful. I find that it lacks useful explanations and examples. [more inside]
My husband and I were just approved for PR in Canada - yay! We're looking at moving to Toronto so will need medical cover for the first 3 months before we're eligible for OHIP. The visitor cover looks pretty basic and expensive for what it is. Would we be better off getting travel insurance from Australia for this period instead? Or is the hassle of dealing with an overseas insurer not worth it?
I am on the hunt for a good CS related book I can read on the BART ride without needing to crack open a computer to do the exercises. [more inside]
I'm talking with a couple of potential writing partners for screenplays/scripts. This has some good general information on best practices, but I've always been concerned with one possibility - what if the partner screws me over in some way? Specifically, is there anything (aside from finding someone who seems trustworthy) I can do to limit the possibility of the partner removing my name from a script we worked on together and submitting it as his own?
I fell on the sidewalk about 10 days ago. I have no visible injury but it sure as heck feels like I scraped all the skin off my shin, and it's so painful I am having to restrict my activities. Any ideas what might be going on and how I can get it to heal faster? [more inside]
A friend of mine asked on Facebook if there are any actual acronyms that predate the modern age. He pointed out folk etymologies (eg. "port out, starboard home", "store high in transit", "fornication under consent of king/for unlawful carnal knowledge", etc. and wondered if there were any words that really did have old acronymal origins. [more inside]
The receiver for the Home Theater In a Box system we bought several years ago is starting to glitch regularly. I just want to keep the speakers and replace the receiver with something small and simple, but I'm having trouble finding something that isn't 5" tall and $400+. [more inside]
Looking for accessible non-trendy restaurant recommendations in Seattle (north of the Ship Canal would be perfect) for a nice dinner, where my elderly parents would feel comfortable. [more inside]
My mother was put on palliative/hospice care on Thursday. I need help explaining this to my son. I'm looking for picture books and easy reader books with some illustrations to help explain death and grieving. [more inside]
I bought a set of plastic squeeze bottles for the kitchen - what are some good oils or sauces that are handy to have around in them and won't spoil? [more inside]
I'm an American who is going to Scotland for a holiday and I'm considering renting a car for a portion of the trip. I have never driven a car on the left hand side of the road. I have driven motorbikes in the left hand side in Asian countries , no problem but I'm a little concerned about the learning curve for an automobile. I'm asking you, the hive, for tips and advise on being comfortable with driving on the left.
Help me up my game in a household chore. [more inside]
I live @ 100 feet from a lake. It turns out that the lake has had blue green algae blooms every summer for the last 3 years. It has been tested and is picocyanobacteria, which has been linked to ALS. The connection is recent and inconclusive at this time. But, jeez, my grandson played in the lake, my son and I swim all the time. It does not provide my drinking water. I'm skeeved; what is the reasonable course of action, given that ALS is horrible, but swimming & boating in the lake are awesome? Swim/ don't swim?
I have been offered a 9 day job in another location that will allow me to make extra cash - cash that I need if I don't want to dip into my savings. But I am currently stressing about moving abroad in 2 months and feel that every moment is precious with my partner. [more inside]
This is not our cat. We don't own a cat. But this cat seems to badly want into our house. What do we do? [more inside]
I'm nearly 50, I'm a high-functioning autistic, I've been divorced (from a long bad marriage) for 6 years, I've had flings and friendships, and bad (very bad) dates, and for the first time, there is a man who wants to commit to me - and he drives me crazy and not in a good way. What should I do? [more inside]
I went to Morocco. I failed at reading about how to buy argon oil that is definitely 100% argon oil. So, I bought cheap argon oil. It's probably not 100% argon oil, right? However, to be sure, I'd like to know what the ingredients section of the label says. But, I cannot read Arabic. Perhaps you can? Difficulty level: Very, very, very, very tiny, very, very, very low-contrast font. [more inside]
I am trying to determine 1) Where to buy capacitors to replace the blown capacitors in my vintage Sansui AU-4400 stereo amplifier, 2) How to find modern day (or deadstock? is deadstock a thing with capacitors? don't laugh!) capacitors that are comparable and appropriate to the original capacitors I am replacing? [more inside]
For no apparent reason at all, I'm suddenly interested in making my own perfume! Hooray! One catch- my difficulty level is permanently pegged at Perfectionist. I've read a few how-to articles on wikihow, checked out a few forums and the like but I'm seeing a lot of variable and conflicting information. Though it would only be a hobby, I'm really interested in doing it right. Help me learn how to do it like the real pros do it from the ground up to make some truly good stuff, rather than something you buy off a craft table at a street fair. Any pointers, experience, or confirmed good resources are appreciated! Specific questions inside. [more inside]
I'm looking for recommendations for twenty and twenty-first century poems from any religious tradition that are framed as a direct address to God. [more inside]
I found a print of a painting in a thrift store. There's no visible info about the name or artist of the piece. It looks kind of impressionist-y to me, but I don't know enough about art to successfully identify the artist (or maybe I'm way off on the style). Can you identify it?? Or give me more clues? Thanks, art-savvy MeFites! The painting in question: http://imgur.com/a/IQRDI
I have a large bunch of fresh dill. I've already made a batch of awesome pickles, but I need ideas of how to use the rest! I don't grow it, so I'm not sure what to do with it. Please hit me with your most dill-icious recipes that make use of the fresh herb. No dietary restrictions or allergies, southeastern US so I can access lots of premium farm produce right about now as well as just about any other ingredient.
Other than wandering a bookstore & word of mouth, where do you go to find new books you'd like? What blogs, websites (e.g. The Millions, Goodreads, Booklist), magazines, or podcasts do you use...? [more inside]
Someone keeps locking me out of my Google account. I'm unsure if their intent is malicious, as they've apparently inputted their real name and address into some of my settings (how, I'm not sure). Can I determine if this is some weird scam or an honest mistake? And what can/should I do about it? [more inside]
I will soon be able to work remotely from anywhere and Latin America looks like an attractive option for me. What do I need to consider? [more inside]
I'm bilingual, but my English has always been lightyears stronger than my Arabic, particularly because I was never formally taught Arabic - I picked it up around the house and during yearly trips to Sudan. What's the best way to improve my weak spots, like spelling and grammar, without having to deal with the other stuff that beginners would learn? [more inside]
My mother is going through a tough time and is almost always unhappy nowadays. How can I support her and myself? [more inside]
I realize that this is a pretty privileged position to be in, but in my entire life, I've never really been in a position where I've felt ashamed of myself for making a mistake. I've made small mistakes that didn't really matter, as everyone does, but no big mistakes. Until yesterday. [more inside]
I have moderate adult acne. I’ve tried many things to fix it and still have the same skin I had in high school, which is somehow oily and dry at the same time. I probably need professional help, but I’m not sure if I should be looking for a dermatologist or someone else. How do you find a good treatment specialist who is serious about acne? [more inside]
My unique symptoms began in February of this year. Since then, they have intensified in nature. As of today, I have visited seven (7!) different doctors - no one has a clue what is going on. I'm hoping that AskMeFi can help. [more inside]
Can you recommend any parenting books or resources for "Third Country Kids"? There are lots of threads with anecdata and links to books written by adults who were "Third Country Kids" themselves, but I'm looking for evidence-based advice I can use myself, especially in the area of small kids' language development. [more inside]
I love this tropicana leaf doona cover / quilt cover. It is no longer available from Target Australia. Where can I get the same fabric (so I can make my own), or the same quilt cover from another source? I have tried to google an answer but to no avail. Any option must be available to ship to Australia.
I want to use Instagram to follow people who post artsy things, but not fine art, necessarily. Who should I follow? [more inside]
My non-twin toddler apparently speaks a gibberish language of her own with distinct and consistent words, phrases, and intonation. She has had no exposure to other languages nor mixed with other children her own age until very recently. Can a singleton create their own "twinspeak?" [more inside]
Last year, I did very well establishing and tracking habits on HabitBull in my iPhone but now I need a new habit tracker for Android. [more inside]
Is there any hope for us: 9 adults and one toddler looking for the finest dining we can find for one night in Toronto. [more inside]
It's official: I can't have bees without a bear fence. So I have the fence, and now I need a 12-volt, 110-amp-hour deep-cycle battery, preferably a marine battery with a handle. I thought they ran maybe a hundred bucks. Um, nope. The only ones I can find are about $230. Is there a place online to buy batteries? Can somebody who runs a battery-operated fence tell me exactly what they are using and how it is working? I'm kind of stuck on this issue, and meanwhile my hive is unprotected.
Hey there, can you help me with my OKCupid profile? I don't want to lie or smooth things over so I'm looking for ways to make it a little more "user-friendly" without getting rid of the general gist. [more inside]
I'm going through a hard time. What fiction books do you recommend with great writing and a positive outlook? [more inside]
I used to read Comics Alliance daily, and I haven't found another comics site. CBR doesn't scratch the same itch. Any good comics sites out there with a mix of news, reviews, and good essays/columns?
I have read a few SF books over the years that had Libertarian bases. There are two in particular I would like to find. Details follow: [more inside]
For better or worse, I've been one of those people who either intuitively gets something or doesn't persist with it. Usually I've been bright enough to get by. But I am faced with exams now where there are clear gaps in my knowledge, and I can find them hard to identify or fill in. What's a good method to identify what I -don't- know in a question? [more inside]
I'm in Rome tomorrow 7/8 through 7/9 for a concert. Been here before and seen all the "sites". Looking for ways to beat the heat until my concert at 8 PM. [more inside]
For reasons listed at the end of the question, I need to go straight from the gym to work, sans showering. I have an okay process to get from sweaty to relaxed professional, but I'd like some optimization / product recommendations. [more inside]
I'm in the fortunate position of being able to create a job of my choice at an organization I know well. But this job does not exist at the organization right now and I need help coming up with a title. [more inside]
4 year old won't keep his hands off the dog's nipples...I feel like I should do something about this, spouse disagrees. [more inside]
What was your experience with the gallbladder surgery due to gallstones from beginning to the end and the recovery afterwards? Were you in a lot of pain? What did you eat afterwards? Did they keep you in the hospital or did they release you same day? I will have this surgery before I get pregnant because the doctor said it is a big deal if you need a surgery during pregnancy. So even though I am asymptomatic we will remove the gallbladder. Never had an attack but the thought of complication during pregnancy is what makes me want to get this surgery
Songs that describe bleak reality, yet make you feel, Eff it, might as well try and have a good time on the way down. [more inside]
I am starting graduate school at the end of August. My partner and I have previously lived only in dorms, and once rented a room from a family for a year. Now we're looking to rent our first apartment, and are not sure how to best present ourselves in order to increase our chance of being rented to. [more inside]
How do you interrupt the physical symptoms of anxiety and quickly relax? [more inside]
The stairs in my house are plain sealed hardwood and slippery under sock feet; they look good and are easy to clean but I've just earned a second grotesque bruise this year slipping on them. What are the best products/methods can I use to improve traction and save my fool neck? (Bonuses for ease of cleaning and not damaging the wood flooring underneath.)
In a hotel room, suitcases are open on the bed, mother and children unpacking carelessly. A man with a working class and very regional (perhaps Newcastle or Welsh) accent emerges mostly naked from the bathroom, announcing excitedly, and very pleased with himself, "Hey kids! Daddy's done an arse up the towel!" He holds open a large, white bath towel with a long streak of faeces running very nearly from corner to corner. The children are moved to raucous laughter while the mother disapproves ineffectually. [more inside]
I am a registered organ donor in the US and moved to a different state several months ago. Do I need to cancel my previous registration before registering in my current state? [more inside]
I've been on Tumblr on and off since 2014, and many of my favorite blogs have deactivated or gone silent. Help me refresh with some new content! [more inside]
What are the best books about immigrants in America? And what makes those books great? I am especially interested in learning more about the late 19th and early 20th century, including how immigrants were perceived as the "other." Either nonfiction or fiction is fine.
After reading this amazing iberico ham article in a Metafilter post I have decided I need a top end iberico bone-in ham in my life. I want to buy the knife holder, spend 700 dollars, the whole thing. I live in an apartment in a big city. Assuming I follow the care & feeding instructions properly: (1) Will the ham make my whole small place smell like ham? (2) how do you stop bugs from eating the ham / and it will attract rodents or roaches? We have the usual fruit flies and in the summer with the back door open we get bigger flies but nothing else (yet). (3) What, on average, will a cat do with the ham when I'm not looking? [more inside]
One of my TV Boxes is getting a decent speed of 630Mbps. The other is stuck at 100Mbps. Fiber support has not been any help. More below the fold. [more inside]
This is partly a life-insurance question and partly a math question. My parent took out a 100K whole life insurance policy when I was a child. Parent has taken loans against the policy when things were tight over the last 30 or so years. I'm 43 now and have kids. Parent recently told me that I could take over the policy if I wished and make the beneficiary my kids and assume paying the premium and the loan, otherwise she would let it lapse rather than pay back the loan or keep paying the interest and premium. I did for 2016 but I'm now wondering if that was a good idea. Advice? [more inside]
I frequently get phases of terrible sleep. I'm at my wits end. Do you have any other suggestions? [more inside]
Looking to purchase some maternity tights that are a bit more fun than the usual black or nude that you often see—seeking fun colors, patterns, styles. Prefer to buy online. Thanks for your tips!
This is basically a packing question. My husband, 1 year-old daughter and I are a week away from leaving for a weeklong family beach vacation so I'm looking for tips and suggestions regarding logistics (what to pack, rent, etc.). [more inside]
Almost certainly overthinking this, but what's the best (easiest, liked by everyone, fancy enough to impress my mom) salad I can make to go with spaghetti and meatballs tomorrow? Also is there a VERY SIMPLE dressing I can make? [more inside]
I have so many great chances to pursue my passion into a career I can mold and make my own...so why am I not going for it? How can I get re-energized, organized, and motivated? [more inside]
A person who sent me unwanted sexual facebook messages about a year ago is now running for a major political office. Help me handle this in an ethical and responsible way. [more inside]
I'd like to help friends celebrate the adoption of their 8 year old daughter. [more inside]
After dying my hair for my entire adult life I have been forced into stopping dying my hair and the grey is coming, especially at my temples. I really want to just speed up the transitioning process. Is there anything that ACTUALLY works to help speed hair growth and ease the transition that DOESN'T involve dying my hair in any way? [more inside]
It may well be observation bias, but I seem to be noticing a lot of very pregnant women here in NYC lately. Is there any documented evidence of a spike in pregnancies tied to, say, election night stress relief?
I've got a bunch of travel coming up and a Kindle on the way. What should I load it with? [more inside]
Sadly, The Bookshop, a Chapel Hill wonderland, is closing. I got my dude a 300-year-old book for his birthday for such a deal (partly because it's not in great condition, not a first edition, etc.). We love our new old book and want to know how to take care of it and enjoy it. [more inside]
Friends from overseas are asking me where to find "inexpensive souvenirs" in Boston. I'm kind of stumped, and suggested museums or the guys in the Common who sell t shirts... any other thoughts where to get souvenirs?
I'm looking for recommendations of books, movies, lectures, YouTube videos, anything that helps alleviate suicidality and depression. For movies I'm seeking uplifting and intelligent (with no misogyny), and books that are either distracting & intelligent fiction, helpful, or that chronicle how someone got through depression or suicidality or severe trauma to live a fulfilling life. I haven't been able to find any like the latter. Thanks! [more inside]
I love my bicycle - but the sad thing has sat in a wet, dusty spot for 4 years without me riding it. Now I'm moving across the country to a neighborhood that's great for bikes. Should I pay to move this sad, rusty thing and then pay to get it fixed up in my new city? Or should I just buy a new bike? [more inside]
I moved internationally recently, and since I couldn't find a subletter the landlord liked, I ended up agreeing with the landlord to pay for an extra month while I'd entrust the key to a friend, who'd make sure the furniture I had left for the subletter would be removed. Most of the furniture made its way out, but the two couches don't fit back down the stairs easily, and my friend and I are both panicking because we really want to get them out so we can hand over the keys! [more inside]
Can Trump/GOP use the Election Integrity Commission as a way of invalidating or challenging the legitimacy of election results of entire states or parts of states? [more inside]
Sort of by accident, I've volunteered to organise a small "humanist/secularist/pluralist" group. This looks likely to take the form of a book club. Can anyone recommend some suitable books? Specific requirements inside. [more inside]
I did find the google doc templates section, but it's mostly resumes (there are two items under "Personal" and one is a pet resume.) What I'm looking for is journal/diary template that will let me type in entries, accommodates photos and has a kind of classic/elegant typography. Happy to pay for it. Doesn't have to be google docs -- open to templates in Pages, Word, or other platforms. [more inside]
I used too much dishwasher salt on my glasses a few times, and now they are always cloudy. How can I get them back to being see through and shiny? I tried a few hot rinses, but it didn't help.
I filed a complaint against a previous therapist. What can I expect ahead, and how can I cope and take care of myself? [more inside]
Where can I go for a few days with my dog to read and not talk to people within a couple hours of Chicago? [more inside]
My 6 year old son has expressed interest in playing a tabletop game. Help! [more inside]
Has anyone worked with a great immigration lawyer/immigration consultant in British Columbia recently & obtained permanent residence in Canada? [more inside]
This past weekend I asked a woman to go out in the next few weeks and she agreed. She's pushing to have that date now despite agreeing to said date in a few weeks because of my overly busy schedule. How do I kindly get it across that no means no? (oh yes, there's more inside) [more inside]
If my life partner and I both pursue professorships, are we doomed to a terrible choice between career and relationship due to the necessity of following available posts wherever we can? [more inside]
I'm new to an org and want to impress. Everyone works remotely and relies on a shared set of tools to communicate and share (e.g. Slack, Teamwork Projects, G Suite). Is there a way to securely view the critical components (e.g., new messages, upcoming deadlines, a job board) of the different tools all on one screen? I imagine (and would like to recommend) a secure, central dashboard sort of solution where each person may login, possibly with drag and drop functionality. Ideas? [more inside]
I've always been confused about how the total number of people doing something is determined. For instance, this site says 88% of people in the U.S. use the Internet and slightly more than 10% don't. [more inside]
I came across this recording of Beekman Blues and I love it. If anyone could recommend more solo guitar tracks along these lines, I'd be thrilled!
Was "Magyu" beef ever a legitimate variant spelling of "Wagyu" beef, especially, say, in the 1980s? Google shows a few hits, and it wouldn't be a typing typo, since W and M aren't near each other on the keyboard, but it could just be people not paying attention.
One of my friend's daughter is having trouble navigating her student loans. I believe she's currently deferred but wants to start making payments on a limited income. On some of the podcasts I listen to I remember hearing an ad for an organization that basically offers just this kind of assistance. Does anyone know who they are? [more inside]
I am overweight and sedentary and hate exercise, but I'm scared of continuing this way. [more inside]
I'm shooting a dressy music video in the hot, hot desert. What can I do (without the benefit of a dedicated makeup person) to keep myself from looking like a sweaty, shiny mess and/or Marcel Marceau? [more inside]
I have a number of clothing items made by my grandmother. I'd like to buy labels for them so that future generations will know where they came from. There are many, many people on Etsy selling such labels. How can I narrow my search, and what do I need to consider when I choose? Is there somewhere besides Etsy where I should be looking? [more inside]
I'm looking for a Western Art History overview that is primarily focused on labor: who is making the art, how are they making it, who gets paid and why. History of guilds, craftsmen strikes, a history of people usually ignored in art history narratives and the salon system all welcome topics. I'm not interested in anything heavily before 1300 or after 1930. [more inside]
Last year, after the original tenant gave notice for our two-bedroom apartment, I signed a lease with my (previously civil) landlord so I could stay on. The apartment was in need of serious repairs with a visibly cracked deck. (I have photos; there was a half-foot crack in the cement.) He said he didn't want "replacement roommates" and I didn't understand that it meant that I would have to be the sole tenant for the apartment, since, frankly, I had never heard of a landlord suggesting such a thing. After I realized this was the case, I made plans to leave; before I gave notice, I got a number of text threats from him, with zero provocation, saying he would evict me if I found a roommate, and that the neighbors "would be watching me" if I tried. During this time he made no move toward repairing the deck. After I moved out, he kept a fraction of the deposit, destroyed property left behind (this is against California law), and immediately set about repairing and remodeling the unit. Since then, I've found housing ads from other tenants in the same building who are replacing their departing roommates, seemingly with his blessing. Is it worth pursuing any recourse with HUD or another agency? [more inside]
I'm planning on writing a steampunk fiction book disguised as a non-fiction history book. I don't want to go into the details of what it's about, but I would sure like research material on it. As cool as I find steampunk, I want to make sure the book reflects the society, culture, politics, problems and 'feel' of the Victorian era. What are some great books on Victorian history (or actual historic Victorian books) that would be beneficial to writers of steampunk? Specific details below. [more inside]
Seeking recipes for sour cherries! Got some from the farm share and they are tart.
I have an iPhone with a calendar full of events that originate from a CalDAV server. I do not currently use iCloud for calendar data, and would like to migrate to it. How do I import all my existing events over to an iCloud calendar? [more inside]
I've been asked to look into these socks, for my grandmother, who's been suffering from swollen legs of late. My mom says that she saw them advertised on TV. I think it's a scam, but figured I'd ask here just to be sure. [more inside]
My nine-year-old daughter is very bright, outgoing, and fun. She does very well in school and has a good group of friends. She is a joy to be with. But she is utterly afraid of taking part in any activity that presents an opportunity where she could possibly fail (even if it is unlikely), and I see this holding her back. Looking for strategies from former kids who successfully addressed this fear, or from parents who have had a similar challenge. [more inside]
I have wide hips with no booty and skinny legs. Really, the only reason I know this is because pants that fit me in the hips have lots of extra fabric in the butt and thighs, while jeans that fit me in the legs and butt are waaaaay too small for my hips. [more inside]
My commute is such that I need to get a bike I can leave at the train station overnight, so I can cycle the last bit of my journey. I'm going to get a second-hand one (budget about £100), but what should I be looking for? (I don't know much about bikes.) [more inside]
I'd like to buy a nice gold-colored cuff (wide bracelet) that will last. My budget is sterling-silver type costs, one bracelet I like is $200 in SS and $1500 in gold. I usually buy the cheap gold colored jewelry pieces from Ann Taylor, Banana Republic, etc. which tarnish or flake off after a few months of use. What gold-colored options do I have that will not tarnish or flake? Mostly interested in advice on materials to look for, but if you have places where I should shop, so much the better.
I spent my 20s alone and now find myself soon to be married. How do I learn to give up old ambitions and embrace the next chapter of my life? [more inside]
What's the best/simplest way to arrange train travel from Paris to Mont Saint-Michel as Americans visiting in the fall? [more inside]
I just did a job interview with a European company, but I’m from the USA. They want to reimburse me for my travel expenses, and asked me to email them my bank account number and routing number. [more inside]
I've got some extra money coming in and I'm thinking of getting a small tablet or netbook (circa 10 inch) that I can bring on the go to work on writing and possibly games making (& playing on occasion). I already have a Macbook Pro but am interested in something with Windows because some of the software I'm interested in is Windows-only. My budget is around $500, in Australia. [more inside]
I'd like to combine and effective weight training and cardio regime to tone the muscle I have and to lose weight around my belly. Has anyone got a good workout schedule I could follow? [more inside]
Asking for a friend who writes: "What film is this? Black male in a car gets a milkshake and puts a beetle in it with a pair of tweezers then sends it back to the burger joint to complain."
Help me get my container garden's tomato and pepper plants to set fruit. [more inside]
Who should I follow on Pinboard or elsewhere (Twitter, Alltop, Blogs..) for high quality links. I'm looking to curate my feeds to include more interesting individuals who post links to content I wouldn't have found otherwise. Areas of interest include: Science, Medicine, Programming, Learning and all kinds of general weirdness.
I just went five days without eating anything more than a breakfast of coffee and granola each day and once two slices of pizza. [more inside]
My preschooler has seen that panda birth video on Facebook. What other kinds of animal birth videos would he like? [more inside]
I want to use a second wifi router in my house to improve coverage (because the first wifi router -- also our Internet gateway -- is at one end of the house). Can I have the wired ports on the second device live, getting DHCP addresses from the first router? [more inside]
I enjoyed (most) of the stories in 'Difficult Women" and am looking for something similar. I prefer stories set in contemporary North America, female protagonists, featuring scrappy and interesting characters. Ethnicity (or lack thereof) is no concern either way. Not looking for historical fiction, romance, or erotica. Suspense is good. Read a bunch of horror lately so I'm bored with horror for now. Please recommend audiobooks for me!
I'm a Canadian living in the US with my American husband and our Canadian toddler. I just got my green card. We have been waiting for our son's US citizenship papers to be sent to us. Now there is some confusion about whether those papers were correctly filed and if his citizenship is on the way, or if we need to start from the beginning. In the meantime... my question is, can I travel to Canada (AND BACK!) with my toddler next week? We know we can go into Canada, but will he be able to come back? We will be calling immigration tomorrow, but in the meantime we are confused and worried. thank you.
Several people and I have started a Facebook Messenger group chat for coordinating local Pokemon Go Raids (ALL THE TYRANITAR!). Naturally the group has started to grow in number and there some potentially troublesome people who've been added to the group. Is there any sort of permissions or admin roles within Facebook Messenger? [more inside]
I am seeking a therapist, for the first time since high school, and I want to do well at it. How can I prepare myself to maximize the return I get from each session? How do I make sure that this expensive listening session is something I actually listen to and act on? More details are below. [more inside]
Help me compile a list of small, specific fitness goals to work towards. [more inside]
It seems like I never learned how to end a conversation. Some of my conversations end naturally, while others I'll get "trapped" in for way longer than I intend. How should I think about this, or what approaches can I use, to naturally end a conversation when I want it to end? [more inside]
Last year I had an emergency appendectomy, which had complications that required an ambulance trip to the hospital while I was under. A few days ago I was notified out of the blue that my credit report was changed, turns out I had an $1800 ambulance bill I didn't know about go to collections. [more inside]
In April I was diagnosed with acute stress-related anxiety and depression and prescribed with Citalopram. The crisis has now passed. When can I stop taking the drugs? [more inside]
I saw Baby Driver yesterday, and the soundtrack blew my mind. In particular, I love the first track by the John Spencer Blues Explosion, "Bellbottoms." I love the synthesis of the violins, the rhythm of the song, and the crazy vocals. I don't think I've ever heard anyone quite like them, and yet I can hear a ton of influences in the song. I want more! I know nothing about JSBX. Which album should I start with? Who else would I love, if I like this song?
Hi hive mind, An unseen dweller has taken residence underneath my skirting board and I have no idea who/what it could be. Throughout the day, we will find bits of dirt or little black stones emanating from a singular location from the skirting board. http://imgur.com/a/wtyqL Our research has indicated it could be a beetle or ants or ... the list goes on. Has anyone else seen this before and know what it is and more importantly, how to get rid?
I am looking for nonfiction, long form journalism articles, accessible academic ethnography, and documentary films about contemporary U.S. cultures. [more inside]
My husband and I just moved into an amazing garden apartment in Brooklyn, along with our little dog. Yay! Of course, the garden comes with bugs. Nah, no thank you. Help us sort-of-preemptively debug our place/get rid of the silverfish we already saw in the tub this morning? [more inside]
The first place I would go in the library as a kid was the puzzle section and those right next to it. I remember lots of books that were more of a hodgepodge of games, puzzles, poems and cultural memes. They were really geared towards kids or teens and would have likely been published between 1960 and 1990. What are the likely titles and/or authors of these books? [more inside]
Unless I've done badly on my final certification exam, I'll be certified to teach Math to middle schoolers in NYC by September 1st. What should I do between now and then to prepare? [more inside]
Help finding a song [more inside]
I have about 22TB~ of data sitting on a NAS server in our living room and I don't have a clue what the hell I need to do to manage it or save it. I'd seriously hate to lose any of the data on it. What do I need to know? What do I need to do? [more inside]
Not looking for recommmendations as much as a better understanding of how this works. I have dental insurance, I search the provider page for dentists within 5 miles, and am able to see 100 of the 500 available without filtering by name. I google each practice (not each provider) and veto anyone with bad reviews (on average) or no web presence/reviews. I am left with three dentists. [more inside]
I'm trying to find out how likely it is that an American artist working in 1934 would have seen Max Ernst's 1921 painting "The Elephant Celebes". I know that it was first displayed in America in 1936—would that have been the first time it was seen by the American public? Is there any way to find out if it appeared in an American book or magazine before then?
I am in love with these liquid metal-dipped boulders, currently displayed in the Walker Museum's Minneapolis Sculpture Garden. Can I replicate or approximate them in our back yard? [more inside]
Last week, my long-term relationship ended and I quit my job. I need a solo trip to reset and process before I start the next phase of my life. I am leaning towards taking the train somewhere (for reasons below the fold) and am based in Portland, OR. [more inside]
What are some medical symptoms / issues that many people don't realize are serious? [more inside]
I have an important presentation early next week that I need to attend via WebEx and phone while sitting in the passenger seat of a car hurtling down the Interstate in middle-of-nowhere Indiana. If I can get a reliable WiFi hotspot (Verizon preferred, AT&T okay) I can make this happen. For reasons I'd rather not discuss, stopping somewhere to take the call is not a good option. What's the best way to make this happen? [more inside]
I'm calling bingo at a community garden fundraiser event. I'd love to have some vegetable-adjacent facts for each bingo number that I could relate while calling. For example: "Next number is B2! Vitamin B2 is riboflavin, which is found in spinach!" [more inside]
It's a stretch, but Metafilter is surprisingly good at finding things. What was this comedy radio show I heard 15 years ago? [more inside]
I'm a late-20s male who is going to be a single working parent of a 1-month-old baby for two weeks later this month. I feel like this sounds like the plot of slapstick comedy and am asking for the hive mind's help to make this time as boring and uneventful as possible. [more inside]
We're getting ready to sell our condo and buy a house, and we need an attorney. Is there any problem with working with an attorney who's married to our agent? [more inside]
For Reasons, I have a lot of condoms (somewhere in the range of 100-200). Where can I donate them in NYC? [more inside]
It's very hot on the second floor during the summer and I want to install a mini-split. The problem is that none of my exterior walls are in a shared space. [more inside]
I'm a 26yo single woman currently living and working in Cambridge, MA. I love New England and am considering buying a home. I'm priced out of Boston/Cambridge/Somerville, but there are some options that are both in my price range and appealing in the north shore area. Help me think through whether or not moving makes sense? [more inside]
I'm reliving the '80s through music, but strictly non-English-language music so it all sounds new to me. I am asking for a two-fer here: artists in the vein of Kim Larsen, Jacques Dutronc, Mylène Farmer, Etienne Daho, Daniel Balavoine - and used CD or vinyl stores in Occitane where I might scratch this particular itch. [more inside]
Hello uterus-having friends! At the end of my cycle, I soak my Diva Cup in a 1:1 solution of hydrogen peroxide and (usually) warm water. Is this a bad idea? [more inside]
What should this job title be? The employee performs independent academic research as an "emerging professional" within their field. The work is at a non-profit humanities company. The employee may be finishing their PhD or recently graduated in the last 5 years, but the work is more advanced than an internship. The contract is for 1-year, non-renewable. The goal of the job is to end with a research product like a panel discussion or published paper in a journal. We want to avoid the word Temporary (like a temp?) in the job title. I am looking for terms like Special Projects or scholar-in-residence, to convey a sense of prestige but also the temporary nature of the work. We hope the job title looks good on their CV.
My lower and mid back, and to a lesser extent my shoulders, suddenly started aching and being really stiff a couple weeks ago, and it's only getting worse. Nothing has changed in my lifestyle or activities. What is going on? [more inside]
I like podcasts, and I’m excited about the relatively recent explosion of professionally produced commercial content: Serial and S-Town and all the Gimlet shows and all the Radiotopia shows and the like. But I miss the guy in his basement oddball shows that surfaced during podcasting's earliest days. Please point me to underground weirdo noncommercial smalltime podcasts that you find interesting. (I'm not interested in comedy at all, though -- please nobody making jokes.)
We're moving to a place with no white goods (fridge, freezer, dishwasher, washine machine) and want to buy new, energy-efficient ones that will last us for a while. [more inside]
There’s a ton of great content out there nowadays that I have the best intentions of listening to, but I find it hard to ever get around to doing so. It’s not like my schedule is booked up — when I’m at home, I often have NPR on all day, and will listen to the same show twice if I’m not paying attention. [more inside]
I've been working for a company in the UK for two weeks and have been offered a more attractive job that will start in 6 weeks. At what point should I inform my current employer if I want to preserve as much pay as possible? [more inside]
A toxic relationship has left me questioning everything about myself and I'd like some good advice on how to rebuild my damaged self esteem. [more inside]
There's a Thai massage parlour down the street, and every day there's a table outside with 2-3 small glasses (with bright red, white, and/or clear liquids) and 1-2 small bowls (with a spoonful of rice or a couple of biscuits). I've never seen anyone eat or drink it. Any ideas why it's there - does it have any cultural significance?
So, I get a message and click "View translated message." I know Google Translate has lots of errors, but it is a quick way to triage emails to see if they need careful reading. Gmail says "monkey suit," but message copied and pasted into Google Translate yields "undergraduate application." What gives? [more inside]
I'd like to avoid an ER bill but I'd also like to not get infected. [more inside]
I have a major, lingering crush on a close friend. I would like to tell her. Would that be horribly selfish? What do I say? Complications: long distance, she's gay and I'm bi (and female) but have almost only dated men. [more inside]
After several years of suffering through NONSTOP fireworks in my neighborhood every day and night for the week surrounding fourth of July, I am DONE. Next year, I'm packing up the cat and driving as far into isolation as possible. But where?!?! Description of what I'm looking for inside: [more inside]
Hello. I am wondering how can one become a literary magazine editor? How do you build your way to the top? What degrees and skills should I be aiming for? I know a lot of online literary editors are mostly voluntary positions. Yet, this is something I have always wanted to do -- I just do not know where to start exactly. I was recently accepted to become a volunteer reader for an online literary magazine and that is probably the lowest ranking -- I guess one must build a gradual pace up the literary ladder. I cannot really afford to start my own online literary magazine since it can cost quite a bit. Maybe finding people that wish to start one might be an idea. I am eager to hear people's opinions constrictive and criticisms. Thank-you.
Are there any great tattoo artists who specialize in colour work on deeper shades of skin, or who have this featured extensively in their portfolios? Not really interested in blackwork, just colour. I'm aware of Miryam Lumpini; surely there are others? [more inside]
I am about to put in a little online book order and would like your suggestions to help round it out. [more inside]
How can I turn down requests for my cell number from acquaintances who want to ramp up relationship to friend level? [more inside]
Having severe difficulty trying to access old files to get them off the device. When using the device's own prompts, it shows shared folders as empty - but its disk management suggests there's still 499GB hiding out somewhere. Please help me figure this out. [more inside]
My wife paints high end figurative and portraiture paintings and will use digital images to help capture "tricky spots". It is not uncommon for her to work with the same image for hours at a time, without any adjustments. She has graduated from 11 X 17 prints, to her computer screen, and now we use an older 40" LED HDTV with an HDMI cable. [more inside]
Can you ID this plant? Dug July 4 in Michigan. Roots were reddish and also resembled bean sprouts. Pic on Tw1tter.
Talk to me about converting (part of) a warehouse, industrial space, or otherwise non-traditional structure into a home. Logistics, (im)practicalities, things to consider, etc. [more inside]
Based on family history, my genetic counselor has told me that my family has a BRCA mutation -- the kind that doesn't show up on the current tests. As a result, I'm in a position where I have to decide whether to get major, life-altering surgeries without knowing whether I have the mutation. Is there somebody, somewhere who could determine whether I'm positive -- possibly by sequencing my genome? [more inside]
I sometimes need to tie my long, wavy hair back. But my hair yearns to be free, and little by little, it escapes. The escapees dance wildly in a halo around my head and look very, very, very silly. They wander in every direction, defying gravity and curling together into 4"+ long horns. Strangers do a double take. Coworkers look at me strangely and try to hide their grins. Friends constantly make fun of me. Trust me, it is BAD. [more inside]
I have a small ceramic miniature figure, about two inches across and an inch tall. It's not valuable, but it's perfect for one of our D&D monsters. But it's hollow porcelain and rather thin at that. Is there some way to make it more resistant to the rough-and-tumble life of tabletop? [more inside]
After camping for two nights and experiencing a complete lack of back pain (! a huge rarity for me), I'm thinking it's a good idea to get a firm futon mattress to help with my back pain. I slept on the ground with just a yoga mat and a sleeping bag, and it was magnificent. How can I approximate this best in my home? [more inside]
I snagged a couple of pounds of Callebaut semi-sweet chocolate powder on the cheap. Now what do I do with it? How do I use it in baked goods? [more inside]
My daily treat to myself is a mid-afternoon coffee. But, I recently learnt that coffee causes hydrogen peroxide to synthesize in the body. I know this is probably in very small quantities but still I'd like to minimize my exposure to it... [more inside]
Why is it so freakishly quiet at night this summer? [more inside]
I have a high tech software company, and am looking to partner with research institutions. I am familiar with grants.gov for SBIR/STTR, but I am looking to find projects that Universities themselves can subcontract parts of to companies. Not sure where they would advertise such contracts or if they are even allowed to do this outside of the Federal umbrella. Any pointers welcome!
I'll be visiting New York City in the last week of August and i'd like to see a few underground, alternative and up-and-coming acts. [more inside]
I manage a very small team who deal with support requests directly by phone or email. What can we use to log these calls/emails in a simple, painless way? [more inside]
Boyfriend is fearful-avoidant; I'm secure-ish/anxious-ish. Help. [more inside]
I'm applying for a job with a public agency at the State of California. I want to find out what their maternity leave policies are without disclosing my plans to get pregnant. Are these policies online somewhere? [more inside]
I finish eating a meal, and I want to eat again straight away. Why? [more inside]
A different tack on NYC housing. If price were no object, and you wanted to live in the most artistically rich and inspiring part of Manhattan, where would it be? [more inside]
I'm an American currently in Hong Kong and I need to get a routine medical exam, including chest x-ray and HIV test, for a work visa to a third country. I'm looking for recommendations of doctors, clinics, etc--as well as any useful "this will be different than the American health care system you're used to" advice. [more inside]
How much would it cost per month to keep your house heated/cooled if you lived somewhere like Vegas and had a rather large house (say, 3500-4000 sq. feet?)
So Trader Joe's has discontinued their chocolate covered cranberries, which are very close to my favorite food. I'm looking for the best replacement. [more inside]
The future of antibiotic-resistent bacteria is not good news for us. So what other ways to specifically combat dangerous bacteria have people in distant times and/or distant lands used? Assuming I'm already eating a good diet, getting enough sleep, living in a fairly hygienic situation, praying to God, and washing my hands a lot. [more inside]
Please recommend me a good contractor (mason? architect?) in Pittsburgh. Angie's List and I aren't speaking at the moment, and I'm without a source for reliable contractor recommendations. Stuff I wanna have done is under the fold. [more inside]
The central air conditioning unit of my tiny 500 square foot 1-bedroom condo in DC went out. It's gonna be in the 90's for a while. Quotes are significantly higher than I expected. [more inside]
This is an organization founded by a seasoned journalist in a third-world country (where government censorship is alive and well). The venture aims at nurturing and mainstreaming critical investigative journalism. [more inside]
I don't know how to have an adult relationship with my dad. He loves me deeply and is very proud of me, which I know makes me lucky. However, I get really stressed around him and I feel really guilty about how distant of a relationship I'd prefer to have with him, given how desperately he wants a relationship with me. I'm looking for some advice in figuring out a happy medium given what's going on. [more inside]
I'm using a large and complicated set of equations to predict numerical data. Could this job be done instead by a neural network trained on the whole data set of input data and predicted data? [more inside]
What do I need to do to get an excellent smooth finish if I DIY paint an interior door? [more inside]
My kitten's poops smell like the description on the inside. Kitten is picture of health and has seen vet recently. What could be causing this STINK FOR THE LOVE OF GOD [more inside]
I'm going to be traveling to various parts of the U.S. in late August / early September, and will be staying in Boise starting around August 20 in order to see the eclipse as part of a pre-arranged group outing. But I'll be there for at least a few days, anywhere from three to five. So I'd like to ask what there is to do there, and a few other questions if anyone would like to help me out. [more inside]
How can we get The Happiest Toddler On The Block audiobook / CD on or before July 6? We would really like to listen to it on an upcoming road trip, but it seems that it's not available for download and if we order off Amazon, Barnes & Noble, or eBay it won't arrive in time (Amazon bizarrely has a month-long wait). Even torrent sites are failing me - they only have the book or the DVD. Is there anywhere else I could get the audiobook?
I have 4 cats (pics inside!). Help me take to them to the vet (1) with a little stress as possible (1a) for the cats and (1b) for me, and (2) as efficiently as possible. Last time, I tried to take them in pairs on the same day (2 in the morning, 2 in the afternoon) and it did not go well... [more inside]
A young man has been in our store about an hour. He's quiet and there aren't any other customers around so I've been giving him some space. He can speak in sentences but is confused, having trouble remembering his name and phone number. I assume he's homeless. I can't let him stay here but I'm reluctant to just kick him out or call the police. Is there some agency I can call that can deal with him humanely? Other suggestions welcome.
I started a new job 2 months ago, in a position I don't have direct experience in but I do have indirect experience in. Let's say I am a teacher without previous classroom experience but have taught things to others before (not my real job). The past couple of weeks were rough...had to make some hard decisions and face some stressful situations that I've never done before. Add to that some miscommunications between me, team members, and supervisor and I'm a giant anxious mess. How can I calm my thoughts, fight through my insecurity, and get back on the right track? [more inside]
I have a friend who is interested in getting into voice over work. What does he need to do to get into the business? [more inside]
I work in a large organization where I sometimes socialize with my colleagues. One Friday we went out for drinks after work and I clearly had too much. Stupid decisions after the jump. [more inside]
We have a Crunchyroll account, purchased during the Great Yuri! On Ice Frenzy of '16. We only really watch one or two shows. What else should we watch? [more inside]
I'm talking about those giant water bugs/palmetto bugs/giant cockroaches. Whatever you call them. They travel alone, so it's not an infestation; I see one to three a year on average, usually in hot, humid weather in my Brooklyn apartment. Just saw one this morning. I lose a few months off my life whenever I encounter one. [more inside]
I think I want to booze up this coconut tres leches cake for a 4th of July party tomorrow. Two questions: 1) is this a thing people generally like? and 2) how do I do it best? [more inside]
After a few years of experimenting, I have begun drinking kombucha every day. I brew it myself, and I'm looking for sources for now that I know it will be an ongoing expense. It seems like black tea works best with the SCOBY cultures, so I am looking for that most of the time. I occasionally will try other things like green teas, and am open to recommendations. [more inside]
It didn't look like I ever got a bill. I realize paying this is still my responsibility whether I got a bill or not, but I think they counted on me forgetting. Suddenly I have a bill with $179 and phone calls from Synchrony Bank. I believe that equals two late charges of $35 each tacked on to the original $99. So, 60 days behind. Grrrr. [more inside]
With the recent gangsterization of Photobucket, I'm wondering what are the best alternatives for hosting images to use as embeds or links for demonstration purposes. [more inside]
Worker bee seeks help thinkin