July 2016 Archives

July 31

Poke-educate me

Without making me play any games, what can I read or watch to quickly educate me about Pokemon? [more inside]
posted by egeanin at 8:39 PM PST - 10 comments

Solution for matching citations to bibliography

I need to be able to match in text citations to reference list(s) and back again in very large documents (1000+ pages) WITHOUT the use of referencing software like Endnote*. I'd like to automate this as much as possible. [more inside]
posted by b33j at 6:21 PM PST - 16 comments

Old car, new (Bluetooth) tricks? Help me get my groove on.

Can I pair multiple (ideally, 3-4) Bluetooth speakers in my car that will run off my iPhone? My car is old and it's not possible to get Bluetooth installed unless I replace the entire sounds system. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by sealee at 5:14 PM PST - 21 comments

A camera as good as the one on the Galaxy S6?

Is there a compact camera that is as good as the camera on the Samsung Galaxy S6 but is considerably cheaper than the S6 itself? [more inside]
posted by storybored at 4:37 PM PST - 1 comment

Gaiman, Pratchett, and "Good Omens" - what do I read next?

I've never read any Neil Gaiman or Terry Pratchett, but am now in the middle of Good Omens and really enjoying it. An attempt years ago to get into the first of the Discworld series failed early (I'm generally a lukewarm fantasy fan at best), but for some reason, this hits the spot - what other titles from either of them should I try next?
posted by ryanshepard at 2:58 PM PST - 33 comments

What to do with extra money originally deferred for company ESPP?

I recently quit my job and started another, with my termination date unfortunately a day before the company purchases shares for an ESPP. So I now have a good chunk of money originally set aside for investing in my (now former) company. Any suggestions what I should do with it? Single-stocks, mutual funds, robo-advisors (e.g. Wealthfront), Roth IRA, index funds? About me: I'm 29, single male, renting, no loans or debts, and make a decent salary as a Silicon Valley medical device engineer, so I'm not pressed for cash or anything and are more open to risk. No need for specifics, just some ideas.
posted by beammeup4 at 2:24 PM PST - 5 comments

NYC help! 4 month stay in Manhattan with sporadic travel to Princeton

Hello New Yorkers, I have two friends here in Spain who will be visiting scholars in the US for 4 months between October and January. The catch is that one will be working in NYU and the other at Princeton. Ideally, they would like to stay in or near Manhattan, but in an area that makes it as easy as possible to travel to Princeton. [more inside]
posted by sic at 1:58 PM PST - 21 comments

Addressing mail to a Icelandic hotel guest who hasn't arrived yet

The hotel in Iceland where we are staying will hold mail that arrives before we do. How should I tell people to address the envelopes? [more inside]
posted by emelenjr at 1:56 PM PST - 8 comments

Best way to memorize poetry?

Part of Kid BlahLaLa's summer schoolwork is memorizing two poems. What's the best way to do this? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 12:27 PM PST - 29 comments

"Quality control" for programmers in the pharmaceutical industry

I recently applied for a job in the pharmaceutical industry as a statistical programmer. I was told that if I successfully move to the next stage of the selection procedure, I will need to set a "quality control" test, in addition to a programming test. I would like to know "quality control" means in this context, so that I can try to prepare myself. [more inside]
posted by mister_kaupungister at 12:10 PM PST - 8 comments

How to Talk to Strangers?

I’m terrible at striking up conversation with people that I don’t know. Some of this is my thought patterns and attitudes, some of it is my anxiety, but I’m realizing more and more that I just never quite learned how to properly do it. [more inside]
posted by gregoryg at 11:40 AM PST - 14 comments

Found a Cockatiel- Now what?

How do I care for a cockatiel while searching for his owners. [more inside]
posted by superior julie at 11:25 AM PST - 20 comments

Family and Politics

How do I convince my stepfather that Hillary Clinton is not actually an evil, "ice queen", and might be worth giving a second chance? [more inside]
posted by madelf at 11:06 AM PST - 31 comments

Where do people keep their guns?

I want to know where gun owners tend to keep their guns. As I reason, there are only a few places that can be; (1) at home, (2) in their car or (3) on their person. Are there any statistics or studies that show where people keep their primary firearm - one they may say is mostly for protection as opposed to hunting or target practice (even though that firearm may be used interchangeably by some owners)?
posted by CollectiveMind at 10:52 AM PST - 13 comments

Don't come out of your shell.

Is it OK to eat the shells with soft or hard boiled eggs? [more inside]
posted by flourpot at 10:25 AM PST - 13 comments

Seeking quote on how adding boys to a task decreases amount of work done

Don't know who wrote it, though Mark Twain and Robert Heinlein came to mind. It's about boys working on a task, possibly in a frontier or rural setting. It goes something like: 1 boy is worth 1 boy, 2 boys are worth 1/2 a boy and 3 boys don't get any work done.
posted by Homer42 at 9:42 AM PST - 8 comments

Confused what to do career wise

Hello everyone, I was wondering if you could help me as I'm feeling a bit lost. My family are encouraging me to become a teacher, as I've been in the education system for three years and I am good at it, but I do not enjoy teaching children... More inside [more inside]
posted by akita at 9:15 AM PST - 6 comments

Non-loud metal shirts

I like my music loud, but not my fan shirts. Help me find subtle shirts for my favourite bands please. [more inside]
posted by mirthe at 8:54 AM PST - 7 comments

Is bankruptcy my best option?

Due to a workplace accident I returned to college to get some training and skills in a new field. Now I am saddled with what feels like an overwhelming amount of debt, with creditors threatening "court action" against me. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend at 8:27 AM PST - 15 comments

How do I get my New York car title document?

A year ago, I bought a car from my family in Alabama. I brought it to my home in New York, and got it properly registered here. This involved giving the New York DMV the Alabama title document and being told I'd receive a New York document in the mail. The New York title document never arrived. What do I need to do to get it? [more inside]
posted by ocherdraco at 8:21 AM PST - 2 comments

Learning life skills as adult? What skills should parents teach child?

I grew up in a relatively dysfunctional living situation, and didn't get a chance to pick up on many life skills growing up that one might expect an adult to know. I'd like to fluff out my "life skills resume" resume so I don't feel like a fraud every time I remember that I'm already supposed to be an adult by now. What should I know by now, as an adult, that my parents probably should have taught me? Please limit suggestions to those that you view as essential for a successful adult life. [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 8:11 AM PST - 33 comments

Writing jobs for olds

How might I go about getting an entry-level writing job? Difficulty: not really sure what kind of writing job I'd like, am old, and possibly on the autism spectrum. [more inside]
posted by silly me at 7:13 AM PST - 4 comments

Can I Transfer an Inherited Car To My Name By Mail?

I inherited a car (from my father) - since I live on the other side of the USA (in a different state), can I do the transfer by mail? [more inside]
posted by Risiko at 6:05 AM PST - 3 comments

U.K. National bringing U.S. partner to UK

Have been trying to understand the intricacies of bringing my SO to live in the UK. I'm UK born with dual UK/USA citizenship. She's from the US. We both currently live in the US but would like to move to the UK. [more inside]
posted by aesop at 5:37 AM PST - 3 comments

Is it weird to get underwear altered/taken in?

If so, is there a way to cut down on any weirdness? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by jejak at 4:52 AM PST - 13 comments

Need some help to extricate myself from a volunteer organisation

I need to find the best way to exit from an organisation run by someone who is creating a lot of toxicity, without letting down my fellow volunteers or putting someone else into an uncomfortable position. (Long story inside.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:33 AM PST - 22 comments

Venous Blood Tests Results and No Doctor to Ask

IKYNMD - was at ER on Friday to the Er due to severe upper right quadrant pain under rib - had ultrasound and they found that the cyst that measured 2 cm about a year ago is now 45mm. Then they took venous gas blood test, can someone please tell me what this means - I am between doctors and the ER sent me home with a letter to go to my regular doctor who is on vacation this week. [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 4:13 AM PST - 7 comments

Roadtrip advice: last minute edition (Eastern WA --> SLC)

The fates have conspired to give me a week off with a car to myself and no plans. I am starting out in Wenatchee, WA and need to be back in 7 days to catch a train home. Given my rough draft itinerary, where should I eat and what should I see while I'm out there? [more inside]
posted by Snacks at 12:13 AM PST - 3 comments

July 30

Hair Here; Hair There; Hair, Hair, Everywhere

I have long, dark hair. I know that I will be responsible for a long trail of shed strands and hairballs, possibly for the rest of my life. Thus, I've developed various coping mechanisms: constant vigilance about certain areas of the bathroom, tying my hair up during food prep, &c. I'd like to know what habits you other longhairs keep in order to reduce your hair-trail in home/professional environments -- and on your clothes. [more inside]
posted by miniraptor at 9:06 PM PST - 27 comments

Where’s a good place to go and write (and vacation)?

I have a book proposal I need to write. I would like to leave NYC for a bit to do it. I’m taking off at the end of August/Labor Day weekend, so I have six days. Where should I go? Caveat: I don’t drive. [more inside]
posted by Charity Garfein at 8:45 PM PST - 6 comments

What was a petrified animal doing in this tree?

My cousin's friend recently discovered a small, petrified animal embedded in a tree. He chopped down this tree near Marquette, Michigan, and was cutting firewood when he made this discovery. He describes the animal as about three inches long, and rock hard. Though maybe not visible in the photo, he believes that it may have hind legs. What might this animal have been, and how might it have gotten embedded in a tree? [more inside]
posted by basil at 8:31 PM PST - 10 comments

Which is safer in SE London? Shadwell, Stratford, NewCross/Lewisham?

Hello. I just got confirmation from my Uni that their accommodations are setting me up with a flat in Shadwell. It was my 3rd choice and 2 trains from my college. But just reading online, I didn't realize that Shadwell doesn't have a good reputation, has had some violent crime in recent months and has some... 'Extremist' possible group activities going on there. Therefore I was wondering if anyone has any feedback, insight or experiences w/ this and these neighborhoods in the SE London/Lewisham area who can let me know which may be better options? Here is a map link to my Flat/Dorm building. [more inside]
posted by sam3cat at 6:40 PM PST - 13 comments

Why are my pans greasy?

Can someone explain to me why my non-stick pans are still greasy, even after I thoroughly wash them? I have never had this problem before in my life. Is it something with the water where I now live? (Portland, OR)
posted by Automocar at 6:21 PM PST - 20 comments

Well, yeah, wolves eat lambs, but...

And the lion shall lie down with the lamb. It's in the Bible, right? Well no, Isaiah 11.6 says the wolf will lie down with the lamb. Why do I and so many other people remember it as a lion? [more inside]
posted by kestralwing at 5:31 PM PST - 28 comments

Marine biologists, what was that thing I saw all the time in Bermuda?

I lived in Bermuda for a few years as a little kid. I remember swimming in shallow water and encountering this tubular/ intestine shaped, orangey translucent mass of...stuff...that seemed to ooze up from the sand. [more inside]
posted by Klaxon Aoooogah at 3:07 PM PST - 7 comments

What to buy for a sweet PS4/general entertainment setup?

I'm gonna be coming up on some money soon. Hooray! In order to save money I plan on buying a PS4, but I'm starting from nothing. What sorts of things do I need to have a really fun experience? [more inside]
posted by gucci mane at 2:41 PM PST - 14 comments

What are these Greek cheese pies with honey called?

When I was in Crete recently, the owner of our B&B made us some delicious cheese pies. I would like to know what they are called so I can find a recipe. They were each slightly larger than a pack of cards, made from pastry (I don't think it was filo, but maybe) folded over some sort of soft salty cheese like feta or similar. It looked like they were deep fried or shallow fried in a lot of oil or butter. They were piled in a bowl and drizzled with heated honey. The B&B owner served them with rakomelo and said that was traditional for these pies. [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 2:41 PM PST - 15 comments

How can we screen share iPhone apps?

Hi there! My boyfriend and I would like to be able to do the NYTimes crossword puzzle together, even though we are in different cities. He already has the app, so we are looking for a free way to share or mirror screens on our iPhones. [more inside]
posted by chatongriffes at 2:40 PM PST - 6 comments

my Google Fu is weak

Please help me find a paella cooking video I watched the other day on YouTube that's not showing up in my watched videos history. [more inside]
posted by mon-ma-tron at 12:48 PM PST - 3 comments

fun plane surprises for my nephew!

What are some fun items I can surprise my 5.5 year old nephew with on a 6 hour plane ride? [more inside]
posted by bookworm4125 at 12:37 PM PST - 11 comments

LA Therapist Recommendation

Asking on behalf of a friend. She is looking for an East-of-downtown LA therapist, preferably a woman. My friend is specifically interested in developing stronger relationships skills and working through past relationship trauma, and would also like a therapist who understands the issues surrounding women of color.
posted by nanook at 11:35 AM PST - 1 comment

Should I at least rescue the cat?

Two months ago, I dropped a pair of shoes (value ~$100) off at a cobbler in my neighborhood. He told me he was having problems with his vision, and to give him a couple of weeks to finish the shoes, because he needed to see the doctor that week to fix his vision (cataract surgery??) before he could work on them. That should have been sufficient indication of what was to come.... [more inside]
posted by i_am_a_fiesta at 11:04 AM PST - 7 comments

Is there a single generally accepted concept of per diem payments?

My definition, based on my admittedly limited experience, is that the per diem is paid as a lump sum, either up-front or after the fact, for [per diem amount * days worked] without regard to how much the recipient actually spends. What this company offers is reimbursement for actual expenses up to [per diem amount], with receipts required from the contractor/employee. [more inside]
posted by under_petticoat_rule at 10:44 AM PST - 21 comments

Lightbulb ID

I'm trying to find a replacement for a lightbulb in my bedroom. Pictures 1, 2. Couldn't get a great photo of the text. I don't see anything indicating wattage. The other side of the bulb is stamped that it is made in China. Can anyone provide the search string I need to replace this? Thanks!
posted by prunes at 9:29 AM PST - 5 comments

I just turned 30 and British. Now what?

Nearly a decade ago I discovered that I might be a British dual-citizen. I finally sent in the paperwork, and my application status just changed to "your new passport has been printed and will be delivered shortly." Wow! Thanks, MetaFilter! Now, where do I learn Dual Citizenship 101? What awesome new superpowers do I have, beyond being able to live in the EU UK? [more inside]
posted by SemiSophos at 7:21 AM PST - 24 comments

Me vs. My husband's family

I just had a big blow up with my husband's "mother" and while he's taken my side, the more I think about it, the more it seems his story doesn't hold up, and I feel he kind of provoked the argument, but maybe not on purpose. Looking back, this seems to be a pattern. [more inside]
posted by serenity_now at 6:21 AM PST - 57 comments

Help me (girl in 20s) figure out office-wear? (UK)

I'm in my late 20s and have been a bit of an eternal student, but I'm finally graduating and hope to find a job soon. I don't know what field it'll be in at this point, but office work of some sort. I don't enjoy shopping but I know I will need to look appropriate. The problem is that I don’t have a clear idea what I should be wearing, or the best shops (I’m in the UK) to go to. [more inside]
posted by tangerine_poppies at 6:19 AM PST - 24 comments

Effective home remedies for hair loss in women?

Do you have any good home remedies for hair loss in women? I have noticed that my hairline is receding somewhat. My part looks a bit wider and you just see a bit more of my scalp generally. I cannot identify a cause but it happened over the course of 4-8 months. I eat a good diet with plenty of protein (eggs, etc.). Thyroid tests normal. I have noticed a bit more hairs shed in the shower, but nothing that unusual. No hairs on the pillow, but some on the floor. Scalp okay but a bit of dandruff. I have been using a new hair color but I can't imagine it would cause my hair to fall out at the roots when rest of it is long and healthy looking. The loss is mostly at the temples and top third of my head. I used to have A LOT of hair. Any suggestions or home remedies are welcome!
posted by mintchip at 5:56 AM PST - 8 comments

How do I live this awful job?

My job is awful — and I mean really awful. I can’t get a full night’s sleep, take care of myself, or have a life any more. I’m suffering mentally and physically, but the exit door isn’t clearly marked. I could use some advice...and also, a new job. Lots of shitty snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:46 AM PST - 24 comments

Daycare with unvaxxed kids?

I'm looking for help figuring out how big of a risk this poses. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:46 AM PST - 23 comments

How do I add hyperlinks to a video

So....I'm a bit of a plant nerd and have a nice collection of rare palms and fruit trees in my garden in New Zealand. I also have a nice web-based database where I have information about each plant such as the date I planted it, what I paid for it, and horticultural info (told you I was a nerd!). What I'd really like is to: 1) create a video of the garden, zooming in on each plant, where the viewer can click on that plant and be taken to its relevant webpage for more information. 2) have a textbox appear with the name of tha plant 3) have the option of displaying pictures (e.g. of that same plant in previous years) on screen. [more inside]
posted by sinbarambam at 2:03 AM PST - 7 comments

July 29

Good psychiatric hospital in Florida?

How can I find an inpatient schizophrenia program that will treat my brother like a human being? [more inside]
posted by grokfest at 10:38 PM PST - 6 comments

Finding a helper near Tarpon Springs

I'm trying to figure out how I can get help my sister from 3000 miles away. I'm hoping to be able to hire her a helper or aide to get some very important things done, but I don't know where to start. She's in Palm Harbor FL (near Tarpon Springs). [more inside]
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 9:33 PM PST - 5 comments

Should I go on a trip with my relatively new partner?

I've been dating a person for three months. We booked a short trip but since the booking I learned things about how he processes conflict that concern me. We've had a good conversation since then. I'm not worried for my safety, but is this trip still a good idea? [more inside]
posted by ramenopres at 7:01 PM PST - 44 comments

Should I find a new physiotherapist?

I'm seeing a physiotherapist as part of a treatment plan for chronic pain. Recent events have made me wonder whether I should try and find a new practitioner. But maybe I'm overreacting? [more inside]
posted by Gin and Comics at 6:38 PM PST - 6 comments

Graphical editors for Bootstrap themes that only modify CSS/LESS?

I'm looking for recommendations for a graphical or WYSIWYG-ish editor that can be used to create custom Bootstrap themes by only modifying CSS/LESS code. [more inside]
posted by waxboy at 5:14 PM PST - 6 comments

Questionnaires to answer and show others?

My girlfriend and I have been exchanging answers to the "36 questions to make you fall in love." We typically do one before bed, and they often start interesting conversations We're going to try Proust's Questionnaire next. What other questions can we answer for each other?
posted by d. z. wang at 5:00 PM PST - 7 comments

Science fiction book ID: people can choose the reality they live in

Trying to find a book I saw a review of: there's a huge number of humans at this point (trillions?), either living as uploaded minds in virtual reality, or in actual different physical/constructed realities. In the inciting incident, a main character is told there is no originality anymore: plenty of people across their society are simultaneously, in their own studios, creating pretty much the same thing, independently. [more inside]
posted by mistersix at 4:18 PM PST - 8 comments

What's the music in this video?

Link to video [warning: war footage; people dying]. It could be post punk (eg Durutti Column).
posted by andrewcooke at 4:01 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I thwart the app store redirect ads?

Chrome in iOs. Sites like ESPN now frequently redirect me to the app store without my clicking any ads. It happens frequently enough that I've stopped going to some sites I used to like. Is there anything I can do to stop this? Is Chrome the problem? Hope me!
posted by Joseph Gurl at 2:48 PM PST - 3 comments

WTF Abe Lincoln Ephemera

I'm working on a hybrid genre writing piece that incorporates all the uncanny things I can find related to Abe Lincoln, especially his assassination and death. Inside I've listed things I am already working with or know of, which should give you some idea. It can really be from any point in Lincoln history, so long as it's kind of weird or gross. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 2:22 PM PST - 26 comments

Supreme Court and the law of unintended consequences?

The Republican-controlled Senate declines to consider adding a ninth justice. In the meantime, an eight justice Supreme Court cannot reverse decisions coming up from the Appeals Courts. Two of those decisions have slapped down state-level voting restrictions passed by Republican legislatures. Where else should we expect to see the Senate hoist on its own petard? [more inside]
posted by John Borrowman at 1:01 PM PST - 7 comments

How can I make my dating profile more reflective of who I really am?

I'm getting back into dating but my OKCupid profile belongs to an insecure child. How do I update my profile to reflect the growth I’ve experienced in the last five years? [more inside]
posted by modernserf at 12:32 PM PST - 10 comments

How to Decide: Reupholstering Old vs. Buying New Couch?

I am in the market for a new couch, and I am having a very hard time deciding whether to reupholster my existing couch or to just buy new. Do you have any experience making a similar decision? How did you decide, what did you decide, and are you happy with what you picked? [more inside]
posted by stellaluna at 12:09 PM PST - 16 comments

Wanted: Seasoning hacks, vegetable edition

I want to uplevel my vegetarian cooking. Today I bought a fantastic salad for lunch that includes kale, quinoa/pepper salad, avocado, pickled onion, beets, carrots (which I generally hate but somehow they are awesome here) and zucchini. All of it is remarkably flavorful. I can make all of these things except the pickled onion, but nothing I make tastes anything like this. What are your secret weapons for good, TASTY seasoning for grains and vegetables? [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 12:06 PM PST - 22 comments

GERD/LPR + beer: does the cancer risk compound?

YANMD, but: I have some sort of reflux-ish disorder, probably either GERD or LPR. Had it for years. I'm also an avid beer drinker. Recently, I've been reading about the link between alcohol and head/neck cancers and it's freaking me out a little. Advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:51 AM PST - 4 comments

Go Phish.

A company I used to work for had a security breach. I don't think they have been handling the situation appropriately and want to know what I can do to protect myself, but to also find out if I can find a complaint (and if this is even a thing). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:51 AM PST - 5 comments

Makers, what to do with extra parts/never completed projects?

After completing some projects and aborting others, I've got some extra materials that would make someone very happy. Problem is, how do I find that someone? Is there an online forum or donation group or something? [more inside]
posted by mrcrow at 11:17 AM PST - 12 comments

Can a Windows 8.1 recovery disk be created using Windows 10?

My old laptop will not boot after trying to upgrade from 8.1 to 10. It's trying to do the scan & repair thing but it gets hung up at 12% and then shuts down completely. (Overheating, I assume, because it won't start again at all for about ten minutes, then it does the same as before, pausing at 12% etc.) [more inside]
posted by jwhite1979 at 10:03 AM PST - 4 comments

Can I buy contact lenses online without a prescription?

Being a stay-at-home parent of a five month old, going to the optometrist for an eye exam is a bit of an inconvenience. My vision has not changed in ten years. Are there any online sources that don't require you to have a current prescription? Bonus points if prices are comparable to Vision Direct, 1-800-contacts, etc.
posted by rivtintin at 9:57 AM PST - 16 comments

How to clarify whey protein drink

Is it possible to clarify a whey protein drink (unflavoured, mixed into water from powder) by using fining agents? Or some other method? I want it to look and taste as much like water as possible. Dilution is an option.
posted by danteGideon at 9:25 AM PST - 24 comments

How To Troubleshoot Anything (but mostly IT)

I'm looking for books, websites, software, cheatsheets or even training pgrograms that focus on the troubleshooting process in general. This is for a small software support team, but I'm not looking for anything that specific necessarily. [more inside]
posted by Doleful Creature at 8:34 AM PST - 15 comments

Seeking Creative Writing Instructor job.

Which job sites can I use to find Creative Writing Instructor positions?
posted by Ready2016 at 8:00 AM PST - 7 comments

Is this bullying, if so what type, and what should I do?

I feel like I was publicly bullied at a board meeting, but I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by avalonian at 7:51 AM PST - 34 comments

What happens if I don't get a pulled tooth replaced?

I have to have one molar on the left side, third from the back (counting the wisdom tooth) pulled. I am 72 years old. Do I have to have the tooth replaced (probably with an implant)? What happens if I don't have it replaced? [more inside]
posted by mbarryf at 6:41 AM PST - 19 comments

July 28

Can the President pass a carbon tax as an executive order?

I was speaking with a former US Representative about carbon pricing and she basically said "it's never going to get through Congress, the fastest way is to get Obama to issue an executive order". I asked a group that works specifically on trying to pass a national revenue neutral carbon tax about this and they didn't think it was possible. I asked a few other politics buffs and was told the same thing. Is this former Member of Congress not sure of what she's talking about?
posted by defmute at 9:48 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I make the leap to giving up alcohol?

I've been drinking too much for the past decade and I know in my mind that I should probably give it up. I can hold the thought of all of the rational reasons why I should stop, but I need to get over that hump where I finally announce that I need to go sober. How do I finally get there? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:21 PM PST - 34 comments

Only the Lonely Can Play

I’m suffering from excruciating loneliness, and it’s grinding me down. I haven’t had a real relationship in more than six years, and I simply don’t need any more “me” time. Please, could you help me think up some ideas for where I could meet real, live, reasonably youthful, reasonably mentally healthy, reasonably intellectual guys … in person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:21 PM PST - 25 comments

What's the best way to help HRC get elected?

I live near some battleground states-- Iowa, Wisconsin... should I take a week to go canvas in those states? Donate money? Something else? My schedule is pretty flexible-- what's the most impactful way for me to help her get elected?
posted by enzymatic at 9:18 PM PST - 11 comments

A Natural Twenty on Your Diplomacy Roll

I would like to read some fantasy/secondary world novels that deal heavily with political machinations - the more complex and backstabby the better. [more inside]
posted by darchildre at 7:13 PM PST - 41 comments

Low-maintenance website for a freelancer?

I'm setting up a website for my freelance consultancy. What infrastructure should I use? [more inside]
posted by McBearclaw at 5:50 PM PST - 11 comments

Where can I find schichttorte in New York?

As some of you may have guessed, we've been watching the Great British Bake Off on Netflix, and we have a desperate need to try schichttorte. Does anyone know where we might find one in NYC? And yes, I'm pretty sure I'm spelling that right.
posted by Dolukhanova at 5:38 PM PST - 2 comments

Feeling confused about family tension

My parents devote a lot of time and travel to seeing my younger sister's family, and very little to seeing mine. I'm feeling resentful and confused over how unbalanced everything seems. I want my parents to be actively involved in the future of my immediate family, but it feels like we're always going to get table scraps of the time and attention that they give to my sister's family. Do I even have a right to be upset about this? How can I talk about it with them? [more inside]
posted by Chuck Barris at 5:07 PM PST - 23 comments

If you're bored then you're boring...

My brain is sick of the same old same old. I need some ideas for new topics I could easily delve into as a layperson. [more inside]
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 4:30 PM PST - 20 comments

Source for list of Olympic athletes and their events

I need somewhere to find a list of which athletes (and their country) are participating in which events. My google skills are failing me. [more inside]
posted by LizBoBiz at 3:33 PM PST - 7 comments

What Kind of Therapy Schedule Should I Expect with a Therapist

Every three or more weeks is not cutting it, Everyone I have spoken to at the therapist office acts like I'm unique in my feelings and is at a loss for any answers/solutions. [more inside]
posted by OwlBoy at 3:09 PM PST - 27 comments

I want to hang a rope swing in a public park in London. Should I?

The park near where we live has many tall plane trees. There's a playground where my children often play. One plane tree has a lateral branch over the playground that's ideal for a rope swing. I'm considering just doing it. [more inside]
posted by snarfois at 2:33 PM PST - 44 comments

More Doom please

I recently discovered Dangerdoom and love it. What else should I listen to? [more inside]
posted by Nathanial Hörnblowér at 2:20 PM PST - 5 comments

Security lines at JFK - how much time to allow?

My daughter has to catch a 9:30 AM flight out of New York's JFK airport tomorrow. Will she be okay if she gets to the airport by 7:30 AM? [more inside]
posted by merejane at 1:54 PM PST - 9 comments

Truck drove into my car door. Any recourse?

A truck backed into my driver's side door as I was getting out to go to the grocery store. His insurance says we're 50-50 at fault. I don't agree, but of course I don't. I have anxiety and don't trust most of my gut reactions to things. Most of the people in my life say "No. The other driver's at fault. Push back." I'm looking for outside opinions. [more inside]
posted by timesarrow at 1:47 PM PST - 16 comments

I just want to send you your stuff. Why is this so hard?

I want to send some small, low-value items to some people all over the U.S. and world. Many of them would prefer to not just give me their address. So I need a middleman: someone that will take their addresses and ship the items for me without me ever knowing their addresses. I'm not trying to start a store to make money off of this. I just want to do something simple and nice on a limited basis. [more inside]
posted by KinoAndHermes at 1:28 PM PST - 9 comments

Projects, IT, and Transparency - how do we improve?

We are a higher education IT operation - about 60 people - serving many internal and external stakeholders. We have significant transparency challenges internally in that there are multiple teams within IT and we often do not know what other teams are doing or working on, which can result in waste, duplication, and frustration. How do we get better? [more inside]
posted by idb at 1:22 PM PST - 8 comments

Who did the voice over in Joe Biden's video last night?

It sounds familiar but I can't place it. For reference: the video
posted by blackjack514 at 1:16 PM PST - 2 comments

I need foods that don't need refrigeration or cooking for one week.

For the next week, I'm staying in a house with people I would rather not see. I have a private sink, but no hot plate or garbage disposal. I need meal and snack ideas.
posted by Triumphant Muzak at 12:50 PM PST - 27 comments

a mixed bag (of peppers)

i've been gifted a gallon bag of different peppers and would like some ideas on how to be use them. varieties are jalapeño, serrano, anaheim, chile dearbol, poblano, cascabel, and guajillo peppers. the larger ones have 3-4 and the smaller ones about 10. i would like to avoid something that involves setting my oven to 500 degrees, but might be wiling to try. also, i am (mostly) cooking for one.
posted by lescour at 12:48 PM PST - 15 comments

Spending a significant chunk of savings... to chase a dream.

How crazy am I? I have a significant chunk of savings... almost enough in cash to do something i've been talking about doing for years. I'm not eating into my RRSPs, and I'm leaving 6 months of salary untouched... but I'm seriously debating spending all of the rest (and maybe a bit more via a small loan) to chase a dream. I feel it's a completely irresponsible thing to do and yet I really, really want to do it. [more inside]
posted by cgg at 12:32 PM PST - 29 comments

Can I keep a fridge outside?

We need more fridge space - can I put a standard fridge outside? [more inside]
posted by gorcha at 12:29 PM PST - 9 comments

Bought an iPod Touch, Seller is Still Signed In.

I bought an iPod Touch from a friend, but it was signed into his icloud account, and "find my ipod" was also engaged. The seller apologized, and told me he just signed off the device remotely. But when I try to erase the device, I'm still asked for its Apple password. What now? It's running the current iOs. [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 12:25 PM PST - 9 comments

Can you help the graphically challenged?

I need to create an easy visualization of some data and then overlay it on top of a map. Without resorting to coloring on tracing paper, can you help me with a digital solution? [more inside]
posted by stormygrey at 12:16 PM PST - 4 comments

Busking with Tim Kaine

I am a busker in Eastern Massachusetts and I have several song by the Replacements in my repertoire. I know this is a long shot, but I would like to busk with Vice Presidential nominee Tim Kaine. What's the best way to try and make this happen? [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 12:09 PM PST - 13 comments

Getting rid of (specifically) oriental cockroaches?

I've dealt with the German roach bastards in the past, but these are a different beast. [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 12:05 PM PST - 2 comments

Best spot to view this year's Perseid shower near Seattle?

Mid-August is peak Perseid and I don't want to miss it! Looking for suggestions and recommendations for dark, secluded spots with big sky views within a 1-2 hour drive of Seattle. [more inside]
posted by E3 at 12:03 PM PST - 7 comments

Best way to encourage diversity in wildflower patch?

I have a patch of the front yard which, for the last few years, we've let "go wild" in the middle-- it started when a patch of daisies bloomed there and our kindhearted lawnmower-guy habitually avoided them-- now as you see it's home to California poppies, more daisies, some white and pale-pink yarrow, and of course dandelions. I'd love to add more colorful wildflowers-- what's the best way and time to plant or encourage this? [more inside]
posted by The otter lady at 10:59 AM PST - 10 comments

Why does the military prefer space planes such as the X37?

I've been playing Kerbal Space Program and now I'm like a kid about space again. How come commercial ventures are opting for Mercury style capsules and the military is wanting a space plane? I don't understand the advantage, I assume you can drop a capsule anywhere with the same precision as a glider.
posted by geoff. at 10:55 AM PST - 14 comments

I'm stuck to a "type" in online dating. How can I break out of it?

I like to talk, discuss, debate, make puns, be intentionally clever, gesticulate extensively, and so on. That doesn't mean that I only want to date women who are the same way, but those are the only women I get on with. How do I expand my horizons? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:34 AM PST - 18 comments

Canadian pediatrician moving to USA

I am Canadian in academia and am considering moving to the US in the next year. My partner is a pediatrician (MD, LMCC) who is board-certified in Canada in pediatrics, ie she has her FRCPC designation. If we move to the US, she would like to work, which could be additional fellowship training or working in private practice as a pediatrician. Questions about the legal/certification requirements inside... [more inside]
posted by asparagrass at 10:13 AM PST - 2 comments

A cheapskate prototypes a board game: finding textured hexgrids

I'm designing a boardgame whose main play area consists of a hexagonal grid, 7 hexes on a side, for a total of 127 hexagons. Tiles will be coming onto and off of this play area during the game and I'd like a board with inset hexagons to hold the hex tiles in place. The tiles in question are 1 inch across. How do I do this on the cheap? [more inside]
posted by jackbishop at 10:08 AM PST - 12 comments

Tabletop RPG management software

A year or two ago I saw a video for a product in development: a piece of software multiple people would use across computers, tablets and smartphones that lets you run a role playing campaign in person. Primarily meant to remove the need for record keeping and hauling around tons of books, supplies and miniatures. [more inside]
posted by cthuljew at 9:59 AM PST - 4 comments

someone's had his address changed to mine. what do?

For the past week or so I have been getting mail addressed to another person and address, with the little yellow "mail forwarding" sticker on the bottom saying "please forward to [blast hardcheese's address]." This seems like it could either be a dopey mistake or, more likely, a weird scammy thing. What should I do? Would it be weird to contact the other person? [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 9:13 AM PST - 10 comments

Dog diagnosed with diabetes: is there an app for that?

Our beloved 14-year-old Boston terrier Gus was just diagnosed with diabetes. [more inside]
posted by Brittanie at 9:11 AM PST - 8 comments

Reprint contracts for SFF zine - anyone got some boilerplate?

I'm publishing a SFF zine. I need advice on REPRINT contracts for short stories and art. [more inside]
posted by aperturescientist at 8:55 AM PST - 1 comment

Why is my boss allowed to take vacation in the middle of a production?

My boss has only been working there for less than 4 months [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 8:00 AM PST - 33 comments

Denied insurance claim for speech therapy, for swallowing

Blue Cross Blue Shield of Illinois is refusing to cover speech therapy for my toddler's swallowing disorder. They say they only cover speech therapy for speech problems. This seems insane. What next? [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 8:00 AM PST - 10 comments

Smoke alarm mystery. Ghosts?

Replaced all old smoke detectors with new ones. The new ones seem to be malfunctioning as well. ?? [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 7:58 AM PST - 11 comments

A man, a girlfriend, and an ex (or two): now what?

My boyfriend is driving six hours to spend the night at an ex's place. I don't know what to do from here. More inside. [more inside]
posted by Amy93 at 5:46 AM PST - 85 comments

Seeking Polite Political Disagreements

I am looking for non-mefi examples of someone disagreeing about the election in a civil manner. Not everyone in the discussion has to be civil, it is inspiring to see someone maintain their civility while others don't. I'm particularly interested in seeing civil Trump supporters - based on his numbers I'd like to believe they are out there. I feel like the Trump request is a good opening for some clever joke answers, but I'd really like to see some non-combative Trump supporters state their case!
posted by yorick at 5:22 AM PST - 9 comments

What if they ask about salary?

I'm in Texas and am looking for jobs in the northeast. (My applications seem to skew towards NYC, but that's not my target specifically.) I'm getting emails about arranging phone screens and it occurs to me that I might get asked about compensation. How do I start coming up with an answer beyond googling for a cost of living calculator? (And those come up with truly staggering figures I'd feel embarrassed naming, but that's a separate issue.) [more inside]
posted by hoyland at 4:45 AM PST - 9 comments

Finding closure on my own

I'm obsessing over a former friend who ghosted me a long time ago and I need to figure out how to find closure on my own. [more inside]
posted by rubbish bin night at 3:49 AM PST - 14 comments

July 27

Help Desk Software Where Jobs Aren't Assigned to Responders

Seeking help desk software that allows jobs to NOT be 'owned' by/assigned to responding staff. [more inside]
posted by WCityMike at 10:36 PM PST - 6 comments

I've got this foster care homestudy thing down... right, hivemind?

Mrs Rabu and I are becoming foster parents. We're in our early 30's and excited about this as we have flexible work schedules, extra income, lots of love, and an amazing backyard to roam around in for a little one. I have a few specific questions from the pre-homestudy checklist I wanted to check in with the hive about. [more inside]
posted by rabu at 9:54 PM PST - 9 comments

How can I get a bandage to stick to my inner thigh?

How can I get a bandage to stick to my inner thigh? [more inside]
posted by phoenixy at 9:19 PM PST - 17 comments

Artsy beautiful interesting facebook pages to "like" and follow

My collective facebook friends seem to have stopped posting anything interesting and my timeline has devolved into a 24/7 shouting match on politics/privilege/the election. I need new stuff. What are some beautiful, unique, artsy, stylish, etc pages I can follow. Interested in: art, beauty, style, fashion, weird stuff, horror, psychedelic, etc. NOT interested in: cheesy motivational stuff, cult of positive thinking, politics, war, guns, sports, cars etc. Give me your best! Bonus question: is there a easy way to filter out the angry posts but still see when a friend posts cute family pictures or life updates?
posted by long haired child at 7:49 PM PST - 23 comments

Children's book ID

My son (who is 6) has been talking about a book that he was read recently, and I can’t figure out what book it is. It’s about a boy who is picking up rocks and putting them in his pocket. The rocks put stories in the boys head. He picks up so many rocks that his pockets get very heavy and his pants fall down. Does this ring a bell for anyone?
posted by rozee at 7:04 PM PST - 2 comments

How to reconcile SEO best practices with E-commerce Strategies

What is the best approach to reconciling SEO best practices with an E-commerce website that may not lend itself to these practices? For example, Google doesn't like duplicate content, but a site with over 10,000 products where SKUs are listed individually by variation tends to produce a lot of duplicate information. [more inside]
posted by Barsoomian at 6:50 PM PST - 3 comments

Longshot filter: Help me ID what I saw on the news as a little kid.

When I was five, I got up out of bed to bug my parents about something, and accidentally saw some unusually violent footage on the evening news. The awfulness of it has stuck with me, even though I have no idea what it really was. This would have been around 1983 - 1984 (possibly troubling details within). [more inside]
posted by backwards compatible at 5:43 PM PST - 10 comments

Grime (?) video of people driving boxes?

I saw a music video which I think was a grime video (it's been a while, so maybe I'm mistaken) which had two musicians driving what looked like cardboard boxes around a computer graphic background. The musicians faces/hands/necks were darkened. I believe they had sunglasses on. The colors were highly saturated/day-glo. Anyone know wot I'm talkin' about?
posted by Bugbread at 5:43 PM PST - 2 comments

My foot is asleep, worry?

My right foot has been asleep for 24 hours, I am annoyed but should I be worried?
posted by Cosine at 5:11 PM PST - 15 comments

I am completely lost trying to record music on my chromebook

I have two chromebooks and a Yamaha YPT-320 keyboard. I have been trying like heck and failing at finding a way to record sounds from the keyboard to the chromebook. I would like to record multiple instrumental tracks that I could bring together and mess with in a garageband/ableton type program. [more inside]
posted by holmesian at 4:41 PM PST - 6 comments

What should I do to pinpoint the cause of my diarrhea?

I went from having easy, formed, once daily bowel movements to diarrhea 2+ times a day. I am pretty sure my terrible diet is to blame, but how do I figure out what to stay away from? [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 4:20 PM PST - 28 comments

What's making this creepy noise?

Can anyone identify the creature making the noise heard at the very beginning and very end of this video? (turn it up) Creepy noise! [more inside]
posted by schoolgirl report at 4:10 PM PST - 5 comments

Subtle self-soothing at work

I am in treatment for severe anxiety. At home, I self-soothe by wringing my hands and rocking, but that's not appropriate for the workplace. I need to be typing so worry stones and spinner rings are out. I need to elevate my legs so foot tapping is out, too. What are some subtle physical things I can do at my desk to calm myself?
posted by Ruki at 1:59 PM PST - 37 comments

I'm a "skinny-fat" female - whats the best way to get toned?

I've always been told I'm skinny by my peers. I'm a female, 5'8", and currently 129 pounds. But I feel that my fat percentage overall is definitely rising, although look-wise I might look relatively the same. Ever since I stopped playing sports I've been getting a little flabbier. My friends say don't worry you're still so skinny, but I want to be toned and lean, instead of "skinny-fat". Whats the best way? [more inside]
posted by Junocular at 1:32 PM PST - 17 comments

South-of-Portland restaurant recommendations

I am looking for restaurant recommendations in the general vicinity of I-5 between Salem, OR, and Tigard, OR. Thank you!
posted by HotToddy at 1:14 PM PST - 6 comments

Longshot: Spoon in a haystack

I got this spoon 20 years ago in Japan. I would like to find more. The back is stamped "Afternoon Tea". [more inside]
posted by dancing leaves at 12:25 PM PST - 7 comments

What happens during the 7th inning stretch?

At your local ballpark, what happens during the 7th inning stretch? Where do you live?
posted by avocet at 12:08 PM PST - 34 comments

Best slap-back vocal echo on Garageband

How do I use Garageband to get the same slapback vocal effect of this Fleetwood Mac song? [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 12:04 PM PST - 1 comment

Cheap travel in New Mexico?

How can I save money while travelling around Santa Fe and parts of northern New Mexico? Creative answers welcome! [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 12:02 PM PST - 17 comments

Manage my time and business

The short version: I need help figuring out time management, project management, prioritization, and customer relationship management (CRM). I missed the adulting lessons growing up, and have no clue how to do all this. I've read every time management thread in Ask. But snowflakes abound. [more inside]
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess at 11:55 AM PST - 4 comments

What is this item?

I met someone last night with something under her shirt with lights on it. It sat between the top of the left breast and collarbone. There was a small, steady orange light shining through her shirt and one close to it that flashed green occasionally. What is this? [more inside]
posted by something something at 11:41 AM PST - 24 comments

Work appropriate plus-size nursing dresses and tops?

Where can I find plus-size nursing clothes (ideally dresses but tops too) that I can wear to work? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 11:17 AM PST - 7 comments

This Basil-Eating Bug Must Be Defeated!

A bunch of shameless ravenous basil eaters have invaded our plants and are eating all the leaves. Help us to identify and stop them! [more inside]
posted by Hairy Lobster at 11:01 AM PST - 11 comments

Who has been voted for the most?

In the history of elections, who has personally received the most total votes over their lifetime? [more inside]
posted by Etrigan at 10:43 AM PST - 17 comments

What are your favorite creepy blogs?

I really like Unexplained Events, which is a Tumblr all about creepy stuff that has at least a basis in real life. I'm looking for other, similar blogs. However, I'm not really interested in creepy pasta, or just huge content dumps of creepy pictures. Tumblrs would be nice, since I have an account and it would be easy to follow them through that.
posted by codacorolla at 10:30 AM PST - 2 comments

teenagers are good in small doses

I would like some ideas for very quick but outside-of-the-normal-day things to do with my 16-year-old son. [more inside]
posted by metasarah at 10:26 AM PST - 21 comments

Looking for Union Square Restaurant Ideas

Coming to San Francisco next week for a conference and staying near Union Square. Looking for restaurant ideas for quick breakfasts, hour long lunches, and long lingering dinners within walking distance. I eat everything, and while cheap is good, good is more important. The only other time I've been in the city your recommendations for Bi-Rite and Tartine were spot-on, so let me know where I should go next. [more inside]
posted by craven_morhead at 10:17 AM PST - 13 comments

Teaching my body to wake up faster (not earlier)

Usually it takes me about 30 minutes of lying awake in bed before I'm sentient enough to do basic things like walk across the room and put on my clothes. Once in a while, like today, I spring awake and in 3-5 minutes I'm ready to go, full of energy. How can I teach my body to shorten the waking up process? (The goal isn't necessarily to wake up earlier, just faster.) [more inside]
posted by danceswithlight at 10:00 AM PST - 26 comments

Should my resume say Lead Engineer or Senior Software Engineer?

I'm a Software Engineer who's looking for a new job. The titles at my current job are a bit fluid. I could conceivably be called a Lead Engineer or a Senior Software Engineer. What should I put on my resume? [more inside]
posted by when it rains it snows at 9:57 AM PST - 11 comments

Good old blogging

I miss the days when I could actually find people's personal blogs online. Does anybody do that anymore? I am interested in people who document their life, experiences and thoughts -- preferably recent blogs that are still being updated, but any blogs with a decent archive would be fine, too -- and I do not mind dark stuff (quite the opposite). [more inside]
posted by denika at 9:37 AM PST - 13 comments

The rites and rituals of sport

One of my favorite aspects of playing a sport or engaging in an activity are the rituals participants do to prepare. I want to know what people do to prepare for their activity of choice. [more inside]
posted by thefang at 9:22 AM PST - 14 comments

How do I completely and utterly ignore a pretty unpleasant co-worker?

How do I completely and utterly ignore a pretty unpleasant co-worker? It is starting to affect my mood & ability to work. He is in my field of vision (2 meters away from me) and his negativity is… radiating? I cannot block the view, that would be pure passive aggressiveness. [more inside]
posted by BlackBirdFly at 8:12 AM PST - 38 comments

There's a rat in the kitchen, what am I going to do

I’m moving out in a couple of months, but I have to live with the possibility of rodent roommates until then. How do I do that hygienically and sanely? (Most advice I have seen focuses on getting rid of the rodents; I am asking, how do you protect yourself from the diseases they bring in the meantime. Without freaking out on the regular) [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 7:55 AM PST - 32 comments

Mod my upright piano

Yesterday I rescued an abandoned Érard piano from the streets. Its innards had been removed, but it has all 85 of its original keys (it's an 85-key piano). I would like to be able to use it as a synthesizer, since I can't afford a new soundboard for it. The online DIY synthesizer world is so full of resources, however, that I am at a loss where to start. [more inside]
posted by fraula at 7:46 AM PST - 9 comments

USB Registration Help!

So I have a question about how USB devices work. I want to know how you register a driver so that it will automatically load when you plug in a device. Does anyone have the process for this?
posted by KingBoogly at 7:30 AM PST - 2 comments

How do I fake tan?

I never fake tan because I am lazy and I never do it right and I hate the smell. But I'm going out on Friday and wearing a short skirt for the first time in literally years and my legs are blindingly white. Tips on not looking like I'm entering a Trump/Oompa Loompa fancy dress contest please? [more inside]
posted by billiebee at 7:27 AM PST - 15 comments

Running advice for a complete and total noob.

I have recently decided that I would like to start running a few times a week for exercise with the dog. I have learned a lot in the two weeks that I have been trying this thing out, but I feel like I may be doing some things wrong. Looking for advice about pre-running/post running routines that may help out with leg pain... specifically... shin splints. Or any other good advice for someone who literally knows nothing about running. [more inside]
posted by Quincy at 6:45 AM PST - 22 comments

Can I have all my slack teams in one window?

Difficulty level: work and personal email addresses. I have a few work slack channels, and some volunteer/social slack channels. I'd like to not have two different Chrome tabs, because, look, it just bothers me. I'm looking for a solution -- it could be a feature I haven't seen yet, an app, a Chrome plugin ... I just want my NFP board slack and my work project slacks in a single interface.
posted by chesty_a_arthur at 6:23 AM PST - 5 comments

North Carolina: Last-minute Housing Edition

How to go about finding a place to live? Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by Zeratul at 6:11 AM PST - 9 comments

What are the implications of being on unemployment and Patreon?

A while ago I quit my job and went on unemployment insurance. Then later, I signed up for Patreon because I figured it might help to make a little extra cash. But then I found out that apparently Patreon money is considered taxable income and you have to complete a W9 if you make more than $600/year. So... am I in some kind of "employment limbo?" [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:37 AM PST - 7 comments

Taking back control of an out-of-control life

Throughout my life, the overwhelming feeling has been one of a lack of control over the direction I'm taking and my own affairs. I feel like now, at age 30, I don't have any more control over my life than I did at fifteen. What can I do to take the steering wheel and wrest back some agency? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:37 AM PST - 22 comments

Is it reasonable to apply an NSF fee to an incomplete counter check?

I submitted a bunch of rent checks to my housing non-profit for six months ahead. One of these was a counter check—printed in-branch by the teller without name or address, just my bank account routing code. Unfortunately, it seems that the teller didn't properly review all the checks before giving them to me, and one of them did not have my account info on it. Neither I nor my housing non-profit noticed this omission before the check was deposited, and of course it was returned by their bank with "Unknown Account" on it. My housing authority chose to consider this an NSF check, and are requesting that I pay their NSF fee. Is that a reasonable request? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:36 AM PST - 12 comments

What kind of hat is Chuck D wearing?

pic 1 pic 2 What kind of hat is Chuck D wearing during the Prophets of Rage appearance on Jimmy Kimmel last night? Thanks.
posted by gummo at 2:41 AM PST - 1 comment

July 26

Easy Lunch Ideas for Nut-Free Preschool?

My 3 year old is about to start preschool at a nut-free school. What are some ideas for lunch that are PB&J-level easy and toddler-friendly? Searching for this online yields a lot of parenting blogs that think I'm going to bake scones or make homemade beef bourgignon every night.
posted by Anonymousness at 8:33 PM PST - 38 comments

Recommendations For Home Security Camera Systems?

Finding systems with great DVRs and cameras (hardware) is easy. Finding a system that is supported by remote viewing software for smartphones/internet is not happening for me. My google-fu has failed. I need assistance, advice and recommendations from anyone with some personal experience. [more inside]
posted by snsranch at 7:16 PM PST - 8 comments

Can I buy a reliable, used SUV for around $10,000?

I would like to get a vehicle with high clearance and AWD. I will mainly use it for some around the town errands and weekend trips to get to out of the way trail heads. I have a sedan that I use for commuting. My friend just bought a brand new CRV for about $28,000. I am reluctant to spend so much money for a vehicle that I anticipate to use only sparingly. I am hoping to spend around $10,000 or so, but can spend a few thousands more if needed. So I am looking for advice on which make and model to look for. [more inside]
posted by Pantalaimon at 6:22 PM PST - 19 comments

Subtle racist comments

I feel like I have to watch what I say, especially since these days people tend to overreact and cry out racism all the time. It seems as if people try to make something racist or blow everything out of proportion. Can these comments below be perceived as racist? 1) People from India love the heat (since India is a very hot country). 2) Greek people like olives (because good olives are from Greece) I bring up these two examples because a friend of mine said that making absolute statements and referring to an entire population is racist. But these statements sound neutral to me. If they were negative statements then I think that would be racism.
posted by four_suyu at 6:22 PM PST - 115 comments

I am having a genuinely difficult time getting over a breakup...

How do I move on from this breakup, considering it was such a short time? [more inside]
posted by ladykitty5 at 4:53 PM PST - 23 comments

An adorable baby koala...costume

If I wanted to purchase an Australian animal costume (any! Kangaroo, croc, echidna) for a baby/toddler somewhere in Townsville, Cairns, or Sydney, where would I go? [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 4:18 PM PST - 13 comments

slam dunk corruption

What US campaign finance reform proposals are out there being discussed besides "Repeal Citizens United"? Specifically are there any that try to account for parity among multiple candidates rather than merely capping their resources? [more inside]
posted by Potomac Avenue at 2:11 PM PST - 6 comments

how can I text my daughter from my phone to her I-pod touch?

Hi, My daughter has an I-pod Touch and I have an I-phone 6. I understand that we cannot facetime each other, because we are on "family share" and we have the same e-mail address when we sign into our phone. She is not yet 13. [more inside]
posted by lynnie-the-pooh at 1:56 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me find the droids I'm looking for.

I am a dedicated iPhone user. But I took advantage of T-mobile's free phone offer for my two children. Now they both have a Samsung On5, and I'm lost. [more inside]
posted by Talia Devane at 1:36 PM PST - 3 comments

Which treatments or illnesses are most susceptible to placebo?

Surgery? Fungal cream & athlete's foot? Cough drops? What are the easiest ways to trick the body to heal itself? And in which domains is the placebo near-impossible? Thanks in advance!
posted by mrmanvir at 1:29 PM PST - 7 comments

Options for asking about perceived gender-based behavioral bias at work

At work (USA), I believe myself to be the victim of gender-based bias with regard to attitude, expression and other attributes. I want to ask HR about it. [more inside]
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 1:25 PM PST - 20 comments

OK, I Give Up

How is this street performer in downtown Asheville just sitting there, balancing his bike on the front wheel?
posted by gottabefunky at 1:25 PM PST - 12 comments

Where to live with a family near UC Davis--Sacramento or Woodland?

I might be moving back to California after 7+ years living in Massachusetts, and am interviewing for a job at UC Davis. Where should my husband and our 1 and 3 year old boys live? [more inside]
posted by apricot at 12:52 PM PST - 11 comments

How can you maintain original thinking when learning a new field?

When diving into a new field, how can you keep 'thinking outside the box' as you learn the traditional knowledge in a field? As you learn the patterns of thinking that a field promotes, I think it's hard to think outside of those patterns in the future. How do you maintain originality in thinking and avoid paradigm blindness? Some ideas inside. [more inside]
posted by markbao at 12:40 PM PST - 13 comments

Income investing

I'd like to get a handle on investing for long-term, stable income. [more inside]
posted by Nonce at 12:06 PM PST - 5 comments

Disclosing a Disability?

With some job applications, there's a form that you fill out disclosing whether or not you have a disability. I've been wondering if I should fill that out. [more inside]
posted by Puck Soppet at 11:43 AM PST - 17 comments

Seeking long, ethically-manufactured button-downs

I am seeking a shirt with specific attributes -- [more inside]
posted by delight at 11:17 AM PST - 5 comments

Name radically multi-POV news aggregator

What would you name a news aggregator that focuses on presenting major world events from radically different points of view, even controversial ones from rogue news sources? [more inside]
posted by Foci for Analysis at 11:01 AM PST - 15 comments

books/films about impostors

Can you recommend books or films about impersonation, undercover spies, con artists, etc. along the lines of Catch Me If You Can, The Likeness, and The Talented Mr. Ripley? Bonus points for forgery! [more inside]
posted by wintersonata9 at 10:48 AM PST - 41 comments

Help me park in Montreal

My SO and I are driving to Montreal this weekend. It will be the first time I'm in the city with a car for an extended period of time and I'm not sure what to do with it. [more inside]
posted by Fred Wesley at 10:09 AM PST - 12 comments

Possibly moving to Paris: tips and advice?

So I may be offered my dream job in Paris. Yay! Help me figure out some of the details so I can be better prepared while negotiating salary etc and also just moving in general. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Tamanna at 10:08 AM PST - 2 comments

Timelines: The world is bigger than Europe!

What are your favorite non-eurocentric timelines of world history? Anything in the 2000 BCE - 1920s CE range is helpful, especially if the events listed are likely to be common knowledge for people in the USA (and, to a lesser extent, other English-speaking countries). [more inside]
posted by sibilatorix at 9:12 AM PST - 4 comments

Staying-over etiquette in new relationship?

Specifically, where there's an imbalance between living situations - where one lives alone and has all the mod-cons, the other's in a studenty hovel crawling with housemates. [more inside]
posted by youhavedeadedme at 8:33 AM PST - 31 comments

Used chewing gum: which bin?

Should a used piece of chewing gum go in the recycling bin, the non-recycling bin or the compost bin?
posted by Paul Slade at 8:19 AM PST - 13 comments

MEFITE: (posts on AskMefi) Why am I like this?

How did "PERSON: (action) Speech" become the convention for scriptwriting or dialogue writing, when that's not even how scripts are written professionally? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 8:09 AM PST - 7 comments

How to coordinate medicare and long term care insurance

My great aunt is in a nursing home for rehab due to a broken hip. She has dementia and the nursing home says they have to discharge her because she's not making progress. I have no idea what to do next. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:42 AM PST - 13 comments

After wedding escape

Where should we escape to for a few days after our wedding? [more inside]
posted by inevitability at 6:57 AM PST - 9 comments

Keeping busy during unemployment

I will likely be unemployed until my baby is born in November. I am staying as busy as I can during the day, but I run out of the things to do in the evening and have been wasting too much time online. Help me hack my routine! [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 6:56 AM PST - 15 comments

Free online US law education without a degree?

There are a wealth of resources for online education. Can anyone point me to resources for free online US law courses, or even good plans for studying law? I would also be interested in history courses that cover law and the (primarily US) courts. I am not interested in pursuing an actual law degree.
posted by OmieWise at 6:13 AM PST - 14 comments

Will a 3/4 double bass fit into a Bmw 4 series gran coupe?

The title says it all - I guess it's a very niche problem and maybe someone has advice on how to do this?
posted by freddymetz at 4:33 AM PST - 10 comments

July 25

How to prevent attachment to a casual fling?

For my first outside-of-my-first-relationship relationship (or whatever you would call it, there's no titles for anything anymore), I am very confused how to do this successfully and without getting hurt. Please help me understand how to navigate a casual relationship without hurting myself. Slight snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 11:11 PM PST - 25 comments

How does one unstick a stuck garbage disposal?

Our garbage disposal has all the symptoms of being jammed, however, for the life of me, I cannot find anything jammed in it and, yet, when I plugged it back in it ran smoothly, flawlessly....once and once only. [more inside]
posted by tangyraspberry at 5:51 PM PST - 12 comments

You teach the youths about Marco Polo...

I would like to read The Travels of Marco Polo. Turns out, there are a lot of versions. I thought to myself: "you know who has considered opinions about things there are versions of? Mefites, of course!" This is for personal interest and not serious scholarship. However, this doesn't mean scholarly considerations don't matter at all. It just means that readability is also important. Suggestions? Is there a latest and greatest edition?
posted by jamaal at 5:29 PM PST - 5 comments

How to rid of odor from bathtub overflow?

There was a rat infestation under the bathtub and wall/floor space. Yes..gross. It caused an odor issue coming out of the overflow. We took the tub out and cleaned out the area. Rat odor is gone...but now there is a different sort of odor. What to do next? [more inside]
posted by 7life at 4:45 PM PST - 3 comments

Dental Implants in DC or Dental Tourism Abroad

I'm looking for recommendations from folks who have gotten dental implants in the District of Columbia, or alternatively, done the Medical tourism bit and actually went to Mexico (or elsewhere abroad) and had successful dental implants of molars. [more inside]
posted by Karaage at 4:25 PM PST - 8 comments

Toddler brain experiments

So I have a small child who is in the process of converting from a passive milk converter into some of actual human. Do you know of any sources I could look at which would enlighten me on how their brain develops and most importantly any fun experimenty things I could do to see how their perception is changing and to better understand how they are seeing the world. [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 4:16 PM PST - 25 comments

Yosemite and Monterey

We (me, wife, kids 5 and 10) are traveling from Salt Lake City to Yosemite for 3 days of camping, and then to Monterey for 3 days. Help us plan the rest of a great trip. [more inside]
posted by trbrts at 3:18 PM PST - 23 comments

Calm the itch that AskMe scratches.

I spend most idle moments browsing recent Ask Metafilter questions on my phone. Whilst I have learnt some (many!) useful facts from this, I acknowledge the point raised by a loved one that this mindless scrolling is not particularly constructive or good for my thumbs. How can I "selfsoothe" without relying on a website? [more inside]
posted by limoncello at 3:08 PM PST - 12 comments

Thigh pain from sitting

What I can I do to reduce thigh pain while driving long distances? [more inside]
posted by otherwordlyglow at 3:04 PM PST - 15 comments

iOS (Android too) map app to plot all my places of interest

I'm looking for a map app for my iPhone that would let me input lots of spots I might want to visit and when I open the app it shows me which are near me. I keep browser bookmarks of places that look interesting nearby but I'd love to just open a map and find out which is nearby when I'm driving around doing other things. I've played with the built-in iOS map app, Google maps, and MapQuest but I can't seem to figure out how to do it. Thanks in advance!
posted by pibeandres at 2:21 PM PST - 6 comments

I need a home office desk that isn't out of place in my apartment

Hola MeFi!, Good news: I scored 2 work from home days as part of a promotion. Bad news: My wife and I live in a small, 1br apartment. I'm looking for a desk that could become part of our apartment without sticking out like a sore thumb. Special snowflake deets inside. [more inside]
posted by GilloD at 1:26 PM PST - 23 comments

ACA Mandate, Employer-Provided Health Insurance, and Changing Jobs

My health insurance through my last job ended on May 31st. From what I understand, Obamacare requires me to get new health insurance within 60 days from that date. My health insurance through my next job will begin sometime after August 16th, which is more than 60 days from May 31st (but not by much!). What do I do? [more inside]
posted by meese at 1:26 PM PST - 7 comments

So I Got A Traffic Ticket Today

Am I Worrying for Nothing? [more inside]
posted by Trusted Sidekick at 1:21 PM PST - 15 comments

Saving voicemails from the dead

My mother's husband has died, but we have his voice in her voice mailbox. We have Verizon and we'd like to leave. I know there's a way to download voice mails, but what is it? How do we do it? Please explain it to me like I'm five. I see there is a similar question from 2007, but surely things have changed since then.
posted by blnkfrnk at 12:57 PM PST - 12 comments

Podcasts by women

I am in need of a few additional podcasts and as nearly all of the podcasts I listen to are hosted by guys, I would like some recommendations of podcasts by women. See below the fold for my interests and my current podcasts. [more inside]
posted by nolnacs at 12:14 PM PST - 48 comments

The Great Escape (from Apple)

After a lot of research I think that the ASUS ZenBook Pro UX501VW 15inch 4K Touchscreen Laptop is everything she needs and costs the same amount as the 13" Macbook Pro she would buy, but I'm worried about Adobe compatibility. [more inside]
posted by lodie6 at 12:10 PM PST - 12 comments

Using social media without giving up control of my (Android) phone?

I don't like the amount of access to my (Android) phone most social media apps want, so I mostly use sites like Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Reddit, etc. through a browser, which greatly reduces their access to my identity and personal data. But the user interface for a mobile website usually sucks compared with a dedicated app. Is there a better way? Are there any good 3rd-party apps for accessing these social media sites that don't demand access to my entire phone?
posted by straight at 12:02 PM PST - 11 comments

What's New In Philadelphia?

Travelling to Philadelphia in mid August for a break - I'm a regular visitor but I haven't been in 3 years - what's new in town that I can't miss? I like fine dining, gay bars, unusual museums, vintage or discount menswear, and science/engineering sights/tours. Assume I've done all the major attractions like the Mutter and Eastern State. I have no interest in Founding Fathers stuff. [more inside]
posted by The Whelk at 12:01 PM PST - 14 comments

Cinemax's Banshee: Should I keep watching it?

I've been watching the Cinemax series Banshee and while I'm enjoying it so far, the fact that Alan Ball is the executive producer makes me a bit skeptical of its chances of staying good because of True Blood, which started off well enough before degenerating into a stinking mess. Should I stick with it? [more inside]
posted by Fister Roboto at 11:59 AM PST - 7 comments

Urine Luck

Let's say I'm a daily marijuana user. If I wanted a urine test to indicate that I'm only a 2-3 times a week user (basically get the levels down by about half) how long would I need to cut down to 2-3 times a week before the test reflected this level? [more inside]
posted by a manly man person who is male and masculine at 11:05 AM PST - 4 comments

Minimal life jacket for adult poor swimmer?

Can anyone suggest a life jacket/life vest/PFD for an adult man with physical problems swimming who doesn't want to feel smothered by a "normal" model? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 10:57 AM PST - 10 comments

Database of scene-by-scene actors appearances?

Is there a database that could tell me which actors are currently on-screen for a specific movie at a specific timecode? Ideally one that allows public access or is crowd-sourced?
posted by soundslikeobiwan at 10:44 AM PST - 4 comments

Organizing or displaying photo prints and travel/life mementos

I'm not much of a packrat and overall I'm pretty minimalist. But I do have a few boxes of ticket stubs, used airline tickets, museum pamphlets, photos, cards, and letters. Should I keep it all? What's the best way to organize or even display (some of) it? [more inside]
posted by veggieboy at 10:19 AM PST - 6 comments

car theft(!), recovery(?), and purchase(??!?)

About a week ago, I woke up to discover that my car had been stolen overnight. Can you help me figure out my next steps for dealing with insurance in both scenarios ('recovered' or 'not recovered') and possibly buying another car? [more inside]
posted by amnesia and magnets at 10:07 AM PST - 8 comments

Worried about friend, what can I do?

I haven't been able to get in touch with a friend of mine all weekend and neither has their family. (Just found out about the family part late last night.) At first I chalked this up to just disengaging from facebook for a while but now I'm concerned. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 9:19 AM PST - 11 comments

Cloud watching for beginners

What is the best way to get into cloud identification as a hobby? I'm mainly interested in learning the vocabulary and how to talk about and describe clouds—not the satellite imaging / meteorology / weather predicting side. [more inside]
posted by metaphorever at 8:55 AM PST - 10 comments

Seeking effective marijuana cessation ideas

Daily user beginning a detox soon and looking for strategies, propaganda, anything that I can turn to for staying clean [more inside] [more inside]
posted by eusebis_w_adorno at 8:25 AM PST - 14 comments

Why were these door casings slanted?

Yesterday I visited the Isaac Royall House in Medford, MA, a Georgian home built in 1692 and extensively remodeled in the 1730s. We noticed that several of the closet doors had casings that were clearly slanted at the top (unfortunately I can't find those particular doors in pictures). It looked intentional, not like a result of the house sagging. What would be the purpose of this type of design?
posted by this, of course, alludes to sex at 7:52 AM PST - 5 comments

Lower temperature methyl cellulose

Methyl cellulose solution has the handy property of being liquid up to about 50deg C, and becomes solid(ish) above that temperature. I'm looking for a substance that does the same, but with a transition temperature somewhere around 0-20deg C. [more inside]
posted by metaBugs at 7:38 AM PST - 9 comments

Is he "the one"? (Cat edition.)

My boyfriend found a stray kitten in the parking garage of his building this weekend and we caught it and delivered it to the local shelter. But I can't stop thinking about this kitty. Should I go back and get this cat? Is this what "time to get a cat" feels like? [more inside]
posted by helloimjennsco at 6:40 AM PST - 43 comments

Mysterious abdominal and back pain; next steps?

For the last 5 days I've had really horrid abdominal and back pain on my left side; tests show no signs of infection. What do I need to talk to my doctor about to get to the bottom of this? [more inside]
posted by catch as catch can at 6:26 AM PST - 17 comments

Food/gift ideas to bring to family in Denmark & Sweden?

We'll be visiting cousins and their kids (toddlers thru tweens & a teen) in Denmark and Sweden in August. We're coming from upstate NY. We've got books & comics plus some gross US candy for the kids, but are stumped on anything to bring to the adults. We're packing very light, so small is good. What's novel, or amusing, or tasty that comes from the US and is uncommon in Scandinavia? Extra or alternate kid gift suggestions are also still welcomed!
posted by chr1sb0y at 6:19 AM PST - 18 comments

I don't trust my 2010 Honda Civic Hybrid. I'm not sure what to do.

2010 Honda Civic Hybrid, low miles. I'm pretty sure the IMA (hybrid battery system) is going to be an ongoing problem. Should I stick with it or trade it in? Specifically interested in answers from people who are familiar with the Honda hybrids with nickel-metal hydride batteries. [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 5:58 AM PST - 11 comments

Avoiding the Pinterest Fail, baby portrait edition

How hard is it, really, to do your own newborn photography for baby announcements? [more inside]
posted by lizbunny at 5:40 AM PST - 20 comments

What's the best UK shave club?

There are dozens of UK shave clubs out there, with nobody seeming to have clambered to the top. Anybody have any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by Hartster at 5:18 AM PST - 1 comment

Tire change problem

2012 infinity. Got lug nuts off, but tire won't budge. How do I get the tire off?
posted by LonnieK at 4:54 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me look fly on the fly.

I have a date tonight in NYC. I want to look dapper as hell. Please help a non-New-Yorker figure out how to make this happen a) today and b) ideally on the cheap. [more inside]
posted by coppermoss at 3:54 AM PST - 9 comments

Letter-writing to someone with learning difficulties - image font?

I have seen text written for differently-abled kids with a very low level of reading ability, where each word had a symbol over it. For example, "good" might have a thumbs-up or a smiley face over it; "see" might have an eye with an arrow, or something. I've searched but google is failing me. Does anyone know of any online facility to generate text like this? [more inside]
posted by greenish at 3:31 AM PST - 8 comments

My dad died and I don't want to do anything

My dad died. I have so much to do in the aftermath of his passing... but I just don't want to do anything. I've always been a procrastinator, but never to this degree. Please help me come up with a game plan. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 2:38 AM PST - 14 comments

July 24

How do I quit when my boss will take it very personally?

A few months ago I took a new job in a new field for me. Because I can't cope with my boss and her management style, I have decided to give notice tomorrow. I cannot stay, but the thought of actually telling her tomorrow that I am resigning, and then having to ride out the next two weeks in the office, has me breaking out in a cold sweat even now. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by that possible maker of pork sausages at 11:23 PM PST - 29 comments

Another lighting question

My bedroom is roughly 12' x 10', pictured here. There are only 2 50W bullet lights, kind of like these and pictured as circles on the diagram, and there is no electrical box in the ceiling and no way to install anything else (rental, thick concrete walls and ceilings, asbestos). It is dim AF. Please help. [more inside]
posted by 2soxy4mypuppet at 10:17 PM PST - 11 comments

Has the ship sailed on making money as an Amazon merchant?

I'm interested in becoming an Amazon merchant that uses order fulfillment processing by Amazon, but I have some questions about how to make it profitable. [more inside]
posted by Gosha_Dog at 9:35 PM PST - 7 comments

RSS feed for AFP German 'Topthemen'?

Is there any way to get an RSS feed for the German language 'Topthemen' ("Top Topics") that the wire-service AFP publishes on their website? [more inside]
posted by crazy with stars at 8:19 PM PST - 4 comments

What is this plant #313?

This is doing quite well on the SE side of my house in Northern Virginia. Some are over 6ft/2m tall. What is it?
posted by Johnny Wallflower at 8:13 PM PST - 7 comments

Facebook: evil, stupid, dangerous: an idea whose time has come!

I'm anti Facebook for all of the normal reasons: ethics, privacy, security, waste of time, as well as some special snowflake reasons below. But I like social media (hence, my MetaFilter membership). I'm feeling the FB pressure and have had a couple of specific "Damn, I wish I were on FB events" happen recently. But Facebook has been, and remains a really bad idea, right? [more inside]
posted by soylent00FF00 at 8:00 PM PST - 41 comments

how can I help my cat be more comfortable in the heat?

I live on the east coast and it's been very hot. I am worried about my cat in this heat - being covered in fur must suck right now. How can I help him be more comfortable? [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 7:52 PM PST - 21 comments

Why does my tongue keep getting hurt?

For the past month or so, I've had a range of different sore spots on my tongue, that feel like little cuts or raw patches. I'll have a sore spot for a few days in one spot (e.g. back left side of my tongue), all will be well for a few days, and then a few days or a week later I'll have another sore spot in a different location. What gives? [more inside]
posted by c'mon sea legs at 7:43 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I tell if I'm losing my hair?

Female, 33, white. The last 5-6 times I've washed my hair it seems like there's an unusually large amount of hair coming out when I wash it, and when I brush it while blow-drying it afterward. Details, possibly relevant info, below. [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 7:35 PM PST - 15 comments

Apartment Painting Tips - NYC Edition

My wife and I are in the process of buying an apartment on the upper west side in Manhattan and would like to have it painted just after we close (in a couple weeks) and before we move in. Neither of us have ever hired painters before - she's painted herself, and I've just never painted. Some help would be welcome! [more inside]
posted by slide at 7:32 PM PST - 3 comments

Let's sue the landlord

My former landlord is past due on returning my security deposit. I reminded her after the legal deadline and told her to get it to me in the next week. Now the week is past and I have questions about suing her in small claims court. Several questions inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:52 PM PST - 10 comments

view cached version of Ebay page?

I just won an auction and I think the seller increased the shipping price, but I have no proof. How can I find the old version of the listing? [more inside]
posted by oneirodynia at 5:31 PM PST - 7 comments

3 days in Guadeloupe: any tips?

My boyfriend and I are traveling to Guadeloupe Nov 18-21, flying into Pointe-a-Pitre at 6:30pm on the 18th. Any suggestions on where to stay, where to explore, where to eat etc? We're not into fancy B&Bs and resorts, we like DIY adventure (without nonetheless 'roughing it' backpacker style). Budget for housing is $50-75/night. We'll have a car. Thanks for any and all recs!
posted by qzar at 5:28 PM PST - 1 comment

'Twas the Best of Candies - Uh, No, 'Twas the WORST of Candies

Crappy nostalgia-filter! Trying to remember the name these weird, powdery little diet candy tablets that were briefly sold during the 1990s. They were profoundly strange and I've never seen anything like them before or since. Everything I can remember under the fold. [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew at 5:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Camoflaging electrical box

We have a spot on our wall where a doorbell used to be mounted. We no longer have the doorbell, but the electrical box is still there and the wires are still in place. I currently have it covered with a painted blank plate but I'm wondering if there are any other creative ways we could cover this and make it less conspicuous. [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 5:00 PM PST - 7 comments

How to Dog: Cat People Edition

How do we successfully have a dog? I, my housemate, and our three cats have four days to learn. [more inside]
posted by kythuen at 4:29 PM PST - 22 comments

Seeking small ways to practice gratitude and generosity

What are some little things that you do to express gratitude for / generosity toward people around you, like friends, loved ones, or colleagues, that don't require too much time or money? [more inside]
posted by Owl of Athena at 3:51 PM PST - 21 comments

Any advice for Arrowmont (craft school) in August?

My one-week art workshop at Arrowmont is approaching, yay! After reading all the content Google can find me to read, I thought I'd ask if any of you have ever been there, and if so, do you have any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by bluesky78987 at 3:29 PM PST - 2 comments

Found Kitty Flier Best Practices

A kitty followed us home last night! [more inside]
posted by thack3r at 3:29 PM PST - 19 comments

Best scanner for copious quantities of paper photo snapshots.

I need the best scanner to process thousands of 3 1/2" by 3 1/2" family snap shots. Money is no object. [more inside]
posted by cda at 2:34 PM PST - 9 comments

Buying tickets to see Hamilton in Chicago

I have a particular date in mind that I would like to see Hamilton in Chicago. Of course the tickets are all sold out. There are tickets available at Stub Hub and other places. Is it safe to use these services? [more inside]
posted by great_radio at 1:28 PM PST - 10 comments

Tastiest vegan protein powder?

What are your favorite, best-tasting vegan protein powders? Any flavor or style is welcome.
posted by gryphonlover at 12:48 PM PST - 13 comments

How are you all, well, doing (this)?

My therapist said that I seem to have strange ideas of how other people live and cope. [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 12:25 PM PST - 19 comments

Which unlocked phone to buy in the US for use in Israel?

I'd like to buy a phone for around $250 or less that I can use now as well as with a new SIM card from an Israeli carrier when I move there this fall. Would the Moto G4 Plus allow me to do that? Is that a decent option? An older iPhone? Other? I'm open to anything Android or iOS, as long as I can post to Instagram and play Pokemon Go. :)
posted by youcancallmeal at 12:15 PM PST - 4 comments

I fainted for the first time. Thud.

Help me figure out what to to next, and how to stay upright in the future! [more inside]
posted by sucre at 11:47 AM PST - 22 comments

I want to try to find victims from the same perpitrator. How?

Long story short: I was sexually abused by a principal in charge of a public school. I know there have been cases where victims have found eachother and created a case. I want to know how that happens? US centric advice wanted. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:00 AM PST - 4 comments

How does one break up a dog fight?

After a traumatic experience at the dog park, I’ve decided to learn how to break up a dog fight, with your help, please! [more inside]
posted by mulcahy at 10:07 AM PST - 22 comments

Moving a baby grand piano 90 miles on a budget

I need to move a baby grand piano about 90 miles. It is the only thing moving. If you have done this, will you share your tips? Would it be cost effective to rent a truck, hire movers to load the piano, drive the truck myself the 90 miles, and hire different movers to unload the piano? [more inside]
posted by starkraven at 8:46 AM PST - 9 comments

Nalgene Bottles & BPA

I have a dozen 10+ year old Nalgene bottles that were manufactured with BPA. I've finally decided to get rid of them, and buy new bottles without BPA. What should I do with the old Nalgene bottles? Throw them out? Some kind of other non-food/liquid storage? Will Nalgene replace them? Any other ideas? [more inside]
posted by gregr at 7:29 AM PST - 12 comments

Au Revoir, Le Creuset teakettle?

Alas! My beloved Le Creuset teakettle was sitting empty on a burner, and the burner was turned on and not noticed until damage occured. Is my teakettle a lost cause? Warning: damaged le Creuset teakettle images within, get yer tissues handy before you view [more inside]
posted by Elly Vortex at 6:57 AM PST - 11 comments

My friend is not talking to me (the wedding edition)

I recently got asked to be a bridesmaid at a friend's wedding. It involved extensive travel and money. Friend is not happy with the fact that I was not helpful enough during the wedding ceremony. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by sockiety at 5:43 AM PST - 46 comments

July 23

Lost fan remote....Can I just change the to a wall-switch to turn it on?

Sadly, hard to get constructive help at our large hardware stores (US). But, would appreciate if anyone could offer guidance.... [more inside]
posted by skepticallypleased at 9:10 PM PST - 16 comments

Mean coworker makes me dread going to work

I think my coworker at the cafe I work at is treating me really passive-aggressively. Is there anything I can do to ease the tension? [more inside]
posted by Bleusman at 7:05 PM PST - 27 comments

Lemons. I haz them.

Our lemon tree delivered a pretty decent crop this year and I'd like to do something with them. [more inside]
posted by New England Cultist at 5:55 PM PST - 24 comments

Moving with 2 cats

Moving from Ohio to Florida with my 2 cats So many options : we decided to drive them than fly them... The vet said less stressful Now shoukd we do hard top cat carrier vs soft top? Any advice? Should we separate them? [more inside]
posted by barexamfreak at 5:49 PM PST - 18 comments

Does an e-reader with these features exist?

I want an e-reader that has a backlight (like Kindle Paperwhite), but also one that allows you to really HOLD it. The way I prefer to hold it means my thumb will touch the lower part of the screen. I love this about the 4th gen Kindle, but it doesn't have a backlight. Thanks for any recommendations!
posted by okay-quiet-time at 5:34 PM PST - 6 comments

What should I write?

I have two book-length works I've been working on sort of equally over the past couple of months, and I feel like I need to commit to one of them fully and table the other one, so I can just go ahead and finish something. [more inside]
posted by staggering termagant at 5:07 PM PST - 12 comments

Worth buying a Samsung Tablet?

I am thinking of buying a Samsung Galaxy Tab S 8.4, but with new ones coming in September, should I buy this? [more inside]
posted by metajim at 4:59 PM PST - 7 comments

Can you recommend a book for my daughter?

My daughter loves to read, especially Diary of a Wimpy Kid and Big Nate. Unfortunately, she's read almost all of them and she dissolved into tears when I said there wouldn't be many books left for her to read in those series. I'm looking for books for her to try next. [more inside]
posted by christinetheslp at 4:44 PM PST - 36 comments

portable bluetooth keyboard for ergonomics?

I've searched and read the previous posts on this exact topic, but they are all several years out...so... what's an inexpensive, small/compact/portable bluetooth keyboard that you really love? [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 3:24 PM PST - 7 comments

A case of catsternation

Catfilter: My boyfriend and I recent got a new cat. This is our third. One of our other cats already gets along great with it. The other now hates everyone. What's going on? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by fignewton at 3:08 PM PST - 4 comments

Please help me find more dresses like this.

Because of another post, I found and ordered this dress on sale from Boden in all three colors. I love this dress. Where do I find more of this kind of dress? What words do I need to look for when I'm searching? [more inside]
posted by ilovewinter at 2:56 PM PST - 7 comments

I want my side effect back

I'm naturally very skinny and throughout my teens and early twenties I struggled to put on weight. I'm 5' 10" and I weighed around 9 stone (126 pounds). If I put a lot of effort into eating more I could put on a little bit of weight, but then after a few weeks I'd lose it all again. I started taking quetiapine for depression 6 years ago and, after taking it for a couple of years, I gained around 20 pounds without trying. [more inside]
posted by Chenko at 12:38 PM PST - 14 comments

LGBT on NPR?

Is there a branded LGBT program (other than a podcast) anywhere within the public radio universe (NPR, PRI, APM, PRX)? [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 12:01 PM PST - 4 comments

Ideas for volunteering with children?

I have very young children. I'd love to get into some volunteer activity. BUT I am basically a stay at home mom now. It would be great if I could think of a volunteer activity that I could do with my kids in any form, esp. if the kids were an advantage! [more inside]
posted by EtTuHealy at 11:28 AM PST - 11 comments

Recommend intro feminism resources written specifically for men?

I have a brother who needs to learn about feminism. This is important because we have delightful conversations other than when he says things that make me want to shake him until his teeth rattle; he's got some fairly fucked up unconscious assumptions about women. Having dealt with my own unconscious assumptions on many occasions, I've found that I do best with resources that have me as their target audience, especially when the ideas are new. I'd like to give such a resource to my brother--one that is therapeutically gentle/learning oriented with where he's starting as a man, but which also helps him get some of the feminism basics down. I'm not looking for general feminism 101; I'm hoping to find more male-targeted resources. Engaging tone is preferred to academic, but I'll take what I can get.
posted by Alex Haist at 10:57 AM PST - 7 comments

Strainfilter

I'm a Canadian who has legal access to marijuana and would like to know which strains would work best at combating my various ailments. [more inside]
posted by GlassHeart at 10:34 AM PST - 6 comments

Researching American Films' "No Longer in Theaters" Dates?

Is there a way to check to see when an American major production stopped being shown in theaters? The release dates are easy enough to find, but can the cut-off dates for theatrical release showings be researched? [more inside]
posted by Quarter Pincher at 10:13 AM PST - 5 comments

Nature retreat, for individuals, within 3-4 hours of DC

I would like to spend a long weekend or perhaps full week, in mid to late October, alone or semi-alone in nature. An individual retreat that involves yoga, hiking, meditation and contemplation (and maybe even homesteading activities), but is not overly "woo" or religious, sounds ideal to me. Where can I do this within a (maximum) 3-4 hour drive of DC? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 10:08 AM PST - 5 comments

My Deepest Voice Says I'm Unworthy, Untalented, and Not Enough

I feel unworthy, and part of me has grown to hate and hide from the world because I feel as if everyone holds me unworthy. While I see a therapist, I have often brought in outside material to our sessions, and I would appreciate book recommendations (or online blogs – namely, readable things) that come from people with similar experiences who have overcome (or at least are in the course of successfully fighting) this viewpoint. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:52 AM PST - 17 comments

Which Subaru should I buy?

After eight car-free years using public transportation, I am moving to a new region where I’ll need to own a car. I’m pretty sure I’d like to get a Subaru, but am stuck between the Impreza hatchback, Crosstrek, or Forester. [more inside]
posted by oiseau at 9:24 AM PST - 17 comments

Parental control software

Please give me your best suggestions for parental control software. [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats at 9:15 AM PST - 9 comments

Help with Focal Length & Magnification & even brand for visor.

I paint miniature figures, this sort of thing for those that don't know. But I'm in interested in suggestions from anyone that uses a magnifying visor for their hobby/craft. I currently use a magnifying desk light with a 2.5 magnification to paint & find it super helpful but I'm looking for something more portable to take to class. I'm looking to buy a pair of these. [more inside]
posted by wwax at 8:46 AM PST - 3 comments

A question of ethics on money raised for charity

I suffer from Bipolar Disorder, and would love to embark on a long cycling journey (Approx 3500Km) to raise funds for a mental health charity (Ideally £1 per Km) . However, to enable this to happen, I would need to purchase a couple of items and pay for travel to the location, to start the journey. I am long term unemployed/able, and don't have any spare funds to do this. Would it be ethical to raise money for the charity, whilst also using a small percentage of the moneys to enable the trip to happen? [more inside]
posted by the_epicurean at 8:07 AM PST - 6 comments

Learning Spanish via Internet

I've been learning Spanish for 4 or 5 years now. I've read a lot and now I need to start conversing. [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 7:58 AM PST - 3 comments

Hope for freelancers with scatterbrained, ungrounded thinking?

I'm a freelance writer, and the freedom I have means that walls of the maze that is my ADHD brain are always shifting...I think I need help in prioritizing, where I can balance my immediate income needs with longer term plans that will bring me more income in the future. [more inside]
posted by Cybria at 7:53 AM PST - 3 comments

How to I choose which printer to buy for my home and home-office?

I am in the market for a new printer for my new home office. Specifications and limitations below the fold. Your recommendations and experiences would be most appreciated. [more inside]
posted by Erinaceus europaeus at 7:49 AM PST - 9 comments

Saving for a big trip - mattress or savings account or what?

There are early rumblings that my cousins might start planning our next family reunion (an every four years thing) in Italy for summer 2018. How can I best start saving now to make this a possibility for me, a person of modest means? [more inside]
posted by pantarei70 at 7:35 AM PST - 12 comments

Resources for Archiving physical photographs

I have two huge Rubbermaid bins full of family photos dating back to the 1920s and I'd like to organize them and preserve them for the future. I already know how to deal with them digitally, but I need to know the best way to store them in an archival fashion. [more inside]
posted by octothorpe at 7:33 AM PST - 3 comments

Ireland: Self-Catering Driving Tour

We are looking to take advantage of the current extraordinary airfare rates to Ireland. We would like to plan a trip similar to our week in the Cotswolds a few years ago, but we don't know enough about Ireland to be secure in our choices. [more inside]
posted by tmharris65 at 6:53 AM PST - 4 comments

Productivity: What's the new GTD?

David Allen's "Getting Things Done" came out in 2001. It's transformed productivity, but the book is outdated in many ways (it predates smartphones). What book or methodology represents "the new GTD?"
posted by zooropa at 6:48 AM PST - 9 comments

Cell phone options when traveling from North America to Europe

Looking for advice from travelers to Europe, about obtaining a prepaid GSM (data) service for a ~3 week trip in France and Switzerland, as well as about unlocked GSM iPhones. [more inside]
posted by a lungful of dragon at 1:58 AM PST - 7 comments

Poach me! Poach me!

I work at a big company, in Department X. The company hired a new C-level executive to form Department Y six months ago, and he has said very nice things about my work publicly, on several occasions. Department Y could totally use someone like me -- and this guy has won my (professional) heart. How do I maximize my chances of being poached? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 1:16 AM PST - 8 comments

July 22

Wifi signal suddenly weakened, I'm stumped.

My internet wifi signal suddenly doesn't reach the far end of my house when it previously worked fine. [more inside]
posted by HonestAsian at 11:35 PM PST - 9 comments

I would like to live alone, but I also like money.

My current roommate is moving out. The prospect of finding and living with another roommate is giving me the howling fantods. Monthly rent for the whole apartment (plus utilities etc) would be ~50% of my average monthly income before tax. Is this workable? (snowflake details inside) [more inside]
posted by btfreek at 10:20 PM PST - 26 comments

Help me find litfic authors who use settings from all over the world!

Bookfilter! I'm looking to find authors with that internationalist flair. [more inside]
posted by zeusianfog at 9:44 PM PST - 9 comments

Gay in Southern Oregon?

My wife and I suddenly MIGHT have a little bit of equity (we bought in 2006 in the bay area, just before the crash in 2008) and we're thinking about getting out of Oakland. Here's what we want: [more inside]
posted by yarnagogo at 7:44 PM PST - 24 comments

I'm spiraling out of control!!

I watched the film A Simple Plan (1998, dir. Sam Raimi) last night and loved it. I enjoyed it because despite the best efforts of the characters, everything just spiraled out of control for them. Can you guys recommend other films where everything just goes out of control and gets worse and worse for the characters? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 6:31 PM PST - 92 comments

How To Asheville: Family Edition

Freecellwizard and I will be heading to Asheville, NC for a week with two kids, ages 9 and 11. Although we've visited the area several times, we've never had the kids with us and are wondering if there are kid-specific fun things to see/do up there that would appeal to a pair of Pokemon/Minecraft/Steven Universe/Undertale-loving children who must be cajoled away from their various digital devices. [more inside]
posted by little mouth at 6:04 PM PST - 12 comments

How is black and white cookie made?

How does the icing get on black and white cookies? The line between the chocolate and the vanilla is often very precise but with some overlap. Is it dipped? Brushed? Poured? Is there masking? Search engine brings up lots of home recipes but no descriptions of how it is made in commercial bakeries. PLEASE HELP ME ANSWER THIS BURNING QUESTION.
posted by bq at 6:02 PM PST - 10 comments

SFO airport font ID

What is the font used on some of the older signage at SFO? Here is a cropped/straightened example, and the sign with a bit more context. [more inside]
posted by zsazsa at 5:07 PM PST - 3 comments

All or nothing bowel movements? Detailed stool descriptions ahead.

For the past 8 months I have been having substantial bowel movements only about once every 5 to 7 days. These substantial movements are ... big. Like it appears to be literally 5-7 days worth of movements all at once. Doctor suggested more fiber, this just gave me gas and did not help. What's up, does this line up with some IBS style and is this a thing to elevate to a GI doc? [more inside]
posted by supernaturelle at 3:54 PM PST - 18 comments

This is a long road with nothing to listen to

Asking for a friend, who's doing the Portland<>LA trip next month. She's looking for some plot driven audiobooks (i.e. without much purpleness). In particular, she's looking for CDs so she can keep her phone away and is trending towards some noir-ish, detective-y books. She's read Sherlock and I was considering recommending The Monster of Florence as you all seem to like that a bit. [more inside]
posted by DeepSeaHaggis at 3:37 PM PST - 16 comments

Do I have to use my employer's HSA provider?

Ever since being introduced to the wonderful world of HSAs and FSAs, I have been moved around from one provider to another every few months due to various life & work upheavals. Now that I have an HSA it's especially annoying because that is my money, and I want to manage it with the provider of my choice. [more inside]
posted by bleep at 2:31 PM PST - 5 comments

Put money toward 401k or credit card debt?

Do I put pennies toward my empty, matched 401(k) or pennies toward my slowly accruing credit card debt? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:15 PM PST - 19 comments

So I just go to the Obamacare website and pick a plan then?

My health care co-op has folded and I need to get new insurance. Is there any benefit or reason to see a health insurance broker, or do the plans listed on the ACA website cover all the choices I have available? Is there anything I should do other than simply shop on the ACA website and compare plans? [more inside]
posted by AspirinPill at 12:21 PM PST - 15 comments

Wherever you go, there you are

I spend a lot of time alone, and I'm very good at keeping myself entertained. I need a lot of alone time in order to thrive. Yet, sometimes I feel bored/tired with myself, and I'm not sure how to snap out of that. What helps restore you when you're tired of yourself? Please don't make any suggestions that depend on social activities or travel--I love both, but I can't access those on command. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 12:13 PM PST - 32 comments

Help coming up with questions for monthly newsletter

Hi Metafilter, I am trying to spiffy up the monthly newsletter that is put out through my local mothers club. One feature I want to add is a monthly interview with a mothers club member who owns their own business/is in business for herself. I was thinking I would ask the same set of 3-5 interview questions to each person. I would love suggestions for questions that you think would be interesting in this regard. Also, I want to feature a different member family each month. Instead of asking them to provide the usual biographical blurb, I'd like to ask each family the same fun question each month. I also would love suggestions for what this question could be. Thank you!
posted by corn_bread at 11:12 AM PST - 9 comments

Will dry ice in carbonated punch cause an explosion?

My go-to punch formula is .75L liquor, 1.75L fruit juice and 2L soda. I want to put some dry ice in the punch bowl to make that cool roiling fog. Will the carbonation in the soda interact badly with the dry ice, i.e., in a Mentos-and-Coke sort of disaster? If so, do you know of any workarounds other than the obvious removal of the soda? Punch suggestions also welcome!
posted by Faint of Butt at 10:53 AM PST - 10 comments

Cheaters getting a taste of their own medicine

I'm trying to put together a playlist of songs where cheaters get cheated on. I've got two by Denise LaSalle ("Your Husband Is Cheating On Us" and "Paper Thin"), plus "Who's Making Love" by Johnnie Taylor and "I Was Checking Out She Was Checkin In" by Don Covey. Any suggestions for more like this? What I've got is all R&B, because those are the songs that came to mind. I'm open to any genre that fits the theme.
posted by layceepee at 9:48 AM PST - 34 comments

Need a QR Code scanner app that doesn't suck, and can export to CSV

So, I've been tasked with finding an app my co-workers can install on their phones for an upcoming event to scan people's QR codes on their badges. My co-workers are generally not technical people, so it should be very easy to use. Must work on iOS and Android. [more inside]
posted by SansPoint at 9:15 AM PST - 4 comments

Police making custom medals for line of duty shootings

My google is failing me - I'm trying to find the name for and documentation of police officers getting custom memorabilia for their on duty kills. [more inside]
posted by mayonnaises at 8:38 AM PST - 3 comments

I want to buy a Mac laptop, just not one that exists

I’m planning to buy either a used Air or a new MacBook, though I wish I could wait for the next update instead. The Air has been on "Don't Buy" status at MacRumors for months. But a MacBook with comparable performance could be $500 more including the port adapters I’d need. (Is it ok to buy those cheap, from third party manufacturers, and to daisy-chain them?) [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 8:12 AM PST - 24 comments

Sheets for very hot weather

I cannot find good sheets for super hot weather. Not humid, just desert hot. [more inside]
posted by tangomija at 7:00 AM PST - 33 comments

Wrangling a large mass of sources

I'm working on an academic project that requires me to wrangle more voluminous sources than I normally deal with - four or five 600-page 19th century select committee reports and that kind of thing. I'm struggling to manage my notes and to keep a decent grip on everything that might be of potential interest to my research questions. How do you manage sources for this type of project? I have been writing 1-2 page synopses of each source, and noting page references to key quotations etc, but I'm wondering if there's some more efficient system for organising and studying this material that I'm missing. Any tips?
posted by Aravis76 at 6:46 AM PST - 5 comments

Dog friendly restaurants in Denver?

We will be driving through Denver en route to Breckenridge Saturday night. We'd like to stop for dinner, but we'll have our 15 lb. terrier mutt with us. Where should we stop? [more inside]
posted by Pleased_As_Punch at 4:56 AM PST - 3 comments

Swallows and Amazons series with readable illustrations?

Which edition of Arthur Ransome's Swallows and Amazons series has the most detail in the maps/drawings? [more inside]
posted by madajb at 3:34 AM PST - 7 comments

Delicious ground pepper recipes

I just bought a new pepper grinder and am looking for some recipes that will let me use it as much as possible. I saw this thread about using whole peppercorns but I am specifically looking for recipes that use ground pepper. My pepper grinder has settings to grind from fine to coarse so any type of recipe that uses large amounts of ground pepper is welcome!
posted by newsomz at 12:41 AM PST - 22 comments

July 21

Recommend a survey text on the (History of the) Philosophy of Religion

I'm looking for a basic survey or overview text on the History of the Philosophy of Religion. Not an exhaustive text but one that would provide explicitly a kind of syllabus for background on key works in this thread of philosophy. [more inside]
posted by mary8nne at 11:21 PM PST - 6 comments

How can I best clean my mattress after a stain?

I came home tonight to find a 2 foot square wet spot on my mattress. I have allergies and sensitivity to mold and odors. [more inside]
posted by ramenopres at 11:13 PM PST - 13 comments

What is the process for deciding timing of who goes first: RNC or DNC?

I'd be interested to learn more about it. Do they switch up every four years so one time the Republican National Convention goes first and then next time they go second? And then the Democrats swap back? [more inside]
posted by timpanogos at 9:17 PM PST - 8 comments

Ideas for a low-key bachelorette party in Montreal

What fun and non-touristy activities could I help plan for one of my dearest friend's bachelorette party in Montreal? I know she'd like something more on the relaxing end of the spectrum than a typical party, but I'm doing this from California and not able to check things out in person. [more inside]
posted by erratic meatsack at 8:28 PM PST - 9 comments

Roses in Art (For a Friend)

[Question from a non-MeFi friend:]
I am looking for the name or term used to refer to a specific style/design of rose frequently depicted in Japanese and Chinese art.
[more inside]
posted by KChasm at 8:13 PM PST - 4 comments

Stucco cottage insides on our vegetables

There's dust from a wall cut all over our vegetables and their soil. Is this a garden ruiner or just an extra scrub of the veggies? [more inside]
posted by The Noble Goofy Elk at 7:41 PM PST - 8 comments

What does the Braille on this restroom sign say?

A friend recently saw this bathroom sign in Utah; we agree that the imagery and wording for the sighted are pretty great. But what does the Braille say? Looks like the letters are ??WOME -- but transliterating doesn't really help me understand the text. I couldn't find anything similar on these ADA bathroom signs. Help?
posted by zebra at 7:07 PM PST - 5 comments

Suggestions for things to do while visiting Raleigh, NC?

I moved to Raleigh, NC a while ago. I like it here a lot. It's great. I'm really glad I moved here. Now I have a friend coming out to visit. I'd like to show her around. This is kind of embarrassing, but I don't know where to take her. I've spent the entire time I've been here either working or riding. She isn't super into horses. [more inside]
posted by trevor_case at 6:59 PM PST - 12 comments

Give me feedback on my OKC profile!

I've decided to commit more fully to online dating, and since I am I might as well do a good job of it. Take a look, what can I improve? Link is currently my "homepage" on my mefi profile. [more inside]
posted by coolname at 6:58 PM PST - 16 comments

i have brain cancer and no one to care for me

How do I have cancer alone? [more inside]
posted by hollisimo at 6:06 PM PST - 30 comments

What can I grow starting now?

I just got a patch of garden I can start growing things in. It is a bit late in the summer, so I am guessing I am out of the planting window for many vegetables. I was wondering what I could grow now that I may be able to harvest in the fall. Maybe chillies? I'm up for anything. I live in Portland, Oregon.
posted by Paul the Octopus at 6:00 PM PST - 13 comments

What was this drama tv show that included only 2 people per ep?

Can you help me identify this drama tv show that included only 2 people per episode? [more inside]
posted by DeltaForce at 5:35 PM PST - 3 comments

Where can I find Rock the House Down from the Spies Like Us Soundtrack?

Where can I find/obtain the song "Rock the House Down" written by Peter Aykroyd and Jon Tiven for the Spies Like Us (1985) soundtrack?
posted by circular at 4:38 PM PST - 3 comments

mystery location in the late 1960s

I'm looking to identify a remembered location from my childhood. Mom remembers about as much as I do. [more inside]
posted by the Real Dan at 4:14 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I get funding as a progressive political candidate in the US?

Let's say, hypothetically, that I wanted to run as a progressive in a political race that is normally uncontested in favor of the Republican (R) candidate. How do I go about getting funding for this? From locals, as well as national bodies? [more inside]
posted by Tyrant King Porn Dragon at 4:03 PM PST - 9 comments

Tenant Rights in Toronto

I live in Toronto. My two roommates and I signed a lease to begin in September 2014, and to end in August 2016. My roommates are not interested in extending the lease, and have already found new places to live. However, I am interested in staying, and have told the landlords so. Do I have any right to stay? [more inside]
posted by tickingclock at 3:54 PM PST - 6 comments

Gmail labels missing in Safari on Mac

I recently switched from Chrome to Safari on my MacPro desktop (OSX El Capitan). When I view my Gmail in the Safari browser, all the labels (tags) on previous emails are missing. [more inside]
posted by Joleta at 3:49 PM PST - 3 comments

Recommend some state-of-the-art mystery novels.

I'm interested in catching up with the latest developments in the evolution of the mystery novel. What should I read? [more inside]
posted by Mothlight at 2:33 PM PST - 18 comments

Where you stop overnight on road trip from NJ to Bar Harbor, ME?

Driving from Northern NJ to Bar Harbor ME in late august (peak tourism!), and trying to find a good place to spend the night on the way up. [more inside]
posted by malphigian at 2:14 PM PST - 20 comments

Bike Tour: Portland -> San Francisco

Starting mid-August I am riding my bike from Portland to SF via the coast. I'd love any mefite insights to this trip. I have The Book. I have my gear. I plan on mostly camping. Aiming for 50-60 miles/day. I also have questions. [more inside]
posted by mandymanwasregistered at 2:05 PM PST - 14 comments

Reykjavik Marathon and the slower runner - food stations

I'm running the Reykjavik Marathon next month. I'm a proper runner, but slow and steady. I'm looking to do the mara in under 6 hours. Have you experienced the Reykjavik Marathon (recently) as a spectator or runner and do you have specific knowledge as to whether they pack up the food stations early or run out of the powerade and bananas they say they supply. Runners can provide a pack for themselves to be available at 20k and 30k but will this just get thrown away before I get to it? [more inside]
posted by LyzzyBee at 1:30 PM PST - 5 comments

Help with home office backup strategy

I want to create a backup system for my home office, and I'm not sure how to go about it. Questions within. [more inside]
posted by ottereroticist at 12:54 PM PST - 3 comments

Is this a 'if you have to ask, you already know the answer' thing?

I bought this dress to wear for my wedding, but have since decided on something else. Now I want to wear it to a friend's black tie wedding, but I am concerned that it looks too bridal. [more inside]
posted by CookieNose at 12:32 PM PST - 41 comments

Big nasties

Are "waterbugs" (aka roaches) in the summer a Chicago thing? Or are they a summer thing in Chicago? Or? [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 11:04 AM PST - 22 comments

La Vie En Rose-Colored Glasses

I have been back in New York City for less than 24 hours after my second trip to Paris, and came home with starry eyes. And - in the past 3 hours, enough people have remarked on that and said "why don't you just move there?" that I'm starting to think about it. I need some reality. [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 11:00 AM PST - 38 comments

Where to source leather for a DIY watch band?

I'd like to take a stab at making my own watch band(s) out of leather. There are plenty of tutorials out there on the process, but I am not so sure about where to source the materials -- especially the leather itself. [more inside]
posted by cubby at 10:50 AM PST - 9 comments

What is the difference between giving into something and accepting it?

I've been single for a minute. I met somebody that makes me feel good, act happy, and ticks a lot of my boxes. There are, however, a few differences in our world view and life experiences that are deal breakers for me. I can never see myself dating this person, but we have fun. Do I break it off, or continue feeling good and have a breezy time? Snowflakes inside! [more inside]
posted by Vrai at 9:17 AM PST - 24 comments

Is there chocolate subscription in the UK that's definitely gluten free?

I want to get a friend and his new wife a monthly chocolate subscription to celebrate their wedding, but I am having a hard time finding one that is gluten free. Please help! [more inside]
posted by kendrak at 9:03 AM PST - 6 comments

Tracking team availability

I am part of a ten-person team that is spread across several states and time zones. We are looking for a free and easy solution that will allow us to keep track of who is in or out of the office each day. [more inside]
posted by galvanized unicorn at 8:34 AM PST - 3 comments

What's the best way to send money or transfer funds to Ecuador?

I need to send some funds from the US to Ecuador in a timely manner. My recipients have provided me a name, a phone number and a bank name. I'm not sure my recipients have a bank account. [more inside]
posted by rw at 8:16 AM PST - 8 comments

Harvesting kale: whole plant, or bit by bit?

I put some kale plants in my very small back yard patch this summer and it's flourishing. The question is simple: when I want some kale, do I cut down one whole plant, or do I trim a branch here, a branch there, off several plants? [more inside]
posted by zadcat at 8:10 AM PST - 11 comments

Just Tighten It Up a Little Here and There

How have you gone about improving your slight sloppiness in almost all aspects of life? [more inside]
posted by sandmanwv at 6:42 AM PST - 13 comments

Iceland - campervan recommendations

We want to go to Iceland late August/early September. We've never camped, or vanned, much less campervanned, but it sounds like an adventure! Now seeking advice from Iceland holiday veterans, van connoisseurs and fellow travelers. [more inside]
posted by harujion at 5:25 AM PST - 6 comments

Best solution for running Windows in the cloud?

From any machine, I would like to be able to fire up an on-demand instance of Windows in a remote virtual machine with a pre-configured image (I have some specific requirements for the software I would require). From this image I want to be able to access some persisted data. What is currently the best solution for doing this? [more inside]
posted by oclipa at 5:14 AM PST - 9 comments

Recommendations for a new water heater / brand?

We need a new water heater. Do you have any reason to believe your water heater is better or worse than other water heaters? [more inside]
posted by springo at 4:06 AM PST - 10 comments

I live in California, my gun control vote doesn't count.

Sometime in the recent weeks, maybe around the time of the mass murder in Orlando, or a bit before, a friend posted an article about giving money to candidates in close races around the country who supported gun control. I think it was in Huffington Post but I don't have the search terms and can't find it. Any leads? Please and thank you.
posted by Duffington at 1:19 AM PST - 1 comment

Bored with my job

Too good to leave, too bad to stay: job edition. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:17 AM PST - 5 comments

I was poached internally - how to mitigate the fallout?

I was approached by the manager of a different department than the one I work in (same company). She asked me about my interest in a position in her department. I hadn't considered it previously, but after doing more research, I decided that it would be a great move for me, as I'll be making quite a bit more money than I'm making now and it's a fantastic growth opportunity. She asked me to keep the interviews, hiring procedures, etc. quiet with my current managers until the details were finalized. I wasn't super comfortable with this (I'm close with my current team), but did what was requested of me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:17 AM PST - 30 comments

“Good” friends reopening old wounds

How do you deal with people you consider to be close, good friends hurting you? *Trigger warning* Rape [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:17 AM PST - 20 comments

July 20

There is a young male feral cat stuck on the neighbors roof.

There is a young male feral cat stuck on the neighbors roof and it has been up there a few days and is freaking out. It is hot and I would like to get it down. The neighbors are having their house remodeled and I have contacted them and I have permission to access their property. [more inside]
posted by johnpowell at 11:54 PM PST - 12 comments

Methods to build self-esteem in troubled mother?

How do I help to build self-esteem in my "crazy" (bipolar, BPD), overweight, aging, and unsuccessful mother, who lives in a small town with not much in the way of community, and who refuses to seek medical treatment for her mental health and physical issues? [more inside]
posted by erattacorrige at 11:16 PM PST - 29 comments

Your mindfulness journey and success

For a number of reasons, I have embarked on a journey to really cultivate some mindfuless in my life. I'm attempting to do 10 minutes of meditation every day, and I'm finding it very challenging - your tips, experiences and eventual success would be very helpful to me. [more inside]
posted by smoke at 8:16 PM PST - 24 comments

Can anyone ID this flattish cast-iron frying pan?

I picked this up recently and unfortunately the bottom is too rusty to ID it. I can read "ERIE" on the bottom and nothing else. It measures 11" in diameter across the top and about 1.25" deep including the bottom. Any idea what it is? Also, the rust is pretty serious--how would I go about dealing with that? Is this still usable? Pics are here.
posted by Slinga at 6:17 PM PST - 14 comments

How to clean walls with low/no-VOC paint?

I've been wondering why my walls are getting SO scuffed, and it turns out that this is a feature of low/no VOC paint. How do I clean my walls without making the situation worse? [more inside]
posted by annie o at 5:59 PM PST - 7 comments

What could kill a shrub/bush in one day?

I have some bushes if front of my house that were planted almost 3 years ago. When I came home from work tonight the one closest to my driveway was completely dead. All the other bushes of the same kind are in good health, but the leaves on this one are mostly gone, the ones that remain are dark brown. It was fine this morning. [more inside]
posted by ericthegardener at 5:50 PM PST - 28 comments

Quirky Things to See in Europe in October

I would like to take a two week vacation to Europe this upcoming fall (most likely October) and I am currently overwhelmed with all the possible options! I'm looking at a few different places, but maybe you can recommend an interesting activity, festival, spectacle that I just have to see. [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 5:48 PM PST - 4 comments

Is there a decent hiking GPS app for the iPhone?

My dad and I are now in the planning/training phase of the Presidential Traverse that I asked about earlier this month. I'm hoping to bring my iPhone plus a recharging pack and make that my total electronics solution. However, the one hiking GPS app I've tried is unsatisfactory and the others cost more than I'm willing to spend just to try them out. Review and comparison sites are not helpful. Is there a hiking GPS app for the iPhone that will do what I need? [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 4:41 PM PST - 7 comments

Should I rent or should I buy now?

I'm 40 and single, and have been renting for all of my adult life. I'm now in a position where I can buy if I want to. I'm starting to do initial research and attempt to get a better understanding of my options and what the best decision is for me. [more inside]
posted by bunderful at 4:18 PM PST - 27 comments

Vancouver Island hidden gems?

My sweetie and I are going to Vancouver Island for a road trip holiday, and we're looking for cool sights and restaurants that you love but we may not know about. [more inside]
posted by Homeboy Trouble at 3:56 PM PST - 13 comments

I need to stop all forms of solicitation on my property.

I need a way to completely prevent solicitors from coming to my house. My current track isn't cutting it. [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 3:49 PM PST - 60 comments

What the heck is going on with my VPN?

VPN doesn't appear to be routing to the country I want it to, why? [more inside]
posted by tastycracker at 2:22 PM PST - 1 comment

Most effective donation strategy for 2016 election?

If I am in a position to make the maximum legal donation to the Clinton campaign this year, should I worry about timing it for best effect? [more inside]
posted by murphy slaw at 1:48 PM PST - 8 comments

Having surgery, not sure what to do about overly-helpful mother

In the next couple months I will be having outpatient surgery in a city 2 hours away from my home. I can get there on my own, but I will need someone to stay overnight with me and drive me home the next day. My mom has very eagerly volunteered, but I don't want her to come with. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 12:54 PM PST - 33 comments

How to put a calendar in an ebook (cause tables don't work)

I'm converting my book, which is in WORD, to an ebook. I have had to convert several tables to lists because the tables come out all screwy in the ebook format. But I've included a monthly calendar in the book, where you can see how somebody can organize her time day by day, only it doesn't come out right in the ebook... [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 12:45 PM PST - 6 comments

Active release technique - experiences?

I had surgery for compartment syndrome about six months ago. My question is for folks who are athletic and have had experience with the ART (or with an H-Wave machine): What were your personal experiences, and how long did your results last? YANMD, YANMC, etc. [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 12:39 PM PST - 1 comment

Does it still make sense to learn Latex?

I'm just starting graduate school and am researching different tools. One that appeals to me is Latex, but I'm wondering if it's seen as archaic or anti-social/collaborative these days. I'll be learning/writing about social/information science.
posted by 10ch at 12:20 PM PST - 20 comments

Scenar device for pain: true or false?

A friend swears by her Scenar device for pain, specifically joint pain. She let me use it recently when my hip was bothering me, and I did seem to experience some relief. But I'm not sure if it was a placebo effect or not. [more inside]
posted by Gusaroo at 11:54 AM PST - 19 comments

Roadtrip destinations in the PNW

Please recommend roadtrip destinations from Vancouver, BC? [more inside]
posted by porpoise at 11:03 AM PST - 11 comments

Modern Software Development Best Practices

Can you recommend practical, concrete resources discussing modern software development best practices, particularly for web development? [more inside]
posted by jedicus at 10:53 AM PST - 3 comments

My bookmarks....they have wandered off!

Using Chrome. Sometime in the past, I used Firefox. When I stopped, I imported my bookmarks into Chrome. I now have multiple bookmark doodads, can't figure out how to integrate them, and can't figure out how to organize them either as they are or after they're integrated. Help? [more inside]
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess at 10:50 AM PST - 3 comments

Anyone with Graves-Basedow disease? (overactive thyroid)

I was diagnosed with G-B recently and would like to hear from people who have or had it too. [more inside]
posted by U.N.Owen at 10:10 AM PST - 8 comments

Can you find me a picture of a particular type of shirt?

Ok, so it's the 90s or 2010s, and you're at the sarong/tie-dye/bong stall at the local fair, and you buy a three quarter sleeve neutral-yet-colorful t-shirt that has gauzy layered images of like, Ganesh, or Buddha, and lotus flowers and random kanji/sanskirt/lord knows printed all over it. You know what I'm talking about? Can you find me a photo of this type of shirt? [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 9:18 AM PST - 20 comments

How to start a raised vegetable garden mid-August in the Northeast?

My wife's birthday is mid-August. I want to give her the gift of a raised vegetable garden bed in our yard. I'm not sure how to put together the specific details in order to make this work. [more inside]
posted by TurkishGolds at 9:11 AM PST - 10 comments

How serious is this challenge to the validity of fMRI research?

A recent study claims to have found problems with fMRI software that cast a huge number of past studies into doubt. Is this over-inflated hype (debunking for sake of debunking) or is this a genuine challenge that actually invalidates past research? the report / article in the Economist.
posted by aunt_winnifred at 9:02 AM PST - 4 comments

Being a part of the life of a kid with Asperger's Syndrome

Need suggestions on stimulating, having fun and helping a boy with Asperger's Syndrome have a fulfilling life. More inside. [more inside]
posted by longjump at 8:47 AM PST - 14 comments

Recommendations for cheap offsite computer backups, cheapest data type?

I want to do an offsite backup for my files (financial, old photos, some writing, about 250 GB) and I’m not convinced that using an online service is the best way. They seem slow and unreliable. I think I’ll do it more low tech and store data on a drive and leave it at work or with a relative. [more inside]
posted by Borborygmus at 8:26 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me keep my bathtub clean

My water pressure is very strong, and as a result, the drain cannot keep up. This makes it very difficult to keep it clean. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by RUPure at 8:04 AM PST - 18 comments

Three cats, one small apartment: too many?

Considering adopting a foster kitten; already have two young cats; live in a 1-bedroom apartment. Cats and kitten get along well now; but is this asking for territorial trouble? [more inside]
posted by We had a deal, Kyle at 7:52 AM PST - 18 comments

How can I streamline my resume? Should I?

My current work responsibilities are...complicated and various. My resume looks cluttered as a result. How can I better organize things, given that functional resumes are seen as dodgy? [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 7:37 AM PST - 7 comments

Regrets about no negotiating job offer

I left a job where I had plenty of privileges for a new job that I love but has no perks [more inside]
posted by 3dd at 5:50 AM PST - 7 comments

How to keep it together when no one else is?

With a family in crisis, how do you keep yourself together while everyone else seems to be falling apart? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:30 AM PST - 5 comments

Getting over attachment for long-term friend

How do I get over an unrequited love and move on emotionally/mentally? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:30 AM PST - 16 comments

Outpatient Substance Abuse Treatment in Dallas Area

A family member is in a very bad way with alcohol, pills, and whatever else he can get his hands on. He refuses to go to an in-patient facility, despite losing his family and home. Outpatient is a possibility. Does anyone have any recommendations for a center in the Dallas area, or advice on how to pick a good one?
posted by oneironaut at 4:55 AM PST - 2 comments

Third Day on Job - Problematic Recommendation Request

My wife is on the third day of her job, and has to give a diplomatic but honest response regarding someone who applied to the company and may or may not have listed her as a reference. [more inside]
posted by glaucon at 4:41 AM PST - 15 comments

Running XCode on an external SSD

Compiling files is much faster on my SSD-equipped laptop than on my iMac with a traditional hard drive. I'd like my desktop machine to blaze like the laptop. But I wonder: would this happen with just an external SSD drive and all my files moved over to it? Or would I need to replace the internal drive?
posted by johngoren at 4:14 AM PST - 10 comments

July 19

Thunderbird to gmail migration

I'm trying to move some email that I received on a non-gmail account that I no longer have access to (read using Thunderbird) to my long standing gmail account but some of them won't transfer. [more inside]
posted by Medw at 10:53 PM PST - 5 comments

CenturyLink DSL Hell

I am in a loop of fail with my CenturyLink DSL connection. Any suggestions before I bury my router and move to Comcast? [more inside]
posted by diode at 9:44 PM PST - 6 comments

Excel reverse conditional formatting

I'd like something like conditional formatting, but that works the other way - a cell's value changes depending upon the colour the cell is filled with. [more inside]
posted by quinndexter at 7:50 PM PST - 2 comments

Can you suggest more music like this?

I recently discovered this rendition of O Magnum Mysterium on tumblr and it took my breath away. I mean that truly - the first time I listened, it gave me goosebumps and then brought me to tears. Something about the vocal harmonies coming together and then drifting apart and the sound resonating off the walls of the bathroom and aaagggh! I need more of this sort of music in my life. [more inside]
posted by meggan at 7:09 PM PST - 39 comments

It Seems to Me that "Maybe" Pretty Much Always Means "No"

My (very) new boyfriend told me Friday he isn't sure if he sees himself living with someone or getting married again. Later in the weekend, he backtracked and said he was stressed out about other things, afraid of losing me, and he could be open to it. Is this relationship doomed, or can "not sure" mean something other than "no"? [more inside]
posted by foxonisland at 6:53 PM PST - 33 comments

What's the best mid-price phone for Pokemon Go

The time has come- I need a new phone, and I want to play Pokemon Go on it. I have Virgin Mobile, and I can't pay $600 for a top of the line phone. What's the best phone under $250 that can actually play Pokemon Go, and that works on Virgin? [more inside]
posted by banjo_and_the_pork at 5:41 PM PST - 21 comments

A stomach bug from being cold?

Can being cold (as in the opposite of hot) cause stomach flu symptoms, as Eastern folklore claims? If not, why am I suddenly suffering from it? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 5:24 PM PST - 13 comments

Which edition of Proust to read: typography & design edition

I have decided to read Proust, and the edition I got from the library was unreadable for book design reasons. Which print edition is most readable, in your opinion? [more inside]
posted by not that girl at 4:44 PM PST - 17 comments

"Cheers" on a train: What's the deal with Maryland Commuter Rail?

I recently began taking Maryland's MARC commuter rail to and from work (Rockville-DC), and I'm noticing something I've never observed before in my years as a commuter. It seems that a lot (really, a very high percentage) of these passengers have come to know one another, and have formed little communities throughout the rail cars. From what I can gather, these people don't work together, and few if any of them socialize outside of their daily commute, but they are simply thrilled to see one another every day, and they swap stories, jokes, and affectionate barbs with one another in a way that reminds me of nothing so much as a cadre of barflies who've been regulars at the same watering hole for years (today, actually, several passengers passed around a bottle of wine). I hadn't taken regional commuter rail until recently; my commuting experiences have been limited to bus and city subway systems. At any rate, I HAVE SOME QUESTIONS! [more inside]
posted by duffell at 4:27 PM PST - 51 comments

How to say "Earth's Building Blocks" in Spanish?

I'm helping to build an exhibit about common rock-forming minerals. The entire exhibit has been translated into Spanish by a professional translator, but one phrase was missed (wasn't sent). Can you give me a translation for the phrase "Earth's Building Blocks"? [more inside]
posted by Secretariat at 4:21 PM PST - 9 comments

Hell has frozen over.

Mr. Terrier and I have been invited to a late August wedding....and we actually want to go! The couple in question are good old friends of ours. The bride (in her 50s) will probably appear in a smashing cocktail-looking number. Natch, I'm going to wear a nice dress. Nothing currently in the closet is special enough, so I went online (a dangerous place.) [more inside]
posted by BostonTerrier at 4:14 PM PST - 28 comments

Tell me about becoming/being a UX editor or copywriter

I'm an experienced editor (of all sorts) and writer (primarily journalism but also have had short gigs writing copy for social media and for a mobil app interface). Long ago I analysed a client's website to see if it was user-friendly or hostile. I'm really good at understanding customer perspectives and advocating for users. Also, I'm an old. How might I go about getting such a job? And would such a job, in the Bay Area, be lucrative? [more inside]
posted by Bella Donna at 3:32 PM PST - 7 comments

Wiggle wiggle wiggle

Does Jello have the same purported health benefits as gelatin? [more inside]
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 2:50 PM PST - 12 comments

What are these white dots on my peach pit?

picture. Are these bug eggs? The spots are hard, not mushy and the peach was meh. Any ideas?
posted by pintapicasso at 2:49 PM PST - 3 comments

Reliable minicab from Heathrow to central London?

Can you recommend either a car service or a car booking agency to take me from Terminal 3 at Heathrow to central London? [more inside]
posted by wryly at 2:43 PM PST - 6 comments

How long will this last in the fridge?

Food safety experts: how long will this glaze/dip/condiment last in the fridge? [more inside]
posted by peep at 1:50 PM PST - 8 comments

How can I, an American, get funding for a PhD in France?

I was accepted into a PhD program in France. I was invited to compete for a limited number of 'contracts' which come with a salary. I came up just short in this competition, but for a number of reasons have decided that this is an opportunity I wish to pursue. . . . but I need money and don't want to take on debt. [more inside]
posted by os tuberoes at 1:42 PM PST - 7 comments

What can I do to set myself up for success in a work from home job?

I recently accepted a new job that will be completely remote. I'll be staring in about a week. What can I do now and in the first few weeks of the new job to create good habits and organization? [more inside]
posted by chatongriffes at 1:11 PM PST - 23 comments

Do the Rails not buckle in Spain?

One one of the hottest days of the year here in the UK, train delays and outright cancellations are being explained as due to Hot Rails and the threat of rail buckling. Can someone explain this to me? More specifically why I have not heard of this in Southern countries such as Spain or Italy where temperatures like this (33C) are the norm during summer and where winters can be even colder.
posted by vacapinta at 12:58 PM PST - 13 comments

Fiction set in Quebec City?

I am planning a vacation to Quebec City and on my drive to the area I would like to listen to some fiction set in the area. Any audio book recommendations? [more inside]
posted by ASlackerPestersMums at 12:56 PM PST - 4 comments

What do I owe UPS?

What are my responsibilities regarding a package sent to the wrong person at my property? Complications within. [more inside]
posted by OrangeVelour at 12:19 PM PST - 21 comments

Help me find this online quiz to prove I have no discernment.

Is it under $100 or over $1,000? [more inside]
posted by rekrap at 12:03 PM PST - 8 comments

Will what I'm planning to do ruin my Prius battery or my life?

I am replacing a single cell in my 2005 gen II Prius' battery pack. In order to equalize the voltage in all of the cells I plan to temporarily wire all of them in parallel. Is there some reason not to do this? [more inside]
posted by cmoj at 12:01 PM PST - 15 comments

Lead Removing Whole House Water Filter Recommendations

Purchased a house knowing the supply line from the water main was lead. Options are purchasing a cooler for potable water, buying a whole house filter and replacing the hot water tank, or replacing the supply line and HWT. Assuming that the third option is beyond our means at the moment and the first option is a stopgap, please recommend a whole house water filtration system available in Canada that is durable, practical, and won't need to be replaced in three years because 'they don't make those kinds of filters anymore' or similar nonsense.
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 11:30 AM PST - 7 comments

Eye Anxiety: multifocal contact lenses edition

You are not my ophthalmologist. I'll see my doc again in a couple of months. I am asking (pretty please) for experiences/advice with wearing multifocal disposable contact lenses. Did they work for you? This might seem like a dumb question, but I am trying to figure out if I need a different Rx, or if these kinds of contacts just won't work for me. The threads I found on multifocal contacts are a few years old, and perhaps technology has changed, so here goes (super-sensitive-skin snowflakes follow): [more inside]
posted by quixotictic at 10:34 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me pick an internet provider! (Atlanta)

I am trying to decide which internet provider to go with, but I can't decide which is the better deal for what I need. [more inside]
posted by thebrokenmuse at 10:16 AM PST - 8 comments

Did I dream a new magic trick?

Last night, when I was almost waking up, I dreamed I was watching a video of a magic trick. Can you help me remember who performed it? [more inside]
posted by Promethea at 10:02 AM PST - 3 comments

Ordered on amazon wasn't charged?

Ordered on amazon wasn't charged? I contacted amazon chat and synchrony chat. Now they want me to call. I'm too damn lazy to waste time on the phone to correct their mistake. What's the worst that can happen? Order was only 39.75
posted by mamamia88 at 9:27 AM PST - 14 comments

Quotes about being an outsider?

What are some great quotes, poems, or literary excerpts about being an outsider, a constant traveler, or a countryless foreigner?
posted by omar.a at 8:58 AM PST - 23 comments

I'm on the board of a small rural library...

and I'm looking for suggestions regarding innovative programs and ideas that would significantly benefit our patrons. [more inside]
posted by Chrischris at 8:22 AM PST - 27 comments

How do you get over the anxiety of starting a new relationship?

...if the last one was awful. I'm 25 F. My parents are divorced and had a very abusive relationship. I don't speak with (or have a relationship with) my dad as a result. I'm not really sure what a healthy relationship looks like. My friends (and family) are mostly single. My first and only serious relationship was a complete disaster. [more inside]
posted by Femiluv at 8:14 AM PST - 10 comments

Vacation recommendations for Corsica

We're going to Corsica for two weeks at the end of September/beginning of October. Recommendations? [more inside]
posted by ltl at 8:08 AM PST - 3 comments

How to present and evaluate data relative to weight

I could use some help walking through this: I have Excel data that means more or less depending on where it comes from. When I'm working with it, presenting it, or thinking about it, I want to treat it differently depending on origin. Example within. [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 8:01 AM PST - 11 comments

Domestic cleaning agencies in central London likely to hire a retiree?

Asking for a friend who is a fit 65 and is needs casual employment as a cleaner. The catch: she has no formal cleaning experience or references. What central London agencies might hire without experience and/or offer training? [more inside]
posted by OlivesAndTurkishCoffee at 7:51 AM PST - 0 comments

Help with Excel formula to compare 1 column of numbers to other columns.

I have an excel sheet with 4 columns of numbers. The first column is a recent donation amount. The other three columns were the prompts of donation amounts, (the Reach, the Target, and the Anchor). Is there an excel formula that can compare these four columns? [more inside]
posted by andoatnp at 7:37 AM PST - 10 comments

Data recovery with pirated content

Asking for a friend (actually a friend): They had a hard drive go down, and it's at the point of no return without bringing in the pros. This drive had a lot of irreplaceable family photos and videos...but it also had a few torrented movies on it. If they send the drive to a data recovery specialist, do they need to be concerned about the possession of this content landing them in hot water, legally speaking? [more inside]
posted by gone2croatan at 7:15 AM PST - 9 comments

Baby name, family drama

I'd like to give my baby a middle name that will honor my father. It's also my brother's middle name, and he's not on board with the idea. Help me think through this. [more inside]
posted by DuckGirl at 6:37 AM PST - 65 comments

Problems with Windows Update with new laptop running Win 7 Professional

A new HP Probook 470 G3 that came loaded with Windows 7 Professional: Windows Update process gets hung in "Downloading updates...." with nothing ever coming down or getting installed (0 KB total, 0% complete). [more inside]
posted by cool breeze at 5:50 AM PST - 9 comments

What is a "Boswell" in this use?

I did a Google, but I seem to be missing a large chunk of the context needed to tease out The New Yorker's meaning. That's probably intentional since I'm not their chosen audience ... Trump's Boswell.
posted by tilde at 4:27 AM PST - 8 comments

A LOT of blood after sex. What gives?

I am on the pill. Last night I had sex (sans condom) with my partner. This afternoon - sudden cramps, blood and very large clots. The internet is not helpful. What might be going on? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:21 AM PST - 13 comments

July 18

Halp me choose an inexpensive laptop

I'm looking for laptops under $500 that meet my special snowflake needs (inside). [more inside]
posted by mysterious_stranger at 10:40 PM PST - 12 comments

Falling out of an airplane in a tank of water

If a person were in a super strong tank of water and then got tossed out of the airplane, would they die on impact (assuming that the tank was strong enough to not break when it hit the ground)? How would it work? I tried to Google this, but am not sure what exactly I am looking for.
posted by Literaryhero at 8:31 PM PST - 30 comments

Can I walk through a bedbug house?

How best to protect myself during a brief visit to a home with bedbugs? Or better not to go at all? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 8:22 PM PST - 9 comments

What's this song? 80s pop-ish sounding, female vocalist

A tune popped into my head and it's driving me nuts. I'm pretty sure this is a relatively accurate hum. If I remember correctly, it was a female vocalist and sounded vaguely like 80s pop. Kind of Cyndi Lauper-ish? Help! SOS!
posted by cichlid ceilidh at 7:53 PM PST - 8 comments

Sluggish when it comes to the basics of hard work

I just got a new job in sales, after years of unemployment. My boss is great, the environment is great and the work is right up my alley. But my work ethic is slipping. I've seen this pattern before, and it doesn't end well. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 7:28 PM PST - 14 comments

How often does the spider appear in Breaking Bad S5?

I have searched online and came up with Season 5 episodes 5 & 11 but then we were watching episode 6 and bam! tarantula. Does anyone remember if this is an ongoing thing? Any help much appreciated we do not want any more unexpected scenes.
posted by mlis at 6:55 PM PST - 2 comments

Relationship - married man edition

I'm 39F, single and for the last 10 years, been involved in relationships in which did not end well (broke up under very bad circumstances due to emotional abuse - 2008-2014), or with single man living too far away to make things work (2014-2016). A month ago, I met a married man and we had an affair. The relationship was intense, and we recently parted because I needed time to figure out what I wanted out of it. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by meander at 6:51 PM PST - 51 comments

RNC convention

is there a feed showing what is going on outside of the convention hall?
posted by patnok at 6:43 PM PST - 1 comment

Is driving a rental car one way from Montreal to the USA a good idea?

Traveling to Canada via ship from New York one way in early October, and need to get home again after a stop in Nova Scotia and then spending a few days in Montreal. There will be 4 of us, including my elderly dad, who for some reason is set on driving back to Philly. [more inside]
posted by citygirl at 6:35 PM PST - 12 comments

Laid off and freelancing

I was recently laid off. I am searching for a new permanent gig, but in the meantime I would like to try to earn some extra money by freelancing. I want to understand the implications of this and make sure that I am not overlooking anything that I need to consider. [more inside]
posted by synecdoche at 6:13 PM PST - 2 comments

How to be gracious about not owning a house?

Everyone I know has bought a house. Every one of them has bought a house because they received an inheritance or a massive influx of cash via other familial mechanisms. I do not have a house or an inheritance. How to deal with this? [more inside]
posted by socksister at 5:56 PM PST - 42 comments

How do two depressed, stressed people have a sustainable relationship?

My partner and I both struggle with mental illness in different ways. We have been dating for a year and a half and do pretty well together but sometimes we aren't able to be there for each other or hold back out of fear of burdening the other. How do you practice self care and be a good partner in this kind of an arrangement? How do you confront a partner about habits and actions that might result from their depression, while being cognizant that they are struggling? What's a reasonable expectation for emotional support in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by mmmleaf at 5:55 PM PST - 4 comments

Elderly aunt died, now what? Difficulty: Mass Health & pooled trust

We're a little stumped about what to do and in what order. I've had my aunt's power of attorney for many months, but now since she has died I'm told that that no longer applies. She left a will leaving her belongings to be split evenly among her remaining siblings. However! Medicaid/Mass Health complications. [more inside]
posted by clone boulevard at 5:20 PM PST - 11 comments

Are all salons created equal?

I recently began laser hair removal at a salon in nyc and have had amazing results. I want to continue but it's.... crazy expensive. Are all places generally the same or do you get what you pay for? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 5:09 PM PST - 8 comments

403b to Roth or non Roth IRA?

I left my job in August 2015 to do an internship in a school during the 2015-2016 school year. In my previous job I had about $23,000 in a 403b account. I left it there when I left. Should I roll this 403b into a Roth IRA or a regular IRA? [more inside]
posted by the twistinside at 4:50 PM PST - 9 comments

Non-Nurturing SF Volunteer Work

I'm moving to San Francisco and would like to find some volunteer work which is worthwhile, but is not nurturing/caring based. [more inside]
posted by gongnomore at 4:48 PM PST - 11 comments

Texas Presidential Vote: Do Our Non-Trump Votes Matter?

According to some, Texans who vote for a 3rd-party (aka "not Hillary") candidate are throwing away their vote, their one chance to move Texas toward purple in a presidential election. However... [more inside]
posted by batmonkey at 4:24 PM PST - 21 comments

Keloid scar treatment Toronto

Before I left the UK I was getting steroid injections on the NHS to treat around 20 keloid scars on my shoulders, chest and back. I'd like to continue that treatment in Toronto... [more inside]
posted by asharchist at 4:14 PM PST - 1 comment

Not Lyme... Not Mono... Apparently not meningitis...

16 year old son. He had an ear infection with antibiotics... he had an upper respiratory infection with antibiotics. Now strange symptoms... more after the jump... [more inside]
posted by brownrd at 4:10 PM PST - 19 comments

Instrumental jazz album for sexy times

What is your favorite jazz album for making love? Prefer anything later than 1950 but before 1990. Also prefer instrumental. Not too obscure. Should be easy to find on iTunes. That's it. Thanks!
posted by marsha56 at 4:05 PM PST - 15 comments

YANMD, but seriously - did I get dumber?

Four years ago, I underwent a thorough evaluation for ADHD and possible learning disabilities. Part of the evaluation was the WAIS-IV, which measures IQ. I was asked to undergo this evaluation again recently, and the IQ result was ten points lower. They tell me it's nothing to worry about, but I panicked! Can someone decipher these results and/or tell me why or why not to panic? [more inside]
posted by Seeking Direction at 3:06 PM PST - 17 comments

Personal recommendations for real estate attorneys in the Philippines?

Involved in a real estate dispute where the previous owner resold the property after our purchase. Need legal help retrieving the title. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:01 PM PST - 1 comment

July 4th Chicago fireworks from a hotel balcony?

We live in the Chicagoland area and next year, instead of dealing with the transit/parking/waiting/crowds aspects of watching the Navy Pier 4th of July fireworks display, I thought maybe we could just get a hotel room nearby with a balcony view and watch from there in comfort and style. It seems like many people pull this off every year. What will I need to know? [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 2:42 PM PST - 7 comments

How to hang out alone in Lawrence, Kansas

I'll have 2 weeknight evenings alone in Lawrence, Kansas, after 5pm, and may want to stroll (or bike) a quiet beautiful place. Any ideas where a solo business traveler might safely venture in or around Lawrence? I will have a car and enjoy outdoorsy things although the high temps this week are nearly 100. Also enjoy indoor cultural events, but prefer something calming, nature preferred. thank you!
posted by nologo at 2:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Did my carpet cleaner just tell me he was on drugs?

Just had a carpet cleaner in to clean our carpets. As I was paying, he was having trouble getting his phone to read my card, due to my card being worn. But while he was doing it, he made a comment to the effect of "I only got about 6 amps in me today so I've kind of got the shakes." Any idea what that statement meant?
posted by jferg at 1:51 PM PST - 14 comments

What is this metal thing keeping my deck together?

Just moved into a new place, and low and behold, I noticed several planks of my deck walls have come loose. What are these metal things that were used to connect them? Some kind of stable? And can I just reattach the board by hammering a few nails in there? How would I get the old staple things out? Disclaimer: I am not handy at all. Like, I get splinters from LEGO.
posted by cacofonie at 12:51 PM PST - 12 comments

How to get over shame from post-breakup behavior?

A month ago my ex ended our fairly toxic intense four month relationship (we discussed marriage, babies, met one another's families, etc). Host of reasons contributed to the demise including his (functional) alcoholism, my perceived neediness, his total lack of interest in my life (past or current)...in the end I felt like a trophy GF that he could parade around his friends just to show everyone he is capable of having a GF. Oh, and he didn't tell me about a STD until after we had sex the first time. [more inside]
posted by Jaspersen145 at 11:10 AM PST - 14 comments

Help me backup my SSD / operating system drive!

I'm trying to make sure that I'm covered if my SSD drive goes kaput. [more inside]
posted by brianvan at 11:01 AM PST - 1 comment

Weird deposits on granite counter - how to remove and prevent

I bought a place in a building built in 2007 that has granite counters. The previous owner apparently was not sealing them at all. I managed to clean and seal the kitchen one on Saturday, but there are a lot of hard white deposits that look like minerals from hard water around the bathroom sink that I can't remove. Help? [more inside]
posted by zdravo at 10:58 AM PST - 2 comments

Tasty and stylish Washington DC

Mr Tav is unexpectedly going on a work trip to Washington DC in the US on Friday. He'll hvae a couple of free days during the trip. What should he eat and where should he shop for cool clothes? [more inside]
posted by tavegyl at 10:04 AM PST - 22 comments

Tan Sedan Caravan?

Not long ago, I was traveling on Interstate 35, driving north from Laredo, Texas to San Antonio. On the way, I saw a line of about six late model cars traveling together. Each was a basic four-door sedan in a neutral color, each had a four-digit number in large white lettering on the rear window, and each had a very large grill guard attached to the front--the kind you usually see on heavy duty pick up trucks. What was going on?
posted by Pater Aletheias at 9:48 AM PST - 4 comments

You were once terrible at drawing & now you aren't. How did you do it?

I am terrible at drawing. I don't even doodle. I rely on words to communicate concepts and ideas. For various personal and professional reasons, I would like to learn to draw. But where do I begin? [more inside]
posted by nerdfish at 9:42 AM PST - 30 comments

Simple CD player for a person with Alzheimer's

My mother-in-law has Alzheimer's. She loves (and has always loved) music. But her old CD player just broke. I need to find a new CD player that is as simple as possible to use. Ideally, it would have just three buttons--open/close (to insert the CD), play, and stop--and it would be possible to connect it to external speakers (with or without a receiver is ok). She has excellent speakers and a huge CD collection. Can you suggest a specific player that meets these conditions? [more inside]
posted by OrangeDisk at 9:39 AM PST - 10 comments

I need a phone for my bike tour

Next month I'll ride my bicycle from my home on the south Oregon coast to Denver for my 50th high school reunion. By wife will drive the car in support. She has a TracFone and I have no cell phone as yet, but must get one for communication with her. [more inside]
posted by partner at 9:19 AM PST - 5 comments

Food hacks for folks with executive function challenges

I struggle with tasks that involve planning and sequencing, and I find cooking and feeding myself to be a little challenging at the best of times. I'm about to enter a busy period, and I'm worried that my schedule isn't really conducive to cooking healthy dinners. I'm looking for exceptionally easy recipes and other hacks that will allow me to avoid starving or getting scurvy. [more inside]
posted by ArbitraryAndCapricious at 9:04 AM PST - 29 comments

Thanksgiving in Zion!

Help and feedback for a Zion birthday adventure! [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 8:46 AM PST - 2 comments

Roadtripping from DC to Cleveland, OH - where should we visit?

We're headed to a conference in Cleveland, and giving ourselves a full day to explore and enjoy the roadtrip there. What magical treasures and delicious treats lie along Rte 76 through Pennsylvania and Ohio?
posted by torietorie at 8:37 AM PST - 6 comments

The very best, award-winning vegetarian chili recipe needed

I would like to win my office's chili cook off. Added twist: vegetarian. [more inside]
posted by *s at 8:14 AM PST - 27 comments

Where to go for advice about life issues?

If you don't have any close friends or trusted relatives in whom you can confide, where can you find a sounding board for problems you're facing? [more inside]
posted by akk2014 at 8:14 AM PST - 21 comments

Concierge/consultant for hospice and similar?

Asking for a friend here. Her mother is terminally ill with a severe brain cancer, is already suffering significant effects, and likely has less than a couple of years left. My friend lives far from her mother (as does her only sibling) and she's struggling with finding the right approach to helping her mom, helping her dad (parents are still married) and taking logistical burdens off of both of them. Is there a type of professional who can help? [more inside]
posted by Ignatius J. Reilly at 8:12 AM PST - 7 comments

How do highway signs get (incorrectly) made?

I saw this remarkably borked road sign and got mildly curious for the nth time in my life about the process by which road signs get made, start to finish. What's the modern Big Green Road Sign production process, how has it changed over the years, and what, exactly, is the likeliest explanation for this particular fuckup? [more inside]
posted by cortex at 7:43 AM PST - 23 comments

How to make a compelling case to outsource MS Sharepoint work to experts

This is for a company that is wanting to migrate from on-premise Sharepoint to Sharepoint Online. There's obvious benefits of cost savings to do things in-house, i.e. use IT staff who knows about MS Sharepoint to do it themselves, gain knowledge from the experience. But, what if said IT staff and colleagues are time poor and don't hold any Sharepoint certifications (despite being intelligent generalists) and don't want to take on this type of responsibility? What if this company is quasi-government and has a global footprint? (risk averse) What compelling case can we make to suggest hiring external consultants to do the job for them? [more inside]
posted by gttommy at 7:27 AM PST - 5 comments

Sewing Machine Pick

We are thinking of this model of sewing machine: SINGER 9960 Quantum Stylist 600-Stitch Computerized Sewing Machine with Extension Table, Bonus Accessories and Hard Cover. We are open to being dissuaded or persuaded. Use case inside. [more inside]
posted by cjorgensen at 7:23 AM PST - 9 comments

Help me be a shameless (but respectful) promotion machine!

The podcast is finally up! I have three episodes and there will be more! But how do I get more listeners as well as make sure potential interviewees know about it? [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 5:31 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me ask for a raise!

I need help with wording. I have worked with my organization for nearly 6 years. This fall I will have my annual review, and after this I will get a raise. We always get a small cost of living raise (2.5% roughly) but I also was promoted at the start of the summer to a more supervisory position. I will get a raise for this as well, but last time I got a promotion the raise was minimal. I never negotiated or asked for more, because others on my level were making similar. But this time I want to ask for more. [more inside]
posted by chela at 5:30 AM PST - 6 comments

Top Twitter Lists

I recently switched to Twitter as my social network of choice (from Facebook). It is still confusing, but I'm slowly getting the hang of it and am enjoying it more than Facebook. I recently discovered the lists feature and have found it to be a good way to organize topics I'm interested in without clogging up my main timeline. Further, I've realized that other people have put together some great lists already, and I can subscribe to those way quicker than it would take me to build my own. [more inside]
posted by noneuclidean at 5:17 AM PST - 1 comment

Bedbugs: Summer Edition

How do you know when bedbugs are gone, when it's summertime? [more inside]
posted by dysh at 4:30 AM PST - 8 comments

Bookfilter - Moving < Transport < Logistics books

Hello Hive Mind - I'm looking for handbooks and histories on the topic of moving & transport. Can you please help me? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by kmt at 3:56 AM PST - 1 comment

Please help me store my books

For reasons, most of my books are in long-term storage. Please help me keep them safe. [more inside]
posted by bryon at 1:51 AM PST - 6 comments

What are some good, accessible books on Roman history?

The Decline and Fall is obviously the first thing most people recommend, but I'm looking for something similarly comprehensive, but written more recently. Any recommendations?
posted by jtothes at 12:41 AM PST - 15 comments

July 17

What does this sentence imply?

Have you ever read ”The third man "by Green? Here is a sentence. "One mix one's drinks." Like, "He told me vaguely that he had been mixing his drinks." Or " If you stayed around in a hotel- lounge, sooner or later incidents occurred; one mixed one's drinks." Or, ...he firmly explained to me, when I accused him of once again mixing his drinks." Well, what hidden meaning does it have and is it common expression for native speakers to imply .. something?
posted by mizukko at 11:55 PM PST - 12 comments

How do I handle maintenance on a car with low miles?

My car is a 2012 Mazda 3. See my post when I bought it. So it's four years old but still has less than 24,000 miles on it. [more inside]
posted by bendy at 11:52 PM PST - 10 comments

YANMD but...

Had some bloodwork done a while back before starting treatment for anxiety and adhd, and was just looking at the results now. I don't know who looked at the results, but noone mentioned them at any later point and I assume they were just checking for thyroid and iron levels etc that can show as depression, lethargy, etc. Questions about the other results inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:29 PM PST - 3 comments

[UK] How do you save when you have more than £75,000?

I'm in the fortunate position of having £69,000 in my Casa ISA this year and be able to put the £15,240 maximum allowance in. Unfortunately this will push me over the £75,000 FSA protection limit - so what are my options now and, assuming I plan to save again next year, what are my options then? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:29 PM PST - 5 comments

So hot and humid, but I have to wear pants to work. Which are best?

I keep looking online, but it is hard to tell which trousers are actually the lightest weight and coolest. If you have some that you actually wear and help you make the best of surviving an urban summer commute, please tell me. [more inside]
posted by Gotanda at 10:22 PM PST - 6 comments

What kind of snake is this?

What kind of snake is this? Found this critter on my porch in Washington, DC.
posted by schmod at 8:16 PM PST - 7 comments

Wedding planning notebooks - HALP

I really want this planner. But $63 seems steep. But it's really, really pretty. But are there better options?! [more inside]
posted by witchen at 8:09 PM PST - 25 comments

cats are weird, volume 3 billion

Why might my cat only have diarrhea flare-ups on Sundays? This is a serious question that merely sounds insane--I am hoping MeFites can help me think of something I've missed. Possibly unnecessary warning: discussions of poop within. [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 8:02 PM PST - 17 comments

Hosting options for my Ghost blog?

Looking for simple hosting for my niche blog with low costs per month. Thanks. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 7:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Why does the university library need to report to the IRS?

Got a new library card at the nearby university library (community access; I paid a small fee for access since I'm not otherwise affiliated with the university). Why did the application form demand my full social security number? [more inside]
posted by amtho at 6:47 PM PST - 12 comments

What just happened?

Was playing at the park the other day with my son and two little girls were acting really strange towards him. I still can't decipher what they were up to. Details after the jump. [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 6:18 PM PST - 27 comments

Should i unblock my family? If so, when?

I bought my entire family (4 people) and boyfriend tickets to an expensive 90 min show as a birthday gift ($80 each), sent them all reminders of date and time, and everyone except my boyfriend as 40 mins late despite me calling and reminding them (they all traveled together). They gave weak apologies, with my mom taking the blame but I'm absolutely livid at them, so I blocked them all from calling me. Is this too extreme? [more inside]
posted by soooo at 6:16 PM PST - 41 comments

Data recovery professionals for Seagate external hard drive

This morning my portable hard drive said the folder I'd been working on last night was corrupt, so I restarted my PC. Now the hard drive is asking to be formatted before use. There are lots of tools available online but as an amateur, I'm not willing to risk playing around with it myself. How do I choose a good data recovery business on the Gold Coast, Queensland? Who to avoid? I need the data urgently and I'm willing to pay a ridiculous amount of money.
posted by b33j at 5:26 PM PST - 18 comments

Applying to jobs with no openings?

A career services counselor at my college called me to ask how my job search is going – I told him it's not. A bit of advice he gave me was to send out my cover letter and resume to companies that don't have any open positions. Coming from a man that once encouraged me to bribe employers by buying them gifts I'm hesitant to take seriously his advice. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend at 5:22 PM PST - 20 comments

Experience with a Daimler fortwo smart car?

I'm seriously considering a smart car and am looking at the Daimler fortwo. I don't know anyone who has one though. Would love to hear people's experiences of the car and things to consider when I go to the dealership tomorrow. Thank you!!
posted by namemeansgazelle at 3:59 PM PST - 18 comments

Place to store luggage near SF airport?

I am flying into San Francisco (SFO) airport early morning on Monday next week and have an entire day to sight-see before heading to Sunnyvale for work meetings next day. I would love to go see the Golden Bridge from the airport, however, I will have my luggage with me and it would be great if i could store it somewhere for about 6-8 hours and then pick it up on my way to Sunnyvale. Is this realistic and/or reasonable? This will be my first time visiting SF. Are there any recommendations where I can leave my stuff securely for a day? Thank you for your suggestions!
posted by mooselini at 3:55 PM PST - 5 comments

The quarter life crisis approaches - how can I live more meaningfully?

I will be 25 in a few months. I am sensing a shift in the direction I need to go - but I'm just not sure which path I should take. Can you help me figure it out? [more inside]
posted by Ariel432 at 2:21 PM PST - 14 comments

Monitoring infection during switchover to oral antibiotics

Should the hospital be monitoring CRP and other signs of infection when switching over from IV to oral antibiotics? [more inside]
posted by molla at 2:01 PM PST - 6 comments

Poke-stop!!!!

My friend just learned that there is a pokestop (for Pokeman Go) right outside her house...is there something fun we could do with this? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 1:55 PM PST - 12 comments

iOS apps, websites and cartoons for a beginning Mandarin learner?

My 7-year-old took some Mandarin at school last year. I'd like to find something for him to continue to be exposed to it throughout the summer. Are there kid-friendly iOS apps (best), cartoons available on streaming (good), or websites (works for him some days) that I should point him towards?
posted by These Premises Are Alarmed at 1:31 PM PST - 1 comment

Help for transparent eyebrows

My birth hair color was bright coppery red, think the color of a new penny. My eyebrows were always much lighter, and in summer, bleached by the sun to almost blonde. Fast forward to 2016. My hair is now mostly a warmish platinum, around my face and on the crown. [more inside]
posted by LaBellaStella at 1:07 PM PST - 29 comments

Canning for Germaphobes

I really want to get into canning/preserving/pickling but I'm terrified of poisoning myself. Aside from "use proper techniques and you'll be fine", what foods are least likely to cause a problem? Which are the most foolproof?
posted by coffee and minarets at 12:45 PM PST - 17 comments

Tacos in Santa Monica/Venice Beach

My family is in the car on the freeway, and we're going to spend the afternoon in Santa Monica and Venice Beach. This is our opportunity on this trip to get tacos for lunch; where should we go?
posted by ocherdraco at 11:54 AM PST - 9 comments

Tell me about your favorite pool towels

Where do you buy your beach/pool towels? I'm always buying them at the last minute at the supermarket, and subsequently getting annoyed when they shed, bleed in the laundry, etc. I'm ready for some new ones. [more inside]
posted by snickerdoodle at 9:48 AM PST - 15 comments

Business or Leisure?

I'm ridiculously nervous crossing borders (no reason, I'm frantically law abiding which is probably the reason actually). I'm obsessing over whether to answer "business or leisure" at the US border. [more inside]
posted by Erasmouse at 8:14 AM PST - 14 comments

Environmental technology software?

I'm doing some career exploration and pontificating. Are there software companies that produce products for use in environmental/green energy fields? Is this a thing? [more inside]
posted by deathpanels at 8:13 AM PST - 9 comments

Carry On and On and On

Traveling to Cancun, connecting through DC on United. We need a lot of sunscreen plus would like to not check luggage. Can we buy sunscreen and aloe after the security checkpoint in our originating city and get through DC with them on the international flight? [more inside]
posted by RoadScholar at 7:52 AM PST - 16 comments

Oregon Coast Highlights?

Hi all! We are driving from PDX to Southwest OR in early August. We'll have time for one or maybe two good stops, and since it's my first time in OR, I would love to learn about good spots to include on our coastal drive. [more inside]
posted by Miko at 6:34 AM PST - 18 comments

July 16

Videos of rejection?

I'd like a bunch of videos of actual rejections. [more inside]
posted by hleehowon at 10:08 PM PST - 1 comment

Is there a way to do Facebook light?

So far, I've managed to stay off of Facebook for a whole host of reasons, especially my reluctance to give so much of my information to a big corporation (and what seem to me to be ever-changing privacy rules). But a few groups I belong to are increasingly announcing events solely on Facebook. I can go look at the individual pages (though Facebook is making that harder), but it's really a pain to use it that way. Does it make sense for me to try to set up a super minimalist Facebook account? Is that even possible? [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 8:04 PM PST - 27 comments

How do we Trump Trump?

What tools do we need to effectively motivate the low propensity dems this year? For those who think we will fare better under a HRC presidency than a Trump presidency, I think the general theory of this years election is to turn out the low propensity voters. (Voter reg being important as well.) I live in PA FWIW and am part of a labor organization so have access to resources and people. [more inside]
posted by sb3 at 7:16 PM PST - 6 comments

Fasting to reset health and endocrine system - any advice?

I have never fasted or done paleo. But I want to try both for awhile as I start a new health regimen. Can you give me some pointers? [more inside]
posted by critzer at 7:06 PM PST - 11 comments

Moving to Ann Arbor, MI on very short notice. What do I need to do?

Or maybe not. I am in the running for a job at the University of Michigan that came on the scene unexpectedly. It's at the second interview stage. If I get this job, I will find out in about a month and then start the month after that. I need help figuring this all out, especially housing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:55 PM PST - 13 comments

How to quit smoking in Chinese

My Taiwanese boss got his heart broken last month and consequently started smoking. I want to leave a note in Chinese for him to find in his cigarette pack to encourage him to quit [more inside]
posted by levijk at 5:36 PM PST - 23 comments

Do you know the muffin, man?

Looking for a for-reals healthy muffin recipe. Does such a thing exist? So, without stevia, sugar, syrup, honey, white flour... (I just don't care for stevia.) Maybe involving apples, blueberries, banana, carrot, etc. I'll take any baked goods recos that you'd consider low carb! Thanks! [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing at 5:23 PM PST - 15 comments

Is the drain line on my water filter making noise because it's too low?

I have a reverse osmosis water filter system with an air gap faucet. It's a Watts Premier system with an air gap type faucet. When the tank is filling up there is a constant gurgling noise. Is this just because it's a new installation or is my drain line too long? [more inside]
posted by TwoWordReview at 4:52 PM PST - 1 comment

Help a wanderer wander.

I have eight days of vacation time and a freshly renewed passport. Where in this wide world should I go? [more inside]
posted by sevensnowflakes at 3:39 PM PST - 11 comments

Books About cooking, baking & restaurants - suitable for preteens

I'm looking for books similar to Delancey, Molly Wizenberg's memoir about starting a pizza restaurant with her husband. In other words, stories about food, cooking, baking, and restaurants that are written for adults but suitable for preteens. [more inside]
posted by alicat at 1:38 PM PST - 16 comments

What kids' books are must-reads in your country?

Seeking popular children's books from outside US/UK/Germany! For small kids. [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom at 12:37 PM PST - 19 comments

I spell it Labor, you spell it Labour, let's call the whole coup off

I am an American who supports Jeremy Corbyn. Is there anything I can do from the U.S. that would be meaningful or effective in helping him retain his leadership of the Labour Party? (e.g., am I allowed to contribute money to Momentum? Can I write letters protesting the NEC’s disenfranchisement of new party members in the upcoming election?) What about when I visit the UK in late August?
posted by anonymous at 12:16 PM PST - 6 comments

A chilled Thursday afternoon in San Francisco. What to do?

My wife, 12 year-old son and I will have a free afternoon and evening in San Francisco this coming Thursday. We fly in the afternoon before from the UK, will probably take bikes over the golden gate bridge in the morning, and we'd like to soak up a bit of SF in the afternoon and evening, before we head off on a road trip for the following three weeks. Yay! So what to do? Where to go? And perhaps somewhere relaxed and nice to eat in the evening? [more inside]
posted by dowcrag at 12:08 PM PST - 9 comments

An itinerary for Groningen

I am traveling to Groningen, NL, for work in August. I am planning to stay an extra whole day to take in the city. It will be Friday Aug 18th. What should I put on my itinerary? I have looked at travel websites and the like and I'm sure I can find a good list of interesting things to see and do, but I'm looking for your personal highlights of the town. Less critical, but any suggestions for quirky places to stay? Hotels that are central seem very reasonable, so I'm not as concerned about that.
posted by Tandem Affinity at 11:28 AM PST - 9 comments

Kid's first game system: retro / DIY edition

After reading Andy Baio's adventures of "educating" his son on video game history, I'm interested to get a plug-and-play type system to play old arcade games with my soon-to-be 5 year old son, but I'm not sure what to pick. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 11:19 AM PST - 6 comments

Should I keep my old journals?

I'm considering throwing away several journals from 15-20 years ago. Have you been faced with this choice? If you tossed yours, did you ever regret it? If you kept yours, have you found some value from them? [more inside]
posted by woot at 11:05 AM PST - 47 comments

Why were my FOIA responses so different?

I FOIAed a bunch of agencies in May. I provided all of them with exactly the same information. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 10:25 AM PST - 15 comments

Is "How did you sleep?" like "How are you?"

I just got back from a long vacation which was mostly great. I stayed with friends in a few places and at AirBnBs or hotels in a few other places. A lot of morning conversations over coffee included some aspect of "How did you sleep?" and I'm not sure how to politely answer that question. [more inside]
posted by jessamyn at 9:12 AM PST - 38 comments

Counter-graphics to "Just Obey The Law" meme

I'm really fucking tired of seeing those "If you don't want to get shot just obey the police" memes. Please show me some graphical counterpoints. I don't need articles, just pictures.
posted by Johnny Wallflower at 9:08 AM PST - 4 comments

How to get cologne smell out of wooden furniture?

We had a house guest who loved cologne and left his bedroom smelling of it. Even with the bedding, mattress, and dresser drawers removed from the room, the smell persists, and it's strongest around the dresser, which is made of wood, as is the floor. I've tried regular wood cleaner and a vinegar-water solution on these, and have set a dish of coffee grounds on the dresser. Any other ideas?
posted by lakeroon at 8:57 AM PST - 12 comments

Where can I watch baseball and football in Boston in August?

I am a European going to Boston and Philadelphia in August, and would like to watch a baseball and American football game. Help me! [more inside]
posted by Bukvoed at 8:10 AM PST - 14 comments

How did you sleep last night?

To this question I typically respond "well". My girlfriend says grammatically it should be "good" if I am not also including "I slept..." preceding. We both agree that "I slept well," is grammatically correct, but who is correct when the verb is omitted?
posted by masters2010 at 7:47 AM PST - 27 comments

Computer Programs for a 10-year old

I'm giving my 10 year old niece an old iMac and I'd like to load up some awesome programs for her to use and learn from. Help! [more inside]
posted by Sreiny at 7:07 AM PST - 5 comments

How do I reattach this dishwasher conduit/spray arm? Pictures inside.

The middle spray arm/dishwasher conduit for my 2-year-old dishwasher fell off. I don't think it's broken, but I could be mistaken. I've tried snapping it back into place, I'm not sure where to snap it into! Is this re-attachable? Or is the conduit actually broken? [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 7:00 AM PST - 4 comments

Can anyone identify these two pieces of pottery?

The first appears to represent a human figure and would function as a cup when inverted. It has a very distictive groove down the centre of the face. The second is some sort of animal with long ears and would appear to be a lamp or lamp filler with second small hole at 'tail' end.
posted by Petromyzon at 6:50 AM PST - 4 comments

Mirrored sunglasses (no, really *really opaquely* mirrored sunglasses)

I'm trying to find online-purchasable, prescription sunglasses with mirror filming opaque enough that you can't see my eyes through the lenses (most searches for "opaque mirrored sunglasses" do not produce these). Any ideas? (Photo of exactly what I do/don't want inside.) [more inside]
posted by rollcredits at 6:39 AM PST - 7 comments

Mentioning a public domain algorithm in a provisional patent application

I'm preparing a provisional patent application specification for a computer software containing multiple classes. One function includes a maze solver. There are many maze solving algorithms available online, and in fact the one I used in the software was also taken from the Internet. [more inside]
posted by spacefire at 6:21 AM PST - 4 comments

Why are my T-shirts getting holes in them?

Help me solve a mystery that has been annoying me for a long time. For the past three or four years now, my t-shirts seem to be getting small holes in them, a couple of mms across, in the lower half of the front section. [more inside]
posted by Nilehorse at 6:09 AM PST - 45 comments

Equivalent of Magic (concierge service) in the UK?

I like the look of US startup Magic, that basically hooks you up with an AI concierge by SMS. Is there anything like this in the UK?
posted by henryaj at 5:44 AM PST - 1 comment

July 15

Unbelievable correlations?

I'm looking for things that have been proven to be correlated directly but which aren't expected. So something I wouldn't want: people who have sex more are happier overall. What I would want: people who have sex more are more likely to choose grape soda over orange when offered both ( I wish I didn't have to say I made that up :)) anything you think applies to this, bring it on.
posted by jitterbug perfume at 11:57 PM PST - 21 comments

What's your favorite visual novel?

I love computer RPGs, especially Bioware, but I don't really love combat -- so maybe what I want is one of these "visual novels" I have heard about. Can you recommend any that can stand up to Bioware -- that kind of excellent writing, and beautiful graphics (!important)?
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 9:03 PM PST - 15 comments

Need a nerdy, ball-shaped gift for a testicular cancer survivor

My friend is celebrating his five year testicular cancer-free diagnosis in December, and I'd really like to get him something amusing and wonderful as a gift. He's a pretty big nerd with a wonderful sense of humor about being post orchiectomy, so I'd love to get him something that's both commemorative and slyly hilarious - something he'd see and smile at every day that doesn't scream Lance Armstrong's missing testicle. [more inside]
posted by santojulieta at 8:20 PM PST - 30 comments

Help me spend even more time on the computer!

What are some good, modern-ish games (for Windows or MacOS) for which you can create your own levels / missions / campaigns? (No first-person shooters, please – they are not my jam.) [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 6:31 PM PST - 12 comments

Online Forums / Support Groups for Chronic Illness & Disability?

I have a chronic illness (fibromyalgia) and identify as disabled. I am going through a more-than-usually rough flare, and need to reach out to others who understand the chronic/disability life. Please recommend me online forums, support groups, podcasts, $resources to feel less isolated! [NB List of relevant podcasts inside, for interested parties.] [more inside]
posted by thetarium at 6:28 PM PST - 7 comments

International Etsy purchase gone wrong - what to ask for?

I bought a rug on Etsy. Item was misrepresented. What is reasonable to ask he seller for? [more inside]
posted by kitty teeth at 6:27 PM PST - 5 comments

Droid Mini - what did I do to my wifi?

I took apart my Droid Mini to replace the battery. Now the wifi doesn't work. Help! [more inside]
posted by veery at 5:40 PM PST - 2 comments

Mirena: Am I crazy or is this IUD really giving me the blues?

I think my Mirena IUD may be the ultimate explanation for my drop off in mood, motivation and energy levels over the last sixteen months. I need some insight from other Mirena users, both past and current. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 4:53 PM PST - 18 comments

How Many Different Size T-Shirts Should I Order?

I have an event coming up where I'll be selling screenprinted shirts of various sizes... any suggestions on how to spread these out among different sizes? 30% mens large, 10% Ladies small, etc? Is there a rule of thumb to go by? I know demographics plays a role, but assuming this is an adult audience, evenly split male/female, 18-60?
posted by Unsomnambulist at 3:13 PM PST - 21 comments

Finding Love After (Big) Loss?

I am a widow and my boyfriend had a very painful and messy divorce 5 years ago. We got together a year ago (right after my husband died) and it has been so amazing. From the moment we laid eyes on each other we connected and have been together almost constantly--first just once a week and now about 4 days a week, and we have vacationed together several times as well. But there is trouble in paradise... [more inside]
posted by Izzi at 3:02 PM PST - 29 comments

How to move a refrigerator out to unplug it?

We have an LG fridge that needs to be defrosted overnight in anticipation of moving house tomorrow. However, the plug is in the back and we're not sure how to move it. Is it simply a matter of stretching a bungee cord around the back and pulling? Alternatively, would we be able to get away with perhaps turning the temperature on the fridge to the warmest setting and letting it defrost that way overnight? Anything else we should know about fridge moving? I already know to keep it vertical.
posted by massofintuition at 2:33 PM PST - 14 comments

Ambient Sounds of Nothing App for Android

I'm not sure where I originally heard about this (podcast? radio?) but I'm in search of an (Android) app that is a compilation of real-world ambient sounds of "nothing". The examples played in the interview I remember were simply recordings of the ambient sounds of various locales around the world. (The sounds of droning highway, city traffic/sirens, etc... from different areas around the world). [more inside]
posted by jimmereeno at 1:48 PM PST - 10 comments

Cheap Digital Hobby Camera

Lately, I've been feeling nostalgic for my high school photography class. I don't have the money for film or instant camera stuff. I have a Moto X that takes okay enough digital photos for where I'd want a basic point and shoot, but I'd like something with an actual camera body and some degree of tweakable settings. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by mccarty.tim at 12:21 PM PST - 18 comments

Credit Card With Less Fraud Disruption?

I have had my credit card canceled and re-issued at least every 3-4 months for a couple of years for fraud. Help! [more inside]
posted by Mid at 12:05 PM PST - 28 comments

But my own baby's cries will be music to my ears

My husband is incredibly sensitive to noise, in particular any sound that disrupts his sleep. I am nervous about how he will react to our future child's cries and concerned that he has unrealistic expectations around quieting a baby. He disagrees. How can I calm down about this in advance and/or help in the future? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:32 AM PST - 58 comments

All out of jokes

I need new jokes. Lots and lots of jokes. [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger at 10:24 AM PST - 90 comments

Which numbers for runner's ID bracelet?

I run a lot outside, by myself and normally only take my phone and a house key with me – no ID. As a better safe than sorry precaution, I’m getting an ID bracelet that I can wear when I run. Whose phone numbers should be on there? [more inside]
posted by Sabby at 9:28 AM PST - 16 comments

Should I be a dental hygienist or a nurse?

Attention dental hygienists and nurses of MeFi: which career track should I pick? [more inside]
posted by timetoevolve at 9:15 AM PST - 19 comments

Photo management in a cross platform household

Increasingly getting frustrated with our inability to deal with iOS + Android + Dropbox photo management on a Mac. Help. [more inside]
posted by rouftop at 9:15 AM PST - 3 comments

tv shows on Netflix: real emotions, self-consistent worlds, happenings?

Can you direct me to shows on Netflix that are sort of character sketches with really good acting as well as where intense stuff like, I don't know, murder, peril, sexual assault still happen? Examples within. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 8:20 AM PST - 43 comments

Is cosmetic mole removal covered by insurance?

I have a prominent mole on my face that I'm just tired of looking at -- plus, it's gotten bigger since I was young. I have a consultation with a plastic surgeon soon. (I'd rather he do it than my dermatologist, to minimize the risk of scarring.) If a mole is benign, does insurance typically cover its removal? [more inside]
posted by trillian at 8:15 AM PST - 22 comments

Young Adult book about a girl who works for the mob?

Misremembered-YA-book-filter. I read it in the early 1980s. A girl dresses as a boy to work at a baseball stadium, because she owes money to the mob? Anyone?
posted by The corpse in the library at 7:46 AM PST - 1 comment

Quiet place to study NYC West Side?

I need a quiet place to work. Sometimes w/ a laptop, but not always. The Main Library is, of course, the gold standard; and SIBL is pretty focussed too. But for reasons of time and access, finding a place on the west side is preferable. Public Libraries , esp. in the summer can be noisy and distracting. I know how I work best. Many colleges over here, but they all require student ids.? Could I join for the summer semester? A Seminary? A Museum? Any suggestions?
posted by ebesan at 7:07 AM PST - 8 comments

I was sexually harassed in an Uber. Now what?

My Uber driver was masturbating. I reported him to Uber. What else should I do? [more inside]
posted by joeyjoejoejr at 7:06 AM PST - 8 comments

Title of short film

It's a short film, Australian and involves lost property. (Spoilers inside). [more inside]
posted by esto-again at 6:47 AM PST - 1 comment

Help me find some good Chinese rap?

I know it is out there, I'm just not sure where to look... I tend to like more melodic or verbally interesting stuff. But I'm keeping an open mind, as I don't really know what is out there. Anyone have any good suggestions, or at least good places to look? I'm a Chinese language student at the intermediate level (meaning I'm ok, but can't read pages and pages of Chinese websites)
posted by wooh at 6:09 AM PST - 5 comments

Best mid-century antique shops in or near Atlanta?

Help me sort through all the country stuff and find some modern gems. [more inside]
posted by shrimpsmalls at 5:38 AM PST - 7 comments

Be my shopping coach: casserole edition (not in US)

So, I've wanted a Le Creuset-type casserole for a long time ... like 20 years. I've decided I'll finally get one for my birthday, But, DECISIONS. I want blue. My imaginary wonderful casserole I use all the time and cherish has always been blue or teal (why I mention this a bit later). I've come down to two, maybe three choices, which are: cheaper but highly rated, very highly rated but quite a bit more expensive, and very highly rated but much more expensive. (the last is a variation on the second) [more inside]
posted by taz at 5:35 AM PST - 40 comments

well, you know, we all want to change the world

The world feels pretty bleak at the moment. I am looking for songs and poems about hope. [more inside]
posted by Catseye at 3:53 AM PST - 29 comments

My friend is asking me for money

My friend has hit hard times and has asked me for money, which she isn't able to pay back. I want to help but I don't want to just keep paying out. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by intensitymultiply at 1:02 AM PST - 32 comments

Alternatives to Nestle

I’ve reached a point where I can no longer justify buying Nestle products. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 12:04 AM PST - 14 comments

July 14

Looking for specific book with section for advice on fetishes.

I'm looking for a book I remember with a section on fetishes. (Not explicit, but not quite SFW.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:06 PM PST - 1 comment

Can you translate this short Arabic comment?

I got a short Arabic message from a new team member in an online game I play - Normally I would try my luck with Google translate but the app I'm viewing the message in doesn't do cut and paste. If anyone can translate the surname as well that would be awesome to! [more inside]
posted by inflatablekiwi at 7:23 PM PST - 6 comments

Lifting people onstage, regularly, safely

Do you lift people regularly onstage? If so, what are your best tips for doing so safely? In the opera I'm currently rehearsing, I have a comedy fight scene which involves lifting another singer. So far it's going well-- the liftee is happy, I'm feeling no ill effects, the fight/movement director has given us the OK, and the lift works well in the context of the scene. However, we have four more weeks' rehearsal ahead of us, and I'd like to stay uninjured and safe during that time. Hit me with your tips. [more inside]
posted by Pallas Athena at 5:49 PM PST - 9 comments

How to follow up with a late recruiter? (2 jobs, 1 company)

I applied to two jobs at the same company, and spoke to a recruiter about one of them (but I'm more interested in the other job). She said a hiring manager would call me back within a week, but it has been more than a week. How/when should I follow up? [more inside]
posted by mannermode at 5:44 PM PST - 2 comments

Her name is on the tip of my tongue

A few years ago at the bookstore, I came across one by a woman from New York City. I believe it is a memoir. The author is featured on the cover lounging on a couch wearing a white bodysuit. See more details inside. [more inside]
posted by Fukiyama at 5:32 PM PST - 4 comments

Where can I watch the Olympics in San Francisco?

I'm going to be in San Francisco for work from 8/8 through 8/19. I love the Olympics and would like to watch random events in the evening. Where would be the best spots to watch? I am not that familiar with the city and will working/staying near the Montgomery St. station.
posted by melodykramer at 5:27 PM PST - 2 comments

Looking for Blur publicity shot of the band in space.

I remember a band shot of Blur with them sitting all sullen-era in a small room, at the end of which is large three-quarters mural of Earth from space. The effect was of the band being in an orbiting dive bar. I thought the shot was from The Universal video, but it ain't, and my Google Pictures foo has deserted me. Can you help?
posted by Devonian at 5:17 PM PST - 3 comments

only showing boobs at appropriate times

I'm going back to work as a middle school teacher and I'm going to be pumping during the school day. I need suggestions for tops and dresses that suit both those roles. [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 3:30 PM PST - 11 comments

Unapproved community property sale in divorce

I am going through a divorce. I am in California. My ex has put our jointly owned home up for sale without notifying me -- contrary to the state's "automatic temporary restraining order" against sale or transfer of property before final judgment. The house is now under contract. I have a lawyer and am not asking for legal advice. This is a question about how the real estate process works. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:39 PM PST - 16 comments

How to date photos at least into the right order...

Is there any software to let me visually sort and assign temporary placeholder dates to my scanned photos? [more inside]
posted by blue_wardrobe at 2:22 PM PST - 4 comments

Router file sharing

USB flash drive or USB hard drive for sharing files via an Apple Airport Extreme's USB port? Tech details within. [more inside]
posted by bluecore at 2:17 PM PST - 3 comments

Why do beer, white wine, champagne & cheese cause me joint pain?

Been battling joint pain, stiffness and inflammation for over 10 years. I flare up badly 1) before it rains or gets damp, 2) in the mornings when I'm stressed/overexerted, or 3) when I eat a few select foods. Doctors are stumped. What do these foods have in common? [more inside]
posted by doctordrey at 2:02 PM PST - 24 comments

What to do about a dying mouse?

We live next to the woods, so we get mice. Our cats are excellent micers, so we're used to disposing of the occasional dead mouse. We also humane traps, so we're using to taking a live mouse for a long car ride for release. However, this morning, I interrupted a cat from her kill, so there is now a dying mouse under a heavy bowl on the kitchen floor (to keep the dog away). I just checked, and it's still alive. How does one remove a dying mouse safely? When I last checked, it was moving (which may or may not have caused me to shreik) so I'm not sure if it's strong enough to try to escape, although it has visible puncture wounds from my cat's teeth.
posted by Ruki at 1:24 PM PST - 25 comments

Blowing stuff up

What are the best book on anticolonial violence? [more inside]
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 1:18 PM PST - 3 comments

.plist Files for iCloud Synced Apps Corrupt/Missing in OS X 10.11.5

Half the apps on my iMac that sync with iCloud have corrupt or missing .plist files that prevent them from launching. Signing out of iCloud, restarting, and logging back in to reset synced data did not resolve problems. Running First Aid on drive returns no errors. What next? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger at 1:06 PM PST - 5 comments

Bunker Aesthetics

Having recently downgraded my iPhone for a military grade brick, I'm looking for suggestion on stuff online that scratch a weird asthetic itch I have regards finding stuff online (blogs, forums, product review sites, YouTube, tumblr etc) that discuss utilitarian tools, objects, environments and lifestyles that might fit the bill; from housing, to farming implements, to extremely ruggedised technology, whatever really!
posted by Middlemarch at 1:00 PM PST - 9 comments

How do I make the most of Upwork?

I'm transitioning in careers from law to teaching via about three semesters of college classes. To help with the bills, I'm trying to scare up side hustles that I can do from home but still turn my lawyerly skills into moolah. I've applied for several jobs and gotten exactly nowhere. Am I doing something wrong? [more inside]
posted by tafetta, darling! at 12:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Looking for podcasts that are both like and unlike The Truth

Looking for podcast recommendations. Using The Truth as a jumping off point, here are my special snowflake desires: [more inside]
posted by HeroZero at 12:17 PM PST - 5 comments

Videos of non-binary people on testosterone...

I'm looking for videos/pics of fat trans people. My doctor suggested I look up what non-binary trans people look like on T and I'm having a hard time finding anything that isn't slender beautiful youth. [more inside]
posted by kanata at 11:35 AM PST - 12 comments

What do i want on my iPhone 6 before several long international flights?

Im seeking suggestions for games or any apps to download before taking an upcoming trip. I will have a couple f 15+ hour flights, several shorter ones and plenty of time stuck in a car in traffic (although I should have data service and will certainly have more entertaining things to look at for the road portions of the journeys). I'm not opposed to spending some money but I am not looking to shell out a ton of cash on games/apps which I will tire of immediately.
posted by Exceptional_Hubris at 11:29 AM PST - 21 comments

What, exactly, am I sending comfort into?

A very close friend's wife is in detox for alcohol abuse. Again. He's on his own, dealing with a stressful job in a toxic workplace and two kids who are on summer vacation. He and I don't get much time to talk each day, just a few sentences here and there. I want to be as supportive/comforting/distracting as possible during those brief chats, but my curiosity/lack of context for what the family is going through gets in the way of being present. [more inside]
posted by itesser at 11:00 AM PST - 6 comments

Looking for catchy steel drum music

I've found myself infatuated with the way steel drums sound, especially as an instrument in a pop / dance-pop context. What are some good catchy songs that use steel drums prominently? [more inside]
posted by LSK at 10:32 AM PST - 22 comments

I'm drifting......how do I regain direction?

I've just turned 52 and I feel like I am currently drifting along in life with no clear goals and a lack of focus and direction. How can I get a plan and regain direction? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema at 10:01 AM PST - 5 comments

Bootsfilter

What is the brand of this boots with a yellow V or Y on the sole.?
posted by yoyo_nyc at 9:53 AM PST - 7 comments

Best practices for dental care as I age?

My parents both had dentures. I am middle-aged (ouch!). Please talk to me about best practices for dental care, so that I can keep my own teeth for the duration of my life. [more inside]
posted by vignettist at 9:39 AM PST - 17 comments

How to list salary history when your currency has depreciated?

I'm applying for new jobs and have been asked to provide my salary history. I'm American and am applying for jobs in the US, but have most recently held jobs outside the US in a country where the currency has seriously depreciated in recent years (not the UK). How do I honestly provide the information without shortchanging myself? [more inside]
posted by tango! at 9:31 AM PST - 18 comments

new last names?

Is there anywhere on earth where people still do not have surnames?
posted by parmanparman at 8:51 AM PST - 18 comments

Improv games for irreverant grown-ups on wilderness camping trip?

I'd about to head out on wilderness backpacking trip with some good friends over the weekend. [more inside]
posted by Captain Chesapeake at 8:49 AM PST - 8 comments

CPU load effect of Bluetooth connections

I hook my phone up to a variety of different Bluetooth speakers and headphones. I notice that some of them produce effects consistent with the device being under very heavy CPU load and wonder (a) why, and (b) if there's a way to mitigate the effect. [more inside]
posted by jackbishop at 8:33 AM PST - 2 comments

Student loan nightmare. Will a Lawyer help?

I'm an American Millennial and I have about 110k in student loan debt (mostly private loans, but some federal). About seven years ago the recession pretty much destroyed any financial stability I had so I threw my hands up in the air and went pretty much off the grid. Now they've found me, and my husband, and my work... etc. So, lawyer? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:24 AM PST - 27 comments

Wheelchair users of MeFi, save my thighs from unintended consequences.

I can walk, and I've used a manual wheelchair for years to travel longer distances, but now find it's most convenient for my knees to stay in my chair almost all day at my new job. I love almost everything about this strategy, except one: I am a confirmed pants-wearer, and I find the fabric wrinkles and presses into my thighs so that by the end of the day, my skin is itchy and irritated. [more inside]
posted by deliriouscool at 8:13 AM PST - 11 comments

Where to find strong javascript developers for short contract work?

Where does one find qualified developers for piecemeal work; without being deluged by applicants who apply to everything? [more inside]
posted by Towelie at 7:32 AM PST - 10 comments

Affordable beach-area hotel in Sarasota?

Last minute, have to be in Sarasota, FL on Saturday night. I'm looking for an cheap, independent beach hotel to stay at. Mom and pop places are fine and welcome. Doesn't have to be right on beach, can deal with a few blocks away. Under $70 a night would be fantastic. Thanks.
posted by caveatz at 7:17 AM PST - 2 comments

Does this picture look familiar to you?

Photography nerds: Help. This pic taken by a friend reminds me of... some relatively famous photographer's picture of a kid pulling a shirt up over his/her head. [more inside]
posted by RandlePatrickMcMurphy at 7:06 AM PST - 6 comments

SIM card issue for Virgin Mobile phone

I have a month-to-month account with Virgin Mobile, and I switched my phones recently by calling in and providing a unique identification number for my new phone. Everything worked great, my phone works great, and this was all done with the phone not having a SIM card installed. My problem now is that the phone thinks that it needs a SIM card, and gives me a notification regularly that "4G LTE will not work" as "SIM/UICC is removed". [more inside]
posted by SpacemanStix at 7:04 AM PST - 3 comments

DIY Photography Lighting for Paintings and Glassware

I need to photograph a new batch of paintings and painted glassware for Etsy. In the past, I've hired photographers to do this, but right now I can't find one. I like the idea of doing it myself anyway. I don't want to invest in full-on photo lighting. I know I could rent some online, but I have a feeling that with ingenuity and Home Depot, I could hack something together. More inside. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 7:01 AM PST - 9 comments

Fast pseudo-productivity tips needed

I like to feel that I’ve been productive… but washing dishes doesn’t give that feeling. Rearranging all my furniture does. What could I add to my day, so I can go to bed with that warm glow of time well spent? Or, how do I learn to get that feeling out of routine tasks? Trying to work with, rather than against, my personality (recently dxed as ADHD PI). [more inside]
posted by Baethan at 6:52 AM PST - 13 comments

Strategies for waking up earlier

Are there any effective cognitive strategies or tricks for waking up earlier for something non-essential but beneficial (i.e. going for a run, having a longer breakfast, just having more time in the beginning of the day)? [more inside]
posted by armadillo1224 at 6:44 AM PST - 22 comments

Getting Amazon.com gift card credit into a UK account

I'm in the UK and I have a US Mechanical Turk account (I'm not completely sure how this happened or if it's allowed -- Amazon sent me an email inviting me to sign up so I did and it worked). Now I have $15 in gift card credit on Amazon.com but there doesn't seem to be any way to get it into my UK account. [more inside]
posted by Chenko at 6:40 AM PST - 8 comments

Looking for amazing college debate topics

I once participated in a Latke–Hamantash Debate that went incredibly well, head and shoulders above any other recreational debate I've done or attended. I want more! [more inside]
posted by BibiRose at 6:21 AM PST - 6 comments

How to begin contributing to an IRA with foreign earned income?

I am a US citizen living abroad the last few years and plan on returning home eventually. I have taken advantage of the Foreign Earned Income Exclusion each year I filed my taxes. Since I haven't been able to contribute excluded income to my IRA, I was wondering if there's a way for me to do so upon my return.
posted by AngryTypingGuy at 5:50 AM PST - 4 comments

Where should we go for summer sales in London next week?

We live outside the UK. We're going to be in London from this Sunday to Wednesday. We want to take advantage of the sales without wasting time that could be better used sightseeing. Are the sales still on in the places we want to shop? Is Oxford Street as good as anywhere for our purposes? [more inside]
posted by Busy Old Fool at 5:11 AM PST - 7 comments

How to do myself justice on the MENSA IQ test?

After very good results on some Internet pop quizzes, including MENSA's own, I am sitting a supervised MENSA entrance exam/ IQ test in Glasgow in about a month. I know it's not possible to increase one's IQ by a huge amount simply by prepping, but do any members here (or anyone else) have tips for passing or at least getting the best score possible? Any recommended books or online resources? On one hand it's not a big deal but on the other hand it might be a fun learning challenge just to see what my IQ really is. I am putting this question in the "Work" category here because meeting other people at MENSA gatherings, if it turned out I was bright enough to get in, would be hugely inspiring for me. Also it wouldn't hurt to have it on my CV, it might intrigue someone, despite the old adage "no one likes a smart ass" :) [more inside]
posted by AuroraSky at 12:17 AM PST - 35 comments

July 13

How do I treat my dry hair?

My shoulder length hair is very very dry. What success have you had in treating your hair if it is also dry? I put on coconut oil almost nightly and leave it on but it doesn't seem to have made a big difference. My initial problem was my hair was falling out and it was dry. The falling out has improved but the dryness has not. I'm looking for methods you use to combat successfully the dryness and or products that you rate highly.
posted by Tziv at 7:42 PM PST - 21 comments

poetry in Ann Arbor?

I just moved to Ann Arbor and would like to meet some other moderately serious poets. Can you recommend a class, workshop, critique group, or recurring meeting that's not aimed at beginners? [more inside]
posted by yarntheory at 6:18 PM PST - 4 comments

Is there a way to know if a toilet will overflow before you flush?

I came back after a few months away to find all the water dried out in my toilet and full of leaves. I am worried that if I clean out all the leaves, and fill the bowl with water again, and try to flush it, it will overflow because maybe there are leaves further in the pipes? [more inside]
posted by Blitz at 6:08 PM PST - 18 comments

6 of everything and nothing in its place - hill edition

I live in a valley but my car (and bike) live up a steep hill. it takes a few minutes to get from my front door to my vehicle, carrying my (increasingly-heavy-but-unable-to-climb) toddler the whole way. How do I (or how do YOU) organize stuff so that i am carrying as little as possible uselessly in and out all the time, but also so that my car doesn't feel like i also live in that? [more inside]
posted by andreapandrea at 6:05 PM PST - 10 comments

Washington DC for a few hours...

I'm going to be passing through DC on a layover and need some advice on how to get around and see the main sights quickly! [more inside]
posted by ryanbryan at 5:27 PM PST - 19 comments

Should I stay in Leiden, and if so, what should I do there?

I'm attending a conference at Leiden University in about a month and a half, and urgently need to finalize my travel plans. I've never been able to visit Europe before, so I'm considering staying in Europe a few days after the conference. I don't want to spend a lot of time traveling, though, so I'm deciding between either spending the entire time in Leiden, or going to perhaps one other city. [more inside]
posted by Kutsuwamushi at 5:15 PM PST - 13 comments

I can't be nice one more time.

I am stretched super thin and don't have any more patience or tolerance for people. Help me not start screaming. [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 4:54 PM PST - 28 comments

Do You Have Any Diet Air?

Baby Kitty has a sad tummy, where if I eat any form of dairy, nuts, soy, or eggs - his diapers look like a Tarantino film. I need recipes that avoid these ingredients. However, as always, there are complications. I will be traveling in two weeks and will not have a fully stocked kitchen. [more inside]
posted by Suffocating Kitty at 4:39 PM PST - 12 comments

Can I train myself to make more moral snap decisions?

I feel like I make more moral decisions when I have time to think than when I have to decide immediately, and I'd like to achieve parity. [more inside]
posted by ionnin at 4:01 PM PST - 18 comments

can it be over now

How did it take you to fully recover from a significant betrayal by someone(s) you trusted? [more inside]
posted by a strong female character at 3:15 PM PST - 62 comments

Yellowstone transit from BZN

Yellowstone: any affordable direct daytrip (from BZN airport area) that's not a "bus tour"? [more inside]
posted by kalapierson at 1:45 PM PST - 10 comments

How do I get this slideshow from my old computer to my middle-aged ipad?

I have a slideshow of 392 photos in iPhoto version 8.1.2. I would like to show these photos tomorrow at a local event where I will have a table/booth but where I will not have electricity. So I want to put them on my iPad, which has better battery life than my ancient laptop. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by mai at 1:38 PM PST - 7 comments

This home guarded by ponies

I need to add a home security system and monitoring service to my home. Past questions have given me a starting point, but I have some snowflake requests regarding detecting when the house is not occupied and integrating with surveillance systems. General recent experiences welcomed as well. [more inside]
posted by Candleman at 1:21 PM PST - 2 comments

Partner's struggles with anxiety have killed our sex life

I am really struggling with my partner’s anxiety and its impact on our sex life. I am 33, he is 25, and we are a gay male couple. [more inside]
posted by ninefour at 1:19 PM PST - 13 comments

What to do in Flushing?

We have incoming visitors desperate for decent Chinese food. Answer? Flushing! The only trouble is, we live in CT and have never actually been to Flushing. What should we do when we're not busy stuffing our faces? [more inside]
posted by Diagonalize at 1:06 PM PST - 10 comments

I need to make a Moose call

How do I add audio of a moose call to a video of a moose sculpture with its head bobbing? [more inside]
posted by ms_rasclark at 12:56 PM PST - 1 comment

How to determine if a major remodel is worth it?

We've lived in our house for about a year and are trying to prioritize what projects need done. The kitchen and bath are in major need of a remodel but I'm not sure how to prioritize this with everything else. The other factor is we are not sure how long we are going to stay in the house - it could be 30 years, it could be 5. [more inside]
posted by lpcxa0 at 12:53 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me identify this mysterious pendant with unknown inscription

We found this pendant in my grandparents' house when clearing it. But no one can work out what it is / what it means, or what the inscription signifies. [more inside]
posted by Hadrian at 11:40 AM PST - 32 comments

What are today's topical jokes?

I remember when I was younger—probably late elementary through middle school but potentially a broader range—I used to hear and pass along tons of topical jokes. Jokes about Michael Jackson, Bill Clinton, Monica Lewinsky, Bob Dole, Jose Canseco and other athletes, Madonna, Kurt Cobain, and on and on. Whether it's because I'm now in the wrong age demographic or they're just not as much of a thing anymore (that's a whole other question), I just don't hear them now. Assuming they're out there, what have you got for me??? [more inside]
posted by ORthey at 11:17 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me find an old painting I saw once.

I saw a painting online that gave me a peculiar sense of deja vu. I'd love to see it again. [more inside]
posted by gentian at 10:27 AM PST - 17 comments

Lean Manufacturing User Groups

I am trying to find organized groups of lean manufacturing practitioners in the Chicago Illinois area for benchmarking and best practice sharing. Any suggestions?
posted by grahahw at 9:51 AM PST - 1 comment

Taco Mayo seasoning mix recipes for tatter tots?

Any ideas for a homemade dry barbecue/taco seasoning? I love the seasoning on Taco Mayo's Potato Locos. I received a small sample and it's great on roasted chicken or on other microwaved vegetables. I've used a brown sugar, paprika, garlic powder and onion powder mix, but it's not quite the same.
posted by TrishaU at 9:36 AM PST - 10 comments

How do I blog?

I'm technologically inept but I want to set up a blog for fun. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by JenThePro at 9:31 AM PST - 15 comments

Ethical Organic Small-Scale Eggs in NYC

Where can I buy the most ethically-raised (within the bounds of still eating animal-products of course), organic-fed, smaller-scale source of eggs in NYC? I feel like the places I would normally expect to find them, just put out the same few large-scale brands. [more inside]
posted by thegreatfleecircus at 9:18 AM PST - 10 comments

Typical Love Story With Twist: Vegetarian Meets Bacon

I am fully aware that this is an obnoxious First-World problem, and yet... I've been an ethical vegetarian for over 30 years. I've felt that I want no part in farming or killing animals and I never wanted to eat them. Anyway, yesterday I accidentally ate bacon. I now love bacon and want to eat more bacon. My question SPECIFICALLY for people who didn't eat meat for ethical reasons but then started is how did you make it okay in your heart? [more inside]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 8:31 AM PST - 37 comments

How do you get good medical care?

Need ideas, experiences and resources re questions to ask at a first appointment, steps to take before even making that appointment, being a good self-advocate, managing anxiety, and setting reasonable expectations. [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 8:27 AM PST - 8 comments

Educational material about Israel from a geographical perspective

Where can I find audio/videos to listen to while looking at maps of Israel? Specifically, I have an awesome wall map (6 feet tall). I'd love to listen to lectures about the regions, cities, migrations, rivers, seas, mountains, borders, etc... while studying the map. For example: Why was Tel Aviv selected as a place to develop especially? What role has the Port of Haifa played in military success? Where are the tunnels used by terrorists? Where were the borders at various times in history? What is the climate like in different regions, and how does this affect those region's cultures? What are the distances various air weapons can travel, both from and to Israel? Where do emigrants cluster (e.g. Russians, Americans, Ethiopians, etc.)? Where were famous Israeli personalities from and raised? Etc, etc, etc...
posted by daniel.poynter at 8:13 AM PST - 2 comments

What is the most fuel efficient used light pickup?

I will soon be in the market for a used car and am thinking of getting a pickup. Likely I'll be looking at trucks that are roughly 10 years old (I am flexible but want something new enough to not have a lot of maintenance issues). My biggest priority is having the least impact on the environment I can while still driving a pickup truck. What should I shop for? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 7:50 AM PST - 18 comments

Can I run on Rt. 25 in Riverhead, NY?

I will be in Riverhead, NY for a meeting on a weekday in the next few days/weeks and I want to run east on Rt. 25/Main St. for a total of 8-10 miles out and back. Advisable? [more inside]
posted by Pax at 7:31 AM PST - 3 comments

How can I make a server not give up it's IP address in case of conflict?

My client's server detected an IP address conflict and gave up its IP address to the other device (someone's misconfigured cell phone), with predictable 911 business-disrupting results. I'd like the server to not give up its IP address; is there a way to make that happen? [more inside]
posted by JDHarper at 7:31 AM PST - 10 comments

Reducing my dog's divorce-related stress

Please help me reduce the stress/separation anxiety and improve the behavior of my 3 year old dog. More inside. [more inside]
posted by heartofglass at 7:12 AM PST - 13 comments

Once in a lifetime trip...only one problem...where do we go?

My husband and I got married 2 years ago but we did not go on a honeymoon. As of recently, I've been diagnosed with a terminal illness. We want to take a spectacular, once in a lifetime trip. Where should we go? [more inside]
posted by Amalie-Suzette at 7:09 AM PST - 25 comments

What should I do for a week in Amsterdam?

I'll be in Amsterdam for a week in October. I like eating, drinking, and old things. What should I be sure to not miss? [more inside]
posted by Ducks or monkeys at 6:50 AM PST - 13 comments

How to write a successful appeal argument (university expulsion, IN)

Family member was expelled from their university over a (BS) claim of misconduct. Is there a template to use or any recommendations on how to outline their statement to the panel? [more inside]
posted by heavyp08 at 6:15 AM PST - 12 comments

Audiobooks 2016

I am thinking of getting my mum an mp3 player for Christmas so that she can listen to audiobooks - she likes books on tape, but the library doesn't stock many of them now, and she finds CDs hard to use. I've not bought one for years - any advice? Some more details inside! [more inside]
posted by mippy at 5:30 AM PST - 15 comments

Yosemite

What to: do, see, miss, avoid, eat, experience at Yosemite. [more inside]
posted by Classic Diner at 5:27 AM PST - 11 comments

Online courses to improve business communication skills.

Can anyone recommend any online courses or training resources that I can organise for my staff to help improve their business communication skills? (Written and/or verbal, or both) [more inside]
posted by LongDrive at 5:21 AM PST - 1 comment

Books on Food and its relation to Colonialism/Imperialism

Are there any good books telling the story of imperialism/colonialism through food? [more inside]
posted by 0bvious at 4:00 AM PST - 17 comments

Comic with dolphin in exosuit

Trying to remember a comic or graphic novel that my kids read several years ago that featured a princess, flying sailing ships and a sentient dolphin that wore a "water suit" that looked like a space suit, with robotic legs that were controlled by the dolphin's mind. [more inside]
posted by Dag Maggot at 2:53 AM PST - 6 comments

Why is it so hard to get butt smell off your hands?

I generally keep my butt clean. Babywipes and whatnot. But I applied some cream to my butt. I then washed my hands really well with soap and hot water. All over. Under the nails, even. Then, a bit later, I'm eating some grapes... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:45 AM PST - 22 comments

What's the correct way of the completing the LGBT acronym?

What's the correct way of the completing the LGBT acronym? Should it be LGBTA, LGBT+, LGBTQ, LGBTI or LGBTQ+. I've seen all of them lately and I want to get this right but numerous style guides and sources offer different options.
posted by feelinglistless at 2:29 AM PST - 10 comments

Can I have a gun?

With the recent events in Dallas, there's been renewed talks about gun control vs. second amendment freedom etc etc. So that got me wondering: in which US State could I, as a foreign passport holder on a tourist visa (and therefore not a resident), just walk into a store and buy a gun without any question asked? Or is it not that simple? I'm looking for specific states where the legislation makes gun purchase as easy as is being reported in the media.
posted by Kwadeng at 1:09 AM PST - 10 comments

Where can I find high quality, comfortable yet stylish clothing online?

I'm basically looking for the opposite of Forever 21 cheapy disposable stuff. I don't want designer fashion (and especially don't want their astronomical prices!), but I'd like clothes that I can wear to work or more casual shirts and dresses I could wear on the weekend. I used to shop at Ann Taylor and Banana Republic, and I still do on occasion, but I'm wondering if there are clothes that are higher quality that don't cost too much more. For example, Hanna Andersson's women's clothing intrigues me, especially the dresses in pima cotton.
posted by lirael2008 at 12:40 AM PST - 22 comments

July 12

How do I keep my shirts from smelling moldy?

I live in the UK and laundry here is just different from in the states for a number of reasons. I hang my laundry to dry, which mostly works fine except for my long-sleeved t-shirts, which always smell musty. I space them out all over the house, they feel totally dry and don't smell at all when I put them away, but a few days later when I pull one out to wear, they smell of mold. [more inside]
posted by stinker at 10:28 PM PST - 21 comments

Insects that don't eat, how do they make more insects?

Some insects live short lives and don't eat or even have mouths. How do they breed? Wouldn't you run out of insects eventually if there's no input into the system of insect breeding as a whole? If I built and set free autonomous robots programmed to "breed" by assembling new robots out of each other, and they built other robots without picking up any spare parts or materials, wouldn't I eventually run out of functioning robots? What am I missing that this is so confusing? There has to be a logical answer to this.
posted by blnkfrnk at 9:26 PM PST - 9 comments

Please help me find a dead pop culture art site

I am looking for an old website (at least 10 years old) that did weekly art challenges for members only. [more inside]
posted by dogmom at 7:53 PM PST - 1 comment

Stains on a jacket from fermented watermelon. Can I mask the damage?

This dingleberry left a watermelon in a bag in her car on a hot day. Even more stupidly, I covered it with my favorite jacket. The watermelon must've fermented/exploded, then whatever sludge was left gave my navy blue 98% cotton, 2% spandex trim jacket (with gold metal lobster clasps and some similar hardware) some funky bleached-out patterns that haven't come out after two washes. How can I mask the damage so that the jacket is a solid color again? [more inside]
posted by trampoliningisfun at 7:46 PM PST - 6 comments

What to do in San Francisco with a 17-year-old girl?

I'm going to be in San Francisco tomorrow morning until Friday night to meet some relatives of mine from Sweden, along with my parents. Most of those two days are going to be spent with the family but my dad wants me to show my 17-year-old relative around so that we aren't with "the olds" the entire time. I haven't been to SF since I was 14. My friend told me to stop by the venue he works at, Thee Parkside. [more inside]
posted by gucci mane at 7:38 PM PST - 14 comments

It would be sublime if I could acquire a bit of a glow

I love L'Oréal's Sublime Glow for fair skin tones. Unfortunately L'Oréal has stopped making it, curse them. Jergens Natural Glow turned me orange. What's a good equivalent product that will give me a bit of a healthy, sun-kissed glow as opposed to making me look like a certain Cheeto-esque presidential candidate?
posted by orange swan at 7:22 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me identify this projection slide format!

TL;DR: I'm trying to replace the mounts on slides from the late 60's with outside dimensions of 50mm x 50mm inner dimension of 30.8mm x 30.8mm. What is this format? [more inside]
posted by phooky at 7:01 PM PST - 4 comments

A Midsummer's Night Security Theater

I love the technology of flight but hate the logistics, legal strictures, and carbon footprint of travel. What's an ethical and selfish traveler to do? [more inside]
posted by soylent00FF00 at 6:21 PM PST - 26 comments

When should a frugal person give up on a high-mileage car?

I'm on a tight budget and my 2008 Honda Accord is coming on 150,000 miles. My income depends on my ability to drive to clients. In an ideal world, I'd hope to get another 20,000 miles out of the car. I'm just looking for advice on a "decision tree" type template for what I should do and when. [more inside]
posted by Jon44 at 6:19 PM PST - 19 comments

What trivia should I learn?

I am between jobs right now and I'd like to use this time to learn some mostly useless information. [more inside]
posted by shesbenevolent at 6:16 PM PST - 21 comments

Bass in the Blues, exemplary recordings?

I play the bass. Haven't played much Blues music. For the purpose of study and emulation I am looking for Blues recordings where the bass playing is masterful . Somewhat surprisingly, I haven't found any discographies online. Recordings where the bass is fulfilling its modest background duties, as dictated by the genre, in exemplary fashion. (Sheer Blues only, please, for this purpose. Not Rock.)
posted by bertran at 4:54 PM PST - 14 comments

Memory Care in LA

I might be moving my mother (91) from an assisted living facility outside Boston to the LA area. She has dementia, but is in quite good state. [more inside]
posted by silsurf at 4:43 PM PST - 3 comments

Handbrake defaults to Full Screen/TV vs Widescreen on single DVD rip

I only run into this once in a while. Some older or cheaper DVDs that have both Full Screen and Widescreen on one dvd will default to ripping the Full Screen. It isn't often but am not sure if my setting is off. [more inside]
posted by chicaboom at 4:34 PM PST - 3 comments

Need advice on buying a Wacom graphics tablet

So, I bought a cheap Wacom graphics tablet (Intuos) to make it easier for me to do photo editing. But I've found that it's really jittery (the pointer jumps around a little bit on the screen, even on a slow setting) and in some ways a mouse was more accurate. Do I need a more expensive model, and if so, which one? Or do I just need more practice?
posted by dontjumplarry at 3:42 PM PST - 8 comments

What to do about our long-covered hardwood floors?

Mrs. Lattiboy and I just purchased a house. The previous owner has had the hardwood floors carpeted in 1986. We're getting rid of the carpet and would like advice on what to do to restore them without breaking the bank or breaking my back. [more inside]
posted by lattiboy at 3:23 PM PST - 19 comments

Another aerial photo mystery

Any idea what this ruined or unfinished building is at the confluence of the Clark Fork and Flathead Rivers, near Paradise, Montana? It looks complicated for a barn, but I can't imagine what else it might be at this location.
posted by Bruce H. at 3:07 PM PST - 9 comments

Non mainstream eating around Santa Monica

Hi all. As I've mentioned, I'm taking my now 18-yo daughter to Los Angeles in September. We have flights and a booking at the Hotel California (heaven help me), and the next stage in planning is upon us. Laura wants some recommendations for "non-mainstream" places to eat around the general areas of Venice and Santa Monica. [more inside]
posted by Logophiliac at 1:52 PM PST - 21 comments

book club rescue

I'm in a book club with a group of about 20 friends. Our organizer recently stepped down because of other obligations, and I'm interested in taking over her role, but I'd like to make some changes that would make it easier for people to participate. I think we've had two main issues: [more inside]
posted by treachery, faith, and the great river at 1:32 PM PST - 14 comments

Is wearing a qipao cultural appropriation?

A few years ago while studying abroad in Beijing I had a qipao (cheongsam) tailor-made. I have since learned about the phenomenon of cultural appropriation, and as I am white I have not felt comfortable wearing it. I'm attending a wedding soon and would really like to get some use out of this dress. Would it be cultural appropriation/inappropriate for me to wear it?
posted by cosmic owl at 1:32 PM PST - 26 comments

How do French people eat?

There's a lot of writing on the internet about French eating habits and how refined (and superior) they are, but I'm curious how these habits play out in less refined circumstances. [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 12:54 PM PST - 18 comments

Mental Health and Addiction Rounds - Halp me Plan

Does anyone know of any North American Psychologists or Psychiatrists doing any work on how patients are treated differently, dependent on gender? [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill at 12:44 PM PST - 10 comments

ID short story about a group of kids who came back from a fantasy world?

I am trying to locate a short story I read sometime in the last few (1-3) years. I read it online, and it was about a group of kids, now older (20s?), set after they had done the trope thing of going into the woods, winding up in a fantasy world, saving the world, and then coming back to ours a short time later our-time, but months later in their lives. [more inside]
posted by fings at 12:16 PM PST - 4 comments

Are ferrets haram?

Kids living around us are fascinated by the occasional time we have taken our ferrets for a walk. A few of them have asked whether ferrets are haram. Not knowing, I've suggested that they ask their parents but would like to be able to tell them next time. Google suggests that they are ok but I can't find any more substantive sources than yahoo answers. Thanks!
posted by threetwentytwo at 11:55 AM PST - 10 comments

Any stock market followers know why Amazon dropped at 1:45 today?

AMZN was going along fine, close to an all time high on Amazon Prime Day today, when it suddenly dropped 1.5%, accompanied by huge volume. Didn't see the same drop in other stocks, so something Amazon related must have happened. Just curious. The market always responds more quickly than the news outlets, but maybe investors or brokers have heard something.
posted by weapons-grade pandemonium at 11:52 AM PST - 8 comments

Wireless Gaming Headphones for PC... that can also be used with a phone?

Are there any wireless gaming 7.1 headphones for PC (think Logitech G933) that can also be used with a phone without changing any connections? I've seen some that have the ability to have multiple simultaneous inputs, but I'm a little fuzzy on if I can use the same cans hooked up to my PC and to my phone at the same time so I don't have to switch in order to take conference calls.
posted by kuperman at 11:20 AM PST - 2 comments

Should we rule out buying a house because it has a in-ground pool?

Our family is looking at houses. I've found one I like a lot, but I'm really apprehensive about the huge in-ground pool in the backyard. Please help me think through whether this is really something we want to take on. [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 10:57 AM PST - 43 comments

Private title insurance?

We are about to close on a house and have been offered private (owner's) title insurance in addition to the title insurance the mortgage lender requires. Cost is a one-time $2.5k payment. [more inside]
posted by whitewall at 10:57 AM PST - 5 comments

I basically want Google Keep with the ability to do formatting.

Is there an app out there for me? I love the cloud aspect, the ease of use, the beauty+responsiveness+simplicity+speed of the UI... I don't need a complex project management system. Relatedly, an app like Wunderlist is not what I'm looking for -- it is too "to-do listy". I think Evernote might be the closest?
posted by demagogue at 10:55 AM PST - 4 comments

Knocked out by impact. What exactly happened to me?

So this past Sunday I set out on a bike ride with my wife and a friend along the Chicago lakefront and very shortly afterward I took a very bad tumble. I'm okay (bruised, road rashed and a sprained/shocked forearm) but I am mostly curious about what happened to my brain biologically. [more inside]
posted by srboisvert at 10:48 AM PST - 9 comments

How late is too late for teeth to fall out?

I took my 14-year-old kid to the dentist for a check-up, and it turns out that her upper baby canines have never fallen out. Uh, now what? [more inside]
posted by Andrhia at 10:41 AM PST - 31 comments

You've been pwned- What next?

Last year I put my email into the you've been pwned website [link] . This last week I got an email saying I may have been affected. What can I do to protect my data? [more inside]
posted by Braeburn at 10:20 AM PST - 7 comments

How do I get an inspection done on a used car that I want to buy?

I want to buy a used car, and I understand that I should have it examined by a reputable mechanic before making a deal. How does that actually work? I'm thinking of buying from a dealership, so I know I can get a test drive. Do I just tell them "I want to test drive this and take it to a mechanic?" or do I do that on the sly? How does one go about doing this? Thanks!
posted by mccxxiii at 9:41 AM PST - 10 comments

Name that dog, episode 126.

Meet Jill, the terribly shy, but sweet, 11-month old shepherd/lab (?!) mix we adopted last night. I think she needs 2 syllables. We like old-fashioned names. We already have Sally, the terrier of indeterminate origin and her predecessor was Gertrude. So far, Stella and Ethel are contenders. What says the Green?
posted by sarajane at 9:39 AM PST - 34 comments

These whippersnappers and their velocipedes!

With all this outrage at Pokemon Go, I was trying to think of examples of past past times (or just new technology) that there was a degree of public outrage that seem a bit silly now. I found a few examples of hula hoops scares ("Chiropractors and osteopaths are noticing more business from the hoopster set"), I know there was a bit of hub-bub about the "new wireless radios", and I remember reading some something about an old thinker complaining about students wasting their time on chess. What are some other examples?
posted by beccaj at 9:34 AM PST - 23 comments

Life Lost

How I see myself has changed forever, since my dad passed away unnaturally. I don't feel like I deserve goodness. I am sure my relatives, his siblings may feel that way too. How to deal with this gruesome grief? [more inside]
posted by daveg02 at 8:45 AM PST - 10 comments

Go West Young One (and even younger one)

Looking for some advice on where to go for a family vacation in Colorado. [more inside]
posted by limagringo at 8:44 AM PST - 4 comments

Help Me Replace This Nifty Retracting Box Cutter

I own stick-like box cutters, which I never use, and this handy spring-retractable one, which I always reach for (for minor tasks). The blade's getting dull, and I want to replace it. I assume from its color that I got it at Home Depot. But I don't can't find any there. Any idea how I can replace it? Or if there's anything similarly clever to consider, I'd entertain other options....
posted by Quisp Lover at 8:13 AM PST - 11 comments

Amazon Fire TV or something else for live sports?

I want to cancel my U-Verse subscription and still have access to live NHL and MLB games. Would the Amazon Fire TV work for me or is there something better? More details about my TV preferences inside. [more inside]
posted by a moisturizing whip at 8:12 AM PST - 9 comments

Best Online Tool or Platform for Social Group/Nonprofit Board

I'm looking for an online tool or platform that can help manage the event planning and activity coordination for a nonprofit board with 15 members. [more inside]
posted by fryman at 6:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Coughing Confusion

I know this might seem strange, but here goes: Over the past few months, I've noticed a few people tend to cough around me, but I have no idea why. [more inside]
posted by HundredGreen at 4:32 AM PST - 22 comments

Name the 1980s arcade game: top-down running / driving / shooting game

This should be an easy one. I'm trying to remember the name of this game I played around 1989 or so. [more inside]
posted by snarfois at 3:51 AM PST - 8 comments

Chemical vs natural facial masks and your favourites?

Tell me your favourite 'natural' skincare recipes and why, and share your experiences of chemical vs natural skincare. Can natural ever match up to today's modern formulations? [more inside]
posted by starstarstar at 3:18 AM PST - 11 comments

Who hit me with the stupid ray?

Why is my intelligence and ability to work and function in day-to-day life deteriorating? Over the past few months, I've been finding myself unable to keep track of things, and feeling like my brain isn't powerful enough to cope. The best way I can explain it is that I feel like a slow computer - constantly overloaded and taking a long time to figure anything out. [more inside]
posted by winterhill at 2:15 AM PST - 33 comments

19th century colonial art

It's the late 19th century or early 20th century, I'm in a London shop that sells art. I ask to see paintings and prints that depict India and other colonial areas. What artists will I likely be shown? Were there any bestselling works or collections? Is there anywhere on the internet that has a good collection of pieces in this category?
posted by clorox at 1:32 AM PST - 7 comments

New mom asking: Go back to work or not?

How could I possibly leave my baby to go back to work? And yet, tons of people have done it, including many I work with. How?? ... And then on the other hand, how could I quit working? (Long -- feel free to skip ahead to the question section.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:32 AM PST - 64 comments

July 11

Documentaries that tell a great story while giving you a slice of life?

I'm looking for narrative-driven documentaries that give you a sense of life at certain places and times, perhaps centered around a central figure or event but weaving in and out of the societies in which they existed. [more inside]
posted by archagon at 11:46 PM PST - 19 comments

Reactive Attachment Disorder in Adults

Need to find documentaries on RAD, watched Child of Rage and there seem to be others but cannot find them. This for an adult with the disorder who is seeking desperately to heal from inner rage and relational difficulties. [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 9:32 PM PST - 2 comments

Happiness living in a small town

Boyfriend and I have been together nearly a year, living together for 7 months. He has a fantastic job opportunity in a small town on the other side of the state and has asked me to move with him. I'm not totally opposed to the idea but not completely on board and excited either. Help me figure out the best way to approach this! [more inside]
posted by Malleable at 7:34 PM PST - 19 comments

Little Dog Big Tree

What's the best way to see the giant redwoods in Northern California, but with a dog? [more inside]
posted by meese at 6:47 PM PST - 8 comments

Best BLM 101 Resources for the skeptical republican

I have agreed to a challenge by a very right-wing republican on the topic of black lives matter. He is having me read The War on Cops and I can choose 4 hours worth of any material I want for him to read. What are some excellent books/resources that do the best job of explaining the problem for somebody very ignorant of black lives in general? [more inside]
posted by zug at 6:08 PM PST - 21 comments

Seeking songs to laugh at kids by.

I need ideas for G-rated pop music for camp video newsletters! [more inside]
posted by youcancallmeal at 5:30 PM PST - 18 comments

stocking items for the boyfriend in my fridge

I work from home most days and lately my boyfriend has gotten into the habit of working from my place as well or hanging out with me at other times at my invitation and his pleasure. I love this and am happy to have him around. Since he is over here so frequently, he has requested that I stock some of his favorite things regularly in the fridge for snacking/meals and most of them I'm happy to do so except for this - bottled water. [more inside]
posted by TestamentToGrace at 5:20 PM PST - 90 comments

Please help me select quality bed linens

My wonderful partner has requested “something for the home” for his upcoming birthday, and since we haven’t had new sheets in ages, I’m going to be getting new pillows and sheets for our queen-size bed. Trouble is, I don’t know how to get what we most like. Details within. [more inside]
posted by Short Attention Sp at 5:03 PM PST - 13 comments

Visiting relatives who have guns when you have a toddler

Extended family that I visit (I'm in Canada) and stay with a few times a year have started the application for a "pistol permit" in New York state. I have a toddler who's never met a button that he didn't press or a latch he didn't fiddle with. I know it's unlikely a gun would be accessible during a visit but I've seen the statistics. My gut reaction is to not visit anyone who has a gun (maybe having one locked in a gun safe would be ok) but I don't know if that is excessive. They are buying the gun "for protection" so I am assuming it will be carried and I want to get a handle on my feelings before I discuss it with them. Have you been in this situation? How did you manage it?
posted by betsybetsy at 4:55 PM PST - 30 comments

I'm glad you liked my thing but you were wrong I made it better okay

So I wrote a thing, submitted it a bunch, revised it substantially, and got the first edition accepted. My question is there any non-asshole way I can ask them to look at the revised piece? [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 4:12 PM PST - 7 comments

How do I document my days?

For YEARS I have wanted to keep a short diary of just a few things that happened to me that day. Not deep thoughts and feelings: just the facts. But for some reason I can never keep it up. Do you have any ideas on how to do this? Paper? An online system? A blog? A picture journal? Or even better, a strategy (in the morning, while brushing teeth, etc.?)
posted by heavenknows at 3:37 PM PST - 22 comments

WordPress Ecommerce solution for a small shop?

I am helping redesign a website. We will be moving it to a WordPress platform. The site needs some kind of simple shopping cart system for selling real world goods. What are the best options, both for cost as well as ease of use? [more inside]
posted by jammy at 3:34 PM PST - 7 comments

Who rents out silicone/synthetic ice rinks in Chicago?

Who rents out silicone/synthetic ice rinks in Chicago? [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 2:47 PM PST - 5 comments

Experience with Z-Health?

Does anyone on MeFi have experience with the Z-Health system? I've used the Goog, there are only a few reviews around the web, and nothing recent. [more inside]
posted by 4midori at 2:08 PM PST - 3 comments

Alarm recommendation requested!

I am the world's heaviest sleeper, while my housemate is the world's lightest. I need an alarm that will wake me up, but not him. [more inside]
posted by Space Kitty at 1:56 PM PST - 20 comments

Is there a way I can get my workplace to become a Pokemon Go Gym?

I am not too familiar with the game, but I understand the gym concept. I work at a local business and would like it to become a Pokemon Go Gym so we can attract more customers, but it doesn't seem like this is doable. Am I missing something? Is there anything similar we can do? Niantic's website is very spare.
posted by Slinga at 1:13 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me save my new office from its pea soup walls

I'm moving to a new office at work, from a rat-maze cubicle-farm cube in a room with very tall ceilings and surrounded by windows to an office with a door in the basement. I don't know why, but the occupants of the suite of offices painted all of their walls green. I strongly dislike the particular shade of green chosen, but there's no money to repaint right now. What can I do to make the office more palatable for me? [more inside]
posted by ashirys at 1:02 PM PST - 9 comments

My cat is an asshole

My 15 year old cat is becoming more of a jerkface. He's always been a bigmouth, but within the past year he's ramped up the yowling. I took him in awhile back and the vet said there's nothing physically wrong with him, he's basically just an asshole (the vet was a bit more tactful). Now he's started attacking my other cat - they've been together for 10 years. What gives? What can I do? [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 12:57 PM PST - 19 comments

Fun graphic t-shirts outside of hipster/geek culture?

I'm in desperate need of some new graphic t-shirts. At first blush, it seems like we're living in a golden age of t-shirts! Yay! The only problem is that I hate them all. Help? [more inside]
posted by overeducated_alligator at 12:45 PM PST - 26 comments

How to download Mavericks to keep Adobe CS 5? Become an Apple Developer?

I have a Mac Mini (2009 model, I think version 3,1). I am running 10.6.8 and Adobe CS 5. I want to keep CS 5; can I download Mavericks somehow? [more inside]
posted by Slothrop at 12:33 PM PST - 13 comments

How to: spice dishes, blend flavors

I'm starting to learn how to cook more sophisticated things. Can you recommend books or techniques for 1) spicing dishes well, and 2) blending flavors effectively? It seems this often involves a non-obvious step or ingredient that I'm not aware of. [more inside]
posted by danceswithlight at 12:26 PM PST - 11 comments

Discontinued hairspray! Need replacement.

My wife and I both used Pantene Flexible Hold #1 hairspray for many years. We liked it because it was unscented (at least as unscented as these products can be) and had very little 'glue' (in that it was level 1 hold out of 4 levels). Now that it has been discontinued, I'm hoping you guys can offer an alternative spray with those qualities. We don't want hair helmets or bees buzzing around our heads! Thanks in advance for your suggestions!
posted by Don_K at 12:23 PM PST - 3 comments

Mystery pink flower

I planted some seeds directly in my garden but what has come up is not what I sowed! Any idea what it is please? I'm in the UK. [more inside]
posted by KateViolet at 12:12 PM PST - 3 comments

Using Siri To Search a Document

Would like to enter text list of common items in grocery store inventory. Then would like to search document via Siri on iPhone to find specific keyword with its associated store aisle number. (Aisle numbers will be next to item, e.g. Eggs 1) I would like multiple mentions of a word to be highlighted in the document. What document application would you suggest creating the list in? Any suggestions you might have would be helpful. —Peter Brandt
posted by DreamStar at 11:38 AM PST - 1 comment

Paid for home appraisal, never got report - what's next?

Home appraiser ghosted on us and we are out a couple hundred dollars. What recourses do we have, if any? Is this a police matter? [more inside]
posted by ADent at 11:19 AM PST - 12 comments

Does this minor chord progression (i-III-VI) have a name?

Over the past few years, I've developed a sort of obsession with this tense-sounding chord progression and have noticed it in 1980s-present popular/alternative music. I've wasted too much time trying to find its name - or do songwriters just like the way it sounds? Think "Centuries", "Handclap", and "Sunday Bloody Sunday"...(examples inside) [more inside]
posted by Seeking Direction at 11:14 AM PST - 5 comments

Interesting towns along I-90 between Cleveland and Eerie

My parents will be driving this weekend from Chicago to Ithaca, New York. They'd like to spend the night somewhere between Cleveland and Eerie, PA. They are hoping to find inexpensive lodging and something interesting to do, see, or walk around. [more inside]
posted by wyzewoman at 10:52 AM PST - 16 comments

How to clarify mental health issues

I have a lot of trouble with executive function skills and some other stuff that could have several different root causes. I would like to figure out what the real cause(s) are, to hopefully improve my coping skills. [more inside]
posted by Ceci n'est pas une chaussette at 10:35 AM PST - 6 comments

Strategies for broad-shouldered talls on long flights

I am mid-range tall, with broad shoulders, and nasty lower back problems. ... and will be spending 40 hours in the next week on a plane. Anyone have suggestions for how not to come out the other end in an unbroken piece? [more inside]
posted by Seeba at 9:57 AM PST - 17 comments

Exposed wall interior material in living spaces

Owners of old homes and general handy-people of MeFi, how much of a health risk is having wall and ceiling construction material of unknown age exposed to open air in the home? [more inside]
posted by bread-eater at 9:56 AM PST - 5 comments

Nashville Weekend

I am going to a bachelor weekend in Nashville this weekend, Thurs-Sunday, July 14-17. What are the best breweries, distilleries, and hot chickenries in the Nashville metropolitan area? We'll go as far as a 30 min drive from the city proper. These are the three things the groom has requested we check out/do.
posted by josher71 at 9:29 AM PST - 7 comments

Chess Game with Built-in Tutor?

In 1996, Sierra released a program called "Power Chess" for Windows 95 and 98. It was based on the WChess engine and had a fantastic teaching mode. Your primary opponent, the King, would learn from you as you played. Games would get progressively harder as he tailored his strategy around your weaknesses. Once each game against him ended, you could play it back move by move and the "Queen" would explain his strategy and suggest how you could have played differently. Power Chess is no longer supported by Sierra/Activision and won't run on Windows 10. Does an Android or Windows equivalent exist? [more inside]
posted by zarq at 8:26 AM PST - 4 comments

Austin work trip in late August--transit questions

I'm applying for permission to attend a training workshop in Austin, TX, from Aug. 21-25, and I have some transit questions for Austinites!: [more inside]
posted by theatro at 8:13 AM PST - 7 comments

Crowdsourced Snopes?

I really appreciate the work done by the people over at Snopes and other fact-checkers. So often when I see a dubious meme rolling through my Facebook feed, I just google the text and find that Snopes has already covered the meme. This makes it easy for me to debunk many of the ridiculous (and often highly offensive) memes I'm confronted with on a daily basis. [more inside]
posted by syzygy at 8:12 AM PST - 6 comments

Where should I hike in the American Southwest?

I want to hike for 3-4 days in a desert in the American Southwest - where should I go, where can I see the most beauty, and is early September a bad time for this? [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 7:59 AM PST - 22 comments

Where are Series 1 & 2 of Endeavour?

I have a recurring recording for Masterpiece Mystery on my DVR, and a few weeks ago I was suddenly seeing Endeavour in the queue. This is great because I found I like it a great deal. However, it is series 3, and I never saw the first two series. I went to my AppleTV to see if I could find the first two series there but I didn't see them. So, how can I (legally) view the first two series? [more inside]
posted by terrapin at 7:22 AM PST - 7 comments

track this

I'd like to start using a mood tracker app on my iPhone but I need it to be quickly responsive and simple to use. [more inside]
posted by griphus at 6:33 AM PST - 6 comments

Racism pre-101 resources

The racism 101 resources available via Google are all aimed at the kind of person who might Google racism 101, generally a white liberal person who wouldn't immediately stop reading the first time they see the word "privilege". I'm looking for resources for the person at a stage well before that, if such resources exist. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:11 AM PST - 22 comments

Cat with urinary blockage - urethrostomy decisions and vet bills...

Hello everyone, My 10yr old cat Charlie developed a urinary blockage tonight and I rushed him to the emergency vet. Turns out he needs bladder surgery and possibly perineal urethrostomy. Has anyone been through this and did it turn out ok? [more inside]
posted by seraph9 at 12:47 AM PST - 19 comments

July 10

What's the logic behind not letting people edit/delete their comments?

I just learned that Wordpress does not let you edit/delete your own comments in others' blogs. Why is this? [more inside]
posted by eisenl at 11:00 PM PST - 10 comments

Snorkling Recommendations for Great Barrier Reef

We're seeking recommendations on snorkeling locations and outfitters/tours on the Great Barrier Reef, north of Cairns. [more inside]
posted by Mngo at 10:55 PM PST - 13 comments

Windows 10 safe mode only?

Lenovo yoga 2pro will only boot into safe mode [more inside]
posted by thewumpusisdead at 10:05 PM PST - 1 comment

How did you eliminate artificial sweetner from your diet?

Having read about the negative effects of artificial sweetener on gut and thyroid health, I’m trying to eliminate my usage of Sweet ’n’ Low (the pink packets). If you were able to wean yourself off of artificial sweeteners, how did you do it? [more inside]
posted by invisible ink at 10:00 PM PST - 28 comments

Which specialist should I be trying to see for my vision issues?

For the past two weeks, I have had a blurry spot in my left eye. Whenever I look up and to the left, it looks like there's an after-image there, as if I've been staring into a light or the sun. When it first started, there was a pressure verging on pain behind my left eye, and what felt like a muscle strain every time I moved my eyeball quickly, like when I was driving and needed to check my blindspot. The pain has gone away. On the advice of an Urgent Care doctor a few days ago, I got a CT scan, which was negative. Various doctors checked my peripheral vision when I was in the ER waiting for the scan, and they told me my vision was normal. My vision is not normal, though, because I do not normally have a blurry after-image spot in my left eye. What do I need to do to pursue this? [more inside]
posted by lazuli at 9:24 PM PST - 23 comments

You are so loud

My neighbors are really loud until late at night. They are loud until maybe six hours before I need to wake up. [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 8:59 PM PST - 10 comments

Anthology of Post-1975 Poetry

My father studied contemporary poetry in college, and has expressed regret that today he can't name a poem that's less than 40 years old. I want to surprise him with a gift - is there a single-volume anthology, or coursebook of poetry covering the past few decades that he might enjoy? If 'Intro To Post-1975 Poetry' is too impossibly broad, a survey of Canadian poets in specific would also appeal to him.
posted by Simon! at 8:36 PM PST - 5 comments

Starting a multicultural newspaper in Ontario, Canada?

“Content is king” is of course the most important rule of all, but what other important things does one need to keep in mind when starting a medium-run newspaper in Ontario? [more inside]
posted by omar.a at 7:59 PM PST - 6 comments

The mythical Superchunk British Knights commercial

For many many years, I've heard about an early-90's commercial for British Knights sneakers featuring music written by Superchunk. It appears lost to the mists of time. UNLESS you know where I can find it or see it, or heck, even just listen to it. Anyone?
posted by 41swans at 7:36 PM PST - 7 comments

Pick a Protest PA system for ~500 people

I'm sick of attending rallies and protests where the speakers are talking into an under powered megaphone and no one past the first row can hear. I'd like to purchase a nice, powerful, somewhat portable PA system to share with progressive groups in my city. I need your help since I know a fair amount about electronics but not much about audio. [more inside]
posted by ChrisHartley at 6:30 PM PST - 10 comments

Making no-sugar-added ice cream at home

I'm looking for recipes for ice cream without added sugar—recipes you've made and can vouch for, preferably. The ones I've tried haven't been that great and I want to try again. Any flavor, any base ingredient (dairy-based creams and milks, almond milk, coconut milk, etc.), and any kind of sweetener (sucralose, xylitol, erythritol, stevia, etc.). What's the stabilizer or thickener in store-bought no-sugar-added ice cream that gives it the texture of real ice cream? Xanthan gum? Guar gum? Alcohol? [more inside]
posted by jroybal at 5:57 PM PST - 17 comments

I want an intense brownie recipe worth skipping the box

Do you have a brownie recipe that makes the deepest, richest, choco-crazy brownies? One that beats the box? Because my eyes were opened recently to a realm of brownie I didn't know was possible. [more inside]
posted by Foam Pants at 4:53 PM PST - 47 comments

Stephen Colbert Interview with Realistic Pessimist

Can someone help me to locate an episode of Colbert from a few years back--Comedy Central's search engine is not as versatile as I was hoping for. This is what I remember: Stephen is doing an interview with a woman who's suffering from cancer (can't remember if it's terminal or not) and she says that when she was first diagnosed she kept being told that she should be tough and positive and that if she was positive she could "beat" cancer, but all she really wanted to do was feel sad and not have to fake her emotions, and she made a really profound argument for pessimism that I want to show my students. Any ideas?
posted by ABlanca at 4:26 PM PST - 4 comments

Custom decals mural for kitchen cabinet doors?

Custom decals mural for kitchen cabinet doors? Can it be done? [more inside]
posted by bluefrog at 3:55 PM PST - 5 comments

New Dog Walking Bag

I have a beloved bag that I carry with me when I walk my dogs - but it is showing its age - can you help me find a replacement? [more inside]
posted by hilaryjade at 3:53 PM PST - 11 comments

Bigger replacement SSD, or addtional SSD?

I've finally run my SSD out of room. Do I need to replace my SSD with a bigger one, or can I just add another SSD for games and stuff? [more inside]
posted by Sternmeyer at 3:46 PM PST - 5 comments

Vote-buying in Congress for consititutional amendment?

In a recent Lincoln biography, Sidney Blumenthal asserts that William Henry Seward (Lincoln's Sec'y of State) used "lobbyists and slush funds" to help pass the Thirteenth Amendment. What have you read on the point? [more inside]
posted by John Borrowman at 3:15 PM PST - 7 comments

How to introduce myself to new neighbors?

My husband and I just moved into a new house a month ago, and I am hoping to meet my immediate neighbors. We live in a rural town on 7 acres, so it's not like I would ever see any of them mowing the lawn. My husband is more introverted, so I am our social coordinator. My goal is to know them, perhaps be friendly with them, but not really to open the floodgates of random drop-ins (at least until I know they are not nut jobs). [more inside]
posted by hippychick at 2:39 PM PST - 22 comments

iPhone headache

Issues with iPhone 6 with Sprint, Eastern USA, major metro area. [more inside]
posted by bad grammar at 2:04 PM PST - 4 comments

HBO Go Freezes

HBO Go freezes in mid-broadcast. How can I either buffer it on my Apple TV, or get it to play through? [more inside]
posted by Native in Exile at 2:01 PM PST - 5 comments

Where can I custom print one credit card sized item?

I've made a nice credit card sized image that I'd like to print one (or five) of. I don't need a working magstripe, just high resolution printing on a piece of plastic and not in bulk.
posted by derbyshire at 1:21 PM PST - 9 comments

Rolled ankle, wanting to run

Before leaving for vacation last week (9 days ago), I rolled my ankle playing football. Details are inside, but I probably didn't rest as much as I should've. I'd like to start my Couch to 5K running regimen back up, but I'm obviously nervous about prolonging or re-injuring. When can I feel secure in getting back to running? [more inside]
posted by codacorolla at 1:08 PM PST - 8 comments

What is this song?

What is this song?
posted by DMelanogaster at 11:36 AM PST - 4 comments

Dog filter: What are the dark patches on puppies' bellies?

I've noticed that all of my dogs (and most puppies in general) have had some irregular, dark splotches on their bellies and underarms (underlegs?) that fade with age. Kind of like liver spots on older humans, but larger and darker, and generally much lighter by about one year of age. What are these called, and can they be used to estimate a dog's age? Curious because I've noticed them on all of the dogs I've ever had, but nothing turns up on google, except for pathological conditions.
posted by stillmoving at 11:19 AM PST - 12 comments

Adopted a Cat - Afraid I Made a Mistake

I went to the store to buy dog food yesterday, and ended up adopting a kitten. I have thought about adopting a cat for quite a long time, but have always talked myself out of it. Now I'm terrified that if we don't horrible mistake, and worry that I should give her back now she still little. [more inside]
posted by aka_anon at 10:56 AM PST - 42 comments

Surrounded by people but feel alone

I'm married, mother of one, good job, lots of acquaintances. Why do I feel so lonely? [more inside]
posted by shock muppet at 10:39 AM PST - 15 comments

The benefits of pre-natal vitamins are not over stated.

I started taking pre-natal vitamins about two months ago in preparation for a (hopeful!) pregnancy. The side benefit of thicker, more luxurious hair is DEFINITELY happening. Except, I have PCOS so I already have more hair than I want and the "benefit" is affecting a lot more than the hair on top of my head. Please PLEASE tell me that this will stop when I stop taking the vitamins. PLEASE.
posted by magnetsphere at 9:44 AM PST - 4 comments

You know, just a basic Unicorn Camera.

I want to get a new point and click camera sometime this week that automatically uploads photos without having to plug the damn thing into a computer. Please give me suggestions! Hopefully this kind of thing exists with my details within! [more inside]
posted by floweredfish at 8:26 AM PST - 27 comments

Is the cost of a move to a cheaper apartment worth it to pay less rent?

Is moving worth it to save $ on rent or should we stay put and try to make it work? [more inside]
posted by ShadePlant at 7:23 AM PST - 27 comments

Footloose in Greece (not the musical)

We're spending a week with friends in Athens towards the end of August. Coordination breakdown means that we have three days left in Athens after they leave and we're not sure what the best thing to do is. [more inside]
posted by bwonder2 at 7:06 AM PST - 5 comments

HPV disclosure help

A few years ago I had a low-risk HPV infection. I want to have a good speech memorized for when I disclose this to a potential partner. [more inside]
posted by toadman at 6:40 AM PST - 15 comments

Which stories, novels, or non-fiction always jump-start your writing?

Seeking examples or lists of writing that have inspired writers to write. Not "I read Orlando and wanted to be a writer," but novels, stories, or non-fiction that, when read, inspire one immediately to write, either on a one-time or a repeated basis. I write regularly; I'd like to have a shelf by my desk that I dip into more or less randomly before writing to prime the pump. While I love many books or stories, I rarely remember the ones that make me want to write.
posted by cupcakeninja at 3:53 AM PST - 10 comments

Connect me, please

All of my devices cannot connect to websites other than Facebook, Google and Yahoo Mail, and to Skype. Why and how can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 3:41 AM PST - 10 comments

July 9

Is it an STD?

Had a one night stand a couple of weeks ago, used a condom. Now have a mildly itchy spot near my genitals that isn't going away. Do I worry? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:25 PM PST - 10 comments

How do I take a very small daily dose of Vyvanse?

The smallest dose Vyvanse comes in is 30 mg. That's too much for me, and makes me speedy. Opening the capsule and taking a much smaller dose gives me the concentration I want, without the side effects; my doctor approves of this. My guess is that 10 mg- 15 mg is the right dose for me (I understand this might change over time, but that's what it's been for a while). How do I keep the dose consistent? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:24 PM PST - 15 comments

Weighing my first job offer after graduate school

I recently completed my master's degree, and have spent the past six weeks looking for a relevant job. This week I received my first offer, but am torn about whether to accept or keep looking. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:24 PM PST - 11 comments

Menstrual flow stops and starts each month

This is both a postpartum and a period question -- since having my child last November my period seems to stop or pause when I try to use tampons (or a diva cup). It's been going on for five cycles so I'm pretty sure it's not just in my head but I don't know what this is called or if it's worth talking to my dr/ob about. Gory details to come. [more inside]
posted by toomanycurls at 11:23 PM PST - 6 comments

Impossible work situation...

I had a friend hire me for a job, and quickly use her position over me to cut my hours and cause me undue stress. I'm at a loss as to what is actually going on, and how to proceed from this point on. [more inside]
posted by Champagne Supernova at 10:12 PM PST - 9 comments

Indoor activities in Hong Kong

What are the best ways to entertain ourselves indoors for three days in Hong Kong? [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 9:55 PM PST - 4 comments

Tooth whitening: Zoom!2, Plasma Cool-Light, or leave well enough alone?

I'm in Bangkok on a short work trip, and I'm potentially interested in getting my teeth whitened while I'm here. The dental clinic I've gone to before (and been very happy with) offers Zoom!2 and Plasma Cool-Light procedures. Does anyone have knowledge, or first-hand experience with either of these? What would you recommend? Zoom!2 seems faster and less likely to cause tooth sensitivity, and I'm inclined to go with that--but should I even get my teeth whitened in the first place? [more inside]
posted by tapir-whorf at 8:15 PM PST - 3 comments

Non Fiction Comics

I would like to find more non fiction comics. I don't care if they are online or paper or some other format. I'm particularly interested in ones about science/math, but history, memoir etc are also interesting. I particularly liked ‘Primates,’ by Jim Ottaviani. I also like XKCD and Larry Gonick.
posted by azalea_chant at 7:50 PM PST - 23 comments

MFA Creative Writing job options

I have a BA and MFA in English-Creative Writing. Currently, I teach English at a community college. While most of my job experience is in education, I no longer want to work in this field. What are some jobs to which I'd be able to successfully apply/career change? Thanks.
posted by Ready2016 at 6:54 PM PST - 13 comments

Always at Least 50 Paper Wasps in my Small Backyard During the Day

I live in North California. Moved into a new neighborhood house a month ago. Since moving in, I haven't really been able to use the backyard because of what I believe I've identified as 50-75 hovering paper wasps! I have a 2-year-old, so I'd like to get rid of them so that we can enjoy our backyard again. [more inside]
posted by jason9009 at 6:38 PM PST - 8 comments

My number will not work on Sprint/CDMA?

I recently switched from Verizon (CDMA) with a Moto-X to Ting (T-Mobile/GSM) with a Nexus 5. [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 6:25 PM PST - 11 comments

128 gigs just isn't enough anymore

I bought a Dell XPS 13 9343 about a year ago. I've managed to pretty much fill up the 128 GB capacity of the SSD already. I am contemplating upgrading the memory, which leads me to ponder: Am I crazy to attempt this myself? If so, what should I do instead? If not, what type of memory should I install? Also, what do I do with the SSD currently in my computer if I install a new one? [more inside]
posted by reren at 6:03 PM PST - 10 comments

My Chromebook takes its time to wake up.

I bought a Toshiba Chromebook 2 a couple months ago, and it has one very annoying problem that I can't figure out how to fix. [more inside]
posted by pdb at 4:47 PM PST - 5 comments

Not-as-popular books for a 0-2 year old.

A friend is expecting a baby and the baby shower host is suggesting baby books as the present. I expect some guests will wind up buying the same books ("...and another Goodnight Moon!") and I don't want it to be me, so do you have any recommendations for less-popular baby books?
posted by flibbertigibbet at 3:55 PM PST - 66 comments

Help me run a 12-minute mile (sigh)

I have been running (off and on) for nearly 20 years, and completed a half-marathon about 10 years ago, albeit in an embarrassingly long amount of time. I have always run extreeeeemely slowly; currently, we're talking 4mph, though I can do so for a whole hour, and I do this about 4-5 times a week. It really seems like I should be able to do a 12-minute mile, at minimum, though, right? Right??? I feel like I'm missing some crucial step in understanding how to reach this goal. [more inside]
posted by missmarymackmackmack at 3:44 PM PST - 33 comments

Shade These Windows

I have a condo with this 6'x6' window in a box jutting out from the side of the building with another sloping window at the top along its length. There's a baseboard heater right below the window, but the current location of the mini blinds traps the heat behind them, meaning the heater has to do more work keeping the room warm. How can I set up a shade that doesn't have this problem? [more inside]
posted by ShooBoo at 2:58 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me deal with an irrational loathing for a healthy thing

A few years ago, I had One Of Those relationships, and ended up with an irrational distaste for health smoothies/shakes, among other baggage I am mostly successfully recovering from. Anyone have any approaches to convincing myself to like a thing that reminds me of a really dark place in my life, because it's good for me? [more inside]
posted by Alterscape at 2:16 PM PST - 16 comments

Should I tell my boss why I was out?

I have a long history of physical illness. I have a chronic medical condition that causes frequent loss of work, which my boss knows. I've taken several leaves of absence over the past few years due to this. However, my current LOA was due to mental illness. My depression/anxiety has been with me for a long time, but was contained by medication, until it wasn't. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:02 PM PST - 12 comments

Cool insurance-related jobs, real or fictional!

Seeking good descriptions of insurance jobs that are as gripping as I know they can be -- ideally, not life or health, but more like writing policies or investigating damage/loss to property. A fact-laden account of the work performed by real people would be best, but fictional is okay too. I remember television's Banacek, and the Thomas Crown Affair, as being interesting but not much about the nitty-gritty; incidental characters as in Groundhog Day (watch out for that pothole!) not as helpful. Thanks!
posted by Clyde Mnestra at 1:09 PM PST - 17 comments

Help me hobby!

I'm looking for a new hobby and I have no idea what to choose so I'm looking for suggestions. [more inside]
posted by roolya_boolya at 12:38 PM PST - 30 comments

Best LGBT-related charities/nonprofits?

Two gay friends are getting married (finally! yippee!) and have requested no presents. Lots of us (the buddies, including the wedding party) want to respond by making donations to organizations that have supported marriage equality and other LGBT issues. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 12:27 PM PST - 14 comments

Help me prepare for a half marathon in the Bay area

I just started treadmill running for the first time in my life about 3 months ago. I've had no plan in mind and my schedule and progress has been fairly random. Running 3-ish miles 2-3 nights a week. The other night after work I ran 7 miles and now I'm wondering how to train for a half marathon. [more inside]
posted by gillianr at 12:18 PM PST - 10 comments

Should I hire professional packing services for my local move?

I'm moving from my current 1-bedroom apartment to a new 1-bedroom apartment under 10 miles away. While I was planning to pack myself and hire movers to handle the lifting and transporting, I'm now considering biting the bullet and springing for packing services as well. How much would something like this run me? [more inside]
posted by amycup at 10:17 AM PST - 19 comments

weird, strong odor from Florida Crystals sugar

I just opened a package of Florida Crystals Natural Sugar, and the odor is quite strong. It's difficult to describe, but it's kind of acrid/acidic. Can I Eat It? [more inside]
posted by amtho at 9:54 AM PST - 13 comments

Plugging a U.S.-U.K. converter into U.K.-EU

If I have an American laptop with a 60W power adapter, and I'm in Europe, and the only thing I have with me is a U.S.-U.K. plug adapter -- is it O.K. to plug that into a U.K.-E.U. one? [more inside]
posted by johngoren at 8:28 AM PST - 10 comments

No laughing, please, I'm a scientist.

Where does the "scientists are humorless" trope come from? Was there a particular early famous scientist who was specifically known as such and made a large impression on subsequent media depictions? [more inside]
posted by dmd at 7:29 AM PST - 27 comments

NYC Backcountry Camping from Public Transportation

I'm thirsting to get outdoors this summer, and would love to do some hiking/camping a bit off the beaten path. But I live in Brooklyn and don't have a car. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by vecchio at 7:17 AM PST - 12 comments

Shop open in Krakow past 6pm where I can buy chargers

I just arrived in Krakow from Australia. My luggage did not. Insurance will cover replacement of everything if it hasn't turned up after 8 hours, which will be 5pm. I desperately need clean clothes, a laptop charger (Acer) and a phone charger before tomorrow as I am teaching a workshop. Have located places for clothes open until 10pm. What about the chargers? I am in the Old Town. [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 5:24 AM PST - 6 comments

Any non-US mefites out there to help me watch Wimbledon?

I'm in the US, no cable. I want to watch Serena make history in 40 minutes when Wimbledon's women's final starts. [more inside]
posted by Pocahontas at 5:22 AM PST - 6 comments

Mobility options for lining up/queuing up with bad feet

So I have nerve damage in my feet and while I'm able to walk, I have a limit on the total amount of time I can spend on my feet before it becomes excruciating. I'm really tired of taking a wheelchair through airport security, and it's not an option in train stations. I'm looking for recommendations for some kind of device (or possible suitcase) that I could use to get me off my feet. [more inside]
posted by chinabound at 4:15 AM PST - 11 comments

Advise me on marriage.

We're women in our early thirties, non-religious and not planning to have kids. I'm divorced, she's never been married. What do we need to know before tying the knot? [more inside]
posted by possibilityleft at 12:52 AM PST - 9 comments

How do I get better at expressing myself verbally?

I'm not very good at expressing myself verbally — and I don't think it's just a lack of confidence. How do I get better? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:18 AM PST - 7 comments

I think I want a baby – but not with my husband.

I’m married, mid 30s, and of course, it feels like everyone I know is having children. I love children. I’ve told myself again and again that I’m not going to be a mother. I thought I had made peace with it, and was pretty convinced I did not even want to be a mother. That’s why this seems like a huge betrayal to myself and to my husband.... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:18 AM PST - 27 comments

July 8

Little birthday rituals

This is my birthday celebration weekend and my birthday is next week. What are some things I can do, fun or serious, reflective or hedonistic, to mark and celebrate my birthday in a great way? Not ideas for the whole day but rather ideas for little rituals or traditions you use or know of to help cap off the year and start the new one off with a cool start?
posted by jitterbug perfume at 8:15 PM PST - 13 comments

My career anxiety is (probably) holding me back, can I get rid of it?

Ever since graduating from university 6 years ago, I've been stuck in a rut about what to "do" with my life. How can I, finally, get out of this rut and get on a career path I truly feel comfortable with? I didn't miss the boat for career "success," did I? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 8:14 PM PST - 7 comments

Maps app with custom route selection

Is there a maps app that will give me time/traffic estimates on the route of MY choice? [more inside]
posted by bleep at 6:50 PM PST - 3 comments

Living Situation Stressful/Solutions

I currently live with my husband. We are planning to renovate the basement but it will take 1-2 years. My mom moved in with us and we share the common areas besides bedrooms and bathrooms. It is financially a good idea but im finding it stressful with possible construction and living with my mom. We cant afford to move, also my husbands business equipment needs storage which is on the property. He is okay with living here until improvements are made. We are also starting a family this fall and i am pregnant. [more inside]
posted by Lillian7 at 6:28 PM PST - 22 comments

Applying for a green card for an employee

We are a small company, just shy of 100 people and applying for a green card for an employee via EB-2 Category. Will the lawyers do everything or do we the HR department need to do something to make this process easier for us?
posted by iNfo.Pump at 6:17 PM PST - 2 comments

Pimp my scallion pancakes

What can I add to my scallion pancake batter to make them tastier?
posted by Triumphant Muzak at 6:07 PM PST - 16 comments

How to figure out this sleeping issue with partner?

I've recently begun dating someone I really like. Mostly everything is going great....until we sleep. [more inside]
posted by pando11 at 5:32 PM PST - 30 comments

what is this called and what can be done about it?

Is there a term for a certain practice: that of trying to get longtime, well-paid employees to either quit or get fired, through excessive enforcement of regulations or creating a generally hostile enviornment. (I know through a reliable source that this is a practice at my workplace, even though we are unionized). (those of you who know where I work, please do not mention it by name, thanks)
posted by jonmc at 3:51 PM PST - 10 comments

What are "essential" apps for a new smartphone owner?

Okay, so I don't like recurring monthly bills. I've had a TracFone flip phone for a few years but they're discontinuing 2G service. Their upgrade program allowed me to get an Android smartphone for a decent price, so I've done that. I really am not wanting to use the phone for much, but I would like it to at least be a bit more augmented than it currently is. What apps should I consider? [more inside]
posted by hippybear at 3:36 PM PST - 41 comments

What can I do? I'm in my 30's and I can't memorize anymore.

My job requires me to memorize text on a regular basis. There was a time when I never had any problems memorizing quickly... I've noticed it's become increasingly difficult. [more inside]
posted by olivetree at 3:25 PM PST - 16 comments

Backfired: The Briefing

I watched this Clinton ad today that used footage from James Comey's testimony to Congress yesterday. How long did this take to make? There aren't many edits, or anything, but it's professionally put together and very concisely argued. I'm just curious, from conception to completion, how many person hours would something like this take?
posted by OmieWise at 2:34 PM PST - 5 comments

How do theaters decide how to offer packages/subscriptions/memberships?

How do theater companies (or other kinds of arts venues, like operas or symphonies or dance companies) decide whether to offer season ticket subscriptions, some kind of membership that offers benefits (other than free or discounted season tickets), or some combination of the two? [more inside]
posted by decathecting at 2:14 PM PST - 5 comments

What to ask a consultant about Primary Progressive Multiple Sclerosis

A family member has been diagnosed with Primary Progressive Multiple Sclerosis. He has an appointment to see a second consultant for confirmation of the diagnosis, and wants to use this as an opportunity to find out as much helpful information as possible. We understand that there is currently no effective treatment for Primary Progressive MS. What should he ask the consultant in order to get the most out of this appointment? We are in the UK. Many thanks.
posted by paduasoy at 1:49 PM PST - 4 comments

How to think about a partner and what matters long term

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a bit over 2 years and are in our late twenties. She's ready for marriage, I'm not quite sure what factors matter. I'm a pretty intellectually motivated person, while she is much more care-free and day to day. I know she would be a reliable partner, but I'm afraid I'll always want more than she can give. More details inside! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:43 PM PST - 77 comments

Are there downsides to not eating organ meats?

Are there downsides to not eating organ meats? How has the transition to eating only flesh impacted our bodies? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 1:10 PM PST - 14 comments

Basic use and navigation of the MelOn iOS app?

My wife and I are really into Kpop. We finally created an account on the MelOn website and followed the instructions on this page to successfully download the MelOn app from the South Korean app store. We managed to get logged into the app, but what's next? [more inside]
posted by starscream at 12:17 PM PST - 5 comments

Take my money, Baby!

Someone dear to me just gave birth in Detroit. In addition to the usual gifts for parents and tiny human, is there a cool local organization I can donate to in honor of this social justice oriented family? [more inside]
posted by Otis the Lion at 10:45 AM PST - 12 comments

How to reverse relationship with work colleague

I just moved to a new team who I've worked with in the past but not a ton. I've gotten off to a rocky start with one of the people on the team and it's all on me. How do I make her make want to continue working with me? [more inside]
posted by sandmanwv at 9:48 AM PST - 22 comments

Must see in Portland, OR

Hi! I'm going to be in Portland in a couple of weeks visiting friends in the Grant Park neighborhood. I'm staying with them, but I have two days where they're at work and I will be entertaining myself (which I am looking forward to). I have access to a car and the only thing I am certain of is that I will be spending 1/2 a day at Powell's. Is there anything else I shouldn't miss? [more inside]
posted by Sophie1 at 8:40 AM PST - 31 comments

Installing hardwood floors that aren't noisy

We're having new solid wood floors installed (as opposed to engineered wood) in a regular American wood frame single family house. I've lived in enough places with wood floors that transmit every footfall and sneeze - how do we get better noise insulation between floors? It would also be nice to have the floors be kind to our joints. [more inside]
posted by ashworth at 8:40 AM PST - 7 comments

How to sell art prints?

I would like to start getting my collage art professionally scanned and sell prints of it online. Where in NYC can I get the pieces scanned, and what site would be best for selling the prints? Possibly relevant deets inside. [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz at 8:24 AM PST - 9 comments

How to counter the "American abundance" argument.

We Americans have too much stuff in general. This is not a controversial statement. But when I say something like this to friends or acquaintances (and I phrase it non-accusatorially! Gently! Practically wrapped in cotton batting!) some people counter with, "Well, I'm just glad I live in a country that provides so much abundance, and where we have freedom of choice about what we own." [more inside]
posted by BostonTerrier at 8:13 AM PST - 61 comments

How's my elm tree?

I share a large backyard elm tree with my neighbors. Does it look healthy? Is there anything we should be doing to keep it in the best shape it can be? [more inside]
posted by ndg at 8:07 AM PST - 6 comments

Need resources about film + sound equipment WITH PICTURES

Equipment and various sound / camera setups (wireless /wired , etc. . . ) [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 8:05 AM PST - 2 comments

Where in Mexico should we get married next March?

Looking for a good Mexican destination wedding venue based on places you've stayed or weddings you've attended. [more inside]
posted by *s at 7:55 AM PST - 6 comments

two events on same day, wedding or baseball game

should my son attend the game or wedding? [more inside]
posted by any major dude at 7:44 AM PST - 65 comments

Is this gross?

We live across the street from a city park. There is a porta-pot for park-goers to use directly across from our house. The porta-pot seems to be designed so that the door does not swing shut automatically, meaning the door is often hanging wide open. This grosses me out beyond words. Is it worth continuing to try to get the city to replace the porta-pot? [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 6:51 AM PST - 34 comments

How to get out of bedtime fights?

My partner (of almost a year) and I have gotten into a fight pattern that I'm trying to find a way out of. At bedtime, especially after a long tiring day, what he needs is to sleep right away, and what I need is some time together to cuddle or talk or make love just be together. When he falls asleep I have a strong emotional reaction. [more inside]
posted by miaow at 4:37 AM PST - 27 comments

Help me find drop-in pop choirs.

This post featuring Choir! Choir! Choir! reminded me of Pop Up Chorus (also featured on the blue). Are there other drop-in, no-commitment pop choirs like these two? How should I search for them? I'm particularly interested in the San Francisco Bay and New York City areas, but would love to learn about these sorts of groups anywhere.
posted by jdherg at 1:44 AM PST - 5 comments

The wedding dress is plus-sized, but the bride is not

She wants this wedding dress, but it only comes in plus sizes. Is it worth it to buy a 14W and get it altered down to size 10? The dress costs $300, and alterations will cost minimum $200. [more inside]
posted by crazy with stars at 12:54 AM PST - 21 comments

July 7

NameMe Bowling Edition

My colleagues and I will be bowling together in a tournament. I found out today that they want us all to have nicknames to print on our shirts. Specifications inside. [more inside]
posted by kamikazegopher at 9:56 PM PST - 16 comments

Auto-nag time tracker for Android?

Looking for an Android app that will let me track my daily activities. Oops but here comes a special boy: instead of having to remember to start/stop a timer manually, I would like the app to ping me every 15 minutes (or some customizable interval) and ask me what I'm doing. [more inside]
posted by en forme de poire at 9:10 PM PST - 2 comments

Neat things to see/do around Beaufort/New Bern/Morehead City, NC?

I'm heading to the Beaufort/New Bern/Morehead City area in North CarolIna for a week later this summer and would love insiders' tips about unusually fun historical sites, the smartest seafood and vegetarian restaurants, and the best places to hike, kayak or canoe to see wildlife and tent camp for a night or two. What would you consider musts for a nature and history lover in that area?
posted by mediareport at 7:46 PM PST - 8 comments

Exterminators of Metafilter! Halp!

We had the exterior of our house treated for wasps/bees with Dragnet today. As the fellow was spraying around the roof, some of the pesticide dripped into the vent on the top of my window air conditioner. This was about 12 hours ago. Will I or my pets die if I turn on the air conditioner? It's so very hot here in Southern Ontario :(
posted by torisaur at 6:23 PM PST - 6 comments

Nepal trek weather in early September?

How likely/frequently/heavy is rain on a Langtang trek the second week of September? And are the views likely to be obscured by clouds/overcast? [more inside]
posted by night kitchen at 6:03 PM PST - 5 comments

Substantial Salads?

I need your best protein based salad recipes! Details below [more inside]
posted by deadwater at 5:48 PM PST - 35 comments

Please Help, Packing Wizards!

Seeking a better way to organize my luggage for a trip... [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 4:55 PM PST - 21 comments

CNN Chile - Live v Recording and Viewing via 'net

A friend is currently at CNN, taking part in a panel discussion. I don't know if it's live or being recorded. Which is most likely? And is there a live feed on the 'net anywhere? (This is CNN Chile - the discussion is on Chilean politics so I don't think it will be in the International Spanish edition?)
posted by andrewcooke at 4:01 PM PST - 3 comments

Rejection in networking online and in person

How can I better deal with rejection when attempting to network online and in person? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 3:29 PM PST - 10 comments

How to help my SIL who is dealing w/husband w/dementia (early Alzheimer

My sister-in-law is the most empathetic, caring for others person in the world & she is dealing with something hard: a husband who has been diagnosed with "dementia" in his mid-60s. The problem is finances... [more inside]
posted by spock at 3:19 PM PST - 5 comments

We are not a flophouse

Are my roommates using our shared apartment too heavily? Or am I just being sensitive? [more inside]
posted by sockity sock at 3:06 PM PST - 34 comments

Should I attend a Writer's Digest conference, or something else?

I just retired from teaching and am resuming writing. I had an agent and had two books published (F/SF, mainstream publisher) twenty years ago, but my agent died and I'm basically starting from scratch. The Writer's Digest conference in August in NYC looks okay. Is it worth going? Or should I do something else first? [more inside]
posted by Peach at 3:05 PM PST - 7 comments

How to sign off a card to an elder in French

I'm writing a birthday card to my grandmother in French (this is in Canada). In English I would just sign it "Love, sea change", but I'm not sure what the appropriate sign-off is in French--something that's loving and not too formal/distant, but also respectful enough for a 90 year old woman. [more inside]
posted by sea change at 2:50 PM PST - 6 comments

Small electric motor for raising/lowering jack + bonus tinkering forums

I'm using a motorcycle jack as the base for an adjustable desk I'm building to rest on my desk at work. I'd like to rig an electric motor to raise/lower the ~75lbs of the desk and it's contents. What are my options for small electric motors up to the task? Bonus - is there a good forum for general tinkering questions?
posted by pilibeen at 2:41 PM PST - 15 comments

How do I get my Dad off these horrible scam mailing lists?

My dad gets a dozen mailers a week from horrible scam companies promising to "renew his manly vigor". How to stop them? [more inside]
posted by suelac at 1:57 PM PST - 15 comments

To Boldly Go Where Many Have Gone Before!

I want a real career. After a decade of professional frittering, I'm finally coming into my own — I have deep focus and a desire to invest heavily in my future. What should I make of myself? [more inside]
posted by fritillary at 1:53 PM PST - 11 comments

Splitting royalties between co-authors on Amazon

A friend of mine and I would like to self-publish a book together on Amazon. How do we split the royalties when Amazon only allows one payee and how do we deal with the tax implications? Added complication: one of us is the U.S., the other is in Canada. [more inside]
posted by pised at 1:23 PM PST - 6 comments

Have I been emotionally abused? If so, how do I begin to recover?

I've admitted my father may be kind of a monster. Is he really, or is it me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:57 AM PST - 35 comments

Looking for a kinetic coin bank

My husband has a birthday coming up. I know he would like something like this coin bank, but it's sold out and I'm having trouble finding an adequate, grown-up substitute. [more inside]
posted by Alison at 10:28 AM PST - 8 comments

Help and advice for emergency international trip

Emergency England travel advice. My sister is very sick and I need to get to England as soon as possible. I am in Nashville, TN USA. Where can I get the cheapest plane tickets? Do I need to clear cookies from my browser every time I search, or is there a site that is best? If I fly into Heathrow are there trains to Brighton? I will have my infant with me also. Any advice welcome.
posted by Locative at 10:01 AM PST - 41 comments

Teaching the visual language of user interfaces to novices

I'm looking for resources that explicitly lay out what probably has a more technical name but what I think of as the generalized visual language of most modern UIs (especially as pertaining to web design). My goal is training computer-illiterate/technophobic people to be able to recognize common UI elements across multiple websites and applications. Specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by soren_lorensen at 9:38 AM PST - 12 comments

Improve air flow and staying cool in old apartment?

I rent a second floor apartment (815 sq ft) that is around 100 years old. I work from home a lot and summers in Minneapolis can get hot and humid! How do I improve the air flow and or keep it cool without air conditioning? Challenge: some of the larger windows do not open. [more inside]
posted by mlo at 9:32 AM PST - 18 comments

Is there an app that will vibrate my phone every 10 minutes?

I want an app that will vibrate my phone every x minutes from 9 to 5 (or whatever hours) every day. And not through "notifications", because I don't want to have to take it out of my pocket or even touch it to make it stop, or clear popups from the screen later. Is there anything like this? Android & iOS suggestions both welcome. [more inside]
posted by neat graffitist at 9:17 AM PST - 9 comments

Can one become a morning person? Have you successfully done it?

In my latest attempt to improve my life, I have decided to give something a try that I thought impossible before: To become a morning person. [more inside]
posted by LarryMan at 8:49 AM PST - 37 comments

How can I maintain a social life balance when all I want is my SO?

One of the reasons my last long-term relationship failed was because we didn't have any/many friends outside of each other. I want to avoid that in my current relationship, but unlike my last one, my current boyfriend and I love doing all the same things together so it's hard to reconcile doing things separately with friends that we'd prefer to do with each other. [more inside]
posted by majesty_snowbird at 8:31 AM PST - 28 comments

Greeting card/postcard printing, not Moo or Paperless Post

I would like to print a small run of around 100 greeting cards and postcards. I can't use Moo or Paperless Post, which seem to be the default recommendations these days. Does anyone have any other recommendations for online printers based on professional/personal experience?
posted by caek at 8:24 AM PST - 11 comments

New York City hiking clubs

Seeking recommendations for easy New York City hiking clubs. [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 7:29 AM PST - 5 comments

Looking for anti-police-brutality song recommendations

Help me expand my "Fuck the Police" playlist! [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 7:10 AM PST - 47 comments

How to organize Online and Local Voice Chat for video games?

When you and your roommate/SO/nephew/housemate play together in an online game, in the same room, how do you communicate with each other? I'm trying to figure out the best solution for my SO and I for gaming. We still want to feel "together" but also want to communicate with teammates. Sometimes the cans make use feel isolated from each other. [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 6:05 AM PST - 3 comments

Can I upgrade to Windows 10 but keep a Windows 8 app?

The only thing preventing me from upgrading to Windows 10 is the new built-in Photos app. The Photos app from Windows 8 is exactly suited to my needs, and I would like to keep it. Is this possible? [more inside]
posted by cincinnatus c at 5:33 AM PST - 1 comment

A quiet mind is a breezy mind

Where can I find a structured, daily meditation course or challenge online to help me scratch my meditative itch? [more inside]
posted by Vrai at 4:55 AM PST - 7 comments

How do you tell someone to stop saying "I told you so"?

You have bad news/concern about yourself. You tell someone about what's going on. The person says that it is your own fault - which is true, but seems like a variant of I told you so. You tell that person it seems like the wrong time to say that. The person doubles down on the statement. You walk away from the person - swearing to yourself that you won't ever talk to them about bad news/concerns about yourself. This feels like a big case of "I told you so", which I hate. How could this have gone better? [more inside]
posted by Mushroom12345 at 1:29 AM PST - 30 comments

Help me, creative gift givers of mefi.

I have been tasked with buying a goodbye gift for a coworker who is moving back to his native Australia. I know nothing of substance about this person except that he's probably around 30ish. His job is sort of a general corporate project manager type. My budget is $200. It would be nice if the gift had some kind of reference to the United States, since our company is American and he lived here for several years. Help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:21 AM PST - 11 comments

Why should I not report historical abuse to the police?

I am coming to terms with some incidents of abuse in my childhood. I have an excellent treatment team. I am a logical, problem solving sort of person. I read various literature about the reporting of assault. Now, I feel confused. I do not understand why reporting these incidents to the police is something I should not do. What is it that stops people from doing this? I talked with the perpetrator, who remembers and agrees with my description of the incidents, but does not agree that they were criminal acts. I am reasonably confident that they were. I do not know if they would plead guilty were it to come to it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:21 AM PST - 14 comments

July 6

Find me a just-so laptop

So I'd like a laptop that is generally not crap, has a discrete GPU, weighs 4 lbs or under (approx) and costs under $1000 (in the US). Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by GuyZero at 9:47 PM PST - 20 comments

After paying mortgage, what?

After paying off our mortgage, next steps? [more inside]
posted by metajim at 8:32 PM PST - 12 comments

Where do you hang your bath sheets (huge towels) to dry?

We recently replaced our ordinary sized towels with bath sheets (approximately 36x72"). A problem we didn't anticipate is that they are substantially too large to hang on the towel rack we have without folding (inhibiting drying) or touching the floor (gross). If you have large towels, how/where do you hang them to dry? [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 8:03 PM PST - 29 comments

Physical therapy for general improvement of health?

Is there a kind of physical therapist who can help me work through some general posture and muscle imbalance problems, and teach me exercises to avoid re-aggravating an old injury? How would I find one? [more inside]
posted by gilsonal at 7:56 PM PST - 8 comments

Need AC solution for fairly open space in rental

I'm getting desperate for AC solutions to a fairly open first floor in our rental. I'm in my last month of pregnancy and I'm not excited for the next few weeks or to spend hot days at home with a new baby in August while I'm on maternity leave. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! [more inside]
posted by moshimosh at 7:21 PM PST - 10 comments

Need suggestions for camping cookwear

I need cookwear for car camping. These will be used on a 2-burner propane stove. Based on the kinds of things I cook, I need 2 frying pans and 1 pot or kettle for boiling water. I'd like to have folding or removable handles, and at least 1 teflon or other non-stick pan. No cast iron. What specific brands and pans or pots would you suggest for me? I am in the U.S.
posted by OrangeDisk at 7:16 PM PST - 15 comments

Please help with aggravating medical issue

I have been having a headache-y/migraine-y, sinus-y, fatique-y issue for awhile and am feeling stuck. [more inside]
posted by imalaowai at 6:49 PM PST - 16 comments

These books could be our life

Fellow 40/50-something aging punks, indie rockers, etc.: what books do you think best capture the feel of the 80s / early 90s, pre-internet underground(s)? Fiction + non-fiction - novels, forgotten but still vital journalism of the era, music biographies, etc. - are both of interest.
posted by ryanshepard at 6:12 PM PST - 46 comments

Who are some famous human rights heroes?

I'm working on a fundraiser for an old Soviet dissident. I'm writing the fundraiser text, and I need suggestions for some human rights heroes I can compare him to, to put his achievements in a context that modern people can understand. [more inside]
posted by Cinnamon Bear at 6:08 PM PST - 8 comments

Old Scandinavian b/w short about children and wild birds

I'm trying to get the title, and perhaps see (YouTube? - although I've searched), an old movie I used to show my elementary school classes in the mid-1970s. This is what I remember: black and white; 20-25 minutes long (not feature-length, I think); great photography; voice-over narration; Scandinavian of some sort; made in 1950s or 60s (possibly 40s); children's faces; forests, countryside; migrating birds (swans, storks, geese?); melancholy feeling. [more inside]
posted by feelinggood at 5:49 PM PST - 3 comments

Help with fear-based territorially aggressive dog - meds?

This is Pasquale (my user photo). I’m considering asking our vet to try a pharmacological approach to his fear-based territorial/visitor aggression. Have you gone this route? Do you possibly have another (non medicinal) approach we can try? Apologies for the length inside. [more inside]
posted by elkerette at 5:21 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me access this network device!

Can I access (via http) a device with a fixed IP address in Class B space (172.x.y.z) when it is plugged into my home network that's operating in Class C space (192.*.*.*)? [more inside]
posted by achrise at 4:47 PM PST - 13 comments

Posted to Ft. Jackson (Columbia, SC), need apt. w/ Garage

Returning stateside from Korea, and being posted at Ft. Jackson, in Columbia, SC in December. So, I beseech you, O Great Hivemind - what parts of Columbia should I look at living in? Any recommendations on apartments or landlords? All the Army people I talk to go on about Sandhills northeast of the city, but I'm wondering if there's any other great places to live. Complication - I need to have parking for two vehicles, at least one of which is covered, preferably a garage. I have an older car that I'd like to keep out of the elements. [more inside]
posted by Punkey at 3:46 PM PST - 6 comments

Never go in against a cherry pit when death is on the line! Ha ha ha...

We're making BBQ sauce. Yay! A single cherry pit has been chopped up by a hand blender in an 8 quart pot of sauce. Boo! Should we toss this pot or will it be safe? [more inside]
posted by Mitheral at 3:03 PM PST - 15 comments

How do I follow up with a networking contact?

I've been trying to reach out to someone with the intent of getting an informational interview, but it's been full of stops and starts and I don't know how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by Puck Soppet at 2:42 PM PST - 9 comments

In Scotland, people waved a friend over with a hand-puppet like move

Last month, in Scotland, people were waving at friends across the way by extending their arms up and forming a hand-puppet shape with their hand. (With the 4 fingers parallel to the ground, at a right angle from the arm, thumb under the fingers. Then the thumb and fingers move apart and back together, to simulate talking, like you'd see the Muppet Kermit talk.) Is this a wide-spread phenomenon in Scotland, or the UK in general? Is it from a TV show, or other cultural segment that hasn't made the jump to the US yet? Or was this a bizarre coincidence to see a few times over the course of a week? (More detail below.) [more inside]
posted by davebug at 1:49 PM PST - 12 comments

Tenants' Union or Tenants' Rights Group in NC?

Google-fu is failing me. Are there any tenants unions, tenants rights groups, or anti-poverty groups that work with tenants in the Research Triangle area of North Carolina? Failing that, similar groups in other regions of the state? (That is, not legal aid, but mutual aid and/or advocacy groups.) Thanks!
posted by eviemath at 1:39 PM PST - 1 comment

Help me record calls on iPhone

Freelancer business writer here. Recommend me the best app to record interviews using an iPhone. [more inside]
posted by LonnieK at 1:23 PM PST - 14 comments

Celebrate a birthday with a geocache?

It's my dad's 70th birthday coming up, and we're brainstorming ways to celebrate. He's an avid geocacher, and we'd like to do something in honor of the occasion. Geocachers of AskMe, please advise on a couple of ideas we're considering! [more inside]
posted by aimedwander at 1:06 PM PST - 7 comments

Dragon's Beard Candy, Online or in Phila. Area?

Pretty simple: I'd like to buy dragon's beard candy (aka dragon's hair/whiskers), a pan-Asian delight that's sort of like cotton candy, only more delicious than cloying. I've only found one eBay seller offering it. Is there any place online and/or in the greater Philadelphia area where I can find it? I've searched literally a dozen Korean and Chinese supermarkets, and NO DICE.
posted by julthumbscrew at 1:01 PM PST - 6 comments

best photo review software?

I have about 2000 images (100 GB of RAW+JPG) that I shot on my two week vacation. What's the best free or cheap software for reviewing and culling the best shots? My goal is to prune them down to my 100-150 favourite shots. [more inside]
posted by wutangclan at 12:53 PM PST - 12 comments

What else can I bake in a brie baker?

I am a new owner of a brie baker, courtesy of my mom's de-cluttering efforts. Aside from baking brie a million different ways, is there anything else I can make in a brie baker, or is this a single-use item? If it matters, the brand is Village Gourmet, and its never been used. Google is failing me (I'm just getting the same brie recipes, no matter how I ask the question). Thank you!
posted by sandraregina at 12:19 PM PST - 10 comments

Can you identify this plant?

I've been gardening and hiking in the Pacific Northwest for a long time, but I have never seen this flower. It was growing on a moist, shady bank under oak trees. What is it?
posted by A. Davey at 12:17 PM PST - 6 comments

Rental Improvement - toilet, tub, kitchen grout

Asking for relative: who is responsible for these aesthetic repairs when the tenant has lived in the apartment for 6+years and intends to remain? [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot at 11:54 AM PST - 12 comments

The 2nd child - lessons learned, tricks 'n stuff to help the older kid?

We've got a wee baby boy on the way and our first child - a girl - is, well, not super-excited about this potential usurper invading her space. [more inside]
posted by HopStopDon'tShop at 11:14 AM PST - 18 comments

Euro-kitsch Sightseeing?

Quirky places for an ephemera and sign-loving graphic designer visiting Edinburgh, Yorkshire, London, Paris, Barcelona, and Stuttgart? [more inside]
posted by redsparkler at 10:47 AM PST - 15 comments

Epoxy grout - yay or nay?

Is epoxy grout worth the extra effort and cost? [more inside]
posted by killy willy at 10:42 AM PST - 7 comments

No half naked men with long hair on the cover

I'm looking for romance novels, but actually good ones. Satisfying ones. Well written ones. Details of what I'm looking for within. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 10:00 AM PST - 62 comments

Name that web design agency!

Witty/punny business name idea for a web design & development agency in the Ottawa Valley. Best I can come up with is Spider's Eye
posted by Meagan at 9:53 AM PST - 10 comments

Eclectic/quirky shopping in Boston

I'm going to Boston/Cambridge later this month and have pretty much everything planned except where to shop. Any favorite quirky/eclectic places I should be sure to stop by while I'm there? [more inside]
posted by capricorn at 8:29 AM PST - 23 comments

What's the story behind this street art?

When I was living in Prague / traveling around Europe for the past year, I saw (in a number of cities!) these "j'existe" stickers (here is a photo I found online that shows an example). Does anyone know who makes there or what the story is behind them?
posted by aaanastasia at 8:26 AM PST - 5 comments

How do we approach financially supporting a parent?

My husband's parents are divorcing and they are in their 60s. His mother has had ill health over the last 20 years and some mental health issues. The divorce has sent their finances into some disarray but they have not been open with us about the particulars. Now his mother is starting to ask for financial help – small things like splitting airfare for her to come visit. But she's also apparently enlisted his sister to buy presents on her behalf for the kids/extended family and then sent checks that bounce. My husband is very anxious about needing to financially support his mother but I don't like this gradual slide into support especially since we do not have a lot of extra money. [more inside]
posted by amanda at 8:13 AM PST - 19 comments

Panel Shows: Podcast Edition

I really love British panel shows. I would love to find some podcast equivalents, with the caveat that I am in the US so they need to be available for (relatively) easy download directly to my iPhone in the US, preferably through iTunes, though iTunes availability is not a dealbreaker. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by HonoriaGlossop at 8:01 AM PST - 10 comments

Postpartum recovery - your best recommendations

Do you have a recommendation of girdles, corsets, other tips to help in recovery after labor and beyond? [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 6:30 AM PST - 26 comments

Beijing! What's good?

Mr Fig and I will be headed to Beijing in November. The last time we were there was January 2012 for a few days for our honeymoon. The last time before that, I did a semester-long study abroad in 2002. This time, we will be there for roughly a week. What should we do? Are there any good restaurants/bars we should check out? [more inside]
posted by Fig at 5:56 AM PST - 3 comments

DC/Winchester to Jacksonville with kids

I'm heading off for my first semi-solo road trip with kids (and my mom) from either DC or Winchester to the Jacksonville/St. Augustine area of Florida. We are planning to take two days and stop every few hours for a break, preferably somewhere scenic and fun for the kids. [more inside]
posted by instamatic at 3:39 AM PST - 5 comments

Baristas etc. who must remember multiple orders, got any memory tricks?

I want to volunteer in a cafe or lunch club for at least 3 months, partly from believing in the causes of the ones I am applying for, and partly because I need a current reference (we all do things for a mix of altruistic and self-interest reasons I guess). A couple of weeks ago while with a group someone took an order for 8 teas or coffees in their head including whether sugar or not and milk or not and I was mightily impressed! I'd like to be able to learn this with hypothetical orders friends throw at me for practice, and then demonstrate my ability at an interview for a voluntary job, but I need to know the memory techniques that make it possible. Baristas or chefs etc, how do you remember multiple things without constantly referring back to paper? [more inside]
posted by AuroraSky at 2:47 AM PST - 7 comments

July 5

How to make a house a home

We are going to be moving into a new house, and while the house is still empty and pregnant with possibility before we move all our stuff in, I was wondering if anyone had any advice for minor improvements they've done to a house that really made it feel homey or comfortable, particularly things that might be more inconvenient to do once we've moved in. We especially want to do better with organization because things are cluttered in our current house and it always feels chaotic. Links to pictures or websites would also be great!
posted by massofintuition at 11:54 PM PST - 26 comments

San Diego relaxing beachy vacation

I perused many of the San Diego questions but didn't feel that any fit the bill. I'm going to San Diego with my husband the last weekend (Thu-Sun) in July (weekend after Comic-con). We'd like to do relaxing beach-y (walking along or swimming, not surfing) or historical sight-seeing things, sit in nice coffeeshops and eat good food. More snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by permiechickie at 10:30 PM PST - 18 comments

Help me be brave

I've got a friend that I do almost everything with. I have realized I'm very attracted to him. Help me be brave and ask him out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:19 PM PST - 45 comments

Help me wrap my head around a social conundrum in my relationship

I really like my girlfriends' two best friends and their toddler, but she would like me to like them more. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:19 PM PST - 20 comments

Norm for conference presentations -- authors only?

I'm an academic. I'm new to supervising subordinates on my research and I'm unsure of the norms. Should a subordinate present at conferences on a project only if they would be a co-author on the article? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:18 PM PST - 13 comments

Sydney in the twenty-first century

Ex Sydney resident. Back for a week. What's new? [more inside]
posted by superfish at 7:23 PM PST - 7 comments

Need help with an Adobe Illustrator issue...

I'm trying to use type as a background on an AI piece (CS6). I want to let the type bleed off the edge of the artboard. My conception is beyond my Illustrator abilities. Can anyone help? [more inside]
posted by ivanthenotsoterrible at 6:48 PM PST - 8 comments

You okay,succulent?

One of my succulents(some type of aeonium,not sure) has developed weird black marks. Cannot figure out what they are. Green thumbs, please help! [more inside]
posted by InkDrinker at 6:35 PM PST - 5 comments

Anti-siphon vs vacuum breaker?

Help an irrigation n00b! Is there a significant difference between these two hose attachments: a "Vacuum Breaker, Male Hose Thread" and a "Anti-Siphon Valve"? I need to make sure that the outdoor faucets attached to our house aren't draining water back into our drinking system, and I'm not quite sure if those two attachments do the same thing? Or is one better for a certain purpose than the other? [more inside]
posted by tigeri at 5:52 PM PST - 3 comments

iPhone Tumblr App Safari Integration Issue

I have an iPhone 6 running iOS v. 9.2. I downloaded the Tumblr app but for some reason it's not properly integrating with Safari. [more inside]
posted by Sangermaine at 5:02 PM PST - 2 comments

Name that song, electro YouTube clip edition

MeFites, I need your help identifying the catchy song in this video. [more inside]
posted by henryaj at 3:59 PM PST - 3 comments

Breckenridge trip

I will be in Breckenridge, CO for a week. What should I do, where should I eat? [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 3:25 PM PST - 13 comments

How to crop out the background from text in Photoshop

So, I have this picture which is a page from an antique book. I'd like to use Photoshop to remove the white paper background, leaving just the text -- which I will then overlay on top of another image. Is there an easy way to do this? [more inside]
posted by dontjumplarry at 3:15 PM PST - 11 comments

Philly travel suggestions?

Any suggestions for things to do and places to eat in Philadelphia in October? [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl at 1:58 PM PST - 24 comments

Need a slideshow that plays individual sound files for each picture

I would like to make a slideshow where each picture has a short sound file associated with it. So a picture comes up and it plays a 3 second mp3 once during the display, then repeats with another card. [more inside]
posted by Melsky at 1:51 PM PST - 4 comments

Fix for weird autocorrect suggestions on iPad?

Over the last few months I've noticed an annoying quirk with my iPad's autocorrect suggestions in iMessages/FB Messenger. It has started suggesting truly off the wall "corrections" for correctly spelled words, to the point where I started keeping a list. Some examples: I wrote "Anytime" and it suggested "Vanities." It has suggested "Vapour" instead of "Happy," and "Ochoa" for "Oh." I didn't even know what that last word was, so it's not like I somehow added it to my autocorrect dictionary. Has anyone else experienced this? Is there a way to fix it? [more inside]
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 1:41 PM PST - 10 comments

dealing with a warrant from an unpaid ticket

How do I take care of an unpaid ticket after a warrant has been issued? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:11 PM PST - 14 comments

What are some of your favorite specialty music blogs? [2016 edition]

I know this question has been asked here before, however, many of the links are now dead, the blogs have become "members only" or the shares are no longer available. Please share your favorites, all genres accepted! [more inside]
posted by ooklah at 12:46 PM PST - 6 comments

Daytripper from Hamburg Germany

I will be spending 4-5 days alone while wife is in a conference during the day in Hamburg Germany, Since the highlight of Hamburg seems to be a huuuge toy train museum (Miniatur Wunderland), I wanted to know if there are day trips (via train) I could take to neighboring cities/countries (berlin?, Paris?) that might be feasible or recommended to get the most out of my trip, but be able to get back at night.
posted by edman at 12:35 PM PST - 20 comments

I'm moving, difficulty medium, what are some general purpose tips?

I'll be moving our (small-ish, fits in a 26 foot rental truck) belongings to our new home and setting up shop before my wife and child follow after me in a week or so. What are some tips you learned from your last move that you wish you had learned prior to your last move? [more inside]
posted by RolandOfEld at 12:23 PM PST - 43 comments

Where for dental implants in (or not in) London?

I need implants for some very visible teeth. A bone graft is probably required. I've priced the top of the market, but can I get better value elsewhere---maybe even outside the UK? [more inside]
posted by Chef Flamboyardee at 11:16 AM PST - 3 comments

Where next for mind-broadening global family travel?

Our family has taken and vastly enjoyed a couple of international trips (#1=Amsterdam/Brussels/Paris, #2=Hong Kong) during our boys' Spring Break school vacation windows, but we are really flailing and struggling to decide where to target for our next window of opportunity in late March 2017. Location(s) must alter the global perspective of 13- and 10-year-old boys! Boundary conditions: date range March 24~April 3, reasonably accessible from US west coast, safe, delicious food, can get by with English and/or limited French. Bonus points inside... [more inside]
posted by rodeoclown at 11:13 AM PST - 23 comments

Should I throw it all into a dump truck or...

Recommendations for places to easily donate stuff or sell stuff in the UWS NYC? Moving filter, sell or donate quickly preferable. [more inside]
posted by wonder twin powers activate form of a sock puppet at 10:19 AM PST - 9 comments

Experiences to inspire and/or prepare a newbie director for 25K or less?

Let's say you're an inexperienced film director who has been granted 25K to spend on preparation for directing a short film. ("Preparation" in this case meaning, skills-acquisition, experimentation or any sources of inspiration.) Since you can't spend the money on actual production costs, what would you spend the money on? Several conditions apply, after the jump. [more inside]
posted by egeanin at 9:50 AM PST - 13 comments

Crash course for InDesign and/or Drupal?

I have little money but an urgent need to learn the (rudimentary) ropes of InDesign and/or Drupal. Soliciting your wisdom! Thank you!
posted by lecorbeau at 9:33 AM PST - 10 comments

How best to sell a boat?

My family is trying to sell a $10,000 boat online and would like to know the safest way to do so. [more inside]
posted by pombe at 9:33 AM PST - 9 comments

Excel Formula to Weight Ratings By Number of Ratings?

How do I write an Excel formula to weight a rating by the number of ratings, so that a 4 with tens of thousands of ratings weighs more than a 5 with three ratings? [more inside]
posted by WCityMike at 9:14 AM PST - 13 comments

What sort of snake is this?

Found in North Western New Jersey. http://imgur.com/fbGf9vf
posted by miniape at 9:11 AM PST - 4 comments

No sillier than planning uprisings because of Jade Helm, anyway

I'm working on background research for a story, and I've come up with an odd question about American history in the South during the World War I years. It may be a dumb one. [more inside]
posted by Countess Elena at 8:43 AM PST - 11 comments

Please help me assess this

Ok, YANMD. My mother had valve replacement and triple-bypass surgery last thursday afternoon... [more inside]
posted by Chrischris at 8:34 AM PST - 19 comments

What are your tips for long road trips?

I'm leaving for an ambitious 2000 mile road trip through eastern Canada later this week. I've been on road trips before, but this one will be the longest. What are your tips for staying comfortable and not bored to tears during long car rides? I have a pile of podcasts to listen to and some company to converse with, but I'm sure that there are things I haven't thought of that can make the trip more enjoyable. Thanks!
posted by Fister Roboto at 8:19 AM PST - 34 comments

Expanding a hard drive?

I'm buying a new laptop, and have a choice (via work) between a 500GB but faster (7200) harddrive, or a 1TB hard drive that is slower (5600). I'm fairly certain I'm going to go with the faster drive as I will need to do some video editing, but I'm worried about the size of the memory (precisely because I'll be doing some editing!). Any advice? How hard would it be to expand the size of the drive if I find that I am, indeed, in need of space? I have a couple of external drives, but I don't know if they get me ahead at all as they're the slower speed as well... THANKS! :)
posted by johnsohl at 8:08 AM PST - 18 comments

Honeymoon in New Zealand that won't kill me

We're going to New Zealand in November. I want a relaxing, romantic honeymoon, eating delicious foods in beautiful places. My partner wants to hike for hours, go canyon-ing, etc. Itinerary help please. [more inside]
posted by inevitability at 7:28 AM PST - 16 comments

10,000 years will give you such a crick in the neck

What kind of doctor should I see for a bump in my neck? [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 6:24 AM PST - 4 comments

Travel to Amsterdam in December

I just fell madly in love with Amsterdam. I'd like to go back in December (mostly because it's easiest for me to get away then). Of course, I have no idea what Amsterdam will be like in December, so I'm turning to the hive mind.  I'm also looking for some specific advice on where to stay. [more inside]
posted by holborne at 5:59 AM PST - 11 comments

Experiences Living or Working on a Cargo Ship/ Freighter

Need recommendations on experiences working or living on a cargo ship/ freighter (within the last century). Fiction or essay or article or non-fiction acceptable. Research for a book.
posted by moiraine at 5:58 AM PST - 27 comments

Getting released from apartment rental lease?

Snowflakes: requested landlord rerent 3 months before lease to begin, due to family issues meaning I can't afford the place, landlord not making effort to rerent [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:38 AM PST - 5 comments

Like a pump top, but the liquid flows into a 'dish' - what are these?

When in the US earlier this year, I bought this cleansing water - mostly because I really like this kind of dispenser and it prevents me from pouring half of whatever's in the bottle all over me. Now the cap's snapped off and I want to replace it, but there doesn't seem to be many things in the UK with this packaging. It's like a 'dish' where you press down and the liquid flows into the middle, allowing you to soak it up with cotton wool - here's a better pic. What's the name for this kind of cap?
posted by mippy at 5:18 AM PST - 8 comments

Searching for a math learning book for children

Sometime within the last two years, I read a positive review of a mathematics book for children of at least kindergarten age that introduced math concepts using the number line as a conceptual focus. I'd appreciate any help in trying to identify this book. [more inside]
posted by Svejk at 3:47 AM PST - 3 comments

Five day cat charm offensive

Last week I adopted two 12 year old cats, Mungo and Rum. They have been settling in well in all practical ways apart from the fact they are scared of me, hiss at me and won't be in the same room as me unless they can help it. I've taken three days off work next week, so with the weekend that's five consecutive days where I plan to be home so they can get used to me. How can I make the most of it? [more inside]
posted by litereally at 3:39 AM PST - 29 comments

What is a suitable alternative to Togethera?

My extended family is a large one and distributed over North America and Western Europe. Up until now we have been using Togethera as a means to share photographs and stay in informal contact. Unfortunately, Togethera have today sent out an email announcing the termination of their service. Is there an obvious alternative social network that can fill this gap? [more inside]
posted by lovelyzoo at 3:20 AM PST - 11 comments

July 4

New guy -am I worrying too much?

I am 37, divorced....Recently, a guy from my hometown (same age) contacted me on Facebook...he lives a 4 hour drive from me. We agreed to meet at the halfway point, and our first date went really well. A few days ago he drove down to see me before heading up to camp with his buddies... He drove 10 hours out of his way for me, and stayed overnight. It was an amazing night, we had been talking regularly for 3 weeks, and ended up sleeping together. Now I am wondering if I'm worrying too much about his texting habits? [more inside]
posted by Maggsie97 at 11:05 PM PST - 28 comments

Advice for sewing large amounts of fabric

Our shower is an odd size and I've decided to make my own shower curtain. I'm fairly new to sewing and can do my own tailoring and I'm decent, but I've never sewn anything this large. I'm looking for advice on how to keep lines straight and any tips anyone can give me when sewing something so big. My table is about 45"x30" if that helps.
posted by onecircleaday at 8:32 PM PST - 18 comments

If you could time travel to see a band in 1984, what band would you see?

Hey Me-fites, I'm dipping my toes into the pool of time travel novels. My main character is going back to 1984--because I want to write about 1984 Vancouver, pre Expo, pre Olympics, when it was a hick town on the far edge of the world. When my characters back in time, he's going to check out some bands, preferably pre-famous, you know, $5 cover, one of three acts, tiny clubs, etc. So, oh wise ones, what band should he find himself seeing?
posted by drinkmaildave at 6:58 PM PST - 43 comments

Good stores for $50–$250 jewelry in silver or other metals?

It seems like there’re plenty of stores with $15 earrings and stores with $500 earrings, but I’m having a bit of trouble finding stores with jewelry in that middle ground of like $50–$250 (ish). Basically, I’m looking for stores with jewelry that I could potentially wear every day but which won’t fall apart after a year or two. [more inside]
posted by Handcoding at 6:50 PM PST - 28 comments

Is a GPS receiver for me?

My partner and I are amateur hikers, with me being a relative newbie. I'm interested in buying a GPS receiver but I'm not sure how they work and whether they'd be useful for us. We live in New York state and we like hikes of about 4 - 7 miles of moderate woodlands terrain. We've purchased some good trail maps (showing marked/blazed trails, woods roads, and unmaintained trails) with topographical features (and uses UTM coordinates, if that's relevant) and a basic magnetic compass (which we're learning more about using as we go). [more inside]
posted by OsoMeaty at 6:37 PM PST - 12 comments

GIS Shapefiles of old country borders

I am looking for historic GIS shapefiles, or actual drawn maps that are in the public domain that could be rectified in a GIS system, of the world during the 1820s to 1830s, showing national boundaries at the time and with names for countries and cities that were used at the time, for example "Van Diemen's Land" for Tasmania. [more inside]
posted by Jimbob at 5:18 PM PST - 5 comments

Getting a graduate degree in one field, but want job in another?

I've applied to and been accepted for a MA Graduate Degree programme overseas, initially for a design field that I was looking forward to. But in the last few weeks, I've started having some doubts - then today -major doubts- whether this was/is the right decision for me. [more inside]
posted by sam3cat at 5:03 PM PST - 6 comments

WordPress is deleting some post and attachment metadata

Issue: WordPress is deleting metadata for certain posts (a specific post type actually) and attachments. These seem to be recently added items (the last month or so - it appears to keep the data added prior to that intact). [more inside]
posted by backwards guitar at 4:08 PM PST - 6 comments

Mac Mail: Stop downloading my messages

I only want to receive new mail when I click the "Get Mail" button in Mac Mail. [more inside]
posted by Joleta at 3:30 PM PST - 6 comments

Slow leak in my tire; may need a new wheel. Help!

About a month ago I realized my tire was leaking air and required adding pressure about once a week. I took it to a tire shop and they told me a nail was in it but hadn't gone through, they removed it, "shouldn't have any more problems." This didn't make much sense to me but I left. Of course, a few days later the tire again needed air added. [more inside]
posted by rbf1138 at 2:55 PM PST - 16 comments

Weekend Trips From Toronto to See the Perseids?

I want to see the Perseids this year and am looking to make a weekend trip out of it. Where should I go? [more inside]
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 2:14 PM PST - 10 comments

What are some fictional examples of archaeology/ruins set in the future?

I'm looking for examples of archaeology of the present day, and/or of the ruins of the modern world, from the perspective of the future, as expressed in fiction or film. These could be major plot points, recurrent themes, or merely passing references. [more inside]
posted by Rumple at 2:03 PM PST - 44 comments

Park City, Utah in the summer

I will be visiting Park City, Utah July 9th-July 16th. What are the best things to do here in the summertime? Best bars, restaurants and activities! I am willing to travel around as we will also have a rental car and will be flying into/out of Salt Lake City. I have never been to this area of the country before and live on the east coast in Virginia. Looking to try all the things!
posted by vintagequeen at 1:09 PM PST - 8 comments

Should I change therapists? Do you know a good one in Portland, OR?

Is therapy burnout a thing? I think I has it, but I don't know if the problem is me (uncomfortable, withholding, sometimes worried that a lifetime of therapy has made me immune to it) or my therapist (lovely but non-challenging; it feels like we're treading water.) I'd like to talk to someone super-smart who can shake up my previous notion of sit-and-talk-and-nothing-changes therapy. Can you recommend a counselor in the Portland area (or, alternately, tell me if I'm approaching this the wrong way)? Much snowflake below. [more inside]
posted by adastra at 12:15 PM PST - 16 comments

Buying from EU, store doesn't ship to US

I'm interested in a small Arduino shield (a circuit board) that's made by a hobbyist electronics company in Germany. The store doesn't ship to the US. Is there a way to have it shipped to a European address and then resent to a US address? [more inside]
posted by zippy at 12:07 PM PST - 3 comments

Dealing with a pushy personality type

My mother has a somewhat pushy personality type. This is creating some conflicts at home for me. How can I address this? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 11:49 AM PST - 75 comments

Why am I getting a "no sim card" error when there clearly is a sim card?

Using a pay-as-you-go Orange (Spain) 4G SIM card for a tpLink 3G mobile wifi device and keep getting the "no sim card" error. I have used the IP admin portal to toggle pin on and off as per a few internet searches, but to no avail. How can I make it work? [more inside]
posted by OlivesAndTurkishCoffee at 11:32 AM PST - 5 comments

best practices on charging for travel time as a consultant

I have a client for whom I need to actually get in my car and drive to meet potential suppliers. What is the best way to charge for this? [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 11:22 AM PST - 6 comments

Late to the El Capitan Bandwagon

El Capitan download problems: estimated download time goes from 1 hour to 2 days as soon as I hit 100 MB. Is this just how it goes? [more inside]
posted by mustard seeds at 11:17 AM PST - 9 comments

Alternative to tingling and numbness from a Fitbit Charge?

I've been wearing a Fitbit Charge for a few weeks and loving the functionality and the motivation. What I don't love is that over time it's caused numbness and tingling in my hand. This seems to be a common occurrence for a minority of wearers. I contacted Fitbit who were great about organizing a return and refund. Now I want a fitness tracker that keeps me motivated but doesn't make my arm and hand go numb or tingly. Ideally, it shows the time, is waterproof, connects to an Android with a decent app. Anyone else had this issue and moved on to a tracker that works for them?
posted by merocet at 11:17 AM PST - 4 comments

Should I Try to Indeminfy?

I'm working on a book about the public radio pledge drive. I'm looking at how and why they work as they do and what might be done to make them work better. I'll be referring to specific examples of what I think are weaknesses in how stations conduct them and how those practices, in turn, annoy listeners and hurt drive effectiveness. Does that mean I have to identify the stations? [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 10:09 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me solve my headache puzzle.

(YANAD/YANMD, I promise to ask my doctor, etc.) I've been getting headaches for years that don't seem to match up with anything I can find. I will ask my doctor next time I go in, but I'm curious if anyone else has experience with something similiar. [more inside]
posted by CrazyGabby at 9:35 AM PST - 33 comments

Women's board shorts that aren't short shorts

My partner is struggling to find women's board shorts that (a) come down to just above the knee (9"?) and (b) are proper shorts designed to be worn whilst doing a water sport, not just for faffing about on the beach. Any suggestions for brands to look out for or for retailers that ship to the UK?
posted by fatfrank at 8:46 AM PST - 9 comments

Gluten free, kosher, vegan and halal?

A while ago, a co-worker was joking that his dietary restrictions were that he could only eat foods that were gluten free, kosher, vegan and halal. I'd like to find such a food to bring in. Is there anything that meets all four requirements? If not, what foods would meet as many of these as possible?
posted by Proginoskes at 8:31 AM PST - 27 comments

What have I done to my neighbors and how can I fix it?

I accidentally created an uncomfortable living space for people I care about. I don't know how to mitigate this like a grown up; I suspect I've been using junior high level tactics. [more inside]
posted by The Noble Goofy Elk at 7:56 AM PST - 22 comments

Good tea menus in London

Where in London can I look over an interesting list of high-quality loose-leaf teas, have one prepared for me at the proper temperature and brewing time, and then sit down and enjoy it on the premises? [more inside]
posted by yankeefog at 7:34 AM PST - 8 comments

Lost/Stolen Cellphone Overseas - Information Secure?

Lost my phone overseas. Is the information on my phone mostly secure? [more inside]
posted by driedmango at 6:42 AM PST - 3 comments

ideas for dinner for 6 near Disneyland,ages 13-50?

I am travelling to Disneyland in 48 hours for a 3 day trip to celebrate a 16th birthday. Seeking ideas for dinner spots that meet the following criteria, in no particular order: [more inside]
posted by docpops at 5:30 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me identify a 1980s dance track from this brief description?

I heard a great 1980s dance record at an event in 2005 and haven't identified it yet. The DJ replied to my email with a couple guesses, but those weren't it. Here are the song details I still remember. [more inside]
posted by germdisco at 1:38 AM PST - 6 comments

simple cold dessert recipes for Japanese junior high school students

I'm teaching English in Japan. I help with English Club and the students (ages 12-15) have asked to cook something with my help. Unfortunately, I'm not very good at cooking. [more inside]
posted by automatic cabinet at 1:14 AM PST - 17 comments

July 3

"Wow, he really let himself go!"

I'm overweight. You would think friends, family, or acquaintances wouldn't openly mock other overweight people around me, yet they do. How should I respond in these situations? [more inside]
posted by blackzinfandel at 11:05 PM PST - 22 comments

Dealing with dog anxiety and bad habits

My parents' dog is not allowed inside the house. I let her inside for two nights because it was very hot -- 105F -- outside. But now any time I go inside and leave her alone, she's frantic and begs to be let in. She already has separation anxiety. [more inside]
posted by mmmleaf at 9:46 PM PST - 44 comments

Where to finish learning how to drive stick, in Portland?

So my husband and I are considering an international trip (Scandinavia), and possibly renting a car. When I started googling this, it seems like a large percentage of rental cars in these countries are stick-shift. While there are some automatic transmission options, I'd want to be prepared in case a rental company screwed me and gave me a manual (I'm usually unlucky when I travel). I'm having real difficulty however finding driving school options in/near Portland, OR that will teach stick. Please help! [more inside]
posted by FireFountain at 7:44 PM PST - 26 comments

PNW Foraging classes/guides.

We're trying to find a human who can teach two adults, and a small child how to find edible things in the northwest. [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 7:21 PM PST - 8 comments

Recovering photos after factory reset

Halp! I somehow accidentally hit factory reset on my Android phone and lost all my photos. Any way to recover? [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 7:08 PM PST - 4 comments

Should I contribute to my teenager's boss's Kickstarter?

My teenager has a great summer job. I'm super-thankful to the manager who hired him. I googled to see what there was to see about this nice guy and saw that he has a creative business on the side for which he is currently running a Kickstarter. Would it be creepy or manipulative if I were to kick in a little bit? He's looking for an amount in the low thousands and I would give $50. I've never met him, but he would probably figure out I'm this employee's parent.
posted by lakeroon at 6:53 PM PST - 34 comments

How do I de-funk a Pendleton Wool Blanket?

I have a Pendleton wool blanket that over the course of a year has served as actual bedding, trunk liner for a cross country move, and bed to several cats. More than a year ago I dry cleaned it, and beat it up outside at some point. My girlfriend is skeptical of dry cleaning it as she doesn't think it will do anything. Will it, though? Is there a better way? Can't leave it outside.
posted by tremspeed at 6:28 PM PST - 12 comments

Resources to learn Frank Lloyd Wright architectural style?

My wife and I are buying a house that's been remodeled in the style of Frank Lloyd Wright. Thing is, we're not architecture students. Help us learn more so we can maintain and build on what we have! [more inside]
posted by gchucky at 5:55 PM PST - 6 comments

Ireland Vacation Strategies

We are planning a trip to Ireland in late August and had a high-level question for the world-travelers here. Our flights are both in and out of Dublin and have accommodations for both ends of the trip in Dublin. My question is regarding the rest of the trip and how important it is to book rooms for every night of our stay. [more inside]
posted by jimmereeno at 5:03 PM PST - 5 comments

Have you had the Stretta procedure for LPR (aka "silent" reflux)?

If you did, how did it go? Are you better / the same / worse than before you had the procedure? How long did it take before you saw what you consider 'final' results? [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 3:21 PM PST - 2 comments

Colonoscopy prep filter: What can I eat when I'm not supposed to eat?

I'm having a colonoscopy this week. The prep instructions say no food the whole day before. I would usually follow their directions, except that: [more inside]
posted by still_wears_a_hat at 11:04 AM PST - 10 comments

I'm tall. How do I make sure a bike fits right?

I'm 6"2, and I just lost a bike that always felt too small for me. Now I'm in the used-bike market, but I want to avoid making the same mistake twice. Frame sizes confuse me, and I'm starting to think there's more to this equation. What's the best way to fit my next bike to my body? [more inside]
posted by bicyclefish at 10:32 AM PST - 13 comments

Last night my girlfriend told me that she has no sex drive

I'm 24 and she's 20, last night she told me she doesn't enjoy sex at all and doesn't see the point. She said she likes how people look and likes how I like but doesn't feel desire towards them. I've tried to ask her more about it, like when it started, but she said she genuinely didn't know, it's been causing her a lot of stress and upset and she was afraid to tell me. [more inside]
posted by fallingleaves at 10:15 AM PST - 41 comments

Heart rate monitor recommendations?

I am having an impossible time finding a heart rate monitor that fits these requirements. Can you help? 1. Chest strap 2. Syncs with RunKeeper 3. Simultaneously works with a wristwatch so I can see my heart rate while I run without whipping out my phone.
posted by gocubbies at 8:58 AM PST - 7 comments

Excuse me sir, have you seen my spectacles?

Where can I get pretty glasses in London? [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 8:36 AM PST - 4 comments

Leaking ceramic teapot - how to fix?

I have a ceramic teapot that leaks very slowly from the bottom when hot water is poured into it. How do I fix it? [more inside]
posted by pravit at 8:21 AM PST - 11 comments

What Affordable Car has an Ergonomic Driver's Seat?

I've got to get a new or "new used" car. I've got all sorts of joint issues and have found Volvo's to have the best seats for me. Alas, they're outside my budget (and I've heard they cost a lot to repair). Would appreciate suggestions for an affordable alternative....
posted by Jon44 at 8:03 AM PST - 12 comments

Hohle Zahn = Hohenzollern?

While messing around on Wikipedia, I learned that the Kaiser Wilhelm Gedächtniskirche is nicknamed "der Hohle Zahn", meaning "The Hollow Tooth". I notice this sounds similar to "Hohenzollern", the royal house of Wilhelm I whom the church commemorates and Wilhelm II who had the church built. Is this nickname an intentional pun on Hohenzollern or is that a coincidence? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 7:52 AM PST - 5 comments

First serious health scare of adulthood - how to cope?

I'm on the waiting list for an unpleasant but not life-threatening procedure, but the results might be Something Serious. So I'm obviously terrified and already prone to hypochondria. This is starting to impact my day-to-day mental functions. Scared snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 6:56 AM PST - 18 comments

What's the word for a man not taking responsibility at work?

So I have a colleague who I think is basically a good guy, and a smart guy. We are both doctors, he consulted on a few of my cases and entered his opinion into the medical record and his work was ok but not great and then he mansplained to me... It is now a pattern that I need to address, and to do that I need more vocabulary. Please help! [more inside]
posted by seacats at 6:43 AM PST - 38 comments

Can you identify this Hallmark artist from the 1980s?

I received this poster a long time ago, sometime in the 1980s or 1990s. I remember seeing a lot of this artist’s work during that time, but it’s been a long time since I’ve seen anything new from him or her. Thanks!
posted by Borborygmus at 6:39 AM PST - 3 comments

July 2

We're moving east to...and that's where specificity breaks down

To metrowest MA mefites...where should we live? We're looking for better quality of life (i.e., a town people like to live in) and better commutes. We work in Marlborough and Woburn currently; one job is in biotech/medical devices so career moves in the future could take place along the 128 or 495 corridors or go into Boston/Cambridge. We currently live over an hour from both jobs and find the town we live in to be anemic for services and recreation activities (economically depressed with apathetic town government). What town would you move to? [more inside]
posted by Tandem Affinity at 8:49 PM PST - 13 comments

How can I live in Mexico?

I want to live and work in Mexico for 18 months (as a trial period). Specifically, in or around Cuernavaca. How is this possible? [more inside]
posted by j_curiouser at 8:45 PM PST - 5 comments

What happened next?

Years ago I read the first installment of a serial story in one of my mother's magazines, and I've always wondered how it ended. Hoping someone can help point me to its source, or tell me how it ended. [more inside]
posted by orange swan at 8:40 PM PST - 14 comments

Where's the Beefeater?

Trying to buy tix to tour Tower of London/Beefeater Tour for this coming Wednesday for myself and kid. Getting googleflummoxed. [more inside]
posted by flourpot at 8:27 PM PST - 9 comments

What is this substance on my pipes?

My wife and I have been removing jury-rigged insulation from our basement pipes placed there what looks like centuries ago by a previous owner. At the lowest level, on the pipe itself, we find a sporadic and uneven white substance. Can you help us identify it? [more inside]
posted by gerryblog at 7:57 PM PST - 8 comments

Wine - white - VERY VERY DRY. Wanted!

Hi. I want a white wine in the $7 - $10 range that is drier than dry. Meaning, in my own limited experience, one that is less sweet-tasting to the palate than, say, Bay Moon (by Trader Joe's), Ecco Domani pinot grigio (Italia), & Veramonte (Chilean) sauvignon blanc, that being currently and slightly the most palatable, the less cloying. The greater the alcohol content, the better (I'm not a drunk and even if I were, no sermons, please...hic@!). I mean, I'd rather drink brandy than most wines. [more inside]
posted by noelpratt2nd at 6:26 PM PST - 26 comments

My parents love me, but don't particularly like me

My parents definitely love me, and would reliably do anything for me, no question about it-- but I've always gotten the sense that they don't generally "like" me as a person. I've always kind of felt like the "problem child," even though I'm not trying to get in their way and by most metrics am an all-around "good" kid. Why do I feel this way? Is this even a problem? How can I go about ironing this out? [more inside]
posted by fernweh at 5:36 PM PST - 34 comments

Ontario Child Surname Options

What are my options for my child's surname in Ontario? [more inside]
posted by angelaas525 at 5:27 PM PST - 5 comments

Short Trip to LA: Uber/Lyft or rent a car?

I'll be in LA from about 11am Sun to 9pm Mon. My plan was to crash at one of the airport hotels since I'm only there 1 night. I have a meeting out in the Covina/Duarte area most of the day Monday. Should I rent a car or just do the Uber/Lyft thing? [more inside]
posted by yoga at 5:20 PM PST - 7 comments

Advice/resources/best practices for renting out a property on Airbnb?

Are there any useful sites or other resources for property owners who list on Airbnb/VRBO? Pretty vague question intentionally, as I'm open to reading or learning on all topics (managing guests, the legal side of things, other best practices, etc.).
posted by rastapasta at 4:04 PM PST - 1 comment

Have dog, will stumble!

I am a new user to a cane and am having a hard time managing on-leash walking with my dog while also hobbling on. I can't afford a trainer or a dog walker so can anyone give me links or tips on how to manage mobility issue + happy hyper dog? [more inside]
posted by kanata at 2:59 PM PST - 15 comments

Saatva Mattress Long Term Reviews?

Saatva gets amazing reviews. The only critiques I see are that over the long term, they start to dip/sag. Has anyone else had a Saatva mattress longer than a couple years and can let us know how it has held up? Is it more likely to sag than other beds? Is it just because of the pillow top? Any other complaints? Thanks!
posted by KatyKat at 2:54 PM PST - 2 comments

how do couples argue successfully?

I've read that successful couples argue. How can I do this in productive way with my partner? [more inside]
posted by diode at 2:32 PM PST - 19 comments

What are these Ikea shelf/closets called?

I'm trying to find additional shelves to fill out a couple of Ikea closets or wardrobes that came installed in my apartment. The problem is, I have no idea what the product is called (or even if it's still produced by Ikea), which makes finding replacement parts nearly impossible. [more inside]
posted by Merzbau at 2:22 PM PST - 3 comments

What is Charlotte, NC like - and how is it different than St Louis, MO?

We are considering relocating... can you give us some insight about life in Charlotte, NC? Aside from better weather, how is it different than where we live now in St Louis, MO? [more inside]
posted by kdern at 12:53 PM PST - 18 comments

Brain fogged and breathless

I am 36, 5 ’4’ 130 lbs and have been struggling with learning and retaining information. I've also found myself holding my breath throughout the day and waking up needing air. My husband says that I don't snore. [more inside]
posted by puppup at 12:37 PM PST - 8 comments

What happened... In the Woods?

I've got a question about Tana French's In the Woods, which is an excellent mystery novel. To ask my question, however, I'll have to spoil a significant part of the story's mystery. [more inside]
posted by meese at 12:33 PM PST - 8 comments

Advice on buying a small vaccum

Hello All: I am looking for a light weight vacuum for home. I was thinking of stick vacuum like the link below. I have a small place, so I need a small vacuum that can fit in the closet. I have hard wood floors. I had a shark vacuum before that was an electric two in one and it worked great, but they no longer make it. Thanks! LINK.
posted by TRUELOTUS at 11:53 AM PST - 10 comments

Staying in Nantucket in July when there's nowhere to stay

Bought non refundable ferry tickets. Everything is booked. Oops. What to do? [more inside]
posted by Waiting for Pierce Inverarity at 11:48 AM PST - 8 comments

The big sleep

I've spent the last month traveling in Europe and Japan, and now am back on the East Coast. I'm not sure what timezone my body thinks it's in, so I've wrecked my sleep schedule. How do I recover from the jet lag? [more inside]
posted by glass origami robot at 11:13 AM PST - 9 comments

Bay Area Rental Filter: How to handle references from landlord

I’m getting ready to move to a different apartment in the Bay Area from my flat in San Francisco and am not sure how to address requests from potential new landlords re: references from my current landlord, since I am not on the lease. How should I approach this on lease applications? [more inside]
posted by hapax_legomenon at 11:09 AM PST - 6 comments

What should I be thinking about when renting a room out on AirBnB?

I am renting a very large 3 bedroom, 2.5 bath house in a touristy area of New Orleans. I am considering renting out my guest suite on AirBnB for 1 or 2 weekends a month to make some extra cash. What do I need to be thinking about? Should I or shouldn't I consider this? [more inside]
posted by tryniti at 10:49 AM PST - 10 comments

How to get results from unemployed spouse?

His unemployment benefits just ran out, and he likes to use the coping skill of avoidance. He clams up for conversations about money or what he is planning to do. I'm pregnant and cannot support both of us and a child without overextending myself. I want to be supportive, because historically I have lost my cool around these issues. But I also don't want to be so supportive that he isn't motivated to do everything possible to fix things. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 10:03 AM PST - 94 comments

Cymbalta for Anxiety?

Tell me about your experience with Cymbalta, when prescribed for anxiety. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 10:01 AM PST - 8 comments

Why are my okra leaves feathery?

Last year my okra had happy full leaves that kind of looked more like this. This year most of it looks like this. It's still producing okay but l imagine the plant would be happier if it had nice full leaves. Raised bed, good soil, no pests in sight - any ideas? It's been super hot - could that be it? Thanks in advance for any ideas!
posted by ftm at 9:59 AM PST - 4 comments

Springtime for Hitler, but IRL and about sexual abuse

Almost a year ago, there was a very public humiliation for myself and 50+ other people, mostly women, in our medium-sized town. It was sexual in nature. Now someone, unrelated, is literally making a musical comedy about it. Auditions were last week and the playwright is not responding to our very vocal opposition. What's the most effective way to stop, or thwart this? [more inside]
posted by witchen at 8:39 AM PST - 50 comments

Allergy to rye, but negative to celiac testing?

I was recently tested negative for a celiac blood test, yet an allergist applied skin testing and it appears that I'm allergic to rye. What does this mean? Should I avoid all breads, crackers, and pastas in general? I haven't eaten breads, crackers, or pasta in two years. I wonder if the celiac blood test could be a false negative, since I haven't eaten breads in a few years? [more inside]
posted by RearWindow at 8:33 AM PST - 12 comments

Fly to see my dying dad? Or stay with my tiny baby?

My dad is dying of cancer. I live a very long way away and have a small baby with health complications who probably shouldn't be flying just yet. Should I go sooner to see my dad before he gets too bad and leave my little baby behind? Should I wait for the all clear to travel with the baby and risk my dad getting really sick or dying without me seeing him? [more inside]
posted by brambory at 8:22 AM PST - 23 comments

What kind of holiday works for families with babies?

We've finally saved up enough money to go on a little holiday, hopefully abroad, meaning outside the UK. The thing is, we have a five year old and a one year old, so the things we might like to do to have a relaxing holiday don't really apply as sitting relaxing beside a pool or on the beach with a book or newpaper simply wouldn't work. We also can't go somewhere really hot as our one year old would disapprove. We would never go to a "resort" and stay in a huge holiday complex whether we had young children or not! [more inside]
posted by dance at 8:22 AM PST - 9 comments

Mini-break me

In search of several weekend-length mini-breaks in Europe. Where do I go? [more inside]
posted by sailoreagle at 8:06 AM PST - 11 comments

A friend asked me to help him move, & here comes the ex....

A friend who is moving out of state asked me weeks ago if I could help him move his belongings on July 2nd. My friend’s ex-girlfriend that he currently lives with also asked me the same thing a week ago. [more inside]
posted by tnar23 at 7:06 AM PST - 8 comments

Cancelling a satellite TV contract in the UK?

I took out a 12 month contract with Sky in early June. It's not getting installed until 26th July. I've changed my mind, can I cancel it? Does the contract start from when it's installed seeing as I'm not paying and don't have the service yet?
posted by derbs at 6:51 AM PST - 1 comment

Where should I fly right now.

I'm in stansted. Ryanair have messed up. My flight, so I either go home or go elsewhere. What's the cheapestflight, coolest to a euro using country? Also interney is flaky. Making searches hard
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 6:09 AM PST - 9 comments

Orlando bus hire company that doesn't suck?

A friend of mine is taking a group of 20 high school kids to Orlando this month. Does anybody know of a good reliable company that will send a driver in a 20-30 seater on time each day to drive them to and from the airport, and around Orlando and surrounding areas while they're there? They're going to all the usual attractions, and all they want is a company that will show up on time, won't kill everyone onboard, won't traffic the students to an international crime ring and won't charge through the nose.
posted by tel3path at 5:38 AM PST - 2 comments

Is it time to see the doctor?

For years Ive suffered with anxiety, grief and trauma talking with a friend this year I realise Im carrying a lot of grief and trauma I live in an area where natural disaster happened (5-7 years ago) a lot.Tonight I was just about throwing up in the bathroom I should of really let myself throw up not to gross you out but I was holding it back... let griefs process happen [more inside]
posted by re at 1:47 AM PST - 15 comments

Brunch me. Difficulty level: ankle biters.

I've recently moved to a new city. I've met a few cool people that I'd like to make friends with, and I'd love to invite them round for brunch. The only problem is, since the last time I was doing this, I've reached an age where most people have kids. I'm totally happy to have the kids around but I don't know how to do it?! - what food for them, but also how to keep them entertained while the adults chat. [more inside]
posted by ontheradio at 1:11 AM PST - 14 comments

I'm not ready to lose my father, I don't want to be alone

My father has been diagnosed with cancer and will probably die within the next year (two years if we're lucky), all I think about is about his impending death. I'm an only child and, to me, his death will mean that I'm completely alone in the world. I am so scared of losing him, but I am literally helpless. I feel like I'm waiting for him to die and I don't know how to cope with it. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:07 AM PST - 12 comments

Need recommendation for Vancouver-based psychologist

Can anyone in Vancouver, B.C, recommend a psychologist who specializes in postpartum anxiety/depression? [more inside]
posted by branparsons at 12:07 AM PST - 2 comments

July 1

The right kind of funny

I enjoy taking in funny stuff as a relaxing escape from my intense social service job. Perhaps I can distill my personal sense of funny to: cerebral, not reactionary/racist/misogynist/etc, sometimes weird/surreal. I am a little bit snobby. I don't like violent comedies. Not so much looking for websites but that's OK in small amounts. International/subtitled OK! Please advise: [more inside]
posted by latkes at 9:56 PM PST - 51 comments

Craving squeaky toy theme music, GOT edition

Some time ago, there was a rendition of the Game of Thrones theme performed using squeaky toys. Apparently it has now been wiped off the face of the internet due to a copyright claim by Colosseum Music Entertainment GmbH (if indeed that is the one i am looking for). [more inside]
posted by scorpia22 at 8:22 PM PST - 3 comments

Can my Dad and I do a Presidential Traverse in three nights?

My father and I have a growing tradition of doing a hike in the White Mountains each summer, and we try for the biggest trek we can find time for. We're both experienced, but our condition isn't great. We've hit upon the idea of doing a Presidential Traverse—a 23-mile hike that summits ten(ish) of the Whites' tallest peaks. We think we're up for it if we take it slow (three nights) and plan carefully. Difficulty: we want to camp in the backcountry each night. [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 7:38 PM PST - 4 comments

Identity theft question

Somebody ordered an unknown expensive object (UEO) from a large national retailer (LNR) with my wife's credit card. Our wonderful bank (OWB) believed us that it was not us and refunded our account. Now LNR has sent us a letter asking for the return of said UEO. Anybody have experience with something like this before? How did things turn out? [more inside]
posted by garethspor at 7:35 PM PST - 7 comments

Please help me break into my own bathroom

I'm in a new place, and my daughter just pushed the privacy lock on the bathroom door before closing it (she is outside the bathroom, thankfully). With most of these knobs you can just push something through the hole to pop it, but that is not working. There are no keys over the doorframe. There are no exposed screws on this side of the knob. The door hinges are on the other side of the door. Please help! [more inside]
posted by insoluble uncertainty at 5:16 PM PST - 38 comments

Personal Loan

Making a personal loan to a potential direct report so they can return to fill an open position. What do you think? [more inside]
posted by RoadScholar at 5:10 PM PST - 15 comments

on an island, a traveler

Seeking fiction recommendations about scientists and anthropologists immersed in other cultures. [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 4:07 PM PST - 18 comments

Should I water before applying water soluble fertilizer?

Let's say I'm going to use water soluble Miracle Gro on my lawn or garden. The rate suggested is 1 gallon of solution per 10 square feet. Should I water first, then apply the fertilizer solution? Or is the fertilizer application usually treated as a sufficient watering as well?
posted by theshire at 3:52 PM PST - 3 comments

How common was the practice of separating twins at birth?

It's a pretty common trope in fiction, but how often did it happen in reality? [more inside]
posted by Mister Moofoo at 2:36 PM PST - 19 comments

Warm Thanksgiving non-beach vacation locales

Can you recommend a natural-beauty vacation locale that will be warm over (American) Thanksgiving? International destinations are fine but total travel time needs to fit into 5 days. Snowflakes: no (or not just) beaches, hiking should accommodate a range of fitness levels.
posted by serelliya at 2:16 PM PST - 6 comments

Please, sir, I want some more...gifts!

I'm doing a production of Oliver and am trying to come up with gift ideas for the production team. I need gifts for 5 or 6 men and women, that are either the same or comparable. Looking to spend less than $100. Bonus: small all-cast gift ideas! [more inside]
posted by firei at 1:53 PM PST - 7 comments

Best way to frame enormous antique map?

I bought a very large (62"x24") map last week, but now I'm at a little bit of a loss for how to actually display it. Help me think of ways to put it on my wall without spending 50x as much on the frame as I did on the map. [more inside]
posted by The Elusive Architeuthis at 1:48 PM PST - 7 comments

Renting in Chapel Hill/Carrboro area

I've posted some questions about this, and I'm finally ready to pack up and move there. The only catch is that I'm not having luck finding an apartment, and I wonder if I just don't know where to look. Difficulty level: I'm a few hours away and can't tour places on short notice, and my credit is poor. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 1:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Got some feelings. Not sure they're mine.

I am questioning whether the feelings I have under the pill and thyroid replacement hormone are actually mine. [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 12:58 PM PST - 9 comments

Visiting Shanghai in July

Hi, I'm taking a group of students to Shanghai China and will meet with Chinese business people and university professors while there. 1. What kind of gifts should I bring? 2. What should I buy while visiting? [more inside]
posted by drthom at 12:51 PM PST - 10 comments

Name this font!

I'd like to use this font for a craft project but am not able to figure out what it is. Any ideas? Image is in this link.
posted by isaypotato at 12:48 PM PST - 3 comments

How to get rid of old laptops?

Seeking advice on the best way to get rid of two old laptops. [more inside]
posted by trixie119 at 12:16 PM PST - 10 comments

Cactus experts needed

We have a Christmas Cactus that has been alive for many, many years. It recently has started to grow a few unusual nodule/bud things, and we haven't been successful at pinpointing exactly what they are from Internet research. Can anyone tell what these are, and if they are good/bad/indifferent? Two images here, one of the cactus and another with a close up of the thing.
posted by jason and the garlic knots at 11:15 AM PST - 11 comments

Take the job or leave it?

I'm finishing up my PhD, planning a wedding, have a two week vacation coming up, and was accepted into a fellowship program. Do I have too much going on to accept a new job? [more inside]
posted by stripesandplaid at 10:51 AM PST - 15 comments

Help me remember scenes in films where characters watch mtv?

I'm thinking of a film in particular where some kid comes home and puts on mtv and rocks out, but I can't for the life of me remember what it is. I'm in general searching for scenes in film where people are watching MTV, any help would be so super appreciated as I seem to be striking out alone.. [more inside]
posted by armisme at 10:23 AM PST - 16 comments

“My name is Schwartz.” (pause) “My name is warts?” A Warty Mystery

I have a general question about Chet. Chet is the name I’ve given to the pernicious wart I’ve had on the bottom of my foot for almost half my life. How pernicious is Chet and do you have any suggestions for further treatment? Background inside: [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill at 9:30 AM PST - 22 comments

Have old doggo, will travel.

I would like to get this Old Man into this bike basket, and safely drive him around. What’s the best way to do that? [more inside]
posted by functionequalsform at 9:29 AM PST - 11 comments

Suggestions for Wall-Mounting a 40" RCA Flatscreen?

I just moved into my gf's cozy apartment. The only place to mount my tv is above the bedroom's French doors. This should be doable but I wanted to talk it through before ordering the right mount and I'd very much like to do this right. [more inside]
posted by Navelgazer at 9:14 AM PST - 7 comments

SF Bay Area: anyone know of a child-free Finding Dory showing?

We love kids' movies; hate watching a movie in a theatre with kids. Does anyone know any place offering a child-free showing of Finding Dory?
posted by Zed at 7:57 AM PST - 15 comments

Seeking great subject-matter introductions for a voraciously curious kid

My ten-year old son wants to understand everything. He is a voracious reader and doesn't confine himself to kids books. He loves reading the newspaper (NYTimes, Boston Globe), fiction, and non-fiction books. He's old enough to really learn things by reading. Agatha Christie is fun, but he's ready for more than that. He's full of questions about society, politics, science, economics. I'd like to get him some books that will expand his mind, begin answering his questions, and show him how the world fits together. [more inside]
posted by alms at 7:36 AM PST - 43 comments

How to Clean/Shine Parquet Floors?

Just uncovered some old wood parquet flooring. What should I use to clean the floors and make them look nice?
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 7:31 AM PST - 2 comments

What is this mystery play?

Yesterday, I ran across the proverb "Great cry and little wool, as the devil said when he sheared the hogs," along with the explanation that this came from "an old mystery play, David and Abigail, based on 1 Samuel." Where/when was this mystery play performed, and is its text available? [more inside]
posted by the sobsister at 6:11 AM PST - 12 comments

Nortel Option 11 support

I have recently become responsible for keeping an old Nortel Option 11 on life support for the next 6 to 9 months as we transition to our new Cisco VOIP system. Any idea where I can find a consultant/tech willing to work for an hourly rate to: 1. Provide some minimal training on moves adds and changes 2. Assist with break fix issues as they arise.
posted by jmsta at 5:40 AM PST - 2 comments

Minneapolis Brew Pubs & Breweries for Pub Crawl on Saturday?

Hi, we have guests visiting us in Minneapolis for the 4th of July holiday weekend. We've got a minivan and designated driver and we'd like to drive around and visit a number of small breweries/brewpubs tomorrow. We took them to Indeed, Fulton, and 612 last time they were in town. Where should we go? Surly seems like an obvious possibility, but where else?
posted by Alluring Mouthbreather at 5:39 AM PST - 14 comments

Moved 3000 mi for a new job. Spouse hates it here. What should we do?

After moving from one corner of the country to the opposite corner 3 months ago, selling one house and buying another and spending $8000 on the move, we need to not live here because my spouse is absolutely miserable and staying will put considerable strain on our marriage and negatively impact our mental health (his in particular). I am very concerned about both the career implications of making a move so soon, and also that another move will put us into financial ruin. Snowflakes ahoy! [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 5:22 AM PST - 117 comments

Give this job/boss a mulligan and review in three months?

So I took a job to change my life and industry back in January. There were extended negotiations and a massive interview process and even a couple of test (take home) that pretty much doubled as free work. In person, there was a lot of body language and communication I didn't get but I finally have now. The worst of it is, we're at the point where I said we'd renegotiate or I'd leave and now I find out it's all been blown to hell. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:10 AM PST - 21 comments

What's the best software to manage restaurant costing and inventory?

I'm looking for software to do restaurant ingredient costing, recipe building, and inventory-taking. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:10 AM PST - 1 comment

Goody Bag Alternatives

Hello! My baby is having a birthday party, and I noticed that most kid birthday parties include goody bag giveaways filled with all kinds of crap. I don't really want to gather a bunch of cheap things, and instead would like to give one nice gift for kids to take home. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by lirael2008 at 1:19 AM PST - 45 comments