July 2014 Archives

July 31

Speculate on what is wrong with my Macbook Pro

Something is pretty clearly wrong, and it seems to be hardware, but it's sporadic enough that it's hard to say what, and I'd rather not have a repair person just guess. [more inside]
posted by drjimmy11 at 11:24 PM PST - 14 comments

How can I become an effective Sales Director asap?

I just became the Marketing & Sales Director of a startup even though I've never done sales in my life. The company has exactly one salesperson on the other side of the country and he is trying to sell a pricy (4K) piece of B2B hardware. Before this he worked at a phone service company. The company only just starting producing enough units to sell. The entire staff is counting on the two of us to magically sell machines and I don't know what to do. We're being asked for sales projections, etc. and I have no idea where to even start. Snowflake details follow. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:59 PM PST - 3 comments

Family drama about to come to a head. Help me head it off

I stopped speaking to a family member due to a unhealthy dynamic that had been going on for years now. We're both invited to a family event we both want to attend. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:54 PM PST - 20 comments

Hotel/inn/B&B in Boulder, CO

What's the coolest hotel/inn/B&B you'd recommend in Boulder, CO for one night?
posted by xmutex at 8:48 PM PST - 8 comments

How can I get a job as a grant writer for a non-profit organization?

I quit law school (a very prestigious, top five school) four years ago and have been working in education ever since (first as an aide for Autistic children, then as a substitute teacher for two years). In this time, my student loans have been accruing interest and keeping me up at night. I can qualify for loan forgiveness programs as long as I work for a non-profit or a school. Unfortunately, the work I was doing for the past four years did not count because I worked for private companies that contracted out to schools. For many reasons,(see below) I would now like to break into grant writing. I have written three successful grant proposals in my career (one for an educational outreach program in college, one for a Fulbright Grant, and one for an international NGO). I am currently strengthening my grant writing skills by taking webinars and utilizing other free online resources. How can I present myself as a viable candidate for these grant writing jobs? And how do I explain the many changes of direction on my resume and the long winding road I took to get here? [more inside]
posted by rockpanda at 6:12 PM PST - 4 comments

Tips on allowing new relationships to unfold naturally?

I need tips on ridding myself of new-relationship anxiety, releasing the need to control and the need to know where it's going, and allowing the relationship to unfold naturally. [more inside]
posted by SabrinaV at 5:25 PM PST - 10 comments

Slow cooker recommendations

I am in the market for a slow cooker, which one to buy? [more inside]
posted by jellyjam at 4:57 PM PST - 13 comments

Is there any hope that she will see heart surgery as a wakeup call?

My spouse's mother, a senior citizen, just learned this year that she has heart failure. She survived multiple heart surgeries recently, a harrowing process during which she said she never wants to go through that again. Great! We assumed this meant that she was seeing this as a wakeup call to change her eating/exercise habits and stress levels so that she could get healthier. Several weeks later, it turns out that she is going back to all the old habits that helped contribute to heart disease in the first place. Is there any hope for her changing her deeply-ingrained habits? If so, what can my spouse do from afar to help support mom? If there isn't any hope for her adjusting her lifestyle, then how can we learn to accept her choices and still give her the support she needs? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:47 PM PST - 22 comments

bread maker in mumbai - will it work out?

I'm thinking of taking a bread maker as a gift for a family that I'll be visiting in Mumbai, India. What potential problems might I be overlooking? [more inside]
posted by metadave at 3:53 PM PST - 13 comments

Grief and the elderly

How do the elderly process loss? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:39 PM PST - 16 comments

How can I stop wanting senpai to notice me?

Your 2000th snowflakey question on the how to be an emotionally healthy single person. How can I live for myself and grow my social networks instead of seeking validation from my abstract idea of a desirable partner? Navel-gazing after the jump. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:38 PM PST - 6 comments

Is an MA in Transpersonal Psychology worth the cost?

How can my friend increase her earnings in the alternative health field? [more inside]
posted by release the hardwoods! at 3:27 PM PST - 8 comments

"Cares not" or "cares naught"?

For example, should the phrase be "I care naught for him" or "I care not for him"? I see the argument for the former (i.e. "I care nothing for him") and the latter ("I don't care for him"), but is one better than the other? Are they interchangeable, or significantly different?
posted by c'mon sea legs at 3:03 PM PST - 20 comments

The world has improved since 1900. Which data-driven article...

I remember reading a fairly substantial and data-driven article that was published after 2000 in a major publication (economist, new yorker, etc) that discussed the overall improvement in the state of the world since the early 20th century. [more inside]
posted by palionex at 2:57 PM PST - 5 comments

Where to live in London similar to Walthamstow/Leytonstone?

I'm looking for a place to move to in London that is similar to Walthamstow and Leytonstone, but isn't either one. Can you suggest such a place? [more inside]
posted by K.P. at 2:46 PM PST - 9 comments

Air Cargo E Container in Boston

Where can I find large and sturdy corrugated shipping boxes in the Boston area? [more inside]
posted by klausness at 2:16 PM PST - 12 comments

Optimizing group outings to baseball games

Let's say I would like to organize 6 friends to go see a baseball game. There's one problem: ticket purchases have to be done at the same time to ensure that people sit together. How is this circle squared? [more inside]
posted by Hollywood Upstairs Medical College at 2:04 PM PST - 13 comments

Mysterious Mirena migration

After a year and a half of trusty service, my Mirena IUD seems to have been sucked into unknown parts of my uterus, taking its strings with it and leaving me with dull cramps 24/7. Has this happened to you or anyone you know? [more inside]
posted by Maarika at 1:47 PM PST - 14 comments

Recommend an iPad kanji writing flashcard app or JP app review site?

Does anyone have any suggestions for a flashcard app for iPad for practicing *writing* kanji? Or any recommendations for Japanese review sites for iOS apps? [more inside]
posted by Bugbread at 1:43 PM PST - 12 comments

Bad trips

Recommend me the darker songs of the 1960's and 70's - paranoia, political repression, nuclear war, etc. For example, Love's The Red Telephone
posted by gorbweaver at 1:37 PM PST - 37 comments

Stop peeing on my friends!

Is there a way to hide all activity generated by another Facebook user without actually blocking that user? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by hand-knit sock at 1:34 PM PST - 19 comments

Should I put my reading three-year-old in a (pre)school for bright kids?

Should I put my reading three-year-old in a (pre)school for bright kids? Should I move in with my partner in order to do so? [more inside]
posted by woodvine at 1:34 PM PST - 28 comments

mystery tree, plant identification

Its like a cherry but not. Please help me identify this mystery tree. Pictures below. [more inside]
posted by ljesse at 1:31 PM PST - 10 comments

Change your mind on a job offer?

I was recently given a great job offer (about two months ago). I declined for a variety of reasons, but I am realizing that I may have made a mistake. [more inside]
posted by pando11 at 1:18 PM PST - 8 comments

Gluten, dairy-free camp cooking

I'm going camping for a few days, yay! We're splitting cooking duties with another couple going, but they're celiac and lactose intolerant. How do we feed them? Added challenge: we don't have access to a cooler (that's not likely to change). I appreciate any ideas you have, MeFites!
posted by Someone Else's Story at 12:35 PM PST - 14 comments

Fruity Loops

What are the best websites to learn fl studio for free?
posted by MechEng at 11:57 AM PST - 4 comments

Simplifying D&D style role playing rules for use without dice

So for "reasons", I have recently become interested in the idea of simplifying D&D rules that would be optimizing the available resources for play in your average jail. Which is to say, paper and pen, playing card deck, like maybe one of these things, a couple odd Scrabble tiles, and nothing else. Would want to retain a D&D style of playing the odds, so trying to avoid anything like pure storytelling rulesets. Squashing a lot of stuff out like constitution checks, etc since each session could typically only be about 90 minutes tops.
posted by mediocre at 11:37 AM PST - 19 comments

Latest/Best print on demand T-shirts

What are the best services currently for print on demand t-shirts? This would be for a low volume of orders that people can order directly from the printer using my design.
posted by puppy kuddles at 11:36 AM PST - 5 comments

Prototyping tools for iPhone apps

I am doing a class project for which I need to create a high-fidelity prototype of a mobile app idea. The final assignment in the class is going to be user testing of the prototype. What I'm looking for is a prototyping tool which will allow me to easily create screens with native iPhone widgets. It needs to be high-fidelity and as interactive as possible. And it needs to be accessible on the web. What are the tools that you use? My full requirements are within. [more inside]
posted by expialidocious at 11:33 AM PST - 5 comments

No beneficiary on traditional IRA. Now what?

My mom's IRAs went to my dad. My dad put me down as beneficiary on all accounts yet bank is saying that there are no beneficiaries listed. I was there when all paperwork was signed. [more inside]
posted by stormpooper at 10:40 AM PST - 10 comments

Can I use alcohol-based wipes on my new glasses?

I have these glasses wipes that I *love* (Flents Wipe 'n Clear). I used them to clean my old glasses with anti-glare coating all the time and never suffered any ill effects. Is it safe to use them on my new glasses? [more inside]
posted by geeky at 10:36 AM PST - 7 comments

Ensuring personal safety in areas close to civil unrest?

I'm going to be traveling to Romania later this year for business, and I'm a little nervous about its proximity to the Ukraine and Turkey and all that civil unrest. Is emergency travel assistance/insurance available? [more inside]
posted by msladygrey at 9:53 AM PST - 8 comments

Wiki platform for potentially confidential/sensitive data

Last year, I asked about a simple wiki platform for many users, and Wiki Spot sounded like a good fit. I slacked off, Wiki Spot is no longer accepting new accounts, and I have additional criteria: some level of security/hiding for confidential and/or sensitive data. Also, I have a Dreamhost account that I'm not utilizing, and DH has a number of wiki platforms that can be installed. Any suggestions for platforms to use or avoid?
posted by filthy light thief at 9:51 AM PST - 3 comments

Recommendations for low-hassle, low(er)-cost bespoke men's shoes.

Does anyone have recommendations for a bespoke shoemaker who charges a fair price and will work mail-order to the US? I'm looking for boring, business-casual men's shoes, e.g. split- and moc-toe derbies and undecorated penny loafers made from durable low-maintenance leathers in black and burgundy. [more inside]
posted by eotvos at 9:39 AM PST - 6 comments

Does premixing iced coffee with half-and-half spell disaster?

Once I've made cold-brew iced coffee, I drink it over about 5 days. Is there any reason that I can't mix in the half-and-half on day 1? [more inside]
posted by mercredi at 9:16 AM PST - 7 comments

Something feels wrong about this grammatical construction. What is it?

The contraction for "would have" is "would've". And yet, if I am writing that "If I have a doctor's appointment at 3pm, I would have to leave at 2pm to be there on time", I don't think I would write "would've to leave at 2pm". That doesn't feel right, but I don't know why. MeFi grammarians?
posted by John Borrowman at 8:58 AM PST - 24 comments

Your parents divorced? Tell me about it.

I want to leave my husband and need to understand the potential impact to my daughters, aged 10 and 11. Please tell me what your parents' divorce was like, and the different ways in which it affected you. [more inside]
posted by puppet du sock at 8:47 AM PST - 47 comments

My career is spiraling out of control... Please help! (Beware: Long)

So my career is kind of a disaster and I am not sure what to do about it. This is a bit of a wall of text (because I want to give a lot of context), so thanks to anyone who gets through it. [more inside]
posted by argentum at 8:43 AM PST - 5 comments

Tech-savvy people: Please help me purchase a new laptop!

My Macbook died on me a little while back, and I need a new laptop ASAP. I was thinking about a new Macbook Air, but I want to wait until the Intel Broadwell chips come out since the last Macbook Air update was pretty minimal. So, I've been looking at Windows machines, but am bad at scouting out deals. Please help me find a quality deal for a PC laptop that isn't under-powered but also won't break the bank. Specifics of desired laptop inside. [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 8:39 AM PST - 8 comments

Locked out of hotmail; computer can't read e-mail due to security issues

There are two parts to this: I am locked out of hotmail; my computer can't read the support e-mail security instructions due to computer security. [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 8:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Technical skills for new position?

I have had experience with Salesforce and Microsoft CRM, I am now entering a position managing Oracle CRM what do I need to know? [more inside]
posted by heavyp08 at 8:08 AM PST - 0 comments

Help me not faint when donating blood

Sometimes I have a dramatic vasovagal response (i.e. I pass out) after having blood drawn or donating blood. Sometimes I don't. This means that I donate blood less than I'd like to. Can I condition myself out of this? [more inside]
posted by pullayup at 8:00 AM PST - 20 comments

Suggestions needed for new iPhone music player

I'm happy with the native music player on the iPhone, except for 1 or 2 points. First, the shuffle all songs mode works poorly. With it I keep getting the same songs played over and over again, and many songs seem to never come up. So I'd like a player with a super shuffler! Also, as I use the player mostly in the car, one with a simpler interface would be nice that can be easily fat-thumbed and where the titles and song info is large and easily seen ("car mode"). Any suggestions?
posted by Rad_Boy at 7:55 AM PST - 4 comments

Labour-intensive dinner?

I have a lot of time on my hands, a love of cooking, and a girlfriend I would like to impress! Any ideas for a home-cooked romantic dinner, given that I have a LOT of time? [more inside]
posted by one of these days at 7:48 AM PST - 25 comments

Going to Guatemala

In the fall I'm going to Guatemala for about 10 days. I plan on spending 5 days in Antigua and 5 days at Lake Atitlan. I think I have my lodging settled in San Marcos La Laguna, and I'm hoping you'll have recommendations for a clean, reasonably quiet inn/posada/BandB in a lively and safe but not too rambunctious neighborhood in Antigua. [more inside]
posted by Pineapplicious at 7:14 AM PST - 2 comments

Adventures in the Skin Trade, Redux

Short version: help me find a decent dermatologist in the greater Baltimore area. [more inside]
posted by ubiquity at 7:00 AM PST - 4 comments

Phone sleeve me, MeFi!

I'm looking for a little case, the kind that attaches to the strap of your bag, to hold my phone, subway card, and work ID, because I'm tired of digging around in my bag for those things. Something like this, but a little more stylish. [more inside]
posted by the_blizz at 6:59 AM PST - 10 comments

Learn me SEO

I am taking on a new role which will require me to be conversant in SEO. Our SEO product manager likes to obfuscate things so no one can pin him down. It is my job to pin him down and call bullshit. I have no idea what schema.org is or what this canonical stuff is all about. Can anyone recommend a great book / site where I can get up to speed on all things SEO? I don't have a lot of time to spend so brevity is key.
posted by jasondigitized at 6:14 AM PST - 11 comments

addicted to giving away money

This is my first ever question on metafilter, and it probably sounds absurd. I recently got a relatively-high-paying job away from home, and I'm only 23. Maybe it's because I'm lonely, but only time I feel good about myself or feel like I'm worth anything is when I help others. [more inside]
posted by Ain at 5:35 AM PST - 27 comments

Linux laptop?

What is the most excellent Linux-friendly laptop I can buy? [more inside]
posted by nthdegx at 3:58 AM PST - 14 comments

Best response to very late texting from someone you're attracted to?

Asked someone out. He said yes. I live far away and he planned to come visit soon after. He couldn't come ultimately (as he was busy getting ready for a trip). He was appropriately apologetic and nice about it (and I understood.. but know historically I have been too understanding too often, but first cock up, not a big deal). He said he'd make it up to me on his return. I last asked how he was getting on with sorting things out for his hols and when he was going. I didn't hear back for 4 days (today) he goes tomorrow. [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 2:35 AM PST - 13 comments

What to say when "Fine, and you?" feels like a betrayal?

I've had a truly awful year, and in April my much beloved pet died suddenly leaving me completely devastated with guilt and grief. Among the things I no longer seem to be able to do is answer the innocuous "How are you?" question from acquaintances and colleagues. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by girl flaneur at 1:46 AM PST - 42 comments

July 30

How do I stop panicking about being overtaken and finish a PhD?

I'm in the final couple of months before submitting my dissertation, writing up frantically, and have just found out that someone I know has switched topics to my topic and actually submitted their dissertation. How do I cope with this and get on with my work? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Aravis76 at 10:07 PM PST - 16 comments

Mother may I (have some book recommendations)?

What are some novels featuring imperfect but sympathetically-portrayed mothers? [more inside]
posted by ferret branca at 9:19 PM PST - 25 comments

Hobby laser cutters?

A friend and I are curious about acquiring a home/hobby laserccutter and would like some recommendations. [more inside]
posted by Calzephyr at 9:05 PM PST - 13 comments

Should I use USAA for a mortgage?

Is going with USAA significantly better or worse than using a local mortgage broker who sells our mortgage to another bank? Will USAA allow us to close on time, if the closing is 5 weeks out? [more inside]
posted by treehorn+bunny at 8:18 PM PST - 16 comments

Mac backup/synchronization

I'm looking for a user-friendly way to synchronize folders between OS X machines. These are in different locations, and they need to talk to each other securely. [more inside]
posted by uninformative at 8:02 PM PST - 12 comments

Portable DVD drive with its own battery?

Are there any portable DVD drives (not players) with their own internal battery? [more inside]
posted by Metaone at 7:26 PM PST - 7 comments

Down Low Too Slow

Does anyone know who the creator of this short video is? I desperately want to let them know how much they've made me laugh.
posted by DWRoelands at 7:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Question about eviction and co-tenants versus sub-tenants.

I'm going through a breakup. My ex very suddenly served me a Notice To Quit today. I'm not sure what rights I have here. I'm also pretty destitute because of recent medical bills. Further details inside. [more inside]
posted by TheHappiestSadist at 6:29 PM PST - 25 comments

Can't access my OTHER flickr account

I apparently signed up for a second Flickr account in 2005, using my real name, to share some family photos with immediate family. I apparently made it public. I want to delete it or make it private, but I can't figure out my log-in credentials. [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 6:08 PM PST - 3 comments

Not your typical LAX layover

First week of October, on a Sunday. 12-hour layover at LAX, but here's the thing: I've done LA. What can I do that won't feel repetitive? [more inside]
posted by signondiego at 5:56 PM PST - 8 comments

[Wedding Etiquette Filter] no gifts expected, unless you really wanna

We've invited some people to our wedding reception that aren't close family or lifelong friends, but good friends and colleagues whose company we enjoy, and have been warm and enthusiastic about celebrating with us. We would like to convey that our invitations to them absolutely do not come with the expectation of gifts. [more inside]
posted by redlines at 5:56 PM PST - 16 comments

Dying in a fire is NOT on my bucket list.

Everyone in my building has to run their dryer for three cycles to dry their clothes. Nobody seems particularly concerned. Management says the problem isn't with the dryers (which they sent people to clean out) but with something or other in the walls (the pipes?) and eventually they'll need to open the walls to fix it. They don't seem to be treating it as an urgent matter, though. Should I? [more inside]
posted by artemisia at 5:56 PM PST - 12 comments

I need intelligent information about an advanced recurrent cancer.

My mother has another recurrence of the triple-negative breast cancer she's been dealing with for the last 5 years. In looking at the PET scans from the latest rounds of biopsying and testing, I have questions and I am not sure where to turn. [more inside]
posted by 8dot3 at 5:53 PM PST - 13 comments

What substance is coming off my tomatoes?

Hello, We had some "off the vine" tomatoes we bought at the store and I was cleaning them with water and wiped them with a paper towel and noticed a yellowish stain on the paper towel. I wiped very well, then rinsed and finally the new paper towel I used was clean. What do you think this is? Is it tomato tar?
posted by lynnie-the-pooh at 4:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Is this a confidentiality breach?

I work in corrections. On facebook, on my page, I posted something that might have been a breach of confidentiality. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:16 PM PST - 22 comments

Can I register a car in NY and drive it into Canada right away? How?

I'm leaving NYC on Friday and driving to Canada for 12 days. I have a rental booked, but also just bought a car out of state and had it delivered to a mechanic. They did a safety inspection and some minor work that will not be completed until Friday, the same day I need to leave. The car does not have temporary out of state tags or license plates but I have an appointment with the DMV on Thursday. If possible, I'd like to drive this vehicle to Canada but am very skeptical of the timeline. [more inside]
posted by nathancaswell at 4:03 PM PST - 6 comments

Did Victor Hugo really say this?

"Initiative is doing the right thing without being told." -- Victor Hugo but wait, did he really say that? If so, where? Because all I find online is a lot of dubious quotation sites with no specific attribution.
posted by HotToddy at 4:00 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me help my mom while she helps my dad!

My dad has Lewy Body Dementia, and my mom is his primary caregiver. He is very disabled at this point, and it's taking a toll on my mom. I need suggestions that I can give her, and internet searches are leaving me overwhelmed! [more inside]
posted by I_love_the_rain at 3:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Similar iPad games to The Room?

7yo daughter and I really love Fireproof Games' The Room and The Room 2. But we've played them to death. Until another sequel comes out, what other similar iPad games are there? [more inside]
posted by snarfois at 3:44 PM PST - 18 comments

How do I actually budget, taking into account variable expenses?

I have been using Quicken to track my expenditures for more than ten years. But I'm stuck on how to use the information for budgeting, because every expense category is so variable. How do I do this? For the sake of this question, assume I'm trying to calculate the minimum salary I'd need from a new job. [more inside]
posted by xo at 3:31 PM PST - 11 comments

Making the switch from mortgage loan officer to....?

I have slaved, I have begged, I have cajoled - and after years in the industry I have come to the conclusion that it's just too damned hard to make a living now as a mortgage loan officer. I have been in banking for 25 years and don't really want to go back to working in a branch either. Is there a career that would allow me to leverage my experience as a loan officer and make decent money - something similar to mortgage but not the same field or product? I can use Google and I am not looking for "have you tried, have you looked...". I am really looking for people who have done this or know someone who has. I don't need more training as a loan officer and I am not interested in the latest sales fad.
posted by brownrd at 3:00 PM PST - 6 comments

Best drone for amateur photography

I am looking for a drone to buy to take aerial photos of and on my own property. I have no experience with remote control flying equipment so I need something that is fairly easy to operate. I also would like one where a decent camera is included with the drone. My budget is $500-$1000. I am interested in opinions on different brands and any tips/ideas/advice you may have to offer. Thank you.
posted by GlowWyrm at 2:55 PM PST - 6 comments

Maybe I am a headband person?

While straightening my apartment last week I came across a cute headband. I've had it since I was five (haven't worn headbands since I was, oh, probably about six) but have held onto it because I like it. Anyway, for the last few days I've been thinking: perhaps I would like to wear headbands? I don't know, can you help me find cool head bands? Let's find out. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 2:17 PM PST - 13 comments

Are there dirty pictures on your bathroom wall? Who studies home decor?

Middle Class home decoration tropes: I've noticed that even in homes with a very staid and conservative overall "look", that in the bathroom you will frequently find wall-hangings that evoke mild titillation, or demonstrate humorous scatology, or low-brow humor. Is this a real thing, or just overrepresented in the bathrooms I've seen most often (white, Midwestern, Protestant)? Or is it not a thing at all, and just confirmation bias on my part? [more inside]
posted by jjjjjjjijjjjjjj at 2:11 PM PST - 52 comments

Where to get individual health care in California

In a few months, I'll be turning 26 and kicked off my dad's policy. [more inside]
posted by madonna of the unloved at 1:54 PM PST - 7 comments

Microfiber Women's Underwear

I am looking to buy new underwear, but my favorite line has been cancelled. All the new ones that seem good are made of microfiber rather than cotton, and I have some concerns about that. Possibly gross discussion of lady parts ahead. [more inside]
posted by ohisee at 1:33 PM PST - 18 comments

1-on-1 time with the president...

Posting for a relative... The President of my company has asked everyone in my department to meet with him in a 1 on 1 meeting in an effort to get to know us on a more personal level. I work for a Fortune 500 company in the travel industry. I studied Economics in college and deal with supply/demand pricing every day. From what I've heard, his meetings with non-management employees have been very relaxed. At the end of the meeting he asks what your salary is and if you are happy with it. He also asks if we have any questions for him. My question to you is what should my answer be to the salary question be? I am happy with what I'm getting paid but obviously want more. And what kind of questions should I ask him?
posted by likeapen at 1:29 PM PST - 8 comments

Doggie cam assistance needed!

I would like to set up a doggie cam to keep an eye on my pooch while I'm in the office and I need some suggestions! [more inside]
posted by chatongriffes at 1:04 PM PST - 6 comments

Cotton, non-synthetic (or low% synthetic) sports bras?

I have a sports bra that I bought in 2005 - Jockey, cotton, a bit of stretch - and it has outlasted a plethora of synthetic sports bras. When I shop at Target, Athleta, etc. all I see for sale are 100% synthetic bras that stretch out of shape, make me feel claustrophobic and get icky when they're wet. Help me find the Platonic Ideal of Cotton Sports Bras again. [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 12:48 PM PST - 11 comments

Tiny corporate retreat space in CA Wine County?

I have a small consulting firm (3 people) and our busy season kicks off on Labor Day. I'm looking for a location in Napa or Sonoma where we can stay (nice place, separate rooms) one night and have access to a conference room, coffee and snacks, etc., on either side. This would need to be a weeknight in the next few weeks. [more inside]
posted by Ignatius J. Reilly at 12:42 PM PST - 5 comments

Dip into savings to pay off credit card?

My credit card is acruing interest at about the rate of netflix per month. I have enough cash to pay it off but that would be about half my balance of my savings account. Should I pay it off or should I keep chipping away with it and not putting any more than I have too on the card?
posted by mamamia88 at 12:19 PM PST - 15 comments

Am grown woman, need to look the part

So I am about to embark on a new phase in life, one outside of academia (most likely) and am done having kids, and thus, need to finally get some clothes and other stuff (shoes, bras) to help my look transition as well. The problems? I like the clothes I get to wear now and I HATE shopping. So I need suggestions as to where to go and what to buy! Help please! [more inside]
posted by katers890 at 12:02 PM PST - 24 comments

If you have to ask, it's probably too late...

I need an iOS reminder app with some specific requirements 1) allows recurrence to be set for an interval of less than a day (every x hours) 2) ideally the recurrence won't be scheduled until after the first instance is marked as 'done' [more inside]
posted by pennypiper at 12:00 PM PST - 5 comments

How do you measure your bra size in 2014?

There seems to be a newish, popular bra size measuring technique from the Reddit, but it's at odds with the old method used by dept stores and Victoria's Secret. Which way is best? [more inside]
posted by annabellee at 11:56 AM PST - 31 comments

Please suggest a practical bis cas blazer

Please give me your suggestions for a practical blazer (sports coat) that will work in a business casual setting but also as a practical jacket without making me look too dressed up. Deets inside [more inside]
posted by rebent at 11:46 AM PST - 7 comments

Explain why email is an insecure form of data transmission.

Let's say I need to send some personal data (e.g., full name, DOB, SSN, address history, etc.). I already know I should never transmit that information via email, but why? What are the risks, and where and when do they occur? At what point(s) during transmission is the info in that email in danger? Hit me with every worse-case scenario you can think of. [more inside]
posted by schooley at 11:38 AM PST - 19 comments

What to look for in a used windsurfing board and rig?

What do I need to know about buying a used windsurfing set-up? What pieces are essential and how do I know if they are in good condition? [more inside]
posted by zyxwvut at 11:32 AM PST - 3 comments

Fixing or Replacing Kitchen Faucets

DH and I moved into our new house to discover the kitchen and bar faucets could use some maintenance, if possible, or to be replaced. We're having a hard time finding a manual and parts for the faucets, and so may need to replace. Either way, can you help? [more inside]
posted by 5845(f)(1)(D) at 10:30 AM PST - 10 comments

Best, Cheap Technology for a Science Classroom

Hey MeFites, I'm really trying to expand the use of digital technology in my classroom. Unfortunately, the resources at my school are fairly limited. However, I do have access to $1200 in grant money, assuming I can write a compelling enough proposal. Help me find some affordable tech for my classroom! Needs of class inside. [more inside]
posted by thelastpolarbear at 10:26 AM PST - 5 comments

Pixel light, pixel bright...ah me.

We've owned a largish Mistubishi HD TV, for five or six years. The only issues we've had were two: the lamp had to be replaced, and then the set began to shut down a few minutes after we fired it up. We wait until the little green light stopped flashing then fire it up again, and it works just fine. We do this procedure pretty much every time we turn the set on. But that's not my main problem now. [more inside]
posted by mule98J at 10:13 AM PST - 3 comments

Action & Boredom

Not really sure how to say this, but I have been adding some hobbies and other things to my life but am finding it hard to keep doing everything. I have traditionally never been someone who gets bored very easily but I find myself in this position a good portion of the time right now. [more inside]
posted by nidora at 10:10 AM PST - 8 comments

Time to get a new job pt. 2

I know exactly what I want out of work, and it is this: working on creative projects to make something useful (and also cool) as part of a team. And also money. Not tons, but enough to get by. I have a BA, but nearly all my work experience to date has been in low/no-skill labor. How do I bootstrap myself into a new career and what should I even be looking at? [more inside]
posted by zchyrs at 10:10 AM PST - 6 comments

Where can I swim in open water in Fairfax County, Virginia?

I - rather foolishly perhaps - registered for an upcoming triathlon, which will include an open water swim in a local lake. Like a lot of beginning triathletes I gather, I find the swimming portion the most intimidating so I've been taking some lap classes at nearby rec centers, etc. But I'd like to get some open water experience before race day. This is turning out to be the last great taboo. Skateboarding may not be a crime, but it sure looks like swimming is. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by Naberius at 9:49 AM PST - 10 comments

The eternal curse of the career changer

Hiring managers of MeFi: say you're looking at the resume or cover letter of a candidate who is a mid-life (or later) career changer. They are attempting to come into your field with much professional experience in a totally unrelated career, but little-to-no professional, paying experience in your field. Are there things about them that would make you run screaming? Things that would make you go "hmmmm...maybe..."? [more inside]
posted by Sockrates at 9:24 AM PST - 12 comments

Fast and Furious...Car Shopping

What is the fastest way of buying a car in New York city? What should I keep in mind? How can I be super-productive and not lose money within this transaction? [more inside]
posted by The1andonly at 9:23 AM PST - 2 comments

Bringing tamales into the US from Mexico

I'm currently in Mexico and will be returning home to the US in about a week. I'd like to bring back some tamales to share with my family, but I'm not sure whether or not I can bring them through customs. I've read the guidelines here and here, but I'm still not sure. [more inside]
posted by mekily at 8:56 AM PST - 9 comments

Why does no one manufacture a Thunderbolt hub?

For the life of me I can't figure out why there isn't a hardware manufacturer making a Thunderbolt hub available for purchase. [more inside]
posted by LoRichTimes at 8:41 AM PST - 7 comments

Recommend-a-book

There is nothing quite like reading a book I really love. Help me find some more books I really love. (Fiction edition) [more inside]
posted by geegollygosh at 8:34 AM PST - 29 comments

Women adventurers

I am trying to put together a list of women explorers from history. An example, meant to be illustrative rather than limiting: [more inside]
posted by maxsparber at 8:20 AM PST - 22 comments

Extending an Aiport Express wireless network

So I have two Apple Express routers, one 1st generation, the other a 2nd generation. The new one is hooked up directly to the cable modem downstairs. I'd like to use the older one to extend the network to the upstairs and back of the house, where coverage seems spotty. But the older 1st generation router doesn't seem to extend the network. It can only join thr original network. When I try to use it to extend the network, the router light goes from green to yellow or flashing yellow. Repeated restarts of this 1st gen router, forgetting the device, resetting default settings and re-configuring don't change the inability to extend the network. Any suggestions on how to get a 1st gen Apple Express router to extend the network generated by a 2nd Gen Apple Express router?
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 7:53 AM PST - 4 comments

Where to call, email, Apartment agents?

The typical craigslist apartment ad in Boston might have (in addition to the craigslist anonymous email) a broker's corporate email, a corporate phone, or a cellphone. What is the most effective endpoint to deliver inquiries to, and at what time should it be done? [more inside]
posted by tintexas at 7:28 AM PST - 3 comments

My iPhone calendar is too smart, help me find something stupider

I am a very frequent traveler and am often in different time zones. I have an iPhone and have been using the native calendar app. Unfortunately, whenever I move between time zones my calendar "helpfully" changes the times of my flights and appointments. Using time zone support does not fix the problem, but makes it "help" in slightly different and still wrong ways. I need a calendar app that does not do this and assumes I entered the information right the first time. Does anything like this exist?
posted by bile and syntax at 7:23 AM PST - 7 comments

How to have an orgasm?

I'm female, twenty-six, haven't orgasmed, and want to. Suggestions? (NSFW.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:37 AM PST - 14 comments

Creating a music map of London for students

How can I use an ordnance survey map plus some pins/string/labels to make a Music map of London for my secondary school classroom without it taking a lot of time and effort? [more inside]
posted by Lotto at 5:57 AM PST - 6 comments

pressures to be attractive - men vs. women

My husband believes that men are just as pressured to be attractive with the same consequences socially if they aren't attractive. I think the pressures on women are MUCH higher (and much more unattainable), and that the social fallout is much larger if a woman isn't attractive and following the social norms of attractiveness. Who is right? And if I am right, help me explain this to my husband. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 4:46 AM PST - 67 comments

How often are wireless home alarms remotely disabled?

I'm looking for some stats on how often wireless home alarms are disabled. Wired alarms are superior, but by how much? Do remote alarms get blocked 5, 10 or 50% of the time?
posted by devnull at 3:55 AM PST - 0 comments

Insanely crunchy fried chicken that stays insanely crunchy

Once, I made fried chicken, and it was as close to perfect as I've even made it. The crust nearly shattered when bitten into. It was almost unbearably crispy. I have absolutely no idea how I made it, and never made any notes as to what I did. If anyone out there has found the forbidden secrets of fried chciken, and more importantly, remembers what they did to get there, I would love to hear what you did. [more inside]
posted by Ghidorah at 3:20 AM PST - 21 comments

Reverse gamification?

The recent general knowledge says you can use gamification to instill new habits, rewarding yourself for actions taken. But are there any strategies for instilling habits of *not doing* something? How can you reward something you haven't done? [more inside]
posted by gakiko at 2:14 AM PST - 17 comments

Need gift for 35 year old woman -HELP

I need a birthday gift for a glamourous 35 year old daughter of a close friend. Not a book nor a gift voucher, nothing for kitchen or home, more like beauty or fashion oriented of which she has a lot but never mind, it's the thought that counts -right? Something I can wrap and hand to them. She wears about a size 8. Budget of around $50 or £30-£40. I am really stumped-please help and thank you. And I did search previous questions.
posted by claptrap at 2:04 AM PST - 29 comments

How do I figure out if cereal will be a cheap and nutritious baby food?

We provide additional food to nursing moms and toddlers, and supplementary formula for infants (don't start on breast is best, most of our moms do nurse, this is for babies with HIV+ moms etc). Our recent evaluation shows that the 6-18 months are not doing as well as the others because they are culturally too little to eat regular food and get more watered-down formula instead, sometimes with rice mixed in. We've got tiny funding to buy more food for them and our nurse is suggesting rice cereal designed for infants, but I have no clue how to evaluate them. [more inside]
posted by viggorlijah at 2:04 AM PST - 9 comments

How to watch a bit of Dodger ephemera?

Is there a way I can watch a bit of a baseball game that wasn't really the game? [more inside]
posted by potsmokinghippieoverlord at 12:58 AM PST - 1 comment

How do I NAKED bike ride? You know, when it's permissible and orderly.

I'd like to participate in a festival-related naked bike ride! [GULP!] I've never done this, but am excited to do so. At this point, I am unsure what I need to know going into it to make it the most fun. Your inputs are welcomed! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:22 AM PST - 8 comments

July 29

HEPA filter to keep neighbors second hand smoke out?

My neighbor smokes at all hours of the day and night. We don't have an AC and have to have our windows open at night in the summers, with a fan pointed out one window, drawing his smoke in the other while we try to sleep. It bothers me and my wife a lot. Wakes us up coughing dry throat. He won't stop, we asked nicely. Are there any sort of filters we can use as a screen that will make any difference? I think it's cigars.
posted by brenton at 11:45 PM PST - 15 comments

How can I both cure my depression and get my sex drive back?

I used to like all kinds of funky sex. Since depression came into my life a few years ago, I've been far, far less sexual. In the last few months, I can't even find the will to masturbate let alone allow my beloved to penetrate me or otherwise enjoy sexual activity with me. I don't want to be depressed anymore, and I also want to get back to embodying the sexual being I used to be. How? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:54 PM PST - 10 comments

Can you give me examples of open ended pet adoption questions?

I am working to become an adoption counselor with a local no-kill animal shelter. What are some innocuous yet revealing questions that may have worked for you in a similar type of situation? [more inside]
posted by Bistle at 10:05 PM PST - 17 comments

What are some good jokes with the punchline: Change ?

I've been tasked (by my wife) with coming up with a corporate, work-safe joke with a specific punchline. That punchline is 'change'. Help? I've got nothing.
posted by duckus at 9:23 PM PST - 9 comments

Why, in my house, are the door hinge pins inserted from bottom to top?

I have an older house in Chicago. 1890s. Not sure that is relevant to the age of the doors but regardless, there are three doors (bathroom, two bedrooms) where the hinge pins are inserted from the bottom up. Occasionally this means they fall out when the tension fails to keep them in. Surprisingly this if not that often, maybe twice a year. However it is startling, prob bad for the door, hinge and floor. Anyone know a reason why a hinge may be positioned like this? Or should I just get to work flipping/replacing them?
posted by patrad at 8:58 PM PST - 6 comments

Can you lower this amount slightly?

I accidentally ran up my phone bill to $1100. I want to know what I can say, if anything, to try to lower my bill. [more inside]
posted by ostranenie at 8:36 PM PST - 14 comments

One thing, multiple perspectives

I am looking for non-fictional literary examples of a place or a specific event described by two or more writers. A dinner party, a famous travel attraction, etc. I am curious about how the exact same thing, filtered through different minds and colored by the unique experiences and personalities of the writer, can be interpreted in very different ways. A hypothetical example would be two people attend the same dinner party and write two different accounts of it, each informed by their idiosyncrasies.
posted by Pantalaimon at 8:29 PM PST - 14 comments

Cheap-ass running shoes plz.

I am looking for decent, yet cheap, running shoes for the short term. Suggestions? More inside of course. [more inside]
posted by WinterSolstice at 7:37 PM PST - 12 comments

Looking for the Metafilter of parenting

A friend of mine just had a baby in a somewhat isolated area. She's feeling alone and in need of support. Does anyone have suggestions for online communities that are respectful, articulate, and not full of woo? She says the ones she's found have been too judgmental (posts mocking/disparaging other parents), or filled with anti-vax, co-sleeping, and breastfeeding dogma. Bonus points if it has a large number women who are the main breadwinner in the family.
posted by snickerdoodle at 7:25 PM PST - 11 comments

I really liked OpenOffice

I really liked OpenOffice, but apparently it's defunct. According to this, my choices are now ApacheOpenOffice or LibreOffice. Of course, there's also Google Docs. I need something for occasional use on my home PC. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by Daddy-O at 6:32 PM PST - 17 comments

What are foods that taste better the longer you take to make them?

Chocolate chip cookies. No-knead bread. Even crepes! All of these benefit from rest time (and usually 12+ hours). Are there other foods that also taste better the longer you take to make them? [more inside]
posted by subversiveasset at 6:16 PM PST - 42 comments

School Supplies for Graduate School?

I start graduate school in a few weeks. Yay! Problem? I don't know what school and/or office supplies will be most helpful to me. Can you help me out? Do I need anything besides paper, pens, highlighters, and post its? What am I not thinking of here that may save my scholarly life later? If it helps any, I am in a non-STEM related field. Thanks so much!
posted by SkylitDrawl at 6:04 PM PST - 26 comments

Trying to improve my Internet connection in my house

I am a Verizon FIOS customer using Verizon's modem/router combo. I am having some problems getting a strong signal in one room of my house. I am torn between two options, and I would love your input. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 5:57 PM PST - 7 comments

I know nothing about grad school; is it for me?

I am an older student (in my 50s), graduating with my first B.A. in December, in anthropology. I'm very sad to leave school, as I have really enjoyed my time there (well, in this iteration--not so much when I was much younger). I absolutely LOVE going to classes and learning new stuff. I love the idea of continuing to be a student, but I'm not sure if grad school makes sense. But, mostly, I really don't understand how grad school works: [more inside]
posted by primate moon at 5:56 PM PST - 18 comments

How to save the coding of an entire website?

I'm not referring to saving a page or website to view offline, but viewing/saving the coding of an entire website without manually clicking the view source on every single page. Is this possible? Is there a program?
posted by atinna at 5:56 PM PST - 5 comments

I have only 80 hours left of work, but should I bail early?

I have severe social anxiety and depression, but I've been trying to work part-time with the support of my state's vocational rehab program. I have a natural exit point from this job coming up on August 27th, and I intend to take it. I don't know, though, if I can make it that long. [more inside]
posted by dee lee at 5:17 PM PST - 25 comments

Seeking a little patch of land under big skies

tl;dr: If you were looking for a place in the U.S. where you could own some land, in beautiful, lonesome country (utilities entirely optional) -- ideally in the mountains or the high desert -- on which to live intermittently throughout the year, where would you look? [more inside]
posted by deathmarch to epistemic closure at 4:58 PM PST - 29 comments

Should I buy a car with 170,000 miles on it?

Good maintenance/car history/reliability/price versus everything else [more inside]
posted by mermily at 4:25 PM PST - 20 comments

Crash course in nonprofit communications?

I am the de facto communications director for my nonprofit. I'd like to become actually good at it, but how? [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz at 4:13 PM PST - 5 comments

Kayakity Yak (Don't Talk Back)

Where are the best areas in the Southern California region for a new kayak owner to become familiar with kayaking? [more inside]
posted by Parasite Unseen at 3:46 PM PST - 13 comments

Help Identifying piece for RJ-45 connector

I've recently been terminating a bunch of cat 5 / rj45 connections. The connectors have been coming in these packets with this black piece that you put each individual wire through then cut the wires and put into the connectors. Anyways I want to purchase these black plastic pieces but I dont know what they are called. Can someone help me identify just this black plastic piece so that i can buy them? Here is a picture
posted by flipmiester99 at 3:33 PM PST - 3 comments

Disease-covered Puget Sound

Can you recommend songs about Washington and/or Seattle that portray it in a non-negative light? [more inside]
posted by town of cats at 1:47 PM PST - 30 comments

How can I fix this bath drain plug?

My house came with a plug like this. A few weeks back my wife unscrewed it to remove some hair and now it won't go back. It won't screw to the threads in the drain. It seems like the drain threads are slightly larger than the one in the plug. Maybe some adapter was there that fell into the drain? No idea. I bought another plug from Lowes that looked slightly larger, but it didn't thread. How can I fix this without getting a plumber to visit?
posted by jonclegg at 1:17 PM PST - 14 comments

What's the next big thing in web, app, etc. development?

I run a small web development consultancy, but we're being commoditized and priced out of business. What should we morph into? [more inside]
posted by signal at 12:38 PM PST - 9 comments

What are your best recipes with yogurt?

I bought 2 pounds (the smallest size I could find) of plain whole milk yogurt, not realizing that there was an almost-empty container in the fridge. So now I have all this yogurt with a best-by date of August 5. What are your favorite ways to use it? I'm especially interested in vegetarian main dishes (bonus points for using CSA-type veggies), but would also like ways to pair it with chicken or fish.
posted by lharmon at 12:12 PM PST - 35 comments

Hosted email provider?

My email is hosted on Outlook.com, using their recently discontinued live.domains.com service. It's fine, but I'm concerned that eventually, MS will stop supporting existing accounts using the service. What's a good hosted IMAP email service that's reliable, supports domains and aliases, and is relatively simple to configure? [more inside]
posted by lbotkins at 12:02 PM PST - 16 comments

Recommended songs for a happy young woman?

Hi. So a good friend of mine is a happy young woman, about to have her 23rd birthday. She's asked her friends for songs to play. I found a list of songs referring to being 23, here on Metafilter - but they're all generally pretty depressing and negative about being 23. Do people have songs they recommend, for happy young women in general? Her tastes are modern, rock-oriented and eclectic - she's a big fan of the Red Hot Chili Peppers, the Pretty Reckless, MGMT, and dance music, for example. thanks!
posted by metasailor at 11:53 AM PST - 22 comments

Cemeteries -- use of a period?

I was walking in an old cemetery last weekend, and I noticed that many of the tombstones dating from around the late 19th to the early 20th centuries used a period after the surname on the tombstone: "JONES." and not "JONES" by itself. Can anybody point me to any resources for learning about this particular style convention?
posted by JanetLand at 11:32 AM PST - 5 comments

Obamacare when switching jobs?

I'm moving to Texas for a new job in a few weeks. I have a health insurance question. [more inside]
posted by griseus at 11:22 AM PST - 7 comments

Having difficulty making friends in the area

I'm wondering why I had a much easier time making friends in the last area where I lived than I have had in this area. I think it has to do with the way social media has changed, but I'm not sure that's the whole story. I've asked myself what gives. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by tckma at 11:17 AM PST - 14 comments

Leaving job by mutual agreement (Canadian edition)

My employer and I just agreed that I am not a good fit for the job. What should I do? I'm in Ontario, Canada. I realize that similar questions have asked, but am specifically looking for answers that take Canadian law into account. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by ITheCosmos at 10:59 AM PST - 5 comments

B-Roll: File formats and file size

I've got a lot of B-Roll and the file sizes are too much for us to maintain them in a usable way. 300 gb for a 30 min .avi? What are decent formats/compressions that are acceptable but that also give manageable file sizes? [more inside]
posted by furtive at 10:27 AM PST - 12 comments

Conceal medical cannabis use in dating profile?

Should I disclose my frequent medical marijuana use in an online dating profile? [more inside]
posted by morganw at 10:27 AM PST - 34 comments

Please suggest a good bike for commuting: Iowa edition.

I am shopping for a new bike which I will use for a daily commute in Iowa City, and I am looking for suggestions. [more inside]
posted by Lutoslawski at 10:21 AM PST - 12 comments

What are the hardest to prepare recipes in history?

I'm putting together a list of recipes that only master cooks take on once they're at the highest levels. Dishes where the sauce alone can take two days. I need recipes that aren't new (aka it requires a magnetic cooktop) or too non-western. And I'd love if there was anything that had some history (though in general if it's a dish over 30 years old, it's going to). As in "It was prepared once for President McKinley...who fired the chef." Ideas? [more inside]
posted by rileyray3000 at 10:11 AM PST - 25 comments

Help a Newbie Figure Out How to Buy A Car

I'm an inexperienced driver in LA who is starting researching how to buy a car (I'm considering both new and used at this point but probably the latter is more likely; I'll definitely be going to some dealer showrooms) for the first time. I don't know much about cars and I am feeling a bit lost. [more inside]
posted by zresearch at 10:02 AM PST - 13 comments

Is school intergration easier for urban Black boys or girls?

I seem to recall a MeFi post a while back, but cannot find it (perhaps it was from an NPR story) that referenced a study claiming that the achievement level for urban Black boys placed in suburban schools was much lower than their female counterparts. [more inside]
posted by Stu-Pendous at 9:52 AM PST - 3 comments

Where is this picture from?

I traveled to DC, SF, NYC, and a few other cities taking photos with a film camera... and I can't tell where this photo's from. City-identifiers with good memories, help me!
posted by tmcw at 9:28 AM PST - 9 comments

Electronic-only European gift-giving ideas

I am in the US. My brother is in Europe on business, his first time out of the US, and will be there for about another six months. Right now he's in Germany, but the list of additional countries he'll go to later doesn't seem to be finalized. His birthday is coming up, and I want to send him a gift that won't generate logistical problems for him. [more inside]
posted by Bentobox Humperdinck at 8:46 AM PST - 12 comments

Where in New England can I take my dad camping to see the Perseids?

When I was very young, my dad took me camping to see the Perseid meteors; it was one of the defining experiences of my life. Now I am grown and he is nearly old, and I would like to turn it around. Help me find a suitable mountaintop in New England to go camping with my dad; somewhere where we won't have to see anyone else. Details within. [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 8:35 AM PST - 12 comments

Learning Japanese and would like some Japanese-subbed sources.

Hi, I'm learning Japanese and am a big fan of anime/manga/tv shows. I'm far enough long in my studies where I would like to start watching/reading them with Japanese subtitles instead of English subtitles. The only problem is... I'm having a hard time finding manga/anime. Any sources for original Japanese manga or Japanese-subbed anime? (Like Fullmetal Alchemist: Brotherhood)
posted by Thanquol180 at 8:21 AM PST - 13 comments

Insulation Information?

Our house is a small Cape, with a crawlspace attic. We’re going to get a home energy audit in the next couple of weeks, and the insulation of the attic is of particular concern for us, as it really gets quite warm on our second floor. Can I get your insulation wisdom here? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 8:15 AM PST - 3 comments

What is the best thing to do with $10,000?

I have just found out that I will be inheriting $10,000. I want to maximize whatever I do with it, but I am not sure where to start... [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 7:32 AM PST - 19 comments

sigh.

I'm no longer sure what my problem is or what medications to try. blizzard inside for those that enjoy helping others sort their mental health issues.... [more inside]
posted by inmyhead at 7:28 AM PST - 26 comments

Appointment Scheudling Application

I have a one person business, and need software to manage my appointments with clients. I have spent (wasted) a lot of time investigating different applications that end up having fatal flaws, so I am hoping that someone out there will be familiar with an app that meets a few simple criteria. [more inside]
posted by elf27 at 7:22 AM PST - 7 comments

Forums for Grammar Nerds?

I feel like I should be able to find this somehow, but I'm just not having much luck - where do grammar nerds go online? I'd like to find some forums. I've found a few language blogs (and if you can recommend more of those, too, I'd appreciate it) and a couple of grammar forums, but they weren't quite what I'm looking for. I want a place to really geek out on grammar/language - sentence diagramming, obscure grammatical rules, history of the English language, etc.
posted by signalandnoise at 7:05 AM PST - 7 comments

SOUND OF THE SHOFAR Needed - LP - 1 HOUR OR MORE

Where can I find the sound of the Shofar blasts in long-play - without any other instrument - one hour or more on the net, in any format? Been looking and all I can find is short blasts.
posted by watercarrier at 6:46 AM PST - 7 comments

How deep is too deep?

Questions about deep throating, not sure if I'm going too far - NSFW. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:36 AM PST - 9 comments

Shall I hang on to my CDs?

I am remodeling my attic space to be office/mancave/storage. I have about 3,000 cds boxed and sitting in a closet. I have not played a CD in over 3 years. So I feel I need some nudging or suggestions, you see. In the new attic space I will have room to display them on shelves. I am torn as to do this, keep them boxed or just unload them. My collection is reflective of my non- commercial, eclectic tastes so I am wondering if they have any value as well. BY value I mean cash value. Are CDs dead media these days or are folks collecting them as well. Torn and confused Please, hive, tell me your thoughts
posted by citybuddha at 6:26 AM PST - 12 comments

Continuous photo backup on iPhone?

How do I get my photos on my iPhone 5 to be automatically made available online permanently, wirelessly, and SUPER-easy to access? iCloud? Do i need a third party service? I just want every photo I take on my iPhone to be continuously backed up online somewhere, so that even if I delete it on the iPhone, it's still preserved, and I can grab it on a computer without having to sync the phone. Thanks.
posted by shivohum at 5:51 AM PST - 22 comments

Unsure about path to academia

My goal is to become a university professor but I'm torn whether to do a second master's degree or go straight for a PhD. I can get decent funding for a master's but am I treading water? [more inside]
posted by nagoya at 5:48 AM PST - 18 comments

Help for excessive nighttime urination?

I would like non-medical suggestions for reducing the number of times I need to get up at night to pee. [more inside]
posted by mysterious_stranger at 5:46 AM PST - 26 comments

What's that site

I remember discovering a site in, god, 2007 or 2008 I think, possible through Metafilter, that had a theme every month (I very much remember the theme 'Anarchy') and published a number of essays around that theme. Not essays by readers, essays by scholars. I think the essays somehow had to be written in reaction to each other. It was super interesting, but I lost track of it and now I don't know what it was called anymore, or even whether it still exists. Anyone know what I'm talking about?
posted by Skyanth at 4:09 AM PST - 5 comments

How do I change the bulb in this light fixture?

I can't for the life of me get the hang of changing the bulb in this wall-mounted lighting fixture. I've done it before but it always takes me ages, I'm never quite sure how I did it, and this time I just can't seem to get it open no matter what I do. [more inside]
posted by désoeuvrée at 3:33 AM PST - 11 comments

I want to make an Unknown Pleasures album cover cake.

One of my very best friends is turning 40 and the theme for his party is Madchester. He and I are big Joy Division/New Order fans and bonded over music many years ago :) I am making his birthday cake and would like some help with the decorating. [more inside]
posted by stellathon at 3:13 AM PST - 14 comments

July 28

Before gas, did candles really illuminate rooms well?

Watching A period piece film and wondering if, before gas and electric lighting, having a roomful of candles ever really illuminated things as much as they appear here or were all large rooms of the time like spotily-lit caverns after dark? [more inside]
posted by Senor Cardgage at 11:13 PM PST - 18 comments

Desperately seeking children's book about two girls who...ride horses?

Okay, this is the longest of long shots, so feel free to roll your eyes. ;) I'm looking for a 1970's-ish picture book about two girls who are best friends and enter a magic world at the bottom of the garden, where they ride horses. [more inside]
posted by Salamander at 10:12 PM PST - 6 comments

Is this normal? Toddler day care edition

Mini-me is starting day care at a place that takes the toddlers to a local park every day. I'm cool with this (wearing him out FTW!) but they apparently have the class walk there — about six blocks through a dense urban area. I was a little surprised by this practice for such little kids (18-36 months). Husband is really concerned about the whole thing and I'm not sure what to think. Is this actually a totally reasonable thing for toddlers to do in a group care environment? [more inside]
posted by annekate at 9:22 PM PST - 42 comments

We All Scream For Sour Cream

My wife came home with close to a gallon of sour cream the other day. (Don't ask.) What on earth can we do with all of it? Recipes calling for a dollop here or a smidge there simply won't cut it. We need volume here, people! Please help us, MeFi!
posted by bluejayway at 8:35 PM PST - 45 comments

Video suggestions for a classical music obsessed 12 year old w/ austim?

My nephew is a musical genius- perfect pitch, memorized discography of most prominent classical composers, and he plays clarinet and piano (also almost any instrument he picks up.) He has autism and has been preoccupied with the Baby Einstein (and language and Beethoven) series since he was very, very young (a baby). I think one of the reasons he still holds onto it and will watch it over and over is because it's visually and musically interesting with out having a plot that his attention cannot hold onto or is too difficult to grasp emotionally. Anyone have recommendations for music/band films that would be appropriate for a 12 year old that is visually interesting with out a plot? He has watched almost every Disney and classic musical out there, but I wonder if there is something like the BE series, but more mature. Thanks!
posted by nbaseman at 8:04 PM PST - 24 comments

The clothes on my back.

I'm a lady, it's hot, I'm shaped weird, I need something to wear that looks nice and isn't t-shirts, and my fashion sense is totally failing me. Relevant details inside. [more inside]
posted by WidgetAlley at 7:53 PM PST - 18 comments

How do I navigate this doctor versus physical therapist situation?

My MD prescribed a kind of leg bracing, anticipating relatively quick results. My physical therapist is like no way. How do I get to the bottom of this without causing awkwardness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:09 PM PST - 9 comments

Best Route from Billings to Eugene?

My husband is going to be traveling from Billings, MT to Eugene, OR and is still trying to determine the best route to take. He will be towing a small trailer with a Ford Ranger and he's not very familiar with mountain driving, so would like the easiest route, time is less important. Any suggestions, or even general tips I can pass along?
posted by Quizzical Hamster at 7:00 PM PST - 7 comments

Is it me??

I need your job advice [more inside]
posted by and hey Charlie at 6:27 PM PST - 16 comments

Probable precocious puberty. Now what?!

It's more than likely my 5 and a half year old daughter is undergoing precocious puberty. Now what? [more inside]
posted by ramix at 5:54 PM PST - 12 comments

Because you needed another dog butt question today

My dog just had an accident inside for the second time this week and probably the 15th this summer after 8 years of never having one. I am getting really fed up. Warning: gross descriptions of dog poo inside. [more inside]
posted by deus ex machina at 5:49 PM PST - 19 comments

Help me make a beet slaw I can refrigerate for weeks.

I want to make a beet slaw for adding to lettuce-based salad. The thing is, I'm unlikely to eat it all immediately, so I want to make a bunch, put it in a jar in the fridge and consume it over a period of weeks. I want to do this without dying of food poisoning, mold eating, or fermented beet alcohol poisoning. [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 5:06 PM PST - 18 comments

Regular, temporary evening meeting space in Manhattan?

I'm working with two collaborators on a project, and I'm looking for a small temporary meeting space for three people, somewhere in Manhattan, for use only in the evenings. [more inside]
posted by suedehead at 4:35 PM PST - 4 comments

Looking for video sources/movie references for natural phenomena

I'm searching for visual reference material, in the area of kinetic natural phenomena - think falling rocks, volcanic eruptions, flowing magma, good tornado sequences, anything menacing, optimally POV. Photorealistic preferable, CG perfectly suitable, any duration, web or DVD sourced, docs or movies. Thanks!
posted by dbiedny at 4:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me reprogram the self-punishing part of my brain

At the end of a project, regardless of how the rest of the world feels about it, I am almost always sad and angry at myself about how it went. Sometimes I imagine myself being punished for imperfections, e.g. by being attacked and beaten to death with pipes because of bugs in submitted code. Other times I project this unhappiness and anger onto other people, e.g. imagining that colleagues are disappointed in me, until they actually say outright that they are pleased with how something went. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:20 PM PST - 18 comments

high-concept low-spectacle speculative realistic fiction

What are some good novels that have a high-concept speculative element in the background, but aren't quite about that? [more inside]
posted by threeants at 3:58 PM PST - 34 comments

I don't have friends.

I'm interested in improving my social or networking skills for a better perspective on life. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 3:53 PM PST - 8 comments

Building my own WISP II: Teach me about POE injectors.

As part of my continuing attempt to build a wireless bridge to bring the internet to my house, I have obtained two used Tranzeo TR902-11f 900Mhz wireless access points sans any power supply. Please help me find (cheaply) POE injectors for these WAPs. [more inside]
posted by ennui.bz at 3:43 PM PST - 4 comments

Farsi Translation/Botany Question! What does the word "Bita" mean?

In the Persian song "Gole Bita" (گل بیتا) what does the word "Bita" refer to? Is there a flower called "Bita," or is that too literal of a reading? [more inside]
posted by ariela at 3:43 PM PST - 3 comments

I need a job yesterday. I'm still stuck. Where do I go from here?

Many of the details in this question still apply. Logistics aren't that big of a deal anymore, and I'm chipping away ever so slowly at my social anxiety and fluency issue, but I'm still without prospects and now about $12k in debt on account of some reckless impulse spending and unpaid debt from college. Can the hivemind help get me out from under this? Snowstorm inside. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 3:42 PM PST - 8 comments

ASS GLAND APOCALYPSE

My dog has fantastically, horribly, monstrously overactive anal glands. The vet believes it may be due to allergies, but so far no treatments have been successful. I am reaching the end of my rope. [more inside]
posted by elizardbits at 3:27 PM PST - 44 comments

What kind of Fiber patch cable do I need

Help me find the right fiber patch cord between an HP and a Cisco switch. [more inside]
posted by MiG at 3:06 PM PST - 4 comments

Short-term housing in San Francisco

I'm considering attending a six-month web development bootcamp in San Francisco that runs from October to April, and I'm wondering what I can expect to pay for housing. I'm interested in learning both about cheaper arrangements like SROs in Chinatown and housing oriented towards students, as well as about what it might cost to get a room in a "normal" multi-bedroom apartment for that period. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:03 PM PST - 7 comments

What to do about a fridge of rotten food?

I own a house in TX that currently doesn't have a resident. Due to some issues that don't really matter for this question, the power got disconnected July 1. 4 weeks later, I assume the situation is dire. What is the best thing to do? Dispose of the whole fridge or get someone to clean it? [more inside]
posted by emilisha at 3:03 PM PST - 19 comments

Best vegetarian sausage for a pescetarian, at-home clambake

I'm having guests over for a clambake and, because of dietary restrictions, will have to use vegetarian sausage instead of linguica or chorizo. I need your help figuring out what brand of vegetarian sausage to use--something that the meat-eaters won't mind. [more inside]
posted by yellowcandy at 3:03 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me make the most of the time my mother has left.

My mother has terminal cancer, and I don't know how much time she has left. Others with experience losing a parent: what would I regret not doing with this time? [more inside]
posted by joan cusack the second at 2:52 PM PST - 27 comments

Vegetable stock: what makes it amazing and how best to use it?

This is a two-part question.... I have the idea of a "stone soup" kind of fall gathering where everyone brings something to make a huge pot of vegetable stock. I need to know what makes good stock – what to put in and what to leave out – and then what should I make at the party for us all to eat and enjoy some of this stock right away? [more inside]
posted by amanda at 2:29 PM PST - 10 comments

Divorce how to

I want to separate from my spouse. What can I do to minimize stress and maximize my resolve? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:33 PM PST - 19 comments

Best. Paint. Ever. This is the paint we are looking for.

Hi all! We found a color we like and, I'm assuming, we can get a paint color match (right? at least pretty close?) in any paint brand. So... what's the best satin, low-lustre or eggshell paint brand? [more inside]
posted by ancient star at 1:32 PM PST - 20 comments

Tablet for Comics

I want to get a 10" tablet just for reading comics. There are a LOT of cheap options out there. I don't want it for gaming or drum machines or word processing or really wifi connectivity. Just reading comics in HD with smooth touch controls. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 1:27 PM PST - 12 comments

How can I provide a VPN connection for someone in China

Hi Everyone I would like to help a friend in China access Bloomberg, Youtube and a few other sites unaccessible from China. I have a few spare computers, can use Linux, Mac etc. Any ideas? I thought about Remote Desktop but perhaps a VPN solution will be better. Thanks! BB
posted by bright77blue at 1:18 PM PST - 9 comments

There's no escape

Adrift, lonely and feeling hopeless. Advice would be appreciated. [more inside]
posted by morning_television at 12:46 PM PST - 14 comments

Where can I find truly hypoallergenic bandages?

Every adhesive bandage I've used in the last year has irritated my skin to some degree. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by hollyholly at 12:13 PM PST - 18 comments

Tell me again why teenagers shouldn't be having sex.

My 15-yr old daughter recently told me she has been having sex with her boyfriend of 10 months (also 15 y.o.) [more inside]
posted by cherrybounce at 11:57 AM PST - 79 comments

Bipolar Oven

My oven is bipolar: when I follow the instructions for frozen pizza, it's done in about 66% of the time, i.e. instructions say 18min, it's done in 12, usually less - 18min would burn it to a crisp. Thicker things, like pork roasts or heating a pre-cooked ham, are barely tepid in the center at the time in their instructions, i.e. instructions say 45min, takes over an hour to get to the recommended temperature. The oven is a generic, in-every-apartment-I've-ever-had kind of stove. What's it's problem? [more inside]
posted by AzraelBrown at 11:32 AM PST - 17 comments

Bringing Bloggers On Board

Please give me guidance on how to find professional bloggers and work with them. [more inside]
posted by Leontine at 10:57 AM PST - 4 comments

"Asian" Flush Syndrome without flushing (or "Asian" lineage)?

I went to a gastroenterologist recently who tentatively diagnosed me with Acetaldehyde Dehydrogenase Deficiency (which causes the so-called "asian" flush). I am caucasian with some Russian descent, and I do not get flushed when I drink. Are there any precedents for non-asian, non-flushing sufferers of this enzyme deficiency? Should I get a second opinion? [more inside]
posted by qzar at 10:49 AM PST - 27 comments

How much home insurance do we need?

We're looking to switch providers, and the quotes are based on very different replacement-value amounts. What do we actually need? [more inside]
posted by Dashy at 10:38 AM PST - 6 comments

Where should I read fiction online?

What are the best websites/blogs/etc. to read contemporary fiction? I'm particularly interested in writing by women, experimental fiction, and magical realism, not necessarily all at once. [more inside]
posted by dysh at 10:30 AM PST - 6 comments

How can I clean a moldy-smelling down comforter?

I left a damp down comforter sitting in the dryer for a couple of days, and now it has a gross moldy smell. How can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by bobafet at 10:06 AM PST - 16 comments

I would like to be the Lord of the Flies.

There are a couple bushes in our front yard that are attracting an insane amount of flies. How do I destroy them, and make my front yard livable again? [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 9:56 AM PST - 12 comments

How to open "file://" hyperlinks in Internet Explorer 10?

How to open "file://" hyperlinks in Internet Explorer 10? [more inside]
posted by colecovizion at 9:46 AM PST - 5 comments

Would you use toilet paper that had a mouldy bit on it?

I'm housesitting and the loo roll (toilet paper) seems to have gone a tad mouldy. I obviously took the moudly bits off and chucked them in the bin but I am now left wondering whether the mould might have left spores in the rest of the loo rool, invisible to the naked eye. [more inside]
posted by mrsh at 9:35 AM PST - 17 comments

Renovation Logistics

A few related questions about light renovating and filling of an apartment (with some NYC-specific stuff.) [more inside]
posted by griphus at 9:15 AM PST - 14 comments

Is it legal to require a security deposit before running a credit check?

I'm looking to rent a new apartment in NYC. For our 3 previous NYC apartments, we’ve filled out an application and paid an application fee and then once our application was approved, paid security deposit / first month’s rent at lease signing. The management company for the apartment that we are looking to rent is requesting the following: we fill out an application, pay an application fee and give them a security deposit equal to one month’s rent. If our credit is approved, then the security deposit is non-refundable and we basically have to sign a lease. Is this legal? [more inside]
posted by bzn at 9:09 AM PST - 7 comments

BREAD ME! Easy and fast recipes using sourdough starter to eat today.

I have about 1/4+ cup of sourdough starter to use up. Tell me what I can make that I can eat today. [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot at 8:48 AM PST - 8 comments

How can I put a value on this (piece of furniture)?

I have a piece of furniture that I bought at a garage sale about 8 years ago for around $50. We need to get rid of it, but I don't know how much to sell it for. I think it's possible it's worth more than $50. [more inside]
posted by pyjammy at 8:46 AM PST - 15 comments

What to plant on/do with 17 acres NW WI newly cropped of pines?

We have friends with restaurants who would buy fingerlings, table flowers, herbs, etc. We have an artesian well. We have a giant ancient hops vines we could grow more with clippings. That's about all our ideas for now. Thank you.
posted by Kazimirovna at 8:30 AM PST - 3 comments

One Mistake Changes Everything?

I'm trying to get to the bottom of something that happened over the weekend -- to nutshell, was cuffed and placed in a holding cell and charged with an OWI. Never been in trouble before. Looking for a lawyer, but seem to either be told that they have fees that I could never afford to pay, or that they can get me into a diversion program which I'm pretty sure is offered to first time offenders anyway. Help? Details behind cut. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:29 AM PST - 22 comments

total spider freakout identification filter... what is this monster?

We live in st Petersburg fla near the beach and intercoastal. This thing is dime sized, on a web, and making me want to stay at work..... What the heck is it? Arachnophobia trigger warning.... Picture here
posted by chasles at 7:52 AM PST - 13 comments

Financial Assistance for Adding New Siding With Insulation.

I posted a question last year about safely scraping peeling lead paint from my house and repainting. Pros estimate $25-30K (yikes!). One reply suggested that "It may...be cheaper to just get rid of the old wood siding and just install some new one. If you do that, you might want to look into adding insulation; there could be programs that would provide some financial assistance." Does anyone have a suggestion as to how to find such a program? FWIW I'm in Westchester county in NY state.
posted by Quisp Lover at 7:49 AM PST - 6 comments

How To Re-Program Extenstions in an NEC office phone?

Have used google to no real avail. My office has an NEC Aspire system. Can't locate model number, but is a 22-button main phone. I need to reprogram the extensions on an employee's phone and am not finding instructions anywhere. Help?
posted by miltoncat at 7:47 AM PST - 2 comments

Let's get physical (in fiction)

Recommend me novels that have a strong component of sport, physical training, or exercise. [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 7:32 AM PST - 23 comments

What sports can someone start doing at 30 and become world class at?

Are there any? The only possibilities I can immediately think of are Lawn Bowls and Shooting. And maybe varieties of race car driving (I'm not sure if there's a physical fitness component to this at all?) Is there anything you could say this of that IS a more physical sport?
posted by Kirn at 6:09 AM PST - 53 comments

What are inter-disciplinary and atypical uses for math MSc?

I have just completed my MSc in mathematics in Europe. I do enjoy math, but I spent my uni years feeling like a autodidact hippie marooned on an island full of Mr and Mrs I-Want-A-Good-Job. My main interests revolve around humanities (literature/history/anthropology) and economics (but not finance), and instead of starting a "stable" well-paying career I dream about something inter-disciplinary. I am very open to earning little money and relocating just to do kind of work that engages those skills. What are some random uses of my degree? [more inside]
posted by desultory_banyan at 5:02 AM PST - 12 comments

Hurricane preparedness - When the power goes out

I have a battery operated NOAA weather radio, but can you recommend a battery operated small over-the-air (terrestrial) TV. I have looked at Amazon and found a RCA DHT235A 3.5-Inch LED-lit 720p 60Hz TV. Bonus if it can run off a 12V battery as well. (I am in N. Florida)
posted by lungtaworld at 4:31 AM PST - 4 comments

Who was Barry Wom's (The Rutles) mystery bride?

I recently re-watched the wonderful mockumentary "All You Need Is Cash" and once again the joke about Barry Wom's bride to be and the Scotsmen from Hull flew right over my head. [more inside]
posted by soundofsuburbia at 3:58 AM PST - 4 comments

Can I eat this? Peking Duck edition.

I have a 5 day old carcass of a cooked duck in a plastic bag in the fridge. [more inside]
posted by thegirlwiththehat at 2:58 AM PST - 16 comments

How to hide a pair of HDTV wall mounts?

I'm about to rent an apartment that has a pair of HDTV mounts; one in the living room, and a smaller one in the bedroom. Anyone got any ideas for creative, non-destructive repurposings for wall mounted HDTV racks? [more inside]
posted by StrangeTikiGod at 12:54 AM PST - 7 comments

Best starter mattress?

Outfitting my new apartment and I'm in need of a queen-size mattress... price range $200-$600. I like soft beds but don't have a great back either, and generally I sleep well in hotel beds. Already have an Ikea bed and slightly flexible slatted base--can I put a memory foam mattress directly on top of this setup? Otherwise, what mattress should I acquire and where, which will arrive in under a week? Thanks in advance!
posted by serelliya at 12:06 AM PST - 11 comments

July 27

What's a nice dinner date spot in Budapest?

What's a good dinner (first-)date spot in Budapest for a couple of twenty-somethings? I'm 25, they're 28. I'd prefer Pest side, something not too loud, not super expensive by Budapest-ian standards.
posted by yaymukund at 11:46 PM PST - 5 comments

A sad, sad life

I have been isolated and depressed for 10 years. I need help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:12 PM PST - 34 comments

scared of the gym post-boob-job

I'm the Anon from this question. You smarties were on the ball -- but now that I'm post-surgery what do I do next? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:57 PM PST - 17 comments

InDesign endotes: Still no solution?

I'm designing a long book in InDesign CC and I need to have endnotes (for each chapter) at the end of the book instead of footnotes on each page. According to several links (1, 2, and 3), this is not possible in InD CC. Keeping in mind that I have absolutely no scripting experience, do you know about any plugin I can download or any easy workaround for this?
posted by omar.a at 10:12 PM PST - 4 comments

My Mother's legal guardian is a crook. What can I do as her son?

My Mother's legal guardian is a crook. What can I do as her son? [more inside]
posted by hobodeluxe at 9:47 PM PST - 9 comments

I want to have a gifted shotgun transported across state lines

My father is gifting me his shotgun. He and the gun are in Maryland. I am in New Mexico. Googling tells me that if he handed to me in person there would be no issues and no paperwork required. It also tells me that to be shipped interstate the gun can't be shipped to me directly but must be shipped to someone with an FFL. Apparently My father can ship it out even though he does not have an FFL but the recipient must be licensed. [more inside]
posted by Warren Terra at 9:04 PM PST - 5 comments

Singer-songwriter from the 1980s

A friend asked this question on Facebook just now, so I'm passing it on: Any clue who this is? Singer-songwriter. Came on the scene in the mid-eighties. A New Yorker. Titillated journalists dwelt on the fact that she left home at thirteen to move in with some African musicians, with her parents’ okay. Wrote a song about a dream in which she made love with her mother.
posted by zadcat at 8:54 PM PST - 3 comments

Our new TV stand has terrible airflow! Help!

We just got a new TV stand that has doors in the front, and a back that's nearly solid except for several small cutouts for wires. We have a TiVo and a receiver in there, and they're ridiculously hot after just a few hours of being on. How can I improve airflow so I don't burn out my components? [more inside]
posted by gchucky at 8:39 PM PST - 8 comments

Are we spending too much on bus fare in Sydney?

Currently my partner commutes to work from Enmore to Lane Cove. It is costing around $12 per day, I've googled around for cheaper ways but come up with nothing - are we missing some way to cut the cost or do we have to suck it up? [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday at 7:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Smartphone game to play as a family (adults)?

I am around 50 years old and my kids are around 30. Is there one really cool smartphone game we could play together? [more inside]
posted by cda at 7:55 PM PST - 12 comments

What are some examples of cities that were founded in illogical places?

I know that most cities have a reason for being where they are(near a river, natural harbor etc) but I'm curious about cities that are actually in poorly chosen locations or make no sense at all. I'm sure several of the southwest cities may meet this bill but also curious about global cities too.
posted by aleatorictelevision at 7:27 PM PST - 30 comments

Just let me read the goddamn book

Kindle filter: How can I disable popular highlights? The Help instrux aren't much help, i.e., they don't work. (I have Kindle across several platforms.) HELP!
posted by LonnieK at 5:57 PM PST - 5 comments

Famous Louisville art glass maker?

Some time ago an acquaintance gave me a large vase that she said was made by a famous art glass maker in Louisville, Kentucky. I can't remember the name of the maker, but got the sense from her that it was a company that would be well-known among aficionados of art glass, as much as, say, Viking is. However, Google searches haven't produced anything definitive. Does anyone know what this company might be?
posted by Mechitar at 5:13 PM PST - 10 comments

Let there be light!

We need a light source for our patio area... With some special snowflake requirements below. [more inside]
posted by LaBellaStella at 5:06 PM PST - 6 comments

Back to school?

Why did you get a master's in atmospheric sciences? What kinds of jobs are available for people with this training? I have my BA and am considering going back to school. I love weather and that part of the newscast is always my favorite. Your stories and any insight would be appreciated. Thanks!
posted by rabu at 4:54 PM PST - 6 comments

Can you identify this plant?

Garden peeps: any idea what this might be? [more inside]
posted by New England Cultist at 4:18 PM PST - 13 comments

moonshine and gossamer

I love having a moon phase widget on my android phone. Three days ago I noticed the one I had, had disappeared. I then downloaded a few others to try. Paid apps even! None of them change on the desktop(?) of the phone, indicating where the moon is in its cycle. Is this because I have mobile data turned off to save battery power? Or is there another reason? I also downloaded the app Sun and Moon but is it anywhere to be found on my phone except in My Apps to uninstall? Is it heck. What's going on?
posted by glasseyes at 3:55 PM PST - 10 comments

Training for a Marathon post-injury

I'm registered for the Chicago Marathon this October (in 11 weeks) . It'll be my first race running this far. I also bruised the hell out of my heel 2 weeks ago. Now that I can run again, how do I adjust my training plan? [more inside]
posted by garlic at 3:46 PM PST - 8 comments

Going to the chapel...

I'm getting hitched! On September 6th! My dress doesn't fit, and it needs to be altered. [more inside]
posted by Elly Vortex at 3:44 PM PST - 6 comments

I want my nose to stop running

My nose runs all the time, despite not having a cold. I don't think I am allergic to anything - I don't have the itching or sneezing that goes with allergies, and being around animals or flowers doesn't make it worse. I don't have any sinus issues. Also it's a year-round affair, though worse in winter. I'm tired of it! Can anyone offer any advice? [more inside]
posted by beccyjoe at 3:40 PM PST - 21 comments

How to Design a Course's Curriculum: High School Edition

What curriculum design frameworks and resources should I use to develop a high school level art course? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger at 3:11 PM PST - 5 comments

Grapes for outdoor patio

We planted six grapevines under the trellised roof of our outdoor deck. We planted them by six wood post that are 4x4 and 8 feet tall. What are the best ways to keep these new vines thriving? [more inside]
posted by timpanogos at 2:26 PM PST - 5 comments

Eclectic Female Fiddler, Active In The 1980s

I'm a fiddle player, and long ago and far away I had an LP by a female classically-trained fiddler/violinist. For the life of me I can't recall the woman's name, but I do remember she recorded that song based on the Robert Burns poem "John Anderson, My Jo". She both sang the song and played the violin. The LP was an eclectic collection of mostly instrumental Celtic and American old-time tunes. Anyone remember this musician's name?
posted by Agave at 2:10 PM PST - 9 comments

Peep Out Of Our Peephole, People!

My partner and I just moved into a new apartment in Queens. There's one small issue, and it's our peephole. It's missing the cover on the inside. Where can I get a replacement? [more inside]
posted by SansPoint at 1:50 PM PST - 9 comments

The logistics of parmesan on bolognaise.

I have made a lovely bolognaise. I think it would be even lovelier with parmesan. If I buy some parmesan I won't use up the whole wedge. Is there anything interesting I could use the leftover parmesan for? Or alternatively, something other than parmesan that is dynamite on a bolognaise sauce. [more inside]
posted by Lorc at 1:36 PM PST - 35 comments

Take me to St. Louis -- with my husband and child

I just got funding to travel to St. Louis to do an oral history project. Yay! Where should I stay and how should I travel? And what should my husband/infant do during the day? [more inside]
posted by EtTuHealy at 1:30 PM PST - 6 comments

Where can I get plain ramen noodles?

Where can I get plain (par-cooked) ramen noodles in NYC? I'm talking about frozen/refrigerated, not dried. I work in Midtown, so I'm near some Japanese groceries, but all I've seen are frozen packages that include soup- is there a better option than buying those and throwing out the broth? Also, are there particular brands to look out for?
posted by mkultra at 12:38 PM PST - 10 comments

VH1 Classic for Babies

I'd like to put together a playlist of great live musical performances on Youtube to play for my baby. What are your favorites? [more inside]
posted by Potomac Avenue at 12:34 PM PST - 16 comments

Most flexible travel website?

Looking for a website that will let me look at multi-leg international travel that's also flexible about dates so I can poke around for best fare options. [more inside]
posted by colin_l at 12:25 PM PST - 4 comments

How much do stimulants help with procrastination/hyperfocus in ADHD?

I'm reasonably confident I'd meet criteria for ADHD if assessed. I've been loathe to consider meds for a variety of reasons, but if meds would significantly contribute to addressing the kinds of problems I'm experiencing, over and above behavioural strategies, I'd reconsider. [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 12:11 PM PST - 12 comments

RIP, 1930s leopard

I bought a box of miscellaneous vintage things, mostly fur hats. At the bottom of the box was a muff that appears to be made of leopard. I know that I cannot legally resell it on the Internet, or in any other way that crosses state lines. So what should I do with it? Keep it? Resell in my vintage shop space in my own state? Viking funeral? [more inside]
posted by nonasuch at 11:43 AM PST - 6 comments

Please help me ID this song.

Popped into my girlfriend’s head yesterday and neither of us can name it. A familiar tune; instrumental from the ’70s? Driving us crazy! Link is to me (poorly) singing it. http://picosong.com/ceuX/
posted by judomadonna at 11:20 AM PST - 4 comments

What kind of car is in this political advertisement?

What is the car in this political advertisement? I believe it says Chevrolet on the front, but I'm not sure. Please limit discussion to identifying the car and not the people or politics in the ad - thanks. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m2hSvyNHJN8
posted by Seeking Direction at 10:40 AM PST - 7 comments

MTEAhelp.com- are they a legitimate website?

I have a payment showing on my bank statement from "MTEAhelp.com" for approx. £30. I don't remember buying anything online on that day, so I'm wondering if I've been scammed? [more inside]
posted by Musashi Daryl at 8:21 AM PST - 7 comments

Abandoning a gluten-free diet

A close relative is following a gluten-free diet. It's been two years and she feels the same as she did when she started. She's starting to think that maybe she's *not* gluten intolerant after all and got caught up in the hype. Have you or anyone close to you abandoned a GF diet? Did you/then wean back on or go all-in? [more inside]
posted by kimberussell at 8:04 AM PST - 33 comments

Orient me to Montclair / Bloomfield, NJ

We are moving to New Jersey on the Bloomfield / Montclair border. I know nothing about the neighborhoods except their reputations. Help me hit the ground running with things I should know, especially best coffee, food, shopping, parks, health services, business services and other things that wikipedia has left out. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by safetyfork at 7:45 AM PST - 8 comments

Race vs. sexual orientation article

Please help me find a Colin Powell article, circa mid nineties, comparing sexual orientation and race. [more inside]
posted by Amalie-Suzette at 7:37 AM PST - 6 comments

Statistical power and the validity of experimental results

What is the relationship between statistical power and the validity of an experiment in general? If I have low power, but a very low p value, am I still OK? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 6:03 AM PST - 7 comments

Now I know how Darth Vader feels.

So it turns the constant respiratory infections I've had for years, the endless hacking coughs, what I thought was whooping cough resulting in broken ribs during my pregnancy and the constant, constant disgusting mucus has been misdiagnosed asthma all along. What now? [more inside]
posted by Jubey at 4:47 AM PST - 27 comments

Help me buy this ring box for my fiancé. Details below.

So my fiancé and I have already picked out our wedding rings and will be getting them (coincidently) exactly one year before our wedding. Our engagement party is the following night. I want to surprise her with this ring box. Only problem is the company does not ship to Australia. What are my options and roughly how much would postage cost to Brisbane, Australia.
posted by thelloydshow at 4:25 AM PST - 7 comments

Name that TV show

Based on a few vague memories, can you guys help me find a British TV series from the 80's? It involved roses, a maze and pairs of flying eyes that were spies for an evil sorcerer/king. It might be the TV show "Into the Labryrinth" but I can't tell for sure. Does this jog any memories for anyone? [more inside]
posted by ninazer0 at 3:20 AM PST - 2 comments

Lost credit and debit cards abroad. How do I get new ones?

Backpacking Europe and lost my wallet, which held my debit and credit cards. I still have a backup stash, my US passport, and a friend who will lend me money. In about three weeks I plan on traveling alone. Canceled all my cards, now I need new ones. My card issuers can send by mail at varying speeds. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by alligatorman at 1:35 AM PST - 5 comments

Urgent help needed - vegan gluten free cake recipe

Google is being horribly unhelpful on this one. I have volunteered to make a fruit cake for a friend's wedding. It must be dairy-free, gluten-free, soya-free and wheat-free. Difficult part: I live in Belgium, which doesn't seem to cater for dietary requirements like this, plus there's a language barrier. Actually, given that list of dietary requirements, the Belgian bit might be the easy part. Oh well. Calling MeFi bakers anyway! [more inside]
posted by fearnothing at 1:25 AM PST - 28 comments

July 26

How do I cut a small rectangular hole in plastic?

I'd like to tidy up my Raspberry Pi projects by putting them in custom cases. The pre-made cases have holes for every port, which I don't need (and sometimes I have sensors and other things that need holes of their own). I have some plastic project boxes, but I'm not sure how best to cut the holes I do need. [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 10:15 PM PST - 6 comments

O Polonia, our home and native land

My boyfriend and I are both interested in taking a gap year to teach English abroad. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:54 PM PST - 6 comments

Step/half siblings getting along

What is the relationship between step or half siblings like as children? from parent or child perspectives [more inside]
posted by ichomp at 9:42 PM PST - 15 comments

Odd bedding question - help a guy replace his blankie...

I've had this comforter since I was a kid (I think it's probably around 35yrs old now). I'm not sure what material it is, or how it has held up over the years, but it's my favorite -- my wife (understandably) looks at it strangely, but puts up with it. It's a early-eighties brownish orange, and has pilled up considerably, probably my favorite feature -- I know it's weird, I just like the feeling. [more inside]
posted by theplatypus at 9:08 PM PST - 13 comments

My Mismatched Crap + X = Beautiful Bedroom. Solve for X.

We're putting down new wood floors in our bedroom. We've got lovely curtains, terrific bedding. And I just painted the walls a pleasant grey/purple tone. But our dresser and headboard are two different shades of cheap light-colored IKEA wooden stuff. The new floor is yet another light wood tone. Is there some kind of wash or paint treatment I can apply to my headboard and dresser that will pull them out of the light wood range and into the other colors in my palette, so that our stuff can finally match? [more inside]
posted by Comrade Doll at 8:45 PM PST - 12 comments

Moldingfilter

Help me find a piece of molding for a Chicago apartment [more inside]
posted by mike_bling at 8:36 PM PST - 6 comments

I am thinking of a chicken article...

I remember reading in the popular media about chickens looking at figures on the ground, I want to say it was floor plans, and spending more time looking at the ones that did not make sense somehow (and the article concluded that meant they were puzzling over them because they did not make sense). Do you know what I am talking about and can you help me find it again? [more inside]
posted by tweedle at 8:27 PM PST - 2 comments

Places outside the US that have a "gym culture" similar to the US

Almost anywhere in the US, I can find a gym (24 hour fitness, YMCA) within a short drive. Is there anyplace else in the world where this is true? [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 8:22 PM PST - 23 comments

I need a cross between a financial advisor and a therapist.

Having lived in the Bay Area "bubble" for many years, being reasonably (but not enormously) successful, and coming into middle age, I find myself more and more confused by the economic and social realities of how things are. I need a guide. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:40 PM PST - 13 comments

B&Bs or Inns in Charleston, SC?

My wife and I are looking to spend an October weekend in Charleston, SC. Any B&B or inn recommendations in the old town/historic parts of the city?
posted by NoMich at 6:58 PM PST - 1 comment

Going to the SF CA DMV without an appointment.

My out-of-state driver's license expires mid-August. I'd like to a get a new one before then, but the "next available appointment" on the DMV website is at the end of August. How likely am I, in San Francisco, California, to be able to get this done without an appointment? What times should I go, to maximize this likelihood? [more inside]
posted by wayland at 5:33 PM PST - 17 comments

Useful Skills for Expanding My Freelance Horizons

I'm an experienced freelancer and have both work experience and no trouble getting work (knock on wood) in freelance writing, PR, marketing, and that sort of thing. So what's something I can pick up that has a lot of freelance work floating around? [more inside]
posted by Ghostride The Whip at 5:25 PM PST - 3 comments

Lobster Anatomists Wanted

What is this part of a lobster claw called (the white fan-like projection that is normally inside the musculature)?
posted by plinth at 5:03 PM PST - 3 comments

Run away from a used car that's barely been driven in years?

I'm in the market for a used car, and I know that it's bad news when a car isn't driven regularly. I've found one that's otherwise good for me. I don't know how little driving is too little, whether the kinds of problems that result could be checked by a mechanic's pre-purchase inspection, and whether my own tough driving patterns make any difference. [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 4:53 PM PST - 8 comments

Quitting my job, should I tell my boss the real reason why?

Freelancer here. I've been doing design/tech/maintenance work for this one guy's website for a little under a year. It's part-time and pays well...when he pays. He has a habit of being late on payments and unreachable...I've resolved to quit. Should I tell him the real reason why? [more inside]
posted by bluelight at 4:49 PM PST - 23 comments

urban development making a difference with open source?

I am finding British social entrepreneurs and charity leads to be very timid about expansion for expansion's sake. I am trying to find more compelling global voices who have shared an urban development idea in an open source way. Not at all in an IT sense, I should add. Bonus if it has zero to do with lending with interest.
posted by parmanparman at 4:24 PM PST - 3 comments

Yes, I know I'm an idiot.

A failure to pay a fix-it ticket on time in California led to a failure to appear notice and a big-ass bail/fine. I know that I'm dumb, and I do have some valid excuses (my dog died and my life has been a goddamn mess that is sort of starting to get better) for why I forgot to mail in the proof, but I have specific questions after the jump. [more inside]
posted by ablazingsaddle at 3:50 PM PST - 4 comments

I need acid

It just occurred to me that the reaction that makes key lime pie doesn't actually depend on citrus, just on acidity. This means, hypothetically, one could make this kind of pie filling with things more interesting than lime or lemon juice. I need a sanity check on this idea, and some suggestions of delicious low-pH liquids. [more inside]
posted by vogon_poet at 3:48 PM PST - 18 comments

Help me write my essay about Francesca Woodman

I am working on an essay about the photographer Francesca Woodman to submit for consideration to an anthology. My main argument is that Woodman's work playfully subverts the script of normative femininity (especially her use of nudity). I have done a lot of reading/viewing on Woodman herself, but I am looking for other texts (and other media is welcome too) that might be helpful. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 3:39 PM PST - 6 comments

Coding a random generator

I'd like to create an online idea generator but have no coding knowledge. Is there an easy way to do this or do I need to learn a bit of programming? If so which language would be best? [more inside]
posted by KateViolet at 3:35 PM PST - 3 comments

Life in a large and wealthy Victorian home

I want to know more about the material culture of a large English country house or great house in the Victorian era. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 3:20 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me help them!

I'm an assistant manager now. I want to be a manager, and there will be job openings in a month or so. What can I do to increase my chances of getting promoted? [more inside]
posted by trogdole at 3:18 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me find "delightfully off-putting" music videos!

I'm looking for examples of music videos with a certain je ne sais quoi, that I can only describe as "delightfully off-putting." [more inside]
posted by Golfhaus at 3:04 PM PST - 14 comments

What is a good kind of cowboy boots to get?

I'd like a pair of cowboy boots. I have no idea why. None of my friends wear cowboy boots. I guess I just like them. I've never owned a pair. I'm looking for a little guidance. In particular, what's a good brand that makes a quality boot that's comfortable and will last? Or even what's a specific boot that's good? [more inside]
posted by trevor_case at 2:33 PM PST - 13 comments

Books about WW2 in Asia, Africa, and the Pacific

I'd appreciate recommendations for books about African, Asian, and Pacific involvement in World War II, especially those with the most first-hand accounts. Right now, I'm sticking to Kindle-available books, since I can literally take them anywhere. [more inside]
posted by ElaineMc at 2:19 PM PST - 11 comments

Varnish cache on Dreamhost

I have a VPS on Dreamhost. I wonder, has anyone ever gotten Varnish Cache working on it? [more inside]
posted by johngoren at 2:17 PM PST - 4 comments

Identify this mystery flag!

Today we saw a mysterious flag. It had a white background with two light blue vertical stripes, one on each side (not all the way on the ends, but towards the ends). Between the two stripes was a yellow (and red?) sun or star symbol. What is this the flag of? We've scoured Wikimedia. [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 2:09 PM PST - 7 comments

Connecting Phillips Hue lights without an internet connected router

I'm currently setting up for my wedding reception tonight, and we'd planned to use our Philips Hue bulbs for lighting. We brought our router, hub, and lights, but the venue only has wifi, and it looks like the router needs an internet connection to have everything working. HALP. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by a box and a stick and a string and a bear at 1:51 PM PST - 2 comments

Animals wear fur on the outside because they have to, why do humans?

Having an outer barrier to wind and a trapped air space inside is the best way to insulate. It's axiomatic for insulating buildings. Impermeable skin on the outside and fur on the inside seems more effecient than fur on the outside. It seems to me that you could wear a less effective insulator, turned inside out as it were, that would weigh less. Why don't people that use animal skins for insulation do this?
posted by vapidave at 1:44 PM PST - 12 comments

When should I resign?

I'm quitting my job next month and I was planning on giving the standard two weeks notice. However, my husband has to have surgery (non-life threatening, but he'll be out of work for 1-2 weeks). If I actually gave two weeks, the first week of my notice would be the week that I'm taking time off for his surgery. So, should I wait until after I come back from his surgery and give just one week notice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:18 PM PST - 11 comments

Where do people go to NOT drink on the weekends?

I have recently decided to stop drinking due to health reasons. I'm 29 and I live in Chicago, so most of the socialization options available to me (or at least the ones I'm aware of) center around drinking – bars and restaurants, etc. What are some things to do on weekend afternoons and nights that will not involve drinking? [more inside]
posted by deathpanels at 1:02 PM PST - 19 comments

Short-term cell phone service in the US

I'm an American currently living overseas. I'll be coming back for a short visit in about a month. I have an unlocked GSM smartphone. I well remember the onerous service agreements US mobile phone providers extracted from all customers. What's currently the best way to get my phone to have an American number and have some data usage in the US for only a couple of weeks?
posted by eugenen at 12:06 PM PST - 5 comments

But a fridge is supposed to keep your food cold!

We just returned from a trip, and the fridge is more or less warm. We've been gone since Monday morning. Do I need to throw everything out, or is some of this stuff okay to eat? I'm thinking about how there have been times in other people's homes where I was surprised to find something in the cupboard that I've always refrigerated. I'm hoping that some of my stuff could be able to cross over. List of what's in my fridge below the fold. [more inside]
posted by to recite so charmingly at 11:44 AM PST - 39 comments

I was sick for a long time. I am well now. Help me find awesome work.

I am kind, youthful, energetic, bright, and capable and my resume is bare due to prolonged illness. I am working retail and I am bored, underpaid, and frustrated. Help me find my way. [more inside]
posted by Pablito at 11:25 AM PST - 14 comments

How can I explain this to my boss?

In short, the better I am at my job, the less money I make. I need help explaining this to my boss, and advice on offering him a solution. [more inside]
posted by yesster at 11:18 AM PST - 14 comments

Corn dog

We switched our dogs from a "corn filler" dry food to a high-quality, oft-recommended grain-free food about 8 months ago. I've come to the conclusion that it's not a good choice for Number One Dog. My question is, should we continue to search for a premium dog food that agrees with her, or just go back to the supposedly "bad" food on which she always seemed to be healthy and happy? [more inside]
posted by drlith at 11:16 AM PST - 17 comments

Looking for a slipcover for a reclining sofa

My Google-fu is failing me. I'm looking for a slipcover for a reclining sofa. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 11:11 AM PST - 0 comments

Like Octavia Butler, but even more awesome?

I'm sure this has been asked before, but searching the archives didn't help much. I'm an avid reader, but can't find any compelling new books to read. Feminist, sci-fi-ish books with a literary bent would be ideal. Detailed likes and dislikes inside! [more inside]
posted by snaw at 10:44 AM PST - 45 comments

ISO a women's trenchcoat that will last.

For the past few years the Boden Rainy Day Mac has been the coat I wear all winter. It's perfect for the weather here, near Seattle. But it doesn't last more than two years before it looks shabby (not in a well-aged way, just worn out). What company makes trench coats that will still look good after a few years? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 10:02 AM PST - 9 comments

Mechanicfilter - Ford Focus edition

Hi folks, had a low-speed collision in my 2012 Ford Focus. The lady in the car infront of me stopped unexpectedly in the middle of a roundabout and my front end went into her rear bumper (phrasing). Nobody was hurt, no obvious damage, everybody went on their way. However, ever since there has been a small amount of dried fluid appearing on my front bumper. Before I take it to the garage, mechanics of metafilter, can you help me name that fluid? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by peteyjlawson at 9:11 AM PST - 6 comments

How can I get eucalyptus-scented steam for a steam room?

My partner and I recently bought a house that has a steam room in the basement. I've been to spas where the steam rooms have eucalyptus-scented steam, and I would love to reproduce that environment, especially at the end of a long workday. Unfortunately, my Google-ing skills can't seem to turn up any resources or ideas for how to make this happen. Help! [more inside]
posted by Quaversalis at 8:19 AM PST - 7 comments

I need the simplest thing: an IOS app that provides random rewards

I'm trying to use positive reinforcement to make some behavioral changes. All I want is an app that will let me input my own rewards, and give me a random one when I press a button. Does this exist and where can I find it?
posted by lilnublet at 8:18 AM PST - 3 comments

I love you, mom, but I can't talk to you any more

My mom has (not formally diagnosed, but very obvious) borderline personality disorder that is getting worse as she gets older. She is unable to support herself financially and being in contact with her is awful. What now? [more inside]
posted by anotheraccount at 8:15 AM PST - 25 comments

Idiotic car badge question: Volvo edition

Yes, I know this is a truly silly question, but what does Volvo's logo represent? It looks like a pair of manicure or embroidery sissors! [more inside]
posted by easily confused at 7:48 AM PST - 10 comments

Short stories with alternating storylines?

I'm looking for examples of short stories that have two oscillating storylines that ultimately intersect. I mean two different characters on two different trajectories whose paths ultimately cross. This is a frequent structure in novels, but I'm looking for short stories where this is done. I'm sure Alice Munro has done it, but I can't think of examples off the top of my head. Anyone know of any?
posted by swheatie at 7:44 AM PST - 9 comments

What if I don't want to be a lifer?

How do I find a new job when I've only worked one place for the decade-plus since finishing college? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:17 AM PST - 10 comments

How can my 75-year-old mom gain weight?

My 75-year old mom has always been naturally thin, but for the last couple of years she's been underweight to an unhealthy level. She seems worse now. I'm not sure how much weight doctors want her to gain, but probably at least 10 pounds if not more. She's been trying to eat things to help (avocadoes, peanut butter, some protein shakes sometimes) but she says she has trouble digesting anything with a lot of fat. She's also vegetarian and often also vegan, though she eats dairy and eggs occasionally. What should she be eating?
posted by three_red_balloons at 7:04 AM PST - 15 comments

I am having trouble with my new "overweight" status

For the first time, in my early 40's, I'm overweight and ashamed and embarrassed and can't get back on track. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:57 AM PST - 42 comments

Nook HD+ won't read .epub books

My daughter's Nook HD+ has decided it won't read the .epub books I sideloaded onto it from a PC. [more inside]
posted by Kirth Gerson at 6:56 AM PST - 7 comments

How to break it off with someone you've seen, uh, once

Let's say you go on a date with someone. The date goes well, you go back to their place. Things happen...SEX things. You realize afterward that it may have been a mistake. Yeah, definitely a mistake. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:45 AM PST - 18 comments

Can you get good at chess just by playing a lot of games?

If I just keep playing games online over and over, whether I win or lose, will I inevitably improve my game, or is it necessary that I do some outside study? [more inside]
posted by PlasticSupernova at 6:24 AM PST - 8 comments

What music is in this video about the invention of the high-five?

Help me identify the music in this great little baseball video. [more inside]
posted by lalunamel at 4:43 AM PST - 2 comments

How dangerous is East Palo Alto?

I'm a single male in my late 20s, currently living elsewhere in the Bay Area. EPA has the following attractive features for me:
  • Quite is quite close to my new job
  • One of the few places in the Peninsula which I could reasonably afford to buy property (I don't want to be renting for the rest of my life).
  • Reasonable chance of strong appreciation in property prices over the next 15 years.
However, it also has a reputation as a dangerous city. [more inside]
posted by pzad at 1:30 AM PST - 10 comments

July 25

Can you tell me how to get, how to get to Mexico?

I want to move to make a permanent move to Mexico. How do I make this happen? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:26 PM PST - 18 comments

How to cope with grey areas

I have Asperger's, and so I have a tendency to be more comfortable with things that are black and white, rather than things that are grey, figuratively speaking. I want to change this, as this tends to affect more than one aspect of my life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:24 PM PST - 11 comments

VPN for Netflix in America

Please help me sort out using a VPN only for traffic going to my Roku. [more inside]
posted by NortonDC at 10:45 PM PST - 4 comments

Oh, the problems of not opening one's mail - auto insurance edition

We've been paying insurance for a car we traded in to a dealer three years ago. At the time, the dealer gave us the plates for our new car and contacted our insurance agent for us. How do we get this refund? [more inside]
posted by heigh-hothederryo at 10:30 PM PST - 7 comments

Why will videos not play on my home network?

For some reason my laptop will not play videos on my home network. The sole exception is when I view youtube videos on the youtube site itself. The video players will load, but then wait to buffer the video without ever loading anything. I have no issues on other networks than my home network, and I have no issues with other devices or laptops, other than my personal laptop, even on my home network. And what is so special about the youtube site that makes it immune to the problem? I have tried using other browsers, and the behaviour persists. [more inside]
posted by jamincan at 8:31 PM PST - 4 comments

Mission to Molokai

Travel gurus: I need to get a family of five, without a lot of money, from Anchorage to Molokai for the middle two weeks of December. I am not a travel guru. What is the cheapest way to do this? I mean, flying, obviously. But where do I look? SO MANY TRAVEL SITES!
posted by Alaska Jack at 7:30 PM PST - 8 comments

Honeymoon in Charlottesville

Dearest Metafilter, If you were going to Charlottesville, VA for your honeymoon, where would you stay? [more inside]
posted by joycehealy at 5:40 PM PST - 6 comments

Why is the wiring in my bathroom not connected to a breaker?

On Monday, Mr. Pants texted me to let me know that as he was preparing his morning toilet, the lights in the bathroom flickered and went off. The lights haven't worked since then and we've been unable to determine on which breaker the circuit resides. Any idea how to figure out what the power source of my bathroom is? Other weird electrical mysteries follow in the expanded text... [more inside]
posted by wizardpants at 5:09 PM PST - 23 comments

Help us remember what show/movie this scene was in

Recently we watched a TV show or movie with this scene. A man realizes his hand is not shaking. He's with another person who's hand is shaking after some stressful/traumatic event. The context leads you to believe he's finally realizing he can deal with the stuff. We saw this within the last few months but can't remember what it was from. Does this sound familiar to anyone?
posted by disaster77 at 4:21 PM PST - 4 comments

Treating a coral scrape?

I got tangled up with some elkhorn coral in Belize yesterday and got a couple of scrapes. What do I do now? [more inside]
posted by empath at 4:00 PM PST - 7 comments

Foot guy is sending me to spine guy. What now?

I saw a foot and ankle ortho guy to address bilateral neuropathy, a persistent rash, and excruciating pain that radiates from the outer foot up to my inner knee. (I do not have diabetes.) Dr. Foot & Ankle says all is (mostly) well with the foot and ankle, so he's sending me to Dr. Spine. Is this really the right guy to see next? [more inside]
posted by xyzzy at 3:19 PM PST - 8 comments

Player One Ready

Is an AMD Bronze Reward (1 free game) worth redeeming as a non-gamer? [more inside]
posted by zinon at 3:01 PM PST - 10 comments

Software to print a Photo Book at home

I want to create a photo album to print with my inkjet printer. I've been googling around but haven't found any workable software. The search results are too crowded with online printing providers. [more inside]
posted by jgwong at 2:51 PM PST - 2 comments

If you were learning Japanese, which radical list would you use?

I'm going to start learning Japanese in a couple of months, and in researching the language, I'm realizing that it's going to be a *lot* easier if I could recognize all the component parts of any Kanji I encounter. But..I'm noticing that there are a lot of different lists of those component parts...Heisig's lists, Wikipedia's tables of radicals, The Kanji Dictionary's 79 radicals, etc. Which radical lists do you like best, and why? Are there any out there that show you the radical, show you the characters that use it, and explain how the radical fits into those characters (meaning-wise)? [more inside]
posted by sdis at 2:46 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for Chicago-area tailors and cobblers

Everything I own is falling apart at once, and contradictory Yelp reviews have left me paralyzed when trying to figure out which Chicago-area tailors and cobblers to go to. Beyond short-term emergency repairs, I also have some more complicated long-term tailoring needs (both men's and women's clothes). Help me find people who can repair my clothing and shoes! [more inside]
posted by ubersturm at 2:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Considering vegetarianism - hints, tips and thoughts?

More and more, I've been thinking along the lines that eating meat doesn't fit at all with my ethics and value system - particularly non-violence. I'm thinking of quitting and becoming vegetarian - but to complicate matters, I really like meat (in moderation). Should I do it, and if so, what tips do people have? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by winterhill at 2:42 PM PST - 45 comments

GUH-luuuuuee? 70s/80s frozen pizza commercial

I've been trying to find a vintage frozen pizza commercial from the late 70s or early 80s. I've no idea why the particular commercial is stuck in my head, but it's like an ear worm. Until I can find and watch the thing, I shall be forever haunted by the memory. [more inside]
posted by Ickster at 2:16 PM PST - 6 comments

Sort of a child-protect my computer question, kinda sorta

My boss is bringing his kids to the office over the weekend. I have toys and stuff for them to play with, and he also wants to let them use my computer to play games, etc., while they're here. Let me start by saying this is NOT a problem and I have NO issue with it, but I just need a quick bit of advice as to how to protect myself without losing my bookmarks, etc. [more inside]
posted by janey47 at 2:08 PM PST - 11 comments

Why is there such a huge difference in web developer salaries?

I'm studying web development. The yearly salary estimates I've found online range from $40,000 to $80,000 or more. What gives? [more inside]
posted by quiet earth at 1:32 PM PST - 21 comments

Pop music concerts in San Fran area over next few months

My sister is moving from the UK to the San Francisco area in a few weeks. As a goodbye and good luck present I want to buy her tickets to a pop music concert in/near SF. Her tastes are quite broad, but mainly she likes good old sing-along pop music. [more inside]
posted by 0bvious at 12:57 PM PST - 9 comments

Chromecast functionality on Google TV

Although my old Sony NSZ-GS7 Internet Player with Google TV box offers the remarkable option of a workable Chrome browser on a television, for convenience it would be handy if I could utilise the Chromecast app on the ipad to send things. Last year there was a rumour that this technology/software would be added to Google TV but searches have led nowhere. Any ideas?
posted by feelinglistless at 12:37 PM PST - 3 comments

Summertime boob management

I've been blursed with ample boobs. Ladies of Mefi, is it ok to put antiperspirant under my boobs in the summer months? This is what I've been doing to reduce the perspiration thus far. Am I harming my health in any way by doing this? If so, any alternate strategies? Thanks!
posted by SpecialSpaghettiBowl at 12:36 PM PST - 32 comments

What is the best, most versatile rice cooker?

I am a college student looking to purchase a quality rice cooker for everyday use to prepare both delicious rice and other one-pot meals. Does anyone have any specific brands or models they would recommend? My absolute upper limit is $150, but a model under $100 would be great.
posted by fignewton at 12:00 PM PST - 22 comments

How can I achieve this glowing pumpkin effect in Photoshop?

I really like the idea that I've seen on a number of t-shirts like this one, and want to create on myself using my own jack-o-lantern face. Does anyone know of a tutorial or action, or could even walk me thru the steps to create this effect with any shape?
posted by Unsomnambulist at 11:50 AM PST - 1 comment

Switching Industries: Education Edition

Am currently in Corporate America but a possibility of a job switch to Enrollment Management for a Catholic high school - can you provide some insight to professionally moving into the Education space? [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 11:42 AM PST - 1 comment

How to prevent a scar forming from an injury?

About two weeks ago I unfortunately had a minor injury, which scabbed up. The scab fell off somewhere between several days and a week ago, and the area is now pinkish and slightly raised. The pink color has been going down somewhat over the past few days, but is still there. I have been putting a silicon-based product on it, as well as keeping it out of the sun. Is there anything else I can/should be doing to prevent scarring?
posted by ClaireBear at 11:37 AM PST - 16 comments

The gift that keeps on giving

My best friend is getting married in a few weeks and I need to get her a gift. Since she and her fiance already have most of what they need for their home (consolidating two apartments into one), I don't want to get them a thing, but maybe some sort of subscription where they get something delivered every month. I need suggestions please. [more inside]
posted by CrazyLemonade at 11:18 AM PST - 21 comments

Welcome to the new age! The new age! MACROBIOTIC! MACROBIOTIC!

I'm interested in incorporating more macrobiotic meals into my current diet. What blogs or recipes do you suggest? Difficulty level: vegan! [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 11:14 AM PST - 7 comments

Perfect timing or terrible timing in informational interview request?

Was just browsing profiles on LinkedIn with the thought of learning more about an organization that I just applied to. Found a person who I have a number of connections in common with who may very well work in one of the departments that I applied for. Was thinking of sending this person an informational interview request but I don't want to come off as clandestinely seeking an "in" for an interview for this specific opening. Advice on whether/how to proceed? [more inside]
posted by thesnowyslaps at 10:43 AM PST - 7 comments

Extreme shortcuts to Italian?

Are there any shortcuts for an English speaker to speak and understand Italian on the spot? [more inside]
posted by mirileh at 10:28 AM PST - 15 comments

Musi

If Spotify is like Netflix, what music services are like Mubi? [more inside]
posted by michaelh at 10:16 AM PST - 5 comments

I need an edge.

I need suggestions for what I should eat/drink prior to a very short but intense cycling workout. [more inside]
posted by repoman at 9:37 AM PST - 22 comments

I need an expert in Middle Eastern demonology

Can somebody help me identify the mythological or literary sources for the enemies in this Arabian Nights-themed video game? [more inside]
posted by prize bull octorok at 9:31 AM PST - 5 comments

Oh my god, please help me figure out temporary health insurance.

I need temporary catastrophic health insurance for a month and a half, with a major complication: I'll be living in four different states (NY, PA, CA, and IL) in that time, so the state-specific Exchange options won't work. I just want to make sure I don't go bankrupt if I get hit by a bus on one or the other ends of the country! [more inside]
posted by you're a kitty! at 9:29 AM PST - 16 comments

How do I "I do?"

My partner and I are having a wedding in two months. We'd like to get legally married before the ceremony, but can't decide what the best option for us would be. My partner is a man, but here in Ohio it isn't possible for him to change his birth certificate to match this. Do we go to another state to marry, or try to get a license in Ohio? [more inside]
posted by dinofuzz at 9:28 AM PST - 11 comments

What marine life offshore North Carolina can cause histaminic reaction?

My daughter felt something solid while swimming on a North Carolina beach this morning (July 25) and now has a raised welt about 2.5 x 4 cm with a somewhat larger reddish area around it. It is mildly painful. There are no visible foreign bodies, stingers, etc. What could it be? She doesn't seem to be having any severe symptoms that would require an emergency room visit.
posted by dhnyny at 9:27 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me find a scholarship I got before for my gramps being a veteran?

My grandfather is a WWII vet, 38th division of Ohio national guard. I previously received a scholarship for $500 for college from them, all descendants of vets are eligible as far as I remember. I am going back to school and would like to see if I can get the scholarship. How can I go about finding it? Thanks.
posted by crawltopslow at 9:05 AM PST - 6 comments

Reinvesting tax break

My father owns several acres of land that was given to him by his father when he was 16 or so. He is finally trying to sell it. He is under the impression that after the age of 55 (he is in his 60's and retired), you are entitled a one time tax free reinvestment. Is this true? [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas at 8:57 AM PST - 13 comments

Night in the Borispil Airport in Kiev. What to do?

My travel plans got all mixed up and I've got a surprise 16hr layover tonight in the Borispil airport, outside Kiev, Ukraine. What should I do while I'm here? [more inside]
posted by raeka at 8:47 AM PST - 2 comments

CO sensor accuracy, placement, risks.

I'm moving for the first time into a house with gas (stove and heat) and I'm completely terrified that my two small children are going to die of CO poisoning. Please help me understand sensors, risks, what to look for and such to help alleviate my paranoia. [more inside]
posted by celtalitha at 8:43 AM PST - 16 comments

Birthday and Celebratory Gifs

I'm the lady at my office who sends out the "Everyone please wish a Happy Birthday to X!" emails. I try to include a cute animated gif in all of them. I'm running out of birthday-themed gifs a few weeks into this game. Wanna help me compile celebration and birthday gifs? [more inside]
posted by pineappleheart at 8:27 AM PST - 19 comments

Cheapest Flight from Canada to S-Korea

I am a student and I want to fly off for some time before the coming Fall semester. I was thinking going away for 2 weeks. Spending 1 week in Busan, S-Korea, then 1 week in Japan, for example Tokyo. I tried using flight search engines but the price is exorbitant for me. [more inside]
posted by iliketothinknu at 7:31 AM PST - 7 comments

Kids flying from the US to the UK with an adult who isn't their parent

What precautions, if any, need to be taken in this situation? [more inside]
posted by terretu at 6:59 AM PST - 13 comments

Help me (emotionally) graduate from middle school.

This question is very difficult for me to ask, but it has been on my mind enough that I need to swallow my pride and throw it out to you fine folks. I have not been a teen for over a decade; I am, overall, a well-adjusted adult. I am at the top of my game professionally, I am happily married, and I have some wonderful friends. I also have perspective on "real issues"... I've survived some fairly significant tragedies and dealt with family drama that has rendered my therapist speechless. So why do I let the petty antics of a few former friends (who are also colleagues) ruin my day? [more inside]
posted by hippychick at 6:40 AM PST - 25 comments

What's the deal with this storm?

Currently there is a lightning storm on the France / Spain border which is oddly circular. It looks like this as seen on lightningmaps. Why is it this shape?
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 6:05 AM PST - 8 comments

Chemicals and Newborn Kids' Stuff

A year ago, my father got an extremely rare form of cancer and died. Now my wife's pregnant, and we’re very excited. The experience has left us concerned about things my wife and I never would've given ten minute of thought to before my father got sick; we’re worried about chemicals and the kid. [more inside]
posted by thursdaystoo at 5:58 AM PST - 16 comments

What Am I Not Getting About Navigating the "Paywall-free" New Yorker?

I am utterly failing trying to view this article on the temporarily paywall-free New Yorker website. [more inside]
posted by ZenMasterThis at 5:07 AM PST - 5 comments

Pairing fiction with eras in common

So two books I really love are Heaven to Betsy and A Tree Grows in Brooklyn. I love how they go into the details of the period they take place, particularly the fashion and food. It was also only recently I realised that they take place roughly around the same era. It really surprised me because they are so completely different to one another. Francie has an alcoholic father and the family can barely get food on the table; Betsy's biggest ordeal is falling in love with a boy that doesn't like her back and not studying for an essay contest. So my question is two-fold and is aimed at requesting book suggestions. [more inside]
posted by like_neon at 4:43 AM PST - 23 comments

Inserting symbols before and after some other text in Excel (macros?)

Is it possible to do this in Excel or Word or some other program?: I want to paste a sentence into the a text field, highlight a word or several words in that sentence, hit a keyboard shortcut, and have certain symbols inserted before and after that word or phrase. For example, in the sentence "Metafilter is the best website in the whole wide world," I might highlight "website," press the shortcut, and have it transform into the following: "Metafilter is the best {{c1::website}} in the whole wide world." I'm using OSX and Microsoft Office 2011, but I'm comfortable doing this in a webapp or Google Drive or whatever you suggest! I also have the aText text expansion software, but I can't figure out how to make it insert text at both ends of a highlighted phrase. [more inside]
posted by lizzicide at 4:09 AM PST - 7 comments

...and then he did the raccoon-in-my-pants dance.

What show from the late '80s or early '90s had a clown announce, "Hey, everybody! I've got a raccoon in my pants!"? [more inside]
posted by Mister Moofoo at 1:45 AM PST - 4 comments

I want to wear pug-print underwear. How do I obtain it?

I would like to wear female underwear with pugs on it, ideally something like this. I like the all-over print and the large pugnacious pug, but it doesn't seem to be available for sale. How can I obtain something like this online? [more inside]
posted by 35minutes at 12:43 AM PST - 3 comments

July 24

What to do when the guy I'm dating is uncertain about proceeding?

What actions should I take when the guy I have been dating for a month seems confused and uncertain about taking dating to the next level? [more inside]
posted by enantio at 9:44 PM PST - 33 comments

Name Blindness

I'm somewhat notable in my professional field and I meet a ton of new people weekly, as attending social events is part of my job (cocktail parties, art openings, etc.) It often takes 3-4 times before I can remember someone's name, or to even recognize their face. However, they recognize me instantly, and approach me with great familiarity, a hug, like we're buddies. I panic. It gets awkward. "Excuse me, ma'am, how did we meet?" seems such an rude question, especially when they act so intimate with me. (This happens weekly!) What can I say to people in this situation that doesn't offend them, but will divulge our (thinly) established relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:33 PM PST - 20 comments

Need Paris airport taxi recommendation

Need recommendation for taxi/car service from Paris CDG airport to 12th arrondissement. [more inside]
posted by Joleta at 9:31 PM PST - 7 comments

BotonyFilter: What is this baby tree (urban-wild in Vancouver, BC)?

This baby tree is (probably) in its second growing season. Can anyone identify the species? (urban-wild in Vancouver, BC) [more inside]
posted by porpoise at 9:30 PM PST - 3 comments

I caught my new nanny doing drugs

I hired a new nanny. Today is her 2nd day. As I had bad experiences with nanny before, I set up a nanny cam. After I came home today, I reviewed the video clips and found my nanny took out a prescription bottle, took a pill out of the bottle, kind of smash something on the table and then use a small paper roll and then it looks like she inhales it into nose. I reported to police right away and will definitely fire her. I don't know what else I can do or what else I should do. Any suggestions? Thank you
posted by kktony at 9:22 PM PST - 40 comments

Need suggestions for women's dress socks to keep feet dry (no wool)

I'm dealing with a bout of athlete's foot and the prevention tips say to keep feet dry. I have coolmax socks that work pretty well under my athletic shoes, but have no idea what to wear with dress shoes at work. I have a wool allergy so wool socks are a no-go. [more inside]
posted by SockISalmon at 8:56 PM PST - 7 comments

In search of replacement batteries for older ThinkPads

The hive mind was a major help when I was in the market for a couple of used ThinkPads...It's time for the inevitable follow up question: Any recommendations for good Thinkpad battery sources? [more inside]
posted by ferkit at 8:47 PM PST - 5 comments

Need some programming career advice

Need some special snowflake programming career advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:15 PM PST - 7 comments

how to listen to music while swimming?

I saw a guy at the pool the other day wearing a headphone apparatus, he said it was a waterproof mp3 player. Upon checking Amazon I see there is a wide variety of such devices. What's the best combination of value and reliability for something like this? It needs to be wireless, to not get tangled up, and somehow it needs to not come loose during vigorous lap swimming… anyone know what works? (By the way I see this question from 2010, and I will check out the one recommended product, but maybe there is more on the market now four years later?)
posted by fingersandtoes at 7:37 PM PST - 14 comments

Trying to make a change in my life, but I don't know where to start?

I am in a weird phase of my life where I want to change some things. I have always been a rather antisocial person and for the first time ever I am dying to get out and be social. I am also wondering where I will end up and what my goals in life truly are. I also want to get healthier, eat better, be more productive. Truth is, I don't know where to start? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 at 7:24 PM PST - 9 comments

Just the facts: list of emails, but no body contents, please.

I need to pull out just the Sender, Subject, Date, Time info from an email archive. Any way to do this easily? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Gotanda at 7:07 PM PST - 3 comments

Omnipod vs. Medtronic?

Asking for my girlfriend, who will be checking and possibly replying to this post: I'm looking into starting on an insulin pump and I'm pretty sure I've narrowed it down to the Omnipod and the Medtronic Minimed. Looking for any first hand experience with either. I'm also open to any other suggestions to other pumps to consider as well as which ones to avoid. [more inside]
posted by Venadium at 6:53 PM PST - 8 comments

Such good smut: Help me identify this 70s steamy romance novel

Written in the 70s or early 80s, four women moving through adulthood. Much sex, maybe some drugs, and some troublesome men. [more inside]
posted by Milau at 6:18 PM PST - 13 comments

Where can I see video coverage of Comic-Con San Diego?

Are there any news sites covering the convention?
posted by Bushmiller at 5:45 PM PST - 3 comments

Bookshop For Sale; Foreigners Welcomed

How realistic and/or easy is it to buy and run a physical bookshop in a foreign country? [more inside]
posted by applesurf at 5:38 PM PST - 9 comments

I don't want that notification Google

Google desktop notifications keeps telling me when there is a significant change in the value of JC Penney stock. I don't care about the company. I don't own any of the stock. I don't care about the stock price. I don't want these notifications. There seems to be no way to tell Google I'm not interested in this. Am I just missing a setting flag somewhere?
posted by willnot at 5:03 PM PST - 2 comments

Un-music music

I love the minimalism of Young Marble Giants and The xx - and in online reviews the term "negative space" describes just what I like about them. So, what else should I listen to?
posted by Paragon at 5:01 PM PST - 32 comments

Aka, the effect of gamma rays on man in the moon marigolds

Which nation has the most science-fiction readers per capita? [more inside]
posted by Mike Mongo at 5:00 PM PST - 4 comments

Vegetarian Postpartum Meals

I want to make a drop-off meal for a family of four after the mom gives birth. Mom is vegetarian, dad and the two little boys are not. I am not vegetarian and I have no idea what to make! Ideas? [more inside]
posted by Safiya at 4:43 PM PST - 18 comments

Creative writing field trips in the Bay Area

I am a 2nd-grade teacher at school in the East Bay of the San Francisco Bay Area. Our teaching team is looking to add a field trip for the whole grade this year that has to do with creative writing. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:40 PM PST - 8 comments

High CO2 Indoors, what's next?

I got a new withing's scale, after the old one died when our dear deceased kitty peed on it as a final goodbye. The new one has a an air quality detector built in that reads carbon dioxide. I often suspected there was excess CO2 in the house, because I have aquariums and the ph is depressed when the house is closed up for long. But the new scale confirmed it by showing a surprisingly high reading. What do I do next? [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 4:14 PM PST - 14 comments

How hot is Seattle real estate right now?

We are considering a move to Seattle from the Bay Area. Last year we took ourselves out of the house-hunting game down here due to the crazy market here. What can we expect from Seattle? [more inside]
posted by chevyvan at 3:48 PM PST - 8 comments

How do you do things?

I really like interviews about how people do their work, the tools they use and why. I regularly read The Setup and Lifehacker's "How I Work" series. What other sites should I be reading?
posted by rensar at 3:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Do my Brazil heavy website stats indicate something nefarious?

My itty-bitty portfolio website traffic is almost all new visitors from Brazil. I don't have anything on my portfolio that would appeal to Brazilians. What is going on? Should I be worried? [more inside]
posted by Foam Pants at 3:41 PM PST - 18 comments

Food me?

I have to eat to live. Complications, of course, abound. [more inside]
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess at 3:27 PM PST - 20 comments

What is the NIH job application process and timeline like?

I'm a nurse practitioner in the U.S. Public Health Service Commissioned Corps (4 years experience), and I'm applying for jobs at the National Institutes of Health. I've had one prompt and enthusiastic response, but I've heard nothing from the rest, so I have a few questions about NIH's hiring process and timeline. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:14 PM PST - 3 comments

Wanted: software to tag words and phrases when studying a language

I'm studying Japanese. I want to tag and track individual words and grammatical structures that I'm learning. What software will help me do this? [more inside]
posted by kristi at 3:05 PM PST - 2 comments

Wanted: Cat Proof Earphones

During a recent cross country move I have lost two pairs of earphones. I also have a pair cheap wired over ear Sennheiser headphones and smaller pair of Sennheiser on ear headphones that I use at work. I'd like to replace all of these with one or two pairs of earphones or headphones that fits all my criteria. [more inside]
posted by poxandplague at 2:51 PM PST - 2 comments

Seeking all-in-one SFF headline site for daily reading

Seeking recommendations for a site with good coverage of books, films, comics etc. centered around SFF nerdery for my RSS reader. I used to read The Mary Sue, but have been meh about it since its revamp. I'm currently trying out Tor.com, but I'm looking for other alternatives. Feminist orientation is a plus, but not mandatory. I don't play video games, and I'm not particularly interested in rewatches/rereads other than on FanFare.
posted by immlass at 2:23 PM PST - 5 comments

I'm productive only at night, but this clashes with my class schedule.

When I want to do work that involves writing, I find that I am most productive during the hours of around 11 PM to 6 AM, because it takes me all evening to wind down from the day and get into a mindset where I can focus on creative/writing work. My circadian rhythm will then be messed up for the next three days or so. This is incompatible with my class and work schedule as a medical student. [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit at 2:23 PM PST - 6 comments

We've been screwed by a vehicle buyer. What should we do first?

My partner and I currently live in PA. Before moving here from CA, my partner sold a vehicle to a private party (I was not a part of this transaction). That guy never registered the vehicle and collected a ton of tickets.. which he never paid. The state of CA just auto-deducted over $800 from his bank account to cover these tickets. Rent is due next week, and our landlord is kind of a drag. We're a little overwhelmed. This is terrible! What happens now?
posted by ElectricGoat at 1:56 PM PST - 15 comments

Affordable LED bicycle light sets

I am looking to start a program within my community to distribute front and rear bicycle lights, hopefully free of charge, to anyone in need. Can anyone suggest a vendor or retailer that could/would offer wholesale prices on a single order to a person, organization, or entity that would distribute the lights, again, hopefully free of charge, but in the worst case scenario, at cost? [more inside]
posted by maleru at 1:28 PM PST - 11 comments

Why did Google stop working?

Suddenly, following a link to http://www.google.com or entering www.google.com brings up a page designated as https://www.google.com/?gws_rd=ssl. This does not bring up the search page under Chrome at all, and it's hit and miss under Firefox. I rechecked my self-created home page, where the link usually used resides, and it clearly has http: and not https: Could this be my ISP interfering with the direction of the URL? It's one of the larger ones.
posted by yclipse at 1:23 PM PST - 11 comments

I want to learn new life skills. Starting points?

I am looking to learn or become better at skills that would make life easier for me (fixing a car, cooking, DIY, things like that). To that end, I'd like to learn of some starting activities for various skills which could act as training wheels so I don't feel overwhelmed by all of the things there are to learn. Enjoyable hobbies (like chess, drawing, etc.) are more than welcome as well. An example of what I am looking for plus some extra details inside. [more inside]
posted by BuddyBoo at 1:22 PM PST - 15 comments

How to de-mold an air conditioner?

Hi, I have 2 window A/Cs that are pretty standard as far as those things go. They have a ton of black mold in the output fan area, and presumably within the A/C workings themselves. Is there any way to reliably get rid of this mold? Or should I simply replace them (possible, if not ideal?)
posted by the young rope-rider at 1:20 PM PST - 3 comments

Rotating mount for large monitor

Is there a mount for a >55" monitor that will rotate from portrait to landscape at the user's whim? I have a professor who wants to do pair programming on his wall. A projector is not sufficient.
posted by donpardo at 12:40 PM PST - 2 comments

If you cauliflower by any other name, does it smell as sweet?

I have a houseplant that I love, but I have no idea what it is. It's a hearty, lovely little guy, and contrary to the post's title doesn't ever flower. I want more of it! Or at least want to know what it is. Gallery of images on imgur. Thank you, internet heroes!
posted by twooster at 12:33 PM PST - 4 comments

How can we show our dog a good time in Orleans, MA/Cape Cod?

Looking for off-leash places especially. [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 11:49 AM PST - 3 comments

Timing a teaching application?

I am a high school teacher with multiple certification areas. For a couple of reasons, I'd like to get a job at another school, and there are two positions open there, one in each of my certification areas. However, I significantly prefer one position over the other. The position I do not prefer closes today, and the position I prefer closes in a week. Both would be better than where I am now. I have two questions. [more inside]
posted by marylucycraft at 11:29 AM PST - 6 comments

Who's turning my Outlook events into meetings?

I work at a company that uses Outlook and Exchange. I link my iPhone as well as my iMac at home. Everything was working great until lately. I've noticed that many of my events have been somehow converted into meetings. I'm suspecting my recent upgrade to Mavericks to be the culprit here. This brings to mind two important questions. [more inside]
posted by tommasz at 10:40 AM PST - 0 comments

Bridal shower emergency

Need: (1) QUICK ideas on bridal shower decorations and games, (2) direction on where to find said decorations and games (and flowers and baked goods) in Boston and/or (3) a Boston-area event planner who could do the work of finding decorations and decorate the event space. [more inside]
posted by anthropoid at 10:17 AM PST - 20 comments

Text collage t-shirt design

My mom has decided to make t-shirts for our upcoming family reunion. Of course, procrastination seems to be a family trait. [more inside]
posted by jaksemas at 10:09 AM PST - 5 comments

Buying sports bras in Ottawa and Montreal

What are the best brands of sports bras and where are the best places to buy them in either Ottawa or Montreal? [more inside]
posted by futureisunwritten at 9:42 AM PST - 8 comments

Amazing Men's Leather Bags?

This is my current bag, a military surplus canvas haversack. I love it. This is the bag I'm coveting. I would love to love it but it is Way To Much Money. Where is the bag that meets these two in the middle? Where are the Excellent Leather Men's Bags on sale? I am looking for something I can carry without comment (and will last) for the next 20 years.
posted by The Whelk at 9:34 AM PST - 48 comments

How do you know when a stress fracture has healed?

My 11 year old daughter suffered two stress fractures in the top of her foot back in May. It is now late July and she is still in a lot of pain and still on crutches, unable to bear any weight, even in a boot. The orthopedic says it is because she needs physical therapy and that she should be healed by now. [more inside]
posted by myselfasme at 9:32 AM PST - 19 comments

Sporting suggestions

Winter is coming... and I need an indoor sport to play. What sport can you recommend that is not fitness-as-sport (so weightlifting is out), not gear-heavy (hockey is out), not done totally solo (speed skating is out; interactive one-on-one competition like squash is OK), and works up a sweat (range shooting is out)? [more inside]
posted by rebooter at 9:28 AM PST - 21 comments

c25k for concentration and meditation

How to build concentration and learn to meditate [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess at 9:18 AM PST - 11 comments

What kind of car insurance do I really need?

What kind of car insurance do I really need? I feel like I'm spending too much and possibly overdoing it. I'm with Progressive now but don't have any particular loyalty. This is in Wisconsin. [more inside]
posted by desjardins at 9:01 AM PST - 14 comments

Temporary European banking

I'm going to the UK and Italy for 5 months for work and am having trouble getting the banking situation worked out. [more inside]
posted by rustcellar at 8:50 AM PST - 14 comments

Why does McAfee have a problem with my website?

So I recently completed a project, and was sharing the news with people on Facebook - but Facebook blocked the link to my website because it was apparently on some spammy/malware blacklist. I did some investigation, and my site comes up clean on every security scan thing I tried, except McAfee SiteAdvisor. It seems likely that it's a false positive, possibly due to my shared hosting. If there's a legitimate security issue, though, I'd like to find out what it is so I can fix it - but I don't know how I can do that. [more inside]
posted by NMcCoy at 8:43 AM PST - 5 comments

Looking for quality Japanese songs that will improve my Japanese.

I'm looking for good Japanese songs or artists that will teach me new, useful words or phrases so that I can improve. I read articles in Japanese too, but words seem to 'stick' better when I am listening to a song and going over the kanji and hiragana at the same time. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Kamelot123 at 8:43 AM PST - 12 comments

Quirky Londoners, plz halp

I'm going to London! Help me find fun things to do. I like comics, small indie concerts, clothes, outdoor markets, vintage stuff, handmade stuff, food, knitting, and going on walks. [more inside]
posted by A. mellifera at 8:22 AM PST - 23 comments

Help me evaluate my tooth whitening options?

What are the main teeth whitening methods? What are the pros and Cons of each? I found some groupons for "take home whitening" which seems like they just sell you a kit, and I found some for "chair side" whitening (~$100), where they use a gel and LED light? and there are also just over the counter ones. I searched ask mefi, but the last question about this that I found was from 2009, I wonder if the treatments are newer or better now?
posted by lijiaxiaoniu at 8:02 AM PST - 17 comments

Vacation city recommendations?

Warmish in late November, good for walking, inexpensive. Somewhere in South America? [more inside]
posted by ecsh at 7:53 AM PST - 7 comments

I would like to buy a laptop from Costco. I need help.

So long story short, my macbook's screen cracked out of warranty and I don't want to fork up the money to fix it. I am planning on nabbing a laptop from Costco, but their selection is... sparse, to say the least. Help me nab the best one! [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 7:49 AM PST - 8 comments

Fiction about Cheating Husbands?

What literary novels or films could you recommend that can help a male to feel a bit of what it might be like for a wife to be cheated on by her husband? Something where the reader or audience really empathise with the wife/girlfriend, and feel some of her emotions? Thank you.
posted by surenoproblem at 7:43 AM PST - 14 comments

How to bring blueberry bushes back to life?

I got a pair of blueberry bushes recently. They were potted and intended for ground planting, but I was unable to plant them. I was out of town for a week and a half and they went about that long with little or no water. When I returned, the leaves were brown and crispy and the soil was bone-dry. I put them in the ground and watered them copiously every day, but it's been a few days and they seem no better. Is there anything I can do to revive them, or am I out of luck?
posted by Slinga at 7:35 AM PST - 3 comments

Productivity tools for a job with frequent and inevitable interruptions?

I'm a full-time public librarian, and I'm always in public - no off-desk time. I really like the customer service aspects of the job, but find it hard to complete other tasks in a timely manner. What productivity tools or other strategies can I use, given that the interruptions are inevitable (and even desirable in some cases)? [more inside]
posted by Knicke at 7:23 AM PST - 5 comments

How do I get my boss to take my raise request seriously?

I'm underpaid after a year in my first job after Grad school. I've done great work and my boss is happy, but she won't put me up for a raise. I am in the process of looking for a new job and have an interview, but I'd prefer to stay at this one if she would take my request seriously. What's the best course of action? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by permiechickie at 7:11 AM PST - 28 comments

Still don't know what I want to be when I grow up ... at 39

Trying to figure out how to begin a career change at 39, when I don’t even know what I want to do next. Feeling really adrift and stuck right now – how do I start making a move? [more inside]
posted by DingoMutt at 6:47 AM PST - 20 comments

What are alternative ways of VC funding for a medical devices start-up?

We have developed a prototype for non-invasive blood glucose measurement and have problems finding funding. What are the alternatives? [more inside]
posted by yoyo_nyc at 6:42 AM PST - 10 comments

How to eliminate Student Assistance Corp. from my life?

I do not have any student loans with Nelnet. And yet, I receive telephone calls from the Student Assistance Corporation (evil wrongdoers, as supported on the internet) several times a week. Help me make it stop! [more inside]
posted by miss tea at 6:24 AM PST - 13 comments

What can I do with one overripe banana?

Aside from freezing to make a banana ice cream sort of thing, what can I make using a single ripe banana? I don't like eating bananas plain once they've started turning brown, I don't want to make banana bread, and I don't want to buy anything extra (probably) or do anything very elaborate or calorie intensive (Bananas Foster, for example). [more inside]
posted by taz at 5:44 AM PST - 30 comments

Can I correct track information in iTunes match without downloading

I've migrated all my songs to iTunes Match, because I don't have space on my hard drive. But some of my ripped tracks have weird names, dating back from when I manually ripped the CDs. Is there a way of (semi?)automatically correcting these without having to download my whole library, or go through manually? [more inside]
posted by danteGideon at 5:20 AM PST - 5 comments

Women's clothing chain stores in Goa , India?

I will be traveling to Goa in the next couple days but only for about 10 days. Usually I have time to get clothes tailor made but probably not this time. so I need recommendations for stores where I can buy reasonably priced ready to wear casual clothes in Panaji, Vasco or environs. Because I don't visit often, and have relied on tailor made, I dont know where to go. [more inside]
posted by darsh at 4:59 AM PST - 3 comments

Is it possible to make a blog layout like this using Tumblr?

Is it possible to make a blog layout like this using Tumblr? Thanks in advance
posted by FuckingAwesome at 4:12 AM PST - 2 comments

July 23

Standard musical cues for TV programs?

I want to learn about the types of musical cues that are commonly used for television programs. [more inside]
posted by ErikH2000 at 11:11 PM PST - 8 comments

Gettin fired for the dole

How common is it for American workers to deliberately get fired in order to collect on unemployment insurance?
posted by willie11 at 10:45 PM PST - 29 comments

What are houses in different countries made of?

I need to get a general sense of the primary building materials used for housing in a few different countries around the world. I'm looking for suggestions on where to find this type of information. [more inside]
posted by tokaidanshi at 10:42 PM PST - 4 comments

Good place to stay between Portland & Seattle?

We (spouse, myself, and 2.5 year old toddler) are on a vacation in the Northwest US. What cool place can we stay this Saturday that is somewhere (more or less) on the way from Portland to Seattle? [more inside]
posted by Betelgeuse at 10:40 PM PST - 7 comments

What do the Dutch do cross-country?

I have a new commute that is hilly and mostly off-road, instead of my previous flat all paved one. I don't think my Dutch bike is suited to this, but I LOOOOOOOVE it so much. I never really enjoyed cycling before I got it. Is there a better suited bike that will make me equally happy? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 10:21 PM PST - 15 comments

House Design Software

What software should we use to design our (small) house? We will have an architect draw the final plans, but want to create quick 3D models for visualization. [more inside]
posted by sibilatorix at 10:06 PM PST - 6 comments

Informative, Dry Podcasts for Running

Astronomy Cast has been great, but I'd like to mix things up with other topics! What I'm looking for in a podcast: cerebral/abstract subject matter, steady talking by the hosts -- with few interruptions and few/regular hosts, relatively serious tone (not a lot of banter as well as not a lot of joking). An hour-long podcast would be ideal, but other lengths are workable. [more inside]
posted by rue72 at 7:42 PM PST - 22 comments

Was Grandpa spooky?

Can I find out through a foia request, or some other means, whether my grandfather was a spy, code-cracker, or somehow involved in Cold War hijinx? [more inside]
posted by metajc at 7:37 PM PST - 13 comments

Kelowna to Vancouver - which route to take?

We're planning to drive from Kelowna to Vancouver in the middle of September, and we'd like to take a scenic route and perhaps stay overnight somewhere in the middle. Problem: we're getting conflicting advice about which "scenic" route to take! [more inside]
posted by greatgefilte at 7:23 PM PST - 13 comments

How to figure out and pursue a more lucrative career past age 30?

I have realized that my career path is not going to offer the compensation or growth potential I would like. I need to pivot. How can I identify an more lucrative career path and the steps necessary both to train and to break into said path? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:04 PM PST - 13 comments

Every time I load Firefox, it tries to download a non-existent PDF

I typed a bad PDF name, and the download failed. Now every time I load Firefox, it tries to download the file again, and it fails again. How do I get the file name out of the "to do" list?
posted by KRS at 6:51 PM PST - 9 comments

Is Comic-Con worth a gawk?

I won't be attending San Diego Comic Con this weekend, but I do live within a reasonable walk of the convention center. Do enough people wear impressive costumes to this event that it's worthwhile to just hang around outside the convention center to people-watch? If so, are there any especially good times and places for this?
posted by kickingtheground at 6:49 PM PST - 6 comments

Of course, all of my emails are highly important

Is it possible to set an importance flag on my email using the standard Android mail app? [more inside]
posted by Chrysostom at 6:28 PM PST - 9 comments

Software skills for aspiring technical writer

How do I know I’ve taught myself enough technical writing software (number of programs and my abilities therein) for potential employers to take me seriously? [more inside]
posted by glass.hourousha at 6:23 PM PST - 6 comments

Information Systems internship questions and crisis of confidence

I am trying to get a start in the information systems field, but I am having a crisis of confidence. Snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by the big lizard at 6:14 PM PST - 1 comment

How do I hair???

I have NEVER had my hair professionally cut or styled. It's way past time, but (like many things in life) the longer I wait, the harder it is. I also have a very long list of special requests. What should I do in order to have hair I love again? [more inside]
posted by wintersweet at 6:11 PM PST - 48 comments

screaming kids on the street too noisy, any code in NYC?

Recently there is this family brings their super noisy kids(about 5-6) to run and scream on the street infront of my apartment everyday from 6pm-10pm. The street is in a quite neighborhood, there are families, but I never hear or saw a single kids making such noise outside of there home on the street. One day I went down and talked to the parent and kids, that they shouldn't make noise like this, but they didn't listen and was quite rude, both the parent and the unruling kids. I really can't take this, it's extremly noisy, the screaming can't be stopped by closing my windows and putting on earplugs, not to mention it's hot summer that I need a little bit of breeze and peace in the evening at home. What Can I do? this is in NYC, is there any code for noisy street kids? thanks!
posted by pack2themoon at 6:04 PM PST - 29 comments

Staying with a dog who suddenly lacks bowel control

While continuing a very lengthy house hunting process, we're staying with my parents and their 11 year old lab. The lab is a sweet dog, and I love her, but I'm having trouble dealing with her lack of bowel control, and us staying in the house seems to be making it worse. Has anyone dealt with this before? [more inside]
posted by treehorn+bunny at 5:04 PM PST - 23 comments

I would like to not die a horrible death from wasp stings

On my deck, right out my back door, is a small square bench that until recently had a flower pot sitting on it. The flower pot was recently tossed (about a week ago) and last evening, I noticed there were quite a few bees? wasps? in that area of of the deck. Today, it became clear they have MOVED IN. [more inside]
posted by instead of three wishes at 4:19 PM PST - 19 comments

How to deal with friend that invites others along?

I have a friend i've known for almost 6 years now and recently we started taking weekend trips to a comic convention every March since we only see each other twice a year. She's invited someone she's friends with and her 3 year old daughter to come with us, i've never met her and i really don't want to spend my weekend with someone's fussy 3 year old. How do you handle something like this? [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue at 4:09 PM PST - 86 comments

Which Yorkville lunch spot will impress my mentor?

My mentor and his wife are visiting my city and I would like to take them out for an exceptional meal as a gesture of gratitude for all their help. I’d like it to feel hip and trendy but not so noisy that you can’t hear anything. They are both in their late 60s and meat-eaters. What downtown /Yorkville restaurant will really knock their socks off? I want them to feel as if they've been somewhere special. [more inside]
posted by OlivesAndTurkishCoffee at 4:07 PM PST - 11 comments

What is this thing?

I saw this object on a table outside a thrift shop in a small town in eastern Washington State, US. It is about 3 feet long and made out of hard plastic. It was selling for about $100 and was gone by later that day. What is it? Full view, Left side, Right side. A working theory is that it has something to do with some kind of crafting activity, possibly quilting.
posted by matildaben at 3:18 PM PST - 2 comments

Why can't I access this site through Comcast in Chicago

I have talked to a couple of Comcast users and none of them/us can access This site. I have no problem accessing it outside of comcast network.
posted by travis08 at 2:33 PM PST - 20 comments

Should I break up with my gf while I work on resolving my addiction?

I started dating my girlfriend six months ago. Since that time, I have gradually taken more of my stimulant medication than prescribed. I have told her on multiple occasions about the overuse of my stimulant medication and that recently it had gotten worse. Earlier tonight she told me that she is starting to distance herself from me and that she needs some extra space to protect herself [from being around someone with addictive behavior]. Her brother had a drug problem and she understands how emotionally draining it can be to have an addict in her life. What is the mature thing to do in this situation? Do I wait for her to potentially break up with me? Do I ask her for a break while I work on things? Do I just want to ask for a break to save myself from the pain of her breaking up with me first? I love her and I want her to be a part of my life but I don't want her to be consumed by my addiction while I get help. Please help.
posted by anonymous at 2:29 PM PST - 16 comments

Looking for good grief support groups in NYC

My friend's Dad died earlier this year, and she's working through it. She wants to find a good grief support group in New York, preferably in lower Manhattan or Brooklyn. She works a lot, and the few she knows about meet in times when she just can't go. [more inside]
posted by WStraub at 2:16 PM PST - 1 comment

How does Hawaii work?

My family and I are planning a trip to Hawaii, but we don't know where to even start. Family of four; two adults, two kids who will be 4 and 1.5. We're total Hawaii newbies. We don't even know which island to visit. [more inside]
posted by linettasky at 2:09 PM PST - 21 comments

Job Search Woes: Online Application Edition

I am just a couple weeks from receiving my bachelor's degree, and thanks to my college career counselor I feel like I now know what I'm doing when it comes to resumes, cover letters, and the interview process. I'm applying for an administrative/HR position, and the company's online application has be concerned that I don't look like as good a candidate. Should I mail the resume/cover letter in, or deliver it personally, and ignore the online app? [more inside]
posted by Urban Winter at 2:04 PM PST - 7 comments

Please help me come up with a project name that's in Ancient Greek!

I have this super-secret yet super-awesome Super-Quantizer program thingie that does cool things to music. For various reasons the words "Platonic score" are always used in my mind and in the code so I was hoping to carry that tradition on in naming that aspect of the project with something in Ancient Greek. [more inside]
posted by bfootdav at 2:01 PM PST - 11 comments

Can you help me decipher and rectify my InDesign CS5 pre-flight errors?

I've spent the last several months studying Creative Suite 5, print production, and pre-press and now I'm trying to put it all to work to get a dozen digital art pieces (mostly made in Illustrator > InDesign, but a few also using Photoshop) print-ready for art proofs and eventually web offset printing. The images are either 6x9 or 11x17 if that matters. The list of errors I keep getting, and as much context as I can provide, are within. [more inside]
posted by Violet Blue at 1:49 PM PST - 4 comments

Next time I'll remember to ask this question when it's 1987 out.

I've had this little home decor project idea floating around in my head for ages and I need a specific kind of picture frame to pull it off. One of those family collage frame type dealies that everybody's grandma has in the den. But they seem to have dropped out of fashion and I haven't been able to find one anywhere over the course of numerous googlings for the past year and a half. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 1:36 PM PST - 23 comments

Financial/resource based euthanasia for dogs

There are probably viable treatments for my 8 year old dog but I can't afford them or take the time to carry them out. I am considering euthanasia. How do I manage this? [more inside]
posted by shock muppet at 1:27 PM PST - 29 comments

How does one find a place to live for several months (in LA)?

My wife, two kids, and a dog need a domicile in the fall/winter where we can live while our house is being worked on. The challenge is finding a place that would allow that short of a term, with a somewhat vague end date, all under a budget. Where to look? [more inside]
posted by malhouse at 1:19 PM PST - 8 comments

Should we drive our 9 month old from Gothenburg Sweden to Amsterdam?

How's the drive (for non-europeans) between Gothenburg Sweden and Amsterdam (via Copenhagen and Hamburg)? Should we drive this with our 9 month old daughter? [more inside]
posted by bitdamaged at 1:03 PM PST - 10 comments

How do I sell a business with no assets but a good revenue stream?

The problem in a nutshell: I am the sole owner of a S-corp consulting practice with one very large, very happy client. My company has grown a lot and, to handle the workload better, I've brought on some subcontractors who essentially do the same thing I do. Now I'd like to "sell" the book of business to one of my subcontractors, but I have no idea what sort of financial arrangement makes sense. [more inside]
posted by DrGail at 12:44 PM PST - 14 comments

Help me buy & ride a bicycle

I live in Seattle, land of hills and bicycling. I'm moving from a very hilly area to a flatter (but no place in Seattle is "flat") area, and would like to start cycling more. I hate cycling on hills. They are the bane of my existence. However, having only cycled up hills on single-speed cycles, I suspect this aversion could be overcome with the right cycle. [more inside]
posted by dotgirl at 12:24 PM PST - 19 comments

Healthcare for visitors in Toronto?

My cousin is visiting from the US and her joints are hurting a lot. Since she is a visitor she has no OHIP or health insurance here. For someone who is medically uninsured, I need more information on (1) x-ray centers and (2) medical labs (for blood work) in the Toronto-Mississauga area. Also, I would appreciate your advice on any (3) good, inexpensive health insurance plans you know about. If you can help me with any of these it would be a great help.
posted by cyrusw8 at 11:41 AM PST - 11 comments

Short story identification

What is this short story I read sometime in the late 1990s? Plot involved two teenage girls in the 1960s, Beatlemania, and the terrifying truths of growing up. [more inside]
posted by Ideal Impulse at 11:28 AM PST - 3 comments

I Have (Go)Daddy Issues, Help Me Resolve Them Without Therapy

My personal website has been down for the past 4 hours. Never had an iota of problem with GoDaddy before. I have domains through them and also shared hosting. Naturally, 4 hours of downtime is shocking to me, so I call them and say "Hey! What's up with THAT?" [more inside]
posted by John Kennedy Toole Box at 10:26 AM PST - 26 comments

Deskilled in the mating game - what now?

I've lived like a nun bar the religion for almost 5 yrs (after a couple of very bad relationship choices) in supposedly my sexual peak. Yeah right. I've worked on myself but I'm still quite gun shy/lack confidence in my own judgement of others (men especially) and pretty much avoid that side of life. So it came as a bit of a surprise when I found myself asking out my course trainer (just a one day thing) for a drink. He said yes :) .. which felt good but what the f happens now? [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 10:23 AM PST - 9 comments

Credit card debt not paid on in a year, repayment plan options?

Large CC debt ignored for nearly a year, going to call all collectors tomorrow to try to get a payment plan. Tips? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:21 AM PST - 10 comments

Need a case for iPad mini & keyboard

OK this really shouldn't be that hard to find. I have an iPad mini and a keyboard. Now I need a case to hold both of them. Every keyboard case that I find, already has the keyboard with the case. I don't need that--I need an empty case that can hold the iPad mini and the mini keyboard that I already have. Thanks
posted by sandra194 at 9:54 AM PST - 5 comments

Help in Acclimating to New Job

I haven't had a job in an office in over ten years. I've gone to school, I've done freelancing, but it's been over ten years since I had to get to an office and work for several hours and then come home. I start next week and was wondering what advice you might have in terms of acclimating to a new job after working on my own (or being in school) for so long. [more inside]
posted by sockermas at 9:54 AM PST - 11 comments

Things to do around Atlantic City area.

My 2 friends and I (in our 20s & 30s, 1 gay, 1 lesbian and 1 straight guy) are staying in Absecon, NJ this weekend. We are looking for something more than a secluded beach but less than Atlantic City boardwalk. We plan on relaxing on the beach during the day and finding some nightlife if possible. Can you recommend places nearby with a laid back feel and some activity. Perhaps places like a beach bar, outdoor band, mini golf, good cheap eats, must sees and local delights. We have a car and are open to traveling a half hour in any direction. Thanks!
posted by PeaPod at 9:48 AM PST - 3 comments

What are these colored lights in the Yelp building in SF?

Idle curiosity filter: the Yelp building on New Montgomery street in San Francisco has a room in its upper stories with these colored lights. They change between red, green, and blue, and sometimes combinations. Anyone know what they're for, or what goes on in that room? Is it the private Yelp rave room?
posted by sandettie light vessel automatic at 9:40 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me get my kid a phone

Parents, what do you wish you knew when you got your kid their first phone? I need practical advice, but I'm also interested in the less tangible parent/child relations-type advice, too. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 9:39 AM PST - 23 comments

Allergic conjunctivitis won't go away

Have you or anyone you know ever experienced allergic conjunctivitis that just won't quit? [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 9:21 AM PST - 7 comments

Find me the Binny's of the West (Coast)

I moved to the Bay Area recently (San Mateo) and one of the things I've missed most from Chicago has been the amazing beer selection I was able to find at the local liquor chain Binny's. I've tried a couple of BevMo's and some smaller momandpop type places but I've yet to find a place with 4 rows of different beer plus coolers etc. which I could find in Chicago. I miss my selection! Does a place like this exist? Is there a secret bottle shop that I don't know about? Let me know where I can get my beer selection on!
posted by Carillon at 9:19 AM PST - 10 comments

Does anybody know how to make facing pages in Microsoft Word?

I don't just mean in page view. I am translating a book and would like to produce a dual-language book with the original on the left and the translation on the right, like in the Loeb library and so forth. I can sort of do this with two columns, but they're not really independent. (If I keep typing in one, it'll eventually bleed into the other.) [more inside]
posted by Opengreen at 9:10 AM PST - 11 comments

Can you help with a LinkedIn summary?

So pretty much everything is filled in nicely on my LinkedIn profile, except the part where I summarize myself and my objectives. Ugh... [more inside]
posted by foxhat10 at 8:45 AM PST - 4 comments

Is Windows tolerable these days? If so, what laptop should I get?

My old MacBook just died, so I need a new computer. I'm broke, so I'm considering going back to Windows. I haven't used Windows since the XP days, and vaguely remember hating it, though I can't remember exactly why. What's Windows like these days compared to Mac OS in terms of ease of use or annoyingness? What are your favorite / least favorite features of one platform compared to the others? And if I do get a Windows machine, what models might I consider? Requirements are pretty simple: it should know how to surf the web, run Word and LaTeX, and play movies, and most importantly be cheap, reliable and long-lasting.
posted by zeri at 8:38 AM PST - 18 comments

Help make my birthday dinner HOT

I want to make a large number of small plates of various very spicy and very delicious foods for my birthday next week. Super spicy and super delicious are tied for value in what I'm looking for; I'm not interested in recipes that are all about the heat without being tasty (I'd just pass out grilled peppers if that were the aim). I'm especially interested in finger foods and things that are relatively quick to make, but if it's super delicious and is worth the wait/work, more substantial or utensil-requiring undertakings are also welcome.
posted by spindrifter at 8:34 AM PST - 32 comments

Can I Interchange Charging Methods with USB Cables?

Can I use my phone's USB charger/wall plug to charge my sports camera? Or, what do I need to know in order to figure it out myself? (Details within.) [more inside]
posted by TinWhistle at 8:18 AM PST - 4 comments

Name the film: potato edition

A few years ago, I saw a kitchen-sink style film on TV where the daughter didn't eat her evening meal, so her father insisted she was served it at every subsequent meal until she ate it. Googling brings up nothing - any ideas? [more inside]
posted by mippy at 7:57 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for tea and allergy friendly food in Huntington and Little Rock

I am traveling in the next few weeks to Huntington, WV and Little Rock, AR. I have not had great luck with either city in the past and would like advice on places to go for food or tea. [more inside]
posted by bile and syntax at 7:01 AM PST - 5 comments

The answer is probably suck it up and learn to deal

I am graying, and I love it. But the new texture of my hair is making me crazy. Is there anything I can do about it? [more inside]
posted by bibliogrrl at 6:59 AM PST - 32 comments

we had a rom-com meet-cute…11 years ago. now what?

Is this something worth pursuing? About 11 years ago, i went to a destination wedding at the Oregon Coast. I met a close childhood friend of the groom's at the wedding. Nothing inappropriate happened because he was married, but we hit it off that week. He was one of the funniest, fun guys I had met and I immediately developed a crush on him. Five years later, I had by then moved to Portland (he lived in DC), and we ended up at another destination wedding in the northwest with the same group of friends. I don't remember a lot of this second wedding bc I was emerging from a deep clinical depression and was on meds. I do remember again hitting it off with the same guy again—and again, nothing inappropriate bc he was still married and had a daughter by this time. Every once in long while, we would exchange an email message or a comment on FB, but as he was still married with children (by now two) and lived in DC, I didn't think much about him beyond a fondness every time I saw him post on FB. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:34 AM PST - 18 comments

Is Shakeology a scam?

Are Shakeology/all of those sports/meal replacement shake things worth it? [more inside]
posted by ashtabula to opelika at 6:25 AM PST - 7 comments

Is the Bugaboo Cameleon stroller really worth it (secondhand edition)?

A new one is over $1000 -- no hella way. But is a secondhand one worth it at $350? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 5:13 AM PST - 20 comments

food du jour in hipsterland

Hipsters and hipster observers around the globe, please tell me about the best or most confusing food, ingredients, dishes in the hipster diet. [more inside]
posted by travelwithcats at 4:51 AM PST - 62 comments

How dare I think I can do this

I want to write. But I have all kinds of Big Dumb Issues around it. Help me stop sabotaging myself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:11 AM PST - 25 comments

MIDI messages to alphanumeric keyboard bindings in linux?

I'd like to use a 12 key MIDI footpedal to type in various (arbitrary) keystrokes under linux (debian.) Is this doable, easy, hard? (I can put in time & effort to write config files and mapping files. Would rather not do any real coding for this, if possible. I'd like to have an idea of do-ability before investing in the gear. Am posting here because quality response and unsure where else to.)
posted by bertran at 1:57 AM PST - 5 comments

Listening to music wirelessly - Alzheimer's filter

How can my brother who is in a home with Alzheimer's listen to music? [more inside]
posted by TheRaven at 1:49 AM PST - 3 comments

What's my name again?

I am a transgender individual who has been unable to come up with a name for myself. I have tried numerous names over multiple years and feel completely adrift when it comes to a named identity. What names fit my (pickypicky) criteria? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:21 AM PST - 95 comments

What to do about an unresponsive attorney

Several of my family members and I are working together to help select, coordinate and pay for legal representation for a family member (I'll call him Bill). The attorney we have hired will not take our calls nor respond to phone messages or emails sent to him, and Bill has an important hearing coming up. [more inside]
posted by Strumpf Marionette at 12:18 AM PST - 12 comments

iTunes is the bane of my existence

Is there hope in restoring photos that have not been backed up or synced onto iCloud? [more inside]
posted by hampanda at 12:00 AM PST - 1 comment

July 22

True Detective Withdrawl

Looking for alternatives [more inside]
posted by jellyjam at 11:17 PM PST - 33 comments

how to fix the failour of downloading pictures on my wechat ?

I am in China and my SO is in USA. we both use the app WECHAT a lot to keep in touch.. wechat is a very popular app in China as a social utility that connects people with friends on mobiles phones. but since 2 months ago, i could not view the full images of the pictures he have sent me and could not download them. we can still send each other text messages and he can recieve the pictures i have sent to him. And i can view and download other pictures my chinese friends sent me. i think this is strange. does anyone know why it happens or how to fix it?
posted by denimchair at 10:21 PM PST - 3 comments

What to do in Napa before dinner, with no hotel?

Looking for suggestions of chill hangout spots or low-key activities (preferably not wine-related) for that awkward "before dinner" time in Napa. [more inside]
posted by phoenixy at 10:11 PM PST - 13 comments

Painted good guitars?

Is there a place online (either a store or a site that facilitates merchants or a single merchant) that sells custom or just awesomely painted upscale (Taylor, et al) guitars?
posted by jitterbug perfume at 9:27 PM PST - 8 comments

Should I ask Ting Inc. for a new phone?

I just got a refurbished Nexus S from Ting (I would link to the phone, but they're not selling it right now). Honestly, it's been great, except that twice now the phone just turned off and wouldn't turn back on. Then, in a few hours (like 12-16 hours), it does turn on and pretends like nothing happened. This causes me anxiety. I'm still under warranty for another week or so; should I ask for a new phone? I did try a few things, which are listed below. [more inside]
posted by middlethird at 9:22 PM PST - 6 comments

Should we move for more money/career advancement?

My husband was laid off from his job a few weeks ago. We have a toddler and live in Chicago. I've lived here forever, all of my family and friends are here, and I have a job I love here. So far, he hasn't come across any opportunities in this area, but we've seen some great looking job postings in smaller cities in flyover states. (Think Des Moines and Omaha.) Should he consider pursuing these opportunities, or should we stay where we are and struggle along? [more inside]
posted by GirlLikesBeer at 8:54 PM PST - 26 comments

Boy meets girl. Boy likes girl. Girl likes boy…maybe?

I'm 24 and have almost no dating experience, and I need help knowing whether I should pursue things further with this guy or end it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:09 PM PST - 13 comments

Can one learn to enjoy and thrive in social interactions?

Is there any way to learn how to communicate like a normal human being? [more inside]
posted by the ghost of so and so at 7:46 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me replace my gross kitchen lights.

Looking for an industrialish-type fixture to replace the brass boob in my ceiling and the snowglobe stuck above my sink. [more inside]
posted by the artless dodger at 7:31 PM PST - 5 comments

Sweaty McSweaterson

It is hot and I sweat. No, I POUR sweat from my head and it is quite embarrassing in public. Are there ways to deal with excessive head sweating aside from hiding in my house splayed in front of the my lone fan? [more inside]
posted by kanata at 7:14 PM PST - 23 comments

What kind of necklace length/shape to wear with different necklines?

I've been branching out into more dresses and trying to figure out what length/shape of necklaces look best with different necklines. I have plenty of necklaces I like, just not sure what to wear with what. [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 6:58 PM PST - 7 comments

Will long term use of a voltage converter damage electronics?

If I buy a portable region 2 DVD player and use it in the US with a plug adaptor and power converter, will that damage the electronics in the long run? [more inside]
posted by Beti at 6:42 PM PST - 15 comments

Academic Dress in Hot Weather

What should a young male academic wear when it's hot? [more inside]
posted by HoraceH at 6:26 PM PST - 12 comments

Your best bread loaf shaping techniques, please?

Bread bakers of Ask MeFi, please share your advice, techniques, favorite instructional videos, books and/or websites about making bread loaves look terrific. [more inside]
posted by MonkeyToes at 6:09 PM PST - 12 comments

4x+y+2z=100, x>y, y>z, x+y+z=j, 3x+z=k, j>k, j+k=100.

4x+y+2z=100, x>y, y>z, x+y+z=j, 3x+z=k, j>k, j+k=100. WolframAlpha can only give me alternative forms or a solution involving 'real and imaginary parts of z'. Is there a solution I can count on my fingers? [more inside]
posted by obiwanwasabi at 6:07 PM PST - 13 comments

How do I use Raleway's alternate numerals?

So, I'm using Raleway. It has numbers that descend, though, like the 3, 4, 5, etc. But it also appears to have numbers that do not descend. Yay. How do I use them? Bonus points: how do I make UIKit use them?
posted by jeffamaphone at 5:56 PM PST - 4 comments

Please help me become a more likable, better person.

I'm unlikable. This is undeniable. Help me fix that. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:33 PM PST - 46 comments

Cauliflower and cashews substitutes in vegan recipes?

A member of my gaming group has developed a ton of food intolerances/allergies, so I need substitutes for cauliflower and cashews in vegan recipes. And can anyone spot a pattern to her allergies? [more inside]
posted by magstheaxe at 4:22 PM PST - 23 comments

KKK fliers in our neighborhood

Our neighbors received a KKK recruiting flier along with their Sunday newspaper. We didn't. We are an LGBT couple and I am Asian-American. What can I do to be less freaked out by this? [more inside]
posted by QuantumMeruit at 3:41 PM PST - 15 comments

Filing a car insurance claim with unreported previous damage

I was in a fender-bender that was indisputably the other driver's fault, but I'm not sure how to proceed with the insurance claim because there was already some mild prior damage to my car from a couple of scrapes in my house's treacherous driveway that I never brought to my insurer's attention. Can I get in trouble with my insurance company (USAA) for failing to report those minor solo collisions, and how much will it complicate a claim against the at-fault driver's insurance? [more inside]
posted by patnasty at 3:29 PM PST - 8 comments

Math Careers

Non-obvious careers for someone with a B.S. in Applied Mathematics? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:28 PM PST - 21 comments

Gluten-Free, Slow-Carb, and Vegan

Greetings All: I have been reading up on transitioning to a vegan diet and there are so many things to think about. One of the best comments I received from someone on a previous post is that eating vegan does not equal being healthy necessarily. So I have been reading some books about eating a healthy vegan diet. I would also like to avoid gluten and somehow work on making this a slow-carb diet if at all possible. [more inside]
posted by nidora at 3:12 PM PST - 9 comments

Mystery Pepper

Help me identify the mystery pepper plant I am growing in my backyard! Pictures: 1, 2, 3. [more inside]
posted by research monkey at 3:03 PM PST - 10 comments

E-mail Meeting Scheduling (Outlook?) messages have the wrong time

I use Hotmail. A business partner sends me a meeting scheduling message, I'm not sure what they are whether it's an Outlook thing, but they have the time and date of the meeting, along with "Accept", "Decline" check boxes. The trouble is the time's wrong. [more inside]
posted by storybored at 2:50 PM PST - 2 comments

Holistic Gastroenterology

I'm looking for an awesome gastro doc (preferrably female) in the South Jersey/philadelphia area. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:40 PM PST - 4 comments

No-drug regimen for depression/mild anxiety relief

I'm sick to death of the prescription drug med-go-'round for MDD and mild anxiety. I'm ready to stop. [more inside]
posted by nubianinthedesert at 2:19 PM PST - 25 comments

Time for another round of name that career!

I was wondering if any Mefites might currently work in, or know someone who works in, a career that meets the following qualifications: 1. Involves a ton of writing. Any type of writing. Even if one spends most of one's time crafting emails, that would be sufficient. 2. Is relatively easy to get into with only a bachelor's degree in a possibly unrelated subject. 3. Is generally not discriminatory based on age (in other words, someone who is in their late 40s/early 50s would not be seen as teetering on the edge of their grave). [more inside]
posted by Sockrates at 1:59 PM PST - 12 comments

How do I ship a small papercraft clock?

As part of an artist trading card swap, I made a bunch of little clocks. Only after I was finished did it occur to me that the little clock hands bend (and presumably break) easily, and there are a lot of places where bits could get bent or otherwise messed up in shipping. What's my best bet for packing and shipping these things? More fun: one has to go to England.
posted by hishtafel at 1:34 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me find the last wallet I'll ever need?

While reading the purse thread, I realized I'm in dire need of a new wallet. I don't give a toss about brand names, but I really want a well made, durable women's wallet. It's got to be available in Canada, handle lots of spare change well, and have lots of room for cards. If it's affordable and goes well with a butter yellow handbag, all the better!
posted by peppermind at 1:26 PM PST - 20 comments

How should you approach a bar essay question if you blank on the answer?

I'm taking the bar next week. (IL if it matters). I feel strong in some areas, weak in others. Strengths and weaknesses I can handle, but there's one situation that I'm nervous about. How should approach a question if I just flat out blank on the rule of rule? [more inside]
posted by helloimjohnnycash at 1:26 PM PST - 21 comments

AIM messages in Gmail -- stop!

As of very recently, I'm getting AIM messages not just opening up in AIM, but also in my Gmail. I want to receive the messages in AIM, but I do not want to them also to appear as an email in Gmail. How do I fix this? [more inside]
posted by lewedswiver at 1:07 PM PST - 7 comments

Does a wedding planning CMS exist?

I know of many online plan your own wedding sites, but what I'm looking for is one which I can host on a server of my own, probably some sort of PHP/MySQL based affair that will manage things like the RSVP, menu choices, gift lists etc, and also allow me to send emails to specific groups such as "Family of Groom, Family of Bride, Bridesmaids, Catering Staff" etc etc.
posted by dougrayrankin at 1:00 PM PST - 3 comments

Should I Go For Full AT & T Business Bundle

I am in the midst of establishing an office in Downtown LA for a small and growing business. I purchased a package that in which I have business phone that I can use fax on, unlimited national calls etc. U-Verse Wi-Fi package is separate. [more inside]
posted by goalyeehah at 12:52 PM PST - 0 comments

Talk Me Down From Terror Over a Routine Surgery, Please

Thanks to marinating myself in others’ bad outcomes, I’m terrified of my gallbladder removal this Monday, a surgery that happens 700,000 times a year. I could use a ton of positive-outcome, no-problem, no-side-effect stories, and/or any good sensible cognitive talk on not letting people’s health forum posts terrify you. [more inside]
posted by WCityMike at 12:27 PM PST - 52 comments

Careers in communications / social justice

I'm going back to school for communications in the fall. I'd like to start gathering career ideas now so I know what to look for when I graduate and also so that I pick the right courses for my career path. When I went in to my undergrad in 2007, I had no idea of what I would do upon graduation. So, I'd like to gather some ideas now and tailor my course selection towards potential career options. [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 12:08 PM PST - 4 comments

Best way to sell a high-end grand piano?

Someone close to me has inherited a Yamaha grand piano, appraised by knowledgable tuner around $45,000. The owner needs as much of this money as she can get. How do we sell it? Is Craigslist okay for very-high-price sales? This is in the Washington DC area. [more inside]
posted by LobsterMitten at 12:06 PM PST - 20 comments

Why did my cat die?

I found my cat dead under my car and I am trying to find out why. [more inside]
posted by mermily at 12:06 PM PST - 22 comments

Give me your best slow-cooked smoked BBQ ideas/recipes!

What other smoked/slow cooked (on the BBQ) delights should I be getting my husband to make me? (using pork or beef preferably) [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 11:28 AM PST - 14 comments

Tips to help out a new DM/GM trying to run D&D Next Encounters Season.

Help a new Dungeon Master/Game Master run her first games with tips & tricks you wish you'd known when you first started out. Add to that the difficulty level of learning a new system, D&D Next at the same time. [more inside]
posted by wwax at 10:05 AM PST - 9 comments

Construction problemz. What are my options?

We are remodeling our house and we just learned that the windows are arriving a month later than originally planned. What are our options for getting some of our money back to cover the added expense this will incur? [more inside]
posted by Anonymousness at 10:01 AM PST - 11 comments

Help Me Hack My PT

I'm an obsessive tracker. I have an awesome to-do list that helps me get shit done. I just started physical therapy for an ankle injury (yet again). I want to keep track of the exercises and how much I'm able to do. [more inside]
posted by kathrynm at 9:47 AM PST - 6 comments

Going for a job at a start up

I'm going through for a marketing gig at a startup - but my idea of a job is influenced by my family's idea of a job, which tends to be very working class hourly wage stuff. Please help me figure out fitting in and working well with what I've had presented to me. [more inside]
posted by Phalene at 9:43 AM PST - 12 comments

Leg Pillows: What's your favorite one?

I need a recommendation for a leg pillow. [more inside]
posted by undercoverhuwaaah at 9:39 AM PST - 4 comments

How to make pulled pork from a tenderloin?

So I've got a two-pound tenderloin defrosting in my fridge, and I'd like to make pulled pork out of it. I've never made pulled pork at all, but I understand it generally calls for pork shoulder, so I feel like I need some extra-special hand-holding to help me figure out how to make it work with a totally different cut of meat. [more inside]
posted by ladybird at 8:26 AM PST - 29 comments

Streaming video around the house

I ripped a bunch of my DVDs to my Mac so that I could put the cases in storage. Currently, the files sit on my hard drive on my Mac Pro, and when I want to watch something, I copy the relevant file to a USB stick and walk it upstairs to the TV, where the Blu Ray player has a USB input. Is there an easier way to get these files onto my TV (and ideally, iPads/iPhones) than walking the file around the house? We're an all-Mac household. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 8:12 AM PST - 19 comments

Help me root my Galaxy S4 without ruining it

I have a Samsung Galaxy S4 on the Bell network in Canada. It is bloated with bloatware, and most apps can't actually be transferred to the SD card i've mounted. So i have a phone without much stuff i actually want on it, and tons of stuff that i don't, and i want to fix that situation - but i'm nervous. I've seen various solutions on message boards and stuff online, but i'm very wary of downloading zip files from random message boards, for a solution that may or may not work for my phone. [more inside]
posted by Kololo at 7:19 AM PST - 8 comments

I'm not sure whether or not to quit AA...

In summary: my sponsor, and her sponsor, advised me not to take a medication that is helpful to me and which I was not abusing. This makes me feel uncomfortable. More details below. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:12 AM PST - 41 comments

Can you suggest what my husband's next job should be?

Can you suggest what my husband's next job should be? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:11 AM PST - 12 comments

my name is mug

Please help me identify these mugs, in the hopes of possibly acquiring more of them. [more inside]
posted by mon-ma-tron at 7:10 AM PST - 11 comments

Dimetrodons don't count.

How many kinds of dinosaurs were alive at the same time? [more inside]
posted by Thing at 6:52 AM PST - 5 comments

Recommend me some books about old sailing ships

I'm in a mood to read non-fiction history books dealing with sailing ships. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by Bulgaroktonos at 6:29 AM PST - 23 comments

What are these hellish airborne insects and why won't they die?

I live in the midwest, and for the last three years by mid-summer there is a small horde of winged insects stalking our backdoor. They look like a cross between a bee, a wasp, and the angel of death from the Adventures of Baron von Munchausen. They have red wings, red legs, and a distinct black and white striped abdomen. These suckers are freaking huge, maybe 2" long or longer. [more inside]
posted by joinks at 6:15 AM PST - 10 comments

What IPad do I need to get?

Wife got gift certificate from work. Decided we could get Ipad since the certificate must be used at Amazon. We will share the Ipad. I have desktop at home and wife has laptop, so this is an addition and not the sole device for us. [more inside]
posted by Postroad at 6:11 AM PST - 17 comments

Returning emails

How do you email a follow-up to someone who hasn't answered an email? [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 5:13 AM PST - 18 comments

Veggie meal planning

So, at the omniverous .kobayashi. household, I cook dinner. Last week, my partner has expressed a desire to eat meat no more than once per week. I'm on board, but there's a complicating factor: she will not eat seafood, and has just decided that she does not like tofu. I need help planning out our weekly meals. Can you offer ideas for wonderful cookbooks/websites that would help me to meet these restrictions, and/or (especially) ideas for kitchen/pantry staples and hacks that might help make figuring out our weekly dinners easier? [more inside]
posted by .kobayashi. at 4:49 AM PST - 25 comments

What would you consider a red flag when interviewing at a startup?

I was recently recruited for a mid-level role at a young startup (tech in development for several years; company has existed for about a year). My gut feeling about the product and the tech is that it's viable. The market is there, and I myself would use the product. This is not the case for 80% of startup products/ideas that I see. I'm not so sure how I feel about the founders or the results of the first interview. [more inside]
posted by Occam's Aftershave at 3:49 AM PST - 20 comments

You get a gold pin, apparently.

What is the true nature of Phi Theta Kappa? Also, what is the nature of my school if it is sharing my grade detail with this organisation?
posted by converge at 12:02 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me find a dot com commercial from 1999 or 2000

Can you help me find a dot com commercial from 1999 or 2000? [more inside]
posted by Fiat124 at 12:01 AM PST - 1 comment

July 21

Science Wanted: kitchen powder identification edition

I have a large tupperware full of a crystalline white powder. It could be sugar, or it could be xylitol. How can I tell? So far I've found two possible ways: burn it and record the energy per gram; feed it to dogs. I would prefer not to do the second, as xylitol kills dogs. I'm open to the first, if someone wants to link me to a good experimental method for such. But I'd really love a third way.
posted by freyley at 11:28 PM PST - 21 comments

Sharing custody, but the kid only wants to be with me.

I share custody (50/50, week on - week off) of my eight-year-old with her dad, and have since he and I split up over three years ago. Lately she's been spending all of her time at his house crying for me. Since she can't point to any tangible problems to fix, I don't know what to do. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:34 PM PST - 24 comments

How to invest with Vanguard

What are your specific investment recommendations for someone who's 25 years old, self-employed (contractor), has $130k in savings and no debt? [more inside]
posted by Forty-eight at 10:27 PM PST - 15 comments

Asking for direction at work

I'm in an awkward position at work. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:49 PM PST - 4 comments

Family causes anxiety and I can't visit them.

My family causes me a lot of anxiety, to the point that staying away from them is a key part of keeping my sanity. They don't understand why I don't visit and won't discuss with me. How do I deal with the residual guilt? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:47 PM PST - 19 comments

Fictional characters to arrange key exchange over unsecure channel?

I'm presenting a cryptography demonstration to a small group of nerdy teenagers soon. As part of the fun, I have an activity in which they are spies that need to arrange a key exchange over a unsecure channel without any required prior knowledge of each other. (You can assume the mechanics of the key exchange are sound.) I thought it might be fun if I could refer to different fictional characters that the teens could pretend to be. What are some fictional characters and associated unsecure channels that would fit the scenario above? Examples and further notes inside. [more inside]
posted by wiskunde at 6:29 PM PST - 11 comments

writing with the shakes

My father has essential tremor, and it's gotten to the point where he can't write legibly, or even type. How can I help him? [more inside]
posted by wearyaswater at 6:26 PM PST - 12 comments

Graceful way to contact company after applying for a job?

About a week and a half ago, I applied for a job that I would be perfect for. I'm getting antsy. Should I sent a follow-up note? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:13 PM PST - 8 comments

100% anonymous no login required mental health forums?

Hi, I'm looking for some kind of mental health forum or Q&A site that's completely anonymous, no logins needed, etc. I could probably post my question here, but I think I know what all y'all's answers would be already. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Me want cookie! Actually, just the cookie dough from Ben and Jerry's

Ben and Jerry's chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream is fine, but I've realised that what I really like about it is the cookie dough. Do they sell their cookie dough separately? [more inside]
posted by ashworth at 6:07 PM PST - 12 comments

Apps 86°

I have a lot of cream cheese. I have a lot of wonton wrappers. I need to make room temp (in hot August weather) appetizers. Hopefully toddlers will like some of them. What recipes do I want? I'm also happily accepting other recipes or ideas for warm room temp apps, and/or store bought items. I'm throwing a party in August for my toddler's birthday and am, um, self-catering. It will be an indoor/outdoor party, and our AC isn't great to begin with, so let's assume it will be warm inside as well as hot outside. I'm planning to rely heavily on Trader Joe's NYC stores for apps and wine, so suggestions are welcome, as they are for other stores or homemade ideas.
posted by cestmoi15 at 5:52 PM PST - 11 comments

Leadership 101

I am an I.T. worker who does technical work, and does it well. Now, I’ve done it so well for so long, that my supervisor has advanced me to a position of “Team Leader” and I am now in charge of telling other I.T. people what to do. [more inside]
posted by shipbreaker at 5:50 PM PST - 9 comments

Page archiving and bookmarking

Is there a website that works like a bookmarking service but will also allow screenshots of the page? Or how else can I work this out? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 5:06 PM PST - 11 comments

Healing tent-burn - the lawn edition

Heyso, I have this behemoth tent that my daughter and I used for camping and it comes in a tiny little duffel bag so I've been procrastinating on getting it back in the bag. I laid it out on the lawn to dry out last week and left it there for a few days... here is what happened: total lawn destruction. [more inside]
posted by lakersfan1222 at 4:20 PM PST - 9 comments

Refusing to validate client part of trauma therapy?

Is it common and recommended practice for a therapist to refuse to validate and affirm a trauma client? [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats at 3:57 PM PST - 34 comments

Boston, Austenite. Austenite, Boston.

Please introduce me to the institutions, places, publications, and other tips, tricks, and shibboleths that will help me to hit the ground running when I relocate to Boston. [more inside]
posted by Austenite at 3:47 PM PST - 37 comments

Careers for Physics Graduates

A couple of years ago, I graduated from [famous university] with a decent bachelors in physics. Since then, I've been working in a job which I'm going to be slightly opaque about, but I'm basically a ‘radiation physicist’ who gets paid by the government. I'm finding lots of aspects of this job unsatisfying and I'm looking for a career change. What are good avenues to explore for physics graduates? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:21 PM PST - 8 comments

No medical insurance in NYC

I haven't been to a doctor in a few years, and I don't have insurance now and won't have it for 8 months or longer. I was wondering how much would it cost to go to a doctor with no insurance and what choices do I have in the NYC area? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:19 PM PST - 8 comments

How Urgently Do We Need Urgent Care?

Posting on behalf of my partner, whose bad tooth has worsened: the crown's gone. They're experiencing a throbbing headache towards the back of their head, "behind the eyes." While the pain has been off-and-on for a while, the last two days have been tough to get through. As of today, they also have a combination of pain/stiffness in the back of their neck. [more inside]
posted by Ashen at 3:16 PM PST - 15 comments

The Numbers

In the 1995 Quebec Referendum - roughly how many grassroots volunteers/activists did each side have ?
posted by sgt.serenity at 3:07 PM PST - 2 comments

Looking for apartments from long distance

I got a new job! Yay! Now I have to find a place to live. What's the best way to do this? I have certain criteria in mind for what kind of place I'd like, so is there someone I can pay to go and check things out for me? Like, a realtor or someone? I've got a pretty quick turn-around between now and my start date, and a ton of other things to do, so if I can avoid a trip across the country to apartment hunt, that would be very helpful. Bonus points if you have any experience in the Milwaukee area. Thanks!
posted by Fister Roboto at 2:44 PM PST - 12 comments

A call from beyond the grave?

Years ago, I read a "true story" about a man who receives a strange phone call from his brother, then later finds that the brother was surely dead at the time. Do you recognize it? Can you tell me anything about its origins? [more inside]
posted by Iridic at 2:38 PM PST - 11 comments

How can I finish my novel and establish an effective writing routine?

I have been writing since I was about 7 and always enjoyed writing stories, sometimes hundreds of pages long. In my final year of English at school my teacher said that I should really turn the start of a piece I had written at the time into a novel. At the time I was flattered but I don't really think I considered it possible. [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs at 2:02 PM PST - 11 comments

What do I search to find a photoshop specialist who makes fake things?

So I got the go ahead from work to hire a photoshop artist to mock up some fake stuff for a presentations. Imagine for our purposes it's essentially for scenes for fake TV shows from the 70s. So I went to look on ELANCE and...well I have no idea what I'm looking for here. How would I search for such a person? Is there a term or series of terms for someone who specializes in speculative photoshop/graphic mockups? IS this a thing? Or is this a case of post the job and see what comes back?
posted by rileyray3000 at 1:44 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I serve papers in Canada?

My friend has an uncomplicated divorce (no assets, no kids, no shared debt, filing taxes singly.) The ex lives in Canada and is a Canadian citizen, my friend who is filing for divorce is in California and a United States citizen. She has free legal help-- they got the papers filled out properly and explained the general process, but didn't explain serving papers. Paying to speak to a lawyer is out of the question. How do we serve papers internationally, to a known address? What if she refuses delivery or can't be found?
posted by blnkfrnk at 1:42 PM PST - 12 comments

How to install/extract a font from a .otf file

I've extracted a .otf font from my Kobo Touch. I'd like to install it on Windows, but Windows can't handle it and neither can any of the font editing programmes I've downloaded. I believe that the file contains multibyte characters. I have tried right clicking and choosing install. I've tried font forge, and several other font related applications. I just get varying error messages saying that it's not a valid font file, despite it working on the Kobo. If it's relevant, the font is Gothic MB101. I'm running Windows 7 - what do I need to do to install this font?
posted by Solomon at 1:41 PM PST - 3 comments

Don't Make Me Regret My Lack of Piracy!

Is there any way to recoup the money I spent on Adobe products for Windows, now that I've switched to Mac? [more inside]
posted by brisquette at 1:35 PM PST - 17 comments

How can I get started quantifying and tracking my time and goals?

I want to take control of my time, writing output, attention and procrastination, bedtime, exercise, and diet. What tools should I use to track what I eat, how I spend my time, what I spend money on, when I exercise, when I go to sleep and wake up, and how many words I write per day. [more inside]
posted by incandescentman at 1:30 PM PST - 11 comments

ID this typeface?

Can someone id this typeface for me? Likely late 1800s-early 1900s. https://flic.kr/p/o8tGeU
posted by PussKillian at 12:59 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I rehabilitate my SO's image on a message board I frequent?

I have for some years participated in a genberal interest message board I enjoy, where people frequently post personal topics. My SO has changed a lot since I first started posting about him, but people still seem to be influenced by first impessions of him. Can I 'rehabilitate' them somehow? Should I even try to? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 12:48 PM PST - 19 comments

32GB SSD coupled with the HHD Dell Inspiron 14 7000 Series

Is there a clear recognizable benefit to having the 32 GB SSD coupled with the 500 GB HHD in the Dell Inspiron 14 7000 series? What I mean is, will I clearly be able to see the benefit, the difference in performance having the SSD compared to not? Is the start-up time clearly better? What other areas will I see a difference in performance?
posted by franklen at 12:36 PM PST - 14 comments

Social Mapping

Does Twitter or Facebook provide any mapping like this, or is there an app that can, through access to a TW or FB account, create this kind of map? [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 12:29 PM PST - 5 comments

One last question about my crisis

I’m still having panic attacks. I’m having a hard time getting my thoughts together because I’m so stressed -- and they’re kind of circular on top of that -- so forgive me if this post is tough to understand. [more inside]
posted by myitkyina at 12:01 PM PST - 18 comments

How Do I Deal With a Distracting Employee in Retail?

I have recently been hired as a product development manager in a new boutique retail chain. Another manager-level employee was hired around the same time as I was, and so far has been challenging to work with. Seeking advice on best practices before this turns into a Pamplona Bull Run on the floor. [more inside]
posted by Lipstick Thespian at 11:54 AM PST - 6 comments

What is wrong with the world?

With the recent events in Ukraine and Gaza lately, I've been feeling upset as to what our world has become, and where we as a race are headed. I'd like to understand how we got here. Can you share your favorite books, and explainers that illuminate the history of the Middle East conflicts, as well as that of Russia and Ukraine. [more inside]
posted by rippersid at 11:50 AM PST - 23 comments

permanent marker with lots of color choices?

Marker or fabric paint that will last well on flexible, heavy-use surfaces? Difficulty: I need it in a really unsaturated color like a soft medium grey or greyish blue. [more inside]
posted by kalapierson at 11:33 AM PST - 10 comments

How to bring a content-heavy newsletter into the modern day?

I write a newsletter for an environmental nonprofit and would like to modernize it. Right now we print a simple PDF and then straight-up email said PDF to electronic subscribers. Our subscription list is managed by Excel and yours truly. MailChimp seems great but I haven't seen examples that have long articles. This isn't a marketing campaign -- it's more like a very short newspaper or magazine. How can I take a content-heavy (4-6 articles, anywhere from 350 to 800 words each) and send it out electronically in the most efficient and practical way? [more inside]
posted by breccia at 11:21 AM PST - 12 comments

Who's writing about video games?

I'd like to learn more about video and digital games. I don't know where to start. I'm thinking--there must be bloggers, games writers, etc. who are writing about both classic video games and new releases? Who are they? [more inside]
posted by Ollie at 10:51 AM PST - 11 comments

It's "banana," not "'nana"

How do I ask a friend to stop speaking in a baby voice? Friend in question is 22 years old. [more inside]
posted by mlo at 10:49 AM PST - 54 comments

Broadway for kids

We'll be in New York in early August for a few days. What shows would be good for a six-year-old girl? [more inside]
posted by Dansaman at 10:47 AM PST - 12 comments

Another refrigerator pickle pickle

I made a big batch of refrigerator pickles last night, and forgot to bring the brine back to a boil before pouring into the filled jars. The brine was warm-hot, but definitely not boiling. Today I have a bunch of cold vegetables that do not taste very pickle-y. Can I strain out the brine, re-boil it and try again in the same jars? Or have I ruined it?
posted by mefireader at 10:41 AM PST - 7 comments

Trying to turn a pet project into a fun and cool app to use...

I've been working on this little project called CheckIn, which is supposed to be a quick and easy to use Foursquare app that let's you check in quickly and adds interesting features like check in reminders (and instant checkins in iOS 8 - currently working on notification actions in my working build). [more inside]
posted by antgly at 10:33 AM PST - 3 comments

Help our 5-year-old to stop dancing the funky chicken

Our daughter flaps her arms frantically whenever she’s excited. We have a tentative diagnosis of non-autistic motor stereotypy, but haven’t found a treatment that works. The flapping doesn’t bother her, but she’s starting to get strange looks, and we’d like to “fix” it. We’re looking for resources and recommendations (especially in the Midwest) and any other personal accounts or advice. [more inside]
posted by Yo Soy La Morsa at 10:27 AM PST - 15 comments

Recommend an extra-large hybrid bike with an internal hub

I'm looking to purchase an extra-large hybrid bike with an internal hub. This would be for casual riding with my family, but ideally the bike is somewhat sporty for longer rides and something I can grow into. The bike will not be used for commuting. If the internal hub request makes this bike a unicorn, then recommend a good all-around hybrid.
posted by Cool Papa Bell at 10:11 AM PST - 14 comments

Ending friendship like a grown-up

I’d like to get some outside opinions on managing the probable end of a friendship with a formerly very close friend, without (any more) melodrama or middle-school emotional antics. I will definitely see her at a mutual friend’s birthday in a couple of months, and I may see her infrequently (e.g. a few times a year) on an ongoing basis. [more inside]
posted by Kpele at 9:54 AM PST - 28 comments

We do (A + B) * (C + D) * (E + F)

I need to write a short blurb describing the services our group provides, which is basically defined in three dimensions, eg. "We provide services (A + B) for data types (C + D) in domains (E + F)." I imagine this is something faced by technical writers, is there some best practice for writing this sort of thing so that it is readable in plain English? [more inside]
posted by bjrubble at 9:54 AM PST - 6 comments

What are my options when Lufthansa changes my flight?

Lufthansa changed my direct flight into a connecting flight. Do I have any recourse? [more inside]
posted by reformedjerk at 9:43 AM PST - 7 comments

Broken foot - what's better than crutches?

I have a fracture in my 5th metatarsal - no surgery, no cast, no splint, but strict orders to stay entirely off it (no toe-touch for balance, no resting weight on my heel even though it's fairly painless). I'm on standard crutches. Getting around is annoying, doing my job also awkward. What other mobility assistance might be useful - knee scooter? hands-free crutch? [more inside]
posted by aimedwander at 9:34 AM PST - 11 comments

I want to think about something new!

Looking for quality, regularly-updated web content as an alternative to the potpourri discussion-based sites that usually make up my day online. [more inside]
posted by theraflu at 9:07 AM PST - 11 comments

No, really, what can we expect and what should we do in Iceland?

I'm visiting Iceland with my husband, his parents, my sister in law, and her husband. We're excited but my husband and I are wondering what we can actually expect and what we should do while we're there. [more inside]
posted by kat518 at 8:47 AM PST - 15 comments

Bed sharing with a toddler

My wife has shared a bed with our toddler since she was born. I was never comfortable with it, and so I have spent a long 2 years on the couch. There is no end in sight and it's messing up our marriage. More below. [more inside]
posted by mouseboy at 8:32 AM PST - 47 comments

Looking for elder care LA/BOS/NYC?

My 87 year old mom is currently at the Psych ward in Fall River, RI. Her mental health has been deteriorating recently and we are looking into places that she might be comfortable at if and when she is no longer able to be at home in Wellfleet, Cape Cod with 24 hour care. [more inside]
posted by silsurf at 8:26 AM PST - 6 comments

Did my insurance company give me a BS answer regarding a rate increase?

I recently received my renewal notice in the mail for my auto insurance policy. The premium (for the entire year) increased by almost $100. I called my insurance company to find out why, and my BS detector is going off. [more inside]
posted by tckma at 8:23 AM PST - 15 comments

Can you help identify this weird, yet apparently friendly bird?

A few friends of mine live in Somerville, MA, which is right outside of Boston. For the past few weeks, a bird has been repeatedly showing up on their porch and, apparently, making friends with them. [more inside]
posted by Riptor at 8:15 AM PST - 11 comments

Daughter with mental illness moving out, practical advice?

19 year old is moving out to a rented room this week. We live in a city where young adults typically live with family until marriage or 30s, and her four siblings (one older, three younger) live with us. The decision to ask her to move out if she escalated in breaking household rules (no drugs, porn, sex-work, hold down a job or school, don't abuse other family members) has been run past her psychiatrist and long-planned. She's excited to live on her own with no restrictions, we are terrified due to her long history of risky behavior and struggles with borderline personality disorder and PTSD from abuse. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:10 AM PST - 17 comments

"Where did you get the idea for your book?"

Please suggest some interesting answers for this question (for a fictional book). [more inside]
posted by cmcmcm at 7:39 AM PST - 26 comments

Four or five lifetimes of memories.

I just inherited literally a large garbage bag of wartime government documents, newspaper cutouts, photos and other memorabilia from Russia and Ukraine ca. 1910-1970. What do I do with the stuff I don't want, and also how do I fumigate it? [more inside]
posted by griphus at 6:49 AM PST - 14 comments

Short term cell phone for Germany?

I'll be traveling with my (American) family for around 20 days in Germany. We would like to have two phones for short term use to handle brief day to day communication. Best options? [more inside]
posted by sewellcm at 6:45 AM PST - 6 comments

Using my personal computer for work

I have been using my personal computer to do my job. How much should they "reimburse" me every month? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:36 AM PST - 18 comments

Needed: One Pair Of Big Girl Pants ASAP

I am one of those adults who had to emotionally take care of myself throughout my life due to mediocre parenting. Mom and Dad weren't hugely abusive, but they didn't seem to give a fuck about my brother and I. I'm coming out of a month where I went off my meds and I think I had a hypomanic episode followed by a giant crash. While I am now back on my meds and working with my therapist and pdoc, I am craving someone in my life who would take care of me emotionally. Someone who would understand where I was coming from and why I feel the way I do. The thing is, I do live in reality and know that's not possible for the immediate foreseeable future, if ever. What can I do to self-soothe and give myself that pampered feeling? How do I find someone who gets me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:29 AM PST - 13 comments

How do I respond to an apparent offer of friendship?

As someone who is socially anxious and has difficulty interpreting social interactions, what is an appropriate follow-up response to someone who appears to be being friendly but may actually just be following social niceties? [more inside]
posted by teselecta at 5:45 AM PST - 17 comments

Have you ever managed to break a long-term cycle of self-sabotage?

or repeated mistakes? If you have any insight or personal experience please give it. I'm starting to suspect that I may never make any progress because it keeps happening again and again and the consequences are only getting worse. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by hejrat at 3:43 AM PST - 18 comments

What are the best associations for development and politics?

I've been making the transition into international development and am looking to join a relevant association. Which should I join? [more inside]
posted by wingless_angel at 2:08 AM PST - 1 comment

Can't miss on Oahu? (Kailua, specifically)

Flying out to Oahu, staying in Kailua tomorrow and would love absolute can't miss places in Kailua town or anywhere else on the island. Looking for great food, beautiful (not greater than "intermediate" difficulty) hikes, where to go to rent jet skis, and any other literally-we-have-to-see-this off-the-beaten-path sort of suggestions. [more inside]
posted by disillusioned at 12:43 AM PST - 10 comments

Ouchfilter: broke a bone in my hand near my wrist

Scientifically I'm not sure what is going on but the doctor said I most likely broke a bone in my hand and I have am MRI in a couple days. (The x ray was inconclusive but he is 90 percent sure)I've got pain meds and am trudging along. I'm tring to adjust to my new one hand lifestyle as it is in a cast. [more inside]
posted by AlexiaSky at 12:39 AM PST - 8 comments

July 20

How can you recognize a secure person if you’re insecure?

Am I ruining a great relationship with my anxiety or am I anxious because my relationship is not great? Is there a way to tell the difference between irrational anxiety and alarm bells? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:05 PM PST - 10 comments

I inherited two nazi era armbands.

I inherited two nazi era armbands. How do I sell them? [more inside]
posted by LoveAndBottleRockets at 9:18 PM PST - 16 comments

Can I substitute a New Mexican dried red pepper for fire roasted chilis?

I'm cooking this recipe and it calls for one 7-oz can of fire roasted chilis. Can I substitute a NM dried red pepper? I also have crushed red pepper, but I'm not sure if either would be a good option.
posted by onecircleaday at 9:15 PM PST - 5 comments

Is restarting your life career-wise worth it?

Has anyone ever quit their jobs, went back to school and started a 2nd career later in life? How did it work out / is it working out? [more inside]
posted by pinksoftsoap at 9:14 PM PST - 29 comments

left a ring in my hotel room, already called the hotel

I left a ring with sentimental value in my hotel room in the bathroom this afternoon, checked out of the hotel and didn't remember until now. I've called the hotel lost and found and they said the room was cleaned, nothing was reported found and that they will have housekeeping check tomorrow, the room is occupied already. Is there anything else that I can do about this? [more inside]
posted by tangaroo at 8:35 PM PST - 9 comments

Correct Qualification/Title for a postgraduate diploma (Australia)

If someone completes a Postgraduate Diploma (in Engineering) and they do not have an undergraduate degree in Engineering (but rather in something else, i.e. architecture), does the postgraduate dip. qualification enable this person to be called/ titled an engineer? [more inside]
posted by Under the Sea at 7:57 PM PST - 8 comments

Did I mess up my quick fridge pickles?

Will these suckers be edible after premature opening and an ill-fitting lid? [more inside]
posted by sucre at 7:41 PM PST - 5 comments

Where can I get data on avg step1 scores for medical residency programs?

I'm trying to find a list of US medical residency programs and the average step 1 scores of the applicants that are accepted into each program. Google has not been helpful. I've found match rates, quotas, test scores by specialty, and all sorts of other data. But nothing about test scores by residency program. Does anyone know if this data exists and where I can find it? Thanks in advance.
posted by d(-_-)b at 7:28 PM PST - 3 comments

Ally Bank, Capital One 360 or Charles Schwab Bank?

I'm in need of a new bank. I've decided to go with an online only bank because of their lack of fees and 24/7 customer service. My choices have been narrowed down to Ally Bank, Capital One 360 or Charles Schwab Bank. Comments based on personal experience with any of these banks would be greatly appreciated.
posted by r-senal at 7:20 PM PST - 26 comments

What was long-term recovery like for superficial peroneal nerve release?

About three and a half weeks ago I had surgery on my lower right leg to release my superficial peroneal nerve from the clutches of entrapment in a herniated muscle and hopefully restore my foot to fully operational status. My surgeon was very optimistic, but I'm less so. [more inside]
posted by cellphone at 7:03 PM PST - 2 comments

Need some file recommendations

I'm trying to find the best file type for the larger documents I'm putting on my website. PDFs are just too big. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by orrnyereg at 6:30 PM PST - 9 comments

Math? College?

The best way to pursue my college goals given my situation. [more inside]
posted by mrdrummed at 5:38 PM PST - 12 comments

Calculus Rabbit?

Is there a game like Math Rabbit out there, but for calculus? Specifically looking for something with lots of game-interface, not Khan Academy.
posted by curious nu at 4:41 PM PST - 1 comment

Numbness in my hands - what can I expect at the doctor?

YANMD. I am experiencing my second episode of numbness in my fingers/hands. What kind of tests can I expect when I go to the doctor? [more inside]
posted by dangerbird at 4:40 PM PST - 15 comments

What is this modern font from the Twilight Zone?

Font question: Can anyone ID this obscure font from the Twilight Zone? [more inside]
posted by washburn at 3:45 PM PST - 8 comments

When does a signature become irrevocable?

In the context of an employment contract in Illinois, does the employee have any ability to rescind their signature if the employer has not yet signed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:55 PM PST - 6 comments

Title and author of a sci fi short story about dream crafting needed

I'm wracking my brains trying to remember the title and author of a science fiction short story to do with dream crafting. I suspect it is either Philip K Dick or Robert Heinlein but cannot pin it down. [more inside]
posted by Molesome at 1:14 PM PST - 2 comments

My parents suck.

My parents are incredibly rude narcissists. This time they've turned their focus on my sister. What can I do to support her through this? [more inside]
posted by floweredfish at 12:30 PM PST - 18 comments

How flammable is rubbing alcohol?

We made some tie dye tshirts using Sharpie markers and rubbing alcohol. The instructions say to set the ink, put the tshirts in the dryer for 15 minutes--but won't I set the dryer on fire? [more inside]
posted by biscuits at 12:17 PM PST - 15 comments

I love The Spinners and Philly Soul from the 70-75 era. Lets dig deeper.

Im up here at the tip of the iceberg of Philly Soul with The Spinners, The Delfonics, Blue Magic, etc. but I want to dig deeper into this stuff and find some bands/songs/records that I might not encounter otherwise, since history has a way of remembering the big stuff and forgetting some of the amazing but less well known stuff. So help me down the rabbit hole here if you please to find even more music in that vein.
posted by Senor Cardgage at 11:52 AM PST - 7 comments

How to celebrate six months of marriage at a wedding party?

In March, Mrs. HeroZero and I exchanged vows and rings at City Hall with a very small group of friends and immediate family. On Labor Day, we're having a bigger wedding party with the friends and family who couldn't come to the original, tiny event. What are some ideas for making this ceremony meaningful in a way that's different from how a wedding goes? [more inside]
posted by HeroZero at 10:47 AM PST - 8 comments

Why such problems with weed?

In the last few months, I have started (maybe once every two weeks or so) smoking weed again, after not doing it since college (I'm now 36). When I smoke now, I feel a lot different than I did back then, and I don't like it. Details: [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:52 AM PST - 21 comments

Help me put together a secular/humanist baby naming ceremony

Baby WanKenobi will be six months old on Saturday, and we're finally giving her a Hebrew name. Help us make our backyard ceremony cool without getting too God-ish. [more inside]
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 9:26 AM PST - 16 comments

Give me my money back

I moved out from a terrible landlord in North Carolina last June, and then because I was living in Chile with a postal strike/mail delays, the security deposit check had hit the 90 day void by the time it got to my bank. Now I'm back in the US and he won't give me my money back. [more inside]
posted by crayz at 8:28 AM PST - 14 comments

Advice for confident everyday writing?

I'm looking for related resources (online & offline) for improving my writing skills for everyday work. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 8:20 AM PST - 9 comments

Buying a good extra-long yoga mat

So I'm just starting Yoga and I have a problem: I'm too tall for standard mats. I'm 6'4" (76 inches, 193 cm). How do I find a long mat that I know is good quality? And how long is long enough, anyway? [more inside]
posted by nickhb at 8:01 AM PST - 9 comments

Graduated or total extinction? Yes, another sleep training question.

We're thinking of starting some sort of sleep training for our four month old. I know, she's young, but the "magical thinking" we have in getting her to sleep (hours of nursing, rocking, squats, singing, nursing) as well as the hourly (or even half-hourly) wake ups are not good for us, and they're not good for her. She really needs to sleep, and I can tell she really wants to. The question is, how? [more inside]
posted by EtTuHealy at 7:55 AM PST - 28 comments

Do I really need a concrete foundation for my garden shed?

Just purchased a resin-viny Suncast Shed (model BMS5700). According to the manual it needs a concrete foundation, but I'm wondering if I can get away with just installing it on level ground. [more inside]
posted by Deathalicious at 7:17 AM PST - 13 comments

Shhhhhh. My colon is resting.

I ended up in the ER on Thursday night with horrible stomach pain, lower left quadrant. After being scanned inside and out and subjected to other personal indignities I won't describe in detail (promise), I was diagnosed with acute diverticulitis. What happens now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:59 AM PST - 15 comments

No Spotify, I don't like that song.

Where is the 'thumbs down' button in spotify? [more inside]
posted by zara at 6:58 AM PST - 8 comments

Name this French pop song

I only know four things about the song I'm looking for: [more inside]
posted by WalkingAround at 6:57 AM PST - 7 comments

Inspiration to maintain an exercise habit

I am going through yet another slump in my regular pattern of exercising, not exercising, exercising, rinse and repeat. I'm looking for some inspiration in the form of books, podcasts, twitter accounts to follow, facebook groups, etc. [more inside]
posted by fever-trees at 3:43 AM PST - 12 comments

My parents are slobs and it's making me sick.

I live about five hours away from my parents and visit them frequently. However, their house is so dusty and in such disrepair that the visits are exacting a toll. I have dust allergies that go berserk in their house, and my dust-free sleeping solution (air mattress) is starting to hurt my back. Whenever I try to raise these problems with them, I get a million reasons why nothing can be fixed, and often a giant guilt trip to boot. Not visiting: not an option. Inside: details to make Wilson Bentley proud. [more inside]
posted by the_blizz at 2:46 AM PST - 44 comments

July 19

Communities without newspapers

I'm thinking about starting a newspaper, maybe in a few years. So I am looking for communities without newspapers. Please tell me about the largest such one(s) you know of, about how many people are there, and anything else about the area that might help me decide.
posted by maurreen at 11:59 PM PST - 16 comments

Best SIM card for EU roaming data?

I will be traveling for 10 days in Germany (2 days), Denmark (2 days), and Sweden (6 days) at the end of this month. Voice and texting is relatively unimportant, but I do need data for maps, keeping in touch with my traveling companions, etc. What's the best way to do this, given that I'm in Greece at the moment and need the SIM card by Friday? [more inside]
posted by crazy with stars at 11:28 PM PST - 4 comments

Hotels in Vancouver with good transit access

We're off for a late-booked trip to Vancouver in August and need to find a place to stay. Most hotels are booked in the West End/Downtown/Yaletown area. What hotels would you recommend that are moderately ($100-200) priced with easy transit access to tourist attractions? We'd like to use public transit if possible, but can rent a car if public transit is infeasible. We will have at least one member of our party who can't walk longish distances, and a toddler to deal with as well, so frequent bus changes may be a challenge. We were looking at the Holiday Inn Express Burnaby, is this a sane choice?
posted by benzenedream at 10:38 PM PST - 18 comments

Venting boiler out the side of a building.

I am doing a renovation and I'd prefer to move the boiler to a location where I have to vent horizontally, under a porch that is 7' wide. Do I have boiler options that allow this. I currently understand that a regular boiler must vent straight up. A high efficiency boiler can vent out the side wall. However, I don't know if you can vent a high efficiency boiler out 8' horizontally.
posted by alcahofa at 9:23 PM PST - 9 comments

What's going on with these plaster walls?

I was planning on repainting my daughters bedroom in our 1920 bungalow. All walls were covered with 2 layers of wallpaper and several layers of paint...so I decided to strip them before repainting. This is what I got. [more inside]
posted by The Toad at 8:50 PM PST - 10 comments

All Your Vow Are Belong to Us

My youngest brother is getting married next month and, through the oft-celebrated-on-MeFi wonders of a Universal Life Church ordination, I'm set to perform the service. My brother and his spouse-to-be are both video game aficionados. I'd like to subtly insert some clever video game/nerd culture references into their vows. I'm not personally a gamer, though, so this stuff doesn't come naturally. What's more, I'd like to sort of walk a line such that said references would not be so over-the-top, eye-roll inducing, or confusing that non-gamers would be confused or irritated. Ideas?
posted by DirtyOldTown at 8:11 PM PST - 21 comments

Quis custodiet ipsos custodes?

Are there any organizations out there that take the long view? Like, the really long view? As in influencing policy over decades or centuries? [more inside]
posted by atchafalaya at 7:58 PM PST - 14 comments

Can I buy a mail jeep?

I'm not talking about the old mail jeeps, I'm talking about the Grumman LLV. [more inside]
posted by BenevolentActor at 7:45 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I find an acute care nurse practitioner to shadow?

I'm applying to a graduate entry nurse practitioner program this summer (application due Oct 12). I know that this is what I want to do. I know the program I want, but I'd really like to see an ACNP in action. The trouble: I just moved to Columbus, OH and I don't really know anyone.
posted by shesdeadimalive at 6:31 PM PST - 3 comments

West Side Story is the only Broadway musical I enjoy. Why is that?

The only Broadway musical I can actually, whole-heartedly enjoy is West Side Story. Am I the only one of my breed on this? Why might this be? [more inside]
posted by JimInLoganSquare at 6:06 PM PST - 39 comments

[request] bathroom and rug cleaning solutions

Hi. Can someone suggest ways to clean our home rug and bathroom. the rug itself has been in use for over 20 years and has now grayed with dirt and compressed down. The picture shows a side by side of when the rug was new (a bed was under this area so it was untouched). [more inside]
posted by philllip at 5:02 PM PST - 13 comments

I think my little brother has Tourette Syndrome?

My 9 year old brother might be associated with Tourette Syndrome and I'm not sure what to do about it. [more inside]
posted by bubbletea54 at 4:12 PM PST - 21 comments

How do I find a career mentor in the archives/preservation field?

I've had difficulty finding a career mentor in the archives/preservation field because of a lack of local resources and the fact that I obtained my Masters degree online, which was rather 'alienating' and didn't really allow for the kind of student-professor relationship that blooms into recommendation letters and networking. Are there ways of seeking out (real, committed) mentors either online, or in my area (northern Virginia/Washington DC), preferably involving me providing volunteer work? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 4:10 PM PST - 5 comments

HTF needs a friend, but will it kill him?

HTF is my daughter's 10 year old goldfish. [more inside]
posted by ecorrocio at 3:58 PM PST - 13 comments

Note 3 owners - do you use the stylus?

I am looking at getting a new phone with a big-ass screen, primarily for browsing. I've narrowed it down to an LG Pro 2, Sony T2 Ultra, or Galaxy Note 3 - but I need to know if anyone actually uses the space-age stylus. [more inside]
posted by smoke at 3:33 PM PST - 15 comments

Seattle (Bremerton?) moving update, still in need of guidance

Moving in two weeks, and we've got a bit more information. The listings online have us a little worried, so I'm asking for some more guidance. [more inside]
posted by patheral at 3:29 PM PST - 12 comments

Has Anyone Got Loop Findr Working?

So yesterday I read about this cool new OS X application, Loop Findr, that apparently automagically analyzes an MP4 and finds segments that are ripe for looping as an animated GIF. Unfortunately, I can't make it work. Who can? [more inside]
posted by Mothlight at 3:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Chromatography for newbies

Chemists! I have a question about chromatography. Specifically, what is the best way to isolate a specific molecule, if I want to produce large volumes of this isolated molecule? [more inside]
posted by special agent conrad uno at 2:39 PM PST - 7 comments

Good town to visit in Spain in the summer with young kids?

What's a good town or smallish city in Spain to visit in the summer with kids (ages 2 and 5) in tow? We're looking at 3 weeks in late July/August, and would prefer a walkable place that's on a train line (or are they all?) so we wouldn't have to rent a car to explore locally or beyond. [more inside]
posted by gottabefunky at 2:24 PM PST - 8 comments

Help us dress for our engagement photoshoot

I'm visiting my fiancé from out of town, so I only have a couple of nice outfits at hand. The one I'm planning to wear is this dress, which goes down to the knee for me, and kitten-heel black strappy sandals. (I guess wedges would match better, but I left mine at home.) The dress is pretty but plain -- ideas for fun, inexpensive accessories/jewelry that I can go out and buy? My fiancé is probably going to wear a pale-blue button down with slacks or jeans, and we're looking for other suggestions and accessorizing tips for him as well. [more inside]
posted by redlines at 2:15 PM PST - 9 comments

Double posting encouraged

I am interested in variations -- that is, not just a body count -- of the doppelganger and evil twin themes in fiction, folklore, and movies. [more inside]
posted by Clyde Mnestra at 1:39 PM PST - 58 comments

Best exercising regimen for a chronically-lazy person?

My cousin is an early-thirties chronic sloth. Although he does go out on occasion and he walks from time to time, to say that he is not an exercise person is the understatement of the year. Any ideas on how to get him started on an exercise regiment that doesn't involve people or mornings and is relatively easy to do? [more inside]
posted by omar.a at 12:09 PM PST - 31 comments

Thinking about moving

I am considering moving from where I live now (Madison, WI) for a number of reasons, but I don't know if it's the best idea right now, and I also have no clue where I should go. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 12:03 PM PST - 9 comments

How to leave work for job interviews?

I was just placed on a civil service test list, and canvassing letters and interview offers are coming in - which is good. Not so good is that I'm working full time and I'm having trouble figuring out how to get out of work for an hour here and an hour there to go on these interviews without raising any of my bosses' suspicions. Any tried and true ways to be out of work for an hour or so, more than once a week? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:52 AM PST - 36 comments

Negotiating a salary without comparative data points

I'm renegotiating my salary next week in a consulting startup but don't have much to go on in terms of being able to compare to similar jobs because the industry is rather niche and growing fast. How would you go about calculating a fair request with very little information? [more inside]
posted by mireille at 10:36 AM PST - 4 comments

How do we add a second dog into the mix?

This is Hendricks - he's a 55 lbs. hound/shepherd/mutt that we found at a local shelter back in January. He's pretty chill, except for a love of hunting bunnies that go across his back yard. Hendricks needs a friend - how do we start approaching this, and how do we find him a friend that will work for him and us? [more inside]
posted by SNWidget at 10:16 AM PST - 11 comments

Help us name this puppy! Warning: Corgis ahead.

We are getting our Pembroke Corgi, Dazzle, her very own puppy. He is also a Corgi in a nonstandard color, currently being referred to as 'Cloud' by his breeder. Dazzle came with her name, but Cloud just isn't going to cut it. Names that have been considered but discarded: Flash, Blaze, Blitzen (my favorite), Winston, Sterling, Silver, Titus, Cato and Ghost. We are looking for a name that is preferably two syllable and neither a popular human name (Henry) nor a cutesy title (Professor Bigglesworth.) We are running out of ideas and seek the creativity of MeFi!
posted by Requiax at 9:41 AM PST - 59 comments

What happens after a bike accident?

My husband got doored on his bike. There was a police report, the guy who hit him stayed on the scene and was actually on the job (delivery) when he opened his door into my husband, who was in the bike lane. The driver did have insurance and presumably the company insures, too. What happens now? [more inside]
posted by juniperesque at 9:28 AM PST - 23 comments

So you want to be a robot psychologist…

What are some computer science-related/IT jobs that help people or society at large? [more inside]
posted by sevenofspades at 9:25 AM PST - 6 comments

What is this logo?

A friend gave me a keychain with this logo on it a few days ago - it has no trademark or info. [more inside]
posted by 41swans at 9:07 AM PST - 4 comments

Name that MST

Asking for a friend: Which MST3K episode is this from? Crow gives Tom dating advice and one of his helpful tidbits is "Try not to bore her with your knowledge of war atrocities." [more inside]
posted by Librarypt at 9:04 AM PST - 3 comments

How do I keep myself from going to bed until I'm actually sleepy?

I keep putting myself to bed too early. I fall asleep easily and stay asleep for a couple hours, but I sleep very lightly and wake up for a period of time around 2-4am. What are some things I can do to stay out of bed for an extra couple hours until I'm at the can't-keep-my-eyes-open point level of sleepy? [more inside]
posted by supernaturelle at 8:57 AM PST - 11 comments

Time away

Hi- are there ranches that exist to help people that are grieving with their sadness and anxiety? This is on top of battling major depression. [more inside]
posted by timpanogos at 7:45 AM PST - 7 comments

MedicFilter: what are guidelines for car travel after a concussion?

I suffered a concussion 10 days ago and am still feeling some symptoms. Tomorrow I am supposed to be in a car for four or more hours in total. Is this safe? What are the guidelines for being an automobile passenger post-concussion? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:04 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me take over the world

I want to pursue my dream of starting a business but have 2 problems. I'm not an extrovert, and all of my skills are in an industry that is not startup-friendly. What are good businesses for me to start? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:03 AM PST - 16 comments

Trying to jump the accent divide

One of our new IT vendors at work makes heavy use of an Indian workforce. Conference calls have become a challenge as we try to work through their accents. I recognize that I have a responsibility to do what I can to meet them halfway on the conversation. Are there podcasts, online radio streams, etc. that I can listen to where people from India are speaking in English so I can acclimate my ears to their peculiarities of their accents? [more inside]
posted by Golfhaus at 6:18 AM PST - 16 comments

Living in Cardiff - expected lifestyle changes?

I am an academic and am likely about to take up a position at Cardiff University. I currently live in a small-ish (250K) Dutch city, which I love. I like the compact city center, I like walking everywhere (shopping, market, coffee, train station), I like the robust public transportation. I dislike car culture. What do I need to know about Cardiff? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:52 AM PST - 6 comments

Rectify podcast

Is there a full-time, dedicated podcast for the show Rectify? I've only found partial segments. [more inside]
posted by tfmm at 2:37 AM PST - 1 comment

July 18

Please help me use up some of my CSA produce! (Beets, fennel, zucchini)

My fridge is starting to bulge open with the sheer amount of produce I'm accumulating from my weekly farm box. Please help me come up with ideas to use some of it! Seeking ideas specifically for 1) beets 2) zucchini/summer squash and 3) fennel (possibly looking for help modifying a potato gratin recipe). More inside! [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 9:54 PM PST - 46 comments

Help me find a comfortable outfit for a 30th anniversary party

What to wear? [more inside]
posted by goodsearch at 9:53 PM PST - 6 comments

Should we pay friends to babysit?

Mrs. Zooropa and I have a 17-month old, and are finally having a date night tomorrow night. We are new to the area, and have few friends and no family nearby. A co-worker of mine and his wife have agreed to babysit for us. Here's our quandary: do we pay them? [more inside]
posted by zooropa at 8:56 PM PST - 36 comments

Help my future-husband and I choose a meaningful new last name

We're a mixed-race couple that are getting married soonish and really want to blend our Chinese-whiteness together into one name, but are coming up completely blank. I need ideas! Chinese surname with an alternative spelling? White last name that sounds suspiciously Chinese? [more inside]
posted by Snacks at 8:03 PM PST - 38 comments

Advice for American family going to the Algarve in August?

Mr. TEA, preschooler TEA, and I are going from our home in the U.S. to the Algarve next month to visit family for a few weeks. This will be the first trip out of the U.S. for our preschooler, and the first trip back in a long while for us adults. What advice can you give us about how to help our preschooler prepare for the trip? About what to do as a family while we're there? About traveling with kids in the Algarve?
posted by TEA at 7:38 PM PST - 5 comments

Divorce Lawyer in the Twin Cities

Looking for family law/divorce lawyer recommendations in the Twin Cities to help a couple with young children and assets go through a non-contentious divorce. Email AnonMetafilter14@gmail.com if you prefer. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:32 PM PST - 2 comments

When Is It Good To Let go Of An Internet Friendship?

I've had a two year friendship with someone I've never met but care a great deal for. It is causing a lot of stress. I am unsure how to end it given the intensity of our communication. I have included more in the extended area. [more inside]
posted by Fayrose at 7:19 PM PST - 17 comments

Help me get out of a work-only rut and be sociable again?

In the last year or so, my life has basically become work and errands, and my social life is barely there. As a result, I find myself becoming unable to be sociable around people. All I seem to do is be able to discuss my job. How can I get out of this rut? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:36 PM PST - 7 comments

I want you like a penguin..in canvas

Looking for prints of animals clearly in love or displaying "love" that I can buy, frame, and hang on my wall [more inside]
posted by lpcxa0 at 6:03 PM PST - 4 comments

Apps That Help Combine Photos to Fix When People Don't Smile or Blinking

I used to use and love an iOS app called GroupShot that helped you magically combine the good parts of multiple photos into one to help fix issues like when people don't smile or accidentally blink or when they aren't all looking at the camera at the same time. The app no longer works right and I can't find any others like it! Anyone know of any other apps out there that do that? [more inside]
posted by purefusion at 5:43 PM PST - 4 comments

What is this phantom litter box smell?

How can I eliminate (or mask) a weird smell in my house's A/C? [more inside]
posted by justonegirl at 5:41 PM PST - 6 comments

inspirational books/biographies about the non-fiction writing life?

I'm neck deep in writing an academic book at the moment, and on the worst days I lose the will to live. To dislodge myself from the daily temptation to nuke the whole manuscript, slit my wrists and be done with it all, I've been trying to keep motivated by reading good accounts of the life of writers. I would love recommendations! Details inside. [more inside]
posted by starcrust at 5:29 PM PST - 4 comments

What did Marx not foresee?

What has happened in recent history that has upended Marxist philosophy? [more inside]
posted by Triumphant Muzak at 5:24 PM PST - 20 comments

Icebreakers for creative, nerdy adults

What are some fun ice-breaking games that could be used for a mixed group of 30 science-minded writers and filmmakers? Preferably something involving telling a story and/or sharing anecdotes about themselves (a la "2 Truths and a Lie") in order to foster connection. Trying to find ways to get a sense of someone's history and personality, so games that are just for fun (like Mafia) aren't really going to do the trick here. [more inside]
posted by egeanin at 5:17 PM PST - 11 comments

Nail color inspiration for wedding guest outfit?

What outside-the-box-color nail polish would best accent a black cocktail dress (with silver accent beading) and silver shoes? [more inside]
posted by shelle at 4:59 PM PST - 21 comments

Please help me develop thicker skin.

Sure, the, "no, where are you really from?" thing gets old fast, but that's so minor compared to everything else I've experienced. How can I keep my chin up as a minority who is living in a place that is 90% white? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:00 PM PST - 20 comments

The name/location of the lighthouse in HIMYM??

Hi! Was wondering if anyone knows the name and location of the lighthouse in the Lighthouse episode of How I Met Your Mother. THANK YOU!
posted by LemonGardot at 3:55 PM PST - 1 comment

Bar Exam is quickly approaching, so I'm going to focus on what to wear.

I need a "lucky bar exam" t-shirt. Not one that says, "this is my lucky bar shirt", though. [more inside]
posted by atomicstone at 3:50 PM PST - 22 comments

Hit the road, Jack!

Driving from New Jersey to Cleveland in one day. Are there any sites worth seeing? [more inside]
posted by dancinglamb at 3:27 PM PST - 2 comments

How can you establish credit if you've never had a credit card or loans?

I've never been in debt, I've never had a credit card, I have money in a bank account, but today I went to look up my credit report and there was nothing in it. I'm not planning on making any big purchases in the next two years, but I'm sure eventually I'll want to buy a house or a car. How can I build up my credit, given that many places won't give me a credit card due to the fact I have no credit score? [more inside]
posted by Archibald Edmund Binns at 3:21 PM PST - 20 comments

Best way to ensure porky goodness?

I am planning to cook Hugh Fearfuller-Whittingstall's Donnie Brasco pork shoulder to be served tomorrow evening. [more inside]
posted by gabrielsamoza at 3:04 PM PST - 4 comments

Position elimination and lay offs

Can employers lie about a lay off due to funds? [more inside]
posted by Asian_Hunnie at 2:58 PM PST - 12 comments

Another mystery shrub! Please can you help ID it?

this shrub is growing in our Atlanta yard. [more inside]
posted by pointystick at 2:56 PM PST - 7 comments

This is how Android SHOULD work. Is there a way to do this?

After much experimentation, I’ve finally realized how I want the Android home screens to work: Like this (simple 30-sec video clip). Essentially, I want it to work like making a Mac OS X app full-screen and assigning it to a work space. [more inside]
posted by Alaska Jack at 2:48 PM PST - 8 comments

Reusable menstrual pads

I'm on the market to buy reusable menstrual pads. Please recommend your favorite companies to buy from. [more inside]
posted by cacao at 2:34 PM PST - 28 comments

Why isn't Zofran OTC?

Why isn't Zofran OTC? Re: this response and a recent bout of norovirus where a tab Zofran, passed along by a pregnant coworker, was a savior. [more inside]
posted by magdalemon at 1:56 PM PST - 19 comments

How can I stop caring so much about what people think of me?

I tend to care about what people think way too much. I get nervous in social situations sometimes to where I feel shakey and out of breath. I can't think straight sometimes when talking to people. I also tend to change the way I act around different people to the point of where I feel disconnected from myself. How can I stop caring so much? [more inside]
posted by anon1129 at 1:26 PM PST - 18 comments

Help me have a countertop dishwasher, fancy faucet edition

I've been itching to have a countertop dishwasher again. The catch? I rent and my kitchen faucet is a pull out model, with the built in sprayer. I have an idea below -- can you let me know if it's feasible (plus any pitfalls to watch out for), and if not, perhaps point me in a better direction? [more inside]
posted by ktkt at 1:23 PM PST - 4 comments

Invisible bra for the busty gal

I'm trying to find a bra like this one, but that will fit a 36DD. I'm unfortunately just outside of their size range. [more inside]
posted by burntflowers at 1:22 PM PST - 6 comments

Could someone please translate a marriage record for me from Alsace 1772

I have located on-line a 1772 marriage record from Alsace, France pertaining to my family but can't make much out The image is sharp and clear enough but it looks to be in Latin. I can send a copy. Any help would be appreciated.
posted by mcbeitz at 12:42 PM PST - 12 comments

File woes

I grabbed a bunch of posts off of a vBulletin forum to analyze for a research project (with permission, of course, from the forums and the users and my IRB), and I've got it all cleaned up and ready to go. I've got thousands of files in .xls (Microsoft Excel 97-2003) format. So far, so good. Now how do I get these files into a format that my analysis software will play with nicely? [more inside]
posted by sockermom at 12:29 PM PST - 14 comments

Time Lapse Image Comparison

Recommendations on some simple software to analyze the difference in time lapse images. [more inside]
posted by sanka at 12:28 PM PST - 5 comments

Best way to clean old wood floor.

My new place has an old hard wood floor that is in serious disrepair. Patched by metal signs, covered in particle board in parts. What is the best way to clean them? [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 12:15 PM PST - 6 comments

Copenhagen dining for the not-quite-so-hip

Seeking restaurant recommendations for a family trip to Copenhagen. I am traveling with my mom and aunt (in their 60s) and brother (in his 30s) and we are not exactly looking for the hippest, fanciest places around. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by bbq_ribs at 11:54 AM PST - 5 comments

Where to buy older portable/console games?

Are there good places online to purchase old Game Boy Advance or DS games? [more inside]
posted by pbh at 11:23 AM PST - 8 comments

Looking for eggplant recipes

A friend of mine gave me three small eggplants from her co-op basket last night, so I'm looking for some interesting recipes for eggplant. They look like this, which is not what I'm used to, so I don't know if they would do better cooked a particular way. Minor difficulty - gluten free and relatively low fat. Also, how long will these last before they go bad? Do I need to cook them in the next 2-3 days? Thanks!
posted by blurker at 10:40 AM PST - 23 comments

Indoor couch to outdoor dog couch

I own this small black couch from IKEA. Primary user is my Alaskan Malamute (obligatory pic), who staked his claim on it many moons ago - it's a dog couch now. I'd like to make this couch available to him when he's in the backyard while I'm at work. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by Gori Girl at 10:19 AM PST - 4 comments

Scenic public workspaces in DC

I'm coming to DC for a couple of weeks to start a job search, possibly to move there. A large part of my time will be spent working on job applications. I don't want to spend all of this time at home since it helps to get out and about. I prefer to work in scenic spaces. Any suggestions of where I might go? Thinking along the lines of old libraries or other public areas. [more inside]
posted by thesnowyslaps at 10:11 AM PST - 8 comments

What's the current wisdom on riding mowers?

I need to buy a new riding mower. What am I going to need to be looking for when comparing models? What's good and what's bad these days? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 10:01 AM PST - 7 comments

Best Books on shipping mail/news/orders/etc?

What is the best book on the history of sending mail, news, orders and other information by ship?
posted by michaelh at 9:33 AM PST - 1 comment

Is it worth pursuing speech therapy to fix a child's lisp ?

Looking for arguments / reasoning to support pursuing speech therapy (school provided), to address a lisp on 'th' and 's' sounds. The child in question is turning 6. [more inside]
posted by walkinginsunshine at 9:25 AM PST - 25 comments

Well I'll go, I'll go - Pushin' in the pin

Super Basic Google Maps Question: I'd like to create a map using google maps, add pins of about 20 locations, and save and share the map. I know this must be possible, but I'm just missing it somehow. How do I create multiple pins on one map? How do I save and share the maps? Thanks!
posted by seesom at 9:25 AM PST - 6 comments

When it's time to style this party, I will always style it hard!

An acquaintance has asked me to serve as the (paid) stylist for her child's birthday party. I'm not a professional party stylist, just a maniac with a glue gun and far too many ideas. What's a fair price for my labor? Party location: NYC. [more inside]
posted by 2or3things at 8:15 AM PST - 5 comments

Seeking an early Autumn room with a view

Completely indecisive person seeking an end of September/early October 3-4 day trip from DC - short drive, train, or plane trip for around 1k. No idea where I want to go, but the only must is a room/balcony with a really beautiful nature view. [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 8:13 AM PST - 14 comments

How can I pay down just my unsubsidized student loan?

I have two loans, one subsidized one unsubsidized federal student loans with AES. AES will only allow me direct my payment to both loans in total: they will not allow me to specify what percentage of my payment goes to each loan. How can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 7:57 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me find an adjective

I need an adjective for a person who knows they're doing the wrong thing, but does it anyway with the attitude, "I don't care; no one can tell me what to do." It's not 'arrogant', but it's close; it has an element of arrogance mixed with impulsiveness and irresponsibility, as the person engages in extreme and self-destructive behaviors, with attitudes of spite, stubbornness and obstinacy about the consequences. [more inside]
posted by paleyellowwithorange at 7:48 AM PST - 61 comments

Has a FitBit helped you get off your lazy a-- ?

I need to jumpstart my fitness which is currently non-existent. Would a FitBit help me (& the SO) be less lazy and more motivated? Did you use a fitbit or similar device to help you get on a fitness track? Or did you use another method?
posted by kmr at 7:28 AM PST - 28 comments

Take this job and...shove it?

i may have made a big mistake. i was persistently recruited by one of the "big three" food service providers and after turning down a few offers, I finally accepted one from them. i have been in my new position for 2 months now and i can safely say that I HATE IT. [more inside]
posted by ps_im_awesome at 7:27 AM PST - 13 comments

Earning while I'm Learning?

I have been asked by a friend who's just starting a technical consulting business to help him do marketing/CRM. I am helping him as a friend with tech strategy and competitive intelligence (what I do know) and he wants to pay me to do business development (which I don't know.) So, what should I charge for consulting services when I am completely new at what I am doing? Sounds foolhardy, I know, but lots of snowflakey details inside. [more inside]
posted by cross_impact at 7:22 AM PST - 1 comment

Japanese OCR for Mac?

So what's the market look like for Japanese OCR software for Mac OS? I'm a bit bewildered and feeling out of my league upon googling around. It would be rad to be pointed in the right direction on this.
posted by DoctorFedora at 6:55 AM PST - 2 comments

Dismissed from full time position, but HR offers to reclassify

I was recently dismissed from a new full time job less than 3 months after starting it. A recent note from HR has kindly offered to reclassify the position as a temporary one if it would help me. Is this wise? It sounds like I can go forward without the stigma of being fired but will it affect unemployment, or anything else I don't know about? (It was a bit of a shock, tho it wasn't a great fit. Wisconsin is an at-wlll state and there were no issues of misconduct. )
posted by anonymous at 6:50 AM PST - 14 comments

Mefites of New York: Where should I live in NYC?

So, I'm moving to New York, and the housing situation looks really complicated. I have a friend I can crash with for a week or two, but I would ideally like to find a place soon after I arrive in the city in early August. I have no idea which areas I should be looking in, or what's reasonable for my budget. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:50 AM PST - 30 comments

Vacation! September! Two kids under three! Eastern US!

My husband and I are in the beginning stages of planning our first vacation in a few years. It'll be our first vacation with kids; our daughters are 13 months and 2.5 years. We will be going in September. I'd prefer to stay in the Eastern time zone so we don't have to mess with sleep schedules. We have to stay in the US, as neither kid has a passport. We'd prefer to drive so we can set our own pace. Budget for the whole shebang is $1,000 - $1,500. [more inside]
posted by SeedStitch at 6:40 AM PST - 14 comments

Bookmarking a page of results in academic search engines

Question for those with access to academic search engines: is there a way to bookmark a specific page of results or navigate quickly to a particular result number? [more inside]
posted by quiet coyote at 6:33 AM PST - 8 comments

best sponge/tool for bathroom cleaning?

When I clean the bathroom, I try to use a plain rectangular sponge but there's a lot of hair in there and it just moves it around and redeposits it and is frustrating. I wind up using paper towels which seems like a waste and isn't as convenient for little touch ups. Does anyone have a type of sponge or tool that they really like for this? Bonus for anything else that will make this chore easier, which will help me do it more often.
posted by ftm at 6:18 AM PST - 16 comments

A birthday greeting from a significant and estranged ex

How should I have handled receiving a birthday greeting form an ex who completely broke my heart and whom I haven't contacted since? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema at 6:18 AM PST - 31 comments

Ask the milkman, white with foam.

Is there something I could add to whole milk that would make it froth better without affecting it negatively in some other way? [more inside]
posted by Obscure Reference at 6:09 AM PST - 14 comments

Mysterious lines in my word document giving me agita help help help

Wrote a Thing on a google docs app on iPad; transferred it to word document on Mac, and there are a few solid lines like "____________" that will not disappear, regardless of what I move around and try to delete. How to fix? [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 6:08 AM PST - 9 comments

"Get Behind the Mule" - glorify my hard work with some appropriate songs

I'm looking for music that is about working hard (even if there are other themes and meanings as well, as in the title example), and isn't complaining about it. The Tom Waits song named qualifies, as would Lizzo's "W.E.R.K.", if that gives you an idea of both the range of music I am open to hearing and how far I'm willing to stretch the theme. Your ideas are appreciated.
posted by dee lee at 5:16 AM PST - 40 comments

Micromanagement is giving me a sad

The micromanagement in my workplace is starting to impact seriously on my confidence. How best to handle this? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 5:12 AM PST - 14 comments

Ideas for vacation in Charlottesville and Asheville?

My wife and I are planning a vacation to Charlottesville, VA and Asheville, NC at the beginning of August. We plan to stay three nights in each city. We plan to do some hiking as well as city stuff. What are your favorite places in that area, and what would you recommend doing?
posted by sgo at 4:00 AM PST - 12 comments

Best storage methods for scratch-and-sniff stickers?

I bought a few packs of Trend scratch and sniff stickers for my students. Can I safely cut them up into individual pieces, and mix them in one bag? Or will that cause a weird, permanent mixture of scents? Parents, teachers, scratch and sniff experts... please advise.
posted by Xere at 1:38 AM PST - 4 comments

July 17

Tips to get through this

In less than a week I have a colonoscopy scheduled and with all the health problems I have, it's going to be hell. (which are reasons why I'm getting the test.) What are some tips to get through this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:04 PM PST - 26 comments

Datasets for returned merchandise (ecommerce)

I need to get hold of datasets for online purchases, more specifically those that include product returns for a (self funded) project I'm working on. [more inside]
posted by a non e mouse at 10:21 PM PST - 2 comments

Xxplosive

I was evicting dust bastards from my mid-2010 MacBook Pro tonight when I came across this little piece of exploded circuitry. wtf. [more inside]
posted by Chutzler at 8:38 PM PST - 6 comments

Help building a very simple shelf

I'd like to build a very simple shelf that looks like this using minimal tools and at a low cost. [more inside]
posted by roaring beast at 8:13 PM PST - 12 comments

Dog crates that fit a Modern house?

The mister and I are moving into a new apartment! Hooray! The one problem? A dog crate that both fits our new apartment's aesthetic and isn't $1200. [more inside]
posted by functionequalsform at 8:11 PM PST - 10 comments

high-proof alcohol for sale in Boston?

BostonFilter: I'm looking for neutral grain spirits to make tinctures with. I haven't found anything in the liquor store higher than 40% ABV vodkas. Apparently Everclear isn't available in Mass (?), but is there anything else I can get ahold of? Huge bonus points for Cambridge/Somerville, and I can't go to weird exurban car-needing places.
posted by threeants at 8:08 PM PST - 10 comments

Johns Hopkins job--where to live in or near Baltimore?

My cousin has a job offer at Johns Hopkins (Homewood campus) and is considering a move to Baltimore--but where to live? They have a young kid and so need a good school and a short, preferably car-less commute to work, and would like a walkable, safe area--does this pretty much rule out the city? Coming from brownstone Brooklyn, which they like in most respects. Suggestions?
posted by agent99 at 8:06 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me navigate an appt with a new doc

I finally got health insurance after not having it for years. The problem is that it is my states crappy version of medicaid even though they won't admit it. It has already been a clusterfuck. Only 3 docs in my county accept this insurance. I have my first appt tomorrow and could use some advice on how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by futz at 7:47 PM PST - 21 comments

Looking for sartorial inspiration

I'm looking for Tumblrs, Pinterest boards, and the like that collect photos of ordinary dudesnot hunky professional models with well funded stylists—rocking casual but sharp outfits. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 7:29 PM PST - 5 comments

I've Never Wanted To Be At The Front Of The Line Until Now

I hate my awful, auto-dialing, MotoX android with a passion and am counting the days until the introduction and release of iPhone6 in September. Help me come up with a strategy to get one of the early models and not have to wait months until there is a significant amount of product for general distribution. In other words I want to actually have an iPhone 6 in my hands in September. How do I do it?
posted by Xurando at 7:04 PM PST - 14 comments

Actually useful online traffic school

My husband got a ticket for a moving violation and has to complete some form of traffic school. He'd like to do it online and would like for it to be actually a useful course, not just some brush off thing. We live in Los Angeles County, if anyone knows of a good one somewhere that would work for him.
posted by jvilter at 6:54 PM PST - 5 comments

Girth & vagina pain.

Repeatedly bleeding after penetrative sex, yes we use so much lube, any advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:43 PM PST - 26 comments

Is Sr. Citizen Bankruptcy a Good "Why Not" Idea?

My mother is 80 years old and has good credit but wonders if she'll ever use it (or even if anyone would allow her a major purchase that would require a loan/credit, considering her age/income/lack of any savings or assets, which seems unlikely from her experience). Her income is (not much) fixed social security and could qualify her for bankruptcy. She could wipe out $200/month of credit card payments with a BK without affecting her house (she co-owns with a sis), and she could keep (not declare) a credit card for emergencies. Are there possible downsides to BK? Or is it a clear-cut case of more income for her senior years? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:05 PM PST - 10 comments

"split their skulls open like the old days"

I need some help processing a disturbing and scary interaction I had today with someone. [more inside]
posted by frankly mister at 6:05 PM PST - 70 comments

Your snack ideas, please!

With the help of a dietitian, I've been doing quite well in my effort to eat healthier and lose some weight. However, I need some more snack ideas before I get too bored of what I've got! [more inside]
posted by synecdoche at 5:08 PM PST - 17 comments

What kind of bathing suit top is this?

I'm looking for a top that extends 3 or 4 inches below the bosom-line and doesn't flare. [more inside]
posted by alice_curiouse at 4:51 PM PST - 8 comments

Is my bike too small?

I am a 5'8" woman who rides a 56cm (large) Specialized Tricross. I do not race on this bike — I have it set up for commuting and use it to ride Houston's pot-holed streets. Or, I *would* use it to ride Houston's pot-holed streets, except riding it for any longer than a couple of miles is pretty uncomfortable. [more inside]
posted by Brittanie at 4:43 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I amass a book collection in this day and age?

I've always wanted to wind up with a large collection of books like my parents have. However, when I can find constantly updated information on the internet and I check out fiction from the library, I can rarely convince myself there's a good reason to actually BUY a book. What books should I be buying? Some snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by majesty_snowbird at 4:35 PM PST - 30 comments

Help me get less high

After a 30-year hiatus, I smoked some legal pot. I wouldn't exactly say I Dowded myself, but it was definitely a way more intense experience than I was looking for. The thing is, I did everything I possibly could to ingest the smallest amount possible, but it was still too much. Maybe you can help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:31 PM PST - 14 comments

Timeless Graduation Present for a Computer scientist

My Partner is graduating this summer, with a degree in computing, I'm looking for a present relevant to computing that would be a timeless present.
posted by anonymous at 4:30 PM PST - 11 comments

Is it safe to eat (off of) this?

This silicone spatula has post-mold spots on it, after cleaning. What are they? [more inside]
posted by Phredward at 4:03 PM PST - 8 comments

Cheapest & Best Photo Books

We want to print our wedding photos in a book for family. What website has cheap (and very good) wedding books? Any recommendations are appreciated.
posted by quiverandquill at 3:23 PM PST - 10 comments

How do I host my MRI (with auto launcher) on the internet for my doctor?

My doctor abroad wants me to send him my MRI so he can review it. I used microsoft one drive, but the way I did it failed (twice) help? [more inside]
posted by crawltopslow at 3:20 PM PST - 11 comments

<30 discounts

I got my theater tickets at a discount, and I could join the Portland City Club at a discount (if I lived in Portland...). I'm 27 and want to find out about other discounts for the under-30 crowd. Where should I be looking? I live in Berkeley and tend to be into things like politics, theater, culture, etc., but general suggestions are welcome. Thank you!
posted by c'mon sea legs at 2:07 PM PST - 10 comments

Sights to see for a week in Denmark & Sweden?

I'm landing in Copenhagen July 26th, and flying out of Stockholm August 1. In those 6 days, what must I not miss? It will be my first time in the region. [more inside]
posted by lychee at 1:55 PM PST - 12 comments

Male video game character mapped onto female character movements

Help me find this video or gif that I can't seem to locate with google. Sometime in the past year I've seen either a video or an animated gif where someone made a hack that put a male character skin on a female video game character. [more inside]
posted by MsMolly at 1:29 PM PST - 5 comments

Super hip coffee places

What are the hippest (to the point of painfully hip) coffee shops that you know in DC? [more inside]
posted by andrewesque at 1:14 PM PST - 17 comments

Pulling shopping carts not allowed?!?

Is there a reason a store would have a policy regarding pulling/versus pushing a shopping cart? Safety? Is this specifically a Trader Joe's policy? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by PinkPoodle at 12:02 PM PST - 42 comments

Cell phone for visiting Canada

I have a Virgin Mobile USA phone, which is useless outside the US. I'll be in Canada (Nova Scotia and Ontario) for two weeks, and while the idea of taking a break from little electronic devices is tempting, it actually would be kind of helpful to have a phone. What's my best (ie, cheapest) option? [more inside]
posted by neroli at 11:45 AM PST - 3 comments

Give me another 10-ton catastrophe on a 60-foot chain

After seeing Nick Cave & the Bad Seeds the other night and having my mind blown, I have been in the mood for nothing but Cave and Cave-y tunes. The Nick Cave station I made on Pandora has been remarkably awesome, but it’s left me wanting MORE. Americana-meets-rock, darkly atmospheric, fire and brimstone with a sexy swagger... you get the idea. [more inside]
posted by scody at 11:31 AM PST - 37 comments

Help me approach this from the view-point of a 19-year-old

My daughter wants to move out and in with her boyfriend, and I think it would be a giant mistake. [more inside]
posted by primate moon at 11:20 AM PST - 68 comments

To gift or not to gift?

I'm invited to an engagement party. From preliminary research, it appears it's up to me whether or not to give a present... But I need some help figuring this out. Old friend, just meeting her fiance, casual engagement party, will not be invited to wedding. [more inside]
posted by DoubleLune at 11:18 AM PST - 14 comments

Finding a Reputable Online Pet Medication Store

Looking to buy Revolution Heartworm medicine for dogs from an Online Store that ships to Canada. Have had a hard time finding what looks like a reputable site. Does anyone here have experience with a good place to find pet medicine online?
posted by cascando at 10:43 AM PST - 5 comments

What conversations should we have before living in sin?

Dear hive mind, please suggest items for a checklist of issues/expectations/questions to discuss with my significant other before we shack up next month! I was reading this question and saw that many people felt that they would never move in with a partner before discussing their finances with a certain level of detail. I would love to know what other rules of thumb people have about establishing a mutual understanding, financially, emotionally, housework-wise, etc. before cohabiting. Possibly relevant details inside. [more inside]
posted by erstwhile ungulate at 10:36 AM PST - 31 comments

Avoiding postpartum mental illness?

What can I do to minimize my risk of postpartum mental illness? If I can't completely prevent it, I'd at least like to catch and treat it as early as possible. [more inside]
posted by Metroid Baby at 10:29 AM PST - 24 comments

Aestheticians, et cetera for a transitioning trans lady in NYC

A friend of mine who is transitioning has asked me to ask MeFi for a couple of recommendations for beauty-related services in New York City. Needs and requirements as follows: [more inside]
posted by brina at 10:13 AM PST - 2 comments

How do you get out of being upset/reconnecting after a fight

I find myself spiraling down in negative emotions occasionally and want to learn about actual skills to pull myself out before the fight gets meta and out of hand. [more inside]
posted by monologish at 9:59 AM PST - 13 comments

Recommend funny, sarcastic, pop culture T-shirts?

My husband likes funny-sarcastic and pop culture T-shirts. I have a completely different sense of humor, and a childhood free of TV. The pop culture T-shirts he likes best are a little subtle, like one for the dojo of the bad guys in Karate Kid, or an Abe Froman Sausage King shirt. I get the shirts, once they're explained, but I don't recognize references to be able to buy other similar! Army of Darkness, Monty Python, Batman, etc are other subjects he likes. Engineer jokes are good too. Please, help me find some great shirts!
posted by lemonade at 9:35 AM PST - 20 comments

Have you encountered my family's recipe elsewhere?

My family has a recipe that has been passed along for a few generations - the lore is that it was from the Depression days. I've never encountered it anywhere outside of my family, but I'm curious if it exists in other forms or if my family just made it up. [more inside]
posted by Neely O'Hara at 9:09 AM PST - 36 comments

Handling Professional Jealousy

I like my job, but have a friend who always seems to end up in my ideal employment situation. How can I get over being jealous and learn to be happy with what I do have? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:02 AM PST - 6 comments

Last minute Exam P advice?

Alright, so, I'm taking my first actuarial exam, Exam P, on Saturday. I've been studying for months, worked through tons of examples, taken loads of practice exams. Do any actuaries or other folks who've taken this exam have any last minute advice for me? Anything you wished you'd practiced more or memorized better?
posted by The Great Big Mulp at 8:35 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me rejoin the land of the living.

I've been diagnosed with idiopathic hypersomnia - which means I sleep too much and nobody can figure out why. With the diagnosis, I was essentially told that there's nothing the medical establishment can do for me beyond prescribing modafinil [Provigil]. Provigil only works a little for me, and is extremely expensive. I am currently disabled by my oversleeping (11-16 hours a day) and my inability to wake up before noon, and it's sort of ruining my life. I feel really let down by my doctors and hopeless about the future. Is there anything else I can do to manage this condition and/or my life with it? Way too much more inside. [more inside]
posted by po at 8:30 AM PST - 38 comments

Desperately searching for new webcomics

I am currently obsessed with O Human Star, which has so much of what I enjoy in a comic: a feeling of personal warmth (as opposed to 'cold action'), no convoluted action-y shading/perspective art-wise, unique storyline, science fiction vibes, no purely 'sinister' atmosphere, and nuanced gender elements. What else might I enjoy? [more inside]
posted by thegreatfleecircus at 8:19 AM PST - 13 comments

Should I get back together with my ex-wife?

I could really use some input to help me sort through all of this. At 40 years old, she was having a lesbian affair and asked me to move out. I was devastated. But in hindsight, our marriage wasn't a good one. And I suppose it was just a matter of time before something came along to unravel the whole thing. Now she wants me back. I have no clue how I even feel, much less if I even want to try again. Wall of text inside. [more inside]
posted by normal_guy at 8:09 AM PST - 39 comments

But you never asked!

I've had a consistent problem in my work life recently, and I'd love some advice. Since I've had so much trouble getting work, I defaulted to Executive Assistant positions. I figured this was in line with my personality, since I'm fairly thick-skinned and cheerful, and I'm pretty organized. The only problem is that I keep getting temp-to-perm positions where the C-level exec I assist accuses me of forgetting to do things he never asked me to do! [more inside]
posted by pineappleheart at 8:02 AM PST - 28 comments

Kindle browser

Has the "experimental" browser on newer models of Amazon Kiindle gotten any better? Gmail keeps threatening that soon it will no longer support the native browser on my Kindle 3 (keyboard), but upgrading to Chrome as is suggested is not an option. The Kindle 5 looks like it has a browser, is it just the same, or has it improved over time? Does anyone offer a better browser for Kindle as an app?
posted by ackptui at 7:24 AM PST - 4 comments

Weird PC problem with 3 programs

My husband has a problem with his computer and we can’t figure it out. He has a PC with Windows 8.0. He’s having trouble with three specific programs (Chrome, Google Earth and iTunes). The three problems started at about the same time. Is this a problem with his PC or with the programs or something else? (details and pictures inside). [more inside]
posted by OrangeDisk at 7:11 AM PST - 4 comments

Names & work

Summer contracting job -- when do I have to use my legal name? [more inside]
posted by krakus at 7:04 AM PST - 13 comments

I need a landline telephone — but just for 9 hours

Like many people, I am totally fine living without a landline. Between my cell phone and Google Voice, I'm covered. Mostly. But now I need a landline for nine hours. [more inside]
posted by veggieboy at 5:47 AM PST - 28 comments

What Would Be In Your Best High School English Class?

I'm teaching high school-level English next year for students who need a high level of academic support and I want the class to be both highly engaging and content-rich. If you were a kid who LOATHED writing for school, struggled with boring English classes, or can remember what elements you truly enjoyed in your high school English class, what advice would you pass my way? [more inside]
posted by kinetic at 3:21 AM PST - 46 comments

Can you take too much activated charcoal?

Activated charcoal is often given for various poisonings, but can you overdose on it? What would happen if you took it every day?
posted by devnull at 12:47 AM PST - 6 comments

How to create an Excel histogram showing distribution of timestamps

I have a spreadsheet containing timestamps, that I want to display as a histogram [more inside]
posted by jedro at 12:43 AM PST - 1 comment

Help me not live off Trader Joe's and Lean Cuisine.

So I can actually cook, and pretty well. It's the rest of the logistics of getting food on the table (meal planning, figuring out how to make balanced meals, even grocery shopping) that I struggle with. I need help learning to feed myself better than the frozen foods aisle can! [more inside]
posted by Tamanna at 12:22 AM PST - 19 comments

July 16

Winnipeg Mazda A/C repair?

Mrs. Sauce and I are on an epic roadtrip in our Mazda and we just lost our air conditioner. Yelp is failing us. Can anyone recommend an honest and capable repair shop in Winnipeg?
posted by Sauce Trough at 11:02 PM PST - 6 comments

How did spongebob squarepants hack my radio?

As I was driving home the other day, listening to NPR...as you do, my radio fuzzed out and an episode of Spongebob Squarepants took over. It played for about 2 blocks as I kept pace with the traffic nearby, then faded back to All Things Considered when I turned. Our NPR station is at 88.3 on the dial, and I can only assume that a nearby car had a kid watching Spongebob in it, but how did the not-so-soothing tones of Patrick and Squidwart supplant Melissa, Robert and Audie?!
posted by nerdcore at 10:49 PM PST - 7 comments

What did Coach McGuirk mean when he gave Brendon Small this advice:

What did Coach McGuirk mean when he gave Brendon Small this advice: "Brendon, let me tell you a little something about women. Women are like men. But men are not like women..."
posted by jtothes at 10:17 PM PST - 9 comments

As a Kindle eBook author, how terrified should I be of Kindle Unlimited?

A few months ago I started selling kinky eBooks for the Kindle, and it's been great. I'm paying my rent doing something I enjoy! But tonight I read this Salon.com article, and it's scary as hell. Amazon is reportedly testing Kindle Unlimited, a service allowing readers to download unlimited books for a flat monthly fee. I've spent hours tonight trying to determine how this will affect self-publishers. Can anybody walk me through the likely scenarios, and talk me down from this panic attack? [more inside]
posted by Ursula Hitler at 9:39 PM PST - 14 comments

50 Shades of Street Harassment

My question is primarily about how best to deal with street harassment with the caveat that just ignoring it is not my preferable solution. [more inside]
posted by frizzle at 8:51 PM PST - 53 comments

Will an Old Town Alexandria to Tyson's commute drive me insane?

Northern VA MeFites: I live next to the Braddock Road metro in Old Town Alexandria, and am considering a job in Tyson's. In terms of a commute by car, is this a Very Bad Idea? Which route would you recommend the most & which should I avoid? I considered a blue-to-silver line commute, but the daily round-trip total comes out to $14.70, way more than I can afford. I've been in the DC area for 4 years, all involving a straight blue line commute.
posted by invisible ink at 7:15 PM PST - 15 comments

How are water rates set in California, and why is water still cheap?

California is in a severe drought. The state just passed a law authorizing heavy fines for people who use water in visibly wasteful ways, and some municipalities are rationing households or talking about doing so. However, my impression is that actual water rates (prices for ordinary use) haven't gone up much. Is that correct? And if so, what would need to happen for rates to go up, and why isn't it happening? [more inside]
posted by aws17576 at 7:14 PM PST - 17 comments

Should I stay or should I go?

So here's the thing. My dad just got diagnosed with ALS-- Lou Gehrig's Disease, That Thing That Stephen Hawking Has, you know the drill-- and I have a moral dilemma. [more inside]
posted by dogheart at 6:59 PM PST - 31 comments

Looking for image of the word "push" that reads as "pull" upside down.

Maybe I'm just imagining this, but I seem to remember seeing an example of the word "Push" that when viewed upside down read as the word "Pull". My fever dream or a reality?
posted by jeremias at 6:47 PM PST - 4 comments

Hey I heard you like the wild ones.

I need ideas for what wild, low-maintenance flowers and plants to try to grow in half our yard that was previously mulch. [more inside]
posted by Bacon Bit at 6:26 PM PST - 10 comments

Gift to Chinese employee in non-tipping culture: how?

Our cleaning lady is taking her first holiday in a decade to visit her family. I was planning on giving her a cash present in lieu of the money she would have earned at our place, but I don't think she understands tips and I don't want her to feel further obliged to us. This has been a problem in the past because she has very strong views on hard work and duty &c. How should I present the idea (and money) to her in a culturally appropriate way? Am I just overthinking this?
posted by ICanHazQuestion at 6:10 PM PST - 12 comments

I don't know what to say when meeting "notables." Help!

How do you network with a "bigwig?" This is what has crossed my mind quite a bit recently. I hear all the time stories of people who've sat next to so-and-so on an airplane and apparently chatted it up and had a great time. What did they say to them? How did the conversation begin? Does it always begin with "I'm a fan" even if you aren't? (Kinda long, sorry) [more inside]
posted by GeniPalm at 6:08 PM PST - 29 comments

No one will pay for wheelchair repair, even with Medicaid... now what?

YANM medical billing professional, but I need help in getting my very expensive, recently-out-of-warranty electric wheelchair fixed. I live in NY, have (crappy) private insurance ( Oxford Liberty) through my mother's job and Medicaid due to a cerebral palsy diagnosis. My chair ( an Invacare model) was provided through my previous insurance and OL isn't accepted by the contractor that provided it. They take Medicaid, but refuse to put in a claim and keep passing the buck. I can't leave my house. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 5:20 PM PST - 17 comments

Recovering stolen property

Does anyone know what the procedure is for confiscating something that's stolen? [more inside]
posted by small_ruminant at 4:36 PM PST - 12 comments

What should an American bring to England?

My mom is going on a business trip to England soon! What American snack food or candy should she bring to the coworkers she will be visiting in the UK? [more inside]
posted by topoisomerase at 4:25 PM PST - 51 comments

Dealing with high thyroid

My doctors (GP and endocrinologist) are currently investigating my thyroid. Historically it's been low then levelling to normal but last blood test was high, and with a follow up 2 week later was high again. I'm booked in for a nuclear scan on Monday. But how do I deal with the symptoms? [more inside]
posted by geek anachronism at 4:24 PM PST - 7 comments

I get all the peaches now!

Food allergy contact dermatitis is a thing? A *different* thing? [more inside]
posted by The Noble Goofy Elk at 4:14 PM PST - 14 comments

Seeking suggestions: short sojourn in Seoul

I'm going to be in Seoul for a long weekend next month - what should I do? Where should I stay? What should I eat? [more inside]
posted by troika at 4:03 PM PST - 7 comments

Should I eat it? Ground Lamb edition

I have two packages of ground lamb that I bought for making some spicy lamb burgers. I got them on Saturday, and the sale by date is for the 21st. I pulled them from the meat drawer just now and the plastic wrap sealing the top of each tray of lamb was very taut and bulging. I pierced the wraps and a really foul smell came from each package. The problem is- the lamb is still a healthy looking bright red and it is not past the freshness date. The meat does have an odor, but not as strong as the air that escaped the package at first. Would you go ahead and cook it up or toss it?
posted by catrae at 3:36 PM PST - 22 comments

"Weird Al" covers by parody subjects?

Has any subject of a "Weird Al" Yankovic parody ever done a cover of their parody song in concert? Like, has Devo ever performed "Dare to be Stupid"?
posted by Small Dollar at 3:28 PM PST - 9 comments

Stop me from committing health care fraud. (tongue-in-cheek)

Yeah, I have no intention of committing health care fraud, but I am a bit uncertain on whether I should do this or not (request reimbursement from two insurance companies). More under the fold. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 2:58 PM PST - 8 comments

Fiction incorporating internet interactions?

What books and short fiction successfully incorporate internet communication, specifically web communication, into the narrative? I'm interested in writing a novel or novella that would switch between traditional omniscient third-person narrative and the descents into utter madness that can be found on, for example, Tumblr, and other web forums. The only piece that I can think of that uses forum posts to tell a story is "Candle Cove," but I am sure there must be many more. I'm particularly interested in novels.
posted by Countess Elena at 1:55 PM PST - 24 comments

Shockwave Flash causing instability?

Twice in the past two days, my computer has choked while playing youtube videos [more inside]
posted by Scattercat at 1:51 PM PST - 14 comments

Can this schefflera be saved?

I have a large (4' tall) schefflera in my office that has been infested with aphids for a few years now. At the recommendation of a coworker, I tried half-heartedly to get rid of them one time over the course of a few weeks by spraying the leaves with a mixture of dish soap and water, but this was way too time-intensive given that I do not care about this plant at all, and I'm not sure it helped, anyway. The thing is, I feel guilty letting it slowly die an aphid-ridden death. [more inside]
posted by something something at 1:49 PM PST - 9 comments

Cheapest way to drive an 8x4x1' package from LA to Burningman?

I'm planning on building a Hexayurt and driving it to Burningman and back. I'm told that Hexayurts fold up into a package that's approximately 8x4x1' large. Unfortunately, my car is a 2002 Toyota Camry LE without a roof rack (and without rain gutters, so roof racks are challenging/expensive to install). What's my cheapest option that's still safe for a 1300 mile car trip? [more inside]
posted by sdis at 1:06 PM PST - 17 comments

Need examples of overlapping conversations from fiction

I'm looking for examples from fiction of multiple conversations happening at once, between at least three different people. The more complex the conversation, the better. Better still if it's from a known author.
posted by asher at 12:32 PM PST - 21 comments

Are we talking or are you trying to give me an eskimo kiss?

I have a co-worker that is a close-talker and it makes me uncomfortable. We are becoming good friends and I enjoy talking with with her, but if we are face to face I find myself having to back away. If I am sitting at my desk, sometimes she will come behind my desk and stand right next to me while I am sitting in my chair and lean in so that we are face to face. I need some advice on how to non-nonchalantly ask her to not close-talk or at least give me a little bit of space. She is great and I do not want to hurt her feelings so I want to let her know casually if possible. Background if it matters...Im a guy. She is not hitting on me and does not like me (I know because I have seen her do the same to others and she has a long term boyfriend).
posted by frednorton at 12:24 PM PST - 29 comments

Moldy belongings brought into clean home - is home infected?

On moving day, we discovered all of our belongings were covered in mold from water damage. We will have all of our belongings professionally cleaned (or disposed if not recoverable). Do we need to remediate the home, too? [more inside]
posted by slipthought at 12:24 PM PST - 8 comments

Toning bleached hair

DIY-hair-filter: I bleached my hair 2.5 weeks ago. Can I use toner on it now or is that a bad idea? [more inside]
posted by aaanastasia at 12:05 PM PST - 5 comments

False smoke alarms in AC ducts: troubleshooting tips?

Our new commercial space is experiencing frequent false smoke alarms in one specific area of our AC ducts. The company that installed the AC system is stumped, and so is the electronic security company that installed the smoke detectors. We've just had our ducts cleaned top to bottom but the problem persists even though we're presumably dust-free. Any thoughts on what to try next? Engineers? Inspection services?
posted by ducky l'orange at 11:32 AM PST - 8 comments

Recommend areas to live in an around Newcastle Upon Tyne

In the spectrum between posh, desirable, OK, and rough, what are some areas to live in and around Newcastle that are nice to live. Posh is probably too expensive for us and not what we want - so something civilised and friendly is about right.
posted by Quillcards at 11:19 AM PST - 3 comments

Most ideal, durable, portable iPad workstation setup for travel?

What is the most durable, portable iPad workstation setup for extended traveling abroad? [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 10:40 AM PST - 16 comments

Need a visa medical form signed ASAP!

I need a medical certificate signed by a doctor ASAP so I can apply for a Belgian visa. Where can I do this on short notice in Los Angeles? Complicating details inside. [more inside]
posted by bonifate at 10:28 AM PST - 6 comments

Very basic car battery question

The internet says positive should be reconnected first, but that's not as easy as it should be. What's the best option? [more inside]
posted by notquitemaryann at 10:25 AM PST - 13 comments

iCalzone? iCal? ics?

I found a Yahoo Pipe to consolidate multiple Ics feeds from different websites into one Ics-feed (that I can import into Ical). But I can't get it to work. Does anybody have a clue? Here's the template for the pipe. Let's say this is calendar A and Calendar B.
posted by mathiu at 10:10 AM PST - 2 comments

Safe to engrave an iPod nano?

I just bought a 6th generation iPod nano for my spouse for our 10th anniversary (coincidentally, the aluminum anniversary!). I would like to have it engraved--is it safe for a regular engraver, who can do laser engraving, to do that with the nano? Any experiences with such to reassure me? [more inside]
posted by dlugoczaj at 10:10 AM PST - 5 comments

Any helpful guidance for family member who is leaving High School?

I have a family member that has chosen to leave high school at 16. I need some help or resources for us to guide a constructive process. [more inside]
posted by occidental at 10:06 AM PST - 14 comments

What are the most illuminating findings from the field of Cogn. Poetics?

I have an interest in literary theory but have never really had the time to study it fully. Please help me expand my awareness :-) [more inside]
posted by Musashi Daryl at 9:59 AM PST - 2 comments

Replace this tooth?

Had a split tooth a few weeks back, which the dentist pulled. Insurance covered it, but they won't cover an implant to replace it. It's the 1st premolar, upper -- third back from front. What do I risk by not replacing it?
posted by LonnieK at 9:56 AM PST - 9 comments

Should I travel to India in early October or early November?

I am planning a 2-3 week trip to India this fall, and the dates I can go would be either early October or early November (2014). I've been told that October is still pretty hot, and that early November is a bad time to go because of the Pushkar Camel Fair - that many hotels would be sold out, rates will be high, etc. (Also, I'm a travel consultant and would be less likely to get travel industry rates when hotels are full.) It's my first trip to India, so I am thinking that I will be mostly in the North - Delhi, Agra, Jaipur, Varanasi, etc... possibly with a few days in Mumbai. Which set of dates would you recommend? Any other factors I should consider?
posted by kdern at 9:55 AM PST - 5 comments

what percent will result from combining two types of milk?

If I add 1/100 to 2/100, I get 3/100 or 3%. But if I add one hundred apples, one of which is red, to one hundred apples, two of which are red, I will have 3/200 or 1.5%. I'm very confused now as to what percent milk fat my milk will be if I combine the two types of milk (1% and 2%) together.
posted by windykites at 9:49 AM PST - 15 comments

My mom and I--and the Cape.

My mom and I are leaving western PA tomorrow morning to drive to Cape Cod. Our original plan was just to wing it and go with the flow, but now that it's upon us, I'm nervous about not having anything planned. What can we do once we're there? [more inside]
posted by dearwassily at 9:47 AM PST - 17 comments

What can I do for the next 5-6 weeks?

I chose not to go on vacation with my family (to their native country that I've been to before) to take summer classes instead. My summer session 2 class filled up and I got screwed out of a seat. Now, I'm stuck here (NYC) with nothing to do for the rest of the summer. Help me not lose my mind and fill this time up. [more inside]
posted by DayTripper at 9:43 AM PST - 22 comments

How do I pick the best veterans' charity for my money?

I'm about to release the sequel to my military sci-fi novel, which did super well last year (self-pubbed on Amazon). Experience has shown that whenever I release a new book, all of the others get a sales bump. So for the first month of the new release, I'd like to donate anything I make off of the original to a good veterans' charity. Naturally, this has led me to a lot of questions. This is not the only place I'm asking, but the hive has always been of great assistance. [more inside]
posted by scaryblackdeath at 9:31 AM PST - 10 comments

Who, if anyone, is Randy Quaid channeling in Independence Day?

Randy Quaid's last line in Independence Day is "Hello, boys, I'm baaack!" He seems to be doing an impression of, or even quoting, some 1940's actress -- a real "dame." But who?
posted by musofire at 9:12 AM PST - 11 comments

Commissioning a custom Lego minifigure?

Any advice on commissioning a custom Lego minifigure? My five-year-old son is hugely obsessed with Lego, and I'd like to have a custom minifigure made of a superhero character he's designed. I've found a few options online, but am wondering if anybody here has ever done this. Was it worth the money? Any vendors you'd recommend - or not? (I should note: I am far too uncoordinated to paint a minifigure myself.)
posted by UKnowForKids at 9:10 AM PST - 3 comments

Can I turn a USB keypad into a shortcut machine for complicated tasks?

Let's say I want to highlight a piece of text and hit a button and have it place the text in quotes (or within code) and tweet it, is that possible? I'm on the newer OSXs. Curious about using either a cheap USB numeric keypad or a cheap USB controller like the Korg NanoKEY2 Slim Line. Is this possible?
posted by history is a weapon at 9:00 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me find more horror music.

Horror novels and horror movies are easy to find. Can you recommend me some good horror music? [more inside]
posted by Faint of Butt at 8:33 AM PST - 45 comments

Why did 30 Rock drop so many storylines between Seasons 3 and 4?

I've been re-watching 30 Rock on Netflix this week, and I realized there were major story lines season 3 that seem to have been unapologetically dropped at the start of season 4. For instance, season 3 ends with a television event to find Milton Green a kidney...and, apart from a later mention of Elvis Costello, this major storyline is never mentioned again. Similarly, Jenna is focused on her movie about Jackie Jormp Jomp, but this subplot never re-emerges. Is there a reason?
posted by jefficator at 8:32 AM PST - 3 comments

"Objective" studies of the paranormal?

I'm looking for well-written and researched "objective and scientific" studies of the paranormal. I am aware that those are loaded words, particularly around this topic, and I doubt there is a book that settles questions about paranormal activity and abilities once and for all, but essentially I would like to read books written by authors who don't have a pre-determined agenda in favour or against these types of phenomena being real.
posted by Grinder at 8:19 AM PST - 15 comments

Should I find an agent or continue with small presses?

I've had some success this past year in publishing through small presses. I'm seeking direction in my literary career. A lot more details inside. [more inside]
posted by dances_with_sneetches at 8:16 AM PST - 5 comments

Smother me with tips & advice on managing design projects

I'm an experienced product & "UX" designer who just started a new job (yay!) where the focus in the short term is managing design work done by external vendors & studios. I've done some of this before, but always small scale and usually in conjunction with a project manager who handled most of the time and team management stuff. I need your advice, tips, tools, and other lore on ways of managing design projects like these as I'm in a little over my head. [more inside]
posted by theNonsuch at 8:00 AM PST - 2 comments

Grad school application question help: Does this answer seem odd?

I am currently in the process of applying to The University of the Pacific's Master of Arts in Intercultural Relations. To answer one of the application questions I used part of a previous paper I wrote a few years back which I think answers the question well. I did cut and paste it with a few revisions and have been told it appears that way. A few other questions about it inside. [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! at 7:45 AM PST - 6 comments

two-week solo christmas adventure, 2014

flying solo, two-week christmas adventure, 2014... but where? [more inside]
posted by crawfo at 7:44 AM PST - 6 comments

Can my employer make me work for free for past Metrocards? [NYC-Filter]

I recently gave notice at my job, after having received Metrocards in advance. The HR department says because of the Metrocards, I still have to keep working until my resignation date, but won't get a final paycheck and will owe them money afterwards. Is this either legal or normal? What should I do? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by corb at 7:39 AM PST - 60 comments

Where do trains (and other moving things) get their interenet from?

I know cell phone providers sell data plans, but my understanding is that these have limited connection speeds - these days many trains offer "free wi-fi" for the passengers (I was even told of a shuttle bus that had wi-fi available). It can't just be standard cell phone data connection right? That would be hopelessly slow if more than a couple of passengers connected. Planes use satellite connections I think. What technology do land based - but moving - wi-fi hotspots use? Thanks
posted by Xhris at 5:43 AM PST - 9 comments

Project management and scheduling for a scientific team

I am part of a large collaborative lab-based project. We are currently disorganized and inefficient and are are looking for some project management systems or tools. [more inside]
posted by strekker at 5:42 AM PST - 6 comments

What is this (possibly carpentry/upholstery) tool?

This object was amongst tools belonging to a carpenter/furniture restorer, so may be something to do with that trade. Beer bottle cap for size, ~5 inches total length; good condition, but must be at least 20 years old - could be much older. The metal part appears to be aluminium, which would be too soft for many tool uses, so perhaps it is something else entirely?
posted by AFII at 5:15 AM PST - 11 comments

Creating an architectural digital archive

I'm looking for a solution to create a digital archive, primarily for an architectural practice with an extensive project history. [more inside]
posted by panboi at 4:46 AM PST - 1 comment

Hiroshima to Narita Terminal 1 on January 5, 2015

We (two non-Japanese speaking adults, perhaps with JR Passes) will be in Hiroshima on the morning of January 5. I fly out of Narita T1 at 14:00, she flies out of Narita T1 at 18:00. What is the best way to get there in time, given the fact that we will have bags and it's the end of a big holiday travel period there? [more inside]
posted by mdonley at 3:20 AM PST - 7 comments

When to invest in index funds?

I want to start investing in index funds, but most that I look at have gone up in value quite a lot over the last two years. Would it be smarter to wait for a drop before investing, or just go in now? [more inside]
posted by A Very Muddled Alpaca at 3:08 AM PST - 14 comments

Phone etiquette experts: How to be polite when sound quality sucks?

When I'm on the (cell) phone with another person, and I'm not able to hear what they are saying clearly, I get stuck. For persistent low-quality voice calls (i.e. when "can you talk a little louder" isn't the solution and "can you repeat that?" doesn't help), what can I do or say that doesn't make me look like an incompetent, impatient jerk? [more inside]
posted by RaRa-SpaceRobot at 12:35 AM PST - 14 comments

July 15

Where to stay for two nights in Seattle?

My husband and I want to spent this Friday and Saturday night in a nice-ish hotel in Seattle, but we aren't sure what neighborhoods we should even be looking in. I don't know the city very well, so I could use some guidance! [more inside]
posted by Narrative Priorities at 11:11 PM PST - 7 comments

Rare electric guitar gospel song (god is a good god)

I once went through a phase listening to all of the Thompkins Square, Numero Group, etc. gospel compilation albums, and I heard a song that had an awesome guitar part. I composed my own song around it, but now I'd really like to hear the original. I lost most of my music in a hard drive crash and now I can't for the life of me find the song. I think it's called "God Is a Good God" but I can't be sure [more inside]
posted by taromsn at 9:14 PM PST - 4 comments

Should I have switched to Medicaid or will I just receive more credits?

My income has changed but I don't want to switch to Medicaid. Will I just receive health tax credits on next year's tax return? [more inside]
posted by 1001 questions at 8:42 PM PST - 9 comments

Captain Planet - but for grown ups

Please help me come up with a decent name for a group of four fictional characters who have power over the classic elements in an equally fictional world. [more inside]
posted by Youremyworld at 8:30 PM PST - 25 comments

Articles/research on employee satisfaction, turnover, etc. in retail

I'm creating a proposal as an exercise to increase the retail employees at my place of employment a significant amount in two years. This would bring them in line with higher paying retailers such as CostCo and Container Store. Please link me articles, employee surveys or research studies that support higher wages/benefits for retail employees related to employee satisfaction, decreased turnover, increased engagement and other similar metrics.
posted by OnTheLastCastle at 7:30 PM PST - 2 comments

Aereo is no more. Help me create my own Mac-based replacement.

I do not own a TV and I don't have a cable subscription. I don't want to get either one of those things. I do, though, occasionally like to watch broadcast TV (or recordings of broadcast TV) on my MacBook Pro or iPad. Aereo was a great solution. Now that Aereo is gone how can I create an approximate replacement for use in my home? [more inside]
posted by alms at 7:25 PM PST - 6 comments

Mulberry Jam/Jelly

Hey there, does anyone have a reliable Mulberry jam/jelly recipe? I've tried the one at 'pick your own' and it doesn't set reliably! Its the first time I've worked with mulberries (I'd never even heard of them before this year) and I am really having a hard time getting it to set! I seem to have to double cook each batch and double the pectin? I am NOT an experienced jam maker, would appreciate any advice or insight. [more inside]
posted by Weeping Angel at 6:59 PM PST - 19 comments

We want to have a wedding in the Atlanta area but in a big field. How?

One of the possibilities we've discussed for our wedding next year would be to have it in some sort of "country-ish" setting. We live in Atlanta but the idea of a more casual feeling wedding that mixes the beautiful, sprawling outdoors near to a covered building or tent is very appealing to us. [more inside]
posted by rbf1138 at 6:57 PM PST - 8 comments

“Get yourself together, man. Move to X, buy a loft…”

New York City has us feeling like a New Yorker cover. Where should we relocate? [more inside]
posted by Spiced Out Calvin Coolidge at 6:51 PM PST - 42 comments

How to get my prescription filled through an internet pharmacy legally?

I got a prescription from my doctor for the generic of xanax. Kroger and walgreens rip me off, and I heard a lot of the online pharmacies are cheaper. How do I go about finding a reputable one to give me the generic, at a good price? (I'm in Ohio USA, and I'm willing to wait for it to be shipped) Thank you.
posted by lijiaxiaoniu at 6:30 PM PST - 21 comments

Genealogy-specific digitalization services?

How can I help my dad digitize his extensive collection of genealogical documentation? [more inside]
posted by Riki tiki at 6:08 PM PST - 1 comment

Help diagnosing a sudden, sharp abdominal pain from injury?

A middle-aged female neighbor, Rachel, fell down a long flight of carpeted stairs yesterday while sleepwalking. She seems okay and says she's very fortunate as she hit everything several times including her head. They made the decision not to go to the hospital and we neighbors did our best to help. Today she's doing very well but we wonder from her description of a sharp pain upon landing whether she might have a fractured rib. I've already read this post about rib fracture. [more inside]
posted by R2WeTwo at 6:07 PM PST - 7 comments

What is this book that a mad monk recommended?

Reading The Count of Monte Cristo. Spoilers: [more inside]
posted by johngoren at 5:53 PM PST - 4 comments

Attention Austin and Phoenix! I want to eat your tacos!

I am traveling for work to Austin and Phoenix next week and am looking for food, tea, and zines. [more inside]
posted by bile and syntax at 4:17 PM PST - 10 comments

Visiting China for the first time

Ni hao! I will be visiting China for the first time this December. Please share your advice and anecdotes! [more inside]
posted by smorgasbord at 4:06 PM PST - 12 comments

The Drugs Don't Work - Sanitorium in the UK

Does anyone have any recommendations or knowledge of convalescent homes in the UK? My brother has just undergone some seriously brutal radiotherapy and cancer treatment for throat cancer. He's been out of the hospital for a few weeks and is now at my parents, but it looks like it could be a very slow road to recovery. He currently can't eat or drink, is very nauseous, at risk of dehydration all the time. [more inside]
posted by stevedawg at 3:16 PM PST - 6 comments

Discussed money with a client, now they're not responding.

Fellow sons and daughters of MeFiDom! I have taken your advice (that is, the extract from the collective juice from all your advice) and I was direct in the way I discussed money with my client. As a reminder, this is my previous post. Alas.. they didn't respond, so I figured my price was too high. Problem is, it's a project I really like. What now?
posted by cyrusw8 at 3:14 PM PST - 24 comments

Austrian Florafilter: help my friend ID this plant?

Can you name this lovely flower/plant? [more inside]
posted by hungrybruno at 2:41 PM PST - 3 comments

Advice for a 25 year old feeling lost?

I'm not sure how to ask this question. I've been in a weird funk lately where I've been feeling lonely and frustrated due to many factors. I guess I am just having a quarter life crisis in that I am 25 and feel a little lost professionally and personally. [more inside]
posted by pando11 at 2:41 PM PST - 10 comments

Overleased

A friend thought his lease ended August 1st, but he just got a call from his landlord saying that it ended two days ago. They don't have anyone slated to move in for two weeks, but say that they need that time to have the apartment professionally cleaned. What are the best steps for him to take? What rights does he have legally? We are in North Carolina. [more inside]
posted by matkline at 2:40 PM PST - 16 comments

Appraising old Jewish/Hebrew/Yiddish books/s'forim in the New York area

I'm seeking someone in the New York area (a collector? a store? an auction house?) who can appraise old books in Hebrew and/or Yiddish. Where might I find someone honest who can do this? [more inside]
posted by taltalim at 2:22 PM PST - 8 comments

V-shaped bruisey mark - cause for concern?

I have a v-shaped bluish-purple mark on the back of my neck, about 1" large. Is this cause for concern? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 2:08 PM PST - 9 comments

Please recommend me a book on the basics of how computers work

So... I've been in book shops and the like and all the books they have are just on Windows 8 or perhaps a book in Linux if they're feeling adventurous, but I'm looking for a book that will tell me how computers actually work. I'm not very advanced with my computer knowledge, but I'd like to know about the foundation of how a computer works rather than the operating system or latest piece of software. Hopefully that gives enough information to get a grasp of what I mean. Can I get some recommendations for books like this please.
posted by sockpim at 2:07 PM PST - 17 comments

Migrating to Office 365 using Outlook?

I'm considering moving our small business to Office 365 Small Business Premium primarily because its email and sharing capabilities kick ass. Our current email provider runs Exchange (we mostly use Outlook Web App). Is using Outlook the easiest way to migrate email and contacts to Office 365 SBP? [more inside]
posted by Foci for Analysis at 1:51 PM PST - 6 comments

please predict how my car will behave on the next roadtrip

My car has an electrical short that's made the fan blower stop working. Can I still take it on a weeklong 6-hour roadtrip? [more inside]
posted by headnsouth at 12:09 PM PST - 9 comments

How do I know if a company is incompetent or just informal?

What should someone coming from outside the tech sector know about HR practices in dotcoms or companies of that ilk? (Specific questions about communication.) [more inside]
posted by psoas at 11:48 AM PST - 27 comments

Refurbished macbook pro age, does it matter?

Would there be a big difference between a 2012 refurbished macbook pro, and 2013 refurbished macbook pro? [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 11:46 AM PST - 9 comments

Clueless about Craigslist

Is this response to my Craigslist ad weird/a scam? [more inside]
posted by brittanyq at 11:41 AM PST - 17 comments

Help me get a Microsoft DB certification

I want to get a Microsoft Database certification so I can become a database developer (I know some basic SQL using Postgres but I'd like to know more and get a certification). What's the best way to do this using a book instead of taking a class? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 11:32 AM PST - 3 comments

Portland, ME internet service provider that we can live with?

Me, the husband and Supercoolbaby are heading south to live in Portland! We've had TimeWarner and Comcast and do hate them so. So what Internet providers do people recommend for price and decent service in Portland, Maine? If possible we'd like to avoid the big horrible companies. We're an internet TV-only household so no TV or phone service required. Thanks!
posted by supercoollady at 11:18 AM PST - 4 comments

Traveling to Vancouver. Pre-paid mobile data plans?

I'll be in Vancouver and the surrounding area next week. What's the best way for me to get data on my cellphone? Something like a prepaid mobile SIM card tied to a data plan. Just relying on wifi isn't an option as half of the time I won't be in the city. [more inside]
posted by destrius at 10:27 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me understand the oddities of my metabolism and weight loss!

So, I been on a diet since the beginning of May (intermittent fasting - basically 4:3). Since that time, I've lost just under 10 pounds, which averages out to almost a pound a week. However the rate of weight loss has not been steady (I lost significant weight some weeks, and none others). Nor have I uniformly lost the weight off of my whole body (it has mostly come off my waist, when I was already hourglass shaped prior to beginning the diet). Why is this? (If relevant, I am a medium-sized woman in my late 20s.) [more inside]
posted by ClaireBear at 9:37 AM PST - 14 comments

You can't be friends with your abuser.

Help me accept that I can't be friends with my ex-boyfriend. The relationship was abusive but we've had to maintain contact while we disentangled our lives and I got on my feet. Now that time is over and I have to move on. I am finding it very hard. How can I start moving on towards my future? [more inside]
posted by misspony at 9:20 AM PST - 19 comments

Harper's Recommendations

I was recently gifted a subscription to Harper's, and just discovered that I have access to their online archive - can any longtime subscribers or those familiar with Harper's recommend top articles/essays/stories throughout Harper's history?
posted by stinkfoot at 9:07 AM PST - 14 comments

A bouquet of cauliflowers?

I seem to have loads of brassica plants (cauliflower?) cropping up in my flowerbeds. I've sprinkled various mixed flower seed but no veg! They maybe are from previous tenants? (My first summer in this house). They are taking over but I'm reluctant to pull them up in case they are actually from my flower seeds! Gardeners of MeFi, can these be anything else or do you think they are definitely veg?
posted by KateViolet at 9:00 AM PST - 9 comments

Nerdy grammar shirt on short notice

I'm looking for a t-shirt with the phrase: "Let's eat Grandma / Let's eat, Grandma / Punctuation saves lives!" I've found several online, but the difficulty is that I'd like to have one before we visit the Grandma in question for her birthday in a couple of days. We'll be driving, and traveling through Denver and Colorado Springs. Does anyone know of a place there where I could find this t-shirt?
posted by greenmagnet at 8:17 AM PST - 8 comments

Language for dates

Help settle this bet/communication issue. Pretend it's this past Monday, July 14th. You and several friends get an email about another friend's upcoming birthday party. The note says the party is next Saturday. Do you think the party is Saturday the 19th or Saturday the 26th?
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 7:46 AM PST - 44 comments

Saying no to a plumber

My wife and I had a plumber come in to snake the drain in our master bathroom, and he discovered the pipe curves in a way his snake couldn't go. The clogged drain is ultimately due to the galvanized pipes in our 1925 home. What's the best way to tell this company that we're going to go with a different company? [more inside]
posted by emelenjr at 7:23 AM PST - 7 comments

My professor shares his cultural opinions with the class.

Today my science professor shared his opinion about stereotypes and criminal activity in class. I think this was inappropriate and I'm not sure what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:05 AM PST - 36 comments

What's a good Community Calendar option?

Hey, so I know this is the typical question where everyone says "Check Google" but I am having trouble finding a good shared calendar for a group of homeschoolers... [more inside]
posted by BigBrownBear at 6:54 AM PST - 1 comment

Meal delivery service for grieving family

One of my co-workers has lost both parents within 3 months of each other. We are not super super close, and so far she hasn't accepted my offers of specific, practical things I can do to help (watching her kids, going to grocery store. etc.). I'd like to make her life a little easier anyway, so I was thinking about some kind of meal delivery service so she wouldn't need to cook for a little bit. [more inside]
posted by feathermeat at 6:52 AM PST - 25 comments

Mushroom Soup Masterpiece

Help me make an epic home made cream of mushroom soup. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 6:51 AM PST - 13 comments

Tiny Dog Life

I adopted a 6 lb chihuahua from a rescue organization about two weeks ago. How can I celebrate living with with this ridiculous, tiny creature? [more inside]
posted by skrozidile at 6:44 AM PST - 21 comments

New job, new office, new culture

I need help figuring out what is okay to do at my new job. I just started a new job and I'm confused on what I'm supposed to be doing regarding my lunch breaks. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:30 AM PST - 24 comments

"Reboot" an inherited composter?

The prior owners of our house--and in all likelihood, the owners before them--had a composter. When we bought our house, the composter was about half full with matter. Is it necessary to "reboot" the composter to begin using it, or should we just start with what's in there? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 6:27 AM PST - 5 comments

Make our garden ... not die?

When we rented our current flat, it came with a front garden that we are supposed to take at least minimal care of -- weeding and pruning, that kind of thing. The problem is, we haven't the faintest idea how to weed or prune or ... anything else. Help! [more inside]
posted by kyrademon at 6:18 AM PST - 6 comments

Creating a Great Art Gallery Archive in a Mediocre CMS

I am looking for a good solution for publicly archiving a large collection of pictures within a somewhat limiting CMS. [more inside]
posted by coreywilliam at 5:46 AM PST - 3 comments

Why do I feel feverish after sleepless night?

Whenever I haven't slept very well (i.e. very much), I spend the next day feeling somewhat feverish. [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 12:39 AM PST - 13 comments

July 14

Is it possible to fix self-esteem issues from within a relationship?

A common theme on AskMeFi is that a person should be able to take care of themselves first before they can be ready to establish and maintain a healthy relationship. What if the relationship itself is the driver of positive personal growth? And what if that process has been kind of painful so far? [more inside]
posted by sockitysock at 11:38 PM PST - 17 comments

Tattoos as Women's Self-Defense in Colonial India

I met someone today who explained that their tattoo was based on a style adopted by Indian women during British Occupation which served as a way of turning off British men who might otherwise want to take them away for various unsavory purposes. The women would in some cases get these tattoos on their necks and faces. Although the person told me the Indian term for this particular style of tattooing I failed to write it down, and now cannot seem to google up this phenomenon. Was hoping someone knew about it, what it's called, or could provide some links to more information.
posted by cthuljew at 10:38 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me find perspective, is my relationship half-full or half-empty?

I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 3 years now, but it seems like we can't seem to find a good "groove". We're satisfied in the relationship for a while and then we get into petty fights and don't resolve them. I thought I was happy with him and really enjoyed his company. However, it's been more and more stressful and I need help figuring out if I've checked out for a while, or if the relationship has run its course. Hope me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:30 PM PST - 17 comments

What are these apple-like fruits?

Walking down the street, I saw some hard green fruits that looked a lot like apples---hot damn, thought I, underripe apples (or crabapples), just the thing for jelly. But now I'm not so sure that's what they are. [more inside]
posted by kenko at 9:15 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me come up with the perfect job title!

I work at a fast-paced, startup non-profit. I have been there for six months and have quickly moved up the ranks from administrative assistant to director of community engagement. This is great news, except that I don't want to accidentally be a community engagement person for my entire career. There are a few significant changes happening in the next two months (new CEO, new grant, new responsibilities), and I want to take advantage of this opportunity to broaden my skill set and give myself a new title. Help me figure out what my new title should be and how I should ask for it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:54 PM PST - 11 comments

Self Guided Walking Tours in San Francisco

Me and my wife are planning a San Francisco trip and are dedicating a day to Golden Gate Park and the Presidio. I am interested in self guided walking tours for these two areas. I'm looking for something like this from Frommers: but for the areas that I mentioned. [more inside]
posted by R.F.Simpson at 7:14 PM PST - 11 comments

How to decline a date

How can I politely and professionally decline someone from the office who asked me out? [more inside]
posted by mibo at 7:09 PM PST - 35 comments

I crit failed my web design roll.

Can anyone provide pointers for setting up a robust digital image archive on the cheap? [more inside]
posted by ursus_comiter at 6:53 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I do website documentation and maintenance tracking

I need a systematic way to track and show that sites are up to date, links checked, content updated or deleted. [more inside]
posted by b33j at 6:49 PM PST - 3 comments

Bug bite or something else?

YANMD, but I noticed right after dinner (around 7pm) that I had a small grouping of blisters on my hand. On the way out of the restaurant, I then noticed that the muscles under the blisters are twitching, causing my thumb to move slightly. Is this a bug bite or something else? [more inside]
posted by Debaser626 at 6:34 PM PST - 13 comments

Where can I order a personalized metal plaque?

I want to get a personalized plaque, pewter or some other metal, for outside. It will attach to a fence at all four corners so needs holes in the corners. It will have 4 lines of text. I need letters (some lowercase and some uppercase), numbers, quote marks, and a dash, and the longest line including spaces will be about 30 or 32 characters. [more inside]
posted by AllieTessKipp at 6:05 PM PST - 10 comments

Do I have to buy a fancy custom replacement window?

Window experts of metafilter- is there any chance this is a standard shaped window? [more inside]
posted by slateyness at 6:01 PM PST - 6 comments

Fill the shoe void in my life

Criteria: comfortable, versatile, water resistant women's shoes for the summer. [more inside]
posted by fox problems at 5:08 PM PST - 11 comments

Good place to get super-8mm home movies put on DVDs in NYC?

Lots of home movies, some are super-8, some are tapes, some are mini-DV tapes, etc. I'd like to get them put on DVDs that I can then easily edit. I'm in Manhattan, NYC. thanks (oh a long time ago there was another question like this and somebody suggested a mail-order place, but I don't feel comfortable sending off my precious home movies from the 1950s etc. away)
posted by DMelanogaster at 5:03 PM PST - 6 comments

Cuenca, Riobamba, & Ambato, Ecuador

Can you compare/contrast the towns of Cuenca, Riobamba, & Ambato, Ecuador for me, from personal experience? [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 4:51 PM PST - 3 comments

Protective Treatment for Decorated Shoes

My daughter has decorated some white leather clogs with designs done with colored Sharpie pens. What sort of clear treatment can she put on the shoes that will protect the designs?
posted by Jackson at 4:38 PM PST - 6 comments

Searching for Remote Trading Posts that are still Active.

Does anyone know of any remote, off the grid (USA or Canada) trading post(s) that are still operational?
posted by mm-ut at 4:35 PM PST - 10 comments

BDSMfilter: munches, play parties, and social anxiety

How can an shy, inexperienced kinkster approach potential play partners without being too pushy or creepy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:35 PM PST - 5 comments

I should go to the wedding. Or should I?

Two lovely friends of mine are getting married. A number of people I know are also invited, none of whom are close friends. Unfortunately, my terrible, horrible, no-good, very-bad ex - the one who did this to me - is invited too. Help? [more inside]
posted by sevensnowflakes at 3:43 PM PST - 35 comments

Help me understand Disability benefits (social security)?

I am a late 50's year old woman living in Ohio, with chronic diabetes, stroke, and other ailments. I have been employed for the past 20 years, but it is getting exceedingly difficult to do any work. I want to know if I quality for disability benefits (like a monthly check?) even if I own my own home, and I own some other real estate properties. Who can qualify? What are other things that might disqualify me? Will receiving Disability benefits exclude me from receiving Social Security benefits when I reach the age of 65? Tanks.
posted by anonymous at 3:15 PM PST - 14 comments

Dashboard camera advice needed (not to film insane stuff)

We are driving cross-country and I wanted to record the trip. Basically, I want to take a still image every minute we're driving. Later, I want to stitch it into a time lapse video. I want something that has good image quality, can plug into car cigarette lighter, and has enough memory so a daily download of eight hours of images is enough. I see a lot of dash cams on Amazon, but none of them have enough information to tell me whether the still photo idea will work.
posted by soulbarn at 2:56 PM PST - 12 comments

Cost of Living in Brussels/Strasbourg?

Hi everybody, I'm currently applying for an internship opportunity with a member of the EU Parliament. I'm a university student in the USA and the position would require me to live in Brussels and/or Strasbourg for 3 months. The position provides a stipend of €1200/month and I'm not sure how much that will get me. [more inside]
posted by jdgreen at 2:51 PM PST - 5 comments

Mere *!@#% memory-fail

There is a quote by C.S. Lewis which I can recollect only as I have paraphrased it in my mind, something to the effect of, "Many of the greatest things we do in life scare us to death." I'd love to find the actual quote and book-reference for it; it's probably in one the Chronicles, but my Google-fu and memory are both failing me at the moment.
posted by RockyChrysler at 2:50 PM PST - 4 comments

Housesitter Calamities

My house/catsitter broke things while I was gone for ten days. [more inside]
posted by zenpop at 2:41 PM PST - 44 comments

Driving 17 hours with three cats. Suggestions?

Moving from Austin to Minneapolis in a couple weeks. We're taking our three cats. Two of them are 9 and 10, the other is about 2. One of the cats travels well, one is whiny off and on, and the third is intolerable. Doing the vet thing to get sedatives costs way more than we can afford. What should we do? Any ideas? I was thinking about getting Feliway and catnip to help them chill out.
posted by Modica at 2:12 PM PST - 27 comments

advice for two longish flights with a one year old?

I'm going to be flying alone next month with my baby who will be almost one month old then. She just stopped nursing, and she's very much into crawling, rolling, and standing right now (as I type, she's not yet walking). She doesn't sleep when she's being held; she needs a crib or her carseat for that. There's no direct flight between here and destination city, and we can either divide it up between two 3-hour flights or one five-hour and one one-hour. I'm not a good flyer when I'm responsible only for myself, so I'm positively daunted by traveling alone with my daughter. I would appreciate any advice you could give me. [more inside]
posted by pittsburgher at 1:34 PM PST - 14 comments

Book recommendation: a good historical overview of the US in the 1980s?

I am seeking recommendations for (reputable/peer-reviewed) essays or books that could help me develop a nuanced but well-rounded understanding of the social, political, and economic climate in 1980s America (economic deregulation is a particular point of interest). [more inside]
posted by coastisclear at 1:28 PM PST - 8 comments

Help a young male create his capsule wardrobe!

What are the basic essentials for a young man's wardrobe? What's the best approach to building a versatile, comfortable, and stream-lined wardrobe from scratch? [more inside]
posted by fignewton at 12:41 PM PST - 11 comments

CDs or vinyl?

I have a CD player, an iPod, and a record player. What kind of physical media should I buy? [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 12:39 PM PST - 19 comments

Please help me resolve a .avi codec conversion problem on mac

I have downloaded a few .avi files from my security camera DVR. They are of window codec.avi files that my mac can not view. Is there a way, using my mac to convert them to a mac viewable codec?
posted by citybuddha at 12:14 PM PST - 11 comments

Visual Memory & Auditory Memory

I was curious as to how many visual thinkers there out there? If there are any who are willing to share their information on this post, I am curious as to whether you have always been a visual thinker or whether this was something you developed? Visual thinking seems to be one of the better ways to process information. [more inside]
posted by nidora at 12:05 PM PST - 7 comments

Where can I get immunizations in the Berkshires?

Asking for Mrs. Heliostatic: In preparation for grad school, I need to prove that I've had the MMR and meningitis vaccines. I need to get them in the next month, and I'm in the Berkshires (North West Massachusetts) for the summer. I have no primary care provider here. What are the best bets for inexpensive vaccination right now?
posted by heliostatic at 11:53 AM PST - 5 comments

I need clean crisp percussive songs.

I need more songs like Cups that has really clean crisp percussive sounds with not much reverb. [more inside]
posted by Uncle at 11:38 AM PST - 9 comments

Car safety ratings, other than crash tests?

It's time to shop for a replacement car, and I'm interested in sizing up safety. I'm aware of IIHS for crash safety stats. I'd like to evaluate from other angles, especially safety stats from actual accident reports, but possibly other points of view I haven't though of. [more inside]
posted by mattu at 11:36 AM PST - 13 comments

I'm sorry, I can't help you.

Lawyers: how do you decline helping out your friends? [more inside]
posted by naju at 11:34 AM PST - 21 comments

we want stories to spoil

My honors student is planning out her thesis and is looking for enjoyable short stories (that are in the public domain, preferably) that end in a twist. Details (and a few spoilers!) inside. [more inside]
posted by anaphoric at 11:30 AM PST - 21 comments

I need help selecting the right stand alone sample player for my band

Hi, looking to add relatively long, mostly spoken-word samples to our bands' music. It needs to be a stand alone player--I want to not have to lug a laptop to wherever we play. [more inside]
posted by Ironmouth at 11:03 AM PST - 10 comments

tipping on a fixed price fare

Currently in LA. Negotiated with a driver the hotel recommended to drive us around this morning for a couple of hours for 250 dollars. Do we tip on top of that? If so, 20 percent or less? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 11:01 AM PST - 10 comments

TdF-filter: What's the deal with that AG2R motorcycle?

I've been watching the Tour de France (thinking of starting a Phil Liggett drinking game, with phrases like "dancing on the pedals" and of course "lactic acid". Anyway, among the bunches of cars and motorcycles in various roles I've noticed one with the AG2R logo on the fairing. As they are also a team sponsor, that got my attention, but I can't figure out what that motorcycle is doing. No passenger, just a pilot on the motorbike, and no obvious role like medical, law enforcement, support*, or cameras. [more inside]
posted by randomkeystrike at 10:49 AM PST - 9 comments

Chicago transit help needed

Chicagolanders: Please help me navigate your fair city during rush hour today. [more inside]
posted by donajo at 10:34 AM PST - 15 comments

Lunch Salad Spreadsheet Project

I'm trying to eat/pack easy, healthy lunches, but I've accepted that I will never be a green salad for lunch every day person. What I do like are "salads" that are variations of: grain + protein + fruit or veg + nuts or cheese + other. My dream is to create a spreadsheet where I could take an easily-prepared item from each column to construct such a salad, and make a big batch on Sundays that would last me the week. I'd rather just throw ingredients together than follow an exact recipe. [more inside]
posted by nakedmolerats at 10:21 AM PST - 18 comments

Hyde park horror stories: irrelevant here?

Seriously considering this particular apartment at UChicago, but I can't visit and I don't know the area! Anyone with experience there, please let me know if it's a good/safe location? [more inside]
posted by you're a kitty! at 10:19 AM PST - 17 comments

Is there a correlation between bl pr/puls rt and cardio exercise?

Had a good cardio exercise routine for four years. Blood pressure and pulse rate were healthy and constant. Stop the cardio routine and change to power lifting with occasional walking. Two years into the new (cardio free) exercise routine, blood pressure and pulse are the same. Health is good, diet constant, stress constant...all variables the same over the six year period.
posted by larry_darrell at 10:18 AM PST - 1 comment

Session timeout issues with Zencart

Random session timeout errors occurring on Zencart 1.5.1 & 1.5.3 installations. Host is Dreamhost - PHP 5.4.11. Version 1.5.1 site was working fine before upgrade from PHP 5.2 to 5.4. I need advise on getting the error fixed. [more inside]
posted by moosedogtoo at 10:15 AM PST - 2 comments

Pregnant with first child, during a chaotic and stressful time

Due to an incredible amount of life changes (including marraige, move, new job and death of a parent) I have barely been able to do all the things you are supposed to do when you are pregnant with your first child. Due date is a little over am month away. On top of that I have gained too much weight and feel very uncomfortable, especially at work. My questions range from how do I make the next six weaks bearable (especially at my desk job) given I've outgrown my maternity clothes and feel really uncomfortable physically, to what are the top three things I must learn and/or have before baby arrives? [more inside]
posted by SanSebastien at 9:46 AM PST - 52 comments

What's the deal with flat feet / fallen arches?

My son, who turns twelve in a couple of months, seems to have flat feet. I can't quite figure out what to do next - if it is a serious problem, if it can be corrected with foot exercises, if we need orthotics, or what. Does anyone have any experience with flat feet? [more inside]
posted by KokuRyu at 9:45 AM PST - 28 comments

Better than facebook games

What are some cheaper but equally fun options instead of facebook games? [more inside]
posted by xarnop at 9:38 AM PST - 23 comments

swimmer's ear audio filter?

What audio filters and/or effects would best simulate the unpleasant stuffy sound of having water in your ears? I'm more interested in the impression of stuffy ears than a technically accurate simulation of what's going on in the ear canal.
posted by moonmilk at 9:30 AM PST - 8 comments

Classical music recommendations for a listener of free jazz?

I listen to a very wide variety of music, but one giant gap in my knowledge is classical music. I'm looking for recommendations for classical music to check out (either specific albums, works, or composers). To narrow it down a bit, how about something from any era that would be of interest to someone with an appreciation for avant-garde/free jazz from the 60s (think Coleman, later Coltrane, Shepp, Taylor... heck, even Brotzmann)? And preferably music that's available on streaming services.
posted by laze at 9:18 AM PST - 11 comments

Marriage is in the cards for us, but we want to elope! How do we do it?

We want to elope. How do we do it? What does it cost? What things do I need to think about? Ideally, I would love to have a target cost to shoot for. [more inside]
posted by MMALR at 9:14 AM PST - 20 comments

What is up with my sister's tongue?

I went to see my sister last night and she is doing this strange thing with her tongue -- she keeps sticking it out, seemingly unaware she is doing so. She has a host of medical issues and seems to be caught in an anxiety spiral at the moment about one health issue in particular. Could this tongue thing be a legit side effect of her existing health issues or a manifestation of her anxiety? [more inside]
posted by megancita at 8:56 AM PST - 13 comments

If This Then That

I finally installed IFTTT but I feel like I'm not getting as much out of it as I could. [more inside]
posted by ellieBOA at 8:49 AM PST - 13 comments

Visually categorizing people by race/ethnicity and body shape?

I'm tagging a collection of photos of people for artistic inspiration as I learn to draw and I need some guidance on selecting tag names that are both useful and inoffensive. [more inside]
posted by Jacqueline at 8:36 AM PST - 13 comments

Help identifying this small animal skull.

This skull was found in a wooded area of central Pennsylvania. It is about the size of a fist. [more inside]
posted by Mikey51 at 8:25 AM PST - 9 comments

What to do in Dallas for a weekend?

Please share some cool things to do there by myself during the day! [more inside]
posted by Shadow Boxer at 8:09 AM PST - 6 comments

Elbow injury... advice and healing procedure suggestions please

I injured my elbow or forearm while bouldering (climbing at relatively short heights without a rope). I have never had an elbow or arm injury and need some advice on a) what I may have done and b) how to manage it while it heals. Main points: I have gone to a doctor, x-rays were taken, as expected the arm is not broken, nothing further was done at the doc's office. I think it was a purely rotational injury, not compressional. Plenty more details under the cut. [more inside]
posted by six-or-six-thirty at 8:05 AM PST - 9 comments

I'd like to convert a car to cash with minimal hassle.

I have a car I don't use that much, and a looming home repair that needs some money thrown at it. I'd like to convert the car to cash to be thrown at the home repair. But, in the face of the home repair vortex, I'd like to avoid getting bogged down in car-sale hassles. Is it a giant hassle to sell the car privately, or am I best off selling straight to a dealership? [more inside]
posted by COBRA! at 8:00 AM PST - 10 comments

How do I negotiate my lease terms?

I've found a sufficient space to rent so I don't end up with a two hour commute each day. However, the terms of the lease are kinda iffy when it comes to vacating the lease early... Help me out? [more inside]
posted by Driven at 7:23 AM PST - 21 comments

I don't want to meet my wife on Tinder

I'm inept at dating in the real world. Help me learn how to take a girl from acquaintance to date and face the uncertainty in between. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:06 AM PST - 21 comments

What's a breast biopsy like? What medical language is involved?

I will be interpreting at a breast biopsy procedure and want to prepare ahead of time, so I'd like to compile a list of vocabulary as well as have a general idea of what happens during the procedure. [more inside]
posted by bearette at 7:03 AM PST - 7 comments

Recommend me a Stretching/Yoga App for iOS

I'm looking for an equivalent to the You Are Your Own Gym body weight exercises app. I've been using the app for a couple of months now and I really like it - the exercises are explained in good detail and there is a good progression from very easy to challenging. There seem to be loads of apps available but I'm not sure which ones are any good. Which have you found useful?
posted by jobby at 6:22 AM PST - 4 comments

Parking by the Philly US Custom House

I need to go to the Philadelphia Passport Agency on Friday morning. The state dept website assures me there are several pay parking lots in the vicinity. But I'd prefer more concrete directions, as I'm driving in from 3 hrs away for an 8am appointment. Can anyone give me recommendations and addresses of lots or garages that are very likely to be open that are nearby? Where I can park all day? The address is 200 Chestnut St. [more inside]
posted by bluefly at 6:01 AM PST - 5 comments

Edge of tomorrow - Yoga pose.

Is the yoga pose shown in Edge of tomorrow possible? [more inside]
posted by yoyo_nyc at 5:37 AM PST - 27 comments

Replacement for Facebook Events

Whenever I log into Facebook, I end up checking the newsfeed. Is there an app that allows my to view the events I've been invited to and RSVP without logging into Facebook? If it isn't a web app, it needs to work on either Mac or Android.
posted by casebash at 5:22 AM PST - 7 comments

Tips for Relocating Back to Sydney

My wife and I left Sydney 3 years ago as newlyweds, and we will soon be returning with 2 young children (currently 2 years and 1 month old). When we left we had family and friends there, now they have all pretty much departed. I'm looking for any relocation tips in general, but in particular around temporary accommodation for when we arrive, buying a house worth of furniture, transport and other logistical things. [more inside]
posted by Admira at 12:56 AM PST - 8 comments

July 13

Thoughtful sci-fi recommendations

Looking for recommendations of sci-fi authors who are adept at some technology topics without compromising storytelling. More inside! [more inside]
posted by azazello at 11:50 PM PST - 24 comments

Amazon Prime Gourmet finds?

Help me find some really great gourmet foods that are available through Amazon Prime.
posted by dougiedd at 11:43 PM PST - 15 comments

Ikea Smallening

I have a new, unassembled red 2x4 Kallax. I want it to be 2x3. Could a lumberyard easily cut down the two long-pieces? [more inside]
posted by kalapierson at 11:36 PM PST - 8 comments

What are some good romantic getaways within ~5 hours of Seattle?

We're looking for ideas of where to go and what to do for a romantic weekend leaving from Seattle. We'd be going just two weeks from now (July 25–27), so really popular places are likely booked up already. [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 9:23 PM PST - 14 comments

Can I eat this: Miso Paste edition

We have a container of this Miso paste at the back of our fridge, but it's straight shiro rather than shiro + aka. The ingredients are water, soybeans, rice, salt - 2% alcohol by volume. It looks fine and smells great, and the texture seems normal, maybe a little dried out. There's a "best before" date of 30 June 2013, but no "expiry" date. Is there any reason I shouldn't use this to baste roasted vegetables? [more inside]
posted by jrobin276 at 9:14 PM PST - 14 comments

One good, print, architecture journal or magazine.

What is your favorite print architecture magazine or journal? One that is more intellectual/in-depth and wordy, instead of a being full of glossy images or ads. [more inside]
posted by wym at 8:55 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I keep my fear of losing a job at bay?

How do I keep my fear of losing a job from interfering with other areas of life? as much as possible [more inside]
posted by ichomp at 8:45 PM PST - 10 comments

What are some guidelines for haggling at a used car dealership?

Tomorrow I begin my very first tour of local used car dealerships, ISO a reasonably-priced Suburu wagon. I've bought and sold several vehicles via Craigslist, and done my share of haggling and getting haggled (haggled at? behaggled?), but only with individuals, not corporations. Do the same rules of etiquette apply? [more inside]
posted by t(h)om(as) at 8:25 PM PST - 25 comments

How to come to terms with huge life decision?

The decision has been made, the pros and cons weighed. For one of the first and only times in my life I followed my gut. Why does it still feel yucky? [more inside]
posted by wannabecounselor at 8:20 PM PST - 7 comments

Winter Is Being GRRM's Editor

I'm about halfway through reading the first Game of Thrones book, and I'm looking for some literary criticism or in-depth articles about the series' writing (books only). [more inside]
posted by Red Desk at 7:18 PM PST - 5 comments

Hairfilter - Young woman with no clue needs hairstyle!

I'm getting my haircut. I don't want to say "just trim it and leave it the way it is". I also do no not know what I want, and I have some anxieties that I want to try and ignore. Can you help me? [more inside]
posted by trogdole at 7:12 PM PST - 18 comments

Needed: Serious GMail Search-Fu

Is there a way to query gmail to give me a list of every unique "TO:" address that exists in my All Mail folder? [more inside]
posted by coffee and minarets at 7:02 PM PST - 9 comments

Assigned seating at the World Cup

For a given game in the World Cup elimination rounds, spectators have to buy their tickets, and presumably have a seat assigned, before they know which teams will be playing. It seems like this would result in the stadium having fans of various loyalties more or less randomly scattered about. But on TV, they often show blocks of fans of one team seated together. How do they assign seats to World Cup ticketholders to ensure that fans are seated together? I have some guesses but I'd love to hear from someone who knows what method(s) FIFA actually uses.
posted by Paul the Octopus at 6:19 PM PST - 5 comments

Brain Transplant

Can I take the harddrive out of my white unibody 13.3 Macbook and just pop it in another 13.3 white unibody? >> [more inside]
posted by tippy at 6:10 PM PST - 9 comments

Weary travellers seek entertainment!

Seven hours to kill in Los Angeles - how to occupy our time? Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by liquorice at 6:04 PM PST - 18 comments

Can these pants be saved?

Mysterious bleached spots on my favorite pair of pants: can anything be done? [more inside]
posted by zeri at 5:55 PM PST - 9 comments

Thoughts/Analysis on "The Sun Also Rises"

Soliciting thoughts and links to articles about "The Sun Also Rises", primarily explaining how it was received at the time. [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 5:54 PM PST - 3 comments

Suggest me some simple guitar + voice songs.

My wife is learning guitar and would like to have a repertoire of songs to practice which have simple guitar plus female voice. [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 5:15 PM PST - 18 comments

From Church to State to Corporation

I suspect this is a huge question with more than one answer, but… It has been decades since I read a book (article?) that laid out a theory of (let’s call them) epochs in civilization where the predominant force governing people’s lives were/are church, then state, then corporations. [more inside]
posted by Short Attention Sp at 4:28 PM PST - 7 comments

Indie Girls, Indie Boys, Indie Everyone

Are there versions of this book teaching kids to run a play/gallery/poetry slam/etc that are (a) non-gendered (b) geared towards adults? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 4:20 PM PST - 0 comments

When MSNBC was Good

I'm trying to remember a show that was on during the very early days of MSNBC. [more inside]
posted by Fairchild at 4:16 PM PST - 2 comments

Handling an irresponsible friend

Things have come to a head with a friend, and I want to figure out if I'm right in wanting to cut and run, or if there is something else I should instead be doing. While the friend has her virtues (she's kind, a social butterfly, fun to hang out with), I've come to the conclusion that she is also very irresponsible, and my experiences dealing with this irresponsibility have become a point of stress and frustration in my life. [more inside]
posted by Sakura3210 at 4:10 PM PST - 23 comments

Photoslider script?

I'm looking for a photoslider script that let's you manually slide between two overlaid images, for the purpose of displaying the differences between said images. Anything similar to the slider being used in this buzzfeed article. [more inside]
posted by phaedon at 3:47 PM PST - 2 comments

Cold-Brewed Tisanes: Boricha and Beyond

So this summer I have been loving the ease of cold-brewed, noncaffeinated herbal beverages, mixing up blends of hibiscus, rose petals, rooibos, mint, and other odds and ends. I'd like to expand my formulary by learning which herbals cold-brew well, and how they'd differ from hot-brew. [more inside]
posted by jackbishop at 2:58 PM PST - 2 comments

Ripped DVDs are giving me a headache

Ripped DVDs look juddery. I converted them to mp4 and smooth pans of the camera seem to "stick" multiple times a second. Is this a mismatch between the mp4 fps and the tv's? If so, how can I fix it? [more inside]
posted by It's Never Lurgi at 2:34 PM PST - 8 comments

Athletic bottoms that stay put

I am a chubby woman who likes to jog and dance. Where can I get athletic pants/shorts that stay up when I move? [more inside]
posted by Guess What at 1:42 PM PST - 18 comments

Music to not concentrate to

I need music to fill up the background while I write. I'm currently working on a novel and I'm looking for recommendations of artists, albums, or online radio I could have going in my headphones to help me focus on the work. [more inside]
posted by billybunny at 1:25 PM PST - 37 comments

How to remap a USB number pad on a mac?

Hello! I am an animator and would like to use a USB number pad for keyboard shortcuts for better ergonimcs while animating in Photoshop. Is there a way to remap the numbers on the USB number pad to keyboard shortcuts like Command+Z, etc? This nice post explains how to do it for PCs, but I haven't been able to find how to do it for MacBook Pros. Thank you!
posted by tessmartin at 1:22 PM PST - 4 comments

Where to stay in Sint Maarten/St. Martin?

I am planning to spend 9 days in Sint Maarten/St. Martin in October. I've read the guidebooks and consulted Google, but I still don't know where to stay. Criteria inside. [more inside]
posted by easy, lucky, free at 12:30 PM PST - 7 comments

Let me share my bad handwriting with the world real-time.

I have a 12" Galaxy Note Pro and it's beautiful and the pen part is great, but I have a few friends who I'm looking at possibly playing D&D online with, and one of the things I'd really like to be able to do is scribble things on the tablet and have them appear at full resolution in something close to real time on the screens of my friends on their computers. But I have no idea if this is possible or what it'd be called if it is. [more inside]
posted by Sequence at 12:17 PM PST - 10 comments

Current Comedic Curators of Kitsch

In the 80s, we saw the rise of Pee-Wee, Weird Al, and Julie Brown. In the 90s we had Space Ghost: Coast to Coast and TV Funhouse. In the aughts we were introduced to Tim and Eric, Everything is Terrible! and Wonder Showzen. All have plundered to our kitsch-laden past to create some great modern comedy and commentary, and many of the above are still going strong today. The question: who are our latest purveyors of kitsch, creating comedy from the detritus of the past?
posted by eschatfische at 11:50 AM PST - 8 comments

Preparing to pay taxes as a freelancer

I’ve just started freelancing as a copywriter and have some questions about preparing to pay taxes, and what I can claim as expenses. [more inside]
posted by cosmic osmo at 11:35 AM PST - 16 comments

Bunny, plus one?

Should I get a bunny friend for my senior citizen bunny who has lived alone his entire life? [more inside]
posted by rabu at 11:35 AM PST - 13 comments

When you're the nth choice...

I had a date with someone I met online. I liked him. But I don't think my interest is reciprocal. [more inside]
posted by dean_deen at 11:30 AM PST - 21 comments

Name that late-'60s programming language or data representation format!

Yesterday I picked up a piece of ceramic bric-à-brac promoting RCA's Electronic Data Processing division (active mid-1950s to 1971). It features ten different ways to represent data or algorithms, of which I recognize many, but not all. Can you name the rest? Bonus: Can you decode the ones with actual data? [more inside]
posted by Lazlo Nibble at 11:00 AM PST - 10 comments

Dogs that lick... a lot

I have two Jack Russell Terriers, both sixish years old, and both with odd licking issues. One licks the exposed skin of people: legs, hands, feet. If you push him away, he will lick the couch. He has done this since he was a puppy, and though I think it's odd and slightly embarrassing when he goes to town on an unwitting friend's shin, it doesn't concern me. Our other dog has started licking his own front legs, above his paws (what his forearm would be if he were a person), so much that they are stained pink. He's done this for a few months now. When I took him to our vet for his yearly checkup, I asked whether she thought it was allergies. She said no, that it could be anxiety or arthritis. She didn't get into much depth (she is new to our vet office, and I don't know that I love her). He walks and runs just fine, so I don't think he is in pain. Does anyone out there have experience with compulsive canine lickers? Do I try to stop them (and if so, how?), or just let them be weird? Or do I change to a new vet who might be a bit more forthcoming?
posted by hippychick at 10:51 AM PST - 11 comments

Resources for extended stay accommodations in major cities of Asia?

Due to a fluid work/living situation I have the freedom to try to make the following dream happen: to live for a month each in several cities of Asia (perhaps Tokyo, Hong Kong, Seoul, Shanghai, Hanoi, Bangkok, Phnom Penh) while working on a personal project. My core question is trying to find out if this is feasible within my budget and to ask for recommendations for accommodations in each city. Details within. [more inside]
posted by bluecore at 9:59 AM PST - 6 comments

Passport lost in london

So, i lost my US passport in england somewhere. For renewing the passport at the embassy, will a copy of my birth certificate do or do i have to have my wife mail over the real one? any other tips for renewing US passports abroad? [more inside]
posted by escher at 7:41 AM PST - 5 comments

Environmental depression

I need help dealing with my anxiety over climate change. I need help figuring out how I can help. It's a bit more complex than that, but not much. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:03 AM PST - 35 comments

Where can I buy a way-old FINAL CUT PRO?

My uncle has given me a big old box of FINAL CUT STUDIO, which is an upgrade from FINAL CUT PRO of the early 2000s. So, how can I now buy FINAL CUT PRO? [more inside]
posted by shipbreaker at 6:52 AM PST - 5 comments

Keys to post-in person interview etiquette?

Last Thursday, I had a job interview for a position that I'm really interested in. I think the interview went really well, but I want to make sure that I bring this baby home, so I'm curious about the best approach for communicating with the search committee post-interview. [more inside]
posted by Fister Roboto at 6:26 AM PST - 11 comments

Swimsuits for (almost) all

I think I've found my perfect swimsuit: the bike shortini from plus-sized swimsuit site Swimsuits for All. Problem: I'm not plus sized. Does anyone know where I could find something similar that's a couple of sizes smaller? [more inside]
posted by ArbitraryAndCapricious at 6:15 AM PST - 14 comments

Thieving, lying landlords

How do I get my belongings back from a thieving police officer and his lying, thieving wife? [more inside]
posted by Amalie-Suzette at 5:35 AM PST - 15 comments

An odd thing: feeling sick when leaving the house

I'm mostly asking out of curiosity to find out what people think: whenever I have to leave home I briefly feel sick to my stomach, as if wanting to puke. But it's definitely not social anxiety. [more inside]
posted by Pyrogenesis at 2:08 AM PST - 15 comments

How do I explain why I quit a job after 3 months?

I left a job after 3 months due to personal reasons and a contractual dispute. How can I explain this to new employers without sounding as though I was fired? [more inside]
posted by switch007 at 1:17 AM PST - 18 comments

Newbie's guide to Peru? Lima + Cusco + possibly Puerto Maldonado

First time to South America and trying to not get anxious about it, says the person with GAD. [more inside]
posted by Hawk V at 12:44 AM PST - 4 comments

July 12

Friendly martial arts in Portland?

What are some martial arts or self defense communities in Portland, OR I might enjoy becoming involved with? [more inside]
posted by thug unicorn at 8:42 PM PST - 2 comments

Moving to Maine Part 2

So we rented the house and have a moving date and now we're looking for recommendations for movers that can get us from far Northern NY to Portland, Maine. I think we'll be better off with movers from Maine coming to get us as where we are currently movers are few and far between. Any recommendations for movers that provide such a service? Thanks!
posted by merocet at 8:31 PM PST - 6 comments

Identify a movie where kids are inside the TV

I have a vague memory of a single bit of a movie I saw in the early 90s (don't know how old the movie was tho). Three kids, on the lip of a giant TV screen. The sky was orange/yellow/green stormy. The movie villain was threatening them, and they either pushed him into TV land, or they themselves jumped into it to escape him. Any guesses?
posted by rebent at 8:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me find resources to train my new dog!

I got a dog! He's a Border Collie/Australian Cattle Dog mix. He's from a rescue, and 1.5yrs old. Help me continue to train him! [more inside]
posted by pilibeen at 6:34 PM PST - 9 comments

Bulk seaweed

Dried seaweed without adding to the Texas sized island of seaweed wrappers in the ocean? [more inside]
posted by ian1977 at 6:19 PM PST - 6 comments

Moving from San Diego to Los Angeles with a Moving Company

It looks like I will be moving to LA in as little as 6-8 weeks. I would like to use a moving company to make this happen as my parents and friends will largely be unavailable at the time I need to go go go. Can you recommend a moving service in San Diego, and can you tell me what I should be aware of from a safety, budget, bargaining, etc standpoint? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger at 5:41 PM PST - 8 comments

Puzzling Mail Carrier Behavior

Can someone familiar with post office procedures tell me if this is a messed-up as I think it is? One day, two independent packages expected that day were, according to the USPS tracking page, scanned as both "Notice Left (No Authorized Recipient Available)" and "Delivered". All four scans had the same timestamp, 2:16 pm on the day they were due. Someone was present at that time, no delivery attempt was in fact made. [more inside]
posted by George_Spiggott at 5:18 PM PST - 16 comments

PA to ME road trip

My girlfriend and I will be taking a road trip from Pittsburgh to Port Clyde, Maine and back to visit my vacationing parents. Where should we stop along the way? [more inside]
posted by Turkey Glue at 5:08 PM PST - 8 comments

Friends, Romans, Healthy People, lend me your experience!

I just started running, and just started using a Total Gym for upper body workouts. Should running cause pain in the medial collateral ligament in your knees? What about in the tibalias anterior? (Not shin splint pain - I know that one well. This is more like a high ankle sprain.) Should lat pulldowns cause pain and stiffness in the side of your neck going down into your shoulder and trapezius? Or crunches cause low back pain? [more inside]
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess at 5:03 PM PST - 6 comments

Verbal Language

What would you say and how would you say it? [more inside]
posted by jellyjam at 4:51 PM PST - 28 comments

How to replace a garden spigot

Our house has a broken garden hose spigot that is missing the handle. I assume (correct me if I'm wrong) it would be easiest to get a new spigot and install that. Is that something I can do or do I need any special tools, aside from an adjustable wrench and plumber's tape? [more inside]
posted by The Toad at 3:58 PM PST - 8 comments

Infant car seat jammed

Our baby's car seat, a Graco Click Connect 30, will not unlock from its base. I know it's a long shot that anyone else might have experience with this, but any suggestions? Preferably ones that don't destroy the seat, base, or seatbelt, but if necessary... [more inside]
posted by Kriesa at 2:43 PM PST - 7 comments

Being worn down by a lifetime of resentment: complication - it's not me

How do you help someone get beyond their resentment of the slights, perceived and actual, against them? [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 2:38 PM PST - 19 comments

Seeking beach for my dog.

We live in the Baltimore/ DC area. We want to take our two dogs on a vacation to the ocean or a lake that is dog friendly. A body of water that has a beach. We want them to play in the water and be able to relax under an umbrella with us. We are not interested in rivers. We are willing to drive around 3 hours for this experience. Any ideas.
posted by Coffee Bean at 1:25 PM PST - 6 comments

Best stops along the Silk Road?

Where in central Asia would you recommend for sightseeing, photography, street life, and general wow factor? [more inside]
posted by Emperor SnooKloze at 12:37 PM PST - 12 comments

What to do about cat semi-killing birds?

A young cat that I took in in in an emergency situation, expecting to be able to rehome her quickly, is turning out to be a skilled bird hunter, which is really stressing me out. The thing is, she doesn't kill them, just seems to incapacitate them so that they can't walk or fly. [more inside]
posted by mmiddle at 12:29 PM PST - 29 comments

How to defuse a stink bomb

I've bought two secondhand items in the past few years that have a strong, nauseating smell, kind of like tobacco multiplied by ten. Both are plastic-based. What is it and how can I remove it? [more inside]
posted by mippy at 12:05 PM PST - 9 comments

Planet of the Apes: Is Doctor Zeius Proved right?

In Planet of the Apes Dr. Zeius is a religious zealot, and his goal is to not have is vision of the world upended. He denies he truth of Taylor and at the end destroys Cornelius' dig site. As he is leading Cornelius and Zira away at the end he says that what he is doing he is doing for the good of all the apes. I used to take this as an act of hypocrisy, but on re-watching it this line is juxtaposed with Taylor's discovery of the Statue of Liberty. It feels to almost be implying that Zeius is right, that progress is not an inherent good. What is the intent of these last few scenes meant to be? [more inside]
posted by ArthurBarnhouse at 11:59 AM PST - 12 comments

Mazda 3 vs. The Rest

I'm about to pull the trigger on a new 2014 compact car. I've done my research and driven almost everything in the segment in the last year as a rental. It's come down to a Mazda 3 i Touring hatchback with the full tech package. Looking for input based on experience. [more inside]
posted by spitbull at 11:32 AM PST - 44 comments

Buying a used European car for $5k or less after a car-less decade: y/n?

Used car filter: after a decade without owning a car, I'd like to get back into the game. I'd prefer to spend $5k or less. I understand this means older cars/higher miles. I find myself drawn to early 2000s VW Golfs/GTIs, late-90s BMW 300 series, '90s Saabs, early '00s Volvos. Are any of these types going to be substantially more reliable or cheaper to maintain than others? [more inside]
posted by toomuchkatherine at 11:05 AM PST - 38 comments

Can you help me find a picture I probably saw on Reddit and/or Imgur?

I saw a picture earlier this year, probably on Reddit and/or Imgur, of two young kids on a carnival ride having the time of their lives. Right behind them were two slightly older kids or teens looking sullen and glued to their phones. The general layout was something like this. Does anyone remember seeing it, or can you help me find it? [more inside]
posted by 2bucksplus at 10:02 AM PST - 2 comments

Clothes to pack for late summer trip to Montreal/Ontario lakehouse?

What stylish but versatile mix and match clothing articles and accessories should I pack for three July nights in Montreal and four nights in a cabin off Lake Beverly in Ontario? How do I keep them looking "fresh" despite heat, humidity, and my own unforgiving sweat? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 9:30 AM PST - 15 comments

Ever been a frat boy? Please help me write my novella!

Hi folks. I'm working on a new eBook, a comedy-fantasy novella about a frat boy who is appalled to find himself transformed overnight into a sexy girl. There's just one problem: I don't know jack about frats! I'm trying to research frat life, but I could really use the experience of somebody who has actually been a frat boy, or at least spent enough time in a frat to have some knowledge about them... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:18 AM PST - 27 comments

Looking for Badminton Set Recommendations

I am in the market for a badminton set to play in the park on nice days. I do not have a yard, so it's important that the set is portable and the net is easy to set up and take down. None of the sporting goods stores in DC seem to carry badminton sets, so definitely looking for something that can be ordered online. [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 8:18 AM PST - 2 comments

Looking for heavyweight grid paper.

Paper Nerds Assemble! I'm looking for heavyweight paper (~100lbs / 150gsm or thicker), either bound or looseleaf, with a smooth finish... that has light grid lines (square or isometric) or a dot grid. [more inside]
posted by D.Billy at 7:54 AM PST - 3 comments

Economics and Magic

Has anyone ever attempted to realistically and fully work out what the economic and/or sociological implications of a world where dungeons and dragons or lord of the ring-style magic exists? For example, how it would impact the feudal system and so on. In any form, essay, fiction or otherwise.
posted by empath at 7:54 AM PST - 25 comments

help me use up all my scrap yarn!!!

help me find patterns or ideas for awesome ways to use up leftover yarn! I'm particularly interested in projects that will combine different weights, fibers, and textures, without looking cheapy and amateur. caveats inside. [more inside]
posted by CookieNose at 7:22 AM PST - 21 comments

Major investment bank for energy A&D activities.

I've been with my company (a major Oil and Gas E&P company) for seven years now, and I've moved domestically three times with them. My major is in Petroleum Engineering with an emphasis on Reservoir Engineering and I'm currently getting my MBA. I am considering getting into investment banking for energy A&D (acquisition and divestiture) advisory activities. What is the career path (I was told I would start at associate level II) and what doors could this open for me? Say I do this for 2-3 years ... what makes sense from a career standpoint next?? I got into my industry to move oversees eventually. Is this an option with an A&D advisory position? Similarly, does this open doors to live places where oil is not, such as NYC or London or Chicago? Any general advice on a position like this? Has anyone made a move like this and are you happy or do you regret this move?
posted by anonymous at 6:58 AM PST - 1 comment

Moving to the Bay Area -- where to live?

My spouse is about to be offered a new job that splits time between Emeryville (most of the time) and Redwood City. Where should we look for a house? Bonus earthquake question. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:57 AM PST - 23 comments

Feasability of importing used Dutch / Danish / German bike to USA

Does anyone have experience with trying to import *used* Dutch bikes (or Danish, or German, etc) into the USA? I've only been able to find *new* bikes for sale, and they tend to cost much more than similarly priced American / Chinese / Taiwanese re-makes (Linus, WorkCycles, Etc). [more inside]
posted by NYC-BB at 6:53 AM PST - 7 comments

Best font software for Mac?

Font Book isn't burly enough to handle my thousands of fonts, and it has now crashed twice. Its default of loading fonts as active contributes to its crashing, I believe. (I've taken it to the Apple Store, etc., so please don't tell me how to get Font Book to work.) I've committed to buying some new font software. I'm currently looking at FontExplorerX Pro and Suitcase Fusion. Please share your advice on those two, or any other font management systems that are effective and not crazy expensive. Thank you! (I used to use suitcase back in the oughts. Obviously the world is a different place.)
posted by miss tea at 5:55 AM PST - 6 comments

What was this web radio station called?

I'm currently trying to remember a web radio station I listened to a few years ago, but it's name escapes me. [more inside]
posted by lalunamel at 4:52 AM PST - 3 comments

Youtube music video suggestions - artists like Rihanna, Nicki Minaj?

I have a friend who wants to watch some new music videos. He has no access to the internet, but I do. Great! I can help out. Except we have very different tastes in music and he only gets as specific as "like Nicki." He also really likes Rihanna and Beyoncé's more beat-driven songs, La Fouine, and a lot of Nigerian popular music. Can you make suggestions for me? Preferably with links, because I'm on strictly metered internet and can't download a lot of videos to find the good ones.
posted by Kutsuwamushi at 4:15 AM PST - 6 comments

Where should we watch the World Cup finals in Berlin?

We'll be arriving Sunday afternoon, both of us first-timers in Berlin. Any recommendations on where we should be for the game? (Pub, outdoor venue, anything goes).
posted by alona at 1:13 AM PST - 4 comments

July 11

Photographing the Super Moon

Assume I know very very little about photography, but I have a small tripod, a Canon Rebel Xti DLSR and a 400 zoom lens. How do I photograph the Super Moon tomorrow over Lake Tahoe? [more inside]
posted by HeyAllie at 11:59 PM PST - 9 comments

helping others while maintaining my own sanity

I have a friend who is having a horrible life right now and I want to be supportive but I am also having a horrible life right now. How can I help but not put my own mental health at risk? [more inside]
posted by kanata at 10:33 PM PST - 17 comments

Help me identify this image from a shirt

Hank Green of Vlogbrothers fame wore an interesting shirt with what I believe is an iconic image from a film, but I have been unable to remember where it's from. [more inside]
posted by Woodroar at 8:47 PM PST - 6 comments

What makes someone unattractive?

I'm a young woman without much luck in romantic relationships. I think I may have a problem with my behavior and body language because I'm introverted and I'd like to understand it and maybe gain some control over it. [more inside]
posted by poilkj at 8:00 PM PST - 30 comments

Have you transitioned successfully out of pink-collar admin hell? How?

I need to know how other women (or men) have crawled out of these jobs. [more inside]
posted by ziggly at 7:50 PM PST - 12 comments

I think I'm really depressed , will therapy help?

When dealing with depression, what has worked for you . . medications, etc? I don't want to rely too heavily on friends for this, because I have in the past, and they tend to want to avoid you if you tend to talk about it too much. [more inside]
posted by jeepwrnglrwmn at 7:49 PM PST - 17 comments

Looking for the "Perfect" Elliptical

Help me find an elliptical machine for a person who is between 5'1" and 5'4", that will take fairly heavy use by one person, and that doesn't cost a fortune. [more inside]
posted by clarkstonian at 7:33 PM PST - 6 comments

Am I a fool if I stay or am I a fool if I go?

I'm 24, a year after graduation I'm still in the town where I went to university. I'm living with my partner Jake who has a five-year-old son. Jake and I are very happy together and I've become good friends with the mother of his son, Kaitlyn. We all get along really well now, life is easy, drama-free and steadily improving. The problem is, Kaitlyn, Jake and I are all really keen on adding to our crazy little family by me having a baby. I would love to do that, but on the other hand, I have family, friends and a small part of me shouting NO!!!! You're too young! Go travel the world! How do I reconcile what I want to do RIGHT NOW, what I think I should do to avoid having regrets later and what everyone else wants me to do? [more inside]
posted by mangoprawn at 7:01 PM PST - 61 comments

Where/what are the good tabletop RPG discussion/blogs nowadays?

Ages ago I used to be active on The Forge and it was great for gameplay design/discussion and for actual play reports of niche things. Where did those folk go when it closed down? What new stuff has popped up in the meantime?
posted by curious nu at 4:47 PM PST - 4 comments

"But chief, you've barely touched your banana kaboom"

My 30th birthday is next week. Where in Chicago can I get a free birthday ice cream sundae? [more inside]
posted by custard heart at 4:40 PM PST - 6 comments

Creative Outlet for Intellectual

Here's the thing: I am a young adult who for the majority of his life has been intellectualising because he is fascinated by what he learns. However more and more I have been wishing I had a creative outlet, artistic or otherwise. [more inside]
posted by iliketothinknu at 4:30 PM PST - 24 comments

Traveling with a friend and now a part of Facebook updates. Help!

I'm currently backpacking Europe with a good friend of mine. It's been a lot of fun so far, but as a non-Facebook user, I have been feeling uncomfortable and annoyed as he posts updates. How do I keep this from negatively affecting my trip? [more inside]
posted by alligatorman at 4:12 PM PST - 27 comments

Where should I live in SF?

Mefites of San Francisco: Where do you live? Where should I live? When should I move? How does this happen? I'm a special snowflake with my own special snowflake needs. [more inside]
posted by bleep at 3:38 PM PST - 49 comments

Help me unpack some of my weirdness around giving gifts.

So I love giving gifts and, if I've committed to 'Giving Someone A Gift' instead of just 'Checking off the Box' I tend to put a lot of time and energy into them. However I've noticed that my pleasure in giving gifts is directly tied to how the recipient responds. MeFis, teach me to give unconditionally. [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 2:11 PM PST - 23 comments

Essentially New Jersey?

In order to block out a new writing thing. I'm looking for things that are essentially or unquiely New Jersian in flavor or references that would ping a lifelong resident of the state- types of stores and houses, idioms, vacation spots, regional foods, etc. I'm also looking for media that has the right feel of the Garden State that aren't Kevin Smith movies. I've read this AskMe about New Jersey books already and I've seen The Sopranos. What are other examples of "Only in NJ" things? [more inside]
posted by The Whelk at 2:05 PM PST - 73 comments

Trade Blogs and Publications for Online Publishers?

A colleague wants to deepen his understanding of online publishing (and I do, too!) -- how do the big print magazine/newspaper publishers manage their online publications, and what are the smaller, newer, younger online-only publications doing, too. Topics of interest run the gamut, from editorial policy to metrics. [more inside]
posted by notyou at 1:33 PM PST - 3 comments

escaping San Francisco: let's go outside

The girl and I miss trees. And feel a little claustrophobic. Where could we go that is close to SF but out of Sf. It should be warm. And we would like to do it on a week night.
posted by jander03 at 1:27 PM PST - 17 comments

Canon MkII malfunction

My wife's Canon 5D MkII seems to be bricked, and I'm looking for input on what the issues might be and if it's reparable (or worth it to repair it). [more inside]
posted by hootenatty at 1:13 PM PST - 8 comments

Truffle mania

I have just discovered that I love truffle-infused foodstuffs. So far, I have had popcorn and cheese, and macaroni and cheese that were all sprinkled with truffle goodness. What else is out there that I absolutely have to have?
posted by roomthreeseventeen at 1:10 PM PST - 23 comments

My son is panicking about learning to swim. Help?

My kids are going to a day camp for the first time this summer. They're scheduled to swim twice a day, but my son has been refusing to go into the pool and panicking when the counselors try to encourage him into the water. How can we convince him the pool is fun, safe and comfortable? [more inside]
posted by zarq at 12:44 PM PST - 43 comments

Sizing images for Wordpress site

I'm using Wordpress to design my site (photography portfolio). Image quality is very important to me, but I'm also concerned about page-loading times. Galleries will be on one page, and you'll scroll down to view images. I prefer this layout to flash galleries. Some questions about this.... [more inside]
posted by okay-quiet-time at 11:45 AM PST - 7 comments

Planning a peaceful trip to Switzerland and beyond?

Kinda two-fold. (1) What's do-able with 10 days in/from Lausaunne, Switzerland? (2) How do I manage this trip with my boyfriend and a few other friends? [more inside]
posted by inevitability at 11:42 AM PST - 11 comments

Finding other Somervilles in North America

What neighborhoods or towns in the metro areas of NYC, DC, Toronto, Vancouver, SF, Seattle, and Portland are similar to Somerville, MA (north of Boston)? [more inside]
posted by acridrabbit at 11:08 AM PST - 25 comments

Do we have bedbugs or fleas?

Moved into a house 2 months ago. Got a dog. Getting bites. Can't find critters. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Bluestocking_Puppet at 11:04 AM PST - 14 comments

Healthy Ways to Physically Express Negative Emotions

Asking for a friend: what are some good, healthy ways for an adult to physically express their upsetting feelings? [more inside]
posted by gauche at 10:55 AM PST - 35 comments

Worst film/tv/game novelizations?

Help me find examples of film, TV, or video game novelizations that are not necessarily bad writing, but which completely alter or otherwise undermine the storyline, characterizations, and themes in the parent material. [more inside]
posted by Wossname at 10:51 AM PST - 19 comments

Coding Bootcamps and Career-Switching and Admissions Strategies, Oh My!

I'm starting to seriously plan for a career-switch to programming, going the Coding Bootcamp route as a way to jump-start my skills, my portfolio and my networking. I want advice on how best to prepare and what to expect. Snowflakes, as always, inside. [more inside]
posted by firechicago at 10:48 AM PST - 4 comments

Spam that's useful?

What newsletters do you subscribe to that are useful? [more inside]
posted by rippersid at 10:03 AM PST - 7 comments

Is it normal to feel this crazy?

We have a 17 month old boy. We love him very much. Sometimes my husband and I discuss having a second child. Truth be told, I don't know if the two ounces of sanity I have left would survive it. [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas at 9:53 AM PST - 44 comments

Name this French actress

I have bought the movie "Blue is the Warmest Color" on DVD, and now I would like to know the name of one of the actresses of the movie. [more inside]
posted by WalkingAround at 9:46 AM PST - 6 comments

How much for the bass? (not a fish)

Wife bought this (used) bass guitar back in 1988ish. Kramer Spector IV. Never used it. Wants to sell it. Appears to be in very good condition. No clue about the value -- poked around a few forums/sites, didn't find anything particularly helpful. Now turning to Mighty AskMeFi for info on what we can reasonably expect to ask/get for it.
posted by davidmsc at 9:19 AM PST - 6 comments

Thoughts on CIS major? (Computer Information Systems)

Is CIS a reliable major for future careers in NY? [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 9:17 AM PST - 5 comments

Love songs for married couples?

Songs about long-term, developed love - not butterflies. [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon at 9:16 AM PST - 78 comments

Gift for my Oakland-based friend?

I'm getting gifts for my wedding party and I'm having trouble picking something for my friend who just moved to Oakland. Could y'all recommend good Oakland-based gifts for under $100? Thanks! [more inside]
posted by vakker at 9:00 AM PST - 6 comments

Where to watch the World Cup Final in Baltimore? Difficulty: Teens

I have tickets with my cousin and his kids (14/16 years old) to go to the Orioles game at 8:05pm on Sunday. But we also want to watch the World Cup Final somewhere first. Where would we be able to watch the game, with the teenagers in tow, so that we can get from there to Camden Yards easily/quickly? [more inside]
posted by gemmy at 8:43 AM PST - 9 comments

Keep yer damn morning glories off my lawn

The neighbors' morning glories are growing under their fence into our yard, and driving me nuts. How can I fend them off? [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 8:24 AM PST - 20 comments

Searching Gmail for Flights

Hey guys. So I'm trying to determine how far I've flown over the past five years; I'd like to search my Gmail account for every flight confirmation, but the results are terrible--it seems like the search is bringing up all kinds of unrelated emails. Does anyone know of a better way to do this? Thanks!
posted by Aanidaani at 8:22 AM PST - 10 comments

The house I am renting has an alarm system, how do I make it work?

My SO and I are renting a house. Since moving in we have noticed that the house has an alarm system. However, the control panel does not turn on and none of the buttons do anything. We've spoken to our landlord (who lived in the house for 4+ years) and he said that he never used to alarm and doesn't know how it works. Nothing on the alarm system says which company managed the alarm (ADT, etc..). Who can I call to get to setup the alarm (but not install a new alarm system, since I am only renting)?
posted by Spurious at 8:04 AM PST - 10 comments

Push Banking Everyday

Is there an application or service that will send a push message or SMS on a schedule with account balances of various accounts. Mint will do this weekly but I'd like to have it come once a day at a specific time.
posted by jmsta at 7:37 AM PST - 2 comments

Is this food poisoning, stomach flu, or something else?

None Of You Is My Doctor, but before I spend money and time at Urgent Care, I'd like to ask those of you who have experienced this kind of thing if what I am going through right now is something you just have to wait out, or if I need to go see someone. (Warning: discussion of vomiting and other bodily functions inside.) [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 7:35 AM PST - 22 comments

Ye Olde Weekend Getaway

Heading to Staunton, VA for a little anniversary getaway/Shakespeare nerd-fest in a few weeks. Aside from a show and tour at the reconstructed Blackfriars (which I am BEYOND excited about), what should we not miss? [more inside]
posted by Dorinda at 7:30 AM PST - 9 comments

I want to quit using porn.

(NSFW) I'm a man in my mid-20s. I'm concerned about my longtime porn habit's effects on me, so I'd like to quit using it. What's the best way to do that? How can I then determine and mitigate its effects on me? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:06 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me JUST CLICK REPLY ALREADY.

I regularly flake on email responses-- both personal and professional. (I have all the comorbidities you'd expect: ADHD, perfectionism, perpetual writer's block, mild social anxiety, introversion, disorganization, procrastination/avoidant tendencies.) I'm starting a new job and need this particular behavior to stop forthwith. Short of completely overhauling my whole effed-up executive function, is there an ironclad system I can implement to ensure that every single one of those emails gets answered punctually? [more inside]
posted by Sockinian at 7:06 AM PST - 18 comments

Overnight stay in Redwoods near San Jose

My partner and I are headed to California in August and have 2 days to ourselves. We're both very avid hikers and are interested in seeing redwoods. Help us plan an awesome 2 day hike between San Jose/Sonoma! [more inside]
posted by olya at 6:40 AM PST - 10 comments

Automated WordPress deployment strategies

I'm trying to help my team establish an automated workflow for managing WordPress sites (themes, plugins, databases, the whole shebang). This is going to be a long journey and I need advice on what tools will give us the easiest entry point to a long-term solution. Capistrano? Grunt? Other? Lots of special details inside. [more inside]
posted by philosophygeek at 6:28 AM PST - 2 comments

How do I get over deep anger at my spouse over moving for his career?

My husband finally got the tenure-track academic job at an awesome university he's been working towards his whole life. So how can I get myself to stop hating him for it? Lots of rambling inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:17 AM PST - 87 comments

Gardeningfilter: name those plants...

Hi folks, a friend is looking to do some garden remodelling. She's seen a couple of plants she'd like and took photographs, but has no idea what they actually are. So, green-fingered members of the green, can you help? Images and snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by peteyjlawson at 4:34 AM PST - 4 comments

Good free online resources for mental health professionals...

where you can test/improve your own knowledge/skills gaps? I read a lot of books and go through this whole convoluted process of underlining/going back etc... but I honestly feel like I remember/really take in so little. I have a bit of time and want to refesh/enhance my knowledge/skills/confidence. [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 4:28 AM PST - 2 comments

That's a lot of soda bread...

By mistake my company has booked me double baggage allowance for my flight to Dublin for a conference, so I have a capacity of 46kg. I live in London. What kind of heavy yet-hard-to-get in the UK thing should I buy to make the most of this? My only thought was a case of whisky or possibly a very large amount of Guinness. I only have one free morning (Thursday), which is also the day I fly out. Is there anything I'm not thinking of?
posted by litereally at 4:15 AM PST - 11 comments

Seeking tips on networking in a creative field

I work in a creative field. For the first time in a long while, I have got a little downtime before my next big project is due to kick off. I want to use this time to engage in some networking and try to expand my clients list. I'd love to hear some tips on how to go about that. [more inside]
posted by lost_lettuce at 3:52 AM PST - 1 comment

July 10

More power!

The battery life on my Samsung Galaxy S3 has become bad and unpredictable, and I'm looking for either a larger battery or some kind of extended battery case. What are the best options? [more inside]
posted by vogon_poet at 11:45 PM PST - 6 comments

How to survive early marriage counseling?

After several years of problems -- I repressed all my complaints, my spouse just sulked silently and suggested I "get over it" -- we finally started marriage counseling, and the trauma and upheaval of having this all out in the open is unbearable. How do people make it through? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:53 PM PST - 19 comments

Why Do Women Hate TV Watching Men?

Husbands and boyfriends watching too much tv is a common complaint from women. It's so frequently mentioned in relationships of all types that I don't understand it. If not tv, then video games. I'd like to understand why this particular issue is so frequent among couples, and maybe both why men do it, and why women despise it? Is there any studies or other sources that explain behavior, or attempted to explore it, especially in a relationship or gender differentiated dynamic? [more inside]
posted by LANA! at 10:34 PM PST - 32 comments

Where to live in Bay Area - couple w/ commutes to Redwood City & Oakland

My boyfriend currently pays $1500/month for a studio in a less than stellar area of San Francisco (his car has been broken into 5+ times in the past year), and works in Redwood City. For various reasons now, he's sick of the city and wants to move. The idea is that eventually we would move in together. Since I work in Oakland, we're having trouble imagining where we might live that would make commuting at least not soul-sucking for both of us. [more inside]
posted by girasol at 10:29 PM PST - 7 comments

New rental has phantom odors

We just moved into a new rental - it's early 1900s with polished hardwood floors. When we moved in there was a bit of a musty odor, but we assumed that this was just "empty house smell". The odor has largely dissipated, except for the bedroom and the adjacent hallway where the smell is getting stronger and now smells a little bit like animal pee (though it could be just general mustiness too). But we cannot locate the exact source of the smell. How do we find the location of the smell and eradicate it!? More details after the fold... [more inside]
posted by Alice Russel-Wallace at 9:25 PM PST - 9 comments