June 2014 Archives
I've heard a lot of good things about ABF's ReloCubes, both on here and from friends, but the prices I've heard bandied about are wildly lower than what I'm being quoted. Am I missing something, or have their prices just skyrocketed recently? [more inside]
Hi. I am currently 21 years old, female, and I think I was depressed for a long time, sometimes I think most of my life. I think I'm just starting to get out of it though, and I'm having a lot of realizations lately. I have had a lot of good days where I feel somewhat like myself again but have had bad days too. I really want to continue having good days but I'm struggling. I need help. [more inside]
As a kid, I saw part of a cartoon aimed at bilingual (Korean + English) children. The plot involved a bunch of children on some sort of fantastic quest or journey. The scene I remember most clearly is one where they're being riddled/quizzed by something (I remember it as a floating light, but it might've been some kind of creature or robot or something). It asks for the name of the backmost teeth, and the youngest of the children answers "몰라" ("I don't know"; pronounced molah, which the riddler interprets as "molar") [more inside]
Last night, thanks to Call in the Night, I had a fascinating conversation with a neuroscience student who studies steroids in Seattle. We talked for an hour and a half, but got cut off while they were mid-story. Help me find out the end of their story! [more inside]
I have two brothers-in-law, my husband's younger siblings. Both of them are getting married. The older of the two, who we'll call Brother A, has been planning his wedding for a while. His fiancé and he have been dating for a few years and are planning a traditional wedding for next year in August. The younger, Brother B, is getting married ASAP to a girlfriend he has only been dating briefly, for well... the classic reason for getting married in a hurry. They also want to get married in August, of this year. Brother A says that's "his" month. Is that even a thing? [more inside]
I'm getting conflicting opinions on how often a septic system needs to be pumped, and pumping isn't cheap. My current system is about ten years old, and it's been mostly just me using it. I've heard of other low-use households that have been pumped maybe once in 30 years. Conventional wisdom seems to be thus: pump every 3 years or so or risk anything from a bad smell to a total system wipeout and replacement. Is that for real? [more inside]
I need help with overcoming my stress in order to start eating and sleeping heathily. What are your hints and tips to get my life back on track? [more inside]
I was always a very high achiever but in my late teens, I was diagnosed with a debilitating chronic illness. I spent most of my 20s severely limited. In my mid 30s now and still struggling with the feeling that life is unfair. [more inside]
We're hopefully going to get the go ahead on a job move to Portland, Maine very soon and want to get set up with a rental to move into when we get there. Looking for a pet friendly 2/3 bed house/apartment in either Portland itself or South Portland or nice neighborhoods very nearby. Is Craigslist the best place to look or is there something Maine/Portland specific that outsiders like us wouldn't know about? Any tips/area recommendations gratefully received!
I live in a rural place, the nearest Planned Parenthood is far away and hard to access if you're poor and/or without a car. I want to help women in my area get to the clinic if that's what they need. How can I do this? [more inside]
We're taking a White House tour -- yay! How can I get my kids excited (and informed) about it? [more inside]
My computer is suddenly dead. How can I resurrect him? He refuses to even turn on. [more inside]
I would like to find these exact shoes. I've seen some similar but would like to find these. Thanks!
I am writing a piece about the melding of form and content within a certain musician's body of work. (I'd rather not give this artist's name.) I am looking for texts which deal with concepts of form and content in any genre. Denise Levertov's "Some Notes on Organic Form" is likely going to be my main reference, but I haven't been able to think of many other resources despite attempting to search the library databases on this. Can anyone think of other texts to check out?
I have just begun as an assistant professor in the humanities at a prestigious university, and I am getting more emails from prospective PhD candidates than I can handle, gracefully or otherwise. I am presently a total n00b (read: incompetent at my job) and can't realistically take more than one a year. But I have no idea how to deal with these emails. Any suggestions on how to handle them, from anyone in similar but wiser positions? Agonized details below. [more inside]
In the attempt to clean my pre-owned fridge I've taken a nylon scouring pad to the door and caused noticeable damage. Can I fix this? [more inside]
I am an American who has just finished watching the Up series on Netflix, and I am wondering if there are any articles or books worth reading about the series. I would be interested in anything, but I'm particularly interested in anything that fleshes out the stories of these people's lives and also anything concerning how the series changed the lives of those portrayed (are they celebrities in the UK? etc.)
Help me shop online for nursing bras. I am currently a 38G with the expectation of major fluctuations after the birth of my first child in August. I do not have stores nearby with a range of nursing bras in my size, and I prefer to shop online anyway, so please help me sort through the options. [more inside]
8 inches of rain caused our basement to flood, so we ripped out the carpet and pad, baseboards, and waterlogged drywall. It turns out we had decades worth of pre-existing mold in the drywall, so most of the walls had to come out, too. Now we have a partially unfinished basement with 60 years of half-assed renovation attempts exposed. What do we do now? [more inside]
I'm wondering if it's technically possible to "weight" a song's importance on a playlist so that it has a higher chance of being played. With that weigh ranging from "100% certainty" to "do not care one way or the other." [more inside]
I purchased menthol crystals online, with no specify purpose outside of trying to see if I could use it as a flavoring. That was a bust [more inside,] but now I have a pound of very strong crystals that I have no idea what to do with. I'm looking for creative applications, and I'm out of ideas- and I'm not interested in using these with a vaporizer, which seems to be what the internet recommends. [more inside]
Do I personally contact the person who made me think I was a strong candidate, but didn't consider me again? [more inside]
My favorite sunscreen (BurnOut) has been reformulated and I need a replacement. [more inside]
Is there a known origin point for the phrase "as one does" (or "like you do" or similar variations), when used to indicate that the speaker is aware of how ridiculous an action is? For instance, "I was at the supermarket at three in the morning, offering the cashier ten bucks for an early box of Count Chocula -- as one does -- and...."
A dear friend of mine is turning forty-mumble-something tomorrow. We are getting together to celebrate this weekend, but I would like to send flowers or a plant to her office on her actual birthday. Would it be awkward to receive flowers from someone who is not a significant other? (We really are just friends - no romantic undertones.) Are there only certain kinds of flowers that would work? I am leaning toward sending her a nice plant, but not sure if plants are reserved for condolences/sympathy. More details inside. [more inside]
Semi-famous lefty NY writer comes back to the neighborhood in LA where he grew up. There's a neighbor across the street who's had a hard life and back after stint in prison. The writer's trying to negotiate a failing marriage and a relationship with an actress who starred in a movie he wrote or directed. The bad neighbor comes over to escape police and holds the guy hostage. They drink some beers together, get high, talk philosophy and he has a phone call with the famous actress. [more inside]
I know the topic of OKCupid profile critiques is polarizing. Those who enjoy picking apart profiles and judging photos, please bring your honesty and step on up. [more inside]
If a homeless person requests cigarettes, should I fulfill that request? [more inside]
I just googled "I am annoyed by everyone and everything" if that's any indication of my current mood. How do I change it? [more inside]
I'm in my mid-thirties and have good credit, but I've never had a "real" credit card. I'm going on an international trip in December/January, and in the hopes of offsetting some of my plane tickets through signup bonus miles, now seems as good a time as any to finally get a credit card (still, I'm not averse to cash back rather than miles). Give me advice! [more inside]
My neighbors, who are renters, have put lilac bushes, flowers, and landscaping several feet into my property. I've nothing against flowers and landscaping, but I would not have chosen to add this to my land in this particular configuration, and I am concerned about the idea of encroachment on my lot. How should I respond? [more inside]
DH and I will be moving from an upper-floor apartment in a moderate-crime neighborhood of a big city to a single family house in a low-crime (and to be frank) affluent suburb. We're having a little trouble translating our expectations about home security. What is a reasonable level of home security to aim for when the burglary rate is 1/10th of where we're coming from? How safe can you get when you've got glass panes in your door, and windows everywhere? Can you help us sort this out? [more inside]
Is there any way to convert equation objects made in Equation Editor 3/3.1 into the updated, direct in-line text in the new Equation Tool for Office 2007/2010? [more inside]
My internet (AT&T DSL) got weird a few hours ago this morning, and is still struggling. I went through a long list of stuff with a tech, who is sending out a new modem. Here's what's happening. Certain sites are loading fine, while others just time out to the "The connection has timed out" message. [more inside]
When I used to live in Texas, my friends and I used to escape the big city to a small town that held a old-school 4th of July event. The firetruck parade, the town band enthusiastically playing John Phillip Sousa, funnel cakes and cotton candy and a ferris wheel, the whole nine yards. It was awesome. I would love to find something similar near (less than a two hour drive) DC. Thanks everyone!
I'm the title of a humorous memoir by a guy who loves breakfast cereal and Saturday morning cartoons. [more inside]
My mother is trying a number of tactics to help with debilitating chronic migraines (occurring multiple times weekly). She's been told that getting out of bed immediately on waking has reduced the occurrence of migraines in some other sufferers. This is proving a difficult thing to implement. Hive, how would you motivate yourself to get out of your cosy cosy bed? [more inside]
My wife's been experiencing vertigo, dizziness and nausea for almost a week. I'm concerned; she says it's almost certainly going to go away soon. I'm extremely anxious when it comes to her health. I'm looking for reassurances or any other help to clear my mind so I can support her, as well as any ideas on what this could be. [more inside]
I'm temporarily stranded in a pleasant but completely unfamiliar city on the east coast. Partly because used car prices seem to be much lower here than my native Seattle, I want to buy a used car while I'm here, and use it to travel west. I'm on the lookout for an early '00s Volvo wagon. Ordinarily, I'd pay to have a mechanic look over a prospective purchase, but that's just not a practical undertaking in my specific situation. So: should I just not do this? Or are there a few simple things to look for before buying a car that I could do in under, say, ten minutes, as a relative novice to car-buying and -servicing?
I'm in the process of cleaning up a hacked Wordpress install. How can I use the file list from a known-good directory as the basis for deleting all other files in the hacked one? e.g.: If a file exists in .../goodtheme/ leave it in .../badtheme. Otherwise, delete everything. [more inside]
Being a life-long fan of Neil Finn, I bought his latest album a couple of months ago. I am absolutely head over heels in love with the Divebomber track which is very atypical of him (with a handful of exceptions). I really like the abstract, soaring soundscape and fairly unconventional structure of the Finn song. Seeing as my musical horizon isn't what it used to be, can you recommend music similar to the Divebomber track? [more inside]
Is it really possible for a person to kill another by twisting their neck the way stealthy soldiers do on movies? If so, why in the world would anyone ever strangle someone? [more inside]
Can you identify what animal this (1, 2, 3) bone is from? It was found washed up on a beach in Rhode Island. [more inside]
Link me to riveting, long form music journalism online! I want to read case histories of musicians with troubled lives, like these articles about Elliot Smith and Ben Todd. Or maybe a peek at a subculture I barely knew existed, like Kid Rock's Cruise or Nathan Rabin's many recaps of The Gathering. I'll also accept a straight-ahead profile, as long as it's as well written as Elizabeth Gilbert's piece on Hank-3. [more inside]
I'm getting really tired of a particular coworker's constant prying about what I eat. It's starting to feel like bullying, and it happened to me before at my previous job. What do I do? [more inside]
I have been seeing an older male psychotherapist (psychodynamic/analytic orientation, I guess) for a year to deal with issues related to my divorce, self-esteem, trauma, grief, and so on. At 34, I am finally resolved to living a conscious life and so I decided to commit myself to long-term psychotherapy. Our sessions have been fairly productive--I have gained some insight into the faulty and harmful ways I deal with men, and have accessed deep wells of grief that I had repressed for a long time. My shrink is (was) wonderful....until... [more inside]
A few friends of mine have bought cheap, giant suitcases from novelty shops and souvenir shops in NYC. Since I'm halfway across the country, I'm looking for something similar that I can buy on the internet. Workable dimensions are around 32 x 25 x 10 inches - really freakin' big. But, amazon and ebay and the like are failing me. Can you help?
How much might a sleepover nanny/childminder charge per 24 hours? As a guide, this would be in the U.S. Say for example the nanny currently charges about $100 for a full day (it's actually more), but has not done sleepovers before. We want to arrive at a fair rate for the 24 hours.
Like many dads he reads mostly non-fiction books with a historical, military, political and/or transportation focus. But he seems to have read them all. [more inside]
Just now listening to Unanimity for the first time and picking the pieces of my jaw up off the floor. Need more like this. A LOT MORE like this.
How do I incorporate the things I learn from self-improvement reading into my life? This is more than just a question about remembering what I learn from self-improvement books. I am looking for ways of making that knowledge stick, so that I can make good use of it later when I need it. [more inside]
I have just been stung by a bunch of ground hornets. What do I do about the stings and how do I get rid of the nest? I'm not allergic as far as I know, but they burn like fire!
I believe that popular wisdom holds that contentment or real inner peace is the goal for those who have been depressed and who have pulled out of the hole. But what about people who have been unhappy since childhood, for example. One popularly cited data point for whether someone has diagosable depression is they lose interest in what they've loved doing, and this notion assumes that they've had a chance to develop hobbies or friendships at some point until they became depressed. So short of having had hobbies or friends to return to, at what point do people "stop being depressed"? (I know that there are manuals that professionals use to tally up symptoms, but I am asking not about technical definitions of depressed versus not; I'm asking about the experience. Has anyone experienced a bright line shift in their thinking?) [more inside]
I'm considering investing in a robotic lawn mower. Technical specs and short reviews are easy to find, but I'm having trouble sorting out if the investment is worth it, or if I should rather buy a high-end "normal" lawn mower or possibly a riding one. How is life with a robotic lawn mower? [more inside]
How do I figure out which Pokemon sets are currently "in rotation"? [more inside]
I love to make a huge vat of salad to eat throughout the week. I'm looking for recipes for such salads, which will stay good all week already mixed up. No pasta, please!
Are there people with no vices? Is it possible to switch one vice for another? [more inside]
Do some AC's allow fresh outside air into the room? [more inside]
Every month for about a week, my quality of life depreciates. My breasts hurt. My normally-clear skin breaks out. My bowel function goes haywire. Sometimes my back and thighs hurt. Sometimes I get cranky. I have to deal with the gross reality that blood is pouring out of my body. Um... No thank you. I'd like to stop this, please. [more inside]
I've had a fantasy that has been rolling around in my head for the past 15 plus years of opening a small public aquarium. It's always been the sort of things that I thought to myself "If I ever won the lottery one day." level of realism. Over the past year or so, I've been getting encouragement from friends to actually go for it. While I still thinks it's just daydream fodder, I sort of want to figure out a rough idea of cost to see just how crazy the idea is. The problem is, I have no idea how to figure that rough estimate of what it would cost. [more inside]
I was watching the first episode of The Hardy Boys (1977) with opening credits showing them running into a large labyrinth with camera panning above. [more inside]
Mr Robin's birthday is coming up, and I'd love to get him something really nifty this time around. I don't really have a knack for selecting gifts - I do okay and occasionally nail it. I'd like to really nail it this time! [more inside]
I accidentally deleted photos from my Canon 7D, photos that I mistakenly thought I had saved, and was wondering, since I haven't used the camera since, if it's possible to somehow retrieve them?
I bought a fancy (to me) Longines watch used. I'd like to verify that the watch I got is legit, ideally without paying too much for the service. Should I take it to a Longines dealer locally (I'm in D.C., looks like a place called Diplomatic Duty Free is the only authorized dealer) or should I take it to a different kind of place? How much can I expect to pay for this? [more inside]
With 13+ years experience working in the field of child care, I am ready for a career change. Most recently (the last 5 years), I have been working as a nanny in a major American city. Previously, I've been a camp counselor, Au-Pair, and tutor, etc. I'm looking to parler this skill set into something outside of 'household help'. [more inside]
I am looking for a dresser with drawers that don't stick and are nice and deep so they hold a lot of clothing. Ideally I'd like a 3-drawer Malm dresser from Ikea, but the closest one is 3 hours away and they don't deliver the Malm. Any other substitutes? [more inside]
How do I set the time zone for my Kindle Fire? Right now it's displaying UTC, I think, instead of UTC-7 which is my time zone. I just turned on "Location-based services" and that didn't help.
Please help me attain knee health before it's too late. [more inside]
I feel many emotions when I am listening to music - happiness, melancholy, goosebump-y, etc. - but I rarely find albums that can bring me to tears. I just bought a Non-English album that brought me to (mostly joyful) tears many times; the experience was almost cathartic. Please give me songs (in any language, or even without any singing) that provoked a strong emotional response in you the first time you heard it - I'm talking powerful feelings like awe, joy, sadness, etc. that would make you tear up or outright cry. Details inside. [more inside]
I'm visiting Scotland for a week in July, and I thought it might be fun to lookup some of my Scottish ancestors. We know that the family lived in New Cathcart (parish?) in the 1840's, which appears to now be a part of Glasgow. We also know my GGG grandfather died sometime between 1847 - 1849, in Cathcart, but it's not clear exactly when he died or where he's buried. Would I be wasting an hour or two trying to find it? [more inside]
What things should I be sure not to miss when visiting Philly July 6-11th? Difficulty: Attending a conference but free in the evenings, solo traveler, nervous driving in cities. [more inside]
Hi, simple question here. My friends and I are designing logos on photoshop. We'd like to put the finished logos on some shirts what we'll probably wear for a marathon. I'd love to hear some recommendations on what reputable online sites you might have used - I found a a decent bunch of choices on google, but can't seem to find reviews so It'd be nice to have some anecdata.
I will be in Montreal from July 5 to July 11. Anything cool happening? [more inside]
I bent the metal railing and caused some cracks in the brick staircase. After talking with the owner of the house, nothing was done for over 2 years. Now the owner is considering a repair and has told me that he's gotten quotes for $4000. How should I respond to this situation to both protect myself and take responsibility for my actions? [more inside]
We're going to the laser and firework show at the dam this year for the first time. I did some research and they are expecting 15,000 people for the show. Has anybody else been there before? I need some hints to make it more fun and not a hassle. Do we watch from the vehicle or should we bring blankets and a picnic, how early should we show up, best viewpoint, parking, etc.? Any suggestions will be appreciated. Thanks!
One of my bedrooms serves as my home office, and the old carpet needs to be replaced - with something. Requirements: 1) I need something that will be easy to clean when the cats puke. 2) I would really prefer to not have to use a mat under my desk chair. 3) Wood is probably out. The office already has a lot of wood furniture, and a wood floor would be too much. [more inside]
I was curious as to what others have done when they are not sure as to what they need to change to make their lives better? I am a big believer in therapy but it is also very problem oriented and can focus too much on deficits. I guess what I'm asking is how do you know what you need to change in your life? How do you know if you have fallen off the path of what you need to do in your life? [more inside]
There are teams from around the world that speak so many languages. When teams have different primary languages is their an " international" language for soccer? I highly doubt that the ref for today's game spoke Spanish and Greek.
I'd like to compile a list of businesses in New York City—starting with Manhattan—that have been around for 100 years or more. I'd also like to include places the public can visit that aren't "businesses" per se. I'm guessing this information is publicly available, but I don't know where to start. Any guidance would be extremely helpful. Thanks!
My boyfriend and I are considering moving to the Twin Cities. [more inside]
Hi all, the girlfriend and I are planning a trip for the August long weekend, and we'd like to go somewhere where we can do a moderately exertional day hike (i.e. 5-6 hrs or so). We were thinking about heading to the Bruce peninsula, but despite our combined Google-fu, we're having trouble locating specific hikes (as in, "Start at point x, see nice things y, finish at point z") that meet our criteria. We're going to be getting the reference guide to the Bruce from the library, but I was wondering if anyone had specific ideas about good, scenic day hikes that would be feasibly within a 3-4 hour drive of Toronto. Areas other than the Bruce also considered! Bonus points for access to a beach in the area (e.g. on Georgian Bay or a lake). [more inside]
A while back I randomly downloaded this image, very possibly from a Metafilter thread, without noting the name of the artist. Anyway, I recently posted it to Facebook and one of my friends wants to know who the artist is as he's pretty sure he went to school with the guy ... but he forgets his name. Any ideas?
I just came back to the US from living in Europe. I have a very basic Samsung phone that I bought cheaply over there. I brought it back with me, and am wondering if I can change the sim card and have a prepaid plan in the US. [more inside]
I like to think of myself as a law-abiding citizen, and in pretty much all areas of my life I have been, save this. I believe I've twice illegally renewed my vehicle registration because I am not a legal resident of the state where I registered. How do I fix this without facing stiff legal penalties? [more inside]
A couple of middle-manager-ish employees perhaps bent the rules a little bit for us and allowed us to transfer a lease to new parties, completely getting us out of the lease. Should I/how do I say thank you? [more inside]
Please recommend some newer songs that have that 60s psychedelic sound. (Like the recent Ray LaMontagne album or GOASTT.)
Is there a wireless router that can tunnel http to 192.168.100.1 so I can read my cable modem's Signal and Log pages? [more inside]
On Saturday (the 28th) in Ataturk Airport in Istanbul, I saw three men who looked like they had burns or injuries to their scalps (two were together, one was separate). What was I seeing? [more inside]
My family has a flight at 6:30 tomorrow morning to Montreal. I realized a couple hours ago that my sixteen-year-old daughter's passport is over a year expired. Any advice for me on what to do with this situation? We are flying from Louisville, via Chicago. [more inside]
I've been searching for various songs I used to have on tape from UK Radio 1's John Peel show in the late 80s (roughly 87-90). One in particular is proving a bit tricky. On the tape inlay I labelled it Imaginary Girlfriend by Mighty Mighty, but if that's true I haven't been able to turn it up on Google, so that could be completely wrong. I don't have the tape anymore so I can't upload a sample. More half-remembered details below the fold. [more inside]
I read this poem years ago, and I'm pretty sure it's by Rimbaud, but I can't find it on Google. I think it starts out by describing a beautiful summer landscape, perhaps some wheat fields in France, and then it turns darker and describes dead young WW1 soldiers who lie there bleeding. Which poem is this?
Mefites with ADHD, how do you cope with the social and professional problems caused by this condition? [more inside]
I work days, he works nights. We both like to sleep. And now we want to move in together. How do we make this work? [more inside]
We have two families of ducks on our pond. The older family of six started killing the new babies of the young family of ten. [more inside]
Trying to remember/identify a poem I remember from an old compilation of Beat stuff. It went something along these lines of "If castration rewarded greatness, such an honor to hear, 'They're off!'" I want to say the poet was an African-American with the first name Michael, possible Irish-ish last name.
Need help i.d.ing the most likely name for a bird I saw in Singapore, on Sentosa Island. Unfortunately, I have no pics. [more inside]
I'm looking to turn a chainlink fence, together with lines up to my roof, into a semipermanent trellis. What material should I use to build it? [more inside]
I have a 2006 Mini Cooper S Convertible that I can't afford to maintain properly. It pains me to do it, but I need to sell it and get into a cheaper, more practical car. But how? [more inside]
What would you like to have known when you moved into your town? I'm helping to put together a 'Welcome to' package for new residents to my town and looking for ideas of what to add to it. What would have helped you settle into and get to know your neighborhood when you moved in? [more inside]
I've been accepted into two MLIS programs. I need help deciding. [more inside]
After being a wimp my whole life and doing everything I could to avoid scary movies, I'd like to now slowly build up my tolerance to be able to handle them to some degree. What I really dread about them is the feeling I get afterwards of someone or something being hidden anytime I'm in the dark and coming to get me, and that's caused me to avoid watching movies with friends and miss a lot of great fiction. What are some suggestions of "easier" scary movies that I can use as a stepping stone before I start watching the really scary stuff? Books and other types of media are also welcome.
I have and use Turbo Scan on my iPhone. It does what it does beautifully--snaps a picture of a page, straightens it, compensates for perspective, and best (for me), takes the yellow age coloring away, leaving me with a pure black and white image. (I'm mostly scanning old sheet music). Are there any Macintosh apps that would do the same corrections from a digital snapshot? Reason: I have a lot of pre-existing images--high res, but they look like photographs of a page, not that easy-reading, clean black and white. Any suggestions? Thanks!
I've been trying to follow the reparations debate, particularly as referenced in The Atlantic in the last few months, but I find that it's largely targeted at convincing readers of the injustices suffered by African Americans...which I don't just accept, I take for granted. That said, I don't understand the practical case for reparations, EXCEPT in terms of community rehabilitation. In scanning the wikipedia page, I felt like the practical reasons against were even more compelling. Here I'm speaking of US government taxpayer-funded reparations for slavery etc. I list the following reasons I don't see how reparations could be a good idea, and hopefully someone can explain what points I'm missing. [more inside]
At the moment, I'm feeling at a loose end and really direction-less. I don't know what I want to do with my life and it's making me feel really depressed. I have no short or long term goals. I'm in the process of being referred for CBT and have taken up running to treat the depression. [more inside]
How do I play Deus Ex on an Intel Mac running OS 10.6.8? [more inside]
Someone I know who is about to graduate from college would like to participate in a religious community in some way and is interested in exploring hyper-progressive religious institutions in New York City (if any exist). [more inside]
This is a code, poorly printed, on the inside of a snack package. It is the last one I need to get a very small "reward." [more inside]
In the last 6 months, I have suddenly gone from being entirely comfortable riding in the car, to a glued to the seat, slamming the imaginary brake scaredypants whenever my husband drives. He hasn't changed. Why have I? [more inside]
Our combi boiler (a Bosch-Worcester 532i I think) appears to be leaking a bit - water is dripping down from somewhere inside. I've put a bucket underneath it for now. It being a Sunday, getting someone out today to take a look and/or fix it is likely to be expensive. Water pressure seems to be fine and it still seems to be working (i.e. we still have hot water). Is this an emergency situation that warrants calling out someone right now, or is it something that can wait until tomorrow?
What are the most unpredictable, non-formulaic movies that you've seen? I don't mean movies with twist endings, or that discard traditional narrative altogether, but basically conventional films that don't follow familiar plot formulas, but move in ways you can't predict throughout. Thanks for any suggestions!
We're about to take a trip with five, 5+ hour plane journeys, none of which will have decent in flight entertainment, and are looking for inspiration of things we might do/learn in that time for entertainment? We're looking for ideas beyond general reading/podcasts/movies/sleeping, particularly since we love learning new things. [more inside]
What should we do with this newly opened up space in our finished basement? [more inside]
What are the best blogs or other online publications about history (any kind) out there? I'm looking for medium-to-long, well-researched, smart, readable articles by a variety of authors with some expertise in their subject matter. I don't want anything too clickbaity, but nothing straight from an academic journal either.
Looking for advice. I have a great job, great quality of life, but no career potential whatsoever. I want to move jobs and stay in my industry but have been told alternately: too expensive, not qualified or way-too-experienced-for-entry-level. Snowflake details (and tl:dr) inside. [more inside]
About 15 years ago I behaved badly. Should I tell my husband about it? Ordinarily I'd say no, it's in the past. But there are some complicating factors. Help me figure out what to do. [more inside]
Asking for my ukulele teacher: This is, apparently, the favorite song of a Greek lady living in a nursing home he works with. He'd like to sing the whole song with her, but does not know the name, lyrics or even the whole melody, apart from a few parts that she sang for him (and the melody might not be 100% accurate). Here's an approximation on soundcloud. Apparently, the song is about riding the train and/or the bus. Does this ring a bell for anyone? Thanks!
I realized over time that 3 of the men I've known for years have patriarchal beliefs, even though they've always said feminist things. I sometimes remember sexist remarks they've made and then feel worse about myself. What's worked for you in being able to recognize people like this earlier, before you let them into your inner circle? [more inside]
For the last few years I've been going to the Women's Clinic and PP for my routine exams, BC, etc. as needed but it's time to find a regular OB/GYN. I also need to replace my retired GP. Please refer me to your awesome doctors located in the Santa Monica/Venice/MDR/WLA area! [more inside]
I'm a fit, active 30-year old lady, and over the last month I've noticed that when I lift my arms fully outstretched to the ceiling, the muscles around my shoulders and upper arms feel weirdly tired. I thought I'd pulled them somehow to start with, but it's lasted at least a few weeks now. Also, I've always had a hand tremor when I'm tired but recently it seems a little worse. I'll be seeing my GP soon (UK) but any ideas what I should look out for? [more inside]
My new boss apparently prefers to use more convenient and/or flexible methods to pay me, an independent contractor (web dev). He suggested I invoice him through PayPal the first time he paid me. I have a general dislike of PayPal, and I like automation, so I'm trying to decide on a payment processor or other method of billing that can take the same money sources as PayPal. [more inside]
Can you point me in the directions of some songs that really show off the vocal pyrotechnics of Bollywood playback singers? [more inside]
I have about 1500 articles "archived" on Instapaper. I thought it always retrieved the local cached copy from my app or Instapaper. However, whenever there is an internet connection on my iPad, it will attempt to get the article from the original URL and if it's not there, tell me it's not available. >>>details inside [more inside]
Planning to cosplay as Guy Fieri at an upcoming convention -- Difficulty: I've only seen maybe three episodes of Diners, Drive-ins and Dives, and have neither the cable subscription, nor the inclination to watch any more than that, and was hoping that instead, I could get some general tips from the hive mind on how to project an aura of Fieri-ness. [more inside]
So, I've been looking for a couple of years for a decent bathing suit, and I have a few requirements. Longish bike-y shorts and a tankini top that is sporty and feminine without being plain, supportive for a 38D bustline, and ideally with some kind of tummy panel for shaping. The tankini top part is not that hard to find, but the big deal has been the shorts. I don't want a swim skirt and I don't want "boy shorts". [more inside]
I need a grant writing intern for my non-profit. Possibly several. Do you know what universities have good green technology or permaculture degree tracks that would be a good place to start looking? (many snowflakes inside) [more inside]
Where can I find good yoga clothes for men? Mid-length pants and shirts that don't fall all over the place. My old Lululemon stuff was well-designed and held up wonderfully, but they don't seem to make any purpose-designed yoga clothes for men anymore. [more inside]
Is there a simple way to paint or color the standard fitbit clip so that it is a nude/flesh tone? I would like to paint it, but I anticipate difficulty since it seems to be made partially of silicone. Is there a way this can be done successfully?
Please give me tips for conducting an in-depth interview with a genocide survivor I've never met, over the phone. [more inside]
Every week (sometimes twice) I get a bag of ads on my doorstep - some mattress place, Lowes, SmartSource. It's litter. It's wasteful. I'm sick of picking it up all the time. It's not mailed; someone is dropping on every doorstep. Is the local newspaper the culprit? How do I get rid of this stuff? [more inside]
Mrs. Penguin and I just bought a house, but we discovered today that the circuit breaker box is labeled in a mixture of English and Chinese. We will eventually just turn them off one at a time to figure out which is which, but in the meantime can y'all translate them for me? [more inside]
By "authority figures" I mean people with more experience who are, extrapolating from that, more knowledgeable than myself. I know asking for advice on how to take advice is ironic, but help. [more inside]
What methods would you recommend to someone looking to develop a sense of self and a more accurate sense of their own value if they've spent most of their life defining themselves and their worth through their grades, their job, and their partner? [more inside]
I would like to be able to tune my 3-stringed diatonically fretted mountain dulcimer, typically stuck in the key of D, to other keys such as G, C, A, F, E, and Am. Then I would like someone to teach me how to figure out the notes on each fret so I can build the chords to play whatever song I'm in the mood for. [more inside]
I'm interested in reading English literature between Chaucer and Shakespeare and would like suggestions. [more inside]
I want to start taking better care of my nails and cuticles, beyond just clipping them when they're long, so I want to pick up some good products for cleaning up the ends of the nails and the raggedness of the cuticles. [more inside]
One of the first issues of Maker Magazine had a project to build a backyard modern shed/office with simple materials bought at any home improvement store. I've been Googling all morning but can't seem to find the plans online or any references to the project since the magazine has launched Maker Shed as their store for buying stuff, which muddies the results. Can anyone help me find this project?
I've been dating a great person for about 4 months. She's really outgoing, charming, attractive, and funny, and people just love her. [more inside]
My Mother is likely going to receive a Metastatic Lung Cancer diagnosis on Monday. Due to her health, she probably won't be able to receive treatment. Questions about seeing an oncologist, palliative care, hospice, and my options. [more inside]
My friend and I are driving the Iceland Ring Road the first two weeks of August. Should I book accommodations in advance? Or would it be OK to book along the way (or just show up at places). [more inside]
I am moving to New York for work, and would like my dog to come with me. My husband and I are going to be long-distance for a year, and possibly more. I am the "dog person" in our relationship, and we have 2 dogs. I want to make the healthiest decision for my animals in terms of their dynamic during a seperation/move. Deets on dogs inside. [more inside]
I still have absolutely no clue what I want to do. More inside. [more inside]
I run a small media company with a staff of five (two people on sales, two editors, one social media person). The salespeople have a low salary, high commission salary structure, and advertising deals are generally in the low-mid 5 figure range. Our social media person is interested in getting into sales, or more specifically, getting compensated for introductions that eventually turn into sales. We're happy to accommodate her but have no idea how to structure things. [more inside]
I love wearing hats. I have many: fedora, bowler, newsboy, boater, summer straw, cowboy, porkpie . . . . How can I make best use of my suave accessories? [more inside]
A few months ago, I joined a class of plaintiffs in the High-Tech Employee Antitrust Litigation. The defendants settled a month ago. When do I get my money? [more inside]
Another where in Seattle should we live question. We are a family of three, one person working downtown, the other working likely in SLU or at the UW + a baby with daycare downtown, but who long term will be going into the Seattle school system. Where do we want to live? [more inside]
How do you be a 'safe space' for someone? Have you defeated your habit of emotionally checking out when things get hairy? [more inside]
I am doing a photography project in Evanston, IL next week. How safe is it for me to be walking around with my equipment, by myself, on weekdays? Also, how's public transportation there? [more inside]
I have this amazing Star Wars ships silicone moulded cake pan. I have no idea what kind of cake works best with it. What cake recipes work best with fancy moulds? Help me eat the Death Star!
I used to be good at sleep. Now I suddenly suck at it. [more inside]
I'm starting to get more well-paid freelancing writing work (features and corporate comms). It's a good way to quickly earn some extra cash, so I need an online portfolio to show to new prospects. Does anyone have any examples of good online portfolios by journalists and marketing copywriters? [more inside]
I have a sum of about $12,000 of which I will probably need to access about one-half in November and the other half around February or March. It's currently sitting in a savings account where it's making negligible interest. Is there something better I could do with it in this very short time frame? [more inside]
Tomorrow I'm driving from Indianapolis to Terre Haute, and have 3-4 hours longer than I need to make the drive. Any good detours or stops I should consider? [more inside]
I live in the West Midlands, home to a few good university libraries. Unfortunately, none of these libraries offer memberships to community members. My own alma mater, Birmingham City University, does not have an alumni library membership. It's very annoying. I would really like access to SagePub and T&F for journal articles. Can you recommend a university or college in the UK, Europe, or anywhere that offers remote access to their library's databases and where I could buy an annual membership?
How dangerous is Gardasil? What is your personal experience with taking it? I just heard all the horrible stories and in so scared because I just received it today. I see nothing good reviewed about it. [more inside]
I had assumed that it would be nearly impossible for prostitutes to date and marry, due to the stigma of sex work, the increased risk of venereal disease, and the guarantee of infidelity. Apparently, this is not true, and now I'm really curious about the dynamics of those relationships, especially how they deal with the question of fidelity. Both scholarly works and ancedata would be welcome. [more inside]
I want to ship (locally store-bought) chocolate and (homemade) jam across the country (US). Will the quality noticeably diminish if I don't use ice packs? [more inside]
I quit my job about a year ago. Through a mixture of savings , part-time jobs I have managed to stay afloat. My girlfriend's birthday will be coming up next month and has asked me to fly with her to Paris. I would love to join her but believe my financial situation is not up to snuff. How do I communicate this in a manner that is positive for the both of us? Complicating factors below. [more inside]
I pretty much only have 2 non-family friends but i am really close with those two friends. We are all low to mid 30s living in different cities in the southeast. Two of us are lawyers, the third is in sales. None of us are breaking the bank but we live comfortably. The problem is (1) we dont work together and (2) none of are particularly in love with our jobs. We have been talking about forming a business together for years but we have thought of any idea as sad as that sounds. We just need some practical but that we could do together. It would be a side gig for us all unless it got big enough to replace our current jobs (the ultimate goal). Looking for suggestions on business ideas or just importantly suggestions on where to find some business ideas. They do not have to be sexy biz ideas but i should say we would probably not be interested in paid blogging, or similar 'work from home' business ideas. I would appreciate any thoughts! Best
I’m dealing with a variety of debilitating health problems, and I'm having trouble coping and getting to the bottom of the cause. I’m toward the end of my rope and have had too many breakdowns to count. [more inside]
Have you taken advantage of Southwest Airlines Customer of Size policy? Does it work like I think that it works? [more inside]
We dream of living aboard some day, and are wondering if that day can be today*. But we have cats. Have you lived aboard with cats? [more inside]
How can I get my six-year-old to stop licking his lips, which results in a chapped ring around his mouth? [more inside]
My wife wants to bring an American craft beer to a former colleague who is primarily a real ale drinker in the UK. He is pretty game to try anything (and is more of a hophead than I am) and we would like to get him something he can't get there and that is a bit different (so no American Belgians for instance) but also worth the hassle. What should we get? We are in Chicago and probably have to get it from Binnys.
If I eat 8 oz. of water frozen as ice, is it the same as drinking the water as a liquid? Assume I'm not chewing ice, it's in bits I won't choke on, I'll go slow and take it easy, and I already have a high tolerance for and strong preference for cold, ice, and icy drinks/frappucinos/Slurpees.
My wife and I are leaving our 2.5 year old with her grandmother for the Fourth of July weekend. How do we prepare for this first trip away? [more inside]
How do I remain gracefully excited about the beautiful new home I'll be moving into? I've been gibbering insanely to anyone who asks, but I want to develop a solid library of tasteful adult answers that quietly acknowledge my good fortune but still channel my enthusiasm. [more inside]
I found out my girlfriend snooped through my phone. I don't know how to proceed. [more inside]
I've taken some estimates for work on my large deck that will involve mostly painting, some replacing trim, and replacing some rotten joists and boards. A contractor who comes well recommend from similar work by neighbors gave a quote, but he is not licensed and bonded. A contractor who we have worked with in the past and has done good work for us, who is licensed and bonded, gave us a quote for twice as much. It's a significant amount of money. [more inside]
How do I approach this delicate situation of a recent breakup, addiction issues, and levels of responsibility and boundaries in a new ex’s life? [more inside]
What can I do in the short and long-term to process and cope with my dog's death? [more inside]
I am meeting up with a friend in the Pearl, someone I haven't seen for years, and would like a quiet, moderately-priced restaurant for dinner. Somewhere that is low-decibel level and conducive for conversation?
I'm looking for a tagline to use this year on print and web PR for a small literary science fiction and fantasy convention that riffs off of 2001: A Space Odyssey. [more inside]
I live in the US and have followed the RIAA/MPAA suits closely. Over the years I have heard British news agencies report such-and-such as being charged with illegal downloading and wondered if that were even possible. [more inside]
I'm currently in a LTR relationship, we currently live together, have pets, and I'm starting to think the relationship has run it's course - but I've been in this mentality at least once a year the past few years, and it always passes. [more inside]
We love art prints, but we signed up for some subscription series and have managed to buy more than we can afford to frame. What's the best way to store them to make sure they stay flat and pristine? Typical size is between 11x14 and 24x36.
I own an old Samsung Galaxy SII Android phone. I've recently cancelled its 3G plan, so now it accesses the Internet exclusively through Wifi. This has apparently caused its GPS function to stop working when it's out of range of a Wifi network, which I hadn't expected. I'd like to resume using it as a mobile GPS device without re-purchasing a 3G plan. Do you know whether this can be done? [more inside]
My neighbour would like to/needs to make her own catfood for her ageing cats. Details inside. [more inside]
The management software my company uses recently added the ability to send messages via SMS to our clientele. We've signed up and it's tested well, but we're not clear on the legality of sending business correspondence messages (no marketing, simply "Your rent is due, please call # or pay online @ oursite.com/pay") without the client expressly opting in for SMS messaging. Do we need to have everyone opt-in or are non-marketing messages for the purpose of communicating legitimate business notices exempt? [more inside]
Moving to a fairly rural section of Lancaster County (Paradise, PA, to be exact), where cable isn't available. *Sad trombone* I work from home full-time and will need reliable, fast internet. Suggestions, please! BTW, FiOs isn't available here (I checked) and it's been hard to get a solid answer on exactly WHAT internet services are out there, so alternatives are welcome. The last tenants here used a mobile hotspot, which was unreliable and slow, so I want to avoid that. Also want to avoid working from a coffee shop every day.
I am going to Hood River for three days next week and taking my dog along. He loves to play in water but he can get frisky with other dogs. I am looking for an off the beaten path type of swimming hole or beach that will not have lots of people or tons of dogs. The public river spots on the internet all say no dogs on the beach so they are out.
I have a swell new leather shoulder bag. I wore it walking for an hour slung diagonally across my chest. It was a warm day leaving a very attractive diagonal line of sweat across my chest and shoulder from the strap. So far, so typical. However, with this new brown bag brown stains were left as well. Is there any way to treat or wash the strap to make sure it doesn't stain again? It is a fairly pricey bag, which I had assumed would mean it would not do this.
This morning, I was surprised to see the clear imprint of my wife's butt and thighs in a bluish tone on our white melamine toilet seat. Is the actual chemistry known here, and what should we do to avoid this in the future? [more inside]
My sweetie is trying to learn the programing language HLSL but she has zero- and I mean, Zero- coding knowledge. Help? [more inside]
SSI gave me 3 months of backpay and now is reversing course, saying I owe them, freezing my SSI payments. I've got a tight timeframe, not sure what to do to navigate this. Snowflake details under the fold. [more inside]
Hi, My 10 year old girl loves to read. When she gets started, she loves it, but it's the "getting her started" that I have a problem with. [more inside]
[NYC Filter] I want to take my girlfriend out to a nice dinner. No special occasion being celebrated. I'm thinking New American style. For vibe, think Northern Spy, which she and I loved. She's a vegetarian (I'm not) so I want the place to be veg-friendly. Most places only have a token veggie appetizer and veggie entree. I'd love to find a place that offers her more choices. Bonus points if they take reservations. Any thoughts guys?
My friend and I want to move to either Washington or Oregon. What are good/affordable places to live for two poor artists in debt? [more inside]
I am thinking of buying an external HD to store my iPhoto, iTunes, Lightroom, and possibly iMovie libraries so I can switch between my iMac and Macbook Air. Will this work? Thoughts, tips, caveats? [more inside]
I'm currently on a graduate training scheme, and whilst some of it's interesting, they keep making me write really horrible essays on 'professional practice', and I really can't cope with it. [more inside]
So I'm the proud owner of a new above-ground swimming pool. I set it up in the corner of my building's rooftop and filled it with water. Everything's perfect, but there's one nagging thought: should I be worried about the floor not holding up? [more inside]
I've been having a lot of problems with my Comcast cable internet (both performance, and with their service, but this question focuses on performance) over the past few weeks. Is this really caused by a bad cable modem? Many details inside. [more inside]
A group of friends and I have been considering setting up a small music festival around May next year and are trying to get our heads around what we will need to think about, so that we can work out the cost of it all. Extended explanation inside. [more inside]
The short of it: (1) Do you have any personal experience getting into Canada and re-entering the US with only a driver's license and birth certificate? (2) What is the drive like between Toronto and Ogdensburg for someone who has really only spent time in cities and driving on major highways up and down the East and West coasts? (3) What should we do in Toronto? [more inside]
I'm currently working with, for the first time in my life, someone who I can truly classify as a frenemy. 50% of the time, all smiles and sweetness; 50% of the time, undermining, secretive, backstabby, and manipulative. This is someone I actually *have* to work with-- we're on a number of teams together. Lately she's been telling others that a project I created, developed, and sold to a client was actually "a fluke" and that my contributions were minimal. How to deal with this in the most productive way? [more inside]
How have you successfully bought a used car from a private owner? The last time I bought a used car was 14 years ago. Not sure how it's done anymore. [more inside]
How to reconcile the differences between your origin and daily society? [more inside]
Mr. Ant and I own a specialty retail shop that is housed in your standard-issue metal building on a concrete pad. We have seasonal problems with bugs, mostly assorted beetles (not roaches, praise be to the small god who manages insect infestations.) We also have skinks that live in the walls. And our dogs come to work with us. [more inside]
I have an unlocked Moto G phone and I'm looking for a good prepaid plan, for only voice and text, preferably 100 minutes and 100 texts and very cheap. I should have probably researched this before buying the phone! I assumed I'll just look at the basic plans from major carriers and pick the cheapest talk-only plan -- but I can't even figure out which ones offer talk-only prepaid, and which ones will accept unlocked Moto G. It's amazing how hard they make it for you to give them money in exchange for service, oy. [more inside]
While driving with my young children in the car, the white male driver of a large WA State semi truck suddenly pulled up alongside my car on a WA state road, honked his horn, and made obscene, sexist gestures that simulated cunnilingus, directed at me (I'm a woman). Right in front of my kids. [more inside]
Is there any place in a residential neighborhood I'm likely to be able to pick up a food thermometer? There are two small drugstores, a small 99-cent/home goods store, and a big organic grocery. I need this by 1:00 today so I have to run out on my lunch break and see if I can find anything, but I don't want to skip my lunch to go running around to half a dozen different places if none of them are likely to have one.
I have a MacBook Pro from 2009, with a 3.06 GHz Core 2 Duo and 8 GB RAM. I am running Mavericks on it, but I find that it can be slow when it is accessing the disk a lot, and it runs hot. It meets the minimum spec for Mavericks but I am thinking that I am over-stretching it. I am planning to upgrade the 500GB HD to a 1TB hybrid. Would this be better able to run Mavericks or should I think of stepping back to something like Snow Leopard when I change the hard disk?
Where I'm living now, it seems really common for the local people to leave food on their faces while they're eating. This makes it difficult for me to enjoy meals. [more inside]
The library of my childhood had a book of fairy tales which I remember fondly but not in very much detail. I remember only one of the stories - perhaps it will ring a bell with someone? [more inside]
I've recently created an iPhone app that's not a game, but falls more in the "Entertainment" category (it uses Twitter to predict the future). And I'm not sure where I should try to send it for review/exposure, as most review sites are game-oriented. I've tried the usual suspects (MeFi Projects, submitted to BoingBoing, shared on FB and Twitter), but am surprised at how quickly I'm running out of ideas for places to send this guy to. [more inside]
Got a little too enthusiastic practicing my Zumba moves a couple days ago, and smashed my pinkie toe into the coffee table. Oops. How can I burn 500 calories a day through exercise, and avoid going stir crazy with a freshly broken toe? [more inside]
I need a facial sunscreen - but everything I try makes my make-up melt off or give me spots. Any suggestions? [more inside]
I'm 27, male. I have struggled as long as I can remember with depression. I naturally turned to drugs and alcohol, and after a few years of abuse.. most recently with lots of cocaine and occasionally speed.. I'm ready to quit everything. Cigarettes included. I have realized that everything I touch turns to shit... and I want to be a better man. My relationships have failed, I'm hurting myself and everyone I love, and I feel like worthless garbage. But I have hope. I want to clean up my act. I am terrified of going to AA, and I like therapy. Groups are much harder for me. I recently began to exercise. I want to keep going but I have very little in the way of controlling my impulses. How do I keep my momentum?
Verizon is calling me from three or four similar numbers all starting with 213-223-87XX. They do not leave messages. I found out it was Verizon by calling these numbers on a blocked phone at work. How to stop this? More info inside.... [more inside]
We signed a lease for a place and it's been a debacle and we haven't moved in yet. Is our lease legally binding if it wasn't countersigned and the owner hadn't closed on the place when we signed it? [more inside]
Help me find sound editing software to create an MP3 routine to automate my morning tasks. [more inside]
We'll be flying to Chicago, spending a day or two there, then driving to Detroit. What are some fun, interesting, or picturesque stops between the two cities?
Can anyone provide any information or details on either of these jobs, good or bad? [more inside]
Is it legal for an employer (FL Tax ID in FL) to suddenly decide after four years that they want to withhold the "standard" week's worth of pay (based on salary, not hourly)? [more inside]
Looking for practical tips on how and where to volunteer as a ZMP, unskilled worker with horrific social skills/personality. [more inside]
I'll soon be flying to the Bay Area in order to attend a memorial service. My schedule is pretty structured for that weekend, but I'll have about five hours of free time (by myself) on a Sunday night. What's the best way to spend those hours? [more inside]
I need to take masters credit worthy classes, I already have a Masters degree so want to take a greater range of courses. What classes would you put in a Masters degree for someone as part of the "Maker" community? [more inside]
I have chronic crippling body pain that can strike at any time. I am doing all the things I can to learn to live with it and ease it when it strikes but I have a hard time being with people sometimes because I get snappy when I feel like they don't understand how much energy it takes. Now I have a new girlfriend and it is going to cause problems. Have you lived with pain and relationships? [more inside]
OK, hive mind. Hoping you can help me out here. A while back, say, probably six or seven months ago, I saw a blog post... somewhere... about a cool house design in Europe. I think the design firm was Dutch or Belgian. The blog I saw it on may have been Design Sponge or Building a Wolf, but searching those sites yields no results. Here's what I remember: [more inside]
I'd like a Win7x64-compatible tool that can dump the structure of a DVD: like, a list of the disc's titles/chapters with their durations, each title's native resolution/display aspect radio, details on the audio tracks each title has, etc. If it can report on details like the menu/program hierarchy—what titles/other menus are accessible through each menu, which titles are set for mandatory playback—and where playback goes next when a specific title ends, so much the better, but that's not required. [more inside]
The provider of my baby's flat head fixing helmet submitted an insurance claim but it has not yet processed. If we quit treatment, will the provider tell the health insurance company? Will we have to pay the full amount out of pocket? [more inside]
I'm currently exploring artificial intelligence as a potential field to go into. What books (fiction or nonfiction), films, or resources would you recommend for learning about artificial intelligence, the possibilities of AI, and its future? What should I know? [more inside]
I have a 7 year old puggle. He has had no health issues to speak of. Within the last week I've started noticing him shivering. It lasts for up to 20 minutes at a time and doesn't seem to have any pattern. We're in Arizona so it's definitely not cold that's causing it. We keep the house air conditioned to around 78 degrees and always make sure he has water. Any thoughts on what could be causing this?
My brother and sister in law and 14 month old niece are coming to stay with us for one night this weekend. I want to make sure we have the right food. Or do I? [more inside]
I've purchased a new home from a developer. I want to make a small change to an interior item. They are telling me a cannot. How do I get what I want? [more inside]
On June 1, I gave month’s notice for an apartment I’ve been living in for ten years (I’m in California). I had a month-to-month lease and was never late with rent. Until now, I’ve had a cordial relationship with my landlady. When I gave her my notice, she called and said that she was going to keep my entire security deposit ($950). This came out of the blue. She claims it was for two things. A few months back, she replaced my stovetop. There was nothing wrong with it and I hadn’t asked her to replace it. [more inside]
I am lonely and alone in a different country. How can I be okay with being alone? [more inside]
This past weekend, we drove through Shiprock, New Mexico and I started wondering how much humans have changed the landscape. Pre-Columbus - what was the landscape like? Was there more water and groundcover - or was it always arid and (almost) desolate?
I just received a very nice and thoughtful letter of recommendation from one of the doctor's I've been working with for the past 2 years. The problem is he said we've worked together for 3. [more inside]
I need examples of technologies that have "advanced" over time, (where "advanced" means looks better, and maybe runs faster, but is basically the same ol' same ol',) and then a counter example of a totally different thing that solved the problem in a different way than the original tech did. I'm doing a talk where I'm trying to point out that sometimes the solution isn't a faster starship Enterprise, it's a better transporter, except I'm not exactly happy with that example.
On Tuesday, my cousin's dog let forth a deluge of pee on my feet. It was LOTS of pee. I was wearing my favorite leather sandals (very similar to these). While I cleaned off my feet, my cousin cleaned my sandals with a wet towel (no soap). I had to wear them the rest of the day, before I traveled home on Wednesday. I feel kind of icky at the prospect of wearing them again. How should I clean them?
I'm helping a non-profit organization that gets dozens of inquiries a day distribute the workload among a number of volunteers (around 70). I wanted to use Google's Collaborative Inbox for this, as it allows multiple users to respond from the same email address, mark message status (complete, requires response, does not require response), and assign messages to a particular user. The crucial feature it lacks is automatic assignment to particular support volunteers based on keywords or email address received from (e.g. firstname.lastname@example.org goes into the same inbox as all the others, but is auto-assigned to the volunteer who specializes in metalworkers). What alternatives to Google Groups are there for this scenario? Free options are ideal, but we have a budget in the tens of dollars a month if required.
I've always known I was a little different. I have trouble remembering things from my relatively normal childhood, so it took until high school to connect the few dots I had, but after I did that, I relished in the attraction I felt for certain other men. It was exciting and made me feel as though I was part of a community with a common story. I grew up with conservative parents who I haven't been able to tell but who I suspect have an inkling, given the things they found left open on my teenage computer and my shy, sensitive nature. I was fine with not making it a part of my identity and limited its sphere of influence to my taste in porn and online friendships. I never felt the need for a relationship- with women or men- but I enjoyed the way validation from "manly" men made me feel both emotionally and physically. [more inside]
I am a 36-year-old woman that was just diagnosed with (endometrial) atypical hyperplasia, which is a precursor to uterine cancer. (I may have cancer already, but I'm trying not to let my mind go there). I will, most likely, need a hysterectomy. The thing is, I'm scheduled to move 300 miles away, and I have several job interviews lined up in my new location - great ones, too. How should I handle this with potential employers, particularly when they ask me when I can start? Or should I forget about my job search for a while?
I eat pretty well, but I eat mostly the same stuff every day. Recently, my joints have started cracking a bit, and I'm wondering if mixing up my diet would help bring different nutrients to the body's hard workin' part. I'm 40, male, physically active, and am usually pursuing some kind of bodywork or therapy like Active Release Technique to keep everything cooperating. I have pretty good nutrition, but I want to mix it up. I'm open to supplements, too, but lean towards evidence-based suggestions that won't break the bank. [more inside]
I have a giant excel spreadsheet with ~2200 customers worth of order details for a Kickstarter. The details are complex; I have around 60 products I'm delivering, and I'd like to send everyone an email with their individual orders before I start shipping them out. How do I do this? I'm planning on outsourcing this job, but I'd like to know a bit more about who I'm trying to hire (An excel expert? A mailing list person? Some other platform I don't know about?)
I love books where a plucky group of 'survivors' works hard to rebuild after any kind of disaster, especially the nuts and bolts of the rebuilding process. I'm familiar with and have read many of the older works (published 5 or more years ago). I'm wondering if there are any more recent works I may have missed, especially with the recent wave of YA dystopia/post apocalyptic fiction. Please recommend newer spec-fiction Rebuilding civilization books (alt history/YA/Sci-fi all ok).
Help two (practically) first-time adult visitors plan a trip to Walt Disney World / the Wizarding World of Harry Potter next January. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
This was me a few months ago: Rent or sell my condo at a loss? Well, now I've decided to sell it. But have a question about what to do about my mortgage. [more inside]
My family and I (2 adults, 2 kids, probably 3 pieces of luggage) will be arriving at O'Hare around 4:30 pm. What's the easiest way to get to a condo in downtown Chicago? [more inside]
I just got one of those round glass tabletop convection ovens. Now what? [more inside]
The company I work for is starting to use Google Docs more frequently. I'd like to jump in with both feet. One of the things I'm most interested in is getting up to speed on using Google Apps Script as an end user who makes frequent but basic use of macros in Excel (so not so much as a developer or other high skill user). What are the best learning resources for this? Books, online tutorials, webinars, etc. anything is fine, just trying to figure out where to begin.
Can you help a cis and trans lesbian couple try to have a baby? Looking for resources, forums, blogs, columns, articles, and anything else that might be helpful. [more inside]
Looking for ways to find/contact a lost family member in Milan, Italy. Suggestions welcome. [more inside]
I've noticed that flavored cigar wraps aren't sold at any smoke shops in Chicago. Any recommendations on places in or close to the city that would sell these?
A few years ago I saw a video of a slow, solemn folk song sung in a European language (sorry I can't be more specific!). It begins quietly and builds up to a louder, epic sound. The choir was made up of hundreds of people, or perhaps it was a football stadium singing? It was possibly about thunder and lightning. My youtube-fu is failing me, maybe you can help?
So I left my previous job (as of this month) and was quickly offered contract work by a past manager who is a higher-up at a different company now. I respect this person, and would be happy to work for him again -- the "unsaid" (on paper) purpose is to bring me in as a full-time employee. That said, I don't even know how to get started with contract work. [more inside]
I'm fed up with Windows and want my next computer to be a Mac—but the product landscape has changed a lot since the last time I seriously considered it. Is an iMac really a competitive machine for someone doing heavy graphics and video work? [more inside]
We're Americans visiting Berlin. We have some German relatives who live here who we've met before and prior to this visit, when they knew we were coming, they invited us to a party that was already scheduled for during our visit. It's an annual family gathering held at the grandfather's house. Should we bring a gift? If so, what?
2 years ago my husband got all huffy and insulted that I hadn't seen all the James Bond movies and instated "Bondathon" where we watched one Bond movie, in order, every sunday every week until we got through them all. He had it all timed out so that the final week coincided with the release of Skyfall. I may not have liked all the movies (Oh my god, "You Only Live Twice" is utter crap!) but I really liked the experience otherwise. Give me some suggestions for other movie -athons that we can have. [more inside]
I’m looking for a General Practitioner in the Downtown/Western Toronto area who is both accepting new patients and sensitive to issues of medical anxiety. Much much more inside. [more inside]
I'm looking for a great project management & time tracking app that meets these criteria: 1. Not cloud-hosted (i.e., must be installed on our own servers) for legal reasons. 2. Great iOS apps. 3. Capacity to handle a team of multiple people, not just a single individual's projects 4. Painless time tracking (with reporting for the manager) 5. Ability to create tasks or projects (either, I'm flexible), estimate time in advance, track actual time spent, and report on difference between estimated time and actual time. [more inside]
I've had this scene scarred onto my brain for about 30 years, I've encountered another person online who also remembers it but likewise has no idea what movie or TV show it was. His and my descriptions of the scene below. [more inside]
How will changing variables in this microwave chocolate cake recipe change the outcome? [more inside]
I need help narrowing options to convert my site to responsive for tablets/mobile. I've developed chemo brain and just can't concentrate and stick to it myself. I don't have enough money to pay for a good developer/designer right now, either. I also need to get it done as soon as possible. (A bit more inside...) [more inside]
I'm shooting a friend's wedding this weekend and I'm looking for inspiration and ideas for non-standard wedding photography. NOT 'the happy couple's beautiful day' but something different. I'm not the primary shooter so I was thinking of doing something more 'fine arts', perhaps even dark... but I'm not yet sure where to take it. [more inside]
I have a huge plush turtle I like to cuddle when I sleep. I think I should probably clean that turtle once in a while, but how do you wash a stuffed animal? [more inside]
My brother's only means of listening to MP3s is with a DVD player. I've many spare DVD-Rs and would like to put them to use by making him DVD MP3 discs to listen to when we get together. [more inside]
What is and is not acceptable to include in job interview follow-up emails? Difficulty level: I'm literally in the middle of a project with them right now. [more inside]
Have you been in a similar situation with respect to anger? What helped? How did you identify where the anger is coming from? Were you able to resolve it? If so, how? [more inside]
I am hoping someone here is knowledgeable about this issue. I work for a government contractor, and after a few months on the job was told that I need to undergo a Public Trust investigation. It's not really a security clearance per se...but it is very similar. I spoke with a consultant who used to be a gov't investigator, and also spoke to a security clearance attorney (just a brief free consultation). [more inside]
I'd already stopped caring a few months ago and it's hard to go back to caring again. [more inside]
I love Twitter, and it's a big part of my social life, but I loathe all the (iPhone) Twitter apps out there (that I know of so far). There seems to be a lot of great features, but spread across multiple apps - where's my dream app?? [more inside]
I am planning a move across the country. Most of my furniture is cheap second-hand ikea second-hand, and it's really not worth it to rent a u-haul to drag it all across the country. So I'm mostly moving books, clothing, and some kitchen stuff. At a loss. For the most part speed is not a concern, I just need my stuff to get to my new home eventually. Any advice on the best and least expensive way to do this? Posting it one box at a time seems pretty expensive (from looking up usps rates).
My router is playing up, throttling my speeds unpredictably. I don't know where to start and the ISP quite rightly say it's my issue not theirs. Details... [more inside]
I own a small condo apartment. In December, I contacted the condo board to ask for information about how to proceed with changing my floating floor because I had a 6'X6' section of damaged flooring (just from 7 years of wear and tear... the original materials were really really shoddy). A representative responded immediately and gave me the material specifications and informed me that I would need to obtain authorization before proceeding with the work. I didn't proceed with the work at the time... [more inside]
Yesterday morning it smelled like gas from South Philly though center city and up into Fishtown, but it wasn't actually natural gas. What was it? [more inside]
My friend would like me to go out more. I am not interested. How do I address the tensions this is causing in our friendship? [more inside]
I'm open to all suggestions on this. I started a new job in January, one that requires me to write press releases, take photos, etc. Today, the boss, who is not my biggest fan, announced to our little group that whoever is assigned to take photos will also have to shoot video at the same event, [more inside]
I'm a reference for a friend who is applying for a license to practice law. The reference form asks me whether my friend has ever "been arrested, or engaged in unlawful conduct". My friend has not, to my knowledge, ever been arrested (or had any other trouble with the law), but like most people consumed alcohol before the age of 21, jaywalks, downloaded music as a teen, etc. Nothing serious at all. What should I say? [more inside]
My allergist says I'm allergic to a lot of stuff that grows around this area (like, highly allergic). The altitude isn't helping. I've had a chronic sinus infection since soon after I moved to NM, and no amount of medication has made it go away. It's been a two year battle and I really want to breathe normally again. Now, I know YANMD, but I have a couple of questions about allergies... [more inside]
Yankee Stadium (and all pro baseball parks) let you bring in a soft bag that measures up to 16 inches by 16 inches by 8 inches. So where do I find a bag that measures as close to 16"x16"x8" as possible? [more inside]
If Don Draper were a graphic designer, how would he convince a client that his job was indispensable? Any examples on how he handled condescending clients? [more inside]
Is it possible to haul a portable dishwasher strapped on top of a Ford Taurus? [more inside]
For you full-time working mothers, was having a second child a career killer like my googling suggests? Are there other potentially negative ramifications of having a second that I'm not considering? Feel free to ignore the special snowflake details inside; I tend to ramble. [more inside]
We have two adorable cats and an even more adorable 4-year-old son who we've just confirmed is allergic to cats. What now? [more inside]
FashionEmergencyFilter: I am in Copenhagen for an academic conference at which I am presenting. I had tailoring done on two special athletic fit sports coats, which was repeatedly delayed by the tailor to the point I had to grab the jackets immediately before my flight. But here I discovered that the tailoring was incomplete or perhaps not even started, due to a mixup, incompetence, whatever. Is it at all possible to get something like a next day or two alteration job done, anywhere, much less in Copenhagen?
I'm a new contact-lense wearer. A couple of weeks ago, I got the Acuvue Moist daily contact lenses from an optometrist. I was told to wear them daily for a week to get used to them. I wore them for about 4 days (5 hours/day) and then I quit wearing them because I had to do a lot of driving on those days and the contact lenses made my eyes feel dry and uncomfortable. So now I'm trying to wear them again but they still feel as uncomfortable as they did when I first began wearing them. I don't have blurry vision when wearing them. They just feel uncomfortable and I know that they are in my eyes. I don't know if it's because I'm still not used to them or that my eyes just can't handle contact lenses. How long did it take you to get used to your contact lenses at first and how did it feel for you?
I work at a school for gifted kids that has a lot of talented staff but not much emotional support for the kids. I have been providing that and am starting to get training for it, but I need a title and to more tightly define what I want my role to look like. Help me, Ask.Mefi! [more inside]
I work extensively with Microsoft Excel, and I'm putting together a list of little known facts about Excel for a presentation. I haven't found much on the interwebs that's exceptionally interesting. Does anyone have any facts they can share that come from off the beaten path? [more inside]
What tricks or tips do you have to make yourself go to bed? Even when I'm tired, I balance sleeping (man, sleeping is boring!) with doing something, whether it's Internetting, tidying the house, reading, etc. [I'm not a great sleeper, I probably get uninterrupted sleep once a week, which has been the case my entire life]
At the age of 24, I just completed my first year of undergraduate studies at a good public university. I am a strong student with a 4.0 GPA, but I feel that my interests are so broad and varied that I don't know how to narrow down on a specific path of study. Compound these problems with the ubiquitous financial and career concerns of the modern college student, and you have one confused student. How can I resolve this inner turmoil and structure a long-term plan that will bring me (at least some) peace of mind? [more inside]
I'm looking for a way to keep track of anywhere from 50 to 150 current projects for my manufacturing business. There seems to be a lot of project management suites out there in the cloud (Asana, Zoho, etc.) but they seem more involved than what I'm looking for. What I have envisioned in my head is more like an Access or Filemaker database -- a nice one-page synopsis of jobs with searchable fields like job name, job number, customer, current status (design, tooling, production, shipping, etc), salesperson, date of order, estimated delivery date, etc. Does this exist? Thanks!
A few years ago I went into my school's SciFi library and I was given a book of short stories which I read several of sitting on the floor of the library. And then I put down the book and I don't remember what it was called. One short story was about a world in which computation speeds get faster and faster until someone, eventually makes computers capable of running models on the order of complexity of a world's worth of physics very very quickly. I think the computers may have been the shape of small cubes. [more inside]
I am confused about my options for using voice/data/texting on my Verizon iPhone 5 while on a trip to Canada. [more inside]
How can I make my apartment (including my closets) smell great? [more inside]
Just saw and really liked The Lunchbox. What are some other quirky, intelligent, modern romantic comedies? International titles appreciated, but not at all necessary.
I hit my head frequently, on the order of several times a week. Usually it's something like straightening up into the freezer door after looking in the fridge. About 25% of the time I get a bad headache afterwards. I'd really like this to stop. [more inside]
I need help freeing my house / furniture of evil chemicals, because I seem to be allergic to damn near everything. I am particularly interested in ozone generators or other beyond the norm solutions - because we have tried so much already! [more inside]
I have no idea what to do. Eight months ago, I accepted an offer from Job A. Job A is limited in duration. I have a standing offer from Job B, which I am free to accept after Job A ends. Both jobs are in the same field, albeit geographically remote from one another. Sounds great, right? Well, just you wait. [more inside]
In 'The Half-Life of Facts' there's this neat anecdote on the importance of checking data: a guy puts a decimal point in the wrong place and everyone thinks the wrong thing about spinach for decades. But this academic paper makes me wonder - has anyone ever checked the origin of that data? [more inside]
I'm considering buying a house in rural Vermont where cable and dsl internet are not available, and mobile phone service is spotty. It seems the only option would be satellite internet through a provider such as HughesNet. Would this be a huge mistake? [more inside]
What is a good dry cat food for a senior (13 years plus) cat? [more inside]
A close, long time friend just got the C word from his doctor. This is not a good prognosis, it's perhaps weeks/months to live. He and his family are more than likely going through various stages of fear and emotional paralysis, just my assumption as I've yet to speak with them personally, just got the news. How can I best support them from a distance? [more inside]
Is it a faux-pas to not provide dinner for a party held during dinnertime? Also, need more suggestions for a first-time party host! [more inside]
Road trip filter! We're spending today (and tonight) in Portland and want to be in Seattle by mid-afternoon tomorrow. On the way, we'd like to visit a volcanic (or geological) outdoorsy spot. The original idea was to hike the Ape Cave lava tube, but looking at a map, it may be too far out of the way if we want to leave Portland at 9am and reach Seattle by 4. Any good alternatives?
So I'm trying to decide whether I'd prefer to send MP3s I dictate into a digital voice recorder to an overseas personal assistant to be transcribed or if there's some way to do so with technology. Even if it wasn't 100% exact I could still clean up the files later. So the question is: is there a way to do this? I have the latest version of Dragon Dictate for Mac and the files are digital. Is this possible?
I've been working as a library assistant for the past five years, but although I'm getting an MA in librarianship, I see no real future in it. I'm looking for jobs that can be done part time which would suit an anarcha-feminist interested in writing, art and technology. [more inside]
Pottering around NYC: I work near 34th St/Herald Square and have huge gaps in my work schedule. Help me find nearby places (walking distance or only a couple subway stops at the most) where I can escape the office? Slightly narrowing constraints inside: [more inside]
I'm between a rock and a hard place in my career, and I could really use some advice and outside perspective. In short: my current job is incredibly stressful, with an environment bordering on abusive. I have an offer for a new job which I think would be much more pleasant. But I'd really be putting some people I truly like in a bad position if I leave my job now. Details below. [more inside]
I know that ADHD and depression often occur together, understandably. But how does each change the way that the other displays? [more inside]
I've experienced extreme slowness with Google products, especially Gmail, for the past few weeks. This is true on several difference computers, tablets, etc., on several different internet connections and networks, using various browsers, apps, etc. [more inside]
I'm looking for an affordable home-sized A3+ printer that prints faint colours especially greys well and is relatively fast and not too expensive to run. [more inside]
I'm looking to put together a gift basket filled with college essentials for a soon-to-be college freshman living in the (driving distance from home) dorms for the first time. I can afford to drop some money on this, but the big things (computer, etc) have been covered. I can coordinate with the parents so that there aren't too many doubles of the same thing as well. What did you bring to college that was absolutely worth it?
I currently attend a top 2 law school in the UK (no prize for guessing which), and am interested in working in the US after I graduate. While I am aware that I will be eligible to take the bar exam in NY and California with a degree from a common law jurisdiction, would my prospects of landing a law firm gig be appreciably augmented if I go for an LLM (or perhaps even a JD) at a US law school? [more inside]
I want to buy a helmet for my 20 year old son who commutes to work and school via bike. He does not now own a helmet and hasn't since middle school and would not be likely to purchase one, but I'd like to give him one. What helmet would he be likely to wear? [more inside]
My spouse and I are going to leave our jobs at the end of the year and travel internationally throughout 2015, with no income. Are there any strategies we should be following to make the most, tax-wise, of this change? [more inside]
I found a lump in my armpit and will be getting it checked out by a doctor. Unfortunately, I work in a contact-based job and my next contract is schedule to begin in August. My benefits, including health insurance, will be in place again at that time, but I'm uninsured during summer months. Is this the sort of thing that can wait until I have insurance again or do I need to go to the doctor right now? [more inside]
Uncomfortable situation with an overly flirty fellow volunteer. How do I deflect his attention without being mean about it? And how do I be polite but not send him mixed messages? [more inside]
Driving home from work, my '99 Honda Civic suddenly got louder and, in addition, stared making a tinkling noise. I parked to look underneath and saw that there was a bolt dangling from the middle of the car. It's about 9 inches long, still has a nut on it, and was attached at the other end to a rubbery, possibly oval-shaped gasket sort of thing. Any ideas on a) what this is and b) how much I can reasonably expect to pay to get it fixed? [more inside]
I've very recently (ie yesterday) got myself a brand new desktop PC! I would really like your advice on the best ways to keep it running at its best, protected from the nasty things that lurk on the internet (virii, malware, spyware etc) and set up to get the most out of our blossoming relationship... The machine runs on Windows 8. [more inside]
Hi, There is a chance of being offered a very well paid 6 month job 7 hrs away from my newish home The lack of work here makes it hard to dismiss. That said I'm newish to my home and fond of it and my community. I suffer with hideous depressions and want to keep it on/build roots. (More inside). [more inside]
Stuck on someone, but things got weird and awkward. Would it be a good idea to open up and just let this person know how I feel about them? Wall o' text commences... [more inside]
Well, I'm feeling quite stupid now because my partner and I just redid the floors and walls of our new apartment, a building that was built in the 1970s, and I am just now thinking of the possible hazards that didn't cross my mind before we did all the renovation work (yes, stupid, I know). How worried should I be? More details inside. [more inside]
23 hours in Fort Lauderdale! Where to stay, what to do? [more inside]
I am looking for a reasonably priced seamstress or tailor in Austin. I love to buy these 70s / 80s silk shirts from thrift shops, they're lots of fun. But the collars are dorky thin, I'd like to have a seamstress or tailor take the collars off. [more inside]
I am submitting an application for a graphic design position and they are asking for design portfolios and two pieces of writing. I have no writing to give them. What the hell do I write about? I don't want to put a ton of time into researching topics so I can write about them but, seriously, I got nothing. I am a good writer with no outlet. Help!
I take everything seriously and overthink every last thing. How can I lighten the f- up? [Long, drawn out, unfun, over-thought more inside.] [more inside]
A friend occasionally buys fresh (not dry!) rice noodles for stir-fries and such, and they always end up clumping together. The package is in Chinese, so no help there. The usual tricks don't help: being careful not to over-cook, adding a little oil after draining, tossing them gently with the rest of the stir-fry rather than stirring. Anyone have any tips?
Hey All, I think I know the answer to this questions already, but I thought I would throw it out there to you, a trusted audience of my peers. I cracked my toenail on the biggest toe. It looks like someone took a nibble out of it. Nothing hurts, there is no damage to the nail bed. Should I just let it grow out? [more inside]
I inherited a beaded necklace I would like to wear, but first let me run it by you: is it racist? [more inside]
I work for a Fortune 500 company with global offices, and we need to switch to an enterprise-level immigration tracking and records management software that's global-friendly (supports foreign characters, data fields that are non-US specific). PROBLEM: We are not a law firm, and every immigration case management software I've seen caters to law firm needs and not our needs. [more inside]
What can we/she do to lessen my wife's PMS symptoms? Specifically cravings, and pretty heavily despondent mood swings. [more inside]
Earlier this year, I started a Meetup group for people across companies who work in my field (Interactive production at creative agencies). I've had 100 people join the Meetup group, but very low turnout (8-10 people) at the actual events. This is a third of the people who RSVP. More frustrating, the same people never come to more than one meetup, except for people I know already/work who are supportive of what I'm trying to build. Even the people who requested the next Meetup's topic don't attend. [more inside]
I'm trying to set up internet service at my apartment. AT&T's downstream is abysmally bad for what they charge – 3 mbps for a lousy $30 per month. Comcast is better, but possibly more evil, and there are a lot of confusing legal riders in the contract that make me scared. Help! [more inside]
My cel is an LG with AT&T pay-as-you-GoPhone. When I text, an apostrophe or a double quote 'costs' me 81 characters! Does this happen to other people? [more inside]
As my title says, I'm going to lose my job on June 30th, 2015. I'm not sure what to do in order to land on my feet, so I'd like some advice, other then save money (I am, $700-$900 per month) and apply for jobs (I also am, but my field is pretty thin, job-wise). I see my options as: 1) continue to apply for jobs for the next year and hope for the best 2) continue to work at my present position but also go to grad school in a different profession (I'm pretty sure this will work and I get a free class every semester at the university I work at). [more inside]
I will be applying to "editorial assistant" jobs soon, which is a career switch. How do I submit the best possible application? [more inside]
What are some interesting new uses of bitcoin's distributed ledger system? [more inside]
I will admit up front that this is a vague, cerebral kind of question. I'm not sure how to make it less so at this point, so if you can wade through, I'd really appreciate it. Wall-o-text ahoy. [more inside]
We moved out of our rental house and our property owner is refusing to return our full deposit or interest earned over the 9.5 years we lived there. What are our chances of winning in small claims court? A wall of snowflakes falling inside. [more inside]
I'm better now, but I feel that I was disabled before and want to re-file my taxes. Do I need to prove this, and how does that work? What does it take to prove disability, especially retroactively? [more inside]
I'm traveling to E. Greenwich, RI for a wedding in September and it's about $60 cheaper per person to fly into Boston than to Providence (arrive Thursday 3 pm - depart 7 pm Monday) I don't really want to deal with the traffic driving from Boston to Providence so I'm looking into rail options but I can't make heads or tails of the MBTA schedule. 1) Can I pick up the Providence line at the airport or would I have to get a cab or bus to the train? 2) Can I take my luggage (probably two bags)? 3) Can I rent a car on arrival in Providence? 4) What will it cost?
I just called up the non-emergency police station in a suburb in Long Island to report some keys I found, and upon the police coming by to pick them up, the officer asked me for my name and birthday. I was caught off guard and gave the information to the officer. While I'm sure the information is certainly not difficult to find in other ways, is there any reason I should be concerned?
There are old questions about this topic but I am looking for updated information and suggestions about strip clubs in Manhattan or Brooklyn. [more inside]
Is anyone aware of any studies/articles/information that talks about the frequency of certain personality disorders by occupation? Is this even a thing? Just idle curiosity...
How do you make your pizza sauce at home? Looking for recipes and tips! Especially for white sauce or non-standard "sauces" for pizza. [more inside]
I have six months left on my Verizon contract. My phone is dying and is not gonna last that long. I'm not eligible for an upgrade. I'm reluctant to enter another contract. Am I trapped? [more inside]
We have a low mileage 2000 Ford Econoline van which has been running well but now will not turn over. It was just running, turned it off, now it wont turn back on. We had to towed to a mechanic and they said it stated right up and could find nothing wrong, drove it home and same thing. All the electric is fine. Nothing happens when we turn the key, lights don't dim, nothing, but again, all the electric works great. A looses fuse or loose cable is what I would expect but where do we start with something like this? Thanks so much for any ideas.
Rate my reaction to burn rides. Am I getting upset about the marijuana equivalent of an alcoholic drink with dinner? Also: How to talk to my boyfriend about it. [more inside]
The love of my life has been admitted into a detox and rehab facility. Communication has been cut off (I'm told this is part of the process) and I have no idea how he is. I am sad, I never knew it was this bad, but he almost died of alcohol poisoning. What should I expect while he is in this facility? What will happen when he returns home? What should I do when he is home to make sure I am conveying my love and support?
Years ago I read John Derbyshire's Prime Obsession: Bernhard Riemann and the Greatest Unsolved Problem in Mathematics and loved it. Now I'm studying formal theory/real analysis and I'm finding it really it interesting, but would like to be able to spend my downtime reading about the background of math and also explains some of the concepts. Thanks!
I'd like to have a list of every US Supreme Court decision ever, including which justices voted how. I'd like the list to be easily parsable by a computer program. Details and alternatively acceptable things inside. [more inside]
We're tired of sleeping on a twin sized futon mattress. Literally. Help us find a solution. Difficulty: Spiral stairs! [more inside]
I'm spending several weeks in Cuernavaca, can you tell me... [more inside]
I am tasked with updating a WordPress site for my research facility. I need to add two features, an image gallery and an event ticker or news feed. Free plugins are greatly preferred, since the mechanics of payment for this sort of thing are a giant pain in the patookus. I am not terribly experienced with WordPress, but have spent a decent amount of time elbow deep in the site and have an idea of how most of it works. [more inside]
"Can you use the Flesch Reading Ease Formula with a one-word sentence or a phrase that isnt a complete sentence? Such as a multiple choice answer on a test.
I'm going to Dublin, Ireland for several weeks for work. Do you have any suggestions for something to acquire while I'm there that isn't a tourist-type thing and that is usually only doable if you're in a place for more than a few days? [more inside]
We're getting into Cuenca, Ecuador on a Friday and departing out of Quito on Saturday night, eight days later. Other than that, we have no plans. Where should we go, and how should we go there? [more inside]
My partner and I are looking for a house to rent in Seattle, which has become an increasingly competitive and expensive rental market. We've finally found a place that we're really excited about and we'll be touring it this weekend. Is there anything we can do to make sure we're the ones who get the house? Should we offer a deposit on the spot? Have credit reports on hand? Any other strategies that have helped you secure a rental in a tight market? [more inside]
Where can I find feijoa or feijoa-flavored items in or around Washington, DC? [more inside]
My NYC apartment management company is charging tenants for repairs to the roof and outside of the building (the facade). These are not improvements to the units, but to the building. The repairs were finished earlier this year. My apartment is rent stabilized. As I understand it, my next rent invoice will show an extra payment due for these repairs -- although I do not know what the fee will be yet. Before I call 311 and complain, is it legal to charge tenants for building improvements? Thanks in advance!
Image is here. I'm in Northern California (Bay Area) if that helps to clarify.
I just had a panic attack at work over my resting heart rate. Questions about resting heart rate and panic attacks inside. (Snowflakes abound) [more inside]
Due to a series of unforeseen circumstances, we will need to spend the summer sticking close to home. We are trying to embrace our homebound summer and are having a bit of trouble finding things to do. What are your quintessential summer activities? [more inside]
Aside from the fact that the music is quite enjoyable, why the over-representation? Can anyone shed light on this perception / observation? I notice that many retail stores, bars, restaurants/coffee shops, etc. play Brazilian music to a disproportionate level as compared to music from other places. [more inside]
I'm looking to purchase a router in the U.S. that will work in Russia. What do I need to buy? [more inside]
Place to stay, things (or thing!) to do for a very short visit to Copenhagen. [more inside]
Trying to return a purchase and the item is in USPS limbo: is it appropriate to initiate a chargeback? [more inside]
What software are you happy using, so much so that you are willing to part with your hard earned money? [more inside]
Asking on behalf of a friend (let's call her "Liz"): can a credit restoration company help fix a credit report with multiple charge-offs? If not, what CAN be done? Sadly drifting swirls of bleak gray snowflakes within... [more inside]
I need a script for a MySQL table. The table has multiple fields but one ENDDATE will be populated as a Date/time value. When I am 90 days from that date, I need to update the field STATUS with the value of "email" Work your magic hive! thanks
Do you have experience with conversations like "I'd really like to get a nice new stove, can we come to an agreement on the cost?" What have you done, what's worked, etc? [more inside]
How did you deal with self-doubt and uncertainty after committing to a path you are not so sure will pan out? [more inside]
Can you give some advice on how to document/archive medical expenses and medical records? My wife and I are particularly meticulous filers, but I don't think we've found our best practices for the medical stuff. Details inside. [more inside]
We awakened this morning to find that overnight, our 14-year-old cat had vomited many times throughout the house, and had also pooped in the living room and then leaked black/possibly very dark green fluid/diarrhea throughout the house as well. We do have a vet appointment for this afternoon, but the hive is good with cat stuff, so I'm asking here as well. Details about our kitty inside. [more inside]
For years, when I couldn't sleep for whatever reason, I was able to mindlessly play this game where I would picture my dream flat (which was an actual place I had spent time) and arrange the furniture in it how I would do it if it was mine. Now it doesn't work. What are your mental mindless games you use to drift off to sleep, or relax? [more inside]
I'm taking a beginning acting class for kicks and giggles, and our instructor has asked us all to pick a 1-2 minute monologue we'd like to work on performing. I'm having a tough time coming up with something. Can you give me ideas? [more inside]
I saw -- maybe here, maybe on the blue -- a link to a webpage with discussions of all sorts of future-science problems. I can't find it again. Help? [more inside]
I have a Bamboo tablet from a few years ago that Wacom no longer makes. I lost the stylus. Perhaps my google-fu is failing me, but it seems that a stylus that will work this is very hard to find. And when I can find it, it's $30 - and for not much more I can just get a used version of a newer pen/tablet but I don't want to buy a new one yet. [more inside]
Is there a cheaper way to purchase kitty food other than PetSmart or PetCo? Or if there's a website that magically sends it to the house? Four kitties who love Blue and Max Nutro are eating us out of house and home. [more inside]
My wife's iPhone 5 seems to have a hardware failure. I'm going to try taking it to the Apple Store tonight, anticipating they'll have to send it in for repairs. It's out-of-warranty, so we'll likely have to pay for the repair. The question I have: is there a loaner program? She needs something while it's out. I know they had one for a defect--is it available for all repairs?
Hi! I'm traveling to a french immersion program this summer for 5 weeks. Nothing but French everything is allowed...even music. Anyone have some recommendations for great french music (with lyrics)? I've listened to Yelle, and have exhausted my Carla Bruni playlist. All genres are welcomed, but I'd especially love some contemporary stuff! Merci!
I've recently decided to go more minimalistic in my running having been inspired by some books I've read (Born to Run, for instance) as well some articles from people whose opinions I've grown to trust and respect. I switched out of my stablizing running shoes (Saucony Omni 12) and purchased Innov-8 F-Lite 230s. I need advice on how to adjust to them. [more inside]
We’re in the very earliest stages of wedding planning, trying to come up with a guest list so that we have approximate numbers in mind when we look into venues, etc. How can - or should - we balance a seriously lopsided family tree with our desire to have our friends there (and not go bankrupt/remain engaged forever)? Details inside. [more inside]
I'm in a dire professional situation. Please help me process what just happened and plan my next move. I just got fired from an internship in my last week after slaving away for six months with little appreciation. [more inside]
I am in Bangkok for another week and a half. I've been here 18 days already and have been confined to my hotel recovering from surgery. It was fine, but boring, but now my fiance has had to return to the US ahead of me, and I find myself wondering if I can keep it together and maybe even have some fun while here. I've been cleared to leave the hotel as of today, but can't go far. I'm also having anxiety and some post-surgical depression (that's a thing, right?) that's making me wonder what I can do in this situation to stay sane? [more inside]
Working on a personal project, I am running into a number of math problems of the kind described within. I am not a math expert, so I don't know what to call these kinds of problems, so I don't know how to search for information about them. [more inside]
I'll be visiting London and I'd love to see some comedy while I'm there. I enjoy going to places like Upright Citizens Brigade in Los Angeles and Second City in Chicago. I love British sketch comedy and love shows like the Mighty Boosh. What are some clubs where I can see some comedy in that vein?
I live alone in the basement apartment of a row house in a large city; there are four people in the apartment upstairs who moved in fairly recently. We share a small, fenced-in yard, and the layout is such that it is my only entrance, while it is their backyard. With them came their two dogs, pit bulls, whom they allow to run loose in the yard. [more inside]
I have a pair of Levi's jeans with a fun illustrated label on the inside saying, among other things, "The more you wash 'em, the better they look and fit!" The label looks 70s to me, but I'm not very knowledgeable about Levi's, so I was wondering how I can date these and where I can find some more info about them. [more inside]
We have brand-new, unused needles and a new, unopened Lantus insulin vial that we had bought for our cat, but our cat passed away late last month. We can't seem to figure out if it's legal to resell these prescription items. Is it? [more inside]
I just graduated from college. I have had absolutely zero luck finding a job. Should I go back to school for computer science? [more inside]
It sounds like I am riding a chopper. [more inside]
Help me translate this tea cup from Japan... [more inside]
I'm curious as to how some people, despite taking up a "clean eating/healthy mind/healthy soul" lifestyle approach, justify frequent alcohol consumption and/or occasional hard drug use as fitting part of the lifestyle. I am curious to read about any anecdotes, studies, what have you, on the matter. [more inside]
I grew up with a Sicilian grandfather who was an amazing cook. As is usually the case with amazing grandparent cooks, he never wrote anything down. I know the recipe in general, I just don't know what to call it. [more inside]
Ok, so...long story short, I am really having a hard time making rent for reasons outside of my control. It's due in a week, and despite exhausting every venue I can think of I can't come up with that money. [more inside]
I need underpants that fit my post-baby hips, thighs, and belly flop and do not ride up. Tell me what to buy, Metafilter! [more inside]
Product recommendations for long hair [more inside]
A couple of weeks ago, our office Mac (OS X 10.7.5) started printing everything from Firefox (30.0) in landscape layout (on our HP laserjet CM1312nfi), when we need portrait layout to be the default. [more inside]
I'm a person who excels very well in jobs and make great first impressions. However, a problem that has plagued me all my life is forgetting ONE detail that might seem small but very important. [more inside]
I've been having knee pain recently resulting from physical activity. Will it get better with time, or do I have to choose between accepting it and taking a long break? [more inside]
Please recommend some good software for amateur authoring of DVDs? [more inside]
The person in question is my significant other’s ex, I’ll call Steve. We share custody of the kids (3 under 12 years). Their separation agreement calls for the responsibility/decision making for the kids to be shared 50/50. The kids go back and forth between houses. In reality, we do much more than our share. A recent conflict has left me searching for a new outlook on Steve. I’m tired of being frustrated and angry with his behavior and attitude. I need to find some peace. [more inside]
What are, and where to get, these miniatures as used in http://instagram.com/marsder ?
I'm starting a blog, and I have this hunch that perhaps a service or program exists out there that allows you to: 1) Write, format, and save blog posts, as well as mark them as "ready" to publish, and 2) Automate publishing those ready posts chronologically onto your blog at a fixed rate or alternatively by selecting a publishing date and time for every post marked as ready. The theory being, I could write as many posts as I want on a given day, but schedule and automate their publishing. Does this sort of thing exist? [more inside]
Sprained my ankle May 2013. It seemed to heal, and now is acting up again. Thoughts? Suggestions? [more inside]
When our staircase was remodeled several years ago, it left an area with no tile at the base of the new stairs (old stairs were curved, new ones are not.) It's been 6.5 years of stubbed toes and general unsightliness, and I need suggestions on what to do with this area. [more inside]
My family will be vacationing with another on a houseboat. Total of 4 adults and 5 kids, all good eaters (but the kids are kids, too). We are trying to optimize our food and seeking wisdom from those with experience. [more inside]
About two weeks ago my 2002 PT Cruiser Limited suffered a head gasket failure. This is the second time it's happened on this car in recent years and I'm not having it repaired it again. About a week ago my wife and I bought a nice 2011 Toyota Corolla LE to replace that car. Now I'm trying to figure out what to do with the Cruiser and how to keep its nice new tires for the Corolla. [more inside]
I recently started a mix of walking and jogging for an hour a day, to help me lose weight. I'm about a hundred pounds overweight and until now have been pretty sedentary. Since I started walking and jogging, I've had aching, tight pains in my shins, ankles and heels. What could be causing this? Is there anything I can do to prevent it from happening? [more inside]
I'm looking for examples of high-quality (official) Twitter feeds from academic departments/programs that are particularly informative (either to students or non-students, ideally both). I'm especially interested in departments or programs in healthcare/medical science-related fields, but all suggestions are welcome.
The paint on our wooden garage door is seriously peeling, and I want to re-paint it. How should I go about this? What tools do I need? What kind of paint should I use? Brand recommendations welcome. [more inside]
I have had my eye on a piece of furniture from Ikea. A friend is moving out of town and getting rid of that piece of furniture so I said I would buy it from him, but I'd like to have a plan for what to do with it before I bring it home. [more inside]
We (two adults and one rambunctious toddler) will be visiting family in Morton Grove, IL this coming week (Jun 28–Jul 4). Although we will be spending a few days with the family, we also want to make a number of trips into the city to see the sights. Since we are outside of Chicago we're wondering about the logistics of getting around. [more inside]
I am moving to NYC for work (yay!) and need to find an apartment. My start date in my new position is between 8/15 and 9/1, depending on when I can get into a place. Because I'm moving from a low-income area to a high-income one, my salary is basically doubling, which is fantastic, but not until 8/1. I'm trying to figure out a way to get around paying broker fees because my cash flow is not going to be great until the raise kicks in. [more inside]
Our UX designer is leaving for a new job, and we want to get her a going-away gift. Any ideas for something design-related that is somewhat geeky but cool and trendy?
Give me your crunchy, your cool, your refreshing flavors yearning to breathe free. Favorite dinner salad recipes and ideas, please? [more inside]
I'm decorating for the first time. I want things to look nice and not "grad school chic". Difficulty: I hate shopping and don't have a lot of time to spend fussing with things. Where should I buy stuff and how do I find out what I like? Is there a website where I can see a beautiful living room and click to buy what I like from it? [more inside]
Um, what bands do you know of that are similar in sound to Vampire Weekend or Cayucas? K thx bye.
I will be starting a highly ranked MBA program in August with a full ride. I already have one graduate degree, but this time I have an added degree of difficulty: I am now a mom. Does anyone have advice for balancing going back to school with the needs of a three year old? [more inside]
Can someone help me find well-researched academic or think tank articles that challenge the position that current US welfare spending is a disincentive to work? I am specifically asking about debate over actual real levels of benefits in various states in the USA, not other countries or welfare as an abstract ideal. I'm looking something that engages with the basic argument of this CATO whitepaper. [more inside]
I am interested in finding forums or blogs about breast cancer treatments in Germany to see the content and sentiment of conversations happening among patients and/or physicians. If they are behind a pay wall I would be interested in purchasing the data if possible. Thanks for input!
Can someone decipher what this says for me. Thanks in advance.
Dad's got cancer and the whole family (readers all) are looking for some book recommendations that are light, humorous without being wacky, and immersive. We've got a lot of time to sit around and worry. Thanks!
We bought a 1920 bungalow in Berkeley and need to get various things done. We're hiring an engineer to look at the foundation + retrofit and make plans. After that, should we hire a general contractor, or should we go with organizing everything by ourselves? [more inside]
For the past few months, I've found it very hard to run. Slowing down (a lot) helped the problem out but it still pops up occasionally. Lately I've been wondering if it's my heart. And yes, I want you to listen to a long recitation of my symptoms and problems. [more inside]
Looking at 2002 Chevy 2500 HD 4x4 Diesel, 220,000 miles. I'm told truck diesel engines like this last 500,000 miles. I'm new to diesel and buying a truck with that much mileage on it. What warning signs should I be looking for with either the engine or the chassis? [more inside]
What are basic pieces of kitchen science that would be helpful for me to know? I'm most interested in baking but cooking is okay too. Things like the effect of salt or liquid on a recipe or whether I want my bread dough to rise in a dry or humid area and why would be really great. I'm okay at following recipes but I'd absolutely love to know why different ingredients and combinations have different effects and how I can use that to my advantage. [more inside]
What are Pearl Jam's most punk influenced, or punk sounding songs, that you would recommend for a mix tape for my punk music interested girlfriend? I'm a big fan, but a musical novice. I don't know names of songs (except for the obvious ones), have skipped some of their albums, and just know there is someone out there who can answer this questions better than I. [more inside]
I am working on a story where a character recalls several intense "Rashomon" type events with multiple perspectives and interesting differences in how intense events play out to different witnesses. I've thought of a couple but I'd love the germ of a few more ideas... [more inside]
What's the word for when a website's malfunctioning makes you feel trapped and panic-achey in your hands and arms? For example, right now any Google Spreadsheet is stuck "Working..." and I can't get cells to update even though I can type in them. I'm using e-claustrophobia as a working word, but is there another name for this?
How can I best protect my dSLR camera during a rugged hiking trip, while still keeping it accessible for shooting? [more inside]
Please help me find information regarding homicides perpetrated in 2013, either nationally or at the state level. I am compiling information on LGBTQ victims of intimate partner violence related homicides, and I need to find all of these types of homicides that occurred in 2013. Websites listing all homicides are definitely also welcome in addition to intimate partner/domestic violence related homicide websites. These two sites are examples of what I need: North Carolina and Washington.
I live in a condo community. We have an in-ground swimming pool. The swimming pool is located in a secluded part of the property which is quite large and mostly undeveloped woods and ponds. The pool is surrounded by a chain link fence just under 6 feet tall. We have motion activated cameras and floodlights in the pool area. The gate is locked every night. But none of this deters drunk teenagers from climbing the fence and swimming at 3 AM, and sometimes they vandalize the pool. Is there a way to install an alarm in an outdoor setting? I am not up on the latest technology in this regard. My main concern would be animals or birds setting off such an alarm, which would obviously not be good. What are the best options here?
I'd like to upgrade my household's photography capabilities with a new camera and I am torn between a low-end DSLR and the new mirrorless micro-4/3rds cameras. I'm torn between the world of possibilities in the DSLR space vs. the more portable aspects of mirrorless cameras. [more inside]
Just wondering if this is something I should invest in, or would it be a waste of money? [more inside]
I run an alternative arts nonprofit that does literary events between pop and high culture, social justice interventions, and online magazines. We're making a new ABOUT US page. What are your favorite ABOUT US pages online? [more inside]
Sometime between 1980 and 1987 (or so), I saw a show that convinced me that pink eye was fatal. What was this show? [more inside]
My question is this: how do I get my hope back, and how do I reject my apparent acceptance of my current state? (Way too many details inside. Huge wall of text. Apologies in advance.) [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a good, reliable photo scanning service in the UK? I need to scan a decent number of old family photos, and I've also got some VHS tapes I need to digitise. [more inside]
i am in china apparently. google browser and anything related to google like gmail and dropbox have been blocked in the past month. and most file host / media share web sites are blocked too. i want to upload and transfer 1 gig of files to my SO in usa. could anybody give me some good suggestions?
Can I be a freelancer without having a "personal brand"? [more inside]
Where can I go to touch something that has been to the Moon and back? Is such a thing even possible? There must be artifacts spread around the U.S. Where's the nearest one to you (and where are you)?
I have this crazy rash thing on my legs, started a couple weeks ago with a small patch and has gradually spread. It is blotchy and itchy and generally unpleasant. I finally went to the doctor on Friday morning and was diagnosed with eczema and prescribed Triamcinolone, 2x a day for up to 2 weeks. How long should it take to start helping? Because my blotches are still spreading! [more inside]
The New York Times has historically been printed in multiple editions: a first edition, published around 10:30 PM; an early edition, printed the next morning; and afternoon/final editions, later that day. Are there copies of the earlier versions anywhere? [more inside]
I found my Bernette for Bernina 6800 which has been in storage of some kind since I last used it, over a decade ago. I would love to get it running again and get a lot of use out of it--what should be my next steps? [more inside]
As I am now in a relationship and have some money, I have been looking at taking mixed martial arts classes and/or kickboxing classes, but I feel compelled to take these classes regardless of whether nor not I like them. [more inside]
A friend was wracking her brain trying to recall a joke in Spanish about Portugese people.... [more inside]
Asking for a friend - her 12 year old son is "in love" with a 12 year old girl. Hormones are active and kids are definitely interested in doing more than just holding hands. My friend is struggling to figure out reasonable rules on dating behavior, especially since in her culture, children this young simple don't date and yet here in sunny California the rules seem to be different. Complications inside. [more inside]
My spouse went surfing and found this bird bobbing on the waves. There seemed to be something wrong with the bird so he took it home. Here's another pic. The bird is very passive and doesn't move much, so we're guessing it's either ill, injured or exhausted. What bird is this? And what should we do with it? We're in Holland. [more inside]
I will be in Pleasanton Tues and Wed and will have a bit of time, but sadly no car - what could/should I do with myself? [more inside]
My Mother brought a tool that looks like a strange type of pliers, however she has no idea what they are. So I told her I'd ask on here. So if anyone can enlighten us as to what these are used for that would be great. [more inside]
My GF and I will be visiting Big Bend National Park in late July, and we would like to take a 2-day river tour, probably in Santa Elena Canyon (although I'd love to hear if you think a different one is better for some reason). There are several tour companies listed on the wikitravel page, but I don't know which one would be the best choice. Have you gone on such a trip, and can you recommend or caution against any particular tour company? [more inside]
Where would you go if you had a month to regroup, restore, and come up with life's Plan B? Difficulty: the month in question is July, 2014. Yep -- just over a week from now. [more inside]
I can wear platinum, higher grade gold and titanium sometimes. The biggest problem is my belly ring, though I gave the same problem with earrings. Can I do something to surgical steel to open up my jewelry horizons? [more inside]
Some Librarians are trying to identify the book this art by McQuarrie goes with. [more inside]
My friend rents an apartment. According to the lease he signed there is a 4 day grace period before his rent is considered late. (He sometimes pays on the 4th of the month because of when he is paid). This month the grace period involves the July 4 holiday. [more inside]
I have trigeminal neuralgia, aka "the suicide disease." Good times! I've been given four treatment options: lifelong heavy-duty medication, having a needle stuck into my face with a few months' relief, CyberKnife radiology, or microvascular decompression surgery. Which should I choose? How do I even approach this decision? Difficulty level: I want to get pregnant, but I don't know when. [more inside]
I have a wonderful boyfriend and I want to do something really special for him, just because. His favorite thing on earth is Mystery Science Theater 3000. He already owns all of the episodes and watches them constantly, so I am looking for REALLY SPECIAL merchandise or home made MST3K items to buy for him. Can you guys point me in the right direction? Google and Etsy aren't turning up anything interesting.
I'm annoyed to use a question on this but whatever. Our Primo Flavorstation 120 isn't bubbling. I changed the CO2 canister but no improvement. When I press the button to fill the bottle, just a little bubbliness starts coming out, and then nothing. What the heck? [more inside]
I was curious as to what others have done to find happiness once they have come to a complete system halt? Without going into too much detail, the last two years have been not very much fun. I finished my degree, but nothing really makes me very happy these days. I keep myself busy with volunteer work and I read a lot, but this has not resulted in any lasting happiness.
I am experiencing acute PTSD symptoms after a variety of different traumas, most recently an incredibly toxic roommate/landlady situation which I am now out of. I am looking for suggestions on behavioral changes to implement, therapeutic techniques, and books that might help. [more inside]
Moving from a situation where I have 1 TV to one where I will have multiple TVs. What is the high-quality budget alternative to get DVR content to multiple sets? [more inside]
briefly, over the last 3 years i experienced various times of unemployment. I've unfortunately accumulated about $45k in credit card debt. Does it make sense for me to have a debt consolidation service negotiate my balance down at the expense of my credit? [more inside]
Asking for a friend. Does anyone remember the name of a bar/ night club in Frederick, Maryland where all drinks were $1.00? [more inside]
My friend and I found two abandoned kittens when we walked her dog last week. We saved them from the street, but neither of us can keep them (she: single mom who can't afford two cats; me: in Hoboken, NJ and already have two cats). She's willing to foster, but can only do so for the rest of the week as she's leaving for six weeks a week from today. They're great - playful and affectionate with each other and they turn on their motors as soon as you pick them up. She got an offer to make them barn cats, but they seem too sweet and gentle for that. They've been to the vet and are about 12 weeks old. They're being spayed tomorrow and will soon be ready for a home. My friend called a local rescue organization, but they don't have any foster homes available. Does anyone have any experience with a good rescue near Merritt Island, FL?
I was a very happy Picasa user, but for reasons like the push to G+ and an attempt to minimize my general Google reliance I'm looking for another service. [more inside]
I have a dog, and the vet I take him to is okay. She's nice, I'm sure she's competent, but she's not the best communicator, and for some reason I don't have absolute confidence in her. My dog has a heart issue, and I'm going to want a really good vet as he gets older. Any recommendations? I'm in Park Slope, but would go elsewhere for someone great.
Help me find this half-remembered website: You tell the site what languages you speak, and it tells you what percentage of the planet's population you can communicate with. I remember it having a map that broke it down by country or continent, but I could be conflating it with another website.
Is "good" luggage worth purchasing? [more inside]
So I'm going to New York, and I reserved a hotel room through otel.com. I'm supposed to print out a voucher from Tourico (with whom they contract) and give it to the hotel. The website and correspondence don't inspire confidence. Neither do the super-low prices. Is the site legit? The hotel does have my reservation, so that part is fine. I'm just worried that they'll tell me they don't take the printed voucher as payment or like. Should I worry? Thanks!
We have a naming convention for our cats - so far they are all science related terms that start with M. We have Magnet, Möbius and Meniscus. Now we have a new little fluff ball - a black kitten with a white tuft on her chest. Can you help think of a name for her? So far we've thrown around Muon, Mendel (too masculine) and plain ol' μ.
Issues with downloading the Minecraft update to XBox 360. Please help so my child doesn't disown me forever. [more inside]
I have come to understand that a typical modern window or residential-central air conditioner (which I believe is referred to in the industry as a "Direct Expansion" or DX unit) has a coefficient of performance which typically ranges between 3.0 and 3.5. That is to say, for every unit of energy consumed, the air conditioner removes between 3 and 3.5 units of heat from the conditioned space. I have a few questions regarding this, inside. [more inside]
In a discussion elsewhere on the internets a twist on a common science fictional transportation technology was proposed. A spaceship leaps from one point in space to another, but while it is instantaneous for the passengers, the transit actually takes some small amount of time longer than light would take to cover the distance (let's say the Planck time). Would the time delay prevent the violation of causality? It appears that everyone is staying in their light cones, what am I missing? [more inside]
I'm looking for the original footage of this video, entitled "Words of wisdom brought to you by an insane person" (http://vimeo.com/98810628). This version has a Hans Zimmer song over the top and I want the original without any music. Can anyone help?
I had a health scare and a physician in an emergency room misdiagnosed me. What should I do? (a question especially for the md's here) [more inside]
I work an extremely stressful seasonal job. I start getting 2 days off a week starting in July. My girlfriend and I love going to the Asbury Park beach. We usually go in August/September, but I NEED a break now. I suffer from anxiety and the laid back vibe of the beach coupled with the relaxation of the water calms me. My concern is that earlier in the year the beach will be packed and the hotels will be expensive. Does anyone have any experience with this location this time of year? I don't like tons of people. Are there any alternatives in the tri-state area? It doesn't even have to be a beach. It just has to be relatively inexpensive and RELAXING!!! Something that includes nature is a big plus (especially water). I'm not a fan of camping. Thank you in advance!
I have OS X Server 10.9, and I'll be using YUI's Pure to create a lovely responsive page/website but I need a counter of the downloaded files on the page. I also want to show the states of page access.
I recently got my friend hooked on "so-bad-they're-good" movies. We're looking for more to watch together, but the last few haven't tickled our funny bones quite like the others we've watched. Happen to know of any quality bad movies that might leave us in stitches? So far we've enjoyed these films the most: The Room, Troll 2, Birdemic, Miami Connection, and Sharknado.
My wife Jane and I are in our 40s and have been together for eight years. We got along well for the first few years, but things have been steadily going south since then. In theory, we both want to improve our marriage, but we are not making much progress on our own. I could use some advice. [more inside]
How can I get the most out of fresh habanero peppers? [more inside]
How do I make a genuine smile when I encounter people so that they know that I'm open to interactions? [more inside]
Family -- including my preteen cousin -- is coming to visit me in Los Angeles and I'm not sure where to bring them. Special personality snowflakes inside. [more inside]
If i activate my new credit card will i need to transfer my balance over or will they have already done that? [more inside]
I write product descriptions for a small online retailler. One of our directors left, joined a competitor, and promptly used all my product descriptions on this new site. I'm fuming, but my boss says to let it slide because we're "playing the long game". How do I cope? [more inside]
I am taking a short train trip from CA to Albuquerque next weekend for a few days. I'm on a very tight budget and I won't be able to afford a car. How can I get around and what should I see? [more inside]
Is it fine to clean my silicone eartips with alcohol-based wipes? I've been doing it for a few years, and even the same tips for quite a while, without noticing any problem. Yet some scant audiophile advice on the Net says don't use alcohol. I'm wondering "Why not?" But I'm concerned if I am doing damage... Sometimes I do soak them in soapy water, but it's so time-saving to wipe them down with these pads from the first-aid aisle; plus, they -- and my ears -- stay pretty clean anyway. (I have standard silicone tips that came with Brainwavz and other brands of in-ear monitors.) Thank you.
Took a promotion I'm not sure I'm able to deal with right now. Head is on the fence, gut says get out. What to do? [more inside]
What makes a good Barbecue? [more inside]
My friend is divorced, ex has custody of the 2 children. Ex is a sociopath who has made screwing up my friend's life one of his main hobbies. Their divorce decree has uncovered medical expenses split 50/50. While this may seem like a usual, reasonable thing, especially since the ex is in the military with very good health insurance and doctors at his large army base, he is starting to use it against her. [more inside]
What books can I read about the people side of managing software developers, as opposed to the process side? [more inside]
I posted this question a few weeks ago. Since then I have taken the hive's advice and sought medical attention. The results have been less than thrilling. [more inside]
Are there any apps or programs that let me count weekly calories instead of daily? [more inside]
The "health club" in my apt. building (some free weights, a few weight machines, treadmills, ellipticals) requires tenants to sign an agreement, the first two clauses of which involve litigation: The first says, paraphrasing, I hereby release, waive, discharge and covenant not to sue the management co., owners, employees, etc. from all liability to me and anyone with me for any loss or damage on account of my injury or death caused by the exercise equipment, negligence of the company, etc. [more inside]
I think I need some boots: hiking boots, winter boots and stylish boots. But I am boot-ignorant. Please help me understand what I'm looking for! (I'm female) [more inside]
Posting for Mr. 58: About 10 years ago I would regularly back-up a couple of household Macs using Retrospect Express (version 4.9). I have a number of these old backup files sitting on a drive and I don't know how to recover the files. As far as I can tell I need a version of Retrospect Express that matches the version thru which the backups were created. I'll also need a Mac running OS 9 on which Retrospect was then running. These are both significant hurdles. I've been occasionally hunting on ebay for a the software with no luck. Does anyone have any advice on what might work? Any other possible solutions to investigate?
Sometime in the past few months I read the beginning of what I remember as a noir novel that is a about a hitman. Please help me find it, more inside. [more inside]
I start a darkroom class next week, and want to get my cameras up to snuff before then. They haven't been used in decades, and have been sitting in a pile in a bag on a dusty shelf in the meantime. The models are: two Minolta SRT101s (likely from the 1970s), one Mamiya MSX1000 (also likely from the 1970s), and one Franke & Heidecke Braunshweig Compur-Rapid Heidoscop-Anastigmat 1:2.8 (likely from the 1950s, though not sure). [more inside]
What can I do with common and grey morels?
Today he forgot about our date, and i am really upset because it shows that he doesn't like me right? I would love to see him more regularly, but it isn't happening. At the beginning of our relationship we were both a bit nervous and getting to know eachother, but the last couple of times have been great and we really connected on a deeper level, which is why i still want to see him, but not sure if it is worth it if he flakes. Details inside. [more inside]
I'm currently applying for nannying jobs and have been informed by my car insurance company that my policy does not cover me if I am transporting a client in my car, and that they do not offer coverage for business purposes. They gave me contact information for their parent company, who might be able to help, but the parent company is not available until Monday. I'm in California, if that matters. [more inside]
Looking for websites and books for guidance and encouragement, not just techniques, in professional dress. I am entering a field where the top echelon of business casual seems to be the default setting. [more inside]
Where (if anywhere) can I go in Manhattan to browse a reasonably large selection of high-quality men's dress shoes and try them on in different sizes without needing to deal with any salespeople? A warehouse with a bench would be fine. I am a guy with large but not gargantuan feet if that matters. Thanks.
I have a difficult housemate who makes me stressed out and angry, has alienated my friends such that they don't want to come over to my house, and who my housemates and I asked to leave when the lease ends and the new lease begins. She refuses to leave. What happens now? [more inside]
I am staying in Ampelokipi and am spending most of my days in Kolonaki. I am not Greek and do not speak Greek. Is there a department store or something around here where I could buy a cheap pair of exercise shorts? I tried the Carrefour in Ampelokipi and wasn't able to find any. [more inside]
This question is about a professor I had in college. The crime in question involves child porn. [more inside]
I need to spice up my radio show, and I think one way I want to do it is to start incorporating some stand-up comedy clips, both classic and modern. Specific needs inside. [more inside]
I'd appreciate help naming a small graphic design firm whose work is grounded in natural beauty. Extra points for help with a tagline based on the view that nature is the touchstone of all art. Brainstorming so far has yielded: "Second Nature Arts" and "Inner Nature Designs." I'm getting stuck because I don't want to use the word, "nature" twice: in both the name and the tagline. Any other words evoke natural beauty for you?
Can anyone suggest a relatively quiet place to study(must have power socket and wifi) without loud music and not too cold? In NYC, Brooklyn or Manhattan. Preferrably can stay for long hours. NYU library is too cold due to AC temp too low. I already wear long pant and fleece jacket, just cant sit still without chills. Thanks.
Here is a picture of them. Things we know: no one has gotten bites from them, they are always dead or dying when we find them, seems like there are more of them now that the weather is getting warmer, seem to be found near the walls although no obvious holes (we recently got new windows and doors and skirting). What are they and how do we get rid of them because they are grossing me out.
My husband will be moving from where we live in the NYC area to Boston for work for a minimum of three to five years and I'll be staying here. I'm looking for suggestions on how to transition to a long distance relationship and then how to maintain it. Best practices, things that worked, things that didn't work, and any ideas for how to survive a difficult transition. [more inside]
What other music will I like if I think I've misspent my life for not seeing this live?
My back is arching while sleeping (well, arching all the time actually). I'm currently doing what I can stretch-wise to try and help the problem, but I often wake up in pain. The arch makes me sore - my lower back never touches the bed. I've been told pillows for my knees/lower back would help. What knee/lower back pillows have you tried that helped relieve the pressure on your lower back? I'll probably be purchasing from Amazon.
I need more ideas for what I can do to make my dog's time happier & more active/stimulating for him while I am focused on the computer doing my work. [more inside]
I want to purchase a few elevator advertising touch screens. You know, those interactive touch-screens that display all kinds of adverts and slideshows. Problem is, I don't know where to get them. [more inside]
My daughter has suddenly started having "blow outs" nearly daily - help me fit her diapers better. [more inside]
I am a show watcher wondering if a specific Game of Thrones fan theory has been confirmed in the books. I am hoping that the Maesters among us will deign to indulge me. [more inside]
I'm looking for archives of... things to look at and meander through. Things like those that I have seen of medieval manuscripts, engravings of pictures of businesses featured on receipts from the 1800s (? not sure of dates), and I guess other things of that ilk. [more inside]
Can you translate this inscription? Click here
I encountered this website today: a news aggregator that wants you to put it on your smartphone, but if you want to read it on a normal computer you have to read it inside a pretend smartphone. [more inside]
I've read Paul Boyer's By the Bomb's Early Light (1985) and Margot Henriksen's Dr. Strangelove's America (1997), and both focus on American society and its reactions to the bomb. Now I'm looking for books and other material that give an overview of other countries in the atomic age. Can you recommend any? [more inside]
Looking for words or short phrases that represent the idea that it was "Nice Meeting You" or "we will see each other again" or maybe "let's hang out again sometime soon." The best I've got so far is "Ciao," which may be perfect - it means hello and goodbye, and it's kind of informal. [more inside]
As a horror fan, I've never understood the appeal of the Saw movies. Can someone explain the psychology involved with liking that series and similar types of movies? [more inside]
Is there a recommended waiting time between a cold sore healing and performing oral sex on someone who may not have HSV-1? Does the answer change if Abreva warded off the cold sore before it actually appeared? [more inside]
Who was that elderly Chinese Kung Fu teacher in Salt Lake City in the early 1990's? [more inside]
I am an inexperienced driver, and I am about to be taking a number of long road-trips alone across the US this year. To aid me, I am looking for the best GPS that is reasonably priced. Can you recommend one for me? [more inside]
In my last question I laid out a basic primer to understanding the clusterfuck that is my life right now and you were very helpful. I took some of your advice and hired a cleaning lady to clean my kitchen. But I realize now that the kind of help I need for getting the rest of the house in order is kind of extreme and I need help thinking it through and making a plan. [more inside]
How to get those health care dollars? [more inside]
When I'm sitting in the room with the breaker box to my house, I hear a series of short buzzes, like "bzzzt." The noise seems to be coming from the breaker box, and I notice that a faceplate to one of the switches is missing (breakers were last switched off a month or two ago, when new heat pump was installed.). Here is (or should be) the image (if not, there's just copper surface where the breaker faceplate should be):
I have one of those insane ideas for a birthday present for my other half, but it involves making an 'ice crystal' out of acrylic or glass or something and I have no idea where to start, or where to start looking for help... [more inside]
Hello everyone! I am early in my transition as a trans woman and am working on growing my hair out. In the meantime I am interested in figuring out some way to do my hair that looks cute and feminine and doesn't require a ton of maintenance. [more inside]
Are there any prominent examples of authors who wrote the middle book (or even the last book) in a trilogy first? Non-fiction preferred, but will take fiction examples, too.
Your favorite icebox cakes / put everything in a baking dish and let it sit in the refrigerator and get really delicious-type cakes? Let me have them so I don't have to turn my oven on this summer. [more inside]
He's asking me what style of ring I'd like; it's just a promise/"love you" ring right now, but of course it's relevant for the "big one", we both know. Except I don't know what I like. Special snowflake: periodic months-long long-distance situation. [more inside]
I am absolutely convinced that having a job that requires me to spend a good chunk of my day in front of a computer is contributing to my depression. What jobs can I do, given my background, that will get me a bit of social interaction and challenge? (Not too much social interaction, just a little). [more inside]
I am in search of the best pillows ever for sleeping. Can you help me? [more inside]
Assuming nothing goes catastrophically wrong (which might not be a good assumption to make, unfortunately), I should be getting a PhD in about 18 months. I'm about 90% sure that I don't want to stay in academia. What steps can I start taking now to have a smoother career change? [more inside]
Dearest Mefites with Missouri Knowledge: it is so hot, and I want to go swimming so badly! And I mean real swimming -- none of this water park or public pool business. Please tell me of the best waterholes near St. Louis, MO. [more inside]
I'm looking for a psychiatrist in the Northampton/Amherst Massachusetts area, and it's proving difficult. [more inside]
I'm on the Corporate Social Responsibility team at work, and one of the things I'd really like to do this winter is a "Giving Tree", where people can choose a gift to buy for a stranger in tough times. Have you done this? Can you help me figure out how to make it happen? [more inside]
At some point after reading My Life in France, I convinced myself that Alex Prud'homme wrote that after Julia Child's death, Paul quickly married her long-time assistant, with an explanation that he didn't know how to be alone after being married so many years. That's not the case (in fact, she outlived him by 10 years). I know that this is a long shot because that sort of thing probably happens quite a bit, but: Who was I thinking of? [more inside]
Next week, I am taking the Empire Builder from Chicago to Portland, Oregon. In a previous question about train travel, someone suggested reading books that take place along your train route. This is an idea I love ... and I have at least 47 hours to pass! So: what are your favorite (kindle) books which occur in Wisconsin, Minnesota, North Dakota, Montana, Idaho, Washington, or Oregon? Bonus for rural themes. I am not a big mystery fan, but if it is particularly excellent, I'll read it. Romance is out. Otherwise, I'm open to anything!
Hello MeFites, I'd like to redo my kitchen but I'm not sure what it is I want. Help me figure it out! [more inside]
I am considering a job offer that would relocate me from Washington, D.C. (an expensive place), to San Francisco (an even more expensive place). I'm trying to get an idea of how much of a bump in salary I'd need in order to make the move worthwhile. [more inside]
If I plan to define a CSS class to style only one type of element, is it a good idea to write the selector, for example, as img.gallery rather than simply .gallery? Seems that it would make the CSS a little more human-readable.
I'm teaching a three-hour daily intensive college Latin class. Help me come up with ideas to relieve the mind-numbing boredom of endless drills and "The queen sent the letter to the citizens"-type sentences. [more inside]
There are loads of options (too many!), but I can't figure out if there is a basic parser that I could use and tweak a bit, or which might be the most straight-forward to create a new parser for a language variety without one. Any ideas for someone with limited skill would be awesome at this point. [more inside]
The Community Radio Station I helped found uses Nicecast to repeat the signal from the station to our streaming provider. The problem is that if there is a power outage when the system starts back up Nicecast thinks Port 8000 is busy and so switches to Port 8001. [more inside]
I get conflicted information about the browser extensions/add-ons Awesome Screenshot and Hover-Zoom. My university community uses browser extensions/add-ons extensively, in particular, Awesome Screenshot across Firefox, Chrome and Safari. Concerns? [more inside]
I'm running a Google Hangout-based D&D game and I was thinking that certain scenes might be nicely enhanced with some background music. [more inside]
I've got an old Verizon iPhone I would dearly love to keep as long as possible, because once I give it up for a newer one I lose my unlimited data plan. (Grumble! Rant!). [more inside]
Zombies outside hospital; man and woman inside; man is infected and slowly turning; woman must decide when to kill him. Those are the vague details because I never saw this movie but I remember reading reviews and wanting to see it. I think the title was one word & I think it was a spanish-language film. [more inside]
A friend asked me this and I'm coming up blank: I remember an old SF story ('50s or earlier) about a person living at a time when everything is run by computers (i.e. now) and he is entered has having died, so the system cancels all his ID, freezes his bank account, won't recognise him as alive, and he ends up living in the cracks (he can't be arrested because he's dead, etc.) Can you remember which story this is?
Okay, second charcuterie question in a row! So I have two hams in my basement, in trashbags, covered in a buttload of salt. Am I going to die of botulism? [more inside]
I'm enjoying following Moby Dick excerpts via Twitter, and Angus MacLise's calendar poem YEAR. Are there any other Twitter accounts like this that the hive would recommend? [more inside]
How much is it worth to you to have (relative) freedom of choice? Enrolling in health insurance and I'm debating between an HMO and a PPO (both under Blue Shield of CA). The difference in cost is roughly $1,000. I'm a 26 year old female but I'm not exactly "healthy". I have mysterious, debilitating, chronic joint pain all over (undiagnosed as of yet), a couple car accident-related injuries that flare up every now and then, and I need to get a pap smear every 3 months due to a recent scare. So acupuncturists, chiropractors, internists, rheumatologists, and gynecologists must all be within easy reach for me. [more inside]
A friend is having a 2-day wedding to a man whom only one of the 4 of our invited group has met, in a location that's an expensive pain in the butt to get to, and will make us all late for work Monday. None of us really want to go. Are we horrible people? [more inside]
Having a party on Sunday. Menu is mostly settled, salads, appetizers, vegetarian chili, a rice dish, etc. I also have three pounds of 'choice dry-aged top sirloin' and am wondering if there's any prepare-ahead dish I could make and serve at the party. No grilling, no last minute prep but want lots of flavor and easy to serve. Like Ropa Vieja? Your suggestions and recipes, please!
How can I as a poor person make myself less scary to a potential partner who has gainful employment and a career? [more inside]
I need recommendations for movies or shows to watch with my boyfriend, specifically lighthearted goofy comedies and musicals. [more inside]
I just bought these incredibly handsome shoes. They were delivered today...along with an overpowering mothball smell. I've noticed the same odor on new denim products in several stores lately. I have two questions. [more inside]
Do I need to cash/euro to get by for 12 hours in Frankfurt? [more inside]
I wish to read fiction that has a very high ratio of exposition imparted to amount of actual writing. [more inside]
About a month ago, I hooked up with a classmate that I had met earlier in the semester. There had been a lot of tension between us since the beginning of the year, and it finally happened the last week of the semester. It was a Big Thing for me because it was the first time I had hooked up with a guy and outwardly acknowledged my bisexuality. It was great, but then the semester ended and we both went back to our respective hometowns for the summer. More details and questions inside... [more inside]
So, I just got promoted to a new position at my company (Yay!). Unfortunately, the new requirements involve scheduling a ridiculous number of people. It turns out my predecessor has just been doing dozens of iterations manually until one kind of worked, but every slight change puts a bunch of other things out of wack. I feel like Excel could probably be capable of doing it, but I have no idea how I would go about designing such a spread sheet. [more inside]
I’m looking to take a 2-week trip in Africa, to somewhere that can be a good introduction to the area. Current short-list is Kenya, Ghana, or South Africa. Where would you recommend to go? [more inside]
I am going to a cabin in Maine for the summer. When I am in this cabin I like to spend many hours cooking and fussing over meals. The fussier the better. Problem: there is no oven. What are your best ovenless recipes suitable for two people in the middle of nowhere with lots of time on thier hands? [more inside]
I just updated my iMac to 10.9.3 Mavericks. I just discovered that the Midisport 4x4 USB MIDI interface that was using with another Mac doesn't work. It would appear that M-Audio doesn't support 10.9. I tried installing their latest driver for the heck of it but it still doesn't appear to work. Should I just get a new interface or do I have options with this one?
I'd like to go camping with my son and daughter this summer, somewhere near Columbus Ohio. We would like to go fishing (a place that is easy to fish at with high likelihood of success), and gathering some wild edibles that are easily identifiable with my wild edible book. [more inside]
My last few glasses prescriptions have come up with 0.25 dioptres of astigmatism in them in various directions (i.e. not consistent between eye tests). I've only had my eyes examined because I've needed to buy new glasses, not because of any difficulty seeing, but I've not enjoyed the effects of getting used to new astigmatism correction on new lenses, and can't help but feel it's spurious precision in the testing. [more inside]
I've always been good at being on my own. I read a lot, love going to movies and museums alone. I've traveled alone extensively. But lately, being alone has become almost unbearable, and I can't figure out what the problem is. I have lots of good friends (though my very best friend moved thousands of miles away a few years ago, I have at least five "one of my best friends" in the area). My husband and I enjoy each other's company immensely and never run out of things to talk about. I have a large social circle, and there are big parties at least a few times a month, and lots of smaller get-togethers. My "events' page runneth over. A few things have changed in the last year, though. [more inside]
Lately I've found it difficult to find anything new to play on my iPhone (have an iPhone 5 and an iPad, but typically use my iPhone for this sort of thing). I've been playing the same old games for a while now and need some new ones. [more inside]
Or is it easy enough to learn that I could learn it in a couple of weeks for a job? [more inside]
I have a table with duplicate values in one column. Some of the other columns have a value, some don't. I want to have one row for each record, with all of the colums values in one row (NOT CONCATENATED). I can use Excel or Access for this. [more inside]
There must be a simple way thru a desktop widget or chrome extension to display the step count (and perhaps other daily data) from my fitbit on my windows 7 desktop or my Google Chrome browser toolbar, but I can't seem to find it. Does anybody know how to do this? thank you so much!
I'd really like to give someone an iTunes gift voucher. Problem: I'm in the UK and they're in the US, and my googling so far says it can't be done cross-border. Is there a workaround I'm missing?
I'm a mid 30's female living with another mid 30's female. I'm not a big fan of having out of town house guests. But I'm not sure how to broach the subject when my boyfriend occasionally stays at our place. Do I have the right be bring up my irritation? [more inside]
For many reasons, I think it could be entertaining and educational for me to blog (anonymously, and with identifying details removed) about my experiences as an escort. However, I have a few questions that I'm dealing with. [more inside]
I'm organizing as as-yet themeless, artist-less show on contemporary Saudi Arabian art for an American audience. Where could I find significant artists, significant prior shows, critical responses, constraints, if any, under which they work, and, in general, information on the Saudi cultural climate? Books, essays, blogs, I'm open to anything at this early research date. I don't read Arabic, by the way, but I can get by in French, Italian, and German, if needed. Thanks.
I would write "1950s" or "1980s", and this is universal among native English speakers, so far as I am aware. In international contexts, however, I sometimes observe that people whose English spelling is otherwise flawless will consistently write "1950ies" or "1980ies", which reads to me like it has an extra syllable. Where does this convention come from, and what linguistic background makes it sound like a reasonable way to contract these numbers? [more inside]
My co-workers and I have created a "living" (continually updated) manual for some processes we do with some associated agencies, but none of us are technical writers or copy editors, so we're looking for assistance in the structure and appearance. Please share your experiences, guides, and tutorials for creating and managing a manual that won't remain in a fixed form. [more inside]
I'm conflicted about using IVF to conceive, but at this point it's my only option. I have severe endometriosis and the eggs reserve of someone close to 40 (I've just turned 35). I've been trying to conceive for 19 months and have done everything except IVF. How do I decide what to do? [more inside]
I have a vague memory of seeing someone perform a percussion piece where they swung a rope in each hand with a weight on the end. They would sometimes allow the weight to strike the wooden resonating chamber to make a "clack" sound. In so doing, they were able to clack out some surprisingly complex rhythms. Does this instrument/technique have a name? What is it? And most importantly, where can I find some videos of people doing it?
I turn 50 in September and am taking the trip to Greece that I've wanted to take since I was about 10. The problem is, there's so much to see and so much I want to do.... And I'd also love to get recommendations for a fantastic and romantic dinner in Athens on the actual birthday night. [more inside]
Hello, everyone, I'm looking for non-American films that were filmed in NYC. I don't mean films that just take place in NYc but are filmed elsewhere (a la The ninth Gate) but films that were actually filmed in the city. They don't have to be in English, in fact it might be preferable if they weren't.
Hi all. I've been diagnosed pretty recently with allergies severe enough to warrant carrying an epi-pen. For the purposes of this discussion, the only relevant allergy is to nuts. [more inside]
I borrowed a classmate's folder full of Thermodynamics notes in 2002, and I just found them in my closet. I also just tracked down his address, so I can return them to him. Should I include a note? What should it say? I haven't spoken to him in 12 years, and I didn't know him that well to begin with. [more inside]
What kind of frog (or other animal) is making this noise in my backyard? [more inside]
What is the best beach in Galveston to take a bunch of eleven-year-olds for a couple of hours? [more inside]
So, the ex just went to prison for 2 years, non-parole period of 1 for a despicable crime, that like everything else, he lied about - and I wouldn't be bothered except he's left a mess behind for his kids, my kids, nice young adults on limited incomes. [more inside]
I would like to get Mr. BlahLaLa a new coffee maker. Bonus difficulty: I don't drink coffee. [more inside]
Baby #2 is coming at the beginning of August, and #1 will be almost 17 months. We're very excited, and wanted them close together, but I can't quite wrap my head around how it will actually work. So great hive what are your tips, tricks and experiences handling two under two, or two very close together? [more inside]
I desperately want to swap out my electric range for a gas range. I want one that will serve my long-term needs and am totally bewildered by the variety of choices. [more inside]
I have a longstanding (10+ years) crush on someone I do not want to have a crush on. How do I go about eradicating it, when going no-contact is not an option? [more inside]
For testing purposes at work, they would like this magic to happen - put different iterations of OS X (e.g. snow leopard, lion, mt lion, mavericks) each on its own partition on the same physical disk. Apple L2 support has disavowed knowledge of such potential doings, despite there being support articles indicating that at least two versions of OS X on the same physical disk (and different partitions) is possible. Either a) it's doable or b) it's not doable. However... [more inside]
I worked for a few months in the worst workplace environment ever. I'm pretty troubled at how badly the place was run, particularly by the actions of the director. Is there any point/way to let the larger, national organization know about the issues there? [more inside]
Within the past 2 years, I read a book set in a dystopian future London, with a female protagonist who was a member of an underground gang with special magical or psychic abilities. She could enter other people's thoughts or possibly their dreams. Use of these special abilities was outlawed by government. Any ideas? [more inside]
My friend said that there are people who would pick up metal waste for free. I have metal stuff to donate and want to call the right person for pick up. I live in Millbrae CA. Anybody know the phone number to call?
Our son is about to be 17 months and he can't stand or walk unassisted. I know, I know, kids do things on their own schedule. I think there may be a bigger problem than sheer will at work here. I believe his left foot is pronated and preventing him from being able to balance properly. [more inside]
Help me fill my Kindle with vacation reading! I like well-written doorstop SF, urban fantasy, spaceship books, epic fantasy, deep complicated books but also joyful romps, complicated prophecies that manifest in unusual ways, great worldbuilding, etc. Romantic elements are fine but I'm not as into stuff where the plot is a thin scrim to hang over endless sexy sex. And as a lifelong SF reader, I have now officially read enough books without women in them, so only books that include solid female characters (as opposed to braid-tugging smurfettes). Things I have loved under the cut. [more inside]
My dear friend is coming over for dinner tomorrow night and I'd like to impress her with a delicious, healthy meal. Difficulty level: No oven. [more inside]
I need a bar or restaurant for a small group on Sunday. One of our group however, is my puppy. Another requirement is that it is near the N train, or a quick transfer from the N train on this Sunday (are they still randomly shutting down the 7 train over the weekend?). Beyond that, it's not too picky. I know about the Bohemian Beer Garden, but I am not sure that they allow pets. Sidewalk cafes, anything outdoors should be great.
So, something has died (or more likely been killed by one of the many neighborhood cats) under my deck and the smell is pretty awful. I know nature will take its course (probably somewhat quickly as it's summer in North Carolina and thus ludicrously hot and humid) but is there anything I can do to counteract the smell? [more inside]
It changed (in the UK) just over a year ago. They claim it is back to their original recipe - and call it an improvement on the previous outsourced version. Many of their customers seem to disagree (search Twitter/Facebook for "katsu change") and have stopped visiting as a result. I can only assume this was a commercial decision - it is cheaper for Wagamama to make this new sauce, even taking lost business into account. Does anyone who works (or has worked) at Wagamama in the UK have any idea what actually happened and why?
What design / remodel / reno / decoration ideas do you have for a home office / chillout space backing onto a kitchen, 7'4" wide by 9' long , with 9' ceiling, for a DINKY couple in Queens, NY? [more inside]
Where could I find this person online? Using a DAW, what sound settings produce that type of sound? What instrument is it, etc. [more inside]
Recently I've been buying Trader Joe's marinaded chicken tenders, and using the bag throughout the week to prepare stir-fries, fajitas, and other simple dishes for dinner. I really like having a marinade I can pull from for a quick meal, but I'm getting tired of the flavors that Trader Joe's offers. What are your favorite chicken marinades that I could start at the beginning of the week and use throughout the week to make dinner? My taste is pretty wide, but I'd prefer stuff that uses fairly common ingredients.
I’ve lost my damn mind and want to run a half marathon. Can you help me find a race? [more inside]
I work at an emotionally taxing job, and sometimes I take a frustrated, depressed attitude home with me. A job that appears to be in a much better work environment has opened up a few cities away. Should I go for the job that will probably make me much happier at work but reduce the amount of quality time I have with my family, or should I stay where I am and just learn to deal with the stress there in a healthier way? [more inside]
I've been invited to a Winter Solstice party and the host would like me to participate by reciting a poem or short written piece. My muse has deserted me so I can't write anything at the moment. What would be a good piece to share?
What happens to bags on US-international connections in Toronto Pearson, and is it feasible for me to go into Toronto for a day on a long layover? [more inside]
How does an on-demand streaming site pay a cast and crew? [more inside]
Where do I find more of these perfect pants? Felt like pajamas, but acceptable to wear in public and to work?? AMAZING. [more inside]
I needed a copy of my son's immunization records for some travel we are planning this summer. I called his pediatrician's office, and they said they'd send them right away. 2 days later an envelope arrived addressed by hand, the home address was correct but the recipient name was wrong. I opened the envelope to find another child's immunization records. [more inside]
I've read many articles about the flavor-enhancing properties of slow cookers when preparing meat dishes. Are they a good option for vegetarian and vegan dishes? [more inside]
I'm planning a trip to China during September, which ends in Hong Kong. I'm arriving in HK on 29 Sept and leaving on 3 Oct - right around the start of the National Day holiday. Is this a bad idea? [more inside]
I have 2 AppleTVs and I'm considering getting this new MadCatz M.O.J.O. Is it worth the price? Mostly for media consumption, the gaming is just a plus... [more inside]
The machine-readable code at the bottom of the id page of a UK passport (starting P<GBR) contains a name on one line, and on the second line a long string of numbers, lots of chevrons and then a two-digit number. My mum claims that this two-digit number indicates the number of people with the same name as me already registered as having a passport. This seems unlikely, but is there any truth in it? [more inside]
Picture the scene: you are passing a line of cars, and one of the cars has its indicator light flashing. You expect it to pull out. As you pass you notice that both indicator lights are flashing: the car's hazards are on. Why aren't hazard lights easier to distinguish from indicators?
A strange mismatch is going on between my Mac Contacts and my iPhone contacts. Even though I'm using a single Apple ID on both machines, certain contacts exist on the iPhone but not the Mac and vice-versa. I haven't been able to find the explanation for this. [more inside]
Should I help my daughter connect with her half-sister? Or more precisely, should I help my daughter's half-sister connect with her? [more inside]
When my central air turns on or off, I hear a loud popping sound coming from the thermostat area. I have replaced the thermostat and still hear it. I'm sure that I have always heard it and that other ac's have made that noise but, for the past few months, it seems to have gotten louder and it wakes me up throughout the night. It is driving me crazy. Is your thermostat that loud? Could this be an electrical issue? [more inside]
The soon-to-be-Mr-Vortex and I are getting married in September! Hooray! We are thinking about taking a mini-moon instead of a honeymoon after the wedding, because we're also going to be moving and I will be starting a new job. We'll do a nice, longer vacation once we're settled into our new lives. Trouble is, we're having a tough time thinking of somewhere to go. We've traveled in the upper midwest quite a bit, and would like to find somewhere new to go. Help us, Metafilter! [more inside]
Help a newbie photographer choose a decent point-and-shoot for $200 or less. [more inside]
What with work and family life, I'm not getting to see that much of the World Cup. I do, however, have some time each day to listen to podcasts while riding the bus to and from work. I'd like to listen to discussions and analyses of the various World Cup games while on the bus. Can you suggest some good podcasts?
What kind of skill sets does one need to be of best help to addressing climate change? It would seem like the most obvious choice is to major in environmental science. Otherwise, maybe political science to deal with legislators and capital hill? Or "who cares what you study undergrad" and go to law school?
I'm driving from Harrisburg to Balitmore this evening and won't be there till after midnight. I foolishly didn't eat dinner before leaving. Are there any great late night dining options in Baltimore - especially a good falafel or middle eastern? [more inside]
I've been stuck with planning a co-worker's retirement party (I was happy to do it, but rather expected I'd have some help from other co-workers). Please help me out with advice in two main areas: the food and the gift! Details inside. [more inside]
How will I find journal B???? [more inside]
I will be driving through Albany on Sunday around 6 p.m. I want to pull over and watch the U.S.A. vs Portugal soccer game. Where is the best place to watch the game that is accessible to the NY Thruway? Thank you.
What is the basic cultural literacy and knowledge a post-collegiate adult "should" have in 2014? Are there certain humanities subjects you assume or expect everyone in your college-educated social circle to have a baseline understanding of - semiotics? Critical theory? Familiarity with a bunch of poetry, drama, novels, sociological texts, art, music? None of that? [more inside]
So my sister just had her second wee tot and we thought it might be nice to get her and her hubs a gift certificate from one of those places where you can pick from Many restaurants and then little men bring you food. Google suggests there are more than one in Hogtown. Any recommendations or disrecommendations?
I need a professional level (able to color calibrate) television/video monitor to use a client monitor. [more inside]
Can you help me find the song that rattled me yesterday morning? [more inside]
Looking for some suggestions for fishing spots near to Kerhonkson, NY, in late June. Snow flake details inside. [more inside]
Does anyone in London recognize this restaurant, I wonder? I think it's in London, anyhow. It might be in Europe. [more inside]
I'm in a good position; I'm being pursued by two big tech companies for a public policy/government relations/privacy role, at a regional (ie multi-country) manager level. One is an established giant, the other is a hot, extremely well-funded and rapidly expanding startup. But which to choose? Hope me, MeFites! [more inside]
Every year we throw a Summer Solstice party that includes a buffet dinner for about 75 neighbors and friends. I cook everything because it's easier to do that than to organize a pot luck, which isn't part of my culture. Most years, I enjoy preparing this feast. This year, I am completely uninterested and fantasizing about ordering 25 pizzas and a keg. Hope me, please! [more inside]
My local post office happened to lose a piece of (certified) mail that was important to me- so I was busy chasing them around for the past month to no avail. However, today the green "return receipt" card finally arrived back on my doorstep. But unsigned and the (online) tracking still doesn't indicate it was actually delivered. Do they get sent back unsigned? Did it just fall off and get mailed here? Help solve my mail mystery! [more inside]
Where is the coolest place I can visit in July or August? Primarily in terms of weather, but also the other type of cool! Preferably in the US, due to cost, but also open to foreign locales if the average flight might be $1000 or less, leaving from the Midwest. [more inside]
So i finally got my turn table hooked back up and got a phono preamp. Awesome! But now i'm having mysterious interference, and receiving radio signals on it(!?!?)... [more inside]
What's the best lubricant to go inside a condom to increase sensation for a man? Difficulty level: SSRI side-effects. [more inside]
Has there ever been any real linguistic exmamination of Christian Vander and Magma's constructed Kobaian language? It seems odd that the Zeuhl style would prove influential enough to have other bands adopt the style and language and yet never have any sort of official lexicon.
I'm asking for a friend. Whom I'm married to. She says: I am 16 weeks pregnant and am having a GI symptom that I can’t find any information about online, from my OB, or from several different nurse midwives. (univac sez: This is not about morning sickness. If you think this question is about morning sickness or nausea during pregnancy, GO AWAY.) [more inside]
I was using Moves to track my walking and biking, etc, on my iPhone. It was great! Unfortunately, I felt I had to delete it once it decided to send all my data to Facebook. Are there any decent iPhone replacements for Moves? (I don't have a fitbit or anything except the iPhone (5S).)
Looking for an audio interface to take 4 analog line inputs and allow me to record them digitally. [more inside]
I have begun keeping track of my daily eating as part of a cardiac rehab program. I am using myfitnesspal.com which I like because it has a tremendous variety of commercial products. However, I do a lot of preparation on my own from fresh ingredients and eat a lot of salads with a variety of different ingredients. [more inside]
I have been a graphic designer, or in related jobs, for most of my work life. Now I'm moving into a new print production manager position at the marketing agency where I work, and I will be doing a diverse range of stuff, much of which is new to me. Help me kick ass! [more inside]
I'd like to give an inexpensive token of thanks to each of around 40 people. They are physicians and nurses who are helping on a project. It needs to be something I can get quickly, travel with easily, and ideally no more than $4 US. My ideas so far are Amazon gift cards or Starbucks gift cards. What token gift would you like to receive if you were one of them?
I'm looking for a way to implement multi-zone audio in my house but I'm getting a bit lost in my search... [more inside]
Please give me your shared email box efficiency tips! [more inside]
I'm a child of a Dutch immigrant to the USA. Is it possible for my father, who naturalized as a child to the USA at the age of 10, to renew his NL passport? [more inside]
How do I negotiate an accident settlement without getting taken advantage of? [more inside]
I read this book of short stories years ago, and for some reason I remember most of the stories in it but have had no luck with Googling for it. Must be that the stories' premises were creative enough or caught my imagination in a particular way. The most memorable story was about trying to survive on Earth after a supernova. I'm pretty sure these are all from the same book: [more inside]
I'm looking to get up to speed on the current state of 3D printing, from a pretty high level. I'd like to know what the major technologies are, how they compare to each other, who the major players are, and how their products compare with each other. [more inside]
I am in the market for a new Nikon DSLR, but my home laptop/photo workflow situation is sadly out of date and not working for me. Should I consider an iPad for a main photo workflow solution, now that I could get a DSLR with wireless capability? Lots of snowflakes inside. [more inside]
What are these called and is it possible to identify them on sites like Expedia? I'm trying to help my mother fly cross country as comfortably as possible. Many thanks.
Is there a way I can have cookies from somewhere delivered ASAP to a house in Coral Gables, Florida? [more inside]
Are there any newer phones that use the Android operating system (Jelly bean or later) that also are both available unlocked and that have a physical QUERTY keyboard? Shopping for a blind person who is trying to find easier ways to send text messages, but doesn't want a full-time plan as he is out of the country half the year.
I have never once considered getting a tattoo, until now. I have a fairly large scar just below the belt line on my back, just above the 'ol butt cheek. I had a bone graft when I was a teenager, and have been used to this scar peeking out on my back when I wear shorts in the summer, etc. 20 years later, and now I've thought about getting a tattoo around it- something whimsical, snarky, funny, not sure. [more inside]
I am trying to locate studies or cited figures that estimate how much of the content on Youtube is posted without permission or attribution. [more inside]
My son has been sleeping in my bed since he was a tiny infant. He's nearly six now. So how can I gently and kindly get him to sleep in his own bed, in his own room? A few more pertinent details follow below. [more inside]
After a solid 6-year stretch of one-thing-after-another bad luck, things are finally turning around - but I am still automatically reacting as if another disaster is impending, when there's no sign one is. Help snap me out of it? [more inside]
I'm coming to realize that my partner is seriously abusing alcohol (and being cavalier about other substances) just as he's embarking on an existential crisis following a messy legal situation (finalizing a divorce that's 2+ years in the making). The relationship needs work; he needs work; hell, I might need work; but he's got a lot on his plate and I can't really pile on. I have kind of lost sight of what is reasonable here, and could use some perspective. [more inside]
I've got a very weak and too tart berry beer in primary/secondary. I'd like to avoid tossing it, but as it stands, this stuff is not drinkable. Can you help me fix it? [more inside]
My friend saw a small black bug in her apartment maybe 1/4-inch long. It was long rather than round and moved fairly slowly and low to the ground. She said it didn't look like a roach (lacked the long antenna, high speed, flat body), beetle (didn't have the segmented structure or mandibles), termite, silverfish or house centipede. What could it have been? No photo, unfortunately.
At work, I have been deemed the person in my group who should learn Microsoft Access. I am allowed to take a class. Can anyone recommend a good Microsoft Access class in NYC? [more inside]
My BIL is a sociopath. We don't deal with him. But the parents still do. Therein lies the problem... [more inside]
Looking for fantasy books hiding out in the non-genre section of the bookstore. [more inside]
My daughter's school uses rubber wood chips on the playground. She comes home with her clothes smeared with black "soot" from those rubber wood chips. Is this stuff possibly harming the health of the children who are playing in it? [more inside]
Why won't hummingbirds come to our backyard? [more inside]
I'm working with a baker in New Zealand whose recipe calls for plain old "flour," though she says it's called cake flour there. To confirm this, I did some Googling, but I can only find New Zealanders looking for (American?) cake flour, which is confusing. I know cake flour in the US is a totally different thing than all-purpose. Can anyone tell me if the flour labeled "cake flour" you buy in New Zealand is the same as plain all-purpose flour in the USA?
Is there a scam I'm not aware of, or any reason why I shouldn't tell this person my birthday? I can't think of why I shouldn't, but it just seems a little strange. I would ask them why they want the info, but don't want to come across as strange, in case this is a normal thing. [more inside]
I enjoy foods that have a great deal of flavor. But I'm getting tired of the standard condiments you're likely to find in North America (like ketchup, mustard, Sriracha, Tabasco, salsa, or mango pickle). What are some new condiments for me to try? [more inside]
I need some financial planning / loan help. I graduated from grad school a year ago, and I'm getting my life together. I'm doing well professionally, juggling freelance gigs -- this doesn't necessarily mean I'm paid well, but I'm happy and fulfilled with what I'm doing. But my personal finances are a total wreck, and I need a professional to help. Who should I be looking for? [more inside]
I don't have a lot of TV watching time nowadays, so I'm behind on everything. I've only now caught up on the first three seasons of "Community." Having heard that the Dan-Harmonless season 4 was a disappointment, I plan to just skip ahead to season 5. Before I do, are there any Season 4 episodes that I should make a point of watching -- either because they are up there in quality with the first three seasons, or because they set up crucial plot points for the fifth? [more inside]
I wasn't happy with my work-issued laptop and mentioned this to my supervisor. He announced a switch, my collegue would get my laptop and I would get her new one, which is due to arrive next week. She is not happy with it either, but didn't protest. I feel bad about it. What to do? [more inside]
Does anyone have any tips for adding some more modern narrative tricks to old school gaming, while maintaining the "it's just fun" feel? [more inside]
I work for a small web hosting company and have been tasked with creating user tutorials and a general FAQ section. Please give me your best resources, tips, and ideas on how to best go about doing this. [more inside]
what is rock lobster about. has fred schneider ever said it was based on actual events. did he see a lobster at a party and is the song based on his own experiences
I have a Gmail account, and I use Mail. I am signed up to a listserv. I get most of the emails sent to this listserv in my inbox, but some of them get spam-filtered and sent straight to junk. [more inside]
When I was little I had a version of Chessmaster on a Windows computer, and the feature I found the most fascinating was that you could have the program analyze an entire game and the moves in it. [more inside]
I'm considering purchasing Minecraft Realms for my sons and their friends, but I have a few reservations. Looking for tales from early adopters. [more inside]
We run a small improv theatre company. Potential sponsors and clients always ask about videos of our shows, so we're looking into recording our shows. We're okay on the video side but we can't get good quality audio. What kind of setup should we use? [more inside]
I recently graduated, but I'm already feeling pressure to find a job now or else be bombarded with my mom's criticism. How should I deal with this until I get work? [more inside]
I'd like to get my step-mother a gift for her 50th birthday - we're not particularly close, but I'd like to make a nice gesture. She's a psychiatrist, and a lot of her identity is bound up in that, so I'm thinking some kind of classic psychiatric text in a nice edition would be appreciated, but I don't know where to start. Can spend up to $200 or so. Any suggestions?
I am 24 and about to be a car owner. Next month I am moving from Utah to Indiana alone with the car, which is currently owned by mother. We don't know whether I should be given the title, have the car registered in my name and get an independent insurance policy in Utah before I go, or leave everything in my mother's name until I get to Indiana. [more inside]
Today I was shopping at Walmart and was accused of coupon fraud and stealing merchandise while using valid manufacturer's coupons. I feel as though the way I was treated was unacceptable, but I'm not sure if I'm the one in the wrong or not. [more inside]
So I've noticed a convention that using someone's name--and only their name--as the subject line in the email message means that something pretty severe has happened to them. Like, if Jane Bloggs had a healthy baby, the subject line would be something like "Jane had a baby!", but if the subject line was just "Jane" or "Jane Bloggs" or "Aunt Jane" (assuming I'm Jane's nephew) then either Jane or her baby or both would be in the (N)ICU or more likely the morgue. I'm wondering where this started. Any help?
I live in Deerfield, MA, USA. These sounds are coming from a tree across the street. Both the whimpering-pup sounds and the louder squeals/screeches are coming from the same place. Any idea who is making these sounds?
My grandmother is 89, and only retired in the last year. Since she's retired, she hasn't been doing much, and I'm worried about how she'll do over the next few years if she doesn't stay busy. I'd like to make a list of things she could be doing in NYC, where she lives, to stay active. She has some very specific needs and interests, though, and can be a bit ornery, so I'm hoping you can help me work within her limitations. [more inside]
I am working through the mooculus calculus one mooc as a refresher (which I clearly need), and there is one thing I have run across that I just don't see. Can you help me figure out what is going on, and what I can do to work out future problems? [more inside]
I'd like to find out if my surgery/medical condition has been presented at conferences. [more inside]
What are the pros and cons of buying physical books vs. relying primarily on library books from the point of view of exposing one's future children to a wide variety of books? [more inside]
Say I have a text file with short lines of text (e.g. License plate numbers or radio call letters). I'd like to use imagemagick to convert this text file to a folder full of images of said text, with each line from the text file being a separate image. Preferably, I'd like the output to be named with the content. What are the magic command-line words to make this happen? [more inside]
My company just moved from business casual to casual. Most of my clothes are business casual and I'd like to upgrade my wardrobe (on a reasonable budget) to dress sharp in a casual (jeans ok, shorts not) environment. I'm 30 in middle management so looking for something contemporary, but not cutting edge that would look sharp in a big, conservative Midwest company. Can you point me to online resources to help find outfits that look good and are reasonably priced? Thanks in advance!
I had both invisalign and braces because invisalign did not correct all of the problems, especially the 2 upper front teeth so I had to wear braces for about 3 months. I was done with braces about 2 months ago and I've been wearing a set of retainers every night. I've noticed that my teeth tend to shift pretty quickly that it feels tight when I put on my retainer every night. Also, there's a tiny gap between 1 of the front teeth and the retainer. It's almost as if the tooth cannot touch the retainer. Is that normal? This is a picture of how my teeth look currently. They do not look bad but one of the upper front teeth isn't very straight and it bothers me. Those of you who have had experience with braces, what do you think I should do? If I go back to the orthodontist, is it likely that I will be charged? Thank you for your time!
I recently read this article which reminded me what an awesome game SWOS 97 was, particularly the football management side of it. My friends and I used to spend AGES playing this game. Is there a modern equivalent, or a way I can play SWOS with updated teams? [more inside]
Are there any TV series or films with a college setting where the main characters are graduate students? Difficulty: No law schools or medical schools. Thanks for any tips!
I keep falling into cycles of self-sabotage, with a few complicating factors. Recent academic news feels like its biggest manifestation - advice on this, and the possibility of moving past this when i go into employment. Apologies for the long read. [more inside]
I just moved into a new house (in Sydney). We have three old fashioned looking electricity meters in the meter box. Why are there three? [more inside]
This feels like a very strange question to ask as I can't figure out if the issue is technical or personal. I will try to explain, however. [more inside]
My partner and I are finally in a position where we can seriously work towards relocating from the US to Europe (specifically Germany). Help us make this a reality. [more inside]
One of my favorite colleagues has a cat, and it is dying. She is just waiting on tests to come back from the vet so they can decide if palliative care is an option or not. I'd like to do something nice to let her know that I'm thinking of her, but need ideas that won't memorialize me as "That girl who did that crazy thing in a misguided attempt to nice." Also looking for a sanity check - if this is a bad idea, please say so (and why). [more inside]
I've been cutting back on calories since late December, given the weight gain I've faced over the past year. I am still gaining weight. How low can I go? [more inside]
I just received a master's degree and am looking to move into the technical field I trained for. Over the years, I have increased my profile in the creative fields I pursue part-time (writing, theatre, etc). This poses a challenge to my "by day" career, which sustains my creative work, and the new direction I want to take. How do I separate my professional identities so that they don't conflict, and interfere with my goals? Yadda yadda snowflake after the cut. [more inside]
One of the kiddos in my Cousin's class found this: rando nature doodad Data points - she is located in Iowa. She describes it as being squishy and the white bit feels kind of like a hard boiled egg. Any ideas?
Every time I get a parking ticket, its issued within minutes of the meter expiring. Most of the meters can be paid by mobile phone, and the county also recently installed "smart meters". If they can send me a notification that my meter is going to expire, they can also send one to a local meter watcher. But do they?
I just received a Sony Walkman NWZ-W262 for my birthday. I am psyched about filling it up with music and using it at the gym. I'd love to transfer some music from my own CD's, but most of them are in storage. I don't have money to pay for new music. What I do have is a bunch of youtube videos saved whose audio I'd love to use for workouts. [more inside]
I asked this question a couple weeks ago. Nothing is growing, although I have been watering faithfully every day. The tomato starts don't look particularly happy either, and the dill, oregano, and pepper starts have died (though the basil, sage, and cilantro look ok). [more inside]
I'm about to get laid off from my non-profit job within the next month. I was hired as a general office admin person, and ended up doing mainly Linux sysadmin work. What are my chances of getting this type of work as my next job? Details and snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I have found an airfare deal that I am happy with that involves going through Zurich. Potentially short layover in Zurich. From what I can gather, the airport at Zurich is a breeze for short flight connections but the sources of that information are a little outdated. Will this be enough time? [more inside]
I'm seeking recommendations for documentaries or books that offer more than a layman's explanation of Einstein's Theory of Relativity, but don't require advanced studies in astrophysics to comprehend. [more inside]
Let's say I have a five year-old daughterabout to start kindergarten in the fall. She's whipsmart, hilarious, kind, and generally awesome. Let's add, though, that she's overly babyish, timid, prone to crying over the smallest stuff, and lagging behind her peers in basic coordination/athletic things. She doesn't run well. Even with training wheels, she's a nervous wreck on her bike, constantly braking because she's "going too fast" (even as the reality is, she could walk faster.) She's prone to dramatically declarations of fear about pretty much everything. If you toss her even the softest Nerf ball, she'll cover her face and possibly shriek. Despite all of her finer points, her crying, her mewling, her uncoordination, and her babytalk are causing her peers to tease her. And as her parents, we want to help. We want to help her get the sort of confidence and basic physicality that will help her tackle new challenges without tears and panic and play better with kids her own age. What are some things we could do with her to get to kind of--if you'll pardon me making up a word--de-infantilize? Okay, now remember all of those ideas you just had for me, but here's one more thing: I don't have a daughter. I have a son. And all of the above describes him. [more inside]
My background is touchy feely/health based. I've been developing a business idea that has relevance to the corporate world and could offer this in a training/advisory type capacity. I've been advised to start meeting with representatives of organisations to explain how I could help them. How do I do a good job of this? [more inside]
I need some recommendations on how to eat healthy for the people that genuinely do not like to or have any interest in cooking. I work a lot and I have no interest spending the free time that I do have cooking. I eat out almost every meal and the meals that I do eat at home are usually microwave meals. When you eat out a lot, it can be difficult to find quick healthy options. I am trying to lose a few lbs and probably could stand to eat a little healthier. I am hoping to get some recommendations on how to eat healthy without the usual 'just cook it, it only takes X minutes' or 'its really easy' comments. Not only am I cooking-adverse, the grocery store may be one of my least favorite places. Has anyone tried one of those companies that gives you a weeks worth of food at a time (do you have to cook the food?)? If it is helpful, I am a single guy in my early-thirties living in Georgia. Any thoughts or recommendations would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Please recommend to me any science fiction/fantasy novels (maybe TV shows as well) that are well written, interesting, and essentially nonviolent. "Completely violence-free" isn't necessary. I'm particularly looking for novels aimed at adults that don't rely on combat scenes to advance the narrative, generate/resolve tension, or provide Crowning Moments of Awesome.* [more inside]
I'm looking for hardy fast growing ground cover suggestions that are chicken friendly [more inside]
Credit card stolen -- How to update my accounts quickly with less tedium? [more inside]
(YNML) We're purchasing a leasehold property in the UK. The lease for this property says "The Demise hereinbefore contained includes the following rights:- ... and the exclusive use of the parking space numbered 1 shown hatched red on the plan ...". Our solicitor has been saying that 'as the right is exclusive this does not form a legal right under common law and as such may be denied by subsequent Landlords.' I don't understand why this is an issue, and as it's held up our move, I would like to understand. Although I've asked my solicitor, I suspect Mefites can give me a clearer answer! More details inside... [more inside]
I seem to have this problem where I will get worked up, disappointed, upset, and distressed--a combination of all four--whenever someone makes a decision that is wholly unrelated to me but is a different one than I would have made. It has moved beyond someone being wrong on the Internet over the past few years and is really starting to drive me bonkers. Do you, denizens of the green, have any advice for changing my behavior? [more inside]
My boss wanted me to throw these away but I have a feeling they might be useful to someone so I want to put them on craigslist instead. Does anyone know what they are / what they are called? They were components of a speaker system, I believe.
People tend to think of me as cute, sweet, and other infantilising adjectives. I feel that this is a problem at work. How can I amend my behaviour and appearance to be less cute and more serious? [more inside]
I'm a woman who works in a very male-dominated profession as a specialist in a scientific/engineering discipline. In my workplace, about 95% of the people with my role are men, and most of the women there besides me are admin. However, there is a huge shortage of admin support and we end up doing most of our own admin ourselves. My boss, though, seems to think he has found a "solution" to this - he just asks me to do his admin. And then he gets annoyed with me if I don't do it. [more inside]
I drove by my rental property today and it appears that my idiot tenant has backed into the front of the house within the last few weeks. The damage looks like this, with the damaged area measuring about a foot tall at its longest point. Is this an appropriate DIY project for someone with only basic levels of handiness, and if not, what professional do I call? [more inside]
Ok, I could have sworn I read this book multiple times when I was a kid, but nobody seems to remember it exists including my cat-loving, children's literature professor mom who gave it to me. I'll try to list every thing I can remember about it in the extended explanation. To summarize, it takes place in an Italian town where a young-fountain-making apprentice wants to make his own fountain so that all the stray cats around him will have some place to drink. As he is poor, he cobbles together the material from things he can find, and in the end I do believe he ends up making the fountain. My mom and the internet don't seem to remember this book, but I think it did exist. Maybe you guys will come up with something. [more inside]
Meatfilter: I just picked up a bunch of boneless beef short ribs. No idea what to do with them besides slow roasting in barbecue sauce - which would be fine for me. But what other recipes would you suggest that would make people who are committed medium-rare grilled steak lovers happy? Cooking ability moderate, added difficulty: no dairy ingredients, not a big fan of ketchup or mustard.
Finding myself in financial straits in Washington D.C. Looking for current recommendations for administrative temp work in the D.C. area. [more inside]
The pinky and ring fingers on both my hands have numbness, tingling, very mild pain, or weakness typical of ulnar nerve compression. I've recently had my first EMG with needles, but when sticking the hand, the doctor stuck needles only near the thumb and index finger. Does it make any sense that they would test nerves only on the opposite side of the hand that has problems? [more inside]
Ex wants to pick up room full of stuff this Saturday. I don't want to be there. Is that cool? [more inside]
I'm trying to make a 24x36" poster from some Excel tables. They're somewhat complex -- half-finished example here (Flickr link). I exported PDFs from Excel and used Inkscape to arrange them. But Inkscape can't handle this much stuff at one time without becoming unusably slow. How can I arrange the layout while keeping everything vector? [more inside]
I'm considering investing in some kinesthetic desks for classrooms in my middle school. Anyone have any experience using these in a classroom context for middle school-age students? [more inside]
I'm looking for THE forum for peeps like me (mid-30s, freelancing creative professional, not a backpacker) making a go of settling down overseas. I figured the hive must know the good sites with relevant info. [more inside]
Because of Reasons, Mr. Blues and I rented an apartment sight-unseen. We moved in last week. It is generally quite nice, but the balcony/deck absolutely reeks of urine. Evidently a previous tenant seriously neglected her dogs (and potentially cats? it smells like cat pee to me) and they used the balcony as a bathroom. It absolutely reeks. How can we and or the management company fix this? [more inside]
Is there a way to find AA meetings with consistently good speakers or other helpful aspects? [more inside]
My S.O. and I broke over a week ago and agreed that she would move out. But.. we're on week two now and she's still here. [more inside]
A Subway franchise has opened right across the hall from my office. I haven't been to a Subway in years, and am not a huge fan, but the convenience and cost angles are compelling. So what do I get? [more inside]
I am looking for a good online time keeping solution for my office staff. Basic, clocking in and out and weekly time cards. So many online, can't figure out which one is the most affordable and reliable. Any suggestions? (more inside) [more inside]
I am nearing 40, but my skin is in pretty good condition. My regimen to date: wash face in shower daily, and also wash with bar soap as needed. I'd like to make sure I take good care of my face in my coming fifth decade and beyond, perhaps with unguents, emollients, and tinctures! Do you have recommendations? Need not be overly manly, but preferably not particularly greasy. [more inside]
I'm planning to use Amazon's Mechanical Turk to perform a survey, but I'm a bit confused about how to work this into my IRB application. [more inside]
Looking for some of the most impossibly interesting and creative apps for iPad 1. Top of the line and free. [more inside]
Almost three months ago, I hired a friend of mine to do about $18k worth of renovations to my condo, $4k of which is labour. However, I made the mistake of paying him in advance, and after I paid the last instalment, he started making excuses for why he couldn't arrive on the site to finish the work (it's about 90% done). The project, originally estimated at two or three weeks, is now two months behind schedule. [more inside]
My wife is pregnant with twins who are due in November. We currently have a boy who will be two at the end of July. We know nothing about managing new babies with a toddler, especially twins. How did you manage your (breastfed) twins, particularly if you had a toddler in the house. What did you learn that you wish you had known at the outset, even just in relation to a new baby and a toddler? What worked best for you for developing schedules and splitting duties? Do you have any recommendations for twin specific how-to books?
For our 10th anniversary, I'd like to present movie buff Gnik Nus with a list of sweet songs sung by the actors in modern (say, the last 30ish years) comedy movies. So far I've come up with "Tonight You Belong To Me" from The Jerk, "I Was Born To Love You" by Chevy Chase in Caddyshack, and "I Wanna Grow Old With You" by Adam Sandler, and Steve Buscemi singing 'This Much Is True" in The Wedding Singer. Bonus points for sweet moments and then something funny happens, like when Bernadette Peters pulls out the trombone while they're softly singing on the beach.
A lot of my socks (plain black, mid-rise/crew, breathable) are getting thin or holey. I looked at previous women's socks questions on AskMe, and they recommended brands that don't ship to Canada (Uniqlo, Gold Toe, Smartwool, etc.) and can't be found in my city (Ottawa). What are the best women's appropriate-for-office-work socks I can get in Canada? [more inside]
I would like to take Sephora.com to small claims court. Is this worth my time and do I even have a case? [more inside]
I read news coverage about metafilter members helping to solve the "Decoding Cancer-addled Ramblings" and thought I should give it a shot for coded messages we found in my Grandfather's posessions after his passing. Although my Grandfather did not have cancer and was of sound mind at the time these documents were sent (circa 1921), he and his brother sent some coded messages to one another for some reason. My family has tried to figure out the messages, but to no avail. Some think the coding was simply used to save money on the cablegrams/telegraphs, others think it was because the text was being sent to Germany during WWII time frame, and others think it was because there was some suspicion about co-workers who may try to access or read the cablegrams/telegraphs. [more inside]
We will be visiting Oregon and will be staying for 1 week in Eugene (18-24th July). We're looking for short term accommodation, preferably rent a house. Can you recommend any places or sites where these things are listed? [more inside]
Cyclists of MeFi: I recently acquired a lovely new ride but wow, is it ever different from my daily commuter. Help me get used to drop bars and downtube shifters. [more inside]
Circumstances being what they are, online shopping is increasingly attractive to me (as opposed in in-the-flesh purchases). However, I hate to pay for shipping. Could you recommend some companies/brands that offer free shipping to Melbourne, Australia? [more inside]
Recently, a friend's mother received a few emails from someone with a Gmail address. The emails were sent to my friend's mother as well at least a hundred of her professional colleagues. The problem is that the emails included a (faked) pornographic image that is supposed to be of my friend's mom. What steps should my friend's mother take to do something about this? [more inside]
I have a job offer to work for an ultra-high-end residential design company. I am proudly middle class, (sort of on the Robert Reich "inequality for all" side of things) and I am having uncomfortable, knee-jerk reactions to the work this firm does - very non-green homes for the 1%. However, it's a well-paying job, and after three years in a job being underemployed at 30% less pay, and getting close to being broke, I could really use the money. How do I get my head in the right place to take this job? [more inside]
Long Story not soo Short. Spouse had long history of sinus infections - always causing time off from work - lots of antibiotics prescribed. This past early spring Dr convinced spouse to have sinus surgery and that spouse would be back to normal in like two weeks. After surgery recovery did not go well and in addition to add'l sinus infections that needed more antibiotics spouse was also treated a couple of times with prednisone (nasal sprays, etc.). Things really never really improved - after a few weeks started experiencing shortness of breath and chest tightness. This was not at all present before surgery. Battery of tests have been performed - everything from lung clot to asthma to now cardiomyopathy have been tossed around. And lots of tests have been performed with lots of specialists. It has now been three months and we are no closer to finding out root cause. [more inside]
Surprise! I'm going to a black tie event on Saturday night. I have nothing to wear and therefore need to hire a dress. Everything I can find on Google so far is an online order. I would prefer a brick and mortar building where I can try on someone's inventory of dresses; I've done this before in other countries so I know it's A Thing. Where can I do this in Sydney? [more inside]
There is a lake under my house and we have a very serious damp issue. Thank goodness I don't own it but while we house hunt (to buy), we have to live with it. Looking for ways to cope. [more inside]
I have a new shirt that smells terrible. Difficulty level: no washing machine. [more inside]
My wife and I just watched the seventh episode of Cosmos called "The Clean Room" which tells us (among other things) about how Clair Patterson determined the age of the Earth. The episode explains Patterson used meteorite fragments, such as those from the Canyon Diablo crater, because they were assumed to be leftovers from the creation of the solar system. My question is one of clarification; specifically, how they could be sure that assumption was correct? [more inside]
I’m looking for ideas for pretty things to do with my hair so that it’s mostly down but stays put and doesn’t get in my eyes during physical activity. I usually use something like a Hipsy headband for this purpose, but I would love something a bit more interesting and/or sophisticated. [more inside]
I'm looking for a men's backpack or messenger bag that exists at some magic intersection of lightweight and strong/durable. This is for daily commuting, often by foot, in New York City. My flashy new devices are impossibly light, and I'm looking for a bag that won't add unnecessary bulk when I carry some or all of them with me. [more inside]
I was just offered a job as an apprentice plumber in a small shop, but they have a curious rule in their policies and procedures that I'd like to know more about: "Do not enter/work in an abortion clinic". [more inside]
As part of the interview process for a new job, I'll be speaking with two staff members I'd be supervising. Help me figure out the best way to approach it? [more inside]
I occasionally have to work-related social events where there is huge pressure to drink alcohol. I am trying to understand where this pressure comes from. [more inside]
Due to reasons that don't matter, I did not pay my college tuition from my first college at the time. In October I paid off the entire $9000 balance at once. I am filling out rental applications (going to grad school). Do I mention in the additional information why I likely have a sucky credit score (I do not know my score, I know it's on my report though)? Or do I not draw anymore attention to it and just hope beyond hope?
I need this poster from allposters.com (I think?) of John Stockton shooting a basket while X Basketball player tries to block him. It's shot from behind from the other end of the court and a very famous picture... X Basketball player is Charles Barkley I think??? Is that a thing? Can you help me a) find this poster and b) get it shipped to me this week. Thank you very much.
Klaus Schulze vs Jean Michel Jarre - so why is Jarre well known? My question is why Schulze has more than 40 albums to his name (according to the web) or many more than Jarre at least, but is still the lesser known of the two. I only discovered Schulze recently, but I love his music so far from several different albums. I guess this is a question on musical history. [more inside]
I was doing Neurofeedback for ADD in Chicago. I worked with some therapists, and they gave me neurofeedback but charged it under mental health services, that way my insurance covered it . So I am in Boston now, in graduate school, and wow, my ADD is really kicking in! lol, I am really against medication and am trying like heck to find a provider that might be able to see me under my prior arrangement, so a person who is at the least a LSW who can bill my insurance, so that I do not have to pay out of pocket, it is just too cost-prohibitive for me. I have not had much luck, so I thought I might reach out to you Hivemind, see if you know anyone, or have any creative ideas for me. Perhaps there is someone in the area that is working on their eeg certification, not sure, but hopefully you might have some ideas and pointers for me. I just wish this service was covered by insurance already- uggh.
Any advice on indexing a pdf and making an index in Word? [more inside]
I'll be moving with my boyfriend to a new city in a few months. It'll be the first time either of us have lived with a partner, or with each other, or in this new city. We know it's going to be stressful, but how can we make it less so? [more inside]
I'm at a loss - here is a rough sketch that I want to create in Photoshop but I just can't decide on a lovely font to use? My inspiration came from these images, here, and here. I know those were handlettered but font lovers, what do you recommend? We will be using Cinzel Regular as the primary font on the wedding invitations.
Hi, I was wondering if you folks know of any applications that will track the time you spend on different tasks? [more inside]
A large group of people are asked to choose exactly one option out of 8 options, A B C D E F G H. A year later this is repeated. How to test for significance? [more inside]
I'd like to do a series of documentary vignettes about people with interesting cars. What's the best and least creepy way to get the owner of a car I see on the road or in a parking lot to agree to an interview? Creative suggestions encouraged. [more inside]
What resources are available for nonprofit program evaluation? If you have been involved in this kind of work, what resources have been particularly useful to you? [more inside]
My 2 1/2 year old son will be having lung surgery next month and I'm looking for suggestions on how to help him cope during his inpatient stay. Also, on managing parental pre-surgery anxiety. [more inside]
Haven't owned a TV ever since I got a projector, but now that I'm back in the US I'd like to catch Oakland A's games on local broadcast. How to do this as cheaply as possible? [more inside]
I'm looking for suggestions for light, airy, instrumentals that evoke feelings of peaceful, summer afternoons....and that doesn't fit into the all the other summer music questions, ha! [more inside]
We're thinking seriously about buying a place in Manhattan (and possibly Brooklyn). We have a fairly unique split search (one strand of which is focused on looking for a place that will lower our costs, and the other strand of which is focused on finding a place that might increase our costs a little bit). We need recommendations for honest, intelligent, and very capable real estate agents to help. [more inside]
In a few days, I'm going on a several-week trip to Europe. Yesterday I noticed a small (quarter-sized) area to the right of my bellybutton that feels bruised, but has no mark. It doesn't hurt unless I press on it, and then it feels like a bruise. I figure if I had appendicitis or something I'd be in a lot more pain. Should I be worried about this at all?
[ShortStoryFilter]: Sort of canonical (I'm sure I read it in junior high school in a collection) - unnamed Western tourist is in some village in unnamed developing country. Gets thirsty and asks for water from nearest hut- is given bucketfuls, and asks for more to douse himself. [SPOILER]: Later finds out that the only water supply in entire area comes from one faucet that drips tiny amounts and entire village waits in line for hours to fill one bucket. Ring any bells?
I'm going to make a mix on CD to mail out to a bunch of friends. I need to know which software to use and how to make 70 copies of the disc. [more inside]
I'm looking for stories about 401k withdrawals made under the age of 55 that didn't lead to any regret. I'm asking this because the "sane" thing to do with 401k-s always involves NEVER touching that money until retirement. So has anyone gone off this path and found out that it actually helped them out in the long run? [more inside]
I would love to hear from anyone who has experience with book publishing, either as an author, editor or publisher. [more inside]
Where can I find cheap dentures? Wholesale rejects, dental school models, or used - any would be fine by me. [more inside]
Is there any service/script/app that will automagically take the photos from a date range in my Flickr photo stream and set them up to be a printed and bound book? The model for most tools is upload, review, print. I would like it to be capture all from Flickr, review, print. The first is an include model, the second is an exclude model. Since I take on the order of 500 pictures/year, the first model is onerous.
What is an appropriate agreement to buy out an NYC apartment sublease in order to leave before it is through? [more inside]
I'm taking a leisurely drive from San Jose CA. to Tacoma WA. I have allowed myself 4 days for the ride up and 4 for the ride back. What should I see? [more inside]
I'm trying to find a calendar-based list program, where I can make a list for a given day in the future, and check off once things happen. One caveat, I need it to be viewable, but not edited by other people. ie: TeuxDeux.com would be perfect, but it doesn't allow for any read-only access. Standalone or web-based is fine, or if something like this can be done inside MS Outlook, that would work too. I looked at the Daily Task List in Outlook, but it doesn't seem to be able to work with shared calendars. Any ideas?
Where does the elision of universe to 'verse originate? I know it from the television show Firefly (aired late 2002) and recently noticed it used casually in The Chronicles of Riddick (released mid-2004), but it seemed unlikely that the screenwriter would appropriate a bit of slang connected to someone else's failed project from barely a year earlier. It seems to me I have heard it again since, but I cannot recall where. I read very little sf these days; did both these I mention draw it from elsewhere?
I feel like I'm addicted to the Internet. The first thing I do when I wake up in the morning is go on my smartphone and Reddit for at least half an hour. I live at home and spend most of my day on the computer listening to music and surfing the web into the early hours of the morning. [more inside]
Pan or stone. Bonus points for not needing a mixer, only a bowl or breadmachine. Ready-set-go! Also...how do I get it from the peel to the pan?
I need an Android app that will remind me to stop and stretch my hands/wrists. Bonus for an app that shows what stretches I should be doing. [more inside]
My depression medication is working, I feel better than I can remember ever feeling... and I have no clue how to deal with it! Once your brain chemistry is taken care of, what comes after? [more inside]
My husband and I have decided to seperate. [more inside]
I'm going to Costa Rica for the first time in a few weeks. I am by no means a seasoned traveler, so I'm looking for tips on packing smart and light for ten days in the rainforest during the rainy season. [more inside]
I want to go take pictures of mountains in Alberta, but so far, no luck. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I've been hired to be the Director of Marketing for a humanities faculty at a small but prestigious North American university. I've spent the last nine years at a mid-sized national ad agency. I start in two weeks. What should I expect in my new position? [more inside]
Trying to work out some travel logistics. If I am on an international flight that gets in to JFK at 7:20pm on a Tuesday, what is the likelihood that I could make it to Penn Station to catch a 9:20pm train? [more inside]
What are some best practices that you use on a regular basis as part of your workday? [more inside]
I am looking for research/articles/papers on people's instinct to sacrifice for the "greater good". I have read an article mentioning John Bowlby and a term called "collective protective instinct", but outside of said article I haven't found any mention of this term. [more inside]
I'm working with a cloud-based application (NetSuite) where we need to quickly print a document from the broswer. Right now it's taking too many clicks to get the job done. I'm wondering if there are any scripting/plug-in options we can use to create an auto-print solution. [more inside]
I'm planning to move to Seattle in the fall and hope to work with the international/refugee population there, specifically Somalis. Which organizations are the best for international/ESL/refugee education or support for women and children? [more inside]
It mentions her father but it's not "Daddy". [more inside]
My husband and I have our plane tickets booked, but not a lot else planned and I'm starting to panic slightly. We've scheduled 20 days on the ground, from the end of August to the beginning of September. [more inside]
I want to make an online directory that allows me to simply post a large directory of listings featuring a photo, name, and short description (akin to how old year books looked, for example). Is there an easy was to do this that avoids databases? [more inside]
We got a parking ticket in the city of Ottawa (we live here), but the officer made an error in writing the ticket. [more inside]
I'm joining friends on their 28' sailboat for a week this summer. I haven't really ever sailed, and I'd like to read or watch some materials to get me up to speed on the basics and concepts beforehand, so I'm not this guy. What would you recommend?
We had a sewage backup - we live in a townhouse, on a slab. (Two neighbors got hit, too.) My homeowners insurance covers rain, flooding, and roof problems, but not sewage. However, the cause of the backup was not our toilets - a branch dislodged on our shared roof and sent down a swimming pool full of water, which overwhelmed the sewer. Insurance is... confusing, demoralizing. [more inside]
Recently having trouble with my TuneIn Radio app and some streams (ESPN) [more inside]
I am usually pretty crafty but for the life of me can't figure out what kind of paint will suit my needs - semi-to completely permanent, will stand up outdoors year round, semi see-through, pretty colors, for glass. [more inside]
An employer I am interested in working for has two jobs open. The jobs are at different levels - one role reports to the other. Should I apply for both jobs or one only? [more inside]
I just want to design and print a poster online. Snapfish, Shutterfly, and Vistaprint don't seem to offer what I thought would be pretty basic design tools. I don't want to make the default photo collage; my idea was to use this kind of gridded layout, but with rounded corners on all the squares. Some would be replaced by photos, others would be white text on black. Where or how can I do this?
Looking for some hatred-filled songs to channel my frustration. [more inside]
I have many data files named in a particular format. The files are either ZIP or RAR archives, and contain several sub-data files each in different formats (with a different extension; this is Windows). I need a utility to extract the contents and simultaneously rename each sub-data file to the name of its parent archive AND preserve the sub-data files' extensions. Anyone know of such a utility? Winrar, 7zip don't do this, and I've had no luck searching around.
I don't have a cockroach problem in my apartment exactly, but there are cockroaches outside and I want to keep them far enough away from the door that they don't periodically follow me inside. Difficultly level: Please don't kill my cat in the process. [more inside]
Difficulty filters: Hypoglycemia and picky-ness. [more inside]
What would you include in a basic, well-made set of tools for household projects? I often find myself building wacky small construction projects. Things like shelves, doghouses, stands, simple woodwoorking / home-improvement tasks. [more inside]
After a minor bout of skin cancer last year, I am required to wear sunblock every day. I have questions. [more inside]
Is there an adapter that would let Mac and PC laptops connect wirelessly to an external monitor? I don't own a TV, but I watch a lot of Netflix/Xfinity on my laptop. I have a large flatscreen monitor that sits unused on my desk. I'm thinking of positioning this monitor like a tv in my living room, but I don't want to haggle with cords every time I watch a show. [more inside]
Has anyone bought Samurai Jack on Amazon VOD? I have a kind of complicated question about the formatting. [more inside]
10-year-old that struggles with many things who, for a few years now, has, when feeling sad/depressed, talked about how no one likes him, he's not good at anything, has no special qualities, isn't smart... etc. Looking for ways to help him. [more inside]
Asking on behalf of (The Rt Hon.) MP, who currently has spotty internet access while he travels around Australia. Where are the best places to 1) see an improv comedy show in Sydney, 2) see a punk/hardcore show in Melbourne, 3) get to relatively quickly from either of those cities to be able to see the outback (as opposed to the bush, which has already been seen on this trip)? [more inside]
How do I get motivated to change and make life better for myself? [more inside]
I have a couple of nice ($5-10k) watches I got new. I love this kind of stuff, and would like to expand my collection, but it's really hard to justify laying down that kind of cash on a regular basis. So I'm considering buying some used watches. However, I'm really nervous about getting ripped off if I buy used (either online or from a local dealer who I don't have a track record with). If you buy nice watches used, where do you go, and how do you know you're getting a quality watch at a fair price?
In an Australian rental unit, how likely is it that our landlords will expect the caulking in the shower to be clean at move-out, and if they will, should we do the caulking ourselves to avoid paying a handyman for this simple but tedious and probably time-consuming job? [more inside]
Is there any nutritional value in unripe berries, such as raspberries or blackberries? Is there any negative health consequences for consuming any unripe berries? [more inside]
Looking for recommendations of books exploring the culture and society of Victorian England/Europe. A few snowflakes inside... [more inside]
Trying to work out what good options would be regarding not having to wait 6 months for a follow-up to a set of medical tests in Canada (British Columbia), which given my current condition, seems an unbearable delay. Not sure what my options are rather than paying to go private. [more inside]
Our bathroom flooded today when a sink plugged up and was left on for 10 to 15 minutes. We've cleaned up the water, but it's an upstairs bathroom, and water got into a light fixture in the main floor and a few gallons got into the basement (through the HVAC system, I think). What do we need to do? [more inside]
Sadly the Ghana Cafe is closed, and now my dad and I need a new venue to watch Ghana vs USA tomorrow. Hoping to find a place with fans of both teams, a clear view of the TV without jostling or dodging, and preferably Tusker or other African beer available. Any recommendations, DC mefites?
I've been reading up on things to do in Borneo and my guidebook has some sections about cross-Borneo treks. It sounds like it could be an amazing experience but also extremely challenging. I'd like to hear from people who have done something like this. What was your day-to-day experience? Where did you sleep at night? How bad were the leeches? [more inside]
Between bad timing and desperation I hired a professional housekeeper to clean before family arrived for the holidays last year. She left the place looking better than when I first moved in. How can I do this on my own? [more inside]
Entering the country without an onward ticket, wanting to be flexible. [more inside]
Is there any way to see what movies are available on Netflix (at least currently, and preferably also things that were available at one time or another)? After poking around their website, I can't find any way to search unless I want to Start My Free Trial TODAY!!!
Ahoy! I've taken (and enjoyed) Manhattan Sailing Club's basic intro to sailing course and been on the water several times in other places. I'm now looking for a way to continue to sail and learn in New York on the weekends. Is there anywhere you can take a non-beginner class with an instructor without emptying your bank account? [more inside]
Thinking of going. Could use some tips, hints and tales. [more inside]
Does it make sense to buy a cheap car just for weekend camping trips? If so, what should we look for? [more inside]
Short version: my fiancé's family is involved in a cult. He left the cult while in college, but they don't know. Most people don't know, except me and a few other friends. He hasn't told his family that he left, and he says he never will. My question is, what do we do when/if they want us to be more involved in their lives, without either getting involved in the cult or letting it slip that we're not part of it? [more inside]
I'm going to Fukuoka in September. On the way back to USA, I'm looking at just a little more than 1 hour to make a transfer from the domestic Jetstar flight (Fukuoka-Tokyo) to the international JAL flight (Tokyo-Boston). Is that enough time to make the switch? Uncertain what Narita's airport structure and procedure are. Hand-carry luggage only. The 2 bookings are separate. Thanks. [more inside]
My precious little moppet is turning my house into a pigsty, and I'm getting very frustrated with playing maid. Can I contain the mess a little? [more inside]
I moved to a new city and am renting a cool place. The catch is "no pets". My parents are taking care of my cat but I miss him terribly. My landlord lives in another country and never checks up on the place. Would it be a terrible idea to fly my cat over here without my landlord's knowledge? What's the worst that can happen?
I'm looking for examples of contagious infectious diseases for which there is no known cure (and which do not clear on their own) but which are non-fatal (or can be rendered so with known treatment). So basically, a disease where once you catch it you've got it forever, but it probably won't kill you, at least in the short term. Examples: Herpes Simplex, HIV. [more inside]
I am going to Ireland. Yay! We forgot to request a GPS with our car rental so I'm bringing mine from home (USA) in case they don't have any when we get there. Unfortunately, my GPS no longer holds a charge and has to be plugged in to work. Will my US cigarette lighter adapter work in an Irish car?
How do I figure out what chemical plants in Houston-Beaumont-Port Arthur and South Louisiana are union shops? [more inside]
We are expecting our first child and I am an excited and joyful father to be. I would like a book or a pair of books on pregnancy and child rearing with special conditions. [more inside]
I'm making a Spotify playlist of rare 1960s garage pop not in English. French Ye-ye music is well covered online, I'm full up on that. But other than a couple of hints about Italian and Spanish singers from the Wikipedia Yeye page I haven't found much else. Give me your favorite examples of danceable, hip, poppy, swinging 60s tunes from other parts of the world! [more inside]
Does anyone have experience by value hydronic radiators. Basically i want a Myson-like radiator but they are out of my budget. What other brands are a good value.
My father's been quite ill and we've been looking for ways to keep his mind off the discomfort he's in. He generally doesnt sing very much but sings marvelously when he does, so today we started singing together—he, I, my brother on the guitar, and my mum humming along tentatively :). It was lovely; we all enjoyed it, and we'd like to do it more. I'm looking for duet suggestions—more details inside. [more inside]
Pretty straightforward...what's the best spam filter for Mac's Mail program? [more inside]
What are some awesome breweries/distilleries run by women? [more inside]
My cheapo Android tablet finally gave up the ghost. I'm in the market for a new, nicer one and thought about getting the Nexus 7*. But searching around, it seems to have a lot of problems with battery life, even when on stand-by. I don't play games or watch videos or even listen to music much on a tablet. My main use case is reading and annotating pdf articles and books, especially when traveling (long flights) when battery life is kinda important. Are these battery life concerns for the Nexus 7 founded? Is there another Android** tablet that does better? [more inside]
I will be returning to school in the fall to start prerequisite courses for a Physical Therapy program. I don't know math. The last time i took math was in high school, and it was basic geometry. I would like to teach myself primarily, so that i can test into higher classes. The goal is to be able to test into pre-calc, so that i can also qualify for the physics classes as well. Any suggestions? I don't really care about the method. I was thinking about buying a textbook, but i was unsure of which ones to get. Thanks.
I'm listening to my 10-year-old daughter use two old iPhones (A and B) to record herself in four-part harmony. She records on A, then plays that while singing the second part and recording on B, then plays that on B while singing the third part and recording on A again. Surely this can be done on a single iPad, with better fidelity. [more inside]
I took a management role at a fast-growing startup for a mix of good and bad reasons. Eight months into the new role, I'm realizing my boss & I have very different styles, that the expected "management perspective" and accompanying behaviors feel itchy. I don't want to leave the place — I just don't think I like a situation where I'm constantly managing up, down and sideways. How can I get out of this without having to leave altogether? [more inside]
I want to take a road trip this summer but have no idea where. I'm willing to drive within about a 10 hour radius of Champaign, IL. Specifications inside. [more inside]
I'm looking for a service/app/website to help me discover new [e]books to read - a little like how pandora works for new music. Ideally I could enter an book and get lists of 'similar' books. In this case similar might be genre, author, series, plot details, setting. Other functionality I'd love would be to replicate the book-store experience of browsing shelves (especially the New Release section) to find books. [more inside]
The past 3 years of my life have brought both steady weight gain and financial instability, leaving me with a very sparse, heavily-worn and ill-fitting wardrobe. The financial strain has finally lifted, so yay! time to get some new clothes. The problem? I'm 10 weeks pregnant, teetering into plus sizes, and trying to strategize my purchases for maximum future wear. [more inside]
I'm having trouble keeping my finances organized for tax purposes. Special considerations: renting out a property, medical expenses. [more inside]
I'm pregnant, so my husband and I are looking for a larger place to live. We found a great house, where the landlord lives in a separate basement MIL unit in the house. Should I conceal that I'm pregnant (doable depending on what I wear) in case concerns about screaming babies might convince him not to rent to us? Or should I tell him up-front, since living in the same house as a landlord who doesn't want you there could be uncomfortable and stressful? [more inside]
I was doing a degree program and I had some mental health problems and dropped the ball big time. How do I recover? [more inside]
I'm in the process of expanding my work wardrobe, and especially need things for summer! Help a girl out during this time of 90 degree weather! Slight complications inside. [more inside]
Okay, I feel like mixtape questions are about the laziest questions you can ask, and yet I'm going to lose my mind if I listen to these two songs back-to-back one more time. I'm listening, non-stop and endlessly, to Hozier's Take Me to Church and Jeff Buckley's Lover, You Should Have Come Over. [more inside]
Cooks, do you think I can make chocolate pudding with Abuelita hot chocolate tablets and coconut milk? [more inside]
I have a vision to (when I buy a house someday) grow a forest where the lawn used to be. The best time to have started this was 20 years ago. Since that did not happen, I am wondering if it's possible to speed the growth of trees excessively through grafting. Can you graft the trunk of a young tree into the middle of another young tree, thus doubling the height? Now I am wondering what are the most extreme and crazy things that can be done with tree grafting.
[A fairly mundane issue, so apologies if something similar has been answered, but I didn't see anything.] I function normally at work, and get things done just fine, but on my down time I fail completely to meet even marginally acceptable levels of time management. [more inside]
I'm trying to find an excerpt/quote from Gone with the Wind (the movie). Someone (I think Rhett but I'm not sure) is criticizing Ashley (to his face? behind his back? can't remember) for being unfair to both Scarlett and Melanie. I thought it was along the lines of Ashley being too weak to either love her properly or give her up properly. Help? [more inside]
Do you know of a good, inexpensive place that repairs and cleans oriental rugs in NYC? [more inside]
Training app for faster 5k. [more inside]
I will be arriving around 5 PM, might take me until 6 PM to get to the hotel on Sunday. It's a business related trip, but since I'll be working normal office hours, I can work around it and still try to have some kind of fun. I've never been to Dallas. What can you suggest to me that might be fun? [more inside]
Is physiotherapy a viable career to take up in your thirties? [more inside]
What are your favorite drinking-related puns in popular music? [more inside]
I love my dog, but I am at the end of my rope. He's a sweet young chihuahua mix but can't seem to master potty training. I found him as a stray when he was about a year old. He was likely horribly abused: emaciated, terrified of people, cowered/shivered when approached, had never eaten out of a bowl, covered in ticks in a very urban area, and so on. He may have never lived inside. After three years, he's much rehabilitated but still struggles with house training. [more inside]
My little lady is 16 this month. She's been my best pal since I was 21. But we're hitting a rough patch, and I'm not sure what my course of action should be. [more inside]
How do I let my friend know that her lack of communication is hurting my feelings, without sounding needy or desperate? [more inside]
I am doing research on health disparities, and health equity. I would like to find out when the following terms were first used in the US, or in what fields/disciplines: Health Disparities, Health Inequities, Health Inequalities. I would also like to find references to historical works which talk about these concepts, although not using the exact phrases. The earliest mention of health disparities I have found thus far, with a reference librarian, is 1991 Whitehead. Although I know the term has been employed prior to this date. I also know that W.E.B DuBois has written about about health differences experienced by blacks in Philadelphia as compared to whites. And Engels has written about inequalities due to SES. However, I would like more sources, and the reference librarian and I are stumped. At this point, we are not finding what I am looking for in articles and therefore the reference librarian suggested I started looking in books, we are just not sure where to start. Thanks Hivemind! Any creative ideas to find this information are much appreciated!
I am currently working my dream job in the Advancement/Development office of my alma mater. I've only been there four months, but I love it and they are already talking about promoting me! Yay! The only problem is that I need to earn Masters degree if I want to travel the career trajectory my boss plans for me. I have applied and been accepted at a relatively good Higher Education Administration graduate program with a concentration in fundraising management, and am due to start a summer class in just a few weeks, but I am feeling unsure. [more inside]
I own a small business with 11 employees, about 13 computers and a half dozen or more other devices. We currently run a peer to peer network and all the machines are on Windows 7. Is it time I bit the bullet and upgraded to a server based system? [more inside]
Who was it that spoke out against works of fiction with characters and plots similar to 'Slan,' in which the sympathetic protagonist is innately, biologically, invisibly superior or special for some reason, and is persecuted or otherwise struggles because of it? [more inside]
My partner, who I love dearly, has Adult ADD, which means, among many symptoms, he gets "stuck" at work and has trouble transitioning out of work projects. If he is particularly engaged in work this means he does not come home until 10 p.m. or later. Sometimes he pulls all-nighters at the office. Spouses of ADD partners, how do you create your own routine in the midst of disarray? I don't want to assume he will fail -- i.e. not expect him home until after 11 p.m. -- but frequently that is what he does. It feels cold-hearted to assume I will be spending the evening alone, but if I am to make my own healthy habits, it seems I must make them solo. How do I create healthy habits in the midst of uncertainty? I want to encourage him to come home and spend time with me, but I'm aware that counting on him to be home and participate in shared activities sets me up to fail. Help me, hivemind (and any stories of thriving with an ADD spouse would be much, much appreciated!!). [more inside]
We have two bottles of really tasty flavored oils (one is jalapeño olive oil and the other is olio piccante, some sort of spicy Italian oil) and we're looking for ideas on what to do with them. They don't heat well (the flavors dissipate quite a bit), so we're looking for suggestions on what to do with them. We like to drizzle them on soups right before serving and over hummus. Any other great ideas?
Does anyone have any advice about taking criticism is a healthy manner? Whether it be work, your home life, or some other venue, taking criticism seems to be an important skill. When people who I do not know very well offer criticism or unsolicited advice I can have a hard time with it, if I'm not sure whether what they are telling me is solid or not. Which leads me to my next question about how much of what someone tells you do you take on faith versus trusting your own experiences? [more inside]
I read a while ago a quote from Oppenheimer that eloquently expressed the idea that once a scientist gets in his or her head the idea that a result is achievable, he or she will not be stopped until that result is achieved. He referred to the scientist, though the sense in which he meant the term might better map to what many consider an engineer. [more inside]
I am trying to identify the type and brand of floor tiles in my kitchen so I can replace a couple of them. Unfortunately, there is no box, no label and no brand identifier on them. I think they are vinyl tiles, in an off-white and black cover , with a cork backing and fit together with locking edges (see pics here). Anybody have any ideas of the manufacturer or brand name?
Indians of me-fi: is it commonly accepted etiquette that splitting a restaurant bill with Indian parents is an insult? [more inside]
I'm writing my will, and I'm planning to donate pretty much my entire estate. Places on my radar are: ACLU, Planned Parenthood, and Lambda Legal. I know there are tons of other great organizations out there, but I don't know who they are, so please tell me about them. I am interested in anything progressive/social justice-y.
Digital point-and-shoots have a very wide depth of field. I've been explained this is because of the tiny sensor size. But film P&S have very wide depth of field too, despite being "full frame." My guess is because of the lens distance to film and small aperture. Is this correct? Say, if I frankenmount a film P&S lens to a DSLR would I get the same wide depth of field of a P&S?
I intend to buy a scratch & dent furnace from these guys, even after shipping (100 dollars) It will be much cheaper than buying a new one. I want to find some heating/cooling company to install it for me.. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
Rules of thumb for substituting whey for water in the bread machine. [more inside]
My boss hits on me. I'm gay and he doesn't know it. But I don't want to end up souring my relationship with him because I think he could help my career. And honestly, I otherwise enjoy working for him and do think I can learn a lot from him too. It just makes me uncomfortable when he hits on me just because a) it's awkward. But also b) because sometimes I wonder if it's why he keeps me around. (Although he has been really positive about my work and I do think my work is very good, to be honest. But it still makes me wonder sometimes.) [more inside]
I recently took up running. Three days after my last run I was struck with crazy pain in my foot which has never really gone away. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
I recently picked up a set of these behind-head earphones. The frame is plastic and I'm worried that they might get broken if they're folded up and stuffed in a bag or my pocket. Help me find an appropriate carrying solution? [more inside]
In Paris with new husband, atrocious French skills. Haven't seen my Brit sister in over 15 years and she booked us hotel in Deauville-Trouville to meet tomorrow, 15 June. All I know is the train leaves from Gare St Lazare. The NCSF site requires Europe billing address so we couldn't buy ticket online, and train listings appear and disappear. We are getting frantic about what is happening. Train strike appears to be renewed, from what I can glean. Can anyone help?
Exams are done, grades are submitted, and we still have class? Yeah, I have up to 6 45-minute periods left with my grade 10 and 11 students next week that I would rather not fill with nothing but movies. I need ideas for something else to do with ~35 Chinese teenagers. [more inside]
I am currently 21 years old. I feel like I have been awkward my entire life and I don't know how to fix it. I am willing to go through the painful process of learning though. What can I do? Am I just a weird person? [more inside]
I've been watching a lot of Kodo, the taiko band, lately, and wondering what other sorts of performance are based on impressive human effort. [more inside]
My grandfather was born in Pennsylvania to Italian parents during the 1920s in Lackawanna County / Scranton. I was able to obtain a new birth certificate from the PA Dept of Vital Records, but the last name was misspelled. When I called about this, they could only tell me that the mis-spelling "was what it said on the birth certificate". How do I go about seeing the original to get the mistake corrected? [more inside]
Thinking of hiring someone. His resume says he's been a Navy SEAL. Is there any way to check whether this is true?
What is a good digital humanities/digital visualization intro course or workshop for me? Difficulty level: immediate, NYC/London. [more inside]
My first grade classroom looks slightly like a (colorful) prison. It is white painted cinder block. It has three big windows with blinds and most of the furniture is kind of dilapidated. There are fluorescent lights. I have a few houseplants and even had a friend build some colorful curtains for the cubbies and cabinets, but I can't seem to kick the institutional feel. It also smells sort of weird. What are some of the make or break elements that make a space feel cozy, homey, livable? Especially for a child-friendly place.
I'm curious to know what's going on with my body. I'm enjoying very high sex drive the last 6 months, ever since my 7th month of pregnancy. I thought it was a third trimester thing, but I wanted my husband 5 days postpartum. So what's going on? [more inside]
I need sources that list racist words & phrases applied to Black Americans during slavery and immediately following. I've nosed around the net and I've got a good library of primary and secondary sources for the period, but I'm looking for additional, focused sources. NOTE: I'm not soliciting terms with this post. Just sources that list terms.
My go-to OTC allergy med isn't working well, and my ragweed/pollen allergies are going crazy. I went to the allergist and she gave me a nasal spray to try, then said I could use allergy shots in the fall. I told her that I would like to try them right away (she said they have a chance of eliminating allergies, which would be a miracle!), but she doesn't want to use them yet. The nasal spray doesn't seem to be working. Should I force the issue, or is she right to be cautious? [more inside]
Are there any stores in Los Angeles that might carry this version of Sherlock - Season 1 (region 3 Taiwan version with Traditional Chinese Subtitles)? I need it quicker than YesAsia's 7-14 day shipping estimate.
So, the hubster is actively looking for work in the Seattle area and we have a few leads. We're definitely looking to move there soon. I've lived in the PNW before, but on the other side of the Sound. I have no idea what the area on the Seattle side is like and am looking for guidance. [more inside]
I went to university for Architecture. I've been in the field for 8 years, never got my license, and I really don't see my future in it. I'd like to switch to computer science / programming. Is this realistic? How do I do it? [more inside]
I need a recommendation for a camera lens for my Rebel Xsi. I'm photographic quilts indoors (the quilt is hanging flush against a wall) and I can't photograph the whole dang thing with my current lenses (a 50mm 'nifty-fifty' and a EFS 18-55). Is there an affordable lens I could buy that would work better? The distance from wall-to-wall is about 7 feet. The quilt I was trying to photograph was 70x70 inches. Thanks in advance.
I'm looking for a Twitter client for Windows 8. Failing that, I'm looking for a way to force Win8's Metro apps to run as desktop apps, or a way to log back into a Twitter client that I've previously used. [more inside]
Mr. Attackpanda teaches gymnastics and has been offered a job to become the head coach of a gymnasium and eventually become the owner of it. What should we ask of the current owner to make sure this is a good opportunity for us? [more inside]
I'm trying to find the Bloom County strip where they made the "President James Garfield as Garfield the cat" joke ("Presidents don't respond on Mondays"). I've looked at this site which has a strip archive, and searchable text, but no luck. It was definitely in one of the original printed collections. Any idea which book it was in, or an approximate date, so I can track it down?
How I can I better handle these intense feelings and hold them in while maintaining the confidence and calmness that made the woman like me in the first place? [more inside]
Hi guys I live in us and my mom in Romania. We talk on the phone quite often- everyday being that I am the only child. But it hurts me so much when I talk to her to know that she drank, or that she is drunk. The way I suspect it is by speech. She is not that fluent, the words come out harder from her mouth. I know her, and I know if she drank just by listening to her speech. Obviously she denies like any addict. This thing kills me because I know it kills her. How do I deal with it? I told her repeatedly that I hate it. I was thinking to stop talking to her. Basically I was thinking that if one night I call and she is drunk then don't call for a week. Hopefully she can link her drinking to me not calling which she freaks out if I don't call. It might not work but at least I keep my sanity because after I see her like that my whole day is ruined.
Where can I purchase Cisco fortified wine in northern Virginia or the metro DC area. Ideally I wouldn't have to drive all the way in to DC, but could be convinced if you're sure its sold a shop there. For what it's worth - acquiring the wine is for lulz purposes, not for "oh I really want to drink Cisco."
The idea of playing Cards Against Humanity in a hot tub sounds awesome. How can I make this happen? Bonus points for waterproofing options that don't cost hundreds of dollars and/or don't take hundreds of hours of work.
So, I've jumped into online dating. It's going oddly better than expected, such that I now have a couple etiquette questions: 1) how do I politely turn down a request for a second date? He seems like a kind person and I'd like to avoid hurting his feelings inasmuch as possible, but I wasn't quite feeling that spark of attraction. Is there some equivalent of Miko's breakup talk for this that will help here, something clear but gentle? Also... [more inside]
I've built a website that combines all state constitutions in one place. I want to build another website that puts all state laws in one place. But state laws change much more often than state constitutions. And although states make their laws available online (usually in the form of revised statutes), their word count greatly exceeds the total word count of state constitution. It took six months to build the state constitutions website. [more inside]
I’m asking on behalf of a friend, who for the purposes of this question I'll call ‘Ted’. A good friend of his ‘Pete’ has taken a turn for the worse. Ted saw Pete for the first time in several months, and he’s a mess. Ted is seriously worried for Pete’s well being, he’s falling into a cycle of partying and drug use, and seems to be falling apart. Drugs, Physical and Mental Health issues abound, Ted wants to know how to help Pete before things get really bad. [more inside]
Any mefites knowledgeable about the French transport situation at the moment? Two of us have booked train tickets from Paris to Caen tomorrow and it seems that almost no trains are running. [more inside]
What is this machine sewing technique called? I read a sewing encyclopedia a while ago that had a section on an unusual method of loading the machine that involved pulling the bobbin thread from the bottom part of the machine through the needle... [more inside]
I got hit with a "what kind of salary range are you looking at?" inquiry from a prospective employer, and I asked for a figure which is at the upper limit for starting positions at said company. It's been two weeks and I haven't heard back. I could use your advice on how to best phrase a follow-up email letting HR know that I am just checking in and also am open to negotiations. [more inside]
Yesterday my PC repeatedly failed to update Windows. My attempts to get things back on track went catastrophically wrong. I have a backup system and am now putting my system back together. What *should* I have done? [more inside]
It's from within the past 10 years, I think. The wave hits very early on--a couple are in a high rise hotel and the woman sees it coming from the hotel balcony. I remember a scene of her and I think her son underwater at some point. Not "The Impossible"! I hope that rings someone's bell...and thank you!
We traveled a couple of weeks ago, and my 7 month old got a respiratory virus and got very sick. Sent from pediatrician's office to ER to PICU sick. Based on timing, Occam's Razor says she caught it on the plane. We will be flying again in a few weeks. I would like practical tips for things we can do on the plane to minimize the risk of her getting sick again. [more inside]
We are in Morocco, flying back to the US via Madrid on Sunday...bought rugs today without thinking about how to get them home with us! [more inside]
Am I supposed to tip on the full, normal cost of meals and drinks during happy hour? [more inside]
I need to create a custom keyboard for Windows 8, which I'm running in a Bootcamp partition with Parallels. Microsoft Keyboard Creator doesn't work (some people claim it does despite not being supported, but it didn't work for me.) [more inside]
I'm in a funk. I (logically) know that I have a good life, but I'm really depressed right now and I can't seem to be able to bounce back. I have eliminated all distractions from my life, and that means that I have more time to be depressed. The only thing that provides me real joy is food, and so not only I'm getting fatter, but I'm getting more depressed because of that too. I just sit around and eat all day (which is not good!). I need to get out of this funk, please help. [more inside]
I'm going to a conference in Lisbon in mid-July, but my partner and I are flying to Portugal 5 days early to check it out. We've never been before, and we'd like to explore somewhere other than Lisbon during that time--2 other towns at most. Which should we choose? [more inside]
Assuming a person moves around a lot and does not have a permanent mailing address, how do you know if someone is trying to sue you? Do you just continuously check your credit report to see if you missed a court date somewhere? But then by the time you miss it, it's too late. You automatically lose if you don't show up in court.
Fructose filter: I’ll be in peninsular Malaysia. I hear the food is incredible and diverse, but I have a dietary restriction. Can you suggest some dishes that might be suitable? [more inside]
Can't get this "modern, adult version of the trapperkeeper" out of my head, but it's too expensive! [more inside]
I have to write a piece of a Choose Your Own Adventure story for a baby shower - the idea is to put them all together so the baby will eventually read this story we've created for them - and I want to look at some examples for inspiration since it's been a long time since I read those stories. Can you point to something online? [more inside]
I have a 20x20" jpg that is 72dpi. I don't have the original file, or any other versions of it. Using photoshop, how can I turn it into a smaller picture that is a higher dpi? [more inside]
Can anyone provide instances of humanitarian efforts on a global or national scale that ended up exacerbating matters or creating new problems? What made these efforts different from successful ventures? [more inside]
What should be my nephew check out while he's going to school in Washington, D.C.? [more inside]
Help me remember the film I'm thinking of. Takes place in a small town in Kansas or Nebraska or somewhere. Raining hard throughout. Somebody has something valuable that he stole from a bad guy. Bad guy owns a bar. Beautiful woman seems like an ally but turns out to betray the protaganist. She is killed by him in the end. She is a Kim Basinger type. Protaganist is a John Cusack type. Bartender is an older actor with a biggish physique.
I'm planning an alumni party for my workplace's residents and fellows who will be at the national annual meeting for our specialty. The conference is at the Orange County Convention Center. I'm looking for a place within walking distance of the conference, with good food (doesn't have to be fine dining, or anything, but needs to be tasty) and a pleasant ambiance where our doctors can catch up on what they've been up to for the past year. It'll be a Tuesday night in September. [more inside]
The last couple times we've gone to Costco looking for bulk ground beef (we make chili in large batches and freeze individual portions), we noticed that it had been packaged that day, and was marked best before the very next day. [more inside]
Please help me make the most of my vacation (staying just outside Oxford) the last week of July (7/28-8/1). (The Faulkner conference will take place the previous week - dang.) I am familiar with the town generally, but plan to be showing it (and north MS generally) off to a friend those last few days. Thacker Mountain Radio does not have a schedule posted for then, nor does Square Books, nor the Ford Center. I know it is a ridiculous time of year to travel there, but that's not negotiable. Any ideas?
I have Brainwavz M3 in-ear monitors and, before sending them out to be fixed, I want to know if the problem probably resides in the earbuds themselves or in the audio jack. See Extended explanation... Thank you. [more inside]
Will splitting the difference between distance and near pupillary distance make my glasses easier to use? [more inside]
I'd like to give my 5 bridesmaids a book of poetry each as a gift. Your poetry suggestions, give them to me! [more inside]
My esteemed coworker bought some apricot jam in Parma, Italy, and we'd like to buy some more. [more inside]
I recently purchased a Costco executive membership, and am pretty thrilled with how much I'm already saving. But I only want to nab the good deals, and it's hard to individually compare each item's price to the other supermarkets I shop at. So, I'd like to hear what you consider to be Costco's consistently top bargains; also, are there any sites that list Costco's prices for the month relative to other stores' prices? (and maybe even show the items with the biggest savings?) [more inside]
I googled my new supervisor at my volunteer gig and found out that this person is trans and doesn't identify with a binary gender. I don't know how I should refer to my supervisor now. Some questions about how to proceed. [more inside]
Okay, so I don't really have bipolar but I was prescribed Lamictal off-label for depression since the SSRI's were giving me all kinds of side effects (none on Lamictal, yay!) I'm on 150 mg right now, and I am doing a lot better. I do, however, still go into these dark moods every once in a while. I heard that the therapeutic dose is closer to 200mg, and am debating asking my psychiatrist to bump me up. Details inside. [more inside]
Recently I heard Gotta Get Away by the Black Keys. And it took me a couple days to identify Ball and Chain by Social Distortion as the song it sounded like. My resident musician tells me this is a simple 154 chord progression and pointed me to Dead Flowers by the Rolling Stones. Got any others? [more inside]
In short: PMP? CISA? Dev? Or all of the above? I'm working at a small IT company (30 people). I have a CompSci degree. I went from programming to business analysis to project management with a side of information security thrown in as I'm responsible for ISO 27001 policy compliance. I'm not a "rockstar" or expert in any of those fields, but I can do them competently. (There certainly haven't been any complaints from the management.) Basically I'm a "jack of all trades, master of none". So where do I go from here? [more inside]
Today, I was enthusing about a photograph from the surface of Mars, and a friend responded along the following lines: "I find it hard to get excited about it when there are so many starving people here on Earth. We should fix our own problems before exploring other planets." How could I have responded? [more inside]
I'm looking for examples of period movies/series - particularly of ancient times - that are absolutely, obsessively, flawlessly historically accurate. As in 'if I emerged from a time machine, that's how it would be' accurate, or universally-blessed-by-eminent-historians accurate. [more inside]
I am looking for recommendations about adult acting classes/courses in London to take later this year. I am interested in longer and more demanding courses (1 year or more), which I could accommodate with my day job. I know there are many options available (e.g. Foundation course at CityLit). I am asking here in order to explore all possible options and hear about your recommendations and experience. Thank you very much for any feedback! [more inside]
I'm interested in knowing more about ableism (its central theories, history, politics, etc). Frankly, I'm very ignorant of the subject at present. I've tried researching on my own, but have come up nearly empty in terms of finding thorough sites, blogs, books -- anything, really. Disability rights is also something I'd like to learn about, though I'm so ignorant of that subject as well that I'm not sure of the overlap between that and ableism. [more inside]
I'm interested in making things along the lines of Lush and Herbivore Botanicals, but all I seem to be able to find online is "how to mash a banana and smear it on your face." [more inside]
As a white foreigner who spends much of his time on a college campus where black people are few and far between, I feel like there's a lot I don't understand about black-white relations in the US. I know my history and understand the social and political issues involved reasonably well, but what I'm missing is a sense of how these things play out in the everyday lives of ordinary people. I'd like to hear conversations and stories, in podcast form or the like, that touch on this stuff. The more candid, informal, personal, and no-holds-barred, the better. [more inside]
What is the source of the poster on the wall in this scene from Mork & Mindy (the one with a man with what looks like blades for arms)?
My mother has lately undergone hip surgery and had her's replaced with an artificial one. She has regular OHIP and has no physiotherapy coverage. She will need a few sessions at her house until my sister, who will be looking after her full-time, learns the exercises and is able to do them herself. In addition to the doctor's recommendation, I am looking for the best physiotherapists in Toronto for this kind of thing. Someone who is professional, friendly, and isn't on the morbidly expensive side of things.
Once again while driving tonight I did not hear an ambulance's siren. This happens to me all the time, and it's not related to being on the phone or listening to music. It would be great if there were a way to transmit some type of signal that could be heard in cars within so many yards of an emergency vehicle. I'm not sure how this could work, or if it is possible. I imagine the ambulance would deliver some signal that could be picked up in a car outfitted with a sensor. What do you think?
I am considering two properties for purchase. One of them is straightforward and the other is complicated (multiple parcels, over 20 acres of land, has tenants living in the cottage, needs to be significantly renovated). I am looking for those with experience to offer advice on whether purchasing a property with major issues like this is worth it. [more inside]
A 69 yr old wheelchair bound man, in SK, Canada, may end up homeless in the very near future. I need to know our options so that he continues to be cared for. In short, all the other safety nets have had holes in them, and we are being threatened with eviction. He relies on me (caregiver/wife) to bathe him, dress him, attend to personal hygiene/bathroom needs. He cannot walk at all, can stand with help, has use of one arm/hand. Living on the streets isn't going to work. Where do I turn now? More details below the fold. [more inside]
Well, here is a little more of me being neurotic about romantic relationships. (I have long forgotten about the crush I asked my last question about.) Yesterday, I was surprise asked out by email by a guy I have met a couple of times. I hadn't thought of him that way, and had no idea he was interested, but thought about it, decided my evaluation of what I knew so far was that he seemed like a sweet person, and said yes. (And then changed my mind.) [more inside]
So, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about how to land a career in market research analysis. Below are the steps I’ve laid out for myself. Could you tell me if this is a good game plan to get where I want to go? [more inside]
I recently bought a Mastrad Purefizz, which easily carbonates 750ml (roughly a wine bottle's worth) of just about anything. My goal is to create drinks to sip on at night, and I'm particularly interested in non alcoholic ideas (but that's not essential). I'm clueless about what tastes good with what, so I need your help! [more inside]
Over the last month, google informed me that my gmail account had been hacked several times. Each time I dutifully changed my password (on the official google site--not the link posted in the warning email). Now, however, I am running into a problem. I can no longer log into to gmail on any computer that isn't one of my home computers or iphone. Every time I do I get the notice from google that "Your password was changed [x] number of days ago." I keep re-entering new password and nothing happens but the above message. Any advice? thanks
My wife and I remember the same mid 1980's movie about a young couple, but cannot figure out what it is. [more inside]
I'm considering a career change into web development and I'm hoping AskMe can help me sort through the abundance of relevant information and get a sense of what reasonable expectations might be. To put it succinctly, I'd like to make about $75-80k a year so that I can support my parents while still being able to save money for my own future. Is it probable for a self-taught developer to earn a salary in this range? [more inside]
The lady and I would are visiting Palo Alto Saturday night. Where should we go for a fun date. Would like to eat, do a fun activity or see a fun thing (though i am on crutches at the moment), and have cupcakes for dessert.
Just graduated with a degree in Industrial Engineering and having hard time getting a job. [more inside]
I do a lot of different things, and I'm not sure there's a title that really captures the kind of trouble I make. [more inside]
I'd like to find some software to organize and tie together less-important details in my story. Probably I want a personal wiki--but which one? I'm open to wiki alternatives also. [more inside]
So I've got a slab of bacon curing in the fridge (in spices, salt, sugar + sodium nitrite). It's been in there for 3 days, out of the eventual 7-10 it will cure. I want to make carbonera tonight, and would love to use this certainly-much-yummier bacon than the normal store bought stuff. Any contraindications to eating half-cured bacon?
Let's say you wanted to take between 3 and 6 months off in order to write. What inexpensive, amazing place would you go? [more inside]
One of my former English students from Toulouse, France is now attending Anne-Sophie Pic's culinary school and hopes to find a job in the U.S. in a couple of years. He has asked me for advice on how to go about that, avenues he should pursue, the kind of Visa he should get (before or after he finds a job?), so now I'm asking for you--- any advice or personal knowledge for fulfilling this dream of his?
I walked into work today and was suspended with potential termination for policy violations, one of which does include the event that led me to ask this question. Where do I go from here? [more inside]
I hit the holy grail and have a new position with full benefits, including full coverage for domestic partners. I have a partner who lives with me, but we are still fairly newish and are not ready to get married. I have to enroll us in the benefits very soon, like now. The problem is, the queer tax (I guess now the Not-Legally-Married tax) on my partner's benefits. [more inside]
I'm working on a writing project partially set in the 1990's underground rave scene in America, and I'm gathering research materials -- books, movies, tv, etc -- that will help me set the stage. I'm interested in both the underground rave scene as it really was, as well as its depiction in popular media, however warped/sensationalized -- basically, anything that could help me build a fully-formed immersive world for my audience, the way Mad Men has done for its time and place. [more inside]
I purchased some Vocabulearn Mandarin Chinese MP3s. Unfortunately they didn't come with a transcript. [more inside]
Please help me figure out how to deal with crippling regret over small and large things. [more inside]
I'm 27 and wear a size 9 (sometimes 9.5) in women's shoes. I also have very narrow feet and fear I'll be going barefoot soon if I can't find somewhat affordable, narrow shoes that don't look like they were made for little old ladies (no offense, little old ladies of the world). I am literally down to one brand of shoe. Halp. [more inside]
A portmanteau for this man's poor toes:
Are Keen Newports good shoes for a long trip to Disney World in August? If not, what beats them? I mean, can I simply wear my running shoes?
Do you try on footwear like this with or without socks?
Do you allow extra room on the assumption that your feet will swell in the steam heat? [more inside]
The fate of the world depends on finding an answer to this question: Which is more grammatically correct -- I'll meet you at IHOP or I'll meet you at the IHOP? If grammar has no opinion, what is the most common formulation? [more inside]
What is the rough pebbly texture that has shown up on my face in the last couple years, and can it be treated? [more inside]
Holy crap. My house value has been creeping up since the bust, which was to be expected. But I just checked Zillow, and they've boosted its estimated value by 23% in the past 30 days (I'm in Westchester County, not far from White Plains). [more inside]
Bought an item on Amazon. Seller sent me different model than what I bought. Took effort, but finally convinced seller they should pay for return shipping. I shipped it. Seller claims item was not in box I shipped. Now what? [more inside]
What are the best World cup liveblogs? I'm looking for people who will blogging during games and who will be both insightful and funny. Any people/organizations who will be livetweeting games will also be appreciated.
We have been invited for a graduation party ( next Saturday)for a 21 year old special need young man who is graduating from a special school.I don't know much about him.But I know he is verbal and independent .This is my first invitation to any graduation party.I don't know what to buy for him.I meet his mom in my son's games.So,I want to give something that will be memorable and they like it too. Another question is what is the appropriate clothes for such parties?haven't been before.so,please help me out with this too. Thanks in advance.
I want to sit alone for a few hours at the best cocktail bar in your city. [more inside]
The current 3 year lease on my car is about to end. I have decided to purchase the car. What are the next steps? I want to be prepared when I go back to the dealership. I will be paying a $150.00 purchase option fee. Will I be negotiating the monthly payment? Will there be anything else I will have to negotiate. I also purchased a lease protection program t. The lease ends next month. The vehicle does have scratches and dings. Does the protection cover the vehicle within the lease or does it apply only when the lease ends and the vehicle is returned to the dealer. Any other insights appreciated.
My husband and I are building a small cabin to live in and I would like us to eventually be able to recycle our greywater to water our future garden. [more inside]
I’m thinking about relocating for a job around Wilmington DE. My first thinking is to find a place to live somewhere between Wilmington & Philadelphia. The commute would be south to work, north for arts/culture and other nice things… [more inside]
A dream position of mine just opened up, but I'm unavailable for up to 6 months. Is it worth applying? [more inside]
For the last two days feedly has been down for significant chunks of time because of DDoS attacks (article). They say hackers are trying to extort them for money. Is this common online? [more inside]
I've worn contacts for over 30 years now but have recently considered getting Lasik. I have heavy astigmatism and have been wearing toric lenses, which work most of the time but still tend to drift making my vision poor at any distance. I signed up for a Lasik seminar, attended and was interested in continuing. I stopped wearing my contacts over two weeks before my preop exam but apparently my eyes still haven't settled to a consistent shape because they couldn't get consistent results when measuring them. I have another exam scheduled in two weeks but I'm beginning to wonder if it's even worth it. Should I just accept defeat or go back and try again?
How can I block all mention of The World Cup 2014 from my online life? [more inside]
I have a (potentially) lovely area in my yard where I'd like to put some patio furniture. Problem: it seems to have been used as a midden/trash heap at some point in the past. Things I've found there include old glass fuses, broken window glass, and old vacuum cleaner parts (some with tree roots growing right through them). I suspect the *right* way to fix it is to dig up and replace a few inches of the topsoil (or to pave it over), but I'm renting. I'm willing to put down a few inches of mulch, but I'd like to get as much of the glass up as I can beforehand. I've been picking it up by (gloved) hand but if anyone has any secret tips for locating and picking up broken glass off of dirt, I'd love to hear them!
Last year, I attended a short artistic workshop that I found really valuable. This year, my girlfriend is attending a similar, but much longer and more prestigious workshop, and it's killing me. [more inside]
I am dying of embarrassment. Please help. I have really heavy periods and in the last couple of years, I can't contain the blood. I need some practical solutions. Metafilter is where I can ask for help with the grossest body things, right? This is so embarrassing I don't even know who to talk to. [more inside]
With summer here, we need some new recipes for treats that I can stuff into a Kong and freeze. What are some of your (and your dog's) favorites? The best options will be relatively easy to make, totally delicious, and not terribly terribly messy as they melt.
So a book I wrote is about to be published, and for my own sanity I think I need to stop looking at the ranking/reviews on my Amazon page. Until I grow some more self-control, I need help. Is there a plugin (or other method) I can use to block all Amazon pages relating to my book? [more inside]
I'm obviously not talking about people who act on it. But we don't choose our fetishes, and I've read a few tortured anonymous accounts of people who don't want to molest children and will never act on it, but nevertheless suffer with that compulsion. So I'm wondering what resources they use to cope. [more inside]
When I attempt to Edit Document Text using Acrobat X Pro on a page I often need to alter, all I get are squares in place of the letter/numbers I'm attempting to type. The original font on there is Verdana (screen shot here) and this occurs on both my computers. I have Verdana in my font directory and I'm on Windows 7. Any ideas? Thanks.
British sitcom. Probably from the 90s. Two guys and one girl sharing an apartment, one of the guys was afraid to leave the apartment (suffered from agoraphobia). Anyone knows the title?
There's got to be a word or phrase for when someone chooses to sympathise with or prioritize the pain and suffering of a perpetrator over their victims. It's not "victim-blaming" which is about making a judgement of fault or cause of the act itself to reduce the level of the crime, but where people put the weight of their attention and efforts towards the perpetrator and there is comparatively little for the victims. I'm especially interested in a phrase or ethical/theological concept that addresses the hypocrisy of this, where this sympathy to the perp is viewed as a Great Moral Kindness in rehabilitating the sinner while refusing to acknowledge that that effort comes at the cost of further silencing and refusing voice, aid and power to the victims.
Unusual browser behaviour in Firefox - I can't re-open closed tabs any more. For a long time I've made use of Firefox's 're-open closed tabs' feature - (CTRL-SHIFT-T on a PC). I would shut a tab just as I realised I still needed it, hit the keys and it pinged back just as it was. However, in the last couple of months this functionality has totally vanished and that key combo simply brings up a new blank window. What have I broken? In a related development, about 50% of the time, CTRL-clicking on a browser link doesn't open the link in a new tab, it opens a blank tab instead. Any suggestions welcome.
It has taken me two years to get over my ex-boyfriend, and now, in graduate school, I finally, finally met a guy classmate whom I think could be great boyfriend material. He is kind, sweet, super intelligent, and not to mention pretty good-looking. We've spent a bit of time together on projects and study together occasionally, and over the past few months I've really developed some feelings for this guy. The trouble is, I am quite shy and not very good at flirting, so I've tried to initiate contact by organizing study get-togethers, asking him questions on Facebook, etc. I don't want to seem clingy or weird by initiating all this contact though. As for me, people have said I'm pretty, kind, intelligent, blah blah blah. I'm at a point in my life where I would like to find the right man for me and settle down, and I think this guy could be it. Unlike my previous relationships in which we met online, with this guy, I've developed a friendship and my feelings have grown from what I've gleaned from his character and interactions with his family and friends. I really like him, and I don't want to let this one go. Do you have any advice for how to maybe hint to this guy that I like him?
I was referred to an oral surgeon by my local clinic that caters to low income folks like me. I have a major infection in a tooth that is crumbling and dying. I made an appt. with the oral surgeon and chose to have a local anesthetic for the exrtaction. [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a beginner level English language tutorial series for Spanish speakers who cannot read or write in either language?
I've pulled Ghana in our World Cup sweepstakes - how can I decorate my desk on a Ghanaian theme? [more inside]
Why are there such large price discrepancies between the initial displayed prices, and the final displayed prices, with all of these airfare searches? [more inside]
Managing post-job-interview anxiety? [more inside]
I'm in my 20s and spend all my time working on the computer. I have this recurring pain in my upper left back (Trapezius) which always bothers me towards the middle of the work day. When I massage the area, it feels knotted and tough. [more inside]
I have a bunch of flowers in my yard. Pic 1. Pic 2. What are they? I am particularly interested in the blue one, but there are an awful lot of flowers.
I'm interested in adapting this tutorial and this tutorial into a dress design. Basically, I want to keep the accelerometer as part of the design, but have lower profile lights and reduce the number of lines to two or three, somehow... I could solder two extra beads (right?) on but it would look better with just two or three beads/lines. What can I do? The accelerometer isn't super-required since I can just program sparkles, so losing that isn't completely off the table. [more inside]
I'll be heading to Chicago this weekend for a vacationy weekend in a new city. I've got an armload of plans for various things to see and do (including the Wax Trax popup shop), but I also wouldn't mind doing some shopping while I'm down there. Suggestions for an alt-culture excursion? [more inside]
I'm looking for music without original drums so I can practice my free-playing. Right now I'm using some Eno, Gem Club, and Satie, but I'd like some more punk- and rock-oriented stuff if it's out there, especially stuff approaching a conventional rock song structure so I can work in transitions and different grooves. [more inside]
I recently moved into an eco-friendly apartment building, and my unit has this high-efficiency Whirlpool washer. I foolishly did not consider how having this type of washer would impact my lifestyle- namely, that there is no way it can accommodate my full-size comforter. I really do not want to drive down to the laundromat every time I have to wash my comforter. If you have a HE washer, how to do work around this issue? Are there thinner, more heat-insulating comforters out there? [more inside]
When I get off BART at the Dublin/Pleasanton station, I often see quite a few people (as many as ten) getting off my train, walking across the platform, and boarding the train that goes the other direction. Dublin/Pleasanton is the end of the line, and there is only one line that goes there. What are these people doing? [more inside]
I just got my Endorsement after taking the Ride Oregon 3 day class and I am itching to get on my own ride and tool around! I am looking mostly at older Hondas (CM4000 specially) as I like their look and they have a reputation for being pretty bulletproof and great first riders. I, as of today, have not sat on any Hondas other than some older dirt bikes when I was younger and a old co-workers 250cc. So what I am asking is, will this bike fit me (6'2, 183lbs, 30' inseam)? If not, any models you can recommend? Since this is my first, I'm not looking to go over 700cc, with a 400-600cc non-cruiser being ideal for my eventual commute on the freeways.
I'll be living in Seattle for the summer. I'm looking for suggestions of things to do and places to go, both tourist-y and everyday, as well as general resources for someone new to the city. More about me and my interests inside [more inside]
It was someone's homemade outgoing machine message that included some sound effects, and then a voice saying "just show me a rich geologist" followed by a different voice excitedly exclaiming "I'm the mayor!" I definitely downloaded this in the last five years, but I don't know where. Do you?
When I was a kid, my grandfather and I spent a lot of time working on a personalized monopoly type game. We made it out of cardboard, construction paper, elmer's glue, paint, and pen ink. It also is covered with stickers. Unfortunately, it is yellowing/faded/coming undone/moldy(?) and kinda gross. Who can I contact to have this fixed? [more inside]
Hello, I am new in the Real Estate business, and I don't have too many people to ask questions to. I am going to list my parents house for sale as an agent, this woman offered to help guide me through the process if I split the listing with her. She originally wanted 50% of the commission, I told her that was not going to happen, I offered 25%. The way she explained it, is that when my parents sign the listing agreement, both her name and my name have to be on the listing. I am nervous about this proposition, I am wondering if I could somehow get her into a subagency contract for 25%, rather then having her directly on the listing? ------ Thanks, Leon
Some people swear by Rescue Remedy to calm their anxious pets. Are you one of those people? If so, can you tell me your experience? [more inside]
I am looking for a reference manager that can integrate with MS Word, can attach pdfs to the references, and can be accessible maybe over the web to my colleagues in different countries. Basically EndNote, but with cloud storage and remote access. Does this exist? [more inside]
At some point during the night I go from sleeping comfortably to being curled up in a tight little ball, resulting in pain and intense achy stiffness in the morning. If I have an obligation I just deal with it and get up. But on my days off I stay in bed, laying flat on my back, sleeping in 20-minute increments for another two hours or so, and by then the pain is gone and I finally feel rested. While that's nice, it doesn't help me on work days, and it means I don't wake up until about 10am on my days off, so I lose a big chunk of my morning. [more inside]
Mr. Kitty and I are pretty handy, but removing 100 layers of 100 year old paint from our cast iron radiators may kill us. Who can we pay to make this problem someone else's? [more inside]
Seeking recommendations in Amherst/Northampton, keywords sexual dysfunction, OCD, kink-positive, couples. [more inside]
My dad, who is an engineering professor who can barely type, is looking for something that can help him put together lecture slides. I'm not sure if we want to attempt handwriting recognition, or just hand-write slides (similar to Khan Academy videos), but would a Wacom tablet suffice? If so, which model should I get? [more inside]
What is the greatest recording of the Blue Danube Waltz? I want to dance to it at my wedding. I have Googled and whatnot. I want to hear personal suggestions from MeFites.
Let's say I'm in the USA and I dial the UK emergency number (999), or I'm in the UK and I dial the US emergency number (911) or the European number (112). What happens? [more inside]
I'm putting together a Spotify playlist for running (working my way up to 5K), which so far includes Hallogallo by Neu! and Jenny Ondioline by Stereolab, and some songs by Fujiya and Miyagi. What I like about them is the driving, repetitive, steady motorik beat (or a beat that, if not technically motorik, gives the same feeling). I'd love to get more recommendations for other songs that would go on such a playlist.
I spend lots of my free time watching TV and surfing the internet. I feel like I am wasting my life. I am looking for free or very low cost programs like "how to learn/make X in 30 days!" with daily or weekly milestones. I need to see very concrete progress or I will just give up. [more inside]
I love thinking about the vastness of space, the long arc of the cosmic time scale, the complexity of connections in various systems. I find thinking about these big ideas creates a pleasurable feeling in my body, and putting them to music is even more moving. Examples of favorites include Peter Mulvey's "Vlad the Astrophysicist" and Symphony of Science's "We Are All Connected". What other songs combine music and big scientific ideas about how small and insignificant humans are?
I've only watched the show, but I regularly read fan theories online about Game of Thrones. [more inside]
Hi All, Have been searching for awhile now for a brand of hairspray that can give me blonde highlights that wash out. Have tried out this brand by Jerome Russell but find that 1. the smell is horrible 2. it makes my hair super crispy 3. the glitter is crazy and gets EVERYWHERE. Are there any alternatives out there to this?? Gracias!
I need to find a psychiatrist/therapist/someone who can prescribe and treat chronic anxiety and panic in the Phoenix area, preferably at low cost/sliding scale. [more inside]
Hey all, this is a tough one. The long and short of it is, my work at the ad agency has grown stale and my biggest client is revving up its own internal digital strategy team. I want to be on that team and there are several positions that would be a good fit for me. Among other things, I would have a better commute and more money; plus the invigorating effect of a change of scenery, work, etc. BUT I have to clear it with my bosses at the agency. [more inside]
What can I add to my apartment door that is NOT distastefully preppy, hideous, ghetto fabulous, arrives with an invisible "steal me" voice, or requires a million screw holes? I never thought that I would struggle to come up with a decorating idea! But I am. I like colorful, but minimalist designs, but otherwise I am open-minded. Feel free to post links to galleries of door decor(not pinterest unless it's a specific diy), photos or make suggestions based on your own projects. Sometimes a touch of inspiration is all that's needed. [more inside]
I moved to Champaign last weekend (will be here until mid-August) and my plan to use the library as my ISP is already wearing on me. It seems that everyone hates Comcast—I haven't been able to reach customer service to ask about options, so I get that already. My post-August plans are up in the air, therefore I don't want to sign a 12 month contract even if it can be transferred to another location. What are my options for short-term internet access? [more inside]
H1-B to TN-1 to GC? My actual immigration lawyer is suggesting that we use TN-1 status to bridge the gap between the end of my 6th year of H1-B and PERM approval. Will using a non-dual intent status to fill this gap negatively affect a future employment based green card application? [more inside]
My boyfriend's mattress is about 6 years old, and he's a tosser. When I sleep over and he tosses and turns it keeps me up, and it sucks. I'm not sure if it's the mattress or the boxspring - he thinks mattress. Let's say getting a new mattress is not in the immediate future - will a memory foam cover help us? Is there any thing else you can think of? I'm guessing not really, but sometimes there are innovative suggestions around here. [more inside]
My lactose intolerance has worsened in the past year and so I've gone from eating yogurt/ice cream/cheese a few times a week to more like 1-2 times a month. Dairy and calcium intake has always been bad (i.e. low), but I have a new resolve to fix the problem... please help me find the perfect supplement or strategy! [more inside]
The OS X GUI—but only the GUI—has stopped accepting my password. Any password. [more inside]
I'm looking for a quiet vacation spot near nature and living creatures for our April vacation. We are traveling from Boston are are pretty open to locations. [more inside]
Three years ago, I inherited a solid Biachi road bike from my dad. I'm pretty into it now. I usually bike 50 - 100 miles on the weekends, but as that number has crept up, I've run into some some fit issues. Maybe you can help me out with some conceptual stuff. [more inside]
I've been in chronic pain--rarely acute, but constant, flitting about different parts of my body--for years: diagnosis: early Fibro. In early spring, I started getting really bad headaches from clenching my teeth. Not the first time I've had the problem, but never before this intense and for this long. Then about a month ago, I developed lower-back/sciatic pain--again, I've had it before, but never so badly or for so long. The two things didn't overlap much, but they sort of drowned out my regular aches and pains. Now my back problem is clearing up, and I find myself in a panic about not being in pain anymore [more inside]
I'm a high school marching band director and our fall marching show is jazz from Cuba, Brasil, and the United States. Visually I'm using vintage postcards that someone may have sent while traveling. My translation of "Wish you were here!" is as follows... "Queria que você estivesse aqui!" [more inside]
I work in an educational environment, and we have a local media server set up to record lectures and then allow them to be watched/downloaded online via podcast-type RSS, but only a limited number can be stored before they're deleted. How can I go about setting up a mirror of this RSS feed that will allow me to store these recordings indefinitely? More details inside. [more inside]
What's the best way to reflect our family's last names on a return address stamp? [more inside]
My husband just sent me a picture of a spider he found in our kitchen today. Can anyone identify what it is and how high I should calibrate my level of terror (which is currently extremely, very high)? Here is photo of the terrible creature. Beyond identifying, should I be very alarmed about the possibility it may have laid eggs somewhere in our house? We live in Massachusetts, so I am guessing it hitchhiked in on bananas or something. To that point, I bought bananas on Sunday (and usually do a good check in the store for this very reason), and I did take said bananas down from their hanging perch this morning and discarded two that seemed to be rotting from the bottom (bottoms had turned brown). I am now imagining that our trash can is full of terrifying spiders. Help me, Metafilter!
I am working on a very large series of art pieces which incorporate images from porn magazines. (I prefer magazines' print quality to that of what I can find online.) However, I'm having trouble getting enough magazines and don't know how to amass a lot without spending lots of money. Freecycle and Craigslist both forbid porn, though I have gotten a couple stacks from CL. There is no bookstore locally that can help. I am open to any and all hardcore magazines (no Playboy or Penthouse). Any orientation, any fetish is fine, and they need not be recent. I can't afford to pay much for the magazines but could of course pay for shipping.
I would like to make a custom brace for my wrists and some supports for my aching feet using my 3d printer. What are some good places to get started in approaching this project? Is there a site with some existing models? Has anyone on MeFi done this? Should I just start from a 3d scan of my various body parts and build from there to see what's comfortable or should I just take apart my existing splints and start tweaking parts? [more inside]
My boss wants me to find out how to convert our server room full of Oracle / Sun Solaris machines, into vmware Guest Machine instances running Red Hat Enterprise Linux. [more inside]
A friend in the Bay Area (Daly City) rescued an abused cat and is looking for a home for him. The cat is chipped to the abusive owner. [more inside]
As an eczema sufferer, how can I stop scratching in my sleep and give my raw, battered skin time to heal? [more inside]
As part of my doctoral research, I will be conducting interviews with Skype for transcription and analysis. I've heard good things about Audio Hijack Pro as a tool to record audio from Skype -- both from online reviews and from faculty mentors. I've installed the latest version of Skype on my MacBook Air and am currently using the trial version of Audio Hijack Pro (I expect to pay for the full version if I can get the demo working). It works, BUT, I am consistently hearing a horrible echo and feedback when I am hijacking the audio on my Skype test calls. Help! (help...help...help...) [more inside]
I'm looking for a benign keylogger to record the number of keypresses and button presses I make each day. This would be installed on my laptop running Vista (and is for my own personal edification). There are lots of results via Google, but I trust MeFites more, of course. [more inside]
Looking for a simpler way to cut-off internet access between specific times at night and morning on an iPhone... [more inside]
In the past few days I've notice blue vertical lines on my monitor, only in white areas. What is going on? Is it a graphics card issue? [more inside]
We all know of them, and some of us are unlucky enough to know one or more in real life - the narcissist, the emotional vampire, the malicious manipulator without a conscience. Some of us have seen them in action for years, but the malice was never turned our way. And now, my partner and I are on the receiving end of that malice. What safeguards can we put in place to protect our family? [more inside]
A stray cat has apparently taken a liking to our garage. How do we stop this? [more inside]
I'm an author with a google problem. I have the same name as another author (completely different genre, though) and if you google that name, my books show up alongside hers in search results. This has been a recurring problem for years, to the point where I'm planning on tweaking my name for my next book, but for now I'd just like our books not to be conflated. (Google also combines images of me and this other woman, although I'm not as concerned about that). I've tried reporting this issue to google, but so far haven't had much luck penetrating the bubble. Any tech-savvy people have ideas on how I can distinguish my work? Thanks in advance...
Ok hivemind, you've helped me once before, I hope you can do it again. I volunteer for an NPO that hired a less than competent development shop to create a very specialized membership database using Drupal. That includes migrating from a Filemaker database and a whole bunch of thoroughly detailed specifications for enrollment, payment systems, membership management, member profiles, various back office reports, event calendaring, conference scheduling, etc. etc. These specs describe the functions we want and I think they are clear. What's next for us? How do I find someone good to finish the job? How does bidding for a job like this work? [more inside]
Recently my girlfriend switched internet providers, from Verizon to Time Warner. Since installing the new Time Warner-provided router, we've both been having problems with our phones seemingly not being able to use certain apps or services. [more inside]
I'm working on a novel (yeah, yeah) in which the bad guys are, among other things, a couple of rival business-criminal assholes. I know nearly zero about business, finance, and politics, and I don't want to talk about these folks in ways that show me to be the faffy prancing buffoon I really am. [more inside]
I'll be in Manhattan from this weekend for a conference and some holiday time. I'm trying to keep up cycle training for a big event in two months. Are there routes around Manhattan where I can do some nice mileage while seeing some sights and feeling secure? Details within. [more inside]
Looking for a specific passage in a Samuel Beckett novel (probably from Watt or Murphy). I'm pretty certain this is from one of his early novels, rather than any of his other works. [more inside]
I moved to a new place with in-unit washer and dryer a few months ago. Since I started using those machines, my button-down casual and dress shirts come out of the laundry extremely wrinkled. Jeans also end up wrinkled enough that they usually require ironing. I've almost never had to iron clothes in the past. Now I spend quite a bit of time ironing everything, and it's especially difficult and time-consuming because the wrinkles are so severe. How can I stop this from happening? Ideally I want to go back to those blissful days of not ironing at all. A few pertinent facts inside. [more inside]
One of my favourite Youtube series is Extra Credits. This series is centered around games, but it explores any number of related topics from games in education, the business of making games, careers in the game industry, religion, psychology, social issues.... Are there any other podcasts or video series where the creator has strong expertise in a particular topic, but relates in to a broad range of other areas?
You've lived/camped/traveled extensively in your caravan/camper-van/class b RV... [more inside]
My fiance and I are thinking of renting other people's timeshare units. We notice that there are a number of websites that offer this. We are concerned about getting scammed. How should we go about renting and paying for timeshares without getting scammed in the process? [more inside]
How can I tell Google Maps and GPS navigation systems that there has been a gate across part of my road since the mid-90s? [more inside]
A coworker invited me to her daughter's rangapravesha (indian dance performance) after I saw a fancy brochure/program at her desk and remarked, "Wow, this looks amazing! It would be great to see this kind of dance performance! Let me know when she is performing!" Did I awkwardly invite myself to what is essentially a family event, like a quinceañera or a graduation? If you've been to a rangapravesha or had one of your own, what else should I know if I attend? Additional over-thinking questions below the fold. [more inside]
How can I be a good aunt to my future nephew and support to my sister? [more inside]
My dear friend is entering the hospital tomorrow and joining the heart transplant list. We need to open a bank account so we can start accepting Paypal donations from friends and family who live too far away to help make meals, etc. What questions should I be asking a bank? Ideas on how to get started? [more inside]
I summarize this dilema below: I have been accepted at EPFL (Switzerland) for the master in bioengineering with an EPFL Excellence Fellowship and also at the MsS in Biomedical Engineering at Imperial College London. Both Universities are very well ranked in these areas, as you can see in this bioengineering rank. In most rankings, Imperial College is a few places above EPFL and London is a great city but I would have a really good scholarship if I go to EPFL (18000$ per year) and the tuition is much lower (about 1000$ vs 13000$ at Imperial). [more inside]
My boyfriend has had a motorcycle for years, since before we met. I've always known he loves motorcycles and will always want to have one. I've always had some anxiety about his safety on the bike - not because I don't think he's a cautious and experienced rider (he is very much so) but because, well, they can be quite dangerous, especially in the city. We live together now and I'm more aware of his comings and goings than I used to be, so I find myself feeling more and more fearful of something happening to him while riding. [more inside]
I'm shocked and appalled by the recent revelations regarding the treatment of cattle on the dairy farm in Chilliwack, BC. This is the final straw for me; I can no longer contribute to the success of factory farms by purchasing their products. Help me find a place where I can buy cream for my coffee that is from happy, humanely-raised cows. [more inside]
I'd like some recommendations for web hosting companies for relatively small sites. Some snowflakery inside. [more inside]
I know the basic renter apartment maintenance things, but nothing beyond that. I have hammers, screwdrivers, etc. However, in a week I am moving to a rural house and want to learn some real DIY skills. What are the "entry-level" DIY tools I should learn and use?
I have been invited to lunch on my first day at a mid-sized federal agency by a fellow analyst. What should we talk about? [more inside]
How can I deal with this nagging sense of guilt that I should know more Chinese than I presently do? Or, how can I improve my Chinese as a busy twenty-something year-old? [more inside]
Technical writers: please share your experiences with me regarding offshoring and job security. I am considering technical writing as a career change and want to determine if it would be a good move to enter this field. Details inside. [more inside]
I need help finding a hairstylist that listens! [more inside]
I'm in the weird position of being halfway through a psych/programming/IT degree meant to train me as a user interface expert. I'm taking a year off to work. I want to learn more about networks, networking, and network security. I want to learn more about computer security in general, best practices to follow. I want to eventually get a non-glamorous job in tech support or similar to pay the bills until I work my way up. Are any of the current computer/tech/IT certifications worth pursuing? [more inside]
I have accidentally trained my otherwise lovely cat to be as annoying and destructive as possible when he wants to be fed by just giving in and feeding him. How do I get him to stop this behavior? [more inside]
I love cowboy boots, and on a recent trip to Portland let my lust overcome me and bought some. I'm normally a conservative dresser (suits, dresses, skirts with jackets) during the week, and a jeans and Tshirt kind of person on weekends. Suggestions on what to wear with the new boots? They are mid-calf. One pair are a gorgeous rich brown with tooled roses and the other is brown and black tooling.
My mother wants to give me her car so I can insure it for her - is this insurance fraud? [more inside]
I have about $300-400 to spend on a new acoustic guitar that will be gifted to someone who is a classically-trained pianist but would be a beginner on this particular instrument, someone who wants to play music in the vein of Cat Stevens (i.e., pop-folk). There are simply so many options out there that I thought I would ask this site for advice. [more inside]
The PreCor 5.31 is balanced with magnets, and doesn't seem to have any wheels. It's behind my desk right now, and we redid a room on the same floor I want to move it to. I'm worried that, since it doesn't seem to be built to move around, there might be an issue with taking it across the house. Anyone know of risks? Do I need to contact my dealer?
Currently I live with family in Hew Hampshire and have registered an LLC this year here in NH at my parents' address. I'm moving just south of the border in MA, only 20 minutes away. Do I need to relocate my business? Seems like it costs more to register a business in MA. Tax-wise I believe it will be the same because NH based software businesses operating in MA will be taxed a sales tax starting this year.
What are the real risks to having a google account? What are the benefits to staying out of Google's ecosystem that outweigh the inconvenience? [more inside]
I need a musical instrument that can be stored in a vehicle (no climate control) for months at a time in a climate that is hot (over 100 degrees F during the daytime in the summer) and dry (not humid), without becoming warped or destroyed somehow. [more inside]
I'm visiting a new city for the first time with the idea that I might move there within the next year or two. What should I be sure to check out/consider to be sure I get the information I need to make a good decision? I've only moved for jobs, and have wound up in a city that stresses me out. How do I pick a better one? [more inside]
An electrician told me that I need to replace the main breaker on this board. He wasn't sure where to find them. I'm hoping someone here has an idea what kind this is so I can try to get it replaced. I live in Austin,TX, so either online or near here. Here's a picture
I heard a song on the CBC a couple weeks ago and can't seem to identify it. It was a female singer, singing a blues song. The opening line was something along the lines of: "You told me you went fishing, but I am doubtful, because I don't know any fish that wear lipstick." Any ideas?
Looking for good looking, versatile, bike-commute friendly shoes with a "straight last" so my feet stay happy. [more inside]
Looking for a couple of nice, loungey spaces for a gathering of about 6 pretty relaxed women (mid-20's) in DC on a Thursday evening. The bride is pretty low-key, but loves 90's dance music. Ideally, we would: 1) relax at a pool during the afternoon 2) Have a relaxed dinner 3) Drinks at a lounge or low-key club Looking for suggestions for #1 and #3! Thank you!
I'm being prescribed Lamictal for a neurological condition by one doctor (a neurologist), but my primary is scaring the crap out of me about the possibility of SJS (8/1000). Should I be terrifie