April 2014 Archives

April 30

What agency in Portland has a shield logo on their police cars?

Lately I've been noticing an increase in police vehicles in my neighborhood in Portland, Oregon. There is one in particular I see a lot but never get close enough to to read that has a shield with--I want to say--a blue, gold, and some green picture inside. It looks like there are some trees in it, maybe a river. Last night I saw one that said "Field Operations" on the back parked across the street. What agency has this car? [more inside]
posted by dargerpartridge at 10:06 PM PST - 22 comments

Seeking a quote that likens learning to read to an acrobatic task

Asking for a Montessori teacher friend: Can anyone help me find a quote about learning to read? It likens the task of reading to an acrobatic task. I can't remember the origin and haven't been able to come up with a single clue. It's just the perfect way to sum up the "reading process system" which is a boring way to say all the stuff that happens in your brain when you read. I need it for a reading workshop on Saturday. Thanks!
posted by librarina at 9:44 PM PST - 1 comment

Documentaries about a particular musical time and place?

Looking to watch music documentaries in context. Not just a single band. [more inside]
posted by fishmasta at 9:02 PM PST - 30 comments

How do you set a targets for user growth for a new website?

My friend's startup company is developing a new technology platform and they are trying to set 5 year targets for the number of potential users it could have. How do tech companies traditionally project user growth for a new web service? Obviously they would establish a potential target market, but then how do you determine the rate of growth from zero into that market? Are they any resources or websites online that help with this? More details- the website is an edtech platform providing online education and resources. The potential market is 18+ lower- middle class Americans, and college students. Thanks for your help!
posted by tessalations999 at 8:56 PM PST - 4 comments

How to find a career coach who will actually help me narrow my search?

I had an exhausting conversation with a "career coach" today. It left me wondering - are there any career coaches that are actually concretely helpful in a given industry? Snowflake details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by randomkeystrike at 8:31 PM PST - 8 comments

What do I do with my huge pussy?

My beloved cat - The Mogget - has a weight problem (check out that HUGE furry belly!!). Currently weighing in at about 7 kilo's (just under 15½ pounds in old money), she needs to lose some weight. Help me help her! Relevant details inside. [more inside]
posted by ninazer0 at 7:33 PM PST - 36 comments

Interview Thank Yous: Tracking Down Email Addresses.

Should I give up looking for email addresses of everyone (5) that interviewed me today and just send the thank-you to the one I have? [more inside]
posted by tippy at 7:15 PM PST - 13 comments

Wedding Present Sites and Ideas for a Dear Turkish Friend

Websites to purchase and have wedding gift delivered to Istanbul?... And what should I get her? [more inside]
posted by travellingincognito at 7:02 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I get my dog to stop worrying about other dogs?

Help me train my dog not to bark at other dogs while we’re walking. [more inside]
posted by komara at 6:13 PM PST - 10 comments

My daughter wants to read mythology about girls.

My daughter is nuts for mythology and folklore, but after a particularly testosterone-powered Norse story last night she was asking if there were any collections of stories that weren't all about the boy-gods and heroes. So: recommendations for female-centric mythology and folklore, either story-cycles or lesser-known pantheons, suitable for bedtime-reading to an intelligent six-year-old. She wants actual myths rather than modern fiction based on or in the style of myths, or traditional myths retold from a female POV. (Yes, I have the Angela Carter books of fairy-tales. No, they are not suitable for a six-year-old.)
posted by Hogshead at 6:04 PM PST - 39 comments

How do I change the lock on the front door?

I want to change our apartment's doorknob and lock to a "night latch" (I believe is the term). I'm fairly confident I have the lock I'd like. What do I do now? [more inside]
posted by XtinaS at 5:39 PM PST - 6 comments

Low-Cost Therapy in Northeast/Downtown LA?

Low-Cost Therapy in Northeast/Downtown LA? Difficulty: I don't have a car. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:23 PM PST - 3 comments

Why men gotta be like that!

Why do men with wives/girlfriends aggressively hit on me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:23 PM PST - 36 comments

Looking for sites that expose scammers, funding fraud, etc

I recently read through the Warrior Eli Hoax site within a couple of hours. Unfortunately, the site owner has been on break for 7 months or so. Anyone know of similiar sites? [more inside]
posted by KogeLiz at 5:21 PM PST - 8 comments

Help Us Re-Name our Membership e-Newsletter

I work for a national association of 12,000 women sales professionals. Our current newsletter is titled e-Connect, which is obviously generic and boring, and we’re looking for something better. This newsletter, a monthly publication, features organizational news, along with sales and marketing topics and features on women doing interesting things in their profession, particularly with regard to how they translate community and industry involvement into business success. [more inside]
posted by Puppetperson at 5:18 PM PST - 5 comments

Low profile tires (225/40's) are problematic?

Contemplated new car comes in a base version with 17" wheels & 225/45 tires. But mostly because of a single feature (better seats) I'm thinking of getting a higher end version that comes with 18" 225/40's. Are the 225/40's going to be noticeable more troublesome with respect to blowouts, rim damage etc here in New England? Sales guy claims there is little or no practical difference. I know that the 225/40's should handle better but I don't really care about that.
posted by Kevin S at 5:07 PM PST - 8 comments

Can I eat this? Old radish slices.

I have a package of pre-sliced red radishes that say "best by 4/23/14". I wanted to roast them up alongside some other veggies for dinner, but when I opened the package the white faces of the radish slices are very slightly discolored grayish with a little bit of brighter white spots. They feel a little dry but not dessicated, certainly not slimy, and they don't smell. [more inside]
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 4:19 PM PST - 12 comments

Female wanderers wanted!

Seeking literary fiction with a transient, often solitary, female hero, please! [more inside]
posted by Isingthebodyelectric at 4:07 PM PST - 40 comments

Help me find literary term(s) for words that are ALMOST onomatopoeic

When pronounced verbally, these words evoke the subject they describe, even to those unfamiliar with their definition- not by aural similarities to an action (like "bam", "biff", "pow", or "cockadoodledoo"), but through less overt means, such as cultural or literary associations with certain sounds (like the comic value of the second syllable in "galumphing") or the image of letters in the words (such as the "z" in "zig-zag")?
posted by t(h)om(as) at 3:36 PM PST - 9 comments

Need Lodging Advice and Possibly Itinerary Tweaks for Peru

My wife and I are planning a two-week trip to Peru in November, and though the big pieces of the trip are in place, we need some advice on how to slot things in. Also, lodging help. [more inside]
posted by craven_morhead at 3:33 PM PST - 2 comments

What to bring to Cinco de Mayo themed potluck

What is the easiest, cheapest thing to bring to a Cinco de Mayo-themed potluck that's six hours away and will have about 40 guests? I will have a cooler but no time to do anything the day of other than drive. I was thinking sangria but that's going to get expensive unless I make it with crappy wine. Other ideas? Really pressed for time but not ready to compromise too much on quality. There are several birthdays being celebrated as well, if that helps.
posted by HotToddy at 3:24 PM PST - 10 comments

Can you recommend a good bluetooth mouse?

I'm fed up with my crappy mouse. Can you recommend a good bluetooth mouse (for a mac)? [more inside]
posted by aeighty at 3:24 PM PST - 9 comments

technology courses advice for parents of teenagers

My neighbor has young teenage children and asked me what tech-related material they should be studying in school to assure themselves of the best employment opportunities in the future. I would like to be able to give her the most informed answer possible, so I came here for assistance. What would you tell at 13-year-old who asks you what she or he should be sure to learn about to have the widest career options going forward?
posted by ranebo at 3:02 PM PST - 21 comments

Don't hurt that bunny!

Can anyone recommend good-quality, cruelty-free skincare? [more inside]
posted by ATX Peanut at 2:22 PM PST - 10 comments

Attractive Women's Jeans

How do you find jeans that actually look good? [more inside]
posted by Blitz at 2:16 PM PST - 34 comments

Charming bulletin board for first grade class

My forte as a teacher is not the decorating/bulletin boards/cutesy stuff so I was hoping to solicit input. Tomorrow we have a leadership themed walk through for the parents (it is our year-long equity theme). My class had students write about how they are a leader ("pushing in my chair, helping friends when they fall down on the playground," etc.) We took photographs of them in super hero poses with a super hero cape to go with the blurb they wrote. So they each have a little poster with their photograph as a superhero and the way they are a leader and now we need to put it up in the hall fancily. Now we need a pun or background display for their work. Like the other teachers have things like a big mirror made out of tin foil and it says, "I can see the leader in me." Stuff like that. So, super hero themed + leadership + charming but also doable within a day in terms of the decorative work load and supplies needed. Any ideas?
posted by mermily at 2:07 PM PST - 4 comments

Where to get vintage frames set with prescription lenses in DC

Looking for the best shop in Washington, DC that can put an eyeglasses prescription into vintage eyeglasses. I'd like a store that can do a good job with cost being a secondary, but important part of the picture. Prefer shops actually in DC. Let me know especially if you or a friend has ever used the shop to get a prescription into a vintage frame.
posted by Ironmouth at 2:07 PM PST - 1 comment

Connecting Winebottler to the Web

I'm using the Winebottler program to install IE8 on my Mac (for testing a site). It looks great but doesn't seem to connect to the Web. Is there a fix for this?
posted by johngoren at 2:02 PM PST - 2 comments

Running in NYC: Hudson River Greenway to Inwood?

Planning a trip to Manhattan soon. I'll be staying in the Meatpacking District, and am thinking about taking a long run one day up to the Inwood Hill Park along the Hudson River Greenway. My friend who runs that path regularly isn't sure whether it goes that far, so I'm wondering if anyone familiar with the area knows if you can go all the way to the northern tip of the island along that path. Also, any tips about water, bathrooms, or general "heads up" info would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
posted by ChrisTN at 1:22 PM PST - 6 comments

I stopped shaving my legs. What now?

I'm a fairly pale woman with a bit of farmer's tan from walking for exercise (moreso on arms and face than legs). I unintentionally stopped shaving my legs below the knees, and now I don't want to start again. How long will it be before the dark, sharp leg hair goes away, if it does? My arm hair is pale and soft; so is the hair on my upper legs that I've never shaved. Will the hair on my lower legs grow back softer and paler eventually? What, if anything, can I do to encourage this? Is there anything I should be doing for my legs other than maybe exfoliating a bit more and the usual moisturizer for dry climate? I'm looking for anecdotal experiences and product suggestions.
posted by immlass at 12:54 PM PST - 28 comments

Cabbing it in Jersey without cash

I have a business partner flying into Newark who wants to know if she needs cash for a cab. [more inside]
posted by ovenmitt at 12:34 PM PST - 8 comments

Am I supposed to give my realtor a gift?

I'm in the process of buying a townhouse (close in a few days). A friend who referred my realtor to me mentioned in passing that she gave my realtor a bottle of wine at closing as a thank you gift. Is this a thing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:31 PM PST - 28 comments

Negotiating with former employer after being laid off

I'm a young software engineer in SF, recently laid off, trying to keep my old company laptop, and unsure if this is reasonable. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:31 PM PST - 35 comments

Southern heritage/vintage clothing brands?

I'll be thrift shopping in and around Savannah Georgia next week; what brands am I looking for? [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 12:16 PM PST - 5 comments

Photo editing on Windows 8.1

I've been using Picasa to edit photos on Windows XP. I hastily bought an 8.1 laptop, and Picasa's not compatible. I'm panicking. [more inside]
posted by tizzie at 11:14 AM PST - 3 comments

Maternity Leave Denial

Friend of a friend needs a lawyer for a maternity leave denial. Massachusetts filter. [more inside]
posted by zizzle at 10:38 AM PST - 10 comments

Calm, quiet, constructive activities for kids age 6-9?

A friend's child is chronically ill. He watches a lot of television, and he and his mom have agreed that it's not the best use of time. What are some things he can do instead? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 10:32 AM PST - 28 comments

Where is this Calvin and Hobbes strip?

I remember seeing a Calvin and Hobbes strip linked to from MetaFilter that I'd like to find again. Calvin's dad is reading a newspaper, and Calvin calls him uptight. His dad says something like, "I'm not uptight, I just get things done." Can you find it for me? I think it's a three-panel strip. [more inside]
posted by jsturgill at 10:30 AM PST - 2 comments

The China Study - Nutritional and reading recommendations

The China Study and associated diet was recommended by my physician this morning. I am looking for your advice both nutritionally and educationally, as I'm very open to this after the last few weeks. [more inside]
posted by glaucon at 10:11 AM PST - 10 comments

Give up financial stability to move where you'd prefer to be?

My heart says one thing, but my head says another, and I am paralyzed in making any kind of decision. I need help, thoughts, opinions, anything. [more inside]
posted by umwhat at 10:09 AM PST - 44 comments

Help me find this oneoff comic about college/grad school w/superpowers

I have a memory of a one-off comic that I saw online one time about college and grad school. There was a sort of superhero or superpowers metaphor for the whole process of higher education. Black-and-white, in pencil (?), maybe some use of green. Help me find it? [more inside]
posted by gurple at 9:56 AM PST - 3 comments

Like the Mixed-Up Files, But True

My friend is graduating next month with a degree in Museum Studies. I'd like to get her a book as a graduation present. Can you recommend any good memoirs or biographies or popular nonfiction books set in the museum world? I would rather it not be mainly about heists or looting or art crime.
posted by bluefly at 8:51 AM PST - 13 comments

Crumble Calzone

Ok, so, y'know Crumble?, the popular post world war II british desert? Can you suggest a method (with limited kitchen equipment) for making a Calzone (The popular folded up pizza) which is stewed fruit on the inside and crumble on the outside. [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 8:44 AM PST - 23 comments

Letting a Non-Designer Edit Text in an Adobe InDesign Project

I'm working on an Adobe Indesign project with a designer friend. The project incorporates lots of text, and I want to save him the hassle of having to enter/update my constant revisions of text content. I know nothing about design, generally, or this software, specifically. [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 8:43 AM PST - 18 comments

What digital camera offers mostly physical controls?

I'd like to get my 9 year old daughter a new digital camera to call her own. She's had all my cast-offs from over the years but I noticed her favorite is a 2006-era Olympus with all physical controls. Are there any up-to-date pocket cameras with more physical dials than software menu systems? [more inside]
posted by mathowie at 8:41 AM PST - 11 comments

Sites that let you search for bands by location?

I'm looking for a website that will let me search for bands using the location they're based in. I remember using a site that let me do this in the past, but I can't find it again for the life of me.
posted by considerspace at 8:11 AM PST - 3 comments

Inside girl versus mud.

What do people wear on their feet to garden? [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust at 7:44 AM PST - 24 comments

How do I know if I am in love "enough" with my partner?

How do I know if I am in love "enough" with my partner? Snowflakery to follow [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:34 AM PST - 27 comments

How can I find out the time signatures of a diverse group of songs?

In preparation of my MeFi Swap playlist, I'd like to cull through the massive list of possible songs I've generated by sorting them by tempo. I'd like to do this without manually listening to songs to compare them to one another (partially because I don't think I'd be particularly good at it). Is there any resource online for finding out the tempo of songs, either a database with that kind of information or an app which I can feed an mp3 to find out?
posted by ocherdraco at 7:23 AM PST - 14 comments

What's your favorite brain teaser question?

I'm looking for a really hard "brain teaser" question. [more inside]
posted by JanetLand at 7:19 AM PST - 69 comments

Tactful way to get out of a new project at work that hasn't started yet

I have been asked by my supervisor (who was asked by his supervisor) to work with our marketing group, specifically one person I, to write trade articles on a product we developed and will launch next year. I don't want to. How do I get out tactfully and quickly? [more inside]
posted by waving at 7:18 AM PST - 8 comments

I don't get it

I was watching part of an episode of Welcome Back, Kotter in which Kotter recruits a tutor to help a reluctant Vinnie. After listening to the tutor and Vinnie trade a few insults, Kotter knocks them each down with one. To the tutor he says: "I heard there's three kids in your family." She says yeah. He says, "Yeah, one of each!" I don't get it!
posted by payoto at 6:24 AM PST - 18 comments

He sad, we sad.

I think my spouse has chronic depression and it is badly effecting our relationship. He has agreed to attend a couples counselling session tomorrow but is very reluctant to admit to depression. I've never done couples counselling. How do I raise the issue of his depression in the session? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:47 AM PST - 17 comments

How best to use an iPhone in Europe

I am taking my iPhone to Europe and want to use it wifi-only. I use StraightTalk as a provider. Is there anything in particular I should know before I go? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 5:20 AM PST - 12 comments

Comparing Crystal Litter

We've recently bought a ScoopFree self cleaning litter box. It is wonderful but we didn't want to keep buying the disposable litter trays for $30 a go so we bought a Forever Litter Tray. Now we need to buy some crystal litter to use with it. [more inside]
posted by poxandplague at 3:09 AM PST - 1 comment

Shooting How-To Videos on a Desk Surface, Advice Needed Please.

Helping a friend shoot video for a niche how-to video site. Need some advice on improving our current setup. [more inside]
posted by Th!nk at 1:53 AM PST - 2 comments

My mattress doesn't want anything under it

I've just moved to Albuquerque. What ethical bank or credit union should I use? [more inside]
posted by cheerwine at 1:46 AM PST - 7 comments

Additional ways to make a more stimulating environment for our cat?

We've got a decent selection of toys, but I'd like to enrich kitty's days a little more. [more inside]
posted by moira at 12:08 AM PST - 20 comments

April 29

I only want to chat with YOU

I'm looking for an IM client that lets you appear "invisible" to some people and not others. Does this exist? [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 11:54 PM PST - 20 comments

Amusing/confusing Spotify ideas

What unlikely songs should I listen to with the goal of gaming my Spotify ticker? [more inside]
posted by umbú at 10:33 PM PST - 13 comments

How to divide expenses?

When you make about the same, it's easy. When one person makes all the money, it's easy. What to do when there is a marked disparity between what two people in a couple earn? [more inside]
posted by expense-division at 9:48 PM PST - 55 comments

How to snipe on eBay?

There are a few low value items I am interested in on eBay. They seem to be popular so I would like to use a sniping service to try to win them. How do I do this? I assume that they might need my user name and password or does the service use its own account? What companies are trustworthy? Bonus: I generally use my iPhone/Pad so iOS friendly would be great.
posted by saradarlin at 9:21 PM PST - 17 comments

Any clue as to what is wrong with my period? Thyroid? Perimenopause?

I know you are not my doctor and this question may seem dumb but I could use some experience, answers, something. I'm just lost right now. I'm dealing with issues regarding my period. I got my hormone levels back but they don't point to anything specific or alarming. I'm worried because my periods have definitely shortened and I don't seem to ovulate the way I used to yet I'm running out of ideas as to whats wrong with me. Hormone levels and history included. [more inside]
posted by grablife365 at 9:02 PM PST - 18 comments

Help me feel better about my daughter's name.

I am the proud mother of a 14 week old daughter. Now I have the terrible feeling I picked the wrong name, and I'm thinking of changing it. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:17 PM PST - 200 comments

Can and/or should I make a car insurance claim — or not?

Our relatively young car (~1 yr) has collected a bit of damage over the past year. One bit of damage is a dent which is starting to rust, so it needs to be dealt with in a body shop. The dent was not our fault, but the result of a parking gate that closed early. We also scratched the car elsewhere in a few places. Those scratches are substantial and our fault, and they also require professional work. We would like to know if making an insurance claim is an option or if we must (or should) pay on our own. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:16 PM PST - 5 comments

Is there good reason to cry over spilled beans?

Throughout the entirety of my life, my immediate family has existed under a heavy shroud of secrecy. Within my current relationship, I cast it off for my boyfriend. Is this a decision I will come to deeply regret? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:16 PM PST - 24 comments

danny devito in business attire, beyond even sirmixalot's wildest dreams

What suit designer makes suits (preferably skirt suits?) that fit and flatter a small yet curvy woman? [more inside]
posted by millipede at 7:51 PM PST - 10 comments

What to do with powdered milk?

A few weeks ago I made these cookies, which call for half a cup of milk powder. They were delicious, but I now have a whole lot of extra left over -- what are some interesting things I can do with it (other than mix it with water and drink it as milk)?
posted by btfreek at 7:49 PM PST - 21 comments

What are your favorite sights and restaurants in Seville, Spain?

We're going to Seville! What are your favorite sights and restaurants? Particularly I'd like to know about restaurants by neighborhood, since when I travel I often have a list of restaurants I've compiled but have trouble coordinating them with where I wind up after sightseeing. thank you, (if you happen to have favorite restaurants/sights in Cordoba that would be useful too!)
posted by DMelanogaster at 6:49 PM PST - 7 comments

"Hay Una Uncion Aqui" - Karaoke Track?

I am trying to find a "karaoke track" for the song "Hay Una Uncion Aqui" by Danny Berrios, which is (apparently) a Spanish language contemporary Christian song (a student of mine needs it for a talent show). I know about as much Spanish as I do contemporary Christian music, which is to say, none. [more inside]
posted by rossination at 6:33 PM PST - 5 comments

Are there other prints in this set?

Six years ago, I bought these two pieces of wall decor. Now I want more. [more inside]
posted by Torosaurus at 6:26 PM PST - 2 comments

The Wolf of Sesame Street

I'm curious about the business of children's literature. I'm looking for any books/articles/personal anecdotes that discuss it from the cutthroat capitalism angle; such as how monopolies may affect the content published, or perhaps particular authors known for their ruthlessness.
posted by gorbweaver at 5:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Are you from here? Um...

When people ask the question "Are you from here?", what do they mean really? Is it, were you born here or do you live here? How do you answer when you have moved around your entire life? [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas at 5:56 PM PST - 45 comments

Online Color Scheme (but not that kind)

I have a colourway for a website consisting of 9 colour slots. One colour is repeated (slot #2 and slot #8) and I need to not repeat colours. Are there any online color schemers that will let me put in the 8 colors and make a suggestion for a 9th? My only criteria is that it provide good contrast for white text. [more inside]
posted by DarlingBri at 5:33 PM PST - 4 comments

Major (ugh) car accident. Will my car be safe to drive after repair?

My 2012 Prius's driver-side front corner hit the passenger-side rear corner of the car in front of me. Thankfully, everyone was fine, sans my bruises and bumps. The insurance adjuster says the car can be fixed. The repairs are over $10,000, and most are unsurprising. But the estimate says they also need to replace the suspension crossmember and the left axle assembly. I don't see anything else on the estimate about frame damage. I drive a lot. Will my car be safe after repair? [more inside]
posted by Meifa at 5:14 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I deal with my competitor's fake Google Plus reviews?

I own a small business and my competitors are writing up glowing reviews about themselves... [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 4:38 PM PST - 4 comments

Where can I get a less expensive version of this dress?

The Gucci dress that Emma Stone wore on Jimmy Fallon's Tonight Show was stunning. I can't afford Gucci. Is there a good copycat? [more inside]
posted by sockermom at 4:01 PM PST - 12 comments

Which waffle maker is the best waffle maker?

It's time to buy a new waffle maker. It will be a Mother's Day gift. I want to give the best waffle maker in the world to the best wife and mother in the world - which waffle maker should it be? [more inside]
posted by nickmark at 3:32 PM PST - 21 comments

How do I get chrome to stop reloading pages on iPhone 4?

I browse the web on my iPhone using Chrome, following discussions here and elsewhere. What drives me absolutely bonkers though is that every time I switch to something else or another app, when I come back to the page on Chrome I see exactly where I was on the page for about one second, and then Chrome will reload fresh copy of the page scrolled to the top, thus losing my place in the discussion. Is there any fix for this or any alternative I can use that doesn't have this issue?
posted by skjønn at 2:20 PM PST - 7 comments

A circuit breaker switch won't turn back on. Do I call an electrician?

One of our circuit breakers tripped, and it won't return to its "on" position. I push it toward "on," but it doesn't stay, just returns to a middle position between on and off. It serves only a single hallway in the home, and nothing is plugged in there. Does the breaker need to be replaced? Should I call an electrician?
posted by jackypaper at 2:13 PM PST - 17 comments

What nonfiction books are like these nonfiction books?

I have a hard time finding books to read that can balance holding my attention with not being too difficult or a "hard" read. What non-fiction books are like the books after the cut? [more inside]
posted by bimbam at 1:58 PM PST - 27 comments

I've tried everything to become a more patient person. Now what?

I'm not a patient person. In fact I'm quite impatient. Little things set me off: from my dogs barking or losing connection to the Internet. Traffic. Stupid things. I've tried everything. [more inside]
posted by dep at 1:54 PM PST - 24 comments

Is it worth it to confront your flaky friends about their flakiness?

If they don't care enough to show up, does it mean they don't care if they hurt my feelings? [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 1:48 PM PST - 29 comments

Looking for the best basketball statistics resources

I'm a scientist who deals with statistics all day, and my partner is a die-hard basketball fan. He follows some of the basketball stats nerds, and sometimes he wants to talk about basketball stats with me, but I can never find any decent statistical summaries - just a bunch of averages with no context provided. Are there any free resources that provide sports statistics with more than simple averages? [more inside]
posted by dialetheia at 1:35 PM PST - 11 comments

What's the car buying process in DC?

About to buy a car in DC, but how? [more inside]
posted by donut_princess at 1:30 PM PST - 2 comments

Need help with getting things to sort correctly in Excel

I have a spreadsheet with items that I am trying to organize by part numbers made up of both letters and numbers. When I sort them, though, "HMDL32000" comes ahead of "HMDL3700", even though 32000 is a bigger number. In the warehouse, HMDL32000 is behind HMDL3700 and it seems unintuitive to have it appear first on the spreadsheet. How can I get Excel to organize first by the alphabetical portion of the part number, and then in the correct numeric order?
posted by BuddhaInABucket at 12:08 PM PST - 3 comments

Gluten-Free Restaurants in Vancouver, BC

I have a visitor coming in a few weeks who has celiac disease and can only eat gluten-free food. What are the best restaurants with gluten-free options? Is there a good place for a fancy meal? [more inside]
posted by raeka at 11:41 AM PST - 8 comments

I'm sorry that you overreacted...

How do you graciously respond to a non-apology without accepting it as if it were an actual apology? [more inside]
posted by whoaali at 11:34 AM PST - 47 comments

Can I get 1 month of short term health insurance for May in NY state?

I need health insurance ONLY for the month of May. But the new health exchange market place in New York state only allows me to sign up now for June 1 and beyond. [more inside]
posted by lockedroomguy at 11:28 AM PST - 5 comments

How do I determine if these shady new neighbors are squatters?

I share a fence with a single family detached home in Nassau County, NY and am concerned that it is being occupied by squatters. Help? [more inside]
posted by waterisfinite at 11:23 AM PST - 17 comments

Engineers' back doors

Have there been any documented cases where an engineer (or whatever) on a physical device or product used in the general marketplace has included a backdoor that allows them to get special "benefits"? Examples inside. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 11:19 AM PST - 10 comments

Sinusitus and hearing loss

Went to the hospital on doctor's orders, they dramatically improved all my symptoms except the scariest one. [more inside]
posted by mreleganza at 10:51 AM PST - 28 comments

Know the name of this movie involving blindfolded man & dress tie?

So for like 5 years I've been trying to remember what the name of this cheesy movie was from the mid to late 90s. What I can remember: There's a man who's in some kind of torrid romance with a woman. Halfway through the movie they're in front of a fire about to make love. She takes his dress tie and blindfolds him with it, and they go at it. We find out partway though that it's really her friend instead...and he realizes when the woman bends down to whisper into his ear "It will be our turn soon..." He removes the tie, says something like "Cammy/Dani etc" and the woman takes the tie, gags him, and basically rides him to completion. The only other thing I can remember about the movie is the specific song playing during that scene...which is Bahu-Rang's Strange Imagination by Joseph Pusateri. Any ideas???!
posted by PetiePal at 10:27 AM PST - 7 comments

Summer jamz for 2014

Last year around this time misskaz asked this question that resulted in a Summer Jamz 2013 playlist that was SO AWESOME that it changed my life. Can we do it again? [more inside]
posted by telegraph at 10:17 AM PST - 33 comments

Help me track down an article I read on young Jewish settlers

Here's a tough one.... I read a long-form article online a few years ago about Jewish settlers in the West Bank. I remember that it focused on a few teenagers who squatted at an outpost that lacks things like electricity and running water. I definitely remember it was illustrated with photographs of the settlers. I think it focused on a few religious schools in the West Bank that produced these settlers, and was more a profile of the participants than anything else. It was from an English-language publication, probably a Jewish one. Ring any bells?
posted by whitewall at 9:30 AM PST - 2 comments

A phone for the home

I moved to a house that gets terrible cell phone service. I'd like to have a land line phone, especially to have in case of emergencies and power outages. I'm reading about "land lines" that use wireless cell technology, things like Vonage that use the internet, and I am confused. [more inside]
posted by little_c at 9:14 AM PST - 17 comments

Help me cut off the Dish

I want to cancel my Dish Network service, as I am really getting tired of paying $82/mo for stuff I don't use and can get online. I realized today that I haven't watched anything for months, and I'm home all day anyway. [more inside]
posted by pjern at 9:12 AM PST - 21 comments

My own little two-home wireless ISP

I would like to connect two homes that are about 150m apart in order to share an internet connection. Unless convinced otherwise the cheapest solution is likely a point-to-point wireless link at 2.4ghz (using directional antennas and tomatousb/ddwrt). I have line of sight but there are some trees in the way: is this feasible? Bonus: will cheap 14 dbi panel antennas be good enough with the trees?
posted by ennui.bz at 9:03 AM PST - 11 comments

What do you say to your boss when you feel unsupported?

Help me communicate my dissatisfaction with a business decision that impacts my professional development. Related: is this even a good idea? [more inside]
posted by jph at 8:55 AM PST - 25 comments

Why does my Brother inkjet printer show up as a shared PC on my network?

Brother MFC-J270W. It shows up on my home network as a shared PC called "brother", however:
  1. I can't connect to it
  2. This facility is not mentioned in any documentation I have been able to find
Does anyone know what good this "feature" is?
posted by chazlarson at 8:29 AM PST - 6 comments

F-1 visa issues

Made a mistake in my F-1 visa application. Am I screwed? [more inside]
posted by Tamanna at 8:05 AM PST - 8 comments

What's a good movie to rent for a bunch of twelve year-old boys?

My son will be having a birthday sleepover in a couple weeks so we will be hosting about six twelve year-old boys. In addition to feeding them and the Minecraft LAN party, we'd like to watch a movie with them. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by bondcliff at 7:07 AM PST - 175 comments

I just want a job

Would getting an Administrative Assistant AAS degree actually help me get a job? Does anybody have experience with these programs, or hiring people who have them into positions that are long-term? Personal history and details inside. [more inside]
posted by Mizu at 6:51 AM PST - 26 comments

Nerdy Thirty Party Planning

How do I plan, decorate, and successfully pull off a "Nerdy Thirty" birthday party when I have very limited party planning and artistic abilities? [more inside]
posted by Poegar Tryden at 6:29 AM PST - 13 comments

Winter, we're coming

My wife has accepted a post-doc position in the University of Wisconsin system with duration of around two years. Where exactly in Wisconsin is slightly up in the air, but no matter where we end up, we have a host of questions to ask about moving there and Wisconsin life in general. Once we know where we're actually going, we may have more questions about the area, but right now I think our biggest concern is winter. [more inside]
posted by LionIndex at 5:58 AM PST - 78 comments

Because shmoopybooplesnoogywiggums is too long

I have finally managed to talk my husband into getting a cat and here she is! She's about 1.5 years old, really affectionate, but not really the frisky type. She came with the name Skye but that's a bit too "stripper" for our tastes. She's been with us for a week and seems to be settling in ok and now that I've taken her to the vet's to be spayed, it's time we made her a permanent member of the family with a proper name. Previous AskMes show that you guys are really good at this and husband and I are terrible, so please hope us!
posted by like_neon at 4:32 AM PST - 72 comments

Where do people who share my values hang out?

Nearly all of my friends are in the fetish scene; of late I have found that the community seems to be full of fair weather good time friends, and largely missing those friends that help you in a pinch. I want to give myself the opportunity to meet people with whom deeper friendships could form. Where should I look? [more inside]
posted by Mistress at 4:28 AM PST - 19 comments

What is the best UK-based mileage plan? Or do I need one?

I travel a lot to the US and I plan to travel to Russia a few times this summer. I used to have a good mileage plan in the US, but I'm not sure what the best one is for the UK. Alternatively, maybe it's cheaper just to always find the least expensive flights rather than being loyal to one group of airlines?
posted by stinker at 2:55 AM PST - 4 comments

Please help me get her out of my head.

I broke up with someone just over 3 months ago and I just cannot get her out of my head. I don’t know if this is a fixation, obsession, rumination or normal grieving? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema at 1:50 AM PST - 28 comments

Good credit card for a young-ish couple looking to rebuild credit?

My girlfriend and I are older, full-time college students with part-time jobs. She has a couple of blemishes on her credit history, whereas mine is pretty limited. I'm looking for a good card to help us establish more credit and help repair hers, that can also offer cool rewards -- either in the form of cash back or rewards points. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by HiphopAnonymous at 12:41 AM PST - 7 comments

April 28

What is this wizardry?

I'm curious how a particular flavour of magic trick is done. A participant who seems unlikely to be a stooge (eg a noted celebrity) is invited to draw or think of something, from an almost unlimited set of options, and the mentalist successfully picks what they've come up with. Here's an example. Here's Derren Brown doing even more impressive versions of the trick with David Frost and Iain M Banks.. The "it's just advanced psychology" explanation is misdirection, so what's the real answer?
posted by dontjumplarry at 11:33 PM PST - 19 comments

Help with job interview question about corporate plan

I’ve been told that my job interview tomorrow, I’ll be asked a question about the organisation’s corporate plan. Help me brainstorm possible questions and answers. [more inside]
posted by t0astie at 11:32 PM PST - 4 comments

Not sure about 5 year relationship... What do I really want?

I am 21 and my boyfriend is almost 23. We have been together since I was a sophomore and he a senior in high school. He's a good guy, a gentleman, and takes great care of me and his family is wonderful. Sometimes I feel like I'm not actually even that into him though, and have never have been. But why leave when there's nothing really wrong and he's so great to me and I really care for him? Am I taking him for granted? [more inside]
posted by anon1129 at 11:20 PM PST - 23 comments

Is Alaska Career College's massage program any good?

My friend in Anchorage wants to turn a knack for massage into a career. She's thinking about doing either the 8-month program or the 13-month program at the school of massage at Alaska Career College. The best program for her is relatively inexpensive, comprehensive and well-taught, and at a school with a functional and reasonably efficient administration. Is Alaska Career College that school? [more inside]
posted by blnkfrnk at 11:06 PM PST - 1 comment

Hurt/comfort book recs needed for heartache fuel

I am looking for books that mainly have a hurt/comfort angle to it. Lots of angst is good (YES PLEASE FOR MY HEART), and romance, too, of course. [more inside]
posted by pleasebekind at 10:12 PM PST - 16 comments

Best August Obon festivals in Japan?

The Obon festival occurs in both July and August in Japan, with different regions choosing different dates. I'll be in Tokyo in August, but Tokyo celebrates in July... does anyone have any recommendations for where I should travel in Japan for the days of the Obon festival that would be celebrating in August? :) Can bullet train anywhere. Bonus points for great scenery and extensive Obon celebrations.
posted by Televangelist at 9:51 PM PST - 9 comments

Over-the-counter soap or lotion to get the bedbugs and fleas?

I don't know if there's bedbugs in the sheets, or if it's fleas (because we sleep with the dog in the bed), but my skin itches, and I'd like an over-the-counter soap to try to wash them away. [more inside]
posted by shipbreaker at 9:16 PM PST - 6 comments

Article about successful people who use just one software tool.

A few years ago, perhaps 5-10, I read a brief article by someone who interviewed a number of strikingly-successful somewhat-famous people and concluded the one thing they all had in common was that they relied on a single software tool for nearly everything. Can you point me to the piece? [more inside]
posted by eotvos at 9:15 PM PST - 6 comments

Books on the period between WW1 and WW2?

I'm new to history as a field of study, and I chose World War 1 as a place to start. Having finished reading several books on the topic, I'm ready to move past World War 1 for now. My first instinct was to dive into the seemingly infinite pool of literature that is World War 2, but I'm not sure if I'd be doing the 20th century justice by skipping the intervening years. Essentially, I'm looking for a book that covers the period between the World Wars. Ideally, this book would focus on Europe but touch on at least some of the rest of the world. Bonus points if this book is available as an audiobook.
posted by jqb603 at 9:03 PM PST - 8 comments

Will there ever be a standard for waterproof USB

More and more cell phones opting for waterproof construction (yay!), and each of them seem to be doing their own thing as far as waterproof connections. Is there any movement afoot to standardize these things as they become more widespread? [more inside]
posted by Popular Ethics at 9:01 PM PST - 5 comments

Will I die from carcinogenic cedar/mold dust?

Last year I replaced the cedar decking from my deck and kept the old decking, thinking it might serve for a fencing project. Now I want to use some of it to build gates for said fencing project, but first want to clean it up and make it pretty. It's mildewy and such, but nothing that a good coarse grain sandpaper won't fix. However, I'm worried that the dust created by such a project might be especially nasty. Am I taking my life into my hands power sanding 40 or 50 boards? What kinds of reasonable precautions should I take? Renting a powered full face mask is probably beyond my budget...
posted by carterk at 8:53 PM PST - 5 comments

Movies like "The Friends of Eddie Coyle"?

I recently saw "The Friends of Eddie Coyle" and would like to watch mute movies with a similar feel and ideally though not necessarily the same Boston area setting. List of movies I've already seen below the cut. [more inside]
posted by Jahaza at 8:42 PM PST - 7 comments

Opening XLS files Without Shelling Out for MS Office

Please help me figure out why I am having such a dickens of a problem with Excel files. I receive weekly Excel files for a freelance gig. When I was working at a job with access to MS Office, I was able to open everything up. Now that I have left that job, I have had not much luck opening these using free alternatives such as OpenOffice, LibreOffice or MS Excel Viewer. Sometimes they do; most of the time, they don't. [more inside]
posted by computech_apolloniajames at 7:35 PM PST - 11 comments

Hexagonal bicycle tail light

Where can I get more of this hexagonal bike tail light? It has 6 LED's, a yellow on-button, and a clip in the back. No other identifying marks. Takes CR2032 or similar batteries. Would love to buy a whole bunch more!
posted by Questolicious at 7:08 PM PST - 2 comments

Charter digital conversion, the end of cable?

We just received notice (so far just an automated phone message) that Charter is switching to 100% digital signal on their cable TV system, and as a result we would be required to get a cable box. Now, part of Charter's signal is on analog channels, and part is on digital, and the tuner in our TV can locate them all. Does tis mean that post-conversion all the channels will be beyond the range of the tuner in our recent-vintage LG TV? We have the 3-way bundle with Charter for phone, broadband internet, and cable TV all at their lowest level of service, the TV is called "Basic cable." I understand they are phasing this in, so I'm wondering if someone who already has experienced this could comment on what was the result. [more inside]
posted by ackptui at 6:47 PM PST - 9 comments

Set up memorial page for relative with 6-9 months to live

My stepfather-in-law was recently diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer that's metastasized to spine/hip/neck and he's facing chemo and a not-so-great prognosis. What are options for setting up something like a memorial page that his former students/colleagues/friends/family can post well wishes and reminisces and the like that he can read now and be cheered up? [more inside]
posted by disconnect at 6:22 PM PST - 14 comments

iPhone Recall Loaner: Can I Just Keep It?

I went to get my 16GB iPhone 5 repaired or replaced under the iPhone 5 Sleep/Wake Button Replacement Program today, and after some testing and such I was issued a loaner phone (also a 16GB iPhone 5) and told that mine will be repaired in about 6-8 days. I think I'd like to just keep the loaner, and it seems like that may not be encouraged but may be possible... [more inside]
posted by rollbiz at 6:21 PM PST - 3 comments

Well written critisms of Wes Anderson

So, until recently I've disliked all the Wes Anderson movies I've seen. However, I just saw Moonrise Kingdom and Grand Budapest Hotel back to back and I won't lie, I did enjoy them a fair bit. But I'm having trouble thinking about them beyond the surface level, because while I do like those two movies there is something really off-putting about all Anderson films to me, and I love odd, quirky, confusing movies so one would think he movies would be right up my ally. So, the crux of this question is: Is there, out there, good comprehensive critical analysis of Wes Anderson movies? I'm not looking for rants, but for thoughtful deconstruction. [more inside]
posted by edgeways at 6:04 PM PST - 9 comments

afraid to confront husband about sex life

My husband (I'm female) and I have been going through a really tough time (infertility at a young age), and we've been working together to reframe our lives together and as a couple. We've been discussing what's working and what's not. He seems very dedicated to building a future together, despite his lack of follow through on issues we talked about, including sex life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:03 PM PST - 23 comments

If you took the money, would you tell us?

Someone I know was called in for questioning about some money that disappeared at the workplace, and told me about the kinds of questions asked. I can't figure out what the police were after with one of them. [more inside]
posted by johnofjack at 4:37 PM PST - 32 comments

Internet community where I can get feedback on my prose and storytelling

I am about 15,000 words into my first novel, and I'm finding it difficult to get feedback from my old English major friends. I'd like to know how the pace, grammar, syntax, etc. of my story strike various experienced readers, but I certainly don't want to put my manuscript online in an unsecured environment. Any thoughts? BTW, I live in the Maine woods; no, there are no local meet-ups. I really wish there were.
posted by jwhite1979 at 4:27 PM PST - 15 comments

"Peer" Review

I have a very strong amateur interest in a niche subject (the history of computational labor processes). I think have a somewhat novel idea for research that builds on ideas that seem to be gaining currency in journals like Technology and Culture. I'm not an academic, and have very little academic background. What should I know if I decide to prepare an article for submission to a peer reviewed journal for the first time? [more inside]
posted by wobdev at 4:22 PM PST - 7 comments

Was/am professional activist organizer. Giving it up. Need help.

For the last 7 years or so (since graduating from college), I've been a professional political organizer, essentially, working for progressive movement organizations doing primarily new media/online media/digital work, but also spending time on fundraising, action planning, communications, and a few other things as needed. After a lot of thought and consideration, I'm starting to suspect that I can no longer work as part of the left (or at least, my corner of the US left) and still be emotionally healthy with the stress I deal with all the time. I don't know what to do next. [more inside]
posted by Ash3000 at 4:05 PM PST - 17 comments

The best of Wilmington, NC for locals?

A good friend of mine is moving to Wilmington, NC for work this summer, and I want to send her off with a care package of gift certificates to some of the best stuff in the area. Can you help me locate some great resources? [more inside]
posted by theantikitty at 3:58 PM PST - 4 comments

Could someone explain these two quotes by Alessandro Manzoni?

Could someone explain these three quotes by Alessandro Manzoni from "The Fifth of May"? Any illumination would help, but only if taken into consideration with the rest of the context of the poem. [more inside]
posted by isopropyl at 3:51 PM PST - 5 comments

Dream Company wants me -- so why haven't I heard back from my recruiter?

Dream company headhunted me a month ago for dream job(s). They were eager to get to know me the first week, and now, four weeks later, I haven't heard from them at all despite their professed interest in me and desire to get me in for an interview. This is weird because I am uniquely qualified for the jobs they're trying to fill and they sounded desperate. Given the communication history described behind the cut, what should my next steps be? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger at 3:33 PM PST - 13 comments

What do I need to tell my contractor about networking my house?

Piggybacking on/not hijacking betelguese's question, which is over my head, what do I need to tell my contractor about networking the house we are currently building? Please explain it like I am a 5-year old/your mother. [more inside]
posted by sarajane at 3:29 PM PST - 6 comments

Someone send that lady a hotdog!

A relative recently had a bran-new baby; she has been missing and craving hot dogs and good beer, so that is what I want to send to her home. But it's turning out to be hard to find! [more inside]
posted by like_a_friend at 2:59 PM PST - 8 comments

What's the big deal about Common Core?

(Why) Should I care about Common Core? Can you give me some resources to further understand it, and answer my basic questions? [more inside]
posted by peep at 2:58 PM PST - 18 comments

Graphic designer for an iPhone app

I'm currently coding an iPhone messaging client app which could use a designer for the screens and the app icon. I've tried oDesk.com and I'm having doubts about the quality of some of the applicants. Are there any good suggestions for websites that can provide a good designer? I'm looking for high quality work and I'm willing to pay a reasonable rate for it (though I would rather pay per project - currently I set $1000 for the project).
posted by antgly at 2:47 PM PST - 5 comments

Masters in comp sci?

I started my undergraduate career as a math/comp sci major, and did that for two years at two different schools (transferred to a better school after my first year). At my second school, I went through some rough emotional times, and changed my major for several reasons... [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 2:16 PM PST - 4 comments

Can I alter or negotiate a UK tenancy agreement before I sign?

I'd like to negotiate my tenancy agreement with the letting agency (representing a private landlord) before I sign. Can I do this? We've already paid the deposit, the only thing left is to sign and get the keys. [more inside]
posted by Vrai at 2:11 PM PST - 6 comments

Networking a House

How I should network my house? I understand the basics of running cables, punch-down blocks, patch panels, jacks, network switches, etc. What I don't understand is how to put all of these together in a way that gives me what I want. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Betelgeuse at 1:56 PM PST - 12 comments

Russian translation filter

I collect buttons and have acquired a set of Russian buttons. Can anyone help me with translating them? This is an imgur gallery of the buttons. Clicking on an image will zoom in. The numbers are consistent from photo to photo. Thanks for your help!
posted by sacrifix at 1:49 PM PST - 12 comments

How do I clean rust off an old can without hurting the graphics?

I have several old retail peanut cans, that have graphics not only around the can, but also on the top. The top and bottom in particular are heavily rusted. What's the best way to clean the rust without hurting the graphics?
posted by america4 at 1:40 PM PST - 2 comments

Not techy enough and I'm frustrated

I’m looking for advice on how to get techy oriented business idea going. I’m knowledgeable enough about tech and programming to know that what I likely need is beyond my current or near enough future capabilities. Details below. [more inside]
posted by Jalliah at 1:33 PM PST - 4 comments

I don't wanna stare out the window, I wanna play POKEMON!

I'm traveling for work this week Tuesday-Friday. I would like DS (not 3DS) and audiobook recommendations, please! Bonus question: cool things to do in Portland, ME weeknights? [more inside]
posted by OnTheLastCastle at 1:26 PM PST - 8 comments

How much do you have to drink to get boozy breath or pores?

What's the bare minimum amount of alcohol that will show up on a person's breath and/or body scent? One drink? Enough that they'd be drunk? If someone shows up somewhere with a faint booze scent, is it possible that they had the "one glass of wine" as claimed, or is it a safe bet that it was much more? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:21 PM PST - 18 comments

Gift for a departing nutritionist

I have been seeing a nutritionist through a clinic and, although I may see other nutritionists from time to time, I definitely have bonded with her. Now she's leaving to do a variety of things, including start her own business. I'll probably follow her eventually, but I wanted to give her a small parting gift, probably in the neighborhood of $25 but I'm not married to that number. Food is basically completely out, for a host of reasons. I would give her a book or something like that if I had any idea of her reading preferences. Flowers somehow don't seem right. What am I not thinking of? Thanks, friends!
posted by janey47 at 1:14 PM PST - 5 comments

So the guy fills his foot with diesel fuel and...

When I was very young, I once heard my late father tell a friend a joke that was in the first person. Being an impressionable kid, I took it as a true story, to the point of retelling it at a family gathering only to have my father swoop in and scoop me up before I could finish the (presumably at least a little off-color) punchline. I remember his horror at seeing my repeat the joke, but I'm fuzzy on the setup and I have no recollection at all of the punchline. All I remember is that it involved a construction worker who steps on a nail that goes right through his foot and a cagey older worker who advises him to "fill the hole with diesel fuel." Does anyone know this joke?
posted by DirtyOldTown at 12:58 PM PST - 1 comment

Lose the notebook?

Made a joyful career change and now work in recruitment. My new job requires logging of all interactions into a CRM. I also have a paper notebook. Things go into the paper notes but do not always end up on the computer. I estimate I am not accounting for 40% of what I could get credit for. I think that the notebook being an actual book matters. I have started setting appointments to remind myself of mundane activities, but that is not enough. Has anyone abolished taking written notes in pursuit of putting everything onto a computer? What has kept you going?
posted by parmanparman at 12:32 PM PST - 10 comments

What to do with all this whey...

I made Greek-style yogurt the other day and I have about a quart of whey left over. Any ideas about what to do with it? [more inside]
posted by patheral at 12:19 PM PST - 15 comments

How to find TV/film costuming internships in or near LA?

I'm an apparel student from the Midwest, looking for a wardrobe/costuming internship in LA for the summer of 2015. Help me track one down? [more inside]
posted by jaynedanger at 12:16 PM PST - 4 comments

Need some help in setting up an informal ESL class

I've been informally tutoring my friends' kids in preparing for the New York State English standardized tests, and my friends have been happy enough with how it's going that they have now proposed another arrangement. They would like me to teach a beginning ESL class for a small group of their business's employees who are struggling with English skills. I would teach a 2-hour class of about 4-5 people once a week. My friends don't know what the going rate for that kind of instruction is in NYC, and I don't either. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:46 AM PST - 7 comments

How can I vote in California's June 3rd election?

I'll be leaving the country in early May and won't return before early August, but I'd like to vote in California's June 3rd primary election. How can I do it? [more inside]
posted by crazy with stars at 11:43 AM PST - 2 comments

Riddles in the dark! We loves them, precious. Help us play?

We're having a Family Reunion/Memorial this coming weekend (Sunday, May 4th would have been my awesome grandmother's 100th birthday, but she sadly passed away just two months ago), and I am in charge of, among other duties, running the Trivia contest at the Welcome Dinner. Most of the plans are all set, of course, but as this is an icebreaker I want to do it up right, and I am still adding to my list of challenging queries and over-analyzing the logistics of the thing. I have read the old threads on the Metafilter vs Reddit Pub Trivia contests, but I need a little more help. [more inside]
posted by misha at 11:42 AM PST - 4 comments

Another "name that gruesome childhood short story" question.

What is the name and who is the author of a story wherein a woman has a second skin? [more inside]
posted by adipocere at 11:29 AM PST - 2 comments

Inspirational quotes on the subject of moving forward in life.

I am designing a poster for a personal project on the subject of "always moving forward" and "taking the next step" – do you have any quotes that you live by on that subject? [more inside]
posted by stackhaus23 at 11:22 AM PST - 18 comments

How to get a stain out of a vintage dress?

I am the proud new owner of this vintage picnic-checked pink gingham maxi dress, which I picked up for a song! Unfortunately, the dress has a stain on the bust that I need to remove (see the fifth picture in the link), and I am looking for advice about the best method(s) to try without ruining the dress. The dress is missing a tag indicating fabric, and the brand label has been cut out of it. I don't know much about the dress or the stain, but here are a few things I do know: [more inside]
posted by ClaireBear at 11:16 AM PST - 9 comments

Where are the best NHS doctors (GPs) in London?

Hi! We (husband, wife, child) are moving to London soon (more questions on that to come!) One thing that's really important to me is to be in an area that we can register with a really good GP. I've lived in the UK before, and had hit or miss experiences, and don't want this to happen again -- so much so that I want to suss out the great GPs to help make a decision on where we should live. So, who/where are the awesome GPs in London? Or how else would I go about researching this?
posted by caoimhe at 11:11 AM PST - 6 comments

Choosing between California State Uni vs. University of California

For someone who aims to continue their education through a Masters degree, then become a teacher, is there a significant advantage in attending UC rather than CSU for the undergraduate degree? Would it be different if the aim was a career in, say geo-sciences rather than teaching? [more inside]
posted by anadem at 10:26 AM PST - 28 comments

Inexpensive short term furniture rental?

Is there even such a thing? Student intern in northern VA needs bed and sofabed for only 3 months and furniture rentals are really expensive. She doesn't need to buy furniture because we cannot hall it across 4 states and we have no where to store it at our house. Any suggestions?
posted by sandra194 at 10:25 AM PST - 13 comments

Horseback Riding - Toronto

I want to take my girlfriend out for a day of horseback riding. I've never done it. She's ridden a horse once or twice as a child and that's it. We live in Toronto and it's going to be a day trip so no more than an hour and a half or so of driving in either direction. Can anyone suggest a farm or stable or whatever it's called where we can do this? [more inside]
posted by Evstar at 10:08 AM PST - 4 comments

Teaching Finnegans Wake to High Schoolers

A couple of years ago I read a piece online written by a teacher about using Finnegans Wake as a teaching tool. He had them analyze the ending of the book, or rather, the beginning/end. Their analysis of it surprised him. Many of the students came up with different interpretations showing how many ways it can be read. I can't for the life of me find it anywhere. Could someone help me out?
posted by holmesian at 10:04 AM PST - 0 comments

What to replace my mother's 40-year-old sewing machine with?

My mother's ~40-year-old Sears Kenmore sewing machine is finally giving up the ghost. I know nothing about sewing machines but do know that it looks a lot like the first images here. Any suggestions on what to replace it with? [more inside]
posted by zyxwvut at 8:31 AM PST - 15 comments

I don't want it, I just need it.

Please help me mitigate/cope with my feelings about doctors/insurance and have the best visit with a general practitioner that I can after 10 years of being uninsured. This way lies snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by koucha at 8:19 AM PST - 39 comments

Beyond Flowers

I work with a woman whose adult son passed away a little over a year ago. My mom also passed away 2.5 years ago, and we really connected over our losses. Last year for Mother's Day I sent my co-worker some standard flowers. This year I'd like to do something different, but need ideas. [more inside]
posted by thank you silence at 8:17 AM PST - 17 comments

Islands in the Stream lip sync?

I have this memory of watching a lip sync performance on TV of a single person impersonating Dolly Parton and Kenny Rogers at the same time, i.e. the costume was half one and half the other. Did this actually happen? Is there video?
posted by mkb at 8:06 AM PST - 13 comments

How do I stand up to my father-in-law?

My father-in-law is hard to get along with and demanding. I really don't like being around the guy, and quite honestly neither does my wife. He wears us both down. My wife does want a relationship with her mother though, and so we both endure family dinners from time to time. We usually put them off as long as possible until it is unavoidable. There is only so many times we can decline until we feel like we are being jerks. We have largely handled these dinners by ignoring and/or giving in to my father-in-law. Now we have a child, and I want to stand up for us. How? [more inside]
posted by ohjonboy at 7:47 AM PST - 37 comments

Building a simple, outdoor work table

I want to build something like this or this with the idea that it's going to live outside (get rained on, etc.), get used for things like working on other woodworking projects, and should be cheap. [more inside]
posted by gwint at 7:47 AM PST - 13 comments

Non-Resorty Vacation Spots in the Caribbean & Central America

I would like to hear your recommendations for travel locations in the Caribbean and Central America which are focused more on culture and history than lying on a beach. [more inside]
posted by something something at 7:37 AM PST - 9 comments

Do the scramble - the tofu scramble!

I'm in desperate need of yummy, quick, tofu scramble recipes! I need breakfast! [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 7:02 AM PST - 13 comments

Name this North American TV show I saw, in the 1970's?

Can you tell me the name of a North American TV show I saw in the 1970's? (details within)... [more inside]
posted by thermonuclear.jive.turkey at 6:57 AM PST - 4 comments

What are all the foods and drinks referenced in Firefly?

Some friends are putting together a Firefly-themed dinner. What foods and drinks are directly referenced or depicted in the Firefly canon? [more inside]
posted by jedicus at 6:32 AM PST - 32 comments

Cracked Le Creuset Stoneware, Still Useable?

I was an idiot and added liquid that wasn't warm enough to my Le Creuset stoneware roasting dish. It now has a hairline crack in the glaze. Can it be saved? I can't really afford to replace it.
posted by ElliotH at 5:39 AM PST - 8 comments

Let's do this deal! Or, you know, whatever...

I'm buying a house for the first time and trying to figure out the best way to approach things. I've found one that seems perfect and the asking price is within my budget. However, after a few years of nothing moving things have suddenly picked up, and everything I've looked at over the past month has moved to Sale Agreed really quickly and has gone for above the asking price. I'm trying to work out whether to be aggressive about my offer or not. I'm in the UK so not sure if that makes a difference. [more inside]
posted by billiebee at 4:43 AM PST - 13 comments

Philly contractor

Philly (center city or Main Line-ish): do you know / can you recommend a home contractor? [more inside]
posted by kalapierson at 2:35 AM PST - 2 comments

Kitchen utensil question, USA edition

Need recommendations for a solid garlic press and some meat tenderizing tools [more inside]
posted by InsertNiftyNameHere at 1:21 AM PST - 27 comments

April 27

Let's Take Some Tests!

This FPP on the Putnam math tests made me wonder: what other outside-of-school exams or tests are out there that have some kind of competitive element? And how many of them are open to the public? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 11:28 PM PST - 10 comments

Off the beaten path in Saigon

I will be in HCMC for the next 48 hours (including Reunification Day.) Other than the obvious sites, what are some quirky and worthwhile things to do/see and places to eat in Saigon? Also what is the best place to go to witness the parades and holiday celebrations? [more inside]
posted by egeanin at 11:23 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I clean my sticky camera?

OK, so I recently spilled beer on my Fujifilm X100S. Doh! Luckily, the camera still functions fine. Unluckily, most of the manual control dials are now sticky and hard to adjust, including the focus ring, aperture ring, battery/card door and optical/digital viewfinder switch. It's kind of a mess. Help! [more inside]
posted by flod at 11:21 PM PST - 5 comments

Samsung Galaxy S5...a goner?

So I didn't really want to use a question on this, but earlier today I was out taking the camera on my new S5 for a spin. The results are beautiful. The problem is that at some point during the day, I managed to drop my phone about four feet onto the metal footplate of my electric wheelchair. I'm wondering if this may have killed the maniacally fast autofocus I thought I had going for me earlier in the day. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 10:27 PM PST - 3 comments

Fellow New Yorkers! I don't think it's a roach...but what is it?

Just moved to New York City to a clean, small apartment. I've been here a month and in the past few days have found several, small, brown bugs. My first thought, roaches! But these guys are really, really slow and come out in the daylight a lot. I've had roaches before and you can't catch them with your hands, these guys I can just swoop down and snag. [more inside]
posted by Rosengeist at 10:11 PM PST - 10 comments

Raymond Chandler "The Little Sister" pllot question (spoilery)

Raymond Chandler's novels are well known for certain details that show up that are difficult to resolve (see below). [more inside]
posted by Guy Smiley at 9:58 PM PST - 1 comment

Are the Skillcrush classes worth it?

That's basically it - I'm not finding any reviews online. Has anyone else taken it? [more inside]
posted by jrobin276 at 9:58 PM PST - 4 comments

Films similar to these?

I'm researching films about private detective types who get involved in seedy underworlds.. Sort of like 8MM and The Ninth Gate.. Any similar films? Preferably book adaptations.
posted by omar.a at 9:28 PM PST - 10 comments

Putting that degree to use, but just how?

What are some ways by which you keep current in your professional field? How do you find ways to put your education to use and to continue learning? [more inside]
posted by rippersid at 9:02 PM PST - 7 comments

I spy on I-5 a...bunch of orange bags

While driving up to Portland on I-5, my friend and I noted a lot of stuffed orange bags. Well, "a lot" may be overstating, but we saw enough to get curious - what's in them? [more inside]
posted by curagea at 8:44 PM PST - 8 comments

How does one freelance with a baby in the house?

Our first little one is due in November. I previously freelanced and now work a full-time, very time-consuming corporate job. I would like to return to freelancing after baby's born to give me more flexibility and to avoid massive daycare costs. How do I do this while also acting as the primary care-giver for an infant? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:23 PM PST - 17 comments

new tattoo and hair dye allergy test

I got a new tattoo but also dye my hair. I have some questions about the increased chance of an allergic reaction when using hair dye while having tattoos. Basically, is doing an allergy spot test on the arm with one brand of hair dye sufficient for safety across other brands, or do I have to test the specific dye? (how similar are hair dyes?) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:23 PM PST - 3 comments

Any mefites in Ballarat?

Contemplating a move in the next couple of years to Ballarat, Vic, and wondering what it is like to live there. [more inside]
posted by jojobobo at 8:03 PM PST - 1 comment

Things to do in Denver with your kids?

Planning a summer road trip with the little fergs (ages 6 & 8) in June involving a couple of nights in Denver, a few days camping at Rocky Mountain National Park, and probably a night/day in Fort Collins or Estes Park. What are the must-see/must-do, uniquely "Colorado" activities for a nerdy, music- and nature-loving family in Denver? [more inside]
posted by jferg at 8:01 PM PST - 14 comments

What is the approximate capacity for party attendance at Wayne Manor?

What is the approximate capacity for party attendance at Wayne Manor (yes, from Batman)? [more inside]
posted by agregoli at 7:20 PM PST - 11 comments

That's no honeymoon...

Need suggestions for an impromptu weekend getaway somewhere three-four hours from Philadelphia. [more inside]
posted by Diskeater at 6:33 PM PST - 10 comments

Where can I find a list of ICAO aircraft id hex codes for all B748 made?

I'm building a ADS-B monitoring system to send myself a text message when a 747-800 (B748) flies nearby. The system I have (RTL dongle w/ rtl_adsb or dump1090) works well at receiving but I'd like to avoid having to query any outside services, such as Flightaware's API, to get the aircraft type. I thought that since I'm already getting each aircraft's ICAO24 id number I should just be able to check that against a list of all the 747-800s in existence. It seems like most of these ICAO24 lists are hoarded either by plane spotters or commercial aviation companies. Where can I find such a list for free without doing a ton of legwork?
posted by ChrisHartley at 6:32 PM PST - 7 comments

How to horizontally prop up a chainsaw bar nameplate

I bought a chainsaw bar nameplate from an artist and am now puzzling over the best way to put it on my desk. It is a relatively short bar (20") but of course is curved, so a traditional nameplate holder is too flat (since the bar is curved), too narrow (the bar is about 1/3" wide) and too short. I want to be able to set this on my desk and not have it be too precarious. Any suggestions on what to use as a holder? Thanks!
posted by stewiethegreat at 6:05 PM PST - 12 comments

Carpet spider on the go.

What I've got here is a crappy picture of a spider. What I don't got here, is any idea of what kind of spider it is. Usually, I can figure this kind of thing out with internet a-googling/BugGuide-ing/etc, but I'm failing this time. [more inside]
posted by Coatlicue at 5:17 PM PST - 4 comments

Name that film

Asking for a friend, because this movie (TV show?) sounds fascinating. He says he watched the last 10 minutes of it about 20 years ago. What he remembers of the ending is after the cut. [more inside]
posted by sparklemotion at 5:00 PM PST - 3 comments

80s Music Videos with Communist References?

I'm trying to compile a list of music videos from the 80s (early 90s is fine too) that reference communism, with, for example, use of hammer and sickle imagery, or the like. The more the direct the reference the better. Bonus points for synth-pop. [more inside]
posted by matkline at 4:45 PM PST - 26 comments

I just can't talk to people, and I'm so depressed.

9.5/10 times, I struggle with talking to people, even my own friends and family. Even my own parents sometimes. As a result my life is a life of constant pain and loneliness, even when I am with my friends and family. I can't hold conversations because my mind is too blank to start one or add anything other than "yeah, uh-huh" to a preexisting conversation. Talking to people one on one is a constant nightmare because I am incapable of holding up my part of the conversation or starting one. As a result, I always feel very uncomfortable around one on one conversations and always fear being caught in one. [more inside]
posted by ggp88 at 4:16 PM PST - 32 comments

Unique Philadelphia area wedding venue ideas needed

Fiance and I are attempting to plan a wedding for less than 150 guests in early March 2015 in the Philadelphia area. We currently live in Montgomery county, but we are open to considering locations in the 5 county area (and are learning toward Philadelphia, which will make things easier on our out of town guests). We want to keep the venue/catering/booze costs around $15,000 if possible, which seemed super easy before we started searching. Help! [more inside]
posted by moshimosh at 4:00 PM PST - 18 comments

How should I set up a one-page website?

I want to have a non-gmail/slightly more professional address for my freelance work, so I'm planning to buy a domain. What companies would you recommend for a) buying a domain and b) hosting the site? I just want to have one page with a background photo, a line of text, and a link to my email. Is Squarespace worth it, since I don't know how to build the page myself?
posted by three_red_balloons at 3:07 PM PST - 20 comments

I am not bound to please thee with my answers...when it comes to career.

I graduated college last year with a degree in the science field. I have long had a passing interest in the healthcare field, and have had familial pressure to "become a doctor" even longer. It goes without saying that I decided to take an entry-level job related to healthcare. However, the more I see of healthcare, the less I like what I see, and the more I am reconsidering my future plans. The sources of the familial pressure, in turn, are getting more aggressive. (See inside.) [more inside]
posted by Seeking Direction at 3:05 PM PST - 28 comments

Find that haiku, 日本語で

I'm looking for the original Japanese version of a haiku by Kobayashi Issa that I've seen only in translation as follows: "Moon, plum blossoms, this, that, and the day goes." Kana or romaji or anything really would be great; the Google has failed me thus far. I also can't find it on the big Issa site here. Thanks!
posted by fast ein Maedchen at 3:04 PM PST - 4 comments

Question about art photography prints

Is it violating copyright to scan a photo from an art photography book, have it printed at a larger size, and frame and display it on your wall at home? Is it ethically problematic? Would a reputable print shop do it for you? [more inside]
posted by neat graffitist at 2:54 PM PST - 28 comments

Is this guy just too nice for me to stomach?

A few weeks ago I met this guy through a friend during a night out. While our group was roaming around the city, the two of us walked a few paces behind the rest, absorbed in our conversation. I found him to be cute and smart, if maybe too nice and self-effacing. But I was hoping he would ask me out. Strangely, when he did I didn't feel the excitement I was expecting. [more inside]
posted by caseofyou at 1:41 PM PST - 60 comments

Breaking Not So Bad

I'm looking for a good tv show with a long story arc that spans multiple seasons and has a great finale. The catch is I'd like something I can watch with my kids, ages 12-17, so that rules out most of the cable fare, like Breaking Bad, The Wire, The Sopranos or The Shield. It need not be a gritty cop drama, of course.
posted by mecran01 at 12:47 PM PST - 71 comments

What are the AirBnB alternatives outside the United States

I'm looking for AirBnBs for international travel, probably especially for Asia particularly Japan, and for the Scandinavian countries. I'm mostly interested in services for medium-term durations -- say, two to six weeks. Sites offering unusual housing (e.g. converted barns, lighthouses, treehouses) would be interesting to me, as would heritage sites and retreat-like spaces such as temples and monasteries that offer accommodation for nonreligious people. I'm interested in both urban and rural destinations. [more inside]
posted by Susan PG at 11:06 AM PST - 9 comments

How to not get scammed when renting a house?

We're moving in a month or so and beginning to look at rental houses in Seattle. I'm a bit rusty, but what is the general procedure for establishing the person you're speaking with is the actual home owner and everything is on the up-and-up? [more inside]
posted by lattiboy at 10:56 AM PST - 8 comments

Can I pay a realtor to help me find a house to rent in a rural town?

I am moving to a city of 10,000 people in rural America (and across the country from the city that I live now). After months of using Trulia and other online tools, it has become clear to me that I need the help of a local realtor to show me around and help me find a house to rent. There is just so few rental listing online. However, I don't understand how compensation works in that situation. Do I pay them a commission if they find me a place? Does the homeowner?
posted by Spurious at 10:50 AM PST - 10 comments

Comparing life in New England cities

I am trying to compare several New England cities to help my employer decide where to re-locate his business. Most of the categories are quantitative and no trouble to research, but I am also trying to find a way to rate these more qualitative features: culture/entertainment/nightlife that would appeal to recent college graduates starting a career in marketing research; tax breaks, grant and other government incentives available to a business providing professional services. Any suggestions on how to shape a couple of hours of research time on each category that might result in a fairly simple apples-to-apples rating across 7 different localities would be really helpful.
posted by layceepee at 10:47 AM PST - 4 comments

Hanging up pictures for DIY beginner

My first attempt at hanging a picture in my new flat resulted in a hole in the wall where the screw should be. What's the best way to hanging my pictures securely? [more inside]
posted by Put the kettle on at 10:30 AM PST - 15 comments

Missed connection on OKC?

After a break-up of a LTR, I was on OKC and noticed a really cool profile. She seemed really funny, interesting, and smart. Granted, just a profile, but I got a really good vibe from it. I was in no place to date after that break-up and after awhile, she took down her profile. So I didn't message her. The other day, though, I was on Facebook and a group was suggested to me. I click on it, look down, and see her Facebook profile (same photo from OKC). It was a crazy coincidence. Judging by her Facebook, she is single. Any ideas about what I should do? The group she's a member of is huge, so I don't think that would lead to anything. I think the likelihood of us running into each other at any time is probably pretty unlikely (big city). Granted, this all sounds kind of crazy to be pursuing this on the basis of an OKC profile, but she seems really cool and I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions?
posted by thelivingsea at 9:57 AM PST - 37 comments

US 1970s educational/science TV series?

I'm trying to remember a series of shows broadcast in the late 1970s or maybe as late as 1980 or so. It explained science topics through the lens of recent discoveries or advancements. It might have been PBS but I think it was a "special broadcast" on network tv. I loved them and got all excited when one would be on, so I don't think it was regular or weekly. The only one I specifically remember was on the brain, told through the story of a little girl (?) who needed brain surgery. It wasn't for specifically for kids, but I recall them being very upbeat and "yay science!" They were broadcast in prime time, probably 8 PM. Also: it's definitely not Connections. Apologies - this may the the vaguest TV-related AskMe yet!
posted by JoanArkham at 9:43 AM PST - 11 comments

What do I need to know before buying land?

I wish to buy some undeveloped rural land for recreational purposes. What words of wisdom or relevant recommendations (books, blogs, etc.) can you offer? [more inside]
posted by tomwheeler at 9:24 AM PST - 4 comments

Is this dress too white to wear to a wedding?

Is this dress too white to wear to a wedding? [more inside]
posted by Viola at 9:21 AM PST - 51 comments

Tony and Frank weren't like the other kids...

I just discovered that there was a short-lived UK version of MTV's late-80s game show Remote Control featuring (Factory Records and Haçienda founder) Tony Wilson as the host and Frank Sidebottom as comic relief. I found this mindblowing, to say the least. Searching for video online resulted in nothing but failure. Is there any way for a Yank to watch this?
posted by eschatfische at 9:19 AM PST - 0 comments

How do I choose a cosmetic surgeon in the UK?

After much thought, I'm going to take the plunge and get a rhinoplasty. But I have no idea how to go about choosing a surgeon. I'm in the UK, and I've read this previous question, so will be looking at a member of the British Association of Aesthetic Plastic Surgeons. However, there are a lot of them, and I have no idea how to choose between them. If it makes a difference, I'm thinking of probably going down to London to get this done (I've friends down there I could stay with for the initial recovery). I don't know anyone who has had cosmetic surgery (not even friends of friends) so have no way of getting any personal recommendations.
posted by Vortisaur at 8:54 AM PST - 5 comments

Took your advice & DTMFA. Now he's made big changes. What to do?

I took your advice, MetaFilter, and broke up with the guy who I wasn't totally feeling things for (and had checked out of our relationship). Some time has passed and he seems to be resolving most of the reasons for my unhappiness. He'd still be a great co-parent and partner, so, should I reconsider? Or is it too soon? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:21 AM PST - 31 comments

Need a recipe for this awesome Polish soup

I've searched for this soup on Google, recipe sites like Allrecipes, and in Polish cookbooks, with no luck. It must be pretty obscure, but in the Polish neighborhood where I grew up (in Indiana), both my grandmother and my neighbor - who didn't know each other - made this soup. And it's great. So it must be "a thing" at least in some circles, and hopefully someone out there has a recipe. The soup: it's sweet and sour, with probably a pork broth, vinegar, and sugar. Chunks of pork. Onions, carrots, potatoes, and wax beans. [more inside]
posted by Mechitar at 7:48 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me find a great ultrasound lab in the GTA

Wait times through my hospital are brutal. If you know of a lab with great technicians and a fantastic radiologist, please share! [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 5:44 AM PST - 5 comments

What am I doing wrong with my new rucksack?

I bought a 50 litre rucksack to take on a hiking holiday this summer. I do a lot of walking and am used to carrying a 25 litre backpack with no problems. Yesterday I lightly packed the 50L bag and took it out on a easy hike to start getting used to it, but over the course of the day I strained my upper back, between my shoulder blades. I don't think there's anything wrong with the bag - what am I doing wrong? [more inside]
posted by meronym at 1:59 AM PST - 7 comments

Hungarian story about eating plum dumplings

A friend has asked me if I can recall a story by a Hungarian - he thinks Georges Mikes - about a man who tries to eat 100 plum dumplings (szilvás gombóc in Hungarian) but dies when eating the 99th. He read this story some time before 1975 when he first tried this wonderful dish. Our collective googling and knowledge of Hungarian humorists has drawn a blank. Anyone out there recognize this story?
posted by vac2003 at 12:55 AM PST - 1 comment

April 26

Istanbul versus Berlin

I've been accepted to two summer programs in two great cities! I am indecisive and have only a few more days to decide which travel grant to accept. [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit at 10:26 PM PST - 21 comments

Tasty bookends

I'm looking for attractive pink himalayan rock salt bookends to hold up cookbooks on the shelf I just installed on my kitchen wall. I feel sure I've seen them for sale a bunch of places, but of course now that I want to buy them I can't find them anywhere. Where can I buy these? [more inside]
posted by aubilenon at 9:39 PM PST - 18 comments

Where can I find "real" work-from-home jobs?

I'm looking for work-from-home/telecommute jobs in graphic design, social media/marketing, teaching, editing, or tutoring. I'm wondering where I can find work that isn't part of some shady scheme. [more inside]
posted by joyeuxamelie at 9:17 PM PST - 16 comments

MacGourmet 4 or something else for recipe keeping on iOS and Mac OS X?

MacGourmet 4 or something else for recipe keeping on iOS and Mac OS X? [more inside]
posted by Arthur Vandelay at 8:22 PM PST - 4 comments

Replica Burger King Cheeseburger

Some time ago, Burger King replaced the yellowish cheese used in their cheeseburgers to remove cost from the burger. This changed my all-time favorite cheeseburger into a bland me-too shadow of its former flavorful self. Who can tell me what flavorsome cheese Burger King used before the low melt point plastic that they now put into the new "cheeseburger"
posted by Raybun at 6:25 PM PST - 6 comments

What should we do/eat/see in Kyoto? And should we visit Okishima?

It's been a couple years since this last question, so I figured it was worth a renewal. My two travel partners and I will be arriving in Kyoto this afternoon and I wanted to ping the hive mind for suggestions. [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 4:56 PM PST - 16 comments

How do I create an awesome user manual and training series?

As part of my job, I've been tasked with developing a user guide for an open source software package that my company developed, as well as future webinar (and possibly in-person) training materials. Is there a good source for finding industry best practices for user manuals and tutorials? I'd like to see what the most innovative organizations are doing when it comes to training materials. [more inside]
posted by JuliaKM at 3:55 PM PST - 6 comments

Looking for (not so) big adventures on Kauai

My girlfriend and I are going to Kauai for vacation in May, we're spending the first two days South of Lihue on our own, and then meeting up with a big bunch of family in Princeville for a whole week. As two late twenties, gay, slightly geeky, not super hardcore outdoorsy types, what should we absolutely not miss during our trip? [more inside]
posted by Sweetchrysanthemum at 3:42 PM PST - 13 comments

Buying a used car in California, then moving to Minnesota

I'm planning to buy a used car in the Bay Area soon, then a month later use it to drive across the country to my new home. Do I need to consider anything special as far as taxes, licensing, insurance, etc? I haven't had a car for nearly a decade, so just buying one is daunting, let alone worrying about any additional financial or legal concerns. Is there anything I should know about?
posted by chriswarren at 2:59 PM PST - 12 comments

music that sounds like elephants walking....where is it?

I turned on the tv the other night and the credits to a movie were on. This song was playing during the credits and I was in love. I'm enthralled by songs which remind me of walking elephants. [more inside]
posted by the webmistress at 2:57 PM PST - 30 comments

Acoustic bass guitar in recorded music?

I've become curious about the musical potential of the acoustic bass guitar. Does anybody know of any recordings, in any genre, where this instrument is used to good effect? [more inside]
posted by bertran at 2:33 PM PST - 10 comments

Office wear for uber hot climate

I'm transferring from Scotland to Dubai for three months - probably June, July, August. As far as I can see, its going to be crazy hot (40C + ?) in the desert for these months - I've spent a couple of days in Dubai before but not in the height of summer - I'll be doing an office job and expect to be spending my time going from air conditioned apartment to air conditioned office but I'm keen to hear any practical tips in terms of office wear (I'm a suit-wearing bloke) and any other pointers for going to the Gulf (or anywhere similarly hot) and being productive in an office job in an uber-hot climate. Thanks!
posted by khites at 2:08 PM PST - 11 comments

Sketching road trip from Vancouver BC to the Oregon Coast

We are planning a road trip from May 3-9 (maybe to the 10th) down to the Oregon Coast but we are not sure what to do! Our plan so far is to drive to Astoria on the first day and stay a night or two. Then what? [more inside]
posted by sadtomato at 1:37 PM PST - 11 comments

I drank vinegar, and now i'm painfully bloated, what to do?

I drank 1 teaspoon of vinegar (which is 5 years old) with a half cup of water this morning, (for health benefits). Now I am painfully bloated and I assume it's related. My pant won't fit and my stomach is killing me. Was it the vinegar? and What can I do to fix it? Thanks. I am a 58 year old Mexican woman and I know you are not my doctor
posted by kikithekat at 12:52 PM PST - 11 comments

Google Forms for Noobs

I want to be able to input a form's worth of data/information into a Google form I have created and still be able to export and view the data in individual readable forms, even for long paragraphs of text. I have failed at Googling this issue. Am I asking the impossible, or am I just failing at search? If I'm asking the impossible, what program or not-crazy kludge would make this possible? [more inside]
posted by charmedimsure at 12:50 PM PST - 7 comments

1-2 season run TV series with satisfying conclusions?

I'm looking for series that were cancelled after 1 or 2 seasons but also managed to end with a satisfying conclusion. My husband and I like these while we fill in empty space waiting for the next season of Castle to be out on DVD. [more inside]
posted by AllieTessKipp at 12:49 PM PST - 65 comments

Personal Stories Behind Creative Works?

I am looking for origin stories of creative works rooted in personal experiences. The more grar, the better. The more "I was so mad..." or "I met this person and was attracted and Oh God No!", the better. So, leaning heavily towards "I had Big Feelings about a personal experience and I put it into a song/movie scene/short story/whatever." [more inside]
posted by Michele in California at 12:06 PM PST - 16 comments

Fancy wool-blend formalwear: dry-clean after every wearing?

I recently acquired a beautiful, brand new designer dress that's much nicer than anything I've had in my wardrobe before. I've worn it once and have been hanging it up to air out. Is it better to get it dry cleaned before storing it, or will it be easier on the fabric to put it away in its worn-once state? I don't want to put unnecessary stress on the fabric from the dry cleaning process, but I really, really don't want to find moth holes in the dress several months from now, either. [more inside]
posted by Orinda at 11:58 AM PST - 6 comments

Home for unwed mothers in Indianapolis, 1960s-1970s?

Coincidence or something real? Two "relatives" have contacted me with a similar story: born to teenage mothers in Indianapolis in the 1960s or 1970s. Was there a home for unwed mothers there? [more inside]
posted by metarkest at 11:52 AM PST - 11 comments

How to make Chrome forget a "do this for all files of this type" command

I accidentally made Chrome ignore all of a certain file type. How can I fix it so I don't have to use Internet Explorer (yuck)? [more inside]
posted by Captain Cardanthian! at 11:50 AM PST - 8 comments

Tell me who can fix my body and teach me how to keep it balanced!

I’ve been seeing physical therapists for pain in my shoulders and hips, but I’m looking for someone who really understands what is causing the pain from a whole-body perspective and can work with me to fix these specific problems and teach me how to keep my body healthy. Who is this person? What do they call themselves or the work that they do? [more inside]
posted by feidr2 at 10:58 AM PST - 19 comments

Redirecting a website URL to a Google doc

Our organization uses a Google form to sign up new members. I want to set up our website so that www.OurURL.org/join redirects to that Google doc. Is this possible? What is this functionality called? How do you go about setting it up?
posted by ottereroticist at 10:34 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me fill out my Chicago itinerary for next weekend!

My husband and I are landing in Chicago for the first time on Saturday, May 3rd and will be there until the evening of the 5th. One purpose of the trip is to visit my husband's father, who has been living there for the last year, but the other is to explore Chicago. We are staying at La Quinta in Downtown Chicago, mainly because we got a good deal on it through Hotwire. My husband's dad lives at the Streeter, in the Near North Side area. What should we see while we're there? [more inside]
posted by peacheater at 10:34 AM PST - 13 comments

How do I start powerless woodworking?

What tools do I need to start powerless woodworking? If I go to Home Depot, what are the 5 or 6 most essential tools to pick up? [more inside]
posted by BradNelson at 10:09 AM PST - 20 comments

Fun, Funky Motels Near the New York Thruway

I am looking for tips on interesting, old-fashioned motels between Buffalo and Syracuse. [more inside]
posted by not that girl at 9:35 AM PST - 9 comments

How Can I Afford My Career Change?

How do I make my financial situation work? Late 20-something living in Chicago trying to financially survive a career change. Tons of details here, but any ideas, suggestions, or help would be so appreciated. [more inside]
posted by carlypennylane at 9:23 AM PST - 17 comments

Desperately seeking replacement bolt for Harbor Freight oscillating tool

I'm at my wits' end trying to find a replacement accessory bolt for my Harbor Freight (er, Chicago Electric) oscillating tool. HF customer service (ha) says that this part isn't available to purchase on its own, HF Twitter is ignoring me, and my local HF store just says they don't have them. [more inside]
posted by ndg at 8:17 AM PST - 9 comments

Best way to plan for tax season?

I’m about to become a contractor. I live in Canada. When I get paid, there will be nothing automatically deducted in the way of income tax, CPP, etc. How should I handle this? [more inside]
posted by rabbitfufu at 8:09 AM PST - 7 comments

I want to rebuild my grandparents' house... in miniature

I have a deeply nostalgic love for my grandparents' former home, a generic but beloved split level they lived in from the 1950s to mid 2000s. As an artist and crafter with an obsessive love for details, I have long noodled with the idea of making an incredibly accurate recreation of the house in miniature... but I struggle with where to start. Architectural models, dollhouses? What is the best route forward? [more inside]
posted by allisonrae at 8:02 AM PST - 9 comments

Not Quite Flipping the Script: Word Help!

Wordsmith assistance. After reading this, I wondered is there a concise word or phrase to best describe a person or situation when Person B is hearing valid criticism, i.e., "You left the front door unlocked," and Person B's response is to not respond to that criticism and to instead point out a flaw of Person A (or anyone else), "Well, you never lock up your bicycle outside." It's kind of tit for tat, kind of flipping the script, kind of misdirection, kind of going on the attack, but I'm looking for something that concisely expresses when someone completely refuses to acknowledge criticism and instead looks for fault in anyone else, but ideally, the person who had the initial criticism. Ideas? The more elegant the better.
posted by kinetic at 7:24 AM PST - 17 comments

Seductive pants for male objectification?

I have lost ALOT of weight, and am on track to keep it off. I have a wife who has admitted she really enjoys vintage pics of guys in pants that showcase "the bulge", and she believes I now qualify. I have the butt and legs on my new "skinny pants" appropriately snug for her taste, but the fronts are disappointingly vague. Is this something I have to hunt down vintage jeans for, or ask a tailor for? Or is my endomorph body type, no matter how lean, cursed for flattened-fly jeans?
posted by anonymous at 6:43 AM PST - 20 comments

How can I convince my VoIP router (PAP2T) to connect?

I'm trying to get my VoIP at home (through a PAP2T, working perfectly until now) working with a new router (Linksys DIR-825), and having no luck past a certain point. My provider's support service isn't very supportive. [more inside]
posted by Shepherd at 6:14 AM PST - 9 comments

Cultivating an organisation's knowledge base

I am part of a large distributed community that voluntarily runs a major but low-budget yearly event. We usually have 100% main organiser turnover year to year, because the job is hard and unpaid. There's a lot of organising info that is hard to retain year to year, and a consensus that information retention is currently poor. Do you belong to a community that has successfully solved this kind of problem? What works for you? What doesn't work? [more inside]
posted by emilyw at 5:29 AM PST - 11 comments

Unnecessary marital counselling from a thrice-divorced person is...?

Is there a word or a pithy turn of phrase that can be used to describe those who take it upon themselves to offer unsought critique, ridicule, counsel or lecture others for failings the listener doesn't really have when the counsellors themselves are dramatic examples of those failings? For example, how would you describe a penniless 47-year-old who loftily lectures others who are comfortably well off on how to manage their money, or an anti-vaxxer or Rob Ford supporter who sneers at those on the other side of these issues for being naive or ignorant? The best I can do is "obnoxiously unselfaware", but it seems to me there might be a better and more specific term.
posted by orange swan at 3:58 AM PST - 61 comments

Do's and dont's for replacement window contractors

I am going to get some windows replaced. Help me avoid the pitfalls of bad contractors, shoddy work, and overpricing. How should I approach this? [more inside]
posted by redliner at 2:07 AM PST - 5 comments

April 25

Good French-English Dictionary Offline App for Android w/ Speech ?

Looking for a good French-English Dictionary Offline app for Android w/ Speech, as well as a program that does the same thing I can install on my laptop [more inside]
posted by cotesdurhone at 10:12 PM PST - 4 comments

Back pain rest or stretch?

Pulled a muscle in my lower back. Should I rest or stretch/exercise it? [more inside]
posted by zardoz at 9:08 PM PST - 5 comments

Looking for a photographer of playful animals

My fiance found an adorable photo that we wanted to use on our (surprise) save the date cards...but the photographer has been very difficult to work with (wants his "inspirational saying" as well as his digital business card on the front of our save the date cards, etc.). My fiance is disappointed, loves the lazy, playful and sleepy two-some. Anyone have any other suggestions of photos or photographers (ideally on etsy) that take playful pictures of animals we could buy cards from?
posted by anonymous at 7:20 PM PST - 9 comments

Solo female spontaneous travel

In a couple weeks I'll have the opportunity to travel before starting at a new job. Since it's so short notice I'm looking for suggestions on great places to go at this time of year where a solo female can travel safely. More beneath the fold. [more inside]
posted by raw sugar at 6:51 PM PST - 23 comments

Can I FOIA bank records of banks that were bailed out with Federal money

I am working on a project where I am trying to find contributions made between businesses and political parties. Besides the obvious places (Sunlight Foundation, etc.) I want to know if, for the time banks received federal money, would those records be FOIAble? I have a pretty good idea which federal agencies to contact. But would it work?
posted by CollectiveMind at 6:31 PM PST - 10 comments

Recommend me degenerate lo-fi noise/"metal" like early Monster Magnet

I've always loved the first two Monster Magnet singles. Murder, Tractor, Freak Shop USA, Lizard Johnny. I'm looking for some jams that rival the dosed basement psychosis of the really early MM. All that comes to mind is Skullflower, which is really more improv than metal, and High Rise, but neither completely scratches the itch. Hip me to the filthiest of dirtbag low fidelity metallic TKOs of any era - stuff that makes Jesus Lizard and Pissed Jeans look like Bon Jovi!
posted by porn in the woods at 6:23 PM PST - 13 comments

Putting together a grown-up apartment

After subletting in others' apartments for many years, I just moved into my first place on my own. It's a one-bedroom. What do I need to buy? [more inside]
posted by lewedswiver at 4:49 PM PST - 48 comments

Is it worth paying more for a label that says clinically proven?

Is it worth paying extra for a clinically proven mouthwash, Listerine Cool Citrus to be specific? Or will an own brand version with (as far as I can tell) identical ingredients do just as good a job? [more inside]
posted by Solomon at 4:38 PM PST - 8 comments

Co-sleepers - worth the money?

Considering getting a bedside co-sleeper for my baby. Parents who've used these, were they worth the money in your experience? [more inside]
posted by Catseye at 4:28 PM PST - 27 comments

I have no IDeaL what I'm doing (IDL programming for absolute dum-dums)

So, I recently got selected to do undergraduate physics research this summer. Great! Awesome! Yay me! However, my research advisor has asked me to use something called IDL to analyze tomographic images of compounds and turn them into 3D images. This is good news, because IDL is used a lot by astronomers to analyze astronomical data, and I want to continue my education in astronomy. But, I've never used IDL ever before. I'm not even sure exactly what it is (a programming language?). My question is this: how do I get up to speed so that I can hit the ground running with my research? Difficulty: Research begins in two weeks. Details: [more inside]
posted by runcibleshaw at 4:22 PM PST - 12 comments

Question about Gift Tax

Regarding the gift tax, the IRS indicates that a gift does not count against the annual exclusion ($14,000), and is not taxable against the giver, if it is gifted towards a tuition payment. Would this also be the case if it was gifted to pay a student loan for someone directly to their lending institution?
posted by SpacemanStix at 3:48 PM PST - 7 comments

Looking for Commercial clothing/Fashion Websites That Have Specific Info

I have seen fashion/clothing sites where on the product page the brand has dress/pant/shirt etc. options. There is a blank image of the pants, etc. Below the image is a choice of colors or design. When you scroll over a color you then see what the color will look like on the pants. Does anyone know any brands that have this on there sites? I have seen them in the past yet none of them are coming to mind. I am building a website right now and would like to show this to my designer.
posted by goalyeehah at 3:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Explain to me why activism is effective

Invariably, there are problems in government that you would like to see fixed. For example, human rights issues regarding Guantanamo, or environmental issues regarding fracking. There are always people working to solve these problems by protesting, organizing people, etc. How effective are these and other methods of activism, and at what point does standing in the street with a sign turn from one person's opinion into something larger? [more inside]
posted by lalunamel at 2:58 PM PST - 19 comments

Mobile Wifi hotspots, options and experience?

I am plotting a trip to a part of the US with poor internet and bad cell coverage. One location where I will be staying shows as within AT&T's 4G LTE data service area. A recent trip to SF demonstrated some limitations of my current cell data plan, which is Straight Talk month-to-month (sublease on AT&T network, shows signs of being stepped on by AT&T in terms of speed and responsiveness for data). Straight Talk excludes tethering altogether and has a non-4G data puck available. Given my negative experience with ST data in SF, I am looking askance at the ST puck. [more inside]
posted by mwhybark at 2:47 PM PST - 4 comments

Concerned with husband's recent forays into binge drinking

My moderate-drinker husband has twice in the last month drank to the point of repeatedly vomiting. These binges are out of character and deeply concerning. Should he see his doctor? What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:41 PM PST - 43 comments

Was I out of line in having this conversation during a bachelorette?

Friend invited her ex-boyfriend to her bachelorette event. During the event, he revealed to a few of the attendees that he still has feelings for her. Bride became angry at each of us for indulging in this conversation. Was I out of line? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:40 PM PST - 34 comments

Cycling with a saddle sore

I'm training for my first cycling tour, a 7-day trip between Pittsburgh and DC on the Great Allegheny Passage and C&O Canal paths. The tour is in a month, and I've been working up to longer rides in the past several months, hitting about 50 miles the last two weekends. I think I'm getting a saddle sore on my inner thigh and want to know what I can do to prevent it from becoming a problem. [more inside]
posted by megancita at 1:32 PM PST - 15 comments

Hard-to-pull pull chain

We installed a new ceiling fan but the pull chain is hard to pull as it rubs against the grommet, and I'm concerned it may break if someone pulls too hard. How can I make the chain pull a little easier and smoother? Some type of lubricant that doesn't require frequent reapplication?
posted by davcoo at 1:23 PM PST - 9 comments

Landlord Part Deux (NYC edition)

Our neighbors are complaining to our landlord about what seem really ridiculous matters, and he is sending letters threatening eviction. We pay our rent on time and try not to bother him. Please help me figure out what he might be thinking, how to deal with this, and what our rights are. [more inside]
posted by corb at 1:14 PM PST - 17 comments

Need to exercise. Low motivation. Low willpower. Ideas?

What are some good ways to get into a modest exercise routine when you know that you lack motivation and willpower and will likely want to quit after one day? Anything from a lifehacker-y website/app/bracelet gadget that somehow guilts/encourages/blackmails you, to a person who shows up at your apartment and drags you to the gym. I live alone in Manhattan. I suffer from depression - I see a therapist and I take medication (one of the major side effects of the medication is weight gain, unfortunately). I'm not really looking for mental tricks to GET willpower - I've read posts about this - I'm looking for ways to exercise given the fact that I have very little willpower.
posted by anonymous at 1:06 PM PST - 35 comments

Size of earth to solar system vs drop of water to Mt Everest?

Can someone please tell me (if you could show calculations, that would be wonderful) what the ratio of ratios would be for these two numbers: a) the volume of the earth compared to that of the solar system and b) the volume of a drop of water compared to that of Mount Everest?
posted by shivohum at 12:35 PM PST - 9 comments

Poetry for my (pre-)adolescent daughter

I am starting a habit of reading a poem or 2 to my 11-year-old every night at bedtime. It's been pretty random choices, and I'd like to read some fun, inspirational, empowering stuff for her. [more inside]
posted by lucyleaf at 12:21 PM PST - 20 comments

Help choosing a budget laptop for international work?

I need a new laptop but have no idea where to begin. Reading reviews at CNET and PC Mag only confuses me more. I would really appreciate help from the MeFi community! [more inside]
posted by philotes at 12:20 PM PST - 5 comments

Did I bury my cat wrong?

I had to put my beloved cat down last week and I'm frankly stunned by how hard the grief has hit me. He showed up at my back door 14 years ago and never left. We had a great time together. I decided to bury him in the garden but when I got home I found I couldn't dig down further than about a 8-12 inches because of tree roots and sprinkler lines. I have a bad back already, so in a panic, I buried him in his towel at that depth and put a 38-pound paver stone on top. I have a fenced yard and only a few stray cats (I note the ones always bullying him have disappeared) and maybe a possum find their way in. Now I am wracked with anxiety, worrying that he is not safe and I should not have done it, and maybe I should dig him up and cremate him, which would be awful to imagine...I can't stand it. Is there some drawback to this more shallow grave I don't know about? No animal could lift that stone. So far this anxiety and fear is the worst part of it. So if you could allay my fears, I'd appreciate it.
posted by PJSibling at 12:16 PM PST - 28 comments

Why is Amazon sending me money?

Amazon put a large deposit in my checking account for no known reason, and I'm trying to find out what the money is from. [more inside]
posted by LaurenIpsum at 12:07 PM PST - 14 comments

Show and accept edits in WordPress posts?

So I've Googled and checked out the WordPress support forums about this, but I'm not finding what I want. Is there any plugin that allows WordPress to have a function like Track Changes in Word? I'm talking about within a post -- so if I made edits (punctuation, changing words, whatever) in a certain post, someone else could see them and also accept or reject them. Just viewing the "Revisions" in WP isn't cutting it.
posted by trillian at 12:00 PM PST - 3 comments

Please help me gain Microsoft Office skills!

I will soon be starting a project/new job that requires better Microsoft Office skills than I currently have. I've used Outlook, Word and Excel in a fairly basic way for years, but need to come to grips with some of the more sophisticated elements of those programs. Plus, I need to learn how to use Powerpoint and Visio, which I've never touched. Yikes. Can you recommend some good online tutorials? I am also considering doing a paid course (online or otherwise) if I can find one based in London that's not too expensive or a rip-off. Can you help?
posted by handclaps at 11:50 AM PST - 9 comments

How to prevent empathy pains?

It feels like other people's emotional energy is causing me muscle soreness. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by Musashi Daryl at 11:45 AM PST - 22 comments

shall i take this non-profit offer?

got an offer from a non-profit in NYC. it has been growing like crazy in the past 8 years, but i am faced with a 20% cut in base salary. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:45 AM PST - 7 comments

Should I return this pressure washer?

I purchased this pressure washer a little over a week ago and although I've gauged my water flow rate to be over 4.5 GPM (this requires 2 GPM), I keep getting pulsing/variable action from the motor when using a high pressure setting on the spray wand even after trying all troubleshooting steps listed in the manual (see below). Should I be calling the return hotline ASAP? [more inside]
posted by Big Fat Tycoon at 11:38 AM PST - 2 comments

Roadtrip from Hammond, Louisianna to Vancouver, BC

I will be in Hammond, Louisiana this October and wanted to make a road trip back to my home in Vancouver Canada. The current plan is to buy a vehicle in Hammond or New Orleans, then drive through Texas and up the coast. I am an artist, so visiting sites like Marfa to see the Chianti Foundation and visiting LA to see the MOCA and the Hammer are priorities. I am asking for advice on art sites and routes with the most interesting or essential things to see. I've visited a few places in the US but this is a big trip for me I may not be able to make again so I'd like to make the most of it. If you are American, assume I know nothing. The obvious for you may not be that obvious to a Canadian. Thanks!
posted by Staples at 11:34 AM PST - 8 comments

Best ways to discuss new pregnancy with stepchild?

My husband and I have been married almost a year (lived together before that) and have a good relationship with his 12-year-old son, who lives about an hour away and is with us in summers and every other weekend. Now I am pregnant. We are excited to tell stepson this weekend, but I want to think a bit about... [more inside]
posted by bluedeans at 11:28 AM PST - 20 comments

Please indulge my vanity

Due to unfortunate medical circumstances I am losing most of my (head not body) hair. I can't decide what to do about it! [more inside]
posted by elizardbits at 10:54 AM PST - 35 comments

Help me fix my Mac!

My Mac won't wake up after going to sleep -- what's going on? [more inside]
posted by queens86 at 10:51 AM PST - 9 comments

Self defense tool

What tools/gadgets for self defense would you recommend for a small to medium sized woman? [more inside]
posted by jbean at 10:31 AM PST - 14 comments

Free data visualization tools for a non-coder?

I have some Google Analytics data (total unique views, overall site traffic, etc.) that I'd like to include in a report in a clean, eye-catching way. I need recommendations for technically simple (e.g. I don't want to mess around with an API) tools to do this. Thanks in advance, hivemind.
posted by ryanshepard at 10:28 AM PST - 3 comments

What do I do about this hole in my yard?

I discovered a hole, roughly 10 inches across, in my yard (at a house I just moved into). It's basically a pipe going far far down, and had a stone top resting over the hole, loosely covering it. It reminds me of the Baby Jessica well, which makes me want to get rid of it, fill it in, cover it up. But I don't know what it is. Who might I call to figure out what it is, what it's for, if I can just remove the whole thing, or if it's necessary to keep it as-is?
posted by davebug at 9:35 AM PST - 29 comments

Delicious boiled milk

I was making yogurt, but forgot that I was doing it. Instead of heating the milk to 180, I heated it to boiling. And then...left it there for a while. I have almost a gallon of freshly boiled milk, and can't stand to throw it away. What on earth can I do with it? [more inside]
posted by MeghanC at 9:27 AM PST - 16 comments

Tipping etiquette

Am I supposed to tip the housekeeper every time? [more inside]
posted by mamaquita at 9:25 AM PST - 31 comments

Eeny, reside here or not, meeny, miny, moe?

My lease is soon expiring. I'm in kind of a delicate situation, and am a bit stuck on how to proceed. Details under the fold. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 9:20 AM PST - 12 comments

Pay out of pocket for preventative care?

Colon Cancer scare in my family. My health insurance won't cover a colonoscopy because I'm too young and have no symptoms. Should I shell out the $1000 - $3000 this could cost me to get checked? Gratuitous YANMD. [more inside]
posted by ashtabula to opelika at 8:57 AM PST - 26 comments

Where to get custom pendant or locket from jpg

I have a beautiful silhouette of my son in jpg format that I want to print on a locket or pendant for Mothers' Day. Please recommend online options for getting this done. [more inside]
posted by Xalf at 8:49 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for a foot/ortho specialist in Madison

I've managed to injure both my ankles badly enough that I basically can't walk. Any suggestions for an orthopedic specialist in Madison, WI? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:42 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me find work-life balance as a recent college graduate.

I graduated college a year ago, and I'm having trouble acclimating to my new life. Plenty of special snowflake info inside, but I would love any tools or anecdotes about how your life changed after college. [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 8:13 AM PST - 46 comments

Landlordfilter: My tenants want to go day-to-day

My tenants, who have been reasonably good, rent-on-time tenants for 4 years, are looking for a larger house for their now-larger family. I let them go month-to-month to support that; now they want to know how much less than 30 days' notice is acceptable. [more inside]
posted by Dashy at 8:05 AM PST - 37 comments

Homemade leather conditioners for a Coach purse?

I'm looking for a homemade leather conditioner for a Coach leather purse. I see linseed oil + vinegar. What could I substitute, if anything, for linseed oil? [more inside]
posted by vincele at 7:24 AM PST - 7 comments

Adobe Edge (jQuery) symbols behaving unexpectedly: a cry for help.

I've created rollover animations and click to link symbols which work fine on the first visit to the page. However on revisits, the animations break. I don't know enough about jQuery to spot what I am doing wrong. I've watched almost every tutorial on the topic on Lynda.com, posted a question (unanswered) in the forums and Googled all to no avail. I am certain it is simply a snippet of code I am missing. [more inside]
posted by kthanksbai at 6:40 AM PST - 7 comments

Blogs written by bookstore employees or librarians

Google doesn't seem to help in regards to what I'm looking for, which is personal blogs written by either bookstore employees or librarians, detailing their day-to-day adventures (or misadventures); perhaps an anonymous blog would be even better, because I appreciate reading snarky and critical posts, too, about dealing with weird costumers, for example. Also, when it comes to librarians' blogs, I'm not looking for the more technical aspects of the library world (that's why Google didn't help). Thanks! [more inside]
posted by denika at 5:38 AM PST - 27 comments

It isn't 1990 anymore, I want to multitask!

On my Mac (OS X Mavericks), some fullscreen apps don't let me task switch away from them. AT ALL. Needless to say, this is ridiculously annoying. Is there a workaround? [more inside]
posted by neckro23 at 3:51 AM PST - 11 comments

My Camelbak is trying to kill me.

My previously-cooperative Camelbak suddenly gave me intense friction burns. What did I do wrong? [more inside]
posted by eugenen at 12:31 AM PST - 3 comments

April 24

iOS app to replace Moves now it's owned by Facebook

I really like Moves but it's just been sold to Facebook. Because of this I would like to replace Moves. [more inside]
posted by Gilgongo at 11:54 PM PST - 7 comments

One-night rental cabin in NorCal on very short notice?

I have family visiting and the idea came up of renting a cabin/cottage/etc. for one night in some pleasant natural spot in northern California, in or near woods and ideally near running water, where we could do a little light hiking and generally chill out. This would have to be tomorrow night (Friday 4/25). We should have planned this a long time ago, but my family doesn't do that. Where should I be looking, both in terms of possible regions and specific websites? Some specs: ideally no more than about 2 hours drive from San Francisco; four people; want seclusion, i.e. not a B&B or the like; willing to pay up to about $400 for the night.
posted by zeri at 11:11 PM PST - 10 comments

Will my returns hurt my former Nordstrom shopper?

I have some items to return to Nordstrom. My personal Nordstrom shopper quit a few weeks ago. I don't want to return the things if it means she's somehow on the hook for the return. [more inside]
posted by bloggerwench at 10:37 PM PST - 4 comments

Should I move in with my girlfriend and her flatmates?

My girlfriend (25) and I (cis male, 26) have been dating for about a year and a half, are pretty sure that this is the real deal, and are ready to move in with each other. We're trying to decide if I should move into her apartment with her and her flatmates, or if we should move in to our own apartment together. Lots of extra details below! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:42 PM PST - 36 comments

Would this be nice or creepy?

I want to make my good friend a fancy list of 20 things I really like about her. If I made such a list and gave it to her would that be nice and thoughtful or kinda creepy and overwrought? [more inside]
posted by WinterSolstice at 8:41 PM PST - 34 comments

Can you drive into Yosemite Valley at night?

We're hoping to drive to Yosemite tomorrow night, will be arriving at the South gate around 11pm. I've been searching the website for the gate hours, but can't find any. Will we be able to get in at the South gate (or any other gates) that late?
posted by brenton at 8:02 PM PST - 9 comments

Seven Deadly Weeks of Mixtapes Vol 1: Lust, specifically fellatio

Okay. So as a really unnecessarily complicated gift to a friend leading up to the fifth anniversary of their losing their faith and going atheist I conceptualized seven weeks of mixtapes. 60 minutes each. Each with songs entirely about a specific deadly sin. Possibly NSFW specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by mediocre at 7:52 PM PST - 42 comments

Revolution Slider help?

I've installed a new theme on two sites, followed the same instructions for both, but on one the Revolution Slider doesn't seem to be working properly. On my beta site, the text on the slider looks nice and pretty, flying in and properly sized. On the alpha site, the text isn't looking right at all. Any Wordpress/coding heads have any ideas why this is happening? [more inside]
posted by Unsomnambulist at 7:27 PM PST - 6 comments

Online micronutrient requirement calculator?

I need an online calculator that will allow me to enter everything my child eats for the day (or week, if possible) and return a list of micronutrients her diet is deficient in, along with suggestions for foods that are particularly rich in those micronutrients. All the data I need is in self.com but collating it into the format I'm after is too time consuming to do on a regular basis, and I don't want to re-invent the wheel if I don't need to. I've searched, obviously, but the Googles, they do nothing! [more inside]
posted by KathrynT at 6:39 PM PST - 4 comments

Paris and what else?

Mr. Kitty and I got into the Paris Marathon for 2015 (yay!) We decided to make it a long vacation. We plan on spending 3 weeks in France - the first week will be mostly adjusting to time difference, marathon running, and recovery. The second week actually exploring Paris, and the third week....is a giant question mark [more inside]
posted by Suffocating Kitty at 6:29 PM PST - 8 comments

I can't fix it, but how can I help after my friend was hit by a car?

Friend's quality of life has been ruined by a drunk driver. She can't do any of the stuff she used to do and she's in a lot of pain. This is her new normal -- she will never be her old self again. I feel sad and helpless about it. Is there anything at all I can do for her? Specifics below. [more inside]
posted by AppleTurnover at 6:23 PM PST - 18 comments

We need a durable wool.

I'm a rookie member of the Providence Grays, a vintage baseball team. This season, we are having a difficult time finding a source of wool that we can use for our baseball trousers. Can anyone help me find a source? [more inside]
posted by ursus_comiter at 5:56 PM PST - 6 comments

How should I manage worn, but not dirty clothing?

Please explain to me how adults manage the clothing that they have worn but is not soiled enough to go into the laundry. I need some sort of system, as throwing them on the chair is probably not acceptable at my age. [more inside]
posted by i am a sock puppeteer at 4:59 PM PST - 49 comments

Concern about web page photo gallery and impact on server load

I'm setting up a new set of image gallery web pages for a site recently redesigned with Twitter Bootstrap framework. Based on past experience I'm concerned about possible server load issues, but since this is new tech now maybe I'm just paranoid? Full explanation inside... [more inside]
posted by dnash at 4:41 PM PST - 16 comments

How can I recover a deleted facebook thread?

A facebook thread (In a group) was deleted by the moderator. I understand that the internet records everything and it is archived somewhere. How can I look at it?
posted by TigerCrane at 4:27 PM PST - 10 comments

Fres-Nah

Where's a good place to grab lunch on the CA-99? [more inside]
posted by Parasite Unseen at 4:27 PM PST - 9 comments

How to cut the bottom out of a thick decanter?

I did see this, but it is about cutting off the neck and shoulders of a bottle. I want to cut the bottom out or off of three cheap cut glass liquor decanters. The glass company wants $25 per bottle. Is there any other option? Thanks!
posted by harrietthespy at 4:26 PM PST - 2 comments

Help us with a good title and decor for 4th grade science fair project

We can't figure out a good title for my daughter's Science Fair Project. The school wants the 4th grade children to basically do the whole project at home with guidance from the parents. My daughter's experiment is on why apples turn brown and she is learning about why the lemon juice worked (learning about acids and bases, etc.) The poster board we will use will have a title on it. The teacher wants us to think of a good title, and it does not necessarily have to be the question, "Why do apples turn brown". It can be a clever, or interesting title that goes with the experiment. At first we thought about, "An apple a day keeps the doctor away." But then we thought it was too long, and it also might be presumed that her project is about apples and how they are healthy. [more inside]
posted by lynnie-the-pooh at 4:18 PM PST - 21 comments

Where Are the Best Places to Work in ATL?

Can you help me identify the companies with the best corporate culture? [more inside]
posted by masquesoporfavor at 4:06 PM PST - 8 comments

How do you handle an overwhelming amount of work?

I've been having a tough week—overwhelmed with work leading up to finals. What do you folks do in response to these kinds of situations? Make sure to have reset time? Spending time with friends?
posted by markbao at 3:42 PM PST - 7 comments

Why does the wireless doorbell ring without someone pushing the button?

My office uses a RCWL210A portable wireless chime as a door bell. The push-button part of the system is glued onto the wall next to the security keypad by the door. Sometimes, just entering the keycode to open the door will set off the chime, even though they are not connected at all and nobody pushed the actual doorbell button. Sometimes just raising your hand towards it to key in the code will set it off. What is going on, and how can I stop it doing that? [more inside]
posted by gemmy at 3:40 PM PST - 5 comments

If I had a hammer ... I'd still want to buy this at a store

I need a product exactly like this slim rolling pantry shelf, to hold canned goods and spices in the small space next to my refrigerator. Difficulty level: No hammer. [more inside]
posted by cyndigo at 3:39 PM PST - 11 comments

please help me identify this hat brand

I bought a fedora for $10, forgot where, and now would like to purchase another. Knowing the maker/brand should help. pics inside. [more inside]
posted by sainttoad at 3:24 PM PST - 6 comments

Help Me Have a Lovely Southern Maine Experience

O MeFites of a Maine Persuasion, please recommend to me things and places in Southern Maine in mid-May. [more inside]
posted by julen at 3:15 PM PST - 13 comments

How will one Wiimote work with a Wii and a Wii U set up?

Just bought a Wii U and I'm waiting for it to arrive. I plan on using my regular Wii still, probably for Homebrew, but I'm wondering what will happen when I try to use one Wiimote with two devices that recognize it. Is that going to be a problem? Will I have to unplug one or just deal with it running in the background on a different input?
posted by dubadubowbow at 2:23 PM PST - 4 comments

Movies About Writers and Show the Story

Hey Everyone, Can you think of any movies that are about a writer and also show the story that the writer is writing in the movie? Thanks!
posted by sunnyblues48 at 2:21 PM PST - 39 comments

Premiere Pro CC: How to set max audio level to prevent peaking/redlining

Need help figuring out a way to eliminate audio redlining in Premiere Pro CC without also compromising audio lows. [more inside]
posted by Gonestarfishing at 2:13 PM PST - 3 comments

Summer housing in Baltimore

I'm looking for accommodation in Baltimore in July/August for 5-7 weeks. I'm from the UK and I have no idea where to start, which parts of the town are safe, transport links, what normal rent is like in the area etc. [more inside]
posted by pikeandshield at 12:05 PM PST - 9 comments

Where to find long sleeve swimwear?

I'm looking for a women's long-sleeve swimsuit, preferably with UV protection. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by chickaboo at 11:46 AM PST - 19 comments

Which camera meets my needs?

I need a point and shoot camera that meets these three criteria: 1. Mega zoom 2. GPS built in 3. Shoots in raw format. My Google-fu has failed me. Any suggestions?
posted by gnossos at 11:26 AM PST - 10 comments

Could you explain what I am missing here?

Taking part in a mandatory personal growth/customer excellence/self-actualization type course at work, feel like I am missing something. [more inside]
posted by Cosine at 11:21 AM PST - 26 comments

apartment transfer

How to get more information on transfer fees? [more inside]
posted by jenh526 at 11:21 AM PST - 3 comments

Psychological assessment cost vs benefits, and more

Our teenager had an initial interview with a psychologist that was driven in large part by poor academics. The psychologist recommended some broad based psychological assessment testing. The assessments were quite pricey, and it's clear that there's a pretty decent likelihood of ongoing therapy in addition to the assessment cost. Basically, the question is, is it worth it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:09 AM PST - 25 comments

Car_Insurance_Filter: An accident, a No-Fault State, and liability only

A seemingly straight-forward car accident has turned into a puzzling conundrum thanks to No-Fault State laws. [more inside]
posted by sureshot at 11:04 AM PST - 8 comments

Pumping Up the Jam at 20 MPH

What is the best way to play music of decent audio quality and volume while riding a bicycle? (not headphones) I'm riding the MS-150 bike ride this year from Duluth to the Twin Cities. I've done it the last few years with a cheap handlebar-attached speaker that runs on AA batteries and barely delivers enough sound for myself to hear, let alone my riding companions. This year I'd like to improve on that, because it really helps to have some sweet tunes while tooling down the road. [more inside]
posted by mcstayinskool at 10:58 AM PST - 11 comments

Is it a good idea to live next door to a sibling?

My brother and I have the opportunity to buy two houses next to each other. We like each other. Is this a great idea or a terrible one? [more inside]
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 10:49 AM PST - 37 comments

Nobody calls "deja vu" the Spartacist League Phenomenon

What's the etymology of the "Baader-Meinhof Phenomenon"? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. at 10:36 AM PST - 15 comments

How to get over the petty stuff to maintain a healthy relationship

The relationship is great and we both see a future together, but at times I tend to focus on insignificant things or feel insecure for no rational reason. I want to prevent unnecessary conflicts arising from these feelings. [more inside]
posted by monologish at 10:35 AM PST - 21 comments

What's with the chinese takeout mustard disparity?

I love the sinus-clearing flare of the mustard at chinese restaurants but it seems unique to what's on the dine-in table. The packets at the same restaurants are never truly hot and what gets sold in most groceries around here from the "Asian Gourmet" brand also is only barely hot (despite its claims on the label). What gives? And where do I get the stuff that really nukes my nasal passages? [more inside]
posted by phearlez at 10:21 AM PST - 20 comments

What should I be doing to extend the life of my car to the year 2056?

What should I be doing to extend the life of my car to the year 2056? Seriously, I was gifted a 15 year old car with 110k on it. It is in great shape and I drive less than 5k a year (I work at home). What I am looking for are pointers to keep the car in good shape for a long time given the infrequent use. [more inside]
posted by lampshade at 10:17 AM PST - 19 comments

Sun worshiping cartoon short

Help me identify this animated cartoon I remember watching in the mid/late 80s about a village of people who worshiped the sun. They all got up while it was still dark to start their preparations while singing, and once the sun rose they worshiped it and collected the golden sunshine in buckets. [more inside]
posted by rhapsodie at 10:17 AM PST - 4 comments

Er ... should it be in, or out?

Got off-cycle with my birth control (NuvaRing) & now period weirdness has ensued, and I'm not sure whether to call the month a loss and just "start fresh" next month or ... what. More (kinda grody, sorry) details inside, because I don't want to be TMI on the front page. [more inside]
posted by alleycat01 at 9:59 AM PST - 10 comments

75 to 100 VHS tapes each with 2 to 3 movies

I have an entire month's of Turner Classic Movies "31 Days of Oscar" from 1994/95 or so on VHS tape. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by stbalbach at 9:57 AM PST - 8 comments

My Adobe Reader at work is in Spanish. I don't speak Spanish.

I need to print a whole bunch of PDFs with really special settings today. How do I go into Reader and switch the settings from "Imprimir" to "Print" so I can go into Preferences and make all of the special settings to collate and staple, etc? I want to just make the Reader program all in English. Do I need to reinstall or is it just an option? How would I find the option since it's all in Spanish? Thanks.
posted by rabu at 9:43 AM PST - 4 comments

My dad has terminal lung disease. Please help me come to terms with it.

I just found out my dad has pulmonary fibrosis. He and I are both too young to deal with this. Help? [more inside]
posted by quincunx at 8:59 AM PST - 26 comments

Help me to reverse-engineer this excellent tom yum soup

A local Chinese restaurant makes the best tom yum vegetable soup I've ever tasted. I'd like to make it at home, but I don't have the recipe. [more inside]
posted by akk2014 at 8:50 AM PST - 10 comments

How do you calm down and focus? Strategies for coping with anxiety.

Do you suffer from anxiety or severe depression? What are some coping strategies you have developed that help you overcome and push forward? When medicine and therapy alone aren't enough, how have you stiffened up the sinews, summoned up the blood and conquered? [more inside]
posted by Driven at 8:28 AM PST - 19 comments

I want to know more about '60s-'70s concert poster design.

Please educate me about 1960s-1970s concert poster design. Specifically, the style with black printing over a vibrant gradient, like these. [more inside]
posted by Faint of Butt at 8:22 AM PST - 14 comments

Do I get sick more than most people? Why?

Last year I called in sick nine days. So far this year, I'm up to five counting today, which is roughly on track if you consider that I get sick less during the summer. Where does that put me among people who work office jobs with no particular hazards? I feel like this is more than most people, and more than I myself used to miss class back in college, and I'm wondering why. More details and some hypotheses inside. [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang at 8:15 AM PST - 63 comments

Possible new career: clinical psychology? What do I need to know?

I currently have a career completely unrelated to clinical psychology, although it seems like a career path I'd like to investigate at the very least for multiple reasons. I'm interested in psychotherapy in particular. For people who work in the field, do you have anything to share about your line of work that isn't immediately obvious to outsiders? And what sort of person is best suited for this career? My personal interests are listed after the jump. [more inside]
posted by Hawk V at 8:14 AM PST - 6 comments

How can I outsource as much of my Admin job as possible?

I am an Office Admin/Project Manager/Bookkeeper/Customer Support/etc/etc/etc for a small web development shop, who has learned enough programming over the past few years that my boss wants to promote me to a full-time developer. I am researching options for companies/services that can do what I do without hiring another full-time person. We'll have have to hire somebody, but I'd like to know what could possibly be outsourced, or any other free-form ideas to rejigger. Any input on what Mefites send out-of-house would be appreciated. Current duties within. [more inside]
posted by even butter at 7:36 AM PST - 3 comments

Everyone loves a good gift question, right?

Mother's Day is around the corner and I want to get something nice for my mom. The problem? She has most everything she knows she could want, and unless I threaten horrible gifts she won't give me any suggestions. So I could use help in thinking of something nice for this Mother's Day. Details about the mother in question are inside. [more inside]
posted by katers890 at 6:51 AM PST - 20 comments

Easy-to-use hyperlinks in printed media?

I'm involved in writing a book that will published in both electronic and print versions. The book will be semi-academic, and will provide many (hyper)links to electronic sources. While this is easy to do in the electronic version, what is an easy way for the reader to retrieve a link to something in the hard copy? Possible solutions would be to print QR codes in the print version for every link, using Layar, or simply list a short number/code which would then correspond to the link when looked up on a separate website. Do you have any other suggestions? Again, the goal is to make it as easy as possible for the reader of a print copy to dig deeper into the other sources. I'm just looking for ideas now, assume that there is no limitation on cost or manpower. Thanks in advance!
posted by JiffyQ at 6:26 AM PST - 7 comments

Bathing Suit Needed, Difficulty Level : I'm Not a Baby And It's Not 1983

My sister recently unearthed this photo of Wee Baby JulThumbscrew experiencing the Atlantic Ocean for the first time. I developed an immediate, nigh-unto incapacitating desire for an adult-sized version of the swimsuit I was wearing in the photo. Does a grown-up version of this thing exist? WHERE?! If not, is anyone making decent custom swimwear these days (perhaps on Etsy)? Thanks, Hive!
posted by julthumbscrew at 6:15 AM PST - 9 comments

Help me help a staff member with mental health and performance problems

One of my team has been absent from work for the past month with mental health issues (details over the fold). They will be returning to work next week, and I'd like to be a good boss and support this return as best I can - while still keeping a functioning team and taking on some of the performance issues that were present before they left. Your recommendations and experiences please? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:49 AM PST - 11 comments

Sailing from Adelaide to Hobart as a passenger

I would like to travel by sea as a passenger from Adelaide to Hobart in November, and then return to Adelaide in the same manner after a week. Is this doable? What are my options? [more inside]
posted by paleyellowwithorange at 4:06 AM PST - 4 comments

How to increase my attention span?

I don't seem to have the attention span for books, TV series and movies anymore, and I'm missing out on a lot of good entertainment, as well as having a general feeling of being culturally 'out of it'. How can I increase my attention span and start getting into long-form entertainment again? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 3:49 AM PST - 17 comments

Clear Thinking?

I'm looking for some resources to help me develop my skills in clear thinking. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by gadha at 3:10 AM PST - 11 comments

Post interview blues

My work history is. . diverse. I've a bunch of eclectic qualifications and skill sets that until very recently thought I'd never be able to put to good use in one place. I'm currently employed in an under paid, over worked position with a very low staff morale. I really want to get out but was struggling to see the way forward until couple of weeks ago a vacancy was brought to my attention by a friend who noticed it on a job site and immediately thought of me. When I read the job description I couldn't believe such a job existed. [more inside]
posted by kudra23 at 2:46 AM PST - 11 comments

Suggestions for cheap countries to buy a home in Western Europe?

A home for a middle-aged couple. Not too far from civilisation (so not in a village of four people that is three hours away from a two-horse town. 'Cheap' is a flexible term, I realise, but let's put it this way. The UK is very expensive - so anywhere that is significantly cheaper is an option. [more inside]
posted by Quillcards at 2:14 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me emotionally support my long-distance SO

My SO and I have been a primarily long-distance relationship for 3 years. Help me help him support him emotionally. [more inside]
posted by smangosbubbles at 1:53 AM PST - 6 comments

Song that goes something like AABBCCDD (literally)?

I have part of a song stuck in my head. The lyrics I can remember are something that sounds like "A A, B B - CCDD, CCDD" - that is literally what is being sung, it's not the rhyme scheme. Who is the artist and what is the track called? [more inside]
posted by 35minutes at 1:21 AM PST - 14 comments

Give me your best weekend-away-with-friends ideas!

I'm going away for the long weekend with 6 friends (we are 4 girls and 3 guys, from mid-twenties to early thirties). We've got a sweet house booked in a nearby country town and we plan on doing a bit of wandering around town, but mostly holing up in the house in front of the open fire, drinking wine, playing board games and enjoying each other's company. I'm looking for awesome ideas of fun stuff to bring and/or do. Drinking games, non-drinking games, things we can cook or bake, challenges for the weekend, that sort of thing. I'm thinking pancakes, I'm thinking blanket fort... anything that works with 7 people and is fun, throw it at me!
posted by lovedbymarylane at 1:21 AM PST - 13 comments

What is the equivalent of Magento on Windows .NET platform?

Magento is one of most popular e-commerce software platform on Unix. What is the closest equivalent on Windows .NET platform? [more inside]
posted by applesurf at 12:14 AM PST - 0 comments

Should I leave my husband?

I married my husband almost a year ago. Prior to that we had been dating 6 months. I am 21. This person is my best friend who saved me from a very dark place in my life. He means a lot to me, and does so much for me. [more inside]
posted by wilywabbit at 12:04 AM PST - 55 comments

April 23

Healing and forgiving after traumatic childhood?

There are possible [triggers] inside. I'd like advice and resources on healing and reconnecting after past familial abuse, when I want to bond with my family and keep them in my life. [more inside]
posted by Pericardium at 11:41 PM PST - 14 comments

Handyman Scam

Is there any way I can get my deposit back from a handyman who disappeared? [more inside]
posted by Leontine at 9:06 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me track down this awesome necklace!

So, I was watching a thing on the Science Channel tonight, and one of the women on the show was wearing this great boombox necklace; you can see a picture here. I've been searching online for one like it, but surprisingly, I haven't had any luck. The ones I have found lack the details that I really want: I don't want just a little charm; I don't want one that hangs from one corner (I love the way the original is attached to the chain at both corners); I don't want plastic. I would really prefer silver, at least in color. Help?
posted by sarcasticah at 8:33 PM PST - 9 comments

California driver contesting a speeding ticket in West Virginia

A person with a California driver's license gets a speeding ticket while driving through West Virginia. The speed alleged on the ticket was 15 miles over the posted limit. What would be the insurance consequences if the driver simply paid off the ticket without contesting it? How could the driver find out more information about whether s/he should contest the ticket, or plead guilty to a lower speed? In what state should the person be looking for a lawyer to best answer her/his questions? What should be this person's next step? Also, would the answers be different if the alleged speed was 10 (or 9, or 5, or whatever) miles over the posted limit?
posted by mediareport at 7:39 PM PST - 4 comments

Winter itinerary for South Africa

I'll be spending two weeks in South Africa at the end of August. Where should I go besides Cape Town and Johannesburg? [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 7:39 PM PST - 5 comments

I would kill a man for a good night's sleep, if I had the energy

I have sleep apnea. I'm looking for non-surgical treatments other than CPAP and BiPAP—I've tried both, and neither works for me. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 5:25 PM PST - 22 comments

Need to understand stock options so as not to appear a total noob...

I believe I am bring offered a job for which I just interviewed for. The president of this technology company emailed me and told me my compensation would be: x dollars base salary + y dollars in stock options. This does not seem to be a publicly traded company so I'm not sure what this means or what I would even need to ask to properly evaluate the offer... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:11 PM PST - 22 comments

I don't process things quickly compared to other people. Why?

I've never been able to learn new things or process instructions as quickly as most other people. I also have terrible coordination and motor skills. Although I used to be very self-conscious about this - and sometimes still am - I've come to more or less accept this aspect of myself, and am at peace with the fact that I'll never be able to think on-the-fly as quickly as some of my friends. I am, however, intrigued as to why I have such a difficult time wrapping my head around things that most other people I am around seem to grasp with ease. I have been diagnosed with inattentive ADD, and am wondering what else could be the reason behind my processing difficulties as I would like to do some research. Examples and details inside. [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 4:58 PM PST - 23 comments

Selling a car on installments to a private party.

What would be the most practical way to do this, that would leave us least on the hook if this all goes pear shaped assuming we are fine with taking a hit if the guy turns out to be a flake and doesn't pay as we were going to donate the car to a charity for tax write off before he made an offer? [more inside]
posted by wwax at 4:32 PM PST - 9 comments

Do burned DVDs work cross region?

Will a DVD burned with Windows DVD Maker on my PC in the US work in DVD players in the EU? [more inside]
posted by sandra_s at 4:23 PM PST - 5 comments

Toronto Condo Bylaw...how far can they go?

We rent a condo that my parents bought under my name last October (and pay rent to my parents), and have gradually realized that there are several bylaws that seems unreasonable. One of them is the complete prohibition of bicycles in the building. The board claims that there is a "bike room," but it's actually just a mobile bike rack in the garage where most of the bikes on the rack are missing tires, saddles, parts (so we know it's not secure, and there are thefts around). The garage also has been inaccessible for the last 8 months due to construction. The other unreasonable rule is that there is a fixed laundry room schedule that was determined before we moved in. I want to know to what extent can a condo board enforce these bylaws? What can they do? Do they actually have legal rights to tell me when I am and am not allowed to wash my clothes? What can we do to change the bylaws? [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 4:12 PM PST - 26 comments

Can I pretend my non-IC can lights are IC rated?

A few years ago I had installed 6 remodel recessed can lights which were non-IC rated for use with 50 watt halogen bulbs. They are in the ceiling of my 2nd floor office, with the attic above. The electricians told me they pushed the insulation away from the cans at least 3 inches. Now I don't like the big loss of insulation in the ceiling and want a change. But what? [more inside]
posted by Rad_Boy at 4:02 PM PST - 4 comments

using liquid rhythm to create midi patterns for addictive drums

Help me search for the way to fix it so that the pattern I hear in Liquid Rhythm gets played on roughly the 'right' drums when I export midi into Addictive Drums. At the moment importing Midi into AD from LR results in stuff played at the right time on unexpected drums. What is fixing this problem called so I can search for a solution? [more inside]
posted by aesop at 3:59 PM PST - 5 comments

Is quitting my job a good idea?

I left university with a decent degree in a scientific subject and got a job working in a related field in a hospital (I'm in Britain, so with the NHS) afterwards. I wasn't sure if this was the career I wanted so I decided to give myself a year to try it out. With the lease on my flat running out, I've realised the year is up, and now I'm starting to seriously question whether this is what I want to be doing, and whether it's worth finding another flat, or if it's better to quit this and try my hand at something else - maybe a PhD or a medicine conversion course. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:46 PM PST - 8 comments

Using Facebook, non-obnoxiously, to promote your work

Are you an author, musician, artist, or other creative-ish person who's found successful (and polite) ways to use Facebook to connect with people interested in your work? I'd love to know your secrets. [more inside]
posted by oliverburkeman at 3:28 PM PST - 11 comments

A concept so big the mind can't grasp it...

I read an article recently about our species ongoing bid to destroy our natural habitat. In the article (possibly 'The Guardian') it invoked a concept invented by (I think) a cultural critic (whose name escapes me), the general premise being that our slow-motion environmental collapse falls into a class of ideas that are so vast that our minds can't process or focus on it and therefore it tends to disregard it. I'm sure the article gave this concept a name...any ideas?
posted by Rufus T. Firefly at 3:14 PM PST - 8 comments

Auto accident insurance question and diminished value

Auto accident insurance question and diminished value [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:04 PM PST - 3 comments

Text mangled in Final Draft - is that the Final Answer

A non-geeky friend just called me asking if I had any knowledge of Final Draft - to which the answer is "minimally" - and asked for help, which I was unable to provide, in recovering or repairing a file. I am now wondering if there is something I didn't think of... [more inside]
posted by running order squabble fest at 2:31 PM PST - 4 comments

Looking for a Japanese watercolor painting or print

Years ago, my husband and I bought a cool print of a Japanese watercolor painting in San Francisco. It was a rad painting of fish (koi?) and it was on a scroll-type thing and it wasn't super expensive so I was psyched. So psyched that I left it in the hotel room and have been kicking myself over it ever since. Help me find something comparable so I don't have to kick myself anymore. [more inside]
posted by kat518 at 2:21 PM PST - 5 comments

Planning and Atlanta wedding. Well...trying to

Another wedding question... So, newly engaged, which is awesome, but now that we've started trying to plan it, I feel so incredibly overwhelmed...and not in a good way. The first thing we need to do is figure out where. We have a budget of $5000 max, and every place I have researched or contacted has been at minimum $2000-$3000, and 90% of these would force us to use their own caterers and vendors. We are ready to try something nonstandard, but I have never even been to a wedding before, so...we am having problems coming up with ideas for a small wedding and reception of like 50 people max. [more inside]
posted by polywomp at 1:51 PM PST - 36 comments

Car sweat. How do I minimize that?

Help me figure out how not to sweat in the car, so that teens can get good, comprehensive sex education! [more inside]
posted by Stewriffic at 1:49 PM PST - 21 comments

Help me replace my TV

So I recently moved to San Mateo, CA from Chicago, hurray! Pretty much everything has been great and the move quite smooth. What sucks is that in the move my beloved Panasonic ST60 60 inch was broken, likely during the drive out here. I had moved who packed it up and delivered it to UPack, then moved who unloaded it from there and moved it into my house. Sadly it didn't survive. Now I need to start looking or thinking about a replacement BUT Panasonic stopped making plasma's altogether and I wasn't expecting to have to buy a TV again so soon. What should my next TV be? [more inside]
posted by Carillon at 1:31 PM PST - 12 comments

How to write a process manual (job bible) for a wide-ranging job?

I need to build a process manual for my multifaceted job. Have you done this? What have you found to be the smartest approach? How did you divide your time/organize your manual? Which applications/tools are best for organizing/producing what will be a monstrous tome, and how do I go about it? [more inside]
posted by A neighbourhood park all covered with cheese at 1:28 PM PST - 9 comments

Neighbor's tree needs to go - but should we pay for it?

So, there's this tree - a poplar, over 100ft tall. It's on our neighbor's property, directly on their side of the fence. ("Fun" fact - our neighbor planted it over 50 years ago, to his wife's dismay.) We've had a few casual, over-the-fence conversations about the possibility of removing the tree, and their answer has always been that they don't care if we get it removed, if we pay for it. Well, now the tree needs to go, but things have changed. My question is about not just legal responsibility, but good neighbor relations. [more inside]
posted by rocketing at 1:22 PM PST - 28 comments

What is currently the best vehicle for self-published short fiction?

Self-published authors of MeFi: What's the best way to self-publish these days? Is it still Amazon via CreateSpace, or has something better emerged? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by jbickers at 1:17 PM PST - 6 comments

What does Slash's hair smell like?

Has it ever been discussed anywhere online what Slash's hair might smell like? I can't find anything.
posted by josher71 at 12:41 PM PST - 5 comments

Why are Nike's basketball shoes so narrow?

I'm looking for an article or a good explanation for why Nike's basketball shoes are so narrow. Basketball players are some of the bigger/taller people on the planet, so what gives? [more inside]
posted by cashman at 12:38 PM PST - 4 comments

Used RPGs in NYC?

My wife and I will be making a trip to NYC this weekend. While we're out and about, I'd like to keep my eyes open for some used RPGs, specifically 1st or 2nd ed Dungeons and Dragons. Where should I look? I know I can get things cheaper online (online recommendations also welcomed for extra XP), but I need to actually examine the books to see if they fit my needs. [more inside]
posted by robocop is bleeding at 11:59 AM PST - 6 comments

Dry mouth solutions? (Due to CPAP)

Biotene has changed the formula of their oral balance dry mouth gel and now it doesn't last through the night - any other magical solutions for dry mouth due to a CPAP machine? [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl at 11:58 AM PST - 9 comments

Multiuser password management for organizations

I'm looking for a secure method for storing a large collection of passwords for things like vendor websites, pieces of equipment that don't support multiple user accounts, and other situations where each employee of our company having an individual account would be impractical or impossible. The password solution itself can be cloud-based (preferable) or locally hosted but should be accessible from anywhere by relatively non-technical end users. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:57 AM PST - 7 comments

Call me King Midas

Am making some linocut prints on cotton paper/watercolor paper - what's the best gold paint/ink to use to do this? (Would be great if it matched Dr. Martin's Copperplate Gold ink)
posted by heavyp08 at 11:45 AM PST - 3 comments

I have an encyclopedia, not a story: what to do?

Authors Of AskMe, has this happened to you? During my self-imposed creative hiatus over the last year or so I conducted a lot of research into what would be my dream project. A project I could be passionate about, the kind of book I'd really want to exist. So I made a list of every thing, character, concept, idea, sudden kind of twist I'd like. I have three notebooks of this stuff. I cross-indexed it and included all my references. I have an astounding about of detail on what I want to put in and touch on but no actual story. I keep staring at it, like it's a list of SCP entries, and I can't think of a damn thing for anyone to do with these collected items, places, motifs, themes, and people. It's frustrating cause I can come up with quick pulp narratives on the fly for stuff I'm not working as hard on but every attempt to break and outline a rising action for these people results in rapid breathing and complete brain fume-lock. I keep asking "What does the main character want?" and coming up with nothing. Is this common? Is there a resource for this? Can I pay someone to go through these ideas and find something that other people might want to read? [more inside]
posted by The Whelk at 11:05 AM PST - 39 comments

Article about how America's strength is in innovation, not rote learning

I remember reading something, possible in the New York Times, arguing that while America's high-school students don't stack up very well against students of countries, our strength has always been in innovation rather than mastery of skills acquired by rote. Any idea where I saw this? [more inside]
posted by Ollie at 10:33 AM PST - 7 comments

Motivation, Drive, Learning

Has anyone ever experienced a reduction in their motivation and drive? If so, what things have you done to try and change it? In the past, my motivation has been influenced by pain and fear, but that doesn't seem like the most useful way of staying motivated at least that is what my friends have told me. On the same topic, does anyone have any book recommendations or movies that have helped them get motivated again?
posted by nidora at 10:09 AM PST - 12 comments

Script that will link YouTube videos in much the way MetaFilter does it.

I would like to cobble together a client side script that will display YouTube links more or less like MetaFilter does - as a text link with a small "play" icon after it. Click the words you go to YouTube, click the 'play' thingus and you get an overlay. [more inside]
posted by dirtdirt at 10:00 AM PST - 6 comments

Looking for a specific, recent post-apocalypse film

I watched a trailer on Hulu maybe 2-3 months ago for a film whose setup went something like this: A bunch of people come to a dinner party that looks possibly contentious. In the middle of the dinner, some kind of world-altering event occurs. These people now need to survive together. It seemed like the film was more interested in human dynamics than zombies/bandits etc. It looked fairly well produced with a few semi-recognizable b/c list actors. For the life of me, I cannot find the movie or any trace of it. Does it sound familiar to anyone out there?
posted by GilloD at 9:52 AM PST - 16 comments

Ants in a condo - Terror ensues

How can I make sure I don't see a single ant in my condo unit this year? [more inside]
posted by parakeetdog at 9:48 AM PST - 20 comments

Ceiling fan wobble (I should have known better)

I recently installed a small ceiling fan, replacing a flush mounted light in a bedroom. I did not upgrade the box, or add bracing. I should have, I know. The electrical box is side mounted to a joist, and seemed very stable. The fan has a bit of wobble. It’s not the worst I’ve seen, but there is room for improvement. The house doesn’t currently have access to the attic, but I will be cutting a new access hole for an upcoming insulation project, so I’ll soon be able to get to the electrical box from above. Can I improve the wobble of the fan by adding in wooden brace(s) and somehow screwing the existing box to the brace? I am not interested in taking the whole fan down and replacing the box. I am only interested in solutions that do not require uninstalling and re-installing the fan. Thanks in advance
posted by walkinginsunshine at 9:33 AM PST - 8 comments

How dangerous is the walk in NYC from Lincoln Center Port Authority Bus?

My 18 year old son is going to take a bus from Boston to NYC to see the opera. Is it dangerous for him to walk to the Port Authority? [more inside]
posted by vilcxjo_BLANKA at 9:24 AM PST - 42 comments

Mommy is moving out

What are some of the better ways to tell a young child that Mom and Dad are splitting? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:07 AM PST - 28 comments

Downloadable PDFs

I have a few hours waiting in an airport, i know most of the art history documents, but does anyone know any examples of brilliant long reads, in theology, music criticism, general culture and the like, that could keep me entertained, in downloadable pdfs.
posted by PinkMoose at 8:57 AM PST - 5 comments

Do you have any advice on living in State College for the summer?

I'm going to be working in State College for two months this summer. Tell me about where to live and where to hang out! [more inside]
posted by vakker at 7:56 AM PST - 4 comments

What details could be worked out before having a child with a friend?

I am considering having a child with a friend to whom I am not married. We would be living separately, but would have joint legal and physical custody. What might be some details that we should work out ahead of time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:46 AM PST - 31 comments

Moto X or Galaxy S5?

I'm looking to upgrade my phone with AT&T. What are your experiences with the Moto X and Galaxy S5? [more inside]
posted by Chrysostom at 7:45 AM PST - 10 comments

What should go on a recent college graduate's resume?

I am helping someone put together a post college graduation resume and we are unsure how much high school and college work experience to include. How can we show that this person is hard-working and dependable without it just looking like a list of retail and food service jobs? [more inside]
posted by tamitang at 7:30 AM PST - 9 comments

treadmill incline shoe suggestions?

In search of (women’s) shoe recommendations for hiking up the treadmill, with a maxed out incline? [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 6:47 AM PST - 4 comments

How to wear a shawl fashionably

I am knitting a lot and I love the look of so many of the shawl patterns available. Different shapes, different sizes, solid ones, lace ones, etc. I want to make some, but I worry that wearing them is going to make me look frumpy or geriactric. I know it can be done but... how? [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 6:43 AM PST - 21 comments

Non-dealer Mini mechanics?

In the DC area, does anyone have a recommendation for a mechanic? [more inside]
posted by Slackermagee at 6:27 AM PST - 7 comments

Stretchy, stretchy, ya ya

Is there something like WorkRave but for Android? I cannot download anything on my computer at work. I used to use WorkRave at another job and really liked how it gave you the exercises to do. I don't want simply a reminder to stretch. I've seen apps that have stretches, but they are more like a resource app, not like WorkRave where it gives you random exercises each time. [more inside]
posted by McSockerson The Great at 6:07 AM PST - 2 comments

My shower drain will not unscrew from the top!

Leaky stand up stall shower drain seems like it is loosening as I turn but will not unseat. Is there light at the end of my turning? [more inside]
posted by cheechman85 at 5:25 AM PST - 5 comments

App to find specific beers while on holiday

Is there a good app (iOS or Android) that will let me create a list of specific beers I want to try, and let me know where I can find them in the area that I'm in? [more inside]
posted by jedro at 3:55 AM PST - 8 comments

Investing for Beginners?

My brother and I recently found out that we are collectively receiving $220,000 from our father's estate (he passed away four years ago when we were both in our early 20s). We were advised to invest in some more profitable stocks and were given a list by a financial advisor, but neither of us have a clue how to begin making these types of decisions. Does anyone know any good (free) online resources to start learning the basics of investing and choosing a diverse portfolio? I've been wanting to develop financial acumen for some time now and I guess this is a good opportunity to start, but I don't want to make any mistakes. Any advice? Many thanks!
posted by desert_laundry at 1:16 AM PST - 35 comments

Avoiding molluscs in Italian food

I'm allergic to molluscs: scallops, mussels, clams, squid, oysters, whelks, etc. I'll be spending some time in Venice and the Cinque Terre area soon. Is there anything I should look out for to avoid accidentally eating molluscs? [more inside]
posted by neushoorn at 1:12 AM PST - 11 comments

Seeking interesting videos about birds and pirates for sickbed viewing

My stepdad is ill and has some non-fun things coming up (surgery and chemo). I'd like to send him light, interesting videos or picture-heavy articles about his interests, mostly exotic birds and pirates. Can you suggest some? [more inside]
posted by daisyk at 12:31 AM PST - 9 comments

April 22

What are some gluten free shelf stable proteins and veggies?

We are looking for shelf-stable, packaged proteins and veggies that are gluten free to go in lunches. We know about GoPicnic already, but we'd like some more variety and real vegetables of some sort! Proteins are mostly easy (spreads, dips, cheeses, jerkies), but finding the individual packed shelf stable ones are tough. We have found no veggies that fit the bill at all- we were thinking freeze dried veggies, but that sounds unappetizing and looks really expensive (also not individually packaged).
posted by Brent Parker at 10:00 PM PST - 29 comments

Google pulling the rug out from under Voice. What will remain?

I know Google Voice and Hangouts will merge on May 15th and XMPP support will end. XMPP doesn't affect me, but I'm trying to figure out what will change. Has there been an announcement or is it still unknown what features from Voice will survive in this new service? [more inside]
posted by ridogi at 9:39 PM PST - 7 comments

Author Self-Referencing in Fiction?

Can you think of examples of a work of fiction directly referencing its author's prior but unrelated work of fiction, when these works do not take place in the same fictional universe or contain any characters in common? [more inside]
posted by sallybrown at 9:13 PM PST - 42 comments

Cryogenics Movie

I have a memory of seeing a movie on TV when I was maybe five or six years old (so, early 1970s) in which a young woman was frozen cryogenically in order to keep her fresh and young while the young son of the mad scientist doing this freezing would have time to grow up and then, twenty years or so in the future, marry the then-to-be-unthawed woman. What am I remembering?
posted by JimInLoganSquare at 8:11 PM PST - 12 comments

Dropbox alternative that works with Mac "packaged" files hierarchies.

I could keep trying different options but I'm on a deadline and would love a recommendation for a reliable, "package" friendly solution. I'm working in Storyboard Pro with Mavericks and so far: -Google Drive keeps intermittently kacking out. -Box won't accept Storyboard project files. Storyboard projects contain many nested subfolders, holding many, many more tiny vector graphic files. I don't need more than a couple of gigabytes of space but it needs to be free. I've left Dropbox because of the Rice appointment, not because I dissatisfied with the product.
posted by bonobothegreat at 6:59 PM PST - 11 comments

Angry Dude

How can I deal with the anger of my easily peeved boyfriend? [more inside]
posted by a sourceless light at 6:47 PM PST - 129 comments

How much to make a website responsive?

So, the company that employs me just recently rebuilt and redesigned their website. It's a pretty large site (think trade association that does a lot of public outreach), but only about eight templates. Now that that's done, the brass wants to the site to be responsive, and now it's time to budget that. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:26 PM PST - 10 comments

Great firewall, 2014

Hi, Looks like I will be spending a good while in China and I'd love to read your recent experiences with VPNs, general internet use there. (I noted a question about this from almost two years ago, with lots of people speaking well of witopia, can believe things have changed.) I'll be in Chongqing, for what that's worth. Thank you for taking a moment to help me.
posted by ambient2 at 5:34 PM PST - 7 comments

What can I do about soft brakes on my car?

I have a newly acquired 2007 Lexus ES350 sedan. It was my dad's, it is in excellent shape, has been well maintained, and has 50,000 miles on it. I drove a 2003 Lexus before this and had a similar issue to the one I'm having on the 2007, which is that the brakes are just too soft for my tastes. It seems it is part of Lexus' "feel" to keep the ride smooth but I really dislike that I have to press so far and so early to get a good stop. [more inside]
posted by rbf1138 at 5:29 PM PST - 5 comments

Navigating to the Desktop folder on an old internal hard drive

Put in my old internal hard-drive into my new set-up as a secondary drive. Can't figure out how to navigate to the Desktop folder through Windows Explorer. [more inside]
posted by kuanes at 4:54 PM PST - 8 comments

Socks that may or may not exist

A plea for socks for a fussy, fussy, fussy man. [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 4:11 PM PST - 23 comments

Thinking about a career change, but what exactly to?

I'm currently a records manager for the Feds, but what I really love is the data. I've been thinking that I would like to change over into a more research/policy analyst type of job, but I'm unsure of exactly how to get from here to there. [more inside]
posted by backwards compatible at 4:06 PM PST - 2 comments

Additional withholdings calculator for California

Is there an easy to use withholdings calculator for California? I want one that works like the IRS calculator does for Federal Withholdings. [more inside]
posted by Arbac at 4:01 PM PST - 1 comment

Should I meet my friend for the first time in 10 years?

I began an email correspondence 10 years ago with a guy whom I have never met. Now, after reluctantly putting it off for years I would like to meet him but am nervous about how the dynamics may change. [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs at 3:43 PM PST - 22 comments

Latest Version of "XCOM Enemy Unknown" Is Only Half the File Size

I just updated "XCOM Enemy Unknown" for iPad. The previous version, 1.5, was 3.18 gb. The update, v. 1.6, is only 1.75 gb. That's a 45% reduction! Does this mean they've removed a chunk of the game, or compressed the graphics, or done other things which might make me want to bail out of this upgrade (and future ones)?
posted by Quisp Lover at 3:42 PM PST - 8 comments

This isn't my music

I normally listen to podcasts streamed from my iPhone 5 to my car over bluetooth or occasionally via USB. A few times, I've plugged in the phone only to have it start playing a random track, one which I have never downloaded and which (I have confirmed by searching on my phone and on a synced computer) is not in my iTunes music library. I don't think it's through iTunes radio, either, as the songs do not appear in my radio history and are unlikely to be generated by the stations I have developed. Where are these songs coming from??? This morning it was something by Of Montreal, if that's helpful.
posted by karbonokapi at 2:40 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me iMacguyver my broken iPhone!

My iPhone 5 speaker randomly stopped working 18 months after I bought it. I have to use speakerphone or headphones to talk on the phone. I can make it work temporarily if I press on the top right corner where the speaker is (as described here). I found that theres a point about halfway between the speaker and the right edge where, if I clip a binder clip, then the phone works! See here and here The "genius bar" genius solution was that, since I didn't get Apple care, that I dish out another 500$ for a new phone. Help me figure out a better way? [more inside]
posted by cacofonie at 2:24 PM PST - 8 comments

The phantom joint pain strikes again...

I strained my adductor muscle (groin) in March and rested like a mofo - no exercise at all for probably 10 weeks. The doctor said it looked like a localized injury and that some stiffness would be natural because the repaired muscle grows back a little longer (weird). I've been gradually ramping back up with slow exercise - yoga, dance, etc. - but today after a more strenuous workout I'm feeling a dull ache in my muscle after no pain at all for weeks. Argh. YANMD, but ye who have pulled groin muscles before, does this mean I have hurt myself again, or is some soreness here and there natural? Do you ever feel pain from past injuries? Should I go back to the doctor or just do some gentle stretches and watch it for a few days? [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 2:21 PM PST - 5 comments

Is it possible to open multiple instances of Excel 2010 in Windows 7?

I want to be able to open multiple instances of Excel 2010 in Windows 7 on a PC. This is the default for opening Word docs but for some reason Excel limits me to multiple windows inside one instance. Is there a way to do this? Challenge: I do not have the ability to edit the registry on this (work) computer.
posted by Wretch729 at 1:31 PM PST - 12 comments

How can I appraise this Casati bike frame my office might have ruined?

I bought a good condition vintage Casati frameset for $380 4 years ago and have been riding it regularly since, without any issues. I recently slipped into a gap between two grates at the bottom of the ramp leading into my work garage and didn't hurt myself but the bike's back wheel was rubbing against the frame. I took it to a shop and they said the frame was bent (I think they said dropouts were bent). I relayed the information to my workplace and they are filing an insurance claim. My questions are as follows: could that damage have occurred somehow before without me noticing? How do I appraise the worth of my bike? I can't recall the model name and can't find a serial number, i just only see the brand and the columbus decal. And finally, is there anything else I should do in preparation for this claim? [more inside]
posted by qzar at 1:20 PM PST - 12 comments

Solitude 101.

Solitude, isolation, introversion...how to be happy with related life choices and what to watch out for. Advice? [more inside]
posted by Caskeum at 1:15 PM PST - 29 comments

Soooo Boooored....

Give me some fun ideas to do with my not yet walking, grass hating, only has interest in climbing stairs 15 month old. I'm getting rather bored with him during the day and I don't know what to do with him. [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas at 1:07 PM PST - 29 comments

Getting a Roku working overseas with a secondary WiFi router

Trying to get a Roku working with my home network and totally clueless. Can I make this work or do I have a $100+ brick? If I can make it work, how? [more inside]
posted by photo guy at 12:57 PM PST - 4 comments

I was that kid who was always picked last in gym class

Exercise was never my “thing”, but now I need to make it my “thing”. I’m pushing 50 years old, and my sedentary lifestyle is taking its toll in the form of borderline-high blood pressure, various aches & pains, and a susceptibility to becoming easily tired. [more inside]
posted by alex1965 at 12:39 PM PST - 34 comments

This defeats the purpose of a cell phone

Phone battery won't hold a charge-what can I do? [more inside]
posted by geegollygosh at 12:14 PM PST - 12 comments

Best wordpress site/virtual gallery to display some of my photos?

I want to put up a wordpress site for a virtual gallery of some of my photos. I'd really like to have something that looks clean & elegant enough to send out to potential clients/magazines. ie. Not so much something that signals, "family summer trip... woohoo" but really something that signals "artist-doing-arty-things." (What I am putting on this wordpress site will be a specific photo story though, and not all of my work-- ie. this site will have a really narrow focus). I've looked at woothemes, and really didn't see anything that had the look I am striving for. (It's that classic problem: I don't know what I want, but I'll know it when I see it.") Can the hive mind point me to other places (like WooThemes) where I can find and buy beautiful wordpress themes (tight budget alert!) and/or specific themes-for-sale that would be great for an aspiring photographer with a story to tell. Thanks!
posted by tangyraspberry at 12:11 PM PST - 5 comments

Need to create locally-hosted, searchable database of vendors--help!

I maintain for my company a spreadsheet that contains a list of vendors and their associated information: address, contact(s), service area(s), service(s), website, and so on. It's becoming rather unwieldy as a vendor might have up to 5 different services, 2 addresses, 3 contacts each with their own email and phone number, etc. The information's all there, it's just very annoying to use. I had the idea of creating an "intranet" type website that staff could use to filter vendors by name, service area, service type, and so on, with the results displaying in an easy-to-read format (easier than a mile-long Excel sheet, anyway). I am open to solutions like Wordpress and Joomla, just not sure how best to implement. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by erinsaurus at 11:56 AM PST - 8 comments

Tell me your experiences in trade school

I'm considering going back to school to become an electrician. Tell me why I should/shouldn't. [more inside]
posted by lizifer at 11:47 AM PST - 24 comments

Simple database options for non-profit

My organization is currently using a very bloated Excel spreadsheet to track a bunch of data about our clients. I'd like to build us a really simple database with a nice form input to make it easier for staff to enter all of the information we need to track, but I'm not sure what my options are for software. [more inside]
posted by sabotagerabbit at 11:43 AM PST - 20 comments

How to Protect PDF Files for Online Distribution?

I have a client who wants to sell ecourses in pdf format, but doesn't want the pdfs to be able to be easily shared. The only solution I can find is a monthly DRM subscription but they think that's too expensive and that there must be another alternative... [more inside]
posted by kooop at 11:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Left wing copyright, intellectual copyright scholars?

Who are the most well known academics in the field of intellectual property, and especially copyright law? Especially academics active in the last 5-10 years? The more radical, the better. [more inside]
posted by skewed at 11:32 AM PST - 19 comments

How can I subdue the harsh glare from sunlight?

I spend a good deal of time video-conferencing via Skype. During summer afternoons, as the sun hits a certain point in the sky, there is strong sunlight glare from a nearby window that makes it almost impossible to work. I need screening, but cannot install permanent window treatment. I want a simple screen that I can prop in front of the window when needed. What materials or solutions will enable me to eliminate/minimize the strong glare? [more inside]
posted by elf27 at 11:10 AM PST - 11 comments

Which NAS drive - 2014 edition

Hi folks, looking for recommendations for a new NAS drive to replace our dying Iomega drive. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by peteyjlawson at 11:10 AM PST - 5 comments

Leechblock for iPhone?

I'm trying to cut down on online procrastination and leechblock has been awesome for that, but I end up cheating on my iPhone. Is there any equivalent app? [more inside]
posted by raeka at 11:01 AM PST - 1 comment

My not-quite-crossfit class is changing its structure. Help me adjust

So right now, my rock gym has a private fitness class six days a week, modeled on crossfit but not officially affiliated. MWFS it's a fairly standard CF class with slightly different movements. T-Th, it's a more mobility-focused class based around MoveNat. In a month, the T-Th classes will be eliminated, and extra mobility will be added to the now 90 minute MWFS classes. [more inside]
posted by nickhb at 10:56 AM PST - 3 comments

How to remove a stripped set-screw from a bathroom faucet handle

I did a stupid thing and I am so ashamed. One of our bathroom faucets has a minor leak. When a previous faucet had the same problem, I fixed it by replacing the stem, which worked like a charm, so I was planning on doing the same to this one. Unfortunately, I think I stripped the set-screw when trying to remove the handle, and now I am unable to remove the handle to make the repair. I am looking for suggestions on how to remove this set-screw. [more inside]
posted by blurker at 10:33 AM PST - 11 comments

Dogs of the Dome

I'm listening to Stephen King's Under the Dome on audiobook. I'm on disc 5 of about 30, and enjoying it so far. However, I'm worried about the canine residents of Chester's Mill. [more inside]
posted by Elly Vortex at 10:28 AM PST - 9 comments

Books or websites on how Facebook has changed social research?

For the first time ever, I've opened an account in Facebook and started using it. Wow...it has to be the greatest social research tool ever! Attitudes and opinions can be gauged without the presence of a social / market researcher. Facebook must be changing the landscape of advertising / social research beyond recognition. Moreover, it must be a political electioneers / pollsters dream. No more contrived focus groups.... Can anybody recommend some books or websites the delve into this?
posted by jacobean at 10:17 AM PST - 2 comments

Things like Dr. McNinja?

I'm enjoying the breathlessly ridiculous tone and pace of Dr. McNinja, which I think does a great job of avoiding the unstoppable-force vs. unmovable-wall dynamic of mainstream superhero comics. It plays fast and loose with everything, and has a fine sense of the absurd. It is only occasionally problematic (racist, homophobic) in its juvenile sensibilities, which is way better than most of its competition. What movies, books, and comics are comparable?
posted by jsturgill at 10:00 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me size and place cabinet pulls on my IKEA Adel cabinets!

My most pressing question: Do I need 8-inch pulls for the larger, 36-inch drawers? 7 inch? 12 inch? What fits that size best? What about the 30 & 24-inch drawers? Can I just grab one size and buy 40 of them and they'll all look good? [more inside]
posted by mdiskin at 9:51 AM PST - 4 comments

Help Me Find Original Source Artist Writings!

I'm looking for original source artists' writings. I'm talking diaries, manifestos, conversations about the creative process - Help me find books, magazines, websites or other good resources! [more inside]
posted by lady3bird at 9:50 AM PST - 8 comments

Can you help me predict Orange County traffic?

How long will it take me to drive from LAX to Irvine/Newport Beach at 4pm on a Friday? [more inside]
posted by anthropoid at 9:36 AM PST - 23 comments

Tips for a pair of 22 year olds travelling around Europe in the summer?

I’m searching for tips for my girlfriend and I (male) while we spend 3 months travelling around Europe this summer. Details over the fold. [more inside]
posted by Cpt. The Mango at 8:58 AM PST - 21 comments

What is causing my clear plastic glasses to change color?

I have two pairs of clear plastic/acetate framed glasses. Over time, both have changed color from completely clear to blueish in one case, and orangeish in the other. What's causing this and how do I stop or reverse it? [more inside]
posted by crookedneighbor at 8:49 AM PST - 14 comments

Nooope. Not going through this again.

Actively dreading an upcoming date -- probably not a good sign, right? What's the best way to proceed? [more inside]
posted by cucumber patch at 8:32 AM PST - 28 comments

Lovely bed and breakfast in the lower Hudson Valley?

I'd like to treat my parents to a night/weekend at a bed and breakfast, somewhere within an hour of the New Paltz/Kingston area of upstate NY. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 8:28 AM PST - 7 comments

Seeking a good adjustable keyboard tray

I need a good keyboard tray! I’ve tried the summera pull-out keyboard under my ikea table however it doesn’t work for me and I’ve since removed it. [more inside]
posted by iliketothinknu at 8:24 AM PST - 5 comments

An awesome modern range cooker?

Looking for a new range cooker for our dream kitchen. I like Rangemasters, my wife likes FANTASTICALLY expensive Falcon ranges. Are they really that different? They're both made by Aga aren't they? [more inside]
posted by generichuman at 8:18 AM PST - 12 comments

How can a planner and an impulse-traveler make it work better?

I'm in a long-distance relationship: my S.O. is in California, I'm on the East Coast. We've been pretty lucky with getting to meet up regularly since his job often pays for him to come out here and I've had a number of opportunities to get out there. But I'm feeling a personality clash arising from his erratic scheduling. Question clusterbomb ahoy! [more inside]
posted by psoas at 8:10 AM PST - 18 comments

Adventure, but not too much adventure

I am planning on going to Turkey at the end of November for just shy of two weeks and am looking for a couple of pieces of advice: Is a side trip to Cairo alone for two days a terrible decision? And are there lodgings in Istanbul where it is easy to meet other travelers that don't involve giant dorms and drunken twenty somethings? [more inside]
posted by HonoriaGlossop at 8:04 AM PST - 2 comments

Makeup Geeks: As a beginner what should I buy and bookmark?

I'm interested in learning about applying makeup, starting from zero knowledge. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:36 AM PST - 32 comments

Bankruptcy Attorneys in Charlotte/Mecklenberg, NC

We are currently saddled with an out-of-state mortgage that we cannot afford to pay. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:36 AM PST - 5 comments

Facebook without the Facebook

Facebook is about to drive me nuts but it's the best way for me to stay in conctact with family and friends. What I need is like a power-tool for Facbook, some sort of front-end or standalone app perhaps? [more inside]
posted by Iteki at 7:10 AM PST - 6 comments

Tailor needed to copy shirts, coat in Minneapolis-St Paul area

Looking for a professional or skilled amateur the metro area to make some clothes for me by cutting up and copying existing clothes! [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 6:33 AM PST - 4 comments

Health insurance? What's that?

I am aging out of my health insurance and totally clueless. Help this soon to be 26 year old find resources to unravel this mess. [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 5:07 AM PST - 19 comments

You don't usually come to these things...

Want to rejoin the herd at my University hall! Any tips on doing this without seeming awkward and desperate? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess at 4:39 AM PST - 7 comments

Where does TV even come from if you can't Torrent?

So this happened in the Netherlands, devastating our English speaking, torrent addicted household. So how can we get our TV without getting a cable subscription? Details below. [more inside]
posted by nerdfish at 4:29 AM PST - 11 comments

Photography tips wanted

I need to take an outdoor photograph of a subject standing in front of a large, white, shiny background (a vehicle). The person and the vehicle are equally important elements in the picture. I need to take the photo when both the subject and the vehicle are available, so I have no control over the date or time or weather. Assuming I need to do this on a bight, sunny day (although I'm hoping for a slightly overcast one) where do I position them relative to the sun? [more inside]
posted by sardonyx at 2:25 AM PST - 13 comments

April 21

How to buy a flat in London?

I would like to ask you for any advice/hints/tips for a complete beginner on buying a flat in London. This is the first time in my life when I am buying a property I am really overwhelmed by this whole thing. That's why I would appreciate any feedback and advice from you. Anything which could help me plan this whole process and do it in a proper, organized and satisfying way. [more inside]
posted by dogbert at 10:54 PM PST - 9 comments

Should I call my girl friend or should I wait for her to call back?

Should I call my girl friend or should I wait for her to call back? [more inside]
posted by mbn1455 at 10:32 PM PST - 28 comments

It all started with a joke about Sodium, but I said Na.

So I posted one simple chemistry joke to Facebook for my friends, and they loved it - but now they want more. Give me some science jokes! [more inside]
posted by matty at 9:45 PM PST - 56 comments

Collecting data via iPhone - regularly, quickly, securely, non-web-based

We're going to have some folks filling out the same simple form on a regular basis. Is there an app-based solution where they can enter the data and upload it securely to a central repository at the end of the day? A web solution may have been easier, but we're worried connectivity might be an issue during parts of the day. We want users to tap an app and be able to fill out a bunch of forms, then upload them all (securely) at the end of the day. A simple, elegant, fast interface would be a real plus. [more inside]
posted by borborygmi at 9:42 PM PST - 4 comments

help me ouija

I'm building a custom ouija style spirit board for a friend. The design I'm thinking of involves some resin, which while smooth, seems a like a not so slippery surface. What can I do to the resin surface to maximize planchette mobility? [more inside]
posted by cirrostratus at 8:42 PM PST - 6 comments

Job hunting in Boston

I want to work in the Boston area. I'm graduating college soon. Have you found work in the Boston area through a temp agency? Would you recommend one in particular? Or, alternatively, do you have concrete advice about finding work as a recent graduate without connections? [more inside]
posted by topoisomerase at 8:06 PM PST - 9 comments

Fantasy Childhood Book Oswald the Sea Monster, Basilisks, Mandrakes...

A favorite childhood book was titled something like "A Mysterious Parcel." It was a translation from another (unknown) language into my own Eastern European language, so the original title might have been quite different. [more inside]
posted by Atrahasis at 7:36 PM PST - 2 comments

Looking for a film about Easter for a small child

Small child paid more attention than expected at our Easter services and is now retelling us with gusto how Mary nailed Jesus to the wood and then he melted (death as understood by her from Raymond Brigg's The Snowman) and then woke up again. Only with a lot more details and blood. The story is quite mixed up in her mind because she's pieced it together from icons and gospel passages and questions we've answered. We're matter-of-fact about death etc in our household, and she's very interested in emotional narratives, so this is fascinating and confusing her. The children's bibles we have elide over the actual details of the crucifixion, and while I can and have read her the actual accounts, they're a struggle for her to follow the language. Is there a film or animation out there that includes the crucifixion and resurrection but doesn't revel in the gore like Mel Gibson, or reduce it to singing vegetables?
posted by viggorlijah at 7:29 PM PST - 10 comments

Jury duty ethical dilemma question

I've got jury duty coming up very soon. I suspect it might be for a murder trial for reasons I won't go into. We've had a lot of murders lately in the smallish city where I live. I don't know any of the people involved in any of them and believe I can be a fair juror. However, I live in a US state that has and often uses the death penalty and I am opposed to it. I am not opposed to lengthy prison terms for people who have committed serious crimes. If they ask me if I believe in the death penalty I will be tempted to lie so that they do not disqualify me. Please help me figure out if this would be wrong.
posted by anonymous at 6:57 PM PST - 61 comments

Choosing a path in the Graphic/Interactive Design industry.

I'm a graduating graphic design student with two job offers in the field of interaction design following graduation. One is extremely well paid with great perks in the tech industry, and the other more traditional studio setting, only three-months long (to start) with lower pay but with more interesting work. Help? [more inside]
posted by drd at 6:50 PM PST - 13 comments

What's Max/MSP and why would you want (or not want) to learn it?

I see that an electronic music course at a college is teaching Max/MSP. What is the relationship of using this program to learn electronic music versus using Ableton, Reason, Logic, ProTools, C-Base, or any of the other common, commercial programs people in the music business use? Is there any advantage for a student to take this Max/MSP academic electronic music course if his thing is making beats with Reason at this point?
posted by DMelanogaster at 6:18 PM PST - 6 comments

help new relationship between vastly different yung'uns work

I haven't had a boyfriend since I was 16 and I'm 22 now. I'm dating this new guy for less than a month now, and though we both seem to want to make it work, I feel we have pretty different communication styles. We've also been through quite a lot during the past few weeks which we may need help getting over. I'm incredibly bad at dating, inexperienced in romantic relationships and honestly want this to work. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen at 6:09 PM PST - 59 comments

Recommended someone for a job who I am now uncomfortable with?

Maybe working with a friend who turned out to be a little less than friend. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:20 PM PST - 9 comments

Need recommendations for couple's therapy in Toronto

Need marriage counselling or couples therapy in Toronto. I'm not really sure how to go about finding and choosing someone. We're married 20 years and in our early fifties. Central T.O. would be great but we're not adverse to travelling further afield for somebody good. If you'd like to respond privately, please use joebrownsthrowawayemail@gmail.com (apologies to any Joe Browns out there)
posted by anonymous at 5:19 PM PST - 1 comment

Marathon tips

I'm running my first marathon in a few months and need your advices! [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 5:01 PM PST - 14 comments

Which book am I looking for? Um, it was blue...?

There's a video I'm trying to find - like a flash animation or maybe a youtube thing, from 5-ish ~ 10-ish years ago. All I remember is that it had like, geometric shapes that moved around, and the narration was a stream of consciousness thing, and the only part of the narration I remember is "this is why you drink." It was the kind of thing I'd expect to see on Boing Boing, maybe. Anyone have any idea at all what I might be talking about?
posted by colin_l at 4:29 PM PST - 2 comments

What do I need to know to build a led art piece?

I want to learn how to build something like this. Starting from nothing, what kind of skillset will I need to acquire?
posted by pakoothefakoo at 4:27 PM PST - 6 comments

How to remotely sell stuff on ebay

I'm tying to help a family member sell a bunch of stuff. He lives in rural Northern California and I don't particularly want to deal with ebay myself. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 4:19 PM PST - 16 comments

Gift for 6 months Sober for Mom and a box/display for her AA coins

Hi All, My mom is going to be 6 months sober. She loves her AA coins and I would like to find a treasury box or display for her- something like etsy- really cute. She just loves rhinestones/crystals and bling. What creative things have people done to store/display their AA coins or what is something really nice I can do to celebrate her AA anniversary? i am a grad student, so not a lot of moolah. Any nice mantras/meditations or sayings I can put in a "coping jar". She lost her house and her dad this year. it;s been real hard for her not to drink and I am always trying to help her with counter triggers- so something positive to do when she has a trigger.
posted by TRUELOTUS at 4:09 PM PST - 9 comments

How to Handle People When You Cannot Handle People

Seeking coping strategies for dealing with the public on small and large scales during a major depressive episode. My old ways of dealing with a deep low like this are not compatible with the life I've built since the last time this happened, and I would like to keep that life together. [more inside]
posted by EatTheWeek at 3:14 PM PST - 14 comments

From Tasting Like Dog Food to Tasting Like Doritos

Bought a large bag of unsalted corn chips and didn't realize it until I got home. Store won't take them back without a receipt which I don't have. Do you have an easy method for adding salt to unsalted chips? I'm not talking about pouring salt over the chips.
posted by Xurando at 2:28 PM PST - 20 comments

Air BnB Legal Question!

I need to send some legal documents (a wage garnishment assignment from a spousal support court judgement) to the appropriate department at AirBnB. The garnishment is for one of their employees, my ex-husband. I am having trouble locating the appropriate contact at AirBnB. Does anyone have an email address or direct phone number for either the legal department or Accounts Payable? [more inside]
posted by ananci at 2:27 PM PST - 10 comments

Neighbor's bass is slowly rendering my innards to gelatin - advice?

After searching, I see this has come up on Ask MeFi before in regards to apartment situations. The difference here is that we own, as do our neighbors. We live in Chicago, and naturally the police are less than responsive about these sorts of matters. I have spoken to the vibrating bass vehicle owner himself, twice, which helps for a week or so at most. I am a quiet person and a homebody - also a stay-at-home mom to a toddler and impending baby. There is literally nowhere in the house I can go to escape it when it's at max volume. [more inside]
posted by sixtyten at 2:20 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me figure out what James 'Blood' Ulmer record this is.

What James 'Blood' Ulmer record has a photo on the back of him and his band wearing African attire and looking tough? My boyfriend wistfully mentioned having owned it and I'd love to pick up a copy for his birthday. [more inside]
posted by ITheCosmos at 2:12 PM PST - 2 comments

What is this (early, probably Dutch) picture?

This is a souvenir tile my wife's parents bought in Holland 30-odd years ago. We'd like to work out where the picture comes from.
posted by monkey closet at 1:59 PM PST - 2 comments

Campgrounds in DC area?

Are there campgrounds in the DC area (within an hour) that allow alcohol and catering on site? Trying to plan a party for someone where everyone can spend the night and camp out if they have too much to drink. [more inside]
posted by windbox at 1:52 PM PST - 9 comments

someday, yummy sundae

we are having a sundae bar at our wedding. what is the best (cheapest) way to get very large quantities of candies and chocolates for a sundae bar for 175 people? We're willing to spend money on delicious, but not on packaging. We are willing to ship stuff, but not to pay extravagant fees to do so. We are willing to buy at Costco, but it seems like cheaper should exist somewhere? Also, what are your favourite sundae toppings that you would be excited to see at a sundae bar? Also, if you have any tips about how we should lay it out in a cute way, please feel free to inspire us. thank you!
posted by andreapandrea at 1:31 PM PST - 20 comments

Career crisis

Five years into my field aaaannd I don't think it's for me... help? [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 1:28 PM PST - 5 comments

Today's science-fiction story: P. Anderson's classic "A Plate of Beans."

In Poul Anderson’s “The Last of the Deliverers,” (spoilers ahead) he describes a future America in which, for all practical purposes, cheap solar energy and a culture of decreased desires for material advancement (people are essentially satisfied with a comfortable, but low, standard of living) have led to a kind of utopia. The plot of the story is, more or less, that two representatives of remnants from an older culture – a small-government type in the Barry Goldwater mold as well as a member of the American Communist Party – meet in a village and argue about the virtues of their respective ideologies, but cannot appreciate that social evolution and the lack of scarcity produced by it has made their political differences (and their politics) largely pointless and obsolete. So how am I to understand the last half-paragraph of the story, which seems to undercut the entire story in a most paradoxical way: [more inside]
posted by Mr. Justice at 1:16 PM PST - 4 comments

Pumping 101: Returning to Work Edition.

I'm set to return to work next week after 16 weeks of maternity leave, and I'm trying to figure out what should go in my Amazon order this week to make sure pumping goes as smoothly as possible. I've been pumping with a hand-held manual pump once a day since early on, but the logistics of using my double electric pump at work and hauling stuff back and forth is really, really intimidating. I'm looking for tips about what things to buy to make this process easier when it's not just a few steps to my kitchen to clean the pump and store the milk. [more inside]
posted by iminurmefi at 12:31 PM PST - 16 comments

From out-of-shape to the STP

So I've gotten it into my head that sometime in the next few years -- possibly as early as 2015 -- I want to participate in the Seattle-to-Portland bike ride. Though doing it in 1 day sound like a cool accomplishment, 2 days would be fine. Difficulty level: I have zero experience with distance riding, am in somewhat poor shape, have no idea what I'm doing, and, to the delight of shopkeepers everywhere, am a total sucker for trying to combat my ignorance with my wallet. [more inside]
posted by rouftop at 12:27 PM PST - 13 comments

Looking for paintings of movie characters

I'm looking for a specific series of paintings (watercolors?) depicting characters from a hodgepodge of recent popular movies - Juno, Pacific Rim, Fargo, Hot Fuzz, Monsters University, Casino Royale, among others. Low detail, no background - mainly just characters on a beige/brown background. [more inside]
posted by hot soup at 12:27 PM PST - 2 comments

Should I move to my hometown or stay in husband's hometown?

I need some advice regarding where my family should live. My husband and I met on the West Coast, got married, and had our first baby. After our baby was born, we decided to move back East where our families are. His family is on one side of the state and my family on the other (about 4 hours apart). At the time, our work situations allowed both of us to move to his hometown because our companies happened to have offices here. I had always dreamed/planned to move to my hometown someday to be near my family but due to the work situations, it wasn't feasible to move there at that time. So we are currently living in his hometown, near his small family, who we don't see a ton. Recently, both of our work situations changed, and we are now both working from home, meaning we could live anywhere. In addition, we recently found out we are pregnant with our second child, and with two kids and demanding careers, it seems to make much more sense to live near my family since we have to much more support. So now we have to decide whether to move home near my family, which is where I want to be, or stay here, in the house we bought last year and in a town we have come to really like. [more inside]
posted by flower777 at 12:23 PM PST - 20 comments

Research for being a wealthy young lady in 1920's Venice?

So I'm joining a Call of Cthulhu game, and my character, assigned by the GM, is that of a young lady (age 20), who is from one of the wealthy families of Venice, in the 1920's. She is educated and capable but nothing was expected of her except to marry well and produce children. But the sudden death of her father has thrown her life into turmoil. Are there any good books or movies I can watch that feature this type of woman in this time and place? [more inside]
posted by The otter lady at 12:20 PM PST - 13 comments

plastic surgery after weightloss recommendations

I lost a lot of weight, and am looking for a plastic surgeon recommendation in the Alexandria, VA/DC area to help with some skin removal and breast reconstruction. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:08 PM PST - 3 comments

What are some good dates (lunch, dinner, day, etc) in NYC?

In the first week of June I am going to NYC to visit a girl who I am hoping to woo. I have a pretty open window: the first day we are meeting is June 4th, and I'll be leaving that Sunday. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by wooh at 11:44 AM PST - 10 comments

How can one appeal multiple traffic tickets?

My friend was riding his bike through Brooklyn early Sat morning. Streets were quiet and he was not stopping at all the red lights, just slowing & crossing the (mostly) vacant intersections. Unbeknownst to him there was a cop in a patrol car following him about 1/2 a block back. After multiple blocks the cop finally pulled him over and issued separate tickets for every red light, totally about $800 worth. Although there is no dispute that he went through the lights, this was a very dick-ish move. How to protest in court? [more inside]
posted by TDIpod at 11:28 AM PST - 19 comments

Seeking video-streaming platform advice

I am considering a set-top box for commercial video-streaming. An Amazon Fire TV + Amazon Prime + Netflix subscription sounds pretty good. Should I be looking at other hardware or services? [more inside]
posted by Zed at 11:06 AM PST - 19 comments

How do I stop being clingy to people?

I'm wondering how to stop being clingy or needy to people. I find that it gets in the way of me meeting people especially when it comes to dating. I tend to text more than I should or come on too strong on occasion. And I overthink things more than I should. What should I do? I do maintain a busy life but I still make these bad judgments more than I should. I'm very picky if that helps.
posted by antgly at 10:37 AM PST - 15 comments

Resources for family in financial distress?

After some ups and mostly downs, my family thought we were finally going to get out of the dismal living situation we've been enduring for 2 years I spoke about in this anon question, but then life decided to completely derail, and I don't know what to do. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by assasinatdbeauty at 10:34 AM PST - 37 comments

Help me hear the music, please!

Hi! Over the weekend, the receiver/speaker combo I use to listen to vinyl and my iPhone (cobbled together from stuff friends didn't want anymore) reached a critical point of sounding crappy. Can you help me find a replacement? [more inside]
posted by justjess at 10:32 AM PST - 5 comments

Recommendations for cheap (__cheap__) notebook/laptop

I'd like to buy a small (10-12 inch screen) very inexpensive (sub-$300) notebook, to use for reading PDFs, taking notes, and very light coding (i.e. emacs and python). Any recommendations would be most welcome. [more inside]
posted by uninformative at 10:13 AM PST - 16 comments

Moving a Step-van Pt. 2

I need recommendations for a vehicle shipping company, with some snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 10:02 AM PST - 6 comments

Mid-Height Loft Bed

I am looking for a loft bed for my daughter. Most on the market seem to be quite high off the ground; I am looking for one with about 42 inches of clearance below. Something like this: http://www.sleeplandbeds.co.uk/hyder-midloft-mid-sleeper-bunk But sold in the USA. Room and Board has their 'Bower Bed,' which is almost right but not quite high enough (and is one piece of solid steel so getting it in the apartment is a problem). Curious if anyone knows of any products or hacks to existing products?
posted by dearleader at 10:01 AM PST - 7 comments

Anyone know who runs colorado-solar.org?

As a consumer I'm evaluating their bias in helping me find installers, but I can't find it's affiliations & organizational structure. [more inside]
posted by wonderfullyrich at 9:45 AM PST - 4 comments

Folks = parents?

Where you live, or where you grew up, do people commonly refer to their parents as "my folks"? Would that phrasing sound odd to you, or stand out in any way, if, say, a coworker used it? [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 9:19 AM PST - 89 comments

Where can I purchase Windows 7 (safely)?

Dear HiveMind, I am finally waking up, smelling the coffee ... and seeing that I must say goodbye to XP. My machines are old (but not ancient) ThinkPads - one T60 and three X60s maxed out on RAM (systems built 2006-2008). I'm looking for an honorable seller of Win 7. [more inside]
posted by ferkit at 9:17 AM PST - 13 comments

Should I get a Kindle?

Thinking about buying a Kindle Paperwhite. But do I neeeeeeed one? [more inside]
posted by Brittanie at 9:08 AM PST - 37 comments

To read aloud, that is what I need.

I have an odd job interview coming up. I need advise on a children's book to read to a grown up audience and a two minute poem or "fun" monologue to recite. I think it'd be best if these related to the joy of learning or science. For the book, I might just read part of "Corduroy" because its beautiful and sweet, but what about the other requirement? [more inside]
posted by stormygrey at 9:08 AM PST - 21 comments

Tips on scoring an exit row seat?

I'm flying to Hawaii for work at the end of May (yay) and work booked my ticket for me. My four USAirways flights (Milwaukee to Phoenix and Phoenix to Hawaii and then reverse) have ZERO exit row seats available online. I even had to pay $89 for their "ChoiceSeat" on one flight because it was the *only* aisle seat available (which have no more legroom than a regular seat, just allows you to board before the rest of the passengers). At 6'6", this is troubling. I called USAirways today and was first told they had exit row seats for purchase (at roughly $90/flight) but that she was having trouble getting them to work on her system so she had to transfer me to their "online helpdesk". That person told me that there were no exit row seats available at all, full stop. I can't rebook to another flight because my arrival is being timed with other coworkers. So, are there any tips/tricks/secret handshakes I can use at the airport to try to get a seat with a little more room? I'm extremely grateful that I get to go to Hawaii on someone else's dime but am anticipating agony the whole way there and back.
posted by Twicketface at 9:02 AM PST - 14 comments

How can I check if a tree would have been killed by ivy?

There is a plot of land near me that will now be built on, because the large tree growing on it was being killed by ivy. How do I check if this was true? [more inside]
posted by devnull at 8:55 AM PST - 10 comments

Migrating to Medicine from Computer Science

I did my Bachelors (in Computer Science) in India and Masters in Computer Science in USA. I now intend to migrate to medical field and aspire to do a PhD or an MD in psychiatry or any other branch of study in medicine. Can anyone tell me if there are any premier institutes in India or abroad that might have my credentials as an eligibility criterion for an admission? Thanks in advance! [more inside]
posted by godugu at 8:30 AM PST - 8 comments

Cool family neighborhoods around Lancaster, PA?

I'll be moving with my family (including two young kids) to the Lancaster, PA area in August. We'll be renting a place and I'd like to know the names of some good neighborhoods where we can concentrate our searches. In-town or slightly-outside-of-town are all okay (though I want to stay within a 40 minute drive of Middletown, where my husband will be studying). Important criteria: •Friendly neighbors •Relatively low crime •Good school zone is a plus •A cool neighborhood vibe is a plus
posted by KateH at 8:22 AM PST - 6 comments

Tips for learning birdsongs?

The birds are back in town, and I wake up early enough to hear their songs before the traffic drowns them out. I'm no birder--I don't think I can identify any bird by its call, and only the five most "identifiable" birds by sight (and I'm probably wrong). What apps (iOS) and websites do you recommend to learn bird songs? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 7:52 AM PST - 21 comments

Dreamy alt-pop running albums?

I am completely obsessed with the album Sweet Disarray by Dan Croll. It is an amazing outside-running album; rich, multilayered sound that is dreamy but not boring, upbeat enough to keep me going, but contemplative. (The link has clips from multiple tracks.) What similar albums do you recommend? [more inside]
posted by sevensnowflakes at 7:46 AM PST - 15 comments

Relaxing Beachfront vacation in New England

I'm looking for a great hotel/inn/motel on the beach in New England. I'm in Central Massachusetts and would like it to be within a 3 hour drive. We'd be doing the trip July 10-13. [more inside]
posted by beccaj at 7:39 AM PST - 5 comments

An SPF-free tinted moisturizer?

I went all feminist hulk and threw away all of my make up, but now I kind of want some tinted moisturizer as my skin isn't really adjusting to the climate of my new home. (Breakout city!) I need something that is SPF-free, and for a complexion similar to Kerry Washington or Mindy Kaling, and I've never seen tinted moisturizer any darker than something meant for like, Eva Longoria. I'd prefer if it was made from all natural ingredients, was fragrance free, and didn't smudge, and I'm also on a budget- I would like to keep it under $20 if possible. Thanks!
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 6:23 AM PST - 16 comments

99% chance of Alzheimer's Disease

Chatting casually with a bioinformatician yesterday, I was told that I have 99% chance of developing Alzheimer’s disease, based only on my mother and father’s nationalities. How should I take this claim? [more inside]
posted by mister_kaupungister at 6:01 AM PST - 29 comments

Help me make this Britney Spears backpack less Britney

I want to upcycle this glittery pink Britney Spears backpack into a more grown up bag. Preferably black. Does anyone have suggestions? Images inside. [more inside]
posted by bluelight at 5:36 AM PST - 17 comments

HDMI Cable Question (Laptop-TV with no sound)

Help me connect a Laptop to TV with an HDMI Cable AND get sound. [more inside]
posted by dbirchum at 5:03 AM PST - 8 comments

Looking for good Let's Plays or tutorials that are minimally twitchy

I find a good Let's Play to be soothing and engaging. I like Minecraft best, but am willing to consider other games that have a similar vibe. I am interested in finding good videos that are relatively mature and fun. I would also consider good tutorial series. Currently I have been watching stuff put out by Paul Soares Jr, and I like it. I have not enjoyed anything by stampylongnose because it is too frantic and clownish. I have not found my way into Far Lands or Bust, but am willing to give it a try. Basically I like watching someone go about their business and talk about whatever while they do it. Do you have recommendations? Can you say what you like about your recommended titles?
posted by JohnLewis at 4:53 AM PST - 11 comments

Engineering a cool garden gate

I'd like to make a new garden gate. I'm aware the term garden gate has many possible interpretations, so to clarify: by this I mean a gate from the border of my yard to the communal snicket that runs along the back of all the terraced houses in my street. What I'd like to do is go for a bit of a medieval look. This means big dome headed black nails on the exterior side of the door, a grille in the middle for checking who is about before opening the door and, this is where I need help: a safe style thrown bolt on the inside. It's this last bit I'm having trouble with. I don't know how to Google for inspiration because I don't know the correct term. I'm thinking of a handle that when moved either up or down or left to right operates perhaps two or three other bolts which all slide into place by the action of that one initial movement. Any ideas? Just a bit of fun. I think my son would enjoy it.
posted by dance at 4:06 AM PST - 9 comments

How to set rhinestones in resin

How do you firmly set rhinestones in resin? Rhinestones in metal settings like these bangles. Is there a name for these settings? Where can you buy them? How are they put in and how do they stay in place? (Google not working!)
posted by inkypinky at 2:35 AM PST - 6 comments

iOS app for custom tables / dice results?

Looking for an iOS app that will let me set up a table (of dice scores and results), then roll on that table by pushing a button. For example, I might set up a table 'FOO': 1-2 = A, 3-4 = B, 5-6 = C. I could then push the FOO button, and it'd roll a d6 and give me A, B or C. Does this sort of thing exist?
posted by obiwanwasabi at 12:13 AM PST - 2 comments

A Watched Phone Never Rings

Whenever I am anticipating a date with or a text from the guy that I'm with, I suddenly find myself avoiding everything I need to do in order to just mentally prep for that encounter. This is obviously not a productive or healthy way to anticipate a good thing, but I have acted this way since I was 16 and now at 26 I want to stop trying to be so damn available. Aside from keeping myself busy with obligations I MUST attend to lest there be Serious Repercussions, what else can I do to persuade my mind that living my life in the intervals will allow me to have better relationships, not the other way around?
posted by Hermione Granger at 12:00 AM PST - 15 comments

April 20

What was the name of this fantasy novel from my childhood?

I am searching for the name of a fantasy novel from childhood, which has been calling to me lately in a way that may greatly inform my artwork. It has been fruitless to google, as I can only remember certain clues about its plotline and cover illustration. Help me, metafilter! The internet is great but some quandaries need humans. (Read extended explanation for the clues) [more inside]
posted by kaspen at 10:18 PM PST - 7 comments

What television shows would you consider to be "emotionally harrowing"?

I'm looking for TV shows to watch that can best be described as "emotionally harrowing." Devastating, harrowing, deeply upsetting. There are episodes where I should feel stunned during the credits, feel simply emotionally drained. Extremely complex, raw nerve feelings to sort through. A sucker punch to the gut. You know the deal. I'm not fooling around, give me the awful feelings, straight and undiluted. PLEASE no spoilers or specifics. Feel free to explain, just be abstract and vague!
posted by naju at 8:35 PM PST - 128 comments

Clothing, maybe a bit of Class, a little unique, smaller price tag?

So, for the longest time, I have coveted some of the vests sold by San Fransisco alt clothing store Five and Diamond such as this. I like getting occasionally dressed up and I tend to favor stark contrasts of a white collard shirt with something else (a vest a tie etc.) when I do. I am looking for something like that but, as in the linked vest, with a little extra pizazz That being said, I don't get dressed up often enough these days (nor do I necessarily make enough money) to rationalize dropping that much money on a single item. Anyone have cheaper ideas of where to find similar items?
posted by sendai sleep master at 8:29 PM PST - 3 comments

Dr. sent bill to collections; now wants me to bring money at next appt

My doctor's desk person would like me to bring in the $50 I owe them plus the copay at my next visit. They'd already sent it to collections (a day after they received my partial payment according to her, but whatever). Now desk lady says I should bring it in and they will report it paid to the collections. "Or pay them" she added. Who shall I pay? Are there advantages to paying either? I wish he hadn't reported me for that and then turned around and asked me to being it in. I'm working towards a house someday and I am sure this sent to collections dinged my credit report.
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 8:09 PM PST - 22 comments

Where do I find clothes for a plus-size 10 yr old girl?

Help us find clothes for a 10 year old plus-size girl! [more inside]
posted by Sal and Richard at 8:07 PM PST - 7 comments

How can I pay my US taxes online after the due date?

I e-filed my tax returns by the due date but couldn't pay them because I didn't have the money yet. Now I have the money, but am running into the bizarrely antiquated IRS payment system. [more inside]
posted by karakumy at 7:57 PM PST - 6 comments

Complementing Crossfit and Tracking Training Goals

How should I complement my crossfit workouts with strength, cardio and plyometric training? What are some ways (templates and or forms) that you use to track your progress in the gym? [more inside]
posted by rippersid at 7:12 PM PST - 6 comments

Where can I find a quality women's corduroy blazer in San Fran?

I've got an unexpected day free in San Francisco tomorrow and I'd like to do some shopping. One thing I haven't been able to find back home in Sydney is a nice corduroy women's blazer. I had one years ago in a lovely dusty pink and I wore it til it fell apart. Anybody know if they're "in" this spring and where I can find one in the city? (Colour doesn't really matter.)
posted by web-goddess at 6:52 PM PST - 5 comments

Starting online dating when you're still a bit a broken inside

I'm 30, male, British. Over the last few weeks I've felt the clouds of my latest depression begin to part and some sunlight poke through. I'm contemplating trying online dating again. How can I take advantage of this improvement whilst being careful not to over-tax myself and do an emotional crash-and-burn? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:28 PM PST - 12 comments

Should I be worried about my brother who smokes weed alone?

My brother is in his late twenties and we frequently visit our parents on the same weekend (every month or two). He always smokes weed by himself in the guest bedroom at night after our parents have gone to sleep. He's currently living with our parents temporarily, and I'm visiting now and he smoked weed last night. (I've never seen him do this, but I can always smell it.) I'm trying to decide if this could signal a problem with weed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:28 PM PST - 21 comments

Is your refrigerator running? No, it is not!

Sometime in the last 24 hours, my refrigerator (Kirkland Signature by Whirlpool, aka the cheapest fridge you can buy at Costco*) gave up the ghost. The light is still working and it seems that the back panel of the freezer is cold, but the fan is not blowing and the fridge itself is not cold at all. [more inside]
posted by charmcityblues at 5:36 PM PST - 12 comments

The Internet Tells Me I am Mistaken

But I'm pretty sure a woman (or, I guess, a band with a woman vocalist) has covered the Clash's "Lost in the Supermarket". Anyone know?
posted by crush-onastick at 4:58 PM PST - 8 comments

Let's go away for a while, you and I, to a strange and distant land

Mr. Jeoc and I want to take a vacation this summer, but we're running out of time to make plans and are stumped on where to go. I will tell you about us and the places we've enjoyed, and perhaps you can tell us where we should plan to go. [more inside]
posted by jeoc at 4:53 PM PST - 7 comments

Mac Air vs. Pro 13"?

I'm in the market for a new personal laptop and have decided to switch to OSX after a lifetime spent on Windows. Trying to pick between the Mac Air and Pro w/ Retina, both 13"? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 4:51 PM PST - 26 comments

help my Mexican undocumented friend not get deported at court tomorrow?

My friend got pulled over for running a red light His ticket says " Accompanying charge no documents ". He goes to court Monday morning in Columbus Ohio. Is it likely result in deportation? He says he can't afford a lawyer and is just going to use the public defender. I have a copy of the ticket in front of me. How can I help him? Btw IKYANMYL.
posted by crawltopslow at 4:47 PM PST - 23 comments

Could any PR or press experts give these 4 a shot?

I'm handling PR as a volunteer for a nonprofit for a month. I'm fairly new to dealing with the media. I've read PR for Dummies, looked at online resources and related questions on askme. I found some great stuff, but no answers to these questions. [more inside]
posted by lillian.elmtree at 4:11 PM PST - 11 comments

What homebrewing site/software should I commit to?

I need to get systematic and quit wandering around with my recipes and data. Which sites/apps/software would you recommend? Are the paid options worth paying for? [more inside]
posted by Mngo at 2:04 PM PST - 7 comments

I need a new external monitor for my iMac

I had a new iMac and my older, external Apple display (10 years) recently died. The thunderbolt screens have terrible, terrible reviews. Any suggestions on a specific model for a 27 inch screen? I do video editing so it needs to be pretty decent. Thanks.
posted by captainscared at 1:28 PM PST - 8 comments

Boyfriend having bad gout attack...

My boyfriend is having a very bad gout attack, hasn't slept in a couple of days and is now refusing to eat anything at all because he thinks it will exacerbate the gout. [more inside]
posted by mysterious_stranger at 1:20 PM PST - 18 comments

Who and what are on this fabric?

I have some fabric I picked up from a remnant stall a while ago. It has Japanese writing and pictures of faces all over it - is it just a random design or are these characters from some manga\anime? (The place also had Naruto fabric, but there,s no logo I recognise here, nor anything on the selvege.) Picture here. Any ideas? I want to check in case it'll unwittingly offend Japanese speakers!
posted by mippy at 12:24 PM PST - 7 comments

Am I wasting my time reading the Game of Thrones Books?

Usually if a movie is based on a book I like to read the book first if it sounds interesting. But, I've watched every single episode of Game of Thrones to date twice. Now I just started reading the first book and while it does go into more detail I'm not sure if I'm wasting my time by reading the books. I could for example be experiencing something completely new to me. Reading the Hunger Games books only took a weekend but the GOT books are a way bigger time investment. Then again I can take huge breaks from the book and still have an idea what's going on because I watched the show. What do you guys think? Should I continue to read the books? Or should I just stick with the show? [more inside]
posted by mamamia88 at 12:18 PM PST - 30 comments

How do I open this hatch?

My townhouse has an attic that is theoretically accessible through a hatch in the ceiling. I have permission to access said hatch for various electrical-related reasons. The thing is, I can't figure out how to open it. Pictures here. [more inside]
posted by brainmouse at 12:16 PM PST - 9 comments

How to deal diplomatically with zealous environmentalist landlady?

Mrs. HeroZero and I just moved into a lovely new Chicago apartment about two months ago. However, our landlady (who lives on the third floor of this three-flat apartment building) has passionate environmentalist feelings. Though we share many aspects of her politics, it's made certain aspects of living here difficult. [more inside]
posted by HeroZero at 11:41 AM PST - 19 comments

Advice for printing a custom design on T-shirt.

Stuck abroad with a graphics tablet, laptop, stores closed because of Easter and a need for new clothing, I've decided to explore the idea of getting own design printed on a T-shirt. Looking for both general and specific advice, more inside. [more inside]
posted by 9080 at 11:21 AM PST - 5 comments

Shirley Temple in a Bottle

Where can I find Boylan's Shirley Temple soda or Batch Craft's Shirley Temple soda locally near San Francisco? [more inside]
posted by aloysius on the mixing boards at 11:16 AM PST - 3 comments

Buskers, street musicians, dancers, magicians, jugglers, balloon artists

How much did/do you typically earn as a street performer? [more inside]
posted by 99percentfake at 11:14 AM PST - 7 comments

How prominent is CRT in competitive college and HS policy debate?

This article claims that (or is framed as) CRT arguments are dominating collegiate debate. Is that really true? [more inside]
posted by a robot made out of meat at 10:48 AM PST - 8 comments

Trying to find or have made a replica of a family member's blankie

A family member is expecting her first kid and I was thinking about trying to either buy or have made a replica of her precious childhood blankie. Help me find it or figure out how to get a replica made. [more inside]
posted by sciencegeek at 10:12 AM PST - 11 comments

A hole opened in front of home we're inspecting. What do I need to do?

We're under contract on a home and the inspection was yesterday. During the inspection, the front tire of the inspector's van collapsed into a hole in the road. I'm obviously now worried about the house. [more inside]
posted by gfrobe at 9:31 AM PST - 15 comments

List of Songs That Feature Fast/Prominent Hi Hat Percussion?

Could you list me a few songs that feature significant, heavy, or otherwise noteworthy/distinctive use of the hi-hat cymbal(s) within the general percussion setup of a song? [more inside]
posted by Quarter Pincher at 9:08 AM PST - 39 comments

How does Zombies, Run! handle distance vs time?

I've been doing the Zombies 5k training, and the only thing I don't totally love is how it handles distance, speed, and time. Runner 5 Mefites, can you tell me how you've found the full grown-up app so that I know what to expect? [more inside]
posted by carbide at 8:54 AM PST - 5 comments

Which wall speaker mounts to get and how to install?

I'm not sure what wall/ceiling speaker mounts are appropriate for my system or how to install them in the type of walls I have. Suggestions welcome! [more inside]
posted by droplet at 8:53 AM PST - 6 comments

How often does the freight train pass by this house I wanna buy?

How often does the freight train pass by this house I wanna buy? is it annoying? I wanna buy a house near here and I am curious how often the trains pass by, if it will be annoying or not. Can anyone find a schedule of the trains that pass by so I can go stand there while it passes by and see how annoying it is? Does anyone have history or advice on living near train tracks?
posted by lijiaxiaoniu at 8:49 AM PST - 26 comments

Returning to writing and painting after a long depression

I am a writer (poetry, fiction, essays) and painter (mostly abstract art done in acrylics). I am normally quite prolific, but I have been dealing with a ferocious depression for months now and pretty much stopped creating altogether. However, I am feeling hopeful that the end of the yuckiness is in sight, and I'd like to get back to work. Yesterday I went to a cafe to write and sent out some submissions but really didn't know where to begin with writing. I made a list of potential projects, but none of them really grabbed me, and I didn't either feel any great ideas or the patience to sit with them until I got an idea. A similar thing happened when I was thinking about painting. So, does anybody have any tips for getting back into creative work after a long time away with something as crippling as depression can be?
posted by mermaidcafe at 8:47 AM PST - 10 comments

Traveling to and in Los Angeles on a budget and can't drive.

I am trying to figure out how to get to Los Angeles on a small budget, to visit a doctor for a chronic condition. The condition itself causes difficulty getting around. I need some suggestions on how to make this "work". [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 7:53 AM PST - 23 comments

Talk me off the ARRRRRRGGG! ledge

I'm sorry that this is question #500 from me about how broke am I, but anyway, here it is! I am having a harder time finding a second job than I thought I would, I have to go out of town for family related reasons in the next couple of weeks, and I have been beating my head against the pavement interviewing every damn day and still - nothing! What sort of short-term jobs can I look for to make enough cash that I am not totally freaking out? [more inside]
posted by ablazingsaddle at 1:00 AM PST - 22 comments

Android in a Apple world?

The ghost of Steve Jobs and I disagree on smart phone design. Can I make an Android phone work with all my existing Apple stuff? And if so, which Android phone should I get? [more inside]
posted by His thoughts were red thoughts at 12:51 AM PST - 16 comments

April 19

I wanna be stuck with you

People of Metafilter, especially the lady types who often wear clothing with no pocketses: how do you keep your cell phone within earshot when you're at home? Especially if you've got a touch of ye olde ADHD and still struggle to remember to always take it with you when you leave the house, let alone remember to take it with you when you move from room to room. [more inside]
posted by drlith at 9:35 PM PST - 54 comments

How is mortgage interest to a private party treated under the AMT?

In the US tax code (specific to the AMT), is mortgage interest to a private party treated differently than mortgage interest to a bank? [more inside]
posted by true at 8:26 PM PST - 2 comments

Alexander Certification

Posting a question for the SO. If a person in the United States wanted to get certified for teaching Alexander Technique, which certifying body should they take classes with - Alexander Technique International or the American Society of Alexander Technique? What are the differences? Which would be more "legit" or accepted for a theatre professor in the US?
posted by chainsofreedom at 8:15 PM PST - 2 comments

What would I do if I left academia?

I am considering leaving a tenure track position in the humanities to follow my partner to the Bay Area. In order to compare the options, I need some idea of what I'd do there. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:58 PM PST - 8 comments

Favorite non-gym exercises?

What exercises do you love that don't require a gym membership or large expenses? I'm looking for suggestions that are affordable and easily do-able for an apartment dweller.
posted by glaucon at 6:44 PM PST - 41 comments

Remembering to remember names

I have a problem with remembering names, but the biggest aspect is remembering to remember names. When I meet someone, I'll often ask their name, but it'll go in one ear and out the other. I need to specifically think that this is something that I want to remember later. I've been trying to build up this habit for a while, but I'm finding it very hard. How can I get myself into the habit of remembering to remember names? To be clear, I'm not asking for tricks and tips for remembering names per se, but on ways of building up the habit of thinking of names as things that are important.
posted by casebash at 6:36 PM PST - 17 comments

Bzzzzzz

I beard easily; even a straight-razor barbershop shave leaves me with a bit of five o'clock shadow. I also have sensitive face-skin so I tend to have a beard. I want to try staying "clean" shaven for a while. Is an electric razor a worthwhile investment? [more inside]
posted by griphus at 5:41 PM PST - 20 comments

Do homeless individuals have codes of conduct or rules?

I recently learned that the panhandlers in my city (Cambridge, MA) often share their food when they get big items and it made me wonder - do homeless individuals often have explicit or implicit rules, like "share when you get food" or "the person who's been homeless the longest gets the best spot"? What do you think happens if people break the rule? I'm sure there's a lot of variation both within and between cities, but if anyone has any thoughts, I'd really appreciate it!
posted by mrmanvir at 3:28 PM PST - 13 comments

Making homemade videos. Er, digios?

So how are all the cool people making home movies these days, if they're not recording off their phone? And how are they storing and sharing such movies? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 3:11 PM PST - 3 comments

Going to a wedding reception. What do I bring?

So, I was invited to a wedding reception, but not the wedding itself. Do I bring a card? A gift? Do I put money in the card? There's no registry that I'm aware of. Thanks!
posted by Fister Roboto at 2:52 PM PST - 21 comments

In search of truly customizable meal planner

I’m looking for a customizable meal planner that will provide me with a week-long menu and shopping list for clean, healthy, calorie-dictated meals with recipes based on ingredients that will work for my specific situation (calorie regulated + no processed foods + food sensitivities.) I’m sure this question has been asked/answered before but in reviewing previous posts and recommended sites/tools/apps I can’t find something that will meet *all* of my specifications. [more inside]
posted by hapax_legomenon at 2:30 PM PST - 4 comments

Best online banking in Richmond, VA?

I am moving from the Charlottesville, VA area to the Richmond, VA area this summer, and I need a new bank. My meager business will be awarded to the bank who offers the best online banking experience, particularly in the arena of paying bills online. Richmonders of MeFi? What bank do you love? [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 2:30 PM PST - 3 comments

I need some honest perspective on my relationship

My boyfriend and I have been dating since I was 16 and he was 18. I am not 21 and he is almost 23. We met in high school, though it's an awkward story of how we met.w [more inside]
posted by anon1129 at 2:00 PM PST - 19 comments

What is your favorite kompot recipe?

I am looking for some old-fashion kompot recipes (preferably ones which include dried cherry but I am happy to try making different kinds). The arrival of warmer weather has brought back memories of drinking it on warm summer nights. Thanks!
posted by anya32 at 1:53 PM PST - 1 comment

Monitor options for this laptop with these ports?

What are the monitor expansion options for a laptop with these ports? images. I think I see mini-HDMI on the right hand side? And is that DisplayPort on the left?
posted by raspberry jam and clothes iron at 1:11 PM PST - 8 comments

BzzBzz Teach me to tattoo!

I am teaching myself to tattoo (NOT ON PEOPLE!! Are you crazy! ... on fruit :D ) I'd love some great online resources or books for this process! Help me be awesome at this. [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 1:01 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me buy a REALLY flatpack armchair.

I need to find, in the UK an affordable wingback armchair that actually comes flatpacked for my soon to be breastfeeding wife. [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 12:34 PM PST - 10 comments

Where's my shirt?

Please hope me find a replacement for my favorite rugby shirt. [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 12:12 PM PST - 5 comments

Designing reports graphica that can be printed b/w or photcopied

Is there an online tool, or function in Word, to see what a design would look like when printed in black and white, or how it might turn out when photocopied? [more inside]
posted by troytroy at 12:02 PM PST - 9 comments

should I attend estranged sister's babyshower?

Today I got a message from my brother inviting me to our older sister's baby shower on Sunday and saying that she would really like me to come. I'm torn about attending because ...well, my sister didn't actually invite me. It's at her place so obviously it's not a surprise shower. Instead she relied on our brother to do it. [more inside]
posted by mariisoul at 11:44 AM PST - 27 comments

What would James (or Jane) Bond wear? (versatile enough for ANYTHING)

How can one dress (men or women) in the morning and be prepared for ANYTHING. Any given day might unexpectedly include very active outings or very formal appointments? Sure, a change of clothes is handy -- BUT THERE'S NO TIME, Q! [more inside]
posted by GPF at 11:32 AM PST - 5 comments

Smelly in my merino

Within 2 days I smell in my merino baselayer. Do I just have super bacteria on my right armpit, or do other people with merino wildly exaggerate their experiences? [more inside]
posted by facehugger at 10:54 AM PST - 18 comments

Can someone recommend some cheap but good silver/white hairspray please.

Can someone recommend some cheap but good silver/white hairspray please. I have dark brown hair, but want to dress up as a character (Kakashi from Naruto) that has silver/white hair. Can anyone recommend a good tin of hair spray that is cheap but works well please. PS I live in the UK.
posted by sockpim at 10:16 AM PST - 2 comments

Cool Mens Clothes That Fit

Where can I find cool clothes outside of the normal mens range in regular sizes? [more inside]
posted by xingcat at 10:01 AM PST - 8 comments

Enhanced interrogation under George W. Bush

Can anyone recommend neutral documentation of "enhanced interrogation" / "torture" under the Bush presidency, the changes during the War on Terror? [more inside]
posted by Nelson at 8:14 AM PST - 8 comments

Mature student in University with younger student body - how to fit in?

I expect to return to university after a 2 decade absence, to facilitate a career change. What should I expect, socially speaking? [more inside]
posted by thermonuclear.jive.turkey at 6:02 AM PST - 30 comments

Should I stay or should I go now?

I’m no longer in love with my fiance and I’m not sure how I should proceed. The complicating factor is our children. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:37 AM PST - 35 comments

Do kids still do The Dougie?

I want to have some fun with my 7th grade students. I'm looking for clean and school-appropriate songs to let them sing and dance to. Do they still do The Dougie, or is that over? What are some other song/dance crazes that the kids are into now that wouldn't get me fired from my school for playing it for them?
posted by archimago at 5:27 AM PST - 12 comments

Let me talk to you about my huge breasts...

I started logging my body measurements for weight loss and soon realised just how insane my boobs swell during PMS - care to share relief suggestions? [more inside]
posted by Chorus at 2:54 AM PST - 8 comments

April 18

How to transfer Excel data to Powerpoint easily?

I have a list of names on an Excel file. I'd like to transfer each name (along with other details) to one PowerPoint slide. Is there any way I can do this without having to manually type in each name?
posted by AngryTypingGuy at 11:39 PM PST - 12 comments

Where are the transflective displays?

Digital display technology is constantly marching forward, especially with smartphone manufacturers trying to one-up each other on screen thinness, DPI, and brightness. But why do no smartphones (or tablets, or laptops) use transflective displays? Simply put, a transflective display is can be seen with either backlighting or frontlighting. It is a screen that can be used both in a dark room and in direct sunlight — and the sunlight will actually make it clearer. [more inside]
posted by CustooFintel at 9:06 PM PST - 11 comments

Home design/decorating blogs that AREN'T minimalist

My sweetie and I are doing some big redesign stuff in our house, and I am trying to find design/furniture/decorating inspiration. I am looking specifically for blog that go beyond the minimalist look. [more inside]
posted by Ideal Impulse at 8:54 PM PST - 20 comments

Google My Maps on iPhone

Can anyone update the answers to this question about viewing the Google maps I've created (My Maps, My Places, or whatever it's called now) on an iPhone? [more inside]
posted by Joleta at 7:32 PM PST - 5 comments

Diagnosing fatigue (snowflake details inside)

I know YANMD and I am seeing mine on May 5th, but until then, I was hoping someone would have some insight/experience/advice for what is possibly going on with me. What could be causing daytime sleepiness after eating any amount of carbs? Apologies for wall of text [more inside]
posted by kei02003 at 7:19 PM PST - 14 comments

Speech recognition software recs for sprawly writing on a Mac

Typing is killing me and I have to write a bunch of papers over the next couple of weeks. I have a 2012 MBP (not yet on Mavericks) and could spend ~ $100-150 on some kind of voice-to-text software. Looking for something with a minimal learning curve that will let me work fast. And, whatever else is required to quickly & painlessly navigate multiple documents. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 7:14 PM PST - 5 comments

What if it's too low and I take out one of my tall friends??

What length down rod do I need to buy for this fan? [more inside]
posted by whoaali at 6:36 PM PST - 3 comments

I feel like the only insane person for being sane.

My girlfriend, her parent, and her entire family are 100% convinced that one of her parents has an incurable terminal disease. The catch? None of the test results have come back. In fact, none of the tests have even been done. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:35 PM PST - 24 comments

I want my European vacation more brutal!

My husband and I love pictures of old modern and brutalist weird architecture in Eastern Europe. We'd love to see it. But travel agents and tours focus on blue waters and quaint villages. Is there a "show me the concrete weirdness" travel option I'm missing for two people who don't like the traditional postcards, but both almost failed college Russian? [more inside]
posted by Gucky at 5:19 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me find these clip clasp thingies online!

I'm looking for a piece of hardware but don't know what it's called, making it very hard to find it online. [more inside]
posted by crazylegs at 4:52 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for a woman's sports watch with no exposed metal.

My wife would like a sports watch. She doesn't need GPS or fancy gadgetry, just something to wear to the gym. She needs large digital numbers that can be read easily while she's moving, and some timing functions. The problem is that she's allergic to metal, so anything that would touch her skin would have to be leather or plastic--the strap, the buckle, the back of the case, and any buttons on the side. I've looked in sporting goods stores but only found metal on the backs of cases, and that's something that's hard to tell online. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by hydrophonic at 4:10 PM PST - 17 comments

How important are all these vaccines for Peruvian travel?

I will be spending a month this summer in the high jungle plateau of Tarapoto, Peru. I am trying to get my preventative care in order, and will be getting Hepatitis A and typhoid vaccines, as well as taking anti-malarial medication. I don't think I will be getting the yellow fever vaccine, the Hepatitis B vaccine, or the rabies vaccine; the first due to lack of access and the latter two due to risk factors and cost, respectively. Would you try harder to find access to the yellow fever vaccine or rethink the other two, or am I good with the three I'm doing? [more inside]
posted by vegartanipla at 4:10 PM PST - 17 comments

What's up with this light?

OK, so we have this ceiling fan with a light fixture above the kitchen table. One of the three lights burns out regularly, like every 10 days or so. Both of the other lights have been fine for a year or more. Any idea why this should be the case? FWIW, the voltage at the sockets is identical to within .1 volt.
posted by pjern at 3:04 PM PST - 10 comments

What game were we playing?

Trying to remember a team-building game I played maybe a decade ago, so I could maybe re-construct it and play with friends. [more inside]
posted by allkindsoftime at 2:30 PM PST - 8 comments

Vinegar and brown paper

My son added a clothes peg (plastic with a steel spring) to a bucket of cider vinegar. Is the vinegar still safe? [more inside]
posted by popcassady at 2:11 PM PST - 19 comments

Now he's just some weirdo that I used to know.

A religious wingnut--who is also a former coworker--sent me a mildly scary email. I don't know how to respond or if I should ignore it. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Gee, June! at 2:07 PM PST - 31 comments

Help me find fiction books that make me feel happy and alive!

The last two books I've read, Mr. Penumbra's 24 Hour Book Store and The Westing Game have both made me feel the same way - happy, alive, joyous. By the end of each book, I was really rooting for the characters and their happiness. At the same time, I was feeling really good. They were similar in some ways, but I can't really define the genre, so it's hard for me to look for similar books. Can people suggest books that meet some number of these qualifications? [more inside]
posted by elmer benson at 1:38 PM PST - 29 comments

Boss me around, please!

My manager is very hands-off and this is not going to change. How can I get better at managing myself, when I would prefer an environment with more direction and feedback? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:38 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for a children's picture book

Had a memory just now of a small book I had as a child. I have a vague recollection of it being square and hardback, possibly with a green cover, but the most prominent memory is of a page describing the "wild worms of the Pampas" with a picture of fanged worms in tall grass. [more inside]
posted by j.edwards at 1:12 PM PST - 7 comments

Design advice needed! Odd picture size inside a standard picture frame.

20 3/4" (w) x 28" (h) poster, can't afford to custom frame it. Which is better: 1) a standard 22x28 frame, with a little extra space (or matting) along the width of the poster; 2) a 24x30 frame with 1 1/2" mat on either side and 1" of mat at top and bottom each? [more inside]
posted by ArgyleGargoyle at 12:58 PM PST - 11 comments

"...when we stop suffering like animals and start suffering like men"

I've been on the hunt for the original of a quote that seems to have become a leftist proverb. The quote is paraphrased in the following way: [Communism/Socialism/Utopia/Freedom] will be when we stop suffering like animals and start suffering like human beings. Does this ring a bell for anyone? [more inside]
posted by gerryblog at 12:53 PM PST - 2 comments

Sibling in a downward spiral and no idea what to do

My brother is a senior in high school, and after a lifetime of excellent academic performance, seems to be having a nervous breakdown. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:48 PM PST - 35 comments

Good Nevada brothel for couples?

I'm a straight man, wife is bi. Married over a decade, but have had some fun group sex experiences together in the past. However sexy single females ("unicorns") are hard to come by so we're looking at a Vegas trip for some naughty fun. Need information. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:48 PM PST - 1 comment

Trying to organize the family archive box...

Mu aunt has agreed to store all my grandpa's old photos and documents, if someone else can 'do something with it' first. That someone is me. Where do I start? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 12:35 PM PST - 7 comments

SF/Fantasy books with a 'big reveal'?

RecoFilter: I'm looking for recommendations of books, preferably in the sci-fi/fantasy genres, that have a 'big reveal' somewhere in there that changes the whole perspective of the book or protagonist. Examples would be The Inverted World, The Prestige, or Ender's Game, for example, or the first Star Trek film, or some Lovecraft stories — the whole thing, and all events narrated, appear in a different light after, you know? [more inside]
posted by BlackLeotardFront at 12:30 PM PST - 43 comments

Can I recover my phone?

I lost my phone in November. I tried using Location History and Where’s My Droid to track it to no avail, then gave up and bought a new phone. Today, I noticed that about a month ago several selfies of a handful of guys in an electronics store had been uploaded to my Google Photos online. There is no location data associated with the photos, and from what I can tell I can't find it on Location History or Where's My Droid now. [more inside]
posted by gregoryg at 12:17 PM PST - 6 comments

Does a bear sh- Wait... what does he do in the woods?

My camping experience jumps directly from "getting drunk overnight at a campsite with bathroom facilities nearby" to "totally cut off from all society and pooping in a hole." What is the fecal protocol at a primitive (designated but usually more remote and no facilities) campsite in a Texas state park?
posted by cmoj at 12:04 PM PST - 14 comments

How long should I stick it out with birth control before giving up?

How long should I stick it out with the birth control pill before giving up? I've been on it for only a week and a half and already have incredibly obnoxious side effects. [more inside]
posted by vanitas at 11:54 AM PST - 17 comments

Help me stay red-blooded if not old-fashioned

Best practices / protips for what to eat after having a large amount of blood drawn? Also, I will be having additional draws over the next few weeks. [more inside]
posted by vignettist at 11:53 AM PST - 10 comments

[Architecture Filter] How much natural light is ideal?

I'm trying to research the effect of natural light availability on apartment price, i.e. Does a south-facing apartment rent for more than a north facing apartment, and if so by how much? Along with a corollary of how much natural light would be considered ideal vs. the minimum. I found some rules on minimums through various city regulations, but I haven't found anything that talks about ideals, or price differentials based on desirability. Any pointers on research papers, books, organizations that may have information (I'm going to contact the AIA, but are there others?) would be extremely helpful.
posted by gofargogo at 11:49 AM PST - 5 comments

Kentucky-Tennessee-North Carolina road trip

We're planning about a week long road trip from Louisville to Mammoth Cave, south towards Nashville, east towards Great Smokies and ending up in Asheville NC. Looking for your suggestions for places to eat, places to stay, things to do along the way. [more inside]
posted by sararah at 11:25 AM PST - 17 comments

Good introduction to statistics class in the DC area or online?

I'm looking to take an intro to statistics class this fall or summer. I'd be up for taking it online or in person, if in person it would have to be in or near Washington DC. It could either be an undergraduate or graduate class, but not one where you have to know calculus. Has anyone taken a good introduction to statistics class in the DC area or online that they could recommend?
posted by catquas at 11:24 AM PST - 6 comments

How important is emotional literacy to academic success?

Most of the academic textbooks I've read have had a drawn-out presentation style based on psychological observations as part of an effort to project a particular voice. [more inside]
posted by Musashi Daryl at 11:17 AM PST - 3 comments

It's been a while since I've been to a concert without assigned seating.

My spouse and I are taking my 16-year-old daughter to a concert tomorrow night: Ellie Goulding, with Conway, at the Bill Graham Civic Auditorium in San Francisco. I have some random questions, and would appreciate any tips on having a great experience. [more inside]
posted by expialidocious at 11:05 AM PST - 11 comments

Cheap, easy 2-person video-conferencing for dummies. Please.

My friend is in the midst of a job search, and a prospective employer wishes to interview him via video-conference. He is told that it must be "IP based" and not Skype, and they must be able to call him. [more inside]
posted by Dolukhanova at 10:56 AM PST - 14 comments

Recommend standout restaurants within a day-trip of Boston.

I'm a foodie, and I'd like to plan some short summer day trips. What are the absolute best restaurants within three hours' drive of Boston? [more inside]
posted by cribcage at 10:47 AM PST - 19 comments

Obscure health insurance question

I am doing some rather obscure research on the health insurance industry. I'm having some trouble finding the information I'm looking for. Hopefully someone here can help! [more inside]
posted by prunes at 10:47 AM PST - 3 comments

My 75 year old father will be moving in with us.

What are the logistics of having a parent in so-so to mediocre health move in? He is currently in St. Louis, MO and my wife and I currently live in Johnson City, TN. [more inside]
posted by Groundhog Week at 10:44 AM PST - 10 comments

I Can Name That Movie In One Film Set....

Time-Sensitive filter, Name-that-Movie filter, Korea filter: Can anyone confirm what movie this abandoned set in Korea was built for? And fast? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 10:37 AM PST - 12 comments

Easy, Fast Non-Alcoholic Punch Recipe for Springtime?

Please share with me your best springtime punch recipes that are alcohol free and really fast and easy to make! [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 10:12 AM PST - 16 comments

High-level cross-project management

What software can I use for a high-level view of my team's available vs. allocated hours and budgeted time approved across our projects? [more inside]
posted by camcgee at 10:10 AM PST - 2 comments

same trip but different

How should I spend my week alone in Thailand (or nearby)? [more inside]
posted by changeling at 9:57 AM PST - 7 comments

3 day not-too-expensive getaway

Need some quick ideas for a romantic mini-honeymoon in the near future. [more inside]
posted by Amalie-Suzette at 9:52 AM PST - 4 comments

I am a terrible IT person

Will switching home ISPs solve my spam problems? I have my own consulting business, and work from home in the East Bay. I have one employee who also works from home, but she lives in SF. I have an issue with my outgoing email when sent from my house (but not my phone when it isn't connected to my home wifi or from my laptop when i am elsewhere): it often bounces back as having "spam content", goes into my clients' junkmail folders, or just disappears. This used to only happen with one client, so I just assumed it was the fault of their IT folks, but now it's happening a lot. [more inside]
posted by Ignatius J. Reilly at 9:46 AM PST - 11 comments

Day-long layover in Amsterdam

I have a day-long layover (7.5 hours) in Amsterdam coming up. Research leads me to believe the airport is relatively close to the city, enough that I can probably take a train in and hang out for a few hours. What to do? I'll be there during the day. Things I'm interested in: walking around, good food/beer, clothes shopping (smaller boutique type places), modern art. I was in the city about 10 years ago so I saw a couple of the major sights.
posted by scribbler at 8:44 AM PST - 10 comments

Beautifully Produced Albums - What haven't I heard?

I'm looking for examples of very well produced and engineered rock/pop/folk albums. Perfect acoustic guitar tones, great sounding drums, clear vocals all mixed and balanced well. If you had access to a super- duper audiophile sound system for an hour, what album or songs in your collection would you immediately NEED to hear through it? Some examples inside: [more inside]
posted by BlerpityBloop at 8:33 AM PST - 60 comments

DFW Airport shuttle to Centreport Station timing.

Hi, can anyone give me an approximate time scale of the shuttle service between the TRE Centreport Station and DFW Airport? If I've read it correctly on the airport's website, the shuttle leaves every 15-30 mins from Centreport, then I change at South Remote Parking for the shuttle to Terminal D, which leaves every 15 mins. But I can't find even a vague idea of how long these trips will take so I can decide which trains to catch. Thanks!
posted by Brecha at 8:28 AM PST - 2 comments

I haven't pooped in sixteen days. help? (gross, sorry)

I broke my back, got loads of morphine and now my stomach is screwed up. cannot see a doctor, bedridden post surgery at home. details inside. [more inside]
posted by krautland at 8:26 AM PST - 37 comments

Sony VAIO VGN FW 34OD won't power on

A few months ago a friend gave me a VGN FW34OD that had had coffee spilled on it. I took it apart, cleaned with rubbing alcohol, everything worked fine except the keyboard--some keys didn't work at all, some would just repeatedly fire. Annoying. But it worked and was fine for watching movies and tv and stuff. [more inside]
posted by feckless fecal fear mongering at 8:05 AM PST - 6 comments

What are the most interesting obituaries from the NYTIMES or ECONOMIST?

With the departure of Gabriel Garcia, there has been a plethora of obituaries to make his passing. I've been reading many of them and am pretty intrigued by the life he lived. I remember reading an obituary of Svetlana Alliuyeva which recounted probalby one of the most interesting and epic lives I've ever read about. Miles Davis obituary had probably the coolest (pun intended) headline "Miles Davis, Trumpeter, Dies; Jazz Genius, 65, Defined Cool". What are the most interesting obituaries you've read and that have stayed with you throughout the years.
posted by RapcityinBlue at 7:45 AM PST - 17 comments

My sister drives home drunk.

I moved in with my sister a couple of weeks ago. She just drove home drunk, and this isn't the first time it's happened. Please, please help me get her to stop. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:05 AM PST - 39 comments

Will Google 2 Step lock me out?

I have moved from Argentina back to the UK. Whilst there I set up my Google account with 2-Step Verification using my Argentinian phone number. Now back in the UK I no longer have access to that phone and as I unpacked I realised I threw away the notebook in which I jotted down the emergency codes in the move. Am I screwed? [more inside]
posted by jontyjago at 3:45 AM PST - 6 comments

What can you see?

My boyfriend is legally blind. He was born with cataracts in both eyes and has moderate to severe astigmatism in one of them. I'm struggling to get some idea of what he sees. [more inside]
posted by heavenstobetsy at 3:44 AM PST - 15 comments

April 17

Third Shift Blues

(asking on behalf of a friend) I'm thinking about using the ADA regulations to try to move from night shift to day shift. How would this work? [more inside]
posted by zug at 8:29 PM PST - 7 comments

DIfferent Ideals

How do I deal with completely different ideals in a marriage? [more inside]
posted by cobain_angel at 8:29 PM PST - 97 comments

The Art Book - Phaidon Press

I have been unable to turn up a list of the artists included in this book. I've tried Google Books, Amazon, and the publisher's own website. None of my local stores or libraries have it available. Can anyone tell me which artists are included in this book? I realize it's a really long list, but maybe the table of contents are out there somewhere, scanned or otherwise. Thanks!
posted by lolo341 at 6:36 PM PST - 4 comments

Leaning...backward? Better lifestyle, not-better job?

We'd like to move to another city for family reasons, but it will likely require a step back for me career-wise. I'd like to hear about how that worked out for other people. Can you help me get excited about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:28 PM PST - 16 comments

Looking for graphic t-shirts that aren't terrible

I've decided that I want to get a few graphic t-shirts for the summer. I've found a few designs on Spreadshirt that I like, but I've never used the service before, and I'm sort of nervous about their general quality. Overall I'm wondering if anyone has experience buying from them. If not, then do you have experience buying from other store-fronts that sell custom printed shirts from a broad range of artists? I'm looking for a wide range of designers, and as few clever puns or of-the-moment pop culture references as possible. I'm interested in abstract designs more than stuff that's text or brand heavy. Ideally this would be about 20 dollars per shirt.
posted by codacorolla at 6:26 PM PST - 13 comments

Help with potential scam

Sketchy, potentially scammy situation with my brother traveling in Guatemala and requesting my phone info to transfer money over Paypal. What to do? [more inside]
posted by quiet coyote at 6:07 PM PST - 28 comments

Which Seinfeld episode is this animated GIF from?

Help me, Metafilter! Which episode of Seinfeld is this animated GIF from?
posted by waxpancake at 5:29 PM PST - 2 comments

Feel the rhythm! Feel the rhyme! Get on up, its bobsled time!

Asides from the Jamaican bobsled team, which other international competitors or talents are involved in pursuits that seem like a highly unlikely match given their nationality or location? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 4:20 PM PST - 24 comments

English to Latin translation

What is "The storm cannot be stopped; but it can be survived" in Latin?
posted by cake vandal at 4:14 PM PST - 6 comments

What’s the most eye-opening trip you’ve taken?

This summer, I’ll be deciding whether I’ll be continuing with college, or if I want to leave and go into the real world and learn on my own. So I want to see the real world and get some perspective. What trips have you guys done that have been really eye-opening and meaningful? [more inside]
posted by markbao at 3:39 PM PST - 32 comments

Colleagues make sexist comments out of female earshot. What do I do?

I am a feminist, and many (not all) of my colleagues routinely make sexist comments. They know I am not okay with this, and instead of holding back, they now often do it even more blatantly, partly to get a rise out of me. I'm something of a beginner feminist so I don't know what to do. Tips please? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:16 PM PST - 35 comments

come on baby write by fire

What device is to writing what the Kindle is for reading? Assume a Kindle is, for purposes of this question, electronic, single-purpose, efficiently designed, portable, small and stylish -- and not a tablet like an iPad or Nexus. The method of document storage does not matter.
posted by michaelh at 2:58 PM PST - 9 comments

New relationship and bad (irrational?) feelings?

This is such a little thing I feel ridiculous posting it, but I’m just not sure how to approach this situation (or my feelings about it) so I hope posting here might be helpful! I’ve just started a new relationship (yay!), I like the guy I’ve been seeing, I think he’s funny and caring and interesting, and in general we have fun when we’re together. The whole thing though has been making me feel pretty anxious, I have a history of unhealthy relationships. A little thing (I think) happened about two days ago and it’s set off all these bad feelings, I can’t figure out whether or not I’m being neurotic or even where to go from here. More inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:24 PM PST - 34 comments

How can I get access to my mother's medical records?

My mother suffers from several serious medical conditions and sees a variety of specialists - some quarterly, some annually, and some only when she has a flare-up or episode. Several of these conditions, and/or the medications that treat them, impact her mental functioning. Every time she sees a doctor and I talk to her, I get the distinct impressions that she either hasn't given the doctor an accurate picture of what's going on with her, that she doesn't understand or remember what the doctor said, or both. I'd like to help her out by taking a look at her records and speaking with her doctors to make sure she's getting the treatment she needs and that it's being properly coordinated to account for her multiple conditions and multiple doctors. [more inside]
posted by trivia genius at 2:15 PM PST - 15 comments

Mac OS X Mavericks internet issues

I've been having internet issues at work for a while now. I'm using Mavericks on a retina MBP, and the internet will repeatedly just start being abysmally slow connecting to websites. [more inside]
posted by thewumpusisdead at 2:14 PM PST - 8 comments

Why Even Bring It Up?

My wife and I have been saying, "Why even bring it up?" to each other for years (the pitch of the voice starts out low and gets higher and higher throughout the question). Do you know where we could have heard the quote? [more inside]
posted by jaden at 2:12 PM PST - 5 comments

Third party liability insurance in Canada!

My girlfriend (who is from the US) is going to Canada to do a mural in a hotel and they require her to have 3rd party insurance/liability insurance. She is only going to be there for a week and she's only making $1000 for the project so she doesn't want to spend all her money on insurance. Do any of you know of a cheap and quick way to get temporarily insured in Canada? [more inside]
posted by cloeburner at 1:58 PM PST - 5 comments

So, we're trying to decide between Colorado or Washington

Moving is inevitable, the question is... to where? [more inside]
posted by patheral at 1:34 PM PST - 22 comments

iphone question

Okay, i need some advice on what is my best move. My new company just gave me a new iphone 5s (verizon) 64 gb. I had a iphone 5 (at&t) 64 gb. right after i got my new phone, i dropped my old (at&t) phone & the screen shattered. But thanks to applecare, i got a brand new one for only $50. (Go me!). Okay... my daughter has a 32gb iphone 4 with a slight crack at the bottom right of the screen... generally it operates kinda slow & she is having some problems with her home button (we had her screen replaced before) My son has a 16 gb iphone 4 ... his home button also isn't working great... (also, the screen has been replaced before). That's the summary of our situation.... So my question is... (seeing how i'm good with my new company phone) ... what is my best move to both upgrade both kid's phone & to maybe bank some money? [more inside]
posted by foodybat at 1:06 PM PST - 7 comments

Tips and advice for migrating from Droid to iPhone 5c?

I'll be migrating from and old Droid to an iPhone 5c in the next few days, and I have a iPod Classic, so I'm not wholly unfamiliar with the world of iTunes, but fairly new to iOS. I'm looking for tips and apps to make the best use of my iPhone, and how to best use it in my otherwise 100% Windows environment. And I'll need a good grippy case. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 12:53 PM PST - 13 comments

Ziggy and .....Jerome?

Please help me settle a minor dispute. I claim to once have seen a Ziggy Cartoon where he (Ziggy) was walking and talking with his inner child. This inner child's name was Jerome. I remember thinking how unusual this was. Is this Real? Did he ever have a friend named Jerome? This had to be sometime in the late 80's or early 90's.
posted by svenvog at 12:17 PM PST - 3 comments

Reading is to the mind what exercise is to the body...

Should I put more effort into reading books? Is not reading books detrimental to my critical thinking skills? [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen at 11:35 AM PST - 21 comments

I want to ride a bike to work, but that is.. terrifying.

I rode a bike when I was a kid, but that was about 15-20 years ago now. In order to get to work I'd have to go down a mid-steep hill, covered in gravel and/or mulch. I'm finding it really scary, is it possible to feel confident on a bike, starting essentially from scratch? what kind of bike? help! [more inside]
posted by euphoria066 at 11:35 AM PST - 19 comments

When the sweet science turns sour.

What does it take for a state (USA) boxing commission to pull a professional fighter's license? [more inside]
posted by jason's_planet at 11:34 AM PST - 3 comments

Wheezy older cat?

For the last several of months our 21 year old Sita has become increasingly wheezy. In January and February, we only noticed the wheeze after a glucosamine treat in the mornings. Starting around the end of February/beginning of March, she became really wheezy when she purred hard. It sounded...wet? The wheeziness would get really bad, she would swallow/take a big gulp of air and then go back to a "normal" amount of wheeze. [more inside]
posted by source.decay at 11:29 AM PST - 6 comments

Loud music and reptiles

Our science museum throws weekly DJ dance parties in a building full of reptiles, amphibians and sea life. I think thick plastic may protect most of them from the noise. But this Yelp review made me wonder if the vibrations of the loud beats could be stressing them out or worse. Is it harmful for an alligator to have to listen to Skrillex at high volume or are they OK with it?
posted by johngoren at 11:28 AM PST - 5 comments

Appliances turning on spontaneously: When? Why? How? How often?!

Here and there, around the web and (much less) in person, I've heard of small appliances spontaneously turning themselves on. Googling has turned up some product recall notices and grisly photos of burns, but I'm more interested in personal experiences--have you ever experienced a small appliance spontaneously turning on? What happened? Was there loss of property/limb/life involved? [more inside]
posted by magdalemon at 10:55 AM PST - 24 comments

Can you recommend a tattoo artist in Vancouver, BC or maybe Seattle?

My wife is looking for someone to do a floral tattoo somewhat in the style of this tattoo or this tattoo. Any recommendations would be much appreciated. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by Nelsormensch at 10:42 AM PST - 4 comments

Why is the center of a circle often given as (h, k)?

Why are the letters 'h' and 'k' often used to represent the center of a circle in the standard equation of a circle: (x - h)2 + (y - k)2 = r2 are 'h' and 'k' short for something? I might guess 'h' is short for 'horizontal', but I can't imagine what 'k' is for. [more inside]
posted by Reverend John at 10:21 AM PST - 16 comments

I didn't document all my donations.How do I handle the tax deductibles?

I donated four large bags of clothes to a Goodwill. They gave me a general signed receipt that confirms I donated something, but it is not itemized or contain a value on it. Should I just estimate this value when doing my taxes next year? Or will that be problematic? [more inside]
posted by WCF at 10:15 AM PST - 9 comments

Is Ouya the Emulation Panacea That I Wish For?

I want to play old school videogames (Atari 2600, NES, SNES) with my kids. I have a Wii right now with Homebrew Channel and a handful of Virtual Console games, but the controller feels clunky with NES games and it is not very easy to do SNES or 2600 games. I have read about Ouya at various places and it looks like a pretty smooth system. For those who have an Ouya - is it very easy to load emulators and ROMS? Do they play naturally? [more inside]
posted by AgentRocket at 10:06 AM PST - 9 comments

Recommendations for inexpensive still-image, auto-uploading webcam

My organization is starting a major construction project, anticipated to take about 4 years. We'll be using a Nikon D5300's interval capability to capture high-resolution, high-quality images for archival and documentation purposes. We would also like to be able to monitor the progress remotely over the internet by using a webcam or other camera (under $200) that can take good-quality still images and upload them automatically to our server (or email them) via WiFi. More specifics after the click. [more inside]
posted by The Deej at 10:00 AM PST - 6 comments

Say Yes! to Michigan! (and Wisconsin, and maybe a bit of Indiana too)

What are the must see spots, best time of year, and best route on a road trip around Lake Michigan? [more inside]
posted by Bunglegirl at 9:47 AM PST - 31 comments

Beloved cat is responding horribly to new baby - give us your tips

Our cat has been puking multiple times a day since the arrival of our baby 4 weeks ago. She's been to the vet twice to rule out coincidental health issues - cat is healthy aside from the baby misery, kitty parents are at a loss for how to ease the transition, please help! [more inside]
posted by paddingtonb at 9:43 AM PST - 17 comments

What do I do when okcupid intersects real life?

So, I was always terrified of this happening, but then I got over it. Well, it turns out I was right- eventually, if I stay on okcupid long enough, I'm going to hit the end of single men my age in my city. [more inside]
posted by quincunx at 8:43 AM PST - 39 comments

Chicago dog boarding for pooch that doesn't like other dogs?

We are going to be traveling for a decent amount of time (1-2 weeks) and we need a place to keep our dear pup (a 50 lb mixed breed). [more inside]
posted by AceRock at 7:42 AM PST - 7 comments

Being okay with disliking someone

Have you ever been in a social situation where there was someone who rubbed you the wrong way or who was difficult to deal with but who was kind of inevitably going to be around you? You tried hard to find their good qualities and maybe liked them occasionally but overall just wished you didn't have to interact with them? How did you learn to deal with this situation? Did your relationship with this person ever improve, or did you eventually just learn to live with having negative feelings towards the person? [more inside]
posted by thesnowyslaps at 7:19 AM PST - 31 comments

Good replacement for Adobe InDesign?

I'm running Mavericks now, and I'm hesitant to install InDesign CS3, which was my go-to software for creating documents for our small business. I don't need anything nearly as complicated as InDesign. I need to be able to convert to PDF, add shaded boxes for clients to initial alongside text, and possibly add some photos into a document. I'm creating things like price sheets, contracts, forms, etc. There seem to be a lot of negative reviews about Pages (iWork), but it looks like that's the type of app I need (something simple, easy to learn). Are there any others I should look into?
posted by okay-quiet-time at 6:59 AM PST - 12 comments

Unsure if I should seek clarification on workplace procedures

Sorry if I am vague. Other than seeming to lack leadership qualities my current boss has been nothing but pleasant (I mention this so it doesn't seem like I am questioning whether to do this because of my bosses behavior). I have been working at this place for a few months now. Basically I am unclear on several policies and procedures that are critical to my ability to do my job. I tend to overthink things but at the same time I feel like not understanding leads to a more stressful and possibly not correctly executed set of working conditions. My supervision in this job is nearly non existent and I am somewhat free to act as I see fit but my boss has said he wants things done a certain way. Going further this wasn't a failure to pay attention on my part . There was significant training done by the company but none of it focused on this area. Basically my issue is should I sit down with my boss and seek clarification on a number of points ( something which would probably take 15 minutes) when technically I can do my job without the clarification but it might mean my work may not be in line with my bosses, the companies, or common sense expectations? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:54 AM PST - 11 comments

Where can I find charitable organizations that need volunteer editors?

I'd like to donate some of my time to a charitable organization. The skill I have to offer is copywriting and editing. I can, obviously, do this remotely so the organization could be located anywhere in the world. What's the best way to locate organizations that might be interested in free writing and editing? Is this even a thing?
posted by ladybird at 6:51 AM PST - 8 comments

Report a Gmail hack attempt to the hacker's IP?

Last night, Google notified me of suspicious activity wherein someone used my password to log in to Gmail. Google automatically foiled the attempt, and reported the malicious user's IP address to me. Is it useful/safe to report the abuse to the user's ISP? [more inside]
posted by OHSnap at 6:39 AM PST - 4 comments

Employer reveals they've been inadvertently underpaying me for years

Due to an accounting error, my employer has not been paying me my full salary for the last several years. I'm in sales, and I get paid on commission, so my paycheck fluctuates month to month - I never even noticed my paycheck was always secretly slightly less than what it should have been. My employer just discovered their error and told me immediately. Which I hugely respect. We have a good employment relationship and we'd all like it to continue. They're saying they now owe me about $145k plus interest, and are prepared to write me a check, but they know this raises some tax issues for me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:41 AM PST - 20 comments

Why do my jeans smell after one wear?

Recently my jeans have started lasting only one wear before beginning to smell musty. About halfway through the day, I notice that I've been sweating enough to make the waistband slightly damp and there is a distinct odor coming from my jeans. It comes back quickly after washing, and I've never experienced this before in my life - I'm used to jeans lasting a week or so before switching them out. How do I keep from making my jeans smell, or how do I eliminate the odor permanently in washing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:40 AM PST - 18 comments

Name That Tune -- 1990s edition

I have been wondering for month about a song I sometimes heard on the radio sometime between 1992 and 1997. The chorus is very close to the instruments, beat, and tempo in D.C. Talk's "Just Between You And Me" opening verses (starting at this spot here) but the singer sounds kind of like Seal. It's sung kind of wistfully, but I don't know any lyrics, just how it sounds. Any idea what it could be? I went through Seal's discography one by one, and it's not him. It sounds closest to "Prayer For The Dying", the same sort of delivery and tempo, but that's not it.
posted by crapmatic at 3:02 AM PST - 16 comments

How can I pick myself up and keep going?

I've had a difficult time over the last while and I feel like I've completely run out of steam. How can I keep going and accomplish all I need to? I feel all my motivation is gone and frankly I just want to hibernate but obviously I can't. Have you ideas about how to keep putting one foot in front of the other? [more inside]
posted by outoftime at 2:25 AM PST - 33 comments

April 16

Health insurance woes

My last job had health insurance through a certain company I'll call WORST COMPANY, and they capriciously decided to be assholes about pre-certifying a surgery that my husband needs, as per my husband's surgeon (the surgeon is ready to go, he's been treating my husband for this condition for years now, and he says this is what's required. We've done all the conservative measures and they didn't help). We were fighting with them for almost a year and it was a whole big thing including trying to appeal to the state (which didn't work because then we found out my then-employer had a self-insured plan). It's a long story but please take my word for it that it was capricious and not our fault. I just got a new job and thought "Thank god, we'll start over with someone else." Except my two options are a high-deductible plan through OKAY COMPANY and a regular PPO through...........WORST COMPANY. [more inside]
posted by bleep at 10:05 PM PST - 10 comments

Work situation - am I worrying too much?

I have asked my husband and sister, who are both professionals and say I'm worrying too much. There are three companies involved in this scenario: the first company I worked at for only 6 months, then had another short-term job involved after that. I took the 6-month job off my resume for a while because I didn't want to look like a job-hopper. Anyway, I interviewed at a company 6 weeks ago that saw my resume without the 6-month job on it; they ended up rejecting me for unrelated reasons. I put the 6-month job back on my resume, and then got hired at a new company last week. So it turns out this new company will be working with the company that rejected me (they are both gov't contractors that work on the same contract)...so I may be working directly with the phone interviewers that rejected me (I hope not though). I am probably being paranoid in thinking that they'll ever figure out I put the 6-month job on the resume for one company but left it off for the other, right? *I was completely truthful with the company that ultimately hired me; all jobs were on that resume and verified in a background check. People have advised me that if I'm ever confronted about it, to just say that I accidentally sent an old, outdated resume to the other company. Hope this makes sense, sorry for the confusion...
posted by Maggsie97 at 9:01 PM PST - 13 comments

online dating, texting, and rejection etiquette

I'm an early 30s lesbian who spent most of her 20s in committed relationships. My latest and most significant ended about a year ago and I've started dipping my toe in the scary online dating waters. I'm not ready to get serious yet but since I've been in these long relationships, I've never really 'dated around' per se, except maybe in my very early 20s- although at the time I was pretty closeted and neurotic, so I hardly even count that. Anyway, I registered on OkCupid and messaged back and forth with a few people. Somewhat naively, I gave two of them my phone number to text. BAD IDEA. More inside.. [more inside]
posted by anad487 at 8:22 PM PST - 16 comments

Home phone service for Google Voice XMPP refugees?

Like a lot of folks, I bought an Obihai VOIP adapter primarily for the free Google Voice XMPP calling, and like a lot of folks, I'm saddened by the loss of the essentially free home phone service. Obihai has listed Anveo and Phone Power as "Approved Service Partners", but there seem to be a lot of other options out there, and I was just wondering if anyone has any recommendations for BYOD VOIP providers that are affordable but also likely to be around in a year or two so I don't have to find a new provider on short notice.
posted by tonycpsu at 8:09 PM PST - 8 comments

How to express love with Saturday Matinee clichés…

In my (D/s) relationship saying “I love you” is totally out of the question. However, expressions of affection and adoration expressing that sentiment are allowed and highly encouraged. In old B&W movies of the 1930’s/40’s I hear phrases like: “In my eyes there’s no man taller” (about a vertically challenged suitor), and “You set the sun, hang the moon and paint the stars"... Sappy, sentimental, campy, corny, kinky (bonus points for kinkified!), and just plain funny phrases that will let someone know that they are "the only duck in my pond" are what I’m after.
posted by goml at 6:38 PM PST - 18 comments

What do adjuncts do over the summer?

I'm an English adjunct and the end of semester (and my employment) is 20 days away. My dept isn't hiring adjuncts for summer. The community colleges in my city don't have any openings. Where can I find work to survive the summer? [more inside]
posted by joyeuxamelie at 6:03 PM PST - 15 comments

Young, 24 year old woman suffering from chronic constipation

I was wondering if anyone knows what my digestive system/ body is struggling with: I am almost 24 years old. I have a very stressful teaching job, and sometimes I don't eat very well because I don't have access to a supermarket. But, even before I started this job, I began to suffer from constipation. I only experience a bowel movement on average once every four days (often it takes a week.) My father has Crohn's disease, and I have been to see his doctor. His doctor told me that he sees a lot of young women with this problem, and he recommends that I take miralax regularly. I take it about once every other day, and occasionally drink Senna tea. But it doesn't always help. I have trouble particularly the week before my period. Have any other young women experienced this kind of thing? Is it as common as my doctor says? Does anyone have "home remedy" advice that actually works well?
posted by anonymous at 5:56 PM PST - 34 comments

Binocular Vision in Pterosaurs

I am trying to find any information about binocular vision in pterosaurs. [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 5:32 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I find out more about being a doctor for the CDC?

I want to work for the CDC after med school and residency, but I don't know how to show people (particularly med school adcoms) just how serious I am about this. I'm applying to med schools this cycle and want to mention my CDC aspirations, but am afraid that doing so might inadvertently hurt my application because I have no experience with the CDC. [more inside]
posted by acthelight at 5:25 PM PST - 13 comments

like tupperware, but for stress

Basically I'm curious what tips and tricks folks have for compartmentalizing, so stress in one area of your life has less of an impact on other areas. [more inside]
posted by pennypiper at 5:00 PM PST - 9 comments

Literature review hacks, please!

I'm in grad school and am writing a literature review as part of my capstone project. I have done a lot of initial research and have created awesome annotated bibliographies - it's just not enough, though. [more inside]
posted by WaspEnterprises at 4:56 PM PST - 4 comments

What is this weird foot pain?

Three or four weeks ago I fell at work...and then days later, fell down some steps at home. I know, I'm coordinated like that. Ever since the falls I've had pain that goes across the top of my foot. It's been a while now and the pain isn't getting better...but it's not getting worse either. What could it be? [more inside]
posted by christinetheslp at 3:42 PM PST - 9 comments

What's this restaurant I barely remember in Philadelphia?

Sometime around 2005 I went to brunch in a converted farmhouse in a park in Philadelphia. What was that place? [more inside]
posted by crazy with stars at 3:19 PM PST - 5 comments

how do i stop my parents dictating my life?

How do I keep my parents from being quite so upset, angry and unreasonable, while retaining control over my wedding, marriage and life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:00 PM PST - 22 comments

Save me from my dumb brain

How can I stop thinking about the woman who broke my heart? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:59 PM PST - 15 comments

What's a great PS3 game for multiplayer gaming at the library?

My library has a Playstation 3 gaming program, and I'm looking to buy a few new games for it. Most of the people who come are ages 10-14, and I'm looking for games that would be appropriate for that age group (yes, I know most of them play Halo and Grand Theft Auto at home, but for the library they should really be rated T and under). We have some sports games (soccer, basketball, car racing) and some fighting games (Marvel Vs. Capcom, Street Fighter), and I'd really like a good game or two that doesn't fit in those boxes, but I'd be open to really good sports and fighting games. Oh -- and it should DEFINITELY have multiplayer. What should I get? (We definitely can't get a next-gen console.)
posted by Jeanne at 2:38 PM PST - 24 comments

In search of a more focused and efficient way to squander my time.

This morning someone posted a sweet gaming room to reddit (picture has since been taken down), and it made me think, "gee, I'm an adult now, I can do anything I want!" And since I'm nothing if not impulsive, I now really want to buy a video game console. For the first time ever. If I use both hands, I still have leftover fingers when counting the number of times I've played a video game in my life. Show me your ways, geeks of MetaFilter! [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 2:26 PM PST - 19 comments

How to combat mental shutdown triggered by feelings of inadequacy.

So this will usually be in a family setting. I live quite far away from most members of my family (brothers, cousins etc). I look forward to seeing them but when I do something happens. For the first few hours everything is great, I'm happy to see them. We're getting on great. Then slowly but surely I start to feel that my life is inadequate, and that I am inadequate. Witty responses become sarcastic putdowns and insults. I feel like I'm taking things the wrong way. My own capacity for conversation and fun becomes subdued and almost entirely non-existent. I overthink every word. I feel completely mentally drained. And I wish they would leave as soon as possible! I know I was happy before the visit or stay. I know I never felt inadequate with any of my friends or work colleagues. But I feel really bad that I feel this way and I feel even worse in the actual situation. [more inside]
posted by razzman at 2:20 PM PST - 11 comments

Stranger came up our driveway twice. Should I call the police?

My brother tells me that he saw a white pickup truck park outside our house. An older guy in his 60's or 70's walked up the driveway about 3/4 of the way, turned away from our house, stood there watching the street for about 10 seconds, then walked down. He repeated all of these actions one more time, then left. We had no cars at the house at the time, so I'm assuming he thought no one was home. Considering he didn't knock and came up twice, I'm worried about this and am wondering if it would be going too far to call the police. Can you think of any other possible reasons for someone to act in this way? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Thanquol180 at 2:03 PM PST - 28 comments

Pronouce kestävyys

Simple: How do you pronounce the Finnish word 'kestävyys' ? [more inside]
posted by edgeways at 2:01 PM PST - 2 comments

Which juicer should we buy for our juicing needs?

We are interested in juicing everything from leafy greens to soft fruits to beets/carrots. I love the idea of the Omega J8003/8004 because of how good it is supposed to be with kale, and I love the idea of making nut butters and pasta, but I would hate to not be able to make pineapple or kiwi juice. Is it really as terrible for soft fruits as some reviewers claim? [more inside]
posted by never.was.and.never.will.be. at 1:22 PM PST - 9 comments

Weird NYC & DC! RIYL Mütter Museum, Body Worlds, anatomical collections?

My favorite place in the entire world is Philadelphia's exquisite and incomparable Mütter Museum, I've seen Body Worlds more than a dozen times... and you should probably refrain from clicking either of those links if you are squeamish. I will soon be spending a week in NYC followed by a week in Washington, DC. Can you help me make a list of similar museums, exhibits, and collections to visit while I'm there? [more inside]
posted by divined by radio at 1:18 PM PST - 11 comments

Who do I address this employment coverletter to?

I'm about to apply for a job that's a great fit for me! But one thing has me stumped. The ad says to send resumes to S_smith@perfectjob.org. The staff directory says S. Smith is the "HR assistant." However, I know the name of the executive director and the person who heads the department I would be working in. Do I address my cover letter to the HR assistant, the executive director, or the department head? (I'm pretty sure I should not direct it generically to "Hiring Manager.")
posted by vespabelle at 12:50 PM PST - 19 comments

Swiss Chard Recipies

The thing I do with Swiss Chard -- chopped, sauteed w/olive oil, garlic, maybe lemon juice -- is fine. But I've got some chard I want to use tonight, and I'm in the mood for better than fine. What do you do with Swiss Chard that's amazing?
posted by .kobayashi. at 12:31 PM PST - 28 comments

Recommendations for Puget Sound civil law firm

A verbal promise for partial ownership in the company I work for needs to become a paper contract, and given the power differential and the several years since this promise has been discussed in detail, I need recommendations for the best possible attorneys to have on my side. This is in the Puget Sound area.
posted by anonymous at 12:22 PM PST - 2 comments

Transitioning to become a therapist

Evidently, I am a very good listener. Is there any realistic chance of using this to transition to either a career or a side-job as a counselor of some sort? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:22 PM PST - 13 comments

What Video Camera Should I Get For Recording Family Interviews?

Looking for a recommendation of a video camera (and anything else necessary like external microphone etc) that is inexpensive but good enough that I won't regret not spending more money. If I could spend $200 that would be great, but if you tell me I'll kick myself for not spending $300 then I can do that. [more inside]
posted by Mjolnir at 12:19 PM PST - 7 comments

Move Me

Favorite pairings of music + imagery? [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 12:08 PM PST - 13 comments

Can you quantify the energy of spring?

It's spring and the plants and trees which have been bare for months are bursting into life. I've been thinking it must take a lot of energy for a tree to go from having no leaves at all to being covered in too many to count in a relatively short period of time. But how much energy exactly? [more inside]
posted by neilb449 at 12:04 PM PST - 4 comments

Getting Voted off the Island (Victoria-Seattle Edition)

Rent a car on the island? Ferry, then rent a car stateside? Looking for low cost, shortest transit time from Nanaimo/Victoria to Seattle. Don't want to fly. [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 11:41 AM PST - 20 comments

Looking for books to nourish my 26yr old soul (Warning: v. picky)

Specifically books about the blossoming of The Self [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 11:29 AM PST - 31 comments

Need an Easter dress, plus size, short notice.

My grandparents are very elderly and chances are very good this will be at least one's last Easter. I hate dressing up, in dresses especially, but doing so always makes them absolutely delighted. So, I spent a lot of time taking measurements and stuff to order something well ahead of time from an online retailer who has been making excuses for weeks and finally said they'd refund my money because they can't get my order to me after all. Well... okay, clothes aren't my forte at the best of times, I need emergency fashion assistance. [more inside]
posted by Sequence at 11:23 AM PST - 30 comments

Requested SSDI hearing, benefits stopped anyway

I requested an SSDI hearing within the amount of time needed to continue my benefits. I spoke with the office twice, in person, to ensure that I had done what I needed to to continue my benefits. As my benefits didn't arrive today, I have done some frantic searching and determined that SSA never gave me the form that said, yes please, I would like benefits continuing, although I have proof as to when I asked for the appeal. [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 11:19 AM PST - 9 comments

The 5:2 Diet -- The Vegan Edition!

Looking for recipes/blogs/maybe cookbooks that deal with the The 5:2 Diet but with a vegan twist. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 11:12 AM PST - 3 comments

Really engaging books on 70s (prog-ish) rock music?

Can anyone recommend a really excellent book, preferably one with lots of illustrations, wacky anecdotes, and/or other intensely engaging content about 1970s rock music? Specifically music of the "prog-ish" type, e.g., early Genesis. I poked around on Amazon a bit but nothing really stood out... [more inside]
posted by aecorwin at 10:50 AM PST - 11 comments

Looking for a decently priced New Jersey weekend beach house!

8-10 people want to rent a beach house in New Jersey for a weekend (ideally Asbury Park), hopefully for $50/person per night. Everything we've seen wants a week-long commitment. Is our New Jersey beach weekend feasible? [more inside]
posted by Hwaet at 10:12 AM PST - 7 comments

What is this song?

What is the name of the song / artist of this song? [more inside]
posted by dilaudid at 10:05 AM PST - 7 comments

Gimme, gimme that GOOD data...wind direction + air quality in Chicago

I'm working on a little side project mashing up some interesting data to get a better historical picture of some city-level decisions around urban planning. And I'm trying to chase down two types of data (the only two categories that have eluded me thus far.) [more inside]
posted by jeanmari at 10:01 AM PST - 6 comments

I'm addicted to pornography and need help.

I've amassed quite a collection, and have become compulsive about collecting and organizing my images and videos. I've been denying it for a while, but as it's been getting worse as of late I think I need some help and advice; I'd particularly like to hear from guys who have dealt with this issue, as I'm pretty sure this affects the dudes more than the ladies. NSFW, I guess. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:54 AM PST - 16 comments

Make Facebook stop annoying me!

Typing anything in a Facebook entry box (search bar, status update, comment field) that causes a list of possible things I might want to link (friend's name, company, page I've "liked") to come up freezes Firefox. Completely. Except not every time, and not consistently. Help! [more inside]
posted by booksherpa at 9:51 AM PST - 4 comments

Whattayado in Lyons CO that's not pinball?

Family is heading to the pinball nationals in Lyons CO on May 18. We want to expand our trip to involve some family funtime in the area in the week before the tournament. Where should we stay? What should we not miss? What should we avoid at all costs? More inside. [more inside]
posted by theplotchickens at 9:49 AM PST - 4 comments

How to find a good balloon twister in Northern New Jersey / New York?

We're looking to a hire a good balloon twister / balloon artist for my kid's birthday party in Northern New Jersey but we can't find a Yelp equivalent for suggestions, and we don't want to pick one randomly from the Google results. Can anyone give us some suggestions? We're pretty close to New York City so someone from there would be fine as well.
posted by exhilaration at 9:33 AM PST - 5 comments

Blog-Magazines For Cool Colorful Punk Babes

Lately I've been really into the blog Ribbon Around A Bomb, who writes about female-fronted 70s post-punk, Twin Peaks, feminist art, and leather jackets. I also love The Pulp Zine, which is full of teen dreams and high school small town angst, an obsession with Burger Records, 90s nostalgia, black lipstick and pink hair. I'm looking for more blogs that cover punk, garage rock, femme fun, DIY, weirdo fashion, nostalgia, queerness, creativity, feminism, art, and worship of countercultural idols. Basically, I'm a fully-grown scummy punk boyfemme who wants the experience of flipping through a teen magazine tailored to my interests. What other sites would I love? [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 9:17 AM PST - 3 comments

Need some Japanese reading practice.

I want to receive one article, preferably about current events, written in Japanese, on my Kindle, every day. How can I arrange this? [more inside]
posted by Vorteks at 8:56 AM PST - 7 comments

He shot the sheriff, but he swears ..

Has anyone in the US ever been acquitted of killing an on-duty police officer on grounds of self-defense?
posted by LonnieK at 8:16 AM PST - 10 comments

Am I uptight, or is he being a perv?

I'm a woman in my mid 40's, and my husband is in his early 50's. We've been married over 20 years, have 3 great kids and a relatively good life. But our sex life has taken a weird turn here lately (at least for me). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:56 AM PST - 42 comments

Parent may have cheated the other out of significant money. What to do?

I think one of my (divorced) parents may have withdrawn legally shared assets and the other parent may be unaware. What is my moral responsibility in this situation, or is it none of my business? Complexities inside. [more inside]
posted by corb at 7:52 AM PST - 19 comments

There's something wrong with my eyes. Help?

I have been having increasing problems with my vision over the past few years. I've seen an ophthalmologist, a retina specialist, and had some tests done, but they haven't found anything. Do you have any suggestions for how to proceed? [more inside]
posted by insectosaurus at 7:29 AM PST - 17 comments

How do I deal with this potential street harasser (if at all)?

How do I deal with this potential street harasser (if at all)? Details within. [more inside]
posted by joeyjoejoejr at 7:20 AM PST - 29 comments

How do I file back/prior-year taxes with a IRS Wage & Income Statement?

After filing my US taxes for 2013 on time, I've decided to bite the bullet and file my delinquent 2008 tax return. I am disorganized and no longer have any of my paperwork. I got a Wage and Income Transcript from the IRS site, which has all the info I need. Do I just file this transcript with my return in lieu of W-2s and 1099s? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:18 AM PST - 4 comments

Journal paper, conference paper, book chapter

[academic-filter] Let's say I've done some snazzy research from which I want to produce two journal papers, a conference paper and a book chapter. How different should the conference paper and book chapter be from the journal papers? Is there an order in which I should publish them? [more inside]
posted by hannahlambda at 5:26 AM PST - 11 comments

What Am I Good For? Hopefully Absolutely Something

So I did an aptitude test way back when, and the results were thus: *is good at short-term transactions, interactions, is creative and possesses superior verbal skills.*. [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 4:11 AM PST - 18 comments

Taxi etiquette in Indonesia?

Yesterday I took a (metred) taxi in Bali. Upon arriving at my destination, I attempted to pay the driver. He said "no sir, no sir" and made me get out of the taxi, at which point I paid him by passing the money to him through the open passenger-side window. Is this some kind of local taxi etiquette? Is there a reason for it?
posted by modernnomad at 1:56 AM PST - 10 comments

Impending pet death (probably). How do I take care of the remains?

I think I'm about to have to deal with the loss of a beloved pet cat. I am not sure how to best handle dealing with her remains. I want to keep them. Can anyone help me figure this out? [more inside]
posted by Because at 12:58 AM PST - 13 comments

April 15

Who's doing all that clicking and tapping?

How does Google make so much money on advertising when everyone I know says they rarely click/tap on search ads and display ads? [more inside]
posted by Dansaman at 11:29 PM PST - 26 comments

Making A (Not Too Heavy or Bulky) Statement

I'm going to climb a mountain. I want to hold up a banner and take a picture when I get to the top. Help me get a banner made that is ideal for the job. [more inside]
posted by shew at 9:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Moving in together and savings

My partner makes money and has savings. I am a grad student, have no savings, but will make money. How to handle potential cohabitation? [more inside]
posted by inevitability at 9:31 PM PST - 20 comments

I got a rock. Lots of rocks, actually.

So! We bought a house, and it has a yard, and some of the beds are lined with 6-8 inch (15-20" cm) field stone. I would like more, and a friend says she has a lot more that I can have for free! Her land is about an hour from my place. We own cars, not trucks. How do I get the rocks from there to here? [more inside]
posted by RogueTech at 9:02 PM PST - 14 comments

No time to breathe, let alone check Blue Book value

According to my trusted mechanic, the transmission on my aged buggy is shot (I haven't had 3rd gear for a while, and now the car has begun to have trouble getting into 2nd and 4th) and the car is not worth the cost of fixing it. Fair enough--except that I literally don't have time to buy another (used) one right now. Things will calm down slightly in the second week of May, but not until then. And while I'm aware of other options (the bus, taxi/car services), I don't have the time and money to rely exclusively on those until my schedule eases up. Nor can I afford to rent a car until then. So I'm wondering if anyone can suggest a short-term option that I might be overlooking, up to and including a Magic Car Fairy. Alternatively, if anyone has experience driving a car with this kind of issue and can tell me how safe (or un-) it is, I'd appreciate that input.
posted by chicainthecity at 8:54 PM PST - 16 comments

What does it mean to be "psychologically flooded"?

My girlfriend has a diagnosed anxiety order. Oftentimes in conversation she has trouble processing what is said and pretty much shuts down. After the conversation she tells me that she was flooded and doesn't remember what we discussed. I want to learn more about psychological flooding. Can you help me find some resources to learn more about it? I didn't have much luck with my keyword searches on Google. Specifically I want to learn if there are ways I can help her become flooded less often. Thanks!
posted by speedoavenger at 8:29 PM PST - 18 comments

Networking: Is there an app for that?

I have a jailbroken iPad. I need to study for computer certifications (A+, Security+, Networking+) in a remote location, but I'm having a hiccup. [more inside]
posted by DisreputableDog at 7:46 PM PST - 2 comments

Helping a preschooler who's about to move!

Helping our preschooler move from one home to another: we have lots of flexibility, so we want to plan the best transition we can as he leaves behind the school and friends he loves. [more inside]
posted by kalapierson at 6:45 PM PST - 6 comments

Bad Roommate II: Electric Boogohgodpleasekillme

Problematic roommate finally moves out. Everybody is happy! Problematic roommate gives one day's notice that she is moving back in. Everybody is sad! How to head off disaster? [more inside]
posted by dekathelon at 5:55 PM PST - 55 comments

Dickinson Island, Harsens Island and a lot of other islands

In the State of Michigan, east of Detroit, on the north side of Lake St. Clair, within Anchor Bay, there are two islands. Dickinson Island and Harsens Island. What do you know about these places? [more inside]
posted by lstanley at 5:38 PM PST - 4 comments

In need of a kid-safe kindle cover

our previous kid-centric tablet died and so did some research and bought a kindle. However, now we need to find a cover to help our kids from breaking it in half. [more inside]
posted by zombieApoc at 5:34 PM PST - 4 comments

Please rescue my thieves

I’ve gone and written myself into a corner in a story I’m writing. I need to figure out how two thieves can escape from the grounds of a castle. [more inside]
posted by talitha_kumi at 3:38 PM PST - 46 comments

What are some sports teams that have a large number of rivalries?

I am a fan of the New York Rangers hockey club. Part of the fun of being a Rangers fan is that the team is a part of an unusually large number of heated rivalries. Or maybe it's not so unusual. What other examples are there of sports teams that have many different rivals? [more inside]
posted by GalaxieFiveHundred at 3:28 PM PST - 21 comments

Large, pretty, possibly handmade chess set - more details?

Bought a large, possibly handmade chess set at a thrift store - can anyone give me more info about it? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 3:22 PM PST - 6 comments

No, not Tiggers! Triggers.

I would like to give a short awareness talk aimed at raising awareness of triggers. Five minutes or less, keyed towards the safety issues for the trigeree. What key points should I include? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:11 PM PST - 8 comments

When (not?) to ask for a job.

I've prepared a speculative application for a job in Industry in the UK. It has been suggested to me that sending it now would be a mistake since we're heading into the Easter holidays. Is this good advice that I should follow or just a cynical opinion from someone who has nothing at stake? [more inside]
posted by Eumachia L F at 2:49 PM PST - 9 comments

New Teacher Hired, Pissing Off Veteran Staff, Help?

I'm in my first year as a principal at a special needs high school and recently, the school director (above me organizationally) hired a new teacher who isn't quite fitting in. Far too many staff members have approached me and basically, this new teacher is pissing a lot of people off. It's not worthwhile to get into specifics, but it is fair to say that their issues are valid and this new teacher acts like a know-it-all, she's fairly abrasive and dismissive to seasoned staff. These teachers are well-respected in our field and great at their jobs. [more inside]
posted by kinetic at 2:35 PM PST - 23 comments

How to Sell Fine Art?

My mother owned some art from the 60s-80s, and she passed a little over four years ago; since then, it has been in my spare closet. I would like to sell it, if possible, because I believe some of the work is valuable, but the closed art market makes that impossible to assess. I understand that to sell art, the broker/seller/?? will take a percentage of a sale, which is fine. But I've asked around (here in Portland, ME) and I haven't received a reference for someone who can help me with that. Please let me know if you have any suggestions.
posted by miss tea at 2:25 PM PST - 7 comments

Documentary comparing Allied Occupations of Germany and Japan after WWII

Does anyone know of a documentary film that compares the Allied occupations (and "rehabilitation") of Germany and Japan after World War II? Bonus if it's about 50 minutes in length. [more inside]
posted by dhens at 2:19 PM PST - 1 comment

How to ship the motherload

Hoping to ship my mom a gift basket including a pint or two of cold brewed iced coffee concentrate... is this possible? [more inside]
posted by rubster at 2:03 PM PST - 5 comments

I just watched two seasons of Toddlers and Tiaras. I need help.

I'm sick. I'm watching a lot of Netflix. Specifically, I've been watching a lot of Toddlers and Tiaras. At first I didn't know what had come over me, but I think...I just like watching kids get interviewed about their lives? Even if their lives are ridiculous? I'm in my early thirties and I'm also super into those AT&T commercials so maybe it's a biological clock thing, but I'm too exhausted to second-guess myself about it. I know John & Kate + 8 exists, but that's just as gross and exploitative as T&T, as far as I can tell. I loved the 7 Up documentaries and also enjoyed Babies. What other recommendations for reality TV/documentary film about kids, pitched to adults, do you have for me? Bonus points if it's online. Thanks!
posted by pretentious illiterate at 2:00 PM PST - 26 comments

Clean out XP for Solo Operation

My XP system is severed from the internet and runs beautifully as a stand alone. It has never been as responsive as now. I still have nag screens that are looking for an anti-virus and firewall. How are they disabled? I used REVO Uninstaller and CCleaner to remove as much of the old internet crud as possible. What other internet features that are not listed in Add or Remove programs or Revo can be removed and how is it done?
posted by Raybun at 1:48 PM PST - 4 comments

A budding question

Oh gardeners and florists and other plant people of Mefi, can you help me figure out what this flower is? [more inside]
posted by WidgetAlley at 1:47 PM PST - 5 comments

Online language classes, Bay Area

CCSF offers online beginning Italian, but that's all I'm seeing. I am looking for beginner language classes in any language that is not English or French offered online through a California community college. Can you suggest any? [more inside]
posted by blnkfrnk at 1:43 PM PST - 3 comments

Selling on ebay, does this sound legit

Yesterday I put up an unlocked iPhone 4s on ebay for sale. It literally sold in about a minute. This old phone sold at the price it was originally purchased for. I sent the buyer an invoice. They paid it with another minute. For this old phone, that's about 3 versions behind. This makes me leery, especially since the email from ebay says SHIP NOW. Shouldn't I wait for money to appear in my Paypal account? Is it odd that this old phone sold so quickly at such a high price to buyer in the continental United States? If it's legit, do I really ship NOW?
posted by sock, the puppet at 1:38 PM PST - 19 comments

What do to after losing job in Ohio: health care, unemployement, etc..

A good friend has been fired from her low paid private school job in the Cleveland Ohio area and is looking for advice on what she needs to do in the short term. She works in a somewhat hard to find work in field (music therapy for children) She's in her mid 40s and is single, no dependents. Her health insurance will run out at the end of this month. Her salary is perhaps 30k, maybe lower. She has no savings but family in the area who will likely help w/ rent, etc.. but they are limited as well in what they can do financially to help her as they are retired on a fixed income. What are concrete steps she should take in order to make sure she has: health care (medicaid? ACA exchange insurance since she had a qualified life event?) unemployment insurance (what separation reason should she ask for for her employer NOT to fight this?) food stamps (if they exist any more for single people) links to possible sources of jobs in her field Anything else? Thanks!
posted by bottlebrushtree at 1:17 PM PST - 10 comments

Ideas for short anecdotes

Lately I've been looking into pursuing my love for comics by writing one-page stories. Catch is, I'm experimenting with layering the stories and de-linearizing them, but I need simple story ideas for the most basic layer of the piece. My best bet would be working with something similar to a parable or anecdote which I can later complicate, but where can I find helpful ideas / inspiration? [more inside]
posted by omar.a at 1:06 PM PST - 7 comments

My mother has Schizophrenia, how can I help her?

For the last few years my mother has had symptoms of schizophrenia. She believes that an organization is following her, harassing her and screwing job opportunities. She is taken things to a extreme level and has called cops accusing individuals, family members, and others who don't even know her. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by The1andonly at 12:45 PM PST - 10 comments

How to match auto body paint?

I have to replace an 8 yr old Subaru fender. A standard color. The new piece comes primed, w/out paint. My understanding is the shop gets the color code, and attempts a match, knowing the color has faded. Question- good shop will be able to vary the mix, try a few samples on an unobtrusive spot, and we pick one? It sounds easy. What should I look for in a shop? What to be wary of? How many coats?
posted by ebesan at 12:43 PM PST - 5 comments

Anxiety re: The Job Search.

I am most likely getting laid off in about a month or so, at which time I will be able to collect unemployment. However, unemployment doesn’t last forever. The thing is, my anxiety about the job search is preventing me from doing what’s required to get the next gig. Can you give me the kick in the butt that I need? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by koolaidnovel at 12:25 PM PST - 15 comments

What to see and what not to see in Chicago

Sooooo... my parents will visiting loverly Chicago... unfortunately, I just noticed that they won't fly in May 17th, but APRIL 17th. In two days. I'm a dumb. Anyway, I need some advice on what we should check out while they're here. I have a couple ideas, but I haven't done much of Chicago's touristy stuff since I moved in several years ago. What are some big obvious things that are actually worth the hype? Any hidden gems you like? They'll be staying downtown, but we'll have cars available so travel isn't a problem. I have mobility issues, so bonus if it's sitting down/limited standing.
posted by Evilspork at 12:14 PM PST - 18 comments

Short TV series with short episodes!

I'm looking for good TV shows that have a short season (9-10 episodes absolute maximum) with episodes that are 30 minutes or less. A mini-series of 3-5 episodes that is available on Amazon Prime would be ideal. Does this exist?!
posted by aaanastasia at 12:14 PM PST - 31 comments

Competitive people pleaser seeks self-identity.

I have a deeply ingrained habit of being both a people pleaser and caring a lot about accomplishments, winning prizes, receiving accolades, getting praise and recognition from others. However, so much so that it clouds what I really want to do in terms of my career. Was this you? Did you recover from it? How did you sort it out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:09 PM PST - 10 comments

Text message archiving for businesses

Is there an all in one solution that will archive text message conversations for multiple styles of phones? Even more caveats inside... [more inside]
posted by dukes909 at 11:54 AM PST - 5 comments

My girlfriend's insurance ended, how to get psych meds?

My girlfriend just recently found out that she was dropped from her insurance. She signed up for an ACA plan, but coverage doesn't begin until the first day of May. This is a problem, because she's on several psychiatric medications that are either pivotal in allowing her to function, have terrible withdrawal symptoms, or both. [more inside]
posted by Two Stranger at 11:50 AM PST - 24 comments

Cityson is graduating, and we'll all be hungry to celebrate.

Cityson is graduating from a Western NY University. He's done great, and we're all as proud as we can be. About 8 family members are making the overnight trip, and would like to have a nice dinner after traveling on Friday, the evening before the ceremony, which is on Saturday, May 17. We're all staying at the same hotel in Bath, NY and Cityson requested a family restaurant meal rather than splitting up the extended family, as only a graduate and parents may attend the University-sponsored pregraduation dinner. I don't want to leave my own elderly parents and aunt to fend for themselves for dinner, either. The problem is that we've not eaten out at a restaurant nicer than a diner the entire time he's been a student, and have no idea where to go. [more inside]
posted by citygirl at 11:43 AM PST - 3 comments

Should I be panicking about my Bank of America password?

(Keeping this anonymous because I'm worried my security's compromised and don't want to make it worse.) So for about the past six weeks, the log-in process on the Bank of America site has been behaving strangely for me. When I go to the BOA site I see my online userID in the normal way and click on it. That then takes me to the sitekey confirmation page where --weirdly-- my password is now showing up in plaintext on the login page, above the sitekey image. The first time this happened it was displaying my then-current password, which I immediately logged in with and changed. Since then, every time I go to log in I see the old password in plaintext, above the sitekey. When I enter either my then-current or my actually-current password it's rejected and I need to go through the reset process before I can successfully log in. I'm not freaking out, because there's no strange activity in my accounts. But still, it's unnerving. So..... what might be going on here, and what should I do about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:27 AM PST - 15 comments

How do they know how long we should cook it?

When the good folks at Nestle USA (Lean Cuisine) and ConAgra Foods (Health Choice) package the meals that wind up in our microwaves, how do they know how long we should cook them? I assume it has something to do with volume and density of the food. What else? And for those of us who like to think about such things: How come you cook some of them all the way through, but others have to be stirred before being reinserted for a second blaze of rays? And how come you cut that slit over the vegetables in some, but not others? And the dessert is pretty much always uncovered. Why is that? Counting on you, MeFites.
posted by John Borrowman at 10:40 AM PST - 9 comments

Silence a loud outdoor gate

My landlord just installed an alley gate between my building and another. It was in response to some attempted break-ins from the back of the walkup. The problem is that when the door slams shut, it’s really loud and startling. On a Saturday, it slams shut very loudly around 20 or so times a day (not really an exaggeration). To me being the noise sensitive type, who gets a jolt of adrenalin each time it happens, this is a very bad addition to my already urban environs. [more inside]
posted by shimmer at 10:06 AM PST - 9 comments

8 days in Ireland: Southwest or Northwest?

Planning a trip to Ireland. Flying in and out of Dublin. 8 days, one car, three drivers. Help me prioritize where to go. [more inside]
posted by elizeh at 8:21 AM PST - 15 comments

How should I cut my long, very fine hair?

Help me decide on a haircut! I have very fine, mostly straight hair that is currently about an inch and a half past my shoulders. I'd like some ideas for haircuts (without going short). [more inside]
posted by aka burlap at 8:10 AM PST - 12 comments

What should I give - if anything - to my good friend as a wedding gift?

One of my best friends from college is getting married this week . The ceremony is small (just family) so I was not invited. I'd like to give her a gift but I'm not sure what. [more inside]
posted by Shadow Boxer at 7:50 AM PST - 13 comments

Raw Milk. Southern Louisiana. Moo.

Can anyone offer any leads about getting raw milk in the Baton Rouge area? [more inside]
posted by ashtabula to opelika at 6:59 AM PST - 19 comments

Thin onion rings in the twin cities of Minneapolis and St. Paul?

My wife loves those thin onion rings and has a birthday coming up. She'd like to celebrate at at some place that has great skinny rings. Can you recommend any restaurants with tasty onion rings in Minneapolis, St. Paul, or any of the Twin Cities suburbs? I can't recall what the onion rings are like at different restaurants and her examples of good rings are from other cities.
posted by Area Man at 6:28 AM PST - 14 comments

Where can one see working sheepdogs in Scotland?

My wife and I are visiting Scotland in late June, and would love to see working sheepdogs. I've read a lot about Leault Farms, of course, but are there any others where the public can watch the dog(s) as they herd sheep (or ducks, or whatever)?
posted by Mogur at 5:47 AM PST - 5 comments

List of every company in NYC?

Is there a non-dodgy way to get a list of every single company in NYC? (I guess every legal entity?) [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 5:06 AM PST - 10 comments

Cost of Humira in the UK??

Can't get a straight answer from the NHS or Googles - does anyone know the actual cost of Humira (Adalimumab) if purchased privately in the UK?
posted by Carravanquelo at 1:37 AM PST - 8 comments

Is it irrational to buy health insurance when eligible for Medi-Cal?

Because my livelihood currently derives from the regular receiving of a remittance from my family, I'm without taxable income and thus eligible under the Affordable Health Care Act for California's state-funded health insurance Medi-Cal. At the same time, I'm in a position to purchase low-grade private health insurance without terrible hardship. Medi-Cal seemed to make sense because it is basically free health care, and I signed up. Mefites have also written positively about it. However, looking now at the stripe of participating providers and hospitals, and, especially, looking at the extremely negative yelp.com reviews that have been posted of these providers and hospitals, I have become scared. [more inside]
posted by bertran at 12:56 AM PST - 20 comments

April 14

I have no idea if I am this dude's friend, date, or source of intrigue

I met a guy on okc last October. He asked me out several times during November and I cancelled every time. He then deactivated his account for three months. He reappeared mid March this year and we have been hanging out once or twice a week since. To what end I am completely unsure. I guess I could just come out and ask him but I am a complete freak when it comes to my own romantic situations - I have no idea how to read them, I cannot guide myself and I spend a lot of time very, very confused... as well as bordering on panic. Help me figure out what is going on here and what I should do about it. There is a very long story inside, but I swear to you, I have looked on here, as well as googled my issue and all I can find is quizzes on cosmopolitan.com to help me, or advice blogs from chauvinists. Of no assistance. [more inside]
posted by DeadFlagBlues at 11:28 PM PST - 21 comments

Just one year old marriage and in crisis

Just one year old marriage and in crisis [more inside]
posted by Sall at 7:48 PM PST - 21 comments

One date with someone who was bereaved shortly after

I've been on one date with a man whose brother died shortly afterwards. I want to support him and respect his decisions (including about whether to continue the relationship) but absolutely do not want to take advantage of his grief. I don't know how to approach this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:53 PM PST - 18 comments

How long do I have to put up with SNRI side effects?

How long do I have to put up with SNRI side effects? And which ones will go away? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:52 PM PST - 9 comments

Highway 101 between Portland and San Francisco by Bike - Side Trips?

A group of 6-10 of us are going to be biking between Portland and San Francisco along Highway 101. What would be the best places to stop for day side trips? [more inside]
posted by saul wright at 6:42 PM PST - 6 comments

Can you help me find my mom's cat?

My mom is out of town for a couple of weeks and she asked me to take her cat to my house, which is about an hour away from hers. The cat moved in here a week ago with no real problems. Today, she went missing, and I would really like to find her. Can you help me? [more inside]
posted by TheTingTangTong at 6:40 PM PST - 25 comments

How do I make IMAP work for me?

IMAP is supposed to be able to preserve message state information across clients. So why is it that my email read/unread states aren't transferring from my Macbook to my iPhone? [more inside]
posted by capricorn at 6:31 PM PST - 5 comments

I'm a bird! I'm a bird! I'm a bird!... but what kind?

The birdsong in question! This is a bird in southeast Portland, OR. We've never caught a definite glimpse of it, so I cannot give any details on size/color/et cetera. This is its main song (although it was singing kind of short this day); it cycles this for an hour or more. It varies slightly at some point, but then comes back.
posted by curious nu at 6:11 PM PST - 8 comments

Cat dying of kidney failure -- what to expect?

I brought my 18-year-old cat home to die instead of having him euthanized because I'd rather he spend what little time he has left somewhere he feels safe and loved instead of somewhere he feels scared and uncomfortable. I'd like to hear from others who have been through this with their cats so I know what to expect over the next few days of kitty hospice care. [more inside]
posted by Jacqueline at 5:38 PM PST - 33 comments

Help name blog by adult toy store employee

Help name that blog: adult toy store clerk edition. [more inside]
posted by diamondsky at 5:16 PM PST - 36 comments

Hello Moon. What do I call you?

What's this illusion called? The full moon is rising, but has not yet cleared the horizon. The bottom of the moon, however, appears concave, its outer edges bending up from the horizon. (Image link inside illustrating this concept). [more inside]
posted by jrchaplin at 5:00 PM PST - 11 comments

Persistant Nausea and eating(YANMD)

I'm going on two months of frequent nausea. Sometimes I throw up, most times I don't. Otherwise I generally feel fine (no fatigue, headaches, other pain aside from my possible endometriosis, sniffles, fever or anything else). I've been to my GP. [more inside]
posted by AlexiaSky at 4:40 PM PST - 24 comments

Is My Lawnmower Dead?

I have a Craftsman mower with a 6.5 HP 4-cycle engine. Last weekend I changed the oil, put on a new blade, cleaned it up and generally got it ready for the new season. It started right up when I tested it. [more inside]
posted by COD at 4:32 PM PST - 5 comments

BookFilter: Apocalypse novels for children

Back in 1987 or so, I read a children's/YA book that begins with a young girl who survives an end-of-the-world event (nuclear? meteor?) alone with her father and brother in a huge nuclear bunker. The second half of the book is about a girl with the same name who is a descendant of the survivors. Can you help me figure out what this book was? [more inside]
posted by mochapickle at 4:29 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me Swingify my wardrobe.

I've been taking a Lindy Hop class for about a month and I'm really enjoying it. I'm keen on eventually going out to social dances and events when I feel more confident, but I have no wardrobe to back it up right now. I have a vague idea of what swing era fashion is like, but I'd like to do more research on what's hip, cool, and appropriate. Can anyone suggest sites, blogs, pinterest boards, online shops, etc so I can get a sense of what I should deck out in?
posted by xtine at 4:22 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me fix my rice cooker

My rice cooker stopped working! It's an old very basic model, and I suspect it's easy to fix - but I never fixed anything before! [more inside]
posted by TheGoodBlood at 4:08 PM PST - 12 comments

Recommend an android music player

I've just made the switch from my old iPhone to a Nexus 5, and the only little thing bothering me is that the default music app doesn't display album or track lenths when you go to choose something to play. Should I install a new music player, and if so, which one? [more inside]
posted by moorooka at 3:37 PM PST - 11 comments

Why shouldn't I scratch up my stainless steel cooking pot?

I've got a cheap Farberware cooking pot that I've been using heavily for several years. I clean it after using it, usually, and its inner surface still looks pretty good. I use one of those tough green scouring pads (nylon I guess?), with a bit of ordinary liquid dish soap, to clean it. This scratches it up and often seems to actually remove enough material from its surface to turn the cleaning water grayish. I figure steel can take this much abuse. But when I look up cleaning tips for stainless steel cookware, I see some complicated stuff about using baking soda or vinegar or Bar Keepers Friend, plus various sorts of soaking, boiling, etc., to carefully remove burnt stuff and stains without scratching your cooking surface. And sometimes I see the instruction not to use tough scouring pads at all because they'll scratch. My method is simpler, and it has never failed me, so I like it better. But am I hurting my pot? Am I very slightly poisoning myself with metal powder somehow? Will I eventually grind through the steel and reach non-food-safe aluminum or whatever, or would that take like a century? I'm more curious here than worried, mind you. Maybe all I'm reading about trying not to scratch your stuff is just for keeping the surface looking super-pretty and new-looking?
posted by Koray at 3:17 PM PST - 28 comments

What is this perfume?

What is this lovely scent? [more inside]
posted by ragtimepiano at 2:39 PM PST - 4 comments

Knock knock, what was that book?

Please help me find a mystery book from my childhood. I am stumped. It would have been in the mid 70s, probably between 1974-77. I think it was science/nature-related book that may have been one of a series. What I remember is a hard-cover book, and on the back inside cover there was mounted a round plastic disk with an arrow inside, sort of like a compass. It was visible though holes in the pages and front cover. There were questions with multiple choices on each page, and you would close the book and knock on the cover a certain number of times to make the needle point to the correct answer on a corresponding page. That sounds crazy even as I type it, but if someone could find this book (or even corroborate my memory) I would be eternally grateful.
posted by mefireader at 2:18 PM PST - 2 comments

best way to clone my hard drive to multiple external drives at once

Hello all. Whats the best way (fast, cheap?) to clone my internal hard drive to as many external usb hard drives as possible? (up to 5 at a time, at the same time?). Can this be done in the same amount of time as it takes to clone it to one external hdd? Or would the internal bus choke on the data and take forever? Is there even software that does this? Most of the usual suspects (ghost, acronis, etc) seem designed only to clone 1:1. The default solution seems to be buying a hardware standalone hdd cloner for hundreds of bucks. Thanks for any thoughts/ideas!
posted by jak68 at 2:12 PM PST - 14 comments

Interview: should I mention that my current position is ending?

I'll be interviewing for a new position next week. I'm worried that if they ask why I'm leaving my current job, and I tell them that my current position is going will no longer have funding within a 6 months, I will give up some potential salary if it comes to salary negotiation. Is that a valid worry and if so, should I not mention that and just go with other (also true) reasons such as "I'm no longer feeling challenged"?
posted by anonymous at 2:04 PM PST - 13 comments

Emergency email transfer?

I'm in an emergency email situation. I need to transfer all of my gmail (but company based) emails (100,000 maybe?) to somewhere separate and secure. Quickly, and cost doesn't matter. [more inside]
posted by meerkatty at 1:57 PM PST - 15 comments

Help me give a good gift to a budding sous-chef!

Calling all professional cooks -- My brother has found himself transitioning from the wait staff to the kitchen and is hoping to make his way to the sous-chef position. He's very enthusiastic about this and I'd like to give him a gift for his birthday to support this new endeavor. [more inside]
posted by amanda at 1:50 PM PST - 16 comments

Research on parliaments/legislatures in development?

Could anyone point me to either (1) any recent books or studies that extensively discuss the role of parliaments and other legislative bodies in state building and reconstruction in developing countries, particularly post-conflict ones like Balkans, Iraq, Afghanistan; or (2) any evaluations or assessments of development programs to strengthen legislatures that do not rely exclusively on qualitative methods or anecdotes but incorporate experimental, quasi-experimental, RCT or other quantitative evaluation methods? [more inside]
posted by RandlePatrickMcMurphy at 1:38 PM PST - 1 comment

What is post-production like in Seattle?

I am a freelance video editor/assistant editor working in advertising in New York City. Career-wise I am doing pretty well and working consistently, but I have recently been thinking of relocating to Seattle. Is there enough post-production work in the Seattle area to keep me fed? [more inside]
posted by 235w103 at 1:31 PM PST - 1 comment

ISO: awesome gift for a Lutheran minister in training

I am looking for a gift for a Lutheran seminary student, who is very awesome and who is doing a very large service for us soon. I am not Lutheran, and I do not know a lot about thoughtful gifts that would be good for someone still in seminary school. Please help! [more inside]
posted by jetlagaddict at 1:24 PM PST - 7 comments

Getting realtors' help on a very thorough apartment search

I'm apartment hunting and it's really important for me to get a great apartment that satisfies all my requirements. Being comfortable in my home is crucial to my quality of life. So, I'm willing to put lots of time into my search, by seeing many apartments (more than would be usual) and spending a good amount of time looking at each one. I'm looking at fairly high-end places. The issue is that I don't want to wear out the realtors' patience. There are only a few realtors in my area, and they need to accompany me on each visit. They are showing me these apartments for free, since they only make money once I sign a lease. I want to make it worth their while so they don't get frustrated or impatient when I keep asking to see new apartments. I'm happy to pay them for their time, but don't know if that would be a good thing to suggest. Or maybe give them gifts to show my appreciation? Any advice would be welcomed.
posted by ElEmigrante at 1:15 PM PST - 11 comments

Can you identify these chairs from Hannibal?

Here is a screengrab from season 2, episode 7 (no spoilers) of Hannibal. Not sure if it's actually mid-century modern; it looks like it could be something newer that is merely MCM-inspired. Bonus points for identifying the dining table, if it's anything recognizable. (The chair in the foreground is, of course, a Hans Wegner.)
posted by gentle at 1:04 PM PST - 5 comments

East-Coast (flight?) commuting options

Household member is temporarily working in Boston, and household (cat included!) is in PA, west of Newark. This is a sucky 5+ hour drive, and it seems to be far enough outside of a normal bus or Amtrak route to be worthwhile. What's the best strategy (and price) for booking weekend commuter flights between Boston and Newark? Do you show up and go standby, or Orbitz every time, or ... ?
posted by Dashy at 12:55 PM PST - 13 comments

What are some beautiful responsive web apps and dashboards?

What are some examples of beautiful web apps that feature a really slick dashboard with maybe some basic data visualizations? Something very accessible with a light design touch? [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 12:53 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for blogs of experiences learning English or moving to the US.

I am really interested in the experiences of internationals (preferably East Asians) learning English and/or moving to the United States. I am in college right now with a lot of Chinese international students, and I am trying to understand what they are going through. I'm also learning Japanese, and I'm curious about what it's like for Asian students to learn English. I'm looking for blogs that will tell about the authors' experiences (surprises, difficulties, etc.) learning English and/or coming to the United States to live. Preferably, they would be at least somewhat humorous. Any suggestions?
posted by vash at 12:48 PM PST - 4 comments

We're providing emergency temporary housing. What have we missed?

Starting in two weeks, we are providing emergency temporary housing in our basement for a 19-year old who was kicked out of his home. What do we need to set up / what haven't we thought about yet? [more inside]
posted by QuantumMeruit at 12:41 PM PST - 20 comments

Kickball Help Please

Just joined a kickball team. My throws are sad. they go maybe 15 feet. How do I get more power in my throw?
posted by kristymcj at 12:37 PM PST - 4 comments

Temp agencies in NYC, then and now

How has getting work through NYC temp agencies changed since the 1990s? [more inside]
posted by gubo at 12:30 PM PST - 8 comments

Excel question: VLOOKUP what's already been VLOOKUPed?

Is there a way to look up items in Excel that are not included in a total that has been calculated using multiple vlookups? [more inside]
posted by natteringnabob at 12:28 PM PST - 7 comments

How to set boundaries with a student without hurting her feelings?

I recently finished teaching an introductory one month course for college freshmen. This is a small college in a semi rural low income region. A student (18) sent me a facebook friend request and I accepted. Our college does not have a web portal which could be used for communication between teachers and students. Facebook sometimes makes up for that lack when other platforms are not available for sharing educational materials, study resources, etc. This student initiated fb conversations with me. First it was just to ask me about her test results and school stuff. Then she revealed she was very worried about failing, I tried to tell her about the importance of both being dedicated and not afraid of failing, about the need to persevere, etc. Over the course of the last few days, she has started revealing more about her problems. [more inside]
posted by Basque13 at 12:21 PM PST - 24 comments

Can you diagnose my gas stove burner that won't light?

One of the burners of my gas stove does not go "click click click" when I turn it to "light". It does light if I turn it on and then light any of the three other burners. Can anyone diagnose the problem? Any DIY fixes?
posted by xo at 12:03 PM PST - 6 comments

Hot water pressure is low, only in kitchen

The hot water pressure in my kitchen faucet is suddenly reduced. It remains fine in the rest of the house. What should I check? [more inside]
posted by OrangeDisk at 11:48 AM PST - 6 comments

How best to safely control hot water to a bathroom faucet?

How can I control hot water to a bathroom faucet (tap)? [more inside]
posted by acoutu at 11:41 AM PST - 16 comments

Recent car commercial - guy driving hears NASA or other space talk?

Couldn't Google this successfully - a recent car commercial in the US, guy is driving on a highway at night maybe. It sounds like NASA or other mission control and space noises are coming out of his radio giving the effect that he is driving a space ship. [more inside]
posted by cda at 9:46 AM PST - 3 comments

Recent photos hidden on Samsung Galaxy S4 during file search

I have a Galaxy S4 and I generally transfer pics from it to a Windows 8.1 PC via USB, connecting up the Samsung as an external hard drive, navigating down to the DCIM folder on the camera's external SD card, then dragging & dropping. Recently, all my photos more recent than Feb 2014 are not visible via Windows Explorer even though the camera itself shows that those photos are indeed stored in the same folder on the external SD card that has all the pre-Feb photos. What gives? Are they hidden form view somehow?
posted by mono blanco at 9:43 AM PST - 2 comments

Anxious jealous insecure EEEEEEEJASFADF​JKLSAJKFLSDJ!!

What are some things I can do to 'work on' my anxiety? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess at 9:18 AM PST - 20 comments

How can I add straight "limit" lines to simple Excel X/Y graphs?

I'm using Excel 2010 and I'm making several x/y scatter graphs to plot QA results. I want to show on the graphs an upper and lower allowed limit for the data. [more inside]
posted by Rad_Boy at 9:02 AM PST - 6 comments

LinkedIn profile quandary - switching gears mid-job hunt

My LinkedIn profile is targeted to the job I want, but I need to broaden the scope of my job search to include a different, lesser position. How can I do so without my profile hindering my chances? [more inside]
posted by sockless at 8:56 AM PST - 7 comments

Need the perfect rain coat, because soggy wool isn't cutting it anymore.

I'm looking for a recommendation for a women's rain coat, with some specific requirements, because I'm really done with freezing in something waterproof or being warm and soggy in wool when it's 30-45F out. [more inside]
posted by juniperesque at 8:52 AM PST - 7 comments

Added a video to YouTube, but it refuses to show up in the Feed

Recently uploaded a new video to our YouTube channel. It appears in the "videos" tab but not the home page. How can I move it over?? [more inside]
posted by Atom12 at 8:46 AM PST - 4 comments

What should I read about homelessness

I'm looking for recommendations of books, articles, films or other media about homelessness in the US. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 8:39 AM PST - 23 comments

How to Protect My Employability

A combination of anxiety attack and anemia (the term used by the paramedics was close to that, I don't recall) caused me to pass out in my office. I was discovered unconscious, and came to as the EMT people arrived. I was not scheduled to work that day, but agreed to help the shift supervisor and departing assistant manager, who refused to come into work. The shift supervisor did not react well to the possibility of having to stay in the store to close it. This resulted in a public confrontation after the paramedics left (because I refused further medical treatment; they told me to go home immediately). I ended up closing the store. My store manager, who tried to fire me once already, has informed the District Manger and HR. I was told to come in at my scheduled time, but I can expect to sign papers. What can I expect during a retail-industry termination? [more inside]
posted by Ashen at 8:36 AM PST - 24 comments

Songs about particular days of the year

Happy Ruination Day, people of Metafilter! Gillian Welch wrote this great duofold song about April 14. Loudon Wainwright III wrote one that's sort of about March 16. Can you tell me about other songs about particular days of the year? Important limitations: [more inside]
posted by Jasper Fnorde at 8:29 AM PST - 40 comments

Another annoying "what typeface is this"?

Can you identify this typeface? [more inside]
posted by dirtdirt at 8:22 AM PST - 5 comments

Infamous bars from fantasy

Korova. Chalmun's. Venusville. Strangefellows. What other terrible bars exist in fiction, fantasy and literature?
posted by Jacen at 8:11 AM PST - 51 comments

It isn't dire so I guess I don't care...?

I lost close to 100lbs and have kept it off for years. I want to continue to lose the weight, but I don't have anything pushing me to do so. I'm not gaining, but I'm not losing either. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 8:06 AM PST - 24 comments

Need ideas for an adventurous and relaxing honeymoon in August.

Where should we go for a week-long honeymoon in early August? [more inside]
posted by KevCed at 7:55 AM PST - 9 comments

Flat foot Cinderella strikes again

Wearers of Brooks Adrenaline sneakers: Please help me find more spring and summer shoes. [more inside]
posted by gnomeloaf at 7:41 AM PST - 1 comment

What to do first? I bought a townhouse... now what?

I did it -- I bit the bullet and bought a townhouse! I'm so excited! The sale completes today, and by Wednesday by the latest I'll have the keys. Movers are scheduled for Saturday, and I'm already mostly packed. What should I do with the place between those two dates? It's a local move, only 20 min away, and I will have a least a day and a half to do stuff -- what should I be doing? [more inside]
posted by cgg at 7:29 AM PST - 25 comments

Graduate Housing for the Complicated

I had a poor experience in dorm life previously. Now that I'm going to graduate school I'm facing a difficult decision, about whether to live on or off campus. [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 7:21 AM PST - 22 comments

Our basement smells like something died in there - who do we call?

Short version: Our basement smells like there is something dead and rotting in there. We think the 'something' might be in the wall dividing out house and the neighbors (duplex) but aren't sure. We've cleaned and moved things, so now we need to call a professional in. The question is - what is the name / type of professional we need? I dont know what to look for in the yellow pages.... Details if you're interested inside [more inside]
posted by darsh at 7:06 AM PST - 10 comments

Graph Paper Origin

I found a stack of this paper in a desk drawer at work and now I'm in love. With no brand or other information, though, I have no idea who makes it. Photo Any suggestions on where I can acquire more would be greatly appreciated.
posted by genrand at 7:02 AM PST - 6 comments

Help buying a women's bicycle

I've never bought my own bike before but I think it's time. I'm currently riding a hand-me-down men's road bike and Citibikes and I like a lot of (different) things about each. I've been to a couple of local bike shops and got some recommendations. I would like to hear Ask me recs both about specific bikes and about the bike buying process in general. I will mainly be riding this bike in NYC, hopefully to commute regularly between Brooklyn and midtown (8-10miles each way), I'll need to shlep my day bag on it (a clip on to the back rack), regularly carry it up and down minimum a half flight of steps, and lock it up on the street (day time only, not over night) without being too paranoid. I think my top budget is 1k but I'd love to get it lower. [more inside]
posted by Salamandrous at 7:02 AM PST - 24 comments

What to do on a free afternoon next Wednesday in Manhattan?

Turns out we will have a few free hours next Wednesday (4/23) afternoon in NYC after an appointment and before the bus ride home. Can you suggest interesting things to do for folks who've seen most of the major museums multiple times, like to stroll but not hike, are comfortable with the subway, and are nerdy? Probably don't have time to take train or bus to outer boroughs, unfortunately, otherwise we'd probably just head to the Brooklyn Botanical gardens and look at the flowering trees, which must be revving up about now. Additional points for good but not super expensive restaurants on Upper East or Midtown East to have lunch after the appointment, like all kinds of ethnic foods but avoid pork. Many thanks; I've been looking though lots of listings but always get a bit overwhelmed by Time Out and the like.
posted by aught at 6:45 AM PST - 10 comments

Can I Hyperlink Into a Kindle Book?

I have a large book on my Kindle account. I use the Windows Kindle application to read Kindle books on my PC. I would like to create a simple HTML file on my PCcontaining links that will open a specific Kindle book to a specified location. Is this possible? Criteria: No coding other than HTML.
posted by DWRoelands at 6:44 AM PST - 3 comments

Who was the warm up comic on the Daily Show in 2008?

Based on this essay: who are the most likely candidates for who this warm up comic would have been?
posted by josher71 at 6:36 AM PST - 2 comments

understanding superhero comics requires some arcane magic I do not have

I liked the new Captain America movie. I want to read more about these characters. How do I get into the comics? Where do I start? Can I use the Marvel app to do this? How do I read them in order with all those team-up comics and spinoffs? *Should* I read them in order? Also, what slash fiction should I read while reading them, and should I read that at a certain point in the continuity, or just do my usual thing and go on a fanfic binge once I'm caught up?
posted by NoraReed at 6:30 AM PST - 12 comments

Grad School Tax Questions.

I'm entering a PhD program with full tuition covered and a stipend. I own a home with my fiancee, but my home is 2 hours away from my school. So for the first year, I'm going to rent an on-campus apartment. And I have some tax questions. [more inside]
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 6:24 AM PST - 14 comments

Make my husband look like a Seattle native.

We are moving to Seattle in August. I'm looking for recommendations for "quintessentially Seattle" attire to get my husband for his birthday. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:39 AM PST - 32 comments

What's the course of action for going after an eBay/PayPal predator?

Someone hacked a PayPal account to buy an item from me on eBay (my old iPad). PayPal resolved the claim in our favor and we both got our money back, but now I want to go after this derelict. I want justice! For me, for the person that owns the PayPal account (who I talked to and she's very nice), and for anyone he might rip off in the future. [more inside]
posted by dep at 4:37 AM PST - 6 comments

I've got a rabbit hole. Help!

We are new home owners and a hole about 5" in diameter appeared in our front yard. I believe it is a rabbit hole because I've seen rabbits running around my front yard. I do not want to kill the rabbits, but I want them to dig a nrw hole that is some where not in my yard. How do I fill this hole so the rabbits decide to relocate?
posted by Coffee Bean at 4:22 AM PST - 12 comments

Growing daffodils in pots

Someone bought me a small container of daffodils. Now that they are almost done flowering, what do I need to do to ensure that they survive to bloom again next year? [more inside]
posted by lollymccatburglar at 1:05 AM PST - 7 comments

Help Me Identify an Artist

I'm trying to find the name of an artist, whose work was picked up on thisiscolossal.com, but none of the search terms I can think of are getting me anywhere. The artist made images where they would take multiple photos of a skyline, for example, from the exact same position, throughout the day. Then they would splice those images together so that it would look like the exact same skyline (it wasn't scrambled or cubicised or anything), but at the center it would be early morning, surrounded by a band of mid-morning, surrounded by a band of afternoon, then evening, then night. I have a feeling that one of the skylines was Hong Kong, or Shanghai, but I'm not positive about that. Anyone know what/whom I'm talking about?
posted by Bugbread at 12:41 AM PST - 3 comments

American Presidential Quote: "Of all the imperfect forms of government"

Having a little trouble finding the source for this quote. Believe it was Reagan. who said "Of all the imperfect forms of government, our is the best man has so far come up with."
posted by Nicholas Geary at 12:27 AM PST - 4 comments

April 13

One Number To Rule Them All - Is It Safe?

Any downsides, considerations, things I may not have thought of, in the idea of using my Google Voice number as the general number for all my credit card, banking, merchant etc. needs? Is it advisable? [more inside]
posted by VikingSword at 11:22 PM PST - 12 comments

Reliable company for reattaching cassette tape to spool.

I have a few cassette tapes that survived third class mail from Ohio to Sierra Leone and back in the early seventies, and then have been pretty much left alone for the last 40 years. We have been digitizing them lately and on two of them the end of the tape has detached itself from the spool. I need someone who knows this stuff backwards and forwards to reattach them and/or digitize the content for us. I remember fixing cassette tapes myself back when they were the preferred media, but I also remember having about a 5% failure rate. Way too high for this operation. Company recommendations (US preferably) would be gladly received.
posted by Tell Me No Lies at 10:29 PM PST - 6 comments

I am outdoorsy in that I like to get drunk on patios.

If a female personage were to be putting together gear for a "Nature Excursion" -- really something less than a day hike, more like just a couple three hours - what on earth does that look like? [more inside]
posted by Medieval Maven at 9:46 PM PST - 20 comments

I'd like to have a run (100+) custom SNES game boxes printed

This is one of the weirder questions I've hopped on here to ask, but I figured if anyone would have the answer, it'd be the MeFi Hivemind. I'm working with a team on a game that was happily funded some time ago. Because its a retro nostalgia-thon, we'd love to offer a limited run of SNES boxes customized to our game. Finding the template was no problem, finding a printer is quite another. We'd prefer to ship them flat, but cut and scored so that when people got them at home, they could just fold and glue and blammo. We're having trouble finding a printer who could meet those needs- All of our previous print experience is in screen/offset/apparel, not in a weird custom job like this. Suggestions or thoughts on how to bring our SNES box to life?
posted by GilloD at 8:55 PM PST - 7 comments

My big screen tv needs a sidecar of awesome.

We're setting up our dream media room and I'd like to dedicate a second, smaller monitor that will be alongside our larger tv to displaying weather, scores, news, in a ticker-like fashion. I'm envisioning watching baseball games while the MLB Gameday thing follows along to the side. Or maybe a mock Wrigley-style old school school board of other games. Or weather advisories or news flashes being able to pop up while I'm watching a movie. Really, the possibilities are endless. What's my best way to do this? [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 8:30 PM PST - 2 comments

Non-depreciation cost of owning a car?

My fiancee and I are thinking about buying a new or new-ish Toyota Matrix, but it's apparently really hard to get an accurate picture of how much it costs to own and operate a car that doesn't include depreciation. Any suggestions or insight? [more inside]
posted by Decimask at 8:20 PM PST - 12 comments

Finding an undergrad research topic for my thesis (in Psychology)?

I'm currently in my 3rd of undergrad (BA, Psychology). I'm planning to do an honours thesis next year but am completely overwhelmed on deciding what to research on. [more inside]
posted by raintree at 7:18 PM PST - 13 comments

How did you decide between Catholicism and Protestantism?

If you converted from Catholicism to a Protestant denomination (or vice versa), what swayed you? [more inside]
posted by sunnychef88 at 7:15 PM PST - 13 comments

Looking for the worst of the worst.

I was surprised to discover that there is no way to sort an Amazon search or browse within a category by user review--more specifically from lowest to highest. Is there a workaround for this? Or perhaps an app or script I could use? Or even a third party site that sorts it for you? I'm mostly interested in being able to browse a category and see the lowest ranked items, but I'd settle for ranked search results also.
posted by sourwookie at 7:08 PM PST - 8 comments

Life check-in worksheets?

I have recently undergone a lot of change in my life - ended a long-term relationship, moved into a new place (previously lived with partner), quit a long-ish-term career (9 years including profession-specific study) and as a combination of the above, changing a lot of my social group. I think this is a sort of make-or-break crossroads time in my life - so would like to actively work on and question what I want to get out of my career/personal relationships. My therapist suggested doing "life check-ins" where I spend time thinking and writing down these things. Does anyone know of any "worksheets" that might give me some guidance to work with? Even a check-list would be helpful, but I'm envisioning maybe a list of questions. Google has brought up some options but I'm looking also for personal anecdata about what has worked for mefites. Thanks!
posted by nvly at 6:55 PM PST - 6 comments

Hot town, summer in the city

Looking for tips on making the best of summer in Washington, DC. [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 6:22 PM PST - 12 comments

Does "Antiques Roadshow" provide an accurate value of the items it asseses?

I know that some people are collectors, especially of art as an investment and I know that market can be particularly volatile. What is the likelihood that the "at auction"* price is the price that the seller actually gets? [more inside]
posted by vapidave at 6:18 PM PST - 7 comments

Have you ever built a labyrinth?

I feel a call to build a labyrinth. I might be able to do this in a public space (think college campus, or residence). What tips or guidance do you have about materials, plans, or the like?
posted by Riverine at 5:40 PM PST - 17 comments

sharing passwords with significant others?

My SO recently gave me his password. What does this mean? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:37 PM PST - 39 comments

Did you see that ludicrous display last night?

I have a friend visiting me that wants to watch the Red Sox and so I got tickets for the upcoming Red Sox v. Orioles game in Boston (Friday, January 18). Said friend is a big baseball buff, while I only have passing interest and haven't been following any baseball closely for more than two years now. My friend won't judge me for that or anything, but still, can someone give me a quick rundown of interesting talking points for this game? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:37 PM PST - 12 comments

Kishinev's Country in 1904

When I was young, I was told that my maternal grandparents were from Russia. I had my grandfather's birth certificate translated by a friend, and found that he was born in Kishinev in 1904. Currently Kishinev is in Moldova, but my reading has uncovered a ping pong game of ownership regarding Bessarabia and the surrounding areas during that time frame. Perhaps I'm being dense, but I can't quite make out what country Kishinev was a part of in 1904. Any help would be appreciated.
posted by blurker at 5:29 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I buy in-app purchases for a restricted account in Android?

A little while ago I asked for advice on setting up a tablet for my daughter. She loves it. She's on a restricted profile, which won't allow in-app purchases. Sometimes, I want to buy her upgrades - but they don't seem to work across profiles (I now have the 'all cakes' bundle on 'Strawberry Shortcacke's Bake Shop', but she doesn't). So, how do I make in-app purchases for her restricted profile?
posted by monkey closet at 5:08 PM PST - 2 comments

Mandarin Radio streams wanted

Hi I would like to train my ears to listen to Mandarin but cannot find live streams on the Internet as I do not understand Mandarin. Can someone please help me with a few links? I can watch CCTV but cannot find the radio. VLC or iTunes compatible streams please. Thank You! BB
posted by bright77blue at 4:53 PM PST - 5 comments

Please help me find a term for this strength/endurance concept.

I am looking for a clever descriptive term for the idea of training with a "hardship" that when omitted later, makes you feel super-strong. Like when baseball players put that donut thing on their bats while taking practice swings. (Donuting?) Or when you ride a really heavy bike, then switch to a lighter one. Or practice at high altitudes, and compete at low altitudes. Is there already a term that describes this? If not, I am open to any ideas.
posted by oxisos at 3:54 PM PST - 12 comments

It was an alien the whole time!

A short story with a surprise ending where the protagonist is an alien, and the spacecraft that crashed in the woods contains a human. This has been done before, right? [more inside]
posted by ronofthedead at 3:50 PM PST - 13 comments

Stopgap solution for unhinged door

The top hinge of our front door just fell off. What can we do to keep the door securely closed until the contractor arrives in a few days? [more inside]
posted by umbú at 3:41 PM PST - 4 comments

Plumbing issue in rented PA home. Landlord wants us to share in payment?

My landlord is requesting that my roommates and I help with the cost of a plumbing repair. I think he's in his rights to do this, but I just want to see what the green thinks. [more inside]
posted by dean_deen at 3:00 PM PST - 30 comments

Longterm investing anxiety: Property or pension, or what?

Husband and I have $130k saved up. No mortgage, no pension to speak of. Just been called into the bank for talk about long term plans and am freaking out about what to do. Advice? Do I need to see a financial advisor or are they not a good idea? [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday at 2:50 PM PST - 13 comments

Please help me find good upholstery/sofa cushion fabric!

Hooray, I'm slowly replacing the furniture lost in The Great Natural Disaster of 2013. The new sofa should be delivered next week. Please help me recover it. [more inside]
posted by 2soxy4mypuppet at 2:39 PM PST - 5 comments

Dinner for 10-12: for 5 days.

I have family coming in for a funeral this week. Our house is the hub, so I'm going to be feeding a group of 10-12 for 5 days. Any thoughts on comforting foods, that are relatively easy to prepare for that many? I am a good cook, but will have to spend some time at work this week, so I won't have tons of time to devote to this.
posted by sarajane at 2:06 PM PST - 17 comments

Aside from moving, is there any way to outsmart a newspaper thief?

Someone has twice stolen my Saturday newspaper edition, which includes the coupons, Target ad, etc. I live in a high-rise apartment building in Crystal City, Arlington with at least 20 other residences on the same floor. I am fairly certain it was stolen (not a missed delivery), because the following Sunday paper is always present. Have you ever successfully outwitted a newspaper thief, or resolved it through communication with the carrier, and how did you do it? The newspaper is the Washington Post. Thanks to all in advance. [more inside]
posted by invisible ink at 2:06 PM PST - 18 comments

Tana French readalikes, or other good, character-driven mysteries?

I'm not usually a mystery reader, but I recently read In the Woods and The Likeness, by Tana French, on a friend's recommendation. I loved them, but I'm not familiar enough with the genre to find others like them. What I like about them: strong characters, suspense that is mainly psychological in nature, clear prose. I also enjoyed the Stieg Larsson books; other Scandinavian mysteries have been hit or miss. Any recommendations, MeFites?
posted by missrachael at 1:19 PM PST - 27 comments

What are some great sports newsletters?

I'm looking for some good sports newsletters. [more inside]
posted by reenum at 12:50 PM PST - 0 comments

School is Depressing

Every semester my motivation follows the same pattern. I excel in courses for the first month or so of classes, then my motivation sharply drops off. What are some workarounds and strategies to give a more consistent performance? [more inside]
posted by Trifling at 12:13 PM PST - 9 comments

What is it like to have a retired racing greyhound as a pet?

I'm trying to get a sense of what daily life is like with a dog; specifically a retired racing greyhound. I'd love to hear from people who have this kind of dog. [more inside]
posted by cranberrymonger at 11:59 AM PST - 25 comments

ADA accommodations after FMLA runs out

Due to a flare up in a (diagnosed, currently being treated) disability, I've had to take intermittent FMLA leave - which is about to hit the 12 week limit! How do I talk to my boss about reasonable accommodations going forward? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:14 AM PST - 17 comments

Handling the shame of suicide

I attempted suicide a week ago. Things are good now. New meds and more therapy. Tons of support. Really really glad I am alive and feel safe and secure that it won't happen again. But how do I deal with the shame of seeing how I hurt people who love me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:45 AM PST - 31 comments

Help me to arrange folk songs!

I'd like to write arrangements of folk songs for (one) guitar and (one) voice, but I don't know where to start. More details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by HoraceH at 9:39 AM PST - 5 comments

Advice on loose skin after weight loss?

Over the last sixteen months I've managed to work off about 100lbs of extra weight. I've accomplished this via old fashioned calorie counting and exercise and I know that I've changed my habits for the rest of my life. However, carrying over three hundred pounds for almost twenty years has done a number on my skin. [more inside]
posted by WinnipegDragon at 9:36 AM PST - 10 comments

GO AWAY, archived items.

I'm having a frustrating problem with my Kindle Keyboard/Manage Your Kindle Amazon account. Long ago, I subscribed to the New York Times Daily Audio Digest. I have now unsubscribed, but I can't remove the approximately 200 past "Archived Items" associated with that subscription from the list of same in my device or from my MYK account. [more inside]
posted by sevensnowflakes at 8:57 AM PST - 4 comments

Help Me Watch Some Movies

I have a college course that is requiring me to watch 4 movies and write a report on them. They need to specifically have leadership, teams, or managing change as the over-riding theme. [more inside]
posted by zero point zero at 8:52 AM PST - 45 comments

(Boston) - What is the cost of cervical disc surgery?

After 2 years of dealing with an insane doctor who told me that God and Tylenol will cure me, I finally got a new doctor who sent me to a neurologist who diagnosed me with a neck hernia or rather, C5 C6 disc herniation. In addition to MRI findings, they also found out that I have Clonus. [more inside]
posted by bostonhill at 8:24 AM PST - 9 comments

best way for relative newb to create online store plus more?

asking for a relative: she currently has an online store with a mess of a back end that is impossible to use so we are thinking of junking it entirely and moving to something else: what should this be? [more inside]
posted by unlucky.lisp at 8:02 AM PST - 10 comments

I have substantial savings but no job. How to get someone to rent to me?

I have ended a long-term relationship where we both had mental health issues (bipolar depression in my case). I haven't worked since 2005 but am a graduate (was back in 1991 though, I'm 44 now) and have about 12 years of work experience. I believe I could work again if given the opportunity, and am willing to do the work either on myself or in terms of learning marketable skills to become employable. I also have about £50,000 ($70,000 I guess?) remaining from an inheritance, which I'm using to live on. It's actually possible to buy a modest apartment where I live for that money, but then I would not be eligible for out-of-work benefits, hence the need to rent. I have never rented before, I lived in my parents house until age 36 and then with my partner in her mother's house until age 44. So I have no references to offer as a previous renter, and am quite socially isolated due to shyness so not sure about finding character references either. My credit score is great due to only modestly using a credit card for 10 years and paying it off each month, and not getting into debt during that time. How can I best sell myself to a letting agency as someone their landlords might want to rent to, and what concessions would I need to make for renting to be a possibility - pay a big deposit? rent in advance? money in escrow account? [more inside]
posted by AuroraSky at 8:02 AM PST - 13 comments

Easiest way to record webcam / application combination video?

What's the easiest way to record a video on a Mac that can easily allow switching -- or even a split screen -- between a webcam and an application (say, Word)? The idea is to be able to record video of the speaker, type or draw notes that can be on the video, and be able to switch focus from the face to the notes or have both on screen at once, like a teacher with a software whiteboard. Most screencasting software only seems to focus on the screen and doesn't allow easy switching back and forth from the webcam.
posted by shivohum at 6:50 AM PST - 4 comments

Cultural Literacy 101

For a friend: Say someone wants to develop a working sense of modern-day cultural literacy in the United States. This person has very limited knowledge of current events, and has limited himself to only a very narrow scope of popular entertainment. He now wishes to be able to converse about these topics with reasonably savvy adults (such as in dating scenarios and social gatherings). Can you provide sources of information for the following? [more inside]
posted by justonegirl at 6:38 AM PST - 26 comments

CL posting help - apartment post only shows up under specific searches

I'm trying to rent an apartment on Craigslist. The issue is that after my post has been successfully put up, it only appears when searching criteria fit the details of my post. What I mean: It's a 3 bedroom, so if someone searches in my area for 3BR, the ad will appear. However, if someone just goes into the general "all apartments" section the ad does not appear. What gives? Looking through the application section again, I don't see how I could have done things differently. Am I missing a radio button to do this? Should I classify it as 0-3 BR in the ad setup? Does CL charge for different add access?
posted by Reasonably Everything Happens at 6:17 AM PST - 4 comments

What's my recourse?

I hired a marine contractor in Rhode Island to build a pair of centerboards for my boat ($12k). They were delivered 3 months late and didn't fit. I was very clear about the dimensions, yet the builder's designer altered the shape without consulting me. They've admitted fault in emails and in person, apologized, yet won't make the situation better. They offered a refund if I pay shipping charges to/from, customs and excise, and any damages. I don't feel I should pay $2k out of pocket and end up with nothing. What do I do to get justice? Report them to the Better Business Bureau? Hire a lawyer? Go to court or arbitration? Say mean things about them and buy a voodoo doll? Am I entitled to damages beyond the $12k? Any advice welcome.
posted by karst at 5:05 AM PST - 6 comments

Help Me Replace 'Raising Hope'!

My wife and I watch 4 shows together, Raising Hope, Cougar Town, Archer and Girls. Of the four shows, she is more into Girls than I am (although I love the show) and I am more into Archer than she is (she isn't a first language English speaker and they speak fast, plus references that are impossible for her to understand) but we both love Raising Hope and Cougar Town equally. The problem is that Raising Hope is no more and Cougar Town will likely not continue. What can we watch together? I think we are generally looking for a fairly light comedy with some kind of buddy/family elements. Generally more recent shows preferred, but they don't have to be totally current. Thanks!
posted by Literaryhero at 3:33 AM PST - 29 comments

what should we see in Perth, WA?

About to visit Perth WA with an eight and a five year old. Googling isn't really coming up with much exciting to see or do. Advice and suggestions? [more inside]
posted by wilful at 1:56 AM PST - 18 comments

April 12

Gmail message went to A Co-worker

I sent myself an important tax document as an attachment this afternoon, sending it from my corporate gmail account to myself at the same address. No one was cc'd or bccd. an hour later a coworker wrote me and asked: did you mean to send this to me? He had received my message and attachment... I checked my sent messages and found the message i sent to myself but nothing to him and he was not Bcc'd. How could this have happened? His name and mine are not close by the way.
posted by dougiedd at 11:08 PM PST - 11 comments

What's awesome in or near Yogyakarta?

Going to Yogyakarta for five days, as a base for exploring that region of Indonesia. I have a guidebook but no hotel reservations/set plans, other than taking a day trip out to Borobudur. Any advice (re: things to see/do/eat or areas to check out or avoid) coming from personal experience would be much appreciated. Thanks!
posted by egeanin at 10:38 PM PST - 4 comments

What's the best way to do a Whole30 with very little spare time?

I am interested in doing a Whole30 for some health reasons. I've done a bunch of reading about it and have already gotten many of the things from the shopping list. I am looking for advice on how to do it with minimal time investment. [more inside]
posted by treehorn+bunny at 10:10 PM PST - 13 comments

Whether and how to ask out someone I previously dated.

I'm thinking of contacting someone I previously dated to see if he wants to date again. I know there's a good chance I won't get a positive response or will just get hurt again, but I can't help the feeling that there's some kind of unfinished business here. So I want to contact him. My questions are: (a) is trying to see if he wants to date again absolutely a bad idea? and (b) if not, how do I contact him? Do I text him and just say hello and try to gauge his response before going further? Call him out of the blue to talk? See if he wants to meet up for a drink? [more inside]
posted by singlesock at 9:35 PM PST - 17 comments

How do I source products from in and around Europe?

Hello all I'm thinking about starting an import business specialising in very high quality and hard to find products, particularly tools and machinery. I'm having trouble finding good quality online directories that list manufacturers like Alibaba that target Europe. Does anybody have any advice on finding products in Europe? Thank you kindly
posted by Jimmeh at 9:04 PM PST - 7 comments

Is it just me, or was this weird?

I was out walking on a bike path near my house just now (after dark) and encountered someone driving an unmarked SUV who claimed to be a police officer. I took him at his word, but am now rethinking it and slightly freaked out. Was this within the realm of normal cop behavior? [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 7:59 PM PST - 25 comments

Laptop battery replacement: worrywart edition

I have a Lenovo Ideapad Z470, and the battery is pretty shot. I've been unable to find a replacement battery for this model through Lenovo's own site. I also can't seem to find an exact match for the one I have through third party selling. Current battery: labeled Li-ion 20, model # L09S6Y02. Closest match I found online, which claims that it's compatible with my laptop (but I could find no actual evidence): Li-ion 00, model #L08S6Y02. Put my mind at ease, Mefites: is this new battery compatible with my laptop? (And if I should return it, where should I get a battery, because searching Amazon for this kind of thing has been annoying.)
posted by TwoStride at 7:43 PM PST - 3 comments

Need to quit my job while on FMLA.

How should I quit my job to start another one while I'm on FMLA leave? [more inside]
posted by santojulieta at 7:43 PM PST - 9 comments

Editing data in a unix/linux pipeline by hand

I am looking for a command line tool that will let me edit data in a shell pipeline by hand before sending it out again on STDOUT. [more inside]
posted by LiteOpera at 6:55 PM PST - 3 comments

Do people dance at Matthew Sweet's "Rock Show"?

Considering tickets to see Matthew Sweet in Indy this summer. Wondering what the general vibe is of this tour. Intimate venue. Intimate sit-and-sip-drinks-style concert or more danc-y?
posted by meindee at 4:32 PM PST - 2 comments

Best quaint/charming shops/sightseeing near Silver Falls State Park?

Looking for charming and quaint attractions, sightseeing, shops, etc near Silver Falls State Park in Oregon. What are the best places, cities, and other things to go do nearby after visiting the State Park? Dog friendly is a really big plus!
posted by skjønn at 4:16 PM PST - 3 comments

Gross post-waxing bumps of DOOM

I've been getting my bikini area waxed/sugared for a year. While I love the result during the first two weeks, I always end up with the dreaded red bumps (some of them infected with a whitehead and/or with an ingrown hair that I have to pluck out) by week 3 when the new hair growth starts to hit the surface of my skin. I already use a gentle exfoliant daily and apply the usual recommended products throughout the day, to no effect (including Bikini Zone and Tend Skin). What else can I try? More details below the fold! [more inside]
posted by joan_holloway at 3:27 PM PST - 15 comments

I will survive! But I'd like to keep my sanity, too.

Hostile, toxic workplace is causing me tons of stress. I can and will do my job well, conduct myself appropriately, and be courteous and pleasant as Mrs. Cleaver at a dinner party while I'm there. When I get home, I just fall apart. Being fake for 14 hours a day is exhausting, self-censoring every word that comes out of my mouth is a trial, and documenting in detail every mundane task I've performed is time-consuming. I need any advice, articles, or techniques to help me fake it through my days and stay sane! [more inside]
posted by notaninja at 2:19 PM PST - 18 comments

$14,000 in debt - how to pay it off?

I'm 22. I have in total about $14,000 loan in a student line of credit. About $9000 was used when I was abroad on exchange for 6 months(my parents paid my fees, my flight, etc) I currently commute to school and spend, from the line, about $1000-$1400 a month on everything - food, commute, coffee, beer, going out, gifts. I don't pay rent at home, or anything else like groceries (though I mostly eat out when I'm at school...I still gorge on home food) [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen at 2:11 PM PST - 26 comments

Interpreter turned psychologist - navigating a difficult situation

On Tuesday, a Japanese acquaintance from my first exchange to Tokyo in 2009/10 suddenly messaged me saying she needed someone to interpret for a Japanese lady whose son had suddenly passed away in Germany. I said okay and now I've just come home after two exhausting days and sorting through the apartment of a young man who probably committed suicide. I will have to go back there on Monday, but I'd like some tips on how to deal myself and also on how to help the mother. [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 1:48 PM PST - 15 comments

Backing up my Gmail account

As part of a general digital cleanup (thank you, Heartbleed), I want to perform the long overdue task of backing up my Gmail account (with nearly a decade's worth of email) to my mac. I have two questions: 1) Is gmvault the only option? Is there anything more accessible to a user who hasn't used Terminal with any regularity in eight years, and even then wasn't very proficient using the command line? 2) If gmvault is the only option, or the most accessible option, can someone explain very clearly how to run it? I am unable to successfully follow the instructions on the gmvault website--they seem to assume that I'll intuit some necessary steps, when I actually need every step laid out for me.
posted by ocherdraco at 12:50 PM PST - 13 comments

Music in Motion

What are examples of music that create the rhythmic sense of being in motion? Here is an example of what I mean. [more inside]
posted by ageispolis at 12:11 PM PST - 23 comments

Translation Filter: German and Czech Food Allergy List

We are travelling to Germany and the Czech Republic later this month. My mom has a set of severe food allergies, and would like to print some translated cards for restaurant staff just to be on the safe side. I'd like to translate this list into both German and Czech please. I'm happy to translate using a dictionary, but I feel that native speakers will have a better handle on subtle details, such as corn and its derivatives (for example, corn flour is not big in Canada, but corn starch and corn meal are in everything). Many thanks Metafilter! [more inside]
posted by jjonajason at 11:03 AM PST - 9 comments

Here's the pitch: "It's a giant reflective $6-20 million Queen Conch."

How do you pitch a community on building an iconic landmark? [more inside]
posted by Mike Mongo at 11:02 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me buy a car the right way, this time.

I just moved to Charlottesville, Va from California. Bought a car here quickly after getting here through Carmax which I am realizing now is way too nice, my car payments are too much ($247/month) and I worry too much about when parking, driving etc. (a 2010 Toyota Prius, 6 year loan that I owe 15k on). [more inside]
posted by ethel at 10:37 AM PST - 11 comments

Flower Power

After some great success with a lavender and blueberry sauce I was thinking it would be fun to have a whole party based around flower/flowering food and drink. I've got blooming flower tea and rose-infused vodka on the list, and my local market occasionally sells edible flowers around this time of year - but what are some other flower-based dishes I should be looking at? What should I be looking out for in terms of safety and not accidentally poisoning my guests? What kind of springtime courses would be in season? (For the sake of my sanity I'm going to try for buffet style small plates) And is there anyplace online or in the NYC area that specializes in edible flowers? [more inside]
posted by The Whelk at 9:59 AM PST - 31 comments

Your favorite vegetarian frozen meals and convenience foods?

Due to being really busy at work, being sad about something in my personal life, and having just moved and not yet finished unpacking or making space for myself in the shared kitchen, I'm having a problem with food/having no appetite, and I can't (don't want to) cook much at the moment. Basically eating has become a giant chore and nothing seems good. To help get through the next week or couple of weeks, I would like your suggestions for the best tasting vegetarian convenience foods and super easy recipes that you know of. [more inside]
posted by treese at 9:42 AM PST - 52 comments

Best advice for quitting job and traveling the world for a year?

I'm a 36 year old single male American living in northern California. I've always wanted to travel the world for a long time, and I finally have enough money to do it. What's your best advice for making it happen? [more inside]
posted by buckaroo_benzai at 9:39 AM PST - 17 comments

Self-catheterisation.

What are the dangers of self-catheterisation? I was told that I need to check in to a hospital for a whole day so that I can be taught this procedure due to being diagnosed with a neurogenic bladder. Surely this is not necessary.
posted by anonymous at 7:31 AM PST - 9 comments

Are Clonazepam and Zopiclone similar in terms of causing withdrawal?

I take clonazepam for anxiety. I take 1.5 mg around 6 - 7 times a week which avoids me withdrawal. Lately I have been taking zopiclone for sleep. I take 7.5 mg about twice a week. I know these two drugs are similar. Does taking these drugs like this increase my chance of going through withdrawal since they both act upon the same area of the brain? I know they are both addictive and have a similar structure, but do they create the same kind of withdrawal? I took 1.5 mg of clonazepam yesterday and 7.5 mg of zopiclone to sleep. When can I expect withdrawal to start if it does and when do I know I am in the clear?
posted by Jack V at 7:30 AM PST - 9 comments

Let's all sing the most sanctimonious song ever written!

Baby WanKenobi loves the song Little Boxes. I think she likes it because it's bouncy. I love singing it because it's subversive and snarky. What other songs might we enjoy? [more inside]
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 7:29 AM PST - 54 comments

I'm having weird home networking problems, and I need help.

My wireless connections aren't cooperating, but a wired connection to the wireless router is working. Help, por favor. [more inside]
posted by Kololo at 6:54 AM PST - 12 comments

How to tactfully explain to people that I’m not straight?

I got married last year (!). My husband and I are both queer, and both have a history of same-sex relationships before we met one another. This hasn't caused any problems in our own relationship, but it’s causing some unexpected confusion at our LGBT-friendly church. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:45 AM PST - 35 comments

Children's Book search from 60s/70s

I've been looking for this book I remember from my childhood - or maybe I dreamt it - that was a sweet little illustrated picture book about a Teddy Bear Masquerade Ball. This askmefi question is my Hail Mary pass. If no one else remembers this, I'll end my search! [more inside]
posted by anemone at 6:14 AM PST - 4 comments

Is Windows Update breaking XP?

I thought it was just me the first time it happened, which was a day or so after the penultimate Windows Update for XP installed. My computer went into an endless reboot cycle. It would not boot to Safe Mode, so I could not roll back the registry to a previous state. After a lot of anguish, I was able to get it to boot in Mini PE using a CD I was given. Even that took several tries. In Mini PE, I could roll back the registry, and everything worked fine. Then, it happened again today. The final Windows Update for XP installed a couple of days ago. I fixed it as before, and searched. I found this. It's not just me. [more inside]
posted by Kirth Gerson at 2:46 AM PST - 7 comments

April 11

Where should we vacation within a ~day drive of Pittsburgh?

Now that we've paid the tax bill, we are thinking of scaling back a bit on our 10th anniversary trip this June.* We're leaving the kiddo with family in Pittsburgh PA and will have our car. We can drive to New York or DC or Appalachia or... you get the idea. Where should we go for 4-7 days that is some combination of fun, romantic, diverse, interesting, etc? We'd like to feel like we had a great experience for a great value. [more inside]
posted by secretseasons at 10:15 PM PST - 21 comments

Marriage etiquette question: who pays for guests?

Ms Stewie and I are getting married next year and are hung up on a point of ethics and protocol: who pays for our guests that will be traveling from out of state to the wedding? [more inside]
posted by stewiethegreat at 9:34 PM PST - 30 comments

PotFilter: The cure for what ails me?

Tokers of Mefi! I'm hoping you can help me make the most educated and effective choice when I go to restock my herb tomorrow. I'm looking to replicate what for me, as someone dealing with cerebral palsy, (and because of it, a pronounced and profoundly isolating stutter), was a life-changing experience with MJ, one that came about a year after my first encounter with the herb. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 9:32 PM PST - 10 comments

Backpack = vulnerable to theft?

Are backpacks more vulnerable to theft than messenger bags? [more inside]
posted by facehugger at 9:15 PM PST - 20 comments

Help me help my brother learn how to be a better listener and friend.

My brother needs resources to help him learn to be a better listener and friend to those he cares about. [more inside]
posted by crunchysalty at 8:03 PM PST - 4 comments

Do condo associations have to file tax forms?

We just found out that there is such a thing as the 1120-H tax form for condo and homeowner associations, and the previous owners of our building have never filed. Great. We're going to start, but is this something that all condo or homeowner associations do? Were our previous owners unusually lax? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:41 PM PST - 7 comments

What do we need to know before buying our first used car?

My gal and are buying a used Jeep Cherokee. We live in Brooklyn and want to put our minds at ease that this is a decent buy for what we're looking for. Plenty of details within; the short version is: what do we ask the mechanic to check before we commit to buying, and what are the next steps with insurance, DMV, etc.? [more inside]
posted by andromache at 7:40 PM PST - 12 comments

Please help me identify, and then license, this awesome 1970s muzak!

We want to license this song for a commercial video production. Please help me identify it and track down the original owner/composer or licensing agency. [more inside]
posted by hamandcheese at 6:48 PM PST - 5 comments

I need some advice about my dog.

My family dog is 11 years old. He has always lived at my mom’s and visited mine very occasionally, but not for about 3 years. As him coming to me never worked out (he was always stressed, anxious, barking, wanting to go home) I gave up, and left him at his own home. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:59 PM PST - 23 comments

Illness in the US, but magically, no healthcare!

I just returned from West Africa and have a number of symptoms consistent with malaria - or the flu. I have no healthcare, through circumstances beyond my control (I'll elaborate) until May 1. When is it worth it to go to the doctor to get tested? How can I try to keep this from being a pre-existing condition, given that it may be the recurrent form? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:58 PM PST - 20 comments

Where are the antique webpages on the world wide web?

I stumbed on this gem through following bunch of links that began with a metafilter post. Somehow Geocities style webpages with bouncing icons and difficult to read fonts fill me take me back and manage to feel sort of charming like rotary phones or those 10 inch cell phones from the early nineties. I got the same weird technology nostalgia from re-watching the All Your Base video on youtube the other day. It got me thinking, where can you go on the world wide web to browse really outdated content, like old webpages or UIs that feel like an archaeological expedition?
posted by mermily at 5:29 PM PST - 15 comments

browser add-on or RSS code to block sign-up pop-overs

When I follow a link to a news story, invariably the site nags me to "sign-up" with a pop-over that must be dismissed before I can read the article. Is there a browser add-on or RSS code I can put into my custom RSS style sheet to block these annoyances? [more inside]
posted by jcdill at 5:12 PM PST - 8 comments

Books that allude to books that do not exist.

In The Picture of Dorian Gray by Oscar Wilde, the title character is negatively influenced by a "poison" book that is mentioned repeatedly in the text but never named. "Tlön, Uqbar, Orbis Tertius," the short story by Jorge Luis Borges, mentions several nonexistent books including a mysteriously altered encyclopedia and a History of the Land Called Uqbar. I am looking for more fictional references in novels or stories to other books that do not exist. Help, please? [more inside]
posted by BlueJae at 3:40 PM PST - 60 comments

Koi pond maintenance

I have two questions about koi pond maintenance. 1) How do I know if the UV light in my filter is burned out, and 2) how do I not kill my fish? [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 2:32 PM PST - 6 comments

Seeking happy farming/homesteading blogs

I am looking for blogs that deal with small-scale farming, homesteading, and sustainable living. [more inside]
posted by jschu at 2:08 PM PST - 19 comments

Birding in Bonn? (with special emphasis on Corvids)

I will be in Germany, primarily Bonn and surrounding areas, from April 13 - 27. I am more of a bird enthusiast than a REAL birder, and particularly love Corvids. I remember from visits years ago that the local crows in the Rhine region seemed a lot gruffer than the ones we have in Seattle - they seemed to be saying "Ach! Ach!" Wondering what varieties of crows are most prevalent in the Bonn / Cologne region. I also would love to see "Nebelkraehe," which my sister said she has seen in Berlin. Are they seen in Bonn as well? If weather permits, we'll be doing a lot of woodland walking, so if anyone has any particular spots to recommend, as well as particular birds I should be on the lookout for, I would greatly appreciate it. One wonderful thing about travel is that even the most common yard birds are hopelessly exotic to me, so I just can't lose. ;)
posted by dorgla at 2:00 PM PST - 4 comments

What is the most awesome pogo stick?

My son is great at pogoing. He's outgrown his last pogo stick, the Flybar Foam Master -- he's tall and the handle is too low for him to jump comfortably. He tried the Flybar Super Pogo but it left him with bruises on his knees (and mine, as well, from the little I did on it). Is there some great pogo stick out there we should know about? If there's some pogo superstore in the Seattle area we could go to, that also would be great.
posted by The corpse in the library at 1:56 PM PST - 7 comments

How to chill beverages without kitchen + logistics

I am coordinating the memorial service for a good friend who died March 1st. The service is this Tuesday at a church without a commercial kitchen. I have 3 questions: My friend's widow is paying for the beverages, so there is no caterer involved. There's a concert, then speakers, so the refreshments won't be served until 9 pm. 1. How do I chill beverages (wine, beer, water + non-alcoholic choices) without a refrigerator? We are talking 170 people, in theory, which translates into a lot of liquids. [more inside]
posted by Bella Donna at 1:48 PM PST - 17 comments

Do I actually need a watering can for my vegetable garden?

First-time gardener here. Hooray—I inherited a half-plot in my neighborhood garden in Boulder, CO! Now I'm wondering if I should invest in a watering can or if I'm okay without. [more inside]
posted by mynameisluka at 1:32 PM PST - 13 comments

Can anyone identify the singer in this 1967 film about 1999?

This retro-future film went viral sometime in 2007 because of how many things it predicted correctly (e-commerce) but also missed (women's lib). But the performance at 19:30 is amazing, and I can't find anything that even mentions it. Not even in the two times it appeared on metafilter. Shazam doesn't correctly identify it. Can you?
posted by onehalfjunco at 1:13 PM PST - 3 comments

Where to live near/outside Sacramento, CA?

Young professional couple, 30 y/o, being relocated from NY to work in Roseville, CA. Currently work in Manhattan and live right outside the city. We're hoping to live somewhere that is within close distance to bars, restaurants, shops, etc. but are not looking to live in the suburbs. Preliminary research has shown us neighborhoods either very suburby or college towns. We still are hoping for the california feel so are a little weary about living in downtown sacramento but are open to any suggestions. We want to avoid living in an apartment building full of college kids. We would like to be west of sacramento so in closer distance to san francisco/napa/weekend trip options.
posted by kmr at 12:57 PM PST - 29 comments

What's the best project management software for this task?

I am leading a team of approximately 15 people who will be working together to create a database of academic policies (maybe 20-40), categorize these policies by department/area, assess their current status (some don't exist yet, we'll just identify the need), prioritize need for attention, work to create and/or revise policies, and then continue to update and maintain. Our group of 15 will likely divide into smaller subcommittees to do more focused work. Is there a piece of software (above and beyond google docs) that will help facilitate collaboration on this task? Is something like Evernote or Basecamp what I'm looking for? How to choose between platforms? I'm willing to pay for the right thing, but it's essential there is no major learning curve for users.
posted by TurkishGolds at 12:44 PM PST - 6 comments

My twenties are wasting away and I'm unhappy, how can I be happier?

I'm almost 26, and I don't have the relationship I wanted to have my this age. Being single is starting to feel like a waste of life, and I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by summertimesadness1988 at 12:04 PM PST - 82 comments

DO Fear the Reaper

Possibly-Apocryphal Biological/Chemical Disaster-Filter: years ago, a friend told me about a haunting, peculiar biological (or chemical) laboratory disaster. I've always wondered whether she was yanking my chain. She's passed away, but I'd like to know if anything remotely LIKE the disaster she described has ever occurred (in a nutshell: "some deadly skin/respiratory agent kills everyone working in a lab facility instantly"). Literally-gory details within. [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew at 11:35 AM PST - 24 comments

Swimsuit saga, part 1

Where can I find cute, affordable (~$11 a yard) swimsuit fabric online? Preferably from an inde/brick-and-mortar place with an online presence. [more inside]
posted by FirstMateKate at 11:17 AM PST - 9 comments

1.85% on 45k student loan - just pay the minimum?

So, I'm selling my house and will have some extra cash, finally. I have a consolidated student loan that after years of steady payments, has come down to a very low 1.85% interest rate. Given the current economic conditions, and an intense desire to have my money work hard for me after years of being in the doldrums, should I up the payment and try to save a tiny bit on interest? Or would it be better to stuff my IRA, or put money into a no-load fund or index? [more inside]
posted by ihavequestions at 11:06 AM PST - 13 comments

Been trying to find this song for a decade and a half...

Trying to ID an old drum & bass tune I heard in the 90s. It's a long shot, but AskMe works wonders... [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 10:59 AM PST - 18 comments

grace in a diffusion of light

Is the memorial in "The Dogs of Riga", the soviet monument? [more inside]
posted by clavdivs at 10:52 AM PST - 3 comments

Contact Lenses In Triangle, NC

Need an eye doctor can help my friend get the right contact lens prescription. She has a strong astigmatism in one eye, the other's normal. She's been to 4 eye doctors here and gone through many many different lenses shapes w/o success. For what it's worth, she has lenses that worked before - but from a doctor on the West Coast. Thanks!
posted by past at 10:49 AM PST - 8 comments

Temporary guest room

We're moving to a 2BR apartment due to the impending arrival of our first child. We're planning to keep the baby in our room, and we'd like to use the second bedroom as a guest room for visiting relatives for the first month or so. Having lived in a 1BR apartment for years, we don't have guest room furniture, of course. We also don't have the need or space for an extra bed after the visitors have gone home. [more inside]
posted by Kriesa at 10:23 AM PST - 29 comments

I'm trying to find a song. Maybe you can help. Won't that be exciting?

Hello, darlings! How are we all today? Growing tall and strong? Good, good. That's what I like to hear. I must now commandeer your brains and I will give them back when I'm done. Years ago, I was out for a drive, and listening to the radio late at night. This would have been at the lower, collegey end of the FM dial. I want to say I was somewhere in Connecticut at the time. Total ballpark here, but I'd guess it was maybe something like 2006. I heard a song that I remember as being fun to listen to, and I wanted to find it again, and I have not been able to do so. Details are within. [more inside]
posted by FAMOUS MONSTER at 10:12 AM PST - 6 comments

Let's see, there's Match, and OKC, right?

A friend was telling me last night that she is ready to start dating again, and thinks that online dating is the way to go, but she has never tried online dating and hasn't the first clue as to how to go about it. [more inside]
posted by vignettist at 10:09 AM PST - 27 comments

Why do I have to put the hot chocolate in first?

When I make instant hot chocolate, the directions always say to put the hot chocolate mix into the mug and then pour hot (not boiling) water on top. This does seem to produce better results than stirring the mix into hot water, although that might be confirmation bias. Does this actually work better? Why? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 10:03 AM PST - 21 comments

Android can't get txts from iphones. Have done ALL known fixes.

My new Android phone won't receive txts from iPHones. this is a known issue in iMessage from Apple. I have done ALL the known fixes that have been suggested. I have read 10 articles and Already done all suggested fixes: I shut off iMessage, deregistered from Apple, asked people to delete me from contacts and delete all txt threads.
posted by quiverandquill at 9:59 AM PST - 6 comments

How to Deal with Advice from Roommates

My roommate keeps giving me advice and nutritional tidbits. At first it was educational, but now I'm just irritated and annoyed, and I can't quite pinpoint why or how to deal with it. [more inside]
posted by Puck Soppet at 9:55 AM PST - 20 comments

Zoo/wildlife sanctuary with comfortable overnight accommodations

I'm helping come up with location ideas for a small wedding for a couple that loves animals and trying to find locations like zoos or wild animal parks/sanctuaries in North or Central America where there are nice, comfortable overnight guest accommodations for ~15 on the grounds of the facility. [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 9:44 AM PST - 11 comments

A special novel?

A family friend is graduating from high school and I would like to give her a gift. She is going to study literature at university so I would like to get her a book. I'm looking for recommendations for something special. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by sapien at 9:30 AM PST - 14 comments

Prom dress emergency...there will be blood.

My daughter ordered the prom dress of her dreams-and two days later we learned it was out of stock. Actually, I learned-haven't told her yet as trying to avoid the ensuing drama and more prom dress shopping. Attempting to find it online, or in another retail location, but no luck. Here's a not-great pic of the dress. The tag says it's Fiesta, number 46001, Mint-and she needs an x-small. [more inside]
posted by purenitrous at 9:26 AM PST - 26 comments

help us replace boxed rice with rice cooker recipes

Hi, me and mrs.chasles and the two littlest chasleses all eat rice, and how! we cook a LOT of white rice in the rice cooker but for flavored rice (think uncle bens type stuff) we switch to the boxes. they are great and savory but very high in sodium and quite a bit more expensive than white rice in the cooker. so how do we migrate from boxed to recipes in the rice cooker (or slow cooker)? the flavors we usually buy are like chicken and herb, wild mushroom, that sort of thing. nothing cheesey etc. In other words is it as simple as "throw some mushrooms in with the rice" or do we need to get more complex? Now with the background out of the way here is the question distilled down: how do we get that intense creamy flavor in a rice cooker? we are both good in the kitchen, so complexity or make-in-advance are all ok for us! thanks for helping!
posted by chasles at 9:12 AM PST - 18 comments

What's the website where you can choose how much to pay for something?

I came across this website a few weeks ago that was selling a web design/dev tutorial package, among other things. Depending on how much you paid (above or below the average price), you'd get a certain number of lessons from the total package. I also remember part of your payment went to the charity of your choice. There was a basic intro to HTML/CSS lesson, one on turning a Photoshop design into a web site, and 7-8 more for a total of ~$11. Does anyone know what I'm talking about?
posted by sociology at 8:48 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me graffiti my own garage

I need guidance on what sort of graffiti markers/paint I want to write words on an outdoor garage wall. Details within. [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 8:47 AM PST - 12 comments

Ideal instrument for a child to learn music?

My child (almost 5) is showing an interest in music and I would like to get him started with music lessons. Please help me pick an instrument for him. [more inside]
posted by rada at 8:40 AM PST - 42 comments

Let me know what you think of my OKCupid profile?

Sorry to continue the recent trend of OKCupid profile reviews, but I'd like more feedback on mine. [more inside]
posted by MeaninglessMisfortune at 8:38 AM PST - 19 comments

How can I get my life in order

I'm currently 21 years old (female). I live at home with my dad and his girlfriend of 17 years. I work two jobs (one at a sandwich shop I've been at for 5 years and another at a coffee shop I've been at for 7 months). I also attend community college and this is my third year there, I will have my associates degree at the end of summer in general studies, I want to transfer to a state university in my area but don't even know what I want to go for. [more inside]
posted by anon1129 at 8:24 AM PST - 12 comments

Raw food boxed meal plan options in Chicago?

Some years ago I tried a raw food diet by buying a one-month boxed meal subscription at Cousins Incredible Vitality in Chicago. Lately I've been wanting to give the raw food diet another go, but it turns out that Cousins has been out of business for a couple of years. I could prepare my own raw food, but part of the appeal of the boxed meal idea is that it would save me a bunch of meal cooking and cleanup time... whereas making my own would have quite the opposite effect! So are there any other places in Chicago where I can get a similar service - i.e. that provides all-raw meals for a certain length of time... with food that is interesting and good?
posted by Mechitar at 8:23 AM PST - 1 comment

My massage therapist broke me.

Last night I had a really painful massage and now I'm freaking out over how much it hurts. Is this normal? Should I go to a doctor? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 8:18 AM PST - 23 comments

Good places to stay in or near Bayfield, WI

Starting to think about actually getting outside and enjoying the world now that the polar vortices have left the upper Midwest for a while. Thinking of heading to Bayfield, WI in August; I'd love to get recommendations from people who know of good places to stay in or near Bayfield. Hotels, cabins, resorts, whatever, as long as it's rad. [more inside]
posted by COBRA! at 8:08 AM PST - 6 comments

Thames Oysters

Oysters were a common food stuff for the poor in victorian london. They grew in the thames and were so cheap that there were riots amongst the poor demanding to be fed something other than oyster or salmon. My question is, how far up the Thames will Oysters grow? I've heard anecdotes of oysters at Hampton Court palace? Can this be true? [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 7:47 AM PST - 5 comments

How do sea levels impact air pressure on Mount Everest?

As the sea level rises and falls, how does that impact air pressure on Mount Everest? [more inside]
posted by burnfirewalls at 7:42 AM PST - 13 comments

Please tell me this is a Viennese ladybug in my bed...

Found a little critter in the bedlinens at the Airbnb place where I'm staying. Entomologists of Mefi, tell me whether to freak out or not. (Please excuse any typos resulting from being on German keyboard.) [more inside]
posted by scody at 7:40 AM PST - 12 comments

Name that book I half-remember from my childhood, episode n

It was a young adult (early teen or late pre-teen?) novel, featuring a boy who ran along railroad tracks. [more inside]
posted by sockpuppet13 at 7:36 AM PST - 5 comments

Does telling my doctor I get high also tell my insurance co. & my boss?

For treating anxiety, I traded prescribed Xanax for unprescribed cannabis and I'm very happy. Extremely happy. Occasionally giddy. How honest should I be with my doctor? If I tell them, does that tell my insurance company I'm involved with illegal activities or something? Is that info available to my boss who pays for insurance?
posted by anonymous at 7:32 AM PST - 20 comments

What is this Adrienne Rich poem about?

Adrienne Rich's poem OCTOBRISH from fox is one that I am fascinated by. But what is it about? [more inside]
posted by morganannie at 7:32 AM PST - 8 comments

Help Finding Cute Japanese Bowls

I purchased these porcelain bowls from TJ Maxx yesterday to use as feeding dishes for my cats. There were only two bowls at the store. They had a "Blue Moon Japan" sticker affixed and are stamped with the same name on the bottom. I would love to buy more in the same or similar color/pattern. My Google-fu isn’t strong this morning. I’ve only found tea sets from the same manufacturer. I would be thrilled to find the manufacturer’s website if only to find out what the pattern names are called.
posted by turniphead at 7:31 AM PST - 3 comments

Make me an Excel rockstar!

What are some of the most useful Excel add-ins that you use on a daily basis? [more inside]
posted by rippersid at 7:18 AM PST - 9 comments

Help me pick out a typewriter for an aspiring novelist

Mrs. Thistledown has been working on a novel, but getting motivation to write has been difficult since she spends most of her workday staring at a computer screen. Coming home to stare at another one to write is hard for her. A typewriter on the other hand... [more inside]
posted by Thistledown at 7:09 AM PST - 12 comments

Need a blue and bronze Ravenclaw tie

Suppose someone needed, for reasons too silly to get into, an "authentic" Harry Potter Ravenclaw tie. Anybody know where one can be found? The catch: must be blue and bronze, the book colors (the movies switched it to blue and silver and most merch seems to follow that). UK-style with stripes running from the wearer's left shoulder down to the right side would be nice too.
posted by Wretch729 at 6:54 AM PST - 8 comments

Advice for a friend in the original ATL music scene?

I have a friend who's trying to make waves in the local Atlanta music scene. She does acoustic singer/songwriter stuff and is trying to book more shows. Any advice or good places for her to contact that you would recommend? I've been gone from the city for awhile but mentioned Eddie's Attic as a good option. Thanks!
posted by JJ987E at 6:19 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me cross over to the dark side!

After 15 years or so working as a journo/editor on niche technical magazines, I am considering a move to the PR/communications sector... [more inside]
posted by low_horrible_immoral at 5:49 AM PST - 5 comments

At that price, don't slam it! Replacing a front door dilema

I had a big box retailer quote on installing (and furnishing) a basic Craftsman style replacement single exterior door for my 90 year old house. They sell similar doors in the store for around $300-$350. The estimate to have it installed, including the cost of the door, removing the existing door and casing, new sill, trim, cost to install the lockset (but not including the cost of the lockset itself) came to $1700. I don't believe they built in anything extra to account for the age and crookedness of the house, which will mean more time spent shimming etc. Would I be better off having a general handyman do the install, or is there special equipment or expertise needed for working with the vinyl casing/trim etc I'm not aware of? Given the cost of the materials, maybe $400, this seems kind of high to me. I'm thinking 2 guys, max 2-3 hours work. What don't I know?
posted by walkinginsunshine at 5:33 AM PST - 16 comments

Firefox XP Support Question

Hello: I understand that Google Chrome plans to continue supporting the Windows XP operating system for another year. Does anyone know Firefox's position concerning this support issue? Thanks in advance. Mckoan1
posted by Mckoan1 at 5:24 AM PST - 3 comments

Everything awesome in Silverlake/K-Town LA

Coffee? Drinks? Food? What's good in Silverlake/K-Town LA? [more inside]
posted by Joseph Gurl at 12:27 AM PST - 11 comments

April 10

Where can I get interlocking rubber play surface mats in the bay area?

I am looking for something like these for our backyard. They need to be designed for outdoor use and rain. You can find similar ones online, but since these are really heavy, the shipping costs are as much as the mats. Are there any local retailers in the bay area that will sell small quantities to an individual? I have Amazon Prime but have not found anything Prime-eligible that looks decent.
posted by benzenedream at 11:56 PM PST - 3 comments

What should we do during our trip to Japan?

We're going to Japan! What should we do? What are some useful iPhone apps? How do we get Internet access? [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 11:22 PM PST - 17 comments

Spanish Horror/ Science Fiction Novels or Short Stories

I'm looking for some psychological horror, science fiction, or just plain interesting stories written in Spanish. I really enjoy Stephen King, and Junji Ito as horror writers go, and I love harder science fiction rather than softer. Philip K. Dick is one of my favorites as well. [more inside]
posted by Gargantuantoe at 11:02 PM PST - 10 comments

Children's book featuring the Brontes?

In the 1980s I read a children's chapter book that featured the Bronte sisters as children. I think it was part of some kind of fantasy time travel - the real main character from a more modern setting somehow travelled back to Haworth parsonage and interacted with them - but I'm not sure of that. Possibly she found a diary or other notebook of theirs? I remember their time being presented as dark, and mysterious, with a sinister male figure, probably their father but maybe Branwell? What was this? Thanks!
posted by sumiami at 10:50 PM PST - 5 comments

All hot and bothered, food edtion

After eating, I get hot. Uncomfortably hot. I need to have lots of cold water on hand, especially after large meals. And having a fan nearby is helpful too. I feel like I'm gross and sticky just because I had a sandwich. Googling hasn't turned up much for me. What is this? [more inside]
posted by colin_l at 10:23 PM PST - 9 comments

Stylish, Cheap, Earrings in the Bay Area. Go!

I feel naked without earrings. But... I have an earring retention problem! I am constantly losing JUST ONE earring, meaning that the only earrings I end up holding on to are the ones I don't like. Help me replenish my earring supply and support local artists! What are your favorite Bay Area spots for cheap (<$20 a pair), cute, locally-made earrings & accompanying jewelry? Any good street fairs that reliably sell cute stuff? Funky, big, unique, dangly, subtle, you name it! (I know I could go the Etsy route, but jewelry I buy online never looks like I think it will - I prefer in-person shopping.)
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 10:05 PM PST - 8 comments

Raspberry Pi ideas?

I just recently got a Raspberry Pi system and I'm wondering what the best way is to revolutionize the tech in my life. [more inside]
posted by antgly at 8:35 PM PST - 6 comments

You: fencing in a japanese hip hop video me: lost

I saw a pretty great Japanese hip-hop music video in my past and would like to relocate it. It was about fencing. [more inside]
posted by passerby at 8:01 PM PST - 2 comments

Racking Hard Cider, Part 2

Here I am one week later, as advised, ready to rack my cider again. But I'm still unsure of some of the details. [more inside]
posted by brenton at 7:38 PM PST - 8 comments

Heathrow to King's Cross

How long do I need to allow (on a Wednesday morning) between the plane landing and catching a train from King's Cross? My flight is due to land at 8.45am. In an ideal situation, I would be on the 13.48 train to Hull. Is this reasonable? [more inside]
posted by hoyland at 7:26 PM PST - 15 comments

Cross-cultural romance - how do I understand the family stuff?

I'm an ex-pat (Western, female) in a culture that is not like my own. I've fallen in love, but I don't know how to process the family dynamics. Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:58 PM PST - 26 comments

my cats love fatty things...why?

I have two 10 year old, part Maine Coon cats(pic of Leo) who love fatty things and I'm wondering if it's a deficiency in their diet? [more inside]
posted by fromageball at 6:51 PM PST - 14 comments

I got a plasticised-wire thing came with my USB Mouse. What is it?

OK, this is odd: I recently bought (online) a little (portable/spare) USB Mouse (fitted with a spring-loaded, self-retracting cable-tidier). Fine. The mouse arrived today, along with a Yellow, Plasticised-wire (pipe-cleaner type thing), which has a cute duck face at the end of it, and a strange forked-tail. No other explanation. (Easter, perhaps?!), but I suspect it's some kind of mouse cradle to hang off a laptop... I don't get how this might be used, but wondered if anyone here could explain what it was / it's proper usage to me. Ta
posted by Dub at 6:12 PM PST - 11 comments

Poo, fly... Do any invertebrates avoid their own poo?

A number of mammals (including us!) instinctually move away from their own feces, or try not to soil their living spaces. Does anybody know of an example of an invertebrate, insect or otherwise, which displays the behavior of avoiding their own waste? [more inside]
posted by wyzewoman at 5:32 PM PST - 7 comments

Is there an app for that?

I have an urgent need for a way to share a daily journal + notes among multiple people, that is searchable by date and term. Bonus difficulty: it needs to have a very low learning curve. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 5:04 PM PST - 10 comments

21st-Century Tech meets 19th-Century Habits

I'm stumped. Are there any iPad address book apps that have space to let you record POSTAL addresses? They all seem to give space for everything but - phone, mobile, Linkedin, web, Twitter, email, Foursquare, Instagram, etc., but no space for stick-a-stamp-on-an-envelope-and-drop-it-in-the-mail mailing addresses. (I also have the sinking feeling y'all are gonna come in with like 20, so can we also turn this into "recommend me your favorite one"?) Thanks.
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 4:20 PM PST - 2 comments

For experienced runners: My left foot goes numb when I run. Why?

I'm an amateur runner warming up to the sport, and have been training for a four mile race. Consistently around the 2-3 mile mark my left foot goes numb; first I notice a slight tingling, and eventually it's like I'm running on one foot. I went to my primary care doctor, and he suggested I get a new pair of shoes at a specialty store, which I did. I tried running again today, and the problem hasn't gone away. I'd like to get this fixed without going to the doctor again, so if anyone has dealt with this issue before I'd love to hear what was wrong and how you (hopefully) fixed it. [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 4:12 PM PST - 19 comments

How can I get my newborn to sleep in the bassinet, rather than my arms?

So, yes, I love it when my adorable newborn falls asleep on my chest. But how can I get her to transition to the bassinet so I can get some sleep? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 4:08 PM PST - 25 comments

Detailed third-person description of a chaotic political protest

I'm looking for books or articles (fiction or non-fiction) about a chaotic political protest or demonstration, from a third-person perspective if possible.
posted by perhapses at 3:58 PM PST - 7 comments

Knuth mixing bits

Which page of The Art of Computer Programming is the problem mentioned here? Does that problem ("find all ways to mix 3 zeroes with 3 ones") have a name?
posted by phrontist at 3:51 PM PST - 10 comments

Hardware downsides to a touchscreen?

I am soon to be in the market for a new laptop. I don't like touchscreens and won't use one, but I want to know if that means I should avoid a touchscreen laptop, or merely ignore the touchscreen if I end up with one. That is: do touchscreens tend to come with drawbacks in terms of durability, longevity, battery usage, sharpness, viewing angles, color reproduction, and what have you? Obviously some panels are better than others, but I'm interested in a general overview. Questions of touchscreens tend to focus on "gorilla arm" and the like, but I'm only interested in how they affect the monitor's ability to let me look at stuff.
posted by rogue haggis landing at 3:50 PM PST - 7 comments

Developing your brain and improving performance

I recently learned that the brain starts out with a lot of fluid intelligence (the ability to acquire new skills and knowledge) which decreases as time goes on. I'm 21, and it has reduced a bit already—but it's never too late to start. How can I take the most advantage of this and build the right foundation for my brain while I'm still young? [more inside]
posted by markbao at 3:38 PM PST - 6 comments

Accounting switch

I am finishing my PhD in the life sciences this year. I do not want to stay in science. I have been debating switching to an accounting career. Difficulty level: bachelor's degree in mathematics, masters degree in biochemistry, phd in pharmacology. But no accounting coursework or direct experience. Also I will be 34 in November. How realistic of a switch is this and how long will it take me, best case? Advice for what to start doing NOW to make this as efficient as possible?
posted by sickinthehead at 3:37 PM PST - 10 comments

How can I easily bulk "unlike" pages on Facebook?

Is there an app or script that will help bulk delete all the pages I've liked on Facebook over the years? The process of doing this from my settings is time consuming (deliberately). Even if there was a way to unlike EVERYTHING then start from scratch, this would be useful.
posted by Unsomnambulist at 3:37 PM PST - 2 comments

How do we get a leash on this dog?

Our adorbs rescue puppy is eating out of our hands, playing fetch and generally charming our socks off. But we cannot cannot cannot get a collar on him. Or a leash. [more inside]
posted by amandabee at 3:34 PM PST - 15 comments

Modern Life is Magic

Help me find books that convey a jolly feeling of appreciation for the wonders of modern life. Ideally these would be books that have a sci-fi or fantasy feel, but in which nothing overtly magical or fantastic happens. The best recent examples I can think of are Mr. Penumbra's 24-Hour Bookstore, which has all the elements of a fantasy novel but is set squarely in our world, and William Gibson's most recent novels, all of which feel fantastic to me but are grounded in real life. [more inside]
posted by spacewaitress at 3:18 PM PST - 18 comments

Auto headlamps: halogen vs xeon vs led - does it matter?

As I search for a new car to replace the old saab it occurs to me that I could use better headlamps to aid the old eyes. At times I feel on the edge of being unsafe when on a two way country road with oncoming headlights (divided highways are ok), a situation that I strive to avoid. I'm looking for personal observations regarding different headlamp types. [more inside]
posted by Kevin S at 3:14 PM PST - 10 comments

Activities for Poetry Workshop for 10-Year-Olds?

Tomorrow I'll be leading a poetry workshop for around 15 4th-graders, which will take the form of two hours of workshop, a lunch break and then an (optional) reading by the students in front of their group and a couple of other similar groups. I have some ideas, but I thought I'd hit up the hivemind as well: what should I teach these kids in the short time allotted, and what should I have them do? Priorities are fun and inspiring them to think of poetry as something enjoyable they can do whenever they like. Individual, small group and whole group activities all welcome. Thanks in advance for any ideas!
posted by slappy_pinchbottom at 2:51 PM PST - 4 comments

Fingerstyle Guitar Songs

I'm looking for good songs to practice various fingerstyle guitar patterns. [more inside]
posted by rossination at 2:11 PM PST - 13 comments

How best to promote raising scholarship funds?

My friends and I have created a memorial scholarship for a friend who passed away over 10 years ago. Through friends and family we're confident to get to our minimum endowment amount, but we'd want to promote this through Facebook and other means (i.e. events) in order to have an increased potential endowment. Do you have any suggestions/tips, on helping increase the visibility? Most of us don't live in our hometown (where the scholarship will be awarded) but several live within a couple hours drive. We have some ideas but want to hear experience and ideas. Thanks!
posted by sandmanwv at 1:55 PM PST - 1 comment

Help me help my lady bits

I’ve been suffering from bacterial vaginosis and/or yeast infection for the last year and could use all the help I can get. [more inside]
posted by saffry at 1:14 PM PST - 28 comments

Best catering option for a picnic in San Francisco's Golden Gate Park?

Bay Area MeFites! I am throwing a picnic in Golden Gate Park (and I am an out-of-towner) and am overwhelmed with food options. Can you recommend some good catering companies, take-out restaurants, food trucks, etc? [more inside]
posted by shotgunbooty at 1:05 PM PST - 3 comments

What, besides scheduled maintenance, should I do to maintain my car?

We recent got a new-to-us used car. Other than following the manufacturer's scheduled maintenance, what should we do to maintain and maximize the life of the car? Examples inside. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 12:37 PM PST - 17 comments

the short way is the long way

What are real-life examples of experiences that are 'shortcuts' to accomplishing something, even though they might be very difficult because of the required intensity? For example, military training supposedly develops a kind of physical and mental discipline that would take a civilian longer to acquire. Rapid learning techniques that allow someone to learn several languages faster than most people learn one is another example. What are others?
posted by michaelh at 12:02 PM PST - 16 comments

Publishing a translation of copyrighted material

So, there was a poet who wrote poems in German in the 1940s. [more inside]
posted by goethean at 11:47 AM PST - 4 comments

OKC Profilefilter, Part n+1

I've just gotten back on OKC after a year away. Let's critique my profile! [more inside]
posted by Maecenas at 11:25 AM PST - 44 comments

Why join proffesional societies or associations as a student?

I have been a member of a few professional societies as a student member. Should I continue with them? How can I better take advantage of them if I do? I am a student member of The American Psychological Association Division 52: International Psychology and The APA div 14: The Society for Industrial Organizational Psychology. They cost around $25 each annually but I don't feel I am taking advantage of them. I don't attend conferences due to the expense so I miss some of the networking benefits. There are usually forums for communication but the activity levels are fairly low. I have gotten access to some books and tons of articles and that's cool. Other than this, is it really worthwhile for me to be a member? If so, how can I better participate as an essentially online only member?
posted by Che boludo! at 11:15 AM PST - 8 comments

What's a good topic for a one-hour math lecture?

I work as a math tutor at a community college and have the opportunity to spend an hour teaching math to a group of students preparing for a the college's math placement test. Now, I don't know what's on the placement test, but I want to teach something that's more engaging and conceptually accessible than "here's how to multiply (4x+3)(2x+5)", since I can't possibly review all of high-school math in an hour and don't think the students will get much from just another lecture. What are some interesting topics that I can explore that will be accessible and memorable?
posted by LSK at 10:24 AM PST - 21 comments

Weird House Smell

There's a mysterious metallic smell in a bedroom in my house. What is it and how do I get rid of it? [more inside]
posted by ariadne's threadspinner at 10:12 AM PST - 7 comments

Lost time is never found again. - Franklin

If time (as measured on Earth) were speeding up or slowing down (relative to what it had been in the past) would there be any way for us to notice or measure it? [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 10:00 AM PST - 18 comments

I had a "mystical" experience. I'm not sure how to process it.

The other evening I was hanging around my apartment eating dinner. At some point after I finished eating, and for several hours afterwards until I went to sleep, I experienced a state of mind I can only describe as "mystical", or perhaps hyper-awareness. Whatever it was, it was so different from anything I can remember experiencing that it threw me completely off balance and I'm still trying to figure out what happened. Looking for insight from others who may have had a similar experience. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:52 AM PST - 40 comments

I just have my suspicions, is all

I'm looking for a relatively fine-grained source of health and environmental data for Contra Costa County, CA. County-by-county is no good, and even city-by-city isn't that great. I'd like to see it by block if possible (zip code would be useful). Anything that fine-grained would be fine: cancer rates, mortality rates, air quality, etc. [more inside]
posted by wintersweet at 9:40 AM PST - 8 comments

We have May 2-5 off. Please help us escape New York and plan a trip!

Do we go to Austin? Or do you have a better plan for us. Please help me decide on where to go and what to see. [more inside]
posted by zara at 9:26 AM PST - 14 comments

What's the term for this vocal style?

What's the term for the vocal style in the bit from 0:55 to 1:18 in this cover of Happy?
posted by stebulus at 9:07 AM PST - 3 comments

Happy hooping playlist needed.

What funky, upbeat music should be on my next hooping playlist? [more inside]
posted by futureisunwritten at 8:53 AM PST - 10 comments

Unreasonable to Want Higher Pay or Better Fitting Position?

I get the feeling I'm underpaid in my current position and my primary skillset is definitely under-utilised, but without a degree or even the industry standard certificate for what I really like to do, I feel like I have to accept that. Am I wrong? It would change my life to be wrong. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:51 AM PST - 14 comments

Nice men's haircut in/around Cleveand, OH?

I'm living on the west side of Cleveland after working abroad for some years. I had a good stylist while I was abroad, but since coming home to Cleveland my hair cuts have been butcher sessions. Please help me find a good men's stylist around Cleveland so I can get a decent haircut for the first time in a while. I'm willing to drive a bit if the recommendation is solid.
posted by Kamelot123 at 8:51 AM PST - 5 comments

Wedding venue cancelled on me

I need alternate venue choices for my May wedding in Katy, TX. [more inside]
posted by Attackpanda at 8:35 AM PST - 17 comments

Craft cocktails in Miami

Interested in craft cocktail bars in Miami and Miami Beach. I've been to the Broken Shaker and the Regent Cocktail Club. Would love more suggestions. Thanks!
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 8:16 AM PST - 2 comments

Computer upgrades for gaming - Johnny Five Alive edition

Looking to upgrade my 2009 gaming beast. It still serves well, but I know there are vast improvements I can make for relatively little money to the GPU, RAM and HD. [more inside]
posted by OnTheLastCastle at 7:47 AM PST - 11 comments

Whaddaya mean "no new episodes"?

I'd like some more podcasts to listen to. Stuff I already like after the fold. [more inside]
posted by griphus at 7:22 AM PST - 35 comments

facebook and twitter and vimeoh-my!

Where should my business go next on social media? [more inside]
posted by headnsouth at 7:16 AM PST - 2 comments

Refurbished iPads for T-Mobile - where are they?

The refurbished area of the Apple Store is full of iPads (+Cellular) for all the major carriers...except T-Mobile. It seems they've been out of stock for a long time. Are T-Mobile users just extra careful? Is there some kind of different restocking policy in place at TMO? [more inside]
posted by JoeZydeco at 7:04 AM PST - 5 comments

Contractor recourse

You all were very helpful with my last rennovation issue (which was resolved, thank you). Here is the lastest. Our major house addition/rennovation had several allowances built in, which I believe is normal and makes sense. For example, our electrical allowance was $15,000. The project is now done and my contractor tells me now that we exceeded our allowance by $14,000?! [more inside]
posted by Blackcow167 at 6:44 AM PST - 16 comments

Poets have been mysteriously silent on the subject of cheese.

What delicious things do you make with cheddar cheese? Breakfast, snacks, lunches, sandwiches, dinners, all are welcome. [more inside]
posted by bilabial at 6:31 AM PST - 37 comments

My dad the penny pincher

My dad's birthday is coming up. He is a special scone. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 5:50 AM PST - 33 comments

Any Melbourne tech companies that use a "Stripe"-like interview process?

I tend to have bad experiences with traditional job interviews. I'm interested in finding out whether there are any tech companies based in Melbourne, Australia, that use an interview process similar to the one used by Stripe.com. Simply, Stripe gets candidates to work on a simulated project (http://www.quora.com/Stripe-company/What-is-the-engineering-interview-process-like-at-Stripe) rather than, say, writing code on a whiteboard. [more inside]
posted by tomargue at 1:09 AM PST - 3 comments

April 9

70th anniversary party playlist!

My husband's grandparents, Papa and Mimi, will be celebrating their 70th wedding anniversary in May. Yes, 70th anniversary!!! The family is throwing an anniversary party for them and one of the party tasks I'm working on is music. [more inside]
posted by Swisstine at 10:11 PM PST - 20 comments

Time to look for a new job? Lacking the resources to help patients...

I've been working for a medical supply company for almost a year now within the medical records department. Excited at first when I started last May of 2013 after being laid off for 3 months from my optical job for 8 years. Double the pay plus benefits to boot. Fast forward to April now and I've become semi-miserable the past 2-3 weeks. [more inside]
posted by tnar23 at 9:57 PM PST - 12 comments

Writing + Community + Speaking = Job Bliss

What are some jobs/careers/gigs that involve writing, some kind of direct interaction in a community space (such as a public library, media lab, shelter, etc.), and teaching/public speaking? Substituting counseling for teaching/public speaking is okay, but something verbal and interpersonal for #3 [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 9:53 PM PST - 7 comments

How to handle a "courtesy interview"?

I work for Company A, a very large outift with multiple branches in my city. I have worked for company A since I graduated from college, at first with my Dream Job division (but not doing my dream job), then with my OK Job division. I still work in OK Job division and my job is pretty OK. I applied for my dream job with Company A last year. The person I would report to informed me that since they did not get enough qualified applicants, they would not be filling the position. I took that to mean I was not qualified and thought it was done. Now they're offering me a "courtesy interview." What?! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:02 PM PST - 17 comments

Resources for ADHD in children

So... I am 99% positive that my three-and-a-half year old daughter has an ADHD diagnoses in her future. She is the poster child for literally every symptom on the "10 early signs" list, and family members/care providers/random aquaintences have all asked "do you think...?" So while of course I will eventually do the appropriate screenings etc - what I'm looking for here are anecdotes, experiences, research and strategies for a parent of a child with ADHD (or, you know, who exhibits all the behaviors and issues of one who does). [more inside]
posted by celtalitha at 8:37 PM PST - 30 comments

New pleasure. New pleasure. Eating!

Recently I discovered a new sensation which is entirely pleasurable - the feeling of having eaten something good. Is this something most people experience? [more inside]
posted by jet_silver at 7:18 PM PST - 18 comments

Possible pathways to a career in adult education program management?

I am interested in eventually managing an adult education program, through something like a college or community-based organization. What are some pathways for getting there? [more inside]
posted by soundproof at 7:14 PM PST - 3 comments

Randomly getting a pump in one arm?

While working out tonight, I walked/ran for 15 minutes on the treadmill and started to warm up with light weights (one set of overhead barbell press). I then noticed that my left arm was engorged with blood - like a “pump” as if I had been working out intensely for a while, but my right was not. The medical advice line thought it wasn't cardiac, but I'd like to figure out what the cause might be. [more inside]
posted by Sexy Question Bot at 6:35 PM PST - 15 comments

Professional reference selection committe

I can't figure out who my professional references should be. I need neutral perspective on my options inside. [more inside]
posted by annie o at 5:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Old car + too much auto insurance.

I'm a dummy. I have a 17-year-old beloved Honda CRV that I cluelessly have been paying too much car insurance on. [more inside]
posted by HeyAllie at 5:31 PM PST - 17 comments

Describe going from "date" to "relationship"

I'm a guy in his thirties who has never been in a romantic relationship. I've been dating through OKCupid for a while, without too much success, and I think one of the reasons is that I just don't have a model of how you go from "first date" to "exclusive relationship involving emotional commitment". Hollywood love stories are no help, and I have no real-life experience, even at second hand, of how this tends to happen. I think it would help me to read some concrete descriptions of various paths this transition can take. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:01 PM PST - 14 comments

Help us weigh financial priorities.

My family's income has just increased, and we're having trouble choosing between financial priorities. Advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:00 PM PST - 17 comments

How to identify particularly good French translations of English books?

My SO prefers reading in French, and I'm introducing her to some of my favourite English-language books. Is there a site somewhere that I can use to look up which books are agreed to have really great translations from English to French? [more inside]
posted by metaBugs at 4:58 PM PST - 7 comments

Being the yesman for privately funded project, how can I make this work?

I work at a non profit and have been running an internship program for two years. It is funded annually, but on no set schedule. I am prevented from insisting on a schedule or requiring a reasonable gap between funding date and start date. I am expected to just pull the program together within weeks of the donation being received. With a vague start date and no selection schedule, how do I advertise and maintain a pool of candidates? Please help me come up with a creative solution! [more inside]
posted by abirdinthehand at 3:56 PM PST - 8 comments

What is this cross-based symbol?

What is this cross-based symbol, as if from a coat of arms or a flag or banner? The image I've linked to is an approximate representation roughly drawn without skill from memory. The closest I've found is the flag of (the country) Georgia, but there are some differences: (1) Georgia's is a lighter red, (2) it's missing the end caps on the main cross, (3) its minor crosses have curves, and (4) it's overall elongated horizontally rather than squared.
posted by Flunkie at 3:20 PM PST - 6 comments

External HD with Ethernet & USB file access?

I want to read/write files on an external HD via both USB and over the network. [more inside]
posted by wutangclan at 2:38 PM PST - 5 comments

What to do with gold teeth?

I must take care of some gold filled teeth. Each one is mostly tooth, with a gold filling. Do these actually have value? Do I go to a pawn shop, jewelery shop, dentist, other? [more inside]
posted by Classic Diner at 2:37 PM PST - 8 comments

Do you regret your elopement or tiny wedding?

We are considering eloping or having a wedding with an extremely limited guest list. Has anyone had a great experience with this? Will I regret it? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 2:34 PM PST - 77 comments

This is my perfect running song. Are there others?

Azwaw by Cheb Mami for some reason has exactly the perfect rhythm for running. However, if I listened to it for the whole 3 miles or whatever, I would go insane. I mean, it's a nice enough song, but. [more inside]
posted by exceptinsects at 2:22 PM PST - 10 comments

When they kick out your front door, how you gonna come?

A friend of mine, a NYC resident with no firearm permit from the NYPD, recently purchased a rifle at a gun show in PA (apparently the dealer didn't recognize his address as being within NYC and didn't ask him for a permit, as NY state residents can purchase rifles without one). He says he does plan on applying for the necessary permit, but in the meantime is storing the rifle in his home. How likely is he to get into any trouble? [more inside]
posted by Venadium at 2:19 PM PST - 7 comments

Why is there no such thing as urgent care for depression?

My partner is trying to seek medication for increasingly bad depression and can't get in to see anyone anywhere until late next month. Advice, suggestions? Location Madison, WI. We are more than willing to travel, but we'd want it to be for a psychiatrist/psychiatric NP, not another talk therapist. [more inside]
posted by jabbersocky at 1:53 PM PST - 33 comments

Name that style of music

Trying to put together an upbeat playlist for running and really enjoying Pharrell Williams's Happy and Janelle Monae's Tightrope. To me they have a very similar sound/style, which also sounds like some oldies (though right now I can't think of any). Is there a name for that style? [more inside]
posted by Calicatt at 1:49 PM PST - 20 comments

He's just definitely that into you

What does healthy requited love look like? How do I know if a person Likes Me Back? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. at 1:48 PM PST - 31 comments

I need help identifying a book.

I don't have much to go on. Who wants to take a stab at it? [more inside]
posted by msali at 1:23 PM PST - 4 comments

OCD Friendly Hair Gel / Spray / Wax

I'm a bit OCD from a touchy/feeling standpoint, and hair gel / spray / wax gives me the chills. I have short hair (under a few inches) and need to gel my hair for work (office environment). Any suggestions for a non-sticky feeling, OCD friendly hair gel / spray / wax etc.?
posted by WhereAmI at 12:34 PM PST - 21 comments

What's the best method to get this anxious kitty across the ol' USA?

Special Agent Dale Cooper is a very sweet, loving and lazy kitty. He is very happy living the simplest of lives - by day he lazes at the foot of my bed. He takes odd breaks to snack, or lie in his cat lounge. Every once in a while, when he needs to shake it up, he takes an adventure-tourism vacation to lounge on the bathmat. I am currently anticipating a job offer that will take him VERY far out of his comfort zone - clear across the country. Previous travels have been traumatic for Agent Cooper and his traveling companions (namely me, but also anyone in a small radius). I'll explain at length inside - warning: it's a little, but not terribly, gross. [more inside]
posted by pazazygeek at 12:16 PM PST - 21 comments

Does The Scarlet Letter belong to a literary genre?

Does The Scarlet Letter belong to a literary genre? How would publishers market the book today, and on what book shelf would you find it in the book store? Same question for The Brothers Karamazov. Could these stories, if they were told in a prose style indicative of the 21st c, find a publisher?
posted by jwhite1979 at 12:13 PM PST - 12 comments

Is there such a thing as a PG-13 version of Rocky Horror?

Your stage experience has mostly been variations on the Vagina Monologues, political spoken word, or absurdly sexual burlesque. You secretly want to be Joan Jett. You're auditioning for something that asks for a monologue or song that is PG-13 at the most - what do you pick? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 12:00 PM PST - 13 comments

Crazy worry Wart Dad needs advice for kids

Both my young adult children are going to France 1 for school the other just because. I need some advice? [more inside]
posted by mrgroweler at 11:34 AM PST - 21 comments

Marvellous

I have seen Iron Man and The Avengers (I liked both). I have also seen four episodes of Agents of SHIELD. I'm now curious about the other movies, what with all the good press for the new Captain America and all the Loki gifs everywhere. Which movies in this universe should I watch and in what order? [more inside]
posted by jeather at 11:23 AM PST - 19 comments

Inexpensive housing in São Paulo for the world cup (6 weeks)?

I'm looking to go to Brazil with my male friend for about 6 weeks (from about June 1 to July 15). We'd like to rent a room, apartment, house, shared house, hostel for relatively cheap (preferably under $500 per person). It seems like if we go outside São Paulo city center we can get cheaper prices, how should we go about looking? I am aware of Airbnb and couchsurfing.com Thanks
posted by crawltopslow at 11:11 AM PST - 10 comments

Best practices for OSX backup strategy?

After another data-loss scare, I'm trying to actually get a system in place for backing up a couple home computers. [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 10:57 AM PST - 20 comments

Student loans for certificate program?

What options are available out there in regards to educational loans for certificate programs with a university? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:45 AM PST - 5 comments

What was this Japanese comic about cigarettes?

LongShotFilter: I'm looking for a Japanese comic/illustration I saw online about 10-12 years ago. It was about two packs of cigarettes in love. (...I think.) [more inside]
posted by Metroid Baby at 10:36 AM PST - 0 comments

How To Write a Eulogy for Somebody You Don't Know?

My sister has asked me to deliver the eulogy for my nephew at his funeral next week. He was 21 when he died of a drug overdose. I am happy to do it, but the difficulty is that I did not know him. So, I am having a hard time getting started... [more inside]
posted by The Blue Olly at 10:24 AM PST - 14 comments

Has anyone heard of a degree in "strategic intelligence"?

So I've now had two young people in the last month ask me for career advice who told me they were planning to major in "strategic intelligence." Has anyone heard of such a thing? I hadn't, and had to look it up. From what I can gather it seems to be basically a hybrid history/poli-sci degree. Is that accurate? And more than that, is such a degree worth the paper it's printed on? [more inside]
posted by valkyryn at 10:21 AM PST - 13 comments

ID Street Light

Can you identify the make and model of this sad street light?
posted by jmsta at 9:36 AM PST - 1 comment

This is a scam, right?

A potential landlord is asking that I check my credit score online and bring them a copy of the results when I see the unit. I have no problem paying an application fee, but asking me to sign up for something online before seeing an apartment is not something I have done before. Seems like a scam to me. [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 9:17 AM PST - 23 comments

How can I fall in love with my city?

I've been in Rochester, NY for two and a half years now for graduate study, and I have about that much longer to stay here. I haven't liked the city since I moved here (the weather is terrible, the city is small and geographically isolated, it feels like everything important is happening elsewhere, the natural beauty is underwhelming, etc. etc.). Recently I've come to believe that it isn't really the town's fault, but mine, since I never really gave Rochester a chance. How do you cultivate a love for a city that you didn't grow up in, never intended to come to, and plan to leave as soon as professionally possible? [more inside]
posted by Archibald Edmund Binns at 8:37 AM PST - 35 comments

How do I put a botched interview behind me?

I goofed on a technical question that I have little doubt cost me the job. Chalk it up to nerves, or not understanding the question properly... Whatever the reason, I have been beating myself up about this since the interview, which was a week ago. Perhaps I have a lot of preconceived notions on how much better I would enjoy my work if I got this job, which is making it that much more difficult to swallow. It also has made me question my competency in my field, and I catch myself putting myself down on occasion. How do I get myself out of this funk and accept these past events for what they are, and stop beating myself up about it?
posted by helios410 at 8:34 AM PST - 15 comments

Help me figure out how to trust again (both other people and myself)….

What I’m trying to figure out now is how to trust people again, trust myself again, and find myself/my voice again. [more inside]
posted by lullu73 at 8:18 AM PST - 11 comments

What storage solution am I looking for?

This is for my lab. Setup: two computers, both Mac Pros. Each runs the same psychology experiment software. (Python-based, FWIW.) Our subjects have multiple sessions, and may use one computer or the other on subsequent days. We have multiple experiments running at once. We use Unison to keep their data directories synchronized (it's better than running two rsync cron jobs) but it's starting to get temperamental. I know there must be a better solution, and I feel like it's hardware based. [more inside]
posted by supercres at 8:04 AM PST - 10 comments

Is motive a Western concept?

In the MH370 thread, I had asked what the motive would be for the pilot to commit suicide in the way that experts think the plane probably went down, and this comment had be very curious. Is motive really a culturally specific idea? And if so, why can't I wrap my mind around that?
posted by roomthreeseventeen at 7:27 AM PST - 19 comments

Searching for small web app ideas.

I'm a web developer looking to build a 'micropreneur'-style side project but am short on tangible ideas -- everyone around me works in software, and we either roll-our-own or have hundreds of web apps already targeting us. Do you know of tasks in an industry that could be automated with software but aren't? [more inside]
posted by ragaskar at 6:55 AM PST - 9 comments

Statistical Herpes Question

Can you give an estimate of the likelihood of contracting herpes based on this scenario? [more inside]
posted by mockpuppet at 6:50 AM PST - 10 comments

Common wildflower identification, Europe

Hello, can anyone please tell me what this flower is called? [more inside]
posted by runincircles at 4:26 AM PST - 5 comments

What makes a woman "creepy?"

There's plenty of literature out there about creepy men, "nice guys" and other types of that sort. Where are all the resources for this regarding *women?* Google is only giving me examples like she put [something gross] in my food or she made inappropriate references to getting pregnant. I'm looking for something more subtle. Bonus points if it's aimed toward socially-awkward nerdy types. [more inside]
posted by Autumn at 3:21 AM PST - 23 comments

I think I like-like him.

Are we friends? Are we dating? How do I find out without ruining everything? [more inside]
posted by quincunx at 12:51 AM PST - 29 comments

Swim gear

I'd like to start swimming more regularly. I want some gear that will make it easier. I need goggles, earplugs, and a cap. Also, what's your favorite piece of swimming gear? [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 12:38 AM PST - 25 comments

April 8

The original sources of traditional medicine

How were the medicinal properties of plants established in antiquity? [more inside]
posted by paleyellowwithorange at 11:51 PM PST - 15 comments

E-ink tablet wirelessly mirrors laptop?

My computer is inside my apartment; my e-ink tablet is in the backyard; both are on the same wireless network. The tablet both (1) mirrors everything on the computer and (2) serves as a wireless keyboard and mouse, sending my touch commands to the computer. How close to this setup am I able to come right now? [more inside]
posted by foursentences at 11:09 PM PST - 5 comments

Can you help me deploy my Django project?

I made a project using Django! I have no idea how to put it online! Can you please walk me through it like I'm five years old? [more inside]
posted by topoisomerase at 9:52 PM PST - 9 comments

The Term is "Layman Theoretical Physicist" not "Kook"

Where do you go to learn about theoretical physics, other than a university? [more inside]
posted by Deodand at 9:36 PM PST - 22 comments

Recommend "how I made/fixed this software" podcasts by women

I love programming/sysadmin case studies, I love women's perspectives, and I'm swinging back into listening to podcasts. Help me find more of what I love? [more inside]
posted by brainwane at 9:02 PM PST - 4 comments

Labelis Totallis - graphic design for a complete newbie

I would like to make some candles, lip balms, soaps etc with wizard themed labels for an upcoming Harry Potter themed party. Then, if it works out ok, I was hoping to expand and maybe start a small etsy shop. But I don't know where to start with the labels. [more inside]
posted by Youremyworld at 8:17 PM PST - 3 comments

Multiplayer Sudoku App?

Is there a good app that lets one play Sudoku against friends? I'm looking for something that is non-crappy and has both IOS and Android versions.
posted by Yakuman at 8:07 PM PST - 1 comment

Does a tenant in California have a right to have his closet unlocked?

I rent an apartment with a strange closet situation. Right now the closet has locked. No key exists for the lock. Instead, the landlord urges me to keep it unlocked, even though it tends by its nature to lock, accidentally. The landlord will not make a key. Instead he charges me for stripping the door from its hinges each time it locks, grumbling "I told you there was no key!" Is this OK or is there some ideal under the law that I should be able to have access to my closet?
posted by johngoren at 7:58 PM PST - 24 comments

Nothing to see here, move along.

I was diagnosed with ADHD ~5 years ago. Since that time, I've been on a steady dose of Adderall XR (25-30 mg per day). I've always been decent at small talk and could keep up a stream of lively banter and my fair share of comebacks. But, about a last year, I have noticed concerning changes in many aspects of my speech... [more inside]
posted by chloe.gelsomino at 7:57 PM PST - 6 comments

Rebranding or repairing a broken PhD student

This seems to be a week for academia-related questions. I am an ABD student in the humanities at a prestigious university. The job prospects in my field are grim, and they are grimmer still for me because I have not performed well in my program. My history is one of late papers, lingering incompletes, delayed time to qualifying exams, and poor rapport with faculty. I am in the beginning stages of writing a dissertation that I know will serve me no real purpose. So what do I do now? [more inside]
posted by redfishbluefish at 7:23 PM PST - 16 comments

Smoke/Fire alarm repeater?

I want a device that I can attach to our front door, and if the building's alarm goes off, a signal would be relayed to an alarm outside our bedroom door. Does this kind of thing exist? [more inside]
posted by EastCoastBias at 6:35 PM PST - 11 comments

Recommendations for pediatric healthcare while traveling in Hong Kong?

We're traveling soon with two toddlers to stay in HK. They are generally healthy kids, but we'd appreciate any information or advice in case something healthcare-related comes up during our stay. [more inside]
posted by werkzeuger at 5:51 PM PST - 4 comments

Need a new coffee table

Help me find a coffee table along the lines of Geek Chic, but on the cheap (or at least cheaper). [more inside]
posted by PaperDragon at 5:50 PM PST - 2 comments

A running list

Help me write a list of words and/or things that are all related to running. [more inside]
posted by floweredfish at 5:38 PM PST - 18 comments

Allergy-friendly bakery in central/south Indiana?

We're looking for a bakery that can make us a small cake or a small batch of cupcakes with a mind to allergy restrictions (nuts and dairy are the major concerns, but there are a few other items we'd like to avoid as well) somewhere in the vicinity of Indianapolis or Bloomington, IN. Having someone deliver to those areas might also be an option if the price isn't astronomically high. Google turns up one bakery that can accommodate the dairy restrictions, but not the nut restrictions. Any recommendations, or do I need to get out the spray bottle and apron and figure out how to do this myself...?
posted by FreelanceBureaucrat at 5:19 PM PST - 7 comments

Freelance programming career?

Does anyone have some advice about how I could start a freelance programming career? [more inside]
posted by Gosha_Dog at 5:01 PM PST - 8 comments

What are some sites like Slate, the Atlantic and Salon?

I like to read these three websites: Salon, Slate and the Atlantic because I like their writing styles and their combination of news and politics. Can you recommend me websites (daily/weeklies) along the same vein that I should be reading? What am I missing? Thank you!
posted by timpanogos at 4:59 PM PST - 14 comments

Name my personal finance blog/website.

Asking for my boyfriend: This will be a blog about what steps I am taking as I learn to be responsible with money, with the goal of retiring early. I will write about budgeting, saving for an emergency fund, figuring out how to invest in 401ks, etc. While this all sounds serious, I am a young guy with a sense of humor. Some ideas I am considering inside.. [more inside]
posted by never.was.and.never.will.be. at 4:28 PM PST - 16 comments

Have I been hacked by the PLA?

Why did my Safari start screen change to China/Chinese favorites when I upgraded to iOS 7.1? [more inside]
posted by Dansaman at 2:52 PM PST - 4 comments

Dentist recommendation in Sunnyvale/Mountain View/Palo Alto?

I'm looking for a dentist who is good at explaining what I need to have done in my mouth. I don't do well with the style of "trust me, you need $$$$ done". I'm the type of person who actually enjoyed (well, found it fascinating) watching myself get a root canal. My favorite dentist - unfortunately, on the other coast - was a professor at the local dental school. She was phenomenal at explaining what was wrong, and the relative merits of different treatments. [more inside]
posted by Metasyntactic at 2:37 PM PST - 12 comments

"Trench warfare" vs. water in basement?

Before we bought our house, our home inspector suggested a solution to a minor water issue in the basement. I'm considering his solution and others, and welcome knowledgeable opinions. [more inside]
posted by sleevener at 2:09 PM PST - 12 comments

How young is too young for dyed hair?

My son is 12, and he's set on dying his hair jet black. I'm not sure what reasons I should give if I tell him no, or what consequences may arise if I tell him yes. I'm hoping to hear from some of you with experience raising, teaching, or being a child like this. [more inside]
posted by bibliowench at 2:00 PM PST - 82 comments

This is the end...and then it's not...and then it is... and then?

Our beloved 18 year old kitty Skye was diagnosed with CRF 3&1/2 years ago. We were told at the time it was pretty bad and that he could have months or years left. We opted not to go with the sub q because he is so skittish already, I wasn't about to make his final time with us miserable. We changed his diet and it helped tremendously. He has his downs where we think it is the end, and then her perks up in a week and is back to normal. This last down was the worst and the shortest. [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas at 12:52 PM PST - 13 comments

And sometimes the blonde likes to wear...

I can't believe I'm burning a question on this, but in the last few months, one of those cartoon style text and picture... thingies was going around Facebook. It featured a women who was lamenting people who expect there to be guy and a girl in same-sex relationships, and (I think) ended in a panel that said "And sometimes the blonde likes to wear the strap-on." Does anyone have a link to it? (As y'all can imagine, while the Google results for this particular query are highly interesting, they're not very useful to the particular question at hand. Thanks, all!)
posted by joycehealy at 12:15 PM PST - 5 comments

Getting faster at reading in-language

I'm a fast reader in English. I want to get faster at reading in Russian (in which I am fluent, but rarely use at this point). How can I do this?
posted by aaanastasia at 12:11 PM PST - 10 comments

Can I eat this, delayed FedEx meat shipment edition

I had a shipment of frozen meat that was delayed by bad weather last week in Memphis. It was shipped on Thursday frozen in a styrofoam box to be delivered on Friday. Thanks to a weather delay, I didn't get it until Monday evening. The box sat in a truck in the local FedEx parking lot all day Saturday and Sunday (and probably most of Friday also). [more inside]
posted by fogovonslack at 12:10 PM PST - 20 comments

Make my first Europe trip a success. Copenhagen, Sweden, and the works!

I'm going to Copenhagen for 7 nights in mid-May! It's definitely not the first Europe trip I had been longing for, but some time ago I found an insane deal on airfare and it was too good to pass up, even if it meant upstaging my plans for a much longer trip to the continent. MeFi, help me make it a success. Give your best tips on. Also, what would be viable day trips from Copenhagen? [more inside]
posted by signondiego at 11:49 AM PST - 9 comments

Where do I find a freelance graphic designer for a quick turnaround?

Hi all, I have a quick ask for a graphic designer. Need to mock up a landing page - does not need to be final design, and with about 24 hour turnaround. Don't want to spend a ton of money - up to $100. Are there any places I can go to ask / designers willing to help out? I would ask designers at my job, but this landing page is for a personal project and they are extremely busy already.
posted by pando11 at 11:18 AM PST - 6 comments

He loves me, I love him not

A few days ago my training partner/coach/ friend professed his feelings for me; I don't feel the same way. Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:10 AM PST - 32 comments

Where can I get sheet sections of tire tread?

I'm looking at a print based project and am on the hunt for A4 or A5 sheets of tire tread, as if it's been removed straight from a tire. Is this possible? [more inside]
posted by stackhaus23 at 11:00 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me build this awesome playlist

What songs would sound good on a playlist with Secrets (The Karminsky Experience, Inc.), The Clapping Song (Shirley Ellis), and Tuareg (Gal Costa)? [more inside]
posted by evil otto at 10:47 AM PST - 15 comments

I came here to buy Ceasar... not to overpay for him.

Okay, so I have a friend in Austria who looooves Ceasar salad dressing. (I used to smuggle it in my suitcase from America when I'd visit her.) As a surprise little "I'm thinking about you" gift, I've been thinking of mailing her a bottle or some salad dressing mix, but I just can't figure out how to do it at a reasonable price... German Amazon is asking for $28 to send a $5 bottle of Cardini's to Vienna. Anybody have any other suggestions? Thanks! :D
posted by miss lynnster at 10:34 AM PST - 17 comments

Budget hotels in San Francisco

I'm headed to San Francisco for a week at the end of the month. Work will reimburse up to $190 per night for a hotel. I really want to stay downtown for easier access to restaurants, bars and nightlife. I'm fine with driving to and from the worksite. Which hotel(s) would you recommend?
posted by grateful at 10:31 AM PST - 14 comments

How do I tell set up a local WordPress install with public URL?

Can I use /Sites/ in OSX to develop WordPress, and possibly share staging URLs with the outside world? [more inside]
posted by critzer at 9:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Prolotherapy for arthritic knees?

I'm considering getting prolotherapy for my knees, and I'm wondering if anyone has any personal experience with it. [more inside]
posted by gottabefunky at 9:37 AM PST - 6 comments

Looking for activity dates in NYC

Looking for good, reasonably priced, activity dates in the NYC area. What do you do when you're not doing dinner and a show? Hands-on is preferred - active rather than passive activities. [more inside]
posted by corb at 9:34 AM PST - 14 comments

Where can I buy real sand near Boston?

We need sand for our daughter's sandbox - I think it takes like 17 50 pound bags. However, based on research we are all worked up now about the horribleness of the "Fake" sand from ground up quartz - due to inhalation issues. However, we know there can be an issue with real sand as well. So I am looking for somewhere that can provide safe real sand - so probably real sand that has been washed to remove the very small particles. This type of thing can be ordered online but it is hugely expensive. I could call around to every landscape company but I know many are business only, have huge minimums or simply wouldn't want to talk to the type of sand I need (which is probably river sand or beach sand).
posted by IzzeYum at 9:33 AM PST - 14 comments

Design for Print Questions

Graphic (print) designers/printers/small press people/publishing folk/or anyone experienced with graphic printing, Can you answer a slew of questions about the Creative Suite program, color management, pre-flight, and the like? I'm moving into print for design work, specifically for commercial publishers, and I've been doing hard-core study of Creative Suite and pre-production for the last several months, but niggling questions remain. Can you help? It would be such a relief to get answers from real people rather than books, videos, Websites, and my own darned inferences.... Quite a few snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Violet Blue at 9:23 AM PST - 10 comments

Monitor WTF

About six months ago we started having issues with our computer monitor. Upon booting our 2-ish-year-old Dell desktop, the monitor would blink on and off a couple of times, then work as normal. As time went on, the blinking went on longer and longer until it was doing it for close to a half-hour. [more inside]
posted by altopower at 9:04 AM PST - 10 comments

Near(ish) future space exploration fiction

I have a huge love for space/planetary exploration fiction. Think 2001, the sadly mistreated Defying Gravity TV show and Kim Stanley Robinson's mars series. Do you have recommendations for me? Books primarliy, but TV/Films too though I guess i have seen most of those in this genre already. [more inside]
posted by Another Fine Product From The Nonsense Factory at 9:02 AM PST - 10 comments

What noises are my downstairs neighbor hearing?

I live in the top floor of a newly-constructed (less than a year old) wood-framed apartment complex. I try to be a good neighbor and keep any noises to a minimum. However, yesterday, my neighbor that lived right below my unit came to talk to me about thumping noises that he hears coming directly above him. He says it sounds like somebody was dropping heavy objects or moving furniture. The thing is, he claims he mostly hears this after 11PM. However, I'm usually in bed and sound asleep by 11. So what could it be that he's hearing? [more inside]
posted by gyc at 8:25 AM PST - 38 comments

local opposition TO "massive resistance"?

"Massive resistance" was a shameful state effort from 1956-1959 to cancel out the Brown v. Board decision. Virginia's Harry Byrd launched it, but the courts ultimately killed it off. I've heard that there was [at least one] petition or letter circulated in opposition to it, but can't find any mention of it. It would have been remarkable in the climate of the time, because signers would surely have lost their jobs. I checked several relevant websites, including that of the Southern Historical Association, but nothing even close. Is anyone familiar enough with the details of this sad chapter to have heard of such an effort?
posted by mmiddle at 8:10 AM PST - 5 comments

Looking for a great Seattle CSA!

We're looking to switch to a new CSA this year, after a few years of using Nash's Organic Produce. Looking for recommendations, and reviews of a few specific ones that we're interested in. Snowflakes inside! [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 8:06 AM PST - 5 comments

HR person at my company asked if I intend to have kids. What to do?

I was waiting with HR person and my manager for a meeting room to come free for a meeting about a project I want to start at work. HR manager casually asked about my upcoming wedding (I'm engaged and getting married soon), then asked if we'll have kids soon. How do I handle this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:46 AM PST - 49 comments

Help me make this rotating globe

Making a desktop clock out of a 24-hour clock movement, a globe, and an LED. Help me design it within! [more inside]
posted by rebent at 7:40 AM PST - 2 comments

Looking for baseball in NYC

I am looking for decent afternoon or evening watching a baseball game; without all the rah-rah videos and constant music filling in all the time. The Brooklyn Cyclones have long fallen to this unfortunate trend. I don't need big stars or added entertainment.
posted by ebesan at 7:15 AM PST - 6 comments

60% chance of rain

What does it mean when the weather forecast says that there is a 60% chance of rain? [more inside]
posted by devnull at 7:04 AM PST - 11 comments

Weak tendons -- what to do?

My boyfriend has been having orthopedic injuries that are intense and debilitating for a day or two, and then disappear. He saw a doctor this morning that said it's possibly caused by weak tendons or ligaments, but didn't offer suggestions on the underlying cause or preventative measures. YANMD, but what sort of doctor should we look for? [more inside]
posted by redlines at 6:55 AM PST - 15 comments

Cleaning mould from curtains with several constraints

I need to clean a bunch of white curtains with black mildew spots. They all have plastic rings sewed on for hanging and no tags to show what material they're made from, but they look like a cotton blend. I don't have a washing machine (I bring clothes to a laundrette) and have serious space limitations (no room to air dry, unless *absolutely* necessary). What is the best approach to cleaning these things? Will a dryer melt the plastic rings? Will a hot wash damage the curtains? Is dry cleaning an option? Thanks!
posted by hannahlambda at 6:35 AM PST - 6 comments

"Your server IP address is in the SpamCop database, bye"

Email filter: I've had trouble for the last couple days with bouncing emails. It's just been to a couple email addresses (that I really need to send things to - NOT SPAM) and I don't understand why. I've googled, seems like sometimes IP addresses just end up on blocklists, however - I use gmail, so what gives? What? Why? How do I fix it? How long will it last? [more inside]
posted by mooza at 6:12 AM PST - 4 comments

Tips and techniques for organizing my digital life

My desktop PC (running Windows 7) contains four hard drives, with information dating back to 1984. How can I organize that information, de-duplicate it, and archive it in some kind of logical manner? [more inside]
posted by alex1965 at 5:24 AM PST - 9 comments

Supporting a grieving partner - what do you wish you'd known?

I am struggling and I don't know how to handle this and not make myself completely miserable along the way [more inside]
posted by lifethatihavenotlivedyet at 5:19 AM PST - 21 comments

Should I be this mad at the airport, and if so, what do I do?

Anonymous because I'm not sure if legal action is a possibility. After many times of travelling with his CPAP machine with absolutely no problem, my SO was not allowed to board with it this time at our local airport. (There was a death in his family and he was flying on short notice.) They insisted it needed an FAA approval stamp or at the very least a letter from the manufacturer. We found the relevant letter on our smartphone but the airline employee (the one who was holding the machine hostage) insisted it had to be "on their letterhead." With only an hour before the flight took off, he had to go without it -for three nights. I called the TSA, and they were shocked. I called the relevant airline, and they put me on hold and then told me it was a local airport rule. I sent an email to the airport, and they claim it is an airline rule, and that I was misinformed, and that they were passing my email to the local rep of the airline. (after I responded.) I have not heard back so far. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:18 AM PST - 21 comments

I'm a geek, help me pretend to be a Manager

I've been essentially handed a brand-new small helpdesk, which I'm supposed to manage. How do you delegate/fairly share out the constant interruptions in your workplace, or what tools do you use to help manage things, when *snowflake criteria* you don't have admin rights to install apps? [more inside]
posted by Elysum at 4:55 AM PST - 9 comments

Florence necessities: wifi, food, football

I'll be in Florence for 1 week. I'd like to ask for places with good internet access; good steak and other local dishes; good view of the Champions League games. [more inside]
posted by shortfuse at 1:45 AM PST - 5 comments

What are some fun activities in Phoenix for a 2-year old?

I will be in Scottsdale with my 2.5 year old for 5 days, and I'm interested in toddler-friendly things to do. Although we will be staying in Scottsdale, we are willing to drive around. [more inside]
posted by Maximian at 1:39 AM PST - 6 comments

Anonymous JavaScript advice

Hello, Could someone please tell me where I can get advice on the design of code on a particular website? [more inside]
posted by Musashi Daryl at 12:17 AM PST - 5 comments

April 7

overnight camping trips from Manhattan?

Two of my friends want to go on an overnight camping trip starting from Manhattan, but separately. So I'm looking for one place where we could camp overnight that's within a 30-60 mile bike ride of public transportation, and another place where we could camp overnight that's within a few miles' walk of public transportation. The bike site could be either a prepared camp site or just a place where people won't mind us pitching a tent; the walking site really has to be approved for camping. Does the hive mind have any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang at 10:08 PM PST - 7 comments

Please educate me on shopping for traditional Indonesian textiles.

A friend of mine is visiting Jakarta and will be taking a shopping trip to Pasaraya Grande as part of his tour. I love fabrics and I particularly love traditional dye work (such as batik) and handwoven cloth. However, I don't know much about the textiles of Indonesia, and I've never been there myself. What kinds of pieces are available at the Pasaraya Grande, and how are they priced? I'd like to give him some money and just tell him to get me something awesome -- what could he get for, say, $100 USD? How about $20 USD? [more inside]
posted by pupstocks at 9:48 PM PST - 3 comments

How can I let myself be vulnerable in my new relationship?

I think I have some messed up ideas about relationships, that are going to get in the way of me finding true intimacy and being a really good partner to someone. I want to get over these ideas but am terrified that acting in a more authentic and loving way will backfire. Hope me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:42 PM PST - 8 comments

Can I get better insurance than employer offers?

My husband's new job only offers one plan: a high deductible plan with $5,000 and $10,000 deductibles. We both have chronic illnesses with lots of medications and several doctors. We cannot afford to pay out of pocket for everything. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by threeturtles at 9:18 PM PST - 19 comments

My anger is, frankly, getting out of hand.

I`ve always had a hard time controlling my anger. Either I let too much out, or I end up bottling it up and feeling super stressed and resentful - either way, I feel awful afterwards. It seems that both happened simultaneously this time around; I got super, unhealthy-level angry at a family member over a problem that, although upsetting to me, is probably trivial in the grand scheme of things. This is no good for my health, and is obviously not helping our relationship. Please help me come up with strategies that I can employ which let someone know that I am upset, yet keep my anger level from rising to the point of no return. [more inside]
posted by Thanquol180 at 8:29 PM PST - 29 comments

Who would i hire to research a personal life? Literally.

So I'm trying to figure out who I would hire - theoretically - to do an index or census of a personal life. I want someone who would be able to look at a life (with consent) to study it. The person would follow a subject around to determine core friends/family/contacts on a daily basis and then do research based on relationships. Then they'd objectively drill down into some key data points. - How many of the people in my life up to one relationship away (aka my brother's good friends) are married or single and for how long - How many of my past relationships are single/married and for how long Beyond that maybe some polling on specific questions about the subject from those people. So who am I looking for here? Is it a Private Investigator? A sociologist? A statistician? A life coach? Is there someone in an "I Heart Huckabees" way that you hire to do this sort of thing? Is this already a job or service someone provides and I don't know the name?
posted by rileyray3000 at 7:54 PM PST - 5 comments

What I'm With isn't It

Need sugqgestions for loud, aggressive, violent music that is contemporary (2014). I have a great back catalogue of stuff from ten and twenty years ago, but nothing from this decade. [more inside]
posted by sandraregina at 6:52 PM PST - 13 comments

Smoke in the sofa, and febreeze in the sky

How do you get a smoke smell out of a couch? [more inside]
posted by ian1977 at 6:35 PM PST - 14 comments

How to get Outlook/Hotmail to put the ">" character in email replys

How the heck do you get outlook.com (previously hotmail.com) to preface the text of emails that you're replying to with a ">" in the first column? This is a simple ass feature that makes email conversations a heck of a lot easier but how do you turn it on?
posted by storybored at 6:18 PM PST - 5 comments

I want to learn about climate change

I want to learn about climate change and the challenges facing the environment today. Please recommend resources! [more inside]
posted by Hey Judas! at 6:15 PM PST - 13 comments

Moving supplies in Orlando

Need a great place to buy good well priced boxes, paper, bubble wrap, etc. Anyone know an unexpected place to get these items in the Orlando area? Factory that doesn't need them etc.
posted by jseven at 6:14 PM PST - 3 comments

Name that crazy wooden ruler thingy!

What is this thing? [more inside]
posted by padraigin at 6:11 PM PST - 9 comments

Customizing a freelance designer's resume for a full-time job

Graphic designers who work exclusively as freelancers might or might not reach a point where they want to get full-time jobs, perhaps because it gives them a chance to save up more, or maybe because it offers them a stable paycheck when freelance work is sporadic. Question is, when freelance graphic designers apply for a design job in a creative agency, how do they write a compelling resume? [more inside]
posted by omar.a at 6:06 PM PST - 3 comments

Damned if you do, damned if you don't: attorney woes

How do attorneys find the “smoking guns” without getting their time written off and incurring wrath in the process? [more inside]
posted by trandolph at 6:04 PM PST - 9 comments

The mysterious trunk in the attic

We bought a house four years ago from the original family that built it in 1950. The mother had passed away and the sons sold the house leaving some odds and ends they apparently didn't want to deal with. Chief amongst those is a gigantic trunk in the attic, which I finally got around to bringing down at the cost of some back pain. It's the exact same trunk as this one (made by the Faber & Son Co. out of Utica, NY) except it's black and not in quite as good shape, but still solid. Anybody out there know anything about antique trunks in terms of value and/or restoration?
posted by AlonzoMosleyFBI at 6:03 PM PST - 4 comments

Song ID: something about liking/not liking popcorn?

It's sung by a woman in some kind of retro rock-y style that I can't quite articulate. It's a list of foods that girls either.. like or don't like, and the chorus is about popcorn.. I think. Challenge: pretty sure this is from a Portland, OR band, as I heard this on the local Portland-centric radio station KZME. [more inside]
posted by curious nu at 5:56 PM PST - 1 comment

Books & Resources on Letting Go

I'm seeking books and other resources on getting over being cheated on. I'm tired of being hurt by it. [more inside]
posted by mibo at 4:38 PM PST - 8 comments

Take your libtk8.6.dylib and stuff it.

The headache of distributing python GUI-based applications has finally driven me to consider switching to another language. Is Java a good alternative for ulcer-free distribution of GUI-based applications? [more inside]
posted by Salvor Hardin at 4:33 PM PST - 10 comments

Are you an expert on 1950s Scandinavian lounge chairs?

A friend bought this chair from an auction house in Norway. The chair has no identifying marks, and the auction house wasn't able to identify it further than "probably Scandinavian 1950s or early 1960s". She has not been able to find any similar chairs online, but it is quite well built, and doesn't appear to be a one-off. She would like to identify it before redoing the upholstery, so any tips would be welcome.
posted by Baron Humbert von Gikkingen at 4:08 PM PST - 9 comments

Very Small Independant Musician - Possibly ran afoul of a trademark

So I did a potentially bad thing: i released an album through CD Baby, and the title of the album is a Trademark for an entity that might be none pleased. [more inside]
posted by joecacti at 3:56 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me find a LARGE individual salad bowl! That is all.

I'm looking for a large, *individual-serving sized* salad bowl. Something dishwasher safe. Something that would hold A LOT of salad. Not the more modest salad bowl size reserved for use before the main dish...think bigger. A few more minor specs inside. [more inside]
posted by LittleFuzzy at 2:13 PM PST - 30 comments

Burner/pay as you go phone or service that will not deactivate?

I am looking for your experience with a brand of cheapo phone/carrier/phonecard that I can "set and forget"--pay for, plug in, and pull out as a back up on a whim that will not expire or deactivate for a reasonably long while (is never okay?). [more inside]
posted by Lardmitten at 2:05 PM PST - 3 comments

Perfectionist/ Procrastinator Mantra needed to focus and get er done

Hey Friends, So I am major perfectionist. My thearpist told me about the 80/20 principle but I am struggling, any good tips? She told me to try and remember, as a mantra to myself, "all I need to do is finish this task, if there is time I can come back later." When I goggled this topic, "progess is perfection" came up, any other ideas? Something I can write on a sticky and post on my monitor? So let's say (I'm a student by the way) an A- on a paper would take 4 hours, but the A+ is going to take 7, I am going to put in 7.5, so I need to reel it back and say good enough is good enough, move. ok thanks Mindhive!!
posted by TRUELOTUS at 1:57 PM PST - 23 comments

Another backpack question...

I'm looking for a backpack that would carry a 13" MacBook Air. Difficulties: Needs to be rain-proof, stylish (I prefer leather or canvas finishes, with simple patterns), durable, comfortable, small, and light (I'm 5'2" on a good day). [more inside]
posted by ethidda at 1:50 PM PST - 13 comments

Where did these awesome baby socks come from?

My six month old son has lots and lots of baby socks. Almost all of them fall off easily and are a pain in the butt EXCEPT one very special pair. The problem is that I have no idea where this particular pair came from so I haven't been able to buy more. Please tell me where they came from so I can stock up! [more inside]
posted by smirkyfodder at 1:13 PM PST - 14 comments

Real-world analogy for poetic structure?

This is kind of silly, and maybe I can't figure it out because there's no great answer, but if anyone can come up with a creative solution to this, it's Ask Metafilter! I need some kind of workable real-world analogy for a poem's structure--something where choosing a particular form affects your end result. Or something where you have to choose each element carefully in order to get the result you want. [more inside]
posted by like_a_friend at 12:34 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me identify an indie rock/pop song with two female vocalists.

Heard the song in a restaurant and liked it, but don't have a copy of Shazam. Here's what I could hear / learned: [more inside]
posted by Going To Maine at 12:18 PM PST - 14 comments

Help Me Find Books for my 10-year-old

My son reads for an hour every night as part of his homework, and quite often longer than that just for fun. He's a fairly quick reader, and reads at levels higher than his age. This means that we are often in search of new and interesting books for him to read, and I could use some help. More info below. [more inside]
posted by dotgirl at 12:14 PM PST - 65 comments

How to host a big party in a small place?

My partner and I are hosting a housewarming party and we've invited more people that I think we can accommodate. What's the best way to make sure the party goes smoothly and what are some things we can do to help things along? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:53 AM PST - 17 comments

How do I settle a housework dispute between me and my partner?

How do I settle a housework dispute between me and my partner? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:53 AM PST - 31 comments

Does lying in bed feel like this for everyone else?

This is possibly the dumbest/strangest question I've ever asked, but it's one of those "is it like this for everyone, or is this actually unusual?" things. Everyone has trouble getting out of bed in the morning, I know. But I experience what I can only call a drug-like chemical high while I'm lying there. [more inside]
posted by naju at 11:47 AM PST - 32 comments

Moving to Canada from the US - question about renting an apartment

I am finishing my Ph.D this month and will be moving to Canada for a post-doc position. The town where I will be moving to has a VERY tight rental market and from what I have heard, apartments rent within hours of being posted on the local rental websites. My husband is flying out about a month before we officially move up to secure a place for us to rent, but we are worried about trying to pay for a place without a Canadian bank account. We don't want to give cash to the landlord because it is untraceable and we are pretty sure no one will accept a check from a US bank. Has anyone had to deal with this before? Any advice would be most welcome. Thanks!
posted by source.decay at 11:39 AM PST - 13 comments

Tweet me a meditation practice.

I'd like to practice unguided, solitary meditation in a manner that is backed by evidence to have a positive effect on blood pressure, attention span, stress--all the things meditation has been demonstrated to impact. And I don't give a single damn about engaging with why it works, the history of meditation, a theory of body or mind, the history of the person who created it, a community of meditators, or anything else. [more inside]
posted by jsturgill at 11:37 AM PST - 12 comments

Looking for simple software to burn m2ts and mkv files to Blu-ray?

I have a collection of random m2ts and mkv files that I'd like to burn to disc on my Windows system. I've tried using DVDFab, but it seems to stall out on my laptop. I don't need menu authoring, but that would be nice.
posted by Bushmiller at 11:14 AM PST - 1 comment

Help me identify these ..unique.. songs I heard on the radio.

I'm looking for two songs I heard on the radio but, mostly due to current [read: popular] songs that share the same keywords, my google-fu is failing me. Help me find them based upon the partially remembered lyrics and topics covered. This ain't yo' grandma's google request... [more inside]
posted by RolandOfEld at 11:10 AM PST - 7 comments

First amendment, corruption, and McCutcheon

Not being a lawyer -- but being deeply interested in capture and corruption of government officials -- I'm very curious about possible knock-on effects of the recent ruling in McCutcheon v. FEC. In particular, the majority opinion states, a few times, that Congress can only target quid pro quo corruption. My question is, essentially, how broadly applicable is the ruling going to be? Is the context limited to campaign finance, or was Roberts really saying that there's no pressing government interest in going after non-quid-pro-quo corruption in any form or any context? [more inside]
posted by cgs06 at 11:06 AM PST - 5 comments

My SSN number is publicly available...should I be worried?

I found my SSN and my wife's SSN #'s listed on a document accessible to anyone at the County courthouse. As near as I can tell it wasn't available until recently...should I be concerned? [more inside]
posted by dukes909 at 11:01 AM PST - 11 comments

Do I apologize, or do we all just pretend this NEVER HAPPENED?

I "met" an internet friend over the weekend who it turns out is someone I actually dated in high school. I am really embarrassed and hate that I've been an accidental jerk, and I'm not sure what to do now. You know, other than feel like kind of an idiot. [more inside]
posted by Narrative Priorities at 10:43 AM PST - 49 comments

Dishwasher does not drain.... help!

I've just bought my first home and moved into my new place (hooray!). I've never had a dishwasher before and as such, I haven't used it once during my first week of living in the new place. This weekend though, I ran the dishwasher for the first time and urgh, once the cycle was finished, I opened the door and the dishwasher was still full of water :( What is the likely cause and can I fix it myself? Also, all appliances in the house were supposed to be in working order.... do I have any leg to stand on in asking the seller about this?
posted by JenThePro at 10:42 AM PST - 11 comments

Looking for a website to help us find traditional buildings in France

What’s the best website for finding traditional buildings in France? I don’t mean the architectural gems that everybody knows about, the chateaux, cathedrals, and other grand buildings. It’s fine if the website includes those, but that’s not our focus. Our interest is in seeing the traditional buildings in different regions--manor houses, town houses, farmhouses, mills, dovecotes, maisons a colombage, granges, lavoirs, and so on. We’d like to find one or two websites we could use each night that would help us discover what might lie along the next day’s route. The websites should offer the ability to search by map and ideally cover the whole of France. [more inside]
posted by sevenstars at 10:38 AM PST - 1 comment

I didn´t stand up for my coworker. Should I have?

My colleague and I work as a tutors. This morning one of our students got upset with my colleague and came close to verbally abusing her. I was sitting next to them but chose not to intervene. [more inside]
posted by Basque13 at 10:33 AM PST - 11 comments

I am exhausted all the time - help?

I'm trying to figure out why I'm exhausted all the time. Of late, I have been generally getting 8-9 hours of sleep (sometimes more), and am very tired through the day, sometimes taking an accidental nap (that I don't have time for), and after dinner I am too tired to do anything and have to push myself and am not very productive. This can't be normal. Even figuring out the general genre of the exhaustion would be helpful, especially whether it results from some sort of clear-cut medical problem or whether it's psychosomatic. I'm about to get bloodwork done, and am trying to figure out what should be tested for. More inside, and I'd love any thoughts or pointers. [more inside]
posted by ClaireBear at 10:14 AM PST - 34 comments

Help me be francophone again

I need to return to my French language oral fluency by mid-October. What are your best tips and tricks to resuscitate your language skills? Websites? Podcasts? Structured systems? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:04 AM PST - 10 comments

Who are the most enthusiastic adult film performers today?

Who are the most enthusiastic adult film performers today? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:04 AM PST - 4 comments

Making flat 3-d looking logo, into actual 3d logo

I am creating a physical 3-dimensional object from a flat logo (that looks 3-dimensional), help needed. [more inside]
posted by Sreiny at 9:36 AM PST - 7 comments

I need a good wireless mouse

I want to buy an inexpensive wireless mouse, but my efforts so far have just frustrated me. I'd like to keep this around $25. [more inside]
posted by sockermom at 9:28 AM PST - 12 comments

"Stranger things have happened, especially in driver's education class."

So I read a children's book as a kid in the 1980s that used the title quote as a running gag. Can anybody identify it? [more inside]
posted by Shmuel510 at 9:26 AM PST - 4 comments

Y2K show that made "Ancient Aliens" look like PBS's "Frontline"

In the lead-up to Y2K, there were many "we're all screwed" documentary-style programs on basic cable in the US. There was one in particular that was so out of whack with reality that its predictions were more like a fever dream than anything else. One scene involved kitchen appliances rising up and attacking a woman. I'm trying to figure out what show that was. [more inside]
posted by chambers at 9:12 AM PST - 9 comments

Describe life in the USA... in 1900

So I'm working on a book. I don't want to give too much away, but the fictional tale will be set right around the turn of the century. Help me understand life in the US - in 1900. [more inside]
posted by chrisinseoul at 9:09 AM PST - 18 comments

Small business guru, may I sit at your feet?

You've started a small business, things have been tough, you've been staring down the barrel of failure, but you've turned it around, you made it work. How did you do it? What changes in practice and attitude really made a difference to your success? What resources did you draw upon? I'd really like to hear how you made it through the tough times. If your business is arts/craft related, even better. [more inside]
posted by M.Onniker at 8:57 AM PST - 4 comments

Job hunting after small business ownership

I recently moved to a new city and am job hunting. I think I'm coming up against something in my resume and in interviews that could be handled better, but I'm not sure how. [more inside]
posted by mireille at 8:53 AM PST - 9 comments

I'm looking for a "Roads I've Driven" type app.

You know those websites and apps that let you color-in a state or a country after you've visited? I realized this weekend after a long road-trip that I'd love to a see a map of all the highway routes I've driven across the country. Does any such website or app exist? Thank you!
posted by jefficator at 8:41 AM PST - 3 comments

Middle East Conflict Film Suggestions

Hi There, Can anyone think of movies that deal with Middle East centric conflict from the 60's to now - possibly with one or two female protagonists, issues with child custody, royalty, Arafat? Or any great documentaries that show the 20th century history of the Israeli / Palestinian conflict? Thanks!
posted by sunnyblues48 at 8:35 AM PST - 12 comments

State of the Art in Computer-Generated Poetry

Hello my merry minions! I would like to write some software that writes some poems, sort of like this guy did. Could you point me to some examples of existing procedural poetry generators so that I can build off of them? Bonus points if there's source code or a description of the techniques they used. Thanks so much!
posted by zscore at 8:33 AM PST - 5 comments

Thank you gift for New York Foodies

What delicious foodstuff can I send to some friends in NYC for putting me up for a few nights last week? [more inside]
posted by KevCed at 7:25 AM PST - 11 comments

Help, I haven't been framed!

Where can I find a variety of sizes and styles of square, white picture frames, without spending a small fortune on custom framing? (Anwhere from 4"x4" to 20"x20"; wood preferred.) [more inside]
posted by jferg at 7:22 AM PST - 16 comments

How to best publish lack of findings

I completed my Masters dissertation (in the UK) which used a research-area standard measure to compare two populations of subjects. Nothing I hypothesised was found to be significant, and actually, even with heavy stratifying and manipulation, I couldn't find any links. I did, however, find a problem with the measure. Its creator is still doing research. How can I best share this problem to encourage others to look at it? [more inside]
posted by fizban at 7:03 AM PST - 10 comments

Keeping the rain out

We live on the bottom floor of a double-decker home. Our back decks are similarly stacked, so the upstairs deck provides some cover from the harsh summer sun. Unfortunately, it still lets rain in. Is there a way we can cover the "roof" of our deck so that we can use it even when it rains? [more inside]
posted by backseatpilot at 6:37 AM PST - 10 comments

Seeking jigsaw recommendations

My week-old $30 Black and Decker jigsaw crapped out over the weekend and I'm in need of recommendations for a reliable homeowner-grade jigsaw that can cut straight lines. Most reviews I've found online recommend the now-discontinued Bosch 1590. Looking for anyone who's been happy with something currently available for around or less than $150. [more inside]
posted by ndg at 6:33 AM PST - 7 comments

To patent or not to patent, and if so when?

I am a research student who may have inadvertently invented something commercializable. What do I do now? [more inside]
posted by cestlavie at 5:47 AM PST - 13 comments

Getting a job at a private HS -- 1-2 years in the future.

Piggybacking off of this question to a certain extent -- what can I do now to make myself more attractive for teaching positions at privates high schools when I finish up my Ph.D.? [more inside]
posted by munyeca at 5:35 AM PST - 9 comments

Tell me about these "local communities"

So, frequently I will read people (eg on this very website) talking about local communities, how great they are, and the various things which are apparently destroying them. I tend to be "what are these things? Why do people like them so much? I don't get it.". So, where can I read about these things? [more inside]
posted by curious_yellow at 5:27 AM PST - 14 comments

Give me the amazing travel podcasts

I have a recently renewed thirst for travel, having read a couple of fantastic travelogues recently. I also have a regular hour-a-day walk to and from work, plus several opportunities to listen to good audio during the day. I'd love to listen to some podcasts on travel, food, language and discovering the world. [more inside]
posted by Happy Dave at 4:27 AM PST - 3 comments

Skirting the issue.

Skirt advice, plus-size edition. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 4:22 AM PST - 17 comments

New windows installation and language change

My company currently has a computer that has a Japanese version of Windows 7 Professional installed on it. We want to install an English language version of Windows 8.1 on the computer. Will the language for the Microsoft Office software (currently also Japanese) already installed on the computer also change to English when we change to the new English language version of Windows 8.1? [more inside]
posted by tokaidanshi at 3:28 AM PST - 5 comments

3 year pseudo relationship with ex AFTER breakup. Does he love me?

I met my ex online 4 years ago. We hit it off and started dating shortly after. A mutual breakup occurred about 8 months later due to some arguments we had. He was in love with me during our relationship, but I did not fall in love with him until after we broke up. A couple months after we broke up, we made the brilliant decision that I should become his new roomie. During our time living together we had sex on a regular (weekly+) basis. I dated a bit, but nothing serious. He did not date. We ended up living together, along with his brother, for 2 years. During this time we hung out most days. I moved out about a year ago, but he insisted that I keep the key to his house. We still hang out about once a week and have sex nearly as often. The sex tends to be pretty intense and I know that definitely complicates things. He never expects the sex; he is perfectly fine with me going over just to watch a movie and then leaving. Recently he has been cuddly in bed and that is something new. I usually sleep over after we haven't sex. He still hasn't dated since our breakup 3 years ago. [more inside]
posted by GrapCrap at 3:20 AM PST - 29 comments

April 6

Do I fight to keep this kitty?

I'm having a battle of ownership over a cat. Back on January 29, when it was -50 C, I found a very cold and very friendly kitty on the street outside my house. I brought him inside, shut him up in my spare bedroom and stuck up lost cat posters all over the neighborhood. After two weeks with no response I took him to the vet, got his first shots and had him tested for FHIV, and started introducing him to my female kitty. That night I got a call from his owners, a (very poor, aboriginal) family who live in a small apartment on the corner facing my house. I took him back to them, told them that I'd had some of his shots done and that he'd need to be fixed; I gave them the name of the low-income clinic that does it for 25 bucks, and told the kid that I'd be happy to pay for the rest of the shots, too. I also told them that he shouldn't be outside in this cold. Then I went to Vancouver for February break. [more inside]
posted by jrochest at 11:25 PM PST - 64 comments

Who made this "Happy" fan video?

I've been stoked on this supercut of fan responses to Pharrell William's "Happy." Problem is, there are so many contributions, I'm having a hard time finding any of the individual original videos. I've got a few favorites, but the top of my list is the group performance at minute 9:42. Anyone know who that is?
posted by flod at 10:40 PM PST - 3 comments

What's wrong with refined vegetable oils?

My husband and I have heard and read conflicting information about oils and fats so I thought I'd turn to Mefi to help me understand it all better. We're confused about lots of things. Should we be careful about how much oil we consume? Is a particular oil really better than another? Is cold pressed better than refined even for cooking? Is the very act of heating oil just evil? Are unheated cold pressed oils actually healthy? [more inside]
posted by miaow at 10:07 PM PST - 14 comments

When to report mutual funds sold in late December

I'm Canadian. I redeemed some mutual funds in very late Dec 2013. The redemption appears on my Jan 2014 statement. I have capital gains from the redemption. Should I report these capital gains now on my 2013 tax return, or next year on my 2014 tax return? [more inside]
posted by tracert at 9:03 PM PST - 5 comments

Phone plans for the monosyllabic.

Your secret weapon: cell phone plans edition! Rarely talk, text even more rarely. Best prepaid(?) plans for Los Angeles WeHo area, rollover minutes, cheapo? [more inside]
posted by VikingSword at 8:27 PM PST - 18 comments

Australian almost/quasi/kinda self-managed super fund?

I'm a freelancer. I don't yet have enough in my super to make it worthwhile converting to a self managed super fund due to the management costs. Or so I believe. But I figure I have the time to weather some major market wobbles, so I would like my super to be a more aggressive. Is there anyone offering some kind of buffet style super, and with reasonable management fees? The more fine-grained/wider choice the better, though I don't think I need to be picking particular stocks. And if not, I'd be interested in anyone's favourite high growth super funds, or insights into the cost of SMSFs.
posted by hifimofo at 8:26 PM PST - 2 comments

Non-academic career options for PhDs?

My partner is finishing a PhD in a social science next year and is unsure about staying in academia. Have any MeFites been in a similar position? [more inside]
posted by AceRock at 7:48 PM PST - 11 comments

Long time driver, first time accident

So, I'm in my 30s and I had my first car accident last night. [more inside]
posted by Oktober at 7:30 PM PST - 10 comments

Can I please get a copy of that "This Is How People Act" memo?

Currently, I'm in grad school in DC. I feel like I'm putting my foot in it at every turn, especially toward people in positions of authority, like professors and bosses. At this point, I think there are probably lots of things I'm doing wrong that I don't even know about! Please tell me what the unwritten rules are for being a nice, friendly, pleasant person in this milieu, because I can't figure them out. [more inside]
posted by rue72 at 7:08 PM PST - 32 comments

DC Cab (not the movie, but the taxi)?

A relative of mine needs to get from the Southwest area of Washington DC, to Union Station, around 3am tonight/Monday am. I haven't been here very long, and I've only caught cabs in cab ranks from the airport or flagged one down, never called one for a late-night pickup, so I don't know what's best. Looking at Yelp for taxicabs, they're full of zero-to-one star reviews and horror stories. So please help! How can I best and most reliably get someone from southwest DC to Union Station in the wee hours?
posted by theatro at 5:26 PM PST - 16 comments

Help me find this type?

Found font I'd love for my Save the Dates and need your help to track it down! [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 4:35 PM PST - 4 comments

Am I in the clear?

Late Friday/early Saturday I was up at midnight being sick to my stomach (the #2 way). After that I took some Rx anti-nausea meds and tried to go back to sleep. At around 5 am I threw up (which, as an emetephobic is a huge, scary deal for me). So at 5am I took a Xanax, 2 Pepto pills and another anti nausea pill). I slept on and off (only waking up when my boyfriend gave me sips of water). [more inside]
posted by sleepykitties at 4:22 PM PST - 12 comments

Chic bag for my laptop and books

I've been carrying what is a Kenneth Cole Weekender bag for my schoolbooks and laptops. It's not really good at supporting all the weight. What are some chic looking alternatives that can handle the weight of a few notebooks and a somewhat large-ish Toshiba laptop that won't kill my arm but look pretty killer. Nothing frumpy please! [more inside]
posted by discopolo at 4:14 PM PST - 7 comments

Who is on the tv?

What person / movie / tv show is on the TVs during this sequence of American Graffiti? [more inside]
posted by dilaudid at 3:59 PM PST - 5 comments

What kind of nurse are you?

I graduated nursing school almost two years ago and got a job doing inpatient acute care nursing on a telemetry floor. I basically have that down now and I'm clear I don't want to be this kind of nurse forever. Part of the appeal of nursing is there are, supposedly, a million different kinds of jobs nurses can do. So what are they and how do I get into those jobs? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 3:43 PM PST - 21 comments

a really good hot dog in Europe?

My SO's older son will be 17 in the fall. I want to give him something that will provide a nominal income for him as he won't be able to work due to the requirements of his college. Options I am considering are: a greeting card business with some other members of his family; helping to run a summer camp; performing songs about stuff on Spotify; and; having an interest in a hot dog stand. I think hot dog stand is probably the most available option, followed by greeting cards. Problem is sourcing high quality franks in England. Sweden? I would rather they be all-beef than pork, and there being a halal or kosher option.
posted by parmanparman at 3:06 PM PST - 35 comments

What did bloodletters do with the blood they let?

What did the bloodletters of olden times do with the blood they collected? Presumably it was disposed of, but how? [more inside]
posted by Perodicticus potto at 3:03 PM PST - 3 comments

Can I fix this bicycle problem myself or should I take it in?

A couple of weeks ago I bought a used Electra Cruiser bicycle and my gears slip sometimes. Is this something I could fix myself? [more inside]
posted by jess at 2:51 PM PST - 10 comments

Attn! Eczema sufferers, is there a place in the US like Avene-les-Bains?

I suffer from eczema and am at my wit's end. My wife posted this question about it last year and I am now considering packing my bags and going to France to sit in some mineral baths to soothe my aching skin. My question is: Is there a hydrotherapy center for eczema sufferers here in the US so I don't have to travel as far? [more inside]
posted by rabu at 2:25 PM PST - 9 comments

Where to go for tax advice online or irl?

Where do I go online or irl to get specific federal income tax questions answered? [more inside]
posted by vincele at 1:10 PM PST - 10 comments

Best compact camera for a senior citizen friend with vision problems?

What compact camera would you recommend for a senior citizen who uses reading glasses and just doesn't have the greatest eyesight overall? Any specific features to look for, especially in terms of the viewfinder?
posted by Seeking Direction at 12:54 PM PST - 7 comments

Finding an apartment without the nasty trash compactor odors

This is a question about NYC real estate, specifically about a building maintenance issue. After many years of renting, I am in the market for a co-op apartment in the five boroughs of NYC. There is a problem with my current building that I am willing to tolerate as a tenant that would be a complete deal-breaker as an owner The issue is this: [more inside]
posted by jason's_planet at 11:37 AM PST - 6 comments

What to attack first when getting out of debt? (Ramsey baby step 2)

I get it: never lease a car. Well, we have two. Following Dave Ramsey's money makeover, we've got more than our 1,000 emergency fund, so how do we start attacking our debts? He says start with the smallest and just start knocking them out. So...how does a car lease factor in there? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Sock at 11:25 AM PST - 26 comments

Can you help me find this poem? Does it exist?

I think I remember from school a poem about the beauty of black animals. Or do I? Google just got me to "The Raven" and "The Black Cat." Is there such a classic poem? Am I just misremembering "Pied Beauty?" Anybody know what poem I might be thinking of otherwise?
posted by cellura p at 11:17 AM PST - 2 comments

Humane eggs/dairy/meat near Fall River, Mass?

What are the some places to buy lovingly and humanely raised eggs, dairy and meat near Fall River, Massachusetts? [more inside]
posted by spbmp at 10:30 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me choose a MBA research paper topic - due in two weeks...

What is the best topic with lots of reference material that deals in International Business Ethics? Something like a review on international bribery or the sale of vaccines or baby formula for profit. I'm looking for the topic that will be the easiest to write because there is so much reference material available. [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 10:06 AM PST - 14 comments

Completely unfair - Why does Paypal's SNAD policy punish the buyer?

About 3 weeks ago, I purchased a watch from a seller located in Japan. I made my purchase through Rakuten's Global Marketplace, which sells to foreign, overseas buyers (I live in Canada). I used Paypal to pay. The watch cost CAN$283, and it was shipped using Japan Post EMS. [more inside]
posted by vanizorc at 9:09 AM PST - 15 comments

What's the best way to deal with contrary people?

I have a friend who I like very much, but has an annoying habit of contradicting many things I say. I've met people like this occasionally before, and I'm curious about how to deal with it. I can't tell if it comes from a need for control or feeling "right," or if it's intellectual interest in digging into whatever we're talking about by playing the devil's advocate. Or both. My friend does this in a somewhat playful and not particularly strident way, but I still find it annoying. Is there something I can say to help make him aware of this? Sometimes I find myself agreeing with his position just because I find the discussion wearing.
posted by three_red_balloons at 8:20 AM PST - 47 comments

Focusing on work

It is very difficult for me to focus when I have any problems at all. Sitting around alone in silence doesn't work for me! What might? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess at 8:12 AM PST - 10 comments

Giving up on other people

If you have failed at forming relationships (of any kind), is there a point where you should just accept you don't have the skills and are incapable of developing them? [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 8:11 AM PST - 40 comments

How to make the arms--of the desk chair--stop wobbling?

How can I make my fancy-ass Herman Miller Ergon 3 (designed by Bill Stumpf) adjustable desk chair stop adjusting itself and twitching and wobbling and all? [more inside]
posted by fivesavagepalms at 7:45 AM PST - 2 comments

Can I Ignore This Error Code (97 Mazda 626 Filter)

The car my son drives (97 Mazda 626 with the 6 cylinder engine) is throwing a P1195 OBDII code. That is a error reading from the EGR sensor, but there are a variety of things that could cause that, and Google didn't turn up any advice about whether or not that is really a critical issue to deal with. [more inside]
posted by COD at 6:49 AM PST - 8 comments

Slice and Polish Petrified Wood

I have a piece of petrified wood. I would like to have the top surface sliced cleanly & polished. [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 6:44 AM PST - 15 comments

What is a "breakdancing outfit" for a kid?

Okay, so a young lady I know is coming up on her 7th birthday; she's emailed me that she'd like clothes for her breakdancing class.... what the heck constitutes breakdancing outfits for a kid? [more inside]
posted by easily confused at 4:57 AM PST - 14 comments

recover a stored password in android chrome

I have a four character stored password on a website on Android Chrome. I would like to recover this password so I can access the site on a new phone. I no longer have the email address I registered with so password recovery won't work - any ideas? Would prefer to avoid rooting the phone.
posted by Mistress at 4:51 AM PST - 4 comments

Scuba diving certification: At home or in the tropics?

We're planning to get scuba certified. Is it reasonable/recommended to do the first part of the certification (classroom and pool work) near home and then do the ocean dives when we're in the tropics? [more inside]
posted by purplevelvet at 12:30 AM PST - 15 comments

April 5

Learning to tell good jokes

I'd like to learn how to tell good jokes. One thing I've considered is looking up different comedians on Youtube. But what would be even more useful is if there was a resource (book/video) that collected many of these examples together to illustrate different principals. So they might show you one version of a joke and then an improved version of a joke. Or they might show a few versions of a jokes that all utilise a common formula. Does anyone know of anything like this?
posted by casebash at 11:18 PM PST - 5 comments

Daylight Savings Time Change Disaster - Early Morning Flight Guadalajara

Currently in Guadalajara, Mexico. Daylight savings time (spring forward) is at 2 am local time. Ipad and iphone for alarm clocks. iPhone is not connected for local service - is on Sprint in U.S. Will these Apple devices self update? [more inside]
posted by fieldtrip at 11:17 PM PST - 5 comments

Help Me Find The Perfect Stockings

Here's the deal: My SO finds stockings to be a significant turn on. He has in mind a very specific type of stocking that I'm finding impossible to track down. I've spent literally hours searching to no avail. Hope us, please. [more inside]
posted by alltomorrowsparties at 10:25 PM PST - 20 comments

A dance show called Joe

I'm trying to find anything about this group dance performance. [more inside]
posted by ethnomethodologist at 9:48 PM PST - 4 comments

Anyone seen this Olympic weightlifting warm up video?

Has anyone seen this Olympic weightlifting video? I saw it a few years ago online but it may be older originally (c. 70s?). It showed a weightlifter (an Olympian or other high-level one, I think) "opening the gym" in the morning—turning on the lights, straightening some things, going upstairs, downstairs—all while down in the bottom of the squat position. I.e. Walking like a duck, bunny hopping up and down the stairs, etc. It looked exhausting but he was totally nonchalant about it.
posted by rorycberger at 8:24 PM PST - 1 comment

Get the microphone out of your pocket!

I've been asked to write summaries of some recordings of meetings. Problem is, whoever recorded it had the microphone in his shirt or his pocket or something, and there's impossible rustling preventing me from hearing what they're saying half the time! Especially when someone asks a question and they start explaining details. Is there any software I can run these sound files through to reduce some of that?
posted by saysthis at 8:18 PM PST - 7 comments

Article about Common Core math

Trying to find an article I read sometime in the last three months about Common Core math. [more inside]
posted by Questolicious at 7:56 PM PST - 7 comments

I got a makeover... now what?

I went from dirty blonde hair and pale skin to jet black hair and tan skin... now what do I do with my makeup? Silly snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by sarahgrace at 7:29 PM PST - 10 comments

Recommendations of microbe videos

I am looking for some recommendation about microbe and human or animal cell videos and how to search for them better on youtube or elsewhere. [more inside]
posted by xarnop at 7:23 PM PST - 4 comments

Working in Rutherford, NJ. Where should I live? Can I live in NYC?

I'm a single, college-educated, mid-twenties male who will very likely be relocating from the West Coast to the Tri-State area in a few months for a full-time desk job in Rutherford, New Jersey. I'd love to know your recommendations for affordable rooms, apartments, studios, etc. in safe and convenient neighborhoods. [N.B. I grew up in and lived in South Brooklyn for many years, so I'm familiar with the NYC area, but I've never lived in NJ nor ever considered living there in the past.] [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:14 PM PST - 19 comments

Writing off expenses: LLC -vs- C-Corp -vs- Non-Profit edition

I'm planning on starting both a nonprofit and a business (LLC or C-Corp) before the end of summer, and I'm uncertain as to my ability to write off expenses. Each would be run with a small (<5) group of investors/friends. [more inside]
posted by NYC-BB at 6:56 PM PST - 4 comments

Kanji wear it, redux

Same question as last time - what do these letters say? The blood and skulls make it school unfriendly, but I'd like to know what the kids are parading around saying ...
posted by tilde at 6:45 PM PST - 5 comments

Managing multiple, daily Google searches

Let's say there are a whole bunch of websites and I want to know when they use a certain phrase. Each day, I need to check and see if certain phrases appear on the website. Right now, I have a whole bunch of Google searches saved and I check each one in turn. Surely there is an easier way! [more inside]
posted by synecdoche at 6:22 PM PST - 8 comments

What genre of music is this and how can I find more like it?

What genre of music is this and how can I find more like it? [more inside]
posted by lhude sing cuccu at 6:21 PM PST - 11 comments

Examples of applied critical theory

I'm looking for examples of critical theory being successfully used to bring about progressive social change. Is there a particular legal, policy or social reform that can be clearly ascribed to the influence of critical theory (or any of its offshoots, such as queer theory or postcolonial theory)? I can think of many examples of activists who are influenced by theory and its concepts -- from queerness to performativity to the panopticon -- but is there any clear evidence of campaigns influenced by theory having tangible impact on lived social conditions, beyond merely "awareness raising" or "reshaping the discourse".
posted by dontjumplarry at 5:32 PM PST - 13 comments

Looking for financial advisor in New York City

I'm looking for somebody to help me plan retirement,etc. I had somebody whom I paid by the hour but I called her to do an update and she is retired now. She referred me to somebody who says he charges 0.85% of your money each year as his fee. So if he were to handle all my money and if I had $100,000 at the end of the year he would take $850. I"ve never heard of this kind of arrangement before. Does it sound kosher? Any recommendations for financial advisors/planners who charge by the hour? thanks.
posted by DMelanogaster at 4:54 PM PST - 7 comments

Boom boom boom boom! I want you in my kitchen!

I'm moving into a charming old studio apartment in 2 months. I don't know where to put my bed or keep my bedroom separate from the 'everything else room.' [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:54 PM PST - 22 comments

I suppose we should go on a... date?

Boy meets Girl. Then Boy does, what exactly? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:53 PM PST - 13 comments

Looking for a website of personal essays

The website was text-based, with lots of hpyerlinked titles that clicked-through to the essays. The author had a biography page that was a big picture of his face that had been heavily filtered and a brief paragraph explaining that he (maybe?) used to live in Ireland, and now resides in America. His essays covered topics from film reviews - The Matrix is one I remember specifically - an addiction to on of the Civilization PC games, an addiction to nasal sprays that was overcome by going cold turkey for three days, internet trolls, and common logical fallacies. Does anyone know what I'm talking about?
posted by Cpt. The Mango at 3:42 PM PST - 2 comments

Bank account for a group project?

I'm collecting donations for a group project, but don't want to deposit the funds in my personal bank account. Is there another type of account I can use instead? [more inside]
posted by treepour at 2:55 PM PST - 4 comments

One move, three states

Moving from the midwest back to California via a three month stay in Massachusetts... [more inside]
posted by heliostatic at 2:20 PM PST - 2 comments

How can I sync Outlook 2011 for Mac with a Web Calendar?

I have only two wishes: world peace and getting Outlook 2011 for Mac to sync with a web calendar that will also sync wirelessly with my Android phone. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 1:35 PM PST - 3 comments

Nonfiction recommendation: Reading to a 92-year old blind lady

Please recommend interesting, well-written and easy-reading nonfiction books [more inside]
posted by eisenl at 1:19 PM PST - 38 comments

Property taxes on a new house in New Jersey

Hi, I'm doing my 2014 taxes. I moved to New Jersey on Dec. 13, 2013 (from New York) and during the closing I paid the property tax for December, as well as 3 months of property tax in advance for the first Q of 2014. My question is: one my taxes, do I claim just the December taxes, or can I claim all the money I paid in 2013?
posted by to sir with millipedes at 1:02 PM PST - 2 comments

New queer cinema

Which websites, blogs, forums, etc, should I be following to be kept in the loop regarding new releases in international LGBTQ[etc] cinema? [more inside]
posted by Solomon at 12:52 PM PST - 3 comments

Songs to close the set with

Playlist: Big, anthemic, epic, unapologetically earnest rock songs about struggle and perseverance. Born to Run, The Boomtown Rats' Joey's On The Street Again, just about anything from The Hold Steady, esp Separation Sunday. Now you go. [more inside]
posted by Slarty Bartfast at 12:51 PM PST - 35 comments

What went wrong?? Garlic edition.

I planted garlic in pots on my windowsill 4-5 months ago. All was going well until a few weeks ago when the greens stopped appearing. Having never grown garlic before, I didn't worry too much, thinking this was a part of the process and that maybe bulbs were forming beneath the dirt. Today, I went to water the garlic and it fell right over... basically showing me a minuscule garlic bulb with no root system. I am completely confused. Please help me figure out what went wrong so I do this right the next time! [more inside]
posted by AthenaPolias at 12:42 PM PST - 9 comments

Insurance for newborns?

I need to insure my newborn. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by mrfuga0 at 12:02 PM PST - 6 comments

My sex drive plummeted after my BF moved in. WTF?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1.5 years, and he recently moved into my duplex with me. Now that we're living together, I just don't feel sexy or like I'm wanting sexytimes. :( It's very distressing, and I'm not sure what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:00 PM PST - 9 comments

Audiobooks featuring speakers with deep/calm/pleasant voices

Can you recommend audiobooks read by (preferably male) speakers with a deep and pleasant voice? Topic of the book not terribly important. Think noise-sensitive listener who needs to be kept moderately entertained. [more inside]
posted by wavelette at 11:50 AM PST - 22 comments

Name that tune! Relatively recent, light, neo-soulish

Female vocalist, around 95bpm, with a light neo-soul sound? I'm assuming it's from the last five years. [more inside]
posted by sektah at 11:46 AM PST - 1 comment

Crowdsourcing a quilt?

I want to have a quilt custom-made for a gift - I don't know anyone w/the time for hire, and want to be able to see some of the maker's work up front to get an idea of their skills (reviews from other customers would be a great bonus, too.) Is there a 99 Designs-style site that would let me crowdsource this project?
posted by ryanshepard at 11:19 AM PST - 2 comments

My boss is a crazy megalomaniac! Please hire me?

How do I explain why I left my job when I'm leaving due to issues with my boss? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:26 AM PST - 20 comments

Should I Take Antidepressants For Seemingly Outside Causes?

Trying to determine if I'm depressed enough to warrant the use of antidepressants. Chicken and the egg about the cause of depression. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:26 AM PST - 15 comments

Kids-book-filter

Help me find this book series I loved as a kid. It documented the anthropomorphized life of assorted woodland creatures. Not fantasy, exactly, just woodland creatures doing woodland things. Nothing like Redwall. They were "chapter books," and I remember their covers being green. There were a lot of them- I want to say a dozen? One story-line revolved around a family of beavers. Any ideas, hive mind?
posted by BungaDunga at 9:39 AM PST - 6 comments

Video of workshop/studio rules

I’m trying to remember/find this great video made that summarizes the rules of a New York artist’s workshop. The rules that I can remember are a couple shots where the narrator says “The correct response when someone asks you to perform a task is ‘I understand’. If there are parts to the task that are unclear to you, the correct response is ‘I do not understand’.” [more inside]
posted by edwardog at 9:11 AM PST - 5 comments

Help us plan our Great European Adventure!

Mr. just_ducky and I want to go away to Europe this summer, but are having trouble narrowing down our list of cities into a workable itinerary. Can you help us, wise travelers of MeFi? [more inside]
posted by just_ducky at 8:26 AM PST - 14 comments

I love my dog, but when she was a puppy, she was a carpet eating fiend.

I am renting an apartment and have been here for about a year a half. I don't plan to leave for at least a few more years. About six months after I moved in, this little terror tore up two spots of carpet directly in front of my bedroom door. I have covered these two spots with a throw rug for the past year, but the fact that they're there is driving me bonkers. I want to repair them using remnant pieces of the carpet. Problem: I don't have any remnant pieces of the carpet. [more inside]
posted by SkylitDrawl at 7:45 AM PST - 4 comments

Not academic now, but academic later?

What should I do now to increase my chances to getting into academia later? [more inside]
posted by Chorus at 6:57 AM PST - 27 comments

cutting someone out.

I have someone in my life who I've come to realize can no longer be there. This person is an ex. We haven't seen each other but we've stayed in touch. Tried to be 'friends.' But it always ends up with hurtful messages and it's no longer a good situation for me. Probably also not for her. The relationship was long and it's been hard to let go. Complicating this: she has a serious mental illness and seems to be getting progressively worse. Which makes all of this worse. She pushes people away and has no immediate family. It makes me sad to think of her alone, but sadder to think about dealing with this for any indefinite period of time. I literally cannot handle it anymore. I'm done. So.. do I just ignore her? Tell her I can't talk to her anymore? We have gone a few weeks without talking but that's been the longest in over a year since we've been broken up. Anyone have experiences with cutting out someone with a mental illness? How did you get through?
posted by anad487 at 6:17 AM PST - 13 comments

Great Saturday brunch in Washington, D.C.?

Just looking for great brunch recommendations in Washington, D.C. Having drinks is a plus but bottomless isn't important.
posted by glaucon at 5:50 AM PST - 10 comments

April 4

Settle a trivial question, New York New York, or New York New York?

There may be no way to resolve this question (and it's not one of the great mysteries, I'll admit), but I'll take a majority consensus if that can be achieved. In the song, "New York, New York", is Sinatra effectively singing, "New York (City), "New York (State)", or is he singing, "New York (City), New York (City)"? My belief is that if the song were about, for example, Chicago, Sinatra would sing, "...I want to be a part of it, Chicago, Illinois", however I've encountered more than once the opinion that it would be equivalent to "...I want to be a part of it, Chicago, Chicago". What says the Hivemind?
posted by planetthoughtful at 11:36 PM PST - 43 comments

Best site or resource to learn construction, DIY home improvement?

I want to learn how to renovate or add on to a house.
posted by uni verse at 8:42 PM PST - 7 comments

Who is saying this and what are they saying?

I've noticed someone saying something at the start of some songs I like. Who is saying it and what are they saying? (Warning: NSFW lyrics) It happens here here and here.
posted by skjønn at 8:37 PM PST - 3 comments

Like, I like Like

Does anyone remember a recent article by (I think) a linguist whose main point was defending the colloquial use of "like", as a way to explicate internal monologue in a way that wasn't really done before? For obvious reasons this is very hard to google for. I don't remember if I saw it here on Metafilter or some other source.
posted by bleep at 8:24 PM PST - 17 comments

Better Internet for my company?

The company I work for is located in the midtown area (30th St./Park Ave) of Manhattan, New York City. We (and the rest of the building) are using Time-Warner Cable, and it's slow and unreliable. We're an Internet startup, so when the Internet is down, everybody leaves to go work from home. What options do we have, aside from moving our office? [more inside]
posted by gentle at 6:56 PM PST - 16 comments

Polishable, 12-hour, workboot

I am looking for a polishable black workboot, no steel-toe, light weight, around 6 inch height. I walk between 4 and 10 miles over the course of a 12 hour shift, 5 or 6 days a week. Equal time indoors and outdoors, the weather ranges from snow-sun with a fair number of deluge days, so water proof or VERY resistant is a must. These shoes must fit in with a dress uniform, but I'm working for a railroad, not a bank.
posted by maleru at 6:52 PM PST - 9 comments

[MathFilter] Taking for-credit math classes online

For professional and academic reasons, I need to take a number of college-level math classes (mainly Calculus and Linear Algebra) in a relatively short period of time (4-6 months). They need to be online, for-credit, and I need to be able to do them at my own pace, meaning faster than a normal 1-course-per-semester flow. I've already found https://netmath.illinois.edu/, but the classes are terribly expensive, so I'd like to learn of other alternatives that don't cost as much.
posted by dcrocha at 6:35 PM PST - 6 comments

dressy styles for a 60-something fashion-averse lady

I have a relative who needs to get dressed up for her kid's wedding. She's asked me for advice, and I'm not sure where to look. Snowflakes, people, there are so many snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by lizifer at 5:56 PM PST - 14 comments

Cool, modern, trustworthy site to sell articles from

I want to sell what I write as a 'packaged' article or essay. Best spots to do this? [more inside]
posted by zenpop at 4:25 PM PST - 11 comments

Does she (really) love me?

Accidentally went through my girlfriends email and read what I was not supposed to read. [more inside]
posted by Parh6512 at 4:05 PM PST - 45 comments

What is the term for this jacket?

I'm wondering what the proper term for this jacket is. I am told it is Japanese. It is made of heavy cotton and is hand stitched. [more inside]
posted by fozzie_bear at 3:35 PM PST - 4 comments

What's up with this post-fall soreness and bruising? Should I worry?

Two and a half weeks ago, I tripped and fell (with maximum drama and embarrassment) at work. I landed on the bottom of my knee (beneath the knee cap) and shin with great force onto a hard surface, concrete covered with berber carpet. It's still developing new and odd bruising (details within) and is still remarkably uncomfortable. The skin and knee bones don't hurt, but the soft tissue is very ouchy. Is this a "deep bruises take time to heal" thing or a "Martha, get your bruised self to the doctor" thing? [more inside]
posted by mostlymartha at 3:25 PM PST - 11 comments

Strange And Unusual Gin Drinks?

I want to write about obscure and little known gin cocktails, ideally ones with fun stories attached or a vintage pedigree . What are your favorite obscure gin cocktails? The more outlandish and exotic the better.
posted by The Whelk at 2:25 PM PST - 45 comments

OSX games similar to Minecraft/Don't Starve

I like games like Minecraft and Don't Starve, but I'm bored with both of them. Can you suggest games that feature exploration, survival, crafting, and decent graphics, without a ton of fighting or shooting? (I'm on OSX, so that limits things.) [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 2:22 PM PST - 10 comments

I like a song. Please help me find songs like it.

I like the song "Running" by Computer Magic. What are some other songs like this with digital instrumentation and clear female pop vocals?
posted by josher71 at 2:21 PM PST - 11 comments

Need help finding a tolerable dress shoe

I need shoes I can wear with dress pants/skirts that won't kill my feet after a few hours. I don't know how everyone else does this because I have never achieved it, even with flats. Help? [more inside]
posted by randomnity at 2:19 PM PST - 32 comments

Hack my diet

I'm trying to lose weight at the moment and could do with some help optimizing my food intake. [more inside]
posted by ellieBOA at 2:06 PM PST - 17 comments

what is this building?!?!

new building is going up next to us. due to what i believe is a combination of bad weather and general tendencies to draw out construction projects, the pace of construction has been painfully slow! from a neighborhood flyer that circulated a year ago, we know that it is a retail establishment. does this building look familiar to anyone? [more inside]
posted by ps_im_awesome at 1:22 PM PST - 12 comments

The occult, the delusions, and the swamp rats.

Carl Hiaasen meets H.P. Lovecraft. What book am I looking for? [more inside]
posted by Willie0248 at 1:18 PM PST - 15 comments

Complex conditional text: compare values, spit out sentences

I have a project where I am tasked with presenting many data points, and need to have a comparative sentence or two before each section featuring the highlights of the data. "In this section, X is the highest value!" [more inside]
posted by BleachBypass at 1:12 PM PST - 4 comments

Calling all chem- physics- and math-philes!

For the grad-level education I want, I need an understanding of chemistry, physics, and calculus at a minimum. I have a BA in a tangentially related field (or will in a couple months). What are the best resources for learning these subjects without spending even more time/money on tuition? [more inside]
posted by Urban Winter at 1:01 PM PST - 10 comments

How do connect a neckless globe to this light socket?

DIY Light Fixture: I want to connect a neckless globe like this to a swag cord like this. [more inside]
posted by mullacc at 12:53 PM PST - 2 comments

Where to find wide-format art?

I have a long stretch of wall above my desk on which I'd like to hang a wide-format piece of art. I may print one of my own photo panoramas, but I'm also considering other artists and formats. Where can I browse wide-format art for sale? Price level is in the low hundreds of dollars, so we're talking prints here, not originals. I'm thinking in the neighborhood of 5-6 feet wide, and no higher than ~2 feet.
posted by benbenson at 12:48 PM PST - 4 comments

Gemstone Engagement Rings

Does anyone have any experience with aquamarine engagement rings? If you have experience with aquamarine engagement rings, how do they look? How do they hold up? What do you think? (I understand that aquamarine is beryl, the same material as beryl, which is supposed to be somewhat softer than the sapphire/ruby material, which in turn is very hard but not as hard as diamonds.) [more inside]
posted by J. Wilson at 12:46 PM PST - 21 comments

Pizza in Brooklyn?

I'll be in Brooklyn next week for work staying at the Brooklyn Bridge Marriott and I'm looking for a great local place to get a slice. This is the one food I crave the most and I just can't find any great pizza here in Central Florida. So please help me out and tell me where to get a great slice! Not just classic NYC style either, I'm open to any style.
posted by white_devil at 12:18 PM PST - 19 comments

My arms ache from constant computer usage. Any tips / recommendations?

I have a dull, constant pain mostly around my elbows and forearms. I'm entrenched in a technology lifestyle - I work with computers full-time, enjoy gaming in my free-time, and hold my phone up to my face in bed. The pain impacts many activities I deem valuable. How can I mitigate or prevent this pain without drastically altering my lifestyle? I understand you are not my doctor. [more inside]
posted by WCF at 12:10 PM PST - 24 comments

antique firearm in NH and MA

I'll be living and working in one of both. I want to buy a pepperbox revolver replica, because I always was fascinated by those , likely percussion based, and maybe take it to a shooting range once in a while. Do I need to fill out any kind of paperwork? What if I move from one state to another? What if I have the gun in my car as I cross state lines? Can I have the gun and ammunition with me in the car?
posted by spacefire at 12:01 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me unlock my vintage school locker!

Bought an old school locker at a flea market and two of the lockers won't open. [more inside]
posted by Sweetie Darling at 11:41 AM PST - 3 comments

Should I dispose of my microwave?

It burned ramen (and the cover inside the microwave), damaged both the plastic cooker and cover, and smells smoky. [more inside]
posted by jenfullmoon at 11:39 AM PST - 8 comments

Giardia or indigestion?

Two weeks ago my partner drank straight from a river, a few days later he had major digestive distress. Is there correlation? [more inside]
posted by kendrak at 10:58 AM PST - 17 comments

Can you suggest a good restaurant in New York City, Kips Bay area?

We're going out in the Kips Bay neighborhood soon with friends. Can you recommend a good restaurant for a festive meal that is NOT Indian? As close to 29th and 2nd as possible. [more inside]
posted by Ollie at 10:56 AM PST - 8 comments

A Thomas-Keller-level cookbook, but with lighter, healthier fare?

My boyfriend is an amazing cook and has been making delicious, bacon-fat-heavy dishes from Thomas Keller's cookbook. My waistline and tummy prefer lighter, semi-vegetarian fare, but I don't want to discourage his wonderful cooking. Is there a cookbook the two of us might be equally happy with?
posted by enzymatic at 10:50 AM PST - 14 comments

Best things to do in Australia's Blue Mountains?

My boyfriend and I are going with my parents to Australia in June, and my parents have tasked us with finding out things to do for the portion of our trip in the Blue Mountains, which will be in early June. What are your favorite things to do there in the winter? What are some things that would be good for a group of four adults who are not particularly outdoorsy or athletic? [more inside]
posted by ocherdraco at 10:28 AM PST - 15 comments

OS X app to quickly search a set folder and its subfolders?

Which launcher app (Alfred, Butler, Quicksilver, etc) or menu bar app can quickly search a defined folder and its subfolders without having to choose the folder each time? [more inside]
posted by bluecore at 10:08 AM PST - 10 comments

Is it worth paying a mason 40% more to point a chimney?

Shall I hire a chimney company for pointing or am I better off paying more to have a mason do the job? [more inside]
posted by elf27 at 9:42 AM PST - 5 comments

Best way to look for apt share in NYC?

I'm looking for an apt share in NYC within 20 minutes or so to midtown by train. Is craigslist the best place to look? Do you have any general tips on how to do the search, what to avoid? My experience so far is that it can look good on photos but still be very rundown, but no photos/details is likely to be even that much worse.
posted by rainy at 9:13 AM PST - 14 comments

Do we want a blog?

Two of my friends and I have decided to create a sort of online 'sitting room', where we can share our musings with each other. We are thinking of a fairly specific way of sharing, but know nothing about what is available out there. Can you help us find the solution for our conversation needs? [more inside]
posted by miorita at 9:12 AM PST - 12 comments

Please Recommend Some Older, Cheaper Games

My computer's older, which means I can't play les jeux du jour, but it does mean I can probably get some good, solid games from a few years ago for a decent price on Steam. But which games should I get? Steam has some recs based on my purchases which skew to RPG and strategy, but I'd like to hear from you guys. Tastes and specs below! [more inside]
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 8:57 AM PST - 24 comments

Help me be low maintenance, without looking low maintenance. For men.

Help with clothing grooming etc. for men? [more inside]
posted by snowjoe at 8:53 AM PST - 27 comments

Place on the internet to commiserate and get support about crappy jobs.

As the title says, I was just wondering if there's some place on the internet where people unhappy with their jobs can congregate, rant, commiserate, get advice, get support, support others, feel accepted and not alone, etc. It should preferably be an active place, not a forum that gets a single new post every few days or weeks. I know it's not healthy to just rage and complain all the time about a situation. Sometimes, however, you've just got to get something off your chest and know that someone is listening. And girlfriends and parents can only take so much of this, productive or not, because they're so much closer to you. This is more about just meeting people that are experiencing similar difficulties in life and having an active, understanding support group. [more inside]
posted by KinoAndHermes at 8:51 AM PST - 11 comments

Am I being a crazy-person? Immature perhaps?

My close friend of 4 years now spends all their time with a long-lost friend recently resurfaced and I am sad/angry/jealous/ Should I be? More inside :( [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:32 AM PST - 23 comments

Adobe Acrobat Filter: Acrobat help, hacking PDFs

I am regular user of Adobe Acrobat Pro (Version 9, currently), for document manipulation purposes. I am certainly not expert at it, but I'm not entirely stupid. I sometimes run into forms (the ones I work with are typically from various state and federal government agencies) where the helpful persons setting up those forms either accidentally or set up with programming/permissions that don't allow me be able to manipulate the forms. These are not high level sensitive documents, or anything, and all I am trying to do is to be able to add/edit/delete various form fields in order to fill out the forms properly. Here is a link to the current form that has me stymied - it is the S-Corporation election form from the IRS (form 2553): http://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/f2553.pdf [more inside]
posted by kjl291 at 8:01 AM PST - 12 comments

Wee wee pain and Doctor privacy issues (NSFW)

My penis hurts and I think I shouldn't have told my doctor about my lifestyle. I need advice on prognosis and dealing with privacy in a big HMO. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:05 AM PST - 23 comments

Breaking up with a borderline friend

My friend has a long history of BPD. After many years we have moved in different directions and I no longer want to deal with her drama and lies. But I also don't want to make things worse for her. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:04 AM PST - 15 comments

Fancy Dress Filter - Theme: Cartoons

HELP - I'm having a costume crisis. What easily-recognisable cartoon character can I, a mid-height slim lady dress as, that isn't a sleazy she-ra or a dull disney princess? [more inside]
posted by greenish at 6:59 AM PST - 33 comments

Best friend's dad died suddenly. Besides myself, what should I bring?

My best friend called me last night to say that her father had died of a heart attack yesterday. She was clearly still in shock. She and her husband drove in overnight and as soon as she calls I'll leave work to go spend the day with her and her family. I don't want to show up empty-handed. Besides food for lunch, what should I bring with me? [more inside]
posted by SeedStitch at 6:57 AM PST - 27 comments

If I can make it there...

Hi all- Heading up to NYC in a few weeks for my birthday and I'm trying to plan a fantastic weekend. Before my job became my life, I was much more up on what to do mind where to go in NY. Now, I'm a bit more clueless. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by superfille at 6:44 AM PST - 5 comments

Why call it "Seafood Restaurant?"

Why do some Chinese restaurants have names ending in "Seafood Restaurant" when most of their menu is not seafood? I've found this most often in North American Chinatown areas with menus and signage in Chinese characters. Is "seafood restaurant" an incomplete translation of something Chinese or describes some particular culinary tradition, the same way a "steakhouse" describes a kind of restaurant where I have a good idea of what kind of non-steak foods to expect? Anywhere I can read up on what that tradition is? Or are they simply trying to advertise that they are particularly good at seafood?
posted by grouse at 6:13 AM PST - 15 comments

Electrically flummoxed.

Half of my house has lost power. The breakers are fine. You're not my electrician - I just want to understand what the problem is or might be. [more inside]
posted by amy lecteur at 5:22 AM PST - 16 comments

Concrete steps from academic economics into data science/management

I would like a job that allows me to write programs or scripts for data processing/analysis. I am trying to understand what a move from academic economics to data-science/management would involve for me in terms of specific steps and goals. What would I need to learn, and what should I prioritise learning? Should I study at home or take a course? When (i.e. after how much or what sort of study/self-study etc) should one think about actually applying for those sorts of jobs? [more inside]
posted by mister_kaupungister at 5:07 AM PST - 7 comments

Scottish B&Bs in May: Book in advance, or arrive as a walk-in?

My wife and I are in the midst of planning a driving tour through Scotland for the first week of May. (Main destinations: Glencoe and the Isle of Skye). Finding a hotel in Edinburgh was a piece of cake, but the Glencoe and Skye areas, after looking through the listings on Trip Advisor, seem to be booked in advance. [more inside]
posted by Gordion Knott at 5:05 AM PST - 10 comments

April 3

Soundproofing just my bed area?

I don't need to soundproof an entire room, just where I sleep. Basically, I want to construct a dark quiet box with the bottom side just big enough for my mattress. [more inside]
posted by Jacqueline at 10:15 PM PST - 26 comments

Flying Allegiant Air --is it a bargain, or PITA?

My husband and I are considering flying Allegiant Air from Tennessee to Ft. Myers, FL in a few weeks (prices are about 50% of other airlines). Has anyone had any experiences (good or bad) with this airline? Thanks,
posted by pushing paper and bottoming chairs at 10:10 PM PST - 20 comments

My Google searches are being invaded by an email address

A few days ago I was searching for an email in my Gmail inbox and entered the email address of the person I knew it was from -- let's say invader@email.com. I don't know what I did wrong during this very mundane occurrence, but ever since then "invader@email.com" has been aggressively filling itself in on google-related search boxes in Chrome, preventing me from using Google effectively. How can I make it stop? [more inside]
posted by ootandaboot at 9:34 PM PST - 15 comments

I want to change the homepage of my domain at a specific time. How?

Pretty much what it says on the tin. I currently have index.html as the top level page on my domain. On a specific day at a specific time, I want to have that page change to e.g. index2.html more or less permanently. I would like this to be a surprise and specifically timed, so it needs to be a) server side, and ideally b) invisible even to someone poking around. GoDaddy is my host, I have complete backend access to everything, and know next to nothing about php or js, so please explain like I'm 5.
posted by feckless fecal fear mongering at 8:13 PM PST - 17 comments

Do they have Art Nouveau-esque doormats?

I am trying to find a doormat to protect the hardwood flooring by my front door. Here's a picture of the front entryway and another longer shot of it. The entryway is about 42" inches wide and 39" long, and the interior doorway where there used to be a second door is 34" wide. I'd like the rug to be both very hardwearing (it must stand up to snow, mud, and my cat's claws) and to suit the decor. Right now I have a plain dark brown rectangular mat that does the job, but I'd like to find something with a little more style. Suggestions?
posted by orange swan at 7:42 PM PST - 6 comments

Any idea how'd I'd recreate this artwork with my students?

Any idea how'd I'd recreate this artwork with my students? See inside for links and details. [more inside]
posted by figaro at 7:40 PM PST - 6 comments

Beanplating a job offer

A potential employer has extended a formal offer to me. Taking the job would solve some problems, but would create so many others because of the time commitment involved. Is it ethical to turn down an offer at this stage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:14 PM PST - 26 comments

Bar and Kitchenware wholesale from Asia?

How does one go about finding wholesale suppliers or bar and kitchenware from China and Japan? I'm looking to do bulk purchasing on things such as Yarai style glassware and mixing glasses, Yukiwa jiggers, fancy bitters bottles, and all things tiki related. [more inside]
posted by special agent conrad uno at 6:24 PM PST - 4 comments

Is an accountant obligated to report unreported income to the IRS?

Is an accountant obligated to report unreported income to the IRS, if the conversation is not pertaining to the completion of my tax return? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:19 PM PST - 4 comments

Vacation from gardening

The gardener in the family is going to be travelling from July through December, leaving me home alone with assorted pets and a large, wild vegetable garden. What's the best, lazy way to NOT garden this summer? [more inside]
posted by five_cents at 6:14 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me find a Keynote Theme

Since Apple has thrice redone the way it stores keynote themes, my absolute favorite (that I purchased from who knows where) was therefore erased during an OS or Keynote upgrade. The main draw of the template was that certain slides were paired together, so that when they "slid" from one to the other, it looked s if you were exploring a huge slide, one piece at a time. All I remember is that it was mostly gray, and the Titles were about 3/4 of the way down the page. One might be a striped metallic bar with a rounded corner on its left end. The next slide would have the title at the same spot, but coming put of the other side, with the rounded corner on the right. [more inside]
posted by leecreighton at 6:13 PM PST - 3 comments

Better-paying job or mat leave coverage? Does not compute!

I have two job offers on my table, each with a sizeable pay raise above my current salary. Problem is, my current job has maternity leave benefits, and I don't think these two new jobs do. [more inside]
posted by lizbunny at 6:04 PM PST - 10 comments

Can these boots be saved?

Recently I bought a pair of real leather, made in Italy boots at Goodwill for $10. Score! Well, of course they had a problem. [more inside]
posted by aetg at 4:50 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me find a pair of novels set in the future with magic.

Trying to find a pair of novels set in the near future North America that I read sometime between 1990 and 2004 approximately. The "big idea" is that neopagan magic "returns" (or at least everyone believes it does, and acts accordingly) with the millennium. The protagonist of one novel is pregnant with the next world spiritual leader. In one scene, a prophet yells at her, "you're full of fish!" Another novel with the same setting (perhaps the same novel) involved a conspiracy and had a genderqueer magical cyberpunk/hacker as a minor character. I remember them as similar to Galveston by Sean Stewart but I'm pretty certain they're not by Stewart. It's not Bone Dance or DeLint, and they had nothing to do with Shadowrun. Help appreciated. They're probably not all that great, but the pair were striking enough that a few things stick out.
posted by CBrachyrhynchos at 4:43 PM PST - 2 comments

I feel like I've been there... every damned day!

Anybody know where the photo for the Office 365 sign-on screen was taken? Link below the fold. [more inside]
posted by TigerMoth at 3:58 PM PST - 9 comments

Ladies, fashionistas, advice-givers, lend me your ears....

I have a lovely light chiffony navy blue pleated skirt that I surprisingly fit into after only a month of dieting (I bought it thinking that it was aspirational). The weather suddenly turned cold again after being unseasonably (and unregionally) warm for a bit here in beautiful San Francisco. I want to wear the skirt while it fits but need some help deciding what to wear it with. [more inside]
posted by janey47 at 3:43 PM PST - 12 comments

Help James Bond fix his car please!

I'm trying to help a friend locate a replacement LED Left Side Head Light Cluster for a 2006 Ford Mondeo Titanium (as seen in CASINO ROYALE). Preferably in the UK but anywhere would do - sadly everywhere I look has nothing available... thank you all in advance!
posted by timpollard at 3:37 PM PST - 2 comments

How can I build discipline?

Discipline seems to be a fundamental trait: if you have it, you can have the self-control (and delayed gratification) to improve your health, work, and other parts of your life that seem to rely on having discipline. So how does one go about developing and improving discipline?
posted by markbao at 3:26 PM PST - 21 comments

Looking for a light, Linux-friendly laptop with trackpoint

My Lenovo Thinkpad X220 has been falling apart for awhile, but I've resisted replacing it because shopping for laptops is annoying. But now it's definitely time for something new. I'm overwhelmed by the options, but maybe someone else who's done some laptop-shopping recently can help? I'm looking for something small and light (12-14", less than 4 lbs.), Linux-friendly, and (here's the hard part) with a trackpoint-style mouse. I use my laptop mostly for writing and general Internetting, but also for processing photos, so a decent processor and display is nice. Price isn't a huge issue. I could go with one of the newer Lenovos, and I might still, but I'm interested in other options, as well. I'm not interested in any of the Chromebooks. Any suggestions?
posted by rhiannonstone at 3:13 PM PST - 10 comments

I'm sure the space needle is great, but...

What are some fun things I can do in Seattle tonight/Friday/this weekend by myself, ideally without being on my feet the whole time? [more inside]
posted by mismatched at 3:01 PM PST - 35 comments

Achieve customer's confidence in a service they're not paying for

I work for an IT company that provides certain VIP customers with consultancy services, free of charge for them. My job is basically help them identify new business needs, get first-hand information about their plans and projects, do some consulting work related to IT management methodologies, suggest ways to fix non-optimal business processes and in general, manage the business relationship at the highest level (CIOs and CEOs). [more inside]
posted by Matrod at 2:51 PM PST - 7 comments

Redundant chimney problems.

I'm having problems with a potential leak or condensation problem in an external chimney chase that no longer has hot air running through the exhaust venting. I've not had any luck with the contractor that made the chimney redundant and need some advice. [more inside]
posted by Gregarious introvert at 2:36 PM PST - 5 comments

What's Small, Thin, and Heavy?

So I got this deal on tissues. Super cheap, but the boxes are half the height of the ones I usually buy. And the problem is, whenever I grab a tissue from the box, the whole box flies up in the air with the tissue, knocking over anything within an 18" radius. And I've bought 2 years worth of these damned boxes, so it's not a temporary problem. My thought was to weigh them down by slipping something heavy into the bottom of the box, beneath the bottom tissue. So: what's something really cheap (i.e. far <$1) and reasonably thin, and adequately heavy (a bolt or something won't cut it)....and easily found at Home Depot?
posted by Quisp Lover at 1:16 PM PST - 31 comments

Bathroom cleaning hacks for older homes?

I thought I knew how to clean bathrooms? But my new bathroom is a dust-sink, hair-trap, and I can never seem to get the porous white sink, tub, and toilet to appear clean, despite frequent cleaning. Looking for practical hacks or product recommendations from people who have similar vintage or antique bathrooms. [more inside]
posted by stellaluna at 12:45 PM PST - 14 comments

Help me be low maintenance, without looking low maintenance.

I want to look more put together and polished for work, but I don't have a lot of interest or time for beauty/fashion/etc. What are your tips/tricks/hacks for looking put together and polished with minimal fuss? [more inside]
posted by pennypiper at 11:52 AM PST - 39 comments

Why does Windows 8.1 ask for an app every time I try to open a PDF?

This is new behavior (maybe after I installed the Windows 8.1 upgrade) - when I double-click a PDF, instead of just opening the file in Acrobat (full app is installed on my computer), the 'how do you want to open this file' dialog appears, and 'Keep using Adobe Acrobat' is the first choice, followed by two instances an icon with the full path to the Acrobat executable. I have Adobe Acrobat as the default program. I'm guessing this is a Windows issue, rather than Adobe - how do I get my PDFs to just open already?
posted by DandyRandy at 11:27 AM PST - 2 comments

Practical Online Courses for a Secretary Turned IT Person

What online courses are immediately applicable to IT knowledge for a medium-small "knowledge" company? [more inside]
posted by alice_curiouse at 11:26 AM PST - 5 comments

Back-carbonating a homebrew cider

Two weeks ago I put sugar and yeast in a jug of cider, and it's time to rack it. But the online resources I'm using have me confused. Should I rack more than once when back-carbonating, or am I done? [more inside]
posted by brenton at 11:24 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me find a credit union

I do most of my banking with a megabank but would like to open a second account at a credit union. Can you recommend one that will let me join? [more inside]
posted by neat graffitist at 11:07 AM PST - 9 comments

Barky dog, safe neighborhood.

I live in a house with a guard dog, but we don't even lock our front door. Is there a good way to calm this pup down? [more inside]
posted by pwally at 10:57 AM PST - 12 comments

Tips for auditioning a real estate buyer's broker

My wife and I will be sitting down with a real estate buyer's broker over the weekend as we start our home search. The broker would like to represent us exclusively, which I'm not necessarily averse to, but I'd like your recommendations for how to chose a broker to help us be certain she would be the right fit before wasting our time. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 10:45 AM PST - 11 comments

Any advice on USDA rural housing loans?

Looking to buy a house in rural areas between Tampa and Sarasota. First-time homebuyer, attracted to the USDA loan program for its guarantees and all-encompassing mortgage which includes insurance, closing costs and possibly even repairs. I want to hear the good and bad from folks who have recent experience from the program, what to look for in a lender or mortgage broker. If you have any recs for the area I'm talking about, all the better. Thanks.
posted by caveatz at 10:28 AM PST - 4 comments

I want to move my career in a different direction.

I graduated with an M.A. in English and through luck, contracting, and family connections, came to work in nuclear power. My administrative role has changed to field work. I prefer office work, especially writing reports etc. My area in nuclear is very specialized, and due to downsizing in the industry, I feel a real need to get familiar with my prospects for other jobs and diversify my skills. However, I have no idea how to begin, research being one of my weak points. Long explanation + details inside. [more inside]
posted by glass.hourousha at 10:00 AM PST - 7 comments

Fictional employment agency

My character needs a job. Help me come up with more ideas. Specs inside. [more inside]
posted by elizeh at 9:55 AM PST - 23 comments

Apple Junk Mail folder, I wish I could quit you. Why can't I?

I have a Mac (Mavericks) and iPhone (iOS 7), and I use the Mac mail client for both. My email is hosted on Google for domains. Some time in the past few months, my mail has started putting perfectly legitimate mail into my Junk folder. It's not marked as junk- I've turned off junk mail filtering altogether, so I don't even have that option anymore, and by my logic nothing should wind up in my Junk folder at all at this point. How can I get my mail to behave properly? [more inside]
posted by mkultra at 9:53 AM PST - 4 comments

Foldable, durable light shoes.

Hi AskMefi. I first noticed Timberland Radler Camp Shoe about 2 years ago. I finally decided to buy a pair and they are discontinued! Help me find an alternative! [more inside]
posted by aeighty at 9:51 AM PST - 6 comments

Canadian entry records?

I am a permanent resident of Canada, and have been since 2010. Between 2010-2012 I lived in New York attending school, but moved back to Toronto in 2012 and have lived here full time. For most of my departures and entries into the country there are stamps in my passport to show. However, last October and November I took 2 trips to the US entirely by land, both trips were only a few days. I just now realized that upon re-entering I never got a stamp from either trip. I'm worried that there will be no proof of me coming back to Canada and the last 6 months of my residence won't count. Does the Canadian border keep a record of the permanent residents they let back in? Where can I find this information?
posted by atetrachordofthree at 9:26 AM PST - 8 comments

Brooklyn bike tune-up recommendations

Where should I take my bike in Brooklyn (preferably near Downtown/Cobble Hill/Carroll Gardens) for a tune-up? [more inside]
posted by saladin at 9:13 AM PST - 8 comments

Like Gleick is to Information Theory, X is to Social Choice Theory

What are some great, accessible books that would allow me to learn more about social choice theory without having to become an economist? I am thinking something along the likes of James Gleick's "popular science" Information Theory book, but for social choice theory. [more inside]
posted by TheyCallItPeace at 9:11 AM PST - 2 comments

Ed Grimley at Mickey D's

When I was 16, I got a part-time job at McDonald's. I remember being made to watch a training video for the lace, featuring Martin Short as Ed Grimley who was a Mickey D's fry guy or something. I know I wasn't high at the time, I know it really happened! I can't find any evidence of it anywhere, except for a brief mention on Pinterest. Help me find this video!
posted by jen14221 at 9:10 AM PST - 3 comments

Is there a website like Doodle but for an entire calendar?

My boss is going on a trip in a few months and I need to schedule all his appointments. There are 5 other people who will also be arranging meetings for him. I need to create a calendar that all 6 people can access and edit. [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 9:02 AM PST - 9 comments

Thunderbird email backup check- since I have to delete before restoring!

I'm returning a work laptop and want to delete a personal email profile, including all the emails. First I want to back it up. Since I can't restore anywhere first, I want to be completely certain I have something I can restore. [more inside]
posted by lockedroomguy at 8:54 AM PST - 2 comments

Can I sew a dress by hand & sew it well? Will it take (me) forever?

I'm totally into the idea of slow fashion. I'd like to take up sewing again and sew some simple but stylish items using Very Easy Vogue patterns or similarly easy patterns. The difficulty is that I'd like to do it by hand and want to know if this is practical. If not I may buy a basic sewing machine, but I'd love to try sewing and finishing by hand. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by sister nunchaku of love and mercy at 8:46 AM PST - 19 comments

Getting crazy duplicate charts in Excel spreadsheets using Save to Web

So, I have a series of worksheets in an Excel file that I routinely save to web (single web page format) so that colleagues can access the information on an intranet. Since our company upgraded to Office 2010 these worksheets have begun accumulating multiple copies of any charts located on these sheets (superimposed on the original) - these duplications are in both chart and image form. [more inside]
posted by aught at 8:28 AM PST - 1 comment

Why do my sinuses always close up at night?

The older I get, the worse my sinus issues. Throughout the day, my nasal passages are mostly okay, but it never fails: I get into bed at night, close my eyes, and ten minutes later I can't breathe. While I'm working my way through various remedies (drugs, doctors, homebrewed quackery, et cetera), I'd just like to know WHY this invariably happens? What's going on up inside my head?
posted by jackypaper at 8:12 AM PST - 24 comments

$20, SAIT?

How much do you pay your cleaning person? After years of Mefite testimonials I’ve finally decided to take the leap and hire someone to come in and clean biweekly. Currently we’re doing a halfass job, which induces lots of guilt and then frantic cleaning rampages when company’s coming. I’m excited to finally be in a position where this is an option, and have a friend* who is a fantastic housekeeper and is looking for some extra cash on the side. Regular tasks will include dusting, floors, kitchen, bathrooms, and she’d occasionally do more extensive jobs, such as windows or scouring the cabinets, as needed. Because this is a casual arrangement between friends, she doesn’t have established rate. [more inside]
posted by spinturtle at 8:10 AM PST - 35 comments

Help me pack for the UK in July.

I'll be spending three weeks this summer travelling over the UK (Sussex, Nottinghamshire, Derbyshire, and Gloucestershire). It's a work thing, so I'll be expected to dress nicely (business casual), but I'll also be doing a lot of walking and standing around outdoors. [more inside]
posted by rubyshoes at 8:07 AM PST - 5 comments

What is this herb/green?

Help me identify this food plant based on a picture. [more inside]
posted by moonroof at 7:51 AM PST - 13 comments

Looking for a windows taskbar notification program.

I am looking for a simplified calendar app, I suppose. I want to tell this program to pop up a notification at 10:30pm every day. I want this notification to stick around, on top of all other windows, until I actually dismiss it. [more inside]
posted by royalsong at 7:45 AM PST - 4 comments

Identify cartoon featuring a forest feast inside a tree.

I'm trying to remember and find a clip online of a cartoon from my childhood. I don't believe it was a series. It featured a community of forest animals and from what I remember, focused on them collecting food for the winter. But there was one animal who refused to help collect food. When winter finally came, all the other animals were inside (a tree?) having a feast, while the lone animal who refused was stuck outside in the cold/snow. He/she trudged over to the door (of the tree) and they let him inside and everyone ate. Any ideas?
posted by czytm at 7:29 AM PST - 3 comments

How do I know if I'm covered?

I am a trans woman. Recently, I received a job offer from a private higher education institution in New York City. I would really like to accept the job, but repeated conversations with the individual who recruited me—who has been asking questions on my behalf to the institution's Human Resources department—have left me unsure whether or not their health insurance will cover trans-related care. How do I get this information? Can I get this information? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:20 AM PST - 21 comments

Please give me birth control advice - AFTER condoms.

My partner and I have decided to use two layers of birth control. Her doctor said it was a good idea, because condoms have a small failure rate even when used perfectly. However, she doesn't want her parents to know (she's 20) and is on their health insurance, and she has a family friend that works at planned parenthood. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:19 AM PST - 35 comments

Looking for a boardroom rental in downtown Los Angeles..

I am in search of a boardroom/conference room space (accommodating max. 10 people for a meeting for 2-half days) in downtown Los Angeles. Any recommendations? Especially for rentals under a $250 day rate with wifi and water at the location. Thank you.
posted by likeapen at 6:51 AM PST - 2 comments

Bicycle for teen girl?

My niece would like a bicycle to get around - I have some old ones, but they would need tune-ups. What does she need, and am I better off having an old one worked on, or just getting a new one? [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl at 6:26 AM PST - 20 comments

Apple Keynote or OpenOffice Impress for making Powerpoints?

I am in charge of developing a series of presentation slides for a facilitated train-the-trainer session, and the trainers (both levels) need to have the ability to use the slides afterwards. While I have access to Apple Keynote or OpenOffice Impress to make these slides, I can't assume that the trainers will have anything other than Microsoft Powerpoint. Which product should I use, and what "gotchas" do I need to watch out for in terms of feature incompatibility? [more inside]
posted by philosophygeek at 5:57 AM PST - 19 comments

Is that a sausage in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?

I'm living outside of the uk now and miss my sausages and want to make some myself. Can you please tell me everything you know about how to make sausage like I ate in the uk? Recipes? Porky whites? Pork and apple? Cumberland? Share your wisdom!
posted by misspony at 5:03 AM PST - 13 comments

TX FOIA: Here's your data. It's encoded. No key for you. Buh bye.

How likely is it that responding to a request for public records with data that has been encoded and explicitly refusing to share or even discuss the key and/or algorithm required to decode it satisfies Texas Freedom of Information Act regulations? [more inside]
posted by syzygy at 5:02 AM PST - 15 comments

UK/Euro Equivalent of Harper's Magazine or the New Yorker?

We live in the UK, London: currently we subscribe to Harper's but are increasingly feeling like we just don't care about all the USA based content. And should be more interested in whats happening in the UK and Europe. Is there a good UK/Eurocentric equivalent that we could subscribe to? [more inside]
posted by mary8nne at 3:54 AM PST - 8 comments

Should I start dating again?

I'm still hurting form a recent break up. Would a foray back into the world of online dating help me get over it and move on? [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema at 2:55 AM PST - 23 comments

Can I slow-cook tough beef?

I apparently over-cooked some stir-fry beef. It's edible but horribly tough and sort of tasteless, though it's very lean, good beef. I want to know if I can salvage it by slow-cooking it overnight. Anyone? [more inside]
posted by beccyjoe at 2:02 AM PST - 13 comments

Identify this game for me

I played a demo of this a long time ago, and its bugging me. It was a PC game, possibly late 90s/early 2000s, I think it was a Microsoft game. [more inside]
posted by Cannon Fodder at 12:40 AM PST - 5 comments

April 2

Seeking info about theories on extraterrestrial evolution and life forms

I'm looking for academic papers (but also stories, movies, news articles, or anything else!) that talk about this: most of the ideas we come up with about alien life involves those aliens being carbon-based lifeforms with eyes of some sort and internal organs and appendages. But where are the other, more wild (and probably likely) ideas? [more inside]
posted by reductiondesign at 10:35 PM PST - 13 comments

Trippy music video featuring a train with special effects?

I'm trying to find a trippy music video featuring a train. The whole video follows the train for the most part. As the music gets more elaborate, the train gets a bunch of effects including changing its color and brightness. Another music video by the same band involved a fake PSA or television broadcast that devolves into a song. Does any of this ring a bell? I think the band was electronic, but don't quote me on that.
posted by yaymukund at 10:22 PM PST - 9 comments

Studies concerning faculty perception of students.

I'm looking for a study which investigated college faculty's perception of an average student in science classrooms. [more inside]
posted by Evernix at 10:22 PM PST - 2 comments

Woodcut-Style Tattoo Artists in British Columbia

I'm interested in ultimately getting three woodcut-style tattoos (one of them a cover-up). I've checked out the portfolios of several local artists but have yet to find someone who knocks my socks off. I'm in Victoria but would be willing to travel to Vancouver for the right artist. Any recommendations for people working in black ink?
posted by northernish at 10:07 PM PST - 0 comments

Live bedbug invasion - AGH!

I am staying in a motel and just found bedbugs in my room...unfortunately, literally crawling on me by the time I noticed! I called the manager and he promptly moved me to a new room, which I will be checking thoroughly in hopes that I can maybe achieve sufficient comfort to sleep tonight (HA). What else should I do, especially to prevent bringing an invasion home with me? [more inside]
posted by sigmagalator at 10:06 PM PST - 20 comments

How to estimate website project cost when relatively inexperienced?

I have a client who has an existing website written in PHP spaghetti code and has been through a few developers. He wants to add features and upgrade to a modern framework (Django). The website is quite involved (tests, shopping cart, user authentication) and the requested features would add another layer of complexity (teachers and students). I have experience working with Django but I'm not confident enough to estimate the whole thing. Worse still, my client is non-technical and keeps asking for updates while remaining cagey about cost/ trying to lowball instead of considering technical difficulties. How does one proceed? [more inside]
posted by bodywithoutorgans at 9:41 PM PST - 20 comments

At the risk of sounding super ironically lame, I ask: how can I be cool?

I’m 22 year old female EXTROVERT. Super passionate, emotional, awkward. I feel like I have always had a reputation for being kind of lame, awkward and in general a bit strange. I’m not overall socially awkward, but I have pretty big strokes of it: so at parties I can be perceived as being the life of the party, able to talk to everyone and I will have a great time making everyone laugh, I love to dance so I’ll be dancing with everyone--but I’ll come on too strong, or I’ll say something really awkward or I’ll be way too loud and kind of ruin it. I can also be way too TMI, too earnest, too heart-on-the-sleeves, emotionally vulnerable. [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen at 8:51 PM PST - 25 comments

Can I gain something by strategically opening credit cards?

In January, I got my business successfully running, paid off and closed a bunch of personal credit cards, and began making a decent amount of money. Now I'm in a place to start opening credit cards and rebuilding my credit. Last time I looked (10 years ago), there were ways to open new credit card accounts, and as long as you were responsible about always paying off all of your balances at the end of every month, you could get bunches of free flights and bonuses and things. I recall people who played with new account bonuses as a relatively lucrative game. Is this still a thing? Is it worth the time?
posted by sirion at 7:26 PM PST - 7 comments

Non-castile, super-lathery alternatives to Dr. Bronner's soap?

I love Dr. Bronner's soap, but it clogs up my shower drain :( [more inside]
posted by Sine_Agraphia at 6:23 PM PST - 16 comments

Quick to anger, implode and then shake really bad

Let me first state that I have started seeing a counselor and take anxiety meds. What I am hoping to learn from fellow mefites : What works for your *if* you are hyperquick to anger even in times when you feel calm? [more inside]
posted by snap_dragon at 6:22 PM PST - 14 comments

Recommendations for new blogs/websites to read

I am looking for some recommendations for some new blogs/websites to read. I love all things pop culture, am not super into fashion blogs but do like to peruse ones that feature casual looks from time to time and like dry or offbeat humor. [more inside]
posted by ridiculous at 5:48 PM PST - 6 comments

Weekend Stay in Yosemite: Hiking Good. Camping Bad. Advice?

Weekend Stay in Yosemite: Hiking Good. Camping Bad. Advice? [more inside]
posted by jander03 at 5:38 PM PST - 8 comments

Upstairs neighbors from hell + hellhounds

Upstairs neighbors with a track record of being inconsiderate got two yappy, poorly trained dogs. The dogs go out on the balcony all day, where they pee and poop through the floor slats. It all lands on our deck, where we sit and eat and grow produce. (I know, I can't believe it either). We've tried many polite but incredulous complaints, which are rapidly rising in exasperation. We've tried getting the management involved. All of this has resulted in a lot of enthusiastic apologies but absolutely no behavior change. Within a few hours the dogs are back out there, yapping and pooping on our living space. What do we do?! [more inside]
posted by you're a kitty! at 5:38 PM PST - 26 comments

I messed up and it can't be fixed. Now how do I explain?

I work in benefits and messed up the life insurance amount for someone who died. Please help me figure out how to communicate this error to the beneficiary and upper management in the best way possible. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:15 PM PST - 10 comments

Name this song and band, please.

What's the name of the song and the band playing in this video? SLYT [more inside]
posted by ZaneJ. at 4:47 PM PST - 5 comments

How to deal with countless telemarketers calling a small business?

How do I deal with the endless calls from telemarketers calling my business? [more inside]
posted by unsupervised at 4:16 PM PST - 8 comments

Can I bring baggage on the Oakland Ferry to San Francisco?

Taking the Coast Starlight from Seattle to Jack London Sq., but want to take the ferry to Pier 41 where I have a hotel waiting. But I've got luggage. Can I bring it on the ferry? No information on official site. Please help. Thanks so much! [more inside]
posted by itsjustcarlo at 4:16 PM PST - 11 comments

Fashion Emergency

What do you wear to a wedding that is "casual?" [more inside]
posted by cirrostratus at 4:14 PM PST - 29 comments

NO I'M GOING THIS WAY NO THIS WAY NO

I have a few questions about getting a Gentle Leader for our dog. Looking for answers and firsthand experiences. [more inside]
posted by griphus at 4:11 PM PST - 24 comments

What is meant by a "blind scramble"?

Search results indicate this term being used synonymously with "mad scramble", but also as something to do with sports tournaments. Apart from being evocative, does it mean anything specific?
posted by unmake at 3:55 PM PST - 2 comments

Cone of shame

Can you help identify the artist behind this painting?
posted by Blazecock Pileon at 3:48 PM PST - 9 comments

Please help me find the hippie stripper soundtrack of my dreams!

I'm interested in finding songs that are like Massive Attack's 'Angel' and Velvet Underground's 'Venus in Furs' - songs that are a combination of sensual and trancy/trippy. Pandora is not cooperating, so it may be a job best suited to the human ear. I'd eventually like to compose a playlist, so bring on the suggestions!
posted by Selena777 at 3:19 PM PST - 41 comments

Need help identifying a logo for a men's sneaker company

Hi- This is driving me nuts. I'm trying to track down a men's shoe company. They make sneakers. The closest thing I have found is this: - http://media.ubm.com/images/ubm-logo.png. Really appreciate any help if you recognize it.
posted by coward at 2:47 PM PST - 7 comments

What is the best Android recording app?

I am in search of a very good recording app for my Samsung Galaxy S3 that has the ability to transfer the audio to a computer. I need it to record from a few feet away to possibly capturing a whole room. I have tried a few, but they had a lot of "wind" noise. The latest one I've tried is Smart Voice, and when I was about to transfer the file to dropbox so I could try playing it on my computer, it warned me about data charges, so I didn't do it because I don't know how much the charges were going to be. Thank you for any suggestions you have.
posted by madonna of the unloved at 2:37 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me inform my teaching with books on childhood brain development

What books/resources on childhood brain development will best inform my work as a teacher and curriculum writer for young learners? (explanation after the jump) [more inside]
posted by chickenandwine at 2:15 PM PST - 5 comments

Our friendship never recovered - what can I learn?

I told my friend I'd developed feelings for her. She didn't reciprocate - but we said we'd still be friends. Within three weeks we're at each other's throats and now it's all over. What the heck happened? [more inside]
posted by Henners91 at 1:47 PM PST - 104 comments

Tablet, or not to tablet?

My Nexus 7 (2012) seems to have bitten the dust. Should I replace it with a bit of cash I have set aside, or would this be a bad idea now it's been around a while? [more inside]
posted by mippy at 1:44 PM PST - 8 comments

Take All of Me

How can I maximize my bodily donations? [more inside]
posted by Parasite Unseen at 1:25 PM PST - 25 comments

non-standard question about move from nyc to montreal

I currently work in NYC for a large multinational financial services company. I'm in a contract position here, which is due to be renewed in August (which possibly might not be). They've internally offered me a full-time position in Montreal, and I don't know if I should take the offer (which is flat on salary. 110k/yr). I can probably find a similar position in NYC, but it'd be a contract position, and I really like the culture of the company I work for and I guess I'd rather have the job security of a full time position right now... huge snowflake inside. [more inside]
posted by and they trembled before her fury at 1:12 PM PST - 12 comments

What are the limits of "GGG"?

I think being Good, Giving and Game in bed is one of Dan Savage's finer points and strive to be that kind of lover. But there are some things I have a hard time deciding if I just flat out do not like or if they're things I can get over. I'm curious of other people's experiences. *NSFW [more inside]
posted by patientpatient at 12:47 PM PST - 26 comments

David Bowie is

Did David Bowie attend the recent exhibition about David Bowie? It was in London at the Victoria & Albert Museum. Did he play any concerts in London during the exhibit (Mar 23–Aug 11, 2013)?
posted by Jason and Laszlo at 12:41 PM PST - 4 comments

Feels like I'm 15 again

I'm in my early thirties, bisexual/queer and just ended a decade-long relationship with a cisgendered man. I'm starting to date women but haven't had sex with a woman in a decade and didn't have a lot of experience even then. I have always been a visible part of the LGBT community and most people assume I'm a lesbian, which makes people think I have more sexual experience with women than I do. I'm basically nervous about not knowing what to do anymore and being bad in bed. Questions are as follows: Should I disclose this lack of recent experience to the women I'm starting to casually date and have sex with? How can I stop being so nervous, which I know won't help? And: what does real-life lesbian safer sex look like when you're an adult and not a 23 year old with no sense of risk?
posted by anonymous at 12:39 PM PST - 8 comments

How to deal with air pollution in Beijing?

I am heading to Beijing this month where the air pollution is notoriously apalling. Yesterday the air quality index reached a level which was double the level at which Salt Lake City doctors recently declared as a healthy emergency. Earlier this year it reached a level which was double that again. Does anyone have any tips about how to deal with this? Is there any evidence those face masks actually help? Any other contraptions or medication that help ward off the effects? I certainly won't be jogging outside.
posted by vizsla at 12:34 PM PST - 7 comments

Why does my hair get cleaner when I shower at my friend's house?

Hi. My hair always has felt icky and grimy when showering at home. It's almost like there is a buildup of residue in my hair. I have tried many different shampoos. I showered at my friend's house the other day, and my hair felt clean for the first time in a while. I could literally feel the difference as I shampooed. My hair stayed clean for days, whereas at home I would have to wash it every day. I tried my friend's shampoo at home with the same icky residue feeling, so I know that it is not the shampoo; the only other reason I can think of would be the water. I don't know much about this. Could shower water be an issue, and is there anything I could try to fix the problem?
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 12:19 PM PST - 14 comments

Blood draw labs across the country?

My googling is failing me, so I am hoping for your help! A project I am working on requires some type of national laboratory facility where participants can walk in, get a blood sample, and mail a self-contained iced blood kit in the mail back to us. We are trying to work with Quest Diagnostics, but have hit a snafu. Are there other ubiquitous labs (or even mobile lab services) that work in various cities all across the US?
posted by lil' ears at 12:17 PM PST - 7 comments

How to build this type of banner ad?

I need to create a collapsing web ad, similar to the specific one hosted on the homepage of ajc.com. Are there tutorials to do this? [more inside]
posted by sock, the puppet at 12:09 PM PST - 4 comments

Have I ruined my metabolism? If so, how would I get it back?

I have recently entered a fairly strict diet and workout regimen. I feel like it is healthy, but am worried about the damage I may have done to my body and metabolism. Help me decide on my next steps. [more inside]
posted by Shadax at 12:06 PM PST - 25 comments

Boyfrend broke up with me, now he's in contact. What's happening?

After almost a year of planning to move abroad together my boyfriend dumped me suddenly after a tough couple of months. Can you help me diagnose what's going on here? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs at 12:05 PM PST - 22 comments

I'm a guy. My hair is getting longer, and it's windy. Help!

I'm a mid-20's guy who often gets told that I look better with longer hair. Unfortunately, I'm terrible at styling so I usually stick with shorter lengths. Lately, I've been trying to grow the 'do out a bit. Although I am able to leave the house looking alright, if the wind is blowing I am liable to end up looking like a crazy person within moments. Please share with me advice on how to tame my hair into submission! [more inside]
posted by Kamelot123 at 11:59 AM PST - 8 comments

Gentle exercises & physiotherapy recs for a bad back, please!

I suffer from occasional back pain--by that I mean, about twice a year--and would like recommendations to help lessen it happening or if I need more professional help. A light dusting of snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 11:58 AM PST - 7 comments

How to automatically open certain sites in certain browsers?

At work, we have to use IE8 for some websites, but Chrome for others. Is there a way to have certain links (such as certain domains or addresses or subdomains) open in IE8 automatically, and others open in Chrome automatically? [more inside]
posted by blue_wardrobe at 11:32 AM PST - 8 comments

Last minute group dining in nyc?

I'm looking for an affordable restaurant that could accommodate a group of 10 on Saturday night for a birthday party. Ideally in a neighborhood in NYC with solid nearby nightlife. [more inside]
posted by R a c h e l at 11:29 AM PST - 12 comments

The forest from the trees

MeTat Filter: What suggestions do you have for a tattoo that evokes the woods? Perhaps the woods around Walden Pond? Details inside! [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 10:54 AM PST - 13 comments

I hate dressing up. There, I said it.

Can I wear these shoes with this dress? To a wedding? On one of those farms specifically made for people to get married at? In Florida? Pictures within. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 10:35 AM PST - 48 comments

On Line Selling Platforms or Not?

I am aiming to sell a men's fashion line on-line beginning in June. I am doing research about on-line selling platforms. The concerns I have on my end is free shipping costs and product return (if the the items do not fit) I have checked Amazon and they do charge shipping costs. Now looking for some local e-commerce businesses. Any other suggestions?
posted by goalyeehah at 10:26 AM PST - 6 comments

This one is for the boys

My hubby is complaining of mild incontinence. Please help us figure out what to do about it. [more inside]
posted by vignettist at 9:17 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me find an old Foxtrot comic

Pretty simple: Way back (I have no idea when, but probably over a decade ago), there was a great Foxtrot comic that shaped how I analyze policy decisions. In this particular episode, one character claimed to have found a way to solve all the world's problems. The other character asked (paraphrase) "Does it involve everybody doing something, or nobody doing something?" I've Googled the hell out of this morning, but I can't find anything. Does anybody remember it, or know how to find it? Thanks!
posted by General Malaise at 9:01 AM PST - 5 comments

Dream?

Apologies if this sounds crazy. I suddenly had a memory from my past, to a very minute detail. But, I have a gut feeling that this was actually a recurring dream I used to have very regularly a long time ago. However ... I can't decide if it is something I made up just now. I'm not sure that was the best way to put into words exactly what I'm feeling, so please read on. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:57 AM PST - 15 comments

I can't stop not doing my final project. I don't want to fail. Help.

This is my last semester of college, and there's a major project I haven't worked on for weeks. Parts of it are past due. Other people are counting on me. I feel paralyzed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:40 AM PST - 24 comments

What should I do with my ipad 1?

I have an ipad 1 which I still really enjoy. However, I'm noticing more and more apps don't work for seemingly no reason other than the developers are choosing not to support the iPad 1. Since I've got reduced capabilities I'm thinking about installing Android or jail breaking or something else. What would you recommend?
posted by gocubbies at 8:04 AM PST - 10 comments

Woman bit by unvaccinated feral-ish cat. Must wait 10 days for vaccine?

John's unvaccinated, fractious outdoor cat, Wretched Beast, bit Janet when she tired to help John capture the cat so it can go to vet. John and Janet live in Westchester County, New York. John took Janet to the emergency room and has paid her subsequent medical expenses. Janet wants the rabies vaccine. The doctor instructs John to quarantine Wretched Beast for ten days. If at the end of the ten days that cat starts acting rabid then the doctor will administer the rabies vaccine. Janet wants the rabies vaccine NOW. Shouldn't the doctor give the rabies vaccine sooner rather than later? Suppose Wretched Beast doesn't show symptoms for a longer period of time?
posted by anonymous at 7:43 AM PST - 11 comments

How to transition from corporate world to fundraising?

I think I'd like to transition from the corporate world into fundraising, but I am not sure of the best way to do so. Any tips? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:43 AM PST - 6 comments

40th birthday ideas for IT co-worker

IT-manager friend turns 40 later this year. How can we show our appreciation? [more inside]
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 7:13 AM PST - 7 comments

To doctor or not to doctor?

Approximately two weeks ago (I think) I was out in the woods and was possibly bitten by something on the knuckle of my ring finger. The next day the spot ached in the joint, but no other symptoms. Over the last few days, though, the pain has returned and worsened, and now it appears to be getting puffy. Should I go see a medical professional about this? [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 7:06 AM PST - 13 comments

Men's stretch leg jeans, where to buy?

I'm looking for mens jeans that are stretchy (I'm talking the material throughout the pants, not the waist band). I remember a while back the store Express in the local mall sold dress pants that were 5% elastic (said so in the tag). They looked normal, but when squatting down, or taking a big stride, they would "give" a little around the knee, up the thigh, etc.). Anyone know of something similar for mens jeans?
posted by thankyoumuchly at 5:32 AM PST - 27 comments

UK Council Tax back payment

In recent years there has been a line of my council tax labelled "Disregard 25% reduction". It turns out this shouldn't have been applied, and I am potentially going to have to back pay for several years. Is there any limit on the time this can be back applied? Do I have any options? [more inside]
posted by samworm at 5:24 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for 2014 diary

My great grandfather kept a diary in 1914. I want an unlined diary of comparable size and appearance for 2014. (see picture link) [more inside]
posted by cake vandal at 4:58 AM PST - 10 comments

What's a good day job while I work on building my Etsy shop on the side?

My current day job as an assistant property manager/leasing consultant isn't a good fit for me or for my situation. I'm looking for something with more flexible hours and the opportunity to work from home, as well as something that is less customer service oriented. The hours are inflexible and I have to work Saturdays. Constantly being "on" with people is draining since I am naturally an introvert. [more inside]
posted by Shadow Boxer at 4:11 AM PST - 6 comments

Let Me Listen to the Landscape

Today I found this - "Sonic Horizons of the Mesolithic: Sounding out Early Prehistory in the Vale of Pickering". It is a collaboration between a sonic artist, archaeologists and The British Library. I absolutely love it. It ticks all my boxes: sonic exploration of psychogeography (and a specific landscape) coupled with archaeology. Goosebumps. Where can I find more along these lines? I am not interested in New Age ambient music/sounds nor am I interested in generic 'nature soundtracks'. I am after specific sonic landscapes: recordings from or sonic imaginings of specific landscapes situated in specific times. I am already familiar with the work of Felicity Ford. Any other artists or sites I should look at?
posted by kariebookish at 3:35 AM PST - 5 comments

What specifically am I sensitive to?

After having to leave a meeting due to someone elses perfume, I would love to know what chemical it is in scented products that I am sensitive to. Can we narrow it down some? Details of reaction inside. [more inside]
posted by Iteki at 3:11 AM PST - 8 comments

April 1

How can I ensure that I poo daily?

I don't always poo every day, but I would like to. What should I be eating? [more inside]
posted by paleyellowwithorange at 9:11 PM PST - 58 comments

Retirement savings for the self-employed

It's April and time for yet another retirement account question. I am self-employed and want to open a new retirement account. Does anyone have experience with an individual 401(k) or SEP-IRA? [more inside]
posted by natasha_k at 8:54 PM PST - 5 comments

$175 to replace a driver's side rear-view mirror?

I've been going to a repair shop here in LA for a while that I found through the Car Talk fora, but have been increasingly unhappy with them. I took my girlfriend's 2002 Ford Focus in to get an estimate on replacing the mirror, and got back a quote of $175ish, $100 for the part and $75 for the labor (meaning, an hour and a quarter for them at $60 per hour). The thing is, there are third-party mirrors for about $30, and from doing the same thing on a car years ago, I remember it taking about 20 minutes with the right tools. Are they trying to rip me off? Is this a reasonable ballpark for what seems like pretty minor work (the whole assembly pops on and off)? I don't have the tools to do this now (I'd need a deeper socket), so should I buy the part and take it to them? Are dealer mirrors really that superior? (It's out of warranty by now, obviously.) Should I take it to someone else? [more inside]
posted by klangklangston at 8:47 PM PST - 20 comments

How to get footnote references in footer to be smaller than in the text

The default scenario is, in a blank MS Word 2007 document, the footnote reference in the text is supertext, but is the same font size as whatever your normal text is. The footnote reference in the footer is point 10. They are different sizes, even though they are both the style called "footnote reference". They look different under "reveal formatting", but I don't understand reveal formatting. [more inside]
posted by sarahkeebs at 8:43 PM PST - 2 comments

Gift for the hostess who's adverse to everything?

I'm going to a murder mystery dinner party next Saturday, yay! I'd like to bring a hostess gift for the couple putting on the event. But the hostess has several major allergies/issues, which leave me stumped as to figuring out what to bring. [more inside]
posted by PearlRose at 8:08 PM PST - 32 comments

Hard drivin'

What is the best vehicle for long-term ownership for someone who is hard on cars? By that I mean they accelerate and brake more rapidly than they should and they are slow, but not completely negligent, to perform maintenance.
posted by michaelh at 8:06 PM PST - 19 comments

non-traditional parenting for dummies

What resources exist for non-romantic adult friends thinking about having a kid? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:07 PM PST - 19 comments

Requesting a tax extension in USA when not sure of filing status

How do I request an extension to file my income taxes when I'm not sure if I will be filing as "married filing jointly" or "married filing separately" and if separately, what deductions/exemptions, if any, I may be entitled to. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:07 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I move to a new technology stack after 4 years of .NET?

I have been working as a .NET developer for the last 4 years. I would like to change technology stacks. How do I find job openings that are language-agnostic? [more inside]
posted by alligatorman at 7:00 PM PST - 7 comments

Must yoga be new-agey?

Interested in yoga after hearing it can help depression as well as increasing strength and flexibility. But I'm a skeptical atheist with no interest in the metaphysical spiritual aspects. Is yoga for me? [more inside]
posted by waraw at 6:50 PM PST - 40 comments

Where to Find Unique Gender Neutral Hand Towels

Hey. I'm a bachelor with disposable income and no possessions. I need hand towels. Are there awesome ones online? [more inside]
posted by midmarch snowman at 6:47 PM PST - 11 comments

Dessert recipe needing no refrigeration and easy to travel with?

I am attending a barbecue this weekend and have volunteered to bring an awesome dessert. Difficulty level: I will be traveling 2 hours by car the day before to get to where the barbecue is and spending that day and the next doing something else, I will have no access to refrigeration for at least 8-12 hours at a time for those 2 days before the barbecue, assume I will not be able to do anything much in terms of last-minute preparation (like whipping cream immediately before serving), no fruit please. I will need to prepare it Thursday night to serve Saturday night. I am a reasonably experienced cook. [more inside]
posted by biscotti at 6:07 PM PST - 21 comments

King of the Cat-stle!?

My cat sleeps in my dog's crate when he isn't crated. Is this bad? [more inside]
posted by floweredfish at 5:34 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me find a simple but elusive dress style

I recently came across this vintage '90s Esprit dress on Etsy, but it's not my size. I'd love to find a similar modern dress, but after scanning online stores for way too long, I'm stymied. Help! [more inside]
posted by lisa g at 5:22 PM PST - 21 comments

Are there It's Its in the San Francisco Airport?

Can I find an It's It ice cream sandwich in the San Francisco airport? [more inside]
posted by petiteviolette at 4:43 PM PST - 7 comments

How best to get psychotherapy license with ineligible master's in psych?

If you have a master's degree in psychology with clinical experience - but which does not give a license to do mental health work - what is the fastest, easiest, and most inexpensive way to translate that to a license-eligible degree valid in New York? Is it best to get another degree and transfer credits, and if so which one? Or is there another way?
posted by shivohum at 4:13 PM PST - 4 comments

Load me up with awesome short stories!

I have this book and I love it. I pick it up, open to a random page, and read whatever story I land on (generally with great success) and often discover a new author to read. Can you recommend other similarly gigantic, wonderfully edited, genre-specific collections of short stories/novellas? [more inside]
posted by torisaur at 2:54 PM PST - 16 comments

Help me get through a TV taping

I wrote a story for an online women's magazine, and it was picked up for a Canadian television network. They'll tape me as I'm telling my story, and then they'll re-enact it with actors. If you've ever seen Investigation Discovery episodes, it'll be like that, but funny. How do I get through this? [more inside]
posted by cartoonella at 2:51 PM PST - 14 comments

Do microwave ovens get weaker with age?

Something that used to take about 40 seconds to warm up in our microwave oven to a certain temperature now seems to take about 50 seconds. This change seemed to happen fairly suddenly rather than gradually. I don't mind waiting 10 extra seconds, but I'm wondering whether the power of a microwave oven diminishes over time and whether I should expect further deterioration of its performance. It's probably about eight years old and is used daily but lightly.
posted by Dansaman at 2:01 PM PST - 3 comments

Is Eurail worth it? 5 train trips in Europe within 3 weeks.

I am traveling to Europe this upcoming May and I am stuck on whether it is best to use a Eurail pass or buy point-to-point tickets. I know which dates I want to travel and my accommodation is all pre-booked. Are point-to-point tickets always more cost effective? What are the advantages and disadvantages of each? [more inside]
posted by ageispolis at 1:52 PM PST - 16 comments

Need a job, almost any job will do

As I near my 3rd and final year of my postdoc grant, it has become time to fish or cut bait. But I'm horrible about making decisions, but yet, don't have time to do it all. Can you help me sort out my future employment plans? Part of this may involve simply assuring me that leaving academia is the way to go. Or not. [more inside]
posted by katers890 at 1:27 PM PST - 10 comments

huffleTUFF not hufflePUFF

My best friend in the entire world got me this adorable Harry Potter poster. I want to frame it. [more inside]
posted by spunweb at 12:51 PM PST - 9 comments

Waterproof Offset Printing?

How can I get waterproof offset printing for sheets of labels (not rolls, unless there's a good setup for running those rolls through a b&w laser printer)? My local printer doesn't seem to think they can do it. I can't imagine it being completely unavailable, but don't know where to start looking. [more inside]
posted by redsparkler at 12:48 PM PST - 7 comments

Great, accessible poetry to share with others?

For National Poetry Month last year, I posted a poem a day for a certain circle of friends on Facebook. This was really well-received, and I'd like to continue this year but used up a lot of my favorites last year. What specific poems can you suggest that a general but well-educated audience would appreciate on first (or, at most, second) read? [more inside]
posted by charmedimsure at 12:36 PM PST - 29 comments

Story within a story within a story within....

Is there a term for when readers/watchers are pushed into trying to figure out which is the "true" version of something fictional? For example, in Life of Pi when it's up to the reader to figure out which version of the story is "true" when we know that none of it is true at all because... it's fiction. Bonus: What are some other examples of this?
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 11:27 AM PST - 43 comments

Tabletop gaming in Italy?

My friend will be visiting Rome and Venice on her honeymoon in a few months. She loves the Italian card game Bang! and has joked that she expects to play it in Italy. Is there a way for me to actually make this happen for her? [more inside]
posted by Pwoink at 11:18 AM PST - 5 comments

Big Bad Jan

Saw a video of a Polish group covering 'Big Bad John,' by Jimmy Dean. But I can't find it. Anybody?
posted by LonnieK at 11:14 AM PST - 1 comment

Where can we see dinosaur fossils up close?

Specifically, this place: During Bill Nye's debate with creationist Ken Ham a few months back, in Bill's presentation he mentioned a fossilized dinosaur pit (area?) in Montana? Colorado?... (I know there's a bunch in both of those states). I have been racking my brain trying to find the image on Google from the slide he used but no combination of words or phrases looks familiar to me in the results. I would very much like to take my son and (soon to be) daughter to this place Bill Nye was talking about. Where in the sam hell is it?
posted by ThaBombShelterSmith at 11:05 AM PST - 15 comments

Is there good free software for a Wiki-like purpose?

My company is growing, and knowledge between hardware/software/science etc. is getting too dispersed. I want us to start keep it all together in a searchable and detailed Wiki. But Wikis are boring and too austere. Yammer was suggested to me, but it isn't cheap (18$/month/user), nor do I really know whether it's worth it. [more inside]
posted by namesarehard at 10:51 AM PST - 7 comments

Webcam Problem....Device Manager Sees it as a USB Video Device

Seriously if I knew this was the story - wouldn't have gotten a brand new webcam today. But so here it is - Livecam VX800 - uninstalled, reinstalled - and as a plug and play install for *New Hardware* (XP) is not recognizing it as a webcam - but as *USB Audio Device* Then when I check it in Device Manager under Imaging Devices, it's a *USB video device*. [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 10:23 AM PST - 9 comments

Fitbit becoming less accurate over time?

I have a Fitbit flex I've been wearing for about eight months now. In the past couple months I've started tracking my runs with the RunKeeper app, and when I compare that with the fitbit the flex is way off --- up to 20% off in distance. The weird part is, this seems to be a new thing --- when i first got the flex I compared it a few times with google maps of known distances, and I wasn't getting these huge discrepancies. I tried manually entering stride length in the fitbit settings, but doesn't seem to have helped. Any suggestions as to why this might be happening? Has anyone else noticed this with their flex? [more inside]
posted by Diablevert at 10:21 AM PST - 9 comments

Or I Could Just Tie a Sash Around a Hefty Bag and Call It a Day

The focus should be on the bride, NOT on the taffeta-covered hobo skulking around the cheese trays: please, PLEASE help me (a non-fancy-dressing lady) dress myself for the four weddings I'll be attending this year. (Sequins shaped like) snowflakes inside! [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew at 10:15 AM PST - 36 comments

Can I convert from LLC to S-Corp to avoid paying self-employment taxes?

Is it possible to convert my LLC to an S-Corp to avoid paying $10,000+ in 2013 self-employment taxes? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:14 AM PST - 10 comments

How to sign a check online, using iPad or iPhone?

The CEO of a small business that is one of my clients insists on "signing all the checks" – he likes to keep an eye on everything that is being purchased and all money that is being spent. The accounting department would like to help modernize the process, and he's on board with signing them online, using a touch screen device. (He wants to use his iPhone, he does have an iPad, too.) [more inside]
posted by visual mechanic at 10:14 AM PST - 3 comments

Legal MeFi, What exactly constitutes a crosswalk?

I am arguing with the city of Oakland about a parking ticket. The city thinks where I was parked constitutes a crosswalk. After going to an in-person hearing, it is clear that they are buffoons. The hearing officer had a complete misunderstanding of the law. So now I have to take them to small claims court. [more inside]
posted by cman at 9:52 AM PST - 14 comments

Help me not snake the drain every day

My shower has a flat drain cover that looks like this. I have a lot of hair that of course falls out when I take a shower. I wanted to get a hair catch for the drain to prevent clogs, but all the ones I can find at Home Depot have a little cup which won't work. Also, the drain cover doesn't appear to be easy to remove, as there are no screws on the top (I'm a renter, so I don't want to pry it off or anything). Do you have any ideas of what I can use instead (and how to attach it)? Some kind of mesh that would withstand daily showering?
posted by bluefly at 9:47 AM PST - 14 comments

BIOS not detecting laptop SSD, but Windows XP installer does?

After a hard drive failed me, I tried replacing with an SSD, but neither BIOS nor Ubuntu from a USB could detect it. But for some reason, an XP installation USB could detect it, but said it was corrupt. Any ideas on what to try next? [more inside]
posted by SouthCNorthNY at 8:58 AM PST - 1 comment

What are the some tells of home improvement amateurs?

Home improvement professionals and those with a critical eye for detail: what are the 'tells' of DIY home improvement? What separates amateur work from professional work? [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 8:58 AM PST - 22 comments

Should I give a bad recommendation?

A service company (an ISP who has crossed into communications) has asked if a potential client of theirs, with a similar configuration to our company, can contact me for a review of the ISP's phone service in contemplation of using the ISP for their phones. However, the equipment is terrible, there are voice quality and tech support issues, and their backend is woefully unprepared to deal with an organization that is geographically distributed (which is one of the similarities they will be asking about). Should I decline or give the people my honest opinion? [more inside]
posted by dozo at 8:56 AM PST - 14 comments

What are considered "normal" results for a glucose tolerance test?

I am having trouble getting in with my doctor to review my results, so I'm looking for some initial info to see if it is worth pursuing. I had a glucose tolerance test done because of some symptoms that I'm having. I realize that these results aren't indicative of diabetes because they dip, but they do seem low (though I'm no doctor). Test 1: 95 Test 2: 85 Test 3: 55 Any idea whether I should be trying to schedule with my doctor? I live in a rural area, so it takes quite a trip for me to visit with the doctor.
posted by denverco at 8:34 AM PST - 7 comments

Smartphone upgrade: Android, iPhone 5c and a Sony Smartwatch

I have an original Droid with a slide-out keyboard with Verizon, and I'm looking to upgrade. I also have a Sony Smartwatch, first edition. I've been looking at iPhones longingly for a while, and Verizon had a deal on the iPhone 5c that expired yesterday, so without much thought, I ordered one. It's on backorder, and I have 14 days to try it and return it without penalty, and I'm only now doing proper research on my options. So here I am, looking for insight and input. [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 8:25 AM PST - 3 comments

Where can I buy Coors Banquet Beer in NYC?

After trying Coors Banquet Beer purchased at a grocery store in Colorado, I have a strange and growing craving to drink this supremely yeasty beverage again. However, I'm having trouble locating it (tried Fairway UES and Whole Foods Union Square so far). I checked the Coors website locator, but it gives me locations that sell ALL kinds of Coors, which is not helpful. Have you seen this beer? Help! [more inside]
posted by xiaolongbao at 8:11 AM PST - 14 comments

drought down under

For some time now, I have been having increasing problems with vaginal and vulvar irritation and dryness. Anyone have any idea what this could be? I know YANMD and I should call mine, but I do all my gyno stuff through Planned Parenthood (I do have good insurance but I like them and I'm relatively comfortable there). They are closed for a couple of days, and will probably not be able to get me in for a couple of weeks. Many distracting and unpleasant details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:46 AM PST - 5 comments

How to be there for someone from far away

How do I write a letter of condolence to my best friend whose dad passed away when it is the only way I have of contacting him? [more inside]
posted by holmesian at 7:42 AM PST - 9 comments

Where should I go on vacation in May?

My friend and I want to go on vacation in late May, somewhere in the US. No relaxing and lying around by a body of water. No touristy stuff. Where should we go? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 7:31 AM PST - 19 comments

Where in the world is my clubhouse?

I need to know the name of the street that this building (the big one in the center of the map, with the pool) is on. The number on the door is 1659, but there is no street sign, and neither google nor mapquest show the street name. (Actually, Mapquest doesn't even show the street). "What's here" in google maps gives 201-203 Mohegan Dr, which is close but not correct. Any ideas?
posted by ubiquity at 7:16 AM PST - 7 comments

General vs local anaesthesia

Why give general instead of local anaesthesia for minor knee surgery? [more inside]
posted by lollymccatburglar at 7:00 AM PST - 13 comments

Dermatology Physician's Assistant - just as good as the doctor?

Is it reasonable to see a PA (Physician's Assistant) for your first dermatology exam for medical (not cosmetic) reasons? Or should I insist on the actual doctor? [more inside]
posted by CathyG at 6:50 AM PST - 12 comments

nyc speeding ticket - should I fight it?

Hello - just got a speeding ticket in manhattan (44 in a 30 zone). *I haven't had a ticket or violation of any kind in over 5 years (actually over 10 years). *honestly I was just passing an erratically driving bozo in front of me *it came out to $200, ouch. (plus probably 12% increase in insurance, which would come out to $80 to $100 per year). Ouch. Is this worth fighting? I'd wind up in tvb-land (harlem dmv office on 125th, i'm pretty sure). The cop got me on radar. I know it sounds like a lost cause - but would my spectacularly safe previous driving record, and that I was just passing a guy, help me at all? Is it worth trying? Whats your experience? Could I negotiate down to a non-moving violation based on the above? I've read elsewhere that having a clean previous record as I do can help? thanks for any advice.
posted by jak68 at 6:43 AM PST - 6 comments

How can I apply for a different position internally?

I work in web development at my day job. Traditionally, I have done a combination of back-end and front-end work, leaning more toward front-end work, but I have a CS/math background, so I have gotten quite good at JavaScript and building interactive clients. Now I feel like I've hit a wall where I need to move down the stack in order to be happy at work. [more inside]
posted by deathpanels at 6:04 AM PST - 8 comments

Is my bike likely to get stolen?

I just got a job close enough to my home in Toronto that I can ride my bike to it. Yay! But is it likely to get stolen? [more inside]
posted by The Card Cheat at 5:59 AM PST - 13 comments

Notch, you owe me a day's worth of Minecraft.

For the love of god, how do you turn off the April Fool's prank? Not getting any help from the forums or the mods at mojang.com.
posted by bricoleur at 5:39 AM PST - 10 comments

Are we back in high school, srsly

Dated a guy briefly, broke it off, and now things are awkward turtle when I want them to be fun and friendly. Is this a foolish hope? [more inside]
posted by cucumber patch at 5:37 AM PST - 17 comments

Retail Mefis - what is the best way to handle cash?

I am owner of a new retail business (coffee shop, if you see past posts) shortly to launch. We anticipate handling a fairly large amount of cash each day. It seems sensible to me that I get staff to do regular banking when I am not at the business. [more inside]
posted by bystander at 5:31 AM PST - 15 comments

Reference check prior to interview?!

An employer contacted my references today (it is a condition of the application that you list your references up front). I haven't been advised of an interview. The first catch is that this is an old employer who I used to temp for. I know that manager thinks highly of me. [more inside]
posted by glache at 5:16 AM PST - 8 comments

What game jam games are the jam?

What are some examples of high quality, fun, innovative, genre bending [video]games that have been the direct end result of a game jam/hackathon? Please specify the title as well as the platform. [more inside]
posted by oceanjesse at 5:03 AM PST - 4 comments

Appease the hunger monster

It's 5am, and I'm up because I'm hungry. [more inside]
posted by so much modern time at 5:01 AM PST - 24 comments

Can Lithium make you irritable?

Is the lithium making me a total crab ass 24/7? [more inside]
posted by stormpooper at 4:49 AM PST - 7 comments

Management: Harder than expected.

So, I manage a business. I’ve had general management experience in the past, but it didn’t translate particularly well to this job. I feel like I’m in over my head and need advice. [more inside]
posted by quincunx at 1:42 AM PST - 10 comments

Being a good aunt to kids whose parents are divorcing

How can I be a good aunt to my 13-y-o niece and 14-y-o nephew as their parents split? I want to be someone they can use during this transition. [more inside]
posted by goofyfoot at 1:18 AM PST - 7 comments

Cut on lip, what wound care?

Late night medical advice needed: my lovely cat nearly fell off the bed, and caught herself using my face. My lip, specifically. I've got a v shaped cut 4-5 mm long on one side and 2mm short side and it's somewhere around 2 - 3 mm deep. Clean and bandage? Go to emergency room? Regular doctor in the morning? [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 1:05 AM PST - 14 comments

Best translation of the d'Artagnan Romances?

I want to reread the d'Artagnan romances (Three Musketeers, 20 Years After, and The Vicomte de Bragelonne). I'm currently a bit overwhelmed with the options and opinions on translations and versions, so I turn to you, AskMeFi, for the answer. [more inside]
posted by HSWilson at 12:04 AM PST - 1 comment