March 2015 Archives

March 31

Crash course in Classics

What are some must-know names and works in current Greco-Roman classical studies scholarship? What are some hot topics, trends, new directions in the field? [more inside]
posted by zeri at 9:20 PM PST - 4 comments

Recommendations for door bell cameras/intercoms

My mother and I live in the same house. She is on the main floor and me and my family are on the top two floors. When the doorbell rings we want to know who is there so that the right person can answer the door. How do we make this happen?
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 9:16 PM PST - 9 comments

What's a comfortable recliner for a tall person?

I would like to relax, read, and watch movies in a nice chair, rather than my bed. I'm looking for a reclining armchair with lower-back support that's sized for somebody who's 6'1". [more inside]
posted by Renegade Duck at 8:57 PM PST - 8 comments

Got accepted to a confrence in Kraków, add some vacation...now what?

I've been accepted to a conference in Kraków, Poland in the first week of July. I've decided to add some vacation on the end. However, I've never travelled outside North America before, and am not really sure how to go about getting started. Plane tickets, insurance, route planning, picking where to go, eep! [more inside]
posted by Canageek at 8:51 PM PST - 16 comments

Competing funding offers: How do they work?

Despite being an assistant professor, I do not understand the logistics of graduate students playing competing funding offers against each other. I know it happens but what is "the right thing to say"? A good friend asked me about this and I realized I was not so savvy as a grad student. What does one say? Whom does one ask? Does this really work? Is it worth trying?
posted by k8t at 8:03 PM PST - 15 comments

Post-Industrial Songs (Not that kind)

No, I don't want to know what Nurse With Wound is doing lately. I want to hear more songs about the death of industries. The more specific, the better. [more inside]
posted by neroli at 7:43 PM PST - 45 comments

please help me sort out my disobedient hair

#vanityfilter This is one of life's dumber concerns and I'm embarrassed to be asking it but it's driving me crazy. A small part of my hair won't go the way I want it to. It compromises my appearance greatly, which is the last thing I need. I would love if someone could tell me how to make it sit right. [more inside]
posted by beccyjoe at 7:34 PM PST - 12 comments

What's wrong with this burner on my stove?

One of the burners on my stove has started burning very differently from the others. Here's a pic for comparison: http://i.imgur.com/fWFpEOy.jpg. The low, all-blue flame in the background is set to the same point on the knob as the wild, yellow flame in the foreground. Why is it doing that? [more inside]
posted by paul_smatatoes at 6:55 PM PST - 10 comments

Hyperion -- Is there a FAQ?

Hyperion and The Fall of Hyperion are really one story, split into two books. I enjoyed them, but I've never read any books that just left me with so many unanswered questions. If I had the time and inclination, I literally feel like I could sit down with a pen and notepad, re-reading the series and writing questions the whole time. If you've read and/or love the books (and I assume there are a lot of you), would you mind helping me out a bit? Questions below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Alaska Jack at 6:40 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me identify this painting/print

I'm trying to identify this painting/print that I have seen on several design blogs. This example is at the Marlton Hotel in Greenwich Village.
posted by Frank Grimes at 6:33 PM PST - 5 comments

Rent controlled apartment upgrades?

Rent controlled apartment that needs paint, new carpet, etc. He doesn't want to move because the location is good. Can he ask the landlord to upgrade? Should he offer to split it? [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 5:26 PM PST - 8 comments

Ex is getting the house, need legal help in Denver, Colorado

My ex and I are trying to figure out how to transfer the house to her without me losing all of my equity. Unfortunately, she can't afford to just buy me out, and can't qualify for a new mortgage on the remaining loan balance if she's got a loan to me as well. I'm looking for recommendations on finding a lawyer to help vet a legal agreement, and any specific legal methods for making this happen. This is in Denver, Colorado. [more inside]
posted by hackwolf at 5:02 PM PST - 11 comments

Whatchu gonna do with all that junk, all that junk inside your fridge?

I made some really delicious tacos, but I have a lot of crema mexicana and queso fresco left over in proportion to the other ingredients. How can I creatively use the extra crema mexicana and queso fresco to make stuff that won't be too similar to the tacos I will have been eating all week?
posted by capricorn at 4:41 PM PST - 14 comments

Renting a Production Studio in NYC

I need to rent a sound stage for a live broadcast in NYC in the next few months. Is there a common resource for finding quality production houses online? [more inside]
posted by shmegegge at 4:11 PM PST - 3 comments

How do I know if I'm actually short of breath, or if it's psychosomatic?

Back in the 1990s I had a lot of actual health problems mixed with some stuff that was probably psychosomatic. I had bad allergies and many episodes of shortness of breath, but while the allergies were real my doctors never figured out what the shortness of breath was about. Now my allergies are acting up, and after weeks of me worrying the shortness of breath would come back too, here it is. How can you tell if you are experiencing actual, allergy-related shortness of breath, or just having a panic attack about the possibility? [more inside]
posted by Ursula Hitler at 3:52 PM PST - 23 comments

No one really cares about a dying rat...

My friend in Jamaica Plain, MA, has a suffering rat in his driveway. He can't get in touch with anyone who will come take care of it. Animal control isn't answering the phone, and the Angell Memorial (nearby animal hospital) said they won't euthanize it for him. Does anyone know who he can call to come put this creature out of its misery? [more inside]
posted by désoeuvrée at 2:55 PM PST - 39 comments

Long Lost Stepmother Found. What's the right thing to do?

Dear Metafilter, I need your advice. Over 30 years ago, I was one of three children who lost touch with our stepmother. Recently, I found her, but I haven't gotten in touch. One of my two sisters wants me to help get in touch, but I'm not sure if we should. I'm concerned about violating her privacy since she may have reasons for not having gotten in touch with us. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:24 PM PST - 15 comments

Does yeast mate during alcohol fermentation?

I've learned a bunch about the mating life of S. cerevisiae and about alcohol fermentation, but I haven't found a definitive answer to one question: Does yeast mate during alcohol fermentation? More than usual? Less than usual? Not at all? If it does, does that mean that a-factor and α-factor are present in beer and wine?
posted by clawsoon at 2:21 PM PST - 10 comments

Is the crack in our rental house's foundation an issue?

I recently discovered a large crack in the foundation of our rental home. We have specific rights (and limitations to our rights) as at-will tenants. What should we do? [more inside]
posted by Miss T.Horn at 2:12 PM PST - 9 comments

what products can I get OTC in Europe that require a RX in the U.S.

What products can I get over the counter (OTC) in Europe that require a prescription in the U.S.?
posted by arnicae at 2:05 PM PST - 13 comments

Intermediate level multi-day guided hiking/camping in Hawaii?

I'm a fairly experienced hiker who would like to explore Hawaii on foot. [more inside]
posted by Captain Chesapeake at 1:46 PM PST - 5 comments

Selling a phone for the first time

Due to some changes in my wireless plan I have a basically new Samsung Galaxy Five that I need to sell, which is a Verizon phone. I tried an ad on Craigslist and got 0 hits. If you've sold a phone in similar circumstances before, what do you recommend for success? [more inside]
posted by codacorolla at 1:36 PM PST - 13 comments

Prepaid sim with global roaming and cheap data?

I'll be travelling from the US to Israel, Prague, and Germany in late May, and I'm researching my options for getting phone and data connectivity in all three places (and possibly in the Netherlands as well). [more inside]
posted by montag2k at 12:36 PM PST - 5 comments

Is this a baby rat or mouse or something else?

My friend found this in his kitchen today, but not sure if this is a baby mouse or a baby rat? Can anyone help?
posted by butterball at 12:34 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me lova my pavlova

Help me make the very best, most marshmallow-y on the inside pavola ever! [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 11:17 AM PST - 13 comments

Help me read the world

How can I read more about life in countries other than the USA? [more inside]
posted by kristi at 10:41 AM PST - 21 comments

New House - decommission old oil tank or let it be?

We're in contract on a 1940 house in Seattle, Washington, USA, and the inspector said there used to be oil heat. There's no visible sign of a tank, and no records of a tank being decommissioned (city records for decommissioning or removal of old tanks only go back to 1997). We're trying to decide if it's worth looking for the tank and having it decommissioned if one is found, or if it's OK to just leave it be. [more inside]
posted by matildaben at 10:08 AM PST - 32 comments

Positive experiences trying to conceive after 40?

If you have naturally conceived and carried a pregnancy to term in your 40s, or know someone who has, please share your experience with me. [more inside]
posted by mysterious_stranger at 9:47 AM PST - 49 comments

Programming Pop-Up Text in an iPhone App

I'm hoping to create an iPhone app that's a travel guide whose text pages will include some foreign terms. Users should be able to touch a foreign term to see a pop-up phonetic pronunciation. But the programmers I'm considering hiring say they're not sure how to do this, and suspect it might be expensive. Can anyone smart save the day and come up with a solution? [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 9:03 AM PST - 10 comments

Emergency VOIP Service with no monthly charge

I have been asked to set up an emergency VOIP "phone" at my house. What's the best hardware/service combo for this? [more inside]
posted by selfnoise at 9:02 AM PST - 16 comments

How do I keep iphone call records for longer?

i'd like to keep a record of phone calls received - my iPhone does this, but only for the most recent two months. Can I export these somewhere or extend the time they're kept for? To clarify, I don't want to audiorecord the actual call, just keep a list of who called me and when. [more inside]
posted by tinkletown at 8:52 AM PST - 9 comments

What do project managers do?

Oh, right -- they manage projects. So, um... how do they do that? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 8:41 AM PST - 24 comments

Just get it out of my garage, please.

Divers - why is it so difficult to sell used dive gear? And where/how is the best way to do so? [more inside]
posted by vignettist at 8:35 AM PST - 11 comments

Best Countries / Cities / Areas for Free-Range Kids

What are the best countries / cities / areas for raising free-range kids? We're currently in New England, USA, and contemplating a move after this disastrous, isolating Winter. I'm allowed to live in the US and EU, work in Software, and want to raise my kids in a place that has tolerable Winters and doesn't frown on / is safe for free range kids. Any and all ideas considered, but the best ones will consider employment, climate and local culture. [more inside]
posted by grubby at 7:56 AM PST - 27 comments

I want interesting, geometric silver jewelry. What designers do this?

I'm getting interesting in buying some silver jewelry. I like things that are geometric, sharp, clean or 'weird'. I also have tiny, wee hands (ring size 4.0 in the US system, according to a recent measurement during occupational therapy), so any rings would need to be actually resizable. Where do you go for your geometric silver jewelry?
posted by flibbertigibbet at 7:55 AM PST - 9 comments

How much do YOU wanna give me? (And what can I do while I'm there?)

A company is wanting to commission me for a project at a major sporting event. Obviously I want to make some money doing it, but I don't want to ask for too much and thereby lose my chances, as hopefully this would be something ongoing. Help me figure out how much I should ask for...and what I can do while I'm there. Deets within! [more inside]
posted by ditto75 at 7:39 AM PST - 7 comments

Coordinating a team: difficulty medium

Give me tips for managing a team that I do not supervise. [more inside]
posted by geegollygosh at 7:13 AM PST - 5 comments

Professional C-Print lab in Europe?

I'm an NYC-based photographer who has been asked about sending a print to Norway. My regular printer doesn't offer this option and USPS will cost perhaps $40 (I didn't check yet, just spitballing), so I was thinking that I might find a good lab there and send along my digital file, hopefully saving the client some cash in the process? I'm looking for a great lab that offers C-Prints at 16x20 and larger, and specifically 30x40. My ideal paper is Kodak Professional Endura Metallic, and my ideal language is English, though I could swing some common Romance languages in a pinch, maybe with Google Translate. [more inside]
posted by nevercalm at 7:01 AM PST - 4 comments

What are the most innovative things retailers are doing with mobile?

I'm trying to find the best, most interesting, perhaps most unusual things retailers are doing with reaching out to mobile phone users. [more inside]
posted by jbickers at 6:59 AM PST - 7 comments

Bedazzle my advocacy resume, lexicon and (potential ) interview skills.

Today a casual social chat on the phone with an acquaintance had her asking me what kind of work I was looking for. I had mentioned that I wanted to do advocacy work as I believed it was something I was very good at and would enjoy doing. She then asked me what kind of advocacy and I said I wasn't really focused on any one type but supporting the voices of marginalised people was something I was passionate about. I was really just chattering on... then she told me she'd like to see my resume. Oops. [more inside]
posted by taff at 6:00 AM PST - 1 comment

When you do thorough "spring cleaning," what do you clean?

When you do an extra thorough periodic clean, what do you clean that you don't routinely tackle? [more inside]
posted by semacd at 3:54 AM PST - 27 comments

Can I get images onto Tumblr without Tumblr hosting them?

IT are blocking images from Tumblr, and when I post them as links to images hosted on our server, Tumblr uploads them and hosts them anyway. Can I get round this? [more inside]
posted by greenish at 3:31 AM PST - 7 comments

what are these marks in my palm?

These marks or similar appear in my right palm from time to time. They are mildly painful, and eventually fade away, but nothing makes them improve or go away. YANMD, but - does this look at all familiar? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:01 AM PST - 15 comments

Kidney Stone Advice

YANMD, but I need some advice to help plan my week around work. I'm a significantly overweight male in my 30's. After having an intense bout of kidney stone pain a couple of weeks ago, I was diagnosed with an 8 mm staghorn kidney stone. I had a ureteral stent put in and subsequently had external shockwave lithotripsy. On x-ray, I still have a stone, but it's only 5 mm and round now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:01 AM PST - 5 comments

I'm having trouble deciphering my friend's new behavior toward me

I was going through a tough time with some family members, and one day it became too much to handle. I cried in front of this guy I'll call him C, who is the leader of this meetup group I'm in. He's two years older than me. We've been casual friends for a few years, but I've had the biggest secret crush on him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:00 AM PST - 15 comments

Portland Oregon car squatter woes.

I live around 20th and Division and there is a mentally disturbed person living in their car. For about the last month I have woken up to them screaming crazy stuff. I actually thought they lived around us so I shrugged it off. [more inside]
posted by johnpowell at 2:16 AM PST - 22 comments

My mom is lonely and alone. Can I offer healthy support with boundaries?

I recently posted my current situation here. I'm still struggling with a longstanding issue: My mom's undiagnosed (notwithstanding a brief stint on anti-depressants 15 years ago following her divorce) possible depression. About once or twice a year I find myself with her while she sobs uncontrollably and talks about how lonely and alone she feels as she ages. These are all valid feelings and fears, but everytime I bring up seeing a counsellor to help her get her life back on track, giver her tools to cope, filter out the negative energy in her life (such as her codependent relationship with her 29 y/o son), she refuses to admit there is a problem. [more inside]
posted by stumblingthroughitall at 1:12 AM PST - 12 comments

March 30

Great fiction in online game form

I'm looking for some short, easy, free, browser-based online games to play-- ideally ones that approximate narrative fiction in some way (well-defined plotline, focused exploration of a particular theme, etc.). The two I've got so far are One Chance and Every Day the Same Dream. What else should I be trying? [more inside]
posted by yersinia at 10:59 PM PST - 5 comments

Am I being supporting or sacrificial? Taking things back a step

My boyfriend (just turned 30, and I'm 24) of nearly 7 months is very recently divorced (it was finalized 4 months ago and they have been separated for 9). He's the most open and communicative person I've ever met and keeps me as much in the loop as I need to be about where he's at and how he's feeling regarding his loss (but also keeps some details to himself that I probably don't really need to know about.) Our relationship started out very mutual and enthusiastic, and mostly still is but he's taking a few steps back to analyze himself and it's triggering my relationship anxiety. I don't know whether to trust my gut or quiet the fear. [more inside]
posted by korrasamus at 10:29 PM PST - 26 comments

Help Me Find My Imaginary Book

Looking for a book that gives a detailed description of a famous person's psychoanalytic treatment. [more inside]
posted by Hennimore at 8:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Bamboo iPad Mini 3 Cases?

Just bought an iPad mini, but finding the right case is proving to be a challenge. [more inside]
posted by the artless dodger at 7:39 PM PST - 2 comments

Ulyssses-Filter: Trying to come to grips with Circe

I belong to a Ulysses (James Joyce) book club, we do a chapter a month. We've been doing very well. But now we're at Circe, the chapter that's part random hallucination, part stage play, part ????. What I'm finding though is that the writing is not as brilliant as the earlier chapters, and the randomness seems pointless when it goes on for so many pages. Am I missing something? Do you know of an analysis that brings out the rewards of this chapter? Also if Circe is your favorite chapter, tell me why! [more inside]
posted by storybored at 7:15 PM PST - 13 comments

Put my mind and teeth at ease, please

You know all those Sensodyne commercials featuring dentists that claim our teeth are being dissolved by everything we eat? Is acid erosion a real thing to be concerned about or is that just really effective (for me) scaremongering to sell product? [more inside]
posted by cecic at 7:03 PM PST - 9 comments

A succinct enunciation of Star Trek' 'Prime Directive'

I need a piece of material for a classroom exercise which involves some succinct explanation of the 'prime directive' in the Star Trek franchise (with which I'm very unfamiliar). Ideally it would be Kirk explaining it interestingly and theatrically, but any bit of video or text, that I could show or read to my class, would be useful.
posted by Fiasco da Gama at 6:38 PM PST - 13 comments

Mapping for road trips for groups

Husband, son and I will all be embarking on an adventure soon across the US. Our dogs will be joining us in their own grand quest to mark everything we see. Assume for this we have no deadline, no end date, no....scary pressure hanging over our head. We have some general ideas of what we want to see, but we need a way to start marking up route possibilities, and sharing them with each other (well, the dogs don't care much - if there are national monuments of dog parks, they have no idea about them). The problem is finding the right tool/app to do this. [more inside]
posted by routergirl at 6:29 PM PST - 15 comments

Lgsil with negative colposcopy and biopsy

This is my situation- had ascus and hpv negative 4 years ago, then 3 years ago was all normal now I have lgsil and they did a biopsy which was negative. They did not find anything in the colpo or biopsy. Now they tell me to redo the pap in 6 months. Has anyone experienced that- bad pap but normal biopsy and have to retest in 6 months? What is your experience? I am kind of scared cause I am wondering what is wrong with me
posted by barexamfreak at 5:56 PM PST - 7 comments

Witty engineers with an interest in climate science?

Seeking learned suggestions/contributions for slightly messed up anti-climate-trolling mother/daughter project. [more inside]
posted by 8k at 5:28 PM PST - 13 comments

Ow! My boobs!

I'm 36 years old and had my Mirena removed almost a year ago. Since then, my hormones appear to be losing their tiny little hormonal minds. [more inside]
posted by altopower at 5:22 PM PST - 11 comments

Would you rather...?

I'm not sure which I would rather as far as living situations, so I would like to gather opinions on it. [more inside]
posted by buttonedup at 5:04 PM PST - 24 comments

How to evaluate prospective tenants?

I own an apartment in New York City, which I need to rent out. I found tenants who seem to be lovely people, but I'm struggling to decide whether or not to be concerned about their finances. [more inside]
posted by amandabee at 4:59 PM PST - 25 comments

Climbing Olympus Mons

Based on what we currently know from satellite imagery, would summiting Olympus Mons be likely to require technical climbing skills, or would it just be a long, long walk up?
posted by chimpsonfilm at 4:36 PM PST - 8 comments

Lean, athletic women: what do you eat?

You are a lean, female athlete. Take me through your breakfast, lunch and dinner. Take me through your snacks. If you use supplements and/or protein powders, those too. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 4:01 PM PST - 30 comments

What manipulative puzzles should i have in my lobby?

I have a clinic. Rather than magazines, I have mechanical/manipulative puzzles in the lobby. I was wondering if anyone could recommend any I was not familiar with. [more inside]
posted by Infernarl at 3:42 PM PST - 16 comments

Online Therapy Recommendations

I need a time flexible online therapy/therapist reommendation. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:06 PM PST - 1 comment

Need source of store-level sales quantities of specific produce items

I want to find out the volume of specific produce items (e.g. baby lettuce, arugula, basil, vine tomatoes) sold at typical grocery stores. For example, how many pounds of baby spring mix are sold over the course of a month at the average Whole Foods or the average Trader Joe's? How many pounds of basil? Can anyone point me to a source of data that I can extrapolate from? Detailed information on a single store would be helpful just to get a ballpark figure for specific produce items. Is it 500 lbs a month? 5,000 lbs? I'm more interested in total weight than dollar figures, but I'll take either. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:05 PM PST - 5 comments

Known good copy of Windows + cheap Chinese 8" tablet?

I have a Teclast x80h tablet (based on x86 hardware) that is running a Windows 8.1 build that the OEM installed. I'd like to reinstall Windows using media downloaded from Microsoft (or similar known-good channels), preferably without buying a new license. Is this possible? [more inside]
posted by toxic at 2:43 PM PST - 3 comments

enabling aural imagination

Sometimes - rarely - when I am nearly asleep, I get into a state where I can imagine music as vividly as hearing it in reality. Not just playing back memories, but inventing new music with full orchestration. As soon as I become too aware and awake, the skill fades away, and I can barely remember details of the music. Have you had similar experiences? Any suggestions on how to cultivate this skill and make it more reliable and accessible to memory?
posted by moonmilk at 1:41 PM PST - 13 comments

Music to slow down by

I am the kind of person who taps their foot impatiently for 28 of the 30 seconds that the microwave is running. Help me find music to slow down/calm down by. [more inside]
posted by Michele in California at 1:29 PM PST - 20 comments

ME AM WANT KNOW FISHING

What's a good, straightforward book that will teach me how to fish in various environments and for different fish? [more inside]
posted by cmoj at 1:28 PM PST - 5 comments

What is the equivalent of "public interest law" in the UK?

I'm an American lawyer, now living in London. In the US, I know what it means to be a "public interest lawyer." But I'm having a hard time seeing how it translates in the UK. [more inside]
posted by EtTuHealy at 1:24 PM PST - 7 comments

Insole analysis paralysis!

When I go hiking, the arches of my feet get pretty tired about four or five miles in. How do I select the right insoles to stop this from happening? [more inside]
posted by Blue Jello Elf at 12:57 PM PST - 6 comments

Getting to know Mark Twain: What are the best resources?

I'm working on a project that involves Mark Twain and I have only a few weeks to get to know his body of work, literary style, philosophy, etc. What are they key works I should be looking at to get a sense of Twain? [more inside]
posted by hamsterdam at 12:37 PM PST - 8 comments

How can I get my Apple TV + speakers to play nice with regular TV?

I'm an Apple shareholder's dream, and it's rare that I step outside the Apple ecosystem. Shockingly, on occasion Apple fails to meet all my needs and I want to watch a DVD or a channel not available on Apple TV--but when I switch to regular TV, I also get switched back to the weak TV speakers. [more inside]
posted by mjm101 at 12:34 PM PST - 9 comments

Next iPhone game for a Monument Valley lover

I just got an iPhone 6, and I am obsessed with Monument Valley. What else should I be playing? [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 12:31 PM PST - 12 comments

On Reinvention

I've been asked to talk with some folks about reinvention. It’s not geared toward any specific context (e.g. career, relationship, location, etc.) but more generally about the idea of reinvention - a conceptual approach to the topic. I'm not finding any great writing/thinking on the concept of reinvention. Help? [more inside]
posted by ericc at 12:29 PM PST - 5 comments

I’m Not Sure What My Job Is

I’m looking at moving on from my current job and when creating my resume I realized that I’m not sure how to describe some of what I do. I'm wondering if some of my job involves tasks in an area that has some sort of professional type name of it’s own. On paper, I'm really not sure how to relate what I do and can do in a way that puts the best of 'me the awesome worker' forward. [more inside]
posted by Jalliah at 12:28 PM PST - 8 comments

How can I best prepare my red-headed daughter?

My daughter (almost 3 years old) has curly red hair. People constantly make a big deal about it. Is this kind of constant attention and fawning over this part of her something we should be concerned about? I am curious if any other people with red and curly hair can comment on the attention they receive, cumulative effects, and what perhaps any things we as parents can do or look out for? [more inside]
posted by Theta States at 12:18 PM PST - 40 comments

Please help find: SF story involving the Fates, laser, difficult terrain

I told a friend about a SF story I'd read, but I can't find the title and author. the plot: a person working for a satellite company is mapping Greece, and comes up with the idea of following the most difficult route at any given point. [more inside]
posted by librosegretti at 11:20 AM PST - 3 comments

Chimera records

I'm looking for good albums of any genre with a well-considered mixture of vocal songs and instrumentals. [more inside]
posted by theodolite at 11:01 AM PST - 11 comments

It's not Pigs Don't Fly (YA novel question time)

Looking for the title of a YA novel, involving alternative dimensions, pigs flying, and improbability storms. [more inside]
posted by zabuni at 10:46 AM PST - 3 comments

Need reccomendations for small business ISPs in Midtown Manhattan

I'm tasked with changing our ISP and wondered if you have insight... [more inside]
posted by shesbenevolent at 10:24 AM PST - 3 comments

Book recommendations for raising chickens

My mom is interested in raising a few chickens and I'd like to send her a few books. Any good recommendations? [more inside]
posted by barchan at 10:14 AM PST - 12 comments

Please help me understand social justice rhetoric!

I recently saw an interview with a musician where he said that his impetus for starting a monthly party was the desire to give voice to minority groups -- that is, non-white, non-straight, non-cis-gender-identifying producers and DJs. He was not saying this in a fetishistic way, and he himself is a white non-straight male. (More inside.) [more inside]
posted by Cpt. The Mango at 10:10 AM PST - 30 comments

Fixing credit without screwing creditors?

Pretty much what it says in the title. I need to pay debt. I need to increase my credit score. How do I do both simultaneously? [more inside]
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess at 10:07 AM PST - 15 comments

Fast moving, clean western novels

What are your recommendations for clean, fast moving, western novels? [more inside]
posted by luvmywife at 9:54 AM PST - 11 comments

Las Vegas Airport - shuttle or taxi?

My husband and I will be arriving in Vegas on different days and then leaving on the same day but several hours apart. We are staying at Mandalay Bay, so how should we each get to and from our hotel? [more inside]
posted by soelo at 9:52 AM PST - 15 comments

Water physics

Earlier today I was warming up a test tube in chem lab by placing its bottom in a warm stream of water from a faucet and I noticed something peculiar; the stream of water seemed to capture the test tube and hold it in place. [more inside]
posted by aldurtregi at 9:35 AM PST - 4 comments

Long Scale Timelapse Tips

I have a terrific view from my office of the construction site of a giant building. I think a timelapse video of that view for the next 18 months would be very compelling. I have a Canon 30d and lens, and a decent PC with network connectivity, that I can dedicate to this project more or less permanently. I will build a dark "hood" around the camera to keep office reflections and glare down. I have a power supply dingus on order, and once I have the camera in place I'll put some sand bags on and around it to try to keep it as still as possible. What else is there? [more inside]
posted by dirtdirt at 9:14 AM PST - 6 comments

Cost estimate for gas, etc. for cross-country household move?

Could you help me estimate the cost - in gas and other trip-related expenses - to transport the contents of our household (about 8000 lbs) about 4800 km (3000 miles) across Canada (Edmonton to Halifax), in a 22 ft truck, on a route that will go through the United States (TransCanada Highway / I-94)? [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 8:57 AM PST - 12 comments

I need perspective on the dread I feel about how short life is.

Can you set me straight about the urge I get to control my husband's eating and exercise habits? [more inside]
posted by Tarumba at 8:56 AM PST - 31 comments

How do I decide how much money to spend on convenience?

Since getting a high-paying job, I've discovered that paying for convenience or wants instead of needs actually makes me feel bad. I'd like to get around that. [more inside]
posted by Questolicious at 8:54 AM PST - 40 comments

Windows on a Mac

What's the cheapest way to get Windows working on a Mac? [more inside]
posted by salmacis at 8:52 AM PST - 14 comments

401K(ickass)

My employer is selecting a new financial adviser to run our 401K and I get to serve on the interview committee. My primary objective is to make sure that whoever we select offers a good variety of index funds to choose from (our current 401K offers none and I've been nudging HR about this for a while). But I'm wondering if there are other questions I should be asking too. Each firm being considered already is answering questions about fees, reporting, general investment advice. Any thoughts?
posted by brookeb at 8:36 AM PST - 7 comments

Unexplored science topics?

What science topics remain to be explored, that an amateur scientist could do research/experiments and be the first person to look at it? [more inside]
posted by lemonade at 8:33 AM PST - 7 comments

YouTube > MP3 securely and reliably?

Now that the Youtube MP3 Podcaster Firefox plug-in can no longer be used to generate MP3s, what are some secure, reliable replacements? I'd prefer a plug-in to a web service, but am open to any good solution.
posted by ryanshepard at 7:30 AM PST - 5 comments

Safe to eat sous vide pork shoulder after power outage?

Cooking a pork shoulder sous vide, but had a power outage last night that killed the heater/circulator... [more inside]
posted by griffey at 7:22 AM PST - 10 comments

Ideas for repairing a damaged friendship

How do I make up with a friend over a third party situation involving an animal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:21 AM PST - 29 comments

Help for the fearful-avoidant adult.

I seem to be Fearful-avoidant according to attachment theory in adults. Please help me learn more about this way of dealing with people. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:21 AM PST - 8 comments

What should I keep in mind as I update my web site?

I'm an artist and I haven't updated my web site in about 7 years. I have a lot of content and I want to make sure it's easy to access and understand, and compliant with modern web standards. Is there anything I absolutely positively MUST do/not do? [more inside]
posted by overeducated_alligator at 6:51 AM PST - 16 comments

Possible misdiagnosis, paralysis - second opinion in the US?

I have a friend (living in the US) who's been affected by a puzzling case of right-body paralysis out of nowhere. 4 months into physical therapy, I'm afraid she's been misdiagnosed and we both want to fight for second opinion. How can it be done? [more inside]
posted by 9080 at 6:41 AM PST - 6 comments

Name That Book: Sci-fi - shoots arrows to build faraday cage

I'm struggling to remember the name of a book I read from a school library around 1995. I remember very little other than towards the end of the story the hero was fighting some sort of machine or robot. He used a bow to fire wires/cables over the top of the robot. With each cable the robot became less powerful as he believed he was building a faraday cage which was weakening it's powers. However, it was a ploy and the robot was feigning weakness. [more inside]
posted by Simon_ at 6:19 AM PST - 0 comments

How to manage split ends

Need help in making my ends look a little less straw-like! [more inside]
posted by heartofglass at 6:08 AM PST - 16 comments

How to manage my anxiety until I can get to see a therapist?

Anxiety flare-up. I have a therapy appointment... in 6 weeks time. What can I do to manage my anxiety till then? I have included details of what I am already doing after the jump. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 3:32 AM PST - 30 comments

First time single man - what should I know?

After 13 years of a relationship, my wife and I have separated. It's a mutual decision and we're both feeling good about it. BUT... I've not been in in the dating game since I was 15 and I'm 31 now. So what should I know? Any tips, advice, "never never never"s much appreciated. I'm guessing it works a little differently to how it did at high school... or maybe not?
posted by tzb at 1:52 AM PST - 22 comments

Jobhunting in Switzerland from abroad

How can I make my dream come true, or should I give up? I want to follow my soul-mate back to Switzerland and find a job in the IT field. Difficulty: I'm an American living in Asia. [more inside]
posted by koakuma at 1:08 AM PST - 7 comments

How to get better treatment for a bedbound, Chinese-speaking senior

My grandmother (85) living in Sydney, Australia had a stroke about 10 years ago, leaving her with no control of the left side of her body. Her condition has deteriorated such that she can no longer sit up without pain. The staff at her nursing home are generally kind, but aren’t doing much to help. We're in need of some ideas or leads for how to improve her situation, taking into account that she is effectively bedridden and can’t speak English. [more inside]
posted by strekker at 12:47 AM PST - 11 comments

March 29

Lights in my condo flickering. Put on any load and they really take off.

I came in tonight and lights are flickering, as is the orange light in the surge protector that the printer/puter/tv is plugged in to. When I put it under a load at all IE if I print something, the lights *really* flicker. What is this about? [more inside]
posted by dancestoblue at 10:57 PM PST - 9 comments

Visions of strangers attacking her son.

At least once a week, when they are in public, my partner finds herself vividly anticipating that the person walking towards her will lunge at and stab her son. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:10 PM PST - 29 comments

Not-My-Fault Car Accident, How to Handle Insurance?

I was rear-ended last night - at a complete stop waiting for a light; the car behind me was going about 40mph when it hit us. Called the cops, called my insurance, it is completely the other driver's fault. My insurance said I can either have the other driver's insurance (Traveler's) handle my claim, or I can pay my $500 deductible and have my insurance handle the claim (repairs, rental car, etc.) with the knowledge that they may not be able to recover my deductible. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:09 PM PST - 15 comments

What are jobs that a game designer can transition to?

For a few years I've been trying to build a career in the game industry, but unfortunately it's been mostly contract work. Despite glowing reviews and a seemingly stellar resume I can't find an actual FTE position. My hopes for something longer term are dimming, so I'm looking at alternates based on the skills I have. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:08 PM PST - 12 comments

A Very Frosty Law & Order

In this Law & Order Episode, a corpse was found that had been frozen for "4 or 5 years"...but how could they tell? Freezer burn? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 8:59 PM PST - 7 comments

Is anyone familiar with mahjong, as played in shanghai?

Wording is specific... I'm not talking about the solitaire game, I'm talking about mah jong as they play it in the city of shanghai. I know that table rules abound, but as far as I can tell there is an old school way and a new school way... basically any information you can provide, even if there were table rules (thoughc alling those out if you know helps) would be super helpful. [more inside]
posted by wooh at 7:21 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me find a way to do this packaging item?

I am trying to design a part of a package for a bottle. Basically, once you open the box, you find the bottle resting on a dock (or a tray if you will), much like how the iPhone rests on a plastic tray once you open the box. [more inside]
posted by cyrusw8 at 6:11 PM PST - 6 comments

Toe contusion still swollen after six weeks, is this normal?

I hit my pinky toe six weeks ago and x-rays taken a couple days later showed no fracture. I limped around for a week and went back to walking normally after that, but it's still red and swollen and stiff and a bit sore. Do I need to go back to the doc, or is there self-care I can just do at home? [more inside]
posted by ziggly at 6:03 PM PST - 11 comments

What song did I just hear? Who sings it? "For tonight I say goodbye"

Alternative/rock song, a guy with a deep voice singing, kind of slower than a typical indie song, it sounded a bit depressing. The singing was kind of muffled but the only lyrics I heard clearly in the chorus were "for tonight I say goodbye" and the very last line of the song was "For tonight I say my last goodbye" and he kind of slowed down for the very last line. [more inside]
posted by never.was.and.never.will.be. at 5:49 PM PST - 8 comments

Are there any hobbyist espionage groups?

Are there any organizations that create IRL scenarios where individuals or teams can play spy vs spy in a legal, non-violent but serious way? I'm thinking of long-term, large-scale projects in the real world that require secrecy, surveillance, and cooperation of agents and contacts to uncover information that the other team or target is trying to hide. The information could be completely arbitrary -- finding it is the point. Not war games, with tactical, symbolic violence -- more cold war games
posted by nímwunnan at 5:47 PM PST - 17 comments

I need to get outside my shell. How do I begin?

I'm a plain-vanilla guy, and I really want to change that and get out of my shell. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 5:35 PM PST - 16 comments

Is my friend using his personal problems as a weapon against us?

A friend of mine is having some pretty severe personal issues, but refuses to get help and gets mad at anyone who says anything he even remotely doesn't like. Is it time to cut ties and/or call him out? [more inside]
posted by stedman15 at 5:33 PM PST - 21 comments

feeling like there's something in my nose/throat/teeth

For about a week now I keep having this weird sensation that there's something stuck in my left nostril when there is nothing. Sometimes this feels like there's something in my mouth (like between upper gums and lips). Sometimes it feels like a sinus pressure. What is this sensation called? Could this be sinus infection? How do I search to find more information? [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 5:02 PM PST - 10 comments

Tell me about working part-time in a grocery store, please

Hello Mefites, I have a full-time professional job with benefits. My husband and I don't have kids and I'm finding myself bored out of my gourd most evenings and weekends. For medical reasons I won't go into, my husband and i don't spend a great deal of time together. I'm thinking of applying to work evenings and weekends at the grocery near us. [more inside]
posted by harrietthespy at 3:43 PM PST - 39 comments

Fear of Flying, General Aviation Edition

My awesome husband recently completed his private pilot license. This has been a lifelong dream for him, and he's excited about the speed and fun that flying will add to our family trips. The problem is that I am anxious about flying. I have managed to cope on airliners, but I am TERRIFIED of the small four-seater planes he flies. My first trip went very poorly, with me having a panic attack in the air. Today we tried again, and I couldn't even get in the plane. What can I do to be less afraid and stop crushing my husband's dreams? [more inside]
posted by jeoc at 3:10 PM PST - 36 comments

Mythical small snack containers???

I am looking for small, sturdy, totally leak-proof containers, both half cup and one cup volume. [more inside]
posted by gryphonlover at 3:07 PM PST - 9 comments

Why do I get light-headed when my anus is penetrated (mostly enemas)?

I love to give anal, but receiving it- mainly in enema form- is a different story. I'd like to know why this could be happening. [more inside]
posted by Jangatroo at 2:41 PM PST - 9 comments

Do Madrid subway stations have escalators?

Do Madrid subway stations have escalators? [more inside]
posted by leafwoman at 2:29 PM PST - 5 comments

Backyard birds and the feeding thereof

My backyard birds seem to enjoy spilled dogfood just fine, but what if I wanted to level up? [more inside]
posted by Lyn Never at 2:22 PM PST - 13 comments

I have a nervous tic where I pick my beard, will it grow back?

I have a nervous tic where I pick my beard, it used to be full and lush and now is not. I stopped after some bald patches and realizing what I did, will it grow back or am I SOL on this?
posted by geoff. at 2:21 PM PST - 10 comments

I might've ruined one of my closest friendships. Should I make amends?

The backstory might shed light, but it's long and I'm sorry if it bores you. I might make a TL;DR sentence, but I suggest you read the whole thing. TL;DR. Befriended girl and crushed, had a lot of issues that turned me off, turned into a very close friend, badly timed telling her about dead feelings, and managed to still communicate until I had to back off for a bit. Don't know what I should do? [more inside]
posted by krs15 at 2:05 PM PST - 32 comments

If kids born/raised in USA but dual Australian citizens,free college?

My understanding is that Australian citizens get access to a much lower tuition rate at Australian universities, and that the way student loans are repaid in Australia basically means that the repayment pauses indefinitely as long as the Australian moves abroad after graduation. Does this mean that if my kids are born/raised in the USA (but have Australian citizenship through their Australian mother), I could send them off to Australian universities and have them receive their university education more-or-less for free (since they'd presumably be returning to the US after graduation)? Or are there additional residency/repayment requirements that I'm missing? [more inside]
posted by Televangelist at 1:47 PM PST - 12 comments

Recommendation for NYC-area psychiatrist that takes Fidelis Medicaid?

Seeking recommendation for board-certified psychiatrist in western Long Island, Brooklyn, or NYC. [more inside]
posted by apartment dweller at 1:14 PM PST - 2 comments

Good online free or cheap courses in project management and Excel?

I recently started a new job as a Project Manager for an educational travel company and would like to beef up my Excel and project management skills. I was previously managing academic research studies. While a lot of that experience is relevant, my new responsibilities are more in line with those of a formally trained/certified Project Manager and so I’d like to do some self-study outside of work. Any recommendations out there for good online coursework? [more inside]
posted by AlmondEyes at 1:08 PM PST - 3 comments

Is this foundation work $5k? or $100k? Who is telling the truth?

I was looking at a house. The disclosure said there was a crack in the foundation (link to pic of the disclosure inside). Realtor 1 said it was $5k to repair. Realtor 2 said it was $100k to repair. The house was sold already - but I'm trying to figure out who to trust. How would I go about this? [more inside]
posted by dogcow2015 at 12:56 PM PST - 16 comments

Perfect Pink Punch

I'm looking for a not-too-sweet, alcoholic punch recipe to serve at an upcoming party. Caveat: must be some shade of pink. [more inside]
posted by turniphead at 12:14 PM PST - 23 comments

Help me bring my cat safely to Australia

Hello Mefites: My girlfriend and me are seriously considering the possibility of moving to Australia permanently next year. If everything goes as planned, we will move in around 12 months from now. I have a 7-year-old adorable Norwegian Forest male cat I adopted in Spain 5 years ago and brought to Colombia (I have dual nationality) 3 years ago. I need to know what options are available to bring him safely to our new home down under. [more inside]
posted by Matrod at 12:05 PM PST - 7 comments

Practical help for woman with Aspergers?

What print or online resources would you recommend for a woman who is diagnosed with Aspergers as an adult? Or what advice can you offer? [more inside]
posted by rubbish bin night at 11:47 AM PST - 9 comments

Best font for legibility at small size

I am editing a booklet that will contain text at approximately the same size as Times New Roman 9 pt. I'm wondering if there is some other font that is generally accepted to be more (or most) legible at the equivalent size. [more inside]
posted by slkinsey at 11:43 AM PST - 7 comments

Hallmarks of not having "done the work"?

What are the signs of someone who hasn't pursued therapy and healing and isn't ready for a relationship? [more inside]
posted by morganw at 9:48 AM PST - 30 comments

Help me find an outfit that's wedding-sexy, not club-sexy!

Can you help me find a dress (and shoes and jewelry) to wear to a wedding that's sexy while still appropriate for a wedding? [more inside]
posted by tomorrow at 9:35 AM PST - 6 comments

What foods can I make with ~4 cups of homemade ranch dressing?

Last night I made 4 cups of ranch dressing out of 2 cups of buttermilk, 2 cups of sour cream, and 2 packets of Hidden Valley dressing mix. It'll probably spoil within a week, so unless I start eating it in bowls like soup I need ways to use it up besides condiment use. I think it would work fine as the liquid in my trusty buttermilk biscuit recipe, and be great in mashed potatoes. What else could I make with it? [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 9:13 AM PST - 22 comments

Hey Jude, who does Flo think you are?

Asking for a young Florence and the Machine fan in my household: In the song "St Jude," is Florence Welch treating St Jude as a female saint? [more inside]
posted by third rail at 8:34 AM PST - 10 comments

Ghostbusters - When would the containment unit have failed?

So in Ghostbusters, Walter Peck orders the power to the containment unit shut off. This releases the ghosts, ushers in the apocalypse, dogs & cats, big twinkie, etc. [more inside]
posted by Eddie Mars at 8:10 AM PST - 8 comments

Maintaining anonymity/privacy with multiple Twitter accounts

I have a so-far unused 'public' Twitter account under my real name tied to my primary (real-name) gmail account. I have a 2nd Twitter account tied to a different gmail address that I would like to use for personal/ frivolous/off-brand uses. I would prefer that the twain shall never meet - e.g. my personal Twitter will not be suggested to contacts from professional Twitter as 'someone to follow'. Is this possible? [more inside]
posted by Svejk at 6:51 AM PST - 6 comments

What's it like working at a pharmacy?

After not working for over 10 years, I filled out a job application at Publix, thinking I would be hired as a bagger, but they called asking me if I would be interested in the pharmacy store clerk position. I've never worked in a pharmacy before. What's it like? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:38 AM PST - 9 comments

Help me find the best facial moisurizer with sunscreen

I'm looking for a moisturizer that has sunscreen and I'm being picky about it. Can you help me find a good product? [more inside]
posted by sunflower16 at 6:24 AM PST - 22 comments

What to teach a smart twelve-year-old?

I've been hired to privately tutor a smart 12-year-old who hates learning, not on a specific subject but rather a general educational enrichment. I'm looking for ideas, resources and relevant thoughts on how to spend an hour a week with this kid and make the most of it. [more inside]
posted by alona at 3:51 AM PST - 29 comments

March 28

Hotels and hostels in Vienna, Austria

I'll be spending a few days sightseeing in Vienna this June, and I'd appreciate your hotel and hostel recommendations. I'd like a moderately-priced single room with free wi-fi; I'm fluent in German but am unfamiliar with the city. Dankeschön!
posted by smorgasbord at 9:50 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I fix my interview/HR screw up?

I've been working freelance from multiple sources while looking for a perm job. I interviewed at a company and they asked what I was currently doing. I said that I've been working on Project A and Project B from Company C. They seemed very interested in Project B, but I realized afterwards that that project is not from Company C like I said, but from Company D (who I haven't been able to contact since the project ended). I'm an idiot, and HR wants to check references, what do I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:28 PM PST - 6 comments

Is my partner of 6 months checking out of the relationship? Or lazy?

We're both in our mid-thirties. He still wants to hang out at least 3 nights a week. I always sleep over since his place has privacy and he pays for more things to balance out the driving. He used to be more enthusiastic about planning dates. We'd try new places to eat at and on our last date, we went dancing. The rest of the week, we still grabbed a quick meal and talked. For weeks now, he has only wanted to order takeout and watch movies. We only started the movies/takeout during a time that he had a cold for 2 weeks and the weather was subzero. It was supposed to be temporary. Now it's all the time, whether it's out of laziness or habit, or whatever. He'll go out if I ask, but it seems like he's only doing it for me. [more inside]
posted by lohachata at 7:27 PM PST - 36 comments

Doctor for male (pattern?) baldness in L.A. area

Can you recommend a doctor that treats underlying medical causes for hair loss in men in the L.A. area? [more inside]
posted by tyrantkitty at 7:14 PM PST - 3 comments

Can I get a loan?

My credit is in the toilet. I want to take out a personal loan so that I do not need to work full time while I go to school full time. Is this even possible? [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 6:17 PM PST - 6 comments

In desperate need for a step-by-step rescue plan

My life has been in constant turmoil for a while now, and the end is nigh... [more inside]
posted by Soap D. Spencer at 5:44 PM PST - 19 comments

[Portland Filter] Can you help me find a decent hotel near the MAX?

Hello Portlanders - I'll be coming to your fair city in mid-April and although I've visited a few times previously I don't really have a go-to hotel near the city. Can you recommend some good options? [more inside]
posted by karizma at 5:22 PM PST - 10 comments

I used to explore Egyptian tombs

but I can't remember what PC game circa 1990 I used to do it on. [more inside]
posted by Promethea at 5:17 PM PST - 7 comments

Kydex in the kitchen stove?

Should I heat Kydex in my kitchen oven if I don't have a toaster oven just for this? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 4:53 PM PST - 10 comments

Where can I buy sterile glycerin (national chain/Boston area)?

Anyone aware of a national chain, or someplace in Boston that carries sterile glycerin for personal lubrication purposes? I've tried Walgreens and Rite-Aid thus far with no luck.
posted by eggman at 4:28 PM PST - 8 comments

What book next?

I loved A Song of Ice and Fire, The Kingkiller Chronicle and the Stormlight Archive. I'm in book 2 of the Mistborn series and it's enjoyable but not as good as the previous. Where should I go next? Needs to be on Audible (I have a 2 hr commute every day).
posted by no bueno at 3:44 PM PST - 21 comments

Reading on a Google Nexus Tablet

Hey folks! Any tips on using the Google Nexus Tablet to read articles and books? I have the kindle app, and it is not as intuitive as I would like. For example, I would like the text to be larger, BUT still be able to view the entire page, not just parts of it. No luck with goggle searches, uggh. thanks :)
posted by sistertips at 3:41 PM PST - 9 comments

How do I (or Should I even) go about getting a PhD?

I am interested in systems theory as field and am trying to determine if/how I should go about studying it deeply and probably making a career out of it. But there are significant questions I feel I should answer before I can decide about such a significant change in my career. I need advice about how to determine if my fascination about systems theory is worth trying to make a career out of it and also advice as to how I can go about creating a career in it? [more inside]
posted by TheLittlePrince at 1:47 PM PST - 14 comments

You've gotta know the rules if you want to play the game

For the first time in a long time, I have a full-time, long(ish)-term contract position in a "typical" office (one with more than like, 10 employees). I am very excited about it, but need pointers on how to play the game. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 11:57 AM PST - 17 comments

Android games and apps that make swiping and dragging fun?

I love swiping around on my Android phone; the chance to swipe around on my keyboard to write an email or text makes me surprisingly glad. What are some good games (and other apps?) that make the act of swiping and dragging a pleasure? Some examples: Alcazar and LYNE have been great games for me because they supported smooth, convoluted drags, and Threes has been too because of its smooth swipes. In contrast, the clunkyness of the dragging in Trainyard has been a turn-off. While a good challenge is important, fluidity is key.
posted by Going To Maine at 11:53 AM PST - 11 comments

Is there a spouse of a surrogate partner that would be willing to chat?

My wife and I are in the early to mid stages of surrogacy. Have any tips, guidance, etc? [more inside]
posted by NotSoSimple at 11:23 AM PST - 4 comments

Wealth Of Nations/Econ History jargon -- Adam Smith's 'control factor'?

What was the control factor for the Laissez-fare capitalist system as proposed by Adam Smith in Wealth of Nations? [more inside]
posted by Rash at 11:18 AM PST - 9 comments

Is the budget red or black?

I've got the job. Now I have to navigate the paycheck/loans/benefits/retirement... Where do I start? [more inside]
posted by Chaussette Fantoche at 9:30 AM PST - 10 comments

Regional Cocktails

A caesar, a brandy old-fashioned, etc. What cocktails define a region and get you strange looks when ordered elsewhere? [more inside]
posted by rocketbadger at 9:14 AM PST - 44 comments

TIme to go

Time to move out, my friends. I realized I'm being threatened to be disowned again. However, unlike the other times I think the other person might be serious this time around. So tell me about all the resources needed and how fast can I leave? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:43 AM PST - 26 comments

World's Best Men's Robe?

I don't want a Robe, I want the best robe. I want a robe that looks both stylish and timeless - a robe Cary Grant could wake up in and stay in all day. I want a robe that is well-constructed and comfortable enough to last forever and I could lounge around in while still looking natty. I want something with a retro-feel and interesting colors. I do not want white terrycloth. Where can I find this robe? [more inside]
posted by The Whelk at 8:28 AM PST - 12 comments

Spring is here! So are the frogs. Help me!

I have a completely irrational but very persistent fear of frogs. Has anyone else experienced this fear and overcome it? What worked for you? [more inside]
posted by RingerChopChop at 8:10 AM PST - 9 comments

Catch for us the little taxes

How do I do taxes for the first time? I live in NJ, and I had a paid internship last summer in CA. The internship provided free housing (is that taxable?) and I'm a college student in NJ. Sub-questions: What forms do I fill out, and what software can I use? [more inside]
posted by glass origami robot at 7:15 AM PST - 7 comments

I received a connection request on LinkedIn from an old friend ...

* Special snowflake advisory * [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:57 AM PST - 15 comments

Last minute marriage, need to not pay for health insurance twice

We got married on the spur of the moment and are now facing the prospect of paying for health insurance twice for the first couple of months of being married. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:56 AM PST - 4 comments

March 27

Special Birthday Suggestions in Copenhagen?

My wife and I are Americans, but will be in Copenhagen on the night of her 40th birthday in early July. I'd like to plan something very special (such as dinner at an incredible restaurant or a breathtaking daytrip) to celebrate the occasion. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:41 PM PST - 9 comments

It's Alright

What is this song? Chorus: "iiiiiit's alllll-right" [more inside]
posted by stresstwig at 10:00 PM PST - 54 comments

Do student loan repayment plans

My student loans are past-due and I can't afford the minimum payments. I need more assistance for the next two years and I'm concerned I won't be eligible anymore. The loan servicers website offers income-based repayment plans along with other options, but support isn't available to answer questions until next Monday. I'm really freaking out... Can anyone shed some light on the consequences of repayment plans, deferments, and forbearance? [more inside]
posted by isopropyl at 9:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Does marijuana cure cancer?

Can medical marijuana cure or at least be effective in some capacity in treating cancer? [more inside]
posted by otherwordlyglow at 9:24 PM PST - 23 comments

Verbiage to get FMLA approved when care needs are yet unknown

My mom has maybe a year to live after being diagnosed with cancer, and I want to spend more time with her than I have vacation. What do I say for the care I'm going to provide to get FMLA approved if she and her husband can physically care for herself most of her remaining time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:40 PM PST - 11 comments

Live-updating Android photo frame?

Is there an Android app or web app that will show the latest image from a Flickr album or Dropbox folder? [more inside]
posted by ddbeck at 6:33 PM PST - 0 comments

Credit card fraud, transactions not showing up?

My debit card was stolen remotely (I assume over the Internet). There are two processed transactions on my statement and one pending. I called both places and neither could find a record of the transactions. What gives? [more inside]
posted by mrfuga0 at 5:45 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I become location independent?

I need a portable, work-from-home career that pays enough to live on (for me, about $30K minimum). I'm introverted and unhappy with my current location, and I like travel and having the freedom to move when I want. I'm frugal. [more inside]
posted by Beethoven's Sith at 5:40 PM PST - 15 comments

When do you re-express interest in a job interview?

I received an email from a job I'd applied to a couple of months ago requesting my availability for a phone interview. I responded via email (per their request) the same day with my limited availability. As a healthcare provider, it seems that tight schedules are the norm, but I haven't heard back, four days later. When, if ever, is it appropriate to send a follow-up email? [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 5:27 PM PST - 8 comments

I want to build up an awesome collection of 80's toys!

What are the best toys from the 80s, which can still be purchased easily? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 5:14 PM PST - 21 comments

Great Eggspectations

Do you know of a store in the Toronto area that sells those hollow chocolate eggs that you can personalize for Easter? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Rattery at 5:03 PM PST - 6 comments

I Can Haz Nice Things?

Thinking about using silk in two bedding projects. I have two cats and a toddler. Is this a terrible idea? [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust at 4:56 PM PST - 5 comments

My husband wants to build a house. I don't. Help.

My husband and I are at an impasse and I need help either figuring out how to make my case more clearly or ideas how to get myself on board. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:54 PM PST - 40 comments

Career change out of nonprofits?

I’m hoping for suggestions for career changes for someone who has spent their entire professional career in nonprofits and government, and is looking for something that pays a little more, is maybe a little less bureaucratic, and which plays to their strengths (community organizing and building, creative thinking, program planning, social engagement). [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 4:03 PM PST - 5 comments

Online CentOS administration courses / resources?

I'd like to take two or three weeks and intensively study the administration of CentOS servers. What resources or online classes exist? Red Hat certification courses/resources would count. [more inside]
posted by Nonce at 3:53 PM PST - 7 comments

Is amlodipine banned in Holland

I am trying to research this drug. The statement that it has been banned in the Netherlands shows up on several forums, but I can't find out if this is actually true. [more inside]
posted by Mimidae at 3:51 PM PST - 5 comments

Longshot music ID question: -- help me find this indie song?

Help me identify this indie rock song (with a Belle and Sebastian sound) with song lyrics that go, "I'm wasting my time." [more inside]
posted by joeyjoejoejr at 3:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Long Form History Podcasts

The impossible has happened - I am caught up with, or have finished, all my favorite history podcasts. I'm looking for some new ones to add to the line-up. [more inside]
posted by kanewai at 2:46 PM PST - 20 comments

How can I reset a admin password that is forgotten?

I have a Toshiba laptop with Windows 7 running and two user accounts on it. One has admin rights and the password has been forgotten. [more inside]
posted by maxg94 at 2:09 PM PST - 12 comments

How to backup Windows Sever w/ Exchange on-prem and in the cloud?

Our small office is running Windows Server 2008 R2. This one server acts as our file server, our mail server with Exchange 2010, our Active Directory server, AutoDesk License server, etc. I want to have on-prem backup and use a cloud storage for some form of offsite backup, but I can't seem to find the right solution. [more inside]
posted by MrBobaFett at 1:30 PM PST - 6 comments

It's not that I mind having more friends, but...

It seems that whenever I meet a woman I really like and think I have a connection with, she can only view me as a friend. I'm generally okay with this, because their great qualities as people is what attracted me to them in the first place, and those don't change just because she's not interested in me. But when it happens over and over and over again, it does make me wonder whether there's something I'm doing wrong. Why is it I'm consistently viewed as good friend material, but not good lover material? [more inside]
posted by KantGoOn at 12:57 PM PST - 88 comments

LinkedIn post snapshot

These updates to LinkedIn have been killing me. Have they completely removed the little box on the left on the Home tab that would include analytic info on any postings you made? (How many in your network saw the post, 2nd connections, 3rd+ connections?)
posted by heavyp08 at 11:59 AM PST - 1 comment

Where to start/what to plan to open a small side business?

I'd like to start a small side business, myself only as a part-timer to start. The essence of the business is for me to design and print small 3D charms. I can start using a 3D printing service like Shapeways or i.materialize and already use free tools to do 3D design work so it seems like startup costs are low. I'm looking for what I should do to prepare for the long term. [more inside]
posted by kalessin at 11:26 AM PST - 6 comments

Public transit phone/picture-capable-device etiquette

On public transit, do you feel threatened about people holding devices with cameras in such a way that they could potentially be taking pictures or recording? Do you feel pressure about how you hold your own camera-capable devices? This is more of a general question, but details about why I became curious are as follows. [more inside]
posted by halifix at 11:16 AM PST - 28 comments

Plus sized pillowcase?

We have king sized pillows, which we like very much, that are sized larger than normal king sized pillows. [more inside]
posted by elf27 at 11:06 AM PST - 10 comments

Should I Forget Him or is There Still Something There?

This guy I met a few months ago has been sending me some very mixed signals for a very long time and I honestly don't know what to make of it. Whenever I'm just about to write him off for ghosting on me, he re-appears and it's like nothing ever happened. Anyone have any advice or tips? [more inside]
posted by lana0112 at 10:57 AM PST - 47 comments

Keep those knees rigid. Jerk that lower back.

Can you provide feedback on my dumbbell-centered weightlifting routine? [more inside]
posted by a manly man person who is male and masculine at 10:45 AM PST - 3 comments

What do you listen to on your amateur radio or scanner?

Having just earned my amateur radio license, I've purchased a handheld transceiver with decent wide-band coverage and I'm trying to figure out what I should program into it. I've added the nearest repeaters on my licensed bands, but what's worthwhile to add next? What else do people program on their mobiles, HTs, and scanners? I'd like to find active and interesting channels to monitor when I'm not conversing with someone myself. [more inside]
posted by Songdog at 10:32 AM PST - 6 comments

Why would I want to wash clothing in 14 hours?

Might be a silly question, but it's plagued me since buying our house. Why does my front-loading, 2000's era Kenmore washing machine have a delay start of 14 hours? Is there a reason or was 14 picked at random? [more inside]
posted by fontophilic at 10:27 AM PST - 24 comments

Who sits at the Head Table?

My wedding is coming up in September and we're kind of in the final stages of organization. I think everything is under control, but I'm very uncertain of how to format the head table..... everyone (and every website) is telling me different things :( [more inside]
posted by JenThePro at 10:07 AM PST - 27 comments

I hate my fat face!

I've recently lost quite a bit of weight after a couple of decades of being overweight, but while the rest of my body is shrinking, my face is the same ol' big fat face. Can I expect it to deflate at some point? Is there anything I can do about it other than just continuing to lose weight? Or am I doomed to end up like Michael Palin in Brazil?
posted by Enemy of Joy at 9:43 AM PST - 13 comments

Help ridding my website of licensed images

So...I woke up to a lovely email from Getty advising me that I had been using one of their premium images on my shop's (extremely low traffic) website ... [more inside]
posted by dance at 9:19 AM PST - 6 comments

Fun baseball defense strategy videos for little leaguers?

My eight-year-old son is in Little League baseball for the first time. A lot of the what-to-do-when scenarios are mysteries to him. So we're looking for upbeat, fun videos about all aspects of defense — including knowing where to play for the outs, base coverage, relays, rundowns, and cutoffs — that we can watch so he can see the plays in action. [more inside]
posted by Mo Nickels at 9:17 AM PST - 5 comments

Automate sending a dictionary definition to a flashcards program?

I look up words I don't know as I read and I'd like to make flashcards of them to review later without having to stop reading long enough to make the cards. Ideally, whenever I look up a word in an online or ebook dictionary I'd like to automatically generate a new flashcard in a program like Anki or Mnemosyne. Ideas? Thanks!
posted by Jacqueline at 8:46 AM PST - 6 comments

Tight hips a problem in the bedroom.

Please help me loosen up my hips so that I can lie on my back in peace. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:21 AM PST - 12 comments

The rest of the meds world

What are SNRIs, and what are they like to take? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:20 AM PST - 17 comments

winning over estate agents as a customer?

The treatment I get from estate agents in the UK is almost as though they are not looking for business. I have been trying to buy a house for over a year and find estate agents to be surly, often not returning calls. How do I make clear my interest and what should I do to make sure I am treated well and fairly by estate agents in the UK?
posted by parmanparman at 7:55 AM PST - 5 comments

Multiple private health insurers?

USA insurance-filter: is it possible to be covered by 2 private insurance plans at once? We like my wife’s employer’s insurance, but it doesn't cover the expensive fertility treatments that we’ll be receiving soon. My work’s insurance does cover those treatments. Can we pay for both insurance plans and be covered by both? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 7:38 AM PST - 10 comments

Searching for a certain comic strip about life stages

About two years ago a certain online comic strip - making a point about accepting absurdity in later life - was briefly a meme and I'd love to find it again. If I remember right, it had three panels with images & text something like... [more inside]
posted by mark7570 at 7:03 AM PST - 4 comments

Attending F1 races as non-gearheads with a 4-year old. Advice?

We happen to have somewhat recently moved near enough the UK F1 track (Silverstone) that it's feasible to attend a race. We enjoy, but don't actively follow racing, and our kid's really into Cars (Disney), so we thought it might be a fun day out. But the ticketing options are confusing for this casual fan. Help? [more inside]
posted by jennyweed at 6:05 AM PST - 12 comments

Support Email from HTC in Taiwan

Does anyone have the Support Email from HTC in Taiwan? [more inside]
posted by yoyo_nyc at 5:44 AM PST - 1 comment

Online security/privacy

Serious advice about protecting your privacy/identity online is often monstrously impractical. Which are the tools/practices that offer the best real-world security-convenience tradeoff? [more inside]
posted by neat graffitist at 5:12 AM PST - 10 comments

Please recommend a book/article by a woman about workplace sexism.

A friend has been given an opening by a leader in a large, conservative organization to help him understand women's experiences of sexism in the workplace. Is there a book or article by a woman talking about her experiences you would recommend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:09 AM PST - 16 comments

Overwhelmed by jobbing and job searching at once. What to do?

I'm looking to jump ship from my current job, and I'm struggling with keeping my cool. I've been dealing with some pretty rough anxiety as I respond to recruiters and companies, slip out of the office for interviews, prepare presentations for said interviews, and do it over and over again with multiple businesses. How can I deal with the guilt of completely dialing it in at work so I can find a new job? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:08 AM PST - 5 comments

Do I give back a lot of money that no one will ever ask for?

$40,000 was deposited in my bank account last week, and it's not mine. I've figured out that it was tax money owed to my old employer (from 2013) but they never claimed it so the tax office waited until now and forwarded it to me. What do I do now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:08 AM PST - 34 comments

How to bring active window to foreground in OS X?

I just got my new MacBook Pro and I want to get to work, but I cannot figure out why active windows remain in the background. Clicking on an inactive window doesn't bring it to the foreground. If I want to actually see what's in the active window, I have to minimize the inactive window that's on top. I've looked at different settings but I don't see how to change this. Help is much appreciated.
posted by stinker at 2:19 AM PST - 10 comments

March 26

School ratings in Nashville... do they mean anything?

My family is considering a move to Nashville from Chicagoland next year. The idea of being able to afford living in the city center after having been trapped in the 'burbs sounds appealing. Listings at places like Zillow (via GreatSchools.org) and Trulia show ratings for assigned schools in these areas... and the ones for non-suburban schools are scary, like one to three out of ten kinda bad. How seriously should I take these ratings? I'm interested in both specific-to-Nashville comments and more general thoughts on school ratings. [more inside]
posted by Comrade Doll at 8:29 PM PST - 12 comments

Where to go in Germany in June

We've decided to go to Germany in early June, rent a car, and drive from Frankfurt to Dresden over the course of a week. Where shall we go? [more inside]
posted by jepler at 7:32 PM PST - 10 comments

Images to prompt writing

I need pictures that are funny or creative in some way, but also have several subjects/actions visible. Here's one that works really well. Here's a page with several that could work. Can you help me find more that are 6th grade appropriate and have limited/no text on them? [more inside]
posted by guster4lovers at 7:10 PM PST - 16 comments

KonMari: How to "develop the instinct for what really inspires joy"?

Practitioners of Marie Kondo's tidying method, can you please help me understand the experience of an object under consideration "sparking joy"? [more inside]
posted by MonkeyToes at 6:38 PM PST - 17 comments

Email blast, then opt-in to follow thread?

I'm on a couple of email lists, and what happens is someone will email everyone, then someone else will reply to everyone, and so on... Sometimes it's something I'm interested in, sometimes it isn't. Is there a way to have an initial email go to everyone, then those who are interested can continue the conversation among themselves and those who are not can just ignore it and never see any follow-ups?
posted by mpark at 5:28 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I find an apartment?

I am searching for an apartment for the first time in my life and all I seem to be finding are Craigslist scams or people that don't reply. What's the best way to look for an apartment? [more inside]
posted by lqqieee at 5:17 PM PST - 13 comments

Anxiety before seeing boyfriend?

I get really anxious before I hang out with my boyfriend. Its frustrating. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anon1129 at 5:01 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I help my friend through her fears about graduating?

My friend is graduating in 6 weeks from college. She is usually really animated and bubbly, but I was hanging out with her yesterday, and she mentioned in passing that she's thinking about going back to college for another major (she is currently getting her second major after her first didn't work out for her), but she's iffy on whether her dad will let her or not. [more inside]
posted by ggp88 at 4:28 PM PST - 16 comments

Memoirs about PTSD

Mac McClelland's Irritable Hearts: A PTSD Love Story is kind of changing my life. What else can I read that touches on similar issues? [more inside]
posted by Stacey at 4:05 PM PST - 1 comment

Can I help to #shutdownthefuckbarrel in a small, personal way?

There was a recent thread on the green about what happens when people are arrested, And then I saw the 22 March 2015 episode of John Oliver's Last Week Tonight that discussed how people get screwed over with municipal fines. How can I help to Shut Down The Fuck Barrel? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:43 PM PST - 19 comments

Recommended Accountants in Sydney, AU!

I'm reaching out to my fellow Sydney-based Australians for recommendations on Accountants that are geared towards small business/consultancies. I've recently hung up my shingle as a consultant and would like to engage with an accountant that will grow with me and set me off on the right foot. [more inside]
posted by qwip at 2:13 PM PST - 3 comments

Personal scheduling app/program that will schedule my day for me?

I have a lot of things I want to do during my day, but I get overwhelmed by to-do lists. Is there a program that can manage them for me so I don't have to think about it? [more inside]
posted by majesty_snowbird at 1:28 PM PST - 4 comments

I want to go paperless. What can I not discard?

I'd like to go as paperless as possible using a scanner and (probably) Evernote, but I want to make sure I don't get rid of anything important. What kind of documents should I not shred even after I make copies? [more inside]
posted by alligatorman at 1:25 PM PST - 7 comments

Please advise me on a forthcoming computer upgrade

My vintage 2008 Macbook is eagerly gazing at the pasture that has been beckoning it for a few years now. I have replaced the hard-drive and maxed out the RAM, but the poor little guy is simply ready for a well-deserved rest. So - what's next for me and when? Macbook Pro? Air? iMac? iPad? Difficulty level: incorporating moderate music production, Netflix, general web use, somewhat limited funds, and massive over-thinking. [more inside]
posted by fingers_of_fire at 12:50 PM PST - 16 comments

Home Inspector/Structural Engineer in Madison/Milwaukee area

I am about to purchase a home. The property is located about halfway between Madison and Milwaukee. There is a long horizontal crack in the basement wall, so I know I want a structural engineer specifically, and I also want a more general home inspector. I have no idea how to go about finding and vetting these individuals. Any recommendations for specific individuals, or instructions on how to find them myself? Thanks!
posted by tllaya at 12:45 PM PST - 5 comments

College loans for buying property?

Does anyone have experience using college loans for buying property to live in while attending school? I'm looking at buying a 2-5 acres for about $25,000 to $40,000, putting up a DIY cabin shed in lieu of throwing all my money at rent over the next 3 years. [more inside]
posted by caveatz at 12:43 PM PST - 12 comments

So, it turns out I've been married for the past two years. Help?

I found out today that the divorce I filed two years ago did not, in fact, go through. However, I've been filing my taxes as a single person during that period. What should I do? Are there other legal issues I may not be considering? Neither of us want and did not want alimony and we have no children, so that's not a concern. Thanks.
posted by Fister Roboto at 12:24 PM PST - 9 comments

Novels with dead bodies shown on the cover, available on Amazon.

Please help me resolve an argument about what Amazon will and will not sell. Party A claims that Amazon will not sell any book with corpses shown on the cover art. Party B despairs of the work involved in a late change to their book's cover. My gut feeling is that this is a ludicrous exaggeration of their actual policy and that there should be plenty of blatant counterexamples, but it's not an easy thing to search for. That's where askmefi comes in. [more inside]
posted by Lorc at 11:37 AM PST - 13 comments

Playlists of Basic Beats for a Beginning Drummer

I bought a set of Roland V-drums recently and I'd like to put together some playlists that focus on basic beats I should be learning as a beginner. The idea is to have each playlist focus on a specific type of beat, starting easier and building in complexity/tempo. I'm mostly into rock music, and my goal right now is to be able to keep a solid groove - nothing fancy.
posted by InfidelZombie at 11:27 AM PST - 9 comments

Allium-free vegetarian dishes at restaurants in the Boston area?

I'm vegetarian and have a hereditary sensitivity to alliums (onion, garlic, leeks, etc.) Unfortunately I can't identify onion/garlic by taste, so when I go out to eat with my boyfriend I mostly resign myself to feeling sick for the next 24 hours or so. What are some restaurants in the Boston area that serve food I might be able to eat safely? [more inside]
posted by cogitron at 11:23 AM PST - 18 comments

Ambulances and civilian drivers: a traffic etiquette question!

The other day, I was driving home from work and an ambulance was coming up from behind. I didn't pull over because it didn't seem useful, a nearby motorcyclist chewed me out through my open window: "You're supposed to pull over when there's an ambulance!!" Due to the not-so-snowflakey details inside, I'm struggling to understand what the right thing to do would've been. [more inside]
posted by witchen at 10:33 AM PST - 54 comments

Birthday party invitation etiquette

I got invited, last minute-ish, to a birthday party for a friend of a friend's daughter. What, if anything, do I bring? [more inside]
posted by film at 9:52 AM PST - 19 comments

Bay Area Om Nom Nom?

Awesome food in the Bay Area? [more inside]
posted by joyceanmachine at 9:46 AM PST - 38 comments

Leaving My Job - How do I navigate resigning?

This is the first job I'll be leaving because it's just time for me to move on. Previously, I've left because I was moving or school was starting up again. This time, I don't have that to fall back on. I want to put in my notice tomorrow - Help! [more inside]
posted by Bottlecap at 9:32 AM PST - 25 comments

Need help finding Stop Motion Animation Shorts for kids

I am teaching an animation course for children and I am looking for stop motion animation shorts to show as examples in class. I am trying (without luck!) to find good shorts that are made using things like paper and paint rather than 3D claymation and puppetry. [more inside]
posted by catrae at 9:25 AM PST - 23 comments

Upgrade to Windows 8.1?

My Dell desktop has Win 8 (with Classic Shell). I can download Win 8.1 for free from the Windows Store. Requesting pros and cons for doing this, please.
posted by lungtaworld at 9:05 AM PST - 8 comments

Is this Russian alphabet made of people having sex in the public domain?

I'd like to edit, re-use, and release this sexy russian alphabet. What's the copyright status of the images, and scanned images? [more inside]
posted by ohgodwhy.me at 9:02 AM PST - 2 comments

TV or not TV?

I need a better tv and movie-watching situation than balancing my laptop on knees. It's been, like, a decade since I bought a TV and...whoa, the options are overwhelming. What does an infrequent watcher of mostly-streaming media set up for minimum hassle? [more inside]
posted by peachfuzz at 8:49 AM PST - 23 comments

Help me make my Mac desktop feel like new again!

I have a 3ish year old iMac desktop, and it's starting to feel sluggish. What can I do to spruce it up and make it run (more) like new again? [more inside]
posted by still bill at 8:44 AM PST - 36 comments

Should I get a mouthguard?

A little over a month ago I was in an auto accident, and after experiencing some jaw pain that has since dissipated, my dentist thinks I might want to get a mouthguard to prevent the pain from returning and worsening in the future. Is this sound advice? [more inside]
posted by millions at 8:27 AM PST - 9 comments

Day trip near Marco Island

I'll be staying on Marco Island in Southwest Florida in a couple weeks. Although lounging around on the beach doing nothing is definitely a priority, I would like to find one outdoorsy day trip. Looking for something I can complete, including transportation to and from, in 10 hours or less. Could be kayaking, hiking or biking (I am not an experienced mountain biker or kayaker, but would be into trying anything basic, especially if rental equipment is easily obtained). [more inside]
posted by latkes at 8:17 AM PST - 6 comments

full meals from trader joes and costco

I'm looking for product recommendations from Costco and Trader Joes, with some very specific parameters. [more inside]
posted by peep at 8:16 AM PST - 31 comments

How to improve energy levels to reverse declining health?

I have health issues that cause fatigue. Exercise could lessen these, but I lack the energy to do so. What dietary changes can I make to get the energy to exercise? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:02 AM PST - 17 comments

What are the rules for working with a literary executor?

I am working on a partially biographical essay about a well-known writer who died in the past ten years, leaving an extensive collection of papers and correspondence. I will meet with his literary executor soon. However, I have realized that I don't have a clear sense of an executor's responsibilities or what it is appropriate to expect. For example, is it reasonable to request access to materials that are not yet archived? Help me with the rules and etiquette of primary biographical research so that I can establish a good working relationship with the executor.
posted by GeorgieYeats at 7:58 AM PST - 0 comments

Do I have to respond to HR's request for salary expectations?

In applying for an in-house counsel position where HR has asked me to state salary expectations on a job application before going in for a previously scheduled interview, can I ignore the request? Do I have to answer the question with a number or a range, or can I get away with something more waffling to put the ball in their court? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:51 AM PST - 15 comments

Co-Worker flailing. Can we/should we help?

Small office, co-worker is over her head and floundering - she's crying because she doesn't understand the work, and the rest of the team is spending a lot of time doing/re-doing her work. What can we/should we do? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by okayokayigive at 7:34 AM PST - 25 comments

How to get through a cold with my digestion intact.

I had a cold 10 days ago which left me pretty bunged up and snotty for a few days. The trouble (and this is gross, apologies) is that it's taken my digestion the whole of the last 10 days to get back into action after the amount of phlegm that dripped its way down my throat ruined my appetite and turned my entire gut into a huge tunnel of mucus. How can I avoid this (special dietary needs inside, too)? [more inside]
posted by ambrosen at 7:21 AM PST - 5 comments

Teach me about seasonally high-demand meat.

I'm hosting a Passover seder next Friday night. (!) One of the things I'm cooking is a brisket. I need to buy a 3.5 lb flat cut brisket sometime between now and Friday morning. What is the risk that the store will run out of said brisket because so many people cook brisket on Passover? [more inside]
posted by millipede at 7:16 AM PST - 8 comments

Is the pen still mightier than the keystroke for anyone here?

Two questions, both writing related: 1) For those of you engaged in essay and fiction writing (not academic or research-heavy professional writing), are pen and paper still part of your creative process at all? What is your workflow like?; 2) Will publishing an essay on one's own personal, special interest website (with a potential reach of less than 100) first preclude ever having it accepted for publication (not just linked) in some form or another on an online magazine platform? [more inside]
posted by these are my travel socks at 7:09 AM PST - 9 comments

Using enrichment technology to fight climate change: how ridiculous?

If enriching uranium with a gas centrifuge costs 50 to 60 kW·h (180–220 MJ) of electricity per SWU, is it possible to adapt the formulas given there to calculate the energy needed to extract pure CO2 directly from the atmosphere? (assuming e.g. 0.04% concentration). Asking as a complete science n00b.
posted by ianso at 6:43 AM PST - 10 comments

help with physical therapy expectations

Currently having Physical Therapy for hip anteversion/knock knees and general postural issues; what kind of pain is it 'normal' and beneficial in the long run to feel? Only muscular or is it okay for PT to provoke the outside of knee pain that I want to fix as well? [more inside]
posted by opalshards at 6:36 AM PST - 9 comments

Help me find the perfect bike for me!

I want to take up bike riding as a larger portion of my transportation choices. My experience in the past is that when I have the right bike, I'm happy to bike lots of places. Help me pick the right bike for me (or at least know which ones to look at). [more inside]
posted by spindrifter at 6:18 AM PST - 14 comments

Six Week Ahead Online Calendar

Am looking for a free six-week-ahead online calendar. I currently use Backpackit calendar but the company stopped supporting it a few years ago plus it costs me $12/month. When I open Backpackit the calendar default view is the next six weeks. I find this incredibly useful. I have not yet found another online calendar that shows anything other than one month at a time. Any suggestions?
posted by jmf2525 at 6:12 AM PST - 4 comments

March 25

Can I auto-hide the taskbar in just one application?

I have Windows 8.1. There's one program I use that enforces a window height that is the exact height of my screen. If the taskbar is visible, the bottom part of the window is obscured behind it. If I auto-hide the taskbar, the window fits perfectly. Problem is, I like keeping the taskbar visible. Is there any way to hide it only when this program is running? [more inside]
posted by The Winsome Parker Lewis at 11:23 PM PST - 4 comments

Practical tips for traveling in Europe

We will be going on honeymoon to a few major cities in Western Europe. I would love to hear your best practical advice for traveling in that region of the world. [more inside]
posted by madonna of the unloved at 10:05 PM PST - 42 comments

More hair help needed

Well I took your advice from last time and relaxed my principles - I started blow drying and flat ironing and applying various goos at various times. And that's okay but only as long as my hair has been recently cut. So what I need now is advice about how to communicate with my hair stylist that I really do want it flat, flat, flat, flat. Last time she seemed to think she was talking me out of making a huge mistake. [more inside]
posted by bleep at 8:45 PM PST - 44 comments

Who is available right now? Tomorrow?

I manage a large-ish team of volunteers, each with different schedules. I have information for all of them in an old fashioned spreadsheet so I can easily sort them by name, age, etc. Now I need a way to put together a Master schedule of sorts so I can easily see who is available for a task at any given time (and how many are available). Some considerations inside. [more inside]
posted by andycyca at 8:26 PM PST - 11 comments

Are there any films similar to Alfred Hitchcock?

I adore Hitchcock's work. Are there any other films similar to his genre? [more inside]
posted by RearWindow at 7:28 PM PST - 27 comments

Getting over a bad work experience

I graduated from college and looked for over a year for work. I found a job in another state and, even though I had some reservations about moving, I took it because the further from graduation the more concerned I was about getting a job. [more inside]
posted by spacecowgirl at 7:25 PM PST - 9 comments

New Laptop Best Practices

I have a new laptop (PC, Windows 7 Pro, Toshiba). What should I do/download/install/uninstall/set up to keep it running in tiptop brand new shape? [more inside]
posted by booksherpa at 6:44 PM PST - 8 comments

crazy camp comforts

I am finally going inpatient to deal with my mental health issues on Tuesday. Yay! I am also pretty scared about it. Boo! What can I bring or do to comfort myself in times of boredom seeing it is far away from friends and family? What's lame and what's not for a grown person to bring to crazy camp? What helped you? [more inside]
posted by kanata at 6:17 PM PST - 30 comments

Conflict of interest, but what could possibly go wrong?

Our lawyer, who is amazing and awesome, told me this morning she was considering bidding at the same auction we will bid at this weekend. She hadn't realised until we sent her the contract to look over. Obviously this is a conflict of interest, and my first reaction was that we should find a new lawyer, but on more careful reflection I'm failing to think of how it could really matter. What could actually go wrong here? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 6:10 PM PST - 12 comments

Why are song credits so hard to find?

Anyone know of a dependable encyclopedia for song credits? [more inside]
posted by not_that_epiphanius at 6:06 PM PST - 4 comments

risking a 5 day insurance gap?

I would have a 5 day gap between my new job's health insurance and ending my ACA health insurance. Should I buy another month of ACA or risk the 5 day gap? [more inside]
posted by inevitability at 5:08 PM PST - 18 comments

What questions do (did) you have about earning an MS in the sciences?

I'm putting together a document for future MS students and want to make sure that I'm covering the important bases. What things did you want to know/would you want to know before starting a Master's degree? Field-specific or school-specific things (e.g., questions like "Where is the library") are okay, but I'd also like things that are more general. Thanks!
posted by griseus at 4:50 PM PST - 9 comments

Things The Bible said would happen, but didn't

Outside my work today I got to talking with a Jehovah's Witness. When talk turned to the Bible, I said I didn't take any of it literally. None of it REALLY happened like that. [more inside]
posted by BadgerDoctor at 4:23 PM PST - 14 comments

Why am I not getting a raise?

Is there any legal precedent to fight raises for only incoming employees and not existing staff? [more inside]
posted by teg4rvn at 4:06 PM PST - 21 comments

How to help a child stop being scared of animals?

My daughter (5.5yo) is scared of animals - dogs in particular. If any come close to her, let alone touch her, she starts wailing and crying and runs away. [more inside]
posted by coriolisdave at 3:43 PM PST - 21 comments

How to navigate small social groups that include exes?

My long-distance boyfriend broke up with me about two weeks ago, and now that I am "over" the intial sadness I am worrying about next semester and re-integrating into our social group. [more inside]
posted by clarinet at 3:31 PM PST - 11 comments

Do I own my late parents' house?

My father passed away in 2014 (in TX, if it matters). I am the only heir and my mother pre-deceased him. My father's estate includes the house he lived in. It was fully paid off. There was a court ruling (Dec '14) affirming that I am to inherit his property and that I am the executor of the estate. Do I now own the house? Or is it technically owned by the estate until the (non-mortgage) debts are all finalized? [more inside]
posted by emilisha at 3:29 PM PST - 11 comments

6 Days in Portland/Seattle

This (very) recent question had a lot of good suggestions of things to do in Portland, but I'm in Portland and Seattle for several days each this weekend, and I'm looking for advice about what to do in both cities. Difficulty: like outdoorsy things, but don't have a car. [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 3:19 PM PST - 9 comments

Bachelor party without drinking in North Carolina

Hey, so I'm getting married this October in North Carolina, and I'm wondering what my bachelor party should look like. I can't think of anything to do besides fishing and camping. What are some other fun ideas? Caveat: no drinking. Probably 5-10 people will be on the trip, tops.
posted by oceanjesse at 3:00 PM PST - 29 comments

Advice needed on house heater replacement and NJ clean energy incentive

Share your experiences with heater replacement and home energy audit rebates. We are in the process of vetting contractors to replace our home heater - an oil to gas conversion - and one of them is proposing some home energy remediations, citing saving by taking advantage of NJ's clean energy program. [more inside]
posted by 8dot3 at 2:53 PM PST - 2 comments

Close friend mysteriously cut off contact. Rude to cut her off online?

My closest friend of the past 7 years stopped talking to me out of the blue. Should I delete her online presence? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs at 2:42 PM PST - 33 comments

Ergonomic desk set up that does not require a clamp

Does this exist? I'm looking for the ability to sit/stand at my desk. However, because I have cabinets over/attached to the desk itself, and the desk cannot be moved from the corner it is in, I can't get an accessory to hold two monitors that needs to be clamped to something.
posted by roomthreeseventeen at 2:33 PM PST - 8 comments

Best/cheapest smartphone access in Israel

Traveling to Israel in May. What are my best options for using a smartphone while in-country without breaking the bank? I won't need a lot of data, but I'd like to be able to check email and consult Google Maps. I have an iPhone 6 on Verizon in case it makes sense to use that. Thanks!
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 1:46 PM PST - 7 comments

Which is the best art price reference website?

I need to subscribe to one of these websites that have zillions of auction and sale results for art and antiques. None of them give it away for free. [more inside]
posted by crazylegs at 1:37 PM PST - 4 comments

Family-friendly beach resort in Southern California?

My family be traveling to southern California for a wedding this summer. I'm open to staying anywhere from LA to San Diego, but am stumped as to where to stay. Help us have a relaxing time! [more inside]
posted by snickerdoodle at 1:30 PM PST - 9 comments

Alternate venue for childcare? (Chicago)

I'm organizing a weekend workshop that offers free childcare to attendees. We have a childcare provider; however, for our next event, we ran into the snag that the office space we're using for the workshop itself isn't allowed to host childcare for insurance reasons. [more inside]
posted by anotherthink at 1:13 PM PST - 4 comments

Southern Florida beach town recommendations

Some friends and I are in the early planning stages of a long weekend trip to Florida, and I have this idea in my head of a nice condo on the beach, walking to restaurants in the evening, maybe a boardwalk to wander along. But it is looking like we are going to be flying into Ft. Lauderdale and that part of Florida seems to be mostly resorts and highways. [more inside]
posted by Sabby at 12:57 PM PST - 4 comments

Why didn't the Election of 1824 result in a military junta?

In the election of 1824, Andrew Jackson won the plurality of electoral votes. But a "corrupt bargain" was struck in the House of Representatives to hand the Presidency to John Quincy Adams. Jackson was famous for his military leadership during the War of 1812, the Creek Indian War, and for the effective annexation of Florida from Spain to the US shortly thereafter. The number of cities and streets named in his honor is fairly significant. This was a military leader with clout. So why didn't he draw upon his military popularity in order to launch a military junta and assume his defensibly "rightful" place as President? [more inside]
posted by jefficator at 11:47 AM PST - 15 comments

Seeing-Eye Role Reversal

One of my dogs has suddenly developed some vision issues, and is having some trouble adjusting. It's breaking my heart to see her bump into things and become disoriented. Have any mefites gone through a transition like this? What are your tips/tricks to becoming a seeing-eye human? [more inside]
posted by Fig at 11:18 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me not screw up teaching my students about p-values

I am a TA in an introductory college biology lab. Soon, I have to teach a class of mostly freshmen about t-tests and p-values in conjunction with a field experiment that they are conducting and on which they will have to write a report. I want to make sure I do this right—help me! [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 10:47 AM PST - 15 comments

Should you stay or should you go: Lead Pain edition

We bought an antique sideboard for our kitchen a few months ago. It is perfect in form and function. It is very distressed looking and at first we loved it, but now I want to refinish it. Turns out, it was painted with lead paint at some point. Should it stay or should we sell it? [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas at 10:45 AM PST - 21 comments

Credit report dispute/error, city tax edition.

The city says they will remove the negative report upon payment. Should I also contest it from my side with the credit agencies? [more inside]
posted by Dashy at 10:42 AM PST - 2 comments

Give me your best NON-RELIGIOUS wedding readings

I'm looking for a short reading for our wedding that we can ask an athiest friend of ours to read. Other portions of the ceremony will contain religious elements, but we don't want to ask him to read anything that might make him feel uncomfortable or awkward. [more inside]
posted by rainbowbrite at 10:26 AM PST - 29 comments

Quickbooks - Is this really how we do things?

My friend's computer died. I was able to get most of his files off by plugging his hard drive into my computer. Except for Quickbooks - because his backup was a little old. I remember from the last time that trying to grab the current file didn't work. Really?
posted by notned at 10:19 AM PST - 5 comments

Danbury -> Newport - anything cool along the way?

Leaving Danbury, CT at 8-9am on Saturday. Need to be at an event in Newport, RI by 4:30pm. I'm going to tour The Breakers, but what else should I do, either on the way or once I get there? Especially looking for arts & crafts/fabric/yarn stores beyond the usual big box ones.
posted by Lucinda at 10:17 AM PST - 4 comments

Good body weight exercises that need minimal/no equipment

I'm looking for recommendations for body weight exercises I can do at home and on my own schedule that require minimal or no equipment. [more inside]
posted by slogger at 10:10 AM PST - 27 comments

Your best savings/couponing hacks

As a former couponing machine, I'm looking to learn some of the most current trends and easiest ways to get back into the savings and reward-earnings game. I'm NOT looking for general frugality or budgeting tips. [more inside]
posted by wannabecounselor at 9:52 AM PST - 11 comments

Your calendar event has been rescheduled to the exact same time. (Not)

I use Google Calendar. My colleague uses Outlook. Whenever he re-schedules a calendar event, I just get an email with the old event time. Help?! [more inside]
posted by Gordafarin at 9:37 AM PST - 1 comment

Best way to have this work schedule conversation?

I need to ask for accommodation in terms of schedule/telecommuting at my job very soon due to health issues. What’s the best way to phrase this and how do I bring it up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:29 AM PST - 7 comments

Sensual Songs

Tell me about some songs that are sensual in the way that "Take Me to Church" is, but aren't overtly, explicitly sexual the way that "Do Me!" or "Let's Get It On" are. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:27 AM PST - 61 comments

What are some of the best curated reads in business and finance?

You are smart and well read. What curated link digests do you read on a regular basis? [more inside]
posted by rippersid at 8:52 AM PST - 8 comments

What do you call this client hack... err, management technique?

There is a client management "hack" that is common in the web design industry that involves purposely incorporating bad or incongruous design elements so that the client has something easy to redline during the first design presentation. I believe there was a seminal article that introduced a visual sort of term for this. Something like "The White Rabbit" because they described putting a picture of a white rabbit onto a banking website (just an example). [more inside]
posted by rada at 8:51 AM PST - 12 comments

Biograffiti

First off, a caveat. This is an entirely hypothetical question. I'm not planning on doing this. So, if you got a party popper, (I'm thinking probably of the springloaded ones, but maybe the other kind would work too) emptied it out and filled it with seeds, what kind of seeds would a) cause the most havoc and b) be most pleasant. [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 8:47 AM PST - 13 comments

PA Neighborhood with "easy" commute to NYC

Looking for a good neighborhood (safe, good elementary schools, cozy) in PA which will still allow frequent trips (mostly off peak hours) into NYC. Prefer to have option to drive or Mass Transit, either direct or drive + train. [more inside]
posted by Debaser626 at 8:26 AM PST - 15 comments

Looking for a good raincoat that will keep me very dry but not warm

I need a new raincoat. I would like it to keep me very dry. I need to be able to pack it in a small space. I have a great trench coat that I love but sometimes rain soaks through it and it's a little bulky for travel. What raincoat should I get? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 8:05 AM PST - 8 comments

Clothing allowance for a 15yo girl?

My niece is turning 15 next month, and I'd like to set up some sort of clothing allowance for her - any suggestions on amounts or how to organize? [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl at 8:03 AM PST - 19 comments

Options for storing my growing collection of movies/music/TV on my Mac?

I own a macbook with 256 GB of space. I used to have a 1 TB backup drive but it broke, along with the majority of my media files; this is the second time in two years that I've had a hard drive go bad on me. I opted for a smaller 256 GB SSD for backup this time around as I heard they're less prone to failing, but it's too small for me to put on much besides my Time Machine backup. What options do I have to store my other files? [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 7:40 AM PST - 10 comments

How Do You Find Art by Obscure Artists?

Recently we purchased a watercolor by an artist, who we discovered was originally from Wisconsin. During the 1930s he spent time in California working as an artist before returning to Madison, Wisconsin, where he spent his final years (1940s-1970s). We really like the artist's life story and artwork and would like to find more of his paintings. But, he's very obscure, help? [more inside]
posted by Atreides at 7:33 AM PST - 8 comments

Dog and cats living together...NOT mass hysteria?

We've had an adopted coonhound for four months, and she's essentially ignored our two cats the whole time. All of a sudden she's started to act aggressively toward them. Why?? What can we do?? [more inside]
posted by Bromius at 7:27 AM PST - 8 comments

What gift would the staff at my local Starbucks appreciate?

The Starbucks near my office has donated coffee and snacks to a nonprofit event for quite a while. I would like to give the team there a gift to show my appreciation. My usual ideas for group gifts -- baskets of cookies or other treats -- seems like a bad fit, since the employees work with food all day and may not want a basket of sugar. Have you worked at a coffee shop/restaurant/etc. and gotten a great gift from a customer that everyone enjoyed? Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by southern_sky at 6:42 AM PST - 13 comments

Schedule C deduction of education expenses- help!

You are not an accountant or not my accountant, and I take full responsibility for verifying any information that you provide me. [more inside]
posted by cacao at 5:53 AM PST - 2 comments

Little embroidered riding hood

My husband's aunt gave me a beautifully embroidered cape that I will never ever wear, not in a million years. What should I do with it? [more inside]
posted by lollymccatburglar at 5:51 AM PST - 26 comments

Need some some help finding a short-term apartment (or hotel) in London.

My wife and thirteen year old son are making a last-minute trip to London in roughly three weeks and I need some help understanding the area and suggestions for where to find lodging. [more inside]
posted by jeremias at 5:45 AM PST - 5 comments

Cute, fun textiles that won't break the bank

As springtime arrives, I would like to spruce up my house with some cute, inexpensive textiles. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by sutel at 5:03 AM PST - 17 comments

Why does facebook mark this guardian link as suspicious?

I posted a link on my facebook page to the Guardian piece about David Pocock calling out homophobic slurs in a recent Super15 rugby match. But during posting, facebook complained that the link looked malicious, and asked me to confirm it was safe. [more inside]
posted by theyexpectresults at 4:19 AM PST - 5 comments

Good headhunter and career counselor in LA?

A friend of mine is transitioning careers and is looking for both a headhunter to help find jobs and a career counselor to provide some advice/guidance. Any recommendations? Thanks in advance!
posted by persona au gratin at 1:06 AM PST - 5 comments

March 24

Why does the font in the Transparent credits look so familiar?

My friend recently started watching Transparent on Amazon, and she mentioned that the font used for the credits looks so familiar, like from some '80s TV show, and it's really been bugging her that she can't remember what other show it looks like. She showed me a screencap and I can't figure it out either, and now it's bugging me! Anyone know what '80s (or late '70s possibly?) TV show also used this font, or one very similar to it? Thanks in advance!
posted by stennieville at 11:41 PM PST - 10 comments

Help an absolute beginner tweet (for a business)

I've just opened a small restaurant/take out spot in Tokyo, and I've been told that Twitter is a lot more popular here than Facebook among (especially young) Japanese people, and that I should join. So, I did. Now what? Is there a Twitter for Beginners guide? Advice for connecting facebook, twitter, and my sorely unused instagram? Unspoken rules of etiquette?
posted by Ghidorah at 11:28 PM PST - 11 comments

Good toys/climby things for newly three-legged cat?

My mum's boisterous siamese The Lola was recently hit by a car, and had to have a broken leg amputated (pinning was deemed unlikely to work). I'm going to be watching her house next week and I'm assuming The Lola's usual physical pastime of climbing on the roof is not going to be very viable anymore. Given she's likely to have recovered from the surgery by then, what are some playthings that might be good to cheer her up/tire her out while she doesn't have full balance back yet? [more inside]
posted by solarion at 9:52 PM PST - 12 comments

NYC with big kids

We're going to be in NYC for two weeks from Friday. I've read most of the previous Asks so now I'm looking for updated info and things that are specific for seeing NYC with three children (10, 12 & 14). [more inside]
posted by stellathon at 9:13 PM PST - 28 comments

Is online dating a good idea? If so, which site should I choose?

I'm 23 years old and I have had limited experience with dating in person. I'm pretty busy with school that it keeps me from meeting people I like. Therefore, I've considered doing online dating but I'm a little concerned about catfish and people who just want to hookups. For those of you who have experience with online dating, does online dating have a good pool of people who look for a serious relationship? If so, are paid sites like eHarmony or match.com better than free sites such as OKCupid? Thank you for your response!
posted by missybitsy at 8:41 PM PST - 33 comments

Where to buy a cocktail dress in NYC?

I'm buying my girlfriend a vintage or vintage-inspired cocktail dress for her birthday. We're in NYC. Where are some good places to shop? [more inside]
posted by goingonit at 8:27 PM PST - 2 comments

Printing and binding 500 copies of a weirdly-bound book

I want to print and distribute 500 copies of a comic-art project I've been working on, but either want to do a crazy accordion fold (40 panels, each about 5 inches wide, so a little over 8 feet long if I print on both sides) or perfectly bound with some fold-out pages inside. Does anyone know how I could get that printed and bound in two and half weeks (by April 10)? I would prefer to find a printer/binder in the Boston area, but am open to working with businesses online. Thanks!
posted by mrmanvir at 8:26 PM PST - 2 comments

Planning S.O. Surprise Party

How to plan the best surprise party ever and what are some great places around Boston to celebrate the big 3-0! [more inside]
posted by melizabeth at 8:24 PM PST - 5 comments

in just 45 minutes your life will be changed!

All that stands between me and total job satisfaction is 45 minutes, but it seems these might be a very contentious 45 minutes? Help me figure out of this is fixable or not. [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 7:39 PM PST - 51 comments

Office snack food I can order from Amazon

I get super hungry at work. I have a fast metabolism and I can feel my blood sugar getting low and then I NEED FOOD NOW and end up spending money at the cafeteria or vending machine, which is too much sugar and too much money. I ride a motorcycle in so it's not convenient for me to physically bring stuff in--I want to set up weekly/monthly auto-renewed deliveries of snacks from Amazon that aren't too sugary or too expensive. [more inside]
posted by brenton at 7:13 PM PST - 25 comments

Which health insurance policy should I use at this appointment?

I have an appointment with a psychiatric nurse tomorrow, I have two insurance policies that overlap until the end of the month, and I don't know which policy would be the smartest to use. [more inside]
posted by fantoche at 7:05 PM PST - 11 comments

(Jazz?) Music composed over people talking normally

Looking for Aleatoric compositions on unaltered voice tracks. [more inside]
posted by codybaldwin at 6:55 PM PST - 10 comments

Zen retreat in Japan

This summer I would like to do something interesting. I would like to go to a place in Japan or China or somewhere in the East to meditate and perhaps live a bit like how a monk lives. Zen fascinates me. And I think might be more inclined towards the Rinzai school but since I am a novice I prefer not to make sharp judgments about things I do not know. [more inside]
posted by iliketothinknu at 6:41 PM PST - 10 comments

Oh, to be in England; Now that April's there.

A wonderful holiday opportunity for Shepherd and I in the UK. But we need some assistance with the sights! Serene not so rural snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 6:40 PM PST - 5 comments

what were these two free online books?

I've been trying for years to figure out what either of these two books were that I read online, probably between 1998-2004. Unrelated sources. One was aimed at kids and found through Bonus.com (kids activities portal, mostly to flash games, where things were hosted independently) and one was original fiction, I think unfinished, about virtual reality, which may have been linked to from Ultima Online fansites. More scraps of details inside. [more inside]
posted by C. K. Dexter Haven at 5:56 PM PST - 1 comment

Jesus was a mushroom by John Allegro - full version ???

Does anyone know where the full version of this interview is???? http://youtu.be/IN-bURgoxPY This is only 42 seconds !!! This interview is so fascinating I just have to see the full version !! I've Been asking this question for literally years, I think there is a global conspiracy to stop me from watching the whole interview! Please Help!
posted by flexiverse at 5:55 PM PST - 4 comments

WWJD: What [Boundaries] Would Jesus Designate?

Growing up Christian with a fundamentalist slant, I internalized Jesus's "turn the other cheek" teachings to mean, "don't ever set boundaries or express anger."** I'm no longer Christian, but I'm working on reclaiming my spiritual past and figuring out what to keep and what to set aside. Are there texts that interpret the teachings of Jesus through a lens of social justice/personal boundaries/feminism/activism? I'm interested in scholarly or theological texts rather than pop psychology books. [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 5:37 PM PST - 12 comments

What kind of raise can I expect after passing the bar?

Are "bar passage" raises nominal in nature? [more inside]
posted by kbennett289 at 5:03 PM PST - 6 comments

It's not a ripoff; it's an homage

I would like to remake an existing game (probably something older) as a browser game (using HTML5/CSS/JavaScript, not Flash or Unity). Help me find some games to consider. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 4:31 PM PST - 10 comments

How to stay with my partner in urgent care?

I have a chronic illness that gets out of control periodically and requires iv drugs. I am exhausted, in a lot of pain, and very disoriented by the time I end up at the hospital. I want my partner with me the entire time, but the nurses won't allow it at urgent care. It's not a problem at the ER. Is there something we can say or do to change this? [more inside]
posted by congen at 4:26 PM PST - 14 comments

Baseball meets tennis racket

Another question from the "things my 9-year-old asked me and Google can't find" file: what would happen if you tried to hit a major league fastball with a tennis racket? Would the ball rip through the strings? Or would you actually be able to hit the ball back with distance? Would you hurt yourself?
posted by escabeche at 3:33 PM PST - 6 comments

Free app/program/software for positioning light onto basic shapes?

Free app/program/software for positioning light onto basic renderings of geometric shapes? [more inside]
posted by DeltaForce at 3:31 PM PST - 4 comments

Long-term risks of retinol/AHA products?

I started using retinol and AHA products in my early 20s. Are there any risks to using them in the long term? [more inside]
posted by noxperpetua at 3:04 PM PST - 10 comments

Is there any resource for iBot repair?

A friend of mine is confined to a chair, and the ibot was a game changer for him, but since the dissolution of the company that distributed and repaired them, time is running out for this quality-of-life issue for him and others. Are there repairmen out there? What advice can you give on obtaining schematics that are being withheld supposedly for liability reasons? Short of a specific solution....how have you dealt with a technology that is prematurely obsolete? [more inside]
posted by OHenryPacey at 2:34 PM PST - 4 comments

Parting ways with a childhood home

I'm having trouble letting go of my childhood home that I inherited, and the lifetime of stuff inside it. I could use some advice about how to move on. [more inside]
posted by Banknote of the year at 1:58 PM PST - 28 comments

gift/gesture for girlfriend's roommates

Hivemind! Throw ideas at me! I'm looking to get a small token of "thanks for letting me hanging out in your place for a week" for my long-distance girlfriend's roommates. Ideally <$10. Food items are great. [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 1:48 PM PST - 20 comments

Looking for a neighborhood in Los Angeles

My partner and I are considering a move to Los Angeles. I have gathered from previous questions and short visits that thinking of "Los Angeles" as one giant city is both overwhelming and not actually helpful in figuring out whether or not we would be happy there. Can you help us narrow down our thinking to specific neighborhoods that might be a good fit? [more inside]
posted by CtrlAltDelete at 1:30 PM PST - 29 comments

Looking for poems about birth.

After many years of ambivalence, two years of infertility, some surgeries, some IVF, and 9 months of actual pregnancy, I am about to have a BABY. Due to placenta previa, it will be a scheduled c-section, which is great because most likely me and baby will end up alive! But sad because I'd hoped for a natural childbirth to balance out the scientific conception. My hospital does "gentle" c-sections, so I'm allowed to do immediate skin-to-skin, play music in the operating room, and even "read a poem or a story." [more inside]
posted by apostrophe at 1:25 PM PST - 13 comments

What are the kidz into these days?

After a long wait a lovely friend of mine has just become foster Mummy to two children who will be staying for the foreseeable future. Yay! I'm meeting them in a couple of days and would like to bring them each a present, but I don't know what to get them. The girl is 8 and the boy is 6 and I have no clue what these age groups are into. I don't want to ask my friend as I'd like it to be a surprise (and also she'd just try and talk me out of it). So I'm asking you lovely people instead. [more inside]
posted by billiebee at 1:20 PM PST - 32 comments

Wine 101 Me

Wine-loving mefites: please give me your best wine resources, texts, online communities, podcasts, apps... and anything else you think would help a reasonably food-savvy mefite looking to move beyond "well, I remember I liked this one... I think?" [more inside]
posted by ominous_paws at 1:17 PM PST - 12 comments

You can't be the murderer, you were the bereft mother once on CSI.

Is there a list somewhere of actors who have been most used as a one-off person of interest on monster-of-the-week style procedurals? [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 12:55 PM PST - 22 comments

How to kill termites without killing my family?

We've got termites and everybody says the place needs to be tented. But we actually want to, like, keep living here and not die. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 12:50 PM PST - 8 comments

WOW: wow? or no wow?

Friendly people from WOW Cable/Internet/Phone are blowing up my mailbox and doorbell with cheap offers to switch over from Comcast. Is this a terrible idea? [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 12:37 PM PST - 13 comments

Vacations for newbies: San Francisco edition

San Francisco in October for two on a modest budget: transportation and (cooking friendly) accommodations [more inside]
posted by carrioncomfort at 11:44 AM PST - 19 comments

How to trick out a fiberglass animal for a public art project?

Our community, like many, will feature fiberglass animals this summer (a la the Chicago cows). I need to decorate a fiberglass fish such that it resembles a classic carousel animal. That entails sanding, painting, shaping the tack, adhering separately molded pieces, and finishing the whole shebang so it can be displayed outdoors. I'm crafty, but I've never done anything like this before... so I have questions. Calling car restorers, boaters, prop-makers, and others skilled in the dark art of fiberglass fabrication! [more inside]
posted by carmicha at 11:34 AM PST - 6 comments

How to pick a wheel chair? [extra challenge: wrist pain]

My boyfriend has ankle pain that prevents him from doing much walking. This has trapped him in our apartment for nearly a year now. We want to buy a wheelchair so he can go do things again, but don't know how to pick one. [more inside]
posted by triscuit at 11:21 AM PST - 24 comments

What prevents gift card discounts from becoming an arbitrage opprotunity

Every now and then I see iTunes Gift Cards drop in price. Just today, $100 cards are on sale for $75. What would prevent someone with a deep bank account from buying 1000 and cashing in? I always figure there must be a catch, but I don't see it.
posted by GilloD at 11:18 AM PST - 14 comments

How to stop ink-jet print from smearing. Difficulty: need to color on it

I'd like to be able to color on drawings printed with an ink-jet printer, but using markers smears the ink-jet ink. [more inside]
posted by clone boulevard at 11:14 AM PST - 12 comments

5 day trip to Portland, OR

What 2 things would you recommend a friend do during a 5 day trip to Portland, Oregon in mid April?
posted by garlic at 10:52 AM PST - 25 comments

it wasn't me, I wasn't there / I was stone drunk, it isn't clear

I used to be very, very wild. Now I am very, very boring. How can I bridge the gap to get back in touch with the people who only knew me as I was back then? Difficulty level: I don't want to talk about the old days at all. [more inside]
posted by divined by radio at 10:44 AM PST - 21 comments

Looking for super-comfortable mens' boots. I can shop in NYC or online.

I need to find some super-comfortable mens' boots. Looking for boot recommendations, as well as places to shop. I can shop in NYC or online. [more inside]
posted by evil otto at 10:32 AM PST - 13 comments

iOS/web apps that remember where you stopped watching a youtube video

Now that watchlaterapp has been killed by Apple, are there any other apps that let you watch a youtube/vimeo video, stop at an arbitrary location and then subsequently continue from that spot after restarting the app? [more inside]
posted by aeighty at 10:20 AM PST - 0 comments

NY I need my fix.

Arirang, my go-to Korean spot on 32nd Street HAS CLOSED. What is a good replacement? How can my heart be satisfied? Any borough! Help me, mefites!
posted by whimsicalnymph at 9:51 AM PST - 10 comments

Can I shirk my duty?

I have to mail a large number of packages containing electronic devices, say printers, to a few dozen military sites overseas. If I am shipping to a foreign Air/Army Post Office (APO) or a Fleet Post Office (FPO) on a US Military Base, do I have to pay customs duties and taxes on those goods? [more inside]
posted by cross_impact at 9:43 AM PST - 9 comments

Preventive visits on high deductible plans?

I am using my high deductible health insurance for the first time. "Preventive" services are completely free. Help me understand how to stay within preventive services. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 9:42 AM PST - 12 comments

death of a grandparent

My father was just given a very bleak prognosis. Of all the things that are upsetting, I am most distraught by the thought that my toddler will not remember my father. I am pregnant and there is a chance that my son (due in June) will never even meet my dad. I'm looking for advice on how to manage my sadness about this. [more inside]
posted by avocado_of_merriment at 9:38 AM PST - 26 comments

Silly, yet arguable, questions

Can you help me compile a list of silly, yes/no style questions? [more inside]
posted by meese at 9:33 AM PST - 25 comments

Triumph of the Underdog

Please help me find examples that illustrate an idea I like about underdogs. [more inside]
posted by greytape at 9:33 AM PST - 9 comments

What can I make with these ingredients?

I need to make a big meal of something to eat for lunch over the next few days (will be fridged and microwaved). I have a lot of ingredients that don't make a lot of sense together (to me, at least) that I'd like to use up as much of as possible. [more inside]
posted by disaster77 at 9:31 AM PST - 10 comments

City for a long weekend getaway?

My wife and I have some friends willing to watch our kids and 50,000 Delta skymiles each. We'd like to spend a long, car free weekend in a city that is new to us. We want to have a hotel room from which we can walk to nice restaurants and fun or interesting attractions (we like good museums and parks, for example). We've been to Boston, D.C., San Francisco, San Diego, Chicago, and New York. Can you suggest somewhere new in the U.S. or Canada that would be fun to visit?
posted by Area Man at 9:18 AM PST - 23 comments

Help me understand USPS rates

Are the USPS rates quoted online the same as the ones you get at the postal counter? [more inside]
posted by rancher at 9:10 AM PST - 14 comments

What was this story about a scientist contacting another one?

NewYorkerFilter: my friend is trying to identify a feature about a writer trying to contact her father's rival. [more inside]
posted by blazingunicorn at 9:06 AM PST - 4 comments

Latin to English translation

Please translate into Latin: "surprised or confused." [more inside]
posted by cake vandal at 8:46 AM PST - 4 comments

I would like to take a beach vacation.

But not just any beach vacation. I demand certain characteristics! [more inside]
posted by schooley at 8:35 AM PST - 23 comments

Subaru Legacy, Mazda 6, or Toyota Camry? Opinions, please

In the spirit of this thread, I'd like to ask for opinions from people who have or have had a Subaru Legacy, Mazda 6, or Toyota Camry (hybrid or regular). We're having a second baby in July, and we don't think two car seats and all the kid paraphernalia (we also have a 2.5 year old) will fit in our 2004 Honda Civic. We're looking at new cars. [more inside]
posted by Anne Neville at 8:22 AM PST - 29 comments

Help Me Stay Busy During Grief

My father died a few days ago. Everybody is telling me that it helps to stay busy. I would like to try that, but certain life circumstances make it difficult. More inside. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 8:19 AM PST - 16 comments

Moving to Louisville, KY for beginners

Greg Nog and I are moving to Louisville in a few months! We know basically nothing about the city, so please help us find a nice neighborhood to live in, narrow our housing search, and/or manage our expectations. Some desires inside. [more inside]
posted by likeatoaster at 8:11 AM PST - 10 comments

What is this electronic instrument?

Here's an interview with Steven Universe creator Rebecca wherein she briefly plays an electronic instrument (at about 1:20) that I've never seen before. What is it?
posted by Sokka shot first at 7:14 AM PST - 5 comments

Lauren Bacall Me, Maybe?

My question is two-fold: I am looking for songs from the late 90's to now that would be good candidates for reinterprating in vintage Jazz styles from the 20's to the 40's. I am also looking for a name for this group--a portamentaou that combines the name of an entertainer from the 20's, 30's, or 40's with something from the modern era. An example would be "Lauren Bacall Me, Maybe". [more inside]
posted by sourwookie at 7:02 AM PST - 20 comments

Word of the Days

1. Define "metatemporal". 2. Click here. 3. It can't not be a joke... so it's a joke. Right? Ha ha?
posted by t(h)om(as) at 6:36 AM PST - 3 comments

I'm not sad. I just can't. Do. Anything.

I'm so frustrated. I've been depressed for years. Used to have all the classic signs, now I remain with just one big one: I've always complained about being chronically fatigued, and maybe there's some truth to that, but I'm almost never sleepy. I just can't bring myself to do anything that requires any effort whatsoever. The ONLY thing that helps get me over the hump of what really and truly feels like a paralysis is massive amounts of caffeine. What is this and how do I regain functionality before I end up stroking out at 30? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:33 AM PST - 23 comments

Help me love

Guys, I’ve gotten off track. I’ve lost my way. And I’m worried that I won’t get to be in love again because it scares me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:33 AM PST - 7 comments

What's happening to my images?

Hoping someone can help. Why are my images fine on my computer, but full of artifacts when uploaded? [more inside]
posted by Nyx at 6:24 AM PST - 8 comments

Web Order form for website?

Being someone who knows a little bit about computers, a friend has asked if I could make a web order form for their business. Is there a free or commercial way to do this? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by sock, the puppet at 6:21 AM PST - 9 comments

I need a simple excel macro and I'm willing to pay.

I often (upwards of 15 times a day) need to select some of the text within a cell or textbox in Excel, and format it bold and red. Not all the text in the cell/box -- just the text I select. Is it possible to write macros to do this task? And where should I go to find someone to write it? [more inside]
posted by NoiselessPenguin at 5:23 AM PST - 13 comments

Why do cats unroll toilet paper?

I searched google and saw only hits talking about how to stop the behavior, but that doesn't interest me. I'd really like to know if there are people out there who've tried to understand *why* some cats do this?
posted by dancing leaves at 5:18 AM PST - 18 comments

video game satire

Does anyone remember a recent post (possibly on a Tumblr) describing a satirical, feminist-alternate-universe history of video games? [more inside]
posted by gerryblog at 4:58 AM PST - 5 comments

Camping in Queensland

We're looking at going camping for the Easter long weekend and taking our telescope with us. We have a couple of requirements. [more inside]
posted by poxandplague at 1:55 AM PST - 5 comments

How to give myself a remedial science education

So I was recently faced with a serious health care decision, and the people advising me strongly disagreed with each other, which made me realize something: I don't know enough science to make well-reasoned decisions for myself and my family. Help me figure out a DIY way to make up the gaps. [more inside]
posted by feets at 1:38 AM PST - 15 comments

How do I pass my driving test after multiple fails?

Several yrs ago I failed my test a monumental.. 9 times. The first couple of times I wasn't arced as it seemed within a normal range. Then I had the same examiner 3 times on the trot (who obviously recognised me because I'd failed before) I suspect this was one of the things that threw me. I feel there was nothing I didn't try - I tried a hypnotist/beta blockers/NLP/different instructors/Acupuncture/An intense course. Everyone finds it HILARIOUS.. except me. I've probably spent 7,000 pounds. [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 1:03 AM PST - 45 comments

March 23

How to "block" unwanted contact

I've had a stalker for about 4 years. I'm not physically afraid of this person, but this is a nuisance in terms of intrusive, unwanted phone calls, texts, emails, social media. I am just so done with this person not respecting my right to peace in my own home. How do I "block" landline/cell phone when Verizon tells me "no can do?" Details after the fold. [more inside]
posted by alwayson_slightlyoff at 11:55 PM PST - 21 comments

How can I stop being so nervous/anxious around my boss?

I started a new job almost 3 months ago now and I'm generally liking it, but I'm still feeling very nervous when I interact with my boss. I almost feel afraid to interact with him. How can I end this? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 10:29 PM PST - 15 comments

Linoleum supply & installation recommendations? San Francisco

I have an estimate from an established San Francisco-based company X for Armstrong linoleum for my kitchen (@14' x 10') and bathroom (@8' x 8'). The estimate is $2400 for the kitchen and $1200 for the bathroom. Which seems high, even in San Francisco dollars. (But I don't really know.) So I'm going to get a couple more estimates. Any specific names of companies/people to ask?
posted by ClaudiaCenter at 9:35 PM PST - 7 comments

Making a paperback book from a LaTeX file

I need to reformat a LaTeX document: PDF, LaTeX for printing as a paperback [more inside]
posted by sindark at 9:31 PM PST - 8 comments

How do you cope with a long distance relationship?

How do you handle long distance relationships, or rather potential long distance and keep your mind off of things without dwelling on it too much? [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue at 9:04 PM PST - 14 comments

The smarter I get in school, the dumber I get in life

I'm finishing a Master's program at a top-10 university in my field. I'm generally pretty confident in my intelligence and am doing fine-to-great in school, but I am starting to make just dumb, inattentive mistakes in life. My questions: should I worry about this? How do I fix this? Have you experienced something like this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:01 PM PST - 16 comments

Japanese Wedding Background Song Suggestions

I'm getting married in Tokyo soon and we need some ideas for Japanese wedding background songs. My fiancee is Japanese but hasn't really listened to Japanese music in a long time and neither have I. [more inside]
posted by Sangermaine at 8:18 PM PST - 1 comment

What music is this?

Most of the music in this documentary about Sviatoslav Richter is labeled, but the music starting at 1:10:49 for Stalin's death isn't. What's the composer and title? Thanks!
posted by clawsoon at 6:24 PM PST - 1 comment

Best of Netflix and Amazon Originals

Amazon and Netflix are now producing boatloads of original content. w00t! Cord cutters rejoice! I love that they are making all this content that cord cutters don't have to get locked out of. I really want to watch and support a lot of these shows. The only thing is, I get the feeling they are producing quantity a bit more than quality. Help me unearth the gems of Netflix and Amazon originals. [more inside]
posted by fx3000 at 6:21 PM PST - 42 comments

Please identify this bird.

Sorry no pics, but it was so distinctive that I'm hoping you guys can help me. I'm in Portland, OR, and saw it last week in a large park. It was a perching bird, about 6", and was either on the ground flipping over leaves or perching about eye-level in the small trees. It let me get quite close, and seemed more curious than wary. [more inside]
posted by Specklet at 6:20 PM PST - 12 comments

sleeeeeeep, at rotating times

How can I acclimate myself to a rotating sleep schedule without getting sad/breaking out/other less than ideal things? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 5:40 PM PST - 9 comments

I gotta broken face, I gotta broken face, I gotta...

I'm looking for advice, stories, resources, statistics, reassurances about what to expect as far as jaw repair when there's dislocation of the bone. [more inside]
posted by kagredon at 4:57 PM PST - 10 comments

A young family in possession of a back yard must be in want of some toys

We (parents and 2 boys ages 4 and 16 months), recently relocated from an apartment with no outdoor space to a house with a backyard. A couple of months in, the joys of simply running in circles are finally wearing off. What outdoor toys/equipment can we get for the kids that will maximize everyone's fun? [more inside]
posted by The Elusive Architeuthis at 4:54 PM PST - 37 comments

Is there a legal case here?

I have a friend in the Seattle, WA area who's trying to determine if she should consider filing a lawsuit against a jail/prison and, if so, where to start. Details below. [more inside]
posted by persephone's rant at 3:42 PM PST - 4 comments

Murder, she watched...?

I liked Luther. I liked Wire in the Blood. I like Criminal Minds. What else will i like? [more inside]
posted by ramix at 3:37 PM PST - 33 comments

Help dealing with USPS and recurring lost mail

USPS has lost four packages of mine in the last three months without a trace. Each was handed to my mail carrier and never scanned into the system. Insurance claims denied because it was never scanned into the system, carrier supervisor unhelpful. Looking for advice on how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 3:00 PM PST - 25 comments

How to select a day pack?

How should I select a day pack for hiking? What factors should I consider? What features should I think about? [more inside]
posted by OrangeDisk at 2:53 PM PST - 10 comments

Which solar panel should I buy?

I want to get into solar by putting ONE solar panel on my roof, then plugging it into a generator. Which solar panel should I buy? [more inside]
posted by cda at 2:31 PM PST - 6 comments

College Pro Painters. Yea or Nay?

Has anyone hired College Pro Painters to paint their house? [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 1:59 PM PST - 11 comments

What's my job title?

I'm a project manager who also does a fair amount of business development and consulting for my mid-sized agency. I also own a lot of internal projects and infrastructure. I need a job title that highlights my unique contributions, and doesn't sound too precious to my relatively small, flat organization. [more inside]
posted by meghosaurus at 1:24 PM PST - 8 comments

DWP billing quagmire

Last July we received notice that the DWP had mistakenly charged us due to the installation of a new meter at our house and that we owed like a thousand dollars in usage. [more inside]
posted by silsurf at 1:14 PM PST - 18 comments

Songs for sucking the marrow out of life

Wanted: music to remind me to live deliberately, live consciously, and not coast through life on autopilot. [more inside]
posted by DevilsAdvocate at 1:12 PM PST - 62 comments

When did the first pet shops open?

I know dog/cat breeders were a service/profession going a long ways back but when did pets as a retail commodity become a thing? From some internet searching I know some of the big chains got their start in the mid-60's and that there were smaller, local "pet stores" even earlier but how early?
posted by Captain_Science at 12:53 PM PST - 11 comments

Staying comfortable with a rotator cuff sprain

I would like to do the above; how? I'm supposed to rest it but not too much. Also, what is a normal amount of wear and tear for a late-30s non-athlete? [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 12:30 PM PST - 8 comments

What are the logistics of a naturalization ceremony?

My husband is scheduled to become a US citizen in a couple weeks at the Eastern District of New York, in downtown Brooklyn. It's a weekday and we've been told to appear by 8:30 am. I understand that it will probably last until noon. Have you been through this process, and can you help me figure out some logistics? [more inside]
posted by Liesl at 12:09 PM PST - 10 comments

Why is my internet so sluggish and choppy?

My internet browsing is very slow and choppy, and I can't quite figure out why. Speed tests report my connection is average or above average. [more inside]
posted by naju at 11:58 AM PST - 18 comments

Home remedies for a dog with kennel cough

How can I make my dog with kennel cough more comfortable as she recovers? [more inside]
posted by Zosia Blue at 11:58 AM PST - 9 comments

Replacing an inkjet printer with a laser printer

Convince me to replace my inkjet printer with a laser printer! [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 11:52 AM PST - 31 comments

Cat Introductions, One Bedroom Apartment Edition

We brought home a second cat yesterday in an effort to give our existing cat a playmate. They began interacting nearly right away, and I'm not sure what to do about overnight arrangements. Additional sleep-deprived ramblings inside. [more inside]
posted by area.man at 11:13 AM PST - 8 comments

Raspberry Pi Information Screen for a Church Lobby

I got the go-ahead to build a Raspberry Pi-based information screen (mostly upcoming events) for the lobby of my church. I am a software guy so I've got that side mostly figured out. But how do I mount the Pi? On the back of the monitor somehow? I need to mount the monitor fairly high on the wall. I have access to a standard outlet. [more inside]
posted by circular at 11:11 AM PST - 6 comments

Car rental insurance in the UK (and paying US rates for the rentals!)

I'm a US citizen with a US driver's license, currently living in London. I don't own a car and I don't have car insurance. I'm planning to rent cars on holidays in the UK and elsewhere in Europe a few times this year. How do I do this without buying the typically exorbitant insurance coverage from the rental agencies and not relying on the limited coverage that my US credit card offers? [more inside]
posted by theory at 10:16 AM PST - 7 comments

Remove heavy duty drawer slides

Trying to remove a cabinet drawer attached with a heavy duty sliding rail. [more inside]
posted by hylaride at 9:47 AM PST - 14 comments

Am I insane?

I am a 27 year old woman with a college degree who works in an office all day. Can I become a carpenter? Should I? [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz at 9:43 AM PST - 42 comments

Which cities in Africa speak the most French?

I want to go to Africa and learn French. I have seen an old ask mefi question asking similar, but I specifically am looking for the cities in Africa that speak French with the highest frequency, and it would be a bonus if they don't speak English (So I'll be forced to learn French). I haven't been able to google any statistics by city. Thanks.
posted by crawltopslow at 9:31 AM PST - 18 comments

Job Reference Screw Up

You are always supposed to ask someone if they will provide you with a positive job reference. I did not do that with any of the references I listed on a job application. I just went on an interview and I think they will be calling my references soon. I realize now that this is a major faux pas. Is there anything I can do at this point to save this situation? [more inside]
posted by galvanized unicorn at 9:05 AM PST - 22 comments

Why does a search for () return 0 results?

From the search engines perspective what is happening. Most Engines return 0 results for the search, (). Does it think I am asking for something between the two, ( and )? There are 100's of millions of results for ( or ) but 0 for () or )(. What gives? T(om )Hanks!
posted by 1inabillionmistake at 8:27 AM PST - 11 comments

Specific training for senior management about the value of databases?

We have a group of practitioners in our company who rely on Excel way too much, both for data that's too large and data that's too complex for it. At the same time we roll out SQL training to the practitioners, we wanted to explain the value and capabilities of database work to senior management so we could set the right tone. Any suggestions for online training, a set of articles or other resources that don't dive into SQL coding, but for which the attendees will still get the right message?
posted by VeniceGlass at 6:20 AM PST - 6 comments

Ukeful things...

I'm learning the ukelele! Mainly because a fellow mefite browbeat me into it. But I'm having fun! Help me find some inspiration, and some info. on how to learn more. [more inside]
posted by His thoughts were red thoughts at 4:48 AM PST - 24 comments

March 22

Marriage models?

Looking for research on good marriages, not memoirs or personal anecdotes. My therapist asked me the qualities of a good marriage and I hadn't a clue. My immediate family are all unhappily married, and I only recently realised how fearful my own marriage is and left. I basically assume that "If they're not beating you or cheating on you, that's enough." I'm looking for what comes after reading John Gottman: research on thriving marriages, including multicultural or historical. Books, documentaries, films and novels, scholarly keywords etc. I'm not looking for personal accounts but bibliography recommendations.
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 9:37 PM PST - 18 comments

Meaning of drama terms?

In Somerset Maugham's memoir, The Summing Up, he writes: "Only idolatry can refuse to see the great shortcomings in the conduct and sometimes in the characterization of Shakespeare's plays; and this is very comprehensible since, as we know, he sacrificed everything to effective situation." What do "conduct" and "effective situation" mean in this context in this book published in 1938 by this sometime-playwright?
posted by shivohum at 8:40 PM PST - 2 comments

Best web sites / banks in NJ to use to get pre approved for a home loan?

Looking to get pre approved for a home loan as a first step. Could you recommend a few good banks & web sites. The home purchase would be in central NJ. Would prefer to get this done over the phone / online. What is typically considered a good interest rate for someone with very good credit these days?
posted by r2d2 at 8:20 PM PST - 4 comments

How to move ALL texts from my old iPhone to my new iPhone

I'd like to make this as easy as possible without getting any new software or apps. But, if I don't have any options, I would be willing to get apps/ software (I have a Mac). It's about 3 years of communication over txt. [more inside]
posted by hal_c_on at 8:17 PM PST - 5 comments

Responsibilities of an unlicensed doctor

In the United States what are the responsibilities of a doctor who's in the US but is registered in another country (i.e. not licensed in the US)? [more inside]
posted by anadem at 8:15 PM PST - 11 comments

Where to look for a person who stutters?

I am required to find someone with a stutter for a class project and I've exhausted my contacts. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:23 PM PST - 10 comments

Coax a Friend Back From Disaster

My friend is embarking on a potentially disastrous business idea. Should I try to dissuade him? How do I do that tactfully, without sabotaging our relationship? [more inside]
posted by seinwave at 6:27 PM PST - 25 comments

Recommend me an online rental application tool?

I'm a landlord looking to make renting my property easier. The idea of using something like rentapplication.net to collect applications and credit checks appeals to me. There is also rentscreener.com and others. I wouldn't be using this to manage ongoing tasks or multiple properties, which a site like buildium.com seems to be geared towards. Anything I should know about these sites? Is there any reason I shouldn't use a tool like this? Which one should I use?
posted by mumblingmynah at 5:57 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me identify these rock stars

I have a blurry cut-off screenshot from a website which is no longer accessible and I need to figure out who the people (likely rock stars) in the thumbnails are. [more inside]
posted by cyphill at 5:17 PM PST - 9 comments

How to best to deal with crazy noise disturbance from the cafe below us?

The cafe below my flat play music so loud it vibrates our furniture, when I ask them to turn it down they're angry and hostile and it just goes straight back up the next day. I'm getting no help from the manager and my husband hates it but will not complain. What are my next steps? How best would you deal with this? [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday at 5:11 PM PST - 27 comments

In need of an urgent procedure - resources for Patients' Rights?

She's uninsured and pretty weak, but told she needs the operation in 30 days or her life is at risk. How do we get a hospital to take her on? [more inside]
posted by oneaday at 4:56 PM PST - 15 comments

Overseas Law Jobs

I am an attorney working for a midsize firm in the US. I am fairly happy with my job, but have always wanted to work abroad (particularly in the UK). I have no clue how desireable (if at all) US licensed attorneys are abroad or how to go about finding job openings. I found several legal recruiters based in Europe online, but the sites are a bit sketchy. I know that there are various legal exchange programs, but they are generally in non-profit fields or send you to third world countries (which is admirable, but not what I am looking for). Any thoughts, resources or insights would be greatly appreciated.
posted by frednorton at 4:15 PM PST - 9 comments

neighborhoods/towns that display mascots?

I live in Fishtown in Philadelphia, and it is very common in the neighborhood to incorporate a fish into the outside of your house. Are there other places that do this kind of thing? [more inside]
posted by sepviva at 4:08 PM PST - 21 comments

"He's not my son... he's my husband"

My wife and I recently had a baby. Yesterday, a stranger mistook her for my mother. Now she's really bummed out. Can you share some advice on actions I can take to help lift her spirits up? [more inside]
posted by papafrita at 3:53 PM PST - 46 comments

Old Timey Name That I Lost

I'm looking for the old time name of a job that I know one of my ancestors did for several generations. It's a weird sounding name for a person that makes sheep gates out of hazel or willow hurdles. I knew it a couple of years ago and have since lost it from my memory and bookmarks. The name was obscure enough that I had no inkling that it was a 'sheepgate maker'(portable sheep fencing) until I googled it and found a reference in a piece or blog about Victorian era occupations. I remember laughing at what it was. [more inside]
posted by Jalliah at 3:53 PM PST - 9 comments

Is it illegal to tease real-estate buyers?

My neighborhood is in a crazed real-estate frenzy. Every other house is for sale. Every other house is being torn down and rebuilt. It is like a nonstop construction zone around here. Would it be illegal for me to put up a phony "For Sale" sign to tease the manic speculators? [more inside]
posted by shipbreaker at 3:46 PM PST - 20 comments

Do Public Broadcasting Stations Keep ALL Public Comments

During fund drives, I'm always told the positive comments of listeners who support the mission of public broadcasting and the drives that pays for the public radio and TV stations to operate. But I recently heard a public radio volunteer say he thinks public TV gets up to 40% negative comments and public radio gets about 10% negative comments. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 3:18 PM PST - 4 comments

Jeopardy: Potpourri Category

How do you keep your house smelling nice without breaking the bank? Right now we're using candles, Glade plug-ins, etc., but it's expensive! What inexpensive methods do you use to keep the dog, baby, and body odor scents out?
posted by sciencemandan at 3:17 PM PST - 18 comments

Searching Yelp on a mass, non-city scale.

How can I search Yelp by state, region, or country? [more inside]
posted by bamassippi at 3:14 PM PST - 2 comments

Professionalism and work ethic

How can I develop better work ethic and handle waiting periods at work? [more inside]
posted by ichomp at 2:38 PM PST - 6 comments

Make webcam public (hikvision)

I have a couple of Hikvision network camera's (DS-2CD2032) and I would like to make one them visible on my website without having to enter username and password or giving access to the control pannel. [more inside]
posted by Mac-Expert at 2:11 PM PST - 4 comments

Restaurants in Bratislava

My husband and I are planning a "pretend we don't have kids" sightseeing and romance weekend in Bratislava for our anniversary. We are looking for restaurant recommendations. [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom at 1:52 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me want to have sex

Mid 30s heterosexual man wanting to learn how to desire and enjoy sex with a partner (not masturbation). While I have a healthy libido/masturbate regularly/etc, I have little emotional interest in having actual sex. Let me first say that I understand therapy is likely needed, but I would very much appreciate feedback beyond go see a therapist. Throwaway email: amfpost@lycos.com [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:35 PM PST - 15 comments

Things to do in Newport Beach CA

Looking for suggestions for cool/quirky places to see in an afternoon at Newport Beach (history, nerdy, technology, walks/views, etc.). I'll probably head down towards the beach, and take it from there. Bike rental is a possibility. Cheap-ish (non-fancy) seafood and Asian places would be appreciated. I could also stand a $20-25 cab ride each way to somewhere interesting. Thank you! [more inside]
posted by carter at 12:57 PM PST - 7 comments

Should I report the questionable things my co-worker said

I overheard my co-worker saying some potentially extremely damaging things the other day - not sure if I should tell our boss or not? Trying not to be self interested but worried our team could be at risk. [more inside]
posted by UMDirector at 12:41 PM PST - 30 comments

Can these Galaxy S3 phones be restored?

What happened here? Are the phones salvageable? Or have they become bricks, usable only on wi-fi for apps? [more inside]
posted by ragtimepiano at 10:18 AM PST - 4 comments

Please help me find the right music score for a video

I want to find a Creative Commons (or other free-to-use) background music for a short video. The video is the (top post on my website from my profile ). I need to re-cut it so that it is only 2 minutes long, and would like to use an awesome track as background music. The video is a slide show of about 100 art images. Please recommend some unusual scores that will create a strong emotional reaction during editing. [more inside]
posted by growabrain at 10:10 AM PST - 5 comments

Ten years of EXTREME doubt and regret about relationship

Its been ten years since I broke up with my daughter's father for the first time (of many), and I still go through periods of extreme doubt and regret. I'm not talking about having fleeting moments of uncertainty; I will literally ruminate for days about our relationship and what went wrong and wonder if we should/could fix it. [more inside]
posted by aprilc34 at 10:05 AM PST - 24 comments

Roommate moved out; his brother moved in; I didn't get a say.

I've been living with a roommate I haven't been too happy with because I was very poor a few months ago and needed to find a roommate urgently so I could continue living in my apartment. It wasn't a great relationship but he gradually stopped staying in the apartment and indicated he had plans to move out in March. Then he let me know his brother would be moving into his room. [more inside]
posted by LSK at 9:57 AM PST - 20 comments

Have you ever hired a resume writer?

I am considering hiring a resume writer. I have 10+ years of experience in a specific industry (industrial manufacturing related) and interested in branching out to different industries. I feel like I should be doing something different than the usual. Has anyone hired a resume writer ever? How was your experience with it? Any tips? My fear would be to get a canned resume that I could do better myself. Are there any personalized services out there that could really help differentiate the resume?
posted by djfreex at 9:53 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me make an enjoyable Opera Mix!

I'd like to start exploring the world of opera. Can you please recommend the names of some of the most popular pieces that I could compile into a mix (specifically to listen to while driving across country). [more inside]
posted by shrimpsmalls at 9:43 AM PST - 11 comments

Seeking uncomplicated play for middle-school drama club

I am helping with the middle school play this year, and the play we picked was a PITA due to complicated staging, complicated sets, and too many parts. We want to plan better for next year. What are some good plays for 12-13-year-olds? [more inside]
posted by blnkfrnk at 9:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me get a permanent wrinkle out of a sweater

I have a great (100% cotton) sweater that has developed a deep, seemingly permanent crease in the ribbing at the hem (as if it got partially flipped up and set with an iron). I cannot get this thing out. I've washed it, I've tried spraying it with water and smoothing it out and letting it air-dry, I've tried to steam it out with an iron. Does anyone have any other ideas?
posted by elizeh at 9:15 AM PST - 8 comments

How do I EBay: Selling Vinyl Records and a Guitar edition

This is a two-part question on how to properly and responsibly sell on EBay 1) used vinyl records and 2) a used guitar. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 9:02 AM PST - 8 comments

another question about choosing a job

I need to make a choice between 3 part-time jobs (choosing one or possibly two) by...tomorrow. How do I choose and how do I best quit the one(s) I choose to? (will be kind of long) [more inside]
posted by bearette at 8:01 AM PST - 11 comments

Negotiating a better Internet/CATV rate

We switched to AT&T U-verse last year because we were offered a great deal, but when that deal expires next month our bill will increase $70/month. I would like to keep U-verse but don't negotiate well -- what are some guidelines for negotiating a better rate? We are willing to switch back to our previous company with an inferior CATV service but a much lower price.
posted by davcoo at 7:32 AM PST - 5 comments

Used records in Amsterdam

My previous thread was a huge success, so I thought I'd give another go. We're talking vinyls, we're talking shops, only this time, we're talking Amsterdam! I'll be visiting Amsterdam for four days, and I will be on the hunt. Do you know any good places for vinyls in the city? Thanks!
posted by lipsum at 4:35 AM PST - 5 comments

How can I (male) delay orgasm?

I'm a mid-40s male and my entire life I've been a hair-trigger. Not a premature orgasm, but over very fast. Google-fu came up with scams and creams, but is there any way to fix this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:24 AM PST - 15 comments

March 21

"Literary studies are..." or "Literary studies is..."?

"Literary studies are..." or "Literary studies is..."? This is for an academic book written in US English. [more inside]
posted by undue influence at 11:58 PM PST - 11 comments

Politely tell former co-worker I'm not interested in staying friends?

I left a job recently, and there's a former co-worker who keeps contacting me. [more inside]
posted by arbor day at 11:48 PM PST - 34 comments

Help me get a Flimsee set!

Trying desperatly to get a Flimsee set here in Australia or a similar type game in the next 2 weeks. [more inside]
posted by thelloydshow at 10:20 PM PST - 2 comments

I've got the zero percent fed funds rate blues

Inflation is ~1.75% and the best savings account I can find is 0.75%, so I'm not even keeping up with inflation. Can I save money in a safe, liquid, way, without accepting a negative real return? [more inside]
posted by jcreigh at 10:10 PM PST - 11 comments

As Simple as Possible, but No Simpler

I'm in search of recipes which boil down a dish to its most basic (necessary and sufficient) components. So bread: flour, water, salt, yeast and (possibly) oil or butter. Hummus: chick peas, garlic, tahini, lemon juice. Coq au vin: chicken, onions, bacon, garlic, red wine, mushrooms. (Feel free to argue). [more inside]
posted by Sportswriters at 9:08 PM PST - 25 comments

Vintage necklace with a twist

Please help me identify what kind of necklaces I used to wear as a kid back in the mid 1980s. This has been bugging me on and off for decades! [more inside]
posted by MsMolly at 8:21 PM PST - 7 comments

How to change Game Center ID?

I have 2 iDevices (iphone and ipad). I would like to play Civilization Revolution against my wife on these two devices. How do I change the Game Center ID on one of these so as to have two different identities, so that we can use these two devices to play against each other?
posted by Mr. Justice at 7:49 PM PST - 1 comment

Other series structured like "High Maintenance"?

I really like High Maintenance. Things about it that make me happy: a mix of primarily comedic episodes with primarily serious ones, but with a balance more on the comedic side; the episodes are standalone, but with some recurring characters (kind of like the Discworld book series); many different people and situations. Do you know of other good TV/video/etc series that fit these criteria, ideally ones that I can watch online?
posted by ocherdraco at 6:33 PM PST - 4 comments

Divide and Conquer

My Google Fu is failing me. I want a large-ish ornament to act as a divider between two rooms that are open plan. There is a credenza at the dividing point, and I would like the ornament / divider to sit on top of it. Is there a word / phrase for what I am looking for? [more inside]
posted by blue_wardrobe at 6:14 PM PST - 6 comments

Side effects & efficacy of gabapentin

Whilst I wait for an MRI and a follow-up visit with my orthopedic doc, said doctor prescribed Gabapentin for nerve pain. First day on this drug has left me zombie-like and drowsy. I know YANMD, but, fellow mefites who've taken this drug: Will this get better? [more inside]
posted by jrchaplin at 6:14 PM PST - 12 comments

work team excluding me from doing anything meaningful

I'm an intern at a software firm on a new team. My coworkers don't seem to want to let me take any responsibility whatsoever. I have seniority over all of them but no power to change the situation -- any tips for dealing? Talking to boss is out. [more inside]
posted by city_park at 5:51 PM PST - 14 comments

Add-ons for FL Studio

What are the most useful, versatile add-ons for FL Studio? Are they perhaps free, or cheap? Which ones are worth spending a heftier chunk of change on? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 4:51 PM PST - 5 comments

A name for people who don't adhere to the relationship escalator?

Is there a name for a subculture of people who do not adhere to the relationship escalator but are not strictly LGBTQ or polyamorous? [more inside]
posted by deathpanels at 4:42 PM PST - 26 comments

Why do non-consumer businesses advertise?

Why would a business that does not sell to consumers advertise on television? [more inside]
posted by btkuhn at 4:36 PM PST - 17 comments

Accuracy of Fitbit Aria below 9kg?

I need to find a wireless connected scale to measure objects, none of them very heavy. The scale needs to have an API with which to retrieve the weight readings. For various reasons, including system compatibility and short timescales, I'd prefer to use the Fitbit Aria if at all possible. However, it looks like the minimum weight for accurate readings is 9kg. Can anyone tell me anything about how accurate the Fitbit Aria is *in practice* for weighing items lighter than this?
posted by tel3path at 4:22 PM PST - 10 comments

my humming skills are failing me

WhatIsThisSongFilter: What song is this?(link goes to my blog where I'm humming it) Recent-ish male singer, R&B/rock, angsty, heard in the US. SoundHound and Midomi fail me.
posted by divabat at 4:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Missouri property inheritance question.

My mother and her sister each inherited 50% of their childhood home when their parents died. Both sisters are divorced, so there are no spouses. If either sister dies intestate, who inherits their half? Is it the surviving sister or the descendants (in this case children) of the departed sister? [more inside]
posted by jeffamaphone at 3:58 PM PST - 10 comments

Photoshop help

I have an image I want to use as a logo on t-shirts. It's a shield. When I crop the image, I still end up with corner areas [more inside]
posted by JohnE at 3:14 PM PST - 6 comments

What is the most polite way to respond to a Christian evangelist?

I have a gig coming up where I will be spending a LOT of time with very, VERY religious Christians. I have been warned they may try to evangelize to me during this gig, and to politely keep my mouth closed. I assume that's the best advice; however, I was hoping to open this question up to believers and non-believers: If I am cornered into a conversation were it's impolite to not reply at all, what is the most polite way to get someone who's evangelizing to you to stop? Without saying things like "I'm an atheist" or "You're barking up the wrong tree, sorry". Ideally I'd find a careful, diplomatic way to respond without directly putting anyone off, as I have to build a relationship with these people as part of my job. The best response I can think of is "I'm actually very private with my religious beliefs, and don't tend to discuss them with people outside my family and close circle". Any additional suggestions and ideas are very welcome. Thank you!
posted by zettoo at 3:03 PM PST - 31 comments

Mac upgrade question

My 2011 MacBook Pro seems to be showing its age. I'm on the edge, performance is a little sluggish, but I don't need an upgrade. I am considering switching to a 2014 Mac Mini or holding off another mac development cycle or two. Will the Mac Mini feel like an upgrade? More detailed specs below. [more inside]
posted by pseudonick at 2:28 PM PST - 13 comments

Floor standing adjustable spotlight lamps with multiple heads

I'm looking for a simple solution for lighting up a few pieces of artwork in my home office. In the long run I plan to install ceiling-mounted lighting for this, but until that's done, I'd like to find a reasonable solution. What I'm thinking of is a floor standing lamp with multiple adjustable spotlight heads. Something like this but with 2 or 3 heads instead of 1. Unfortunately I have been unable to find anything along those lines. [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 2:26 PM PST - 4 comments

Terrible at sensing a man's interest... is he?

I’m having trouble figuring out how a prof in my department feels about me (I'm a graduate student). I’m 100% certain that he cares deeply for me, as I do for him, but what has never been made clear is whether there is or might be anything romantic in it. I know where I’m at, but not being able to read minds (or hearts), I’m having trouble figuring him out. The last few last times I’ve seen him things have gotten especially confusing, and it’s been completely preoccupying me. I've included details below the cut. [more inside]
posted by anoncanuck at 2:05 PM PST - 70 comments

Microwave ovens that don't use the 2.4GHz frequency?

I need a microwave oven that won't kill my Sonos wifi signal when I'm trying to prepare dinner and also listen to music... [more inside]
posted by docpops at 1:49 PM PST - 7 comments

YRNMYA - You are not my young adult…

I have a ‘young adult’ in my life who loves the Amulet graphic novel series. We are getting to the final book and I’m looking for some other young adult graphic novels that will keep her reading! There are a couple guidelines though... [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 1:38 PM PST - 7 comments

Citizen Band Virgin. How to Prepare.

Have found myself interested in CB radios and ham radios. There are good deals on CB's at retailers like Radio Shack. What is confusing is the basic equipment I will need. Outside of the antenna and radio what else will I need?
posted by goalyeehah at 1:21 PM PST - 4 comments

Why is Trader Joe's Pleasantville?

Why are they so happy? [more inside]
posted by mermily at 1:12 PM PST - 33 comments

Need help purchasing opera tickets for a performance at the Teatro Colon

Me and my husband are going to Argentina for a vacation in June. We really wanted to see an opera at the Teatro Colon on June 16 called Quartett, but we're having a hard time figuring out how to purchase tickets. [more inside]
posted by firemonkey at 1:11 PM PST - 8 comments

androgynous professional seeks purse

Hello fellow MeFites! This question is just what it says in the subject line, so I will put my special snowflake details below the cut. [more inside]
posted by bile and syntax at 12:44 PM PST - 26 comments

Real Cedar Siding - Maintenance?

Bought / Buying my first house and the house has real cedar for siding. I can't find any definite answer to the maintenance requirements and frequency to this; only cedar shake but this is actual wood planks. Anyone have experience with maintaining real wood siding? If you ever had it professionally maintained, what was your cost and est. square footage?
posted by lpcxa0 at 12:06 PM PST - 3 comments

How much vitamin D do I need?

Hi, According to this article, we should be getting 7,000 IU/day, because someone made a statistical mistake. a) should I follow this advice? b) how much vitamin D is that, exactly? [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 10:34 AM PST - 7 comments

Indian restaurant London (near doctor who shop)

A few years ago I was in London and I was at the doctor who shop and happened upon an amazing Indian restaurant a couple of blocks away. It was on 2 floors and as I recall family owned and according to the menu been there for a long time. I will be returning to London and want to go back to the restaurant, anyone know what it was? And the address? Thanx in advance.
posted by prk60091 at 10:00 AM PST - 6 comments

echo issue in VLC

I tried playing an audio file in VLC and its all echoy and stuff. Theres no audio special FX installed on my computer and it sounds fine in Itunes. Any ideas?
posted by wheelieman at 9:27 AM PST - 2 comments

Small business expense receipts hacks-ninja-fu! Help me overcome!

Ok so I'm a new small business owner (new solo attorney) and I am CONFUSED about expense receipts. My google searches are pulling up pages and pages of apps, but not much on what I should actually DO (and what the most efficient ninja receipt warriors do!) What are your best practices for wrangling your business receipts, storing them, scanning/saving PDFs, entering them into your accounting program etc.? [more inside]
posted by bluesky78987 at 9:15 AM PST - 9 comments

Please help me identify this (possibly) Chinese brooch

I recently came into possession of this brooch. I would like to know what it is. Any ideas?
posted by mortimore at 9:01 AM PST - 6 comments

Hot Cross Buns! Because....why?

Does anyone have a firm handle on the traditions and customs of hot cross buns? [more inside]
posted by SemiSalt at 8:54 AM PST - 6 comments

To realtor or not to realtor, that is the question (for now, anyway)

Part I of many building-a-new-home questions. I've found a vacant lot I'm interested in - do I need a realtor for the transaction, or will a real estate attorney suffice? [more inside]
posted by storminator7 at 8:11 AM PST - 1 comment

What horror film did I watch?

I just rewatched Cronenberg's The Fly. I saw it for the first time when I was a teenager, sometime in the early nineties. There are scenes in the movie that are etched into my memory, which I can vividly remember to this day. Except, having just rewatched the movie, those scenes aren't there. [more inside]
posted by Pyrogenesis at 8:00 AM PST - 7 comments

British Accent Question: "ow" sounds like "I"?

Maybe it's just my ears, but I swear I've heard a British accent where "ou" and "ow" sounds like a long-I -- "down" sounds like "dine", 'ground' sounds like 'grind', 'now' is 'nye', 'house' sounds like 'hise'. I've looked around the internet for descriptions of British accents and came up empty. Is there a name for this component, or is it tied to a specific dialect/accent?
posted by AzraelBrown at 7:59 AM PST - 28 comments

Uk Pension Schemes for the currently Self-Employed.

What are the pension options for Self-Employed people in the UK? There seems to be a lot of options for "Personal Pensions" - which seems to mean self-managed? Can anyone explain the basics of what my options are? and how it relates to this SIPP/ Stakeholder stuff and/or NEST is that a government run pension scheme? [more inside]
posted by mary8nne at 7:37 AM PST - 1 comment

On a scale of 1-10, how much of a bad decision would this be?

My two best options for completing an extended trip to Germany for career development purposes have not panned out. How ridiculous would it be to consider trying to make it there on my own? [more inside]
posted by kinddieserzeit at 6:36 AM PST - 18 comments

Stolen passport application, definite security risk

I made a mistake and inadvertently threw away my completed passport application along with some junk mail. I realized my mistake the next morning, but when I went to the trash can, someone had already ripped through the bag and my papers were missing. I've started to go through the process of trying to mitigate potential damage, but what else should I do besides what I've already done? [more inside]
posted by awesomelyglorious at 5:45 AM PST - 11 comments

Looking for delightful books set in Scotland

In preparation for our upcoming trip, I want to immerse myself in delicious fiction set in Scotland. [more inside]
posted by banjo_and_the_pork at 4:53 AM PST - 24 comments

"Hey Dad, I Didn't Know You Cared!" or How to Reply?

My biological dad suddenly emailed me out of the blue. I have only been approached by him one other time. I am not exactly sure how to proceed here. Prepare for wall of text as my family history is straight out of the Jerry Springer Show. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:35 AM PST - 59 comments

March 20

I'm not being unreasonable... right?

My boyfriend has connections on LinkedIn that I would like him to get rid off. He thinks I'm being unreasonable. Am I? [more inside]
posted by milque at 10:48 PM PST - 53 comments

why do people invite friends and family to their performances?

If you do some sort of performance art (e.g., music, dance) as a hobby, and want friends and family to come watch your performances, can you explain why? Is it for their benefit or yours? What do you hope will happen? How do you expect them to behave? [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang at 9:41 PM PST - 38 comments

Best time to buy my Italy airfare?

I'm hoping to purchase my tickets to Italy soon - should I wait or pounce now? [more inside]
posted by PussKillian at 9:36 PM PST - 5 comments

Insurance companies for small business liability policies (SF bay area)

I want to investigate the cost of getting a small business liability policy, which is necessary for me to rent classroom space at nearby universities and local school districts. The requirement is usually a $1million policy with the school as an additional insured. I assume it will make the most sense to just get an annual policy, rather than event by event. Can you recommend reputable companies I should contact for quotes? [more inside]
posted by ktkt at 8:10 PM PST - 3 comments

NYC boat rental recommendations for private birthday party?

My partner is turning 40, and since our plans for a European vacation aren't panning out we're hoping to spend a similar chunk of change on a boat rental for a booze cruise, sailing around New York harbor for several hours. I'm looking for tips and recommendations. [more inside]
posted by whir at 7:36 PM PST - 3 comments

Books, movies, or other media about knights for my four-year-old?

My kiddo is super into pretending to be "a guard." His best friend pretends to be Queen Elsa, basically all the time, so they've decided that he's a guard who also has ice powers. His pretend guard self more accurately resembles a knight, and today when he was slaying dragons with a stick-sword, I thought, "This kid would enjoy learning about knights." But everything I know about is for older kids. What's out there for a four-year-old who loves stories and FACTS and doesn't like scary things? [more inside]
posted by linettasky at 7:06 PM PST - 21 comments

Question about filling out a legal form for L.A. Superior Court

I need to fill out L.A. Superior Court form EJ-130 in order to obtain a writ of execution for a judgment I have won. I have now been rejected twice because of one field they claim I didn't fill out correctly. [more inside]
posted by drjimmy11 at 6:51 PM PST - 7 comments

How are new streets added to the map?

Let's say, for the sake of argument, that I've had a midlife crisis and decided to dedicate my life to creating uninspired exurban developments . . . [more inside]
posted by jason's_planet at 6:51 PM PST - 6 comments

Shea Butter, carry-on?

I have a 16-oz tub of raw, unrefined shea butter that I'd like to bring with me. I don't have a checked bag. Does anyone know if 1) shea butter is considered solid enough to fly as is or 2) if I can pack it into 5 smaller jars and put them all into a zip-loc bag? Is it ok to have multiple jars of the same thing? [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 5:54 PM PST - 18 comments

Pregnant lady needs mindless trash to read

I'm currently pregnant and going through the first trimester from hell. Literally the only thing that has kept me sane is reading these two amazing trashy novels I discovered in this AskMe thread. Recommend me some more? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:44 PM PST - 34 comments

How do I handle this awkward work situation? Details inside

I was basically accused of lying at work. Now what do I do? I've been working a temp (with potential to become permanent) job for a little over a month. Prior to this I had been unemployed for over 7 months after a lay off. I worked for my previous company/job for almost 15 years. I am working in a completely different industry and role than I had in my last several jobs. This is a clerical/support position in a conservative company. More... [more inside]
posted by getyourlife at 5:27 PM PST - 20 comments

'Challenging' versus 'changing' someone?

Where do you draw the line in a relationship between challenging your partner in a healthy, positive way, against attempting to change them, making them question themselves in an unhealthy way? [more inside]
posted by NatalieWood at 5:05 PM PST - 39 comments

Cheap and easy way to create a PDF document consisting of just photos?

I'd like to create a single PDF document made up of 50 photos. Is there free or cheap way to do this without sacrificing quality? Thank you!
posted by Bushmiller at 4:50 PM PST - 11 comments

Air(not)Play

I have a really vexing AirPlay/MacBook issue that just started happening today for no reason I can discern... [more inside]
posted by outfielder at 4:27 PM PST - 2 comments

Rear ended- how do I move on?

YANMD or ML. I was rear ended this morning, with minimal damage to my car. How worried should I be about physical injuries, and how can I get past my fear that every car behind me is going to hit me? [more inside]
posted by casualinference at 3:44 PM PST - 17 comments

Are there any streaming webcams that are similar to NRK's Piip show?

Piip Show was a live stream of a bird feeder that looked like a coffee shop, and it was pretty much my favourite thing on the internet in 2014. But it doesn't seem to be back for 2015. Is there anything out there that will fill the Piip Show-sized hole in my heart? [more inside]
posted by stokast at 2:32 PM PST - 5 comments

An Embarassment of Riches

Should I Decline a Job I Already Accepted? [more inside]
posted by j_curiouser at 2:18 PM PST - 25 comments

Edumate me about the world of part-time jobs in 2015/ biology filter

Can you help me brainstorm part-time and/or temp type jobs relevant to the general population and also for me (background in biology) in 2015? [more inside]
posted by Wolfster at 2:00 PM PST - 7 comments

[parent-filter] Non-violent superheroes for my four year-old?

my almost-four-year old has been getting a bit "handsy" at day care lately and it's usually when he is playing superheroes with his friends -- we're looking for a non-violent superhero to nudge him away from the punching/shooting/bashing variety. [more inside]
posted by Catchfire at 1:40 PM PST - 20 comments

I need a primer on playdates.

How do playdates generally work for 8-year-olds? In particular, do you have any specific activity or game suggestions? What is playdate etiquette? Any tips for very introverted parents? (Location: U.S.) [more inside]
posted by Eolienne at 1:39 PM PST - 4 comments

Sciatic nerve pain: Any advice?

YANMD; I am seeing my doctor about this, but I'd be grateful for any wisdom from the hivemind. For a long time, I've been fairly physically active without suffering any significant problems or injuries. I'm 38 and have been going to the gym about 3 times a week since my 20s, and I go hillwalking regularly. In January of this year, I started to experience pain and stiffness in my lower back. I went to my doctor, who referred me to a physiotherapist. After a couple of sessions with the physio, the stiffness went and I got a good range of movement back, but I started to experience much sharper pain in my right thigh, of the classic sciatic nerve variety. [more inside]
posted by meronym at 1:27 PM PST - 24 comments

Help me find a practical (but nice looking!) diaper bag

There are just so many on the market, I don't know what to choose! Tell me about your favourites! SO and I are debating between the 'look' and I'm willing to give up style for function [more inside]
posted by bluehermit at 1:26 PM PST - 19 comments

Travel Filter: Salzburg , Prague over Easter.

Flying into Munich for work and planning on visiting Salzburg for a day trip and Prague for 2 days. Would love to know recommended places but also if places are going to be closed around this time.
posted by radsqd at 1:26 PM PST - 5 comments

Flea-ridden mongrels, time for more drastic measures?

Still finding fleas on the animals a week after dosing them with Advantage. Is it time for the big guns? [more inside]
posted by mrfuga0 at 1:02 PM PST - 15 comments

What do I owe this real estate agent?

Do you have to involve a real estate agent in a deal if you didn't sign a contract with them, but they showed you the house? [more inside]
posted by Clotilde at 12:43 PM PST - 15 comments

Dallas plants/Bushes or flowers.

I just bought a new home in Dallas Tx. In our kitchen right where the kitchen table is we have a big window that looks out to our neighbors house where there is a air conditioner unit. Im looking for a relatively inexpensive bush/plant/flower to put there that will grow and live all year round that will add a more pleasant view than an AC unit. Suggestions? House faces North/ South. Also looking for the option that requires the least maintenance.
posted by flipmiester99 at 12:43 PM PST - 7 comments

Finding a good dentist, setting aside a recent bad experience: how do?

After seeing the same dentist for the entire 24 years of my dentist visiting history, I have emigrated to Canada and can no longer receive care from him. Unfortunately seeing a new dentist was a seriously unpleasant experience and I'm now faced with having to do the 'first visit' over and over until I find someone who doesn't make me go home and cry. [more inside]
posted by averysmallcat at 12:38 PM PST - 15 comments

Simple gluten-free dessert recipe?

Quick, I need a gluten-free dessert recipe! It should be fairly easy and require as few specialized ingredients as possible. [more inside]
posted by Metroid Baby at 12:29 PM PST - 25 comments

Ultimate Travel Hacks!!

Trying to up my travel game! Looking for your best hacks/tips/etc... [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 12:28 PM PST - 38 comments

How can we amplify the wireless internet signal in our concrete apt?

How can we amplify the wireless internet signal in our concrete apt? [more inside]
posted by zyxwvut at 12:01 PM PST - 10 comments

AirBnBehavior

My parents are considering getting a pied-a-terre in our mutual hometown, which could be used as an AirBnB at other times. What would we need to know to get into being hosts? [more inside]
posted by St. Hubbins at 11:59 AM PST - 7 comments

You herniated a disk in your neck. You recovered. Tell me how it went.

Tips? Ideas? Commiseration? Humorous anecdotes? Heartfelt grievances? All gladly accepted. Bulleted summary below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Alaska Jack at 11:44 AM PST - 5 comments

Nurses/Phlebotomists/etc: How to ask politely for gloves to be replaced?

I recently had an iv line inserted by a delightful technician who was wonderful in every way except that she put on her gloves and then rubbed her nose and then proceeded to insert the line. How could I have asked her to change her gloves without causing offense? [more inside]
posted by janey47 at 11:04 AM PST - 16 comments

dream slippers are escaping me

I saw a pair of slippers in a random photo and became obsessed. Can you help me find a pair that looks like these? Everything I've managed to find is totally dissimilar - just one big embroidered area in the middle, or totally different shape, or totally different style. I'm hoping someone here has a better idea of where to look.
posted by prefpara at 10:59 AM PST - 4 comments

laptop for modded minecraft?

It's time to replace my laptop that I use for basic internet/email/office stuff. I'd like to be able to run modded Minecraft on it as well. Help. [more inside]
posted by bowmaniac at 10:07 AM PST - 6 comments

My good side for camerah.

Best <$200 digital camera for a total novice? [more inside]
posted by everybody had matching towels at 9:32 AM PST - 24 comments

Recommend your favorite oral histories, please!

Which oral histories should I add to my reading list? [more inside]
posted by bookmammal at 9:11 AM PST - 15 comments

TechSupportFilter: Keyboard is behaving a little strangely.

We've got a mac running OS 10.9.5, with a wireless keyboard. Every time we hit the n key OR the command key, it acts as if we've hit command-n. There is not a shortcut set up, I've already checked the system preferences. This behavior happens in every application. What on earth is going on?
posted by BuddhaInABucket at 9:08 AM PST - 10 comments

What job/field should my partner search for?

My partner wants to get a new job and would like advice for what kind of jobs / industries / job titles to look for. We are in southwest michigan right now, but my partner wants to build skills they could take elsewhere in the country in a few years. After graduating college with an English degree, my partner got a job through a temp agency, and is ready to move on. But neither of us are knowledgeable about what jobs they might be qualified for. Hopes and dreams inside [more inside]
posted by rebent at 9:01 AM PST - 5 comments

you and me could have a beach romance

I am in search of beach towns where your lodging is walking distance from the beach, shops, restaurants, etc. Any climate/geography is OK. Any large body of water is OK but ocean/beach preferred. [more inside]
posted by nakedmolerats at 8:56 AM PST - 48 comments

Looking for a name that's Greeky or Latiny for part of a big project

I'm looking for a Greek or Latin name that basically means holy/sacred/important/influential book/writing/teaching. Something grandiose. [more inside]
posted by bfootdav at 8:33 AM PST - 19 comments

Looking for a law-nerd podcast

I'm looking to diversify the podcasts I listen to on my commute - right now it's mainly media-related and comedy shows, with only Dan Carlin and the Bugle talking about real-world concerns. My job involves reading a tracking a lot of ongoing litigation (but I am not a lawyer) and I've gotten to really enjoy looking at those issues, so I'd like to add something about interesting current or historical court cases to my rotation. But I've had a hard time finding something that goes as far into the weeds as I'd like -- Dahlia Lithwick's Amicus, for instance, covers topics I'm interested in but doesn't tell me much that I didn't already know, while the Legal Talk Network has lots of deep-dive podcasts but they're all aimed at practicing lawyers. Is there a program out there that hits that sweet spot?
posted by Holy Zarquon's Singing Fish at 8:29 AM PST - 2 comments

Where would I find someone who makes single use tools?

Basically I'm looking for whoever the engineer or engineering company would be that creates some kind of specific tool for a one off specific job. Like the Space Needle is built and finished and then, out of nowhere, you need to change a nut and bolt out that was never supposed to be changed. And to do it you need a 40 foot, weirdly angled wrench. Who would build that? And is there a name for the kind of field or specialty this is?
posted by rileyray3000 at 8:04 AM PST - 17 comments

Mazda & Honda owners – what annoys you about your car?

Mefites! I asked for used car recommendations a few months ago and got many helpful answers. Since then, I've narrowed down my list to either a Honda Accord, a Honda Civic, a Mazda3 or a Mazda6 - and now I want to know what is annoying about those cars. If you own one, please, kvetch to me about your car! [more inside]
posted by aka burlap at 7:34 AM PST - 63 comments

Static Tumblr pages don't load on Chrome for iPad

I have a Tumblr with two static pages. It runs well everywhere I have tried it except Chrome browser for the iPad. Could someone help me debug this? Totally stuck [more inside]
posted by 0bvious at 7:10 AM PST - 2 comments

I'm a UK Citizen and need to renew my passport - Timeframe estimates?

I am a UK citizen - I was born in the UK - and recently discovered that my passport expired almost a year ago. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:55 AM PST - 12 comments

what to do when husband refuses to go to counseling?

I'm at my wits end with my husband and not sure how much longer I can take it, but he refuses to go to counseling. Is there any way I can save our relationship without counseling? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:54 AM PST - 77 comments

What is the meaning of this obscure Latin [and/or] rebus?

I am trying to figure out the meaning of the rebus on this page of the Hypnerotomachia Poliphili. It's a strange work, but beautifully done: the printer of the book is Aldus Manutius, who died 500 years ago this year. Can you help me figure out the rebus and/or translate the "Latin"?
posted by lackutrol at 6:41 AM PST - 3 comments

Novels with a reality hidden in ours

A friend's high-school aged daughter is looking for a book for her English class. The story has to be set in the present day but where a different reality exists and is discovered by the main character. They are thinking 'science fantastique' I think. I suppose it's something like Harry Potter or The Lion, Witch, and the Wardrobe. Any suggestions?
posted by Steakfrites at 6:28 AM PST - 61 comments

What do you wish you'd considered/asked before you bought your home?

We're in the process of buying our first home! Yay! We've seen a lot of places and are ready to pick one. (We're in London, if that matters -- but I think the question is location-specific necessarily.) I am the kind of person that tends to think of drawbacks only after I've signed on the dotted line. What do YOU wish you'd thought of/checked out, etc. before you bought your house? In case it matters, we are a couple with a toddler.
posted by EtTuHealy at 6:02 AM PST - 37 comments

Good At-Home Jobs for the Disabled

Hi, I struggle with chronic illness and disability and have one very part-time job that I split my time between attending in person and working from home. I need to bring in some more money, however, though I'm not expecting anything grand income wise. Ideally I'm looking for jobs that have enough work available that you can sign in or pick up an hour or two or three of work without the obligation of sticking to meeting a set schedule each week. It's hard because my illness is so unpredictable. Any ideas would be appreciated. [more inside]
posted by Goldfinch at 5:36 AM PST - 6 comments

Is this sexist? Should I talk to him about it?

My boss frequently makes comments about the clothes female employees are wearing. I'm wondering if they are considered sexist and if I should talk to him about them. [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat at 2:01 AM PST - 41 comments

Stop Facebook from announcing my current location to everyone!

Facebook started automatically adding my current location to my posts. The location is guessed from my IP, I think, because I have nothing listed as my "current city" or "home town" or "other places lived" in my profile. I'm posting from my PC. It's freaking me out and I want to make it stop, but how? [more inside]
posted by gakiko at 1:38 AM PST - 7 comments

Is it safe for a single woman to walk around San Juan PR by herself?

Ive travelled to most places by myself, but some places I know too little about to know if this is safe. How is San Juan, Puerto Rico? [more inside]
posted by manderin at 1:13 AM PST - 7 comments

Street Navigation App for Android Tablet: Italy edition

We spend a few months in Italy each year, and duplicate our lives from Australia over there. Last year we purchased a second-hand car, and find it really useful to use a GPS for navigation. Our TelCo also gave us two Samsung Note 3 Android Tablets. We have smartphones and iPads, and are hoping to use the android tablet in the vehicle for navigation when required. Would Google Maps be the best? There is the provision for SIM cards in the Samsung, however I would probably prefer to link it to a portable hotspot if needed. PREFERABLY a navigation app for Italy which works well off-line. Any suggestions? TIA
posted by Flashduck at 12:51 AM PST - 2 comments

Is this site legitimate?

Is this a legitimate site? I can't find anything online to suggest that it isn't, but at the same time I can't find any reviews suggesting that it isn't, either. Thanks!
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 12:29 AM PST - 1 comment

How do I de-pink my shirts?

My white shirts got dyed by the plastic tub I soaked them in. I'm afraid to just start bleaching away for fear of making things worse. Help? [more inside]
posted by HoteDoge at 12:18 AM PST - 8 comments

What the hell is Mardi Gras?

Please help me understand Mardi Gras. So I'm trying to get my fortune cookie business off the ground and a customer recently requested a Mardi Gras theme (despite the fact that the date is well passed) I think she means New Orleans themed. What does this mean? As far as I can tell the colors green and purple are good. Honestly any suggestions for themes with the fortunes or the packaging would be great.
posted by boobjob at 12:03 AM PST - 19 comments

March 19

A year of teenager

What steps would I need to take in order to have a foreign exchange student for a year? I already know the student, so I probably wouldn't have reason to go through a matching agency. [more inside]
posted by aniola at 10:04 PM PST - 5 comments

Can I just make my web browser just show up on the TV screen?

I dropped cable a few months ago and there are shows that I miss. Some of these shows are available for watching free online, on sites like (for instance) comedy central or yidio. What I want to do is watch them with my husband on the large screen of my TV, though, not on the wee computer screen. How? [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 9:50 PM PST - 9 comments

Are UK Postal Codes Analogous to US Zip Codes

I don't just mean in a taxonomic way, but in terms of sorting and ease for the handlers -- is the postal code the most vital part? What's that last line for? [more inside]
posted by rahnefan at 8:55 PM PST - 13 comments

Monitors for MacBooks

I have an early 2014 MacBook Pro (HDMI and two Thunderbolt 2 ports). I also have a 20" Dell "UltraSharp" 2007WFP, purchased in 2005 with a resolution of 1680x1050. Retina display has ruined this monitor for me. Have monitors changed much in the past 10 years? Can I get a reasonably priced one that won't look like I took my glasses off? I'd like to pay less than $1,000, hopefully a lot less. Can I afford to get two?
posted by one_bean at 8:09 PM PST - 18 comments

can you recommend an ADHD coach, or alternative?

I don't want to keep living with disorganization, slippery time management, and a general level of overwhelm. I'm in the process of getting back on Strattera, but while it helped in the past, it didn't cure me, so I want more ammo. I've heard that coaching is one of the most helpful things for ADHD. But who? [more inside]
posted by nevers at 7:41 PM PST - 4 comments

Bork bork BOR! Or where in Sweden should I live?

After lots and lots of changes is my life, due to medical reasons I find myself making concrete plans a year in advance again. At about this time of next year I intend to be moving back to the country where I first saw the light of day, which I haven't visited since I was 12. Help me find a place where life will be enjoyable for me. [more inside]
posted by Promethea at 7:17 PM PST - 5 comments

Logos derived/influenced by state flags?

Can you help me find examples of logos that pull elements from, are influenced by state flags?
posted by heavyp08 at 6:57 PM PST - 17 comments

Are There Jobs Out There for Really Junior Developers?

I'm a brand-new grad of a web developer bootcamp and so am just starting out with JavaScript and Ruby. I wasn't the best in my class but I certainly wasn't one of the worst. I love coding and want so badly to become better at it, but I'm finding my bootcamp program's claim that 90% of grads are employed as programmers in 90 days to be very unlikely based on the two interviews I've bombed. Can there really be jobs out there for a bootcamp-grad junior programmer without a CS degree? [more inside]
posted by Yoko Ono's Advice Column at 6:49 PM PST - 25 comments

Batshitinsane conspiracy Sci Fi in the SyFy mold

Two of my favorite terrible TV shows are Zero Hour (so bad it was canceled less than halfway through its first and only season) and Ascension (SyFy miniseries). Plz help me find more. Spoilers for those shows below the fold. [more inside]
posted by BungaDunga at 5:39 PM PST - 27 comments

Identify the actor in this Southwest Airlines commercial

Help me impress my 14-year-old daughter (for once). Who is the young actor portraying the college student in this Southwest Airlines commercial? She thinks he might have been in one of the Harry Potter movies. [more inside]
posted by Rock Steady at 5:10 PM PST - 5 comments

Can I get the stomach flu again from the same person I caught it from?

I had my first case of gastroenteritis a few days ago, and while it was thankfully a brief experience, I'm not sure if I should be worried about catching it again from my girlfriend, who gave it to me after being sick herself a week prior. Am I now immune? (Just from her, I'm assuming I can catch it from another source just like I could at anytime.) [more inside]
posted by the thorn bushes have roses at 5:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Can I get more than one app to run in kiosk mode on a Microsoft Surface

I need to put some games on a few Microsoft Surface RT tablets for use in a coffee shop by kids while Mammy and Daddy are sipping their coffee. I'm no expert but is there a way to do that while restricting access to the computers' settings by customers?
posted by togglers at 4:13 PM PST - 1 comment

Asthma: What to do about the dogs?

I have no idea how to handle this situation. I have two dogs; whom I love very much. I've always been a little allergic to them, but it seems to be progressing to asthma. I have no idea how to begin to figure out what to do. Seeking advice. [more inside]
posted by LANA! at 4:08 PM PST - 19 comments

How important is it to adhere to the GVWR for an RV?

Next week, I'm leaving for a year-long RV trip across the United States. My class C motorhome has a GVWR of 14,050 pounds. Today, I had it weighed at a certified scale. My load right now is 14,750 pounds, which means I'm 700 pounds over the recommended limit. My question: Just how critical is it really to stay under the GVWR? I've heard some folks say they travel at 10% over and don't worry about it. Some even do 20%. I tend to be a worrier, though, and so I want to get as close to the 14,050 as possible. But cutting 700 pounds? I'm not sure how I'm going to do that. I'd love to get feedback from folks with actual experience. Is the GVWR something I should adhere to rigidly? Or should I relax and accept a little bit of lee-way?
posted by jdroth at 4:08 PM PST - 6 comments

Kindly telling someone you're not interested in a closer friendship?

How can you politely tell an acquaintance or casual friend that you don't want to be better friends, when they apparently can't take a hint, and you know you'll continue to see them? [more inside]
posted by aldebaran at 2:42 PM PST - 50 comments

Get Started in Podcasting (Development/International aid worker twist)

Asking for an aid worker/activist friend, to whom I suggested she might want to start a podcast. This would be a podcast about issues and experiences to do with international aid worker & development work -it will probably done in a personal anecdotes/opinions/debates interview-y/chatty format. [more inside]
posted by zresearch at 2:24 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me get my Bargain House Buying Fu up to speed

I am looking for the following: 1) Information on first time homebuyer programs, especially those that are available in California. 2) Information on buying tax lien houses. 3) Information on buying foreclosures. Recommendations for good sources of information (books, websites) or personal anecdotes welcome. [more inside]
posted by Michele in California at 2:03 PM PST - 3 comments

How do I paint like this?

I haven't painted since I was in school, but then I saw this and was inspired to try. What supplies and techniques would I need to paint in this particular style? [more inside]
posted by acidic at 1:41 PM PST - 9 comments

Should I go on a fabulous tropical vacation?

You are neither my travel agent nor my financial adviser, but I'm having trouble working out the cost/benefit ratio on this. I'm thinking of taking myself and my husband on a belated honeymoon around the time of our first anniversary, in October. I have the money to do it, and of course I'd like to do it, but I can't seem to pull the trigger on "yes let's go!" or "naw." [more inside]
posted by missrachael at 1:37 PM PST - 22 comments

Childhood arts and crafts I ca enjoy as an adult?

I am looking for things like colouring books, craft kits etc. which are marketed for children but might be more fun now, as a more competent adult. [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 1:21 PM PST - 29 comments

Excellent mis-priced 99 cent albums in digital stores?

I love finding albums that digital music stores fail to price correctly. Some examples: Hildur Gudnadottir's Leyfdu ljosinu, James Blackshaw's Lost Prayers, a concert of In C, and the continuous mixes of Hernan Cattaneo's Balance 26). Do you know any great, bargain-basement priced esoteric albums for sale? Do you have a great system for finding them? Please reveal your secrets!
posted by Going To Maine at 1:13 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me spend some money

So, Easter Jeep Safari is coming up, and jeep released photos of the concept cars that will be there. [more inside]
posted by Pogo_Fuzzybutt at 1:09 PM PST - 4 comments

Creating a data entry form in Excel

Hey Hivemind, So I am just beginning to foray into excel. I have create a worksheet for data entry and it has a lot of columns. To make my life easier, I viewed this website which provide a tip to make data entry more manageable. The author suggested to create a data entry form, http://www.launchexcel.com/excel-data-entry-power-tips. However, I cannot get this to really work in excel, it only partially works, excel is saying that the table is too large. Any ideas on how I can do this? Is there a work around?
posted by TRUELOTUS at 1:00 PM PST - 5 comments

Taking a client out to lunch in Beautiful Downtown Burbank

Just got a new gig, and want to take some potential clients to a nice lunch after a facility tour. The new gig is in Burbank, and in my experience cuisine in Burbank is limited to Frontier Wok, chain restaurants and Ikea meatballs. Please help me with suggestions of good Burbank and Burbank-adjacent restaurants for client lunches. Bonus points for healthy places where fitness-oriented clients can feel at home.
posted by infinitewindow at 12:57 PM PST - 10 comments

Bespectacled? Yes, Be Very Spectacled 2: Electric Boogaloo

6 years ago, you helped me pick a new style of glasses and I followed the advice therein to get my current pair. Help me find my next pair, Hivemind! [more inside]
posted by plinth at 12:52 PM PST - 3 comments

What happens if you're arrested when out, but you've left the oven on?

Just say you're down at the shops buying milk and bread and you do something to get arrested, or you get arrested for something you did years ago... either way, you're arrested. What happens if you need to deal with something important but you can't because you're gonna be locked up for the next little while? [more inside]
posted by UltraFleece at 12:02 PM PST - 33 comments

Best Software for Tracking Time for Editorial Projects?

I work in communications for a large nonprofit, and I've been tasked with coming up with a way to track the time people spend working on various projects. Previous attempts to do this without software have proven unwieldy. Help me. [more inside]
posted by dortmunder at 12:00 PM PST - 5 comments

How can I stop slumping in my chair?

I have a terrible habit of slumping down in my faux-leather chair at work. No matter how often I catch myself and sit up straight, a few minutes later I'm sliding back down. I really hate this because it makes me look like a schlub, especially when the boss comes to my desk. I've actually considered putting some kind of rubber mat on the seat to keep my butt from sliding, but rejected this as unavoidably bizarre. Short of buying a new, more friction-y chair, is there anything I can do to stop this habit?
posted by Enemy of Joy at 10:48 AM PST - 16 comments

Where to go and what to do in Kentucky?

In May, my parents and I are heading to Kentucky. I've never been. What should we do there? [more inside]
posted by dearwassily at 10:41 AM PST - 20 comments

Manual assembly - what kind of software do I need?

I am working with a company that provides a specific type of manual, and I’d like to automate the customization process. Can you recommend a solution? [more inside]
posted by mireille at 10:27 AM PST - 3 comments

BookFinderFilter: YA Dino-humanoid Edition

Can someone tell me what book I read that involved a boy swapping worlds with his evolved-dinosaur counterpart? [more inside]
posted by joelhunt at 10:25 AM PST - 3 comments

Paying $75/hr for a bespoke carpenter in NYC for a very sentimental log

We have a piece of a tree that shut down 5th Avenue when it fell. A byproduct is that it shut my grandmother's street on the day that she died. We have a carpenter to turn the log into coffee tables, but I'm wondering at the price he's quoted. $75/hr is a good deal? More info (and the beautiful story of my grandmother's death) inside. [more inside]
posted by omnigut at 10:20 AM PST - 19 comments

I want to give money away. I can't seem to figure out how.

I'm done with charitable organizations. I'm looking to help real people in real situations. I need help figuring out how to find these people and help them out in the least dramatic way possible. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:19 AM PST - 40 comments

Was this a webcomic, or just a one-off?

A few years ago I saw an online comic spoofing the overly-serious analysis of anime by westerners. I'm not sure if it was from a web comic or something made as a one-off joke, but I'd like to see it again. [more inside]
posted by Dr-Baa at 10:01 AM PST - 5 comments

Ethical Adoption Agency/Unicorn?

Just beginning the complex/overwhelming/fraught process of exploring domestic infant adoption, and looking for help in sorting out a lot of conflicting information and emotions about agencies and ethics. [more inside]
posted by Dorinda at 9:32 AM PST - 5 comments

What's the best method of mastering tracks made in Garageband?

What's the best, easiest method of mastering tracks that were mixed in Garageband? [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 8:48 AM PST - 5 comments

Provincetown off-season

I'm thinking about heading to Provincetown, MA next week for a thesis-writing getaway. How's the Boston-Provincetown bus, where can I eat and how's the cell service? [more inside]
posted by andrewesque at 8:22 AM PST - 7 comments

Backyard Drainage Woes

We have a lake in our backyard. We'd like to fix it, or get it fixed, cheaply. [more inside]
posted by raspberrE at 8:16 AM PST - 21 comments

'80s/'90s cartoon movie where everyone's left-handed?

Anyone know of an (animated?) movie in the 1980s or 1990s where the child protagonist enters an alternate universe where everyone's left-handed? A friend remembers seeing it on a Saturday afternoon when he was young, and I thought I'd be able to find its title for him, but I'm not having much luck.
posted by WCityMike at 8:09 AM PST - 6 comments

Renting a goat in NYC

Is there a place/person who will rent me a goat (or sheep) for a few hours in NYC? [more inside]
posted by Partario at 7:54 AM PST - 5 comments

Researching school districts

A move is in my future, but I need some help figuring out where to move, particularly in regards to figuring out school districts. What is the best way to do this research? [more inside]
posted by katers890 at 7:49 AM PST - 11 comments

Father-son vacation ideas for a six-year-old

For ten days this summer my wife will be traveling with my daughters to a family thing, leaving me at home with our six-year-old son. But we do not plan to stay home. We will Go. Do. Something. But what? [more inside]
posted by Pater Aletheias at 7:39 AM PST - 27 comments

Help Shoe Me

I want to take up running. I'm a very new beginner and am going to start by way of C25K. Slow and steady is the plan. I don't plan on pushing myself. The extenuating factor here is that I have Cerebral Palsy. [more inside]
posted by aclevername at 7:25 AM PST - 9 comments

Collaboration tools for a remote non-coding team?

I am working with a new, small remote team, and I'm trying to establish good norms for software tools to manage projects. I'm looking for advice on workflows and getting less tech-savy members up to speed. Specific questions, including Asana and Slack, below. [more inside]
posted by philosophygeek at 7:06 AM PST - 2 comments

Teaching Generosity to Children

I am godmother to a lively little two-year old. Part of my relationship with her is to teach her about generosity and giving. Her birthday is coming up, and I am thinking about a birthday gift for this year, I wanted to ask you: what are some concrete ways I can contribute to this aspect of her growth? [more inside]
posted by noonday at 6:59 AM PST - 22 comments

Repressed memories?

I've seen the recommendation on here for The Drama of the Gifted Child many times. I bought it last night and was reading thru it and it seemed ok until I started seeing a lot of talk about repressed memories. Wasn't that all debunked? I'm questioning the validity of anything else the author says. This is just not the book I expected based on the numerous and repeated mentions of it here on the green. [more inside]
posted by sio42 at 6:43 AM PST - 12 comments

Any informed assessments of Allied Insurance?

I can get somewhat cheaper auto insurance from Allied, but have not heard of this company. Googling for reviews get mixed results. Has anyone had experience with them - customer service, paying claims, etc.?
posted by mmiddle at 6:07 AM PST - 4 comments

Opening an IRA for my husband

I'd like to open a spousal Roth IRA for my husband, but I'm unsure of the basics. Please help! [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 5:59 AM PST - 7 comments

Current best practices for updating social media sites simultaneously?

Back when I used to have a blog, my Twitter account would automatically tweet links to my new posts. Meanwhile, my tweets were automatically posted as Facebook statuses. But that was 5+ years ago and I have no idea what the done thing is these days. [more inside]
posted by Jacqueline at 5:44 AM PST - 9 comments

Computing hacks for migraine sufferers

My mother gets migraines. She has to be on a computer for several hours at least a day for work. These two things are not very compatible. Help me help her make it better. [more inside]
posted by mymbleth at 5:34 AM PST - 13 comments

Friend is addicted to heroin. Do I tell her parents?

I recently found out that a friend from high school is addicted to heroin. I have talked to a handful of other friends, but I'm not satisfied with the response. I think her parents could help. More details below. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:30 AM PST - 56 comments

What does "MCR 2.113(F)(1)(b)" mean?

I am the defendant in a Michigan lawsuit which references "MCR 2.113(F)(1)(b)". I am represented by an attorney in this matter, but I like to do my own research ahead of time, and I have not been able to figure out what MCR 2.113(F)(1)(b) actually is or says by using Google (although I have found many cases and/or amateur case theories which seem to reference it). I gather that MCR stands for Michigan Court Rules, but I have not been able to find a comprehensive listing of these rules, nor the exact text of MCR 2.113(F)(1)(b), and I am hoping someone here can help.
posted by anonymous at 12:27 AM PST - 3 comments

Article about unmaintainable software on bank mainframes

Please help me locate an article I read online a couple of years ago. Essentially it went like this: the core software that banks use to run transactions is very old and hard to maintain, and they're terrified of breaking something by trying to integrate new features. Therefore, "instant" transactions via online banking aren't really instant: what actually happens is that there's an elaborate front-end emulating the functionality of the core system. Every night the front-end system delivers all the queued-up "faked" transactions to the core system, which actually processes them. [more inside]
posted by pont at 12:23 AM PST - 4 comments

March 18

What are your experiences with counting calories?

I looking to hear about the experiences people have had with counting calories to lose weight, so that I can better determine if it's the right approach for me and my partner. [more inside]
posted by sam_harms at 11:27 PM PST - 36 comments

My husband will not have sex with me. Can I hear it from the men?

I have been married for 8 years. We have one son, he is 6. I would love to give him a sibling, but it is very hard to get my husband interested in sex. Apart from the procreative goal, it is very lonely and hurtful living with someone who to all intents and purposes does not find me attractive. I am slim, reasonably fit and look good for my age (late thirties-he is a few years older). He is otherwise loving and affectionate. What do you men say? Why would you go off your own wife sexually? [more inside]
posted by millionpieces at 10:43 PM PST - 40 comments

Wordpress / WooCommerce plugin that allows "purchases" via "points"

I want to set up a non-monetary credit system using Wordpress, and probably WooCommerce, that will allow registered visitors to use credits to redeem for certain perks (probably listed as products). [more inside]
posted by Unsomnambulist at 10:42 PM PST - 1 comment

Remote control for computer? I watch TV on my computer now,

Hi Hivemind, so I got a Google chromebase (like a computer, only internet) in the bedroom now to watch tv. is there a remote I can buy? I thought I read that people were using their chromebase as an alarm clock, so I figure there must be a remoter control out there, so that I can watch the computer from bed. thanks!
posted by cheetahchick at 8:10 PM PST - 5 comments

Am I enabling poor pregnancy etiquette?

After a long journey to this point, I am 24+ weeks into what seems to be a pretty vigorous pregnancy, and quite thrilled about it. I am also showing like whoa, and so it is becoming commonplace for people I don't know well to spontaneously comment on my being pregnant before I say anything about it. I know this is a terrible thing for people to do, etiquette-wise... but I am too excited to want to quash it. Should I be trying to, and if so, how? [more inside]
posted by Smells of Detroit at 8:03 PM PST - 24 comments

How should I educate myself for a career in programming?

I'm almost 30, with few marketable skills to speak of and a bleak financial future in retail. There is no hope of that changing without doing something different. After a lot of thought and a great deal of procrastination, I've decided that pursuing my interest in programming professionally is my best option. The issue is deciding how to educate myself in my chosen field. [more inside]
posted by Gin and Comics at 7:02 PM PST - 12 comments

How can I help my friend after a double mastectomy?

My friend is having a double mastectomy/reconstruction next week after kicking cancer's arse. How can I help to support her physically and emotionally in the weeks afterwards? [more inside]
posted by roshy at 6:48 PM PST - 12 comments

I'm just WEIRD! And lost in the mists of time.

Name that pro-weirdness novelty song? [more inside]
posted by Sublimity at 6:37 PM PST - 2 comments

Pregnancy gift basket?

I'd like to have a gift basket delivered to my pregnant cousin, but there doesn't seem to be much available online. [more inside]
posted by lemonade at 6:20 PM PST - 3 comments

I've got enough broomsticks, but I do need some bedknobs

I'm going to repaint this old bed headboard and footboard for one of the bedrooms in my house. Problem: the bedknobs are missing from the headboard. Where can I find replacements that will look approximately like the knobs in the footboard? Or are there other creative things I could do with the empty sockets?
posted by orange swan at 6:00 PM PST - 13 comments

Looking for a sun shade to block New Mexico sun

I need to buy a sun shade for my car. I’m in New Mexico and am looking for a high quality sun shade that is well fitted to the windshield that blocks heat extremely well. [more inside]
posted by jroybal at 4:50 PM PST - 5 comments

help me excel in spite of excel

ran a test that spits out a text file, need to excel it. having issues. more inside. [more inside]
posted by koroshiya at 4:06 PM PST - 13 comments

Nanny vs son - who wins?

My first grader hates his current nanny. I agree she isn't terrific, but she keeps him safe and is completely trustworthy, so there is no immediate need to replace her other than his and our general unhappiness with her. But it is impacting on his behavior, and we're not sure how to proceed. Wall of text inside, sorry. [more inside]
posted by my left sock at 3:59 PM PST - 31 comments

Help me find a bridesmaid's dress!

I'm going to be in my best friend's wedding this fall, and I get to pick my own dress. It needs to be a neutral color (blush/nude/champagne tones are all okay), and either floor length or tea length. I've found two dresses that I really like, but both have small things that take them out of the running. I'd love to find a dress that is similar to either of them. [more inside]
posted by frizzle at 3:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Please recommend a good landscape architect in the bay area

We want to get rid of our lawn...do you know a good landscaping consultant who works in the mid-peninsula area? [more inside]
posted by handful of rain at 2:56 PM PST - 3 comments

Why we don't take our pills - finding a behavioural change video

I have tipped Google upside down and shaken it but can't find this YouTube clip/book/name of relevant professor. I think I found the first mention of his academic work (with a female co-author) on behavioural change/competing priorities in an Ask answer. He discussed interviewing stroke (?) patients who were prescribed daily medication and how he unexpectedly found the underlying reasons they wouldn't take their pills. More details under the cut: [more inside]
posted by Gin and Broadband at 2:43 PM PST - 6 comments

please bring back springsteen, nirvana, but maybe not madonna....

Explain the current state of music and podcast buying/storing/playing to me as though I am 5 years old and have never owned an iPod. [more inside]
posted by headnsouth at 2:15 PM PST - 11 comments

Mild dysplasia cervix need colposcopy

I am beyond worried My pap result came back low dysplasia. LGISL is the diagnosis which is one step after ASCUS. Should I be worried? Well I already am. I do not know how to deal with this. I got scheduled for colpo to look at it and get a biopsy. Did you go through this?
posted by barexamfreak at 1:57 PM PST - 28 comments

Recent social-science graduate looking for job guidance

I'm a recent graduate with experience in the non-profit and graphic/web design fields looking to find sustainable, permanent work that matches my skills and experience before continuing my education. [more inside]
posted by Elephanzee at 1:44 PM PST - 5 comments

Make me presentable in San Francisco - Beard and Haircut?

In a few weeks I'm going to be in San Francisco for about 12 hours for a connecting flight. It will be just after a long no-shave camping trip and just before a set of client meetings that I have to be presentable for. At the moment I'm thinking about keeping the beard, so I'm looking for recommendations on shops (and specific barbers) who can take something from "just walked down from a mountain" scraggly to presentable without taking it all off. Flexible on location - anywhere from San Francisco down to Palo Alto. [more inside]
posted by true at 1:42 PM PST - 3 comments

Hot, Not Sweet, Jerky

Looking for recipes for dehydrator-created jerky, can be hot, no carbs. Details below the cut. [more inside]
posted by Halloween Jack at 1:34 PM PST - 7 comments

How do I get rid of this driving anxiety?

I am suffering driving anxiety but not sure how to fix it. I'm looking for ideas on how to proceed. Extended (long) details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:13 PM PST - 9 comments

Redirecting sexual energy

I have a healthy sexual appetite, but can't have sex right now. What do I do with all of this energy in the meantime? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:12 PM PST - 15 comments

No (or very little) sew fleece projects

I made a no-sew fleece blanket for my sister's first baby. I have 1/2 yard (by 2 yards) left of a patterned fleece and a coordinating solid. Are there any other no-sew nursery/baby projects I could make with the leftover fabric? [more inside]
posted by that's how you get ants at 1:05 PM PST - 4 comments

How to get details of coverage for a preexisting condition?

USA insurance-filter: we can't have kids naturally and need either surgery or IVF. We are on my wife’s insurance, which does not cover either of these. My employer's insurance says it does, but before we switch I want to be very sure these things are covered and understand any limitations. Can I just ask the insurer directly? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 12:39 PM PST - 5 comments

How can I send photos from a cell phone to a computer?

There must be an easy way to send photos from a cell phone to a computer... (as brief as possible explanation inside). [more inside]
posted by crazylegs at 12:11 PM PST - 12 comments

What does wax mean in restaurant prep?

I'm reading/skimming the new cookbook/notebook Prune by Gabrielle Hamilton, which is printed to mimic the binders full of recipes from her restaurant. As such, it contains lots of marginalia. Awesome! But I can't figure out what she means by "wax." [more inside]
posted by sockermom at 12:07 PM PST - 5 comments

This million-dollar workup is probably all for nothing

Earlier this week somebody found me passed out on the floor. From there, I got dragged in to see the doctor, who ran some tests (all negative so far). That's not the problem. The problem is: I feel ashamed and guilty, like I'm making this all up, despite that the objective facts are that I fainted, my blood pressure was found to be 50/40 (after fluids), and that I have a history of syncope. [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit at 11:14 AM PST - 23 comments

Corporate communication analysis - topic ideas please.

I kind of fried my brain finishing my accounting degree, and am having a very hard time thinking of topics for my corporate communication paper. [more inside]
posted by tatiana131 at 10:58 AM PST - 6 comments

Tips on overcoming speech nervousness

I have to give a speech at my organization and I feel two things: slightly nervous about screwing it up and ridiculous that I feel nervous. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:53 AM PST - 8 comments

How to be a tourist in London

I'm English and moved to NYC in 2009. My boyfriend is American and in late August I'm taking him back home to meet my family/friends and to share my home country with him. [more inside]
posted by shesbenevolent at 10:51 AM PST - 14 comments

How do I take the first step to resolving a conflict in my band?

I've been playing music with four others, and I communicate well with all of them, except one. It's getting to the point where I'm stressing about it, feeling apprehensive and sad, and ultimately walking on eggshells around the guy. I want things to get better, but I'm concerned our difficulties communicating on a day-to-day basis will be an obstacle in actually starting a conversation about how to improve things between us. [more inside]
posted by blue t-shirt at 10:51 AM PST - 14 comments

Need more short, creeeeeepy books that are super scary!

So, I have recently read a few books that have seriously creeped me out. I love that. I need more books like them - quick reads, seriously scary, well-written but pretty basic in terms of plot, full of dread, and with strong characters that are easy to root for as they battle evil. [more inside]
posted by ORthey at 10:47 AM PST - 18 comments

What the hell does this mug mean?

It says, "Part time virgin... I didn't plan it, but it worked out that way." Images. What is the joke? Is it a joke? [more inside]
posted by cmoj at 10:30 AM PST - 17 comments

What is it?

What kind of cart is this? It came from a surplus school auction.
posted by MayNicholas at 10:23 AM PST - 6 comments

Song/artist used in Apple Watch "Aluminum" video?

I really like the music in Apple's "Aluminum" video for the Apple Watch. Unfortunately, AppleMusic.info has no information about this video. Any idea who the artist might be?
posted by archagon at 10:20 AM PST - 3 comments

How can I buy or make this type of cork-wrapped flask?

I'm trying to either buy or make a round-bottomed lab flask with a cork-covered neck. The object of my desire looks like this Kontes Kool-Grip round-bottomed model. Unfortunately they appear no longer to be made, at least as far as I can tell. Where can I find one, or failing that how can I put a very similar wrap on the neck of a regular flask? [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 10:11 AM PST - 6 comments

Choosing fence picket material and thickness

I can't believe I can't find this answer online... can anyone tell me, if I'm choosing standard 6' PT dogear fence pickets, what is the benefit of 3/4" thickness vs 5/8" or 1/2"? Is it structural, or are the thicker pickets less likely to cup/warp/bend over time? Also, is there any reason I should consider cedar at twice the price? I'm going to be putting on a mildly cedar-toned semitransparent sealer either way. Thanks!
posted by ftm at 9:14 AM PST - 6 comments

Is there a list of individuals who have done well in their NCAA brackets

I am looking for a database or an aggregator that runs for atleast 4 or 5 years and shows people who have done exceptionally well in their NCAA bracket picks. I do realize that past performance is not an idnicator of future performance but I would still like to obtain this information. Are there any individuals who have done exceptionally well in these brackets on a consistent basis over some set period of time?
posted by RapcityinBlue at 9:12 AM PST - 2 comments

Missing the Monthly Gift

Has anyone here experienced a skipped menstrual cycle after quitting regular marijuana use, or know of someone who has? If so, how long did it take to get back to normal again? There are some forums I've found which suggest quitting cigarettes can cause this, and I am wondering if stopping smoking other substances can cause the same effect. [more inside]
posted by dissolvedgirl22 at 9:04 AM PST - 9 comments

Is this a job interview?

After talking to a company at a career fair, I have been asked in to meet with 2 execs -- a company VP and the local office manager. I'm in the final semester of a master's, and all of my previous job experience was the kind of stuff you don't need a degree for. What should I expect, and how best to prep? [more inside]
posted by DoubleLune at 8:56 AM PST - 11 comments

Refurbishing the CV - how to do it from MS IT Hardware Ops/Engineering?

I've been at a Microsoft Enterprise Stack Ops position for 8 years. And while I'm good there and have solid credentials and experience, (1) I have relocated to the SF Bay Area where Microsoft isn't so popular and (2) I'm tired of Operations and the on-call responsibility. I would like to move on to other roles and career possibilities. Please share with me ideas and especially experience of doing that yourself! [more inside]
posted by kalessin at 8:45 AM PST - 1 comment

Reputable Place to Stay On Drive to Florida

I'll be driving from Wisconsin to Panama City Beach, FL next week and we are looking for a place to rest our heads somewhere around GA or TN. Can you recommend a hotel on (or close to) the highway where we won't be shanked in the middle of the night? Our route will be on I-65, thanks in advance!
posted by robadobdob at 8:42 AM PST - 10 comments

London second-hand watches under £500?

I'm a guy with small wrists (5.5"), so most modern dress watches don't fit me well at all. An option I've seen suggested online is to go vintage, since older watches are often 36mm or smaller - is there anywhere in London with a good selection that isn't centred on £4000 Rolexes? Alternately, are there any modern watches in a smaller case size that anyone can recommend? I'd really like a Christopher Ward, but 39mm is just too large for me.
posted by piato at 8:41 AM PST - 9 comments

How do I make this decision?

I am 22 years old currently living at home and working at a coffee shop. I just finished up my Associate's degree in General Transfer Studies last summer. Not sure what I want a Bachelor's in, but I do want to go to university. Currently trying to figure out my next step in life, and really could use advice from older, possibly wiser people. :) [more inside]
posted by anon1129 at 8:28 AM PST - 14 comments

Receiving international mail from sellers who won't ship internationally

I'm looking for a service that will, say, receive/collect UK/European packages purchased on eBay, arrange international shipping to the US, and send them to me. These would be for auctions where international shipping isn't an option. So, if it's a UK auction, I'd be looking for a UK service that could accept the package on my behalf and forward it to me. I know this service exists, but what should I be googling to find it? Is it courier shipping? Does anyone have any recommendations for particular companies/individuals who offer this service?
posted by Mael Oui at 7:59 AM PST - 4 comments

How to tell my date I have a son (I'm a man)

I started to date a girl an I need an advice on how to tell her I have a son. [more inside]
posted by Nightrunner at 7:48 AM PST - 28 comments

Help me wear my ring!

My mom recently gave me a ring that she's had for a while. It's a star sapphire with 2 tiny diamonds, set in a 10k white gold band. Therein lies the problem: I have a nickel allergy, and thus can't wear 10k gold. What do I need to know/what can I expect with regard to getting the stones set in a new band? [more inside]
posted by Bunny Boneyology at 7:36 AM PST - 3 comments

Can I touch this money before she goes into the Great Beyond?

From what I know, the trust says no, but do I have any recourse if I want to use the money for an important life event? How about an interest free loan? I have no idea who to even ask. A few snowflakes after the jump... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:16 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me deal with the woo

Spouse has career in naturalist/nutrition based field. Tons of unscientifically supported woo. Spouse feels incredibly validated by field; feels ideas/ideals are all part of little guy's fight against big pharma/ big ag/ big whatever. Remuneration is based upon getting clients to sign up for coaching sessions where this unscientific information is pitched. No products are being sold, just diet/health/exercise/spiritual plans. In the past 2 years, income has gone up from 2,000 to 5,000/yr. I feel guilty being a part of a marriage where I feel like my partner's income is a result of fleecing at best or profound ignorance at worst, likely the latter. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:16 AM PST - 38 comments

Help me make my thighs as good as my calves

I have great calves; they are strong, muscular, and well-defined. I have an okay butt. I do NOT have great thighs. What can I do to make my thighs stronger and, if possible, leaner? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 7:15 AM PST - 13 comments

Should I run?

Should I run? Complications: fat, crackly knees, plantar fasciitis, clumsiness. If I should run, any advice on doing it right? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 7:12 AM PST - 22 comments

What are some alternatives to a computer chair?

My computer chair, which I once thought was magical, now causes me discomfort after a few minutes in any position - both feet on the ground, one leg folded, both legs folded. The back is not aligned with my spine and is just plain uncomfortable. It seems like I'm doing gymnastics every time I sit in it now, and I work in front of the computer. [more inside]
posted by atinna at 1:50 AM PST - 12 comments

March 17

Cross-cultural relationship, family problems

We are planning a future together... If only my family would accept him in spite of his race and religion. Snowflakes entail. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:37 PM PST - 21 comments

Net income seems WAY off (in Ontario, Canada)

I've just finished doing my Canadian taxes using Turbotax. The net income calculated by inputting my T4 is higher than what I actually netted (calculated using excel + mint) by about $8000. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:33 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I navigate my eating disorder with my (likely former) boyfriend?

At my therapist's suggestion, I want my boyfriend to treat my binge eating as if it is not negative, but actually positive. He claims that this is insane and akin to buying drinks for an alcoholic. This difference of opinion led me to say that we shouldn't see each other anymore, and I want to know if I made the right decision, or I am indeed being irrational. Long story ahead. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:30 PM PST - 28 comments

Identify a comedian for me

I have a clip of this standup act: http://zork.net/~spork/classiccomedy.mp3 Can anyone identify this act? I actually found this out once but lost the name of the comic. This was recorded in 2006. The comedian has another act along the same lines as this, but whereas this one is ultra generic, the other one is very overly specific to LA.
posted by mulligan at 10:47 PM PST - 5 comments

Appropriate Fancy Fundraiser attire for an Indian-themed event

I'm attending a fancy fundraiser soon. The theme is "A trip to India", but probably 1/2 of 1% of those in attendance will be non-white, much less from India or Indian-American. Everyone is expected to dress in "Indian style formal wear". Help me respect the event and the entire country of India, while not embarrassing myself. [more inside]
posted by carlodio at 10:29 PM PST - 16 comments

Wii signal dropoff

Why does the signal keep dropping on my Wii? [more inside]
posted by roll truck roll at 10:28 PM PST - 4 comments

If every porkchop were perfect, we wouldn't have hotdogs!

What fonts are used on Steven Universe? [more inside]
posted by Mike Mongo at 8:54 PM PST - 1 comment

Print and Play Board Games?

Looking for recommendations for free to low cost print-to-play card and board games. [more inside]
posted by dinty_moore at 8:25 PM PST - 17 comments

If your uncle could also be your half-brother, is there no point?

I have a family member who I've been told is my uncle, but could very well be my half-brother (almost 50 years ago, my father slept with his mother, who was married to my father's father at the time). I really want to know what the truth is: is this relative my uncle, or my half-brother? [more inside]
posted by human ecologist at 8:21 PM PST - 26 comments

What are these white bugs I saw spawning in the woods?

One July a few years back, my friend and I went camping in in the Catskills. [more inside]
posted by andromache at 8:20 PM PST - 5 comments

How much would a professional charge for something like this?

I know that my very question speaks to the fact that I am not quite a seasoned professional as of yet, but how much do professional type artists and letterers charge a client for a poster? [more inside]
posted by cyrusw8 at 7:19 PM PST - 8 comments

Prius: Replace, recondition, or junk?

My 2005 Toyota Prius (160K miles) recently had a check engine light. After taking it to a mechanic, it looks like the main battery in the car, the traction battery, has kicked it. Should I replace the car, replace the battery, or pay someone to fix the battery? [more inside]
posted by Vhanudux at 6:44 PM PST - 11 comments

A movie where a soldier reads Ulysses and is mocked by other soldiers

I am trying to identify a movie from fifties or very early sixties, where a soldier is found reading Ulysses by his fellow soldiers who accuse him of reading dirty books. Any ideas?
posted by njohnson23 at 6:18 PM PST - 2 comments

Tool to coordinate a bachelor party planning for 20+ gents?

Does anyone know of a good collaborative online resource that I could use to coordinate my brother's bachelor party? Essentially, I need to be able to coordinate schedules and accept suggestions and thoughts on what we can do. I'd think that there's a great collab website for this, but my google-fu is failing mightily. Help Askme-wan-kenobi, you're my only hope.
posted by Draccy at 5:33 PM PST - 7 comments

Where to find some speakers and receivers in Reno, NV?

I recently went to the "Doctors' Wives" garage sale thing that was happening a couple of weeks ago and bought a nice pair of speakers for $20. They were a steal and although I have to do a minor amount of work on one of them, they're amazing! I hooked then up to my parents' amp and we've been having a great time with them. However, I didn't realize this garage sale was only once a year, and they had a lot of other nice, vintage speakers for $20. I want a pair for my room and a new amp so I can listen to music or the radio in bed. While craigslist has some good speakers and amps sometimes, and the SPCA also has some good stuff, I was curious if there was a store or another thrift store that sells that kind of stuff. Googling only returns Beat Buy and car audio places. Thanks!!
posted by gucci mane at 4:59 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me add more structure to my fitness routine

I have been working out at home regularly (4-5 times a week) for the past several months, following some specific routines. I'd like some input on how to improve my routine and mix it up in the most efficient way to meet my goals. [more inside]
posted by lost_lettuce at 3:27 PM PST - 8 comments

What can I do with a spiralizer?

I have accidentally acquired a spiralizer and I'm not sure what do do with it besides make zucchini pasta. What else can I make with this thing?
posted by lalex at 3:16 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me not get diabetes please!

I have a very strong family history of type II diabetes (all 4 of my grandparents, both of my parents, and most of their numerous siblings have been diagnosed, usually in their late 50s). I am in my early 40s and somehow over the past 20 years have been putting pounds (quit smoking and gained some weight, got pregnant and didn't lose all the weight, got a sedentary office job and added a few more pounds . . .). Now I'm at a BMI of 31 and the heaviest I've ever been at middle age, and I REALLY don't want to become diabetic like everyone else in my family. [more inside]
posted by agent99 at 2:43 PM PST - 28 comments

Resouces for transferring a stair chair from one home to another

We have a stair chair in our home that was used by my husband’s parents. They have since passed away, and we have always thought that we’d like to donate the stair chair to somebody or some organization that could use it. Now, we actually have an acquaintance who, due to health issues, could really use the stair chair in their home. [more inside]
posted by molasses at 2:17 PM PST - 4 comments

Best way to transition to a new gmail account?

Beyond auto-forwarding all my emails, what are the best practices in switching to a new gmail address? Is there a way to move all my archived emails to the new account so I don't have to switch when searching for old emails?
posted by jsmith78 at 2:05 PM PST - 9 comments

How to build a robot using Raspberry Pi/BeagleBone the simplest way?

I'd like to start experiment with building robots (drone, car,..). But since I don't have too much time would like to get to a fast track, where I can simply get to some at least elementary results. I have a raspberry pi, some lego blocks from my childhood. What do you suggest, what do I need to buy and build to get something. I found lots of projects, but actually that's my problem, they are too many and few seemed convincing. I'm not underestimating building robots, I'm a software engineer, I know it will effort, but also I know how much motivation and fun a good starting path can give. Thank you for suggestions.
posted by fifigyuri at 1:35 PM PST - 4 comments

Making friends for people who hate being in groups.

I dislike being in groups, but I'm finding that I'm at a life stage where my friendships are dwindling - people have kids, move away, etc. I like being around people in one-on-one interactions. [more inside]
posted by unstrungharp at 1:33 PM PST - 16 comments

How can we make our city apartment more of a social hub?

My wife and I are in our late thirties with a young child of 2, living in a big European city. Though we still have social lives outside and host a few dinners a month, we're finding ourselves increasingly isolated at home, and it's kinda depressing. We long for the days when people used to just 'drop by' and the home was filled with people. How can we shake things up and make our apartment more social? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:22 PM PST - 18 comments

Adware/malware in Safari?

I was informed by the CIO that an email that I sent out of OWA from Safari, OSX Mavericks had dodgy source code attached. See a text file of source code. [more inside]
posted by jadepearl at 12:52 PM PST - 8 comments

Calling All Road Scholars!

I'm trying to decide between two routes from Columbia, MD to Scranton, PA. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by tckma at 12:52 PM PST - 10 comments

Cheating enablement or friendship?

One of my favorite traits about my boyfriend is his loyalty - to me, his family, his friends. However, his roommate and close friend has been in a dysfunctional, drama-filled relationship with a single mom and continues to cheat on her with other women. My boyfriend has helped him not get caught out on several occasions. Am I being unreasonable in thinking he's enabling some pretty sleazy behavior? [more inside]
posted by Everydayville at 11:49 AM PST - 45 comments

Landlord demands early renewal of lease. What should I do?

The lease on my house begins in August. The property management company has issued repeated emails last month -- and then last week a demand in writing -- that I renew the lease immediately (mid-March). Can they do this, or is it a bluff? The problem is that rental properties in this area come on the market May - July, so if they coerce a signature out of me now, I can't effectively search for other housing. [more inside]
posted by Maximian at 11:39 AM PST - 21 comments

A meal of appetizers?

My husband recently went on a big speech about how he likes his meals to have lots of different tastes and flavours, and that uni-flavour meals (like pureed soups or some casseroles) are boring. So now I want to make him a meal where almost every bite is a different flavour!! Brilliant, right? but there are some snowflakey details within. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 10:49 AM PST - 28 comments

Oh hey, it's that guy!

I'm always delighted when reading to discover that an author has subtly written their books into the same quasi-real-life universe. Help me find more examples! [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 10:39 AM PST - 71 comments

Yo, dog. What's your name?

Please help me give my awesomest new friend an equally awesome name! [more inside]
posted by lettuce dance at 10:32 AM PST - 60 comments

Vacation house in San Diego for a BIG family

I've need to find a house in San Diego for my family vacation. This means 4 adult couples, 3 kids and 2 toddlers. I know about VRBO but the last time I was in San Diego was 10 years ago and stayed at a tiny hotel downtown, so I don't really know what areas to look at that would be nice for a summer vacation. Please help. [more inside]
posted by CrazyLemonade at 10:25 AM PST - 4 comments

Legal question about porn production, consent, and contract law

This is a purely theoretical legal question: What legally happens when a porn production contract is made but one of the participants changes their mind? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:02 AM PST - 15 comments

New versus used car: pros and cons?

What are the key variables to consider when deciding whether to buy a new versus a used car? [more inside]
posted by eagle-bear at 9:33 AM PST - 24 comments

Writing a scientific manuscript

I've done all the analysis for my thesis, but how do I write a scientific manuscript? [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 9:07 AM PST - 5 comments

Professional Development

How do I find free online professional development resources? [more inside]
posted by koinonia at 8:58 AM PST - 8 comments

InkMe

I am looking at getting a small tattoo in the near future, and am running into a wall when it comes to figuring out what exactly to get. [more inside]
posted by feckless fecal fear mongering at 8:41 AM PST - 26 comments

SOAP-y Tears

Residency filter: I did not Match into a residency program today. Any words of wisdom, advice, or success stories? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:22 AM PST - 9 comments

Apple Genius's day off

Need help perfecting an Apple-based home network/ to suit my family’s needs [more inside]
posted by timshel at 8:10 AM PST - 8 comments

Precedents for cutting a school program to make schools equal?

School system is trying to demonstrate equality of education across schools to comply with a longstanding federal court order. One way they are trying to achieve this is by taking away programs that are only offered at one school. Looking for other examples where this type of decision has been made, and perhaps, overturned. [more inside]
posted by tracer at 7:59 AM PST - 7 comments

Taxi in L.A.?

Can you personally recommend a good taxi / car service in L.A.? Has to service Santa Monica, L.A., Burbank. I'm trying to avoid Uber but might have to resort to them -- so experience with L.A. Uber welcome too. Car rental is not an option. Thanks!
posted by third rail at 7:36 AM PST - 16 comments

I have this Italian friend

My friend has started a small business in Italy and I am the US representative/minority owner. We have not yet begun production of our product. Can anyone tell me about filing US taxes with him as an foreign majority owner? [more inside]
posted by shaarog at 7:04 AM PST - 2 comments

Rollercoaster game (for Android) that's closest to Disney's Coaster?

Back in '93, Disney had a game for DOS called Coaster. You get a track editor, build and ride it in 3D, then it gets rated by some riders. Is there anything close to something like this in terms of game play for Android that's available now? Nicer graphics would be a plus.
posted by querty at 6:49 AM PST - 3 comments

Help make swimming more groovy!

I'm thinking about getting a waterproof radio (DAB or FM) or mp3 player for my lunchtime swims. I was looking at the Speedo Aquabeat but reviews seem quite mixed. Are there any other options, or should I go for it?
posted by mippy at 6:10 AM PST - 7 comments

How can I control my iPhone without touching it?

I need to give a demonstration on an iPhone 6+, and need to have full control of the device. Difficulty level: I will not be holding the phone, and will not have a desk surface for a traditional mouse. In a perfect and just world, I would simply be able to connect a bluetooth mouse and use it like any other input device, but I understand that iOS does not support mice. Assume I do not need any multi touch gestures, just taps and swipes. [more inside]
posted by LongDrive at 4:25 AM PST - 10 comments

People who have been proposed to: Did you want downtime after?

After 4 years of happy dating, I'm taking the plunge and asking the lady friend to marry me. We've discussed it in the past, so it's not out of left field, but she doesn't know that I've got a ring in hand. Now, her birthday is in a few weeks and my plan was this: Scavenger Hunt fun that ends with a proposal and then after we've had our little bliss, the last surprise: Our friends and family gathered for a surprise birthday party/omg -lemme-see-the-ring party. I told a friend about the plan and she looked at me like I was crazy. She insisted that after her engagement she just wanted private time to chill and bask and that I was going to be putting my beloved in a weird place. So- If you've been proposed to, does that plan seem out of line? Did you want chill, private time after? Obviously, everyone is different, but I wanted to hear it from the Hivemind. Thoughts/concerns?
posted by anonymous at 2:32 AM PST - 71 comments

Help me fulfill my partner's fantasy in the most creative ways possible

NSFW. My SO recently confessed a sexual fantasy of his which requires some advance brainstorming on my part, as it centers around a sexy game. Any suggestions are much appreciated! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:32 AM PST - 10 comments

What should this doctor's referral say instead?

My friend got a referral that seems wrong. Does it need to be corrected or is the radiology place we went to being picky? [more inside]
posted by rancher at 12:46 AM PST - 6 comments

The best fictional depiction of a nervous breakdown was -

I'm looking for fictional depictions of people breaking under strain. Tony Soprano is the right idea, but I'd rather written references. Short fiction would be most appreciated, and 'genre' is no constraint. Just really accurate, clear depictions of someone going through a nervous breakdown, before and or after, interior or exterior point of view.
posted by From Bklyn at 12:30 AM PST - 28 comments

Patterns recognition?

I'm looking for printable quality, large scale black and white patterns for background use in collage and decoupage work. [more inside]
posted by erskelyne at 12:10 AM PST - 4 comments

March 16

How to deal with percieved invasion of privacy?

I lost a USB memory stick recently while out and about, and it contained a full backup of stories and files that I've been working on since I was a teen. That's over 15 years of my most private stuff. I still have the files on the computer, but I carry the backup with me just in case something happens to my computer while I'm out. [more inside]
posted by starpoint at 11:24 PM PST - 36 comments

While the cat's away...

I'll be away from my apartment in Brooklyn for 3 months for work. Subletting isn't an option, so my apartment will be empty that entire time. What steps and precautions should I take to ensure that things are safe and as cost-effective as possible while I'm away? [more inside]
posted by fingers_of_fire at 10:48 PM PST - 10 comments

Outlook requires VPN to access exchange, Apple Mail does not - why?

Outlook requires VPN to access my work exchange account, while Apple Mail does not - why? [more inside]
posted by modernnomad at 10:30 PM PST - 8 comments

Hebrew readers, can you please tell me what is written on this pitcher

I recently acquired this small pitcher and I would like to know what it says. Also, if you can tell me anything about its intended purpose, that's be great. Thanks!
posted by at the crossroads at 9:53 PM PST - 8 comments

Learn to code or stop wasting my time?

I am currently learning to code via Codecademy. So far I've only completed one project (in web design), including one page where I couldn't figure out where I went wrong and almost quit, but eventually I got thru it and was glad I didn't. [more inside]
posted by serena15221 at 9:06 PM PST - 17 comments

Sexual assault in a "con" community - what now?

I went to a fan convention last week, and was groped at a bar, by someone other than my partner. I filed a police report that night, but am wondering if there's anything else I should be doing to get help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:51 PM PST - 32 comments

Help me find a poem

Please help me find a poem. I have very few details. Kind of a long shot. [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger at 7:34 PM PST - 10 comments

Does anyone know what this piece of music is? Heard in Shanghai.

Do you know what this music is? https://vid.me/PdCQ I filmed this standing on a conrner and the music was playing from an LCD/LED billboard behind me. Maybe someone who lives in Shanghai knows if it's music from an ad? Or some music buff can tell me if it's a known tune, that I can get a proper version of somewhere? [more inside]
posted by stellathon at 7:31 PM PST - 3 comments

An easier way to manage my Kindle?

I have an old Kindle Keyboard 3G, which I love. It's now loaded with books, but they're very disorganized. I have created a bunch of folders, but it's such a painful, labourious process to add books or move books that it's no longer set up in any useful way. I want to know if there's an easier way to do this. [more inside]
posted by synecdoche at 7:30 PM PST - 3 comments

Convince me that a 100-year old house is a bad idea

We are house-hunting at the moment in Sydney, Australia. I keep falling in love with federation-style houses. For example, my current obsession is this 101-year-old beauty but I also love this one and a variety of similar places. My husband thinks that houses of this sort of age are likely to be a total money-pit, especially if wooden, and even if renovated. Is this true? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 7:26 PM PST - 45 comments

short term housing plainboro nj advice

Looking for short term housing from June to August. Family two with pets. Husband has an internship. Were hoping for furnished studio or one bedroom would be fine. Nothing fancy needed. In Plainsboro or a neighboring town. Any leads or advice in finding them would be helpful. Already posted want ads on Craigslist
posted by misformiche at 6:45 PM PST - 3 comments

"Exercise, eat right, and all your problems will be solved," they said!

I have bad PMS or PMDD symptoms lasting two weeks out of every month. Hormonal birth helps a lot, but also causes frequent migraine headaches. Where do I go from here? [more inside]
posted by theraflu at 6:32 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me find this movie about an Asian science student studying at uni

I just remembered a movie that I saw part of on TV years ago. Here's all I remember about it. It was about a young man who was studying science at a university, I think he was a grad student. I think he was a genius or coming up with some cutting edge theory or discovery. It was definitely science, I'm pretty sure astronomy... He was Asian and I'm pretty sure had just come to America for college/grad school. He frequented a tea shop where he first ordered "togo" tea, not realizing it was "to go." [more inside]
posted by chocolatemilkshakes at 6:22 PM PST - 2 comments

Same Backup/External Drive for A Mac and A PC?

This might sound like a strange question, but I have two computers, a Macbook and PC. If it matters, the Windows PC is online; the Macbook is almost never online. (This is why I'm not using a cloud service.) I'd like both of them to be hooked up to the same external drive (or some kind of backup drive), so I can pass files between the two, WITHOUT using the wireless network. I'm assuming I need to use hard cables for both, which is fine. [more inside]
posted by neeta at 6:08 PM PST - 14 comments

Recommendations for spending 10 days in Scotland this summer

My wife and I are planning a two-week trip to Scotland in early July. Our base will be Edinburgh but we plan a couple of nights in the Lake District (a family link) and then have 10 or so days in Scotland. Interested in hearing from people who have been there recently, what you have done (and avoided). Any advice would be welcome. [more inside]
posted by RafikiGuy at 5:07 PM PST - 12 comments

How do single low-income / working-class Canadians save for the future?

Hello all. I am a low-income mid-30s Canadian living alone, no dependents. Advice from bank staff and popular internet blogs confuse me and don't make sense in my world (e.g. ensure an 8-10% return - but how do I do that without jeopardizing my future if I retire in a decade the investment does poorly). I feel some investments I made were silly but am not sure if I am paranoid. Please suggest good directions to explore. I will give specifics about my situation below, with my specific question in the last paragraph. [more inside]
posted by partly squamous and partly rugose at 4:53 PM PST - 20 comments

Great connection, terrible sex

I asked a friend on a date recently. The date went really, really well, until we tried to have sex. Now I'm not sure if I should try again, or see if I can get out and save the friendship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:29 PM PST - 27 comments

New job nerves; how to better adjust?

I recently began a new job. It’s been a tough adjustment for me, and I’m unsure of what to do. Many layering details and snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 3:55 PM PST - 11 comments

4k HD monitor usable in the short term with a late 2011 17" Macbook Pro?

I have a late 2011 MBP 17" 8GB RAM, 2.5 GHz i7, Intel HD Graphics 3000 512 MB. I need an external monitor right now. I plan to buy the next generation MBP once they come out, top shelf version and upgrade the RAM. I need to know if I can use a 4k monitor in the interim. [more inside]
posted by jeff-o-matic at 3:49 PM PST - 16 comments

Switching from expensive AT&T iPhone plan to bare-bones phone/plan

Right now I pay AT&T $120 each month for iPhone talk/text/data service. For the past several months, all I have really used is maybe 1-2 hours of talk per month and perhaps 100 texts. I don't use the data at all. I miss ye olde $40/month Cingular plan on my indestructible Nokia brick of yore. How do I get back to that place (and keep my current phone number)? [more inside]
posted by Munching Langolier at 3:33 PM PST - 19 comments

Are you a female programmer? Do you like/LOVE it? Do tell!

As I plan my own transition into a career in programming/IT, I'm looking to hear from women who already work in the field and are happy about it. [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 3:16 PM PST - 12 comments

Raised Beds for Dummies

I would like to build a raised bed (for vegetables) on my lawn but I know nothing about construction and very little about gardening. [more inside]
posted by toby_ann at 2:46 PM PST - 17 comments

Queen Me through the interweb!

What's the best cross-compatible online chess app/site/program? [more inside]
posted by Meagan at 2:38 PM PST - 3 comments

Help with remembering this old sci-fi show

In the mid-'90s I watched this sci-fi show that was several agents who had to investigate anomalies. This one guy had a record player that entranced people to where they had to take part in his '50s flashback sitcom fantasy. One of the agents was a black woman who was forced to be a maid, the other was a blonde woman who was turned into the guy's teenage daughter. They shattered the illusion by pretending that they were being hit by a nuclear bomb. Does this juice anyone's mind grapes?
posted by satyricaldude at 2:20 PM PST - 7 comments

Robotics for simple tasks?

Any suggestions for a commercially available robot that could perform simple delivery tasks? [more inside]
posted by el_lupino at 1:58 PM PST - 10 comments

What can you tell me about this tabernacle scroll?

According to my grandmother, this scroll was given to her by a client many years ago. Apparently, the client was actually present when items from a tabernacle were being burned during WW2. He rolled up this scroll and secreted it away safely, until he decided to gift it to grandma. Years later, she had a client who was a rabbi, and he first told her it was hung upside down, and then identified the scroll as being a particular story. Grandma says she thinks it was either Joseph's Coat or Jacob's Ladder, but she can't remember which. Can anybody tell what it is, or provide any other information?
posted by gilrain at 1:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Best editor for H.264 video?

I have a Sanyo Xacti VPC-HD1000 Camcorder (8 or so years old). Its video comes out in H.264 format (unfortunately)... [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 1:53 PM PST - 2 comments

What's up with delayed food allergies?

After experiencing some digestive issues, my doctor has diagnosed me with several delayed food allergies. They happen to all be things that I eat every day. What should I do with this information? [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 1:53 PM PST - 8 comments

Women's International Terrorist Conspiracy from Hell

What is the equivalent of Halberstam's The Children for the American feminist movement of the late 60's and early 70's? [more inside]
posted by crush-onastick at 1:44 PM PST - 5 comments

Tell me what I need to know about buying eyeglasses for the first time

Tell me what I need to know about buying eyeglasses for the first time so I ask the right questions and don't buy things I don't need. Cost is not really a factor, though; I'd rather do this right and not skimp (and regret it later). Bonus if you can recommend a specific place to go in Milwaukee. I do not want to order online. [more inside]
posted by desjardins at 1:36 PM PST - 36 comments

Navigating the world of child custody... with a dysfunctional coparent

Seeking recommendations of any things to do/not do in the child custody court process. Specifically for children of alcoholics: in your experience, what do you feel would have been the best custody arrangement/visitations/etc for you as a child? Additionally, I’m convinced there's definite differences into how different states handle child custody… Can anyone else speak to this? Thanks in advance. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:35 PM PST - 7 comments

Retail word for "Customers waiting in the checkout line"

I read an article a while back that used an industry specific term for customers waiting in the check out line. The premise of the article was that retailers wanted to maximize {industry term} time to just below the threshold that a customer would not return to their establishment because it maximized impulse purchases. What is this term? Bonus points for pointing me to an article that states retailers do not want implement RFID tags in retail merchandise because it speeds up checkout and reduces {industry term} time.
posted by jmsta at 1:23 PM PST - 7 comments

I can't find this animated gif

This is silly but: I'm looking for a particular animated gif. It's a claymation penguin that hears the phone ringing and goes to answer it. Then his teakettle starts boiling, and then he sits down and cries, overwhelmed by too many inputs. I'm pretty sure the penguin is Pingu but no combination of search terms seems to be coming up with the image. Pretty sure I saw the gif on tumblr someplace.
posted by JDHarper at 1:16 PM PST - 3 comments

Really weird doctor experience today. Would love insights.

This is a probably a minor doctor issue, but I'm having a hard time figuring out if I should make a complaint or not. Mostly, I don't want to make a complaint if it would not be taken seriously. Content within. [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 1:03 PM PST - 18 comments

70's Wallpaper replacement

This is the wallpaper in my bedroom. It was there when I moved in, and was put up pre-1982. Any idea where to get more, as it's probably due to be replaced. I did try googling "peacock mylar 70's wallpaper" but did not find it, other search terms would be appreciated.
posted by Sophont at 12:28 PM PST - 10 comments

ISO: "Rich Kid Punks" UK Compliation

Looking for an obscure 70's/80's punk compilation of songs by bands who pretended to be poor when they were not. [more inside]
posted by Hennimore at 12:22 PM PST - 0 comments

Help me find a 1980s pop/dance song based on this minimal criteria?

Can you review the criteria for a song I'm trying to track down, and help me find it? 1980s pop/dance sound, male vocalist, lyrics like "you shine so great". [more inside]
posted by germdisco at 12:20 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me get started with virtualization

I'm behind the times on running VM on servers. What do I need to know? [more inside]
posted by dukes909 at 11:49 AM PST - 11 comments

Damn girl, your hair is fine

What are some good styling products to give my super-fine hair some texture? [more inside]
posted by geeky at 11:48 AM PST - 26 comments

Is it reasonable to ask him to the tweak the photo?

It's relatively early days in my acting 'career'. I had a chance to get some headshots done by a 'big-shot' photographer. I paid for them, then his computer blow up and he lost them all. I repeatedly asked for my money back and it took months for him to even reply. He reimbursed me and said he'd give me some complimentary shots. [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 11:35 AM PST - 8 comments

Where to stay in DC?

I'm probably going to get to go to a conference in DC in early May. The conference is at the Hyatt Regency Capitol Hill at 400 New Jersey Avenue, NW. Where should I stay? (Hotel block rate a little above what I hope to pay.) [more inside]
posted by latkes at 11:09 AM PST - 10 comments

Criticize me, please!

How can I develop relationships in a manner where people feel comfortable enough to give me honest feedback? I am socially deficient in many ways, but right now I would like to focus on how I can improve this particular aspect of relationship development. [more inside]
posted by FiveSecondRule at 11:02 AM PST - 8 comments

I no longer want to be friends with my friend/co-worker. What to do?

How should I handle a work relationship after having gone on a 7-day vacation where my friend and co-worker revealed herself to be selfish and inconsiderate? [more inside]
posted by KathyK at 10:41 AM PST - 10 comments

Are you able to help me with my March Madness?

You are not in my pool (YANIMP). Please help me with my bracket. [more inside]
posted by Rob Rockets at 10:00 AM PST - 6 comments

Brands/stores like Jones New York?

Jones New York is apparently going under, so I'm looking for alternatives. Examples of what I like: this, this, and this. I'm looking for casual and business-casual clothes that are pretty standard with some interesting touches. My other main places to shop are Goodwill and Marshalls, where I look for Splendid, Loft, BR, James Perse, etc.
posted by trillian at 9:59 AM PST - 11 comments

Area Man Seeks Spotify Playlists for Transatlantic Flight

I urgently need long, well-curated Spotify playlists that I can download for listening to on a long impending Transatlantic flight. Preferred genres: shoegaze/nugaze, neo-psych rock, and/or melodic IDM. Basically anything that matches up with (or preferably blows the socks off) this listening profile. Relatively contemporary preferred. Thanks!
posted by Sonny Jim at 9:53 AM PST - 6 comments

Taking a year off of gardening

What is the best thing that I can do for my vegetable garden plots if I don't want to do any gardening this year? [more inside]
posted by sparklemotion at 9:41 AM PST - 8 comments

Advice on Student Loan Forgiveness

My spouse may be eligible for student loan forgiveness, but I'm having a hell of a time making sense of the forgiveness programs and requirements. Are there any consultants or organizations who will look at the loans, employment history, etc., and give us advice?
posted by NotMyselfRightNow at 9:25 AM PST - 8 comments

Getting nipple piercings in the Washington DC Metro area

I've been considering getting my nipples pierced for a long time, and am really starting to come down on the 'yes please' side. However, I'm not a big body mod person, so I have no idea where the best places in my area are to get pierced. Does anyone have any recommendations for me? Or places to stay away from? Special snowflake details after the jump. [more inside]
posted by Concolora at 9:19 AM PST - 1 comment

Home ownership: why?

as I approach my 35th year, I'm feeling more and more down about not owning my own home. However, I know there are some rational reasons why I don't. Or are they rational? Why did you, Metafilter homeowner, purchase your home? [more inside]
posted by Fister Roboto at 8:50 AM PST - 53 comments

What to do in Tokyo after work while visiting?

I'm on a business trip in Tokyo for the rest of this week. I'm looking for suggestions on things to do after work hours (i.e., most of the usual sightseeing is out), probably alone. [more inside]
posted by Jacen Solo at 7:48 AM PST - 14 comments

High-speed think-on-your-feet logistical-planning vacation?

A friend and I take a trip once a year together. Usually it's been something like a national park, but last year we said "screw it, let's go to Disney World" - and had so much fun; not so much because "Disney" but because of the challenges of high-speed navigating a complex ecosystem of timing and logistics and transportation and reservations. What can we do next year that would scratch the same kind of itch? Anywhere in the world is fine. [more inside]
posted by dmd at 6:57 AM PST - 16 comments

Best practices for talking to a child about separation

I need help figuring out the best ways to explain separation/divorce to my extremely precocious 6 year old. I'm hoping that this process can be as compassionate as possible all around, but the idea that I'm "ruining her life" by considering ending our marriage is plaguing me. Books, anecdotes, what you told your kids, etc - anything would be helpful. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:38 AM PST - 21 comments

Yes, and, but ....

I've been involved in improv on and off for a while. I love improv, I always feel that it's presenting me with opportunities to grow as a person and see myself better. Plus, it's often very funny and liberating. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:38 AM PST - 15 comments

Name that Company

I need to name a fictitious sporting goods company. This company will pretend to be a online retailer like REI who sells GPS watches, camping gear, and bikes. Although not required, the name should not already be a registered domain. The name needs to be authentic and not cheesy. Think "Gander Mountain" or "Sport Chalet". Help me name this company!
posted by jasondigitized at 6:33 AM PST - 17 comments

What's happening in Cincinnati?

I'm going to the USITT Conference at the Duke Energy center starting Wednesday and leaving Saturday. What else should I see in Cincinnati? [more inside]
posted by Uncle at 6:29 AM PST - 7 comments

Coping with mom's cancer while living abroad

My mom was diagnosed with stage iv cancer 10 months ago. She has responded fairly well to treatment and the doctors give her 3-5+ years. I live on the other side of the world with my partner and my job. I am in my early 30s. Where am I supposed to be? How do I make decisions? What does "Family is everything" mean? Is my partner family, too? How do I prioritize? [more inside]
posted by stumblingthroughitall at 3:35 AM PST - 18 comments

How do I deal with a weird friendship?

Hi everyone. Since I started college (it's 2 and a 1/2 years now, I've had a weird relationship with a guy friend I had a long unrequited crush on. We're both 20. II'm a girl. I really really want to stay being friends with him but I feel like he doesn't care about me as much as he should, especially since he says he likes being my friend. Lots of weirdness inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:54 AM PST - 22 comments

Can I still make good Mexican food without nightshades?

I've been directed by my naturopath to avoid nightshades (tomatoes, peppers, chilies, and others) as a way to improve my eczema. It has been helping so far, but I'm finding I really, really miss Mexican food. I'm talking about the standard stuff: salsa, tacos, fajitas, chilli, YUM. Do you know of any good nightshade substitutes that could be used in these dishes? Or any alternative recipes for these items that do not contain the forbidden foods?
posted by figaro at 1:47 AM PST - 22 comments

March 15

New cat hates old cat -- let them fight it out??

We have a 13-year-old sweetheart of a cat and a new one-year-old cat. The new cat hates the old cat, and attacks her if she and the old cat are in the same room. We have a family disagreement on how to handle this situation. I would welcome advice on the best approach. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by merejane at 11:33 PM PST - 18 comments

Logistics of moving within SF?

I'm thinking about moving (within SF), but am not clear on how exactly to make the logistics work, especially when it comes to giving enough notice. [more inside]
posted by en forme de poire at 10:59 PM PST - 7 comments

Opening all instances of an application all at once in Windows 8

I recently started using a Windows 8 PC, and something I miss in the move from OS X is the ability to pull up all instances of an app with a single click. Can I get Windows to mimic this behavior? [more inside]
posted by brieche at 10:10 PM PST - 1 comment

Streaming video problems, Dell Latitude E4300

My laptop is a Dell Latitude E4300, and it runs Windows 7 Professional. I have home wifi through Charter. Though my signal always tests strong, I have a lot of issues with video playback on Netflix, Hulu, YouTube, pretty much all streaming sites. The video gets slow or stutters or there are sync problems with audio/video. It doesn't matter which browser I use. I've tried lots of things, which I have listed below the cut, but none of them have really helped. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 9:50 PM PST - 8 comments

Let's talk about my boners.

I recently gave up drinking and lost a bunch of weight (though I am still heavy). My blood pressure went from hypertensive (144/95) to normal (120/81). All of this is good news. But over the last few weeks, in addition to my health looking up... um, something else is looking up. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:44 PM PST - 9 comments

Does everyone feel special?

Is the sense of personal specialness cross-cultural, or a mark of more individualist societies? Please help me understand differences in cultures. [more inside]
posted by namesarehard at 9:39 PM PST - 17 comments

help locked OUT of bedroom.

I somehow have locked myself out of my boedroom. The lock locks from the inside and the screws are also inside. It's a turn handle not a round doorknob. My phone is in there too. I have a screwdrier but not sure what to do
posted by zutalors! at 9:13 PM PST - 34 comments

Is dating easier for straight women in SF than in NYC?

This question is for straight women who have lived and dated in both San Francisco and NYC. I've heard anecdotally from a couple of women that dating was much easier for them in SF than in NYC, and I'm wondering if it's true generally or if it was just the luck of these particular individuals. [more inside]
posted by sunflower16 at 8:58 PM PST - 14 comments

Free, non-stop non-distracting music

I'm looking for music streams that are free, continuous, and non-distracting. [more inside]
posted by ignignokt at 8:13 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me do a Boston Southie accent.

I'm playing Costard in a production of Love's Labours Lost. He's a lower class character among royalty. A bright guy, but ignorant of their ways. I want to attempt a Southie accent, and I'm looking for help. So far I've re-watched Good Will Hunting, The Fighter, and Ted, and have googled "how to do a Boston accent". I'm looking for additional advice from a Bostonian beyond the basics, but ideally, a phonetic transcription or recording of Costard's lines would really help me out. I've included the lines below. [more inside]
posted by consummate dilettante at 7:48 PM PST - 12 comments

Dog-proof couch recommendations?

Our well-worn 12-year old Pottery Barn leather couch is on its last legs, and we are searching for a dog-friendly replacement that will stand up to claws, hair, and other associated dog-related dangers. [more inside]
posted by tybstar at 6:48 PM PST - 4 comments

Let's bring down Comcast one dissatisfied customer at a time.

Help me help my brother and sister-in-law minimize their Comcast bill. They're currently paying $145/mo for basic cable (no HBO), a land line, and internet service. Dropping the phone will actually raise their monthly expense due to the way services are packaged, so I've been looking for alternatives to cable TV that will allow them to go with an internet-only plan. Roku appears to be the best option (I've looked at Apple and Chromecast), but I have questions... [more inside]
posted by she's not there at 5:52 PM PST - 25 comments

Disclosing trauma to loved ones and confronting abusers, how did it go?

Looking for people's experiences of disclosing trauma to loved ones and confronting abusers. (trigger warning) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:13 PM PST - 10 comments

Where should I work this summer?

I have a 10-month contract position at a school and I'm kind of stumped about what I should do/where to look for income during July/August. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Sorry, I don't speak jive.

What resources can I use to help me parse movement as artistic expression? [more inside]
posted by tchemgrrl at 5:09 PM PST - 3 comments

Ted Talks

People always talk a lot of shit about Ted Talks, but there must be some that are fantastic. What are they? What are the Ted Talks that are outstanding?
posted by josher71 at 4:18 PM PST - 32 comments

Help an amateur sound recordist

I'm recording a little concert tonight and trying not to botch it [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 3:47 PM PST - 8 comments

Yet another shoe question

I just finished my PhD (yay!) and want to buy some grown-up shoes (hmmm). I am very picky. Shoe me! [more inside]
posted by zeptoweasel at 3:44 PM PST - 7 comments

How do I learn to write scripts?

I started writing scripts about 6 months ago, kinda outa the blue. I feel like I've gone as far as I can go by myself. [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 3:23 PM PST - 10 comments

At-home magic "toner" shampoo to keep me blonde?

I've been getting my mousy light brown hair highlighted blonde for going on, oh, 15 years. I'm totally sick of spending $1200 a year maintaining it (just writing out that figure is horrifying). I need help figuring out how blonde hair works. [more inside]
posted by Yellow Silver Maple at 3:00 PM PST - 8 comments

Interventions and helping my best friend

My best friend, who historically suffers from depression, is spiraling out of control. We live together. We just moved out to Portland together. I need advice on interventions - I think he needs to see a psychologist, (or a psychiatrist?) but I have no idea how to tell him that. [more inside]
posted by special agent conrad uno at 2:43 PM PST - 19 comments

What happened to your fingers?!?

I obsessively bite the skin around my fingernails (sometimes to the point of bleeding). This is been going on since around the age of 12. I've successfully stopped a few times, but never manage to stick with it. Lately it's gotten pretty bad and I've gotten random comments from strangers, coworkers and family friends along the lines of "What happened to your fingers? Did you hurt yourself?" I then sputter off some awkward response . . . [more inside]
posted by Blissful at 1:31 PM PST - 28 comments

T is for Tanrıvermiş

Does anyone know the etymology of the Turkish name Tanrıvermiş? In particular, is it etymologically Turkic, or does it have an Arabic or Persian root?
posted by yarntheory at 1:28 PM PST - 3 comments

Are there any post-apocalyptic stories focused on minorities?

Are there any "civilization is ruined, zombies/marauders/robots are killing the survivors, we must rebuild/get to the final refuge" stories in any medium where the main characters are not mainly caucasian people?
posted by Apocryphon at 12:09 PM PST - 35 comments

Thems are fighting words! (Takes him a while to boot up)

In the early 1990s I saw a bizarre marketing video for OS/2. It was a cartoon of about 20 min. It featured anthropomorphic computers with screens for faces walking around a Wild West town. The DOS Brothers (which include DOS and WIN) overrun the town's sheriff, OS/2 V1.0. Then the new marshal, OS/2 V2.0 comes into town and cleans things up. Is there somewhere I could see a copy of this video or are there even any records that it existed? [more inside]
posted by grouse at 11:44 AM PST - 1 comment

Yes, My Daughter's Jeans

My tiny teen has a pair of white stitching bling-pocket jeans that she really likes, except for two things: (1) they're boot cut and she wants a pair in skinny leg style; (2) they are regular length and she needs them in a petite/short length. [more inside]
posted by drlith at 11:13 AM PST - 9 comments

Harassment from boss at work. How should my friend go about this?

I am asking this question for my friend, who is in his thirties. He says he is having issues with his boss at work. He works in retail, and has an auditory processing disorder (he got hired because of SSI). He feels she is insinuating that he is incompetent at his job in front of coworkers, and he is never able to say anything back because his brain freezes up. He wants to quit. How should he handle this situation? [more inside]
posted by BuddyBoo at 10:46 AM PST - 12 comments

How to fill a small gap in a (small, fiddly) plastic part?

We have two way (top-down/bottum-up) blind. Unfortunately, on one window they're only top-down because the bottom side cord has worn a hole into a plastic part it slides through. [more inside]
posted by zennie at 10:25 AM PST - 8 comments

Where can I get a good Sunday brunch in downtown Raleigh, NC?

I'll be in Raleigh soon, and I have a bit of free time on a Sunday morning. I'm staying between NCSU and downtown, on Hillsborough St. Where can I go, within walking distance, for something good to eat before noon? Preferably with vegetarian options and good coffee. Your recommendations would be very welcome. [more inside]
posted by lapsangsouchong at 10:20 AM PST - 5 comments

How do I Delete the new Apple Watch App on My iPhone?

When my iPhone 6 updated its operating system yesterday, a new app for the Apple Watch appeared on the first screen. The link is to an ad saying the watch is coming soon. I tried the "delete app" procedure of pressing and holding the app button until it started quivering, but there's no "delete" option like there is on programs I've installed. I won't be buying an Apple Watch, and I want the space on the opening screen back. Is there any way?
posted by KRS at 10:18 AM PST - 9 comments

Please help me locate an old New Yorker cartoon

Not sure how to search for old New Yorker cartoon? [more inside]
posted by ragtimepiano at 10:10 AM PST - 8 comments

Where Do I Put a Tiny House?

I'm a renter and my 5 year plan is to buy a Tiny House. Getting the house is not a problem, but what appears to be insurmountable is figuring out where to put it. [more inside]
posted by kinetic at 9:27 AM PST - 25 comments

Oddly shaped photo prints

Do you know who would print my low quality, oddly shaped digital photos for me? [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing at 8:53 AM PST - 5 comments

Renting a car in US with a BC N license?

My partner and I are both in our 30's, but BC has graduated licensing and we still have our N (novice) licenses in BC. Have you or anyone you know ever successfully rented a car in the US with a Canadian graduated license? Or tried and been unsuccessful? [more inside]
posted by 100kb at 8:51 AM PST - 4 comments

What kind of tree is this?

What kind of tree is this?
posted by gocubbies at 8:34 AM PST - 5 comments

Good outdoorsy destinations in the US (or near it) in April?

Hi AxMe, I am going to have a week of vacation starting April 10th and would like to go someplace that is conducive to lots of awesome outdoorsiness. I'm in the US. Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by killdevil at 7:54 AM PST - 8 comments

What should I tell my kid about swearing?

I have an 8-year old who knows all the good swear words and understands on some level that it's not appropriate for him to use them most of the time. I'm struggling to give him some principled guidelines for using swear words. [more inside]
posted by chickenmagazine at 7:41 AM PST - 29 comments

Is it safe to use contact lenses with a scarred cornea?

I have scarring on my cornea from a herpes attack to the eye 6 years ago. My eye is stable but very sensitive to wind. Is it safe to wear contact lenses to shield the eye? If so, is there a recommended type of lens?
posted by nickji at 7:32 AM PST - 12 comments

Recommendations for places to visit in Northern Italy

We will there for about 1 week, based near Milan. We are thinking about a day or overnight trip to Venice. Any other recommendations for day or overnight trips around there? We won't have a car. [more inside]
posted by neutralmojo at 7:21 AM PST - 13 comments

Travel and fatigue

I have difficulty managing energy levels both at home and away, and I'd like some tips to balance things out for an upcoming group tour and avoid burnout. All experience welcome. [more inside]
posted by lokta at 7:03 AM PST - 9 comments

Running problems: My dogs are killing me, yo!

I do a fair amount of running, I started about a year ago. I was having little pain and I felt like I was running pretty light... but all of a sudden it's like the shocks in my legs are gone - all of the impact seems to be going to my ankles and feet, and they're killing me after a run. I don't feel like I'm working out any other muscles in my legs. What could have gone wrong all of a sudden? [more inside]
posted by Thanquol180 at 5:28 AM PST - 9 comments

How to handle health questions semi-objectively

My family had unusual ideas about health, illness and contagion, and now I have confused instincts about when to go to the doctor, and when to worry about giving someone my nasty cold. Do you know some resources or rules of thumb that might help? [more inside]
posted by feets at 2:47 AM PST - 15 comments

International Fine Art Shipping ex Manhattan

I need to arrange for a very large (73.7 x 81.4) fine art painting to be shipped from New York to Ireland. The painting is acrylic on cotton duck, stretched canvas. Can anyone point me to a fine art shipping service in Manhattan that will collect from a secure art storage facility in Brooklyn, crate and ship? [more inside]
posted by DarlingBri at 1:25 AM PST - 5 comments

Mal-content. Help me watch "Firefly", please.

I bought a used region 1 copy of Firefly and can play it successfully on an old-ish Windows 7 machine using VLC. However, on my Windows 8 machines, it won’t play at all, not on VLC, Media Player Classic, or Potplayer. I’m in region 2, and I would like to be able to watch it on one of the Windows 8 computers. [more inside]
posted by Prof Iterole at 1:10 AM PST - 8 comments

March 14

In Summer styling

I've heard the "In Summer" song from Frozen a lot recently and I can't help but think the snowman sounds an awful lot like Rufus Wainwright. His style, not his voice. Am I wrong? Is there a term for this style? [more inside]
posted by the christopher hundreds at 10:08 PM PST - 4 comments

Advice about Ada Academy admission and decisions

I am in the middle of the application process for Ada Academy in Seattle. It sounds super exciting and fun to me but it also feels out there enough for me that I want to do my due diligence. I'm hoping to get an idea of how well known/respected it is, including outside of Seattle and/or the PNW, any first, second, or third hand experience people may have to share, reflections and insights from people who did or considered this type of thing (both the career change & the software development track), AND especially interview tips for a technical group interview with (possibly) simulated pair work (I have no experience with this sort of interview), and any other tips to help me actually get accepted so that the rest of this question becomes/stays applicable to my life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:44 PM PST - 3 comments

Peasant Magic

During the final battle in Big Trouble in Little China, one of the Storms is killed, and the lightning Storm enables the escape of another. When the lightning Storm flies away, Egg Shen says something in Chinese; a curse perhaps. What does Egg Shen say?
posted by Brocktoon at 8:39 PM PST - 6 comments

To-do / notes app with export, simple design?

I like to journal using lists / task applications - right now I'm using GoogleTasks which with over 1k lines is getting clunky and hard to use, e.g. I'll copy from one list and paste to another the cursor'll jump up to the top of the list just before I hit paste - drives me bonkers! [more inside]
posted by ethel at 8:06 PM PST - 3 comments

How big is the RISD museum?

My beloved and I are heading to Providence tomorrow for a day trip. How big is the RISD museum? Is it a 1 1/2 hour museum or a day-long museum? For comparison, we're pretty familiar with the Boston MFA or the Gardner or the Frick.
posted by Jasper Fnorde at 7:43 PM PST - 8 comments

Please help me eat more!

Recently, I went on Zoloft for depression, and the primary side effect for me is that it kills my appetite. Nothing seems good. It's frequently an effort to convince myself to eat something, even when I know I'm hungry. Unfortunately, nearly all the suggestions I can find for issues with eating is either a) diet stuff or b) geared towards people with anorexia nervosa, which I do not have. (No body image issues here, thanks!) How can I get calories inside me more reliably? [more inside]
posted by sciatrix at 7:29 PM PST - 25 comments

Should I date my opposite-sex twin or find someone who complements me?

I'm shy, unassertive, and nerdy. Should I date someone just like myself or try to find someone whose strengths are my weaknesses? [more inside]
posted by Guinevere at 6:25 PM PST - 28 comments

Displaying on TV from computer

I would like for my TV to display streaming video from my computer. How do I hook this up? [more inside]
posted by juliebug at 5:31 PM PST - 13 comments

Screenplay formatting of inarticulate sounds.

What formatting conventions are there for inarticulate sounds such as screams, cries, snores, etc. when writing screenplays? [more inside]
posted by ErikH2000 at 5:13 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me expand my descriptive vocabulary!

I'd like to learn some more vocabulary to describe nature and architecture for my writing. I love elaborate descriptions in 19th century literature, but I have no idea about the names of most flowers and trees, and I have no idea how to describe various types of architectural in anything but the vaguest terms. [more inside]
posted by lightgray at 3:26 PM PST - 11 comments

Am I going to suffocate without opening my windows?

This is silly and at this point I feel like I should know better: I'm a little lost when it comes to using air purifiers and keeping windows open/closed. It makes sense that the less pollutants get inside the better, except I've never had to keep all the windows closed for long and I keep thinking that no fresh air will be terrible. How do normal people do this? [more inside]
posted by erratic meatsack at 2:30 PM PST - 9 comments

Question about You Need A Budget (YNAB)

I am new to You Need a Budget so I'm trying to get everything set up properly. I have one thing that I don't know what to do with - I have a credit card that, for now, is being paid by someone else. When I set this up as a credit card, YNAB counts it as debt that I should be budgeting for. Really, I want to set it up as an income of $200 monthly. Any input on how to set this up, which type of account? "Cash" or something else? Thanks in advance!
posted by carlypennylane at 2:22 PM PST - 5 comments

Blu-Ray inconsistently plays .avi movie files with high pitch screech

These are various .avi files from old which my player a Panasonic Blu-Ray DMP-BDT230 supposedly supports. It will 50% of the time but only show the picture and then a high pitch dog-level sound comes through speakers. It is connected via HDMI to TV with TV's audio output RCA to early 2000s receiver. [more inside]
posted by chicaboom at 2:21 PM PST - 5 comments

Not twitterstalking, just twitter… observing?

A slightly weird situation has arisen in my relationship with my SO over the people I follow on Twitter. To me it feels controlling; am I overreacting? [more inside]
posted by six sided sock at 2:08 PM PST - 46 comments

non iTunes music player that allows me to do three specific things ...

After years of avoiding iTunes 11, a new laptop (Windows 8) has recently forced my hand. Needless, to say I'm unimpressed. More to the point, as a semi-pro-DJ who works from rather large playlists and loves working with shuffled playlists, I have some rather particular needs ... [more inside]
posted by philip-random at 2:04 PM PST - 6 comments

What is this tree? (Los Angeles)

I went on a walk today and saw these great trees flowering. The flowers are about the size of an orchid flower, and kind of look like one, too. On the same street, there were different trees with white flowers and with pale pink striped flowers, maybe light purple ones, too. What are they? [more inside]
posted by rubah at 1:54 PM PST - 3 comments

Bad outspoken girl, no cookie!

Help me find blogs/books/articles that will make me feel better about being an outspoken lady. [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 1:28 PM PST - 10 comments

Story about searching for the origin of a joke

I remember reading a short story years ago where a guy tries to find the origin of a joke, who told who told who etc. He ends up in this hidden valley in the Rockies where there is a secret society busy making jokes and letting them loose into the world. Because he found them, he gets to join... Any MeFi know what the name and/or author is? Mucho Thanks
posted by drinkmaildave at 1:26 PM PST - 5 comments

Where in the world should we have a kid?

What are the best countries to consider in terms of prenatal care/maternity leave/childcare for American expats? [more inside]
posted by Synesthesia at 1:09 PM PST - 28 comments

Help me understand real estate depreciation

I realized this year I have been neglecting depreciation on my taxes. I bought my condo in 2006, and lived there until 2012. Moved out at the end of June, started renting it out in November 2012. How do I calculate depreciation for my taxes? I know you are supposed to divide costs by 27.5 years, but I have questions. [more inside]
posted by fings at 1:02 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me track a GFCI fault

For the last week I've been getting intermittent GFCI trips on my houseboat shore power. Is there a way I can track down the source? [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 12:58 PM PST - 10 comments

Portable Air Conditioner Info

What do I need to know about portable air conditioners to get the most bang for my apartment-cooling buck? [more inside]
posted by Alterscape at 11:53 AM PST - 12 comments

Braise-then-roast pork butt: just zany enough to work, or just zany?

I've got a 3-lb boneless pork butt braising in the oven right now for pulled pork. The guy I bought it from at Whole Foods recommended that I roast it after braising to get a good crust. It sounded awesome at the time but now I'm losing my nerve - is this a recipe for deliciousness or sadness? [more inside]
posted by DingoMutt at 11:53 AM PST - 13 comments

Make-up white whale: Fresh brand face shimmer?

I'm looking for a product I bought at Sephora within the last four years that is no longer there or on the website (or any website, apparently) and I don't remember the name of it, only the brand: Fresh. [more inside]
posted by pandalicious at 11:09 AM PST - 7 comments

Last minute March/April travel to South America or Europe

Planning a last minute trip in late March/early April - need ideas for places to go or itineraries. My criteria: 10-14 day trip in which I can visit a city and an interesting natural area nearby. Top contenders at the moment: Buenos Aires, Athens, Istanbul, Spain. Further details inside. [more inside]
posted by scribbler at 11:08 AM PST - 5 comments

Bad at parties

Looking for recommendations to be more sociable with a focus on networking and career advancement. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 10:49 AM PST - 20 comments

Looking for list(s) of upcoming movies to be shown on tv

I'm looking for a website with list(s) of movies that are upcoming on tv so that I can set my dvr to record the ones that I'd like to see. I'm looking for lists that are either specific to one channel (so I can look at each channel separately), or one that could contain only the channels in my Directv package (so that I don't have to pick through ones that I can't record due to not being subscribed to the channel they're playing on). I'd be happy going through multiple lists (one for each channel, like FX, ABC, IFC, etc.), but it would be great to have a list with only the channels I get. Thanks!
posted by atm at 10:04 AM PST - 9 comments

What was this story about a knowledge giving hat?

I recall reading a story about a society where you are given a choice between choosing to wear a hat which gives you immediate access to all human knowledge, or having to slave away for years to gain knowledge the old fashioned way. The dilemma is that the hat controls you to some degree. Can anyone identify this? I've tried many times over the years to Google for it, but have always come up empty.
posted by All Out of Lulz at 9:58 AM PST - 5 comments

Excluded on Discount

Is it rude if everyone at a dinner table receives a discount except you? [more inside]
posted by Asian_Hunnie at 9:53 AM PST - 25 comments

Feminism for Gay Men

As a gay man, I've been having increasing problems with sexual harassment from complete strangers while out at gay bars. When this harassment happens in front of friends, I'm treated like I'm crazy for being upset. What are some clear and direct ways I can communicate my own discomfort and just how inappropriate what happened was - to people who are completely ignorant of feminism and women's issues and have bought into the toxic idea that we should be grateful for any attention we get? [more inside]
posted by C'est la D.C. at 9:47 AM PST - 16 comments

Flat Stanley would be perfect for this

I send monthly letters to my two-year-old nephew, and started included small crafts with them - origami, window stars, coffee filter snowflakes, a friendship bracelet. What are other small, flat-ish things that I can make for him? [more inside]
posted by punchtothehead at 8:10 AM PST - 15 comments

Like tie-dye, only not. Party crafting for grown-ups!

Last year for my birthday, my family came over for dinner and cake, and we tie-dyed. It was THE BEST. I'd like to do something similar this year - fun for all ages (4 year old - 60 year old, 8-10 people), easy to do, somewhat quick, doesn't require everyone sitting down at the same time and "doing a craft", not too "lame" for the adults, but not too complex that the 4 1/2 year old can't do it without a little help. Tie-dying was fun for everyone, but I'd don't want to do it two years in a row. I've got two weeks and can get pretty much anything in store or from the internet. Willing to spend a bit of cash. Thanks!
posted by firei at 8:03 AM PST - 29 comments

how do you Connect and Understand Stuff you've read?

ok, this is kind of a complicated question and I'm not even sure how to ask it. But I do feel like something is Wrong about how I read. Details below. [more inside]
posted by starcrust at 6:48 AM PST - 23 comments

Dealing with grief and stupid things people say

My grandmother passed away last week. The viewing and funeral have already been held. I am now trying to deal with people who mean well, but say some incredibly dumb things. What are some good tactics? [more inside]
posted by intheigloo at 6:26 AM PST - 24 comments

you ain't got no personal finance skills honey

How do I talk with my partner about his bad money management/poor credit in a productive way? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:17 AM PST - 21 comments

Severe Neglect in a Six-Year-Old - what to consider before adopting?

We have the opportunity to adopt a 6.5-year-old child who previously suffered from neglect and malnutrition, but does not show signs of trauma or lack of attachment. What do we need to consider, know and act upon right away? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:17 AM PST - 21 comments

What next in my quest to not have babies?

If you have a mood disorder/other mental illness, and you are a person of childbearing age, what contraception do you find works best? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:16 AM PST - 20 comments

How to stop a puppy peeing indoors?

We've had our eight-week-old Labrador for a few days and he's developed a bad habit: he won't pee while we're outside in the garden (sometimes for over an hour) but the moment he comes in he goes to one part of the kitchen and pees there. How can we make him realise that he's got it the wrong way around? [more inside]
posted by Hogshead at 5:16 AM PST - 15 comments

I can haz RSS reader, please?

So, after the demise of Google Reader I switched to InoReader, which is great (yay!). Unfortunately though, it's recently been blocked by the webfilter at work (boo!), so I'm looking for alternatives. [more inside]
posted by eloeth-starr at 3:29 AM PST - 22 comments

Recommend me some intellectually stimulating podcasts?

I know all the common podcasts, this american life, the stuff you should know, radiolab, planet money, freakonomics, the story, ted talks, moth podcast, invisibalia, serial, le show. Give me more! (I've looked through old posts, but some are outdated, and I already have all the top picks) [more inside]
posted by crawltopslow at 12:35 AM PST - 38 comments

My gmail is having problems emailing icloud/me/mac.com - what gives?

Over the past few days, I am finding that some of my emails to people with icloud.com, me.com, or mac.com addresses (all Apple) are being delivered really late. On most or all occasions I will get an error message sent to me, hours after my email was sent. How do I diagnose this? [more inside]
posted by malhouse at 12:09 AM PST - 5 comments

March 13

Why no health insurance tax credit if bought direct from Kaiser?

Can someone explain the rationale for requiring health insurance to be purchased through a "marketplace" in order to qualify for a tax credit. [more inside]
posted by Pembquist at 10:42 PM PST - 6 comments

Live media that feels like the world?

What kind of ambient live streams keeps you connected to the world? What kind of webcams keeps you company at night? Help me find audio (and video) streams that make me feel connected when I'm alone, working at my computer. [more inside]
posted by suedehead at 9:51 PM PST - 4 comments

What does this image look like?

This image, used in promotional material for the "Southern Women's Show" looks like something to me. Is it an 80s album cover or band logo? Or is it actually some famous piece of artwork? Or am I just completely mad?
posted by pjenks at 8:43 PM PST - 8 comments

"Why are Chicagoans so funny?"

Need some help locating a quote. The gist was that everyone in New York wants to be in LA and everyone in LA wants to be in New York, but everyone in Chicago is happy to be in Chicago. I think it was Andy richter answering, it's a pretty foggy memory. May have been on Conan... Clip, quote, any lead would be helpful.
posted by 0bs01337 at 6:27 PM PST - 5 comments

How do I create a B2B marketing strategy?

I want to CRUSH IT as a one man marketing team... but I'm inexperienced and don't know where to begin. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:21 PM PST - 10 comments

Employment contract legalese

What would my salary be, based on the language below? I am wondering if I grossly misinterpreted my contract and am earning much less than I thought I'd be. If so, is it possible to renegotiate, a month or so into the job? [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 5:25 PM PST - 16 comments

San Francisco and Redwood Trip with Kids

My family is flying in to San Francisco at the end of June. We have 7 days in the area. None of us have ever been to San Francisco before. We also have a strong desire to see the Redwoods, but we are confused when we look up information on them because there seem to be so many different parks that all claim they have Redwoods. So we are looking for advice on what to see and do, and the best way to see the Redwoods from the San Francisco area. [more inside]
posted by bove at 3:48 PM PST - 20 comments

Is Marine Le Pen well spoken?

How does far-right French leader Marine Le Pen sound to native French speakers? [more inside]
posted by derbs at 3:24 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me find this nightstand/table

I like this nightstand I found on Craiglist but it's not available anymore. [more inside]
posted by Ideal Impulse at 3:18 PM PST - 3 comments

Interviewing for Jobs with Vacation Coming Up

How (and when) should I handle an upcoming one-week vacation when I'm interviewing for a new job? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:40 PM PST - 12 comments

Home Stretch Wedding Tips

We're about five weeks away from the wedding, and I'm wondering if anyone has any anecdotes about things that weren't obvious that could have made your wedding day better or averted disaster. [more inside]
posted by madonna of the unloved at 1:52 PM PST - 33 comments

Things are melting. This is bad.

I need a small freezer much more ASAP than is comfortable. Where can I obtain such a thing, in Seattle, today? [more inside]
posted by Because at 1:47 PM PST - 21 comments

Hairstylefilter: What factors do you consider when haircutting/coloring?

What are some questions you ask yourself when you decide on a cut and color situation for your hair? I'm curious about what any gender considers--things like how flattering to your face, how it curls in this one specific place, that it makes you look younger/older, that your workplace requires a certain look...etc. What motivates you to get one hairstyle over another? [more inside]
posted by witchen at 1:46 PM PST - 21 comments

Book Recommendations for 72 yo historical fiction fan.

What to read if you love Jean Plaidy & Gerogette Heyer? [more inside]
posted by wwax at 1:36 PM PST - 23 comments

What's a guest star?

How is it determined that an actor will be billed as a "guest star," and are there union or guild regulations that control such screen credits? [more inside]
posted by layceepee at 1:27 PM PST - 6 comments

What do these fields on a Swedish Baptism Certificate mean?

Looking at a Swedish baptism certificate (long story) using Google translate, the parents are listed under Vårdnadshavare (caregivers). For each caregiver there is an Tillhörighet (affiliation) field. I'd like to understand what this means. [more inside]
posted by NailsTheCat at 12:52 PM PST - 4 comments

A great Australian printing co?

I'm an NYC-based photographer who has been asked to send a print to Australia. My regular printer doesn't offer this option, so I was thinking that I might find a good lab there and send along my digital file, hopefully saving myself a boatload of cash in the process? I'm looking for a good lab that offers C-Prints, (specifically 11x14 and larger for now) located in Australia. Can it be that hard? Thanks!
posted by nevercalm at 12:04 PM PST - 8 comments

I think I internalized my parents' neglect. Now what?

I recently realized that my parents were inattentive to my needs as a child and teenager to a much greater degree than is usual or reasonable, and that my own longstanding patterns of passivity and self-neglect may be due to this. What do I do about it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:36 AM PST - 22 comments

How do I end a friendship with someone who has committed assault?

(pseudonyms used of course) A few months ago, my friend, Eve, told me that a mutual acquaintance of ours, Cain, had done something terrible to her several years ago. The circumstances of the incident are hazy because she had been dosed, isolated, and her memories are unclear. She has not gone public with it due to the circumstances, and has preferred that the incident stay in the past. Still, I believe her and this has, in my mind, ended my already shaky friendship with Cain. Cain, however, has made persistent efforts to revive our friendship, and so I feel compelled to make plans and bring this up with him. How do I do so in such way as to minimize possible blowback on Eve, and also ensure that Cain doesn't actually victimize anyone else? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:36 AM PST - 49 comments

Objects and ideas for a color party!

This year I'm throwing a party to celebrate International Color Day (because why not) and the end of winter. I'd love to get ideas for what I can buy/make/acquire to max out the color experience of my apartment and the party. [more inside]
posted by deathmarch to epistemic closure at 11:35 AM PST - 10 comments

Where to find big, open datasets that are related to the life sciences?

Science Hivemind: Datasets Needed! I just learned about some INCREDIBLE tools for doing data analysis with students. Now I need raw data for my students to work with. [more inside]
posted by thelastpolarbear at 11:26 AM PST - 14 comments

I need a mom to tell me how to fix my owie.

My finger HURTS. I think it's something like an ingrown fingernail, but not exactly, and I'm just wondering what I can do to ease the pain until it heals naturally. [more inside]
posted by janey47 at 10:56 AM PST - 16 comments

Are there in-ear headphones out there that include a "Mute" button?

I'm looking for a pair of in-ear headphones that include a physical Mute button for the microphone. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by chefscotticus at 10:44 AM PST - 1 comment

Canadian Literature Collection Arranged by Province

Is anyone aware of a good single-volume collection of Canadian literature (short stories, poetry, or essays) in which the contents are arranged by province? Bonus points if the book reads west to east, starting with British Columbia. I'd also be open to recommendations for entertaining non-fiction books that are likewise divided up by province.
posted by northernish at 10:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Big Toes are Worth More

What was this novel/short story/screenplay/dream I read? Seeing Wow, that literally costs an arm and a leg! on the front page reminds me powerfully of a scene in something I read where a father plots his successive and continuing workplace injuries to maximize the insurance payouts, which are used for the benefit of his daughter. [more inside]
posted by books for weapons at 10:11 AM PST - 4 comments

The vacation in Spain is currently in the plains

We are planning a week in Spain, and the itinerary looks rushed. Our tastes are rather... not Rick Steves. Help us simplify the itinerary. [more inside]
posted by dw at 9:59 AM PST - 10 comments

What do you call this academic writing style and should it be avoided?

What would you call this style of writing in which terms are introduced in a flurry of comma separated uses, synonyms or phrasal bits, other languages etc. I associate it mostly with continental academic writing but it may have broader uses. Is it ok to write like this in essays for an MA in Continental Philosophy? [more inside]
posted by mary8nne at 9:58 AM PST - 18 comments

I'm pretty sure I'm unemployable. Hope me?

I'm so incredibly tired of using up questions on this topic, but I need a fill-up on motivation and ideas about where to go from here. You'll know from seeing previous questions of mine that I've been looking for my first job for the better part of two years now. I've received wonderful advice each and every time, but I never really started putting it to good use until about six months ago ( depression, ADD, etc etc). The problem? It's been six. damn. months. and I haven't gotten so much as a call or an email back. From anywhere. What am I doing wrong, what reasons are there to keep trying, and how do I keep myself from going insane when it feels like all my resumes, cover letters and emails end up being sucked into a black hole? [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 9:33 AM PST - 38 comments

The Sleez Sisters b/w The Fabulous Stains

I love movies about spunky teens running from the law and becoming folk heroes, like The Legend of Billie Jean or Times Square. The "running from the law" part is negotiable; I like stuff like Ladies and Gentlemen, The Fabulous Stains as well. Spunky teens are a must though! [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 9:19 AM PST - 15 comments

I found it in WorldCat. Where is it in reality?

I'm doing some research on a recording made in New York in 1949. WorldCat has information on two photographs taken at the recording session, and a taped interview with the conductor. The trouble is that they have no information on any libraries that hold these items. What am I missing here? We have information that clearly came from someone looking at the photos and listening to the tape, but where are they? Thanks for any help. WorldCat links below the fold. [more inside]
posted by in278s at 9:02 AM PST - 4 comments

I am not one of the "cool" kids

Since I moved to the new city a year ago, I started work at a place that has rich social life. While I was initially warmly welcomed and invited to things, the invites faded away and I now see pictures on FB of their nights out minus me. How to stop feeling rejected? [more inside]
posted by sabina_r at 7:54 AM PST - 27 comments

How to speak to a fertility doctor just about me?

I have just been referred to a fertility specialist. I want to make sure they focus on me and not on the red flags my partner has. How can I convey this productively at the appointment? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:47 AM PST - 17 comments

When abuse survivors become abusive…

What does the road to recovery look like for abuse survivors, especially pertaining to their romantic relationships post-abuse? Do they often break free of all abusive relationships, how likely is it to turn into an abuse or be abused dichotomy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:46 AM PST - 12 comments

How can I have a fun night out on ADD meds?

I have ADD, and have been taking Vyvanse for the past year. It works well when I take it around 6:30 AM, but by 8 PM I have little energy to do things with friends, even on Fridays/Saturdays. When I do go out, I have a hard time enjoying myself since my brain is basically shut off. My friend's bachelor party is coming up, and we'll be out late. I want to be there to celebrate with him until the end, and not be snoring on the table. How can I accomplish this? [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 7:41 AM PST - 15 comments

Citation Manager Advice for Amateur Historian?

I'm writing an article for my local historical society that I may expand into a book. Can anyone help me choose a citation manager? [more inside]
posted by entropicamericana at 7:04 AM PST - 4 comments

PayPal fundraising for unions

How would one best go about using PayPal for donations to a union local that is currently on strike in Canada? This workflow would be set up by a group that are not members of the local, but other workers at the same site. I see in the "service requiring pre-approval" section of their AUP that collecting donations as a nonprofit requires one to go through compliance, but it doesn't say anything about collecting donations for a nonprofit. This doesn't really fall into the PayPal political fundraising realm either. Can someone who has experience in PayPal fundraising shed some light on dos and don'ts, as we don't want funds to get frozen? Big thanks in advance.
posted by anonymous at 6:34 AM PST - 1 comment

How Do I Stop Text Messages Occurring on My Mac?

I recently upgraded my MacBook Air to Yosemite. Everything seems to be fine, except for the fact that my iPhones text messages now happen on my computer (I think this is the continuity feature?). Anyway, I want this to stop. Of course, I Googled it before I posted, here, but the fixes that I found, don't appear to be relevant (they were from 2014 and probably from Mavericks). For example, one fix suggested opening the Messages app on your Mac (which I did) and open the Preferences menu, which I don't see. Can anyone help me stop this?? Thanks!
posted by dbirchum at 6:31 AM PST - 9 comments

My cat came home! (Yay!) Now what?

Should I be concerned about my cat's health and behavior after he was gone for about three days? [more inside]
posted by Big Chief Little Pants at 5:51 AM PST - 16 comments

Omg spring is coming!!

After a rough winter, spring is ineluctably approaching. As the snow melts, I'm discovering that a number of the bushes are much worse for wear, the front brick path has heaved and needs to be re-set, paint is peeing, gutter downspouts and lots of wood trim are in need of replacement--the list goes on. And at some point, we'll need some grading work and other drainage projects. Plus (eventually) seeding the lawn and general cleanup. What's the best approach to thinking about and ordering these projects? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 5:13 AM PST - 13 comments

Continuous showing?

Hey -- when did film theaters start doing continuous showing, how frequent was it -- that is was it a big city thing or was it everywhere -- and when did continuous showing end, does anyone know?
posted by maddalo at 3:48 AM PST - 6 comments

I lost over 100 lbs and I'm feeling and looking deflated

For those who have lost over 100 lbs and had a breast lift, abdominoplasty, or a lower body lift: Would you mind sharing your experience with me? [more inside]
posted by Sarin Bellum at 1:18 AM PST - 6 comments

March 12

how to move all my internet reading to the Kindle?

I enjoy reading on a Kindle much more than on a computer and I'd like to move to a workflow where anything I can't read in two minutes gets queued up for my Kindle. If you use your Kindle this way, please tell me about your workflow. In particular, how do you organize lots of short documents on your Kindle? [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang at 9:45 PM PST - 8 comments

Where should our next family vacation be?

My husband and I want to take our will-then-be-10-month-old somewhere for 3-4 weeks in July to immerse ourselves in a different culture. We really want to head back to Japan, but it’ll be disgustingly hot in July, so where should we go instead? [more inside]
posted by kthxbi at 8:58 PM PST - 17 comments

Need help for correct translation of two words from English to Italian.

What is the proper translation of the words balance and autonomy? [more inside]
posted by sjvilla79 at 8:41 PM PST - 14 comments

What does my knife say?

What is the meaning & significance of the Japanese text stamped or otherwise impressed onto the blade of this knife? Brand? Maker? Something else?
posted by kenko at 8:30 PM PST - 3 comments

FASTER TTS

Is there a way on Android to make the text to speech (TTS) go MUCH faster? Over the last month I've increased the speed on my reading app to the maximum. I've tried a few other TTS enabled apps, but they don't seem to go faster. I want to get text into my brain faster! Previously... [more inside]
posted by gregr at 7:48 PM PST - 2 comments

Affordable Care Act - Will using my insurance now drive up my premium?

I have independent insurance. I understand that under the ACA, I can't be denied coverage in the future, but will my premium be higher, the more I use insurance? [more inside]
posted by elif at 7:30 PM PST - 3 comments

Can hypnosis help me deal with anger?

Need help in establishing whether hypnosis would help me overcome some issues from the past that are affecting my relationship. [more inside]
posted by heartofglass at 7:12 PM PST - 10 comments

How do I manage my unmanageable mint?

My mint plant has broken free of its constraints and has utterly taken over my planter box. It's EVERYWHERE, with runners I can't seem to fully eradicate. I'd like to reclaim the box (4' x 4') and encourage the other herbs (chives, parsley, lemon thyme, etc.) I have started there. But how? Is there a way to get a mint-free clean slate? [more inside]
posted by Ink-stained wretch at 6:53 PM PST - 14 comments

Bread/Weapon Recipe

I love solid dense bread. Bread that can be cut into ultra thin slices, takes 10 minutes to chew and tastes fantastic with cheese. Anyone got a tried and true 'bread as weapon' recipe? [more inside]
posted by kjs4 at 6:34 PM PST - 11 comments

Has anyone challenged "by the bed" student apartments as unfair housing?

My old student neighborhood in southern California has several new luxury apartment buildings marketed toward students, which rent apartments with "by the bed" leases instead of normal per-apartment-unit leases. This setup is intended for single students, and it seems complicated, impractical, and overly expensive to rent if you're a couple and/or have children. Familial status is a protected class under the US Fair Housing Act. Has anyone challenged housing providers who do this? What could happen if somebody challenged them? [more inside]
posted by dreamyshade at 5:35 PM PST - 13 comments

Political Careers

When is it too late to start a career in politics? [more inside]
posted by irish01 at 5:29 PM PST - 18 comments

Tablet for handwritten notes?

I am considering getting a tablet computer mainly for two tasks: reading ebooks/magazines (with Nook/Kindle apps) and writing notes/sketching outlines for my personal projects. Reading I know would be pretty straight forward, but I'm having a hard time figuring out if tablets are the right thing for my note taking needs. [more inside]
posted by deathpanels at 5:09 PM PST - 9 comments

I haven't owned a car since 1999--what do I need to know?

I'm moving from Brooklyn, NY to Portland, OR and will be owning a car, at least for the first couple of months. All the advice for this situation is about *what* car to buy, but I'm being given a used car, so I'm more curious about the top things to keep in mind about owning a car, how your life changes, all that sort of stuff. What am I forgetting, what am I missing, what do you wish you knew about owning a car before you owned one, have you been in a similar situation?
posted by Automocar at 4:56 PM PST - 21 comments

Do you have experience with the CoverOne book repair machine?

Specifically the 620 model sold by Scholastic. Is it any good? Would you suggest a different machine or book binding method? I'm thinking about it for both fabricating yearbooks and library book rescue.
posted by blnkfrnk at 4:38 PM PST - 1 comment

How much to self-publish?

Is this a dishonest way to raise money? [more inside]
posted by mermayd at 3:59 PM PST - 24 comments

Where should I stay in Toronto?

I'll be going to a conference in Toronto the first week in June. The conference will be at the convention center. Find me a great place to stay! [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 2:47 PM PST - 15 comments

How would you interpret Right of First Refusal in this circumstance

Between two parents sharing 50/50 custody, their MSA states: "If either party is unable to care for the minor child during their designated time, they shall each give the other the first right of refusal in caring for the minor child." Given that language, if the custodial parent sends someone else to pick up the child afterschool just to bring the child back to same parent, can the non-custodial parent invoke right of first refusal and insist that s/he be the one to do pick up and drop off of the child? I understand that ROFR exists to maximize the time a child can spend with a non-custodial parent and help maintain consistent contact of the child with the both parents. Just wondering if it applies to such a short period of time (5 minutes to/from school).
posted by phreckles at 2:37 PM PST - 15 comments

Passport & cards temporarily out of my hands - any flagging needed?

I left a bag on a plane last night; thankfully it was taken by airline staff to the airport's Lost and Found office and I will pick it up tonight. In it (still) are my U.S. passport, an American Express card, and Visa debit cards from two different bank accts. This is a small airport in a remote Scandinavian town with an extremely low crime rate. No activity today on any of the cards. Still, do I need to put any sort of identity-theft flags on passport and/or on cards?
posted by anonymous at 2:28 PM PST - 10 comments

Truly, This is the Best of all Possible Mugs

My work is buying every employee their own mug. So tell me what is best in mugs. [more inside]
posted by firechicago at 2:13 PM PST - 40 comments

Help me Weill away the hours with things like Kurt and Bertolt's Baal

I love the songs from Bowie doing his turn as Baal. Particularly The Drowned Girl. I have pretty much everything Bowie has ever done. So if I wanted to hear more songs like those from Baal what else would I like? More similar Kurt Weill? Anyone else?
posted by merocet at 2:08 PM PST - 5 comments

Can very small children drench their noodles in soy sauce?

I have a three-and-a-half-year-old that thinks noodles are the condiment, and ultra-strong soy sauce the main dish. We give her something like a tablespoon full or two of it with her noodles. The thing is, soy sauce is alcoholic. [more inside]
posted by ianso at 1:25 PM PST - 26 comments

What's with my weird sleep pattern?

I'm having the craziest sleep as of the past year or so. It's not extreme like sleep walking, I just wake up at odd times early every day. Have you done anything to adjust this? [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 11:56 AM PST - 22 comments

Help me use my sewing machine properly.

I'm trying to use a sewing machine. The stitch looks great on top but it's a complete mess underneath. Why? [more inside]
posted by popcassady at 11:47 AM PST - 23 comments

And I thought money was hard when we didn't have it.

We’re unexpectedly inheriting a house and we have a week to decide what to do with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:38 AM PST - 21 comments

Hack my morning routine!

I would like to begin my day with yoga/exercise and/or meditation, followed by a mindful walk through my "getting ready for work" routine. Instead, I stare at Facebook for 45 minutes and then flail around like a nut, invariably running out the door 5-10 minutes late. This is stupid. Have you solved a similar problem? Can you help? More inside. [more inside]
posted by missrachael at 11:33 AM PST - 32 comments

where did that number come from?

Is $33,000 - $36,000 too low a salary for what I am doing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:31 AM PST - 9 comments

Article about Instagram being used as long form journalism?

See the title, that's what I'm looking for. Not sure where I saw the article and my Google-fu is failing me. The article appeared within the last two weeks on the web, any ideas?
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 11:11 AM PST - 2 comments

How does one learn the ropes of running a restaraunt?

Mrs. Karaage and I are avid foodies and cooks. We are also white collar DINKs in the DC area that has never worked in a restaraunt a day of our lives. We daydream quite a bit of running a diner/cafe, in particular highlighting dishes that we both love and rarely see around here. I am also fully aware that this is a daydream that results in bankruptcies and broken families. [more inside]
posted by Karaage at 10:29 AM PST - 28 comments

How to calculate/estimate an import duty?

Has anyone ever bought an item from overseas and had to pay a tariff upon delivery? Any idea how this is assessed? All the websites about this are so vague. If I'm spending $160 on an item, should I expect to pay a lot?
posted by jlowen at 10:22 AM PST - 6 comments

Yet another New England travel question for the pile...

Looking for a snuggly kick-back but still a little fancy and yet not insanely expensive restorative non-kid trip within a four hour radius of Western Massachusetts. We like: beer, food, being able to toddle back to a hotel after a drinky dinner, soft lights, being able to talk about grown up things ... [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 9:07 AM PST - 10 comments

Bicycle locker or cage, where to buy in Vancouver

Where could I buy a bicycle locker/cage, something that can keep my bike safe in Vancouver? Or something similar to protect my bike. [more inside]
posted by Iax at 7:50 AM PST - 1 comment

How to rebind a book so it's ring bound, at home

I've bound quite a few printed versions of large books I bought as PDF and that works pretty well. Now I want to try it with bought books, but where I'm stuck is how to remove the glued spines. Has anyone else done this, and how did you do it? [more inside]
posted by danteGideon at 7:49 AM PST - 13 comments

Not an apartment!

The US Postal service has an address standardization/correction service that many companies use. When we put our condo address in as 123A Main Street, it changes it to "123 MAIN ST APT A". Since we don't live in an apartment, is there any way to change that with the USPS so it would be "123 MAIN ST UNIT A" or "123A MAIN ST"?
posted by smackfu at 7:48 AM PST - 15 comments

Some text messages delayed (but only some). Whose phone is the problem?

I have an iphone 5c and my boyfriend has a Galaxy 4S. In the past month or so, we've had an issue where there can be a several hour (or day) delay in his receiving texts from me. It doesn't ALWAYS happen, but does several times a week. Is it his phone or mine, and how do we fix it? [more inside]
posted by odayoday at 6:55 AM PST - 21 comments

Furniture, Direct To Your Front Door

Wifey and I sell on Etsy, and we're getting into small pieces of furniture -- but they're not "small" by UPS and USPS standards; the post office won't even take them for being too big, and UPS wants $200+ based on size. Do any of you know how best to ship a piece of furniture, delivered to a person's front door? [more inside]
posted by AzraelBrown at 6:15 AM PST - 12 comments

Has anyone ever worn this outfit in the history of time?

I'm looking for pictures of a woman wearing a pantsuit. But not just any woman wearing a pantsuit. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 5:22 AM PST - 8 comments

Recommend to me some more early 20th century Asian music

So I've been obsessed with Legend of Korra (shock, I know), and part of the reason I love it so much is the Art Deco/Jazz Age style in an East Asian setting. I want to get more into the actual historical sources and music for that era. I've found a collection of pre-war Japanese albums, but can anyone recommend to me more musicians or collections I should be looking into? [more inside]
posted by Katemonkey at 3:55 AM PST - 4 comments

Looking for a recommendation for beginner’s pianos.

I am a woman in my late 30s and am planning to learn playing the piano. I have no prior knowledge of any other musical instrument, but have decided that life is too short to keep wishing that one day..! So….I am looking for suggestions on: 1) A good beginner’s piano. The music academy that I plan to enroll in, has suggested Kawai KPD90. The reviews suggest that it is a good piano. However, it seems a bit of an investment at 1150 USD,( and in my country, it is even more expensive)- given that I have no idea whether I will take to the piano like a duck to water or whether it will be sheer anathema to me! I was hoping for some advice from the hive mind, if this is an appropriate piano, for an absolute novice or whether I could go in for something cheaper? At this point in my life, it is not unaffordable…I just want to make the right choice for myself. 2) Resources, books etc- especially online- that teach the piano to beginners. Thanks everyone for your help!
posted by synapse2512 at 3:18 AM PST - 18 comments

March 11

Are we more or less honest than a hundred years ago?

Are the citizens of the U.S. more or less honest than a hundred years ago? Is there any longitudinal research that explores this question? [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 11:49 PM PST - 3 comments

Ice cream that makes me feel like I just brushed my teeth, please.

Who makes the mintiest mint chip ice cream, that I might possibly be able to find in a supermarket or ice-cream shop in or near Seattle? [more inside]
posted by town of cats at 10:59 PM PST - 17 comments

Hong Kong stopover itinerary?

The SO and I'll have three days in Hong Kong in June. What must we see/do/eat? [more inside]
posted by pompomtom at 10:44 PM PST - 8 comments

Recommend loose teas for a coffee addict?

Trying to cut back on my coffee intake and switching to tea instead. Bought a pretty dope steeper, and now I need to find teas that I will enjoy. Suggestions? More details after the jump. [more inside]
posted by Slap Factory at 9:25 PM PST - 44 comments

Recommendations for books which will give me a sense of "place"

I really enjoy books which give me a very strong sense of place. Mystery series like Dana Stabenow's Kate Shugak mysteries for Alaska and Nevada Barr who brings U.S. National Parks to life. I'm going to Montenegro, Croatia, Turkey, Greece and Italy this spring. Can you recommend some books? [more inside]
posted by stewiethegreat at 8:14 PM PST - 16 comments

Can I "loan" my car out for 5 months, and be legally covered?

My situation: I bought a car to replace my stolen scooter about a year ago, and just got my scooter back. Til the end of summer, I imagine I'll be riding the scoot exclusively. In lieu of selling my car and purchasing another in a few months- which I'd have to do in 8-month-rainy-season Seattle- I'd like to figure out a way to let someone use/insure/park it til then, and be legally assured that I would get the car back in the same condition I left it. More inside. [more inside]
posted by t(h)om(as) at 7:41 PM PST - 11 comments

Stereo Repair House Call in Dallas

I have an old late 60's / early 70's console stereo system and the turntable is broken. The thing is a beast and it's impossible for me to bring in somewhere for repair. I've asked everyone I know, but no one knows of any place that makes house calls. [more inside]
posted by ericthegardener at 7:09 PM PST - 10 comments

Giving an unpaid talk in Canada: business or tourist?

YANML, but I am a US resident, and have a Korean passport and a US green card. I am going to Canada for less than a week, to give an unpaid talk and meet with people in my field (though the hosts are paying for airfare and hotels). According to the official websites, I'd say this qualifies as a business trip. Does anyone have experience with a similar trip? Do business trips raise more flags at the border?
posted by molla at 4:51 PM PST - 13 comments

Beware the Poetry Month, my son

What are the best short poems (<1 minute to read aloud) for middle school kids (grades 6-8/ages ~11-14)? [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 4:50 PM PST - 37 comments

Trying to play Skyrim on a PC with Xbox controller...help

I've played Skyrim on a PS3 for a while now. I love it, but after hearing about all the mods you can do with the PC version, I was eager to buy the PC game. I've been trying to play it on my computer, but it's awful. [more inside]
posted by cartoonella at 4:50 PM PST - 10 comments

Where are all the NFL rulebooks?

It seems like current, official NFL rulebooks just aren't out there!? Could that possibly be correct? The most recent version on the NFL website is 2013. There must have been rule changes last year, right? I'm happy to pay for it if such a thing exists. Does anyone know where I can find one? Or why I can't find one? I don't want to do anything crazy with it, just dork out in the most up-to-date fashion possible. Thanks!
posted by zibra at 4:39 PM PST - 2 comments

Trying to find a medieval inspired hip hop video

About five (or more) years ago, I saw a hip hop video where both lyrics and video were medieval/renaissance faire themed. Featured some buxom ladies and possibly a horse mask. More humour than hip hop. Does this ring a bell for anyone?
posted by uffda at 4:29 PM PST - 5 comments

Should I give freelancing a shot? What resources are out there?

My permanent job is coming to an end in three weeks and I haven't been able to line up another position just yet. Is this a good time to give freelancing a whirl, and if so where would I begin? (details inside) [more inside]
posted by jess at 3:53 PM PST - 7 comments

Indulgent Getaway near Denver in May

A girlfriend and I are meeting up with our awesome friend in Denver the first weekend in May (1-4). She's recently moved there so isn't super familiar with the area, and only has one bedroom-so we'd love to find someplace relatively close where we can relax and indulge-hotel or VRBO or ? Oh, and must allow her small, well-behaved dog. [more inside]
posted by purenitrous at 3:33 PM PST - 6 comments

Can't get through to the IRS blues.

The IRS says they can't identify me and therefore cannot send me my tax refund. The web verification process doesn't work and every phone number I've found for them just gives an automated "we cannot handle your call right now" and hangs up - no option to wait on hold. Please see extended explanation for more details, thanks. [more inside]
posted by NoAccount at 3:22 PM PST - 15 comments

How to deal with copyright infringement and plagiarism?

I run a website that is niche and more getting well known in it's small circle of enthusiasts. Not big, but around 10,000 visitors a month. Enough that I'm always surprised at the number of people who know the site. One thing I've noticed as popularity has grown, so has the lifting of content. I don't know how I should deal with it; if at all. [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 3:16 PM PST - 5 comments

Maru and Hana are hogging all the best Cat Toys

Where can I buy the cat tower shown in these photos? [more inside]
posted by instead of three wishes at 3:13 PM PST - 4 comments

Hot takes on film criticism

I'm looking for essays/thinkpieces/papers/etc which critically examine movie reviewing as a practice, particularly its epistemological basis. In particular, I'm thinking of the way that critics typically use objective language to describe films -- this movie is boring and cliched, this acting is wooden, this ending is predictable -- despite the fact that all these qualities are experienced in divergent ways by audience member. Thus you regularly see critics averring that a lowbrow comedy is objectively unfunny, despite the fact that, sociologically, we know that a large number of audience members enjoyed it. Any ideas?
posted by dontjumplarry at 2:52 PM PST - 1 comment

You Can't Fine Me Because I Quit! Or Can You?

Can my employer really make me pay back my signing bonus if I quit? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:41 PM PST - 21 comments

How do I Bay Area?

I'm going to be hanging out in the Bay Area for 5-6 days in late April/early May, for a mix of seeing family in Menlo Park and fun/touristing. I will probably stay with said family for 1-2 nights, but I want to be in closer to city things and public transit the rest of the time. Where should I stay, and while you're at it, what other activities should I consider? More about what I hope to do under the fold. [more inside]
posted by ActionPopulated at 2:36 PM PST - 13 comments

open source voter management software

Is there any open source voter management software out there? I had heard of something called Advokit, but its website seems to be down. Stuff that small campaigns can use to keep track of voter management between campaigns and during them, and generate door knock up sheets and leaflet runs. I am in the UK and asking for a friend.
posted by Mistress at 2:11 PM PST - 1 comment

What is this medical referral saying in english?

The referral states: CT brain no contrast - pt with h/o head trauma 2nd to MVA 10 years ago. Huh??? Why don't they write this stuff in english? What the hell are all these anagrams?
posted by manderin at 1:03 PM PST - 12 comments

Looking for CBT Worksheet/pdf I can type into directly

Hey Folks! I love Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and find thought records helpful in times of stress, but I type faster than I write. Is there a CBT Worksheet/pdf that you can type directly into? Or, how do I make one? Thanks!!
posted by sistertips at 12:55 PM PST - 5 comments

Dinner vegetables for kiddo: beyond broccoli and green beans

Somehow, we're in a rut on dinner vegetables that our little guy will also like. Our staples are green beans, broccoli, brussel sprouts, and asparagus, though he doesn't like asparagus too often. Salad greens are still not to his liking. How can we bring some variety to our dinner greens? What are other good greens, and how can we quickly prepare them, or prepare on the weekend and store for the week? [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 12:38 PM PST - 39 comments

Please explain MacBook Pro pricing anomaly to me

In the current MacBook Pro lineup, there's a $100 dollar price jump between the 2.9Ghz i5 processors and 3.1 Ghz i7 processors on the 128GB and 256GB models, but a $200 difference for the same upgrade on the 512GB model, all other specs remaining the same. Is there any reason for this, aside from Apple deciding that people willing to spend that much simply won't mind paying another $100?
posted by a box and a stick and a string and a bear at 11:58 AM PST - 19 comments

Modern Dating/Online Matching 101, please?

For a fiction project, I need to come to a better understanding about how modern dating works, particularly with regard to Tinder. From my perspective (I'm older, I've been married a long time and I have absolutely no experience with the modern dating scene), I wonder why women might be using Tinder. Is it just for hooking up? Or do woman (or men) look to Tinder to try to meet someone for actual dating and long-term relationship? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 11:37 AM PST - 23 comments

Watch out for my new favorite watch

My beloved Casio wristwatch just died. Help me find a suitably brightly-colored replacement. [more inside]
posted by torridly at 11:22 AM PST - 8 comments

When to add in dinner for baby?

I am struggling under the weight of all the conflicting advice, so I'm hoping you guys can offer some anecdata to help me understand when I should start feeding my baby a dinner meal in addition to / instead of a bottle. [more inside]
posted by ohio at 11:18 AM PST - 21 comments

Because you enjoyed ...

I am working on diversifying my pop culture experience and am feeling limited by what Netflix thinks I should watch. Please recommend some of your favorite movies, TV shows, and documentaries streaming on Netflix that would help me expand my pop culture diet - especially if they are directed by/acted by/about women, people of color, and people outside the upper middle class New York/LA milieu.
posted by ChuraChura at 11:14 AM PST - 39 comments

Searching for a wedding dress

I'm getting married in July, and I found a potential wedding dress I like (yah! here @ modcloth) but they don't have it available in my size anymore (boo!). Does anybody have suggestions for dresses out there that are similar-ish? [more inside]
posted by warble at 10:33 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me speak business

I've worked in media my entire adult life, and, generally speaking, my liberal arts degree and work ethic have kept me chugging along. Recently, however, I've been dealing more and more with with the "business" side of things. And I could use some help. [more inside]
posted by lieberschnitzel at 10:26 AM PST - 5 comments

Can a non-musical adult learn to play the piano?

I'm 43 years old and have no music training. Is it realistic for someone with my age and musical inexperience to enjoy learning to play piano or is it just an exercise in frustration trying to force a non-plastic brain to do something entirely new? [more inside]
posted by Nelson at 10:24 AM PST - 28 comments

How did you stop bedsharing with your baby?

I am bedsharing with my 6-month-old. I have a plan to end this in a few months, but I'd love some guidance from those who've done it themselves. [more inside]
posted by aabbbiee at 10:18 AM PST - 11 comments

I shouldn't even be on this website

I need a referral to a therapist who has experience getting people addicted to screens (and their contents) to do their damn job. (Chicago area, but will accept remote or even national if worth traveling to see) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:06 AM PST - 2 comments

Long distance or bust!

I'm want to (eventually) move to be with a boyfriend 8,000 miles away. Am I being an idiot? Apologies in advance for the long letter inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:06 AM PST - 30 comments

Having fans is the worst. Or is it?

Can you think of any expressions of artist/fan ambivalence or outright antagonism? [more inside]
posted by umbú at 9:59 AM PST - 24 comments

Get My GI Tract in Shape

So, lady in her late 30s and over the past year or so I have been having weird GI things going on. Some appear to be related to the menstrual cycle, others are just out of nowhere. I think my gut is out of whack and need help getting it back into shape. [more inside]
posted by tafetta, darling! at 9:52 AM PST - 19 comments

ShirtFilter: This is (???) what a feminist looks like

Help me rediscover or recreate the great expanded wording I saw for this classic shirt! [more inside]
posted by Edna Million at 9:42 AM PST - 7 comments

How to cure my yoga phobia?

I'd really like to (re)start doing yoga, but I had a pretty bad experience last time and I can't seem to get myself to go again. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by holborne at 9:12 AM PST - 31 comments

Seeking superlative sturdy socks

I have some nice thick comfy everyday socks. Where can I get more like them? [more inside]
posted by kristi at 8:51 AM PST - 10 comments

Looking for semi-obscure, very funny movies

Looking for movies like Oscar, Big Trouble, Brain Donors, The Six Wives of Henry Lefay and Clue. [more inside]
posted by pyro979 at 7:36 AM PST - 76 comments

What are fun new activities my husband and I can try together?

Mr. Pterodactyl and I have realized we enjoy trying and learning new things together. We especially like it if we can take a short lesson or a few short lessons first. What are some (not outrageously expensive) things we could try? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 6:15 AM PST - 48 comments

Help me set up a whitelist computer

I would like to set up a computer for my internet-addicted teenage son (windows 7 or 8, let's say) where internet access is constrained by a "whitelist" of sites. Blacklist-based parental control schemes do not work for tl;dr reasons. Help me re-introduce the internet gradually to my son so he can start afresh. [more inside]
posted by cross_impact at 5:09 AM PST - 12 comments

Spotify alternative for buying mp3's?

I recently discovered Spotify and love it. For the past years I still mostly listened to music from cd's I bought over 10 years ago, and I have a lot of fun discovering different music. The only problem with Spotify for me is that it works on my phone, and I would prefer to use a standard mp3 player (not iPod). Almost all my music listening is when I'm exercising and when I'm offline. [more inside]
posted by blub at 4:29 AM PST - 13 comments

Tips for the nervous home cook?

My significant other is a willing but very nervous cook. Is there a way to resolve his cooking anxiety? [more inside]
posted by tippy at 3:27 AM PST - 61 comments

Boyfriend acting strange after spending several nights together?

We're both in our 30's and have been together for 4 months. We made things official a few weeks ago, but only because I asked how he sees us and he responded that he thinks of us as being in a relationship. We've never spent this much time together before, and he's the kind of guy who needs to take a break for a 3 days after long weekend dates. I'm not clingy, he initiates most dates. [more inside]
posted by lohachata at 1:38 AM PST - 58 comments

Where ought I submit my writings?

I've been composing several written works for some years now. They are unfinished, however, certain sections 'need to be published' according to a trustworthy friend who specializes in the field. Unfortunately, I've lost touch with her, and am clueless as how to attempt to publish whilst maintaining an appropriate degree of protection and control of my work. [more inside]
posted by past at 12:58 AM PST - 10 comments

5 years old refuses to poop anywhere but in the diaper

My 5 years old boy, who is emotionally normal and generally happy, can't poop into the toilet/potty. He's been peeing in the toilet since he was 2, but only tried pooping once when he was 3 and never repeated it again, although it was a neutral experience (no pain or anything negative). We read every book, talked to doctors, psychologists, etc... and tried everything without success (details below). [more inside]
posted by caudingo at 12:36 AM PST - 14 comments

March 10

not lose my job + pregnancy

I understand women have been doing this for hundreds of thousands of years, but I'm "delicate". How to not lose my job while feeling this ill? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:17 PM PST - 17 comments

Husband's 'teen' porn

How common or uncommon is it for men who look at porn to look at 'teen' porn? I stumbled upon the tabs for my husband’s porn viewing session. All of the videos included "teen" as a keyword in the title. The people did not appear prepubescent. I am having a negative reaction to this. My questions, in order, for the site are: [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:17 PM PST - 53 comments

Wig Alternatives for Women with Hair Loss

What are some options for comfortable, lightweight, pretty head coverings for a woman with hair loss? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:13 PM PST - 8 comments

Not what to do on the wedding night, but where

Trying to decide between getting a hotel room or going home after our wedding. On your wedding night, where did you stay? Did it make a difference? [more inside]
posted by lakemarie at 10:48 PM PST - 34 comments

Self-managed Dropbox replacements?

What do you recommend for a Dropbox-like file sync utility that doesn't rely on a server I don't control? [more inside]
posted by baf at 10:47 PM PST - 12 comments

Anxiety over anger

Whenever somebody is angry with me, regardless of whether they are a co-worker or a person I am dating, I tend to experience major anxiety and panic. One of my parents was emotionally/verbally abusive as a child and I am hyper-sensitive to displays of anger. What can I do about this? How can I learn to be less terrified of people being angry at me? [more inside]
posted by twill at 10:12 PM PST - 23 comments

Teachers! Advice for private school interviews?

I have been invited to interview for full time teaching positions at several private (mostly Catholic) schools, in a few different states. I have substantial experience teaching in many diverse capacities in public schools, but no private. I've never attended a private school either. If you teach or have interviewed at a private school, what advice can you give? [more inside]
posted by WhitenoisE at 9:25 PM PST - 3 comments

Coping with Trauma and the Loss of a Pet

I’m having trouble dealing with something terrible I saw involving a neighbor’s dog. I feel weird since it wasn’t my dog or my trauma, but it took me back to the night my own pet died, and I just feel awful about everything and I don’t know how to cope (warning: general description of terrible dog death under the fold). [more inside]
posted by girl flaneur at 8:53 PM PST - 15 comments

Contractor said county might baloon my renovation to 4x cost!

I'm looking at buying a house that is too small, but has an upstairs attic room that I thought could be renovated--adding a long shed dormer along the back and extending the wall to a 3' knee. Whether or not I can make the changes at a reasonable cost will determine whether I want to buy the house. I talked to a contractor and he said costs depend on the county. [more inside]
posted by brenton at 8:44 PM PST - 15 comments

Overly sweet medicine wine

My beloved friend showed up last night with a bottle of shitty homemade wine. Oh wow, this stuff tastes like medicine. I've successfully brewed champagne cider jack with him in the past, he's not dangerous so much as clueless at times, but this shit is like berry flavored ass medicine. Any vintners out there who can tell me if there is any way to go beside dumping the lot into the sink? [more inside]
posted by lakersfan1222 at 8:40 PM PST - 16 comments

Audio fiction about being in over one's head and finding one's way

I'm seeking audiobooks where the characters are thrust into new and overwhelming circumstances, work hard, wonder if they're on the right track, stay disciplined, experience setbacks, gradually become more competent, overcome challenges, and eventually succeed. [more inside]
posted by slidell at 8:05 PM PST - 8 comments

I basically want clothing slash library

I'm looking for a decent three season men's warm up jacket with a large inside pocket that can fit a decent sized book (two paperbacks or a larger hardcover). Does anyone make this? I carry a book with me everywhere and I don't always want to carry a bag, but many lighter jackets don't have pockets big enough. Can I find this anywhere?
posted by history is a weapon at 7:01 PM PST - 9 comments

How do you know you're getting better at meditating

I have been meditating off and on for the last several years and I'm not sure that I'm getting any better at doing this. I typically listen to Mindfulness Meditation by Jon Kabat Zinn but I still find my mind gets stuck on worries and concerns while I'm doing this. [more inside]
posted by nidora at 6:39 PM PST - 18 comments

What are your experiences with GreenPath?

A friend of mine with credit card debt and debt to the IRS is considering using GreenPath's credit counseling services, but is understandably wary, fearing being preyed upon because of her debt situation. She asked me to research the company and see if it sounded at all like a scam to me. Everything I can find about the place looks on the up and up, but I'd appreciate if mefites who have used their services could share what happened and how they felt about it, so I can be certain in my recommendation to her.
posted by ocherdraco at 6:27 PM PST - 5 comments

Amatuer redwood deck repair - is this even worth doing?

So I finally cracked a step on my mom's old, warped redwood decking. Really, this 3-tiered monstrosity that's been baking in the California sun for nearly four decades should be replaced, but should I even bother to get a spare board and fix it for now? [more inside]
posted by Drosera at 6:01 PM PST - 12 comments

Can I drink this?

How long will this wine that we blended last without sulfites? The winery guy and the Internet have different answers. [more inside]
posted by phoenixy at 5:06 PM PST - 7 comments

How can I be less angry at work ?

I need tips for coping with a poorly-run work environment. To put it in perspective - I'm a charge nurse at an assisted living facility that doesn't have enough staff or money to provide decent care. I want to be less angry when I'm at work. How do I let go? [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 4:37 PM PST - 12 comments

March Madness bracket conundrum

I want to make a bracket for a March Madness-style competition in one of my classes, but most of the brackets I can figure out will end up giving a significant portion of my class byes in the first round. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by kingfishers catch fire at 3:59 PM PST - 9 comments

How to switch fields to web development/coding?

I'm thinking about switching fields into web development in the near to mid future, but have a few questions about skills and code portfolios. I'd also like any general advice you all have on how to do this as someone with basic programming skills, but no specific knowledge of web development. [more inside]
posted by Chicoreus at 3:50 PM PST - 8 comments

Looking for good hiking/walking movies and documentaries

I'm building up a small library of movies and documentaries related to hiking and walking and would love to get suggestions from everyone here! Would especially love to get suggestions of Slow TV-related films [more inside]
posted by epiphinite at 3:47 PM PST - 22 comments

Finding the perfect leather bag

We're after the perfect leather bag for my Dad as a super spendy 60th birthday present. He really likes the Rawlings' leather duffel and the Colonel Littleton #1 Grip, but he wants one with a internal metal hinged opening (the kind on the doctor's bags of yore, something that holds the bag open when expanded). Does such a unicorn exist? [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 3:41 PM PST - 11 comments

Downgrade iPhone 5 from 8.2 to 7.1.2

I thought I'd be okay if I waiting until iOS 8.2 to upgrade my iPhone 5 but I feel like I've made a terrible mistake. I would like to go back to 7.1.2 but that appears to be impossible. Is it? Or am I stuck with a phone I'm no longer happy with?
posted by tommasz at 3:16 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me fix my roommates treadmill

I was using my roommates Profom 750cs Treadmill and now it's malfunctioning. Can you help me fix it? [more inside]
posted by sully75 at 2:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Bear with me here - where can I find this shirt?

Help me find a shirt that Jordan Peele wore during a Season 2 Key and Peele episode. [more inside]
posted by sestaaak at 2:18 PM PST - 3 comments

Lasers- more effective than laying on hands?

My veterinarian has recently started using "healing lasers" as part of dental treatments, among other things. The information they provided said that the laser is used outside the animal's mouth, and it... somehow penetrates and reduces pain and inflammation? I'm not real clear on how it's supposed to work, and it kind of sounds like a more science-y version of crystals and chanting to me. Is this a real thing? [more inside]
posted by Adridne at 2:16 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I hang this piece of artwork?

I recently bought my first piece of art (yay!), which looks like this, but I don't know how to hang it up. It's about 41" x 41", with a wood frame, and it's fairly heavy. On the back are two heavy-duty rails about 5.5" long each, one in each corner at the top (closeup here and here) that are to be used for hanging. [more inside]
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 2:11 PM PST - 9 comments

Please reccommend an accountant in Los Angeles

I need an accountant in L.A., preferably somewhere between downtown and Mid-City. [more inside]
posted by drjimmy11 at 1:55 PM PST - 2 comments

Commuting to an academic job -- terrible idea?

We moved for my partner's academic job. He loves it. I'm not happy in the new place (yet) and yearn to return to where we moved from, and have him commute. Terrible idea? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:10 PM PST - 62 comments

Trying to make emails and brochures pretty, ideas?

So the communications chair has left my group and I need to send out email newsletters and a make a program brochure. I have heard of constant contact and mailchimp, are there others? Which is easiest to use and will not go to spamboxes? Any sites that can create flyers and brochures, nice graphics, and easy and free?
posted by momtips at 1:10 PM PST - 10 comments

Which siding WOOD you choose? (or aluminum)

Should our second-story siding be wood, aluminum, or a combination of the two? [more inside]
posted by sibilatorix at 1:04 PM PST - 7 comments

Mother & daughter hotels in New York in April

Shhhh! We are trying to figure out whether a surprise mother-and-daughter trip to sightsee in New York is possible in the third week of April. What nice but budget-conscious (i.e., not luxury) hotels can you recommend in Manhattan? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 12:34 PM PST - 27 comments

Namefilter? Not quite, nameCHANGEfilter (and gender too).

Dual nationality edition. And stateless until 4 years old. I'm trans. In which country do I have to change my legal name and gender? What? You want MORE snowflake details? Ok, ok, some more after the jump. [more inside]
posted by Promethea at 11:54 AM PST - 12 comments

Scooter Rally Rain Plan?

Have you ever attended a scooter or motorcycle rally? If so, have the organizers had a good plan for activities in case of rain? [more inside]
posted by raisingsand at 11:30 AM PST - 3 comments

Shady co-worker, but maybe I don't even care - report or ignore?

I had a weird situation at work and I'm not sure if I should do anything about it or just ignore it. Part of me is motivated to do something about it because I find it shady and inappropriate. Part of me wonders if there is a way to use this to my advantage at all since office politics is something I do not do. Sorry of this is too long for something that isn't very scandalous. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:26 AM PST - 50 comments

Ana Tijoux Swag

Where can I find this sweatshirt? Helllllp me hivemind!
posted by whimsicalnymph at 11:17 AM PST - 3 comments

Miss Spiteful and Pipeworks brewing in Chicago, how can I ship them?

I moved to the Bay Area a year ago and have no complaints about the weather thus far. On the other hand I really miss the Chicago breweries that aren't available in stores out here. I'd love to get my hands on some of their new releases, particularly their stouts and porters. Anyone know if it's legal and possible to ship beer to CA for personal consumption and how to go about it?
posted by Carillon at 11:12 AM PST - 3 comments

adding a concrete barrier to stone foundation

Our house in Boston was built sometime around 1900. It has a stone foundation that is mostly intact and has been kept in fairly good repair. Unfortunately, there are some holes/gaps that need to be repaired along the front wall of the foundation, under our brand new deck. They can't access the holes properly without removing most of this new deck. As an alternative, the masons have suggested pouring a small thin layer of concrete in front of the stone wall. Is this a reasonable approach? Anything we should be considering? [more inside]
posted by barnone at 11:09 AM PST - 6 comments

Trying to get copies of W-2s, can I find online with IRS? account

My mom needs to prove to the State that her taxes were filed in 2011. Maybe she could pull her Federal taxes from the IRS online? Would that include scan copies of her w-2s? [more inside]
posted by TRUELOTUS at 10:48 AM PST - 4 comments

Anxiety and Memory Loss? Foods that help memory loss for vegans?

I seem to have acute anxiety lately, which is causing a cognition deficit for me. My memory is quite poor and lax these days - I'm not certain if it is due to my vegan diet, or my ongoing intensive anxiety? Are there any tips on how to improve my memory and stabilize my anxiety? [more inside]
posted by RearWindow at 10:41 AM PST - 17 comments

Lost my driver's license, now what?

I'm an out-of-state student in Boston, and I lost my driver's license this past Thursday. I realized I lost it on Monday, so I've started carrying around my US passport for identification. I've called all stores, restaurants, and bars I've been to this weekend, and no one seems to have found it. What are my next steps? I am getting a duplicate license from my home state's DMV. Please help me out MeFi!!
posted by mushtale at 10:25 AM PST - 9 comments

Dad Needs Help With Medical Forms - Ideas?

My 87 year old Dad is awash in medical bills. He'd like not to spend most of his time filling them out. Is there the equivalent of an accountant, but who fills out medical paperwork? Where would I find such a person? (He's in New York City.)
posted by musofire at 10:24 AM PST - 8 comments

How to cope with required lack of water

I have an upcoming surgery scheduled for 1:30 PM. I am not allowed to drink any water (also no food candy or gum) after 12 midnight the night before. How can I manage fatigue/dizziness? [more inside]
posted by seesom at 10:19 AM PST - 16 comments

80s movie about a kidnapping/road trip: What's the title?

I'm trying to remember the name of a movie I saw when I was young. It was the first movie I saw by myself at a theater so it must have been late 80s, and was probably rated PG. What I can remember of the plot (spoiler alert, I guess), a young boy is kidnapped by a much older man who takes him on the road. The boy is resistant at first but eventually forms a bond with his kidnapper, maybe seeing him as a father figure. The law eventually catches up with them and somehow they end up in the water (a lake?) where the kidnapper is wounded (shot?) and eventually, I assume, dies. That's all I've got. Any ideas? I'm sure it's NOT "A Perfect World", although the plot sounds similar.
posted by subtlemel at 9:25 AM PST - 11 comments

Lonely jobs

Do you spend at least 80 percent of your time working alone at your job? If so, what do you do? [more inside]
posted by silly me at 9:15 AM PST - 39 comments

I need alternatives to working an office job (and still pay my bills)

Can you offer suggestions for a (radical or not-so-radical) career shift from office-y type work to something...else? I am at the end of my rope, and so are my loved ones, who are out of suggestions for me. [more inside]
posted by medeine at 8:48 AM PST - 11 comments

Name this made-for-TV movie: Two kids steal a bus...

I'm wasting a question on this because otherwise I might go insane. Late 1970s, early 1980s, made-for-TV movie about two kids who steal a school bus. [more inside]
posted by bondcliff at 8:18 AM PST - 9 comments

Never?

Are there any Black members of the SAE fraternity anywhere in the US? Have there ever been?
posted by LonnieK at 8:07 AM PST - 25 comments

The poop is definitely in the box (er, raised bed), how do I get it out

What do I do about the cat poop in my raised beds if I don't want to get rid of the cats? I have a little feral/community cat colony in my (urban) backyard. They have chosen two of my raised beds as their toilet. Now that the snow has melted the smell is kicking in. I don't want to drive the cats away, but I would like my backyard to not smell of sewage and maybe even use those beds for non-edibles. Anyone have ideas? [more inside]
posted by schroedinger at 7:41 AM PST - 15 comments

Best location for emergency funds

I am in the market for a new home for my emergency savings. My current bank is a joke and I need some consistency so my money doesn't become nomadic. [more inside]
posted by selfnoise at 7:41 AM PST - 18 comments

Tell me about your home offices!

Software tester soon to be working from home would like to hear about home office rigs and setups from the Green. What equipment did you buy? How much did it cost? How's it all working out? [more inside]
posted by Sheydem-tants at 6:01 AM PST - 18 comments

I'm only dairy (and gluten) intolerant if I stop eating them.

I can eat dairy and gluten in large quantities to no ill effect, in terms of any GI symptoms, as long as I'm doing so on a regular basis. If I cut them out completely for 2-4 weeks, the initial reintroduction (accidental or intentional) makes me sick for a day or more (bloating, diarrhea, etc.). [more inside]
posted by these are my travel socks at 5:42 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me find more evidence-based, deliciousness-focused vegan recipes

Kenji Lopez Alt's Vegan Experience is the highlight of my culinary year, and I literally dine out on his recipes all year long. I've made basically every recipe in The Vegan Experience, and I'm after more Kenji-style food inspiration. Further details below. [more inside]
posted by nerdfish at 4:50 AM PST - 19 comments

Awesome Italian meatballs from ground beef?

Have you got a recipe for awesome Italian meatballs from ground beef? [more inside]
posted by InsertNiftyNameHere at 12:27 AM PST - 25 comments

March 9

The Stereo Speaker In My Bike Basket Doesn't Like Bumps

I have a front basket on my bike in which I sit a portable speaker connected by cable to my mp3 player. I've gone through a few portable speakers, and in each case the sound begins to cut out in various ways after a couple of months of riding my city's sometimes bumpy streets. Is there anything I myself, or a technician, could do to the jack socket inside the speaker to prevent this from happening? [more inside]
posted by tenderly at 10:42 PM PST - 11 comments

What is the enthalpy of formation of trichloroisocyanuric acid?

[ChemFilter, asking for a teacher friend] I'm designing an exercise on the heat released in the decomposition of trichloroisocyanuric acid (aka Symclosene) but I'm missing a crucial piece of information! [more inside]
posted by Elachim at 10:33 PM PST - 1 comment

Pole Position: Make It Go Away!

There is a metal (possibly filled with concrete?) pole on the side of our building and we want it gone! [more inside]
posted by pea_shoot at 9:46 PM PST - 12 comments

Obsessed in organising your music files? Me, too. I need your help.

What's a great alternative to iTunes? (I'm using a Mac.) [more inside]
posted by pleasebekind at 9:10 PM PST - 7 comments

Why do I keep getting cavities?

I brush, floss, and rinse with fluoride twice daily. Why do I always get cavities? [more inside]
posted by Angel de Lune at 8:13 PM PST - 67 comments

yellowstone grand teton experts wanted

we are two couples going to camp in yellowstone \ grand tetons july 5-12. i know, i know, there's quite alot of information on both of these places but some of it is conflicting and some details are missing.. my obsessive questions in the extended explanation - hopefully y'all can provide some great answers that can be useful to others in the future. thanks.. [more inside]
posted by fumbducker at 7:56 PM PST - 14 comments

Do I really want the new MacBook?

Can you help me decide between the new MacBook announced today and the almost-as-new Dell XPS 13? [more inside]
posted by neat graffitist at 7:21 PM PST - 18 comments

Florence, Chambord, and something in between

In late May, I will spend a week with my family in Italy (Rome, Florence, Venice) and then I'm going by myself to the Loire Valley to gawk at castles. Where should I stop for a day or two in between: Nice, Marseille, Lyon? [more inside]
posted by wintersonata9 at 7:15 PM PST - 12 comments

Don't Google two women play fighting..

I'm completely stumped and hoping that Ask MeFi can help. There is an amazing play in which two women have a sword fight, making catty comments back and forth. One is a blonde princess type, the other a brunette seductress type. I believe the scene was taken from a larger play, but I mostly recall it from a book about sword fighting. I'm pretty sure the title was Name and Name and that the last name started with a Z. Zoltair? Zanitar? [more inside]
posted by valoius at 6:45 PM PST - 1 comment

Why are all of the houses for sale on some blocks in Vancouver?

Every time I visit Vancouver and drive down Granville St between Granville Island and the airport, I notice there are entire blocks full of single family homes for sale. As in, every house on the block is for sale, often by the same realtor, at the same time. Why is this? [more inside]
posted by joan_holloway at 6:09 PM PST - 7 comments

My head is not a pillow...

How do I get more (ie less disrupted) sleep without kicking my two year old out of our "family bed"? [more inside]
posted by pennypiper at 6:06 PM PST - 17 comments

Various portion control/everything-in-moderation type diets?

I'm looking for recommendations for diets that focus on portion control something along the lines of The Zone or The South Beach diet. I had both these books a long time ago but don't anymore and need some good online resources/outlines or suggested books for similar types of diets. [more inside]
posted by atinna at 5:59 PM PST - 12 comments

custom photo check printing online?

Does anyone have suggestions for a good site (that they've actually ordered products from) for custom photo checks - i.e., where you provide your own artwork for the check background? [more inside]
posted by meeotch at 5:44 PM PST - 3 comments

Last minute trip to Mexico or Caribbean on a budget

I have a week off next week, and am looking to book a last-minute trip to somewhere warm for a few days, flying from the northeast US. I'm thinking the Caribbean or Mexico, but open to other ideas. My budget is up to $700US for flights and 4-5 nights accommodation, and I don't want a spring break type trip. Am I asking the impossible? [more inside]
posted by une_heure_pleine at 5:37 PM PST - 3 comments

Zabava by Turbo Angels

I urgently need a good quality version of the cheesy song Zabava by Turbo Angels. It was in Slovenia's finals for Eurovision 2008. A poorish quality video is out there but I'd like a decent audio file. Can you help me find it?
posted by Wolfdog at 5:10 PM PST - 1 comment

Travelling in Portugal this summer - do's and dont's

My wife and I are flying to Portugal this summer (last 2 weeks of July), and plan to travel by car from Faro in the south to Porto in the north. We have a couple of weeks and want to get a feel for the country which we know very little about. Any general or specific ideas on what we should see, what we should avoid, etc. [more inside]
posted by RafikiGuy at 4:45 PM PST - 13 comments

Eye's focus fluctuates

I notice that my eyes seem to constantly be focussing/defocussing, almost exactly like a crappy phone camera struggling to focus. I have a mild astigmatism, and just got the prescription updated and new glasses issued. [more inside]
posted by Willz at 4:38 PM PST - 5 comments

How to organize my photo library?

What is the best option for a photo management program that doesn't touch the originals and lets me create "albums" or "events" from various folders of photos on my computer. [more inside]
posted by Nickel at 4:21 PM PST - 7 comments

But I don't feel like a "dear"!

I've noticed within the last year or so that a number of people in service occupations - waitstaff, bank tellers, etc. - have taken to calling me "dear". I get this from both men and women, but they are generally pretty young (20s or 30s, perhaps?) . I find being called "dear" pretty demeaning although (arguably) it's not intended that way. How can I make/encourage it to stop? [more inside]
posted by DrGail at 4:11 PM PST - 48 comments

Romanize me!

What did they use in China, particularly in Cantonese speaking regions, to romanize names around the turn of the century? How did foreigners choose how to transcribe Cantonese names in the Latin alphabet back before the 1920s? [more inside]
posted by chainsofreedom at 3:12 PM PST - 2 comments

All I know is I'm sick of everything that my money can buy

How did I pay more than everyone I know for tickets to see The Replacements in SF? [more inside]
posted by Duffington at 2:50 PM PST - 7 comments

Do microwaves still screw up other electronics?

My current house room setup doesn't make sense, and I'd like to move the media room to a different location. However, the only available wall for for TV/Xbox/Etc, is the wall that divides the kitchen and the living room; so the TV would be hung on the same wall as the microwave and stove, but on the other side, in a different room. (If that makes sense.) Is interference still a thing, or is most equipment shielded enough that this idea isn't a problem?
posted by dejah420 at 2:49 PM PST - 9 comments

Flagship Android phones: which ones to consider? (Early 2015 edition)

I want a new Android phone. I need to have it in my hands on June 5, 2015. I will be buying it out-of-pocket (no contract or subsidy) and using it on T-Mobile. My only requirements are 1) faster / more responsive than my Nexus 5 and 2) better battery life than my Nexus 5. I'm overwhelmed by the options. Which phones should I be looking at? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 2:43 PM PST - 17 comments

Gifts from your mail-incapable relative

A bunch of Go You! things have happened in my friends'/relative's lives: engagements, babies, etc and I'd like to send them each a little something. But I suck at mailing things (seriously, I was meant to return something to Amazon and just had to eat the cost b/c I failed to get it in the mail in time) Thus I'd like to internet-send them something maybe $10. Something general and nice--the object equivalent of a card. I would just send them a card but I'd never mail it. Thoughts?
posted by Calicatt at 2:00 PM PST - 13 comments

Sending flowers inexpensively

I am trying to send flowers to my mom for her birthday, I am in school, so I do not have a lot of money. What site should I go to? The prices are crazy, delivery and service charge? I figure there must be a cheaper site/option. I look at an arrangements for $50 and it becomes $70 :(
posted by cheetahchick at 1:47 PM PST - 24 comments

Best option for streaming live audio/video to the Internet?

I need to set up an audio and video stream with a password. What's the Hive's opinion on the best option? [more inside]
posted by dozo at 1:40 PM PST - 3 comments

How to process personal criticism from a failed relationship?

Very messy breakup that involved a lot of confusing signals and a lot of personal criticism. How do I untangle this, get healthy, and work on being a better person? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:40 PM PST - 36 comments

Easy/cheap/cool visualizations?

I'm a member of a psychedelic rock band, and none of us are so good-looking or stage-charismatic that we'd want to be the primary thing people stare at. So we'd like to do the video-projection thing. But... we're not so into the classic hippie-melting-colors look, or the collage-of-spaceships-and-mushroom-clouds-and-wise-indians thing. What we'd really like, I think, is some simple geometric shapes, slowly morphing and transforming in hypnotic ways. Like a screensaver, only not lame. Any suggestions for the best way to do this? [more inside]
posted by Erroneous at 1:34 PM PST - 16 comments

Weird Graphical Toys / Utilities for Mac?

Hi I'm throwing a party and I'd like to project some weird/cool looking stuff. I have an old white Macbook. So along with some obscure Youtube clips I found I'm looking for things like Xaos, or Electric Sheep, or other weird/nifty toys I can fool around for a bit while projecting. Bonus points if I can walk away from the computer and the program keeps doing something fun. Old-skool / Unixy things A++!
posted by beshtya at 1:33 PM PST - 6 comments

Looking for a song

I listened to a song sometime in the last year that was titled "The (something), the (something) and the (something) (or something very close to this). One of those somethings was "Law" and pretty sure the other somethings were somehow related. It was a rock song, but I don't know when it was released, but seemed < 15 years old. Ring any bells?
posted by disaster77 at 1:27 PM PST - 8 comments

Email Where You Are the Customer, Not the Product

What do people think of the different non-free email providers these days? (e.g. fastmail, pobox, rackspace) [more inside]
posted by Mjolnir at 1:25 PM PST - 18 comments

Family trip to NYC in May– help me choose between this or that

I need help narrowing down the overwhelming choices of places to see, things to do, food to eat. We are a family of 4 – with kids ages 6 and 10. We will staying in Brooklyn. We’ll have 4 days for sightseeing. [more inside]
posted by walkinginsunshine at 1:14 PM PST - 14 comments

So... how do I trans?

I'm 30 this year, and I've known something's up with my gender identity since... well, since ever. Over the past year or so, I've come to realise through a lot of reading, thinking, talking that I'm male-to-female transgender. My feelings of dysphoria aren't going away, and they're getting worse, but I'm not making any practical progress towards transition because Life Stuff keeps happening and giving me an excuse to put off scary stuff. I need to do something about this, but I'm struggling to find practical resources for transitioning women around my age. [more inside]
posted by winterhill at 12:45 PM PST - 13 comments

Primers on Bourdieu

I'm interested in becoming more familiar with Bourdieu's ideas of habitas, fields, and forms of capital. I'd like to start with a primer book, or perhaps a collection of essays, that go over his ideas. Can you recommend one that covers these main ideas, frames them in terms of contemporary theorists, and is fairly accessible?
posted by codacorolla at 12:13 PM PST - 7 comments

Mapping a midi keyboard by frequency?

I would like to use some software (preferably Logic Pro, but would be open to a different software if necessary) to map a midi controller using specific frequencies, as opposed to pitches or other sounds. Basically, I'd like to be able to compose music with a midi keyboard where each key gives me a sine wave (or perhaps other wave of my choosing) of some frequency(ies) I select. [more inside]
posted by Lutoslawski at 12:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Feeling Superior: Limited to Humans?

Is feeling superior to others a purely human trait? And I'll add that I know the "survival of the fittest" is instinctive in many species. But I'm speaking of a more reasoned decision to feel superior to others.
posted by Taken Outtacontext at 12:10 PM PST - 10 comments

What's the best alternative to Turbo Tax?

Simply stated- TurboTax is a scummy company with a checkered past that always makes me feel weird using it. Surely there has to be a spritely, young up and comer in the tax game? My taxes are pretty simple- I have a few 1099s, perilously little income and student loans out the wazoo. Nothing too weird. What else is out there?
posted by GilloD at 12:05 PM PST - 20 comments

Is this what they call High Fantasy?

I'm looking for book recommendations that will get me as close to an experience as reading Tolkein as possible. I haven't read much fantasy for at least 15 years, but I have a pretty good sense of what I like. I want: a huge world with an ancient mythology, as big a sense of history, language, culture, as possible. I don't want: much violence or thrilling action, I don't care much about characterization or story beats, or accessible writing. Really, as close as I can get to a dense anthropological examination of fantasy world's geography, myth, and legend as I can get. [more inside]
posted by Think_Long at 11:40 AM PST - 32 comments

True personal financial guidance?

Is there a service or person that I can hire to help me get my financial house in order? And I don't mean just my credit, but in depth day-to-day finances? [more inside]
posted by tunewell at 11:36 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me fix my kitchen sink

The pipe that's going to the drain of my kitchen sink has come unattached from the drain. Surely I can fix this myself? [more inside]
posted by sailoreagle at 11:34 AM PST - 11 comments

Needed: Advice on repainting ugly dark trim in newly bought house.

We did the final walk through of the house we bought. Yay! And now that it's approaching emptiness, it's time to plan a paint job. Difficulty: dark glossy old trim. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 11:33 AM PST - 3 comments

How do I help my partner become more responsible?

My loving, intelligent, witty, well-read partner is also really irresponsible. Please help me approach him about it constructively. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:27 AM PST - 26 comments

How can I put my NSFW blog on my resume?

I have savings, and I hated my job, so I quit to start an unprofessional and NSFW business. The business "failed," and I've been unemployed for almost a year. So, now I need to account for this time on a resume and figure out what to do next. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 11:26 AM PST - 9 comments

I hate you more than any other cat at night

My previously well behaved cat has begun scratching at our bedroom door in the wee hours of the morning loudly enough to wake us up and keep us awake. The door is open, and he is fed and watered. What the hell is going on and please can you help make it stop? [more inside]
posted by corb at 10:54 AM PST - 32 comments

How to talk to a hard nose about finances

So I'm sorting through my bills from my recent hospitalization, and found one for $700+ from Visiting Nurses Association (this is a valid bill). The hard nose I spoke to on the phone said 90 days or 15 percent off if I pay by Friday. [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 10:54 AM PST - 6 comments

Furniture Delivery Tipping

Would you tip for this and how much? [more inside]
posted by longdaysjourney at 10:46 AM PST - 12 comments

What? Nevermind, got it.

Someone will say a sentence, and at first I won't process what the person said, but after a second my brain will catch up, and I'll understand what was said. What is this called? [more inside]
posted by rebooter at 10:44 AM PST - 19 comments

Please help with paypal problem

A few months back a client made a payment to me via paypal. She then started a dispute saying she hadn't received it (it had gone into her spam)... [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 9:32 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me find stair treads, please?

I need rubber or vinyl treads for my stairs. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by Tchad at 9:13 AM PST - 4 comments

Strange Netflix captioning problem

I'm seeing closed captioning when I don't think I should. [more inside]
posted by pdb at 8:38 AM PST - 8 comments

Atul Gawande: 3 highly rated books, where to start?

I came across Being Mortal: Medicine and What Matters in the End by Atul Gawande, which Amazon states is one of the best books from last year. But then I found two more by Gawande, The Checklist Manifesto: How to Get Things Right and Better: A Surgeon's Notes on Performance. [more inside]
posted by dancestoblue at 8:36 AM PST - 7 comments

Best way to put a small library database online?

I am responsible for a library of about 1200 books, which I've cataloged in a database. I'd like to put the database on our website so that readers can search for a book without having to visit the library. I have experience with Python and to a lesser extent, MySQL. What is the best way to create a searchable database online using these tools or something else that's relatively easy to learn?
posted by stinker at 8:22 AM PST - 9 comments

Can I use an IKEA countertop for a DIY "table"?

I'd like to do something like this to make some counter space in my kitchen. Can I use an IKEA countertop instead of cut-to-measure wood? [more inside]
posted by undercoverhuwaaah at 8:06 AM PST - 19 comments

Two days in Boston - what should I do?

I will be in Boston next Saturday and Sunday. I would like to eat delicious mid-priced food, visit bookstores and museums, see beautiful local features and possibly shop for accessories. I would also like to ride the T, because I love the T, at least when it's running. What do you recommend? [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 8:00 AM PST - 27 comments

Moving Cross Country -- How is it done?

I'm moving from New York City to the West Coast and I have a lot of stuff. I couldn't be less interested in driving a truck myself. I keep hearing about "pods" but I am having a hard time even finding companies to get estimates from. What should I be doing besides googling "moving pods"? [more inside]
posted by amandabee at 7:44 AM PST - 17 comments

The Tragedy: A Middle Aged Man's Wife Won't Let Him Have a Bigger TV

I have a couple questions regarding the purchase of a new (and our first) television. Mainly, what size should we get, and then of course which model. Our budget is probably around $700 for the TV itself. [more inside]
posted by spikeleemajortomdickandharryconnickjrmints at 7:29 AM PST - 37 comments

Can you recommend a messenger bag/laptop case for me to abuse?

Hi, I've just destroyed another bag. Can you recommend a strong laptop case/messenger bag for me? I'm looking for something strong and professional-looking (I work in a somewhat conservative industry.) [more inside]
posted by Area Man at 7:28 AM PST - 16 comments

Find me some neat tactile toys for adults

I'm looking for more 'toy' items for my home- pleasingly tactile, not messy, not obviously kidlike (no fluorescent plastic). Something that can be picked up, fiddled with, and is aesthetically attractive enough to display on my coffee table. [more inside]
posted by rachaelfaith at 7:12 AM PST - 30 comments

examples of technologies or social institutions that are "stuck"

HIVEMIND! Does anyone know of any examples of technologies or social institutions that are "stuck" at some sub-optimal state, where we recognize that there are better alternatives out there, but everyone is just used to the current situation and coordinating a huge shift is just too difficult? The clearest example I can think of is having the Qwerty keyboard instead of the Dvorak, where we know that one is better but instituting it would require massive coordination and huge startup costs.
posted by mrmanvir at 6:52 AM PST - 38 comments

I'd Like to Stop Feeding You Now

This winter has been very hard on the wild birds in our area due to the very cold and very snowy conditions. I fed the birds years ago for about a month but had stopped due to 1) raccoons and 2) feral cats (who live nearby at a farm). However this winter I saw an article in our local paper on wild birds having a tough time and had seen some birds pecking at a frozen bush by our house. We live in a large wooded lot and in the summer there is plenty of local stuff around. So I fed the birds since January. Because of the cold and snow - other then the occasional fat squirrel, I haven't seen any raccoons or cats. Knowing nothing of wild birds and their proclivities, I'd like to stop come spring. Is this something bird people do? I remember vaguely an old saying that the birds come to rely on your feeder. Can you just feed the birds during winter months and stop when snow melts? It seems stupid to ask but there aren't too many people who feed birds anymore in my area.
posted by lasamana at 6:28 AM PST - 11 comments

I'm sorry I offended you. Give me a letter of recommendation please.

How do I ask somebody for a letter of recommendation to grad school that mistakenly believes I blew him off for not helping me before? [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! at 6:03 AM PST - 12 comments

How can I not be the "default parent" in my relationship?

How can I not be the "default parent" in my relationship? [more inside]
posted by so much modern time at 5:28 AM PST - 49 comments

I'm looking for real life examples like The Shining.

And by Shining type cases, let me say that English ghosts and psychic kids are of course a bonus but in no way necessary. What I'm getting as is I'm trying to do some research on cases of murder or near murder brought on by isolation. Where can I find examples of dark deeds brought on - or exacerbated by - people being stuck somewhere far away from others?
posted by rileyray3000 at 5:19 AM PST - 8 comments

What are you looking for in a coffee subscription?

I now live in Indonesia and have access to some great coffee beans. Some US friends want me to ship some packs, and I'm about to! Some good local roasters too. For those of you who have coffee subscriptions already, - what format do you prefer (weekly/ monthly) - did you like exploring 'new' beans outside your typical taste profile - what made the different between a truly great coffee sub service and a regular one, in your mind?
posted by popagandhi at 5:11 AM PST - 6 comments

How to baby proof stairs with openings?

I have three stories of stairs with openings both in between stairs and horizontal banisters. Any suggestions how to best baby proof this? I was looking for some sort of rail net initially but selection is very limited. Maybe someone has a good DIY idea.
posted by djfreex at 4:43 AM PST - 14 comments

Bright task lighting needed

I need a bright light for when I put on makeup and deal with my eyebrows and stuff. I live in a rental, and I can't put holes in the walls or install light fixtures. Can you recommend something? [more inside]
posted by topoisomerase at 4:27 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me understand why I'm afraid of creative pursuits

In my heart, I love literature, I love art, I love music...but I think my emotions are sabotaging me from enjoying them? [more inside]
posted by Cybria at 3:13 AM PST - 8 comments

Am I converting USD to Icelandic dollars correctly?

This is probably a dumb question, what with all the converters available online, but I'm actually confused. [more inside]
posted by rancher at 2:45 AM PST - 2 comments

Unusual meat products in the Pioneer Valley

Due to an overly elaborate inside joke, I need to treat my girlfriend to an anniversary dinner — either out at a restaurant or cooked at home — involving some sort of rarely-served meat. (Last year's iteration of this was in Texas and involved barbecued raccoon from a friend who hunts.) This year we'll be in Northampon, MA, with access to a rental car and a decently well-stocked kitchen. Suggestions?
posted by nebulawindphone at 12:16 AM PST - 14 comments

March 8

Should I accept power of attorney for my parents?

My parents are in their early 70s and have minor health issues, but are generally doing well and definitely of sound mind. They have lately been planning for the future: consulting an elder care attorney, signing up for long term health care, etc. They have asked me to be their health care proxy and executor (along with another of my siblings), which I'm willing to do since I feel confident that I understand their wishes. However, they also asked me to take on durable power of attorney which I feel less comfortable with. [more inside]
posted by ungratefulninja at 11:09 PM PST - 24 comments

Is my marriage so unusual?

The other night I asked my husband if he is happy and, after about 30 minutes of thoughtful consideration, he said he feels the concept of a long happy marriage is overrated and that he "isn't not happy." He is satisfied. [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 11:05 PM PST - 34 comments

What do you mean there's no website?

Is it a new trend to conduct a political campaign without a website and just use social media? How does an old-school web person adjust? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:18 PM PST - 12 comments

Getting divorced. What do I owe the in-laws?

I'm getting divorced after 20+ years of marriage. Once everything is official and done and legal, what is the etiquette in terms of ongoing interaction with my ex in-laws? Is it normal (that is, expected or required) to maintain some kind of relationship afterwards (especially as there are kids involved—teens, though, not toddlers)? Or am I free to no longer have to deal with them, and leave all that to my ex-husband?
posted by anonymous at 10:17 PM PST - 15 comments

Marijuana and early pregnancy: Fact, Fiction, and Anxiety

How much did my pot use in the first few weeks after intercourse effect my chances of a healthy pregnancy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:17 PM PST - 9 comments

HBO's "Togetherness" - name that song?

What is the song that played at the end of tonight's season finale of HBO's "Togetherness"? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 9:01 PM PST - 2 comments

How is babby timed?

My husband and I are interested in trying to get pregnant. My plan was to get a new job, work there for a few months, then start trying. Unfortunately, the first part is not working out. Now what? [more inside]
posted by kat518 at 9:00 PM PST - 10 comments

Buying gifts for young people you don't know

I want to buy a gift(material or otherwise) for two young people, ~5 years and ~14 months. I want it to be meaningful and not a token gift. Snowflake part: I have no idea what these children like. [more inside]
posted by prufrock at 8:36 PM PST - 11 comments

European sunscreen > U.S. sunscreen. Can this American buy it legally?

Experts all over say that Europe has better sunscreens than the U.S. due to the FDA's refusal to approve new sunscreen ingredients. (More info here, here, and here.) I burn within minutes in the sun. Is there any way I can legally buy European sunscreen in the U.S.? [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 8:04 PM PST - 13 comments

What is this bird?

I live in Hawaii, on the big island, in Kona. I have a slightly annoying bird that lives nearby and I cannot identify it. Here are two so-so recordings of the bird... which sounds like a car alarm. What is it? Thanks!
posted by roygbv at 7:52 PM PST - 3 comments

Can I Eat This, #3467

Vacuum-packed smoked trout, unopened, two weeks until expiration, but inadvertently left at room temperature for 8 hours. It says "keep refrigerated", but they must figure on SOME time to get it home from the grocery store and into the fridge — is 8 hours too long?
posted by ubiquity at 7:50 PM PST - 15 comments

When the user wants an "App" but they need a webapp ?

I would like to understand more about giving a webapp a Pl