February 2016 Archives

February 29

Eating and drinking with a bushy beard and mustache

I'm not a sloppy eater, but I like I am from time to time these days [more inside]
posted by BadgerDoctor at 11:04 PM PST - 10 comments

NYC coding bootcamp earning potential after graduation?

How much can a new developer, fresh from bootcamp, expect to earn in the NYC market? What kind of earning potential does a developer have as they progress farther into the field? [more inside]
posted by Team of Scientists at 10:57 PM PST - 11 comments

I am me and he is me and we are me and me is all together

How do I act more like myself at work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:44 PM PST - 5 comments

What kind of psychotherapy would be helpful to a sociopath?

Not to change them or help the people around them that are affected by them. I mean, what sort of therapy might actually help them to live a happier life, accept the unchangeable things that drive them into spirals of anger, and smooth out the cycle of exploding their life every three years or so? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:42 PM PST - 7 comments

Ex-Husband Racking Up Property Violations in My Name

Divorced for a decade. Ex-husband still lives in our formerly-shared house. Recently discovered that he has been racking up property violations... under my married name. Do I have any recourse? [more inside]
posted by sarling at 7:44 PM PST - 20 comments

Japan Quickly but Where and for How Long?

How many days should we spend in Tokyo vs Kyoto and where could we take a day trip to from either? [more inside]
posted by Bunglegirl at 6:20 PM PST - 18 comments

Planting time for native honeysuckle in zone 7b?

What's the advised planting time for Lonicera sempervirens (Blanche Sandman honeysuckle vine) in zone 7b? [more inside]
posted by ancient star at 6:06 PM PST - 3 comments

Bleach and Alcohol

Partner mixed diluted bleach with champagne in our kitchen sink. I promptly drained the solution, but worry about using the kitchen sink to hand-wash our dishes. (We exclusively hand wash our dishes, and do not possess a dishwasher.) [more inside]
posted by kiki_s at 5:57 PM PST - 12 comments

Playboy Story from Late 70s, Early 80s

I'm looking for a short story published in Playboy in the 70s or 80s. Back in 1980 or 1981 I visited my brother in college and snagged a Playboy from his fraternity house. I was, of course, most interested in the pictures but I was also fascinated with writing stories and reading fiction. I was 12 and had discovered short fiction earlier in the year. [more inside]
posted by nathanrudy at 5:16 PM PST - 1 comment

Bluetooth Soundbar s_gnal dr_ps d_ring s_lent m_ments... Help?

My Bluetooth soundbar (Toshiba if that makes a difference) has a very annoying habit of "blacking out" during silent moments, then re-engaging a few seconds after the sound starts up again. I want to ask if anyone has this problem, and how they resolved it. [more inside]
posted by war wrath of wraith at 4:38 PM PST - 6 comments

Cheapest way to present A3 watercolours for exhibition

I need to be able to hang about 20 watercolour paintings that are mostly A3 size (297 x 420mm, or 11.7 x 16.5 in, with a couple of A2) very cheaply, but attractively. [more inside]
posted by b33j at 3:56 PM PST - 8 comments

Confused Canadian seeks financial counsel

I'm a Canadian in the Bay Area. I don't know if I will eventually return to Canada or remain here in the U.S., and I'm trying to make some fairly simple financial decisions. Who can I talk to about the tax implications of investing in a 401k, buying American index funds, etc? [more inside]
posted by mellifluous at 3:53 PM PST - 1 comment

Multi-book series with slow burn B-plot romances, in any genre

I've read a couple book series lately that I've really enjoyed, and I realized that the common theme between them is that they both have very strong/swoon-worthy romantic subplots that span multiple novels, showing a slow progression in the relationship between two leads, while other stuff happens around them. Like: 75% interesting and exciting plot/some other genre, 25% romance. I'd love to find more book series like this. [more inside]
posted by warble at 3:47 PM PST - 35 comments

How to give more of yourself when the bank is empty.

I'm so spent. I have a brilliant 10-y-o kiddo who was diagnosed as being on the spectrum late last school year. Between handling various behavioral blips at school, social challenges, and various doctor/therapy appointments, I have nothing left for me. [more inside]
posted by heathrowga at 3:17 PM PST - 29 comments

Down and Dirty way to Pack Posters Flat for Moving and Storing

I'm in a sort of dire straits where I'm getting rid of most everything I own. I have 50 or so posters and lithographs that mean a lot to me (out of print, signed, nostalgic, and such) that I would like to pack flat and sandwich all together and am curious of any extremely cheap ways to do so. [more inside]
posted by chicaboom at 3:01 PM PST - 9 comments

Illinois Presidential Delegates

Can someone explain the Illinois Presidential delegate selection process in very simple language? [more inside]
posted by Joleta at 2:56 PM PST - 2 comments

RRPQBBQ

How exactly do you score this Reactions to Research Participation Questionnaire Revised (RRPQ-R) form? I see some hints on the last page, but what steps would a researcher take to turn a stack of completed forms into data the proper way? I could take a guess but I'm curious to know the actual method. Google is seemingly empty of the answer. I do not think I have access to the sources on the last page.
posted by michaelh at 2:38 PM PST - 4 comments

What are some great backpacker cities in Latin America?

What are some great backpacker cities in Latin America? I am leaving for an open-ended backpacking trip and I would like to know some great backpacker cities to stop in, and any can't-misss locations. In particular I am looking for places where I can immerse in the local culture without breaking the bank.
posted by alocalhistorian at 1:54 PM PST - 9 comments

Historic payphone prices?

How much did a payphone cost in 1959 (in the USA)? [more inside]
posted by threesquare at 1:39 PM PST - 13 comments

Who is responsible for this property damage?

While backing out of the driveway of Bob's house, Jim accidentally slipped a tire off the driveway. Visibility was poor because it was nighttime and raining. The ground was soggy, so the tire left an indentation in the lawn about 2 to 3 feet long. [more inside]
posted by myleftsock at 12:24 PM PST - 41 comments

Should I let Windows 10 have its way with me?

Microsoft has been reminding me daily for weeks that it thinks Windows 10 is the key to my happiness, and I should take advantage of their free update right away. Should I? [more inside]
posted by ubiquity at 12:13 PM PST - 36 comments

How to make best use of time supporting my political party.

Other than posting 50 memes a day on FB denigrating the Republican party, how can I best ensure a win for a Democratic candidate. [more inside]
posted by waving at 11:21 AM PST - 16 comments

needing a doctor in the Flatiron, NYC

Who is a dependable, open-minded family doctor near the Flatiron District in Manhattan? [more inside]
posted by critzer at 11:12 AM PST - 3 comments

Please suggest a good todo list/timesheet combo.

I am looking for a web and ios app that combines a To Do list and timesheet. Ideally it would be cheaper than Harvest, which is $12/month and has invoicing features I don't need. Bonus if it works for teams. Suggestions?
posted by anotherpanacea at 10:07 AM PST - 4 comments

VacationFilter: Help Plan a Three-Generation Adventure in Ireland.

We're planning an 8 to 12 day vacation in Ireland this summer (late June / early July) for 11 people (mostly Canadian) ages 1 through 70. Looking for suggestions for family-friendly places to stay, things to see, ways to get about. [more inside]
posted by stungeye at 8:53 AM PST - 7 comments

Please fence me in...

One of our rotten dogs (pictured here) escaped our backyard last night, almost certainly by jumping the back fence. Luckily, we were able to find him, but once he finds an escape route, he will try it again & again. To rule out this specific exit, I'm considering the idea of planting bushy shrubs along the fence to break up his running start and act as an extra buffer. I have a bit of a black thumb and need help deciding what to plant! [more inside]
posted by marshmallow peep at 8:24 AM PST - 12 comments

What effective actions can I take to minimize cat allergens in my house?

My new partner is deadly allergic to cats, and after rehoming my cat I want to make sure she can be in my home without, you know, dying. What do I need to make sure I do and how effective will it be? [more inside]
posted by ChrisR at 7:47 AM PST - 12 comments

Recommendations for custom maps?

I have a google earth file (KML/KMZ) with about 300 companies marked on it with dropped pins and labels, and need to have a hard-backed wall map and several hundred printouts made. Recommendations? [more inside]
posted by Seeba at 7:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Piano compositions by women?

I was recently eying my books to try to see what the gender balance is for authors. For fiction I was more or less ok, but one thing I noticed is that my collection of piano music is approximately 100% male. I have some jazz but that's really it. Googling has given me some names to follow up on (Clara Schumann, Nadia/Lili Boulanger) but not a lot, and I was wondering if people here have some particular suggestions for pieces. [more inside]
posted by advil at 7:34 AM PST - 21 comments

What gear should I buy next to make ambient pads?

I’m making ambient, evolving pads to score some films. I’m an editor not a musician so I’m new to this game. I’m debating between the Arturia BeatStep Pro and an eventide space delay. I realize these do two different thinks but which do you think is going to help my music evolve and offer me the opportunity to go deeper with my music? And why? My gear is a micro brute, a volca beats and kets and a Korg minilogue
posted by captainscared at 7:18 AM PST - 5 comments

Mom is mentally ill. And dying.

My mother is mentally ill. I went "no contact" seven years ago to protect myself and those in my life. I have received word that she is dying of terminal cancer. How can I know more about her condition so that I can see her at the end, but not until the end? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:45 AM PST - 41 comments

How best to leverage a recommendation for a government position?

I am applying for a position within the US Government that will be evaluated via review board. I have met the director of the office that's hiring a few times (though he may not remember me) and currently work with a person who also knows the director and works on exactly the subject matter they're hiring for with me, so this person has both cred and can vouch for my skills. The person also reached out to the director to let them know I was going to apply and they could vouch for me (before I had applied and was ready for the person to reach out). How can I best use this connection? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:45 AM PST - 4 comments

Near future SciFi story dealing with "academic dishonesty" & algorithms

Following a recent conversation about the increasingly sophisticated ecosystem of outsourcing papers and homework assignments, I was reminded that sometime in the Spring or Summer of 2015 I read a science fiction story that now seems eerily prescient. Help me find it? [more inside]
posted by Chipmazing at 6:32 AM PST - 1 comment

Replacing Floors Without Moving Out

If you have replaced the floors in your home without moving out in the process, can you share your experiences with me? [more inside]
posted by NotMyselfRightNow at 5:49 AM PST - 13 comments

Fallen off the face of the earth

My friend has stopped communicating with everyone around them. How much should I try to get in contact? Should I leave it be? [more inside]
posted by Gordafarin at 5:04 AM PST - 15 comments

Excel arithmetic glitch explanation

This isn't getting in the way of anything practical, but it's niggling that I don't understand the technicalities. [more inside]
posted by protorp at 4:23 AM PST - 7 comments

February 28

My boss lies. How do I handle it politically?

My boss likes to be in control of everything, including chains of communication. Unexpectedly this week, I learned that one way she's been keeping control is by lying; she keeps the chains of communication to herself and then lies about what other people have said. I don't know how long she's been doing this and I don't know the most politically savvy way to handle it. Advice? Examples inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:17 PM PST - 19 comments

How do I replace the light bulb in these under-cabinet lights?

How do I reach the light bulb in these under-cabinet light fixtures? Picture inside. [more inside]
posted by yonglin at 10:13 PM PST - 7 comments

How to plant a safe lawn?

We have a garden that currently only contains mulch (and some weeds). We would like to plant a lawn there. We would like to do this in a way that is natural and 100% safe for our toddler Our concern is the use of various chemicals that may be accidentally ingested or absorbed. What are best practices for planting and taking care of our lawn so we can be 100% sure it is safe and does not pollute the ground in case we want to grow vegetables and fruits on it in the future?
posted by blueyellow at 8:04 PM PST - 18 comments

Rube Goldberg wall art -- needing links and suggestions!

I've got a HUGE blank wall that is up high in my two story family room. I've had the idea to create a Rube Goldberg treatment on the wall, but I need help with specific ideas. There's a place where one can trip a trigger by launching a ball or some such on the second floor, but no way to easily maintain a mechanism that would require resetting. Help me crowd source some mechanics that will set this f*cker off! [more inside]
posted by wwartorff at 7:05 PM PST - 5 comments

My guy does not like dogs the same. Comments? Advice?

My new guy does not like dogs the same way I do. Mainly he believes large dogs should be outside at all times because then if they poop he doesn't have to clean up large poop. He states he's a dog lover. [more inside]
posted by LadyAerin at 6:43 PM PST - 116 comments

Where do I learn how to give an injection?

I need to learn how to give an injection to someone else at home. The only way this will work is if I can learn from someone -- the recipient is already freaked out by needles and is emphatically not willing to be anybody's first pincushion. The only nurse I know lives 200 miles away and is not available for a hands-on tutorial; who can I talk to, or where can I go, for an option other than "practicing" on a member of my family?
posted by Holy Zarquon's Singing Fish at 6:16 PM PST - 12 comments

Looking for (adult) toy storage

(NSFW) I am looking for an attractive/somewhat decorative storage solution for our collection of sex toys, lingerie, and related items. [more inside]
posted by cp311 at 5:39 PM PST - 10 comments

Can you recommend a couch/recliner for a bad back?

The hubs and I are gonna refurnish. What should I keep in mind when looking for furniture keeping in mind my newfound bigness and chronic pain? [more inside]
posted by patheral at 4:57 PM PST - 11 comments

Buying land in PA and building a cabin -- Where to start?

A few friends of mine and I have a dream of buying a small plot of land in Eastern or Central PA and building a rustic cabin on it. I'm looking for some advice on where to even start looking for available plots and sources of information from others who have done something similar. Any ideas?
posted by TimBridge at 4:47 PM PST - 10 comments

Can I mitigate this used-car disaster?

Just (stupidly) dropped a substantial amount of money on a used car, private dealer. Took it to my mechanic a few days later, and...was promptly told it was a nightmare under the hood. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by sureshot at 3:21 PM PST - 24 comments

Vertically oriented laptop bag for 13" MBP

My new work computer is a 13" Retina Macbook Pro, and I am looking for a new bag to use for commutes and work travel. This has all led to looking at vertical bags, like the Tom Bihn Ristretto. Are there other bags in this vein that I should be looking at as well? [more inside]
posted by rockindata at 2:46 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me take care of this diseased plant?

I'm not sure what type of plant it is, but it has some sort of mildew killing it. [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon at 1:29 PM PST - 5 comments

Woodcarvers - best workshops, classes, off-the-beaten track ok ...

My sweet loves his time in the shop, but I think he would enjoy a woodcarving retreat or intensive master class or something along those lines to develop his skills. Or maybe a woodcarving experience that begins with chopping down a tree. I don't know. Woodcarvers -- what's out there and awesome. Thanks!
posted by essenescence at 12:07 PM PST - 9 comments

Slim backpack for 17.3" laptop

I'm looking for a slim, minimalist backpack for a 17.3" laptop. Degree of difficulty: laptop measures about 1" larger both width and height compared to a 17" Macbook Pro, so I think a lot of 17" bags designed to snugly fit a MBP are going to be a smidge too small. [more inside]
posted by drlith at 11:00 AM PST - 7 comments

repaired washing machine worked, then didn't

My gf's Kenmore 80 series top-load washing machine wouldn't spin or agitate, though it did (and does) drain. I replaced the motor coupler, which was obviously broken, and the machine worked fine for 3 cycles then stopped agitating & spinning. [more inside]
posted by generalist at 10:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Sued by Texas - yanml edition

My grandparents back in the old country had a strip of land on the outskirts of Dallas that no one in the family knew about. It's been accumulating taxes for 40 years. My grandmother and her descendants have been sued and lost. What now? [more inside]
posted by diode at 10:33 AM PST - 33 comments

Thinking Critically

What puzzles, games or new activities can I do to keep improving my critical thinking, analytical, and logical abilities? AKA "Continuing Ed" for liberal arts graduates who have a hard time with "2 + 2" (when they're intoxicated, anyway...). [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 10:10 AM PST - 25 comments

Help me get along with my bf's perfectly decent family

I (F, early 30s) have been together with my bf (mid 30s) for 2 years and have spent many a weekend together with his family. They are always really nice and welcoming to me and yet I still don't feel comfortable around them because of: difference in family background (his family is extremely close-knit and generally happy, mine is a painful emotional mess), my own tendency to feel like an outsider, my not really liking who he is when around his family, and my not-entirely-baseless insecurity about him always choosing his family over me (more explanation about the last two inside). My questions: 1. How can I learn to be more comfortable around his family? I am interested mainly in advice on how I can manage my insecurity about him always choosing his family over me. 2. Is there any point of doing (1) at all or are we just incompatible? [more inside]
posted by thecampushippo at 9:51 AM PST - 26 comments

Supporting a friend putting his cat down.

I've been supporting a friend with major mental health issues through finding out his cat was sick. It's been a rough ride for both of us and now he's finally decided that it's time to put her down later today. He's asked me to help him so I thought it would be a good idea of I knew what's going to happen and what kind of things people found helpful to them at this sad time. [more inside]
posted by kanata at 8:45 AM PST - 26 comments

How to help a 3 year old recover emotionally from hospitalizations?

My kid had 2 ER trips and an overnight hospitalization last week due to his chronic health condition, and he's been an emotional wreck ever since. I would love tips on how to help him settle back into a more level emotional state, or at least as level as a 3 year old gets. [more inside]
posted by Maarika at 8:02 AM PST - 15 comments

Salvage my Taquito Accident!

So I was making a batch of black bean taquitos, and....I kind of forgot to turn on the oven timer and left them in there too long - but not so long that they're burned, they're just really, really dried out. Seeking casserole-type ideas to salvage them somehow. [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 7:35 AM PST - 11 comments

Windows 10 program management for power user!

Hello metafilter, Lately I'm becoming more and more of a power user of my computer (Windows 10) and tweaked a lot of things to my liking. And it's been great. Now I am looking for improve my tabs/programs/desktop workflow. Any help? [more inside]
posted by iliketothinknu at 7:14 AM PST - 9 comments

Address Authorization Management as a Service

What solutions exist to the problem of enabling friends and family to keep in touch with you as your addresses (physical and internet) change? [more inside]
posted by grubby at 5:50 AM PST - 12 comments

What Should I Do With $150K Cash, No Debt, No Dependants and No Job?

I've always put money into an emergency fund in case I lost my job: I lost my job, and of course I'm glad I created the emergency fund, but I'm not actually quite sure what to do with it. I guess I'm wondering here if/ how I could use it to make some significant life changes - rather than just lose it on rent and living expenses for however long it takes me to get back on my feet. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:35 AM PST - 24 comments

How do you know it's the right time to have a baby?

I am 29, my husband is 38. I have a year left in my technical program. In the past few months I've felt like I NEED NEED NEED A BABY. I can't decide if we should go for it or wait a year. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:35 AM PST - 29 comments

Need help with my dominating perfectionism...

Help. I am in a heavy stress short term situation, working closely with others for long hours. I need immediate coping mechanisms to keep from dominating every situation and making things worse. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:34 AM PST - 8 comments

February 27

Yo-I don't want cable.

How weird is it to tell the guy coming to install your cable that you don't actually want cable? [more inside]
posted by Alex Goldman at 11:20 PM PST - 18 comments

What happened to my nail?

somewhat silly question within... [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 10:41 PM PST - 3 comments

How to use License plate or VIN info to find owner information?

I've seen the culprit who has stolen my car driving around town and actually trying to sell it on one occasion. Police have been unable to arrive in time every time I spot him and alert them. They are also apparently too busy to track him down with the license plate info and surveillance footage I have provided. I'd like to determine his address and get my car before he sells it. I have the Plate and Vin of his own vehicle. [more inside]
posted by mefitem at 10:40 PM PST - 16 comments

Suggest fantasy books/series for a 14 yr old.

Suggest some fantasy books/series for my 14 yr old son. He's keen to read some more. Among things he's already read: Harry Potter, Lord of the Rings, Percy Jackson, Mortal Engines. We have in mind the His Dark Materials trilogy. What else? He enjoys reading and reads well.
posted by maupuia at 10:33 PM PST - 33 comments

Did the X-Files predict the iPad? Or something?

I remember something about the X-Files "predicting" the iPad but can't find anything online. Can you help me find this? [more inside]
posted by DeltaForce at 9:51 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me simplify my sock scenario

I'd like to replace the rampant chaos that is my sock drawer with a dozen matching pairs of plain black merino wool socks. I like the weight, fit, and price of the Kirkland (Costco) women's trail socks, but they come in packs of four with different designs. Can you suggest an alternative? [more inside]
posted by ottereroticist at 9:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Street Eating

I'm interested in finding accounts of attitudes toward public eating in different social and historical contexts. [more inside]
posted by alltomorrowsparties at 8:11 PM PST - 3 comments

Thinking of getting away from the big bad boys of cell phone service.

I am thinking hard about leaving the world of Verizon. I am done with them and the other com bullies , sprint, t-mobile...etc. Are that alternativee that can offer the same? Phone and da I have an unlocked iphone 6 that i can just pop a sim card in. Looking for recomendations where to look
posted by citybuddha at 7:07 PM PST - 21 comments

Computer help in Oxford, UK

I know very little about building computers. My 14 year old son is very keen on them and we brought components to build a gaming computer. I underestimated the difficulty of building and we now have an assembled computer that doesn't work. Can anyone recommend a good business / person in Oxford who could help?
posted by Gilgongo at 6:50 PM PST - 9 comments

High Tech Non-fiction for a Low Tech Enthusiast

As of recently I've been really into non-fiction about the Internet, computers, hacking, or any combination of those things. I like the behind the scenes look at these technologies and the cultures surrounding them, but also that they're presented in layman's terms. Some books/articles that I've enjoyed and fit this bill have been: Ghost in the Wires by Kevin Mitnick, How Music Became Free by Stephen Witt, The Dark Net by Jamie Bartlett, and this Wired article about The Silk Road (Part 2). Could you direct me to some more books and articles like these?
posted by holmesian at 5:53 PM PST - 16 comments

Could my ethnicity play a role in my disappointing love life?

I am a 27 year old woman, and have always had horrible luck with relationships. I'm starting to wonder if my ethnicity, culture, background (Asian-Indian/Hindu) could have something to do with it? [more inside]
posted by summertimesadness1988 at 5:26 PM PST - 37 comments

Oldest (as in longest running) character in Marvel Cinematic Universe?

Who, out of the entire MCU (TV and Movies, but not Animated series), is the oldest character? By oldest I mean was published in comics first? [more inside]
posted by Faintdreams at 4:24 PM PST - 6 comments

Looking for my favorite barber's new gig

I used to get great haircuts from a barber named Yollanda in Brooklyn. She worked at Badlands Salon in Park Slope, but when I called them up last week, they told me she no longer works there, and they obviously have no incentive to tell me where she's working now. I'd love to track her down— she's the best and I wish we had exchanged contact info! All I know is that she's originally from Jamaica, and lives near Atlantic Terminal. Anyone know her and where she's cutting hair right now?
posted by dmalashock at 3:14 PM PST - 7 comments

What to pair with pumpernickel?

My son grabbed some pumpernickel rolls last night. To my surprise, they went over really well with me and him both. But the cheese stick I ate with it was a pretty meh combo. So, what else should I try instead? [more inside]
posted by Michele in California at 3:10 PM PST - 26 comments

Have you seen this hat?

A friend loved and lost this hat, which I believe is from Iceland. Can you help me either a similar knitting pattern to replicate it, or an online source to replace it?
posted by ibex at 3:06 PM PST - 3 comments

Traveling to Managua for work, any tips and/or advice?

I got stuck with a work trip to Nicaragua, and have to admit that I'm a little concerned about the safety aspect among other things. Any tips or advice to stay safe and not worry so much? [more inside]
posted by photo guy at 2:33 PM PST - 8 comments

Need lists of thoughtful lists, please...

I'm writing about lists and would like some examples... [more inside]
posted by Tchad at 2:20 PM PST - 13 comments

Online, no login scratchpad/list for the permanently behind.

I want to hide on my website a page that I can just cleanly add, edit, and delete items to a list from any browser, mobile or desktop, if we know the url. Basically like google tasks, but with no login. Is there a simple way to do this? It's basically so my partner and I can have a running errand and grocery list. [more inside]
posted by history is a weapon at 2:16 PM PST - 10 comments

Home is where my butt is

My midcentury modern sofa is supremely uncomfortable. Please help me fix it. Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by 2soxy4mypuppet at 1:51 PM PST - 13 comments

Formatting question for producing an e-book on Amazon

I'm turning my manuscript into an e=book and putting it on Amazon. The regular text is fine, but I have some columns with text in them, which makes those pages too wide to fit on the very narrow screen of an e-reader. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 1:34 PM PST - 8 comments

STD/AIDS PSA from early 90s

A public service announcement from the very early 90s intended to spread STD awareness by describing how, when you sleep with someone, you are having sex with every person with whom your partner has had sex. Can you help me find video, audio or print collateral from this PSA? [more inside]
posted by everyfoolthing at 12:54 PM PST - 7 comments

Trip Advice: Bavarian Alps

What are some hidden gems around Mittenwald / Oberammergau / Bad Tolz? My wife and I are going on a trip to Germany! Yay! We're planning on spending 4-5 days in Munich, and we really want to get a car and drive around the Bavarian Alps. [more inside]
posted by The Ted at 11:44 AM PST - 10 comments

Finding new music

Inspired by this comment, I realize that there are many bands that I really love but I never know when their music comes out. I've missed out on decades! I use Songkick to keep track of live shows and keep up with NPR's "All Songs Considered" through my spouse, but I'd love to hear about ways that y'all keep track of music that you love on a more regular basis. Live shows, new albums, anything. Music tastes are below the fold, if it matters. [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 11:34 AM PST - 9 comments

Is this a phase?

I feel like my child is a prickly butt. I would like to know if this is normal for an almost five year old. [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom at 11:28 AM PST - 44 comments

Looking for a quote about decolonizing travel

I'm looking for a quote that is along the lines of "tourists go to places where other people are wanting to leave/can't leave" except much more nuanced? [more inside]
posted by yueliang at 11:20 AM PST - 3 comments

Why were female servants not allowed to serve food?

I've been watching Downton Abbey. The butler is aghast at the idea of female servants serving food in the family dining room even though there's a shortage of young male servants during the war, but plenty of female staff. Was this historically accurate? What was the reasoning behind it? [more inside]
posted by redlines at 11:11 AM PST - 5 comments

Do journalist's careers suffer when they ask hard questions?

How bad is it really for a journalist who asks a politician a question and does not accept a dissembling, disingenuous, or simply irrelevant response? That politician may not give them another interview or call on them at press conferences, but does that actually cost the reporter prestige or income or job opportunities?
posted by alpheus at 9:37 AM PST - 16 comments

Sold an iPad without unlocking it

I sold an iPad on eBay and shipped it to the buyer, who then informed me that it's still locked to my wife's Apple ID. Is there any way I could work with the buyer to unlock it remotely, or does he have to send it back to me?
posted by dondiego87 at 8:49 AM PST - 4 comments

Feminist books that aren't about the U.S.

I've started an English-language feminist book club in an East Asian city and I'm looking for more titles that aren't written by or about women in the U.S. Books about women in Asia and feminism in this part of the world would be ideal. What are some great book club picks for our group? [more inside]
posted by horizons at 7:59 AM PST - 18 comments

Where can I find the Spelling Bee puzzle by Frank Longo online?

Where can I find the Spelling Bee puzzle by Frank Longo online? [more inside]
posted by sixpack at 7:36 AM PST - 2 comments

Hey, I think we know each other genetically

If you fathered a child as a result of a one-night-stand nearly forty years ago, would you want to know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:47 AM PST - 37 comments

Breaking out of the negativity cycle

I'm having trouble bringing up a bunch of small (and one or two large) issues with my wife. Now I have a laundry list of complaints and my resentment keeps growing. Help me start the conversation and keep it going in a positive way. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:47 AM PST - 34 comments

Recommendations for places to enjoy marijuana in Seattle

My wife and I are going to be visiting Seattle this summer and would like to enjoy some Marijuana (this would be her first time). We've already booked a hotel room which is no smoking so we can't smoke in the privacy of our own room. Can anyone recommend someplace to go to purchase and enjoy Marjuana? We're not party people. We're pretty low key and relaxed. We'd also be interested in edibles (my wife is particularly interested in this). Thanks.
posted by anonymous at 5:46 AM PST - 9 comments

February 26

What to do about bosses inappropriate language?

My boss's boss used inappropriate, sexist language in a work setting. I'd like to address this in some way, but I'm not sure how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by too bad you're not me at 11:16 PM PST - 44 comments

Three-year-old seems really unhappy

I don’t have much experience with other kids this age, but my son seems… really unhappy? And we don’t know what to do about it, if there’s anything. [more inside]
posted by forza at 9:07 PM PST - 64 comments

Inclusive language that works a little better than "non male"

I'm looking for a more appropriate word than "non male" that is more inclusive than "female." [more inside]
posted by aniola at 9:05 PM PST - 38 comments

Lush, hauntingly beautiful films

Transport me away for 2-3 hours at a time to a time and place of beauty! [more inside]
posted by raw sugar at 8:55 PM PST - 79 comments

Smoke detector is keeping me from cooking in my new apartment

I just moved into a new apartment and am having trouble with my smoke detector. Should I get a new one, or is there another fix? [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 8:09 PM PST - 16 comments

Sorry, IKEA, it's not you, it's me.. at least where bedding is concerned

We have a glorious bed and mattress. We have a fantastic duvet cover and sheets. We do NOT have a fabulous duvet insert comforter or pillows -- they're currently IKEA ones that are just not doing it for us anymore. What on earth do we replace them with? MeFi, HELP US SLEEP BETTER! I need recommendations for down-alternative pillows and a duvet-insert for a king-sized bed. [more inside]
posted by erst at 7:57 PM PST - 5 comments

RTW trip prep: Buy currency now or later?

My plan is to embark on a year-long round-the-world trip at the end of year (roughly Dec 2016), but I'm having difficulty in deciding how to fund the trip amidst fluctuations in the benchmark currencies. As an expat living in Korea, I'm wondering which currency I should exchange for. [more inside]
posted by AngryTypingGuy at 6:57 PM PST - 6 comments

What do you write in an OKC profile meant for casual sex?

I made an OKCupid profile to find NSA sex partners, but I'm having trouble thinking what to write in it. (I'm a man looking for women partners.) I have another profile I use for actual dating that has lots of info about me, but talking about my favorite reads, life aspirations or whatever doesn't seem relevant for this purpose. Say you're a woman browsing OKC for sex partners, what do you actually want to know about the person? And conversely, what kind of things would be off-putting or a turnoff?
posted by zeri at 6:38 PM PST - 22 comments

What do you know about old Argus cameras?

I have an elderly Argus C3 camera. The local photo shop has quoted me $65 to fix it. I could buy the identical camera on eBay for much less - there are a ton of listings from $10 to $40 with, the kicker, no guarantees that any of them will work. The few listings that are guaranteed to work run closer to the repair price or well over it. So I have 2 questions, really: 1) Repair or replace? 2) Or go with another camera entirely? [more inside]
posted by mygothlaundry at 6:34 PM PST - 10 comments

411 on Baltimore's Little Italy

At a conference in March, I'll be organizing a group of public history colleagues for a dinner conversation. I'd really like skip the hotel restaurants and chains take them to Baltimore's Little Italy neighborhood, but I don't know much about the area. Can you recommend a good place where 15 people could have dinner, ideally in a private room or somewhere easy to hear? And what other sites/stops/points of interest would some geeky historians like to know about? Thanks!
posted by Miko at 6:22 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me find a replacement power cable for my receiver

I have a Marantz receiver that uses a C17/18 power cable. I just got a new media cabinet and it is shallow enough that the door will not close due to the clearance required for the reciver's power cable. I would like to find a replacement cable with a right angle at the female end. Please help! [more inside]
posted by roomwithaview at 6:07 PM PST - 7 comments

What Should I Know About Living Alone?

Tell me things I need to know about living alone for the first time as an adult! [more inside]
posted by hepta at 6:01 PM PST - 23 comments

Oh Stewardess, I speak Crochet.

Craftfilter: Help me parse & translate this pattern instruction? [more inside]
posted by ApathyGirl at 5:11 PM PST - 5 comments

Who is this actor?

Hoping someone can identify the woman who plays the mom in the music video for Halsey's "Colors." I recognize her from something (I want to say a short film or a commercial?) and I can't figure out what -- it's driving me nuts! She appears at 21 seconds in the video or you can see her face in this screen grab. Thanks!
posted by Trespassers William at 5:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Like, fifty green-eyed monsters.

My fiance just helped my--to be as melodramatic as possible about it--archnemesis into the same elite career/institution he's in, so that now I have not one, but two people to pathetically peer at, looking in with my nose pressed to the glass. He also had a thing for her before we started dating (and during). I'm freaked out and bitter. Help me figure out how not to be a huge evil baby while I taste the many acrid flavors of the jealousy rainbow. [more inside]
posted by bugperson at 4:51 PM PST - 132 comments

Why does quitting feel so bad...

Company fail or am I jumping ship too soon? [more inside]
posted by irish01 at 4:18 PM PST - 3 comments

Lyrics to "Sermon" by Ed Schrader's Music Beat?

My search fu is weak. Does anyone have the lyrics to "Sermon?"
posted by Johnny Wallflower at 4:11 PM PST - 3 comments

Is this really a Ming Dynasty Vase?

A friend's going to an estate auction and Ming vases are on offer! I don't think they're real. But that's based on gut feel. Can you give me something more substantial to go on before my buddy gets shellacked? :) Here's one pic and another.
posted by storybored at 4:03 PM PST - 6 comments

Portland to Seattle: Plane, Train, or Automobile?

I'm looking into taking the train from Seattle to Portland next month. People who often travel between the two cities: how does it stack up to flying or driving? [more inside]
posted by joechip at 3:59 PM PST - 15 comments

Microwave oven filter: Warning, the most boring question of the day

I just purchased a new microwave oven that is bigger than my old, busted one. [more inside]
posted by flourpot at 3:45 PM PST - 6 comments

Ever been to Grand Marais, MN?

Ever been to Grand Marais, MN? where did you go? What did you do?
posted by drzz at 3:30 PM PST - 10 comments

What are some self-help, therapy-ish books that have really helped you?

I'm looking for recommendations on self-help, self-therapy type books that have made a big difference in your life. Especially helpful would be books about emotional regulation, procrastination, perfectionism, and avoidance as a coping mechanism. [more inside]
posted by mossicle at 3:09 PM PST - 28 comments

What can we do to help my (nearly) mother in law with her hospital stay?

My partner's mother (can I call my long term partner's mother my mother in law if we're not married?) has to be in hospital for several weeks for a stem cell transplant, confined to one room. We're obviously raiding our bookshelves for her and will visit as much as possible, but what else can we do to help her along? More details below. Input from mefites who have undergone or know people who have undergone similar treatment would be much appreciated. [more inside]
posted by Dext at 3:04 PM PST - 15 comments

Need tips for making a giant DIY version of the game Suspend

I love the game Suspend and want to make a scaled-up version that can be played outside staked into the grass instead of tabletop. I'm looking for ideas, suggestions for materials and best practices for how to bend metal rods and general DIY tips for working with bending metal. [more inside]
posted by metaphorever at 2:27 PM PST - 6 comments

Sludge. Everywhere.

Is there a commercial or industrial use for concrete sludge? [more inside]
posted by Eumachia L F at 2:05 PM PST - 1 comment

Automated data collection for playtesting games-- does it exist?

I'm a programmer with interests in game dev, data analysis and data science. It seems to me that A/B testing would be a cool thing to implement for playtesting games, along with data on in-game choices, playtime and satisfaction rankings. Is there an application/library/suite/engine that already does this? Is it free and/or open source? Or could this be a fun, albeit super-long, project for me to work on?
posted by dee lee at 1:09 PM PST - 2 comments

Brunch recipes: pancakes, cinnamon buns, and muffins need not apply.

I'm hosting a chill brunch in honor of my dear mom-to-be friend and could use ideas for a non-starchy brunch side. [more inside]
posted by functionequalsform at 12:30 PM PST - 27 comments

What's the best, cheap cash register app for a fledgling restaurant?

I've been asked to help find a cash register app for the owner of a new small cafe. Any suggestions or advice about where I should look? [more inside]
posted by CtrlAltD at 12:19 PM PST - 11 comments

Guild of Guides in the San Francisco Bay area

After reading Jim Fadiman's new book on psychedelic exploration, I want to locate an experienced guide in the use of psychedelics, oriented towards personal growth and refreshing my relationship to the world. [more inside]
posted by SamFrancisco at 11:42 AM PST - 5 comments

Writing Shirley, Lori, Danny, Tracey and Chris

5 people need to learn the non-Keith Partridge parts of this song. For me, it's easiest to listen to the song over and over and learn by ear, but others can would rather learn it by sight. [more inside]
posted by Duffington at 10:51 AM PST - 5 comments

iPad app for word-level embedding of files/comments plus Pencil writing?

I may be chasing an imaginary beast, but here goes: I'm looking for an app for my iPad Pro and all its screen real estate that will allow me to take text (whether copied in or written in the app) and link text/graphic files and comments to individual words of the text. Ideally, this will also support Pencil/stylus entry so I can link sketches or handwritten notes to individual words as well. [more inside]
posted by the sobsister at 10:38 AM PST - 0 comments

engagement ring bargain hunting?

We're hunting for an engagement ring. My girlfriend really likes something like this or this -- an emerald stone held in place by a silver band that curves around the stone. Would it make sense to buy the ring and stone separately and have Gemvara fit the stone? [more inside]
posted by crazy with stars at 9:58 AM PST - 16 comments

Aargh, accidentally mixed bleach and ammonia in washing machine -- help?

I did something stupid. I had some laundry that I needed to whiten and disinfect, so I put in some powdered bleach. And then, just to top it off, I added in some sanitizing liquid (Dettol Sensitive) into the same compartment. Only after I ran the wash (on hottest temperature) did I realize that I had accidentally mixed ammonium and bleach. (The Dettol appears to be ammonium based.) Now what? [more inside]
posted by heavenknows at 9:35 AM PST - 22 comments

Etsy, taxes and selling personal vintage collection

A friend and I are starting an Etsy store. We're planning to sell a bunch of vintage clothes I collected in the nineties but do not wear, and then move on to reselling. I am confused about the tax implications and the best process. You Are Not My Tax Lawyer, but.... [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 9:32 AM PST - 12 comments

Sleep apnea surgeon finder?

I recently found a search engine that finds sleep apnea surgeons who are board certified. I need help finding it again. Also, since I am so fed up with sleep apnea and I am seriously considering surgery, does anyone have anecdotal experience of having surgery for sleep apnea? Recommendations for finding the best doctor? [more inside]
posted by tweedle at 9:17 AM PST - 4 comments

Rolling my own personal news digest!

I'd like to automate my daily consumption of longform articles, MeFi posts, Youtube videos and funny gifs, into one email or RSS post. [more inside]
posted by rippersid at 7:20 AM PST - 2 comments

Reliable nutritional/dietary info on lard, please?

Over the last year, I've incorporated home-rendered lard into my cooking and baking. But I'm not entirely sure, from a nutritional/dietary standpoint, what I'm doing. Do you have reputable sources on lard's pros and cons? [more inside]
posted by MonkeyToes at 6:56 AM PST - 10 comments

What blood tests should I get for low libido, lethargy and brain fog?

A few years back, I noticed a real dip in energy and libido with additional feelings of brain fog and depression/anxiety. What blood tests are worth checking? [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 6:30 AM PST - 23 comments

Niagara region waterfront pub/lounge recommendations (Hamilton,St. Cath)

Casual family party of 45-50ppl in Lincoln / St. Catharines, possibly as far as Hamilton or NOTL. Where should we go? [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 6:13 AM PST - 4 comments

Is this wholesale business a good buy? Also is it worth it for us?!

We're thinking of adding a new element to our business, a wholesale business to business arm. I run a DIY shop on the high street and one of our long-standing suppliers is moving to Southern Spain to retire and her 30 year established wholesale business of supplying little sundry items has been offered to us first before she offers it to the wider market. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:59 AM PST - 8 comments

Mental health help in the UK

Got mental health needs. Don't know how to start getting them met with the NHS, can't really afford to go private. What do? [more inside]
posted by teresci at 4:51 AM PST - 5 comments

O Lights of the North!

Where to find the full text and title of this William Ross Wallace poem? [more inside]
posted by zinon at 4:43 AM PST - 5 comments

Is there a predominantly British frequented site a bit like metafilter?

What are some predominantly British (in the way Mefi is predominantly American, not just UK topics) sites that might have a level of not terrible general discussion and commentary. [more inside]
posted by bystander at 3:27 AM PST - 5 comments

DIVX player go away

Can you please tell me how to safely, totally and permanently remove DIVX player from my Mac? If you know how, please explain it to me like I am 5 years old your least tech-savvy relative who is nevertheless an adult computer user. [more inside]
posted by esto-again at 1:22 AM PST - 4 comments

February 25

Cognitive Bias Hiding Sexism

I recall reading in Overwhelmed by Brigid Schulte about a study in which participants were asked to evaluate how much men and women talked during a discussion. It demonstrated that while both men and women talked equal amounts during the discussion, evaluators thought women talked more. Am I imagining this, or can someone point me to the study? I would also welcome other research in the same vein - cognitive bias that causes people to not see the effects of privilege.
posted by sibilatorix at 10:24 PM PST - 14 comments

Tips for DIY Ombre Blonde/Platinum on Shorter Hair

Guys, I have yet another hair question. I know, I know! What can I say? I like doing stuff with my hair! This time I’m switching to a blonde ombre I think. Give me some tips and how-to’s please! [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 9:20 PM PST - 7 comments

Folding without breaking: define long-term relationship compatibility?

Help me define long-term relationship compatibility. How do /you/ define it, or, what do /you/ think compatibility is all about? [more inside]
posted by dubhemerak3000 at 8:56 PM PST - 23 comments

working with student with mental health issues--delusions of persecution

I have an adult ed student who has been quite distressed lately. He likes me and will often share things about his life. Recently he has seemed both physically and mentally unwell, and today he told me he thinks one of his neighbours (whom he doesn't like AT ALL, and is not shy about saying so) is making him sick via invisible rays. Specifically, my student believes this neighbour is sending rays from their television and radio that are causing him to have headaches and blurred vision. Have you ever worked with a student who had delusions like this? How did you handle it? What is the best thing I can do, as a non-mental health professional who interacts with this student daily? [more inside]
posted by Secret Sockdentity at 8:44 PM PST - 22 comments

wide screen laptops without trackpads?

Back in the day I had a Toshiba Libretto L5. A small, widescreen laptop with a pointing nub in the middle of the keyboard. I really loved this form factor. Is there is modern laptop or "2 in 1" that is similar? [more inside]
posted by Infernarl at 8:44 PM PST - 6 comments

Because no airline flies nonstop from BNA to PVG.

Thanks to some super cheap plane tickets, I'm traveling alone next week, departing from BNA and flying to BOS. Is 2.5 hours enough time to get onto an international flight to PVG in Terminal E on Tuesday at Boston Logan airport? Will 3.5 hours be enough time coming back? Do I have enough time to munch on a Lobster Roll at BOS? Semi-special snowflake: I've got 2 separate itineraries, and still debating whether I want to check in luggage. [more inside]
posted by QueenHawkeye at 8:43 PM PST - 7 comments

Fast Tablet 8"

What is a good tablet to buy right now? [more inside]
posted by stepup at 8:20 PM PST - 8 comments

How to Make Washed Out Pencil Clearer?

So whoever bashed up my bumper kindly left their number. Problem is, the rain and snow washed out some of the digits. (The search space is >100, which is more people than I really want to cold call.) Any way to bring out whatever smidges of graphite are left? Without, you know, university level signal processing software?
posted by musofire at 6:53 PM PST - 18 comments

Crazy, creative ideas for bedrest AKA solitary confinement

Week two of horrendous bronchitis during which I decided to go NC (until yesterday) with long-time (ex?)boyfriend/co-dependent partner in dysfunction. Broke NC yesterday after five days straight of MD-ordered bedrest - and after texting and calling everyone I knew, including my grandma - twice. Any practical tangible ideas for how to maintain NC and my sanity, oh and I don't know, my health? Any and all welcome. Thanks. [more inside]
posted by asmith30 at 6:52 PM PST - 11 comments

Should I eat this?, vegan edition.

Yesterday morning I opened a brand-new carton of So Delicious Unsweetened Coconut Beverage, had some with my cereal, and promptly left the carton on the kitchen counter for about twelve hours. When I got home and discovered my error, I immediately put it in the refrigerator again. [more inside]
posted by jesourie at 5:52 PM PST - 13 comments

Photo storage for organizations

Is there a good cloud storage solution for organizations? Our non profit is looking for ways to keep thousands of photo organized. [more inside]
posted by ssg at 5:51 PM PST - 3 comments

the unbearable whiteness of being

People-of-color MeFites living in predominantly white areas, how do you handle the crushing pervasiveness of white supremacy? [more inside]
posted by quadrant seasons at 5:12 PM PST - 29 comments

How busy is Midway (MDW) Airport at 5am on a Friday?

Long security line at 5am on a Friday, or zip right through?
posted by Jason and Laszlo at 4:16 PM PST - 4 comments

It recently took me 8 hours to run 3 errands

What is the current state of ADHD diagnoses? [more inside]
posted by rhizome at 3:47 PM PST - 14 comments

Health effects of kefir and/or yogurt?

I'm interested in the short-term and/or long-term effects of eating fermented dairy products. I would be especially interested to know how kefir (or yogurt) affects the GI tract, the microflora balance, metabolism, weight, etc. [more inside]
posted by ClaireBear at 3:43 PM PST - 6 comments

Simple email tasking/notifications compatible with gmail+outlook?

Hi Metafilter, I recently joined a team that needs some simple way of tracking who's doing what in regards to answering email. [more inside]
posted by jellywerker at 3:22 PM PST - 3 comments

What is my nephew doing?

My nephew, aged 2 and a half, gathers up a bunch of little toys, pillows, blankets, etc. and pushes them around the floor while loudly saying "Oh no! Oh no!" over and over again. This can go on for 15-20 minutes. Is this normal toddler behavior? [more inside]
posted by blackzinfandel at 2:53 PM PST - 33 comments

What's the job market for physical therapists like in the US? NYC?

My GF is considering a career change, and we both think PT could be a great fit. I am curious what the job environment for PTs is right now! [more inside]
posted by wooh at 2:42 PM PST - 3 comments

Give Me a Very Basic Primer on Multiple Myeloma

My mom just got diagnosed with multiple myeloma. I'm driving down to see her and take her to a bone marrow test next week, so I expect I'll be able to get all the specifics of her case with her and her doctors, but I'd like to hear from people with personal experience to set a baseline for my expectations. [more inside]
posted by Copronymus at 2:35 PM PST - 8 comments

Side effects on Zoloft/SSRIs where previously there were none?

I've been treated with Zoloft (50mg) twice before for clinical depression. Never had the side-effects I'm experiencing now. Looking for anecdotal advice on whether this has happened to anyone else out there, with Zoloft or any other SSRI (acknowledging that YANMD). [more inside]
posted by gadha at 2:13 PM PST - 7 comments

Private social network

I want to set up a social network for me and ~10 other people. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:50 PM PST - 18 comments

Practical advice for turning 30

I'm turning 30 in about two weeks. I feel pretty accomplished, but at the same time I feel like I've missed out on a lot of things. Any thoughts you can share that you wish you knew/had learned by the time you reached this age? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:50 PM PST - 12 comments

Does my modem/ router need an update?

Modem / Router question [more inside]
posted by samcivic at 1:49 PM PST - 4 comments

Tips for getting my ferritin up?

I’m a 31-year-old iron-deficient menstruating lady. My doctor would like my ferritin level to increase before my husband and I try to conceive. However, iron supplements make me feel awful (not just for digestive reasons). Details inside. [more inside]
posted by bananacabana at 1:39 PM PST - 21 comments

Come back to me!

I left my cabin bag / trolley on the train. There is something I could not stand losing in it. What can I do to maximize my chances of getting it back? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 1:13 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I move (to) the music?

I am being given a piano for free. Yay! I just have to get it from where it is to my place. How do I even start? [more inside]
posted by Liesl at 1:13 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me upgrade my vegetarian diet for pregnancy

I am trying to upgrade the nutritional content of my vegetarian diet for potential pregnancy. Looking for any suggestions to improve my current habits. [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 12:53 PM PST - 24 comments

Mum is the word

Girl won't talk at school...at all. What gives? [more inside]
posted by Dansaman at 12:32 PM PST - 17 comments

late 90s r&b song identification

There was a duet in the late 90s sung by r&b artists...one male, one female. Only thing I can remember is that it was a love song, it had a lot of bass and one of the lyrics was about Al Green. The singers went back and forth as if they were in a relationship, I believe. [more inside]
posted by morganannie at 12:17 PM PST - 3 comments

Can I see the course syllabus for life?

I've been having a bit of a rough time for the last while, and I'd like to try to start writing to help me work through some things. Turns out, that's easier said than done. Can you help me get going? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Rattery at 12:01 PM PST - 23 comments

What are some images from war/wartime that are noteworthy/interesting?

I'm looking for war-related/wartime images (photographs/graphics/poster/comics...etc except films) from the 20th/21st century that are somehow particularly noteworthy, iconic, unusual, or interesting. [more inside]
posted by aielen at 11:47 AM PST - 16 comments

Is this Ok, Cupid?

Hello, hivemind. Please use my personal website link on my MeFi user page to see my OkCupid profile. I would really appreciate any advice or criticisms! [more inside]
posted by I'm Only Happy When It Rains On Your Wedding Day at 11:46 AM PST - 29 comments

Flood Stop installation $1000???

My wife just called me and said the plumber came by and quoted her $700 for a flood stop for our washing machine in our condo not including the service fee. Is this normal? [more inside]
posted by manderin at 10:47 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me get out of debt.

I’m looking for employment opportunities that will allow me to get out of credit card/school debt. I’m basically throwing a hail mary and wondering if there is a company where I can devote literally 100% of my time, moving to wherever in the world, living and breathing the work, and emerging some time later without any debts. [more inside]
posted by pwally at 10:43 AM PST - 16 comments

How do you do kid doctor stuff after the pediatrician stage?

My kiddo has aged out of pediatric care (he is 19 and in good health). What now? I assume we need to find him an adult primary care physician - does he still need annual check ups? Does your college-aged kid have a doc for annual stuff (do people do annuals any more?), or do they just go to an urgent care office as needed?
posted by Ink-stained wretch at 10:42 AM PST - 18 comments

tired of getting the run-around on this race

Is there any way I can get my money back from a deferred, then cancelled half marathon, with no 2016 date? [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 9:54 AM PST - 8 comments

How to maintain a temperature of -5°C in 1 square inch in an office?

Hi, We need to calibrate some sensors at a temperature of -5 degrees C, also -4, -3... +3, +4, +5. The sensor is similar in size of your headphone jack, so we only need 1 square inch of environment at these temperatures. There's also a cord, which will prevent a completely sealed environment. [more inside]
posted by cyclicker at 9:22 AM PST - 14 comments

6 mile run in DC

I am taking a spur of the moment trip to DC this weekend! On Sunday I'd like to do a 6-mile run as part of my half-marathon training. What routes would you recommend that maximizes water/scenery? [more inside]
posted by andrewesque at 8:59 AM PST - 13 comments

What freestanding kitchen storage solutions can my trash bin fit UNDER?

I have a trash bin. I have a recycling bin. They are out in the open in my kitchen. I would like to use the space above these bins for additional storage without drilling anything into my walls. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by waterisfinite at 8:41 AM PST - 9 comments

Help me find a video-conference suite in Troy (or Albany), New York

Dear hivemind, I need your help! For some reason, Google Fu is failing me, and I am extremely short of time. Sometime today, I need to find a hardware-based videoconferencing suite in Troy, NY or Albany, NY, for a job interview I'll have on March 8 while visiting the area for a separate interview on March 7. To make things more complicated, I'll need to do one meeting at 5:45am EST and another at 9:45am EST. The (foreign) institution that is interviewing me, has not been very helpful. All they've said is that I'll need to find a suite that is compatible with a Tandberg Edge 95MXP system. And they want to do a test run on March 1. [more inside]
posted by betsbillabong at 8:18 AM PST - 9 comments

What to expect from c5-c6 fusion surgery?

YANMD. I am having surgery in March to correct a horrendously slipped disc (or two or three; I'm unclear thus far as to exactly how much they're operating). I have many questions, some of which I will be asking my neurosurgeon. Some questions here will help me with that conversation; I'm looking for feedback from people who have undergone this, and from medical folks who know about this sort of thing. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by feckless fecal fear mongering at 8:14 AM PST - 9 comments

Recommendations for marriage counseling books?

Please suggest in-depth, emotionally intelligent, not overloaded with cliches and gender stereotyping, books about: marriage, marriage therapy, the psychology of relationships etc. [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 8:10 AM PST - 12 comments

Intelligent spiritual and religious podcasts

I'm interested in religious and spiritual matters - both from an intellectual point of view and as a way toward living a better life. I'm looking for interesting podcasts. No limits on specific religion (Christianity, Buddhism, Taoism, Judaism, Hinduism, spritual-not-religious), but a few special snowflakes inside. Also, please no answers about religion being stupid, flying spaghetti monsters, and whatnot. [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 8:08 AM PST - 20 comments

Summer work for an academic between assistantships

My funding for my current project ran out. I should be fine for the upcoming fall semester, when I will be finishing and defending my dissertation. However, the summer semester is unaccounted for. I have a part-time catering gig that I can get a little bit of money with, but I'm looking for ideas for other work. Details in the extended explanation. [more inside]
posted by codacorolla at 8:01 AM PST - 12 comments

Things to do in Times Square NYC area on SHORT notice?

My friend and I are going to be on standbye for a show tonight in the time square area. (It's sold out, but sometimes people get in on stanbye). We won't find out until showtime, (8pm) whether we'll be able to get in. If we don't get in, what else can we do to make it a night? [more inside]
posted by rancher at 7:40 AM PST - 8 comments

I need replacements for my favorite comedies.. please help! (TV, Movies)

I recently watched Arrested Development for the 2nd time, and realized that I hadn't laughed so hard in ages. I've tried finding new comedy movies/series to enjoy since then, but haven't found any that really gave me any belly laughs like AD did. What movies/TV shows (or perhaps funny articles like from The Onion) made you laugh so hard you cried? Some of my likes/dislikes comedy-wise are inside. [more inside]
posted by BuddyBoo at 7:00 AM PST - 81 comments

Help me be a better festival coordinator?

I'm looking for (a book? an app? an instructional video? tips & tricks?) to help me better manage priorities for my crew, artists, and volunteers during the hectic installation week for an arts festival. Am I looking for project management material? Or is there a different name for what I am seeking? [more inside]
posted by Rage-chel at 6:54 AM PST - 4 comments

Elderly Parents + iPad - Computer = ???

So, my parents have decided to join the rest of us here in the 21st Century and get Internet access and an iPad. As the free technical support of the family, it's fallen on me to get the device up and running and to keep it running. Difficulty level: they do not own a computer. Help me think this through from all angles so I'm not getting daily calls for assistance. [more inside]
posted by Major Matt Mason Dixon at 4:50 AM PST - 15 comments

Maybe we can get together and you can mentor me... someday.

I'm a grad student and lucky to have people I work with who are often thinking about my future and putting me in touch with people who might be able to offer me good advice. I'm never sure how to respectfully handle these introductions. [more inside]
posted by telegraph at 4:26 AM PST - 10 comments

relationship rollercoaster

Looking for insight on current relationship. Am I overreacting, justified, a bit of both, or just crazy? [more inside]
posted by MillerTime27 at 3:25 AM PST - 30 comments

February 24

Is there a short story set on the Golden Gate bridge?

I'm trying to remember the author and title of a story (at least, I think it's a story). All I really remember is a parent, I think a dad but I could be wrong, sitting in traffic on a bridge. I believe there are at least two kids in the car, and there might be some kind of accident or disaster ongoing or impending, hence the traffic. Possibly earthquake related because I think it's in the Bay Area? I'm pretty sure it's the Golden Gate bridge? But it might just be a generic/elsewhere bridge and I made it the Golden Gate in my mind. It could also be an opening/early scene in a novel? But I feel pretty sure about the short story part, at least. I wish I remembered more, but I know this exists and it's driving me crazy. Short story with parent(s) in car with kid(s) on bridge, possibly set in the Bay Area: ringing any bells?
posted by adastra at 10:28 PM PST - 4 comments

Looking for a restaurant gift card idea for Marietta, GA

I will be traveling to Marietta in a couple weeks for a cousin's wedding and I would like to get them a gift card for a restaurant. Is there some sort of card I can get that will give them a few choices of restaurants to visit, or is there a restaurant that will be a slam dunk if I choose it? I'd prefer something special but not too fancy and would like to avoid chains. No problem if this is something I can do electronically or print out something I can give them. Thank you!
posted by printchick at 9:48 PM PST - 4 comments

Where to rent a tux in Long Beach, CA or thereabouts

I have been invited to a charity event gala type thing on March 6th. Black tie not optional, so I gotta rent a tux. I have only wron tuxes for my high school prom and weddings. I would rather spend as little as possible, while not looking like bum. Any hints metafilter?
posted by bswinburn at 8:35 PM PST - 6 comments

What do new CS/IT grads lack (that I can add to a CS/IT program)?

I've been tasked with designing a new course for students nearing the tail end of my college's (2-year) CS and CIS/IT curriculum. The goal is to incorporate skills/experience that are otherwise lacking in a vanilla CS and IT curriculum, and which would be useful for students who are aiming for employment or internship very shortly. We already have all the standard courses in basic programming and algorithms, data structures, pre-architecture, discrete math, networking, Unix-y scripting, some security topics, etc. [more inside]
posted by anarch at 8:33 PM PST - 23 comments

Relaxing weekend near Phoenix

I want to get away with two good friends for a sunny, relaxing, pool and food-centric weekend in April. Two of us coming from Oregon, one from Denver-we are looking in and around Phoenix because we can get there cheaply on Allegiant. Feeling pretty overwhelmed by Tripadvisor so am turning to you folks. [more inside]
posted by purenitrous at 8:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Ladies, where do I go for beauty maintenance in Washington DC?

I've just moved to Columbia Heights from California, so I'm looking for new everything: for hair cuts and color, mani/pedis, and waxing (brows and more sensitive areas). [more inside]
posted by KMouse at 7:26 PM PST - 9 comments

Where should we have our rehersal dinner? (cuisine + restaurant recs)

We're getting married in July and are trying to decide where to have the rehearsal dinner. We're looking for suggestions either for type of food or specific restaurants not too far from Palo Alto, CA. Dietary restrictions etc inside. [more inside]
posted by matildatakesovertheworld at 7:26 PM PST - 11 comments

Can a doctor stay employed with an std?

Just asking because my boyfriend is a doctor and says he is clean (my heart trusts him but my head wants him to take a test.) [more inside]
posted by squirbel at 6:31 PM PST - 36 comments

Guided meditations that have a story

I love listening to audio guided meditations/visualizations, but I'm bored by the ones that just talk about how I'm sitting there feeling relaxed. I like ones that tell stories in which I meet wizards, board starships, etc. I'm having a hard time finding ones like that that are well-written and have good audio quality. (Also, no angels or Law of Attraction, pls.) Can anyone recommend some, preferably free? I listen to TheHonestGuys a lot but that's my only reference.
posted by mermaidcafe at 6:25 PM PST - 2 comments

How to simplify an overly complicated accounts payable system

How can I make an overly overly complicated accounts payable system easier to use and understand? [more inside]
posted by watrlily at 6:15 PM PST - 5 comments

Tips and tricks for working on writing that bores you

I have a paper due tomorrow, which is about 2/3rds done, but I am absolutely bored out of my mind with the topic. I had just about brought myself to accept that I would spend most of the next 48 hours being this level of bored, when I discovered that I have lost the last half-day of work I did on it, so I have to redo it. This will add the tedium of rewriting stuff I wrote already to the boredom of working on a topic I find uninteresting in the first place and feels almost unmanageable. I have perky music, a clock to race against, and snacks, but what other tips and tricks do you have for working on something that bores you silly? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 6:11 PM PST - 7 comments

How do I purchase Amazon Mom for my friend?

My friend is expecting her first baby soon (yay!) and I would love to get her and her husband an Amazon Mom account! How does that work? Is that the same thing as gifting an Amazon Prime account? Possibly relevant: we are in Canada. [more inside]
posted by tickingclock at 5:59 PM PST - 6 comments

What do the charms on this bracelet mean?

I recently saw this bracelet, and I am wondering whether the charms are symbols of some sort of order/organization/society. [more inside]
posted by delight at 5:53 PM PST - 3 comments

Place to hang out in Ottawa for dinner and reading

I might or might not be needing a place to spend Saturday evening in Ottawa, for dinner and some time afterwards with a book. I'd like to not be rushed out, I don't care if it has booze, wifi is not necessary, and nearish Nepean would be best. I have a car.
posted by jeather at 4:54 PM PST - 8 comments

Please name this early 90's R&B earworm...

There's this song whose...essence? has been stuck in my head all day, but I don't remember enough of it to find it in any search engine, apparently. I think it was in a movie like House Party or something? [more inside]
posted by jdotglenn at 4:09 PM PST - 2 comments

It's like Magic-Eye pictures, but EVERYWHERE!

Why am I starting to see faces, among other things, in nearly any pattern I glance at? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:02 PM PST - 18 comments

Famous brain injury case studies besides Phineas Gage?

I'm looking for examples of famous, sensationally reported medical case studies involving brain injury and/or resulting personality changes... besides the story of Phineas Gage.
posted by Taft at 2:40 PM PST - 10 comments

Was my son's teacher out of line?

My son is a freshman in high school. During American History class he complained about the Tea Party Libertarians hijacking the "don't tread on me" flag. (We have an unpleasant tea partier in the family who has certainly influenced my son's thinking.) His teacher responded by printing out this chart for him. My son wasn't sure what to make of it and brought it home for me. I'm not sure what to make of it either. [more inside]
posted by Biblio at 2:23 PM PST - 37 comments

Deciding whether to become a parent

So the big question in my life right now is whether I ever want to become a parent. I’d particularly like to hear from you if, like me, you are someone who has many interests, is never bored, always has things they want to do with their time, and who questioned whether you wanted to have children because of this – whether you chose in the end to become a parent or not. (The above can probably function as a TL;DR version. If you want a fuller picture, read on.) [more inside]
posted by say_it_with_love at 1:35 PM PST - 61 comments

NYC to LA for a few days

Thinking about taking a long weekend trip to LA (Thurs-Mon in the next few weeks) for a quick getaway with my wife from NYC. How does this sound as an idea? [more inside]
posted by jourman2 at 1:31 PM PST - 6 comments

Who foresaw the dominance of Trump?

In the last nine months I read lots of pieces written by smart and knowledgeable people explaining why Trump was never going to be the Republican nominee, and wasn't going to come close. Though it's far from a done deal, it's clear that he's at least close. Did any analysts out there foresee a scenario like what we have today, with Trump winning three of the first four nominating contests? I would be interested in reading more of their analysis, to mix in with my regular batch of writers who were wrong on this.
posted by Kattullus at 12:56 PM PST - 24 comments

Upping my UI/UX design game

I need to improve my skills at making mobile apps (and websites) usable and beautiful. What resources do you recommend? [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 12:23 PM PST - 8 comments

LA work visit with some free time built in

A work trip to LACMA looks like it's happening, so I'm asking for help planning as an LA newbie. [more inside]
posted by PussKillian at 12:21 PM PST - 15 comments

What games are popular in Canada?

A good friend is moving to Vancouver (from the US) and I'd like to get him a Canadian board/card game or two as a going away gift. What games are popular in Canada? Or classically Canadian? Or have a Canadian version that is different enough from the US'ian to matter?
posted by pennypiper at 11:43 AM PST - 17 comments

Changing a restaurant menu URL in Google Places -- there has to be a way

Google Places is listing a menu URL for my restaurant, and it's *wrong*. Can you please tell me how to provide a new restaurant menu URL to Google Places. Something this simple shouldn't be impossible! [more inside]
posted by dacoit at 9:48 AM PST - 14 comments

Consolidation loans for people with bad credit?

I have some private student loans that I didn't pay for a long time (because I didn't have a job). Because of this, my credit is terrible. I would like to pay the loans so the debt collector leaves me and my family alone, but I can't find a consolidation company that will lend to me because of said credit, even though I do have a great job now and over a year of on-time payment history for my federal student loans. My credit is going up, but not fast enough, I guess. [more inside]
posted by woodvine at 9:29 AM PST - 15 comments

Summer in Montreal, with a kid...

Considering a family trip this summer. What's fun for a family in Montreal? [more inside]
posted by gnutron at 9:13 AM PST - 9 comments

is CBT the best therapy approach for my anxious tween?

I want to get my girl some help. Help me figure out how to evaluate therapists for her? And if you were or had an anxious teen or tween who learned tools that helped, what were they? [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 8:49 AM PST - 26 comments

Dranks for... skanks?

Can you help me come up with a name for my Cocktail club? [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill at 8:29 AM PST - 26 comments

Legal right to trust amount / accounting as sec. beneficary?

[YANAL] As a secondary beneficiary to a trust, do I have any right to see the original amount, current amount, and accounting information for a trust? Trust is held in PA, but I reside in MN. [more inside]
posted by lpcxa0 at 8:23 AM PST - 7 comments

My stars! Watching your mouth on 'Antiques Roadshow'

We have been watching a lot of "Antiques Roadshow" in this household — usually one or two episodes a night for a few months solid. I am curious about people's reactions and the language they choose to express their surprise. [more inside]
posted by veggieboy at 8:16 AM PST - 18 comments

Obsessing over Instagram is really bad for your health.

I care too much about social media, particularly Instagram. Help me change my attitude! [more inside]
posted by sucre at 7:52 AM PST - 6 comments

Should I try to salvage the wooden floors from my father's house?

Should I try to save the oak floors from my father's house? We're about to sell it, and the builder is going to bulldoze it. Is it worthwhile to try to pull the old floor out? It's in pretty good shape, and I could use it to replace the cheap and crappy looking center match pine in my own house. I have only myself for labor, though, and have little experience removing floors.
posted by atchafalaya at 7:48 AM PST - 9 comments

Microwave oven is causing fluctuations in our digital scale

When our microwave oven is running, the digital scale fluctuates slightly. Is this something to be concerned about? [more inside]
posted by XtinaS at 7:16 AM PST - 13 comments

Buying an New Computer (Apple Desktop). Looking for Options...

I am in the market for a new desktop, and would like an iMac. Wondering if there are other options (read more inside if interested). [more inside]
posted by dbirchum at 7:12 AM PST - 10 comments

Youtube video's to use in training: various business topics

I am looking for short (<5 min) video's / clips I can use in training and coaching. The video's will be combined with more 'boring' theoretical slides about topics like: change management, leadership, strategy deployment, process improvement, customer excellence, hospitality. My youtube collection is in desperate need of an update. Explanation and examples of what I am looking for are in the 'more inside' part of this question. [more inside]
posted by eau79 at 6:59 AM PST - 1 comment

Setting up a computer for a Syrian refugee family — what am I missing?

We're working with a Syrian refugee family in our community (Canada has a lot these days!). I've been tasked with sourcing and setting up a computer for them to use for basic web browsing and Facebook. I've tried twice, run into trouble each time, and would love suggestions from anyone who's familiar with setting up computers in Arabic. Windows? Ubuntu? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by lukez at 6:27 AM PST - 7 comments

Is my USB stick fake?

I have a SanDisk Extreme USB 3.0 Stick with a non-standard CE logo on it. Other people online seem to have SanDisk kit with the same wrong logo. I'd like to know if it's fake or if it's normal for them?
posted by gorcha at 6:12 AM PST - 18 comments

Yoga and back pain.

I'm a yoga newbie, with a grand total of four classes under my belt. I've been experiencing muscle soreness and tightness, similar to the delayed onset muscle soreness (DOMS) of weightlifting, with pain in the quads, glutes and lower back muscles. Cause for concern? [more inside]
posted by Gordion Knott at 5:44 AM PST - 12 comments

How to say "How goodly is our portion, how pleasant our lot" in Hebrew?

I want to translate the phrase "How goodly is our portion, how pleasant our lot" in Hebrew. It's possible that the original phrase was in Hebrew, since it shows up a lot in Jewish liturgical writing. I want something as close to the original as possible.
posted by stinker at 5:13 AM PST - 3 comments

Maybe Some F**king Merlot?

My wife and I are thinking of spending a week in San Francisco and the Napa Valley in mid-July for our 10th anniversary. Neither of us have ever been to SF or wine country. Can you wonderful people provide any tips, tricks, or suggestions? Best wineries to visit, things to do in SF, places to stay, etc. Basically where should we go and what should we do? Any help greatly appreciated!
posted by joelhunt at 4:34 AM PST - 34 comments

February 23

alternative music scene in iran

Hey, I have been a dj in the past for all kinds of experimental music and am seeking to expand my aural horizons with specific interest in this part of the world. This might be a long-shot, but is anyone familiar with any kind of experimental scene there? I'm heavily interested in electronica as well, but something deep and dark. Are there any publications or sources you could refer me to?
posted by a knot unknown at 11:56 PM PST - 8 comments

Text to mp3

I have a long car ride coming up and a long academic document to read. Is there a good, low-cost, text to speech program that can process a large Word document and spit out an mp3 file that I could burn onto a disc and listen to on my ride? [more inside]
posted by sockermom at 11:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Who are the Roger Eberts of book reviewers?

Are there any book reviewers out there who have great reputations as book reviewers? [more inside]
posted by paleyellowwithorange at 11:18 PM PST - 12 comments

Struggling to Help in a Difficult Family Situation

My brother is in his late thirties, has no job, lives in rural Alabama, is on probation for a while after spending a year in prison, is a registered sex offender, and is a (hopefully) recovering addict. He is still living off my parents, who are at a loss to find a way for him to get a job. The state of Alabama has some incredibly strict limitations on what registered sex offenders can do, which makes dealing with the stigma even more difficult when trying to find employment. Help me come up with suggestions for a job for him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:05 PM PST - 13 comments

How do I handle my friend's owing me money?

A very close friend owes me $1000 and has for several years. I don't feel great about it. I'm not sure how I should handle this situation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:05 PM PST - 49 comments

Toxic situation at work . Should I quit?

I recently got a full-time job for a contract position which I really like and am really for. But I also decided to keep my first job which is part-time because I had absolutely no savings before I got the new job. With both these jobs, I've been able to put money into my savings account and I feel a little more financially secure. The problem is, working at my old job is really beginning to take a toll on my mental health. I don't want to get into too much detail about that but long story short, my ex works there and things are not very great between us at this point in time (I have learned my lesson, office relationships are a very bad idea). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:05 PM PST - 8 comments

Cheaper web hosting solution for my blog, email and static landing page?

What would you suggest for a hosting solution for my WordPress blog? I need it to have support for a couple of static pages and pointing to top-level domain name [more inside]
posted by theobserver at 9:14 PM PST - 12 comments

Are there gentle and effective electric toothbrushes?

I'm in the market for an electric toothbrush, but I'm looking for one that's gentle due to existing gum problems. I was leaning toward Oral B because they separately sell soft brush heads but it seems that the Sonicare ones clean better. I don't know soft the brushes are, though. I also like that Oral B brushes have the sensor if you press too hard. But I would love to get some opinions on which brand you prefer and why. Thanks!
posted by madonna of the unloved at 8:54 PM PST - 19 comments

Affordable last-minute weekend vacation options near the SF Bay?

I want to go on a nice trip next weekend (March 4-6) with the person I'm dating, but I'm having trouble finding affordable, appealing, not-already-booked places that are within a 3-4 hour drive. Hope me? [more inside]
posted by needs more cowbell at 8:48 PM PST - 14 comments

Help me figure this out, please.

I'm trying to locate a children's short story with an ending where this boy that lives in this town, illegally goes over a fence (maybe he was even shot) and the last thing he sees is a sign saying "Human Exhibit". [more inside]
posted by magnoliasouth at 7:43 PM PST - 3 comments

Help us not starve!

Short version: The family's primary cook and caregiver is in the hospital for an unknown length of time. It'll be two weeks minimum, could be a lot longer. Then she'll have a long recovery period at home. Her husband and I both theoretically can cook, though he's not very good, and I have medical complications. Between us we have to feed each other and a couple teenagers. Meal planning's fallen to me, but most of the shopping and cooking is on him. We need to survive until his wife's out of the hospital. Help? [more inside]
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess at 6:58 PM PST - 38 comments

Your best jam-y cakes

My friends are having a joint birthday celebration this weekend, and I've offered to make them a cake. The one piece of guidance I've received? "Jam. I LOVE JAM." Give me your most jam-ful cake recipes, please! [more inside]
posted by damayanti at 6:49 PM PST - 15 comments

Rum cream cocktail ideas

What can I make with Jamaican rum cream to serve to a group? I have a KitchenAid but no blender.
posted by theraflu at 6:29 PM PST - 3 comments

Feline Oral Resorptive Lesions - what to expect

Beloved cat needs teeth extracted due to Feline Oral Resorptive Lesions. How did this surgery go for your cat? I'm worried, and struggling to choose a vet. Considering cost, equipment, experience, and gut instinct. Which vet should I use? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 5:51 PM PST - 20 comments

How can I best deal with a severe ankle sprain and associated recovery?

About a month ago, I had a mishap on some stairs and ended up with a third-degree sprain of my left ankle. I've got what is apparently a very long recovery ahead of me, and I'm already going insane. I need some tips and tricks to make the next few months more manageable. [more inside]
posted by tryniti at 5:18 PM PST - 25 comments

Help me find a film/tv/photo stand-in for the Imperial Radch?

For extremely nerdy (ie Tumblr) reasons, I need a series of images which can be re-interpreted to illustrate various characters from Ann Leckie's Imperial Radch books -- Ancillary Justice, Ancillary Sword and Ancillary Mercy. In other words, I want photos that I can point to and say, "Hey, it's Breq!" [more inside]
posted by Narrative Priorities at 5:15 PM PST - 7 comments

I would like to get stuff done and not turn into Chicken Little.

I find that much of the news (especially politics, given the month and year it is) gets me all worked up and makes it difficult for me to get stuff done. I fully understand that news is presented the way it is by design - to grab eyeballs, but I still find the lasting anger/anxiety it creates in me to take away from my sanity and productivity. How can I hold onto my sanity and productivity? [more inside]
posted by Seeking Direction at 4:54 PM PST - 12 comments

Idiopathic thrombocytic purpura

Anyone suffering from ITP? I was told I might have a mild case-ITP with platelets in the 120-130s and elevated MPV. What are your numbers? I am going to get a blood draw tommorow and I freak out... I know will not be perfect. I was told it will wax and wane normally. I am scared I will need one day a bone marrow biopsy. What is your experience?
posted by barexamfreak at 4:17 PM PST - 4 comments

Introduction to modern poetry

I have never really gotten into modern poetry, but I've recently read a few poems by Dana Gioia, and I'd like to learn more. A dozen years ago, I was in the same position with modern art and Mark Rothko. I happened to find a copy of H. H. Arnason's History of Modern Art in my college's library, and now I consider myself something of an expert on the subject. I'm looking for a book that will do the same for poetry. [more inside]
posted by kevinbelt at 3:33 PM PST - 8 comments

Online Event Planning Course

I am an experienced event planner for conferences, charity and corporate events but everything I know has been learned through decades of on the job experience. I'd like to take an online events planning course, but they all sound so creepy and/or scammy. Help? Recommendations? Warnings? [more inside]
posted by DarlingBri at 3:29 PM PST - 6 comments

Front end for a kitchen stereo

My lovely friends have a boom box in the kitchen. They use it a lot and it is getting old and battered. They also have a powered 2.1 speaker set. What's a good, inexpensive, WiFi-connected tablet or the like with which they can stream audio to the speaker set? [more inside]
posted by jet_silver at 3:21 PM PST - 10 comments

Dealing with childish jealousy when you're an adult.

Is it normal for me to feel jealous of other people's lives? [more inside]
posted by MeaninglessMisfortune at 3:17 PM PST - 38 comments

Searching for 80's children's Christian music album title

I am trying to locate/remember a children's Christian music album title that I remember listening to when I was a child in the early 80's. [more inside]
posted by ddefebbo at 3:04 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I teach my kids to ski/snowboard when I'm no good at it?

I'd love to take my two sons skiing or snowboarding but worry I'll never be good enough / infect them with my terror of losing control / won't be able to protect them. Advice? [more inside]
posted by cgs at 2:16 PM PST - 18 comments

Low cost alternatives to using PayPal while selling on eBay

What have you used to process credit cards and bank transfers that is low cost, easy to use and allows US sellers to have the proceeds directly deposited in their accounts as opposed to PayPal account (which is another feature that bothers me)? [more inside]
posted by arizona80 at 2:07 PM PST - 4 comments

Mold Allergy - can I live in a house with a moldy basement?

I'm thinking of moving into a rental with a moldy basement. I love the place otherwise, but I have a definite mold allergy. Can this work? [more inside]
posted by susanvance at 1:46 PM PST - 16 comments

Great Caesar's Ghost! I need some kid-friendlier curses

As a new parent, I need to work on tempering my foul mouth. I am a bit of a grumpy bastard and man, do I ever fight with my computer (programming, spreadsheets, etc) a lot. I quite often tell it how I feel and I pull no punches. So, I was reading this Power Man and Iron Fist Have a Hilarious Way to Get Around Marvel's 'No Swearing' Policy article the other day and thought that I'd ask the hivemind for some help cursing somewhat more respectably. [more inside]
posted by JimBJ9 at 12:57 PM PST - 63 comments

Help me not throw $$$ away and choose the best ultrabook.

Hi All, any input into the ultrabook world would be great. I have read ALL the ultrabook reviews, and am finding I need to choose between a good (great) screen and the 16 gb of ram I need (want). In the running are: RazorBlade Stealth, ThinkPad x260, Dell XPS 13, MacBook 12, and the Yoga 12. Are there any other good options for a 12/12.5 screen and 16 gb ram? Any recommendations form users of any of these? Thanks!
posted by 1inabillionmistake at 12:51 PM PST - 13 comments

Where was this scene from the film "Abre los ojos" filmed?

I´d like to know exactly where the crash scene was filmed in the film "Abre los ojos". YouTube video provided inside. [more inside]
posted by iamsuper at 12:18 PM PST - 2 comments

Attaching flower boxes to a non-standard deck railing

I am looking for something like these to attach some flower boxes to our porch - the catch? The railing around the porch that I need to attach them to is not a standard size. [more inside]
posted by ryanshepard at 12:08 PM PST - 7 comments

Real life stories of reality overcoming limerance?

I'm looking for examples of person A pining after person B for a long time. We're talking years of building this fantasy in their head about a person they couldn't have, for whatever reason. Then A finally gets with B romantically or otherwise gets to know them well, and are disappointed by the reality of who person B is or what the relationship is really like. [more inside]
posted by atinna at 11:40 AM PST - 17 comments

Help my baby to be a minimalist

My husband and I are expecting a baby in June. Hooray! We live in a one-bedroom, fifth-floor Manhattan walk-up. Yikes... I would really appreciate help with what a newborn baby actually needs in our situation? [more inside]
posted by cpatterson at 11:30 AM PST - 47 comments

How are basketball games audio engineered?

I'm curious about two aspects of live sound engineering basketball games: 1. The actual sounds you hear at a game in person. 2. The engineering for broadcasts. [more inside]
posted by gucci mane at 11:26 AM PST - 4 comments

How do we get our money back from this closed business?

My partner had about $400 of credit at a huge music store in Montreal. We read in the paper today that it closed down forever about 5 days ago without any notice to anyone. How could he go about getting his money back (as cash or stuff from there)? [more inside]
posted by andreapandrea at 11:07 AM PST - 8 comments

What do I need to know about transitioning to contract work?

I've been working a union job for the last decade. Now I'm thinking about taking the plunge into full-time graphic design contract work, at least for the next six months. Besides figuring out healthcare and tax stuff, what else should I be aware of? [more inside]
posted by redsparkler at 10:59 AM PST - 11 comments

Magazine archive (New Statesman, '78-'00), how to find a good new home?

We have a large archive of the UK New Statesman weekly political affairs, commentary and arts magazine, from 1978 to 2000, and we are trying to find a good new home. We're not looking to sell the collection, just send it on to somewhere it can be a resource for others. Can anyone recommend any other librarianship forums or suchlike where we should offer it up? (It's stored in Brighton, England.) [more inside]
posted by BuxtonTheRed at 10:50 AM PST - 2 comments

Just an Ask Culture girl, living in a Guess Culture world...

I've moved countries temporarily, and one problem I find myself repeatedly coming up against is clash in communication styles - Ask Culture versus Guess Culture. Specifically, I am a textbook Ask Culture person, coming up repeatedly in both work and social interactions against people who are entirely Guess Culture. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 10:42 AM PST - 18 comments

idiomatic irregular verbs and conjugation

"I mobilize people, you pander, he demagogues" and "I am an innocent victim; you made some foolish choices; she totally deserved it" and "I have a philosophy, you have a tendency, they have an ideology" are examples of a kind of conjugation, where the preferred phrases change depending on the distance to the speaker. Can you think of more examples?
posted by the man of twists and turns at 10:38 AM PST - 17 comments

Videocamera recommendations for documenting long art lessons? Storage?

So I'm going on a 3 week trip to Japan to study metalworking with an artist, and I want to videotape my lessons, which will be 3-8 hours a day for much of that time. What's a good camera for this sort of purpose? Also how do I best handle the storage issue of recording that much video? I'll have my laptop with me, though I'm not sure about the quality of the internet connection. [more inside]
posted by sirion at 10:21 AM PST - 3 comments

What is the plot of Lost, like what happened

what exactly happened in Lost? Please tell me in UNDER 400 WORDS. What happened in that show. i know a plane crashed on an island, then there was a stained glass window at the end, but i don't want to watch it. What was it about. NO MORE THAN 400 WORDS IN A COMMENT, NO MORE THAN ONE COMMENT PER PERSON PLEASE, THAT IS ALL THE PATIENCE I HAVE. spoiler zone follows. thank you babes
posted by Greg Nog at 9:38 AM PST - 35 comments

Office Newsletter - what would you include?

I'm responsible for composing and constructing a new monthly email newsletter for our very large department..... if you were to receive such a newsletter, as an associate, what kinds of things would you want to see? [more inside]
posted by JenThePro at 9:25 AM PST - 13 comments

Making an old MacBook Pro work for a single purpose

I have a pretty old MacBook pro (probably 7-8 years old) that's very sluggish and glitchy. I'd like to relegate it for the single purpose of running Logic Pro. It currently runs Logic but very slowly and crashes often. Can I like wipe the whole thing somehow and make it do nothing but run Logic well? [more inside]
posted by Lutoslawski at 9:16 AM PST - 17 comments

Can I use leftover pork shoulder to make pork broth?

So I cooked a bone in pork shoulder in the over the other day and what's left are bones, fat, meat. Seems like the perfect recipe for a broth of some sort but I've never done this. The recipes for using leftover pork shoulder in soup are out there but what about simply making one of those day long pork bone broths, is that an option, is it really as simple as putting this in some water and letting it fall apart?
posted by dr handsome at 9:14 AM PST - 8 comments

Rx Sunglasses

Got prescription sunglasses? I have questions. [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 9:10 AM PST - 14 comments

Are the health effects of poor eating during young adulthood reversible?

I recently rewatched Supersize Me a documentary which goes into the deleterious effects fast food has on the human body. The short-term changes in (director and star) Morgan's physical and mental well-being were readily apparent, but then I got to wondering about the long-term effects. Medical experts of MeFi: Assuming someone like Morgan eats fast food for years as a young adult then switches to a healthy diet, what long term complications would he notice later in life? Are these side-effects reversible? [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 8:51 AM PST - 11 comments

Reliving my single days through a weekend of binge gaming

My husband and kid are taking off for a weekend and for the first time in over 6 years I have a weekend to myself. The plan is to binge play a game while they are away in a hedonistic reliving my old WoW days. I am looking for a game that I can play either on my PS3 or WiiU that is an RPG. Basically, my googling has resulted in too many options and I am having a lot of trouble narrowing it down. Specifics of what I am looking for within. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 8:46 AM PST - 29 comments

New Freeview Box?

Our Freeview (UK broadcast TV) box is old and mostly broken. What are your recommendations for a modern replacement? [more inside]
posted by Eleven at 8:25 AM PST - 4 comments

App that shows incoming sms messages in a stream?

I want to be able to show the text of incoming messages, regardless of who they're from. [more inside]
posted by stupidsexyFlanders at 8:20 AM PST - 3 comments

Is there an X-Files episode that uses a Cymande song?

Here's my possibly false memory: the show is the X-Files (although maybe it's Millennium?) and the song is Cymande's "Dove." The song recurs, diegetically, several times in the episode, whenever something uncanny is happening, although only one character is aware of it. At one point, it comes over the PA system of a hospital, distant and phased-out sounding. Googling doesn't turn up anything, so I assume I must have some detail wrong. What am I remembering?
posted by neroli at 7:24 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me develop complicated spreadsheet

Note: NOT Homework. Real world application here. I have to come up with a spreadsheet based on a formula that allocates dollars to people based upon role and participation. I'm good at Excel but this one is boggling my mind. Details and example inside [more inside]
posted by arniec at 7:06 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me assemble the parts for an LED ribbon lighting system

I'm trying to determine what parts I need to bring LED lighting to my home. I'd like to install some lights in multiple rooms to be controlled by wall switches and my phone and my network. But I'd like to do it in stages to reduce cost. [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 6:45 AM PST - 1 comment

Graduated with a poor academic record, and don't know where I'm heading

I failed out of university twice, but finally graduated with my bachelor's degree last year at the age of 26. With a 3.3 GPA, no less! :-) For the past 6 months, I've been working two part-time contracts (enough to make rent and food costs, but no savings). [more inside]
posted by raintree at 6:42 AM PST - 14 comments

the 2d of 3 stages of death?

In one of the world's traditions (or maybe in fiction), there's the idea that death has 3 stages: first, the biological death of the physical body; second=??; and third, when the last person who, as a child, knew you, undergoes biological death. Would someone please refresh or correct my memory of this teaching?
posted by mmiddle at 6:42 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for resources re: employer penalties and tip pool violations

I think my employer-structured tip-pool is not in line w/ California law, and I would like to find examples of penalties levied against bars/restaurants and their owners for violations of the relevant laws. YANML. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:00 AM PST - 1 comment

What's the skinny on spliffs?

A friend of mine, who is someone I might potentially want to date, rolls and smokes a spliff every day before going to bed (and occasionally up to 3 or so on special occasions). I don't know anyone else who smokes this way, and I'd like to learn more about the effects of this kind of smoking, both because I have been joining in when I am with my friend, and because I want to know what I'm getting into if I try to date this person. Specific questions inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:00 AM PST - 18 comments

Name that eBay business

I need a name for my eBay (and possibly Etsy) store that will be selling used clothes and other thrift store finds. [more inside]
posted by foid at 5:54 AM PST - 5 comments

Moving photos from Flickr before it is shuttered

I have accumulated - and curated - around 5K photos on Flickr. Quite a few of these are embedded/pulled into various places (blogpost example). In case Flickr does go under, I'm looking for quick/non-teccie solutions for moving the entire bunch of photos and also for easily updating all of those places where a bit of code pulls in the picture from Flickr. [more inside]
posted by Wordshore at 5:53 AM PST - 8 comments

Best of the web (podcasts/blogs/apps/gadgets) for new dads?

I had a child back in 2003 but obviously the Web/tech/etc has changed a lot since then. My second child is due in August and I'd love to get pointers to the best current useful/entertaining tech/web resources for fathers. Basically, help me get back in the game!
posted by jmccw at 5:28 AM PST - 1 comment

March in NY (North Yorkshire)

I'm heading home for a week to visit my elderly but active parents in Knaresborough (between Harrogate and York). Looking for shopping and family outing ideas. [more inside]
posted by andrewcooke at 4:09 AM PST - 6 comments

Why don't psychiatrists ask about abuse?

I haven't been asked directly about my abuse and trauma history when meeting with mental health professionals. Is this standard? If so, why? [more inside]
posted by fair isle sock at 1:53 AM PST - 16 comments

February 22

Is two weeks too young for a road trip to Death Valley?

Teeny Everyday was born ten days ago, and mom and baby are doing very well. To celebrate paternity leave ending, Mom had the bright (or maybe not so bright) idea of a road trip to her favorite national park, Death Valley. However, I've only been there once, and am somewhat hazy on the details of how we got to certain places of interest, like Zabriskie Point. Is this trip unrealistic with a newborn? [more inside]
posted by Everydayville at 11:48 PM PST - 33 comments

Feed me the nightmare fuel

I have a thing for eldritch abominations, alien geometry, fridge horror, and general nightmare fuel. I want more, pretty please! [more inside]
posted by Owlie at 10:43 PM PST - 45 comments

Children's books about paleontology

My five year old wants to be a paleontologist and an astronaut when he grows up. There are lots of kids' books about space, and about the experience of being an astronaut. There are lots of kids' books about dinosaurs and fossils. He wants a book about paleontology and paleontologists. The person working the info desk at our library branch today wasn't terribly helpful. Maybe you will be? [more inside]
posted by linettasky at 10:35 PM PST - 10 comments

Are we self-sabotaging or is it the right thing?

My girlfriend of 4 years and I have recently started having some very matter of fact conversations about our relationship. We're each sort of wondering if it's got 'too serious' for this point in our lives. Put briefly, does this make any sense? Or are we just sabotaging something that's otherwise fine? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:11 PM PST - 12 comments

An app to track all the things we don't eat

My son is currently undergoing a fairly stringent diet plan through his very nice (and not quackery oriented) doctor. I'm looking for some way to track what he is eating that provides a breakdown of nutrition/vitamins/minerals etc. [more inside]
posted by aetg at 7:46 PM PST - 7 comments

A Very Serious Question About Dragon Age: Inquisition

In a moment of terrible weakness, I spoiled the end of Dragon Age: Inquisition for myself and now I'm wondering if it's still worth it to romance certain companions given their eventual actions. Join me inside for spoilerific beanplating about emotional attachments to fictional characters. [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger at 7:30 PM PST - 14 comments

Is it okay to bring tools to a cemetery to dig out a grave marker?

Is it okay to bring tools to a cemetery to dig out a grave marker? [more inside]
posted by foxinthesnow at 7:21 PM PST - 11 comments

There's no moment in life that can't be improved with pizza. - Daria

I think there used to be a Daria app on the Palm Pilot. You'd ask it questions like an Eight Ball and it would snark back Daria wisdom, like this: Link. Is this just a misremembered bit of early 2000s wishful thinking? I can't find screen shots of it anywhere.
posted by noonday at 7:18 PM PST - 3 comments

Where is feasible to build your own home in the US?

Daydreaming a bit - if we wanted to buy one of those "kits" and build a home, where in the US is it possible? Land not too expensive, hookups to services, not super remote, attainable permits, etc?
posted by tealcake at 6:33 PM PST - 12 comments

"We’ll be in touch." (sigh)

I had a bad interview today. Help me stop obsessing over it. [more inside]
posted by ella_minnow at 5:53 PM PST - 16 comments

What do I do with my life?

I'm 22, I have an AA degree, and I'm currently substitute teaching and tutoring, but need a long-term, higher-paying job. I have bounced from idea to idea (schoolteacher, tutor, professor, pharmacist, accountant), but no careers seem to fit me and/or be reachable. Here is what I have tried and discovered so far: [more inside]
posted by drd at 5:14 PM PST - 12 comments

Interesting Interview Questions ideas

I am interviewing someone for a fairly senior role in planning (marketing) soon. What are some of your favorite interesting interview questions (no brain teasers) that enable you to learn about a person in a non-"whats your weakness" way. Thanks in advance!
posted by mooselini at 4:40 PM PST - 12 comments

Academiafilter: assertiveness without loss of friendship

Co-wrote an academic paper and did the bulk of the research and writing. Now my coauthor/friend wants first name credit. How to argue about this without ruining the working relationship and the friendship? [more inside]
posted by pepper bird at 3:54 PM PST - 21 comments

How much leaking during roof repair is to be expected?

Perspective/Reality check, please: We're having our building's roof repaired and so far there's been some substantial leaking into some apartments. How much leaking is to be expected in this kind of situation? [more inside]
posted by TryTheTilapia at 3:45 PM PST - 9 comments

baby shower favors?

I'm in charge of favors at a baby shower, and I'm stumped. I've been to 1 million baby showers but I don't think I got favors at any of them. It's going to be a boy, and the theme is quite loosely travel since both parents like traveling. They are very progressive people who will not be too into "boys are like THIS, girls are like THAT" type stuff. [more inside]
posted by zutalors! at 3:38 PM PST - 30 comments

Contract baking in LA?

Can I pay someone to make 30 of a specific cake? Is that a thing? [more inside]
posted by GilloD at 3:22 PM PST - 9 comments

Dentist in Vancouver, BC

Seeking recommendations for a dentist in Vancouver, BC! [more inside]
posted by btfreek at 3:17 PM PST - 9 comments

I broke my heater - what'd I do wrong?

I am in the process of replacing all of the 240V single-pole wall thermostats in my house with programmable thermostats. This has all gone well until I got to the very last thermostat, which I can't get to work. What'd I do wrong? [more inside]
posted by saeculorum at 3:00 PM PST - 9 comments

Best time to tour Washington wine country including Walla Walla

Coming from Seattle, we'd like to travel through Washington wine country this year eating good food and tasting wine. Our ultimate goal is Walla Walla, but we assume we will probably stop in the Tri-Cities and Yakima Valley as well. An acquaintance advises against visiting during Spring Release the first weekend of May due to crowds. When would be an alternate time to go that would still have nice weather but be easier to find lodging? We will have a car and would probably want to spend less than $200 a night at hotels.
posted by matildaben at 2:55 PM PST - 4 comments

Used Hamilton Watch

I want to buy a 38mm Hamilton Men's H70455863 Khaki Field Automatic Watch. I'd love to buy it used, but most of the used Hamilton Khaki Field Watches I see are the larger 42mm or 46mm versions. Do you have any suggestions of places to buy this watch used? It retails for ~$400; I'd love to get it for ~$200.
posted by gregr at 2:48 PM PST - 5 comments

Advice for dealing with our wedding photographer?

My wife and I are in the midst of a back-and-forth with our wedding photographer because we're not happy with the image deliverables we were given. While the subjects/scenes in the photos are great, the quality is way below what we were expecting. We wanted advice on how to reason with our photographer because we believe we have legitimate concerns that aren't being handled correctly. [more inside]
posted by evanm at 2:45 PM PST - 15 comments

Best solution for ad-hoc parsing and reformatting of text?

I handle a lot of screenplays, recording scripts, game dialogue text tables, localization tables, and other text-related files. And I have a need to output to varying formats with varying goals--sometimes to reformat a screenplay to something more standard or to put text in a format that is ready to use by a game or other software. For simplicity's sake, assume that all input and output formats would be plain text. What is a good software tool to help with these format conversions? [more inside]
posted by ErikH2000 at 2:33 PM PST - 12 comments

"Underground" comedy shows in NYC?

I'm interested in comedy shows in NYC that take place outside the big mainstream venues like Caroline's or Gotham Comedy Club. For lack of a better term, you might call what I'm looking for "underground" comedy shows, but I'm not construing that term narrowly. Just really looking to get away from the more touristy spots that seem to often feature bland acts. Edgier/off-beat stuff welcome. Thanks for your ideas!
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 12:45 PM PST - 6 comments

Where should I eat tonight in NYC?

I am in the city for business tonight and will be left to my own devices for dinner. I would like someplace where I can sit at a somewhat quiet bar, read a book, and eat a reasonably priced burger. Help me Metafilter, I am paralyzed with indecision. [more inside]
posted by banjo_and_the_pork at 12:39 PM PST - 21 comments

Tips for writing a gender-neutral interview?

I have been asked to edit an interview using they/them/their instead of gendered pronouns. Please give me your tips / best practices for clarity! [more inside]
posted by Isingthebodyelectric at 12:31 PM PST - 6 comments

Critique my cross-country driving route please: Oregon to South Carolina

We're moving cross-country in about a month (3/21-3/28), from Portland, OR to Myrtle Beach, SC. I've scoured the Internet and I think I have a good plan, taking a southerly route to avoid possible snow up north but if someone who has actually driven across the country (mostly on 40) could give feedback that would really help. [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 12:29 PM PST - 30 comments

June 23-ish for vacation trip to the UK?

My wife and I have been planning an anniversary trip to the UK for this year but haven't yet decided on the timing. I'm thinking it could be pretty fascinating to schedule it so that the EU referendum vote falls in the middle. Great idea or bonkers? [more inside]
posted by Creosote at 11:02 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me find/customize a minimal, text-based Wordpress theme

I want a Wordpress theme like this: Cocoro (that writer is great, by the way, but the blog seems to be abandoned). Details inside. [more inside]
posted by aperturescientist at 10:27 AM PST - 4 comments

Really good CPA for freelancers in NYC area?

Wondering if the Hivemind has any recommendations for a CPA that has experience working with freelancers in the NYC area. I used to freelance and now have a 9-5, and I need some help dealing with the transition.
posted by eustacescrubb at 10:23 AM PST - 3 comments

MISSION: AERIAL FOOD CUBE

I want to make a food-producing container garden on our (rented) apartment's small balcony. The good news: the balcony gets tons of sun. The bad news: the usable footprint is about 6'x6' and 6' of vertical space. What can I do to grow the most vegetables in this space? [more inside]
posted by overeducated_alligator at 10:08 AM PST - 17 comments

What medical treatment might unintentionally disprove paternity?

Fictional scenario: Jim has a life threatening illness. There is a possible (perhaps experimental) treatment - or a diagnostic tool or whatever - which would involve his adult children (donating tissue or an organ?). Jim refuses it, because he is worried that his children would as a result find out that he is not their biological father. What could the medical McGuffin in this story be? [more inside]
posted by sively at 9:55 AM PST - 21 comments

Peru trip in 3 weeks: advice, opinions, tips wanted!

In a few weeks my wife and I are going on on vacation to Lima, Cusco, Agua Calientes/Machu Picchu. While Cusco and Agua Calientes will be entirely through a tour company, some of the days in Lima we'll be on our own, free to do and see what we want. [more inside]
posted by rbf1138 at 9:49 AM PST - 7 comments

Crazy mortuary on the edge of town

My mom is entering her final stages of life. [more inside]
posted by silsurf at 9:30 AM PST - 10 comments

There is a medical name for this thing. What is it?

At some point in the past 4-6 months I have read a reference to a sleep-related phenomenon that I experience and is apparently super-common based on all my failed googling, but because it is so common I can't find the place where I read the name of the medical term. [more inside]
posted by Lyn Never at 9:24 AM PST - 9 comments

I want to become an RN - Currently an LCSW in medical social work

I enjoy school and credentials. I'm currently an LCSW working in a hospital, and I want to become an RN. How? ! [more inside]
posted by AlexiaSky at 9:12 AM PST - 5 comments

Need a mobile task app to manage family to-do lists.

I'm looking for an app to co-manage household tasks with my husband from our phones. There are a few requirements scenarios this app needs to allow. What do you use that meets those requirements? [more inside]
posted by chesty_a_arthur at 8:15 AM PST - 10 comments

Flower Power

What is the name of this stylized flower/abstract pattern? Example 1. Example 2.
posted by saradarlin at 8:04 AM PST - 3 comments

Music you and your kids both enjoy

I'm in search of specific suggestions for music you and your kids both enjoy listening to. I'm thinking primarily of music targeted at adults, though am open to suggestions for particularly awesome kids' music as well (See: Here Comes Science). Recommendations for albums, individual songs, or Pandora channel seeds all highly welcome. [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 7:18 AM PST - 55 comments

Best screenshot app for Mac?

I've been happily using Slingshot on my Mac for screenshots for years but it's been discontinued and is no longer being updated. What should I replace it with? [more inside]
posted by kdern at 7:13 AM PST - 18 comments

How can I isolate against tram rumble?

I live about 50m from a busy tram intersection. Ear plugs and white noise are no match for the low-frequency rumble. I am thinking about getting asymmetric double glazed windows, but I would like to make sure the windows are the main source of the problem, and not the window frames or any vibrations travelling through the building. Any advice on how I can make sure what the main source of noise is? [more inside]
posted by mlanduyt at 6:27 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me make ambient, evolving pads with an an analogue synthesizer

I am new to synthesis. I just purchased a Korg minilogue. I understand the components by themselves but I don't know a lot about how they interact with each other. It seems I’m just twisting knobs hoping something will work. I’m getting a lot of edginess/harshness (more inside) [more inside]
posted by captainscared at 5:53 AM PST - 3 comments

Which class for ASA upgrade training?

What class(es) do you recommended for learning how to upgrade ASA 5510 from 8.x to 9.x?
posted by bellastarr at 5:23 AM PST - 3 comments

who HATES Pixar's `Inside Out` enough to organize against it?

I was tremendously moved by Pixar's Inside Out and went online to read reviews. While not taken as a pillar of the film community, I noticed on IMDB when you clicked on user reviews, you were greeted by a full page of 1-star reviews. This seemed... suspicious. Are there any groups that would perhaps see the film Inside Out as worthy of a targeted campaign to deter people via imdb? [more inside]
posted by Theta States at 5:06 AM PST - 41 comments

Sleepless in Seattle: Must landlord get rid of mice?

We pay through the nose for a so-called luxury apartment in the middle of our city (we're carless and wanted to live close to our jobs). We feel our place should be rodent-free. Do we have any recourse, legal or otherwise? [more inside]
posted by cartoonella at 3:20 AM PST - 19 comments

What do I do with this relationship?

I met this guy several years ago. We had a fantastic friendship, which was temporarily torpedoed by a failed attempt to make it romantic. We are now friends again, on a long distance basis, but I am worried that his attitude is shifting and he may want to give the couple option another try. Should I say or do something? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:51 AM PST - 18 comments

Help for an 30-something dealing with a crush

I feel ridiculous and embarrassed to even ask this question, but I need help figuring out how to get rid of a crush. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:51 AM PST - 15 comments

Please, help me mark my markers!

How do I permanently (or at least with some degree of durability) write on the bodies of my coloured markers? [more inside]
posted by eloeth-starr at 12:49 AM PST - 20 comments

How can I combat my own internalized sexism?

I'm male and I keep hurting my female partner, mainly (I think) because of cultural conditioning that tells me that my needs are more important than hers. Despite my best efforts and significant progress I seem unable to stop and fully control this, and I need help. [more inside]
posted by PercussivePaul at 12:39 AM PST - 46 comments

February 21

Can I stop the Netflix app from autoplaying a preview of a show?

When I open the Netflix app on my iPad, at the top of the page is a video that autoplays, I guess a trailer for a Netflix show. This is enraging. I can't see how to disable it. Is it possible?
posted by lakeroon at 8:15 PM PST - 7 comments

Formula Help Requested: Using Excel to figure out my password

Okay, so I've locked myself out of One Password. Please help me set up Excel to figure out the possible permutations as notepad is driving me blind. [more inside]
posted by tilde at 6:40 PM PST - 6 comments

An air purifier that takes standard furnace filters?

I'm looking for an air purifier that I can put a standard size (even if it's small) furnace or other standard and readily availible filter in. Do these exist? [more inside]
posted by bensherman at 6:33 PM PST - 6 comments

Indentured into a longer contract by a mandatory upgrade?

Can an alarm company push you into a longer contract because the alarm won't work without an expensive upgrade? [more inside]
posted by spbmp at 6:07 PM PST - 11 comments

2 neko atsume accounts?

I need 2 neko atsume/kitty collector accounts. Maybe not need, maybe want. But I have two children and they each want to place, feed, and name the cats in their own way. How can I do this? [more inside]
posted by mutt.cyberspace at 5:59 PM PST - 7 comments

Blog documentary on British television.

I have a memory of a documentary on British television, possibly in the early 00s about blogging culture, which had interviews with key figures, but I can't remember the title. Any ideas?
posted by feelinglistless at 3:41 PM PST - 2 comments

Literature on verbal and emotional abuse in romantic relationships

Looking for fiction, lyric essays, poetry, or theoretical texts that discuss emotional and verbal abuse in romantic relationships. Interested in both fiction and non-fiction, but not interested in self-help, psychology, life coach-y type lit, nor YA novels. [more inside]
posted by hollypolly at 3:27 PM PST - 24 comments

Seeking secure iOS app to store photos of IDs and other private docs

I'm looking for an app where I can securely store photographs of my IDs- these might include drivers license, passport, health insurance card, etc. From what I can tell, LemonWallet used to do this but was discontinued. Is there an equivalent that is still available? [more inside]
posted by cushie at 3:22 PM PST - 13 comments

People in Winogrand "Central Park Zoo, New York City"

Curious about the individuals shown carrying chimpanzees in Garry Winogrand's 1967 photo, Central Park Zoo, New York City. Tod Papageorge recounts how the photo was taken in this essay, but doesn't reveal what either he or Winogrand might have learned about the people and their clothed chimpanzees. Forever anonymous? Or written up in some piece I'm not finding?
posted by xaryts at 3:10 PM PST - 1 comment

Wirelessly switching an outlet from another outlet

I have an outlet in a room that is controlled with a light switch. I want another outlet in the room to also be switched by that same light switch. Is there a product I can plug into the switched outlet that will send a signal to a device plugged into the non-switched outlet to turn it on and off? Think this but switched by an outlet and not a remote.
posted by bajema at 2:59 PM PST - 4 comments

Should I vote for a Democrat this year?

I try to avoid single-issue or reflex-voting. I am dubious of established power. I want this country, this world, and all of its inhabitants to prosper, and advance. Why would my single vote for Hillary Clinton or Bernie Sanders matter? I'm serious, not cynical or angry.
posted by ebesan at 2:56 PM PST - 37 comments

Parent/adult child creative financial planning

I am an only child in my early 30s; my mom is in her late 50s. I have a good income, while she does not really make a living wage and has no retirement savings or pension. I am committed to taking care of her, and I want to try thinking about our finances in a unified way. [more inside]
posted by ecsh at 2:46 PM PST - 6 comments

Name that movie: William Powell shaving on a train, singing Ohio?

My mother-in-law remembers seeing a movie where William Powell was shaving on a train, singing the Ohio State song ("It's round on the ends/ and high in the middle/ It's O-hi-O.") She thought it was in one of his Thin Man movies (with Myrna Loy) but she recently rewatched them and didn't see it. What movie is she thinking of?
posted by fussbudget at 1:50 PM PST - 8 comments

Rachel's Dress

Can you help me find a grey maxi (and probably jersey fabric) dress similar to the one Rachel wears in the Friend's episode The One With The Yeti? [more inside]
posted by driedmango at 12:30 PM PST - 8 comments

Clueless And Need Website

So, yeah been around computers for just about since they emerged but that never gave me coding skills and wouldn't you know it - but I really do need a website that will showcase the items I make so I can sell them. [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 12:00 PM PST - 31 comments

Resume updating for the second job

I'm one (non-academic) job post-PhD and am updating my resume. At what point do I start dropping things from undergrad(!) and the less interesting stuff from grad school? Do I drop GPAs? Is anyone really going to care that I organised a student seminar or did private tutoring now that I have clearly relevant experience (if they even cared before)? [more inside]
posted by hoyland at 11:02 AM PST - 14 comments

Time to put my brain in its place

After many years of struggle with depression and constant, needless anxiety, it seems that my issue is primarily or purely chemical in nature. But my medications aren't really working right now. What options should I be looking at? What might my treatment look like? [more inside]
posted by myitkyina at 10:15 AM PST - 19 comments

Bug Id!!!

What is this bug? Thanks!
posted by eggman at 9:04 AM PST - 8 comments

Instead of dining out, where can we go to get out?

We're a middle-aged couple who just want to get out of the house for a change. This means we eat out at the local restaurants. It's getting a bit dull and truly, I'm tired of looking at the menu and feeling sad about all the foods I shouldn't eat. (Got to skip dessert, got to cut back on drinking, got to avoid the plate of mega carbs, etc.) [more inside]
posted by Coffeetyme at 8:51 AM PST - 34 comments

How far does reference checking go?

I was fired from a job like 5 years ago, and I am thinking of just saying that I was laid off if I am asked “why I left”. I am not planning to give any references from that company but I heard that sometimes they will call the company and fish around for a reference without you knowing. [more inside]
posted by pieceofcake at 7:59 AM PST - 26 comments

Seeking a duck puppet

I'm looking for a puppet of a duck, where the way it is constructed it is possible to move the duck's bill with your hand enough that you can pick something up. Help?! [more inside]
posted by aaanastasia at 7:50 AM PST - 6 comments

What is the original version of a cloned organism called?

If I clone my cat, I would have two cats: CatCreatedTheUsualWay and CatCreatedThroughCloning. Is there a term for the original version? [more inside]
posted by SuperSquirrel at 7:47 AM PST - 20 comments

Looking for metrics to compare gender/rape norms across settings

In what ways could I quantify differences in sexism/gender norms/rape culture across US states, cities, and/or universities using publicly-available data? [more inside]
posted by quiet coyote at 7:20 AM PST - 7 comments

Should I install El Capitan on my 2013 Macbook Air?

I have a mid-2013 Macbook Air with 4GB of RAM. It's currently running Mavericks, and I would love to just keep it that way, but more and more software doesn't work with Mavericks. I would update, but I hear so many people who say that 4GB isn't enough and you need at least 8GB to run both Yosemite and El Capitan well and that performance is worse than on Mavericks. [more inside]
posted by blub at 6:52 AM PST - 12 comments

nyc gym with private changing rooms

My routine has changed recently and I need to be able to shower at the gym, and I'd prefer a gym where I can change afterward in private. Does one exist in lower Manhattan? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:25 AM PST - 11 comments

I did eat this, now what?

I just picked what I thought was a burnt crumb off a tray of cookies and ate it. Except it turned out to be not a crumb, but a somewhat-dessicated black bean that had escaped from my dinner plate yesterday. (Not gonna win any prizes for housekeeping, I know.) I have to give a really important presentation on Monday. Is there anything I can do to reduce my chances of having given myself horrifying food poisoning? [more inside]
posted by en forme de poire at 4:41 AM PST - 23 comments

Excel to HTML Converter

I have a work order built in excel that I want my database to auto-populate some fields instead of my QEs doing it manually. I've found an add on to do this, but if I want to make the new form look at all like the old form I have to do it in HTML. Is there a good converter for this? [more inside]
posted by Caravantea at 4:25 AM PST - 1 comment

Looking for a book like...

I picked up Stuck: Why We Can't (or Won't) Move On by Anneli Rufus on a whim, but can’t finish it as it is truly awful in every way. Now I’d like to read a book on the same subject that doesn’t suck, actually addresses the subject, and doesn’t resemble the comments section of an internet article. There must be a million books about getting stuck in ruts, changing habits and such, any recommendations?
posted by bongo_x at 1:14 AM PST - 5 comments

Need a Russian translation, please.

I just bought a Russian clock/timer, and I've been running down some information on it. [more inside]
posted by Marky at 12:29 AM PST - 3 comments

February 20

Serious Question About Donald Trump - Please Advise!

I grew up in NYC in the 70's and 80's. Donald Trump was a person in pop culture, but my take-away was that he was actually a good showman and a poor business person. He ended up on a reality show on a major network this seemed about right, he was blustery and had a lot of business failures under his belt. I assumed at the time he was really good at leveraging loans and his image, without much success in the money part. When did this change? And/or, how is his campaign financed? [more inside]
posted by jbenben at 9:56 PM PST - 37 comments

Yet another special snowflake lunch question.

Purchasable, ready to go soft food lunch/snack that's satiating and not cold? I’m about to be even more obnoxiously picky, but I’ll try to keep it brief. [more inside]
posted by deludingmyself at 7:18 PM PST - 23 comments

Surround me in sound

I'm moving into a new apartment that, although built in 1790, seems to have hookups for speakers in the living room, dining room, and kitchen. I don't know anything about speakers or stereos, but I would like to take advantage of this set up. [more inside]
posted by thefang at 7:14 PM PST - 7 comments

I need some great books about dinosaurs!

My son's favorite book is Evolving Planet.What are some other books that I can give him that are similar? [more inside]
posted by christinetheslp at 5:01 PM PST - 4 comments

Looking for the new old Byron Bay

My in-laws live in Sydney and are looking to move to an area within NSW, Queensland or Victoria which fits their beach-loving, eco-conscious young family. Details within: [more inside]
posted by timshel at 4:20 PM PST - 4 comments

Best cheap Walmart/Target Bike?

Looking for assistance finding a cheap bike. See inside for generic deets. [more inside]
posted by Draccy at 3:22 PM PST - 26 comments

What is this short phrase that I heard at a Chinese restaurant?

We heard the owner of a Chinese restaurant speak the words "Ha chin tao" in an angry tone, and I was curious if anyone recognized the phrase and could translate it for us. [more inside]
posted by newfers at 3:19 PM PST - 9 comments

YASTE (... Safe to eat?)

I have left over slices of abs fab BBQ beef brisket from Franklin's BBQ in Austin, TX. It will have been at room temp for 12-16 hours, wrapped in plastic. I dearly want to eat this ... dare I?
posted by cameradv at 2:31 PM PST - 39 comments

Suggestions for where to look for a horticulture degree?

I've decided to see what I can do about some form of advanced education. I'm looking at a degree in horticulture but I'm somewhat stuck beyond that. [more inside]
posted by Socinus at 1:51 PM PST - 10 comments

Expecting Better Books

I love the book Expecting Better by Emily Oster, and I want to find more nonfiction in that style (doesn't need to be the same subject). Basically research based/centered while giving the reader room to make their own decisions. [more inside]
posted by triscuit at 12:31 PM PST - 5 comments

Best NYC beaches with small kids?

I am looking forward to summer, when my kids will finally be old enough for me to manage a beach day trip without a stroller (I think). What are the best beaches, accessible by public transport, for small children? Requirements/desires within. [more inside]
posted by pipti at 10:52 AM PST - 7 comments

Polar bear climate refugees in Antarctica?

The recent declines of sea ice in the Arctic Ocean have me wondering. Would it be plausible (or even possible) to establish a viable population of polar bears in Antarctica? [more inside]
posted by nicepersonality at 10:30 AM PST - 14 comments

iPhone apps with unconventional design, behaviors and transitions?

What are some iPhone apps with unconventional and interesting design / behaviors / transitions? [more inside]
posted by critzer at 9:54 AM PST - 15 comments

When was the Jeff Beck album "Wired" released on 8-track?

I’m writing a story that includes references to the Jeff Beck album “Wired” on 8-track. The story takes place during the summer of 1976 and although I’m confident the LP was released in May of that year, I’d like to confirm that the 8-track was also available in stores in the spring or early summer of that year. [more inside]
posted by davebush at 8:04 AM PST - 6 comments

Liability insurance for non-car-owner - difficulty level: Massachusetts

I've called local agents, national insurers, automobile associations, insurance.com, etc, and everyone says they offer non-owners policies but specifically not in Massachusetts. [more inside]
posted by duoshao at 7:36 AM PST - 15 comments

Daily check-in services redux.

Does anyone have experience with daily check-in services? Preferably ones which utilize automated phone calls? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:52 AM PST - 5 comments

How to get past my husband's lack of attraction

My husband and I have been together for 16 years, married for 10. We started dating at almost 20. We generally have a good marriage, good communication, and love each other. However, several times over the past few years, my husband has told me that he is not attracted to my body. He still thinks my face is pretty and we still have sex about once a week, 2x a month if we're busy, and it's good. I'm having trouble getting past the fact that he feels this way, though. I'm angry and resentful. How do I move past this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:51 AM PST - 25 comments

Uncertainty about kids a good reason to stay unmarried?

We have a great relationship. For lots of reasons, it would make sense for us to get married in the near future. But she wants kids, and I'm not sure I do, or ever will. Would getting married be a bad idea, particularly if the likely alternative is to break up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:51 AM PST - 44 comments

What do I do once I learn guitar?

Last year I quit my job and went freelance/work-from-home. I'm also single & early 30's, so healthy and no big commitments. One of the first things I did was bought the electric guitar (2 actually, an 8-string & 6-string acoustic), because I've always wanted to learn and it's something I can work on during downtime. Now I'm finally getting the expected downtime, and a question popped into my brain - what am I gonna do with this? Help me understand where knowing guitar can take me. [more inside]
posted by saysthis at 3:18 AM PST - 9 comments

Can anyone decipher this signature on an oil painting?

My mother has a painting we have never been able to find the artist for. The signature is here -> http://m.imgur.com/F4oEHnc. The date below is 1887 and it is an oil painting, likely from the UK. There is a little damage above the third character (after the W).
posted by inflatablekiwi at 12:13 AM PST - 2 comments

February 19

What gets a low Uber passenger rating?

My driver today was confused as why my rating was low (4.5). I take Uber a lot, at least 3-4 times a week. I'm sure I've cancelled a couple times or I've been late, but I've never done a horror story (trying to smoke, throwing up, etc.). I also never had a bad driver experience. [more inside]
posted by geoff. at 10:26 PM PST - 13 comments

Does a service exist to optimize complex airline travel purchase?

Is there a business/service I can hire to help research somewhat complicated airline travel purchases? Like if I'm looking at a multi-city itinerary with some flexibility on specific cities and dates, using a combination of cash and existing miles and transferable points from various credit cards, looking for business/first upgrades or fares, etc? I am coming up short trying to comprehensively figure out my choices using kayak and airline web sites and so on and would gladly pay for an expert to do it for me. Are travel agents still a thing?
posted by Perplexity at 8:52 PM PST - 14 comments

Maybe my scale's broken?

I have weight to lose, but my body won't respond to anything I try. What's going on? [more inside]
posted by blerghamot at 8:47 PM PST - 37 comments

How to find apartment rentals for April 1st?

Hi everyone; I have to find an apartment in the area of Whitby,Ajax,Pickering or Oshawa Ontario for April 1,for my job. Would anyone know of a web site that only looks for apartments in the future(April 1)? Everytime I look I end up on Kijiji or Craig's list. Is there a "trick"to search better for this? Thanks :-)
posted by LOOKING at 8:37 PM PST - 7 comments

I can't find reference to alternate view of rapture ("left behind")

Unless my mind is playing tricks, I seem to recall reading in the last week or two a reference to an alternate view of the rapture and/or "left behind", where God calls the "good" folks to heaven, and then takes the angels and saints to earth to finish the job the "good" folks never did. [more inside]
posted by forthright at 8:30 PM PST - 5 comments

What kind of chair is this?

I'd like to know what kind of chair this is (scroll down a bit till you see the black&white pendleton dutch mid-century chair). Obviously the upholstery job is a custom thing, but if possible I'd love to figure out the designer/make/model of this chair so I can hunt one down for myself.
posted by matt_od at 8:15 PM PST - 5 comments

building more of a relationship with my little sister

Have you ever built up a relationship with your sibling when your relationship was previously distant? How did you do it? [more inside]
posted by fernweh at 8:14 PM PST - 11 comments

Seeking Reputable Fountain Pen Nib Repair (U.S.)

I have 3 Namiki Vanishing Point nibs that are in need of a nib doctor. Pilot - owner of Namiki, does not repair bent nibs, and cannot refer me. New nibs are $70. I need a reputable, cost effective repair-person. [more inside]
posted by ferkit at 8:01 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me find new shirts

I am looking for long-sleeve straight-bottom oxford-style shirts, in about a misses size 16. Do you know where I can find any, either online or in Albuquerque, New Mexico?
posted by maurreen at 7:55 PM PST - 4 comments

How to not work

I realized recently that everything I do turns into work. Accomplishments are great and all but I need to learn how to NOT work and enjoy my life. So.. uh.. how do I do that? [more inside]
posted by deathpanels at 4:48 PM PST - 21 comments

Did I do the wrong thing?

I made a noise complaint about a neighbour. Now I'm worried about a possible domestic dispute. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:43 PM PST - 13 comments

I feel like a marathon runner collapsing feet from the finish line.

I'm in the last semester of my Master's program, and cannot find the motivation to do anything. Help me help myself finish. [more inside]
posted by bluloo at 4:05 PM PST - 13 comments

Looking for emphatic warnings against really bad ideas

I like reading extremely emphatic warnings that something is a really bad idea and you should never do it. Like how the very first line of the manual page for gets() is "Never use this function," or how male-male extension cords are "illegal, dangerous, a fire hazard, and possible [sic] immoral." Does anyone know any other examples to scratch this itch of mine with a plugged-in soldering iron?
posted by J.K. Seazer at 3:39 PM PST - 103 comments

Just Go Outside and Play

I'm sorta wishing for Obama to step up and recess-appoint if possible. Is the Senate on 'recess' or not? Mother Jones says 'yes'. The Scalia mega-thread says 'no'. Any Hill-Watchers got the facts?
posted by j_curiouser at 3:24 PM PST - 5 comments

How To View "Independent Spirits The Faith and John Hubley Story?"

Other than paying $49 for a DVD, I can't find a way to rent or stream this fantastic-looking documentary. [more inside]
posted by 41swans at 3:24 PM PST - 2 comments

Looking for opinions on Media Temple for hosting a blog....

Just curious if anyone has any strong opinions about switching to Media Temple -- which is owned by GoDaddy. Has GoDaddy improved its image or reputation or anything since I last checked (which was years ago)? Does it matter that GoDaddy and MT are run separately or not?
posted by mhh5 at 3:20 PM PST - 7 comments

I'll drive to Sandwich for a sandwich

I'm in Central Massachusetts and like stuff like Sowa in Boston. Art, antiques, craft, and food all together! Are there any other places like this within a couple hours of Central Massachusetts?
posted by ReluctantViking at 2:59 PM PST - 9 comments

How to download complete Facebook message thread (sender and recipient)?

I'm editing my poetry manuscript and foolishly I've got a few stray poems nowhere else except scattered over some Facebook messenger threads. I'd love to find a way to quickly download threads without scrolling through the whole things, so I can quickly locate the poems I want to add to my draft. [more inside]
posted by Mistress at 2:33 PM PST - 2 comments

All my queerfolk ain't ... wait, no.

I'm looking for concise quotes that suggest or outright state that members of a marginalized group don't necessarily agree or have the same priorities on matters of culture, politics, religion, fighting oppression, etc. Zora Neale Hurston's "all my skinfolk ain't kinfolk" is a perfect example. References to the LGBTQ community and/or witty aphorisms are particularly welcome!
posted by zebra at 2:24 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me find a loud portable speaker for sweet jams

I am looking for a portable speaker to use with an iPhone that has excellent volume and moderate sound quality, in a price range of $100-200. Please help me find one! [more inside]
posted by beware the frog person at 1:50 PM PST - 11 comments

Looking for a public radio research entity.

Is there a college or university or blogger or non-profit (other than a CPB or NPR affiliated organization) that examines the operation or behavior of public radio stations? Not necessarily another news organization but something along the lines of the Electronic Freedom Foundation - like a watchdog (other than itself) that insures its coverage is fair and its function is ethical? The publication "Current" says it is independent from public radio as "Stars and Stripes" says it is independent from the military. Are there others?
posted by CollectiveMind at 1:36 PM PST - 6 comments

Trying to find the Time Warp. No, not that Time Warp.

When I was a kid in the mid-eighties, my family had a (Sony?) sample CD with music from several electronic musicians. I'm trying to find out what was on that CD so that I might be able to listen to some of that music again. Bonus challenge: I barely remember anything searchable about it! [more inside]
posted by Jpfed at 12:30 PM PST - 4 comments

How do you organize your drawers and keep them organized?

How do you keep drawers (and cupboards I guess) organized when there's a lot of little things in them? [more inside]
posted by purple_bird at 11:56 AM PST - 22 comments

Please help me feed my friends

I need a collection of ideas for easily prepared, light meals to serve when friends drop by. Think lunch or small plates to go with a glass of wine. Often friends will drop by within a couple hours notice. They like to eat and I like to be a good host. No firm dietary restrictions for most but these friends are interested in healthy eating, fewer carbs. One vegetarian in the mix. The entire meal does not have to be vegetarian. Thank you!
posted by goodsearch at 11:34 AM PST - 25 comments

Dog diagnosed with kidney disease

My 14-year-old Pekingese was diagnosed with kidney disease. We're at Stage 1 now and besides frequent urination and some chronic itching (which may or may not be related), she's not showing outward symptoms yet. I need some practical advice moving forward. [more inside]
posted by Zosia Blue at 11:03 AM PST - 9 comments

Unusual photo framing/mounting ideas?

I'm looking for unusual ways to display/mount photos that escape the usual bland thin-frame-white-border look. [more inside]
posted by gottabefunky at 10:45 AM PST - 6 comments

Wisdom Tooth Extraction the day before a Job Interview: A Bad Idea?

Wednesday, my dentist filled a cavity in one of my bottom wisdom teeth, and then told me to get the other bottom wisdom tooth removed, instead of having him fill the cavity. The next day, I lost my job. Insurance runs out on the 29th, and the only appointment for an extraction I could get is the day before a second interview for a new job. Should I try to reschedule the extraction? [more inside]
posted by SansPoint at 10:27 AM PST - 21 comments

Looking for a music playlist for a D&D bard to Inspire Courage!

I am now playing D&D on the site Roll20.com; the site allows you to upload and play music during the game. Since I am playing a bard, I'd like to have some inspiring FIGHT FIGHT WIN THE FIGHT music! Suggestions please? [more inside]
posted by Pastor of Muppets at 9:33 AM PST - 20 comments

Hello? Can you see what I'm looking for?

I am in need of a replica of the Lionel Richie clay bust from the "Hello" video. You know the one. [more inside]
posted by sourwookie at 8:39 AM PST - 10 comments

Who's paying for my friend's vacations? (while unemployed)

My friend (who has never failed to let everyone know how much he's making) was fired from his job a couple months ago in NYC. He now has gone one two vacations...while taking unemployment money. This is all information he voluntarily told all his friends. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:30 AM PST - 31 comments

Are These Fifteen Daggers I See Before Me?

Over the course of a number of years, my father-in-law gifted my wife with a goodly amount of (mostly decorative) daggers and knives. They're the kind of cheap/expensive stuff you'd see at renn faires, which is to say mass-produced, but ornate and probably worth from $75-$200. We would like to sell or just get rid of most of these somehow but aren't sure how to go about it. [more inside]
posted by picea at 8:27 AM PST - 4 comments

You don't have to put on the red light. (Or do you?)

I'd like some guidance on how to handle this red light traffic cam ticket in Los Angeles. My court date is today. [more inside]
posted by mykescipark at 8:20 AM PST - 5 comments

Destroying cosmetics in an artistic kind of way

How do still life photographers get the kind of cosmetic images you sometimes see in magazines? Some Examples here. [more inside]
posted by mippy at 8:09 AM PST - 16 comments

Toolchain for a newsletter

My workplace has a TV with upcoming events on it. The events are from a variety of sources. This is done super-manually right now. My boss wants that information available as a hard-copy newsletter now, with the events of the next week on it. And maybe other outputs like digital newsletter, or to social media accounts or via sms etc. This seems to me an ideal situation to have the info pulled into one source and then pushed out to many. What's a good process? [more inside]
posted by Iteki at 7:40 AM PST - 2 comments

How to find free or cheap iOS design assistance?

I'm a midcareer technical professional who is learning Swift and building an iOS app that I plan to release for free. I'm not much of a designer and I don't really want to be one; I'm used to working with staff designers and implementing their designs. What are some places where I can try to enlist free or cheap design help? [more inside]
posted by Kwine at 7:24 AM PST - 6 comments

A way to do remote participation at a large gathering with speaker?

How to let people watch a talk, ask the speaker a question, and later discuss the talk with other "attendees", without attending in person unless they want to? What tech would be used, how, to best make this happen? (We need to foster community without requiring travel.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:02 AM PST - 3 comments

If Light Can't Escape a Black Hole, Why Not Stars of the Same Mass?

I was stumbling around trying to explain to someone that sometimes a black hole is created at the end of a star's life cycle. And they said.... [more inside]
posted by justcorbly at 6:54 AM PST - 14 comments

Is it possible to download a digital copy of a physical album?

Recently I totaled my car and lost all my favorite CDs that were stored in the disc changer. I never ripped any of the albums to a computer so no digital copies exist, but I do have all the original cases and booklets. Is it possible to legally download digital copies to replace what I've already purchased?
posted by isopropyl at 3:14 AM PST - 17 comments

Inspiring best practice in your team

If you manage a team, what are some good ways to get people following best practice rather than sloppy shortcuts? Often there are ways to do things that seems like the easiest method but they can cause problems down the line. However, those problems are not guaranteed to occur and if they do, it's normally for a different person so motivation is lacking to make effort. [more inside]
posted by KateViolet at 12:55 AM PST - 19 comments

Please help me reverse engineer my favorite hair wax.

I just got a super short haircut, and started using this incredible hair wax to style it into tiny, tiny spikes: Scentsiv Unscented Fragrance Free Hair Styling Wax. It was the first hair wax I got that was truly unscented, and it works like a charm. It has also seemingly vanished off the planet. [more inside]
posted by spinifex23 at 12:28 AM PST - 9 comments

February 18

Help me find insurance

Demographic info: Male, 31, Oregon Complications: Semi chronic joint problems, somewhat unstable employment [more inside]
posted by 0bs01337 at 10:50 PM PST - 5 comments

Can I save this coffee?

I cheaped out and got bad coffee beans. I'm a coffee snob - can I save this coffee? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 10:42 PM PST - 20 comments

How to travel with/host a friend who is uncomfortable with eating?

I have a friend who I travel with and host occasionally. Friend is very controlling about food when it comes to herself, not others. She calorie restricts but doesn't want to talk about it. If she lets herself eat freely she falls into a distracted funk later on. I would appreciate any tips on traveling with/hosting a person who might be eating disordered. [more inside]
posted by charlielxxv at 10:32 PM PST - 20 comments

Mac music player not iThing

Is there a non-iTunes music player for OSX which can handle multiple file formats, and can be told not to go online for data? [more inside]
posted by anadem at 10:25 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me get to Northern California without excess baggage

Help a chronic over-packer get to San Fransisco with her one carry-on bag intact. [more inside]
posted by Champagne Supernova at 9:44 PM PST - 13 comments

How to create multiple resized copies from one source image?

I have a challenge almost exactly like this one. I produce a promotional image at print resolution and then need to create copies at different resolutions for the usual social media sites. [more inside]
posted by d-no at 6:47 PM PST - 7 comments

Un-blacklisted email accounts for cheap?

We have personal email accounts on our own domain and send maybe 1000 purely noncommercial, non-bulk emails in a month. Sometimes these get blocked by various blacklists, because we're sharing our SMTP servers with everyone else on 1&1. Help me find mail hosting that will not get blocked but also is cheaper than getting a dedicated virtual server for $13 a month. Assume that I can install and setup any reasonable Linux distro, if necessary, but a turnkey solution is preferred. [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 6:45 PM PST - 11 comments

What's the best setup for a new podcast?

Asking for my SIL: "I'm attempting an audio podcast for the first time and am trying to choose a media host. I would rather use a free site if possible, but I lack the technical knowledge to make an informed decision. Can people recommend a site?" [more inside]
posted by olinerd at 6:36 PM PST - 9 comments

Mom Brained

Help me get through the GRE when I have serious mom brain, have not done math in like 18 years, and have always really hated taking tests. [more inside]
posted by Rocket26 at 6:15 PM PST - 14 comments

Emotions for grown ups and toddlers

My toddler is at an age when I should be describing his emotions to him. I am pretty good at happy, shy, excited but I am really bad at describing negative emotions. In counseling, I describe all of my negative emotions as frustrated. The difference between mad and angry is non existent and in my mind those two words are almost the same as frustrated and upset. Please provide resources to explain the differences in these and other feelings. [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 6:10 PM PST - 14 comments

Options for determining if company email accessed by IT employee.

There was an accusation made privately that a member of the IT group at the company regularly accesses and reads the emails of senior executives without authority. Is there any way to investigate and get evidence? [more inside]
posted by linux at 5:08 PM PST - 18 comments

Show Google tasks on my phone calendar (iOS edition)

My question is pretty much what it says on the tin: I use Google tasks to manage my life, because being able to pin tasks to a specific day and shuffle them around depending on life/work/etc is really handy (also, I'm a professor, so I lay out my class schedules and then lay out my todos for the semester). [more inside]
posted by joycehealy at 4:41 PM PST - 5 comments

Exceptions to gender equality in marriage

In the Western world today, what differences or disparities (if any) still exist between the genders in terms of legal rights, responsibilities, and protections broadly related to marriage? [more inside]
posted by Gerald Bostock at 4:31 PM PST - 15 comments

Modern International Pop Music

I'm looking for current international pop music. Details inside [more inside]
posted by R.F.Simpson at 4:31 PM PST - 4 comments

how to hold a bass guitar

Bass playing Mefites, I need your help. [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 4:25 PM PST - 16 comments

What are some classic books for young children?

I've got a niece coming into the world soon, and as a gift for the shower, I was thinking of sending along a package of some of the books we were read as small children ourselves, as well as some newer books. Trouble is, I can really only remember two: The Poky Little Puppy and Mike Thaler's Owly (not the more recent comic book). Are there any other classic early childhood books that I should be sure to include?
posted by Pope Guilty at 4:19 PM PST - 50 comments

Naming email file in Windows Explorer with the date sent

I need to rename some email files with the sent date of the email. Help! [more inside]
posted by jimmythefish at 3:59 PM PST - 3 comments

In need of logistical help to pull off a Movie-style marriage proposal!

I have a running joke with my girlfriend regarding an over-elaborate way that I want to propose to her, what I'd love to do is catch her completely off-guard by actually pulling it off! [more inside]
posted by 777 at 3:52 PM PST - 23 comments

Friendship right after a break-up?

Hi everyone, I recently broke up with a guy (met online) I dated for 4 months. We were never officially bf/gf and we never slept together. Our dates felt platonic because we never went past 2nd base. It was a mutual breakup because we both wanted different things. I wanted a committed relationship and he wasn't ready for that. When we broke up about a week ago, he said he'd like to be friends and I told him I didn't want that. I feel like I'm in a clear mindset now and I realize things ended for the right reasons but I still enjoy his company and we got along great. Is it too soon for me to suggest that we be friends and continue to hang out platonically?
posted by missybitsy at 3:43 PM PST - 9 comments

Why don't TV stations stream their programming?

For example, why can't I see the network news shows in real time on my computer? For that matter, why don't they steam their entire lineups, ads and all? They'd reach more viewers, and surely it's not that expensive. Yes, I understand that local affiliates decide what and when to broadcast. But why don't the locals just stream a mirror of their broadcasts (which don't require cable or satellite etc)?
posted by LonnieK at 3:17 PM PST - 14 comments

I said, "Astounding, you?"

Which Ratatat song is sampled in this Lakutis track? [video likely NSFW for language, Lakutis] [more inside]
posted by komara at 3:09 PM PST - 2 comments

How do I recreate this referral form on my website?

For my business website, I'm building an online referral program (refer a friend? you get $20 credit and they get 25% off their first order sort of thing). I've found exactly what I want but I am lost in the wilds of Form apps online. Here is what I want to re-create. I'm not a coder but understand basic HTML. I just want to know what app I need to use to build this form on my site. using WIX here. Recreating the text box whose contents can be button-shared via email + Facebook are key for me.
posted by caveatz at 2:44 PM PST - 4 comments

New Orleans food suggestions and help me find an article I read once...

Traveling to NOLA and I have two questions: I read a really great article about Jean and Pierre Lafitte in the New Yorker or Harpers or maybe it was a podcast on This American Life (?). It was beautifully written and very dramatic, and now I can't find it. Hope me! Also, recommendations for NOLA-typical foods that are usually gluten-free (instead of gluten-free specific restaurants). Thank you! [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 2:38 PM PST - 6 comments

How do you make better life decisions?

How do you deliberately learn how to make better decisions whether it be your personal life or your professional life? How do you get better at making decisions that you take rarely - i.e. whom to get married to, what business to start, where to go to school, etc. [more inside]
posted by rippersid at 2:29 PM PST - 16 comments

Is it kosher to give money to a charity that my relative benefits from?

I have a relative who benefits from a charitable organization. I have money, but not enough to give the same amount of benefits this organization provides. Is it ok for me to give this charitable organization a donation that I will claim on my taxes? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:14 PM PST - 18 comments

Identity theft, IRS edition

What measures should I take after learning that someone else has filed taxes using my SSN? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:12 PM PST - 5 comments

Homemaking blogs written by a childfree author?

I like to read lifestyle blogs about homemaking, with a focus on homesteading, country life, simple living, and/or home decor and DIY renovation projects. But almost everything I can find is written by stay-at-home moms and contains lots of content about motherhood. I'm childfree and just can't seem to connect emotionally with that type of content. Are there any blogs about these topics that are parenthood-free?
posted by daisies at 1:28 PM PST - 22 comments

Finding a therapist in DC

Looking for personal, tried-and-true recommendations for a therapist in the DC area who works with adult women with autism spectrum disorders and accepts United insurance. Must be transit-accessible. [more inside]
posted by robot cat at 1:03 PM PST - 0 comments

What should I do at the gym today?

I'd like to have a vague plan for what to do at the gym when a.) I don't want to feel like I'm wasting my time, and b.) I can't commit to going on a regular schedule/keeping track of progress/etc. because [REASONS]. All of my lame excuses and beanplating within... [more inside]
posted by sparklemotion at 12:35 PM PST - 20 comments

Can therapy counter-act hormones?

I had been making some progress on the whole 'stop worrying about everything and try to be less sensitive' front. All of it went out the window when I started a medication that affects my hormone levels. Is there a way to CBT yourself out of biology, or will I be a nervous wreck forever? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 12:27 PM PST - 3 comments

Automated Cloud Work-Flows Handling Web Pages

Sorry for super-inarticulate title. There are web services that will automatically (or on schedule) check web pages, download web pages, push buttons on web pages, etc, and manipulate the result in various ways (e.g. save to dropbox). Anybody know what I'm talking about? [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 11:49 AM PST - 5 comments

Can anyone recommend an van/taxi service in Taipei?

Need to transport a guy and film equipment [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 11:11 AM PST - 0 comments

Mumbai for the Clueless

I’m an American thinking about traveling to Mumbai in the next few months. I’ve never been to India. What should I know? [more inside]
posted by Itaxpica at 10:50 AM PST - 12 comments

Name a community weblog without an "o" in the name. Bet you can't!

There's this Facebook thing. A question will be asked like "Name a city without the letter E in the name. Bet you can't!" or some other equally easy question. 8032324089 people will then comment "Um, Atlanta! OMG This is so easy how stupid do u think i am?" People jump all over them to show how smart they are. What's the point of these things? [more inside]
posted by bondcliff at 10:36 AM PST - 11 comments

What is the best way to source beauty and fragrance products for retail?

I'm new to beauty/fragrance buying - lend me your expertise! [more inside]
posted by moxie_milquetoast at 10:11 AM PST - 2 comments

Tattoo Artist in NYC area with similar style to Pony Reinhardt?

I am currently obsessed with the style of tattoo done by Pony Reinhardt at her studio Tenderfoot Studio. I signed up for her email list in the hopes she will do an East Coast tour and I could schedule an appointment, but there are no guarantees there. Are there Tattoo Artists working in New York (or a nearby state) who have a similar aesthetic?
posted by Julnyes at 9:57 AM PST - 6 comments

Reputable seller of laptop parts?

I want to replace the failing keyboard on my off-brand laptop. Where do I find a reputable seller? [more inside]
posted by paper chromatographologist at 9:55 AM PST - 5 comments

how can I play classic nintendo games with save states?

Is there a way (legal/ethical) that I can play classic Nintendo games with save states? I have an original Wii, a GameCube and a 3DS, and between those platforms, I own (i.e. I paid for) several Zelda games and other 80s NES favorites. I want to play these games all the way through again, but I'm lazy and don't have time/don't want all the grind. [more inside]
posted by peep at 9:54 AM PST - 7 comments

How do I be a competent supervisor?

I'm a charge nurse in a residential facility where I work with 5 nurse's aides and 2 med techs each evening. Part of my job is supervising them. Before this job I was a floor nurse for 2 years with a charge nurse that I myself reported to. This is the first supervisory job I've had. I am so bad at managing people and I don't even know where to start. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 9:54 AM PST - 13 comments

break-up the breakdown

Give me your tips on getting through the acute part of a break-up. [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 9:48 AM PST - 30 comments

Why does Windows keep resetting my theme?

I'm trying to change my theme on Windows 8.1, but every time the computer goes into sleep mode it resets the theme when it wakes up. How do I stop this from happening? [more inside]
posted by noxperpetua at 9:40 AM PST - 1 comment

Can I get my credit card to lower my APR?

I have a credit card that I've been paying off for the last three years and have not been making any new purchases on because of the high APR (19.9%). Every year they have increased my total credit limit, which is now at $17,500. I have a balance of $1600 on the card (which I plan on paying off completely with my tax return). My FICO credit score is 762. I'm planning on calling them to try and negotiate a lower APR but I had a few questions I was hoping you could help me with. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:36 AM PST - 10 comments

W2 shows old address. Employer says it's fine. Is it?

You are not my lawyer, or tax preparer. I have been working at the same company for a few years. In September of 2014, I moved. I asked my employer what I needed to do to make sure my file was updated with the correct address, and was told to add the new address to the HR portal, which I did. A couple of weeks ago, my W2 forms were sent to my old address. Fortunately they were returned to the office. I asked HR if I can get updated forms and was told "you don’t need a corrected W2 for an address change. You will be able to file your taxes without an issue with the address and enter your own address for your return." [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:35 AM PST - 15 comments

How did you stay sane during the Cold War?

Nowadays we walk around with little devices that alert us anytime something even remotely frightening happens anywhere on earth. The threats posed by ISIS and other terrorist groups make it seem as though the world has never been more dangerous. But during the Cold War, the threat of nuclear annihilation loomed heavily and constantly. If you were a neurotic person alive during this time, how did you cope with the awareness of that constant threat?
posted by jefficator at 9:28 AM PST - 34 comments

Cat with adominal cancer. What next?

My 16-year-old cat just had an ultrasound, and the vet says he's got tumors "all over his abdomen." She estimates that he has 2-4 good weeks left, and gave me steroids as palliative care. He is seems fine now; sleeps a lot, but has a healthy appetite. I am of course a mess. MeFis who have gone through this, how did you know when it was time to let go? How and when did you talk to your toddler and preschooler about it? What did you do in the meantime that helped?
posted by snickerdoodle at 9:28 AM PST - 24 comments

Where Does This Pottery Come From?

Help me track down the manufacturer who made my vase & jug. I picked up the vase in a local charity shop a few years back. Last week my partner gave me the jug as a birthday present (another charity shop find). I LOVE my vase & my jug - and I'd love to know more about who made them and where/when. [more inside]
posted by kariebookish at 9:09 AM PST - 2 comments

Suggestions for repeat London visit?

My husband and I are heading to London for vacation in a few weeks. Both of us have already seen the big sights on previous trips. We have some ideas about what to do, and we have some Premier League tickets we're very excited about, but we're looking for additional suggestions. We're also wondering where we should eat, and whether there are any good day trips we should consider. [more inside]
posted by Carmelita Spats at 8:38 AM PST - 27 comments

Vitamins and supplements worth taking?

Which vitamins and supplements, if any, are worth actually taking on a regular basis? No snow-flaky details here, just a regular, out-of-shape, delivery food-eating, occasional exerciser who sits in an office all day. [more inside]
posted by shotgunbooty at 7:58 AM PST - 27 comments

Quiet, non-lux living along the Mediterranean this summer: where to?

My wife and I would like to rent a simple furnished apartment or small house somewhere along the Mediterranean this summer, for about a month. We just want a place where we can do some writing and go swimming every day. The catch is that we don't have much more than 500€ or so to pay for rent. Seeking recommendations for countries, specific islands, towns or villages, or website recommendations! [more inside]
posted by Beardman at 7:34 AM PST - 8 comments

"The oysters were delighted" song lyrics?

Song detectives, can you crack this crazy-tough one? Way back in the early '90s we had a mixtape with a song that included the phrase (we think) "the oysters were delighted!" I think the mixtape's theme was moon-related. [more inside]
posted by taz at 7:18 AM PST - 11 comments

Vegetarians, tell me about your poops

I'm more of an omnivore than a vegetarian, but I notice a difference in the quality of my bowel movements when my diet gets more leafy vegetable and whole-grain heavy. It gets in the way of my lifestyle sometimes. I'm wondering if anyone has had similar experiences. [more inside]
posted by Borborygmus at 7:03 AM PST - 10 comments

iPad mini performance issues (model md544a/b)

My iPad mini is creaking but still useful. However, Safari crashes often (I've noticed it when browsing news sites like independent.co.uk in particular). Have you got any tips for improvements, things I need to check or change in settings or other management? Cheers!
posted by dash_slot- at 5:49 AM PST - 9 comments

Best practices for shared google calendars in a small office.

This is one of those questions that seems like it should be so simple, but for some reason we can't figure it out. What is the best practice so all our staff can have shared calendars from their primary calendar and invite each other to events as an office, without creating a multitude of 'duplicate' events? [more inside]
posted by LongDrive at 4:10 AM PST - 7 comments

None of my mac devices will connect to the internet

Hello hive. A bit of a head scratcher here Suddenly none of my mac devices will connect to the internet on my network. I was working fine earlier This problem is both wired and wirelessly. My macbook air, iphone and ipad None will connect to the internet However my friend is able to connect with his devices. I deleted and re entered DNS address, restarted everything multiple times. Still no prize. My iphone and my ipad both connect to a 3g network no problem. The only thing these devices have in common is my apple ID What do you think?
posted by citybuddha at 3:33 AM PST - 12 comments

What kind of pump could I use to drain water from this bucket away?

I need to pump water that I'm collecting in a bucket outside my house, away from the house. Here's a picture of the bucket http://imgur.com/kbwSus3. I could probably power it through an electrical cord out of the window (though I have no grounded outlets or GFCI). Any ideas? More details inside... [more inside]
posted by Mushroom12345 at 1:08 AM PST - 9 comments

French TV show soap-opera for daily practice learning French?

I am learning French. So I am looking for a long-running episodic French TV show that is: popular enough to be "available" online, about 30 mins per episode, somewhat entertaining, relatively current / recent, and with lots of dialogue. The aim is to watch just one short episode every evening, in order to improve my listening comprehension. [more inside]
posted by mary8nne at 12:28 AM PST - 13 comments

February 17

Spa treatments with bonus pool access in Maui

We are looking for recommendations for a day spa (potentially at a hotel, and preferably on the beach) in Maui, where the purchase of a spa treatment would also include access to the hotel's amenities (pool/sauna/private beach access, etc) at virtually no added cost. [more inside]
posted by egeanin at 10:44 PM PST - 2 comments

Semantics of the word Negro

I'm a 33 year old white man. I have always been uncomfortable with the word negro, for a bunch of reasons. So my question is: can I sing along with Beyonce's Formation? [more inside]
posted by special agent conrad uno at 10:35 PM PST - 18 comments

Help dealing with a dying NT-Aspie relationship

In short, I am trying to help myself accept that I have to end my relationship with my boyfriend. Although he has never been diagnosed, I'm fairly certain that he has Asperger's (whereas I'm NT), and our inability to communicate with one another is taking a toll on my mental health. He is full of love and respect for me but has done things that hurt me and our relationship so badly, that I feel that I cannot recover at this point. Please help me find the strength and resources to get through this. [more inside]
posted by NeverGrowSoOldAgain at 9:30 PM PST - 41 comments

The baby/toddler next door screams more than what I think is normal

In the evenings, there's a deep male voice that yells, "stop it!", "be quiet!", "NO!", multiple times, and there are really loud banging noises along with this. One day when I walked past their door, there was a woman putting boxes outside who looked exhausted. I said Hi and she barely acknowledged me. When the guy gets excessively loud - like just now - I'll yell, "WHAT THE FUCK!?" to try to let them know I can hear them, but the kid just keeps screaming. [more inside]
posted by bendy at 9:01 PM PST - 36 comments

Twinkle, twinkle, little Lilypad stars...

...how I wonder if I can get my Arduino Lilypad crafting project to work, when I only learned about Arduino less than 2 weeks ago and hand-sewing less than 72 hours ago? [more inside]
posted by Tsukushi at 8:28 PM PST - 4 comments

What would you expect in a proofreading class?

I've recently been recruited to teach in a graphic design vocational program, and what they've given me to teach is a module on proofreading. Sixty hours on proofreading. I taught one class this evening and can see that I'm going to have to pad this out – but with what? [more inside]
posted by zadcat at 6:19 PM PST - 14 comments

Preserving the stability I've worked so hard to achieve

After being diagnosed with bipolar II, my partner and I accidentally built my coping strategies around my total emotional reliance on him. Now that I have my career on track and have moved into what was to be "our home," I feel my stability at risk as it truly sinks in that he is exiting the relationship, but wants to remain as friends and a support system. How can I process this grief without compromising my stability? [more inside]
posted by asmith30 at 4:18 PM PST - 19 comments

Vegetarian Asian Recipes to Impress

What's your favorite flavorful, interesting Asian vegetarian main course? [more inside]
posted by WidgetAlley at 4:01 PM PST - 22 comments

switching from Final Cut Pro to iMovie mid-project

I have slightly less than two weeks to edit a video project. Due to unforeseen circumstances, I'm going to start editing on a MacBook with Final Cut Pro (in Location A) and then have to finish on an iMac with iMovie (in Location B). My Final Cut Pro clips should import to iMovie without any loss of quality, right? I assume yes, but I just need to double check so I'm not pulling my hair out in a week.
posted by roger ackroyd at 3:33 PM PST - 2 comments

Do I need an ophthalmologist or an optometrist?

I think I might suddenly need glasses, and have a few questions. I don't think I'll be able to have an eye exam until Friday. I started noticing pain in one eye last week--it sort of feels like the eye muscle is straining to focus, and it really hurts. I also noticed that if I cover each eye, the opposite eye has blurry vision (though with both open, things are only slightly blurry). Do I just need a standard eye exam, or should I book an appointment with an opthalmologist? I don't really know the difference, and spending time googling is painful for my eyes right now. Other info: I have to work long hours on a computer. I've had horrible insomnia over the last week, and have been taking Benadryl to try to help me sleep, which I know can dry the eyes. I've never worn glasses before.
posted by three_red_balloons at 2:45 PM PST - 27 comments

Can you help me sort out this complicated 401(k) rollover situation?

I have an undeposited 401(k) rollover check from when I changed jobs a year ago. I've since changed jobs again, and now I need to use a portion of that money for a down payment on a house. Is rolling it over to an IRA the right move? [more inside]
posted by cabingirl at 2:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Toddler Proof IPhone Case

My husband saw a toddler-proof iPhone case online and now we can't find it again. Hope me. [more inside]
posted by amro at 2:40 PM PST - 5 comments

How do you hire a wedding DJ?

I need some help knowing how to navigate hiring a DJ for my wedding reception. The difficulty: my fiancee and I are fairly particular about the music we want to hear. Can I just hand a flash drive or a playlist of 100 songs to a DJ and just say "only these songs, nothing else" - is that a thing that happens, or what? Because that's really what I'd like to do, but I'm not sure wedding DJs actually are willing to do that.
posted by koeselitz at 2:11 PM PST - 23 comments

Seeking inexpensive wooden Adirondak chair kits, where I assemble them.

My condo association has been purchasing plastic chairs for our common areas, and they break and/or they get broken by vandals. Long story short -- one chair fell apart yesterday, injured a condo owner, now the plastic chairs are gone. Which is a good thing. I've offered to build chairs out of wood -- they won't break, harder to vandalize, chained down they can't be stolen. [more inside]
posted by dancestoblue at 1:29 PM PST - 14 comments

Day planners for the inexperienced

I, a terrible procrastinator and perpetually disorganized, would like to start using a day planner to sort out the mess I am letting my life become. HALP. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 12:30 PM PST - 34 comments

Home by Kirkland Signature

What durable Costco items are worth buying? [more inside]
posted by R a c h e l at 12:11 PM PST - 44 comments

Super-cute tiny bag for cruise

We are going on a cruise with friends in a few weeks. My clothes have no pockets. Looking for suggestions for a small bag to carry a few essentials on board, details below. [more inside]
posted by telophase at 11:35 AM PST - 20 comments

Contemporary/ Modern art in Cairo, Egypt

I'm off to Cairo in a couple of weeks and would appreciate any tips for looking at the art scene there, from museums and galleries to events and people of interest. I'm no expert but have found post 40's art to be a growing interest of mine.
posted by quarsan at 10:55 AM PST - 4 comments

How do I get tickets to Barcelona v Arsenal?

I am an American and a soccer fan. I will be in Barcelona on Wednesday March 16, when Barcelona play Arsenal in a Champions League match. How do I get tickets? [more inside]
posted by Flood at 10:53 AM PST - 7 comments

What'syour favorite academic press?

I like to browse the websites of academic publishing houses for new releases. For example, University of Minnesota Press has a deliciously quirky list of titles. Who else should I follow?
posted by Jason and Laszlo at 10:30 AM PST - 15 comments

I need to be really strong right now

My period has left me feeling weaker than usual. I've been to see the doctor, but need to go back to work tomorrow. What can I do to feel stronger by then? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 9:10 AM PST - 22 comments

Can you identify this Akiba ramen shop?

I'm trying to identify the ramen shop in this picture. It was taken in 2009, and I'm pretty sure it was on Chuo Dori. I'm hoping the shirts or signage gives a name or hint. [more inside]
posted by cosmonaught at 8:48 AM PST - 2 comments

H&R Block email gone astray. Ideas for how & why?

I purchased tax software from the H&R Block web site. I've installed it, and it runs fine, but I was supposed to get a receipt with my authorization code. I've stimulated re-sends with no success. How can this happen? [more inside]
posted by SemiSalt at 8:19 AM PST - 4 comments

Should I fight for my relationship for our daughter's sake?

How do you decide what is more important, to fight for your family, or to fight for what you believe in, which may never happen? [more inside]
posted by MamaBee223 at 8:05 AM PST - 47 comments

Seeking resources on falsetto singing

Looking for practical resources for "male" singers (i.e. folks with a history of high testosterone) looking to improve at singing falsetto. [more inside]
posted by nebulawindphone at 7:51 AM PST - 8 comments

Why are U.S. homeowners responsible for sidewalks, but not roads?

Is there a historical/systematic reason that homeowners in cities are responsible for the upkeep of the sidewalks, but not the public roads outside their homes? [more inside]
posted by nicodine at 7:21 AM PST - 36 comments

Where to live in Cincinnati?

I am headed in Cincinnati early next month. The Mr. will be interviewing for a job, while I spend the day with a relocation specialist figuring out where we will want to live should the interview go well. The relocation specialist wants to know which neighborhoods I want to visit. Ideal living situation details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by songs_about_rainbows at 6:56 AM PST - 8 comments

Help! Someone's trying to fire my mom!

My sweet, wonderful Mom just got an email from her boss that she's starting the termination process. She's a midlevel executive in a large state organization, has been for 25 years, and I think was trying to eek our her last few years till retirement and pension. She got a new crazy-sounding boss a few years ago and the situation has been getting progressively worse. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:50 AM PST - 13 comments

What does it mean to be a part of a bicycle club?

A friend wants me to join his small road bicycling team. I'm pretty set in my cycling ways and have not been a part of clubs or organizations of any sort for 20 years -- is this something I can just do to be polite without active participation? [more inside]
posted by M.C. Lo-Carb! at 6:19 AM PST - 9 comments

What is this new dog's name?

We're 99% sure we're bringing home a new dog tonight, to be a companion to our beloved dog already in residence. Following Metafilter regulations, pictures of current dog, Birdie, and new dog are here. [more inside]
posted by ImproviseOrDie at 6:09 AM PST - 55 comments

How should I convince my daughter to eat?

My daughter is 12. She has been quite anxious about her weight and appearance for some time now: expressing worry that she will look overweight, that she will gain weight too fast, not wanting to go through puberty. She has been self-restricting her diet for over a year now, minimizing portions and skipping meals, usually claiming fullness or "not feeling good." Her counselor is focused on the underlying causes, especially trying to show her how to deal with anxiety (generalized or social anxiety from middle school). Her doctor however is upset about her weight loss: she is under her recommended BMI and over the last month or so she lost four pounds. The doctor is threatening a hospital stay if she doesn't catch up on her growth chart, and wants us (her parents) to treat food like necessary medicine. So we've been giving basic consequences (loss of priveleges, especially favorite shows or hobbies) and she has been eating better for a few days, but she is also getting angrier and angrier, resorting to shouted accusations of cruelty. [more inside]
posted by TreeRooster at 6:07 AM PST - 72 comments

ID a song from this mid to late-90s commercial?

Help me identify this song from a vague memory of a commercial. The timeframe is about mid to late 90s and it was in the USA. I think it was for beer, and the song was foreign (my memory says French but there's no way I would have known that at the time). [more inside]
posted by C^3 at 5:21 AM PST - 5 comments

I can only lift weights on two consecutive days a week, help me

Because of other commitments that are unalterable in the next 6-12 months, I can only do weight training on weekends. [more inside]
posted by i_am_joe's_spleen at 1:06 AM PST - 8 comments

February 16

Seattle parenting: stuff you wish you'd known/done earlier

I'm looking for things you'd maybe learn the hard way as parents, or pick up from other parents, specific to Seattle. Do you know of any of these tidbits, or where to find out more about the "lay of the land" for Seattle parenting? (Our daughter is almost 2 right now, if it helps.) [more inside]
posted by joshuaconner at 11:15 PM PST - 5 comments

Need a site that focuses on diagnosis of really difficult cases.

I am writing this while at the Mayo clinic trying to find a diagnosis for my father who is very ill. After 2-3 misdiagnosis all from extremely reputable and knowledgeable doctors my family is nearing the end of our rope. I feel like we need a bulletin board or way of posting to a site where you can get informative off-the-cuff opinions from health detectives like the New York Times Diagnosis section. Another example is this DIY geneticist who found her gene mutation by seeing a photo of an Olympic medalist, link to Pro Publica story here which is fascinating. Is there anywhere to post a medical story and perhaps get some interesting new leads? With immense love and thanks, ejourdan
posted by ejourdan at 9:53 PM PST - 6 comments

Disconnect random Facebook Ads account from my profile?

A stranger's Facebook Ads account was somehow connected to my personal Facebook profile. How do I disconnect it? [more inside]
posted by kwaller at 9:30 PM PST - 4 comments

Gray lie on warranty?

So I bought a new small kitchen appliance that I'm very happy with in mid-December. It comes with a great 10 year warranty, which is a big part of the reason I selected this rather than another unit. Apparently I was supposed to register it within 10 days of purchase. I did not even realize I had to do this until today, when I was reading some Amazon reviews for it and someone mentioned the 10 day policy. Am I screwed on this, or can I just lie and said I just bought it/it was a gift that I just received? [more inside]
posted by permiechickie at 8:27 PM PST - 7 comments

What are my new kittens' names?

My partner and I just got two 5-month-old Maine Coon kittens, and they need names! (More photos below, of course.) [more inside]
posted by 168 at 7:40 PM PST - 39 comments

We Are The Crystal Gems

What is a good source for written as the episodes aired synopses for Steven Universe? I am late to the show but I'd still like to read what people were thinking as the show unfolded. Please no spoilers, I'm only about halfway through the first season.
posted by nadawi at 6:08 PM PST - 5 comments

I got screwed. Now what?

Remember my last question about selling a camera on Craigslist? Well, only days later it was gone - not sold, but stolen by a scammer who convinced me to accept payment via Venmo. Now what? [more inside]
posted by Venadium at 4:56 PM PST - 29 comments

Should I date?

My life is busy. Over the past decade, I have kept saying to myself, "I'll start seriously dating again a little... later. After all this... stuff... blows over." But it has never blown over; it just keeps piling on. Should I spend the couple of hours a week I can make free on dating? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by clawsoon at 4:28 PM PST - 24 comments

Transformation

I need examples of famous works of fiction in books, short stories, plays, maybe movies, though that seems to easy, in which a character goes through a physical transformation. [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 4:11 PM PST - 49 comments

Designing and selling a consumer product

I have an idea for a pretty simple consumer product (no electronic components or the like) that I'd like to design, manufacture, and sell (probably on amazon?) What's the best way to do this? [more inside]
posted by jourman2 at 3:30 PM PST - 5 comments

Best way(s) to bring house insulation up to comfortable levels.

Original 1950’s construction 6 room (3 bedroom) cape cod style house north of Boston MA with varying levels of (inadequate) insulation. How do insulate this house? [more inside]
posted by eatcake at 3:11 PM PST - 8 comments

Best web/security cam for capturing the catfights?

Looking for something simple that will let me see on my phone a) that the garage door is closed (its usually dark in there) and b) capture video (and audio would be awesome) when motion triggered of our cats scrapping at home. I'm thinking this would be 3 cameras, if something is easier to manage a set of cameras thats a plus. Would love something that alerts me to motion, then I get to see the video hoping for a crazy match. Suggestions?
posted by H. Roark at 1:30 PM PST - 11 comments

How to start strong leading a new team?

Soon, I'll start managing a different team in the same company. What are some things I can do in the first days/weeks to make everyone feel great about this change and excited for what's coming in the future? [more inside]
posted by ferociouskitty at 1:04 PM PST - 12 comments

Identify this earworm

What song is this from: "I loved you but you didn't feel the same." [more inside]
posted by Michele in California at 12:52 PM PST - 4 comments

Let's play: math problems with a comm major!

I'm having trouble wrapping my head around a math equation I need to create, possibly because the data I have to cook something up with is less than ideal and only good for faking a preliminary number. Maybe you can help... [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 12:13 PM PST - 5 comments

Board game for muli-lingual family

Can you recommend an easy to learn/play board game for my family? We speak a lot of languages in my family and lack a common language that everyone masters so communication can be a challenge sometimes. [more inside]
posted by Foci for Analysis at 11:56 AM PST - 28 comments

Need flat-fee financial advisor specializing in NYC real estate

My partner and I are seeking recommendations for how to find a NYC-area, flat-fee fiduciary financial advisor with strong knowledge of NYC real estate. Specifically, we are looking for advice about how to balance our needs for housing and a secure retirement. [more inside]
posted by timnyc at 11:18 AM PST - 3 comments

Is that Pope Freud?

Help me identify or at least understand this rendering of what appears to be Freud with a golden mitre? [more inside]
posted by theefixedstars at 11:12 AM PST - 5 comments

Where'd Mom get that kind of money?

Is this "Forensic Auditor" thing a scam? Or might this be legit? [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 10:56 AM PST - 24 comments

Why does 1 WTC look like the top floors are still under construction?

The top 1/3rd or so of 1 WTC is illuminated, at night, by intensely bright white lights which look almost exactly like construction lights hung in unfinished buildings. Other skyscrapers are lit by warmer yellowish office lights. What's the deal? Are those floors empty or is that just the new trend in skyscraper lighting?
posted by grumpybear69 at 10:55 AM PST - 2 comments

Books on sewing men's jeans/trousers?

I have a creative friend who wants to make his own clothes, so I recently purchased him this book on shirtmaking. But what about the bottom half? I'll get him the same author's trouser book, but does anyone know of resources for making jeans, or any other man-focused sewing info? So much seems to be focused on women, with men's items being just a sidebar. He's very fashionable, so even pattern maker suggestions, etc. are welcome.
posted by OneSmartMonkey at 10:52 AM PST - 11 comments

How to Become Resilient

I read this interesting New Yorker article by Maria Konnikova about how people become more (or less) resilient. I'd like to read more about the things she talks about. Can anyone recommend books that talk about resilience. [more inside]
posted by nevan at 10:46 AM PST - 15 comments

Statistics reference?

Is there a standard statistics reference that I can buy for easy . . . reference? I'm looking for something that is more encylopedic than a textbook. It doesn't have to be an exhaustive resource, but one that contains most of the standard methods and practices, as well as decent explanations of the statistical theories behind them.
posted by Think_Long at 10:42 AM PST - 5 comments

Long-term single living and planning for the future

I'm thirty this year, and I'm single. I'm going to be single for a long time coming - romantic relationships aren't something I pursue, I don't date, I do absolutely nothing in the pursuit of love because it simply doesn't interest me. What steps can I take going forward to ensure quality of life as a happily single person in a world that defines you by your romantic relations? I'm particularly looking for stories around making big life changes without the support of a partner, and getting older alone. [more inside]
posted by winterhill at 9:54 AM PST - 26 comments

Am I still, or was I ever, eligible for dual citizenship in the EU?

I was born in Spain with a "birth of US citizen abroad" certificate. Can I apply to be a dual citizen of Spain and the US? Is it too late for me? Was this ever even a possibility? [more inside]
posted by helloimjennsco at 9:49 AM PST - 7 comments

How to find a babysitter in Montreal?

We need occasional evening babysitting in Montreal for our two daughters aged 2 and 6. In the past, I have always found babysitters through recommendations of family and friends, but we know almost no one in the city and so don't have a good network to draw on. [more inside]
posted by 256 at 9:30 AM PST - 8 comments

Story of a holy man who chooses the company of sinners?

Trying to remember a parable of a holy man who chose instead to dine/associate with a sinner instead of his devoted followers, because the sinner had more need of his comfort/presence/teachings than did those who already knew him... sound familiar to anyone? [more inside]
posted by The otter lady at 9:25 AM PST - 7 comments

I need a laundry service in Vancouver, BC

I need someone to do my laundry for me. I do not have a washing machine and am not well enough to go to the laundromat regularly. Please recommend a laundry service or better strategies for finding one. [more inside]
posted by cronert at 9:24 AM PST - 9 comments

All that is necessary for the triumph of evil...

I am trying to compile all the quotes similar in meaning to Edmund Burke's All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing and need the hive mind to help me find as many as possible. [more inside]
posted by Kwadeng at 9:01 AM PST - 22 comments

Virtual High School

Any recommendations for a high quality non religious online high school program? Not looking to administer home schooling. Need a virtual school.
posted by grahahw at 8:53 AM PST - 10 comments

Quitting job without another lined up - yay or nay?

My job's pretty bad. I've detailed it here before, but now that I've regained some of my self-confidence, I'm ready to make the leap out of here. [more inside]
posted by gehenna_lion at 8:33 AM PST - 29 comments

Daily working Llfe of an MGM contract player in the 40s?

I'm looking for resources and sources on daily life for an average MGM contract player in 1940s - what an average working day looked like -- ideally focusing on mundane details like hours worked, how did you get there, union rules, where you entered and left, where you could and couldn't go etc. The more workaday the better. I've allready gone through Charles Brackett's diaries and halfway through MGM: Hollywood's Greatest Backlot ( which is good for physical locations so far), but its not as focused on the physical operations as I'd like.
posted by The Whelk at 8:14 AM PST - 7 comments

A disgusting hypothetical involving bedbugs and a broken leg

Hypothetical: Let's say you have a broken leg, with a cast dealy-job like so. But wait! You also have a bedbug infestation that, for various horrible reasons, is really bad and not being remedied. How would you convince the bedbugs to not inhabit the cast? [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 6:41 AM PST - 17 comments

Job dilemma

So I'm in a potentially awkward job hunting position. Basically, the company I work at currently is eliminating the department I'm working in because they've sold the block of business to another company. [more inside]
posted by hazel79 at 6:35 AM PST - 6 comments

$2,004 shipping for a water bottle?

There's a company on Amazon charging $2,004 to ship a plastic water bottle. Is this a new scam? If so, how does it work? Is there more of this? [more inside]
posted by john m at 6:19 AM PST - 9 comments

How should I handle leaving before the end of my lease?

I'm moving from Seattle to Boston and my new lease will start 4/1, but my old one goes until 6/30. Help me figure out the best way to minimize my costs and be a good renter without being a chump. [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 6:11 AM PST - 19 comments

Stomach symptoms instead of respiratory symptoms with a normal head cold

Over the past couple of years I've found I get gastro symptoms, not respiratory symptoms when I catch a cold. I'm looking for home remedies and self-care, and as it's gross, it's behind the jump. [more inside]
posted by AFII at 3:52 AM PST - 14 comments

Help me find hoodies.

I wear a lot of hoodies. But the ones I have left are worn to all hell. Help me find places on the Internet to buy new ones (specific criteria inside). [more inside]
posted by Fireland at 2:18 AM PST - 8 comments

in limbo

My life's turned upside down within the space of a couple of months. My dad has cancer, I've left my job, home, and city to move home to be there for him. Everything is so weird right now, I feel like I am in total personal limbo and completely ALONE. Has anyone who's been in this situation before got any advice to share with me? [more inside]
posted by sockandawe at 2:13 AM PST - 14 comments

How to stop dating after a couple dates?

I'm 32, date women and men, and am just getting back into dating. After two-three dates, what's the polite way to let someone know that you're not interested in dating further (because of lack of chemistry or whatever)? Does it change based on how naked you got with them? These are mostly internet dates where we text a little, don't talk on the phone, and don't see one another outside dating.
posted by anonymous at 1:16 AM PST - 28 comments

February 15

Art + Tech in NYC

How does a software engineer interested in contemporary art find people to make tech-y art projects with? [more inside]
posted by airmail at 9:53 PM PST - 12 comments

How can I transport Cialis pills for emergency use?

How can I transport Cialis/Viagra pills for emergency use? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:27 PM PST - 13 comments

Honeymooned in Portland and loved it...what's next?

My wife and I honeymooned in Portland, OR in 2012 and loved it. We just did the city. We are looking at planning another PNW getaway this year (up to a week) and are wondering what to do/where to go next? We like city stuff (restaurants, culture, walking, breweries, wineries) as well as being in the outdoors and hiking. What would you recommend for us? There are so many good options, we are having a hard time deciding!
posted by sgo at 7:04 PM PST - 15 comments

Wanted: interesting open-access peer-reviewed literature to read

Are you a researcher, engineer, doctor, or someone else who keeps up with the peer-reviewed literature in one field or another? What are some of the most interesting papers in your field that I, a layperson, can access? [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 6:50 PM PST - 21 comments

PDB data for a human α1β2γ2 GABA A receptor

Bathsheba Grossman is an American sculptor, notable in part for mathematically and biologically inspired sculptures printed in metal. Another line of artwork consists of mathematical and biological data etched in glass. I have seen the results of the process up close and they are striking. I would like to find data to make a laser etching of a human α1β2γ2 GABA A receptor. I have done a bit of Googling around, but most of the PDB files I have been able to find are just for associated proteins. Does anyone have an idea of where I might be able to find the right sort of data for the whole receptor?
posted by sindark at 6:15 PM PST - 4 comments

How often to roll 2d6 a special way to guarantee an outcome once?

There is an 8/36 chance that a very particular outcome can be generated by rolling 2d6 in a particular way (both described after the jump). How many times do I need to roll to be certain that this outcome occurs (ie, I can stop rolling)? How about 90 per cent certain? 80 per cent? [more inside]
posted by obiwanwasabi at 5:39 PM PST - 7 comments

Taxes

For the past 5+ years I've owed small amounts of Federal income tax, $5-$11. Why not this year? [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 5:07 PM PST - 10 comments

Salmon fishing in Alaska

We want to go salmon fishing in Alaska. We are roughly planning late June or early July. Have you done this before? Have any tips? [more inside]
posted by kamikazegopher at 4:16 PM PST - 6 comments

Warm Showers hospitality for touring cyclists

Does anyone have experience with the Warm Showers network they'd like to share? I don't want to sign up until I get more information than that on the website. [more inside]
posted by partner at 4:11 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me streamline a data gathering workflow?

What started as a screen scraping project has evolved (devolved?) into working with lots of word files with embedded tables. I found and customized an excel macro to extract them on a file by file basis. I'll describe what I'm doing with it inside. Can you give me some pointers on further automating what I'm doing -- or point me to a forum that can? [more inside]
posted by GPF at 2:46 PM PST - 3 comments

Good Excel/CSV data visualisation tools for Windows desktops?

How can I make Excel datasets look nice without too much mucking about? [more inside]
posted by turbid dahlia at 2:35 PM PST - 6 comments

Short Visit to Toronto-where should I nom?

I'll be in Toronto for project meetings. I'll be staying near the Eaton Centre, and likely on my own. Need some recommendations for nice noms at a comfortable price. [more inside]
posted by Ruthless Bunny at 2:34 PM PST - 15 comments

Nice person, nasty friends

When I lived in City I wanted to be friends with the members of Group. I tried but I find making friends really hard so I ran into troubles - got bullied by one and the others were indifferent to me, except for one who was my friend. I have lived abroad for the last few years and not really kept in touch (except for Facebook with a couple of them) . Now I am looking at jobs near to City... [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat at 1:46 PM PST - 10 comments

Name my new kittens [nerdy-edition]

I'm adopting two five month old kittens. Yay! Now: what do I name them? Picture 1, Picture 2. The tabby is a girl, mild and pretty shy. The black and white is a boy, super playful and outgoing - he's going to be a trouble-maker! Name criteria inside. [more inside]
posted by firei at 12:28 PM PST - 66 comments

Which lightweight tripod should I buy?

My old plastic tripod has finally started falling apart, and I'm in search of a replacement, but overwhelmed by all of the options. Looking for the best sub-$150 tripod available on Amazon. [more inside]
posted by bonifate at 12:03 PM PST - 14 comments

Figuring out when and if leaving job is financially feasible

I work in a public interest/government professional job, which has big advantages for my student loan situation, but may not want to stay forever. I'm also in a field where going into private practice is common. Mathematically, how do I figure out at what projected income level going into private practice would be a financially sound decision? Also interested in any strategies I haven't considered. [more inside]
posted by picardythird at 12:02 PM PST - 11 comments

What's it like to work in fundraising?

I'm writing a piece of fiction and have a character who works in fundraising for a big nonprofit. Is there anything I can read to find out what this sort of work is like? [more inside]
posted by toomuchkatherine at 11:49 AM PST - 13 comments

Looking for a candy tube supplier...

I am looking for a vendor that can supply about 500-1000 cardboard candy tubes similar to this , but half the size (anything less than an inch in diameter, less than 4 inches in length), AND could also print on the cardboard or possibly add a wrap/cover to it. I would provide them with a design file. Any vendors and suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
posted by likeapen at 11:48 AM PST - 2 comments

Question about regular expressions for interpreting sentences

I am bad at regexes. Let's say I want to search a body of text for a pattern, "the sixth planet is {%planet}." (Just like that, without the planet filled in.) My regex finds the sentence "The sixth planet is Saturn." I want to capture not just the pattern, but the word "Saturn," so I can stick it in a variable. [more inside]
posted by johngoren at 10:21 AM PST - 9 comments

Is there any use to keeping the leftover food used to create stock?

I've never really been much of a cook, but since New Years I've been trying to change that. Lately, I've been making some soups, but I'm finding the leftover vegetables and chicken are pretty flavourless...though I feel a bit guilty just throwing out the leftover food. Is there any use to keeping it?
posted by Proginoskes at 10:05 AM PST - 19 comments

Netherlands and Belgium on a scooter?

We are planning a two-week trip to Amsterdam for the last two weeks in May. Can we do it on rented Vespas? [more inside]
posted by raisingsand at 9:47 AM PST - 9 comments

Making Middle Schoolers Laugh

Looking for resources of clever puns, one-liners and dad jokes that will make middle school students think and laugh. [more inside]
posted by gnutron at 9:35 AM PST - 20 comments

Dixieland/New Orleans-style jazz in the Boston area?

Where can I hear Dixieland/New Orleans-style jazz in the Boston area? Dunno if I'm using the right terms - it's the jazz I hear on the show Treme, in Somerville's Honk! parade, and at Mardi Gras parties and parades.
posted by cadge at 9:29 AM PST - 6 comments

Travel: Is it even a reasonable idea?

I've been feeling more and more pressure to fulfill the rite of passage given to young white males: Travel. Financially, I barely have the means, but as a single guy who doesn't drink or know how to drive, I don't know if I should. Advice? [more inside]
posted by Philipschall at 9:24 AM PST - 41 comments

Why do some cultures develop prejudice toward LGBT individuals?

Some cultures foster majority-held, strongly anti-LGBT beliefs, and some do not, and religion doesn't seem to be the source of these attitudes, just a justification for them. Considering all this, what cultural forces account for anti-LGBT attitudes? What are the origins of these beliefs? [more inside]
posted by Lownotes at 9:07 AM PST - 18 comments

Can I recover lost TrueCrypt container?

Had to do a factory reset of my PC. All of my data was supposed to be backed up by Dell DataSafe (and mostly was) but my TrueCrypt containers are missing. Is there anyway to recover them? [more inside]
posted by jimmysmits at 8:56 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me plan a beach vacation in mexico

We are planning a beach vacation (for about 7-8 days) in Mexico in next few months with a 5-year-old and an 18-month-old. We are planning on spending most of the time at the beach or around the pool. Might for an excursion, if it’s something that we can handle with an 18-month-old. At night, we like the option of getting out from the resort and walk around the streets (if it’s safe) and maybe try street food. No nightclubs for us. More information inside [more inside]
posted by WizKid at 8:36 AM PST - 5 comments

What is it?

Any idea what this thing is? Bought it for a couple bucks at a antique store. It fits the hand nicely and could be a sort of tool or part of something decorative. There's a piece broken off on one end. Thought perhaps it's for bending things? It's plain old iron.
posted by ecorrocio at 8:30 AM PST - 2 comments

Giving up pet because I'm pregnant

I'm 4ish months pregnant - yay! But partner thinks we need to give up our pet cockatiel because we won't be able to care for him and give him enough care and attention when baby arrives. Also, feather dust and bird poop do not mix well with babies! I do agree, but am finding the idea hard. Does anyone have any happy stories of having given up their pet for adoption and it all being ok? [more inside]
posted by Dorothea_in_Rome at 7:38 AM PST - 31 comments

I need some kids puppet show on-liner plot ideas!

I am running a meeting for 5-7 year old kids this week where they will be preparing 5 minute puppet shows. We only have 1.5 hours for the meeting, so I need some "seed" plot ideas to give the kids a starting point. So I'm asking you, what is your best one-liner plot idea?
posted by fimbulvetr at 7:19 AM PST - 3 comments

What's the title of this book about Valentine's Day crafts?

It was aimed at kids, probably published between the mid-1970s and the mid-80s. [more inside]
posted by Clotilde at 5:40 AM PST - 5 comments

[Insurance filter] They're not teeth; they're mouth based body bonuses.

My teeth have been ruined by Sjögren's, an autoimmune disease. It's obviously medical and wildly painful. Bone spikes poke up where teeth sheared off at the gum line. I'm missing most of my front tooth, with pulp sticking out. It is obviously a medical problem. My insurance is turning treatment down. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by sweltering at 5:39 AM PST - 14 comments

Tell me about how you managed De Quervain's (and/or a wrist splint)

I have to wear a wrist splint 16/7 (just not while sleeping) for a month. If you have tips on living with it, would be grateful. If splinting fails to alleviate symptoms, it's going to be a cortisone shot. I am terrified of this and don't want it. If I *do* go for that and it fails, it's down to surgery, and I *definitely* don't want those risks! What's helped you? What should I be aware of, with this treatment plan? Are there alternatives? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:18 AM PST - 14 comments

what noir is this?

It's film about an unsuccessful artist who gives up his art in despair and leaves town. When he returns many years later he discovers he's presumed dead, very famous, and his agent and the girlfriend who betrayed him are making a packet out of his prestigious reputation and their memories of him. [more inside]
posted by glasseyes at 2:12 AM PST - 3 comments

February 14

What's a reasonable rent estimate for Misson/SoMa?

I'm putting together a contingency / grass-is-greener / idle thinking plan that involves moving to the bay area. Padmapper is quite busy - what's a good number to put down for rent when evaluating a potential job in SFbay? Currently thinking 3k. [more inside]
posted by pwnguin at 11:58 PM PST - 12 comments

Mark Helprin quote

Looking for a Mark Helprin quote, maybe from Winter's Tale: something like 'we are all boats in a harbour, sometimes we float together and sometimes we're pulled apart'. Google has not helped. AskMetafilter I beseech your aid!
posted by Sebmojo at 8:37 PM PST - 4 comments

Return to Kanto

After more than a decade away, I want to start playing Pokemon again. Help me figure out where to start! [more inside]
posted by Tamanna at 8:35 PM PST - 10 comments

Which javascript MVP framework to use?

I'm the main frontend dev at my somewhat small SaaS company. Most of the front end is written by me using html/css/js (jquery). And it works, and will probably continue working. I think though that I might want to drag us into this decade and start looking into using a modern MVP framework. [more inside]
posted by pyro979 at 7:45 PM PST - 18 comments

Big problems (temperature differences) with new furnace-- what to do?

We just got a new furnace installed a few days ago, and we're not happy with it, especially the major temperature variations between rooms. (Maybe because of being oversized?) What can we do? What is reasonable to ask the installers to do? [more inside]
posted by EmilyClimbs at 6:26 PM PST - 11 comments

Polynesian pronunciation

Do you know a Polynesian language? How would you pronounce (in how many syllables, and stressed how) the names Rumuari'i and Ruata'ata? [more inside]
posted by kalapierson at 5:56 PM PST - 9 comments

Current (2016) Japanese Tax for Ex Pats

I know MeFi includes several ex-pats living and working in Japan; I'd like to know what it's like dealing with the national/prefectural/city tax agencies as an employee of a foreign company. How big of a hassle is it these days, and how big is the combined bite? [more inside]
posted by spacewrench at 5:27 PM PST - 1 comment

Anyone have Dec 2015 issue of Shape magazine?

My friend is trying to remember the list of exercises from an article in Shape magazine with Ellie Goulding on the cover - help? [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 5:02 PM PST - 4 comments

Shipping case for a scanner

Right now, I'm looking at buying a Canon LiDE 220 for shipping to various document collectors around the world multiple times. The problem is that, given the sensitivity of scanners, I need not only a secure way to ship these scanners both domestically and internationally but I also need a little extra room to pack in some scanning essentials: cleaning supplies, cables, driver discs, etc. [more inside]
posted by Hot Like Your 12V Wire at 5:01 PM PST - 6 comments

Western Ski Trip Music

Hey Metafilter, my boyfriend and I have fairly divergent tastes in music (I like Kate Wolf and he likes Metallica). We usually end up listening to a lot of podcasts. We're planning on taking a fairly long road trip this spring to go ski around the west. Can you give me some suggestions so I can surprise him with some new listening? Behind the link is a description of what we agree on. [more inside]
posted by grinagog at 4:48 PM PST - 15 comments

Can I turn my phone into a weather station?

I have a gen 1 Moto G. It works fine, but the screen is heavily cracked (although still usable). I want to turn it into something that will tell me and also show me the weather conditions at the location it's sited at. Is this a thing that can be done? [more inside]
posted by Solomon at 4:11 PM PST - 2 comments

Upgrade Macbook Air from 10.6.8 to El Capitan, or is that a mistake?

I have a Macbook Air that is happily chugging along on OS 10.6.8 (Snow Leopard). Obviously, I haven't upgraded the OS in, well, ever, which hasn't really been a problem. However, lately, I'm starting to get little issues here and there, where I can't use a particular app or software because my OS doesn't meet the minimum requirements, etc. My biggest concern about upgrading is whether my computer has enough oomph to handle the newer, bigger OS or if it will just get bogged down. [more inside]
posted by leticia at 3:48 PM PST - 19 comments

This hoodie is so insanely popular you have to wait minutes to get it

How did "America's Greatest Hoodie that you have to wait months to get" obtain all this hype from legit sources? [more inside]
posted by Dragonness at 3:37 PM PST - 24 comments

Planning a trip to see Arctic things in July

I'm planning a trip to northern areas this july/august with the goal of seeing icebergs and nature and whatnot. It has come very quickly to my attention that this is not a cheap thing to do! Please help me to plan an itinerary that maximizes our time and minimizes our spending. [more inside]
posted by Acari at 3:36 PM PST - 6 comments

What is this little antique thing

Found this cleaning grandmother's house and am very curious to know what it is. [more inside]
posted by birdseye at 3:31 PM PST - 5 comments

Hit me with your favorite chemo head gear

The hair and I are parting ways. It’s freaking cold outside. The chemo will probably go on through spring-early summer, so I'll need some lighter stuff as well. I’d like to try and hide the hair loss as long as possible, if that is possible. I have looked at a lot of hats online already, but would like some recommendations as to what worked best for you. [more inside]
posted by instead of three wishes at 3:20 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking to improve IT career chances

Currently looking to find ways to break into IT careers but lack typical routes due to a series of unfortunate events. The worst part is I'm already 24 and completely broke. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 2:44 PM PST - 9 comments

Software for speaking slowly

I'm looking for teleprompter or speaking notes software that offer some particular features. Does it exist? [more inside]
posted by jacquilynne at 2:26 PM PST - 8 comments

It could be an important botanical therapy, but what do I do next?

MeFi, if you could please suspend your disbelief, I would really appreciate some advice. After years of suffering from a number of issues that were resistant to various forms of traditional and alternative medicine, I've made something of a hobby out of experimenting on myself and creating my own plant extracts. Most recently this has involved creating a semi-proprietary tincture made from high-grade white/green teas, and combining said tincture with other supplements. Through an exhausting process of trial-and-error, I've come up with some unique concoctions that truly help me. I want to see if they can help other people, but I have no idea how to take the next step. [more inside]
posted by prosopagnosia at 2:17 PM PST - 10 comments

Hi, I am your kid. I like stuff.

How can I help a parent to get to know me better? [more inside]
posted by jet_pack_in_a_can at 1:49 PM PST - 7 comments

Ark Xboxone. How do I join my husband's tribe using the same xbox.

Hi, My husband and I want to play ark and share items by being in the same tribe. We are in a dedicated official server and with only one xbox we can never see each other to invite into a tribe. Is there another way that we can join tribes to share stuff? We do not have friends who play ark or have an xbox one. Thanks.
posted by Jaelma24 at 1:43 PM PST - 1 comment

Valentine's Day Special!

What are your favorite songs of unrequited love? Any language, any genre. You Don't Know Me and The Girl From Ipanema are the ones to beat so far.
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 12:47 PM PST - 59 comments

Analogue Interfaces to Digital / Hybrid Devices

The KORG minilogue is a really sweet modular, analogue synthesiser. It must, I think, have a hybrid (digital / analogue) architecture, and that raises a bunch of UI / UX questions... [more inside]
posted by andrewcooke at 12:16 PM PST - 9 comments

Best route to get cat halfway across the world?

I've read past threads about transporting pets and they've put my mind at easy that Lola will survive the 20+ hour plane ride from the US to South Africa, even if she's not thrilled with me afterwards. Of course, I still want it to be as easy and non-traumatic as possible. There are a few different options and I'm having a hard time finding information on which would be best for our collective mental health. [more inside]
posted by exutima at 12:05 PM PST - 9 comments

Help interpreting NOAA weather data, please

I'm looking at this NOAA page: U.S. Percentage Areas (Very Warm/Cold, Very Wet/Dry) and I'm having trouble understanding what they are representing. Thank you in advance to meteorologists/statisticians/anyone who can shed light on this! [more inside]
posted by Beti at 11:55 AM PST - 4 comments

Take this job and...keep it?

Should I keep my stable, reasonably paying job with decent work-life balance that I've had for ages but which also makes me kind of sad? [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 10:57 AM PST - 29 comments

Favorite tea shops in New York City?

I'd like to find a good tea shop, or coffee shop that makes good tea, to do some reading and light laptop work (just writing some emails, not "working remotely" or anything like that). I'm specifically looking for cafes, not (exclusively) retail stores, and also not looking for the "afternoon tea"/"high tea" experience. [more inside]
posted by andrewesque at 10:42 AM PST - 12 comments

Small-scale Space Opera

Looking for space-opera-ish books that focus on small scale, personal stories. [more inside]
posted by signal at 10:26 AM PST - 34 comments

Let's hear it for communications

Looking for a picture from, IIRC, one of the early issues of the 1980s era GI Joe comic book. It's a picture of GI Joe member Breaker saying something like "Let's hear it for communications!" I remember it taking up the whole page, but haven't been able to find it online, or in the ebook version of the early comics.
posted by drezdn at 10:01 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me find a phone-shaming Coke theater ad

My local (Cinemark) theaters are running a pre-movie ad by Coke that depicts a bunch of teenagers in a theater using their phones during the movie, and I'm trying to find it online. [more inside]
posted by mph at 9:44 AM PST - 4 comments

Animated movies that don't end happily ever after?

I'm looking for kids/animated movies where things don't end happily ever after. Think the opposite of every '90s Disney movie where love conquers all, etc. In fact, tragic endings are preferable. And no singing is a must.
posted by atinna at 9:09 AM PST - 37 comments

Women's strength training: No barbells, no plyometrics

What are the best power/speed-enhancing strength training moves I can do that a) are not plyometric and b) don't require barbells (as opposed to dumbbells)? I KNOW I KNOW. It's like asking "How do I not get spaghetti sauce all over my face and clothes if I eat it blind-folded with my hands tied behind my back?" As always, snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 8:56 AM PST - 14 comments

Should I sign this waiver?

Each year, my employer funds my HSA; my current balance is significantly higher than my yearly out of pocket limit, and so I would like to put a portion of it into mutual funds. The institution where my funds are, ubt.com, has HSA mutual funds but they require that I sign a certain waiver. [more inside]
posted by jepler at 8:55 AM PST - 6 comments

Tall man seeks extra long handled mop for intense cleaning

My husband is tall and we need a mop and broom that doesn't hurt his back. I've only found 1 option, I'm hoping for more. [more inside]
posted by Attackpanda at 8:28 AM PST - 7 comments

Is there hope for HSV+ and OCD+?

Found out the guy I'm seeing, whom I really, really like, has oral HSV-1. I have OCD and GAD and a huge phobia specifically of herpes. Can this work out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:27 AM PST - 19 comments

Anybody using Notion for iOS? I need help.

If anyone is using the app Notion for iOS (music notation app) I could really use some help. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 7:24 AM PST - 2 comments

Say cheese!

Give me your silliest, weirdest, cutest photo editing apps. [more inside]
posted by a sourceless light at 6:16 AM PST - 12 comments

Your Best Watercolor Tips

I've been trying my hand at watercolor for a couple years, but I feel already like I'm just repeating myself. I'm not looking so much for exercises (work big! work small! do a monochrome!) as I am tips you've come across that made your watercolors better. I generally work abstract. If it matters, I use Holbein paints, various brushes, and cold press paper.
posted by mermaidcafe at 5:53 AM PST - 11 comments

February 13

How hard would it be to study statistics at this point?

I'm thinking of starting a graduate program that requires rigorous training in statistics. It's been a LONG TIME since I've done any math at all, and even then, I wasn't great at it. Is this too ambitious? [more inside]
posted by heavenknows at 11:30 PM PST - 25 comments

An ephemeral word

I came across a word once that I didn't know. Well, that has happened more than once. But this time I actually looked it up because it sounded so pretty, and the definition was something like, "a luminous trembling quality, as moonlight on water." How incredible that such a word should exist! I was enchanted by it, both because it was a lovely sounding word and because the definition was so ephemeral. [more inside]
posted by SLC Mom at 11:11 PM PST - 9 comments

Examples of foreshadowing in movies and literature?

I'm thinking if writing something that heavily uses foreshadowing in any/all permutations possible. [more inside]
posted by prufrock at 8:11 PM PST - 26 comments

How do I achieve this photo effect? Is there a photo editing app?

How do I achieve this photo effect? Is there a photo editing app? [more inside]
posted by DeltaForce at 7:01 PM PST - 3 comments

Yes, this will be my first smartphone

I'm finally caving and buying a smartphone. Size is a major factor, but I'm also not sure how concerned I should be about the security of phones that are stuck with older versions of their OS. [more inside]
posted by teponaztli at 6:09 PM PST - 25 comments

Near the sea

Where would you go if you wanted to stay at a cottage near the sea for a short vacation? [more inside]
posted by stepup at 4:05 PM PST - 24 comments

Synth question: What’s the difference between eg and amp eg

Just got a Korg monologue and I’m reading the manual but I need help: What’s the difference between the envelope generator and the amp envelope generator? Thanks.
posted by captainscared at 3:08 PM PST - 7 comments

Turning Spoonflower fabric into a tablecloth

I just got a few yards of awesome spoonflower fabric for a tablecloth. I got the cotton canvas - decently heavy. I was wondering if it would be a good idea to add felt backing to it to decrease wrinkles/make sturdier/etc.? [more inside]
posted by stewiethegreat at 3:02 PM PST - 9 comments

2002 Ford Escort keeps revving while driving at a steady speed - help!

Hi, recently my 2002 Ford Escort (automatic) has been revving up to 3-4 RPM while I'm driving, and is not very responsive to me stepping on the gas. This is most evident when I'm stuck behind drivers who are constantly slowing down/speeding up, or when I've stopped moving after coming to a complete stop (i.e.: stop lights). Since I've had the car, it's also shook when stopped, but it's never done this until the last several weeks (and has gotten worse today). [more inside]
posted by oxfordcomma at 3:00 PM PST - 10 comments

twinkle twinkle petite étoile

Sadly I know very few French nursery rhymes and children's songs. Help me change this! [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 2:57 PM PST - 16 comments

How quickly can government procedures move?

If Scalia is confirmed dead, will Obama be able to seat a Supreme Court Justice before his term ends?
posted by radiosilents at 2:42 PM PST - 18 comments

Multi-day hike in November for the over-civilized

Where can we go walking/hiking/trekking in November, point to point, over a number of days, but no camping? [more inside]
posted by TORunner at 2:41 PM PST - 7 comments

Why can't I memorize text anymore? I'm only in my 30's.

I used to be able to memorize text without any problem. Then I left working in radio and theater when I was 26 to own a company. Though I haven't done any type of memorizing of scripts in years when a friend asked me to get back into the game just as a side thing, I said no problem. [more inside]
posted by manderin at 2:31 PM PST - 10 comments

Reliable Android Smartphone?

Ms. Zombiedance's Samsung Galaxy SIII has recently died, and she's looking to replace it. She was happy with the Galaxy up until it stopped working, but the fact that it lasted only 3 years makes her hesitant to buy another Samsung (say, a newer Galaxy). Are there significant differences in reliability among Android phone brands, and if so, are there particular brands/models that are more reliable? [more inside]
posted by zombiedance at 2:19 PM PST - 9 comments

Forecast says...

What's an easy, legal, and reliable way to predict trends for currency exchange rates? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 2:08 PM PST - 9 comments

Quick: where should we walk around Austin tonight?

What is the best street to hang out on in Austin? [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 2:07 PM PST - 5 comments

Should I continue repaying my charged off debt?

Im trying to figure out the best way to deal with a private student loan that got charged off. I've been slowly repaying the debt collection agency, planning to repay it in full, but now wondering if that's actually the best strategy as far as my credit score is concerned. [more inside]
posted by Argyle_Sock_Puppet at 11:52 AM PST - 3 comments

Book club questions for Mildred Pierce

I go to a monthly book club, run by a good friend, and this month we've read Mildred Pierce (which is SO good). Next weekend we'll watch the movie and have the book club meeting at the same time. My friend likes to bring ready-made questions in case the discussion takes time to get started, but neither she nor I can find any online. Can anyone point me to some, or suggest some questions? [more inside]
posted by tracicle at 11:09 AM PST - 5 comments

Essential gear for extended hikes/backcountry camping

I'm interested in starting to do some seasonal, overnight, backcountry camping in the northeast (spring - fall). What sort've gear do I need to get started? I'll be solo with my dog. [more inside]
posted by pilibeen at 10:52 AM PST - 17 comments

Is Mordor nice this time of year?

Help me plan a hiking trip in New Zealand in March [more inside]
posted by special-k at 9:21 AM PST - 13 comments

How can I make an aluminum aebleskiver pan work on an induction top?

We've had an induction stovetop for a few years, and it's great, except we had to replace our pots and pans. We only now realized our aluminum aebleskiver pan doesn't work. Crazy idea: fill one of our induction pans with water, and set the aebleskiver pan in that. Would that do something bad to our induction pan or make the aebleskiver's turn out weird? Is there a better solution (besides getting a cast iron aebleskiver pan)?
posted by filthy light thief at 9:19 AM PST - 11 comments

Need help with committing herbicide (with several complications)

My condo has a deck that will probably need to be restored in the next few years, but I can't afford it now. The wood is shrinking some, which is enabling many plants to come up through the slats. Weeding the deck all summer is a real drag, but I believe that bunnies and groundhogs sometimes move in underneath, and I don't want to harm them. Also there are small trees. More inside. [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 8:41 AM PST - 14 comments

Formula to get the diameter of multiple circles to surround a larger one

I am doing an art project that requires larger circles to be encircled by smaller circles. Each small circle must touch its larger one and its immediate small neighbors. The small circles must all be the same diameter. I would like to specify the diameter of the large circle and calculate the diameter and number of small circles required to accomplish the desired outcome. My geometry skills have eroded over these many years...help!
posted by txmon at 8:35 AM PST - 12 comments

Ask KittyFilter: a furball of my own?

I want to adopt an adult cat. Single full-time professional, one or more major moves likely in the next few years, possibly from the U.S. to London. Can this work? What about fostering? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by ista at 8:18 AM PST - 15 comments

Proposing with an alligator

I am planning on proposing to my love soon, and have acquired a rather expensive out-of-distribution bottle of whisky as my ring(!) I was thinking of making my own custom take of the label... [more inside]
posted by teststrip at 8:00 AM PST - 5 comments

Finding the kind of stuff Wes Anderson features in his movies?

I live in Toronto, and I am looking for the type of objects and props that Wes Anderson features in a typical overhead shot (retro-specific paraphernalia). I know these types of things are all over the place, but is there a dedicated type of store where I can find similar things? Even better, are there stores that rent these things out for a photography session? [more inside]
posted by omar.a at 7:56 AM PST - 12 comments

I want summer in February

It's freezing and I want to look at happy green things. Recommend me some gardening blogs?
posted by topoisomerase at 7:47 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me find retreat space for 90+ people

My company is looking for space that would accommodate 90+ employees for a weekend retreat. We would like it to be in the Northeast, driving distance 3 hour max from NYC region, have sleeping quarters employees can sleep comfortably in, a kitchen, dining and community area. We will be catering or hire a chef onsite to prepare our meals. Our stay would be for 2 nights, Thursday to Saturday, or Friday to Sunday. We would like to spend our days relaxing, drinking and playing a few games/activities. Please help me find a location. We are open to anything..hotels, mansions, camps, etc.
posted by anonymous at 6:56 AM PST - 8 comments

Travel in Northern Japan - yet again help me plan a trip

Mefites have been helpful in the past when I have planned previous trips to Japan, so hoping you can all help again. This time we are planning on going North, and I would love your advice and suggestions. We are a family of three - two parents and a 12 year old boy. [more inside]
posted by Megami at 4:56 AM PST - 10 comments

Interpreting (translation) in the UK

I've been a freelance Spanish interpreter & translator for a few years now in the U.S., and I've managed to create a sort-of stable lifestyle out of it, alongside another part-time job. I will be moving to the U.K. in a few months with my partner, however, and I need to start looking into the prospects across the pond. [more inside]
posted by parkbench at 4:55 AM PST - 6 comments

Starting a parent-community group/list-serv?

Have you any experience with starting a new neighborhood list-serv or something like it? [more inside]
posted by EtTuHealy at 4:07 AM PST - 16 comments

Lads, Everywhere!

I started a new job a month ago and i'm the only woman on a team of geek-lads in their 20s. How can I include myself in 'the team'? [more inside]
posted by ihaveyourfoot at 2:34 AM PST - 24 comments

Help me figure out this number-of-combinations problem

Supposing you have a set of N number of questions to choose from for creating a test. Your test must have a minimum of 1 question but can have all N. How many unique tests could you create? Am I correct to assume the formula is 64! (factorial)? 64 x 63 x 62 x 61...
posted by postergeist at 1:11 AM PST - 7 comments

Career Change Filter: From Scholarly Publishing to ?

Publishing is in its death throes, and I REALLY need a new industry to work in. But which? Details inside . . . [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:57 AM PST - 9 comments

Primary factors impacting academic citations?

Hi, so I'm a newcomer to citation analysis. Can you recommend some good literature starting points for learning about factors that impact citation rates of journal articles and monographs? I have heard anecdotally that the institution from which an author comes and the journal title itself have significant impact, but I'd like to gain some well-supported insights into what factors have been demonstrated to affect citation rates. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:56 AM PST - 1 comment

Graduating with Bad Grades

It looks like I'll be graduating from a top-15 UK university this summer with a 2:2 in law. I feel really crap about this can I get some tips on how to deal with this immediately, and in the long term? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:56 AM PST - 10 comments

Archive.org partially archived forums, best way to find all the page

A old bulletin board system disappeared, and some of the information was captured in archive.org. Most posts were not saved, but every once in a while I will get lucky and select a day and a thread that is actually archived. Is there any way I can figure out which ones are archived, without having to manually click all the threads on the forums across multiple dates? [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 12:51 AM PST - 6 comments

February 12

Down with the King!

I want some Medieval historical fiction, but with a catch - no royalty! [more inside]
posted by brittanyq at 9:39 PM PST - 26 comments

Vintage Calendars From Doctor's Office

When I was a very young kid in the 60's, doctors' offices often had these detailed calendars with tiny elves or hobbity kind of creatures hanging on the wall. I think they were issued by a drug company, but my Google skills are failing to find them. Anyone remember these and can you supply a link to examples? Cheers.
posted by alltomorrowsparties at 9:33 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me help my wife buy a sewing machine

My wife is intermediate level at sewing, mostly making quilts and small simple garments (think pet clothes). Her cheap Singer sewing machine broke, and now she's having "analysis paralysis" trying to decide on a new one. Help! [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 9:20 PM PST - 26 comments

Snow Blows

What are the most efficient ways for me to keep my driveway and pathways clear of snow in the winter? [more inside]
posted by futureisunwritten at 9:03 PM PST - 5 comments

Do human hunters appreciably help balance wildlife populations?

I was recently told by an acquaintance that he goes "varmint hunting" because he believes this helps keep down the numbers of animal types he feels are overpopulated. Is this legit? Any research that says yay or nay? Does it depend on locale? My impression of him is that he's a jerk who enjoys killing (he even laughed about it) and rationalizes it after the fact, and thus I plan to have nothing further to do with him, but I'm also interested in whether or to what extent his rationalizations have truth in them. [more inside]
posted by mysterious_stranger at 8:28 PM PST - 21 comments

Popular late-90s club mix sampling or remixing a Tori Amos song?

I'm remembering a club mix that sampled or remixed a Tori Amos song. I think it was pretty ubiquitous, and my best recollection is that it was sampling Raspberry Swirl. But Googling Raspberry Swirl remixes or samples has failed me. Any idea what I'm thinking of?
posted by palliser at 7:54 PM PST - 6 comments

Near to last minute vacation ideas needed! (east Asia edition)

I get the bulk of my Lunar New Year vacation two weeks after most people do here--I've got five, maybe six days lined up. Where should I go? [more inside]
posted by wallawallasweet at 7:35 PM PST - 3 comments

This is why I can't have nice things

I wear things out fast. Things like coats, backpacks, shoes. How do I prolong the lives of my belongings? Also-- is it possible to get a coat with underarm holes mended? [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 7:15 PM PST - 11 comments

Novels About Being Unemployed, Or With Major Characters Who Are

I'm unemployed - what novels about being unemployed, or featuring major characters who are, can I read to bring me back down to earth and not feel like the only unemployed person in the entire world?
posted by forallmankind at 6:45 PM PST - 18 comments

Potentially working with the littlest auteur...?

I'm working on a bedroom recording project with a friend of mine, and we have a small budget for a video. We've found a director who could potentially make a fun video that fits the mood of the project. Here's the catch: he's 13. [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 5:12 PM PST - 7 comments

anyone been to Venice recently?

I've gotten great travel help on the Green before, so hoping someone here has been to Venice recently and wants to give recommendations. Specific requests inside! [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 4:53 PM PST - 14 comments

What causes a closed end bond ETF to drop in net asset value over time?

Looking at closed end high yield bond ETFs, some of them maintain their NAV (net asset value) and some have been continually dropping in net asset value (not market price although that usually happens too) over 1-2 years. What causes this and how can one anticipate a long term drop in NAV? [more inside]
posted by Tazmaniac at 4:16 PM PST - 18 comments

Have a job offer, waiting for another - how to balance?

I am basically trying to juggle a job offer in hand and waiting for another that I really want, more than the one in hand. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by whatdoyouthink? at 3:55 PM PST - 8 comments

pay out of pocket for Holter electrocardiogram monitor?

How do I ask my physician for a (not medically necessary) wearable electrocardiogram study? [more inside]
posted by morganw at 3:12 PM PST - 7 comments

Looking for Quality Sappy Fiction

I thoroughly enjoyed this post on the blue -- which explored how characters fall in love in novels. I would like to find new to me fiction that uses this technique in developing love stories. [more inside]
posted by JustKeepSwimming at 2:48 PM PST - 5 comments

Homemade Escape-The-Room

I'd like to make an Escape-The-Room type game for some friends and need puzzle / storyline suggestions. [more inside]
posted by Diskeater at 2:09 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me figure out gravitational waves

Now that gravitational waves are all the rage, I'd like to learn about spacetime. Is there a book on this? [more inside]
posted by Rad_Boy at 1:55 PM PST - 12 comments

Acer's Bad Idea

How can I repair injection molded plastic? [more inside]
posted by zinon at 1:32 PM PST - 6 comments

Can't make heads or tails out of this Ikea mattress

Which side of this Ikea Sultan foam mattress is up? [more inside]
posted by miss_kitty_fantastico at 1:28 PM PST - 9 comments

Two strikes on this project, one last chance... Ugh.

Coming to the tail end of a project and am stressed/depressed. Clients are highly critical and my boss isn't providing sufficient support to satisfy their high expectations in a timely fashion. How to deal with the dread of continuing, and grow a thicker skin? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:40 PM PST - 6 comments

What's your lunchtime gym schedule?

Lunchtime gym-goers with office jobs: How do you make it fit into your workday? I understand this will vary heavily by workplace - I'm interested in hearing a range of experiences! [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 12:39 PM PST - 18 comments

Post-apocalyptic office instructions

I am looking for a cartoon I saw years ago. It was a long wordless comic, done in the style of in-flight safety cards, for an office environment. I can remember the beginning, where people are smashing up office equipment. Later, they hunt wild game (deer?) through the office building, and raise children there. [more inside]
posted by ivan ivanych samovar at 12:23 PM PST - 4 comments

Gmail archive clean-up. Difficulty level: Gmail account = 10+ years old.

I just used the Unroll.me free service to unsubscribe from a ton of newsletters and clean up my inbox. It was awesome, but it's only for subscribed newsletters. I want to clean All Of The Email, not just Inbox email, and for the most part delete it. What else can I use to spring-clean my archive? [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 11:43 AM PST - 8 comments

Learn to code or...what?

I'm a liberal-arts-ish woman who has some experience with computer programming (HTML, CSS and PHP) and a ton of graphics/design experience. I hear about code bootcamps and lots of people changing careers to CS, and I'm wondering if it would be a good idea to try and develop my programming skills. But I'm worried I'm not geeky enough to hack it. [more inside]
posted by MetaFilter World Peace at 11:20 AM PST - 18 comments

postapocalypse insect farming

After reading about the benefits of using insects as a food supply, I'm wondering why insect farming isn't used in the post apocalyptic fiction I've read (or maybe it is, and I have a bad memory). It seems like insect farming would work really well depending on the scenario! Recommend me some stories.
posted by bleary at 10:36 AM PST - 8 comments

Where to go in Wales?

We're going to Wales in May. Where should we go? [more inside]
posted by freshwater at 10:31 AM PST - 18 comments

Can a CT Scan Determine Cancerous Node?

Asking for panicking friend who has had a painful swollen lymph node on one side of her neck for a few weeks. Antibiotics didn't help, so last week she had a CAT scan done and the doctor wants her in today for a follow up. [more inside]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 10:21 AM PST - 10 comments

What's a good present for a coworker backpacking through Europe?

Our receptionist/admin assistant is leaving us next month. Her plan is to backpack across Europe for three months. She deserves a great going-away present, but I don't want to give her stuff she can't travel with/will only end up going in storage. Help! [more inside]
posted by quincunx at 10:04 AM PST - 26 comments

Should I attend a coding bootcamp?

Apparently there are people who enter coding bootcamps with no programming experience and waltz into software jobs 6 months later. Meanwhile, 30 years with a CS degree and I'm working in retail. I'm thinking of going to bootcamp to modernize my skills, but I fear that at the end of it, no one will want to hire a 50-something has-been/never-was over some young whippersnapper. [more inside]
posted by mpark at 9:59 AM PST - 8 comments

What is a meaningful "years of service" award for a programmer?

I'm in a big company that just sends me PDFs to print and give to people when they get to various years of service. I want to give them something a bit more fun. They are web developers and QA. Some sort of geeky trophy maybe? I'd be paying out of my own pocket so the focus is on meaningfulness, not cash value.
posted by freecellwizard at 9:47 AM PST - 11 comments

Help decoding 1958 Russian brochure

Russian speakers of Metafilter: What can you tell me about this Russian brochure from 1958? [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 9:22 AM PST - 3 comments

Tool for rearranging a list of 400 or so items.

We have a list of about 400 single line items in a Word Document, which are in 7 seven different sections/categories. We need to drastically rearrange that list, sometimes moving items from one section/category to other and other times just keeping them in a the same section. Then we need to be able to export the finished list back into Word (or some text app). What's the best Application for doing this on a PC? Free or cheap is preferred, but willing to kick out a little money.
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 9:14 AM PST - 13 comments

I'm tired of trudging up to the nonfiction section

Why are comics and graphic novels catalogued as nonfiction in libraries? [more inside]
posted by zsazsa at 8:35 AM PST - 11 comments

You got a TIGHT PAIR, how did it get that way?

I know nothing about recording or making music. How is something like Tight Pair by LIPPS, Inc recorded? When Cynthia Johnson comes in @ ~30 secs, she sounds like she is singing really loudly. At the same time, she sounds further away from the front of the music than the instruments. I'm curious how this effect is achieved, what volume Ms. Johnson was actually singing at in studio, and any other interesting things I don't know to ask about.
posted by OmieWise at 8:19 AM PST - 10 comments

taxi or uber from LAX - very tight schedule for funeral

I got very short notice for a funeral. I can fly into LAX tomorrow, Saturday, and arrive 11:45 am. The service is at the USC Campus chapel and starts at 2 pm I've been told this may not be enough time. [more inside]
posted by egk at 8:14 AM PST - 16 comments

A rock, a hard place, and OKCupid.

We've been together for a long time and long distance might open us up. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:04 AM PST - 75 comments

Valentines Day gift ideas for new LDR?

I'm in a new and wonderfully exciting long distance relationship. I think I want to send (her) a Valentine's day gift. What should I send? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:02 AM PST - 7 comments

How do I find out how this person feels about me?

I am confused about how someone is feeling towards me, and don't know how to get out of this ambiguous situation, but desperately need to. Please help. [more inside]
posted by muppets at 7:36 AM PST - 25 comments

Hope me design a poster ...

The poster will in essence be a giant electrical engineering cheat sheet ... [more inside]
posted by ZenMasterThis at 7:18 AM PST - 9 comments

The golden hour

Can we tell the difference between sunrise and sunset by sight alone? [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger at 7:18 AM PST - 9 comments

Need books and movies based in the 1960s

My dad was the principle of a school in the '60s during desegregation. He was a good man and managed it peacefully. I have his stories but I think that his experiences were the exception and not the norm. I would like to read fiction and nonfiction of others' experiences during that time. Movie recommendations are also welcome. [more inside]
posted by myselfasme at 7:14 AM PST - 5 comments

Starting a Movie Night

My Canadian town doesn't have a repertory cinema. I'd like to start a regular movie night and publicly screen classic movies. What do I need to know? I'm not interested in making a profit, but I'd like it to be an event that's open to the public and charge enough to cover the costs of licensing, venue rental etc. [more inside]
posted by Prunesquallor at 7:12 AM PST - 4 comments

Cake, meet Stuff. Yum!

I like elaborate cakes, with complicated and/or interesting combinations of flavored fillings, icing and other add-ins-- the sort of thing one sees all the time at restaurants, but that seems to turn up surprisingly infrequently in cookbooks. Thus, two questions: first, what especially yummy, original cake flavor or texture combinations have you encountered in the wild, or in restaurants, etc.? And second, anybody have any excellent recipes for flavored fillings, or similar interesting stuff to add to a cake? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph at 4:28 AM PST - 29 comments

90s arcade space combat simulator

I've got a memory from when I was 11 or 12 or so, around 1990-1993. An arcade game that was in the Sydney, Australia Miranda Fair Arcade. It was a space combat simulator. It was very immersive. You'd sit in a cockpit, and when the game started you'd be launched down a railgun-like entry system into a space battle. [more inside]
posted by chmmr at 3:02 AM PST - 4 comments

Service to clean up Google Alert URLs using Regex

I want to clean up the URLS of a Google Alerts RSS Feed. I used to use a Yahoo Pipes REGEX to to do this, but that service is now dead. What are my (simple + free + preferably online) alternatives? [more inside]
posted by 0bvious at 1:49 AM PST - 8 comments

Painting a wooden table set and color combos

We want to paint a table and chair set - what type of paint do I need for our needs for this project? Also color combo suggestions welcome. [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 12:31 AM PST - 19 comments

Science-fiction books from India?

Hi guys, does anyone have recommendations for titles or authors to discover Indian "sci-fi" books or authors? [more inside]
posted by gmm at 12:13 AM PST - 14 comments

February 11

I want to be the princess who doesn't give a crap about the pea

I am very easily irritated, physically. I've been this way since infancy and I hate it. I don't know what the cause of it is. I've run it past my doctors before, once I got over the embarrassment of announcing that I think I have Special Snowflake Disease, and it was dismissed as a side effect of anxiety or as a migraineur thing. Anybody out there with a similar problem and tips to offer? I don't want to end up BubbleWoman. [more inside]
posted by Stonkle at 10:23 PM PST - 18 comments

Does this sound like Attention Deficit Disorder?

Does this sound like Attention Deficit Disorder? Am I likely to benefit from ADD meds? [more inside]
posted by A sock, a sock! My kingdom for a sock! at 8:46 PM PST - 12 comments

A javascript Inline Editor to edit "plain old ASCII" text ?

I'm looking for an "inline editor" to be part of a web-application. Something like TinyMCE or CKeditor (both of which I've used before) but for blobs of text which are just plain old ASCII . Can you suggest one ? Details inside ... [more inside]
posted by southof40 at 8:21 PM PST - 2 comments

Should I sell furniture to my new supervisor?

At work, my supervisor told me that he was in the market to buy an iconic piece of furniture. As it happens, I am currently attempting to sell that exact iconic piece of furniture, and, without much forethought, I told him as much. [more inside]
posted by onehundredand80 at 8:15 PM PST - 10 comments

Moving to St Louis vs. Nashville in your mid 20s: pros and cons?

My roommate is looking at St. Louis and Nashville for a first-job-after-school move - he has job opportunities in both. Can anyone speak to the pros and cons of either or both cities? [more inside]
posted by beccasaurus at 7:56 PM PST - 14 comments

A mom, a grandma, an aunt. What do you call her in a sympathy note?

Angelica Smith has passed away. Albert was her son. You were her niece. You want to write a note to the Smith Family, but what to call aunt Angelica in the letter? "I'm sorry for the loss of your mother/grandmother" doesn't quite convey the love you feel. [more inside]
posted by a sock of sheep at 7:18 PM PST - 11 comments

wall-mounted kitchen "instant hot water dispenser"

I know it's a longshot, but I've seen miracles performed here before. Does anybody happen to know of an "instant hot water dispenser" (similar to the ones shown here), but are mounted to the backsplash above the sink instead of in the counter-top itself? I know that it would probably be possible to rig up something wall-mounted on my own using a standard counter-mounted version, but would rather pay for something ready to go out of the box. thank you.
posted by jimmereeno at 7:12 PM PST - 8 comments

Fiction about the absurdities of academia?

I seem to greatly enjoy fiction about the absurd, ridiculous, or obnoxious aspects of an academic or research environment. Examples that I really liked include PhD Comics (mostly the early years), Bellwether by Connie Willis, and especially Dear Committee Members by Julie Schumacher. MetaFilter, can you recommend any similarly absurd books about stressed academics? [more inside]
posted by fencerjimmy at 6:36 PM PST - 49 comments

Help finding a venue for a series of essays

I've come up with a series of essays, one a week. Unfortunately, I stopped writing 5 years ago so I'm unsure how I should proceed finding a platform for these essays. [more inside]
posted by miss-lapin at 6:32 PM PST - 4 comments

Can my friend switch from SSI to social Security?

My friend, on SSI disability, is approaching retirement. She thinks, why don't I just drop one for the other? I have earned benefits; that I will soon be eligible for; why not accept? Aren't they based on the same numbers? Wouldn't my SS benefits be based on the same earnings that the SSI were? Given that I was unable to work after being disabled?
posted by ebesan at 6:17 PM PST - 7 comments

Looking for an 80s Letterman episode for a friend.

My friend's father was on Late Night in the 80s and was featured in a pretty long audience segment. We're trying to find the footage for him. [more inside]
posted by RobotVoodooPower at 5:48 PM PST - 2 comments

48 hrs since I turned in my lease application. No word. What going on?

I applied for a lease for an apartment that I really like. The landlord seemed to really like me. I viewed the place last Sunday, thanked the landlord, said I was very interested and emailed her for an application. She emailed me back with the application and said that she thinks I would really like the neighbors. [more inside]
posted by Pablito at 5:46 PM PST - 9 comments

Music to go with reading Holleran's "Dancer From The Dance"

I'm reading Andrew Holleran's classic gay novel "Dancer From The Dance." It's set in New York in the very early years of disco. (1972-74?) I'd like to build up a playlist of some tunes that set the mood, because most of the disco music I know is the later stuff (Donna Summer, Giorgio Moroder, etc.) [more inside]
posted by dnash at 5:38 PM PST - 3 comments

Activism/scholarship work for American abroad? Theme: history/politics

My dear friend is seeking a job abroad (at least 1 yr) and looking for solutions beyond the typical teach English/WOOFing/what have you. 26 y.o. and has completed 1.5 years of college (but no degree) & several years of activist experience (Occupy + radical queer politics by way of the conservative South). Kind of uncannily brilliant to the point where he's been asked to teach grad-level classes. Looking for something stimulating and interesting and stuck in that spot of not-enough-experience but so-so-much-brights. [more inside]
posted by red_rabbit at 5:14 PM PST - 1 comment

Please come to the party but DON'T BRING YOUR BOYFRIEND

How do a tactfully request that someone invited to a party does NOT bring their boyfriend? [more inside]
posted by smurfzambo at 5:00 PM PST - 25 comments

What are adult roommate relationships supposed to look like?

I've lived with roommates since college and now in grad school I have roommates. I'm not sure how to navigate/what to expect of my roommates currently. I often feel sad or upset at home now and I think I had a different expectation of having roommates in grad school. Please help me shift my mindset! [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 4:43 PM PST - 14 comments

Tart Up My Running Style (Men's Edition)

I want to look cute at marathons. Men's running shorts and clothes are super blah. Dress me hotter! [more inside]
posted by gregglind at 3:53 PM PST - 14 comments

You speak like a green girl / unsifted in such perilous circumstances.

I would like to create a database, using MS SQL, MySQL or SQLite. I would also really like to create some sort of user interface on top of the database so people can enter information in forms and be able to view reports where the information is sorted and filtered in various ways to make the important stuff a little more easily readable. [more inside]
posted by FiveSecondRule at 3:35 PM PST - 13 comments

Please help me be the window & door police

A window or door left open in my apartment building during sub zero temperatures will cause a flood. Massive water damage to multiple floors and major inconvenience. We have sub-zero temps for almost half the year so the floods keep happening. What sneaky, possibly subversive, tactics could I use to make sure residents close their effing doors during winter? [more inside]
posted by OlivesAndTurkishCoffee at 3:25 PM PST - 27 comments

Internet detectives ASSEMBLE: Identify my mystery object!

Dear The Internets: I have had this shiny odd-shaped thing on my desk for over a decade now. People often ask me what it is. I have no answer. No one else has been able to figure it out either. Can you help me? Sincerely, frogs. [more inside]
posted by caution live frogs at 2:45 PM PST - 17 comments

Where is it always autumn?

My wife and I are looking to move in the next few years. It seems like the best place for us climate-wise is somewhere it feels like it's always autumn (northern US version). Is that somewhere in the US and/or Europe? [more inside]
posted by laerm at 2:41 PM PST - 29 comments

Cannot start the battery. Battery!

I tried to jump start my car with two different cars on the other end. What's my next move? [more inside]
posted by ignignokt at 1:38 PM PST - 23 comments

Help IDing a braclet

I was wondering if anyone could help me identify where this bracelet is from. http://imgur.com/xCipWl9 Thanks!
posted by jeribus at 1:34 PM PST - 3 comments

Do you capitalize a name like "sports day?"

The school where I work is having "sports day," where everyone is supposed to wear sports jerseys. The question came up - should "sports day" be capitalized? [more inside]
posted by robverb at 1:22 PM PST - 18 comments

No-knead for flavor?

I've made several different variations on no-knead bread over the years, most recently this multigrain version. I've made them in a Dutch oven, cast iron skillet, loaf pan, and free form, after short, overnight and multi-day rises. No matter the recipe or the baking setup, my no-knead loaves are incredibly bland. Parbaked loaf from the freezer aisle bland. Bakers of Metafilter, what am I missing? [more inside]
posted by sputzie at 1:20 PM PST - 21 comments

Why is it so easy to tell life-size things from scale models in photos?

Even without something added for scale, it's usually instantly possible to tell when you're looking at a photo of something life-sized vs a (significantly) smaller scale model of it. What is it that our eyes/brain are doing here? [more inside]
posted by basehead at 1:05 PM PST - 9 comments

Feminist and/or lesbian and/or butch-femme artwork!

Hey, I'm looking for artwork to hang around my house. It can be public domain (something I can download and print) or something I can order online. I want drawings, paintings, photos, etc. of women - all women, plus women with women, plus butch women with femme women, plus queer wo/men. [more inside]
posted by alona at 1:02 PM PST - 9 comments

Should I become (or not become) a permanent US resident?

The article - Why expat Americans are giving up their passports got me thinking whether my decision to pursue my permanent residence in the US is the right one. Please help me think through this. [more inside]
posted by rippersid at 12:48 PM PST - 12 comments

Sibling extremely dependent on increasingly frail parents

My parents are in their 70s. My 38-year-old sister has severe social anxiety and she is unnecessarily dependent on my parents as caretakers. I worry about my parents' health. How can I encourage my sister to be more independent? How can I encourage my parents to take a step back? How can I communicate to everyone that I will never take over the caretaking position and my sister needs to learn adult living skills? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:10 PM PST - 31 comments

Exasperate me, please

I am seeking books and movies in which characters are slowly driven to complete exasperation in the face of relatively minor annoyances. Bonus if this exasperation is handled in a comedic (or blackly comedic) manner. [more inside]
posted by apparently at 11:42 AM PST - 50 comments

What's the best way to achieve a docker-like build with Windows?

I really like developing with docker, I can get a nice clean install of everything on every build, while also being able to spin up a production environment locally (load balancing, SQL cluster, etc.). What's the closest I can come with Windows? And I don't mean the new pre-release container features (unless those work without a whole lot of caveats), I need something I can use. [more inside]
posted by geoff. at 11:39 AM PST - 9 comments

Laptop purchase advice: optimizing for hw durability and performance

I'm in the market for a new laptop and want to buy one that will last. I'm OS flexible (PC or Mac) but want something that will last 5 years min. [more inside]
posted by toomanycurls at 11:31 AM PST - 14 comments

Can you help me identify this dog's ball?

The ball is about the size of a tennis ball, hollow, and it has lots of angles so it bounces wildly. The material is about 1/4" thick and firm yet flexible which makes it great for chewing. There are no manufacturer's marks on the toy and was purchased in the last five years somewhere in the US or Canada. Two pictures.
posted by Science! at 11:18 AM PST - 3 comments

New York City in the freezing cold

So I seem to have picked the absolute worst weekend to decide to visit NYC. Any ideas for things to do while keeping warm and minimizing our exposure to the arctic air? [more inside]
posted by peacheater at 10:59 AM PST - 25 comments

What to expect on Amitriptyline...

After failing two SSRIs (Zoloft and Lexapro), my doc has prescribed Amitriptyline for my dysthymia and anxiety; also as a migraine prophylactic. [more inside]
posted by sara is disenchanted at 10:04 AM PST - 9 comments

Other Fire + Water events in US??

MeFi, you've saved me in the past, asking you to come through again! I'm trying to find events very similar to WaterFire Providence, can be but does not have to be "art" project, but am looking for festivals that feature pylons in rivers, ponds, lakes, bayou on fire. Trying to set one up down here in Louisiana but not finding too much in the way of how to get started or if these events exist outside of Providence, RI and Sharon, PA (the only two places I found that host WaterFire events). Thank you!
posted by LemonGardot at 9:31 AM PST - 3 comments

Hope to Work Out of Town....But Need a Serious Monitor

New York's about to get super cold, i'm crashed on a project, and I see lots of tempting $150 r/t last minute fares to Dallas. So I'm thinking of going refugee. Problem is, my current work requires a decent sized monitor, and my Macbook Air has a tiny 13" screen. [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 8:20 AM PST - 31 comments

How can I get my health insurance to cover Implanon?

Asking for a friend. How can I get my health insurance to cover Implanon or another contraceptive implant? [more inside]
posted by czytm at 8:03 AM PST - 12 comments

Timing a grad school visit

What are the pros and cons of visiting a grad school on an admitted students day vs. visiting on a regular day? [more inside]
posted by dean_deen at 8:02 AM PST - 6 comments

Relearning leash training for a nervous dog

We've had our timid rescue dog since September. Since we got her, she's become very fearful of the leash and we're unable to get her on it and out the door without a lot of struggle. How do we help her get more comfortable with this? [more inside]
posted by backseatpilot at 7:22 AM PST - 11 comments

Public Space (Third Places) in Austin, TX

Where can I spend an idle hour or two at midday within a mile of downtown Austin, TX? I am interested in both indoor and outdoor spaces where it is possible to spend an hour working on my laptop, reading a book, etc. I am especially interested in privately owned public spaces, but public is good too. [more inside]
posted by sleepy psychonaut at 5:42 AM PST - 13 comments

How can I be vulnerable with a woman without coming off as insecure?

Be confident is probably the most common advice that is given to men who want to do better with women. It's basically the gold standard advice. I myself have been working on myself for a while now. I finally have a job, am losing weight, and am trying to get my life together. Having said all that there are still parts of my life that I'm not proud of. I mean I don't think anybody is 100% confident. [more inside]
posted by Dynamo05 at 5:38 AM PST - 33 comments

Woodworking hobby in a country where woodwork as a hobby isn't common

I'm trying to practice my hobby of woodwork in a country where woodwork is not common like it is in the States where everybody seems to have either a basement or a garage workshop. In addition, I live in a house which looks like these. No garage, no garden. [more inside]
posted by dance at 4:00 AM PST - 13 comments

Behavior or nutritional strategies for hastening labor

Here's the billion dollar question for someone 37 weeks pregnant: what, if anything, can I do to (safely and gently) encourage the onset of labor? [more inside]
posted by slidell at 2:51 AM PST - 36 comments

Cycle commuters of Mefi: how did you get confident on the roads?

After 20-ish years of not cycling, I recently bought a bike for getting to work. It's a nice route - about two-thirds of the way is off the roads on dedicated cycle paths, and most of the rest is on quiet streets. But I cycled to work and back yesterday, and the roads just TERRIFY me. [more inside]
posted by Catseye at 1:37 AM PST - 22 comments

February 10

Good morning, sunshine!

A friend of mine often says that he hates being a parent between 6 and 8 am (and I have to laughingly agree). Getting the children up, getting them dressed in seasonally appropriate clothing, delivering them to the educational institution of choice, dealing with whining and general lack of cooperation... aghhhh, I hate that this neverending struggle sets the tone for the day. So, parents of the Metafilter, what are your tricks, hacks and morning traditions that make your mornings with children great, or at least better?
posted by kitchencrush at 11:52 PM PST - 34 comments

I just bought a video ipod (5th gen) 60 GB HDD

How do I reset it to factory defaults? [more inside]
posted by InsertNiftyNameHere at 10:55 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me bleach my virgin black hair!

I'm asian and my hair is jet black, never been dyed, no other processing. It's in good condition and I use salon shampoo and conditioners with no crap in them. I want to go blonde! And I want to DIY. I've done all the reading and watched all the youtube videos I can stand. Help me fill in some gaps. [more inside]
posted by stellathon at 10:24 PM PST - 19 comments

You never know, Bert, you never know

For years my mom has said the phrase "you never know, Bert, you never know." It's usually a joking explanation for over-preparing, over-packing, or over-worrying (there's a lot of anxiety in my family). It presumably came from a Sesame Street scene between Ernie and Bert, and I'd love to know which one. [more inside]
posted by radioamy at 9:04 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me start eating

I'm a bird eater... I pretty much eat throughout the day in small portions. As in I take a bite at my desk and then I walk around with my mouthful and fix things. But if I skip a meal, it's *really* hard to start eating again. [more inside]
posted by one4themoment at 7:14 PM PST - 9 comments

Where can I find this awesome shirt?

Colby Keller is wearing a really great tshirt here, with a printed design of Greek red-figure vase painting. I want one. Can you help me track it down?
posted by fancyoats at 7:05 PM PST - 3 comments

48hrs in Upstate New York With a Pre-schooler in Mid April

Looking for suggestions of how to best spend a couple days within a two hour drive on the U.S. side of Niagara Falls. For Reasons we need to be in the US for 48hrs in mid-April (flexible timing anytime 8th-20th). Travelling party will consist of two adults and one 3yr old who loves all the stuff you'd expect her to (arts and crafts, singing, running around outside, interactive museums etc.) Our budget is about $500CAD. [more inside]
posted by dismitree at 6:58 PM PST - 5 comments

How do I find fictional Kate Daniels in real Atlanta?

I'm a huge fan of Ilona Andrews's Kate Daniels series. It's a great mixture of worldwide myths revisioned, butt-kicking urban fantasy heroine, and vivid writing. Decaying and fallen Atlanta is a significant part of the atmosphere. [more inside]
posted by Measured Out my Life in Coffeespoons at 6:46 PM PST - 7 comments

Snoring management.

How do you manage snoring with cohabitation in a small space? [more inside]
posted by loquacious at 6:14 PM PST - 26 comments

Whine and cry, whine and cry. Repeat.

We have a whiny dog. We've tried everything and don't know what to do. He is 9, maybe older, a Border Collie mix who's probably got trauma in his past (the shelter found him by a dumpster with maggots in his fur), but no current medical problems that our vet was able to find. He has anxiety but takes meds for that. [more inside]
posted by witchen at 6:11 PM PST - 19 comments

Americorps HELP

Recent college grad, not at all moving forward with my life, and I'm interested in Americorps. I need a change. I want a big change, something challenging and very unlike what I'm used to. I'm overwhelmed and don't know how to begin going about this. HELP. [more inside]
posted by Amy93 at 6:10 PM PST - 12 comments

Can chicken and pork be smoked together using the same recipe?

I'm planning to serve up some BBQ baby back ribs this weekend. It's a recipe I've used several times before, using a Traeger smoker/grill, and people love it! For guests who don't eat pork, I want to offer bone-in chicken breast, and was wondering if the chicken can be cooked using the same process, or will it need a different recipe? [more inside]
posted by oxisos at 6:03 PM PST - 10 comments

Great New Job Opportunity but Scared

How do I deal with fear of failure starting a new position and what if I hate it? [more inside]
posted by Asian_Hunnie at 5:24 PM PST - 4 comments

Acing a non-interactive job interview

Some time ago, I had a specific type of job interview which was new to me and I did not get offered a position. Now, I have this same type of interview again. How can I ace it this time? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 4:55 PM PST - 11 comments

Book-filter: Engaging and technical science writing

I'm looking for books written in an engaging manner about highly technical topics (i.e. don't read like textbooks). What books do you recommend, and what is this category called so I can find more of it? [more inside]
posted by bookdragoness at 4:06 PM PST - 16 comments

Imaginative and fair ways to value people's time and effort on project

Several friends and I have clubbed together and purchased a fixer-upper house. We intend to work on it as best we can ourselves, use contractors when we have to, sell it when done, make profit, etc etc. The issue is going to be, how do to count and 'value' the contribution each person has made? [more inside]
posted by Xhris at 3:16 PM PST - 27 comments

Quote about Cary Grant in North-by-Northwest.

Long shot: I have a memory of hearing someone, could be anyone, talking about how they try to conduct themselves like Cary Grant in North-by-Northwest, something along the lines of being terminally good natured and genial even in the face of aggression and surprising events. I don't suppose anyone remembers who it was?
posted by feelinglistless at 2:52 PM PST - 4 comments

Is it reasonable to insist a recommendation letter stay confidential?

A high school student of mine (along with their parent) wants me to give him a letter of recommendation that I wrote about him for an internship program. I feel a little uncomfortable about that. I know it's within my rights, but is it unreasonable or extraordinary of me to refuse? [more inside]
posted by Salvor Hardin at 2:30 PM PST - 34 comments

London or Paris for a vacation with Me + 2 kiddos under 5?

I need help choosing whether to go to London with a day trip to Paris or stay in Paris the entire trip on our family vacation this summer. [more inside]
posted by julie_of_the_jungle at 12:50 PM PST - 32 comments

One habit at a time, or all at once?

There are so many things I want to change about myself, and I don't know where to start. [more inside]
posted by akita at 12:49 PM PST - 19 comments

Happy Monkey Year

Who is the artist behind this picture?
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 12:38 PM PST - 10 comments

Examples of intentional communities becoming mini-autocracies?

Does anyone know any examples of intentional communities built off of ideals (e.g., kibbutzes, ashrams, communes, eco-villages, religious monasteries, etc.) where some individual(s) in charge got a little too powerful (or were too powerful to start out with) and turned the system into a self-serving, almost autocratic system? [more inside]
posted by mrmanvir at 12:00 PM PST - 18 comments

Tell me about technical writing

Are you a technical writer? How did you get your job? What do you do on a day-to-day basis? What are the pros/cons of your job? What's the salary like? [more inside]
posted by phoenix_rising at 11:50 AM PST - 12 comments

Getting off the gravy train

I want to quit my stable and perfectly good job to do: nothing. Am I an idiot? [more inside]
posted by theodolite at 11:39 AM PST - 45 comments

How do I trust myself with affirmations after a recent breakup?

How do I trust myself with affirmations if I constantly seek validation from external sources, especially intimate relationships? I am coming out of a recent breakup that triggered severe anxiety and dependency. I am keeping busy after the breakup (it has been 2.5 weeks) but I still feel like there is something missing from my recovery process. I am seeking professional help soon (I have an appointment scheduled) but I find anecdotal examples of others' experiences to be extremely helpful. [more inside]
posted by modernman at 11:38 AM PST - 7 comments

How to get to Hartford right now?

I just got denied my car rental in Hoboken because I don't have a credit card (the things you learn ...). How can I get to Hartford right now in time for the Springsteen show tonight? Complication: I have a bag with me that they won't let me take in the venue. [more inside]
posted by wemayfreeze at 11:34 AM PST - 15 comments

Best way to carry money in Europe

I will be travelling to France, Italy, and Spain in a few weeks, and I'm trying to decide the best way to carry money with me. Many sites have recommended money belts, but this seems weird and awkward for actually paying for things! I would feel weird untucking my shirt and reaching into my pants in a fancy restaurant, for example. [more inside]
posted by rainbowbrite at 11:00 AM PST - 45 comments

Comprehensive listing of Democratic Party Superdelegates

Looking for an updated list of all Democratic Party Superdelegates with their current "pledged" votes. [more inside]
posted by mayonnaises at 10:37 AM PST - 1 comment

Looking for "pulpit for table"

Hello, I am looking for something that could be called, a "pulpit for table". The thing is that I am not sure how it is called so I can't search for it yet, if it exists. Let me describe it: [more inside]
posted by iliketothinknu at 10:35 AM PST - 12 comments

Stop my brain from third wheeling!

I really have no reason to be anxious in this relationship, but it comes along anyways, as anxiety does... but how can I start to disentangle myself from it so I can enjoy myself more? [more inside]
posted by myitkyina at 9:56 AM PST - 5 comments

Jewish memorial service and shiva for the gentile.

My good friend's mother passed away and they are having a memorial service at a temple and a shiva. I know the Christian protocols, but am wondering how to proceed. Is sending flowers appropriate? I understand bringing food to the shiva is customary (I know they do not keep kosher), do I bring it with me or take it ahead? Any other guidance here would be appreciated. My friend is quite distressed and I do not want to bother her with these questions at this time.
posted by sarajane at 8:13 AM PST - 21 comments

How to get out of the AdSense infinite loop?

I tried to finish setting up AdSense monetization on my YouTube account after having tried to set it up a few years ago and giving up when I never heard back from YouTube . . .now: [more inside]
posted by pt68 at 8:10 AM PST - 3 comments

How did you cope with pregnancy rhinitis?

I'm 7 months pregnant and have suffered from a chronically stuffy nose since the first test came back positive. I cannot breathe like a normal person without liberal squirts of Sinex, but obviously I'd like other solutions. Help! [more inside]
posted by zoomorphic at 8:02 AM PST - 20 comments

postsurgical tales of terror-avoidance, pls share

I have some questions about upcoming ACDF surgery. [more inside]
posted by poffin boffin at 7:51 AM PST - 10 comments

Cool Things between Charlotte and College Station

This is going to be a first for us - an extended family road trip that's not entirely about driving overnight and getting to the destination ASAP. And so, we are turning to you for some help. [more inside]
posted by daikaisho at 6:24 AM PST - 12 comments

Scrolling screenshot app for Mac/Chrome/Firefox?

I have several email newsletters I need to archive as very presentable PDF/JPGs. Which means I can't just do print to PDF. A screenshot would be great but these are emails that are definitely longer than the screen. I need a great scrolling screenshot app, free or trial period best. OS X El Capitan, Chrome or Firefox.
posted by caveatz at 6:20 AM PST - 9 comments

Great places to move to in Vermont/Maine/etc.

I currently live in the Boston area (Cambridge specifically) and I'm thinking of moving somewhere else. I'm 30, no kids, currently rent, and have a car and a flexible job. For now, I'm looking at smaller cities in the Northeast US. I do like having lots of different things to do (and have even considered living in NYC for that reason). I'm also looking for somewhere with a friendly and open culture. [more inside]
posted by danceswithlight at 6:10 AM PST - 26 comments

Can I really write a paper with only one reference?

Professor wants the class to only use assigned readings to write papers, assigned readings are basically nonexistent. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by sharp pointy objects at 5:36 AM PST - 27 comments

The Clock Is Ticking

The clock is ticking...ten days ago, our landlord warned us the house we're renting will become a pile of rubble after March 31st, so we better be out by then. Good news: we already had a (small) down payment on a house saved up, got pre-approved for a mortgage from our bank, and we accepted a seller's counteroffer and signed a purchase agreement on a house well within our budget. What can we do to keep things in our timeline? [more inside]
posted by AzraelBrown at 5:22 AM PST - 19 comments

Best prototyping tool for games console UI?

A large part of my role is the development of UI for use on consoles. From a usability standpoint, our team is split between experience in Flash and Axure for prototypes. Currently the most difficult thing is finding tools that are not focused on App or Web development but something where we can use a Controller to navigate rather than a touchscreen or mouse. Is there anything obvious that I'm missing that people can recommend? Thanks in advance! [more inside]
posted by stackhaus23 at 3:45 AM PST - 4 comments

Inexpensive, high quality boxer briefs?

It's due time I get myself higher quality boxer briefs as the elastic bands of my current batch of boxers, which I bought only a few weeks ago, are all falling apart on me; the same fate befell the batch I bought before this one. As I'm sick of this happening, I'd like you folks to steer me in the direction of boxers you've found to not be complete pieces of shit. Bonus points if they're stylish. All recommendations are welcome but I don't think I'm willing to spend more than $20 / pair as I'm low on money now and need to keep some money around for . . . things that aren't underwear. If it matters, I'm male. But I certainly don't require anything super manly as I'm not a very masculine dude.
posted by GlassHeart at 3:42 AM PST - 27 comments

February 9

Growing up... figuratively, of course.

Have had some not-so-great previous years, some ongoing struggles, and more anticipated in coming years/decades. All of this has brought me face to face with my worst personality traits as well as given me a chance to work hard on the things I'd really like to change going forward and give myself a fresh start, so to speak. Is there a manual, road map or something for acquiring the most elusive of traits? Interested in anecdotes, from those in their late thirties and beyond, of personal journey in developing maturity. [more inside]
posted by xm at 11:26 PM PST - 17 comments

Am I too forgiving?

I know this is not an easy question to answer, but: people ask me for things, including people who have not been super nice to me in the past. When it doesn't cost me much, I generally try to help. But am I being too forgiving? [more inside]
posted by pando11 at 10:39 PM PST - 22 comments

Soft, healthy chews for an aging dog

Can anyone recommend some somewhat healthy, soft-ish chews for a maltipoo? She's had some dental extractions so she can't chew things like rawhide, bones, kong toys, etc. If it's on Amazon, that would be great. I've looked at things like pup-peroni but there are reviews on there that said it killed their dog. I know she would definitely love a beefy sort of treat and can be kind of picky. Thanks!
posted by madonna of the unloved at 9:28 PM PST - 10 comments

Recommendations for Non-Noise-Cancelling Headphones

I'd like to replace my trusty, very worn-out "sound-isolating" earbuds with something that lets the rest of the world in a bit more. [more inside]
posted by calcetinporfavor at 9:07 PM PST - 16 comments

47 Down, Three To Go

There are only three states in the US that I haven't been to: Alaska, Maine, and North Dakota. I'd like to knock all three of them out this year. Your suggestions on where to go, when to go, what to do and see?
posted by spilon at 7:33 PM PST - 25 comments

Low cost family vacation?

I don't really want to go to Disney again. Looking for ideas for a family vacation. [more inside]
posted by Ruki at 7:33 PM PST - 33 comments

Planning a 10-day road trip in Italy

Help me plan a 10-day road trip in Italy in March or April. I've already been to the tourist sites in Rome, Venice, Florence, etc. so would prefer to drive up the coast and stay in little towns along the way. More snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 7:05 PM PST - 13 comments

More audio comedy for my 12-year-old son

4+ years ago y'all gave my son a treasure trove of audio comedy, some of which he's listened to hundreds of times. Now he's almost 13 and needs a recharge. Help? [more inside]
posted by argybarg at 6:40 PM PST - 22 comments

I need to kill earthworms.

How can I kill all the worms in a potted plant? I'd like a solution that does not require me to replace the soil (i.e., I'm A-OK with using chemicals for this). [more inside]
posted by BuddhaInABucket at 6:20 PM PST - 11 comments

Suggestion for anti stress device I can use when I'm freaking out?

Certain situations drive me over the top with anxiety and even my daily running and meditation can't help me such as doctor's appointments, medical tests, dinner with new people, parties, etc. Something visual or auditory? Thanks very much.
posted by Tullyogallaghan at 6:03 PM PST - 17 comments

You've expressed excessively your contempt for matrimony

Can you link me any music in which not wanting to get married is mentioned? Examples would be Archie, Marry Me by Alvvays (from which the titular lyric is taken) and Burnin' Through the Nite by The Sweethearts ('don't wanna get married'). The song can be about anything, just so long as not wanting to get married is mentioned somewhere. And I'd prefer to stick to songs outside of contemporary mainstream pop.
posted by Panthalassa at 5:54 PM PST - 48 comments

Is this a cult? If so, how do I tell my friend?

My friend just got back from one of these $6000 spirituality retreats, and frankly she sounds very different. [more inside]
posted by butterstick at 5:17 PM PST - 27 comments

Tips for being a better listener

How to incentivize myself to talk about myself less? It turns out I love talking about myself (monologuing), but I want to love listening. Tell me your tips and tricks! [more inside]
posted by robot cat at 4:33 PM PST - 9 comments

Lopsided GRE score and grad school apps: great verbal, terrible quant!

I'm currently applying for master's degrees in public policy or disability studies, and two of three schools I'm applying to required the GRE. None of them stated a minimum score, but I'm stressing out about it right now after receiving my scores this morning. They turned out to be incredibly lopsided; my verbal score was 163 (92nd percentile), my analytical writing score was 5.5 (98th pecentile)...and my quant score was 142 (12th percentile). How should I offset this? [more inside]
posted by Elephanzee at 4:29 PM PST - 21 comments

"Should I take this job" filter- replete with ethics & other snowflakes

After almost a year of unemployment, during which I have been living with my parents (and going crazy in the process) I am about to get a job offer from a company whose ethics don't quite align with mine. The job would pay me extremely well, and would allow me to be independent and save money to work toward my future career goals. Help me decide if it's worth the cost. Bonus: help me negotiate my salary. More inside... [more inside]
posted by sparringnarwhal at 3:27 PM PST - 28 comments

How do I sort folks into groups based on their preferences?

What kind of algorithm can I use to create optimal group assignments for people, given each person's ranked preferences and limitations on group size? I'm having a hard time coming up with good search terms for this kind of thing. If an example helps: I have 115 people and 16 groups. Each person needs to go in a group. Each person will submit a list of their preferred groups in their preferred order. Some groups can hold up to 10 people, while others can hold up to 5. For the purposes of this exercise, let's pretend that no one cares who else is in their group with them.
posted by lizzicide at 2:59 PM PST - 9 comments

dance music with horns

Please tell me your favorite dance music that features trumpet or other brass. Bonus points for music that makes you happy and want to dance all the time.
posted by ocherdraco at 2:58 PM PST - 48 comments

Wait, Is That Really What You Think of Me?!

How can I become more aware of the impression I'm leaving on people? How can I make sure I leave a better impression on people in my life? details and examples inside. [more inside]
posted by carlypennylane at 2:46 PM PST - 18 comments

Parking in Glover Park, DC

Should we buy the home we fell in love with in Glover Park, DC which does not have parking? Will we be doomed to hours of looking for parking every evening? How big of a deal would this be? We LOVE the house but are hesitant because of the parking situation. Any light you can shed on this matter would be greatly appreciated. [more inside]
posted by cacao at 2:37 PM PST - 7 comments

Should I install a solar system on my roof.

A community program in my town (Eugene Oregon) is sponsoring a group purchase and installation of solar systems for homes. How can I think about this more effectively? [more inside]
posted by diode at 2:33 PM PST - 14 comments

Sometimes INTJ, other times ISTJ

Depending on the various Myers-Briggs tests that I take, I either end up with an INTJ or ISTJ result but they are always fairly equal (53% vs 47%, etc.). My understanding is the N and S are very different. What does it mean to be about equal for both?
posted by byhp at 1:54 PM PST - 19 comments

Why does New York City have express tracks for the subway?

New York has express tracks. It drives the tourists crazy. The only other system I can find that has express trains is Tokyo, which has two lines that were opened in 1969 and 1994. Why are express trains not more used? Is it simply cost or is there a design reason behind it? [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 1:17 PM PST - 26 comments

Sculpting tiny robotic insects - or insectoid robots

On the mid-life crisis project list for this year, I have something that includes making tiny models of robotic insects - things that look like insects, but on close inspection turn out to be mechanical. This is emphatically not steampunk - no cogs or lacquered brass - but rather things that appear as if they really do come from the far future where biomechanics and electronics have merged to form self-replicating, autonomous critters that clearly fill evolutionary niches. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by Devonian at 1:15 PM PST - 10 comments

what size Le Creuset enameled cast iron dutch oven?

Hi, I want to buy a Le Creuset enameled cast iron dutch oven but because they are so expensive I can only buy one. I've waited a long time and finally I'm going to take the plunge and do it. I know I want the yellow color, and heaviness does not matter because I'm going to leave it on my stove top for display when I'm not using it, so I don't have to lug it in and out of my cupboard. [more inside]
posted by lynnie-the-pooh at 1:07 PM PST - 31 comments

Seattle Doctor for Fibromyalgia

My wife and I are looking for a doctor or clinic in the Seattle area with expertise in diagnosing and treating fibromyalgia. [more inside]
posted by bajema at 12:49 PM PST - 2 comments

prepaid SIM for the entire US?

I'm visiting the US from Sweden for a month. I want to be able to use mobile data + call people sometimes. I'll be in New York and California. I already own a phone (samsung s3 mini). Is there a prepaid SIM I can buy for the month that will work in both places? Do I have to buy two? If so, which?
posted by beerbajay at 12:48 PM PST - 24 comments

Can I get another IUD...

... if I got the first one removed semi-arbitrarily? [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 11:50 AM PST - 11 comments

MAMA...ooooh...didn't mean to make you cry...

Our baby loses his mind when his dad tries to put him to bed at night. I am going on a three day business trip in less than a week. Halp. [more inside]
posted by castlebravo at 11:37 AM PST - 18 comments

"Only the x-iest is x"

Can you offer some names for this line of discursive reasoning that goes "only the strongest is strong at all" or "only the most pretty people are pretty." So far I can think of two: No True Scottsman and the various ways of saying "might makes right" but I have a tip of the tongue feeling there are a lot of these.
posted by Taft at 10:57 AM PST - 25 comments

I WANT TO GO TO THE SCHOOL PLZ LET ME IN KTHX BYE

I am working on my grad school application essay and am freezing up. I haven't had to write an application essay since 2002 and I'm not sure how to begin. Help! [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 10:07 AM PST - 10 comments

_______ is the New Craiglist

Where do people go to buy and sell their junk these days? Is Craigslist really as dead as it seems? [more inside]
posted by Venadium at 10:03 AM PST - 27 comments

can I cancel the credit card I left at a bar?

I had a friend in town this weekend, and we stopped for a drink at a bar before dinner on Saturday night. Sure enough, I walked out of there without closing out my tab. I know that the bar still has my card, and the charge for the two drinks has gone through. Does this mean that I can just call my bank and cancel the card with no repercussions? [more inside]
posted by cakelite at 9:41 AM PST - 11 comments

Getting my boss's feedback on the record

I'm in probation at a state institution of higher learning. My first year has three reviews. The first two have had poor marks (needs improvement / unacceptable!) regarding certain issues. [more inside]
posted by Nonce at 9:21 AM PST - 12 comments

Most effective ways to market field trips to teachers?

I need help getting people to sign up for my programs, and I've hit a roadblock. I develop and deliver field trips to school groups, in theory it’s great. In practice, nobody is signing up for field trips and my job is on the line. I am good at developing and delivering programs, but I am a novice at marketing. What are your favorite resources to teach me how to market towards and/or interact with classroom teachers? [more inside]
posted by Guess What at 9:15 AM PST - 26 comments

A question about two supplements

I have a question about GABA and Omega 3 supplements. Mostly if and what to take. [more inside]
posted by CrazyLemonade at 8:58 AM PST - 6 comments

Maximizing my Crater of Diamonds dig

I'll be at the Crater of Diamonds state park for ~4 days, camping on site. I want to have a ton of fun, while doing some serious diamond hunting. Advice? [more inside]
posted by Jacen at 8:57 AM PST - 5 comments

How to Help My Grandparents?

Hi I'm 27 and I live with my grandparents. My grandfather has always been the infrastructure to our family, but a year from now he experienced a blood clot in his brain that required surgery as well as placing a heart pacer in. Surgery went well but the doctors explained to us that my grandfather may likely never be able to do some of the things that he's so accustomed to doing for himself. Its been a full year and hard is an understatement, he has fell in a depression and my grandmother always seems to be stressed and depressed herself. He fights to drive his vehicles everyday and he wants to be able to help in ways he can't anymore. Last night he tried drinking a energy drink and it was so hard to redirect him. Does anyone know of anyway to help him? I really would like to help my grandmother but i feel as though he looks at me as his grandchild and not a man.
posted by imagine_dragon at 8:54 AM PST - 13 comments

Orthopedist recommendations in Manhattan?

Boy, did I mess up my knee. A sudden wrench, and . . . . it has since healed to the point where it basically doesn't hurt for regular walking and standing, but when I put any kind of sideways pressure on it or put weight on it while it is bent (as when going up or down stairs) it is extremely painful. This has been going on for a few months now and not improving, so perhaps it is time to go to the doctor. Can anyone recommend a good orthopedist in Manhattan? Thanks.
posted by Dolukhanova at 8:23 AM PST - 8 comments

Project Information from Clients Minus Email Hell

I am freelance PMing for a tiny marketing department, and I'm about to lose my mind. Please help me figure out how to corral my personable assortment of feral cats, chickens with heads cut off, and other colorful animal analogies. I need the multiple, confusing emails to stop. [more inside]
posted by Medieval Maven at 7:39 AM PST - 13 comments

I learn, you learn, he or she learns

I would like to hear about learning a new language as a middle-aged adult. [more inside]
posted by flourpot at 6:28 AM PST - 18 comments

How can I find the Time Warner Cable "cable" in my new house?

The TWC guy just came to install my high speed internet, but he couldn't find the place in the wall to plug it in. [more inside]
posted by rancher at 6:14 AM PST - 13 comments

Jaipur beyond the "single day tourist" schedule?

We are traveling to India (again!) in March (again!) - our itinerary has a couple days at the end, and we are spending Holi with our friend/guide and his family. The day after Holi, the suggestion is Amber Fort/City Palace/Jantar Mantar. We did those things last time. What should we do this time? We will ask our friend for suggestions, but I wanted to ask YOU GUYS too - thanks!
posted by ersatzkat at 5:44 AM PST - 4 comments

Chinese New Year - what did I eat?

We ordered chinese last night and it came we got a free pot of something that was just labelled "Free, Happy Chinese New Year". It had no flavour but what was it? [more inside]
posted by missmagenta at 3:29 AM PST - 11 comments

Cycle commuting in London for terrified beginners

On a whim I signed up for Southwark council's cycle scheme where for £10 I get a bike and all accessories for 4 weeks. I'm picking the bike up this afternoon. However, I've never cycled in traffic, and haven't actually cycled for two years. Help? [more inside]
posted by litereally at 2:08 AM PST - 17 comments

February 8

Is this guy dead? And what is the symbolism of the odd items behind him?

A picture from 1807 in Germany shows what could be a dead guy against a brick wall underneath iron rings and some kind of wreath or animal tail. What is the explanation for this? [more inside]
posted by stst399 at 11:56 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for 3D Animations of Thyroid

Am seeking out resources where I can see the thyroid in action with the ability to customize the view. I need extreme close ups and as mentioned 3D. [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 11:53 PM PST - 1 comment

Getting out of the Photos Picture

I have an 8 year old MacBook Pro, an 8 day old Windows 10 desktop, and 26 thousand photos. Help me improve my life/workflow. [more inside]
posted by itesser at 11:38 PM PST - 7 comments

Did I miss the boat in life? Will I be able to maintain relationships?

If you are successful in maintaining relationships, maybe you can answer some questions. My main concern is that I haven’t developed typically like others. When I went to high school, I was depressed and had social anxiety. Therefore, I didn’t have any kind of high school experience-no friends, no funny stories, no major personal development, and no boyfriends. [more inside]
posted by crystal_stair at 9:57 PM PST - 28 comments

A friendship ending unexpectedly

A friend who has meant the world to me has ended our friendship because...well, I'm not sure. [more inside]
posted by Champagne Supernova at 9:31 PM PST - 28 comments

Where should I live?

Can anyone offer some helpful advice about good places to live in the United States that currently have a low cost of living? I expect to be placed on a fixed income soon of about $1300 per month, so I'd like to live somewhere where I could make that work. [more inside]
posted by Gosha_Dog at 8:47 PM PST - 22 comments

Looking for fiction featuring cities among the trees

I am currently reading Heir to the Empire by Timothy Zahn, which includes wonderful vivid descriptions of a city built high in the trees on a jungle planet. Please recommend more novels that feature civilization in the trees! Not Tarzan; I'm looking for town or city life, arboreal style. I am searching for Dendropolis. [more inside]
posted by duffell at 6:19 PM PST - 16 comments

Tax withholding mystery

Joyous tax season is here. Please help me figure out what is going on with one of my W2s! [more inside]
posted by sucre at 6:05 PM PST - 6 comments

How hard is it for an adult to learn how to play guitar?

Said adult is in early thirties and has very minor musical experience
posted by watrlily at 5:43 PM PST - 22 comments

Websites that have a background video of a landscape on the front page?

I'm looking for websites that have an autoplaying, looping background video of a landscape on the front page, color or black and white both OK. I'm trying to work out the options with a website like this with a client and we are in search of additional examples. Thanks!
posted by circular at 4:39 PM PST - 7 comments

how do i transport my cat from nyc to montreal?

So, my cat is too big to fit in the small pet carrier that's allowed for Delta flights between nyc and montreal, so I can't take my cat as a carry-on. It doesn't look like I can take my cat with me via greyhound or amtrak, so, what are my alternatives?
posted by and they trembled before her fury at 1:59 PM PST - 20 comments

Knives are totally romantic

I want to buy a camping knife as Valentine gift. But, which one!? [more inside]
posted by atomicstone at 1:38 PM PST - 36 comments

What are the most "artsy" animated films that I should watch?

What are the most "artsy" animated films that I should watch? I am interested in experiencing animation that is not the same Hollywood style. Any suggestions would be most welcome.
posted by mortaddams at 1:19 PM PST - 65 comments

Recommendations for music with non-English lyrics

I'm in my semi-annual quest for new music. Looking for relatively fast-paced music sung in languages other than English. Bonus if I can purchase via Bandcamp (or any other site that does a (relatively) good job of getting money to musicians. [more inside]
posted by spamandkimchi at 12:46 PM PST - 23 comments

recommended reading list for a wealthy teen

My recently deceased brother provided life insurance for my 17 year old niece, but neglected to set up a trust, so she will be in charge of the 6 figure insurance money next year when she turns 18. She is a good kid but we are concerned her limited experience could lead her to make some decisions she might later regret. She is a gifted writer and I am considering challenging her to accept my commission to conduct interviews with a number of adults about the events and decisions which most shaped their lives, write up her analysis of their stories and develop her plan for what to do with her life. It occurs to me that this project might benefit from a research phase and I would like suggestions for a recommended reading list for someone who is going to be in a position to make their own dreams come true. I am not looking for tax free municipal bond investment strategies. I am looking for advice on making life choices. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
posted by grahahw at 12:29 PM PST - 40 comments

Cautious Lenders: Conservative Appraisers?

Do cautious mortgage lenders tend to use appraisers that value properties on the low end of the spectrum? [more inside]
posted by baseballpajamas at 12:27 PM PST - 3 comments

I have so much to offer, and no where to give.

I’m looking for the way out of a life of perpetual admin-assistance. [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill at 12:21 PM PST - 14 comments

Laptop purchase?

I'm trying to scope out a quality laptop that is available for purchase, but there are a few specifications that are causing complications. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by cashman at 11:56 AM PST - 11 comments

I'm watching myself sabotage myself and I'm going crazy.

I have a very clear vision of the life I want, but I can't stop sabotaging myself. It's like being unable to stop your legs from running off of a cliff. Please help before I run my life into the ground. [more inside]
posted by Cybria at 10:56 AM PST - 14 comments

A cat shelter. But for art.

I paint. It's therapeutic. Now I have a large number of paintings (well, and collage and mixed-media etc) and nothing in particular to do with them. I don't dislike them; I've hung some on the walls. But there's a lot of them, and it's kind of hard for me to outright destroy any. I'm considering selling some just to get them out of the house, but I have no idea how to do so. [more inside]
posted by Acheman at 10:24 AM PST - 25 comments

YANML: Patent Application Changes

Background: I have a provisional application and submitted a full application under the extended missing parts pilot program. i received a notice to file corrected application papers and a rejection of the year extension because I didn't have an ADS mentioning the provisional application. This is sort of a follow-up to this question: http://ask.metafilter.com/291390/YANAL-Patent-application-extended-missing-parts-denied I think I need to add more information to my specification: [more inside]
posted by spacefire at 10:05 AM PST - 6 comments

Looking for a very specific plant

I'm looking for a drought resistant, shade tolerant, tall (at least 4 feet) perennial that can survive in a metal planter. [more inside]
posted by theRussian at 9:38 AM PST - 9 comments

Moving hinges on existing door

I have a nice, 1.5" solid core interior door. I would like to move it from one doorway to another. Size is perfect, but the hinges are placed differently on the door than the receiving doorway. What kind of thing should I buy to reposition the hinges? Difficulty level: Wood door, metal industrial hinges, metal doorway. [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 9:35 AM PST - 6 comments

From Merida to Cancun

I need advice on the nuts and bolts of getting from the Centro area of Merida to Cancun by bus. [more inside]
posted by the phlegmatic king at 9:29 AM PST - 5 comments

Disheartened and frustrated by job search.

I always feel like I keep hitting a brick wall after searching for jobs. Can I get some tips? [more inside]
posted by morning_television at 9:02 AM PST - 11 comments

Garden-themed gift / poem

For my sister's milestone birthday, my gift is garden themed but I need your help. [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing at 8:22 AM PST - 6 comments

Wireless bridge throughput for home networking - better than repeater?

I've read some of the previously posted questions on this (not to mention Googling) and still have not read a 100% clear answer. I know that using an extender/repeater slashes bandwidth. But if I use a wireless bridge, instead, will throughput be higher? [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 7:30 AM PST - 4 comments

Secret wedding sans parents before the big family one?

My partner (future mr. snacks) and I want to hold a private ceremony with our closest friends, no parents involved, before we launch willingly into chaotic 300+ people wedding events with family. Looking for ways to navigate the emotional & possibly cultural weirdness of this situation: can we pull this off respectfully? Should we even try to keep the small one a secret? Snowglobe inside. [more inside]
posted by Snacks at 7:24 AM PST - 30 comments

Should I Date a Younger Man?

A few weeks ago I started seeing a guy I am now completely smitten with. We met through mutual friends and it started out as a drunk hookup (hah), but the following weekend I saw him again in a sober hang out context, and we ended up both canceling our evening plans and talking well into the night. I didn’t expect to have such an intense and wonderful connection with him. I feel like he is alive in the same way that I am. We can talk about anything, and we spend a lot of time just laughing about nonsense. Like I said, we’ve only been seeing each other for a few weeks, but I already feel like he could be someone who is very very special in my life. [more inside]
posted by alipie at 6:38 AM PST - 49 comments

Make ahead/freezer breakfast and lunches

We're expecting baby #2 in a couple months. I have plenty of practice and am happy with our make ahead/freezer dinner options, but with a toddler in the mix now, I know I'm not going to have the time to prep breakfasts and lunches immediately before mealtimes as often as I do now. I'm looking for your favourite ideas/recipes/blogs to cover those meals. [more inside]
posted by catch as catch can at 6:14 AM PST - 10 comments

What are current best methods for TV-quality lip sync animation?

In 2016, what software and methods do professional animators use for TV-quality lip sync animation with the aim of acceptable quality at the fastest speed? [more inside]
posted by ErikH2000 at 12:15 AM PST - 4 comments

February 7

Does Alta Dena sell unpasteurized sour cream?

I'm very pregnant and accidentally ate Alta Dena sour cream that has absolutely no indication of whether or not it is pasteurized on the packaging. Google is not giving me a definite answer. I live in CA and I think it is legal to sell unpasteurized items here. Can you help me figure this out?
posted by anonymous at 11:31 PM PST - 14 comments

five years of taxes to do?

I am one of the thousands of Americans who live overseas and because of ludicrously low incomes have never gotten it together to file taxes in the USA. Zero of my USA friends here are filing taxes in America. I suddenly co-own a business but their accountant does not do expat taxes. How to go about this smoothly would be a delight. I am currently being quoted £500 for each tax year preparation.
posted by anonymous at 11:31 PM PST - 17 comments

How do I make delicious Taiwanese-style cakes?

Asian bakeries seem to have the art of soft, squishy cakes down to a science... and I want to learn that science. Should I be using any specific recipes, ingredients, or techniques that will give me this texture? [more inside]
posted by Foam Pants at 9:50 PM PST - 10 comments

Female friend zone

I have been close friends with this guy for about 1.5 years. We slept together and had some sort of semi-dating thing going for a couple of months when we first met. Then it fizzled out and I was more hurt by this than I anticipated. As of recently, he is now in a serious relationship. It bothers me. Time to cut the friendship? [more inside]
posted by sabina_r at 9:30 PM PST - 16 comments

I like to solve problems. How do I get paid to do that?

I've flip flopped on what I want to go to school for and/or what kind of career track I want to aim for. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by motioncityshakespeare at 8:40 PM PST - 13 comments

No Work Experience in Computer Science | About to Graduate | Panicking

I'm completing a Computer Science degree. Graduation is this May, and I'm really worried about finding an entry level job. The main reason I'm worried is I have no work experience in Computer Science and I have no idea whether I am currently "hire-able." [more inside]
posted by snickersnee at 6:48 PM PST - 27 comments

Is there an appropriate gift to give a theater tech?

I know you can give an actor flowers after a performance, but what about backstage crew? [more inside]
posted by msali at 5:06 PM PST - 27 comments

Does anyone have advice for learning two similar langs, esp dialects?

TLDR: my GF's (likely relatively soon to be wife) fam is from Shanghai. They don't speak much English, prefer shanghainese, and have fluent but heavily accented mandarin (somewhat ironically, their mandarin has atrophied a lot ok the US because they hang out only with shanghainese speakers!). I need advice for when and how to learn shanghainese! Snowflake details within... [more inside]
posted by wooh at 5:05 PM PST - 13 comments

What food delivery services can I try in SF?

I'm interested in food delivery services, preferably ones I can sign up for online. I'd like to try a number of them, whether they deliver from a restaurant ready to eat, a box of produce, deliver a box of food to make with a recipe, or to reheat, delivery a specialty item like booze or cookies or meals for particular diets, whatever. [more inside]
posted by gryftir at 4:35 PM PST - 15 comments

Ideas for reducing health insurance costs in the UK

My elderly parents health insurance costs have now become unaffordable. Are there any ways of reducing this cost without significantly reducing the coverage currently offered to them? [more inside]
posted by fernbritton at 4:22 PM PST - 13 comments

Design business name, with a Rumi twist!

My freelance design business has been going very well lately, and I'm starting to get more clients. As such, I feel it's time to finally put a name to it, create a website portfolio, etc. The only trouble is coming up with a name! [more inside]
posted by hasna at 4:11 PM PST - 9 comments

Splicing carpet over backing - what's the trick?

I'm installing carpet, and have the tack strips down around the edge of the concrete floor. There is a splice however. Obviously the backing doesn't go over the tack strip. Does it go under the splice? [more inside]
posted by msalt at 3:54 PM PST - 8 comments

Outlook 2010 command line switch ignored?

Outlook 2010 command line switch doesn't seem to be working? [more inside]
posted by Chrysostom at 3:44 PM PST - 1 comment

Almost unbearable pain in legs while flying

When I flew to England and back in the last 2 weeks I had unbearable pain in my legs and I have to do the trip again some time in the next month and I'm worried/want to do what I can to prepare myself. [more inside]
posted by shesbenevolent at 3:39 PM PST - 19 comments

I don't want to screw myself over more than I already have...

I worked as a part time nanny for the first half of this year, but I stupidly accepted being paid under the table. How do I pay taxes now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:40 PM PST - 15 comments

Is there a forum where I can reliably find eclectic music suggestions?

Is there some general music forum where I might ask things like "Suggest me some music that sounds desert-themed" or "What are some good songs with lyrics that aren't about love and dancing?" or "Suggest some songs that include a violin solo." [more inside]
posted by picklenickle at 2:19 PM PST - 5 comments

Could a hacker glean someone's IP address from a Facebook game?

Someone on Facebook told our thirteen year-old niece that he knows her IP address and plans to break in and assault her. Is there any way that even a sophisticated hacker could get this from play on one of the Facebook games? Dad says he contacted local police who told him there is nothing they can do and we've asked him to call our state police.
posted by R2WeTwo at 1:34 PM PST - 23 comments

Love and Connection

Thinking a lot lately about love and connectedness. I posted previously about being single, now I'm looking for ways to create more love and connectedness - for myself and others. Not in a romantic sense, but in the sense of friendship and community. I'm somewhat shy and socially awkward, and cautious with people I don't know well, so this is a bit of a hurdle for me. I'm reading books and online material on the subject but it isn't always easy to translate that into everyday practice. What are examples of things that help create connection, help people feel loved and welcome? Books, online material, personal anecdotes welcome.
posted by bunderful at 12:18 PM PST - 14 comments

Good labels (for shelves, drawers, spices etc)

As an alternative to a label maker, I'm planning to buy labels I can hand-write on. What do you think of this idea, and which labels would you recommend? Criteria: assorted sizes down to about a half-inch in height (so I can label shelves), writeable, available easily. [more inside]
posted by splitpeasoup at 11:22 AM PST - 14 comments

Looking for math and science 'jokes' to slip into a D&D adventure!

I've got the chance to run a fun, whimsical sort of D&D adventure for a friend of mine. Yay! She's a bit of a science/math geek, and very fond of The Phantom Tollbooth by Norton Juster. So I was trying to think of fun, whimsical science and math jokes and references I could slip in to a sort of 'journey with sights along the way' in the style of TPT. [more inside]
posted by The otter lady at 11:12 AM PST - 12 comments

discontinued product help

Burt's Bees discontinued my favorite product, that I'd been using for at least 10 years. Can you please help me find a likeness or very similar alternative to their citrus facial scrub? [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 10:50 AM PST - 7 comments

Changing course to classical music career later in life

I am feeling torn between my life as it is and my life as I think it could have been and wondering whether it is even possible to change tracks at this point, and how I would go about it if it is. [more inside]
posted by Anyone's Ghost at 10:10 AM PST - 34 comments

New Englanders want to see the sun

My husband and I live in New England and we want to move to a warmer location. We are in the brainstorming stage. We'd love to hear of places that tick our boxes. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 9:15 AM PST - 27 comments

Should I drive DC to Philly to bring wife spare car key?

My wife lost her car key in a restaurant parking lot last night. I'm home near DC with two kids (2 & 7) while she attends a conference outside Philadelphia. How do we get her home tonight? [more inside]
posted by Straw Cab at 9:10 AM PST - 14 comments

How to safely heat only half my house at night?

My single radiator heats the main living areas from one side and the bedrooms from the other. At night it gets down into the 30s/40s. Is there a way I could safely heat just the bedrooms at night? Diagram inside. [more inside]
posted by joshwa at 8:36 AM PST - 19 comments

Is 3% a typical concentration of hydrogen peroxide for home use?

I'm from the US and living in Europe at the moment. I'm used to being able to buy hydrogen peroxide at the local CVS at home, but here it can only be bought in a pharmacy. When I bought some the other day, the clerk seemed to be saying that I could only buy a limited quantity, and gave rather specific instructions for diluting it. Now I'm nervous about using it because I don't want any skin injury or anything from using it. Can someone give me some guidance? [more inside]
posted by leticia at 7:49 AM PST - 17 comments

Name that SciFi book: Fast and Slow

I'm looking for a scifi book where two alien species live on the same planet, with different speeds of living (it is not Fire Upon the Deep). [more inside]
posted by tintexas at 7:07 AM PST - 16 comments

Filing (very) late income taxes in QC, Canada

For pretty terrible (and irrelevant) reasons, I haven't filed my taxes in (I think) 5 years. Now I really really need to do them, but I don't know how to start and I get panicky just thinking about the insurmountable piles of paperwork, potential money owing, and even criminal charges. I'm in QC, Canada. If anyone else has dealt with late filing or voluntary disclosure in Quebec, please help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:49 AM PST - 21 comments

Dealing with feeling inadequate (and angry) about your appearance

I spend a lot of time thinking about and feeling inadequate, especially about my appearance. What helps to make this better? And what might help me to feel less angry about it all? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:48 AM PST - 64 comments

One month paid sabbatical. What to do with my time?

I recently got a great offer from my company for a paid sabbatical of one month. Their conditions are to use it on a personal project of some sort and give a presentation afterwards. I. E. "Don't stay at home and watch TV." [more inside]
posted by ts;dr at 6:33 AM PST - 15 comments

February 6

Caps Lock to switch to Japanese input in Windows 10?

So I've got a Windows 10 VM set up on my MacBook. One thing I really like is the fact that I can use the Caps Lock key in Mac OS to switch to Japanese input (i.e. Caps Lock on = Hiragana input). Is there some way to finagle Windows 10 to work like this instead of the fiddly shift-Caps Lock type shortcuts that seem to be the norm?
posted by DoctorFedora at 10:48 PM PST - 3 comments

How stupid am I to order kittens from Russia?

I live in New York, and I'm considering ordering two Siberian kittens direct from the source. How stupid is this? [more inside]
posted by novalis_dt at 9:31 PM PST - 47 comments

Good French books that HAVEN'T been translated.

I'm looking for recommendations for French books by diaspora/PoC authors who have NOT been translated into English. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Tamanna at 9:25 PM PST - 9 comments

Which gangster invented supermarket sex?

This cover of the Police Gazette magazine references "supermarket sex" (?) being invented by a particular "gangster". Who were they referring to? [more inside]
posted by dilaudid at 8:11 PM PST - 8 comments

Trying to break into journalism

I recently graduated with a degree in film from a Chicago school, but more and more I find myself only interested in documentaries, podcasts and articles. How can I break into journalism at a time when the future of journalism is so uncertain? [more inside]
posted by TheSillyman at 7:26 PM PST - 11 comments

Corporate housing or short or long term housing in Sacramento, CA?

Hi, all. We're considering relocating to Sacramento (leaning towards midtown or the East side) and need to find short term housing while we get the lay of the land. Corporate housing seems insanely expensive ($125.00 per day! wtf?); is there another way to rent a furnished 2 bedroom place that's not airbnb or craigslist? [more inside]
posted by LuckySeven~ at 7:04 PM PST - 6 comments

What to do with a bag o' oysters?

A friend just brought back a dozen Willapa Bay oysters on ice. I love oysters, but have no idea how to shuck 'em, and (apart from the chance of impaling my hand) I'm somewhat leery of eating raw oysters clumsily shucked. [more inside]
posted by spacewrench at 6:34 PM PST - 18 comments

Custom-made plastic (?) dividers in Toronto or Canada?

I own a record shop and am tired of paying high prices (and insane shipping) for plastic record dividers that invariably break. I think I can get someone to cut or create me my own but have no idea what the technical terms are that I need to search in order to find a company to do it. I'm in Toronto and would like to meet with someone locally. What should I be googling? Thanks.
posted by You Should See the Other Guy at 6:00 PM PST - 7 comments

What to do with these special vinegars?

So, my wife and I are not cooks. But for Christmas, we were given flavored balsamic vinegars: one each of blackberry ginger, dark chocolate, and strawberry. What is a good way for us to use these? Salad dressings? If so, what kind of salad goes well with chocolate vinegar? Or should we pour it over ice cream?
posted by maurreen at 5:23 PM PST - 19 comments

Had an awful neurologist appt,, now what?

I recently saw a neurologist for my chronic cough, which has been diagnosed as neurogenic by a cough specialist. The appt was one of the worst medical experiences I've had. While I don't know if he did anything illegal, I'd like to report him somewhere. I'm also wondering if there's a way to get out of paying him. More inside. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 5:03 PM PST - 26 comments

Why do well-known celebrities do commercials?

Why does Samuel L. Jackson do Capitol One commercials? Why did Shatner do Priceline ads? And I just saw Mario Lopez in a toe fungus treatment spot. Do they really need the money? Especially Shatner, who I imagine has tons of residuals from Star Trek. Other specific examples appreciated, the more ridiculous the product and well-known the celebrity the better.
posted by desjardins at 4:02 PM PST - 31 comments

I need a Great [not necessarily American] Novel, damn it.

[Book recommendation filter] Must be literary. Must be wildly absorbing. Ensemble casts of characters preferred but not required. The longer, the better. Did it sweep YOU off your feet? Tell me about it! [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 3:35 PM PST - 56 comments

What's it like to be one and done?

Contrary to my plans before I had kids, I'm on the fence about having a second child. What is it like raising--or growing up--an only child, and are there factors I'm not considering? [more inside]
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 2:54 PM PST - 68 comments

What to expect when you're . . . a gal getting up there.

I'm looking for anecdata about, basically, the different things that start going wrong in your body at different ages. So that they aren't COMPLETE surprises to me when they show up. Examples might be: "Dad started to develop incontinance at age 79" and "my nose hairs turned grey and started to need extra trimming at age 63". [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:02 PM PST - 81 comments

Got some cash, pay down house or invest it?

After some moderate success I'm about to take some money out of my business. After catching up on my own personal retirement savings I have enough leftover to do a few things with. My leading two candidates are, first, I can either pay down our house, taking it from a 30 year fixed @ 3.75% (2 years in) to a 15 year fixed at about 3.25%. Option two is to invest the money in either Real Estate or Equities or both. Looking for some armchair financial planning to see if I'm missing something. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:02 PM PST - 13 comments

How can I soundproof this little room for playing music?

Small room in the house that is 9' x 9' with 8' ceilings. Want to practice instruments and singing without disturbing neighbors. [more inside]
posted by manderin at 11:59 AM PST - 10 comments

Moving sucks. Can't I just fast-forward through the next 2 months?

I need advice for moving across the country, from Oregon to South Carolina. Difficulty level: dog, cat, rabbit, kid, 2 cars, 2 scooters, and a 2-car garage full of tools. [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 11:53 AM PST - 16 comments

Fun stuff for older adults in Seattle

My parents are talking about leaving their itty bitty town in the Midwest to retire close to us in Seattle. Yay! Now, what to do with them? [more inside]
posted by inky_the_pinky at 11:46 AM PST - 8 comments

Sprint triathlon training for the minimally ambitious newbie

I signed up for a sprint triathlon in June. By the time June rolls around, I want to be confident that I can complete the triathlon in relative comfort and calm, and not be dead last. Basically, by race day, I want it to not be a big deal. I don't care about being fast. I have some very basic equipment and a limited budget, and a *very* constrained schedule for working out. Help me figure out the bare essentials of preparing for this triathlon. [more inside]
posted by Cygnet at 11:45 AM PST - 14 comments

Sweet spot for Amsterdam Vacation

Looking to visit Amsterdam and hitting the best two-week period before the largest tourist crowds descend. Basically, what are the latest two weeks before the big crowd surges? [more inside]
posted by raisingsand at 11:06 AM PST - 10 comments

Show me the money

I am looking for articles (Wikipedia is OK) about both terrible/failed attempts to pay people for x result or wildly successful ones. [more inside]
posted by Michele in California at 10:52 AM PST - 10 comments

Want regular energy levels to support different kinds of activities

To do the things I want and need to do, I need a steady baseline of reliable physical energy. The way I do things now - in bursts, with a fair amount of reliance on mood and inconsistently available physical energy (through serial immersion in different kinds of projects, with downtime required between efforts) is not amazingly effective. Have you gone from that kind of rhythm to something more regular, that allows you to (e.g.) easily switch between kinds of activities, on demand? How? [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 9:18 AM PST - 21 comments

Beautiful piano playing please

Hit me with your favourite beautiful piano music. Any genre as long as it's played exquisitely and preferably available on spotify.
posted by roolya_boolya at 9:14 AM PST - 45 comments

School me on minority strikes

I'm looking for inspiring examples of minority strikes throughout the history of the US and world. Talking about situations in which workers didn't have the majority of their co workers but walked off the job because of working conditions. Best if they're non-union to begin with. This will add to the inspiration of a pretty courageous group of workers who is talking about doing the same and draws courage from each other and from other brave souls in history. Thanks for any suggestions!
posted by sb3 at 8:48 AM PST - 2 comments

what cheese for ema datse

I'm looking at recipes for the Bhutanese chili cheese stew ema datse. I've seen ideas ranging from kraft singles (for the texture) to stilton (for the sourness and approximation of half-rotted yak cheese). I've seen mixes of jack and feta. Anyone with experience in this department?
posted by colin_l at 7:26 AM PST - 11 comments

Recommendations for wireless earbuds

I'm looking to get some wireless earbuds to use in the gym. Their main purpose will be to block out the sounds around me, and that takes precedence over sound quality. Also, I have trouble finding earbuds that actually stay in my ears. The only kind of wired earbuds that work for me are the ones made from the memory-foam material that expands in your ears, but so far I haven't been able to find that style in wireless form. Can anybody point me to some wireless earbuds that meet these criteria? [more inside]
posted by crLLC at 6:28 AM PST - 11 comments

Is it just me, or is that weird?

Our landlords are selling our rented apartment. They have advertised it using some photos I sent earlier, without asking permission first. Is this unusual? [more inside]
posted by tworedshoes at 4:45 AM PST - 24 comments

Browser won't reset location after using VPN

I'm working overseas in Country B and sometimes have to VPN back to Country A. When I'm doing that sometimes I'm careless and I open another browser tab for surfing, or forget to disconnect from VPN afterwards. And now google, and other sites insist I'm still in Country A, and not country B. How do I fix this and prevent it from happening again? [more inside]
posted by Caravantea at 3:33 AM PST - 5 comments

How to Stop MacBook connecting to Work Wifi When I'm at Home

I live close enough to my work, that sometimes my MacBook will connect to my work's wifi, even when I'm at home (particularly if I forget to disconnect from work's wifi before leaving). Do you have any lateral thinking ideas of how I can ensure that when I'm home, my computer automatically connects to my home network? Just the one or two times I forget to disconnect from work, I'll probably end up with my Netflix etc coming through my work's wifi, which wouldn't be great. Thank you!
posted by surenoproblem at 1:50 AM PST - 5 comments

Company management in limbo, stupid time to ask for raise?

I'm approaching my first year at my job, my performance has been lauded and I intend to ask for a raise, however... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:35 AM PST - 4 comments

Teacher 7 months pregnant in the fall, how can I work?

I am a teacher who is currently stuck in the short-term contracts phase of my career. I will not be renewed in June. I will be 6-7 months pregnant in September. Outside the box suggestions for how I can work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:35 AM PST - 11 comments

How can you detect and defend yourself against character assassination?

What can a person do to guard/defend themselves against a suspected character assassination campaign, possibly involving online identity spoofing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:35 AM PST - 4 comments

February 5

Can a cobalt chrome ring be removed safely in the event of an accident?

I've been considering getting a cobalt chrome ring because it seems significantly more scratch-resistant than platinum or palladium yet not prone to shattering on impact like tungsten or ceramic. All the jewelry stores say that ERs/ambulances and the like have the necessary equipment to cut one off in the event of an emergency but I wanted to see if anybody here could confirm that. I'm in the USA. [more inside]
posted by unus sum at 8:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Crushed AA battery. How do I handle?

Workmen just came to my new apartment to remove a broken washing machine. After they left, I found a crushed AA battery where the machine was left. I have no idea how old it was or if they crushed it moving the washer. There was liquid on the floor, but that could have been from disconnecting the washer. How do I clean this up safely? [more inside]
posted by frumiousb at 6:21 PM PST - 8 comments

Shaking up my comfort zone

I'm after a bunch of things I can make to challenge myself that aren't expensive or dangerous that will give me some level of discomfort. [more inside]
posted by b33j at 4:35 PM PST - 48 comments

Fixing the exterior of house seems ... complicated.

The exterior of our house needs attention. Professional attention. [more inside]
posted by stowaway at 3:55 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me be as supportive as possible while pregnant and full of anxiety

I'm 32 weeks pregnant with my first child. Meanwhile, my sweetie's father is succumbing to cancer (so, by the way, is my stepmom, whom I love dearly). I'm interested in tips on how to cope with tough stuff like this while pregnant, how to both be supportive and get the support I need right now. [more inside]
posted by Lisitasan at 3:25 PM PST - 11 comments

Credit cards - looking for nerdy bookkeeping dets

When I buy something, I can go to my credit card (Chase) website and see the charge nearly instantly in the Temporary Authorizations area. What determines how long it takes to go from there to Posted Activity? [more inside]
posted by susandennis at 2:50 PM PST - 3 comments

Hell is Wet Socks

I need footwear for the out-of-doors across that's appropriate for at least three seasons, if not four. While my feet are snowflakes, I don't think I have to worry about stepping in snow … do I? What about rainy puddles or streams? [more inside]
posted by fedward at 2:36 PM PST - 12 comments

Name those tunes

Hivemind... what two songs are these?
posted by starman at 2:34 PM PST - 5 comments

Like less, but with more

I want a unix command that's basically less but I want to be able to insert something into the file as I'm monitoring it with less -F [more inside]
posted by GuyZero at 2:32 PM PST - 6 comments

Kids and Cats

I would like to hear about how you've been able to raise a kid and care for an affectionate yet skittish cat. How did you do it? I'm particularly interested in stories about kids between the ages of 2-10. [more inside]
posted by MsMartian at 2:09 PM PST - 16 comments

Vet time?

My cat seems to have a cold -it seems like she has really bad nasal congestion and eye discharge. Should I take her to the vet? On the one hand I think no, because last time she had these symptoms (July) the vet said there was nothing she could do, and I don't want to stress her out for nothing when she's already uncomfortable and possibly prolong this. On the other hand "Making bad noises when breathing= doctor" seems like a pretty good guideline to follow in general. [more inside]
posted by bleep at 1:28 PM PST - 13 comments

Can Anyone identify this font or something close to it?

Can anyone identify the font used to spell out 'Beach Party'? Bonus points if it is available for free somewhere! Gratzi
posted by TwilightKid at 12:56 PM PST - 7 comments

What state to non-compete lawyer up?

My husband is subject to a broad non-compete for his industry. We'd like to consult an employment lawyer on whether it's too restrictive, but we're not sure what state to find an employment lawyer in. YANMYL, but maybe you can help me find a lawyer. [more inside]
posted by permiechickie at 12:38 PM PST - 4 comments

Can you share your experiences with housesitting?

Where do you find reputable house sitting gigs in the US and build your network and trust as a good house sitter? [more inside]
posted by xtine at 12:12 PM PST - 6 comments

Is someone trying to poison our dog?

We're concerned that neighborhood malcontents might be trying to hurt our dog. More inside. [more inside]
posted by zeusianfog at 11:43 AM PST - 22 comments

How much privacy do I owe my mentally ill sibling?

My sibling suffers from serious mental illness. At what point, and in what circumstances, is it okay for me to reveal this to people? (Sorry, this is long.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:39 AM PST - 25 comments

Gee, my underwear smells disgusting

For a couple weeks now, I've been noticing that my underwear suddenly smells really really gross all the time. It's not smelled like this before. I have no health or lifestyle concerns likely to change the way I or my underwear smell, but there must be a reason. More inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:37 AM PST - 24 comments

Name that Pharmaceutical Manufacturing Accident

I remember there being a manufacturing process accident (I think pharmaceutical) where the temperature of the reactor was out of specification and then the product had the wrong properties. This accident happened a long time ago and in my mind had a role in helping shape GMP. [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 11:03 AM PST - 4 comments

So many MOOCs, so little time

Is there a site which ranks/aggregates data about the quality of MOOCs? [more inside]
posted by Captain Chesapeake at 10:50 AM PST - 3 comments

Jarvis...Please respond...

Are there any software apps that have cool Hollywood-style/Futuristic UI natively built in? Email Clients, Desktop themes, Instant Messengers with fancy "Message is being encrypted" dialogs etc? [more inside]
posted by theobserver at 9:37 AM PST - 5 comments

To CRM or not to CRM, that's the question.

Starting a consultancy firm. I am considering whether I need a CRM tool/system right now. What are your experiences? Why do I need one now, and If you can convince me why I need one, which one would you recommend? [more inside]
posted by eau79 at 8:56 AM PST - 9 comments

Making a print of a photo of Jupiter

I love this map of Jupiter as seen from its south pole. Would it make sense to turn this into a print suitable for framing and hanging? And if so, what's the best way to go about doing so? [more inside]
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 8:39 AM PST - 8 comments

Is this double glazing?

Help me, AskMe hivemind. Can you identify, from the linked pictures alone, whether the windows shown are single or double glazed? Can you tell me how to demonstrate it to someone else, either way? [more inside]
posted by howfar at 8:23 AM PST - 16 comments

How do I manage multiple job offers?

I've recently moved country and am looking for work. I am finding myself in the fortunate position of sending out resumes and having a very high response rate. How do I manage this? Snowflakes below the fold. [more inside]
posted by robertthebruce at 7:43 AM PST - 7 comments

Cheap / free taxonomy management tool needed - and quick!

I've had a messy taxonomy management project dumped in my lap, and need to do this the right way - I'm looking for recommendations for cheap or open source taxonomy management tools that I can use to start sorting this out. [more inside]
posted by ryanshepard at 7:07 AM PST - 5 comments

When should I quit on trying to build my own business?

At what point do you give up on trying to do your own thing? After two failures? When the adrenaline kicks in as soon as you get up? [more inside]
posted by gadha at 6:49 AM PST - 12 comments

When is rebuilding a transmission worth it?

I had my transmission diagnosed as needing a rebuild and they quoted about $2800 in the northern Virginia area. The shop is well reviewed and recommended by another shop that I trust so I'm not concerned that I'm being scammed, but I'm having trouble weighing out whether I should just start looking at a new to me car or if we should have the transmission rebuilt. [more inside]
posted by brilliantine at 6:41 AM PST - 11 comments

How to gamify budgeting?

We've finally decided that we need to spend less money. Yay! How can we make this more fun? [more inside]
posted by EtTuHealy at 6:13 AM PST - 16 comments

Your experience with ceramic cordless electric kettles (esp EU / UK)?

I like the idea of a ceramic kettle, like the look of this and this for our space (something mostly white, and more old fashioned looking, basically), and want to switch from plastic, but I'm worried about a couple of things... [more inside]
posted by taz at 4:24 AM PST - 12 comments

What to do with goat?

I have a boneless leg of goat. My original idea was to marinate it and cook it on my gas bbq using a rotisserie. I was thinking buttermilk but would like some more suggestions. I'd be open to other cooking options as well. [more inside]
posted by poxandplague at 4:04 AM PST - 12 comments

Do I need to turn off a fridge/freezer a long time before transport?

Does a fridge needs to be turned off for a long time before transport? Googling it, some sources say yes, other sources say no (and suggest you can even store all your food in the freezer while you move it). What to believe, and why? [more inside]
posted by strekker at 3:29 AM PST - 8 comments

Avant-garde costuming. Animals preferred.

I am interested in animal costumes, but searches either come up with mascots and fursuits (which are far too literal) or things like The Lion King (which foreground the human too much). Can you point to anything less conventional? [more inside]
posted by solarion at 2:29 AM PST - 9 comments

Are mp3s (and mp3 players / decoders) all equal?

I've often heard people rate different mp3 players with statements like "the iPods have really poor bass" or "the sound from a Sandisk is really tinny" or "metal sounds awesome on my Zune" (a hypothetical - this has never happened). Obviously speakers and earphones and the ripping / recording of the original track can have a difference. Is there audio difference between players beyond that? [more inside]
posted by outlier at 1:32 AM PST - 11 comments

February 4

Making a leap of faith without a safety net

I've saved up the eff-you fund. I've come to the decision to quit my job without another accepted offer in hand. I give notice tomorrow. Have you done this? What do you wish you had done to heal from this period in your life, or what did you do that made all the difference? How do you rebuild yourself when an abusive person in a position of power over you has torn you down? [more inside]
posted by raw sugar at 11:30 PM PST - 21 comments

Sites that link to web fiction?

I've found one meta/aggregating site, but more are appreciated, as well as web fiction hosts. [more inside]
posted by halifix at 10:20 PM PST - 2 comments

Getting Mirena IUD removed: what should I expect?

In the 4 years I've had the Mirena IUD, I've put on 40 pounds and I've gone from having no PMS symptoms to being practically unhinged a few days per month—like, more depressed than I've been in twenty years. Between the weight and the intermittent crazy, I've decided it's time to ditch the Mirena. I've been reading about the "Mirena crash" and scary nonstop bleeding. Anyone have advice on what to expect? [more inside]
posted by tobiathan at 9:43 PM PST - 16 comments

I want a closet like a cartoon character - help me find the shirt part

My job's dress code is extremely strict, to the point where I might as well just reduce my stress level and buy several of the same thing to wear every day. The most important, hard-to-find item: a goldilocks dress shirt. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by gloriouslyincandescent at 8:41 PM PST - 10 comments

How can I separate work and personal notes on OneNote?

I'd like to be able to access both my work and personal OneNote notes while in the office, but I'd also like to keep the personal notes secured so that they can't be accessed by someone else. The personal notes also need to be synced between my home and the office. [more inside]
posted by theyexpectresults at 8:19 PM PST - 6 comments

writing and focusing tips for someone with cognitive complications

I'm trying to finish my PhD thesis. I need help, tips, anything from methods for focusing for someone with probable cognitive issues related to Bipolar I disorder to ADHD or OCD behaviors, and reducing anxiety related to this so that I can function. I would appreciate any advice anyone could offer. [more inside]
posted by suddenly, and without warning, at 7:45 PM PST - 22 comments

App or website that aggregates links from your social media network?

I used to subscribe to a website which sent me a regular digest of stories which more than one person from my social media network had linked to. I would like to set this up again but I can't remember what the website/app was. Any suggestions? Thanks!
posted by ontheradio at 4:48 PM PST - 6 comments

Why is YouTube kosher?

I lived through the Napster thing real-time. The outcome was, tech-that-encourages-slash-facilitates-copyright-violation-is-illegal. So why doesn't the YouTube server farm disturb the powers that be? [more inside]
posted by j_curiouser at 3:30 PM PST - 13 comments

How to find legal advice if short on funds in Westchester Cty, New York?

A neighbor, an unemployed male over 40 with no employment prospects and very limited funds, needs legal advice in two areas: (i) family law, concerning a disabled mother (i.e., dementia) under the control of a questionably honest attorney-in-fact, and (ii) real estate law (and possibly commercial law), concerning the intent of the attorney-in-fact to evict said neighbor from a cooperative apartment owned by the mother. You may not be a lawyer; your are not my or his lawyer; you will not be offering legal advice. [more inside]
posted by cool breeze at 3:25 PM PST - 5 comments

What are your favorite health innovation podcasts?

I've enjoyed Tim Ferriss, Bulletproof Radio, Extreme Health Podcast and ReWild Yourself with Daniel Vitalis. What are some other good podcasts that address innovative/cutting edge health & science stuff? A little woo is OK.
posted by falcon42 at 3:22 PM PST - 6 comments

There's lowball, and then there's LOWBALL

I am a freelancer who usually works on 6-12 month contracts. Today I received an offer for a lengthy project that was priced at about 10% of the going rate. I absolutely cannot take a project at that rate and would typically just decline nicely. But I sincerely believe there has been a mistake somewhere along the line. I don't want to turn down a great job because someone somewhere misplaced a comma or misread a contract form. What is the most diplomatic way for me to try and get to the bottom of this? [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 2:58 PM PST - 25 comments

Looking for good regex tutorial

I would like to learn regex and am looking for a good tutorial. Brief details inside. [more inside]
posted by marienbad at 2:16 PM PST - 13 comments

A Week in Paris and London

Traveling to Europe for the first time ever, and I'm super excited! Have most of a plan mapped out, but not sure on details and would appreciate any advice. [more inside]
posted by kmz at 1:54 PM PST - 46 comments

Quickbooks Question

Is there any way to set up a user on Quickbooks so that she can only view certain years? I see how to restrict her from editing those years but I don't want her to be able to see anything before 2014. I'm using Quickbooks Pro 2012.
posted by artychoke at 12:46 PM PST - 3 comments

Science fiction about eusocial humans?

Since a woman produces about half a million eggs, it's possible to envision a scenario where modern reproductive technology leads to a eusocial society like that of ants. One dominant woman would force all of her relatives to carry her fertilized eggs to term. Then she'd force the resulting daughters to do the same thing once they had matured. With egg freezing, she could keep doing this for decades, eventually resulting in thousands of human children of one biological mother. Has any science fiction been written along these lines?
posted by clawsoon at 12:29 PM PST - 19 comments

Hindu temple in the Poconos with painted steps

Around 1986, my family visited a Hindu temple or similar religious facility in the Poconos area of Pennsylvania. I remember that the path from the parking lot up the hill to the building was a stairway of huge stone steps, each of which was painted with a different design. Does this temple still exist? Where is it? Online photos of Arsha Vidya Gurukulam, the Jain temple Siddhachalam, and Sringeri Sadhana Center don't look like what I remember.
posted by brainwane at 11:51 AM PST - 3 comments

Drone sim on mac

I have this RC USB controller that I was hoping to use with the FPV Freerider (or another flight sim on Mac). When I plug it, I get a notification that "PPM" has been plugged in. However when I open Freerider or Liftoff none of the motions on the controller are detected. Does anyone know how to make it work, or another controller that I can use with a sim on a mac?
posted by aeighty at 11:27 AM PST - 2 comments

To preschool or not to preschool?

My nearly three year old has been in part time preschool since summer. He, and all of us, have been struggling a lot since then. During school breaks he is different (less fragile, nicer) and our home is different (happier, less stressful). I'm trying to sort through options for care/schooling options for him. I need help! [more inside]
posted by pennypiper at 11:03 AM PST - 29 comments

What temperature gradations can a person actually feel?

I work some hours every week in a friend's studio. Yesterday she observed that she was chilly, so had put the heat up from 21 to 22 degrees (Celsius). [more inside]
posted by zadcat at 11:01 AM PST - 48 comments

Volunteer management software for a musicfest.

Looking at organizing a musicfest with a few dozen volunteers. Is there software that lets me easily keep in touch with my volunteers on the day of the festival via an app of some kind? I'd like to be able to handle those last-minute things that make organizers pull their hair out. Volunteer gets sick and can't make it. Volunteer has to go home early and needs a replacement at a venue. Lost child. Minor emergencies. And major ones. Ideally this software will also help in the preplanning stages, recruitment and so on.
posted by storybored at 10:59 AM PST - 5 comments

Simple task/timeboxing apps that let me plan tasks on a calendar

I am looking for an app that ideally works on Mac/iPad/Android that lets me keep a list of tasks and then plan those tasks on a calendar on a specific date and time. Due dates are not good enough, I really want to specify that I will do task X on Tuesday from 10.00-10.30. I then want to see a calendar view with all my planned tasks for the day/week, as if they were appointments. [more inside]
posted by blub at 10:58 AM PST - 2 comments

Should I break up with my cold-footed boyfriend? If so, how?

I am 28, female. My boyfriend is 27. We’ve been dating for almost 2 years. He has consistently talked about marriage, “someday when we’re married” etc. and I don’t doubt he really meant it in the moment. But, as seems pretty typical, I get the feeling that his “someday” really means “after you’ve dated me for 5-6 years and we’re both 31.” I don’t want to wait that long. [more inside]
posted by stockpuppet at 10:52 AM PST - 74 comments

Metadata and Academic Honesty

I'm teaching an undergraduate photography class this semester. I require that each assignment be photographed within the assignment period. I have a (very talented) student who twice has submitted photos he had in his archive rather than taking new images for the assignment--confirmed by checking the metadata in his images. Is there any chance that I'm wrong about this? [more inside]
posted by rinosaur at 10:44 AM PST - 22 comments

Pick our layover/stopover

United allows you a free stopovers (hat tip y'all!) with award flights. Where would you pick if you wanted to throw a 2 night trip, 2 full days on the end? We'll be coming back from ten days in non-luxury India. Right now Hong Kong and Istanbul are our two top sites, but Bangkok, Shanghai, Rome, Munich, Dubai are also possibilities. [more inside]
posted by sandmanwv at 10:32 AM PST - 7 comments

Software for a musical needle-drop test?

I'd like an application for my desktop, OS X computer that would basically simulate the dreaded "needle drop" test of music lit classes of yore: a random sample from a given list of recordings is played, and you have to identify the work (and perhaps the measure or movement). In practical terms, I should be able to load up a bank of mp3s, push a button, and be given a random clip of a pre-set time length. [more inside]
posted by Wolfdog at 10:30 AM PST - 4 comments

Awkward Aubergine

Feeling uninspired. What would you do for dinner tonight with an Aubergine (Eggplant)? [more inside]
posted by JenThePro at 9:56 AM PST - 23 comments

March is the month of expectation ... not so much of vacation

Please help me plan a fun, inexpensive mid-Atlantic weekend getaway. In March. [more inside]
posted by headnsouth at 9:32 AM PST - 9 comments

Easy Direct windows pc to pc large file transfer over the internet

Are there any simple freeware apps that can do private direct file large file transfers or directory transfers over the internet between two windows computers on home networks without the third party storage or the limits of solutions like dropbox, google drive or live drive? [more inside]
posted by srboisvert at 9:22 AM PST - 8 comments

A WASP by any other name

I want to learn more about upper class naming conventions, most obviously the British aristocracy but anything on the topic more generally would be interesting. Ideally I'm looking for a book or article that explains how some of the ridiculously prolix naming conventions came to be, and how you end up with people named, for example, Admiral of the Fleet Louis Francis Albert Victor Nicholas Mountbatten, 1st Earl Mountbatten of Burma, [string of post-nominal letters] (born Prince Louis of Battenberg) aka Lord Mountbatten, aka Dickie. [more inside]
posted by Wretch729 at 9:15 AM PST - 17 comments

hosting a video with minimal interference

After asking this question, I am now wrangling helpful strangers into lip-syncing to a song, and I need somewhere to host our video that won't slap an ad on top of it, or worse, block it for copyright violations. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by roger ackroyd at 9:07 AM PST - 3 comments

Roses are red, assholes are me

At work, I sit in the middle of a densely packed row of cubicles. There are 7 other people sitting within 6 feet of me. I want to beautify my dull, grey, small cubicle space with fresh cut flowers, ideally replenishing them every 3 weeks or so. Would this be rude to my cubicle mates? [more inside]
posted by a strong female character at 8:40 AM PST - 34 comments

Have I given us all bilharzia?

I'm currently in West Africa. Yesterday I bought fish from the market. The fish in the market is sold live from big basins of water, it's killed, gutted, scaled and chopped in front of the buyer. It's supposed to be sourced from the local fishery but some vendors do cut corners, raise their own fish in ponds, etc. When cooked, the fish had several little black balls, like poppy seeds, just under the skin. One or two (or three or four) were deeper into the flesh. What could those have been? Of course I'm now thinking they were tiny parasitic snails and we're all doomed. Can anyone with a working knowledge of tropical parasites and food safety venture a guess here?
posted by glasseyes at 8:36 AM PST - 5 comments

Using a Windows 10 tablet as a retro gaming device

I have a Stream 7 tablet that I'm not getting a tonne of use out of. I'm thinking about using it as a replacement for my aged and battery hungry GP2X. What Windows 10-compatible emulators work well with touch? Any other advice? (More details inside). [more inside]
posted by sincarne at 7:56 AM PST - 4 comments

Turning a PhD dissertation into a book - any tips?

I'm just getting started on the process of turning my PhD dissertation into a book. On rereading, I'm a bit shocked by how clunky the writing is and how much I haven't said. I'd love any advice from anyone who has done this or anything similar. What's the best approach I can take, and what pitfalls are there? [more inside]
posted by Aravis76 at 7:25 AM PST - 8 comments

Doc for asthma tests for disability hearing needed, Atlanta

My mom has a hearing for SSI next month. Her lawyer has requested that she have some tests done, primarily asthma and COPD related. Can anyone tell me what to ask for when calling the doc office, or recommend a doctor? [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl at 6:22 AM PST - 3 comments

Bathroom Renovations for Dummies - Part II

As a follow-up to this Askme I asked last year (with your great feedback), I've slowly made progress on our renovation and have had a lot of fun (and frustration) learning how to do this. I now have additional questions that I can't quite find the answers to regarding framing and eventually drywalling/tiling. [more inside]
posted by Karaage at 5:53 AM PST - 8 comments

Superbowl 2nd Screen suggestion. I'll have 2 TV's showing...

I imagine the second one showing like live stats! but can I get it? [more inside]
posted by usermac at 5:38 AM PST - 6 comments

The big, scary world of sexytimes

I'm 26 and gay. In a wheelchair. Never been kissed ( ha! ), been on only one date, which went poorly. How do I make inroads with regards to my crippling fear of intimacy- physical and emotional? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:32 AM PST - 10 comments

Supporting a seriously ill loved one without being intrusive or grim

My favorite cousin is in a pretty serious health battle. She's vitally important to me, to my wife, and to my kid (her godson). We've always seen her at least monthly and called her every week or so. But now she's going through the fight of her life and she's not even always telling us when she's been hospitalized or is otherwise struggling. We want to find a way to step up our support for her without being intrusive or making any grim assumptions about her prognosis. How do we do that? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:32 AM PST - 13 comments

emotional stress-induced amenorrhea

If you have dealt with emotional stress-induced hypothalamic amenorrhea, with emphasis on the emotional sort of stress (as opposed to physical / excessive exercise-induced), what did you do to ensure that you regularly got your period? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:32 AM PST - 4 comments

Life and career after teaching?

I have been a high school English teacher for 12 years. I have mostly loved my job and have been proud of my work. I have strong connections with my students, some of which have spanned a decade. However... The past few years in public education have been challenging for all of the wrong reasons (testing, indecisive admin, unprofessional colleagues). [more inside]
posted by hippychick at 3:24 AM PST - 14 comments

Cheap-ish speaker phone for conference calls on Skype?

We have okay Skype calls one-to-one between our offices, but as soon as we add multiple participants at the other end, it becomes static hell. The prices for conference phones are out of our budget, so we need something under US$200 that we can plug into one person's laptop to share in a meeting room for 4-5 people on a Skype call. Please recommend something reliable and easy to use. [more inside]
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 2:30 AM PST - 8 comments

Of Course There's Already An App for That

I have been tasked with finding a suitable solution, app or application for the fairly simple task of syndicating content to one (initially) and eventually several audience groups. I think there must be myriad ways to do this; I am looking for some suggestions of tools that already do this, either to use or to imitate. [more inside]
posted by sagwalla at 2:16 AM PST - 2 comments

Cut my ball

I have a large acrylic hamster ball I would like to cut in half. I can remove the lid to rest the sphere on a flat surface, but I would like to my cut to be parallel to the flat side, not perpendicular (like this). What's the best way to do this? The cut doesn't have to be super-precise, but the cleaner the better. [more inside]
posted by btfreek at 1:14 AM PST - 13 comments

February 3

On the platform at TF'Green, tired not_on_display waits, dreaming...

I'm landing at TF Green (PVD) on a Saturday at 9AM. I'd assumed the MBTA Commuter Rail would run from TF Green to Providence ... turns out, yeah, but not on Saturdays! So, what's the next best/cheapest way for someone fresh off the red-eye on a Saturday morning to get from TF Green to Providence Station? Thanks! (Also, my condolences about your Mayor-for-life's term limit being up.)
posted by not_on_display at 11:02 PM PST - 4 comments

Help us find the least expensive reliable prescription drugs

My mother has been paying an arm and a leg for prescriptions. I'm curious if anyone knows of better deals from reliable companies. [more inside]
posted by mysterious_stranger at 8:27 PM PST - 12 comments

Novice-Difficulty Camping +/- 2 hours from LA?

The ladybro and I have been delving into all kinds of new fun in the New Year- Bouldering, gym workouts, board games. It's been a blast! Next on the list: Camping. We're both super junior league campers. I can put up a tent and I understand the basics of starting a fire, but that's about where it ends. We're looking for a camping spot somewhere within 2 hours of LA where we could bring a tent and a couple sleeping bags and not die in the process. [more inside]
posted by GilloD at 7:11 PM PST - 16 comments

Number Slammed by Tmo Rep – What's fair compensation?

My brother's in college, so to help him out, I thought I'd see about adding him to my Tmo family plan, so I called them on Sunday to see about the prices… Then we both were without service until tonight. What should I ask for? [more inside]
posted by jacob at 6:54 PM PST - 3 comments

in through the other door

Why do retail establishments that have two swinging doors (that you have to pull to open) usually have one locked? [more inside]
posted by dawkins_7 at 6:49 PM PST - 11 comments

You are not my tax adviser, but do I need one? (renting out a room)

In June, I started renting out a bedroom in my condo. I know I can deduct a percentage of some household expenses, but I want to make sure I 'm doing it right. I've been doing my taxes online with FreeTaxUSA for years. I'm really happy with them, but I've always just taken the standard deduction, and I'm wondering if it would be worth hiring someone this year (and then maybe going back to online next year). More inside. [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 5:46 PM PST - 8 comments

Looking to make life as a big person dealing with chronic pain easier

So, I've always been big, somewhere between 180 to 200 pounds, at 5'5". I'm female. My thyroid quit on me about 2 years ago and it's been a struggle. I'm holding steady at 250 pounds. I'm not looking for weight loss tips. I'm looking for tips from people my size on how to make my life easier. [more inside]
posted by patheral at 3:42 PM PST - 41 comments

Has anyone here tried the gastric balloon for weight loss?

I recently heard about the gastric balloon as a weight loss tool. Anyone here have any experience with this procedure? [more inside]
posted by Marky at 2:09 PM PST - 9 comments

Can you figure out the Spanish (Italian?) words in this house track?

I love this house track but can't tell what is being spoken at 0:31. It sounds Spanish but at 1:02 there seems to be a bit in Italian ("che sensazione, sensazione succosa"). Can you suss it out?
posted by Dragonness at 1:58 PM PST - 9 comments

Becoming a Jeopardy! Contestant

For most of my life, I've been obsessed with the game show Jeopardy! (So obsessed that, as you can see, I include the exclamation point in the title. Yes, I respond in the form of a question.) [more inside]
posted by kevinbelt at 1:58 PM PST - 13 comments

I want a Pelican, Puffin, Toucan, or even just a Zebra in Miami

My wife and I recently moved to Miami, Florida, having previously lived in more pedestrian-oriented cities. We've learned that many people view driving here as a free-for-all, with little regard for rules, responsibility, or merely trying not to kill anyone. I don't expect to single-handedly change this culture, but I would like drivers to have better awareness of one pedestrian crossing in particular and for cars to actually stop when people are walking in it. What are the things I can do to make this happen? [more inside]
posted by theory at 1:57 PM PST - 10 comments

American Girl conundrum - help me shop!!

I am responsible for creating a gift basket which will be auctioned off as a fundraiser for our elementary school. Our class was assigned the theme "American Girl doll". I have a lot of Feelings about this, but I must bravely put them aside and create a fabulous gift basket so that our school can afford things like paper and pencils. [more inside]
posted by JubileeRubaloo at 1:04 PM PST - 27 comments

How do I handle communications with friends of my deceased father?

My father passed away quite suddenly in December 2014. Do I need to help all his close, personal friends through their grief while I'm still grieving myself? [more inside]
posted by nubianinthedesert at 12:54 PM PST - 13 comments

What is the best new video game music to listen to while programming?

I find that video game soundtracks are particularly good background music for programming, but I rarely have time to play new games and discover new music. In the past, I have enjoyed the Superbrothers soundtrack, the soundtrack to Hotline Miami, FTL, certain tracks from Kentucky Route Zero, and the last Deus Ex Machina. Can you recommend post-2014 video game soundtracks that help you to achieve a state of flow?
posted by Svejk at 12:17 PM PST - 29 comments

How to set boundaries at work?

My bosses are going to check in with me and I need to make a few requests [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 12:14 PM PST - 11 comments

Can you help identify the Sundance 2016 font?

I am trying to figure out the low x-height extended sans serif font that is used for the 2016 Sundance Film Festival. Here is an example. I have come up empty using What the Font and Identifont. Perhaps because there aren't enough capital letters. Hoping someone just knows what it is...
posted by oxisos at 12:13 PM PST - 3 comments

Short Oahu Escape

Need help with itinerary! [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 11:43 AM PST - 6 comments

Kid friendly dance performances?

My toddler likes dance performances and I want to find her more. Details of favourites inside... [more inside]
posted by merocet at 11:35 AM PST - 11 comments

Can you help me identify this movie from the late 90's, early 00's?

Can you help me identify this movie from the late 90's, early 00's? [more inside]
posted by DeltaForce at 11:26 AM PST - 4 comments

Is it a good idea to tell the women I date that I've never been kissed?

My first question was about my sexual inexperience. Most of you said that I should be open about it. Would that apply to kissing as well? [more inside]
posted by Dynamo05 at 11:16 AM PST - 20 comments

What's a cute phrase to indicate on my cat's tag that he is indoor-only?

My neighborhood has a lot of outdoor cats, so I would like to add something to my indoor cat's tag to indicate that if someone encounters him alone outdoors it means that he is, indeed, lost. I don't like "Oh no, I'm lost!" since it'll be mostly me or my guests that see the tag the majority of the time, when it's not applicable -- but the only alternative I've come up with is "indoor cat," which is lacking the cute factor. What are some options in the 28 character range? [more inside]
posted by Pwoink at 11:11 AM PST - 30 comments

Business for the sake of business

What industries or business segments only exist, or only largely exist, because a group or groups interested in maintaining a particular industry have encouraged or supported laws requiring or strongly supporting their industries' existence? [more inside]
posted by mrbula at 10:56 AM PST - 17 comments

Simple 2D line animation for presentation

Can you recommend a simple (very simple) 2D line and shape animator? [more inside]
posted by ian1977 at 10:19 AM PST - 1 comment

Find that song: Hearts, Stars and Diamonds

Years ago (possibly before YouTube?) a friend sent me a link to a video of a girl singing a wonderfully horrible, super-catchy song with a title/chorus that was something like “hearts, stars and diamonds”; if not that exactly, then something close. Does this song still exist somewhere online? [more inside]
posted by Asterism at 10:00 AM PST - 6 comments

Name my blog about race and racism

I'd like to start a blog to provide links each day to informative writing and videos about race and racism. I'd like a good name for it and ideas for theme days, like Wednesdays focused on White fragility. Straightforward and cute names both accepted (and opinions on which one is better). [more inside]
posted by Margalo Epps at 9:26 AM PST - 8 comments

Pegboard or Rail + S-hook for Kitchen Pot Storage?

My roommate and I want to increase our kitchen storage capacity by building something to store pots by their handles. The two current ideas are either a pegboard or a few metal rails with S-hooks. [more inside]
posted by Maecenas at 9:02 AM PST - 29 comments

Contact for connecting to PCB header through-holes

I'm looking for a way to connect to standard 0.1" pitch PCB headers directly on the PCB without soldering in the header pins. Is there any kind of spring or barb-type contact designed specifically for this purpose? [more inside]
posted by Behemoth at 8:28 AM PST - 7 comments

How Can I Not Lose My New Behind-the-Ear Hearing Aid?

I'm about to get my first hearing aid. It'll be for one ear, a BTE (behind-the-ear). I note that my warranty will cover one incident of loss, which raises the question: how often do people misplace and lose their hearing aids? What strategies have worked for the hearing-aided MeFites for not dropping the tiny things or leaving them behind in a hotel room when in a hurry? [more inside]
posted by theefixedstars at 8:24 AM PST - 20 comments

What is the best way to share family photo albums with audio?

I'm digitizing my mom's family photo albums (starting from the late 60s). I'm also going to record her comments on the pages during this process. Two part question: 1. In today's internet, what is the best way to put these up so that my extended family can access, both now and years in the future? Requirements: secure, not crazy expensive 2. How do I add the audio so that the viewer can listen to my mom while looking at that photo? [more inside]
posted by cgs at 8:11 AM PST - 5 comments

Conscious Hip-hop for Newbies?

Thanks to my obsession with Hamilton, I've realized that I am sorely ignorant about way too much of the hip-hop and rap history it calls on, and I'd also like to find more recent stuff I'd like. [more inside]
posted by rtha at 8:00 AM PST - 39 comments

Help us pick a couch color

What advice do you have about picking a couch color? How is your couch color working out for you? Do you want to comment on our options? After weeks of indecision, I turn to you, MetaFilter. Options and photos inside. [more inside]
posted by slidell at 7:31 AM PST - 31 comments

Identify these bird parts?

My wife found a bird wing and breastbone in the woods near our house. Can you figure out what they are and what might have happened to them? (photo warnings: BIRD GORE!) [more inside]
posted by bondcliff at 6:47 AM PST - 12 comments

Need unstressful work

I'm a reasonably bright person with no practical skills to speak of and a lot of social/cognitive limitations. Is there a job I can do? Is there any way to make money? [more inside]
posted by thetortoise at 6:35 AM PST - 25 comments

How Can This Drug Test Be Positive?

My husband is up for a job that drug tests. He works at a mental health clinic and has access to drug tests and took one just to see. It came back positive, which doesn't seem possible. Is it possible? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:20 AM PST - 21 comments

Kaiser Providers who specialize with Borderline PD in Denver, CO

Curious if anyone knows specific counselors who have a knack with BPD in Kaiser's insurance for Denver, CO. I am an adult male in his 40s who has the BPD diagnosis but not been professionally treated with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:20 AM PST - 3 comments

An anti-Valentine's Day Valentine's Day

After months of trying to make a relationship work (and scouring previous AskMes for situations similar to mine), I have started that all-important no contact phase. But what to do on Valentine’s Day? Truth be told, this holiday has always been a disappointment but I feel that given my current situation, the usual feeling of dread I’ve associated with it will escalate to a full-blown breakdown. It’s hard enough to prevent myself from weeping at the barrage of flowers and displays of affection and celebrations I have to witness/participate in as friends and colleagues get married or engaged one after the other. I do not begrudge anybody’s happiness, but seeing other people happily in love feels just a tad self-torturous at this time. I know that I canNOT stay at home on February 14 as that could only mean a day of self-pity and wallowing in my sadness. However, I also do not fancy finding myself in restaurants, the theater, museums, etc. surrounded by couples celebrating the day. Again, I normally take delight in seeing people in love but I’d like to take a wee break from all that. So what could I do in or around NYC in lieu of both scenarios?
posted by anonymous at 6:20 AM PST - 24 comments

Finding an old op-ed piece about who can become president

I'm looking for a particular op-ed piece which I believe was written in the 1950s. I remember it was described as a "famous piece" and was being discussed back when Reagan was looking to become president. As I remembered it, the opinion piece did not take an overtly bigoted stand, but said Americans would not elect Catholics, Jews, blacks, women, those who have divorced, those from Southern or Eastern Europe, etc. I believe it boiled down the number of "acceptable" candidates to several hundred. [more inside]
posted by dances_with_sneetches at 6:06 AM PST - 3 comments

Star Wars themed cake

I have drawn May the Fourth on the departmental cake rota. It has been suggested I do a Star Wars themed cake to as a reflection of the date. I have some ideas but would welcome any suggestions as to what I might do and tips on how to achieve the specific effect. [more inside]
posted by biffa at 5:37 AM PST - 13 comments

Landlord changing locks and invading privacy

Our new landlord is changing the locks to the building. They sent out a notice that the locks will be changed soon. They're not just handing out the new key. [more inside]
posted by mhz at 5:30 AM PST - 12 comments

February 2

Video Game + Treadmill = Nausea + breaking my neck

It turns out that playing FPS and racing games while walking on a treadmill can lead to vertigo, nausea, and gracelessly falling on the floor. Can you suggest games which might minimize these issues? [more inside]
posted by roue at 10:09 PM PST - 15 comments

Help me keep the waterworks at bay

I'm overly empathetic and cry VERY easily. I'm an ugly, splotchy, red-nosed crier (no noise, but it's apparent I've cried for at least an hour after I manage to stop). I need to go to a good friend's father's funeral tomorrow. I didn't know him, but I fear my empathy for my friend and her family and remembering the loss of my own mother several years ago will cause me to embarrass myself. [more inside]
posted by cecic at 8:37 PM PST - 27 comments

Sometimes, being honest means being angry

I need to have a serious, and potentially hard conversation with a loved one pretty soon, which I am terrible at. Please give me some strategies to express my disappointments and frustration in a healthy, effective way. [more inside]
posted by Chuck Barris at 8:18 PM PST - 37 comments

If you love your job and work a lot, how do you adjust in slow periods?

I know this is a very nice problem to have. However: if you are someone who loves the work you do, how do you deal with the inevitable slow periods? I have a job that is very challenging, fast-paced, and genuinely helps people. It is also often very stressful. I love my job. About two or three times a year, though, conditions will shift and all at once I may have a week or two that is considerably less busy. During this time period, I find myself to be quite irritable. A day or two of catching up on errands or sleep and I am ready to be back to the regular pace. Four or five days in, I am very impatient and cranky. [more inside]
posted by Sophia Del Verde at 5:52 PM PST - 14 comments

Landlord appears to be looking for pretexts to evict me, what to do?

I live in a rent-controlled apartment in the Bay Area. Since I moved in 5-6 years ago, rents have gone up by about 50%. Last year a property management company bought the building, and they clearly want me out. First they tried to buy me off, now they've sent me a bogus warning about how smoking in the apartment (which I don't do) is grounds for eviction. How do I make this stop? [more inside]
posted by zeri at 4:07 PM PST - 33 comments

Some of my coworkers are incompetent. Help me be less annoyed by them.

I really, really like my job - but the one major downside is that a not-insignificant number of my colleagues are incompetent. How to not let these people get to me? [more inside]
posted by schroedingersgirl at 3:09 PM PST - 36 comments

I need a new car but what?

After 18 years of sterling service, my old Toyota Corolla is starting to fall to pieces. Literally. It's time to replace it - but with what? I want something with a bit more room this time around so was thinking a small SUV. Or do I? Please help me walk through the decision-making process because I really don't have a clue. Wall of text inside... [more inside]
posted by ninazer0 at 2:43 PM PST - 21 comments

Lost handwritten font (?)

Can you help me find an example of a particular style of decorative handwriting? It was endemic among girls and young women in the Deep South in the '80s and '90s. [more inside]
posted by Countess Elena at 2:26 PM PST - 18 comments

Converting to Judaism: Your Experiences

I'm strongly considering converting to Judaism. I've heard about the process during a class that I'm taking, but I'd like more insight into what actually goes on. I would be converting through a Reform synagogue. If anyone has experiences or tips to share, please do so. Thanks for your help!
posted by Fister Roboto at 1:34 PM PST - 10 comments

Parted like the Red Sea

What buyers' guides based on release dates and announcements do as well as MacRumors does for Apple products? I'm specifically interested in GPUs, but I'd be interested to hear about any other product categories covered so helpfully.
posted by michaelh at 1:26 PM PST - 1 comment

How do I pack for Los Angeles?

Last year I went to Los Angeles and I packed ALL wrong. I saw highs of 80 and I packed for Wisconsin 80s and Florida 80s and that just wasn't right. It would get warm, even hot for a few hours only to be so cool in the evening. Some days it really felt like it was HOT for only an hour or two, then freezing. Or it would change depending on where I was. [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 1:18 PM PST - 22 comments

Windows 98 cold start problem

I need help with a start-up issue with a Windows 98 Pentium III (yeah, yeah, I know). [more inside]
posted by fimbulvetr at 12:59 PM PST - 13 comments

Name this blonde commercial actress with layered hair!

Sitting at home with a bad cold, I saw this poster. [more inside]
posted by 41swans at 12:47 PM PST - 15 comments

Political Fights

I am looking for a chronology of political fights NPR has engaged in since 1967 where it and the CPB have had to defend congressional funding. I'm looking for incidents further back than the 2011 resignation of Vivian Schiller or the ascendance of conservatives leadership to the NPR board in 2008. Any help is appreciated. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 12:10 PM PST - 1 comment

What Are Some Good Resources To Learn The Basics About Selling A House?

My husband and I are planing to sell our first home this year. I need things explained to me in a very simple, clear way. More inside. [more inside]
posted by WalkerWestridge at 11:53 AM PST - 13 comments

Barracuda is discontinuing Copy - what next?

Barracuda is discontinuing Copy in May, but I'm getting nagged to move my ~20GB of data now. What service do I go to next? [more inside]
posted by bookdragoness at 11:47 AM PST - 4 comments

donut chart variant: howto

I need to know the name of this doughnut chart variant and also a means to replicate. [more inside]
posted by cgk at 11:45 AM PST - 8 comments

Need plan to survive new job, long commute, dad in hospice

Dearest hive mind, kindly help me prepare a self-care kit or make survival plans for what will probably be the most brutal 6 months I have had in years. The good news: I have finally landed work. The bad news: My dad is in hospice out of state, my new contract job is 40 hours per week at the end of a long commute on one of those hated corporate buses that pick up workers in San Francisco and drop them off in Silicon Valley. Details below. [more inside]
posted by Bella Donna at 11:43 AM PST - 15 comments

Returning to the treadmill

Running again after six months off. Last weekly totals were in the 25 mile range. Can I start again at 10? Details follow. [more inside]
posted by mwhybark at 11:29 AM PST - 8 comments

In need of a "settle down to work" ritual

I suck at transitions, especially transitioning into working. I am in need of suggestions for a ritual I can perform when I sit down at my desk in the morning, after lunch, after I come back from a break, to cue my brain that it's time for work now. It is important that this ritual is not connected to any rabbit holes. Desk-working-mefites: what are your tricks to flip the switch into 'work mode'? [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 11:23 AM PST - 24 comments

Flat Iron to Use Abroad

I've had trouble with US flat irons melting or not turning on when used in 110v countries, even when the flat iron is travel-sized and labeled dual voltage and used with an adapter or low powered converter. Is there a good solution to this problem? [more inside]
posted by odayoday at 11:13 AM PST - 9 comments

Volunteering with 1-2 Year Olds

My wife and I both used to volunteer one or two days a month. Since our child was born, it is much harder to find the time to volunteer. Are there any good volunteer opportunities that would work well with a 20 month old? We live in Brooklyn, if anyone knows anything specific to our area. [more inside]
posted by Falconetti at 11:08 AM PST - 7 comments

I'm being kicked out - circumvent the hired landlord and contact owner?

So, I received notice from the management company acting as my landlord that the owner of my apartment wants to sell and I need to vacate when my lease ends in 90+ days. I asked the management company if there was any flexibility on my move-out date and they of course immediately just wrote back and said no without consulting with the owner. What if I tried to contact the actual owner: bad idea, good idea? Snowflake details below. [more inside]
posted by AspirinPill at 10:55 AM PST - 27 comments

Fiction Filter: missing person report on someone who chose to leave?

Woman disappears: packs up her things, including all ID, and leaves without any indication of where she has gone. Adult daughter wants to file Missing Person's report, her father says it is pointless because woman clearly left of her own free will. What, in reality, would happen if the daughter tries to get the police involved? How can I find out more about police procedure in such cases? [more inside]
posted by uans at 10:22 AM PST - 10 comments

Using Multiple Ipod touches on 1 computer

I am getting a new Ipod touch. My old one (the second version)the IOS is just so outdated it's just time. When I hook up the new ipod will the data I have in my old Library sync to the new one? Also my wife will be getting her own ipod touch for the first time, can she use hers on the same computer. Thanks for the help!
posted by Upon Further Review at 10:17 AM PST - 4 comments

What are the icons in the Fallout 4 HUD?

I'm trying to enjoy Fallout 4, but the interface is absolutely opaque. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by jbickers at 10:12 AM PST - 8 comments

Smoke cigs, get free stuff?!

Back in the 1980s and 90s, my Dad used to collect cigarette coupons which got exchanged for free stuff (the arrival of the catalogue was much anticipated! ). Does anyone remember how the scheme operated (I.e how much coupons were worth) and in particular, when the scheme ended? I am particularly interested to know whether this was before the advertising of cigarettes was banned in the UK. Thanks!
posted by threetwentytwo at 9:58 AM PST - 21 comments

"Sick Systems" for layoffs?

My work has just announced 50% of our team is likely to go between now and late spring. Issendai's Sick Systems is often quoted on the green as great advice for understanding toxic work cultures. But is there an equally pithy and insightful equivalent for understanding the social and organisational dynamics of layoffs and redundancies?
posted by Middlemarch at 9:52 AM PST - 2 comments

Interesting Jam Combinations?

I need to make one more batch of jam. Any ideas on interesting flavours? [more inside]
posted by andrewcooke at 9:41 AM PST - 28 comments

Anchoring a shelf when there's only drywall to secure it to

New home owner here (yay!). We just assembled a space-saver-over-the-toilet-shelf-cabinet-thingy and it needs to be anchored. The flat pack included the anchor strip and a wood screw for securing the anchor to the unit. It instructs the user to obtain a screw appropriate to the environment for anchoring. Our environment is essentially just drywall. To the side, there's a shared wall with the shower that sounds like it may have a stud in there, but can't be sure. [more inside]
posted by bluejayway at 8:53 AM PST - 13 comments

These boots are made for walkin'

My go-to tall boots for the winter are starting to fail on me. I'm looking for recommendations for a similar, but more durable women's boot! [more inside]
posted by invokeuse at 8:51 AM PST - 13 comments

Looking for a stand-alone car GPS device that updates its maps over wifi

I've a family member who wants to find a stand-alone GPS navigator for use in a car. But, she doesn't have easy access to a windows or mac computer and thus needs to be able to update the map database over wifi. [more inside]
posted by eotvos at 8:05 AM PST - 14 comments

How to Recycle Sterilite

I'm in NYC, and I want to get rid of this one Sterilite storage bin (16 gal) that I own. I'd like to recycle it, but being as our building has been fined by Sanitation before, I am particularly anxious to do it the right way. [more inside]
posted by Puck Soppet at 7:45 AM PST - 11 comments

how do we wedding.

We just got engaged. We want a simple, simple, simple NYC wedding (but not a city hall/bar party thing). We do not want to plan it ourselves: we do not know how and do not have interest or talent at this sort of thing. We want a wedding planner. Advise. [more inside]
posted by millipede at 7:25 AM PST - 44 comments

Spirited reads!

As part research and a way to increase my knowledge, what books would you recommend about alcohol? [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 6:28 AM PST - 24 comments

Equivalents to the UK's old National Record of Achievement?

Do other countries have (past or present) an equivalent to the UK's old 'National Record of Achievement' for pupils? [more inside]
posted by knapah at 6:04 AM PST - 1 comment

Help me organise my spices and oils

I like to cook so have a lot of spices and various bottles of stuff, but I have a tiny kitchen. I'm having trouble getting my head around how to organise it. Details (and photos of current mess) inside. [more inside]
posted by Dext at 4:59 AM PST - 27 comments

How do I get my wife to the NH Democratic Town Hall?

Birthday wish for my wife: Is it possible to get tickets to, or when does one need to show up to get into a NH Democratic Town hall when one is a Democrat in MA? [more inside]
posted by Nanukthedog at 3:23 AM PST - 5 comments

Current best practice for a speedy streamlined web experience

After reading numerous articles recently about how much extra bloat loads on most webpages, and getting frustrated at slow loading speeds for content on most sites I visit, I'm wondering what the current best options are to swap this for speedy surfing, especially if I'm happy to have a mainly text-only experience? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 1:11 AM PST - 17 comments

Hi, nice to meet you

Are there any really good social networking apps for making new friends? [more inside]
posted by Dansaman at 12:05 AM PST - 10 comments

February 1

What sort of genius do I need to hire, and where can I find them?

I am in the process of trying to create a complex pricing calculator for internal use in our business. I have most of the data, however I am hoping to engage someone on a freelance basis to help me complete the data set, as well as give some expanded detail on how this data (pricing) can change geographically. What specific professions should I be engaging, and where can I find them? More information below the fold. [more inside]
posted by sxtrumpeto at 11:52 PM PST - 3 comments

Flat roof - do they have to be flat?

I have the opportunity to rebuilt an area of flat roof on my house, with a slight slope. My question is, do flat roofs have to be flat? If not, why aren't they more often built with a little bit of a slope (intuitively that would seem to be helpful to get water off it). I live in a wet state (ie rain is the issue not baking sun). Thanks
posted by Xhris at 10:25 PM PST - 11 comments

Trusted Engagement Ring Insurance?

Hello MF! I am recently engaged and need to insure my fiancé's ring. The ring is simple with a 1.2 ct. princess cut stone. The ring is appraised at about 10K give or take. I am looking for advice on which companies AskMeFi users have had experience with as most of the reviews that I have read on jewelry insurance seem negative and most people just have an axe to grind because something didn't go their way. Any success stories out there? Which insurance companies would you recommend? I would prefer a company that specializes in jewelry insurance and not a rider on my homeowners policy. Thank you in advance!
posted by shades at 9:47 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I meat?

I want to cook and eat more meat. But I'm super-squeamish about cooking it, worried I don't know enough about handling it safely, and want to figure out the best way to eat more meat frugally. Help! A boatload of questions inside. [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 9:29 PM PST - 33 comments

What do you talk about when you talk about IVF?

A friend recently told me that he and his wife will likely be starting IVF soon. I didn't know what to say and felt quite awkward. I've figured out how to talk with friends about being pregnant, but how do you make polite conversation about IVF?
posted by kayram at 6:11 PM PST - 23 comments

How does a desk potato get comfortable typing all day?

I have finally gotten over the initial stasis of PhD dissertation writing. Now that my brain came around to the idea of writing and reading all day, my body is protesting: achy back, tight legs, sore wrists. Tips/tricks/recommendations/links to ergonomic chair, pretty please? [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 6:07 PM PST - 16 comments

Someone stole my bank account # and wrote a fake check. What now?

I got the money back from my bank, closed the compromised account and filed a police report. So... what happens now? What will the police do? What else should I do? [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 5:34 PM PST - 9 comments

Need a sleeve for the Macbook AIR 13" (not a Macbook Pro).

Why can't I find a nice, inexpensive sleeve (neoprene, felt, whatever) for my Macbook Air 13" laptop? I want a snug sleeve, not one that will fit any old 13" laptop. The Air is very thin, and it will swim in a sleeve meant for a 13" Macbook Pro. The local Mac Store was no help, nor was eBay, Etsy or Amazon. Unfortunately, I haven't found any to look at where I live either. My ideal price is under $30. Does anyone know of a sleeve that will really fit the 13" Air?
posted by jsslz at 4:58 PM PST - 16 comments

Are you sure you want to reject me?

Should I contact the person who interviewed me for a job about a form rejection letter I received? [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen at 4:28 PM PST - 22 comments

Pesidents birth, health, school records besides Obama

How many other Presidents had to show their birth certificates, health records, or school records either during their campaign or while serving as President? [more inside]
posted by American Christmas Devil at 4:22 PM PST - 8 comments

Please recommend some Russian comic books for an adult learning Russian

Do you have any recommendations for Russian language comics for an adult English speaker learning Russian? [more inside]
posted by tllaya at 3:55 PM PST - 3 comments

Landlord Asking to Vacate Apt

I've been asked to vacate a apt where I'd been renting since July 2015 in one week from today but there's no way I can find a new place to live/storage in the time frame. What are my options? Location: NYC [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 3:53 PM PST - 22 comments

When is it time to give up on this car?

My 2006 Camry is apparently going to need $4k in repairs within the foreseeable future. When do I give up on it? [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 3:47 PM PST - 17 comments

How should I haved handled Profane Ridden Confrontation at a Bank?

I was at a Bank recently 15 minutes before they open. They have a lobby with an ATM machine that can be accessed with your ATM card. A rough looking dude in his 30's was walking very fast to get in to the lobby without using a card. I let the door close quickly behind me as the bank asks you not to let people in without them using their card. [more inside]
posted by lynnwilson120 at 3:06 PM PST - 39 comments

hhttps?

How does this sketchy "hhttps" link work? [more inside]
posted by ChurchHatesTucker at 3:06 PM PST - 10 comments

What kind of contractor do I need to prevent this water damage?

We recently had water from new landscaping seep into our home and destroy our lower-level floors. What kind of contractor do we need to hire to make sure this doesn't happen again? [more inside]
posted by YoungAmerican at 3:06 PM PST - 5 comments

political cartoon of Bill Clinton pointing at gas & brake pedals

Looking for a political cartoon about a debate over fiscal policy. [more inside]
posted by morganw at 2:56 PM PST - 0 comments

A tale of "no contact": what was your journey & how did you survive?

I had to go NC due to unrequited love. I seemed to be recovering, but one circumstance has pushed me way off kilter again. [more inside]