February 2013 Archives

February 28
I realize this is an incredibly weird question. I'm having a total hip replacement, and I would like to keep the bones they take outta me. Is it possible the hospital will let me, or are there laws against this? I live in the U.S.
posted by amandi at 11:44 PM PST - 19 comments

I have the opportunity to work a 4-month part-time (approx. 26h/week) contract providing in-home support for a woman who is in the early stages of Parkinson's disease, starting next Friday. I have provided intimate care like this for a family member before, but have no professional experience otherwise in this field. What should I keep in mind in terms of covering my ass with respect to liability in the contract? [more inside]
posted by human ecologist at 11:32 PM PST - 3 comments

Looking for a compacter-than-DSLR camera to take traveling for a couple of months. I really like my Nikon D90 for its low-light and manual capabilities, but I don't think I'll enjoy bringing it around with me the whole time. I really want a camera that can handle low light and takes good video, without being as bulky as an SLR. I think the NEX-6 satisfies these requirements pretty well. Do I want a NEX-6? Or something else? [more inside]
posted by BungaDunga at 11:10 PM PST - 9 comments

The idea here is that I have a product for a specific niche (construction management), that is well designed and (I think) very intuitive. But the target users are not very savvy in terms of WHAT they should be doing. I need to walk them through various processes step by step. [more inside]
posted by Kellster at 11:07 PM PST - 4 comments

I'm going on a first date tomorrow with a girl who likes Chinese and sea food. She lives in south Dallas, an area of Dallas I'm not too familiar with. Does anyone have any recommendations for good restaurants in the area? Extra info: max of around $25 for two people, we'll be going in the afternoon. Thanks!
posted by bookman117 at 11:04 PM PST - 3 comments

What should I know or consider before vacationing alone? [more inside]
posted by cecic at 10:01 PM PST - 32 comments

What would be the best ways to secure multiple laptops, smartphones, cameras (physically, and also to catch thieves) in a "rustic" foreign country... keeping in mind I need to fit everything in luggage or fashion it out of raw materials in country. [more inside]
posted by DaftMythic at 9:59 PM PST - 6 comments

What are the best resources/avenues/contract agencies to get hooked up with regarding getting a marketing job (digital/online) within the Bay Area (California). [more inside]
posted by pakora1 at 8:13 PM PST - 3 comments

According to The Economist, before Aaron Swartz died he expressed his desire that all the contents of his hard drives were made publicly available. Are they available online anywhere? BitTorrent?
posted by sindark at 7:49 PM PST - 7 comments

I was reading this week's NYRB when I came across this: “The talent for these sorts of small-bore social observations is peculiarly English—it kept Kingsley Amis in business for years, and still makes Alan Bennett’s diaries feel like required reading. Maybe it’s the bad weather. (All those hours trapped indoors, watching one another.) Or maybe it’s the literary side effect of a middle-class culture in which people are expected to be painfully self-conscious, clammy in their own skin, and alert to their own folly and deceptions, lest they be spotted first by others. Whatever the reason, the English really are just better at this sort of thing than anyone on the planet." What books would you recommend to someone who has never read anything by these authors? (I'm not really interested in poetry.)
posted by jtothes at 7:31 PM PST - 14 comments

I want to see more well-shot video of traditional crafts/trades-people who are excellent at what they do. Links? [more inside]
posted by pilibeen at 7:13 PM PST - 29 comments

Looking for family friendly hotel or airbnb flat for May in NYC, for visiting pals. [more inside]
posted by vrakatar at 7:08 PM PST - 3 comments

Can anyone recommend a good company in Israel from which we can rent a prepaid sim card? [more inside]
posted by Guernsey Halleck at 6:41 PM PST - 2 comments

YANMD, and I understand that the internet cannot diagnose a medical issue. However, I am wondering if anyone has experienced the same symptoms in regards to a stomach bug, whether viral or bacteria. I am just trying to get some perspective on what my body is doing, and whether or not this seems in-line with something that will likely clear on its own. I'm not in severe pain, but will definitely see a doctor if things take a turn for the worse. I've had SEVERAL unhelpful, or frankly harmful, doctor visits in the past year, so I am (justifiably so) wanting to wade this out for a bit longer. [more inside]
posted by shrimpsmalls at 6:16 PM PST - 14 comments

Google Drive (formerly Google Docs) has just unveiled a new "feature," that makes Google Drive open most files in a "preview" mode when you click on them, instead of just opening the file for editing/saving/etc. I would like to turn this "feature" off so that my files actually open. How can I do this? [more inside]
posted by decathecting at 5:58 PM PST - 7 comments

I'm a freelance writer in the second year of my career, as well as a lifelong creative writer with several published works. I've done a lot of performing arts blogging and local news writing and I'd like to build on that and get into more paying work as well as increase my publication credits. I've been recommended to join Writer's Market. Have others had worthwhile experiences with the service? Also happy to hear about other options. Thanks!
posted by letstrythis at 5:54 PM PST - 5 comments

Asking for a friend: There is an online grading platform that apparently only runs on Java 6, but he has a mid-year 2012 MacBook Pro unibody (13") and it came with Java 7 installed. He needs to be able to enter grades at home, which means he needs Java 6. Both of us are good with technology (and searched Google for information), but the links we found often referred to computers where Java 6 was installed, and then was replaced with Java 7. Help? [more inside]
posted by guster4lovers at 5:43 PM PST - 3 comments

Someone is creating accounts using my name and work email address on offensive sites. Looking for guidance on what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:41 PM PST - 22 comments

For many years I had a thermometer I bought in an outdoor store. It consisted of a glass mercury tube thermometer about 5 inches long with a metal top. The thermometer fit into a metal cylinder that acted as a carrying case and protection. The metal top had a hole so that the whole thing could be suspended by a cord into a stream or a lake, or hung from a tree. It measured from -40F to 120F. Alas, it's gone and I can't seem to find anything like it. Ideas? Thanks.
posted by Jackson at 5:35 PM PST - 8 comments

Is there a way to tell whether one can wear glasses on a rollercoaster, so that the glasses will not fall off midway through the ride? Is it a simple case of upside-down means don't-wear-glasses? (No, I am not talking about Google Glasses.)
posted by applesurf at 5:15 PM PST - 13 comments

My therapist has suggested that the concept of a highly sensitive person might be a helpful way for me to frame my understanding of myself, but I am very torn. On the one hand I recognize myself in a lot of the description; on the other hand it feels like a very uncomfortable kind of "I am not awkward, I am special!" kind of thing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:09 PM PST - 24 comments

I am at a meetup in Boston at a German restaurant (Jacob Wirth) and we have been served cornbread as an appetizer, but none of the mefites present thinks of cornbread as a German food. Can anyone tell us if there is some Germanic cuisine connection we are missing here? Hope us, please -- a half-dozen curious mefites are baffled.
posted by ricochet biscuit at 4:28 PM PST - 12 comments

Driving from Vegas to Death Valley and back on a day trip. GPS or no GPS? [more inside]
posted by essexjan at 4:21 PM PST - 22 comments

TL;DR: The guy I'm dating non-exclusively is still sleeping with his ex. I can't decide if this is a red flag or not. For the record, I have been the one insisting we keep things open. [more inside]
posted by krakenattack at 4:01 PM PST - 36 comments

Is there a gardening tool that changed your life? Looking for a gardening-themed gift for a talented home gardener. The garden is suburban, mostly just plants and lots of flowers (no veggies or fruit trees). In S. California, if that helps. Alternately, which of your favorite gardening tools would you upgrade to a nicer one?
posted by Jason and Laszlo at 3:49 PM PST - 13 comments

We are looking for a way to get out of the cold for at least two months during the northeast winter and have been trying to figure out if its possible to rent a small ( one bedroom) place in the coast of Florida. But not near the hustle and bustle of Miami or Boca. We are looking for a laid back sleepy and affordable spot to be and stay warm during Feb/March, any ideas?
posted by privatechef at 3:28 PM PST - 11 comments

In British Columbia - my mother has a tenant that regularly withholds rent for non-essential repairs (shower heads, faucets) and then charges us exuberant amounts of money for service. My mother asked me to speak with her and I did. The tenant wants to take us to court now and I want to be prepared. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:22 PM PST - 13 comments

What kind of academic path (from the undergraduate level and beyond) prepares one for developing or working on interesting, innovative projects like Steve Mann's EyeTap (or Google Glass), or other cool interdisciplinary digital projects (e.g. medical cybernetics, space elevators, wearable computing, smart home devices)? [more inside]
posted by mayurasana at 2:45 PM PST - 18 comments

Do you know the importance of the calligraphic representation of Muhammad's name in the Muslim world? [more inside]
posted by slowlikemolasses at 2:17 PM PST - 10 comments

if you get a cut on your face that requires stitches and you go to the ER is it better to ask for a plastic surgeon or a maxillofacial to stitch you up? And is the hospital required to give you one if you ask for it?
posted by john123357 at 2:15 PM PST - 32 comments

I got a water softener and when it goes into recharge mode it drains all the water from my water heater. This happens about once a week and it causes the water heater to try and fill. Of course as there is no water being provided this just means it is sucking air. The pulling of air is so violent that it shakes the intake pipes and creates a thundering racket. [more inside]
posted by M Edward at 2:15 PM PST - 8 comments

Can anyone identify this pad synth? In my sample collection, I have a sample of a pad synth playing a chord. I would like to either find a VST or sample bank that will replicate this synth's sound. Here is a recording of the sample playing at C5, followed by a short chord progression.
posted by dunkadunc at 2:14 PM PST - 8 comments

What is FacultyRow.com? [more inside]
posted by Dr. Wu at 1:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Making student loan payments stirred this question. I am trying to figure out a few things, specifically surrounding 3-day loan payoffs, payments that are scheduled but not withdrawn immediately, and interest that accrues in the meantime. [more inside]
posted by occidental at 1:30 PM PST - 7 comments

My mother in law has traditionally made and taken big bags of fudge to her friends and family for the holidays. I was startled to learn that she continues to take gallon-sized bags of fudge to a family friend who is a diabetic. My husband sees nothing wrong with this. It shocked me that anyone would do that. Is it just me, am I over-reacting? [more inside]
posted by WalkerWestridge at 1:17 PM PST - 48 comments

I'm looking for a better word or term of art for the most important customer of a company, in particular one that provides the most revenue. [more inside]
posted by heliostatic at 1:04 PM PST - 22 comments

Help me Metafilter! I need cognitive and/or behavioral hacks to better deal with someone whose anxiety/self-esteem issues tend to make every conversation into a battle. [more inside]
posted by celtalitha at 12:44 PM PST - 30 comments

After asking this question, I am looking for a new doctor within an hour or so of the DC area who is willing to treat hypothyroidism with medications that aren't T4-only, and treat based on symptoms. [more inside]
posted by picapica at 12:24 PM PST - 9 comments

My kids (ages 12, 9, and almost-6) and I will be in Denver for two days and one night this coming July. I am looking for advice about where to stay and what to do. [more inside]
posted by not that girl at 12:23 PM PST - 12 comments

How to succesfully buy a twitter account from a faraway stranger? [more inside]
posted by signal at 12:14 PM PST - 3 comments

I want to make a floating castle for my kids to play with in the bath. How can I do this? [more inside]
posted by Doleful Creature at 12:09 PM PST - 10 comments

Simple question this time around! I’m searching for a quick, unique and especially delicious dinner in New York around The IFC Center. The theater is located just off the A train’s West 4th stop in the village just blocks away from Washington Square Park, near parts of Bleeker street. We’ll have less than an hour before the film starts and want to try something tasty and unique. Also, cheap-ish is a plus!
posted by dr handsome at 11:36 AM PST - 19 comments

A lot of people experience intense moods and emotions while their body transitions off the hormones. After that, some people notice that their personality has changed one way or the other for good. I've real some studies that show hormonal birth control also has an effect on the kind of person you are attracted to when you are on it. Does this mean you might not be as attracted to the person you're already with? What was your experience?
posted by Feel the beat of the rhythm of the night at 11:19 AM PST - 28 comments

My partner's middle-of-the-night acid reflux attacks are scary for both of us because he wakes up unable to breathe due to aspirating acid, and he's worried that one night he might not wake up. How concerned do we need to be? [more inside]
posted by rhiannonstone at 10:43 AM PST - 13 comments

I was born and raised in Louisville, Kentucky, and am flying back from New York for a short visit for the first time in a while. I've recently become really interested in Southern housewares and goods, like Jack Rudy Cocktail Co., and I was wondering - what things can I only get in the South that I should bring back North?
posted by 235w103 at 10:36 AM PST - 37 comments

I recently read this question about the high cost of investing with HSBC and met with my investment advisor there to see if we can knock the fees down (unlike the poster of that question, I did not pay an initial fee.) Unfortunately, they can't, so I'm stuck paying 2.25% (that's all fees, total) annually if I stay with them. Here's the thing though: after fees, I got a ~10% gain on my investment 2012-2013 (so ~12.25% in total.) [more inside]
posted by A god with hooves, a god with horns at 10:29 AM PST - 16 comments

I'm four months into a fairly intense relationship, and drama and mental health issues have reared their ugly heads. As someone who has had recent mental health problems of my own, I'm feeling a little shaky about the whole thing; can the hive mind give me another perspective? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:03 AM PST - 13 comments

Looks like I'll have one day free in Annapolis (work trip) in early April. Anything cool to do? There are heaps of museums, any favorites? Anything doing on Chesapeake Bay that time of year? Thanks in advance.
posted by HaveYouTriedRebooting at 9:45 AM PST - 13 comments

I'm a photographer by hobby and by interest, but not for money. I'd like that to change, but just a bit. What are some good ways to sell my photos? [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 9:33 AM PST - 13 comments

When shooting and preparing an image file for print, I've always tried to set things up so that the highlights are bright, the shadows are dark, and everything else is in the middle. At work, I've occasionally been told by my immediate superior that I'm overexposing my images, and that the highlight detail is, in their words, 'blown away'. Checking my files, the highlights in the images in question cut off around 245, sometimes as low as 240! Is there a reason why they'd want the highlights even greyer? [more inside]
posted by rhooke at 9:18 AM PST - 12 comments

I'm about to go on a much needed vacation and am heading to California. While there, I'm planning on hitting the Disney parks and am contemplating experiencing my very first roller coaster. I also have problems with anxiety and nervousness. Is it possible for me to enjoy this (terrifying) experience? [more inside]
posted by BrianJ at 9:10 AM PST - 27 comments

I have a very exciting interview Wednesday and realized that my footwear is completely not up to the task, because I normally select workaday shoes that I can walk miles in and don't care if they are destroyed. I need a work-fabulous (i.e., no open toed) celebratory pair of heels for a special occasion. [more inside]
posted by *s at 9:07 AM PST - 20 comments

I've paid my back taxes for New York State as of last year, but the judgment is still on my credit reports, although marked "paid". This is my only ding. Will landlords refuse to rent to me anyway? [more inside]
posted by droplet at 9:00 AM PST - 4 comments

Heading to London in the next two months, and am ignorant in the ways of electric converters and chargers, etc. Please help! [more inside]
posted by PJMoore at 9:00 AM PST - 5 comments

I am attending a two day long event at a graduate program in International Affairs in my local area. It is for students who have made it through the first round of admissions. Interviews and some other assessments will be conducted at this event, but there will be many opportunities for them to try to sell their graduate program to us. The event is this Friday and Saturday, and the dress code called for is simply business casual. For what it's worth, this program is in the South. The problem is that since I am a local candidate, I will be biking to the event. I don't fancy biking in my dress shoes, and somehow carrying my leather portfolio along the way. I imagine I'll be bringing my backpack in order to switch out my shoes and carry my portfolio. How much of a faux pas do you imagine this might be?
posted by SollosQ at 9:00 AM PST - 23 comments

I need a car. I'm poor. I've never bought a car before, and it's been a long time since anyone in my family has bought one. Need guidance. How do you buy a car? [more inside]
posted by royalsong at 8:50 AM PST - 15 comments

A few weeks ago I asked this question. Consider this a follow-up question. I have a 1993 Honda del Sol 5-speed Si that has a "mystery" problem of sometimes starting and sometimes not starting. It's always a cold-start problem. I put the key in the ignition, switch it to ON until the check engine light goes on, the fuel pump pressurizes, and the main relay clicks, and then crank it. Sometimes it will fire up right away. Other times the engine will turn over but not ignite. Once it is started, it will start up fine for the rest of the day. It only gives me trouble when the engine has gone completely cold and has been left untouched for upwards of four hours. A new issue has developed since I first posted my question. Even after getting the car started, sometimes just a few minutes later during a sharp acceleration (approaching 4000rpms or more) the engine stalls out. I have to pull the car over and start it up again. It always starts up fine after that and will usually not stall out again. I had this issue looked at by several mechanics, most of whom hadn't the slightest clue what it was or willingness to investigate. The last mechanic I took it to said it was a faulty ignition switch and replaced it . . . but that has done no good whatsoever. Also, just FYI, the spark plugs are relatively new. Any thoughts are appreciated!
posted by fignewton at 8:45 AM PST - 10 comments

How does the speaker's notes function work in PowerPoint? [more inside]
posted by sardonyx at 8:44 AM PST - 8 comments

I love bath stuff (fizzies, melts, bubbles) & lotions & scented oils. I'm looking for small or independent sellers so I can discover more great stuff! [more inside]
posted by pointystick at 8:42 AM PST - 28 comments

After years living in flatshares, MrMippy and I are moving in together. That part's fine - it's dealing with estate agencies and huge sums of cash that scares me. Help me calm down about it so I can think about how to furnish our flat in peace! (We are in London.) [more inside]
posted by mippy at 8:34 AM PST - 6 comments

You're not my doctor, but perhaps you can give me some insight into what is happening... [more inside]
posted by helios410 at 8:27 AM PST - 10 comments

Can a hypothetical furniture buyer ethically keep this hypothetical dining table? Say someone you know ordered a dining room table and chairs from a major furniture retailer (think Pottery Barn). The table was delivered by a third-party furniture delivery company and the chairs were sent, a week later, via UPS. Once it's all together, the buyer decides that it's not what he wants and calls the retailer to arrange a return. "No problem," the customer service agent says. "Repackage the chairs and send them back via UPS. The third-party delivery company will contact you to arrange pickup of the table within five days." Chairs go back the next day. Seven days elapse and no call from the delivery company. The buyer calls the retailer and explains the situation, and the customer service agent refunds the entire order price to the buyer's credit card and says that the third-party delivery company should call one of these days to arrange to pick up the table. "What if they don't?" asks the buyer. "Well, you've received a full refund for the order," says the agent, "so you're not really responsible for the table anymore." [more inside]
posted by ndg at 8:25 AM PST - 15 comments

Should I buy this car, or find another one? [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 8:24 AM PST - 18 comments

Partner and I are planning to visit family in Michigan (Lake Huron) & Philadelphia in August. Since we are going all that way (from London), we thought perhaps we should also try and do something just ourselves for say 4-7 days but have no ideas. Is there anything like "Grand Canyon" level must-see in that area? [more inside]
posted by mary8nne at 7:54 AM PST - 32 comments

I am hoping to locate present and historical sales or usage figures for various prescription drugs, and I am not sure where to start. I'm trying to use the data to get a sense of how many people were using a particular drug at different times; I just figured sales volume would be a good indication. For me, rough numbers would be fine. Paying for the data may be an option (especially if it is not too expensive), but I was hoping to find some good free resources. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Market share data for different drugs in a particular class would be similarly useful, especially to the extent that I can also find overall sales or use volume for the overall drug class.
posted by dredge at 7:51 AM PST - 1 comments

I recently moved to an affluent, food obsessed city and am surprised by the lack of a well-stocked liquor store downtown. There's a growing microdistillery movement throughout the state and many well established local craft beers. Appealing to tourists would be a hook, but with more than 150,000 residents (many of whom work in high-end restaurants) there is a sizable community to serve.
posted by wensink at 7:42 AM PST - 10 comments

Asking for my husband: I just got the Heat soundtrack, and it is intense and moody. I am looking for other soundtracks, or actual albums, that fit that bill. Obviously Blade Runner, and I am imagining a lot of Friedkin films, but the mix of dark and strong is something I would like to hear more of.
posted by dogmom at 7:20 AM PST - 17 comments

My wife and I are expecting our first child in June. We're talking about me taking paternity leave. Talk to me about your experiences with this, pro or con. [more inside]
posted by Mayor West at 7:18 AM PST - 21 comments

Glenda thinks because we met up a few times outside work, we can now be besties. Problem is, this time spent together made me realize Glenda is not someone I want to be friends with. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:01 AM PST - 28 comments

A local business charged my credit card about $18 eight different times over the last three months without authorization, interspersed with another eight or so legitimate charges. After a month of back and forth over e-mail, they refused to explain, refund or reverse the charges, so I initiated a charge back. They got really angry, and now say they want all the money plus $25 per chargeback or they'll send the debt to collections and make reports to all the credit reporting agencies. What to do? [more inside]
posted by skewed at 6:51 AM PST - 15 comments

For a decade I've had a 4-letter English word domain at .be and a law firm contacted me about buying it. [more inside]
posted by skywhite at 6:40 AM PST - 28 comments

Following some intense pain I felt back in August, I began going to doctors to figure out the cause. I've been diagnosed with osteoarthritis. I am in my mid-twenties. I could use some help figuring out my next medical and legal steps. [more inside]
posted by Sakura3210 at 6:18 AM PST - 6 comments

Is a man who pretends to be friends with a woman when he is actually interested in more than friendship doing something shady? Should said woman (myself) drop him as a friend or give him a chance to adjust? He’s a good friend and generally a positive, interesting and charming friend to have (smart, insightful, witty, capable of deep conversation, trustworthy with secrets, understanding…). I’m simply not interested in dating him (for many reasons, the most glaring of which is that he’s sexist in subtle ways that I couldn’t tolerate in a partner), but I value and love his friendship and conversation. I do not want to date him, ever. I don’t know if I should salvage our friendship or let it go, for his sake and mine...I've included the details below but I think this summary captures what I am trying to intellectually and emotionally figure out. [more inside]
posted by grassbottles at 6:12 AM PST - 57 comments

I need help taming a very long list of numbers into useful tabulated data, in Excel. [more inside]
posted by 256 at 5:59 AM PST - 10 comments

So what are 30 things to do before I'm 30? (practical & non-practical) [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 5:40 AM PST - 50 comments

Help me find a rich body lotion/cream to help me transcend my winter lizard skin and smell pretty like a girl. [more inside]
posted by elizeh at 4:44 AM PST - 30 comments

Our cleaning lady, who otherwise seems to be pretty honest and is regarded like a family member, has been inflating her billable hours. We know this for sure. How should we deal with this? [more inside]
posted by lost_lettuce at 1:29 AM PST - 68 comments

February 27
I was researching sequential eating and would like some advice, here are my thoughts and questions: It seems that it takes (on average) 2-4 hours for foods or beverages to leave the stomach. I was wanting to eat/drink something specific every two hours. I have 8 hours to sleep every night, and I like to eat right before sleep as well. This leaves me with 16 hours in a wakened state. Or, 9 segments of eating/drinking. (I drink water right when I wake up) On the basis of sequential eating, what are some useful tips/advice I could keep in consideration while putting together snacks of 1-3 things? It's looking like 4 meals a day, 5 drinks a day, alternating every two hours. OR, what I would rather prefer, is eating 9 meals a day (fruit in the morning with my water), and drinking 6oz of water every hour on the dot. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
posted by JamesBlakeAV at 10:41 PM PST - 4 comments

I'm trying to fix my phone. How do I deal with a very tiny, hard to get at screw with a stripped head? [more inside]
posted by delezzo at 10:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Somewhat unexpectedly, I find myself working as a full time freelancer. Help me anticipate the tax situation. [more inside]
posted by Sara C. at 10:10 PM PST - 13 comments

I'd like to get more into freelance copywriting. It's something I can do from home, and I'm pretty good at it. I have a money and time goal for it. Money: 5 cents a word Time: 15 hours a week Total: About $1,500 a month. I'm on Textbroker, but they rarely pay more than 1.5 cents a word. I'm open to pay-by-project too, if they're consistent. How would I go about finding regular clients/websites that could help me reach my goal?
posted by tuberose at 9:47 PM PST - 3 comments

At a local Sri Lankan festival a few months ago I had what I thought was a fresh black peppercorn - it was a small black ball, smooth on the outside with a bit of salt coating it, and distinctly juicy. A guy was selling little glass jars of them. I think he recommended I put one in my Lion beer. I tried looking up fresh black peppercorns, but apparently they turn black as part of preparation and I can't find anything like this online. I did find peppercorns in salt in a bottle, but they were definitely green. Am I misremembering this, or is this standard food item of some kind?
posted by 23 at 9:04 PM PST - 14 comments

Is there a test adults can get to tell them what their sex chromosomes are, e.g. to know if they're an XX despite having male genitalia, or if they're XXY women, or any other non-binary possibility? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:51 PM PST - 17 comments

My husband got a new job and it looks like his health insurance will be better and cheaper for us than what we have through my employer. Problem is, my office is tiny and if we drop off our insurance, only one person in the office will remain on the group plan and a group of one is not eligible for a group plan. If we drop off the plan, I want to ensure she doesn't get screwed over. Can you help me figure out what questions she and I need to ask the owners and our insurance broker and/or come up with creative solutions to pose to the owners of the company? (I realize that this is really the coworker's issue but we're a very tight-knit office and my coworker wants this help.) [more inside]
posted by adorap0621 at 8:49 PM PST - 9 comments

Our 9 year old daughter is maturing alarmingly fast physically. Should we be concerned? And is there any way it has anything to do with our habit of eating roast chickens from the supermarket? Could it have anything to do with growth hormones in the chickens?
posted by musofire at 8:38 PM PST - 30 comments

Whenever it comes up while I'm texting I come to an impasse. I know that I don't want to type the whole word because I have a dumbphone and I want to minimize thumb-wear. If I were writing a novel I would write it as 'cause, but I'm not so it's still too long. The phonetic cuz is clear and concise but somehow doesn't fit my personality or the tone of most of my communications. I started using cos but for some reason I associate that with UK English and I'm from the states and it doesn't quite feel right. What do you use and why, if there is a why.
posted by TheRedArmy at 8:29 PM PST - 41 comments

I have this safety clasp lapel pin that I want to attach to my lapel. However it looks like on my suit the buttonhole is just stitching instead of a real hole. The actual pin part slides through easily enough (and I don't have problems with normal butterfly clasps), but how to I get the closing part through without destroying the buttonhole?
posted by Deflagro at 8:12 PM PST - 4 comments

Wittgenstein met with members of the Vienna Circle on a few occasions. So did Godel. Did the two ever meet, in Vienna at that time or otherwise?
posted by phrontist at 8:10 PM PST - 1 comments

I'm looking for websites that have discussion-areas for people who are into BDSM. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:35 PM PST - 6 comments

I'm trying to use Keynote for my MBP in 'rehearsal mode...' Works fine except I notice that it doesn't seem to play the movies, etc. that I have as slides. Rather, it just shows the static first frame. When I try to press the 'space bar' to start them, as I usually do in straight play mode, it actually advances the slide (not what I want). AS I don't have a second screen handy I'm not sure if the movies and animations would actually be appearing per usual on the second screen. Anyone have any tips/experience on this? Anything I can change?
posted by dearleader at 7:30 PM PST - 2 comments

My wife has recently been given the chance to follow one of her dreams and go to school to learn how to make pastries and cakes via a generous financial situation, so we are seeking the hive minds help to find a good patisserie course that she could take. The only limitations are that I want to go with her and due to my job, she can probably only do a maximum of 2 - 3 months, so a course that's longer than that would be a no-go. However, she is willing to travel (and relishes the idea), so please suggest any school you like, regardless of the location. Related to this, she is currently considering going to Paris (obviously), but is worried about the language barrier, so any comments on that side would also be greatly appreciated. Thanks all!
posted by ranglin at 7:26 PM PST - 8 comments

When I'm racing to meet a writing deadline, I feel a sense of exhilaration, momentum, and flow. How can achieve that state on a regular basis so I can make steady progress on my writing? [more inside]
posted by incandescentman at 7:24 PM PST - 17 comments

Looking for local's tips on some fun stuff to do in Seattle this weekend. [more inside]
posted by christiehawk at 7:15 PM PST - 9 comments

This video was released as part of an ARG. We're trying to identify the locations in the video (some of it is stock footage but some was probably custom made). [more inside]
posted by GDWJRG at 7:14 PM PST - 11 comments

What is the name of your child's favorite stuffed animal? I just wanted to know what kind of names kids come up with for the little characters that inhabit their bedrooms. Curiosity is all.
posted by Slarty Bartfast at 6:58 PM PST - 91 comments

As a competent and responsible couple who will be available for a long-term housesitting or caretaking job (anywhere in the American West, BC or SE Alaska) throughout next winter and beyond, what are the best venues for us to both search for options and advertise our skills and availability? [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 6:37 PM PST - 5 comments

Looking for the current trendiest, most happening hotel in Berlin? [more inside]
posted by Xurando at 6:23 PM PST - 3 comments

Does anybody have any experience with recent pico projectors? Which should I buy? I'm looking for something that will fit in my tiny daypack (with room to spare for all my other crap) that is at least 100 lumens and that has a battery. [more inside]
posted by ooklala at 6:17 PM PST - 3 comments

Moving out this weekend, management company wants to charge me until new tenet moves in - whose in the right? [more inside]
posted by lpcxa0 at 6:16 PM PST - 8 comments

My Bulgarian nephew speaks no English and just enrolled in the first grade of a public school in the United States. He will be staying here until June. So far, he is handling it well and is proactive about learning English. Everyone at home has become a makeshift, round-the-clock ESL tutor and he is constantly provided with opportunities to pick up grammar and vocabulary, but his teachers don't really know what to do with him before he can communicate. What additional resources can we provide for him to help him pick up the language faster? He already has a bunch of library books, so we're looking for apps for iPad, Android, Chrome, Nintendo 3DS and other things a computer-savvy 7-year-old might enjoy. Thanks!
posted by halogen at 5:40 PM PST - 12 comments

It doesn't show up in pictures. I don't want to make a big deal out of it, but don't want it to seem like I'm trying to hide something. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by mermily at 5:27 PM PST - 25 comments

I've noticed some recurrent patterns in music videos (use of numbers, colors, etc.) that have piqued my interest. I'm wondering if any industry insiders can shed any light or if anyone has explored this concept academically or otherwise. [more inside]
posted by xenophile at 5:18 PM PST - 3 comments

Hello, Hive. I'm working on a historical graphic novel and a portion of it involves four sentences in German. I've made an effort to hammer something out by testing Google Translate's gibberish against some German language textbooks and grammar sites. I'm sorta confident about them, but would love for any bilingual native German speakers to give them a once over. Particularly, if you have any insights into generational differences in the German language, as this piece is supposed to take place during WWII. Posting them after the jump. [more inside]
posted by ProfLinusPauling at 5:09 PM PST - 6 comments

I made some pickled eggs for the first time. I just opened the jar, and: all of the eggs are varying shades of greyish- brownish. Most of them still have white spots and stripes. They smell fine (for hardboiled eggs soaked in vinegar I mean), but will I die if I eat them?
posted by windykites at 4:46 PM PST - 11 comments

All of a sudden a little link thing pops up in the lower left corner every time I open Yahoo mail. It has a brown background and has links to Yahoo Mail and Y! Confidential. It also has button links with a megaphone symbol and a bug symbol. What is it? Can I get rid of it? It happens in both Chrome and Firefox.
posted by Altomentis at 4:24 PM PST - 2 comments

Next month, I will be travelling to Las Vegas. For the very first time in my life. I have a whole bunch of Vegas-newbie questions. I’d like to ask you for your help. [more inside]
posted by jason's_planet at 4:11 PM PST - 28 comments

I'm looking for a bizarre animated music video, possibly originating from Korea or Japan, which I've spent an hour googling fruitlessly. [more inside]
posted by TheAlarminglySwollenFinger at 3:29 PM PST - 2 comments

It was suggested to me to make a small investment in foreign currency. What are the basics? Would it be best to go through broker or to invest on my own? Help!
posted by goalyeehah at 3:25 PM PST - 12 comments

If all goes well, I'll be writing a bi-weekly blog about spaceflight and astronomy, with a particular emphasis on manned and unmanned spacecraft -- what's up on the ISS, what satellites will be launching soon and what they'll do, what interesting discoveries ongoing missions have made, that sort of thing. But I have NO IDEA at all what I should call it. [more inside]
posted by Narrative Priorities at 3:12 PM PST - 19 comments

I've had this problem twice now: I purchase an electronic item from Amazon and when I call in for service under warranty, I'm told that their records show a different, much earlier purchase date. [more inside]
posted by ziggly at 2:48 PM PST - 11 comments

I work with someone (technically an assistant, but in reality does work for multiple people in the office, with most of their consistent work coming from me), and need to have a conversation regarding accuracy, timeliness, etc with them. Any suggestions or links to resources for the best way to approach this so they don't get defensive? [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl at 2:32 PM PST - 15 comments

I had surgery in October of 2010, paid all of the expenses past insurance, etc., and haven't heard from the hospital in 2 years. I've since moved, and received a bill yesterday for $138 that is "leftover from my surgery." The bill is dated February 13, but since the mail was forwarded, I just received it yesterday. I have no idea a) why I'm receiving this bill now or b) what it's actually for, and my contact with the hospital has yielded absolutely nothing. The charges it lists are nearly identical to those that are on the bills I (thankfully) saved post-surgery. I've called their billing department a couple of times, to no avail. The gist of the conversations: "It's for the surgery. Pay it." What are my options?
posted by eenagy at 2:30 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me choose three places in Spain to go for our honeymoon. [more inside]
posted by cali59 at 2:25 PM PST - 19 comments

Can anyone point me to a video demonstrating the Upton Sinclair quote, "It is difficult to get a man to understand something, when his salary depends on his not understanding it"--but in a non-political context? [more inside]
posted by underwater at 2:17 PM PST - 18 comments

Help me identify the source of this parody game show. [more inside]
posted by Joey Michaels at 2:02 PM PST - 4 comments

I'm starting to get bids to do phone interviews with touring artists and have never done this kind of thing before - can the Mefiverse give me good tips on how to capture/get quality quotes, ask non-stupid questions and frame the lede/narrative? [more inside]
posted by Lipstick Thespian at 1:56 PM PST - 8 comments

I've been seeing my boyfriend for about three months, and just about everything is great. We see each other almost every day and sleep at each other's houses so often we practically live together. We have everything in common, and I've never met anyone I click with that much. One thing we have in common that's not so great, though: we're both shy, and sometimes we don't know what to say to each other! How can we overcome this? And, while we're on the subject, what are some good conversation starters? More info below. [more inside]
posted by Gee, June! at 1:39 PM PST - 39 comments

Can you recommend a good chess book with as much history, context, stories, and culture as strategy? [more inside]
posted by suprenant at 1:28 PM PST - 10 comments

How much money is the US government losing, and how much revenues are US exporters losing, due to the US government assessing import custom duties at FOB value instead of landed (CIF) value like the rest of the world does? [more inside]
posted by Dansaman at 1:24 PM PST - 1 comments

I dimly recall a MS Word dictionary (or thesaurus) Easter Egg (I think) that I stumbled upon in college a million years ago. Does it ring a bell with any of you? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 1:16 PM PST - 4 comments

Warning: Long ruminating monologue ahead. I would sincerely appreciate any input. I am 24, from Germany and have been running my own online business which I founded right after school for the last couple of years. As the business is location-independent, I travelled a lot lately but would like to do something else now. I have always had a keen interest in all things science ('brain science' specifically) but up to this point I have never really considered actually persuing a career in science or medicine. But now I do. [more inside]
posted by capgrassyndrome at 1:15 PM PST - 12 comments

My friend died last week. We had been living in different countries for the past few months; we were still in contact up until a few weeks ago. His death was sudden and unexpected. He was far too young to die. I can't go to any of the memorials (he was one of those people who knew like, thousands of people, so people seemingly everywhere on earth are doing stuff) and I won't be going to the funeral. I didn't know his family and even though we were roommates, we had very few friends in common. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 1:13 PM PST - 18 comments

A couple years ago I remember seeing a pretty damn hilarious itemized list of things a professor/researcher had to do to correct/update an article for publishing in a journal. It was 100 some odd items long, starting with inane requests, then veering into how some other author had disagreed with the original one and now the original had to prove it out. Research could've been related to frogs or physics+light - can't recall. I think it was on Scribd or another one of those sites that makes stuff look like a pdf/paper document. Anyone remember this?
posted by ish__ at 1:12 PM PST - 3 comments

I have a specific site in mind, and I can't find it for the life of me. It's a consciously minimalist design, about 5 stories per day, summarized. The stories are all in a single column, on a single page, black text on a white background. Clean as clean can be. [more inside]
posted by scamper at 1:01 PM PST - 7 comments

I have a booth at a trade conference a couple of times a year and I have spent time and money curating a reputation as someone who gives away very good chocolate at my booth. To date I have given away Lindor Chocolate Truffles. Then this year someone popped along and asked me if they were fair trade. No, dammit, they are not fair trade. But owing to the nature of my business, they probably should be. Please suggest some fair trade chocolates that I can substitute for Lindor truffles. [more inside]
posted by bq at 12:54 PM PST - 11 comments

I want to reward myself for getting things done, but my depression poisons everything fun. Depressed Mefites, have you found any ways to self-reward that break through anhedonia? [more inside]
posted by cortisol at 12:42 PM PST - 16 comments

How do I calculate the differences in welfare for a state when an import quota is applied to an industry that is controlled by a monopolist at home, vs an industry that is perfectly competitive at home? [more inside]
posted by tokaidanshi at 12:24 PM PST - 3 comments

I want to anonymously publish sometimes-true Kindle singles of hookup stories. Some will be true, some will be fiction. But I want to use a real name for each, a la Marie Calloway's Adrien Brody piece. Are there legal repercussions? Would Amazon take my single down? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:02 PM PST - 9 comments

Last week I was visiting San Francisco and using a borrowed car. I got a $996 fine for parking briefly in a handicap spot in front of a store on Hayes St. The spot was marked in blue on the ground, and there was a sign in front of it, but the sign was obscured by a tree. I didn't know blue indicated the spot was off-limits, I live in MA. I saw the sign too late, and it indicated the minimum fine was $250. [more inside]
posted by Dragonness at 11:43 AM PST - 31 comments

Hey Baltimore Mefites! I need your recommendations for a chill place to grab a drink after a show at the Meyerhoff. [more inside]
posted by grateful at 11:34 AM PST - 5 comments

We will be in Calgary this weekend for personal business, and I got to thinking, since it's also birthday of one of us, are there any restaurants, coffee shops, attractions that have birthday discounts? We will be staying in the SE, but anything is game. If it matters, older couple with mobility issues. Thanks!
posted by batikrose at 11:26 AM PST - 3 comments

Death of a parent and a breakup- how to disentangle the two, get a virtual lobotomy regarding the breakup, and for heavens sake just fucking move on regarding the breakup. [more inside]
posted by xm at 11:24 AM PST - 20 comments

For a charity auction, my family "donated" a Ms. Pac-Man party for 16 people. The winners are 8 couples in their mid- to late 30s who each paid a decent bit of money to come to our house and be entertained for a night. We have an old-school Ms. Pac-Man cocktail table and a tournament will be the centerpiece, but I want to put on a great party and give these good people their money's worth. What great ideas - whether general grown-up party ideas or specific Ms. Pac-Man ones - will make that happen? My budget is not unlimited but assume it is large. [more inside]
posted by Duluth?! I Hardly Know Her! at 10:38 AM PST - 31 comments

My 14-year-old niece is having trouble in school and has very few, if any, resources among her immediate family. Compounding the problem, her guardian is not family and seems to prioritize her own son's needs over hers. We want to help but we live a thousand miles away. What can we do? [more inside]
posted by Holy Zarquon's Singing Fish at 9:47 AM PST - 26 comments

I am taking an entry-level college class in programming. We are using Javascript "playground" that works within a web browser. I am a visual learner and the textbook and exercises are useless to me. We're only six weeks in and I'm in the weeds. Is there a tool that shows what exactly is happening at each step in the Javascript code? [more inside]
posted by crosten at 9:43 AM PST - 15 comments

I'm apparently part of the minority that really dislikes warm colored light. I used daylight incandescent bulbs back in the day, and I'm looking for an equivalent CFL. All I've been able to find are either pink/orange (supplied by the apartment) or blue (the GE bulbs at the grocery store). Isn't there a good, just, white? Like the tubes in an office building?
posted by hishtafel at 9:15 AM PST - 11 comments

I've been told recently that collecting micrometeorites is as easy, basically, as placing a clean surface outside and picking through the debris you collect because thousands of tons of space dust and debris fall to Earth every day. That can't be all there is to it, can it? How do you know whether you're looking at Earth dust or space dust? [more inside]
posted by Sleeper at 9:10 AM PST - 4 comments

Knitters, how do you store your circular knitting needles? [more inside]
posted by Melismata at 9:02 AM PST - 26 comments

I can suddenly no longer be heard on calls using my iPhone 4S. [more inside]
posted by modernnomad at 9:00 AM PST - 8 comments

I teach for a living but have a lot of linguistic baggage that I'd like to get rid of. Specifically, I have some weird pronunciation/accent issues and would like to speak "General American" or newscaster English. Is this something I can do on my own? What resources should I use? [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 8:35 AM PST - 7 comments

I’m currently working on an international project and need to format documents written in German, Polish and Croatian for use on the web. What is the quickest way to convert all the non-ASCII characters into the relevant character entity? Some sort of web form would be my ideal solution, but I’d settle for a freeware program.
posted by the latin mouse at 8:32 AM PST - 8 comments

My boyfriend treats me wonderfully, like I'm the most important thing on the planet. Now, we are taking our first steps down a very quick path towards Full Lifetime Committment: moving-in, with the understanding that marriage and kids will follow shortly. (Why the speed? I'm 37 with some history of ladytroubles that require maximum time to try and get pregnant.) I was feeling very ready for all this 2-3 months ago, but now am having doubts. Help! Are these standard cold feet, or do you spot any red flags here? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:30 AM PST - 27 comments

An 18-year-old girl I met online who I'm interested in dating's parents (who, I should note, are still financially supporting her) want all sorts of my info before they'll let her meet me and I believe they want it regardless if she meets me here or if I meet her there. Her parents want, among other things: My address and addresses and phone numbers of various family members of mine; scans of pieces of my ID; to check if I have a criminal record. Is it wrong of me to want to withhold this info from them? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:29 AM PST - 100 comments

Looking for recent, substantive, data on the demographics of video game players that does NOT source back (as so many do) to the ESA. There must be some others out there? Yes? [more inside]
posted by Wordshore at 8:26 AM PST - 7 comments

An agent from a very large, well-established literary agency contacted me to say he liked my self-pubbed sci-fi, that he'd seen all the glowing reader reviews, and to ask about my future plans and if I had taken on representation. I answered those questions directly (plans for new books and no, I don't have representation). Presuming he writes back... what do I need to know? [more inside]
posted by scaryblackdeath at 8:25 AM PST - 6 comments

I would like to take my landlord (really, management company, I guess?) to housing court because I haven't had heat for ten days (and counting) and hot water for ~five, and I would like a rent abatement for the days of this month in which my apartment was not inhabitable. Have you taken someone to housing court in NYC? Please tell me your experiences and any advice you have. [more inside]
posted by millipede at 8:00 AM PST - 18 comments

For work reasons, I'm spending this week far from home, which means I'm going to miss my girlfriend's birthday tomorrow. Boo! We're going to make up for it when I get home, but I still want to mark the occasion by having something delivered to her at work. The obvious choice is flowers, of course. But can you suggest something else romantic and sweet that would be less obvious? Something I can arrange remotely and have delivered to an office in Herndon, Va. tomorrow?
posted by Naberius at 7:45 AM PST - 13 comments

One of our clients has a WordPress site running on our IIS Windows server. They want to be able to preview and edit the site before it goes live. How can this be accomplished? [more inside]
posted by cirrostratus at 7:31 AM PST - 9 comments

For a High School youth Group i help moderate, we are creating an American Gladiator style event. One of the games we are going to do is the favorite/famed Assault. If anyone can help me brainstorm the following questions: What should I use for launching Tennis Balls, a Sling shot, or something else? It needs to be fairly quick. Any cheaper alternatives to Tennis balls, need to launch something in a gym (it has a stage to shoot from)? I think i can get some tennis balls on craigslist, but open to any alternative. [more inside]
posted by fozzie33 at 7:24 AM PST - 12 comments

I'm trying to track down a viral fashion video that featured a model in a meadow of flowers at golden hour, with a wind machine following her gestures, flattening the grass and flowers. I can't remember what it was advertising — maybe perfume?
posted by sixswitch at 7:12 AM PST - 3 comments

I'm catching a morning flight out of JFK next Saturday and I need to leave my car at the airport for a few days. I would like to use the on-airport long term parking lot because it looks like there's AirTrain access, but I don't think you can reserve those spots. So I've got two questions: 1) is the parking lot (on Lefferts Boulevard) hard to find? 2) what are the odds that there won't be any spots when I show up? Thanks!
posted by reformedjerk at 6:53 AM PST - 5 comments

Tomorrow night, I'll be driving from Seattle to Whistler, BC. What's the drive going to be like, and is there anything that I should know? [more inside]
posted by schmod at 6:23 AM PST - 12 comments

I learned today that it's dangerous to store combustibles such as clothing near the fuse box or electrical intake. I keep my off-season wardrobe under the stairs, and the electrical intake/fuse box is also under the stairs. How far away do I need to keep this stuff? What is a safe distance? Is it feasible to use compact-o-stuff vacuum bags to reduce the crowding in the understair cupboard? [more inside]
posted by tel3path at 5:48 AM PST - 13 comments

The age-old "crush on teacher" dilemma: I'm getting too attached to my TA and it needs to stop. How can I dial it back while maintaining a friendly, professional relationship? [more inside]
posted by cucumber patch at 2:35 AM PST - 19 comments

Need credit or charge card for a small business that has outgrown its President's ability to cover its obligations. [more inside]
posted by Protocols of the Elders of Sockpuppetry at 12:34 AM PST - 9 comments

February 26
I'll try to keep this short and thorough. I'm a 25 year old male, I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months, and I'm still a virgin. I've never had a ton of sexual experiences in my past (oral), but this one has me a little confused and stressed out. About 4 days ago I was with my girlfriend and we were giving each other oral, (we haven't had vaginal sex yet) I always go down on her first and then she does down on me. Now normally I get incredibly turned on, very easily, and with anything from hugging and cuddling, to kissing and foreplay. It always gives me a very full and hard erection, and in the past I've never had any problem at all about having an orgasm. However on this night while my girlfriend was going down on me, right in the middle I suddenly became soft and completely lost my erection. This has never happened to me before, and in the last 4 days, everything that normally turns me on and gives me that full erection, has barely even given me a "chubby" so to speak. I'm finding it very hard to get turned on, and its making both my girlfriend and I quite upset. [more inside]
posted by stonecutters88 at 10:42 PM PST - 15 comments

Lately, I have been thinking a lot about having babies, like this random thought that keeps popping up over and over again. But the career path that I am planning to embark on will probably lead to me being an older mom. How can I know if I'm making the right choice and how can I find out more before getting committed to one path or another? [more inside]
posted by kettleoffish at 10:28 PM PST - 18 comments

I'm researching air pollution here in India, but one of my instruments has broken, and I need a can of compressed air to fix it. In the US most big computer shops carry this, but here no one has heard of it. Where in Hyderabad can I buy compressed air? Do you have a specific shop with contact info? Can I pull this off today so my collection season isn't ruined? My God, why is this so hard?
posted by Sfving at 10:07 PM PST - 11 comments

I remember reading months ago (could have been as long as 1-2 years ago) a blog post written by (I think) a man talking about the assumptions people make about gendering dogs. [more inside]
posted by citywolf at 10:02 PM PST - 5 comments

I grind my teeth at night. This has already worn down my canines and causes stress on my teeth and gums. I have been repeatedly dentist-recommended to wear mouth guards at night. Shortly after I start wearing a guard (two-five days) I develop canker sores in my mouth and stop. Please fix this cycle. [more inside]
posted by vegartanipla at 9:49 PM PST - 14 comments

Looking for a play. It's about the writing staff of a fictional TV show, I think a sitcom. The protagonist is female. (And I think the playwright is too, and possibly the protagonist is the playwright's stand-in). Other characters: a Norman Lear-esque showrunner, and an ex-NCAA basketball player staff writer. [more inside]
posted by world b free at 8:50 PM PST - 1 comments

Siri is touted as an advanced piece of engineering technology, but as far as I know I can open Apple made apps and run a command. Very helpful if you figure it out (it's worth it), but limited indeed. What are its limits? Can this be extended? Note: There is no Siri API, or god forbid, SDK, to speak of.
posted by tenstairs at 8:32 PM PST - 4 comments

Helping my boss' husband out with their 2 little kids while she's away. He snapped and pushed them away roughly (imagining hitting them, he told me later) and left me alone with the 2 inconsolable children. What can/should I tell my boss? HOW? Any good resources I can recommend to a couple with 2 terrible twos and many more meltdowns to come? [more inside]
posted by chrysanthemum at 8:25 PM PST - 46 comments

Should I keep dancing (at a club)? By dancing, I mean topless dancing, lapdances, typical men's club activities. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:16 PM PST - 17 comments

Last-minute trip to Denver starting March 6. I'll have wed-fri and then monday for me-time in the city and I plan to do my usual routine whenever in a new city: investigate it as a possible future home. [more inside]
posted by myriad gantry at 7:57 PM PST - 21 comments

What is the best way to approach somebody in a career field about the possibility of arranging an informational interview? This is assuming you do not have a connection to a person.
posted by dfc5656 at 7:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Cherry and plum trees are blooming in the Bay Area right now. Where are some amazing places to see them? I am interested in both volume and variety of trees. [more inside]
posted by purpleclover at 7:45 PM PST - 5 comments

My friend's mom is trying to find a play that might be called "1601." Probably has as characters: Queen Elizabeth I, Sir Walter Raleigh, Shakespeare. She read it in the late 1960's, and it was full of many fart jokes, sexual allusions, etc. Was supposed to be set in Queen Elizabeth's drawing room... We're having no luck, turning to the hive mind.....
posted by kestralwing at 7:10 PM PST - 4 comments

I'm asking this for a friend, A. A has a pinched nerve in the neck that isn't getting any better. He has bad posture and sits in a cubicle all day. He would like to see a physical therapist for this, but has also heard good things about the Alexander technique for correcting posture. Which would you recommend? [more inside]
posted by Kamelot123 at 7:06 PM PST - 8 comments

Mr. Liet and I have a day and a half in San Francisco. What should we do? [more inside]
posted by liet at 6:47 PM PST - 10 comments

Hello Hive Mind! A few years ago I quit smoking cigarettes And I have absolutely no desire to smoke them again. But on the other hand, I miss the social aspects of smoking and enjoying it. Enter Ecigs. Mrs. NiumX and I are thinking it might be fun to get an ecig system that offers fun and interesting options with no (or low) nicotine. Flavors, whatever. Older Asks seem a few years old. What is new? So any suggestions would be great. Thanks!
posted by PlutoniumX at 6:44 PM PST - 10 comments

When I was in college, and first learning to build websites, I began by using Microsoft FrontPage. It definately had it's shortcomings and I'm glad it has been retired. I've long since moved on to better tools and methods myself, but there's one feature I did enjoy called "Navigation View". This was a way to view your site as a tree-map, but it was also a way to build out a large and somewhat complex web of pages. I found it to be a useful outlining tool, for later building complex sites. Is there anything like that now? For those of you who might not be familiar with the feature, try a google image search for frontpage navigation view I tried looking on another forum for an answer, but the conversation there was not helpful to me at all.
posted by dylan_k at 6:18 PM PST - 4 comments

I remember an RPG... I think it was for DOS or Windows. It was a kind of puzzle/mystery genre game, and it was like all video? Like your character walking around was sort of a mortal kombat video captured sprite walking around realistic (also kind of grainy video-y) backgrounds. The main character was a woman, I think she was asian, pretty sure she had long black hair. Can you identify the game?
posted by signsofrain at 6:16 PM PST - 7 comments

I'm depressed and overwhelmed. I think this is primarily due to work pressures. Are these reasons to quit a job? What are some valid reasons? What should I be asking myself? [more inside]
posted by ArgyleMarionette at 6:09 PM PST - 19 comments

I'll be in Iowa City from March 25 to the end of April. I'll need a place to stay for a month and a week. Do you all have craigslist out there? If not, what are the best resources for finding lodging for this duration at something more like rental rates than hotel rates? Thanks!
posted by eviemath at 5:49 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking around at houses for sale in a high-traffic area (NYC suburbs). I-95 runs through all of the towns. What's the minimum distance I'd want the property to be from 95, in order to grow an edible vegetable garden (in raised beds)?
posted by xo at 5:49 PM PST - 8 comments

Seeking insurance broker recommendations for a new family in NYC. Co-op, Auto, and now with progeny, Life. Obviously want a person/office that we can trust, and will look out for our interests in the long haul. We live in Queens, and work in Manhattan. Bonus question: are any brokers fee-based, or do all work on commission-type arrangements?
posted by Oddly at 5:44 PM PST - 1 comments

Should I e-file my taxes? Specific computer phobia (or phobia of the IRS) is involved. [more inside]
posted by bad grammar at 5:36 PM PST - 21 comments

I am male, 17, with decent physical health but struggling with depression and anxiety. What should I try before going back on meds? [more inside]
posted by gray17 at 5:33 PM PST - 25 comments

So from time to time I get described as stubborn, or very stubborn, from my friends and peers. I've accepted that I am, but I have a hard time wrapping my head around when exactly it can be bad, when it can be good, and how to deal with it without sacrificing my principles. A lot of the times when I'm stubborn I feel there's nothing wrong, that I'm right, that I'm just sticking to my principles or to my strongly held beliefs. I'm not the best at debating, so sometimes I wonder if this is a compensating mechanism, but dammit I know I'm right (I'm really not arrogant, honest :) ). How do I unpick this? Should I unpick this? I'm curious for opinions from other people, both stubborn ones and ones that have to deal with stubborn people from the outside. When is it good? When is it bad? How to dial it down? How do you talk it down from the inside? How much do you accept that's just how someone is, how much do you try and change? [more inside]
posted by Elfasi at 5:30 PM PST - 21 comments

I run a once-a-week book club for 8 grade 7 girls. We likely have funding and time to read one more book and I'd really like to make it something special. [more inside]
posted by iftheaccidentwill at 5:09 PM PST - 46 comments

We like a range of music: house, soul, funk, techno, some of the recent top40, nuwaveglitchhopstep, daytime disco(?). Emphasis on the beat and getting down. The other patrons, similarly, should have a pro-dancing agenda and friendly vibe. [more inside]
posted by mai at 5:08 PM PST - 3 comments

i've been living in an apartment building in san francisco for 10 years and have a one-car garage. for much of that time i parked my car on the street, parallel to the curb, blocking my own driveway to some extent. i also had friends park there cars there, and when i had a rental car, i parked it there on and off for several months. no one ever got a ticket. a couple months ago i parked a friend's car there overnight and got a ticket. apparently someone had called in a complaint, although the car was extending only into my own driveway, and by a small amount at that. i protested the $98 ticket, saying that i was the driver and the only one authorized to call in a complaint, but it was denied. i have no idea who called in the complaint, and DPT will not give out that information. i plan to do an in-person hearing. has anyone successfully fought this sort of ticket? [more inside]
posted by roxie110 at 5:01 PM PST - 21 comments

Last summer, my partner was in Pittsburgh, and at a Target store she bought two plastic rocketship glasses, pictured here. Where can we get more? [more inside]
posted by madcaptenor at 4:11 PM PST - 6 comments

So here is the traditional routine: I get up in the morning or I come home from work. I get dressed or change out of work clothes. Here is what happens... [more inside]
posted by michellenoel at 3:51 PM PST - 13 comments

looking for a costume or shoe store or some place that has stripper boots and shoes in stock. specifically pleaser brand and seduce 2000.
posted by sandra_s at 3:51 PM PST - 2 comments

Question about the Peace Corps and withdrawing acceptance of an invitation—is this possible? Will it make me look bad if/when I apply for other government things? [more inside]
posted by Papagayo at 3:49 PM PST - 4 comments

Do I have to go to the doctor? [more inside]
posted by fozzie_bear at 3:42 PM PST - 11 comments

My SO has depression, and he's about to start taking medication for it. Seeing him depressed makes me upset, and sometimes I show this in front of him, which makes him feel worse. How can I deal with this better, and how can I help him deal with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:33 PM PST - 7 comments

I'm in the United States and will be working for myself for the first time. This is exciting, but I have a pre-existing health condition, ADHD, and I take medication daily. Will this still be covered if I go on my own health plan or will this be out of pocket? I'm male, non-smoker, mid-20s with no other pre-existing conditions. The whole new health care initiative is confusing, I was under the impression that this sort of thing is now covered.
posted by anonymous at 3:33 PM PST - 7 comments

The situation: My work-related insurance coverage for my daughter ends May 1. She has found a lump, which the docs want to watch for 6 months and then decide about a biopsy. She is 22 and our first thought, before this news, was to allow her to be uninsured through the Summer. [more inside]
posted by Danf at 3:18 PM PST - 21 comments

Please recommend outstanding recipe books and resources for clueless cooks! [more inside]
posted by byanyothername at 2:59 PM PST - 11 comments

Been looking for this video for a while My wife several years ago saw an episode of Oprah where Jon Secada was on. They were reviewing a video of where Jon was singing and ended up falling in a hole. I would love to find the video because it cracks her up to watch. Can anyone find a link?
posted by jseven at 2:53 PM PST - 2 comments

I have a tumblr. I wanted to use this plugin on it, but I am a relative newb in terms of HTML/Javascript, etc, so I don't really even know if this is possible. I asked a friend and he told me tumblr might be "too lightweight" to do this. Is there a tumblr veteran who could walk me through how to do this? [more inside]
posted by Palmfrond at 2:18 PM PST - 2 comments

I have a large (but not terribly heavy) wooden shield that I'd like to hang. Yesterday I used two eye screws, wrapped wire around the handle, and tried to suspend it. Pic of the back of the shield here: http://tinypic.com/r/34ffwbk/7 Unfortunately there's no stud, it needs to hang in a very specific location, and the eye screws were too short. To be honest it was a little sub-par as a solution anyway. All the grip clamps (like you'd use to hang a broom) at the hardware store are either too big or too small. How would you mount this? With the handle on the back, the piece extends about four inches from the wall. I'm willing to trudge back out into the frozen wasteland and hit up the hardware store again, but not if I don't have to. Thank you!
posted by 2soxy4mypuppet at 2:06 PM PST - 10 comments

We're remodeling our kitchen, thanks to a leaking roof and water damage. My husband would love to reduce the number of appliances we have on our counter. We currently have a microwave (used solely for defrosting/reheating), a toaster oven (for baking/roasting of small items; love the faster preheating), and a regular oven (for baking/roasting large things). I've seen conflicting reports about speed ovens, steam ovens, combi ovens, etc. that seem to be able to combine some of these features. Has anyone had experience with those? Can I truly say goodbye to one of my counter top ovens? If so, what's the most useful combination for someone who mostly needs to reheat and roast, with minimal preheating time? Bonus points for specific brand recommendations.
posted by snickerdoodle at 2:01 PM PST - 10 comments

I'm used to working with a Nikon film camera and a 50mm f/1.8 lens. What normal or close to normal lens would you recommend for a camera with a 1.6x crop factor like the Canon Rebel T4i? The kit lens is an EF-S 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6 IS II, which works, but I miss being able to take photos in low light without a flash.
posted by topoisomerase at 1:59 PM PST - 14 comments

What would you do with 8 hours in Chicago? [more inside]
posted by Cosine at 1:57 PM PST - 24 comments

I'm having a really hard time finding a reputable mortgage broker. The property is in Boston, MA, but I'm willing to work with someone in another state. The most important thing is that they're not slimy or condescending. Can you recommend someone in my area? Anyone to avoid?
posted by barnone at 1:56 PM PST - 6 comments

Calling all Seattle foodies. I am totally at a loss, as I've never been there. But I'm looking for a nice, classic restaurant that serves good seafood. I'm looking to book a place for our main dinner honoring the residents/post-doc fellow students who will present at a conference. [more inside]
posted by Juicy Avenger at 1:53 PM PST - 10 comments

I've been submitting applications for jobs in the retail sector, and most of the those applications are accepted electronically. If I follow up a resume submission, how should I make the approach? [more inside]
posted by Gin and Comics at 1:33 PM PST - 3 comments

When was the designation "S. en C."after a company name first used in Mexico, as in 'Cia. Abarrotera "El Cisne" S. en C.'? An answer of the type "was used at least as early as" would also be helpful.
posted by kirsti at 1:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Are civilian-grade stun guns effective on dogs? [more inside]
posted by Maximian at 1:22 PM PST - 15 comments

I recently bought a Kindle Fire and want to use Silverlight on it (or some analogue, such as Moonlight). All my google searching indicates that there are a whole host of technical difficulties involved, and there is all sorts of unconfirmed speculation like "Well, maybe if you sideloaded Firefox and then installed Moonlight... that might work... possibly." I don't like messing around with new device software based on random people's hypotheses. Has anybody successfully managed some way to do this which you can personally confirm worked on your Kindle device?
posted by wolfdreams01 at 1:07 PM PST - 6 comments

First of all, I got an IUD inserted last week. I was planning on paying out of pocket (I'm under my parent's insurance but for religious reasons didn't want to utilize it for fear of discovery), but is there any way to make it cheaper? Second, I went to a check-up appointment today and they told me that I have a bicornuate uterus (heart shaped, not totally split), something they didn't check for before they inserted the IUD. I was told the IUD wasn't in the correct location and would therefore be less effective. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by pyrom at 12:57 PM PST - 12 comments

My previous employer is asking for unpaid help with web design issues. At first I gladly helped, but now it's turning into a regular thing. The cherry on top: I'm unemployed and using her as a reference so I don't want to burn any bridges. How do I professionally handle this? [more inside]
posted by daisies at 12:53 PM PST - 15 comments

My partner and I are looking into buying a house Do we need to get married in order to have protections relating to said house (including inheritance of the house if one of us dies + the ability to sell the house and divide the money if we break up)? [more inside]
posted by NoraReed at 12:50 PM PST - 12 comments

Short version: Outpatient facility acknowledges they owe me money but has not paid up. Their eternal answer is "The check will go out Thursday. We know it was supposed to go out last Thursday but it will go out this Thursday. Promise!" It's been over a month now, and I've called several times a week. How do I get my money back? More details inside if you want them. [more inside]
posted by rednikki at 12:48 PM PST - 10 comments

My husband mentioned to me some years ago that he'd never had an actual, cake-and-candles, friends from the neighborhood invited, hats and horns birthday party in his entire life. I'd like to give him a small surprise birthday party for his upcoming birthday in late March, but I have questions about how to actually word the invitations. [more inside]
posted by Oriole Adams at 12:45 PM PST - 14 comments

My wife and I separated a few months ago (which was my choice, not hers) and it seems that many of the things that I left over may have been addressed, but I still feel cagey about it all. How do I square this circle in my head and in my heart? Blizzard inside. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock at 12:40 PM PST - 40 comments

I asked out a cute person, and he said yes, but... where do I want to go tomorrow night? Looking for someplace quietish (not too crowded, quiet enough so we don't have to yell at each other, and could maybe play a game of Scrabble), pretty casual (not overly-romantic), and pretty cheap. Could just be a drink or coffee, doesn't have to be a restaurant.
posted by emumimic at 11:48 AM PST - 10 comments

Any high-tech work-from-home Maui residents? If you work from home on Maui and absolutely definitely depend on having rock-solid high-speed internet access... where do you live and where would you avoid moving? Is there a single company that offers access? Related question... are power-outages a regular occurrence that would affect location too? mahalo.
posted by jimmereeno at 11:32 AM PST - 3 comments

First, let me state that I have no idea if these two things are interrelated, but it seems like they could be, so I'm going to go ahead and conjecture here: our AT&T cell phone service drops from nearly full 3G to one bar from time to time (usually during calls, of course) and our wi-fi does the same thing. I've tried timing it and I can't seem to nail it down to anything. Could these service drops be related? [more inside]
posted by summerteeth at 11:21 AM PST - 5 comments

I want to migrate in five years' time. What skills/qualifications can I pick up now that would allow me to get a fairly OK job offer? [more inside]
posted by swimmingly at 10:52 AM PST - 9 comments

"Some people, when confronted with a problem, think 'I know, I'll use %s' Now they have %d problems." How many variations on this joke do you know?
posted by ecmendenhall at 10:25 AM PST - 19 comments

YANMD: Looking for tips to maintan my health until my doctors figures out why my body has decided to stop digesting food. GROSS DETAILS WITHIN (but not many). [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 10:13 AM PST - 26 comments

Wall<>Cable Modem = Good. Wall<>Splitter<>Cable Modem + TV = Intermittent failures where the modem goes off line. What can I do to improve this? Is there such thing as a lower power splitter? Better cables? And did my cable company make a mistake? More details below! [more inside]
posted by bluelava at 10:04 AM PST - 14 comments

I'm considering getting a master's in medical science, slow route. I work at a university in publishing, so my classes are free. But I want to know if it's relevant or useful if I don't go to med school after. [more inside]
posted by caveatz at 9:54 AM PST - 6 comments

Is there any advantage to using a Verizon (or equivalent) 4G Hotspot over tethering a mobile phone? [more inside]
posted by zephyr_words at 9:47 AM PST - 6 comments

My near-sightedness is getting worse, and now I'm getting presbyopia, so I have to take off my glasses sometimes for reading or other close work. I can go progressive now or "next time." What should I be taking into consideration when I make my decision? [more inside]
posted by epersonae at 9:47 AM PST - 20 comments

We've decided to get married. Yay! I am the female half of a straight couple, if that matters. In the near future, we want to go to our local (US) courthouse and have a civil ceremony with just a judge and our immediate families present: his parents, my parents, his sibling+partner, my sibling+partner+child. Later this year, we'll throw an informal party and invite our extended circles to that as a larger celebration/reception. Our immediate families are supportive of this plan and just want us to be happy, but I have already gotten some pushback from friends and it gave me pause. So I guess I have questions about the practicality and etiquette of our plan and... whatever else we haven't thought about. Neither of us has been married before. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:44 AM PST - 53 comments

What are your tips and techniques for learning advanced vocabulary and grammar in a foreign language? [more inside]
posted by kristi at 9:31 AM PST - 15 comments

Recently purchased a farm property with a Cistern, It currently is filled from the eavestroughs. Any suggestions for starting it up and keeping it running smoothly? [more inside]
posted by vidarling at 9:30 AM PST - 8 comments

My friend's two shepherds were recently killed by an unknown predator. The vet thinks they may have been killed by coyotes. Is it possible for a necropsy to determine what type of animal killed them (eg. coyote, bear, cougar, bobcat)?
posted by Minos888 at 8:56 AM PST - 8 comments

tech-savvy mefites: please help me find a laptop! (somewhat snowflakey) [more inside]
posted by mirileh at 8:40 AM PST - 10 comments

A friend would like to switch to a cheap, unlocked Android phone and a prepaid plan within the next month. [more inside]
posted by jsturgill at 8:38 AM PST - 5 comments

A studio or one-bedroom in a desirable* part of Brooklyn for less than $1200/month. Is this even slightly possible anymore? [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz at 8:37 AM PST - 21 comments

I want to host a "will party", which will feature yummy snacks, refreshing drinks... and access to all of the resources needed for end-of-life planning. Is this doable? HOW? Intestate-rrific details inside... [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew at 8:34 AM PST - 22 comments

I'm looking for a type font that was used for the numbering on early-to-mid twentieth century post office boxes. The font is brass or gold in color, with slight shadowing or some other contrivance that gives it some dimensionality or relief or shadowing. It's sort of the same font that you see from the 1950's on lawyer's office windows or doors in cities, although that's a fleeting impression I have. [more inside]
posted by eaglehound at 8:33 AM PST - 6 comments

I'm a UI/UX designer who is flat broke and unemployed. I'm independently interviewing for 2 positions at the moment and have 3-4 other positions that I have or am about to interview for through a recruiter. Some are temporary, some are temp-to-perm, and some are permanent. Some are also more interesting to me than others, including one that I'm most interested in which I've been waiting to hear back from for the past week or so. However, the temporary positions (2-4 weeks) have more immediate needs and are more likely to lay something on the table in the next few days if they end up giving me an offer. My question is: If I get a call that says "We'd like to offer you the position", how do I respond without an immediate yes and still be in consideration? [more inside]
posted by gregoryg at 8:28 AM PST - 6 comments

Can you recommend a good book on papal history that is solid on facts and theology, honest about blemishes, but doesn't revel in scandal? Oh, and I hope I can find it in a Kindle version. [more inside]
posted by OrangeDisk at 8:26 AM PST - 6 comments

I was diagnosed with P.T.S.D by V.A. doctors 19 years after I was discharged from the Navy in WWII. My discharge reads that I am entitled to wear The Asiatic theater ribbon with 1 star, The American theater ribbon, The Victory ribbon, The China liberation ribbon and The Japan Occupation ribbon. Since P.T.S.D. had been included in "wounds received as a result of combat," many years later, Am I entitled to wear the Purple heart. The sweeping of mines was considered, "combat with the enemy."
posted by bo mar 914 at 8:21 AM PST - 4 comments

My Mom drank a can of coke. She discovered after drinking there was a mass of live worms in the can. She probably ingested some of these alive. I AM VERY CONCERNED. Photo below. [more inside]
posted by instead of three wishes at 8:20 AM PST - 33 comments

We started off with Munchkin, then picked up Munchkin Zombies. Which Munchkin expansion should we try next?
posted by dragonplayer at 8:17 AM PST - 9 comments

I am a Rhode Island resident. I'm in San Francisco, CA for several months, working. I've decided to buy a car from a friend here, and today I'm going over to give him the money (I've been driving it for a week or two, since he already bought a new car and we trust each other). [more inside]
posted by betsbillabong at 8:03 AM PST - 7 comments

I am of the firm belief that the copyright system in the US is broken, and in need of great reform. But I'm wondering if anyone has examples of copyright actually helping a small artist retain control of their work and/or get compensation from their work. [more inside]
posted by to sir with millipedes at 7:55 AM PST - 15 comments

How do I stop a christian page in my facebook timeline? [more inside]
posted by dash_slot- at 7:41 AM PST - 8 comments

Before I start, I'd like to point out that I'm not spoiled or lazy. I've been dealing with the very real problems of depression and anxiety for most of my life, and for the past five years I've been working from home. [more inside]
posted by Cybria at 7:30 AM PST - 9 comments

Open source software is considered trustworthy because anyone can validate the source code and hold the developer accountable. Usually developers will also make compiled binaries available for convenience. How can we know that these binaries are compiled from the same source code the developer published, and not a malicious variant of it? [more inside]
posted by The Winsome Parker Lewis at 7:18 AM PST - 17 comments

On the heels of my request for lectures, are there any services out there that would let me queue up videos and then download them to my phone, Instapaper style, for watching on the train?
posted by aeighty at 7:04 AM PST - 8 comments

I have a job interview this afternoon and I'm more nervous than is healthy. Is taking a Klonopin a good idea? [more inside]
posted by silly me at 6:43 AM PST - 10 comments

Is it possible to buy affordable temporary tattoos online? [more inside]
posted by dbirchum at 6:41 AM PST - 10 comments

Looking for resources for supporting a partner (and my own mental health) in an ongoing, possibly abusive relationship with a family member. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:36 AM PST - 8 comments

I used to weigh 150 lbs more than I do now. My body looks like I used to weigh 150 lbs more than I do right now; when is the appropriate time to discuss this with someone I just started dating? Is it necessary to discuss? How do I bring it up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:35 AM PST - 27 comments

After having to show some production employees where the SHIFT key is and why you would use it, I'm starting to wonder if there's a test out there, preferably web-based and cheap or free, that would put a potential hire through some paces and test for speed and accuracy on doing basic tasks. [more inside]
posted by randomkeystrike at 6:13 AM PST - 9 comments

My family is going on vacation to New York in june for 9 days. We want to find a nice apartment in airbnb, but we have no clue on what would be an appropiate neighbourhood. My parents are over 60, don't speak the language, and want to do all the tourist-y things, so location is very important. My brothers and I are laid back and want to enjoy city life so we are looking for a neighbourhood with interesting things to do. [more inside]
posted by valdesm at 4:26 AM PST - 25 comments

If I buy solar panels for my home, what are things that I need to consider in the supplier and product? [more inside]
posted by gttommy at 4:19 AM PST - 10 comments

I go dancing at event weekends where there is fun stuff happening 20 hrs/day. I want to do all the things, but if I try, I wind up exhausted by day 3. How do I keep myself on track for basic functions like eating and sleeping while doing as many fun things as possible? [more inside]
posted by tangaroo at 4:07 AM PST - 11 comments

February 25
Are there any documentaries about George Nakashima available to view online? I would like to know more about his life and his work. I am particularly interested in the architecture of his studio.
posted by Infernarl at 10:32 PM PST - 1 comments

What is the best white noise app or machine for a workplace that requires a more sound proof solution to normal ambient noise in an office. [more inside]
posted by MT at 9:04 PM PST - 14 comments

Are there non-prescription simpler, yet awesome cat food to try to alleviate his allergies? [more inside]
posted by rawralphadawg at 8:47 PM PST - 17 comments

Is it better to just break up with my SO, or tell them how anxious I am about moving in together? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:28 PM PST - 25 comments

For the past two weeks, I've had a big noticeable distracting "floater" right in the middle of my field of vision in my dominant eye. Since it first showed up, it hasn't moved, grown, shrunk or done anything else exciting. But it's driving me batshit — it's distracting as hell when I try to read, for instance — and I'm vaguely worried it might be a symptom of something nasty. What should I do? Is there anything I can do?
posted by Now there are two. There are two _______. at 8:01 PM PST - 30 comments

Starting in mid-April, I'll be taking a 9-12 month leave of absence from my job to travel the world. I spent a year back in 2002 travelling Europe and living in Ukraine/Russia, but I was 20 then, and did it on very little money. A lot's changed since then - technology, my age, my funds - but I'm ready for another run. Over the next month or two, I plan to ask a variety of questions, seeking tips on specific issues. But my first question is broad: what do I need to consider? What should I be thinking about now? What should I plan for? More details and my thoughts inside... [more inside]
posted by traveltheworld at 7:59 PM PST - 14 comments

I recall being directed to a site/blog which had short anecdotes, submitted by users, about bad experiences with gynos/doctors/nurses, often focussing on hospitals/childbirth etc. A similar interface to fmylife.com On a specific day of the week they showcased the opposite, good experiences and health professionals who went out of their way to provide care. Does anyone know which site this is? I think I may have even found it through AskMeFi, but a search turned up nothing. Thanks.
posted by Youremyworld at 7:39 PM PST - 4 comments

I have an extreme aversion to video chatting. I'm not looking to AskMeFi to fix that. I'm just looking for help in: 1. setting my iPhone 4 so I'm not invitable to FaceTime (it's too easy to accidentally hit the "accept/answer" button), optimally while maintaining the ability to invite others (in case of some sort of emergency need), and 2. figuring out how to make audio-only Skype calls (incoming and outgoing) using my iPhone's SKype or Skype-WI-FI app. [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 7:06 PM PST - 6 comments

Do nutritional supplements for dog cancer work? [more inside]
posted by ablazingsaddle at 6:46 PM PST - 16 comments

Looking to start a new job that looks otherwise awesome. But the employment contract has an arbitration clause in it and I'm hesitant. Ontario. [more inside]
posted by Imperfect at 6:14 PM PST - 13 comments

I want a new Internet provider. I have a new laptop. I am not froze to the idea of using this laptop if a new different laptop will serve me better. I want to run Ubuntu linux and I want decent speed and bandwidth caps. Currently I am accessing the Internet through a six year old IBM Thinkpad running Windows XP and I have an ISP account with Verizon. Please tell me your favorite low maintenence solutions. [more inside]
posted by bukvich at 5:51 PM PST - 4 comments

I'm working at an unpaid internship two days a week and I've been asked to commit to a one-time, extra stint of work, including actually traveling to another location and staying there (overnight, including the weekend) for a four day period. I think this is too much to ask of someone who is not being compensated, but I don't want to burn any bridges. How can I tactfully tell them I need to either get paid or pass on this commitment? [more inside]
posted by johnnybeggs at 5:37 PM PST - 26 comments

What was your experience coming off of anti-depressants? When you were on them, did you experience blunting of feelings and emotions and when you were tapering or went off cold turkey, did you feel a return to your former self/return of your personality? [more inside]
posted by BlueMartini7 at 5:26 PM PST - 14 comments

I'm looking for a sofa bed to put in a small bedroom. [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 5:17 PM PST - 16 comments

Lately I've been having this horrible anxiety/insomnia the night before important presentations or other work events. How can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:13 PM PST - 21 comments

We just got back from a lovely weekend in Vermont. I like reading about places I visit. Your favorite non-fiction books about Vermont, please!
posted by ocherdraco at 5:08 PM PST - 18 comments

[Book Filter] Does anyone have recommendations of books that are either about Laos, or starring characters that are Laotian? [more inside]
posted by ruhroh at 4:48 PM PST - 7 comments

In November, I will be flying to Paris, then going to Barcelona and taking a cruise from there to New Orleans with my husband and our 12 month old girl and possibly two other adults. What are your tips for a successful vacation with a young child? [more inside]
posted by Night_owl at 4:31 PM PST - 9 comments

I am starting a new corporate job in the city next week after working in a casual semi-rural office for the past 2 years, where I could make toast for breakfast whenever I felt like it. I can't eat within the first hour of waking up so am looking for some great breakfast smoothies/drinks I can make that I can drink on the train to work that will actually fill me up until lunch time. [more inside]
posted by sunshine arakhan at 4:24 PM PST - 13 comments

I have a perfect notebook, left over from college, and would love to find more just like it. But it has no branding -- I have no idea who manufactured the darn thing. My school doesn't seem to sell them anymore. It's 7" by 10", double-wire bound, cloth hardcover, with nice lined pages. Each page has a little recycling triangle symbol on it (indicating 100 percent recycled). Pics inside. Anyone know who could've made it, or where to find the same? Many thanks! [more inside]
posted by dgrobinson at 4:20 PM PST - 13 comments

My car (or car engine) shakes. [more inside]
posted by lewedswiver at 3:59 PM PST - 22 comments

I have to go down to Las Vegas for a tradeshow at the Wynn, but the first two days I have a LOT of downtime. There's not a lot I'm interested seeing in Las Vegas, but I do have a fair amount of work I need to get done. Is there a nice or interesting place to squat and get work done? The Las Vegas equivalent of a nice coffee shop for remote workers? [more inside]
posted by thomsplace at 3:57 PM PST - 3 comments

Windows 7 remote desktop won't reveal the name of the user logged in. [more inside]
posted by paper chromatographologist at 3:47 PM PST - 6 comments

What's a good place in Chicago to take 5-7 people in their early 20s for dinner/some sort of entertainment on Sunday? Note that not all are over 21. [more inside]
posted by matildatakesovertheworld at 3:38 PM PST - 12 comments

Looking for a headset to use with iPhone, but with specifics... [more inside]
posted by Vaike at 3:21 PM PST - 5 comments

Mom is a hoarder; house is making her sick. Adult children worried about her and grossed out. What can we do or say to her that might help? Snowflakes inside... Tl;dr: What, if anything, can be done or said to reign this situation in? [more inside]
posted by jrobin276 at 3:16 PM PST - 19 comments

I was wondering if there is any scientific basis to the idea that using moisturizer improves the texture of skin to the point that it prevents aging. My thoughts are that if moisturizer did what it claimed to do, no one would ever need an acid peel or botox. Does spreading emollient on your face actually really do anything apart from line the pockets of cosmetics companies?
posted by abbagoochie at 3:01 PM PST - 23 comments

I'm looking for more information on what it's like to work on NOAA Corps ships (as corps members proper, or as ancillary ship staff). Anything more than what's on their official pages would be very helpful (culture, day-to-day life, etc). I've seen this question, but it's 5 years old and didn't get any real answers.
posted by unknowncommand at 2:35 PM PST - 5 comments

I've been the all-around IT guy for a small office of 30 for a few years now. We've been primarily a Mac shop this whole time, but new business requirements mean that we'll probably be buying more windows machines going forward. I've been tasked with a pilot program to migrate 1/3 of our office over this year, with the assumption we'll bring everyone else over next year. Details inside: [more inside]
posted by Oktober at 1:59 PM PST - 9 comments

Asking for a shell-shocked friend who was threatened and attacked last week by her adult son. She barely managed to escape, by running into the street and stopping a passing car. She is convinced he would have strangled her if she'd not been able to get away, and she's the most level-headed person I know. He tore her clothes and bruised her, but she is OK physically (she did take photos of her bruises). He has a long history of opiod use, and has been on suboxone, which she had been paying for, since he is unemployed and uninsured. He's been using Xanax for a high, binging she thinks, and has had two seizures in the past 6 weeks when he ran out of Xanax. (Long story there, but peripheral to this question). [more inside]
posted by citygirl at 1:59 PM PST - 19 comments

I seem to get 'bored' with everything in my life - friends, relationship, job, country - every 1-2 years. I then make major life changes and it is starting to seriously affect me. Has anyone else experienced this situation? Does it get better? If not, do you have some good coping strategies? [more inside]
posted by Isn't in each artist (7) at 1:56 PM PST - 18 comments

I'm traveling to California for a week-long solo vacation. Suggestions on unique places to check out? [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 1:48 PM PST - 17 comments

I and several other tenants across three different Live/Work loft properties in San Francisco were recently informed that the new building owner discovered discrepancies in the zoning of our building, and that we are essentially being evicted. [more inside]
posted by wubbie at 1:37 PM PST - 14 comments

Well, our wild yeast sourdough starter was a raging sucess. We're keeping it in the downstairs fridge, feeding it once a week. But it does it need a special brotform bowl come baking time? [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 1:27 PM PST - 15 comments

I tried this on both WhatTheFont and Identifont, but I've only got the three letters to go on so I wasn't surprised when neither had an answer. But maybe the designers of MetaFilter can help! Please ID this font.
posted by bricoleur at 1:02 PM PST - 5 comments

I have 30,000 photos of Things and Stuff from the last seven years, and I'd like to turn them into movie. Specifically, a movie where each photo is a frame, so you'd be seeing like 10-20 photos per second. Ideally this would work by just pointing the software at a folder where the photos are stored and saying GO TO WORK (then clicking a button, I guess, voice control not required). What software should I use?
posted by Sebmojo at 12:40 PM PST - 15 comments

I a (mostly) West coaster, and will be on the Eastern seaboard next week for some travel. Here's what my plan is: (1) Thursday - Washington DC to West Point (by train and rental car) (2) Sunday - West Point to NYC (by rental car, need to drop someone in NY at an airport) (3) Sunday - Stay overnight in NYC are thereabouts in prep for (4). Nice to have would be within striking distance to do something in NYC that night, but this is optional (4) Monday - Fly out from LaGuardia in the afternoon [more inside]
posted by artlung at 12:38 PM PST - 17 comments

I was in what I think was a fender bender on Saturday, and have a question about the insurance process / responsibility. This was near Boston, MA if it matters. [more inside]
posted by darsh at 12:28 PM PST - 13 comments

Any ideas on how I could have one PC listen for a specially formatted packet/etc., and when it detects that packet/etc. shut down a program? [more inside]
posted by Bugbread at 12:10 PM PST - 11 comments

Need a website or book that has daily workout routines. What I'd like is one that has a time for cardio and then a daily focus on arms, legs, or core, etc. Sort of like you'd get from a trainer but something you can do at home. We have an elliptical, awesome weight bench, and other assorted exercise equipment. Suggestions? (Woman, btw). I'd love it if it somehow tied into the BodyMedia Fit or Spark People, but it doesn't have to.
posted by Raichle at 12:09 PM PST - 4 comments

My partner and I have saved a deposit of $50,000 to put down on a house. We're looking for a one bed flat around the Gastown area of Vancouver BC, which we may end up renting out while we move to the US for a couple of years for work, but I have no idea how to go about this. [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday at 12:08 PM PST - 9 comments

I live in London. I am going to Toronto on Sunday where, according to the weather forecast, there will be lows of -16C. I have literally never *been* in weather like that before, and do not own, or know where I should purchase, clothing which will deal with it. Special circumstance to note: I am a large person. I'm a woman, but men's XXXL does well by me . [more inside]
posted by acalthla at 11:43 AM PST - 37 comments

What I would like to know is for those of you actually in the field who work in UI/UX design what the day to day is actually like. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:39 AM PST - 9 comments

going without smartphone & computer post-work for 30 days, and am mostly wondering... so, what do my fellow solo-dwellers DO in the evenings, if not internet-related? have you done this before/how did you stick with it? [more inside]
posted by crawfo at 11:33 AM PST - 31 comments

I'm really interested in learning to code (Python in particular), but my forays into the local community have been frustrating. Is this a typical experience for a woman? What can I do differently? Having this coding experience is crucial to getting where I want to go in my career. [more inside]
posted by fantoche at 11:32 AM PST - 24 comments

So, physicists like Brian Greene, Lisa Randall, Kip Thorne, and others have written books aimed at an interested lay audience. What are similar books written by mathematicians? I'm aware of Godel, Escher & Bach. And that's about it.
posted by dfriedman at 11:30 AM PST - 23 comments

I need an easy, sturdy, quick release method for connecting two parallel pieces of aluminum tube for a bike trailer rebuilding project. I haven't been able to come up with the right design by myself and I'm hoping someone out there can help me. [more inside]
posted by cellura p at 11:29 AM PST - 8 comments

What are examples of college students holding a vote of no confidence for their college president? [more inside]
posted by andoatnp at 11:25 AM PST - 6 comments

Can you point to me some acoustic guitar players who play fingerstyle with their skin rather than their nails? [more inside]
posted by mockpuppet at 11:19 AM PST - 16 comments

Let's say you have a global disaster where the traditional web is no longer available (all ISPs are down, or a virus/cyber-attack incapacitates the web for entire regions of the world). What are the data communication alternatives in this sort of context? Is anyone still running a BBS? Does anyone even have a dialup modem anymore? Is there something better than this? [more inside]
posted by furtive at 10:48 AM PST - 12 comments

Even when they are guys who I think are amazing, when they show that they're really into me, I'm not attracted to them as much. I still do find them attractive, but just not as much as I would if they weren't. Why do you think this is? I can't figure out the reason myself. Is this some sort of unconscious self-esteem problem (he likes me and everyone who likes me are weird) or what? It sucks because sometimes he's such an amazing guy but just because he's showing an interest in me, points drop a little, and I wish it wouldn't but I don't have control over it (as no one has complete control over their feelings).
posted by sedulous at 10:44 AM PST - 26 comments

Is there anything to be done about (probably unintentionally) loud neighbors? [more inside]
posted by sucre at 10:35 AM PST - 10 comments

How likely are these particular conditions of our home to affect an appraisal? Additionally, is there a significant benefit to addressing these condition concerns prior to appraisal for the purposes of a refi? Very long winded details inside… [more inside]
posted by waterisfinite at 10:03 AM PST - 15 comments

We're about to embark on a vacation to Telluride with our 6-month-old son. While we're not harboring any delusions about bringing him skiing, we'd like to take him hiking, possibly snowshoeing. What's a good, structured carrier that can accommodate him comfortably? He's fairly small for his age, just now able to fit in his "6" clothes.
posted by mkultra at 9:50 AM PST - 19 comments

What are the best podcasts that focus on current and potential future trends in mobile (smartphones, tablets)?
posted by coffee and minarets at 9:38 AM PST - 3 comments

My uncle is dying - the doctor says days or weeks. I haven't said anything to him, or his wife, or his kids, since they got the cancer diagnosis a few months ago. Our families have had a historically fractured relationship, so it all feels very awkward to me. Please help me figure out what to appropriately say to them. [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 9:30 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me to wear the things I own without looking like a Wilson Phillips video! [more inside]
posted by like_a_friend at 9:24 AM PST - 16 comments

I'm hoping there's an easier way to do this than my current manual process: I want to highlight text cells in Excel 2010 that are a duplicate of ONLY the cell below. Specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by bibbit at 9:21 AM PST - 4 comments

...and it's affecting our learning environment. Basically it's not one big thing, rather an endless pattern of small things that make it fairly unpleasant to be a female student. Only calling on male classmates in rounds/lectures, only learning the names of male students and using inappropriate nicknames for female students, making comments about female bodies (that are irrelevant to the teaching or practice of medicine), etc. He is a highly respected physician and academic, and my assumption is that the school administration will not be particularly understanding or receptive to complaints (although we have not tried this route yet). We would rather not confront him directly about this situation. What to do? (More examples inside) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:14 AM PST - 38 comments

Can you recommend the awesomest outdoors/adventure movies that have blown your mind? [more inside]
posted by htid at 9:10 AM PST - 27 comments

I am looking for a non-traditional wedding dress but am not finding a ton that I love in my city. When I looked at Nordstrom, which was the best of the available brick-and-mortar options, I found this, which I loved and looks good on me, but the navy is way too dark a color. If I want to find something with a similar fit and/or look online, what "dress words" do I search for, and where should I be looking? [more inside]
posted by charmedimsure at 9:07 AM PST - 8 comments

I have a GoogleBooks library with 2650 books in it. This is good. For several months now, I have been unable to perform full-text searches on it. This is not. I've ascertained from other users that this is not a system-wide problem, so the bug is somewhere in the library. [more inside]
posted by thomas j wise at 9:02 AM PST - 2 comments

I leave for a two week stay in China (Beijing), on Friday. I would like to take a laptop with me. I have heard however, that there is a significant risk of becoming infected with malware or spyware. Is this true? I will not have the laptop on me at all times. [more inside]
posted by oddman at 8:58 AM PST - 4 comments

A recent scare has made me aware of breast cancer, but my boobs are hopelessly lumpy. Is it even worth doing self exams? [more inside]
posted by nerdfish at 8:52 AM PST - 15 comments

How many Sirius XM shows are prerecorded repeats? I'm a big fan of Sirius DJ Madison, for example, who has a show on First Wave weekdays 9 a.m.-3 p.m. but also is on Alt Nation 6 p.m.-midnight. While I heart Madison, I really hope she's not working 12-hour days. How much of that time is actually live radio?
posted by Shoggoth at 8:37 AM PST - 6 comments

I've been tasked with creating YouTube-quality videos using clips generated by the screen capture software applications (Camtasia and Snapz Pro X. I have to bring these clips into Adobe Premiere for editing and to add titles and audio. I can't get my head around the various resolutions at play here and how best to match them up, so rather than more rambling narrative let me ask a few direct questions; [more inside]
posted by Jamesonian at 8:31 AM PST - 4 comments

Looking for memoirs or histories (or fiction, if necessary) of Berlin from the period between the April/May 1945 collapse to the Potsdam conference told from the Russian perspective. Also interested in the first Americans to show up and how they were or were not accommodated. [more inside]
posted by BWA at 8:18 AM PST - 3 comments

Often I look at the clock when all the digits are the same, such as, 11:11 or 4:44. Is there a name for this? Do you have your own name for this?
posted by smoochbelly at 8:03 AM PST - 31 comments

21 year old college student with past relationship experience, but I can't get a date to save my life. I believe I know the problem(s) but I'm unsure how to get started in term of solving things. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:55 AM PST - 20 comments

I need to test several pieces of furniture and some toys for lead paint, and want to have a lab confirm the home tests I plan to run. I need recommendations for reliable (and hopefully affordable, too) options.
posted by ryanshepard at 7:31 AM PST - 2 comments

I need the perfect sandals. [more inside]
posted by k8t at 7:18 AM PST - 15 comments

How long must you wait before making a counteroffer during salary negotiations? [more inside]
posted by Big Chief Little Pants at 6:22 AM PST - 7 comments

I would like to have more nightmares. Sure, they are disturbing, but only for the first 30 minutes or so after waking. After that, I find I can use their irrational flavor and sense of dread in my creative work. Hence I am looking to have more. Does anybody know what I can do to increase their frequency (short of committing or suffering atrocities)? [more inside]
posted by gnossie at 5:35 AM PST - 83 comments

Alright all your grammar masters. My wife is foreign and she announced "It work." when I rubbed her shoulder and fixed her pain. I corrected her by saying "It works." to teach her well. She then proceeded to explain to me the English of "plural" with adding an "s" to the verb. Is this correct?
posted by usermac at 4:40 AM PST - 18 comments

I'm becoming enamored with the idea of moving to a ski town for a while. I'd like to know more about what it's really like. [more inside]
posted by carolinaherrera at 3:27 AM PST - 10 comments

I have a close friend who works as a php programmer who is interested in mentoring me. I have good reason to think that web development is the sort of work that I'd be good at. But is it really a smart move to devote time to learning these skills at this time? Is the market for web developers expected to be strong in the near future, or is it starting to wane? [more inside]
posted by MrOlenCanter at 12:41 AM PST - 21 comments

Interview in a city I don't live in-- what to do? (College graduate edition.) [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 12:04 AM PST - 14 comments

February 24
I've been watching some great Cold War movies like Thirteen Days. The aesthetics are terrific and the tension spectacular. I'm wondering, though, whether there are any films that show the conflict from the Russian perspective? I would especially like to watch (or perhaps read?) accounts by true believers who felt they were defending the people from capitalist imperialism.
posted by jefficator at 8:39 PM PST - 14 comments

What happens when you call a radio show like NPR's "Talk of the Nation?" What does the screener ask you? Do you give a summary of your statement? What if they don't like it - do they reject you? What do they say? Do you have to wait a long time? Is it hard to get through? How do they pick who gets on the show?
posted by roaring beast at 8:35 PM PST - 10 comments

My Verizon DSL is peaking at about 1 mbit/s. Our plan should be providing 1.1-15. Why is my internet so much slower than expected? [more inside]
posted by mnemonic at 7:46 PM PST - 7 comments

Lawyer getting great experience in a shrinking subspecialty. Work environment has flaws. Have the opportunity to move. Worried about grass being greener, frying pan/fire, etc. Special details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:14 PM PST - 4 comments

just moved into a new apartment, yay! but the windows are bare, and i would like them to be covered. no where i've been looking carries the sizes of my windows, so i think i have to order custom blinds/shades/whatever? [more inside]
posted by sabh at 7:09 PM PST - 14 comments

I'm looking for a three wheel bike for various reasons, but I'm getting conflicting advice, so I'd like even more advice. [more inside]
posted by patheral at 7:05 PM PST - 13 comments

How do you respond to people who want to hire you or people who are looking for someone with your skills and qualifications while you're on duty for your current employer? [more inside]
posted by drea at 6:59 PM PST - 6 comments

How many times has James Bond used a woman's body to prevent himself from getting killed (blocked a bullet from hitting him with a woman, etc)?
posted by aaanastasia at 6:31 PM PST - 15 comments

Just watched the awesome indie sci-fi/thriller "Sound of My Voice," and have questions about the ending, and the film itself. Massive spoilers inside. [more inside]
posted by jbickers at 6:16 PM PST - 6 comments

What to do for a one year anniversary with my SO that is also a San Franniversary? Bonus points for photographer expertise and relaxing suggestions. [more inside]
posted by mokudekiru at 6:15 PM PST - 8 comments

What are the arguments for and against method of transportation as a protected class? [more inside]
posted by aniola at 5:58 PM PST - 24 comments

Is there any way to free stream the Oscars tonight on Firefox OSX?
posted by partner at 5:16 PM PST - 1 comments

I've been having a lot of migraines lately, and in the grand scheme of things, I'm dealing. However, the photophobia is driving me crazy, mostly because sitting around in the dark is boring. How do you spend your time when you can't use lights? [more inside]
posted by gilsonal at 4:52 PM PST - 28 comments

My [possibly workaholic] wife works seven days a week as a ski instructor. I live and work two hours away during the week, and then I drive up to see her on the weekends. When I'm there on the weekends, I spend an average of four hours a week with her. Usually she is physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted from working so much. Needless to say, it does not feel like she is there for me. When I tell her I would like to spend more time with her, she tells me I'm too needy and dependent on her. I would like her to take off a Saturday or Sunday every week so we can spend time together. Is that asking for too much? What other requests/things can I do to make life more manageable? Thanks for your help. P.S. You get bonus points if you have worked in the ski industry and can explain how difficult it is to ask for weekends off! :-)
posted by speedoavenger at 4:48 PM PST - 53 comments

My friend, who is a serious runner and has been having intense and un-fixable leg pain connected with running for the last few months, needs recommendations for high caliber sports medicine physicians in the Twin Cities metro area. She will likely be paying for appointments out of pocket (high deductible on her health insurance plan), so bonus points for more affordable or financially accommodating providers/practices. She is NOT looking for recommendations for a physical therapist, chiropractor, acupuncturist, or anything else similar to that, strictly sports medicine folks. Who should she see?
posted by Betty's Table at 4:12 PM PST - 1 comments

I have an old kitchen with old appliances. The oven has suddenly died, and I realized I have no idea what to do about it. [more inside]
posted by JanetLand at 3:45 PM PST - 16 comments

Trying to remember a jazz musician. He went commercial way back in 60's I think. He played trumpet I think. One tune I recall was "Elephant Walk" He was a very big man. He was on TV for quite a while. Can anyone remember this?
posted by JayRwv at 3:45 PM PST - 2 comments

Youtube has turned into a repository of full-length movies of late. How can I improve my google-fu for finding both obscure and well-known titles? [more inside]
posted by Gordion Knott at 3:42 PM PST - 6 comments

I'm interested in the citizenship of Vatican City -- does it include any women? if yes, how many, and what are their roles? and what is the age range of citizens? Since citizenship is granted according to official status, I assume there are no children? How about residents, as opposed to citizens? Are there any spouses or children of citizens living there? [more inside]
posted by Corvid at 1:47 PM PST - 11 comments

I bought a turntable and the sound is a disaster. I think I should just buy a new stylus but is there anything else obvious I might try first? [more inside]
posted by cincinnatus c at 1:44 PM PST - 18 comments

I decided to end my "relationship" with someone I saw for nine months. We both have the same hobby, and seeing him there has been stirring both negative and positive emotions. I don't want to give up the hobby. I could handle the negative emotions - because that's what you're supposed to feel - it's the positive ones that are doing me in. How can I get past them? [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo at 1:31 PM PST - 20 comments

I've been recovering from a brain injury and find reading very hard, so I've really enjoyed listening to audiobooks. But not books just read out loud: dramatized adaptations of them, with a varied voice cast, background music and sound effects -- the lot. I've listened to the BBC dramatization of the Hitchhiker's Guide and a wonderful version of the Foundation Trilogy. What other fantastic dramatized audiobooks can I feed my temporarily defective brain with? Happy to consider both free and paid suggestions. Thanks in advance!
posted by idlethink at 1:17 PM PST - 19 comments

I've been very stressed for a few months. I've tried managing it, however on Thursday I almost snapped and became quite teary to the point a co-worker mentioned it to my team leader. My team leader was great and told me not to worry. Unfortunately after a stressful weekend I still feel very weepy and have a very tight chest. I think I may need to take a few days off work in order to recover. I haven't got any holiday left so would need to take it as sick. How should I go about getting some time off to recover and get myself straight again? [more inside]
posted by Ranting Prophet of DOOM! at 1:16 PM PST - 10 comments

We are thinking of adding another cat to our household, and need help choosing the right one - shy or outgoing? [more inside]
posted by tr0ubley at 12:41 PM PST - 14 comments

We're considering a family vacation at one of those mondo multi family homes at the shore in North Carolina, but would prefer a lifeguarded beach. Any suggestions? Thanks.
posted by hick57 at 12:36 PM PST - 6 comments

I used to buy these large Noto Journals from Paperchase at Borders when they went on sale. But now Borders has gone! What are my options for large (6" x 8" or so), softcover, ruled journals? I know I can still get Paperchase online but the shipping (to US) would kill me, and I've never really liked Moleskines.
posted by curious nu at 12:26 PM PST - 2 comments

I recently subleased a place in NYC for three months. I put down a $2000 deposit and paid $3200 for the first month. I’ve been there for two weeks. The lease specified that I’d pay for each remaining month on the first of the month. I've been told "you’ve lost your fucking money, get out". What next? [more inside]
posted by suncoursing at 12:16 PM PST - 28 comments

I have two things that needs to be fixed, although it's not super urgent. first, the usb jack on my external hard drive came loose, and I can't access data inside. I'm fairly sure all I need is a re-soldering job. I also want to get rid of my old laptop. It's an HP pavillion dv4, and it works mostly fine but occasionally blue screens. I was going to sell on craigslist, but I don't want all of my data in there when I sell. But every time I try to clear out everything, the computer blue screens on me. Where in Toronto (downtown or Annex) can I get these two things done as cheaply as possible?
posted by atetrachordofthree at 12:04 PM PST - 4 comments

This has some echoes of my question from about a year ago, but I'm looking for some more help. I've found that the "long sleeve shirt untucked" look works well for me on weekends, but I am having a heck of a time finding appropriate shirts. [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 11:37 AM PST - 14 comments

MPB late 2011, Thunderbolt native running 10.8.2 will not light up Thunderbolt display I bought today at the Apple Store. [more inside]
posted by digitalprimate at 11:26 AM PST - 7 comments

Erin Morgenstern's The Night Circus and Robin Sloan's Mr Penumbra's 24-Hour Bookstore describe immersive artistic experiences that echo Alternate Reality Games or events like the All Worlds Fair. What other books describe events and experiences like these? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 11:24 AM PST - 8 comments

How does it work when people check into a hotel under a pseudonym? [more inside]
posted by Chorus at 11:21 AM PST - 15 comments

I'm giving an hour-long lecture tomorrow before a class of 50 college students. This is something I've never done before (although I've given shorter presentations to smaller audiences). How can I minimize nervousness/stage fright? [more inside]
posted by zeri at 11:15 AM PST - 14 comments

I have a list of neighborhoods I'd consider living, a list of amenities that I consider necessary and/or negotiable, and a $ amount in mind per month. How can I make the selection process move along more quickly than the Craigslist Method? [more inside]
posted by DuckGirl at 10:57 AM PST - 6 comments

I am interested in hearing personal experiences with deciding to end a project. How did other people react to the news? How did that make you feel? What did you do? What do you think you should have done differently? [more inside]
posted by Michele in California at 10:35 AM PST - 14 comments

I am a white gay dude. My goal is to bring myself up to speed on feminism (and important streams in gender and whatnot). What books should I read? What blogs should I be reading? I want to be able to speak more coherently to these issues with an understanding of the history, and of the current theory.
posted by wooh at 10:21 AM PST - 15 comments

I serve tables at a restaurant (California), and management (large corporate chain) insists we declare 18% tips on sales (whatever the outcome of the night) or face reprimand... [more inside]
posted by Mach3avelli at 10:20 AM PST - 10 comments

Lets say I found an amazing macro photograph of a flower or of an old building and I wanted to do a very detailed graphite drawing of the photo. Am I able to claim this drawing as 'my' artwork? Can I use it in a painting to sell? Does the photographer need to be credited? Do I need permission in the first place to use the photo as reference or should I just avoid all the potential hassle and take my own darned photographs for reference from which to draw?
posted by tenaciousmoon at 10:13 AM PST - 9 comments

Earlier this week, Mrs. Zooropa gave birth to our son, Elias (we call him Eli). He is our first, so of course, we are taking all sorts of photos and video on our phones, and have received a ton of requests from grandparents, aunts, uncles, etc. Here's my question: what's the best and easiest way to share photos and videos with all these folks? [more inside]
posted by zooropa at 10:05 AM PST - 30 comments

Please help me route my Ableton tracks. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 9:47 AM PST - 7 comments

I have been obsessed with this building in Alexandria, Virginia for years. I want to know more about it - who designed it, when it was built, past tenants, and so forth. Should there be public records available somewhere and if so, where can I find them? [more inside]
posted by capricorn at 9:19 AM PST - 11 comments

I am looking for recommendations for a *good* naturopath and/or acupuncturist in Toronto. Want to potentially get a full workup for lifestyle changes I can make to be healthier, and go away with an action plan I can follow... [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 9:17 AM PST - 4 comments

So, I've made the fatal mistake of performing several upgrades at once, and I could do with some advice on where to go now... is my problem with charging time and battery life my new SSDs, my new OS, or something else entirely? Generic snowflake details to follow: [more inside]
posted by running order squabble fest at 8:53 AM PST - 7 comments

I have a huge portion of leftover chateaubriand from a top-notch steakhouse I went to last night and I'm trying to decide how to morph it into dinner tonight. I saw this thread but nothing really stood out at me so I'm looking for other ideas. I don't really want to turn it into sandwiches but I will if the collective wisdom tells me that's the best way to go. Also, the meat is a little more rare than I'd prefer so is there a way I can cook it a bit more without ruining it?
posted by _Mona_ at 7:37 AM PST - 9 comments

About 6 months ago my partner told me he had stopped taking his Prozac. He was on a low 'maintenance dose' and had been feeling better. Now things have gone belly up and going back on the meds hasn't helped. He's drinking heavily and can barely function. How can I find him the help he needs and also help him myself with little money and no support network whilst looking after our young daughter? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:28 AM PST - 7 comments

Does anyone have any experience with a mental health program called WRAP, Wellness Recovery Action Plan. It was developed by Mary Ellen Copeland and it looks like groups exist all over the English-speaking world. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:22 AM PST - 1 comments

My parents would like to get a Roku box so they can cancel their insanely expensive DishTV subscription. How do I do this? Can I get them these specific channels? [more inside]
posted by youandiandaflame at 7:04 AM PST - 17 comments

Hi there, My mom needs a new furnace & hot water heater. Both are super old and and need to be replaced. Both will be electric, she lives in a condo and doesn't have gas or propane. Can anyone recommend an electrician or HVAC company in the area? I'm checking our Sears and have a recommendation for Aire Serve from an acquaintance. Thanks!
posted by reddot at 6:56 AM PST - 4 comments

My rooted verizon galaxy nexus won't boot and I need help recovering it (more inside) [more inside]
posted by mattholomew at 6:14 AM PST - 3 comments

Following the numerous recommendations here for Starting Strength, I've been at it for a month or so, and have joined a proper weight lifting club as well. But is there a similarly simple program for grip strength? [more inside]
posted by monocultured at 6:07 AM PST - 12 comments

Just wondering if anyone knew of some depictions of women (either TV or film) in uniformed roles that pass the Bechdel test. Bechdel test being where two named women have a conversation about something other than a man. I'm racking my brain but can't think of any.
posted by Saebrial at 5:49 AM PST - 47 comments

Hi, How to record audio as it passes through a sound card? [more inside]
posted by Musashi Daryl at 4:48 AM PST - 5 comments

In Sherlock, and in Midsomer Murders, there's a night-time sound which I presume is either a recording of, or meant to be some kind of night bird. What is it? [more inside]
posted by nonspecialist at 4:45 AM PST - 7 comments

I recently started in a new job and got a used laptop for my desk. I have utilized this with my Chrome/ Google account. Then, after a few weeks, I got a warning in gmail, telling me that a foreign state might be trying to hack my account or computer. My question is, should I start to worry about being tageted by hackers? Or is the alert from google and the phishing attempts a coincidence? [more inside]
posted by Nightly at 3:25 AM PST - 4 comments

I've recently acquired a Denon CEOL N-8 compact stereo. The main reason for my choice is its integrated WLAN and networking capabilities. There's one tiny spot of trouble, though: the WLAN turns out to be utter crap. [more inside]
posted by Skeptic at 3:01 AM PST - 2 comments

I have this Phaidon Nan Goldin monograph written by Guido Costsa, and there isn't any info or even title/date of the (NSFW) cover photo. It is the same photo as you see here: link. I would like any info available about this photo. Does anybody know who the model is, what her relationship was to Nan, when the picture was taken? Any other interesting info? Thank you.
posted by mermaidcafe at 2:00 AM PST - 2 comments

How does Busted magazine get to be featured at the front counter of stores? [more inside]
posted by Rich Smorgasbord at 1:01 AM PST - 15 comments

February 23
Recently started wearing eye glasses, and whenever I kiss my partner, his nose smudges my glasses. How can I avoid this? [more inside]
posted by horizonseeker at 11:39 PM PST - 19 comments

My step-brother died unexpectedly Friday evening. He was in his early 40's. Hoping someone can walk me through what to do with Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn. [more inside]
posted by mlis at 11:33 PM PST - 9 comments

How much jet fuel does it take to get from Vancouver to Beijing? [more inside]
posted by miles1972 at 11:18 PM PST - 4 comments

I'm looking for a beard trimmer / hair clipper that vibrates less than my 20+ year old Oster. [more inside]
posted by Bruce H. at 10:14 PM PST - 4 comments

I would like to cover an entire bedroom wall in color photocopies. I have put this off for years, for fear of destroying my rental suite bedroom wall with whatever adhesive I used, but recently learned that some people have had success affixing images cut out from color copies (though not necessarily entire 11x17 sheets) to their walls using aerosol starch, and later being able to remove them without leaving any traces; others have failed to get the images to stick at all using this method. Have you experienced success or failure in attempts to do something similar? What are my other options here? [more inside]
posted by tenderly at 10:07 PM PST - 14 comments

Quadcopters are cool and everything, but I find exploring the ocean a way more interesting proposition. I want to start making autonomous underwater vehicles. Are there forums for people who are doing this? I've googlebinged for sites and people that are into this, but no dice. It seems like everyone involved is a closed academic research project, or a government body. Basically looking for a forum of people to discuss ideas with.
posted by hanoixan at 10:06 PM PST - 8 comments

I am looking for a list of blogs that concentrate on a subject matter similar to the "87 cool things" presentation from google creative labs (slideshare link here). I keep seeing things like the Tupac hologram or arduino-controlled light or even stuff like the nike chalkbot and wonder what blogs to look out for technical possibilities over a wide area. I am aware of gizmodo, laughing squid and boingboing, all of which do these things every now and then but not all the time. Thanks for your input!
posted by krautland at 9:57 PM PST - 2 comments

Please recommend to me your favourite app/website for tracking all the travel places you have already been to and the places you plan to go to on a map. Would also help if it already has lists like World Heritage sites so that I can just tick the relevant places.
posted by manny_calavera at 9:40 PM PST - 3 comments

Travel veterans of MetaFilter, please help a foreign travel noob figure out how foreign travel works. [more inside]
posted by jraenar at 9:34 PM PST - 31 comments

I was having trouble with my iMac computer lagging and one of the things I did was restart in Safe mode (holding down shift). It now seems to be ok. I also have mediocre vision so have resolution at 1280 x 800 as my usual preference. The Issue: since the safe boot, Chrome pages go to a white screen after a few seconds on most sites such as Facebook and Amazon among others. I see old posts on Google but no real fixes. I looked at many google help links like this among others. Has anybody else had this problem? (Chrome does this when I change the view back to a more usual setting like 1344 x 840, for example. Any thoughts?
posted by chicaboom at 9:12 PM PST - 3 comments

How do I fall off the face of the planet for a few days? [more inside]
posted by Chaussette Fantoche at 9:11 PM PST - 12 comments

I'm trying to understand the meaning of the phrase "te aprochega." I have seen it used as part of a parade celebrating southern Gaucho pride in Porto Alegre, near Uruguay. I understand that the "te" is kind of like our "y'all" because it's this southern vernacular that's not used so much up north, but what does the "approaching" part mean? I've only been able to find references on the Web to "te aprochega living," in the sense that someone might say "Gangnam Style."
posted by steinsaltz at 8:38 PM PST - 4 comments

I am also looking for the easiest way to hear (or generate) these sounds online. [more inside]
posted by tangyraspberry at 8:18 PM PST - 19 comments

My friend and I are at 48th and 5th Ave in NYC, at 11pm. Where can we grab a cozy hot chocolate, sit on an oversized couch and continue to chat?
posted by Karmacane at 8:08 PM PST - 4 comments

Recommendations for (love) songs that mention one of the months in its lyrics? [more inside]
posted by demesne at 8:00 PM PST - 50 comments

My manager always teach a specific individual within my department. I find this unfair and annoying at random times. Am I too sensitive/jealous about this situation? What advice do you have for me? Anyone experience the same situation? Anyone here know what my manager is planning to do? Is it time for me to look for a new job? [more inside]
posted by Mountain28 at 7:46 PM PST - 2 comments

I love the work of Wilhelm Busch and I want to use a couple of images from "Hans Huckebein" for commercial purposes. I live in the United States, and I don't anticipate any international business transactions. So what I want to know is, can I assume Busch's work is in the public domain (he died in 1908), like, for example, John Tenniel's illustrations for the original "Alice's Adventures in Wonderland"? Or might Busch's work still be under copyright in Germany, and, if so, how do I find out? I'm pretty sure that if it's under copyright in Germany, I can't just use it in the USA. I am not interested in cheating anyone out of licensing fees! But naturally I would rather not pay them if I don't have to.
posted by Rula Lenska at 6:26 PM PST - 7 comments

[novel filter] I'm searching the recesses of my mind to locate a half-remembered passage from a fictional novel which provides a beautiful meditation on the fact that all humans are essentially the same; and not getting very far. What I can remember is that one of the characters is projecting themselves into the shoes of others (or one particular 'bad' person? I can't recall) - murderers, rapists, etc - and noting that there is little that separates him or her personally, or good people in general, from those we deem the evil. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by mrme at 6:05 PM PST - 7 comments

So I know it's suggested that when you're beginning to date someone, you wait awhile afterwards before you text them. Does that wait also apply when you're trying to make new friends? [more inside]
posted by dean_deen at 6:01 PM PST - 10 comments

I am looking for a quote along the lines of, "you leave home to search for what you are looking for, only to come home and realize it was there all along". I remember reading a specific quote around this idea, but I can't remember the wording well enough to look it up. I would also be interested in any quote along these lines and expressing a similar idea. thanks.
posted by bearette at 5:39 PM PST - 15 comments

Please recommend me an electric razor, available on Amazon, for buzzing my head. [more inside]
posted by threeants at 4:39 PM PST - 13 comments

I'm creating a workout training program in excel, and I want to show a range of data based on certain conditions. Using Excel 2010 More after the jump. [more inside]
posted by FireStyle at 3:06 PM PST - 9 comments

I'm curious how strong the empirical evidence in support of cold compression therapy for acute injuries truly is. [more inside]
posted by prunes at 2:59 PM PST - 3 comments

I have a broken iPhone4 on AT&T (the home button does not work). I just ordered a Nexus 4 to replace it, so I'd like to sell the broken iPhone to offset the cost of the new phone. Googling for places to sell a dead iPhone brings up a lot of options, not all of which look legit. Does anyone have a recommended place to sell a dead iPhone to?
posted by pombe at 2:53 PM PST - 11 comments

I want to mail a few hundred postcards to a neighborhood to inform them about a particular issue. How should I do this? [more inside]
posted by a womble is an active kind of sloth at 2:53 PM PST - 11 comments

We're Americans in Mexico and want to get to Cuba but don't have tickets. How does this work? [more inside]
posted by JasonSch at 2:05 PM PST - 5 comments

My flower bed gets full sun in Summer, full shade in Winter, and plenty of dog pee. What can I plant? [more inside]
posted by reverend cuttle at 1:45 PM PST - 8 comments

I am at home visiting family this weekend, I’ll be back at the rented house I share with my boyfriend of 6 years in less than 24 hours. In a phonecall today I heard pretty much the last thing/piece of evidence I need to make me realise that I need him to properly address his problems with alcohol. Or maybe I need him to address my problems with his alcohol behaviour. Please read the extended story inside and tell me how to frame this in my mind and how to talk to him. [more inside]
posted by moreteaplease at 12:57 PM PST - 42 comments

I want to mail-order a fig tree to Florida. Can you recommend a nursery that will do this? [more inside]
posted by fifilaru at 12:55 PM PST - 5 comments

I'm helping a small local deli with a website redesign using Joomla, and they're really interested in online ordering. I'm familiar with setting up standard shopping carts, but this is a bit different. Does anyone have advice on what cart to use (one that's fairly customizable) and how to best receive and process orders? [more inside]
posted by klinefelter at 12:37 PM PST - 6 comments

Hello, people of Portland! Is $50,000 a year enough to live on comfortably in your city? [more inside]
posted by Young Kullervo at 12:31 PM PST - 16 comments

I sometimes read about shoes that look fabulous, are reasonably comfortable, and that (with proper care) can last for many years. Although they may be expensive, their durability make up for it. I want shoes like this. [more inside]
posted by yonglin at 12:17 PM PST - 12 comments

Chemistry-buffs, please help! I'm trying to figure out how to create as destructive a chemical reaction as possible (something along the lines of an acid eating through a base) using only limited materials. For story purposes, this reaction has to be created by using some combination of the following materials only: [more inside]
posted by np312 at 12:13 PM PST - 7 comments

Is there a way to search for Android apps that have "appropriate" permission requests? [more inside]
posted by unlaced at 12:12 PM PST - 3 comments

I backed up the contents of my ASUS UL50VT laptop in 2011 to my Seagate external hard drive using their Memeo software. In 2012, I connected the Seagate again and ran a second backup, and it created a separate folder where it stored all the new files I'd gained since the previous time. So far, so good. Now when I try to back it up again, it has started from scratch--duplicating the entire contents of my 450 GB laptop to a third folder. I'm gonna use up all my hard drive space this way, stat. Any way to make it back up only the new files again, like it did before?
posted by manzanita at 12:08 PM PST - 2 comments

I tend to end up with little bits of rolled up toilet paper stuck to my labia after I wipe. I have to try to pick them all off by hand after nearly every time I pee, and I'm always afraid I may have missed some. What brand(s) of toilet paper can I buy that're sturdy enough to avoid this problem?
posted by anonymous at 11:23 AM PST - 25 comments

I followed your overwhelming advice and gave this guy my number. It worked! He immediately texted me back and we have a date tonight. Trouble is I'm a bundle of nerves because he intimidates me. I need advice on how to keep my cool tonight. :) [more inside]
posted by timsneezed at 11:18 AM PST - 47 comments

I am worried about my parents, both of whom make a decent living, but are overwhelmed by debt. I cannot help them financially (and neither can my siblings, really), but I am looking for suggestions as to what direction to point them to be able to help themselves. [more inside]
posted by aka_anon at 11:15 AM PST - 17 comments

I enjoy memoir-style books written by people who have lived in interesting places/cultures and provide a political and historical perspective of the events in their lives. I have a gift certificate for Barnes and Noble that's burning a hole in my pocket. I'd like some recommendations. [more inside]
posted by phoenix_rising at 11:07 AM PST - 22 comments

Can anyone provide a recommendation(s) for a primary care doctor(s) in NYC or the Jersey City/Hoboken area who is knowledgeable about using Metformin to help with weight gain associated with antipsychotics use? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:58 AM PST - 0 comments

We're thinking of travelling to Tula for our honeymoon. How hard is it to travel in Russia these days, if you're not going to a usual travel destination? [more inside]
posted by small_ruminant at 10:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Since learning to sign paint is one of my biggest dreams, what's the best way to get some on-the-ground instruction here in the Pacific Northwest? I have a great library of resource books for traditional sign design and showcard layout, but I really want to take a basic hands-on class/tutorial that will teach me the nitty gritty of equipment and process. [more inside]
posted by redsparkler at 10:24 AM PST - 5 comments

I'm asking this for a senior citizen friend. Does he have a right to ask for a reduction in rent for a situation wherein he warned management of criminal activity......but was ignored? [more inside]
posted by naplesyellow at 10:23 AM PST - 16 comments

My young daughter (kindergarten) will be starting piano lessons soon, and the teacher wants us to buy an 88 key digital piano with weighted keys - that seems to be about $500 minimum. However we're not sure the lessons will stick, and as a bonus we are space-challenged in our small house. For about $160 we could get something that is still big but not 88 key big, touch-sensitive keys instead of weighted keys (i.e. Yamaha NP11, open to other recommendations). We are piano ignorant, so don't know how to judge the trade-off. Should we suck it up and buy the big boy, or will it not matter at this stage of learning?
posted by _sirmissalot_ at 10:15 AM PST - 16 comments

Looking for offroad biking clothes that don't make me look like shrink-wrapped tripe or some kind of junior-high skater dude. What does the middle-aged country gentleman wear on a bicycle hack through the shrubbery? [more inside]
posted by scruss at 10:03 AM PST - 9 comments

My wedding is this week. I'm terrible with names. I am looking for some way to have a guestbook that allows pictures of guests (or even audio and/or video) along with their names and addresses (and any other message). [more inside]
posted by jef at 10:00 AM PST - 2 comments

Are there any online retailers of snack foods (cookies, candy, pretzels) that will deliver to Norway? I don't understand customs regulations very well, but I think these may have to be stores actually in Norway. I would be paying with a US credit card and am willing to muddle about the site with Google translate and squinting at the pictures.
posted by segfault at 9:56 AM PST - 3 comments

Looking for some help making my narrow hallway a little prettier and more interesting. Bonus bookcase wood finishing/painting question inside! [more inside]
posted by amanda at 9:53 AM PST - 10 comments

Having classic "panic attack" symptoms; don't know if it's a panic attack, or due to a reaction from medication I'm taking? [more inside]
posted by raintree at 9:34 AM PST - 11 comments

How do I order a Spanish-style cafe con leche at a US espresso bar? I can't seem to get the proportions right. What I'm looking for is a high ratio of espresso to milk, but not too high. The milk should be hot, not frothy at all. Cappucicinos, cafe au laits, and lattes all have too much milk. Today I tried to describe what I wanted and they gave me a "short cappuccino," which was not enough milk, and the milk was foamed instead of flat. A specific name for this drink would be great, if it exists, but what I really want is the exact ordering instructions -- because I find that in most cafes, ordering anything slightly unusual (like an Americano) usually gets very inconsistent results.
posted by yarly at 8:56 AM PST - 35 comments

I have sampled so many I can't even remember the names of them all. I have scoured the web for suggestions. You'd think this would be a basic thing. But honestly, I can't seem to find a calendar/organizational app for my mac that is 1) inexpensive, 2) not annoying and 3) broad-based enough to handle both notes and calendar dates. Evernote is terrific, and I use it all the time, but it is also a dumping ground for everything I think I may ever need to refer to in life. What I'm looking for is something that will enable me to make lists of short-term (up to a year) deadlines and projects, along with note-making capabilities and, of course, a basic calendar function. Nozbe is perfect, but not at the price point of $10 a month. Is there anything else out there that's as good or almost as good as Nozbe that doesn't cost $90+ a year?
posted by zagyzebra at 8:55 AM PST - 3 comments

I strongly dislike meat, but eating it is good for my health. What are some tasty recipes which include meat but don't taste strongly of it? Difficulty: complex dietary restrictions. [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 8:49 AM PST - 26 comments

How do I get on film crews in Louisiana. Lots of experience. Know basically no one. [more inside]
posted by ashtabula to opelika at 8:43 AM PST - 5 comments

This question is specific to NYC. I'm wondering what people's experiences have been getting free haircuts from the various schools around town - Aveda, Bumble and Bumble, Arrojo. Often, people offer free haircuts on craigslist and elsewhere, in order to get models for class projects. FWIW, I'm a male, 29 yo "hipster," although I'd also welcome opinions from women.
posted by outlandishmarxist at 8:35 AM PST - 17 comments

Someone once told me that a lot of the distinctive "sound" of opera developed as a way to be heard without amplification. Two specific claims I remember: diphthongs are separated into multiple monophthonic syllables, and phonemes which are hard to sing loudly are replaced by easier ones (which sometimes don't even exist in that language). There were others relating to actual singing that I forgot. Does anyone know of a good discussion of this topic that talks about biomechanics and acoustics? Not to ignore artistic and historical considerations, but I'm looking for a somewhat technical discussion. In particular, I'd love to see a comparison with singing styles developed for amplification and recording.
posted by d. z. wang at 8:27 AM PST - 3 comments

I like podcasts. I have ones that I listen to on Friday, Sunday, and Monday but not for the other days of the week. Do you have any recommendations for ones to fill those days? [more inside]
posted by kanata at 8:19 AM PST - 29 comments

In the last couple of months, my scalp has escalated from 'a bit dry' to 'disaster area.' What the hell is going on? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:18 AM PST - 32 comments

I have a 23" Dell ST2320L monitor that is quite nice in all respects but one. It goes into Power Saver mode when playing games. Hope me. [more inside]
posted by kuanes at 6:48 AM PST - 4 comments

I'm a member of a writing group and I'm trying to create an easily sharable database of who knows who for networking purposes. [more inside]
posted by Calicatt at 6:47 AM PST - 7 comments

I have realized recently that I have a few friends that behave in ways, in other areas of their life, that I think is unethical. How do you draw the line, when someone's behavior is not directly affecting you, on what is acceptable for your standards of friendship? [more inside]
posted by abirdinthehand at 6:22 AM PST - 34 comments

How can I best share a monitor, keyboard and Magic Trackpad between a Mac Pro and a MacBook Pro? [more inside]
posted by Joleta at 6:20 AM PST - 16 comments

I would like to do some consulting in the area of software development for Engineering firms. I would also like to develop my own software products and sell them. How do I go about this from a legal standpoint? I plan to alert all my potential customers that I am also working on my own products and that any software I build for them can either remain proprietary for their company (assuming of course it is not the exact same thing as what I plan to create and sell on my own) , or that we can enter an agreement where if I sell the software developed on their dime we would split the profits - assuming they don't want to keep it proprietary which will be the most likely scenario. YANAL, but is there a way to draft this in legal terms? S uch that if obvious small classes or libraries appear both in my product and the product I develop for them - and any programmer knows there are only that many ways to skin a code and overlap is inevitable - I won't get sued.
posted by spacefire at 5:38 AM PST - 2 comments

I am in Japan. I can not read or speak Japanese. I am a beginner cook. I have a limited budget; I can experiment but my first attempts better be stupid proof & edible. I am also a goat in that I am willing to eat just about anything (squishy squid, large amounts of raw egg, & crayfish that stare back seem to be at or near my limit; however, I love raw fish of many types & I often eat mystery meat on the streets of Asia). Help me master a few Japanese recipes? [more inside]
posted by DisreputableDog at 5:28 AM PST - 20 comments

On a recent rewatch of the original Alien and Aliens films, I realized something puzzling. [more inside]
posted by orrnyereg at 4:44 AM PST - 12 comments

Is it possible for furniture to block a wifi signal? Or at least make it drop regularly.. [more inside]
posted by cozenedindigo at 4:40 AM PST - 8 comments

I want to buy an audio interface for home recordings. Specifically, I want to record onto (most likely) a Mac, and I need more than 2 simultaneous inputs, since I will often be recording drums. I would prefer to spend under 200€. Give me your opinion and experiences! [more inside]
posted by molecicco at 4:32 AM PST - 8 comments

I started a facebook fan page five years ago. I hadn't looked at it in a while, and upon seeing it again I find that it has accrued over 120,000 fans. I am the sole administrator, and I never posted as the page. I am not above selling the page, or getting paid to post ads as this page. How would I go about doing this?
posted by Philipschall at 2:22 AM PST - 9 comments

My family and I were "displaced" by hurricane sandy. We were without a place to live for 10-11 weeks. We finally have a place to live and it's going ok, but we need to find a home for one of our cats because he can't stay with us. It's sad, but we need to find him a good home. How do you do that? He's the sweetest cutest thing. I can't have him be in one of those cages. However I really need to find him a home fast. I'm freaking out about this an don't know what to do. Please help. [more inside]
posted by milarepa at 1:42 AM PST - 9 comments

How to anonymously send my Grandmother money? I love my Grandmother to pieces. She's one of my favorite people. She's the most charismatic woman I've ever known.. she just has a way with people. I watch her engage others in awe; she can disarm an utterly rigid stranger in a few seconds by simply bestowing her beautiful aura upon them. Pathetically, people have taken advantage of her throughout her entire life. I won't go into details because it's irrelevant, but her story is a sad one. Anyway I'm an adult now and I'm making a good living. I want to help her out without her knowing it's me, and for the rest of her life. She would never accept financial assistance from me so I have to be stealthy. [more inside]
posted by OneHermit at 12:46 AM PST - 18 comments

February 22
I am looking for a "song" and I believe it was created by scientists. About 10 min long. Headphones were required. It begins with an industrial, pulsating sound like taking a kitchen faucet and spraying it into a stainless steel bowl around and around. After a few minutes, it bursts into loud but clear music with harps and strumming of various instruments. There are no human voices. [more inside]
posted by paulinsanjuan at 11:34 PM PST - 6 comments

I want to create a playlist that has themes along the lines of 'everything is going to be all right.' [more inside]
posted by (F)utility at 10:38 PM PST - 74 comments

I am looking for media (films, books, tv shows) that romanticize, and put in a positive light, the slow, painful steps of physical rehabilitation and strengthening after injury (from sports preferably). [more inside]
posted by crawltopslow at 10:05 PM PST - 14 comments

I act childish and feel patronized whenever I go back home from university to my parents and (much) older sister. I think this is a known phenomenon. What can I do to minimize this? (Snowflake details inside.) [more inside]
posted by Conspire at 9:58 PM PST - 10 comments

Hi All, We'll be travelling to Mexico with our baby to see my wife's family, and then going on a short trip to Oaxaca with my parents in law. Somehow its come to me (the only non Mexican) to find accommodation in Oaxaca. Please help! [more inside]
posted by Admira at 9:45 PM PST - 4 comments

Every once in a while, I (a minority) have a conversation with a white person about online dating in which it becomes clear that they do not and cannot understand that being a visibly non-white person on a predominantly white dating site is often a very different experience than being a white person on the same site. These conversations usually leave me completely frustrated and upset, and the person I'm talking to usually thinks I'm just bitter and negative (which is then, of course, the reason for my bad experience, and if I just "had a more positive attitude", then I would be having the same great experience that they've had). Should I just avoid talking about this with white people entirely? [more inside]
posted by rhymeswithcheery at 9:40 PM PST - 50 comments

I'm pretty much a Kindergarten level Python learner. Basically, I'm on Exercise 41 in Learn Python the Hard Way (and confused), and I'm in a 100-level class learning Python. I am not a math person, although I do like formal logic (if that means anything). My biggest problem is that I think I try to solve problems too creatively, i.e. I always try the most complicated/convoluted solution possible, which is usually wrong. [more inside]
posted by lhude sing cuccu at 9:15 PM PST - 17 comments

Re the Justice Department joining the lawsuit against Lance Armstrong--can the federal government force the sale of assets to pay off a judgment?. That is, hypothetically, if Armstrong has $8 million in non-cash assets (houses, land, cars, etc), and he's being sued for $15 million and loses, can the government liquidate all of his assets to at least pay off a part of that amount? Armstrong is a disgrace and a jerk, but could he also become a pauper?
posted by BadgerDoctor at 9:15 PM PST - 7 comments

What are your top 5 websites and why? Excluding metafilter (of course). [more inside]
posted by cjorgensen at 8:31 PM PST - 34 comments

I was taping an ethernet cord over my doorframe with vinyl electrical tape. I can't find the label, but I remember it had a warning saying that the tape contains chemicals that the state of California recognizes to cause cancer. After maybe ten minutes of futzing with it (and breathing), I have a minor headache, my throat hurts a lot, and breathing feels weird and cold. Page 2 of this document warns about fumes from molten electrical tape, but I didn't heat it. Was the warning label accurate? I can't find any scientific info online. Should I take this stuff down from my walls, or will it be OK now that I'm no longer actively handling it?
posted by randomname25 at 8:26 PM PST - 20 comments

Happily one year and a few months sober, after close to a decade of progressively heavier drinking and self-destructive tendencies. After the first three months or so last year, dealing with the day to day of people having alcohol around me started to become much, much easier, until the past month or so, where the urge has hit me substantially harder. Seasonal? Just part of the territory? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:24 PM PST - 5 comments

I often wish I had a dog to take with me on solo Friday hiking jaunts, but a dog is not possible for me right now. Today I got thinking that, hey, I live in an absurdly wealthy part of the country: perhaps one of these rich people would be willing to pay me to take their dog on a hike. Problem is, I have walked a dog exactly once in my life and don't have much experience with them beyond that. I'm wondering how likely it would be that someone would be willing to hand their precious doggie off to me given that lack of experience, and if they are, how I should go about finding 'clients' and how much would be a reasonable amount to charge. I am in the North Bay area.
posted by imalaowai at 7:55 PM PST - 14 comments

Background: When my father learned I was gay, he disowned me. Think radical old-world "you are dead to me." This was many years ago -- well over a decade. He was very serious and cut off all contact with me. Made it clear I was out of the will and all of that -- very dramatic. I did try to initiate contact a few times many years ago, but was rebuffed. This is not what my question is about though -- I am at peace with this. I know I am a worthwhile and lovable person and I have many people in my life who care about me/love me. I had therapy when all this happened and I really feel I dealt with the emotions then. I know I am lovable and valuable person. Also, my relatives on my late Mother's side -- who are also quite old-world -- surprised me with their acceptance... [more inside]
posted by Lescha at 7:35 PM PST - 14 comments

A trip to Game Stop tonight looking for a PS3 game that I can enjoy with my 15 yo daughter was less than satisfactory. My daughter is pretty open as far as genre goes but I would prefer something not too graphic, and ideally would like a game that doesn't focus on killing at all. I'd also prefer something that doesn't require special equipment. Must have a 2 player mode but either cooperative or competitive is fine. Any great titles with these specifications?
posted by drlith at 7:14 PM PST - 22 comments

A friend introduced me to this game, but now that I've googled around and not found anything under that name, I'm wondering if it goes by a different name. [more inside]
posted by thetruthisjustalie at 7:01 PM PST - 7 comments

A guy I've been dating for 3 months seemed to be withdrawing for about two weeks (such as me having to initiate contact first, and not making plans to meet me, and not following through), although he never stopped showing interest. I asked him what's wrong and to tell me if he doesn't want to see me anymore so I can move on. He said he didn't lose interest, it's that he has been having a few personal problems lately and has been distant even with his friends. He says he doesn't expect me to wait. Is he just trying to soften the blow because he's not interested in me anymore or is he telling the truth? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:35 PM PST - 18 comments

I did not file US taxes in 2011 because I thought I didn't owe. I just got a letter saying I did need to file, so I rushed around to do this and now I have filed. Unfortunately, I just found a document that I should have included - a K1 form. My deadline for filing is February 27; it will be virtually impossible to refile by then. I can easily get this refiled in a couple of weeks though. What should I do?
posted by Surprised By Bees at 6:14 PM PST - 8 comments

Should I sell or rent an inherited house? [more inside]
posted by wandering_not_lost at 5:24 PM PST - 12 comments

I have to have a relationship talk tonight with a new person in my life. It's going to be stressful but I think it's going to be okay. How do I not cry? I have a tendency to get choked up and cry during certain types of discussions where I feel vulnerable. (It even happens at work, but that's another AskMe.) What do I do? Should I just issue a warning before we talk?
posted by summer sock at 4:56 PM PST - 10 comments

What are your best insomnia remedies? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 4:21 PM PST - 41 comments

One of my closest friends is moving away, like tomorrow. I'd like to get her one of those silly heart necklaces that split in half, one for each friend. No time to order online. I have all day tomorrow, but don't really want a wild goose chase. If I can find such a thing, I would like to spend about 50 bucks., but I'm not firm about that Anybody?
posted by functionequalsform at 3:33 PM PST - 18 comments

Where can I find a plastic protective cover for this model of Macbook Pro 17"? [more inside]
posted by raspberry jam and clothes iron at 3:26 PM PST - 1 comments

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little under 3 years, and we have lived together for over one year. We are in our late twenties. We are extremely compatible 90% of the time, have so much fun together, are mutually supportive, generally very communicative, and love each other deeply. We get along with each others' families, we travel and live well together, and we share so many interests. I am ready to marry the man, and he is maybe/kinda/sorta ready to marry me. Ouch! [more inside]
posted by tentwentythirty at 2:54 PM PST - 59 comments

How (Should?) we buy a house on the other side of the country? We know we want to move there, but we can't go yet. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:19 PM PST - 15 comments

I work in the head office for a hotel chain and know hotel managers all over North America. I travel quite a bit for work and because of my job, I stay free. Occasionally with my accumulated air miles I will go somewhere for a getaway and as long as I am careful to avoid peak times, I can usually stay at one of our facilities free as a professional courtesy. If the room is going to be empty, I feel no guilt at hanging my hat there for a night or two. Often I invite someone along for company and to share in my perk. The problem is when someone invites someone else along. And occasionally that someone invites someone else along as well. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:19 PM PST - 37 comments

One of my dear friends wants to throw me a wedding shower, but I don't want people to bring me gifts. What could we ask them to bring instead? [more inside]
posted by erloteiel at 2:13 PM PST - 17 comments

I am getting ready to do a kitchen remodel. I've been thinking about this since before we bought the house 6 years ago, and am finally ready to take the plunge. Give me your best kitchen ideas! [more inside]
posted by msbubbaclees at 2:05 PM PST - 27 comments

I'm an adult with ADHD. I need to have my meds with me in the daytime and early evening at work/school, etc. How do I do this conveniently, securely, and legally? I can't figure out how to do all three. Snowflaky details inside. [more inside]
posted by sister nunchaku of love and mercy at 1:59 PM PST - 25 comments

In high school theater class, two of my class mates performed a dialogue which, if I remember correctly, involved a street hustler telling his roomate "You get a cold ass from sitting in the fuckin' tub!" For the life of me I can't figure out what play/movie this is from. Any suggestions?
posted by ladypants at 1:38 PM PST - 3 comments

Puzzler of a problem...Any Rhino experts? And I don't mean the four legged kind... [more inside]
posted by Calzephyr at 1:32 PM PST - 2 comments

How to troubleshoot intermittent drops in my internet connection? [more inside]
posted by ManInSuit at 1:24 PM PST - 16 comments

I would like to purchase an off-brand tablet computer from a discount electronics website. I know nothing about components or specs or anything- the only info I have to go on is bigger number is good. Please help me. (sorry but this post got way too long, you've been warned.) [more inside]
posted by FirstMateKate at 12:28 PM PST - 9 comments

I used to have a pair of John Fluevog Gibson Swirls in black, and I loved them. I rode 'em into the ground. I'm once again in the market for a kinda-funky, kinda-dressy men's shoe, and I would just grab another pair of Fluevogs... only recent customer reviews call out a sharp decline in their quality. [more inside]
posted by D.Billy at 12:23 PM PST - 14 comments

What do the classiest people you know say when they stub their toe, get cut off in traffic, or otherwise need a short noise more important for it's sound than it's meaning? [more inside]
posted by Archibald Edmund Binns at 11:43 AM PST - 134 comments

How can I not be self-conscious about the hair on my arms? [more inside]
posted by thank you silence at 11:36 AM PST - 57 comments

EarwormFilter: '80s New Wave-ish song, male vocalist, with a part that goes "la-la-la-la la la, la la la-la-la-la la la." Alas, I don't know any of the other lyrics. [more inside]
posted by Metroid Baby at 11:20 AM PST - 15 comments

I'd like to produce an offset-print-quality map, modeled after airline flight path maps, which graphically reproduces hundreds of point-to-point connections: in this specific case, between radio transmitters and reception locations. What software is capable of producing some variation on this, perhaps by putting in GPS coordinates? (OS X please.)
posted by mykescipark at 11:12 AM PST - 4 comments

Fiction help: Name scenes from movies where characters realize or discover that their prisoner has escaped. [more inside]
posted by Cool Papa Bell at 11:10 AM PST - 29 comments

My fiancee and I are considering Turkey for our honeymoon next October. Should we take a pre-arranged tour or book all our own hotels, in-country travel, etc.? Our considerations are money and how much effort it will be to plan a long trip to a new place in addition to a wedding. [more inside]
posted by nakedmolerats at 10:59 AM PST - 6 comments

I need to schedule a lot of sequential tasks that have a set time limit (ie, Task A is allotted one week, Task B one week, Task C three weeks). Unfortunately some of these tasks run over (or occasionally, under) budget on time and I am looking for a program that will easily reassign due dates for all the following tasks when one task falls off the original schedule. [more inside]
posted by apparently at 10:57 AM PST - 3 comments

I'm getting a puppy! Would love some advice about the first few days/weeks, especially in terms of bringing him to my office. [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 10:55 AM PST - 21 comments

My husband just got laid off from his position today. It's with a large company and he had excellent reviews but their revenue stream has not been up to par. They told him his position has been eliminated. However, he is welcome to reapply if and when blah, blah, blah... My concern is what is the right way to help him. He has never been laid off before and for the most part never thought this could happen. He is very optimistic by nature. He does seem a little shell shocked. My job is not going to be able to support our family. What are the first things we should do? I am also concerned about his mental well being and being a supportive partner while he looks for a new job. To make matters worse (or whatever) we have one in college, one applying to colleges, one getting ready to apply, and one freshman in high school.
posted by lasamana at 10:14 AM PST - 25 comments

My fiance likes to watch the Daytona 500 every year and likes to make a day of it. NASCAR and racing is all pretty foreign and weird to me. Help me! [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 9:57 AM PST - 25 comments

I am looking for more information on "audio description" for a blind friend, in the US. It seems that many movies in the UK come on DVD with an audio description track, but not so many in the US. Need help sorting through all the information to help my US-based friend enjoy recent movies on DVD at home. [more inside]
posted by freezer cake at 9:52 AM PST - 7 comments

I have a two-car garage with a LiftMaster automatic garage door opener that is misbehaving and it's driving me crazy. It seems to be randomly just opening the door long after it is closed and I can't figure out why. I've seen the other questions about garage door openers but was hoping for some advice specific to my situation. [more inside]
posted by misskaz at 9:47 AM PST - 15 comments

I am preparing a blog post for my library's in which I am going to review several websites that I consider "useful" for our patrons in improving the quality of their lives or help them keep a little more money in their pocketbooks. [more inside]
posted by cinemafiend at 9:40 AM PST - 20 comments

Soft shell jacket for a slender 6'5" guy that doesn't fit like a garbage bag? [more inside]
posted by DakotaPaul at 9:21 AM PST - 20 comments

I've done a little sight-reading in the past but it's never been my strong point. I do understand the basics - the intervals, time signatures, etc. I'd like to get better at this by using an online tool or iPhone app. Something that presents you with a bar that you sing to yourself and then plays it for you would be good, but I'm open to hearing about other options. So far I've looked at Singsolatido - which is good for practicing intervals but I want to work on more than one note at a time.
posted by bunderful at 9:17 AM PST - 2 comments

A two part question about selling a sibling's car in Texas. Logistics of the owner/title holder being out of state and also a consensus of opinions on who gets how much money out of this deal. [more inside]
posted by magnetsphere at 8:52 AM PST - 11 comments

We have an old turret punch (1528 Wiedematic) & the work clamps aren't functioning. Have plenty air pressure. Foot micro switch makes clicking sound when you press it to release solenoid. Suspect it is the solenoid switch itself, but can't find where this switch is located. Can hear it, can't find it. Any ideas?
posted by Mimidae at 8:50 AM PST - 2 comments

My mom and grandfather are visiting Portland to see me and my two-year-old. We're planning to go to the zoo, but it looks like rain all day and we may decide it's too much. I'd love to have a backup plan, preferably indoors. My grandfather is 80, and while he still has a lot of physical stamina, he can't hear well when there's a lot of ambient noise. This rules out places like the Children's Museum and Playdate PDX. Any ideas of places where my toddler could be a toddler and the adults can hold a conversation?
posted by linettasky at 8:38 AM PST - 14 comments

At work I'm using a Macbook Pro with OS X 10.7.4, running Outlook 2011. Today, I have to ship off this computer to get an upgrade and security update, and they will be wiping out the contents of the hard drive. They've left us very minimal instructions to back up any files we need. For me, the absolute most important thing is having access to all of my old emails and their attachments. So, QUESTION: how do I backup all of my emails in Outlook so that I'll be able to access them on my newly-wiped computer? Where are email files stored on my computer? How can I back up the attachments on the old emails? How do I avert total disaster?
posted by naju at 8:34 AM PST - 11 comments

Best CMS for a feature-heavy website on a budget? My go-to content management systems are Wordpress and Drupal, but here's the clincher: this website must integrate with Microsoft Access. [more inside]
posted by meghosaurus at 8:33 AM PST - 6 comments

Do you know of any websites, textbooks, regular books, podcasts, magazine articles, movie clips, etc, having to do with the multitude of rules that couples during the Victorian era were subjected to? Have to be at least somewhat credible. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by camylanded at 8:27 AM PST - 19 comments

Is there a correct sequence for turning on, and plugging in, my MacBook Air, to make it play nicely with a generic HP external display? [more inside]
posted by roofus at 8:25 AM PST - 5 comments

Does anyone have a recommendation for white water rafting excursions in West Virginia. Planning for the upcoming summer, with 2 parents and 4 teens, all beginners, but thrill seekers.
posted by Huron90 at 8:23 AM PST - 8 comments

I woke up with a stuffy, sneezey nose this morning. I fly across the country in four days to a conference I can't afford to miss. Is there anything I can do now to minimize the likelihood of making everyone else sick on my plane and at my conference? [more inside]
posted by croutonsupafreak at 7:58 AM PST - 23 comments

I definitely don’t want, and am not ready for, a relationship. I do want a bit of fun now and then, except insomnia and overstimulation mix with a bit of post-coital anxiety and mess everything up. What are things I can do to soothe myself to sleep, so I can enjoy the evening I had? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:56 AM PST - 11 comments

I think I have a problem with self esteem. Objectively, I know that I am a physically attractive person. This has been confirmed by plenty of people throughout my life. I want more than anything to be told by my husband that I am beautiful in certain ways, but he can't or won't. I don't want to need something from him that he is unable to give. How can I either stop focusing on this, or learn how to validate myself without his input? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:55 AM PST - 33 comments

I've got the chance to spend two years doing research work at a university in either Boston or Philadelphia. I've never been to either city, and I can't visit them before deciding. I'm looking for general impressions of what life would be like in each place. (I've posted some other details inside, but because I'm so ignorant of both places, this is pretty free-form...) [more inside]
posted by Beardman at 7:55 AM PST - 43 comments

Rescued some stray kittens from the street in South America. How to find them a good home? [more inside]
posted by zug at 7:54 AM PST - 10 comments

I have a 250 gig MacBook Pro, which is about 3 years old. I have approx. 115 gigs of music stored in my Itunes library. All duplicate MP3 files were deleted. That leaves 135 or some odd gigs of space. I keep a large majority of my documents and files in a cloud service. I maybe have 5-10 gigs of random files I keep on my HD. That leaves approx. 125 gigs of space... I know that the computer uses (and I'll guestimate 25 gigs for the OS & random program files I have on my system)... That still leaves about 100 gigs worth of space un-accounted for.... When I open my 'finder', it tells me I have approx 50 gigs of space available. I have downloaded Disk Inventory X which is suppose to give you a break down of where all the space is being used. I have also read about a program called DaisyDisk. Both seem to be reputable and popular. I d/l'ed DIX first cause it was free..It did the analysis.... But....While I have somewhat of an idea of computers, I am not sure what is safe to delete, what should't be touched....What if I delete something that has specs attached to files that shouldn't be deleted...Neither utility really gives me an idea of what is safe to delete and what should not be touched. I know I must have a large cache of files and stuff that could be deleted....Image previews, etc.... I just don't know where to look. What is safe to get rid of.....Not sure what to do..... Thanks!
posted by TwilightKid at 7:49 AM PST - 18 comments

Walden.org offers his complete journal as PDFs, which I'm reading, but the scans are terrible and it is hard to slog through them. I have googled and amazoned looking for better versions without luck. I can find excellent quality examples of selected items, but I'm looking for the entire thing, all 14 volumes for my ereader.
posted by gregg at 7:26 AM PST - 3 comments

Is there software that allows you to treat work productivity like a game? [more inside]
posted by SpacemanStix at 7:18 AM PST - 8 comments

What are my NFL Sunday Ticket options in Canada? [more inside]
posted by joelhunt at 6:24 AM PST - 5 comments

I've had a tingling/burning sensation in my left shoulder/hand for about a week. A doc that I saw in Tokyo thinks I have a pinched nerve and told to come back in a week, but was rather vague about what to do in the meantime. I have no health insurance so I would prefer to not go back, but I just noticed the tingling starting up in my right hand as well. [more inside]
posted by Thanquol180 at 6:17 AM PST - 7 comments

Now that I'm lifting heavier weights, how should I tailor my strength training regimen given that I have a four year-old shoulder dislocation? [more inside]
posted by MaddyRex at 5:52 AM PST - 7 comments

When you read Lionel Shriver's We Need to Talk About Kevin what did you know, and when? And also, can you recommend books with similar techniques? Spoilers inside. (Presumed Innocent and Defending Jacob are also mentioned in a way that may be spoiler-y to some.) [more inside]
posted by BibiRose at 5:42 AM PST - 34 comments

Leaving for the Deep Creek Dunk in a few hours, and I'm looking for mixed drink recommendations to get through standing outside in the cold for 6 hours... special requirements: mixes with Grey Goose (I'm not a huge fan of it, but it was a free bottle, so mixing can overpower the vodka)... is not carbonated thusly cannot go "flat" when sitting for a few hours nor can it get "shaken up" while sloshing around inside a Camelbak for a while... tastes good cold, but doesn't taste bad when it warms up a bit... and is something I can drink through a straw all afternoon. Last year, I mixed a Bay Breeze (Vodka, Cranberry juice & Pineapple juice), so I was looking for something different. Thanks.
posted by GuppieXX at 5:32 AM PST - 11 comments

Asking for a friend: is there a website or webcam that shows whether the P.J. McArdle drawbridge connecting East Boston to Chelsea, MA is up or down at any given moment? [more inside]
posted by dywypi at 4:46 AM PST - 5 comments

What are some hardy, pretty, or useful houseplants for a small space in the Pittsburgh/Western PA/Northeast region? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 4:44 AM PST - 15 comments

I'm working for a start-up and I don't think it's going to succeed. Am I right, and if so, how can I salvage something useful from this situation? [more inside]
posted by Encipher at 3:59 AM PST - 15 comments

I live in Heidelberg, Germany and I need to print a number of posters and flyers for an upcoming show. But I've been having a lot of problems doing so. Where can I get large posters and double sided flyers printed in Heidelberg (or deliverable to there within a reasonable time frame)? [more inside]
posted by kyrademon at 3:46 AM PST - 3 comments

I recently bought a 5 litre casserole dish, which I love, but I'm a bit stuck on what to make with it next. [more inside]
posted by thegirlmaxtous at 3:20 AM PST - 12 comments

I'm almost certain I just severed the tendon in my pinky...the bleeding is under control but I cannot bend it. I have severe fear of ER costs due to bad past experiences that cost me lots and lots of money. How bad is this, and can it wait for an Urgent Care place? [more inside]
posted by jnnla at 12:28 AM PST - 28 comments

February 21
I'm looking for resources to help me understand why it is that people treat each other badly. Specifically, I'm thinking about large-scale injustices that people in power either create or refuse to fix. Whenever I try to understand the roots of these issues, I try to put myself in the shoes of the people who created them and/or those who refuse to use their power to fix it - but I just cannot understand it. I think it's important for me to get a better handle on this, because I want to work toward making the world more just, so I would love any help you can give me to gain some understanding of their mindsets and perspectives.
posted by inatizzy at 11:52 PM PST - 16 comments

People I talk to on Skype claim to hear static coming from my end. I ran a test in Audacity and I could hear the static as well. The microphone I'm using is an MXL 990 and I'm using and Icicle Preamp (This thing) to connect the mic to my laptop through USB. I'm copying over any and all specs that would help. Here is the link. I've tried disabling my internal mic and that didn't work. Before I got this laptop, I was using a laptop that had XP on it and it worked fine. I did spray febreeze in the room and on the mic so that everything would smell nice (I was trying to clean up the room). I tried using both my internal mic and another USB one and they worked fine. I also tried using a different USB cord to hook up my mic to my laptop and I was told there was static. What should I do? I've been having this problem for a while now and it's starting to get on my nerves. Thanks in advanced.
posted by Flamzeron at 11:15 PM PST - 13 comments

Is there a Mac application available to convert .mp4 files to AVCHD format? I'm trying to load videos on a USB stick to play on my blu-ray player. It is a Panasonic DMP-BD65. I seem to be running into the problem discussed in this thread, but the conversion software listed does not appear to have a Mac version and I can't seem to Google up a mac converter to do the same thing. Is there any way for me to make this happen?
posted by Drinky Die at 8:33 PM PST - 10 comments

How typical are my mental states when using nicotine / withdrawing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:54 PM PST - 15 comments

I'm considering getting a US Passport Card (the kind that is only good for land and sea travel between the US, Canada, Mexico, the Caribbean, and Bermuda) and am concerned about my privacy. [more inside]
posted by IndigoRain at 7:48 PM PST - 23 comments

Are there any iPhone 4 cases that feature Han Solo frozen in carbonite that are sculpted/3d, and not printed? The only one I've managed to find is this, which seems a little dicey.
posted by bdk3clash at 7:38 PM PST - 3 comments

I met a guy through an online dating website who I like but am not attracted to. I'd like to meet with him again, but how do I manage this without leading him on? And is online dating always going to be like this? [more inside]
posted by starcrust at 7:28 PM PST - 30 comments

I love the game developer Platinum Games, and buy everything they put out. Their new game, Metal Gear Rising: Revengeance, is the latest in a long-running series with a famously incomprehensible backstory? I've played a bit of Metal Gear Solid 2 and didn't really enjoy it. I'd like to know a. if anyone who's played MGR: Revengeance knows what backstory I need to enjoy it or b. if anyone can provide a summary or a link to a quick summary of Metal Gear Solid's backstory.
posted by Charlemagne In Sweatpants at 7:10 PM PST - 2 comments

My boyfriend and I bought a house together last April, which so far has proven to be pretty good idea. Along with the bazillion other really expensive things involved in buying a house, we purchased both homeowner's insurance and a home warranty shortly before the close of escrow. I might have been misunderstanding the legalities of everything, but I remember somehow arriving at the belief that both homeowner's insurance and a home warranty were required for the first year; however, renewing the warranty was optional. [more inside]
posted by jesourie at 7:04 PM PST - 18 comments

Due to a family thing, I have received a one-time windfall, and I would like to pay off my credit cards, improve my credit, and buy a new car (getting a loan for most of it). I just want to know if it's good to keep a small balance or pay them off completely. [more inside]
posted by marble at 6:54 PM PST - 20 comments

I just filled out a tax form with a signature app where I "drew" my signature in the field (with a mouse) and it applied filter "smoothing" and other things to make it look like a real ink signature... It actually looked BETTER than my real hand written signature. Where can I get something like that to make my own ink looking images? [more inside]
posted by DaftMythic at 6:27 PM PST - 10 comments

Looking for suggestions from Cal. and Nev. locals or travelers: interesting things to see and do around Lake Tahoe, early April. (Previous questions are re lodging and skiing - got that.) [more inside]
posted by henry scobie at 5:35 PM PST - 6 comments

I recently got a new dog, a new apartment and new friends. I've asked new friends to a) not wear shoes on the carpet and b) not feed the dog table scraps. Nobody is listening. Help! [more inside]
posted by Pericardium at 5:35 PM PST - 56 comments

The Game of Thrones Drinks question reminded me of a drink question of my own. I had a favorite drink in college and would like the recipe. The Googles do not help. Perhaps Metafilter can? [more inside]
posted by Elly Vortex at 5:06 PM PST - 12 comments

How can I use my product key to validate W7 on a replacement HDD? I need W7 for work. [more inside]
posted by KokuRyu at 5:06 PM PST - 15 comments

I'm trying to connect a Mac running OS X 10.8.2 to an SMB share in Windows Server 2008 R2 over a site-to-site VPN but I'm having issues. A Windows XP computer that is in the same network as the Mac does not have a problem mapping a drive to the share. [more inside]
posted by pombiki at 4:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me find a great saxophone/clarinet repairperson within basically any radius of Baltimore. [more inside]
posted by spbmp at 4:45 PM PST - 6 comments

3 coworkers want to plan a 4-5 day ski trip, probably to Colorado, in mid-to-late March. Convenience is key (we want to spend more time skiing and less time traveling), budget is roughly $1,000-$2,000 (including airfare, transit, lodging, ski/board+boot rentals, and lift tickets). Where do we go? [more inside]
posted by xiaolongbao at 4:42 PM PST - 12 comments

I'm toying with the idea of getting a Masters program in the next year or two in a specific field within my current career path. Since the program is fairly unique, the school isn't requiring a GRE score for the application (although it's a top research university in the US on the West Coast). So what are they looking for in my application? How does not needing a GRE score change things? Lots of questions! [more inside]
posted by carmel at 4:38 PM PST - 4 comments

I'm trying to place the names of a number of games where you have multiple characters that you control in sequence. One was a cursor puzzle type game, the other was a side-scrolling actioner. [more inside]
posted by BlackLeotardFront at 4:36 PM PST - 10 comments

A couple weeks ago I wrote down "gaddyne" on the page in my notebook where I write down artists and musicians and albums and the like. I now trying to find out what the hell I meant. I can find nothing on Google as to what this would be. I have fairly good handwriting and this was written in all caps. as I often do (I do not think it is initials/anagram for something). Probably dub or electronic music related. Please, tell me what I was trying to tell myself.
posted by J0 at 4:22 PM PST - 7 comments

[TolkienFilter] A friend of mine would like to translate the phrase "'plans to give you hope and a future' Jeremiah 29:11" into Quenya. Please help me help her do that. [more inside]
posted by Errant at 4:07 PM PST - 2 comments

I have all the details set, but I'm looking for personal stories about laser eye correction, particularly LASIK and PRK. [more inside]
posted by two lights above the sea at 4:06 PM PST - 19 comments

My wife has had an awful day. I mean awful. She is stressed, upset, feeling pretty depressed about it. Between the kids having a rough day and one of her clients cheating and taking advantage of her, her short term self-esteem and resiliency are shot. Wow... she has every right to feel this bad. I've got 30 minutes to try to do something nice for her before she gets home. What little things would make you feel better after a rough day? [more inside]
posted by Nanukthedog at 3:59 PM PST - 41 comments

Are there any restaurant supply stores on Oahu like GFS, in that they are open to the public and sell dry goods and spices in bulk? [more inside]
posted by Ghidorah at 3:53 PM PST - 4 comments

What would you name a cocktail specifically concocted to drink while watching Game of Thrones? [more inside]
posted by mcstayinskool at 2:57 PM PST - 44 comments

How do I deal with my boyfriend's love of marijuana? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:30 PM PST - 55 comments

Mr Jujulalia and I have the option of moving to London or Cardiff. Seeking advice from colleagues/friends/the Guardian isn't filling our advice needs. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by jujulalia at 1:18 PM PST - 17 comments

Best Saturday Brunch in Buffalo? [more inside]
posted by troika at 1:15 PM PST - 9 comments

I'm going to be in The City aka Ess Eff aka San Francisco this weekend. Are there any must-see events, exhibits, performances, etc. going on? Where would I look to find this information in the future? Are the Bay Guardian and SF Weekly even still published?
posted by entropicamericana at 1:03 PM PST - 6 comments

This morning Mr. Smuna dropped a bottle of iron remover used for auto detailing, breaking it and spilling on our wood floor. It's this stuff: IronX Here is the MSDS: IronX MSDS The smell could curl your hair; how can I neutralize it? [more inside]
posted by smuna at 12:52 PM PST - 9 comments

Kid BlahLaLa's pediatrician wants him to take a calcium supplement, because he's never been into milk and doesn't eat very many milk products. But Kid BlahLaLa, who is almost 10, refuses all children's calcium supplements as too gross-tasting. (He's not ready to swallow pills.) He will accept a particular adult supplement, but when I combine that with his usual daily multi-vitamin I'm worried that I'm overdosing him on Vitamin D. There's so much woo on teh internets that I can't seem to get a straight answer about how much is too much. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 12:50 PM PST - 32 comments

I recently read and enjoyed John Irving's The World According to Garp and The Hotel New Hampshire, and was wondering what other novels, by other authors, people have enjoyed that have a similar subject matter and vibe to Garp -- specifically, birth-to-death stories of writers or creative individuals, with leisurely, meandering plots and profound things to say about living, loving, and learning. This thread had some good suggestions, but I was looking for something more specifically Garp-y -- set in the 20th/21st century, with a middle-class male protagonist in fairly mundane circumstances (nothing fantastical or on the fringes of society), and spans the entire life of the protagonist. Mood should be melancholic but not overly bleak. Thanks for any suggestions.
posted by El Sabor Asiatico at 12:13 PM PST - 38 comments

I have a lot of barbecue experience (low and slow smoked meats), but I've never been happy with my smoked poultry. Need to please some non-mammal-eaters, so I want to get it down this time. Veteran bird-barbecuers: Help? [more inside]
posted by supercres at 11:55 AM PST - 13 comments

There was a movie that came out last fall that we spaced about and missed during its theater run. We want to pay to see it now to support movies of this type and by this filmmaker. Within reason, what is the best way to do it? [more inside]
posted by getawaysticks at 11:51 AM PST - 7 comments

What's the cheapest way to get a large box from San Francisco to Halifax, NS? [more inside]
posted by otherwordlyglow at 11:47 AM PST - 16 comments

I am planning to convert my basement into a bedroom for one of my brothers to use. I was thinking all that was needed was carpeting and paint, but one of my friends recently told me that I may need to have some kind of modification to the basement windows or walls so that there's a fire escape route apart from the stairs. Is this the case? I've had a hard time finding a definitive legal reference as to what I need to do to have someone legally sleep in my basement. [more inside]
posted by Vorteks at 11:44 AM PST - 13 comments

I just finished reading an article from the New York Times Magazine about controversial anthropologist Napoleon Chagnon. One thing in particular about the article struck me- there is a claim (at least that's how I read it) that measles vaccine caused a breakout of measles in a group of isolated indigenous people that did not have measles exposure or immunity. I'm confused because I'm pretty sure you can't get measles from vaccine. Is there something different about the Edmonston B vaccine? [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 11:43 AM PST - 10 comments

I will be travelling for business in May, and I am being given a choice of flying into LAX or SNA. While Santa Ana is closer to the venue, LAX is giving me a better choice of flight schedules. I will be picked up and dropped off at the airport, so I don't have to worry about transportation. Is there a reason I should avoid one or the other? I recall flying through LAX on my way to China, but I don't think I've ever flown into either of these airports. Any horror stories out there that can help color my decision?
posted by blurker at 11:12 AM PST - 27 comments

My friend and I had a heated argument last night about human and animal attitudes to privacy when defecating. He argued that all humans and all animals seek privacy while defecating. I know that certain animals, like cats, do seek privacy while defecating, but I feel like lots more animals, especially pack animals and herd animals don't worry about finding a quiet spot. For example, cows. I suggested that perhaps the human need for privacy may be a cultural phenomenon - is there any evidence that humans have ever been much less worried about privacy in this area? Also would like examples of animals that might defecate in groups. [more inside]
posted by drunkonthemoon at 11:00 AM PST - 44 comments

A team from our office is heading over to a number of China cities and they want to be active on social media the whole time to promote it. But given that China blocks twitter and Facebook, I need some workarounds. Is there a client like Hootsuite or tweet deck or buffer that ISN'T blocked? And what are my other options? Does instagram work? What about Linkedin?
posted by rileyray3000 at 10:56 AM PST - 10 comments

I can Home Share via iTunes (from PC to laptop), but can't get the connection to stay. [more inside]
posted by Twicketface at 10:54 AM PST - 5 comments

Asking for a friend who needs help (FAST!) finding a home for 200 to 300 scenic backdrops from film and television. [more inside]
posted by mon-ma-tron at 10:41 AM PST - 12 comments

I bought a beautiful long sleeve men's shirt on Hautelook.com. It was all black with contrast saddle stitching. The site said the size was true, meaning I bought a medium because I wear a medium. Boy, were they wrong. It was way too small. So, unfortunately, I have to return it. I called them to see if they had a large but they don't keep stock on the things they sell. So, I'm trying to see if this shirt is sold any other place. But when I google/bing "Golden Star" nothing remotely close comes up. To be honest, I've never heard of that label. Does anyone know how I can find this shirt or, at least, the company that makes it?
posted by Taken Outtacontext at 10:41 AM PST - 7 comments

I moved to America about a year and a half ago. My credit score is between 600 - 640 depending on the agency. I don't need credit now, but I want to buy a house later this year. How can I improve my credit given that I have no use for credit cards beyond the one I already have, and I pay cash for everything? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:36 AM PST - 13 comments

I’m Male in my late 20s; I need help figuring out what to do about my relationship, I’ve tried breaking up a few times, but every time I get to it something in my head stops me... What can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:36 AM PST - 27 comments

I am looking for easy and interesting house plants. Please help. [more inside]
posted by beccaj at 10:26 AM PST - 24 comments

Looking for a local Minneapolis Mortgage Broker. Anyone have someone they would specifically recommend? [more inside]
posted by zombieApoc at 9:41 AM PST - 3 comments

I want to start making electronic music. I'm thinking about buying maybe an MPC type of device but not sure where to start. Novation Launchpad? Maschine? Any recommendations for a total, total beginner? Or should I really get a copy of Ableton and figure out if I'm truly into it first? [more inside]
posted by windbox at 9:39 AM PST - 17 comments

Hello! We are both academics, and have the summer to spend pretty much anywhere in the world. (We're going to be writing most of the summer; location is not important, but internet is.) We've spent a fair bit of time in the US, England and Ireland, and have travelled but not lived anywhere else for a substantial amount of time. Considerations would be money (cheaper would be better, but we feel we could live on a budget in say, Paris); season (Paris may not be so great in the summer if it's hot and touristy); good internet (see above); and healthcare (one of us has a minor health condition that may need occasional treatment -- we're not talking Mayo Clinic but a place where there are some reliable doctors. Our insurance covers us outside the US.) Weather -- i.e., not crazy hot, or if it is hot, AC -- is a smaller consideration. We like both cities and country -- no obvious preference. Oh, and we don't have any kids. Any ideas? Thanks!
posted by EtTuHealy at 9:39 AM PST - 13 comments

I have a problem. I have a friend. They're mutually inclusive. Let's call him Greg. [more inside]
posted by piratesriding at 9:38 AM PST - 32 comments

Googling for any sort of survey software that's NOT subscription-based was frustrating. I need something that can be used to evaluate and provide reports for businesses in the hospitality industry. [more inside]
posted by davebush at 9:33 AM PST - 2 comments

I've asked a couple questions about building a richer social life on AskMeta, and a few times I've gotten the suggestion that I should be spending more one-on-one time with friends and acquaintances. My observations suggest that women socialize this way more often than men do. Tell me I'm wrong, then share tips. [more inside]
posted by Nomyte at 9:29 AM PST - 16 comments

Can someone explain why old age or bone loss causes older people to have a hump in their upper back or neck? I think its called dowager’s hump.
posted by john123357 at 9:24 AM PST - 16 comments

I recently got a new MacBook Air and I love it. Sometimes, however, I'm struck by an overwhelming sense of nostalgia for the Apple II I had as a child. Are there classic Mac desktop themes that I can download to rock my Air old skool style?
posted by Avenger at 9:23 AM PST - 5 comments

The thing I want to wear is always in the hamper. I can't see my dresser under mountains of worn-once clothes. I never have enough kitchen towels. I have somehow made it to the age of 30 without really understanding how to stay on top of laundry. Please help! [more inside]
posted by peachfuzz at 9:17 AM PST - 46 comments

Oakland MeFites: What are the most interesting cultural manifestations of Oakland's two-decade-long demographic shift? [more inside]
posted by grrarrgh00 at 9:10 AM PST - 6 comments

What are the best online resources to guide me in developing a website using WordPress? [more inside]
posted by braemar at 8:42 AM PST - 8 comments

I got a tear in my dress shirt sleeve today, and I'm wonder if it's something that a tailor could repair. [more inside]
posted by Bulgaroktonos at 8:39 AM PST - 7 comments

I'm not a professional photographer, but I did some photography work (unpaid) for my company... is that work for hire or is it something else? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:35 AM PST - 6 comments

I have a rather unkempt winter beard and I'd like to shape it into an actual (but still thick, long and luxurious) beard. Every time I try to do it myself, I fuck it up. I love my barber, but there's a bit of a language barrier and ever since this little mishap , I'm not yet willing to put my beard back in his hands. So I need some YouTube videos or sites or books or salon manuals or something that will allow me to work on my beard without reinventing the wheel. [more inside]
posted by griphus at 8:26 AM PST - 10 comments

I just bought an iPad 4, and (since I rarely spend this much on myself) I'm really paranoid about taking care of it. All the special snowflake details inside... [more inside]
posted by JoanArkham at 8:20 AM PST - 12 comments

How do I use the remote control for a Sony BDP-S490 BD player to control my LG tv? [more inside]
posted by feelinglistless at 8:16 AM PST - 3 comments

I just found out that some friends of mine from Oakland, CA have gone missing while traveling through South America and I was hoping that there might be someone here that can help, either with resources or connections in South America. [more inside]
posted by anoirmarie at 7:59 AM PST - 26 comments

So hair technology has changed since the nineties and my last product-requiring hairstyle. I now have a perfectly standard irritating men's style-blogger/Talented Mr. Ripley haircut and I require something to keep the damn thing out of my eyes. But since my hair is not quite long enough to stay back really well (it's at that stage where it's too long not to use product, but not quite long enough to be easy to style) and my hair is very straight, thick, coarse and willful, I require a hair product that has some hold. [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 7:58 AM PST - 11 comments

I recently recieved as a gift this beautiful 3 quart Le Creuset saucier. It's about 10 inches wide and 3 inches deep. It's enameled iron. It seems too fancy to use like any old pan. Are there specific dishes I can prepare only with this type of cooking tool? Vegetarian only please.
posted by Jason and Laszlo at 7:44 AM PST - 16 comments

My daughter has a long-defaulted student loan. I am thinking of using my tax refund to pay off this loan, but I am wondering, will paying it off restore her eligibility for a Pell Grant right away? Or is there some kind of waiting period? [more inside]
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 7:41 AM PST - 3 comments

According to a study women talk more than men. Which study? [more inside]
posted by zinon at 7:12 AM PST - 7 comments

I recently had my DNA analyzed by 23andme, and now a friend wants to write about my results as part of a story in a popular national magazine. Normally I'd be fine with this, but I have some concerns about future insurance effects, especially considering one of the results. What, if any, is the real danger in having my name being used with my real results? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:45 AM PST - 24 comments

I am looking for a certain type of vibrator. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:30 AM PST - 5 comments

I have a table in my database. It has a bunch of 4 digit codes representing a location (as well as other data). The problem is that some of these locations need to be replaced with an updated code. I have a second table with the substitutions that need to be made, but it is only a small minority of codes that need updating. How do I format my SQL statement to produce me a list of all records, with the new location code if it has a new code and the old code if there is no update needed. [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 6:29 AM PST - 13 comments

Help me find some great coffee blogs. They could be practical how to type blogs, coffee shop reviews or straight up coffee porn. Bonus points for anything with a UK focus.
posted by u17tw at 6:28 AM PST - 8 comments

I would like to have a business-type gift sent to someone in Vancouver. Have a wine shop or something else to recommend? [more inside]
posted by Mid at 5:38 AM PST - 3 comments

I'm looking for a tool to help me manage my projects and tasks. The main requirements are: 1) easy to add tasks and subtasks (like Workflowy), 2) online (so I can work from different computers), and 3) tracks time estimates (how many hours left, how many spent). What should I look at? [more inside]
posted by justkevin at 5:37 AM PST - 9 comments

What are good places to look for a digital assistant? I know there are services who act as the middleman in the transaction, has anyone used those successfully? Are there ones I should avoid? What questions should I ask a potential digital assistant? [more inside]
posted by Melsky at 4:04 AM PST - 11 comments

I'm starting to get a few requests for speaking engagements and seminars, and I'm not quite sure what to expect on the business side of things. At the moment, these are private individuals who have a little experience with event planning, and know that I could draw a decent audience to a workshop. I'm a little unsure about how profits should be split between me and the organizer. I don't have a problem with the organizer making some money, but I'm the one providing the content, and I want to be fairly compensated. How does this generally work? [more inside]
posted by sdis at 2:59 AM PST - 8 comments

I have a pretty terrific wife and kid, but we have a kind of hole in our lives socially. We don't have a support network locally and since moving to the 'burbs we've struggled to make new friends. I envy the sense of community my dad got from his "church family." We're atheists, but isn't there some avenue besides church that could provide my family with a similar real world social network? Could joining a fraternal organization be the answer? [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 1:14 AM PST - 79 comments

My boyfriend is taking me on my first ski trip to Beaver Creek, Colorado. This is my first time both skiing and seeing the Rockies. Besides skiing and relaxing sore muscles in a hot tub afterward, what else is a must see or must do in this area? Thanks!
posted by gardenbex at 12:46 AM PST - 11 comments

If the repartee is a quick, witty response, what would you call the "opener" that it's responding to? I'm thinking along the lines of witty banter that invites a romantic/sexy response rather than verbal smackdowns or Dorothy Parkerisms, something like a "come-on" but implying wit and intrigue.
posted by war wrath of wraith at 12:39 AM PST - 14 comments

February 20
You know those fine breadcrumbs you buy in a box from the supermarket? How are they made? Do they bake bread specifically for it then blend it up, or do they use the leftover scraps from the bread factory? Or use bread that's past its sell buy date?
posted by dontjumplarry at 10:45 PM PST - 4 comments

I have very low RBC and WBC yet my hemogloblin is normal. Can I still be anemic? [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 10:18 PM PST - 7 comments

Need some career advice: Internet Brands has had me for a few interview for a Project Manager, but Glassdoor has some really bad things to say (and good, but those can be phony placements). Has anyone ever worked or know someone that worked there? What's it like? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:11 PM PST - 5 comments

I understand the basic concept of oAuth, but I don't understand how to implement it, from a line-by-line standpoint. I'm looking for a basic walkthrough of how to leverage oAuth to authenticate a PHP-powered application to access a user's data. I'd highly prefer the walk-through not explain how to use oAuth to work with any particular service (e.g., Twitter, Facebook, FitBit), but rather that it keep the walkthrough pretty vanilla. I would classify myself as being an intermediate PHP developer. Does such a walkthrough exist?
posted by JPowers at 8:03 PM PST - 4 comments

I somehow cannot figure out how to make the water switch from bath to shower in the place I'm housesitting. Please help me determine what incredibly obvious thing I'm missing. [more inside]
posted by c'mon sea legs at 8:03 PM PST - 18 comments

Hi, all. This should be fairly short, so here goes: While suffering through the Influenza of 2013, I ended up watching a ton of episodes of Danger Man on DVD, only to become entranced with this particular object, which I've made a screenshot of. [more inside]
posted by Minus215Cee at 7:58 PM PST - 15 comments

I read the esr article, and thought that was pretty good advice about asking questions. Then I realized I don't get enough advice about asking questions. So are there any considered texts, resources, etc about asking really good questions? Any direct advice? Edificatory anecdotes?
posted by curuinor at 7:44 PM PST - 4 comments

How can I dump data from Wikipedia and IMDb to make a new movie-related wiki, specifically for Roger Corman movies? [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 7:26 PM PST - 3 comments

Hi all, longtime reader here, new poster. While dealing with multiple personal hardships (more inside), I had a lapse in insurance coverage for 10 days. This has snowballed into a major issue for me, and I may lose my driving privileges for 3 months, which means losing my job. Any and all advice/anecdata appreciated. [more inside]
posted by cardinality at 7:12 PM PST - 7 comments

My husband is suffering the sexual doldrums of early middle age. Unfortunately, it's a catch-22: you have to be motivated to seek help...but when your sex drive is that low, you really don't care. How can I help him even want to have sex again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:50 PM PST - 30 comments

In my first relationship where I'm spending significant amounts of time with a boyfriend and need some guidance on how I can balance 'him' time and 'me' time. [more inside]
posted by sockypuppeteer at 6:27 PM PST - 15 comments

I'm considering taking a beginning yoga class. What should I expect? [more inside]
posted by bookmammal at 6:10 PM PST - 37 comments

I had an interview today for a sales job and agreed to do a 5 hour training course today. I decided against it not long after. I left a message with the main company should I call the actual interviewer person? [more inside]
posted by mamamia88 at 5:55 PM PST - 6 comments

What's the secret to trimming & filing your fingernails? I can't seem to do it right. [more inside]
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 5:50 PM PST - 11 comments

This is actually more like a two part question so bear with me. We are very likely moving to the bay area in the near future and could use some guidance. Also, we are heading there in about 10 days as my wife has never been and I want to make sure she falls in love with it. [more inside]
posted by nsomniak21 at 5:42 PM PST - 17 comments

Sorry for the esoteric legal question, but I'm intrigued by this case name. I thought that "Inc." was always preceded by a comma in a party name. Yet this case doesn't seem to include the comma: Sorrell v. IMS Health, Inc., 131 S. Ct. 2653 (2011) http://​www.​supremecourt​.gov​/opinions​/10pdf​/10-779.pdf A quick Googling shows a mixed bag of comma use. Does anyone have any idea whether the comma belongs or not? Thanks!
posted by travisf at 5:30 PM PST - 6 comments

My former bank refuses to give me a refund on an un-cashed bank draft. [more inside]
posted by fiTs at 4:45 PM PST - 5 comments

I love all the dancing feauted in Sean Paul's music video for 'Get Busy', but particularly the men's part @ 1:46 and 2:47. Can you point me towards more videos with dancing in this style?
posted by OsoMeaty at 4:40 PM PST - 4 comments

Hi, I'm looking for help in finding podcasts in Hebrew. When I google "podcasts in Hebrew" I get a lot of listings of language learning sites, but not much help finding actual podcasts... [more inside]
posted by lazy robot at 4:39 PM PST - 4 comments

What effect would a human peeing on a bobcat trap have on the efficacy of the trap. Would it tend to repel the bobcat, attract it, or neither?
posted by Manjusri at 3:10 PM PST - 2 comments

I have some sexual limits or preferences that I've been told are pretty weird. Both male and female friends have told me that they are really weird (I am female). But it's just the way I am and it's not going to change. I have been having dating problems because of it. I need some advice on the best way to tell men about my limits, and the best way to find that rare person who would be fine with them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:58 PM PST - 46 comments

My son had a phone interview for an internship at a STEM center a couple of weeks ago. It went well and the person told him she would follow up with an email about setting up an in person meeting. [more inside]
posted by jvilter at 2:52 PM PST - 7 comments

I'm a dual Portuguese - Canadian citizen, living and working in Canada. Can I travel to the USA for a business trip on a Portuguese passport? [more inside]
posted by MiG at 2:48 PM PST - 14 comments

So, Excel 2011 has a handy function for removing duplicates. Neat! Except that when it removes the dupe, it shifts all the cells UP, thereby ruining the relationship between the columns in the row. What I need it to do is this: -Look for dupes -IF it find a dupe, delete the WHOLE ROW that dupe exists in -Profit. [more inside]
posted by GilloD at 2:44 PM PST - 7 comments

Job Filter: What am I getting into?! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:43 PM PST - 15 comments

Have you had experience with resomation, aka bio-cremation? The mortuary taking care of my pet's body offered me the choice of cremation methods, with a gentle push towards resomation (a chemical bath that dissolves the remains), and ... while I don't want to overthink this, I just want to know if the end results are basically the same, and if there's anything else I should consider.
posted by roger ackroyd at 2:35 PM PST - 5 comments

So, this guy who has been stalking me for several years is not Brady-disqualified because we never had a domestic relationship, and he's not a felon. I already have a protective order. I'd like to know if he's disqualified from owning and buying firearms for some other reason related to his mental health or criminal history. Is there an easy way to find out whether or not somebody else is allowed to buy guns in the United States? I'm a lawyer but I don't know this.
posted by steinwald at 2:29 PM PST - 15 comments

Previously we used a Photoshop cs5 Action to save images that were already on our Windows file server to another folder on the server. We got a new server. The Action now longer works, seemingly because the path is different, though the drive letter is the same. I've attempted to record a new Action, following the steps in the old Action, but there's a problem. The new action records the name of the file, so all new files saves with that Action are saves names of the file used to record the action. The original action did not save the name of the file used when recording the action. We would like the new action to do what the old Action did How can I get Photoshop to record this action and not save the name of the file, so it can be used by multiple people on different Windows 7 machines? [more inside]
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 2:17 PM PST - 1 comments

Any tips on how to get rid of muffled ears? [more inside]
posted by hellameangirl at 2:05 PM PST - 8 comments

My friend may have to go into a group home due to severe problems with self-injury and other aspects of mental health. She has a lovely older cat who she is afraid to leave behind. What should she do with her cat? [more inside]
posted by decathexis at 1:51 PM PST - 15 comments

I'm asking this for a friend in neuroeconomics. She says:
A man is looking outside a window at the 13th floor and see another man is falling. The former asks the latter "How are you doing". The latter answers: "Fine so far".
Can you help her find this comic? If not the exact comic, could you suggest any other comics that "illustrate people's ignorance to the incoming risk or uncertainty?"
posted by tickingclock at 1:36 PM PST - 9 comments

I have a wrinkle (or whatever this particular skin condition is called) that is very similar in position and depth to this one on Ethan Hawke (mine doesn't go up that high but curves a little bit at the top). I'm trying to educate myself a bit before I consult with a dermatologist so that I can be an informed patient. Does anyone know if this is treatable with Botox? Are there any other effective treatments?
posted by Dansaman at 1:12 PM PST - 8 comments

So I have volunteered to coordinate getting a bunch of 3-4 year olds (ok, like 3 of them) to the slopes for a day trip/morning ski lesson, but not being a 3 year old, I don't know the best place to take them. I need a place that has group lessons that take 3 year olds (and that the 3 and 4 year olds can be together in a class) and that is near enough for a short day trip from Boston, MA. I could just search the web for all the mountains around, but I thought MeFites might know the better places to go. Thanks!
posted by katers890 at 1:09 PM PST - 7 comments

Is the dietary advice the doctor gives the captain to help his hemorrhoids in the novel Captain Corelli's Mandolin good advice in the real world for this condition? [more inside]
posted by bluefly at 1:03 PM PST - 5 comments

While reading Infinite Jest, I looked up a word in the dictionary only to discover that the example sentence in the definition on my Kindle was exactly the same sentence I had just read in the book. [more inside]
posted by :-) at 1:02 PM PST - 5 comments

Paint Removal/Solvent Experts: Looking for solvents/methods for removing paint (ink?) logos from semi-glossy aluminum bicycle parts, without damaging or changing the finish. Detailed pics inside. [more inside]
posted by jjjjjjjijjjjjjj at 12:47 PM PST - 14 comments

Inspired by this article I wonder how feasible it might be to start organizing a shared man cave for me and my suburban buddies. Most of us have no room to commandeer a room in our respective homes for such purposes. We get together 1-2 times per month to play poker and maybe 1-2 per month to watch a sporting event. Sometimes both at the same time. Since none of us are country club types (with country club money), this shared man cave idea might have some legs. Assuming a studio apt could be rented in a local apartment complex, what would you put in it? TV, cable, internet, bi-weekly cleaning, poker table all come to mind. What else? Also any logistical or legal considerations would be appreciated. Disclaimer: No need to banish the wives; they could use it for their get togethers, too. Just using the term "man cave" because it is familiar to most.
posted by teg4rvn at 12:42 PM PST - 40 comments

I would like to take some kind of self-defense or martial arts class. Only problem? I'm a dude, I'm 34, and my left knee is not-so-great. Bonus points for resources in San Francisco. [more inside]
posted by Sloop John B at 12:41 PM PST - 20 comments

Okay, you know that "On Top of Spaghetti" song? Can someone cleverer than me think of a second verse for that song that involves the poor meatball and A TRAIN? [more inside]
posted by logic vs love at 12:40 PM PST - 17 comments

I'm in the market for a pre-owned sedan with a budget of about 20k and the 2 options that I have come down to are a 2008 Mercedes C300 and a 2007 BMW 335i. Being a total newbie about cars, I have very little idea which one should I go for. They are both certified pre-owned hence I am hoping there should not be a major problem with either one's condition. Please advise as to which one would you prefer and what are some things I should watch out for while buying them?
posted by libbrichus at 12:36 PM PST - 16 comments

I am producing a TEDx event this Saturday and am having a pre-event reception before hand. I am looking for simple, easy to prepare, fun and inexpensive food to serve with wine. Something different than cheese, bread and carrot/celery sticks
posted by goalyeehah at 12:29 PM PST - 10 comments

I spend most of my work day looking at a computer screen, and several of the "off" hours as well. I have been having major league headaches during the day that I think is related to my vision and the (prescription) reading glasses I've had for a couple of years. [more inside]
posted by dukes909 at 12:12 PM PST - 13 comments

Last week I had an interview at a very small (less than 10 people) start-up. I had previously had a phone interview with the scientist who is doing hiring for the position, which is fairly entry level, and which I think I'm well-qualified for. The person who did the phone interview thought I might be a bit *over*qualified for the current job, but as a small company they have a lot of people filling a lot of roles. I really, really want this job, but I'm stressing over some things, and I was hoping AskMeFi could give some guidance. [more inside]
posted by sockpuppetofexistentialconfusion at 11:52 AM PST - 9 comments

My wife is a new RE agent in the L.A. area and is looking for ways to meet people who may be interested in buying/selling a home. Does the community have any ideas on how she can go out and meet this group of people, network with them, and start to generate leads? Thanks.
posted by mistermc at 11:48 AM PST - 10 comments

I would like to have an inexpensive unit in my car that puts out a radar signal. I don’t want to spend a lot because I don’t want to measure the speed of anything. I just want other drivers on the highway with radar detectors to think there is police radar in the area, so that they slow down. I don’t know much about this, and I am afraid that a cheap radar gun puts out a signal in one direction only and won’t activate radar detectors all around me. Also, if there is a less expensive way to generate the appropriate radar-like radio waves, that would be better. Does anyone know of a method of fooling people with radar detectors so that they slow down?
posted by sitecoach at 11:40 AM PST - 28 comments

I think my marriage may be irreparably broken. The idea of splitting up is agonizing, but if things don't turn around soon, I can't stay. But. I don't know what to do about our cat, and it's tearing me apart. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:35 AM PST - 39 comments

I have accepted a job through a contractor and start next week. I have just been sent the SF85P-S and SF85P to fill out and bring with me the first day of my job. I am freaking out. I figure if it was a super huge deal and not just a formality, they would have had me fill out this stuff a while back, right? I had no idea I would be filling this out or that the job was a federal agency, I thought it was just for the state, like civil service. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:35 AM PST - 6 comments

Hi! I often eat in a certain restaurant, and one of the people who works there asked if I would help her with her writing in English. I am very happy to help, but I have no idea how to do this. She speaks very good English, but she said her writing is very bad. (Her first language is Spanish.) I am meeting with her (and maybe a few of her co-workers) for the first time this week -- any ideas on what we should do? I thought I'd start out with dictation, but any ideas would be much appreciated!
posted by caoimhe at 11:31 AM PST - 9 comments

A friend asked me to help her find a book she enjoyed about 10 years ago. This what she remembers: man flies home to southern US to visit family; his father picks him up at airport; they get into a bad car accident; they wake up in a house where a woman takes care of them; she has a dog; she and dog turn out to be ghosts or spirits or something.
posted by mareli at 10:30 AM PST - 0 comments

I applied last year to extend my Tier 1 (General) Visa and it was refused last week. The Home Office's refusal letter said the evidence to support the income claimed did not meet documentary requirements. I need to appeal by Tuesday next week or lose my right to appeal and face deportation. Panicking and wading through masses of contradictory advice. Please help... [more inside]
posted by MrChuckles at 10:25 AM PST - 3 comments

Trying to find out copyright information on 20 year old game. (more below) [more inside]
posted by gb77 at 10:15 AM PST - 19 comments

I recently turned 40 and my skin, which has previously been happy under my tender loving care, has decided to rebel. I've always had dry skin but this winter is the first I've experienced flaky patches on my face. My usual moisturizer does nothing. HELP! [more inside]
posted by jezemars at 9:54 AM PST - 34 comments

Early-30s straight guy here. Shy with women, by no means a social butterfly (social moth?), so have little sexual experience - I lost my virginity relatively late and have only had a handful of very brief relationships and one-night stands since. I'd like to have some casual sex as a way of gaining confidence and learning the ropes (oh, and for fun), but haven't had any success finding it so far. Ideas? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:47 AM PST - 26 comments

I use a mid-2009 Mac Pro for photo editing / cataloging in Lightroom. Performance has been increasingly unsatisfactory. Looking for your advice re: upgrades to the Mac Pro, or perhaps getting a new Macbook Pro. Specs inside. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 9:39 AM PST - 12 comments

Percussive maintenance is hitting an electronic or mechanical device to get it to work. I'd love to hear about any movies, tv shows, games or commercials where you've seen a character do this (not necessarily successfully). TV Tropes of course covers this pretty well but the more examples I can get, the better. It's for a supercut project. [more inside]
posted by dunk at 9:35 AM PST - 23 comments

Somewhat of an odd and hard to Google question: I'm looking for materials. Specifically, some kind of white powder, some kind of black powder. Specs for black: grain size would be just fine until about the size of salt/sand, ideal weight would be somewhere in between salt and flour (needs to have a short momentum in the air, but not as volatile as, let's say, ground up charcoal). Specs for white: salt could work out, but something slightly less heavy would be even better. Anything you encounter in your life/hobbies/work that would fit those specs? [more inside]
posted by kitsuloukos at 9:30 AM PST - 18 comments

On that scroll that runs on your left-hand side of your Facebook page, you see that a friend has made a comment on a post. The first few words of their comment are visible, but unless you can find the actual full comment they posted, you can''t figure out what they said, and you don't want to scroll through 1,894 comments looking for that one person's thoughts. There must be a simple way to get to their posting, right?
posted by mmf at 9:29 AM PST - 7 comments

For my job, I'm looking for some material to create an audio soundscape for this photo. I don't know much about hip hop or what might have been associated with hip hop culture in 1993 coastal Texas. What songs, ambient sounds, interview snippets, or other (very short) sound experiences would enhance your viewing of this photo?
posted by Miko at 8:59 AM PST - 8 comments

Hey mefites, how did you build up your friendship group and support system? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess at 8:03 AM PST - 12 comments

I've had recurring severe pain in my upper back and neck for the last four years. I don't know what to do next. Several years ago my brother saw a physiotherapist-type dude (other side of the country sadly or I'd be beating his door down) who cured his crippling shoulder pain. Do you know of someone in North London who can do this for me? [more inside]
posted by greenish at 7:35 AM PST - 1 comments

My mom has what seems to be undiagnosed borderline personality disorder. For the last many years, she's burned bridges at work and let her self-loathing get the best of her, to the point that she's chronically unemployed, has alienated most of her friends, and has exhausted all her financial resources. She's hit rock bottom, with $0 in the bank and debts to pay. And she's turned to me for help, saying she doesn't know how to take care of herself. I'm 26. I'm struggling to pay back my own student loans. Please help me help my mom. This is in Canada. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:06 AM PST - 22 comments

I'm kinky, but only sometimes. He's kinky, all the time, and more so than me. He also displays a focus on certain specific sex acts that I find worrying and is interfering with our sex life - not the things we do, but the things it seems he has to do to come or be happy. How do we deal with this? What do these desires of his mean? And if I'm not into the things he has to do, does it mean he's not into me? (Insecurities abound) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:05 AM PST - 28 comments

In New York, and many other cities, developers can build bigger buildings than would otherwise be allowed, as long as they provide amenities such as parks, schools, affordable housing, etc. I want to show students how this works by providing a photo or drawing of a real building, annotated to show how much of the height is due to these bonuses. For example, a drawing of a 50 story building, where the first 30 floors are unannotated, but then 30-35 are labeled "plaza," 35-40 "affordable housing units," 40-45 "subway entrance" and so on. I want it to be from a real building, and clear enough to show via a projector. I'm surprised this doesn't already exist, but I've done plenty of searching and can't find it.
posted by lenore at 6:55 AM PST - 7 comments

I was listening to Local Natives - 11:11 and was hooked on the opening chords played on the ukulele, so now I'm looking for other original, slow, mellow/sad tunes with the ukulele. [more inside]
posted by querty at 6:42 AM PST - 11 comments

What's fun to do on a Friday night in Orlando, and so easy to get to that even a tourist from overseas could do it? [more inside]
posted by troywestfield at 5:55 AM PST - 9 comments

I want to spend two or three weeks driving across country this summer, then probably fly back to the east coast. I have a decent amount of money, but I'd like to spend as little money as possible on travel costs and accomodations (so I can spend money on activities and siteseeing) [more inside]
posted by empath at 3:53 AM PST - 12 comments

The other members of a group activity I'm involved in are geographically spread out and we need an online space to store documents, contact details and a calender. Google groups isn't really going to cut it as there's no calender function and we're currently communicating via Facebook, which is limiting in terms of the document storage side. I could use a combination of dropbox/google calender/facebook but I'd like to keep to one single system if possible, particularly one that doesn't require people to set up additional accounts. Any recommendations?
posted by fatfrank at 1:42 AM PST - 11 comments

This picture is a framed clipping from a magazine that dates back more than 30 years. The original is by Pietro Annigoni, I believe. I am looking for a copy of the original that is better quality than a magazine clipping. [more inside]
posted by MuffinMan at 1:34 AM PST - 2 comments

I have a seemingly never satiated appetite for new, interesting, original music. In the past when I've felt starved for something new, I've looked at the latest releases from record labels I trust that consistently put out exciting albums - think Thrill Jockey, Warp, Ipecac. What other labels should I be monitoring?
posted by mannequito at 1:00 AM PST - 19 comments

My husband and i love the works of derek hess, steven kasner, etc. Can you name any other artists that work in the same vein/style/feel? I am also searching for someone who can make me a really beautiful pendant of a cicada. *fingers crossed* Thank you!
posted by unlucky.lisp at 12:58 AM PST - 2 comments

February 19
We've had two, um, interesting experiences with a new pediatrician. Our son is now 22 months old, and the experiences occurred about 3 months apart. I've been advised after both troubling visits by friends that we should provide feedback to this doctor, even though we will not give them a third try. I don't know how to do this, or if it is even my place. More after the jump. Mostly, As a first time parent, I want to know if my issues with these visits are valid. Thanks in advance! [more inside]
posted by jbenben at 11:16 PM PST - 77 comments

How can I stop thinking and worrying about this problem? I was going out with a women for 8 months (5 months long distance, she moved for a school), she was great except she never apologize for anything, unless I bring up. And we broke up after we had a disagreement on a topic and she said the following "may be you need to find somebody else if you need more sympathy on this." That really hurt me, still does and the insult or harsh words keeps me up at nights. I am in depression. Few weeks later I decided to put it all behind and we spoke and started out saying dont need your stupid apology, I tried to underplay my heart break, after few minutes of conversation she said you sound like you need the apology. I am just shocked how when some one can talk about apology without apologizing after saying unpleasent things earlier. [more inside]
posted by globalbuddy at 10:15 PM PST - 24 comments

A coworker who I don't know all that well has invited me to lunch at her house. There are only going to be the two of us. She is not a drinker to the best of my knowledge so I think my standby bottle of wine is out (is it?) She is in her early - mid 60s and fairly formal and reserved. Failing wine, what else should I bring? Flowers? A plant? Would cookies be okay? She has been having a rough time lately healthwise and is I think rather lonely and down. I asked her what I could bring and she said "Oh nothing! Just yourself!" but let's ignore that.
posted by mygothlaundry at 9:23 PM PST - 22 comments

I have a relative who will be on a business trip to Mexico City for about 10 days in March, and I am very tempted to go down there for a few days and visit. However I am also concerned about the number of vacation days I will be burning up as I already have two other short trips on the books for March. I've been curious to see D.F. (Mexico City) for a long time. We would be staying in the heart of downtown, in the shopping/financial district, close to the huge urban park and a bunch of museums. [more inside]
posted by mmmmbobo at 9:22 PM PST - 16 comments

Please help me compile a list of openly gay video game players who are celebrities, influencers, or otherwise successful in their own industries. [more inside]
posted by Unsomnambulist at 9:10 PM PST - 14 comments

My birthday's coming up soon and I'd like to have a party-type thing with 10-15 of my closest friends. Previous years I've done group brunches, group dinners, and a picnic at Crissy Field, but I'm kinda stumped for ideas this year. Can you recommend any awesome birthday party venues in the SF Bay Area? Details of what I'm looking for below the fold. [more inside]
posted by rhiannonstone at 8:56 PM PST - 12 comments

Hi all, I think I want to knit something again! I am trying to watch more movies but I need something to do with my hands. What should I knit? Particular requirements inside. [more inside]
posted by exceptinsects at 8:23 PM PST - 28 comments

Why are large-format wine bottles predominantly named after biblical figures (e.g. this reasonably comprehensive Wikipedia page)? The answer is not easily forthcoming on either the internet (although Google has been asked "why do wine bottles have biblical names?" before) or in my collection of food-studies books. Any ideas?
posted by scrim at 8:13 PM PST - 8 comments

I found a job I want to apply for. It closes at midnight. I had not planned to apply, so don't have references ready to go. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonnymoose at 8:00 PM PST - 19 comments

I want to create an intra-company website for my co-workers to rate/review widgets. It will not be a commercial venture. Is there is a free or free-ish way to do this? [more inside]
posted by vidur at 7:59 PM PST - 4 comments

I have been using Premiere Pro 2, the really ooooold version, but I just upgraded to a new Mac Mini and it isn't compatible with my hardware. Some dude on Craigslist was going to sell me the full CS6 suite for $30, but after looking at prices from Adobe, I realized it was definitely illegal and probably malware. [more inside]
posted by brenton at 7:55 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me process my post-foursome thoughts about being less interesting or sexy than the other participants. [more inside]
posted by A Special Kind of Weird at 7:38 PM PST - 24 comments

So, I'm an audiobook junky and my current mp3 player is starting to go. My past few MP3 players have been various models of the SanDisk Sansa lines (e260, Fuze) which I've been moderately happy with. I'm not confident that the new Fuze+ models are particularly good based on the reviews. So I turn to the green for advice. [more inside]
posted by pyro979 at 6:37 PM PST - 11 comments

I'd like to report something to the FBI but I don't know if it would be dangerous to me to do so. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:50 PM PST - 12 comments

How big of a scam is Dean Graziosi? [more inside]
posted by Evilspork at 5:32 PM PST - 7 comments

I was hired nearly two years ago at a University Library when starting my MLS program but I was never given a job title. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:29 PM PST - 20 comments

I'm looking for a light that is not very bright, to be used in a room with a sleeping husband. Something between a nightlight and a regular lamp. [more inside]
posted by treehorn+bunny at 5:25 PM PST - 14 comments

Pretty much all of my photos exist on my laptop, a networked hard drive and Flickr. I am looking for a good way to keep the three locations synced with each other. [more inside]
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 5:23 PM PST - 3 comments

I have a 13" Macbook Pro that I bought in late 2010. Lately, it's been doing some odd things. Occasionally it makes a sound that I can only describe as an "electronic fart". Like a short buzz that lasts less than a second. The second thing is that sometimes parts of the screen go black. These things only happen once every few days. [more inside]
posted by ohmy at 4:55 PM PST - 10 comments

Can anyone give me a original source for this (almost certainly garbled) quote? "History is divided into two roughly equal parts -- that which probably never happened and that which doesn't matter much anyway". [more inside]
posted by unSane at 4:07 PM PST - 2 comments

Curious if anyone is/was from Microsoft, I had an employee based question. [more inside]
posted by pakora1 at 3:22 PM PST - 5 comments

Where can I find a good, clear explanation of the functions of iTunes and its offshoots (the App Store, Music, Podcasts, iTunesU, etc.) and how to use them correctly? [more inside]
posted by not.so.hip at 3:15 PM PST - 2 comments

I gave my boyfriend a surprise gift of a list of one hundred things I loved about him for valentines day. He found it after I left his house and called to say it was the most thoughtful thing anyone had ever done for him. I don't want to be the first to say "I love you" because I never have with any of my previous relationships and prefer a guy say those words first, but upon further reflection I am wondering if the list would count as the inadvertent equivalent of saying those three heavy words. [more inside]
posted by soooo at 2:54 PM PST - 35 comments

I use a wired lavalier mic that plugs into my camera with a mini-plug input. I'd like to use 2 mics for interviews - preferably on seperate channels. Is there a small box/mixer than can be the middleman between the mics and the camera? These aren't fancy XLR mics... they just have a basic mini-plug. Any help would be mucho appreciated!
posted by smelvis at 2:03 PM PST - 6 comments

Which Japanese flag is described in the first chapter of part three of Jules Verne's *The Mysterious Island*? [more inside]
posted by slowlikemolasses at 1:57 PM PST - 7 comments

For a research project, we’re asking ~24 high school and college students to log their experiences with homework by sending us text messages and photos over the course of about two weeks. Is there a site where they can send those messages so that we could see them from a computer? There are particular features we’re seeking... What comes closest to satisfying them? [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 1:57 PM PST - 5 comments

Instead of buying individual yogurt cups in artificial dessert case flavors, I buy a large container of greek yogurt once a week and make parfaits in these containers for a grab&go breakfast. I need more ideas for delicious things to mix into plain yogurt. [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 1:44 PM PST - 67 comments

I was at some live classical music the other night (Philip Glass, if it matters) and the experiencing was life-changing. I've got the music from iTunes but it doesn't sound that great over my normal cheapo headphones. I have never cared about audio quality before and it's not something I'm likely to get seriously into. But say I had up to 250 euro or so to spend on getting the sounds that's closest to what I heard in the concert hall - what should I buy or do?
posted by StephenF at 1:36 PM PST - 22 comments

Are there any drawbacks to using an MVNO/prepaid cell carrier? [more inside]
posted by Aizkolari at 1:08 PM PST - 19 comments

I am looking to do volunteer work in New York and was hoping to do something that would engage me like teaching. This could include tutoring, GED classes, SAT classes, job hunting, etc. I have a BFA and an MBA so I think I could be fairly versatile. I am hoping for specific suggestions I could pursue. Thanks!
posted by azoth at 12:55 PM PST - 7 comments

It seems to me that if you've been fairly happy for many (10 - 25) years, this trend would continue. For many people that doesn't seem to be the case. I am interested in hearing theories or experiences regarding that. How can something that worked for so long cease to work so suddenly?
posted by Feel the beat of the rhythm of the night at 12:25 PM PST - 71 comments

My daughter spilled permanent glue all over my last pair of jeans that fit -- they were from Lands' End and have long since been discontinued. Please help me find new jeans that fit! Here's what I am looking for: (1) I wear a size 6 or 8. The jeans must come in petite or "short" length, as I have very short legs. I prefer straight leg to flare or boot-cut. (2) I don't want high-waisted mommy jeans, but I also don't want the really low-slung ones all the kids are wearing (I'm 50). I have some Old Navy "Diva" jeans that fit OK, but I really don't like the low rise -- even with a belt, I feel as though they'll fall down, and some of my tops aren't long enough to cover the gap. Is there such a thing as "regular" rise anymore? (3) I don't want ultra-skinny jeans, but I also don't want baggy. (4) I don't want to spend a fortune. I realize that I might need to be spend $75, but even that sounds outrageous to me for "just jeans." The closest I've come is a pair of J.Jill "authentic fit slim-leg" petite jeans, which are pretty good but have a bit more stretch in them than I'm used to. Any other ideas?
posted by wisekaren at 12:14 PM PST - 41 comments

My father-in-law needs help connecting his Windows 7 laptop to a WiFi network; he is apparently dealing with an interference issue that stops him from connecting while at home. This is complicated by the fact that I am 1500 miles away and will not be able to help in person. He is not tech savvy. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by caution live frogs at 11:59 AM PST - 3 comments

I like to put cubed beef and chunked potatoes, onions and carrots in the crock pot and end up with dinner. I've tried lots of variations on liquid: water, broth, wine, coffee, beer. They all end up tasting meh, although the meat and veggies are usually delish. I'm tired of experimenting -- what do you use? One thing: I'm not going to dredge the meat in anything and sear. If I were up for that it wouldn't be a crock pot dinner. We have no food limitations except No Cilantro. Thanks!
posted by kestralwing at 11:56 AM PST - 53 comments

I'm looking for a bag that may or may not exist: a stylish hip bag that won't make me look either like I'm wearing a waiter's apron or like I'm on my way to a Renaissance Faire. [more inside]
posted by tomorrow at 11:43 AM PST - 21 comments

I need to eat at Red Lobster. What is there on the menu that a relative food snob like myself might enjoy? [more inside]
posted by sparklemotion at 11:33 AM PST - 64 comments

I just finished all of the lectures for the MIT Open Courseware Differential Equations course, and they were exceptional. What other MIT (or other school) courses really stand out? [more inside]
posted by wittgenstein at 11:25 AM PST - 8 comments

I LOVE horses. When I am around a stable I am my true self- calm, peaceful, happy- it is what I day dream about. When my life is crazy, I close my eyes and imagine being in a stable or riding. I know that I want to have a stable. I am by no means a wealthy person. I am still in grad school so ....and I am not planning to be a Dr or lawyer. I am wondering how can I own my own stable. I don't want to just own a horse and board it, or just take lessons on the weekends. How much would it cost to own a stable? I guess that I could board other's horses to defray cost. What else could I do to make the horses earn their keep? I'm thinking I want to own 3 of my own horses- for myself and my family. Is there any $ in selling horse manure? What about running a lesson program or an equine therapy program with PTSD vets, youth? Could I own the stable but NOT run the programs? What are the start up and yearly costs of owning horses and a stable?
posted by TRUELOTUS at 11:04 AM PST - 17 comments

Do people ever reconsider after rejecting someone? Or is that a pipe dream? I asked someone out and got rejected...but things seem to remain unclear. [more inside]
posted by christiehawk at 10:29 AM PST - 50 comments

My friend, a former Los Angeles resident, was kind enough to have me stay at her place in New York City for several days recently, while I was visiting. As a token of my gratitude, I want to send along some kind of LA-specific trinket - you know, something you'd put on your desk at work or your bureau or fridge or whatever, that says, "Hey: Los Angeles" to someone who knows the place. Ten bucks or less is the range. What would you get, if you were in my position?
posted by kensington314 at 10:15 AM PST - 16 comments

I'm looking into getting an extended battery for my smartphone. The only OEM extended battery for my phone isn't dramatically larger than the stock battery. Are non-OEM batteries safe/reliable? [more inside]
posted by pdb at 10:08 AM PST - 12 comments

I set up an event tonight where we need wifi. I thought there was wifi but turns out there isn't. How can I get 5-7 people's laptops connected to the internet without spending too much cash? Is this even possible on short notice? I know you can turn smart phones into hotspots but mine is a dumb sprint phone. Changing the venue is possible, but I want to avoid it. Halp!
posted by hot_monster at 10:02 AM PST - 8 comments

I have converted the top half of our hall closet into a little standing dressing area that holds my jewelry box and mementos. There is a mirror over my jewelry box on the back wall of the space. How do I light it? [more inside]
posted by michellenoel at 9:52 AM PST - 6 comments

I am finishing my associate of arts degree. I am trying to think of possible career paths. The careers I am thinking of are related to librarian work, academia, reading/literacy teacher, speech language pathologist. Some of my interests/strengths are clerical work, very creative, research/writing, counseling/teaching, art layout, health, the outdoors. I like working with children. Are there any careers along these paths that I should consider ?
posted by Lillian7 at 9:44 AM PST - 10 comments

Early May revelry-filled weekend excursion from NYC to Montreal for a group of roughly 12 20-somethings. We see time advantages to flying (provided all goes smoothly) but cost disadvantages. We see cost advantages to driving ourselves, but would like to minimize our personal stress and maximize fun. We see personal stress and maximum fun advantages to being driven, but have no experience with long-distance transporation charter and are unclear on whether this would be cheaper than flying. Any suggestions / experiences?
posted by undercoverhuwaaah at 9:41 AM PST - 18 comments

Just finished watching "House of Cards" and there's one thing I don't get... (more details, and almost certainly spoilers, inside) [more inside]
posted by handful of rain at 9:32 AM PST - 17 comments

I'm a librarian helping a patron. She's written an essay that, in part, discusses a piece of ancient Greek literature as the origin of a particular theme. She's received feedback from a reviewer that was very critical regarding the omission of several specific secondary sources. There seemed to be an assumption that the author overlooked or neglected these sources, when in fact she hadn't come across them in her research. The reviewer provided a list, but the author would like a way to avoid this kind of criticism in the future. Is there a way to identify key secondary sources on ancient Greek authors? [more inside]
posted by Boxenmacher at 9:16 AM PST - 5 comments

I was a comp sci major in college. That was 12 years ago. I graduated and as careers often do, I never programmed seriously again since... until now. I've spent the last 2 years teaching myself LAMP and jquery. It was like riding a bicycle. The data structures theory and other small things I managed to retain from my comp sci courses proved useful and in a very short amount of time I was able to rebrand myself a programmer. It's much easier and faster to create powerful, useful software these days than it was 12 years ago. Thing is though, and I imagine a lot of developers do this, the internet has made me more of a code aggregator than a programmer. I have 4 windows open at all times: coding window, app window, the jquery API and stackoverflow.com. Whatever I don't know how to do, I find very quickly on stackoverflow. I copy and paste the code directly and modify it as needed. Done. But I want to be better than that. I follow the general rules of good programming practice as much as I can... don't repeat yourself, be efficient, make your code neat, clean and easy to read. Without having a mentor or a guru around you, how would you know whether or not you are a good programmer or if you are a total hack???
posted by postergeist at 9:15 AM PST - 19 comments

Hello, I'm trying to get a playlist for my hubbie for him to code to - ideally electronica, drum and bass, EDM or even modern classical like Arvo Part. Only caveat is that there must be no lyrics - I'd love to hear your favourite picks! I've got a bunch up already at blip for him - he listens to my radio station there - user name - emilybear - to give you an idea of what I've got there currently but I need more, so much more as there's a whole lot of coding to be done. Thanks!
posted by ebear at 9:12 AM PST - 28 comments

I am looking for someone who has expertise or personal experience with domestic violence. This person should be comfortable with public speaking. Possibly a survivor of domestic abuse either as a victim or a child witness. There are many organizations who deal with education/resources for victims or potential victims. I am looking for someone who includes potential abusERS in their ideal audience and talks about how to recognize controlling behavior in oneself, how to avoid becoming an abuser for people who grew up witnessing abuse, etc. Geographic location does not matter. I was hoping to get a list of resources, experts, organizations.
posted by bq at 8:55 AM PST - 9 comments

We brooklynites want a long weekend getaway in early April. We're thinking Long Island, romantic bed-and-breakfasty but we have a couple of needs and hopes. Can you recommend any specific hotels or b&bs in specific towns that you enjoyed. [more inside]
posted by Blisterlips at 8:53 AM PST - 8 comments

Android apps seem to grab permissions that I have no desire to give them. My understanding is that the permissions per app are all bundled together: it's all or nothing. At least officially. Is there another way? Also, is there a privacy watchdog site that will help me find apps that actually respect my privacy and support/purchase them over those that do not? [more inside]
posted by jsturgill at 8:20 AM PST - 6 comments

Not an original story. I love my husband but I love someone else too. What do I do? Looooong explanation to follow, apologies. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:17 AM PST - 57 comments

Well, here's an extremely specific question in 2 parts. 1) I am currently the emergency houseguest of a gentleman who is getting a cold. I asked him if there is anything I can pick up for him. He has requested "ponaris nasal emollient." [more inside]
posted by millipede at 7:51 AM PST - 19 comments

Hi all, I have a project I'd like to do that involves the use of Broderbund's Load Runner game. I have a 4 year old Macbook Pro running Mountain Lion. I have found various sites to download the game, but so far none of the downloads work. [more inside]
posted by LizardOfDoom at 7:44 AM PST - 10 comments

I have been looking around for a framework or engine for games development in iOS and Android. Preferably I don't have to do my own memory management, so cocos2d-x is out of the time being. There are a few I am considering - Stencyl, Moai and Gideros. Anyone have any personal experience with those and wish to comment on them - in terms of performance, workflow and flexibility? Any thoughts/comments are welcomed! [more inside]
posted by crowbar_of_irony at 7:23 AM PST - 2 comments

What's the best way to store freshly baked muffins for, oh, about a week? [more inside]
posted by dynamiiiite at 6:41 AM PST - 22 comments

I recently started going to the gym in the mornings before work. Looking for a convenient shower bag/caddy to help. [more inside]
posted by dbirchum at 6:29 AM PST - 10 comments

I applied for a job in my field recently at company B and just noticed that I left in a sentence from a previous application in my cover letter that mentions the name of the company I'd previously applied to (company A). Whoops. I'm in a fairly small field and company A is one that people have mixed feelings about mainly because they have lots and lots of money and publicity. Should I drop the company I'm currently applying to an email acknowledging my error or not? If I do, any suggestions on how to phrase it other than "I'm an idiot, please forgive me.) [more inside]
posted by sciencegeek at 5:27 AM PST - 23 comments

Do you have any ideas or resources on creating exciting and interesting science demonstrations for kids 5-12 years old? [more inside]
posted by Jakey at 4:50 AM PST - 22 comments

My brother just moved from the UK to Perth, WA, and I'm planning to buy him a birthday present in the form of a voucher for something he can do out there. What would you recommend? [more inside]
posted by Catseye at 4:47 AM PST - 9 comments

Out of the blue, the mom of my ex-boyfriend (whom I thought I was just starting to get over with) wants to reconnect, but without his knowledge (we haven't been keeping in touch since Christmas). She wants to have "a little chat" -- when I pressed for details, she said only to keep in touch whenever I find myself in town. As well-intentioned as she may be, I feel this is quite manipulative of her due to the context of our breakup and I'm not sure how to respond, if I should, and if I should go ahead and meet up with her (I'm half-scared of being ambushed and reprimanded -- because she wants his sister to tag along on this chat, too -- plus I feel I'll be complicit in the mother's going behind my ex's back, whatever the outcome). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:36 AM PST - 81 comments

Silver Linings Playbook...when Pat and Tiffany first sit together in her studio and listen to music, it's Dylan's 'Girl From the North Country'. To me that was a curious choice. The song has a very personal resonance with me, but I can't really imagine Tiffany, a mid-twenties woman, loading that on the ipod. What do you think the purpose of using 'Girl From the North Country' in that particular scene was?
posted by j_curiouser at 4:31 AM PST - 20 comments

February 18
I'm moving to London soon and I have a freelance job (totally unrelated to entertainment) which lets me schedule my week however I like. I think it might be fun to get cast as an extra or even get a speaking role in random tv shows or movies filmed in London. How would I go about doing this? Are there websites to register at or do I need to get an agent? I have zero acting experience.
posted by KimikoPi at 11:04 PM PST - 6 comments

I live in a three bedroom, two bath apartment. Roommate A (current occupent of master bedroom) is moving out. Roommate B and I are trying to decide who should get to move into master. [more inside]
posted by tan_coul at 10:57 PM PST - 42 comments

I have a lava rock fireplace. Let's make it erupt! [more inside]
posted by cyndigo at 10:06 PM PST - 8 comments

Someone mentioned to my mother that a photo in this week's (2/22) edition of The Week magazine is likely me. The article is about people using computers and smartphones on airplanes and is called, I think, 'Please turn off your electronic devices' (p. 11). [more inside]
posted by yellowcandy at 8:49 PM PST - 8 comments

I have an apartment where adding in more seating is needed but I don't want another couch, but do want couch-density seating. I want something that makes sitting yoga-style on my hardwood floors more comfortable. What should I buy, and where should I buy it?
posted by Exonym at 8:43 PM PST - 8 comments

So I will be staying at The Standard Hotel in Miami next week. I will only be staying there on weeknights. From what I read on the internet, valet is $37 and takes sometimes an hour to retrieve your car. Thus I have several questions: [more inside]
posted by jennybento at 8:18 PM PST - 8 comments

Posting for my wife, a graphic designer who is tasked with doing a website layout job for a client. Here's the rub: The company has an existing logo that's red and blue, but she doesn't necessarily want to use red and blue as the dominant colors in this particular layout, but someone from the company is convinced that they MUST use red and blue as the primary colors throughout the site. I've had no luck coming up with any kind of evidence to support my wife's point, and so now I'm here to query the hive. Do any of you design-minded folks know of any articles or collections of layouts that might help my wife make her case? Sorry if the question is very vague.
posted by doogan nash at 8:15 PM PST - 14 comments

I feel as though my classmates and friends think that I'm a snob that silently judges them based on their intellect. However, I love my friends and classmates so much because they are wonderful, warm, hilarious, dedicated and intelligent people! How do I let them see this? [more inside]
posted by krakus at 7:36 PM PST - 29 comments

How much of a bad idea is buying a car a month or so before buying a house? [more inside]
posted by glenngulia at 7:34 PM PST - 21 comments

I'm looking for a timer app, for either iPhone or iPad where I can set a series of random alarms according to certain requirements. [more inside]
posted by booksherpa at 7:23 PM PST - 5 comments

For a research project, I have several pieces of equipment mounted on top of a large metal rotating circular surface. At the moment, all equipment is battery powered. I would like to come up with an inexpensive way of getting DC power and signal wires to a computer off the surface to analyze data in real time. Besides that constraint, going down thru the center isn't really an option since the rotating shaft is solid metal. [more inside]
posted by gzimmer at 7:17 PM PST - 8 comments

I have a good husband who treats me well. But he shouts in arguments every once in a while -- once every couple of months, maybe -- and I don't have a good sense of whether I'm overreacting to this. I'm curious: Is there an appropriate way to shout in an argument or is it always inappropriate? And do you or your spouse shout? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:09 PM PST - 45 comments

An IT co-worker is having problems with eye pain. Specifically, they are experiencing light sensitive pain waking up in the morning and at night, so much so that driving in the dark can be dangerous. What can they do to improve this so they can get to work safely and work their desired hours? [more inside]
posted by diode at 7:03 PM PST - 8 comments

Is there an iTunes alternative that will easily allow me to drag and drop files back and forth from my PC to my iPhone? My old computer died, and iTunes is being ridiculous, not allowing me to sync to another computer. Should I use MediaMonkey? iFunbox? What's the standard that everyone uses? Thank you.
posted by surenoproblem at 6:17 PM PST - 2 comments

My 40th birthday present to myself is to run away for several days by myself to indulge in restful solitude, nature walks, spa treatments and room service. I live in Oregon and am considering the coast, but could also be talked into Washington/California, or places other than the beach. Price is no object, but would prefer it to be within driving distance of Portland. Requirements and preferences within... [more inside]
posted by lilnublet at 6:07 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me refine searches to find awesome websites to visit everyday. [more inside]
posted by lpcxa0 at 6:04 PM PST - 13 comments

A friend has bet me that there are no novels in which model trains or model railway enthusiasts are portrayed as villains or otherwise threaten humanity. Is this true? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 6:00 PM PST - 18 comments

I'm looking for examples of newspapers that use photographs particularly well -- for both quality storytelling images and strong design that showcases/utilizes news photographs well. [more inside]
posted by rinosaur at 5:28 PM PST - 6 comments

Can't find an affordable hotel for SXSW, where else to look? [more inside]
posted by touareg at 4:41 PM PST - 14 comments

I finally came out to myself, my therapist and my mom. And I am in a deep overseas relationship with a guy that I met online from South America. Where do I go from here? Lots of details inside. [more inside]
posted by mrdexterous at 4:22 PM PST - 11 comments

I recently purchased this Acer projector and am wondering what aspect ratio I should get for the screen. [more inside]
posted by lattiboy at 3:32 PM PST - 4 comments

I see a lot of people refer to 'social skills' as an amorphous entity that encompasses being 'good with people', or apply extraverted-individual standards to define them (such as 'mingling at parties' or 'engaging in small-talk'). What I'd like to see is a set of actual skills, something like 'the skill of knowing how to write longhand', or 'the skill of tuning a piano': really specific and concrete, with broad applications regardless of one's lack of desire to mingle at parties or in bars. I guess I'd like to know what the hive mind thinks are the specific skills necessary to succeed in college (that is, with professors and/or fellow students) or with professionals in a semi-informal working environment. Bonus for specific skills needed for a teacher. Bonus-plus for breaking down any skill into aspects or components. [more inside]
posted by reenka at 3:31 PM PST - 17 comments

I need to know how to fix tags on links I imported from Delicious into Pinboard. [more inside]
posted by reenum at 3:17 PM PST - 3 comments

So we're taking our kids (6 & 8) on an overnight trip to NYC and we need diner and pizza restaurant recommendations near Grand Central, the Empire State Building and the American Natural History Museum. [more inside]
posted by victoriab at 2:51 PM PST - 11 comments

Looking for how-to guide to replace seat and back of metal framed chairs. [more inside]
posted by sconbie at 2:33 PM PST - 5 comments

I'd like to play blu-ray discs and stream Netflix. It shouldn't be this hard. [more inside]
posted by drjimmy11 at 2:29 PM PST - 13 comments

I will need to park a car on or near Stanford campus this week this evening through Friday evening. I would prefer to park the car as close to Campus & Bowdoin as possible, preferably within a mile. Worst comes to worst I can use visitor parking ($12 a day), but I would prefer something cheaper or ideally free. Are there are any streets in Palo Alto without parking restrictions near the eastern side of campus, for example?
posted by dd42 at 2:14 PM PST - 6 comments

GRE scores are supposedly valid for five years after the testing year in which you tested. Such is the case with the GMAT and LSAT also. MCAT scores are valid for 2-3 years. My question is, has anyone ever had to retake a test because their scores were too old, even though the scores hadn't reached their "expiration date"? Has anyone encountered an academic / grad admissions department that encouraged a test retake because previous scores weren't fresh / recent enough? (Admitters and admittees are both welcome to respond.)
posted by ditto75 at 2:06 PM PST - 4 comments

I'm looking for replacements for my starting to wear out knee-high boots, and having no luck. I would love to find something like these or these. [more inside]
posted by dotgirl at 2:04 PM PST - 8 comments

A dear female friend of mine, mid-30's, recently moved to Fresno. She is a professional with a good, solid job who isn't into the bar scene, and is having trouble locating a liberal and/or gay community within Fresno. She is looking for churches, gyms, cycling or running groups, bookclubs- anything to connect with like-minded people. Any suggestions?
posted by flesti at 1:58 PM PST - 7 comments

I've been experiencing what I think are intrusive thoughts after a horrible nightmare and I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:34 PM PST - 16 comments

My parents are now asking my sister's new live-in boyfriend to pay rent while he lives in her house, which they co-own and are paying the mortgage on. Is this right? [more inside]
posted by Auden at 1:11 PM PST - 56 comments

I have a car registered in IL, but I've lived in OH for 2 years now. How do I find out if there are any outstanding tickets on my plates? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 1:01 PM PST - 7 comments

I’ve realised in recent months that everyone I’ve been in a relationship with had/has a mood disorder - depression, or in a couple of cases, cyclothymia with crushing lows. This seems like more than coincidence. What can I do about it? [more inside]
posted by Someone Else's Story at 12:51 PM PST - 22 comments

Calling film historians and conservators! I am working on a historical novel set in the 1910s and I would like to get more of a feel for the time and place. Are there any high-quality online archives of films and newsreels of that era, from the likes of Vitagraph, Essanay and other studios? [more inside]
posted by burnfirewalls at 12:51 PM PST - 7 comments

Wife and I would really like to enjoy skating. But damn, it hurts! [more inside]
posted by dry white toast at 12:46 PM PST - 14 comments

I need help choosing the best course(s) of action to remedy damage done to my property by the developer next door. [more inside]
posted by lost_cause at 12:35 PM PST - 14 comments

You like to juice! Say you were to purchase a box of seasonal produce to juice for the week, what proportion of greens/fruit/veggies would you want this box to contain? [more inside]
posted by mandymanwasregistered at 12:31 PM PST - 6 comments

I need a tried, tested, and true recipe for making proper, dry, flaky sesame halva. [more inside]
posted by jedicus at 12:18 PM PST - 5 comments

I'm looking for a book about yoga. [more inside]
posted by Katine at 11:58 AM PST - 5 comments

I'm trying to find out the most popular guides to NYC (in particular) that people around the world use. In the US, this would include guidebooks like Frommer's or Fodor's. People can also check a site like tripadvisor to find hotel or attraction recommendations. What books or sites would people in Germany, France, Italy, China, India, and countries all around the world use?
posted by meantime at 11:55 AM PST - 9 comments

I am 27 years old, and now considering whether I should join the Air Force on an intelligence track in order to improve my chances of getting a job at State, or just improving my career options in general. Is this a wise decision? [more inside]
posted by masterisosceles at 11:19 AM PST - 9 comments

I'm 6'5". It recently dawned on me that the reason I hate doing the dishes isn't due to my fundamental laziness, but because scrubbing dishes while bent over for half an hour really does a number on my back. What have you, fellow tall person, changed around your kitchen (and the rest of your home) to make it more accommodating to the vertically advantaged? [more inside]
posted by no regrets, coyote at 11:18 AM PST - 19 comments

Work has had me start building responsive html emails to send to our member list with Facebook share links inside. I know you can open links to iOS native apps from emails and websites within the iOS environment, but is it possible to have those "share to your wall" links work correctly? I've googled around a bit, but not having any luck finding a clear answer.
posted by mgriffioen at 11:07 AM PST - 4 comments

Wordpress question: Is it possible to generate a report on which users are the most active on the site in terms of interactions, click-throughs, and time logged-in? I see a few plugins which claim to do this, but it seems like something you'd have had to have installed since the time you wanted to start keeping track. Is there something I can use which will find this information automatically?
posted by codacorolla at 11:01 AM PST - 6 comments

I'm working on a project that requires me to record a couple dozen interviews (two speakers max). Each interview is 45 minutes to an hour and a half in length. I have an iPhone 5 and want to use it to make my recordings. I need to send the recordings to a transcriber. I'm looking for a simple, reliable app that will make clean recordings. I'd like to avoid using an external mic if I can. Any favourites you can suggest? No preference for free or paid apps, I just want something that works well and is foolproof. [more inside]
posted by Felicity Rilke at 10:49 AM PST - 9 comments

I'm trying to recall a shooting incident involving a documentary film or news crew, a conservationist/conservation group, and some wildlife poachers in Africa. [more inside]
posted by broadway bill at 10:47 AM PST - 2 comments

In the 90s there was a comedian, or at least a comedy show host, on Comedy Central, who always wore a knit cap. He was very deadpan and may have shared shows with Dave Attell. I could have sworn he was also a guest on Dr. Katz, but he doesn't appear in the cast list. Slim man, white, with an angular face. I can't find him in any lists of U.S. standups or Comedy Central specials. Who was this guy?!
posted by juniper at 10:35 AM PST - 12 comments

Should I sent a potential employer and updated version of my cv, when the difference concerns the past? In the version they have, I didn't include one project I was working on, but I would include it now. [more inside]
posted by Triton at 10:21 AM PST - 5 comments

Hi MeFi, I have a friend who is having trouble getting access to the money her dad left her when he passed away. Her mother currently has control of the money and won't let the friend manage it herself despite the fact that she is 21. The friend wants to know how she can find out her account information so she manage her own money. Thanks, zscore
posted by zscore at 10:16 AM PST - 10 comments

I've slept with a lot of guys and only enjoyed it with like 10% of them. Are my standards too high, or too low, or what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:11 AM PST - 22 comments

I recently started at a new job that's going very well, and there is tremendous room for growth here in the next year or two. In order to get where I want to be, I need to start working a lot more and a lot harder. Difficulty level: I'm in grad school part-time and have an active social life. [more inside]
posted by anotheraccount at 9:51 AM PST - 32 comments

My 20 year old sister has finally decided to get clean. She is currently doing the 30 meetings in 30 days, and is 2 weeks into it. Her problems are more with drugs than alcohol (she did not abuse alcohol), but as part of this she has also quit drinking. What can I be doing to help her? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:51 AM PST - 8 comments

A gas stove in our family room uses a thermocouple, millivolt valve and manual switch to control the gas to the stove. I need to solder a new switch to the leads that go to the old switch (the total wire length is about 4 feet). What precautions do I need to take to ensure that I do not blow out the millivolt gas valve when I do the soldering? [more inside]
posted by mbarryf at 9:46 AM PST - 8 comments

I have a Mac with OSX Mountain Lion. My university uses Oracle Calendar 9.0.4. In the past, I have set up syncing to my iCloud calendar using my iPad with SyncML pro, so I know I can do this, in principle. What I'd like to do is find a way of syncing to my iCloud calendar without an iOS device - preferably an OSX application. Why is this so hard to figure out how to do? [more inside]
posted by Philosopher Dirtbike at 9:39 AM PST - 4 comments

I have an excel file with a list of phone numbers and someone requested that links be added, so that when you click on one, our text paging web page is opened and the "To" field is auto-populated with the pager number. Is this possible? I have no control over this text paging web page, but the input field for the form does have a name. This is the page: http://www.myairmail.com/ Thanks!
posted by jjbb at 9:33 AM PST - 4 comments

We're going to be flying into Seattle and out of Portland the first week of April with Saturday arrival and departure. We'll be traveling in a van with two families comprised of 2 high school Juniors and an 8th grader. Both Juniors are interested in Architecture majors, though one is quite academic and the other may be looking at community college close to home for the first couple years. The goal is to combine college tours with sightseeing. A side trip to San Juan Islands for a couple days would be of interest if it's not too much to try to cram in. Suggestions for colleges/universities to explore, places to stay, things to do would be greatly appreciated!
posted by ms_rasclark at 9:24 AM PST - 12 comments

What are the best things to order at bad chain restaurants? [more inside]
posted by swift at 9:12 AM PST - 75 comments

I'm looking for something like a MiFi that will accept a SIM. [more inside]
posted by aeighty at 9:03 AM PST - 7 comments

I want to purchase a frameable map of France, done in a similar manner to this one of Oregon. My Google powers are letting me down, even in French. All I'm able to find so far are 3D, molded-plastic relief maps, and then regional, folding topo maps. Any clues welcome.
posted by sandettie light vessel automatic at 8:45 AM PST - 7 comments

Facebook has sent me a code for $50 in free advertising to use in promoting my blog and/or its page on FB. Is it worth bothering to set up a $50 advertisement on Facebook when I'm not willing to spend anything at all on advertising over and above that? And it makes me nervous that they want my credit card info up front — are there pitfalls to avoid in making sure nothing gets charged to my credit card?
posted by orange swan at 8:42 AM PST - 7 comments

I can't believe I'm using a question on this but please school me on something very basic, again. For the first time as an adult, I own sunglasses that did not come from the drugstore and cost $12. Not very expensive, but expensive enough, especially for me, if you know what I mean. (And medically necessary.) I'm too cheap to even want to think about having to replace these in the next few years. [more inside]
posted by availablelight at 8:23 AM PST - 20 comments

My question is disgusting and primarily about my butt. Details below. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:10 AM PST - 28 comments

I am flying to an event out of state in September. I am morally obligated to bring the best bottle of bourbon that I can. It must be bourbon and it must be top shelf. What excellent bourbon can I be assured of getting in the Atlanta area between now and then? Cost is really no object. If I thought I could score a bottle of 23 year old Pappy Van Winkle, I would.
posted by donpardo at 8:10 AM PST - 11 comments

I have a friend who has a long history of saying hurtful things based on stereotypes to his friends. I want to gather his friends and stage an intervention. How to go about this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:08 AM PST - 22 comments

Help DC Mefites! Is construction on the Spanish Steps complete? [more inside]
posted by kitkatcathy at 8:00 AM PST - 1 comments

All the reader apps I've found don't have pinterest support, and the pinterest app browser is a super cumbersome way to use google reader, as is safari for ipad. The only workaround I've found is to copy the web address within the RSS feed of any post I want to pin, then paste that address in either the pinterest app or safari, then pin it, rendering ipad virtually useless for reading blogs. There has to be a better way, right? [more inside]
posted by Acer_saccharum at 7:35 AM PST - 6 comments

Last week I read David Foster Wallace's "A Supposedly Fun Thing I'll Never Do Again" (thanks to this FPP), while in the middle of reading Moby Dick. I found them resonating together so well: the high tragedy mixed with low comedy, the elaborate descriptive asides, the playing with formatting, the casual authorial self-hatred, the obsession with morality, to say nothing of the mechanics of the ship and the sea. All this without a single over reference back to Melville. What are some other great co-reads (or movies/TV/opera/album/etc.) to get that enriching resonance? Subtle is good: think tone, theme, shape more than plot or character. If you've caught Laurence Weschler's McSweeney's series of Convergences (published in book form here), that's more what I mean. The reader/viewer makes the connections without being led by the author (So, for instance, King Lear & Jane Smiley's A Thousand Acres are too overtly linked). Bonus points for something that goes well with Cloud Atlas (the book, not the movie).
posted by rikschell at 7:18 AM PST - 17 comments

How historically accurate is the portrayal of the interaction between the worker/labor class and the sales/middle class in the British sitcom 'Are You Being Served?" [more inside]
posted by RolandOfEld at 6:50 AM PST - 19 comments

Awhile back (3, 4, 5 years? not sure), I read an article that was composed completely (and intentionally) of borrowed/plagiarized sentences from other works. It was brilliant. I lost my copy and am trying to track it down again. Can anyone point me to the article?
posted by jamaral at 6:38 AM PST - 4 comments

Having problems getting a comfortable bra. Trips to Nordstrom or other fancy bra-fitting places are out of forseeable time range. Can anyone give me advice on what I should be looking for? [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust at 6:24 AM PST - 19 comments

What is this particular behavior called? [more inside]
posted by side effect at 5:55 AM PST - 29 comments

Purchasing meds without insurance coverage, what could be the implications? [more inside]
posted by zaxour at 5:54 AM PST - 5 comments

So for my old car I had this fantastic maintenance checklist, but I just bought a 2013 Honda Accord Sedan Sport and I can't find anything like this checklist. I've asked the dealer, I've searched websites but I just can't find it. I don't want to only depend on the system to tell me when to do maintenance, can you help me out?
posted by xicana63 at 5:48 AM PST - 3 comments

I'm years late to the party but I have just started playing Dragon Age: Origins. I am having a problem with Morrigan. [more inside]
posted by DWRoelands at 5:44 AM PST - 7 comments

Never play Triominoes with a statistician. My partner and I played just a few games before she became obsessed with making all the pieces join, (match), together to form a whole unit. Is there diagram of how this is done? I would like to get back to playing the game. Thanks!
posted by haikuku at 5:40 AM PST - 4 comments

My google-fu is failing me, and this is beginning to bug the shit out of me. Hivemind, you're my only hope. What was the Iranian (I think) film I saw, made around five-to-ten-years ago, about a community living aboard a derelict oil-tanker beached in the Arabian gulf..? If it's any help, the screening I attended at the Filmhouse cinema in Edinburgh was followed by a Q&A with the director (and was probably presented as part of the Edinburgh International Film Festival).
posted by kxr at 4:45 AM PST - 2 comments

I've got a four-year old PC running vista. It's got 4gb Ram and a 1tb storage. It's never been a high performer, but lately its been running really slow, especially on start up and getting really clunky when I have, say, four of five applications running. I've been considering buying more RAM to speed things up a little. Is more memory the answer to my problems?
posted by MrMerlot at 3:24 AM PST - 12 comments

February 17
We're likely going to buy a used (2006 or 2007) Prius soon. Any advice from Prius owners would be appreciated! E.g., problems you've had that we can ask our mechanic to check on before buying; unexpected likes or dislikes about the car; your experience with aging batteries; regrets you didn't buy a different hybrid instead? Thanks all!
posted by b_alex_a at 10:21 PM PST - 24 comments

1990s Rap Music Question: Lately I've been thinking about "Without a Doubt" by Black Sheep and "Big Poppa" by Notorious B.I.G... They both use Isley Brothers samples that feature that same "whining" instrument that gives them a sort of nostalgic, laid-back, almost melancholy feel. And they're both about chilling and being happy instead of thugging out or getting violent. What other songs have that same non-gangsta, nostalgic vibe? I'm thinking there must have been more in the 90s that I haven't heard. Seems like the West Coast had a similar "whine" in their sound but it always sounded different than the examples I mentioned, and they were repping thug life more out west? I admit, I honestly don't know...take me to school, brothers and sisters. Thanks in advance.
posted by ktoad at 10:06 PM PST - 25 comments

When I am drinking coffee at (insert random coffee shop name here), I get SO. MUCH. DONE. And feel great afterwards. I cannot get anything productive done in my apartment. Please help me trick my brain into thinking that it is in a cafe. [more inside]
posted by Kamelot123 at 10:02 PM PST - 26 comments

How do I prevent shingles? [more inside]
posted by Hawk V at 9:26 PM PST - 7 comments

I'm trying to remember an old gold mining video game (probably mid to late 80s). I think it was dos. It was similar to Miner VGA, but after playing that a few times it was definitely not that game. [more inside]
posted by fimbulvetr at 9:01 PM PST - 7 comments

I am a decent artist but very rusty, have intermediate Photoshop skills but draw quite well on my cheapie SB Pro app on my Kindle. (I even sold prints using just that.) Now, I have a new Wacom and besides the usual adjustment to using a wacom stylus, am finding that all three applications on my Mac have pros and cons (as a beginner with this wacom tablet), with the biggest con being the user myself. Can you recommend any books or links on doing drawings and paintings using the Wacom Bamboo (Splash) besides the applications' websites? Any brushes you favor or have downloaded and so forth? As an aside I note that pics I do in Art Rage at 300 dpi saved as psd don't open on my SB Pro application but this may be a future question.)
posted by snap_dragon at 8:59 PM PST - 3 comments

Watched Studio Ghibli's Whisper of the Heart several days ago, and am now obsessed with introspective movies/TV series about young students living in Tokyo. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 8:48 PM PST - 14 comments

I am a fat woman and my hair is thinning dramatically. What can I do to stop becoming a bald fat woman? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:28 PM PST - 29 comments

I’ve agreed to a job offer that I would now like to turn down. How do I best handle this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:28 PM PST - 8 comments

We've got a bottle of this vodka produced from 100% maple sap and we need some ideas for delicious cocktail experiments. [more inside]
posted by paddingtonb at 7:03 PM PST - 12 comments

I'm starting to mess around with electronics as a hobby and need to buy a soldering iron. But which one? Bonus question: a cheap, effective multimeter? [more inside]
posted by Merzbau at 6:27 PM PST - 24 comments

What is the best book to introduce pre-teens to how science works in space? [more inside]
posted by Mike Mongo at 6:19 PM PST - 10 comments

My wife, who has had an insulin pump for almost 18 years, has somehow never traveled more than one time zone with it. Next week she has 5 day business trip to the West Coast, and we live on the East Coast. Any diabetic MeFi's have experience crossing 3 time zones with a pump? [more inside]
posted by COD at 6:18 PM PST - 7 comments

My father had a profound stroke. He now has severe dementia and delusions. Sibling and I need to get power of attorney and also speak with a lawyer to determine long-term issues and help get rid of his crushing debt. Do I need an elder law attorney or an estate planning attorney, and what else might I need to know? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:21 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I persuade my long-term partner to do what I need about half the time? He is not, I repeat not, a good American progressive who's been through therapy. He loves me and wants to satisfy me, but is not a willing participant in the "hey, let's have an open discussion" approach. What are some alternative tactics? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:21 PM PST - 30 comments

I have an olive oil label printed in France by A. Oliveau & Fils graveur in Bordeaux for a grocery store or outfit in Mexico City, Cia. Abarrotera. The label looks like it is from the very early 1900s. I would like to know when Cia. Abbarrotera and/or A. Oliveau & Fils graveur was in operation.
posted by kirsti at 5:09 PM PST - 10 comments

Not harmonize... not concur... not compromised... is there a specific word for when two living things set aside differences? I need a specific word... not a list of synonyms... I'm looking for something that lacks connotation within the general public.
posted by JamesBlakeAV at 4:54 PM PST - 32 comments

We will be spending 3 days in El Chalten and 3 days in El Calafate, Argentina in March. What hikes and tours would be most recommended or must sees? [more inside]
posted by graventy at 4:48 PM PST - 6 comments

Is there any way to estimate the number of people currently living who have experienced ongoing war on their own home soil? I'm thinking of people living in Gaza now or London during World War II, civilians directly affected by ongoing bombing and military conflict, rather than soldiers or one-time terrorist-attack survivors. (I realize it may not be possible to separate that out.)
posted by jaguar at 4:32 PM PST - 2 comments

I use to work in nyc in mid-town by the MoMA but that was more than a few years ago and I am out of practice getting around/what to do in nyc but I've been put in charge. [more inside]
posted by Carialle at 4:22 PM PST - 2 comments

Hello, I was hoping that someone could name the turn-based space strategy game I played as a demo on my PC back around 1995. I offer these sketchy details: --it was a turn-based game where you piloted and battled using one or more spaceships --the game offered the intriguing feature of allowing you to design new spaceships --I remember learning the word "chassis" from the game, since you could choose what type of chassis you wanted in ship design, among other choices --the GUI was predominantly a gray-colored menu with text and options that you could interact with using the mouse, along with some more-or-less static images of planets and spaceships --I don't recall much in the way of storyline or even characters --I think you didn't see faces of characters much at all, or much of them otherwise. Thank you for trying to help me penetrate the obscurity.
posted by Perifferol at 4:21 PM PST - 18 comments

Until a few weeks ago my 25 foot long by 12 foot wide by 7 foot high basement was being lighted by three 48 inch fluorescent shop lights (these). They decided to all stop working in the course of the last 3 weeks. Replacing the bulbs hasn't helped. A similar question on AskMeFi suggests that the ballast is probably the culprit in situations like this, and that it's often cheaper to replace the fixture than the ballast. Before I go tomorrow and buy 3 ballasts or 3 new shop lights, I am wondering if my choice of fixtures is inappropriate. This is a laundry, exercise, pantry, hobby area so the lights often are on a large percentage of the time. This is New Jersey and it's cold right now, though it is an indoor space, it's certainly not as warm as the rest of the home. And basements are somewhat damp. It seems like switching to incandescent bulbs would be simplest, but between regulatory changes and "green" political correctness, I suppose that may not be the best. I just want the space to look bright, and for whatever I buy and put in tomorrow to last a reasonable time. Thanks in advance for your advice!
posted by forthright at 3:54 PM PST - 11 comments

PC game suggestions only, please. I'm a stay at home mom, and my laptop is pretty much glued to my side. Civ IV is my all-time favorite game. I usually play the Rise of Mankind/A New Dawn mods. I'm not great at it, as I find it hard to beat on Noble level, but I can consistently beat it on Warlord level. So what else would I love? I like turn-based games because I have little kids. I need to be able to drop my game whenever and come back to it as I left it. I've always enjoyed the exploration aspect of Civ, and I've liked playing Sim City in the past. Fire away!
posted by wwartorff at 3:30 PM PST - 17 comments

It's now relatively easy to backup your Facebook account. I'm wondering if there are any apps or scripts that allow one to manipulate that data. [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 2:37 PM PST - 3 comments

I've got this image of a piece of ground glass mounted in a standard 4x5 film holder. I've googled all sorts of things to try and describe what this is, but I cannot find where I can buy this. I've seen tons of pieces of ground glass that are for specific cameras, but that's not what I want. I want a piece of ground glass in (and sold with) a frame that makes it the exact size and thickness for putting into any sort of large format camera. Basically, what that picture shows. What is this and where do I buy it? Thanks!
posted by Brian Puccio at 1:42 PM PST - 27 comments

Where does the foreclosure auction when the title transfers from the owner to the bank actually occur and how do I get information about these auctions. I live in NM, but foreclosure auction practices in other states will probably help me figure this out. Also, does anyone have any experience to share on approaching banks regarding properties in pre-foreclosure. Finally, are there forums out there dedicated to these topics. [more inside]
posted by alcahofa at 1:31 PM PST - 4 comments

I moved back to Canada in November 2012 after living in the US for the past five years. Last year I had a CPA prepare my 2011 US and Canada returns and was shocked when I was billed $2,200 for what I see as a relatively simple tax situation. (W2, 1099-INT from the bank, statements of 401K and RRSP contributions and charitable donations) I still haven't recovered from paying so much last year and well, it's that time of year again. What are my options of having my US and Canadian returns prepared for a more reasonable amount? Can I get a US tax preparer in the States and a different one in Canada or is there some sort of connection that's required? Can I do the taxes myself using a TurboTax package from the US and one from Canada? I have my 2011 returns to use as a guide. I'm scared I'll miss something or do something wrong, but it's awfully tempting under the circumstances.
posted by Babushka at 1:25 PM PST - 5 comments

What publications give solid advantages in which lines of work when read regularly? A few examples might be McKinsey when read by HR managers, A List Apart when read by designers, Hacker News when read by programmers, and Poynter when read by journalists. What else is there in these fields and in others that puts a person ahead?
posted by michaelh at 1:01 PM PST - 16 comments

On a cold and New York winter afternoon, I sipped at my coffee and wondered at how to best phrase my question. I decided a direct approach would be best: when did editorials start to feature such long-winded and irrelevant introductions? What happened to the "reverse pyramid" I was taught in elementary, where you put the most important features first? Why is it not until the middle of the third paragraph that I usually find out what I'm reading? And do most readers actually like this style? [more inside]
posted by Citizen Premier at 12:53 PM PST - 20 comments

My tenant in my CA condo recently had his motorbike stolen. The condo's garage gate was under repair before he moved in and this was disclosed to him at the time of move in. It took a few months to have the gate repaired because of a part that was no longer available and the hoa had to install a new gate. What was supposed to be a few weeks of repair turned into a longer process because the old gate had to be removed and the new gate needed to be put in. But my tenant now wants to break his lease term because of the theft of his motorcycle and the distress it has caused him. He says that thieves have staked out and noticed his whereabouts and his family feels unsafe. He has emailed me a 30 day notice. There are 6 more months remaining on the lease term. Can you give me any advice on how to handle this situation carefully. Any attorney recommendations in Northern CA is much appreciated.
posted by gadget_gal at 12:49 PM PST - 30 comments

Cracked screen on a Kindle Fire HD. Can it be repaired? [more inside]
posted by Fairchild at 12:03 PM PST - 8 comments

This movie is a straight-to-VHS, released pre-1990, and features live-action reenactments of nursery rhymes with occasional use of illustrations for the more animal-based rhymes (though I do remember Humpty Dumpty being portrayed in live-action). [more inside]
posted by itchie at 12:01 PM PST - 5 comments

I was recently added to the list of potential hires for the foreign service. Great! I can expect a call anytime. The same day I got another solid job offer that's tempting but causes some logistical and financial complications. Do I take the bird in the hand? [more inside]
posted by exutima at 11:42 AM PST - 7 comments

I'm 38. My partner is 53 with a 20 year old vasectomy. I spent ten of my most fertile years in a lesbian relationship and I feel like I've missed my chances to conceive. What are my options? How much is it likely to cost? And what can I expect my insurance to cover? [more inside]
posted by dchrssyr at 11:27 AM PST - 12 comments

Last year I bought a new Android device that replaces a long string of iPods. I just now noticed that a couple things in my music library are not playable on it because they were purchased from the iTunes Music Store! What to do? [more inside]
posted by mkb at 10:14 AM PST - 10 comments

My divorced sister has a 24 year old son (23 in 2012) who lives at home but does not go to school, he has a part-time job. She did pay for all the expenses at home. Using Turbo Tax and it recommends she should file as Head of Household, but I want to be sure this is correct. I checked and I did put her son did not go to school in 2012. Can she file as Head of Household?
posted by just asking at 10:10 AM PST - 7 comments

My husband is considering doing online test-scoring as a side job. What do we need to know? [more inside]
posted by PussKillian at 9:31 AM PST - 16 comments

From a medical/science standpoint, what are the limiting factors that make it difficult to produce pharmaceutical drugs that do not have negative side effects?
posted by 6spd at 9:20 AM PST - 27 comments

Don't worry, I'm not about to ask anyone 'But whyyyyy don't you like meeeee??'. I totally get that someone can be not-into-me for the colour of my t-shirt if they want: no harm, no foul. But I would like to know how much follow-up is normal after a first date, and also if anyone has any idea how I could get this so wrong? [more inside]
posted by Salamander at 9:11 AM PST - 39 comments

After reading this article, I'm interested in varying the way I get my media more. Aside from places mentioned in the article, Ebony, Latino, PODER, Essence magazines, what should I be reading that will give me more perspective from people of color? [more inside]
posted by roomthreeseventeen at 8:53 AM PST - 12 comments

OK, weird question this week, but I have wondered about this for a while. I've noticed in public bathrooms there are a lot of men who either 1) spit in the urinal continuously while peeing or 2) keep pulling the flush handle while standing there pissing or 3) do both of these at the same time. I'm sure there are multiple reasons for why to do this, but I am curious as to your speculations about why they are doing it. Is the spitting some way of being macho? Is the constant flushing some way of disposing that which is "dirty"? the "normative" behavior is to piss and then flush, so why this variant (which also wastes a lot of water BTW)? Why the combination of both spitting and flushing? I think we may reveal something about male psychology or social ideology here.
posted by cmp4Meta at 8:44 AM PST - 21 comments

In light of this FPP about Elizabeth Warren grilling some regulatory flunkies about how they never take banks to trial, I was wondering: Has anyone ever made an Equal Protection argument that their prosecution / conviction / sentence for some crime is discriminatory in light of the slap-on-the-wrist that corporations get away with? Has anyone ever succeeded with such an argument? [more inside]
posted by spacewrench at 8:20 AM PST - 10 comments

My wife died. Everyone keeps telling me I should have someone to talk to - a counselor or someone from hospice or whoever. I don't really feel like I need or want that, though. Am I harming myself by handling this on my own? [more inside]
posted by tylerkaraszewski at 7:52 AM PST - 67 comments

Last week, my son (9 years old) was punished by his teacher (for trying to elbow his way back into a lineup). The punishment: the teacher made my son stand in the same spot for 1 hour (the duration of the class). I think this type of punishment is over the line, and I'm pretty angry about it. Am I over-reacting? [more inside]
posted by thisclickableme at 7:51 AM PST - 59 comments

How can I get back to sleep quickly after being awoken in the middle of the night? [more inside]
posted by antonymous at 7:44 AM PST - 24 comments

Hi I have an interview tomorrow and am in a total mess. [more inside]
posted by Flowerpower at 7:39 AM PST - 12 comments

Today I saw the 2012 film “Bully” and thought it was very disturbing, so I decided to start an anti-bullying campaign on facebook in collaboration with parents of bullying-victims. To help me understand the subject further, my question is: If you were a bully at any given point and had a moment when you stopped, what made you stop? Was it something someone said?
posted by omar.a at 6:55 AM PST - 17 comments

I bought a Nikon D90 with the 50-105mm/f3.5 kit lens and a 55mm/f1.8 fixed lens. I liked it at first, but now I hate it. Is there any way now to like it even a little bit? [more inside]
posted by smallerdemon at 6:44 AM PST - 14 comments

My dad built a proper pedestal for our new washing machine and dryer. It is 19 inches high. The challenge is getting the washer up onto the pedestal. The washer weighs 232 lbs. It is just the two of us today. I don't want to throw my back out. Neither does he. What equipment or physics tricks can we employ to get this thing up on the pedestal?
posted by jasondigitized at 6:43 AM PST - 16 comments

Gender, sexuality, and mental health. Help me design a workshop? [more inside]
posted by whalebreath at 6:09 AM PST - 12 comments

How do I move towards starting each day feeling grateful for the day and eager to get out and embrace the day (instead of wanting to burrow further under the covers and hope the day just passes me by, day after fucking day)? I know that on my death bed, be it tomorrow or 50 years from now, I will *profoundly* regret a life wasted feeling sorry for myself. I know that, and yet I can't stop feeling sorry for myself. [more inside]
posted by segatakai at 5:35 AM PST - 25 comments

I just moved to Oslo, like, last week. My friend is visiting. I live near Carl Brenner Square. How should we spend our time, get around, etc? Assume that I know nothing about Oslo! I've seen other threads about Oslo, but I need a little bit more location specific help and instructions on HOW to get to places etc. because I'm not even sure where I am. She'll be here until Wednesday. HELP!!!!!!
posted by anonymous at 4:43 AM PST - 8 comments

I'm trying to find an article I once read about someone's experiences of listening to all of Mozart's works in chronological order, downloaded onto his iPod, over the course of a week, or something to that effect. Can you help me find it?
posted by Busoni at 4:34 AM PST - 2 comments

February 16
Tonight while cooking I thought I had turned the oven off but it was accidentally set to broil. It was on maybe just <1 hr. It had a light on saying it needed to be turned off and I did that. Then it started beeping non stop which has finally stopped. Have I killed the oven? Should I be on the lookout for weird behavior from the stove now?
posted by oneear at 10:20 PM PST - 14 comments

Family of four adults spending ten days in London in June. We usually prefer apartments/flats and have used VRBO very successfully in the States. My first question (of many to come) concerns what part of the city to stay in. [more inside]
posted by raisingsand at 8:32 PM PST - 13 comments

When flying, I use a plastic accordion-style file portfolio to keep a number of things (listed inside) easily accessible in the seat back pocket (or other pocket in a bulkhead row). This makes taking these things out of my carry-on much easier and makes it less likely that I will forget something in the seat back pocket when I leave. It works well for document-shaped things, although the smaller more irregularly shaped things end up getting mixed up together. Is there a better solution? Or even a particular accordion-style organizer you would recommend? I am looking to get a new one. [more inside]
posted by grouse at 5:32 PM PST - 12 comments

Quick, blush-inducing question: remember the diner scene in Silver Linings Playbook? I would like more scenes from movies/TV like that (basically, a conversation which plays out like an impromptu tango, and in which one/both parties finds themselves unexpectedly/uncomfortably/obviously aroused).
posted by julthumbscrew at 5:32 PM PST - 12 comments

We're headed to England for Christmas. The plan is to fly into Birmingham and then use Stratford-upon-Avon as a home base (there are two productions that we want to see at the RSC). Are we crazy to consider renting a car and driving in England? Pros = We'll be able to drive to other locations we want to visit; we'll be able to get to supermarkets to stock our vacation rental. Cons = December weather (snow? ice?)? Driving a manual (will renting an automatic be cost prohibitve?)? Most importantly: driving on the left? Thoughts? Advice?
posted by tmharris65 at 5:07 PM PST - 25 comments

The cytology showed up that my dog's tumor has mast cells. [more inside]
posted by kamikazegopher at 4:50 PM PST - 7 comments

Briefly worked with someone in a galaxy far, far away. They want me to recommend them. I'm not convinced this person is the droid the job is looking for. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:49 PM PST - 25 comments

I have finally made seitan from scratch (rather than just buying Field Roast), using one of the baked seitan methods. It was GREAT and astoundingly easy! I am now contemplating the many, many flavor profile possibilities that seitan has to offer. Do you have a special spice mix, marinade or preparation method? I'm all ears! (Er, eyes, I guess, since this is a text-based medium.)
posted by rednikki at 4:02 PM PST - 10 comments

I (mid-20s female) just sold a chair to someone in my apartment complex after posting signs up in some common areas. The guy saw me posting the signs and asked to buy the chair so I made him wait outside my apartment so I could wheel the chair out. He was very nice but he gave me the creeps a little and now I am worried that I put myself in a vulnerable position by allowing him to see where I live. What can I do to keep myself safe now that he knows where I live, and how can I handle transactions like this in the future so I don't endanger myself again? I did take a picture of his license plate just because it felt like the right thing to do.
posted by These Birds of a Feather at 3:02 PM PST - 42 comments

Basically got very drunk at a party and became a sleazeball. Trying to gauge the appropriate course of action. [more inside]
posted by lethologues at 1:54 PM PST - 31 comments

Help us figure out how to cover up or replace this god awful kitchen floor. We just purchased a farmhouse that was renovated in the mid 50s. The mudroom and kitchen have 9" asphalt tiles that are all coming up (so not level), and on top of that, the prior owner used these rooms as a kennel for his incontinent daschund. [more inside]
posted by checkitnice at 1:44 PM PST - 20 comments

I am a math tutor in the walk-in tutoring center at the community college and I get asked by a lot of students if I do private sessions off-campus. I ask $20/hr, which I am told by my colleagues is a perfectly reasonable rate. However I realize that $20/hr is prohibitively expensive for a lot of people at community college, and I know that a lot of people I tutor could afford $30/hr or more. How do I tactfully offer a discount to someone who needs it while charging a higher rate to those who can afford it? [more inside]
posted by triceryclops at 1:43 PM PST - 18 comments

I am now responsible for the content of several large websites. There is no CMS; I have to email updates to offshore contractors. The UX design is...not good. What workflow practices should I adopt to make the best of this situation? As a word person, not a visual designer, how can I equip myself with the necessary UX design and information architecture skills to nudge future versions of the websites towards actually meeting our users' needs? [more inside]
posted by embrangled at 1:21 PM PST - 9 comments

Should I attempt to buy a home with my poor credit (if it's even possible) or work on rehabing my abysmal credit? [more inside]
posted by youandiandaflame at 1:10 PM PST - 12 comments

The wikipedia page for the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals lists duty stations for all of the judges and googling suggest that these are where the judges have their chambers. But the same wikipedia article says that the Ninth Circuit meets only in San Francisco, Pasadena, Portland, and Seattle, while there are duty stations in several other cities. I know the judges have to travel some, but why would they have chambers in places where they never meet? And how are these duty stations decided? ie If a new judge is nominated, are they automatically assigned to the same duty station as the vacating judge or is it possible to move to a more desirable location by accumulating seniority? [more inside]
posted by matildatakesovertheworld at 12:57 PM PST - 7 comments

I'm in Santa Fe, Argentina. My girlfriend and I are planning to leave tomorrow afternoon to hitchhike toward Mendoza. Neither of us has ever hitchhiked before, our Spanish is fine but not ideal (we've been in Argentina and Uruguay for a few weeks and have been getting along fine, but no one would mistake us for native speakers), and we are both fairly nonthreatening white Americans in our 20s. [more inside]
posted by cheerwine at 12:53 PM PST - 4 comments

I'd like to create a great streaming setup for my living room. Exact requirements inside [more inside]
posted by nickhb at 12:40 PM PST - 8 comments

Please recommend books, websites, and other resources to learn more advanced French food and restaurant vocabulary, so that I can read menus and cookbooks, navigate restaurants, and describe food ("salty," "sweet," etc.). [more inside]
posted by The Girl Who Ate Boston at 11:59 AM PST - 17 comments

I am handy with HTML, CSS and a little Javascript. I also have a lot of experience with Wordpress theme development. What is the best path for me to become an ace data visualizer on the web? [more inside]
posted by Rodrigo Lamaitre at 11:42 AM PST - 10 comments

What other songs feature a series of numbers, either in or out of sequence? [more inside]
posted by MsMolly at 11:36 AM PST - 91 comments

I'm starting what feels like my first "real" job soon, so it's time to straighten out my good but messy financial situation. Need advice on: credit cards, banks, brokerage accounts, & budgeting. [more inside]
posted by acidic at 10:59 AM PST - 4 comments

My mother still owns that building in a village, south of France. [more inside]
posted by nicolin at 10:56 AM PST - 4 comments

What is this scene from a music video? It's driving us crazy ... it was a little skit that (we think) happened at the beginning of a video. It was set in a grocery store, was funny, and the only line we can remember is "you're the (something)est green grocer I ever did see" ... which we think was punctuated by a loud, "Honey!" Thought it was David Lee Roth, but might be misremembering the opening of the "Yankee Rose" video, which is not it.
posted by jbickers at 10:29 AM PST - 2 comments

I have a broken cell phone that I dropped. I have insurance, so they will replace the phone. However, the phone was logged into my Google account, so once it gets fixed, I am afraid that somebody might get it and be able to do bad things to my account. How do I handle this?
posted by Irontom at 10:26 AM PST - 7 comments

Short: Guy let his domain name expire, we won it at auction after the one-month grace period, 1-2 weeks later we get an email from him saying "B-b-but..." [more inside]
posted by Anwan at 9:51 AM PST - 25 comments

I would like to know, when one is studying German, what do you have to learn with nouns? With verbs? I think with nouns you must learn the gender and the plural form, but that's it. Should you also learn declension? With verbs, what must one memorize in addition to the root word? [more inside]
posted by gnossie at 8:23 AM PST - 8 comments

The puppy decided that the 3DS version of Nintendogs was a suitable chew toy. The plastic housing is damaged beyond repair. The circuit board inside is slightly bent up. Before tossing the game and having to buy a new one, is there anyway to buy a replacement plastic cartridge housing and try the game out?
posted by Apoch at 8:10 AM PST - 4 comments

I think it's possible to put digital music onto vinyl albums at home with some device I saw advertised somewhere. But will doing this produce an anologue sound or a digital sound? Will it sound as rich as if the album had originally been on vinyl or will it sound emptier the way digital music does? I guess I'm basically asking if it's worth doing. I don't know technical stuff about stuff, so I hope my question makes sense!
posted by windykites at 7:03 AM PST - 15 comments

I've been blessed with the task of finding out why my father's windows 7 laptop can't connect to his new Virgin Media Broadband router. The laptop can't find the router, and I can't find a fix... [more inside]
posted by Inner Universe at 6:47 AM PST - 4 comments

I will probably shortly be expected to take over the work of my immediate superior without receiving a bump in pay or title. Please help me negotiate for a promotion! [more inside]
posted by neilb449 at 6:21 AM PST - 10 comments

What can I get my mom, preferably thematic, as she's on bed rest for knee surgery? [more inside]
posted by casualinference at 6:09 AM PST - 6 comments

What are some of the most interesting theoretical models for understanding the plots and themes of movies that were not designed to generate them like Inception was? [more inside]
posted by Blasdelb at 5:20 AM PST - 33 comments

My husband accidentally bought a pork shoulder instead of a loin for this recipe. It's now been marinated. Can we proceed anyway (I'm assuming with longer cooking time), or do we need to go back to the store for a loin? If the latter, what do I so with this mustardy shoulder?
posted by snickerdoodle at 5:14 AM PST - 9 comments

Finance guy failing horribly at marketing. I'm trying to figure out the best way to market a service to a small, geographically diverse population and would love your recommendations for: 1. books on targeted marketing in general; 2. ideas on how to reach AP Spanish Juniors and Senior and 3. ways to evaluate whether this is too targeted a population and we need to broaden out. [more inside]
posted by limagringo at 5:02 AM PST - 8 comments

I have fibromyalgia and it makes the bottoms of my feet ache, especially my arches. I'm a teacher, so sitting down is not an option. My feet are bothering me so much that I've almost reached the point where I'd buy these. [more inside]
posted by CdnMathTeacher at 4:55 AM PST - 17 comments

I'm in a three-year relationship. Recently, I've had a chance to spend more of my time with my own friends and relatives, and independently of each other four of them have said a variation of the same thing to me: that I am ignoring my own needs/goals in favor of my boyfriend's. [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 4:21 AM PST - 22 comments

I have a serious mosquito problem in my house, there are literally 10 or so in every room almost all the time. Every night before I go to bed I have to lay there and spray each one as it flies by me, it takes about 5 minutes and the spray smell lingers for ages. In the morning they are in the bathroom where the door has been shut and no windows are open, I have no idea where they are getting in. I leave my back door open a crack for my dog at night and I have a mozzie zapper in the laundry where the door is. It doesn't seem to be helping. I also have those plug in mozzie repellers but also not helping and very expensive. I don't have a pool or pond and don't know of any neighbours that do. Please help, this is really getting me down, not only the killing of them but the 30 or so bites I have right now. I am in southern Australia where it's hot now, but not humid.
posted by Youremyworld at 3:40 AM PST - 21 comments

I've had a particularly awful experience on Friday that made me pull over and cry for a few minutes. LA freeways are a nightmare, and I really need ideas on how to internally deal with assholes on the road, and repeated incidents of dangerous aggression. I don't know how everyone else does it! [more inside]
posted by Tequila Mockingbird at 3:01 AM PST - 47 comments

February 15
Can I use polarizing filters with two aligned video projectors to make a 3D image that then can be viewed with Real3d / IMAX polarized eye-glasses? [more inside]
posted by shipbreaker at 11:11 PM PST - 5 comments

When I was in third grade, I read a book of scary stories. It was certainly a book for children. On the cover was a humanoid monster with black and blue fur. It was snarling in front of a green sky over a green field. The field may have been a graveyard. One of the stories was about a house in which a murder occurred. I don't remember the title. Does the description sound familiar to anyone else?
posted by Rustic Etruscan at 10:59 PM PST - 4 comments

In Montreal for vacation. Saw man on subway wearing an awesome winter coat. He had a shaved head, and his coat looked a bit monastic. It was long (down below his knee) and a bit baggy at the bottom, very warm looking, almost as if he were wearing an old-fashioned sleeping bag. Also distinctive, it had a very high collar, almost to the top of his ears, all around. Does this sound familiar to anyone?
posted by leotrotsky at 8:48 PM PST - 9 comments

Roomies' religious convictions are colliding with my lifestyle. They're saying no sex in the house, period. They want overnight guests to sleep in a separate room. I really need the house. How do I manage this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:35 PM PST - 52 comments

Help me choose between 5 Vanguard Funds [more inside]
posted by r2d2 at 8:04 PM PST - 5 comments

I'm running out of ideas for TV comedies to watch. What do you recommend? [more inside]
posted by Effigy2000 at 7:46 PM PST - 52 comments

Yesterday morning, I woke up to my cat chewing on the remains of this cat toy. Noooooo. What do I do? (I have called the vet.) [more inside]
posted by perryfugue at 7:30 PM PST - 15 comments

Maybe you've felt this before. You are either running a fever or you are stoned on pain meds or cannabis. You're seated or lying down. You feel long, as if the distance from your head to your hands is maybe ten meters. Meanwhile you are anchored and somewhat paralyzed because it takes so long for signals to travel that vast distance of the nervous system. I'm searching for a medical term for this. Any ideas? Am I just asking what the medical term for "stoned" is? I am tracking symptoms for a doctors visit. Thank you. Dude.
posted by No Shmoobles at 7:08 PM PST - 5 comments

Can anyone suggest clean, funny classic comedy -- video or audio -- that I can use to introduce my kids to the idea that "funny" doesn't have to be ironic or mean? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 6:57 PM PST - 47 comments

When talking to a coworker I offered the phrase, "hey kid, go ask your Mom what herpes are.". My coworker responded with "herpes is.". We then started a discussion of the proper use of is/are and could not come to a conclusion. Any insight? [more inside]
posted by JakeEXTREME at 6:48 PM PST - 21 comments

Spoilers within. I just finished Season 8, Episode 10 "The Lesson" and I swear I've seen this plot before. What show was it? [more inside]
posted by sarae at 6:15 PM PST - 10 comments

Recently I've met several young men who said they're not ready for a relationship. Generally, they would like to date, even "long term," meaning months, or even a year or few, but they state that they don't feel ready for finding a person to settle down with. I am, however, ready for that. My response so far has been to not date people who state this, either on OKC (e.g. "how long would you want your next relationship to last?" "a few months to a year") or in person (e.g. a guy recently asked why I don't date younger and I said it's because they're usually not ready for something serious, he said 'yeah, I'm not'), but I'm wondering if this is a mistake I should not repeat if it comes up again in the future. Please advise me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:22 PM PST - 38 comments

I want to make brownies for my son's birthday and mail them to him. This is not a problem. What might be a problem, however... [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 5:05 PM PST - 11 comments

I have a very clear memory of part of an interview in the film Hype! wherein a member of.. some band.. I can't remember. And frankly, my mind might be fabricating this whole memory for want of such a thing to exist.. but he was talking about pressing vinyl LP's at home, recording them OVER other records that were bought from a store. Then taking the sleeves and pasting new art over the old.. I remember a clip where he seems to operating some sort of home version of a vinyl lathe. The record looking smooth and blank up until the point of the needle, where you see grooves being made as the record spins past.Then taking the sleeves and pasting new art over the old.. I remember a clip where he seems to operating some sort of home version of a vinyl lathe. The record looking smooth and blank up until the point of the needle, where you see grooves being made as the record spins past.. [more inside]
posted by mediocre at 4:45 PM PST - 14 comments

I am not as good of a person as I would like to be. Is there anything like a social justice life coach to help me figure out how? Probably not. I don't want a therapist, because even though I hate myself, I want to be a better person rather than a happier one. Plus, and this is why I need to not talk to my friends about it, it's really gross to whine about how it's so hard for me as a privileged person to deal with the fact that I can never be a good or trustworthy friend. I read a lot of blogs, and while I have improved, I also cry over what a worthless creep I am and that is gross, useless and also no fun either. Not terrible like actually suffering, but I don't like it and it interferes with my ability to have friends what with how annoying I am. So: no life coach ( I think), no bothering friends, blogs aren't perfect, what do I do? [more inside]
posted by WhathaveIdonenow? at 4:45 PM PST - 34 comments

I'm looking for places, either online or in person, to workshop literary translation and exchange knowledge/resources. [more inside]
posted by outlandishmarxist at 4:41 PM PST - 1 comments

I have a three bathroom house (one on the first floor, two on the second). Recently in the past two weeks I've noticed a very loud rushing of water sound in the bathroom on the first floor after flushing any toilet in the house. The sound is centered in the ceiling above the bathroom and I'm assuming our pipes filling up. Why the change from minimal noise I didn't notice to loud, rushing sounds of water now? What could be the problem and the fix?
posted by rainygrl716 at 4:40 PM PST - 3 comments

My Macbook Air was stolen this afternoon, with my gmail accounts open in browser windows. I logged out of all locations and changed passwords, requested a new credit card, and am planning to open new bank accounts (because I'd downloaded bank statements on a couple of occasions). What else should I do? Is there anything I can do remotely to track or wipe the computer if I (stupidly) hadn't installed anything to do that? What should I do to protect my work computer from the same fate? Thank you for your help!
posted by three_red_balloons at 4:28 PM PST - 7 comments

Handling bidness at high altitude. [more inside]
posted by letahl at 4:22 PM PST - 6 comments

I'm terrible at eating. I'm not bad at cooking, but I'm lazy, and the benefits (tasty food) don't balace the effort (preparation, and cooking and cleaning). If sci-fi meal cubes existed, I would be very happy. What is the easiest way to ensure reasonably complete nutrition? [more inside]
posted by platypus of the universe at 3:49 PM PST - 28 comments

Some people say, "don't quit your day job." I want a day job not to quit. This has turned recently into "I need a day job not to starve." Employers don't agree. [more inside]
posted by dekathelon at 3:07 PM PST - 55 comments

What are all the words to the song about spaghetti by Dapper O'Neil? Extra points if you can find an online recording. [more inside]
posted by donut_princess at 3:05 PM PST - 1 comments

I grew up watching Leonard Nimoy's In Search Of... and later, Ancient Mysteries. I recently watched Chariot of the Gods? on Netflix. I also enjoyed the similarly styled promo videos for the new Bioshock game (part I, part II). What else would I enjoy? [more inside]
posted by 2bucksplus at 3:02 PM PST - 8 comments

The good news is, I have a summer job. The bad news is, I have to go into a swimming pool for it. In a bathing suit. Every day. Yikes! [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 2:46 PM PST - 27 comments

I have an older MacBook I use when travelling (four or five times a year), and then the odd occasion when I am away from my office desktop. The battery on the MacBook died a few months ago, and I am guessing partially because I haven't been using it frequently enough. I am hesitant to replace the battery, figuring the same thing will happen again, is that right? Is there a downside to not having a working battery on the computer itself? And lastly, is there a problem with leaving the dead battery in the computer?
posted by nanook at 2:44 PM PST - 7 comments

I have a Orange San Francisco smartphone. It's also sold as the ZTE Blade. I'd like a new, more powerful battery for it. Where is the best place to purchase one from? I can find lots of sites selling them, but I'm having difficulty picking out the non-sketchy one(s) from the sketchy ones.
posted by Solomon at 2:29 PM PST - 2 comments

I have a system to develop new friends while simultaneously measuring whether they're worthwhile, allowing me to toss users and losers into the discard piles. However, I worry that the intensity of this filtering process may inadvertently be eliminating some perfectly decent people. Snowflake details below. [more inside]
posted by wolfdreams01 at 2:17 PM PST - 55 comments

In a bid to learn some bass riffs, I am looking for software that will strip lyrics from songs and give me only the instrumental version of the song. That, and I've always wanted to listen to my favourite songs in their vocally stripped incarnations. Any suggestions?
posted by New England Cultist at 1:26 PM PST - 10 comments

New boss decides, retroactively, I have been doing a bad job. I'm starting to suspect I'm being targeted for firing. Should I bail out of my current job or stick it out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:59 PM PST - 22 comments

I am starting grad school at Emory U in Atlanta in the fall and am moving there from the northeast with Spouse and 1.5 year old toddler. I am wondering where is best to look for non-university housing (which neighborhoods are best) and child care (child care being our main concern). Thanks in advance, hivemind!
posted by anonymous at 12:41 PM PST - 9 comments

This recent question on street names brought to mind something I have wondered about for years: in my old hometown, there are three consecutive parallel streets called Tuxedo, Huxley and Wexford. As a word-obsessed kid, I reflected on the relative rarity of the letter X in English and guessed there was likely no other place on the planet where three adjacent streets all had names with an X in them. Can anyone think of away to confirm or deny my childhood suspicion?
posted by ricochet biscuit at 12:21 PM PST - 20 comments

Hello, we moved to East Dallas a little while ago, and while the city itself is proving to be a veritable cornucopia of delights, we are missing going on long walks on a Sunday surrounded by nature. [more inside]
posted by Brecha at 12:03 PM PST - 9 comments

What are the available OSX native educational kids games that will run on an iMac G4 (I have the 400mhz one)? I bought the Jumpstart games off ebay, but those seem to be ClassicOS games that they just slapped a wrapper on, and as such they don't work very well. 640x480 in a tiny window not-well, for instance. [more inside]
posted by BeeDo at 11:56 AM PST - 6 comments

Looking for some podcasts that focus on video games. I already listen to the Giant Bombcast and The Indoor Kids. What am I missing?
posted by to sir with millipedes at 11:29 AM PST - 11 comments

What is the street in Michigan with the longest name? Or, how would you find this out? Assume I'm too cheap to spend any money on a commercial map database or the like.
posted by kc8nod at 11:22 AM PST - 5 comments

I have a project on Google Earth I created on a PC and want to show off on a tablet, but things are not going smoothly. Have I missed something? Do you know how I can make my project better on a tablet? Specific questions outlined inside, but I welcome other suggestions that may help me in ways I had not even thought about yet. [more inside]
posted by whatzit at 11:20 AM PST - 4 comments

I'll be spending the day with my two year old son in New York (staying in Cobble Hill, probably heading into Manhattan) on Sat. 3/2, and am looking for suggestions for fun, reasonably-priced activities that we can do together. [more inside]
posted by ryanshepard at 11:18 AM PST - 14 comments

I have been experiencing horrible headaches that I believe to be migraines. Any type of exercise (even mild) is the only potential trigger that I am able to identify. Exercise has been an important part of my life, but for the past few years I am not able to enjoy it as much because in the hours after I stop exercising headaches slowly creep in, and I am then sometimes in debilitating pain for 2-3 days. [more inside]
posted by TurkishGolds at 11:09 AM PST - 9 comments

Having spent years spent listening primarily to MP3s and Internet radio, we've been thinking about taking the big, clunky, 90s-era stereo components off of our living room shelves. However, one of those components is a turntable, and we'd like to have the option of occasionally playing our vinyl. We were thinking of a retro-styled portable turntable like this Crosley, but it looks like the non-weighted tonearm and styli aren't so hot. Are there any portable, suitcase-style turntables out there with decent tonearms that we can fit with a good cartridge? Our primary concern is that our records stay in good condition.
posted by eschatfische at 10:52 AM PST - 6 comments

My wife has organized a 5k as a fundraiser for her school. The event website lists it as the "First Annual" race. She got a nitpicky email chastising her her about it, complaining that it should be the "Inaugural" race. What do you think, and how should she respond? [more inside]
posted by RevRob330 at 10:48 AM PST - 64 comments

For 9 or so months, I've been dying my usually light brown hair pink and blue after bleaching it. I bleach it every 3 months or so, and use manic panic every month or so. How can I keep my hair as strong and healthy as possible? [more inside]
posted by kpht at 10:46 AM PST - 22 comments

I'm flying into MIA late tomorrow night and renting a car from Alamo before heading to my hotel on the FL turnpike. Can you tell me what this process will be like? [more inside]
posted by pandabearjohnson at 10:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Have you lived in an apartment in which some rooms are vented only to an air/ventilation shaft? What was your experience? [more inside]
posted by analog at 10:31 AM PST - 7 comments

Just too late for Valentine's Day, recommend me some awesome fantasy novels with satisfying romances. [more inside]
posted by WidgetAlley at 10:10 AM PST - 18 comments

I keep hearing about cool and cheap new gizmos obtained from Asia via ebay and other online sources out of the mainstream - inexpensive IPS monitors, Android set-top boxes, etc. Is there a good resource that covers these no-name wonders shipped to your doorstep from abroad? Articles, posts or blog entries about what's out there, how they actually work, and where to order them from would help... as would a guide to how to tell a scam from a steal, and dangers in ordering stuff this way.
posted by Slap*Happy at 10:01 AM PST - 10 comments

I'm looking to compile a list of those piano songs that "everybody" learns because they are simple, memorable, or good skill builders. Any genre is acceptable. [more inside]
posted by davey_darling at 9:43 AM PST - 21 comments

Is there a good app for recording actual unfiltered/ambient sound on the iPod? There's a chronically but intermittently reoccurring high-pitched sound that I'm trying to record, but all the sound recording apps aimed at recording voices or music seem to filter it out. Video recording captures it, but the resulting file is too large for my purposes (attaching to an e-mail).
posted by Lentrohamsanin at 9:29 AM PST - 7 comments

I've got a '98 Subaru Legacy Outback with 138k miles that I need to get rid of. It runs, but would need a fair amount of work done to continue running for long. It is safe to drive, but I wouldn't want to take it on a long trip. Trying to determine the best option: Selling, donating, or junking. In Philadelphia. [more inside]
posted by SpiffyRob at 9:12 AM PST - 15 comments

Help me find non-boring media that wraps you in a warm (or fierce) blanket of compassion or simply leaves you with a sense of gentle warmth, safety, or contentment? [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 9:10 AM PST - 57 comments

Please help me track down the source of a quote by Germaine de Staël [more inside]
posted by leibniz at 8:30 AM PST - 1 comments

I am considering writing a novel/story that involves the idea of people living among us who are somewhere between three and eight inches tall, but I don't know enough about the physics of sound to know if normal height humans would be able to speak to these tiny people. Would their voices be too high-pitched to hear at all, or just very difficult to understand? Would our voices be understandable to them? [more inside]
posted by Rock Steady at 8:29 AM PST - 18 comments

I'm in the Bay Area legal tech field. I'd like a job in SF proper, as my commute to Mountain View is brutal. My skills are legal tech, meaning mostly managing projects and programs related to the legal field in the tech industry. However, I feel that I have management chops for any industry, and I've worked in the start-up atmosphere before. Where should I post my resume? My LinkedIn is beefy, I've posted on Monster and Indeed. Any other ideas?
posted by anonymous at 8:28 AM PST - 2 comments

Should we bring our cat to our new and currently empty apartment while we paint and assemble furniture, to let her get used to it - even though we are not actually moving for another week. [more inside]
posted by rawrberry at 8:23 AM PST - 17 comments

Girlfriend pushing relationship faster than I'm comfortable with, any way to hit the brakes? [more inside]
posted by el_yucateco at 8:16 AM PST - 104 comments

DC/Northern Virginia experts: The other half and I have our first kid-free date night since, uh...too long. We're flexibile on dining options but I would like to find an awesome dessert place. We wouldn't mind driving someplace separate after dinner. The wrinkle is that this is for Sunday night (with a late start due to babysitting scheduling), and we'd like to avoid cupcakes. Hope us?
posted by QuantumMeruit at 7:56 AM PST - 10 comments

I help run a medium-sized gaming convention (~1000 attendees). Part of our convention this year is a vendor hall where people buy space to sell gaming-related products (dice, magic cards, board games, etc.). When our event was smaller, vendors had exclusive rights to sell certain kinds of products. Now we are growing and competing vendors want to attend. Has anyone dealt with the issue of how to handle competition between vendors at a convention? [more inside]
posted by Kolath at 7:46 AM PST - 9 comments

So I have a wonderful apartment in an old Victorian house. My landlord lives below me. He plays horrible trance-type music frequently but usually not at late night or early morning hours. It's just loud enough that the "waaa waaa waaa" of the bassline is audible in my apartment. It makes me crazy, however hasn't kept me awake (...yet). But, I am a superquiet person who lived for a long time in the country and maybe I do not have realistic ideas about how quiet an apartment should be. Am I in my rights to politely ask them to turn their bass down?
posted by genmonster at 7:27 AM PST - 21 comments

References both great and small are welcome. [more inside]
posted by fleetofblimps at 7:18 AM PST - 35 comments

My wife and I are taking care of our out-of-town niece, who is a month short of her fourth birthday, this weekend (and possibly our nephew, who is six months younger). We don't have kids of our own, so we're kind of clueless about how to entertain children that age. What are some fun and not-too-expensive kid-friendly things to do in Toronto this weekend? [more inside]
posted by The Card Cheat at 7:13 AM PST - 13 comments

This question opened my eyes up. I now realize that I'm an alcoholic. Yeah, I'm highly functional, but an alcoholic nonetheless. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:36 AM PST - 30 comments

How can I file a small claims court claim in Philadelphia when I am in the UK? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:36 AM PST - 4 comments

Asking for friends: We need help finding an IVF/egg donation agency in Thailand, and just looking at agency websites is unhelpful [more inside]
posted by msali at 6:35 AM PST - 1 comments

Can an employer force you to use your insurance (and obviously pay the co-pay and everything) for a test they will probably use as fodder to fire you, especially if the medical condition could possibly be related to the chemicals you have to use for job. [more inside]
posted by timesarrow at 6:17 AM PST - 10 comments

I'm considering making a game that uses USPTO patent illustrations (from Context-Free Patent Art) as graphics. I've read the answers to Patents.Stackexchange: Are text and images in the patent copyrighted?, which suggests that if a graphic is not explicitly copyrighted, it can be freely reproduced. However, I have some concerns: [more inside]
posted by Zarkonnen at 5:52 AM PST - 4 comments

I am bored of my small town, and considering a move to London. Is this a good idea? [more inside]
posted by molloy at 5:36 AM PST - 23 comments

Taking an older relative to see a Broadway matinee this Saturday, on 45th between Broadway & 8th Ave. We'll be hungry for lunch, but the selection of restaurants is overwhelming and I'd love a few suggestions. A good deli is ideal, but mainly looking for a place we can sit without too much waiting, with reasonably pleasant surroundings and good food. Thinking restaurant rather than lunch counter, someplace with table seating. Price is not the most important variable, so this need not be a rock-bottom bargain. As my relative is not able to walk quickly, I'm looking for something within a block or so of the theatre. Thank you!
posted by citygirl at 5:36 AM PST - 12 comments

What can you tell me about sophrology? [more inside]
posted by thesnowyslaps at 3:14 AM PST - 4 comments

YANMD, but: I have been practicing a bit of piano as of late. Maybe too much, as I started again out of the blue, and am working on a song that is relatively difficult for me. i noticed recently that my left shoulder is starting to tingle while playing. At first I thought it was just a one-day thing, but the problem is persisting and seems to be getting worse. [more inside]
posted by Thanquol180 at 3:07 AM PST - 7 comments

I keep having the same dream over and over. Has anyone else had this? [more inside]
posted by thank you silence at 3:07 AM PST - 18 comments

I'm renovating my bathroom, and want a hand shower mounted in the tile of the batch enclosure, on a hose, like in this image. But it seems like water can get into the hose hole and then collect under the bath. There will be a shower over the bath, although at the other end of the bath to the handheld. My plumber is a bit worried about how to waterproof it. How are these type of retractable hand showers normally waterproofed?
posted by dave99 at 3:04 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me create a condition report template online for our gallery. [more inside]
posted by multivalent at 2:38 AM PST - 5 comments

We've each left our home countries to be able to be together in a third country. It's working out wonderfully, and we want to get married eventually. But how - or rather, where on earth? [more inside]
posted by harujion at 2:26 AM PST - 22 comments

It's my girlfriend's birthday this weekend, and she wants a milkshake. So I need to get her a milkshake. Where in London should I take her for a really, really good one? Preferably I'd like some kind of burgers-n-shakes kinda place, but any recommendations are gratefully received!
posted by dudekiller at 1:16 AM PST - 16 comments

I would like to know which program is a really good one to record Skype calls. I have tried some but not sure which one to purchase. Maybe you could recommend a free one.
posted by VincentLee at 12:05 AM PST - 11 comments

February 14
I wake up too early every morning. When I wake up, I immediately start to worry about the Stressful Thing in my life. Then I get the tingly feeling in my skin and my heart starts to pound. And then I can't get back to sleep. And because I'm waking up too early, I haven't had enough to sleep. The sleep deprivation is compounding the anxiety. How do I stop this pattern? [more inside]
posted by (F)utility at 9:12 PM PST - 24 comments

I was wondering what is considered leading someone on. I'm looking for sexual intimacy with a woman. Usually involves private dating and only the two of us knowing about it. Is it misleading to hangout with them in groups and meet each others friends, even though I don't want to enter the serious boyfriend girlfriend stage. I just gernaly enjoy spending time with someone and going on dates. So basically, have you and any casual dating experiences I can get ideas from.
posted by mrfawcet at 8:20 PM PST - 12 comments

What's the scoop on high capacity hard drives these days - questions about RAID and OSX 10.6.8. [more inside]
posted by VikingSword at 7:28 PM PST - 8 comments

The Thai elephant tourism industry advertises itself as pro-conservation, but according to reports, it is more often cruel and exploitative. Are there any legitimate opportunities to spend time among elephants in Thailand or elsewhere in a way that benefits them and fulfills my desire to see them up close? I am looking for information on short term visits, not long term volunteer gigs. Knowledgeable replies would be most appreciated. I've already done my own Internet searches on the matter.
posted by Wordwoman at 6:51 PM PST - 13 comments

I've been on a progestin-only pill to prevent pregnancy for three weeks, and I am unhappy. Wondering if anyone experienced similar symptoms, especially dizziness/hypotensive episodes and irregular bleeding) and how long they took to go away for you. (details within) [more inside]
posted by Fire at 6:28 PM PST - 14 comments

one of my cats claws up furniture. I've tried a huge list of fixes, with no luck. I'm considering that he's bored. I'm on my last thread here, and the options are maybe now he goes outside and hope that being less bored helps, or that he gets declawed, which I'm totally against. help me with more creative ideas? [more inside]
posted by euphoria066 at 6:08 PM PST - 34 comments

I think I have athlete's foot. How do I stay clean and keep my shoes clean? [more inside]
posted by ablazingsaddle at 5:59 PM PST - 9 comments

One of my colleagues in a school thinks I'm a wizard. Thus she thinks I can make this interface. I told her it sounds terrifyingly complicated and that no off-the-shelf product does what she wants. Am I wrong? [more inside]
posted by argybarg at 5:10 PM PST - 12 comments

I'm going to help my brother install a raised bed and some fruit trees/bushes in a couple of weeks. We're probably going to be putting in some raspberries/blackberries, blueberries, and maybe a few fruit trees. I do not want to purchase diseased/generic junk at a big box. Is there a decent garden center in the West Newton area? Bonus points for tipping me off to somebody who can deliver a yard or three of garden soil/compost. Many thanks!
posted by Camofrog at 4:13 PM PST - 3 comments

I'm a cataloging librarian who works a couple hours a week on the reference desk. This morning I had a patron come in to ask me for sources that back up the claim that the probability that life on earth formed by random chance is so small that some kind of divine intervention is more likely. [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 3:46 PM PST - 34 comments

Is my Facebook screw-up fixable? [more inside]
posted by Elsie at 3:44 PM PST - 7 comments

I have a question about the average frequency of a particular sexual act... NSFW to be sure. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 3:29 PM PST - 37 comments

Can you please suggest full length movies or porn clips that have great audio that are Internet accessible. Not looking for music, but noises made from the sex. I'm also not looking for descriptive porn clips ala pornfortheblind.org. Thanks!
posted by bleucube at 2:45 PM PST - 14 comments

How is PMI on a loan calculated? [more inside]
posted by skrozidile at 2:35 PM PST - 3 comments

I'm stumped: A client has a form that evaluates employees, and there's a rating system of 1 through 4 and then the option to say that the question is N/A. I'm all set with adding up the total score based on the rating chosen. However, the client asked if I could add up, separately, how many times "N/A" is selected. I don't know how to tell Acrobat to do that, though it seems so easy. [more inside]
posted by thesocietyfor at 2:25 PM PST - 2 comments

For kids under the age of three, what household objects have been the most entertaining for your kids? I'm looking for household objects that your kid discovered and ended up being a cherished play item, not things bought in a toy store (e.g. buckets, bags, boxes, dead remotes, phones, etc.)? No electronics please.
posted by benzenedream at 1:58 PM PST - 71 comments

Doctor's orders, sadly. Does anyone know of any low carb cookbooks or websites (or just individual recipes) that would take the sting out of giving up my precious carbs? If there was a Cook's Illustrated low carb cookbook that would be perfect, but there isn't.
posted by malhouse at 1:43 PM PST - 32 comments

The good faith estimate for my refinance included government recording charges $X, and title services/title insurance $Y. In the settlement statement, it turned out that the government recording charges were less than estimated, so the lawyer's office just increased the other fee so the total amount is still $(X+Y). Is this standard practice, or kind of a dick move? [more inside]
posted by Behemoth at 1:38 PM PST - 7 comments

Well-made walking shoes with repairable soles? This is kind of in line with cooking with cast iron, shaving with a straight razor, etc. I want well made comfortable walking shoes that will last for a decade with some upkeep and repair. I'm looking to make an investment in some shoes that I can walk in all day that also look like normal shoes. Black/brown leather, no loud branding or insignias. I have Keen shoes similar to these & love them, but Keen doesn't repair soles as I'm led to understand. Are we now in a world where good walking shoes can't be repaired, is this a fool's errand? Not looking to exceed a couple hundred. Go!
posted by letstrythis at 1:06 PM PST - 14 comments

I'm looking for some of the best books/articles/podcasts/videos about positive psychology. Self-help books are fine, as long as they are well-founded in research. [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 1:02 PM PST - 10 comments

What to do with an abandoned, probably stolen, bike? [more inside]
posted by troika at 12:56 PM PST - 20 comments

I'm desperately trying to become an adult (finally!), but I can't wrap my head around 'classic' budgeting software. Suggestions and tips to find what I really need? [more inside]
posted by hanov3r at 12:44 PM PST - 28 comments

My wife, little guy and I just moved to a Midwestern city from the East Coast for my wife's job promotion and family and now she is having major second thoughts. Details of the special snowflake variety to follow. [more inside]
posted by extraheavymarcellus at 12:26 PM PST - 29 comments

What's that white, soluble solid coming out of my SodaStream's nozzle while I carbonate? [more inside]
posted by bitteroldman at 12:18 PM PST - 9 comments

While I am working, my phone is sitting idle on my desk, but within my field of vision. What are some interesting things it could be doing or displaying?
posted by mulligan at 11:53 AM PST - 9 comments

How have sociologists and/or economists historically defined or measured "middle class" in the United States or the developed world generally? I mean over the last 100-200 years. [more inside]
posted by Wretch729 at 11:51 AM PST - 6 comments

I have a friend flying in today from out of town. I was wondering whether its possible to have a flight attendant bring him a drink during the flight as a gift from me. Is there any way to do this sort of thing? How would I contact the attendant?
posted by jefficator at 11:11 AM PST - 14 comments

Last weekend, my parents gave my wife and I their old 10'x12' rug and the rubber pad that goes beneath it. It really ties the room together. But there is a problem: the rubber pad is emitting a horrible, disgusting, rubbery smell. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 11:04 AM PST - 4 comments

I want to change my Barbie doll's skin tone and paint her face to give her different eyes. How? [more inside]
posted by discopolo at 10:47 AM PST - 8 comments

I want to know why in Google Hangout it no longer says "Theirname is typing..." when the other person in the hangout is typing in the chat window (or "Theirname has entered text" when they've written something but haven't sent it). It's gone, and I miss it and want an explanation so I can move on with my life. [more inside]
posted by guster4lovers at 10:18 AM PST - 4 comments

Does anyone have a good way to filter out the best enterprise software products? I am looking for an enterprise software deployment tool and cant seem to google product reviews without someones inadvertant, or advertant twist on the product. Dont want a websearch. Came here hoping to hopefully find an answer(s). Thanks
posted by aceplanet at 9:22 AM PST - 8 comments

Greetings Ask Metafilter: Can anyone suggest a book or article that provides a simple, yet comprehensive explanation of the Riemann-Christoffel curvature tensor? I've studied the explanation provided by Lillian Lieber in her book The Einstein Theory of Relativity, but for several reasons I am suspicious of the validity of her derivation, and her claim that the tensor can be used to distinguish between Euclidean and non-Euclidean space. Lieber gives the Rieman-Christoffel curvature as follows: {σρ,ε} {ετ,α}- ∂/(∂x_ρ ) {στ,α}+∂/(∂x_τ ) {σρ,α}-{στ,ε} {ερ,α} Lieber derives the curvature tensor from a covariant tensor of rank one that has undergone two different sequences of covariant differentiation. This supposedly produces two different versions of the second, partial, covariant derivative of a covariant tensor of rank one. [more inside]
posted by jesman at 9:04 AM PST - 4 comments

I've always wanted to try an eyewear-based mind machine, but the number of options are dizzying, and it's not clear what's best. There's closed-eye, open-eye, different LEDs, and options go from $25 kits to being quite pricy. I'm aware of this previous AskMe, but it's quite old. If you've used mind machines recently, what's the lay of the land? Also, is there somewhere I could go in the Bay Area to try them out?
posted by I EAT TAPAS at 8:53 AM PST - 7 comments

When should we dispense of the pacifier for our almost 9 month old? [more inside]
posted by statsgirl at 8:20 AM PST - 27 comments

Asking for a friend who is suffering from bouts of vertigo. She's wondering if it could be alcohol-related, if maybe you've experienced anything like this, or if you have any advice. [more inside]
posted by komara at 8:10 AM PST - 14 comments

What dishes could I order that are unlikely to have sesame/sesame oil, in a Thai, Vietnamese, Japanese or pan-Asian restaurant?
posted by xo at 7:53 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me eat well during a conference! I'd like tips for food that travels well on airplanes, as well as anything specific to the Hyatt Regency McCormick Place in Chicago. Many picky eater details within. [more inside]
posted by silly me at 7:49 AM PST - 25 comments

So years and years and years ago at some hippie festival or other there was a guy hawking these goggle things. The gimmick was this: you'd close your eyes, look towards the sun or other bright light, and blow into a little tube that would spin fans built into the eyepieces which caused a strobe effect which was had a surprisingly psychedelic effect. Anybody else remember these? Do they still exist? What are they called? Are they for sale anywhere online? Relevant search terms have been taken over by a pricey Nike product which is not at all what I'm looking for. [more inside]
posted by ook at 7:49 AM PST - 13 comments

I have a 2nd generation ipod shuffle (the kind that's about 1 inch by 1 1/2 inches and is just a giant clip) which I would like to start using again. However, there is not a single computer nor human in our house which will tolerate iTunes. It's not an option, really; never using the shuffle again will happen before installing iTunes will. I have seen a couple apps on the internet for using this type of shuffle without iTunes, but I haven't found any reviews of them or clear instructions for them. Thus, I am asking y'all. Anybody know a good, easy way to get songs off my vortexbox and onto my little shuffle? I don't need playlists or synching or stats or anything, just the ability to move files from one place to another and listen to them on the shuffle. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by crush-onastick at 7:34 AM PST - 14 comments

So my divorce took a crazy turn for the worst and all hope of reconciliation has flown out the window. Can anyone recommend books for a man in his late 30s / early 40s going through and recovering from a divorce? Any books for either dealing with the divorce itself or dealing with life after and re-entry to dating world would be great.
posted by entropicamericana at 7:27 AM PST - 3 comments

I'm looking for some quick games I can play on my android phone, for when I'm waiting five minutes or dozing off at night. Ideally these will be more like puzzle or card games rather than action games (and even more ideally, free, but I'll pay a couple bucks for something great). Examples of games I've liked and disliked inside. [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 7:06 AM PST - 31 comments

Lookin for bibliographic sources fomr Biometry/Privacy thesis. [more inside]
posted by elpapacito at 7:03 AM PST - 0 comments

I will be visiting Austin, Texas for work in April. I'm thinking of taking a weekend break before I return to Europe. I'm looking for suggestions for somewhere relaxing to spend a few days near the city, preferably Texan in flavour.
posted by Grinder at 7:02 AM PST - 16 comments

Why should I use Adobe's applications? Of course, I realise I don't have to if I don't want to. However, I'm a subscriber to their Creative Cloud programme, primarily for Photoshop / Indesign /Illustrator. I already use the competitors to many of the other applications in the bundle. Are there any pressing reasons for me to use the Adobe versions? Please explain to me, but please: without denigrating the applications I already use. [more inside]
posted by Grangousier at 6:11 AM PST - 12 comments

CatLivingFilter: One of my roommate's two cats has become very attached to me, probably because my roommate (by his own admission) inherited the cat from an ex relationship and never really liked it that much. That's cool--I like cats, and cats like me. What I don't like is that the cat has become so attached that it will yell inconsolably outside my door, scratch at my door, and sometimes even bash into my door in despair of not being in my room. This has become a major sleep disrupting problem for me. What can I reasonably expect my roommate to do to respond to this situation? [more inside]
posted by The Sock Puppet Sentience Movement at 6:08 AM PST - 35 comments

How do I keep motivating myself to do medical treatments when I'm so tired, physically, intellectually and emotionally? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:08 AM PST - 15 comments

I really like some of Claire (Robin Wright)'s dresses from the new Netflix drama House of Cards, particularly the black dress she wears in the first episode (1,2,3). It is a simple black dress with a modified boat neck. Bonus points if you can ID her dress from the inaugural ball in the same episode, an architectural strapless white dress (which I couldn't find better pics of). Thanks!
posted by arnicae at 5:36 AM PST - 4 comments

I'm having dinner with some lovely friends who I haven't seen for ages. Coq au Vin will be the main course. What can I bring that will complement this dish in an amazing way? Wine, side dishes, hors d'oeuvres - all suggestions appreciated.
posted by h00py at 5:03 AM PST - 21 comments

So I broke the screen on my new Nexus 4 and just mailed it off yesterday to be repaired, and I realized too late that the daily alarm clock may go off while it's in transit. What will be done with the package if that happens? [more inside]
posted by pete_22 at 2:55 AM PST - 11 comments

A year ago, I posted about whether I should have any plastic surgery done to improve my dating prospects as an "ethnic" gay man in a major US urban area. Six months ago, after a lot of introspection and a commitment to psychological counseling to help me build my self-esteem, I decided to pursue primary rhinoplasty. Here is what I've learned in the time since I last posted about how to improve my dating prospects: [more inside]
posted by cscott at 2:48 AM PST - 62 comments

Help me navigate a clash of political ideals without losing my friends. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 2:42 AM PST - 19 comments

I'm going to Hawaii with 2 friends in May and am looking for recommendations for hotels. We will be staying in Kapaa for 3 nights, Kona for 3-4 nights, Hilo for 1-2 nights and Honolulu for 2 nights. [more inside]
posted by Kris10_b at 2:12 AM PST - 10 comments

There's this song that was played on the radio and I need to know what it was. Yes, another one of those. (I do not have a vaguely remembered book from my childhood to ask about, unfortunately) [more inside]
posted by brighton at 12:09 AM PST - 5 comments

February 13
Boyfriend hates Valentine's Day and doesn't want to celebrate it. He is super loving in other ways. What should I do? Questions about your experiences inside. [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 11:41 PM PST - 78 comments

Can / how can a US American get a visa to work a specific paid internship in Germany? [more inside]
posted by threeants at 11:35 PM PST - 2 comments

(Java-flavored question) I have work colleagues who can explain how and when the JVM inlines code, or when implicit constructors are made / called based on the access level of global variables. They can think through code like the compiler thinks. How do I get to that level? [more inside]
posted by blahtsk at 10:32 PM PST - 16 comments

I'm a curious amateur chef looking for some challenges. What's given you the most trouble in the past? [more inside]
posted by Ephemeral10 at 10:14 PM PST - 39 comments

I have to travel very light. It's going to be a boring trip. I have an iPhone. I'm looking to read on the cheap. What are the best free books to download to my iPhone? [more inside]
posted by BlueHorse at 8:35 PM PST - 23 comments

My small company is very likely about to be acquired by a larger corporation. I've been invited to submit any questions I might have regarding the outcome - what should I ask? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:29 PM PST - 15 comments

I need some suggestions for romantic movies released in the last 5-6 years. Something evocative of Love Actually or Bridget Jones' Diary would be ideal, although a British setting isn't necessary. Ensemble casts are appreciated. Romantic comedies in general are fine, but explicitly not looking for anything Judd Apatow, Adam Sandler, Steve Carell, or Seth Rogen have any involvement with. Any ideas?
posted by empyrean at 8:11 PM PST - 31 comments

I would like to keep a plant (alive) in my car, possibly in a cup holder. Is there a plant that could handle my car's interior environment, isn't too fussy about watering, and is not covered in needles? [more inside]
posted by mnemonic at 8:07 PM PST - 12 comments

Trying to remember the name of a book from my childhood. It was a colorful kids book of short stories that included one about an egg named Percy who sat out in the sun too long. [more inside]
posted by needs more cowbell at 7:34 PM PST - 5 comments

I am in an informal workgroup that shares a Google Drive account– that is to say, we all have access to the account along with its password. This arrangement has worked fine. Now I'm starting up a new workgroup with a different set of folks (incidentally, this is not paid work and the folks I'm working with are not colleagues in a strict sense). I created a Google Drive account for this new group and started to mail out the name and password to the group but suddenly thought– "Hey wait, why aren't I just sharing these documents?" I'd be grateful if you could talk me through the relative benefits and disadvantages of both approaches.
posted by carterk at 7:18 PM PST - 6 comments

Please recommend the best notebooks (lined/graph, margins, bound on the side, 8.5" x 11") you've used that DON'T have random spots and things on the pages. [more inside]
posted by obviousresistance at 7:10 PM PST - 15 comments

I want to only share my identity with the tax man when I write, and allow people to pay me online. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:19 PM PST - 8 comments

I've heard that DC has the largest Ethiopian population of Ethiopia, and an answer to this question mentions that Staten Island has the largest Sri Lankan population outside of Sri Lanka. What are some other examples of a city/state having the largest population of a particular group outside of that group's native country/region?
posted by hefeweizen at 5:51 PM PST - 54 comments

Name that young adult fantasy novel: Two boys who are enemies at school are transported to some magical scenario where they have to work together. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 5:41 PM PST - 4 comments

If people living in Laos are Laotian, then are those in Taos Taotians? [more inside]
posted by heyho at 5:31 PM PST - 35 comments

Does anyone recognize this Schleich PVC figurine? [more inside]
posted by Knappster at 4:52 PM PST - 4 comments

I made the same recipe multiple times, and have gotten different results every time. How can I maintain consistency?! [more inside]
posted by masquesoporfavor at 4:37 PM PST - 22 comments

At work I have a laptop (running Windows XP) that connects to the Internet via WiFi. Two other coworkers sit next to and across from me, and they connect the same way. About a year ago, we started experiencing connectivity problems. [more inside]
posted by zardoz at 4:36 PM PST - 8 comments

My Mac's 10-year-old bluetooth keyboard is acting up, and I'm pretty sure that it's death is imminent. I'd like to find a replacement, but Apple long ago stopped making full-sized wireless keyboards -- what are some good alternatives that exist in 2013? [more inside]
posted by schmod at 4:25 PM PST - 6 comments

I'm looking for an excellent women's hair stylist in Manhattan or Brooklyn. Definition of excellent inside. [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 4:11 PM PST - 7 comments

I got my first traffic ticket (boo) and not sure whether to fight it or pay it. It's for an illegal U-turn in PA. I think it's BS (no, really), but not sure if it's worth fighting. I also don't want to get points on my license. [more inside]
posted by DoubleLune at 4:01 PM PST - 15 comments

When did American banks first offer safety deposit boxes? If they were used in Civil War times, how secure were they? Got a great source on the topic? (Don't nobody worry, I ain't plannin nothin.)
posted by LonnieK at 3:52 PM PST - 5 comments

I'm heading to Bangkok in ten days for about two weeks. I looked into using my iPhone 5 overseas and the answers from ATT made me think twice about it. So for 100 bucks I bought a used Iphone 3GS. I figure I'd just buy a sim card there and I'd be all set. But then I thought I should check. Do I need to unlock it? or jailbreak it? Is there anything specific to Thailand and Iphones I need to know? What's the process here?
posted by rileyray3000 at 3:28 PM PST - 6 comments

My Thinkpad X61 tablet is dying. Work will replace it, I just need to tell them what fancy new machine I want. But I don't have much time - the new machine needs to be ordered and delivered by March 31! Which doesn't give me enough time to research my options. Thus I turn to you for help. [more inside]
posted by eviemath at 3:12 PM PST - 11 comments

I work closely with another team and their manager in my job. The manager has started some weird, what feel like, personal attacks on me. In case you want to skip the long explanation inside, basically the question is how to deal with a manager who is not my manager (but I am expected to work with anyway) and has a very abrasive style which is kind of offensive. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:59 PM PST - 14 comments

I've just read a section of a novel where the main character trains in a martial art and becomes mildly proficient in it. I realized that I LOVE reading that sort of thing, maybe more than I love a movie training montage (bring on the Mulan and the Dirty Dancing)(the learn how to dance montage is just a subset of the training montage, am I right?). Help me find more of these. [more inside]
posted by hought20 at 2:52 PM PST - 22 comments

I am self-employed in the creative arts with one main client. Recently I have begun to enjoy some success for myself. My main client is unhappy. I am unhappy that they are unhappy. Career and business advice needed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:47 PM PST - 15 comments

I am considering taking up the ukulele and I would like to get the feel for various brands and sizes to see which I would prefer. I think I would like a concert uke, but I'd like to feel one in my hands first. [more inside]
posted by blurker at 1:47 PM PST - 6 comments

Is it possible to teach a dog the concept of time, or at least to read a clock?
posted by Query at 1:39 PM PST - 15 comments

I have a new Dell XPS computer that has a partitioned hard drive. Apparently, (pre-installed, no disc) Windows 7 is running on the 256 GB portion, not the 2TB partition, which is much too small for all of my documents and music. I've copied some files on to the partition and, not surprisingly, Windows 7 does not see them via My Documents, My Music. How can I make this work as it should? Or is it possible? [more inside]
posted by kthanksbai at 1:21 PM PST - 7 comments

Local cable internet company wants to blanket my condo tower with WiFi APs to provide universal WiFi access for their subscribers. Will this degrade reception or throughput for existing private WiFi networks belonging to residents? [more inside]
posted by wutangclan at 1:18 PM PST - 18 comments

I'm looking for suggestions for a flowering groundcover for my garage-side garden to fill in the spaces between the dwarf reblooming lilacs and Widow's Tears already growing there. The current groundcover is Snow in Summer which has pretty flowers and foliage, but is oh-my-god too invasive and fast growing. I feel like I'm constantly ripping chunks of it out so it doesn't climb up the lilacs or spill over onto the lawn. I'd like to put in something that is either white or some shade of purple, doesn't require much maintenance, but is far better behaved than the Snow in Summer. We live in USDA zone 5 and the garden in question gets afternoon sun. (I know nothing about the Ph or the type of soil; I'm hoping that it will be apparent to the cognoscenti from my location and the other plants that are thriving in the same garden.)
posted by DrGail at 12:50 PM PST - 7 comments

Will we regret buying engineered hardwood or bamboo flooring from Lumber Liquidators? [more inside]
posted by amarynth at 12:45 PM PST - 18 comments

Considering long-term, permanent birth control options. [more inside]
posted by waving at 12:36 PM PST - 21 comments

Somewhere I read an interpretation of the development of democracy in Ancient Greece that went something like this: A king died and three princes struggled to seize power. No one prince was strong enough to defeat the others. They made a deal that one would be responsible for military matters, the second for administrative matters, and the third for religious. This system proved relatively effective and was continued, eventually on a non-hereditary basis, and is the original source for the separation of powers between different branches of government. [more inside]
posted by RandlePatrickMcMurphy at 12:32 PM PST - 6 comments

I'm having trouble finding a cell phone speaker that can connect without Bluetooth / by plugging into the phone. [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 12:28 PM PST - 5 comments

Friends are starting a women's group and are looking for a ritual or a reading as a way to begin each meeting. It's a group that includes their teenage daughters so it needs to appeal to both. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by hellochula at 12:21 PM PST - 17 comments

I grew up in New York City with an open mind toward cuisines of other cultures, so I've got both a broad palate and (reasonably) broad experience. Which cuisines do I stand a chance of not having encountered and where can I go to try them? [more inside]
posted by griphus at 12:05 PM PST - 41 comments

I often see chefs/cooks sharpening knives right above food or above food prep surfaces. Does that mean that small metal particles are getting into the food? If so, do those people not realize that's happening, or do they think it's innocuous?
posted by Dansaman at 12:04 PM PST - 21 comments

What is the longest amount of time a single cell (whether on it's own or in an animal/plant) can live without either splitting or dying? [more inside]
posted by xarnop at 11:31 AM PST - 11 comments

I would like to wear this Betsey Johnson dress to the symphony this Saturday and ruffle some fuddy-duddy feathers, but I'm not sure how to accessorize it. [more inside]
posted by Devika at 11:23 AM PST - 17 comments

The match is Stuttgart vs. Gladbach and it's in Stuttgart on April 14th. I'm pretty familiar with soccer, thanks to Football Manager 2012 (it's a computer game) but I guess I'm curious if there's anything I can do between now and then or on the day of the match to improve my experience, or if anyone has a good English-language source for following Bundesliga happenings. The American sports websites are okay, but I'd like to get more in-depth information. Thanks!
posted by Fister Roboto at 11:09 AM PST - 3 comments

I engaged a realtor - the brother of a friend - as I embarked on a home search. I have not signed a binding agreement with this realtor. So far, he has set me up with an online search site and arranged for me to visit 4 properties. I loved one of these properties and was prepared to make an offer, but before I could do that, the property went under contract to another interested buyer. Meanwhile ... the seller contacted me saying that she really liked me and felt good about selling to me. She wants me to ditch my agent and deal directly with her (she's acting as her own agent) and her closing attorney. 1) Is it legal for me to ditch my agent in order to make this deal happen? 2) How can I be certain that the deal is legit and that I'm not being duped? 3) I LOVE the property, so it's totally worth it to deal directly with the seller if that's what it takes to make the purchase.
posted by anonymous at 11:08 AM PST - 20 comments

So. Either my boyfriend's drinking or my anxiety about his drinking is going to ruin our (extremely awesome, otherwise very solid) relationship. I can't tell if I'm being crazy or not. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:08 AM PST - 58 comments

Hypothetic/literary filter: Book character is looking for ways to die that are self inflicted, but would like it to seem like a deadly disease, but one that kills over a period of about 6 months. All I can come up with are nitrosamines but I don't think that is a sure thing. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by htid at 11:05 AM PST - 26 comments

Boot recommendations for New York winter? [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 10:58 AM PST - 17 comments

Suggest a portable keyboard to use with my iPhone? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 10:13 AM PST - 11 comments

Another fantastic round of "AskMe, Name That Book!" Although I cannot remember the title, author/editor, or what the cover looked like at all, I do remember a great deal of detail about what is contained therein. The book I am looking for gave brief, factual descriptions and synopses of the lives of people who were commonly referred to/treated as 'sideshow freaks' in the late 19th/early 20th century, many of whom were also circus performers with P.T. Barnum. [more inside]
posted by divined by radio at 10:05 AM PST - 7 comments

I'm working in Abu Dhabi until late May. At the end of my contract, I'll have a number of visitors staying with me. We are interested in travel destinations for a 7-10 day trip leaving from Abu Dhabi or Dubai at that time. Currently on the list is India (but what part?), Sri Lanka, and Turkey. I will be doing some short, weekend-length trips on my own the next few months including Jordan, Oman, and Qatar and while we have discussed those as places as possibilities to visit, they aren't necessarily where we could see ourselves spending a week and a half.
posted by tip120 at 9:01 AM PST - 10 comments

When I was in college in the mid-90s, I had a "game" (broadly defined) for my Macintosh Quadra 650 (aw yiss!) that was labeled ITA Choco. Here's what seems to be a site by the creators (partially in Japanese, partially in 404 errors). What was the point of it? And what does the site say? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 8:56 AM PST - 4 comments

I'm an administrator and I have lots of different systems to handle - Google docs, calendar, Outlook, 2 different email accounts, multiple "bosses" / sets of people to confer with, and 3 separate programs I work for that I'd like to keep separated and organized. If this sounds like your job, what are your organization hacks, from physical files to electronic stuff? [more inside]
posted by nakedmolerats at 8:37 AM PST - 8 comments

Is it possible to get Bionade in the USA? I am intrigued by their products and understand that they are very popular in Europe, but my google-fu fails me trying to find a U.S. distribution source. Can anyone hook me up?
posted by cross_impact at 8:20 AM PST - 7 comments

How do I monitor changes to a website when the results vary based upon a selection from a drop-down menu? How can I find where they are pulling from? [more inside]
posted by gagoumot at 8:16 AM PST - 8 comments

What's up with the swastikas on my watch? [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 8:16 AM PST - 37 comments

DVD-R data archives from an old computer are showing up as blank disks on all the new computers I've tried them with. What can I do to get my data? [more inside]
posted by gauche at 8:05 AM PST - 18 comments

Want to up my game as a vegan baker, but feel weird about going to a pastry school that doesn't use ingredients common to my chosen field. A few snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 8:05 AM PST - 14 comments

I am working on a short translation and I need to access some already-published texts on the subject of the piece. I've exhausted the libraries in my city, as well as the bookshops and friends, and I want to know if there is some kind of online "library" service where I could post what I was looking for -- copies of specific page numbers in a book, or copies of index or contents pages that I could then follow-up with a request for copies of certain pages. Does such a thing exist? Thank you.
posted by bwonder2 at 8:00 AM PST - 10 comments

Week-long cottage holiday with friends coming up. We're planning a table reading. Last year's "Macbeth and margaritas" night was a roaring success, but we want to branch out. Recommend us some great plays! [more inside]
posted by stuck on an island at 7:56 AM PST - 11 comments

Everything I do, all day, every day, hurts. The more I do things that are painful, the more the pain snowballs. We're going to build a house that we hope will help reduce the accumulation of pain, and maybe even let me recover a little. Help me make sure I'm covering all the bases in house design accommodations. [more inside]
posted by galadriel at 7:42 AM PST - 35 comments

Pathology after a recent colposcopy found "suspected endocervical adenocarcinoma in situ" in my cervix. I am trying hard not to overthink this but am having a hard time not flipping my lid here while I wait for an appointment to follow up on this. What can can I expect? What do I need to ask the oncologist when I see her? [more inside]
posted by My Top Secret Sock Puppet Account at 7:30 AM PST - 14 comments

I'm headed to Mexico - tomorrow! We're driving, and will be headed for Rocky Point (Puerta Penasco) and San Felipe. There'll be a mix of camping and hotels, and it's just me and my SO going. Besides sunscreen and reading material, what should I take to ensure maximum awesomeness? Any great places you've been to in either city that you'd recommend? My Spanish is at about the level of a 3 or 4 year old kid, the SO is fluent, if that matters.
posted by csox at 6:21 AM PST - 5 comments

Female vocalist similar to Stefani; mellow tune, but with fast, pluck-y strings; a descending "Oh-oh-oh-oh." Do you know this song? [more inside]
posted by sarling at 4:52 AM PST - 16 comments

I need to get some birthday gifts for someone who is off work and stuck at home for weeks due to surgery. This person has no hobbies and doesn't really do much other than shop and watch TV and tends to get depressed easily, so I'd like to get him some things to keep him busy and engaged. He used to really enjoy reading so I think if I got some books he'd get into them while he's stuck at home. Previously enjoyed authors are Edgar Rice Burroughs, Louis L'Amour, Stephen King, Anne Rice and Conan books. So old Sci-Fi, Westerns or Horror. He doesn't like Zane Grey. He also enjoys history, particularly WW2 and Civil War eras. Could I please have your recommendations for riveting books that might be enjoyed by someone with these tastes? Am also happy to hear non-book recs that might fit in.
posted by Polychrome at 3:57 AM PST - 27 comments

I have some talent at drawing, but I'm awful at accepting compliments about it, and paranoid about coming off as arrogant (...I could barely type the word 'talent' just then). Help me be less awkward and accept compliments with more dignity! [more inside]
posted by cucumber patch at 1:57 AM PST - 25 comments

I'm looking for visual references for medieval / faux-medieval armor. Bonus points for something lightweight / leather and I'm really looking for rear views but anything would be useful. I've tried a bit of googling but haven't really found what I want.
posted by fearfulsymmetry at 1:57 AM PST - 8 comments

Are there any bad parts of Australia that compare with the bad parts of the United States? [more inside]
posted by johnpowell at 1:17 AM PST - 25 comments

There is a sticky residue on the glass plate for my microwave. It's orange and kinda greasy, but the common sense ways of cleaning it (soap, rough sponge, all-purpose cleaner) are not working. Anyone have any ideas on what to use to get it off?
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 12:30 AM PST - 20 comments

I'm looking for information on the various bits of furniture and storage boxes that Lewis and Clark took with them on their voyage of discovery but am not finding much. This isn't really my period of history, so I suspect I'm looking in all the wrong places using all the wrong search terms. Please point me in the right direction. [more inside]
posted by Kid Charlemagne at 12:19 AM PST - 7 comments

February 12
Pretty please, help me! I sold my car in California in the middle of a move. We completed a bill of sale to be as official as possible, and I told the buyer that I'd mail her the title once the dust settled from my move. Now that I've unpacked, I can't find the title anywhere. The California DMV website lists some guidelines for replacing a lost title , but I'm still confused. Who's technically the legal owner right now? Would it be easiest for the buyer to fill out this form and check that the title was "not received from prior owner" and get on with it? Or would that incur some sort of penalty for either of us? [more inside]
posted by red_rabbit at 11:08 PM PST - 4 comments

In our one-bedroom apartment, we have a pass-through window between our kitchen and living room. It would be the perfect spot for us to hang a flat-screen tv but the surface it would have to be mounted on is a piece of 1/4" plywood abutting the back side of our kitchen cabinets. Is it possible? [more inside]
posted by palegirl at 10:02 PM PST - 13 comments

I need to sleep on a bed with an elevated head-end, while my wife needs to sleep on a bed with her feet elevated. I'd like to find an adjustable bed that lets us do this. Difficulty: I must sleep on my side or stomach, but all adjustable mattresses seem to fold in the middle (for example, like this), making sleeping on anything but your back uncomfortable or impossible. Surely there's a power-adjustable bed that keeps the mattress planar but tilted, allowing you to adjust the degree of tilt with the press of a button? If there is, I can't find it. [more inside]
posted by jewzilla at 9:32 PM PST - 7 comments

What is the best/most economical way to transport a bike without driving it? I am trying to move a bike from LA to SF.
posted by nathanm at 9:07 PM PST - 14 comments

I write a lot of notes for my work, which I type up to keep for my records. My current way to organize these notes is as separate files per day, labeled with the date and a descriptive title. This is decent, but doesn't allow me to easily reference old notes by topic, especially when there are numerous individual references under a single broader topic. Are there programs to help catalog notes and journals by themes, or cross-reference topics, in a vague database format? I'm working in Windows.
posted by filthy light thief at 9:06 PM PST - 12 comments

My brother and I would like to buy a four-bedroom house, furnish it, have him live in one room and rent the other three rooms. Neither of us have any experience with real estate, renting rooms, or being in business with one another. We're looking for advice as to how to fairly structure this investment, advisers we should consult, issues that we need to consider up front, and so on. More details inside... [more inside]
posted by slide at 9:04 PM PST - 14 comments

If you were looking for a real estate agent to list your house for sale, what would be the three most important things you would look for in that agent? For example, one list might be: 1. experience selling houses in your price range. 2. Promised amount of feedback from potential buyers who view your house. 3. Commission rate. [more inside]
posted by JohnnyGunn at 8:11 PM PST - 12 comments

I'm a graduate student about to propose a college writing class on science fiction and personal identity. The stories need to be short and brand name authors are preferred. I've got a prospective syllabus (see inside), but I bet there's a lot of good stuff that I'm missing that you know about. [more inside]
posted by vathek at 7:47 PM PST - 50 comments

Hey there, I'm on the board for an org that uses Constant Contact for our mailing lists. Our homegrown membership management system is busted and we're looking for a replacement. We'd love to find something that integrates with Constant Contact so that people who purchase a membership of various types will get added to a mailing list. When the membership expires, they get removed. An integrated payment solution would also be beneficial. Any advice? Thanks.
posted by reddot at 7:39 PM PST - 5