November 2017 Archives

November 17

Are these school show costumes cultural appropriation?

My kid's school regularly requests costumes for short shows throughout the year. Usually it's stuff like animals or a snowman. This year my kid's class have been assigned various "national costumes" for their winter term show, and I'm unsure of their appropriateness and am concerned they could be classed as cultural appropriation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:51 PM PST - 2 comments

Navigating non-monogamy

I am dipping my toe into the waters of non-monogamy and looking for a little guidance. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:50 PM PST - 0 comments

I've Got This (don't I?)

A question about how to gracefully keep from having to pick up the tab every single time we eat out with friends and family. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:50 PM PST - 3 comments

Car audio via Bluetooth dongle, plus separate Bluetooth buttons?

My car stereo doesn't have native Bluetooth connectivity. I want to use my phone as a music player to send audio via Bluetooth to a dongle that plugs into the stereo's 3.5mm audio jack, and have a separate Bluetooth media remote (steering wheel buttons). Is such a thing possible? My phone has Bluetooth 5.0, so it theoretically supports connecting to multiple devices simultaneously. [more inside]
posted by under_petticoat_rule at 11:03 PM PST - 0 comments

Health insurance in Mawlamyine

My mom took a teaching job in Mawlamyine, awesome! She needs health insurance, less awesome. How can I help her from across the globe? [more inside]
posted by carnivoregiraffe at 10:34 PM PST - 0 comments

Eye or brain, or both or neither?

Asking for a friend. Mystery halo seen in eye? [more inside]
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 5:46 PM PST - 14 comments

Breaking the devil that is nail chewing

2 year old edition. Recently started chewing fingers and while no blood has been drawn, he is getting close. I know there is something we can paint on his nails, any brand recommendations or other tips and strategies we could try to get ahead of this before it becomes a lasting habit?
posted by MandaSayGrr at 5:32 PM PST - 4 comments

Voice Memo App for Android?

I want an app like the voice memo app on the iphone for android so I can record stuff. [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 5:31 PM PST - 1 comment

Where can I write personal, blog-style posts for actual readers?

Looking for a place/places to write blog-style posts where there's an actual audience, or a chance to build one? [more inside]
posted by FlyByDay at 5:23 PM PST - 6 comments

Would you please share your coping experiences with Firefox Quantum(57)?

My daily productivity has declined since Firefox Chromium installed. Anybody else have the same problem? What are your alternatives, suggestions? More within. [more inside]
posted by forthright at 5:04 PM PST - 10 comments

State (WI) Tax Refund Check made out to... estate of me.

My husband passed in January. I filed taxes late this year, and only recently got the refund check. Which is made out to.... "The estate of [my name]". The bank won't cash it. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 4:21 PM PST - 13 comments

Easy Peasy Responsive Design Question

How do I keep a responsive web page from sliding around horizontally on mobile devices? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 4:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Exactly how politicized is the high and tight hairstyle right now?

So, I just got a haircut literally yesterday. I'm not from the USA and am not really aware of style trends there. The haircut I got looks very much like this. It looks good on me and it's not going to raise any eyebrows where I live, but it just came to my attention that this haircut, or ones like it, are now being associated with neonazis in the USA. I am going to the USA in one week to attend a wedding. A Jewish wedding. Is my hair a real problem, or is it just an overblown internet thing? Do I need an emergency head shave?
posted by Vodka Martini on the Socks at 3:17 PM PST - 38 comments

What to expect before and after urological surgery

I'm scheduled for surgery next month. I've never had any type of surgery before, so I'm totally in the dark in terms of what to expect, how to prepare, and what questions might be helpful to ask my doctor. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by nixxon at 3:17 PM PST - 6 comments

My kinda BFF is a flake and I'm kinda over it, or am I?

One of my oldest, dearest friends is a flake and pretty introverted and has been as long as I've known him (20 years). Last week he and his family flaked on my kid's 1st birthday party and I realized that I'm not cool with this anymore. Do I need to just move on or should I try saving this friendship? [more inside]
posted by sock potato at 3:09 PM PST - 9 comments

Dr. weight loss advice not following laws of physics e.g., prison camps

Thought experiment: two conflicting concepts regarding weight loss where the math doesn't add up and is completely contrary to real life conditions. [more inside]
posted by Arachnophile at 2:38 PM PST - 17 comments

What part of speech are mathematic operands?

I just heard a colleague mumble a change order number in Spanish, his native language. He said, "Numbers are the one thing I still have to do in Spanish - I learned tres mas cuatro es siete, not three plus four." Which got me to thinking, what part of speech are math operands? They're telling you to do something (verb) but they don't conjugate. Are they a conjunction? Something weird?
posted by notsnot at 1:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Who is Brode, what is he?

My grandfather had a habit in correspondence using last names only. Thus, in 1931, he was in Berlin, attending a gathering of the International Women's League for Peace, where spoke: "The Ohioan (we should guess Czech) Brode [who] propounded the program of his own city society – a league emphasizing the word “progress” - and tried to get a Berlin branch started." And so forth. Who he, what his proposed program? (A half dozen other mystery guests after the jump, if Brode is unfamiliar, and if the upcoming Christmas Challenge questions are too easy for you) [more inside]
posted by BWA at 1:37 PM PST - 10 comments

Where to get facsimile maps?

I am interested in building a collection of historic facsimile maps, ideally full-scale and in color. Do you have any suggestions about where to buy these? I have heard that sometimes a facsimile map will be included along with a book about the map. Do you know what publishers do this regularly? Any tips would be greatly appreciated.
posted by mortaddams at 1:08 PM PST - 3 comments

Bedroom music making (not that kind of bedroom music)

I'm looking to make some DIY, teenage-y/college student music. Like the stuff people make in their bedroom alone by themselves. Particularly dreamy/slightly twee/electronic pop. Some bands I'm interested in are Crying and Stars. I don't know anything about music theory. I don't want to do anything complicated until I understand this stuff better. Where do I start? Should I buy a mini synthesizer? Toy piano?
posted by starlybri at 12:48 PM PST - 8 comments

It's not a funeral, but it just might feel like one

We've had a newborn living with us for the last 6 months or so (previously), and the time is quickly approaching for him to transition to living with his birth family. This is all being handled by an Organization who does These Things and we're working with a team there that has been really great throughout this process. The transition should go smoothly, but we're at a bit of a loss of what to do when we come home that first time without the boy who has been (and will always be considered) our son. [more inside]
posted by Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drug at 12:12 PM PST - 14 comments

What ages is the Adam West Batman series appropriate for?

Is this appropriate for kids? What ages? I remember watching it on TV as a kid and it seemed fine to me and my parents but that was in the 80s.
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 11:38 AM PST - 20 comments

Looking for "Laura Ingalls Wilder Goes to the City" historic books

Hello librarians and historians and researchers and all-around readers! I'm researching a novel and am looking for books (ideally non-fiction) about women born in the prairie/western states that then move to a larger city. More details inside! [more inside]
posted by good day merlock at 11:14 AM PST - 21 comments

Is this a flu?

This may seem a bit silly but I've never had the flu before that I know of. Two nights ago around 8pm I felt a sudden very sore throat with some swelling and closed-throat feeling, plus significant muscle/joint pain. I took a sleeping pill and slept all night and most of the next day, by last night I felt 90% better and am back at work today. The weird part is the exact same thing happened three weeks ago. Is this what a flu is? Something else? I do tend to be a worrier.
posted by Cosine at 11:12 AM PST - 9 comments

Best Inspiring Movies About Middle-Age/Midlife Crisis/50 and Now What?

Discovering that I'm not exactly dealing with turning 50 in April in the most harmonious fashion. Looking for movies featuring characters facing midlife with lingering doubts/questions, but are inspired to move ahead anyway. Nothing major here - just a hideous combination of political despair, existential angst, and I'm in need of a cinematic pat on the back as 2018 approaches. [more inside]
posted by Lipstick Thespian at 11:06 AM PST - 18 comments

How do you get things done in your office?

I strongly suspect that the marketing department that I belong to is more dysfunctional than average. Please tell me about the workflow, best practices, software solutions, meeting frequency, etc. that make your office (marketing or otherwise) work so I might have a better idea of how far off the mark we are. Blizzard within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:19 AM PST - 5 comments

Upwork alternatives?

Hi AskMe! :) Related to my previous question, I'm trying to offer myself as a freelance accessibility tester to folks who might not be in the market for a larger company. Upwork seems like a decent place to do this, but has… let's just say a variety of accessibility issues itself. I can't even get an account created there yet, so am looking for alternatives. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 10:07 AM PST - 2 comments

Sun for my birthday

Every year I get Seasonal Affective Disorder (the appropriately acronymed SAD) in the winter. This year I'd like to get out of Minnesota around my birthday - February 15th - to find the sun and some (relative) warmth. Our requirements are under the fold. [more inside]
posted by Elly Vortex at 8:45 AM PST - 13 comments

French Workbook for Reading?

I need to read French in order to read secondary academic historical works. I have some books that are quite good, but they are just reading passages and teaching the grammar, etc. They aren't interactive. I would like a workbook where I write things down/fill things out, etc, and isn't aimed a high school students. Thanks.
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 8:37 AM PST - 11 comments

No really, nitrogen carbon and phosphorus don't have feelings

Is there a name for the logical fallacy that "the purpose of life is to pass on your genes?" I see this all over the place. [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 8:19 AM PST - 19 comments

The Crocodile, Seattle, 11/19

My teenage daughter wants to see a show at the Crocodile in Seattle on 11/19, a Sunday night. We live 3 hours away, and I don't want to drive home afterwards. Lodging, parking questions below. [more inside]
posted by 101cats at 8:08 AM PST - 4 comments

How do I Confess if I've Harassed People in the Past?

I'm a straight white man who is in my thirties. When I was younger, I didn't always treat people well. I had "nice guy" tendencies, and while I never subscribed to their ideology, I did internalize that same grievance. Because of this I didn't always treat women well. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:06 AM PST - 53 comments

A possible employer praised my work but I can't say I did it. What now?

I wrote copy for a web project a few months ago. A potential employer praised in on LinkedIn. I'd like to raise my hand and try to get a job with his company. But the work was under NDA. I REALLY need a job. How do I handle this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:20 AM PST - 6 comments

Stuff This: Stocking Stuffer Suggestions

My family and I usually each buy some stocking stuffers for each other. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by kat518 at 6:26 AM PST - 25 comments

Considering going to France for a year with kids -- crazy?

I just learned that I can take a sabbatical (yay!), which would allow me to spend a year in France with my two kids and partner. Trying to think through whether this is a good idea. [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 6:18 AM PST - 12 comments

Mystery TV for my mother?

My mom loves mystery TV. She's seen every season of Midsomer Murders and I can only assume she's seen every mystery TV series on (Canadian) Netflix (Miss Fisher, etc.). She especially loves the Cumberbatch Sherlock, and is periodically obsessed with Jack the Ripper. What hasn't she seen that she might like?
posted by flibbertigibbet at 4:20 AM PST - 35 comments

A coffee table novel?

I just woke up from a dream in which I was sitting in a used bookstore, absorbed in a novel that was printed like a coffee table art book - a big heavy hardback in which more than half the pages were printed with beautiful reproductions of colorful 19th through 21st century paintings; but instead of text about the paintings, the text was a contemporary novel. Has a book like that ever really existed?
posted by moonmilk at 4:03 AM PST - 7 comments

"Hi micro friends!!"

What can I do to keep my gut microbiota healthy? [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 2:38 AM PST - 14 comments

Hold both my hands and look into my eyes

I'm trying to work out the cultural/ethnic origin of the classic greeting of my mum's aunts. They do a single (sometimes double) kiss, followed by holding hands (one in each) while greeting you and brief conversation. Cultural details inside. [more inside]
posted by cholly at 12:03 AM PST - 3 comments

November 16

Thanksgiving recipes? Difficulty: recently removed gallbladder

We're used to creating Thanksgiving dinners that accommodate a wide number of dietary issues, but this year presents a challenge we're not quite prepared for: one of our guests had their gallbladder removed a few weeks ago. Do you have any yummy, ultra-low-fat recipes for just such a scenario? [more inside]
posted by rednikki at 9:00 PM PST - 13 comments

Cataract surgery: Pros and cons of correcting for near vision

I'm having cataract surgery soon in both eyes. I'm getting monofocal lenses. I'm trying to decide whether to have the correction set to favor near vision (no glasses needed for reading, but glasses required for driving) vs. distance vision (will need glasses for reading). [more inside]
posted by alex1965 at 8:16 PM PST - 12 comments

Thanksgiving for Two

Normally, my partner and I would be spending this Thanksgiving with our three teenage children from our previous marriages, our parents, our friends, or a combination thereof -- but we just discovered today that a last-minute change of plans means that this year for the first time ever, it's gonna be just the two of us. Help us figure out what to do? [more inside]
posted by pinkacademic at 8:16 PM PST - 18 comments

How to setup a clubhouse wifi

I may or may not have been volunteered to help setup wifi for the neighborhood pool/clubhouse, halp me. [more inside]
posted by k5.user at 7:17 PM PST - 11 comments

Why would an STI clinic ask about prescription medications?

So I went to a clinic recently for STI testing, and while most of the pre-testing questions made sense (in terms of determining risk factors etc), a few of the questions left me confused afterwards as to what the purpose might be. One question was whether I'm taking any prescription medications and what conditions those medications were for. Why/how is this relevant to an STI test? [more inside]
posted by ersatzhuman at 6:28 PM PST - 12 comments

So what are these Indian spice blends good for?

I've got two boxes of spice blends from an Indian grocery store, Zatpat Kolhapuri Masala and Pay Bhaji Masala. For the life of me, I can't remember why I acquired them and I have no idea what to do with them (or any other mysterious spice blends I see in the Indian grocery store) but I long to learn. [more inside]
posted by DrGail at 6:09 PM PST - 7 comments

Home equity conversion mortgage (HECM)

We are considering taking out a home equity conversion mortgage so that we can move into a larger home. I've read a lot and am pretty well up on how it works but I am interested in hearing from anyone who has actually been through it. Anyone out there?
posted by charlesminus at 5:42 PM PST - 2 comments

Individuation

I'm working on individuation from my parents. I've been asked by my therapist to list 12 things each, for mother and father, that I'm thankful for. 12 is a big number in this realm ... [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 5:27 PM PST - 31 comments

Birth control timing when you don't need birth control

I'm on birth control solely to suppress my periods. I don't and will likely never have the kind of sex that could get me pregnant. Do I still have to take it at exactly the same time every day? [more inside]
posted by brook horse at 5:24 PM PST - 10 comments

Hero/Villain Switcheroos!

Looking for movies or other stories where the antagonist becomes the villain, the antagonist becomes the hero, but in the end work work together to save the world or help each other out in some other way? [more inside]
posted by Unsomnambulist at 4:50 PM PST - 21 comments

Need recipe for sweet potato pie -- with no added sweetener

Want sweet potato pie with no sugar, no agave, no stevia, no maple, no artificial sweetener. My searches yield "no sugar" recipes with Splenda or xylitol. And paleo recipes with maple syrup. How do I make a yummy sweet potato pie with absolutely no sweetener added? Aren't the sweet potatoes sweet enough? I'm happy to add spices, eggs, dairy, nuts. Just no sweetener.
posted by valannc at 4:38 PM PST - 19 comments

Where Should We Go on Vacation?

Hi! I have off on a Thursday-Monday (I work Tuesday starting at 4:00, so Tuesday could potentially be a half day off) and want to go somewhere that is RELAXING, not super cold (and maybe even warm), soothing, potentially has lovely swimming, and is not a super long plane ride or car trip from San Francisco. [more inside]
posted by bookworm4125 at 3:59 PM PST - 4 comments

Help! I need to make telephone calls from my computer and record them!

A really big part of my job is doing telephone interviews, and I need to be able to record them in order to get accurate quotes from them later. My telephone doesn't support call recording (or rather, it only records my end of the conversation, which is useless), but I've had a really successful system of using Skype, with a paid balance to make outgoing calls to telephone numbers and then recording them using the third-party Skype Call Recorder program for Ubuntu. This doesn't work anymore. [more inside]
posted by 256 at 3:05 PM PST - 11 comments

Looking for REALLY GOOD speeches/lectures/talks

I've noticed I enjoy listening to talks online. I want to find more good ones. [more inside]
posted by monologish at 2:56 PM PST - 10 comments

Can you re-mineralize/grow/repair your tooth enamel?

Googling this seems to provide conflicting answers. Would like fellow mefites' thoughts on my question. If you believe you can grow/repair/remineralize tooth enamel, links or product names would be appreciated. [more inside]
posted by luvmywife at 2:36 PM PST - 16 comments

What should I do for my Fortieth Year?

What should I do for my fortieth birthday at the end of May next year? [more inside]
posted by doogan nash at 2:14 PM PST - 7 comments

Fear aggressive dog causing relationship issues, or is it me?

My bf of a year and a half have had ongoing issues over his dog's aggressive behavior, including snapping at my face and lunging and growling at several people. Multiple requests to get her trained have gone nowhere. BF also shuts down and withdraws any time this comes up, to the point I feel like I have to prepare for a breakup every time I initiate the discussion. No one else seems to have an issue with the dog, so maybe I really am the one in the wrong? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:45 PM PST - 50 comments

Alice in Stickerland

Where are all the brick-and-mortar stores that sell stickers? Difficulty level: UK, not Paperchase. Minor snowflake flurry inside. [more inside]
posted by sailoreagle at 1:35 PM PST - 6 comments

manifest density

Last weekend, I made Metafilter's favorite Mark Bittman no-knead bread and it turned out delicious, but a little denser than optimal. I've identified a few possible issues – can some of the master bakers out there weigh in? [more inside]
posted by roger ackroyd at 1:27 PM PST - 22 comments

Need a book about "The Labor Movement" in the United States

I've become more active in my local teachers association recently, and I find myself wanting to read up on the history of the labor movement in the United States. [more inside]
posted by Temeraria at 1:25 PM PST - 8 comments

Treats available in the U.S. but not the UK

Sending a Christmas package with snacks/sweets that my friend in the UK can't get over there. I don't want to ask her favorites because I want it to be a surprise. Suggestions? Lighter weight is better, as postage has gotten ridiculous. I saw this thread but it's been three years and maybe more stuff is available over there now.
posted by trillian at 12:56 PM PST - 29 comments

craft pack for kids

I buy gifts for a local kiddo every holiday season. This year the nine-year-old girl I was assigned asked for craft supplies. I want to put together a kit of amazing, fun stuff for her to get creative with! But I am at a loss, and all the "craft buckets" seem lacking and sad and full of only pom poms and googley eyes (which are great but kind of have limited creative range)! Assuming a $50 budget for craft supplies, help me put together an AMAZING group of gifts to make my very own craft bucket for her. [more inside]
posted by sockermom at 12:01 PM PST - 30 comments

Arm me with Knowledge!

Looking for reading material to help support/educate me on matters I care about! [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 11:37 AM PST - 6 comments

annuity rider charges?

Would someone mind breaking this into down into to understandable terms, please? My friend has asked her district appointed agent who advised her to move her savings from a 403b to a Voya account several times and yet she still have no idea why these rider fees are more than the interest accrued, or even what they are (and why are they in parenthesis)? She is retiring soon from a district position. She and I would like to know exactly what is going on here. (Details below) Thanks in advance! [more inside]
posted by ConnieL at 11:08 AM PST - 7 comments

Should I Join the Democratic Socialists of America?

For the last month, I've been looking at the DSA as a political organization. I was impressed by their multi-tendency nature and their willingness to work within other parties (mostly the Democratic Party) in order to achieve goals. After their sudden surge in the Nov 7 election, I decided to check them out in person. I just went to a small local meeting in my area (about ten people) and saw what at least the locals are about. Now, I want to know, should I start paying dues and join them? [more inside]
posted by Lord Chancellor at 10:40 AM PST - 11 comments

Slightly More Interesting Roast Turkey

Do you have ideas for making roast turkey that is slightly more interesting than my family's very simple and delicious recipe? I want to see about changing it up but not enough to ruin timing or leftovers. [more inside]
posted by Mizu at 10:27 AM PST - 18 comments

I’m broke, he’s...not.

For the first time in my life I’m in a relationship that features a significant(!!!) income disparity. I have questions. [more inside]
posted by peachfuzz at 10:24 AM PST - 17 comments

How to improve videotelephony meetings

How do you make video conference meetings with remote workers as useful as face to face meetings? How do you minimize setup time and efficiency and improve quality? [more inside]
posted by GernBlandston at 9:23 AM PST - 7 comments

ELI5 - paying for graduate school, last-minute edition

I need help figuring out how one goes about getting loans for graduate school, and I don't have a lot of time to figure it out. I'm a full-time employee making a comfortable salary, and I have been taking courses one-at-a-time at a local university (through a certificate program in the same department) since 2015. I now want to go full-time and finish a master's, but the kicker is that I want to make this change by January 2018, and I have no idea how to pay for it. [more inside]
posted by houseofleaves at 9:00 AM PST - 6 comments

Bill Maher, where are you?

I get HBO streamed via Amazon Prime. Any idea why the Real Time with Bill Maher, which airs Friday nights, isn't available till at least Monday or Tuesday? Other shows (John Oliver) are usually available within hours of broadcast. [more inside]
posted by sixpack at 8:11 AM PST - 3 comments

Can I control which generic med I'm given?

I've been getting a generic medication from the same CVS for a couple years, but just moved to NYC. When I picked up the prescription from my new CVS, the copay was about $30 more than usual. I got home and realized that this generic looked totally different and was by a different manufacturer than my old one; I'm assuming this is why it cost more. How do I switch back to the old generic? [more inside]
posted by Lady Gotohell at 8:09 AM PST - 14 comments

Should I use a buyer's broker?

Very basic question about real estate purchases and buyer/seller brokers in New York/Western Massachusetts. I'm thinking about buying a property that I would use partly for my own vacations and partly to rent out on AirBnb. What are the ramifications about working with a broker of our own versus just booking appointments with the sellers' brokers and not having our own broker? [more inside]
posted by pipti at 6:46 AM PST - 10 comments

Day/Night out with my 18-yr old nephew

My husband and I want to take my 18-year old nephew out for his birthday and I'm stumped on what to do. [more inside]
posted by moogs at 6:15 AM PST - 14 comments

Concert Kerfuffle - shady reseller, accidentally bought to many

So, I am not a concert goer, but decided to by tickets to a show through VividSeats. Thought I was buying one ticket, clicked yes, ended up with a very l charge on my account for 6 tickets. [more inside]
posted by AlexiaSky at 6:04 AM PST - 9 comments

What software is used to create video presentations like this?

What is the likely process and software for creating Google Developer videos like this one? It's basically a slideshow, but with lots of builds and transitions, and some subtle sound effects, perfectly synchronised to the audio. They also have a speaker overlaid on top. [more inside]
posted by snarfois at 4:41 AM PST - 6 comments

Can we eat it pre-Thanksgiving edition

Can an uncooked turkey sitting out at 70 degrees for several hours be cooked and eaten safely? [more inside]
posted by tip120 at 4:04 AM PST - 19 comments

Super-fast vegan dinner ideas - UK edition

What kid-friendly vegan meals take less than 20 minutes to cook? [more inside]
posted by cardinalandcrow at 1:30 AM PST - 24 comments

November 15

Shit in ice cream

I remember this bit of stand up comedy which was about how much literal shit are you willing to have in your ice cam for you to lick it. It was of course a metaphor for the tolerance of racism / white power, etc. And I can't find it anymore. I thought it was Hari Kondabolu, but I can't find it. I definitely saw it lineked in metafilter several times. Does this ring a bell for anyone?
posted by Pyrogenesis at 10:40 PM PST - 7 comments

Trying not to channel flannel

Help me find a very specific out-of-season bathrobe. [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 6:59 PM PST - 6 comments

Dermatologist in NYC

Please help me choose a dermatologist in NYC. This dermatologist will accept Aetna, be near the N/R in brooklyn or Manhattan, and won’t shame me for having all these unattended moles and this other thing on my head. [more inside]
posted by bilabial at 6:14 PM PST - 10 comments

Worlds of words to escape to

Yesterday, I read the gorgeous, perfect, sweet all-ages comic "The Tea Dragon Society" and fell in love. And then realized how badly I need to disappear into a really good book or 10. Recommendations? I'm looking for some fantasy, historical fiction, regular fiction, or sci-fi novels to read for the purposes of escapism. I'm open to webcomics, too, and podcasts/audiobooks, and kid's books, and movies. Anything where I can really sink into another world and lose myself. [more inside]
posted by cnidaria at 6:00 PM PST - 43 comments

Boyfriend wants to avoid me so we don't ''get bored of each other''

Alright, so I've had a good thing going with someone, I'm 26, he's a bit younger, it's just that it's long distance - lasting for cca 2 months now. And we really have not much time for each other, but i've felt good more or less so far. I did not have a feeling I was being too clingy, of course i write to him sometimes. The thing is that he shares the room with a friend and we can barely talk relaxed. Today as I called him, he told me he ''needs to be alone a bit'' because ''his roommate is gone'0.' because i mentioned that we don't really talk a lot, je claimed he didn't want to hang up on me because of that. ''I don't want to talk to you too much because we'll get bored of each other then and i feel uncomfortable when i have nothing to say.'' [more inside]
posted by Salicornia at 4:58 PM PST - 27 comments

Why does my hair form locks, not a curtain - and can I change this?

My hair likes to hang in strands. I can brush it, and then for a little while it will be curtain-esque, but then it just returns to being locks. It's wavy hair (probably around 1c); can look almost completely straight when brushed, but tends to air-dry in wavy locks. I do see other people with hair that is more of a homogeneous mass, and I think it looks nicer. Why does my hair not do this? Can I get it to do this?
posted by tangerine_poppies at 4:43 PM PST - 25 comments

How long do I stick with my first good job...which I hate

Will I be hurting my chances of future employment if I leave a job after four months? [more inside]
posted by switcheroo at 3:46 PM PST - 10 comments

Coffins in the film 'Passchendaele'

When the credits run at the end of the 2008 film Passchendaele there are newsreel clips from the period. One of these shows soldiers carrying coffins - see screen grab here [more inside]
posted by Quillcards at 3:32 PM PST - 2 comments

Dolla Dolla Balms Y'all

I am breaking up with my lip balm collection, which is approximately 100 pieces strong. Are there places that will take these as donations? [more inside]
posted by ovenmitt at 2:55 PM PST - 20 comments

Beginner seeks help with kayak purchase

My reasonably fit wife (49 y.o., 5'6", BMI of 24) is interested in getting a one-person kayak for day use and general recreation on lakes and in the California Delta river and tidal system. I have read enough about kayaks to understand that there's a lot I don't know. Please help us choose the right kayak for her. [more inside]
posted by mosk at 2:45 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me navigate what could very well be a painful breakup.

How do I exit this relationship in a way that minimizes harm to myself, my soon-to-be ex-partner, and most importantly, my stepkids? [more inside]
posted by zeusianfog at 2:42 PM PST - 5 comments

need to move: must be under 1000 ft elevation, cold, low cost of living

So my 19 year old son informed me last night that he quit his job, where he'd been for 1.5 years, and was going to buy a ticket to Buffalo New York. He wanted to move there today or tomorrow, with basically the clothes on his back and his laptop. He's saved $15,000 from the job, and wants to live on that until it runs out. [more inside]
posted by Rapunzel1111 at 1:32 PM PST - 62 comments

165 eathquakes in 12 hours.....?

I visit this site a few times a week and have never seen this many recorded before. No where close. Is this unusual? If so what's up?
posted by haikuku at 1:11 PM PST - 3 comments

How to pay a freelancer in Australia

I am in the US and I need to send money to Australia. What's the best service to use? [more inside]
posted by rada at 1:05 PM PST - 7 comments

Recommend birth-control pills to me

I have PCOS and they want me to start taking birth-control pills to help regulate things. I also have family and personal history that contraindicates many types of pills. Is there a safe pill for me that does what I want? [more inside]
posted by INTJ at 12:26 PM PST - 20 comments

Mystery reader needs help

If you were an auntie who was asked to be the mystery reader for your favorite 4 year-old's preschool class, what would be a funny book or one with surprises in it? It must be short enough to read in 15 - 20 minutes, have good pictures for sharing, and not be one of those books that every 4 year old has already read. (Mystery has nothing to do with the genre of book, BTW -- the reader is a surprise to the students, but a mystery would be great!)
posted by mmf at 12:14 PM PST - 35 comments

Explain ISU rankings to me, please?

I'd call this inside baseball, but it's inside ice dance: how do the ISU world rankings work? Specifically, I don't understand this current ranking because Virtue/Moir in 3rd & Papadakis/Cizeron in 7th is crazy. Does this have to do with who's done 2 GP comps so far and who hasn't? Or...? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 11:45 AM PST - 2 comments

Vulva-safe homemade paint?

Inspired by the documentary Venus, I'd like to make prints of my vulva (by which I mean: brush paint onto vulva, press paper against vulva, voila). To make this as safe for delicate tissues as possible, I'm curious as to the best paint recipe out there to use. Considerations: viscosity, should be sugar-free, no unnecessary ingredients. I was thinking of either an organic flour/salt/water paste + color, or tempera (egg yolk + color). Coloring agent: beet root powder, carrot powder, turmeric? Are there any better ideas/dangers? I've seen paint that is supposedly safe for sex, but it has too many ingredients for my liking. Thank you!
posted by sugarbomb at 11:39 AM PST - 12 comments

Custom tailoring in Vietnam

I'm headed to Southeast Asia in March with some friends, and one of our stops is in Ho Chi Minh City (Saigon). We'd love to engage the services of a custom tailor (suits and shirts for the gents, dresses and perhaps corsets for the ladies). I'd love any and all tips on how best to do this, including links to online resources. Thanks!
posted by DavidNYC at 11:19 AM PST - 3 comments

is my desired thing a thing? homologous anatomy coloring book edition.

I want to get my kid a coloring book that illustrates homologous anatomy of animals and people. Does it exist? Maybe there is a search term I am missing? [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 11:15 AM PST - 5 comments

Secret Santa: Explain Like I'm a Planning Buffoon

I'm in the first year of a grad school program, with a cohort of about 30 people. I'd like to suggest a Secret Santa-style gift swap because a) I like these folks and think it would be fun, and b) I don't think anybody else is going to do so even though we're all quite social with each other. However, I'm kind of a putz at organizing things and don't want to get in over my head! [more inside]
posted by DingoMutt at 11:12 AM PST - 8 comments

How to dispose of broken laundry basket?

We have a laundry basket that looks a lot like this that has a crack across one of the handles. We'd like to get rid of it. Is it recyclable? Would Goodwill take it? Or should we toss it into the trash? Or some other option? (This is in Seattle.)
posted by mpark at 10:56 AM PST - 13 comments

Recommend a depressed guy some interesting/ uplifting UK magazines

Struggling with the winter blues and at times lacking the focus to read books, but I think if I bought some one off magazines with a view to subscribing (in the UK) that might give me the incentive to at least get out from my cosy home and read a magazine in my local cafe while having a latte. Male aged 48. If I tell you what I like, can you recommend something along the same lines? [more inside]
posted by AuroraSky at 10:55 AM PST - 7 comments

Objectively crappy/subjectively awesome movies to laugh at while tipsy

Some of my girlfriends and I have set up an “Oh God you have to see this amazing train wreck of a movie and also let’s drink” calendar. Finding just the right movies for this kind of activity is not easy, as the sweet spot is narrow, I looked at this ask, but those are mostly definitely not what I’m looking for (maybe one or two). Criteria inside: [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 10:54 AM PST - 138 comments

No thanks, I'll be at the Sheraton

I have a strong (as in strong) preference to not stay over at people's houses when I go traveling. Is there a way to turn down an invitation to be a houseguest without seeming rude or cold? [more inside]
posted by holborne at 10:42 AM PST - 17 comments

Dating 101

There's this guy in my dog training class and I feel like we could hit it off. But I am an introvert and the class is not set up as such that you really get to interact with the other participants. Help me figure out how to talk to this guy and possibly ask him out! [more inside]
posted by Malleable at 10:20 AM PST - 9 comments

WWABD? (What would Alton Brown do?)

I’m a turkey novice. Last year, I used the Good Eats brine/roast method to great success in cooking my first turkey. This year, I want to do just a breast, since I’m only cooking for two. I need some guidance. [more inside]
posted by bluloo at 9:51 AM PST - 13 comments

Cheap and Easy Way to Make Our Bathroom Much Brighter?

We moved to a new house (yay!) and our toddler is terrified of the bathtub (boo!). Bathtime used to be her favorite and now she won't even get in the tub by herself. I think part of the problem is that the old room was very bright and the new one is much darker (I can see how it would look scary to a little monster). How can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 8:44 AM PST - 43 comments

Under is bad, but what about adjacent-to-under?

According to superstition, walking under a ladder should be avoided because it brings bad luck. But what about when the ladder is leaning against something that you have to walk under? Is that still considered unlucky? Or is only the space directly under the ladder the bad-luck zone? [more inside]
posted by Mchelly at 8:02 AM PST - 6 comments

what the fuck is up with this banana

My coworker just sliced a banana up into her bowl of healthy breakfast, and HOLY HELL this is not an okay banana. WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE. Photos inside. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 7:37 AM PST - 6 comments

Name of old Winamp Visualization Plugin?

During my time using Windows XP I often used winamp to play music, along with a specific Visualization plugin. Please help me track it down. [more inside]
posted by Faintdreams at 7:32 AM PST - 3 comments

How to move when you don't know when you're moving

We will be moving in the next few months. Neither of us plan ahead well. Please help me understand what we need to do and when. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 6:31 AM PST - 26 comments

Does using a very cold iPhone risk damaging it?

When I use my iPhone in cold weather, it sometimes turns itself off. I thought that was because the battery performs poorly in the cold, so I got an external battery with a cable, so I could keep using my phone while the battery stays warm in my pocket. But then I read that the iPhone turns itself off by design, to protect itself from usage outside its operating range. So is it a bad idea to override that by using the external battery? [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 6:26 AM PST - 3 comments

10-year-old (5th Grader) is a reading machine: Help with nonfiction

My 10-year-old is a voracious reader. He's read much of the usual fiction for his age and maybe a year or so older (Percy Jackson, Harry Potter, etc., etc.). He's always been good with reading nonfiction/historical fiction (the I Survived books, those "Who Is" books, the Ken Jennings books), but has favored fiction. Recently, it feels like that balance is more out of whack... [more inside]
posted by lieberschnitzel at 6:06 AM PST - 42 comments

Keeping good habits

I'm struggling with keeping a few good habits that are essential for my life. No snowflakes here, just the regular stuff: exercising, eating well, meditating, limiting alcohol and caffeine. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:53 AM PST - 14 comments

What helps with PTSD-related exhaustion?

I have been in therapy for a few years to deal with complex PTSD. It has made a world of difference with the emotional and cognitive aspects of trauma, but I still struggle with the physical symptoms of PTSD (like overactive nervous system and digestive stuff). The hardest of these to deal with is being tired all the time. Assume I have gotten all my levels checked, eat healthy, and sleep decently well. What else is worth trying?
posted by anonymous at 12:53 AM PST - 13 comments

How do you do anger as a female person?

I just don't know how, and I've got a lot of it. [more inside]
posted by lauranesson at 12:45 AM PST - 13 comments

Dinner in Copenhagen this Sunday

I'm looking for restaurant recommendations in Copenhagen that will be likely to have a table available this Sunday evening. My parents, my partner and I are spending a long weekend in Copenhagen for my mother's 60th birthday. I was charged with booking a restaurant for a birthday dinner on Sunday - but time has slipped away from me and now I'm panicking! All cuisines considered though my mother is not a fan of Chinese food. Hard price limit is £100 per head (I guess roughly 700-750DKK) which rules out a lot of places in Copenhagen. [more inside]
posted by bored_now_flay at 12:37 AM PST - 14 comments

November 14

What's the story behind this once-ubiquitous gold elephant figurine?

Growing up in the early 80s, my hippie parents and all their hippie friends had this gold-plated elephant with red rhinestone eyes on their mantels next to the incense burners (not always literally, just setting the scene). They were small and slightly heavy for the size. Is there a story behind them? Were they supposed to be good luck or have some other symbolism? Do we know why or how the hippie home decor market got flooded with them? I have weirdly fond memories of them and I'm curious.
posted by rhiannonstone at 11:08 PM PST - 4 comments

Republican tax plan - channeling resistance

Last week's election victory was a welcome respite in the endless news nightmare, but the dread is returning when I read more news about the looming Republican tax plan vote. [more inside]
posted by hampanda at 9:51 PM PST - 2 comments

Is buying an unrelated man socks kinda sleazy is it cool?

Hi, is buying an unrelated man socks kinda sleazy or is it cool? Trying to figure out where the line is in terms of gifting masculine apparel. Something like this not like a 6 pack of Hanes. Thank you!
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em at 9:05 PM PST - 51 comments

Man I need help finding a backpack.

OK hive mind, I need help. I've used Timbuk2 laptop messenger bags for 10-15 years and I'm ready for a backpack, but I can't find the right one for me. Open to any and all suggestions. I'm a freelancer and practically live in coffeeshops, so this is my EDC and laptop bag that I will have with me at all times, including travel. I think my perfect bag would be a Tom Bihn Synapse with big soft straps from the North Face Recon, but I haven't found it yet. [more inside]
posted by kdern at 8:30 PM PST - 13 comments

"W"hat is it?

What's that little blue "W" I often see in the tabs of websites? I'm guessing it's the logo for a webhosting company, but which one? Here's a pic.
posted by lunasol at 7:25 PM PST - 3 comments

Brady Bunch with cats

In a few months I will move in with my partner. Hooray! Also, my cat and her cat will come along: uh-oh. How to best navigate multiple problems? [more inside]
posted by soonertbone at 6:45 PM PST - 8 comments

Early morning ride from RI to Logan airport?

How do I get a ride from Rhode Island to Logan Airport for a 6:45 am flight? Can I count on Uber/Lyft to come get me at 4:45 am, when I need to be on the road? Is there a better alternative? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 6:27 PM PST - 13 comments

Was Charlie ever redeemed?

The character Charlie (aka Scottish sniper with PTSD) in Wonder Woman fails to take a shot at a critical moment in battle due to his own issues. This is a relatively common trope which is traditionally followed up by the character getting a hero moment later on, usually by performing a similar action under impossible circumstances. Charlie is seen fighting later, but he never gets his moment. [more inside]
posted by Tell Me No Lies at 5:51 PM PST - 4 comments

Should I get an outdoor propane burner?

I like to cook meat on the stove at very high temperatures to get a nice sear, and also for stir frying vegetables, but this creates a lot of smoke, smell and sometimes spatter. Should I try getting a propane burner and cooking outside with a cast iron pan or steel wok? [more inside]
posted by skewed at 5:40 PM PST - 9 comments

Bad at sex

My gf told me that I'm bad at sex. I'd like to be better at sex. Part of my confusion is that how she sees my performance and behavior is not how I see my performance and behavior. Perhaps you can help me out and direct me to good advice? [more inside]
posted by website user at 5:24 PM PST - 58 comments

What was that book?

I'm trying to help someone recall this book and it sounds so intriguing! Will? Liam? William? Does this ring a bell? [more inside]
posted by Calzephyr at 5:17 PM PST - 0 comments

Talking about pubic hair with a first date...?!

A guy I'm going to go on a date has put it up on his OkC profile that he prefers women who shave their pubic hair. I don't shave my pubic hair. Should I bring this up before we meet? [more inside]
posted by twill at 4:50 PM PST - 25 comments

Same Tweet, Different Interactions?

Several hours ago, I tweeted this quote from a radio interview on OPB, attributing it to the speaker; "Portland is a city that pushes black people out of neighborhoods and replaces them with 'Black Lives Matter' signs." I tweeted it using the speaker's handle. But I didn't combine both handles in the same tweet because I wanted to see if it would be treated differently if I tweeted them separately. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 3:04 PM PST - 8 comments

dispute with a garage

I had my strut mounts and strut assembly replaced in December 2016. Another garage is telling me the spring seats are broken. How can I get the installer garage to warranty repair this? [more inside]
posted by diode at 3:02 PM PST - 8 comments

What shoes does a minimalist wear in winter?

I am a cis-woman, mid-40s, living in the Bay Area, and I want shoes (brands or specific shoes) to wear to work in a casual environment in the winter that will fit a generally minimalist aesthetic and lifestyle. [more inside]
posted by vunder at 2:34 PM PST - 23 comments

Reviewing/submitting a short personal essay…. somewhere ?

I wrote a short nostalgic essay. Where is a good place to submit it and get it shared? Any good places to have a quick review of it? [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 2:25 PM PST - 2 comments

Plastic sheeting to block VOCs from Kills2 primer? Chemists? Anyone?

In case the layer of Killz2 primer I put on the plywood subfloor is the thing causing my headaches/nausea, is there a _type_ of plastic sheet or other barrier that will seal it well? [more inside]
posted by amtho at 2:02 PM PST - 6 comments

Half of the class are women? Is women?

Which is correct: Half of the class are women OR Half of the class is women? I think the former, but someone I'm editing for insists it's the latter.
posted by swheatie at 1:01 PM PST - 20 comments

Facebook anxiety

About a year ago, Facebook forced me to make a facebook page just so I could read a couple of people I was interested in. [more inside]
posted by Transl3y at 11:53 AM PST - 16 comments

Google Analytics stopped working. Code is on site.

Hi All, Our Google Analytics stopped working this Monday at exactly 00:00 -- completely flat. I ran a GA debugger and tag assistant and they both show that tracking code is placed correctly. Here's what we did 1. We first updated Google Analytics from http to https on View Settings (3 column) 2. Day later when we saw that GA stopped working, we also updated Property Settings (2nd column) from http to https Did this make it stop working? I thought https was best practice for setting up GA but perhaps it was done incorrectly. How do I remedy this so GA works again? Thanks for your help! [more inside]
posted by cheero at 11:14 AM PST - 5 comments

How to adjust scroll distance in browsers?

How can I use Chrome or Firefox's advanced about:config settings to tweak how many pixels/lines are shown for each time you do a full-screen scroll with the spacebar? I'd love to shorten the scroll by about 5% of the window height, but tried everything and can't seem to get it to work (or are there extensions to do this?) [more inside]
posted by mathowie at 11:14 AM PST - 2 comments

Mind Growing Book Ideas

I have been sending books I find interesting and thought provoking to my brother in law, who has been devouring them at a fantastic rate. I'm looking for more book ideas to send his way! [more inside]
posted by zug at 11:13 AM PST - 25 comments

Are there British podcasts I'm missing out on?

I love podcasts. But I feel like I'm missing out on a wealth of British ones. Do you have any favorite UK podcasts or radio shows? [more inside]
posted by actionpact at 11:10 AM PST - 31 comments

City Street & Slice of Life Tumblrs

Looking for websites (especially Tumblr sites) that focus on contemporary urban day-in-the-life and street photography. There are a ton of them for places like NYC, Tokyo, Paris, etc. and I follow some of those. But what I'm really looking for are Tumblrs of cities and places that may be difficult for a monolingual English speaker to find. Places like: Lagos, Sao Paulo, Mumbai, Beijing, Karachi, Kuala Lumpur, Guangzhou... Please share your favorites!
posted by Chrischris at 10:49 AM PST - 2 comments

Cream cheese mix-ins

Can you suggest savory ingredients that I can mix into cream cheese to spread on toast and slather on potatoes? [more inside]
posted by Triumphant Muzak at 10:35 AM PST - 33 comments

Non-Spicy Thai Curries

Is there anyway to purchase a Thai curry paste that has zero chilies in it? [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 10:25 AM PST - 12 comments

Another shoe question!

Looking for a pair of chelsea boots, in either style A or style B. Details within! [more inside]
posted by FirstMateKate at 9:37 AM PST - 8 comments

Basic quality podcast setup?

Can you provide an overview of a basic podcast setup? [more inside]
posted by Nonce at 8:28 AM PST - 7 comments

New cat old cat blues

I am hoping for anecdata about introducing a new cat to existing cats and having it initially go poorly but then they eventually become friends and everyone lives happily ever after. [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 8:14 AM PST - 15 comments

shoulder pain help

I have been having mystery chronic shoulder pain for three weeks. There was no trauma that I can recall. Saw my PCP yesterday, who ordered an X-ray that didn't show any dislocation, fracture or calcification. I can't get in to an orthopedist for a month. Is there anything I can do besides heat and meds? The PCP was shruggo if I should stretch or rest it. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 7:47 AM PST - 24 comments

Zika Free Travel in February - Need Ideas!

My husband and I are looking to travel somewhere in February for 8-9 days. We live in NYC and open to just about anywhere in the world, with preference for warm weather / beaches and no Zika risk. Any ideas? (We went to South Africa last year, but ideas for other travel in Africa, S America and beyond would be welcome...)
posted by angsolom at 7:34 AM PST - 12 comments

How can I up my shoe care game while still remaining extremely lazy?

I've never learned to take care of my leather shoes and hiking boots. But when I look up information on shoe care, I find Internet obsessive instructions that I know I'll never follow through on. [more inside]
posted by medusa at 7:21 AM PST - 6 comments

Windows Woes

I bought a laptop with a Traditional Chinese language edition of Windows 7 on it... help me keep my license as I switch over to an SSD. Complicating details inside. [more inside]
posted by matkline at 7:21 AM PST - 1 comment

Help me get started making music with synths!

I have previously made music with live instruments and would now like to learn to work with synthesizers. I want to use hardware. My goal is to have something I can use to write entire songs, not just design individual sounds. Please advise me on how to get started! [more inside]
posted by capricorn at 7:13 AM PST - 9 comments

How can this be mended? Is it dead?

On my way to work this morning I noticed a hole in my favourite pair of knit gloves: https://imgur.com/gallery/BjGqR Is there any way for this to be repaired? I love these gloves, they were an expensive treat for myself a few years ago and they are so comfortable and great to wear when driving in the winter. Can they be fixed? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 7:02 AM PST - 13 comments

Healthy Self Medication - Marijuana & Alcohol

I suffer from severe anxiety and depression with OCD. I have been getting treatment for most of my adult life with little success. I am currently trying to manage it with exercise, therapy and marijuana/alcohol. Details inside [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 6:32 AM PST - 12 comments

How to cure health anxiety

Fellow health-anxiety sufferers, can you share some successful thinking techniques or self-talk that helped ease your anxiety to do with health and doctors? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 4:49 AM PST - 10 comments

Is anything that is vegan haram?

Is anything that is vegan haram?
posted by pompomtom at 4:47 AM PST - 12 comments

Advice about asking for money for a non-profit

I need some help figuring out how to ask people I've never met at a certain company for money. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:30 AM PST - 6 comments

Is my ob-gyn scheduling this follow-up too soon?

Is 3 months enough time to heal, or to let the abnormal cells possibly go back to normal, or to show a different result? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:29 AM PST - 6 comments

How does one recover from a whirlwind relationship?

Long story short, a very close friend and I became romantically entangled (in an affair, to be completely honest), in which there lots of emotion invested, promises were made, then she broke it off, thereby also killing the friendship - which I knew was a risk. I know we shouldn't have gone there be we did anyway. I'm having difficulty coping with the loss. What's next, and how do I move along? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:29 AM PST - 7 comments

November 13

Last night I could not read

I lost the ability to read last night, shortly before beginning a food-poisoning induced toilet hugging session. What was going on? [more inside]
posted by bergnotburg at 10:16 PM PST - 10 comments

Corporate Income Tax: Who Pays?

Whenever a discussion of taxation comes up, Republicans and especially big L libertarians claim that corporate taxes are always necessarily paid by the purchaser of the product and therefore the only rational corporate tax rate is zero. However, applying a bit of thought uncovers some seemingly obvious contradictions with other parts of their economic mental model. I'd like some help figuring out the real arguments on either side rather than the superficial crap that seems to dominate. [more inside]
posted by wierdo at 9:23 PM PST - 18 comments

How do I find out if these Japanese stamps are worth anything?

My grandfather-in-law was given these Japanese stamps by a colleague a few decades ago. We've framed them and used them as wall hangings. We're ready to toss them, but wanted to check whether they might be valuable. [more inside]
posted by pompelmo at 9:15 PM PST - 6 comments

Can I eat this? Mint extract edition

Will my mint extract kill us? If yes, what did I do wrong? If no, please suggest recipes that use mint extract! [more inside]
posted by Fish, fish, are you doing your duty? at 8:01 PM PST - 13 comments

Conan! What is good in Cincinnati?

Hey MeFi! I'm going to be in Cincinnati shortly and am a bit of a snowflake as you may know from my prior asks. It's going to be a short trip but I'm not at all familiar with the area. Under the cut for more, any advice appreciated. [more inside]
posted by bile and syntax at 7:26 PM PST - 12 comments

Writing in Fragments

I read about Nabokov writing Lolita on large index cards while his wife drove him around the United States so he could collect butterflies. I love, love, love the idea of writing an entire book, or at least heavily outlining a book or longer work, one card at a time. I'm looking for anything on writing in small chunks, or fragments, that are eventually combined into something larger. It could be personal experiences, methodologies, workflow examples, links to author interviews, apps, books, or what have you. [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 7:24 PM PST - 25 comments

Just another barely remembered text

I would like to find a short story that I read in the 80s or 90s. Very few clues. [more inside]
posted by flourpot at 6:52 PM PST - 2 comments

Find that top!

Can you help me find the top that Stephany Buswell is wearing in episode 1 of season 4 of Holiday Baking Championship? [Picture] I can't even see most of it due to the apron but I've fallen in love. It's a black short sleeve top with a stylized purple floral design across the front and a scalloped v-neck with rose details. [more inside]
posted by Mizu at 6:26 PM PST - 5 comments

Easy, low salt meals

I'm looking for a cookbook for my dad that contains easy, low salt recipes. He's more of a vegetable guy than a meatloaf guy. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 6:12 PM PST - 2 comments

We need help navigating screen limits for our 12 year old.

We have been worried for years, tried to impose limits without success. We need help. [more inside]
posted by peeps! at 5:55 PM PST - 19 comments

Trying to find a short story

I’m trying to find a short story. It’s told from the perspective of a teenage girl; her mother dies or has recently died. The girl withdraws from all her friends, and almost all of them stop reaching out. One friend leaves the girl cards or maybe flowers or a plant on her porch every week. The friend says (I’m not sure if implicitly or explicitly) hey, I know you’re not ready to be in the world and talk to me, but I’m here when you’re ready. [more inside]
posted by insectosaurus at 5:34 PM PST - 0 comments

Hardwired fire alarms are so sensitive we can't make dinner. Help!

I'm living in a brand-new house with brand-new hardwired fire alarms (this model, I think). The one in the living room - a good 20 feet from the kitchen - goes off almost every single time we cook. [more inside]
posted by Tomorrowful at 4:36 PM PST - 14 comments

Which online petition applications do you like?

I'd prefer to have options to limit publicity and the visibility of signatories. This is more like a letter with multiple signers. Has anyone used Google Forms for this purpose? Thank you!
posted by walla at 4:34 PM PST - 1 comment

Handheld salad-like hors d'oeuvres for Thanksgiving?

We're having a non-traditional menu this Friendsgiving and are doing everything appetizer style. I have lots of cheesy/high-carb/main dish appetizer ideas, but am having a hard time thinking of a handheld analog to the salad I usually serve at holiday meals. I'm looking for crisp, veggie-based, low cheese/carb appetizers that I can serve and reasonably expect people to eat without cutlery. I have access to a few decent local grocery stores the week before, and a Trader Joe's day-of.
posted by stellaluna at 4:19 PM PST - 21 comments

ID an American drama or film for me, pre-2000.

I saw a piece of drama. It was definitely made before 2000. Probably set in the South, and centred around slavery or its aftermath. The one scene I remember is in the extended explanation. [more inside]
posted by Leon at 4:19 PM PST - 0 comments

Calling all cooks: How do you time cooking large meals?

I have lots of practice cooking and I do it often. I still don't have the timing down, though. I do best when following recipes that specify "while X is cooking, do this." I find it tremendously helpful, but most recipes are not written this way. Thanksgiving Day looms near, and I want to cook a lovely meal for my sweetie! Help! [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 4:09 PM PST - 16 comments

Help me find a work from home career path

I have recently become a single mom and have need of a job that will pay decently to help my family find a more independent footing. I also have a special needs child that makes getting a "regular" job almost impossible. I need some direction! [more inside]
posted by kittyloop at 3:51 PM PST - 12 comments

I am a terrible musician. Help me be terrible on a new instrument.

Do you have experience with electric cellos? What would you let someone know looking to purchase one? Any recommendations for a specific instrument? [more inside]
posted by munchingzombie at 3:00 PM PST - 6 comments

Discovered redundancy is imminent - what to do?

I have been told, from a reliable source, that, after many years with my employer, I am probably going to be made redundant at the end of the month. I am not meant to know this, and I am not sure what to do with this knowledge. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by teselecta at 2:31 PM PST - 14 comments

Which small Christmas tree should I buy?

We would like to have a Christmas tree, but our house is very small. We could potentially find room for an ultra-slim tree or a tabletop tree. What is the best solution, given the snowflakes behind the cut? [more inside]
posted by oblique red at 12:48 PM PST - 16 comments

Fix my lips

Getting over the mouth-breathing part of a bad cold or upper respiratory infection or whatever. What’s your magic cure for lips beyond chapped? I’m talking crinkly and cracked, look and feel burned, bleeding at the edges nightmare-lips. I’m on day two of constantly applying Vitamin E and it’s not working (yet), what with the bleeding and all.
posted by OrangeVelour at 12:35 PM PST - 53 comments

Is there a successor format to animated GIFs?

Is there a viable successor format to animated GIFs? Technically it should be very easy to create short looping videos that are higher quality and smaller size, but apparently GIFs still rule the world. [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 11:40 AM PST - 7 comments

Get a list of open documents and their desktops on a mac?

In order to prevent loss of state in the event of a crash, I periodically make a list of all my open windows and which desktop each one of them is on (~50 documents across 16 desktops), and then I date it. Is there a way I could automate this? [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 11:19 AM PST - 2 comments

Training a machine learning/neural network on comic book images

I have what seems like it should be a fairly straightfoward machine learning/image feature identification problem. I want to identify speech bubbles and captions in comic book pages. Am I out of my mind for thinking that this is something an amateur programmer can take a crack at, and if not, how should I approach it? [more inside]
posted by Sokka shot first at 11:05 AM PST - 3 comments

Removing suggested places on Google Maps

Trying to put together a detailed map of Barcelona with all the places that I want to visit pinned to a saved map. Managed to create the map but all of Google's suggested restaurants and shops are also showing up, in addition to my saved places. Is there a way to remove that layer of suggested businesses? I don't really care to see the McDonald's or other random restaurants on my map layer.
posted by something_witty at 10:55 AM PST - 5 comments

How do I decide what to do with my future?

I am floundering in a pool of indecision regarding grad school. I want to pursue both Eurasian studies (Russian, specifically, and Central Asian language / culture) and become a Physician's Assistant. How should I plot this path? [more inside]
posted by erattacorrige at 10:36 AM PST - 28 comments

Can Sinuses Be Damaged by Prolonged Exposure to Urine/Diaper Odor?

I developed unusual and prolonged sinus damage last year around the same time that I spent a few consecutive weekends packing-up and moving my elderly parents. Both are incontinent and lived in terrible conditions to which they had become accustomed. I will spare you the details but imagine the worst. Now double it. The smell alone was terrible and overwhelming. Could my exposure to these conditions have had anything to do with the sinus problems that still plague me today? [more inside]
posted by Jamesonian at 10:19 AM PST - 7 comments

Books about Love

Looking for a fiction book about love. The catch - not a book about new love, puppy love, unrequited love, etc. I'd like a book about people who have been in love for a decade or more and are happy (or end up happy). The love story doesn't have to be a main plot in the story, but it would be appreciated. [more inside]
posted by peasandcarrots at 9:23 AM PST - 27 comments

Freezer burrito fillings!

I'm making these for a friend who just had a baby. Help me think of things to put in them. [more inside]
posted by joyceanmachine at 9:18 AM PST - 14 comments

Help for Steroid Side-Effects?

I am off prednisone but am still feeling the effects of the medication. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by *s at 9:08 AM PST - 2 comments

Carving for children?

My ten-year-old grandson is interested in carving. I would like to buy him a kit for Christmas, but I'm not thrilled with what I'm finding. Is this doable? [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 8:28 AM PST - 18 comments

What's on your European bucketlist?

Related to my last question, my transfer to the home office in Munich has been approved! We will be there for 3-4 years. Neither of us have ever been to Europe and we want to see as much as possible. What's on your European bucket list? [more inside]
posted by LizBoBiz at 8:17 AM PST - 47 comments

Too much white space in my Facebook posts?

Sorry I can't screenshot, but multiple people are reporting that my Facebook posts start with lines and lines of extra whitespace. Like, a phone screen worth of whitespace that they have to scroll down to see my posts. Any suggestions for what's going wrong on my end? (I don't think this is universal, just some people have reported.) Thanks!
posted by 2soxy4mypuppet at 8:05 AM PST - 3 comments

To dust you shall return: winter skin edition

It is coming on to winter where I live, and in keeping with annual tradition I am now doing my best CryptKeeper impression with the skin all over my body turning to dust. [more inside]
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 7:39 AM PST - 30 comments

Snowflake-y recommendations for 24 hours in Lisbon

I'm heading to Lisbon for a conference and basically have this coming Friday at noon til Saturday slightly after noon to myself. I'm into pottery/ceramics and early Japanese-Portuguese encounters (e.g. tempura). How can I maximize my time in Lisbon?
posted by johnnybeggs at 7:17 AM PST - 5 comments

Washington DC Travelfilter: Seeking calm, quiet, cozy gustatation

I'm taking a much-needed short vacation to Washington DC this weekend (I've been describing it to friends and family as "four glorious days during which no one will talk to me."). I'll be alone, which is sort of the whole point. I'm looking for food and drink locations that are especially pleasant for a lone woman with a book to pass some quiet late fall evening hours, around the Foggy Bottom and Georgetown areas (or farther afield if it's really worth it). [more inside]
posted by soren_lorensen at 6:55 AM PST - 17 comments

ENT in NYC

I need an NYC ENT with a friendly staff and not horrific scheduling/availability (NP or PA is fine with me!) that takes Aetna. Bay Ridge or Brooklyn/Manhattan on the N/R line preferably below 59 Street/Columbus Circle. Bonus points if you saw them for nosebleeds. My chronic nosebleeds have returned to being two or three times a day and I’m currently having my second nosebleed of the morning. [more inside]
posted by bilabial at 5:26 AM PST - 7 comments

I hurt a friend and I'm not sure how to proceed

My need for space hurt a friend, and I need some advice, please. [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 3:33 AM PST - 23 comments

Games for Android and Windows

What are some good games for Android and Windows (assume pretty good specs for this question). My budget is around $100 and can stretch more if needed [more inside]
posted by theobserver at 3:32 AM PST - 6 comments

November 12

How do I navigate my relationship with my functional alcoholic mother?

This is a 2 part question & id appreciate help with both if possible. First, how this affects me personally, and second, how it is affecting me in the context of a romantic relationship. [more inside]
posted by Willow251 at 11:12 PM PST - 9 comments

What are these? (Found in carpet)

An elderly neighbor found these in her carpet, and asked me to see if I could find out online what they may be. Anyone here have an idea? (Originals are smaller than a grain of rice.) carpetthing1 carpetthing2
posted by tenderly at 10:56 PM PST - 6 comments

Ancient Iodine

I have this extremely vintage-iconic iodine bottle in my bathroom. As far as I can tell my mother gave it to me after her mother gave it to her. How old is it? [more inside]
posted by tehloki at 10:02 PM PST - 6 comments

Hidden infrastructural marvels of the Southern California mountains

I've been finding many strange and unexpected infrastructural treasures on my hikes through the mountain ranges of Southern California/greater Los Angeles. Help me find more! [more inside]
posted by mykescipark at 8:37 PM PST - 6 comments

Longshot hard drive recovery question

My hard drive is on its way out, I would like to get it to work one more time to grab some photos off of it. [more inside]
posted by stormygrey at 7:58 PM PST - 10 comments

Am I a Sucker or What?

How can I make this job in healthcare more tolerable? [more inside]
posted by loveandhappiness at 7:28 PM PST - 13 comments

Is Christopher Alexander's A Pattern Language in the public domain?

After reading A Pattern Language, I noticed it was up on archive.org. Things on the Internet Archive are generally in the public domain or are otherwise noted, but I also know that anyone can upload anything to it. Christopher Alexander is still alive, but is this somehow in the public domain? I'm hoping to do a project with it, and it would make it way easier if this really was in the public domain.
posted by ignignokt at 7:03 PM PST - 7 comments

Transferring mp3 files from a Mac formatted hard drive to a PC?

Macbook Pro user for the last 10-12 years I have about 200 gigs worth of mp3's & other music on a mac formatted portable hard drive.. Mac book finally died.....Decided to go with a PC laptop... PC is not recognizing my mac formatted hard drive and therefore I have been unable to rebuild my itunes library....Stupidly cancelled my iutnes match a year ago....Murphy's Law, I know. Anyways I have tons of live shows and super rare music that is not replaceable via spotify, itunes, amazon music or whoever... This music resides on my portable hard drive? Did a bit of googling, but not sure of the best and safest option to transfer these 'mac' mp3 files to my new PC. Hellllp?
posted by TwilightKid at 6:42 PM PST - 7 comments

programming novice asks: how to emulate freerice.com website

I'm a teacher with a small, outdated programming background who wants to build a website for my own students. I have a couple of very large lists of vocab, ranked by frequency/approximate difficulty. I'd like to use these lists to create a web game exactly like the one at freerice.com for my students. I need to be able to change up the lists without too much trouble down the road: if I find typos or want to change a definition, for instance, I'd like to do that without a colossal inconvenience. I thought it would be fun to learn how to do this myself. What programming language or tools should I study? Is this something Python could do? Thank you! [more inside]
posted by lotf629 at 6:24 PM PST - 4 comments

Sediment inside base of humidifier? Anything to worry about?

Some kind of sediment or growth has occurred in our humidifier after a period of nonuse . . . it's white on a portion of the internal workings of the humidifier that's black. Here are two pics . . . Normally I'd just use it but this was to be used in our twin toddlers bedroom.
posted by eggman at 5:28 PM PST - 7 comments

Yoga streams

An intermediate level yoga practice has been helping my hip recover from an overtraining injury, but I'm not able to get to the studio as much as I'd like. I've got Netflix, Hulu, and Prime-can you recommend intermediate or higher level yoga programs that are really just yoga (no cardio mixed in, etc) to supplement my in-person classes? Also open to something you love that I can get another way. Thx!
posted by PaulaSchultz at 4:39 PM PST - 7 comments

Between a polyamorous rock and a monogamous hard place??

Should I give it a try or cut contact? [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 3:57 PM PST - 25 comments

How can I help unseat Paul Ryan?

My daughter lives in WI congressional district 1, where the current rep is Paul Ryan. I am going to be out there for the month of February, and and wondering about how I could help do some regime change. I had been planning on working while I was out there, but am unexpectedly retiring, and I would have time to do something useful during the daytime Who should I contact? Asking now because I will be out there Thanksgiving week and might make early contact then.
posted by MtDewd at 3:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Seattle, I hear you have some art.

Simple: I'm heading to Seattle for the first time, and I love art—as in, I'm open to all of it. I'm going to be there for two full weekdays later this month, and my time is my own. I want to see cool stuff I can't see every day in Chicago. What might that be? [more inside]
posted by heyho at 2:37 PM PST - 13 comments

Half-size acoustic guitar that isn't classical/nylon string?

I can't find a half-size guitar that isn't a classical (or worse, toy-style -- all cheap stiff nylon strings that are impossible to get or keep in tune). Does such a thing exist? [more inside]
posted by erst at 2:00 PM PST - 17 comments

Is there anything better than Slideshare?

I do a lot of public speaking for work. I usually make a page like this one with downloadable slides in various formats; I'd love to be able to embed my actual talk. I use Keynote to make/present my talks, but its PDF export is suboptimal and I can't upload those talks to Slideshare. Slideshare's PDF and Powerpoint options are no good. Is there somewhere else I can upload a Keynote presentation so that someone can click through it while reading the presenter notes, Slideshare style? [more inside]
posted by jessamyn at 12:58 PM PST - 9 comments

How do I help actually rebuild Puerto Rico, with my actual hands?

I want to go help fix people's houses in Puerto Rico over the holidays. Will this really be helpful? If so, what organization can I volunteer with? [more inside]
posted by gusandrews at 12:18 PM PST - 8 comments

Should we freeze a baby's credit files?

In the aftermath of the Equifax breach, we've been on a credit-freezing binge. We're good on the adult side -- files are frozen for my wife and I at all the major bureaus. Should we go through the process of freezing our 1yo's files too? [more inside]
posted by heresiarch at 11:49 AM PST - 2 comments

What should we do in Berlin over New Year's?

My partner and I are looking for recommendations for our trip to Berlin in late Dec./early Jan. [more inside]
posted by stonetongue at 11:11 AM PST - 12 comments

Considering adopting a fostered motherless kitten-

We are considering adopting a very young 8 week old kitten who was found on the streets at 3 weeks old and has been with a loving foster ever since. What should we consider? [more inside]
posted by stewiethegreat at 11:03 AM PST - 16 comments

Hurricane Sandy Cost Breakdown

Are there any figures on where the funds were spent for Sandy's repairs? i.e. cost of infrastructure repair. (tunnels, bridges, roads) Residential. Public (schools, hospitals)?
posted by ebesan at 11:00 AM PST - 1 comment

Cold Weather Jeans for Women

I've always been jealous of the flannel-lined jeans for boys and men that I used to see in the L.L. Bean catalog. Are there any companies that make a similarly soft fleecy/flannel lined denim in a women's skinny jean? [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 10:08 AM PST - 13 comments

Should I take vitamins?

I know people have varying opinions about this, but is there an actual fact-based answer? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 9:58 AM PST - 32 comments

Is there a way to select/copy/isolate files from a list of file names?

I have a folder of files (A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H...) and a list which represents a subset of those files (B, C, F, H...). Is there a way for me to use the list (excel, .csv) to automatically select these 300 or so files from the complete set? Ultimately I need to send the files from the list files (and ONLY these files from the list) to someone else. I can use either Mac or PC solutions here.
posted by brbmaroon at 9:32 AM PST - 7 comments

Where should I go to buy a diamond engagement ring [New Jersey]?

I'm unsure about where to buy a diamond engagement ring. [more inside]
posted by Carius at 9:20 AM PST - 9 comments

What book should I give to an alt-righter?

I have a longtime friend who has always been a political contrarian - whatever the political majority is within the environment he resides in, he reacts against it. Last year however, he became enamored with the alt-right (Milo, Vox Day tier writers included) and I have become increasingly worried about his ideological tunnel vision. This is a person who I think of as smart and intellectually curious - but very stubborn. Is there an ideal book out there that might help to expand his worldview? [more inside]
posted by the_querulous_night at 8:44 AM PST - 15 comments

The pie's the limit!

I'm looking for your best pie recipes, both sweet and savory. I'm hosting a pie and book party in mid December, and I want my pies to wow people. Recipe me! [more inside]
posted by firei at 8:36 AM PST - 21 comments

Where can I rent a laptop? (UK edition)

Over this Christmas period, I've got a fair amount of time off from work, and although I'll be seeing friends and family, I'm going to have a large amount of time by myself with not a great deal of money or anything to do..... I'm going to be living by myself for the first time in a while, without a TV and want to be able to rent a laptop for this period, primarily to watch films via streaming on, and re-play an old cracked copy of Half Life 2 I've got. [more inside]
posted by inner_frustration at 7:54 AM PST - 6 comments

Joyful, loud gospel songs needed!

I’ve discovered that gospel music is very comforting and energizing to me in these trying times we’re living in. Please recommend your favorite joyful, loud, uplifting, inspiring gospel songs. I’m looking for suggestions for specific versions of gospel songs—classics or modern— that are immediate mood-boosters—sung by individual artists, groups, or even better, full choirs. Thanks!
posted by bookmammal at 6:08 AM PST - 24 comments

Web service for writing a book, confidentially.

Where on the internet can I compose a book (from a browser and a mobile device) and know with a high degree of confidence that it won't disappear if I am incapacitated? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:09 AM PST - 7 comments

I think I have vertigo

I've been feeling dizzy and weak for 5 days. I think it might be vertigo. I'm going to the doctor on Monday but in the meantime do you have any tips for how I can feel less awful. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:09 AM PST - 17 comments

Divorce without friends

I am thinking about divorce. I won't go into the reasons now, I don't think they matter for this question. The thing that's holding me back most is that my spouse is my only friend. I have no other friends. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:09 AM PST - 16 comments

November 11

Looking for a missing person in Santa Clarita

I have a friend who has gone missing in Santa Clarita, CA and I have no idea how to look for them. [more inside]
posted by Foam Pants at 9:29 PM PST - 4 comments

I want to be a music maker

How can I set up a mini home studio? Studio may be too strong of a word, but I’m looking for a set up of (I think) a basic mic, a large speaker, and a keyboard (eventually trading that out for a piano). I want my kids to be able to experiment and get comfortable with speaking/singing into a mic, and to be able to do karaoke with them. Can you help with suggestions? [more inside]
posted by sealee at 9:02 PM PST - 1 comment

Bad back pain, hurts to stand, hard to breathe... out of the blue.

This week, my lower back began to hurt a bit as I moved around, but nothing severe, but tonight, out of the blue, my whole stomach/back hurts. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 8:48 PM PST - 14 comments

Creepy-ass CL advert: cult in Texas?

Yeah, so I recently glanced through the rooms offered section of Craigslist and noticed one that was directly advertising to single parents and encouraging them to move to Dallas. The text was about 90% red flag and heavily implied that the group writing it was in a cult, but not necessarily in a way that made me think "obvious joke." It's CL, so grains of salt ahoy, but: is there a chance this is a serious ad? And if so, who the hell do I warn? [more inside]
posted by sciatrix at 7:48 PM PST - 14 comments

Is this how therapy is supposed to end?

I am wondering what experiences other people have had ending a relationship with a therapist. I recently decided to terminate my relationship with my therapist, and the experience has left me feeling pretty terrible. [more inside]
posted by PrincessCrouton at 6:23 PM PST - 15 comments

What jacket is Idris Elba wearing on Jimmy Kimmel?

https://youtu.be/ftb0jRdjpaQ Thanks!
posted by gummo at 5:33 PM PST - 6 comments

New Year's in Mexico City

We'll be in Mexico City the last week of December this year, through New Year's. Can you advise us on any holiday events to look into, and how the September earthquake should factor into our planning? [more inside]
posted by slanket wizard at 4:21 PM PST - 2 comments

Hack my flight- iphone edition

I'm flying for about six hours twice in the next week. I've converted a few movies and want to play them on my iphone. It keeps asking for a wireless connection. Google has failed me. More info inside. Help me ObiWan. [more inside]
posted by Draccy at 3:37 PM PST - 3 comments

How do I clean a grimy street sign?

My decommissioned NYC street sign is dingy and dirty, but I don't know how to clean it properly. What solvents or materials can I use to clean it without damaging it? [more inside]
posted by yellowcandy at 3:29 PM PST - 12 comments

Tried and true resources on emergency coping skills?

So my life has had a big, ugly, bad change in the last 24 hours, for reasons that are unambiguously my fault, and I'm in the level of emotional crisis that makes people ask if you're safe being alone. (I am safe, no worries there - please assume this is true.) I need more ideas than I currently have about how to cope with this in a healthy way. What resources on emergency coping skills for big crises have worked for you and yours?
posted by centrifugal at 2:55 PM PST - 28 comments

Should I buy this tube amp?

Does it make sense to purchase this tube phono preamp if it's going to be hooked up to a mid-range Denon AV receiver? [more inside]
posted by Venadium at 2:16 PM PST - 4 comments

The Proper Care And Feeding Of One's Garments

In 2010, Jezebel ran a limited series of blog posts under the title, "Dress Code: The Proper Care And Feeding of Your [Garments/Shoes/Leather/etc]." I'm looking for an updated, hopefully expanded resource like this. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 1:37 PM PST - 3 comments

Collection agency coming after us for damages we paid in 2014

We rented a property in Vancouver BC in 2014 and damaged the carpet (hot glass smashing on the stove, an accident). As a result, of course when property inspection was done, the damage was noted and we were informed that our security deposit would be witheld ($900). Everything seemed sorted, the landlady went through our payments in the office with us and was happy. Then we got a letter from a debt collection agency stating that we owe a further $700. [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday at 1:06 PM PST - 7 comments

Serial number of deregistered Kindle

My much-beloved Kindle is broken. I need the serial number to have it repaired. However, I never registered it, so I can't see the device in my account. The packaging has long since been discarded. How screwed am I? [more inside]
posted by easy, lucky, free at 12:17 PM PST - 14 comments

Meta-playlist-maker

I've got a bibliography, part of a research paper, with many links to web-based audio and video. Think YouTube, vimeo, mp3s hosted on miscellaneous sites, radio broadcasts, TV broadcasts, videos hosted on various small websites, etc. I would like to compile all this content into a playlist that is (relatively) accessible to visually impaired people with an internet connection. [more inside]
posted by 8603 at 12:08 PM PST - 2 comments

What should be in my freezer?

I really enjoy cooking, but I'm a first-year law student without much time to cook on weeknights. What can I prep ahead of time and freeze to cut down my cooking time? [more inside]
posted by frizzle at 11:46 AM PST - 15 comments

"Faculty member sponsor". What does that mean? PhD edition.

What does it mean to have a faculty member sponsor during the PhD application process? I haven't come across that language before, but one school says they require two of them, and that it's appropriate to contact potential sponsors. [more inside]
posted by lilies.lilies at 11:11 AM PST - 10 comments

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck--science edition!

I'd like to read a book along the lines of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, but something written by someone with professional credentials, like a psychiatrist, psychologist or neuroscientist, that draws upon current research. Any recommendations?
posted by mecran01 at 11:05 AM PST - 5 comments

I have been asked my salary req. how do I research salaries in this area

I have applied to be a program manager in Cleveland, Ohio. I am relocating from Washington, DC. How do I go about finding salaries for program managers in the non-profit field in Cleveland, Ohio?
posted by TRUELOTUS at 10:16 AM PST - 5 comments

unusual ceiling - can it be repaired?

Can this ceiling be repaired instead of just replaced? [more inside]
posted by dilettante at 9:47 AM PST - 13 comments

What to expect when losing a perfectly good kidney: Hashimoto's edition.

In a few days I have pre-op exams for the removal of a 8cm fatty benign tumor (angiomyolipoma) on my kidney. There's a good chance the kidney will also be removed because of size and position. I have also started synthroid about 6 weeks ago for newly diagnosed Hashimoto's. Trying to Google what to expect from this possible confluence is giving me a lot of Woo. What can I expect from losing a perfectly good kidney (possibly adrenal too) with Hashimoto's? [more inside]
posted by romakimmy at 9:45 AM PST - 6 comments

Seeking balance in relationships

I realize more and more that by far, the majority of my relationship have not had balance. I want to change that. [more inside]
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 9:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Lone turkey seeks weekend day trips in SoCal

I'll be (sorta-kinda voluntarily) alone this Thanksgiving, and I want to go on an adventure. Where should I go/what should I do? [more inside]
posted by otenba at 7:06 AM PST - 7 comments

What is stealing the elixir of life?

We make our coffee in a Pyrex jug with one of those plastic pour-over cones and paper filters. It tastes better than coffee from a fancy machine, but there's a problem. I always measure out a pint of water to boil, and usually get a pint of coffee back. But sometimes it's reduced to as little as 3/4 pint. I guess the rest of the water is absorbed in the coffee grounds, but why does it happen at some times and not others? How can I prevent it?
posted by Perodicticus potto at 5:56 AM PST - 9 comments

It’s bad news to me!

I just found out that my IPhone 6+ and both of my iPads are sending my location in each and every text/email I send! I’m in shock! I have searched settings to turn this off and have no luck in how to do it. PLEASE HELP!
posted by pamspanda at 4:02 AM PST - 5 comments

What is another example of nauseous vs nauseated?

In conversation this evening we were talking about the use of nauseous vs nauseated. Often I hear “I am nauseous” when from my understanding the correct usage is “I am nauseated.” However, the former is so prevelant that it has become an acceptable usage. (**Not here to argue about what is technically correct or incorrect,**) This reminded me of another example that’s been on the tip of my tongue the whole night but I can’t quite recall. It is a similar situation in which a different form of the word is used incorrectly but it is done so often that it has become an acceptable usage of such. The example I am thinking of is very similar in that “I am....” Can you think of any examples?
posted by masters2010 at 1:11 AM PST - 60 comments

November 10

Should it stay or should it go? UK-Japan money movement question

I am a UK citizen, permanently based in Japan. I have several Japanese bank accounts, a UK bank account, but no UK address. A kind family member in the UK has given me £10,000 to use as I please. I don’t need this money right now, and probably won’t need it for the next 5 years, in fact. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:59 PM PST - 2 comments

Working as a security guard, with disabilities?

I'm middle-aged and I need to start a new career fast. I just want a basic, non-challenging job, ideally something at night. I'm thinking about becoming a security guard, but I'm not physically brave, I have health issues that have kept me out of the work force for a few years and I experience varying levels of disability. I've long fantasized about having the kind of slow-paced, quiet security job you see in sitcoms and movies, where some guard is alone at 3 AM looking at a bank of monitors, bored out of his mind. How likely is this? (More questions follow after the cut.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:59 PM PST - 12 comments

life after depression 🌅

Looking for recs for works about life after depression [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:59 PM PST - 2 comments

Budget bitters, amaro alternatives, or digestifs for dabbling

I hardly drink alcohol at all, but over the past couple years, my girlfriend and I have slowly discovered that we like bitters/digestifs. What are some after-dinner liquors (or digestifs, or bitters, or even brandies, or what have you) that are worth checking out, but won't break the bank? [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 8:01 PM PST - 28 comments

A MONTH RAFTING THE GRAND CANYON?!??

I’m spending January rafting the Grand Canyon. I am mostly prepared, I’ve done a lot of river trips and have backpacked a lot but this will be the longest I’ve spent on the river, and have never rafted the Colorado. Do you have any life hacks? [more inside]
posted by Grandysaur at 7:46 PM PST - 8 comments

Did I do enough to locate the owner of this cat?

My father brought home a stray cat. It was hanging around some ladies house for a week or so but she didn't want to let it inside and it was near winter in Chicago so we took it in. It has an unregistered chip but we filed a missing report at the humane society the chip originated from. The lady has his number in case owner shows up as well. Did I do enough or do I need to do more? [more inside]
posted by mamamia88 at 7:21 PM PST - 11 comments

I have lots of portraits. How to align heads/faces for timelapse video?

I've taken lots and lots of pictures of my baby sitting in his stroller. They're taken at a similar angle with similar cropping, but not literally with a tripod same zoom level etc. etc. They're not identical. I want to make a timelapse video and it would be great if the heads could line up. Is there software that will line up the heads and make a timelapse? [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 6:58 PM PST - 10 comments

Work-based life insurance question (Canada)

I've been made permanent after 4 months at my job, and this comes with some small amount of insurance of various kinds. I have to name a beneficiary for the life insurance bit. [more inside]
posted by zadcat at 5:49 PM PST - 3 comments

Personal Information and Political Organizations. And Emails.

I got an email from Moveon.org, one of the many Democratic organizations I find myself unable to unsubscribe from. They are offering a free sticker in support of Dreamers - maybe you've seen it! Anyway, I would be most happy to show support for Dreamers and I would like to see the sticker so I clicked knowing full well that donation requests would accompany the free sticker. But am I agreeing to something more than just a free sticker? [more inside]
posted by Glinn at 4:21 PM PST - 7 comments

Early stage kidney disease

Someone close to me was diagnosed with Stage 2 kidney disease. [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 3:50 PM PST - 6 comments

We co-signed for a private student loan, now primary isn't paying

Several years ago we co-signed for a private student loan with Navient for our relative "Sarah". It seemed like the right thing to do at the time. The loan has recently come out of deferment. Sarah is not paying on the loan and quite possibly won't. Navient cannot reach her. They can reach us, though. I know we don't have lots of options, but what are our options here? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:27 PM PST - 48 comments

looking for a warsan shire poem

i read a poem by warsan shire that used to be available. i can't find it anywhere now. [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 2:27 PM PST - 1 comment

Selecting a basic (non-smart) phone

I’m spending too much time on my smartphone, so I would like to leave that at home/in my car and purchase a super simple phone with limited features for emergency use. I’d like it to be inexpensive, and all I need it to do is store 10-15 contacts, send and receive texts, and make phone calls. [more inside]
posted by delight at 2:25 PM PST - 6 comments

What's hot in Library and Information Science jobs?

What are the growth fields in LIS? [more inside]
posted by AArtaud at 2:01 PM PST - 6 comments

How to tell a good food pantry from bad

A food pantry I've donated to several times makes me concerned. Should I be? Details within. [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 1:41 PM PST - 14 comments

Literary escapism for those who are Sick of This Shit

I cannot with everything that's going on in the world and I would like to take the weekend to lose myself in fiction. Please recommend novels that will help me briefly forget about how awful the world is right now. [more inside]
posted by tatiana wishbone at 1:36 PM PST - 39 comments

Christmas looms ever closer

My 5.5 year old wants a loom. Which of these basic models will bring the most enjoyment? [more inside]
posted by run"monty at 1:32 PM PST - 21 comments

What is this 70s-80s comic strip I remember?

I have a memory of a comic story I read when I was a kid (late-70s-mid-80s). The plot was something about an alien pilot coming out of a spaceship and a scene where he shed his space suit. It was a bulky power armor type suit, but it revealed he was a frail old man or just very withered being. [more inside]
posted by Legomancer at 1:18 PM PST - 1 comment

Funny, quirky, earnest movies?

Looking for movie recommendations for a blustery weekend. I loved "We Are The Best!" and "Lars and the Real Girl," because they were sweet and funny and slightly offbeat, but also earnest and thoughtful with endearing but not saccharine plots and characters. What other movies might I like?
posted by stillmoving at 1:08 PM PST - 65 comments

Income tax withholding responsibility?

Can a publicly funded institution be compelled to withhold income taxes for employees who live in cities outside of the institution’s location? [more inside]
posted by Big Chief Little Pants at 12:38 PM PST - 7 comments

How does a stock price going up help a company after the IPO?

Companies hold IPOs to get bursts of cash as they go public. But what good does it do for the company when their stock price rises. It helps anyone with options and owners of the stock, but does it help the corporation, as an entity? [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 12:31 PM PST - 13 comments

Bookfilter: Murder, identity theft, boating accident, photography etc.

I've read this book about five times and yet I can't remember its name. A guy discovers his wife is having an affair with their neighbour, who's a photographer. He kills the guy in a rage, then covers up the murder by faking his OWN death in a boating accident and using the neighbour's body. Then he assumes the neighbour's identity (photographer) and moves to a little town in the Rocky Mountains... Anyone?
posted by reshet at 12:29 PM PST - 2 comments

Help--our internet is stuck in the 90's!

Our business is located in a zone that cannot be hooked up to a cable internet without running cable underground and paying for construction. There must be a better way! (In Los Angeles, btw) [more inside]
posted by biscuits at 11:38 AM PST - 8 comments

Dysfunctional non-profit: how to remove a rogue Executive Director?

I took over a year ago as Chair of the Board of an established non-profit organization whose previously excellent reputation has been slowly degrading over the last decade or so. Over this year, it’s become clear that things are out of control behind the scenes. The Executive Director and a number of the staff have zero respect for the Board or the membership of the organization, openly ignore direct instructions to the detriment of the institution, and simply aren’t productive. I’m worried about possible malfeasance leading to liability on the part of the Board members. There’s a broad consensus among Board members is that the first order of business is removing the ED, but this person has the power to break a lot of china on their way out. I’m looking for your advice on how to navigate their departure in the most respectful and least disruptive way possible. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:16 AM PST - 6 comments

Mommy Dearest

How do I continue my relationship with my mother? Wall below. [more inside]
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 10:22 AM PST - 16 comments

Getting better at emotional labor in friend/family relationships

MetaFilter, did you use to be a person who was bad at being thoughtful, proactive, and supportive in friendships, and now you are better at it? Tell me how you did it! Nota bene: I'm female and this is not a question about gendered labor. [more inside]
posted by robot cat at 9:46 AM PST - 12 comments

EM-pty messages on iPhone

My partner and I just got new iPhone SEs. When she texts me a message with an em-dash, (typing two hyphens autocorrects it into an em dash, which never happened on the iPhone 5...) I can see the text that follows initially, but when I scroll back up to the message, everything after the em dash has disappeared. Is this a feature or a bug? [more inside]
posted by coppermoss at 9:03 AM PST - 4 comments

How do you respond to emails that you've taken too long to respond to?

I have several emails in my inbox from the beginning of October. They're mainly from people introducing me to other people, or for wanting to collaborate on work. And I haven't responded, partially because it was a slog of a work month, and partially because it feels too late to respond. As each day passes, it feels harder and harder. I'm curious what language you've used in these situations where your response is late. I have much more time on my plate now and would like to rekindle these potential work relationships.
posted by anonymous at 8:33 AM PST - 22 comments

How to deal with possibly competing job offers?

I'm thinking ahead because I haven't gotten an offer yet but I'm gonna have a big dilemma if Company A makes me an offer next week, because I want the job at Company B but I haven't had the final interview yet. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 8:16 AM PST - 11 comments

emotionally abused male?

I've seen Steven Stosny books recommended a few times on ask.mefi. As my marriage (19 years, male-female) continues to deteriorate, I'm trying to figure out if I'm being abusive, but also if my wife is being abusive. Stosny's books seem to be primarily written to women (at least based on Amazon descriptions.) Does anyone know of good resources, apart from therapy, for men that may be dealing with emotionally abusive spouses? Thanks.
posted by anonymous at 8:07 AM PST - 3 comments

LibraryThing vs goodreads?

Do you use LibraryThing or goodreads or both? What do you like or not like about each of them, aside from goodreads being owned by Amazon which I imagine most people dislike? [more inside]
posted by 2 cats in the yard at 8:00 AM PST - 13 comments

Minecraft - tips for playing with young elementary, rules; hindsight

I once played Minecraft, but it's been about 5 years.. and now I have an interested kindergartner. I know there's some of you who have played this with your elementary kids... tips, rules you go by? [more inside]
posted by typecloud at 7:51 AM PST - 6 comments

Baking filter: reducing butter in bread (sweet) recipe

I'm planning to bake a sweet holiday bread (German stollen), but the recipe calls for 1/2 cup of butter per loaf. Yummy, but a daunting amount of fat. If I reduced the amount of butter how would that change the bread (less moist, different texture, etc)? Is there a reasonable substitution I can make for part of the butter?
posted by duoshao at 7:41 AM PST - 14 comments

What should I do, I've been fired but the company still needs me?

The owner of the agency I work for threw a big fit and fired me because I had too much power and her husband didn't like it. There is no one who can do most of what I was doing, and some of it is essential on a daily basis. Now everyone but the owner keeps coming to me for help, what should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:30 AM PST - 78 comments

Dress this snowflake for snowflakes

Recently moved to a cold, snowy place. Could use advice for dressing warmly. Snowflakes inside! (And outside!) [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 6:38 AM PST - 38 comments

being socially proactive with anxiety

How can I be proactive with social events when I have anxiety over rejection and don't want to bother people? [more inside]
posted by bearette at 6:33 AM PST - 5 comments

What else does a one-year-old need?

Many, many relatives want to buy my very well-stocked baby Christmas presents. I feel like we have everything. I am at a loss and looking for outside the box suggestions for wants/needs I might suggest. [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 6:18 AM PST - 34 comments

Item to match a shawl

I'm crocheting a shawl for a friend for christmas, I'm almost done and have around 2/3rd of a skein left - about 60g worsted weight. Is there anything I could make to go with the shawl to use up the leftover yarn? [more inside]
posted by missmagenta at 5:37 AM PST - 10 comments

How to best record video interviews with older family members

My wife and I would like to record documentary-style interviews with our parents, aunts, and uncles while they're still around - asking about their lives, where our families came from, etc. I'd like to do this with the highest quality possible, I'm ready to rent a camera and proper mics, but I have no idea what kind of files come out of the high-end video cameras and how to edit them -- my only experience is with iMovie on a Mac. More inside... [more inside]
posted by exhilaration at 5:07 AM PST - 3 comments

How to handle politically-driven self-doubt/anxiety?

I have rumination spirals that feel unhealthy/unproductive, but simultaneously totally correct with respect to my personal progressivism. [more inside]
posted by InTheYear2017 at 4:56 AM PST - 20 comments

Help me replace my camera bag

So, I have been using a Tamrac Velocity 6 for the last decade or more as my quick camera bag. The front clip crumbled in my hands in the woods last night, and I don't see an easy way of replacing the clip. Also, I'm having some trouble finding a good replacement for the bag. [more inside]
posted by selfnoise at 4:41 AM PST - 6 comments

How likely am I to break my face (or other things) riding a bike?

I want to start riding a bike as a part of my commute. I've known two people who have flipped over the handlebars and broken their jaws/teeth/general face area. One person did it twice! Are accidents just part of the deal? How often do you hurt yourself (more than pulled muscles)? [more inside]
posted by greermahoney at 1:17 AM PST - 59 comments

November 9

Song or commercial from 1980/81

Looking to id song or commercial hubby heard on the radio in 1980/81 in San Francisco. Singer had a bob dylanish voice and the line hubby remembers was "don't let him (em/them?) go to Pimlico". Googling turns up nothing.
posted by TestamentToGrace at 9:20 PM PST - 7 comments

Conflicted about sex. What's your experience?

How old were you when you started thinking about sex? Snowflake inside. [more inside]
posted by Spiderwoman at 8:59 PM PST - 41 comments

How can I stop (or better manage) my crying episodes?

Recently, I've had more and more instances where some sort of a emotional or physical trigger makes me start to cry, which then often devolves into me sobbing, complete with borderline hyperventilation and difficulty speaking. How can I stop -- or better manage -- these crying episodes? [more inside]
posted by kylej at 7:37 PM PST - 6 comments

Can you recommend a PC game for me?

I really like doing missions in GTA Five involving shootouts with police, drug dealers, etc. Nothing fancy or complicated, just like shooting targets while trying not to be shot. Call of Duty and other war games seem like they might be too much for me to do (I am not a very talented gamer!). Suggestions?
posted by 8LeggedFriend at 6:49 PM PST - 13 comments

Is there anything concerning about this Tinder experience?

My friend's date suggested they rent a place in the city for two nights -- as their second date. I can't think of any specific concerns, but it's like nothing I've ever heard of. Two nights? Before they've even kissed? There's not some kind of well-known "Tinder Airbnb scam" I've never heard of, right? [more inside]
posted by a birds at 4:37 PM PST - 67 comments

Choosing a fatbike - what to look for

My wife and I have tried some fat bikes and they appear to be super fun. We're thinking about buying some, but with the prices involved, I'd like to know a few things. [more inside]
posted by Acari at 4:22 PM PST - 9 comments

Best E-Reader Or Tablet For Physics Textbooks?

What's the best E-Reader I can get to read a physics textbook that has lots of equations in it? [more inside]
posted by Kevin Street at 4:20 PM PST - 10 comments

Is this some kind of weird scam?

Sold a car on Craigslist. Guy is taking forever to pick it up. What gives? [more inside]
posted by Malleable at 4:15 PM PST - 8 comments

Mobius marathons: Need to qualify for a marathon? Run a marathon! But...

I have set a goal of running the Chicago Marathon in 2019: motivation to get back in shape, as well as my fiftieth birthday present to myself. Every google search I do on "how to qualify for the Chicago Marathon" says "run a qualifying marathon in Xh:xm." Great! But when I look up the qualifying marathon online, it has a qualifying marathon requirement. How do I break in to Marathon World? More details inside.... [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 4:09 PM PST - 8 comments

NSFW: Help me stop touching my bf in my sleep.

The last two times my boyfriend has slept over, I have touched him sexually in my sleep. I have no memory of this. He isn’t bothered, but I am. Help me figure out how to stop doing this? [more inside]
posted by schroedingersgirl at 3:07 PM PST - 32 comments

Planning office fun

My company has a new committee to plan office activities: happy hours, theme lunches, game nights, etc. I thought I'd query the hive mind to see what different companies have done that you've enjoyed. [more inside]
posted by radioamy at 3:06 PM PST - 18 comments

Juggling multiple job semi-offers - the government agency edition

Mefites who are familiar with guvmint bureaucracies: After searching with no luck for quite a while, I have suddenly ended up with 1.75 job offers at the same giant public agency and I am not sure how to respond. [more inside]
posted by Dr. Sock, WebMD at 2:30 PM PST - 3 comments

Stuck in Youtube hell...

Hey guys! We're yet another small business trying to get established on Youtube, but we're stuck with an old channel a former employee created and can't regain access. [more inside]
posted by roygbv at 2:26 PM PST - 9 comments

how to live through a very complicated day

I survived a suicide attempt on a date coming up very soon. What do I do that day? That week? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:02 PM PST - 8 comments

Roomba (or equiv) for Elderly Couple?

My mother and her husband are in their early seventies and recently face substantial physical limitations. Would something like a Roomba work for them? [more inside]
posted by Ivan Fyodorovich at 1:15 PM PST - 15 comments

What was sex like in the olden days?

I recently came across the husband and wife rating scales published by a psychiatrist in 1939 and was surprised to see that a husband would score 20 points for "ardent lover--sees that wife has orgasms in marital congress," as I didn't think there was much professional or personal insight back then into female sexual satisfaction. What would sex have been like in different centuries, and when did it become important for women to be sexually satisfied? [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 12:39 PM PST - 47 comments

Plan "B" for if deadbolt lock fails?

I want to rent out a remote cabin but the deadbolt lock has been acting strange. I need some kind of plan for if it fails. [more inside]
posted by cda at 12:38 PM PST - 11 comments

Quick question on advanced excel conditional formatting

I have a list of leads on Column A. I have a list of attendees to a conference. I want to highlight matching names so I can sort by color. for example ABC company is on A25. ABC company will be attending the conference and their name appears on B44. I want B44 to highlight in Yellow (and of course, do this for all matching entries). Thanks!
posted by FireStyle at 11:53 AM PST - 4 comments

I want to ride my bicycle, I want to ride it where I like

I'm a fat woman, and I want to bike to work. I also want to avoid looking too embarrassing during my commute. What should I wear while biking? [more inside]
posted by meese at 11:43 AM PST - 19 comments

Help me understand data use when streaming video

I am somewhat ashamed that I have to ask this, given that it's 2017 and I'm a grown-ass, educated person, so please do not laugh. When I am streaming video (Netflix, Hulu, etc.) does it use more data to watch it on my 48" TV than it does to watch it on my iPhone? Assume that I mean the same degree of video quality in both cases. Is the small screen view drawing less data to make me a smaller picture, or is it the same amount of data just sizing up or down as necessary?
posted by mccxxiii at 11:39 AM PST - 8 comments

Neurological/Health Benefits In Tying Unseen Knots?

I have a designed a pair of sarong-like pants where when you complete "putting them on" you finish the process by tying a shoelace/bow knot behind you just below your lower back. Because of this you cannot see the knot being tied. Is there neurological/Health benefits tying this unseen knot?
posted by goalyeehah at 11:02 AM PST - 9 comments

Is there a polite way to specify how long relatives can stay with us?

I have family who like to visit (great!) but sometimes will stay for over a week. They never say specifically how long they'd like to stay. This may be a cultural thing, so maybe there is no correct answer to this, but if I would prefer someone not stay for longer than 3-4 days, how does one navigate this conversation? [more inside]
posted by neeta at 10:20 AM PST - 17 comments

Knee pre-hab/strengthening

When I lift heavy weights, my right knee feels a twinge of pain. I would like a way to make sure my knee joints are in the best shape they can be. [more inside]
posted by tedious at 9:54 AM PST - 15 comments

books/resources about dealing with pathological liars

I just learned that my recent ex had been lying to me about various things, great and small. The behavior is definitely pathological but he doesn't have many of the typical narcissist traits I'd associate with this sort of abuse. I've dated a couple of people with similar issues. I'm interested in books/online resources for myself to try to understand this sort of personality problem and how to avoid entering a similar relationship in the future. more below. [more inside]
posted by Stellar Grey at 9:45 AM PST - 6 comments

What's the biggest & best checked luggage I can take around the world?

So I'm heading around the world for three months. I bought a luggage set and it fell apart, luckily, before I got going. So now I'm looking whatever the biggest checked bag is that I can take with me. Ideally it's strong, light, rolls well and isn't black (ideally red or brown). So I can find it on the luggage carousel. What's the right Joe Vs. The Volcano luggage for me?
posted by rileyray3000 at 9:17 AM PST - 11 comments

Should I wear mascara?

I get eyelashes stuck in my eyes unusually frequently. Is it dangerous if this happens when I have mascara on? [more inside]
posted by pinochiette at 8:44 AM PST - 6 comments

Gloves

I'd like to get some gloves for the winter. But I am a person that 'runs hot' and its pretty easy for me to get frustrated with gloves or elastic cuffs on jackets. I'd like light gloves, maybe fingerless, that don't have any decoration and will last for a long time, but keep my hands warm while I'm carrying groceries or riding my bike. [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 8:36 AM PST - 5 comments

Fixing a rain-jacket zipper

My wife has an older Mountain Hardwear rain jacket with pockets that zip shut; these zippers were not sewn down to the surrounding fabric but instead were bonded with some kind of glue strip, and that glue is no longer holding. We're wondering how to re-attach the zippers. A couple of photos of what I'm talking about: the zipper, the bonding strip
posted by adamrice at 7:41 AM PST - 6 comments

Sulfur smell in beef ribs

Opened up a pound of flanken cut ribs and was overwhelmed by a sulfur smell. Beef is within its use by date. Was going to slow cook it for dinner tonight. Should I Eat This?
posted by infinitewindow at 7:39 AM PST - 15 comments

I’ve always wanted to be a sperm donor.

My genetic traits seem just what the doctor ordered (no family history of cancer or mental illness, academically successful/high-IQ, good cheekbones, etc etc) with one glaring exception - I carry recessive Sickle Cell Anaemia. This means that I'm ineligible for sperm donation in the UK through the NHS system, which is heartbreaking, as that’s always been something I wanted to do. [more inside]
posted by piato at 7:00 AM PST - 14 comments

Any color, except brown. No more brown.

Please choose an interior paint color for me. [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 6:08 AM PST - 18 comments

Hiring cooking help

Hubs is about to start working a terrible schedule and I'm considering bringing in outside help with chores. I think I want someone to come in and cook the family's meals for the week. If you've done this, will you share your insight? [more inside]
posted by erloteiel at 5:18 AM PST - 8 comments

Mid-thirties lesbian trans woman: How do I meet people?

I'm in my mid-thirties, am transgender and a lesbian. I haven't dated in years - before transition I was in a six-year-long relationship. So far all my efforts at meeting people have been completely unsuccessful. What am I doing wrong? What should I do differently? And how do I stay sane in the process? [more inside]
posted by xchmp at 5:15 AM PST - 9 comments

My Google Home Mini won't light up, won't search, won't speak

My Google home mini will show the white lights upon reboot and the white lights will pulse a bit but after it is finished the device shows no lights and does not respond when I say ok Google. I've had it for a week and it seems to have stopped this morning My phone still does the search for me, but it is showing results on the screen instead of talking to me. I am aware there's been an update to the Mini. Help?
posted by Mistress at 5:09 AM PST - 1 comment

Considering single motherhood via sperm bank

I'm mid-30s and have wanted a kid for years now. I'm considering doing it as a single mom through a sperm bank. Has anyone done this? I'm looking specifically for resources about single moms who decided on their own to self-inseminate via a sperm bank. Anecdotes (preferably of the first-hand type) are also welcome. More details inside! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:45 AM PST - 12 comments

November 8

Repair my fractured attention and concentration!

Over the last several months, I've noticed a drop-off in my ability to focus on large, difficult projects. My attention seems easily fractured (devices + internet = probable cause). I need to repair and grow back my ability to concentrate for long periods of time so I can complete a massive project. Have you re-engineered your focus (using non-pharmacological means)? What were your tactics and strategies? [more inside]
posted by Mystical Listicle at 7:51 PM PST - 24 comments

Which Thinkpad should I get?

I am going to buy either a Thinkpad T470s or a Thinkpad X1 Carbon 2017 (5th gen). If you have used either or both of these, what do you think of the keyboard (most important consideration!), the trackpad and the robustness? I am especially interested in the views of those who can compare either of these keyboards to older generations of the Thinkpad T-series (original or chiclet) and can say whether these are better/ worse/ the same for a heavy user. [more inside]
posted by tavegyl at 7:02 PM PST - 7 comments

Chia seeds: How much nutrition do I get from a teaspoon or 2 in oatmeal?

I eat oatmeal for breakfast every day (overnight oats). How much nutrition do I really get if I add a teaspoon or two of chia seeds to it? Can you help put it in perspective? It seems like I'd have to eat more like 2 tablespoons to really see a benefit, or am I reading the nutritional info wrong? And am I already getting those benefits by taking a multivitamin? [more inside]
posted by 2oh1 at 6:09 PM PST - 7 comments

Travel Better London campaign McBess posters

A few years ago (2014) we took a trip to London and fell in love with the pithy poems of the Travel Better London campaign. I'd love to have one or more to hang in our guest room, but am not able to find any for sale. Ideas?
posted by meindee at 4:59 PM PST - 3 comments

Recataloguing a large home library - looking for advice/resources/tips

I have been asked to help recatalogue a large private library and am looking for any good suggestions/tips/resources that might be helpful, whether software, shelf naming systems, or just web resources that might be helpful. [more inside]
posted by coupedloups at 2:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Fucking magnets, how do they work, etc.

OK so I used the concept of "when you were in 3rd grade and you laid a non-magnetic metal next to a known magnet next to each other and you looked in your desk the next day and they were both magnets" in a facebook comment recently and then realized: [more inside]
posted by tivalasvegas at 2:41 PM PST - 12 comments

Getting the right Facebook Page to show up when marking self as a writer

I got prompted by Facebook to confirm that I write for particular publications, so I tried to add the publications I actually do write for regularly. For some reason, instead of that publication's official Facebook page, I can only add the Facebook-generated Interest page for that publication. How do I get the right page to show up as an option. [more inside]
posted by divabat at 2:39 PM PST - 4 comments

Casual food in Montreal

Tell me about your favorite not-white-tablecloth places in Montreal. Hole-in-the-wall restaurants, good chains, anywhere with counter service, buffets, street food, snacks, lovely cafes or markets that serve food, etc. Some follow-up questions inside. [more inside]
posted by danceswithlight at 2:29 PM PST - 16 comments

Infertility in 2017

After my third miscarriage in a year, I have an appointment with my ob-gyn clinic to “talk about my options” and a possible referral to an infertility clinic I guess. I don’t really understand what is happening or what to expect. I don’t know anyone else who has gone through this. What is the usual course of treatment for infertility? Am I even infertile? [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 2:15 PM PST - 12 comments

Can mirror-finish, outdoor stonework be 100 years old?

Can mirror-finish, outdoor stonework be 100 years old? [more inside]
posted by XMLicious at 2:08 PM PST - 8 comments

Paper baby diaper delivery

I'd like some recommendations for paper baby diaper delivery. My friend is going to have a baby and I'd like to give her some months worth of diapers. Our small town doesn't have a cloth diaper service, so a prepaid paper diaper delivery arrangement must be the way to go. Help me out here.
posted by partner at 1:42 PM PST - 11 comments

Cat stressed out - help me be the best cat carer I can be...

Our cat, Jake, is acting stressed out lately. I took him to the vet this week and she suggested Feliway (which we have) and trying a calming dry kibble (Royal Canin Feline Calm Dry Cat Food). I need your cat experience / help! [more inside]
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome at 1:38 PM PST - 10 comments

Physical Acts of Self Care?

I'm a big believer in self-care, and I also exist in my own head a lot. For mental self-care, I listen to podcasts in the evenings, make art, read books for leisure, talk to friends, etc. For physical self-care, I don't really know where to start. What do you do? Hoping for some general suggestions, but am also just curious about what sparks other people's fancies. [more inside]
posted by snufflepup at 1:01 PM PST - 35 comments

Recommend guided 'emotional release' meditations?

As a fan and regular user of guided meditations, I'm struggling to find good/fresh guided meditations toward 'emotional release.' What I'm looking for are guided meditations similar to Derek Turesky's "Connecting With Difficult Emotions" or "Being with Pain," both found on his 'Garden of Now' CD. [more inside]
posted by Doc_Sock at 12:32 PM PST - 6 comments

when friends make you feel crazy

I had a really uncomfortable conversation with a friend yesterday and I don't know how to process it. [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 12:15 PM PST - 49 comments

Any real connection between seasonal allergies & inflammatory diseases?

I have bad seasonal allergies, and I live in Austin, where there is literally no time when at least one allergen is not peaking. I also have stage 3 endometriosis, with lesions all over my uterus, ureter, bladder, and probably pouch of Douglas. (It's as fun as it sounds.) I was traveling this weekend and had almost no allergy symptoms and my endo pain was a lot better, too. Is it possible that allergies could increase the endo inflammation? [more inside]
posted by fiercecupcake at 12:05 PM PST - 12 comments

Post Partum exercise professionals in Seattle

Does anyone have recommendations for a Physical Therapist or Personal Trainer in Seattle who specializes in post-natal bodies? [more inside]
posted by Ideal Impulse at 12:03 PM PST - 3 comments

Dairy-Free, Make-Ahead Brunch

Can y'all please recommend some dairy-free, make-ahead brunch recipes for 4-6 adults? I seek main courses, not side dishes. I would prefer something that is easily transported via a quick car trip and that requires less than 20 minutes to prep for serving at our destination. My kitchen equipment and cooking skills are above average and I am in a US city with easy access to international markets for special ingredients. [more inside]
posted by juliplease at 10:57 AM PST - 11 comments

Will prepping ahead of time affect this vegan chili?

I've made this recipe once before and was pretty happy with the results...I would like to make the chili tomorrow but do as much prep as I can today, while chopping/working on a separate meal. There are 2 main components to the dish; the chili and the tofu crumbles that you stir in, and I'm hoping to cook the tofu today and be able to stir it in tomorrow. [more inside]
posted by andruwjones26 at 10:34 AM PST - 6 comments

Calculator for comparing HSA (high-deductible) health plan costs

I am being offered a High-Deductible Health Plan (HDHP) with a Health Savings Account (HSA). But trying to calculate what my net cost would be is a nightmare. Is there a good calculator out there? [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 10:22 AM PST - 2 comments

Let an acquaintance live in an RV in our driveway?

My husband and I are considering letting an acquaintance & her daughter (we have mutual friends) park her RV in our driveway and live there for six months to a year in order for them to save some money. We want to help her out, but we don't want to put ourselves in a bad situation. What should we be thinking about before saying yes or no to this arrangement? [more inside]
posted by Jaclyn at 9:32 AM PST - 58 comments

How do these websites make money?

I have stumbled upon an oddly anachronistic search engine company. If this were an Italian restaurant, I'd assume it was a front. What's going on here? [more inside]
posted by toastedcheese at 9:29 AM PST - 7 comments

Flying around off-the-beaten-track Japan this summer: where to go?

I am taking three weeks to explore Japan by air from July 13 to August 4 on Japan Airlines (JAL). I am doing this instead of a train pass because all my domestic flights will be totally free. I can fly anywhere on this map. Help me plan some amazing trips! [more inside]
posted by mdonley at 9:28 AM PST - 3 comments

Do I really need an electirican?

I bought this light fixture at Lowes to replace one I already have. The box says it needs to be installed by a licensed electrician. I can't find an electrician to take the job. Can I hire a general handyperson? [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 9:07 AM PST - 9 comments

How to politely yet assertively turn down business?

I have a trade business. I am finding it very hard to turn down inquires which I know are either a waste of time or are a bad fit. How to say no with a smile? [more inside]
posted by Sentus at 8:41 AM PST - 17 comments

friend needs help buying and setting up a laptop

Asking for a friend who is older (late fifties?), mostly computer illiterate and is looking to buy a laptop so he can have a simple website to run his small independent business. [more inside]
posted by Koko at 7:54 AM PST - 7 comments

I need a label maker to replace my cheap thermal label printer

I am looking for a label maker that is NOT thermal, but also not $900. [more inside]
posted by aetg at 7:35 AM PST - 6 comments

It's like Ben Franklin with a key and a kite...you see it right?

Suggestions, tips and tricks for attaching (installing?) a lightning rod to my house? [more inside]
posted by Ginesthoi at 7:35 AM PST - 8 comments

Software development jobs overseas for non-rockstars.

I am an apartment-dwelling 30-something web developer working for a boring Fortune 500 company in the midwest. I've recently been re-assessing my life, which is sans partner or children at the moment and likely to remain so for awhile, and thinking I need a change. This is probably going to involve relocating in the US, but I got to thinking... if I was just willing to broadly move basically anywhere in the world that's interesting and is generally safe and politically stable, how hard would it actually be for me to get a job overseas? [more inside]
posted by Sequence at 7:27 AM PST - 13 comments

Getting sharp images on LinkedIn profile media

I am trying to add media to my LinkedIn profile. I'm struggling to get the cover images to display nicely. What do I need to do? [more inside]
posted by philosophygeek at 7:08 AM PST - 2 comments

What scale for weighing my cat?

My vet recommended that we track our cats' weight between visits. Most bathroom scales aren't accurate enough, most baby or pet scales are bulky and expensive, and most kitchen and postal scales are too small. Can you find the right scale for my cats? (I'm sure it's impossible without photos...) [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 6:49 AM PST - 22 comments

Wide front, narrow heels, hope me!

Walking shoes for narrow heels, wide front foot, bunions, and plantar fasciitis. Plz hlp. [more inside]
posted by needs more cowbell at 6:13 AM PST - 12 comments

Strange home network problem

Some browsers cannot connect to my router admin page at 192.168.1.1 but others can. Why so and can this be fixed? [more inside]
posted by exogenous at 5:48 AM PST - 12 comments

I need to project simple lines in a bright environment

How can I project very visible guide lines on a work table in a reasonably lit room without breaking the bank? [more inside]
posted by Harald74 at 4:19 AM PST - 9 comments

Why all the songs in ‘90s cartoons?

Why did so many ‘90s kids’ cartoons have songs all the time? Bobby’s World and Garfield & Friends come immediately to mind. Was it a legal classification and/or budget thing like Mighty Boosh?
posted by DoctorFedora at 3:34 AM PST - 6 comments

Making my own read-along story books for my kids' tablet

I have digitised bunch of read along books (now pdf) and audio (mp3) that I had and loved as a child. We're going overseas at the end of the year, and I'd love to get these files into my kid's tablet so she can listen and read along as we're on holidays, but geez it's hard! [more inside]
posted by smoke at 3:02 AM PST - 4 comments

Freestanding TV cabinet with bloody-minded cats and gymnastic child

I want to put a 55" TV into our living room, but we have several challenges. We're likely to move in a year, so it can't be an expensive or permanant solution. Because of the room's configuration, the TV would be best perpendicular to the wall, but I'm leery of putting a large TV on top of a cabinet with three active cats and a small child who treats the sofa as a trampoline without some way to secure everything. [more inside]
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 2:33 AM PST - 4 comments

November 7

Why do so many Japanese buildings have external stairs?

I’ve noticed that so many Japanese buildings have external staircases. But why? I strongly suspect that there is a policy reason for this, but I can’t prove it. This excellent album shows what I’m talking about. [more inside]
posted by ripley_ at 9:43 PM PST - 8 comments

Fellow PDXers: Where can I street-park my car for a month?

I'm leaving Portland (OR) in Thursday to attend to a family emergency. May be gone as long as a month. Just moved here, so I don't know the city well, and I can't afford a pay lot... [more inside]
posted by t(h)om(as) at 8:13 PM PST - 9 comments

Sommeliers, connoiseurs, those who love the vino...please advise.

For a Christmas present, I'm looking for three tasty and interesting bottles of wine that I can procure here in Southern California. Deets inside... [more inside]
posted by snsranch at 7:37 PM PST - 10 comments

Side Sleeper Pillow Top Mattress Topper Recommendations?

Hi all! We bought a Leesa foam mattress in January, and I've developed debilitating pain in my right shoulder (and starting to in my left). Working on resolving that, but I would also like to solve the problem of my mattress without buying an entirely new mattress in less than a year. I'm a side sleeper, and I would like to specifically get a pillow top mattress topper as I've used those before without problems. However, most reviews seem to be for foam or latex toppers and one lone bamboo pillow top. Any recommendations?
posted by cui bono at 7:08 PM PST - 7 comments

Boot call.

Please help me find the boots I want. I'm looking for personal recs to supplement the difficulty of judging Zappos photos and (sometimes nonexsitent) reviews. [more inside]
posted by flourpot at 6:45 PM PST - 26 comments

Plastic-free clip lunchboxes?

I'd really like to find an alternative to the extremely useful clip-lock plastic tupperware boxes that can carry even soups without leaking. I just would prefer not be using plastic - health reasons and just a dislike of plastic because of it not biodegrading. Is there any alternative that is similarly useful (can carry liquids)? I guess glass is not an option, as it's too heavy to carry around.
posted by tangerine_poppies at 6:10 PM PST - 24 comments

All my business

I'm having a surgery done next week and I don't feel like sharing. [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 5:46 PM PST - 16 comments

Physical comedy time

Seeking video links of your favourite physical comedy moments, from movies, tv, stage, or life. Bonus points for explaining what you love about them. Thanks!
posted by pseudostrabismus at 5:22 PM PST - 55 comments

Where to camp in Angeles National Forest?

Fans of Angeles National Forest, which campgrounds are most likely to have a spot available for people arriving late on a Thursday night on Veterans Day weekend? [more inside]
posted by a sourceless light at 5:21 PM PST - 4 comments

Children's science YouTube channel?

I'm interested in finding a children's science YouTube channel that has at least the occasional experiment that can be easily done at home. [more inside]
posted by Nonce at 5:12 PM PST - 2 comments

Tag-Along Camping Gift!

Hi! I am sort of tagging along on a two day camping trip with two other people, and want to bring a gift or nice thing of some kind to show appreciation for the invite. As an infrequent-camping city-kid I don't know what would be fun or reasonable. [more inside]
posted by rosswald at 5:04 PM PST - 12 comments

Home theatre hell

Explanation will likely get confusing. But hoping someone can make me look like an idiot. [more inside]
posted by raider at 4:32 PM PST - 7 comments

Battling Loneliness While Homebound Post-Surgery

I'm recovering from major surgery and have been largely immobile and homebound. My friends have become increasingly busy, and I feel myself slipping heavily into SAD (despite using a SAD lamp and being in PTSD therapy) as the weather has turned really cold and dark in the past 2 weeks. I've been spending 7 hours a day in my room watching films, and it's terrible for me....any suggestions for how to fill time would be helpful. [more inside]
posted by Kombucha3452 at 4:25 PM PST - 8 comments

If it's not OK on the national level (politics and business mingling)

In my local election today we have someone running for a District position who also appears to be part owner of a business that specializes in business strategies for that district class. [more inside]
posted by Rufous-headed Towhee heehee at 3:57 PM PST - 2 comments

Help my find these swim trunks for my picky boyfriend

My boyfriend really likes these swim trunks (scroll down for the picture) please help me find them. [more inside]
posted by SpaceWarp13 at 3:52 PM PST - 5 comments

Does the Poang chair frame deteriorate over time?

In my limited experience, a Poang chair is virtually ideal seating, i.e., it's a perfect fit for me and I love the slight bounce/rocking motion. I recently bought a couple off craigslist and they are not what I remember them to be. [more inside]
posted by she's not there at 3:13 PM PST - 12 comments

Tire pressure sensor woes

Local auto repair shop seemingly broke two tire pressure sensors. Is this a common problem? Help me convince the shop to cover the cost of fixing them or convince me this is a thing that happens. [more inside]
posted by sewellcm at 3:03 PM PST - 10 comments

IANYG (I Am Not Your Grandma) but explain it to me like I'm 95!

My sister and I use AIM to keep an intermittent chat going all day. Since AOL announced that AIM is ending December 15th, we need help finding a replacement. [more inside]
posted by a humble nudibranch at 2:31 PM PST - 14 comments

How to calculate the temp of falling water?

I'm curious how much the temperature of hot water (say, 37ºC) drops as it falls through the air, like in a shower. I don't know enough physics or fluid dynamics to even know where to start googling the problem, but if you had a shower 2m off the ground, and assumed ideal large drops, how much would the water temp drop after falling say, a meter in height? [more inside]
posted by mathowie at 1:34 PM PST - 22 comments

Goosebumps-like horror series?

Looking for suggestions on 90s-era children's horror fiction along the lines of Goosebumps for a personal project. More inside. [more inside]
posted by thedarksideofprocyon at 1:06 PM PST - 13 comments

Chrome browser is now Chromium, and now my extension doesn't work

I work for BigCorp, and as such, they control everything that is installed on my laptop. I have my Chrome home page and new tab default (via extension/plug in) pointing to a custom file.html with all my links. I noticed today that when I start chrome, opening a new tab has been replaced with the chrome default new tab page (tiles/speed dial), and my new-tab-redirect extension no longer works. [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 1:00 PM PST - 4 comments

When is spam, not spam?

As someone with a Virginia area code on her cell phone, I've been getting a lot of calls and texts from other VA numbers in the last several days reminding me to vote. Ordinarily I'd think they are just typical spam robocalls/robotexts, except... [more inside]
posted by basalganglia at 12:46 PM PST - 10 comments

Los Cabos 2018

We've booked our flights to Los Cabos, Mexico. It was not our first choice but we had airline vouchers and this was one of the more reasonable options. Unfortunately, everything I am seeing online makes me think we are about to have a very bad vacation... any tips for salvaging it? [more inside]
posted by rada at 12:01 PM PST - 15 comments

what to do with a ham?

A kind soul gifted me a 8 lbs ham. Now what? [more inside]
posted by ouke at 11:54 AM PST - 17 comments

LA plants on the cheap

I am trying to beautify an ugly concrete slab at the front of my East LA house - I'm thinking potted plants. Where/how can I do this on the cheap? I'm hoping for drought-tolerant plants and also big pots that don't break the bank. Do you have any specific stores or general ideas for cheap pots and outdoor cute plants? the winter gets less full sun but the summer is full sun, and I am not the BEST waterer, so these are the battles the winning plants will have to wage. Thank you!
posted by andreapandrea at 11:38 AM PST - 11 comments

What can I do?

I need to re-enter the workplace, but I have no flipping clue what my strengths or aptitudes are. Of course, snowflakes inside... [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 11:34 AM PST - 7 comments

What are the benefits available to someone born in Britain but left?

I was born in the UK but left when I was under 10 years old. I've re-visited as a tourist but never stayed for long and never worked there. Are there any benefits that an expat like me is entitled to? I imagine I wouldn't get a pension but are there other things that I'm overlooking? Thinking not just of gov't things but other stuff available from corporations etc, regardless of how trivial they may be!
posted by storybored at 11:24 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me remember the name of this movie about making a bad movie.

I'm trying to find a documentary about some really bad amateur film makers shooting a horror film that is NOT American Movie. [more inside]
posted by thejanna at 11:01 AM PST - 7 comments

What are the best spa hotels in the US for a winter visit?

Must haves: indoor pool, nearby natural beauty, decent food at the hotel or nearby. [more inside]
posted by david1230 at 10:20 AM PST - 10 comments

I Need a Sound System and Advice

I am in the market for an excellent sounding system - speakers, subwoofer and amp. Maybe 50 watts per speaker. I'd go for something used if it was in pristine condition. It needs to be solid, a decent name, attractive, relatively compact and sound amazing. Clear and resonant like a bell. I want to hear everything that needs to be heard. Price range (clincher) around 300 bucks. What are my options?
posted by watercarrier at 10:12 AM PST - 3 comments

Books by and about women in Spanish or French?

Please recommend well-written novels about women in Spanish or French, similar to Maeve Binchy or Jojo Moyes. [more inside]
posted by kristi at 9:43 AM PST - 6 comments

How do I focus on academic/creative work within short blocks of time?

I have a couple of creative and academic projects that I would like to get done by the end of this year, and one project that urgently needs to be wrapped up in the next couple of weeks. I have a 1-2hr block each weekday, at best, to try and get this work done -- but when I get to this block of time at last, I find my mind is all over the place and I can't get focused or achieve much. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by Aravis76 at 9:27 AM PST - 7 comments

Calling all watch experts, especially Russophiles

Dug an old favorite watch out of my drawer, would love to know more about it. All I know for sure is that I got it in 1998 as a gift from someone who'd been in Poland, that it's self-winding, and that it has Russian text on the face and back. Anything else is surmise and conjecture. [more inside]
posted by the phlegmatic king at 9:26 AM PST - 12 comments

Name the kitty sisters...

My best friend has two new Egyptian Mau kittens, sisters, that must be named. Seven months old. Help O help wise Mefites. brief vid Thank you!
posted by Melismata at 8:51 AM PST - 29 comments

Christmas concerts in the Old World

Help us find nice Christmas concerts (or just music) in Prague, Cesky Krumlov, Vienna, and Regensburg! While searching for information on where to listen to the great music of the season in these cities, I find that the results are often dwarfed by third-party ticket merchants selling concert tickets for the larger venues. At the same time, doing an exhaustive search church by church sounds, well, exhausting! We need the experience of the Meta-filterettes! [more inside]
posted by Don_K at 8:50 AM PST - 7 comments

Attack of the Afternoon Munchies and Couch Potatohood

Help me lose weight by avoiding stress-related junk food eating and getting back to exercising. [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 8:27 AM PST - 20 comments

One way friends

Kinda embarrased by this question: As an extrovert who is slightly awkward: I'm having a little trouble dealing with the fact that 75% of my social hangouts are instigated by me. Logically, it should be ok-- when I reach out, more times than not, people want to hang out. Folks seem to have fun and repeat. But I feel like maybe I need to 'slow my roll?' I don't want to be awkward and overbearing. Am I thinking this way too much? Snowflakey details inside: [more inside]
posted by sandmanwv at 8:09 AM PST - 15 comments

Recommend me a laptop

It's time to upgrade my eight year-old laptop, since it has a hard time handling any video or photo editing. Snowflake requests inside. [more inside]
posted by craven_morhead at 7:51 AM PST - 6 comments

Can I un-doom my lawn?

We've left our lawn unmowed for way too long. I could mow it short now; mow it somewhat shorter, in stages starting now; or leave it alone until spring. I've poked around here and elsewhere online, but I'm not sure what's best given that it's late in the season, in Massachusetts. [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 6:48 AM PST - 10 comments

Kiru comics is not Kirtu comics

My friend has setup a website, Kiru comics, suitable for for all ages. However, Google isn't currently recognising his brand, so when searching for Kiru comics Google prompts you with: Did you mean: kirtu comics So the question is, what do you think he should do? He's paying an seo consultant for 3 months to attempt to fix this, but he's seriously considering renaming his site to not clash with Kirtu, but he's spent time building up his kiru brand, and he would rather not have to.
posted by ben30 at 6:28 AM PST - 5 comments

Job Hunting With Monster Dice

About to ETS out of the Army (Signal Officer with a armful of cyber/tech certifications) and it's about time to get on that job hunt. I'm looking for a network security or project manager position, but beyond my directly networked hook-ups, I'm coming up a bit empty looking for places to crawl for open job postings. Querying the MeFi Hive Mind for information on where/what to look for. [more inside]
posted by Punkey at 6:11 AM PST - 13 comments

Best history of the Anita Hill/Clarence Thomas hearings & moment?

What is the best cultural, historical, and legal book on the Anita Hill/Clarence Thomas hearings? Or maybe there is an exceptional essay or two?
posted by OmieWise at 4:19 AM PST - 3 comments

How to help a depressed student

I have a student who did his undergraduate project under my supervision. He is enthusiastic and very interested in my study taxon. He did a pretty good job on his thesis, and wanted to continue for his masters with me. But in between he had a sort of mental breakdown and now I have to figure out how best to help him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:54 AM PST - 4 comments

How to think of myself as sexual again?

Me: female, cishet, 43, 15 years divorced and now that the kid is off on her own, I want to try dating again, but I'm scared because I cannot imagine myself having sex, because I am so revolting. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:54 AM PST - 25 comments

Help me blow the whistle, not my career (TOR/anon email)

I need to use anonymous email to report something at work. (I've thought this through, it is the only viable option). Will TOR, on my personal tablet, effectively protect my IP address? Note: this device has been on work's guest network where I have to log in. So, if they save IP addresses/logins, and they wanted to look, they could match me up if TOR lets my IP through. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:54 AM PST - 15 comments

Help me prepare for my internship in the US

(Asking for a friend) I'm moving to Silicon Valley for three months to intern at a big tech company there, and I'm looking for some advice to help get everything set up. I'll be moving from Australia in a few weeks, so I'm looking for a) cheap short term accommodation in the area b) a bank to open an account at and c) a phone provider. [more inside]
posted by Panthalassa at 3:30 AM PST - 8 comments

How sketchy is this?

So sometimes on Twitter I get tagged randomly on stuff that's vaguely environment-related (as are most of my tweets, which all relate to my work). And these tweets get hundreds of likes so they keep popping up in my notifications. But the tweets themselves seem sort of non-sensical or weird, like this one from a "Foundation" that doesn't even have their website set up, only a Twitter presence. [more inside]
posted by stinker at 1:42 AM PST - 5 comments

What is the Snowcrash of today?

What is the Snowcrash of today? In my youth, the novel Snowcrash was quite a phenomenon: it was a fun, exciting read, with crazy ideas, and you didn't have to be into sci fi to enjoy it. People who were into literary fiction, or who didn't even normally read books, had read it. What book holds a similar sort of place nowadays? It doesn't have to be sci fi.
posted by surenoproblem at 1:34 AM PST - 43 comments

On the etiquette of complimenting an outfit

What approach should I take to complimenting someone's outfit? It seems like there's a clear set of social norms about how women exchange compliments about outfits, but it's a little foreign to me and I could do with some pointers. Difficulty level: novice trans lady. [more inside]
posted by saltbush and olive at 12:15 AM PST - 24 comments

November 6

Worried about 5yo's flapping/running behaviour

On a recent holiday, I became concerned over some of my five year old's repetitive flapping and running behaviour - I am going to make a doctor's appointment, but would like some advice on what to mention, what to ask for, and any things I could be doing in the meantime. [more inside]
posted by fever-trees at 10:15 PM PST - 16 comments

Damn you.

Name that tune in only two words. [more inside]
posted by maryr at 8:44 PM PST - 5 comments

How do you meditate, work out, work full time, and cook for yourself?

In my ideal world, I would meditate for 20 minutes a day and work out for 30-40 minutes a day plus another 30 minutes at the gym for steam room/shower/getting dressed. In my actual world I need to work 8 hours a day, with a 30-minute commute each way. I also would like to cook for myself, including making lunches to bring in. Is anyone else fitting all this in? [more inside]
posted by lazuli at 8:23 PM PST - 37 comments

Creative twinning to celebrate tenure

An old pact for outrageous dressing post-tenure finally comes to fruition. Please help. [more inside]
posted by k8t at 7:38 PM PST - 8 comments

Middle-aged guy trying to date in NYC/DC. What am I doing wrong?

Like the title says: I'm a middle-aged guy trying to date in New York City or D.C. Hope me, datingfilter! Snowflake details after the jump! [more inside]
posted by arkhangel at 7:10 PM PST - 22 comments

Delhi for 14 hours, what should I do?

At the end of a business trip I will have a 14 hour stop over in Delhi, next Sunday. I have never been to India before and I love museums, cultural landmarks and generally sightseeing and I'd like to go somewhere to pick up gifts for my family. Tell me where to go and how to get there! [more inside]
posted by keeo at 6:53 PM PST - 4 comments

How bad is a one-star NHTSA crash rating, really?

I have a chance to get a good deal (from a friend) on a 1990 Hyundai Elantra GLS. It's in great condition shape, in my price range, with only 80,000 miles. But my wife is concerned about driving our young kids in it since it got a one-star rating from the NHTSA in side impacts, and three stars in other categories. [more inside]
posted by gottabefunky at 4:49 PM PST - 19 comments

I want to read books by women from the Middle East

I'm really curious about what daily life is like in say, Saudi Arabia, and fiction is the best teacher. Please have at it, Metafilter. What would I like? [more inside]
posted by karmachameleon at 4:03 PM PST - 12 comments

Cheap dresses

I am interested in semi disposable dresses. Specifically, I've seen a lot of dresses on amazon for 18 dollars. I am looking for something like this that will hold up to 10 washes without pilling or totally falling apart. [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 3:29 PM PST - 19 comments

Stroller and carseat recommendations

I'm reading through review websites for strollers and car seats, and realizing that making a choice is... um... quite the project. I'm looking for recommendations. More below the fold. [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 3:29 PM PST - 15 comments

I abandoned my career and I don't know what to do next.

I used to have an amazing job and I gave it up. I don't know what to do with my life now. [more inside]
posted by spacewaitress at 3:02 PM PST - 39 comments

Walk me through the disability process? (U.S.)


It’s become apparent that I will not be able to work any time in the near future. How do I apply for disability? What things affect it? Who can I ask for help? I'm confused about my age related to the rules. Any tips or other things to think about? [more inside]
posted by SockWombat at 2:56 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me find a good spiralizer so I can get oodles and oodles of zoodles

I have this basic, manual spiralizer. It meets all my needs except the manual twisting. Can you recommend a good, basic spiralizer that has some kind of feature that helps you twist the zucchini? [more inside]
posted by Room 641-A at 2:52 PM PST - 6 comments

Which MIDI-USB cable do I need?

I am attempting to get both a Rock Band keyboard and a Roland FR2 digital accordion to communicate with my Windows 10 machine and am having trouble finding a MIDI-USB cable that works. [more inside]
posted by subocoyne at 2:33 PM PST - 4 comments

Don't they all have that?

Looking for specific examples of automobile features considered (by the manufacturer anyways) so advanced as be worthy of being proclaimed on exterior badges and are now considered mundane "features" of modern cars. [more inside]
posted by Mitheral at 2:18 PM PST - 18 comments

Middle Grade/Early YA Mysteries

My niece is turning 11 at the end of this month. She is very smart and a voracious reader. The last time we talked, she told me mysteries were her favorite. [more inside]
posted by something something at 1:55 PM PST - 22 comments

Help me properly describe my father's position in the Marine Corps.

I'm writing an obituary for my father and I know it would be important to him to get the details of his time in the US Marine Corps right. I've never really understood the structure of the Corps so the odds of me getting this right are slim - particularly as I'm not 100% sure of the details. [more inside]
posted by AthenaPolias at 12:56 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I not wimp out of therapy?

I (early 40s) have been dealing with depression since HS. I tried therapy once in college, but couldn't really bring myself to go into anything because it all just seems so dumb compared to people who really have problems. I have my first therapy appointment since then booked for this week. Any advice for pushing through that reluctance?
posted by bigdamnnerd at 12:45 PM PST - 23 comments

One base, several meals?

Recently used a recipe where you could make one creamy chicken base and use it for several different recipes (pasta bake/pie/something with spuds). Minced beef and tomatoes is another common one. What other bases could I make a load of and then make several different things out of, depending on whim?
posted by threetwentytwo at 12:31 PM PST - 11 comments

When you forget to check your phone before the big trip...

Two related questions about my smartphone functionality while I'm abroad right now: 1). Is there any way to check my voicemail on my ATT phone when I'm already abroad and I've forgotten my voicemail password (if I ever had one?) 2).I managed to remember to enable one of the "passport passes" so I can save money one texting/data, etc. Besides "use wi-fi everywhere" are there any tips/tricks about my phone settings I should know? [more inside]
posted by TwoStride at 12:29 PM PST - 4 comments

What are these things on the ceiling?

I saw these devices on the ceiling of a tech firm I visited. What are they? Are they Alexa-style "eavesdrop on everything" listening devices?
posted by Borborygmus at 12:26 PM PST - 13 comments

Things to do in Ashland, Oregon in November?

Due to changing work schedules and other mix-ups, my spouse and I are visiting Ashland, Oregon this weekend instead of in the summer as we'd planned. So no Shakespeare Festival for us -- but we're excited to explore Ashland. What should we see this weekend? [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 12:03 PM PST - 4 comments

Singing akin to Talking

Hey guys. Listening to my music tonight, I noticed many of my favourite artists are almost more talking than singing, though it's definitely not rapping either. What would you call this? Can you name some other musician's in the same vein? I'm thinking of Modest Mouse, CAKE, and the Blow as some examples.
posted by Trifling at 11:41 AM PST - 38 comments

he's just a skater boy (who wants to record his sessions)

Please recommend a not-insanely-priced phone with good audio and video/photo capability. [more inside]
posted by headnsouth at 11:19 AM PST - 4 comments

Cat-proof cheap Christmas decorations

In need of cheap, cat-proof, Christmas decoration ideas. [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 11:17 AM PST - 13 comments

Cure for Loneliness and Feeling of failure?

A very good friend of mine is very unhappy with his situation: being 45, single, no kids (which he years for), and unstable startup job, no (bought) home and no savings. He believes everybody around him has their life organized, or is at least together with someone. - Can you recommend media (books/movies) for him to process through this feeling? [more inside]
posted by Thisandthat at 9:45 AM PST - 7 comments

Mp3 player for swimming?

I'm looking for a new waterproof mp3 player to listen to podcasts on while swimming. Currently I have an exeze rider which is ok except there is no way to select specific tracks, fast forward or rewind - I can only skip tracks. A new one should have ff/rwd, should be loud, and I'd like to spend around $150 or less. Thank you.
posted by hazyjane at 9:31 AM PST - 3 comments

Ew, tick - can a tick's size show how long it has been feeding?

This morning I pulled a tick off of my 5-year-old daughter's scalp. The little bugger can be seen in these pictures, with a dime in the shot for scale. I know you're not my doctor, etc., and we're in touch with her pediatrician - her course of treatment isn't going to change based on this question. But is there any way to estimate how long the tick has been attached and feeding, based on how engorged it looks? We're in Western Pennsylvania, and I guess this is a deer tick.
posted by chinston at 9:27 AM PST - 10 comments

Winter bike lights for commuting

Looking for experienced winter bike riders with bike light recommendations: what works for 60 minute commutes (each way) in cold winter temps (down to 0 F / -18 C)? Ideally I'd like front and back lights that are USB-rechargeable, quick-release, 120-min+ runtime, steady & pulse options, and a long lifetime. For the headlight, I need something that's bright enough to illuminate (not just "be seen"). [more inside]
posted by chemicalsyntheticist at 9:17 AM PST - 16 comments

love to drop things, thinking about a new phone

Which iPhone is the least likely to break when dropped? Right now, I have an iPhone SE (which I love and doesn't break when I drop it) but I've been noticing that my photos are terrible compared to everyone else's. I'd love an iPhone X, but all of the media coverage is about how dropping the phone means cracked screen & back doom. I drop my phone multiple times a day, and I don't want to get a case for it. Could other phone droppers advise on the best way forward?
posted by aaanastasia at 8:42 AM PST - 20 comments

Reliable source for legit decants?

I'm looking for a suggestion for a reliable source for perfume decants. Since shipping perfume/liquids to and from the US to Europe is now verboten, I need a Euro supplier who will ship to the UK or Ireland (either.) [more inside]
posted by DarlingBri at 8:31 AM PST - 7 comments

Tonsils or No Tonsils! That is the question!

Do I have my tonsils out or keep them where they are? Do you night grind and did your night grinding improve after you had your tonsils out? [more inside]
posted by zizzle at 8:10 AM PST - 14 comments

New iPhone: Using Lightning Headphones with... Anything Else?

I'm getting an iPhone 8 this week, my first without the headphone jack, and since my current headphones died on me a couple days ago, I figured I'd just bite the bullet and get some lightning headphones at the same time. But! I need to use my headphones at work a lot (for actual work stuff), and there's no lighting port on my office computer. [more inside]
posted by Fish Sauce at 7:30 AM PST - 6 comments

Best option for shared calendar between ios and android?

Hi, I have a group of 4 people. 3 of us are on ios and the 4th on android. ios folks are using stock apple calendar app and android person is using google calendar. Nobody wants to change from what they're using. How do we get it so that the Android person shares a calendar, gets notifications of new events, etc?
posted by mattholomew at 6:45 AM PST - 6 comments

How to start over when your career dreams die

I am at a loss. After spending over a year in anticipation, my friend watched his career dreams vanish without warning in the wake of the government's hiring freeze. I've never even remotely been in his shoes -- so how do I advise him? [more inside]
posted by lecorbeau at 6:34 AM PST - 9 comments

Day Hikes

I did some amazing day hiking in Zion National Park last summer. I want more of this. I have two requirements: Relatively easy to get to and a diverse range of hikes. I am in Austin TX and will fly anywhere in North America. Where do I go?
posted by jasondigitized at 5:49 AM PST - 16 comments

Voting on school bonds

Tomorrow I'll be voting in Virginia, and though I know the people I want to vote for, there is also a school bond referendum that I need to consider. I'd appreciate some help understanding the pros and cons. [more inside]
posted by brilliantine at 5:23 AM PST - 4 comments

Need Vet for Stray Dog in Tucson

So I have a stray dog in my house and it will be staying with me anywhere from a couple days, if its owners can be found, to FOREVER. I need a recommendation for a vet in Tucson, and some general doggy guidance. Lots of information and lots of questions inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:00 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me resolve conflicts professionally

I am in the final three weeks of my six month, room-and-board-covered onsite, unpaid internship at an academic non-profit that provides eco-tourism. This is my first time living outside of the U.S., and I’m glad I took the plunge. It is a fantastic and friendly place, and I’ve thoroughly enjoyed the work. I’ve made friends (though not close friends) with fellow interns and the local staff. There’s just one tiny problem… [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:00 AM PST - 5 comments

Parent with memory problems

My mom is having some problems with her memory and this seems to be getting worse. I feel unprepared to deal with this and scared. Details abound. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:59 AM PST - 5 comments

Overthinking primary (elementary) school: how much does it matter?

I though I knew what my criteria for a good primary school was; now I'm not so sure. Help! [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 1:41 AM PST - 18 comments

November 5

Security deposit dispute

I subtracted money from my sublessee's security deposit for damages, but they won't accept my check. How should I handle this? [more inside]
posted by mollywas at 10:05 PM PST - 22 comments

Do I have to pay back the vacation days I used before quitting?

My company says I owe them. Do I really? [more inside]
posted by lain at 8:32 PM PST - 15 comments

Suggestions for surprise 33 1/3rd birthday celebration

My boyfriend & I will be spending a long weekend with friends at a cabin mere days before the day that marks precisely one third of a century since his birth. Please help me brainstorm fun ways to surprise him and celebrate this thirdthday!
posted by kitarra at 8:31 PM PST - 4 comments

Where do I go from here in tech?

I'm a late 20s computer enthusiast without a CS degree, though if I could do college over again I'd stick it out and try for one. I can read code better than I can write it, I'm familiar with HTMl and Javascript and a little CS, but not the "frameworks," and CMS systems which seem to be in vogue these days. I have a working knowledge of the Web Content Accessibility Guidelines, and a knack for writing bug reports. I am totally blind. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 7:35 PM PST - 11 comments

Feed my Family: Complicated Vegan/Keto Meal

Please help me be a good host to my awesome in-laws and give me some main dish recipe ideas that are both vegan and keto! [more inside]
posted by AliceBlue at 6:23 PM PST - 22 comments

Advertising across the border. Canada and USA edition.

My partner has started a small print publication in the Pacific NW, and a Canadian company would like to advertise in it. She's concerned about the legality and tax implication of this. YANAL, but does anyone know about cross border print advertising? [more inside]
posted by juice boo at 6:19 PM PST - 2 comments

Where, what and how in DF & Riviera Maya this February

We're going to Mexico for a 2 week vacation this February. We're planning to spend half the time in D.F., half on the RIviera Maya. Please help us plan it out. [more inside]
posted by signal at 5:39 PM PST - 7 comments

Are there real examples of "historians will X"?

The idea that future historians will have some special reaction to the current era of madness is common. Have previous historical figures ever expressed similar sentiments and were they right about how historians looked back?
posted by Skorgu at 3:05 PM PST - 13 comments

Domain name pricing (including renewal fees)

A relative wants to buy a cheap domain for non-commercial use but I'm concerned how the renewal fees might change over time. [more inside]
posted by southof40 at 2:45 PM PST - 8 comments

Everything but the Kitchen Sink

Mrs. pjern and I are refreshing our kitchen. Some questions have arisen. [more inside]
posted by pjern at 1:42 PM PST - 14 comments

Readable history of Saudi Arabia

Recent events have made me realise I'm quite ignorant about the history of Saudi Arabia. Please point me to relevant sources (magazines, journals, books equally welcome). I'm particularly interested in the global geo-political context and treatment of women. Less so in the intricacies of prince such and such's relationship to prince so and so, unless it directly relates to the former.
posted by roolya_boolya at 12:02 PM PST - 8 comments

Please recommend some bar soap with specific qualities!

I have been using Ivory or Dove or Irish Spring type bar soap in the shower my whole life, but sometimes when I'm visiting friends, I notice that they have soap that feels much more decadent: it's a more substantial (larger/thicker) bar, with a more pronounced arch and rounded corners, and it feels kind of creamy. I don't know if I'm thinking of a specific bar soap or whether I've had the same experience with many different soaps -- but can anyone recommend a brand along these lines? [more inside]
posted by cider at 11:45 AM PST - 32 comments

Apps that involve friends in behavior change

I'm looking for examples of apps that support some kind of lifestyle/health/mental health behavior change (e.g., practicing mindfulness, exercising, quitting smoking) by involving a friend. [more inside]
posted by deus ex machina at 11:43 AM PST - 6 comments

Geriatric cat with unresolved GI tract issues

I have a 17 yr old lady cat with IBD-like symptoms who is making my home life very... poopy. She is attentive, eating and drinking, lively and mentally alert. The ONLY issue we're having is that for Reasons (health reasons?), she poops on the floor, no matter what I do. For those of you with experience troubleshooting elderly cat bathroom behavior, what am I missing and what else can I try? All the dirty, poopy details contained within... [more inside]
posted by Snacks at 11:37 AM PST - 9 comments

LiveStream of NYC marathon finish

I'd like to watch my friends finish the NYC marathon, but I can't seem to find a live stream that just shows the finish line. ABC and ESPN have live coverage, but it jumps all over the place. It is really possible that there isn't a fixed live camera just streaming the finish? If you know of a link, please post it. Or if you know for a fact that such a link doesn't exist, please let me know so I can stop looking. Thanks
posted by robverb at 11:31 AM PST - 1 comment

Illegal Candy Sought!

So, I just came home from a trip to Germany - and while I was there, I picked up a pair of Kinder Surprise Eggs, one each for my niece and nephew - because, they are illegal in the US. However - one of them did not survive the trip, and crushed all over the inside of my bag. Is there any way to somehow get another one by Christmas without asking friends to run afoul of the law? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 11:18 AM PST - 31 comments

Road warrior, not a good flyer. How to manage/cope?

Recent career changes the past few months (not entirely by choice) have left me in a new position that requires semi-frequent international travel (30%-40%) for 1-2 weeks at a time, often on extremely short notice. I've handled it okay - fortunately I'm an over-planner and tend to be prepared for anything (delays, jetlag, etc) - except for one small problem: I'm a terrible flyer. I have a lot of flying coming up very soon so I need to figure out something. [more inside]
posted by photo guy at 11:14 AM PST - 13 comments

Which famous musical is this tune referencing/riffing off of?

Which famous musical is this tune referencing/riffing off of? [more inside]
posted by Murderbot at 10:42 AM PST - 4 comments

What Animation Software Is This?

Anybody have any idea what animation software is used to make this video? [more inside]
posted by LiteOpera at 10:32 AM PST - 7 comments

Where can I buy blended, unbranded, tall-size men's athletic shirts?

Where can I buy unbranded/subtly branded tall-size men's athletic shirts that aren't 100% polyester or 100% cotton? [more inside]
posted by aerotive at 9:45 AM PST - 6 comments

NaNoWriMo-filter: White hat hackers who work for the gov, 2017 style

Writing a book and a significant character is a white hat hacker who works for a bureaucracy. He spends most of his time doing stuff other than work but to try to understand him better I'm trying to understand - what DO white hat hackers who work for governments do these days? [more inside]
posted by stewiethegreat at 9:40 AM PST - 7 comments

Books about architecture

I recently had the good fortune of finding Virginia Savage McAlester's "A Field Guide to American Houses" at my local library, and now I'd like to find similarly thorough books on related topics. [more inside]
posted by kevinbelt at 9:34 AM PST - 6 comments

Gift to ease the transition

My mother recently moved from a 3-bedroom home to a studio apartment in an independent-living facility. I'd like to come up with a Christmas gift that helps her feel happy in her new home. [more inside]
posted by layceepee at 9:05 AM PST - 14 comments

DC > Orlando > ?Relaxing-Semiadventurous-Nature? > DC

Where should I travel to for a few days in late February? Must have direct access from Orlando, and returning to DC. International ok, but not required. [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 8:50 AM PST - 4 comments

Looking for ways to stop cabin fever

I betray my Canadian heritage by not dealing with cold well so am spending a lot of time indoors lately and am looking for examples of what people do with themselves in the winter. What do you do to keep yourself from being bored when life prevents you from going outside? [more inside]
posted by kanata at 8:19 AM PST - 29 comments

My Whole Apartment Stinks After Cooking. Help!

My small apartment absolutely stinks after cooking. What Can I do. [more inside]
posted by EddieF at 7:14 AM PST - 21 comments

I want a job with you--but leaving my current one will screw you over.

My job is about to get a lot less pleasant, but the employer I'd probably go to would like me to stay in place for a couple of years to see some joint projects through to completion. How to manage this strategically and not lose my mind in the process? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:04 AM PST - 4 comments

Risperidone / Risperidal For Obsessive Thoughts?

I just started seeing a new therapist and psychiatrist for my lifelong OCD. They suggested Risperidal / Risperidone. Thoughts inside...... [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 6:59 AM PST - 10 comments

Teaching sullen 15 year olds

I have been a volunteer in a program that teaches basic coding to students in"under-resourced" city high schools for the last three years. My students this year are very different - they have been sullen and unengaged from the start and I'm looking for some help in engaging them. More snowflake details follow. [more inside]
posted by maggiemaggie at 6:00 AM PST - 13 comments

Noise cancellation ear plugs / headphones?

I often have to work in a space with small kids nearby - looking for noise cancellation recommendations to drown out their racket.
posted by ryanshepard at 5:42 AM PST - 7 comments

Movies with long, realistic scenes of psychoanalysis?

I'm writing a scene in a book where a character, herself a therapist, is undergoing psychoanalysis. Two questions. First, what are some examples of psychoanalysis done well in film? Second, under what circumstances would a practicing psychoanalyst go to another psychoanalyst? Could there ever be a pedagogical relationship between the two, or would that be beyond the pale of ethics? Thanks!
posted by jwhite1979 at 3:10 AM PST - 13 comments

Resources for working with jealousy

I experience a significant amount of jealousy in relationships and would like to work on this to make things easier for myself and my partner. I live in a place where it is hard to find a good therapist so while it would be great to have external help, at the moment I'm looking for readings, ideas, experiences, methods, and so on. [more inside]
posted by miaow at 2:28 AM PST - 8 comments

Recommend an inspirational book for young Muslim woman

Would you please help us find a book in English, fiction or otherwise, for a young Muslim woman, with an inspirational theme that could lend her support as she navigates her life under the dominance of a patriarchal family? [more inside]
posted by runcifex at 12:36 AM PST - 13 comments

November 4

What is this b&w movie about a small town post war impersonator?

What is this movie? I'm sure I watched it within the past few years, probably on Turner Classics. It was black and white. I took it took place in a small town. A drifter or somebody shows up at an elderly lady's house and begins helping her out with chores, maybe? Maybe he's impersonating a war buddy? Maybe he's a deserter, post world war 1? He gets found out in the end I think?
posted by J0 at 9:51 PM PST - 16 comments

Looking for a late 80s/early 90s R&B music video

I only remember a few details, but it's driving me crazy! [more inside]
posted by aquamvidam at 5:48 PM PST - 5 comments

Does Miele's "SteamFinish" feature work?

I need a new tumble dryer, and I've narrowed it down to two Miele models. The main difference is that the more expensive one offers Miele's "SteamFinish" feature, which Miele claims makes ironing "easier and quicker - or even completely unnecessary." If it makes ironing unnecessary, I'd spring for it. Can somebody who has used the feature tell me how well it works? [more inside]
posted by yankeefog at 2:41 PM PST - 6 comments

Improve my photographs? Post processing?

We're trying to get photographs for a holiday card. We took some, and I think I had the settings... not exactly right. I have two questions. Could you please help me with the settings on our dSLR so that the subject, not the background, is what's in focus? And what's the best way to get a few of the photos post-processed -- is it easy enough to do myself? is there a way to pay someone? [more inside]
posted by slidell at 2:10 PM PST - 16 comments

New bicycle has shifting problems

I built a bike frame, and I can't get the bike to shift onto the large chainring; it seems like the front derailleur can't quite reach far enough. Can I fix this with a different derailleur? Different crankset? Or something else? [more inside]
posted by egregious theorem at 12:45 PM PST - 11 comments

Best synthetic mid-layer

Looking for a new mid-layer for general winter use, as well as winter sports (skiing, snowshoeing, etc.). What's good? [more inside]
posted by so fucking future at 11:46 AM PST - 10 comments

I love colorful vaguely utopian political art. Help me buy more.

I am obsessed with the affordably priced lefty posters from JustSeeds. I would like to find more art like this to buy for my walls and my comrades. My tastes run more towards utopian/colorful/ecological than grim/scary/death imagery. For example, this honeybee-inspired "Labor Creates All Wealth" image is very much my thing. I also want to support lesser-known shops, artists, and collectives than say, Shepherd Fairy.
posted by mostly vowels at 10:34 AM PST - 12 comments

Health insurance coverage terminated with no notice. What do I do?

I just discovered that apparently my employer-provided health insurance was terminated and that coverage ended on 10/31. All premiums have been paid as normal (deducted automatically from paychecks, last one dated 10/27) and absolutely no notice of any form was provided to me. Any ideas how this happened, or what I do now, apart from waiting until Monday when the insurance company will actually be open and take my dang calls? [more inside]
posted by halation at 10:24 AM PST - 23 comments

Hosting a large-ish family gathering 101

For this Thanksgiving, which happens to be right before my 30th birthday, I decided to invite my extended family and friends to Thanksgiving at my place in NYC. At this point it looks like it will be me plus 11 or 12 guests, most of whom are coming from out of town. I would love any tips you can give me about 1) being an awesome hostess in this situation and 2) the logistics of preparing Thanksgiving dinner for this many people! [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz at 10:04 AM PST - 36 comments

Have a cat, introducing a new cat - gender and age?

I have a 4 y/o female cat. After initially being happy having the house to herself after losing her buddy 6 months ago is definitely lonely. Trying to decide what gender and age of cat we should adopt. Getting two cats isn't an option (yes, we've heard that would be ideal). Cat is a retired breeder and not a fan of kittens. I know opinions go all over the board on this, so am interested in anecdata from my trusted mefi community as well as any empirical information you may be able to link to.
posted by arnicae at 8:39 AM PST - 15 comments

Hints and tips for teachers?

I'm an experienced teacher and am about to move schools. What things have made you a better, more efficient teacher? [more inside]
posted by chr at 8:29 AM PST - 10 comments

What is this Tavern Puzzle Called? How is it Solved?

A coworker gave me this tavern puzzle. I'm not very good at these, but he thinks I'm very clever (I do ID/Desktop Support) and assumed I was up to the challenge. I have three specific questions: [more inside]
posted by jazon at 8:28 AM PST - 3 comments

World best degree in drama or arts therapy?

I want to study at one of the best institutions for drama or creative arts therapy anywhere around the world. I am thinking initially Masters degree but I'm not sure I have the required prerequisites so also interested in undergraduate. Looking in US, UK or Australia primarily but open to anywhere in the world that teaches in English. How do I go about finding the ranking of such degrees? Thanks.
posted by vizsla at 7:54 AM PST - 3 comments

First time poker player: I have question about how Raising works

I played poker last night for the first time with a group of other first-timers after reading several articles that detailed the rules. But when we started playing we found that raising was confusing. Here's the question: [more inside]
posted by crapples at 7:38 AM PST - 12 comments

Best Voice Changing Apps

I want to become different characters with different voices, for a musical piece I'm writing. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 7:22 AM PST - 1 comment

"I'm applying for the position but cannot relocate ..."

I'm on the job market, and am seeing some interesting positions, for which I have unique qualifications. But I cannot relocate. I'd like to pitch (gently if necessary) the possibility of remote/consulting work in the same area as the listing. I'm not sure if I should apply, maybe the remote angle can be worked out if they like my resume, or if I should just contact the organization straight up. What are some good/constructive approaches to getting on somebody's radar in this way? Many thanks!
posted by life moves pretty fast at 6:54 AM PST - 6 comments

What are these Mathnet harnesses?

I've been bingewatching Square One's MathNet and in this Broadway Unkidnapping episode (from 55 seconds in) Monday and Frankly are wearing these brown leathery things that look like a cross between suspenders/braces and harnesses, with rather unusual backs. What are they wearing and are they available anywhere?
posted by divabat at 4:10 AM PST - 3 comments

Maybe we'll be in a relationship by the time I'm 800 years old

I've gone on a few dates with a self-professed slow mover. I like him, but he's terrible at communicating between dates and the glacial dating pace is slowly killing me. Is there any hope here? [more inside]
posted by amycup at 2:39 AM PST - 29 comments

November 3

First author boogie

I'm writing my first manuscript for a scientific journal article, as first author. I got a first draft together, it looked pretty OK to me -- and it was ripped to shreds by my co-authors. So now I have 5 million comments to address by five different people... this weekend. Second draft due Monday. Hope me please. [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 11:46 PM PST - 8 comments

Looking for Occult-themed Music- Especially Non-Black Metal

I'm djing a radio show and need to find diverse occult-themed music or recordings (oddities like Louise Hubner and so on) I don't want it all to be black/death metal; I'm looking for obscure oddities especially. [more inside]
posted by GospelofWesleyWillis at 11:19 PM PST - 43 comments

Yes I will go to an Al-Anon meeting after I post this

Please help me think out how I can help my parents buy my disabled and unemployed sibling a house. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 10:08 PM PST - 26 comments

Toys lost under the sofa!

I have an Ikea Karlstad (3 seats wide + a chaise). In our old house we had carpet so we lost some, but not many, things underneath. Our new house has hardwood, so every toy in motion remains in motion until irretrievably lost under the couch! How do I solve or mitigate this? [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 8:42 PM PST - 23 comments

new to iphone 7; mophie battery case micro-usb-to-3.5 mm analog adapter?

So far the intertubes is turning up nearly zero in this regard, and what does seem to exist is very poorly rated. [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 8:18 PM PST - 0 comments

Recovery for the tired, tense and troubled

I'm on the tail end of a kind of intense and long week. I've had a constant headache for two days, stayed up later at night than usual and have gone to social things and school non stop. I'm probably dehydrated too. My head muscles are super tense and I went through a emotionally shaking (but not totally bad) ecperience. Tomorrow afternoon and Sunday I have most of the day to try to recover. What should I do to try to heal from all this craziness? [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 7:52 PM PST - 12 comments

Possible to nuke the most annoying dream?

I woke up today after yet another episode of The Most Annoying Dream, wherein I have failed to either graduate high school or college because I don't have enough credits. After about ten years of this dream, I am tired of it. How do I get it to go away? [more inside]
posted by sacchan at 7:44 PM PST - 14 comments

What is the natural end of a therapy relationship?

How can you tell when the natural end of a therapy relationship has been reached? How much ongoing maintenance is needed? What does that look like? Snowflake: young child. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:27 PM PST - 6 comments

Still pregnant (and struggling with feelings)

This was me a few weeks ago - pregnant and at grad school. How do I move on from this event and care for myself in a respectful way? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:26 PM PST - 21 comments

Tell me 'bout bike racks

I have two kids with new bikes, and the three of us would like to go places to ride them. How do we choose a car-mounted bike rack for our 2009 Nissan Rogue? [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 3:28 PM PST - 13 comments

How do I wash my tiny cheap plastic monkey?

I have a tiny plastic and fake plastic (nylon?) fur monkey, which is very dirty. How can I clean his fur up a bit? [more inside]
posted by Dext at 1:21 PM PST - 14 comments

I need the mother of all stain removers

I bought a used car a year ago, and it had some stains on the rear seat. I have been living with them, but I feel like having a go at removing them. I realize this is most likely impossible, but then again, I am a believer in the power of the hive mind. Give me your most brutally effective fabric cleaners, your nuclear options, your most powerful chemical warfare, and I vow to you to try them and report back here as to how well they worked. Do your worst, Mefites. Do your worst. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 1:05 PM PST - 24 comments

Help! I've Accidentally Deleted GSuite

I accidentally deleted my consulting business GSuite account when thought I was deleting another software subscription. [more inside]
posted by summerstorm at 12:57 PM PST - 2 comments

Why do people think kale is so expensive?

I'm a big fan of garlicky greens. Most of the year, those greens are kale. I have regularly seen advice to avoid kale to save money, because it's so "trendy" or "expensive". I've seen this advice in various places (including ask.me) over the last 10-15 years, and I'm wondering why, when in my experience kale is pretty cheap? [more inside]
posted by sputzie at 12:48 PM PST - 27 comments

High dividend/interest investments

I am looking for investments to be made through an irrevocable trust. I want investments that produce high "income", which for the purposes of a trust means dividends or interest, not capital gains (rental income would be defined as income too). Diversified, unmanaged investments (index funds, ETFs, etc.) preferred, so long as they produce income. [more inside]
posted by molla at 12:01 PM PST - 4 comments

Digital human assistant, or human digital assistant?

I am an academic and I have either an organizational or filtering problem with respect to my files on my computer. I can never seem to find the files I want, and I also tend to lose things that are recently but not immediately active (so, if I have to go away for a week or two, or things get in my way, it is possible for me to forget some files or some work even exists. [more inside]
posted by sockermom at 11:53 AM PST - 9 comments

Looking for legal structure

Billionaire Joe Ricketts shut down news sites Gothamist and DNAinfo, coincidentally, shortly after its journalists voted to unionize. News reports said it was because Ricketts said they both were losing money. But in prior news reports, staff was cheering the vote there was no mention of financial problems. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 11:33 AM PST - 8 comments

Accountant recommendation in Ottawa

I'm looking for a good accountant in Ottawa, ON. [more inside]
posted by Gor-ella at 11:15 AM PST - 0 comments

Best low APR balance transfer options?

I'm looking to move about $12,000 credit card debt to a lower interest creditor, and then to pay approximately $2,000 per month toward the debt. What is my best option? [more inside]
posted by kensington314 at 10:54 AM PST - 10 comments

Can I get student loan scammers to stop calling?

I get 3-5 calls every day from "student loan forgiveness" scammers. Most of the calls are from the area code of my hometown (always different numbers, so I can't just block them), but sometimes they are out of state. I also get calls from out of state vendors for my job (which I receive on my cellphone) so I'd like some way to get them to STOP CALLING. [more inside]
posted by permiechickie at 10:49 AM PST - 15 comments

Any Tips or Things to Consider Before/After Purchasing Nintendo Switch?

I am pulling the trigger and purchasing a Nintendo Switch (my poor wallet). I've heard a number of things that have me a bit concerned: dead pixels, left joy-cons that do not work, docked charging that scratches the screen or doesn't charge. Is it better to play docked or handheld? It's been out since March, so for all you early adopters, what should I be aware of and/or avoid spending money on with regards to accessories (screen protectors, grips, fancy gamepads)?
posted by Fizz at 10:34 AM PST - 16 comments

YouTube uploader for iPhone S/current OS

I just installed the most recent OS to my iPhone S, and I'm having a hard time uploading video to my YouTube channel. Help? [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 10:22 AM PST - 1 comment

Online source for printing a manual?

I have a pdf of about 220 pages, 8.5 x 11, and I would like to have it printed and bound into a spiral booklet form or similar using an online printer that would then mail it to me. Any suggestions?
posted by nanook at 10:18 AM PST - 5 comments

Claim forms and particulars of claim. England and Wales.

Can someone point me towards good FREE resources for drafting claim forms and particulars of claim for the English courts? [more inside]
posted by inner_frustration at 10:14 AM PST - 1 comment

I don’t feel loved or sexy in my relationship.

For all intents and purposes our relationship is good, but I just don’t feel... cherished. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:14 AM PST - 18 comments

How can I get my dog to walk?

My 8 year shiba inu dog hates walking in the neighborhood. Are the any tricks or specific products I can use to get him to walk? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 8:53 AM PST - 11 comments

Animals? Neighbors? Ghosts?

I'm weirded out by a pumpkin that came and went from my front porch. Should I be? [more inside]
posted by Lutoslawski at 7:30 AM PST - 12 comments

Dear AskMe: I never thought it would happen to me...

but I have a "Can we eat it?" question. Do treacle and golden syrup spoil? [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 6:54 AM PST - 12 comments

Sleeping in the sprawled position doesn't help.

My mattress is a 4 year old pillowtop from a good brand and it's got an indentation in the middle because, apparently, no matter what, that's the spot I migrate to at night. Thinking a memory foam topper might help mitigate the issue but . . . how do you decide which one to buy? A regular old egg crate is less than I need, but a four inch memory foam luxury whatsit seems like . .a lot. [more inside]
posted by Medieval Maven at 6:26 AM PST - 9 comments

Mortgage amortization questions

I'm trying to figure out whether I should "recast" or refinance my mortgage. I've never been able to understand how amortization works. Also, is it smart or dumb to prepay a mortgage in this low rate environment? [more inside]
posted by Mid at 5:58 AM PST - 11 comments

Do I Want to Use Redfin If I'm Looking for a House In Another State?

Have you ever used Redfin for an out-of-state purchase? Is this even a good idea? [more inside]
posted by neeta at 1:24 AM PST - 8 comments

Removing an unpleasantly fragrant residue

My car reeks of carpet shampoo. How do I get rid of the smell? [more inside]
posted by bigtex at 1:22 AM PST - 9 comments

Does LR,LF,RR,RF indicate where the tire was or where it should go next?

I'm swapping to my winter tires. I finally bought all my own tools (jack, jackstands, torque wrenches, etc) to do it myself after years of taking it into the shop. There's chalk marking the tire as position, but does it typically indicate where the tire was or where it should be rotated to?
posted by wutangclan at 12:21 AM PST - 11 comments

November 2

Can you recommend a blender for turning oats/dried fruit into powder?

I'm looking for a low/mid-range blender that I can use to turn steel cut oats and freeze-dried fruit into powder form so I can easily mix into a drink in the future. [more inside]
posted by eliluong at 10:25 PM PST - 12 comments

What are normal lows in a relationship

How do I tell the difference between a fear of commitment and vulnerability and an incompatible relationship that I should end. [more inside]
posted by aaabbbccc at 10:11 PM PST - 56 comments

Looking for a great post-Thanksgiving hike around(ish) Portland, OR

Due to the fires a lot of my go-tos in the Gorge are closed. I'm okay with rainy hikes and driving up to a couple of hours, and am not too concerned with hike difficulty (easy is fine, tough is fine). It'll be late November -- what're some trails that have something unique to offer this time of year?
posted by curious nu at 6:58 PM PST - 6 comments

Best HSA-as-investment custodian

I'm interested in using my HSA as a tax-advantaged investment vehicle. What custodian provides the lowest fees and access to good funds (e.g., Vanguard)? [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 5:24 PM PST - 8 comments

Information sources for generic vs brand name psych meds

Hive mind: what’s a good source for in depth information about generic vs brand name psych meds? [more inside]
posted by moonlight on vermont at 4:41 PM PST - 1 comment

“I love the idea of us reading together, have you any books in mind?”

What books read together made a difference for you and your partner? [more inside]
posted by brokeaspoke at 4:34 PM PST - 11 comments

How many prizes do I need for these bridal shower games?

I have been tasked with coming up with last minute shower games for my best friend's wedding shower on Sunday. (I'm her maid of honor but I'm out of state and her aunt is hosting the shower. I just assumed she was taking care of it but she told me last night it was up to me. Whoops!) I found what I hope won't be horrible games, but I'm having a hard time thinking through how many prizes I need for each one. [more inside]
posted by Neely O'Hara at 4:06 PM PST - 6 comments

Licensing art for tattoos...

If you get a tattoo of a third party's art (not the tattoo artist's), how much should the original artist be compensated? (or should they at all?) [more inside]
posted by Unsomnambulist at 3:32 PM PST - 10 comments

Gimme some Ocean's Eleven music without the dialogue!

I really dig David Holmes' drum-heavy orchestration to the Oceans soundtracks, but it seems like every good song is interrupted by Brad Pitt or George Clooney talking about the Bellagio. Can you recommend any Holmes-like music that's purely instrumental? Does any of Holmes' other releases sound similar?
posted by adverb at 3:21 PM PST - 9 comments

Is this a bad idea, or just an eccentric one?

We received a substantial windfall (previously) and are looking at how to invest it. From our perspective, "Socially Responsible" index funds look like a joke. Would it be prudent to put nearly all of it in Municipal Bond Funds and withdraw the returns to cover a substantial portion of our living expenses? They look stable and low-risk, and public infrastructure is something we can get behind. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:18 PM PST - 16 comments

Bed bugs - keep them from moving with me!

My fiance and I recently had a run-in with bed bugs at our apartment. Last Saturday we had the entire apartment heat-treated, and we're due to move to a new apartment this Friday. As of yesterday, "new" bites are still showing up on my arm, even though we passed post-treatment inspection by a bed bug dog. Is it likely that these are just a delayed reaction from old bites? What reasonable precautions should we take to ensure we don't carry any remaining stragglers with us to the new apartment? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:18 PM PST - 3 comments

How to be happy in professional school

I've recently started dental school and am feeling super disconnected and unmotivated. Most days I wake up with a feeling of dread, knowing the drudgery that lies ahead. I need hobbies that make me happy, ways to re-discover my purpose/social responsibility, methods for maintaining a social life, and any techniques/milestones I can implement to make this time (4 years) go by smoother. [more inside]
posted by DayTripper at 2:27 PM PST - 10 comments

Effect of Tax Changes on Refinance In-Progress

We're in the middle of a cash-out mortgage, and are looking for advice and/or explanation of the new rules for mortgage interest in the new congressional tax proposal. [more inside]
posted by mach at 2:18 PM PST - 1 comment

When will life feel real again?

I have gone through several massive, life altering changes in the past year and a half including separation and divorce that ended a 20 year marriage, local move from my marital move to an apartment, remarriage, buying a new home, move from east coast to Midwest usa, and taking on the role of stepmom to 3 kids (incl twins) when i never parented before. The whole experience has felt surreal more often then not. [more inside]
posted by TestamentToGrace at 1:52 PM PST - 8 comments

Responsive stylus tablets

I really like taking notes by hand, and would love to be able to do so on a tablet. Unfortunately every tablet I've tried has been terrible to write with, with the latency for "ink" to appear after the pen touches an area being too high, and the strokes being too thick (which I assume is caused by poor sensitivity) being the killers. A few days ago though, I tried the Blackboard Boogie Board and was amazed at how good it was. Is there something like it that gets closer to a "real" tablet? [more inside]
posted by The Notorious B.F.G. at 12:23 PM PST - 14 comments

Name that bug!

A box of supermarket recycled tissues came with this beetle(?) wrapped in one of the tissues. It's still alive, and currently in my kitchen bin. I'm in the UK, and the box says that the tissues were made here. What might it be? (Pictures inside) [more inside]
posted by Urtylug at 11:44 AM PST - 11 comments

Beach recommendations in Thailand

Headed to Southeast Asia in March and very excited! Will be concluding our trip in Thailand and seeking recommendations for a beach destination there. Details on preferences inside. [more inside]
posted by DavidNYC at 11:22 AM PST - 12 comments

What Video Games Are 12-14 Year-Olds Playing?

I'm giving a presentation to Grade 7 & 8 students on writing fiction. I'd like to give some examples of storytelling techniques taken from video games. A couple of years ago, I struck a chord with older kids by referring to Fallout 4 -- but these kids are younger and Fallout 4 was so 2015. [more inside]
posted by Prunesquallor at 11:13 AM PST - 8 comments

Looking for a specific online article - details unclear

I'm trying to find an article I read online a few months ago. The problem is, I can't remember what the subject of the article was, or where I read it. I do remember that:
  • The article was well written,
  • It used parallax scrolling very well,
  • It had wonderful pixel illustrations done in a pink/violet/red colour palette.
[more inside]
posted by Stonkle at 10:47 AM PST - 6 comments

Academic Journals that focus on social movements and activism?

Hello. I am trying to find scholary journals that focus on social movements, activism, environmental rights that accept interviews? I am looking for a Canadian-based Journal mostly, but any will do if they focus on this niche. Also, I am open to literary magazines and literary journals that focus on social movements and activism too. Thank-you!
posted by RearWindow at 10:37 AM PST - 4 comments

audiobook voice actor recommendations

I've been listening to a lot of audiobooks, and some voice actors are better than others. Two I like are Tom Weiner and Enn Reitel. Can you recommend more?
posted by the man of twists and turns at 10:13 AM PST - 29 comments

Please help me understand my therapist.

I've been working with a psychotherapist for about a year and a half and I'm feeling stuck. For the past two sessions we've been talking about the therapy, and I'm not feeling comfortable with his answers. I'd like help in evaluating them. More details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by A. Davey at 9:59 AM PST - 9 comments

Am I under real psychological stress or do I have intrusive thoughts?

I'm finally reaching out to see if I can find a therapist. But I'm not quite sure what I'm looking for. Hoping you all can give me some ideas about whether it's CBT I should try or something focused on anxiety or if I have real unresolved emotions that need a lot of talking through? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:58 AM PST - 4 comments

[Fashionfilter] Find me the perfect sweater dress

I'm searching for a flared or A-line sweater dress with partial wool content. For under $200, which seems like a reasonable thing to ask, but where are they? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 9:02 AM PST - 13 comments

Adams Morgan hotel

Can you please recommend an at least somewhat charming, very clean not very corporate hotel under $250 within easy walking distance (< 15 minutes) of Marriott Wardman Park Hotel, 2660 Woodley Rd NW Washington DC. We could stay at the Marriott or Omni but prefer something less giant/chain. Difficulty: Not The Normandy (which October 2017 yelp says has bed bugs - do not wish to risk this) or Woodley Park Guest House (which is full the dates we need).
posted by velveeta underground at 8:32 AM PST - 9 comments

Taking next-level photographs

What are some resources to help experienced/advanced amateur photographer develop craft even further? From an aesthetic perspective, not technical. [more inside]
posted by Sreiny at 8:07 AM PST - 15 comments

Zoloft: two pills, same dose, different experiences?

I started taking Zoloft a month ago, and I’ve noticed a difference between taking two 50mg pills and one 100mg pill from the same manufacturer. Am I crazy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:58 AM PST - 9 comments

Union members and non-union members: Your experience about strikes

Strikes seem to be impending for various unions in my part of the world. I am looking for what needs to be communicated to the general public by the union during or right before a strike. This is mostly a US question, but experience from outside the US is also welcome. [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 7:44 AM PST - 20 comments

Babies and Multitasking

Asking experienced parents: I have a three month old baby. Other than the sleep deprivation, caring for my baby has been great so far. I am able to write my novel while he sleeps, and sometimes when he is awake too. When does he get more active and I have to entertain him full time? [more inside]
posted by moiraine at 7:38 AM PST - 9 comments

Real (Tie-It-Yourself) Bow Ties for a Three Year Old?

My three-year-old son is going to be in a wedding (he's the ring bearer, as he'd be the first to admit), and I want to buy him a real, tie-it-yourself (not clip-on or pre-tied) bow tie. Where can I them for sale online?
posted by thursdaystoo at 7:34 AM PST - 7 comments

How to get unstuck?

I can't find any motivation to do anything with my life. Now that I’m in my early 40s, is it too late to change? [more inside]
posted by cardinalandcrow at 7:09 AM PST - 23 comments

Arguing with my therapist. Again.

How do I move on from arguing with my therapist? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:09 AM PST - 20 comments

SciFi for other values of Sci

Please recommend: recent science fiction books (and stories) that are based on sciences and disciplines other than the usual 'hard' ones like physics, chemistry, astronomy, math, biology, computers and engineering. Looking for things like musicology, linguistics, sociology, philosophy, criminology, economics, etc. [more inside]
posted by signal at 7:05 AM PST - 32 comments

What is the best cheap polymer clay for this project?

I want to make the clay covered pens seen here. What is the best, least expensive clay for this project? [more inside]
posted by Biblio at 6:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Recommend an online course for a computer newbie?

We have a new employee who has somehow avoided using computers over the past ever. Any particular recommendations for an online course that teaches the basics: Navigating via keyboard and mouse, finding your way through drives and folders, basic commands like copy and paste, using menus, email, navigating and searching online, etc.? Additionally, the basics of Microsoft Office would be good in the same or a separate course.
posted by SampleSize at 6:19 AM PST - 8 comments

Baby/Toddler Gate Recommendations

We're moving and will need baby gates. What are the best options that are very safe and can absolutely be opened with one hand by an adult carrying a rambunctious monster but NOT by the monster herself, even if she is very clever? Complication: wide doorway. [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 6:16 AM PST - 6 comments

How long is lentil dahl safe in the fridge for?

I bought some sealed plastic containers of freshly-cooked lentil dahl on the evening of Tuesday 31 October and put it straight in the fridge. Just now, the evening of Thursday 2 November, I put it in the freezer. The ingredients are lentils, oil, tumeric and bay leaves. [more inside]
posted by Murderbot at 4:24 AM PST - 11 comments

What is the easiest way to delete my Facebook account?

Haven't used it in years yet I still get emails about posts, and because I don't use it, I don't want it to exist for other people's use. I just want to delete it with a minimum of fuss. If you've done this recently, do you have any tips?
posted by qsysopr at 3:56 AM PST - 7 comments

An office activity to mark the season of giving

No one at the office is particularly interested in doing a gift exchange this year because it seems frivolous. The part that feels good is the giving, but receiving a gag gift or candles, socks or wine doesn't do anything for us. Instead we'd like to give physical gifts to people in need and I am way overthinking the logistics. [more inside]
posted by shocks connery at 3:42 AM PST - 22 comments

Is this job offer formal enough for me to give notice?

I received an informal job offer for a job I'm really excited for. I've negotiated salary and a start date. Can I give notice at my current job without having the formal offer letter in hand? [more inside]
posted by stripesandplaid at 2:40 AM PST - 18 comments

Give me your fun and funny tap dances!

We are a dozen women of mixed beginner/intermediate skill in a weekly tap dance class. We want to develop a fun routine to do in the spring show, and we need inspiration! Video searches come up short. Help us make people laugh. [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 12:38 AM PST - 2 comments

November 1

What's it like to be an introvert?

Hyper-extrovert, adventuring parent here with a *gasp* introverted child. Want to not torment him too much, please share with me what it's like to be a book-worm, shy, introvert, mellow kind of person, as well as what it was like as a child. [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 9:56 PM PST - 51 comments

Google Arts and Culture: Comparing Two Images

When I last used Google Arts and Culture, there was a way to compare two images on the same screen. I cannot see how to do that now, and all of the sources that say it's possible are old. [more inside]
posted by Francolin at 8:36 PM PST - 0 comments

Chevy / GM Commercial With Nickel Balanced On Engine 60s/70s

So, I'm watching the world series with my grandfather, we see car commercials and he tells me about being in a GM engine plant (where he worked for 40+ years) repairing a machine near a crew shooting a commercial where a nickel balanced on top of an engine doesn't fall over when the engine is started because IT'S JUST SUCH A SMOOTH HIGH QUALITY ENGINE. According to him, they had to shoot it about 1000 times. Anyway, anybody know how to find that commercial? I thought it'd be fun to watch with him.
posted by windowbr8r at 7:25 PM PST - 2 comments

Expired vehicle registration

I got cited for expired registration on my car (just plain forgot about it). I now have it registered. The court date is Friday. That officer said that if I show the judge that the vehicle is now registered, that the judge will probably drop the charge. If he doesn't ... I noticed that the citation lists the vehicle as a Subaru. It is not a Subaru, it is an Audi. Would it be worth mentioning this technicality to the judge?
posted by falsedmitri at 7:19 PM PST - 8 comments

Is there a relatively easy way to find nude art in the Met’s collection?

For a feminist art project, I’m hoping to find all (or at least a lot) the depictions of nude female bodies in the Metropolitan Museum of Art. (Since gender isn’t that simple: I’m looking for depictions of nude bodies of people who likely menstruated.) Is there an easy way to search their collection by content that might reveal these images?
posted by ocherdraco at 3:50 PM PST - 10 comments

Why so many scam call reporting websites?

Like many people, I'm getting increasingly frequent scam calls. Sometimes I'll search unfamiliar numbers online and will come across dozens of sites where they've been reported: 800notes.com, whocallsme.com, whycall.me, shouldianswer.com, whoscall.in, etc. What's the deal with these sites? They don't have any differentiating features. Are they their own scam?
posted by waninggibbon at 3:40 PM PST - 4 comments

Preparing for a possibly technical panel interview

I have an interview next week for a Lead Business Analyst position and the HR person said it would be three hours long - the first part with a panel and the second with the hiring manager. The job description is IT-heavy and is frankly a stretch, but when I spoke on the phone with the non-tech gatekeeper yesterday it sounded like something I could manage via filling in gaps in my knowledge. Now I have to convince a panel. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 3:22 PM PST - 7 comments

Can the landlord do this?

Landlord just gave notice they plan to raise our rent by $100 next month. We are also required to give 30 days' notice if we plan to move or we forfeit our deposit. Can they do this? [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 3:21 PM PST - 17 comments

When worrying about losing a boner kills your boner...

After twelve years of wonderful monogamous sex exclusively with one other person, and never the faintest hint of any erectile or orgasm problems, my first and second attempts at intercourse with a different person have been so humiliating that I fear I now have a hangup that will make it forever impossible. [more inside]
posted by nikodym at 2:56 PM PST - 20 comments

Sticker design help

I am ordering some stickers for packages of toffee I make every year and the design-decision-making part of my brain has overloaded. I am using Moo and have a basic design I like, but could use some opinions on the text (color, font, justification). Some choices. [more inside]
posted by LKWorking at 1:58 PM PST - 19 comments

Simple IRA: to keep or not to keep?

I have an old Vanguard Simple IRA account with less than $10k in it and I have not contributed to it in a long time. Should I cash it out? Should I roll it over into an active 401(k) account (it's not Vanguard)? Should I start contributing to it again on my own? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:43 PM PST - 7 comments

Need to convert Markdown to Wikitext

I've got a very long file in Markdown that I need to convert to Wikitext and I'm having trouble. [more inside]
posted by IndigoRain at 1:30 PM PST - 8 comments

What do you put in your quiche?

I love making and eating (crustless) quiche, but I'm in search of some new ingredient combinations. Give me some quiches to make! [more inside]
posted by Pope Guilty at 1:13 PM PST - 36 comments

Health insurance options not on the exchanges (for the self employed)?

Last couple years we've bought health insurance on the exchanges. We're already on the cheapest plan sold there. This year we are facing a big increase in premiums, big enough that we're considering dropping coverage altogether. We'd like to explore our options though. [more inside]
posted by mattu at 1:13 PM PST - 9 comments

Steam for Mac OS game recommendations

I've got a Steam credit and would like to use it to purchase a game for my 11" Macbook Air. I'm looking for something that can play nicely on that and doesn't require a lot of coordination (no first person shooters, etc.). Games I've really liked (some are boardgames but they give you an idea of what I'm after): Skyrim, Carcassonne, Discworld, Journey, Ticket to Ride, Splendor, Twilight Struggle, I Love Hue, Portal, Tetris, and anything wordy or puzzley. There is so much choice on Steam, even when filtering down to Mac OS, that I'm really lost and could use some recommendations please. Thanks!
posted by iamkimiam at 1:03 PM PST - 17 comments

What is going on in this video?

What is going on here? [more inside]
posted by drunkonthemoon at 12:42 PM PST - 5 comments

How to decline a job offer, edition 876

I have been offered a job under funky circumstances. I think I have to decline the offer, but I don't know exactly how to word it, and also -- I'm not 100% sure I ought to decline it. Please advise! [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 12:32 PM PST - 27 comments

NYC Plumber and A/C Repair Recommendations?

I'm looking for recommendations for both a plumber and someone who can do A/C repair in the NYC area. [more inside]
posted by Sangermaine at 11:49 AM PST - 1 comment

Book suggestions about the labor movement?

I've been on a reading spree* trying to understand the American origins and recent political consequences of libertarianism/free market fundamentalism, and much of the earlier history seems to involve a reaction to either the labor movement or the New Deal. I'd like some reading suggestions on either of those histories. [more inside]
posted by girl Mark at 11:48 AM PST - 9 comments

Toolkit Talk: Need to Fix Light Source for Photo Shoots

I'm currently in the middle of shooting a series of hands-on tutorials and have built a nice little camera set-up. This set-up is hands-free, gives me control over framing, and packs away quickly. But I also live in Scotland and by mid-day it is now too dark to take photos indoors (and too wet to go outside to set up). Talk to me about a good way of adding much-needed light to my photos. [more inside]
posted by kariebookish at 11:38 AM PST - 5 comments

Replace gas wall oven?

Who do I get to install a new gas wall oven where the current unit gas wall oven is beyond repair? Needed parts are no longer made and "universal" parts don't fit my oven. [more inside]
posted by donovangirl at 11:32 AM PST - 3 comments

Kid racked up $300 bucks in 6 days on iPad app

So, our kids have iPads. We have a house rule that they need to ask permission before buying anything. In fact, until recently they were UNABLE to make purchases without getting approval from one of us. Somehow was changed, and in the last week out daughter racked up $300 in charges on some stupid High School app. [more inside]
posted by leotrotsky at 11:15 AM PST - 18 comments

How can I merge two macOS Photos libraries?

I'd like to merge two macOS Photos libraries into one, with the ability to weed out duplicates during the process. [more inside]
posted by bassomatic at 10:54 AM PST - 5 comments

Vegan appetizers - the Costco edition

Months ago I volunteered to provide the food for our local shelter's art fundraiser. Normally I'd cook, and enjoy it. However, work and life has thrown some curveballs, and it's become clear I'm overextended. The event is from 4-7 on a Saturday afternoon, so I'd been thinking mostly heavy, savory bites. [more inside]
posted by korej at 9:39 AM PST - 13 comments

How to elicit troubleshooting discussion in marriage?

A small thing has exploded into a huge thing. I need help figuring this out please. [more inside]
posted by What a Joke at 9:31 AM PST - 24 comments

The unicorn of shoes: black leather slip-on, stylish, no heel

Non-heel-wearers of MeFi, help me find my shoe unicorn. The "stylish" and "no heel" part seem to be the most complicated. Sometimes durability is an issue too. Assume price is no object. Examples inside. [more inside]
posted by danceswithlight at 9:13 AM PST - 9 comments

What worthwhile, beneficial sites can I find on the deep web?

The deep web is hundreds of times larger than the surface web. Something so enormous has to have some beneficial or interesting things, doesn't it? The dark web is only a teeny, tiny part of it, and I have no interest in anything that happens there. But I have a lot of interest in seeing what else there is on the deep web. What do you guys think?
posted by BadgerDoctor at 9:11 AM PST - 4 comments

I now pronounce you and your health care legally illegal.

I'm in a legal domestic partnership (Wisconsin) with my favorite and best, and thanks to Scott Walker all state employees' domestic partners, including me, will be losing health insurance coverage effective Jan. 01, 2018. Me and mine are considering our options, including getting a marriage license to retain current benefits, and we have a couple of questions to resolve before we do anything. [more inside]
posted by mcbeth at 8:46 AM PST - 8 comments

But Her Light Bulbs?!

Last night, our landlord called to make sure that we didn't have anything stored in the basement, because apparently the former first floor tenant that just moved out took a bunch of stuff that wasn't hers...including the light bulbs. What? Why on earth would someone take light bulbs from a common area when moving out of an apartment? [more inside]
posted by okayokayigive at 8:40 AM PST - 36 comments

Saving & highlighting online articles on an e-ink device

Elegant solution wanted for: 1. Saving articles to read later. 2. Reading them on an e-ink device. 3. Taking notes and highlights on articles and retrieving them easily later/automatically. [more inside]
posted by 0bvious at 8:40 AM PST - 1 comment

Gift Exchange Ideas for Large, Broke Family

White Elephant did not work out well for us last year. My family found the rules confusing and several people were disappointed with the results. Please help me find an alternative gift exchange tradition. [more inside]
posted by MuChao at 8:09 AM PST - 27 comments

Tool Identification, what is this thing?

My mother found it in my deceased step-father's stuff. Other than that, I have no context for what it is. It appears to be broken, I think it was symmetrical at one time.
posted by COD at 7:56 AM PST - 3 comments

Attention, all craft beer aficionados, where do you go for beer news?

Looking for the best in beer blogs, magazines, and ephemera. Help me stay on top of the news in my field! [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 6:32 AM PST - 16 comments

Looking for a white laboratory-style background to photograph components

I need to photo some electronic components. I would like to do this using a solid white background laboratory-style background, how do I go about this?
posted by jacobean at 6:00 AM PST - 7 comments

EWW proofreading

How do I overcome my distaste for checking my work? [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 5:59 AM PST - 21 comments

How to get code from Github to "go"

So there's this Github-project Bookdrop - I would like to run it on my own. Could you walk me through the general steps I'd need to take to run this somewhere else - and where? I was thinking about an AWS- or so service - but how do I actually do this?? [more inside]
posted by mathiu at 2:44 AM PST - 11 comments

let's scrape this thing clean!

Please help me download ALL of the (dynamically loaded, javascript-served) images from this website. [more inside]
posted by wym at 12:22 AM PST - 20 comments