October 2017 Archives

October 22

Polish culture conundrum

Questions about being the guest in a Polish household. Recently came back from 2 weeks abroad visiting no less than 4 sets of extended relatives in Poland. On more than a few occasions the same thing kept happening, and it wasn't great, and all signs point to culture differences. If you know the Polish hosting culture please explain to me how things were interpreted / expected by the other side since I just don't get why they acted the way they did. [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 12:21 AM PST - 0 comments

October 21

Recourses over broken academic search

How to ascertain and pursue options related to broken promises and possible discrimination in academic library management job search? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:15 PM PST - 1 comment

Lawsuit against medical practitioners, detriment to medical career?

Would having been involved in a malpractice/wrongful death settlement, involving a hospital, several doctors, and several nurses, somehow affect my chances at medical school admission, licensing and so on? I'm considering spending several years taking bridge classes, studying like crazy for MCAT, volunteering, etc. Should I not even bother having the "strike"/"red flag" etc (if that's even a thing) of having sued doctors? (I'm thinking of this somewhat like bar admission, where criminal history, for example, can prevent you from practicing law). Even if not professionally inhibiting, would I be a pariah among colleagues? What happens when doctors sue other doctors, if they even do? SHOULD I even consider a medical profession having been in a position where I felt their actions merited legal action? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:59 PM PST - 0 comments

Zero Budget Birthday Ideas Under Dismal Circumstances

I have no money to celebrate my late thirties birthday this year and my life circumstances are dismal. How could I make my birthday enjoyable despite everything instead of weeping through the day? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:59 PM PST - 6 comments

Other city guides like Monocle, Wallpaper, or Louis Vuitton?

Other city guides like Monocle, Wallpaper, or Louis Vuitton? [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 10:07 PM PST - 1 comment

How to explain $63 ATM withdrawal from Chase acct?

This morning I noticed that an unexpected $65.50 had been debited from my Chase account last night, specifically, $63 ATM withdrawal and $2.50 penalty for using a non-Chase ATM and I discovered that my debit card is missing. I called Chase immediately and they are investigating the fraudulent use. Unfortunately, they couldn't (yet) give me any info re the ATM. I didn't think to ask for a possible explanation re the odd amount, so I'm hoping you all might have some ideas. [more inside]
posted by she's not there at 9:33 PM PST - 7 comments

What is the most effective way to spread a secret?

A secret question under the fold... [more inside]
posted by Gosha_Dog at 9:20 PM PST - 6 comments

Crazy for Oreos (commercial)

The song in the new Oreo commercial with the father and daughter in the back of truck looking up at Big and Little Dipper will not leave my head. Please, please help me identify this song before I turn into the Cookie Monster!
posted by pamspanda at 9:05 PM PST - 1 comment

Help regain my music and my (digital) life

Have you combined two iTunes Music Libraries, one of them with the old folder structure, into one library on an external USB? Please share your workflow and help make my digital world bloom again. [more inside]
posted by R2WeTwo at 8:10 PM PST - 0 comments

איפה הבוטנים

I acquired a taste for a particular style of peanuts in Israel, and I don't know of any source for them in the U.S. Are they available around here? If not, is there a way I can replicate them? [more inside]
posted by Shmuel510 at 7:02 PM PST - 2 comments

(How) can we get to St Lawrence market Sunday during Toronto Marathon?

We were planning a trip to St. Lawrence market tomorrow morning (Sunday Oct 22) for a friends' birthday, with out-of-town guests. But I just realized tomorrow is the Toronto Marathon, and it looks like there are some crazy road closures around there. Can we do this? [more inside]
posted by ManInSuit at 6:47 PM PST - 2 comments

Dumbphone without internet but with keyboard?

Unfettered internet access on my phone makes me distracted, but I still want to stay in contact for calls and texts. Cheap phones also vary wildly. Can you recommend a cheap phone which does not permit much useful internet access or apps, but still (unlike the old Nokia handsets, for instance) has a keyboard for ease of texting?
posted by solarion at 6:00 PM PST - 5 comments

Best strategy for unreasonable medical charge (from insurance)

My 3-year old son had a routine tonsillectomy. It went as planned, and he was out half an hour before we expected. Ahead of time I tried to get the insurance company (ACA plan) to say something about what the cost might be and which of their in network providers we should use. They would provide no information, but suggested we check fairhealthconsumer.org for ballpark figures. That ballpark was $2300. After the procedure, they're charging us $4985, which conveniently happens to be $15 less than the deductible. There's no reason for the charge to be higher than any standard arrangement. I feel screwed and have filed a complaint with the state department of insurance, but my question is in the meantime, should I pay the hospital bill? There's a 10% quick payment discount, which is $500 in this case, so that's worth something, and I don't really anticipate winning much with my complaint. Oh, yeah. I'm in the United States of America. :) [more inside]
posted by windowbr8r at 5:40 PM PST - 19 comments

Gardening: preparing now for next Spring

I bought a house this summer and this was included. It is a 15' by 30' garden with sprinklers on each end. I'm looking for advice about preparing for next year AND suggestions about what to plant. [more inside]
posted by beccaj at 4:39 PM PST - 11 comments

Differences between iPhone 6s Plus and iPhone SE in the car

I used to use an iPhone 6s Plus in my Camry, connected by Bluetooth, and everything worked great. Then I sold my 6s Plus and bought an iPhone SE and things do not work as well, and I'd like to know if it is just a difference in the phones. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 3:45 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me bring my WALL-E back to life

I have an Ultimate WALL-E remote controlled robot [the big one now no longer made and I checked with the maker and no help there] and his rechargeable battery is long dead. Finding a suitable new one is proving a challenge. He needs correct size 7.2V Ni-MH battery pack and locating a vendor is not so easy. Anyone have a source for this?
posted by Freedomboy at 3:43 PM PST - 6 comments

Intermittent weaker water pressure in shower

We had an awesome shower setup with great water pressure, but for 4-5 months we have been experiencing intermittent lower pressure that ruins the deal. There isn't a noticeable rhyme or reason to when it happens, and it's only the shower that has this problem. [more inside]
posted by raspberrE at 3:33 PM PST - 6 comments

Looking for suggestions to create a Product Owner/Mgr position at work

I'm looking for suggestions include in a proposal to create a Product Owner/Manager position at work. [more inside]
posted by badger11 at 3:15 PM PST - 1 comment

Tight layover for elderly parents in Houston - assistance?

My elderly parents have a tight layover coming up between flights on United in Houston. I expect they will have to change terminals (second flight is international). They both walk okay but Mom in particular is not speedy. United's page on senior/disabled assistance is vague. Does anybody have experience with requesting golf cart type and/or wheelchair assistance a) from United b) at IAH c) both? The layover is 1:20, I'm thinking fine if the first flight is on time and not so fine if it isn't.
posted by HaveYouTriedRebooting at 1:23 PM PST - 8 comments

Fancy Fall Food

I'm having a dinner party for about 10 gals on a nice Fall evening, in my backyard. (If the weather permits.) Think fire pits, mulled wine, apple cider with rum, cozy blankets, and maybe roasted marshmallows. What fancy food should I cook? [more inside]
posted by functionequalsform at 11:09 AM PST - 29 comments

Best digital camera under $250

I don't have time to research like I typically would, so here I am asking for your recommendations. I don't need to have it today, but I do need to decide on and order a digital camera today. What would you recommend? items of importance: good quality photos for printing/framing, good zoom, captures pictures quickly (kids, animals), decent low light pictures, under $250. Size/brand of camera doesn't matter to me. Thanks!
posted by retrofitted at 10:10 AM PST - 6 comments

What is it that I do again?

I work at a very small company just hitting a major growth spurt, and while I have a Director title, I am working at the same level as (and as much as) our VP and C-level folks. I'm about to ask for a raise and title increase to VP, but given the range of what I cover I am at a loss for VP of what? Please help me figure it out. [more inside]
posted by polymath at 9:32 AM PST - 9 comments

I would like to walk barefoot on my patio

Our small patio is mostly covered in a thick layer of broken Cotswold stone. Emphasis on 'broken' as opposed to 'tumbled'. The stones are about 2cm diameter. It's pretty attractive but not at all pleasant to walk on with bare feet. I would like to walk on it with bare feet. What's the cheapest way to accomplish this without uglying up the whole thing? [more inside]
posted by Acheman at 8:51 AM PST - 9 comments

New Cedar Fence - Seal/Stain or Not?

I just (on Thursday) had a beautiful cedar privacy fence installed around my deck between the house and detached garage. The work was done by a contractor who I trust - they have done multiple projects at my house of very excellent quality. [more inside]
posted by Preserver at 8:28 AM PST - 5 comments

Alternate history game of Lord of the Rings?

A few years ago I thought I read about a game -- not sure if it was a video game or a board game-- set in an alternate version of Tolkien's legendarium in which Frodo descends into the Mines of Moria with the Ring but never emerges again; the game proceeds with the forces of the Free People having to fight off Sauron without the Ring in their back pocket. Does anyone know the title? [more inside]
posted by gerryblog at 8:23 AM PST - 4 comments

Aching to pupate

What should I do with this swallowtail chrysalis to increase the chances of the butterfly surviving? [more inside]
posted by lollymccatburglar at 6:50 AM PST - 3 comments

Where can I learn wrestling as a female adult beginner?

I want wrestling that doesn’t involve joint locks or choking, which seems to rule our MMA places. I’ve enjoyed playing rugby, especially the tackling, and I’d like a sport that’s just the knocking people down part. I have no experience wrestling and want to learn, in a place with other newbie adults (including other women). [more inside]
posted by triscuit at 6:10 AM PST - 11 comments

Chicago Therapists Who ACTUALLY Specialize in Trauma

I live in Chicago, and need recommendations for good therapists who actually have their specialty in trauma, as opposed to just using it as a keyword. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:21 AM PST - 4 comments

How can I best support my newly disabled dad?

My dad who is dealing with new & severe physical limitations - and I'm trying to understand what that must be like and figure out how to support him best. What advice do you have? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:21 AM PST - 6 comments

My laptop has gone crazy! Can you help?

My laptop (2014 Lenovo Ideapad) has started acting crazy, and Googling isn't getting me any solutions. What could be happening, and what can I do to fix it?! [more inside]
posted by Ursula Hitler at 2:01 AM PST - 8 comments

October 20

I need to leave my marriage. Just not yet.

I can’t see myself leaving this marriage for another 4-5 years for financial and parenting reasons. So how do I prepare for it, and live through it now? (Wall of text to follow) [more inside]
posted by thepuppetisasock at 11:30 PM PST - 20 comments

Poison Ivy! How can I fight it with stuff I find in my kitchen?

Last weekend I was in upstate NY and rolling around in leaves and playing with dogs etc. Now I have what appears to be poison ivy. Theres a big patch on my left hip and then little random dots elsewhere on both thighs. What to do? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 5:53 PM PST - 21 comments

Can we fire our realtor? (Buyer not under contract)

Can we fire our realtor? This is surprisingly hard to Google! We can, right? We're buyers who aren't under contract. Feel free to weigh in on if we should as well. [more inside]
posted by slidell at 5:12 PM PST - 25 comments

Bookfilter: Vietnamese Women's Stories during US occupation

Can you help me find this book? [more inside]
posted by mutt.cyberspace at 5:00 PM PST - 1 comment

Our friend is displaying symptoms of ill health but refuses to admit it.

Our friend is having dizzy spells with vomiting, and occasionally gets extremely agitated like he's having a tantrum when things don't go his way. He's nearly sixty, is the sole parent of a teenage daughter (mother deceased) and he refuses to acknowledge issues about health, such as regular skin cancer checks etc. Medical care is high quality and free in our country but he refuses to admit there may be something amiss. How do we get him to see a doctor about his symptoms? [more inside]
posted by Thella at 4:06 PM PST - 13 comments

crouton petter to the max

I have to get rid of a lot of my worldly possessions, and it is making me sad. [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 3:16 PM PST - 26 comments

Why are these states against Israel boycotts?

There are currently headlines about Texas hurricane relief requiring recipients to declare they are not boycotting Israel. [more inside]
posted by honey badger at 2:33 PM PST - 13 comments

A quick cheap Halloween costume for a slightly overweight bald man

My boyfriend needs a Halloween costume for tomorrow night and we're looking for something casual and inexpensive. [more inside]
posted by raccoon409 at 2:14 PM PST - 14 comments

Explain dealing with periods to me like I haven't had one in five years

It's time for my IUD removal and I'm not sure if I want it replaced. While I decide, I'm going birth control free -- but I haven't had a period in five years and I feel like I've forgotten everything. Please give me your tips and tricks for dealing with the crimson tide. [more inside]
posted by pumpkinlatte at 2:11 PM PST - 35 comments

Is there a dark side to Habitat for Humanity

Religious beliefs aside, I have heard from several cities that Habitat for Humanity only works when people have jobs and can make payments on their newly renovated houses... Does anyone have experience with the "big picture" when it comes to Habitat? btw, not looking for an axe to grind, just wanted to see if there were downsides.
posted by Mr. Metaphor at 1:54 PM PST - 17 comments

Ethics of web tracking

Is it acceptable for a company to track activity on its web site like this? [more inside]
posted by LonnieK at 1:38 PM PST - 9 comments

48 hours in Redmond

I'm going to be spending a week or so in Redmond, WA for work in early December. Mostly I'll be working but I'll have about 2 days when I get there to do as I will. I've never been to the Seattle area before. What should I do, and what should I know about visiting? [more inside]
posted by parm at 12:42 PM PST - 7 comments

Locked room mysteries set on a ship

I suddenly have the desire to read a locked-room mystery set on a ship. (The murder must take place on the ship, no smuggling a corpse aboard.) Suggest to me any of these you have read and enjoyed, except the Mary Russell one, as I gave up on that series. [more inside]
posted by jeather at 11:10 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me wake up the way I want!

Android phone + alarm = wake me up. Sounds simple, right? Hang on a sec. I have a use case I'm not able to solve for. [more inside]
posted by pdb at 11:04 AM PST - 7 comments

Dog-Friendly San Antonio

MrGood and I are visiting his mother and her husband in a few weeks. We are thinking about taking our four-month-old pit mix. Please tell me about dog-friendly things to do and places to go! Restaurants and coffee shops with dog-friendly patios, parks, outdoor shopping areas, etc. MIL lives in the Alamo Heights area, but we will have a car.
posted by chaoticgood at 10:21 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me get the most from my nutritionist

Have you used a nutritionist/dietitian to deal with excess weight and/or emotional eating? Can you share your experience and any tips on how I can get the most from my appointments? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:20 AM PST - 5 comments

Letters of Recommendation for SLP Grad School

Grad school applications almost universally require Letters of Recommendation from professors, but I don't think I stand out enough to merit any... what should I do? [more inside]
posted by obtuser at 9:44 AM PST - 12 comments

Call my maybe? Use iPad as my only phone?

I want to carry just one device. I want to be able to phone (voice/text) to any other phone (so, not just iMessages or Google Hangouts). Most importantly I want the tablet to have a callable phone number. I'm thinking an iPad mini 4 cellular plus a wireless bone conduction headset, but perhaps there's a better approach? Is there a VOIP service that I can port my current number to, and then answer calls to that number on my iPad? Do mobile hotspots have callable phone numbers? Is this a terrible idea?
posted by Jesse the K at 9:08 AM PST - 6 comments

Why is it tough for me to make male friends?

Totally good at making women friends, but rarely am able at making male friends. What’s up with me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:48 AM PST - 31 comments

Ring Ring

I would like to buy an unlocked Android phone to use with cricket for around $250 that meets my requirements. Also, I know nothing about Chinese phones. Please help. [more inside]
posted by FirstMateKate at 8:44 AM PST - 8 comments

Emergency Mixtape: Quitting a Shitty Job Edition

My spouse (MeFi's own Comrade Doll) is about to quit a truly shitty job today. I want to make a "Quitting My Terrible Job" mixtape for her, STAT. I can think of a few right off the bat: "Take This Job and Shove It" by Johnny Paycheck and "Slack Motherfucker" by Superchunk. Give me some more! I need at least ten by say... 5 pm Eastern.
posted by DirtyOldTown at 8:20 AM PST - 55 comments

What are the restrictions on registered company names?

Is it possible to register a company called "."? [more inside]
posted by KMH at 8:20 AM PST - 10 comments

Mother suspects someone is stealing stepfather's feeding formula

Mother suspects someone is stealing stepfather's feeding formula [more inside]
posted by blackmage at 7:50 AM PST - 17 comments

Finding a specialty immigration lawyer?

I need to find an immigration lawyer in Seattle who deals with naturalization of a long-term permanent resident who has a criminal record. My attempts to find one using the group legal offering from my employer haven't been successful; I've not had anyone return my e-mails. Does anyone on the green have suggestions for other resources (or maybe a recommendation) I can try? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:23 AM PST - 3 comments

Bathroom designs

I'm replacing my bathroom. It's small, space, money and workable time are quite tight. If you had the opportunity what clever features would you design in to your bathroom. [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 6:57 AM PST - 18 comments


This is a call for cat gifs, but very specific cat gifs. I need cat gifs where the cat is back on its hind legs and pawing at the air, but its paws are not in sync. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 6:19 AM PST - 9 comments

Do you have any experience with lift chairs for the elderly?

They're quite expensive, and my mother-in-law is satisfied with the comfort of the relatively new, non-lifting recliner that she already owns. She just can't stand up easily, so I'm looking into retrofitting the recliner. Is this - Enhansit (FB link) - a good solution? [more inside]
posted by sixpack at 5:51 AM PST - 3 comments

Is India for me?

Should I go or should I stay? My company offered me the opportunity to go on a business trip to India (Bengaluru) next year. The business stuff would take one week and I can then stay for another week or two on my own. The decision whether I'm going there or not is absolutely up to me. I have doubts. [more inside]
posted by jfricke at 4:45 AM PST - 23 comments

How much might I spend on a tattoo in Oslo? Where should I go?

How much might I spend on a tattoo in Oslo? Where should I go? [more inside]
posted by chudmonkey at 4:21 AM PST - 1 comment

Have you known someone who has successfully managed ASPD?

I just found out my boyfriend of a year has antisocial personality disorder, which to be honest, I find terrifying. Does anyone have stories of long-term relationships with someone with the disorder (not necessarily romantic - friends and family members count too) that did not end poorly? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:11 AM PST - 15 comments

Please recommend a good house door alarm with on/off button?

My neighbor just had an attempted break-in last night. He woke up and called the police. I didn't hear anything, and apparently our street got quite loud, with sirens and an ambulance and yelling. This makes me worry that I might sleep through someone trying to break into my own house, and I live alone and would not like to wake up to an armed someone in my bedroom. Is there a door alarm that I can buy that I can manually turn on at night and off in the day? Or another option? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:11 AM PST - 8 comments

The opposite of presenteeism is...absenteeism?

I've been sick and out of work for four days, and I'm probably going to be out for a couple more. The guilt and anxiety I'm feeling about this is...surprisingly overwhelming, and I feel like my sense of what's reasonable may be broken. (But how broken?) Help me think about this rationally. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:11 AM PST - 25 comments

Who will protest Trump during Japan visit

Trump is coming to Japan from November 5 to 7, and I'd like to peacefully protest him with a sign. I can't find an event though, and I'm nervous about being alone. [more inside]
posted by sacchan at 2:27 AM PST - 3 comments

October 19

Looking for Expert Radiologist to Hire for MRI Analysis

So I am looking to hire an expert radiologist who specializes in brain and spine - or - 2 radiologists with expertise respectively in those 2 fields. Where can this be done ONLINE or in Israel? TIA
posted by watercarrier at 9:53 PM PST - 5 comments

Examples of rural tech communes?

Are there any contemporary examples of communes or intentional communities that are tech-centric -- that is, that sustain themselves economically through some clever use of computers? [more inside]
posted by Karmacane at 8:30 PM PST - 5 comments

Autumnal brunch beverage ideas needed

What to drink with savory souffle at a sci-fi book club brunch? [more inside]
posted by esoterrica at 6:38 PM PST - 18 comments

Is this pin frightening?

So this might be a stretch but I bought the "Zag on em" pin shown here. It basically looks like a snake 🐍 emoji with the words "Zag on em". I put it on my bag but then I was wondering if people would see that and think I'm some kind of Gadsden flag MAGA creep. Should I not have it on my bag? I don't want to make people feel unsafe when I'm commuting. Am I imagining a connection that most people aren't going to make? [more inside]
posted by bleep at 5:47 PM PST - 13 comments

Actual best way to clean e.g. extensive tile floors, stone showers, etc?

I do not have the time or spoons for cleaning, and as of a couple of weeks ago, I can't physically do certain things for a while due to a herniated disc. Google searches are stupid for this: a few months back I got pages of results insisting that baking soda and vinegar was the most effective way to clean an oven. It failed miserably, and I ended up going the chemical burns route for actual effectiveness. Please err on the side of chemical burns.* Even seconds saved counts for a lot right now. [more inside]
posted by moira at 5:28 PM PST - 21 comments

Plain white (or undyed) family pajamas... do they exist?

My wife is trying to make costumes for Halloween and wants to find some cheap family pajama sets to embellish. The problem is there doesn't seem to be anywhere that sells simple cotton pajamas without patterns or frills. At best we have found heavy (and pricey) fleece pajamas and plain long johns (which are too thin and underwear-ish). Does something like this exist?
posted by lubujackson at 5:19 PM PST - 7 comments

What watch next

In keeping with my previous theme of caveman phrasing... I have run out of new comedies to fall in love with. Help me find more? [more inside]
posted by schadenfrau at 5:03 PM PST - 41 comments

How to create and publish an elementary school literary magazine?

Hi, I am helping to start a literary magazine at my children's elementary school. The kids will (ideally) be very involved in designing and editing it. What software/sites/apps/etc. should we consider using to create and publish it? More inside... [more inside]
posted by mandlebrotz at 4:54 PM PST - 2 comments

I'm not salty enough

I have postural orthostatic tachycardia syndrome and have been prescribed salt pills by my doctor. I feel sick every time I take them. Help? [more inside]
posted by brook horse at 4:33 PM PST - 14 comments

Help me find one jacket to rule them all!

Now that temperatures are dipping, I need a new jacket/coat. Help me find one (or two) that I can wear in the Bay Area (walking around and bike commuting) and in DC in January. Aesthetic - boring classic. Caveats - must be vegan, should be good for rain. [more inside]
posted by kendrak at 2:19 PM PST - 4 comments

Geek toys for a 7year old girl

It turns out I'm the only geek in the life of a 7 year old girl, which means I'm responsible for nurturing the geeky side of her. Help me find a birthday present for her? [more inside]
posted by sodium lights the horizon at 2:15 PM PST - 20 comments

In search of Scotland mug

My sister used to own this mug and has lost it. I'd like to get her a new one for Christmas, but can't find it anywhere on the web. I think she bought it in Edinburgh, Scotland. Can you help me find it online? Thanks!
posted by amf at 2:09 PM PST - 4 comments

Do I need to ask for any follow-up after surgery?

I had laparascopic gallbladder surgery on Monday at a small private hospital in England, subcontracted by the NHS. When I came to after general anaesthesia, I was told that my pulse had dropped to 28bpm during the surgery and I'd had to have an injection to speed it back up. The anaesthetist actually said to me that "it was scary!" During recovery my pulse dropped again to 31 and was up and down over about 24 hours before stabilising at my normal RHR of about 50bpm (I'm not an athlete but have always had a slow heart rate). [more inside]
posted by hazyjane at 1:35 PM PST - 5 comments

Lots of women wear head coverings - can I?

I am a white, non-religious woman in the US. Is it unprofessional or culturally appropriative for me to cover my hair with a scarf every day? [more inside]
posted by Seven Windows at 1:26 PM PST - 27 comments

Is an organizer appropriate for this?

I’m dealing with the aftermath of a sexual assault. It turns out that being assaulted is a lot of work; I’ve got all sorts of things I need to keep track of, and other parts of my life aren’t being attended to (normal things like dealing with my budget, and accomplishing bureaucratic tasks related to things like health insurance, savings accounts, etc.). Could an organizer help me get my affairs in order? I guess I’m looking for someone who can help me for an afternoon or two to deal with all these things that feel like I can’t quite manage on my own.
posted by superswell at 1:03 PM PST - 10 comments

Clueless about how to ask questions to my SO about his work

I realized yesterday night I don't really know what my SO does and it makes me utterly sad and guilty. I'm crying writing this. [more inside]
posted by Ifite at 10:46 AM PST - 37 comments

Pressure relief valve drainage injuries

Has anyone ever been injured by a hot water heater's pressure relief valve draining inside a house? Apparently it is now code that it drain outside the dwelling, in order to prevent burns to the inhabitants, but I want to find out if anyone has ever had this happen to them. [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 10:33 AM PST - 6 comments

Jung & Individuation

What book do you recommend for learning about Jung and his ideas about individuation? [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 10:17 AM PST - 1 comment

East Bay/Bay Area temple or church open late in the evenings?

Do people know of any temples, churches, or spaces of worship in the Bay Area (preferably the East Bay, but will consider San Francisco) that are open later in the evenings, around 8-9pm? [more inside]
posted by zestful at 10:05 AM PST - 3 comments

How do I let my friend know that I don’t want to go to Europe with her?

I’m facing a bit of a conundrum. About a month ago, I told my friend that I would like to go to Europe with her this summer. But after I did that, I started thinking about that choice. My friend has a bit of a drinking problem and can get pretty wild and out of hand. I now realize that going with her would be an unwise choice, and I wouldn’t feel all that safe – I feel like it would increase the chance that we may get in trouble, let alone putting a bit of responsibility on me to monitor her. I mentioned this to my boyfriend, and that I’d rather go with him – he and I both feel like this would be the safer choice. [more inside]
posted by ggp88 at 10:03 AM PST - 20 comments

How do I diplomatically resolve a possible dispute in my book club?

I run a book club through my church, and I am foreseeing some drama on the horizon. What do I do? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by zeusianfog at 9:47 AM PST - 7 comments

Keeping the entire vial of superglue from hardening (in the vial)

So I just went to superglue a butt cap back onto the bottom of the handle of a tennis racket, but the entire bottle of glue (which I bought about a month ago and used only once) has hardened in situ. Now here's the thing--this is nothing new. In fact I'm pretty sure this has happened every time I've bought superglue. Again, the sequence goes: new bottle, few drops, put away, weeks pass, need some SG, all the SG has hardened fuck now I have to buy more. I'm trapped in self-destructive pattern here, amigos. Anyone have any ideas?
posted by BadgerDoctor at 9:45 AM PST - 17 comments

Fiancé resents having to write a letter (vows)in advance of our wedding.

My fiancé and I aren't very traditional, but we are deeply in love and devoted to one another and have a good relationship all around. Marriage wasn't really on our minds until this summer when we decided to marry to legalise his emigration to my home country so we could continue to be together. However, I also made it clear to him that even if we were doing this for the visa, that the marriage was important to me, and I asked him one night that he write me a letter about what our impending marriage means to him. I guess I was asking for vows. [more inside]
posted by jacobnayar at 9:19 AM PST - 42 comments

Good behavioral interview training?

Along with a few others at my company, I'm looking for behavioral interview training and having trouble finding it. We are hoping to find something in-person so that we can get actual practice and feedback, rather than just explanations. Any recommendations, especially if you've been through the training and found it useful? [more inside]
posted by greenmagnet at 8:23 AM PST - 3 comments

Every Episode of... Playing at the Same Time

How do create a video that is synchronized simultaneous playback four other videos? [more inside]
posted by zinon at 8:21 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me remember the movie this line comes from

You all always know right away the movie I'm trying to remember, but this time it's a tough one. The line: "Screw you." Yep, that's it. More inside. [more inside]
posted by Fukiyama at 8:10 AM PST - 17 comments

What are the most common phrases you type on your smart phone?

I would like to collect a sampling of phrases people type frequently on their smart phones. Please contribute yours. [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 7:58 AM PST - 67 comments

Questions on the theory of constructed emotions

I recently listened to an audiobook of Lisa Barrett's book, How Emotions Are Made. The writing was compelling and the position well argued, but as a lay person, I find myself concerned as I am unable to really follow the research in depth. [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 7:51 AM PST - 2 comments

Please pick my petite professional pannier/pack!

I'm looking for a combination backpack/pannier that acts and looks like a normal commuter backpack to take to work but I'm having trouble sorting through the options. Can you recommend one? [more inside]
posted by mosst at 7:17 AM PST - 10 comments

Essay by daughter about immigrant father getting sick in factory?

I think I originally came across it via metafilter. I believe the family was from Southeast Asia, now in North America (California, maybe?). It is about the immigrant experience, as well as the father getting inadequate protection from hazardous airborne materials at work. I have searched extensively with no luck. If you have this bookmarked or favorited, I would appreciate the link. Thanks.
posted by neutralmojo at 7:16 AM PST - 1 comment

How do I detoxify my marriage?

We have had a bad couple of years, both feel hopeless, and I want to give up. Partner doesn't. How do we climb out of the negative cycle to see if the marriage is salvageable? [more inside]
posted by What a Joke at 7:12 AM PST - 42 comments

iPhone reminder to do PT exercises?

I have to do a bunch of physical therapy exercises. Is there a good iPhone app to remind me to do them? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 7:09 AM PST - 4 comments

Looking for a database app

I don't think I have the right vocabulary to decribe this, but I'd like to find a app or website that's pleasant to use and that lets me creates flexible libraries of data of different sorts. To function a bit like memory out of my brain, and to store information about my various fields of engagement, add comments, link data up, etc. [more inside]
posted by miaow at 6:31 AM PST - 10 comments

What the heck are digital assistants good for?

I like the idea of Google Assistant, Alexa, etc. Having these things around feels like the future. But for the life of me I can't think of a single way in which these make my life easier. What are some useful ways you've put our new artificial servants to use? [more inside]
posted by FakeFreyja at 6:28 AM PST - 27 comments

Computer Editing Interface from Blade Runner 2049

Is anyone aware of a wireless editing tool like the one from the recent Blade Runner? It was like a tracking wheel that was held in the operator's hands... Thanks!
posted by Mr. Metaphor at 6:22 AM PST - 5 comments

How do I gracefully decline an internal job offer?

I was invited to apply for a position within the company I currently work for that I indicated I was interested in, and was told in a roundabout way that the job is mine if I want it. I've decided I'm better off staying where I am right now. How do I gracefully decline? [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 6:06 AM PST - 6 comments

What should I do about my relationship?

I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months. We are both in our early thirties. I have had a lot of doubts since the beginning of our relationship. There are aspects about him that I really like. He is very passionate with me. He is very knowledgeable about music, literature, philosophy. I like men who are easy-going, knowledgeable, ‘alternative’ and a bit rebel. He is all of that. The problem is that he does drugs. [more inside]
posted by Fromthesouth at 4:52 AM PST - 46 comments

Help me organize all of the images

I have thousands of digital photos, and I'm very unorganized. So pictures are in various folders, in various cloud services, etc. I'm sure there are many duplicates, even on my laptop alone. Is there software available (for pc) that helps me organize my pictures, which also points out and helps me deal with duplicate images?
posted by Ms. Next at 2:12 AM PST - 1 comment

Give me your Harriet Vanes!

I've been re-reading my dogeared Dorothy L Sayers books, specifically the ones featuring Harriet Vane. And I want more like that. [more inside]
posted by altolinguistic at 1:40 AM PST - 16 comments

October 18

Headphone Filter: Over-Ear, Closed, Good Isolation & Noise Cancelling

Looking for closed-back, over-ear headphones that have a good passive noise isolation seal, and good active noice cancelling to help attenuate what gets past the seal. Bonus points for iPhone mic and remote. More points still for Bluetooth, since phone manufacturers seem to be dropping the headphone jack left and right. More details inside... [more inside]
posted by D.Billy at 10:00 PM PST - 15 comments

IoT Router

We are beginning a new home remodel. This will result in installation of a lot of IoT things. Our router is an OLD Mac Airport Extreme from the Cretaceous. It only does 802.11 a, b, and 5GHz bands. [more inside]
posted by BrooksCooper at 8:41 PM PST - 11 comments

Word processing on the go

I need suggestions on technology that will let me take notes quickly on the go. Writing by hand is too slow for my purposes, so I need something as portable as a journal that I can type on with a QWERTY keyboard. Netbook? Some other solution I'm not thinking of? [more inside]
posted by delight at 7:50 PM PST - 12 comments

Shopping for home insurance

It's easy to compare the price of home insurance, but how do you compare the quality —and whether the quality difference is worth the price. I'm thinking of both tangible specifics like deductibles and exclusions, and also less easy-to-pin-down qualities like customer service and how well they treat you when you need to use the insurance. Are there good lists of questions to ask on the phone, or good comparisons of providers available?
posted by spbmp at 5:35 PM PST - 8 comments

Universal Remotes - Upgrading a Harmony One

My Logitech Harmony One remote is wearing out (the buttons are failing) and I need to upgrade! I need to figure out the best upgrade path - if you have experience with or own Harmony products, or competing products, can you let me know what you'd suggest? [more inside]
posted by kalessin at 4:58 PM PST - 4 comments

how to deal with negative emotions while working through couple-issues

Partner & I have finally started to face up to issues that have been building for 10+ years, and it's all pretty raw. We're both seeing therapists individually, and a relationship counsellor together. But in between sessions, I need to be able to relate to my partner like a relatively normal human being, and right now I don't know how to do that. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:18 PM PST - 10 comments

USA is to slavery as Germany is to Holocaust

Do all countries have an iconic or original sin? [more inside]
posted by bq at 2:49 PM PST - 23 comments

Configure Outlook calendar with internal vs. external colors/categories?

I color code my Outlook calendar using categories to keep track of multiple projects I manage at work. I have a fully established personal color-coding system, but the admins have just mandated that we switch over to their system. Is there anyway to configure it so that I preserve my color-coded categories in my view, but everyone else sees a different set of colors when they look at my calendar? [more inside]
posted by crazy with stars at 2:27 PM PST - 8 comments

A comic about gaming culture's slope into misogynistic nonsense?

Asking the hivemind for a friend who can remember seeing this comic but can't seem to find it after some searching around. Their description: "It was a shitty sketch of a stick figure bending over to look down the pit. Like gamer culture>edgelord>MRA>>>white supremacy."
posted by Gymnopedist at 2:13 PM PST - 2 comments

Can I Eat This: Soup avec Drainplug

Good news: Homemade veggie stock is delicious. Also, I just found my drain stopper that's been missing for a month. Bad news: Today I boiled a pot full of frozen veggie scraps from the last month. Unfortunately, unbeknownst to me, this bag of scraps also contained this black plastic InSinkErator drain plug. After 45 minutes of boiling, the drain plug does not appear malformed/melted in any way. Can I eat my delicious soup stock or will it kill me?
posted by HeroZero at 2:00 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me plan the trip of a lifetime...at the last minute.

I'm moving to Santa Barbara, CA from Richmond, VA in two weeks. My amazing friend is taking a couple of weeks off work to drive out with me in my little VW Jetta. Help us plan an epic road/camping/hiking trip...at the last minute. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by sparringnarwhal at 12:40 PM PST - 16 comments

Neighbor's tree on utilities- no one cares

Our neighbor has a huge cedar tree right next to the property line. This tree has been topped in the past, is rotten inside, and subsequently has a heavy broken branch being held up by the telephone line. I can't get anyone to take action- what can I do to get this cleared up? [more inside]
posted by oneirodynia at 12:39 PM PST - 21 comments

Is there a term for unsophisticated verbs in writing?

I'm trying to figure out how to explain why the usage of particular verbs is weak. [more inside]
posted by annabellee at 12:24 PM PST - 19 comments

Ruth Bader Ginsburg Pun Costume Ideas ?

We (a bunch of us) are dressing up as a swarm of punny variations on Ruth Bader Ginsburg. Our ideas so far: Ruth Vader Ginsburg. Babe Ruth Bader Ginsburg. Ruth Badger Ginsburg. Ruth Masterbader Ginsburg. Ruth Bader Ginsburger and Fries. Give me more. Thanks
posted by Grandysaur at 11:44 AM PST - 83 comments

How much do you chew before swallowing?

I've realized I don't chew very much and actually enjoy the feeling of little food chunks going down my gullet. Apparently, soft foods should be chewed 5-10 times and tougher foods (meat, raw veggies) should be chewed up to 30 times! I probably chew most foods 5 times max. My tummy and bowels are fine, I'm not gassy/belchy, and my teeth are fine, so this seems to work for me. Does anyone else do this, or go to the other extreme and chew, say, 50 times before swallowing?
posted by stillmoving at 11:43 AM PST - 20 comments

Dealing with nausea on a flight

I have been experiencing nausea since starting new medication last week. Tomorrow, I have to take a flight (a few hours in the air) and am dreading it, since I already get motion sickness on flights and other transportation. Any tips for coping? [more inside]
posted by cat potato at 11:33 AM PST - 22 comments

What to do with old math textbooks?

My father in law is a retired math professor, and has a number of math textbooks he is trying to get rid of. He is looking for somewhere to donate them "where they'll be more useful than just recycling them." Is there anything he can do with them/anywhere he can donate them? [more inside]
posted by quaking fajita at 11:26 AM PST - 11 comments

Need to scan photos that are IN an album (and want them to stay there!)

I put hundreds of photos in a real-life album and I saved them all digitally but Life happened and my scans are now all gone. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 11:09 AM PST - 7 comments

Shortwave Radio Blues

Is my new shortwave radio defective or I am doing something wrong? [more inside]
posted by Mid at 10:55 AM PST - 9 comments

How now, soft towel?

How to have soft bath towels? [more inside]
posted by komara at 10:52 AM PST - 15 comments

Wavy-Curly-Fine-Thin Hair Help

My hair is very baby fine, and as thin as you can imagine, but it has an enormous amount of body, which can pouf at the slightest damp breeze or flatten out something fierce if I dry it wrong. It is in generally good condition, highlighted blonde, and prone to dryness, frizz and breakage. It would be typed a mixture of 2's, with a little bit of 3a in the back. [more inside]
posted by Puppetry for Privacy at 9:19 AM PST - 9 comments

Can I get a business loan without personal credit?

I haven't used a credit card for years, and have no debt (I own my house). I am interested in buying real estate for a business that I can't just pay for in cash. I had a good credit score but it doesn't count any more. Will this make it impossible to get financing? Is there anything can I do short term? I would like to know what to expect before talking to banks.
posted by redorangeyellow at 9:03 AM PST - 5 comments

What is the best router for connection to husband's work computer?

We need a more powerful router---what brand is best? [more inside]
posted by ragtimepiano at 9:00 AM PST - 7 comments

Yet another 'why does my cat do this?' question

My indoor cat has recently started meowing at the door of my apartment in the early morning (around 5 or 6 AM). Why might he be doing this? [more inside]
posted by capricorn at 8:45 AM PST - 25 comments

What changed your life? (street arts outreach team edition)

If you are or have been involved in delivering arts (in very the broadest sense of the word) activities for young people in an outdoor/outreach type situation, what are the tips, tricks and even (portable) arts items that have changed your life? [more inside]
posted by Chairboy at 8:38 AM PST - 2 comments

REM and Ra Ra Riot - Please recommend songs with swimming

Hi, I am the new owner of a waterproof MP3 player and I want to make a mix of songs about swimming. Recommendations? [more inside]
posted by haunted_pomegranate at 8:05 AM PST - 58 comments

Evidence of life improvement

I have a 12 hour car ride back and forth this weekend and I would like some listening material. [more inside]
posted by tedious at 7:24 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me find cover songs in arabic

I'm looking to build a playlist of covers of english (or french) songs in arabic. I've gathered a few here, but I'm reaching my youtube-fu limits. I'm searching for songs that are sung in arabic, are covers of reasonably well known us, uk or fr bands, but I'm also eager to learn what search techniques I can apply to find more of those. Thanks for your help !
posted by motdiem2 at 7:24 AM PST - 2 comments

Realistic watercolor digital brushes for Krita

I was just going to buy KyleBrush.Com's watercolor brushes when he announces that he has sold everything to Adobe. What do I do now? Adobe CC subscription is not an option. [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 6:47 AM PST - 3 comments

What did I do to this Word document?

I was working on a simple Word document last night. I thought I hit command-P to print, but nothing happened--except that when I looked at the screen again, most of it was filled with Chinese characters. What? [more inside]
posted by Pater Aletheias at 5:09 AM PST - 12 comments

Can Facebook page owners see that I've visited?

I was visiting a Facebook page for a business and clicked a link on it to see some photos. Immediately after I did this, I got a Facebook message from the business saying they had sent me an attachment. I deleted the message, but was this an automated thing or will they have a record of sending me that message and knowing I was visiting their page? I have not liked, followed, or connected myself in any way to this business. I also didn't respond to the message. I can't find anything about this on Facebook but it's kind of squicked me out.
posted by Polychrome at 3:53 AM PST - 7 comments

The most dramatic Askme ever?

I'm a single woman, 35, recently out of an LTR. I made a mistake and slept with my (partnered) graduate program director. I am now pregnant after the morning after pill did not come through for me. Hope me out of this clusterfuck. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:24 AM PST - 57 comments

Should I out myself as bisexual in an academic job application?

I'm a bisexual cis white man applying for faculty jobs in some social science/humanities fields. There are two reasons why I'm considering mentioning my sexuality: first, that many jobs want me to talk about how and why I'm qualified to teach to diverse student populations, and second that I would be interested in teaching gender and sexuality courses. I would probably follow this advice on how to go about mentioning it, slipping in some "As a queer scholar, I ..." language along the way. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:00 AM PST - 8 comments

BM Question

Possibly TMI (but not graphic) question about bowel movements... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:00 AM PST - 6 comments

October 17

What is the best way to react when people point out that I am shy?

I am a shy reserved person, and whenever people feel the need to point this out I feel slightly offended and awkward. What is the best way to react? [more inside]
posted by iamsuper at 11:13 PM PST - 43 comments

Me too. Me too. Me too. Me too. Me too. ENOUGH.

Writing a screenplay about outing abusers- so timely! Here are some legal and logistical questions, essentially: How best could a group of people share a secret online document that lists known abusers? Setting is Ontario Canada, and the legal aspects should be extremely accurate. [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 10:11 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me find a phone case that lets me listen to music in my car!

I'm looking for a phone case for my iPhone 5S. The problem is, to listen to music in my car I need to plug it in, and the part of the cable that touches the base of the phone is large enough that it isn't compatible with many phone cases. Here's a picture of the phone plugged in, and a picture of what the current case covers. [more inside]
posted by shirobara at 9:15 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me identify this wood block art thing

We inherited a wood block carving from some well traveled relatives. Unfortunately, they don't remember anything about it as it has been sitting in a closet for many years. Help us figure out where it's from, and any other details about it. [more inside]
posted by emmatrotsky at 8:46 PM PST - 3 comments

The Strangers (2008 film) Alternate Reading

I recall stumbling upon an "alternate" reading of the 2008 horror, The Strangers and I can't find it. See inside for what I recall from the theory (spoilers too but geez, it was almost 10 yrs ago): [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill at 8:25 PM PST - 2 comments

Tuft and needle topper?

I purchased a tuft and needle matress. After a few weeks, it feels super supportive but too firm. Has anybody gotten a topper for this situation. [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 7:45 PM PST - 7 comments

The truth is out there, but where?

What are the better online UFO discussion boards/forums? [more inside]
posted by NoraCharles at 7:15 PM PST - 1 comment

Swimming for stress and displeasure

I'm terrible at the crawl stroke and can't seem to get better. Can my swim workout consist of the sidestroke and breaststroke instead (or anything but the crawl)? Details further on. [more inside]
posted by bellastarr at 7:14 PM PST - 22 comments

Creative sources for pencil-width, clear, rigid plastic tubes?

For a craft project, I need to source some straight, stiff, clear plastic tubes, ~18" long and about 3/8" in diameter. This feels to me like the sort of thing that would usually turn up as packaging for something else (candy? hardware?) Mefites, have you encountered any materials fitting this description recently? Where might I look?
posted by Bardolph at 6:55 PM PST - 8 comments

If we quote any Bible verses, the urns will be rollin'

It appears it will fall to me to say some words at the interment of my grandparents' ashes. Help me find a light-hearted, even irreverent poem or very short reading, nothing religious or overly emotional! [more inside]
posted by bluebelle at 6:44 PM PST - 5 comments

Israel Travel in 2008 vs. 2018

I'm traveling to Israel for the first time in ten years, and I'm interested in what the latest and greatest travel tech is, as well as what has changed in terms of Israel travel since 2008. Specific questions inside, plus background. [more inside]
posted by juniperesque at 6:41 PM PST - 7 comments

How can I paint or Dye a Piece of Bleached Coral?

I bought a large branch of coral ( 1 foot high, 1 foot wide. I'm planing on Mounting it on a base as a sculpture. I've attached a few photos. I'm thinking watered down Artist Acrylics. Or maybe Inks from Ink Wells. [more inside]
posted by Alt255 at 6:30 PM PST - 8 comments

Favorite depictions of internet/internet use in movies and TV?

What are your favorite depictions of the internet/internet use in movies and TV? [more inside]
posted by ChestnutIceCream at 6:16 PM PST - 22 comments

Sauna + safe kitty or fresh air + no kitty?

Rental house + indoor cat + summer = ??? In short, I'm soliciting ideas as to how we can throw open our sliding glass doors to prevent the house from turning into a sauna whilst not allowing our indoor-only cat outside. [more inside]
posted by Halo in reverse at 6:09 PM PST - 14 comments

Digital Private Geocaching App???

My wife is working on a project where she needs to associate video content with specific locations (within say 10-20 feet). She's having a hard time trying to find an app that will help with the project, and I'm hoping someone here knows of an app (or some other solution) that could work. Additional details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by noneuclidean at 6:05 PM PST - 7 comments

How Do I Create a (Free) Photo Website?

I need tips on how to organize the site, how to name it, where to host it...the works. [more inside]
posted by Archipelago at 5:16 PM PST - 5 comments

HBO via Amazon

Straight to TLDR: What should I watch on HBO while I'm paying for it on Amazon? [more inside]
posted by bquarters at 5:05 PM PST - 26 comments

Help me let him down gently...

An adult with autism recently befriended my kids at the swimming pool in our apartment complex. Now he wants to hang out all day, every day. I am extroverted, but my "alone" time is very important to me so I am going nuts. [more inside]
posted by tacodave at 5:01 PM PST - 11 comments

Writing classes, groups, and workshops in LA -- where to find them?

What are the best places in LA for a writer to hone their craft? I'm a new writer and would like to learn more about how to do it. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by miltthetank at 4:40 PM PST - 4 comments

I have a mazda cx9 2010 and a small small question

Where is the Tire Pressure Sensor Monitoring button? [more inside]
posted by aetg at 3:42 PM PST - 7 comments

Last $60 in Philadelphia

You're staying in Queen Village in Philadelphia and you have to get to Kindred South Philly every day for a week. You have $60 total. How do you get around? Where do you get food? Is there a better place to stay? [more inside]
posted by moons in june at 3:25 PM PST - 20 comments

What are the best ways to help my mother improve her computer skills?

How can I best help my semi-retired mother bolster her Microsoft Office skills? The programs and tutorials that I have found so far at the library seem to be geared towards people who can barely click a mouse and the programs at community colleges seem geared towards tech-savvy students. I am looking for something in-between. What are some of the best methods to boost her proficiency from a 1.5/5 to a 3/5 or better? [more inside]
posted by beatThedealer at 3:14 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me brainstorm a new job title!

I'm in a creative organization that has both writing managers and editorial managers, and in my role, I actually do both of those things. I'm the only one, and I'd like a different title to reflect my unique responsibilities. Help me brainstorm one! [more inside]
posted by ferociouskitty at 2:51 PM PST - 8 comments

Buying HeartGuard without a prescription

I am trying to get a six month supply of Heart Guard to a person in Northern CA who has lost everything in the fires. I can easily find the meds but not a prescription. I was thinking of contacting the Humane Society in Sebastopol where she is staying to see if they can help. I am willing to pay for the meds, and if I have to, a Vet visit, but would like to skip that last part if possible. Any one have any other ideas?
posted by cairnoflore at 2:16 PM PST - 10 comments

Tell me about your bidet

We've decided to install an aftermarket bidet, but there are a lot of options (and price points) out there, so I turn to the wise hive mind for guidance. [more inside]
posted by dotgirl at 1:42 PM PST - 11 comments

Quitting a job immediately following maternity leave?

My wife is currently on maternity leave and is scheduled to return to work soon. She has accrued 12 days of vacation time. Together we've decided that she is ultimately going to be quitting to stay home and raise our child. We're having trouble figuring out how to navigate this and we're finding conflicting information online. [more inside]
posted by Proginoskes at 1:38 PM PST - 9 comments

Is my car eavesdropping?

On two separate occasions, I had conversations about items in the car. The next day, I saw ads for these items on Instagram. I am positive I didn't do a web search for these items. Is my car eavesdropping on me and talking to Instagram? Wondering if anyone else has experienced / heard about this. Possibly relevant information below. [more inside]
posted by beyond_pink at 1:13 PM PST - 26 comments

What does it take to raise a bilingual child?

What is the best way for a mostly monolingual parent to learn a second language and raise a bilingual child? Assume lots of motivation and a good amount of experience learning a second language. Anecdotes welcome. [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 12:59 PM PST - 17 comments

Give me your sadness

I want your sad music videos - I don't care about the lyrics, style, or melody, as long I feel pretty miserable at the end of it. [more inside]
posted by punchtothehead at 12:11 PM PST - 45 comments

Ads on Google?

All of a sudden, when I google anything, the top four entries are ads--Amazon and the like. Am I infected?
posted by Transl3y at 12:00 PM PST - 9 comments

You know a dopp bag? I need one of those. But bigger. And AMAZING

I'm going to be traveling for an extended period. Like many months. So my usual travel dopp bag of toiletries and medicines isn't going to cut it. What I need is something that fits in a decent sized checked luggage bag AND which fits a dozen different OTC pill bottles and the same larger toiletry bottles and implements. But in a way I can get to. I'm willing to go high tech (new from Japan) or old school (vintage case that used to do X but now can do this). So what are my options here?
posted by rileyray3000 at 11:15 AM PST - 16 comments

Name some reluctant heroes from movies

Emphasis on reluctant. Han Solo, for example. Katniss kinda fits the bill, but she drops the reluctance pretty early on I think. Who are your favorite reluctant heroes?
posted by malhouse at 10:13 AM PST - 41 comments

strategies for cheap eating

I've been unemployed for awhile so I've had to radically tighten my grocery budget. Since I was used to just buying whatever I felt like, I need to know how to be more responsible. I am not looking for recipes, I'm looking for general tips such as "buy toiletries from the dollar store, but produce at Aldi" or "download coupons from example.com." [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 10:05 AM PST - 62 comments

How do I discourage my annoying coworker from asking me to hang out?

I have a co-worker who really wants to socialize, but while I like her all right as a person, and we have some things in common, I find her incredibly difficult to work with. This makes me feel like I don’t want to hang out with her after work, which she is constantly trying to initiate. [more inside]
posted by TochterAusElysium at 9:50 AM PST - 19 comments

Easy to use, compact practice gear for keyboards and guitar

I want to practice guitar and keyboards on headphones. Please recommend equipment to do this - including a new cheapish guitar - as easily as possible in a tiny space. [more inside]
posted by kristi at 9:47 AM PST - 10 comments

Is someone taking over my digital identity?

I've now gotten two alerts that indicate that either a new device has been added to my account or is using my account. Is someone taking over my digital identity? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by rednikki at 9:36 AM PST - 10 comments

Why am I having a strong reaction to ending a short-term relationship?

I started dating someone I met online and things were going pretty well. I knew up front (and I told her on day one) that I didn't want a long-term relationship. I recently ended it (reasons explained below) but I'm still having some strong emotional reactions. The question isn't about our compatibility, I'm mainly curious if others have had similar experiences. [more inside]
posted by modernman at 9:36 AM PST - 18 comments

Names of victims in Commonwealth v. Welansky (1944)

I've been looking for the names of the 19 victims of manslaughter cited in the 1944 case Commonwealth V. Welansky--the first criminal case from the Cocoanut Grove fire in Boston. According to Wikipedia, club owner Barry Welansky was convicted of 19 counts of manslaughter. I've reviewed a number of briefs related to the case, but none of them list names of the victims cited in the case. What are the names of the 19 victims?
posted by pxe2000 at 8:37 AM PST - 6 comments

Children’s Halloween Book ID

I’m looking for a chapter book (for 2nd/3rd graders) that probably came out in the late 80s or early 90s that had black and white illustrations [more inside]
posted by andrewzipp at 8:15 AM PST - 2 comments

Alternatives to Love

I'm doing everything I can to "find someone", but started thinking that perhaps there are some other great experiences that would be more attainable that I could work towards. [more inside]
posted by seraph9 at 8:04 AM PST - 20 comments

School photo sticker shock

My two daughters had their school pictures taken for the first time. They are great photos, and there are even a couple of them hugging and smiling because the school takes extra pictures of siblings together. I want digital copies, but holy crap they are a lot more expensive than I was expecting! [more inside]
posted by insoluble uncertainty at 7:34 AM PST - 24 comments

Batch deleting/setting to Only Me on Facebook for thousands of old posts

Hi folks. I am looking for a script to batch delete, or, alternatively, set to Only Me, all of my facebook posts. Removing comments and likes would also be great. I am also of course looking into friend audiences/making a public page/etc and into hand deleting/setting to Only Me, but I would really love a batch solution. Social Book Post Manager in Chrome on my Mac seems to be missing a lot of posts even at the slowest setting. What's worked for you? [more inside]
posted by Mistress at 7:23 AM PST - 6 comments

My Halloween costume involves food. How can I make this work?

My halloween costume involves food. Is there some kind of sealant or shellac I can treat the food with, such that it won't go bad or fall apart? [more inside]
posted by panama joe at 7:05 AM PST - 21 comments

Decent hotel near the WFCU Centre in Windsor, Ontario?

I have tickets to the Arcade Fire show in Windsor on November 1 and want to stay in Windsor rather than trying to battle the tunnel traffic back to Detroit after the concert. Any recommendations for one within walking distance? [more inside]
posted by checkitnice at 6:35 AM PST - 2 comments

Warm cookies for a crowd! Complication factor: no oven

How do I serve warm chocolate chip cookies to 150 runners? [more inside]
posted by grateful at 5:40 AM PST - 19 comments

Do gravitational-wave observatories measure distance

Do gravitational-wave observatories give us a new way to measure distance? [more inside]
posted by rdr at 5:33 AM PST - 9 comments

Was Morrissey ever optimistic?

I'm thinking about my next tattoo and I want to include a lyric written by Morrissey somewhere in it. But something...upbeat. [more inside]
posted by pyjammy at 4:59 AM PST - 20 comments

One Weird Trick to Save Money

I've made a fair few lifestyle changes to save money, but I've still got a ways to go before I pay off my debt. What's the one lifestyle change that saved you the most money? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 4:42 AM PST - 43 comments

Pruning grapevine in summer?

I have a grapevine (for table grape) that is just starting its second summer. It has two main trunks and I don't want it to have any more, but it's put out a third one from just above the graft and it's going kind of crazy with leafing up and putting out side canes from this. Is it better to cut it off now or just let it do its thing and cut it back next winter when the vine is dormant? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 3:44 AM PST - 2 comments

What to get a 25yo Chinese-American girlfriend

My Chinese girlfriend is turning 25. Lives in Shanghai but very Westernised having studied there. Conservative parents but not conversative herself. She likes coaching and soft skills - personal empowerment and conflict resolution. Blogs. She lives quite modestly. Likes cute gadgets. Creative and colorful. Has a bright sunny but gentle personality. Loves western sitcoms and drama. Paints but not very well. Wears Kate Spade. Any ideas? Help. I'm stuck.
posted by vizsla at 1:20 AM PST - 13 comments

Imposter syndrome turned up to 11

I messed up at work and I can't stop ruminating about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:16 AM PST - 12 comments

Advice on retraining as a clinical psychologist in the UK

I'm looking for help and advice on changing career to become a clinical psychologist in the UK. Much more inside... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:15 AM PST - 3 comments

October 16

What happened if you had a transverse/sideways baby?

If you had a baby that never turned head down by 36 weeks, what were the options or instructions given to you? I'm mostly curious if your doctor recommended admission to the hospital in the last 2 or 3 weeks of your pregnancy due to the risk of premature labor and cord prolapse? [more inside]
posted by KatNips at 8:31 PM PST - 13 comments

What is this melody?

I've had this melody bouncing around in my head for the last few days. I believe it is a theme song from an old children's show. [more inside]
posted by cacophony at 8:27 PM PST - 3 comments

Patterned shirts

I want to wear patterned cotton knit long sleeve shirts. I also want tunic tops in knit cotton patterns. Gudrun sjoden is good but expensive. I also want cotton leggings, especially if they come in colors/ patterns. I got a pair from uniqlo but their pattern is mostly striped. I'm in the US. Ideas?
posted by azalea_chant at 8:21 PM PST - 2 comments

How urgently do I need a plumber?

How urgently do I need to replace my 8-9 year-old electric hot water heater, and do I need to worry about some water underneath it? The water came from me knocking the release valve, not a preexisting leak. [more inside]
posted by Special Agent Dale Cooper at 7:54 PM PST - 11 comments

Can a house appraiser (US) use local asking prices as comps?

I am in a legal dispute over the value of a house in PA. I want the value to be lower, the other party want it higher. We are therefore using appraisers. The report from the other party's appraiser came in, and it's a little higher than expected. On closer inspection, in calculating value from comparable sales in the neighborhood, it appears that the other appraiser has included some asking prices (i.e. pre-final sale) in the report, and these are being represented as actual closing prices. [more inside]
posted by life moves pretty fast at 7:04 PM PST - 5 comments

Becoming a drug counselor in San Francisco

I am interested in getting certified as a substance abuse counselor in the San Francisco Bay Area. I'm looking for feedback on different certification programs in the area, as well as general feedback from anyone who works in the field of substance abuse counseling. [more inside]
posted by désoeuvrée at 6:55 PM PST - 4 comments

Gift cards as "gratuities"

YANML. I know that dollar-value-equivalent gift cards given to employees as a bonus, gift, or award are considered taxable income under US law. Mostly, I've seen this in the context of "Widget Inc. is giving each of its employees a $100 gift card to Acme Stores, as a holiday bonus." But what about when Widget, Inc. gives its employees gift cards to Widget, Inc.? What about when Widget charges the cards to a customer's credit card in place of an agreed-upon "gratuity"? [more inside]
posted by armeowda at 6:33 PM PST - 8 comments

Should I have eaten it? Deceptive herring edition

So I bought some herring in a jar. It was in the refrigerated case but I...sort of forgot about that when I got home, because seriously, it should be shelf-stable, right? [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 5:35 PM PST - 11 comments

Please help me identify this adorable vintage mouse doll

My boyfriend is in the process of selling the majority of his vintage toy collection, and I thought this particular toy, a vintage mouse with suspenders and the cutest teeth, should stay with us. My boyfriend refers to him as "goofy nerd mouse guy", but I'm itching to find out his true identity. [more inside]
posted by sucre at 5:18 PM PST - 7 comments

Movies about dangerous romantic relationships

What are some films that are primarily about codependent/abusive romantic relationships? I'm looking specifically for movies where the protagonist "escapes" the relationship in the end. [more inside]
posted by egeanin at 3:24 PM PST - 35 comments

Computer repair scam: what to do after a coworker fell for it

Coworker fell for the phone call saying that their computer had been compromised. They have a mac, they gave remote access, they paid money by credit card to the scammers. Computer is used for work as well as personal use. They do not do any banking on it. They do use the work Dropbox. What do we need to do?
posted by sciencegeek at 3:19 PM PST - 8 comments

Anyone for vinyl?

I have to redo a bathroom floor and thinking roll vinyl is the way to go? [more inside]
posted by silsurf at 3:10 PM PST - 10 comments

'We may not have much, but we have each other'

In search of books about simple living and appreciating the little things. [more inside]
posted by castlebravo at 2:59 PM PST - 24 comments


I'm generally a very gassy individual, but have always ruled my the activation of flatulation with an iron fist. Of late, my grip on power has weakened, leading to some unfortunate situations. What is the most acceptable way to handle this? [more inside]
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 2:37 PM PST - 23 comments

Buying a dimmer

I'm getting a new light fixture for my kitchen ceiling and I want to get a dimmer. Do I need one or two? [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 12:28 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I winter?

I need jacket recommendations for an upcoming trip, plus general tips for staying warm. [more inside]
posted by jschu at 11:58 AM PST - 23 comments

Cheer up, bucko.

I wish to be cheerful, mortals. [more inside]
posted by Evilspork at 11:50 AM PST - 24 comments

Confessions Of A Flappy Bird: How to stop flapping my hands when I talk?

Whenever I do public speaking as a hobby, I get great feedback except for one thing -- I flap my hands too much! If you're a Former Flapper, how did you train yourself out of the habit? [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 11:39 AM PST - 11 comments

How to connect to a server on an iOS device.

At work, I have a network server that I can connect to from my Mac by going to Finder>Go>Connect to Server> and then clicking on the name of the server (i.e. smb://name02). Is there a way I can do this same thing on an iPad and/or iPhone? [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 11:38 AM PST - 2 comments

ISO Anecdotal Accounts of ADHD medication in younger children.

Our kid (male, 6) has been diagnosed with ADHD. We’re being advised by our (trusted, super awesome, not overprescribing, very reasonable) medical professionals to explore medicating him. We’re looking for anecdotal accounts of how a younger child in your life reacted to medication for ADHD. [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 10:42 AM PST - 14 comments

How much will it cost to reüpholster these chairs?

I just bought this chair and another just like it. I love them...except for the floral upholstery on the cushions. The green upholstery I am into. How much, more or less, will it cost me to reupholster just those floral parts? The bottom cushion comes off; the back one is attached. I'll also go ahead and get new foam for both because it's a little too soft, what's on there. I think the fabrics I was looking at ran about $25/yard.
posted by Smearcase at 10:39 AM PST - 8 comments

Black & White Halloween Costume Ideas

Mr. Millipede (m, 40) and I (f, 36) have been invited to a "black and white" themed Halloween party. Help us come up with costumes. Stringent stipulations inside. [more inside]
posted by millipede at 10:26 AM PST - 43 comments

Buying a new phone and switching to Virgin plan

I have a question about purchasing a new iphone and then transitioning to a new Virgin mobile plan. [more inside]
posted by andoatnp at 10:07 AM PST - 4 comments

My deck needs help.

My deck needs help. The basic structure is OK, but it looks terrible because it was painted/stained different colors and decorated with lots of unnecessary trim that's now rotting. I've patched it up in a bunch of crazy ways and am ready to throw in the towel. Maybe some of it can be saved, but I suspect everything visible (railings, decking, and skirting) needs to be replaced. More than I can do myself. Help? [more inside]
posted by ndg at 9:45 AM PST - 5 comments

What's the best barebones laptop for writing?

What is the cheapest, thinnest, lightest laptop with the best keyboard and the longest battery life? Open to new or used options. Processor speed and other specs don't matter much. Apple is a no-go. I currently have a Lenovo X201, which I like for the build quality and upgrade-ability, but it feels heavy in my bag.
posted by matkline at 9:43 AM PST - 14 comments

The phantom menace

I bought a standalone preamp to supply phantom power to a condenser microphone. But the microphone isn't working – I just get a weird loud buzz. Any idea what's going on? [more inside]
posted by Beardman at 9:39 AM PST - 16 comments

How did the Don know?

A question about The Godfather. [more inside]
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 9:32 AM PST - 3 comments

Literally so important

Where can I buy Hampton Creek “just.” eat-it-raw cookie dough in San Francisco? [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 9:01 AM PST - 2 comments

Ended it, now Flooded with Confusion

Three weeks ago I ended a relationship of three years. On one level, I know it had to happen. On another, I’m completely thrown, and hoping for some perspective. Thanks in advance for reading—there’s a lot here, and it means a lot that y’all are listening. [more inside]
posted by bluecastle at 8:30 AM PST - 46 comments

Chandelier Options for Low Dining Room Ceilings

Our house has relatively low ceilings (7.5 feet). I'd like a dramatic light fixture in the dining room, but a lot of chandeliers need too much vertical space. Link me your best flush mount or "flat" chandeliers. [more inside]
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 7:58 AM PST - 9 comments

theft/damage/accident protection for prescription glasses?

You'd think the Google would be forthcoming with something on this, but it's really not, and neither my insurance company nor my optical provider strangely have any advice on this. My new prescription is way pricey because of my aging eyes; and I'm not talking about insurance coverage that pays for your frames/lenses - I mean, in case something happens to them. Suggestions? I see a place like Lenscrafters has a sort-of-warranty thing for theirs, but it's not very comprehensive, and I'm already wearing them. [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 7:36 AM PST - 10 comments

How to reproduce a fragrance

My favorite fragrances keep getting discontinued. [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger at 7:28 AM PST - 4 comments

How to offer a domain to a specific company?

A few years ago I bought a generic domain because it seemed like a great deal and like it might be useful for my own projects. Now I've decided I'm probably not going to use it, and I want to offer it to a specific company that I think might be interested before putting it up for a general auction on a site like Sedo. What is the professional way to handle this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:48 AM PST - 4 comments

Getting Over Fear: the Art Edition

How do you create when you don't like being watched while you do it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:48 AM PST - 13 comments

Freeloading Husband

That would be me, apparently. Is my wife correct? [more inside]
posted by teselecta at 4:29 AM PST - 77 comments

Places to go in London for a freelance app developer

Recently moved to the UK and wondering what places I should go to for meeting creative and nice developers. [more inside]
posted by johngoren at 3:55 AM PST - 4 comments

I love sudoko and KenKen! What other puzzles might I like?

I can sit for hours and focus on sudoku, killer sudoku, and KenKen. The rules are clear and self-contained, and they don't require external knowledge or vocabulary to complete (unlike crosswords, for example, where I might get stuck if I don't know someone's last name). What other puzzles are like this?
posted by cadge at 2:42 AM PST - 18 comments

Body wash that doesn't smell like food or flowers?

Just what it says on the tin. I am tired of coconut vanilla sweetpea hydrangea mint or whatever and I like clean, fresh scents that are more reminiscent of fresh laundry than anything I'd eat or decorate with. [more inside]
posted by xyzzy at 2:15 AM PST - 30 comments

October 15

Same song, different feeling

Looking for suggestions of songs with alternative arrangements or cover versions that interpret the same lyrics with different emotional notes: breezy, slightly off-putting, sad/deary/Sinister. [more inside]
posted by divabat at 10:53 PM PST - 57 comments

High Calcium, but low Parathyroid. What now?

You are not my doctor, but perhaps you've been found to have high calcium levels in your blood and can offer some insights into my situation. My calcium serum levels are high, but my parathyroid hormone level is NOT - it's very low. [more inside]
posted by armoir from antproof case at 7:17 PM PST - 4 comments


My new landlord has told me he hates paper checks. I would love to pay my rent automatically and electronically each month. I have his routing and account number but cannot figure out how to pay him rent without one of us having to set up new accounts or pay fees. Any ACH/EFT experts in the house? [more inside]
posted by JannaK at 7:07 PM PST - 23 comments

Local fast food

I'm interesting in your local fast food traditions. [more inside]
posted by kevinbelt at 6:17 PM PST - 163 comments

Is that a pagan circle outside Hallgrímskirkja?

Can anyone tell me what this plaque says? [more inside]
posted by Joleta at 5:18 PM PST - 9 comments

Hope me neti pot correctly

I've read the directions, watched the YouTubes, looked at animations and graphics, but my neti pot fu is still lacking. [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 5:11 PM PST - 17 comments

We're splitting up over photographs!

My boyfriend didn't take any pictures of me in our two years together, and as soon as he took some, he also photographed an ex-love. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:08 PM PST - 41 comments

Eating Urges

I need advice on how to stop my constant desire/urge to eat. What is the best way to do this? [more inside]
posted by Crystal Fox at 5:07 PM PST - 25 comments

Is This Really How It's Gonna Be?

I've not had a lot of luck with guys recently (I'm a bi trans male in my mid-20s, if it matters). This is the second time in a row where someone seems decent and then, not long after us getting to know each other, they do something that demonstrates otherwise. I am basically just here to ask for some affirmation that I did the right thing by defacto breaking things off, as I am feeling very sad after realizing this person will not be in my life anymore now... (Note, some NSFW details inside) [more inside]
posted by sevenofspades at 4:54 PM PST - 17 comments

What do you think is acceptable when men talk about women?

First I'm a man but as of late I have started to wonder what is it that people find acceptable and what they don't when it pertains a group of men talking about women. I'm very new to sex and everything related to it, but I have always been uncomfortable when other men start talking about women. I really don't know if it's because what they say is uncomfortable or because I'm just not used to it and have a lot of shame about sex. [more inside]
posted by Braxis at 4:16 PM PST - 25 comments

Boot liners lacking

I wear boots all day for work, and now that fall and winter are coming, will be wearing them all the time. All my boot's liners end up completely worn away at the back of the heel, exposing the rough shell, causing discomfort, pain, and cracking. How can I remedy this? [more inside]
posted by hafehd at 3:52 PM PST - 8 comments

Appendix E?

Ruth Bader Ginsburg said in a speech : Take the case nonetheless the Solicitor General urged, for the Court of Appeals decision "casts a cloud of unconstitutionality upon the many federal statutes listed in Appendix E." [more inside]
posted by Ideefixe at 2:47 PM PST - 7 comments

What to do with an MLIS degree?

I have been told that a Masters in MLIS can be quite versatile and can even stem outside of the library career. What luck have found with your MLIS outside of libaries? Is researching possible with companies, governments, non-profits, and academic research without the doctorate route?
posted by RearWindow at 1:44 PM PST - 15 comments

Looking for a specific recording of "If I Could Be With You"

I'm looking for a particular recording of the jazz standard "If I Could Be With You (One Hour Tonight)" written by James P. Johnson and Henry Creamer. The recording I heard was probably from the 40s or 50s, and features a few male vocalists (three tenors I think), all singing the melody in unison together (not harmonizing) over a pretty sparse arrangement. It was a pretty cool sound. Thanks for any help! [more inside]
posted by dmalashock at 1:15 PM PST - 3 comments

My (California) Kingdom for a Mattress

Choosing a good mattress is suprisingly hard. Tell me your tips and recommendations. [more inside]
posted by Champagne Supernova at 12:52 PM PST - 12 comments

Do I really need to use anything other than water to wash my face?

I don't understand what all the facial products are for. (Toner? What *is* toner?) I wash my face with water, and moisturise with Aveeno if I feel it needs it. That's all. Would it really improve my skin if I used actual products? I don't have acne, but I sometimes get spots, and my skin is always a bit bumpy - I think they might be like little blackheads (not always black though), just little lumps with fat in, not infected or sore.
posted by tangerine_poppies at 12:14 PM PST - 41 comments

How can I hack a twin bed to use as a play surface for my kid?

There is an extra twin bed in my son’s room which, for various reasons, cannot be removed. Is there something I can get to put on top of it, like a topper of some kind, which would convert it into a table or play surface and then be removed if I actually wanted to use the bed? [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 11:49 AM PST - 11 comments

What is a reasonable speed to expect over Wifi in 2017?

My internet speeds over wifi kind of suck, but before I spend too much money and time trying to fix that, I'd like to figure out how close I am to a reasonable ceiling. Assuming a very fast (fiber) wired connection where wifi bandwidth is the limiting factor, what kinds of speeds should I be topping out at? [more inside]
posted by enn at 11:42 AM PST - 10 comments

Business Travel 101

I'm starting a new job soon (yay!) and will be spending two weeks in the South Bay for orientation/training. I'm having visions of sitting a hotel room being sad and lonely. How do I prevent this from becoming reality? [more inside]
posted by hoyland at 11:37 AM PST - 15 comments


Have anyone had a bad experience with a therapist, and like a poison in your mind, can't seem to let go until an apology is rendered by the therapist? It has been three years since therapy ended and in distress I left a vm for him (drunk) demanding he call me and apologize. [more inside]
posted by Jaspersen145 at 11:02 AM PST - 30 comments

Today's edition of Name My Blog

What should I name my blog? I plan to cover election laws and related topics. This will include redistricting, instant-runoff voting, election security, and voter suppression in the USA but focusing on New Mexico. Also, besides a name, let me know if you have other ideas about what I should cover or good sources.
posted by maurreen at 10:41 AM PST - 5 comments

Winter beater round-up, Canadian style

I need a cheap-to-insure beater than can take on a proper Canadian winter for around $5k CAD (~$4k USD) or less. Would like to avoid subcompacts. What should I look for? [more inside]
posted by blerghamot at 10:28 AM PST - 7 comments

More sets like {ice, water, steam}?

Depending on its state, H2O can be called ice, water, or steam. Are there any other substances that have two or more native English words for different states of matter? (Three seems like too much to ask -- water is the only substance I can think of that even occurs in three states in everyday life.)
posted by aws17576 at 8:51 AM PST - 32 comments

Meat thermometering

The further I push my (cheap, grocery-store-brand) meat thermometer into cooked meat (or boiling water, for calibration), the higher the temperature on it reads. With just the tip in boiling water, it reads ~120°F/50°C. This suggests to me that it's not measuring the temperature at the tip of the thermometer, but instead integrating the heat energy along the whole of the metal shaft. Question 1: Are there meat thermometers which don't do this, which actually measure the temperature at the tip only? Question 2: If there are, what inexpensive options would you recommend?
posted by clawsoon at 6:01 AM PST - 7 comments

How do people listen to music at home?

Home music setups? How does that work? [more inside]
posted by conifer at 1:02 AM PST - 38 comments

October 14

Should I stay or should I go now?

My husband has been addicted to opioids for the last five or so years of our 23-year marriage. He has had chronic migraine-related problems since the 6th year after we wed. The opioids help mitigate the migraine problems for an hour or two at a time but he began using them regularly beyond the need for migraine relief. He sunk so far down into opioid abuse that he became a recluse and I only saw him for about 15 minutes a day. He never left the house unless there was absolutely no way to avoid it. Between the illness and the drugs, I have been single in my marriage for over a decade. I recently gave him an ultimatum regarding the drug abuse and he has started tapering off the pills. His old, loving self has returned and I find that I continue to be as out of love with him as I have for years. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:13 PM PST - 30 comments

Should I quit my job?

Feel like I am in a never ending crisis; should I quit my job? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:13 PM PST - 21 comments

Best doctors and hospitals for treatment-resistant depression?

Who is the best, most knowledgable doctor in the tri-state area I can go to for a second opinion and the most up to date knowledge re: treatment-resistant depression and medication? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:13 PM PST - 4 comments

Can you ID this piece of music

Youtube link, latin sung line over a sung drone, male voices, organum? I can't make out more of the words or I could search on that. Probably medieval.
posted by Rufous-headed Towhee heehee at 11:01 PM PST - 3 comments

Looking for a reading for a scattering of ashes at sea

I'm looking for a short essay or non-rhymey poem that talks about loss and renewal for an ash scattering in the ocean. [more inside]
posted by otherwordlyglow at 9:33 PM PST - 5 comments

Halp. Sliding door stuck inside of wall

I came back on Friday evening and my boyfriend informed me that our bedroom sliding door was stuck deep inside the two walls. [more inside]
posted by thesockpuppet at 7:26 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I select a great, shiatsu chair without paying thousands?

I want to get my husband a great shiatsu chair for Christmas. We go to the mall to use the ones there, but it's embarrassing to enjoy it toooo much. What should I be looking for? How long do they last? Please share your experiences good and bad. [more inside]
posted by BarcelonaRed at 6:50 PM PST - 2 comments

3rd planet from the sun + person doing thing

What are other phrases like "globe-trotter", "world explorer", "earth shaker", or "terraformer?" I need 10 more and I'm stumped! The linguistic recipe is 1 noun synonymous with Earth + 1 noun that is a person doing a thing... [more inside]
posted by this-apoptosis at 6:02 PM PST - 29 comments

Another question about my hair

What vocabulary do I need to describe shortish curly hair haircuts? Specifically getting rid of flat, heavy hair around my face [more inside]
posted by Ideal Impulse at 4:19 PM PST - 17 comments

How to have delicious red rice and refried beans always available

I would like to have a big pot of fluffy Mexican restaurant-style red rice and (separately) refried black/pinto beans ready to go in my kitchen at all times. What is going to be the best way to make this happen? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger at 4:14 PM PST - 10 comments

Document ALL the merit badges!

What's a good online database platform, ideally free? The goal is to document and cross-reference hundreds of items, specifically merit badges, as a follow-up to divabat's "Earn ALL the merit badges" question. The idea is to document individual badges, categorize them by type, organization, country, and other details that would be helpful for sorting and finding the badge(s) of interest. Given the sheer number of badges that could be documented, a blog platform doesn't seem robust enough, but I'm not sure if a wiki platform would be a good fit. Thoughts? Suggestions? Thanks! [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 3:03 PM PST - 12 comments

Pop songs that start complex and end simple.

There are many many pop/rock songs that start out simple and go getting more complex, adding layers, instruments, harmonies, rhythms, doubling and tripling vocals, until reaching a climax of sorts. I'm looking for the opposite: songs that start complicated and become simpler, until ending with a minimum of elements. Does such a beast exist?
posted by signal at 2:42 PM PST - 11 comments

Name my makerspace AND me

With a little luck I am going to be getting my own small but well-formed makerspace. It's kind of an enrichment project for marginalised young adults. It needs a name and so does my role in it. Inspire me! [more inside]
posted by J.R. Hartley at 2:23 PM PST - 9 comments

Good places for a meetup in Raleigh?

A few people from the nonprofit where I work are going to be in Raleigh next week for the All Things Open conference. When we're in a city we don't often make it to, we like to invite our lists to an informal happy hour. Can someone recommend a good place? [more inside]
posted by roll truck roll at 2:22 PM PST - 5 comments

Metafilter, Wikipedia, Facebook, and...

I have a Kindle DX with free 3G. I never took to reading books on Kindle, but you'll pry the free 3G out of my cold, dead hands. What flat HTML websites do you recommend? Images are fine, but no Ajax or https:// or whatever else. I am aware of the options for converting a webpage to text-only, but I'm interested in native websites. In particular, I'd like to find a text-only, non-https:// email client. This is really hard to find these days. Thank you for any suggestions!
posted by 8603 at 12:40 PM PST - 4 comments

you can’t become world-class at everything, right?

Have you liked or excelled at doing several very different things, and chosen to sacrifice some of them in exchange for gaining deep expertise in one or two things? Or have you decided to pursue everything or combine some of the things? I’m facing some choices and would like to hear your stories. [more inside]
posted by icosahedron at 11:03 AM PST - 16 comments

Panicking about mysterious plasticky substance after cooking eggs

I made some scrambled eggs with milk and skim milk "Swiss" cheese. They tasted fine, but as I went back into the kitchen to clean the frying pan, I noticed it was coated in a mysterious thin solid "plasticky" substance that crumbles to the touch. People are telling me not to worry, and I'm not worried it's going to kill me, but WHAT is it and WHERE is it from? (*I don't have much cooking experience, but I've made scrambled eggs many times before and have never seen this.)
posted by Seeking Direction at 10:35 AM PST - 8 comments


Next weekend, I'm visiting Vermont for the first time ever. I'll be flying into Manchester, NH, on Thursday, renting a car, and driving around solo for four days. My itinerary is open ended -- I just want to get a feel for the state, hopefully catch the leaves before they go brown, visit some small towns, and stuff myself with tasty food. The rough plan right now is to drive up to Montpelier and use that as a base to explore. Vermonters and those who know the lay of the land, do you have any tips for me? Any small towns I should visit or festivals I should be aware of? I happen to be a gay dude, so if there are any awesome gay bars, I'd love to know about them too. [more inside]
posted by roger ackroyd at 10:22 AM PST - 10 comments

What counts as publishing?

Some journals and magazines pay for the first North American serial rights to a piece, with the understanding that that piece hasn’t been published anywhere before. Does being having a writer's piece broadcast on a radio show count as it being published for the purposes of print publishing? [more inside]
posted by merocet at 10:18 AM PST - 3 comments

What is the best driving route from SLC, UT to the Grand Canyon?

We're going to the South Rim of the Grand Canyon. There are three routes, all pretty similar in mileage. While I would like to make good time, scenery and road trip pit stops are high on my list. I've gone through the country before, so I know there are long stretches without any service. Wondering if anyone had something to recommend on any of these routes.
posted by rabu at 10:05 AM PST - 6 comments

DIY hiking boot repair

I inherited a pair of like-new Lowa hiking boots, however, the sole is separating from the rest of of the shoe - probably due to being in a hot storage space for awhile. The shoes are in excellent condition otherwise, and I’d like to do some DIY repair myself if possible, but I’m unsure what type of adhesive/product will yield the best results. [more inside]
posted by gollie at 9:38 AM PST - 11 comments

Britten's "A Ceremony of Carols" sung by adult voices--does it exist?

Asking for a friend: "I would like to find a recording of Benjamin Britten's "A Ceremony of Carols" with an adult chorus including men's voices. All I have been able to find on iTunes are women's and children's choir recordings... I am looking for the whole collection of "A Ceremony of Carols" [not just selections]." [more inside]
posted by MonkeyToes at 8:54 AM PST - 4 comments

Best way to track expenses after losing our house

We lost everything in the fire in Santa Rosa. We need a really good, easy collection and categorization system for our receipts and expenses. We have one iPad and two phones which Apple replaced. We got out with ourselves, one car, my purse, our elderly dog who we had to put down Wednesday because it was getting close anyway and the disorientation and pain of being thrown around the back of the car all night was too much. [more inside]
posted by Gusaroo at 8:41 AM PST - 10 comments

What do I do with an enormous wooden cradle?

My father made a cradle for me as a baby. It's really an amazing piece of furniture - put together with no nails, perfectly sanded, and just generally lovely. What do I do with it? [more inside]
posted by WowLookStars at 8:25 AM PST - 22 comments

App for practicing a branching dialogue

For a piece of interactive theatre, I need to memorize a branching dialogue. (IE, I ask a series of questions, but each question depends on an audience member's answer to the previous one.) I would like an iOs or web-based app that can help me practice, by playing the part of the audience member and giving me random answers. Alas, while there many apps to help actors learned fixed scripts, I don't know any that can handle this kind of branching dialogue. Do you? [more inside]
posted by yankeefog at 8:24 AM PST - 4 comments

Are the titles of the Millenium Trilogy inspired by Goldie Hawn?

I just learned that Goldie Hawn's 1978 mystery-comedy-romance Foul Play was retitled in Sweden: The Girl Who Knew Too Much. I then learned that nine of her films were retitled to follow the pattern "The Girl Who..." and a tenth film was retitled "Men and Women". This struck me as quite similar to Swedish author Stieg Larsson's "Men Who Hate Women" and "The Girl Who Played With Fire" and "The Girl Who Kicked The Hornet's Nest" so I am left wondering if there's a connection? Or is this coincidental? Or what?
posted by Monochrome at 7:45 AM PST - 2 comments

How to receive sizeable foreign payment from third party?

I live in the US and am expecting a sizeable payment in Swiss Francs from my ex-employers pension fund in Switzerland. What is the most cost-effective way to do an electronic foreign currency transfer to the US? (More inside) [more inside]
posted by eurandom at 7:39 AM PST - 9 comments

Bladder Runner 2049

I would like to see Blade Runner 2049, but I know that I'll need to take a toilet break during the film. To avoid missing anything important, when should I make the bladder run? [more inside]
posted by asok at 6:16 AM PST - 10 comments

Austin: what to do and see for a middle aged intellectual European?

I'll be in Austin Tx for a conference. And I'm at a bit of a loss when it comes to what to see and do. [more inside]
posted by jouke at 5:17 AM PST - 27 comments

Your favourite VR demos please

So I got one of those cool VR cardboard thingies. Unfortunately my Huawei P9 Lite doesn't have gyro, so no support for the Google cardboard app, which most demo's seem to use.. So I'm hoping you can direct me to your favourite demo's (like these) which do seem to work. Thanks!
posted by mirthe at 4:59 AM PST - 3 comments

The Longevity of Stew Broth

I have a question about stewing, casseroles, braising etc. So, you cook a lovely casserole and don't thicken it up so after extracting all the chunky bits there's a lot of sauce left. So you put that in the fridge and then a few days later you think, oh, time for more lovely stodge so you cook up the next one with the leftover sauce as a base and add more stock and other stuff and hey ho, eat the chunky bits, put sauce in the fridge ad nauseaum. Except minus the nauseaum bit because how long can this go for, if you are scrupulously refrigerating the left over sauce in between goes? Forever? (I love stews).
posted by h00py at 3:47 AM PST - 2 comments

40th birthday getaway ideas in range of LA?

hi Metafilter Hive Mind! I'm looking for ideas (on behalf of a friend) for a special getaway destination within driving or short flight distance of LA. This would be for a 40th birthday celebration, and the place would need to have great food, a swimming pool, and be good for young kids. Thank you for any recommendations!!
posted by zresearch at 2:06 AM PST - 4 comments

Friends saying mean things?

I am a woman in her 30s. My friends, also women in their 30s, will occasionally say things that I find very hurtful. I know how to handle this in romantic relationships but not so much in non-romantic contexts. When should I say something, and what should I say? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:10 AM PST - 26 comments

October 13

Of Walled Gardens and e-readers...

Looking for a way to read Google Play Books on an e-ink display and read Nook e-books on a device other than Nook. [more inside]
posted by eusebis_w_adorno at 9:30 PM PST - 7 comments

What's comforting in philosophy?

I'm in a bit of an unhappy place right now, a combination of political anxiety, loneliness, and general blah. I thought I would try something a little different from my usual escapist fiction, and have been wondering about philosophy with an emphasis on the uplifting or positive. I don't really know where to start, though. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 9:10 PM PST - 17 comments

Logan Lucky crossed with Gone Girl?

I'm looking for non-nihilistic, character-driven movies from the past twenty years. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 8:13 PM PST - 12 comments

Why weight loss from a benign tumor?

My wife has been losing about a pound a month since last January. She had an ultrasound and they found a golf-ball sized "mass" in an ovary. The family doctor said that since the report on the ultrasound didn't mention fluids or any other structures, this was a good sign. The CA-125 blood test came back with good numbers. [more inside]
posted by feelinggood at 7:28 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me kill the hope of getting back together

A week ago, I broke up with the guy who featured in my last three questions. We both agreed that breaking up was the right thing. We haven't spoken since. I am really sad, of course. But I'm struggling to stamp out that little flame of hope that maybe everything will change and maybe he'll miss me so much and maybe we'll get back together and it will be better than ever before. [more inside]
posted by wreckofthehesperus at 6:54 PM PST - 23 comments

How will planet nine be named

I read that NASA believes there is a ninth planet in the solar system, but its specific location is not known at this time. If the planet is discovered (and what constitutes discovery?) How might the naming process proceed? Are there any likely name choices? Some cursory googling led me to information about naming of extrasolar planets and minor planets but not major planets in the solar system.
posted by the antecedent of that pronoun at 6:11 PM PST - 6 comments

Blockchain Use Cases

Informed mefites, what are your thoughts on the use cases of the blockchain? I understand there's a ton of ICOs these days for new cryptocurrencies as well as talk about blockchain use for certain financial products such as mortgages. [more inside]
posted by bookman117 at 5:46 PM PST - 16 comments

Name that cookbook (green cover, no onions/garlic?, has stories)

I was reading this cookbook in Australia a few years ago. I think it had a green cover, and had probably been around a while. The author told a lot of stories, which I enjoyed. It was some cuisine that didn't allow garlic or onions. One of the stories was about how the author went to a wedding in NYC? and there was this cook and the food was amazing and so the author followed this cook to India? and cooked for him for a bunch of years in a bunch of places.
posted by aniola at 5:43 PM PST - 4 comments

Help for a caretaker

Hi! Someone I know has had to move back in with her parents, probably temporarily, to help care for her mother after a big surgery. There are some complicating things -- she's depressed, just had a disappointment with regards to her treatment options, and now she's comparatively isolated while helping take care of her mother. I'd like to give or send or offer her something that would help lift her mood, if possible. What would have helped you while you took care of a parent? [more inside]
posted by schadenfrau at 5:39 PM PST - 5 comments

My sister decided not to attend my wedding...

...and I don't know why and it hurts me deeply. I am not sure how to proceed in this instance since we haven't spoken since about a month before the wedding. Do I reach out to her? Do I wait until she decides she should contact me (which may never happen)? [more inside]
posted by singinginmychains at 5:05 PM PST - 34 comments

Job searching with no confidence

My current job is ending in December and I should be job searching but I'm paralyzed by fear and a lack of confidence. I endured a year-long, painful job search to find my current job and I'm dreading going through that again. I'm also not sure what kind of work to apply for, as I HATE the role I have the most experience in (admin) and also don't feel like it's possible for any employer to want to hire me or to see my value. Another barrier is that I can no longer tolerate office politics, sexism, and hierarchy bs. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:18 PM PST - 9 comments

One Mug To Rule Them All

I had this Nissan Thermos Travel Mug, and my life was happy and complete. For a dozen years or so in three dozen+ countries, it was absolutely 100% spill-proof, could not accidentally come open in a bag, survived countless abuses. AND THEN I LEFT IT ON A BUS. [more inside]
posted by 2soxy4mypuppet at 3:06 PM PST - 14 comments

Saving Broccoli

Help! I would like to have broccoli or broccolini in my freezer, ready to be roasted when the need for roasted broccoli strikes. [more inside]
posted by PorcineWithMe at 3:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Exempt to Non-exempt with 24/7 availability? Hmmm.

I anticipate a classification change from Exempt to Non-exempt. What's the best way to preemptively document and respond to ongoing after-hours expectations? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:01 PM PST - 8 comments

Amazing sex again without toxic ex? Seems impossible. Anyone overcome?

I finally got the strength and willpower up to leave my abusive ex of ~2.5-3 years. My ex is still keeping me on a small string due to the fact that our sex was absolutely earth-shattering (best we've ever had by far). My ex has led me to believe slowly over time with comments and insinuations and flat out statements that this is so rare I will never find it without them. A good part of me believes them. I am looking for anecdotes about situations where someone believed this to be true but later found it wasn't true when they were fully able to move on, or maybe information about how someone can get in ones head over time and plant this belief so firmly that it sticks? How to unstick if it is unlikely to be true? I believe this is the one fear keeping me from moving on from this person so I'd like to know how accurate it might be.
posted by anonymous at 3:00 PM PST - 23 comments

Need rec's for a wireless inkjet printer, all-in-one? Older model OK!!

Short and sweet, we need a new all-in-one inkjet printer and we are having trouble navigating reviews online. Your personal experience much appreciated!! We'll be printing from iphones, macbooks, and a laptop running windows, but printing from mostly the apple devices. $50 to $150 range. [more inside]
posted by jbenben at 2:36 PM PST - 4 comments

Between two ferns.

We recently moved into a new house with two of these giant ferns in concrete planters on the porch (pics). What are they, and how do I keep them alive over the winter? [more inside]
posted by hilaritas at 1:55 PM PST - 8 comments

I need a poker face by Monday morning.

I need to attend and participate in a meeting at work on Monday morning with my boss’ boss. I’m going to need help in giving off a neutral demeanor (positive may be a bit much to ask). [more inside]
posted by bookmammal at 1:19 PM PST - 21 comments

Anyone else get this "brain itch?"

My 11 year old says he sometimes (about 6 times a week) gets a feeling in his brain, usually on the left side of his head, that’s something like an itch and the way to relieve this “itch” is to scratch a specific spot that is not on his body but on some nearby object or person. (Not the same spot every time.) He says he’s had this for as long as he can remember. Have you ever experienced anything like this or is he the only one in the world? [more inside]
posted by Redstart at 12:37 PM PST - 17 comments

Boundaries cont: possible to have a healthy friendship with male friend?

Recently my partner violated my boundaries & as we discuss the issue I find myself reviewing my own boundaries where both my actions and the actions of a friend became problematic. [more inside]
posted by Willow251 at 11:55 AM PST - 14 comments

I want a Wifi speaker. Is this a good buy?

Should I buy this Vizio speaker system? I've been wanting a Wifi speaker (not bluetooth) for a while, but every time I try to start researching them I feel confused and exhausted. [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 11:30 AM PST - 13 comments

Whatsapp-Signal interoperability

I have Signal. Various friends have Whatsapp. Can a Signal user and a Whatsapp user talk to each other? [more inside]
posted by eviemath at 10:52 AM PST - 4 comments

I'm a bee magnet!

There are bees that fly around outside my school's cafeteria. They flock to me. Nearly every single day at least one follows me for a good distance. How do I make myself less attractive to bees? And what's the best way to get them to leave you alone? [more inside]
posted by blackzinfandel at 10:16 AM PST - 19 comments

Help me make a good, basic pizza at home.

I am a decent home cook and I would like to improve my homemade pizza-making skills. Can you recommend the techniques and equipment (and, perhaps, the ingredients and recipes) that will best help me do so? [more inside]
posted by cheapskatebay at 10:04 AM PST - 37 comments

'Tis about to be the season

Please share your experiences, positive and negative, with using a light box to deal with Seasonal Affective Disorder. [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 10:02 AM PST - 14 comments

Thanksgiving in Santa Fe

We are heading to Santa Fe for Thanksgiving this year and need restaurant recommendations for Thanksgiving dinner. [more inside]
posted by GoldenEel at 9:21 AM PST - 4 comments

Organizing my life when I have A LOT to do

I have a lot going on in my life and am having a hard time keeping track of and managing it all. Please recommend an app/combination of apps to help me stay on track! [more inside]
posted by galaxypeachtea at 8:47 AM PST - 8 comments

Was this reaction to local anesthesia normal?

I had local anesthesia for a minor surgery earlier this year, and I had an unpleasant, seemingly atypical reaction to it. I need to have another very similar surgery soon, and am wondering if I should be looking for a different doctor's office to perform it, or if this is within the normal range of things to expect during surgery. [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 8:47 AM PST - 12 comments

Should I get a replacement battery for my phone or just replace it?

From an environmental perspective, is it better to replace the battery on an older mobile phone, or are the materials in a battery sufficiently harmful that buying a new phone is not much worse then buying a new battery? [more inside]
posted by Deathalicious at 7:47 AM PST - 13 comments

How bad is Brie in a car in Sydney in spring ?

So I found a wheel of brie in the back of my car. It must have been in there two weeks. Or one. I'm not sure. It was quite soft. I brought it in to the house to throw in the bin but forgot because of a trombone. Don't ask. I just now see that my kids found the brie on the bench and ate it. Or maybe it was also the neighbour's kids. I just tried a bit of it and it seemed okish. Who will die first?
posted by taff at 7:33 AM PST - 12 comments

Cast Netflix from iPhone to Roku. How do?

I have a iphone with unlimited data that I want to use to cast netflix to my TV. I have a Roku on that TV. I also have a wi-fi network, but want to ditch my monthly internet bill. What do I need to do to make this happen. [more inside]
posted by cosmicbandito at 7:27 AM PST - 12 comments

Avoiding the news when married to a news junkie

While my husband and I agree politically, I am having a hard time emotionally with current events and he is...not so much. We used to both be interested and involved - now he is more invested in it, and I feel the need to pull back from it. How can I navigate this and protect myself while maintaining our otherwise good relationship? [more inside]
posted by Knicke at 6:59 AM PST - 11 comments

Watching "Drive" as a violence hating pillow watcher?

I can watch violent movies and shows, if equipped with censor pillow or equivalent palm of hand. Can I watch Drive? When should my pillow be ready? [more inside]
posted by sacchan at 6:56 AM PST - 14 comments

What should my wife watch next?

My wife has really enjoyed: OITNB, early seasons of House of Cards, Homeland, This is Us, & Blackish. She has not gotten into Kimmy Schmidt. She finds Elementary too gruesome but likes the central relationship. What should she try next? [more inside]
posted by OmieWise at 6:23 AM PST - 26 comments

Configuring Windows 10 for new keyboard

What language keyboard do I have and how do I configure Windows 10 to use its layout? [more inside]
posted by popcassady at 4:30 AM PST - 2 comments

October 12

Looking for blouses or dresses with subtle Halloween prints

I'm looking for dresses or blouses with subtle (and small!) Halloween prints that I can wear to work at a professional office. Something like the small and playful prints Hermes does like this tie that you wouldn't realize had Octopuses on it unless you were 5' away. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by stewiethegreat at 11:44 PM PST - 12 comments

Name suggestion for a nerdy crochet business

I am thinking about starting a small nerdy crochet business that will operate on Etsy and at local cons. I need a name! [more inside]
posted by dangerbird at 9:19 PM PST - 21 comments

Why is my breast doing this (kinda gross, TMI)?

I (menopausal, mid-50s, female) am experiencing a very small amount of dark, almost chocolate colored discharge from one duct of one nipple. Discovered a month ago as a tiny drop on my bra and otherwise has to be expressed, not spontaneous leaking. Things that make it worrisome: only one breast, dark {maybe bloody} color, started spontaneously, decades post-lactation. My doc *thinks* she palpated a small mass upon exam, but is unsure, and thought it felt like a duct, in any case. My nipple symptom continues and nothing showed on that ultrasound. Now I need to go for a breast MRI. What the heck, breast? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:23 PM PST - 4 comments

You son of a… male fish?

Are there any languages in which you insult the male relatives of your interlocutor? NSFW language below (obviously). [more inside]
posted by hopeful beast at 7:57 PM PST - 15 comments

How risky is it to quit a job before lining up a new one?

I’m profoundly burnt out from my job of 5+ years. I’ve been commuting 3-4 hours/day for all those years. It’s a nontechnical job at a well-known Bay Area tech company, and recent org changes have made the job more difficult than ever before. I’ve always gotten great performance reviews, but have reason to believe my position is now precarious here. I’ve developed an ulcer, daily migraines, and miscellaneous still-undiagnosed health issues. The thought of doing this for another year literally makes me think about killing myself. [more inside]
posted by mrmurbles at 7:04 PM PST - 23 comments

Reluctant Windows User Needs Apps

So six years ago I asked this question about Mac Apps. Well. Recently I fried my macbook when my cat knocked over a glass of wine. I can't afford the money to replace it right now, so I bought a windows 10 machine. Please hope me. [more inside]
posted by aclevername at 6:57 PM PST - 7 comments

i have to stop eating cold tablets

what candies have the texture of Flintstones vitamins? [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 6:48 PM PST - 25 comments

Advice/tools/theory for cluster scheduling?

We use a computing cluster (running SLURM). Recently the cluster has been hitting capacity, leaving people unable to run even small jobs. I am looking for guidance about how to set fair usage limits, both practically and in theory (optimal allocation of resources given the randomness in needs, etc.) I am not the administrator, just trying to learn about the topic.
posted by molla at 5:59 PM PST - 2 comments

Energy efficient bulb cracked inside fixture?

OK, so my energy efficient (CFL? LED? I have no idea. ALl I know is that it's the spiral kind) burnt out in my dining room ceiling fixture. I tried to twist it out like a normal light bulb, but instead of gripping and twisting the plastic base like a normal person, I spaced out and gripped and twisted the spiral part. And of course it cracked under my hand. [more inside]
posted by flourpot at 5:14 PM PST - 8 comments

Songfilter: dreamy female vocalist, something about “before my eyes”?

I overheard a song but I couldn’t get enough lyrics to search from. The vocalist sounded kinda like Suzanne Vega, and the chorus lyrics said something like “right before my [aching?] eyes”. [more inside]
posted by overeducated_alligator at 5:09 PM PST - 2 comments

Survey Methods Filter: Weights when the sampling design is unknown

I'm trying to construct weights to use for the analysis of survey data. I know the population demographics, and have already calculated post-stratification weights to account for unit non-response. Unfortunately, I don't have information about the sampling design or sampling frame. Is it OK to only use the post-stratification weights? [more inside]
posted by oiseau at 4:07 PM PST - 2 comments

Bitten by a Cockroach

My cat woke me up last night around 4:00 a.m. for a feeding. I was laying on my side and felt a bug bite on left side. I swiped at it and it was big! I turned on a light and saw a medium-sized cockroach. It had bit me so I killed it. I had no idea cockroaches will bite you like that. Does this happen frequently?
posted by anonymous at 2:56 PM PST - 13 comments

Question about peanut allergens

After snacking on some peanut butter in my bedroom, I accidentally left the jar open for a couple hours and the smell suffused the space. I have merchandise for my small business in this room, along with packing/shipping supplies for same, and I don't want to endanger anyone with severe peanut allergies of I accidentally spread allergens throughout the room. [more inside]
posted by delight at 2:43 PM PST - 6 comments

Best PC Gaming Mouse for $50 - $100?

Hello. Can someone recommend a solid PC gaming mouse in the price range of: $50 - $100? I hear Razer is good, but I want to seek other options too. Thanks!
posted by RearWindow at 2:35 PM PST - 18 comments

challenging male vocalists!

I'm working on a music project and need some help coming up with a list of artists to work off of... parameters inside. [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 1:56 PM PST - 50 comments

Dueling SSD drives

I have a new computer, and transferred an m.2 SSD drive from my previous system to my new system, with the intention of using it for storing data. I can't seem to use the m.2 drive and the new computer's SSD boot drive at the same time...why not? [more inside]
posted by newfers at 1:53 PM PST - 11 comments

Does this iPhone case exist?

I'm looking for an iPhone 8 case that includes a backup battery but also allows wireless charging, plus a built-in Lightning-to-headphone adapter while also allowing use of the Lightning port. Oh, and I want the Lightning port converted to micro USB. Does this exist? I know I'm asking for a lot. Some of it exists though! [more inside]
posted by Servo5678 at 1:50 PM PST - 0 comments

Tips to keep from crying

What are some easy tricks to stop crying quickly or to prevent it when you can feel it coming on? [more inside]
posted by armadillo1224 at 1:40 PM PST - 25 comments

Montblanc converter

I inherited a Montblanc Noblesse fountain pen, like pen 153 here. I've heard that some MB fountain pen converters will not work with this pen. Which converter will fit?
posted by the man of twists and turns at 1:09 PM PST - 4 comments

Clothing brands to get tailored

What clothing brands are of made of great materials that will last but not wallet busting (which would make it cost prohibitive to get tailored)? [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 12:56 PM PST - 6 comments

Theater games for young kids in an audition setting

What are some easy drama games that can be played with a couple of young kids? [more inside]
posted by egeanin at 12:39 PM PST - 4 comments

Surgeries Optional

I've just read NEVER LET ME GO and THE UNIT and am looking for more books along those lines! [more inside]
posted by moxiedoll at 12:30 PM PST - 12 comments

Books about Cajun culture

I'm looking for books, fiction or non-, about Cajun culture in Louisiana. [more inside]
posted by Rinku at 11:51 AM PST - 4 comments

Math assistance: Building a tesseract/hypercube model

Howdy Hive Mind! I'm planning on making a nested cube version of the hypercube/tesseract model in glass. The inner and outer cube measurements are easy, I know the angles of the diagonal pieces are 45 degrees, but for the life of me I can't figure out their length. Let's say the outer cube is 6" on a side and the inner cube is 3", what are the lengths of the connectors?
posted by Lighthammer at 11:41 AM PST - 6 comments

Another question about simplifying

I am inspired by minimalist philosophy and paring down to essentials in life. I have seen other asks and wanted to get the Hive Mind to weigh in on more. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 11:05 AM PST - 27 comments

need ideas for my Peace Corps Club

Our middle school has a period of community service learning this year in which teachers get to pick the area of study. My students are learning about and working with Peace Corps volunteers, but I'm kind of stuck on what to do next. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:19 AM PST - 6 comments

A Sweater Brighter than the Sun

Please help me find a lightweight wool crew-neck cardigan in an extremely bright color (neon yellow, green, or orange would be ideal.) [more inside]
posted by asperity at 9:35 AM PST - 10 comments

Need telescope recommendations for kids, please!

Short and sweet: a 10-year-old niece and her 7-year-old brother have requested a telescope for Christmas, and while I'm more than willing to encourage anything to do with STEM, I'm afraid I just don't know enough to get them something decently useful to a couple beginners plus not too wildly expensive. Help! [more inside]
posted by easily confused at 9:34 AM PST - 12 comments

How do I use these snaps on my vintage fur stole?

I bought a vintage mink stole about a year ago and I finally have a chance to wear it to a formal wedding we are attending this weekend. It has some interior snaps that I don't understand. Can you explain? I am perfectly content to wear it as is, but I am curious about what these snaps are supposed to be for! Here's the stole. And here are the snaps. Pic 1 and Pic 2. Thanks for any advice!
posted by chatongriffes at 9:21 AM PST - 14 comments

I will soon have free time. What do I do with it?

This winter for the first time in a long time, I expect to have some leisure time with which to read and watch movies. It has literally been years since I've had this luxury, and I need recommendations! [more inside]
posted by OneSmartMonkey at 9:06 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for Special Snowflake Sunscreen

I have rosacea, and everything I put on my face is bad. Sunshine is also bad. Help? Snowflakes abound. [more inside]
posted by invincible summer at 8:46 AM PST - 19 comments

How should I help keep the world from changing?

I would like to start actively working for one cause, and have decided my cause should be climate change, or more accurately, averting/preparing for climate change. There are a lot of environmental groups out there. What effective Toronto-area and/or remote access environmental activist group could someone with chronic fatigue issues and no money join and be of use to?
posted by orange swan at 8:40 AM PST - 0 comments

visual impairment - international travel - BCN

My friend has a visual impairment and will traveling to BCN solo on Delta. Is there a good procedure to follow to get off the plane, get forms filled out, get through passport control and customs, and make her way to the Uber line (and the reverse on the way home), ideally with the minimum of disruption or fuss? Suggestions from the very general to the very specific happily accepted. Thank you!
posted by ftm at 8:33 AM PST - 5 comments

How to help the helpers in NoCal fires?

Are there mechanisms to donate to the firefighters in northern California right now? I have found a fair amount of support for victims (and to some extent, I'm sure there's overlap) but I specifically want to send support to the firefighters themselves. And if there are other useful demonstrations of gratefulness beyond money that can be delivered remotely, please also tell me that too.
posted by BlueBlueElectricBlue at 8:31 AM PST - 5 comments

Change management training

I've got the opportunity at work to do some change management training and wondered if anyone had any experience of either the Prosci or APMG Practitioner courses? Any info on how you found the course and how you've used it afterwards would be helpful, and bonus points are available if you work in the public sector or, even better, higher education.
posted by fatfrank at 7:46 AM PST - 0 comments

Twitter thread about social media advertising

Several months ago--perhaps a year ago or longer, even--I remember a fascinating Twitter thread about the likely/probable worthlessness of advertising on Twitter. The author of this thread drew from previous experience in another industry where folks in (I think?) ad sales would typically artificially inflate their numbers in order to justify their own jobs. The thread posited Twitter ad "eyeballs" and "clickthroughs" as a possible house of cards and suggested ways of exposing this. [more inside]
posted by duffell at 6:53 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me buy my last hairbrush.

I'm looking for nylon or metal bristles, but the main thing is, I want it to last the rest of my life. [more inside]
posted by BrashTech at 6:04 AM PST - 13 comments

Retirement gift

What would be a good retirement gift costing £75 ($100)? For a colleague with no known hobbies; intellectual/geeky more than sporty. - Cannot be bought online but most be available in a shop in London. - Must be an actual physical item, preferably a single one, that can be handed over. - No vouchers or the like. - No consumable items like vintage booze. - Can go slightly over on spend, don't want to go under.
posted by Segundus at 5:47 AM PST - 12 comments

Hopefully lots of snowflakes.

Part one: How do I take a relatively economical ski vacation in New England between Christmas and New Year's that will satisfy my seven-year-old son and also my mid-60s parents? Snowflakes (!) inside. [more inside]
posted by woodvine at 5:05 AM PST - 9 comments

Trying to remember sci-fi short story: Dystopia with all labour scripted

A year or two ago I read a sci-fi short story, it was freely available online. The first half is a chillingly plausible dystopia where all human workers use headsets feeding them step-by-step instructions, turning nearly the entire workforce into automatons. (Starting with fast food outlets but eventually subsuming nearly all professions.) The second half is a less convincing techno-utopia in Australia.
posted by snarfois at 4:19 AM PST - 4 comments

October 11

Understanding/not freaking out when partner lies (in a small way)

I'd like any ideas that folks have about how to manage my knee-jerk reaction to what is a small and ultimately inconsequential lie. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:36 PM PST - 32 comments

Why do these ants have gigantic friends with them?

We have ants. But they come with the occasional giant friend. What are they? We're in southern California.
posted by BuddhaInABucket at 8:53 PM PST - 11 comments

This donut tastes kinda crappy.

Is there a name for this style of pastry? It's...quite odd. [more inside]
posted by SquidLips at 6:15 PM PST - 3 comments

Lend me your delightfully tedious hobbies

I love anything that is repetitive and keeps at least my hands busy. I knit repetitive sampler afghans; I buy wool sweaters from goodwill and dismantle them; I get $20 in pennies from the bank and sort them for wheat pennies. I LOVE to tear up a garden bed. All are mindless and require 1% of my attention so I can devote 99% listening to a podcast. I want MOOAR!
posted by pintapicasso at 6:13 PM PST - 55 comments

Resources for dealing with what might be PTSD

I was raped a few weeks ago. I've got a lot of great support, and I'm generally doing well and recovering. But I've got a few things going on that seem like incipient PTSD. I am, of course, discussing things with my therapist, but I thought the mefi hive mind might know of good resources (books or online) on dealing with the symptoms of PTSD in the early days after trauma. [more inside]
posted by superswell at 4:46 PM PST - 8 comments

Bulk clothing donation in NYC

Where in NYC can I donate about eight garbage bags full of women's clothing in the next few days? It must be a place that will accept the whole donation as-is, rather than piecemeal. [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz at 3:36 PM PST - 7 comments

Antique Textile Appraisal

I was recently handed-down a late 19th Century or early 20th century Kashmiri shawl [more inside]
posted by nikitabot at 3:22 PM PST - 2 comments

Who Has Covered Donna Summer's Version of MacArthur Park (Suite)?

I heard a male voice covering Donna Summer's version of MacArthur Park (Suite) on college radio (KALX) the other day, and I can't seem to find it myself online ... Does this ring a bell for anyone? It's a man singing, and it's pretty darn faithful to the 17:48 medley, i.e MacArthur Park, then One of a Kind, then Heaven Knows, and then Reprise. If anyone knows any recorded covers of Summer's version, I'd appreciate any info.
posted by mrgrimm at 2:58 PM PST - 13 comments

I love you...sober you

My partner's personality changes for the worse when he drinks, even in small amounts. Not sure how to deal; looking for advice. [more inside]
posted by orange and yellow at 2:16 PM PST - 34 comments

Tips to declutter when depression has made you neglect your apartment

My flat/apartment has got very neglected this year due to having a few months of depression. [more inside]
posted by AuroraSky at 1:59 PM PST - 38 comments

How do I apply for a job in the same corporate conglomerate as mine?

Can I just apply online like a regular joe, or is does being part of the same Gigantic Parent Corporation help? [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 1:37 PM PST - 3 comments

Seeking Advice on How to Sell Sterling Silver and Purer-Than-Sterling Si

I'm looking for some advice on how to get a fair price for sterling silver and a Thai piece purer than sterling. However, special snowflake specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by WCityMike at 1:20 PM PST - 4 comments

Rain barrel owners of the Pacific NW, what do you do in the winter?

I live in Seattle and have a rain barrel. It's really useful in the summer, but what do I do in the winter? [more inside]
posted by centrifugal at 12:58 PM PST - 5 comments

I love my brand new job. But should I quit already?

I just started a new job that so far is going great. But my circumstances have suddenly and dramatically changed and I am now considering jumping ship. [more inside]
posted by lecorbeau at 12:55 PM PST - 22 comments

Adopting an ESA with Medical Needs

I'm looking to adopt a dog as an emotional support animal to help with my anxiety and PTSD. I found the most adorable senior dog at the shelter who I really clicked with. However, I am uncertain if her medical needs would make her an unsuitable fit for me. [more inside]
posted by Malleable at 11:54 AM PST - 12 comments

As the Preschool Turns

My preschooler (3.5) has a freind she has known her whole life. They started preschool together about a month ago. It's going ... weirdly. How do I navigate this? Or do I just let them figure it out? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by mrfuga0 at 11:34 AM PST - 25 comments

Best iPad golf game

"Tiger Woods PGA Tour 12" and I have had a great run together, but Apple has informed me it will come to an end with iOS11. If such a thing exists, I'd like a similar iPad game that features real courses played realistically, and allows an upfront purchase rather than a million micropayments. (Online/multiplayer capabilities are not of interest.) If that doesn't exist, feel free to let me know about any iPad golf games you've enjoyed.
posted by Horace Rumpole at 11:32 AM PST - 1 comment

How do I continue to live a full life and overcome my anxiety of doom?

I've had mild social anxiety, depression, and ADHD, and have managed it relatively quite well (with adderrall and effexor) since adolescence. However, a new trigger has emerged (nuclear war) that has been the most debilitating ever for me (multiple panic attacks, sometimes unable to concentrate at work). What self-help, anxiety books, worksheets are helpful for those whose anxieties are specifically related to mass tragedies (like nuclear war) and the thought that my fears might be warranted? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:11 AM PST - 12 comments

Phoenix Pizza

Short and sweet question... Are there any Phoenix locals here with an opinion on whether one of the Pizzeria Bianco locations is better than the other? (East Adams Street vs. East 20th) I'll be visiting next month and it's been on my list for quite some time. Thank you.
posted by jimmereeno at 10:41 AM PST - 4 comments

The alchemy of siblings singing together

Help me source a half-remembered quotation about siblings singing. [more inside]
posted by gauche at 10:31 AM PST - 12 comments


On my laptop, Facebook does not load. I have tried on IE and Firebox, as well as Chrome. It works on my phone. I have cleared the cache, restored settings, and cleared cookies. I have tried it in an incognito tab, and have restarted. I can get to the log in page, but it goes blank after that. Any ideas?
posted by PinkMoose at 10:07 AM PST - 5 comments

How to spot technical aptitude using an application form?

I want to recruit someone to do some technical work on a family of websites. I can't afford anyone experienced, so I'm going to try to find a smart and capable candidate who will probably take the job to gain experience with the technologies we use and move on after a few years. How do I identify such a person from their application? [more inside]
posted by Busy Old Fool at 10:06 AM PST - 12 comments

How to change font size in Chrome on iPhone?

I recently got an iPhone after years of Android and I'm still trying to figure out some of the details. I downloaded Chrome because that's my desktop browser. But I can't figure out if I can increase the font size within Chrome itself. If I go to my settings in the iPhone and increase the font size there, it makes some text in other apps larger, but not Chrome. And within Chrome itself, I can't find a text size option in the settings. When I google the issue, all I find is how to increase the font size for iOS on the desktop. Does anyone know if this is possible, and how to do it? I really don't want to break out the reading glasses just to read on my phone.
posted by Neely O'Hara at 9:58 AM PST - 3 comments

Detective fiction -- what next for me?

I need a new series to read, but don't know where to turn. I've only read a few, and like Lawrence Block's Matt Scudder and John D. MacDonald's Travis McGee best. [more inside]
posted by noelpratt2nd at 8:22 AM PST - 25 comments

Garage heater for wedding

I'm trying to figure out the best way to heat a garage in November in Seattle with the door open. At my upcoming wedding we are having a food truck in alley behind our venue. The alley adjoins a garage so we are planning to open the garage door and park the food truck right outside. I'm trying to figure out the best heating option for the garage area so people can hang out there if they want. [more inside]
posted by bokinney at 8:04 AM PST - 6 comments

Two Eye Appointments

I have an eye exam scheduled with an ophthalmologist in two weeks. My health coverage covers eye exams and is through my husband's employer. I just learned that I have another appointment at Pearle Vision in three weeks. I also have EyeMed coverage through my own employer. Is there any reason I should keep the second appointment? [more inside]
posted by soelo at 8:04 AM PST - 8 comments

Broken engagement, and gifts?

Should we expect a gift to be returned? [more inside]
posted by ashy_sock at 8:00 AM PST - 32 comments

Overcoming anxiety about hosting a party?

socially anxious but loves-to-socialize person hosting first party. However, all the people I invited don’t know each other. I’m also afraid no one will show up. (Though this may just be my anxiety talking.) tips, strategies, to get through the party planning and party itself as a host? How to make it fun for everyone and help the mingling happen? [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 6:10 AM PST - 24 comments

Where to find subsidize friendly housing in Toronto?

An old aquantance of mine has become temporarily homeless in the Greater Toronto Area and can not find any shelters with availability. Assuming they have to stay in Ontario in a sizeable city, are there any better cities to relocate to with currently available shelters or temporary housing options and programs to help them get back to a stable living situation? [more inside]
posted by Short End Of A Wishbone at 6:01 AM PST - 6 comments

The shock of the new

I’m looking for contemporaneous quotes about the danger posed by new inventions, for example the fear that the speed of trains would cause miscarriages or that novels would corrupt the minds of young ladies. The quotes could be about the moral effects of new inventions (‘the pill will end humanity!’) or more practical safety fears. I’m not looking for condemnation of inventions that really do have dangerous potential (nuclear weapons), but rather fears that turned out to be completely unfounded once the new inventions were in regular use. Thank you!
posted by matthew.alexander at 3:11 AM PST - 14 comments

Unputdownable podcasts or audio books (non fiction) please...

I like to listen to non fiction serialised podcasts on my commute. Favourites include Crimetown, Serial, S-Town, How to be a Girl and Up & Vanished. I could do with some recommendations for gripping non-fiction audio books or podcasts (serialised) in any genre. [more inside]
posted by TheGarden at 2:49 AM PST - 16 comments

Help me get this poster

I saw this poster in the window of a house today. I love it so so much. Can you help me find a physical copy of it? Or help me figure out how to make one of my own? I'm sure there are similar posters; I want this exact design.
posted by ocherdraco at 12:26 AM PST - 7 comments

Hoo-HOO. Hoo-HOO.

I’m going to be driving from SF to LA sometime in the next 4-5 days. I have camping gear and some very nice microphones. I need more echoing, reverberant owl sounds in my sleeping library. Where can I camp out and record a midnight chorus with the greatest possible density of owl calls?
posted by mykescipark at 12:10 AM PST - 10 comments

October 10

Questions about Enrolling Covered California or Medi-Cal

I am a cancer patient and need to have high quality health insurance. My current plan (through my graduate school) ends in August 2018. Am I able to enroll in a plan for the remainder of 2018? And how do I make sure I have access to the same doctors and level of care? [more inside]
posted by CancerSucks at 10:04 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me understand the psychology of abuse survivors

I'm writing a sci-fi/fantasy novel in which one of the characters has survived a childhood of systematic sexual abuse. I'd like to understand the psychological effects of abuse, particularly sexual abuse, on survivors, and different ways in which people react to and overcome that history. (Or fail to overcome it, as the case may be.) [more inside]
posted by crookedgrin at 8:47 PM PST - 11 comments

Paper And/Or Software Work Planner System

Help me work out a paper or software system that works for planning my work tasks? [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 8:23 PM PST - 7 comments

Favorite standalone SFF novels

I'm starting a SFF book club, and we'd prefer to read and discuss standalone novels (if only to avoid hearing 'well maybe they wrap it up in Book 2!'). What are your favorite standalone SFF novels? [more inside]
posted by palindromic at 6:37 PM PST - 55 comments

Resume advice for people who have worked with the Dutch

American applying for a job with a Dutch company (and a Dutch hiring manager). For people who have worked with Dutch companies - anyone have resumes or cover letter advice in order to be successful in the Netherlands? Examples would be amazing. [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 6:31 PM PST - 2 comments

What's up in this photo?

What is going on in this picture? It was put up in a Facebook librarians group and no one's definitively answered. [more inside]
posted by waitingtoderail at 5:40 PM PST - 19 comments

Warm, lightweight coat

In the district where I work, buildings create wind tunnels which drop the temperature from "brisk fall day" to "miserable." I really don't want to drag out my puffy coat for temps in the 50s and I'd feel silly doing so - but I'm also rather intolerant to cold. [more inside]
posted by bunderful at 5:40 PM PST - 22 comments

News Aggregators 2017

I'm a current user of feedly, and like the service. I don't like that you have to pay for a basic feature like search. I'm curious as to what you currently use for a news aggregator currently and what features you like most about it.
posted by Draccy at 4:44 PM PST - 13 comments

Los Angeles Date Day, Christmas 2017 Edition

Hi there! My wife and I are headed down to LA this year to visit my family for the holidays. Los Angeles is still a pretty new city for her, and my tradition is to take her out for a big secret date day each time we visit. Help me pick our next best memories! [more inside]
posted by skookumsaurus rex at 4:09 PM PST - 10 comments

Wrist RSI – clicking problems

Inspired to ask this question by randomly coming across a much older ask post on the topic. I'm on the computer a lot, and most of my hobbies involve my hands/wrists (drawing, mostly). A couple years back, I developed a chronic ache in my right wrist. More inside! [more inside]
posted by caitcadieux at 3:26 PM PST - 11 comments

Speech recognition software for accents

Is speech recognition software worth it these days for someone with a strong accent? [more inside]
posted by Countess Elena at 3:24 PM PST - 6 comments

Most effective U.S. environmental advocacy group?

Who is the most effective at changing attitudes, policy and practice as regards the environment, and why? I'd looking to join a group like 350.org, but time is a precious resource, so I'd like some thoughts (and facts/numbers) on which groups are doing the most effective work.
posted by falcon42 at 2:49 PM PST - 5 comments

Beyond vision boards

My therapist recently had me make vision boards showing the life I want to create. So I cut a bunch of stuff from magazines, got out the glue, found some old heavy cardstock posters from a dumpster behind Gamestop for grounds...and it was really satisfying, and fun, and actually inspirational. [more inside]
posted by Archipelago at 1:57 PM PST - 19 comments

Winning Wing Sauce

Seeking your best wing sauce recipes for our neighborhood Wingfest. I'm looking for Sauce Only recipes, as the chicken will be cooked at the event and served with our sauces for the judges. Trendy, funny/punny, spicy, and/or weird are all welcome, but I would also love it to taste good! [more inside]
posted by deadcrow at 1:46 PM PST - 14 comments

Moving back to Mid-West...alternatives to Chicago?

For family reasons I need to move back to the Mid-West in the next few years. Chicago is the natural choice, but I want to look at alternative cities before deciding...where should I be looking? [more inside]
posted by Eddie Mars at 1:25 PM PST - 17 comments

Light me up!

I'm looking for bike wheel lights, but I'm bewildered by the choices. [more inside]
posted by pdb at 1:10 PM PST - 4 comments

Drummer needs portable stu-stu-studio

I am a drummer who writes songs. I need recommendations for a synth that will help me demo my songs to my bandmates! [more inside]
posted by Sauce Trough at 12:57 PM PST - 9 comments

Is it time to get a new wifi router?

What is the life expectancy of a (home use) wifi router? Are our issues something that we need to discuss with AT&T (shudder), or do we cut to the chase and just order a new router? [more inside]
posted by vignettist at 12:22 PM PST - 14 comments

Video in utero

What are the best video resources for learning about fetal development & childbirth? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 12:12 PM PST - 1 comment

Did David Bowie (or anyone else) say something like this?

"People are born with a certain number of songs about themselves and their lives inside of them. After they've written all of those songs, they have to learn how to write other people's stories too/instead." [more inside]
posted by Candleman at 11:53 AM PST - 1 comment

Ireland on the Web

Just got back from my first trip to Ireland, and I'm in withdrawal. I'd really like to keep in closer touch with the country and the culture and learn as I go. What are some good places to do that? [more inside]
posted by Miko at 10:35 AM PST - 16 comments

Mid-Range Tea (Yes, it's come to this)

Can you recommend midrange tea - better than cheap teabags, not super-fancy specialty. [more inside]
posted by windowbr8r at 10:33 AM PST - 33 comments

Less Reality, More Fantasy!

Can you recommend me up some reading that meets a specific theme: fantasy/fabulist creative nonfiction? [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust at 9:58 AM PST - 4 comments

Free time clock software

I am in search of free time clock software to put on my computer [not web-based]. I need little more than CLOCK IN and CLOCK OUT buttons. The simpler the better. Do you have any recommendations?
posted by cokelessrome at 9:51 AM PST - 4 comments

I hope you like jamming to

Jam and jelly makers, lend my your ears. We've been having problems with our jam setting. What can we do to insure new batches do set, and can I recover a recent batch that is more syrup than jam ? [more inside]
posted by k5.user at 9:22 AM PST - 12 comments

ISO earphone cord fix, or replacement

I have a pair of Shure SE115 Sound-Isolating In-Ear Stereo Earphones that have served me well for over 6 years, but now there's a small break in one of the cords and I'd like to either fix that before the break is complete, or buy new "ignore the world" earbuds/earphones. Details and more questions inside. [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 9:20 AM PST - 7 comments

Can You Hear Me Now? Downstairs Neighbor Noise Edition!

I just moved into the top floor unit of a small 2 story building. I specifically chose the top floor unit to avoid noise. I just started grad school and my partner works from home so it was super, super, super important that the building is quiet. When we asked about noise, the property management company said "oh yeah, it should be very quiet since you're on the top floor" but... I can hear everything my *downstairs* neighbors are doing and my unit vibrates every time they take a step. [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 9:06 AM PST - 15 comments

Guayaberas. Boston. Online?

I'm headed to Australia in 2 months. I have a fat neck. I have measurements. Where can I convert those measurements into linen guayaberas that seems to be perfect for an Australian summer? Local would be better but anyone who has an online tailor they like I'm more than open to options.
posted by Talez at 9:04 AM PST - 1 comment

Must Do Costa Rica in February

What should we do in Costa Rica when we visit in February? [more inside]
posted by JenThePro at 8:48 AM PST - 8 comments

Refinance Mortgage on PhD Stipend

I want to refinance my house but I'm a Ph.D student. Options? Mortgage companies say that they can't use my income. [more inside]
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 8:27 AM PST - 8 comments

Salsa sampler pack (via Amazon)?

I'd like to get my brother & sister-in-law a host/ess gift for having me to visit. I don't know them well, but it does seem they enjoy spices & seasoning, grilling, and salsa. What's a nice salsa sampler pack you would recommend? (Sticking to mild-moderate heats, to be safe.) Bonus: I have extra gift card money on Amazon I'd love to use to buy and send it, though that's not mandatory. [more inside]
posted by theatro at 8:13 AM PST - 4 comments

How do I deal with a family gathering when I'm depressed?

I have a yearly family gathering coming up on Sunday. I'm suffering a reasonably serious bout of depressing brought on by $reasons, and I have no idea how I'm going to get through Sunday without cracking up completely. Truly. [more inside]
posted by O Sock My Sock at 7:46 AM PST - 25 comments

No fire here, but I'd love to stop the smoke

My wife, 3 month-old baby and I live on the third floor of a small co-op in Manhattan - an old converted brownstone. The coop rules clearly prohibit smoking inside of the building, though it's possible not everyone is aware of that rule. For the past couple months, we have begun intermittently (couple times a week) smelling stale cigarette or pipe smoke in our living room primarily in one corner - usually lasts for about 15 minutes then disappears. We'd like to get it to stop, but without alienating anyone in our small building. Request for suggestions and details below. [more inside]
posted by slide at 7:32 AM PST - 11 comments

Songs with the "drip" sound?

Hello askmefi! I'm looking for songs that involve that "drip" sound heard in so many synth/house/pop music compilations lately. I figure I can throw together one of those fun "askmefi spotify playlists" that come up every now and then. An example of a song with the drip is "Make Me (Cry)" by Noah Cyrus, and "Wind Bell" by In The Blue Shirt. [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 7:14 AM PST - 12 comments

Explain HS2 "gas fracking" to me like I'm a 5-year old.

A Canadian energy company is on the verge of receiving a permit to begin "gas fracking" about 1.3 miles from my house in rural Michigan. Their permit application explains that they will be using "gas" and I've since come to learn that the gas is HS2. [ I do not know what HS2 is, and google is failing me on this. ] [more inside]
posted by bricksNmortar at 5:53 AM PST - 16 comments

Working through depression and post-breakup blues

My long-lingering depression has rebounded lately, and to cap it all off I got dumped out of the blue. I'm also in a very demanding school program that requires a lot of time, effort and concentration. How do I keep it together when all I want to do is cry? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:25 AM PST - 5 comments

Everyone says I’d love Colorado… but where exactly?

I need a change from the East Coast (DC, specifically). It’s too stressful, too hot, too muggy, too congested, too depressing. Everyone says I'd love Colorado, but where, specifically? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:24 AM PST - 10 comments

How to not resent my future mother-in-law?

Feeling resentful after being ostracized/judged by BF’s mom for the past 8 years and giving her little reason to dislike me. This starkly contrasts with how my family views my boyfriend, which bothers me. Marriage/moving closer to home are on the horizon and I want to have a better relationship with her, so my BF doesn’t feel like he has to choose between me and his family. Help me see the situation differently? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:24 AM PST - 26 comments

Creepy, but not TOO creepy

What are some good scary stories to tell 5th and 6th graders? [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 5:19 AM PST - 8 comments

Quotes about science, innovation, enlightenment and progress

Like it says on the tin Mefi, I'm looking for quotes on the contribution of science and innovation to social enlightenment and progress. Bonus points if the quote comes from a European woman but any source welcome.
posted by roolya_boolya at 12:31 AM PST - 1 comment

October 9

A fairly short and cheerful literary novel

My book club is burnt out on doom and gloom and is looking for something uplifting. Not too long either as we're all exhausted. And it should be a novel that could reasonably be described as "literary". Please help?
posted by hazyjane at 11:32 PM PST - 40 comments

Who names a kitten "Roxbury," anyway?

It's time for another round of Name! Those! Kittens! [more inside]
posted by Vervain at 11:11 PM PST - 21 comments

Help me discover my parents WWII naval records and history.

My Mom and Dad both served in the U.S. Navy during WWII. I’m looking for information on how to research their records and history. [more inside]
posted by jabo at 10:12 PM PST - 6 comments

Recommendation for kick ass yet simple Halloween lightshow

I would like to put on a decent Halloween lightshow on the front of my house. Any recommendations for decent LED/laser units that will impress the local kids? Bonus points if it's programmable in some way, but would like to keep the price below $100-$200 depending on features. I don't have a ton of time to do something like projection mapping on my house. Would prefer something that isn't too garish and rainbow colored.
posted by benzenedream at 9:26 PM PST - 4 comments

Another round of Name My Blog!

I'm a way-too-long unemployed education journalist, and I 'd like to keep writing through a blog on civil rights and equity. This would encompass the entire education continuum. I am stuck on a title before I even begin, so a title would really help me a lot. I would love an iconic phrase related to a court case, but "All deliberate speed" was a book, I think. This question is anonymous to separate my posting history from my (theoretical at this point) professional life. Thanks!
posted by anonymous at 8:58 PM PST - 1 comment

Do "psychics" who perform cold readings believe in their own "powers"?

I met a woman who calls herself a medium at an artist's retreat. She spontaneously (and without compensation) performed readings on several people at this retreat, using cold reading techniques. I'm curious if such individuals believe that they themselves have psychic powers, or if they're always/usually aware that they're perpetuating a falsehood. [more inside]
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 6:43 PM PST - 30 comments

How to store a glazed apple cake overnight?

How do I store this apple cake overnight? Covered or not? Refrigerated or not? Air-tight wrapping or loose? It's got a glaze of sugar+milk+brown sugar, if that matters. [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 5:03 PM PST - 14 comments

historical fiction for kids set in London or Malta?

I asked this before about different spots a few years ago, but now I have an older kid too, so let's try it again. [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 4:58 PM PST - 14 comments

Looking for dim sum in San Francisco

I am going to be in San Francisco for a day soon—I am going to be free for lunch. I am looking for your best' dim sum in the city. Extra credit if you explain why it is your best.
posted by prk60091 at 4:42 PM PST - 16 comments

How to collect posts connected to a hashtag?

My boss wants me to record all posts with a given hashtag for one month, two weeks before, and two weeks after a particular event. The event has a hashtag that is unique. How do I do this on a limited budget? [more inside]
posted by b33j at 4:27 PM PST - 10 comments

Apply security to a PDF document when saving

I am looking for a solution to allow superusers to create PDFs with forms that could/would be encrypted when they are saved and only opened by the superuser once saved/submitted and delivered (via email/ftp/dropbox etc)? [more inside]
posted by specialk420 at 4:09 PM PST - 2 comments

What is the easiest method to transfer Google Sites to new Google Sites?

What is the easiest method to transfer Google Sites (soon closing down) to New Google sites? [more inside]
posted by ragtimepiano at 2:04 PM PST - 1 comment

I want to aid the Archives, but how do I scan a magazine?

I found that Archive web site no longer just does sites, but archives full magazines with readable text. Some issues are missing that I have. How can I add them? [more inside]
posted by arniec at 2:00 PM PST - 4 comments

Not quite Flexitarian, but a lot less meat

I'm interested in cutting down my meat intake for a number of reasons. I used to eat a portion of meat at nearly every meal. I've been cutting down to once per day, and I'd like to go down to 2 or 3 times per week instead. I don't think that I want to go down to vegetarian or flexitarian levels, but I am interested in simple, cheap, filling and healthy meals that involve little to no meat (beyond obvious stuff like salad). I have most average kitchen amenities, but no pressure cooker. I'd really like stuff I can get 2 or 3 servings out of. Cookbook or website recommendations are also very welcome.
posted by codacorolla at 1:47 PM PST - 25 comments

How to make a newsletter as painless as possible

I am starting up a newsletter for my organization. This will include a calendar of events plus various other short announcements. Ideally, it would (i) pull in the events from an RSS feed, (ii) allow users to submit announcements for inclusion via some kind of online form, and (iii) allow me to review and edit everything before sending. What's the best way to accomplish this? I don't mind if the initial setup is a bit labor-intensive as long as it's relatively painless after that.
posted by karbonokapi at 1:26 PM PST - 2 comments

How do I choose a toothpaste?

I was at the store looking at the dozens (scores, even?) of toothpaste options, all with various formulations and claims, and it occurred to me that I know nothing about how much of it actually works and what I should be using. What's real, what's not, and how do I know which of the multifarious brands and models to choose?
posted by Pope Guilty at 1:14 PM PST - 32 comments

Boston to Northampton: Car? Bus? Both?

What's the best way to handle transportation from Boston to Northampton and back, plus a few days in Boston proper? I'm trying to decide if I should rent a car for part of my trip, all of my trip, or not at all. Boston locals or frequent visitors: what do you think? Details below the cut. [more inside]
posted by adastra at 1:12 PM PST - 11 comments

Strategies for analyzing/visualizing data points for anomalies

I have a bunch of devices (~100K) that routinely report back their status to a central location. Broadly, the state of the device can be further clarified as either BAD or GOOD. While it is trivial to determine if a device is always good or always bad it is hard to tell how serious a transient amount of bad reports are to be expected. What are some strategies, books, techniques, approaches, etc. I should be investigating to gain insight into this data set. [more inside]
posted by mmascolino at 12:17 PM PST - 10 comments

Woolly Hubby

My husband has become quite obsessed with merino wool clothing over the past year or so. With the holidays coming up, I'd like to get him a nice wool-related gift (doesn't have to be clothing), but he's already bought a lot of stuff for himself. [more inside]
posted by GoldenEel at 11:57 AM PST - 30 comments

Looking for a cartoon on the Dunning-Kruger Effect

I am looking for a particular one-page cartoon that explains the Dunning-Kruger Effect. I saw this cartoon at least 10 years ago on one of the popular comic-cartoon websites such as xkcd.com. It may have been on xkcd.com, but I can't find it there now or anywhere else. It was a perfect portrayal of the Dunning-Kruger Effect. [more inside]
posted by nogero at 11:34 AM PST - 4 comments

Promoted but no talk of raise; how can I approach this?

I have been at the position for less than a year and when the team was restructured, I was offered the position of manager of said team. While I am happy to be given the opportunity in such a short amount of time, there has been no talk of raise and I am unsure how to go about it. [more inside]
posted by ariadne_88 at 11:32 AM PST - 5 comments

BK don't read this......... Pittsburgh, hello

In need of Pittsburgh data! We're considering relocating from Brooklyn to a new city. What about Pittsburgh?! Please give us the Pittsburgh breakdown: public schools, quality of life, great neighborhoods, advantages, drawbacks, the works! [more inside]
posted by Viola at 10:52 AM PST - 10 comments

Vegetarian recipes that don't use meat substitutes.

I hate "fake meat" products. Give me your ideas for great meals that don't rely on those products. [more inside]
posted by monospace at 10:47 AM PST - 36 comments

Help me see and feed my friends!

Have you hosted a regular, open-invite potluck dinner? What made it work or not work? [more inside]
posted by ITheCosmos at 10:46 AM PST - 9 comments

I want to eat all the best things without cooking or leaving my home.

Inspired by this comment from someone who had a superb Chicago deep dish pizza delivered to them in LA, I'd like to hear about your great experiences ordering prepared food from restaurants or suppliers around the US (or even...the world?!). [more inside]
posted by nosila at 10:01 AM PST - 25 comments

South Utah wonderments close to the road?

Later this month I, KerfSpouse, and Li'l Kerf will fly to Vegas, rent a camper van, and drive to southern Utah national parks for a week. We don't have bikes and the child is just about 10. We are all fairly fit. What's close to the road and amazing? I want to step out of the van, walk 100 feet, and gasp. Thanks!
posted by kerf at 9:35 AM PST - 19 comments

Best time to sell comics collection?

I'm sifting through the comics collection from my younger years (1980s) trying to sell them and strategically get the most money. I have a few questions, specifically around events like the release of new Marvel superheroes movies. [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 8:39 AM PST - 5 comments

We all like sheep! Er, all we.

Looking for recommendations for a Handel's Messiah practice app, or just a CD/tracks. An app that I can speed up/slow down would be awesome, but if you have a favorite CD/MP3 recording that you recommend for practicing the Messiah alone I'd like to hear about it. Android is preferred but I have access to an old iPhone if there's a really good iOS-only one.
posted by Tehhund at 8:32 AM PST - 5 comments

How do I convert per capita to actual numbers?

With all the talk with gun deaths going on, I wanted to figure out in real numbers, how many people die in different countries to guns. The common statistic used is gun deaths per 100,000 people. I know for example if there are 50 deaths in a population of 800,000, you get .0000625. Move the decimal point over 4 places to get a rate of 6.25 per 100,000 people. Using those same numbers, how do you get to 50 deaths, knowing the population is 800,000 with a rate of 6.25? I'm sure this is probably basic algebra, but the answer eludes me!
posted by FireStyle at 7:40 AM PST - 5 comments

Windows 10 Update Issue

Having trouble installing Windows 10- Second Boot Phase. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by dbirchum at 7:05 AM PST - 2 comments

"those who can't do, teach." those who can't teach...

I once heard a recruiter tell someone five years into a PhD in philosophy that he'd be better off with prison time on his resume than a stint in academia. I think he was joking, but I'm starting to wonder. I need to find a way to convince employers that I'm not useless just because I made a terrible life choice and tried to become a professor in the humanities. I know I made a huge mistake, but I need to make a living, somehow. [more inside]
posted by halation at 6:30 AM PST - 31 comments

Edifying books for last 15 minutes before sleep?

In the interests of becoming a more well-rounded person, I'd like to absorb some nightly wisdom but without getting so sucked in that I can't sleep. Can you point me in some interesting directions? [more inside]
posted by doornoise at 6:22 AM PST - 12 comments

There is no happiness like mine. I have been eating poetry.

I would like to find a book of poetry, in English, that a second language learner would be able to read without too much trouble (and without the poetry being written for children or coming across as a language textbook). [more inside]
posted by gursky at 6:21 AM PST - 18 comments

Finding someone to be intimate with?

I (30F) would like to find a trustworthy guy to be intimate with on a consistent basis, but am not sure how to go about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:24 AM PST - 8 comments

October 8

You've gotta try this recipe (app)

Looking for an app that will allow me to collect and organize recipes (found online and self-entered) and also to share them with other app users. [more inside]
posted by snorkmaiden at 7:32 PM PST - 21 comments

Entry-level tutorials for SAP BI Launchpad / Web Intelligence

I need to learn how to create reports with SAP BusinessObjects BI Launchpad and the 5 hours of training I had didn't cut it. I can mimic the few basic reports the trainer taught me, but I don't understand them. I'm looking for your favorite SAP BO BI / Web Intelligence tutorials! [more inside]
posted by kimberussell at 7:21 PM PST - 2 comments

Smog ratings on fueleconomy.gov...

Can someone please explain to me how fueleconomy.gov does their smog ratings? Looking at the new Camry hybrid (2018) versus the Accord hybrid (2017). [more inside]
posted by skepticallypleased at 7:17 PM PST - 8 comments

What do you feel is the better promotional tactic?

I run a small business with 75% of my business coming from working live events. I have a single line of products with two price points; $8 and $10. My promotion is any 3 'items' for $20, with a $2bump per $10 item. EX: 2 $8 items & 1 $10 item would be $22.00....I am starting to prepare for the holiday season and looking to stream-line and make the process easier if possible.....My questions...As a customer approaching a vendor table, what would appeal to you more? 1. My current set-up; Any # for $ ? or 2. (some of my peers do) Buy 3, Get one FREE! [more inside]
posted by TwilightKid at 7:14 PM PST - 28 comments

How to auto-delete files in a folder hierarchy to keep total size <12Gb

I have several security cameras which trigger on motion-detect and connect via FTP to my PC where all the video files are deposited into a folder hierarchy. This folder is monitored by pCloud (where I have 12Gb of space available) so anytime video files appear in that folder they are automatically synced to the cloud. Deleting files from the folder of course delete them from the cloud as well. The problem is the cloudspace limit of 12Gb. My cameras will deposit that amount of files within about 7-10 days. Is there any freeware monitoring software (for Windows), or some sort of script I can use, that will constantly monitor this folder hierarchy and upon reaching or approaching 12Gb of total folder+subfolder size, will automatically delete the oldest file(s) in the hierarchy in order to keep the usage under that total limit so I don't eventually blow out my max space on cloud storage? Right now I'm just manually (completely) clearing them out by running a batch file.
posted by tra at 6:59 PM PST - 7 comments

If I can only go to one Chicago restaurant - which one should it be?

My SO and I are going to Chicago for a brief business trip. We'd like to try a local restaurant. We are looking for the down-to-earth food-of-the-people variety, not the pinkies-up caviar variety. If we could only go to one restaurant, which one should we choose? [more inside]
posted by quiet_musings at 6:59 PM PST - 31 comments

Seeking examples of good PHP code and architecture.

I've done a Google search and found lots of people asking for examples of good PHP code, but the answers almost always recommend frameworks, and sometimes libraries. I'm looking for examples of well-written, well-designed code in PHP applications. [more inside]
posted by lore at 6:21 PM PST - 9 comments

Gluten-free, dairy-free teff-based pie dough hack?

I made this whole-grain teff based pie crust tonight. I made it as written and then baked it at 325 for 25 minutes or so in hopes of firming it up. I like the taste a lot, and I like the texture of the whole teff -- but even with the baking it ended up kind of sticky rather than having the texture of a baked dough. Any thoughts on how to modify the recipe to make it a bit more solid in the end? [more inside]
posted by 2 cats in the yard at 6:15 PM PST - 6 comments

how to stop ruminating about an ex-friendship

I keep having intrusive thoughts about how a friendship ended several years ago in my life. I don't want to rekindle the friendship and I feel like I did more than my share to keep the friendship afloat, but I'm having trouble letting go of it and coming to peace. I think about it several times per week and I wish that I would no longer ruminate about it. Outside of therapy, is there anything I can do on my own?
posted by Gosha_Dog at 5:35 PM PST - 8 comments

Coworking space(s) in St. Louis that allow drop-ins

St. Louis MeFites: does anyone know of a coworking space which allows drop-in clients? Grumpybearbride and I will be there for 2 days and are looking for somewhere other than the hotel to get work done and don't want to become members since we don't live there.
posted by grumpybear69 at 5:26 PM PST - 3 comments

Does this Datsun have airbags?

I'm looking at buying a sedan from the 80's or early 90's and came across this Datsun. I'm going to have a mechanic look at it first and foremost, but want to pre-emptively ask if these models had airbags. [more inside]
posted by erattacorrige at 5:22 PM PST - 9 comments

A very important question

I'm trying to remember the name of a c. 2001 CD-ROM mystery/puzzle game with alternate-reality-game elements. [more inside]
posted by theodolite at 5:11 PM PST - 3 comments

What car has post-apocalyptic vibes + can roadtrip + isn't too spendy?

I love the Mercedes G Class and Land Rover Defender 90 (as well as the vibe of pretty much all vintage Land Rovers, generally). I need something reliable / comfy enough to hold up for weekend road trip adventures (so can't go too crazy long ago vintage). I've got approx $25K USD to spend. What make/model/year would you recommend?
posted by red_rabbit at 3:16 PM PST - 23 comments

Marketing plan for research center

Do you have any guidance or resources to suggest how to make a communication and marketing plan? This is for a center within a university that does demographic sociological, and geospatial research. We aim to get more agencies to use our research and analysis services
posted by maurreen at 2:55 PM PST - 3 comments

Digital art shortcuts and sekrits

I'm trying digital art again for the first time in forever. I have an iPad Pro, an Apple Pencil, and ProCreate, and yes, there are so many tutorial videos out there that I'm watching. But! What I'm looking for are simple strategies that I can use right away to make my illustrations look better. That'll help me be happy with my experiments as I work to improve, if that makes any sense. Do you have tips or links to tips? [more inside]
posted by wintersweet at 2:50 PM PST - 3 comments

Small Business Accountant in LA

I run a small business making physical prototypes in the LA, CA, USA area. Can you recommend an accountant to help me stay in line with taxes, expenses, and such?
posted by fake at 2:36 PM PST - 0 comments

Prepaid satellite phone service where credits last indefinitely?

I'd like to maintain a satellite phone that would let me call other regions if a regional emergency rendered local networks useless. I'm happy to pay high usage fees in the even I need to make an emergency call. But I can't find any service options that don't cost hundreds per year. Are there any? [more inside]
posted by reeddavid at 2:34 PM PST - 5 comments

How can I change this very short butch haircut?

I am a woman with short hair who just had a miscommunication with a hairdresser and now have an unflattering “fashy” type haircut — shaved on sides, three inches on top. I would like to change it before going to visit elderly relatives next week. Additional complication: I need to get a scalp biopsy this week too. Am I hosed? [more inside]
posted by sockkitude at 2:13 PM PST - 20 comments

In Search of Gender Analysis Tool for Television

I'm looking for some kind of tracking/analysis tool to be used as a way to track gender in television. How many times does which gender propose any idea, bust down a door, solve a case, get threatened with violence, etc. I'd like to not have to reinvent the wheel, and I'm assuming someone somewhere has down this based on articles and studies I've read (but regrettably not bookmarked for their footnotes). [more inside]
posted by knitcrazybooknut at 2:01 PM PST - 5 comments

What paper weekly planner meets my qualifications?

Recommend to me a weekly, A5, vertical, planner with hours marked out. Plus everything else I list inside. [more inside]
posted by pixiecrinkle at 1:08 PM PST - 8 comments

I'm trying to locate the origin of this poem

Hey, I've recently completed a Hebrew translation of an American show which contains this poem: "'Tis a fearful thing to love what death can touch. [more inside]
posted by Silky Slim at 11:56 AM PST - 4 comments

Data-retrieval-friendly alternatives to MyFitnessPal.

Looking for recommendations for sites with similar functionality to MFP but which make one's data available via REST or some other means that can be fit into a scripted workflow for my vanity web portal project. [more inside]
posted by Fezboy! at 11:25 AM PST - 0 comments

This being a 2-part question about professional pathways

1) Should I apply for a job in my department despite having been discouraged from those directly involved in the hiring process 2) Should I speak up to our hiring manager about how she has handled another aspect of the process? [more inside]
posted by knownfossils at 11:25 AM PST - 9 comments

Is living life like you'd die in six months actually a good idea?

How does it feel to do everything you would do if you only had six months left to live? Do you feel "good" having done so? Did it disrupt your relationships? Did it tank your savings? Are they all they are advertised as? Looking for personal stories, articles, research, or anything else. [more inside]
posted by rebent at 11:00 AM PST - 24 comments

Solo After-Work Activities in Ann Arbor

I am starting a work-from home gig with a company in Ann Arbor, MI in a couple of weeks. Part of the job will involve travel to the mothership for about a week a quarter. What are some fun things to do in Ann Arbor on weekdays between quitting time and bedtime? (Snowflake details within.) [more inside]
posted by murphy slaw at 10:01 AM PST - 15 comments

Pillow King

I have about 8 king size pillow cases I want to convert to regular size. [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 7:45 AM PST - 20 comments

Cosmetic chemists - brands of shampoo/conditioner with best formulation?

I think I remember reading somewhere that cosmetic chemists consider Pantene to have an excellent formulation. Is this true? Are there any other brands that are highly approved by the experts? [more inside]
posted by tangerine_poppies at 7:43 AM PST - 2 comments

Off trail hiking

Is off trail hiking appropriate for cubscouts? What are safety concerns I should be prepared for? [more inside]
posted by xarnop at 7:35 AM PST - 25 comments

Dangerous enough to report?

Is there anything that a person can do when they see another driver do some really questionable stuff? Should I call the police non-emergency line? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 7:07 AM PST - 24 comments

help with rent stabilized lease buyout in NYC

NYC specific: Can you recommend a lawyer or other resources to look into asking my landlord to buy out my stabilized lease? I've been on the same lease for almost 20 years.
posted by anonymous at 6:19 AM PST - 5 comments


With all the good domain names taken, I was taking a look at the long list of new top level domains to try see if any might suit a proposed website. The ICANN list of TLDs - which is now quite long - contains a number of TLD extensions that are not actually available to register. Does the fact that they are on the list mean that they will eventually become available to register? [more inside]
posted by moorooka at 5:06 AM PST - 1 comment

Long War 2 or War of the Chosen?

Finishing up my first XCOM 2 campaign. If you've played both Long War 2 and War of the Chosen AND have a time machine, AND decide to use it to go back to when you finished your first vanilla campaign, which would you play as a follow-up? [more inside]
posted by Ducks or monkeys at 3:59 AM PST - 2 comments

True stories of atonement

I'm looking for stories about someone/s that did something/s terrible, and then not only realized what they had done was terrible but took active steps to atone for it in action. For example: by making reparations to the victims above and beyond what was required by law, by taking steps to ensure such a thing never happened again, by actively sacrificing for general greater good because the specific thing they'd destroyed could no longer be fixed, etc. [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 2:59 AM PST - 15 comments

Diagnose my knee!

Short version - it hurts to put weight on my bent knee. The pain is at the front, roughly in the region of kneecap. There has been some tenderness just below the knee cap but that's not always present (currently isn't) so could be coincidence. [more inside]
posted by missmagenta at 2:21 AM PST - 5 comments

Belated Thanks; Funeral Version

Today is the 3 month anniversary of my mother's death. After the funeral, I intended to promptly send thank you cards to those who attended the service or sent flowers/money/food. I think about it every single day, and I've even started to draft some of the cards in my head, but I haven't put pen to paper. [more inside]
posted by kbar1 at 12:50 AM PST - 17 comments

October 7

Good translations of ancient classics

A couple of years ago a professor introduced me to incredible translations of the Iliad, the Odyssey, and the Aeneid. Even though I had always found legends, epics, and mythology boring, I was completely hooked by them. Now, I'm wanting more- but instead of sticking to the Greco-Roman classics, I want to expand to the equivalent in other cultures. But I'm not sure what they are, or where to find good translations for them. [more inside]
posted by perplexion at 8:33 PM PST - 29 comments

Tricky job offer situation

I’ve been working a job for a short period of time. I’ve been offered a job that seems better, but don’t think I can responsibly take it. [more inside]
posted by desert outpost at 7:39 PM PST - 22 comments

Why don't I like eating?

I want to eat more but I feel like I have to force myself to eat most of the time. It feels like a chore. I've been keeping track of my calories and I get lucky if I even make it to 1200 calories a day. [more inside]
posted by sheepishchiffon at 7:05 PM PST - 22 comments

Is there an easy-ish fix for a damaged wood tabletop?

I'd like to fix scratches and the worn away finish on a wood tabletop. Is there a way I can do it myself without taking it to a professional? Details and images inside. [more inside]
posted by mayta at 6:23 PM PST - 6 comments

Adventerous PC Games similar to Zelda?

Hi. I just purchased a Gaming PC (Lenovo Legion Y520) and I am trying to find some similar games to Zelda that are adventure-oriented and action-oriented. It does not matter what historical era it is in as long as it is adveturesome with a spin of fantasy if possible. I am not too keen on multiplayer games (The Elder Scrolls does not seem appealing to my taste). Platform is my top favourite, but other kinds will do too. Thanks in advance!
posted by RearWindow at 6:22 PM PST - 15 comments

Help me choose a website builder for a vacation rental property

I'm trying to help someone who needs to generate income from a property in the Caribbean and does not wish to use Airbnb. I'm having difficulty choosing which website builder to use. I need to pick the best one, that will allow me to use my friend's own domain name, and keep monthly expenses as low as possible. Please help me MetaFilter!
posted by racersix6 at 2:01 PM PST - 7 comments

Temporary protection of unfinished hardwood floors

I pulled up the (terribly ugly, bad condition) vinyl flooring in the kitchen of my 100 year old house. Removal of underlying plywood and gluey stuff went well (if laboriously) to reveal oak hardwood floors that appear to match the rest of the house. However, the majority of the boards seem to be unfinished. How can I protect them for ~two years before doing a full refinishing (as part of a kitchen remodel)? [more inside]
posted by chemicalsyntheticist at 1:50 PM PST - 14 comments

Scenes of bodily transformation in film via Machine?

I'm looking for clips or scenes of extreme bodily transformation in science fiction films via machine or a mechanical process. For example: "The Fly." [more inside]
posted by egeanin at 1:44 PM PST - 19 comments

Best books on design and decoration, for a general audience?

What are the best books on design or decoration, geared toward a general audience? I am not interested in "how to" books, but rather ones that explore the history and theory of designing and decorating. I am especially interested in fashion, graphics, architecture, and the decorative arts. I realize that this is a broad topic, but if there are books that you especially enjoyed, please let me know the names as well as what makes them so good.
posted by mortaddams at 1:32 PM PST - 5 comments

Introduction to Theater

Can you recommend some good books/articles to help develop an appreciation of theater as an audience member? [more inside]
posted by Mavri at 1:26 PM PST - 11 comments

Simple high-protein calorie-dense vegetarian food!

I'd like to eat a lot less meat, for various reasons. (I'm still fine with dairy and eggs.) I'm a runner and weightlifter with a "high motor" sort of metabolism; previous attempts at eating less meat failed because I didn't plan properly and wasn't getting enough calories or protein. I'm also not much of a cook. I'd love your simple, go-to recipes for high-protein, calorie-dense veggie meals (suitable for Sunday meal prep a plus!). [more inside]
posted by Stevia Agave at 1:12 PM PST - 24 comments

Are there good deals to be found on new, unlocked iPhones? Where?

My iPhone 5s is doing odd things that tell me it's nearing the end of its lifespan so I'm looking to buy a new (not used or refurbished) unlocked iPhone 7. No need for a payment plan, but also no need for a contract with a particular carrier because I'm a Ting customer. I realize iPhones aren't discounted per se, but I've heard they are often sold with a retailer gift card as a sweetener. How do I score a deal like that? Or am I out of luck because I need an unlocked phone?
posted by DrGail at 12:39 PM PST - 7 comments

Help us fall in love with sweet potatoes!

We're getting lots of sweet potatoes in our farmbox. Unfortunately, neither of us likes them very much and they go unused. Help us find a recipe that will make us want to eat them! Levels of difficulty: vegetarian, corn allergy (corn includes distilled or white vinegar). A few details inside. [more inside]
posted by rednikki at 12:33 PM PST - 58 comments

Help me critique my boyfriend's website please!

I would be very grateful if I had some feedback from some of you guys in order to help make his site look and sound better! [more inside]
posted by Trusted Sidekick at 12:23 PM PST - 25 comments

FRIGIDAIRE warranty help.

How can I get FRIGIDAIRE to honor their warranty on my washing machine? [more inside]
posted by BillyAnne at 12:15 PM PST - 3 comments

Crowdfunding logistics

Goal: crowdfunding for a friend's upcoming $20,000 medical expense. Complication: friend has an impulse-spending problem. They have given me permission to organize the fundraiser, and asked me to hold the money for them and pay money out as needed, which I am happy to do. How do I do this in a good, responsible, above-board way? [more inside]
posted by nebulawindphone at 12:09 PM PST - 3 comments

This is the poops.

We're at our wits' end with potty training. Our son turned four in August. He's great at going pee on the potty but we can't seem to get him to poop and we're at the point where we're all just way past frustrated at changing dirty underwear. Help. [more inside]
posted by synecdoche at 12:02 PM PST - 23 comments

What's it like to live in Durham/Chapel Hill?

There's a good chance that I will be offered a job at UNC Chapel Hill soon and will have to make a quick decision about whether to take it. It's a dream job except that I'm unsure whether I'd be happy settling in in the Triangle. I'm mostly worried about finding a social/dating pool as a single 30-something woman with no kids or friends in the area who tends to be into creative types. [more inside]
posted by deus ex machina at 11:10 AM PST - 10 comments

Shoes for walking and looking good

Middle-aged heterosexual woman here. Been wearing black Merrell mocs for several years and want to branch out, possibly into something with a bit more style. [more inside]
posted by zadcat at 9:34 AM PST - 20 comments

Trying to clean graphite-like marks off sturdy porcelain plates

My Mom's (5 y/o, very sturdy) white porcelain plates has strange little marks on it that look like someone wrote on them with a graphite pencil. Not a big deal, they just end up looking worn like old restaurant plates. I've tried soaking in hot water and vinegar and scrubbing and got off about 1/3 of the marks. What can I do to get them off? [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 9:24 AM PST - 10 comments

How can I deal with my issues with sex?

I have always had issues with sex, I was born in a conservative household where no one would ever speak about or has ever spoken about sex. I was taught that it was bad, that men who like to have sex are bad, that it offends God or whatever. I don't believe in any of that, not anymore and yet I'm a 24 year old male and I haven't had sex yet or even a girlfriend. I think my issues with sex have stopped me from doing so even when I have had several opportunities. [more inside]
posted by Braxis at 9:08 AM PST - 15 comments

What person can I pay to find my sister a therapist who takes medicaid?

So my sister is very poor in NYC and had a mental breakdown. One of the reasons is that the therapist she was going to stopped taking her insurance. And she can't find one. So she just keeps getting worse. I tried for a bit but I'm out of my depth here. I need a pro. Who can I hire to be a middleman for her and find someone that takes her insurance, that prescribes her medication and will accept her as a client? Are there agents for this sort of thing? I WILL throw money at it.
posted by rileyray3000 at 9:00 AM PST - 13 comments

Explain PS4 to me like I’m a 55 year old

I am relatively old, and have never played video games. Can you recommend a few PS4 games that would serve as a type of syllabus help me to develop proficiency and to use the console with enjoyment? [more inside]
posted by muhonnin at 6:44 AM PST - 28 comments

Writing a letter to someone I used to see, but have since misunderstood

Two former co-students, 20s, both young and old. First love kind of feelings. He broke up citing time and emotional commitments taking a toll. I wanted to stay as I've had a difficult time with all relationships and have high tolerance for pain, emotionality and difficulty, if I really like someone. With our history of differences I don't want to keep sitting on our pains forever, and mindful it will affect our present and future relationships. [more inside]
posted by yuyueying at 6:34 AM PST - 25 comments

Looking for a strapless non-binder binder!

I'm a queer femme but have never really been into my boobs. I am looking for something that is STRAPLESS and binder-esque but I don't necessarily need the full compression of a binder. What do you recommend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:46 AM PST - 7 comments

Laid off 1 month into new job. What now?

Started a new job in a new field, was laid off six weeks after my job started. Have no idea what to do next. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:46 AM PST - 5 comments

Spouse quit smoking--but I'm skeptical

This is the nth time my husband has quit smoking. I'd be very proud of him EXCEPT he's lied to me before--it turns out that he's smoked several times during the times he allegedly quit. Friends and relatives have confirmed this to me. It makes me upset knowing he lied to me during those times. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:46 AM PST - 19 comments

Bruges & Luxembourg – the other top 10 stuff lonely planet left out

Bonjour/hallo! We'll be heading over to Bruges & Lux (or more like these are the places that are lined up for dropping bags&sleeping)* in Nov/Dec for a couple of weeks, and I'd love to hear recommendations for side street second hand stores, shops that stock decent street wear (or mtb/cycling gear!), le yum street food or coffee shops and/or art galleries or anything else locals hold close to their hearts that are the bees knees?** thank you in advance! [more inside]
posted by speakeasy at 3:44 AM PST - 1 comment

My SIL lashed out at me bc I said I don't want to be yelled at.

I've been yelled at by my sister in law twice (in front of my brother and kids once and in front of my parents, at my parents' home). I told her & my brother (his husband) in a short SMS that I don't want to be subjected to my SIL's anger anymore. Now I have to apologize if I ever want to see her again. [more inside]
posted by Ifite at 1:23 AM PST - 58 comments

October 6

Feminist Hidden Object Games?

I found the world of hidden object games a few months ago and I'm hooked. The scenes and graphics are beautiful, looking for hidden objects is addicting, and it scratches my fantastical escapism itch pretty well, but the story lines are often "damsel-in-distress" and it's really annoying! [more inside]
posted by E3 at 11:29 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me adopt a cat!

I desperately want to adopt a cat but my landlord is saying my floor is "pet-free", even though I know there are animals around. Help! [more inside]
posted by jameaterblues at 11:07 PM PST - 12 comments

What are some signs that a city isn't right for you?

What would you say are some clear signs that a particular city isn't a good fit for you, especially after living there for a while and giving different things a try? [more inside]
posted by improvingmylife00 at 7:21 PM PST - 19 comments

Let me go wiiiiiiiiiiiiiilllllld

Do the Violent Femmes get paid every time a ballpark organist plays the riff from "Blister in the Sun"? How much would a thing like that pay?
posted by DirtyOldTown at 6:26 PM PST - 8 comments

To what extent are ''drunk man's actions the sober man's thoughts''?

I have received drunk texts by the guy i am seeing for a while, which were quite bad and accusing even though I am certain I have treated him properly and really tried to make him feel comfortable. Afterwards he said he did not remember anything and ' I should not take seriously what people say when they are drunk'. [more inside]
posted by Salicornia at 5:02 PM PST - 36 comments

What are good sites for ideas on having a house built someday?

I'm looking for sites to learn more and find ideas of what's possible. Things I'm thinking of are building in such a way to maximize the terrain for natural light and heating or cooling the home, etc. Basically smart innovative ways to build that aren't very common but should be.
posted by andywolf at 4:24 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me find my perfect printer desk/cart!

I am looking for a desk or cart to carry my Brother HL-5250DN laser printer and a flatbed scanner. Difficulty: I would like to put the printer on one of the lower shelves, and my scanner on the top shelf. [more inside]
posted by dhens at 4:13 PM PST - 5 comments

High Cost of visiting during Holidays

Should my wife and I spend the money to go visit family during the holidays? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 3:34 PM PST - 16 comments

Outer space or city infrastructure?

Can anybody make heads or tails of this thing? It just appeared outside my house in the last day or two with no explanation. Verizon has been doing some work on our street, and there was electrical stuff in the neighborhood a week or two ago, but.... It's vertical, and has some cables that disappear down into the pavement through a covered hole: see this snip. Would sure love to know what it might be, four feet from my front door!
posted by acm at 1:28 PM PST - 13 comments

Which app shows me the return of a financial portfolio?

I’d like to have a dashboard of my financial investments on my phone. I think I’ve tried most of the smartphone or web apps, but none can fulfill the three criteria inside... [more inside]
posted by oxit at 1:20 PM PST - 1 comment

When your workout buddy wets the bed

My son, who just turned four, has been clamoring to exercise with me. I was hesitant at first, but we've been having a blast going for quick runs, having dance offs, and doing yoga together. I'd like to regularly introduce new activities to keep it interesting for him, especially when it starts to get too cold to go outside. Any suggestions for how we can work out together in an age-appropriate way? [more inside]
posted by galvanized unicorn at 12:40 PM PST - 18 comments

Les sagas familiales

What are your favorite French-language family saga novels or novels that recount the story of a life? [more inside]
posted by andrewesque at 12:26 PM PST - 7 comments

Historic demographic data from censuses?

Is there a (relatively) quick and easy way to find demographic information for from past U.S. Federal Censuses? In particular, I'm looking for racial breakdowns for a particular town over the decades.
posted by entropicamericana at 11:58 AM PST - 9 comments

Podcasts about the design process

I'm looking for podcasts that feature creators talking in detail about how and why they created the things that they did. The field doesn't matter so much, but I love listening to brilliant designers/creators take things apart and talk about what works, what doesn't, and why they built things the way they did. Some examples and snowflakes below the cut. [more inside]
posted by firechicago at 11:54 AM PST - 9 comments

To repair or not to repair?

A few days ago, my car was sideswiped in a parking lot. The offender didn't leave a note, of course, so it's on me to pay the $1000 deductible and my insurance will pay the remaining $100 the body shop says it will cost to fix. I would normally move forward with the repair, grumbling yet resigned to my fate, except for a few issues that have me seeking your advice about what I should do. [more inside]
posted by DrGail at 11:22 AM PST - 20 comments

That isn't your phone number! It's mine!

Today, after my mother in law mentioned her phone number being spoofed, I got curious and googled my own number to see if anyone had reported it as a spam caller. What I found: Someone else with my same last name is listed as the owner of my phone number; their listed address is a very similar address to mine--one that has caused mixups in the past. What might have happened, and what, if anything, should I do about it? [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 10:24 AM PST - 5 comments

Tips for LA Pod Fest?

So LA Pod Fest starts tonight (for possibly the last time) and I'm attending. For anyone who's been before, I wonder if you could tell me how it works with attending specific tapings. Is it just first come-first served? I couldn't find the answer online. Other tips would be welcome too, of course. Excited for the Dollop taping tomorrow night!
posted by Silky Slim at 10:17 AM PST - 2 comments

Getting to the past of an image of the future

Can you help me find the rights status of this image? I would like to use it with an article in a printed non-profit association magazine that I am designing. [more inside]
posted by ecorrocio at 10:16 AM PST - 4 comments

can't remember a movie quote

It was from a romcom I think... [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 10:14 AM PST - 4 comments

Please explain this UK parking/stopping/loading sign to me.

I think I don't understand the difference between stopping and loading. [more inside]
posted by cincinnatus c at 9:50 AM PST - 4 comments

Coping Strategies for a Stressful Week at Work

I'm coping badly with an event at work and need advice on how to manage today and next week. [more inside]
posted by jojo and the benjamins at 9:19 AM PST - 6 comments

Has he created unrealistic boundaries for his opposite sex friendships?

Previously asked for advice regarding boyfriend's 'emotional affair' (in my opinion). We are now trying to navigate the waters together, looking for advice (no DTMFA advice, though please). [more inside]
posted by Willow251 at 9:15 AM PST - 25 comments

Help me kill my Facebook account, except for events

Is there a way to deactivate Facebook except for (1) event invitations, and (2) seeing events my friends are going to? I want to quit everything about Facebook (newsfeed, having a profile, all the usual stuff). But I find the event functions necessary and/or handy. Help? [more inside]
posted by Beardman at 9:07 AM PST - 10 comments

Where did this Facebook ad go?

I'm trying to go back to an ad for an 8-week fitness program I just saw on Facebook this morning. I'm in NYC so I assume the ad was NYC-specific. Unfortunately, I didn't save the ad, and it's not in my Activity Log (because I didn't like, react to, or comment on it). So what I want to know is if there's either some way to go back to the ad, which I saw on the iPhone app, or if anyone can independently find the ad from my description (inside). [more inside]
posted by jejune at 8:55 AM PST - 6 comments

Safety of debit and credit cards with chips

Are debit and credit cards with chips less safe than those without chips if they're lost or stolen? [more inside]
posted by Elsie at 8:29 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me identify this band that surfaced a couple years ago

I was recently reminded of a band (indie maybe?) that gained some prominence a couple of years ago. They had something of an orchestral emo sound. The one popular song I remember had two videos: one was set at a beachfront carnival -- maybe with a mixture of color and B&W? The other was alive performance that I want to say was in a church. Help?
posted by DrAstroZoom at 8:14 AM PST - 15 comments

Like the Ken Burns effect, but for panning & zooming over movie clips

I am looking for a movie-editing app that will let me do things similar to the Ken Burns effect, but applied to movie clips rather than still photos. For example, if I have a clip that shows a person walking from the left to the right of the frame, I'd to be able to extract a cropped shot (lower resolution) in which the person stays centered. [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 7:32 AM PST - 5 comments

Where does this phrase come from?

I've seen this phrase on many dating profiles of ladies in New York city and Brooklyn: "my dealbreakers are numerous and arbitrary." Where does it come from? [more inside]
posted by critzer at 7:15 AM PST - 23 comments

Breaking champagne against the bricks? Celebrating a new house with kids

What are some meaningful and fun traditions or ways to celebrate a new home with youngish kids? And conversely, what are some ways to say goodbye to the home that they were born in? [more inside]
posted by thenewbrunette at 7:13 AM PST - 17 comments

Do you brush your cat's teeth? How is that working for you?

So, the vet pointed out that our cat's little gum was all reddened and suggested that we start brushing her teeth. Tips would be appreciated! [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 7:07 AM PST - 18 comments

Rearranged Food in Freezer. Stopped working. Emptied. Working again.

So yesterday all the food in my freezer was rearranged. Last night I came home to find all my breastmilk thawed. I assumed the door had been left open. Checked it a few hours later. Still thawed. Assumed temp was too high. Turned down temp. This morning, milk still thawed. Freaked out. Took all the milk away. Removed all the food. The freezer suddenly works again. What's happening? [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 6:54 AM PST - 4 comments

Women's Plus Sized Jeans Recommendations

I'd like to buy some jeans, ideally on-line. I am large and would like to find something that is comfortable, looks okay, and doesn't make me cry when I put them on. Suggestions appreciated! [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 6:40 AM PST - 21 comments

Two cats, one (not litter-scattering) box

I have two adorable cats. They love to frolic, and by frolic, I mean "kick litter out of their box like it is their job." This is no longer tenable, especially as dog friend is very interested. What are the best closed-top or otherwise litter-trapping boxes that can accommodate two fluffy Maine Coon mixes? (Pictures of cats fitting in things duly provided) [more inside]
posted by corb at 6:17 AM PST - 14 comments

Pussy willow attracting hornets (no nest!). What's my recourse?

We have a pussy willow bush in our front yard that's attracting swarms of yellow jackets (irritating) and bald-faced hornets (terrifying!). Exterminator found no nest and was generally unhelpful. What to do now? [more inside]
posted by Knicke at 5:36 AM PST - 11 comments

Heli-Skiing in Canada: What's New?

I am supposed to write an article with something newsworthy about heli-skiing in Canada (and possibly cat-skiing) to promote a company's heli-skiing offer. I know nothing about winter sports. IS there anything new happening in the world of Heli-Skiing? [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom at 2:40 AM PST - 4 comments

Keyboard Cover for Chromebook when in Tablet Mode

I am considering purchasing a Acer R13 Chromebook that does the "flip" 360 keyboard foldback thing in order to be used as a tablet. But, I tried one instore and I don't like the odd sensation of pressing the keys when holding it as a tablet, its is quite heavy so its an odd feeling. Are there any covers that somehow cover the keyboard when its folded back as a tablet but still enable easy switching between Tablet and Computer mode?
posted by mary8nne at 2:07 AM PST - 2 comments

Every day the same again

The British pop band McCarthy published three albums but only one excellent song: From the damned [YT]. If you'd care to recommend similar tunes I'd be "stoked" etc. [more inside]
posted by monocultured at 1:20 AM PST - 11 comments

Strong reactions in relationships

In my romantic relationships I tend to verbally lash out when I feel hurt or insecure. The emotions are so strong and I can't seem to process them first and then talk in a more open and kind way. As a result, my partners tend to feel at least slightly unsafe being themselves with me. I deeply want transparency in my relationships—I'm very transparent—but the only way for that to flourish is for both people to feel safe being themselves. [more inside]
posted by miaow at 12:32 AM PST - 24 comments

October 5

Digital artists in their underwear

"Hey, can I use your art for a single cover for my music for free?" OMG yes! Here, let me take off my watermark. "Hey could you send me the PSD file?" ...!!! [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 9:58 PM PST - 10 comments

The case of the mystery baby formula delivery

Is this a case of crossed-analytics or just a coincidence? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 9:24 PM PST - 13 comments

Finger finger finger finger

What were bar food in the 40’s, 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, and 80’s, and if so, what was it? All details, every dealings, is welcome. Thank you.
posted by oflinkey at 9:14 PM PST - 9 comments

Is my maple tree in trouble?

My maple tree, located in northern Ohio, is looking odd, having developed large dark spots on most of its leaves. I've never seen this before. Is this a sign of disease?
posted by rdauphin at 7:41 PM PST - 6 comments

Vitamin Recommendation

I am looking for vitamin recommendations. Specifically, I want to take DHA. I am also interested in Vitamin D and multivitamin (iron is fine). [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 6:03 PM PST - 7 comments

Seeking a curated Buffy viewing guide

I'm thinking about rewatching Buffy with my boyfriend, who would be watching it for the first time. He's kind of on the fence about the show, so I'd like to skip some of the weaker/pure filler episodes. Is there a guide I can follow for what's worth watching and what's skippable? [more inside]
posted by brett at 5:54 PM PST - 8 comments

I have some questions about buying a refurbished iphone 6s

I'm leaning toward buying a iphone 6s, and wanted to see if there is any reason not to do that, at the moment. [more inside]
posted by andoatnp at 5:16 PM PST - 10 comments

Preserving preserves - avoiding the fuzz

Best methods to keep Chestnut cream (creme de marron) from mold? [more inside]
posted by jadepearl at 4:30 PM PST - 11 comments

I Dream a Highway

Do you spend time visualizing, writing about, or otherwise imagining in detail a future version of your life? Have you found any particular methods to be more skillful and helpful than others? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 4:23 PM PST - 3 comments

where to begin: Chinese history

I have the standard American liberal arts education. I have come to realize that it is pretty lacking in certain areas. I'd like to read more history, specifically of China. Where do I start?
posted by Shohobohaum Za at 2:54 PM PST - 9 comments

Activities for an older man with dementia?

My father moved into a long-term care home this week. He is (understandably) unhappy to be in the care home and has complained about being "useless." What are some activities that would interest an older man with moderate dementia and mobility issues? In particular, what are some activities that might give him a sense of purpose or accomplishment? [more inside]
posted by meadowlands at 2:36 PM PST - 23 comments

Accordion Repair in New York City in 2017?

The bass reeds on my beloved Hohner are suddenly way out of tune, and accordion repair seems to be a dying craft. Can anyone recommend a good accordion store in NYC? [more inside]
posted by bicyclefish at 2:27 PM PST - 4 comments

Is Google Project Fi a dead end?

Seems like if there is such a limited number of phones that work with it, and the trend is seemingly to fewer phones, it may not have much a future? I am considering switching to it, as I like the billing model, but if it's not going to have much a lifespan it may not be worth the hassle.
posted by mzurer at 2:07 PM PST - 16 comments

Wellbutrin and constipation: has anything worked for you?

Wellbutrin and constipation: has anything worked for you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:35 PM PST - 13 comments

How to overcome writer's despair?

How do I overcome the negativity that prevents me from completing partially-finished writing projects? [more inside]
posted by windykites at 1:05 PM PST - 15 comments

Why, Lyft, why?

Lyft says I disputed credit card charges with my bank. I did not do this, and told them so. They refuse to tell me what's going on. [more inside]
posted by schroedingersgirl at 12:44 PM PST - 9 comments

Adorably...spicy hand embroidered wedding handkerchiefs

I need your help with some short phrases to embroider on handkerchiefs for a wedding. [more inside]
posted by atomicstone at 12:20 PM PST - 27 comments

Window Treatment Debacle

I have to drill new holes directly above mistake holes for curtain hardware. What is the strongest filler for drywall, for small hole repairs? Joint compound or a certain type of spackling? [more inside]
posted by Avosunspin at 12:11 PM PST - 12 comments

Is there a ghost in my computer, or is it Russian hackers?

For the last 6 months or so, weird stuff has been happening when I logged onto Facebook--now it's started with Twitter. What is going on? Are my accounts hacked? [more inside]
posted by Miss T.Horn at 11:26 AM PST - 8 comments

Asymmetrical cars?

Has there ever been a mass-produced, consumer-level car that was asymmetrical in design? [more inside]
posted by bondcliff at 11:16 AM PST - 31 comments

Sewing projects with a 4 year old

What are good sewing projects I can do with my 4 year old that don't require too much set-up time and plenty of sewing machine time? [more inside]
posted by jillithd at 11:14 AM PST - 20 comments

Software to manage science photos

We take a lot of photos in the lab. Ideally, I want to be able to tag batches with project, organism(s), location collected (text is fine, don't need geotags), etc. and also have a notes field for more detailed info. Ideally, we could then select photos to create reference albums to identify various organisms, with notes and photo. Is there software that will make it easy to tag these and access them from 2-3 Win 7 computers using our network drive for storage? What does your lab do? [more inside]
posted by momus_window at 11:02 AM PST - 10 comments

Putting Ubuntu on my craptop

I have an hp Stream 13. It has Windows 10 and it sucks. I think some of my problems will be solved with Ubuntu. But how do I do that? Or find someone who will do it for me? I have many questions. [more inside]
posted by blnkfrnk at 10:57 AM PST - 5 comments

Southern Spain in January

Thanks to your input, Ireland is out, and although Italy was a close contender (when you ask a Florentine where to go for vacation, you should not be surprised at the answer, nor the fact that they know of a great agroturismo to recommend) we have opted for Southern Spain. So, questions for the more Spain-experienced among you... [more inside]
posted by PussKillian at 10:31 AM PST - 10 comments

Wisdom teeth removal pain

My husband is scheduled to have his wisdom teeth removed next month, and he is super super super anxious about the pain. For people who have been through this, could you please let us know how painful it actually was for you? [more inside]
posted by barnoley at 9:41 AM PST - 76 comments

How do foreigners rent in Sweden?

My girlfriend and I are looking to rent a place in Sweden for 3 months, MAYBE a year (depending on circumstances). Does anyone here have experience with that? [more inside]
posted by gucci mane at 9:33 AM PST - 8 comments

Crowdsourcing a Kitchen Reno Design

My wife and I have put together a little bit of money to renovate our (very small). Only we can't decide on a plan. Give us your two cents. [more inside]
posted by Popular Ethics at 9:13 AM PST - 34 comments

Help identify this Spanish-language short story

Ages ago in my high school Spanish class we read a short story about a ghost. The basic plot summary was that a man dies and wakes up as a ghost; nobody else can see or hear him. At the end of the story he realizes that every person enters their own plane of existence upon death and stay there forever. He's disgusted at the thought of his wife passing through a miasma of ghosts, millions of whom are probably spying on her. [more inside]
posted by lilac girl at 8:47 AM PST - 2 comments

Custom spreadsheet auto populates Google map with names and icons?

Is there a way to enter a bit of verbiage (say a character's name), along with an icon, and then have that name and icon auto appear in pre-determined spots on a Google Map? [more inside]
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 8:36 AM PST - 1 comment

Pizza stone needed, longevity required.

I'm searching for a pizza stone that won't break in 6-12 months of (moderate?) use. [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 8:06 AM PST - 27 comments

Technology that is perfect despite being obsolete?

I have a Samsung YP-U5 mp3 player from 2009 that is absolutely perfect in every way. It's small. Its battery last forever. The sound quality is great. And it has a usb plug integrated so it never needs a cable. It is the perfectly ideal personal music device and yet technology has moved on and, should it ever break, it will be very very difficult to find something new that does its job as well as it does. What are some other devices that were perfect and where future developments and advances only served to worsen them?
posted by 256 at 7:41 AM PST - 42 comments

Applying for a Masters degree - will my transcript let me down?

I'm considering applying for a Master's course in the next couple of years. However, while I have the degree result that meets entry requirements, my transcript from my BA isn't particularly outstanding. Will this be an issue? Further details, excitingly, inside! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:16 AM PST - 8 comments

I seek punk rock compression socks!

This question is for all the punks out there with disabilities that want compression socks. I want awesome punk rock compression socks. Specifically, I really want black and white horizontal stripes, other two-color regular stripes in bold colors, solid black, leopard print, plaid... you know, socks that punks like. Do these exist? Where can I get them? Sock Dreams is as close as I've found and they're still a bit on the tame side.
posted by bile and syntax at 7:15 AM PST - 11 comments

mentoring a slow coworker

I am a newish hire. I have been asked to "mentor" a younger, less experienced new hire who is not my report, on work that isn't for my projects. He asks me to solve problems I think he should be solving on his own, or at least with significantly more independent effort before asking for help. How much of this is reasonable? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:15 AM PST - 22 comments

Ok I guess we're doing this Boston thing again

If you were headed to the MFA in Boston this Saturday from Points North, how would you travel to minimize stress and cost? [more inside]
posted by selfnoise at 6:57 AM PST - 11 comments

How do YOU meditate?

I am trying to start a meditation practice, and I'm curious both about how people meditate (how often, how long, guided or silent) and also about how/whether people incorporate the lessons(?) of meditation into their daily lives. [more inside]
posted by cider at 6:48 AM PST - 25 comments

Tamper-resistant jewellery packaging for international shipping

How do I package jewellery for international shipping so that one can tell if the package has been opened by anyone after I ship them off? [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 1:52 AM PST - 17 comments

Websites designed to appeal to girls 12-15 years old

I don't currently have any girls 12-15 years old in my social group so I'm asking your daughters, nieces, cousins, grand-daughters, etc, for website designs they find appealing. [more inside]
posted by b33j at 1:32 AM PST - 11 comments

October 4

Ah, time for another where should I move question! Farmer edition...

So, if you had a reasonably solid nest egg and wanted to move somewhere and start a small farm (and had the experience to do so), where would you move? I've been reading all the "where should I move" threads, but our own little snowflakes are below the fold... [more inside]
posted by jrobin276 at 10:20 PM PST - 24 comments

Freezer left open, breastmilk partially thawed. Safe?

The freezer was left not-quite closed and my breastmilk that was in there is all partially thawed. Each bag is large chunk of ice surrounded by liquid. I would say about 2/3 - 3/4 ice surrounded by 1/4-1/3 liquid. Can I just close the freezer door and pretend this never happened and use the milk as I would have before?
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 9:23 PM PST - 15 comments

3 days in Glacier national park

I'll be spending this upcoming weekend (plus Monday) in Glacier national park. This is my first trip, and I don't know what to do given all the current closures. Help! [more inside]
posted by isnotchicago at 8:27 PM PST - 4 comments

Sexual Attraction Without Further Development in Dating?

I'm just wondering if any of you have had similar experiences where you started out seeing each other and then things settled into a mostly sexual dynamic (not seeing a future) - but the relationship actually developed when the sex stopped/did not, or that you realised while dating that it was only sex that was keeping you together and you eventually ended it? Any tips/advice to tide through this confusing period? [more inside]
posted by eustaciavye87 at 7:03 PM PST - 11 comments

Dinners to keep me from the drive-through

Looking for fast, well-balanced meals that don’t require much prep or produce a lot of dirty dishes. [more inside]
posted by the sockening at 7:00 PM PST - 37 comments

Oh Omar, weigh art thou? Ikea tolerances.

So I'm just about ready to drop a boodle on Metro shelving from The Container Store. For $reasons, I need wire shelving of these styles and if I needed super high weight tolerance I'd shut up and get Metro Commercial. But I need middling, ideally ~200 pounds per shelf evenly distributed. But nothing I can google is telling me the weight tolerance of Omar. Am I missing something? I'd much rather Omar than Metro if I can. Home Depot and Amazon and Target offerings are too lightweight compared to Metro, but hope me with Omar, please?
posted by tilde at 5:33 PM PST - 12 comments

Best samurai manga available in English?

What are the best samurai/martial arts manga of all time, that are available in English? Extra points if it is a completed story (rather than ongoing) Extra points if they are still in print/easily purchased.
posted by coffee and minarets at 4:50 PM PST - 12 comments

Make Word bold everything between [ and ]

How can I tell Word to make everything that appears in square brackets bold, including the brackets, in an existing document? [more inside]
posted by Sternmeyer at 3:49 PM PST - 5 comments

Stomach pain with antibiotics

After taking a mega-dose of Amoxicillin prior to a teeth cleaning, I’m having severe stomach pains. How can I get some relief? [more inside]
posted by bluloo at 3:02 PM PST - 11 comments

How much should I charge to manage social media?

I have an opportunity to manage social media for a family friend's small but successful local restaurant. How much and how to charge for my services? [more inside]
posted by TurquoiseZebra at 2:09 PM PST - 9 comments

Improving sight reading when you've been Doing It Wrong...

I've played one instrument or another since I was in elementary school. I've always been a lousy sight reader and I'm wondering if there's any way to fix it now, in middle age. [more inside]
posted by Smearcase at 1:49 PM PST - 13 comments

Munich art identification

I'm trying to find the name, and hopefully a picture, of a Klee (or maybe Kandinsky?) painting that I saw in Munich, circa 2003 - 2004. Odds are very good that it was part of the collection at the Lenbachhaus or the Pinakothek der Moderne, but I spent a lot of time in a lot of museums, so it could very well have been in another institution. [more inside]
posted by Kreiger at 1:42 PM PST - 2 comments

My job sucks. Help me find small ways to reward myself.

I have a job where my boss treats me poorly (think name calling, personal comments, the occasional lightweight item thrown at me). Sometimes I cry on my way to work. Often I cry (behind closed doors) at work. I'm trying to find ways to get through the day and reward myself in small ways, maybe something for X days without crying on the way to work. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:37 PM PST - 39 comments

Job interview, unfocused interviewer?

In a job interview, how to you overcome the obstacle of an interviewer who isn't giving you an opportunity to highlight your accomplishments? [more inside]
posted by radiosilents at 1:08 PM PST - 15 comments

Show me how to re-skill as a programmer

I am a female in my late thirties who has a number of opportunities to change career and become a programmer. Can the hive mind show me the best way to do this? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by longjump at 12:22 PM PST - 20 comments

Templates for printing pages to track elderly parent's health?

My mother is already writing notes about her daily health actions. I'd like to improve the notes and add more information. Are there ready-made templates somewhere for printing and putting in a 3-ring binder? [more inside]
posted by StrawberryPie at 12:13 PM PST - 2 comments

Witty Book Signing Note

We wrote a book! We did it! I just realized we're going to some sort of book signing event to meet local booksellers soon, and there will be promo copies of the books for the booksellers. What clever and useful thing should I say, beyond just writing my name? [more inside]
posted by aniola at 12:10 PM PST - 8 comments

What Herb Is This?

I have a friend who, like me, loves cooking and eating, and who, unlike me, has a green thumb. She told me she grew oregano and gave me some. This doesn't look like any oregano I've ever seen. Is it oregano? Is it another herb? Is it some other opportunistic plant/weed that grew in her oregano flowerpot? Thanks, plant lovers! Picture of a couple of leaves/fronds/stalks/idek
posted by zorseshoes at 11:59 AM PST - 17 comments

Clinton Hill Brooklyn attractions

Hi everyone, continuing my other questions about living in Brooklyn that you all have been so excellent at answering: my folks will be visiting for a weekend in November. I'd like to plan an excursion for them, but they're older, and not too keen on walking a lot, nor long public transit rides to get to our destination. Is there anything in the Clinton hill area that might make for a good ~2 hour day trip that would shorten travel time? [more inside]
posted by codacorolla at 11:57 AM PST - 5 comments

What's your take on these Halloween decorations?

These Halloween decorations are paper cut-outs based on vintage designs, available now through Amazon.com and other retailers. What would you think if you saw these on display (in the context of other Halloween decorations) at someone's house?
posted by Mothlight at 10:30 AM PST - 21 comments

Typing-based work from home

I'm looking for non-scammy part-time work from home opportunities that allow for a flexible schedule. The catch? I would like it to involve only typing rather than also require video or audio. Other details inside. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 10:27 AM PST - 2 comments

How should I store water at my house?

I want to store at least 60 gallons of drinking water at my house, for earthquake or other emergency prep. What's the best way to do that? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 10:23 AM PST - 19 comments

Good place to take a phone call near Millennium Park

I'm in Chicago, and I need to be in the Loop this afternoon. Right before seeing my friend in the Loop, I'm going to have an important phone call from home. Where's a good place near Millennium Park for me to take an hour long private call?
posted by ocherdraco at 9:51 AM PST - 6 comments

Someone totaled my car; I'm getting screwed by her insurance company.

I've never been through this before, so I don't know what to expect. (I didn't know Gap Insurance was a thing, so I don't have it.) The other driver was entirely at fault, and her insurance company admits this. But because my car's value has gone down in the 1.5 years we've owned it, by the time they pay off the lien holder, I'll be $4,000 short of my initial investment and car payments. [more inside]
posted by grumblebee at 9:36 AM PST - 48 comments

How can I get an Air Force unit patch?

How can I, a civilian, get hold of a unit patch for an active AF squadron? I did the then-commander a favor a few years ago, but he is long gone now. [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 9:30 AM PST - 9 comments

How can I ensure a treasure-hunt proceeds after I die?

I'm planning to leave my friends and family a treasure-hunt on my death. After solving a series of clues - each more fiendish than the last - they will uncover my Final Message To Them All. (Don't worry, it's a nice message.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:25 AM PST - 21 comments

Angel or Predator?

A woman has insinuated herself into the life of Ann & Jack, who are facing terminal illness, and the family is unsure if they should be concerned. [more inside]
posted by myleftsock at 8:44 AM PST - 33 comments

Disclosing Criminal History During Job Search

At what point is it considered appropriate/ethical/professional to let potential employers know that I have a criminal background during the application process? [more inside]
posted by socktothepuppet at 8:43 AM PST - 7 comments

Thoughts for 2017 on the smartcar Cabrios (convertibles)?

I drive a 2000 Toyota Solara convertible and I've vowed I never want to have a non-convertible car again. It's starting to fall apart and I'm looking at my choices for a new or lightly used replacement. I love the tiny-ness of the smartcars and test-drove one years ago and liked it (and saw this previously and this previously. Do you have a recent smartcar? Do you like it? Especially, do you have a smartcar convertible? If not smartcar, what other teeny convertible would you recommend? Are there any? I must admit that the price point on the smartcar is alluring. Details on my use inside. [more inside]
posted by fiercecupcake at 8:37 AM PST - 6 comments

Is Drunk Elephant a uniquely good skincare line, or...?

Last week, the sample set of Drunk Elephant products arrived at my house and I have subsequently enjoyed the best skin week in recent memory. But I'm not rich, and the full-size versions of all six products would total $364. So are there good, similar-to-identical routines out there, or can I justify funneling my cosmetics budget into DE products? [more inside]
posted by witchen at 8:14 AM PST - 15 comments

An app like Plotagon where the characters can sing?

I want to make animated music videos simply, the way you can make "movies" simply with Plotagon or something similar. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 7:19 AM PST - 0 comments

Learn to be manipulative at work

According to Bob Bontempo, from Columbia Biz School, leadership is manipulation (this is not a negative). What are some sources for tips, tricks and strategies around his work or that of Chris Voss (Never Split the Difference Book)? [more inside]
posted by UMDirector at 6:53 AM PST - 7 comments

Running newbie to Mo Farah by the London Marathon Date!!

So I jokingly enter the ballot every year for the London marathon and then breathe a sigh of relief in October when I get the rejection email. Well the inevitable has happened and I got a place this year. This is filling me with dread, but I really want to do it and finish. Looking for some advice / help. [more inside]
posted by lloyder at 5:05 AM PST - 11 comments

I’m not in California, so why is it green?

I am parked in a parking space at Indianapolis airport that has green lines. I know other states have meaningful rules about the color of lines, but I’ve never heard of it for Indiana. So what does it mean? [more inside]
posted by Krop Tor at 4:52 AM PST - 9 comments

Simple magic for the doorstep

On Halloween I will be taking my 7 year old out guising. This is a Scottish tradition which involves knocking doors and performing some sort of party piece, hoping the householder will give you sweets in return. She would like to do a magic trick, and I'm looking for a suitable one. [more inside]
posted by nutmegofconsolation at 4:35 AM PST - 8 comments

Very personal phishing attempt.

Someone used both my name and a close friend's name on a phishing attempt I received by email a few days ago. Can this be automated, and if it can't, how worried should I be about an apparently personal attack? [more inside]
posted by frumiousb at 4:12 AM PST - 9 comments

Benefits of snail in shower?

A small snail has moved into our shower room. What are the pros and cons of moving it outside? [more inside]
posted by sacchan at 3:55 AM PST - 16 comments

Trying to avoid traffic between Toronto and Barrie

Getting stuck in traffic when you're trying to get away for a relaxing weekend sucks! I'm trying to figure out how early would I have to leave to avoid it when taking the 400 north out of Toronto on a Friday. Anyone familiar with this route have any idea? [more inside]
posted by 5_13_23_42_69_666 at 3:12 AM PST - 10 comments

October 3

Baby gift filter

I would like to buy a gift for a baby girl who is almost six months old and her first-time parents. I have never taken care of a baby - for those of you who have, what gifts, gadgets, or doodads have proved especially useful or made your life easier over time? I am assuming they have all the essentials down pat.
posted by mossicle at 10:06 PM PST - 22 comments

12 or fewer hours of daylight & everything is terrible!

I feel like I know all the stuff I should be doing, but what are your mental hacks for combating seasonal affective disorder in the moment? I'm already sick of being irritable and ready to crawl in bed by 8:30PM and it's only the first week of October. What do you tell yourself to feel less down about axial tilt? [more inside]
posted by deludingmyself at 9:40 PM PST - 23 comments

OSX Software to use Dropbox as a network share

My laptop has a 256GB drive. I have a 1TB Dropbox account. This is obviously less than idea. In the past I've used selective sync, but really I would just like Dropbox to exist as a network share, rather than locally synced folders. There are a number of solutions on offer for this (Mountain Duck, Expandrive) but as they all cost a reasonable amount of money - can anyone recommend the best?
posted by Jimbob at 9:09 PM PST - 8 comments

How to dump a FWB

I'm a woman who has recently acquired a male FWB. I've enjoyed the sex and, at first, the conversation. As I've gotten to know him better, I realize that our general sensibilities clash so much that I've lost interest. The only trouble is that I don't know how to break things off when the relationship merits more than ghosting but less than a long, tearful conversation. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 8:58 PM PST - 18 comments

Therapist recommendations on Kaiser in DC

I'd like to give therapy another shot. The challenge is that, while I'm generally happy with my Kaiser Permanente coverage in DC, my previous experience trying to get therapy through them wasn't great. [more inside]
posted by jameaterblues at 8:28 PM PST - 0 comments

What would add a bit of pizazz to pasta with beef/tomato sauce?

I'd love to kick an easy and go-to stovetop recipe up a notch, but I don't know with what. [more inside]
posted by cokelessrome at 8:25 PM PST - 33 comments

Relationship State of the Union

My lovely girlfriend and I are celebrating our first year together, yay! We want to put time aside to check in with each other about our needs, expectations, goals, plans, and so on, for the relationship. Do you have any advice or tools for checking in with your partner outside of the day to day? [more inside]
posted by ITheCosmos at 6:54 PM PST - 7 comments

cannot access okcupid on wifi

Why can't I access my okcupid account on wifi, but can on my phone's data? [more inside]
posted by bearette at 6:36 PM PST - 9 comments

Is there anything I can do while waiting for a psych referral?

So my doctor suspects I'm bipolar. Unfortunately even an "urgent" consultation with a psychiatrist is expected to take several weeks, at minimum. I'm at a bit of a loss as to whether there's anything I can do to obtain quicker treatment, and whether there are any other possible medical causes for my symptoms that I should try to advocate for my doctor to test for. [more inside]
posted by ersatzhuman at 6:18 PM PST - 6 comments

Is "Big Dairy" influencing TV Comedy "The Good Place"?

I enjoyed the show and its pop-philosophy questions, but an unintended ethical question has been nagging at me for the past few days. [more inside]
posted by Dag Maggot at 6:14 PM PST - 22 comments

Help me justify Telework

Mefites, I've seen you provide excellent wording before so calling on you to help me out with some today. Please help me justify Teleworking. [more inside]
posted by SanSebastien at 4:31 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me get a new (used?) car in my life?

Time to level up from my tradition of beaters. But have no idea where to start and am ++intimidated by the process. [more inside]
posted by EarnestDeer at 3:25 PM PST - 12 comments

How can I protect my interests from a quit claim deed?

I am being asked to sign a quit claim deed to what will in reality be a marital home, which I will be paying most of the mortgage on. Is there anything I can do to protect my interests? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:19 PM PST - 10 comments

Marriage Counselor in Manhattan?

Please recommend a good marriage counselor in Manhattan. My wife and I have one kid and were trying to have another – we just found out that the infertility treatments we tried didn’t work. My wife’s furious (she blames me) and I’m worried that we’re not going to be able to get beyond this.
posted by anonymous at 1:31 PM PST - 4 comments

Dumb Splurge Ideas

I (hopefully) quit smoking today. Come this Monday I'd like to follow the advice of my therapist and take the money that would have gone up in smoke and treat myself with it. I'd like to use it to buy one or several utterly frivolous things. I'd like your ideas. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 1:18 PM PST - 49 comments

What are your favourite dance videos to watch?

I love watching dance videos on youtube. Please recommend your favourites to me! [more inside]
posted by just_ducky at 1:12 PM PST - 76 comments

Key questions to ask, resources to review on renewal energy & mfg?

I'm doing research in the renewal energy and manufacturing. I want to get to know the industry quickly, and will be doing phone interviews with business owners to discover their key pain points in their business (centered around their marketing). These are not sales calls, just informational interviews. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by falcon42 at 1:03 PM PST - 3 comments

Loving my rowing machine - what's it doing to my hips?

I bought a Waterrower. I really like it. I'd like to keep my hips and thighs from getting much bigger, and ideally reduce them a bit. But will rowing do that? Or might it actually increase my hip size? I'm currently rowing around 10 minutes a day, and wondering if I should increase resistance, or just time, or try something different. I'm 40 and female. [more inside]
posted by Socksmith at 12:51 PM PST - 3 comments

Why do installing apps from Google's Play Store crash my phone apps?

I have a problem with my phone. Whenever I install or update an app on my phone from the Google Play Store, whatever app I'm currently running on my phone (including the Google Play Store if I don't switch out of it during the install) crashes and I get sent to my home screen. This did not happen with my previous Android phones. I am currently on a Samsung Galaxy S8 using AT&T and running the latest updates and such. I would like to fix this, but don't know what the problem is. Any ideas?
posted by EatenByAGrue at 12:01 PM PST - 1 comment

Kaiser Permanente - how does it work?

For the first time at work, we'll have an option to choose Kaiser as our health insurance carrier. There are a few points I'm not clear about and wondering if the green can help me out. I am in Eastside of Seattle in Washington State if it makes a difference. [more inside]
posted by 7life at 10:46 AM PST - 30 comments

Bookish men in your 40s--where are you dating these days?

Give me your nice, your weird, your humanities majors yearning to breathe free... [more inside]
posted by exceptinsects at 10:44 AM PST - 9 comments

ISO head turning gifs.

Like, literally. I'm looking for a twitter thread with a gazillion comments in it where people included various hilarious gifs reacting to the tweet. I *think* the original tweet was by a female NYT or WaPo reporter, but I don't remember the context - maybe Jeff Sessions' in an early senate investigation hearing hinting at the opening of Pandora's box of the Russian thing? [more inside]
posted by yoga at 10:43 AM PST - 4 comments

UK parcel forwarding to US?

Do any US MeFites have good experiences with parcel forwarding outfits? Use case: I need to make purchases from a vendor in England who won't ship to the US. I'm aware of companies that offer such service, but would be grateful for a recommendation.
posted by sandettie light vessel automatic at 10:40 AM PST - 3 comments

Colorado Family Reunion: Overlook Hotel or nah?

Against my better judgment, I have volunteered to help organize my family's every-four-years reunion. We are looking for places to host approximately 40 folks probably in late July around Estes Park/Rocky Mountain Nat'l Park area. Help! [more inside]
posted by pantarei70 at 9:52 AM PST - 5 comments

PTSD symptoms long after trauma

Is it normal to experience PTSD symptoms long after a traumatic experience, even if the symptoms were not as pronounced immediately after the experience? [more inside]
posted by armadillo1224 at 8:17 AM PST - 20 comments

Halloween Games for Elementary School Event

Obviously Pinterest is full of Halloween games for kids, but I'm interested in ideas that you have personally witnessed as successful and fun. My kid's elementary school (grades 1-5, ages 6-11) is having a Halloween night and I'm in charge of games in the gym. [more inside]
posted by LKWorking at 7:48 AM PST - 16 comments

How to express righteous anger at work

I'm starting to train classes tomorrow and I need access to printing to do so. My manager knows I (and my colleagues) need access to printing, and has known that we are short on toner/paper since last Friday. My first class is tomorrow and we don't have a printing solution. [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill at 7:47 AM PST - 19 comments

Plane ticket on Orbitz for Lufthansa, but later found United Airlines?

I bought an online plane ticket for Lufthansa on Orbitz. However, the day before my trip when I tried to check in, it was actually through United Airlines. I got a confirmation email from Lufthansa and then had to call them directly to figure out why I couldn't do an online check in. They had to tell me over the phone the United Airlines Flight Number and confirmation number. Then I called Orbitz to figure out what was going on, they had to look into it and then e-mail me an updated itinerary with United Airlines. I feel a bit dismayed since the reason I bought this ticket was to avoid United Airlines after their fiasco of pulling off a plane passenger and because I wanted to try Lufthansa airlines. Can someone explain to me what happened? I bought this ticket with the intention of trying Lufthansa. I don't know who to ask really for this type of question.
posted by proficiency101 at 7:03 AM PST - 10 comments

My girlfriend wants to have a child next year. I'm not sure.

My partner has proposed the idea of having a child next year. I'm unsure about the idea. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:09 AM PST - 52 comments

"Life is what happens when you're busy making other plans..."

I want to be more present, can someone teach me how? [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 5:02 AM PST - 11 comments

My crazy, manipulative sister

What's wrong with her, and how do I protect myself? [more inside]
posted by nonmerci at 3:27 AM PST - 25 comments

help me find modest workout clothes

I'm a woman getting into strength training and I'm not interested in showing off my body and getting attention at the gym, but still want comfortable clothes for lifting. I want something that will cover most of my ass when doing squats, etc. [more inside]
posted by a knot unknown at 2:03 AM PST - 18 comments

embarrassing medical issue at work

I am a new employee at a job that involves 50% standing/walking/sorting in AM and 50% seated desk work in PM. I like the job and want to keep it but am finding that the non-sitting part irritates my hemorrhoids very badly. Agonizing and humiliating if known about. Maybe TMI inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:22 AM PST - 7 comments

October 2

References in comedy to Deckard and Rachel in Blade Runner

Hi! I'm looking for a clip from a comedy (not sure if it's animated or not, but I get the feeling it was), that makes reference to the fact that Harrison Ford's detective protagonist in Blade Runner gets super rapey towards Rachel in a particular scene and the audience is sort of forced to forgive it and move on or live with how messed up that is. Any leads?
posted by ABlanca at 10:43 PM PST - 2 comments

How normal is this family dynamic?

Every morning now for months I've woken up to bedlam. Our two children, (just about to turn 3 and just about to turn 7) annoying each other and engaging in back and forth pinching, kicking, wrestling, screaming/hissing 'shut up', 'idiot' and 'stupid' at each other? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:31 PM PST - 14 comments

Anxiety with ambiguity in early dating

I just started dating a friend I've gotten to know over the last 2 years and thought my usual dating anxiety would take much longer to show up but it unfortunately did not. He's not a huge texter but does a fair job of keeping in touch by text or occasionally a call. I feel extremely secure and assured in his interest whenever we talk on the phone or are together in person, but when a long time goes by and I don't hear from him and we don't have plans made, I start to ruminate and get anxious. We've only actually been dating for nearly 2 weeks (and talking/flirting for 2 months off and on) but I struggle with knowing when and how to talk to him about this before freaking out and ending it to spare my feelings. [more inside]
posted by korrasamus at 8:42 PM PST - 6 comments

I have always depended on the kindness of strangers...

What sort of thank-you gift can I buy my new neighbours to thank them from saving me from my own stupidity tonight? I locked myself out of my new place, everything was inside the house (keys, phone, wallet, etc.) for the dumbest reason and. My neighbours let me wait inside of their house for a few hours until my roommate got home! I had never met them before and they were sooo kind, when they didn't really have to be. What can I give them as a thank you?
posted by modesty.blaise at 8:41 PM PST - 8 comments

Melburnians, lend me your ears

Visiting Melbourne for the first time in 10 years after living there for 6. A lot to catch up on and a lot I don't want to miss - advice appreciated. [more inside]
posted by turbid dahlia at 8:31 PM PST - 8 comments

What should I do around St Petersburg, FL?

I'm going to St Petersburg, FL in November and can stay as long as I want to. What is there to do? [more inside]
posted by ramenopres at 6:18 PM PST - 8 comments

How to retrieve messages from 1970's era landline phone?

My elderly brother refused to give up his old time "dumb" landline phone from the 1970's or so when he moved to a senior residence facility. [more inside]
posted by Tullyogallaghan at 5:43 PM PST - 9 comments

Revival of "Assassins."

Broadway shows periodically experience revivals and new national and international tours. I'm wondering if there has been a revival of Stephen Sondheim's "Assassins" since winning a number of Tony awards in 2004. In the wave of mass killings after Columbine, has the show been staged in recent years, and what has been public reaction?
posted by CollectiveMind at 5:08 PM PST - 16 comments

Do you know any affordable and not-ugly tile countertop solutions?

We have a shitload of tile countertop. I hate it and we're not rich. What should we doooo? [more inside]
posted by masquesoporfavor at 4:55 PM PST - 21 comments

Can you identify the make and model of this truck?

Do you know what kind of truck this is? Truck [more inside]
posted by hilaritas at 3:05 PM PST - 8 comments

A less restrictive Whole30?

A co-worker of mine wants me to do Whole30 with her. After doing some research, it sounds too intense for me (and it seems like there's some skepticism from dietitians), but some aspects are quite appealing - particularly the more rule-based approach and time-limited diet reset. Seeking recommendations of similar short-term diet plans that are less restrictive - with bonus points if they're more science-based. [more inside]
posted by purplevelvet at 2:37 PM PST - 15 comments

Retaining multiple languages?

How do you work on maintaining all your lesser used languages? [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 2:30 PM PST - 6 comments

Psychotherapeutic license needed to be a Jungian Analyst?

Hi MeFi hivemind, I’ve asked my local Jung society, but haven’t heard back, and can’t find a definitive answer on the web. Does anyone know if one has to be a licensed psychotherapist/psychologist in order to become a Jungian Analyst (training done at a separate school after licensure)? or can one become a Jungian Analyst as a scholar? TIA!
posted by hot_tea at 2:20 PM PST - 4 comments

Measuring sticks!

Wouldn't it be great to have a three sided ruler that measured decimal inches, fractional inches, and metric? I've looked but can't find such a device. Have you? Please help me find one!
posted by Rad_Boy at 1:49 PM PST - 12 comments

Reading Recommendations: Relationships & Inequality Edition

I'm going down a rabbit hole with my reading lately and am looking for books and articles on the intersection(s) of courtship/love/marriage/child-rearing and economic class/income inequality/educational attainment. [more inside]
posted by schooley at 1:37 PM PST - 7 comments

How to Work from Home

What options are available for me to work from home to earn some extra income? I am looking for work I could do that would let me earn between a hundred to two hundred dollars per week. I have an idea of some of the options, but I need more info that's from people and not google. What are reputable (not scam-ridden) means to find such work? What such work would you recommend to someone with a pretty generic skill set? [more inside]
posted by Crystal Fox at 1:04 PM PST - 11 comments

Small sights in Paris?

We'll be in Paris at the end of this month, and I'm looking for some personal recommendations. We've done the major museums already, and we have the restaurant angle pretty well covered. I'm looking for some small places that are good for casual browsing and window shopping. Things we like off the top of my head: Antiques and most things vintage, estate jewelry, art/design, books, stationary, decorative arts, ceramics, gardens, and related things. Have you any thoughts?
posted by Think_Long at 12:58 PM PST - 20 comments

2 Day Road trip to Coachella area - Where fly into/do?

Have place to stay in Indio, CA from 11/5-11/12 - Looking to fly in on 11/4 and take road trip/camp (would want to bring minimal equiment on the plane though) to Indio - debating between Sacramento and Las Vegas? [more inside]
posted by Bossypants at 12:57 PM PST - 1 comment

Songs where singers talk to themselves

I have a real fondness for songs where the singer calls themselves by name while speaking as someone else. I only know of two songs where this happens, though. Can you point me to others in any genre? [more inside]
posted by srrh at 12:49 PM PST - 61 comments

Name that Book: End of Television Ads & Temple of the Green Goddess

One of my patrons came into the library looking for a book he read back in the sixties or seventies and the main thing the gentleman could remember was that the protagonist dreams about end of television advertising and he enters the Temple of the Green Goddess in his dream. [more inside]
posted by cinemafiend at 12:43 PM PST - 4 comments

What are good short stories to read aloud to 3rd graders?

What short stories would 3rd graders enjoy? I'm reading stories aloud to 3rd graders for 15 minutes once a week, and I need some good suggestions. For me, the stories that I remember from grade school where always the twists: The Monkey's Paw, The Necklace, etc. What great short stories do you remember from childhood? Or what great short stories have you read to 8- and 9-year-olds?
posted by mrgrimm at 11:53 AM PST - 13 comments

which car rental company at Prague airport is the closest to arrivals?

I'm travelling to Prague this week and i have a tight schedule. I want to go from landing in prague to being on my way in a rental car as soon as possible. Which rental company is located the closest to the arrival terminal? (as in, where i would get to pick up the car, not necessarily where their sales desks are located). [more inside]
posted by PardonMyFrench at 11:30 AM PST - 1 comment

Spiritual newbie: "how do I identify enlightened masters?"

How does a non-enlightened spiritual seeker judge whether a teacher is enlightened, in the Buddhist sense of the word? [more inside]
posted by theorique at 10:52 AM PST - 16 comments

A Present from your Lawyer

I'm a family lawyer, and I've been thinking about starting to give gifts to my clients for the conclusion of their cases. Is this a terrible idea? [more inside]
posted by freshwater at 10:45 AM PST - 20 comments

Recommend a $600 - $750 gaming laptop? (Canadian dollars).

Hi. I am looking for an afforadable gaming laptop between $600 - $750 in Canadian dollars. I have no idea where to look. I am hoping to play some games on Steam (Witnes), Portal 2, racing games, strategedy games, if possible for this price. I also do some photography work and writing work too. I am not picky with brands.
posted by RearWindow at 9:57 AM PST - 7 comments

What's cool in Santa Ana/Irvine/Costa Mesa, CA?

I'm going to be in the Santa Ana/Irvine/Costa Mesa area for a business trip next week--flying in to SNA and staying nearby. I may have a half day or so to wander around and do my own thing, but not long enough to get to LA, San Diego, or even really Anaheim. What's worth seeing and doing in the immediate area? [more inside]
posted by capricorn at 9:43 AM PST - 13 comments

What PS4 games would a kindergarten-aged kid like to watch?

I'm looking for recommendations for PS4 games that a kindergarten-aged kid would like to watch being played. [more inside]
posted by saladin at 9:33 AM PST - 22 comments

Songs from horror(ish) movies that are not, themselves, 'spooky'?

Do you have recommendations for songs famously featured in horror movies, but not themselves spooky/horror-y/Halloweeny/etc.? Think more Day-O/Jump in the Line from Beetlejuice or Hip to be Square from American Psycho, but not the Ghostbusters theme or Mozart's Requiem Mass (Dies Irae).
posted by flibbertigibbet at 9:25 AM PST - 25 comments

Please don't die. How to talk to someone about a medical choice?

How can a family talk to someone about a getting a medical procedure that they say they don't want and manage their feelings about it? [more inside]
posted by k8t at 9:03 AM PST - 13 comments


Is there a word for a overwhelming feeling that something you are currently experiencing in your waking life is something you dreamed out previously. Sort of like Deja-Vu, but not because I don't feel like I've DONE it before, but rather I DREAMED it. Is this a common situation for people? (And no, I don't think I'm clairvoyant.) [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 8:33 AM PST - 9 comments

Paging Pages Persons, IOS 11 edition

After iPad upgrade to IOS 11, documents in the Pages app won't open. [more inside]
posted by SemiSalt at 6:34 AM PST - 1 comment

How to crop videos similar to how images can be cropped?

Is there a free or cheap program that can crop videos similar to how images can be cropped? For a Windows PC. [more inside]
posted by aerotive at 5:19 AM PST - 3 comments

Has anyone had to deal with obsessive, intrusive ex-girlfriends?

Has anyone had to deal with obsessive, possessive ex-girlfriends. in their relationship`? [more inside]
posted by hitchcockblonde at 3:11 AM PST - 34 comments

Yes yes no

I'm a man. Orgasms hurt. Can they not? (NSFW & graphic, obviously.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:36 AM PST - 9 comments

am I obligated to respond to this message?

Dude and I flirted for months. Dude subsequently starts dating someone else and tells me about it in an abrupt way. Dude then sends me an awkward message. How should I respond? More inside of course. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:36 AM PST - 33 comments

How do you get a therapist to return your call?

I am finding it impossible to access therapy because I can't get a therapist to call or email me back to schedule an initial appointment. Am I doing this wrong? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:36 AM PST - 12 comments

Eradicating Bed Bugs

What is the best way to be sure we are rid of bed bugs? We plan to remove and destroy the mattress, box spring, wooden bed, frame, following up with using a heat gun and spraying everything, to the point of complete saturation, with alcohol. Anything else before we bring in new bed and mattress? [more inside]
posted by Freedomboy at 12:38 AM PST - 8 comments

What are the most beautiful non-English language songs?

Inspired by I lie by David Lang, which is in Yiddish, I'm trying to collect a playlist of beautiful songs that are in languages other than English. Beauty is obviously subjective, so whatever you think is beautiful is fine (I don't feel the need to qualify what type of music is what I'm saying).
posted by supercrayon at 12:06 AM PST - 45 comments

October 1

Why can't I let go of someone?

I know that I don't need better reasons for my brain, but if anyone can offer insight that would help with any of these things, I think it would help my heart. [more inside]
posted by grokfest at 10:58 PM PST - 7 comments

Where can I find a particular woman's jacket?

Looking for a very specific type of women's hiking/utility jacket. Men's jackets/unisex suggestions also welcome. [more inside]
posted by aquamvidam at 9:05 PM PST - 16 comments

Who makes a high quality shoulder/mid-back length purple ponytail wig?

Who makes the nicer quality purple ponytail wigs? (I know the purple and ponytail +up the difficulty) I don't mind paying a little more for a nicer wig that I can reuse and will look better. Bonus points if you have non-painful recommendations for how to make it stay put on my head with a high pony. [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 8:46 PM PST - 3 comments

1993 KC Royals autograph?

A friend rescued a box of childhood memorabilia from a his parents' house, including this signed stub from the June 8, 1993 Kansas City Royals game. The autograph is illegible, and we'd love to figure out who signed it. It looks like they lost to the Yankees that night, 4-9. The '93 roster was pretty easy to find, but there's no obvious match (unless I'm reading the first letters wrong). Jeff Granger? John Habayan? Thanks, AskMeFi! http://i63.tinypic.com/20qxufo.jpg
posted by brozek at 8:16 PM PST - 8 comments

Popover fail

I used to love the popovers at Popovers Cafe but since they closed I've been forced to attempt to make them myself. I bought a large pop-over pan, and attempted this recipe and this one. They just did not come out the same, both a bit soggy inside. Hope me?
posted by Sophont at 7:42 PM PST - 7 comments

Polytetrafluoroethylene is not a garnish

The tallish Bundt pan I have used to make farcement Savoyarde has become scrofulous, with peeling Teflon non-stick coating and I must replace it before Thanksgiving (US). [more inside]
posted by jet_silver at 7:21 PM PST - 5 comments

Internet Problems for $800

I hate to use my weekly question this way, but desperate times. We had a region-wide internet outage today and even though it is back up, we are still having connectivity problems. [more inside]
posted by tafetta, darling! at 6:41 PM PST - 6 comments

What does attachment parenting say about 1-2 week separations?

Ok I'm about to become a first-time parent in a few months and just recently heard about "attachment parenting." From the articles I have read, I don't care about becoming a Dr. Sears-style Stepford mom-zombie. But the general theory of secure/insecure attachment makes sense to me, especially since I'm pretty sure I'm not a securely attached person. Are 1-2 week separations between mom and baby too much? [more inside]
posted by KatNips at 5:54 PM PST - 27 comments

inside the art fishbowl

What are the dirty secrets and hidden downsides of working as a professional artist, in new media or elsewhere? [more inside]
posted by icosahedron at 5:30 PM PST - 18 comments

Work or Ski or...?

I moved to Utah last year to ski and - with ski season approaching - am considering leaving my job next month in order to get more than the 1 day-a-week mountain time I'd have if I was working: is this a reckless thing to do? [more inside]
posted by 7 Minutes of Madness at 4:52 PM PST - 21 comments

Anyone need to take a "before" picture?

I had my cheeks waxed for the first time Monday and OMG not doing it again because they broke out and it's been nearly a week. Help? [more inside]
posted by kat518 at 3:26 PM PST - 11 comments

Script Error signing in to Google

I get a script error: "An error has occurred in the script on this page. Do you want to continue using scripts on this page?" "Yes/No". Yes/No does not work, I have to use Task Manager to get rid of the page (am signing in to Picasa). I have restarted the computer (running Chrome browser on Windows 10) to no avail. Gmail & Calendar are OK so far. Needing advice! Thanks!
posted by lungtaworld at 2:10 PM PST - 4 comments

Identify the manufacturer of this (broken) double lounger

Who makes this lounger? I'm hoping I can contact the manufacturer, if identified, to get replacement seat material. These things keep breaking every few months and I like this double version but I picked it up from Craigslist originally and have no idea who made it. Do you?
posted by juiceanddoom at 2:10 PM PST - 1 comment

Making plans as a sign of commitment

My boyfriend doesn't like to plan ahead and thinks the assumption should be that we don't have plans together unless stated otherwise. I like to know what I'm doing ahead of time, and if I don't then I'll either fill up my time with other things or feel like I'm on standby waiting to hear from him. [more inside]
posted by wreckofthehesperus at 1:42 PM PST - 17 comments

Long Island City Long Island Rail Road

I commute against the grain in the morning, eastward from Long Island City (Queens) to Long Island. It's not a common morning commute so the LIRR trains don't bother stopping in Long Island City as it makes its way from Penn Station to Woodside and beyond. However, many thousands of upscale apartments are being built in LIC as it transforms into industrial-chic neighborhood a la Greenpoint. What are the odds, then, that the eastbound LIRR trains begin stopping at LIC stops in the morning? Any insights you provide will be part of the math as I decide whether to buy a car. If LIRR stopped in LIC in morning, I wouldn't need car. (I know I can pick up eastbound in Woodside. I'm familiar with the options.)
posted by Buddy_Boy at 1:16 PM PST - 9 comments

Online bank interface that provides check cashed date and other details

CapitalOne changed their online interface so it doesn't give you details about your online check payment like the date it was cashed. Is there any online bank that does this? [more inside]
posted by bleep at 1:10 PM PST - 7 comments

NZ South Island itinerary

Ms. Outfielder and I need a quick sanity check on an admittedly sort of rushed South Island of NZ itinerary. [more inside]
posted by outfielder at 10:29 AM PST - 5 comments

What's the most ergonomic device and method to write on a hybrid laptop?

I've got a Samsung convertible laptop which comes with a tiny S-pen. Writing for any length of time with the included stylus causes all sorts of wrist and hand problems and I wonder if anyone could recommend an aftermarket stylus that's particularly ergonomic. Also wondering if there's some particular technique that helps.
posted by Jon44 at 10:25 AM PST - 1 comment

Life as you know it

Recently I've been reading a lot of nonfictional accounts of various cultures, and I realized I have a preference for a specific type that is hard to search for. There is one snowflake. [more inside]
posted by Ender's Friend at 9:26 AM PST - 23 comments

Nashville TN area therapists with weekend/evening availabilitys

What Nashville area therapists do you know of who are available on evenings or weekends? Better yet, anyone you can recommend? Issues mainly: bipolar disorder, anxiety issues, relationship skills. [more inside]
posted by circle_b at 9:22 AM PST - 1 comment

Theremins optional, but preferred

I'm looking for Halloween-themed video games. Not just horror games, mind you – but Halloween games, which either specifically involve the holiday, or simply make heavy use of classic Halloween tropes. Hope me? [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 8:01 AM PST - 11 comments

Small, lightweight pack for walks/hiking needed.

I want a lightweight, unobtrusive, comfortable fannypack or other type of carrier that I can use as I take walks through my local forest preserves. Doesn't have to be large--all I need to pack are my ID, phone, keys, and a paperback. Pockets work, except for the book part. Suggestions/links, please!
posted by bookmammal at 6:57 AM PST - 9 comments

One Half Slides Slowly Down the Other

A heroine or hero armed with a great big sword executes a clever move on an opponent that seems to have no effect. There is a pause, then slowly one half of the opponents body slides down the other half. I first saw this in Underworld and since then in Kill Bill (kind of), Equilibrium, Kingsman and one or two others I can't remember. Does anyone know what the first cinematic or televisual version of this move is? There has to be a blow, a pause, a slow slide and a surprised expression. [more inside]
posted by glasseyes at 6:49 AM PST - 21 comments

Retro-fit my Slow cooker ribs?

One of my most-loved recipes is also one of my easiest - throw beef ribs into the slow cooker over sliced vidalia onions, add barbecue sauce and a couple of glugs of white wine, and disappear for 8 hours or so. I'm hoping to make them for a get-together but won't have access to a slow cooker - is there a way to do this recipe on a stovetop which would involve the same minimum amount of effort, but still get that slow-cooked-for-hours-on-low taste? I will be able to be there for however many hours, but would prefer not to have to check, stir, or otherwise monkey with the cooking process until it's done.
posted by Mchelly at 6:01 AM PST - 17 comments

Camping in eastern Ontario after Thanksgiving

I want to go camping in eastern Ontario after thanksgiving. All the Provincial Parks are officially closed. 20 years ago I used to camp at that time of year all the time as parks ran on the honour system with a box to put money in. Is this still an option? [more inside]
posted by fimbulvetr at 5:45 AM PST - 6 comments

Parallels to the Catalan referendum crackdown?

Have there been other situations like the one in Catalan right now, where one democratically elected government has sent in the police to violently suppress a referendum being held by a lower-level democratically elected government?
posted by clawsoon at 5:20 AM PST - 5 comments

Need specific recommendations for cleaning service in Los Angeles

I need specific recommendations (i.e., email or web form preferable but phone numbers if necessary) for honest, trustworthy, nonjudgmental help cleaning and organizing a small house in Los Angeles. Not a hoarding situation, no health hazards, just... lots and lots of cleaning and organizing needed. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:30 AM PST - 3 comments

I miss my partner when he's away, but he doesn't want to live with me

My partner works away a lot so we sometimes go weeks without seeing one another. I can find this quite hard. I know I would find it easier if we lived together, but he doesn't want to. He is a bit of a loner/quiet and says he values his alone time. I know that he loves me, but I don't want to live apart forever. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:29 AM PST - 25 comments

Wanted: tiny camera for great baby photos

Our baby is 4 months old and as she is slowly getting more mobile, I’m in the market for a new, pocketable camera. [more inside]
posted by Skybly at 2:43 AM PST - 7 comments

Stop, collaborate and listen!

I’d like to host a collaborative interactive fiction workshop using a web-based authoring system. Where to start? [more inside]
posted by tapir-whorf at 12:13 AM PST - 3 comments