January 2015 Archives

January 31

And to those of you listening in the year 2100,

Are there any audio or video clips available from the 20th century in which people speak directly to those of us living in the future? Or people in the even more distant future than now? [more inside]
posted by circular at 10:42 PM PST - 5 comments

Real Metafilter accounts, $1.50

I remember a skit on Conan O'Brien years ago (pre-Youtube) that was about a knock-off version of the show on the street done by a host with a thick accent, i.e., the 'fake rolex' of late night shows. The punchline was that Jon Lithgow was actually the special guest. I can't seem to find a link to it or mention of it; can anyone please help?
posted by michaelh at 10:40 PM PST - 4 comments

Counsellor recommendations in Wellington NZ?

Looking for a counsellor to help make some work-related life decisions, plus a bit of relationship stuff as well. Can anyone recommend a good one?
posted by anonymous at 8:16 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me break up with my awesome boyfriend without triggering my PTSD

I want to break up with my boyfriend and I'm really nervous about it. Special factor: PTSD. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:16 PM PST - 33 comments

My temperature is rising!

I smoke meats. I love low, slow cooking. However, I really want to understand how fast temperatures rise. I have been searching for, without luck, some kind of chart that will show how quickly internal temperatures of meat rise. [more inside]
posted by zerobyproxy at 7:06 PM PST - 11 comments

You are not my electrician, but can you help me change this outlet?

I changed an electrical receptacle, and now my 3-way light switch won't actually turn off the lights. They stay permanently on. Seems the lights were jumped into the electrical outlet, and I created some kind of short circuit so that the lights bypass the light switch and won't turn off. [more inside]
posted by willnot at 6:36 PM PST - 3 comments

Vienna in 24 Hours

I will be in Vienna for one day! What should I do? [more inside]
posted by Andrhia at 6:08 PM PST - 12 comments

Name-that-dog-filter: Her Serene Highness la Principessa McWigglebottom

Today we brought home our new puppy. (pictures here, here and here) She's a 5 month old, 10lb (5kg) maltipoo - black with a grey muzzle, and she needs a name. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by tabubilgirl at 5:44 PM PST - 56 comments

How can I make a fun Hearthstone deck?

I'd like to make a real, paper deck of Hearthstone cards that would be personalized, as a gift for a partner who loves the game. I've played a little but not enough to know what might make the cards fun. Aside from wanting to include friends and family as characters, I haven't any idea where to start. [more inside]
posted by robertthebruce at 5:33 PM PST - 6 comments

Mystery Tool

What is this mystery tool? It's not really a clamp, since it will not lock into place. I would prefer not to have random guesses, since it's not really helpful, but if you have seen or used this device, you'd solve a great mystery. [more inside]
posted by weapons-grade pandemonium at 4:59 PM PST - 5 comments

How to find an intellectual / creative community of South Asians in NY?

Seeking advice on how to find out about events, screenings, lectures, workshops, and gatherings organized by and for the South Asian community in New York City. [more inside]
posted by coastisclear at 4:36 PM PST - 7 comments

Internal Promotion Interview----I got NO questions

You know how at the end of an interview they always ask if you have any questions, well I don't have any questions. Snowflake details inside... [more inside]
posted by TheLibrarian at 3:16 PM PST - 19 comments

Do small replica statues of "Man Controlling Trade" (FTC building) exist

I really love this statue. I would like to purchase a small replica, but can't find it with a Google search. The statues are on both sides of the FTC building near the mall in Washington D.C.
posted by denverco at 2:44 PM PST - 1 comment

Spoil "Frog Music" for me.

Have you read "Frog Music" by Emma Donoghue? Can you spoil it for me? (Spoilers, probably, inside.) [more inside]
posted by Ollie at 1:33 PM PST - 4 comments

In this corner, the current champion, WordPress. And in this corner...

I'm about to rebrand my blog (and give it some activity). It's on WordPress.com, which seems the blogging platform most recommended to previous askers, and it's the one I chose when starting said blog,but since I'm a very special snowflake, I'd like to have that perception challenged and see if there's something else out there that's better for me. [more inside]
posted by Promethea at 1:26 PM PST - 11 comments

When to say when on used car maintenance costs?

I'm looking at yet another maintenance issue on my expensive-but-fun (and 100% paid off) sporty car. I'm starting to think the maintenance overhead trumps the value, and looking for advice on knowing when to say when, in terms of cutting my losses and buying another vehicle. [more inside]
posted by Alterscape at 12:57 PM PST - 12 comments

70s children's animated short film w men and women on separate islands

I'm trying to find a film that was shown to me when I was in first grade in 1976. It was a stop-motion animation film that was about a situation where all the men live on one island and all the women live on another island. They attempt to come together, but there is the difficulty of getting from one island to the other to contend with. The look of the film was like Gumby - it may have been claymation, but I'm not sure. Any ideas?
posted by cmp4Meta at 12:46 PM PST - 2 comments

Everything reminds me of my shortcomings.

I've posted plenty about struggles with bipolar/anxiety/ptsd. This post definitely relates to those issues, but I am NOT seeking treatment advice here, as I've got that covered. Really, I just want help coping with some current symptoms (reframing things or new ways to just do things anyway) and hopefully figuring out how to at least do some of the things I ostensibly enjoy. More below the cut. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 12:18 PM PST - 3 comments

Chicago: Find someone to build a cat's scratching post

How do I find someone in Chicago who can cut an area rug into strips, and then affix it to a 4' tall rectangular block of wood? Please don't suggest D-I-Y, because I have no tools and less-than-no skills. [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 12:15 PM PST - 10 comments

More happy fun dancing videos please!

I love watching Urban Dance Camp videos on YouTube. What else should I watch? [more inside]
posted by heatherann at 12:02 PM PST - 6 comments

Mid-aught and fraught

What would your local indie/alt rock station be playing in 2005? Please give me that (with more specifications after the cut). [more inside]
posted by FirstMateKate at 11:47 AM PST - 17 comments

An ounce of prevention

Is it possible or practical for me to get immediate care for a psychiatric non-emergency? Location: Los Angeles. [more inside]
posted by infinitewindow at 10:41 AM PST - 12 comments

Benefits, to majority group members, of being in a minority at school?

Do members of majority groups benefit from going to schools where they are in a minority? [more inside]
posted by howfar at 8:48 AM PST - 22 comments

Experience with a home warranty claim?

What am I likely to get as a "replacement credit" for a home warranty claim on a broken washing machine? Bonus question: any recommendations on replacement models or replacing the set vs. just washer? [more inside]
posted by handful of rain at 8:40 AM PST - 4 comments

Looking for the cadillac of loofahs

What's the best thing I can use to wash my body? [more inside]
posted by joeyjoejoejr at 7:44 AM PST - 16 comments

New laptop: Macbook or ... something else?

The time has come for a new computer. I've owned 3 laptops, all Macs. This one has lasted me 7 years, but it's getting to the point that I can't run, for instance, the latest version of Safari because it's not available for my device. Plus it's getting old and overheats quickly - I can't watch videos, and pages with a ton of photos are a PITA to open, and I can only open about 2 tabs before it starts to wheeze. [more inside]
posted by bunderful at 6:50 AM PST - 39 comments

Can anyone suggest a chess game that won't slaughter me?

People advised Rybka. It has difficulty settings! I'm not a beginner, but playing against a computer that can slaughter me effortlessly is dispiriting. [more inside]
posted by Opengreen at 5:33 AM PST - 8 comments

British actress's onstage veiled insult against an American actress

Which British actress was it insulting which American actress onstage by replacing the word "can't" in all her dialogue? [more inside]
posted by johnofjack at 5:30 AM PST - 6 comments

Near-death anxiety

I recently had pretty big health scare. I am recovering now, but I am still very freaked out about how close I just came to dying. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 3:56 AM PST - 14 comments

Can anyone translate the Georgian lyrics to this Giya Kancehli song?

Here is the song, entitled "Yellow Leaves" I looked high and low and couldn't find an English translation. Any help appreciated. Even better, if you find (or translate) - laying out the Georgian and English lyric line-by-line would be awesome. Many thanks, in advance, for any help on this!
posted by Vibrissae at 2:34 AM PST - 3 comments

This time, to the Antipodes*! What to do in Cape Town?

I will be in Cape Town for work February 21-March 1. I would love suggestions for must-see or must-dos on the weekends, and suggestions for dinner or evening activities during the week, in case I get some time away from the office. [more inside]
posted by susiswimmer at 2:09 AM PST - 5 comments

Where to find a privacy-oriented fitness/sleep tracker?

Where can I find a (preferably worn-on-the-wrist) activity tracker that doesn't compromise my privacy by sending data into the cloud (or, if it goes into the cloud, only my personal password protected one)? [more inside]
posted by Gowellja at 1:10 AM PST - 3 comments

Nude selfie tips ?

My boyfriend is abroad for 4 weeks and is requesting nude pics. I am more than happy to oblige but I don't know where to start, and my few attempts have been not sexy... So, give me your nude selfie tips! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:39 AM PST - 25 comments

Seeing two physical therapists at once - is it OK?

I've been seeing a PT for 3 months who is covered entirely by insurance. They provide ultrasound, etc., but not much else. I want to see another PT to get better treatment and pay out of pocket. Would it be OK to continue seeing the insurance-covered PT for ultrasound and e-stem once a week and pay out of pocket to go to the other PT once a week? Would my insurance company frown on this if they found out?
posted by anonymous at 12:33 AM PST - 8 comments

January 30

What anime is this?

Sorry if This is dumb to ask. But I've been wondering what this is.
posted by caplan at 11:36 PM PST - 5 comments

Expanding fitness

I started running last year, and I really enjoy it! I've stayed relatively dedicated to the routine and genuinely look forward to it. However, I think I've pushed myself about as far as I need to with running and I'd love to expand my regiment with other activities, but I honestly don't really know anything about fitness and don't really have any friends to ask about it. [more inside]
posted by p3on at 10:28 PM PST - 19 comments

How do you leave work at work?

I started a new job a month ago and I've found myself getting worried about if I'm doing a good job or not, if my boss likes me, if my coworkers like me, etc. when I'm not working. How can I just let these thoughts go and quit worrying so much? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 9:15 PM PST - 11 comments

How to explain on cover letter I've just started a year off?

I started a year off a month ago to take some courses I've been interested in and do some travelling too. A PT position in my old industry has come up in the city I'll be studying in. This city is also the city I've always wanted to live in, which is why I'm making an exception to apply for this. How do I explain this year off on my cover letter? [more inside]
posted by glache at 8:45 PM PST - 10 comments

I'm leaving and not coming back-- how do I do this?

I'm on FMLA leave for a health condition, and I am using accrued paid sick leave to pay my customary paycheck. I got a new job starting two days before my leave ends, and I can't come back. My health condition will not prevent me from working at the new job. I'd like to give as much notice as possible, but I want to protect myself from any recovery of benefits or major consequences. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:43 PM PST - 3 comments

Where the hell is my electricity going?!?

We live in a 3BR townhouse. Our electricity usage spiked really dramatically in December, and it's stayed up in January. I cannot fathom what is causing such a spike, but I don't know a lot about electricity usage. Details below. [more inside]
posted by juniperesque at 8:26 PM PST - 40 comments

What's this song? Taped an hour of radio in 1983.

For the past thirty years I've been trying to identify every song on a cassette tape I made from the radio. I have now found them all, except one. Can anyone tell me what the artist and title of this song is? I have only two seconds of audio here. Here’s the backstory behind my pointless three decade old mission… [more inside]
posted by Italian Radio at 8:25 PM PST - 4 comments

Babby Middle Name Filter

Hey Green, need some help with naming my newborn. We came up with first name some time ago, but not middle name. And since she has now been born this became a more pressing issue. First name - Zoe, last name - long, russian/jewish, something like, but not, Shostakovich. Trying to find something that flows/sounds good. Bonus points - starts with a V or an F. Potentially OK with more obscure names.
posted by pyro979 at 7:41 PM PST - 75 comments

How do I make a bad experience not be a big problem?

If you skim my question history, you'll notice that I have anxiety about medications that might make me feel high, extra-alert, whatever. Today at the dentist I got a few nice big shots of epinephrine as an additional painkiller and they fucked me up--sobbing panic attack for a couple hours, not fun. I'm feeling mostly okay now, but really don't want to have this bad experience turn into another point of anxiety for me. What can I do to make this just a crappy morning instead of a Big Deal that gets added to my (brief but potent) list of triggers? [more inside]
posted by c'mon sea legs at 6:23 PM PST - 10 comments

wtf is a somatic reflection?

I thought a somatic reflection was something like when you looked at an image of someone working out and your heart rate accelerated as you thought about doing what the person was doing. [more inside]
posted by spunweb at 6:20 PM PST - 5 comments

Podcast recommendations, please!

I've started listening to podcasts on my daily one-hour-each-way commute. I'm enjoying StoryCorps, This American Life, and Pop Culture Happy Hour so far. What other podcasts might I enjoy? Bonus points for content relating to books/authors(But NOT podcasts of authors reading their work--I can listen to audiobooks for that!)--but I'm open to other topics. I'm not really into advice-type programs or comedy--funny is fine, but not comedy as the main draw. Thanks in advance--I know you'll steer me towards some great stuff!
posted by bookmammal at 6:19 PM PST - 27 comments

Is financial issues in a relationship a deal breaker?

Been in a relationship with my partner for 2 years. I'm 26 and he is 28. We don't live together yet but have talked about it a couple of times throughout our relationship along with talking about having children. I make more money than him but he refuses to let me pay for dates, so we don't do as much as I would like to. He is responsible with money but barely has any disposable income. His expenses seem to be much higher than mine. Are financial issues a deal breaker in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by ruebeignet at 5:21 PM PST - 31 comments

Are we overthinking this? - Apartment Purchasing - Brooklyn Style

My husband and I are saving for a down payment for an apartment. We (as many people in our income bracket) are feeling the heat of just not having enough to compete in the market. Hoping to cut through the rabble and get some feedback on recent buying experiences from people who have been successful in going through the process. We have some specific issues that we are hoping to get feedback on, contained within... [more inside]
posted by carmenghia at 5:19 PM PST - 4 comments

Where can I buy a small bowl planter with drainage holes?

I can't seem to find a planter like this anywhere. [more inside]
posted by donut_princess at 5:16 PM PST - 4 comments

Need top-notch jewelry repair person to repair star sapphire ring

I have a ring with three star sapphires set in a very simple gold setting. I need to find the right person to swap out a stone, and fix a poor repair job done years ago. It's hard to find someone who knows/works with star sapphires. How do I find a truly trustworthy specialist? The ring has enormous sentimental value and there's already been one botched repair job. [more inside]
posted by ROTFL at 4:24 PM PST - 1 comment

What SF book from the 60s or 70s had spiked baseballs?

I am trying to remember the name or author of a paperback SF book I read in the 1970s. From the tone, I'm pretty sure it's a late 60s or 70s publication. Memories inside: [more inside]
posted by Mogur at 3:40 PM PST - 2 comments

How to split a large XML file into more manageable pieces?

I have a large XML file with 30+ million elements. For reasons, I'd like to break it down into more manageable chunks, say like 1 million elements per file or 30 files or something like that. Are there any utilities that can do this?
posted by disaster77 at 3:33 PM PST - 11 comments

Hobbies for the one-handed

Recently, I took up knitting and guitar to keep me occupied. This week, I broke my dominant/writing hand--entire arm is completely unusable down to elbow, after surgery and splinting, and this'll continue for at least 4 weeks, if not more. Are there any hobbies that can be done one-handed in the meantime, to keep me from getting incredibly bored? [more inside]
posted by flibbertigibbet at 3:02 PM PST - 19 comments

I need a style icon

I need a style icon. I'm a mid-30s married mom to a toddler who works in a casual office at a desk all day. What am I supposed to look like? [more inside]
posted by jillithd at 2:58 PM PST - 12 comments

FREE BEER! Okay, now let’s talk about Corporate Treasury…

My wife works in Corporate Treasury and has been considering creating a blog that discusses the intricacies of that career. One reason she wants to do this is because she cannot seem to locate any similar blogs or forums on this topic. So is anyone out there in any way connected to this realm and, if so, do you have any recommendations for her new endeavor? Also, if there are some noteworthy resources you think might be helpful, feel free to post them. Much thanks.
posted by AlonzoMosleyFBI at 2:48 PM PST - 1 comment

I think my child has a sensory processing disorder. Now what?

Micropanda (4) is sweet, bright, kind, and empathetic. He is also hypersensitive to sound, messy fingers, car motion, and water temperature, among other things. He had a rocky transition to preschool this fall - he behaves ok at school, but appears to exhaust his coping skills there, and has become volatile and meltdown-prone at home. Some deficiencies in his gross motor skills are also becoming apparent. I am becoming increasingly convinced that he has a sensory processing disorder with a motor component. On advice of our pediatrician, we have recently started him in once-weekly occupational therapy. I am wondering what other steps I need to be taking. Wall of snowflakes within. [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 2:25 PM PST - 17 comments

Should I start a blog?

Should I blog even though I don't know anybody who blogs, and would start with zero followers, and not even sure if people would like to see what I have to offer? [more inside]
posted by akita at 1:46 PM PST - 21 comments

Best public transit route from Berkeley to Menlo Park, CA

I'm in Berkeley right now (near the Ashby BART station) and am headed down to Menlo Park this afternoon/early evening (today, Friday). It looks like there are two ways I can go: through San Francisco via rail the whole way, or along the East Bay via rail and then via bus across the Dumbarton Bridge. What's the easiest and/or quickest way? [more inside]
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 1:41 PM PST - 11 comments

Getting some creepy calls - is there a way to find out who it is?

Recently I have been getting random calls asking me for personal information in connection to business things which are private. When I ask whom is calling they hang up. This is to a private number I only give out to a handful of people. Is there a service online which will give me the name of the person associated with a number? (Based in Canada).
posted by audio at 1:17 PM PST - 10 comments

Freezer backup power that won't make a stink?

My employers are looking into obtaining some sort of emergency backup power for a couple of specific, large appliances. Assuming gas generators are not an option, what would a person use to provide a couple hours of power for, say, a freezer capable of pulling 15 amps when the compressor turns on? [more inside]
posted by aecorwin at 12:58 PM PST - 11 comments

Music suggestions like early Stooges

What bands can you recommend that sound similar to early "Fun House" era Stooges? [more inside]
posted by subtlemel at 12:00 PM PST - 22 comments

JFK long-term parking and the snowstorm: how to get my car out?

What do I need to do to get my car out of the snow at the Lefferts Blvd parking lot? [more inside]
posted by kosmonaut at 11:54 AM PST - 8 comments

Why is mTAN secure?

You have an app from your bank on your phone which lets you access your account and make payments. To verify payments you receive an mTAN SMS. Why is it not a terrible, terrible idea that both of these things are happening on the same device? [more inside]
posted by devnull at 11:52 AM PST - 7 comments

non-viral hepatitis-- possible causes?

My sister/roommate travelled to Turkey for two weeks about a month ago and is now hospitalized for acute hepatitis. She became symptomatic about 28 days after the trip. She also recently took a prescribed antibiotics with known liver toxicity. Doctors said that the cause is not viral, and "most likely Turkey," and I don't know what that means. [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 11:41 AM PST - 15 comments

How do I email my job references

My academic and professional references have asked me to keep them informed of what jobs I'm applying to, both so that they have a heads-up, and so that they can let me know if they've been called. I haven't been very good at doing this consistently because I don't know how to phrase that email. [more inside]
posted by wrabbit at 11:40 AM PST - 7 comments

Podcasts (and blogs) about contemporary classical music?

Are there podcasts about the contemporary classical / alt classical / new music / experimental music scene? Particularly interviews with composers and musicians, talk about the music, and so forth; as opposed to playlists of the music itself. WNYC's Soundcheck and other public radio podcasts sometimes touch on this kind of stuff, but I want more! And not just John Adams and John Luther Adams all the time. Blog recommendations also welcome, but podcasts seem like a perfect format for talking about music.
posted by moonmilk at 11:34 AM PST - 6 comments

How to encourage a 9-year-old's charitable nature?

I was incredibly touched to learn that my goddaughter has decided that in lieu of a birthday party she's inviting all of her guests to a local book repository to sort, sticker, and bag books destined for low-income families. I love this and want to do something for her birthday to help encourage more of this kind of thing in the future. Help me choose from some options or suggest something else: [more inside]
posted by eamondaly at 11:02 AM PST - 30 comments

Examples of great black-and-white art and artists

I want to learn how to draw great black and white art. Composition, contrast, light, shadow, all the good stuff. I'm trying to gather good samples to learn from. [more inside]
posted by jgwong at 10:22 AM PST - 16 comments

Surely there are better songs than "American Pie"?

To observe the anniversary of The Day The Music Died, can you recommend songs about Buddy Holly, Ritchie Valens or the Big Bopper? [more inside]
posted by kendrak at 10:08 AM PST - 11 comments

Examples of innovative, conceptually radical uses of paper?

After listening to this WFMU program about the legal turmoil created by the introduction of player piano rolls, I'm curious to find other examples, historical or current, in which paper has been either modified or radically repurposed to do things that were previously the domain of other technologies. [more inside]
posted by ryanshepard at 9:39 AM PST - 15 comments

Medical residency interview communication etiquette

A friend from another country, but now legally in the US, is applying for medical residencies. He was told by a classmate to thank the various people who have interviewed him for residencies by sending a thank you card. What kind of card? Or is a short letter better? Mefite MDs, what do you think?
posted by mareli at 9:38 AM PST - 20 comments

nerd alert: the history of duplexes

not sure if this is the case in other areas, but where i live there are zillions of one-bedroom duplexes built in the 1920s. why the sudden duplex housing boom in the 20s? and why are they all single bedrooms - were they meant for singles or couples without kids? i've googled and googled and can't find the answer, so hopefully one of y'all knows!
posted by megan_magnolia at 9:22 AM PST - 23 comments

Free, flexible, easy-to-use concept-mapping software?

I'm looking for a concept-mapping tool that offers (1) considerable flexibility in terms of spatial positioning of nodes, nature of links (not just strictly hierarchical trees in a single direction) (2) somewhat customizable colors and fonts (and ideally, shapes as well), and (3) export/save to PDF or JPG capabilities. You'd be surprised how hard it is to find this program. [more inside]
posted by Bardolph at 9:11 AM PST - 9 comments

Anxiety/ADHD in Boston

I was diagnosed with anxiety and ADHD out of state. Where could I go in Boston to get meds as quickly as possible? [more inside]
posted by lhude sing cuccu at 9:01 AM PST - 8 comments

Examples of colonialists or outsiders using supernatural manipulation?

Does anyone know any examples of colonial governments or outsiders making up stuff about the supernatural to convince traditional peoples to follow some law or give them some resource or do something else that it's in the self-interest of the outsiders? [more inside]
posted by mrmanvir at 8:11 AM PST - 10 comments

He's Falling Through The Safety Net That Isn't There

Independent Vermont Culture Filter: Help us come up with a strategy to assure our 55 year old underemployed neighbor doesn't freeze to death this winter. [more inside]
posted by Xurando at 8:05 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me see the bright sides of parenting an only child

I always thought I would have 2 children, despite "unexplained infertility". My husband and I have the most wonderful 3-year-old daughter, who was conceived via IUI on just our second attempt. 18 months ago we started trying to conceive a sibling for her...and after 5 failed IUIs, a failed IVF and finally a recent failed FET, we have decided to stop trying and accept our situation. Please help me see the positives in our situation, and if you have an only child (whether by choice or not), tell me what you like/dislike about it. [more inside]
posted by barnoley at 7:46 AM PST - 67 comments

Group Chat, Group Voice, Persistent Chat Rooms: Alternatives to Skype?

My company has been using Skype as a chat (1-1, Group), voice (1-1, Group), and occasional video group chat app. Screen sharing is also used occasionally. The problem is, it doesn't do any of those things particularly well, with tons of dropped calls / dropouts, lack of a directory of group chats, poor quality screen sharing. [more inside]
posted by grubby at 7:30 AM PST - 5 comments

Encourage the good guys

To men and women who partake in online dating: how should I respond to the rare person who actually sends a nice, thoughtful message, but to whom I'm not attracted? I don't want them to get discouraged because they are actually doing it right! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:29 AM PST - 41 comments

Wise or silly risk: Reconnect or let go?

What is the message in this set of mixed messages? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:28 AM PST - 21 comments

Best Glare-Free Kindle Light

I have acquired a Kindle, and I'm hoping there's a really great light out there to go with it. [more inside]
posted by freshwater at 7:24 AM PST - 6 comments

Reading poetry for beginners

I like reading poems when I come across them, but I never really seek them out - sometimes I Google a famous line to see where it's come from and end up reading the whole thing, but that's about it. I've also got no experience of the process of reading poems, what to get, how and when to read them etc, so I'd like to know about that too. The question in a nutshell is what should I, a complete newcomer do to start reading poetry. [more inside]
posted by Ned G at 7:11 AM PST - 17 comments

Old friendship coming to an end?

Friend of 22 years out of touch/nonresposive and I feel kind of hurt. Does this seem like a friendship ending, or am I jumping to conclusions and being overly-anxious? [more inside]
posted by thesnowyslaps at 6:40 AM PST - 24 comments

Mother is too reliant on me - how do I navigate this now?

My mother is increasingly reliant on me for the fulfilment of her emotional needs. Can I do anything to remedy this? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs at 5:53 AM PST - 17 comments

Should I upgrade my MacBook Pro to the latest OS?

I've got a 2.5-year-old MacBook Pro. It is agonizingly slow. Should I upgrade to the latest OS version? [more inside]
posted by jbickers at 5:35 AM PST - 24 comments

A list of people written up in Economist Magazine's obituary section

Does anybody know how I can get a list of all the individuals about whom the Economist magazine has written obituaries. I've been searching for this for a while and I always end up getting the obituaries of many different economists as opposed to merely those people mentioned in the Economist magazine. Any help would be appreciated!
posted by caudal at 4:49 AM PST - 10 comments

How can I find and buy a trashy erotic novel called Labels?

When I was around 11 or so, a thick mass market paperback that had been sitting in the book cabinet my whole life finally caught my interest. It turned out to be incredibly filthy; so much so that I marked every sex scene with a Post-It and spent a lot of intimate time with the book until an older cousin borrowed it and never returned it. It's named "Labels," due to a setting in the high fashion world of the 80s? I remember basically everything about it except the author, including a LOT of sex scenes, which I will enumerate for you: [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 12:04 AM PST - 21 comments

January 29

Looking to identify an anime show or movie I saw the end of

While I was living in Japan I used to catch bits of shows late at night after getting home. One I saw about 15 minutes of was really intriguing and I haven't been able to identify it. [more inside]
posted by Hoopo at 11:03 PM PST - 9 comments

Shows like Begin Japanology??

What are some shows that are like Begin Japanology? Things I like about Begin Japanology: close examination of foreign culture, high information density, lots of episodes, goofy host. [more inside]
posted by gregr at 9:15 PM PST - 3 comments

Need cheap small laser level for a game

I have a board game that uses line of site. I could use string, or a rubber band to measure line of site. But I want to go over the top and use a laser that would put a line on the board--for perfect accuracy. But I need a small cheap one. The keychain lasers or pointer lasers don't seem to do this, I think I need a laser level. Any suggestions for small cheap-o laser level?
posted by luvmywife at 8:00 PM PST - 5 comments

cheapest travel for cheapest person

I'm a young woman in the US. Never traveled abroad. I accomplished a big goal, and I've saved up $1700, so I'm taking myself somewhere. Looking to make the trip in the summer for a week or two. Will be alone. I like food, wandering around cities and interesting towns, and free/cheap things, like museums, window shopping, etc. More interested in walking around a cool place than lying on a beach. I want to stay in a hostel or similar. No other criteria--I'd like this to be pretty open-ended. Where should I go?
posted by there will be glitter at 7:29 PM PST - 43 comments

Scantron Is Not An Option

Is there a way to create a Google Forms quiz which will grade itself and email or text me the results? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. at 7:04 PM PST - 9 comments

Night Bloat

Why am I bloating so badly at the end of the day? [more inside]
posted by raspberrE at 6:44 PM PST - 11 comments

Changing Airline from BA... Recommendations?

What airlines would people recommend that fly out of London (LHR or LGW) to New York, Mumbai and Shanghai - my three normal destinations - and have a decent loyalty program? I've heard good things of Emirates and Etihad... any others? [more inside]
posted by 43rdAnd9th at 6:43 PM PST - 3 comments

I am a man of many interests... with no idea how to talk about them.

How can I become more comfortable talking about myself and sharing my interests with others? [more inside]
posted by thornhill at 5:48 PM PST - 15 comments

How should I discuss problems with a respected colleague with my CEO?

I have a 1:1 meeting pending with my CEO, and I'd like to discuss what I feel is the biggest impediment to our success: a single, very senior, very poisonous individual. I don't want this to be mistaken for a personal vendetta (it isn't), and I don't even need the person to be fired. I just want their poisonous behavior to stop. [more inside]
posted by grudgebgon at 5:47 PM PST - 13 comments

Who are famous nacho lovers?

I love to eat nachos. Who are some famous people that also publicly loved nachos?
posted by josher71 at 5:33 PM PST - 31 comments

Can I Get a Refill?

I have a Cross Classic Century pen that came with a standard Cross ballpoint ink refill installed. I don't like the ballpoint refill. Do I have any options when it comes to other (read: better) refills that will work with this pen? [more inside]
posted by roomwithaview at 5:27 PM PST - 3 comments

What is this song from the Maceo Plex Boiler Room Set?

What is the song playing around 49 minutes into this Maceo Plex Boiler Room set? Link here. Song has a woman singing about how her blood earns her keep.
posted by oceanjesse at 5:27 PM PST - 2 comments

Niche-ish Climbing Clothes designed/available in the US?

I'm looking for a pair of climbing pants with specific requirements available in the US. More details to follow. [more inside]
posted by FakePalindrome at 5:12 PM PST - 4 comments

Type into a template, output an html table (for newsletter)? Help!

Hi everyone. I am responsible for sending out an email newsletter. Beyond plain text and PDFs, it has proven fiendishly difficult to come up with relatively simple formatting that is going to look the same to every recipient. I had the idea that I might be able to do it with HTML: Putting each item into one cell of a one-column table. Surely, there must be an easy way to do this? [more inside]
posted by Alaska Jack at 4:33 PM PST - 7 comments

Creating a Twitter button that tweets dynamic text?

Hooboy. I'm in over my head. I modified a script to create a very simple name generator website. So far so good. But how can I create a Twitter button that populates the tweet with the phrase the script generates? (Difficulty: I really don't know what I'm doing. It's a minor miracle I made it this far.) [more inside]
posted by veggieboy at 3:46 PM PST - 4 comments

Just Sitting Here Like a Jerk With a Gamepad in my Hand

Why can't I get onto Origin from NHL15 or Madden 15 (PS4)? [more inside]
posted by joelhunt at 3:38 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me decide whether to reproduce or not.

My wife and I are trying to make up our minds about having children. We're between 30 and 35 years old, well-off, living a comfortable life and with good familial support networks. She's off hormonal contraception as of recently through a mutual decision, but nothing's set in stone yet. We're both anxious and uncertain and trying to deal with it, together as well as separately. Personally, I now feel like I have a loaded gun between my legs. People who were in my situation and made a choice one way or the other, or you who are in my situation now, I'd appreciate your input. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:55 PM PST - 139 comments

Protecting dry, chapped, bleeding hands from infection

So it's winter, and through a combination of excessive hand-washing and laziness, I've let my hands get dry and chapped to the point where they're developing cuts and bleeding. There are so many cuts, I'm not able to keep them bandaged anymore, and am very worried about infection (especially when I visit the doctor's office tomorrow.) [more inside]
posted by zbaco at 2:43 PM PST - 28 comments

Can you help me evaluate Verizon’s phone upgrade options?

My Droid Razr M recently went kerplunk, and boy, do I hate the phone upgrade process. Basically I want to have a working phone again as quickly as possible with as little lost data as possible with as little time spent on this as possible. I don’t relish this as an opportunity to get a new fun toy, but if you would, please live vicariously through me! [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 2:24 PM PST - 6 comments

Is it a big deal or isn't it? - Sports injury edition

My question is mainly about exercise-related injuries but it probably applies to all sorts of injuries. How do you know whether it's a deep bruise or a muscle strain? A skeletal issue or a problem tendon? A sprain or a pinched nerve? Something that requires a trip to a specialist, can be handled by a physical therapist, or will get better on its own with rest? [more inside]
posted by DrGail at 2:07 PM PST - 7 comments

Largest Fictional Universe

What's the largest world/universe in speculative fiction, in terms of quantity of words of fiction set in that universe? [more inside]
posted by Prunesquallor at 2:06 PM PST - 23 comments

Need to Drain Water from Steam Heat Radiators

Our heading system got flooded and now there's tons of water in a couple steam heat radiators that are in the wall (not sticking out like so many). Every time it starts heating the water bangs up against the metal and makes huge, scary banging noises. With a normal radiator I would shim up a side so the water runs out, but these are embedded in the wall. I need help identifying which part of the radiator to unscrew to drain it. [more inside]
posted by nathanrudy at 1:29 PM PST - 5 comments

Cheap first or business class tickets to asia?

I want to go to South East Asia this fall for my honeymoon, but the thing is I don't really care which country or city we go to first, or which city I fly from in the US, or even care particularly about when we go as long as it's after August. All I really want is the cheapest flight I can get across the pacific that will be comfortable for a 10+ hour flight (I'm over 6 feet tall, and the idea of sitting in economy for 10+ hours is a nightmare). Is this something that it's worth getting a travel agent for or is there some trick to doing this using ITA or something similar?
posted by empath at 12:53 PM PST - 15 comments

Newly diagnosed with lichen planus, looking for any and all advice

Yesterday I got the official diagnosis, and unfortunately I have it everywhere. If you're living with this autoimmune disease, what have you done that helped? What causes flare-upS? Did you have adverse reactions to medications, and did you find that certain things helped more than others? Most of what I've found online are basic fact sheets, so I'm hoping to get more personal information. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:51 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me find this fabric!

I am looking for a very specific fabric for a dance costume. It's a stretch velvet in a zebra or tiger stripe print. Problem is all of the ones that I have been able to locate have had thick super dark stripes and I do not want that. My apologies for the horrible quality of the photo.
posted by v1sual.3rr0r at 12:42 PM PST - 10 comments

Please help me plan a vacation to Italy!

I just booked a vacation in Italy for 11 full days with my girlfriend. We are flying into and out of Rome in early May. Please help us plan our trip! [more inside]
posted by masters2010 at 12:19 PM PST - 13 comments

Mild pain at first metatarsal

I started running a few months ago, and have now gotten to the point where I can (slowly! gradually!) increase my speed and distance. About two weeks ago, I started experiencing mild pain at the top of the arch on my left foot, what I believe to be the first metatarsal. [more inside]
posted by slogger at 11:47 AM PST - 7 comments

I want to be productive, but not too productive...

So once you've slayed (or at least knocked out) the procrastination beast, how do you keep your balance and not burn yourself out? [more inside]
posted by pennypiper at 11:30 AM PST - 6 comments

What to do with leftover potting soil?

I'm an apartment dweller with an extensive container garden and I'm moving into an apartment without access to outdoor space. [more inside]
posted by stripesandplaid at 11:05 AM PST - 10 comments

Learning programming online

I would like to learn computer programming online, what websites/courses would you suggest? [more inside]
posted by marienbad at 11:02 AM PST - 15 comments

1980s young adult fiction featuring a trip to The Go Gos/INXS concert?

Okay, the title pretty much is what I remember: it's a young adult book where the protagonist goes to a Go-Go’s concert where INXS is the opening act. [more inside]
posted by MCMikeNamara at 10:55 AM PST - 5 comments

How to get someone to STFU and go away

My roommate works from home and it is driving me fucking insane. She is here 24/7. Her desk is in the living room and she's pretty much monopolized the common area. Additionally, she ALWAYS talks to me. Whether I'm just passing through the living room to pee, or I've just woken up, or any other time, she won't stop fucking talking. [more inside]
posted by DayTripper at 10:50 AM PST - 83 comments

Need recommendations for reliable car service in Mumbai

The imperial family and I will be traveling to Mumbai in a couple of weeks. We'll be arriving at a profoundly unfriendly hour of the night with three children 12 & under. We need to get from the airport down to the Fort District without getting taken for a ride, as it were. What do you recommend: Taxi rank at the airport? Reliable car service? Recommendations sought.
posted by Emperor SnooKloze at 10:43 AM PST - 5 comments

Markor, how I loved thee...

I fell in love with dark brown Markor bookshelves from Ikea, and bought five of them, eventually. Now I would like more shelving, and something very Markor-like would be lovely... but Ikea has long since discontinued the pattern. [more inside]
posted by IAmBroom at 10:14 AM PST - 5 comments

Help Me Take Out Lower Manhattan

Does fabulous take out, more or less within walking distance of Battery Park City, exist? [more inside]
posted by baseballpajamas at 10:14 AM PST - 16 comments

One life-changing experience, please.

I've read a lot about saving money for experiences rather than things. What are some experiences that are absolutely worth saving up for? [more inside]
posted by elisse at 9:57 AM PST - 49 comments

What's reasonable to expect from your GP (Canada)?

My doctor covers the basics well and is caring, but isn't a great communicator. Is that a dealbreaker? [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 9:36 AM PST - 17 comments

When to Contact Owner About Questionable Property Manager

About a month ago, my wife and I were very interested in renting a townhouse in a nearby neighborhood that is very appealing to us for a variety of reasons. It's been vacant since late August, and the advertised rent has dropped each month to (what we believe) is now slightly below market value. On the day of the showing, we made an offer to sign a two-year lease -- something the owner clearly preferred per his advertisement -- and we are otherwise model tenants with great references and stable incomes. The one caveat was that we need to give our current landlord 60 days' notice (or potentially forfeit the next two months' rent). The property manager for the new place refused the offer outright, stating that she was only interested in prospective tenants who could move in immediately. When I asked if this was the owner's stipulation or hers, she refused to answer. Given that the house has been empty for nearly 5 months and my general knowledge of the economic incentives that apply to property management companies, I suspect the owner might be unaware of this behavior. He is a stranger to me. Should I let him know? [more inside]
posted by GorgeousPorridge at 9:30 AM PST - 16 comments

Seeking 11" laptop: PC, reliable, decent battery, heavy excel usage

Suggestions for lightweight 11" laptop? Need to have: full keyboard, Windows, able to handle large and complex Excel files and long Word docs, good internet connection, reliable performance, decent battery life, good for both work and for netflix-type activities, reliable use with external monitor. After a lemon of an HP, reliability is important. What should I expect to pay for this? Which one should I get? [more inside]
posted by quinoa at 9:12 AM PST - 21 comments

Pre-interview nerves with former interviewer.. please help

After a crazy amount of jobless time ofcourse everything has come at once. I am having interview after interview + my head is splitting. The knowledge base I am expected to cover is vast + I have worked a week prepping for this (along with producing presentations etc). Todays interview was tough - creepy cab driver in thick snow then being kept waiting nearly an hr for the interview whilst getting increasingly anxious.. Although I 'warmed up' I felt horribly stiff + self conscious for the first chunk + had deficits in some basic answers. No feedback yet but I'm not confident... [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 9:11 AM PST - 2 comments

Loading Docks in San Francisco

I'd like to make a list of all the outdoor loading docks in San Francisco. Here's an example loading dock on 2nd Street at Mission that shows an integrated ramp leading back to ground level. I'm looking for docks that are around 30 inches tall. Bonus points if you can use Google Street View to show me the location or if you know the height of the dock.
posted by jeffhoward at 8:43 AM PST - 5 comments

All in one gaming computers?

My 14-yo has been talking about a gaming computer for many moons. He wants to play Steam games: Minecraft, Don't Starve, Day Z, etc. Mainly networked playing. All of the computers we look at are just a really high end, colorful box with no OS, no monitor, no keyboard or mouse for around $800-$900. I am looking for an all-in-one that is graphics, ram and HD expandable and will run Steam (mostly) effortlessly. All suggestions welcome!
posted by parmanparman at 8:30 AM PST - 16 comments

Cheap Groceries in NYC?

I am currently visiting NYC and am moving here soon. I thought it would be helpful to know where to get cheap food - I won't be making too much money and am looking to move to Queens, Brooklyn or Inwood/ Washington Heights. Does anyone have any recommendations, even if not in those areas? [more inside]
posted by Coffee over Tea, till the Bitter End at 8:24 AM PST - 25 comments

Are There Contingency Plans in the Event of a Catastrophe?

Do the four major US professional team sports leagues (MLB, NHL, NFL and NBA) have secret plans on how to proceed with the league and the league schedule in the event of a catastrophe such as a plane crash to one of the teams? [more inside]
posted by 724A at 8:23 AM PST - 12 comments

What can I glean from an IP address?

I use Statcounter to track who visits my Tumblr, and a couple of IP addresses in a couple of towns are giving me some concern. [more inside]
posted by witchen at 8:21 AM PST - 2 comments

recommend a Memphis realtor?

I'm finally ready to put my Memphis house on the market again, so have to find an ethical, skilled professional realtor there (I live 3 hours away). Ideally this would be someone who learned the business, and performance standards, in at least one other major American city. [more inside]
posted by mmiddle at 7:59 AM PST - 3 comments

sewing machine sews backwards

I have a Brother XL-5031 sewing machine which I cleaned and oiled 3 weeks ago. I do have the manual for it. It is sewing backwards in very tiny stitches. I think this means the feed dogs are not sitting right. So I've cleaned out the fluff on the feed dogs and checked my tension. I've re-threaded upper and lower threads. I've checked the pattern selection and the stitch length dials. I've found out when I press the reverse button, the machine sews perfectly well using the appropriate stitch length, in reverse, as it ought. But forwards, not at all. Mefites, has anyone a clue as to what else I could do here, short of taking it to be serviced? I think perhaps the pattern selection dial is sticking somewhere and doing something weird to the feed dogs, how to fix it? The machine doesn't have a drop feed lever as far as I can see. [more inside]
posted by glasseyes at 7:42 AM PST - 4 comments

Apple Preview showing lighter blocks where deletions were made

Fixing some information in a scanned document. Screen shows a perfect seamless page but when printed the blocks I changed show up lighter. Is there some way I can fix this?
posted by ashtray elvis at 7:41 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me find a new favorite bra. *sigh*

My most favorite everyday bras at Target have vanished. Help me find new bras? TMI inside. [more inside]
posted by geeky at 7:40 AM PST - 13 comments

"Art" or "staring at breasts?"

I'm a visual artist, and recently I've been feeling the urge to photograph nudes, male and female. Whilst I don't have any issues with male nudes, I seem to be getting hung up on past experiences when it comes to the female nudes. Help me understand what is due to the past and what is actually a genuine problem with what it is that I want to do (details inside). [more inside]
posted by six sided sock at 6:08 AM PST - 30 comments

How to upgrade a laptop SSD?

A few weeks ago I bought a Lenovo Flex 2-14 laptop. I seem to have mostly conquered the issues catalogued in this question, which all stemmed from Lenovo's bizarre decision to pre-load the thing with Malware. After a total reinstall from scratch (and a lost weekend - thanks Lenovo), I'm now mostly happy with the machine, save for one crucial issue - the supplied SSD is far too small. [more inside]
posted by jonathanbell at 5:48 AM PST - 5 comments

Need recs for NYC medicaid mental healthcare providers

Asking for a friend: help me find a psychiatrist or better yet a mental health outpatient clinic in NYC that takes Medicaid HealthPlus and doesn't have insanely long wait times. [more inside]
posted by zdravo at 5:44 AM PST - 2 comments

Can I heat this?

I accidentally put one of those plastic sheet protector things (with paper in it) onto an electric burner that was switched off but still hot. I didn't realise it at the time and came back to a neat hole in the sheet protector, some scorch marks on the paper and some of the plastic melted onto the burner. Thankfully it didn't catch fire. It's a coil burner. My question is: what's the best way to deal with it? [more inside]
posted by pianissimo at 5:22 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me reset my car's computer in time for Saturday's emissions test

Of course my check-engine light comes on 4 days before the deadline to get my emissions tested. The issue got fixed yesterday, but they told me it could take up to a week to reset my car's computer--and if I got my emissions tested before it fully reset, I'd fail. Can I put my car through all the necessary paces in 3 days? [more inside]
posted by elizeh at 5:01 AM PST - 11 comments

Remaining impartial between to ideologically opposing workplace factions?

How do I remain impartial between two warring factions? A few years ago I joined my workplace union. As I have worked my way into HQ, I have discovered two distinct factions. I have made many good friends on either side but it’s getting difficult to enjoy myself and feel included. I get upset and feel like I want to quit... HELP :/ [more inside]
posted by krisb1701d at 3:58 AM PST - 4 comments

How do you relax or blow off steam at the end of the day?

I'm hoping to get suggestions for how to relax after a day of drinking coffee. I'm looking for relaxing behaviors, rather than substances. Hoping to hear what people actually do in their real lives, as opposed to what the experts suggest. [more inside]
posted by sam_harms at 3:42 AM PST - 43 comments

More songs for baby video, like M. Ward's "One Hundred Million Years"

I'm looking for more songs similar to M. Ward's "One Hundred Million Years" for a 20-minute baby photo/video compilation. I have found plenty of kids' songs and songs written about having children. I'm looking for more indie songs that echo the sentiment, "And this love, this love between you and I, Is older than that burning ball of fire up in the sky." Songs by indie singers about endless love, happiness, joy, the beauty of life, etc. would fit the bill. [more inside]
posted by TBoneMcCool at 2:55 AM PST - 13 comments

Overwhelmed by mirrorless camera options (Fuji X-E2/M-1??)

I'm looking into buying a new camera. I was a casual dslr user (Canon) but now I rarely use it and want to find a lighter camera (but with comparable quality) to bring when I travel. I also like the look of the Fuji X cameras because I do think they look less obtrusive and generally really attactive to me. I am completely overwhelmed by all the choices. [more inside]
posted by Yeou at 1:40 AM PST - 9 comments

Is voluntary quadruple amputation possible?

The reason for the question is behind the cut, but basically I'm trying to find out if something like that is even remotely possible. [more inside]
posted by ElaineMc at 12:33 AM PST - 32 comments

How much and what type of math is beneficial to programming?

How much and what type of math is beneficial to programming? What are the prerequisites / pathways to grokking this kind of math? [more inside]
posted by man down under at 12:04 AM PST - 15 comments

January 28

Likable to all except single men?

Why is it so easy for me to naturally make friends but never meet guys that ask me out? I always thought that people skills in both scenarios are transferable. The only difference I can think of are looks but I don't think that's my problem. [more inside]
posted by sabina_r at 11:29 PM PST - 27 comments

What type of boat is this?

I saw this boat floating in Puget Sound a while back. Can you identify the make/model? [more inside]
posted by BlackLeotardFront at 11:11 PM PST - 3 comments

[beltbucklefilter] Any idea where this buckle might have come from?

Picked this up a few years ago at an abandoned pawn place in New Mexico. Love it dearly (although it does need a polish), but I have no idea where it might be from (definitely American, perhaps government?) or what the design might signify. And, hey, I wear it all the time, so I'd like to know!
posted by experiencing a significant gravitas shortfall at 10:07 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I draw like MC Escher?

I'd like to understand how Escher made his architectural illusion drawings so I can model similar environments in 3D and then use those models to draw my own creations out on paper. How do I even get started? [more inside]
posted by everyday_naturalist at 9:35 PM PST - 13 comments

Another traveling to Europe question! (Honeymoon edition)

So we're planning to go on honeymoon for 3 weeks in May. I want to spend a week in Paris; he wants to spend a week in Germany. We are pondering a third city. Please help! [more inside]
posted by madonna of the unloved at 9:24 PM PST - 13 comments

What's this metal thing?

I came across this cute metal thing in a closet and have no idea what it's used for. It's like a three dimension capital I. A magnet doesn't stick to it. Dimensions are about .75"x.75"x1". It weighs 1.5oz, which seems heavy for its size and the fact that part of it is hollow. Photos inside! [more inside]
posted by oxisos at 9:08 PM PST - 6 comments

Respectfully offering a speaking class to employee?

I have a great employee and friend who needs to give trainings, and he umms, speaks too fast, and stumbles. I think he'd really benefit from a speaking course, but he tends to take things very personally. How do I offer/suggest this to minimize hurt feelings? [more inside]
posted by ftm at 7:30 PM PST - 23 comments

FMLA when there's no HR

I work for a rapidly growing company that has no HR staff and relatively few policies to speak of. I need to take extended leave under FMLA. Difficulty level: no one else can do my work. [more inside]
posted by anotheraccount at 7:20 PM PST - 8 comments

Is it legal to only accept pre-authorized or second-party payments?

Are there any laws or regulations in Alberta, Canada, that would supersede a county-imposed pre-authorized-only payment scheme? [more inside]
posted by CKmtl at 7:14 PM PST - 2 comments

Filling in those speech bubbles..

What are some tips that I could use to help me write out comics I'd like to draw? [more inside]
posted by morning_television at 7:11 PM PST - 14 comments

To the Sex(t) Level

I want to introduce more kink and toys to sexy time with the Mr. I need to first get over my embarrassment of kink and sex toys so that I can then apply your lessons for how to introduce kink and sex toys to the Mr. [more inside]
posted by tafetta, darling! at 6:58 PM PST - 18 comments

[post-dissertation filter] Finding work while still tethered? Procedure?

I just submitted my dissertation (yay...)! But during the struggle I've decided that academia is not my cup of tea--what next? Details after dropping out of warp. [more inside]
posted by wallawallasweet at 6:53 PM PST - 3 comments

Barcodes: Do's and Don'ts - Can's & Cannot's

So, my little food business grew significantly in the last year and the future is making the idea of my products finding shelf space in retail outlets a very strong reality. With that, I will be putting barcodes on my labels. [more inside]
posted by TwilightKid at 6:48 PM PST - 8 comments

New FB like page. Little to no progress. What am I doing wrong?

I created a new Facebook page to share tips/tricks related to using iOS. There has been little to no likes on my page, and it's gnawing at me. Am I doing something wrong? More details inside the fold. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 6:34 PM PST - 35 comments

Recommended reading about gender and language, gender generally

I was reading this comment by KathrynT about men's perceptions of women in groups being equal in number when the no. of women is 17%, women having to comprise over 80% of group members to get equal speaking time with men. I'd really like to know where this came from, about gender and language more widely, gender and misperceptions generally. I'm looking for book recommendations but am also interested in anything else you think is a good resource - blogs, articles etc. [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday at 6:01 PM PST - 7 comments

How does PayPal work?

A client located in the Caribbean wants to pay me via PayPal ; I am in Canada. I don't have a PayPal account, and I'm not sure how it all works. They will pay me in USD, which is great. I have a US dollar account at a major Canadian bank. How do I get the PayPal payment into my USD account? Any help would be appreciated, especially from those who have a Cdn bank account.
posted by Nevin at 5:51 PM PST - 9 comments

How did my computer get this malware?

My computer apparently picked up an infection while it was turned off. I know that's not right. What really happened? [more inside]
posted by Biblio at 5:50 PM PST - 8 comments

I know how to make electronic music. So how do I make electronic music?

I want to read, watch, or hear things that teach or discuss how to make electronic music. But from a creative or structural perspective, not a solely technical perspective. [more inside]
posted by threeants at 5:28 PM PST - 8 comments

Can my Nexus 7 be revived?

I have a 2012 Nexus 7 that hasn't been successfully turned on in over a year. After the last time I used it, I was without it for a few months. When I returned, it didn't seem to react to being plugged in to charge, even leaving it charging for a whole day. I didn't have time to deal with it then, so now it's been sitting on a shelf for many months. Can it be resurrected, or is it probably just dead?
posted by ocherdraco at 5:12 PM PST - 8 comments

Trying to find a book I read as a kid in the 80's

Hi all! My family used to buy me paperback children's books back in the 80's like the Great Brain stories, Henry Huggins/Ramona series or How To Eat Fried Worms; stuff in that sort of vein. I recall Dell Yearling being one of the common publishers. But there's one series that I only half remember that I'd love to read again. [more inside]
posted by starscream at 4:20 PM PST - 7 comments

Great scenes that pass the Bechdel Test, for two young women?

I'm looking for interesting and diverse scenes and monologues that would work well in an acting class for female students, approximate age range 13-22. [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 4:18 PM PST - 15 comments

Share with me your best ideas for sharing Valentines

Have you and your significant other ever had a rad valentines that involved collaborative planning, surprise AND romance? Tell me everything! [more inside]
posted by Gray Skies at 3:50 PM PST - 5 comments

Portland Valentine's dinner

I probably should have asked this weeks ago... My husband and I will be in Portland, OR, for Valentine's Day and we'd like to have a nice but not ludicrously expensive dinner. We like Chinese, Japanese, Mexican, Italian, northwestern, seafood. Neither of us eat beef. Doesn't need to be fancy but does need to take reservations. We'll probably be eating early-ish, maybe 6 pm, which will hopefully help us find a spot. Any thoughts? Thanks!
posted by skycrashesdown at 3:30 PM PST - 13 comments

KitKat or Lollipop

I have a 2012 version of the Nexus 7. It's been bugging me to upgrade to Lollipop. [more inside]
posted by kathrynm at 3:21 PM PST - 15 comments

Remedial electronic engineering filter: how does USB charging work?

I'm trying to set up several micro USB charging stations in my house and car, and I'm realizing that I retain very little from 9th-grade Intro To Electronics. Set me straight on how current works? [more inside]
posted by foursentences at 3:17 PM PST - 7 comments

What's your favourite suspenseful short story?

I'm creating a short story unit for my grade 12 students and so I'm looking for 5 or 6 good, suspenseful ones that will (hopefully) really pique their interest--even the ones who hate reading. [more inside]
posted by figaro at 2:47 PM PST - 31 comments

Under what circumstances do the chemicals in matches react?

I lit a match yesterday. I am afraid that the matchbox and everything the match touched will spontaneously ignite. Please reassure me with science, or, failing that, tell me what to do to avoid spontaneous ignition. Thank you very much! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:18 PM PST - 14 comments

Durable carpenter jeans?

Can anyone recommend carpenter jeans that last more than six months? [more inside]
posted by pwnguin at 2:11 PM PST - 15 comments

Painting a room in two colours

Decorating-challenged man with limited colour sense has large family room (24' x 30') with walls divided roughly half way up the wall (on three sides) by narrow (4") shelf/plate rail. Is there a general guideline/rule for painting such a room with one colour up to and including the rail and another colour from there to the ceiling? [more inside]
posted by RafikiGuy at 2:05 PM PST - 11 comments

Metal-ish cover of Rasputin that ISN'T Turisas?

Hi AskMe. I'm losing my mind. I heard a cover of the Boney M disco song Rasputin on Pandora a few years ago. It came up in rotation a few times, but I can't find a version that matches the one I recall, either on my channel thumbs-up songs or on a Pandora song title search. I can't find it Googling 'Rasputin cover.' It's not the Turisas version, but it's similar. [more inside]
posted by Lou Stuells at 1:09 PM PST - 4 comments

Why do most businesses have flat roofs?

It seems like wherever I go, businesses have flat roofs, while houses have sloped ones. I've always heard bad things about flat roofing, but presumably they have some sort of reasoning for not going with the sloped. [more inside]
posted by Trifling at 12:55 PM PST - 15 comments

Advice on emergency housing in DFW

After a promising-looking month, my financial situation has tanked. I'm in my last night in the place I've been living (a weekly motel) and I'm not sure where I'll be this time tomorrow. I'm looking for advice as to emergency housing for one person in the Dallas area. [more inside]
posted by item at 12:40 PM PST - 12 comments

So you bought a house...now what?

We bid on a house, our offer was accepted, the inspector comes in a week to view said house. Assuming all goes to plan and house is not secretly falling apart, what should our priorities be between the confirmation signing and the closing date? [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 12:30 PM PST - 16 comments

Big Bear, CA, Fun?

Just came back from a weekend at Big Bear with a bunch of kids and not sure it was fun? [more inside]
posted by silsurf at 12:28 PM PST - 7 comments

Driving from Portland, OR to Phoenix, AZ.

Google Maps gives me a range of times between two routes depending on the time of day I query, so I'm curious if anyone has personal experiences between these two routes and suggestions for others. I'm trying to minimize driving time as much as possible. [more inside]
posted by gucci mane at 12:16 PM PST - 13 comments

Paleo No More? Reduce high blood pressure?

My husband (5'8, 205 lbs, 39, South Asian) was diagnosed as pre-hypertensive after several months of high blood pressure readings. After a couple years going soft Paleo to great success for my partner & me, I'm finding myself totally confused by the opposing DASH diet and trying to figure out what to do to improve his health. [more inside]
posted by Locative at 12:02 PM PST - 21 comments

the downward spiral

Can you tell me what it was like for a junior high girl to get a perm in the eighties? [more inside]
posted by roger ackroyd at 11:55 AM PST - 35 comments

Microwave Internet

Is switching to a small local provider of microwave internet from Comcast a good idea? [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 11:52 AM PST - 8 comments

How do I buy Magic: The Gathering cards?

Nephew is way into Magic: The Gathering and wants cards for his birthday. I know nothing about this. He's been playing for 6 months or so. What's the safest bet for a gift in the $20-40 range?
posted by gwint at 11:52 AM PST - 14 comments

Where's your Buzzerkeley?

Is there a Berkeley Ca near you? [more inside]
posted by Mr.Me at 11:42 AM PST - 40 comments

Is it legal for a college to "lead us all in prayer" before a meeting?

I attended an adjunct faculty meeting at a public two-year college in Texas. Before the meeting, the campus vice president asked an instructor to lead us all in prayer. So we prayed. I was under the impression that public colleges weren't permitted anything more than a "moment of silence." Or does that apply only to elementary and secondary schools?
posted by jackypaper at 11:35 AM PST - 9 comments

Novel recommendations, part 121947432

I recently enjoyed The Interestings by Meg Wolitzer and am searching for similar novels. By which I mean novels that are about people living their lives, and the growth and change that naturally happens as they do. Engaging, but not particularly dramatic. Difficulty level: reading that helps me fall asleep. A couple of snowflakes inside... [more inside]
posted by dry white toast at 11:19 AM PST - 16 comments

Please help me find a print of a postcard!

Hi, MeFi! My co-worker has this great postcard that he got in Amsterdam in the 90s. I would love to purchase a full-sized print of it, but my Google searches have come up pretty empty thus far. [more inside]
posted by meowf at 10:27 AM PST - 4 comments

Nasdaq.com automatically switches to nasdaq.com/zh, which is in Chinese.

Every time I go to nasdaq.com, it automatically defaults me to nasdaq.com/zh, which is in chinese. I can't figure out how to get it to switch back. [more inside]
posted by Slinga at 10:01 AM PST - 3 comments

Looking for information on gender bias in STEM fields

I hope this doesn't sound like a "do my homework for me" Ask, but I'd like some help with researching gender bias in STEM. As I mentioned in this thread, I've been asked to write an article regarding gender bias in STEM for an internal newsletter at my company. [more inside]
posted by blurker at 9:49 AM PST - 6 comments

Wired headset iPhone 6?

Please recommend a stellar-sounding wired headset for use with an iPhone 6. Bonus points for killer mic. [more inside]
posted by Thistledown at 9:36 AM PST - 4 comments

Tux Police

My brother-in-law is turning 50 and is planning a shindig. [more inside]
posted by terrier319 at 9:35 AM PST - 41 comments

Stuck at work

I'm so far behind on a project that I feel like I'm lying to my employer and I'm deeply pissed at myself. How can I move forward? [more inside]
posted by R a c h e l at 9:13 AM PST - 14 comments

Make my Instapaper instantly paper

I build up quite a bit of reading in my online skimming, but I want to be able to export all that into some kind of newspapery or magaziney template that I can print out and read in the paper-world. Reading off a screen just isn't doing it for me anymore. [more inside]
posted by ikahime at 8:57 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me teach my undergraduate students postmodernism?

Please help me with texts, videos or visual guides to postmodernism - something my theatre students struggle to grasp every year. [more inside]
posted by Augenblick at 8:37 AM PST - 9 comments

I request the scratchfree-est of wipes

I have an extremely delicate wiping task coming up: removing oxide and binder dust from extremely rare, somewhat degraded magnetic media. I want to minimize risk of scratches. What wipes shall I use? [more inside]
posted by tss at 8:37 AM PST - 6 comments

Comfort me with novels

I'm entering a period in my life that's going to be, shall we say, a little challenging. I'm looking for novels that will get me so engrossed that I'll forget everything outside them for a least a little while. [more inside]
posted by holborne at 8:09 AM PST - 74 comments

Finding spam callers

I've been getting spam robocalls to my personal cell phone from numerous different numbers across the US for the last several months for one particular "loan service". How can I find out information on the company that is using these numbers so that I can lodge complaints aganst them, to the FCC or something? [more inside]
posted by dozo at 8:03 AM PST - 9 comments

Itinerary question: Besançon vs. Colmar

I've always had luck picking the brains of the well-traveled Meta-fites! I will make this as short as possible. We have 4 or 5 days to split between Besançon and Colmar, France. However, I am not having much luck finding useful information. I've heard that Besançon is less touristy and that Colmar is beautiful. If any of you have been in these cities, I would appreciate hearing your opinions on the experience. Basically, which of the two options should be the longer stay?
posted by Don_K at 6:39 AM PST - 7 comments

All our lockers are belong to someone?

We have a couple of hundred storage spaces in our collective workshop, and they're managed on paper, in a folder, on a shelf, at the office. I'd like to digitalise it and add a working waiting list. O hive, bestow your wisdom and deliver us from Excel! [more inside]
posted by monocultured at 6:16 AM PST - 6 comments

Should I try to handle these two legal cases at once?

Should I try to deal with these two difficult and scary legal situations at the same time? I have been in an abusive marriage for years and am thinking about divorce as things are getting worse, but also, a few months ago I got raped by a person I knew and trusted. [more inside]
posted by Anya17 at 5:13 AM PST - 16 comments

Hey, Hive Mind. Could I be dating a narcissist?

I've recently began dating a guy who's coming on pretty strong. While I want to embrace what feels like someone who truly cares after a string of emotionally distant men, I'm feeling like it's too much, too soon, and I'm getting incredibly idealized. Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by shotinthedark at 5:05 AM PST - 37 comments

Digging out. Hope me.

The blizzard has come and gone, and we were hit pretty hard. I have never seen this much snow, or lived in a house before, or lived in a town before. How do we move forward with our property, and what can we expect from the days and weeks that follow? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 4:38 AM PST - 61 comments

Taxes on Student Loan Disability Discharge?

I'll speak with a tax professional next week but if you've had a similar experience I'd love to hear from you as I'm feeling my way through this. Today I received a notice that my $20,000 student loan has been formally discharged. My only income for the past four years has been Social Security disability and there's no foreseeable change. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:18 AM PST - 3 comments

Severe job hunting anxiety

I have always experienced crippling anxiety whenever I've tried applying for jobs, so I've stayed in the same lousy job for years just to avoid it. Now that lousy job is ending due to layoffs, so I have to get over this somehow. I have already tried therapy and I'm on anti-anxiety medication. What else can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:17 AM PST - 13 comments

can glasses help me?

Can glasses help me? I have great eyesight each time I've been tested, much better than 20:20. But when I try to read a lot of small text or numbers I get terrible headaches and blurred vision. [more inside]
posted by boobjob at 12:46 AM PST - 16 comments

January 27

Can I trust my eyes? Or my ophthalmologist?

My new prescription is dramatically different from my old one from just a couple of years ago... does that make sense? [more inside]
posted by sesquipedalia at 10:44 PM PST - 5 comments

MacBook Pro is *slow* when I back up with Time Machine

I have a 2-year-old MacBook Pro with a 500 GB SSD running Yosemite. It was fine until 3 days ago, when the computer slowed to a crawl. I rebooted several times; each time, it got slow again. I eventually realized that it slowed down when trying to back up to the external hard drive. I ran Disk Utility, which found no errors on the SSD or the external hard drive. [more inside]
posted by lukemeister at 9:28 PM PST - 6 comments

What to do about my mother-in-law's car?

My mother-in-law has a completely borked car. This is apparently my job to fix. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by miyabo at 9:27 PM PST - 17 comments

Help me find a creepy (but not _too_ creepy) videogame for my son.

My son is 12. He had a rough patch a couple years ago with scary images in movie/tv shows, but he had some real breakthroughs, and now has started to come around to what I'd call a healthy interest in the weird and scary. However, we don't want to go too far and make things bad again, so, baby steps. Looking for things that are maybe scary in tone or atmosphere, but not so much jump-scares or gory. [more inside]
posted by kokogiak at 8:45 PM PST - 28 comments

Place to work in downtown Chicago?

I'm in downtown Chicago for a conference. Where can I sneak away to work for a few hours every day? I would like to walk somewhere close to the Intercontinental Hotel downtown with my laptop and index cards and just write. [more inside]
posted by k8lin at 8:44 PM PST - 11 comments

Strategies for dealing with customer complaints (in text form)

I've recently taken a part-time job with duties that include responding negative/complaint emails (from parents of kids in an after-school program). I've had lots of practice responding to these types of situations in person (thanks, retail work), but somehow seeing the comments in text makes them weigh more heavily on me. [more inside]
posted by btfreek at 8:42 PM PST - 9 comments

How to make use of a professional organization?

I'm in grad school for a masters in counseling, and our teachers are telling us we need to join listservs and professional organizations, so we know what's happening in our field right now. My issue is this: I have limited time every day, and I'm ADHD. Given these factors, how involved should I get in professional organizations? Are they helpful? Or are they the yearbook committee of the post-graduate world? [more inside]
posted by aaxelrod at 8:23 PM PST - 4 comments

where can I read details plans and after-action reports (on any topic)?

For example, the 2014 Mason Transit inclement weather plan, NJTransit's hurricane plan, or the MTA's Sandy after-action report. Doesn't have to be related to mass transit; that's just where my mind is today.
posted by d. z. wang at 7:58 PM PST - 3 comments

Am I ready to own a dog?

I'm at the point in my life where I want to get a dog, but I want to make sure I have all the boxes checked so I know I'm making the right decision. [more inside]
posted by hyperion at 7:31 PM PST - 36 comments

Abscess or just sore swollen dental ligaments?

After a filling was replaced and ground down a couple of times recently, I have a tooth that is very sore to the touch, but does not ache on its own. The gum beside it is swollen and tender and soft, and if i make myself bite down it feels spongy under the tooth. The dentist says he can get me in again in a week. Is this an abscess? Do I need to push to get in faster? [more inside]
posted by dilettante at 6:47 PM PST - 9 comments

Outgrown SSD with OS on it. Now what?

My SSD running Win7 is full. I've bought a new one. What's the easiest way to copy the contents of the original to the new one? I do not want to reformat.
posted by anthropomorphic at 6:30 PM PST - 7 comments

Opaque, low-rise black leggings for gal with big hips?

I'm looking for a pair of low-rise, fully opaque, black leggings for a dance performance I've got coming up in a couple of months. [more inside]
posted by burntflowers at 4:50 PM PST - 4 comments

Please take my whisky!

I have a couple of unopened bottles of whisky that I don't want. No one I have asked wants them. Normally I use Craigslist to give away stuff I don't want anymore, but listing alcohol is against the TOS for both Craigslist and Freecycle. I have also heard that food banks don't accept alcohol. I hate throwing away perfectly good stuff. Does anyone know of somewhere I can donate them, or any other way to legally find them a good home?
posted by insoluble uncertainty at 4:39 PM PST - 37 comments

Apple HealthKit, how u work?

I've become obsessed with the Health app on my iPhone. I get that it probably uses GPS to calculate how far I'm walking/running in a day. But how does it know with crazy precision, how many flights of stairs I've gone up? What else can I get it to do, and how can I get the most out of this app? [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 4:37 PM PST - 6 comments

Thoughts become things...sometimes.

I've been depressed and lazy and consistently exhausted for the better part of a decade now. A good, productive day is rare, even on meds. Imagine my surprise then, when a few days ago I managed to clean my perenially disorganized and chaotic room with the speed and efficiency of a Tasmanian devil. None of the things that would normally keep me sitting on my ass- my problem with throwing things away, my ADD, my perception of the task at hand as being overwhelming- seemed to be able to stop me, even when things got repetitive/boring. think I understand why this happened, but how can I apply this to everything else in my life that's become so neglected? Snowstorm under the cut. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 4:21 PM PST - 8 comments

What the heck are those little metal bars I keep seeing on roads?

Unfortunately I don't have a picture of this mystery object to attach, as I only see one once in a while. And the next time I do see one, I want to know what it is already. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Mechitar at 4:20 PM PST - 6 comments

Movie with nuclear fuel pool?

I'm trying to remember a movie I watched as a kid - it may or may not have been a YA movie - that had a scene where one of the protagonists had to swim in a spent nuclear fuel pool. Any ideas?
posted by dmd at 3:59 PM PST - 14 comments

Seeking comfort and grace, not depression and sorrow

The last of my grandparents just passed away (it was peaceful and expected) but I'm struggling to hold myself together. I think my grieving is normal since it just happened but I'd love to hear advice and techniques to think of his life and death in positive, comforting ways. [more inside]
posted by wannabecounselor at 1:16 PM PST - 10 comments

Dropping the interest on a seller-financed mortgage-what's in it for me?

Is there any benefit to dropping the interest rate on a seller-financed mortgage note "just because"? [more inside]
posted by honeybee413 at 1:06 PM PST - 14 comments

Trying to sew two halves of two hats together.

I want to cut two hats in half and sew each half to the other (e.g. one half of the hat will be team A and the other half of the hat will be team B). How can I most effectively do this? [more inside]
posted by defmute at 12:37 PM PST - 19 comments

Should I get LASIK when I already have dry eye syndrome?

YANM eye doctor. I got a screening from UC Berkeley's eye clinic last year and was okayed for LASIK, but haven't gone through with it yet. During this year's routine eye exam, they finally diagnosed me with dry eye syndrome. Since LASIK can also cause permanent dry eye, is it still relatively safe for me to get? [more inside]
posted by ziggly at 12:36 PM PST - 11 comments

On Being Framed

In the recent thread on the Silk Road, the Dread Pirate Roberts, and Ross Ulbricht, a big part of the story was Ulbricht's claim that he was framed by Mark Karpeles. How often is "I was framed" used as a defence, and how often does it succeed? [more inside]
posted by fatbird at 12:31 PM PST - 5 comments

Is there a UK equivalent to factual.com?

Factual.com has data about cosmetic products and their ingredients, and it would be just what I need, except that the vast majority of the products listed are North American. I'm in the UK, and have tried searching for 65 products by UPC code; I found only 6 of them. Does anybody know of an equivalent site with data for UK products, that has an API for automated queries? [more inside]
posted by tel3path at 12:22 PM PST - 1 comment

How to sell our Ontario-registered never-imported American car

How can we sell, in the U.S., a car from the U.S. with Canadian plates that was never permanently imported into Canada, but that has Canadian plates? [more inside]
posted by grouse at 12:13 PM PST - 13 comments

Alternatives to Puppies and Rescues?

We'd like to get a Portuguese Water Dog. They are very rare as rescues. (Which is a good sign, I imagine!) Is there any way to adopt a grownup dog? Or is buying a puppy from a breeder the only alternative to rescues?
posted by musofire at 12:03 PM PST - 7 comments

Pillowy Slippers to Buy Online

I wanted to get these IKEA slippers but I didn't get around to it before they went out of stock at my local IKEA. Where can I buy a similar pair of thick pillowy or quilted machine washable slippers online? Down would be nice but cotton/poly is OK, too.
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 11:41 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me name a documentary film.

I'm finishing a documentary on an extremely large (multiple millions of people), global subculture. We picked 5 characters in 5 continents and spent "one day" with each of them to show the breadth of the community and how varied their experiences all are. I need a title that evokes a similar feeling to "Life in a Day" (which is already taken). At the end of the film, the title flickers past in dozens of languages, so it should be something that reads pretty fast.
posted by nathancaswell at 11:34 AM PST - 30 comments

Fancy-ish men's rugby shirt repair and/or replacement

I spilled bleach on a beloved rugby shirt, and would like to try to repair or replace it. Help? [more inside]
posted by NikitaNikita at 10:53 AM PST - 3 comments

Longshot song identification question

I'm looking for an instrumental song I heard while boarding an American Airlines flight a few days ago (one of multiple instrumental songs played with this video). I also heard it in some kind of TV commercial years ago - I think a car commercial circa the 2010 or 2008 Olympics. [more inside]
posted by st elmo's fire at 10:43 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me find a good seamstress in Seattle/Tacoma area

I need someone who can work quickly, has reasonable prices, and can handle costuming from drawn, not particularly complex designs. Anecdotes welcome. [more inside]
posted by corb at 10:31 AM PST - 4 comments

Need Suggestions for Men's French Cuff Shirts

I used to buy plain white Stafford spread-collar French cuff men's dress shirts at JC Penney's website, but they have been discontinued. Please make suggestions to me for other places to look. I am accustomed to paying about $30-$35 apiece. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 10:22 AM PST - 6 comments

Help for the loneliest kid you ever saw.

My five-year-old gets really sad, every single night, about the fact that he has to sleep alone. How can we help him? [more inside]
posted by logic vs love at 10:03 AM PST - 46 comments

Breast Reduction (New Zealand)

I have been contemplating a breast reduction for some time and have now reached the point where I am certain I want to take actual steps toward doing so. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:58 AM PST - 2 comments

Do we need a lawyer when we close on our mortgage refinance?

Because we are in New York state, when we close on our refi, we are going to have to sign all of our paperwork in person. As I understand it, New York law requires this. We had our own lawyer present when we closed on the purchase of this house. Should we have one when we close on the refinance? If so, Why? If it matters, we are in Nassau county, and we are refinancing with the original bank who has owned our mortgage since we purchased the home.
posted by waterisfinite at 9:48 AM PST - 7 comments

Harmonica...funk?

I really like songs like this and this and this. Who/what else should I be listening to? [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 9:12 AM PST - 9 comments

Jamaican Destination Wedding – how to pick a resort?

I have a dear friend planning a destination wedding in Jamaica for April 2016 she is having some difficulties in picking the resort. Would you be able to offer any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by blueberrypicasso at 8:45 AM PST - 6 comments

Where to watch the Super Bowl in Utrecht?

Turns out I'll be in Utrecht on Sunday. Any recommended spot to watch the Super Bowl? It's going to be at midnight Central Europe Time, right? I could go up to Amsterdam, I guess, but that seems a little much.
posted by colin_l at 8:05 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me figure out how to convert various files on a Mac.

How do I convert from Word 94 to Word 2010 when I can't get the original files to open? How do I convert Powerpoint files to Keynote? [more inside]
posted by joannemerriam at 7:47 AM PST - 10 comments

Tell met about times that you were honest but kind

I have only a vague idea of what honest-but-kind looks like in close relationships. I find it hard to imagine saying, "I like you, but I don't like that about you," without it coming across as a harsh rejection. Do you have examples of times that you were honest-but-kind? If it's something that you do well on a regular basis, what's the most important thing you're bringing to the interaction? [more inside]
posted by clawsoon at 7:42 AM PST - 27 comments

Is there a semi-automatic program for replying to emails?

My users fill out out a form that includes their name. It gets forwarded to my gmail account. I want to scan their email myself, then press a hotkey, and automatically generate one of ten replies (content based on the form fields) that includes their first name. Is there a piece of software that does this? If not, there's your startup idea.
posted by markcmyers at 7:02 AM PST - 7 comments

Should I tell my soon-to-be employer that my dad is on hospice?

I'm due to start a new job in five weeks. Since I accepted, my dad has been admitted to home hospice. Should I tell me new employer? [more inside]
posted by AlmondEyes at 6:43 AM PST - 8 comments

Best or most appropriate Statistic method to Use.

I have a statistics and/or probability question and the last time I took a statistics class Vanilla Ice and Andrew "Dice Clay" were multi-millionaires. I am not looking for a problem to be solved, I am asking what statistical technique should I use to determine if a time series of data is due to randomness or not. [more inside]
posted by otto42 at 6:35 AM PST - 12 comments

What is this instrument?

What is this instrument? I think it's a soprano sax, but it looks slightly different than other soprano saxes, so I'm wondering if it's a silver clarinet. Extra credit: who made it, how old is it, what's it worth? Thanks!
posted by crazylegs at 6:24 AM PST - 8 comments

Social skills workplan

I've read books about improving social skills and it hasn't really helped. What I really want is some workplan that's broken down into tasks for each week to help me improve. Mostly I'm looking at seeming interesting enough that people would want to spend time with me. [more inside]
posted by ninjablob at 4:10 AM PST - 28 comments

how I learned to stop worrying and love the gym

Have bitten the bullet and joined a new gym. Just going there to sign up and take a tour of the facilities was enough to make me feel inadequate. I didn't see a single person there who looked like me. I need help with silencing the negative self-talk, because I really do want to stick with it. Any advice for a frightened, fat gym noob? Success stories, words of inspiration? Or just what you wish you knew when you started out? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 3:26 AM PST - 51 comments

When do I give away my illegal sublet? UK Housing Filter.

I'm currently living in an illegal housing assn. sublet (UK), and I'm moving soon. When do I tell the authorities about it? I want to do it because it just seems wrong for it to be occupied by people who don't necessarily need it when there's a queue of folk who do. But I want to cover my back. But I don't want to screw over the next lot of tenants. What would you do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:59 AM PST - 4 comments

Work shoe hell

After months of buying and wearing through relatively cheap ballet flats and loafers, I think it's time for me to think about upgrading my work/dressy casual footwear. I think that I would really like a pair of oxfords or similar, but can you help me find the best pair out there? Details/restrictions/requirements inside. [more inside]
posted by kinddieserzeit at 2:12 AM PST - 10 comments

I am trying to choose the right backup solution but I have questions.

(network attached storage, raid) [more inside]
posted by krautland at 1:44 AM PST - 16 comments

January 26

Finally getting an iMac, after a bajillion years. Lead me?

So four years ago, I wrote this love letter to Steve Jobs when he died. I admired that man, but the major thing missing was that I didn't own anything made by Apple, apart from an old generation iPod. I said, someday. Well that day has finally arrived. Any tips to make my transition easier? What other accessories/necessities should I buy? [more inside]
posted by pleasebekind at 9:58 PM PST - 27 comments

The Possibility of an Island

There's a multi-media project encompassing several games and an animated film. I have no idea what it was called now. Please help! And also recommend similar things! [more inside]
posted by byanyothername at 9:35 PM PST - 6 comments

Mmmm, pork.

I have a birthday coming up, and I will be making the glory that is bo ssam in celebration this weekend. But I'm stymied on the rest of the meal. [more inside]
posted by joycehealy at 9:27 PM PST - 14 comments

Give more than four dates for chemistry to develop?

I've gone on four dates with a woman. The conversation is great, but I haven't felt a spark. In this situation, I'm torn between two things that I'm trying to change in my approach to dating: First, I'm trying to lessen my tendency to decide ASAP whether a relationship will work out, before I really get to know someone. Second, I'm trying to lessen my tendency to fail to end relationships that I'd rather not be in. The first change says, "Go on more dates and see if chemistry develops." The second change says, "Don't drag something out when you know you're not feeling it; be honest." What says MetaFilter? What are your experiences with giving chemistry more time to develop?
posted by anonymous at 8:26 PM PST - 26 comments

Sales and Marketing a new product line... for the complete novice

I have stumbled into a completely foreign land in which I am way outside of my comfort zone, and am looking for some direction. With a background in software design/development, I now find myself a proud owner of a side-business that has created a new line of consumer products (sports related). The hitch is that we have flown very much below the radar during development, but are now ready to sell these things... but we aren't sales-guys. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:25 PM PST - 3 comments

DSLR alternative

My DSLR has been gathering dust lately, and I'd like to get a more compact but reasonably large sensor alternative. My main lens is the Nikon 18-200VR, and my shooting style tends to be a bit telephoto-heavy. Can I learn to love a big-sensor compact with a fixed lens, like the Fuji x100 series, or should I try to find something in the mirrorless DSLR families? If the latter, which one?
posted by Behemoth at 7:44 PM PST - 13 comments

Cameras that can now be found in thrift stores which can do time lapse

Hit a couple of thrift stores today, noticed that they all had earlier model dSLRs for relatively little. I'm curious about doing time lapse photo sets of the visible night sky in a light pollution-ary city (and maybe try some stop motion again). Any suggestions on which older makes/models/lines might be suitable or could be good finds to keep an eye out for? [more inside]
posted by porpoise at 7:41 PM PST - 4 comments

LDR to SDR? Transatlantic edition

So – I met this wonderful person! And we would very much like to NOT be on the other side of the Atlantic from each other one day. Your advice (and even experiences) on how to make that happen would be appreciated. [more inside]
posted by MarianHalcombe at 7:01 PM PST - 7 comments

Bored and concened while really groggy

Hi, This morning I went for an endoscopy with sedation (my first time). Every thing went fine, as far as I know. Now I still feel groggy and really really bored. I'm also uneasy about what happened. I'm watching cartoons on TV now but I don't know what else to do to not be bored and take my mind off of it. I think I slept all I can earlier. Any suggestions? More details under the cut. [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 6:12 PM PST - 36 comments

Archaic adjustable classroom chairs

Has anyone encountered a classroom chair with this sort of adjustable leg? [more inside]
posted by squasha at 6:05 PM PST - 8 comments

Which financial professional can help me choose a mortgage?

I'm about to make an offer on a home. I've seen six different loan scenarios from two different lenders. The monthly payments and $ to close are all in the range that I can afford, so I will probably just pick one for the offer and pre-approval letter. I told my realtor that after the contract is accepted, I want to sit down with a CPA of some sort (yes Metafilter, fee-only) and figure out which is best for me, given my tax and employment and personal details that the lenders don't seem to want to consider. She said that she has never had a client ask for that before. Really?! [more inside]
posted by ecsh at 5:28 PM PST - 10 comments

What should a father & daughter do in Oklahoma City & Albuquerque?

My 12 year old daughter and I are taking a three week cross-country road trip later this year. We’re hitting many of the places that you’d expect a father and daughter to check out while driving around the US, as well as some cities that we’re pretty excited about, but we have a few interstitial days between the Grand Canyon and Graceland that I’m not quite sure about. What should we do in, or near, Oklahoma City and Albuquerque? Any suggestions are much appreciated!
posted by SafetyPirate at 5:07 PM PST - 28 comments

Websites for pre-K/kindergarden?

I have just started occasionally letting my precocious, smart but hyperactive four-year-old "play" on the computer. So far she loves Paint and writing herself "letters" on Notepad. I would like some more easy, fun, and ideally free things that I can give her to do on there. Bonus points for anything educational. [more inside]
posted by celtalitha at 4:54 PM PST - 10 comments

Selling without title transfer.

I am selling my car without a title transfer. Need quick advice on how to best protect myself. [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger at 4:51 PM PST - 7 comments

Food ideas for gluten/dairy free lunches that don't have to stay cold?

I need suggestions for lunches that I can take to college with me, in my backpack, that don't require an ice pack - I just don't have room. The lunch will be consumed within four hours or so. [more inside]
posted by DriftingLotus at 4:39 PM PST - 31 comments

Looking for the crème de la crème of international fashion agencies...

So I'm aware that MeFi is probably the wrong place to ask this but you amazing people have surprised me before! I'm looking for the best-of-the-best fashion agencies in Paris, Milan, L.A., and London. Requirement: must represent talent, like hairdressers, stylists, etc. I am not looking for a modelling agency. More over the fold. [more inside]
posted by Cpt. The Mango at 3:38 PM PST - 5 comments

Special snowflake question about actual special snowflakes

Look at these weird snowflakes! How do they work? Photo one and two. [more inside]
posted by Juicy Avenger at 3:34 PM PST - 7 comments

How to get copy of living trust

My mother-in-law's husband died last year, and she has nominated me to be the administrator of his estate. I have a copy of his living trust, but it is missing the trust related documents, transfer documents, etc. The trust was prepared in 1987. I tried to contact the attorney for the trustor, but it looks like he has either died or retired. Is there a way for me to obtain the missing documents? I live in California.
posted by ottomatik at 3:19 PM PST - 6 comments

Action only NFL / MLB games / videos?

I'm interested in finding a site / YouTube channel / similar portal that shows only the "action" portion of sporting events. For example, a Youtube channel that would edit out all of the footage from NFL games, showing only the time when the clock was running. MLB has clips of key pitches/hits on their site (as does the NFL), but not the whole game from what I can find. Can anyone point me in the right direction of a full game trimmd down to only the "action"?
posted by thankyoumuchly at 3:05 PM PST - 8 comments

tips on time management-working on the computer, Pomodoro , blockers

Hi Folks, I am writing for some tips on time management for when doing work on the computer. I like the Pomodoro Technique and am looking for an online pomodoro timer, that you don't have to download or pay for. I really like the marinara timer, but it is kinda glitchy. Do you have suggestions for something similar to this? Also, I work with headphones on, so how cool would it be for the timer to say, 5 mins left , and pomodoro 1 is complete start 5 minute break. [more inside]
posted by cheetahchick at 2:05 PM PST - 8 comments

My professor made a typo on my last name in a recommendation letter

Hello everybody, I just received a great recommendation letter I asked from a former professor, however, he made a typo on my last name several times throughout the letter. Can you advise me a way to ask him to correct it without making him lose face and feel embarrassed? It's a quite delicate situation, thank you for any ideas!
posted by lite at 1:36 PM PST - 19 comments

Workout question

[exercise filter] Please explain to me how the relationship between sets and reps works. [more inside]
posted by prunes at 12:35 PM PST - 8 comments

Website/e-book about sovereign default

I'm looking for a book or website I read a few years ago about sovereign default and how it's actually a GOOD thing. The author pointed out several examples in history where countries had defaulted on their debt and emerged more-or-less okay (if I recall correctly there were examples dating back to antiquity). Does anyone have any idea what this was?
posted by miltthetank at 12:28 PM PST - 4 comments

SFO to TPE. EVA or United?

I need to take a last minute flight. My choices are taking EVA Air in Premium Laurel Class, or United in Global Services First, San Francisco to Taipei. Which is the better cabin? [more inside]
posted by danny the boy at 12:24 PM PST - 3 comments

Tonight we'll take some photos like it's 1999

I'm writing a story, set in 1999, with a character who is a photographer. I don't know a lot about what that might entail. Help me out? [more inside]
posted by kyrademon at 10:46 AM PST - 38 comments

Weatherproofing Patio Door: Remove Knob Before Installing Plastic?

Living at ground zero of Blizzardville, with 55mph winds predicted, I'm belatedly weatherproofing my drafty patio door (via 3M Indoor Window Insulator Kit for Patio Door). Question is: do I remove doorknob, or just drape the plastic over it? Aesthetics aren't a huge issue, I don't mind if the plastic shows. [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 10:45 AM PST - 7 comments

Dropbox files deleted

Last night got a pop up notice that 127 files were deleted from my Dropbox. I didn't delete anything. What happened? I have one shared folder that has little activity. I'd like to know what files were deleted and where I can find them. I run OS X.
posted by partner at 10:37 AM PST - 12 comments

What is the deal with this blue diamond? Synthetic, natural, treated?

I've recently acquired a beautiful ring with a 2 carat blue diamond in the middle and two smaller white diamonds on either side, in white gold. Nothing special about the setting, and I will have to get it reset sooner than later, since the band's wearing thin. But I'm curious what's up with this big blue shiny rock. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:31 AM PST - 9 comments

A question about job-hunting remotely

I live in Texas, but I'm actively seeking to move to Boston (for personal reasons), and I'm planning on moving there as soon as I find a job. I'm not moving sooner because I'm underemployed, living on savings, and the cost of living where I am now is much lower. What language can I include in a cover letter that concisely signals both "I'd be happy to move there at a moment's notice" and "I am not trying to con you into paying for my relocation"? Should I quit listing my Texas address and start putting a friend's Boston-area address on my resume instead? Am I overthinking this?
posted by nebulawindphone at 10:21 AM PST - 10 comments

Seller Doesn't Want to Involve Realtors but I Need Advice. How?

My landlord wants to sell me the condo I rent. I want to buy. I'm working on my credit to get into buying shape. She doesn't want to involve realtors in order to save costs. Who should I be talking to then? Special snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by tunewell at 10:11 AM PST - 21 comments

Are there a lot of ex-pats my age in Sydney?

I'm an American considering moving to Sydney and wondering what the ex-pat communities there are like, age-wise. I know there are many American/European ex-pats there but I'm wondering if they're generally in their 20s or early 30s. I'm wondering if there are many American/European ex-pats in their mid-30s to early 40s. Bonus points if you have links to ex-pat groups in this age range! Thanks :-)
posted by sunflower16 at 10:00 AM PST - 8 comments

How can I watch more TV tennis without paying a fortune?

I recently tried to add the tennis channel onto my time warner starter TV package, but was told I had to pay for another package first full of channels I don't want. Would like to know if there are other ways to watch these games daily maybe online or something. [more inside]
posted by manderin at 9:56 AM PST - 9 comments

Long term traveling with partner, looking for tips and advice

We are thinking about quitting our jobs to travel for a year or so. I'm looking for general advice regarding RTW kind of traveling as well as traveling as a couple. [more inside]
posted by monologish at 9:53 AM PST - 6 comments

No reservations

How can I act like a less reserved person? I understand that it's not a flaw to be reserved, but I think it's getting in the way of my creating deeper interpersonal relations. [more inside]
posted by rebooter at 9:21 AM PST - 11 comments

Tools for long term, low activity, planning?

My work has asked me to help with planning for our internal quality program, we are a smaller company so it isn't a full time job. Basically I have a short to-do list, some things with strict deadlines others with just "get this done sometime", that I need to ensure get done from year to year. How do people do that? (special snowflake details inside) [more inside]
posted by selenized at 9:09 AM PST - 2 comments

Storing my sofa feels silly and expensive, but I can’t decide what to do

My partner and I moved in together last year and we are lucky enough to each have room of our own in addition to our master bedroom. We decided to add a built-in Murphy bed and bookshelves to my room (for guests) as it had the better layout for that. I use my room as a home office and it’s perfect for that purpose. [more inside]
posted by Lescha at 8:59 AM PST - 24 comments

solubility

how is benzonitrile less soluble than methylbenzene? I'm baffled [more inside]
posted by iamcharity at 8:54 AM PST - 5 comments

Threading in Berlin?

Anyone know a place in Berlin that does eyebrow and facial threading? I'm in Prenzlauer Berg, but I'll go where ever I can find a good place.
posted by dmvs at 8:41 AM PST - 3 comments

Mid/late 20s bodies change

When I was about 20 I had an performing arts teacher who told me that my body was going through some important metamorphosis, and that another important transformation will occur when I am 27. Well, I'm now 29, and I think I have observed that transformation in myself and in many of my close friends... [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 8:31 AM PST - 15 comments

Social Media Detective Agency to Root Out Cheaters

I work for a professional organization that runs classes and issues certifications for members of a scientific field. We are having issues with cheating via social media and would like to hire a company who can help monitor this and track down the real identities of the offenders. [more inside]
posted by jschu at 8:29 AM PST - 5 comments

Tires: Winter 16"/Summer 17" or All Season 17"?

I have a 2011 GTI with stock 18" Detroit wheels. I'm tired of the pothole slalom. Should I just get all-season tires on 17" wheels? Or should I get winter tires on 16" wheels and the in the spring get summer tires on 17" wheels? [more inside]
posted by Brian Puccio at 7:41 AM PST - 9 comments

Looking for more blogs about/by/featuring people of color

I'm looking for blogs/sites that are about/by people of color but are not (necessarily) about racism. So places that are more AfroPunk and less Racialicious. [more inside]
posted by girlmightlive at 7:41 AM PST - 13 comments

What can I do (or not do) for a friend with headaches?

Sufferers of headaches - what do you like/dislike when you're in the thick of it? A friend of mine has recurring headaches of unknown cause. They are on medication so the pain is manageable, but they live alone and often have to go to work (9-5 office job) in the middle of an episode. They live far away so I can't offer to pick up groceries for them or anything like that, but I can and do IM them words of comfort. What else am I missing?
posted by fix at 7:21 AM PST - 17 comments

What does a China Air Post postal packet look like?

Need to fill out a request with the USPS to find a missing package and need a description, but I have no idea what a "China Air Post Postal Packet" looks like and my friend isn't really sure either. [more inside]
posted by princeoftheair at 6:59 AM PST - 3 comments

SSD Recovery for Dummies

Can an idiot [me] open my dead laptop, remove the SSD and get the data off of it? [more inside]
posted by atomicstone at 6:51 AM PST - 11 comments

Shabu Shabu Fallout

Please help me use up the extra veggies in a delicious way after my Daughter made an amazing Shabu Shabu Dinner... [more inside]
posted by mrgroweler at 6:51 AM PST - 11 comments

I need a crash course on windows (house windows, not PC Windows)

We're planning on starting to replace some of our old windows this year and I realized that I know precious little about windows. Is there a brand or type that I should lean toward? Any to avoid? What things do I need to know before I start this process? My friend recommended a few high-end windows, but I'd like to get some more information from those with more knowledge in this area than I. Home (and homeowner) details within: [more inside]
posted by JimBJ9 at 6:44 AM PST - 17 comments

For a teen visiting London what are some cool, organized activities?

My niece, a 15-year-old who'll be on her first trip outside the US, is visiting us in London in mid June. My wife and I will have lots of time to spend with her doing tourist things as well as just hanging out, and her grandparents will also be here for part of the time, but she'll be on her own for portions of a few days. Although a bit shy, she's expressed interest in doing something cool and interesting with that time that would allow her to be around other teenagers. [more inside]
posted by theory at 5:57 AM PST - 9 comments

When a man tells you "You are the one" does he really mean it?

How soon do you realize that the person you are with is the one you are marring? I am sure everyone is different and have a different opinion about this but, I just started to seeing this guy(we both are in 40s), we are doing great, we've been together every day since the day we met. I'm at his house every night and waking up with him every morning. So the things are more than great. But the bottom line is, I only have known him for 2 months. Yes we know alot about each other, he's trying to learn about me fastest he can. I see that every day. but 2 month is still 2 month. [more inside]
posted by heliosheath at 5:32 AM PST - 48 comments

Help me skirt tables

Came across this video, need help with Thai translation [more inside]
posted by heavyp08 at 5:21 AM PST - 2 comments

Looking for any good statistics related to building unpermitted housing.

So what I'm looking for is any national statistics (or as close as I can get) on the area of building unpermitted additions on housing. As in guy buys a home. Guy moves in and discover that third bedroom he built is unpermitted. Or that connected treehouse. Or the homemade bomb shelter. thoughts on where I could find such things?
posted by rileyray3000 at 5:06 AM PST - 3 comments

January 25

Scared of attraction.

29 year old heterosexual male. I believe that I have social anxiety when it comes to talking to women I am attracted to - perhaps more than normal. This has meant very little sex or relationships throughout my life. Practical ideas for dealing with this would be appreciated. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:58 PM PST - 18 comments

Will air-flow creation promote even greater air flow in existing wind?

Say there is a flat plane/field and there is a consistent amount of wind in one direction across it across a wide area, at speed x mph. If a device that creates air movement is placed on the surface of that field, and creates air movement with the existing wind but just slightly faster (x+n same direction), will the wind in front of the air-mover travel faster than the air-mover's speed (x+n+b)? [more inside]
posted by Quarter Pincher at 11:16 PM PST - 6 comments

Can we have a small secret cellar?

We're building a small house on a small budget. We want to dig a small cellar (maybe 6'x6') into the ground below the crawl space entrance and support its walls with a wood framework. Is this feasible? Or will the house cave in if we do this? You are not our architect, you are not our structural engineer. [more inside]
posted by aniola at 9:59 PM PST - 19 comments

Tips for sanity after moving, sans support group?

I've been feeling like no one would notice if I dropped off the face of the planet. My parents live a town away and they weren't part of my life when I was living with them. Can you give me suggestions for making it through this year? [more inside]
posted by city_park at 8:17 PM PST - 14 comments

Best cardigans evah?

I love cardigans, but I'm tired of my cotton cardigans pilling / wearing out. What are your favorite cardigan brands that are super durable? [more inside]
posted by ellerhodes at 7:37 PM PST - 22 comments

Internet Explorer 11 IE Restore Session: how does it work?

I want to know how can I manually configures the session restore files and key values in case they got corrupted/messed up/erased? Suppose I was able to save all content in the "Active" and "Last Active" folder.  [more inside]
posted by pack2themoon at 7:28 PM PST - 3 comments

An entry runner that won't make me crazy, or our crazy rug even crazier

Years ago, I couldn't resist purchasing a huge, multi-colored, very shaggy area rug, and I'd like to keep using it in our main room. We need to get a runner for our entryway, but it will sit very near this rug, and I cannot figure out what color and texture will work best. I spend a lot of time in this room, and will look at these rugs side-by-side all the time. I don't want them to look awful together. Can it be done? [more inside]
posted by calcetinporfavor at 7:21 PM PST - 9 comments

Mama loves mambo, baby loves...Enya?

I've found that my baby goes to sleep easier when listening to Enya. I can only listen to Orinoco Flow so many times before I kill myself. Can you help me find Enya-like music to add to the cue? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 7:18 PM PST - 29 comments

How systematic is Thai orthography?

I am mildly interested in learning to read the Thai alphabet, but I'm having a hard time getting an understanding of the relationship between Thai writing and spoken pronunciation. [more inside]
posted by andrewesque at 6:55 PM PST - 5 comments

Reconnaissance about the medical careers

My lovely gf wants to switch careers to the medical field — and I want to help her —but we could use an overview of what positions there are. [more inside]
posted by Brainy at 6:19 PM PST - 7 comments

how to help someone out of an abusive situation.

So, I started dating a strong, motivated, wonderful woman a 8 months ago. we went official and the nightmare begun. She has a wonderful daughter with her ex, they broke up 2,5 years ago roughly, and as it turns out, her first relationship afterwards tanked because of his calls that came in every other day where he's very verbally abusive, calling her names, pushing her wish for a core family etc. this behaviour has begun again. (disclaimer: this is not about me or my feelings.) [more inside]
posted by xcasex at 5:53 PM PST - 43 comments

Intermittent battery problem. Should I buy a new battery?

Twice in the last 6 weeks, our car wouldn't start without a jump. Rest of time it's fine. Should I buy a new battery or is it something else? [more inside]
posted by gfrobe at 5:47 PM PST - 18 comments

Fitbit and the Modern Negro

Do wrist-based optical heart rate monitors work on dark skin? [more inside]
posted by sparklemotion at 5:35 PM PST - 7 comments

Are there low-end bookcases without the cardboard-like back?

I was going to buy an IKEA bookcase, but I looked at the instruction manuals for all the ones I'd like to get and they all have a thin, fake-wood back instead of a real wood back. I think this looks a bit corny, and I've seen thin backs get absolutely destroyed. Target's bookcases aren't any better. I'll buy a bookcase like this if I have to, but - are there any places that sell relatively inexpensive bookcases with actual wooden backs?
posted by LSK at 5:29 PM PST - 15 comments

Searching for trilingual narratives project

Maybe ten years ago I read about a trilingual narratives project. The person who created the project had people who spoke at least three languages write a short personal narrative in each language and then go through each one and choose the “best” word for each idea, creating a custom language unique to their experience. I have searched high and low for any reference to this project and keep coming up dry, so I turn to you, MeFi. Has anyone heard of this project? In the event that I dreamed it, I call dibs. (I’m pretty sure I’m not smart enough to have made this up, so it’s got to be out there.)
posted by earlygrrl at 5:18 PM PST - 2 comments

Wireless Printer for Ipads

What is your recommendation for a wireless printer? We want to be able to send jobs to the printer directly from our Ipads. [more inside]
posted by wittgenstein at 3:31 PM PST - 9 comments

Hidden Scandinavian gems?

Wife and I are planning a Scandinavia trip, mostly wanting to see Sweden & Norway, but wouldn't mind working in Denmark and Finland, time permitting (12 days). We want to see some of the cities (Stockholm, Oslo, Copenhagen) but also really want to see some of the way-out stuff up north, the hidden gems. Any recs on companies to work with, places we simply cannot miss, any kind of cool day cruises (boats!) and maybe most importantly, some real out of the way stuff that shines?
posted by xmutex at 2:37 PM PST - 13 comments

Advice about Costa Del Sol, Andalusia, and North Africa

We're trying to plan a honeymoon and are broadly looking for something that may take us from Madrid to Casablanca. Any travel advice, pointers, or warnings? [more inside]
posted by Raichle at 2:11 PM PST - 6 comments

Master Data Me

How can I better track specific parts of my life with an app or spreadsheet? [more inside]
posted by Bunglegirl at 1:49 PM PST - 8 comments

Russian genitive vs feminine; or, is someone wrong on the Internet?

Did Shostakovich really get credited as a woman for a film score he did, or does someone on Wikipedia just not understand Russian grammatical case? [more inside]
posted by Perodicticus potto at 1:39 PM PST - 8 comments

Actress on NPR who did multiple accents/ one woman story

During around 2002 or 2003, I heard an interview on NPR, and the woman embodied several women in one. I kinda also think a woman did this around her work in Katrina as well, she interviews multiple people and then acts out what they say in a play. What I am talking about is a women who invoked women of different backgrounds and nationalities, I think this took place, or the characters rather were based in New York city. It was very fascinating. It could have been on fresh air, not sure.
posted by TRUELOTUS at 12:58 PM PST - 7 comments

Info about dress that Emily Balcetis is wearing in TED talk

Emily Balcetis did a TEDx talk about exercise, and all I could think about was how awesome her dress was. I tried as many searches as I knew how, but couldn't find it. I'm looking for any info, maker/designer/brand, store, type, facimile, pretty much anything would be interesting to me. Thanks!
posted by eggkeeper at 12:54 PM PST - 2 comments

Name this material

I'm looking for the name or style of a particular shirt material. [more inside]
posted by IndigoRain at 12:13 PM PST - 2 comments

Bed Risers and Pasta Broth - Acid Reflux edition

I'm having acid stomach troubles and I have specific questions related to bed risers and to pasta recipes. Tons of info inside. [more inside]
posted by CathyG at 10:57 AM PST - 19 comments

We're getting ready to renovate in Austin! But where to start?

We bought a small three bedroom/one bathroom house (about 1,050 sq. feet) in Austin about a year and a half ago and we're looking to do a significant upgrade in several months, upwards of $100,000. [more inside]
posted by vakker at 10:27 AM PST - 5 comments

What would you expect to see in a book like this?

Currently designing a photo-book about a line of Oriental scents. What kind of world do you expect to be immersed in? Are there any other photo-books which were successful in luring you in to their world?
posted by omar.a at 10:25 AM PST - 9 comments

Brave woman, important work--Help protect her home

Dear hivemind, A friend of mine bravely runs one of the only abortion clinics in Kansas now has anti-choicers picketing her home. Besides running sprinklers, what can we do to deter them and protect her, her home and her family from this? Thanks for any quick suggestions you can muster
posted by sb3 at 9:15 AM PST - 48 comments

I want the easiest-reading, most engrossing history books.

Tell me the history books you've read that you could not put down. History of just about anything, but especially historically significant people, say, before WWI. [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 9:08 AM PST - 38 comments

What to do with all these weird sticks?

I bought some gesho sticks to make tej (Ethiopian honey wine), and I wound up with more gesho than I'm likely ever gonna use on tej. Is there anything else I can do with it? [more inside]
posted by Itaxpica at 8:36 AM PST - 1 comment

Best platform/solution for a lecture series website?

I'm looking for the best way to present information online about a lecture series. [more inside]
posted by tractorfeed at 8:07 AM PST - 1 comment

Should I go to the dentist? And if so, where do I even go?

I recently arrived in Uppsala, Sweden. I'm here for six months but my teeth started hurting today. It isn't so much as pain as it is sensitivity towards pressure and heat. It isn't ongoing and it comes and goes (usually if I bite down on something very hard). It happened a few weeks before I left, but it went away so quickly that I didn't think it was an issue. Now, I'm not sure if I even need to see a dentist and if I do, I'm not sure I am covered by insurance because it isn't an emergency procedure. Therefore, I will go to a dentist if it is absolutely recommended, but I'm trying to avoid it. So my question is two-fold: should I go see a dentist? If so, where in Uppsala do I even go?
posted by anonymous at 6:22 AM PST - 11 comments

set up an investment account for a foreign relative

my relative wants to invest in the US stock market. he lives abroad and has no social security #, i.e., is a completed foreigner ("non-resident alien"). he proposed that i invest his money under my name and my social security #, and is increasingly insistent. i certainly can set up another account to keep his money and any investment / transactions completely separate from mine, but i am concerned about whether this is legal and also tax consequence. is this sth doable?
posted by anonymous at 6:21 AM PST - 15 comments

What are these mysterious streaks and discolorizations on this paneling?

These are houses in the Denver area. The streaks are new and of unknown origin. [more inside]
posted by zorro astor at 4:06 AM PST - 8 comments

An arachnophobe walks into a cinema...

I'm supposed to be going to see Enemy with some friends today. Is this something that somebody with really crippling arachnophobia can actually do, and is the film worth the risk? I'm already pretty comprehensively spoiled (and spoilers follow). [more inside]
posted by Zeinab Badawi's Twenty Hotels at 3:39 AM PST - 8 comments

What fields matter the most in our fight for 450PPM (climate change)?

Mr. Miyagi me! I want to spend my career fighting climate change in the most meaningful way possible, but have no idea where to focus my energy. Help this idealist find the best convergence of need and opportunity for MBA types. [more inside]
posted by 11dawgs1 at 12:59 AM PST - 10 comments

Best Science Fiction of the last year

I've gotten out of the loop on recent Science Fiction writing. What are the best science fiction short stories and novels published within the last year?
posted by Artw at 12:21 AM PST - 14 comments

January 24

Day trips and hikes in and around Sydney & Melbourne?

Next week I am visiting Australia for the first time. Flying in to Sydney, spending a week there with relatives in Merrylands, then two weeks with relatives in Melbourne (Braybrook) and then another week in Sydney. I want to know what is the best way to spend my time given that I am primarily interested in nature and day hikes, so the most pressing question is really 'What are the best day trips and hikes within a two-hour radius of Sydney and Melbourne?' Other factors: [more inside]
posted by legospaceman at 11:33 PM PST - 20 comments

Jump on the tiger

Who is this photo of, on the inside sleeve of Dio's "Holy Diver"? [more inside]
posted by Rube R. Nekker at 8:54 PM PST - 4 comments

Gaining weight on a low-fat diet (with restrictions)

I've lost too much weight following gallbladder surgery, so what are some good foods, recipes, and strategies to try to get some more weight back on? (With dietary restrictions) [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 8:42 PM PST - 19 comments

A Martian Bolt of Thunder

Does Mars have thunder? [more inside]
posted by Mike Mongo at 7:10 PM PST - 6 comments

What the heck do I do with my fine arts degree?

After a turbulent period in my life, I've realized that being a struggling artist is not the lifestyle for me. I've recently obtained my BFA in illustration and I'd appreciate any suggestions for career options. [more inside]
posted by AstralJelly at 4:36 PM PST - 13 comments

Sinus Infection Help!

Hi, I've read similar questions on here before but I just want to know if anyone has any updated information or is in a similar situation and can help with my sinus/tiredness issues. [more inside]
posted by bquarters at 3:30 PM PST - 21 comments

How do you get a non-tech job in the Bay Area that isn't miserable?

I'm asking this on behalf of my wife. We moved to the Bay Area (East Bay) a few months ago because I got a job here in the tech industry. Given our costs, it's not really enough to support both of us on, but my wife is having trouble finding employment. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:14 PM PST - 19 comments

Stay very still for three months.

How can I keep a friend who can't move her neck or shoulders as she's recovering from surgery from going stir-crazy? [more inside]
posted by Mizu at 3:11 PM PST - 14 comments

[Beds on which to have] sweet dreams are made of...what, exactly?

I'll soon be purchasing a new bed and mattress. I have sleep apnea, so it's especially important for me to choose the right ones. And I don't know what I'm doing. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 2:39 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me ring my bell

Help pick out the notes used in an automated chime [more inside]
posted by plinth at 2:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Now that everything is available, how do you cope?

Last year we finally received unlimited broadband internet and after years of dial-up and mobile internet with all of their relative limitations and knowing that I would, my addictive personality had begun to attempt to consume everything. [more inside]
posted by feelinglistless at 2:11 PM PST - 11 comments

What does hunger feel like?

Can you describe what it feels like when you're hungry? I'm not talking about hunge as in starving/food insecurity, I mean regular old "Time for dinner now..." hungry. I've noticed that I'm frequently hungry when I shouldn't be. I think maybe I'm just misinterpreting a sensation as hunger but that it's not huger. So what does hunger feel like? [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 2:09 PM PST - 27 comments

Japanese interest in 'exotic' cultures in the late 70's

Where can I learn more about Japan's heightened interest, starting in the late 70's, towards cultures they deemed to be exotic, especially in (but not limited to) music? [more inside]
posted by procrastinator at 1:49 PM PST - 4 comments

Laptop battery won't hold charge, but the battery may not be the issue?

Help me diagnose, because I'm not convinced that it's because the battery is completely/irreparably fried. I am computer hardware naive but would prefer to explore all diagnostic possibilities before purchasing a replacement battery, especially if that won't fix the issue. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 1:37 PM PST - 7 comments

Drywall repair for amateur

Looking for recommendations, tips and products for a small drywall repair job in our bedroom. [more inside]
posted by arcticseal at 12:29 PM PST - 10 comments

I want to learn to enunciate like Christine Baranski.

I want to learn to enunciate better. What exercises, books, websites, or other resources will help me acquire cut glass pronunciation?
posted by orange swan at 12:13 PM PST - 5 comments

Advice for Growing a Start-Up?

How do self-funded start-ups that are at the jumping off point between being a hobby and turning into a full-fledged “real-thing” do it? [more inside]
posted by rabbitfufu at 11:28 AM PST - 14 comments

Student Housing in downtown Portland

My eldest will be heading off to Portland this summer, with plans of attending the Paul Mitchell School downtown. I'm trying to get a sense of what our housing options are, so I can budget and she can plan (she really likes things to be planned out). My ideal would be something as dorm-like as possible-in the sense that there are staff onsite, or available much of the time, other students around, and perhaps some of the extra costs are already rolled into your rent (utilities, internet, etc). [more inside]
posted by purenitrous at 11:18 AM PST - 4 comments

Travel advice for Atlanta please!

Hey mefites of Atlanta! I am going to be traveling to your fabulous city for work in early February and I would like your advice! [more inside]
posted by bile and syntax at 10:18 AM PST - 11 comments

Inexpensive subscription clip art sites?

I have been subscribed to iclipart.com for a few years now, but it's time to renew and I'm checking to see if there's another clip art site that will suit my needs for the same cost or less. [more inside]
posted by telophase at 8:44 AM PST - 5 comments

Questions for triple-negative breast cancer recurrence?

I found out that I had a recurrence of breast cancer about two months ago, and subsequently had a mastectomy towards the end of December. Although it is a local recurrence, I was told that I should get chemotherapy. This was a big shock to me - I thought the mastectomy would be the end of it - and I couldn't really think of any questions to ask. I'd like to prepare a list of questions to ask my doctor, and would appreciate some suggestions. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by BuddyBoo at 7:48 AM PST - 13 comments

How much home can I really afford?

My partner and I want to buy a house in DC this fall but are having some difficulty understanding how much house we can actually afford. We haven't applied for pre-approval yet because we're likely won't start looking until September or October. (Though if there is a reasoning for why we should get pre-approved and buy a house in the next few months, we're open to hearing it. But we currently live in NYC and it would be logistically complicated). Financial details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:23 AM PST - 23 comments

Only a loser would settle for me

I can't imagine someone choosing to date me when there are people out there who are so much more successful, competent, fit, daring, worldly, and self-assured. So if someone likes me, I assume they can't do better than me, and that's a turnoff, because I'm not so great, so THEY must not be so great either. How can I get out of this mental trap? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:19 AM PST - 41 comments

Eating when you're gone all day

I'm going to be gone from 8am-9pm three days a week. How do I feed myself? [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 7:11 AM PST - 15 comments

Should I self-publish my poetry book?

I am a well-published poet in journals but have no books out yet. The manuscript I’ve been circulating since 2011 has come very close, though, and has been a finalist in a number of prize contests held by some of the bigger small presses. Almost all of the poems in it have been published individually, and a handful have been nominated for Pushcart Prizes. I had been committed to the idea of one of those small presses but am now thinking of self-publishing. More inside. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 7:10 AM PST - 11 comments

In search of underground death metal (esp. from classic '85-'95 era)

Can you recommend relatively little-known death and thrash metal bands (who have published CD's)? [more inside]
posted by cake vandal at 5:25 AM PST - 2 comments

January 23

How do I make a lateral move with a noncompete?

I'm looking to switch jobs within the same industry. I'm under a non-compete for up to 12 months, terminated at my current firm's discretion. How does a job search work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:50 PM PST - 21 comments

my boyfriend likes to text other girls and I don't like that

WALL OF TEXT INSIDE. My boyfriend is perfect and wonderful and amazing except we have some terrible trust and commitment issues. Cycle(s) of emotional cheating and suspicious forgiveness. I don't know if it's too late to fix or even how to proceed in that direction if it's not. Help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:50 PM PST - 64 comments

Religious figures thoughts on life as a process

Can you give me quotes from historical or mythical religious figures on the thought that life is process, that one is never "finished"?
posted by falsedmitri at 7:38 PM PST - 7 comments

Time to upgrade from a smartphone. What camera should I buy?

I'm thinking I should pick up a camera to use on my honeymoon in Costa Rica this summer and just to have a better camera around in general (have an iPhone 6). I don't want a DSLR cause I want pretty good portability and no lens-swapping (although the ability to add lenses later doesn't necessarily need to be counted out), in addition to not spending as much as necessary for a solid DSLR/lenses. [more inside]
posted by rbf1138 at 7:38 PM PST - 12 comments

What's the best golden-age Spanish and bilingual hip-hop?

I'm learning Spanish. I like rap music. And so, for practice, I'd like to listen to some golden-age (or golden-age-sounding--sample-based beats, no crossover, that true-school kind of thing) Spanish and bilingual English-Spanish hip-hop. I already know about 'La Raza' and Cypress Hill--what else is out there?
posted by box at 7:10 PM PST - 18 comments

glue a teapot back together

My sainted mother shipped me a teapot, but the insert for the tea leaves broke in transit. How should I best repair it, considering that it will be sitting in hot water that I'll then drink? [more inside]
posted by kenko at 6:46 PM PST - 32 comments

Best regional foods in Europe?

What are some of the tastiest, most interesting regional foods and food products in Europe? [more inside]
posted by archagon at 6:40 PM PST - 35 comments

New Contract vs. Outright Purchase: Cell Phone

I wonder: should I buy new cell phone outright, or get another subsidized phone? [more inside]
posted by maxwelton at 5:26 PM PST - 16 comments

New England for non drivers

My husband and I are travelling to Boston for a wedding and will then have the last week of May to relax. We are looking for recommendations for a beautiful remote place in northern New England where we can stay for 5 days. The catch : neither of us drive so it has to be accessible by some combination of public transport. [more inside]
posted by tavegyl at 5:13 PM PST - 18 comments

Object Source Lighting Modeling Help..

Hello! I'm building a miniature and I'd like to incorporate some object source lighting for the first time. However, I'm having some trouble visualizing where the light would go. I'm wondering if you can help. [more inside]
posted by kbanas at 4:27 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I transfer contacts into iCloud?

How do I transfer Outlook Exchange contacts into my iCloud account? [more inside]
posted by archimago at 4:27 PM PST - 3 comments

VSCOCAM Photo Data...Where???

Numerous articles mention this as a thing, but my Googlefu is failing and I cannot figure out how to view photo data (ISO, aperature) without posting it to my grid. This is driving me crazy! [more inside]
posted by jrobin276 at 4:25 PM PST - 3 comments

What should I sit on?

I need new seating, that isn't a chair, for my desk. I'm thinking maybe a fancy kind of stool, but need recommendations. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Banknote of the year at 4:25 PM PST - 12 comments

More minimalist/algorithmic/mesmerizing (piano) music please!

I've been playing Canto Ostinato, a piece for four piano's by Dutch minimalist composer Simeon ten Holt on repeat for the past couple months. It makes air travel and long work days utterly pleasant. With more of both coming up, I'd love to find more similar music that's equally mesmerizing.. Any suggestions?
posted by Thisandthat at 4:24 PM PST - 17 comments

Finding translation customers at trade fair?

How do I network/find new customers at a consumer trade fair, and is it a good idea at all? [more inside]
posted by runincircles at 4:23 PM PST - 2 comments

Minimum salary? Really?

I had an interview yesterday. It went alright, until the end when he asked me what my absolute minimum salary was. Is this a thing? [more inside]
posted by zardoz at 4:12 PM PST - 23 comments

We give programmers what they need to get the job done: A door

There was a job advertisement to this effect about ten years ago. I don't remember if it actually said "a door", but there was a big picture of one in the middle of the page. I'm looking for a copy but so far it has defeated my Google skills. Can someone help a cube dweller out?
posted by Tell Me No Lies at 4:05 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me find a cheap health insurance plan I can get online

I am getting health insurance just to meet the minimum coverage for something I'm doing that requires health insurance. I just want a cheap plan that I can get online. I tried googling but it's overwhelming and I don't know which sites to trust, half of them look like spam/scam to me. Is there a good comparison site?
posted by crawltopslow at 3:19 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for info on the impact of having children on happiness

Does having children impact men and women's happiness differently? [more inside]
posted by orsonet at 2:40 PM PST - 6 comments

Reactivate Flash

I deactivated Adobe Flash and can't get it back. That means HTML pages don't show images. [more inside]
posted by KRS at 1:49 PM PST - 6 comments

[nsfw] Help me keep my boat out at sea when there's motion in the ocean.

I'm a dude getting distracted during sex. What's going on and how do I "fix" this? [more inside]
posted by Giggilituffin at 1:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Talk to me!

Trying to dumb the back story down: Fell head over heels in love with this woman about 7-8 years ago and prob the only time I have been in love. She liked me back (I think to the same degree but not sure). She was the one for sure. I was in a terrible emotional/mental spot and felt like I did not deserve her or to be with someone that I loved, so I basically told her that I was not in a place where I could commit. She tried her best to show me otherwise and for literally years we kept in touch and talked a lot. She continued to date other people. [more inside]
posted by frednorton at 1:35 PM PST - 39 comments

Front End Development Lite?

A question in two parts. One, is there a market for front end developers who know just HTML, css and some javascript? And two, is there really a market for front end (html, css and javascript/jQuery) positions or is this skillset not a good long range career choice? [more inside]
posted by gregjunior at 1:01 PM PST - 13 comments

Confused about dating, too fickle to live

If anyone wants to help me with my weird confusion about dating, read on.. . [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 12:04 PM PST - 13 comments

Telling prospective employers you've been laid off

I just got laid off. I was already having early discussions with some prospective employers, so now I'm not sure what to tell them, if anything. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:53 AM PST - 13 comments

Occupational therapy for borderline personality disorder?

Do you have any resources (ideally online) where I can find info on the role of the occupational therapist (OT) with day hospital patients with borderline personality disorder? Benefit points for anything about interventions that have a research/evidence base? (these seem very thin on the ground!) I am also interested in how OT's/mental health staff generally work with BPD/similar within therapeutic communities, any evidence for this and the role of group schema therapy/evidence gained about this approach?
posted by anonymous at 11:53 AM PST - 1 comment

Is it unfair to tell my colleague I'm in love with her?

I'm in love with my female colleague. We went on a date in 2014 and left it as friends. Now I'm thinking of finding a new job - should I tell her why or is this unfairly burdening someone else with my problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:53 AM PST - 56 comments

How do I get certified to be an interpreter in Austin,TX?

I am from China and my first language is Mandarin Chinese. I also speak excellent English. My SO is an American. I just moved to Austin,TX, USA. I am trying to become an interpreter for Mandarin/English. I have a bachelor's degree in English language from my university in China and I worked as a full time interpreter in a UN wetland protection project in china in 2014. Could you please help me find more info (websites, books etc.) about how to get certified as an interpreter and a translator between Chinese and English in Austin? How and where can I find work? Thanks
posted by denimchair at 11:41 AM PST - 1 comment

Car Rental 101

I've managed to make it into my 30s without ever renting a car. However, in May, my SO and I need to rent one for a road trip. What's your advice for getting the best deal and what are things we should make sure we do and/or make sure we avoid? Details: [more inside]
posted by Ufez Jones at 11:27 AM PST - 27 comments

Why are Nissan Leafs so cheap?

I'm shopping for a used car right now (current one has 100k miles on it and is breaking down regularly) and I stumbled onto older (2011-2012, but not very old) Nissan Leafs going for only about $11k used. They cost at least double that new, so why are they so cheap now? Are there recalls or wear or drawbacks? Shouldn't electric cars last for a long time and be reliable? [more inside]
posted by mathowie at 11:18 AM PST - 20 comments

Eeking another year out of a Macbook Air (Late 2010)

I have a late 2010 13" Macbook Air with 2 gb of RAM with OSX 9 (Mavericks) installed that's really showing its age. I'd like to keep it going for another year or so, and I'm interested in strategies to do this. Upgrade, downgrade, leave things alone? [more inside]
posted by ndg at 10:59 AM PST - 17 comments

Looking for something a step down from "NO TOUCHING!"

I need advice on how to tactfully stop my co-workers from touching me. [more inside]
posted by bluloo at 10:32 AM PST - 27 comments

How do I appear not to be drug-seeking when I am, in fact, drug-seeking?

I have ADHD. I would like to give Adderall a try. I've tried several other ADHD drugs and they haven't worked, but it almost seems like doctors are avoiding prescribing me Adderall. Do I just walk in and say, "I would like to try Adderall?" [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 10:26 AM PST - 20 comments

How do I distract myself from being lovesick?

I'm in total limerance with a guy I met three weeks ago. He left yesterday and will be gone for a month. Thinking about being apart when we've just met makes me panicky and as a normally totally independent woman I hate it. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 10:23 AM PST - 8 comments

Road rage Peterbilt style.

Do long haul truckers bump small cars when angry? I’ve heard of intimidation with brights at night and tailgating to keep cars out of the fast lane, but is this kind of threat a thing? Also, why didn’t the officer taking my report want to hear the entire story? They wrote it up as a hit & run but were disinterested in details and road rage. I think this guy is dangerous and the deductible for repairs is $500. Do I have recourse beyond the police to get me covered and make sure the driver is at least investigated? [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! at 10:14 AM PST - 16 comments

Why don't drivers use their turn signals?

Why don't drivers at least in California don't use their turn signals? [more inside]
posted by Mac-Expert at 10:05 AM PST - 62 comments

How to handle unsolicited job applicants who are also clients?

If a client applies for a job, how do you reject them without ruining the relationship? [more inside]
posted by rada at 10:05 AM PST - 16 comments

Academic papers that describe 3D bin-packing algorithms?

I'd like to find academic papers that describe 3D bin-packing algorithms clearly enough to be implemented. In particular, I'm looking for algorithms suitable for packing 3D cuboid objects that can be rotated into known, pre-set bins. [more inside]
posted by Nonce at 9:44 AM PST - 3 comments

Is there a way to link to someone's calendar from the web?

I volunteer at an organization that puts on a lot of events. Is there a way to post a link on the web that will automatically link to a user's desktop or mobile calendar so they have the option of just hitting save to add the event to their calendar? Is this doable or even safe from a web security point of view? To be clear, we have no wish to harvest the user's info or anything similar. We just want to make it super easy for them to add our events to their personal calendar.
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 9:09 AM PST - 6 comments

No, you really do need to tone it down

I read this recent question which had a lot of stories about women being told they are too "strident", "mean", "demanding", etc. at work. I have gotten feedback like this in the past too so I am wondering, is there some way to tell if it's just sexist bullshit or if you personally really do need to take it down a notch? [more inside]
posted by bleep at 8:32 AM PST - 22 comments

Help Me ID this Communication Style

Several years ago I read an online piece (may have been a blog post, may have been a feature ... kinda fuzzy now) about a particular communication style that is typified by the speaker providing the absolute bare minimum response to a question. Does this style have a name? [more inside]
posted by majorsteel at 8:30 AM PST - 12 comments

Emergency Dentist for Visitor in NYC?

I have a toothache and need someone to look at it in New York City. No insurance. [more inside]
posted by miles1972 at 8:01 AM PST - 4 comments

Most efficient way to translate audio to subtitles

I've volunteered to translate a few talks, from English to Spanish, so the translation can be included in video as subtitles. I was just given the audio to work with. I've only ever done text-to-text translation before, so I have no idea how to start on working with audio-to-subtitles. Please help. [more inside]
posted by CrazyLemonade at 7:23 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me shut down conversations

I'm related to a person of moderate fame in a (global) community I'm part of. We share a last name. When people ask me my name, I don't tell them my last name, but if it comes up, they ask "Oh, are you related to [famous relative]?" How do I gracefully shut down, redirect, or prevent this conversation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:14 AM PST - 55 comments

College Admissions 101

My oldest child is currently a sophomore in high school. She is an excellent student, getting very good grades, in advanced classes. She is doing a great job. I can see the college admissions process heading our way. Her high school's guidance department does have an info night, which we will attend. But what I am looking for is not info on specific schools, but resources on how to approach the whole college admissions/applications process in a thoughtful, sane way. Books, videos, interviews, websites, who is worth listing to, who/what is best avoided?
posted by anonymous at 7:12 AM PST - 39 comments

Shipping Container Conversion Courses

I'm looking for Shipping Container Conversion Courses/Schools. [more inside]
posted by looknevada at 6:49 AM PST - 2 comments

How do I send a very important original document from the UK to Holland?

I need to send an original birth certificate from the UK to Holland for registration purposes. Can you recommend a reliable and safe courier company that will give me the most piece of mind that this original document will not get lost?
posted by tumples at 6:31 AM PST - 10 comments

Give me your car battery anecdata, please.

Dead six-year-old car battery last night. Replace? [more inside]
posted by Sheydem-tants at 5:29 AM PST - 14 comments

Linen and Silk

I am starting to think about this years Wedding Anniversary plans (Several months in advance). This year it is apparently Linen and Silk. Have you got any suggestions for fun activities, shared gifts or adventures involving Linen and Silk? [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 4:40 AM PST - 15 comments

Needz mawr electronic content

My wife is having surgery this month which comes with a likely long recovery period. To help get her through this time we are looking at stocking up on new TV series and podcasts to keep her mind occupied during this time (aka electronic content!). What gripping-crime-drama TV series or that's-a-cool-idea-I-never-heard-about-before podcasts would you recommend? [more inside]
posted by thetarium at 3:40 AM PST - 48 comments

Philosophy Self-Study Resources - Where can I find essay questions?

I have been reading a few primary texts in philosophy on my own. However, I find that its difficult to engage with a text merely by reading it. I'd like to find a bunch of questions or essay prompts for each book I read that I can then think over, write a page or so on, that help me to focus on the important points of a text in the history of philosophical thought. Google searches have not been very effective at finding questions. (I can sometimes find reading lists and syllabi which are useful but not quite what I want). [more inside]
posted by mary8nne at 3:39 AM PST - 5 comments

mono headphones?

I'm 100% deaf in my right ear, with normal hearing in my left. Listening to music through headphones is problematic since many songs are mixed for left and right and I either get too much vocals or not enough at all. Turns out some audiobooks/plays are worse, with one cast member's voice left and one right. I listen to things on both Android phone and iPad, and would not like to re-edit audio files. Would headphones solve this? Are there any decent ones that turn stereo into mono for under $100?
posted by nerdcore at 12:08 AM PST - 18 comments

January 22

Joey Jeremiah, Canada's Answer to Bob Dylan?

Am I hearing things, or are the bass parts in Bob Dylan's Up To Me (Scroll down to Track #37 for excerpt) and The Zit Remedy's Everybody Wants Something very similar? And if they are, is it simply that they share a simple do-doo/doo-doo/do-doo/doo-doo rhythym, or is there something more? And, outside of learning to read music or theory, are there resources out there that could help a not-particularly musical person such as myself articulate the similarities that they hear between songs?
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 8:53 PM PST - 7 comments

My potential boss is making me uncomfortable but I need this job

In light of the recent Ask and Meta about sexism at work, I thought I'd bring this dilemma to you guys. My potential boss is flirting heavily with me. I'm not interested in him but I really need the job. [more inside]
posted by Beethoven's Sith at 7:42 PM PST - 34 comments

What is he DOING in the bathroom?

I work in a small office. The boss of our group works remotely but is in town occasionally. One of my (male) coworkers tends to go to the washroom 1-2 times a day for periods of 20-40 minutes, when our boss is not in town, but abstains from this behaviour when the boss is around. What could he be doing in the bathroom? [more inside]
posted by sockermas at 6:56 PM PST - 80 comments

I-70 Ohio and West Virginia play areas

In May we will be taking a family trip out east by car. We plan to stop for lunch somewhere east of Indianapolis, and then for a play/running-around time somewhere between Columbus, Ohio, and Wheeling, West Virginia, on I-70. Where? (Also, where should we spend the night?) [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 6:51 PM PST - 14 comments

help me track down this old book (barbara sher fans may remember ref?)

There's a lot of books I own but have never read from cover to cover, only skimmed, and I'd like to spend less time on the Interwebz and more time reading paper, as I retain the ideas better and find a lot of articles on the net are clickbait and not really detailed enough to be helpful. I would also like to start reading fiction for pleasure, as most of my books are self-help/ memoir and I am sure there's lot of enjoyment to be found in fiction too. So I have just joined my local Meetup book group, though it will be a while before I get to an event. I am also very keen to read the story of a man who was a voracious reader as I think this will inspire me. [more inside]
posted by AuroraSky at 6:42 PM PST - 7 comments

Nick Cave 101

I've always meant to give more of a chance to Nick Cave. The songs of his I know I enjoy, but I have somehow managed to never really give him an extended listen. Where should I start?
posted by DirtyOldTown at 6:09 PM PST - 20 comments

I Walk the Line

Is there a wearable pedometer that syncs with ios8 that is NOT wristbound? [more inside]
posted by jadepearl at 5:42 PM PST - 13 comments

Medical Marijuana for Fibromyalgia in Boston

I have decided to transition off of my pharma meds for Fibromyalgia. I did a quick review of articles and it appears folks are experiencing reductions in symptoms when taking medical Marijuana for Fibromyalgia. I am wondering if anyone knows more about this, or has any experience. I don't know how this works at all and thinking of asking my Dr but not sure how she will respond. any advice is helpful
posted by sistertips at 5:03 PM PST - 4 comments

Less comfort food, more comfort cooking

When I’m dealing with a lot of emotional stress, my two main coping mechanisms are cooking and gorging myself on all the food I can get my hands on. I’d like to find a way to indulge the former and not the latter. [more inside]
posted by libraritarian at 4:24 PM PST - 15 comments

Can anyone point the way to this music blog?

Asking for a friend: "Looking for the lost link to a music blog (on Blogspot, maybe?), called Something City. It had lots of obscure out of print music available for download. All kinds of music, mostly old stuff from exotic places (Africa, SE Asia), but I found some stuff by Archie Shepp there too."
posted by DarlingBri at 4:14 PM PST - 4 comments

What to wear on first, blind date?

Haven't gone in a date in 10 years, don't know this guy, and I can't figure out what to wear! [more inside]
posted by primate moon at 3:51 PM PST - 19 comments

First-time grandparent: What should I know?

Going to Europe soon for 5 weeks to be with my daughter as she pops out her first child. Am excited for both of us. I want to be truly supportive of her but also practice self-care and set appropriate limits. Naturally, there are complications. See inside for snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by Bella Donna at 3:38 PM PST - 20 comments

Where to live next?

65, need to find home. Where to live next? [more inside]
posted by NorthCoastCafe at 2:46 PM PST - 10 comments

Shooting the drought in CA

Hi, I'm headed out to CA over the weekend. I going to be in the Sacramento, San Jose, Fresno, and LA areas over the course of a week. I'm looking to shoot video for a piece I am doing about the drought. I was wondering if there are any locals that might suggest some places to look compelling images. Thanks!
posted by Shanachie at 1:45 PM PST - 19 comments

PSQL with JSON values

I have a table with one column that contains data in JSON format, organized like: [more inside]
posted by null14 at 12:52 PM PST - 4 comments

OldPersonFilter: Why would someone want to replicate @pauijiac3?

Some kid (I presume, his userpic looks young) badgered me on Twitter to give him information on making Twitter bots. He said he wants to make something that replicates @pauijac3. I look at that Twitter account, and I have no idea what it is. I enjoy weird Twitter, but this seems far afield of gregnog territory. Can anyone explain why people like that account and why you'd want to make a bot like that?
posted by ignignokt at 12:50 PM PST - 7 comments

Where do I start to sort out my life?

I'm completely lost. I have always suffered from depressive episodes (never discussed it with anyone) and now things have come to a head. I am in my early thirties. I don't know how to carry on. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:23 PM PST - 15 comments

Condoms breaking

I'm dating someone new and condoms have been breaking at an alarming rate. I'm bewildered about what's going on and how to fix it. (NSFW ish stuff inside) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:23 PM PST - 50 comments

Help! Hit the K key in Apple Mail and lost an important email

This makes no sense to me, but I have lost a super important email I just received by accidentally hitting the "K" key while it was highlighted in my Apple Mail inbox. It is my only copy of an important day-long interview for an academic job. I have tried searching Mail by sender and subject, searching my computer for same including searching content, looking in Mail's trash folder. The Finder's trash is empty. I am stumped, and worried. I really don't want to write back to say that I lost the email. Where could it be??
posted by betsbillabong at 11:42 AM PST - 15 comments

TMJ and insurance

Asking for a friend: "I have TMJ & I'm looking for new insurance. I've noticed that Health Choice Insurance doesn't exclude TMJ, but you have to be authorized for it. The company seems small, and to partner with a handful of clinics. Does anyone have experience with this company, or with a different company who would cover an occlusional splint specifically made for the treatment of TMJ?" [more inside]
posted by Weeping_angel at 11:13 AM PST - 4 comments

What would you pay for this engagement ring?

I'm considering buying this engagement ring. [more inside]
posted by eggman at 10:51 AM PST - 14 comments

Bilingual Japanese-English storybooks

We are an American-Japanese family living in the US. We have a 4 year old and a 1 year old who we would like to raise as bilingual as possible. We read both English storybooks and Japanese storybooks, but would love your recommendations for some books that have the story in both English and Japanese side-by-side. Would also be happy to hear about books readily available in both languages. Bonus points if you can vouch for the quality of the story and the translation. (Have you ever read "Goodnight Moon" in Japanese? It's not pretty.) [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 10:33 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for more examples of a movie trope

This question contains spoilers for two movies, Kiss of Death and Gran Torino -- so I'll put it below the fold. [more inside]
posted by neat graffitist at 9:51 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me download rare-ish music without destroying my laptop

I need to purchase a copy of the Punch Brothers' cover of Reptilia, but it isn't available on iTunes or Amazon. Anyone know where I can buy it? Obsessive Googling hasn't helped me so far. [more inside]
posted by hessie at 8:33 AM PST - 8 comments

Where is my license...

I moved to a new state. I need a Virginia driver's license. I lost my Florida license. Help! [more inside]
posted by Hollywood Upstairs Medical College at 8:28 AM PST - 9 comments

Just say No!

Expecting #2 this summer! Help me rock my NUVBAC in a hospital. Teach me the magical 'No' phrases that won't tick off the medical staff but allow me to have the birth I want (emergencies/ extenuating circumstances aside). [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas at 8:12 AM PST - 32 comments

Who made this flowchart?

I'd like to know who originally created this flowchart on asking a question after a speaker's presentation.
posted by zamboni at 8:04 AM PST - 1 comment

Vegetarian, exercising, weight-gain, healthy?

I'm a skinny vegetarian on a healthy diet (no refined carbs or sugars, no processed meals, fresh fruit and veg every day, low sat fats/high unsat fats) and have done cardio exercise for about a year. I have just started doing strength training as well. I want to gain a bit of weight, stay healthy, and promote muscle-growth. I am considering protein powder but feel unsure as to its effects. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by nagoya at 7:56 AM PST - 11 comments

Long Term Job Search Strategy Needed

My workplace was informed yesterday that we will be closing in November and we will all be laid off. I am trying to come up with a plan of attack for finding a new job over this longer than expected timespan for notice of layoff. [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen at 7:48 AM PST - 7 comments

Flooring options to replace ancient tile

The ceramic tile throughout my house is old, crumbling, and needs to go. Please help me sort through my flooring options. [more inside]
posted by _Mona_ at 7:19 AM PST - 11 comments

Learning Mandolin - Recommended Guide(s)?

I received a much-desired starter mandolin for Christmas and am looking for help on good guidebooks or other starting points for learning. Any recommendations? Preferences/details inside. [more inside]
posted by staccato signals of constant information at 7:14 AM PST - 5 comments

Mac to-do app in Calendar form

I cannot seem to find a good app that will let me: 1) have recurring tasks 2) allow me to check them off as done (like disappear or strike or some other indicator) 3) presented in calendar form (not a "reminders" list). I don't ask for much. I have checked out many many free apps, none of which accomplish what I want. I'm sure this gem is a paid app and I will gladly fork over based on a suggestion, knowing my criteria. I have yet to find one that has all three of these requirements spelled out. Thanks!
posted by Snackpants at 6:52 AM PST - 7 comments

Bitch in Business

Metafilter feminists help me out! I an trying to compile a list of things that only ambitious women get to hear as they fight their way into management. Things like "you sound too abrasive". But also getting ignored in a specific way. I would like these to be things someone has actually said to you or someone you know. Can you help me?
posted by Omnomnom at 6:27 AM PST - 222 comments

Miyazaki wanna-be teen

Easy animation software for the mac for a teen with an ambitious history project. [more inside]
posted by LittleMy at 6:00 AM PST - 4 comments

Life without caffeine

Gave up caffeinated drinks (coffee, tea) a month ago and it's been great, except my eyelids and entire face feel heavy in early afternoon. If you are a caffeine-free person, how do you keep your energy up? [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing at 5:31 AM PST - 22 comments

Lawyers to help draft legal will in Cleveland, OH area.

I've never hired a lawyer before, but from what I understand, the best way to find one is through word of mouth; I'm hoping I can get suggestions from MeFites who happen to live in the area. My parent is living on the west side, close to Westlake. We're willing to drive to the east side if the lawyer comes highly recommended. [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 5:20 AM PST - 4 comments

Couple Questions

I often meet a nice couple and want to know more about their life together. Can you think of good, appropriate questions to address this? [more inside]
posted by tintexas at 3:28 AM PST - 12 comments

Reliable replacement battery for Dell Latitude E6420 in Germany

My 3 year old Dell Latitude E6420 laptop needs a new battery. It had a replacement already about 2 years ago after the one it shipped with just fell out one day (!) but other than that has had no battery problems. Anyone know how I can get a reliable replacement **here in Germany**? I would ideally like a Dell or Dell-recognised component as this is my primary device and it needs to be reliable.
posted by KMH at 3:17 AM PST - 2 comments

Long distance partner moving in. In Uganda.

My long-term, long-distance girlfriend is moving in soon, to my new place in Uganda, a new country for us both. What can I do to make the most of the wonderful parts and limit the challenging parts? [more inside]
posted by twirlypen at 1:14 AM PST - 8 comments

January 21

When the storm finally clears, will there be a shore to paddle to?

The storm isn't over yet, and I am still in free-fall...but that can't last forever, right? I'm wondering what to do next. (Underemploymentfilter) [more inside]
posted by Soap D. Spencer at 10:16 PM PST - 14 comments

Comic / diagram about arguing groups and selection bias

I think I saw this somewhere, it may have been XKCD, SMBC, The Oatmeal, or something else, that made an argument with illustrations. Basically it argued if you have two groups who disagree, the moderates of group A would disproportionately interact with the most argumentative people from group B and vice versa, leading each to get a skewed impression of the other.
posted by RobotHero at 10:11 PM PST - 1 comment

Being a better man

I would like to do some reading on a subject I am having trouble wording; the best I can come up with is "positive feminist masculinity." [more inside]
posted by A god with hooves, a god with horns at 9:09 PM PST - 13 comments

About DNA polymerase...

Tomasetti and Vogelstein recently published an analysis that suggests the variation in the number of stem cell divisions leads to cancer incidence rates that are higher for tissues with relatively greater numbers of divisions. They recently posted a follow-up which attempts to address some of the counterarguments to their results. Acting on the premise that their work is correct or at least "in the right direction", are there labs or drug companies working on gene therapies that attempt to improve DNA polymerase fidelity (even in model organisms), as a means to one day perhaps reduce cancer incidence in higher-risk tissues? While it is easy through mutagenesis to worsen fidelity rates and increase cancer rates (as has been demo'ed in mice, say) can this aspect be engineered to be improved — that is, what biochemical aspects of (human) DNA polymerase have evolved to control its fidelity rate such that it might be possible to improve upon it?
posted by a lungful of dragon at 8:56 PM PST - 3 comments

telemarketer prank call question

Anyone remember this specific telemarketer prank call? [more inside]
posted by mullacc at 7:21 PM PST - 2 comments

It's incredible, alright

Who sang the wonderful and terrible "Hip Hop" from The Incredible Machine 3?
posted by KChasm at 6:39 PM PST - 1 comment

The friend of my customer's neighbor's car is my something-or-other

What options does a landlord likely have when a tenant's guest/friend is slashing the neighbors' tires and threatening them and has a criminal record? Assume standard lease in Illinois and that the guest definitely did it but the police won't make an arrest yet. The tenant has done nothing wrong.
posted by michaelh at 6:29 PM PST - 12 comments

What's a good way to say "I don't know" in a constructive way?

In my role at work, I'm often approached on a day to day basis with very specific ad hoc questions. Often times, I have no background on the question / issue, and am not sure how to answer. [more inside]
posted by watrlily at 6:20 PM PST - 36 comments

Accessing CBT files on macbook

I have a CD based CBT from work that I need to view. The files are .swf, I converted it to mkv, mp4 to try and watch it but that just made it all wonky. I have a macbook pro about a year old.
posted by andywolf at 6:12 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me keep them quiet and entertained.

I'm looking for some great apps for use in a before and after school program. [more inside]
posted by Lay Off The Books at 5:33 PM PST - 2 comments

How do I introduce my tween nieces to world of pop music?

So far they're not really into popular music, but I'd like to share a little with them and see if I can entertain and/or pique their interest. [more inside]
posted by Captain Chesapeake at 5:32 PM PST - 20 comments

Where can I find a boot similar to this Red Wing Beckman, but size 15?

I'm trying to find a boot as similar as possible to this Red Wing Beckman boot (similar cut, color, sole thickness, etc.), but available in a U.S. men's size 15. Anyone know of something that fits the bill?
posted by pheide at 5:14 PM PST - 9 comments

I did but prompt the age to fix my clogs

I did something stupid. I found the perfect pair of shoes and only got one pair. And now they're falling apart and the style is discontinued. [more inside]
posted by ernielundquist at 4:58 PM PST - 7 comments

Luther Vandross: love the voice, hate the production.

I've been hearing a lot more Luther Vandross in my life for a variety of reasons. While there is no denying the man's amazing voice, I am underwhelmed by the schmaltziness of the production surrounding that voice. What are some Luther Vandross songs or albums that showcase his voice without so much electric piano?
posted by palindromic at 4:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Robots + Civil Rights + Law School = Help Me Find a Job!

I am a first year law student in Seattle. I am looking for a summer internship/job. I want to work on civil rights issues and technology issues, and I'm pretty sure the future will involve a lot of overlap between the two (issues like this, for example). [more inside]
posted by DGStieber at 4:48 PM PST - 13 comments

Radeon HD 5450 Vs GMA 4500?

I grabbed 2 old dells an optiplex 755 and 780. I'm gonna throw windows 7 on one and xubuntu on the other. Should I just use the integrated graphics on the 780 and use the 5450 i already have to boost the performance of the 755? I think I'm gonna go with xubuntu on the 755 because I grabbed a refurbed hdd for it and it won't be as big of a pain in the ass to run windows update again in case the thing craps the bed. Also could the gma 4500 handle dual monitors? I know the 5450 can.
posted by mamamia88 at 4:09 PM PST - 8 comments

Wearing The Rosary As Jewelry

Years ago, I had a male coworker who wore a plastic rosary as a necklace. Just recently, I met another man who does the same thing. Is this part of some kind of movement or subculture? Fashion trend? Fringe religious group? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. at 4:08 PM PST - 37 comments

When is a last name left lowercase?

I'm writing a piece of software to go through a very large database and format last names in their correct casing (i.e., smith or SMITH or sMith to Smith.) However, I'm obviously aware some names should be kept as lowercase—but what names? [more inside]
posted by Hot Like Your 12V Wire at 4:07 PM PST - 17 comments

What are some healthy, durable, easy-to-cook grocery staples?

I'm buying groceries (online) for a family member, and need some ideas for things that'll provide them with good nutrition while also being easy to prepare. (Complicated family situation inside, probably relevant) [more inside]
posted by The Zeroth Law at 4:02 PM PST - 22 comments

How did you find your awesome Chicago apartment?

What's the current best service for finding apartments in Chicago if you know the general area you'd like to live in? I'm checking out Craigslist and Padmapper, but would love recommendations for specific realtors or apartment-hunting services or basically anything you've had luck with. [more inside]
posted by fast ein Maedchen at 2:38 PM PST - 12 comments

Capacity Building Grant

Through a capacity building grant, I probably have the opportunity to do some sort of non-profit management training (fundraising, major gifts, volunteer wrangling, marketing) in the next six months. Can you recommend one in or around Chicago? [more inside]
posted by crush-onastick at 2:33 PM PST - 1 comment

Psychosomatic anxiety about nonorganic produce??

I have hormonal imbalances like crazy, mostly related to PCOS (with some bonuses). I feel better when I eat organic vs. nonorganic, could this be possible, or am I psyching myself out? [more inside]
posted by Kestrelxo at 2:26 PM PST - 24 comments

My spouse has a terminal diagnosis. What do I need to do?

My spouse has a terminal diagnosis. What do I need to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:22 PM PST - 41 comments

Gameshow Inspired Statistics Question

I recently came up with a statistical thought experiment from watching too many reality game shows, but I'm having trouble remembering how to solve a problem like this. Help me figure out this problem that's been bugging me (and by extension relearn some statistics I've forgotten). [more inside]
posted by fremen at 2:15 PM PST - 4 comments

What's Going on With My Heartburn?

Explain the progress of weird heartburn symptoms to me as if my body was a foreign and mysterious object that is staging a escalating and unpredictable revolution in my belly and affiliated areas. [more inside]
posted by redsparkler at 1:59 PM PST - 25 comments

What can I use my new personal library database for?

I've just finished adding all of my owned books into a personal database app. Now what can I do with that information? [more inside]
posted by jefficator at 1:35 PM PST - 5 comments

Help finding a book

My father recently passed, and I'd like to locate a copy of a book he loved and sent copies to me and my brothers. [more inside]
posted by toastchee at 1:21 PM PST - 11 comments

In need of ideas for a small amount of exquisite yarn

I have just one skein (45 yards) of a bulky-weight space-dyed merino/nylon blend. Very similar to this and it's out of stock forever and ever. What can I make with just 45 yards? [more inside]
posted by magdalemon at 1:03 PM PST - 11 comments

What's worth getting at Wegmans?

I've heard a lot of good things about Wegmans, but I've never been. What do they have that's especially good and/or unique? [more inside]
posted by Metroid Baby at 12:32 PM PST - 40 comments

Best Overnight Shipping Option on Friday Evening

I have a very important document that I need ship on Friday evening(I can't ship it earlier) from California and it must arrive by Saturday in Ohio. Of the three major shipping services(USP, FedEx, USPS) which one will be best opinion? Timing is critical and money is less important issue.
posted by Carius at 12:28 PM PST - 21 comments

What is the largest one-syllable number?

Twelve is the largest number whose English name has one syllable. I'm wondering what the largest number is whose name in some spoken language has one syllable.
posted by sen at 12:12 PM PST - 20 comments

Help me figure out camping... in Africa?

Can you help me figure out whether a tent + mattress or a camping hammock would be best for camping out in Togo for 3 weeks? [more inside]
posted by acridrabbit at 11:52 AM PST - 8 comments

My back itches...

My back itches, and it has been going on for years, about fifteen years, and it's driving me nuts! [more inside]
posted by patheral at 11:39 AM PST - 39 comments

Advice for starting a GSA

Are you or were you part of a GSA or other LGBTQ organization in school? I'm a teacher starting a Gay-Straight Alliance at my public high school with the support of the administration. [more inside]
posted by smorgasbord at 11:37 AM PST - 10 comments

Parenting an Anxious Kid

My 4 year old seems to be considerably more anxious, perfectionistic, and emotional than his peers. Do you have a kid like this? WERE you a kid like this? Give me your secrets to helping him develop coping skills. [more inside]
posted by tchemgrrl at 11:29 AM PST - 24 comments

Turning my passions into a potential career?

I moved to a new city where I can more or less pursue doing what I want. But how turn the things I love in my everyday life into a career path? [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 11:25 AM PST - 9 comments

Alarm clock anxiety

I often have trouble falling asleep because I'm anxious my alarm won't go off in the morning. Help, please? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 11:22 AM PST - 17 comments

Best way to reheat 2 lbs pasta without a microwave or boiling water?

I want to prepare some plain noodles ahead of time and then reheat them when I'm in a cabin with no microwave and no sink. I'll have two gas fire rings, a wood stove, and can bring whatever pots and pans are necessary. Advice? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 11:13 AM PST - 13 comments

Time to buy new boots?

I just got two pairs of my boots repaired (new heels + seam repair), which cost $25 each time. Now both have new problems (zipper falling apart on one, seam on the opposite boot ripping on the other). If I'm at the point where I need shell out $50 to make them wearable again, is it time to just buy new ones? [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 10:46 AM PST - 4 comments

Where to take my cat for a few hours?

We just got a notice from our landlord that they need to do some extermination in the building, and are asking everyone to vacate the premises, including pets, for a few hours during the day TOMORROW. [more inside]
posted by rainbowbrite at 10:26 AM PST - 14 comments

What kind of (financial) professional do I need to see for advice?

We are trying to decide whether to stay in our home and send our kids to private school, or to move. We need some help to run the numbers and different scenarios. [more inside]
posted by vignettist at 10:15 AM PST - 7 comments

Yet another travel rec question!

We're looking for advice on where to go this summer! We have narrowed it down to two options: Malta & Cyprus or Central Europe (some combination of Germany, Austria, Czech Republic, Hungary, Poland). We've seen a lot of Europe, but not any of these places (I was sick in Munich for a couple days a decade ago, but that's it). Obviously it's kind of silly to ask which of these trips is "better", so we're looking for feedback based on our preferences & parameters, listed below the fold. [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 10:13 AM PST - 8 comments

Armchair Travellers Assemble!

I am hatching a plan to start saving now for a KICK-ASS trip at years' end. I have three possible destinations in mind. Help me decide between them. [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 10:07 AM PST - 25 comments

How to get rid of a fifth wheel

My dad has a camper trailer thingy in his driveway, of the type typically referred to as a "fifth wheel" (see image here). It's paid for, it's unsellable, and so far, it has been impossible to give it away. It's in a terrible state of disrepair, and it needs to go wherever it is fifth wheel campers go to die. But where is that, exactly? [more inside]
posted by kythuen at 9:57 AM PST - 15 comments

Degrees of Degrees...

I have an MLIS and work in a govt. library (US). Trying to decide if I should go back to school for either an MS in Knowledge Management or another Bachelor's in Computer Science (to add to my totally unrelated Bachelor of Fine Arts degree) to move forward in my career and contribute more to the 'back-end' of library systems and services. They would both take about the same amount of time to complete. Do you have thoughts about or experience similar to this? [more inside]
posted by PaulaSchultz at 9:52 AM PST - 5 comments

Completion rate for Financial Aid and changing schools

If your completion rate is below 67% for one school and this causes you to lose your financial aid, does this carry across to another school? [more inside]
posted by motioncityshakespeare at 9:45 AM PST - 2 comments

What to do in Rotterdam?

I am holed up for 5 days in Rotterdam at the film festival but want to break away from it and explore. Looking for suggestions. [more inside]
posted by shackpalace at 9:30 AM PST - 4 comments

Apps/suggestions for setting time limits on apps for iPad/iPad?

The kids are getting too much screen time, and I am tired of chasing them down to surrender the iPad, setting passcodes, etc. Is there an app or setting that will permit iPad use *only* during specific recurring periods? Or is there an app that will let me specify which apps can be used during specific recurring periods? [more inside]
posted by MonkeyToes at 9:30 AM PST - 11 comments

How Can I Stop Getting Razor Bumps?

I get pretty gnarly razor bumps on my chin and upper neck. I've tried the following things to try to get rid of them: (1) shaving with the grain, (2) a product called Bump Patrol, and (3) some kind of chemical hair removal cream I bought at Target. The first two didn't work and the third was too painful to keep up (and also didn't seem to remove all the hair.) Can anyone recommend something else? What's worked for you? [more inside]
posted by Area Man at 9:15 AM PST - 30 comments

Help Detecting Internet Usage via Router

How to find an activity log on my Verizon M1424WR Router to see if our babysitter is spending more time surfing the internet than playing with our kids. [more inside]
posted by GorgeousPorridge at 8:24 AM PST - 13 comments

Adult Language Re-Learning

I'm interested in learning a language, or more accurately re-learning it. Or even more accurately learning it better than I did in the first place. [more inside]
posted by jacquilynne at 8:20 AM PST - 9 comments

Coldwater Creek Replacement?

I'm bummed that Coldwater Creek has gone bottoms-up. Who's their best online replacement?
posted by summerstorm at 8:16 AM PST - 6 comments

Where to do a 2-4 night solo backpacking trip the first week of March?

Requirements: 3-4 hours drive from a major airport (I have Southwest frequent flier miles) Not very cold (sleeping bag is rated 30 deg F) [more inside]
posted by czytm at 8:16 AM PST - 11 comments

How do you take care of a house?

I've realized that I have little idea how to properly care for a house. What regular maintenance and preventative maintenance tasks should I be doing? How do I do them? What things should I be checking for, on what schedule? What equipment do I need? What things will I probably need to hire someone for? I'm a-googlin too, but thought you all might know some good resources.
posted by SampleSize at 7:55 AM PST - 16 comments

How to survive a separation and divorce

I am in the beginning stages of separation and divorce. I am the initiator and it is completely one-sided. How do I survive the various feelings I'm going through? Bonus: with tween children. [more inside]
posted by puppet du sock at 7:27 AM PST - 16 comments

Copyright question about designing a set of icons

I am asking for a friend, who says -- "I am in contract negotiations with my former employer to develop an indeterminate number of software icons for their software product." [more inside]
posted by Guy_Inamonkeysuit at 7:24 AM PST - 5 comments

RussianFilter: Help me read better.

Are there resources or just tried-and-true methods to improve my Russian reading ability? Difficulty: I know zero Russian. [more inside]
posted by chainsofreedom at 7:06 AM PST - 10 comments

Negotiating tactics: non-dry edition

I'd like to read something which involves a lot of negotiating: tactics used, counter-tactics, that kind of thing. It needs to be nice and easy to read, rather than dry. Some discussion of what happened would make the perfect book. Fiction is okay too. All suggestions welcome!
posted by devnull at 6:56 AM PST - 5 comments

Texture ideas when painting a subfloor

Could I pour Elmer's glue in little puddles that match the grain on my subfloor so that when I paint it with porch paint there will be some texture? Or would it just break up the first time someone walked on it? [more inside]
posted by cda at 6:17 AM PST - 18 comments

It's my adulthood, and I'll ride horsies if I want to.

I'd like to learn how to ride horses. Difficulty level: I haven't ridden a horse since I was 12, and it didn't go too well then. Oh, and I'm also a bit of a coward. What are my next steps? [more inside]
posted by nerdfish at 4:35 AM PST - 26 comments

Legit online therapy for anxiety?

For anyone who has done online therapy, was your experience useful? Any specific recommendations or tips for finding something that is legitimate? I am particularly interested in therapy that can be done over instant messaging. [more inside]
posted by picardythird at 4:27 AM PST - 8 comments

Lost link to Javascript algorithm animation

I thought I followed a link from metafilter last night or the night before to a page with a neat animation of circles expanding until they hit dots (something to do with sampling). At the bottom of the page was the Javascript that generated the graphics. Ring any bells? [more inside]
posted by mpark at 12:22 AM PST - 4 comments

Deadly allergies by population

I'm wondering if there's any info on severe allergies and their frequency in different populations. [more inside]
posted by Klaxon Aoooogah at 12:11 AM PST - 8 comments

January 20

Chatting on Whatsapp anonymously?

Is there any way I can chat on Whatsapp anonymously with a group of my friends? [more inside]
posted by cyrusw8 at 11:52 PM PST - 5 comments

Utrecht: small church courtyard?

I'm trying to identify a church in central Utrecht that is roughly 700 years old; is NOT especially tall or ornate; and has (or had as of the late 90s) a small inner courtyard with a simple, spare garden built around a little round pond or raised round pool. Any ideas re. which this is or where I could look for clues? I've browsed lots of google images but haven't recognized it that way.
posted by kalapierson at 10:52 PM PST - 8 comments

What is a good academic introduction to transgender theory?

I'm updating a graduate survey course in critical theory that cavasses all the main 'isms' and is quite high level. It includes readings and discussions on feminist and queer philosophies and literary theories but there is currently no section on transgender at all. I'd like to change this. What's the best academic introduction to transgender or transgender theory/politics, the position of transgender within queer theory that you've read? It needs to be scholarly but memoir or personal reflection or journalism could also be okay as further readings. Suitable for Masters students so it can be philosophical/dense/complex. Happy to hear of any ideas for readings that fall outside these requirements if you think I'm going about this the wrong way too. It would need to be a book chapter or journal article not a whole book. Thanks!
posted by JayAlfred at 10:21 PM PST - 12 comments

How terrible is a Furby for the parents?

Smallest child is being outright bribed into potty training, and the ultimate prize she now wants is a Furby. She has been asking for a robot of her own for a while and if it gets her out of diapers, we're thrilled. The online reviews are all super positive but don't cover my main questions, especially is there an alternative animatronic doll under $100 for a child? [more inside]
posted by viggorlijah at 9:51 PM PST - 17 comments

White elephant in the yard, not in the room.

Asking for a friend: How do I get rid of a large, locked trailer (full of tools and what not) that doesn't belong to me but is sitting on my property? [more inside]
posted by tipsyBumblebee at 9:47 PM PST - 15 comments

Trying to ID "Invisible Man" painting

We picked up this cool print of a painting at a thrift store the other day. When I saw it I thought it looked familiar somehow, but googling has yet to turn up the artist. Look familiar to anyone? The signature looks like it says "S. Seppa" but it's not super easy to read. Thanks!
posted by klugarsh at 9:21 PM PST - 4 comments

Not your everyday drumbeat?

Friends, help me compile a list, would you? I'm looking for pop/rock songs that feature very distinctive beats from the drummer. Anything really ear-catching and creative that departs from more ordinary timekeeping, in some fresh way. As an example, one that falls into that category would be the Zombies' Time of the Season. And please include a YouTube (or other) link if you can, since almost any song ever recorded is now on YouTube. Thanking you in advance.
posted by flapjax at midnite at 8:08 PM PST - 57 comments

Quick and dirty polyester dye job

I'm looking to dye some fabric that's a 35/65 cotton/poly blend and I want to do it quick, dirty, and cheap. [more inside]
posted by komara at 7:27 PM PST - 12 comments

I want Safari to stop annoying me when I use the space bar to scroll.

Certain kinds of web pages break my browsing habits. I'm cranky and do not wish to change my browsing habits. Is there a way to get these pages to act like I want them to? [more inside]
posted by bac at 7:17 PM PST - 8 comments

Give me that sweet (embedded) video

I would like to capture some embedded videos that are in webpages for a course I am taking. The videos are embedded Vimeo format objects. How can I turn them into files that I can store locally? [more inside]
posted by incolorinred at 7:03 PM PST - 6 comments

I call the big one Bitey

Baby Stardust is a curious, energetic little boy, but you wouldn't like him when he's angry. He's on the verge of getting kicked out of daycare. How can we help him stop biting and pushing? [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust at 6:50 PM PST - 17 comments

Why are you wasting my pixels?

None of the maximise commands provide proper maximisation to fill the whole screen? [more inside]
posted by turkeyphant at 6:45 PM PST - 3 comments

Should a temporary resident feed a nesting hummingbird?

There's a hummingbird nesting in a tree by my door in San Diego. Is it a bad idea to set up a feeder when I'm only here for 10 weeks? [more inside]
posted by still_wears_a_hat at 6:20 PM PST - 14 comments

Any experience with SolarCity?

SolarCity wants to put panels on my roof. The deal looks too good to be true: they claim it will knock my average monthly bill from $90 to $26, no money down, free repairs for life. [more inside]
posted by Camofrog at 6:14 PM PST - 11 comments

Cleaning spectacles / eye-glasses using a machine ?

Interested to hear of others experiences using a machine to clean your spectacles / eye-glasses ? [more inside]
posted by southof40 at 5:50 PM PST - 4 comments

Legal consequences for renter having guests sleep in basement?

Do the legal consequences of guests sleeping in a basement without an egress window fall on the landlord, or the renter? Who has an incentive to report this activity? [more inside]
posted by Noumenon at 5:44 PM PST - 9 comments

How do I talk to people about my divorce?

I got divorced a few years ago and I am not in pain about it anymore, except I kind of am. How can I it make a thing I am not hiding from work acquaintances, but also give the sense it isn't something I want to talk about? [more inside]
posted by half life at 5:33 PM PST - 23 comments

Dry Beans

Soaked, now what? [more inside]
posted by leafwoman at 5:27 PM PST - 10 comments

Ex-friend still wants to be friends

I broke things off with an old friend and she texts DH with messages to me. I want her to stop doing this. It has been over two years since I ended our friendship. Snowflakes after the jump. [more inside]
posted by RichardHenryYarbo at 5:19 PM PST - 17 comments

What are some creative uses for candied citron?

I candied some citron to use in lebkuchen, which sadly never got made. Now Christmas is over and I have about a cup and a half of the stuff sitting in my fridge. What can I put this in that isn't a fruitcake?
posted by annekate at 4:51 PM PST - 10 comments

How can I be less sensitive?

There is no question about it – I am an extremely sensitive person. What I want to know is how can I be less sensitive, or, maybe, if I should be less sensitive? [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend at 4:32 PM PST - 16 comments

Lifehacker replacement - tips for improving everyday life

Now that Lifehacker requires you to watch a video every time you want to read an article (and most of the articles don't have enough content to make it worthwhile) I am looking for a new source on the web for generally cool ideas for everyday life. I'm not especially tech-y so I prefer hacks for every day life rather than news about nifty high-tech gear. [more inside]
posted by metahawk at 4:18 PM PST - 9 comments

Lieder ohne Worte

Can you recommend some newish instrumental rock/pop songs? I really like it when artists will add an instrumental track to an album, but it's mostly serendipity that I find them. Can you recommend some recent instrumental tracks of note? Or whole instrumental pop/rock albums? [more inside]
posted by bluefly at 4:13 PM PST - 11 comments

Cool, easy songs in Japanese.

One of the activities in my Japanese class is learning and singing songs in Japanese, and I think I just exhausted my playlist. [more inside]
posted by clearlydemon at 3:00 PM PST - 14 comments

Intermediate/Advanced Java Programming Books?

I'm a software developer with several years of experience under my belt. Lately, I've been working with lots of Java code, but have very little formal Java training. Unfortunately, most of the resources that I've found seem to target people with little/no programming experience OR lots of basic Java experience. Can anybody recommend books or other resources that teach Java, from the perspective of a developer who is already experienced with OOP and other C-style languages? [more inside]
posted by schmod at 2:56 PM PST - 7 comments

Buying Life Insurance and Funeral Insurance for Parents?

Is there a way I can purchase life insurance and/or funeral insurance for my parents, and if so, which would be the best way to do it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:51 PM PST - 4 comments

Mac shell script not updating

Ok, I'm trying to figure out shell scripting. I wrote a simple bash script, saved it in ~/bin/, made sure /bin/ was in my PATH variable, updated the permissions to make it executable and successfully executed it from Terminal. However, when I make changes to the script in BBEdit and save the changes, they don't seem to "take". When I re-run the script in Terminal, the changes don't seem to have been made. I opened new terminal windows, quit the Terminal, etc., to no avail. What am I missing?
posted by griseus at 2:13 PM PST - 7 comments

Silly computer problem, but problematic

How do I figure out what video card is in my laptop when the computer doesn't know either? [more inside]
posted by Gneisskate at 2:09 PM PST - 8 comments

Idea's for children's grave

I'm looking for decoration ideas for a children's grave. [more inside]
posted by eternitypost at 2:08 PM PST - 9 comments

Should I drive or fly from Baltimore to Nashville and Knoxville Tenessee

Should I drive or fly from Baltimore to Nashville and Knoxville Tenessee? [more inside]
posted by sully75 at 1:57 PM PST - 12 comments

Parents want to give me money, how to reduce tax burden? UK edition.

My parents are about to inherit a reasonable amount of money. They want to give my brother and I a lump sum of around £20000 each. If they just transfer the money to us what happens about tax? Is there a way to minimise the amount of tax to be paid? You are not my solicitor or financial advisor etc etc. I'll take advice but would like an understanding before I do. Thanks!
posted by chr at 1:47 PM PST - 9 comments

Thinking of leaving teaching, realistically what else could I do?

After 6 years of abuse from admin, parents and non-stop stress I'm tempted to leave my dream career of teaching, just unsure of what I can do now? [more inside]
posted by bluehermit at 1:46 PM PST - 19 comments

San Fran CA: House cleaning service or specific person recommendation?

Can you give me from personal experience a recommendation for a house cleaning service or (preferably) a specific person who cleans your home? I've had terrible luck with both in San Francisco and I'm reaching a point with work that I just don't have time to do it all any more. [more inside]
posted by janey47 at 1:38 PM PST - 1 comment

My dog is too skinny, what should I be researching?

We have a 14 month old previously feral rescue. You've heard about him before, but he has his own blog if you're dying for more photos. He was 27lbs when we got him, he's now up to 31, but his ribs and spine are still faintly visible and very easy to feel, even with his winter coat. The vet says he's too skinny. [more inside]
posted by amandabee at 12:59 PM PST - 27 comments

Two PhD programs, each alike in dignity (maybe).

I'm a candidate for 2 PhD programs at the same school. Help me brainstorm questions for interviews so we can all make a good decision. [more inside]
posted by deludingmyself at 12:39 PM PST - 9 comments

Neighbor's parking job is making it hard to enter/exit my garage spot

My neighbor parks his car in such a way that it often partially blocks my garage spot. I've been trying to live with it but it's getting harder and harder to maneuver around him. He's been involved in other fights over parking already, so how do I deal with this without starting a feud? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by darkchocolatepyramid at 12:25 PM PST - 38 comments

How would you teach someone to properly use a MacBook Pro?

Dear Mefites, what are your suggestions, tips and resources for someone wanting to improve the way they use their Mac? [more inside]
posted by OrangeCat at 12:17 PM PST - 8 comments

So there's this person who likes to hang out in my basement....

One of our neighbors in our co-op has given a friend of theirs the keys to our basement and now this friend comes and goes as if she lives here. How do I make this stop? [more inside]
posted by TryTheTilapia at 12:16 PM PST - 34 comments

Question about Ontario driving records

I would like to buy a used car, drive it all summer (commuting to a short-term job), then sell it. I'm a newish driver, first car, first time getting auto insurance. Recently I got a major traffic ticket, for which I've already requested a trial. It's likely I'll be done with the car before the trial date arrives. How will this pending ticket affect my insurance? Also, I don't know if my infraction is potentially worth demerit points- how would I find that out? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 12:14 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I make my own cold cereal?

So I've decided that I need to make my own damn cereal. I DO NOT WANT HOT CEREAL. I want to know how I can make my own COLD cereal, which can be used as the base for milk and blueberries. [more inside]
posted by hal_c_on at 11:59 AM PST - 26 comments

Miter saw recommendations

I’m in the market for a weekend warrior miter saw. I'm looking for a 10”, but I can’t decide between a fancy double-bevel sliding compound model, or a less expensive single-bevel non-slider, and using the savings to upgrade the blade, get a stand, etc. Projects (and limitations) inside. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 11:39 AM PST - 26 comments

Should I stay or should I go?

Tonight, my husband again stated that he is unwilling to change things that are negatively impacting our marriage. I'm looking for resources that will help me determine if I should try to fix this or walk away. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:06 AM PST - 29 comments

Is my Adderall treating my ADHD?

My Adderall prescription works great for me. But increasingly, it feels like its functional effect on me is less about attention and focus, and more about depressive/anxious tendencies I have. Is this a problem? Does anyone have experience around this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:03 AM PST - 13 comments

Quality sleeve-based CD storage solution

I have over 1000 CDs and am considering transferring them to sleeves in binders (preferable) or drawers (less preferable). Please recommend a good vendor for such a storage system. [more inside]
posted by matildaben at 10:47 AM PST - 6 comments

Art and Chance: A list

I want to compile a list of art works that used chance operations and/or randomness in their creation. I am keen to incorporate pre-20th century, non-Western works, and lots of works by female artists, but anything you can think of will be super helpful. [more inside]
posted by 0bvious at 10:45 AM PST - 7 comments

That icon does not mean what you think it means

How did the magnifying glass and binoculars stop visually magnifying screen-rendered elements and come to prompt for search terms? [more inside]
posted by j_curiouser at 10:34 AM PST - 13 comments

Help first-time home buyers figure out the unknown unknowns.

We are thinking of moving out of the city to live in a suburb of Boston. It seems like a mysterious, scary, massive step to take. Do you have experience in real estate? Have you moved from the city to a suburb? Please help us think through the pros, cons, and logistics of buying a house for the first time, like we're 5 years old. [more inside]
posted by Salvor Hardin at 10:33 AM PST - 33 comments

How to practice communicating with a SO

My SO and I are trying our hardest to communicate together, but we quickly get frustrated and have low patience. My SO frequently doesn't understand me when I say something/give instructions, even though I feel I am very clear. What are exercises we can do that will help us practice communicating with each other without getting frustrated? [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 10:20 AM PST - 31 comments

Office chair mat - but small?

I need a new chair mat for my small office - but I can't find anything small enough. [more inside]
posted by kristi at 10:20 AM PST - 3 comments

Dependent Care FSA Confusion

I signed up for a Dependent Care Flexible Savings Account for 2015. I am struggling to wrap my head around it. Specific questions inside. [more inside]
posted by aabbbiee at 10:06 AM PST - 19 comments

Mechanical Keyboard Recommendations with special caps lock snowflake.

I have looked through the older questions here, and here and there are plenty of great potentials there, but I have a question about key remapping in hardware/firmware to which I cannot find a clear answer. [more inside]
posted by ndfine at 9:57 AM PST - 7 comments

I miss podcasts. Any suggestions?

I miss podcasts. Any suggestions? it was very simple on my ipod, but I don’t use it anymore. I now have a google nexus and have used stitcher but I can’t find much on there. I love the moth, and this american life and had listened to serial, just to give you an idea. I am am looking for buddhist podcasts. I used to have deer park dharmacast but can not find it on it stitcher. I also used to listen to zencast, but can’t find updates on it on stitcher [more inside]
posted by momtips at 8:59 AM PST - 20 comments

US Prison and Asylum Conditions in the Late 19th Century

I'm writing an article about someone who spent time in the California State Asylum and San Quentin prison around the middle of the last half of the 19th century. I'm looking for books or journal article recommendations that could help give me an idea of what life was like in these institutions specifically or similar institutions in general during this time.
posted by entropicamericana at 8:54 AM PST - 6 comments

Why are the fronts of my calves tight and what do you recommend?

I've been going to the gym for the past few months! It's the best! But the front outsides of my calves and the tops of my feet are being weird and it's getting in the way. [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 8:29 AM PST - 20 comments

I already know how to multiply

I'm re-learning calculus using Khan Academy, and I find it great except for one thing. The "Mastery Challenge" keeps going over things I know perfectly well. How can I make it skip that stuff? [more inside]
posted by dondiego87 at 8:17 AM PST - 4 comments

A Cluster of Logistical Miniquestions for an Upcoming First Trip to L.A.

My wife and I are heading to L.A. for the first time later this week, and we're stoked to see all the gnarly rad things (people talk like that in L.A., right?). But we have a few nuts and bolts questions. [more inside]
posted by the phlegmatic king at 7:24 AM PST - 23 comments

Help me survive 2 more weeks of pregnancy symptoms

I'm pregnant, but for a variety of reasons, am having an abortion in 2 weeks. New pregnancy symptoms keep popping up and making me miserable, and also sad. How can I minimize them and/or feel less sad every time a new one pops up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:58 AM PST - 41 comments

Medical Marijuana in Michigan-Doctor's Approval?

I am just beginning to research the various steps required to get a card for Medical Marijuana in Michigan, at my husband's request, and I'm all confused and a little bit nervous... Hub was dx'd with Ankylosing Spondilitis in 1997. He's been taking NSAIDS since that time, and then around 2003-ish Oxycontin was added to his list of Rxs. In the past two years, though, it's not been his back that pains him but his hands. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:55 AM PST - 4 comments

Mail forwarding service recommendation?

Doesn't have to be within the US. Send from: Location A -> mail forwarding company -> location B [more inside]
posted by ioncat at 6:17 AM PST - 6 comments

Sesame Street has me flummoxed

Sesame Street, when naming parts of shapes, consistently talks about the number of sides and the number of angles. For example a hexagon has six sides and six angles. This makes me crazy. I thought the pointy parts were "corners" or something like that. Doesn't a shape have infinite angles? If any three points can form an angle? Does 180 degrees not count as an angle? Isn't corner a more precise word?
posted by Owowthathurts at 4:34 AM PST - 14 comments

All in all, I need help to fill this gap in the wall...

I clumsily put my foot through the wall while I was attending to a smoke alarm/cooking/emergency. Laugh away. Photo here with playing card for size/perspective. [more inside]
posted by evil_esto at 4:10 AM PST - 21 comments

Is there a good way to keep a non-changing to-do list?

There are a few things I want to make sure I do every day -- like make my bed, wash dishes before going to bed, take my vitamin, etc. Is there any way to keep track of this? I've thought of just a piece of paper tacked up on the wall, but wondered if there's a better way to keep track on paper or electronically.
posted by caoimhe at 2:42 AM PST - 30 comments

How do wedding registries work?

We're getting married in a few months, and we've gotten as far as creating an Amazon registry and adding a few things to it. [more inside]
posted by madonna of the unloved at 12:06 AM PST - 21 comments

January 19

Forty (small) things to do between 39 and 40

A friend who's been going through a tough time is about to have her 39th birthday. Help me make a "forty things to do before you're forty list" for her that fits some special snowflake criteria. [more inside]
posted by girlgenius at 11:41 PM PST - 35 comments

I would rather listen than read

I've discovered I prefer listening to audiobooks to reading paper books. I have an Audible.com subscription, but some books I want to listen to are not available on Audible. Are there other sites where I might find audiobooks Audible doesn't have? It seems that some books are simply never recorded - why is that? Is there anything I can do to encourage the publisher to produce an audiobook of a particular title?
posted by southern_sky at 8:17 PM PST - 7 comments

It's sad and it's sweet, and I knew it complete...

Inspired by yesterdays post about forgotten 90s songs: I have a tantalizing musical memory, on the cusp of being forgotten altogether: [more inside]
posted by Captain l'escalier at 8:08 PM PST - 10 comments

When Amy leaves the room, Lily sneezes and Bob spawns a copy of himself.

So assume there is a set containing unique elements a, b, c, d, etc. Does saying "each element of the set is unique" imply that each element of the set does not (or cannot?) affect the other elements? [more inside]
posted by Munching Langolier at 7:57 PM PST - 10 comments

Invited a friend to visit for a couple of days, she's staying for a week

I'm in the midst of an extremely stressful period in grad school, and mistakenly and optimistically extended an invite to a friend who had been wanting to visit me in my city. [more inside]
posted by charlielxxv at 7:55 PM PST - 25 comments

What is the root of a compulsion? Example: nailbiting

There are tons of suggestions on how to stop nail-biting on metafilter, but they all seem to coincide with the idea that to stop a compulsive habit, one must replace it with another habit. [more inside]
posted by rancher at 7:13 PM PST - 14 comments

Does this sound serious? Do I need to go to a doctor?

My current condition is that I feel woozy, nauseous, and short of breath and it seems like there’s something wrong with my cognition. I’m not delirious, but I wouldn’t trust myself to do advanced math. I feel cold even though it's warm and I'm wrapped up and I’m running a mild fever (99.3). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:53 PM PST - 21 comments

Help please??

Will bifocals help my scenario? [more inside]
posted by Wontly at 6:19 PM PST - 17 comments

Hearing glottal stops at beginning of an utterance

Is it possible to hear a glottal stop at the beginning of an utterance? [more inside]
posted by grouse at 5:46 PM PST - 12 comments

Dying of grief after euthanizing rabbit

I had to euthanize my rabbit of five years -- and my only pet -- very suddenly. How do I even begin to recover from this? [more inside]
posted by comewithallgoodthings at 5:06 PM PST - 52 comments

No clearance for drawer slides --- how to mod?

I hope to install side drawer slides on my kitchen drawers (I've been unhappy with undermount slides), but the enclosing cabinet doesn't have much clearance. Do I try to cut grooves in the drawers, or enlarge the holes in the housing? [more inside]
posted by jackbishop at 3:21 PM PST - 12 comments

Can you have two health insurance companies & plans?

Hi MeFi, So a bit of a weird situation here. I was laid off in 2013 and at the end of that year I applied for Obamacare. It took FOREVER to get the application going since the website was awful so long story short, it's early 2014 and I get a job with full benefits. I completely forget about the application for Obamacare and it's now January 2015 and I received a letter from CeltiCare Health saying 'hi, here's your coverage card. you are now insured with celticare...' So now, technically, I have two coverages? One from my employer and through Celticare? How does this work? Should I call Celticare and let them know I already have insurance? What benefits are there to having two? Legal or not? Thanks for your help!
posted by bostonhill at 2:30 PM PST - 13 comments

Walking away from an underwater mortgage in Illinois (strategic default)

My wife owns a house in Chicago that has been underwater since around 2008 (she owes more on the loan than she can currently sell it for). We live out of state and the house is currently occupied by tenants, but the rental income does not cover the cost of the mortgage and the utilities and it's wreaking havoc on our finances! SHOULD SHE JUST WALK AWAY?? [more inside]
posted by chowzdown at 2:27 PM PST - 14 comments

What to do with my grad school notes and readings after grad school?

New grad student here, back from 10 years in the private sector to get my masters (and if I'm lucky, a doctorate) in counseling/psychology. My question in brief: Should I hold onto my class notes and readings? Did yours come in handy after you left yon ivory tower? [more inside]
posted by aaxelrod at 2:18 PM PST - 21 comments

Sidescrolling adventures for iPhone, take 2

Previously I asked this questions and got some pretty good tips. At this point I'm looking for engaging games, preferably side-scrolling adventures but puzzle games are fun too, which do not rely on sound. Examples of games I've tried and loved: Swordigo, Silent Age, Nihilumbra, Tiny Wings. (Was also briefly addicted to Candy Crush). I don't paying a couple of bucks for something awesome.
posted by bunderful at 2:15 PM PST - 5 comments

Is there an ethical way to have my cake and eat it too?

Hi Metafilter, I hope you can help with a question about ethics, fetishes, and relationships. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:59 PM PST - 50 comments

Can I rent a car at SFO and return in the city the next day after 6 PM?

I am traveling to SF in a few weeks, arriving mid-afternoon on Thursday at SFO. I am planning to drive to Davis the same day, spending the Friday at UCD, and drive back to SF around 6 PM, where I'll stay. Ideally, I would not have to drive to SFO and shlep back to downtown, but return the car in the city that same Friday evening, or first take a cab downtown upon arrival to a local rental company that does offer (somewhat) later returns. To my surprise, it appears to be impossible to return a rental car in SF after 6 PM to a company that offers pickup at SFO. What am I missing? [more inside]
posted by gijsvs at 1:59 PM PST - 8 comments

Where should I host our team's software for free download?

We have a website. It is a simple WordPress install. We have software for Mac, PC, Android, and iOS. The last two game clients are handled by Large Companies With A Cloud. The first two are just on our webserver and this is not a good long-term plan. Where is the best place to post these game clients? [more inside]
posted by andreaazure at 1:57 PM PST - 5 comments

Escaping from clockwatching office hell

I'm bored. So bored that I think I'm going to have to jump ship on my IT/office administration job. There's just nothing to do. I'm loath to quit with nothing to go to - but I'm looking for other options, other types of work so I don't have to jump straight into another job like this one. What kind of work is there that I can do, that's more hands-on, less computery, has more to do each day and has more tangible and material results? [more inside]
posted by winterhill at 1:55 PM PST - 11 comments

Expert real estate advisor needed in Atlanta area. Rec me?

I need an expert real estate advisor to help me figure out how to deal with my horrible mortgage. Is this person a real estate lawyer or someone else? And do you have a recommendation for a great real estate lawyer/other expert who practices in the Atlanta, GA area? [more inside]
posted by oblique red at 1:48 PM PST - 1 comment

Yellow album cover with three-headed monster sketch?

At least I think it's an album cover. Trying to identify the image on this poster. The photo is from the mid-1980s. It's a black line drawing of a Cerberus-like three-headed monster/dog on a yellow/gold background. Thanks!
posted by obloquy at 1:36 PM PST - 5 comments

My ex-husband says we were audited and I owe half the tax bill!?

My ex-husband says we were audited and I owe half the tax bill!? Is that possible? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:32 PM PST - 10 comments

If Uranus and Neptune had their own days of the week....

...then what would the names of those days be? I started wondering about that after reading this Wikipedia article about the names of the days of the week. [more inside]
posted by sam_harms at 1:31 PM PST - 3 comments

Fiction (books) about single moms being awesome!

Post-divorce, I could use some reading about single moms doing interesting things/ dealing brilliantly with their situation/ generally kicking butt. Fiction preferred, school-aged kids in the picture would be ideal. Thanks in advance!
posted by metasarah at 1:24 PM PST - 13 comments

How to handle this carpet damage vis-a-vis my landlords?

The carpet in my rented apartment has two patches of damage. One was caused by my cat, one might be normal wear and tear though I'm not sure. What are my obligations / rights as a tenant in Berkeley, CA? [more inside]
posted by zeri at 1:07 PM PST - 11 comments

How to query for a literary series

I've been working on a series of middle grade fantasy books. After finishing the first installment back in July, I sent out queries to literary agents. I have finished a second installment and have several questions about how to go about querying for multiple books. [more inside]
posted by dances_with_sneetches at 12:50 PM PST - 4 comments

No Cowboys in New Jersey

I'm looking for the lyrics of a Mary Chapin-Carpenter song called (I think) "Mama, there ain't no Cowboys in New Jersey". It never seems to have been officially released, and google turns up references to it but no words. I'm really mostly looking for the lyrics, not necessarily a copy. Any ideas?
posted by transient at 11:57 AM PST - 2 comments

Does an order confirmation absolve a merchant of responsibility?

I ordered heavy, cast iron materials for a construction project. I made an initial order, and then a follow-up. The first shipment went to the correct shipping address, which was different from the billing address. When I made the subsequent order, there was no discussion regarding where to ship. It was like, now send us item x. The second item was sent to the billing address. [more inside]
posted by elf27 at 11:28 AM PST - 9 comments

Hiring in-home help for someone with Parkinson's: where do I start?

My mom is 65 years old and has Parkinson's. She lives alone in a large 2 story home with large yard, all of which requires a lot of maintenance work. Physically she is getting worse (more frequent falling) as well as mentally (confused about day to day details and recent conversations, etc). She still drives, and has gotten in multiple small accidents (with inanimate objects like signs). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:16 AM PST - 14 comments

A Human Sorting Algorithm

My mom has inherited my dad's 2,000 record albums, most of which are movie soundtracks. She is trying to decide whether to sell them or donate them, and step one is sorting and cataloging. They're not in any order. Is there some good way of alphabetizing them where they live, in a small room without lots of floor space to make piles? [more inside]
posted by grumblebee at 11:02 AM PST - 29 comments

Help me identify these skis please! (Advice about them welcome, too!)

1.) Can someone identify these Rossignol race skis for me? 2.) And tell me if they are a good deal for $100? 3.) And give me some advice on buying used skis as an almost-expert skier whose parents always handled equipment? [more inside]
posted by obviousresistance at 11:02 AM PST - 8 comments

Whole-house automation

I've just bought a lovely new house, and I'll need to rewire the 2nd and 3rd floors and replace the mains, at the very least. Might as well move up to a 200A breaker box, while I'm at it. And I'd like to automate as much as possible, but for multiple reasons I dislike/distrust wireless systems. X10 questions after the fold... [more inside]
posted by IAmBroom at 11:02 AM PST - 10 comments

start me making jewelry

I need the basics to start making jewelry as a hobby. [more inside]
posted by Koko at 11:00 AM PST - 8 comments

Bond, James Bo... I mean JANE Bond

I've changed my name. Is there any tool to help me update my online presence accordingly? Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by Promethea at 10:59 AM PST - 11 comments

Competitive colleague trying to take my big project - help!

A colleague of mine is fairly new to the organisation and wants to make a big splash. So far, however, although he talks a very good game his actual work has been a real letdown to those who have seen it. I, unfortunately, do not talk a good game (though I'm working on it). My work, however, is considered excellent. [more inside]
posted by hazyjane at 10:49 AM PST - 7 comments

Travelfilter: Where to WWOOF?

I have two or three weeks to go wherever I want in May! Help me with my preliminary plans... [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit at 10:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Where to get a replacement netbook battery?

Have you successfully purchased a replacement battery for your laptop online? Are there any particular retailers you'd recommend? [more inside]
posted by Proginoskes at 10:12 AM PST - 4 comments

What does Cat Suckling Mean?

We just adopted a new kitty Croque Monsieur aka Crocket and so far, he's doing really,really well. However, he does something which is very strange - at least I've never seen it before. He suckles. And I mean, he suckles a lot! We've only had him since Saturday afternoon and I've seen him suckle his favorite toy quite a bit, as well as a kitty blanket and my jumper! [more inside]
posted by JenThePro at 9:57 AM PST - 18 comments

How to argue with the contractor on construction overruns

How do we argue/negotiate with our contractor on construction overruns without being jerks? Beans and snowflakery inside. [more inside]
posted by sarajane at 9:40 AM PST - 12 comments

If Richard Simmons and Rob Wolff had a baby, does he have a podcast?

What are some interesting health-related audiobooks and podcasts I can listen to that will help keep me motivated to develop a healthier lifestyle? [more inside]
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 8:53 AM PST - 6 comments

What do you do with those nice little drawstring gift bags?

My dad got me a little Ganesh statue that came in a lovely drawstring gift bag. Does anyone have any creative ideas for what I could use this bag and similar bags for, other than using them to give other people gifts?
posted by capricorn at 8:42 AM PST - 18 comments

How to Tell Excel to Evaluate Last Three Months (NOT Last 90 Entries)

I have an Excel spreadsheet I use to track glucose readings. There’s a value diabetics use called “A1C” which looks at the last three months of readings. It's based on a blood test, but can be estimated by averaging your readings for the last three months. I try to track every day, but I can’t reliably say “look at the last 90 values” – so I’m wondering how to set up a formula to tell it to only look at readings going back 90 days, not necessarily 90 readings. More inside. [more inside]
posted by WCityMike at 8:18 AM PST - 12 comments

Aftermath of an upper respiratory infection

I've been having the upper respiratory infection from hell for more than a week, and have two questions about the aftermath. [more inside]
posted by zadcat at 7:57 AM PST - 13 comments

Recommendations for portable, low cost but full-size laptops in UK

Recommendations for portable, low cost but full-size laptops in UK [more inside]
posted by ninebelow at 6:44 AM PST - 8 comments

Recommendations for Norwegian hytte

We are looking to spend some time in Norway this summer. We are looking specifically for recommendations for hytte for a couple, either in the west coast fjords (Sognefjord to Alesund) or the Lofotens. Also happy to hear about recommendations for things to do/places to see, we are looking at travelling in late June. [more inside]
posted by biffa at 6:00 AM PST - 4 comments

What is an operating budget?

I recently asked someone at work for our operating budget for the purpose of registering for software discounts. I was given a number and it didn't quite make sense to me. I think that there may be at least two definitions of 'operating budget'. The workplace in question is a 501c(3) non-profit if that changes the definition. What would be tallied to make up the operating budget?
posted by sciencegeek at 5:08 AM PST - 5 comments

What Kind of Glue Can I Use in Electronics?

So - I need to epoxy some wire back into a tiny plug. The old one holding it was whitish. Can I use regular epoxy or do I need some kind that it especially made for electronics? Thanks
posted by watercarrier at 2:52 AM PST - 10 comments

Looking for recommendations for a design inspiration app

I'm hunting for an app (ideally on iPad) that offers you a curated, regularly-updated feed of images of great design, for a daily dose of inspiration. The content can be drawn from pretty much any source: advertising, photography, web design, home decor, whatever. DesignScene used to do a pretty good job of this a few years back, but unfortunately got discontinued. Any ideas, guys?
posted by scrm at 1:35 AM PST - 5 comments

How to support digitising family memories for easy retrieval?

I have come into possession of 15 boxes of family history. These include dozens of journals, letters, pictures and other memorabilia. I have started transcribing the journals, but I realize that just word files is not the best way to capture the content and I'm looking for suggestions (software, cloud service, etc.) for how to best get this content into a usable digital format. [more inside]
posted by frumiousb at 12:33 AM PST - 6 comments

How to self-talk in the aftermath of a breakup

Dear Askme, I am so sad--any words of advice for the very recently heartbroken? My boyfriend of a year and a half broke up with me yesterday. It was for the 'right' reasons--he came to realize that he didn't want, with me, the long-term things (living together, marriage, kids) that I wanted with him. I'm not mad at him--just very sad. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:29 AM PST - 14 comments

omg I pooped a bug... how did I poop a bug?

This is a 100% serious question. I pooped a dead bug. Little, tiny wings, maybe sort of mosquito-looking. It was definitely my poop on the sort of outside of a piece of poo. Just one bug, just one tiny poop - I was constipated. What does this mean? How did it get in there? Should I do anything about it?
posted by anonymous at 12:27 AM PST - 16 comments

January 18

Where can I find a pool table on the Vegas strip?

I'm looking for a casino on the strip where I can shoot some pool. [more inside]
posted by SlyBevel at 10:35 PM PST - 2 comments

I asked someone out, she said yes, I have no idea what to do now

If you've ever dated a friend, what advice would you give yourself? Are there any hazards above and beyond the usual hi-larity of dating in your early twenties? Or cool bits? I'm in particular concerned about navigating the transition from two years of platonic friendship to a romantic relationship (do I touch her now?) and preserving the option of going back to being friends afterward. But don't feel confined to those two points. What do I know? I've gone on two dates ever. [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang at 9:51 PM PST - 11 comments

Northeast OH/Southwest PA filter: what's a nice town for a weekend trip?

My girlfriend lives in Buffalo. I live in Cincinnati. We are going stir fricking crazy not seeing each other for months at a time. We think a solution may lie in meeting in the middle. What is a nice town or city to spend a Saturday and Sunday in, for two mid-twenties chicks? [more inside]
posted by none of these will bring disaster at 9:41 PM PST - 7 comments

411 on Portuguese Water Dogs?

We're thinking of adopting a Portuguese Water Dog, if we can find one to adopt. [more inside]
posted by musofire at 9:27 PM PST - 5 comments

Can my SF landlord evict a tenant under these circumstances?

My roommate got very drunk, put some chicken in a covered pot on the stove to reheat, and fell asleep. I woke up to an acrid-smelling room (my room is on the other side of the house from the kitchen) and the hallway smoke detector going off. She could have easily started a serious fire (she didn't wake up when the alarm went off, and when I woke her up, she initially didn't even remember that she'd put something on the stove). Even though she didn't burn the kitchen down, the house smells TERRIBLE. Like possibly uninhabitably terrible. Can my landlord evict her for this? Can he make her pay for any necessary smoke removal services? What are MY rights here? Mostly I want her gone, but if that's not possible...? We are in a rent-controlled apartment in SF, and each of the roomates is on a separate lease (not month to month).
posted by anonymous at 9:25 PM PST - 8 comments

Hacking a dreadful office situation?

I came into a job because my boss promised me the opportunity to move into management within two years. Four months later, he wants me to stop working for him because I have made him too busy. Other sales people express the same reluctance, I have made them too busy, they say. I am so bored. Please help me make sense of this and know where to go? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:24 PM PST - 5 comments

I need these fancy pants

I saw someone wearing the shiniest pants I've ever seen, and I'd love to get a pair like them. [more inside]
posted by you could feel the sky at 8:16 PM PST - 11 comments

Cross platform multiplayer games?

I have and iPhone. Friend has android. We want to play games with each other. We have words with friends and the Ilk, and trivia crack. Suggestions for others?
posted by dpx.mfx at 7:43 PM PST - 8 comments

an unwilling muse (or I'm not THAT awesome)

My ex sort of boyfriend has been writing (and publishing) identifying "fiction" about me for nearly seven years. Lately, the stories (my friends forward them to me with worry, they're that identifiable) are darker. What options are available to me to stop it? [more inside]
posted by sweltering at 7:08 PM PST - 22 comments

Best lighting for applying makeup

I've been wearing makeup more regularly than before, but I can't seem to get my foundation to look consistent from my home (where I apply it) to work/elsewhere. I think this is because the lighting in my house is mostly incandescent and at work it's fluorescent. What techniques (or technology, do I need a lighted mirror?) can I use to make my makeup look decent at work? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 6:10 PM PST - 7 comments

New York: air bnb vs cheap hotel?

I and my partner will be in NYC for about a week in a couple of months, and we're looking at our accommodation options now. We're leaning towards finding a place through air bnb because they look really nice and we've heard good things through friends, but we've also found some hotels in Manhattan that are a cheaper option, and we're not sure which way to go. [more inside]
posted by Silentgoldfish at 5:39 PM PST - 16 comments

a GMO a day keeps the doctor confused.

I'm a medical student and a few of my patients have come in with questions about the safety of GMO / transgenic foods. I have no background in food sciences, and it's been difficult to figure out the current state of research. A lot of what's easily accessible out there seems less than rigorous and highly editorial in one direction or the other. What are some well-respected, well-designed studies and/or books on the subject that I could start with?
posted by saturday_morning at 5:25 PM PST - 14 comments

Viable Electronic Engineering job - Product Development Engineer?

Recently got offered a new job in the area of electronic engineering (I think anyway!).... [more inside]
posted by b3vcard at 5:15 PM PST - 3 comments

HiFi Hell

is it worth repairing/restoring my old NAD receiver, or should I just look for something else? [more inside]
posted by Venadium at 4:37 PM PST - 9 comments

Any ideas on how to fix my modem's T3 & T4 time-out problem?

In the last six months my Charter cable modem has started randomly rebooting itself, sometimes up to 15-20 times a day, due to T3 & T4 time-outs. Could you please look at my modem logs and tell me if you have any other ideas about how to fix this problem? [more inside]
posted by bluecore at 4:22 PM PST - 3 comments

Inspiration for tiny living

We're realizing that the only way our little family of three is going to ever own a place is if we buy something tiny - 900 square feet or less. I need some inspiration for a livable design though. [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 3:42 PM PST - 26 comments

We need a motto. It should be in Latin so it can look good on a crest.

My husband and I would like a good Latin translation for "Doing it Right. Right Now." You could also punctuate it this way: "Doing it right right now" [more inside]
posted by nosila at 3:35 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me hack my OPAC

I am looking for a way to generate lists of library books from my library's catalog and have them display on a different webpage. [more inside]
posted by Biblio at 3:06 PM PST - 6 comments

Discrimination based on family status

If someone comments on a family member and denies you something based on that, is that likely to be discrimination on the basis of family status? [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats at 1:51 PM PST - 18 comments

Games like Brickshooter and Frozen Bubble

I'm looking for Windows games that are similar to Brickshooter and Frozen Bubble. [more inside]
posted by Solomon at 1:09 PM PST - 5 comments

is it illegal to say the case is over before your day at court?

What are the legal ramifications (if any) of publicly misrepresenting the outcome of a lawsuit before it has reached a formal resolution? [more inside]
posted by Vrai at 12:24 PM PST - 9 comments

Is there an expectation you'll fly to visit a family member's newborn?

My brother and his wife had their first child recently. In principle, I'd love to meet their newborn. Problem is, we live on opposite coasts of the US and I don't make much money. I could swing it if I had to, but a trip out there just to stand around the little bundle of biology and watch it eat, sleep, and poop doesn't feel like a good value to me. Am I obligated to go? [more inside]
posted by twobit at 11:51 AM PST - 63 comments

The Littlest Treadmill

What's a good compact treadmill for jogging? [more inside]
posted by Calicatt at 11:07 AM PST - 1 comment

What job should a sound and electrical component lover have?

My husband is 28, has a Masters in Sound Engineering, and is trying to figure out what the next steps in his career are. Does he stay in music or move to something else that can put his skills working with electrical components to use? details inside. [more inside]
posted by andreapandrea at 11:06 AM PST - 17 comments

Tattoo artist who are particularly good at clean, dramatic text?

I'm planning to get a simple, black text tattoo in a book typeface across my shoulder. I particularly love tattoos that are stark and geometric and that talk to (or better yet, intentionally fight with) the soft curvy shapes of the human body. Who's particularly good at that? [more inside]
posted by you're a kitty! at 10:55 AM PST - 2 comments

Where's my music? - Samsung Galaxy 3s not finding music on SD card

I have a Galaxy 3s. I've been using the Google Play music app to listen to music but using the Windows Media Player to rip CDs and sync to my phone. I've been storing music on my SD card. The music is there on my phone but the app doesn't seem to find it when I search for the name. I am sad because those vital tunes are not available while i'm on the go! [more inside]
posted by vespabelle at 10:55 AM PST - 6 comments

Best old-school haircut in Harvard Square?

Friend's dad is visiting Cambridge and wants to get his hair cut. Where's the best place for him to go? [more inside]
posted by Right On Red at 10:27 AM PST - 5 comments

Flickering LEDs on networking stuff - can the NSA read it?

My computer router/hub/switch/modem has LEDs has flicker as network traffic streams though each port. And I know that LEDs can switch on/off faster than the human eye can perceive. So do these LEDs actually light up for each '1' or '0' that's passing through it and if so, can somebody with the right technology snoop on my network traffic by observing the LEDs on my kit?
posted by Xhris at 10:26 AM PST - 16 comments

Affordable, interesting clothes shopping in Bangkok?

I'm in Bangkok for two days and I'd like to do some clothing shopping--for interesting, inexpensive things, maybe vintage/used if it exists here in the same way it does in the states. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by tapir-whorf at 10:25 AM PST - 4 comments

Best mileage tracking app for iphone

Hi all, I'm looking for a great mileage tracking app to record my business trips. A while back i used to be pleased with Trip Cubby until it no longer was supported after an upgrade. I went back to old fashioned notes for a while, but it's now 2015 and there must be a better way. What are your favourites? Needs to supports european parameters ( euros and kms). thanks!
posted by PardonMyFrench at 10:02 AM PST - 3 comments

Web site or app to track routine car maintance

With my son moving out of the house, I was wondering if you have suggestions for a site where we can track car maintenance and get notified when things are coming due. [more inside]
posted by cgk at 9:45 AM PST - 3 comments

Returning merchandise to China, navigating shipping and customs

I ordered something from China, and now I need to return it. If you've done this, do you have any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by mhz at 8:59 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me watch HBOGo on my TV

I have a Sony Bravia TV hooked up to a Playstation 3 which is my main media box. There is now an HBO Go app for the PS3. Yay! But, as a Comcast subscriber, I cannot activate the app on my PS3. Boo. Beyond donating more money to Net Neutrality causes how can I, with the equipment I already own, most easily get HBOGo content to my TV? [more inside]
posted by sparklemotion at 8:31 AM PST - 10 comments

It's better to get cut off abruptly than to fade out

I'm putting together a playlist of songs that cut off abruptly—as if by mistake—and I'm turning to the hivemind for examples. Perhaps the best known song is I Want You (She's So Heavy) by the Beatles. It's going great, but then...silence. [more inside]
posted by Woodroar at 8:26 AM PST - 26 comments

Save my DIY!

I am in rocky, crafty waters. A while back I saw these enameled forks sold by World Market which were only sold in stores. Since their nearest store is a 2 hour drive from me, I googled and learned that I could make my own set. After consulting with my local art store, I bought basic flatware and enamel craft paint and happily set about painting (just the handles, of course). Everything seemed promising until the final step... [more inside]
posted by AthenaPolias at 8:18 AM PST - 11 comments

What font did I use for this logo?

A few years ago, I created this logo for one of my websites. I'm getting ready to remodel the website and want to use the same font when I redesign the logo -- only I can't remember which font this is, and I can't find anything similar. Can you tell me what font this is?
posted by jdroth at 8:02 AM PST - 4 comments

Please constructively critique my (anonymized) resume

TLDR: The title pretty much says it all; I'm seeking feedback on my resume. It's functional in design. Please suggest improvements. I've posted an anonymized version on Imgur for this question. (Yes, I will be deleting the resume image afterward.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:26 AM PST - 13 comments

How can I explain myself?

I have dropped off the planet for a few months and have not communicated with my professors at all. I don’t know what to say. What should I say? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:26 AM PST - 19 comments

Great Trivia Books for a Teenager

A young woman (14 years old) of my acquaintance absolutely loves those "fun fact of the day" trivia phone apps. Now I'm looking for some books I could recommend to her chock full of fun facts, and explanations of the background of those facts, that would be age- and knowledge-level-appropriate. Ideas? [more inside]
posted by decathecting at 7:17 AM PST - 18 comments

How do I start salary negotiations after simply agreeing on the phone?

I was offered a job, but do to being just woken up and unsure of myself when the initial call came through, I did not try to negotiate the salary when they told me what it is over the phone. It's a bit under what I wanted and I was wondering, how do I contact them to engage in negotiations? And, once I do, how do I phrase it? I feel like I accidentally already agreed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:22 AM PST - 11 comments

A friend says he needs a breather. Now what?

A friend of mine who I considered (and actually, continue to consider) close just told me he needs a breather from the friendship. Twofold question: 1) can this possibly be headed anywhere good? and 2) has anyone else here been in this situation, and if so, will you share stories about how it turned out? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:20 AM PST - 21 comments

Unusual wage question

I'm getting paid per unit rather than per hour and I think I need to re-negotiate the terms. But what do I need to ask for? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:18 AM PST - 8 comments

January 17

How can I responsibly send $ and items (books, music cds) to a prisoner?

I have a pen pal in Angola (Louisiana State Penitentiary) to whom I'd like to send money and items (books, cds). I've used JPay and they charge a fee, and then Angola takes 50% of the money after that. When I mail him CDs, books, they must be new and they cannot contain explicit content. Even after I followed these rules, he didn't receive a book until months after it had arrived. Has anyone written up strategies for navigating this bureaucracy? Do any mefites have personal experience with this that they're willing to share?
posted by yaymukund at 8:40 PM PST - 14 comments

Statistics are hard.

How do you calculate the probability of something when it's not as simple as "do it a bunch of times"? Specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by Dilligas at 8:40 PM PST - 9 comments

My favorite small town in my state is _____________.

Please tell me about your very favorite small (or smallish) town in your state or province (US/Canada, only, please). [more inside]
posted by MoonOrb at 8:37 PM PST - 68 comments

Square + IFTTT(?) + ____ = When should I close up shop?

I run a small arts venue with a bar that operates during events. We don't have a fixed "closing time," and we encourage people to hang around after events if they are continuing to make purchases. I'd like to receive a "smart" notification when it's time to send my bartender home. [more inside]
posted by myrrh at 7:48 PM PST - 8 comments

How many species have humans put out of business?

A colleague of mine says humans have caused the extinction of "millions of species," but that strikes me as hyperbole. Can you point me to any credible sources on this question? [more inside]
posted by LonnieK at 7:23 PM PST - 5 comments

Is it even possible to "date" anymore?

Okay. So. I'm thirty years old now. I am reasonably mentally sound and healthy. I am a single man. I am okay with this fact, but because everyone I know is getting married and/or makin' babies, I have to wonder what, if anything, is wrong with me, or at least to come to an understanding that lets me be at peace with the future, however bleak it looks on the relationship front. [more inside]
posted by deathpanels at 6:42 PM PST - 43 comments

Is this sorghum still tasty? And if so, what do I do with it?

I have a 12 oz. mason jar of "pure sorghum, standard grade" (3/4 lb) that I bought a few years ago from a local farmers market. I opened it today, and it still looks good, I assume, because I've never actually used sorghum, and don't know what it might look like if it went bad. When I opened it I broke the seal, so I assume there's some chance of it still being edible, but StillTasty.com doesn't have anything for sorghum, commercial or homemade/packaged. So, 1) is it still good after a few years of being stored on a shelf, and 2) what should I do with it?
posted by filthy light thief at 6:04 PM PST - 7 comments

Fish in desert oases?

Do oases in deserts such as the Sahara or in Arabia have fish? [more inside]
posted by dhruva at 6:03 PM PST - 11 comments

A heavenly wooden deck padded with Kilims...

When vacationing in Turkey a few years ago, I came upon outdoor wooden terraces/decks for lounging and sipping tea, outfit with rugs or upholstery and lowish tables. They seemed to be very common in the area (seaside southwest of Antalya), both in restaurants/cafés and in private yards, and were perfect for lounging and chatting for hours. Is there a name for this kind of thing? Picture I found on a blog. [more inside]
posted by The Toad at 5:20 PM PST - 5 comments

It's a bug, except when I use it as a feature!

I am looking for movies, personal anecdotes, and what not where a disadvantage is turned into an advantage. [more inside]
posted by Michele in California at 4:48 PM PST - 27 comments

How to identify and articulate life goals

My partner always says he doesn't have any particular goals in life, but it's clear that he does. He just hasn't identified or articulated them. Do you know a book, essay, website, etc. that could help him elucidate his image of what he wants for the future? [more inside]
posted by kutsushita nyanko at 4:38 PM PST - 7 comments

French Mefites, help me get a copy of the new Charlie Hebdo in the USA!

Hi everybody, I'm located in the USA and and would like a physical copy of the new Charlie Hebdo issue. [more inside]
posted by kurosawa's pal at 4:27 PM PST - 7 comments

I know it's my mom's money to spend but...

Today my Mom and I sat through a Rainbow vacuum cleaner sales pitch for 2 hours and ultimately she decided to buy one for $3,000. Throughout the pitch, she kept asking me what i thought and i gave her my opinion several times that it wasn't worth it and we had other places we could spend the money that might have higher priority. She's a widow in her 60's and i think she just wanted permission from someone else to buy it. [more inside]
posted by Gosha_Dog at 4:02 PM PST - 20 comments

How can I make business travel suck less?

My work has me traveling regularly for the first time-- 2-3 day trips every few weeks. I travel with a small team, including the company president. We operate as a pack, and so I'm sort of at the mercy of the president/team in terms of mealtimes, etc. I really dislike the lack of control over food, sleep, exercise, and general life while I'm on the road. . What can I do to make the trips less onerous for me? [more inside]
posted by airguitar2 at 3:12 PM PST - 32 comments

MA Programs in Humanistic Psychology abroad taught in English

Names of universities in Europe, Canada, or countries other than the USA offering MA Programs in Humanistic-oriented Psychology taught in English? [more inside]
posted by cotesdurhone at 2:35 PM PST - 1 comment

How to negotiate with a friend?

I am miserable at negotiating and making deals involving money. An acquaintance of mine has some used equipment through his work that I could use. He offered to sell it to me cheap, and invited me to come down and take a look at what he has and make an offer on it. He said because it's works, he has to sell it, but he can give me a really good deal. [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 2:26 PM PST - 10 comments

Could I have got to the age of 30 with undiagnosed ADHD?

The more I hear or read about the symptoms of ADD/ADHD the more I wonder if it could explain some of my personality traits. Does it sound like it could be, and is there any value in getting it professionally assessed? 'Symptoms' under the cut.. [more inside]
posted by Dorothea_in_Rome at 2:25 PM PST - 14 comments

Why can I not get over my abusive boyfriend?

I broke up with my off/on boyfriend and am having a terrible time not approaching him to take me back, even though he is, um, nuts. Many words within. [more inside]
posted by DeadFlagBlues at 2:07 PM PST - 47 comments

Is investing in these mutual funds with this planner a good call?

I visited with the financial planner of my local bank last week and want to know if his advice is generally considered good, since I know he's a fiduciary but also that he does still earn money off his recommendations. Plus I'm a novice at this. [more inside]
posted by vegartanipla at 12:42 PM PST - 21 comments

New wireless router recommendations

We have an old D-link DIR-655 wireless router that has become kind of flakey lately (dropping connectivity fairly often) and, after reading a few other Asks on routers, I think we probably just need a new one. Any recent experience with brands to choose or avoid? We use wintel laptops and apple phones/tablets in case that matters. [more inside]
posted by blurker at 12:39 PM PST - 5 comments

Have you seen video of Romney saying he'll fight poverty?

Apparently Mitt Romney's sounding out running again in 2016, and he's testing a platform where he says he'll address poverty and income equality. I can find lots of text, and other video from the Republican event, but I can't find remarks on poverty in particular caught on video. Does anyone have a go-to repository for finding political/news video like this? [more inside]
posted by gusandrews at 11:50 AM PST - 6 comments

Last minute plea: Where to buy men's cargo pants in SF?

Where should I shop (with reluctant fitting model in tow) for casual, affordable men's cargo pants in SF? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 11:37 AM PST - 10 comments

In search of software to rate/track my favorite movies

Seeking software tips for rating and tracking last view date for my favorite action movies. I have lost a lot of weight over the last few years watching action movies on my elliptical. But I find that not all "action" movies are best for that purpose...they must have a high "distraction" factor where I forget the machine and focus on the movie...minimum "talking" scenes. More details after the break. [more inside]
posted by forthright at 11:14 AM PST - 4 comments

Vain hippie filter, hair color -- Innosence versus Organic Color Systems

I've been going to a salon to for groovy hair color, under the brand Organic Color Systems. They are interested in switching to a different groovy hair system, Innosence. Any feedback from other vain hippies?
posted by ClaudiaCenter at 10:11 AM PST - 2 comments

Chaos Theory Explained for Non-Math People?

My curiosity whetted by the first few paragraphs (and double pendulum illustration) of the Wikipedia entry, I want to learn as much and as deeply about chaos theory as possible without needing to know mathematics. Also interested in philosophical implications. Videos? Books or apps or web sites? My math may be weak, but I'm otherwise intelligent, so I'd prefer something much more thorough than, say, "Through the Wormhole" (I realize the math limitation's a huge hindrance, though).
posted by Quisp Lover at 9:49 AM PST - 8 comments

Need a good migraine doc in Seattle!

Asking for my wife. She's had pretty frequent migraines most of her life, but in the last few years, they've become more frequent and resistant to her usual meds (mainly Imatrex). Both her regular doc and a neurologist reference recently retired, so I thought I'd cast the net to the crowd here. Have you had a good experience with an individual doctor or clinic in the Seattle area specializing in migraines? Huge thanks from both me and my wife for any leads.
posted by sapere aude at 9:49 AM PST - 1 comment

A painter who includes donated secrets in their works?

I seem to recall reading about a contemporary artist (possibly a painter) a few years back who includes secrets that are donated by other people into their work, and perhaps encodes or conceals them in some way. Google's not turning up anything useful, so I'm turning to the hive mind instead - does that ring any bells for anyone?
posted by Chairboy at 8:48 AM PST - 5 comments

Where can I find an online Italian II class?

To graduate I need to take Intensive Italian II. I took Italian I a long time ago and have forgotten it all. My advisor has recommended I find an easy class at a community college or online. She will accept transferring credits in as long as the school is accredited. Can you recommend an accredited online class for Intensive Italian II?
posted by GhostChe at 7:59 AM PST - 3 comments

Needing a way to download our group's Yahoo Message History

Another user asked in 2013 and didn't get an answer. Hoping that the tech has improved since then? Our organization has years worth of Yahoo group postings. We'd like to archive these postings so that the information contained within doesn't disappear (it is important history for us). Recent changes to the Yahoo groups UI (Neo?) aren't playing well with previous third party tools. How can we download Yahoo group conversations/messages from our private group?
posted by jeanmari at 7:26 AM PST - 1 comment

How can I find a commercial beer similar to a local favorite.

I recently tasted a beer that is brewed locally and I really enjoyed it. How can I determine which commercial beer would taste the most similar? I won't always be in this region and have access to this brewery. I'm not typically a "beer" person and don't really have tons of knowledge on beer and their flavors, but I enjoy this one and a Guinness occasionally. Thank you in advance.
posted by Doubleosix at 7:01 AM PST - 18 comments

FontFilter: Help Identify This Font?

Does anyone know the script font used on these invitations? Thanks
posted by heavyp08 at 5:10 AM PST - 5 comments

How to stand up for myself when put on the spot

People constantly say I am 'cute' and I am tired of hearing it. I really admire people who have that spark and aren't afraid of voicing their opinion but not sure how to become more like that. [more inside]
posted by akita at 2:24 AM PST - 29 comments

Please describe what it is like to have bipolar disorder.

Can you share your experience of bipolar disorder, please? [more inside]
posted by Punctual at 2:18 AM PST - 12 comments

Can you hire a computer mentor?

I always thought I could learn whatever I needed to learn about computers, but as my life has gotten more complex, and computers keep changing, I find myself with over 12 years of email from school and three jobs, and more and different kinds of stuff coming all the time. I see four big things I'd like to do with my computing environment (home, work, phone, cloud) but I have no idea how to get started or what is the best way to do this. I need a computing mentor. [more inside]
posted by rschram at 1:00 AM PST - 9 comments

How to stop mindlessly surfing the web for hours?

This question is kind of hard to phrase. I've gotten into the habit of relying on my laptop for stimulation, especially since I started working from home and am at my computer most of the day anyhow. I'm not talking about looking at porn or online gambling, but just being online. I get bored so easily now when I'm not online. [more inside]
posted by atinna at 12:22 AM PST - 17 comments

Best farm-to-table, healthy eating, and food news blogs like The Salt?

What are your favorite blogs about farm-to-table, food system, and healthful food news? (NOT looking for recipes) [more inside]
posted by bluelight at 12:04 AM PST - 7 comments

January 16

What happens to business trip airline tickets after a layoff?

I'm getting laid off next month. What will happen, or should happen, to the nonrefundable airline tickets that have been booked in my name, on the company dime, for future business travel? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:18 PM PST - 19 comments

Looking for career advice, esp. in the transport/industrial sector

I've spent the last seven years as (practically, if not in title) a well compensated secretary in a consulting company in the transportation/industrial sector. Attempts to move our company or my own work in a direction where I can grow have met with "That's too complicated", and two years of reaching out to contacts has essentially yielded "Man, I'd really love to have you, but don't have a position" ... how do I move on to a place that does/makes/moves things? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:16 PM PST - 5 comments

Non-traditional lipstick colors - Seattle

Does anyone have a lead on where I could buy non-traditional lipstick colors in Seattle? Preferably downtown or at a mall. I'm looking for a blue, purple, and/or teal, and I'm obsessed with this mint green color from Lime Crime. Thanks!
posted by skycrashesdown at 10:34 PM PST - 9 comments

I am so suspicious of someone who keeps wanting to buy our van

My Mr and I own a 1994 "Sportsmobile" that is parked all the time next to our drive. It runs and Mr keeps it pretty well maintained. Mr bought it used several years ago. He paid quite a bit for it. We never use it, however...and Mr has expressed to me on occasion that he'd like to just get rid of it. It has a couple of issues that are difficult. (Water leaks into it, for one thing. It is an ongoing problem). [more inside]
posted by naplesyellow at 9:06 PM PST - 33 comments

Antibiotic Side Effects

Does anyone have any experience taking Ciprofloxacin? I was just prescribed a two-week course for prostatitis and did some research online, only to find numerous horror stories about its side effects, including tendon rupture and other long-lasting problems. Am I really OK to take this stuff? [more inside]
posted by Tenacious.Me.Tokyo at 9:04 PM PST - 26 comments

MacBook charger cord casing repair

The rubbery casing on my MacBook's charger just split after 6 months of use. I bought this one after the same thing happened to my last one. It's not splitting in the high strain zone near the body of the adapter, but part way down the cord. What's the best way to prevent the cord from splitting further? I've tried electrical tape previously, but it doesn't hold up well and leaves a lot of goopy adhesive behind. Thanks!
posted by waninggibbon at 8:36 PM PST - 15 comments

What's different between UK and US literary essay writing traditions?

I have it in my mind that US literary essays tend to be extremely clear and didactic (perhaps modelled on the five-paragraph school essay), while British essays are sometimes more open-ended and elliptical, and French essays verge on the abstract. However, I can't find any source that confirms or denies this on the internet (and searching only brings up essay content farms.) Help? [more inside]
posted by feets at 8:09 PM PST - 3 comments

Open-ended survey data, short time frame: help me brainstorm!

I've been handed a massive chunk of open-ended survey data. I have a short time frame to work with it--just a few days--and I would appreciate advice on ways to analyze or mine what I have beyond the most basic approach I know for this kind of thing. Exciting details inside! [more inside]
posted by late afternoon dreaming hotel at 6:00 PM PST - 5 comments

🎶 You know everybody knew our name 🎶

Boston's eponymous first album was 8 tracks long. Every single track on that album received (and still receives, on classic rock stations) significant airplay. Are there other albums about which this can be said? [more inside]
posted by hanov3r at 5:15 PM PST - 35 comments

Looking for a new phone system for the office

What cloud based phone system should I get for my office? [more inside]
posted by banished at 4:45 PM PST - 6 comments

Should I worry about personal info in my proof of residency?

I provided a bank statement as my proof of residency. Is this bad? [more inside]
posted by circumspice at 4:39 PM PST - 7 comments

Visit Fallingwater before or after building a Lego model of it?

We're taking our 8 & 12 year old kids to Fallingwater this spring. We're also planning to build the Lego Architecture model of it. Looking for opinions on whether it is better to build beforehand or after we return. Kids are already gung ho for both Lego and architecture, so this isn't really a question about which one will spark interest for the other -- I'm looking for insight into which order will help them understand the building best. [more inside]
posted by apparently at 4:18 PM PST - 17 comments

What to do after home inspection and presumably harmless termites

Under contract, wondering about negotiating without tanking the deal. Plus, inspector found some evidence of termites that were there (presumably) long ago. [more inside]
posted by powpow at 3:52 PM PST - 12 comments

How to stay fed and entertained in Killington VT?

My girlfriend and I are spending the long the weekend skiing in Killington Vermont. We've never been here before, we are looking for restaurant recommendations from locals or folks that have spent significant time here. In particular, places that have decent vegetarian options (I eat eggs and dairy but not fish) would be great. [more inside]
posted by dyslexictraveler at 3:50 PM PST - 12 comments

No-frills, no-hassle third-party fundraising

Let's say I really care about some charity. I'd like to do an online fundraising drive---with premiums that I send to donors. I'm not affiliated with the charity, or I am but this drive is an independent, personal initiative. Either way, the charity isn't involved except for the happy day when they get a check. Is there some online service that makes all this easy for me? [more inside]
posted by tss at 3:41 PM PST - 9 comments

Dating Spock

I'm head over heels infatuated with a guy who has commitment issues and low emotional IQ. How to proceed without jeopardizing my own needs? [more inside]
posted by squirtle at 3:38 PM PST - 33 comments

The Weather Outside Is Frightening... And I Should Know.

This question is about giving and receiving gifts from family members (and how to STOP receiving certain gifts from a particular family member) and has a long (but hopefully interesting) tale of woe inside. [more inside]
posted by WalkerWestridge at 3:26 PM PST - 16 comments

How to stay organized at a high stress job

Just started a high stress job and need some personal strategies to help me be more on top of many projects and details. [more inside]
posted by pando11 at 3:10 PM PST - 11 comments

Sleep studies: (teaching) hospital vs. independent "sleep center"?

Due to some longstanding issues with sleep and fatigue that I think could be related to sleep apnea, I'd like to have a sleep study. What are the differences/pros and cons of doing that at a hospital versus an unaffiliated "sleep center"? Experiences/thoughts on specific places to go in the SF Bay Area? [more inside]
posted by needs more cowbell at 2:57 PM PST - 6 comments

Do I need a financial advisor, or an attorney?

I am in need of some real guidance! I am up to my eyeballs in debt... have alittle equity in my home (I think) and i own one of my cars... So i need someone who can help me by assessing my overall situation & advise me the best way to proceed forward. [more inside]
posted by foodybat at 2:39 PM PST - 18 comments

affectionate videos for a toddler

I'd like to show my toddler videos/tv shows/movies/books that include genuine affection - parents, families, friends all giving hugs or smiles or other close, positive interactions. Any good ideas? [more inside]
posted by jillithd at 2:35 PM PST - 18 comments

Best place to host audio files from a conference

I am trying to post a couple audio recordings of a conference online. I would like to be able to link to these recordings from our website, and possibly prevent download. What are some of the best options out there for this kind of file-sharing? [more inside]
posted by Rage-chel at 1:46 PM PST - 7 comments

Calling all meteorologists!

We found lightning damage at our cottage that had occurred sometime in July last year, and I want see if I can figure out the date it most likely happened. [more inside]
posted by lizbunny at 1:33 PM PST - 3 comments

Gimme the boots!

Help me find a perfect pair of (costume/fashion) men's riding boots, men's size 10, emphasis on "comfy" and ideally black. [more inside]
posted by Phalene at 1:23 PM PST - 6 comments

Is there such a thing as elocution classes for adults?

My dear, dear cousin (who is more like a sister to me) just learned that she did not get yet another job she really had her heart set on. She's employed but in a terrible situation and desparately trying to change her lot. Unfortunately, she's got some deficiencies. Please help me help her. [more inside]
posted by nubianinthedesert at 1:14 PM PST - 19 comments

Self-hosting photos?

Today I found out that the service that I've been using for at least a year now is closing down. I was on Flickr for a long time (starting 2006?), but I just don't trust Yahoo either. So I guess that means I should do something self-hosted...what are my options these days? [more inside]
posted by epersonae at 1:05 PM PST - 10 comments

Round 2: Disputing Bogus Apartment Damage Charges in Collections

So, this is a follow-up to this previous question. Looking for some tips for next steps. Long story short, after moving out of a DC apartment in May our corporate landlord billed us a totally bogus damages. Now they've sent it to collections and it's showing up on the credit report. How do I fight this and get it off my credit report for good? [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 1:01 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me install sensors into a mannequin for, well..rope bondage

So I'm a Kinbaku (Japanese rope bondage) enthusiast (Wikipedia's page on Kinbaku). I've been studying it & taking lessons fairly intensively over the past year, and really fallen in love with the artform. A couple of months ago, I picked up a cloth mannequin and added in a PVC skeleton with wire joints so that I could practice on it. Here's where you come in: Can you help me figure out how that mannequin can tell me - numerically - how tightly I'm tying it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:53 PM PST - 3 comments

$20K AMEX account closed because I stopped paying. What happens now?

Wife lost her job for a few months and I was trying to swing our mortgage and $500 monthly AMEX payment. Talked to AMEX to try and work out a plan and they said “just pay it when you can”. That was a couple months ago. The account is now closed and I assume they "sold it". If they sold it to a collection agency, can I negotiate with the agency? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:53 PM PST - 7 comments

ISO: Terrible computer movies of the 70s-80s

I am in search of movies from the 70s and 80s which feature now-hilarious computer technology as a major part of the plot. We're scraping the bottom of the barrel here, can you help us find another barrel? [more inside]
posted by Stacey at 12:32 PM PST - 32 comments

The return of Portuguese colonists from Africa to Portugal in the 1970s

This is a question about the return of hundreds of thousands of Portuguese colonists to Portugal after the African colonies became independent and the politics thereof. [more inside]
posted by jason's_planet at 12:24 PM PST - 2 comments

Online Prescription Glasses Relens Service?

I have been using Goggles4u to relens glasses for a few years, and have been very happy with the results. However, they just recently discontinued this service, does anyone have any other recommendations?
posted by nanook at 12:11 PM PST - 2 comments

Multiplication and division resources for a 1st grader

My first grader is asking about multiplication and division. Where do I start? [more inside]
posted by DakotaPaul at 12:07 PM PST - 9 comments

Six figures in 3 to 5 years

My friend wants a new career. The only requirement is that said job makes tons of money. What should she aim for? [more inside]
posted by blnkfrnk at 11:59 AM PST - 42 comments

penurious from pet prescriptions

Our cat is diabetic. It's well controlled, but we need some way to find a less expensive prescription. He's on 4.5 units of Lantus twice a day. The cost has tripled since we started giving this to him and coupled with the special food it's a painful expense. It works well. He's healthy, comfortable, and in pretty good shape for his 17 years (6 with the diabetes). I need concrete suggestions for filling his prescription at the best price possible. Can you recommend a reliable Canadian pharmacy that caters to pets? Is there some discount program we can enroll in? Any strategies would be appreciated. We're not going to stop his medication ( we haven't reached that point yet ) but I want to stop mentally calculating prescription cost * average remaining cat life span every time we get this filled.
posted by anonymous at 11:53 AM PST - 14 comments

Sideswiped in a parking lot

I switched cars with a friend because they needed to borrow mine. I parked their car in a parking lot. Came back to find that their car had been sideswiped and no note left. Parking attendant didn't see anything. What are my next steps? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:53 AM PST - 13 comments

Integrating our new dog into a 2 cat household--help?

We rescued a great 4 year old dog (some mix of a bull dog, Staffordshire bull terrier and perhaps something else) a couple of weeks ago and brought her home to our cats, who are both about 4 years old. The cats are calm around her but we'd like some tips on dealing with the dog's excitement. [more inside]
posted by the foreground at 11:47 AM PST - 7 comments

Source for fancy green tea

I'm trying to find a US-based source for high-quality green tea, and would love some recommendations for sites that sell it. Also, I need help figuring out what UK-based site I was recently looking at that perhaps had what I'm looking for. [more inside]
posted by thegreatfleecircus at 11:45 AM PST - 15 comments

Which 2014 movies should I see on the big screen right now?

I don't see too many movies during the year. But every year I go to the AMC Best Picture Showcase, which plays the "Best Picture" nominated movies back to back over two consecutive Saturdays in February. What OTHER 2014 movies (not nominated for Best Picture) did you really like that I should see on the big screen while I can? I like most types of movies except horror. Thanks!!!
posted by bluesky78987 at 11:03 AM PST - 18 comments

Readable yet extremely comprehensive history books

I just finished reading The Emperor of All Maladies: A Biography of Cancer again and it was just as incredible if not more so the second time around. I'm wondering if there are other nonfiction books of similar quality and comprehensiveness for other topics - primarily looking for a diabetes book but also interested in any other comparable books. [more inside]
posted by cybertaur1 at 10:54 AM PST - 30 comments

Separate notifications for my Gmail accounts- Android

Need work Gmail notifications on during week days and personal Gmail notifications all the time. More below the fold. [more inside]
posted by ashworth at 10:46 AM PST - 4 comments

How to post timehop pics to facebook?

Attention Timehop users: I want to share a timehop post on facebook. I clicked "share this", made sure the "facebook" icon was checked, and then hit post. But on my facebook wall all that is posted is my caption + the timehop logo, no picture. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 10:21 AM PST - 2 comments

Dealing with January blahs and grad school

My confidence and ambition got swallowed up in a snowbank [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 10:00 AM PST - 5 comments

what's the fun way of saying 'knock before entering'?

I generally like to leave my office door open, but sometimes I really need to focus on my writing or i'm working of a recorded dictation. I'd like to make a sign for my office door so people know a) i'm in the office b) they're free to come in if they need me. Must have personality! [more inside]
posted by CookieNose at 9:34 AM PST - 13 comments

How could one most efficiently create a playlist of BMI music?

Suppose someone wanted to make a playlist of only music that was licensed by BMI for an event, to avoid paying ASCAP fees. Is there any short cut to avoid having to search for each individual song on the BMI web site? Has anyone already assembled and published some lists of BMI -only dance/workout/party type music?
posted by steinwald at 9:24 AM PST - 9 comments

How to sell 2015 Masters Practice tickets?

What is the best way to sell 3 extra tickets to the 2015 Masters? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 9:20 AM PST - 7 comments

What's the cause of this electrical hum in my cheapo tube amp?

video of the issue, details within. [more inside]
posted by colin_l at 9:15 AM PST - 10 comments

How to deal with a friendship gone sour...

A buddy of mine I've been wanting a closer friendship with got very drunk and offered to help solve my high libido problem. I didn't do anything with him then, because, um, hello, informed consent, but I texted him the next day to signal that everything was cool and I was receptive. He, and I should have seen this coming, was blacked out, remembers nothing, and is not interested. I feel humiliated. What comes next? [more inside]
posted by dee lee at 8:49 AM PST - 29 comments

Should I move to San Francisco?

I am a forty-something Londoner who works for a digital marketing agency and I've been given the opportunity to move to San Francisco with work. My company has generously allowed me to take a six-month secondment to see if I like it. More inside... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:43 AM PST - 23 comments

Source for inexpensive Cialis (tadalafil)?

I'm an older man with benign prostate hyperplasia (BPH), enlarged prostate that causes frequent urination. The drug finasteride no longer helps, and I've apparently outgrown cardura and flomax and others. My urologist has suggested low-dose (5 mgs daily) Cialis, the drug usually prescribed in larger doses for ED. He gave me a month of samples and it works very well (side effects are minor and only positive). Trouble is, my insurance doesn't cover it and it's very expensive--about $300 a month. Way beyond my budget. Can you suggest any trustworthy sources, perhaps foreign ones, where I might get low-dose Cialis at a reasonable cost? A previous answer recommended alldaychemist.com and I'm looking into that, but would appreciate more options. Thanks so much!
posted by anonymous at 8:42 AM PST - 8 comments

Help Me Get Back Into My Outlook Express. Augh.

Stuck with Outlook Express for work email. I was able to recover my password (had forgotten) but when I try to log in, it says it's not the right one. When I recovered my password, I saw that the POP password was one thing, and the account password was another. I assume that is the problem? How can I fix it?
posted by miltoncat at 8:42 AM PST - 4 comments

A big step down [CAM walker edition]

I fractured my foot, and the doc is threatening cast and crutches if the CAM walker doesn't work. I need help making it work without wrenching the rest of my body. (details beneath the fold) [more inside]
posted by whoiam at 8:35 AM PST - 5 comments

Beauty of the 1980's: Mauve and gray, you guys. Mauve and gray.

Our bathroom is mauve and gray. Nothing major is in the cards as far as renovation. Is it possible to make mauve and gray work, and if so, how. [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 7:51 AM PST - 35 comments

alzheimers and moms: what's the latest?

I've just been reading a review of the latest film treatment of Alzheimers ("Still Alice"), which has the character inherit her early-onset version of the disease from her alcoholic father. But at least for a while, it seemed like the medical thinking linked Alzheimer's to mitochondrial DNA, so that it would be linked to the mother's genetic profile. I realize that it's a hideously complex disease, with or without alcoholism as a factor, but is the maternal-line theory valid?
posted by mmiddle at 7:47 AM PST - 5 comments

Metadiscourse debate technique?

I noticed during a debate that someone seemed to be buying time to think on his feet by 1) repeatedly summarizing what he just said and 2) repeatedly previewing what he was about to say. It was simultaneously gimmicky and rather effective. Does doing this have a name? Is it taught? Or do people pick it up naturally?
posted by zeek321 at 7:16 AM PST - 7 comments

Should I stay or should I go?

Should I move to a bigger city to find a job even if I don't line one up and even if I have no savings? [more inside]
posted by kbennett289 at 6:09 AM PST - 8 comments

Fundraising for charity events

Tell me about fundraising for charity walk/run-type events. [more inside]
posted by backseatpilot at 5:11 AM PST - 15 comments

Happy little bonny trees

The artwork that appears at the end of the opening credits for the BBC series Ballykissangel, seen (and also heard) here makes me so weirdly happy. I would like more of this, but can't figure out how to find it! [more inside]
posted by dreamphone at 4:15 AM PST - 14 comments

Excuse me, your pants are dripping.

I am experiencing urinary incontinence. [Gross stuff inside] [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 2:09 AM PST - 7 comments

January 15

Dentist: Do I go or not?

I went to the dentist for an emergency appointment on Tuesday after getting an excruciating toothache, and left with two fillings. That night, the toothache returned. I waited a day in case it was due to the surgery, and yesterday contacted the dentist to ask for an appointment, which I have in 90 minutes. Since then, the toothache has vanished completely aside from some very minor lingering tenderness. Do I still go, or do I cancel?
posted by tracicle at 11:17 PM PST - 9 comments

Puppy Crate Training Woes - even worth the hassle?

Our near 12-week old puppy doesn't seem to have crate anxiety, but really doesn't do well with the confinement/isolation part of the question. She's on her way to housetrained, so should we even try? [more inside]
posted by Drosera at 7:58 PM PST - 16 comments

how to get the incubus sound

in the incubus song "wish you were here" the guitar over the top has a delightful tone. it is mellow and full but kind of sharp as well at times. is that fullness from putting a hollow body through distortion or is there something else to it?
posted by edtut at 7:25 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me find Kobe Bryant's personal agent's contact info? (I lost it)

I accompanied my husband to see a specialist sports doctor for an injury, in Munich Germany last year, where we ran into Kobe Bryant who was also receiving treatment. My husband did the same treatment as Kobe for a week and they talked several times, on the last day he gave us his agent's card, and said if we're ever in town we can contact him to go see him play. I lost his agent's card, but he was about 5'10" with a reddish brown beard, dressed pretty metro-sexual. Is there any way to find Kobe's agent's contact information on the internet? The Lakers are coming here to San Antonio to play a game in 8 days. Thanks
posted by denimchair at 6:04 PM PST - 7 comments

you are gay and genderqueer cause you are broken?

So my best friend (who also is an ex) informed me that she believes I am genderqueer and gay because I am "broken" by childhood abuse and so is everyone who is not straight. That's an offensive statement, right? And if so, how do I even respond? [more inside]
posted by kanata at 6:02 PM PST - 48 comments

Finding an Alarm Monitoring Service using our prewired house

We built a house. Builder wired the house for alarm using some buddy of his. So the doors and windows all have sensors (I think) that are wired into the house. Cheap/basic keypad is by back door and upstairs master bedroom. We haven't activated the system with a monitoring company, but now want to do that. Trying to find out what I can do with the prewired system. Can I use any of the cutting edge home security systems with smartphone and cellular stuff? [more inside]
posted by dios at 5:14 PM PST - 2 comments

Killer Linux Apps: 2015 Edition

I just got a new linux laptop to replace my old one. I've set up everything I normally use on it, and have discovered a few pieces of software I hadn't known about before. I'd like more! Recommend to me your best-kept-secret linux apps. [more inside]
posted by axiom at 5:08 PM PST - 19 comments

How do I aspire to overcome significant barriers to employment?

I have Type 1 bipolar, which in practice means I've had 3 episodes of mania (between 2002 and 2005, 9 months total in hospital) then relative stability but regular low moods and trouble with motivation. I haven't worked since 2005 (previous questions here always had me feeling about 12 months away but I never got closer, partly because I chose to stay in a relationship and be a carer in a situation where I couldn't then get out to do training or voluntary work). I will soon be able to access more help but getting back to work seems a mountain to climb when I am so used to being long-term unemployed and getting into that rut where even doing the laundry or taking out the trash can feel like an effort. [more inside]
posted by AuroraSky at 4:59 PM PST - 8 comments

The Ultimate Work Catch-22: No work assigned & boss wants status reports

How does one generate an action items/issues log on a moments notice when they have literally had no work to do for MONTHS? Email from boss is sent 13 minutes before the day is over and she wants to start meeting to discuss projects and statuses and asks that the log is compiled and ready for tomorrow. What the hell am I supposed to give a status report on??? [more inside]
posted by gangsterscience at 4:56 PM PST - 12 comments

Costa Rica - Quepos, Arenal, Monteverde

We are staying in Quepos, Costa Rica in late Feb/Early March. About 1/2 the time will be spent around Quepos, the other half a road trip to Arenal/Monteverde. [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 4:28 PM PST - 16 comments

(I Don't Want to Have) Telephony Nightmares

I am searching for an inexpensive way to provide phone service for a small business. [more inside]
posted by ostranenie at 4:28 PM PST - 3 comments

oh boy! another question about bedding!

Can you put a mattress on a split box spring directly on the floor, or do we really need to get another bedframe? [more inside]
posted by millipede at 3:08 PM PST - 29 comments

In a real pickle with SSI without legal representation.

YANML, I understand. I'm just in a real pickle and would like advice/guidelines on any suggestions on what to do. More details in the fold. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 2:56 PM PST - 9 comments

How can I find contact info for someone appearing in the media?

I'm doing a big research project and have come across a few articles (and a few videos, one produced by VICE) containing interviews with people I would really love to talk to. How can I get in touch with these people, assuming googling their info is not an option? [more inside]
posted by still bill at 2:45 PM PST - 17 comments

Upgrade My Pickles

I like a pretty regular brand/type of pickles, Bick's Ultimate Garlic Baby Dills. The pickles are crunchy, vinegary and garlicy. I would like some suggestions for better pickles I could buy that have these three qualities. [more inside]
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 2:31 PM PST - 21 comments

tumblr management !

I found I really like tumblr for my interests, personal and professional but I can't have these worlds combining too much due to stigma and just my general privacy. Tumblr allows different master blogs, but I tend to do this stuff from my phone, and I haven't found a good app or way to make sure these things stay separate. [more inside]
posted by AlexiaSky at 2:28 PM PST - 6 comments

Travel to a conference as a nonstudent

I work as professional staff for a new center at an academic institution, and we have limited funds to pay for travel. I have had a poster accepted at an international conference (read $$$) which I would love to go to, but it will be a chunk out of pocket. The university itself has small scholarships for Pro Staff (up to $400) that I have applied for, but I am hoping there are other grant/scholarship opportunities that I could apply for. Do such grants exist for nonstudents?
posted by lil' ears at 2:00 PM PST - 5 comments

How to organize a neural network outside of my brain to help me learn?

I am studying psychology and like to make associations and note similarities between different theories. For example, perhaps I see a relationship between Fromm’s concept of conformity and ideas of enculturation and socialization, from there maybe I can then link to constructs of social interaction in Vygotsy’s work on learning. I believe that I am looking for a non-linear organization system similar to a big mind map, semantic network, or a personal wiki. Any suggestions about how to structure something like this? [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! at 1:37 PM PST - 19 comments

How to oil paint?

My sister gave me a starter set of oil paints for Christmas. I know nothing about how to use oils, basic techniques... nada. Can anyone point me at free web resources on how to get started? Seems like there's a lot out there and I'd appreciate finding stuff vetted by the hivemind. [more inside]
posted by feckless fecal fear mongering at 1:21 PM PST - 7 comments

Unsupportive grandparents of a transgender child

My oldest child, age 12, has recently come out as transgender. We are trying to show her our unconditional support, but her grandparents are unlikely to be as supportive. Suggestions for coping? Difficulty: Asian and Catholic. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:46 PM PST - 24 comments

Oh the places you'll go

What can you tell me about living year round on Long Island's North Fork? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:45 PM PST - 10 comments

One day in Philly

I'll be going to Philadelphia at the end of this month for a very short, 2-day business trip and I'm leaving a day early specifically so I can visit the Barnes Foundation. I have some specific questions about the museum and other general questions about things to do on a short stay in Downtown Philly. [more inside]
posted by a.steele at 12:41 PM PST - 14 comments

Mason Jar Blender Trick Trick

How do I safely execute this blender trick? [more inside]
posted by mermily at 12:27 PM PST - 16 comments

where should I live in Cambridge, UK?

I'm about to try to find a place to live in Cambridge, England. What neighbourhoods would be a good fit for me? [more inside]
posted by yomimono at 12:20 PM PST - 8 comments

Any UK based psychotherapists out there? Non CBT/Non London?!

Hi, I have a core mental health profession but with the climate as it is and the destruction of mental health services I feel I can no longer be a 'one trick pony'. I am considering training in psychotherapy or sex therapy (probably the former). I'm in the UK and plan on staying here. [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 12:20 PM PST - 5 comments

Who am I and how do I learn to love her?

After tons (and maybe too much self-reflection) I've come to realize all my problems boil down to the fact that I hate myself. Help? [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 12:12 PM PST - 21 comments

All-Inclusive Vacations in middle America?

I am looking for creative suggestions for places, either conceptually or specifically, where my mother (East Coast) and I (West Coast) can meet up for a long weekend. My basic goal is to spend time with my mother in a setting where each of us can be comfortable and relax: for me this means not having to play tour guide in a city I've never been, and for my mom this means accommodation for some mobility issues. [more inside]
posted by stellaluna at 11:50 AM PST - 11 comments

Where is your TV?

My potential apartment is small and has a large fireplace where a TV would normally go. Where can I put my TV? Suggestions for decorating a small apartment appreciated too! [more inside]
posted by inevitability at 11:39 AM PST - 18 comments

Which smoke detector's battery of 6 is defective?

In my house I have 6 smoke detectors. At least one started going off in the middle of the night to remind me to change the battery. I changed the one I thought was low, and after a repeat performance next night, changed the batteries in all the others. In my house with high ceilings, this is a big deal involving risky ladders in awkward positions. One is still sounding in the night. AARGH! How do I find the one that is still complaining? [more inside]
posted by SamFrancisco at 11:36 AM PST - 18 comments

When I grow up I want to be: an Instructional Designer

I'm currently in pursuit of a Master's in Instructional Design, but what software should I learn to use alongside the theory? [more inside]
posted by thefang at 11:24 AM PST - 13 comments

Name that tree

I found this leaf in Pittsburgh, PA. What kind of it tree did it fall from? [more inside]
posted by isnotchicago at 11:00 AM PST - 5 comments

What's the best way to buy U.S. professional sports tickets nowadays?

I'm preparing to attend my first NBA game and I would like to know what is the best way to buy tickets for a specific game. More generally, I'd be interested in learning about the best ways to buy U.S. professional sports tickets in general. [more inside]
posted by cheapskatebay at 10:24 AM PST - 8 comments

Why can't my Ethernet/USB adapter decide if it's plugged in or not?

I bought an Ethernet/USB adapter for my Dell laptop which doesn't have a USB port. Every few minutes the computer will make the "usb was disconnected sound", and then after about 3 seconds, it will think it's plugged back in. This causes a disconnect in my internet. Why does it do this? How can I fix it?
posted by crawltopslow at 9:52 AM PST - 18 comments

No-prep veggies

I'd like to eat more vegetables. Difficulty level: I want to avoid prep (peeling, chopping, cooking) as much as humanly possible. On the plus side, I am happy to just eat things unpeeled, bite into a whole tomato/cucumber/whatever, and eat the veggies raw. Which veggies are edible/delicious given those criteria? [more inside]
posted by danceswithlight at 9:49 AM PST - 43 comments

How do I build database to organize my learning goals and lesson plans?

I need to organize my lesson plans and learning goals. I have a list of learning goals. I have a list of "activities," each of which addresses one or more learning goals. I want to be able to switch easily between listing activities chronologically and grouping the activities by learning goals. What miracle software should I be using? [more inside]
posted by BrashTech at 9:45 AM PST - 9 comments

Excel Question: VLOOKUP and beyond?

How can I combine these two tabs of data in Excel using VLOOKUP and/or some other function? [more inside]
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 9:31 AM PST - 9 comments

Adultery 101

My cousin, with whom I'm close, is mad at me because I didn't tell her that her boyfriend was cheating on her. [more inside]
posted by Kwadeng at 9:25 AM PST - 55 comments

Where I Come From, We Drink ____ When It's Cold

I'm curious about the regional preferences expressed in one's choice of hot alcoholic beverage in cold weather. Less "give me your recipe," more "where are you from, what do you drink, and what do you call it?" [more inside]
posted by fedward at 8:50 AM PST - 35 comments

Get me out of bed

What are your tips for getting out of bed in the morning? I'd like to hear your advise on going from first waking up to 'up and functioning' as speedily as possible. I'm always groggy (and if I'm honest, cranky) first thing, but OK after the first 10-15 minutes. So my main problem as I see it is that initial movement to the vertical (no pun intended). What methods have you used to get you staggering to the shower? I can't be too noisy, as my partner is legitimately sleeping in beside me, so I'm really interested in what you tell yourself or motivational thoughts that get you moving. [more inside]
posted by M.Onniker at 8:15 AM PST - 42 comments

Are car dealerships really evil?

This question and its responses made me wonder if taking our car to the dealership for repairs is unwise. [more inside]
posted by Specklet at 8:14 AM PST - 24 comments

Songs like "Fifty Nifty United States"

My child memorized all the states through this song "Fifty Nifty United States" Are there other songs that where you can memorize useful/ education lists? you know, for kids...
posted by mrmarley at 8:09 AM PST - 22 comments

Time to carry the pet, some carriers seem designed for "outgoing" pets -

What is the best carrier for fraidy cats? [more inside]
posted by vapidave at 7:27 AM PST - 14 comments

How do I switch cable companies ?

I am considering switching cable companies. In this case, it would be from Comcast to UVerse. Having never done this before, I need help with the logistics. [more inside]
posted by eas98 at 7:18 AM PST - 9 comments

I don't know if I am reading signs or reading into signs

I have a female friend at work who I would very much like to be into me and am not sure if due to that I am reading into things - I probably am. For example, "what does that sudden hug mean?" or "Is this a dinner date or just dinner?" [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:00 AM PST - 27 comments

How to survive PhD viva with inadequate thesis?

I submitted an embarrassingly weak PhD thesis, elements of which I don't feel able to defend, and am expecting to be told to revise and resubmit. My viva is in three weeks time. How do I prepare for this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:58 AM PST - 13 comments

Pescetarian-safe Japan trip? (No raw fish!)

I'm going to Japan with my pescetarian friend in late March/early April. I eat almost anything. She doesn't eat meat and shellfish, but she's fine with cooked fish and dashi. Her stomach is not a fan of raw fish. Help us figure out what she can eat while we're there, please! Specifics (and more questions) are inside. [more inside]
posted by 35minutes at 6:22 AM PST - 11 comments

Suggestions for glove/mitten hybrid?

I am looking for suggestions for a pair of gloves but the kind I have in mind I rarely see in stores and am not even sure what they're called. Basically fingerless gloves with an attached mitten cover that you can wrap over...anyone know where I can get some of these? [more inside]
posted by zardoz at 4:09 AM PST - 21 comments

Help me make a bad situation not worse

I'm looking for resources about speaking to my father and dealing with my family in light of his recent mental health issues. [more inside]
posted by FakePalindrome at 12:32 AM PST - 9 comments

January 14

Car dealership majorly screwing me over -- help!

MeFites, I'm 26/f and know squat about car repairs, except to know that I'm too broke to keep paying for the same problem to be fixed multiple times. Dealerships are evil. Let's discuss. [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder at 11:28 PM PST - 19 comments

Where can I find thoughtfully written success stories about quitting?

I would like to read helpful, well-written, thoughtful, realistic personal stories about quitting a job, preferably ones about situations where another gig hadn't been lined up yet. Prefer stories about career positions, though I'm more than happy to read about walking out of service jobs. Please point me to web sites and forums, books, podcasts, and other media I am not thinking of at the moment.
posted by ziggly at 9:22 PM PST - 7 comments

Parisian Street Style

Where can I find websites/blogs that feature Parisian street style? [more inside]
posted by brittanyq at 8:45 PM PST - 3 comments

iPad games for a 90 year old grandma

We are getting an iPad for my 90 year old grandma. What are some good games or other apps? [more inside]
posted by cmm at 7:00 PM PST - 20 comments

Slip sliding away

My fitted sheet (bottom sheet) has a tendency to gradually get pulled off one side of the bed. This is because one side is closer to the wall, so all my getting in/out of bed and sleeping is on the other side. Is there a way I can stop this from happening, or at least slow it down? [more inside]
posted by Athanassiel at 5:39 PM PST - 17 comments

Lights out: Why did my overhead lights all fail at the same time?

Does anyone know anything about electricity? Here's the situation. About a week ago, the overhead lights in my dining room and living room went out simultaneously -- we saw it happen. There is another light (kitchen overhead) on that circuit that is now out as well. I think it was turned off at the time, so we only noticed it later, but I am guessing it went out at the same time as the others. [more inside]
posted by TonyRobots at 4:26 PM PST - 18 comments

Child Support Help (PA, OR, and UK)

Help me understand how this all works with multiple states, lack of a job, life long student, and possibly an international move. [more inside]
posted by Socktimus Prime at 3:55 PM PST - 17 comments

Studies on the effect of children being photographed constantly?

Hi Mefites, I'm curious about any effects that being in front of family cameras so much these days might have on kids. I have access to college library databases and have yet to find anything. If you know of any, I would be grateful to have the links or citations. TIA
posted by harrietthespy at 3:40 PM PST - 6 comments

Velour Boots in the Rain

Do I need to spray my new velour boots with protectant? Will rain damage this material? [more inside]
posted by oceanview at 2:47 PM PST - 7 comments

Art is a universal language... right?

Mefites, do you know of any master's/postgraduate opportunities in art for an international student who doesn't know any European languages? [more inside]
posted by a sourceless light at 2:32 PM PST - 7 comments

Are there any techniques that make someone better at social situations?

I've done the meetup thing and it's alright, but I feel like people are turned off by me a little. There are awkward silences and such. I'm an introvert and can fall into becoming a hermit really easily if I don't watch myself. [more inside]
posted by manderin at 2:19 PM PST - 21 comments

Help me pick my best man.

I'm getting married for the first time, but I'm almost 40 and haven't had a 'best friend' in at least 10 years. I also don't have any brothers. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:11 PM PST - 32 comments

Tattooing for maximum longevity and minimum blob--tell me about yours.

YANMTA (You Are Not My Tattoo Artist): I'm getting a tattoo. I absolutely know what I want, where I'm going (though I haven't been to the parlor yet since it's out of town) and this is definitely happening. What I want to know is how your (or your friends') fineline or scrimshaw-style and/or tattoo with lettering looks 5, 10, 20 years down the line, with regards to thinking ahead with design. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:10 PM PST - 11 comments

dearest apple, I pray you fall far from the tree

How did you prevent passing nasty family patterns to your kids? Especially if you grew up in a personality disordered household. What did you consciously do (or not do), or think, in order to be a decent parent, and raise mentally healthy kids. General anecdotes also welcome. [more inside]
posted by serenity soonish at 2:04 PM PST - 14 comments

Need suggestions for a sweater so my very fussy dog can pee in comfort.

Can anyone recommend some small greyhound/whippet shaped dog sweaters without straps or velcro? snowflake details follow. Dimensions are 17" long 20" around chest & 15-16" around the stomach area. I am willing to pay for quality that will work. [more inside]
posted by wwax at 2:03 PM PST - 7 comments

Options for adult who wants to learn piano

I would like to learn how to play the piano and am considering whether to learn via adult education courses, private lessons or teach myself. Or even a mix. [more inside]
posted by shortstuff13 at 1:58 PM PST - 4 comments

What to do when I'm the only one that cares to clean the house?

I am in my mid-20s currently living with my older sister and mom. Well, as years have passed and my mom and sister are getting older, they care less about cleaning the house. It also appears that there is less care between one another and towards me, which i feel is connected to not caring about how the house looks either. I have been the one that does about 90% of the cleaning and it has been difficult, and I am tired. [more inside]
posted by little_miss_m at 1:56 PM PST - 22 comments

Washington DC sightseeing ideas for a bus load of seniors

Please help me figure out a 4-hour sightseeing itinerary for a bus load of senior citizens (60-70 year olds) in Washington DC this February. [more inside]
posted by Triumphant Muzak at 1:55 PM PST - 8 comments

What can my parents do in NYC this Saturday?

My parents will be in NYC this Saturday and Sunday, to celebrate their anniversary. They already have a hotel room in Midtown East. What's a fun activity/show they can attend that isn't too expensive? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 1:40 PM PST - 8 comments

What should I wear to yoga?

Going to my first-ever yoga class this Sunday. Late 30s male. What should I wear? And what should I bring with me? I am going to a beginner's class at Pure Yoga on the Upper East Side of Manhattan. Thanks.
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 1:11 PM PST - 21 comments

Alternatives to plastic liners for kitty litter boxes

What are some alternatives to plastic liners for litter boxes? [more inside]
posted by Four-Eyed Girl at 1:08 PM PST - 13 comments

Stomach flu achiness--help meeeee

I have the stomach flu (gastroenteritis/food poisoning/whatever you want to call it) and the body aches are making me miserable. How can I feel better? (Inevitably gross details within...) [more inside]
posted by lovableiago at 1:07 PM PST - 8 comments

Discussion boards or mailing lists for ancient history

Are there any good discussion boards or email lists for an amateur ancient history enthusiast? [more inside]
posted by artichoke_enthusiast at 12:33 PM PST - 4 comments

Send grandma some digital images of the kiddies

My mother is a complete technophobe and I would love to find a digital portrait frame that I can control remotely. [more inside]
posted by silsurf at 12:27 PM PST - 15 comments

"No pen, no ink, no table, no room, no time, no inclination"

My favourite pen has run out of ink! Sadness has ensued. Help me get it flowing again! [more inside]
posted by Dorinda at 12:01 PM PST - 1 comment

Best way to start speaking about a new idea

What is the best way to start lecturing on a new self-help / philosophy type concept? Is it better to organize your own lectures first, or to join various existing conferences? If the former, does anyone have any tips or pointers to books on how best to organize and effectively publicize these lectures, and stories about how others have done it? If the latter, does anyone have any tips on how to successfully apply for a speaking slot at a conference? No blog-related tips, please.
posted by shivohum at 11:40 AM PST - 2 comments

Zoloft: does it get worse before it gets better?

Zoloft: does it get worse before it gets better? YANMD. [more inside]
posted by joeyjoejoejr at 11:30 AM PST - 14 comments

Forgotten JPop Video Artist (Late '90s, Artist rides bicycle, bubbles)

Pretty specific reference from years ago. One of the first videos I downloaded off the Internet (1998-1999) was a J-Pop video from what my memory tells me was Ayumi Hamasaki, but my google fu can't seem to find anything to back that up. Just wanting to find the video again for nostalgia and to make for sure my brain isn't manufacturing memories :) [more inside]
posted by Hollowman at 11:23 AM PST - 2 comments

Looong cable reel

Do very long (>100') retractable cat 5 cable reels exist? If so, where can I find one?
posted by btfreek at 11:05 AM PST - 6 comments

What are your favorite workplace- or profession-based blogs?

As part of a getting-to-know-your-future-career exercise for college students, I'm looking for blogs that focus on some aspect of life in any of the following professions: nursing; law enforcement; criminal justice (parole system, prison guards, lawyers); acting/directing/theatre; TV/film; business administration; marketing; finance; chemistry/biology research or tech; sports coaching. [more inside]
posted by Bardolph at 10:57 AM PST - 13 comments

YAJSEQ (Job search etiquette question) - covering my bases or poor form?

Yesterday I completed a tech test for a Company A. The test was written by Company B. Will I shoot myself in the foot if I apply there as well? [more inside]
posted by snowymorninblues at 10:41 AM PST - 4 comments

Can you help my husband find this sci fi story?

He's remembering a story about a couple who lives their whole relationship in a virtual world. His memories inside. [more inside]
posted by lauranesson at 9:53 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me find the perfect gift for a wonderful dog person!

I would like to buy a not-typical, not-a-cliche dog-themed gift for a business contact who has always provided exceptional customer service and demonstrated personal integrity. [more inside]
posted by Schadenfreudian at 9:36 AM PST - 18 comments

Should I let others repost my blog articles, & if so w what conditions?

I have received requests to repost my blog articles, that I write for the explicit purpose of generating commercial interest in my company. The blog is only a couple months old, so I haven't done tons of thinking about the various issues that can come up. These requests are coming from people who can easily be competitors or collaborators, as we work in the same space offering similar services. [more inside]
posted by cacao at 9:29 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me find a phone for my Dad please!

Wanted: Simple phone with a couple bells/whistles for my technologically challenged paternal unit [more inside]
posted by Driven at 8:57 AM PST - 5 comments

Is there real science behind fire cider?

Fire cider (basically apple cider vinegar, onion, garlic and hot pepper) is suddenly all the rage as a homeopathic panacea. Are there any actual science-based studies that validate any of its claims?
posted by mkultra at 8:44 AM PST - 12 comments

Kids and Minecraft Chat

Should I let my 8-year-old onto any public Minecraft servers? [more inside]
posted by Andrhia at 8:38 AM PST - 10 comments

iTunes bugs mix the bourgeoisie and the rebel

What's the best way to keep podcast subscriptions and listens on two Macs and an iPhone synced that supports downloading episodes (i.e., not web-only)? If the answer involves iTunes, I might need an explanation of how to fix it since each copy of iTunes seems to be doing its own thing. I'm not looking for live slinging/transfer of audio to another device since the Macs are in completely different locations and the phone isn't always around.
posted by michaelh at 8:16 AM PST - 2 comments

Will my kids stop getting sick all the time if I move south?

I live in a place with cold gray snowy winters. Despite no family history on either side, both my kids (1 and 4) have asthma that flares when they have a virus. There is still hope that they will outgrow it since they don't have symptoms when they aren't sick. The problem is that this winter they have had viruses All. The. Time. My mom keeps telling me that if I move somewhere warmer the kids won't be sick so much. I have great difficulty believing this and am curious what the hive mind has to say. [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 7:31 AM PST - 36 comments

Characters that are funny because they are an Übermensch?

I'm looking for examples of characters from any medium (TV, movies, literature, etc) who are funny because they are unrealistically awesome or capable of inhuman feats. Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 7:09 AM PST - 53 comments

Stuck in the middle of a car accident dispute

I got stuck in the middle of an uncomfortable car accident dispute between two relatives. Things have been "resolved," but there are now bad feelings all around and financial hardships. How could I have handled this better? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:42 AM PST - 14 comments

Help for a brown thumb

What can I do to save a large indoor gardenia plant with browning, dry leaves? [more inside]
posted by bad grammar at 6:41 AM PST - 4 comments

Real estate lawyers: worth it for "normal" homebuying? (Ontario, Canada)

My wife and I are actively looking to buy a house in Kingston, Ontario and have been working with a real estate agent that we're quite happy with. What would the advantage of having a real estate lawyer in the mix be? We're considering modestly priced single-family homes, possibly with an added apartment, and not sure what value we'd get by adding about $1,000 in legal fees to the proceedings. [more inside]
posted by Shepherd at 6:33 AM PST - 11 comments

Novel with a baby kicking his heels?

This is such a little thing but it's bugging me! I read a novel with a scene in which two women are talking. One has a baby and they put the baby down (on a rug? on the lawn?) so he can 'kick his heels'. I am pretty sure it is a British novel and probably not recent, say written before 1980. Does anyone know what novel I am thinking of? Asking because I realise I never really understood what 'kicking his heels' meant until my own baby started to do it!
posted by prune at 6:27 AM PST - 11 comments

end the sea of white people

What public places can I go to that will be multi-ethnic? [more inside]
posted by garlic at 6:15 AM PST - 19 comments

Seeking vegetarian recipes that get better with age

What are your favorite vegetarian recipes that get better after sitting for a time? [more inside]
posted by youcancallmeal at 5:54 AM PST - 24 comments

I think my charger is trying to hack my phone

Sometimes when I put my phone on my wireless charger, numbers and characters constantly appear in the "Enter pin:" field. [more inside]
posted by devnull at 5:34 AM PST - 8 comments

Will the rear zipper on this messenger bag wear out my clothes?

For $December_Holiday I got what I think is a Jack Spade Commuter Nylon Site Messenger bag mainly because I've been waffling over which new bag to get for the past two years. It was purchased from one of their NY stores so I can pretty easily exchange it for a different one, my one concern is that it has a fairly chunky zipper across the rear. I know I can't put anything like an ipad inside because the zipper isn't covered on the inside and it will scratch it, so the rear compartment is useless. Do you think a chunky zipper will wear through my jacket/shirts/pants as it rubs? Or am I making a big deal out of nothing? [more inside]
posted by Brian Puccio at 5:27 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me buy a digital radio as a gift.

My partner has a birthday coming up and I'm looking for a gift. She is in the habit of listening to the radio on her phone while she does chores around the house or works from home, so I want to get her something a bit nicer to listen on. Specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by Dext at 3:38 AM PST - 15 comments

Loosening my bobbin tension has no effect. Where am I going wrong?

Novice sewer here and I've got a tension headache. I'm working on piping for some cushions I'm sewing, and just finished ~16 ft worth of it without changing my thread. All my stitches were just fine. When I switched to a different color, I had to increase the needle thread tension to the point of puckering the fabric just to pull up the bobbin thread enough to balance my stitches. Please help. [more inside]
posted by oogenesis at 1:37 AM PST - 18 comments

Je parle, tu parles, il parle...

Help me remember how to conjugate French properly when I talk. [more inside]
posted by Tamanna at 1:10 AM PST - 9 comments

January 13

Mystery's Histories

Embarrassingly simple question-- has there been recently published a book about the history of the British (cozy?) mystery? [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 9:37 PM PST - 6 comments

What's in a name? Unwanted autocorrect.

My father is having an issue with unwanted autocorrect suggestions when he types in my mother's name on his iPhone. How can we delete a suggestion from the phone's dictionary so that he doesn't have to worry about accidentally clicking on it? [more inside]
posted by ocherdraco at 9:28 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me set up a basic home theatre system

I'm looking for absolute noob-level advice on setting up home music/theatre in two rooms on different floors of the house. [more inside]
posted by Pink Frost at 8:16 PM PST - 6 comments

Is it fact or opinion or neither?

Journalism filter: Today I read this sentence in the Washinton post, "Jennifer Rubin writes the Right Turn blog for The Post, offering reported opinion from a conservative perspective." I googled the term " reported opinion" and came up with nothing. Can someone with a journalism background tell me what this term is supposed to mean or signify?
posted by Xurando at 5:59 PM PST - 12 comments

Programming Help - Windows 8 and "Connected Standby"

I want to disable my mouse during "Connected Standby", a special sleep mode that Windows 8 uses. This is to stop my mouse from waking up my tablet. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by o310362 at 5:59 PM PST - 1 comment

A slim, inexpensive, effective Samsung S5 case

I just upgraded my phone to a Samsung S5. I'd like to protect it, but since it's already on the big side I'd like to get a case that balances slimness and protection. I already have a screen shield on it, so something that plays nice with that would be appreciated. Price range is between 10 and 25 dollars. Availability on Amazon a huge plus.
posted by codacorolla at 5:45 PM PST - 6 comments

Projector problems

I have borrowed two sony projectors (both Sony vpl-cs5) and each one shows a large blob on the side of the projection (definitely not on the wall). Any idea what might be the cause and what might be the fix? [more inside]
posted by InkaLomax at 5:03 PM PST - 9 comments

Medical bill that never arived

I had a lab test a few days after my insurance changed. I hadn't been provided with new insurance cards at the time (despite begging for them over the phone), so the test was sent off without my insurance info, and I was told that a bill would be sent to me which I could then forward to my insurer for reimbursement. This was four months ago, and I still haven't received a bill. [more inside]
posted by insoluble uncertainty at 4:53 PM PST - 8 comments

temporary health insurance via health benefit exchange in New York

I need to obtain some sort of health insurance for myself to cover between now (or February 1) through the end of March. I live in New York. Is it possible to get temporary health insurance through the health benefit exchange, or would I be locked into a longer plan? [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 4:42 PM PST - 5 comments

So I've made cardamon pepper gin punch, now what?

I tried to see if I could infuse some bland mixing gin (Gordon's ) with more of the aggressive, 'gin-y' spice flavor I like. So I threw in juniper berries, mulling mix (cinnamon, allspice, orange peel, etc) cardamon pods, lemon peel, and peppercorn and let them sit. Now I have a spicy, cardamon-y, assertive, and very bitter tawney gin. What can I mix with this/how can I use it? [more inside]
posted by The Whelk at 3:58 PM PST - 21 comments

What would happen if you transplanted an animal's eyes into a human?

Would a human brain be able to make sense of the information? Would the person see anything at all. Or would the person see exactly like the donor animal (very unlikely I'm guessing).
posted by Gabriel ricci at 3:32 PM PST - 16 comments

Should I get my couch reupholstered in synthetic leather?

I have inherited a beautiful mid-century sectional couch, and it needs to be reupholstered. Since we have two dogs, I would prefer leather, but unfortunately it is going to take a whopping $6000 worth of real leather to complete the job (that's just the skins, not the foam or the labour). I am considering a synthetic option: bonded leather or vinyl or PVC of some type. Are there decent synthetic materials available now that will look like leather and stand up to ordinary wear and tear? [more inside]
posted by mysprocketisborked at 3:23 PM PST - 12 comments

Is Soulcycle/Flywheel/Spinning effective for weight loss?

I got a few free classes to a spinning class (Flywheel, its like Soulcycle) and I was trying to figure out whether it was an effective form of exercise for weight loss. Is it effective and would I feel out of place as a guy?
posted by touareg at 2:58 PM PST - 9 comments

My dog is afraid to get in the car...

My dog (seven year old heeler/aussie shepherd mix) is afraid to get in the car. She's a shelter dog who came with some nervous issues (other fears include bathrooms, abandonment, and strange men, especially with hats or beards), but she has made amazing progress over the last year or so... except when it comes to getting in the car! She'll sit outside the open door and tremble, roll over in abject surrender, etc. How can I help her? [more inside]
posted by grey_sw at 2:53 PM PST - 19 comments

Accounting ap for dummies?

Looking for an accountant Ap for use on a Mac Mini, does not have to be free or inexpensive, just effective and not too complicated! [more inside]
posted by Jayed at 2:46 PM PST - 5 comments

Barrister/Solicitor in UK in "Broadchurch"

I'm an American watching right now (well, paused it to ask this question) the most recent episode of Broadchurch. I've been a bit confused about Charlotte Rampling's character, but because I read a bit about the barrister/solicitor distinction, I assumed that the idea was that she's an ace barrister and would be the one representing the prosecution in court. [more inside]
posted by Ivan Fyodorovich at 2:36 PM PST - 7 comments

Getting in to manufacturing

I work as a software engineer, mostly full-stack javascript (nodejs/angular) and a bit of C#. I briefly worked in aerospace. I've long enjoyed watching videos of assembly line, pick-place machines, etc. How could I move into writing software in the manufacturing industry? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:06 PM PST - 5 comments

How to stay calm/deal with guest potentially overstaying welcome.

A mutual friend has been staying with us for a week and shows no sign of leaving. [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs at 1:51 PM PST - 25 comments

Mystery series in atmospheric settings, not too much violence.

Please recommend some well-established series of not-too-gory or graphic mystery novels in interesting settings. [more inside]
posted by Snarl Furillo at 1:38 PM PST - 33 comments

Job is being eliminated, where to go from here?

Likely to be losing my job in the coming weeks, and thinking about returning to school, either for a diploma or some other vocational training. Can the hive help me figure out a path to take or explore, given the generalities of what kind of work I would like to consider pursuing? I am interested in jobs relating to natural resource management and/or something relating to the environment. [more inside]
posted by wats at 1:32 PM PST - 3 comments

Actionable, practical strategies to get out of a prolonged depression.

I've tried meds and therapy (separately and combined), and nothing is working. I've gone through a divorce and a relocation in a new city at the age of 43 and am having incredible difficulty making new friends and restarting my career. I'm beginning to lose hope that I'll ever get out of this spiral. [more inside]
posted by wensink at 1:22 PM PST - 19 comments

Old smartphone with no sim. How to get it running again?

I have an LG smartphone (lucid) from my previous phone contract with Verizon but no sim. So it just goes to a setup screen with a language selection option and buttons for emergency call or setup. Setup tells me I need a sim. What do I do to turn this into a usable portable computer with no phone? I'm not that interested in spending much money on it but it would be handy for a few things.
posted by srboisvert at 1:18 PM PST - 5 comments

Replacement for NimbleTV?

Finally was happily using NimbleTV as a DVR alternative with Roku, and now the company is "regrouping" aka service is dead. Is there anything like it that I can use to record and play back tv? Limitations: must be compatible with ClearQAM (no cable card or box). Already tried and failed with SimpleTV and Tivo. I have Roku 3 and an external 1TB drive that I bought for the Simpletv but wasn't able to use. Me, Previously
posted by rmless at 12:59 PM PST - 4 comments

Please recommend Celtic songs with simple, beautiful vocal harmonies

I think the Wailin Jennys' version of the traditional Irish song "The Parting Glass" is very beautiful, and one of the things I like best about it is the simple three part harmony with no instrumental accompaniment. Can you recommend similar songs? They don't have to be strictly Celtic or traditional but should have that feel. I'd prefer it if there were no instrumental backup. (For comparison: fiddle accompaniment aside, I don't like this version of "Danny Boy" by Celtic Woman because I find it overwrought.)
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 12:17 PM PST - 23 comments

Affordable neighborhoods within half an hour of Century City

Where could I find an affordable studio within a 30 minute or so commute by car to the Century City area of L.A.? [more inside]
posted by tokaidanshi at 12:14 PM PST - 11 comments

Cheapest way to ship something refrigerated?

I need suggestions as to the cheapest way to ship a small item, but it needs to ship refrigerated. This would be within the US. [more inside]
posted by vignettist at 12:09 PM PST - 11 comments

Running a large event, need ability for people to order food/drink?

I'm part of a committee organizing a fairly large event. I'm looking for an app, or online provider that would allow people to go to a web page on their phones to order drinks/food and have that order sent to a central computer (at the bar for this event) and then wait staff would then take the food/drink to their suite. I've looked at placing a tablet and square reader in each "suite", however there are some security risks with that. The other option is to create a web page that sends the orders to a wireless printer (located in the bar), and then the wait staff would collect the funds when the food/drink is delivered. I was hoping someone knew of a service that would accomplish this easily. I know there are several tablet based POS systems (used in sushi restaurants, for example), but this event is only a few days long and it does not make sense to invest in thousands of dollars of equipment. Thanks for your help!
posted by jazzman at 12:01 PM PST - 8 comments

I need an epic way to prepare meat

I promised my husband I would make him a special meal and I really want to wow him. Details and restrictions within. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 11:54 AM PST - 41 comments

Partner's health problems are really tough on our relationship

Trying to deal with my partner's chronic health problems is tough, especially during times of stress. I already have some doubts about our relationship and this is only making it worse. Narcoleptics & narcoleptic lovers, give me your advice! Commiseration is welcome with your advice too. (More below the cut.) [more inside]
posted by vreify at 11:42 AM PST - 30 comments

What's up with ecommerce these days?

This is obviously a big question to which I don't expect simple or succinct answers. But as I'm probably going to be doing some work soon for some fairly established hi-tech types (the focus of which will be some "disruptive" ecommerce solutions) I feel compelled to ask it. [more inside]
posted by philip-random at 11:31 AM PST - 8 comments

ACA coverage for bloodwork on an annual wellness exam?

I'm waiting for a response back from the billing department of my physician, but I am curious about whether they are in compliance with the ACA and whether I should be looking for a new doctor. [more inside]
posted by cnanderson at 11:29 AM PST - 18 comments

Want to camp in Bryce/Zion area this summer. Need logistical help??

We (me, mrs. sexy, three kids ages 15, 19, 22) are flying into Vegas this July and want to explore nature to the east of there -- Grand Canyon, Bryce Canyon, Zion as we've heard those places are amazing. We would like to camp there for a couple of nights, and we've done the car camping thing a lot as a family, but how do you do that when you've flown in and all you have are suitcases of clothes? [more inside]
posted by stupidsexyFlanders at 10:46 AM PST - 17 comments

How do I improve my website's registration and log-in process?

I administer the publication sales website for the non-profit I work for, and probably one of the biggest customer service issues we encounter is users being confused by the registration and log-in process. I want to propose a better process, but am hampered by my personal unfamiliarity with web design, and the complication of having a different process for signing on for multiple user types. [more inside]
posted by Neely O'Hara at 10:38 AM PST - 10 comments

Easy open-source database building software?

I'm looking for an easy-to-use, robust, free, cross-platform open source database building tool. [more inside]
posted by kristi at 10:15 AM PST - 11 comments

Buddy trip things to do - Georgia/Alabama/Tennessee

I am meeting up for a weekend with some guys from college (all in our 30s) and looking for a good spot to meet up/things to do. We all live in the southeast and it would be good to find something in between Atlanta, Birmingham and Chattanooga. Obviously we could stay in the one of those cities and there would be a lot to do, but I am curious if there are some hidden gems or fun places outside of the cities. Thanks in advance!
posted by frednorton at 10:13 AM PST - 8 comments

Songfilter: Video on MTVs 120 Minutes from a long time ago...

Asking for a friend: I have been trying to remember a song for literally 20 years. My wife (then girlfriend) were sitting together on our first day as a couple watching MTVs 120 Minutes (they actually played videos back then but were starting not to). The song/video in question was quirky. It was a black-and-white video featuring a man putting on a full face of makeup in front of a mirror and IIRC dressed in drag. Possible lyric fragment "she's just driving me wild" - but I may have misremembered it.
posted by gregvr at 10:06 AM PST - 11 comments

I have no right to be upset, right?

I'm going through a very tough time personally (and I'm not someone who usually has "tough times") and my dearest friends have done something that I am fairly sure I should not be upset with in any way, yet I kind of feel upset. Help? [more inside]
posted by Cosine at 9:26 AM PST - 83 comments

What to do if you lose your driver's license while on a road trip?

I didn't loose my license, but this is something I have been wondering for sometime now. say if you are on a 2-3 week road trip across the country(USA) and you lose (just lose the physical license card, not your driving privileges) your driver's license, what do you do? Can you just file a police report in the state you are currently in and use a copy of that to complete your trip or are you totally screwed?
posted by WizKid at 9:20 AM PST - 13 comments

How to get up to speed on shipping via Fedex

I've been asked on short notice to take over a shipping position or role in addition to my usual work flow. This would primarily involve using Fedex to ship to destinations domestic and internationally. How can I get up to speed on this? [more inside]
posted by diode at 9:07 AM PST - 3 comments

Where can I find another wallet in this style?

I was given this wallet. It quickly broke, but in the short time I had to use it I realized I like how it opens up and fans out the cards. Where can I find a replacement? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 8:51 AM PST - 4 comments

If I were marooned on a deserted island, could I make soap?

If I were marooned on a stereotypical deserted island (like Benjamin Gunn or Gilligan or in Lord of the Flies), would I be able to make soap and, if so, how? Assume I have access to standard deserted island stuff including coconuts, wild boars, fish, fresh and salt water, sand, palm trees, fire, sturdy vines, &c, and that I am handy enough to make spears and stone axes. Note that I am looking specifically for answers on how I would make soap and NOT for alternative methods of cleaning (I assume I could just scour stuff with the sand but I want soap). [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 8:51 AM PST - 20 comments

iPhoto Management

I use iPhoto purely to keep track of my iPhone photos and video...it's just easier. I take tons of images, and with the 6's bigger file sizes now my library has ballooned to over 1/5 of my HD. I do lots of dslr work, and I need as much HD space as possible for my actual photo work, not my phone snapshots. What are some solutions you've concocted to manage how much room this shitty app gobbles? Compression? Is there an option somewhere to archive by year? What's the best answer?
posted by nevercalm at 8:43 AM PST - 9 comments

We Need Words of Encouragement

On anxiety and medication for the modern man. [more inside]
posted by polly_dactyl at 8:38 AM PST - 17 comments

How can i tell if I'm the problem?

I feel like in most of my relationships I haven't been treated the way I want/deserve. I'd like to see whether this is really the case or if the problem is me. [more inside]
posted by ninjablob at 7:58 AM PST - 29 comments

Looking for BBC program about Winnie the Pooh from 2001

Does anyone know where I might be able to see this footage or the whole program?
posted by bq at 7:53 AM PST - 1 comment

Netherlands Master's in education vs teaching experience in Asia, which?

I have a B.Sc in computer science and have one year of experience English using my CELTA qualification. Looking around, I see a lot of requests for people with North American B.Sc's to teach Math/Physics/CS in Asia. I'm trying to decide whether to go and start teaching, or whether it is better to get a state teaching qualification (2yr) in the Netherlands first... [more inside]
posted by jpziller at 7:47 AM PST - 4 comments

Disk missing. Free query tool available?

Our crack IT staff has misplaced the MS Management Studio disk. Is there a free download that will get me by for a week or so? [more inside]
posted by SemiSalt at 7:29 AM PST - 9 comments

Dealing with a paranoid spouse

Does anyone have advice on how to deal with a paranoid spouse while we wait for professional help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:09 AM PST - 27 comments

Door County, Wisconsin in the winter.

My SO and I are going to Door County, Wisconsin next month for the weekend. We love the lake and nature, but we're curious about what else there is to see and do there in the off-season. Bonus points if it can reasonably be considered romantic. Thanks!
posted by Fister Roboto at 7:01 AM PST - 6 comments

Oslo, Stockholm, Copenhagen or Helsinki for weekend getaway?

It looks like I'll be spending March in Iceland. I'd like to take two weekend trips to Europe while I'm there - departing Friday morning, returning late Sunday evening. If I can only visit two of the cities listed above, which two would you recommend (in order of priority), and why? What one to two places or experiences should I not miss? Also, is there anyplace within about 3.5 hours' flying time of Reykjavik I have overlooked? [more inside]
posted by ADave at 6:27 AM PST - 12 comments

Are there Universal Task Codes for Graphic Design?

Lawyers have the Uniform Task Based Management System. Doctors have CPT Codes. But what about other industries, like marketing, advertising, and graphic design? The company I work for is developing a list of tasks so we can report our time in a meaningful way, but it's proving to be a more extensive task than anyone anticipated. Surely there's a standardized list for design or advertising professionals. [more inside]
posted by joebakes at 6:11 AM PST - 8 comments

Cat bath

My 17 year old kitty, UFO, doesn't seem to be able to keep her fur clean and fluffy. I brush her, but that's not enough. I don't want to stress her with a wet bath. Does anyone have experience with dry bath products for kitties? Any suggestions are welcome.
posted by mightshould at 5:17 AM PST - 17 comments

Recommendation for a computer systems/networking engineer in London?

Help me find someone we can call in to troubleshoot our network problems. [more inside]
posted by pipeski at 5:15 AM PST - 2 comments

Paying french income taxes after leaving the country

I've been working in France for the past year and am leaving permanently in one week. I've been churning through all the various administrative tasks but I'm a bit confused about tax. I know that this year I will need to pay my taxes for 2014. The question is, do I need to inform the government that I am leaving, or do I need do anything else before I leave? How do I organise paying my taxes from Australia? [more inside]
posted by neatsocks at 5:06 AM PST - 1 comment

100% guaranteed and discreet

When I've lived in areas with a high Asian or Afro-Caribbean population, I've often got cards for 'powerful spiritual healers' through the door. Here's an example. I am not a believer in such things, but am curious as to what their 'services' involve. Is it something over and above what psychic/woo/new age people tend to offer? Are there any accounts of people, skeptic or not, who have visited one? If relevant, I'm in the UK! [more inside]
posted by mippy at 4:42 AM PST - 15 comments

When is person A and person B's joint 100th birthday?

I have two friends, person A and person B. Person A was born 4 February 1971, so will be 44 soon. Person B was born 29 March 1959 and will be 56 soon. Until 4 February 2016 they will then collectively be 100 years old. But on what date between those two birthdays could they be considered exactly 100?. I want to send a joint 100th birthday card and I think, but I'm not sure, that it's the 2 or 3 March.
posted by dowcrag at 4:23 AM PST - 9 comments

Tooth extraction and returning to normal teeth cleaning?

Three weeks ago I had a molar extracted. There were no complications with the extraction or the immediate aftermath. My normal teeth cleaning routine involves using an electric toothbrush and mouthwash both of which I have been avoiding as being too aggressive for the still healing gap. When (or should) I go back to my old cleaning habits? [more inside]
posted by antiwiggle at 2:03 AM PST - 5 comments

What technique was used to create this album artwork?

Does anyone know how to create the beautiful abstract swirls in the background of this album art? My hunch is that it was done using coloured oil, but I really have no idea, and if anyone has ever seen anything like it before and knows how to do it, I'd really like to know!
posted by Quilford at 12:53 AM PST - 12 comments

Lie by omission or be brutally honest?

I want to maximize my chances of getting a job as a copy cataloger at a public library. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:16 AM PST - 9 comments

Blocking access to UK charities has been made pursuant to a Court Order

Is there a UK-based equivalent to the EFF? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:14 AM PST - 9 comments

January 12

what do I need to know for a small but important paint job?

I want to paint my dining room. Obviously there are many Youtube videos, etc and I have been watching them. But I want YOUR experience. [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 9:28 PM PST - 26 comments

How do you know if you're making the right decision or self-sabotaging?

Anxious people: how do you decipher when anxiety is getting the best of you, or if something just isn't right? In your experience, can guilt/anxiety prevent you from feeling full love? If I let him go, it's permanent, and I'm 100% terrified to make a mistake that hurts us both forever. [more inside]
posted by sandj2014 at 8:54 PM PST - 30 comments

Is Anyone Using bitcoin in a useful way without tying it to real money?

Are there any examples of people using digital currencies to do things without relying on "real money"? Is there any practical cryptocurrency usage that doesn't meet up with a marketplace exchange for a country-backed currency? [more inside]
posted by mhh5 at 8:05 PM PST - 9 comments

Tell me about the logistics of finding a job out of state.

I'm Wisconsin born and raised. My wife and I have lived here for our entire lives, and I'm daunted by the prospect of moving and finding a job. [more inside]
posted by quin at 7:46 PM PST - 6 comments

Su casa es mi casa, but I'm not sure we want it.

We ended up hiring a lawyer to assist in enforcing the divorce "agreement" and won! Or did we? The total judgment against the ex is 50K and he is required to sell the property. At the hearing, he tossed us a curveball and offered up the property in lieu of selling it himself. I'm confident we would not be able to turn around and sell immediately to cover the debt owed. Should we force the sale or hold onto it in hopes of making a profit? [more inside]
posted by Mysterious Trousers at 7:44 PM PST - 15 comments

Boston or New York City?

Working in Hartford, CT this week. Staying the weekend but im thinking of going to either Boston or NYC for the weekend. Which will I have the best time spending the least amount of $? Tips what to do it what city you think i should go. Thanks in advance.
posted by flipmiester99 at 5:59 PM PST - 15 comments

What happens if you can't replace your drivers license in California?

I lost my California driver's license. I mean I physically lost it, it wasn't revoked or suspended. Due to DMV backlogs, I can't replace it for another six weeks. What will happen if I'm pulled over? [more inside]
posted by phoenixy at 5:46 PM PST - 18 comments

Help me learn Spanish in Barcelona!

I do not speak Spanish. I have the opportunity to go with my family to Barcelona for about 8 weeks, and plan to learn as much Spanish as possible. How? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 4:48 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me solve this real-life math problem.

I need to use math to figure out how to fill my pill organizer correctly. [more inside]
posted by Tin Man at 4:19 PM PST - 13 comments

Can you ID this stamp? Looks like Russian(?) on the front

Can anyone identify this stamp or tell me what the caption says? [more inside]
posted by nanhey at 4:11 PM PST - 6 comments

DMCA Takedown notice - what does my client do now?

YANML or even HL but tossing this out anyway: My client took an online course with a specific teacher. She (client) later taught a course on the same topic - a general topic where you can find any number of people teaching this non-copyrighted material (let's say she's teaching personal development skills)) Client receives notice from former teacher that she's using copyrighted material - which she's not - and that the agreement she signed for the class she took stated she couldn't use the material (which she's not) Today she gets a DMCA notice. [more inside]
posted by Mysticalchick at 3:20 PM PST - 13 comments

Background noise for tinnitus and insomnia?

Travel background noise setup - Does anyone have a fan or a noise audio file (white, brown, pink?) they can recommend? Do you have a setup to play these sounds all night long that you feel works well for you? Bonus points if it doesn't have bright lights. [more inside]
posted by egk at 3:09 PM PST - 20 comments

Shopping-averse cook seeks pantry-friendly recipes

Most weeknights, I'm responsible for figuring out and cooking a dinner for two adults and a 1-year-old that is on the table by no later than 6pm. I am hands-down finding this the most unpleasant and soul-killing part of day-to-day parenting, as making it to the grocery store is extremely difficult during the workweek and the last thing I want to be doing on the weekends. I'm looking for recommendations of either a cookbook or specific recipes that use ingredients that are likely to already be present in my pantry, freezer, and/or spice rack. [more inside]
posted by iminurmefi at 3:01 PM PST - 50 comments

How do I make a full mug of AEROPRESS coffee?

I just got an Aeropress and have been trying to figure out how to use the inverted method to make a 10-oz. mug of regular (Americano) coffee. When I use one scoop of fine-ground coffee and fill to the 3 then the 2 as recommended by Stumptown inverted method, I get about 2 oz. of coffee concentrate, which makes about 5 oz. of regular-strength coffee. But if I use two scoops of coffee and fill to the 2 and then the 1 with this method, I get about 2.5 oz. of coffee concentrate, which doesn't make a strong-tasting 10-oz. cup, either. Generally I'm using a dark roast, Sumatra or French or a blend. To make a nice, full-tasting 10-oz. cup of coffee, do I need to steep longer? Use more grounds? Grind finer or coarser? Help! My second question is, do I really need to use twice as much coffee to make a single cup compared to a French press, where I use 2-3 tbsp. coarse-ground coffee and steep for 3-4 minutes to get 10 oz. of coffee? Thank you for any help!
posted by roxie110 at 2:42 PM PST - 20 comments

Women's Rights Advocate Exploits Women?

A trouble-making colleague "helped" me discover I'm being paid app. 100% less than the last two people who did my job. I've only been in the position for about 4 months. My boss "Karen" is a big women's rights advocate, and important political connector. Coincidentally, I'm a woman, too. How do I handle this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:36 PM PST - 19 comments

Navigating simultaneous job offers from competing companies

I received a job offer from company A this morning, and I anticipate a job offer from company B sometime after a final-round interview tomorrow. The companies are direct competitors, and each is aware that I'm in talks with the other for the same type of position. Both companies have good reputations, but it's generally accepted that company B pays more. Questions inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:35 PM PST - 3 comments

Old friend has dug herself into a pit; I'd like to help her climb out.

A close friend has fallen on hard times; I just found out that she is unemployed, living in poverty and is struggling with a number of addictions. I want to help, but am not sure how; I could use some advice on giving advice. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 2:11 PM PST - 13 comments

How Can I Profit from Falling Oil Prices?

Oil has fallen by more than 50% since July 2014. How can I benefit from that fall, either by: 1. Gas banking - Is there a way I can buy gas at the current low rate and use it later after prices have risen? 2. Buying stock - Either a sector fund through an investment firm like Smith Barney, or buying pieces of stocks individually like through Ameritrade or Sharebuilder? 3. Or some other way? Or should I just buy the cheap gas and enjoy the reduction as long as it lasts?
posted by CollectiveMind at 1:41 PM PST - 20 comments

Tips on level design for grid-based movement puzzles?

I'm working on designing a puzzle game based on movement and using a grid. The game has similarities to games like Sokoban, Move, Squarescape and Anticlon... [more inside]
posted by symbioid at 1:32 PM PST - 5 comments

Brand Awareness Month

I recently had a navel gazing moment, and I realized that my, "Personal Brand," might need some work. I thought about asking people how they viewed me, but then quickly realized that I might not know the right questions to ask, and also might not get honest feedback. I assume there are people out there in marketing or advertising that help clients develop logos or their brand, and I was wondering what questions you would ask a client to help you/them determine how they want to present that brand to the public. Turning this onto myself is the ultimate goal, and I realize this is an AskMeFiAskMeFi - what questions should I be prepared to answer if I intend to change my personal brand?
posted by Chuffy at 1:31 PM PST - 9 comments

How worried should I be about asbestos under linoleum floor?

I have a ceramic tile which was placed over a linoleum floor which I assume was placed over something with asbestos. The tile is in fine condition. The only possible exposure is at the edge. This floor used to abut a carpeted hallway. A few years ago, I pulled up the carpet in the hallway. The edges of all the current and historical floors and sub-floors in the kitchen have been exposed since then. How seriously do I need to take this? [more inside]
posted by stuart_s at 1:12 PM PST - 14 comments

Trying to find out this Christian song title

It was about a man imagining the prayers of his wife and children... [more inside]
posted by halp at 12:56 PM PST - 4 comments

Is it smart to buy a '91 Civic with 245k miles on it?

Is it smart to buy a '91 Civic with 245k miles on it? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by fignewton at 12:38 PM PST - 27 comments

Fashion help! Should I buy these red shoes?

After coming across these pictures yesterday http://tinyurl.com/lwbfvae and http://tinyurl.com/kndgqs8 I decided I needed a pair like them. Right now, the best option, without buying made to order, would be these: http://tinyurl.com/p8zg9o2 [more inside]
posted by rbf1138 at 12:33 PM PST - 11 comments

Rooms for rent in Somerville/Medford?

Hey Internet! I'm looking for a room near Tufts' Medford/Somerville campus. I looked through Craigslist and PadMapper. Is there anywhere else I should be looking? What rents are reasonable? Any other housing-related tips you'd like to share? [more inside]
posted by topoisomerase at 12:32 PM PST - 12 comments

Is the new Mac Mini worth it?

Is the new Mac Mini worth it? Or should I build a hackintosh? [more inside]
posted by subtlemel at 12:13 PM PST - 17 comments

Baby blowout advice

Our 7.5 month old daughter has pretty regular diaper blow outs. She's healthy and neither we nor her pediatrician are concerned about her health--but I'm wondering whether she's got the best fit in her diapers. Any recommendations? She's in daycare do no cloth diapers. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 12:08 PM PST - 26 comments

Real-time tracking on a pre-drawn Google Maps route?

I lead public walks in Los Angeles. I use Google Maps to plan my routes and social media to allow folks to join us as we walk. Right now, I automatically tweet our location every fifteen minutes. The tweeted links open to a google maps page, which users then must compare to my planned route page. I would like to be able to have our location show up in real time on the map that's already populated with our planned route... [more inside]
posted by soulbarn at 12:07 PM PST - 5 comments

Best way to convert VHS tapes to digital files?

I've got more than 40 family home videos on VHS tapes that I want to convert to digital on my Windows 7 PC. I realize that I'm probably overthinking this but I want to do a good job. My goal is to capture the VHS tapes at the best possible quality for posterity, and for online viewing and maybe DVDs, too. At the same time I don't want to chase after rapidly diminishing returns, as VHS quality isn't the best to begin with. My problem is that I don't know where to draw the line. [more inside]
posted by FelineoidEntity at 11:29 AM PST - 8 comments

One Email With Separate Replies

How can I send a single email to a list of addresses, but have the replies come back separately? [more inside]
posted by Thing at 11:25 AM PST - 8 comments

What kind of water should I use for espresso?

I'm confused. I have a nice-ish consumer espresso maker (Breville, $500 range) and like it quite a bit. There seems to be a lot of controversy online about the water to use both for machine longevity and the best coffee. Does anyone have any advice? Tap water, bottled water, filtered water or distilled? [more inside]
posted by stewiethegreat at 11:06 AM PST - 15 comments

A still more glorious dawn awaits - or does it?

Tricky query to formulate so bear with me... I'm curious to what extent that astrophotography images represent the form of their subject matter, and whether the chorus to this song could ever actually happen. More inside.... [more inside]
posted by 5imon at 10:31 AM PST - 5 comments

where can i get good boxer shorts for men?

Several years ago I had a supply of affordable, plain, white Jockey shorts. I am skinny. They fit great, not loose or baggy. Not made anymore. Any suggestions?
posted by ebesan at 10:29 AM PST - 5 comments

Be the "data guy" my current boss needs (and future bosses want)?

I'm in academia. Two related questions: 1) Can you recommend readings, forums, programs, and tools under the broad heading, "data analysis?" 2) And, what's the next job I should be looking for? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Sock at 9:45 AM PST - 13 comments

How to save a movie in .mov format in iMovie 10.0.6?

How do I export a movie in .mov format in iMovie 10.0.6? Just upgraded to Yosemite and all my prior iMovie knowledge is suddenly obsolete. I'm paying someone to analyze something on video and she wants it in .mov. Step-by-step would be great as I'm totally lost in this version. Thanks!
posted by HotToddy at 9:45 AM PST - 4 comments

Recommend a mama hiking daypack?

Looking for a bag that can hold my dSLR plus everything I need for a day hike with small children. [more inside]
posted by linettasky at 9:40 AM PST - 4 comments

Heated mattress pad with a timer

I'm looking for a heated mattress pad that either has a timer to go ON (not the auto-shutoff most have) or has analogue controls that will allow me to put it on a timer to go on. Does this exist? [more inside]
posted by spindrifter at 8:41 AM PST - 9 comments

There's a plaaaaace for us...somewhere a plaaaace for us...

My darling SO has requested that we relocate in ~1-1.5 years. The problem is, we don't know where to go (and personally, I have a hard time imagining a better fit than where we are). We haven't done all that much travel, though, so maybe you MeFites know about a city or two that would fit our somewhat contradictory bill. [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 8:36 AM PST - 86 comments

Networking together multiple computers

I have a situation where I need to join together approximately 6 Windows laptops at an event. [more inside]
posted by Hartster at 8:04 AM PST - 3 comments

Should I ignore dealer request to make 3 payments using their financing.

On Saturday a car dealer requested that I make three payments using their financing in order to honor a price we'd previously agreed on. Are there any issues with me not doing that and just refi-ing it today? There was nothing in writing regards the three months of payments. [more inside]
posted by zeoslap at 7:47 AM PST - 12 comments

Cost range for building small guesthouses?

Has anyone built a guesthouse/in-law suite/studio on their property? [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon at 7:14 AM PST - 6 comments

Ob/gyn in Philadelphia

Recommendations for an ob/gyn in Philadelphia who is taking new patients? [more inside]
posted by joyceanmachine at 7:01 AM PST - 4 comments

How to deal with a confrontational girlfriend towards people in public.

I've been with my current girlfriend for almost 8 months. I'm a laid-back guy who's soft-spoken and non-confrontational. My girlfriend is the opposite of me, as she is very opinionated and outspoken. She strongly dislikes lack of common sense, stupidity, people who move at a pace of a snail, and last, but not least, noisy & bratty children. [more inside]
posted by tnar23 at 7:00 AM PST - 76 comments

No, you cannot confirm your email address (Instagram account irritation)

Some kid who shares my fairly uncommon name is trying to use my email address to register their Instagram account and I keep getting emails about it. How can I make them stop? [more inside]
posted by mymbleth at 4:07 AM PST - 22 comments

Alternatives to Moleskine *large* cahier?

Please find me a better notebook. [more inside]
posted by Skyanth at 3:20 AM PST - 15 comments

Has anyone got jigsaw puzzles made in China?

Looking to start a small side business of jigsaw puzzles in themes like oriental art, miniature art etc. Need some advice on specs and navigating the Ali Baba process [more inside]
posted by epiphinite at 3:15 AM PST - 5 comments

Recommendations for cute illustration commission

For a project I'm working on, I'd like to commission a handful of artists to draw me (from reference photos) in their respective styles. In particular, I'm looking for simple, clean illustrations something like Meg Lovell or Kendra Wells, i.e. bold, cute, characterful. Who are your favourite artists in this sort of style (they can be amateur, semi-pro, or professional), who will also take commissions like this? [more inside]
posted by iivix at 3:09 AM PST - 14 comments

Internet Detective Squad, Assemble! (Golden Globes edition)

Research / Detective geniuses of MeFi, hear my call. Please can you help me identify the man standing directly to Jeffrey Tambor's left in the image at the top of this page from the Golden Globes? I assure you this is for important, serious purposes... [more inside]
posted by ominous_paws at 2:49 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me find an old article about the potential uses of cameraphones

I'm looking for an article / blog post from the early 2000s. At the time, mobile phones with cameras were just starting to appear at tech shows, and many people had a "why do I need a camera in my mobile phone?" response. The writer sketched some scenarios in which such devices would be useful, which were very novel at the time. [more inside]
posted by snarfois at 1:37 AM PST - 4 comments

January 11

How to help an angry 18 yr old.

A few years back I asked this question. Unfortunately my cousin is still struggling and I am very afraid for his future and the rest of his immediate family. A few weeks ago I asked about rehoming a dog. I was finally able to get some help and an organization contacted me saying that they have someone willing to foster the dog. Great! Except that while I was working on it my aunt basically threw up her hands and turned over the dog to my cousin. [more inside]
posted by mokeydraws at 11:32 PM PST - 11 comments

Quietish place in Cambridge to watch the college football championship?

My otherwise-sensible partner has an inexplicable fondness for the Oregon Ducks and would like to watch them duke it out with Ohio State in the upcoming championship, but our internet is mostly down and we don't have a TV. Where in Cambridge/Somerville can we hang out and watch the game tonight (Monday)? The quieter the better; I have some sensory issues and don't do so well in noisy, crowded spaces. Near Central would be great, but we have a car and can roam farther afield if the roads stay decent.
posted by dorque at 11:10 PM PST - 5 comments

Concerns about attractiveness - slightly different from similar Q's...

I'm in my late-twenties and have similar concerns about ageing as my friends of the same age, but I concurrently have some fears that seem to be more specific than what's usually mentioned in threads about this topic. Snowflakes below. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:12 PM PST - 29 comments

Can I turn my wall mounted canopy rangehood into an island rangehood?

I'm very unhappy (in a FWP kind of way) today! I bought this rangehood ages ago, too long ago for the store to take back. When it arrived, i only checked that the model i ordered was the model that arrived but didn't realise until we opened the box this weekend that I originally ordered The Wrong Bloody Thing. I need an island rangehood, but this one is a canopy rangehood that needs to be fixed to a wall. Is there any way I can turn this into a ceiling mounted rangehood? [more inside]
posted by stellathon at 8:44 PM PST - 9 comments

Music similar to Zoë Keating?

Zoë Keating is awesome. If you've not heard of her, she performs multilayered cello pieces such as this. I'm looking for recommendations on artists or pieces that are similar to her music/sound. Maybe a term like contemporary classical would apply, but that seems to sell the music short. Instrumentals preferred. [more inside]
posted by gchucky at 8:01 PM PST - 23 comments

Covered California: Naturalization Cert/Cert of Citizenship?!

I'm trying to apply for health insurance through Covered California, and I've reached the "Household" section of their online form. I'm a naturalized citizen. My understanding is that a passport is perfectly valid proof of citizenship, but unfortunately, once I check the "naturalized" radio box, a section pops up prompting me to enter either my naturalization certificate or my certificate of citizenship — neither of which I have, and acquiring which may cost a good chunk of money and also put me past the open enrollment period. How do I get Covered California to accept my passport? Has anyone here been in a similar situation? Thanks! (An extra complication is that I'm not currently in California, though I could probably get my family to act on my behalf if my physical presence is required somewhere.)
posted by archagon at 7:51 PM PST - 13 comments

Where can I buy a six-pack of Terrapin Rye in New Orleans?

I'm flying out of New Orleans tomorrow and for nostalgic reasons would like to get a six-pack of Terrapin Rye to bring with me before leaving. I'm staying downtown near Canal and Chartres -- is there anywhere around here that has it? A Rouses, maybe? [more inside]
posted by crazy with stars at 7:30 PM PST - 5 comments

How to get walking feet to be less complainy?

A friend is having a lot of foot soreness after walks that are only a bit longer than his usual. After about a year of this, he's wondering: How can he start going longer distances with less foot pain? [more inside]
posted by circular at 7:16 PM PST - 13 comments

Please recommend to me novels set during the Iranian Revolution

Wikipedia only lists 4 novels set during the Iranian Revolution. Could you name some others? [more inside]
posted by thewestinggame at 6:54 PM PST - 10 comments

Why did my gift get stuck 10 miles from my home?

Something strange happened to me at Christmas and I'm curious if the green can shed more light onto it. I bought something online from a trusted retailer that I've bought from frequently. This was my third purchase this fall to the same address. It was due to be delivered on the 23rd via a combination of UPS and USPS but never arrived. When I followed up a week or so later, the trusted retailer described it as "irretrievably lost" and overnighted replacement items. [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 4:03 PM PST - 16 comments

Big wide feet seeking big wide shoes

I just got a stand up desk at work and I'm really liking it, but if I don't get some proper fitting shoes its going to be a lot less comfortable than it could be....shoe shoppers of mefi, please help! [more inside]
posted by ajax287 at 3:33 PM PST - 12 comments

Where to stay in London?

I'll be in London for work at the end of the month but will also have some time for fun/sightseeing. I'm trying to figure out where to stay to maximize both. [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 3:06 PM PST - 14 comments

earworm the soul edition - I ain't getting nowhere

I cannot for the life of me get this fragment of a song song out of my mind, and googling the lyrics doesn't help me (because a Bieber song has similar lyrics and it's clogging up the google airwaves). Is there anyone out there into soul who knows what this is: [more inside]
posted by stevedawg at 2:59 PM PST - 3 comments

Convergent board positions in chess

How many common convergent board positions are there? What are they? What's their distribution across a game length spectrum? If end-game results are available, is there are correlation between the state-history and the outcome? [more inside]
posted by Gowellja at 2:41 PM PST - 5 comments

Moist mop mishaps

Please help me fix my hardwood (rental) floor! I left a barely-damp mop on a hardwood floor for a couple of days and it left a stain. Contrary to other, previous AskMes, this stain is light/white, and looks like tiny little bubbles. I believe there is a polyurethane finish, so I'm guessing the moisture got under the finish and caused it to blister a bit. Rubbing with hardwood floor cleaner hasn't helped. What will? [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 2:23 PM PST - 11 comments

Is it dragonpox, doctor?

I've been getting these blotchy raised patches around my mouth for about 6 years. I've shown photos of them to allergists, dermatologists, and specialists, and nobody can tell me what they are, though I've been treated for a host of things that don't quite seem to get rid of the blotches entirely. Today another one showed up and I got a clear photo of it. What is it? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger at 1:53 PM PST - 30 comments

Help me set up my home stereo so I listen to music more please!

I have all my music on iTunes ( on my iMac). I would like to make it much more accessible to myself and my family 9including my kids (under 10 yr old) at home. ( Not really interested in making sure I have access to it elsewhere for now). I don't really like keeping my commuter on all the time (but that wouldn't be a showstopper for me (my wife?). I don't want to spend much money. (Say less than $500). I own some old pattern speakers and subwoofer that still work. I am running my wifi right now through an older airport express to connect my iPad and phones. Main goal is to make it simple to turn off and on and find music. (I am a bit challenged web nit comes to networks and the like.) Thanks!
posted by dougiedd at 1:50 PM PST - 10 comments

Who will be delivering my USPS International Priority package?

I sent some friends in Sicily a gift via USPS Priority Mail International. I am trying to reach someone responsible for local/last leg delivery in Sicily, but who would that be? [more inside]
posted by brbmaroon at 1:49 PM PST - 5 comments

Question about management theory/description

Some time ago, I read an account (I think on a webpage) of a particular type of manager (within a typology) who creates a particular type of work situation. That account stayed with me. It has the following three qualities. Can you help me find it? [more inside]
posted by Mr. Justice at 1:38 PM PST - 1 comment

Looking for a pay-as-you-go option for a Canadian cell phone

I want a plan that has NO monthly fees for a rarely used cell phone. [more inside]
posted by crazylegs at 1:07 PM PST - 15 comments

Embarking on a 4 year personal financial voyage. What to do with savings

MF, you're the best, I am entering into a PhD program with 24k in the bank. Wife is quitting her job to stay home with our 7 month old. Is an index fund/savings account/... the best place for these funds now? Anyone come out the other side of something like this successfully? [more inside]
posted by 1inabillionmistake at 9:52 AM PST - 34 comments

Insert awesome 'stew' pun here...

I need to make a giant pot of stew today to eat all week long. What should it be? Challenge Level: Vegetarian or vegan preferred. Protein is a must. Healthy is best. Cooking time: Doesn't matter, I have all day! [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 9:14 AM PST - 21 comments

Please explain Disney World's new Fast Pass + to a former expert

We are visiting family in Orlando next week and would like to go to the Magic Kingdom and maybe Epcot. I have been to the MK at least a dozen times and used to know it like the back of my hand - I was a zen master of showing up early, grabbing fast passes on a need-to-ride basis, and basically winging it so we never felt rushed. This will be my first trip since they initiated the new FastPass+ system, and the more I read about how it works, the more discombobulated I get. [more inside]
posted by Mchelly at 9:01 AM PST - 8 comments

How Do I organize Unused Canvases in a small space?

I live in a one bedroom apartment. 1/3rd of my living room is assigned to my craft table/supply storage for my mixed media art hobbies. I just lean my unused canvases under my desk in that area. How do I organize them more efficiently and WHAT do I put them in? [more inside]
posted by camylanded at 8:59 AM PST - 8 comments

Make my TV a wifi jukebox (difficulty level: nitpicky requirements)

My personal music collection is divided between vinyl records (easily played over the stereo, no problems there) and over 70GB of music mp3s on my laptop. I almost never listen to my mp3s anymore because laptop speakers suck and I'm past the point of listening to my music on headphones only; and also because I still haven't figured out a way to wirelessly send/access (either via wifi, bluetooth or cloud storage) the music to my TV or to my amplifier directly. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 8:49 AM PST - 20 comments

two part question for coffee afficianados: i need my tim hortons

after living up north for a while and my wife and I both love tim hortons coffee. we used to buy the pre-measured 12 cup pouches, available online from timhortons.ca --- for shipping to canada ONLY. As we live south of the border again, obtaining the pouches is more or less out. please help us locate alternatives... [more inside]
posted by chasles at 8:35 AM PST - 19 comments

Require physiotherapist recommendation in Melbourne

I'm looking for a new physiotherapist in Melbourne, Australia. Need a good recommendation. [more inside]
posted by strekker at 8:27 AM PST - 4 comments

How to dispose of a car body

Our 2004 Chevy Venture minivan (120,000 miles) developed major transmission issues pretty much on schedule that would cost an estimated $2000-3000 to fix. Its condition minus the transmission issue would put it at the lower end of good/upper end of fair, with about a $2,000 trade-in value. Its only strong point is that following a catastrophic engine failure a couple years ago, we put in a brand new engine that now has only 23,000 miles on it. What's the best way to get the most money when we get rid of it? [more inside]
posted by drlith at 8:23 AM PST - 7 comments

Bleach, vinegar, mold, help.

I recently discovered mold in my apartment. It's a new building (a backyard cottage) and very airtight, and recent cool/rainy weather caused excessive condensation on windows...which led to black mold on windowsills. I'm about to move out, for other reasons. But I'm trying to get the mold out of one of the windowsills before I go. A few more details inside. [more inside]
posted by three_red_balloons at 7:13 AM PST - 12 comments

Installing new 8ft fence, re-using existing 4ft posts

I need to install a taller fence in my yard. Two of my dogs (both hounds) have figured out they can jump the 4ft fence. I would very much like to reuse the existing 4ft posts - theyre already plumb and driven below the frost line (and it's currently winter here, so digging new holes now will be a bitch & a half). [more inside]
posted by ish__ at 6:46 AM PST - 13 comments

What's the name of the music used in This American Life episode 379?

In the 379th episode of popular podcast, This American Life, titled "Return To The Scene Of The Crime", the prologue is dubbed with a jazzy instrumental that I've been unable to identify. Please take a look at the included track if you think you might be able to identify it. [more inside]
posted by Megnusin at 6:38 AM PST - 1 comment

What are the best ways to drive sales on the floor in high-end retail?

I recently was hired at a high-end luxury retail store where traffic is low, and it's a client cultivating environment. My previous experience in retail sales has been in higher-volume stores and I want to hear from people who work in this type of luxury-driven culture about what's worked and what doesn't to be successful.
posted by Lipstick Thespian at 6:29 AM PST - 3 comments

Travel insurance for multiple flights?

Does some kind of trip cancellation insurance policy exist for these circumstances? [more inside]
posted by gursky at 6:10 AM PST - 3 comments

Gift for parents' new marriage and newborn

My birth father (I'm adopted) recently married for the first time and had a son a couple of weeks ago. So I have a baby brother for the first time in my 36 years. I would love to buy him and his wife a present for his marriage and to celebrate their new arrival. I would love this to be thoughtful, and practical and because of this have been frozen. More complications inside. [more inside]
posted by chronic sublime at 3:12 AM PST - 11 comments

Looking for the name of a play on TV in the UK - probably in the 1960s

From memory it was recorded in Black and White and probably from the 19060s. I saw some of the play on TV about two or three years ago and I didn't catch the name or the writer. At a guess, it was probably originally on BBC TV from the days before there was colour television - which would place it in the 1960s. I don't think it was from the 1950s because there was an air of modernity about the furniture, coats, dresses - I think. It was set in house or modern apartment with modern styling and the whole play may have been silent - as in no spoken words - just gestures and expressions or perhaps the characters mouthed words. We get to see into the psychology of the individuals - jealousy, fear, arrogance, disappointment - all of it under a veneer of civility. The way people moved around in it, it was almost like a ballet - the whole thing was very styled and unnatural - but meant to insightful and realistic about the inner workings of how people interact. [more inside]
posted by Quillcards at 12:55 AM PST - 7 comments

January 10

Arrangement for my dog may have fallen through. Now what?

I have an awesome, friendly dog -- a 4-year-old lab/shepherd mix. In three months I have to go to a year-long work assignment somewhere where I can't bring a dog. I can't break the assignment without ruining my career. [more inside]
posted by eugenen at 11:38 PM PST - 31 comments

Your turn or mine?

Straight women of MetaFilter: do you message first in online dating? If not, why? [more inside]
posted by bonje at 11:32 PM PST - 41 comments

What might be causing these joint/ankle problems?

It is really unbelievably easy for me to sprain my ankles. It can literally happen when I’m walking from my bedroom to my kitchen, or even just while standing. My other joints aren’t so great, either. Any ideas for what might cause this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:52 PM PST - 14 comments

What are the worst schools in the Parramatta region, Australia

I would like to find out which state schools (primary or secondary) parents prefer to avoid in Parramatta and the surrounding region. I have tried to google this and am not having much luck. When I find rankings, they are either limited to e.g. "The top 20 schools in the region!" or they don't seem to be searchable for such a wide region. For example I found one where you can list all school rankings for a postcode, but I've got about 30 postcodes I'm interested in, and I wonder if there's an easier way. I am also interested in subjective opinions as well as rankings. Any suggestions?
posted by lollusc at 10:20 PM PST - 12 comments

Can I take my violet wand on the plane?

Have you ever flown with a violet wand or Neon Wand? Did you check it or carry it on? How did it go? I'm interested in personal experiences only, please, not conjecture, and I'm aware that shipping it is an alternate option. I've flown with kinky sex toys before, and I'm perfectly comfortable saying, "Yes this is my kinky sex toy" to whoever asks, but this one's a little extra weird, and would also be extra-disappointing to lose.
posted by rhiannonstone at 9:20 PM PST - 6 comments

Opposite gender siblings sharing a room - how long is too long?

At what age do you think that opposite-gender kids should no longer share a room? We have a daughter and a son. They currently share a room - she is almost 4.5 years old, and he is almost 2 years old. This situation is totally fine now and for the foreseeable future, but at some point, this will become awkward for them. When do you think that happens for most kids? [more inside]
posted by JubileeRubaloo at 8:59 PM PST - 19 comments

Asking ill father to move in--what do you wish you'd known first?

Dad has been living alone and recently went into the hospital for emergency back surgery/COPD-related bronchitis. My sister and I are concerned for his health and she has asked him to move in to her house. How should we prepare and what house rules should she have in place? [more inside]
posted by angelchrys at 8:28 PM PST - 12 comments

I'd prefer a smaller portion of bullshit, please.

How should I get this guy to stop sharing the part of his new agey stuff that doesn't interest me without cutting him off? [more inside]
posted by Promethea at 7:22 PM PST - 11 comments

I'm not disabled. I just occasionally feel incapacitated by sadness.

Is there any possible benefit to indicate that I have a disability when applying for jobs when my disability is major depression? [more inside]
posted by kat518 at 6:38 PM PST - 28 comments

What is the ninth thing wrong in Miss Bass's classroom?

In the children's book Wacky Wednesday, what is the ninth thing that is wacky in Miss Bass's classroom? [more inside]
posted by synecdoche at 5:37 PM PST - 4 comments

What tea should I try?

I've recently purchased an electric kettle that can heat water to appropriate tea temperatures, and I would like to expand my tea horizons. What choices would give me a broad exposure to interesting teas? [more inside]
posted by pbh at 5:25 PM PST - 25 comments

How staged/fake is MasterChef Junior?

On the recommendation of several friends I watched the entire last season of Masterchef Junior (US), and I was amazed at what 8-12 year olds on the show were doing, but part of me wonders how real the show really was. I've googled and can't find much beyond people saying it's fake and others saying it's real. Is there more info I'm missing? [more inside]
posted by mathowie at 5:22 PM PST - 30 comments

Single parent wants second baby.. am I crazy?

Is it weird that I want to have another kid (but don’t want to get pregnant again). Like adopting one, or hire a surrogate (my egg and donor sperm). I am single parent (mother) already. I think I can pull this off financially (We wont be rich, but we wont be poor either). But is it a very radical idea? I am no Angelina Jolie – just your normal average Jane. The world is still a man’s world as much I hate admitting it or observing it. Will I completely blow my changes of ever finding a life partner if I do this. I feel very strongly about adopting and have been thinking about it for a very long time now. Suggestions, anyone? How should I think about this? My therapist strongly advised against it because in her opinion I haven’t accessed the risks of bringing another kid into my life and my daughter’s life.
posted by Spice_and_Ice at 5:16 PM PST - 43 comments

Tub Time for Timmy

I have a huge 100+ gallon tub with jets and such. What are some fun things I can add to my bath time to make it more enjoyable? I already do bubblebath and salts, and have a few floating toys and a water pipe (pan pipes you can play in the tub).. For various reasons I spend hours in there at a time. Generally I read beater books or watch Netflix on my otherwise decommissioned iPhone 4. Assume I am bathing alone and am not afraid of anything
posted by cjorgensen at 5:03 PM PST - 21 comments

HPV disclosure advice

Hi, single hetero male here. YANMD, but I did correspond by email recently with my actual doctor about HPV disclosure. She told me that I do not need to disclose potential HPV exposure to any future partners. Does that sound right to the hive mind? I thought being an adult was all about having unsexy conversations about sex. More details below - [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:15 PM PST - 37 comments

I drank too much and made my boyfriend "furious."

I don't remember what I did. How can I defuse the situation? [more inside]
posted by pumpkinseed at 3:15 PM PST - 24 comments

Morning after pill for sister, 25 yr old going on 15!! Help please

My sister is in Ohio. She told me she needs to take the morning after pill. it has been eight days, so I think it will not be effective. 2 weeks ago we were at the hospital because she was having chest pains. it was an anxiety attack. she has only 2 or 3 heart valves (we already knew this) but the dr was worried that she took the morning after pill with her heart condition. . [more inside]
posted by cheetahchick at 2:36 PM PST - 14 comments

My preferred book club podcast is Idle & needs to be replaced

It seems that, with the main contributors working full time on their new video game, the Idle Book Club isn't going to be coming back any time soon. Can anyone recommend a podcast (or perhaps other media) to replace it? What I'm looking for is a monthly - or similar - schedule, a mix of old and new literary fiction, and has accessible but thoughtful discussion. Please help me put the new ereader to good use!
posted by liquidindian at 1:54 PM PST - 4 comments

Consumer and Industry PC Diagnostic Software

I'm looking to gather a current list (2012-2015) of consumer and Industry PC Diagnostic software. Example: PC Doctor This would be mainly for Windows systems but I wouldn't mind having resources available for MAC and Linux. Thanks!
posted by bleucube at 1:40 PM PST - 3 comments

Commuting is getting me down

I have anxiety over taking the bus because of interactions with bus drivers. What can I do to get over it? [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 1:35 PM PST - 33 comments

Mad for horizontal stripes, but I've got a belly.

I'm crazy about this dress. I read the reviews, and at almost 5'3" I'm not afraid it will be too short. The thing is, I'm what is euphemistically termed an "apple" shape (big-ish pasta belly) while the rest of me is regular. I usually wear a size 16 dress. [more inside]
posted by BostonTerrier at 1:22 PM PST - 18 comments

Anything worth seeing/doing near the Staples Center before a Laker game?

Tomorrow night I will enjoy my first home Lakers game against my beloved Trailblazers. Is there anything in particular I should know in advance to prepare me for this? Is there anything in particular I should see or visit nearby in LA Live or the vicinity? [more inside]
posted by pwb503 at 12:43 PM PST - 18 comments

Help me understand work habits. How much time is spent ...not working?

At work, no one has ever monitored my time or even told me what hours I should be working, so I'm not sure what is appropriate. I'm a good performer, but am still on edge and worried I could be seen as inappropriate. I understand no one can give 100% all the time, but lately I spend more time browsing or chatting with coworkers. I don't want to get a surprise reprimand or be viewed as a slacker. Please help me determine what is and isn't acceptable in the workplace. [more inside]
posted by WCF at 11:57 AM PST - 25 comments

Obligation to share the cost of a new fence with neighbours

My next door neighbours want to fix a falling down fence prior to the sale of their house. I recognize that civil niceities require me to pay half the cost. There are a few mitigating factors that may justify my refusal to pay. Am I right in refusing? [more inside]
posted by Keith Talent at 11:47 AM PST - 25 comments

Walking away from a Missouri mortgage?

I just found out that my house, which I have been trying to sell for a while anyway, has some sort of septic tank issue which needs repairs in the tens-of-thousands-of-dollars range. Given that these repairs factor into the effective value of the home, I'm now seriously underwater on my mortgage. [more inside]
posted by Kemayo at 11:17 AM PST - 10 comments

How should I reward myself?

I work a late shift at my job, which usually gets me home around midnight or later and in bed by 3 a.m. or later after I manage to relax. What's an alternative to pouring a drink and sitting by myself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:10 AM PST - 24 comments

Nutrition-tracking app

I am looking for an app where I can log everything I eat and at the end of the day or week, it will tell me which nutritients I am lacking in my diet. Does this exist? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 10:45 AM PST - 11 comments

Looking for online games to teach older adults GUI abstraction...

Please offer your suggestions for online games with abstract GUI features which might be helpful to teach Operating System GUIs to older adults. [more inside]
posted by xtian at 10:07 AM PST - 2 comments

Need LTO-6 tapes in LA now

I need to purchase and take delivery of LTO-6 tapes for a backup project this weekend--today preferably. I'm in Los Angeles. Who sells LTO tapes on a cash-and-carry basis and is open on Saturdays?
posted by infinitewindow at 9:53 AM PST - 5 comments

Tricks to settle down in the evenings and improve sleep while pregnant?

Hello! I am just starting my second trimester and the evenings and nights are a tricky time for me. I am not mentally worried about anything and feel very positive about being pregnant, but physically I feel pretty funny at night. My legs get restless, I feel tense and tight... I run too cold and then too warm. My clothes don't feel right- tags and seams bother me, I end up changing a few times in the evenings and I get itchy. Food doesn't seem to sit right and I get a sickly feeling in my stomach. Did you feel this way? How long? What helped? Mental tricks or games? [more inside]
posted by catspajammies at 9:39 AM PST - 13 comments

Pet care - Cat's Cracked Calluses

Can I put a hydrocolloid dressing on a cat's cracked callus? [more inside]
posted by travelwithcats at 9:19 AM PST - 7 comments

apartment doesn't allow pets, need one for depression

I've struggled with depression for a long time -- I'm officially diagnosed and medicated for it. Having a cat has helped in the past, but last year I had to move into an apartment that doesn't allow pets. What are my options? Do I have any legal ground to stand on when asking for a waiver since it's due to depression? What if I get a doctor's note? I live in Massachusetts. Thank you for the help.
posted by Ain at 8:48 AM PST - 17 comments

Should I stick with Sciences or switch to Humanities?

It's almost time to choose courses for next semester and declare my major. I am currently a Science Major. I envisioned a career in researching how new technology could be used to treat psychological disorders, but I have a history mental health problems myself, so I am wondering whether I might have bitten off more than I can chew. I am drawn to some of the courses on the humanities side, and part of me thinks studying something more broad could take me out of myself and would allow me to recover. [more inside]
posted by Erred at 8:39 AM PST - 12 comments

Not OK computer

I have an Envy Dv7 laptop which I love. It is out of warranty, and a call to HP yielded no help as far as diagnosing the problem. I kept getting bounced from tech support to warranty to sales to someone else. The call lasted about an hour and eventually I had to give up as I had to leave for a flight. Crackling and smoking details within [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 8:31 AM PST - 15 comments

How to restore an old leather jacket?

We're talking 1970's here. It's one of the old Harley jackets you got when you bought a bike. [more inside]
posted by mrbigmuscles at 8:18 AM PST - 3 comments

Weekend getaway near New York City

I'm looking for somewhere near NYC where I can go in the next few weeks for a very short vacation, i.e., a weekend or a long weekend. Difficulty level: no car. [more inside]
posted by holborne at 7:45 AM PST - 9 comments

Curtain for a 66" wide window

The window in our new apartment living room is 66" wide and 72" high. I am looking for a curtain and can't find anything except shower curtains in the width. Searching for "wide curtains" yields curtains that are too wide (like 84" or 96"), and I wasn't able to find panels narrow enough to do the job with two of them. The window is right up against the corner of the room on one side, so I can't just extend the curtain beyond the width of the window to accomodate a greater width. Any advice?
posted by layceepee at 7:20 AM PST - 6 comments

What's the difference between an electric viola & a silent viola?

I'm an adult and I've never played any instrument before. I would like to learn to play the viola just for fun and maybe to eventually play at gatherings. But my building has a serious issue with noise (it was found that the contractor cut corners when it came to noise insulation). [more inside]
posted by rancher at 5:41 AM PST - 6 comments

How to respond to hurtful comments?

I am in my 30s and have been single for a while. My confidence is already low due to this. I don't need other people constantly reminding me of it. [more inside]
posted by sabina_r at 5:33 AM PST - 40 comments

Tell me about your favorite European cookware brands

I'm looking to start replacing the hodgepodge cheapo pots and pans I've collected over the years. I cook on gas and don't really want non-stick or ceramic excepting one pan I expect to replace as needed; I'm more interested in stainless steel, aluminum, carbon, enamel and copper. And being in Italy, I am more interested in the European brands. Le Cruset, Staub, mauviel, De buyer are the immediate results for googling European cookware - what else am I missing?
posted by romakimmy at 2:48 AM PST - 21 comments

But the foolish poets brought no copyright permission

How can I legitimately use the artworks that inspired my poem? [more inside]
posted by Perodicticus potto at 2:28 AM PST - 7 comments

January 9

New Bluetooth, same as the old tooth?

I recently picked up a Nexus 6 and am looking for a good stereo Bluetooth headset to go with it. [more inside]
posted by wierdo at 10:49 PM PST - 5 comments

Who is this band, and how do I give them money for more music?

I recently saw this video video on facebook of some folks dancing to some sweet sweet music. Most people were just like "lol hippies," but I want to know, WHO IS THIS BAND? I know this is a long shot, but I also know it's my only hope.
posted by this one is danny at 9:52 PM PST - 3 comments

Which models of AWD wagons should I look at: Australia $7-10k

I need help deciding what make and model vehicles I should be looking at for my next car purchase. [more inside]
posted by Kerasia at 9:28 PM PST - 6 comments

Alternative to playing videos in VLC for audo volume correction

Right now, if I find a video I really like on youtube with subpar volume, I have to download it and play it via VLC. Kind of ruins the playlist experience. Are there plugins or extensions that will do the same thing, ie increase the level of the audio output?
posted by one4themoment at 7:16 PM PST - 9 comments

Dear prof, you're the only helpful member of my committee. Please leave.

I'm in my mumble year of grad school in a humanities field and will at long last be filing my dissertation this semester. I don't want to stay in academia, so I don't care how good or bad the thesis is; it just needs to be good enough to file. My advisor and two other committee members will probably sign off on anything. The fourth member is the problem. She's helpful, conscientious and would be likely to have lots of good suggestions for improvement. I want her off my committee. [more inside]
posted by zeri at 7:05 PM PST - 18 comments

I'd like to find boring shoes that aren't so cheap

What's a step up in quality from Vans sneakers? I like that they make plain, neutral-looking canvas sneakers, but I don't like that my shoes wear out in six months. I like real-life stores so that I can try on shoes and ask staff for help. What store should I go to in San Francisco? [more inside]
posted by dreamyshade at 6:44 PM PST - 22 comments

Is that a box? With faces on it? With a headshot on top? What?

From this recent MeFi post, a young English child stands rapt in front of his TV watching the opening of Star Wars: Episode IV. That's all well and good, but what's that box behind him on the floor all about? [more inside]
posted by GamblingBlues at 6:10 PM PST - 3 comments

Comedy skit where speaker is constantly interrupted by handler?

I remember a comedy sketch that involved a speaker making a public announcement, and throughout the presentation, they are constantly interrupted by a lawyer, PR person, or similar handler who won't allow them to say anything of substance. Even mundane details are censored. Naturally, the speaker gets very frustrated. I know this isn't much to go on, but by chance do any of you have any inkling what show this would have been? Google is failing me! [more inside]
posted by scaldwell17 at 5:21 PM PST - 5 comments

Is there a name for this type of blues?

The melody of the song Glory, Glory (Lay My Burden Down) is found in a lot of blues songs. Is there a name for this blues/gospel progression/style? [more inside]
posted by saul wright at 4:43 PM PST - 3 comments

Looking for a lawyer south carolina family law

My ex hasn't seen our kids in years. He has called about three times total in 2014. He did miss birthdays and Christmas though. Youngest son doesn't know who his dad is. Oldest son wants nothing to do with dad. Ex owes over 10k child support. He recently started paying child support again. He has expressed interest in having the kids over the summer. I worry because when we did live in the same state ex would regularly beg for me to take the kids back early so he could watch football. [more inside]
posted by Noyra at 4:14 PM PST - 5 comments

continuing education with human resources or org dev?

A social enterprise I started a few years ago is finding traction and I have a real opportunity to go back to study part time while continuing to work. I want to build on some early work I did with volunteer fundraising training and operations management. What stinks or swims charities is volunteer participation. I am trying to find courses - master's, certificates, short courses (anywhere, online preferred) geared at volunteer management, community organising, political organising, and especially human resource management or human resource development with underserved populations. Can you signpost me? [more inside]
posted by parmanparman at 4:05 PM PST - 2 comments

Excel Filter: Erase all but second numeric value in cell

I have a range of cells in Excel that all have the same text, but within the text are two numeric values. I want to remove everything besides the second numeric value. [more inside]
posted by motioncityshakespeare at 3:56 PM PST - 16 comments

Creative approaches to reconciling?

If my boyfriend and I stay together, how can we improve our relationship without getting mired in the distrust that can come with having almost parted or in the effortful work of changing our interactions? [more inside]
posted by newtonstreet at 3:50 PM PST - 7 comments

What can I wear under a sheer blouse that won't make me miserably warm?

Apparently every store I like to shop at now makes all of their button-down shirts and blouses semi-sheer (Loft is the biggest offender). The trouble is that I'm REALLY hot natured and try to wear as few non-removable layers as possible (cotton tanks as a layer are too hot). I'm hoping someone can link to tanks made of really, really thin material or some kind of miracle solution that doesn't require another layer of clothes. Any suggestions of how I can layer without feeling layered?
posted by parkerjackson at 3:10 PM PST - 7 comments

How to streamline an irule?

My organization has an F5 appliance that is doing some fairly heavy web redirecting. These redirects are in the form of an irule, which is written in TCL. It works fine. But, if you can believe it, we are nearing the 65,520 character limit for this irule, and I am only enough of a TCL coder to get the thing to this point, barely, but not enough to make it efficient. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:02 PM PST - 8 comments

NYC shelter for undocumented immigrant women?

My homeless friend is afraid to go to a shelter because she is an undocumented immigrant. What resources are available for her in New York City?
posted by anonymous at 3:02 PM PST - 5 comments

Mediation music to use for studying

Hi HiveMind! I am always on the quest for good music to listen to to help me concentrate, relax and focus when writing and studying. My go to's had been Steve Halpern, Hemi-sync and some others (white noise, rain). I have really been enjoying Deepak Chopra, he really helps calm me down, but I want more of a mediation soundtrack then the voice overs. I really like the music in this one. Any ideas?
posted by TRUELOTUS at 2:58 PM PST - 8 comments

Low, frequent rumble in the San Juan Islands?

Mefites in the Pacific Northwest coastal area, Anacortes and San Juans in particular - have you been hearing a low, extended rumble every few minutes? [more inside]
posted by BlackLeotardFront at 2:38 PM PST - 4 comments

The absolute best health insurance money can buy for a small company

I'm looking for the best health insurance money can buy for a company with a few employees in California. It's too small to self-insure, but wants to cover everything very well (mental health, chronic illness, fertility/pre-natal, holistic health, etc.) I've been searching online and can't seem to figure out what is best (only what has the highest premiums). Hope me! [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 2:19 PM PST - 12 comments

Following up This Binary Universe

A few years ago I gave my sister BT's This Binary Universe. I guess it stuck with her, because now she's asked me for similar instrumental music, but it's far enough outside my usual listening that I'm completely stuck. Help? [more inside]
posted by skymt at 2:16 PM PST - 4 comments

Novels of indeterminate gender?

What are some novels in which the genders of some or all of the central characters is not revealed to the reader? [more inside]
posted by kenko at 1:45 PM PST - 27 comments

Online cultural center?

I have been toying with the idea of creating on online Irish-American cultural center, and need your ideas. [more inside]
posted by maxsparber at 1:38 PM PST - 5 comments

A good accountant in Belfast for an American?

Can someone recommend a good accountant or accounting firm in Belfast for me? I am a US citizen who has earned income in both the US and in the UK (Northern Ireland) during the 2014 calendar year. I basically want to give all of my tax documents to someone and have them do my US and UK tax returns. Thanks.
posted by dhens at 1:10 PM PST - 2 comments

How to get semi-urgent psychiatric care in Los Angeles?

Family member has just arrived in town and is expressing the need for psychiatric care. How to accomplish this quickly in Los Angeles? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 12:58 PM PST - 12 comments

Actual schmaltz, with onions or not?

My friend wants to give a surprise gift of schmaltz (rendered chicken fat, not the metaphorical kind) to a Jewish friend of hers who is from Chicago, and wants to know whether or not to use onions. So, does anyone have a strong opinion either way? Apparently with no onions it's more subtle and nutty. But is it better with onions? Which method would be her best bet?
posted by oxisos at 12:55 PM PST - 8 comments

Best data rescue software?

The SSD in my Macbook Pro seems to have completely failed. I managed to install OS X onto an external drive and attempted to run DiskWarrior on it. It took almost 24 hours and in the end was not able to repair the disk. It did allow me to mount the disk as read-only, but I'm not able to copy and save 90% of the files. Is there some Windows or Linux based software I could try that might be more thorough or effective? [more inside]
posted by Venadium at 12:27 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me make rye rue the day.

I wish to be schooled on how rye works in doughs, specifically noodle doughs…more specifically, ramen noodle doughs. [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 12:23 PM PST - 9 comments

Will I Hate It? Should I Go?

So, I have a chance to join a small group trip to tour Holocaust sites in Warsaw, Krakow, and Israel. My husband is not going to come. I doubt I'll know any of the other travelers. I'm generally fine with solo travel. [more inside]
posted by bearwife at 12:13 PM PST - 29 comments

Is there a place in the kink community for the not-especially-kinky?

I am interested in attending a kink-community meetup in a mid-size, left-leaning U.S. city and I am wondering what to expect, and whether it seems likely that I would meet any like-minded people and sex partners. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:12 PM PST - 22 comments

Can I buy health insurance for someone without their cooperation?

I have a sister in law who has no health insurance. She is fiercely independent. I can easily afford to pay for health insurance for her. She is refusing to let me. My concern is, if she had a serious health issue, we would be on the hook for paying for her treatment. Not legally, but she is family and we just would pay for her to get good treatment. I want to insure myself against this potentially huge expense even if she doesn't want to. Is there any way to do this?
posted by anonymous at 12:12 PM PST - 16 comments

Germany - tax return deadlines?

Guten Tag Ask MeFi! I need to fill in at least one tax return, for 2013-2014, and possibly also for 2014-2015, here in Germany. It is all about income earned here in Germany. What is (was) the deadline(s)? [more inside]
posted by KMH at 12:11 PM PST - 3 comments

Should I give my friend a letter of recommendation for my old dream job?

Last year, I worked my dream job as the Director of a small museum and cultural center, and was forced to leave because my husband's job took us to another city. A friend of mine has expressed an enthusiastic interest in the job, but does not have any museum training, or any background in managing or running any type of business or institution whatsoever. He wants me to write a letter of recommendation. Should I? [more inside]
posted by chatelaine at 12:09 PM PST - 24 comments

Help me help my 9-month-old sleep

Our 9-month-old daughter sometimes wakes up in the middle of the night, sits up, and seems unable to get herself back down to sleep. We've been working on sleep training--she does (and has almost always done) well at bedtime, and night wakings where she doesn't seem stuck in a sitting position have mostly disappeared--but I don't know how we should be handling these incidents. [more inside]
posted by uncleozzy at 11:54 AM PST - 8 comments

Fragrance/cosmetics catalogs and booklets

I'm trying to find catalogs/booklets for high-end fragrances and cosmetics in Toronto. Free if possible, but I'm willing to pay for them. Instead of the usual promotional catalogs and booklets designed by outlets, I want to acquire those produced by the perfume houses themselves. Any idea where I can get them or find them online? [more inside]
posted by omar.a at 11:42 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me preserve my passport

My US passport needs to be renewed. I am supposed to submit my old passport along with my renewal documents. Will I get the old passport back? It has several stamps with sentimental value, so I'd like to preserve them if at all possible. I know it's possible to "lose" the old passport and pay a fee, but is that necessary?
posted by philosophygeek at 10:54 AM PST - 34 comments

Need help wiring cat5 cable with odd color pairing

How do i wire this rj45 cat5 cable which has an odd color pairing inside? [more inside]
posted by postergeist at 10:39 AM PST - 15 comments

Can a small milling machine do everything a small drill press can?

I've been looking into getting a small, bench-top drill press. I'm also kind of intrigued about those small milling machines that places like Harbor Freight sell. Can the mill take care of all my drilling needs and also allow me to, you know, mill stuff? [more inside]
posted by bondcliff at 10:38 AM PST - 16 comments

What should my next car be?

My car is about to be paid off and I'm planning to drive it into the ground before shopping for another one. And let's be honest, my next car is going to be what I can get the best deal on. However, for the sake of argument, how about you all figure out what my next car SHOULD be. Things to factor within. [more inside]
posted by JimBJ9 at 10:23 AM PST - 24 comments

A birthday poem for a Russian émigré who is in her 70s.

I am looking to send a poem to a woman in her 70s for her birthday who is a big fan of Russian classics (Lermontov, Yesenin, Tsvetaeva etc). Poem needs to be birthday appropriate, written in Russian by one of the Russian classical writers. Suggestions would be most appreciated.
posted by mooselini at 10:03 AM PST - 5 comments

Oh Mr. Sun, Sun, Mr. Golden Sun..

Our insurance company won't insure our solar panels on their own - they'll only add the value to our "replacement amount" on our insurance policy. We want them to have their own coverage. Any leads in Ontario Canada? [more inside]
posted by VioletU at 9:03 AM PST - 9 comments

flannel eye for the tiny, squishy guy

I would like some basic, dude-styled flannel button up shirts. I'm a short, small-framed queer person who stores weight in my chest. "Men's" flannels are generally too large; "women's" often have girly details like darts and little wee pockets and dainty buttons; "boy's" would be perfect but the sleeves are invariably too short. Do you have a body like mine and a basic flannel you love? Where did you buy it? [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 9:01 AM PST - 26 comments

How best to manage this work problem

For several years Small Company has been undergoing large turnover in employees, to the point that there are now a number of critical vacancies. I am a Widget Controller at SC. Because of the vacancies, I was told to also become a Cog Controller. They're not similar jobs even though they have a similar title and the career path is different. I am not paid extra for the additional role (I haven't asked). There is no overtime. Is a position change like this normal? Is it possible to escalate to HR as this isn't the job I was hired to do? I don't like being a Cog Controller.
posted by anonymous at 8:08 AM PST - 11 comments

Dont shine your light on me

I am a man with thinning hair. I have full hair coverage on my hair but my scalp is very shiny where my hair is a bit thinner and it makes me self conscious. I googled how to stop head shine but everything I am seeing relates to fully bald heads. Any tips on how to stop the shine when you still have hair? Thanks!!
posted by anonymous at 8:07 AM PST - 13 comments

A house without a furnace?!

Help me understand the heating and cooling system of this house we just toured. [more inside]
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 7:49 AM PST - 25 comments

The legal case in Sharia against terrorism

What are the specific arguments from the perspective of mainstream or traditional Islamic jurisprudence that forbid or sanction terrorist attacks? [more inside]
posted by skoosh at 7:41 AM PST - 6 comments

What is the mystery chord?

I'm learning how to play the ukulele, and I've come across the AaddG chord in a few songs I've wanted to learn. When I've searched the web for what the fingering for this chord should be, though, I never find anything -- just links back to the chords/lyrics pages I've been looking at. How do I play the AaddG? What would the fingering be? (It seems to be used a lot after an Am or an A# chord, FWIW.)
posted by pxe2000 at 7:38 AM PST - 6 comments

Murphy's Desk

I need to find a wall-mounted folding desk that can contain a 27" flat monitor when closed. Cord