Is it possible to really fall in love after knowing someone for only 5 days?
August 18, 2008 7:47 AM Subscribe
Is it possible to really fall in love after knowing someone for only 5 days? Cute, slightly sappy, and true story to follow.
posted by chrisinseoul to human relations (39 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
I'll start with the basics - me: 26, male, American teaching English in Seoul, South Korea, been in Korea for 5 months. She (I'll call her J): 22, female, American teaching English in Seoul (perhaps 10-15 minutes away by bus), been in Korea for under a month.
So a little over a week ago, I put a craigslist ad on the Seoul site seeking a NON-Korean lady. Nothing personal, nothing racist, but just not my cup of tea. J responded with a wonderful, long e-mail about herself and her life. After the obligatory e-mails to ensure the other wasn't a serial killer or a creep, we met, walked around, sat by the local river (the Han, for those of you familiar with Seoul), and before long I held her close. She's naturally shy / reserved, but over dates #2 and #3, she began to open up. I saw a side of her - a weird, slightly dorky side that I have so much in common with - that almost instantly took her from a 'possibility' to 'OMG I'm falling in love'. Date #4 (making dinner and hanging out at my apartment) confirmed things. I feel it important to note that I can read her like a book - and after sharing quite a bit, I feel more comfortable with her than anyone else I've ever dated (which is about two handfuls with a couple of fingers left over, for the record).
From the first meet / date #1 to today, it has been exactly 5 days - and I'm falling in love. We haven't gotten to the 'I love you' stage, but the 'I really really like you's' have been said. We're both on the shy side of the spectrum, so opening up has taken some effort for both of us. We've both been in relationships, had our heart broken (in amazingly similar ways), and moved on. We have all the usual stuff in common (age, relationship past, interests, life stories, personalities)...
The big question: is it too soon? We've got time, and we're not going anywhere. I'll be seeing her around and spending time with her - hopefully for a long time to come. We're also in no hurry... but damn it feels good to be around someone that understands me in a deep way. Here in Seoul, the foreigners are scattered far and wide - we're 50,000 out of 10,000,000 - and it's so nice to be with someone that gets me.