How did your abortion affect your relationship?
August 17, 2008 10:59 PM Subscribe
After a lot
of soul searching and discussion, my partner and I have decided that we're going to terminate this pregnancy we've found ourselves in the middle of. In light of this impending (and quite probably emotionally draining) event, we would like to know the experiences of other couples who have had an abortion, specifically how it affected your relationship with one another.
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (24 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
We are a loving couple who have been together for almost four years. We get along swimmingly pretty much all the time and we're deeply committed to one another (so much so we're getting married next year).
The baby is about six or seven weeks along. The termination will likely happen within the next fortnight.
The decision to terminate the pregnancy has come about after a great deal of soul searching, tears and discussion. This decision is a mutual decision, although it was a difficult one to make.
Because we love one another and don't want to see the good thing we have end, we're worried about how this will affect our relationship after the termination has happened. We know and expect that there will probably be some rough times right after the termination, but we think once we get through that we'll be OK. But we also think it would be useful to know what lies down this road we're about to embark upon, so that we might be better prepared for it and perhaps learn from the experience of others.
I set up a throwaway e-mail at firstname.lastname@example.org for anyone who doesn't feel like sharing their experiences publicly.
Also, since this is a hard enough time as it is, leaving the moral judgements out of this thread would really be appreciated, thanks.