Very Bad Cat: I need advice on what to do about a cat that is chronically peeing inappropriately in the house. We have ruled out medical issues (diabetes, UTI, etc) and believe it's behavioral. We have tried all the usually recommended solutions (keeping the litter box pristine, Feliway, Rx food for urine crystals, etc). What are our options? (Probably too much detail inside.)
The details are: 2 adult male neutered indoor cats, 2 adults, one rowhouse. The cats don't love each other but have lived together for 3 years so this is not a new arrangement. Cat #2, the chronic pisser, is a rescue, and is very overweight despite being on a diet for years now. He will pee on ANYTHING fabric-like that is placed on the floor, so we have no rugs, mats, or anything throughout our house. He has also peed on the couches, and one bed. And my favorite gray purse. And a gym bag, his carboard box scratchpads, misc cardboard boxes, etc. No surface seems to be safe, but we do genuinely try to avoid his trigger areas.
Vet testing ruled out medical reasons, so we believe this is behavioral. We give the cat plenty of attention, and really can't alter our life any more. For example, it probably stresses the cat out a bit when he has a sitter or when we have out of town guests, but I can't just never leave town or never have people over!
The cat, while usually a sweetie, is, sad to say, extraordinarily dumb. He doesn't seem to have any idea when he is caught in the act that he is doing anything wrong. I think he probably had a crappy life on the streets as a younger kitty and just didn't learn how to be a good pet cat. However, my husband truly loves this cat and feels horrible about the situation we're in.
So -- what are my choices? I personally have had enough and am ready to get rid of the cat. Please don't hate me for saying this, but I would prefer to euthanize the cat rather than give it up and just hope for a better outcome with a different family. I believe the cat is beyond help. Maybe I'm just so fed up I'm thinking irrationally.
Husband loves this cat dearly and is having a harder time with what to do. One thing we can agree on is that we can no longer live like this. I personally, in good conscience, cannot give this cat away to another family to let it ruin their home too, or let him squander in a shelter, sad and lonely. I think we need to end the misery for everyone and put the cat to sleep. I feel we have exhausted our options. Again, I may just be too fed up to think straight, but this has been a problem for 2 yrs.
I do not want to sink a bunch more money into testing/vet care/Feliway/new furniture. I am tired of this money pit in my life. I have spent hundreds if not in the thousands by now, and nothing is better, cat pee is still ruining my home.
Will a humane society shelter euthanize a pet for something like this? Will a veterinarian? Am I a horrible person for wanting to do this? How can I get my husband to agree this is a good solution?
Thank you in advance for your advice. I am at my wit's end and need some perspective from people outside of the situation.
posted by jay dee bee to pets & animals (36 comments total)
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Dunno about horrible, but you're certainly being a little narrow-minded.
There are lots of options involving getting rid of the cat that don't involve getting RID of the cat. His behavioral issues could very well be the result of having to share the house with another cat. Take him to a no-kill shelter, and they will work to find a home that is more suitable for him.
Also, not everyone is going to be as impatient with the cat as you are. I have a pee-er too, and it annoys the hell out of me, but I'm not about to give him up or put him down. You need to take the time and spend the effort to find him a better home. He doesn't deserve to be killed just because it's easier for you.
posted by mudpuppie at 2:11 PM on August 17, 2008 [1 favorite]