Porno for Femme Domme

July 12, 2008 9:25 PM

I'm looking for porn specifically catering to a femme domme audience. I'm not talking about porn directed (almost always by men) for submissive (or "submissive-curious") men, but porn targeting the appetites of the dominatrix.

The Book of Revelation looks like it delivers the goods in this trailer, but it fails miserably (the film itself doesn't fail, necessarily, but it fails as fulfillment of dominatrix fantasy).

I know, what turns on one femme domme isn't guaranteed to turn on another, but I'm trying to help out some very dear friends, so any suggestions would be appreciated.

posted by Chasuk to human relations (7 comments total)

So far I'm stuck looking at gay porn. It's not ideal, but the softcore bondage pictures of men, for men you can find pretty much anywhere on the web seem designed with the idea of appealing to a dominant eye. Once in a blue moon 'Men In Pain' has a few shots in their series that focus more on the guy, but beyond that, I write my own. I'll be avidly watching this question.
posted by Phalene at 11:02 PM on July 12

are you interested in strategies or visual depictions of female superiority? I ask mainly because since the demise of insex that market isn't really served too well, though I am sure some of the folks in the bondage.com forums could point you to a place or two. as far as inspiration for what a femme domme could do, hardtied might be a decent place to start. the videos often -but not always- depict men placing women in bondage but with a little bit of imagination they might give you a few ideas. they are also far from the usual bad-acting porn shit people often bemoan.

this may or may not work for you but hey, I thought I'd try to help.
posted by krautland at 4:26 AM on July 13

If you haven't already I honestly think this would be a good question to submit to Savage Love, as I recall he has lots of domme contacts. It isn't difficult to see the why of this difficulty, subs are a dime a dozen and hence a lucrative porn market while dommes are rare enough that good ones can turn their predilections into a lucrative business proposition. It might help if you could define more what's being sought and what's not right or missing from standard-issue made-for-sub-men porn.
posted by nanojath at 10:11 AM on July 13 [1 favorite]

TieguyUK is a pay site targeted at gay men but has a lot of free solo pics of men in bondage.
Men in Rope - similar.
Some guy's personal bondage site

Personally, though it wasn't intended as such, the movie Hostel sparked some sadistic fantasies (though I am not a sociopath, TYVM). I agree that it is hard to find hetero femdom porn that is directed at women, but if your friend is bi I believe there is women-made lesbian BDSM porn. It'd be pretty easy to find a guy willing to make porn with you.

The best place to ask this question would be the Yes Ma'am forum at Bondage.com. (Free registration req'd.) The place is full of FemDoms (mostly hetero).
posted by desjardins at 11:22 AM on July 13

If your friend is interested in stories rather than pictures, I highly recommend Akasha's Web. She has written many stories and is conscientious about catering to the woman rather than the man. Also, Amazon has a few books targeted at femdoms: She's on Top looks halfway decent. The Herotica series edited by Susie Bright has some femdom stories sprinkled within.

The How-To-Be-a-FemDom books mostly all suck in my experience unless you are brand spanking new to this and even then they still suck because they advocate playing the role of femdom vs being yourself.

I'll let you know if I think of anything else.
posted by desjardins at 11:37 AM on July 13

Thank you, everyone, for your various suggestions. I've just posted this question on the Yes Ma'am forum and to Savage Love, using everyone's helpful suggestions to more narrowly focus my intent.

I will post updates if I gain any solid information.

Thanks again.
posted by Chasuk at 1:43 PM on July 13

Dan Savage answered this one recently. I don't think he handled it well as he treated it as some sort of obscure niche, but he advised that you look to consumer advertising and gay porn. My guess is that we really are an uncatered for market. Wanna go into business together, Chasuk? :P

Dan on Dommes
posted by Phalene at 5:02 PM on August 2