How to overcome weird snags when I'm buying a house?
July 12, 2008 8:14 PM
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Please help me with a weird house-buying situation caused by the mortgage crunch.
My wife and I are first-time house buyers. We finally found a house we love, and we want to buy it. Apart from some old medical bills, we're in a "not bad credit, just no credit" situation, because we have a good income, and we don't have any credit cards but buy everything with cash. When we applied for a mortgage, we were rejected because the mortgage industry won't lend money to anyone who doesn't have really good credit right now.
The house was advertised several months ago (that's how long it took us to get the mortgage application together and get turned down) as having a rent-to-buy option, so our next thought was to move in, clean up our credit, rent to own, and try again for a mortgage in a year or so.
The de facto owner of the house is an immigrant man who thought he could make a living flipping houses in the US. He bought the house with the help of a friend (whose name is on the existing mortgage) and has sunk several tens of thousands of dollars into the house. Then the mortgage crunch hit. Now he's getting cold feet but is at the same time obviously desperate and doesn't know what to do. As far as I can make out, he's paying the $2300 monthly house payments with his credit card and sinking deeper into debt every month.
Now instead of the $1500 rent-to-own payment cited in the ad for this property, he's asked us for $2000 a month and $10,000 down. (The property is worth about $250,000.) The $10,000 is meant to cover the payments he's missed or had to pay with credit card. The $2000 or more per month is meant to cover his mortgage payments -- or not quite. He says he's not sure a rent-to-own situation is even feasible for him anymore.
I told him we could cover the mortgage payments he's put on his credit card and we could completely cover the $2300 monthly payments from now on if he would sign his mortgage over to us. He said he would let us move in if we did that, but he wanted to keep his name on the mortgage. This is when he told me how much money he had already sunk into the house, and how much he stood to lose by just signing over the mortgage. I certainly can't blame him.
I pointed out that he would continue to lose money anyway if he didn't do something, because we're the only people to have shown any interest in the house in many months. (There's the mortgage crunch and also the fact that the house is unassuming, even ugly, on the outside, but beautiful on the inside, with special features such as a second detached building that would be especially useful to us in our professions -- but I'm trying to keep this anonymous, so I'll leave it there.)
So here we are on opposite sides of a chasm caused by the mortgagequake of 2008. We can see his position and he can see ours. We want to buy the house and he wants to unload it. But how?
Thoughts I've had: Our credit rating has improved a little in the past few weeks because we've been working on it while we're going back and forth with the owner. Should we apply again for a smaller loan, just enough to buy the owner out of his mortgage, paying off the house payments he missed and what he's sunk into the house? Or should we try to convince him that the money is truly sunk, and the best thing he can do is to get the hell out? After all, he's trashing his credit (or his friend's) if he defaults on the mortgage.
I'm really lost here and don't know what my options are. I will say that we have been working with a sympathetic mortgage broker and a real estate agent, ditto. The latter says she can't help much with rent to own, except that she can look over the rental contract to make sure it's sound. Still, they know us and we can marshal their help if necessary. My wife also stands to inherit (IIRC) some tens of thousands of dollars some months in the future (she must wait for a family property to be sold). Apart from that, we have some $15,000 in savings, some of which must be used for moving expenses. We also have good brains and the power of Ask Metafilter, so... Go Team Metafilter!
p.s. If your answer is "Ditch this clown and buy another house!", please don't. This is the only house we've seen that we've both loved, and it would break my wife's heart not to be able to buy it.
posted by anonymous to work & money (26 comments total)
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1. What money he put into the house is his problem. Not yours.
2. If you are buying the house, which you can't at this time, don't have his name on the mortgage.
3. Rent for a year, only paying the monthly rent.
What you want to do is sign a contract with this person for a seller finance. The terms will be a 12 month contract. Months 1 -12 you will pay 1500 dollars a month. At the end of 12 months reapply for financing. If you are qualified you make a balloon payment and pay off the seller loan. If you aren't qualified, you leave.
You don't give him 10 thousand dollars. I understand why the seller would ask for 10K. He's broke. Why not? This is not your problem and would be a mistake to give him this kind of money. You will have no leverage by giving him this money so why do it?
Bottom line: Don't give any money up front. Only give him what you are willing to pay monthly as rent and be able to walk away from if you don't get financing.
posted by LoriFLA at 8:46 PM on July 12, 2008 [2 favorites has favorites]