A little background: Given this article
on Slate, I've decided that I'm better off not spending weeks becoming an expert on engagement rings, not caring about the "4Cs", and not spending an absurd amount of money on an archaic and possibly demeaning social convention (I'm a poor cook, soon to be a poor graduate student, so anything over $1000 is an absurd amount of money). Why buy an engagement ring at all? Well, the girl I love is a fan of nice jewelry and has indicated that, while she's happy to spend the rest of her life with me, if I'm going to do the thing (ask her to do so), I'd better do it right. So I'm taking the path of least resistance and looking at it like a really nice present, rather than something with a lot of added social significance.
I've looked over the older posts on AskMe about engagement rings, and decided that because of worries over diamonds (ecological, moral, aesthetic), I'm leaning towards a vintage or estate ring, probably with a sapphire or aquamarine (yes, she's indicated she's fine with a non-diamond ring). It also helps that the girl is a fan of older jewelry, and I think that the older settings look really nice. Looking on faycullen.com
, I see things called "engagement rings
" and things called "promise rings
", and, to be honest, I have no idea what the difference is. The promise rings seem much cheaper, but their style (to my aesthetically challenged eyes) is not obviously different. Why is this?
Subquestion: Obviously I am looking at buying online. Is faycullen.com a good site? Has anyone had experience with buying such a thing online, and do you have any pointers/sites to share? I'd like to avoid eBay because I'm obviously such a noob at this, so I'd value any suggestions.