What should I (not) say in a wedding toast for my father?
July 3, 2008 10:35 AM Subscribe
I am going to be my father's best man. What special considerations do I need to take into account for my toast? Any particularly good/bad examples of what to say based on experience?
posted by anonymous to human relations (6 answers total) 2 users marked this as a favorite
This will be my father's third marriage and his fiancee's second. They're both at about retirement age and don't want it to be a Big Deal.
The background: My mother (his first wife) passed away when I was young and a couple of her siblings--with whom my father is still fairly close--will be in attendance; his second wife is someone we are very glad is out of our lives now. His fiancee (the bride) is on good terms with her ex-husband and he and his
wife will probably be in attendance as well. So there are a lot of odd (but not tense) relationship dynamics at play.
The upshot of what I want to say is I'm happy for him and I like her; they have complimentary interests and I think they'll be good together. I know that it's generally a good idea to not talk about previous marriages and I intend to work with that...I'm just wondering who/what else to acknowledge. I've seen good previous general
here, but it's the generational specifics that confound me.