DatingFilter: Love making out with her, hate wearing her makeup afterwards. God help me.
June 12, 2008 11:28 AM Subscribe
DatingFilter: Love making out with her, hate wearing her makeup afterwards. For the love of God, please help me.
Question from the girl I'm dating who is newly initiated to MeFi:
How do I keep my makeup from rubbing off on the guy I am dating? Not only do I end up rather makeup-less after a make out session, but he ends up with the make up ALL OVER his face. Any tricks to help the makeup stay where it belongs... on me?
I use Bare Escentuals mineral make up. The foundation is mostly the problem. Despite their claims that this won't "rub off" on anything... it totally does. Specifically my man. (But also my cell phone and sometimes clothes).
I really love Bare Escentuals, I don't want to change my makeup... besides I've never really found any other makeup that really stays put through a makeout session. Does anyone have any tricks or tips as to how to make it more durable. My man ends up with my makeup ALL over his lips and nose... and while I think its plenty funny, its not a good look for him... not only cause he's a guy, but because our skin tones are different and it is quite obvious.
(ed. note: I don't really hate having her makeup rubbed off on me as much as I pretend to. Still, let's keep the advice coming, people.)
Question from the girl I'm dating who is newly initiated to MeFi:
How do I keep my makeup from rubbing off on the guy I am dating? Not only do I end up rather makeup-less after a make out session, but he ends up with the make up ALL OVER his face. Any tricks to help the makeup stay where it belongs... on me?
I use Bare Escentuals mineral make up. The foundation is mostly the problem. Despite their claims that this won't "rub off" on anything... it totally does. Specifically my man. (But also my cell phone and sometimes clothes).
I really love Bare Escentuals, I don't want to change my makeup... besides I've never really found any other makeup that really stays put through a makeout session. Does anyone have any tricks or tips as to how to make it more durable. My man ends up with my makeup ALL over his lips and nose... and while I think its plenty funny, its not a good look for him... not only cause he's a guy, but because our skin tones are different and it is quite obvious.
(ed. note: I don't really hate having her makeup rubbed off on me as much as I pretend to. Still, let's keep the advice coming, people.)
I'm just curious as to how much makeup you are wearing. I only wear foundation and it never ends up on my husband's face when we're kissing.
posted by sutel at 11:39 AM on June 12, 2008
posted by sutel at 11:39 AM on June 12, 2008
Do you wear a powder over the foundation to "set" it?
posted by banannafish at 11:40 AM on June 12, 2008
posted by banannafish at 11:40 AM on June 12, 2008
Stop wearing makeup, especially when you're planning a "makeout session".
You have a man now. I bet he thinks you're prettier without makeup anyway. Ask him. :)
posted by rokusan at 11:41 AM on June 12, 2008 [4 favorites]
You have a man now. I bet he thinks you're prettier without makeup anyway. Ask him. :)
posted by rokusan at 11:41 AM on June 12, 2008 [4 favorites]
i'm also wondering how much makeup you are wearing because i've never had this problem either.
posted by violetk at 11:43 AM on June 12, 2008 [2 favorites]
posted by violetk at 11:43 AM on June 12, 2008 [2 favorites]
I'm rather surprised that's happening. Do you wear a lot of make-up? Or at least just a lot of foundation? You could try wearing less, if you think that may be it.
There are sprays that professional make-up artists use so that the make-up "holds" longer. I've worn that before on Halloween, but honestly, if you're vigorously rubbing your make-up against something, well, it's going to come off.
I know you said you don't want to change your make-up, but I'm not sure that there are any other options. I use L'oreal Infallible foundation and it doesn't come off on my fiance or much of anything else. I think I used Revlon before that without any problems, but I can't quite remember.
posted by Nattie at 11:43 AM on June 12, 2008
There are sprays that professional make-up artists use so that the make-up "holds" longer. I've worn that before on Halloween, but honestly, if you're vigorously rubbing your make-up against something, well, it's going to come off.
I know you said you don't want to change your make-up, but I'm not sure that there are any other options. I use L'oreal Infallible foundation and it doesn't come off on my fiance or much of anything else. I think I used Revlon before that without any problems, but I can't quite remember.
posted by Nattie at 11:43 AM on June 12, 2008
I have to agree with sutel. I just wear drugstore makeup and it's never rubbed off on my boyfriend(s) . Either you're wearing too much or you need to try another kind. For what it's worth I use the light lotion-y type liquid foundations that are like half moisturizer and half makeup.
posted by Jess the Mess at 11:46 AM on June 12, 2008
posted by Jess the Mess at 11:46 AM on June 12, 2008
It does sound to me like you're either wearing too much, need to apply powder over it, or are somehow applying it wrong, because I wear foundation and it doesn't come off or on to anybody (I just giggled aloud at the thought of my make up coming on to people -- "Hey handsome, can I rub off on ya?"). I digress.
Since none of us can see you, though, I would suggest taking this problem to a makeup counter, Sephora is probably the best place to go, because they have a wide variety of brands available. Tell one of the people in the store your plight. They'll be able to better tell what the problem is, can give you application tips and suggestions for different types of makeup if that is indeed the problem. They will definitely attempt to sell you a different brand of makeup if the one you use is not for sale there, but hey, you might just find one that solves your problem.
posted by pazazygeek at 11:50 AM on June 12, 2008
Since none of us can see you, though, I would suggest taking this problem to a makeup counter, Sephora is probably the best place to go, because they have a wide variety of brands available. Tell one of the people in the store your plight. They'll be able to better tell what the problem is, can give you application tips and suggestions for different types of makeup if that is indeed the problem. They will definitely attempt to sell you a different brand of makeup if the one you use is not for sale there, but hey, you might just find one that solves your problem.
posted by pazazygeek at 11:50 AM on June 12, 2008
Best answer: I use BE and I don't have this problem. I like the ultra-soft rounded Kabuki brushes that you're supposed to apply the minerals with. They're nice, but I mostly use these for blush. I like a blunt-cut brush that is dense and not as soft. It's better for foundation application. The denseness of the brush seems to buff out the product more. It blends better and you're not left with a layer of powder that can be rubbed off easily. Also, when you're done applying, rub your face lightly with a tissue. I always did the tissue, or dry washcloth, trick with any foundation I might wear. It looks more natural and allows some of your "real skin" to shine through.
With mineral makeup you need to make sure you are buffing like mad.
posted by LoriFLA at 11:50 AM on June 12, 2008 [2 favorites]
With mineral makeup you need to make sure you are buffing like mad.
posted by LoriFLA at 11:50 AM on June 12, 2008 [2 favorites]
Some department store makeup counters sell primers that you put on before the foundation. They are meant to set your makeup better. Laura Mercier has a good one.
posted by DrGirlfriend at 11:51 AM on June 12, 2008
posted by DrGirlfriend at 11:51 AM on June 12, 2008
Yes, make sure to use powder (even with Bare Escentuals) to set your makeup. If you have a tendency toward oily skin, you may want to consider a matte powder. Also, after you put on your moisturizer, make sure you let it soak into your skin for a few minutes before you put your makeup on. You can even use a tissue or blotting paper to soak up any excess. Makeup applied immediately after moisturizer tends to have a little more slip factor.
But I will say that other than smearing a little lipstick now and then, I've never had my makeup end up on someone else's face, either (and I've regularly worn foundation in one form or another since I was 16).
posted by scody at 11:53 AM on June 12, 2008
But I will say that other than smearing a little lipstick now and then, I've never had my makeup end up on someone else's face, either (and I've regularly worn foundation in one form or another since I was 16).
posted by scody at 11:53 AM on June 12, 2008
Depending on the type of makeup you wear, it will totally rub off. If I wear a cream-to-powder or stick foundation, my poor little white guy suddenly has a brown nose.
I switched to a liquid, mix it with a little moisturizer to thin it out a bit (cause RuPaul is hot and all but I don't want to look like him) and set it with a loose (not pressed) powder. Voila, no brown-nosed white man.
I've also heard people say that Revlon ColorStay never comes off unless you wash it off. If you can find a shade that works for you (I couldn't) try that.
Finally, I find that most of the foundation comes from the nose area so sometimes, I just skip foundation there and wear a little powder to keep me from being shiny.
posted by notjustfoxybrown at 11:59 AM on June 12, 2008
I switched to a liquid, mix it with a little moisturizer to thin it out a bit (cause RuPaul is hot and all but I don't want to look like him) and set it with a loose (not pressed) powder. Voila, no brown-nosed white man.
I've also heard people say that Revlon ColorStay never comes off unless you wash it off. If you can find a shade that works for you (I couldn't) try that.
Finally, I find that most of the foundation comes from the nose area so sometimes, I just skip foundation there and wear a little powder to keep me from being shiny.
posted by notjustfoxybrown at 11:59 AM on June 12, 2008
Response by poster: Great responses so far. As a guy, I can honestly say I have no idea what any of this shit means. (wtf is the difference between powder and foundation? wtf is a kabuki brush?)
From the gal:
"I use a moderate amount of foundation, not super heavy, not really light though either..."
"I wear a powder over the foundation but only like right after I put the makeup on, and maybe not as consistently as I should."
"LoriFLA is money, mark her as best for now"
From me:
I'm happy to report that these sessions are 100% not planned.
I think I know what a lot of/too much makeup looks like, and she doesn't qualify. I'm told "no makeup" isn't an option.
Keep 'em coming, peeps.
posted by littlelebowskiurbanachiever at 12:03 PM on June 12, 2008
From the gal:
"I use a moderate amount of foundation, not super heavy, not really light though either..."
"I wear a powder over the foundation but only like right after I put the makeup on, and maybe not as consistently as I should."
"LoriFLA is money, mark her as best for now"
From me:
I'm happy to report that these sessions are 100% not planned.
I think I know what a lot of/too much makeup looks like, and she doesn't qualify. I'm told "no makeup" isn't an option.
Keep 'em coming, peeps.
posted by littlelebowskiurbanachiever at 12:03 PM on June 12, 2008
revlon's colorstay and maybelline's superstay makeups do not rub off. makeup slides off my skin, but these don't.
also, why not try a powder foundation instead of liquid? maybelline purestay powder gives me plenty of coverage and doesn't rub off.
posted by thinkingwoman at 12:30 PM on June 12, 2008
also, why not try a powder foundation instead of liquid? maybelline purestay powder gives me plenty of coverage and doesn't rub off.
posted by thinkingwoman at 12:30 PM on June 12, 2008
I use BE as well, and it does sound like you need to buff a little more. I tap the hell out of the brush after I've "swirled", and do two to three passes around my face with the kabuki brush.
Also, are you following up with Mineral Veil? That stuff is awesome, and I'm in Texas where the heat index is 101 f with 86% humidity. The only time it comes off my face is if I'm washing it off with cleanser and hot water.
And I agree with scody re: moisturizer. I was 20 something when I finally figured out that I had to wait 10 to 15 minutes after the moisturizer goes on the face, before anything else. Otherwise everything just slides off.
posted by lootie777 at 2:43 PM on June 12, 2008
Also, are you following up with Mineral Veil? That stuff is awesome, and I'm in Texas where the heat index is 101 f with 86% humidity. The only time it comes off my face is if I'm washing it off with cleanser and hot water.
And I agree with scody re: moisturizer. I was 20 something when I finally figured out that I had to wait 10 to 15 minutes after the moisturizer goes on the face, before anything else. Otherwise everything just slides off.
posted by lootie777 at 2:43 PM on June 12, 2008
Buff, buff, buff. Do your Mineral Veil. And now, a secret...
Get one of those spray cans of Evian (or some other very fine mist of water), spray your face lightly after foundation, wait for it to dry, and THEN pat or blot lightly. This one thing has just about doubled the staying power of my foundation. I don't kiss men, tho. :P
posted by houseofdanie at 11:11 PM on June 12, 2008
Get one of those spray cans of Evian (or some other very fine mist of water), spray your face lightly after foundation, wait for it to dry, and THEN pat or blot lightly. This one thing has just about doubled the staying power of my foundation. I don't kiss men, tho. :P
posted by houseofdanie at 11:11 PM on June 12, 2008
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posted by gohlkus at 11:36 AM on June 12, 2008