Giving her the finger as I give her the ring
May 25, 2008 6:28 AM Subscribe
Now that I've decided to propose to my girlfriend, I suddenly seem to be picking fights with her. What's going on?
posted by anonymous to Human Relations (17 answers total) 7 users marked this as a favorite
I recently decided to propose to my girlfriend of 2+ years, and have been spending a fair amount of time and energy planning/shopping for it. I feel like there's been a corresponding increase in fighting since then. (Even now, we probably don't fight all that much, but relative to our baseline it seems like a lot.)
In part, I think I'm trying to test her, to make sure we're resilient enough. I also think there's a part of me that feels like she "owes" me for what I'm doing (despite her not knowing about it) and is quick to find ways that she's not "pulling her weight." And this big question about our future hangs over and colors everything, turning every slight and every misunderstanding into a referendum on our whole relationship.
Does this sound familiar to anyone?