Gay geeks... Are they more than one in a million?

March 30, 2008 4:17 AM

Kinda like the anonymous question a little bit ago, but looking for the geeky gay guys in Phoenix.

27yo geekish gay guy. Not some hot little boi but defenately not a troll. Everywhere I've looked for other guys of my persuasion have been either hook-up type places (gay.com) or in the bars, and the bars just seem full of extremely self absorbed, dumb as a box of rocks little queens. Does such a thing exist?

I'd rather curl up on the couch with a boy and watch bad sci-fi and play a videogame than go out clubbing.

I mean random hookups are nice and all but it's easier just to stay home an jack off. Or are my fears true... The mythical gay geek is truly a super-rare occurrence

posted by kzin602 to human relations (7 comments total)

It's not a myth, they definitely exist. If your geekness trends toward Linux and open source, go to some Linux User Group (LUG) meetings, open source conferences, etc. I'm sure there are many gay Windows and Mac enthusiasts, but I just happen to run with the Linux crowd and know many lesbians and gay men in the community.
posted by _Mona_ at 6:15 AM on March 30

Try bookstores, and libraries, or a new coffee house. From my experience living in Springfield-all the catchable geeks in the city are professionals-Magazine editors, shop owners, lawyers, or involved in local government. There is an abundant amount of great gay men out there, but looking at the local glory hole is going to catch you exactly that. A glory hole!
posted by QueerAngel28 at 6:48 AM on March 30

H'm, I'm not sure how my uncles met, but they are *definitely* gay geeks. Both work at cool federal geekzoid program and in their spare time program their Linux computers to do new and odd things. They love staying home and watching BattleStar Gallactica (good scifi) and Firefly (best scifi!!).

I see you're in Phoenix- if you were in SoCal I'd suggest joining one of the myriad of groups at Caltech-JPL in Pasadena. They're a catchall for both JPL programmers and techies and Caltech undergrads and grads technowhizzes. What about finding an analog for that in Phoenix and joining it?
posted by arnicae at 9:46 AM on March 30

I'm a gay geek. The only advice I have is that you're going to have better luck meeting boyfriend material at geek events/places than at gay events/places. Also from what you've said part of what you're looking for is a relationship, not just casual sex. Bars and online personals are not an easy place to find a relationship, with a geek or otherwise.
posted by Nelson at 12:50 PM on March 30

I seem to remember Geek 2 Geek was actually FPPed a long time ago, and the site seems to have exploded in popularity since then due to viral marketing at events like DragonCon. It's a personals site exclusively for geeks, even those of alternative lifestyles.
posted by Ziggy Zaga at 1:37 PM on March 30

You sound like a Homobody!! Have you thought of trying a Craigslist post? In the past I met lots of cool geeky guys for social activities and dating. Good luck!
posted by kuppajava at 5:56 PM on March 30

Craigslist is worst than gay.com. Totally raunchy.
posted by QueerAngel28 at 9:29 PM on June 12